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[Rahxephon91]

Eh I have short curly hair and am not on tinder....

[Rahxephon91]

I also didn’t want to post pictures because well I’m not even doing online dating and I was good without Assi being an ass.

[brawndolicious]

Where does this shit about Asian girls being picky come from? Some won't date outside their race because they'll get cut out of their inheritance but they aren't more picky as far as attraction.

I know those stats for online dating but I'm absolutely sure that that is reflective of the type of porn roles whites/Asians get versus everyone else. You know that most of the guys on those sites are consuming gigabytes a day. Take a look around this thread and you know that's true.

[Oblivion]

Where does this shit about Asian girls being picky come from? Some won't date outside their race because they'll get cut out of their inheritance but they aren't more picky as far as attraction.

There are actual studies and polls about this tho.

[Assimilate]

Assimilate pretty lame to bash people's looks here.

i'm not bashing his looks. i'm bashing his style. i mean that hair was ridiculous.

[brawndolicious]

Where does this shit about Asian girls being picky come from? Some won't date outside their race because they'll get cut out of their inheritance but they aren't more picky as far as attraction.

There are actual studies and polls about this tho.

I agree that they are more likely to have a racial preference, I don't see them having a higher standard for looks.

[Rahxephon91]

Assimilate pretty lame to bash people's looks here.

i'm not bashing his looks. i'm bashing his style. i mean that hair was ridiculous.

Yes and I cut it along time ago.

And as a vague ethnic brown person i wonder if that has effected me.

[naff]

i wanna see pics of Assimilate.

Rahx, you only have yourself to blame if you're not using online dating. There are a lot of cute women on those things that are just as lame as you. Unless you're a really outgoing, charming person it's pretty damn hard to pick up in a bar/RL situation. Most men are pretty lecherous and bad at picking up while drunk too unless well seasoned. Online dating is basically made for cute, socially awkward dorks like you.

[team filler]

assi eye, for the brown guy up in here

[Valkyrie]

i wanna see pics of Assimilate.

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=45482.0

[Rahxephon91]

i wanna see pics of Assimilate.

Rahx, you only have yourself to blame if you're not using online dating. There are a lot of cute women on those things that are just as lame as you. Unless you're a really outgoing, charming person it's pretty damn hard to pick up in a bar/RL situation. Most men are pretty lecherous and bad at picking up while drunk too unless well seasoned. Online dating is basically made for cute, socially awkward dorks like you.

I guess, but there has to be other options out there beyond online dating. I mean of course I’ve tried it, but I don’t like it. I didnt have much success on there and I didn’t like the kinds of matches I got.

I probably could use better pictures, but I mean we’ve talked about how much tinder is more demanding in the physical qualities. And I actually don’t think online dating is really good for awkward people.

[Nabbis]

The problem is me.

Well, yeah, but it's not something unfixable like a tumor on your face. Probably cliche but you could try writing a short list of the particular problems(that you think you have) that are causing you to fail and try to come up with a plan on how to work them out. If all else fails then you can just google material on how to overcome those particular issues. This advice is probably very vague but it's hard to tell someone more concrete advice without face to face interaction.

[Assimilate]

rahx, how about you post some of the tinder girls you did like, and then the ones you matched with.

[Assimilate]

How do you not like who you "matched" with?

Like didn't you have to like them in the first place? lol

Depends what method of swiping he employs.

[CatsCatsCats]

How do you not like who you "matched" with?

Like didn't you have to like them in the first place? lol

Depends what method of swiping he employs.

Yeah, that’s pretty easy to do as a dude on tinder

[Rahxephon91]

How do you not like who you "matched" with?

Like didn't you have to like them in the first place? lol

Depends what method of swiping he employs.

I used the swipe on everything method.

And since I’m not on Tinder anymore I can’t show you pictures so you can judge them Assi.

[BlueTsunami]

Its a numbers game!

 

[Assimilate]

How do you not like who you "matched" with?

Like didn't you have to like them in the first place? lol

Depends what method of swiping he employs.

