just say that you're a lawyer out loud in a public place and a pair of panties will land in your mouth.
Sounds like you still want girls when you should be going after women.
it's the manchild thing, and you're going after womenchildren. you're an old man now. women dig the maturity thang, especially slightly younger women. try being into the outdoors, cooking, fitness, or building shit instead of nintendo franchises, animu, goofy sci-fi and bored highschooler pastimes! you've LONG passed the age where you can woo them by being a manic pixie dreamboy chock fulla quirk and peter pan imagination adventures. leave that to etoilet.
Mrs C just dropped a bomba on me though:
In her book, if he wants to weed out the wazzaks - he should go in as captain animu. That way you wipe out all the cockroaches looking to spit out a few bulb headed offsprings and sit on the couch living off Bebpowelfare until messy divorce! She approves of Bebpo going in as captain Animu complete with yellow sub.
dayum, truth bombs exploding left and right in this bitch. but alas, as a young distinguished black fellow on okcupid all I get are messages from fatties saying "i love harry potter too!"
Didn't Patel drop some awesome knowledge about okcupid etc a while back? It pretty much proved these things were basically useless for most men. Statistically, you are screwed from the outset just by being a guy. Then you add in the fact that most of the profiles are inactive, so the pool of females shrinks yet further. The site is designed to fluff you along just enough to keep using it, but you are basically never going to get any action out of it.
Ain't recursive good looking and not a virgin? Why is there an issue with him?
seriously, though, you've nailed it: the lovable impulsive doofus charm has a VERY early expiration date with chicks. they want potential brat-siring properties, not a trip on the yellow submarine with captain animu.
edit: unless captain animu is dcharlie, apparently, but he also has some serious hooligan chops.
Name him James Potter Gundam
Didn't Patel drop some awesome knowledge about okcupid etc a while back? It pretty much proved these things were basically useless for most men. Statistically, you are screwed from the outset just by being a guy. Then you add in the fact that most of the profiles are inactive, so the pool of females shrinks yet further. The site is designed to fluff you along just enough to keep using it, but you are basically never going to get any action out of it.
wife pointed out that trying to initially prove how keeerazy or fun-lovin' or quirky you are smacks of a sell job and thus insecurity.
(yes, you were a Topic of cruncheon family discussion last night :-*)
I could pretend to have advice for you, but if you're a lawyer and you can't get a date WTF
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You could have any woman in Poland (excluding my wife) with your status, Bebpo.
spoiler (click to show/hide)Speaking of "brat-siring," we're officially trying to get preggers now...[close]
why do you support child abuse, himuro ???
I just want to know when we can expect Rygar II
why do you support child abuse, himuro ???
Personally I like the name "Camille" a lot. Certainly more than all the Ashleighs and Kayleighs and the different spellings of traditional names that seem so trendy nowadays.
I just want to know when we can expect Rygar II
as someone who met his fiancée on OK Cupid (!)...
That never happened! But seriously, never.I just want to know when we can expect Rygar II
He got the snip, dude. Never.
One more important point:
Any serious relationship means compromise. Some big, some small. You are not going to always get your way. You are going to change and ideally you are going to want that change.
If you look for a relationship thinking that your life is perfect as is and you're "not going to change for anyone!" you are going to die alone. It doesn't matter if your hobby is videogaming or body building.
Girls don't just want you; they want you in a relationship. If you are not willing to commit to anything larger than yourself, women will know and they will not want anything to do with you. They will know.
One more important point:
Any serious relationship means compromise. Some big, some small. You are not going to always get your way. You are going to change and ideally you are going to want that change.
If you look for a relationship thinking that your life is perfect as is and you're "not going to change for anyone!" you are going to die alone. It doesn't matter if your hobby is videogaming or body building.
Girls don't just want you; they want you in a relationship. If you are not willing to commit to anything larger than yourself, women will know and they will not want anything to do with you. They will know.
