Pallando will return in "Never Say Never Again"

[The Sceneman]

just got home after sexing all night at a hotel and I am BUSHED. Yeah, date was successful. She's really cool.

[Polari]

[brawndolicious]

Good job sceneman.

Do any of you date outside of OKC?

I just arranged a date with a girl from there. On one of her questions, it said that she would probably google someone before the first date so I just did that and from her username, found a creative writing forum account from 2004 (when she was fifteen). Thankfully I did not read it as I'm sure we all posted things we're ashamed of online at that age. OKC is a lot more convenient and frankly, makes you less shy to ask out a girl but it's pretty weird and it might be time to mix in some dates with real-life girls.

I'm thankful I only used nintenho on gaming related sites.

[tiesto]

Do any of you date outside of OKC?

I do, sometimes...

[Robo]

Do any of you date outside of OKC?

I'm shy. 

[Groogrux]

From OKC, I've had one girl add me on Facebook and another just gave me her number.  Holy crap, is it that easy?

[brawndolicious]

The trick is if you think you've come across a more or less "perfect" profile, give a little intro of yourself and ask them out and ask them out in the first message. If you seem cool and not jaw droppingly ugly, they'll most likely be eager to go out with you. Just because of that site being filled with dumb dudes using weird pick-up line tricks to try and get attention from the smaller female population.

[Groogrux]

Not bad advice, but I'm not sure I even have the confidence to ask anybody out right off the bat. Even if it is online!

[chronovore]

Not bad advice, but I'm not sure I even have the confidence to ask anybody out right off the bat. Even if it is online!

Just ask her out for coffee somewhere; keep it public so she feels safe, put a short timer on it so she doesn't feel like she's committing to a day out (and you can bail if there's no chemistry) and, if coffee works out okay, you set up a lunch or dinner date. Just keep it light, realizing you're both trying to get to know each other.

[Groogrux]

I've been texting this girl since yesterday.  It's going pretty well.  She seems to be interested in me.  I'm going to work up the nerve and ask her out soon.

[MyNameIsMethodis]

The girl im seeing now ended up asking me out and hse didnt even wait for the date she ended up inviting me over her apartment. We've been on like 8 dates in 3 weeks and im having a blast i fingerbanghed her the other night it was ok.

[Phoenix Dark]

I hope your hands were clean

[tiesto]

Do any of you date outside of OKC?

I do and it's actually easier than OKC. I feel like social media actually comes with a lot of expectations/baggage/face value evaluation and it's annoying. It's like applying for a job with some of these chicks when normally we could just have a conversation, see if it works or not, and KIM

I agree with you, I've always had better luck when I was set up, or met a girl in person.. than if I relied on the internet. Internet dating, after a certain point, feels way too much like "shopping", and a lot of girls don't take it nearly as seriously.

[MyNameIsMethodis]

I hope your hands were clean

i think so

[MyNameIsMethodis]

yes because i pretend to be a black man irl too

[Robo]

.

[Groogrux]

I've got a big e-dick. 

I'm so fucking awesome 

[Flannel Boy]

yes because i pretend to be a black man irl too

She's gonna find out when she asks for more than finger-banging.

[Groogrux]

I'm setting up my first date with a girl from OKC.  We're really hitting it off.

[Groogrux]

Another girl just sent me a message on there.  I took a look at her profile and this is one of the photos I found:

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     That's just... not sexy at all...

[Brehvolution]

 

[Phoenix Dark]

 

[Groogrux]

Another girl just sent me a message on there.  I took a look at her profile and this is one of the photos I found:

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     That's just... not sexy at all...

[Rufus]

I never realized what implications this has if you have a vagina.

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Or if you're obese. Which lead me to this: http://lessismorph.blogspot.de/2009/03/morbid-obesity-and-toilet-hygiene.html and this http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=220523

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[The Sceneman]

me and the woman I met on OKC are officially "dating" now. Woop woop. We're pretty nuts about each other, and she wants to play videogames with me, which is pretty sweet. Got a heavy duty romantic weekend planned.

Sceneman may have a girlfriend

[Raban]

I never realized what implications this has if you have a vagina.

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Or if you're obese. Which lead me to this: http://lessismorph.blogspot.de/2009/03/morbid-obesity-and-toilet-hygiene.html and this http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=220523

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[Rahxephon91]

Well I did the Sci-Fi Speed Dating thing and well I didn't do so hot. I guess I'm just super nervous and boring. Anyway, I got some numbers, but I sure don't remember who they are? Should I even bother?  It kind of feels strange randomly texting people.

[Groogrux]

I say go for it!  If they gave you their numbers, they were at least interested enough to want to talk to you again.  Text them and see what happens.

