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Title: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 28, 2010, 02:27:33 PM
-The Shield
-Breaking Bad
-Rome
-Steak
-Ribs
-Mac n cheese
-Cran grape juice
-final days of SCII beta  :'(

:patel
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Brehvolution on May 28, 2010, 02:31:51 PM
The wife will is going to Philly all weekend which means I'm Mr. Mom for the next couple days. :rock

:piss lawn work

:piss opening the pool

:piss 90 degrees and humidity

:bow uninterrupted sexbox gaming for 2 nights in a row :bow2

:bow RDR

:bow MW2

:bow BORESQUAD
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Robo on May 28, 2010, 02:34:36 PM
Hopefully picking up an HDTV this weekend to replace the manual pull slide projector.  :bow the 21st century :bow2
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Mupepe on May 28, 2010, 02:35:09 PM
Graduation tonight, maybe movies after, games at home
tomorrow, go by post office, pick up painting we had framed, pick up painting we purchased, watch tale of two sisters, fix the headlight vacuum system in the '81 Corvette and work on rewiring dash panels and gauges, play some games, rock band party around 7.
Sunday watch tv, work on the corvette more, drink some beer, hang out with an old friend at 10pm
Monday, watch tv, work on the corvette more, play some games, relax.

Hopefully I'll finish SC: Conviction and trade it in towards Red Dead Redemption
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 28, 2010, 02:48:38 PM
Too many married people in this thread. Where is single-bore?  :'(
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Barry Egan on May 28, 2010, 02:55:25 PM
Too many married people in this thread. Where is single-bore?  :'(

Hi.

Chrono Trigger
Secrets of Mana
Weeds
Hiking
Being Useful Around The House
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Robo on May 28, 2010, 02:57:30 PM
Too many married people in this thread. Where is single-bore?  :'(

As soon as I get the TV hooked up, 48 HOURS OF HD PORNO.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 28, 2010, 03:00:35 PM
hell yea that's what I'm talking about fellas
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: T234 on May 28, 2010, 03:06:56 PM
Gettin fucked up this evenin.

Cleaning up after, resting, working tomorrow.

Sunday resting. 
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: demi on May 28, 2010, 03:46:26 PM
jerking off

playing vidya

both at the same time
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: OptimoPeach on May 28, 2010, 04:00:11 PM
SC2 Beta, and

Secrets of Mana
playing Seiken Densetsu 3 with a friend. I never made it through alone (so fucking boring), but he had never played Secret of Mana until we went through it a couple of months ago, and now he wants more lol. Hopefully it's more bearable when you're really high and doing co-op.

I really had to resist the urge to say SECRET OF MANA IS POOP PLAY EVERMORE INSTEAD
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: demi on May 28, 2010, 04:00:50 PM
:bow
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on May 28, 2010, 04:02:02 PM
I like how evilbore just steals somethingawful smileys now. 

 :patel
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: demi on May 28, 2010, 04:02:53 PM
i like how you're still a loser
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: tehjaybo on May 28, 2010, 04:07:16 PM
WoW all weekend.  Like the rest of the week before it.   :-\

Oh god what have I done.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Barry Egan on May 28, 2010, 04:09:55 PM
SC2 Beta, and

Secrets of Mana
playing Seiken Densetsu 3 with a friend. I never made it through alone (so fucking boring), but he had never played Secret of Mana until we went through it a couple of months ago, and now he wants more lol. Hopefully it's more bearable when you're really high and doing co-op.

I really had to resist the urge to say SECRET OF MANA IS POOP PLAY EVERMORE INSTEAD

Actually I appreciate the suggestion.  I've never played Secret of Mana and I've never even heard of Evermore, but something about SoM being designed for 3 people and playing it single player was turning me off.  Gonna seek out Evermore now.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: demi on May 28, 2010, 04:15:54 PM
Evermore is for real Americans. Mana is for weeaboos

Prove me wrong
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Barry Egan on May 28, 2010, 04:18:08 PM
Deleting Secret of Mana for the good of the nation :american
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: demi on May 28, 2010, 04:20:38 PM
Jeremy Soule :america
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Eric P on May 28, 2010, 04:58:44 PM
dnd
book reading
magazine reading
fringe watching
record listening
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Robo on May 28, 2010, 05:16:19 PM
Apparently I'm spending the rest of today sitting in traffic.  :maf
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Boogie on May 28, 2010, 07:19:03 PM
Too many married people in this thread. Where is single-bore?  :'(

Not a holiday for us Canucks.

BUT  I am hosting one of my legendary summer parties for my college and high school buddies.   Boogapalooza 2010.

And you know what that means....yes, a week or so later, that means me posting the embarrassing yet hilarious pictures from said party. :rock
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: brawndolicious on May 28, 2010, 07:34:10 PM
Lists!