I really can't emphasize this enough, especially the bolded last part there. Aside from the lazy, chubby, smartass yet somehow a human avatar of doubt thing I've got going on, the essential reason I'm perpetually single is that I honestly have no interest in compromising myself for anyone. I'm essentially Stalin in a relationship- I don't give a fuck how many people have to die, I'm getting my way. Which is why I've kind of stopped looking for a mate. Either I'll change or I'll die alone, and honestly I'm fine with either.
Now to talk you down off that ledge, at the risk of repeating AA clichés: "one day at a time." You get to know someone before you date them. You date someone casually before you date them seriously. You date someone seriously before you date them long-term. You date someone long-term before you get engaged, married, start a family, etc. etc. Every step is built upon the ones before it, and you shouldn't be worrying about about Stage 8-4 when you can't even beat 1-3 yet. So to speak.
also, like Prole said, you need real world hobbies as well so your girlfriend, when queried, doesn't have to say "arguing Final Fantasy" or "Dreamcast"
wife pointed out that trying to initially prove how keeerazy or fun-lovin' or quirky you are smacks of a sell job and thus insecurity.
(yes, you were a Topic of cruncheon family discussion last night :-*)
Trying to prove how super serious, successful and mature you are also reeks of insecurity. Gotta learn to walk a fine line between the two.
Quotealso, like Prole said, you need real world hobbies as well so your girlfriend, when queried, doesn't have to say "arguing Final Fantasy" or "Dreamcast"
Japanese women just come straight out and ask :
1) what is your job
2) where do you live
3) what is your hobby
In my brief spell of singledom this became mechanical when out in bars. Would be introduced to some approaching late 20's (probably actually 40) Japanese woman - i'd rattle off the first two and then the third one was always "writting music, playing futsal". Whilst i wasn't particularly looking for anyone i'm pretty sure "vidyagames" would have nuked any chance with any girl.
Quotealso, like Prole said, you need real world hobbies as well so your girlfriend, when queried, doesn't have to say "arguing Final Fantasy" or "Dreamcast"
Japanese women just come straight out and ask :
1) what is your job
2) where do you live
3) what is your hobby
Yup. :lol But Bebpo knows this, I'm sure.
One more important point:
Any serious relationship means compromise. Some big, some small. You are not going to always get your way. You are going to change and ideally you are going to want that change.
If you look for a relationship thinking that your life is perfect as is and you're "not going to change for anyone!" you are going to die alone. It doesn't matter if your hobby is videogaming or body building.
Girls don't just want you; they want you in a relationship. If you are not willing to commit to anything larger than yourself, women will know and they will not want anything to do with you. They will know.
I really can't emphasize this enough, especially the bolded last part there. Aside from the lazy, chubby, smartass yet somehow a human avatar of doubt thing I've got going on, the essential reason I'm perpetually single is that I honestly have no interest in compromising myself for anyone. I'm essentially Stalin in a relationship- I don't give a fuck how many people have to die, I'm getting my way. Which is why I've kind of stopped looking for a mate. Either I'll change or I'll die alone, and honestly I'm fine with either.
Yeah, I mean, if you understand that - and accept that - that is totally cool! I have single friends who have decided they are going to go their own way (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0GN2kpBoFs4) for the rest of their earthbound lives, and that is fine. But Forever Alone on your own terms is very different from Forever Alone and you don't know why.
Now to talk you down off that ledge, at the risk of repeating AA clichés: "one day at a time." You get to know someone before you date them. You date someone casually before you date them seriously. You date someone seriously before you date them long-term. You date someone long-term before you get engaged, married, start a family, etc. etc. Every step is built upon the ones before it, and you shouldn't be worrying about about Stage 8-4 when you can't even beat 1-3 yet. So to speak.spoiler (click to show/hide)(http://www.iwatchstuff.com/2009/03/26/bottle-rocket-criterion-not.jpg)[close]
One more thing: most sensible girls will allow you your own space and your own hobbies, including (non-creepy) games or anime. It just can't be all encompassing, and when they "give you your space", that means you keep it in your space and don't insist on telling them all about the latest plot twists of Dragon Age II. That usually goes over about as well as a cat dropping a dead bird on your doorstep. Keep your hobbies - but keep them hobbies.
