And because of my personality or environment, I don't think the bar scene is it.
If you're
honestly serious: It could be. But you already identified the problem: Your personality gives off "creep" vibes. You need to change that.
But one of my problems is of course being picky, but also just not having a huge pool or even knowing how to get to that pool.
I know online dating is a thing and well I keep swiping, but I probably need to work on my aesthetics so to speak to make that go my way. Where else do you find people?
To give you an expanded answer on your last sentence:
Anywhere you think is reasonable. Coffee house (could talk to fellow customers), gym (which you said you were doing last month) and talking to the women there about their exercises or "do you need help" (without coming off as condensing. Though I think PD and others could probably help you there, gyms aren't my scene). OkCupid/Tinder/et. al. online dating services can also work.
But really, if you want to knock that "creeper" vibe out: Don't worry about women right now. Talk to
men (in before you shut this down like your asshole would be on going in the backdoor) and try to knock off the Elliot-vibes you give off when you talk to/about women. Once you get that "resentment" about not having a woman off you in regards to conversations, you'll then
be ready for trying to attract a girl. If you're using Tinder, don't go for "relationship" right now, just go for conversations/"talking". I don't know if Tinder has that option similar to Gay apps, but it
is possible that if you swipe and swipe and swipe (and match with women that your already admitted high-standards wouldn't let you do) you'll get people/girls to talk to that'll help you overcome this.
It's like an RPG: You have to
grind EXP to get to the next-level. Start talking to as many folks that you wouldn't normally talk to in your daily life to get "charisma" (not sure how to word it for you) to charm women.
