Marriage is awesome :heart
After my first marriage ended, I thought I would never get married again but like you I got bored of sleeping around. It's not fulfilling. I don't think marriage is necessarily required, but companionship is. Going to sleep alone sucks. End of story.
When I met my wife I was pretty much set to be single for a very long time, given that I had just gotten out of a serious relationship. You'll be fine as long as you stop wearing Muse shirts.
Ya'll are inspiring me :)
Also, I think I'm going to give up my apartment for a while and move back in with the parents for 6 months or so while I look in to buying a condo.
Really, the only reason I got my apt was to be in the city so I can get drunk every night and fuck girls.
I think I'm past that stage.
Wait dark-brooding-tortured is an actual thing that works?
Wait dark-brooding-tortured is an actual thing that works?
see; twilight and lord byron
:rofl :roflWait dark-brooding-tortured is an actual thing that works?
see; twilight and lord byron
I'm going to write a song about emo vampire Lord Byron now and you gave me the ideaspoiler (click to show/hide)it's called "Isn't it Byronic?"[close]
Wait dark-brooding-tortured is an actual thing that works?
I could do dark-brooding-tortured.
being a smartass always worked for me
When I met my wife I was pretty much set to be single for a very long time, given that I had just gotten out of a serious relationship. You'll be fine as long as you stop wearing Muse shirts.
(http://somewhatmanlynerd.com/avatars/iloveleo.jpg)When I met my wife I was pretty much set to be single for a very long time, given that I had just gotten out of a serious relationship. You'll be fine as long as you stop wearing Muse shirts.
A girl started talking to me because of my MUSE shirt one time! She gave me her number.spoiler (click to show/hide)I never called her.[close]
My anecdote actually happened at your house party, tiesto! :lol
You should come to Barcade on Aug 7, since I'm getting a bunch of people together to celebrate my bday a few weeks late. (this goes for the rest of NY-bore). Don't think there's gonna be much in the way of females there, at least from my group, though...That would be pretty cool. The place seems awesome. I was actually already thinking of going into the city for a sabermetrics (baseball stats lol) thing that same morning. I'd be able to go from one sausagefest to another. Perfect.
lol marriage
Its fine if its with the right person, I guess
the main thing is knowing exactly where the other stands on the big shit, kids, jobs, where you live etc. If you're not willing to talk that shit over constantly you'll be in for a big surprise. Also compatibility is secondary to being able to compromise.
"shared interests" is about the least viable metric for whether or not two people will work out
Biggest thing to remember is this: make yourself happy and don't worry about meeting someone
Bingo. I know lots of guys and girls who jump from relationship to relationship because they simply cannot fathom being alone. They usually wind up miserable.
the main thing is knowing exactly where the other stands on the big shit, kids, jobs, where you live etc. If you're not willing to talk that shit over constantly you'll be in for a big surprise. Also compatibility is secondary to being able to compromise.
barcade is hella fun but gets packed pretty soon. that's my neighborhood so i may pop in if i don't have commitments
finds children to be repulsive STDs with legs
finds children to be repulsive STDs with legs
:lol
finds children to be repulsive STDs with legs
:lol
True story, tho. Why do you think KIDS and AIDS are just one letter off? Coincidence? Don't think so, broseph.
finds children to be repulsive STDs with legs
:lol
True story, tho. Why do you think KIDS and AIDS are just one letter off? Coincidence? Don't think so, broseph.
Yeah yeah yeah, OTHER PEOPLE'S KIDS are repulsive. I defy you to look at your own baby and think that.
"shared interests" is about the least viable metric for whether or not two people will work out
Totally agree with ToxicAdam. I've always seen marriage as being tied down. Also seems like too much of a risk because even if you find your 'perfect match', how do you maintain that attraction for life? Wouldn't you eventually get sick of each other or meet someone else that you find yourself more attracted to?
Well in Japan having too many children is financial suicide let alone population implications. When i talk eastern i mean india and china. Those countries people would love to have children (though in china it is hard becasue the government wont let them have too many i think).