Quoteedit: unless captain animu is dcharlie, apparently, but he also has some serious hooligan chops.
i may live in Japan and i like the odd Japanese game, but i've no interest in the animu world or the great big land of Desudesudesudesu.
I'm not some chick magnet - i've had long term girlfriends since my midteens and approximately 4 months of being single from 15 until my ripe old ball age of 36 (which is depressing in a certain light, but i don't really care). All of them came from chatting to them and converting from friend to girlfriend. I'm an ugly f*ck, but it doesn't matter when you have wit and charm (which i import via the power of vodka and/or turps)
Mrs C just dropped a bomba on me though:
In her book, if he wants to weed out the wazzaks - he should go in as captain animu. That way you wipe out all the cockroaches looking to spit out a few bulb headed offsprings and sit on the couch living off Bebpowelfare until messy divorce! She approves of Bebpo going in as captain Animu complete with yellow sub.
I think this thread is getting ahead of itself.
I don't really have a problem with those bigger things. Or at least I don't know that I have a problem with those things yet. The only times I've actually met women in person, things have usually gone well and I've never had a girl reject me after a date because any of those things go wrong or turn the girl off. They tend to think I'm a cool sexy dude with a sense of humor who is kind.
No, the problem I have is that I'm not even getting a 1st or 2nd e-mail out of people these days and so I can't get a face-to-face date to see how things gel. Back in the day I'd always get a few e-mails or chats in with a girl and usually if we didn't meet it'd be because I'd lose interest and stop replying. This is the area I need to work on, the very very very early initial meet.
Also about work, I can't meet anyone through there because I work for a family firm with my brother and my dad and our paralegals (married older women) and receptionist (married older woman). There are other attorneys that we work with sometimes but every attorney in my dad's law building is 60-70 years old. There is literally no age 20-40 men/woman to go socialize with in my job.
As for joining clubs to meet people. I probably give in and try going to one or two club events in the local paper and see what's going on. I need to start doing that for networking purposes for my job anyhow. What I need to do is join the local democrat party so I can get into politics, but I'll need to search how to even find them and join.
One more important point:
Any serious relationship means compromise. Some big, some small. You are not going to always get your way. You are going to change and ideally you are going to want that change.
If you look for a relationship thinking that your life is perfect as is and you're "not going to change for anyone!" you are going to die alone. It doesn't matter if your hobby is videogaming or body building.
Girls don't just want you; they want you in a relationship. If you are not willing to commit to anything larger than yourself, women will know and they will not want anything to do with you. They will know.
QuoteIn this day and age? Nah. Lots of nerdy girls out there, too.
I never dated a nerdy girl until the wife and i didn't particularly want to - i always dated someone different so that we'd have differing interestes. So i tended to be looking for generally independent women who were interesting.
wait, so dating a nerdy girl turned out to be a good thing? that always seems like a nightmare situation because I understand the nerd mentality and want no part of it (in real life; I'm happy to indulge online).
To be clear, I mean overtly nerdy. I've visited an anime club before and it was literally hell. Say I decide to be evil and do unspeakable evils for many years, then die riding a nuclear bomb into the moon, which would somehow end all life on Earth, and heaven and hell turned out to be real--I'd end up in an anime club for an eternity. Because as much as I come off as a tard fagot nerd here, I rarely if ever talk about this stuff in real life. But if I ever manage to meet someone who is also ashamed of their video game hobby, I'd be down for that.
haha pretty much. the rare times I do task about video games, it's extremely broad and uncertain. "I heard", "I think", "One time I", "When I was younger", etc. I do have a god hand ringtone for one person on my mobile, though. Though if anyone recognized it, I'd be ok with them.
to go off something lyte edge said earlier about playing video games being part of 'yourself', I disagree and apply that to any hobby. A hobby shouldn't define who you are. Maybe you like that hobby because of other aspects of your personality, but the hobby itself is just something you occasionally do and it isn't worth obsessing over.