I used the swipe on everything method.

And since I’m not on Tinder anymore I can’t show you pictures so you can judge them Assi.

Stop being so insecure goddamnit. I wasn't going to judge you, i was going to see how real your expectations were.

Maybe you are aiming too high? Or maybe your lack of confidence is so fucking bad you repel women. Women do not like unconfident men, unless it's one of those crazies which you should always stay away from.

[Rahxephon91]

I don’t care if internet tough guy here judges me. You misread, I’m not interested in posting random girls for you to judge.

[Assimilate]

I don’t care if internet tough guy here judges me. You misread, I’m not interested in posting random girls for you to judge.

So you aren't going to provide entertainment, or make any decent arguments, you just want to fucking whine like a little bitch?

And you honestly wonder why girls don't like you?

[Rahxephon91]

There’s nothing entertaining about Assi posts.










Unless you’re filler.

[BlueTsunami]

Rahx really is Luke Skywalker, rebuking Papa Zen!

[Rahxephon91]

The problem is me.

Well, yeah, but it's not something unfixable like a tumor on your face. Probably cliche but you could try writing a short list of the particular problems(that you think you have) that are causing you to fail and try to come up with a plan on how to work them out. If all else fails then you can just google material on how to overcome those particular issues. This advice is probably very vague but it's hard to tell someone more concrete advice without face to face interaction.

Well when I say it’s me, I mean it’s simply because I don’t try and am too afraid too. I mean this is what my real life friends tell me. I give women the swerve. When we go out and in normal life it’s not like I don’t notice that women notice me and sometimes it’s even women I’d find attractive. Many times on the dance floor my friends try to push me out there and I just go “no no” and ignore any possible attention.

I mean I have a strange confidence and maybe anxitity issue?

Again, I know I’m a cool and valuable person with issues. Plenty of issues, but at the end of the day I think I have something to give. Even my friends think so and despite my online persona I am mostly a positive and junkies person in my daily life. I wouldn’t even say I’m unconfident. When it comes to my abilities I can control I doubt doubt them.

When it comes to people on the other hand.

I just have issues becoming comfortable with people. When people pass “tests” and I realize they are cool with me I’m usually really cool. But until then I’m really nervous and quiet among new people. I’ve gotten a bit better at interacting with new people, but it never feels natural to me until it does.

Now I have issues with thinking women would find me attractive, but that is just some of my self defeating attitude the talking. I just feel a lot of pressure talking to new women. I just don’t know how to act  my normal self.

So I think I have a strange anxiety issue.

I think I don’t even know how to approach women.

I don’t try.

And maybe I’m a little picky, but not in the way most of you think. I find most women ok looking, but I sure never matched with them on tinder.

[I'm a Puppy!]

One relationship skill that I'm surprised I have to remind people about is about how to determine their own league.
This conversation happened today.
Friend, "Why can't I find a guy to love me?!"
Me: "Well, consider Dawn."
Friend, "She's fat and ugly, and she's dumb as a rock."
Me: "And her husband loves her to death and still woos her after 20 years of marriage."
Friend: "But he's dumb and fat and ugly too!"
Me: "Ding ding! Think about the last three guys you've had interactions with. One guy you dropped because he had a "loser job". There was that guy who looked like a model that just dropped you like a hot potato, and there was the guy you wouldn't go out with because you said he was 'chubby'. What do you think these guys thought about dating an overweight single mom with a shit job?"
Friend, "You're an ass."
me: "An ass that you came to for relationship advice."

[Atramental]

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/everyone-thinks-they-are-above-average/

[Rahxephon91]

Well if I could be told what is in my league I'd be better off.

[Atramental]

It's something you have to find out for yourself.

Everyone has different peaks and valleys as far as their "league" is concerned.

The last two girls I dated were definitely near the bottom of my personal preferences but they were by no means ugly. Hell, more often than not, if they lost some weight they would look a lot better. 

[Atramental]

Also, check your PMs Rahx. 

