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General => The Superdeep Borehole => Topic started by: xnikki118x on November 16, 2008, 04:08:16 AM

Title: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: xnikki118x on November 16, 2008, 04:08:16 AM
He finally popped the question tonight. :) We've been together for 6 years and 7 months. This had been coming for a long time. I'm ecstatic! :) :) :)

 :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-*



ETA: Story and pictures.

He asked my parents' permission in July while I was in Nebraska with my friend Sadie. He bought the ring shortly after and had been trying to come up with a good way to ask me. He came up with two plans, both of which failed. He told me about plan #1 in the beginning of October and plan #2 the day after it failed.

1) He was going to take me to dinner and have my parents, his parents, his sister, and my brother there. He and our friend/his coworker Lisa went and looked at all these restaurants and he found a nice one. He told my parents of the plan, and my dad never got back to him with his work schedule, despite numerous reminders. My uncle got married on October 24 and he wanted to have this done way before the wedding, in like September at the latest.

2. He was going to propose on my birthday, 11-8, but he was going to wait until 12:30am, because he'd previously said he wouldn't propose on my birthday. He told his family of this plan and they were supposed to vacate the living room. We went to his house from mine at like 1am and his mother and sister were still in the living room. His mother was staying with his grandmother that night, and we're supposed to go over to her at 11pm, so I have no idea what she was doing 2 hours later lol. She left shortly after, but Courtney stayed awake and in the living room until 3 fucking 20 in the morning on her laptop watching TV. Be the time he got her to go in her room like he'd planned earlier, it was just too late. He was angry and upset about it because seriously, wtf with the two of them? Between my dad and his mom and sister, we were like never going to get engaged, lol.

He just gave it to me last night and asked for the honor of my spending my life with him. We were just in the living room on the couch watching TV. It was like 1am or so.

We told his parents this morning and they congratulated us. Then we came here and told my parents and my brother, more congratulations. Then we went to my grandma's for Pop's birthday (he's 67!) and showed the ring off to Pop, Gram, and my uncle Frank.

Now around 8 we're going to my best friend Marisa's so he can hook up a new computer for them. Now I get to show my other family! I'm really liking the whole showing off the ring deal. I can't wait for work on Tuesday!


THE RING:

(http://i226.photobucket.com/albums/dd293/xnikki118xatlj/me/engagement020b.jpg)

It's custom made. I picked out a nice ring at Van Scoy (local place I think) with Marisa, but James wanted to go to Bartikowski's (another local place) for it, so Marisa drew the Van Scoy ring for him and he had it custom made at Bartikowski's. Marquise cut, the side diamonds I fell in love with at Van Scoy, white and yellow gold, size 4.5. The center stone is a little bigger than I originally wanted actually, but it's not too big and I think it's just lovely. Too big would look weird on my tiny hands, but too small would be dwarfed by my massive knuckles. I love this ring and it's mine for my WHOLE LIFE!


THE HAPPY COUPLE:

(http://i226.photobucket.com/albums/dd293/xnikki118xatlj/me/engagement012b.jpg)

I don't know if he or I took this picture but I like how happy we look.

(http://i226.photobucket.com/albums/dd293/xnikki118xatlj/me/engagement025b.jpg)

We set my camera up on the couch to take a series of these.

Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are engaged!
Post by: Mandark on November 16, 2008, 04:09:26 AM
As soon as I read the title, I thought "that's gotta be posted by either Mupepe or Tauntaun.  Or maybe nikki I guess."



Congratulations.


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Post by: The Sceneman on November 16, 2008, 04:10:05 AM
wow, congratulations! :elephant

the longest Ive ever been with someone is 3 months!

best wishes to both of you
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Post by: Beezy on November 16, 2008, 04:15:19 AM
aaawwwwww :D
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Post by: MrAngryFace on November 16, 2008, 04:44:07 AM
How did he pop the question?
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Post by: demi on November 16, 2008, 04:51:56 AM
he put it in her butt
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Post by: MrAngryFace on November 16, 2008, 05:03:26 AM
 :o
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Post by: cool breeze on November 16, 2008, 05:12:54 AM
congrats

I am a bit curious if it was discussed beforehand or not.  It would be totally awesome if it was just random after 6+ years of never mentioning it.
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Post by: Tieno on November 16, 2008, 05:28:54 AM
Pics or it didn't happen.

