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Title: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: CurseoftheGods on July 17, 2011, 07:03:04 PM: So... I just had sex with a married man (with a 14-yo to boot). It was at his place, and his family was out of town. I was shocked when he first told me he was married and had kids, but I never thought much of it until now. If I said no, he'd still be having sex with men on the side... and in no way am I jeopardizing his marriage even if this turns out to be more serious.

Uh... thoughts? Am I a psychopath?
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Akala on July 17, 2011, 07:24:15 PM: Closeted married folk always make me laff. Fuck him. Oh wait
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Vertigo on July 17, 2011, 07:59:28 PM: It's a bit dodgy knowing he is living life as a 'straight' man. I find that incredibly deceptive.

But that's on his conscious not yours.
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Post by: Van Cruncheon on July 17, 2011, 08:12:45 PM: his life, his consequences
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Post by: Diunx on July 17, 2011, 08:41:24 PM: lol you used the same excuse George used.

:bow Seinfeld :bow2
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: demi on July 17, 2011, 08:41:44 PM: :rofl MARRIAGE

What a joke.

Was he woof material? btw, you probably arent the first guy who fucked his cornhole. dont worry about it.
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: EmCeeGrammar on July 17, 2011, 08:42:41 PM: You should feel what you feel. Nothing otherwise. For instance, I feel that you're a homewrecker. The sex being gay doesn't alter that.
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on July 17, 2011, 08:49:59 PM: I only had time to skim the OP and not read it thoroughly, but in general having an affair with a 14-year-old is rarely a good idea, although if he's already married maybe he must be mature for his age, I dunno.
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: EmCeeGrammar on July 17, 2011, 08:51:53 PM: Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 17, 2011, 08:48:02 PM
I fucked a married chick in Thailand once. It's not really a thing.

Yes, knowing your history you would do a thing like that and think its nothing.

I'm no prude, and aint that empathetic either, but I'd rather not enable behavior that could potentially scar a family or otherwise.
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: lennedsay on July 17, 2011, 09:03:27 PM: Quote from: Wrath2X on July 17, 2011, 08:46:08 PM
Well he's the one who's going to get fucked in the end, its your choice whether to continue with the affair or not. He's the one cheating and living a closeted life that will ruin the family if revealed, you're just a guy who was looking for dick. Chillax.

What if Curse is the bottom?
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Post by: Mupepe on July 17, 2011, 09:07:21 PM: Awesome-o who are you on GAF?
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Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 17, 2011, 09:42:09 PM: Yes.
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Post by: Joe Molotov on July 17, 2011, 10:09:07 PM: It's gonna suck when the 14 y/o comes home early one afternoon and sees his dad getting cornholed.
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Post by: T234 on July 17, 2011, 10:10:54 PM: I have a feeling it's the other way around, Molotov.
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Post by: pilonv1 on July 17, 2011, 10:15:30 PM: Quote from: Joe Molotov® EDGE™ on July 17, 2011, 10:09:07 PM
It's gonna suck when the 14 y/o comes home early one afternoon and sees his dad getting cornholed.

or is it :smug
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Diunx on July 17, 2011, 10:15:43 PM: Quote from: Mupepe on July 17, 2011, 09:07:21 PM
Awesome-o who are you on GAF?

Puddles.
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: BlackMage on July 18, 2011, 01:57:28 AM: (http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y96/stinkyfishtaco/cool.gif)
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 18, 2011, 02:06:13 AM: more details. how did you meet this dude...
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Trent Dole on July 18, 2011, 03:24:12 AM: Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on July 17, 2011, 08:49:59 PM
I only had time to skim the OP and not read it thoroughly, but in general having an affair with a 14-year-old is rarely a good idea, although if he's already married maybe he must be mature for his age, I dunno.
:rofl
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: CurseoftheGods on July 18, 2011, 05:48:47 AM: Quote from: demi on July 17, 2011, 08:41:44 PM
:rofl MARRIAGE

What a joke.

Was he woof material? btw, you probably arent the first guy who fucked his cornhole. dont worry about it.

He was a daddy bear.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 18, 2011, 02:06:13 AM
more details. how did you meet this dude...

http://www.grindr.com/Grindr_iPhone_App/Grindr_-Meet_Guys_Near_You_on_your_iPhone.html
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Trurl on July 18, 2011, 06:10:05 AM: What's the age difference between you guys?
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: CurseoftheGods on July 18, 2011, 06:31:06 AM: Quote from: Trurl on July 18, 2011, 06:10:05 AM
What's the age difference between you guys?

I'm almost 25 and he's 38.
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 18, 2011, 07:03:34 AM: Unless you know his family somehow I´d say it´s cool.

Quote from: EmCeeGrammar on July 17, 2011, 08:51:53 PM
Yes, knowing your history you would do a thing like that and think its nothing.

I'm no prude, and aint that empathetic either, but I'd rather not enable behavior that could potentially scar a family or otherwise.

Get over yourself Emcee.