[Bebpo]

'sup

In a funk. More and more as I'm having pretty successful dates (I feel like about 3/4 go well because I've got my shit together and am pretty confident these days), but I just can't feel anything emotionally about a person when I first meet them even if we've been texting a bit for a week or two. Like I meet them and the date goes well and they're usually fairly successful and fairly attractive, but I don't feel any reason to see them again and feel nothing so I don't do a 2nd date. As I'm getting older and way less horny, the physical attraction side, which was the only side that really immediately grabbed me about a person is not there so much and I need something more to feel anything and that "more" takes a while to build up for me.

I've tried going on multiple dates even with people I don't feel anything with, being arm-holding, kissing, cuddling, fucking hoping to fake it until I make it so that feelings would emerge after a few dates, but they don't and I just call it off after a couple weeks. I'm actually a lot more hesitant to sleep with people lately. Don't want to do that unless I know for sure I'm willing to get in a relationship with them and feel something towards them, otherwise I just kinda break it off after a few fucks and they get super pissed.

I'd be worried that I'm emotionally damaged/closed off except I do feel the kind of romantic feelings I need to make a relationship work...towards people I've been friends with for a while and who've grown on me and gotten to know me and I've gotten to know who they really are. But by then usually they just see me as a friend by that point, because I haven't tried to being anything more than a friend to them and it gets awkward so I avoid going there.

Basically it takes me like at least a month if not 3 months to begin to have feelings towards any woman. But dating moves a lot quicker than that and so I'm not feeling anything on all these dates because I barely know these people. And I'm too chicken shit to try to date friends because I don't wanna fuck up the friendship. So kinda in a limbo right now. Only liking the people who won't date me while a ton of people wanna date me but not feeling anything towards them. 

[Bebpo]

And actually another part to that is when I'm online dating in my mind I'm like "my ideal partner has tattoo sleeves, colored hair, is an artist, and will go to all the punk shows with me", but then I look at the women I'm friends with that I kinda crush on and they're absolutely nothing like what I'm looking for in any of my dating. Maybe they have like 1 or 2 hobbies in common, but otherwise they just have normal jobs, look like normal people and are good people. Not really sure what to do with that. I date normal boring people on online dating and the dates are kinda boring.

[brawndolicious]

I mean, if you're feeling romantic feelings towards a particular girl(s) then you have to resolve it before you can meet someone else. Your mind is in one place, your body is in another.

[Assimilate]

Well if I could be told what is in my league I'd be better off.

lol

isn't this why i asked for you to post the pics so we can fucking see? you dumbass.

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

One relationship skill that I'm surprised I have to remind people about is about how to determine their own league.
This conversation happened today.
Friend, "Why can't I find a guy to love me?!"
Me: "Well, consider Dawn."
Friend, "She's fat and ugly, and she's dumb as a rock."
Me: "And her husband loves her to death and still woos her after 20 years of marriage."
Friend: "But he's dumb and fat and ugly too!"
Me: "Ding ding! Think about the last three guys you've had interactions with. One guy you dropped because he had a "loser job". There was that guy who looked like a model that just dropped you like a hot potato, and there was the guy you wouldn't go out with because you said he was 'chubby'. What do you think these guys thought about dating an overweight single mom with a shit job?"
Friend, "You're an ass."
me: "An ass that you came to for relationship advice."

There are a lot of delusions in the dating scene.  Men who are addicted to porn can no longer get it up unless a girl is 5'4" 100 lbs, 50 of it being silicone in her tits and ass.  Women who conflate a random hookup on Tinder with what men she is expected to get because there's a contingent of men who will just stick their dicks in anything and confuses a good looking guy wanting to get some random strange with "this is what I should be getting."  Better invest in the company that makes cat scratching posts, business is only going to get better for them from here.

[Rahxephon91]

Well if I could be told what is in my league I'd be better off.

lol

isn't this why i asked for you to post the pics so we can fucking see? you dumbass.

I don’t think anyone wants advice from someone who’s basicly posted redpill type nonsense.