Congrats! May you live a happy life.
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Post by: drozmight on November 16, 2008, 05:30:35 AM
Awesome  :)
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Post by: pilonv1 on November 16, 2008, 05:42:36 AM
a guy i worked with allegedy popped the question by having the ring around his cock before they were going to fuck. knowing the dude its not surprising and completely disgusting

but congrats though. my longest is my current one, about 5mths.
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are engaged!
Post by: MrAngryFace on November 16, 2008, 05:54:03 AM
a guy i worked with allegedy popped the question by having the ring around his cock before they were going to fuck. knowing the dude its not surprising and completely disgusting

but congrats though. my longest is my current one, about 5mths.

:teehee
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Post by: bork on November 16, 2008, 05:54:58 AM
Congratulations!   :)
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are engaged!
Post by: Fresh Prince on November 16, 2008, 06:04:45 AM
a guy i worked with allegedy popped the question by having the ring around his cock before they were going to fuck. knowing the dude its not surprising and completely disgusting

but congrats though. my longest is my current one, about 5mths.
Woah that's small.

Anyway congratultions.
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are engaged!
Post by: cloudwalking on November 16, 2008, 08:12:21 AM
wow, congrats guys!

you never hear about high school sweethearts getting married anymore... i think it's so awesome that you guys are finally engaged! it will be a really fun story to tell your kids when you're older. :)
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Post by: The Fake Shemp on November 16, 2008, 08:49:00 AM
Congrats, guys!  You better invite me, I'll come up and give you lavish presents!
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Post by: Human Snorenado on November 16, 2008, 08:57:26 AM
Congrats!  You guys will make a good married couple- you can lay down the law about any potential future ecro troll beards.
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Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on November 16, 2008, 09:25:54 AM
congrats
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Post by: G The Resurrected on November 16, 2008, 09:26:11 AM
CONGRATULATIONS!!!! I wish both of you great happiness in the future years you two will be spending time together in.
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Post by: Junpei the Tracer! on November 16, 2008, 10:39:03 AM
Congraturations.
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Post by: Van Cruncheon on November 16, 2008, 10:58:11 AM
congratulations!!!
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Post by: tiesto on November 16, 2008, 11:19:05 AM
Congrats, guys! I wish you the best of luck.
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Post by: Eric P on November 16, 2008, 12:04:28 PM
grats!
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Post by: Don Flamenco on November 16, 2008, 12:08:56 PM
congratulations! 
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Post by: Smooth Groove on November 16, 2008, 12:19:06 PM
Were you guys "careless"? 

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Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are engaged!
Post by: Tieno on November 16, 2008, 12:20:28 PM
STOMP TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(http://i4.bebo.com/031a/13/medium/2007/06/18/07/4232374409a4714972914m.jpg)
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Post by: Mr. Gundam on November 16, 2008, 01:53:38 PM
Congrats!
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Post by: max_cool on November 16, 2008, 02:05:19 PM
pfffft marriage is for the gays.
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Post by: Himu on November 16, 2008, 02:15:41 PM
awwwwwwwwwwww  :o

congrats!  :D
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are engaged!
Post by: MrAngryFace on November 16, 2008, 02:41:19 PM
pfffft marriage is for the gays.

:teehee
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are engaged!
Post by: MrAngryFace on November 16, 2008, 03:01:14 PM
I keep misreading this thread topic as: "ecrofirt and i are enraged!"
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Post by: E-DuB on November 16, 2008, 03:11:53 PM
Congrats Nikki!
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Post by: Bildi on November 16, 2008, 04:28:44 PM
:rock
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Post by: Bloodwake on November 16, 2008, 04:58:55 PM
Absolutely awesome!

Good luck guys!
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are engaged!
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 16, 2008, 05:04:10 PM
I keep misreading this thread topic as: "ecrofirt and i are enraged!"

This thread is not about Star Trek or personal lubricant.
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Post by: Rman on November 16, 2008, 05:04:47 PM
Congrats, guys. 
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are engaged!
Post by: xnikki118x on November 16, 2008, 07:06:17 PM
You guys are awesome. :)

I edited the original post with the story, and I added some pictures.

Thanks so much for all the congratulations and the well-wishes!


