Pallando will return in "Never Say Never Again"

[fistfulofmetal]

i'm fucking terrified about giving my gift to her this xmas. like, i'm deathly afraid she'll hate what i got.

how absolutely cliche can i be right now?

especially considering i'll like whatever she gets me because THAT'S THE POINT.

[TakingBackSunday]

what did you get her?

[fistfulofmetal]

2 things (so far)

-A Garrus POP figure (she's a big Garrus fan)
-A red Cashmere scarf (she really likes scarves)

I feel like it's missing something.

[chronovore]

By ideal I mean: what she wrote on her profile doesn't make me cringe, her physical appearance is close to my type, and she lives in relative proximity to where I live. I know for a fact that I have more ideal partners out there but they all live in states that aren't GOP strongholds.

She talks about her art a bunch so I'm going start off by asking her what her preferred medium is and then I'll branch off from there.

 

Are you certain that she isn’t just an alt you registered and forgot about?

Edit: REPEATEDLY BEATEN, like HALO player picking up COD for the first time.

Make a fem-Atra profile and see how many messages you get.

Getting right on that.

Edit: I have only 2 pics up and I'm already getting bombarded with visits and messages. 

We're having a little back and forth right now.

Eh... Fuck sleep...

You're writing messages to yourself using your FemAtra account, aren't you ?

[TakingBackSunday]

2 things (so far)

-A Garrus POP figure (she's a big Garrus fan)
-A red Cashmere scarf (she really likes scarves)

I feel like it's missing something.

Why are you so concerned about this?  She's going to love them.  Only other thing that you could do is get her something that she would treasure that reminds her of the two of you.  Even so, she's gonna love it man

[fistfulofmetal]

2 things (so far)

-A Garrus POP figure (she's a big Garrus fan)
-A red Cashmere scarf (she really likes scarves)

I feel like it's missing something.

Why are you so concerned about this?  She's going to love them.  Only other thing that you could do is get her something that she would treasure that reminds her of the two of you.  Even so, she's gonna love it man

I mean I KNOW that but I'm still NERVOUS about it.

[Himu]

I'm not sure what to get a certain someone for Christmas. I can think of getting my aunts a cute personalized skin care basket but I can't come up with anything creative for this guy I've been seeing and know lots of intimate and personal things about.

[MrAngryFace]

2 things (so far)

-A Garrus POP figure (she's a big Garrus fan)
-A red Cashmere scarf (she really likes scarves)

I feel like it's missing something.

[demi]

i'm fucking terrified about giving my gift to her this xmas. like, i'm deathly afraid she'll hate what i got.

how absolutely cliche can i be right now?

especially considering i'll like whatever she gets me because THAT'S THE POINT.

is this bitch the reason why you arent coming to pax?

[fistfulofmetal]

no.

[PlayDat]

Am I coming off as desperate if I continue pursuing someone after a long period of absence?  We agreed to go on a date over 2 weeks ago, but our schedules didn't really permit it since finals were on their way.  The semester's officially over on Friday.  We won't even be in the same state for almost another 5 weeks.  We aren't all that close to each other so I don't expect to speak to her much over the break if we do talk at all.  Our university is big enough where I doubt I'd see her in January unless we arranged to.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

Am I coming off as desperate if I continue pursuing someone after a long period of absence?  We agreed to go on a date over 2 weeks ago, but our schedules didn't really permit it since finals were on their way.  The semester's officially over on Friday.  We won't even be in the same state for almost another 5 weeks.  We aren't all that close to each other so I don't expect to speak to her much over the break if we do talk at all.  Our university is big enough where I doubt I'd see her in January unless we arranged to.

Ask once. If she agrees then yes. If she is distant or does not reply? Move along.

[nudemacusers]

what he said

[fistfulofmetal]

so one of the three gifts I got my girlfriend is a little writers notebook i bought at an art exhibit last week. we were together and she knows about it BUT i want to use it as a segue into saying DEM WORDS

like, my idea is to write something from the heart on the inside front page. either i'll say it directly in the book or when she reads it i'll say it after or something. i dunno.

not really sure what to write yet but we're exchanging gifts on tuesday afternoon so i have some time.

does that sound lame?

[Mupepe]

I never understood making things into a production but then again every woman I was ever with complained that I am not romantic. So yeah, that would probably be sweet.