[Assimilate]

Well if I could be told what is in my league I'd be better off.

lol

isn't this why i asked for you to post the pics so we can fucking see? you dumbass.

I don’t think anyone wants advice from someone who’s basicly posted redpill type nonsense.

That's funny. Nothing i say has to do with the red pill movement. But in fact everything i've ever posted pretty much exemplifies what most of you fucks go through. The irony.

[TakingBackSunday]

Well if I could be told what is in my league I'd be better off.

lol

isn't this why i asked for you to post the pics so we can fucking see? you dumbass.

I don’t think anyone wants advice from someone who’s basicly posted redpill type nonsense.

That's funny. Nothing i say has to do with the red pill movement. But in fact everything i've ever posted pretty much exemplifies what most of you fucks go through. The irony.

fucking lol

[I'm a Puppy!]

One relationship skill that I'm surprised I have to remind people about is about how to determine their own league.
This conversation happened today.
Friend, "Why can't I find a guy to love me?!"
Me: "Well, consider Dawn."
Friend, "She's fat and ugly, and she's dumb as a rock."
Me: "And her husband loves her to death and still woos her after 20 years of marriage."
Friend: "But he's dumb and fat and ugly too!"
Me: "Ding ding! Think about the last three guys you've had interactions with. One guy you dropped because he had a "loser job". There was that guy who looked like a model that just dropped you like a hot potato, and there was the guy you wouldn't go out with because you said he was 'chubby'. What do you think these guys thought about dating an overweight single mom with a shit job?"
Friend, "You're an ass."
me: "An ass that you came to for relationship advice."

There are a lot of delusions in the dating scene.  Men who are addicted to porn can no longer get it up unless a girl is 5'4" 100 lbs, 50 of it being silicone in her tits and ass.  Women who conflate a random hookup on Tinder with what men she is expected to get because there's a contingent of men who will just stick their dicks in anything and confuses a good looking guy wanting to get some random strange with "this is what I should be getting."  Better invest in the company that makes cat scratching posts, business is only going to get better for them from here.

Yeah, the situation is bad. Cause you got women that think that because a guy is willing to put up with her enough to do a hook up means that he's relationship material when it's just a good looking guy that is willing to take a hit to sate a need, not a guy that's willing to put up with all that a relationship entails. Then this turns into guys thinking that biology drives women to these guys and they become bitter shells of "men" then it all comes crashing down later in life because, hey, people are willing to put up with a ton of crap when you're young and good looking. Oh? You got bills? Responsibilities? Starting to go gray? Not as perky? Get lost.

:oldmanyelllingatcloud

[Assimilate]

One relationship skill that I'm surprised I have to remind people about is about how to determine their own league.
This conversation happened today.
Friend, "Why can't I find a guy to love me?!"
Me: "Well, consider Dawn."
Friend, "She's fat and ugly, and she's dumb as a rock."
Me: "And her husband loves her to death and still woos her after 20 years of marriage."
Friend: "But he's dumb and fat and ugly too!"
Me: "Ding ding! Think about the last three guys you've had interactions with. One guy you dropped because he had a "loser job". There was that guy who looked like a model that just dropped you like a hot potato, and there was the guy you wouldn't go out with because you said he was 'chubby'. What do you think these guys thought about dating an overweight single mom with a shit job?"
Friend, "You're an ass."
me: "An ass that you came to for relationship advice."

There are a lot of delusions in the dating scene.  Men who are addicted to porn can no longer get it up unless a girl is 5'4" 100 lbs, 50 of it being silicone in her tits and ass.  Women who conflate a random hookup on Tinder with what men she is expected to get because there's a contingent of men who will just stick their dicks in anything and confuses a good looking guy wanting to get some random strange with "this is what I should be getting."  Better invest in the company that makes cat scratching posts, business is only going to get better for them from here.

Yeah, the situation is bad. Cause you got women that think that because a guy is willing to put up with her enough to do a hook up means that he's relationship material when it's just a good looking guy that is willing to take a hit to sate a need, not a guy that's willing to put up with all that a relationship entails. Then this turns into guys thinking that biology drives women to these guys and they become bitter shells of "men" then it all comes crashing down later in life because, hey, people are willing to put up with a ton of crap when you're young and good looking. Oh? You got bills? Responsibilities? Starting to go gray? Not as perky? Get lost.

