That only works if you're a stud on these dating sites/apps or super confident & somewhat attractive in real life. Being too forward comes off as super aggressive and fuckboyish because that's what EVERY fuckboy is doing. Also, for every 1 woman there's 10 to 20 men trying to get into her pants on these sites. It's just sensory overload at a certain point and all women can do is just shut down the super pushy guys.
There's a
difference between "aggressive" and "direct." Saying "hey, I think you're pretty cute. Do you want to get lunch with me sometime?"
is not aggressive.
You think I'm lying but I'm not.
A good chunk of women at 27 already have kids or want to settle down soon and have kids. (most men don't really have that innate drive like women do. Their biological clock is ticking pretty hard when their 30s is right on the fucking horizon.)
They're looking for a provider. Me at 27 making a little bit over $30K a year with my graphic design job doesn't look good to these 27+ women who are actually attractive and have their shit reasonably together.
And you think all 27-year old women have their shit together?
I'm ignoring the "attractive" bit purposely, because I know you'll focus on that instead of the later bit.
Edit: Let me put it this way: You're comparing yourself by how much you make.
This is where you're stumbling, IMO. There are bartenders out there that are attractive and within your age-range. They make (IIRC) around what you do. Retail is a bit below you. Not
every 27-year-old girl that you think is attractive "has their shit together" (read: makes more than you).
In fact, if "how much you make" is a factor in straight relationships: Humanity is doomed. You're able to raise a kid on 30K. Well, used to be anyway. I dunno if inflation and all that has completely fucked it over, but it's
possible for you to raise a kid (if you want that) with your salary, especially in the age where women are going into the workforce and not being "stay-at-home moms." You're selling yourself short because of your career when that should
never (IMO) be a factor for anyone in terms of attraction.
edit: And maybe another reason why I'm not successful at tinder is because I'm treating it like I'm going to find my long term gf on here. Maybe I should be using match.com instead.
Tindr in general seems to be "I think you're attractive" and nothing else. If you're wanting an actual relationship-relationship? Yeah, Match.com and a few other non-hook-up apps may be a better fishing spot.