Catching up on the last month of this thread, so this SA thing, is it just for hookups or can you actually meet people that want to get in relationships/married?
Also that story about the musician who invited you over and then did a bunch of coke made me , I enjoy soft stuff but I think if anyone went straight to the coke on a first date I'd get out of there asap. Though I guess coke is kind of more normalized than I think, I've had a few social friends admit to times they did coke and I was also just kind of like "wtf"
I think the answer is probably yes, but you have to be super cautious with it. In my SA time, I've kind of realized there are different categories of women on there.
If you are mainly sticking to women 30+, they are more evenly split between kinky and/or bored of the regular dating sites than they are just trying to hustle men for money. There are a few main groups of women:
- I'm hot and I'm trying to hustle you. This is the MO for like 70% of women under 25. You might get laid, but it will be a PITA and cost you a dime
- Bad marriage: These women want many of the trappings of a relationship, but won't marry you for obvious reasons, and want it on the down low. I think they just figure SA is a safe place to cheat
- Bad Breakup, and possibly bad financial situation because of it: Often there is a sad story here, and some of these women have just been treated poorly by men for their whole lives. "I've only ever dated losers, and I want to date someone who is not a loser" or "Men ain't shit, might as well get paid for it".
- kinksters: Cuckold type situations mostly
- I'm bored of regular dating sites: Want something spicier than what I can find on match.com and maybe I can find it on SA. Or, "I just don't get matched on tinder/match, and think SA will be better for me". IMO, physical attractiveness is even MORE important on SA for women, so I don't know how well this really works. Lots of women tell me I'm good looking on SA though, and nobody ever does on match. Yes I'm aware they are flattering me.
Yes, I think you can find someone to seriously date on SA. Doubly so if you want to play Captain Save a Hoe.
The woman I'm meeting tomorrow is of the "I've only dated losers" variety, and can hardly believe that it's real. The general outline of the allowance I offered probably increases her income by 30% based on what she does for a living. And from what she tells me about her past boyfriends, I probably seem like a pretty amazing catch, if for no other reason than I'm nice to her, care somewhat about her feelings, and am willing to do nice things for her.
I have seen some pretty attractive women with professional careers that don't really seem interested in a "arrangement" as much as "I want someone who will spend money with me to do cool shit together". They are not as likely to meet you in a week though.
That said, I think joining it with the idea of finding a wife just seems really inefficient. But match is really inefficient too in my experience.