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[Oblivion]

I'm 32, and the youngest chick I went out with was 26. But that was also when I was 29.

Aside from that and a handful of others, I'd say around 90% of the women I've dated have been older than me. The whole "women in their 20s like older men" stereotype doesn't seem to apply to me.  :'(

[Guessed]

The first time I scheduled to hang out with my current girlfriend was on a hike! I asked her and another girl to go because they were in my hometown for the summer.

I'll actually have her engagement ring in my hands on Monday and am thinking of proposing while on a hike. 

Update:  I didn't ask her on a hike, but she said yes! 

[Oblivion]

Got a date with a tall Russian babe on Saturday

[brawndolicious]

My gf is 5 years older (33). She does like to remind me every now and then that that was a compromise she had to make. My compromise is I get yelled at every time I take a picture of her that's not perf.

But I think younger people are just boring to be perfectly honest. They tend to be less headstrong/creative, they have less interpersonal skills, and some don't even know what a schwab account is for.

Yeah, but there's a difference between liking older men and liking older men to an age range.
I mean a guy whose a suave older 55 year old man is still quite different than a 35 year old man when you're 30 I would think.

Within a 20 year age range (-10 to +10) it tends to be more about the individual's maturity since everyone mentally matures differently. You can find someone 10 years younger whose more on your vibe, or have a "old soul" and match with someone 10 years older. Since I like videogames which didn't really come into more acceptable mainstream popularity until about 5-10 years after me, I tend to click more with woman younger than me. If I was into like rock climbing or tennis or Aerosmith or something I'd probably click more with people my age.

Dude you're not Aerosmith old. You're at worst a Weezer-geezer which is just the perfect range.

[Oblivion]

GODDAMN IT

Seems I might have spoken too soon. So I met this chick on OKC, which has all my pictures (albeit from two years ago) so I'm thinking that she likes what she sees and so is willing to go through with meeting up. We start talking on the phone and then everything is going well until she requests more pics from me. I don't think much of it and go ahead and send her one (nothing racy, for the record. Just me in a t-shirt and shorts). Apparently, she didn't seem too pleased and thought I was actually kind of skinny, which she admitted was kind of a turn off.

Granted, she still wants to meet me to see how I look in person, but now I'm feeling all self-conscious and not really confident anymore.  :'(

[agrajag]

carb load before the date

[Raist]

My gf is 5 years older (33). She does like to remind me every now and then that that was a compromise she had to make. My compromise is I get yelled at every time I take a picture of her that's not perf.

But I think younger people are just boring to be perfectly honest. They tend to be less headstrong/creative, they have less interpersonal skills, and some don't even know what a schwab account is for.

So... did you just imply that you're boring to her?

GODDAMN IT

Seems I might have spoken too soon. So I met this chick on OKC, which has all my pictures (albeit from two years ago) so I'm thinking that she likes what she sees and so is willing to go through with meeting up. We start talking on the phone and then everything is going well until she requests more pics from me. I don't think much of it and go ahead and send her one (nothing racy, for the record. Just me in a t-shirt and shorts). Apparently, she didn't seem too pleased and thought I was actually kind of skinny, which she admitted was kind of a turn off.

Granted, she still wants to meet me to see how I look in person, but now I'm feeling all self-conscious and not really confident anymore.  :'(

That seems superficial as fuck TBH.

[Raist]

"Too skinny" doesn't strike me at all as a bizarre thing a woman would say. It's probably more meant in the "not buff enough" though.

[Atramental]

She's testing/fucking with you.

A lot of hot girls will play games with your mind to see if you can handle blows to your self worth/ego.

Not a great character trait for long term but if you're just trying to hit it and quit it then brush her insults off as nothing. If anything try and deflect by coming up with clever counter statements if she trys pulling more of this shit in person. Statements that make you seem better/much more cunning than her.

[Valkyrie]

If someone play games, you gotta move on. That shit is the dumbest, especially if your age no longer ends in -teen.

[Huff]

She's testing/fucking with you.

A lot of hot girls will play games with your mind to see if you can handle blows to your self worth/ego.

Not a great character trait for long term but if you're just trying to hit it and quit it then brush her insults off as nothing. If anything try and deflect by coming up with clever counter statements if she trys pulling more of this shit in person. Statements that make you seem better/much more cunning than her.