@Awesome-o: best new old member :bow2
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: EmCeeGrammar on July 18, 2011, 08:49:31 AM: You are arguably the best example of why one shouldn't be sleeping around with people that are spoken for. Was it fun hiding from that one spurned dude. Hmmmmm?
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: CurseoftheGods on July 18, 2011, 09:00:15 AM: Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 18, 2011, 06:27:12 AM
Quote from: Trurl on July 18, 2011, 06:10:05 AM
What's the age difference between you guys?

Curse is 24, this dude is 14 and also married.

Wait. How do you know my age?
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: demi on July 18, 2011, 09:19:49 AM: It's clear you're a chaser, what age bracket would that fall under. The cool young dude bracket.
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Post by: Mupepe on July 18, 2011, 10:08:31 AM: There's nothing wrong with it from your end if it doesn't actually make you feel bad.
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Post by: rodi on July 18, 2011, 10:52:48 AM: It's kind of wrong, but what isn't these days?
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Post by: Don Flamenco on July 18, 2011, 11:14:11 AM: nope, nothing wrong with that. I can see how it might appear very morally gray, whether you should screw a married guy or not. But nope, it's totally alright.
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Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 18, 2011, 11:47:31 AM: You say morally gray, I say morally gay.
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Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 18, 2011, 01:47:37 PM: Seeing FM make intentional wordplays is like seeing a kid play with fire.
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Himu on July 18, 2011, 01:59:04 PM: Quote from: CurseoftheGods on July 18, 2011, 05:48:47 AM
http://www.grindr.com/Grindr_iPhone_App/Grindr_-Meet_Guys_Near_You_on_your_iPhone.html

:rofl
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 18, 2011, 02:06:54 PM: Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 18, 2011, 01:59:04 PM
Quote from: CurseoftheGods on July 18, 2011, 05:48:47 AM
http://www.grindr.com/Grindr_iPhone_App/Grindr_-Meet_Guys_Near_You_on_your_iPhone.html

:rofl

yea...my thoughts exactly. jesus

I pray it was safe sex right
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Mupepe on July 18, 2011, 02:52:44 PM: Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 18, 2011, 02:45:01 PM
Quote from: Mupepe on July 18, 2011, 10:08:31 AM
There's nothing wrong with it from your end if it doesn't actually make you feel bad.

That probably has a lot to do with which end he is and how big the other guy's end is.
Nah, I bet both ends feel good, man.
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Reb on July 18, 2011, 02:54:33 PM: Yes, you should feel bad.
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Post by: Robo on July 18, 2011, 02:55:07 PM: No, you should not feel bad.
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Reb on July 18, 2011, 02:56:44 PM: Yes you should.
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Robo on July 18, 2011, 02:57:37 PM: No you shouldn't.
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Reb on July 18, 2011, 02:59:40 PM: You really should.
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: demi on July 18, 2011, 03:00:35 PM: He didnt start the affair, though. So no, he shouldn't feel bad. If the guy is on Grindr, then chances are he fucked and sucked plenty of other tween boys.
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 18, 2011, 03:32:01 PM: never heard of it until today. Do women use it too...?
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Post by: demi on July 18, 2011, 03:33:56 PM: Read the site, maurice.
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Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 18, 2011, 03:36:01 PM: :fbm
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Mupepe on July 18, 2011, 03:50:27 PM: just use craigslist, PD.
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Post by: Himu on July 18, 2011, 03:51:05 PM: Don't use craigslist, cops are using that.
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Post by: Mupepe on July 18, 2011, 03:53:04 PM: ? he's not trying to find a prostitute. There's nothing illegal about hooking up from the internet.
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Post by: Himu on July 18, 2011, 03:55:19 PM: he's not? :lol
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Post by: Mupepe on July 18, 2011, 03:57:46 PM: i thought he was just trying to find horny sluts
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Post by: Himu on July 18, 2011, 04:01:45 PM: PD if you get with a horny slut do not eat her out or let her suck your dick (without a condom on).
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Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 18, 2011, 04:09:07 PM: Gay men have it easy. It really isn't fair.
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Bildi on July 18, 2011, 07:28:14 PM: Quote from: CurseoftheGods on July 17, 2011, 07:03:04 PM
If I said no, he'd still be having sex with men on the side...

Sorry Curse, but I think that's a rubbish argument. It reminds me of an argument I sometimes encounter which is "if I didn't screw all those people over for their life savings, someone else would have." Doesn't change the fact that the person ruined people's lives for their own gain.

Whether you are happy with your decision is up to your own conscience.
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Barry Egan on July 18, 2011, 07:57:59 PM: I wonder the extent to which coming from a broken home effects the type of opinion you'd have about this. I come from one, for instance, and I think curse should def feel like shit.
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 18, 2011, 08:06:43 PM: Cheating is wrong, but the husband cheated not Curse. Seems like a bad, desperate decision regardless
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Post by: Mupepe on July 18, 2011, 08:23:14 PM: I come from a broken home as well and I would definitely feel bad about fucking with a marriage. And I tend to have a harsher view on infidelity in marriage than most people I know.

