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Title: Small Talk
Post by: Fresh Prince on April 05, 2010, 07:23:58 PM
Nerd Rage building  >:(
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: The Dark Shake 3000 on April 05, 2010, 07:25:49 PM
You should start cutting, and forget to stop.
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Fresh Prince on April 05, 2010, 07:30:19 PM
People should realise they lead boring ass lives and stop talking about it!
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 05, 2010, 07:36:30 PM
Go real talk or go home.
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Fresh Prince on April 05, 2010, 07:39:04 PM
Facts: http://blogs.wsj.com/juggle/2010/03/24/small-talk-big-hindrance-to-happiness/
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Brehvolution on April 05, 2010, 07:51:20 PM
I came expecting this.
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 05, 2010, 07:52:24 PM
so fresh prince how was your day
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Madrun Badrun on April 05, 2010, 07:57:04 PM
Hey how's it going?  I'm good.  Ya the weather is nice.  Not much.  Probably homework.  Anyways, see ya.
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Fresh Prince on April 05, 2010, 08:00:01 PM
Your posts annoy me more than they should  :'(
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: The Dark Shake 3000 on April 05, 2010, 08:00:57 PM
Father_Mike :bow

Arvie should be fucking president of Evilbore.
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Fresh Prince on April 05, 2010, 08:42:33 PM
I vaguely remember the reference. I'm not Squall- whenever I talk it doesn't always have to be serious!
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Dickie Dee on April 05, 2010, 08:43:44 PM
Quote from: Fresh Prince on April 05, 2010, 07:39:04 PM
Facts: http://blogs.wsj.com/juggle/2010/03/24/small-talk-big-hindrance-to-happiness/

That seems strange, unless the unhappy people were reporting on their conversations, but the article makes in sound like they were independently tracked  ???
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: EmCeeGrammar on April 05, 2010, 08:45:28 PM
What do you consider small talk?  If they're telling you about their day then I dunno crossreference with your own day.
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: EmCeeGrammar on April 05, 2010, 08:46:06 PM
Quote from: Fresh Prince on April 05, 2010, 08:42:33 PM
I vaguely remember the reference. I'm not Squall- whenever I talk it doesn't always have to be serious!

Do you always go "..."
"..."
"uh huh..."
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Fresh Prince on April 05, 2010, 08:50:16 PM
Not really people are happy to talk about what they are interested or vested in. The more deeper the better. They only placate other people with small talk because it is being 'courteous'.

For me it overhearing small talk. Like when people talk about cake displays to try and extend a conversation. fyl. 
I think I am polite but distant since at work I'm all business  8)
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: drew on April 05, 2010, 10:46:58 PM
no talking >>> small talk > deep talk
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Powerslave on April 05, 2010, 11:39:37 PM
Banish small talk. Everyone should immediately initiate deep philosophical conversations when they meet. This will be epic..
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Great Rumbler on April 05, 2010, 11:44:34 PM
"Hello."

"Hello."

"Why do we live?"

"Life is but a vapor, to live is to feel the oppressive forces of inevitability and helplessness. We live so that we may come to terms with these things and accept them."

"There is much thought in what you say and I concur with your observation. To live is to accept death, and to accept death is to accept the beauty of life. Would you care to come to my apartment and have sex?"

"Yes."
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Powerslave on April 05, 2010, 11:48:11 PM
lol


Heaven on earth  :'(
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Madrun Badrun on April 05, 2010, 11:53:34 PM
Quote from: Great Rumbler on April 05, 2010, 11:44:34 PM
"Hello."

"Hello."

"Why do we live?"

"Life is but a vapor, to live is to feel the oppressive forces of inevitability and helplessness. We live so that we may come to terms with these things and accept them."

"There is much thought in what you say and I concur with your observation. To live is to accept death, and to accept death is to accept the beauty of life. Would you care to come to my apartment and have sex?"

"Yes."