 

[Huff]

Atra went out and read "the game" when we weren't looking

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

I always assume that the girls who like to play games wouldn’t do that if some fuckstud like Tom Hardy (or whoever) was interested in them.  So I’ve always just moved on.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Indeed, if they're playing games at the start? Why is that anything you want to sign up for?

[Oblivion]

Oblivion aren't you brown? I'm thinking she first saw some of your pics and thought it was just a tan then found out you're non-white and used 'you're too skinny' as an excuse. Also, don't you lift? Too skinny is a strange thing to say.

Racism, bruh.

I'm Indian, yes, but I'm not brown. 

And yeah, I workout, but I also lost weight in the past year too. So she's not wrong in that I look skinnier than the pics I have on my profile, it's just that I didn't think it was a night and day difference.

[agrajag]

Tell her you're on a cut brah

[Raist]

Indeed, if they're playing games at the start? Why is that anything you want to sign up for?

For a sec I thought you were talking about vidyas and I was very confused.

[agrajag]

Oblivion aren't you brown? I'm thinking she first saw some of your pics and thought it was just a tan then found out you're non-white and used 'you're too skinny' as an excuse. Also, don't you lift? Too skinny is a strange thing to say.

Racism, bruh.

I'm Indian, yes, but I'm not brown. 

I think he's saying he's rather pale, if I recall seeing his pics in the fitness gaf thread correctly. Not all Indians are dark skinned, you know.

[Oblivion]

Oblivion aren't you brown? I'm thinking she first saw some of your pics and thought it was just a tan then found out you're non-white and used 'you're too skinny' as an excuse. Also, don't you lift? Too skinny is a strange thing to say.

Racism, bruh.

I'm Indian, yes, but I'm not brown. 

I think he's saying he's rather pale, if I recall seeing his pics in the fitness gaf thread correctly. Not all Indians are dark skinned, you know.

Yes, I'm part of the 10% of White-skinned Indian population. 

[seagrams hotsauce]

She's testing/fucking with you.

A lot of hot girls will play games with your mind to see if you can handle blows to your self worth/ego.

  look at this fuckin guy. And how exactly have you dealt with these situations personally, Iceberg Slim?

[Mupepe]

Atra has dealt with it by being cool as a fucking cucumber.  He audibly pops his cock out of her mouth like a pacifier, zips up and walks away while she's wet, crying and begging for him to come back.

[Phoenix Dark]

She's testing/fucking with you.

A lot of hot girls will play games with your mind to see if you can handle blows to your self worth/ego.

Not a great character trait for long term but if you're just trying to hit it and quit it then brush her insults off as nothing. If anything try and deflect by coming up with clever counter statements if she trys pulling more of this shit in person. Statements that make you seem better/much more cunning than her.

[Atramental]

You guys think I'm being serious? Ha!

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[Rufus]

 

[Bebpo]

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[Boogie]

There's a reason why they say being an attorney ... has the high percent of alcoholics.

I don't know if you meant to put "highest", but.....allow me to introduce you to the world of policing.  ...

[Bebpo]

There's a reason why they say being an attorney ... has the high percent of alcoholics.

I don't know if you meant to put "highest", but.....allow me to introduce you to the world of policing.  ...

That's a Canadian thing though, right? Because you have to abide by the rules and overcome tough situations without just shooting everyone and not having any consequences. Not sure if that applies to USA police as well.

[Oblivion]

are u saying there's something wrong with being a darker-skinned?

...yes? 

[toku]

very problematic page

[Raist]

You guys not familiar with India?

[Boogie]

There's a reason why they say being an attorney ... has the high percent of alcoholics.

I don't know if you meant to put "highest", but.....allow me to introduce you to the world of policing.  ...

That's a Canadian thing though, right? Because you have to abide by the rules and overcome tough situations without just shooting everyone and not having any consequences. Not sure if that applies to USA police as well.

I'm just gonna chalk this post up to "feeling down and overworked" too, because it was dumb, Bebps. 

[Bebpo]

There's a reason why they say being an attorney ... has the high percent of alcoholics.

I don't know if you meant to put "highest", but.....allow me to introduce you to the world of policing.  ...

That's a Canadian thing though, right? Because you have to abide by the rules and overcome tough situations without just shooting everyone and not having any consequences. Not sure if that applies to USA police as well.