Fringe (halfway though season 1)
 
Breaking Bad
 
Boondocks
 
Elecition officer class

statement of intent

Far Cry 2/Saints Row/Brutal Legend/Bioshock 2/Ninja Gaiden 2/might start up Fable 2.

deli meat and hopefully junk food
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: OptimoPeach on May 28, 2010, 08:03:53 PM
Evermore is for real Americans. Mana is for weeaboos

Prove me wrong
Yeah Evermore is superior in just about every way unless you're a filthy japafag, but I think Mana is ALMOST as good up until you start flying from dungeon to dungeon running errands for the birdman sage. Ruined any sense of exploration, which Evermore has in spades. Man I love that game. Easily top 5 SNES
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Beezy on May 28, 2010, 08:08:10 PM
Hookah, beer, and the Magics/Celtics game at my friend's house later. I have nothing planned for tomorrow so most likely random gaming. My best friend's birthday is on Sunday and he wants to go to City Island.

Btw, what's the deal with Memorial Day weekend and Miami? I know way too many people that went/are going there this year.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: The Fake Shemp on May 28, 2010, 08:21:38 PM
I have a friend that just came into town last night and we're hanging out until after the holiday. Just got back from a day trip to Baltimore, I'm thinking about driving up to New York with her tomorrow.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Eric P on May 28, 2010, 08:38:53 PM
I have a friend that just came into town last night and we're hanging out until after the holiday. Just got back from a day trip to Baltimore, I'm thinking about driving up to New York with her tomorrow.

hit me up if you do.

we're not doing much this weekend.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Beezy on May 28, 2010, 08:51:13 PM
Hookah, beer, and the Magics/Celtics game at my friend's house later. I have nothing planned for tomorrow so most likely random gaming. My best friend's birthday is on Sunday and he wants to go to City Island.

Btw, what's the deal with Memorial Day weekend and Miami? I know way too many people that went/are going there this year.
Seriously?  IT'S BLACK BEACH WEEK
I have no idea what that is.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Beezy on May 28, 2010, 09:09:18 PM
Oh ok. Maybe I'll go someday when I have money to burn.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Eric P on May 28, 2010, 09:19:41 PM
it's when black students hit the beach

perhaps this documentary will clue you in

[youtube=560,345]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1f3p3PyDTpM[/youtube]
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Rman on May 28, 2010, 09:49:30 PM
Cooking
Swimming
Reading
Bike rides
and some gaming.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Ganhyun on May 28, 2010, 10:20:56 PM


work :(  :'(

MW2

Mass Effect 2

Lost Planet 1

Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: lordmaji on May 28, 2010, 10:37:54 PM
Too many married people in this thread. Where is single-bore?  :'(

Unfortunately and not by choice I suppose I'm single.

Plans? eh... who knows. Probably go out on a friend of mines boat and kick it.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Madrun Badrun on May 28, 2010, 10:44:36 PM
Hookah, beer, and the Magics/Celtics game at my friend's house later. I have nothing planned for tomorrow so most likely random gaming. My best friend's birthday is on Sunday and he wants to go to City Island.

Btw, what's the deal with Memorial Day weekend and Miami? I know way too many people that went/are going there this year.
Seriously?  IT'S BLACK BEACH WEEK

Every week is BLACK BEACH WEEK if you live around the gulf of mexico.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Barry Egan on May 28, 2010, 10:56:13 PM
Received a petal and 50 talons biiiiiiiiiittttccchhhh

drunk as shit
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Positive Touch on May 28, 2010, 11:11:18 PM
don't you hate it when you're so bored you don't even feel like masturbating?
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Madrun Badrun on May 28, 2010, 11:13:30 PM
don't you hate it when you're so bored you don't even feel like masturbating?

ya.  :(  That's like every Sunday for me.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Barry Egan on May 28, 2010, 11:18:32 PM
hasn't happened yet
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Beezy on May 28, 2010, 11:56:18 PM
Hookah, beer, and the Magics/Celtics game at my friend's house later. I have nothing planned for tomorrow so most likely random gaming. My best friend's birthday is on Sunday and he wants to go to City Island.

Btw, what's the deal with Memorial Day weekend and Miami? I know way too many people that went/are going there this year.
Seriously?  IT'S BLACK BEACH WEEK

Every week is BLACK BEACH WEEK if you live around the gulf of mexico.


:fbm
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: etiolate on May 29, 2010, 12:31:00 AM
wasted too much of today being dead exhausted and sore

Did pick up some things for tomorrow

Have Saturday plans, then back to schoolwork Sunday and Monday.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 29, 2010, 02:24:28 AM
I have a friend that just came into town last night and we're hanging out until after the holiday. Just got back from a day trip to Baltimore, I'm thinking about driving up to New York with her tomorrow.

doin thangs :bow
single-bore :bow
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Positive Touch on May 29, 2010, 05:31:45 AM
wow awesome
i passed out early and just woke up, totally missed out on everything
fucking kill me
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: tehjaybo on May 29, 2010, 11:38:49 AM
Stayed up all night playing wow on lan with bloodwake and another friend.

Still awake.

