also i have some questions... if you go on a date, where exactly do you meet up? what do you do? in general what are the possible locations and stuff for a date?
There are so many answers to this, and it's the wrong question anyway.
Whence dating? It starts with meeting someone. This can happen casually between two people who don't start with the pretense of dating, or it can be intentional and up front like a dating site. I always meet women as friends or in bars first. But other people like Tinder. So let's assume the latter.
You want someone to swipe you. Or you want them to like your OkCupid profile. Or whatever. The principals remain the same: why should they? Number one is being attractive. This isn't a fixed quality. You can't change your genes, but you can always buy new jeans. Get a real haircut ($25 or bust). Wear nice clothes. Take great pictures, not just in angle but in activity. Which leads to two: be interesting. Do you do something interesting for a living? Have any real hobbies? Pets? Been somewhere interesting? Are you an activist? Love X-Files? Think about who you are and what you can lean on. If this is hard for you then imagine how hard it'll be dating you for someone else, so fix that. I take dog pics 100% for pussy magnetism. Number three is have a personality. That means confidence, humor, charm. Crack some jokes. Take some risks. Don't be arrogant, but don't be a wet towel, either.
So once you've attracted somebody and it's mutual, and you're messaging back and forth, after a few messages, get right to the point. You wanna meet up and have lunch or coffee. They're interesting, you're interesting, so you've passed the first screening test and want to get to know them better for here. Arrange it, and from there, it's just your conversational skills. Your goal is to learn about the other person and have fun. But you should already have a head start on this because of your messages. Ask where they work. What they do. What they've been up to. Bitch about traffic. Talk about something you want to do. Discuss a shared interest. And if it's meant to be, it'll be smooth sailing from there.
That's what I'd say for the new fangled online dating culture. My advice for myself is a lot simpler, though. I approach life with a reckless abandon and genuine desire to connect with everyone. I share myself and learn from others. In bars, in coffee shops, at the grocery store, I'm always unapologetically me. And I just put myself out there consistently and I meet people that way. So "what do you do on a date" is no different for me than what I do anytime else. I make connections and share life's experiences. And if I feel like that might include dating, I add a little ego and duende.
