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Everyone in my life most probably have no idea what asexuality is. And I'm not comfortable in discussing it with anyone, out of fear.
After all, only 1% of the world is asexual according to statistics (though people guess the number might be higher).
Funnily enough my initial thread title was going to be Asexuality and Discrimination in a Sex-Obsessed Society but I felt that might bring other weird discussion to the topic.
Holidays are always fun when your relatives are like "SO WHERE IS YOUR GIRLFRIEND?" and it's like the same every year. Don't have one. Don't want one."OH YOU HAVENT FOUND THE RIGHT PERSON YET"Naw, I'm good. Getting a kitten though!
https://www.resetera.com/threads/pete-buttigieg-says-being-gay-helps-him-relate-to-the-struggles-that-black-people-face-in-america-statement-has-angered-some-black-people.155751/Once again resetera bears up on the mentally disabled op. Bans incoming.
It seems moronic to me to care about discrimination when you're both asexual and aromantic (note: I feel like aromantic just means unsociable asshole) because it's not like being a gay man in the 80s or a trans woman today or some shit where you have to love in secret or get beat to death on the way home from a night club- you can just live your life without getting involved with anyone and no one will ever know or pressure you into anything apart from like your mum and grandma nagging you for grandchildren. (note: non breeder straights have to deal with this shit too! and even if you're seeing someone they'll still nag you to get married)It feels like really desperately wanting to be included in being oppressed when you're really not. Sorry bout it.
Quote from: remy on November 27, 2019, 10:41:34 PMIt seems moronic to me to care about discrimination when you're both asexual and aromantic (note: I feel like aromantic just means unsociable asshole) because it's not like being a gay man in the 80s or a trans woman today or some shit where you have to love in secret or get beat to death on the way home from a night club- you can just live your life without getting involved with anyone and no one will ever know or pressure you into anything apart from like your mum and grandma nagging you for grandchildren. (note: non breeder straights have to deal with this shit too! and even if you're seeing someone they'll still nag you to get married)It feels like really desperately wanting to be included in being oppressed when you're really not. Sorry bout it. FAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRKKKKKK OOOOOOOOOOFFFFFFFFFF!!!!!!How can you not recognise that people asking them the same question that normal unattached people get asked is not oppression?
Do you have kids? Usually that's the bar to the adult table.
i just wait until someone finishes eating to eat.
Being a kindergarten teacher: parents love to ditch that responsibility.I often got seated extra, once because im vegetarian and kids food often is vegetarian (fries, pizza, ...) and of course because they have someone to watch out for their kids. Parents can get drunk and the teacher will educate/work.
I prefer the kids table. The adults are usually boring or shit people at worst.
I'd rather eat at the kiddie table, because at least the chances of having to listen to some MAGA asshole are reduced drastically.
Yes, and it is fine. I don't want to sit with those racist assholes anyways. 35 myself
sometimes i go to the kids table on purpose so i dont have to hear my fascist family talk about politics
I wouldn’t mind sitting at the kids table. I could hear about all the cool Switch games. And I could tell them a tale of the 16-bit golden age of videogames.
You must not have a wife and kids?
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QuoteEveryone in my life most probably have no idea what asexuality is. And I'm not comfortable in discussing it with anyone, out of fear.
Holidays are always fun when your relatives are like "SO WHERE IS YOUR GIRLFRIEND?" and it's like the same every year. Don't have one. Don't want one."OH YOU HAVENT FOUND THE RIGHT PERSON YET"
https://www.resetera.com/threads/nba-regular-season-2019-2020-ot-there%E2%80%99s-a-new-king-in-town-now-100-gluten-free-see-staff-post.148227/post-26822248QuoteWe understand that some posters might not feel the OT title was racial in nature. However, given what we have heard from many Asian posters, it is indeed just that.
We understand that some posters might not feel the OT title was racial in nature. However, given what we have heard from many Asian posters, it is indeed just that.
What is racist about that? Can it be explained?
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Jason Schreier is a pedophile, prove me wrong
Quote from: Momo on November 28, 2019, 05:38:56 AMJason Schreier is a pedophile, prove me wrongI know just the man for the job
Quote from: Lonewulfeus on November 28, 2019, 05:45:22 AMQuote from: Momo on November 28, 2019, 05:38:56 AMJason Schreier is a pedophile, prove me wrongI know just the man for the jobYou son of a bitch, I'm in.
https://www.resetera.com/threads/annual-reminder-salvation-army-is-out-and-about-with-their-red-kettles-they-are-anti-lgbtq.155786/
Make of it what you will, but I never give donations to charity. I never get the sense that the money is actually going to the cause itself. It either ends up in the wallet of management or is used for marketing budget.Also, fuck these guys.
Quote from: HaughtyFrank on November 28, 2019, 05:35:50 AMhttps://www.resetera.com/threads/annual-reminder-salvation-army-is-out-and-about-with-their-red-kettles-they-are-anti-lgbtq.155786/QuoteMake of it what you will, but I never give donations to charity. I never get the sense that the money is actually going to the cause itself. It either ends up in the wallet of management or is used for marketing budget.Also, fuck these guys.
Joe Rogan - Likes talking to people from a vast amount backgrounds and beliefs Resetera: We don't give Joe Rogan a platform hereKanye West - Slavery was a choice. MAGA Booooiiiiii!!!Resetera: We forgive you King!Sweely reminder when?
I only play games with character creation. I've made exceptions for like the Metal Gears and Horizon Zero Dawn. And the older Pokemon games.