:oldmanyelllingatcloud

wait, are you talking about men here or women?

fucking lol

If i had written what I'm a Puppy just wrote i'd be dog piled.

[I'm a Puppy!]

That's because people like me and I'm not an ass to everyone.

[Assimilate]

That's because people like me and I'm not an ass to everyone.

people should tackle the merits of an argument not the person.

 

[seagrams hotsauce]

That's because people like me and I'm not an ass to everyone.

that, and you also possess a basic competency when it comes to typing and simple grammar beyond a fourth grade level

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

That's because people like me and I'm not an ass to everyone.

people should tackle the merits of an argument not the person.

 

You are a load that should have been swallowed

[Assimilate]

That's because people like me and I'm not an ass to everyone.

that, and you also possess a basic competency when it comes to typing and simple grammar beyond a fourth grade level

Wowwww and the kid doesn't even start his sentence with a capital letter or end it with a period! See how easy that is you fucking autisty??


 

B. you crack me up.

[team filler]

 

[seagrams hotsauce]

[naff]

Me: "Ding ding! Think about the last three guys you've had interactions with. One guy you dropped because he had a "loser job". There was that guy who looked like a model that just dropped you like a hot potato, and there was the guy you wouldn't go out with because you said he was 'chubby'. What do you think these guys thought about dating an overweight single mom with a shit job?"
Friend, "You're an ass."

 

heavy

we’ve talked about how much tinder is more demanding in the physical qualities.

  this is immense bullshit imo. definitely makes things a little clearer though.

[Rahxephon91]

What is bullshit?

[naff]

that dating apps are more demanding of physical qualities vs. seeing people in person

[Rahxephon91]

that dating apps are more demanding of physical qualities vs. seeing people in person

I guess, I don't know. All I know is I haven't liked online dating and I haven't been successful at it. I also think it influenced me to be more negative and shitty about women, which is the major reason I wanted to get off it. I mean on this forum itself I made very shitty comments and had a shitty attitude towards women and I am trying till this day to fix that.  But being on tinder and whatnot did not help as I never got the matches I wanted, would be ghosted, would'nt match with anyone ect. It just did'nt help me. Maybe because I don't know my "leagues" or what I can "get", maybe I had bad pictures, or whatever. I know I never thought it gave a good and accurate impression of myself.

If i had written what I'm a Puppy just wrote i'd be dog piled.

That's because you come off as an ass and someone with this big internet tough guy shit. That's why no one cares about what you have to say here.

But I mean I'll agree that I've been whining, so I don't really have much else to say about this dating stuff at the moment.

[Assimilate]

Hey i tried to pass on Zen. No one wanted it 

[mormapope]

that dating apps are more demanding of physical qualities vs. seeing people in person

I guess, I don't know. All I know is I haven't liked online dating and I haven't been successful at it. I also think it influenced me to be more negative and shitty about women, which is the major reason I wanted to get off it. I mean on this forum itself I made very shitty comments and had a shitty attitude towards women and I am trying till this day to fix that.  But being on tinder and whatnot did not help as I never got the matches I wanted, would be ghosted, would'nt match with anyone ect. It just did'nt help me. Maybe because I don't know my "leagues" or what I can "get", maybe I had bad pictures, or whatever. I know I never thought it gave a good and accurate impression of myself.

If i had written what I'm a Puppy just wrote i'd be dog piled.

That's because you come off as an ass and someone with this big internet tough guy shit. That's why no one cares about what you have to say here.

But I mean I'll agree that I've been whining, so I don't really have much else to say about this dating stuff at the moment.

