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[Atramental]

I didn't even read your latest post.

I'm just talking in general.

[MMaRsu]

I didn't even read your latest post.

I'm just talking in general.

Hmm ok well in general you don't even know who I am so I would think it's easy to make assumptions but hard to be correct .

I do have a habit of messing around with girls who have some fucking problems in their life. A LOT of times.

[Atramental]

I didn't even read your latest post.

I'm just talking in general.

Hmm ok well in general you don't even know who I am so I would think it's easy to make assumptions but hard to be correct .

I do have a habit of messing around with girls who have some fucking problems in their life. A LOT of times.

Why tho? 

Maybe it's just my introversion talking but that seems like a gigantic waste of time & energy.

[MMaRsu]

I didn't even read your latest post.

I'm just talking in general.

Hmm ok well in general you don't even know who I am so I would think it's easy to make assumptions but hard to be correct .

I do have a habit of messing around with girls who have some fucking problems in their life. A LOT of times.

Why tho? 

Maybe it's just my introversion talking but that seems like a gigantic waste of time & energy.

It's really not like I'm looking for it. But I can admit that a lot of girls I've hooked up with, dated with or had relationship with, turned out to have some serious personality issues or just in general are fucked up in their life. Now I'm not saying I'm perfect because noone is and I know I have my own flaws. But sadly I just can't seem to just find someone who has their heart in the right place, is not boring as fuck, and doesn't have a boyfriend.

But I also must admit that the past two/three years I havent been putting in any energy in meeting women at all. So hell yeah I've been out of the game and must get myself back into the finer subtleties of dating.

After listening to Patrice lately, I understand that my happiness comes first. My happiness is paramount. So I should also stop putting women on a pedestal which I have been doing for a long time now. I should put myself up on that pedestal instead.

[Atramental]

I'm all for not being a door mat but you can't be a steam roller either. There's a subtle balance that needs to be struck. And if you put yourself on a pedestal you're just going to fall off and hurt yourself when things don't go your way.

Put yourself on ~slightly~ even ground (have yourself be an "inch" higher than them at most) with the women you want to attract. You'll get much better results that way.

edit: Also, Patrice can/could back up his gigantic ego because he was a talented and successful comedian.

If you're not as successful in your life as Patrice was then you should dial back the ego stroking by half if not more.

[MMaRsu]

I'm all for not being a door mat but you can't be a steam roller either. There's a subtle balance that needs to be struck. And if you put yourself on a pedestal you're just going to fall off and hurt yourself when things don't go your way.

Put yourself on ~slightly~ even ground (have yourself be an "inch" higher than them at most) with the women you want to attract. You'll get much better results that way.

edit: Also, Patrice can/could back up his gigantic ego because he was a talented and successful comedian.

If you're not as successful in your life as Patrice was then you should dial back the ego stroking by half if not more.

You are right on the money. But I have been a doormat in the past and would do anything for a girl if I'm with her. I was the nice guy in the relationship 100% of the time. My ego wasn't always as high as it is right now, but these past few months have really done wonders for me. I get a lot of looks from girls these days and just feel a lot better.

Ofcourse Patrice got his confidence from his succes as a comedian, but the logic behind is stories makes too much sense to ignore. I'm not saying I'm taking all his advice at face value, but he has some great points on how to get out of the friendzone etc all that shit. How women test your manhood *unconsciously*.

For me personally I am at a succesfull level right now because I recently got a degree to work in finance/banks and got a new job at a bank which I'm really enjoying so at the moment I'm doing pretty well. Just need to get a bigger crib now, because this one bedroom appartment fucking sucks ass.

[CatsCatsCats]

Mutual super liked with a major cutie — and then she went back home across the country

[Mupepe]

Mutual super liked with a major cutie — and then she went back home across the country

Send her dick pics.  From what I understand chicks love that shit.

[Phoenix Dark]

Women been off dick pick for over a year. We sending vids of us jerking off/busting nuts now. Bless up.

[Joe Molotov]

Mutual super liked with a major cutie — and then she went back home across the country

Send her dick pics.  From what I understand chicks love that shit.

My dick is so big, the girl sent it in to the local news.

