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Title: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: The Fake Shemp on May 22, 2008, 02:20:16 AM
He's almost 28-years-old.  She just turned 19-years-old.  They've been dating for like seven months.  She is going to go off to college.  He will likely be shooting a movie and then doing post-production in Los Angeles.

Winning formula for success, no?
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: crimsondynamics on May 22, 2008, 02:22:08 AM
That's not the terrible part. The terrible part comes about 5 months later. It's called divorce.

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Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: TVC15 on May 22, 2008, 02:31:32 AM
That's incredibly dumb.  If he's only 28, he should probably know that people really don't stabilize until their mid-20s, at least.
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: crimsondynamics on May 22, 2008, 02:35:19 AM
Also, women are at their sexual prime when they are 26; men peak much earlier.

Once she's 26, he'd better still be able to deliver the goods. Just saying.
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: The Fake Shemp on May 22, 2008, 02:40:00 AM
Quote from: TVC 15 on May 22, 2008, 02:31:32 AM
That's incredibly dumb.  If he's only 28, he should probably know that people really don't stabilize until their mid-20s, at least.

Ding! Ding! Ding!

He's a product of conservative, Red State homeschoolin', by the way.  Let that be a lesson to you all.
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: Bildi on May 22, 2008, 02:42:25 AM
19?

High fives all 'round!

I do think he's unequivocally distinguished mentally-challenged for getting married though.
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: The Fake Shemp on May 22, 2008, 02:43:08 AM
I just think this whole arrangement will end in tears once she goes to college and realizes that she has had a narrow view of life and sexuality - only to sleep around on him.
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: The Fake Shemp on May 22, 2008, 02:51:22 AM
The age gap isn't such a big deal once both folks are into their 30s, but 18 to 24-years-old is such a formative time in a young adult's life that it's impossible to gauge that the person you get engaged to is the same person you're married to a few years later.  I think it's silly.

But I also think the guy has huge self-esteem issues and is a few thousand dollars away in therapy bills from dealing with emotional issues that are key to a good relationship, so he's settling.
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: Mandark on May 22, 2008, 02:56:33 AM
Sounds like maybe they wanted to do something that would cement the relationship before they spent time apart from each other.  That would be a bad idea.  Marriage should be a public announcement of a commitment that the two people have already agreed on and become comfortable with in private.

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Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: Polari on May 22, 2008, 06:03:56 AM
Tell your former friend he's a distinguished mentally-challenged fellow. Sometimes it has to be done, if only so you can bask in the glory of having been right all along when it blows up in his face.
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: crimsondynamics on May 22, 2008, 06:07:31 AM
Actually, if it's your former friend, why do you even care? Just curious...
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: CrystalGemini on May 22, 2008, 06:40:45 AM
Well if he's dumb enough to fall into Scientology this really doesn't surprise me one bit.
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: Mupepe on May 22, 2008, 09:57:51 AM
No way would I ever get married again if the girl and I dated for any less than 4 years.  Hell, I wouldn't even begin to think about marriage before 4 years.  And that better be an amazing fucking four years, because if we had any big issues, you can guarantee it'd be a lot longer too.  What the fuck is wrong with people?  He's 28!  He should know better!  She's going to feel trapped and fuck someone else. 

On a side note, I can't wait til one of my close friends gets married.  She seems to have some idea that if she feigns ignorance over her relationship issues and gets married they'll disappear or something.  And they've never even lived together or had to really rely on each other.  Sounds like a High School relationship!  Huahuahuahua  I can't wait til we have the conversation I have with pretty much all my married friends.  They'll call me up all non-chalant and talk about some BS and then all of a sudden they're going to lay all their marital problems on me.  All my friends do it since I was the first in our circle to get married.  And I tell them all the same thing "I've been waiting for this conversation.  I couldn't tell you all of this before you got married but..."

:bow Marriage :bow2
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: bagofeyes on May 22, 2008, 09:58:25 AM
Married people are the dullest cunts to hang out with
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 22, 2008, 10:03:06 AM
Quote from: bagofeyes on May 22, 2008, 09:58:25 AM
Married people are the dullest cunts to hang out with

i dunno, drinky sounds like an entertaining man
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: Tauntaun on May 22, 2008, 10:08:51 AM
Quote from: bagofeyes on May 22, 2008, 09:58:25 AM
Married people are the dullest cunts to hang out with

 >:(
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: bagofeyes on May 22, 2008, 10:12:27 AM
Quote from: Tauntaun on May 22, 2008, 10:08:51 AM
Quote from: bagofeyes on May 22, 2008, 09:58:25 AM
Married people are the dullest cunts to hang out with

 >:(

No offence  :D

Just speaking from experience of hanging out with some married guys. Here's a tip though, other guys probably don't give a shit about hearing stories about your wife or your kids
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: Tauntaun on May 22, 2008, 10:16:16 AM
Quote from: bagofeyes on May 22, 2008, 10:12:27 AM
Quote from: Tauntaun on May 22, 2008, 10:08:51 AM
Quote from: bagofeyes on May 22, 2008, 09:58:25 AM
Married people are the dullest cunts to hang out with

 >:(

No offence  :D

Just speaking from experience of hanging out with some married guys. Here's a tip though, other guys probably don't give a shit about hearing stories about your wife or your kids

I don't do that when I hang out with my boys, we talk about video games and act gay. :hump
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: Brehvolution on May 22, 2008, 10:27:04 AM
She must be fucking hot because I can't fathom any other sensible reason for marrying someone as immature as a 19 year old.
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 22, 2008, 10:33:17 AM
Sometimes, you've got to lock that down.