It had been discussed before. To death at times, actually, lol. We've been engaged on paper for over a year now, because he put me down as his fiance on his insurance stuff when he started working full time in like August of 07. Even before that we'd been talking. We knew we'd get married, it was just a matter of time to get engaged and what have you. It's certainly no surprise, but it feels good to finally be official.
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Post by: TVC15 on November 16, 2008, 07:08:59 PM
Congrats!
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Post by: Greatness Gone on November 16, 2008, 07:10:30 PM
You guys make a cute couple. Congratulations!
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are engaged!
Post by: xnikki118x on November 16, 2008, 07:13:18 PM
Me and my wife got married originally for the insurance. :lol

Dude, I thought about doing that and he said no, lol. I don't have health insurance right now and it sucks. I start paying back my student loans next month, and between those and the money I owe my dad every month for my phone and car insurance, I don't really have anything left. If I get really sick or something I am so so fucked.

A full time job might materialize in January. Let's hope! Hahaha.
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Post by: Brehvolution on November 16, 2008, 07:56:31 PM
So much metal in those pics. :-*

Congrats!
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Post by: Eel O'Brian on November 16, 2008, 07:57:42 PM
congratulations!
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Post by: laesperanzapaz on November 16, 2008, 08:02:21 PM
whatever you do

do not get kids
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Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 16, 2008, 08:05:17 PM
Grats I'm happy for you both :bow
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Post by: Akala on November 16, 2008, 08:05:23 PM
Congrats!
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Post by: BlueTsunami on November 16, 2008, 08:05:28 PM
I keep misreading this thread topic as: "ecrofirt and i are enraged!"

:lol

and Congrats you two!
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Post by: Arbys Roast Beef Sandwich on November 16, 2008, 08:08:40 PM
Congrats guys!
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Post by: Tauntaun on November 16, 2008, 08:55:16 PM
:hyper  That's awesome guys, may you have a long wonderful life together.

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Ecro, after the honeymoon grow your hair long dawg! :rock
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Post by: MCD on November 16, 2008, 09:37:02 PM
congrats.
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Post by: CurseoftheGods on November 16, 2008, 09:41:38 PM
You two are an adorable couple. Congratulations! :heart
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Post by: Eric P on November 16, 2008, 11:10:28 PM
:hyper  That's awesome guys, may you have a long wonderful life together.

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Ecro, after the honeymoon grow your hair long dawg! :rock
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ecro looks far less metal than i thought he would
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are engaged!
Post by: demi on November 16, 2008, 11:35:53 PM
Me and my wife got married originally for the insurance. :lol

Dude, I thought about doing that and he said no, lol. I don't have health insurance right now and it sucks. I start paying back my student loans next month, and between those and the money I owe my dad every month for my phone and car insurance, I don't really have anything left. If I get really sick or something I am so so fucked.

A full time job might materialize in January. Let's hope! Hahaha.

Maybe you should stop sleeping naked then, during this cold winter.
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Post by: hyp on November 16, 2008, 11:52:46 PM
congratulations you two!  marriage is all kinds of awesome. :rock
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Post by: laesperanzapaz on November 16, 2008, 11:55:27 PM
Grats I'm happy for you both :bow
arent you supposed to be, um, gone?

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Post by: BlackMage on November 17, 2008, 02:07:42 AM
what a shitty way to end a shitty day. my soul mate lost forever!  :'(
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Post by: Tristam on November 17, 2008, 03:08:29 AM
Congrats!
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Post by: castle007 on November 17, 2008, 03:20:50 AM
congrats  :D

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Post by: Cormacaroni on November 17, 2008, 10:19:17 AM
happy days! :D


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Post by: T234 on November 17, 2008, 11:34:26 AM
Congrats! Tell Ecro we miss him.
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Post by: Crushed on November 17, 2008, 11:40:44 AM
CONGLATURATION
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Post by: Ganhyun on November 17, 2008, 01:49:08 PM
Grats. Much grats.
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Post by: Mupepe on November 17, 2008, 06:59:26 PM
Oh shit.  Congrats!!!! I can't believe I missed the thread  :D
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Post by: chronovore on November 17, 2008, 07:34:43 PM
Congratulations!