My friends know that I like giant robots and play animu weirdo games, but no one cares. When we hang out, we talk about craft beer, indie rock, our wives, politics, sports and hiking.
Quotealso, like Prole said, you need real world hobbies as well so your girlfriend, when queried, doesn't have to say "arguing Final Fantasy" or "Dreamcast"
Japanese women just come straight out and ask :
1) what is your job
2) where do you live
3) what is your hobby
and from this they can deduce how much you earn and whether you are a mad axe murderer.
In my brief spell of singledom this became mechanical when out in bars. Would be introduced to some approaching late 20's (probably actually 40) Japanese woman - i'd rattle off the first two and then the third one was always "writting music, playing futsal". Whilst i wasn't particularly looking for anyone i'm pretty sure "vidyagames" would have nuked any chance with any girl.
My disasterous opening gambit with my now wife : "Oh you play games? *rolleyes* let me guess... puzzle bobble and Tetris?"
She reminded me of this today - what a twat i am.
Quoteuhhh, 1) is usually 'Do you have a girlfriend'
oh yeah - i guess it is. Then again, it doesn't really seem to be that important to a lot of people (or at least didn't)
I never talk to friends or anyone for that matter actually about video games. It's one of the main reasons why I still frequent online forums: I can talk about the stupidest, nerdiest shit without getting too much flak for it. At age 26, if I were to talk about playing a loli RPG on my PSP, I'd probably get cast out of the group. The older I get, the more secretive I am about gaming.
Well, I'd imagine that you'd want to meet someone as nerdy as yourself...hooking up with someone even nerdier isn't gonna be the best idea. If you were into those stupid anime clubs, you'd probably think different. That is, assuming the females there are remotely attractive. :lol I'm not one for the animu meet-ups either. I was scarred for life by that shit when I worked at a game store.
I only talk about video games with the people I know or meet that are also interested in them. I don't see what the problem is here.
But the keyword is "part." It's a part of yourself, not everything. I'm not saying your hobby defines you...I'm saying that it shouldn't be something to ashamed over or hide from others. If someone looks down on you because you like some fucking video games, they have a problem.
Well, I'd imagine that you'd want to meet someone as nerdy as yourself...hooking up with someone even nerdier isn't gonna be the best idea. If you were into those stupid anime clubs, you'd probably think different. That is, assuming the females there are remotely attractive. :lol I'm not one for the animu meet-ups either. I was scarred for life by that shit when I worked at a game store.
I only talk about video games with the people I know or meet that are also interested in them. I don't see what the problem is here.
But the keyword is "part." It's a part of yourself, not everything. I'm not saying your hobby defines you...I'm saying that it shouldn't be something to ashamed over or hide from others. If someone looks down on you because you like some fucking video games, they have a problem.
The ashamed part is mostly a joke (mostly); I do post on gaf, after all. I certainly don't want it to be a first impression, and the times I do talk about it, I definitely water down my knowhow. I don't consider it to be hiding it because I won't deny that I play video games, but I also won't start go asking "do you play video games?" I don't remember if I did emphasize that this is in public and mostly with newer people. Closer friends are aware of my hobbies, but even then I don't go full nerd. GAF and evilbore are my catharsis for this stuff. I generally try not to be too personal or serious on forums because they are entertainment. I'm describing this poorly and it must come off as incredibly shallow or something.
though, I don't deny that I too would look down on someone for their interests. If my first impression of someone is "Want to go see Eat Pray Love? we can take my Nissan Cube and blast Nickleback," it would take an awful lot to return to neutral.