(though in china it is hard becasue the government wont let them have too many i think).
Well in Japan having too many children is financial suicide let alone population implications. When i talk eastern i mean india and china. Those countries people would love to have children (though in china it is hard becasue the government wont let them have too many i think).
People in India and China would love to have children because they're so rich and the Japanese are so poor. REALLY?
(though in china it is hard becasue the government wont let them have too many i think).
"I think" :lol
Yeah, it's this little thing called the ONE CHILD POLICY, perhaps you've heard of it? :rofl
finds children to be repulsive STDs with legs
:lol
True story, tho. Why do you think KIDS and AIDS are just one letter off? Coincidence? Don't think so, broseph.
Yeah yeah yeah, OTHER PEOPLE'S KIDS are repulsive. I defy you to look at your own baby and think that.
You have much to learn. God knows what made you decide to learn it here, though.
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The divorce numbers certainly bear you out. But lots of things crop up that replace or enhance attraction. A wife fulfills all the qualities of a good roommate - sharing all the bills can be much more efficient. And once you have a kid, they become the main object of your affection anyway, and you want to do what makes the kid happy, not so much yourself.
There will always be distractions in the form of attractive women, you just have to tune them out. The grass isn't usually any greener, it just looks that way for a while.
The divorce numbers certainly bear you out. But lots of things crop up that replace or enhance attraction. A wife fulfills all the qualities of a good roommate - sharing all the bills can be much more efficient. And once you have a kid, they become the main object of your affection anyway, and you want to do what makes the kid happy, not so much yourself.
There will always be distractions in the form of attractive women, you just have to tune them out. The grass isn't usually any greener, it just looks that way for a while.
wise man right here. I would hire you as my hetero life coach if I could afford it :heartbeat
:lolI think that the reason that pretty much all of my serious relationships have ended in spectacular, Hindenburg like failure stems from the fact that I just kind of tend to fall into them with no planning. Like, one day I'm hanging out with a group of friends, the next day I get drunk with a girl and hook up, and the day after that we're dating.This is how me and my wife met :heart
When you know, you just know.
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Biggest thing to remember is this: make yourself happy and don't worry about meeting someone
Bingo. I know lots of guys and girls who jump from relationship to relationship because they simply cannot fathom being alone. They usually wind up miserable.
While not married, I'm currently happily in love. Prior to that, I was happily single and was quite content to stay that way.
Oh yea, there isn't really just "one" person, or else no one would ever find anyone they'd be in love with. Usually you find someone, they're "The One", and you just stop looking. Because, duh, if you're looking for your keys and you find a set that works for your car and your house at the same time, you're set. Then when you get all old and wrinkly, you're "One" kicks their little bucket, somehow you find someone else that doesn't necessarily fill their spot, but you do fall in love with them. So then they are "The One". You see this shit all the time. The people are genuinely happy even though The Love of their Life is watching over their new wrinkly granny-girlfriend stroking their saggy balls. There's really like 10,000 Ones out there for each of you, but there's like at least 3 billion grenades you gotta duck first.
This is back from the first page but yeah, I know what you're saying and I agree. Women can see right through it. It needs to be within your natural ability.being a smartass always worked for me
This isn't mean to be an attack on your Mups, but I think you have to actually be a smartass for it work. You can't fake being a smartass just like you can't fake being a brooding young man. This is why all those thread makers on GAF fail when they're told to be cocky-funny.
I don't really trust guys that like marriage. They're like born-again christians or mormons, there is just something "off" about them.
Anyways, your brain has a funny way of tricking you into coupling with a woman and making babies. The male equivalent of a biological clock. As each one of our friends are slowly picked off and all the hang-out spots we used to go to are now cluttered with younger and younger people ... you begin to take stock in your own life and search for a deeper meaning. For some, this means developing a meaningful relationship and then succumbing to the whims of her uterus. You will not find the "perfect woman" and you will eventually settle for something less, fooling yourself into ignoring all her baggage.