Marriage is a hallowed institution, so don't go cheating on each other, with each other's Second Life avatars.  :-*
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Post by: muckhole on November 17, 2008, 09:38:58 PM
The real question now is, are we all invited to the wedding?
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Post by: TakingBackSunday on November 17, 2008, 09:39:27 PM
I never knew you two were together

cool stuff
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Post by: xnikki118x on November 18, 2008, 02:28:51 AM
Oh shit.  Congrats!!!! I can't believe I missed the thread  :D

I got your IM love. :)



The real question now is, are we all invited to the wedding?

Haha oh man would that be ridiculous.





Do you guys think it would be okay if I kept this thread around as wedding planning progresses? Like update it when something big/relevant happens or if we need your expertise? [I know a few of you are married!] Kind of like how the "who's drinking!?" thread is always resurrected?
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Post by: elektrikluv on November 18, 2008, 03:09:47 PM
Awww, congratulations!  :D
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: xnikki118x on January 05, 2009, 02:20:15 AM
So for those of you who are married, if you don't mind sharing, how many people did you invite? We won't be getting married until May of NEXT year, but I'd like to start doing a tentative guest list. It's pretty daunting because I have a big extended family, and family is important to me.

Also, looking back, is there anything you did or bought for your wedding that you wish you hadn't? Is there anything you didn't do that you wish you had? Have you ever been to a wedding where the bride and groom did something you thought was stupid? Please share! :)
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: demi on January 05, 2009, 03:18:35 AM
Do it in a small church with your closest friends and family.
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Post by: xnikki118x on January 05, 2009, 03:30:04 AM
Do it in a small church with your closest friends and family.

I'm pretty close to my extended family though, which presents a problem. And we're not doing a church wedding. I probably would if the church my grandparents and parents were married in was still open, but it's not. I don't identify myself with a particular religion anymore and James isn't religious at all, so he absolutely won't have a church wedding.
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Post by: cloudwalking on January 05, 2009, 03:37:19 AM
jarosh and i only had about 12 people at our actual wedding and 40 or so at the reception. we kept it to immediate family, grandparents, aunts/uncles + cousins, and close friends only. obviously not too much of my family made it to the wedding, although i invited them (i doubt many of them would have come even if it had been in the U.S., because a lot of my family members hate each other). i was happy with just my parents there.

just keep in mind that if you're inviting people to the ceremony, they are going to (rightfully) expect to be invited to the reception too. but you can get away with just inviting certain people to the reception and not the ceremony. if you're planning to have an apéro before the ceremony this can save you some $$$$.

a good rule i've always heard is to go down the list through parents and children. starting with grandparents, name all of their siblings and children. then do the same for parents. then siblings, etc. then name only your closest friends. that should be your core guest list.
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: xnikki118x on January 05, 2009, 03:55:44 AM
just keep in mind that if you're inviting people to the ceremony, they are going to (rightfully) expect to be invited to the reception too. but you can get away with just inviting certain people to the reception and not the ceremony.

Oh absolutely. I can't even imagine inviting people to the ceremony but not the reception. It's like "oh hey we can't afford to/don't want to feed you and party with you, but please come see us get married and bring an appropriate gift!" People on theknot ask about this all the time, inviting to the ceremony and not reception. Blows my MIND.

if you're planning to have an apéro before the ceremony this can save you some $$$$.
What is that? Anything that can save money makes my eyes go all wide! :) :) We're likely paying for this shindig ourselves, so every little bit helps.


a good rule i've always heard is to go down the list through parents and children. starting with grandparents, name all of their siblings and children. then do the same for parents. then siblings, etc. then name only your closest friends. that should be your core guest list.

This is an excellent idea, and it sure beats writing people down as I remember them! :D



12 people? That's just the bridal party for us! I think 5 on each side is a decent sized bridal party. It was important to me to not leave anyone close to me out, haha. =x In theory I could have stuck with my MOH and 2 close friends as bridesmaids, but I wanted Ecro's sister and also one of my cousins (who I still have to ask). We each only have one sibling, so I think it's important for both of them to be actually in the wedding.

If I could have a total guest list of 150 I'd be super thrilled, haha. Cutting people is going to be HARD.
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: cloudwalking on January 05, 2009, 04:03:07 AM
just keep in mind that if you're inviting people to the ceremony, they are going to (rightfully) expect to be invited to the reception too. but you can get away with just inviting certain people to the reception and not the ceremony.