[TakingBackSunday]

I'm having a particularly hard time getting over the girl from last month, no matter how many dates I've gone on since.  I really fucking hate this. 

[toku]

I'm having a particularly hard time getting over the girl from last month, no matter how many dates I've gone on since.  I really fucking hate this.

There is no cheat code for this. Sorry.

[TakingBackSunday]

I know.  It's the worst.  I can't go over to her side of town without thinking of her, I can't hang out with certain people anymore without being reminded of her, and I can't stand seeing friends post about her/post pictures of her on social feeds.  It's just all a constant bummer and I can't fucking take it.

It's ruining certain aspects of the city for me, and keeping me away from people I'd like to be around.

[Phoenix Dark]

Take a break from dating. You don't want to meet a cool person now who you blow off because of this, and then regret it later.

It takes awhile to get over it, and then you move on to the next one.

[Phoenix Dark]

A pretty cute chick liked me on Ok Cupid yesterday; I found out after randomly liking her. We're only a 67% match though but her profile is definitely in the vein of what I like: not too serious, weirdly funny. Minor religion reference which is better than the hyper religious people that usually like me. Also mentions she is always nude or half clothed when at home.


I don't feel like messaging her though, or anyone on OK Cupid. I'll wait a few days and see if she messages me...girls should take the initiative, I'm too shook right now. My dick problems seem to be getting better at least.

edit: she speaks sign language


edit: Would not sleep with someone before marriage

[Phoenix Dark]

I sent her a wack ass message, we'll see


I probably shouldn't have mentioned my lunch break is soon because it might give the impression I want to go out for lunch.

[Barry Egan]

why doesn't bebpo post in this thread anymore  :'(

[Atramental]

why doesn't bebpo post in this thread anymore  :'(

[Phoenix Dark]

why doesn't bebpo post in this thread anymore  :'(

Some Ls take nine months to form.

[toku]

why doesn't bebpo post in this thread anymore  :'(

Some Ls take nine months to form.

 

[Beezy]

 

[Atramental]

 

[fistfulofmetal]

fuck i'm super stressing out right now. tomorrow is gonna be like, a major turning point for things and i'm afraid brehs.

[toku]

fuck i'm super stressing out right now. tomorrow is gonna be like, a major turning point for things and i'm afraid brehs.

You'll be alright.

[fistfulofmetal]

 

[fistfulofmetal]

i chickened out and didn't say it

[Mupepe]

I think the casual drop is much better. I told my wife randomly when she said something funny and after laughing I said I love you. She just smiled and said I love you too. Quit putting so much pressure on it. Say it when you feel it.

[fistfulofmetal]

probably. we're both terrible at SAYING how we feel.

[Rufus]

Talk with your hands.

[nudemacusers]

making the 'i love you drop' some dramatic important event™ is super corny and something out of a movie. just fuckin say it goddamn.

[fistfulofmetal]

making the 'i love you drop' some dramatic important event™ is super corny and something out of a movie. just fuckin say it goddamn.

i did it 

[Rahxephon91]

making the 'i love you drop' some dramatic important event™ is super corny and something out of a movie. just fuckin say it goddamn.

It could be worse, could be like the episode of Seinfeld where George drops it and he's not sure if the chick heard it. Talk about awkward!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[fistfulofmetal]

she def heard and even said it back!

[toku]

Your journey has been brilliant and no one else can own that. Isn't that amazing? You should be proud of yourself. Don't let anyone steal it.

[fistfulofmetal]

going back and reading the first reference I made to her is interesting: http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=36858.msg1924015#msg1924015

[Rahxephon91]

Yeah your an inspiration. Maybe I can also stop being a pip sqweak nerd and talk to the short nice ass redhead at Starbucks. Though I think she has a bf. Whatever she started this. Chick shouldn't be all smiley and given my free large drinks least I get the wrong messaging. Damnit women

[Phoenix Dark]

Think about it this way: if she says no thanks you aren't going to die, or be shamed in front of the world, or be laughed at by people, or be jailed, or be slapped, etc. It took me a long time to realize that being turned down isn't the end of the world. In fact it's the easiest rejection to deal with because you don't have many feelings invested: you don't really know her. Whereas the possibility of rejection Fistfull faced with the "I love you" thing was a legit concern.

Just do it. If it doesn't work that's just a weight off your shoulders. You can go about your business, continue to drink there and talk to her without wondering what she thinks .