Fight against this. This is just the old lizard brain kicking in and insuring the survival of our species. Fuck that. Use your frontal lobes and realize that your freedom as a man is the greatest gift you will ever own. You are now old enough to fully enjoy it.
Everyone is different. Some want to make up for the mistakes their parents made. Some want to make a family to fill the emptiness that they have in their soul. For them, it's the right choice. But if you're someone that is just bored or feels like their life is lacking purpose ... fight through it. It will pass and you will not have made a mistake that can't be undone.
My favorite post of the month. :ninja
Who wrote this? Tucker Max? What a load of shit.
Oh yea, there isn't really just "one" person, or else no one would ever find anyone they'd be in love with. Usually you find someone, they're "The One", and you just stop looking. Because, duh, if you're looking for your keys and you find a set that works for your car and your house at the same time, you're set. Then when you get all old and wrinkly, you're "One" kicks their little bucket, somehow you find someone else that doesn't necessarily fill their spot, but you do fall in love with them. So then they are "The One". You see this shit all the time. The people are genuinely happy even though The Love of their Life is watching over their new wrinkly granny-girlfriend stroking their saggy balls. There's really like 10,000 Ones out there for each of you, but there's like at least 3 billion grenades you gotta duck first.my balls will never get saggy.
Who wrote this? Tucker Max? What a load of shit.
Seriously, what the fuck. That's the biggest crock of shit I've ever read in my life.
Easily the worst post I've ever read on The Bore, and I never even put Green Shinobi on ignore.
stfu, both of you.
"worst post I've read in my life" ::)
This is back from the first page but yeah, I know what you're saying and I agree. Women can see right through it. It needs to be within your natural ability.being a smartass always worked for me
This isn't mean to be an attack on your Mups, but I think you have to actually be a smartass for it work. You can't fake being a smartass just like you can't fake being a brooding young man. This is why all those thread makers on GAF fail when they're told to be cocky-funny.
What ToxicAdam is trying to say is that we should marry and fuck dudes.
Yes, sir. A good portion of those girls are homely, true. But a good portion of dorky dudes are homely as well. Also, the girls i want to have relationships with, goddamn. I just wanna be myself. Seems like a basic requirement right? The key is to be yourself, be dorky, be whatever. But don't be a social distinguished mentally-challenged fellow. Know when and where is the right place to let your geek/dork/nerd flag fly and when to play it cool. Women will appreciate that. They might not require Brad Pitt but they would appreciate it if you can spiff yourself up every once in a while.This is back from the first page but yeah, I know what you're saying and I agree. Women can see right through it. It needs to be within your natural ability.being a smartass always worked for me
This isn't mean to be an attack on your Mups, but I think you have to actually be a smartass for it work. You can't fake being a smartass just like you can't fake being a brooding young man. This is why all those thread makers on GAF fail when they're told to be cocky-funny.
And believe me, there ARE some girls that will appreciate you for your unabashed dorkiness*... hell, I'm a big dork and I've had quite a few gfs and fuckbuddies.
*unfortunately, a good portion of these girls are rather homely...
:lolWhat ToxicAdam is trying to say is that we should marry and fuck dudes.
Which is demi's stance as well! Interesting.
Oh yea, there isn't really just "one" person, or else no one would ever find anyone they'd be in love with. Usually you find someone, they're "The One", and you just stop looking. Because, duh, if you're looking for your keys and you find a set that works for your car and your house at the same time, you're set. Then when you get all old and wrinkly, you're "One" kicks their little bucket, somehow you find someone else that doesn't necessarily fill their spot, but you do fall in love with them. So then they are "The One". You see this shit all the time. The people are genuinely happy even though The Love of their Life is watching over their new wrinkly granny-girlfriend stroking their saggy balls. There's really like 10,000 Ones out there for each of you, but there's like at least 3 billion grenades you gotta duck first.
Girlfriend of six years is nagging me to get on it already. Told her to wait 3 or 4 years.
"The One" has too much buggage from history to ever be fulfilling, but to think there is someone out there who fits you is not a crazy pursuit for reproduction. As long as you do not carry along that baggage, you will be okay.
