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Title: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 21, 2010, 03:32:49 PM
(http://cdn.okcimg.com/blog/lies/MessagesPerWeek.png)

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http://blog.okcupid.com/

In before "Flannel Boy is bitter."
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: The Fake Shemp on July 21, 2010, 03:35:58 PM
I dunno, never really seemed like a problem for me. Shrug.
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Mupepe on July 21, 2010, 03:36:23 PM
they also like big dicks  :fbm
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 21, 2010, 03:41:20 PM
I dunno, never really seemed like a problem for me. Shrug.

They just assumed you were rich because of your yarmulke.
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Cheebs on July 21, 2010, 03:52:31 PM
I'm 6'1, am I safe?
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 21, 2010, 03:53:50 PM
This is only a problem for ugly guys.
:fbm
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 21, 2010, 03:54:24 PM
I'm 6'1, am I safe?

Sure. Men aren't picky about height.
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Smooth Groove on July 21, 2010, 03:55:36 PM
BBC owners don't have to worry about these charts. :patel

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:fbm
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Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Barry Egan on July 21, 2010, 03:55:47 PM
I'm 6'1, am I safe?

Have you explicitly indicated that you're male underneath the photo?
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 21, 2010, 03:57:07 PM
Being poor and short   :(
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Bebpo on July 21, 2010, 03:58:43 PM
am I reading that wrong, or does age not make any difference after the age of 25?
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Smooth Groove on July 21, 2010, 04:02:56 PM
am I reading that wrong, or does age not make any difference after the age of 25?

It makes a difference.  Look at 80k for example.  80K is desirable in the late 20s, so-so in the 30s and jumps back up in the 40s.  My guess is 40 yr old bachelors making 80k are mostly dating older women who just want to settle. 
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Dickie Dee on July 21, 2010, 04:03:23 PM
There's some weird noise in that chart, why are 100k 50yr old so unpopular?
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Smooth Groove on July 21, 2010, 04:05:55 PM
I bet the BBC chart is all green. 
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 21, 2010, 04:06:45 PM
Thankfully, none of this is real.

Post photos of your ex from three or four years ago. The brunette.

/creepy
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 21, 2010, 04:13:26 PM
Truth is, most women are TERRIBLY insecure and don't feel like they're good enough to date a rich good looking guy. But they won't date some sad insecure guy either. If you're decent and show confidence, women will eat it up. They need someone secure and stronger than they are. Show you're confident. That's all you gots to do.


It's really not something a man can fake well.
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 21, 2010, 04:16:31 PM
But I'm only good at avoiding, whining, complaining, moaning, and sulking.
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Dickie Dee on July 21, 2010, 04:17:22 PM
Tall, handsome, rich, stable guys are considered attractive now?  GAF's whole worldview just blew up.

*tears up message to girl written on parchment in the finest kanji brush strokes*
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 21, 2010, 04:17:55 PM
But I'm only good at avoiding, whining, complaining, moaning, and sulking.

Keep that mindset and you're fucked.

lol he's fucked
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 21, 2010, 04:18:07 PM

So . . . success?
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Saint Cornelius on July 21, 2010, 04:19:12 PM
So not only is Willco a mover & shaker inside the Hollywood industry, he's a successful online dater as well?

Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 21, 2010, 04:23:01 PM
This thread is not about me; it's about women or online dating.  :maf

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Of course I never approached her.
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Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: The Fake Shemp on July 21, 2010, 04:24:45 PM
So not only is Willco a mover & shaker inside the Hollywood industry, he's a successful online dater as well?

I have had success, yes! Not all of us are intent on becoming cranky jerks in every corner of the Internet.
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 21, 2010, 04:30:28 PM
She has a dudebro boyfriend, who is also a third-year. It could have been me!  :(
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No it couldn't
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Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: The Fake Shemp on July 21, 2010, 04:31:07 PM
A "third-year"? Do you go to school at Hogwarts?
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Mupepe on July 21, 2010, 04:32:46 PM
 :lol
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Himu on July 21, 2010, 04:33:45 PM
Women like a lot of things.
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 21, 2010, 04:35:21 PM
Note to self: don't create threads.
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 21, 2010, 04:37:21 PM
A "third-year"? Do you go to school at Hogwarts?

Here in Canada we don't use silly terms like "senior" or "junior"...mostly.
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 21, 2010, 04:47:13 PM
A "third-year"? Do you go to school at Hogwarts?