But to clarify with my earlier comment, I don't think he did anything wrong. I'd feel bad because I know how that feels, but it's ultimately not really his fault.
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Post by: etiolate on July 18, 2011, 10:15:17 PM: Though you didn't start the affair, you are a part of something that will likely hurt someone else.
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Post by: cool breeze on July 18, 2011, 10:41:13 PM: there are too many people out there to be messing with a married one
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Post by: CrystalGemini on July 18, 2011, 11:25:56 PM: It's like knowingly buying stolen goods.
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 19, 2011, 01:17:34 AM: Quote from: CrystalGemini on July 18, 2011, 11:25:56 PM
It's like knowingly buying stolen goods.

It's more like going to a strangers home and sticking their tooth brush in your anus just because that person's roomate says it's ok.
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: CurseoftheGods on July 19, 2011, 10:52:08 AM: Quote from: Bildi on July 18, 2011, 07:28:14 PM
Quote from: CurseoftheGods on July 17, 2011, 07:03:04 PM
If I said no, he'd still be having sex with men on the side...

Sorry Curse, but I think that's a rubbish argument. It reminds me of an argument I sometimes encounter which is "if I didn't screw all those people over for their life savings, someone else would have." Doesn't change the fact that the person ruined people's lives for their own gain.

I agree. I wasn't thinking very clearly when I wrote that.

As for the more recent posts, I come from a broken home as well, but I don't think it's affecting how I feel about this situation. Regardless, I would feel like a more ethical person if I broke it off, and I think I will.
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 19, 2011, 10:55:03 AM: safe sex?
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: CurseoftheGods on July 19, 2011, 11:00:29 AM: Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 19, 2011, 10:55:03 AM
safe sex?

always
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: demi on July 19, 2011, 11:03:46 AM: Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 18, 2011, 11:26:46 PM
If Curse was a woman fucking a married guy or a guy fucking a married woman, that would be a little different, though I'd be in no position to judge. But he's a dude fucking another dude who's married to a woman. The dude wants dick. Presumably he isn't going to get that from his wife. It's either a strapping young man like Curse or male hookers.

distant gets fucked with a strapon, afaik. But it just isnt the same...
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Post by: Don Flamenco on July 19, 2011, 11:08:55 AM: Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 18, 2011, 11:26:46 PM
If Curse was a woman fucking a married guy or a guy fucking a married woman, that would be a little different, though I'd be in no position to judge. But he's a dude fucking another dude who's married to a woman. The dude wants dick. Presumably he isn't going to get that from his wife. It's either a strapping young man like Curse or male hookers.

being gay isn't just about dick. he could get anal stimulation from his wife, it could even be hot and wonderful and plenty of dudes are into that, but he likes guys. She probably doesn't turn him on.

And it's probably just as bad to lose your husband to a man. She may not get violent with you like the other guy would in a man or wife cheating on the other situation, but a happily married woman with children? She's probably gonna be fucking devastated when she finds out her husband is gay.
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Post by: Mupepe on July 19, 2011, 11:09:37 AM: getting pegged feels good.
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Post by: Mr. Gundam on July 19, 2011, 01:18:44 PM: The married guy needs to come clean and tell his wife. Either she's cool with it and they figure out an arrangement where he gets to have safe sex with guys, or she's not and the marriage is over.

Quote from: demi on July 19, 2011, 11:03:46 AM
Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 18, 2011, 11:26:46 PM
If Curse was a woman fucking a married guy or a guy fucking a married woman, that would be a little different, though I'd be in no position to judge. But he's a dude fucking another dude who's married to a woman. The dude wants dick. Presumably he isn't going to get that from his wife. It's either a strapping young man like Curse or male hookers.

distant gets fucked with a strapon, afaik. But it just isnt the same...

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Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 19, 2011, 01:26:28 PM: Quote from: My F*cking Grandpa on July 18, 2011, 07:57:59 PM
I wonder the extent to which coming from a broken home effects the type of opinion you'd have about this. I come from one, for instance, and I think curse should def feel like shit.

I come at it from the opposite end: I come from a broken home (like, seriously broken- dad has been married five times, TWICE to my mom) and not only do I not think he should feel like shit, I have a very low opinion of marriage and monogamy.
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Post by: demi on July 19, 2011, 01:27:07 PM: Except you straight admitted it at one point, but ok
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Post by: Mr. Gundam on July 19, 2011, 01:29:52 PM: Quote from: demi on July 19, 2011, 01:27:07 PM
Except you straight admitted it at one point, but ok

I don't remember saying it was a strap-on.
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Post by: Mupepe on July 19, 2011, 01:30:19 PM: IIRC, it was just a finger or maybe a toy. Child's play, gundam!
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Post by: Mr. Gundam on July 19, 2011, 01:31:49 PM: Curse, you should submit a letter to Savage Love. I'm sure Dan would respond.

Quote from: Mupepe on July 19, 2011, 01:30:19 PM
IIRC, it was just a finger or maybe a toy. Child's play, gundam!

Plug. Haven't used it in years. Everyone ran with it and had fun, I don't mind.
Title: Re: Should I feel bad about starting an affair?
Post by: Mupepe on July 19, 2011, 01:33:30 PM: And Van Cruncheon thought he was dirty in bed.