Author Topic: Pallando will return in "Never Say Never Again" (Read 1244656 times)

TVC15 · « **Reply #7620 on:** January 12, 2015, 12:02:55 AM »

Quote from: Beezy on January 11, 2015, 11:59:27 PM

You could have simply asked her if she wanted some soup or told her what you were bringing instead of being so vague and seeming like you were trying to surprise her.

Really. Bringing soup to a sick person without prompting is like something you do for a family member. She probably thinks you'll be asking her to move in soon.

fistfulofmetal · « **Reply #7621 on:** January 12, 2015, 06:46:03 AM »

valentine's day

chronovore · « **Reply #7622 on:** January 15, 2015, 08:27:04 AM »

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on January 12, 2015, 06:46:03 AM

valentine's day

More than a month away from an entirely industry created holiday. Chill.

Positive Touch · « **Reply #7623 on:** January 15, 2015, 09:14:20 AM »

it's important to start the "this holiday is corporate bullshit don't you agree we should protest by not doing anything" convo early, so you don't set a bad precedent

Reb · « **Reply #7624 on:** January 15, 2015, 09:49:37 AM »

Just lay her down on a bed of roses.

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All my advice is Bon Jovi based.

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Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #7625 on:** January 15, 2015, 10:54:20 AM »

Chicken Noodle Soup Girl wants to do dinner/Netflix tomorrow night. Usually we just chill, cook dinner, watch stuff, laugh and flirt etc, we'll see if she acts differently in the post-soup world I have created.

Am_I_Anonymous · « **Reply #7626 on:** January 15, 2015, 11:00:08 AM »

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 11, 2015, 08:52:41 PM

I'm the master of sending mixed messages. A friend of mine was sick this weekend and thus unable to hang with me. We were going to watch Netflix at my place on Saturday and today; she planned on bringing her brother (who is mentally handicapped) with her on Saturday, and would come solo today. We're just friends although there is some sexual tension.

Anyway...today I had an itch to make some homemade soup, so I made chicken noodle soup. I made too much so I just figured I'd drop some off at her place...so I called, asked if I could bring her something, then showed up with the soup. She was very grateful, I could tell she was quite touched by the gesture.

Fast forward to this evening. I got a text from a mutual friend (and gossip snitch) saying that my friend told her about the soup, and wants to be more than friends. I "like" her in the sense that we're friends and have a good time together, but I'm not really thinking about girlfriends n shit.

I just wanted to give her some soup yall

Get off the wall, PD.

Shaka Khan · « **Reply #7627 on:** January 15, 2015, 05:01:02 PM »

Chicken noodle soup gurl wanna taste your noodle. Slurp slurp.

Rahxephon91 · « **Reply #7628 on:** January 18, 2015, 07:33:32 AM »

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on January 11, 2015, 06:13:24 PM

if it makes people feel better I am no closer to having a Relationship than ever.

Me either man. And I'm probably itching closer to being a misogynist as well.

I just can't seem to attract the actual women I want. It's crazy, but I'm an actual funny person who dosen't wear his nerdom on his leaves in real life. I know my annoying bore persona would lead you to belive otherwise. Never the less I freeze up around anyone I'm not comfortable with and anyone who I want to actually fuck is an even colder freeze. I simply can't channel my actual personality and it's annoying. Regardless my confidence level is so shitty. Jesus even an awkward turtle may get actual female attention, but fuck no female has ever shown interest in me and it's damn annoying. At this point I give up. This entire thing is too annoying to deal with. Men are so obvious in who they find attractive. Women are so godamn annying.

Yes, I;m a little drunk now. See, I've even gotten over my shitty stereotypical gaf nerddom of "oh I don't like to drink, it's not proper and wholesome". No I love drinkinging and socializng. Yet, women still don't come up to me and I'm a fun drunk. I grew long hair, a cut my hair, I take care of my self. I'm not fat. Like what the fuck do I have to do to get women to notice me? Jesus, I guess I must have to drop everything and bulk up to get attracive women. I mean christ I'm not trying to date models.Just you're average good looking white girl, but I guess I'm not good enugh for that shit.