20 dollar nacho girl staying at the house

watched some castle/house

took a shower

gonna go play more wow
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: The Fake Shemp on May 29, 2010, 11:46:20 AM
I have a friend that just came into town last night and we're hanging out until after the holiday. Just got back from a day trip to Baltimore, I'm thinking about driving up to New York with her tomorrow.

doin thangs :bow
single-bore :bow

New York plans got nixed, but we're going downtown, catching a flick and then hitting up a bar. Boom city. :D

I promised her we'd tour D.C. tomorrow, then I think we're heading to beach for an overnight stay (Monday) until she heads back out.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 29, 2010, 11:51:18 AM
Played some an 18-hole pitch-and-putt yesterday with a couple of buddies, then went to the bar and had a steak sandwich and beer. Then passed out. Woke up in the middle of the night and played some RDR and SCII. Then played 18 real holes of golf.

The past 24 hours :rock
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: muckhole on May 29, 2010, 12:01:53 PM
Just checking in customers, then cleaning out the cabin that I pretty much lived in all winter.

What's all this used kleenex from? I don't remember having a cold!
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: The Fake Shemp on May 29, 2010, 12:41:28 PM
Don't know what you're talking about.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: lennedsay on May 29, 2010, 12:51:47 PM
Sex
Drugs
Rock and Roll
Swimming
Grilling
Sitting on the patio
Getting drunk with my parents
More sex
More drugs (possibly with my parents :teehee)
More rock and roll

:rock Memorial Day
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: The Fake Shemp on May 29, 2010, 01:05:07 PM
I'm saving myself for lennedsay. :-*
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: The Fake Shemp on May 29, 2010, 01:39:07 PM
Don't know what you're talking about.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Eric P on May 29, 2010, 01:42:07 PM
went and bought meat from the meathook, bought 6 pairs of socks for $6, and went to the library where they had a Dan Decarlo book collecting all of his Jetta work

tomorrow is sausageddon

pretty good weekend so far
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: lennedsay on May 29, 2010, 01:43:52 PM
Add this to my list of things conquered and to be conquered this weekend:

Willco  :-*
Bake a gooey butter cake AND vanilla cupcakes with chocolate fudge icing
Cook a bunch of actual food
Make chocolate covered strawberries
Make a drunken bonfire

:rock Holidays at my house
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: tiesto on May 29, 2010, 04:59:07 PM
I don't get the hindsight love for Evermore - the combat may have been a bit tighter than SOM, but you still have to deal with a bad story, bugs up the wazoo, glitches that can delete your save games, a cumbersome alchemy system, and an extremely weak endgame. Mana has much better music too, even though the Evermore soundtrack is still good (and innovative for the time).

This weekend - ROF, ROF, ROF, eating, drinking, chilling with my girlfriend. Not really anything too big.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: demi on May 29, 2010, 05:11:18 PM
you get a bone for a weapon and a robot dog that shoots lasers - enough said

go sit and think about it
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: OptimoPeach on May 29, 2010, 05:16:53 PM
Alchemy is my only real complaint
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: demi on May 29, 2010, 05:31:44 PM
i'm more surprised people cared about stories back then. the notion that a kid and his dog are experiencing a pulp movie experience while quoting them should have been every child's dream back then. tiesto seems unhinged...
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: tiesto on May 30, 2010, 11:15:44 AM
Well, the story is a minor complaint, my major complaints are still the bugs, alchemy system and weak endgame... was really anticipating getting to Omnitopia, then when I realized it was so small and who the main villain was, I was like "WTF?".
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: demi on May 30, 2010, 12:00:22 PM
I was really anticipating getting the Mana Sword, then I realized it was so useless, and who the final boss was, and I was like "WTF?"

See I can do this too :rofl
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: M3wThr33 on May 30, 2010, 04:38:16 PM
Working crunch time at work.  :'(
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Bloodwake on May 30, 2010, 10:54:57 PM
World of Warcraft inbetween dealing with shit I really shouldn't have to deal with.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Boogie on May 30, 2010, 11:19:29 PM
How hungover was I today?

So hungover.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 31, 2010, 02:51:54 AM
Drinkin'
Grillin'

Already watched some shitty UFC fights last night, saw some titties at the titty bar and played a bunch of cards this weekend.  Oh yeah, worked some too.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 31, 2010, 07:26:35 AM
- Reading the internet
- Hanging out with my girlfriend
- Hitting the gym
- Catassing Dynasty Warriors Gundam 2

I have the day off so I'm going to hit the gym, play another 4-5 hours of DWG2, and partake in some BBQ ribs tonight.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: TakingBackSunday on May 31, 2010, 10:20:07 AM
I have to work today.  :'(
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Eric P on May 31, 2010, 10:30:53 AM
bout to go play some DnD outside in a park.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: FatalT on May 31, 2010, 12:27:57 PM
Worked today and got time and a haaaalf.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: demi on May 31, 2010, 01:17:46 PM
No stupid. Respect your superiors
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: The Fake Shemp on May 31, 2010, 01:47:47 PM
This weekend turned into a total disaster. I'm done with the opposite sex for awhile, I think I am going to become demi's sex butler.