Here in Canada we don't use silly terms like "senior" or "junior"...mostly.
Law school is three years, so the usual designations aren't used.

*snip*

I agree with your advice and know that I shouldn't take rejection personally--but I still will. I guess I'll just have to deal with it.
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Saint Cornelius on July 21, 2010, 04:49:37 PM
I have had success, yes! Not all of us are intent on becoming cranky jerks in every corner of the Internet.

Sure thing Willco. :lol
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 21, 2010, 04:52:01 PM
I really don't think people understand -- by having such low self esteem being rejected in 1000X worse than it really ought to be.

Malek needs to find some self esteem in something other than a woman first.

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I'm assuming Malek is much like me in this analysis.
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Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 21, 2010, 05:04:46 PM
Malek needs to find some self esteem in something other than a woman first.

Are you saying that I should go gay(er)?
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 21, 2010, 05:12:12 PM
I've had success and I'm a cranky internet jerk :patel

I think I should wear stupid glasses and learn to cook so I can get me a hot wife too someday.

Those are the keys to your success right?
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 21, 2010, 05:14:04 PM
FUUUUUUUU
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 21, 2010, 05:14:48 PM
Maybe if I settle for a fat wife that and the stupid glasses won't be a requirement. 
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: brawndolicious on July 21, 2010, 05:22:53 PM
am I reading that wrong, or does age not make any difference after the age of 25?
It's all over the place when it comes to the 18-24 year olds.  Probably because those are the ages that you may be in school, so if you're making 50K a year as a recent hire in Google just a few months after getting your degree, women may be see you as more financially secure than if you're making 60k a year at a job with less upward mobility.  I don't know, apparently I can only make 30k, 40k, or 100k+ a year to be good at online dating (which I've never tried) so I don't trust this graph.
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 21, 2010, 05:23:22 PM
Malek needs to find some self esteem in something other than a woman first.

Are you saying that I should go gay(er)?

more like gayererer.

[Franky] SUUUUUUPER GAYYYYYYYYER [/Franky]
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Boogie on July 21, 2010, 07:28:11 PM

Wrong. You will AT FIRST. Everyone does. But the more you go out there, the more you'll see you'll be able to get women interested in you and rejection really won't be a big deal. Don't just sit around being the awkward kid at the back of the bus.

I do not seem to be finding this to be the case for me.

Over the past year and a bit since breaking up with my ex, I have gotten progressively more frustrated and dejected the more I have put myself out there.  This time last year, I was all optimistic and motivated and eager to try my hand at dating again.  The near-steady stream of rejection, however, has not built my confidence, but rather the opposite.  I'm back in a position with having no prospects, and no motivation to go out and do anything to change it, and no idea of how to get women interested in me if I did just wander alone into a bar/library/coffee shop.  Not meeting anyone through friends, because it's always the same group of people when I hang out with my friends, and none of them have shown any inclination to play wingman or matchmaker, in spite of paying lip service to the idea.

/venting
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 21, 2010, 07:33:53 PM
Boogie, would you be adverse to the idea of going gay? We would make a great team, both romantically and professionally. I would cry; you would hold me. You would capture criminals; I would set them free. You would taser Polacks lost in an airport; I would sue the RCMP.
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: CajoleJuice on July 21, 2010, 07:37:10 PM

Wrong. You will AT FIRST. Everyone does. But the more you go out there, the more you'll see you'll be able to get women interested in you and rejection really won't be a big deal. Don't just sit around being the awkward kid at the back of the bus.

I do not seem to be finding this to be the case for me.

Over the past year and a bit since breaking up with my ex, I have gotten progressively more frustrated and dejected the more I have put myself out there.  This time last year, I was all optimistic and motivated and eager to try my hand at dating again.  The near-steady stream of rejection, however, has not built my confidence, but rather the opposite.  I'm back in a position with having no prospects, and no motivation to go out and do anything to change it, and no idea of how to get women interested in me if I did just wander alone into a bar/library/coffee shop.  Not meeting anyone through friends, because it's always the same group of people when I hang out with my friends, and none of them have shown any inclination to play wingman or matchmaker, in spite of paying lip service to the idea.