PlayDat · « **Reply #7629 on:** January 18, 2015, 10:03:42 AM »

I'm not in much of a position to give dating advice, but I'll say this: You have to keep in mind that women rarely ever take the initiative with this kind of thing. It's the price we pay for slut-shaming those who are even a little bit forward about sex. It's likely you've come across women who were interested, but they expressed it in a way that was too subtle for you to notice. In time you'll get better at reading these cues. Until then you might be better of not letting "Is she interested in me?" be a factor in who you decide to pursue. TL;DR version: Take some damn risks.

Atramental · « **Reply #7630 on:** January 18, 2015, 10:12:03 AM »

And if you're like me Rahx (which I'm assuming you are) asking someone out makes me want to crawl underneath a rock and die.

So. Best wishes and good luck because that's the only real solution for your problem.

Olivia Wilde Homo · « **Reply #7631 on:** January 18, 2015, 11:11:28 AM »

Quote from: PlayDat on January 18, 2015, 10:03:42 AM

I'm not in much of a position to give dating advice, but I'll say this: You have to keep in mind that women rarely ever take the initiative with this kind of thing. It's the price we pay for slut-shaming those who are even a little bit forward about sex. It's likely you've come across women who were interested, but they expressed it in a way that was too subtle for you to notice. In time you'll get better at reading these cues. Until then you might be better of not letting "Is she interested in me?" be a factor in who you decide to pursue. TL;DR version: Take some damn risks.

I had a friend who was very good looking and girls had no problem throwing themselves at him. It was kind of surreal to watch. He was a pretty nice guy and had a long term girlfriend (who he eventually married and had kids with). Most dudes, by the law of the bell curve, are average and you're going to have to put in the work to make yourself stand out. Average guys like us are going to have to do more than just exist, so we work out, get a good education, nice job, etc. That is how it is always going to be so moping about it on the internet is a surefire way to chronic masturbation.

fistfulofmetal · « **Reply #7632 on:** January 18, 2015, 01:09:14 PM »

Rahx has no perspective from the sound of it. Seems like he mildly still thinks he's owed something by having certain traits that he thinks are desirable to the opposite sex. Maybe he views himself as the only person out there vying for their attention? Hard to say.

Either way. Start putting yourself in the shoes of the women. Think from their perspective. It's not easy but when you start seeing it from their point of view, dating becomes easier. Not EASY, mind you, just easier.

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #7633 on:** January 18, 2015, 01:15:30 PM »

Didn't smash brehs but I had a good time. Wasn't awkward; I had expected her to give me "the talk" about how we should be dating but nah, she didn't press it.

Anybody else like cuddling and watching Netflix? That shit is just peaceful.

Rahx: How many non-family women do you talk to in person on a weekly basis? Classmates, coworkers, friends, etc.

TakingBackSunday · « **Reply #7634 on:** January 18, 2015, 01:22:26 PM »

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Anybody else like cuddling and watching Netflix? That shit is just peaceful.

G The Resurrected · « **Reply #7635 on:** January 18, 2015, 01:25:38 PM »

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 18, 2015, 01:15:30 PM

Anybody else like cuddling and watching Netflix? That shit is just peaceful.

It's a staple in my life. Especially on those nice cold nights, you can make up some cocoa/tea/coffee and relax into one another.

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But usually we just watch how its made and sometimes porn together.

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Glad you had a good time, it's healthy to have a good foundation to any relationship. Build it up and who knows what might flourish.

fistfulofmetal · « **Reply #7636 on:** January 18, 2015, 01:27:14 PM »

Quote from: BrandNew on January 18, 2015, 01:22:26 PM

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Anybody else like cuddling and watching Netflix? That shit is just peaceful.

it's a staple of most solid relationships.

just sayin'

TakingBackSunday · « **Reply #7637 on:** January 18, 2015, 01:31:49 PM »

I know, I enjoy it too. You just have a way with words, my friend

G The Resurrected · « **Reply #7638 on:** January 18, 2015, 01:42:59 PM »

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on January 18, 2015, 01:27:14 PM

it's a staple of most solid relationships.

just sayin'

This is PD were talking about here remember.