[Valkyrie]

Send girls good memes and cute cat pics

[MMaRsu]

Ok fuck I really could use your guys help here

Today we had a 'party and dinner' at work, and this girl who I had been talking about was asking for my attention constantly. She sat next to me during dinner, and before the party texted me if I wanted a ride with her, I didnt respond till I was already there so I could say no need. Then I told her she could bring me home lol, she said ok no probs.

So I talked with her in the car she told me this other guy basically broke up with her lol. So now I guess she's into me again or what the fuck man.

This is some manipulative bullshit.

[toku]

you're acting like such a little bitch and you haven't even hooked up with her yet 

[desert punk]

Ok this girl with a daughter I was messing with is a total fucking mess lol. I'm outta there, told her the truth and got the fuck out.

Stayed a gentleman but gave her the raw medicine she was asking for.

So much for that

[MMaRsu]

you're acting like such a littlebitch and you haven't even hooked up with her yet 

Yes I am a little bitch and I fucking know it. HOW DO I FIX THIS SHIT TOKU HEAL MY DUMB ASS WITH YOUR WISDOM

[CatsCatsCats]

Have you tried not being a little bitch? Nothing about what she did is manipulative, btw. You just need to learn how to Communicate

[MMaRsu]

Have you tried not being a little bitch?

How dude

Give me some fucking advice  :'( I aint hard like Patrice :/

Should I have just tried to kiss her again?

She's picking me up tomorrow morning..so second chance?

HALP HOW DO I MAKE GOOD TIME HAPPEN I AM NOT GOOD WITH WOMAN

[CatsCatsCats]

Step one: delete all that Patrice shit from your memory banks

Step two: chill and get used to the idea that things won’t go as planned 90% of the time

Step three: Communicate 

[CatsCatsCats]

Also, get some advice from I’m a Puppy, that dude knows how to people

[MMaRsu]

Have you tried not being a little bitch? Nothing about what she did is manipulative, btw. You just need to learn how to Communicate

Why not? I've already asked her plenty of times is that if she wants to just be friends just come out and say it

I told her I'm digging you and I want you, you already know that shit but if you're not down for that then that's cool

What else do I need to ask/tell her?

[CatsCatsCats]

Well what did she say to that

[MMaRsu]

Step one: delete all that Patrice shit from your memory banks

Step two: chill and get used to the idea that things won’t go as planned 90% of the time

Step three: Communicate

Sure, but I think my problem is more that I don't remember Patrice his fucking style when I'm with her one on one.

I feel like I'm bitching out here.

Well what did she say to that

She ignored it completely. She doesn't admit to just wanting to be friends but she keeps asking for my fucking attention.

[CatsCatsCats]

She ignored it completely in person?

[MMaRsu]

She ignored it completely in person?

Nope through text. I havent actually said that shit in person. That's why I feel like Im bitching out.

It certainly could be that she just wants me to say that shit to her face and conquer her ass.

[CatsCatsCats]

Oh. Yeah, it’s cuz you are. Talk to her in the car. Ask her on a date or something don’t do some weird grand standing take it or leave it shit

[MMaRsu]

Oh. Yeah, it’s cuz you are. Talk to her in the car. Ask her on a date or something don’t do some weird grand standing take it or leave it shit

Allright I'll just ask her tomorrow in the car in the morning. I gotta man the fuck up man.

[MMaRsu]

I mean listen to this phone call from Randy & Phil here



I need to do that shit imo. This girl wants me to be straight with her and she has already said a bunch of times she has a dirty mind.

[Phoenix Dark]

why post Patrice videos if it's not the GOAT video

[shosta]

MMaRsu, you're being a little fuck boy. Just chill the fuck out and stop taking it so seriously. Obsessing over it probably isn't your only problem but it's clearly a huge one. Cats is right, offering someone an ultimatum is the weakest shit. You're not a doormat for going on a fucking date you trash monster. She's just warming up to you, probably will take some time, be cool and attractive and you'll get there in the end. If you think she's taking her sweet time, why don't you have a kid with someone and then go through a nasty divorce or something and see how long it takes you to open up romantically.

[hungrynoob]

She ignored it completely. She doesn't admit to just wanting to be friends but she keeps asking for my fucking attention.

Then have some self-respect and forget her. Flip flops are for the beach.

[BlueTsunami]

I will say one thing, as I get older I am able to relate more and more with Patrices opinions about hookups. They're only good for the jerk off session you'll use the memory from, in fucking peace

On another note, fear of the friend zone. Fear nothing, for fear is the mind killer

*upswelling of Lynchs Dune OST*

[bluemax]

Send girls good memes and cute cat pics

I've certainly seen more profiles saying they're into memes or .gifs than dick pics.