/venting

mojo owned














oh wait
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Boogie on July 21, 2010, 07:38:47 PM
Boogie, would you be adverse to the idea of going gay? We would make a great team, both romantically and professionally. I would cry; you would hold me. You would capture criminals; I would set them free. You would taser Polacks lost in an airport; I would sue the RCMP.

us Mounties are deathly afraid of hanging around Polacks now, it just won't work out...
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: BlackMage on July 21, 2010, 07:39:42 PM
I'm 29 and 6'4"  8)

... but i only make 45k a year FML  :'(
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Boogie on July 21, 2010, 08:24:59 PM
Malek, I can't believe you left out this part.  To no one's surprise:

"REALITY: 80% of self-identified bisexuals are only interested in one gender.

But when we looked into messaging trends by sexuality, we were very surprised at what we found. People who describe themselves as bisexual overwhelmingly message either one sex or the other, not both as you might expect. Site-wide, here's how it breaks out:

(http://cdn.okcimg.com/blog/lies/WhoBisexualsMessagePie2.png)

This suggests that bisexuality is often either a hedge for gay people or a label adopted by straights to appear more sexually adventurous to their (straight) matches. "


You're doing something wrong then. You're a cop, you're built like a mother fucker and you're not a bad looking guy. What do you me you get rejected? Are you approaching women at bars?

It's fun being such an outlier.  :-\

I don't actually approach many women at bars, since women are always in groups, and if I'm with others, they don't seem to be eager to try and engage women.  Hard to penetrate (pun intended  :teehee) the collective protection of the female group dynamic alone.  The best I can usually do is a comment or question or two, but at the point when the interaction will die if she doesn't pick up some of the slack of being involved and interested.....it just dies, and I'm left to awkwardly turn back to my friends.  If I came with friends.
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 21, 2010, 08:31:31 PM
I notice every thread Boogie posts in about dating, people are always asking the same questions.  Not that there is anything wrong with that but it is a trend I noticed.

I'm not sure what it could be either.  I'm not a good looking guy at all but I have a girlfriend.  It took some time before she found out what I made and I'm only 5'11".  I will say that dating has become much tougher out of school.  I imagine it will get progressively more challenging until the 30s when the first round of divorcees hit the scene.  I assume ???
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Eel O'Brian on July 21, 2010, 08:55:04 PM
depends on the woman, most guys tend to overestimate their own appeal when out carousing
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Cormacaroni on July 21, 2010, 09:03:57 PM
i'm barely clearing 5ft 6 but i've not been single for any significant period of time since i was 14 and i'm still skint/ugly/short in the wider scheme of things.

I really don't think women give as much of a shit about physical attributes as men seem to think they do.



Your BWC is legendary though.
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: bagofeyes on July 21, 2010, 09:12:45 PM
big wobbly cock?
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Smooth Groove on July 21, 2010, 09:17:52 PM
XFE's real name is Jonah Falcon.  :shh
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: The Fake Shemp on July 21, 2010, 09:28:30 PM
It is teh future!
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Cheebs on July 21, 2010, 09:30:49 PM
You met your current gf on a internet dating site?
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Brehvolution on July 21, 2010, 09:42:07 PM
(http://www.nformant.net/evilbore/cool.gif)
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: The Fake Shemp on July 21, 2010, 09:47:30 PM
You met your current gf on a internet dating site?

Negative, but that doesn't mean I have not in the past!
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: The Fake Shemp on July 21, 2010, 09:55:14 PM
 :lol
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Cheebs on July 21, 2010, 10:07:30 PM
PD always shows me these pics of women who message him on okcupid. They tend to be un-educated extremely fat white women that are older than him.
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 21, 2010, 10:18:52 PM
A "third-year"? Do you go to school at Hogwarts?
:lol :lol :lol
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Akala on July 21, 2010, 10:19:58 PM
[youtube=560,345]p29MG7wn4F8[/youtube]
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 21, 2010, 10:21:12 PM
PD always shows me these pics of women who message him on okcupid. They tend to be un-educated extremely fat white women that are older than him.

The most recent ones I showed you were hot though!
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Smooth Groove on July 21, 2010, 10:23:55 PM
PD always shows me these pics of women who message him on okcupid. They tend to be un-educated extremely fat white women that are older than him.

Not surprising that PD has always wanted to date a female version of Willco.
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 21, 2010, 10:24:15 PM
:lol @ cheebs' post
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: The Fake Shemp on July 21, 2010, 10:36:53 PM
PD always shows me these pics of women who message him on okcupid. They tend to be un-educated extremely fat white women that are older than him.

Not surprising that PD has always wanted to date a female version of Willco.

