Well just had a tinder thing fall through. She said I wasn't talkative and aggressive enough, which is true. I'm really not, I only really like to talk to people when I want to. Which I guess is the definition of selfish. I mean it's not like I don't like it when people message me, but I guess with girls you really have to be the one that's leading. It's just hard for me to keep on talking, especially with text. I just suck at small talk. And yeah I sure didn't ask this chick on a date when the timing was good.
But I guess this just highlight's my incompetence. I don't really know exactly when to pull the trigger on these things. And I'm just genuinely confused on how to talk. Like I don't want to be the dudes I've seen who are super aggressive and drop the "lets fuck" really quickly, but I'm too much of a meek passive dude who likes to go with the flow.
I guess I have to work on finding a good balance.
But then again I don't like it when people are aggressive with me.
Oh well I guess, but as much as tinder and the like are a nice training area. I think meeting someone in person not through tinder is my only hope. I just vibe better with people in person once I get comfortable.