You guys are really wasting your time here. There isn't anything said on the last few posts that wasn't hashed over a dozen+ times earlier in this thread. Rahxephon clearly and obviously wants to wallow in self pity while simultaneously holding astronomical standards due to watching porn constantly. He doesn't want to be helped and it's kind of boring to keep trying to help him.
I'm responding to the bore's advice which has always been faulty and counter productive.
Just get an escort. How is getting an escort confidence building, when if you ask any normal person they'll say paying for sex is pathetic?
Find and have sex with fat chicks. How is this confidence boosting when you are forced to settle for something you don't want and your peers will make fun on you? Did any of you do this?
Don't be yourself. You as a person suck so change it. Yeah that makes a person feel better.
Try online dating. Which I did and the results only confirmed my "pity party". So I deleted it and thats bad?
Do any of you people even follow you're own advice? I doubt it.
I don't know how to be helped, because every thing reaffirms my negative opinion. Even if you compare it to Atra, he at least got attractive women on Tinder to match with him and even if they ghosted him thats better than none.
And stop saying I have astronomical standards. I do not. I like short and slightly thick girls.I do not expect to be able to get a rather attractive in shape blonde girl or Asian girl or a girl who can date a typical good looking white broish dude. If you want me to send you pictures of the kind of girls I've interacted with and like I will. Hell, I give you my tinder to see what I'm talking about.
Did you read any of the advice I gave you? I didn't say any of that. And yes, I do follow my advice too, though admittedly, I sometimes lapse into self-pity instead of keeping my head up 100% of the time.
I was typing that up and posted it before I read your post, but yes I did.
I know what my problems are.
I have a strange level self esteem. It's not that I have low confidence in everything. I feel assured of myself, my identity, my intelligence, and my abilities. When it comes to social stuff I feel a bit more confident, but it's always in flux. Maybe I'm on the spectrum? But I doubt it, it's just I have a hard time really understanding people. People's ques I don't pick up on and if I'm not comfortable with someone then I can't be my usual self. Yet, it takes a while for me to be comfortable with someone. While no one here will believe me, I have friends and people do like me because of my humor. You won't believe me but I do come on here to complain and be vile because you can't do this in real life. No one wants to hear someone whine about women like I do here in real life. Hell, this is'nt my persona in real life. I wouldn't want to complain like this to anyone I personally know. Either way I have a hard time feigning interests in people.
My problem is that I do not try with women, but I also don't know how to. I don't know how to talk too or read women and because of my previous failures(which failed in part because of my over anylzation and I guess expectations) I don't want to try. Maybe I'm delusional, but I I feel like I missed something. Where did any of you find confidence? I'm sure some just decided to have it. Faked it until it happen, but as someone looking in from the outside that doesn't seem to be 100% of what happens to people. A lot of people seem to have a reason to have confidence. I look at my peers and none of them had to do what most of you say. They just happen to find girls that for whatever reason were interested in them. My best friend is like me. Same hobbies, similar humor, actually a bit more of an idiot when it comes to social issues. He did'nt need t find new hobbies to be an intersting person, and he's had several girlfriends. Same with a few other friends. They just simply were there. I don't quite understand what I have to do, well thats not true. In most cases I guess they put themselves out there and I don't do that. I don't know how you do that.
I don't know, how am I to find confidence with women? Like I missed the stereotypical development of high school and I feel like I've missed my prime. Most of my attempts which seemed positive from the get go, ended in failure.
I don't know if I'm a boring person. I don't think I am, nor do my peers seem to think so. I would say for most of them I'm not thier #1 person. I don't define my self through games or anime or whatever seems to be the implication. I don't even like to talk about those things in real life unless someone else brings them up. I mean thats why I am on fourms. To counter you're one thing Atra, I am into fiction writing and I could share some of my comic scripts with you. I mean I guess I could and should have more going on, I guess I feel thats one of my problems.
