Pallando will return in "Never Say Never Again"

[Atramental]

Also, it's nice knowing that I am somewhat attractive to girls who I used to consider out of my league. 

[king of the internet]

Delete her contact information and just wait it out imo. 

[Atramental]

Delete her contact information and just wait it out imo. 

I admire your "dating nihilism" but I still care just a smidgen.

[Madrun Badrun]

I dunno. I guess there was too many long pauses and a few moments of awkwardness.

I mean, this was my first actual date tbh.

Also, I should I send her a text just saying "Thanks for hanging out. Have safe trip back." ?

edit: eh, sent her something along those lines. I wish her well in her future endeavours.

Since I started dating, I haven't really gotten over the sheer disappointment I feel after every single one of them.  It's always like 'I got excited over this?'

[Atramental]

And it's so fucking draining as well (for introverts like myself).

I felt like I needed a nap afterwards...

[Madrun Badrun]

Goddamn it they are lamps now!  Transformed into something that can bring light into this world

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So pretty

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[Phoenix Dark]

It took a lot of courage to click that spoiler. I'm shaking.

[king of the internet]

Delete her contact information and just wait it out imo. 

I admire your "dating nihilism" but I still care just a smidgen.

The idea is to avoid fixation on this one. No need to overthink your follow up. If she wants to, she'll reach out, if not fuck it. In the meantime focus on planting seeds (so to speak ) as far and wide as possible until you find one worthy of some initiative.

[Madrun Badrun]

Yes, spread your seed to the wind and let it land on women.  I suggest using a balcony. 

[king of the internet]

This is why you can get any hoes 

[toku]

And it's so fucking draining as well (for introverts like myself).

I felt like I needed a nap afterwards...

fake it until you make it

[Samson Manhug]

If she ever messages you again, hit her back with a “who’s this?” and it’s in the bag.

[Huff]

Just start going on dates to bars with chubby chicks. It will at least take care of your virginity in no time

I didn't even feel the normal shame waking up with one this morning

[Atramental]

@Dufus

"Are you sure you don't have autism?"

I wonder about this almost daily.

I even brought this up to a friend yesterday and he said if you're wondering about it you most likely aren't on the spectrum. I don't know if that's true or not, though. 

[Atramental]

ugh... keep on getting bots on tinder.

[Atramental]

On another note: I think I'll go ahead and refrain from texting her back today. She knows how to reach me.

I think she was expecting someone who had it "together" a bit more than I do currently and I didn't quite portray that as best as I could during the date.

[Atramental]

I mean, if you guys saw how everything played out you would have a better idea of why I'm kinda skittish to text her back.

And I forgot to mention that she left a bit abruptly without much of an explanation after we had talked for... I think it was an hour and a half.

Maybe she didn't realize how much time had passed and forgot she had other shit to do. Maybe I or someone right behind me was giving off weird vibes. Maybe she felt like she was going to throw up. Who can say?

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Yes. Yes. I'm overthinking. It's my default state.

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edit: and don't worry. I'll put this all to rest after today. I'm even annoying myself with this shit.

[Cerveza mas fina]

Thinking is an emotion, and emotions can be switched off

[Atramental]

Well, I got another cute girl (that isn't a bot) in the hopper so. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I feel the angst just leaving my body. Things are gonna be alright.

[Samson Manhug]

Thinking is an emotion, and emotions can be switched off

None of this is true

[Atramental]

It's not but sometimes stupid advice can be the best advice.

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that's not true either

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[I'm a Puppy!]

Telling an overthinker they're overthinking doesn't help. They already know.
My advice? Stop caring. Think of it like a bus. If you miss one there's just going to be another in a few minutes. Don't sweat it. If you stop caring, you wont overthink. No one that I've known has ever stopped overthinking when someone told them "You're overthinking"

[Phoenix Dark]

She stayed for an hour and a half? That seems good to me. If she had left after 30 minutes I'd agree it didn't go well, but nearly two hours seems like solid. Build on that.

[Atramental]

She stayed for an hour and a half? That seems good to me. If she had left after 30 minutes I'd agree it didn't go well, but nearly two hours seems like solid. Build on that.

I'll throw a line out later tonight.

Now that I have another fish- I mean girl on the line I don't feel so desperate.

edit: girl #2 even reached out to me first and called me handsome.

[I'm a Puppy!]

way to go tiger!
 

[toku]

I believe in you Pallando!

[Atramental]

I think I spooked #2 or she's busy.

God, it's like trying to herd cats outchea. 

Edit: Gonna keep the Tinder shit to myself until major developments take place. God, I'm so annoying.

Edit2: Got Girl #2's Number.

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All thanks to a Hannibal Buress gif from the Eric Andre Show. 

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[Atramental]

Should I even fux with girl #1 now? I don't even know, y'all.

#2 is 22 and seems to know what she wants. 

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

Don't put all your eggs in one basket.  Having multiple options is a good thing.

[Phoenix Dark]

Breh we keep saying: juggle as many as you can. #2 is the priority but keep talking to #1 and see what's up.

[Atramental]

Hmm. It's already 8 pm and I have to be in bed by 9 pm for tomorrow.

I guess another day of not texting #1 couldn't hurt, right?

[toku]

Don't even think about it if you already feel in your gut not to do it tonight then don't do it. That simple. Hit her up tomorrow.

[eleuin]

these girls got 10 dudes waiting with bated breath on their every response

don't be one of them

[Atramental]

Then I'll go with my gut and text #1 tomorrow.