:lol :lol :lol
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Fresh Prince on April 06, 2010, 12:03:54 AM
That's like the opening paragraph in The Three Stigmata of Palmer Eldrich or whatever it was called.
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: HyperZoneWasAwesome on April 06, 2010, 12:09:52 AM
[youtube=560,345]1si6M-vDEzI[/youtube]
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Fresh Prince on April 06, 2010, 12:16:36 AM
I am too deep for this world.
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Powerslave on April 06, 2010, 12:27:48 AM
No one understands me.
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Fresh Prince on April 06, 2010, 12:30:38 AM
Sometimes I think what's the point of it all? To struggle like Atlas with fate, with burden. It comes to nothing in the end.
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Powerslave on April 06, 2010, 12:36:38 AM
I feel like there's something out there, hindering my progress and happiness using all it's strength..
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Fresh Prince on April 06, 2010, 12:41:12 AM
I am Prometheus chained upon this rock, vultures feeding on my liver...gratitude.
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Powerslave on April 06, 2010, 12:44:25 AM
Just like Icarus I reach for the sky and drift away.. even if it's only for a moment.. I want to taste it.. I want to feel liberty
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Fresh Prince on April 06, 2010, 12:47:08 AM
burned by my own ambition, hurtling to earth by my own weight.
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Powerslave on April 06, 2010, 12:57:16 AM
Plummeting down, feel the wind screaming in my ears.. as I look above one last thing flows through my mind... cocks..
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Madrun Badrun on April 06, 2010, 12:57:40 AM
So it's not going good then? Marianne was just telling me about this new herbal tea she got in China town.  Its suppose to increase you electrolytes or something, anyway she said after just 3 months on it she's never felt better!  Maybe you should try some?  I'll get the name of it from Marianne the next time we talk. 
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Fresh Prince on April 06, 2010, 01:00:08 AM
Even though you are socially inpet you are good at small talk. BUT it makes sense! Good at small talk = unhappy. :smug
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Madrun Badrun on April 06, 2010, 01:06:59 AM
I'm actually not.  I'm one of those people that only answer with "yes", "no" or some short sentence.     
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Fresh Prince on April 06, 2010, 01:08:21 AM
So basically you suffer from social anxiety?
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Madrun Badrun on April 06, 2010, 01:33:02 AM
Ya.  Who knew eh?
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Fresh Prince on April 06, 2010, 01:39:21 AM
Maybe you should seek advice on that....
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Powerslave on April 06, 2010, 01:46:16 AM
he's holding out so we can read and laugh about his awkward moments. Arvie is doing us a favor
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: EmCeeGrammar on April 06, 2010, 02:33:00 AM
I think arvie just needs to start trying and making mistakes already.  You'll never learn otherwise bro!
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Madrun Badrun on April 06, 2010, 02:34:49 AM
I tried trying once and I shall never try trying again. 
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: EmCeeGrammar on April 06, 2010, 02:46:04 AM
Well I started out like you and as a borderline aspergers dude I got to the point where I was comfortably flirting with girls. You can do it man!  Whenever you get into a workplace just take it one day at a time and don't be afraid to make fun of your awkwardness at first
...
but not in a self pity way.  Hmm its kinda hard to explain.
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Oblivion on April 06, 2010, 05:16:03 AM
Quote from: Father_Mike on April 06, 2010, 12:57:40 AM
So it's not going good then? Marianne was just telling me about this new herbal tea she got in China town.  Its suppose to increase you electrolytes or something, anyway she said after just 3 months on it she's never felt better!  Maybe you should try some?  I'll get the name of it from Marianne the next time we talk. 

Quote from: Fresh Prince on April 06, 2010, 01:00:08 AM
Even though you are socially inpet you are good at small talk. BUT it makes sense! Good at small talk = unhappy. :smug

It's like I'm seeing double, here!  :o


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Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Fresh Prince on April 11, 2010, 06:46:33 PM
 :gun
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: BlueTsunami on April 11, 2010, 07:16:30 PM
Basically be Jim from The Office :smug
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: Rman on April 11, 2010, 09:59:28 PM
So...how's it going, Fresh Prince?
Title: Re: Small Talk
Post by: etiolate on April 11, 2010, 11:15:10 PM
Quote from: Fresh Prince on April 05, 2010, 07:39:04 PM
Facts: http://blogs.wsj.com/juggle/2010/03/24/small-talk-big-hindrance-to-happiness/

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Then Dr. Mehl compared those results against the study subjects’ happiness, based on self-assessments and the opinions of people who knew them.

unfortunately, self-assessments are unreliable

people will self-assess what they think will be more accepted/look best


As I have experienced, substantive discussions and conversation are the most rewarding, but finding these discussions is exceedingly rare. So the pursuit of happiness through conversation only leads to the disappointment of not finding a good satisfying conversational partner. Everyone is talking about the weather, and trying to push them outside that comfort zone leads more often to hostility than to creating a good talk.