Also make sure to remove your Yoko from Guren Laagen bodypillow from your bed when your girlfriend comes over. (this happened to a friend of mine, she complained about the body pillow, but complained even more about the Avril Lavigne posters in his room)I wonder how people can get no lovin' and then I hear stories like this. :lol :lol :lol
Music I find is a great hobby to talk about. Most girls don't have much of a clue about the genres I listen to, but a ton of chicks ask about my DJing (which I play up on my profile).
i kinda want a nissan cube :supergay
In the UK you'd always get some ass hat who wanted to run their mouth off. But hey - i've got many strings in my bow. One posser was constantly going on about how i should get a real hobby or take up a "man's activity" :/ He invited me as a joke to make up the numbers in a 5-a-side football game and expected me to be a useless nerd. The hilarity of watch his face drop as i ran riot against their pretty boy yet only mildly skilled arses. I'M IN UR PRESHUSH SPORT RUINING UR INFLATED EGO. OH LOOKIT! TEH BALL IS IN UR NET AGAIN, SORRY. CAREFUL UR BACK WHEN RETRIEVING!
I never used to mention it to women until I got to know them. Then they were usually surprised about how nerdy I was. I'll never forget this one time I had a girl over and i decided to play some FF8. She was laying on my bed and I was playing it in my room. She looks at me and says "So what are we doing this weekend?" I look at her and say "baby, you're looking at it." It didn't last long.
FF8 is the best FF :DI never used to mention it to women until I got to know them. Then they were usually surprised about how nerdy I was. I'll never forget this one time I had a girl over and i decided to play some FF8. She was laying on my bed and I was playing it in my room. She looks at me and says "So what are we doing this weekend?" I look at her and say "baby, you're looking at it." It didn't last long.
FF8? Can't say I blame her... :P
The girls I've shown my 'man cave' to always remark on my NES and they are like "does it work? Yeah? That's soooo kewl!!!!1!11!11". Then we play Mario 1 and have hot steamy sex on the couch.
I've always thought this "I only talk about games with such and such people" to be a bit odd. I mean, I'm not going to start a conversation with someone about a subject they don't know/care about - shit's absurd. Like, I have about 100GB of eastern European animated shorts on my hdd but why would I ever tell anyone? has nothing to do with shame, it's just not something people would care about, just like I don't give a shit about a particular brand of nail polish taking a particular color out of their line-up (a subject I spent an evening this weekend pretending to listen to). Same about games, football, boxing, skateboarding, etc.
I've always thought this "I only talk about games with such and such people" to be a bit odd. I mean, I'm not going to start a conversation with someone about a subject they don't know/care about - shit's absurd. Like, I have about 100GB of eastern European animated shorts on my hdd but why would I ever tell anyone? has nothing to do with shame, it's just not something people would care about, just like I don't give a shit about a particular brand of nail polish taking a particular color out of their line-up (a subject I spent an evening this weekend pretending to listen to). Same about games, football, boxing, skateboarding, etc.
Find a girl with a band t-shirt and talk about music. makes life much easier.
My point is more along the lines of why would you want to talk to someone about something they don't care about? at that point you're just talking at them. That's really the thing that I don't get. What kind of conversations are happening to you were you instigate talks of games with people who don't like them?
And besides, people are always gonna judge you for shit beyond your control. I have friends that give me shit for listening to hip hop or pop music, or some of my favorite films being romantic dramas, etc... So I don't get why 'gamers' are so hung up on the issue of being made fun of.
Then again maybe it's more to do with Americans having stronger opinions on nerd stuff. I've never met anyone(girls/co-workers/whatevs) who disapproved of me having a NES system at my old flat, or having an entire shelf dedicated to Andre Franquins' comics and all sorts of other nerdy stuff. I get more shit for my mountain of typography books than my animu.
Kinda like this...
Person: So what have you been up to?