I also told #2 to text me whenever this week. I don't think she has a job at the moment (she's going back to college to get a post grad degree pretty soon) so who knows when that will be.

[toku]

Then I'll go with my gut and text #1 tomorrow.

I also told #2 to text me whenever this week. I don't think she has a job at the moment (she's going back to college to get a post grad degree pretty soon) so who knows when that will be.

Good job, now put on your favorite japanese cartoon and get ready for bed 

[tiesto]

Don't put all your eggs in one basket.  Having multiple options is a good thing.

Yes, except don't be like me who at times would go out with 3-4 girls a week and then get confused as fuck between the 2 of them. Blew a date with a cute curvy blonde when I was like "your brother works for the county parks, right?" and it turned out that was another girl I went out with the previous week 

[Phoenix Dark]

Don't put all your eggs in one basket.  Having multiple options is a good thing.

Yes, except don't be like me who at times would go out with 3-4 girls a week and then get confused as fuck between the 2 of them. Blew a date with a cute curvy blonde when I was like "your brother works for the county parks, right?" and it turned out that was another girl I went out with the previous week 

What's my professional answer for everything: make a spreadsheet.

Excel

[Madrun Badrun]

Thinking is an emotion, and emotions can be switched off

None of this is true

He forgot to turn on his feelings before he posted. 

[Phoenix Dark]

http://www.thecoli.com/threads/tinder-hive-mind-a-coli-experiment-pictures-included.462893/
 

if all else fails

[I'm a Puppy!]

Don't put all your eggs in one basket.  Having multiple options is a good thing.

Yes, except don't be like me who at times would go out with 3-4 girls a week and then get confused as fuck between the 2 of them. Blew a date with a cute curvy blonde when I was like "your brother works for the county parks, right?" and it turned out that was another girl I went out with the previous week 

What's my professional answer for everything: make a spreadsheet.

Excel

As a professional I can verify this. Excel fixes everything.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Btw Pallando, when you finally do score. Right after you're done, roll off and make sure you say, "You have no idea how many people you just made happy."

[Madrun Badrun]

Then phone your mom

[Cerveza mas fina]

Thinking is an emotion, and emotions can be switched off

None of this is true

It's something a guy I used to know kept saying, obviously he unstable meathead thats been to Afghanistan. You know the type.

He was already like this before his tour though.

[seagrams hotsauce]

Pallando, a few points of consideration

1. You're right at the finish line, but a bunch of your recent posts make me feel like you're almost psyching yourself out. Chill breh, you're doing fine, no need to constantly second guess yourself.

2. Even if chick 1 decides she wasn't interested after the first date, it's a success. You got yourself out there. People decide they're not compatible with each other for a wide number of both completely valid and completely random personal reasons. Getting rejected sucks, but the more it happens, the less you give a fuck, and sooner than later you will be the one handing out arbitrary curves

[Atramental]

Going to text #1 around the time I leave the office.

I was thinking about tacking on "Also, just want to check if everything is okay?" to my original message but... That already sours things by implying that something is terribly wrong.

Gotta keep my shit upbeat & positive.

[Cerveza mas fina]

Sounds more like he is doing his best Dufus, stfu Dufus

[Atramental]

Nah, bruh. I'm just writing my thoughts down and trying to get input. That's all. 

Also, I'm a highly neurotic INTP according to my Myers-Briggs results. So this is just how I roll.

edit: I mean, this is part of the reason why I drink because my brain is a constantly spinning hamster wheel that's always spitting out thoughts, ideas, potential outcomes, etc. It's rather annoying.

[Mupepe]

Avoid asking the question "Are you mad?" or "Are you ok?" to a woman - or any similar type question.  It's weird and if they are mad or not ok, they won't tell you anyways because that's how chicks operate.

[Atramental]

See. That's what I need.

Thanks, Mups. 

[Cerveza mas fina]

Always ask my wife is she is mad, drives her crazy 

[Phoenix Dark]

Never ask a girl that on these sites. Frankly you shouldn't even care. If she doesn't want to see you she'll make it clear - either by ignoring you or telling you. Until then just operate as if things are normal. You're putting yourself out there, getting experience, etc. Also apply lessons learned. Maybe something you said didn't work with girl 1, so avoid it with girl 2.

[I'm a Puppy!]

yeah definitely ditch the "is everything ok?" bit. Nothing good has ever come from that.

[Atramental]

So... just for future reference:

Say I am in a relationship and my SO is in an obviously negative mood. What... What the hell do you do? Give her space until she wants something from you?

[I'm a Puppy!]

No one knows.

[Mupepe]

If she's acting like she's mad, she's mad.  So don't ask her that crap.  The rest depends on your SO.  Everyone is different, obviously.  Some people need cooling off time and others want to talk/yell about it.  At a certain point you'll learn how to react to their moods... maybe.  Probably not.  You'll try.  Do your best, bro.

[Phoenix Dark]

Buy her a Chanel bag and eat her out.

[Mupepe]

Buy her a Chanel bag and eat her out.

But(t) which hole?

[Atramental]

 

[Madrun Badrun]

Going to text #1 around the time I leave the office.

I was thinking about tacking on "Also, just want to check if everything is okay?" to my original message but... That already sours things by implying that something is terribly wrong.

Gotta keep my shit upbeat & positive.

don't write that. 

[Phoenix Dark]

Buy her a Chanel bag and eat her out.

But(t) which hole?

all of the above