RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011

[seagrams hotsauce]

Assuming that's after you smash I'll say it's easier to drop the veneer of acting like a civilised human being in front of a hookup than it is someone you're trying to cuff

[toku]

if they let you nut inside it's a relationship

[Madrun Badrun]

In English what do you put in the word "dating"?

Generally the characters 'd', 'a', 't', 'i', 'n', and 'g' but it depends on how fast I'm typing. 

[Valkyrie]

It's not a relationship until you have tampons in your house.

I think you mean these

[Valkyrie]

Downloaded Tinder and it took me a whole 5 minutes into swiping to realize this isn't what I want. Doesn't help that half of the dudes I saw are people I know from school. And they're all really into hiking and other weird shit.

[Rufus]

If I lived near Norwegian mountains - no, actually, no, I'd still be a lazy shit.

[Atramental]

Hiking is more-or-less tinder speak for "I'm not a fat fuck who just sits on my ass all day and does nothing".

Or at least it's that way in the US.

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

I think all dating profiles come preloaded with "I like hiking"

[brawndolicious]

When I first tried online dating, I said I like hiking because I did do it nearly every day since I lived near a redwood forest. Then I figured only chubs say that they like hiking for the reason atra said. And I don't mean healthy/thick/curvy (as latin/black/white people say) but the bad kind of chubs that is the result of self-loathing and pigging out in a super liberal or european area where they try to break out of the cycle of angst by the default mode of trying to date again and therefore faking a bit.

Those moments of angst turn into days. Those days blend into one another. Next thing you know they're messaging naive bearded dudes or the girl they had a crush on in high school about how well-rounded (no pun intended) and sophisticated they've become.

I heard meetup is better for actually meeting people with shared interests (and disinterests?).

[Raist]

I think all dating profiles come preloaded with "I like hiking"

And long windy walks at sunset on the beach.

[Valkyrie]

Nothing against people who hike as a hobby tho, just not my thing. I only hike in PUBG.

[Guessed]

The first time I scheduled to hang out with my current girlfriend was on a hike! I asked her and another girl to go because they were in my hometown for the summer.

I'll actually have her engagement ring in my hands on Monday and am thinking of proposing while on a hike. 

[Mupepe]

Downloaded Tinder and it took me a whole 5 minutes into swiping to realize this isn't what I want. Doesn't help that half of the dudes I saw are people I know from school. And they're all really into hiking and other weird shit.

Start looking at the girls then

[Atramental]

I think I'm getting dropped by those 2 girls I was dating.

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which is fine because I'm potentially meeting up with a voluptuous  19 y/o next week.

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[Bebpo]

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[Beezy]

If I had money to have someone cleanup my place every week, I'd do it.

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

I guess the thing that always surprises me about Bebpuu~ is that he is an established attorney in a part of the country where status means a lot.  I figured he could have his pick at any given moment.

[Boogie]

I guess the thing that always surprises me about Bebpuu~ is that he is an established attorney in a part of the country where status means a lot.  I figured he could have his pick at any given moment.

He's also very short. 

(sorry Bebs)

[CatsCatsCats]

Boogie talks about height like Rahx talks about looks

[Boogie]

Boogie talks about height like Rahx talks about looks

haha, shit, you may be right! 

Tinder made me this way, I swear!  I never really gave a second thought to height until all this swiping on profiles that demanded "you must be 5'10" or higher to ride" 

Anyhow, Bebpo, I'm actually in a situation right now that seems to be what you're looking for.  I wouldn't call it "NSA" exactly, it's more than that, because we both care about each other a fair bit. I'd say there's "real feelings" there, but our situations are such that something to the next step just isn't practical.

I mean, I *want* a "real", full, all-in relationship, ideally.  But I'm also.....happy?  content?.....with what I currently have going on right now.  I dunno, it's weird.

I don't have any advice on the "how" to find such a situation though.  I just sort of stumbled into it myself.  I think it's a rare thing for someone to want, man or woman, and tough to make sure you're both on the same page about it.

[Huff]

Looks are subjective Cats, but dating as a short guy in the days of tinder/online is def a disadvantage

Bebps, its kinda personal preference right? I was more than happy to give up TV/gaming to go on dates/date. But if your not willing to give that up, than seems like you need to figure out something else to either give up or be better with time management/job situation. It was an easy call for me to reduce/give up vidya for dating time, which I had mostly stopped due to work/research anyway, but you have to do what makes you happy.

[Rahxephon91]

Women can be picky about height and looks but men shouldn't be so picky and selective.

No double standards at all.

[Boogie]

Women can be picky about height and looks but men shouldn't be so picky and selective.

No double standards at all.

Quiet you.

As much as I (apparently) go on about the height thing, there's no point in crying "IT'S NOT FAIR" about the nature of attraction.

We're all dealt a certain hand by nature that we can't change.  What matters is how we play that hand.  And we've firmly established that your expectations go well beyond being just being "picky and selective".

And in case you didn't notice above, even our resident Greek God has his struggles on the woman front.

[Oblivion]

Dammit! This hot girl replied to me on OKC and then deleted her account two days later. 

[I'm a Puppy!]