Oh absolutely. I can't even imagine inviting people to the ceremony but not the reception. It's like "oh hey we can't afford to/don't want to feed you and party with you, but please come see us get married and bring an appropriate gift!" People on theknot ask about this all the time, inviting to the ceremony and not reception. Blows my MIND.

if you're planning to have an apéro before the ceremony this can save you some $$$$.
What is that? Anything that can save money makes my eyes go all wide! :) :) We're likely paying for this shindig ourselves, so every little bit helps.


a good rule i've always heard is to go down the list through parents and children. starting with grandparents, name all of their siblings and children. then do the same for parents. then siblings, etc. then name only your closest friends. that should be your core guest list.

This is an excellent idea, and it sure beats writing people down as I remember them! :D



12 people? That's just the bridal party for us! I think 5 on each side is a decent sized bridal party. It was important to me to not leave anyone close to me out, haha. =x In theory I could have stuck with my MOH and 2 close friends as bridesmaids, but I wanted Ecro's sister and also one of my cousins (who I still have to ask). We each only have one sibling, so I think it's important for both of them to be actually in the wedding.

If I could have a total guest list of 150 I'd be super thrilled, haha. Cutting people is going to be HARD.


a lot of people do the apéro here, it's like a small thing with hors d'oeuvres or dessert pastries and drinks like light champagne before or after the ceremony starts. it's to hold people over until the reception. if you're having an outdoor wedding in a warm month it's nice because people can get something cold to drink.

we didn't have a bridal party or anything like that but i suppose that jarosh's brother and his girlfriend were like the best man and maid of honor. our wedding was pretty informal. and it was cold... brrr october.
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Post by: xnikki118x on January 05, 2009, 04:17:23 AM
a lot of people do the apéro here, it's like a small thing with hors d'oeuvres or dessert pastries and drinks like light champagne before or after the ceremony starts. it's to hold people over until the reception. if you're having an outdoor wedding in a warm month it's nice because people can get something cold to drink.

we didn't have a bridal party or anything like that but i suppose that jarosh's brother and his girlfriend were like the best man and maid of honor. our wedding was pretty informal. and it was cold... brrr october.

Ah so like a cocktail hour! I don't understand how that saves money though? Unless you're talking about doing that instead of serving a meal. Then I understand haha.

For a long time I debated doing an October wedding. I like the fall colors probably even more than I like spring ones. My MOH would have been in a cranberry/dark red color and my bridesmaids would have been in a dark champagne/yellow/gold (but not metallic!) color. But for the past like 5 weddings in my family, 3 have been in October, and I wanted to do something different. Plus my parents got married in May. :)

My dream is either an outside summer wedding, or a beautiful winter wedding. But then what if it rains on your outside summer wedding? Or what if there's a huge snowstorm for your winter one? Too many weather variables there I think.

I'm hoping our wedding would be like semi-formal. We don't come from wealthy families, so black tie and black tie optional are absolutely 100% out of the question. I like cocktail attire/semi-formal though. I don't think anyone would show up in jeans or anything but it does make me nervous. Plus my planned dress, my mom's, is like super formal with a cathedral train and lots of intricate beading and stuff. I haven't tried it on yet--cross your fingers for me that I fit into it when I do!


Hory Carp!

congratulations to you both and all the best :)

is a date set?

Thank you! May of 2010, probably a Friday because it's cheaper. May of 2009 would be even better, but we just can't afford it so soon. Oh well. We'll have been together for 8 years by the time we get married, which is a pretty long time!
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: CajoleJuice on January 05, 2009, 04:55:20 AM
oh i didn't see this thread

congrats!

can i come? i've never been to a wedding. :(
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: drozmight on January 05, 2009, 07:43:38 AM
There is one thing I insist you have at your wedding, and that is bacon wrapped scallops.

OMG :'(  They are so good.
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: Madrun Badrun on January 05, 2009, 02:17:05 PM
I missed the thread.  Congrats! 
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Post by: Flannel Boy on January 05, 2009, 02:47:14 PM
Congrats guys.
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Post by: bud on January 05, 2009, 02:59:43 PM
congrats!

you're a cute couple.
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Post by: Bloodwake on January 05, 2009, 03:48:00 PM
My dad's second marriage was hilarious. Because I live in Kentucky and everyone and their brother has a religious wedding, it lasted an hour and a half with prayers. I was swerving and leaning because it was the middle of summer and I was trying to dodge the wasps flying around my head.