My dilemma is this:  I'm trying to think of a place to take a girl for a first date in a small town.  I thought about taking this girl for coffee.  I just don't want to do the cliche dinner and a movie.

[Rahxephon91]

Yeah, I mean that sounds like the most logical response. I'm just being a spaz.

As for your question. While I'm obviously no expert I've always been told coffee is the more casual and relaxed thing to do. I've been told that a movie is kind of a bad first date, since you spend a good amount of time not actually talking?

[chronovore]

Also, the movie might suck.

[Robo]

I don't get coffee dates—how long am I expected to sit there and drink coffee?  Maybe it's because I don't particularly like pastries either, but I'm ready to leave after 15 minutes no matter how well things are going.

[Rufus]

Treat it like a business meeting. You're there to presents yourself as a sane and stable individual. One of the shortest date-type activities and therefore perfect if things don't go well.

[Flannel Boy]

I don't get coffee dates—how long am I expected to sit there and drink coffee?  Maybe it's because I don't particularly like pastries either, but I'm ready to leave after 15 minutes no matter how well things are going.

Three hours (we went to the park)? Shit--should've bought her some pastries.

You're there to presents yourself as a sane and stable individual.

:/

[Phoenix Dark]

Fuck coffee dates. Do something interesting, like go see a play and then go to lunch or dinner. That shit always works

[TakingBackSunday]

that's fucking weird for a first date, Maurice.  you ask a girl you've only talked to for 20 minutes to a play, that's almost always an immediate "lulwhat" from her

[Barry Egan]

I don't see what's so weird about it.  I got a girls number inviting her to a play that a few of my friend were in.  it was what I was doing anyways so why not have more company?

edit:  I will say that she was a film student and we were already talking about theater, heh.

[brawndolicious]

that's fucking weird for a first date, Maurice.  you ask a girl you've only talked to for 20 minutes to a play, that's almost always an immediate "lulwhat" from her

If you both are into drama or whatever the play is about, it makes sense. A play is a more interesting experience than a movie.

I generally don't like to go anywhere with food because then you always have to ask them to repeat what they said.

[Phoenix Dark]

Plays are perfect, for the right woman of course. There are some I wouldn't take to a play, whereas others love plays; you just have to know what type of woman you're dealing with.

Plus, a play pretty much shits on the traditional "dinner or movie" dynamic that most girls are familiar with. Another good idea: a museum. Detroit has an amazing. There's a great African History museum in Detroit, it was awesome for a date (with a pawg at least, never tried taking a black woman there).

[Bebpo]

The only problem with a play is that it has the same problem as a movie where you show up, talk for 15 mins, sit in silence for the entire date, and then talk about it for 15 mins on the walk back to your cars and if it's late there's a good chance both of you say goodbye and drive home.  Doesn't give a good chance to get to know the other person much.  I only did a movie date once because the girl and I were huge film buffs and we both loved David Fincher and loved the original Girl w/Dragon Tattoo so we made our first date to see the Fincher remake opening night...still was a bad date.

I don't get coffee dates—how long am I expected to sit there and drink coffee?  Maybe it's because I don't particularly like pastries either, but I'm ready to leave after 15 minutes no matter how well things are going.

I'm not big on these either.  Fairly boring for parties, especially if one of the parties is not super good at conversation.  Better to do something where you're both having fun even without each other so the interaction is just a bonus and not the main focus.  I find stuff like mini-golf, concerts, museums, bowling to be good first dates.  If there's something that you're both really into though, that's the best, like if you're both into hiking, a short picnic hike is great; or if you're both into flowers, going to a botanical garden; videogames, an arcade, etc etc...

[Rufus]

:/

Fake it til you make it.

[FatalT]

How about you just go to the movies with a girl as a friend, take the pussy off the tall pedestal you currently have it on, and just enjoy life with yourself?

[Flannel Boy]

enjoy

Not happening

enjoy life

Enjoy whatnow?

enjoy life with yourself?

[FatalT]

enjoy

Not happening

enjoy life

Enjoy whatnow?

enjoy life with yourself?

[The Sceneman]

just got home from 2 day sex marathon with OKC woman. My back is fucked. It's more or less official now that I've met her mum 

[chronovore]

"met" --   

[MyNameIsMethodis]

couldnt come from a handjob last night

im not a man

[Mupepe]

was it a bad HJ?  I bet she had no consistency.  She was probably changing tempo every few seconds wasn't she?  You're concentrating, concentrating, almost there... why the hell did you slow down???  Understandable.  You just need to teach her how to J you O.