Took the kid to the McDojo today and sat behind a single mom in her late thirties/early forties. She swiped left on every guy except the guys who had dogs with them in profile pics. So lesson learned. Have the doggo with you

[Bebpo]

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Looks are subjective Cats, but dating as a short guy in the days of tinder/online is def a disadvantage

Bebps, its kinda personal preference right? I was more than happy to give up TV/gaming to go on dates/date. But if your not willing to give that up, than seems like you need to figure out something else to either give up or be better with time management/job situation. It was an easy call for me to reduce/give up vidya for dating time, which I had mostly stopped due to work/research anyway, but you have to do what makes you happy.

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wow... was not expecting that paragraph on gaming/books do you have OCD? there's something wrong if that gets in the way of dating

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[Rahxephon91]

Dammit! This hot girl replied to me on OKC and then deleted her account two days later. 

Or she just blocked and or deleted you, or actually rebooted her account to start over again. Women are pretty shady like that on Tinder and Bumble.

A Bunch of Nonsense

Yeah so basically it's fine for women to have super specific preferences like only wanting someone tall, but dudes can't. Or they're "beyond".

[FreeNudeLyleLanley]

A Bunch of Nonsense

Yeah so basically it's fine for women to have super specific preferences like only wanting someone tall, but dudes can't. Or they're "beyond".

There's nothing wrong with having preferences or standards but if they're at a level that leads to you not meeting anyone then perhaps you should rethink them.

[Valkyrie]

[tiesto]

Well, we made it official, looks like I have a girlfriend now   

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

How big are her tits?

[I'm a Puppy!]

And is she into black guys?

[Valkyrie]

We need more happy endings, and I'm not talking about the $40 type.

[Atramental]

In the meantime, Ruzbeh, just try sparking small conversations with random girls whenever you're out in public. They don't have to end with getting their number.

Start small and build from there.

[chronovore]

At least this season got one thing right.

Just you wait: before the season ends, Bebsy is gonna do a heel turn.

[toku]

my season starts next year brehs

i swear it

i believe in you

[Phoenix Dark]

my season starts next year brehs

i swear it

2018 year of relationships bless up

@toku i told u man

[toku]

2018 the year of not desperately needing/wanting a relationship but accepting such a blessing in your life should the opportunity and lover present itself

[CatsCatsCats]

Had a match I was really interested in, until she told me she had a dread appointment


She's white

[Valkyrie]

At least it wasn't cornrows?

[Beezy]

Nothing wrong with dreads, IMO.

On white people? It looks very wrong and sloppy as fuck 95% of the time.

[shosta]

Yeah so basically it's fine for women to have super specific preferences like only wanting someone tall, but dudes can't. Or they're "beyond".

REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

[bluemax]

Here is my advice Bebpo, be happy with your life first and foremost and worry about a relationship later. Good relationships are about understanding, compromise and partnership and when you're happy with your life on your own it is a lot easier to provide and receive those things from someone else.

[Rahxephon91]

Had a match I was really interested in, until she told me she had a dread appointment


She's white

That seems kind of shallow.

[Himu]

I'd fuck Boogie.

[Valkyrie]

That seems kind of shallow.

Alright, I'm convinced Rahx is nothing but a master troll.

[Himu]

Height is attractive but I'd got for a guy that's like 5'7 or w/e

I am 5'4 so that helps

A woman that turns that down a man like Boogie because of his height is sad imo, as long as he's still taller than her. I mean, if that's all that turns her off, being his height. But it is what it is.

[Valkyrie]

Everyone have preferences though, whether they admit it or not.

Gonna be honest here.. While I don't consider myself picky there, I still have "preferences". Like if he's much shorter plus looks a lot younger I'm not into it. It'll just look weird. Never been with anyone way taller though so no opinion on that. And someone a little shorter is fun because I get to feel like Xena when wearing high heels. But absolute comfort zone is someone around my height. Perfect for kisses.

[Raist]

Goes both ways too. A lot of men are not comfortable with dating a woman who's taller than them.

[Atramental]

How old are you, Dufus?

[Atramental]

Hrrm...

Well, if I manage to attract 19 y/o girls at 27 then surely you could still get with 22 y/o girls. 

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maybe.

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[Valkyrie]

Gotta believe in yourself, Dufus, and ganbatte.

Girls don't magically land on your dick, unless you're rich or Mupepe.

[Mupepe]

They do in high school and your early 20's. It was so easy to get laid back then.

[Valkyrie]

They do in high school and your early 20's. It was so easy to get laid back then.

Thanks, I've edited my post accordingly.

[Madrun Badrun]

lol good luck

[Rahxephon91]

I used to think I had deal breakers. Like smoking. But I thought, what if I meet the hottest girl ever, and she's amazing in every way, except she smokes. In that case it wouldn't be a deal breaker, just a big negative.

Although I do think wanting kids might be a deal breaker. So basically I'm gonna start dating at an age when most women will be thinking about having kids and I've never even kissed yet.

I'm so fucked.

Yep, you are. I had no idea you were 30 already.

[Mupepe]

I don't drink alcohol tho. (Image removed from quote.)

You get her drunk, Dufus.

[Rahxephon91]

I don't drink alcohol tho. (Image removed from quote.)

You get her drunk, Dufus.

That's called rape.

[Atramental]

I don't drink alcohol tho. (Image removed from quote.)

See if you can find a kava bar where you live. Or just get the powder off the internet.

It's non-alcoholic and it'll make you calm.

[toku]

mupepe is a pussy hound?