Her: 6.45
Me: 7.45/8.15
Going back to sleep is almost impossible, I think I might start jogging. Or playing Diablooooo.
wait when the eff did lager get married
what the hell did i miss
Same situation for me but 15 mins earlier for me/her. Drives me insane if I've had a bad nights sleep :(
Dear Ann Landers: I like to get nine or 10 hours of sleep at night, and I make sure I get to bed early enough to do so. My husband, on the other hand, is a night owl. He likes to fall asleep on the sofa while watching TV.
It bothers me a lot that my husband would prefer to sleep in front of the TV instead of with me. When I told him how upset I was, he tried to cooperate, but complained that he cannot fall asleep unless the TV is on. Now he comes to bed after midnight, long after I'm asleep, and turns on the TV. I'm then awake until dawn and tired the next day. Is there a solution to this problem? -- Deadlocked in Spokane, Wash.
My husband and I have been married for just over a year now and we lived together for 8 months prior to the wedding. About 2 months after our wedding last year he started this "habit" (for lack of a better term) that is driving me crazy-- He won't go to bed.
We both work full time and get up early in the AM and there are days when he can't even keep his eyes open when he gets home from work, yet he refuses to go to sleep at night like a normal person. Everyone of my friends that I have asked about this is as befuddled as I am. I make sure that I am in bed every night around 10-10:30pm because my alarm goes off just before 6am. He will stay up, watching TV, playing computer games until all hours of the night and then fall alseep on the couch. He will sometimes come to be around 3am or 4am and some morning he's still sleeping on the couch when I get in the shower.
We have discussed this at least a dozen times and each time he promises he will stop but he never does. WHY does he refuse to go to bed when he starts to feel sleepy? My 2 year old nephew does this type of thing, not any grown man that I know. I'd be happy if he would just come up around 11:30 or 12:00 since he gets up around 7am but he ignores me or gets all defiant if I even suggest it. He will not go to bed until he has fallen asleep on the couch for several hours and then woken up in the middle of the night. I just don't get it. It makes me so upset and I feel like we are roommates "with benefits" (he will come up if he KNOWS he's going to "get some") instead of a grown married couple. (We are both in our mid 30's!) I have told him that it makes me feel like my opinion doesn't matter, that it makes me feel like he doesn't care enough about me to take care of himself to help me out around the house (he's usually too tired to help with dinner, dishes, etc. because of his lack of proper sleep). I've told him that it makes me feel like he doesn't respect me, our marriage, our relationship by continuing to act this way. None of it has worked. I am at the end of my rope. I have tried going at this every way I can think of and I'm out of ideas. Bees, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE give me yout thoughts, suggestions, opinions, I am at a loss!
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everything else is great. We have fun together, we get along great, we travel, and are happy. Except for this oen thing. It's just such bizarre behavior to me and the fact that he won't try to work on it even though I have told him how much it bothers me. :(
About us: We’re both early 30’s, together ~4 years, living together since December of last year. I’m an emotional sort and he’s a bit more taciturn.
Here is how a typical conflict plays out: It’s bedtime for me, about 10:30pm. Boyfriend stays up playing a video game or watching TV. I doze lightly, but wake up a half hour later or an hour later to find boyfriend not in bed. I drag myself out of bed to find him in the living room with the TV on, and he is curled up on the couch asleep. I wake him up, sometimes with some tugging, and get him off to bed. I am now going to bed closer to 11:00 or 11:30, and stew in bed upset for another half hour before finally falling asleep.
I don’t actually have a problem with us going to bed at different times, and I wouldn’t have a problem with him staying up as late as he wants – after all, he is an adult – if I knew that he would come to bed when he got tired. But because he regularly (at least once a week) falls asleep in front of the TV instead of coming to bed fifteen feet away, I can’t trust that on any given night he will ever come to bed. So I am left trying to stay up until he comes to bed, which leaves me sleep deprived and miserable, or going to bed before him, and sleeping lightly until he wakes me up by coming to bed himself (which doesn’t bother me) or until I wake up in a panic that he’s not there and getting out of bed to find him on the couch again.
We’ve talked about this, and it ends up becoming a fight. He doesn’t understand why this is so important to me, and he doesn’t think falling asleep on the couch once a week is a big deal. (“I come to bed 6/7 nights a week!”) From my point of view, since he’s said it isn’t important, I can’t understand why he doesn’t come to bed when he knows it is so meaningful to me. I tried to use a simile by saying, “If I like steak and chicken equally, but you reeeeally love steak, why wouldn’t I make it every night?” That didn’t seem to connect.
So why is his coming to bed every night so important to me? Because I feel that unhappy couples are couples where one person is sleeping on the couch. Because it feels like he is being avoidant and unwilling to make me happy by doing something that’s important to me with (what ought to be) very little effort on his part. Because I feel rejected when he chooses not to come to bed when he’s feeling tired. I’ve brought up all of these things to him, and he says that he’s not unhappy with our relationship, that he’s not rejecting me, and that he can’t help it if he falls asleep on the couch. I don’t understand how someone can’t help it – people don’t just go from awake to asleep with no “I’m getting tired” warning from their bodies unless they have narcolepsy (which he doesn’t have). It feels like he’s saying that he chooses to ignore this signal when it is convenient to him, without regard for my feelings.
99% of the time we wake up and go to sleep at the same time
Yeah we mostly get up and go to bed at the same time but neither of us are immature enough to throw a hissy fit if the other wants to stay up. Wtf lolYou're rejecting them! And not respecting the marriage!
If anyone's trying to interrupt my sleep it's my cat. I woke up covered in kitty toys this morning :lolkitty toys? your wife is dropping hints, bro.
I'm pretty sure 'falling asleep on the couch' is a lie propagated by men, as it sounds less harmful than telling the truth.
me: 6:30
her: 7:00
brat: 7:30
Lol I've done that. That's why I want a vita if it's going to have a solid catalogue. Handheld in the nightstand :rock
I'm pretty sure 'falling asleep on the couch' is a lie propagated by men, as it sounds less harmful than telling the truth.