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Title: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on June 22, 2009, 03:19:19 PM: I have enjoyed the transition from teen angst to twentysomething angst. In just three short years I will be making another transition, and I'd like to hear some thoughts from those who've already experienced it on what I have to look forward to.
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Tauntaun on June 22, 2009, 03:34:37 PM: 30? You old nukka?
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Post by: The Fake Shemp on June 22, 2009, 03:45:56 PM: I think its time to commit seppuku. Do you really want to end up like ToxicAdam?
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Post by: Joe Molotov on June 22, 2009, 04:08:00 PM: I could go in for an Evilbore thirtysomething suicide pact.
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Tauntaun on June 22, 2009, 05:46:02 PM: I just realized thirtysomething was in the title. Tauntaun am fail. :'(

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Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Powerslave on June 22, 2009, 05:48:54 PM: We should all join up and do something awesome that will brighten our boring lives up.
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Tauntaun on June 22, 2009, 05:50:52 PM: Wacken. :rock
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Powerslave on June 22, 2009, 05:51:25 PM: Wacken is 'wack' this year :(

But I was serious with my last post.
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Post by: Tauntaun on June 22, 2009, 05:57:10 PM: It is? :maf gay

I might be in Europe next summer. :-* :-*
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Bildi on June 22, 2009, 06:07:36 PM: Biggest downside is that if you want to go out with a teenager it's "eww cradle-snatching" as opposed to when you were 29 and it was "high five dude".

There really are no other downsides.
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Reb on June 23, 2009, 07:13:14 AM: Quote from: Bildi on June 22, 2009, 06:07:36 PM
Biggest downside is that if you want to go out with a teenager it's "eww cradle-snatching" as opposed to when you were 29 and it was "high five dude".

There really are no other downsides.

Body falling apart.
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Dickie Dee on June 23, 2009, 08:45:35 AM: 29 here :'(

[youtube=560,345]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PV7bxC0UVMM[/youtube]

Everyone's leaving me behind :'(
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: T-Short on June 23, 2009, 09:20:30 AM: yep, I turned 29 today, feeling some of this as well, inevitably.
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Akala on June 23, 2009, 01:11:17 PM: Quote from: Hyoushi on June 23, 2009, 09:20:30 AM
yep, I turned 29 today, feeling some of this as well, inevitably.

Happy birthday! I hit 29 in May. One more year. :'(
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Robo on June 23, 2009, 01:20:24 PM: Quote from: Hyoushi on June 23, 2009, 09:20:30 AM
yep, I turned 29 today, feeling some of this as well, inevitably.

Happy birthday!
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Guybrush Threepwood on June 23, 2009, 07:08:58 PM: Jason Alexander was 31 I think in this picture:

(http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/a/a5/Sein_ep306.jpg)

Just saying.
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: ToxicAdam on June 23, 2009, 09:30:26 PM: I really don't miss staying up to 4am pondering the meaning of existence or staring at the mirror obssessing over every little flaw.

Bread and wine tastes a lot better, too.
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Bocsius on June 23, 2009, 09:32:04 PM: I believe it was the old poet Kurt Cobain who once penned "teenage angst has paid off well, now I'm bored and old." Wise words.

Of course, Courtney Love killed him before he ever reached 30. Very tragic.
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: muckhole on June 23, 2009, 09:44:07 PM: I hate all of you. There's your angst!
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on June 23, 2009, 10:16:03 PM: I'm not liking the mid 20s too much.

I feel that I'm getting too old to nail college chicks yet I have no plan to ever really get married, which some women my age want to do right now. I'm doing great money-wise but I'm at the bottom of the totem pole of the company with no real light at the end of the tunnel. It seems like working 7-5 shifts will be going on forever. As soon as one project ends, another one starts. I've started putting away money into savings and 401k for retirement and for later use. Then I :-/ at the thought that I'm already, in my own way, planning to be in my mid 60s, having my ass wiped by a nurse in a retirement home. I hope he's hot.

I'd like to get to 30 as soon as possible. By that time, given divorce rates, the pool of good looking but freshly divorced women wanting nothing to do with marriage will increase. Also, I should have a few pay raises and promotions, to where I can work 40 hours a week for a change.

Just a thought.
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Boogie on June 23, 2009, 10:24:04 PM: Quote from: T EXP on June 23, 2009, 10:16:03 PM

I feel that I'm getting too old to nail college chicks

Yes :-\

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yet I have no plan to ever really get married,

Well, I do want to get married.

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I'm doing great money-wise

Yes

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but I'm at the bottom of the totem pole of the company

also yes, but that's not so bad for me

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with no real light at the end of the tunnel.

Too early to say that for me. I'd say I have a good chance of advancement if I play my cards right.

