And Kosma, buddy, I appreciate the effort at advice, but...well...
Boogie maybe you just try too hard and care too much. Just let it go.
What the fuck does that even mean? "you try too hard" is something that I hear from the people who are naturals, who don't have to "do" anything to attract women. Well, newsflash, dude, some of us don't have that natural ability like you. So we have to "try".
I mean, "let it go" means to me, "give up". I'm sure that's not what you mean, but stop speaking in trite phrases and speak plainly instead.
Though perhaps you are referring to the exclamatory hysterics in how I described my story. In which case I say: dude, it's called venting. In a way, it's what this thread is for.
Also don't about your job for more then a minute or two. While you're job is fucking cool nobody really fucking cares and there is nothing worse then a 20 minute monologue from the soldier/police guy about all the shit they go through and I swear to god every time they drop some acronym the other person loses interest. All army guys seem to suffer from this. Unless she keeps asking you more and more just spout some short story like "I'm a mountie, its pretty cool yeah, something I always wanted to do, catch the bad guys and chase nukkas/polacks/spics down alleys etc." Thats basicly it. And maybe while talking about other stuff you can throw in one or two "yeah thats reminds me while on the job I had this funny shit happen". Dont do it all the time, once or twice is enough.
Where the
fuck did this come from? You are imagining some pretty out there shit, dude. Where from my posts have you gotten this?
I
never talk shop or "brag" about being a Mountie unless someone else brings it up and asks questions. Which does, however, happen, as my friends love to hear my "war stories".
Nonetheless, on the night in question, other than when the chick asked me where I work, I don't think I mentioned anything at all about being a cop.
So, in relation to the above, you may be the Bore's resident sexpert (along with Mupepe
), but that doesn't give you the authority to
keep your head lodged firmly up your assAs for the rest of it, you give great advice if you have a time travel machine and are talking to 2006 Boogie.
But you're talking to 2010 Boogie, who is not a complete moron in the area of attraction theory, and game, and whatnot. Still.
If you're not kissing by the end of the night dont ask them out. If you kiss them dont ask them out either. Better to meet them again the next time and let the sexual tension build up.
"meet them again the next time". Hello? This was an out of town stag and doe. There is no "next time" if I don't ask her out. Hell, that's the best incentive for going for it, because I'll never see her again if she turns me down.
Building up tension is important. Be nonchalant about it. Dont worry if this way it will seem youre missing shots. Really stop caring and women will notice that maybe you dont really care that much one day which will make you all the more interesting. Be flirtatious and fun but dont let shine through that you want to stick your wiener in her vagina just yet.
I'm really not sure how to respond to this. Obviously, in Biff's words, you can't seem "desparate".
But this clearly doesn't work. If "not caring" and just going out with friends and meeting people made women attracted to me, then......women would be attracted to me. I'm "flirtatious and fun" with dozens upon dozens of women who I don't chase, and yet......they don't chase me. They don't go after me either. They don't crush on me.
I know the theory. The point of my frustration these past 8 months is that even trying to put it into practice has not helped.
And definately not that you want anything serious.
Hey, after going through one 2 and a half year serious relationship, I am
completely willing to try something that is "not serious".
Learn to read signs, her touching you while talking is a green light. Make some fun of her, but also of yourself. Dont make too much fun of yourself because you will seem inconfident, dont make too much fun of her or you will be an asshole.
See, here's the problem. Women don't give me signs. Women
never touch me while talking to me. I know that is an IOI, but it never happens. Even with the chick I made out with in January. She never touched me until I lept in for the kiss.
And I think, for the most part, I strike a pretty good balance of teasing women and being slightly self-deprecating.