I'm just gonna chalk this post up to "feeling down and overworked" too, because it was dumb, Bebps. 

Fair enough, that was kinda snappy and this isn't the thread to air grievances about the police treatment of minorities in the us. I'll save that discussion for other threads.

[Oblivion]

Okay, back from the date. It was...mixed.


So we meet up and fortunately, she seems pleased with how I look in person, pointing out that the pictures I sent her gave an unfair impression. We take a walk around the neighborhood for about an hour, holding hands, with seemingly everything going well.

...until near the end where she told me that she doesn't kiss on a first date and that she takes things really slow.

To be clear, I don't personally mind taking things slow. The problem is that, at least in my experiences, when women say that (especially if they don't want to kiss on a first date), those relationships never work out well. Probably more troubling is that she also said that she needs some time to process how to continue this, and openly stated she's a "complex" person. I forgot to mention, but she's a recent divorcee, so maybe that has something to do with it?

She seems pretty weird, so I'm thinking of moving on. Which is a shame, cause it turns out she has great juggs.  :'(

[Oblivion]

...and she just texted me saying she doesn't think this is gonna work out.

Welp, that's that.

[Madrun Badrun]

Shame about the lost juggs

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

I had unprotected anal sex with my girlfriend last night.

It was an awesome idea at the time but I'm waiting for the inevitable UTI.

Also I've been seeing her for almost five months now, which is the longest relationship I've had in a long time.

[Nabbis]

Spray that ass with some 0.16% chlorhexidine next time. 

I should probably do a clinical study if dipping your dick into antiseptics makes any difference in anal sex UTI... 

[toku]

I had unprotected anal sex with my girlfriend last night.

It was an awesome idea at the time but I'm waiting for the inevitable UTI.

Also I've been seeing her for almost five months now, which is the longest relationship I've had in a long time.

im liking for the 5 month thing, not the unprotected anal sex thing

[Huff]

I liked for the butt sex

[Phoenix Dark]

I've done a variety of risky things without a condom that were downright distinguished mentally-challenged in hindsight, but I wouldn't do unprotected anal with anyone.

I actually smashed my ladyfriend yesterday while she was spotting (due to birth control). Be blessed on this mid October day, my friends.

[Valkyrie]

Sex while full on bleeding sounds extremely painful and messy, nothing could make me wanna try it. But I had sex before while spotting since I kinda had no choice (LDR + badly timed birth control spotting). It's not a big deal, just embarrassing.

[Phoenix Dark]

It wasn't too messy yesterday. She was kind of self conscious about it initially but when she realized I didn't really care about a bit of blood here or there, she was fine. Plus it wasn't nearly as much blood as when she was on her period awhile ago and we fucked.

I'd avoid fingering too much though, because you're gonna get blood on your hands and likely have to delay things to head to the sink and wash them off.

[Raist]

Be grossed out about that one out of four bodily fluids you're otherwise regularly exchanging without a second thought brehs.

[Valkyrie]

There's a major difference between being grossed out by something and finding something unattractive.

[Beezy]

are u saying there's something wrong with being a darker-skinned?

...yes? 

It seems that this post wasn't a joke. Please explain.

[Oblivion]

She seems pretty weird, so I'm thinking of moving on. Which is a shame, cause it turns out she has great juggs.  :'(

Didn't you say earlier you became less shallow? You almost started seeing a flagrant racist simply because of her 'great juggs'

are u saying there's something wrong with being a darker-skinned?

...yes? 

It seems that this post wasn't a joke. Please explain.

I thought the was enough to signify it was a joke?

[Tasty]

[demi]

Dont be menace clips!

Atra meets someone on Tinder:

[Beezy]

are u saying there's something wrong with being a darker-skinned?

...yes? 

It seems that this post wasn't a joke. Please explain.

I thought the was enough to signify it was a joke?

Alright. The posts directly after yours made me think that it wasn't.

[tiesto]

So my mom met my girlfriend - she said she was nice but too young for me (she's 27 I'm 35), and she's worried we're rushing into things a bit. I don't think she'll ever be in 100% approval of who I date, though I hate to say she was right about the last few girls I dated.

[Raist]

If that's the only "flaw" she could find you'll be alright.