Though, the whole marriage vs single life thing is foreign to me. Not because I've never been married, but because I've never had interest in the single life of dating/fucking. I only have serious relationships because that is what I enjoy. If I enjoyed the "single life" then I think marriage would be an uncomfortable thing. I just do not see a big difference between being with the right person for a long time and then marrying them. I don't see them differently as wife than before. If I intend to marry someone, whats the difference once I get married? Maybe I'll find out.
"The One" has too much buggage from history to ever be fulfilling, but to think there is someone out there who fits you is not a crazy pursuit for reproduction. As long as you do not carry along that baggage, you will be okay.As long as you have lived with them, shared finances, talked kids, careers, and long term goals, it's about the same. If not, it's waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay fucking different.
Though, the whole marriage vs single life thing is foreign to me. Not because I've never been married, but because I've never had interest in the single life of dating/fucking. I only have serious relationships because that is what I enjoy. If I enjoyed the "single life" then I think marriage would be an uncomfortable thing. I just do not see a big difference between being with the right person for a long time and then marrying them. I don't see them differently as wife than before. If I intend to marry someone, whats the difference once I get married? Maybe I'll find out.
This is back from the first page but yeah, I know what you're saying and I agree. Women can see right through it. It needs to be within your natural ability.being a smartass always worked for me
This isn't mean to be an attack on your Mups, but I think you have to actually be a smartass for it work. You can't fake being a smartass just like you can't fake being a brooding young man. This is why all those thread makers on GAF fail when they're told to be cocky-funny.
Is it really that much a difference when you look as good as you? 8)
Is it really that much a difference when you look as good as you? 8)
:-*
Try it for a day! Borrow your Dad's ring or something. I guarantee you will be conscious of it.
This is back from the first page but yeah, I know what you're saying and I agree. Women can see right through it. It needs to be within your natural ability.being a smartass always worked for me
This isn't mean to be an attack on your Mups, but I think you have to actually be a smartass for it work. You can't fake being a smartass just like you can't fake being a brooding young man. This is why all those thread makers on GAF fail when they're told to be cocky-funny.
fuzzbumping activities to ensue.
Who wrote this? Tucker Max? What a load of shit.
Seriously, what the fuck. That's the biggest crock of shit I've ever read in my life.
Easily the worst post I've ever read on The Bore, and I never even put Green Shinobi on ignore.
stfu, both of you.
"worst post I've read in my life" ::)
I think your special
But you fall within a bell curve
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For clues to human sexual evolution, Simmons says, it pays to looks at testicles. "The size of an animal's testicles have been shown to be directly related to the promiscuity of the females," he explains. "This is because when sperm from two or more males are present in a female's reproductive tract, there will be competition between them to fertilise the egg. The more promiscuous the female, the larger the male's testicles have to be and the more sperm they have to produce."http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/lifematters/were-just-swingers-after-all-20100730-10zsn.html
Chimps and bonobos, our closest primate relatives, are prodigiously promiscuous; not surprisingly, they have large testicles for their body size (a 45 kilogram bonobo has testes the size of chicken eggs), not to mention huge sperm production capabilities. Gorillas, on the other hand, have testicles the size of kidney beans, which are hidden inside the body. This is because gorillas establish harems: once a silverback establishes his dominance, there is no sperm competition. Human testicles are smaller than those of chimps and bonobos but far larger than those of gorillas, suggesting, Simmons says, "we have in the past been something other than monogamous".
Ryan, who also examines this phenomenon, points to recent reductions in human sperm counts and testicular volumes, and even suggests, half jokingly, that "sexual monogamy may be shrinking men's balls".
it's always been "crusty" not "overrated".
most overrated professional internet cynics:
Fresh Prince
T EXP
Powerslave
can't even choose.
Seems less people are wanting to take the plunge into marriage than ever... I myself think I'd like to settle down one day and get married to someone cool and easygoing, have kids and your typical suburban life and all that. Even though I just turned 28, it still seems like a far off proposition to me though.