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #7639 on:** January 18, 2015, 01:44:04 PM »

I won't wait for Rahx's answer. IMO dudes with the most social problems around women have little to no meaningful experience having social interaction with women. If you were a "nerd" as a kid you probably didn't talk to many girls. Those people tend to grow up and go to college and breeze through without having any genuine interaction with chicks. Then they're grown and have a job where they have to interact with a variety of people and still struggle at it. I run into those types all the time, and of course it wasn't too long ago that I had no meaningful interaction with women.

When I was homeschooled I had plenty of social interaction with kids in my neighborhood, but no girls. I played basketball outside, played Brood War, went house to house challenging people at Pokemon, etc...but during none of this social shit did I deal with girls. I was awkward around them.

Then I went to a highschool in 10th grade. I remember it like it was yesterday: a group of us were doing an orientation event when I heard a girl say "hey, you. Yeah you." She introduced herself to me and eventually became my best friend. I was socially awkward around girls but she pulled me out of my shell over the years, (jokingly) made fun of me, teased me, etc. And then I broke her heart later but whatever: the point is that once I had a female friend, who (at the time) I had no sexual thoughts of, I found it easier to converse with other women. It was no longer a foreign concept. I could walk up to a chick and ask if she knew when the homework was due, or properly converse during a group project.

Talk to women. I don't mean start asinine small time about the weather...just talk. If you have a female coworker and need to discuss work shit with her...do it. Be polite, don't try to be funny - be yourself. If you hear some people talking about a subject you're interested in, don't be afraid to join, even if a chick is there too.

Once you're not constantly over-analyzing things you'll be able to naturally talk to people in general. Talk to guys to. You want to continually build your social skills.

Positive Touch · « **Reply #7640 on:** January 18, 2015, 02:42:33 PM »

bububu they owe me

Beezy · « **Reply #7641 on:** January 18, 2015, 03:58:40 PM »

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 18, 2015, 01:44:04 PM

Talk to women. I don't mean start asinine small time about the weather...just talk. If you have a female coworker and need to discuss work shit with her...do it. Be polite, don't try to be funny - be yourself. If you hear some people talking about a subject you're interested in, don't be afraid to join, even if a chick is there too.

Once you're not constantly over-analyzing things you'll be able to naturally talk to people in general. Talk to guys to. You want to continually build your social skills.

PD is making sense here.

Rahxephon91 · « **Reply #7642 on:** January 18, 2015, 11:50:31 PM »

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 18, 2015, 01:15:30 PM

Rahx: How many non-family women do you talk to in person on a weekly basis? Classmates, coworkers, friends, etc.

About 20 I'd say. It certainly has nothing to being awkward or owed anything as a few of you are implying.

Atramental · « **Reply #7643 on:** January 19, 2015, 01:18:42 AM »

edit: stupid late night post

fistfulofmetal · « **Reply #7644 on:** January 19, 2015, 01:37:33 AM »

don't be shy, bruh

Atramental · « **Reply #7645 on:** January 19, 2015, 01:39:43 AM »

Ah, it's nothing really.

I just found it odd that my most recent pic I posted of myself here is getting me more likes than usual on OKC.

chronovore · « **Reply #7646 on:** January 19, 2015, 06:31:09 PM »

Quote from: Death Ghidorah on January 19, 2015, 11:50:29 AM

The amount of attractive women who just walked into this coffee place

Being a spineless piece of shit who'll just head out in 5 minutes and do nothing

If they came in one at a time, unaccompanied, yeah, you’re horribad. If they came in pairs or larger sets, you’re just exercising common sense: dudes trying to break into “girl time” are shut down faster than a VHS porno when your parents come home early.

Oblivion · « **Reply #7647 on:** January 19, 2015, 09:49:53 PM »

I'm talking to this chick on OKC at the moment. She's got some meat on her bones, which is perfectly FINE as long as her body mass is distributed evenly, but unfortunately, her boobs aren't the corresponding size for a woman of her heft.