[MMaRsu]

MMaRsu, you're being a little fuck boy. Just chill the fuck out and stop taking it so seriously. Obsessing over it probably isn't your only problem but it's clearly a huge one. Cats is right, offering someone an ultimatum is the weakest shit. You're not a doormat for going on a fucking date you trash monster. She's just warming up to you, probably will take some time, be cool and attractive and you'll get there in the end. If you think she's taking her sweet time, why don't you have a kid with someone and then go through a nasty divorce or something and see how long it takes you to open up romantically.

Hey now I'm not saying relationship or nothing at all. But at least be up front if you feelin me the same way im feeling you

[MMaRsu]

So basically I just said what I posted above here, she said its not mutual

pretty happy bout this lol

at least i got some fucking clearity.

[hungrynoob]

Now how about next time you chill a bit and try not put too much pressure on the poor lass?There was a chance she was probably interested until you required confirmation.

[MMaRsu]

Now how about next time you chill a bit and try not put too much pressure on the poor lass?There was a chance she was probably interested until you required confirmation.

I doubt it dude. She's emotionally invested in this other guy who broke up with her.

Thats cool with me, just come out and say it lol.

[shosta]

I feel like my sperm count lowered just reading the last page of this thread

[Reb]

I want everybody to note that I've been lobbying to ban mmarsu for years now.
I'm a visionary.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Now how about next time you chill a bit and try not put too much pressure on the poor lass?There was a chance she was probably interested until you required confirmation.

I doubt it dude. She's emotionally invested in this other guy who broke up with her.

Thats cool with me, just come out and say it lol.

LOL. Dude, You gave her zero reason to like you and then gave her an ultimatum. The outcome is utterly unsurprising.

[MMaRsu]

Now how about next time you chill a bit and try not put too much pressure on the poor lass?There was a chance she was probably interested until you required confirmation.

I doubt it dude. She's emotionally invested in this other guy who broke up with her.

Thats cool with me, just come out and say it lol.

LOL. Dude, You gave her zero reason to like you and then gave her an ultimatum. The outcome is utterly unsurprising.

Breh, you dont know jack shit. If I gave her zero reason to like me, why has she been asking for my attention for 2 months now.

[Huff]

I will say one thing, as I get older I am able to relate more and more with Patrices opinions about hookups. They're only good for the jerk off session you'll use the memory from, in fucking peace

On another note, fear of the friend zone. Fear nothing, for fear is the mind killer

*upswelling of Lynchs Dune OST*

why would someone jerk it to the memory of a hook-up when porn exists?

[Rufus]

memories > porn
sometimes: imagination > porn (early mornings, for me)

[I'm a Puppy!]

Now how about next time you chill a bit and try not put too much pressure on the poor lass?There was a chance she was probably interested until you required confirmation.

I doubt it dude. She's emotionally invested in this other guy who broke up with her.

Thats cool with me, just come out and say it lol.

LOL. Dude, You gave her zero reason to like you and then gave her an ultimatum. The outcome is utterly unsurprising.

Breh, you dont know jack shit. If I gave her zero reason to like me, why has she been asking for my attention for 2 months now.

Oh my sweet summer child. Asking for attention != giving someone a reason to like you.
It's like you get someone into a restaurant and all you serve are mayonaisse sandwiches.

[CatsCatsCats]

Also, get some advice from I’m a Puppy, that dude knows how to people

[kingv]

Women been off dick pick for over a year. We sending vids of us jerking off/busting nuts now. Bless up.

Fuck, now I gotta save up a load just to sexually harass these hoes? Lame af.

As a side note, the other reason not to to tinder or bumbl is quality. Unless you are an Adonis, tinder tends to exaggerate your flaws and IMO you will end up with matches that are much lower quality than in person. Having the balls to walk up to a chick and introduce yourself/make a fool of yourself still counts for something even in today’s world.

[CatsCatsCats]

But the quantity

[BlueTsunami]

Women been off dick pick for over a year. We sending vids of us jerking off/busting nuts now. Bless up.