EDIT: The only delicious bit of irony is that the girl I was with has complained in the past that every guy she's with ends up going back to their ex, and after I rid myself of her, I ended up crashing at my ex's apartment because I was too tired to drive back home in the middle of the night. :lol
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 31, 2010, 01:51:37 PM
How many times have you said you're done with the opposite sex for a while? It's like Triumph saying he's "done with drinking for a while" (or anyone other than PD, for that matter).
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 31, 2010, 02:06:40 PM
She sounds like a waste, I guess it's better to find out sooner than later. Not that I'd know much about that. Or Cajole
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 31, 2010, 02:11:35 PM
I know better than you think. ;)
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 31, 2010, 02:12:48 PM
So do I
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 31, 2010, 02:23:28 PM
About drinking?
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 31, 2010, 02:25:22 PM
She's crazy. I could tell from the eyes.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Kestastrophe on May 31, 2010, 03:22:16 PM
This last week has pretty much been the worst week of my life. My wife is going through some depression/identity crisis and told me that she doesn't love me anymore, which I know is a lie, most likely to hurt my feelings. Needless to say, I have been a wreck all week and I even had to call in one day because I was sick from drinking the night before. I've lost my appetite and I haven't been able to sleep for more than 5 hours or so a night, most of which is spent tossing and turning.

Anyways, the wife was planning on spending the night at a friend's house on Friday or Saturday. She left on Friday evening and I haven't seen her since. Yesterday was actually my birthday and I had reserved a restaurant for 6 close friends or so and I even reserved a local bed and breakfast hoping to work some stuff out. I receive text messages yesterday (real mature, right?) saying that literally everyone cancelled and that my friend was going out to the bar so I should tag along with him. Trying to pawn me off on a friend so she doesn't feel guilty about missing my bday (yes, that's how cold my own wife and best friend of the last 9 years has become just over the last 2 weeks  :'(). So yesterday I drove to the inlaws and asked for their advice/help, knowing that my mother in law can put the fear of god into waifu. That went well and I got some good personal coping advice (and mother inlaw is in fact going to lay the smack down), but it was pretty much the worst birthday. There is much more to the story, but I don't want to get into all the details. I just feel emotionally spent. Any tips on how not to feel sorry for yourself or advice in general would be greatly appreciated
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: muckhole on May 31, 2010, 03:28:08 PM
That's horrible, Kestastrophe. No decent advice here, just hope everything works out for the best.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: lennedsay on May 31, 2010, 03:33:22 PM
 :( Dude, that sucks... Wth...

How long have you guys been together/married? Do you have kids? She probably needs some professional help if she's not already getting some.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Kestastrophe on May 31, 2010, 03:42:37 PM
We started dating in 2001, I was only 18 and she was 16. We got married two years ago. She does need professional help, but I doubt very much that she would be receptive to anything I have to say. I tried to talk to her earlier this week, and she threw a tantrum like a little kid. She has maturity and selfishness problems, but I am pretty sure that she is depressed. In retrospect, I should have seen it sooner, but I can't change what happened.

At first I thought that there was another man (we have sex problems i.e. she hasn't initiated it for over a year  :-\), but I am certain that's not the case. I think her depression is work related, and she might be jealous of my recent success and increased independence (this is also what others think as well).
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Beezy on May 31, 2010, 04:19:35 PM
Last night was unexpectedly fun. It was my friend's birthday, so we went to eat at some outdoor restaurant at the back end of City Island with some of his family (kids included) and a few friends. That was alright and relaxing, but the real fun started at like 1 AM when we left.

For those who don't know, City Island is a really small island near the Bronx with only one road in and out. We're still not sure what the actual story is, but on one of the bridges at the entrance of City Island there was an accident. Apparently a car or cars were on fire and/or a motorcyclist flew off the bridge and either 1 or 5 people died. I dunno. Traffic wasn't moving at all since cops and firefighters blocked off the bridge. So instead of everyone sitting in their cars frustrated, people started blasting music from their cars (mainly 90s hip hop from the other cars and then we played Major Lazer and Daft Punk :lol) and danced in the middle of the street. My friend randomly brought his hookah shit, so he ran into a bar, got some water, and set it up on the hood of his brother's car. :lol These white kids who I think live on City Island came out of nowhere and set up a beer pong table in the middle of the street. We didn't play with them because a couple of us were in a bar getting shots and listening to redneck white dudes tell racist jokes, but we had a huge game of flip cup with them afterward. :lol Some other random white kids drinking in the street too.

I forgot to mention that my friend's sister came with her boyfriend on his motorcycle, so he spent a lot of time doing wheelies, stoppies, lighting gasoline on fire, and some other shit up and down the opposite lane since it was empty. All of this went on from like 1 to 3:40 AM. They finally started letting us though around that time. I drove my friend and his cousin home and then got home myself at like 4 AM. Good times.

Here's some phone pics that my best friend, the bday boy, put on twitter:

http://twitpic.com/1sok21

http://twitpic.com/1somsd

That's me in the black shirt and hat with my friend's sister and his cousin in the back.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Mr. Gundam on May 31, 2010, 04:46:27 PM
Just got back from three awesome days on the Washington coast with my best friends. I have tomorrow off, and so does my wife, so we're looking forward to yet another day of relaxing.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: T234 on May 31, 2010, 05:14:28 PM
This last week has pretty much been the worst week of my life. My wife is going through some depression/identity crisis and told me that she doesn't love me anymore, which I know is a lie, most likely to hurt my feelings. Needless to say, I have been a wreck all week and I even had to call in one day because I was sick from drinking the night before. I've lost my appetite and I haven't been able to sleep for more than 5 hours or so a night, most of which is spent tossing and turning.