Later on, my dad and my uncle got drunk and they both fell in the pool. Epic. The suit rental place probably wasn't that crazy about the chlorine in their suits. My dad's a commonwealth attorney so it wasn't like they were cheap suits either.

My advice for weddings: Keep it simple. Have a thirty minute ceremony. My good friend just got married back home (tehjaybo was the best man) and the ceremony was extremely short. I'm not saying most people are like me, but I think people get the picture at the ceremony. If you want people to sing at your wedding, have it afterwards at the reception.

And it doesn't have to be formal. All I know is that if I ever get married, the wedding procession is going to be to the Yavin Throne Room music, because it's a great John Williams composition.

Good luck!
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Post by: dammitmattt on January 05, 2009, 04:58:45 PM
Congrats!!!

My wife and I just got married this summer and I was actively involved in the planning so let me know if you want any wedding planning tips.  Mine went off almost perfectly and I'm still getting complements to this day, but I learned a lot in the process and could've saved myself a few thousand $ and still had just as good of a wedding the next time around.  Here are some general tips that I learned, but everyone's experience is different:

- Get married at 5/6 pm or later...you want your wedding to be THE party for the evening so people will stay until the end
- Get a cool, young, talented videographer....my wife and I are much happier with our video than our pictures and it was 1/5 the cost
- Don't overspend on food, cake, and photography...you won't get to enjoy the food and cake and photographers are a dime a dozen
- Beer and wine is enough...don't feel pressured to have hard liquor...but make sure you have alcohol!!!
- For the love of God don't fly out too early for your honeymoon, and don't drive two hours to the airport on 3 hours of sleep (this was my biggest mistake)
- Make sure the venue has both indoor and outdoor areas...you need a space for the smokers and a place to get away...I would stay away from the hotel ballroom-type spaces for this very reason
- Practice your first dance and choose your song carefully (this was my second-biggest mistake...Brown-Eyed Girl is too damn fast for my meager dancing skills)
- Get a band if you can...any good band leader will be a great party leader
- Spend as much time as possible with your vendors...the more they know you, the better job they'll do and the more personalized it will be
- Go all-inclusive if at all possible on your vacation and get it paid off well in advance...the last thing you want to worry about on your honeymoon is money (and while you're at it, both of you need to get tan before the honeymoon so you don't have to hide from the sun...if you're doing something tropical)
- Get your venues booked asap...there are plenty of vendors out there
- Negotiate with your vendors...I saved myself at least a thousand $ through (pleasant) negotiations

Best of luck planning!  My wife and I did it in 3-4 months, so don't listen to people that say you need a year or longer.

EDIT: I forgot to add this, but we had 125ish people involved in our wedding, which was a good size.  I'd say you want to keep it under 150, especially if money is a big obstacle.  Don't have a formal dinner.  That's usually kind of boring.  Hors d oeuvres and some scattered tables where people can sit and/or lean against is good enough.

EDIT2: Demi...I've got some sweet honeymoon videos too...
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: demi on January 05, 2009, 05:01:40 PM
Also record the honeymoon and PM me thanks...
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: dammitmattt on January 05, 2009, 05:06:59 PM
All I know is that if I ever get married, the wedding procession is going to be to the Yavin Throne Room music, because it's a great John Williams composition.

I'm sorry to inform you that unless you're a girl, the chances of this happening are extremely fucking slim.
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: dammitmattt on January 05, 2009, 05:27:13 PM
Yeah...not happening.  Although our recessional was Girl/Boy song by Aphex Twin :-[

That is infinitely cooler than Godhand  ;)
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Post by: MCD on January 05, 2009, 05:30:35 PM
Congrats.
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: Lone on January 05, 2009, 06:00:24 PM
DM, I did a search, and found no mention of Tetris Cake.  SHAME.
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: Mr. Gundam on January 05, 2009, 06:04:39 PM
All I know is that if I ever get married, the wedding procession is going to be to the Yavin Throne Room music, because it's a great John Williams composition.

I'm sorry to inform you that unless you're a girl, the chances of this happening are extremely fucking slim.

Friends of mine got married last month, and their procession was the Yavin Throne Room music, and it was the bride's idea. My wife and I were in wedding party, so as we're walking down the aisle out of the church, she let out a wookie roar. It was great.

Our wedding processional song as we walked out was the Peanuts theme song.
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: Lone on January 05, 2009, 06:07:56 PM
All I know is that if I ever get married, the wedding procession is going to be to the Yavin Throne Room music, because it's a great John Williams composition.