Tbh Rahx, the loneliness from being single isn't even close to the pain of failed relationships. Like, it sucks not finding a woman to click with, but dating itself and being "successful" with meeting up or sex, is desire that doesn't carry the same weight as pain and heartbreak

Failed relationships aren't ones that end overtime, people losing interest. They're ones where it's a shit tornado by the end. And you made the choice to throw some turd into that nado. You feel like a victim.

If you dated or banged a lady you weren't attracted to, you might've gone thru and fucked a few women by now. What that would've done for you, I don't know.

[Rufus]

Tbh Rahx, the loneliness from being single isn't even close to the pain of failed relationships. Like, it sucks not finding a woman to click with, but dating itself and being "successful" with meeting up or sex, is desire that doesn't carry the same weight as pain and heartbreak

[naff]

[naff]

Feed on the pain

[team filler]

[chronovore]

If i had written what I'm a Puppy just wrote i'd be dog piled.

A basic rule of communication is that, if you want respect, you should give respect. Puppy respects others, even when delivering harsh truths.

[Assimilate]

If i had written what I'm a Puppy just wrote i'd be dog piled.

A basic rule of communication is that, if you want respect, you should give respect. Puppy respects others, even when delivering harsh truths.

Oh shove it up your ass.

You all are a bunch of pussies, that's the problem.

Now you fucks coming after Bill Burr as a redpiller for this? really? why? because he's pointing out how much you all are a bunch of fucking ducks 

No wonder people like Rahx have a hard time with women. Poor kid doesn't know what to fucking think on anything, even himself.

[mormapope]

Ive just thought about Assimilate being a woman and how hot it'd be if a woman was that angry at dudes. 

[Rahxephon91]

that dating apps are more demanding of physical qualities vs. seeing people in person

I guess, I don't know. All I know is I haven't liked online dating and I haven't been successful at it. I also think it influenced me to be more negative and shitty about women, which is the major reason I wanted to get off it. I mean on this forum itself I made very shitty comments and had a shitty attitude towards women and I am trying till this day to fix that.  But being on tinder and whatnot did not help as I never got the matches I wanted, would be ghosted, would'nt match with anyone ect. It just did'nt help me. Maybe because I don't know my "leagues" or what I can "get", maybe I had bad pictures, or whatever. I know I never thought it gave a good and accurate impression of myself.

If i had written what I'm a Puppy just wrote i'd be dog piled.

That's because you come off as an ass and someone with this big internet tough guy shit. That's why no one cares about what you have to say here.

But I mean I'll agree that I've been whining, so I don't really have much else to say about this dating stuff at the moment.

Tbh Rahx, the loneliness from being single isn't even close to the pain of failed relationships. Like, it sucks not finding a woman to click with, but dating itself and being "successful" with meeting up or sex, is desire that doesn't carry the same weight as pain and heartbreak

Failed relationships aren't ones that end overtime, people losing interest. They're ones where it's a shit tornado by the end. And you made the choice to throw some turd into that nado. You feel like a victim.

If you dated or banged a lady you weren't attracted to, you might've gone thru and fucked a few women by now. What that would've done for you, I don't know.

You are probably right. I hate to deep back into the incel stuff, but it"s probably still coming from the fact that I feel like I'm missing out on something. A life experince that I feel I should have probably had. Now compared to say last year I don't have the feelings that somethings wrong with me. I guess I have the bit more positive viewpoint that I'm just a late bloomer and it's perfectly fine. It still kind of sucks to feel like that though. But at least I'm not seeing my value in it. I see myself as a cool and valuable person regardless of any relationship status and I guess its taken my experiences over the last year or so to realize that. I have a great friend group in real life all because of the kind of person I am and that's a solid thing.

But I'm sure having sex and whatnot is fun.

So I'm not sure if I feel loneliness exactly. Maybe it is coming back to the simple idea that I feel like I'm missing something and would I guess like that romantic and sexual aspect of my life fulfilled.

I've never had a problem getting with Asian girls.

Aren't you a white guy?

[Atramental]

If it makes you feel any better rahx, I haven’t been able to date any cute Asian girls either as a white guy.

Then again, I’m pretty sure Jack lives in California and there are a lot of Asians in Cali.