I think he is taking offense to the fact that we suggest he makes changes, or in his words "change myself completely". We all have to change ourselves, Rahx. The key to success is self awareness. As human beings we can observe our deficiencies, adjust fire, and see if outcomes change. If not, try again until it does. I'm not the same person I was when I was in my early 20s and thank Allah for that.
To be honest, I had little success with women and hated them and myself too. Now everywhere I go I hear the muted symphony of panties dropping. You can do it too, but only if you want to.