Another annual reminderhttps://www.resetera.com/threads/annual-reminder-salvation-army-is-out-and-about-with-their-red-kettles-they-are-anti-lgbtq.155786/Sweeley should do one for every day of the year
Ridiculous that ResetBanBot was banned. The worst thing about this thread is the sudden bouts of woke elitism. Keep using his site to reference bans btw. You’re all dorks.
I'll be upfront with you Era, I'm quite proficient with the English language
I will actually use a word as complicated as "inebriated"
First they came for banbot, and I did not speak out— Because I was not an edgelord.
https://www.resetera.com/threads/whys-everybody-white.155806/QuoteI only play games with character creation. I've made exceptions for like the Metal Gears and Horizon Zero Dawn. And the older Pokemon games.
Quote from: Transhuman on November 28, 2019, 11:07:39 AMFirst they came for banbot, and I did not speak out— Because I was not an edgelord.You're in trouble when they come for the dorklords though
https://www.resetera.com/threads/is-it-weird-to-speak-too-formally.155777/QuoteI'll be upfront with you Era, I'm quite proficient with the English languageQuoteI will actually use a word as complicated as "inebriated"
How dare you praise the customer service of this company.
https://www.resetera.com/threads/why-is-chick-fil-a-popular.155785/post-26893607Quote How dare you praise the customer service of this company.BAN CHICK-FIL-A DO IT YOU COWARDS
So fucking happy you enjoyed the experience.
I hate these kinds of threads because they always invite people to dog whistle with no repercussions.Anyone gushing about this fast food place? Message heard, loud and clear.
The praise for Chick Fil A in this thread is disgusting. Get a hold of yourselves.
"The KKK did a great job cleaning our highways. They should be commended for their community service. We're just talking about that, why are people bringing up their racism?"
I really didn't like calling myself demisexual, when I would explain it to (mostly) women with typical libido and sex drive for their age. Explaining to me very typical behaviour for those socialized female, and how they experience sexual attraction.So like, I would explain that I don't feel sexual attraction. Unless there's a connection. Because for some reason demi is about connection, not like a direct meaning like I'd prefer like pseudosexual/semisexual that convey the same thing demi *should* be conveying, but allosexuals latch onto that 'connection.' Bit and basically tell me, "OH I must be demi too, I have to get to know a guy first too lololol." And it's insulting, but I also have to accept there's a fundamental disconnect between those who experience and those who don't and those who sometimes-- explaining the nuance is usually an exercise in futility because most people will dig deep to try to find something to relate with, when they are like the opposite of me. Allosexuals trying to appropriate demisexual erases the nuanced asexual spectrum experience.Most of my support network is on facebook, and I joined a bunch of those leftbook groups. And like there's this huge debate over exclusion or inclusion. They say that asexuals aren't queer. They tell us we don't experience oppression, marginalization, stigmatization, or discrimination all the while functionally engaging in perpetuating all that stuff they don't believe we experience! Like bottom line full stop: Heterosexual/aromantic and Heteroromantic/asexual. I'm sorry they appear to be straight to you, and you feel like their existence invalidates your struggle. But they are still asexual. The straight privilege you claim they have doesn't exist because they are still ace. I wish there was more written material about how Queer Platonic Partnerships work because hetaces would still face tons of discrimination and difficulty trying to date other allosexuals considering there are inherent needs generally that would not be met thru being ace.That and when allosexuals don't like that label. I mean, it's the same bullshit with cis and trans. We have words. To communicate one or the other. I'm not sure how the autistic community feels about the asexual community stealing allo as a prefix in relation to autism/allism. In some european communities they call them Zedsexual. Cause like A to Z?I've spent the last three years helping aces find support and validation. I've cried at their stories about their abusive families and how they treat these minors for being asexual. I've talked to aces of all kinds, and like...when an asexual conversation pops up: "Oh they just don't have sex haha, that's cool, i don't get how anyone could hate that." That stems from a toxic, almost abusive line of thought and it's harmful. We don't feel sexual attraction, it doesn't mean we can't have sex, be into kink, make dirty jokes, fap, watch adult videos, etc etc etc. I'm tired of being treated like it's as simple as not having sex.We have terms like cupio, aego, lith, fray, demi, quoi, gray, etc to define some of the gray areas between the stereotype of the cold rigid, no sex, no nothing ever stuff and the gray area. But when we go public with them, get told that they are 'made up.'Honestly, I do not enjoy being ace. I feel other kinds of attraction. I have certain needs. But I don't feel sexual attraction, so it makes trying to get any of my needs met difficult because I'm too indifferent to attempt to become close to someone. Rather, I've accepted that I'm asexual. I spent most of my life performing allosexual cisgender, so maybe have some trauma to work though. At present, it is more difficult for me to be ace than just lie and then create asexual-inspired boundaries once we get intimate. But I can't lie about who I am. I would really like for the conversation about asexuality to pay attention to the fact it's on a spectrum, and it's not as simple as you like to think it is so you can process it.I want to get to a point where I can just say I'm ace, or asexual and people realize that asexuality is not a monolith. and that it's on a spectrum. Being pre-judged as harmless is insulting, honestly. And it's harmful. So uh yeah, there- I talked about some discrimination. Huzzah
Quote from: https://www.resetera.com/threads/asexuality-and-discrimination.155740/post-26894373how they treat these minors for being asexual.
how they treat these minors for being asexual.
Being pre-judged as harmless is insulting, honestly. And it's harmful.