No lie, did this for a former work hookup on snap and she busted. I fear for the next generation though. Gonna be butthole related stuff dudes will need to send. Aside from the shame, the logistics of getting a well composed butthole shot seems particularly daunting. I feel for them.

[shosta]

How are you not already sending butthole stuff to chicks it's the year two thousand and seventeen

[BlueTsunami]

That'll be my old man yelling at cloud moment. If I ever have a son ill have to sit him down and tell him he shouldn't feel pressured into showing his butthole just because Conner was so willing to show Jassenia what that booty do. Conner a hoe.

[kingv]

How are you not already sending butthole stuff to chicks it's the year two thousand and seventeen

My girl says only snap me goatse tributes or keep it in your pants.

[I'm a Puppy!]

You want to see a butthole? I can get you a pick of a butthole by 3 o'clock.

[shosta]

I *hate* 3 o clock shadows on buttholes.

[shosta]

From 2 years ago:

-fears of commitment persist, and I worry I might do something stupid if I don't grow some balls and be happy for once

[toku]

nothing before its time

[hungrynoob]

Hit me with the 'one that got away' stories.

[shosta]

Hit me with the 'one that got away' stories.

girl told me straight up what was wrong in our relationship and what I had to do to fix it but I wasn't hearing any of it so I told her to fuck off and she fucked my friend. Two year relationship with a great girl down the drain.

[Trurl]

I'm bi, in a long term relationship with a woman and kind of bummed that I've never sucked a dick.  Sucking a dick is the one that got away

[Rahxephon91]

Hello again. I'm going to post again, because in the end I probably won't ever stop.

Is it worth talking to a girl after she basicly said no? Is it ok to just drop them? I have a current situation that I don't see the point of continuing.

A girl who I use to have a crush on from my job, but since left actually came back into my life. She was at a friends party and I guess I got drunk and talked to her. Nothing special or anything, but I guess I asked if she still had a boyfriend which she did back then.

Anyway, later on my friend was talking to her and I guess he decided to ask her on my behalf. She said she didn't and assumed I was the one who wanted to know. So he gave her my Snapchat and she decided to add me.

Which to me was a positive.

Anyway for the next two weeks we talked back and forth everyday. Nothing special. Just talking about each other I guess. She's very nice and very down to earth. The last girl I talked to was very erratic and would post memes and just other stuff. This girl seems very chill, somewhat nerdy, and quaint.

But I mean I workshop everything with my friends and elders and they said everything sounded positive and just keep talking and be light and casual. Except some of the older guys said you know you have to make a move and make your intentions clear. Which I mean I already thought they would be after how this came about.

So I don't know how Justice League come up but she said she wanted to see it and while no I don't want to see that movie again I asked her if she wanted to see it.

She said

"Yeah sure, whenever I got a chance. I work a lot"

Which at first seemed to be good, but then I overthought it and said oh that was really a send off. Espically since she didn't bring it up. Other people said it was nothing so complicated and I decided to keep going with it.

Eventually I just told her I was intersted to which I got a polite no basicly. She never specifically said she wasn't intersted. But what she said is that she likes talking to me but right now she just got of a serious relationship and wants to focus on herself. Which I mean I belive her. I mean I know she did and it was at least a 3 year one.

Anyway after that it kind of jus resumed normally. We haven't stoped talking. She responds to my messages and it's not like they a one word simple replies either, but I wouldn't say she's flirting.

But I mean to be honest I wasn't trying to be her friend either. I mean she's cool and I guess that would be fine, but that wasn't my intention clear. I mean I wasn't looking to deep dive into a relationship either. I really just want a casual female to hang out with possibilities later.

[shosta]

If you're not interested in being friends with someone then don't be friends with them.

Also, I don't get this whole "asking if someone is interested" thing. I have never done this in my whole life. Let things evolve organically while, yes, always conscientiously sending signals or escalating. Do date-y stuff, be flirty, and eventually you'll find some time to kiss them and that's your answer. Asking if someone is interested in you romantically is the most bitch move.

[chronovore]

Yes, 100% spot-on.

It's natural to feel an attraction to someone else, but unnatural to expect that confronting them with that attraction will have a positive result. Slightly less likely to work is just having a third-party ask on one's behalf.

Other than the uncommon chance of a mutual, chemical attraction, relationships are built by spending time with each other and then seeing how much you share in common. Ideally, that's not music, authors, or favorite movies, but rather shared core values.