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Quote from: Amber Lambchops on May 22, 2008, 10:03:06 AM

i dunno, drinky sounds like an entertaining man

Him?
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: Tauntaun on May 22, 2008, 10:36:18 AM
^ :lol


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Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: lordmaji on May 22, 2008, 10:43:03 AM
Your friend wont be having sex anymore.  :'( :maf
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 22, 2008, 10:46:09 AM
Quote from: lordmaji on May 22, 2008, 10:43:03 AM
Your friend wont be having sex anymore.  :'( :maf
Though his wife will.

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Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: lordmaji on May 22, 2008, 10:49:10 AM
Quote from: Malek: King of Kings on May 22, 2008, 10:46:09 AM
Quote from: lordmaji on May 22, 2008, 10:43:03 AM
Your friend wont be having sex anymore.  :'( :maf
Though his wife will.

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Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: xnikki118x on May 22, 2008, 02:04:26 PM
The age gap is too great at this point in their lives. It'll never last.
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: ToxicAdam on May 22, 2008, 02:12:21 PM
It's really hard to gauge what marriage will work and not work. I've seen people do it the "traditional" way (people of the same age live together for 5 years than marry) and they fail. Then I have seen 3 month quickie marriages (people of different backgrounds) last for 15-20 years.

A successful marriage boils down to two people willing to put forth an effort to avoid and correct the "downward spiral" that marriage turns into (due to human nature).
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: Tauntaun on May 22, 2008, 02:27:16 PM
Quote from: CrystalGemini on May 22, 2008, 06:40:45 AM
Well if he's dumb enough to fall into Scientology this really doesn't surprise me one bit.

Bail out.
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: Mr. Gundam on May 22, 2008, 02:27:36 PM
Quote from: bagofeyes on May 22, 2008, 09:58:25 AM
Married people are the dullest cunts to hang out with


>:( >:(

My wife and I dated for 2 1/2 years before we got married, and lived together for the year leading up to the wedding. I can't imagine getting hitched after knowing someone for four months, and the huge age/maturity gap just makes the situation even more disaster-prone.
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: Tauntaun on May 22, 2008, 02:28:45 PM
Quote from: distantmantra on May 22, 2008, 02:27:36 PM
Quote from: bagofeyes on May 22, 2008, 09:58:25 AM
Married people are the dullest cunts to hang out with


>:( >:(

Don't worry I put them nig in his place. :punch
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: Bildi on May 22, 2008, 10:27:22 PM
Quote from: Mupepe on May 22, 2008, 09:57:51 AM
No way would I ever get married again if the girl and I dated for any less than 4 years.  Hell, I wouldn't even begin to think about marriage before 4 years.  And that better be an amazing fucking four years, because if we had any big issues, you can guarantee it'd be a lot longer too.

Seriously, you're fucking awesome.  :bow Mupepe :bow2

Quote from: bagofeyes on May 22, 2008, 09:58:25 AM
Married people are the dullest cunts to hang out with

While that can be true, I don't find it's a guaranteed thing.  Generally speaking, them having a baby is a better indicator of the end of my friendship with them.

That said, one of my best friends has two kids.  But she knows I don't want to spend time with them and organises care for them if we're hanging out.  Which is pretty rare (she has two kids after all).
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: bork on May 22, 2008, 11:13:48 PM
Quote from: distantmantra on May 22, 2008, 02:27:36 PM
Quote from: bagofeyes on May 22, 2008, 09:58:25 AM
Married people are the dullest cunts to hang out with


>:( >:(

My wife and I dated for 2 1/2 years before we got married, and lived together for the year leading up to the wedding. I can't imagine getting hitched after knowing someone for four months, and the huge age/maturity gap just makes the situation even more disaster-prone.

It was even faster for me; we dated for about one year before I officially proposed (she wanted me to ask her parents, very traditional!), and we got married seven months later.  The only thing that worried me was living together, because my wife refused to move in with me until we got hitched.  I explained to her that living together beforehand would be a good way to gauge if the marriage would be good, but she is quite traditional and didn't want do to that.  Thankfully things have been fine; the biggest problem was TV time and that got solved after I got a computer monitor for my games and such.

But getting married after FOUR months of dating?!  The large age gap?  Not even living together??  What the hell is wrong with these people?  This has "disaster" written all over it.  Hell, my wife and I hit it off so well together, that after a month of dating I told her I liked her so much I would marry her, but that wasn't LITERAL.   :lol
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 22, 2008, 11:42:38 PM
Some people fall deeply in love and wind up together for a very long time. Problem is, that doesn't apply to many 18-28 year olds. I have a friend who falls in "love" with two guys a year only to suffer heart break a few months later. She blames herself for the failure but in reality the guys simply aren't interested in being with one chick. It's a vicious cycle and I'm glad I avoided it thus preserving the friendship. Relationships don't work when you're that young. There's no point
Title: Re: My former friend just did a terrible thing - he's getting married.
Post by: xnikki118x on May 23, 2008, 12:17:42 AM
I don't understand how people can be together for months and then decide to get married. I just can't comprehend it at all.