Anyways, the wife was planning on spending the night at a friend's house on Friday or Saturday. She left on Friday evening and I haven't seen her since. Yesterday was actually my birthday and I had reserved a restaurant for 6 close friends or so and I even reserved a local bed and breakfast hoping to work some stuff out. I receive text messages yesterday (real mature, right?) saying that literally everyone cancelled and that my friend was going out to the bar so I should tag along with him. Trying to pawn me off on a friend so she doesn't feel guilty about missing my bday (yes, that's how cold my own wife and best friend of the last 9 years has become just over the last 2 weeks  :'(). So yesterday I drove to the inlaws and asked for their advice/help, knowing that my mother in law can put the fear of god into waifu. That went well and I got some good personal coping advice (and mother inlaw is in fact going to lay the smack down), but it was pretty much the worst birthday. There is much more to the story, but I don't want to get into all the details. I just feel emotionally spent. Any tips on how not to feel sorry for yourself or advice in general would be greatly appreciated

Damn son, if you were around here I'd get you faded like an old newspaper.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: The Fake Shemp on May 31, 2010, 06:06:39 PM
How many times have you said you're done with the opposite sex for a while? It's like Triumph saying he's "done with drinking for a while" (or anyone other than PD, for that matter).

True.

She sounds like a waste, I guess it's better to find out sooner than later. Not that I'd know much about that. Or Cajole

I have never run into a bigger waste of time, money and energy. I was so emotionally and physically exhausted by last night that I couldn't make it out of Virginia. Thankfully, my ex is a good friend and has a guest bedroom. And no, the sex was not worth it. The consolation is that this happened now and not later.

Although, this stuff seems like kid garbage compared to Kestastrophe's problems. Keep the faith, brother.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Kestastrophe on May 31, 2010, 06:10:49 PM
I wish you were here to hold me in your arms and tell me "everything will be alright", Will  :'(

Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: The Fake Shemp on May 31, 2010, 06:13:42 PM
I have moved from sulking to sulking while drinking Stella mixed with hard apple cider and grilling burgers and hot dogs. You're welcome to join me.

Thank God for real friends.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Akala on May 31, 2010, 07:01:59 PM
gl with that kest.  :(

Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 31, 2010, 07:12:05 PM
single-bore  :(

Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Boogie on May 31, 2010, 07:20:59 PM
single-bore  :(



 :(

Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: The Fake Shemp on May 31, 2010, 07:21:22 PM
Hey, I was better off playing games this weekend than chasing tail.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 31, 2010, 07:25:57 PM
Games :rock
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: demi on May 31, 2010, 08:49:27 PM
Quote
At first I thought that there was another man (we have sex problems i.e. she hasn't initiated it for over a year  ), but I am certain that's not the case.

Nah this is normal for marriage. You're cool. It's probably just being in Michigan. It could be pretty depressing.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Kestastrophe on May 31, 2010, 08:58:36 PM
Nah this is normal for marriage.

Awaiting confirmation...
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: OptimoPeach on May 31, 2010, 09:06:11 PM
Ugh that sucks, man. At least you have the in-laws' support
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Mr. Gundam on May 31, 2010, 09:34:34 PM
Nah this is normal for marriage.

Awaiting confirmation...


It can happen, but it's not normal.

Sorry, man.  :(
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: demi on May 31, 2010, 09:45:24 PM
I'd argue distant's relationship is the not normal one.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 31, 2010, 11:49:01 PM
That really sucks Kestastrophe, I'm sorry to hear that.  This is just further proof that all women should be force fed lithium every day of their lives, tho.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Bloodwake on June 01, 2010, 01:01:54 AM
I'd argue distant's relationship is the not normal one.

Well 50% of all marriages end in divorce, so I'm inclined to agree.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Brehvolution on June 01, 2010, 10:28:58 AM
According to the law, a year of no sex is pretty cut and dry grounds for divorce. Not that I hope that happens to you.  :-\
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Mupepe on June 01, 2010, 10:54:14 AM
According to the law, a year of no sex is pretty cut and dry grounds for divorce. Not that I hope that happens to you.  :-\
Well I think they've had sex, she just doesn't initiate it.  Sorry if I'm mistaken.

Sorry, Ketastrophe.  :(  Everybody has their ups and downs and as long as neither of you do something incredibly stupid to sabotage the relationship, you can still save it.  Don't give up on her.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Himu on June 01, 2010, 10:59:01 AM
Received a petal and 50 talons biiiiiiiiiittttccchhhh

drunk as shit

CHRONO TRIGGER :rock
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Kestastrophe on June 01, 2010, 05:37:40 PM
According to the law, a year of no sex is pretty cut and dry grounds for divorce. Not that I hope that happens to you.  :-\
Well I think they've had sex, she just doesn't initiate it.