[MyNameIsMethodis]

was it a bad HJ?  I bet she had no consistency.  She was probably changing tempo every few seconds wasn't she?  You're concentrating, concentrating, almost there... why the hell did you slow down???  Understandable.  You just need to teach her how to J you O.

ya it was p shit. but props to her she kept trying for atleast a hour lmao.

[brawndolicious]

I mean you're naked in front of each other, you probably trust each other enough to get constructive criticism. Plus it feels better to get told what to do than to try for an hour and not get anything.

[Mupepe]

Why are we blaming the woman here? You failed at communicating. Explaining to someone how to jack you off is a test of your leadership ability.

My final comment says "you need to teach her how to J you O"

Sex in general is bad if there's no communication. 

All they really need is a "slow down" or "go faster" or "squeeze tighter" here and there and 98% of the issues will be cleared up with HJ's.

[Steve Contra]

Handjobs

[MyNameIsMethodis]

i did tell her what to do 

[Bebpo]

My problem right now is that I'm not finding most women attractive/creating interest :\  I'm seeing someone casually (not committed, dating for a couple of months now, probably going to end it soon cause she's controlling, I'm busy, and I'm not particularly into her), but it's getting hard to feel excited about getting back into the dating world when most women aren't interesting me.  I feel like I've gotten pickier and pickier over the years instead of what should be the opposite.  Every time I date or have a fling with someone who falls into my super tiny niche of the kind of girls I like, it pushes this idea that "there are girls just my type out there" and makes me focus more on that small niche group and be less and less attracted to all other types of girls. 

Right now it's like if you aren't shorter than me (so 5'2" or smaller), pale, have tattoos, neat piercings or crazy hair, and would be down to marathon horror movies, go to live shows or play Suda51 games with me...I'm not going to be attracted.  I can look through a hundred profiles of girls on OKC and not see a single person I'm attracted to.  I see all these good looking guys with great beards but I hardly see any good looking girls.  It just seems like there's great looking guys everywhere these days but great looking girls are getting more and more scarce in the world.

I've been in enough relationships that I know looks aren't that important in the scheme of things, but they're kind of what pulls you in for the first contact unless you happen to meet in a work/hobby/school situation.  It's hard to muster up enthusiasm to approach someone in online dating that I don't find attractive. 

In terms of finding solutions to get less picky, especially on physical attraction, I'm thinking about just making friends with a lot of people on online dating and cold contacting people on the street and not go in looking to date them and maybe as I get to know some of them I'll find connections that will get me interested in them.  Never tried trying actively to be friends instead of date before (doesn't mean it hasn't happened by accident many of times), so, I'm curious to where it goes.

Are there any good ways to become less picky about your "type"?  I can't even watch porn anymore, 99% of the girls don't do anything for me :\ 

PS.  Since I know how this will read to a lot of people, especially on this forum, I'm still not into guys either. 

[BobFromPikeCreek]

Right now it's like if you aren't shorter than me (so 5'2" or smaller), pale, have tattoos, neat piercings or crazy hair, and would be down to marathon horror movies, go to live shows or play Suda51 games with me...I'm not going to be attracted.

 

[Steve Contra]

Right now it's like if you aren't shorter than me (so 5'2" or smaller), pale, have tattoos, neat piercings or crazy hair, and would be down to marathon horror movies, go to live shows or play Suda51 games with me...I'm not going to be attracted.

 

I'll second that

[Bebpo]

Looking for advice, not critiques on the types of girls I'm into.  Everyone's got their own preferences!   

[Steve Contra]

It's not a critique of the girls, it's a critique of the narrowness of your tastes.

[Phoenix Dark]

Right now it's like if you aren't shorter than me (so 5'2" or smaller), pale, have tattoos, neat piercings or crazy hair, and would be down to marathon horror movies, go to live shows or play Suda51 games with me...I'm not going to be attracted.

 

please tell me this is real

[Steve Contra]

Right now it's like if you aren't shorter than me (so 5'2" or smaller), pale, have tattoos, neat piercings or crazy hair, and would be down to marathon horror movies, go to live shows or play Suda51 games with me...I'm not going to be attracted.

 

please tell me this is real

It's in Bebpo's post, like 4 up.

[Bebpo]

It's not a critique of the girls, it's a critique of the narrowness of your tastes.

That's why I'm looking for advice in order to become less picky/narrow.

My type of girls I've always been in interested started out broad, but as I dated more and more girls I found more and more what I liked/preferred about them and kept narrowing down what I liked about them and it's gotten really narrow picky at this point and I need to figure out how to get broaden it back up and start being more attracted to girls who aren't exactly my "type"