Rahx, experience is the answer to diminishing fear. Keep trying, keep putting yourself out there. I know how it is to live in your head and calculating all the variables but, when you're into someone and someone is into you all those things go away and you flow. This is the human experience angle that will never be translated to online dating. Make a point to be out there in society doing what you may love, and hopefully meeting people in the process. Exposure and experience.
Thank You.
And I do think over the past year I’ve become a bit better. I am continuing to be more social and outgoing. Even my coworkers and friends comment that I seem to be happier and giving off better energy. Now my friends have always said I give off good energy(though a bit of an aquired taste), but it’s a bit better now. And in general I feel a lot better about myself. I’m a lot more comfortable with my appearance and personality now then ever before. In general I think I’m a pretty cool person.
I’d like to say thanks to the bore and life itself I’ve improved my perspective on things.
When I say I’m afraid of women I don’t mean literally. I have plenty of female friends and even took one who maybe a friends with benefits on a date like last week. But I’m comfortable with them so it’s whatever. They know me.
It’s when I go out and meet new people that I get I guess nervous.
I go out to bars and dance places and there’s bound to be girls who are interested in me as I’m not ugly and give off positive vibes. But when I notice them or my friends notice them noticing me I just kind of freak and ignore them. Last night a girl basically stared into my soul and smiled and I was just like “have to run back to my bros now”.
I don’t know what it is. I just feel like when it comes to interacting with new people it’s a struggle.
