Am I the only one who is getting more and more pissed at the shit Rahx says? Am I supposed to just sit here and accept all the bs he blames women for, and how horrible we are for not wanting to date assholes?
I've just read through his posts on this page and I will say this. There is a bit of a disconnect here, on the surface it looks like he is blaming women because he hates them, due to consistent bad experiences. I can understand why that would upset you, and whether he realises it or not, hes really blaming himself.
"How can i compete..." "how can i meet if i dont meet", "I'm desperate" "How as a dude am I ever supposed to know what to say" "I'm not even sure what I'm supposed to learn other than I guess I'm not good at this stuff." " I don't care about being laid, because it would probably be bad on my part anyway" "I thought online would be easier because my problem wasn't that I wasn't willing but knowing who and when to talk to." "There's really no way someone like me who can compete." (x2) " I'm not a very open person and I have to be comfortable with people and well I've gone what almost a decade not meeting anyone? " " In my case I'll probably scare women off with my inexperience." "If anything I just suffer from extreme low self esteem and I a strange need to be miserable/see everything negative and really only in relation to me. "
It's easy to be upset at something someone says, its harder to take a step back and understand their position whilst still disagreeing with them.
Rahp I will say this.
When i was 17 I had a gf for a short time with someone much older than me, and one thing that really stuck with me was one day she asked me "how can you love someone, if you cant love yourself?" I never really understood it until much more recently, and after many failed relationships, and frustration, and low confidence. I learned that, because I felt that way, the first time a woman would pay me attention I would force the reliability of my happiness on the relationship, which then put that poor woman under a lot of pressure. I was always doomed from the start because I had such high hopes with any interaction i found remotely attractive. Thats bullshit, and will never lead to happiness.
When I took the time to focus on myself, to sit down and think about what I really want in future.I decided to make sure everything in my life and within myself was sorted first. Life can get in the way so it takes time, and i still have my own journey to finish, but when you start treating yourself as #1 you perspective will change, but you need to make those steps. Whatever your routine is, until you get out of that comfort zone, you will be doomed to rot and die in your bubble.