Seriously, how can you be a fat chick with not much boobage? Should be scientifically impossible.

Beezy · « **Reply #7648 on:** January 19, 2015, 11:27:47 PM »

Ask Lena Dunham.

FatalT · « **Reply #7649 on:** January 20, 2015, 05:30:04 PM »

My current relationship (a year and about 5 months now) has caused me to neglect The Bore. Mostly because I'm not really around my desktop anymore and I have to browse the internet from my phone. The Bore doesn't look very good on mobile...and I'm too lazy to reinstall Tapatalk.

chronovore · « **Reply #7650 on:** January 20, 2015, 05:53:37 PM »

Quote from: FatalT on January 20, 2015, 05:30:04 PM

My current relationship (a year and about 5 months now) has caused me to neglect The Bore. Mostly because I'm not really around my desktop anymore and I have to browse the internet from my phone. The Bore doesn't look very good on mobile...and I'm too lazy to reinstall Tapatalk.

Struggle Thread is :thataway.gif

Olivia Wilde Homo · « **Reply #7651 on:** January 20, 2015, 07:02:49 PM »

I broke up with my girlfriend last week, which is why I've been posting here a lot more lately. She became way too possessive and I don't play that shit. The way I see it is that trust and respect are the cornerstones of a relationship and if either one of them are now in question, I'll usually talk to her about it. I understand some people will push the limits on things and in some respects, that is a good thing but not all things obviously. So I had a conversation with her about it and she got angry and defensive. So to hell with that shit, I ended it before it got too crazy. I am taking a trip to Germany (no TDM) in May and if things were going fine, I would have bought her a ticket. So on the upside, I don't have to worry about that now.

As a result, I reluctantly decided to try online dating. I put up my profile on Sunday and got a few likes and a couple of messages from girls. One was "Hi" and one was "How are you doing". I'm not sure if that means good things or if that is just the standard. One girl looks okay and doesn't appear to have a job (so pass) and one looks pretty cute but looks pretty stacked, which as you all know, I love. So I'm going to play this casually and see what happens. Probably nothing but fuck it, why not. I haven't sent any messages to any girls yet but this weekend, I might look into it.

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #7652 on:** January 20, 2015, 07:32:26 PM »

Normally I'd say "sorry to hear that" but it sounds like you dodged a bullet. Good man. What was she jealous of? I have friends with possessive gfs and they tend to get most upset about work relationships and "chilling with the homies" situations. I remember one time my friend's gf showed up at Buffalo Wild Wings just to watch him.

chronovore · « **Reply #7653 on:** January 20, 2015, 07:38:09 PM »

Yeah, bullet: dodged.

That possessiveness is a symptom of a bunch of other problems, so good going.

naff · « **Reply #7654 on:** January 20, 2015, 08:17:40 PM »

I left my cat outside for 2 nights, now all he wants to do is snuggle me. He won't leave me alone when he's in the house, before this he was chill and very aloof emotionally but it's like my neglect got him shook, now he comes in at a reasonable hour instead of meowing at some ungodly hour and waking me up then slinking off. Tough love and tactical neglect. Works a charm.

Shaka Khan · « **Reply #7655 on:** January 20, 2015, 09:45:18 PM »

Olivia Wilde Homo · « **Reply #7656 on:** January 20, 2015, 10:32:49 PM »

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 20, 2015, 07:32:26 PM

Normally I'd say "sorry to hear that" but it sounds like you dodged a bullet. Good man. What was she jealous of? I have friends with possessive gfs and they tend to get most upset about work relationships and "chilling with the homies" situations. I remember one time my friend's gf showed up at Buffalo Wild Wings just to watch him.

It was a friendship with a girl I have had classes with. We worked our asses off on a big project (myself, herself, and four other people) so we've become good friends since. My now ex and I came across her and her husband the weekend before last and had a friendly chat, introduced our significant others, and all that. Apparently she got really pissed that I was friends with this girl and kept bringing it up throughout the week until I had a chat with her. I'm too busy to really screw around and the girl in question happened to be married as we just met her fucking husband. My now ex just wanted to be the only woman in my life (friendly or otherwise) and that ain't gonna happen. So I stopped the relationship then and there. Part of me wonders if the long con was marriage: isolate me from other women and then try to make it seem like I absolutely had to have her in my life and I need to marry her before she goes away.