[Mupepe]

I've said it before and I'll say it again.  It's like throwing shit at a wall, something will stick. Just ask ones you're interested in. Someone will eventually say yes. Its a numbers game.

[Phoenix Dark]

Also don't ask her unless you're serious. If you don't want to put effort into going on a date, having conversations, making jokes/laughing etc then don't try yet. Wait until you're ready for that shit. You don't want to rush into things, screw it up, and then feel bad.

[TakingBackSunday]

praise the ghosts

[Purple Filth]

why doesn't bebpo post in this thread anymore  :'(

Some Ls take nine months to form.

seriously?

no where to run now 

[TakingBackSunday]

How would one go about approaching a super cute barista at the coffee shop I visit every weekend?  Or is that pretty much frowned upon 

I don't want to outright as for her number, I wanna engage a bit more for the possibility of exchanging numbers.  But I don't know how to go about doing that without crossing the creepy line

[ToxicAdam]

You should probably find out if she's single first. Ask a coworker.

[TakingBackSunday]

Luckily my sister is friends with a few of the baristas there so I should be able to find out

[ToxicAdam]

I said the co worker route because it shows you are interested. The co worker will naturally tell her that you asked about her and it gives her time to loosen up the next time you come in and ask her out.

[Human Snorenado]

I have a friend that likes to play matchmaker when she gets drunk, and it's gotten several people pissed at her. Including me, I was going on about a waitress I have a crush on when we were out one night, and she just walked over to the waitress and asked her if I could call her sometime, and of course the waitress is married. Womp womp womp, awkward times abound.

[recursivelyenumerable]

if it makes people feel better I am no closer to having a Relationship than ever.

[Shaka Khan]

Luckily my sister is friends with a few of the baristas there so I should be able to find out

Won't your sister get jealous doe?

[toku]

if it makes people feel better I am no closer to having a Relationship than ever.

you say this now but you literally never know even when you're trying. It's kinda what this whole life thing is about.

[Phoenix Dark]

I'm the master of sending mixed messages. A friend of mine was sick this weekend and thus unable to hang with me. We were going to watch Netflix at my place on Saturday and today; she planned on bringing her brother (who is mentally handicapped) with her on Saturday, and would come solo today. We're just friends although there is some sexual tension.

Anyway...today I had an itch to make some homemade soup, so I made chicken noodle soup. I made too much so I just figured I'd drop some off at her place...so I called, asked if I could bring her something, then showed up with the soup. She was very grateful, I could tell she was quite touched by the gesture.

Fast forward to this evening. I got a text from a mutual friend (and gossip snitch) saying that my friend told her about the soup, and wants to be more than friends.  I "like" her in the sense that we're friends and have a good time together, but I'm not really thinking about girlfriends n shit.

I just wanted to give her some soup yall

[Beezy]

Yeah... that's all on you.

[TVC15]

When you said "I had an itch to make some homemade soup," I totally thought it was going to end up being an innuendo for something.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Give her your soup. Give her ALL your soup in her mouth

[close]

[toku]

I'm the master of sending mixed messages. A friend of mine was sick this weekend and thus unable to hang with me. We were going to watch Netflix at my place on Saturday and today; she planned on bringing her brother (who is mentally handicapped) with her on Saturday, and would come solo today. We're just friends although there is some sexual tension.

Anyway...today I had an itch to make some homemade soup, so I made chicken noodle soup. I made too much so I just figured I'd drop some off at her place...so I called, asked if I could bring her something, then showed up with the soup. She was very grateful, I could tell she was quite touched by the gesture.

Fast forward to this evening. I got a text from a mutual friend (and gossip snitch) saying that my friend told her about the soup, and wants to be more than friends.  I "like" her in the sense that we're friends and have a good time together, but I'm not really thinking about girlfriends n shit.

I just wanted to give her some soup yall

[Phoenix Dark]

This has happened to me a few times. Doing shit that is misread, and then having to awkwardly back out and look like I'm flip flopping. When I decided to take her the soup I admittedly thought she might think it was something more than what I intended, but I quickly dismissed the thought. We've cooked food together before so she knows is not out or he ordinary for me to make stuff.

[Beezy]

You could have simply asked her if she wanted some soup or told her what you were bringing instead of being so vague and seeming like you were trying to surprise her.