I'm sorry to inform you that unless you're a girl, the chances of this happening are extremely fucking slim.

Friends of mine got married last month, and their procession was the Yavin Throne Room music, and it was the bride's idea. My wife and I were in wedding party, so as we're walking down the aisle out of the church, she let out a wookie roar. It was great.

(http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v328/VanillaFire1000/CricketHeadExplode.gif)
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: Ninja on January 05, 2009, 06:36:42 PM
Congrats! :D
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Post by: Diunx on January 05, 2009, 07:51:47 PM
Congratulations!
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: dammitmattt on January 05, 2009, 08:08:37 PM
DM, I did a search, and found no mention of Tetris Cake.  SHAME.

I think I put it in a the "show pics of yourself thread."  If not, I will sometime.  That was a great surprise.

In other news, where the hell is the "star"?!?!?!?
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: drozmight on January 06, 2009, 12:01:30 AM
All I know is that if I ever get married, the wedding procession is going to be to the Yavin Throne Room music, because it's a great John Williams composition.

I'm sorry to inform you that unless you're a girl, the chances of this happening are extremely fucking slim.

Friends of mine got married last month, and their procession was the Yavin Throne Room music, and it was the bride's idea. My wife and I were in wedding party, so as we're walking down the aisle out of the church, she let out a wookie roar. It was great.

Our wedding processional song as we walked out was the Peanuts theme song.

Your friend married a wookie?
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: xnikki118x on January 06, 2009, 01:27:51 AM
All I know is that if I ever get married, the wedding procession is going to be to the Yavin Throne Room music, because it's a great John Williams composition.

I always wanted to incorporate that into my wedding somehow, but I never talked to Ecro about it. Hmmmmm.



I'm thinking about just doing beer and wine as opposed to a full bar. I toyed with doing a dry reception for a while but my mother said absolutely not, she'd pay for the alcohol even. Then my friend got married on the 27th and there was no alcohol at her wedding, and like half her guests left right after dinner. I bet it had something to do with the fact that there was no booze. So definitely some kind of alcohol for us, haha. If there will be hard liquor, it will probably be for the cocktail hour only if that saves money.

We're definitely serving a full meal, because that's just what my family does. No seafood at all--I'm allergic and the last thing I need on my wedding day is some kind of contamination nightmare that lands me in the ER unable to breathe. [Although that would make for an excellent story later on!]

We won't be doing a sit-down meal, it will be a buffet. I've spent years working in foodservice and now I work in catering. Sit-downs are plated too early in advance too often, you don't get enough to eat, and if you're a picky eater like me it sucks. I'd much rather a buffet. However, we might have the head table do a family-style where you pass dishes or be served, and everyone else will go buffet, just because I worry about spilling shit on myself. You can dress me up, but you can't take me out. :)

We have a friend who is a dancer by profession and I hope she can help us with our first dance. James and I have been to many formals together--the whole high school sweetheart thing--and we always just kind of sway and move around during slow dances haha. I don't wanna do that when people are actually watching me. Oh, and I step on his feet a lot. I hope our friend can remedy this. We have lots of time to practice which is good!

I'd like to get our vendors booked as soon as possible, but right now we just can't afford it, which is just making me pull my hair out whenever I think about it. I make less than my bills are right now, Ecro pays what I can't, and he's also paying his parents to live there. Our whole financial situation just sucks so hardcore. I've been researching and some vendors need like half the cost upfront to book your date. :'(


Mantra: I love the Peanuts theme!
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: Lone on January 06, 2009, 10:47:31 AM
DM, I did a search, and found no mention of Tetris Cake.  SHAME.

I think I put it in a the "show pics of yourself thread."  If not, I will sometime.  That was a great surprise.

In other news, where the hell is the "star"?!?!?!?

Probably cause of the other Lonestar..or I just wanted to shorten it.  Which I've done at other places.
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: Mr. Gundam on January 06, 2009, 02:59:09 PM
I'm thinking about just doing beer and wine as opposed to a full bar. I toyed with doing a dry reception for a while but my mother said absolutely not, she'd pay for the alcohol even. Then my friend got married on the 27th and there was no alcohol at her wedding, and like half her guests left right after dinner. I bet it had something to do with the fact that there was no booze. So definitely some kind of alcohol for us, haha. If there will be hard liquor, it will probably be for the cocktail hour only if that saves money.

