I'm not sure I follow ? Did you ask her plainly if there was something there ? Maybe you should do that over a coffee out of the workplace ?
Without subscribing to the idea that any relationship at a job is an automatic curse, I'd say that if you don't feel like disambiguating the situation (for possible awkwardness or such in a professional setting), you should just look elsewhere and keep the flirt as is, a playful and nice game with someone you like to hang with.
I'm not surprised its hard to follow. We just had a night of weed and beer at my house, so I'm a little buzzed and I made a joke that may have offended her which led to some bro talk which brought me here to talk to my internet extended family!
What I did a few days ago was go out because guys I'm trying to put myself out there and have been going out more and more. The problem is my friend group is lame and is bad a planning. So I took one friend and just decided to go. I made a snapchat about it and this female friend decided to send one saying I suck because I didn't invite her. Well me being drunk I said plainly that I did'nt because I doubt she would want to hand with just me and she always needs an extra female friend. She said that was'nt excatly true, but whatever I went further in. I said her flirtyness annoyed and confused me, to which she just played dumb. I then said it was a bad look about hanging out with that other guy. She said we should just talk when I''m not drunk. We did'nt, she just asked if I was ok and I said sure. Sweept under the rug, because my friends and I were hanging out tonight. And again we sliighty flirted(a dude friend described the car ride interactions as a married couple) complete with some jokes about my drunk text. Anyway, whatever. People were high and joking, she made a joke about me using a viberator and I made a joke about how she did'nt need one because she had that other guy. I guess that offended her slightly, so she left. I get it jealously is'nt a a good look and while I doubt I'd be a clingy or controlleing person, I don't have much experience with this stuff and I don't know how to control these things. Besides, we were all joking and I just thought I was being joky too.
Dude I just don't get these things and I'm sure you all know that by my post history. I just don't get what women want, but I also think I'm part of the problem. I sell my self short far too much.
To answer your questions.
She actually doesn't work where I do anymore o thats not a big problem anymore. I don't feel like disambiguating the situation(which yeah this is the real problem) because I would'nt mind just keeping her as a friend and I doubt any of us are mature enough for it to be not awkward once someone puts it out there. So I feel once its out there I'd probably be unable to not be awkward about it if it did'nt go anywhere. I'm not like 100% into this girl. I simply think shes cool and attractive. I'd try it out, but you know I don't handle rejection well enough. Also she has a lot of baggage including a kid, but actually reading the thread recently made me think thats not a problem. The problem would really just be my general lack of maturity. It use to be that I think my mother wouldnt approve, but at this point she'd approve of me dating any girl lol.