Correct. And she likes it ( 8)). We talked about it late last year once and she said it was work related stress, which I believe. I also think this is what her depression stems from, but she is so closed off now that there is no getting to the bottom of it. I did make an appt with a therapist for this Friday, so hopefully that helps out.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Smooth Groove on June 01, 2010, 05:46:52 PM
According to the law, a year of no sex is pretty cut and dry grounds for divorce. Not that I hope that happens to you.  :-\
Well I think they've had sex, she just doesn't initiate it.

Correct. And she likes it ( 8)). We talked about it late last year once and she said it was work related stress, which I believe. I also think this is what her depression stems from, but she is so closed off now that there is no getting to the bottom of it. I did make an appt with a therapist for this Friday, so hopefully that helps out.

Maybe the problem is that you are not getting to the bottom? :teehee

Seriously though, good luck, bro.  The stuff your wife has been pulling is tantamount to spousal abuse.  Hopefully the therapist can help work things out. 
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Kestastrophe on June 02, 2010, 05:40:46 PM
Semi-update: Scheduled a therapist appointment for Friday, and Cunt Wife miraculously agreed to go without too much fuss. Also, mama bear came up and was asking questions, but it was less of a smackdown than the bitch needed. I can only imagine that she has something better in store. I talked to the bitch earlier today, apparently mother in law asked where she was on my b-day and the cunt lied and said "we got lost". lol. Lying to your own mother, on top of the inhumane shit she has done to me. I told her "good luck living with yourself", cuz I know she'll snap out of it and kick herself in the jeans when she realizes how many bridges she's burned.

In case you can't tell by the tone, I've had it. I have started looking for somewhere else to live and as of right now, I consider this over. It would take a miraculous turn in character or help in therapy to save this now. Good fucking riddance
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: The Fake Shemp on June 02, 2010, 05:43:05 PM
You can live with me. We can do shots and talk about women that broke our hearts. :'(
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Kestastrophe on June 02, 2010, 05:47:53 PM
I actually feel relieved. After what that bitch has put me through the past two weeks, its amazing how quick you can come to not caring for someone.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Smooth Groove on June 02, 2010, 06:18:44 PM
Sounds rough, Kestastrophe.  Really feel for you, pal.   :'(

I hope your wife at least lets you know what's really going on.  It's much more frustrating when you don't even know why someone is acting out. 
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Himu on June 02, 2010, 06:27:10 PM
Goddamn Kast. Push through this shit, mayne. :(
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Brehvolution on June 02, 2010, 06:34:08 PM
 :(

Glad to here that you are doing well.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: The Fake Shemp on June 02, 2010, 08:38:05 PM
How many times have you said you're done with the opposite sex for a while? It's like Triumph saying he's "done with drinking for a while" (or anyone other than PD, for that matter).

I have already begun to break my self-imposed ban. I lasted like, what? Two days? :-\
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: demi on June 02, 2010, 09:21:22 PM
I actually feel relieved. After what that bitch has put me through the past two weeks, its amazing how quick you can come to not caring for someone.

Welcome to the real world, Neo

Time to become a chubby chaser
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Himu on June 02, 2010, 09:29:31 PM
:lol demi
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Mupepe on June 02, 2010, 10:47:08 PM
my first wife was kinda the same way, kes.  she just went batshit towards the end and even wanted to tell her family we were still together and kept denying it until the end.  i think she realized it wasn't a game anymore when she saw me with another girl and that I was truly done.  She'll be kicking yourself, but don't delude yourself into thinking you don't care anymore.  It'll come back.  But if you're truly done, just remember that and remind yourself of why you don't want to go back.  Prolonging it is more painful than anything.  Sorry, dude.  And good luck in everything.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: etiolate on June 02, 2010, 11:23:38 PM
Kest:

What are you going to a therapist for? For her to get treatment? To deal with the break up? To do it for marriage counseling when you have seemingly decided on the marriage's fate would be a waste of time and money. Do you just want your feelings or suspicions confirmed by a third party?
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 03, 2010, 01:17:50 AM
Probably wants confirmation from a third party that "bitch be crazy!" but seeing as how she's a woman and they all should be on serious amounts of sedatives from puberty onward it's kind of a wasted trip.

Anyway, sorry your marriage is apparently ending this way but good on you for sticking up for yourself, dude.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Smooth Groove on June 03, 2010, 03:08:28 PM
Dedicated to our homie Kestastrophe:

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Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Kestastrophe on June 03, 2010, 05:26:39 PM
I hope your wife at least lets you know what's really going on.  It's much more frustrating when you don't even know why someone is acting out. 

We talked last night, and this is what she kind of did (she couldn't explain why she was so mean, other than saying that she didn't want to be with me). Anyways, it sounds like she hasn't loved me for a long time (which I still can't really believe) and she was angry because I was always dismissing her when she said that she didn't love me the past few weeks, which is true because I can't believe it. Well, I do believe that as of right now she thinks that she doesn't love me. But even last night we went out to the bar and she was looking at me like she still loves me. I don't think she really knows what she wants right now, and I know that she has been depressed and unhappy for a long time, but it never crossed my mind that she didn't love me anymore. I asked her why all of her actions showed the opposite, and she said that she's a good faker (which I don't really believe). Its not that I don't believe everything that she's saying, I just think that they're half truths.