We're definitely serving a full meal, because that's just what my family does. No seafood at all--I'm allergic and the last thing I need on my wedding day is some kind of contamination nightmare that lands me in the ER unable to breathe. [Although that would make for an excellent story later on!]

We won't be doing a sit-down meal, it will be a buffet. I've spent years working in foodservice and now I work in catering. Sit-downs are plated too early in advance too often, you don't get enough to eat, and if you're a picky eater like me it sucks. I'd much rather a buffet. However, we might have the head table do a family-style where you pass dishes or be served, and everyone else will go buffet, just because I worry about spilling shit on myself. You can dress me up, but you can't take me out. Smiley

We had an open bar and sit down meal at my wedding. My father-in-law insisted on having the open bar (hey, he was paying for it, so I wasn't going to argue) since he had people from work at the wedding, and the place we had the reception at (Omaha Press Club, it was FREE to use since my father in law is a retired member of the press) required that you use their food services. Since the kitchen was on site, everything was great when we were seated.

HOWEVER.

The wedding I went to the first weekend in December was beer and wine only. They had red and white wine, and kegs of the bride's favorite beers (Stella Artois and Miller Lite). No one complained, seeing how it was free. They also had a buffet, which worked out really well.

My opinion is you need food of some sort (my sister's first wedding was cake only, that was not cool), and at least champagne for a toast. I went to wedding that had a cash bar, which honestly doesn't bother me. What bothered me was that if you wanted champagne for the toast, you had to buy a glass of it. That's the epitome of cheap.
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Post by: dammitmattt on January 06, 2009, 04:21:31 PM
I still say that having (substantial) hors d'oeuvres is good enough and encourages people to get up off their asses, mingle, dance, drink, etc.  We had plenty of real food at my wedding so it's not like anyone was hungry.  Just make sure to mark off tables for your family/friends with special needs or kids.  A buffet is the next-best option but it's not fun at all sitting in a long line, waiting for your food.

I think a full sit-down dinner with service really slows things down and screws up the whole "party" vibe you're going after because so many people tend to leave after the meal in the lull between the meal and the rest of the events.  HOWEVER, at some venues, you're pretty much stuck with this so you can make the most of it by working with the on-site coordinator and bands to keep things moving and exciting while your guests are stuffing their faces.

I can't imagine people charging even for the damn toast.  That's beyond lame.  Even if you can't afford a bar, at the very least you should buy a few cases and have coolers off to the side and buy your guests some damn champagne.
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: demi on January 06, 2009, 04:23:27 PM
make sure you have jello shots so i can do them off your [sister/aunt/niece/daughter/mother/grandmother]'s stomach in the heat of things
Title: Re: ecrofirt and i are planning a wedding!
Post by: xnikki118x on January 08, 2009, 03:30:39 AM
The wedding I went to the first weekend in December was beer and wine only. They had red and white wine, and kegs of the bride's favorite beers (Stella Artois and Miller Lite). No one complained, seeing how it was free. They also had a buffet, which worked out really well.

My opinion is you need food of some sort (my sister's first wedding was cake only, that was not cool), and at least champagne for a toast. I went to wedding that had a cash bar, which honestly doesn't bother me. What bothered me was that if you wanted champagne for the toast, you had to buy a glass of it. That's the epitome of cheap.

I wonder how much a keg of James's favorite beer would be. Pretty damn expensive I'm sure--he loves that Terrible stuff and it's like 80-some dollars for a case!

Cake and punch receptions bother me a little. From what I understand, they're common in certain faiths and large churches because all church members come to the ceremony, so they stay for cake and punch afterward. I get hungry quickly though and eat something every few hours. I can't imagine having guests for a ceremony and reception and only feeding them something light. Heavy appetizers is as "light" as I would be comfortable going, and even then said appetizers would consist of like chicken finger things and pizza slices and shit.

I don't like the idea of cash bars. They're widely thought of as pretty tacky and while some people won't care about them, some will and I don't want people talking ill about my wedding. I personally wouldn't care if I went to a wedding with a cash bar, but lots of people do. I think a nice compromise is to have beer and wine available for free, but charge for mixed drinks and liquor. Charging for the champagne toast seems ASININE to me!