[Mupepe]

Old man with the hot young girlfriend.  ohhhhh yeahhhhhhhhhh

[CatsCatsCats]

Bless all the way up

[Rahxephon91]

If a girl is telling you about her bj skills. Thats good right?......

[studyguy]

I'm gonna end up putting a ring on it this next year fam.
10 years is enough time, gotta face the facts and admit I been married for a minute w/o the formalities 

[Rahxephon91]

So an update for me.

I added that recent picture of me. The one where I do have somewhat of a smile as recommended by Atra as something you need. And yes I did match with a lot more girls. Some of them even actually attractive by my (I'll say) "picky" standards.

I messaged a couple avoiding any self deprecating humor and just trying to go off what their profile said and have for the past few days been talking to two girls. I did get them off Tinder so now its by a combination of Snap and actual text.

For the first girl, at first I was kind of just talking to her for the sake of it. She sufferd from "same face" syndrome that I see a lot of girls have on these things. She also really enjoys her memes which was kind of annoying. I think I've started to understand her humor a bit there and realize I can also be sarcastic and not self serious. We've moved past the boring "do you like this thing" and she makes a lot of the jokes which is actually refreshing and not boring. She has casually drooped more risque lines about wanting to make out and whatnot. Also calling me bae and boo. Like she mentioned that she has good ratings for her bjs which I think is just her flirting and being funny. My philosophy right now is to just go into things with no expectations and try to keep up. She said she was open to meeting up last weekend, but I guess there was a miss-communication so we didn't. Monday was the next time, but I was too busy and now she is busy for a bit so I don't know. She said she is still very interested and wants to though so thats good. she seems amusing, but I could see her getting bored of me before I'm able to meet her face to face. Right now she does in fact instigate conversations so thats good. I get an ok vibe. She also sent some cleavage snaps so..

The other girl likes the Simpsons and in general we have a pretty similar childhood from talking to her. She seems very nice and is very responsive when we talk, but I usually have to start the conversation. Also she seems very nice which is kind of boring to me honestly. I probably need to meet her in person to get a real vibe.

[CatsCatsCats]

That sounds really positive, Rahx, happy to hear it

[Raist]

So an update for me.

I added that recent picture of me. The one where I do have somewhat of a smile as recommended by Atra as something you need. And yes I did match with a lot more girls. Some of them even actually attractive by my (I'll say) "picky" standards.

I messaged a couple avoiding any self deprecating humor and just trying to go off what their profile said and have for the past few days been talking to two girls. I did get them off Tinder so now its by a combination of Snap and actual text.

For the first girl, at first I was kind of just talking to her for the sake of it. She sufferd from "same face" syndrome that I see a lot of girls have on these things. She also really enjoys her memes which was kind of annoying. I think I've started to understand her humor a bit there and realize I can also be sarcastic and not self serious. We've moved past the boring "do you like this thing" and she makes a lot of the jokes which is actually refreshing and not boring. She has casually drooped more risque lines about wanting to make out and whatnot. Also calling me bae and boo. Like she mentioned that she has good ratings for her bjs which I think is just her flirting and being funny. My philosophy right now is to just go into things with no expectations and try to keep up. She said she was open to meeting up last weekend, but I guess there was a miss-communication so we didn't. Monday was the next time, but I was too busy and now she is busy for a bit so I don't know. She said she is still very interested and wants to though so thats good. she seems amusing, but I could see her getting bored of me before I'm able to meet her face to face. Right now she does in fact instigate conversations so thats good. I get an ok vibe. She also sent some cleavage snaps so..

The other girl likes the Simpsons and in general we have a pretty similar childhood from talking to her. She seems very nice and is very responsive when we talk, but I usually have to start the conversation. Also she seems very nice which is kind of boring to me honestly. I probably need to meet her in person to get a real vibe.

Who the fuck are you and where did you hide Rahx's body.

[Rusty Shackleford]

Also she seems very nice which is kind of boring to me honestly.

You know how I know you haven't experienced too many dumpster fire relationships yet 

Stability *is* boring. But chaos gets old after a while.

[toku]

Yep, I need me a boring bitch just to cuddle and watch Grey's Anatomy with. For now I'll hit up miss I cum from anal() and get my demons running till I find my very own plain princess.

she could be both