I think a temporary separation would be good for both of us at this point, as last night was the first livable night in the apartment since we started fighting 3 weeks ago. Last night and today seriously felt like a huge weight had been lifted off of our shoulders and we were able to communicate openly and honestly. I can't tell you how happy that made me. A separation of 3 months or so would give her the space she needs and time to think about things, like I said I still think that she cares about me. I don't know if this is a "grass is greener" type of thing with her, but either way I am not ready to get a divorce. There is still hope left for our marriage, and a separation would let us get on with our lives and hopefully allow us to notice how much we actually care for and miss each other.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Mupepe on June 03, 2010, 05:29:40 PM
Good luck, dude.  Hopefully everything works out for the best.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Akala on June 03, 2010, 07:26:39 PM
I think a temporary separation would be good for both of us at this point, as last night was the first livable night in the apartment since we started fighting 3 weeks ago. Last night and today seriously felt like a huge weight had been lifted off of our shoulders and we were able to communicate openly and honestly. I can't tell you how happy that made me. A separation of 3 months or so would give her the space she needs and time to think about things, like I said I still think that she cares about me. I don't know if this is a "grass is greener" type of thing with her, but either way I am not ready to get a divorce. There is still hope left for our marriage, and a separation would let us get on with our lives and hopefully allow us to notice how much we actually care for and miss each other.

you will obviously know the situation more thanan internet third party, but there are red danger flags in there. who knows, maybe it's the wording. as someone who knows a few couples that tried the 'separation' method~

real talk: you should only do this if you are totally cool with her fucking someone else.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Kestastrophe on June 03, 2010, 07:58:20 PM
I am not cool with that, and it would certainly mean the end of our relationship as I set that boundary for myself. However, I left out the ending to last night

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twice  :lol

and it was really good. Like the most memorable sex in years. I think she would be down for bootycalls
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Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Smooth Groove on June 03, 2010, 08:03:45 PM
Did you straight out ask her if she's cheated?  Given what's transpired, I think it's a fair question.

Having never been in such a meaningful relationship before, I can't say for sure but it almost seems likes she was trying to make you dump her. 
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Kestastrophe on June 03, 2010, 08:09:06 PM
Having never been in such a meaningful relationship before, I can't say for sure but it almost seems likes she was trying to make you dump her. 
That's what I think too, but I am positive there isn't another dude (read the sex stuff above). I believe that she thinks that she hasn't loved me for a long time and that I am the source of her unhappiness, which is why I think a separation would be good for both of us
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: demi on June 03, 2010, 08:09:43 PM
Willco told me you were gonna meet up with him...
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Akala on June 03, 2010, 08:10:38 PM
good for you!  :lol

maybe she just created a massive fight because she wanted make up sex.

Smooth has a point but, as your lawyer, I'd advise against asking. I'd also advise against a separation! Maybe just give her more space and see how that goes.

Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Kestastrophe on June 07, 2010, 06:43:51 PM
*Update*

After going to therapy on Friday (by myself, lol), it came out that if I want to save my marriage then my feelings don't matter because "someone has to carry the hope for a little while". My cunt wife left on Friday and didn't come home until today, but I pretty much begged her to not kill our relationship and said I would do anything, even if that meant me moving out (i already had it set up so that I can move in with my parents. Not because I can't afford my own place, but because I have more friends in my hometown and I need to get out of this city for a while). She said that she wanted me to move out for a bit, but that she'll have to "wait and see" about possible reconciliation in the future (lol). I also asked her to go to therapy this Friday for me, and she refused  ::). Its seriously like living with an adolescent

It makes it alot easier on me that she is such a cunt, its just hard because its 9 whole years and we used to be sooo happy together. Rose tinted glasses probably, but its difficult all the same. She was acting all emo afterwards while I am really excited about spending the summer with my brother, cousin, and old friends. So I am pretty sure she feels bad about the state of things. It feels like a giant weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Ready to face the future, whatever that may be *cue inspirational song*
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: The Fake Shemp on June 07, 2010, 07:02:30 PM
Don't worry, I see good times in your near future. :-*
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Akala on June 07, 2010, 07:03:17 PM
fucked up man.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Kestastrophe on June 07, 2010, 07:40:49 PM
fucked up man.
ya, its really weird and totally out of character for her. All of this has literally happened within a month. I even suspected her of drug use for awhile, because her behavior is so erratic. I think I said this before, but if we had the completely mild and tame argument that precipitated this a month ago, I think everything would be peachy. She is like a completely different person the last 3 weeks  :-\

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I see gay times in my future too, Will  :-*
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Brehvolution on June 07, 2010, 08:04:14 PM
 :(
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Smooth Groove on June 07, 2010, 08:38:20 PM
Kes, I don't even know to say.  The whole thing just seems so confusing.  At least, you seem to be taking it well.  Spending some time with friends and family is definitely a good idea.