Me: Not much. Hanging out, nothing big.
In reality...
Person: So what have you been up to?
Me: Not much. Played Red Dead Redemption for about 4 hours Saturday. Shit was hard. The military wanted me to escort this train of supplies to the troops, but it had to go through rebel territory. Shit was hard. Then a few jobs later, the fucking rebels wanted me to sabotage a train full of supplies and the military was curb stomping my ass hard. Had to use the gatlin gun. Then I pretty much made a few hot dogs and marathoned the Harry Potter movies in anticipation of part 2 coming out. You?
The first is what I say to most people. The 2nd is what I say to my close friends.
Edit: and to be clear, it's not complicated. But take a look at GAF and how many of the weirdos would actually say #2 on a first date. Some people really are that socially inept.
What I learned tonight is that the few anime dating sites are super ghetto broken, glitchy, hard to do anything, and want to charge you money.
My wife isn't the same person i started dating 10+ years ago - and neither am i. If you're going to judge ideal girl on a basically short snapshot then it's potentially a recipe for disaster. You grow into a perfect partner. Hell, i expected the wife and I to last about 2 months tops for instance. I didn't instantly think "This is the one for me!" and neither did she.
The "Perfect Girl" doesn't exist in a short time frame - if you think you've found that person within 1 year, you're probably wrong. You need to date over and over , have fun together , argued like cat and dog, pissed each other off, go through the rough and the smooth and lived together first before "Perfect Girl" is anywhere near your thought process. Maybe it's just me - actively searching for "perfect girl" and rejecting early seems a self-defeating strategy. In the short term you simply can't tell (IMO of course)
Plentyoffish >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Okcupid
I never got 1/14th the views and emails ok OKC than i did on POF.
When i tried to join the football team at my work out here, the british guys and one guy in particluar (who became a really good friend) made excuses that there were no places left on the team when i asked to join because he assumed i'd be shit. I went on to be team captain after the bastards let me play!
Don't look for a girl that has everything in common. Everyone needs their own thing.
I'm just looking for someone who has 1 thing in common! and that is they watch anime regularly so we could watch stuff together. I'm not even a hardcore anime/manga fan.
:lolQuote from: bebpuu~I'm just looking for someone who has 1 thing in common! and that is they watch anime regularly so we could watch stuff together. I'm not even a hardcore anime/manga fan.
:wtf
then why is your #1 prerequisite for a date if not a soulmate that anime be an important hobby to them ???
then why is your #1 prerequisite for a date if not a soulmate that anime be an important hobby to them ???
So that just in case he dies, he has someone to take over and carry on his internet persona?
Just go to the weeaboo extreme. How bad could it be? just remember to hide the rubberbandsdo this
Bepbo, you'll be lucky finding a women that won't think it's lame you want to sit in a tent watch vhs anime from the 80's, finding one that will join in seems impossible. Be realistic now!
Like you guys never did nerd stuff when you were young :P
Like you guys never did nerd stuff when you were young :P
i was a super anime/vg tard until about the age of 20. then i started getting developing more adult concerns, interests, and perspectives. it happens!
Maybe it's just because I'm used to this type of girl since it was my first gf...
QuoteMaybe it's just because I'm used to this type of girl since it was my first gf...
I was stuck in this rut for a while. You need to break out of it. Force yourself to go out on dates with girls who "aren't your type." I think you will very quickly discover your type is not as typecast as you think.
Think about it -- would you really want to be with a woman that talks about reality shows, glee or whatever all the time? Nah she would come off as creepy
How's your online dating experience going boo?
How's your online dating experience going boo?
Pretty much went back to my old methods. NOT TRYING.
But all my straight guys friends are into Dr. Who!
But all my straight guys friends are into Dr. Who!
Nope.
But all my straight guys friends are into Dr. Who!
Nope.
I am NOT into Dr. Who, for the record
Sorry to be a dick but it blows my mind that a lawyer is having trouble picking up women.