Just curious, how did your 8 year relationship end? (I apologize for bringing it up if you don't want to talk about it)
I'm 28 too and I feel like all of that stuff should have just been around the corner. Might be cause a whole lot of people in my life are getting married or talking about it though.
We met when we were young, 19 or so. I was her first boyfriend she was my first real girlfriend. So we never really learned how to handle conflict, lots of issues kept creeping back up, we started to fight more and eventually she gave up.
Of course I'd like to, but right now, I just don't think I'll find someone that I can marry. Meeting girls isn't a problem at all, its just that none of them seem like someone I can settle down with.
Well do you still want the married life? At least sometime in the future?
I am divorcing my wife of 2 years (partner for 9 years, since we were kids, blah blah) and am just now getting out there, basically never having been single. I don't really know what I am looking for or what I want at the moment, but I do know that I don't want one night stands. Part of it is an unhealthy codependency that I developed for the person I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life, but part of it is that I know the "hook-up" lifestyle just isn't for me. Not really any point to my post, but I agree with what Lindsay has said about there being niches of people right for each other. And this experience has renewed my belief in fate or destiny or whatever you want to call it
Nice thread, its kinda cathartic reading the different perspectives :)
Ain't no green grass where he's thinking. Compared to what he's got now, back then he was in the middle of the fucking desert without any water. And his cock was sunburnt.
I met so many people that summer, cool people, complete douches, etc. etc. (without slutting it up too, somehow, lol). By the end of the summer, I started dating someone I ended up staying with for a few years. Kinda always knew it would eventually not work out, but it's really what I needed at the time. Learned a lot from that relationship too. Grew up so fucking much. Broke up, did the single thing again for a year or so, then met my husband.
The more people you talk to and hang out with, the more quickly you'll be able to pick up on how compatible another person is for you. The first time I ever met my husband (well the first time I was ever around him at a party where he was talking and just hanging out), I literally thought, "Him. That's what I need. I could be happy with him for the rest of my life." Then I second-guessed myself and added, "Well, someone like him..." and we were just part of a general group of friends for a year before we started dating.
I'd good-game you right now, Kestastrophe, if I could. Go get 'em tiger!
In somewhat related news, I've got a friend who is questioning his marriage right now and I want to slap the fuck out of him. His wife is crazy over him, will do anything for him (including working out like crazy to make her body more appealing to him), loves having sex, and is pretty fucking hot in my book as it is.
He keeps secretly bitching about a girl he used to date that is crazy as batshit, cheated on him, and never wanted to have sex with him.
Just proof that the world is full of morons.
:lol you guys are ridiculous. he says dude's wife is there for him and works out to keep looking good even tho they're already married but all you see is clingy with severe issuesTrying to please your partner and fix your relationship obviously means you're crazy.
Working out like crazy doesn't sound normal.Tell that to Cormac!
:lol you guys are ridiculous. he says dude's wife is there for him and works out to keep looking good even tho they're already married but all you see is clingy with severe issues
If you feel that beating him up will fix everything, yeah. Not
Do you feel as threatened and inferior to other people who make glances at your wife? Might as well come clean, Mups.
What's your issue(s)?
So, I can say there was a grand shift in my life when my last relationship (8 years) ended. We were planning on getting married when she was done school, so I geared myself up for it. Spending my life with her, having kids, a dog, I wanted it all and I was extremely excited for it and felt incredibly lucky.
So when it ended, I kind of figured, ok well, realistically, the chances of me finding someone I'm THAT compatible with again are slim to none. Which kind of doesn't give me ever getting married a good chance.
So, I've been looking a lot in to letting go of that life I wanted and being single the rest of my life. I'm getting bored of sleeping around at this point too.
So what do you guys think? Any of you thinking about or already made the choice to pursue single life? Is it a pipe dream?
Congrats on the new hang-out/date girl, though! This is the first of many, many fucking steps, either with her or with other girls. Sounds tedious, but that's why I said "fucking steps" because there's a lot of that too so enjoy!
:drool
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