Also, since you will have some time alone:

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Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Mupepe on June 08, 2010, 11:39:39 AM
Seems like she's probably taking you and your relationship for granted, dude.  She probably doesn't realize how much she needs you.  so during this time apart it'd probably be a good idea to let most communications be initiated by her.  Just go out and do your own thing.  Most people in these situations tend to realize what they had.  That's common.  The hard part is getting her to talk to fix what's actually going on which she seems to just flat out refuse to do.  Good luck, dude.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Kestastrophe on June 08, 2010, 05:29:16 PM
The hard part is getting her to talk to fix what's actually going on which she seems to just flat out refuse to do.
You are very correct, and its (one) of the parts that I don't get. Its like she doesn't want to take ownership or responsibility for her actions, etc. and puts all of those responsibilities off by continuing her downward spiral

Don't we have some psychologists here? Hook a brother up
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Mr. Gundam on June 08, 2010, 06:19:56 PM
The hard part is getting her to talk to fix what's actually going on which she seems to just flat out refuse to do.
You are very correct, and its (one) of the parts that I don't get. Its like she doesn't want to take ownership or responsibility for her actions, etc. and puts all of those responsibilities off by continuing her downward spiral

Don't we have some psychologists here? Hook a brother up

I'm only a school psychologist. I have some training in counseling, but I'm just a dude with a Master's degree who's focus is on education.

I will say this, though, and it has nothing to do with my professional training but from personal experience being in relationships. Earlier you mentioned that you've been with your wife since she was what, 16? Is that right? If that's the case -- and I don't mean this to sound like I'm just some asshole who is armchair counseling -- sometimes people change a whole lot between then and their mid 20s. It might be that the things she wanted at 16 with you aren't what she wants now. Acting irrational and manic towards you may be the only way she knows how to respond to the situation. Not saying it's right (it isn't), but that could explain her recent change.

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We started dating in 2001, I was only 18 and she was 16. We got married two years ago. She does need professional help, but I doubt very much that she would be receptive to anything I have to say. I tried to talk to her earlier this week, and she threw a tantrum like a little kid. She has maturity and selfishness problems, but I am pretty sure that she is depressed. In retrospect, I should have seen it sooner, but I can't change what happened.

Did she ever have the chance to "grow up" and experience life on her own? Maybe that's her subconscious desire and acting like a crazy bitch is her way of letting you know.

Obviously, I don't know you or the situation aside from what you've shared, so I'm only basing things off the little information I have. Nothing personal.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Kestastrophe on June 08, 2010, 06:31:57 PM
That sounds about right actually. She even said at one point that she "missed the college life". And yeah, we never grew up without the other person being right there by their side (I was only 18 when we started dating). Its just shocking to me that she wants to throw it all away in the blink of an eye. As shitty as she has been towards me, its still difficult for me to kiss those 9 years goodbye
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Mr. Gundam on June 08, 2010, 06:35:03 PM
It hurts, but the person we are at 16, or 18, isn't the person we're meant to be as an adult. Be thankful you guys don't have kids while you're going through all of this.

I can't imagine how tough this is for you, but hang in there man, I sure hope that things will work out for you in the end.
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Himu on June 08, 2010, 06:41:20 PM
Kes :( I don't know what to say in these situations, because always "hang in there" feels forced to me, but I wish I could I say more :(
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Kestastrophe on June 08, 2010, 06:48:56 PM
I can't imagine how tough this is for you, but hang in there man, I sure hope that things will work out for you in the end.
Things will definitely work out for me either way (still sucks in the short term), its her that I am worried about. I am pretty sure she is depressed and has a drinking problem. Plus she isn't responding to her mom's phone calls and is hanging out with a bunch of losers. Even if she does kill our relationship, I hope she can live with the things she's done. I know I would have a hard time sleeping at night if it were me


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This is actually hilarious. When I knew that the bed and breakfast I reserved was going to go unused, my brother told me to rent a bunch of pornos and jerk off all night :lol

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Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 09, 2010, 03:45:55 AM
Semi-update: Scheduled a therapist appointment for Friday, and Cunt Wife miraculously agreed to go without too much fuss. Also, mama bear came up and was asking questions, but it was less of a smackdown than the bitch needed. I can only imagine that she has something better in store. I talked to the bitch earlier today, apparently mother in law asked where she was on my b-day and the cunt lied and said "we got lost". lol. Lying to your own mother, on top of the inhumane shit she has done to me. I told her "good luck living with yourself", cuz I know she'll snap out of it and kick herself in the jeans when she realizes how many bridges she's burned.

In case you can't tell by the tone, I've had it. I have started looking for somewhere else to live and as of right now, I consider this over. It would take a miraculous turn in character or help in therapy to save this now. Good fucking riddance

So she'll get half of your hard earned shit? smh  :'(
Title: Re: Memorial Day Weekend
Post by: Brehvolution on June 09, 2010, 09:36:53 AM

So she'll get half of your hard earned shit? smh  :'(

What makes you think that?