There were other little things too but that was the big one. Like I said, not a big deal. It had been just for a few months; I might have been feeling it more if it was something that was longer term.

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #7657 on:** January 20, 2015, 10:43:23 PM »

What the fuck? She met the husband and was still upset? You did the right thing. Throw her in the bushes.

is the friend more attractive than your ex?

Olivia Wilde Homo · « **Reply #7658 on:** January 20, 2015, 11:06:14 PM »

Yeah, the friend is pretty good looking but so is my ex.

I've seen that type of behavior before. The thing is, it never stops there which is why I had to end it.

Human Snorenado · « **Reply #7659 on:** January 20, 2015, 11:45:37 PM »

I have a buddy that was dating this woman for like 3-4 months, and she was insanely jealous. Like, refused to believe that a man could have a friendship with a woman without actively trying to sleep with her kind of jealous. Not just *thinking* about it, mind you, but actively pursuing it. She refused to believe that his woman friends of multiple years weren't trying to fuck him, or vice versa.

chronovore · « **Reply #7660 on:** January 21, 2015, 02:40:51 AM »

Most likely she’s the type who feels that way about men, and has felt compelled to cheat, no?

Am_I_Anonymous · « **Reply #7661 on:** January 21, 2015, 09:50:15 AM »

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on January 18, 2015, 01:09:14 PM

Either way. Start putting yourself in the shoes of the women. Think from their perspective. It's not easy but when you start seeing it from their point of view, dating becomes easier. Not EASY, mind you, just easier.

Don't ever do this. You'll get confused.

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #7662 on:** January 21, 2015, 10:09:09 AM »

Nah Fistfull is right.

Am_I_Anonymous · « **Reply #7663 on:** January 21, 2015, 10:09:55 AM »

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 21, 2015, 10:09:09 AM

Nah Fistfull is right.

So the unmarried guys are the ones who should tell a guy how to find a woman.

Hmmm.....tell me more

Reb · « **Reply #7664 on:** January 21, 2015, 10:29:49 AM »

Yes, because marriage is al about finding new women regularly.

Am_I_Anonymous · « **Reply #7665 on:** January 21, 2015, 10:32:20 AM »

Quote from: Reb on January 21, 2015, 10:29:49 AM

Yes, because marriage is al about finding new women regularly.

And being single means dealing with rejection. 1/1

fistfulofmetal · « **Reply #7666 on:** January 21, 2015, 06:33:01 PM »

My advice is what worked for me so that's what I tend to recommend for others.

Rahxephon91 · « **Reply #7667 on:** January 21, 2015, 07:56:18 PM »

I don't even know what Fistfuls advice means.

Atramental · « **Reply #7668 on:** January 21, 2015, 08:03:22 PM »

To understand women you must become... a woman.

TakingBackSunday · « **Reply #7669 on:** January 21, 2015, 08:04:25 PM »

wtf is AiA even trying to prove here

I swear dude, you go into every single thread and try and "win" shit by saying "oh but have YOUUUUUU done X?" "Oh, but have you ever actually BEEN to X???"

It's an exhausting and worthless way to try and prove that you're smarter than everyone.

fistfulofmetal · « **Reply #7670 on:** January 21, 2015, 08:16:47 PM »

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on January 21, 2015, 07:56:18 PM

I don't even know what Fistfuls advice means.

You go into dating understanding what the other side has to deal with and adjust your approach accordingly.

Rahxephon91 · « **Reply #7671 on:** January 22, 2015, 08:19:33 PM »

Well I'm trying to figure out what that entails.

fistfulofmetal · « **Reply #7672 on:** January 22, 2015, 09:12:04 PM »

Think about how much effort you put into doing everything exactly right. What you say, what you do, what you wear, etc. All that to be the most perfect unique suitor.