Sorry to be a dick but it blows my mind that a lawyer is having trouble picking up women.
Eh, it doesn't mean much these days. Online dating = women have more choice. Online dating = generally younger women -> younger women = don't care about profession/income & more likely to be anti-authority. Online dating is the place where the homeless artist, the straightedge surfer, or the living-in-a-tour-bus indie musician thrives; meanwhile the white collar I-work-a-job and have-a-stable-life has the hard time.
Sorry to be a dick but it blows my mind that a lawyer is having trouble picking up women.
Eh, it doesn't mean much these days. Online dating = women have more choice. Online dating = generally younger women -> younger women = don't care about profession/income & more likely to be anti-authority. Online dating is the place where the homeless artist, the straightedge surfer, or the living-in-a-tour-bus indie musician thrives; meanwhile the white collar I-work-a-job and have-a-stable-life has the hard time.
I think your description is more specific to okcupid. There are plenty of non-hipster/anti-establishment types on POF, from what I recall.
I hope you like teachers, Jesus-freaks and Jesus-freak teachers.
So apparently if the locking device in the trunk of your car breaks, you are in for a headache. Because if the trunk is not locked down closed the trunk light bulb will always be on and your battery will die. I pulled open the panel for the bulb and tried to pull it out but it doesn't twist off or pull out. I'm not sure how you're supposed to get it out. Next thing I'm going to do is pull out the fuse but it's pitch black at night and I can't see anything so will have to do that at the crack of dawn. And since it's a holiday weekend, if I don't find the right fuse it'll be on until tuesday at best, so the battery will be shot for sure. ARGH. I had heard some weird jingling in the locking device previously like a screw loose or something but had never though anything of it. I think a piece disappeared :X
Bebpo, come flaunt lawyer money in Vegas. You buy bottles, I'll get you some play. It may not be pretty, but I'll get you play!
unrelated, i love that the quote text revealsjust say that you're a lawyer out loud in a public place and a pair of panties will land in your mouth.
I have never heard of or seen this phenomenon
Well I'm over women. Waste of time and full of crazies.
Better to spend my time hanging with the bros and having a crazy fun single life while enjoying my soon to be 30s.
Thanks, yeah I guess I'm just too busy atm and female companionship is not something that is a super high priority in my life right now. Maybe will give internet sites another shot in some time, but just seems like a big waste of time currently.
Thanks, yeah I guess I'm just too busy atm and female companionship is not something that is a super high priority in my life right now. Maybe will give internet sites another shot in some time, but just seems like a big waste of time currently.
You are doing absolutely the right thing.
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'Be yourself' translates almost exactly to 'Ignore her' in my world.
'Be yourself' translates almost exactly to 'Ignore her' in my world..
I have cock but not that funny :(
Stop trying to fit it into an equation.
I've been getting invited to a lot of parties and stuff lately by female friends, I think the young women in my neighborhood seem to have collectively decided I'm probably not a serial killer after all. not sure if this has any bearing on dating opportunities
What do you think though about girls who you built up a rapport with and we're in the middle of several conversational threads when they just VANISH after you throw in one sentence about meeting over coffee in the previous message?
Is there any point in even doing a followup mail ever? Or do friendships you've started to build up just instantly die for eternity the second that happens?
Ignore her only works as real tactic when there's already something between you two. When there's sexual tension but she's playing hard to get and being stubborn.
Or maybe they like the attention online but have no real interest in taking it offline.
Ignore her only works as real tactic when there's already something between you two. When there's sexual tension but she's playing hard to get and being stubborn.
This.
If the girl didn't give a shit about you to begin with, ignoring her definitely doesn't seem like it would a helpful tactic.
yeah, I don't think you can misconstrue 'ignore her' as "sit in a corner and sulk quietly and she'll be allured to your emanating sexual wit"
Never witnessed the "ignore her" shit work, personally. i call shenanigans.