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It seems like working 7-5 shifts will be going on forever. As soon as one project ends, another one starts.

I don't have a problem with this. But then, my projects are probably more interesting than yours. ;)

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I've started putting away money into savings and 401k for retirement and for later use.

I really should save more. But then, I've been focussing on killing off my student debt (gone by September! woot!) On the other hand, I have a guaranteed pension awaiting me upon retirement, so me saving would really just be something to bump up my retirement Standard of Living, not really a requirement.

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Then I :-/ at the thought that I'm already, in my own way, planning to be in my mid 60s, having my ass wiped by a nurse in a retirement home. I hope he's hot.

Ya, that thought sucks, but I'll be damned if I end up in a retirement home. I'll die at age 86, self-sufficient to the day I die, so help me God.
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: demi on June 23, 2009, 10:31:28 PM: Your cock will begin to shrink and make you hate yourself even more
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Fresh Prince on June 23, 2009, 10:33:54 PM: Quote from: T EXP on June 23, 2009, 10:16:03 PM
I feel that I'm getting too old to nail college chicks
Maybe

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yet I have no plan to ever really get married,

Maybe in my mid 30's

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I'm doing great money-wise

Yes

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but I'm at the bottom of the totem pole of the company
Not really

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with no real light at the end of the tunnel.
Nah I'd say I've got a good chance it just things happen toooo slllowwwllly

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It seems like working 7-5 shifts will be going on forever. As soon as one project ends, another one starts.
7:30-4 I like

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I've started putting away money into savings and 401k for retirement and for later use.
Yep, stfu demi about being fiscally responsible.

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Then I :-/ at the thought that I'm already, in my own way, planning to be in my mid 60s, having my ass wiped by a nurse in a retirement home. I hope he's hot.
I don't think about that, I think about right now.

I feel pretty good about my life.
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on June 24, 2009, 06:28:50 AM: Quote
make you hate yourself even more

i didn't think that was even possible :-\
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: tiesto on June 24, 2009, 11:11:24 AM: I'm gonna turn 27 next month and people are already giving me shit for wanting to go out with college girls... also I get shit from one group of friends that say "you should go out with a fat girl, it's all about whether or not you click, not what she looks like", and another group that says "you can do better than X girl". Stuff like that really mixes up my standards. Also, I tend to really go for the 'girl next door' type, and some friends think this isn't compatible with my personality at all.

I'm having a bit of a late-20's angst myself - my job is good and I make good money, I put 16% (plus 4% that the company matches) towards a 401k.But, I still can't afford a place of my own, so I still live at home (like many of my peers), my dating life has come to a standstill this year, my friends want to do nothing more but go to the same bars and restaurants over and over, I feel one of my favorite hobbies of the past is passing me by (gaming) and leaving me by the wayside... only thing that has been interesting to me lately is discovering new music.

I do want to get married, but I don't think it will happen any time soon since I haven't met anyone. I'm worried that I will end up with a 30+ year old with 2 kids or someone who has 'been around the block' multiple times.
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Bildi on June 24, 2009, 07:19:10 PM: Quote from: Kosma on June 24, 2009, 04:37:42 AM
Quote from: Bildi on June 22, 2009, 06:07:36 PM
Biggest downside is that if you want to go out with a teenager it's "eww cradle-snatching" as opposed to when you were 29 and it was "high five dude".

There really are no other downsides.

I will always high five you on that. Always.

Thanks boo. :-[
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: border on June 24, 2009, 07:57:32 PM: Turn 30 in December. If 30's angst is any worse than 20's angst, I doubt I'll see 40.
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: The Fake Shemp on June 24, 2009, 07:58:15 PM: Just commit seppuku.
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 24, 2009, 08:08:46 PM: seppuku pact!

Manabyte can't join because he'll just chicken out.
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: chronovore on June 24, 2009, 08:52:10 PM: 30's angst? I thought this would be just that momentary transition from 29 to 30 that a lot of people freak out about. So many of my friends freaked out badly enough that I assumed it would happen to me as well. It came and went, and I didn't feel any different. Same thing with 40, though I'm honestly wishing for more time with my wife, going out and stuff like that. I also wish I had enough spare time and local friends to run a tabletop RPG, but that appears to be the extent of my personal pathetic-ness.

When I look back on the people who freaked out, I think it mainly happened because they were unhappy with what they had at that stage of their life, and they saw themselves carrying that inadequacy into what they perceived to be the next stage of their life. But the 10 year marks are purely a psychological construct, onto which they attached additional problems, which only resulted in magnifying them. Instead of appreciating what they have, they focused on what they hadn't managed to achieve yet, and set themselves up for more stress and feelings of inadequacy.