Now imagine being the other side. Imagine having literally every guy throw themselves at you with every clever line they can think of. Sometimes it's a nice compliment, other times it's just mildly misogynistic. Most of the time they aren't going to be your type. You can't say yes to every guy. So 95% of the time you're turning them down. And unfortunately you don't know how that will turn out. Will they take it like a regular person? Blow up in anger?

When you begin to understand what kind of stuff women deal with on a constant basis, it helps you empathize their situation.

And for me, it made dating easier.

Olivia Wilde Homo · « **Reply #7673 on:** January 22, 2015, 11:05:06 PM »

Do you still have your Natalie Portman collection?

brawndolicious · « **Reply #7674 on:** January 23, 2015, 01:26:07 AM »

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on January 22, 2015, 08:19:33 PM

Well I'm trying to figure out what that entails.

I've only had limited (and unlucky) experience with asking girls out in real life but it's easier to deal with as long as you go in with the attitude of being happy that you're not worrying and being a pussy anymore about what somebody thinks of you. I think as fistful said, it gives them the impression that you're not going to be weird and too upset about it.

And yeah, there is a chance they'll say yes and a chance that they'll say no but probably a high chance that they already have a bf. I mean if you're like me, then if you get the answer you don't want you'll probably go home and get drunk and then later on hopefully you're happier than you were before asking since you've realized it was stupid to have whatever insecurities that made you hesitate. I'm still working on really getting to the last part but I think it's a matter of faith and I'm an infidel so I'm not too familiar.

Am_I_Anonymous · « **Reply #7675 on:** January 23, 2015, 08:52:22 AM »

Quote from: BrandNew on January 21, 2015, 08:04:25 PM

wtf is AiA even trying to prove here

I swear dude, you go into every single thread and try and "win" shit by saying "oh but have YOUUUUUU done X?" "Oh, but have you ever actually BEEN to X???"

It's an exhausting and worthless way to try and prove that you're smarter than everyone.

.

dkdk · « **Reply #7676 on:** January 25, 2015, 02:46:39 AM »

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on January 22, 2015, 09:12:04 PM

Think about how much effort you put into doing everything exactly right. What you say, what you do, what you wear, etc. All that to be the most perfect unique suitor.

Now imagine being the other side. Imagine having literally every guy throw themselves at you with every clever line they can think of. Sometimes it's a nice compliment, other times it's just mildly misogynistic. Most of the time they aren't going to be your type. You can't say yes to every guy. So 95% of the time you're turning them down. And unfortunately you don't know how that will turn out. Will they take it like a regular person? Blow up in anger?

When you begin to understand what kind of stuff women deal with on a constant basis, it helps you empathize their situation.

And for me, it made dating easier.

i guess looking at it like this would make it easier to not hate women. but i have been told that i lack empathy.

i dont see how thinking about it like that could make dating easier for yourself tho.

Rufus · « **Reply #7677 on:** January 25, 2015, 05:55:13 AM »

Quote from: dkdk on January 25, 2015, 02:46:39 AM

i dont see how thinking about it like that could make dating easier for yourself tho.

If anything, it will tamper your expectations.

fistfulofmetal · « **Reply #7678 on:** January 26, 2015, 02:54:34 AM »

I want to get her some kind of jewelry for v-day. but i know fuck-all about jewelry. anyone have a suggestion?

edit: keep in mind i already have another gift for her lined up that i think is *better* than just some jewelry but i think it would be a good thing to round it off with.

edit2: it's super annoying because one of her longest best friends got her a hobbit door locket necklace recently that I'm currently running into a lot in my search and would totally be something i'd get her so now I feel like I have to avoid something like that.

fistfulofmetal · « **Reply #7679 on:** January 26, 2015, 03:06:52 AM »

I think I may really like this:

https://www.etsy.com/listing/120618199/silver-love-note-and-blue-bird-necklace?ref=br_feed_6&br_feed_tlp=valentines-day

edit: Decided to go with this. It's simple, gets the point across. I think it's pretty good for the first v-day in an early relationship. Figured going with my gut was better than sitting around for days worrying.

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