Hey, I'm educated!
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Smooth Groove on July 21, 2010, 10:37:41 PM
PD always shows me these pics of women who message him on okcupid. They tend to be un-educated extremely fat white women that are older than him.

Not surprising that PD has always wanted to date a female version of Willco.

Hey, I'm educated!

Not by Jewish standards!  :patel
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: tiesto on July 21, 2010, 10:52:24 PM
Online dating is a good start for people who are shy/nervous on dates and asking girls out... but I've found after hundreds (yes, hundreds) of dates, and then being set up with my current g/f via a close friend, there's nothing quite like meeting a girl in a more 'organic' way. But if you're just starting, it doesn't hurt to talk to a few people, go on a few dates, get used to it.

The problems with online dating:

-misrepresentation - everything from their personality (girl could seem like an interesting and intelligent person from her emails, but when you meet in person the chemistry isn't there), to looks (online dating is the refuge for the FATTIES)
-lots of girls don't take online dating seriously... a decent-looking girl gets hundreds of emails a day. If you manage to get a date from one of them, they'll just see you as another poor sop who will buy them drinks, or dinner, or just get them out of the house for the evening
-expect a LOT of flakes
-and quite a few girls, who just broke up with their b/fs... like to go online, get tons of emails, as a bit of an ego boost. Attractive females are of course in short supply on the dating sites, but they ARE there.
-lots of Jesus freaks, or other social misfits/weirdos

Your best bets with online dating:

-tall chicks - a lot of taller girls go on because it's hard for them to meet men their own height (and it seems a lot of guys prefer their girls to be shorter than them). If you don't let a girl who's taller than you intimidate you, you can clean up in this area. I'm a bit less than 5'10" and have dated quite a few 6' girls via online
-chubby girls with cute faces - if you can get over the chubby part of it... but even these girls are in high demand on the online circuit
-teachers - lots of teachers on the online circuit... they work with mostly women so they can't meet through work, and quite a number of teachers tend to fit into the whole homebody archetype
-play the Numbers game - send emails/winks/etc out to whoever you think looks decent... this is a good way to get a lot of dates
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: bagofeyes on July 21, 2010, 10:54:27 PM
isn't online dating just for getting quick roots?
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 21, 2010, 10:59:10 PM
PD always shows me these pics of women who message him on okcupid. They tend to be un-educated extremely fat white women that are older than him.

Not surprising that PD has always wanted to date a female version of Willco.

Hey, I'm educated!

Not by Jewish standards!  :patel

god damn  :lol
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Cormacaroni on July 21, 2010, 10:59:51 PM
'dated' is a polite way of putting it, DC
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 21, 2010, 11:21:58 PM
I checked up on my okcupid/plentyoffish accounts earlier today, didn't notice anything. Some views but I don't find the need or will to contact anyone.
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: bagofeyes on July 21, 2010, 11:23:37 PM
I checked up on my okcupid/plentyoffish accounts earlier today, didn't notice anything. Some views but I don't find the need or will to contact anyone.

did you lose your balls in a terrible accident or something?
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 21, 2010, 11:26:22 PM
PD always shows me these pics of women who message him on okcupid. They tend to be un-educated extremely fat white women that are older than him.

Not surprising that PD has always wanted to date a female version of Willco.

Hey, I'm educated!

Not by Jewish standards!  :patel

:lol :lol :lol
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on July 21, 2010, 11:32:02 PM
If I'm reading that first chart right, men's preference for shorter girls is actually more pronounced than women's preference for taller men? (or maybe they just figure short women have lower self-esteem and are more vulnerable). I also realized that I haven't bothered to update my income stat since I first joined the site a few years ago, and I'm making over twice as much as I was then. Somehow I still don't feel like updating it though, in fact I might just remove it altogether instead! Take that, global industrial capitalism!
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 21, 2010, 11:36:16 PM
I checked up on my okcupid/plentyoffish accounts earlier today, didn't notice anything. Some views but I don't find the need or will to contact anyone.

did you lose your balls in a terrible accident or something?

Just seems like it leads nowhere. You talk to someone for a day, things move to one word responses, you realize you don't want to meet her, the end.
Title: Re: Online Dating Thread 3.0: Women like tall men who are rich--who knew?
Post by: Akala on July 21, 2010, 11:44:28 PM
having never online dated, I am under the assumption that it would be better to cut the shit totally and IRL meet ASAP? am I imagining wrong? may be bias, but it seems like online dating peps are a bit desperate by default. suggesting quick meetups should lead to easy gains, yes?