How can I be more social?
if you want to have more productive conversations, just ask a lot of questions.
I got nothing.
I don't really see the problem with having different "acquaintances" for different events. It sounds like you're getting upset over nothing or you're not sure what to expect from a friend.
Himuro is weird: news at 9:-\
HimuroInternet regular on a message is weird: news at 9
If we knew how to be extroverts, we wouldn't have 1000+ posts on an online message board.
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But...that just described the whole situation pretty well, so maybe it's not my expectations at all. Most of the old friends I had from childhood have grown apart, so that first category is definitely currently vacant unless you count family. The decent friends, people who you generally hang out with on the occasion... I have some of those, but it leaves me completely unfulfilled.
Am I wrong in my opinion that most people you know will be in the acquaintances or "people who's name you know but don't talk to" pool? I've come to the idea that the people I hang out with on occasions feel more like acquaintances, though. I don't know why, I think I have trust issues.
Just an out of my ass guess but as we get older, friends move away for jobs, start families, etc. We're all busy people but if we can find some time to hang out every once in a great while, that is still good enough for me.
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I am going to try out what you suggest texp.
I am going to say yes to any social query for now on and see what happens.
"Wanna play some pool?" Sure, why not.
"Wanna go get a beer?" Why the fuck not?
Hopefully that'll help me get past my trust issues, but I doubt it.
Maybe I should invest in a hearing aid. I think that's my biggest problem. Ever since my hearing got wtf, I tend to shy away from social situations on purpose because people get annoyed with/laugh at the fact I can't hear them and I have to clarify a lot. Or I'll get tired of asking,"Could you repeat that?" and just play along, acting like I heard what the fuck they said when they're practically whispering to me.
Just an out of my ass guess but as we get older, friends move away for jobs, start families, etc. We're all busy people but if we can find some time to hang out every once in a great while, that is still good enough for me.
It's either this or the fact we're all such different people to begin with now.
For example, in High School, I was a total gaming nerd and most of my friends were as such.
But now, unless there's a game I really really like, I won't touch a controller for a 1-2 months. Our interests have shifted, we no longer have a common point of interest and they show little growth in their behavior (ie. living at home with mom and dad without a job or going to school, and lacking even an AA degree). There's clearly a conflict here and I don't want to be associated with such people any longer.
Past that, there's also people I grew up with either from school or church, who aren't into games. That's cool, but even they've been relegated to "hey, let's hang out sometime" people which never ever comes through.
So I recognize the problem in my situation but...finding new friends...that's the tough part. It doesn't help I attend out of state. I might as well go back to Texas. I don't feel fulfilled education-wise or relationship-wise in Florida and I hate this place.
I've found that people are a lot more comfortable making new acquaintances and dealing with social situations if they can feel a shared cultural bond, something that makes their experiences relatable and helps them understand each other.
Have you considered maybe converting to Islam and seeing if that helps?
I've found that people are a lot more comfortable making new acquaintances and dealing with social situations if they can feel a shared cultural bond, something that makes their experiences relatable and helps them understand each other.
Have you considered maybe converting to Islam and seeing if that helps?
Mandark is gold. :lol
... Why are you trying to become an extrovert? Why don't you find a set of friends that are comfortable with you being introverted? Not everyone is a social butterfly, and trying to fit a round peg in a square hole usually ends up badly.
This is Introvert Central, USA Himu; you won't get any help here
If the only two classifications for everyone are 'introvert' or 'extrovert', I call bullshit. I'd say those are the far ends of the bell curve, with most people being neither.
You're right. I jack off to hentai too.bookmarking this post to use at a latter date.
you love it!
why don't you like anime anymore
This will be a lot easier when I move to NYC and intern for NBC next year.
This will be a lot easier when I move to NYC and intern for NBC next year.
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This will be a lot easier when I move to NYC and intern for NBC next year.:o
This will be a lot easier when I move to NYC and intern for NBC next year.:o
Himu don't kid yourself. You're not street enough for nyc. I will cut you you bitch.
This will be a lot easier when I move to NYC and intern for NBC next year.
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You're right. I jack off to hentai too.
which copy is the fake then....?
which copy is the fake then....?
all of us