That said, it might be nice to bang some college girls.
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on June 24, 2009, 08:57:32 PM: twa*;dr

more angst plz

* well-adjusted
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Bebpo on June 24, 2009, 09:56:26 PM: Quote from: tiesto on June 24, 2009, 11:11:24 AM
I'm gonna turn 27 next month and people are already giving me shit for wanting to go out with college girls... also I get shit from one group of friends that say "you should go out with a fat girl, it's all about whether or not you click, not what she looks like", and another group that says "you can do better than X girl". Stuff like that really mixes up my standards. Also, I tend to really go for the 'girl next door' type, and some friends think this isn't compatible with my personality at all.

I'm having a bit of a late-20's angst myself - my job is good and I make good money, I put 16% (plus 4% that the company matches) towards a 401k.But, I still can't afford a place of my own, so I still live at home (like many of my peers), my dating life has come to a standstill this year, my friends want to do nothing more but go to the same bars and restaurants over and over, I feel one of my favorite hobbies of the past is passing me by (gaming) and leaving me by the wayside... only thing that has been interesting to me lately is discovering new music.

I do want to get married, but I don't think it will happen any time soon since I haven't met anyone. I'm worried that I will end up with a 30+ year old with 2 kids or someone who has 'been around the block' multiple times.

Experiment with new hobbies, foods, explore new places. I have sort of a similar situation and that's what I've been doing to keep life interesting. I can't deal with days being the same thing over and over. I need to keep trying new things. There's not-surprisingly enough things in this world that you don't run out quickly!
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Barry Egan on June 24, 2009, 10:21:48 PM: I've been working overtime on my twentysomething angst so I could just get it all out of the way early on. That's how it works, right?
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: chronovore on June 24, 2009, 10:37:23 PM: Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on June 24, 2009, 08:57:32 PM
twa*;dr

more angst plz

* well-adjusted

:-*

Hey, I voted for illicit sex!
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: tiesto on June 25, 2009, 10:30:13 AM: Quote from: chronovore on June 24, 2009, 08:52:10 PM
30's angst? I thought this would be just that momentary transition from 29 to 30 that a lot of people freak out about. So many of my friends freaked out badly enough that I assumed it would happen to me as well. It came and went, and I didn't feel any different. Same thing with 40, though I'm honestly wishing for more time with my wife, going out and stuff like that. I also wish I had enough spare time and local friends to run a tabletop RPG, but that appears to be the extent of my personal pathetic-ness.

You're over 40? :o
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Robo on June 25, 2009, 01:37:24 PM: I kinda enjoy my 20-something angst, although I hope my 30-something angst is a lot more productive/destructive.
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Cyanista on June 25, 2009, 04:47:45 PM: Quote from: Hyoushi on June 23, 2009, 09:20:30 AM
yep, I turned 29 today, feeling some of this as well, inevitably.

Happy birthday! I turn 29 in a week. I still get carded for alcohol and smoking trappings when I go out without makeup, so I'm not sure what there is to be angsty about.

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Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: chronovore on June 26, 2009, 02:00:49 AM: Quote from: tiesto on June 25, 2009, 10:30:13 AM
Quote from: chronovore on June 24, 2009, 08:52:10 PM
30's angst? I thought this would be just that momentary transition from 29 to 30 that a lot of people freak out about. So many of my friends freaked out badly enough that I assumed it would happen to me as well. It came and went, and I didn't feel any different. Same thing with 40, though I'm honestly wishing for more time with my wife, going out and stuff like that. I also wish I had enough spare time and local friends to run a tabletop RPG, but that appears to be the extent of my personal pathetic-ness.

You're over 40? :o

Yeah, I'll be 42 this year. I'm immature for my age. Thank god.
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Cormacaroni on June 26, 2009, 04:48:20 AM: Good job on typing with those palsied arthritis-ridden hands Chrono. And while you do appear to be remarkly cogent for one of your years, please do try not to shit yourself while you're here, thanks.
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: chronovore on June 26, 2009, 05:38:14 AM: WHERE ARE MY PILLS?

YOU YOUNGSTERS GET OFF MY DAMNED LAWN!

*shakes bony fist*
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Cyanista on June 26, 2009, 05:52:00 AM: Quote from: Borys on June 25, 2009, 06:49:16 PM
Is this a sign that EB's best posters are close to 30?

Seems so.

Are you calling me one of EB's best posters?? :-*

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Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: etiolate on June 26, 2009, 06:48:33 AM: i will be 30 this year =[
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 26, 2009, 07:05:16 AM: Still have more than three years. woot
Title: Re: What to expect from thirtysomething angst?
Post by: Brehvolution on June 26, 2009, 10:07:09 AM: Being 30+ is great.
You can still be like an immature late teen douche, but you have money which obviously leads to more options than just smoking a J in your parents basement.