THE BORE
General => The Superdeep Borehole => Topic started by: GilloD on July 22, 2012, 08:35:10 PM
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I need some real talk. Lemme lay it out: I got divorced earlier this year for a boatload of reasons. All you need to know is that its fine, we're both very happy and it was a great decision. A couple weeks after the divorce, I started dating a woman who I'd just like. Totally fallen for. Even before we started dating I'd see her 2 or 3 times a week. It was like finding out I had a (sexy) twin sister. We were amazingly alike, we got along super well and it was all pretty great. Everyone was happy about this, all of our friends saw it coming, it was A++. About 6 weeks in, we had this talk where she was like "I always knew I wanted you to be part of my life" and I was like GREAT THIS IS COOL. A few days later, she got a promotion, started working crazy hours and shut off like a lightbulb. She instantly went ice cold. I finally called her on it, she cried quite a bit and then admitted that she couldn't handle the job and the relationship. She was so freaked out by the way that she shut off that she went to go see a shrink. It was all weird, but okay. We broke up, had dinner, hung out and it was fine. We agreed that we'd see each other a few times a month and see how shit was going.
I hop on OKC, have some pointless sex and weird dates and meet a girl that I really like. She's unbelievably pretty, has her shit ridiculously together, but also is down to just hang the fuck out. Case in point: We snuck tallboys into the Opera. My friends fucking adore her. She's super sweet, really communicative and amazing fun. This thing starts to go really well, even though it wasn't my intention to hop into another relationship. Problem is: I'm still a little hung up on that first girl. Okay. A lot hung up. I barely ever see her anymore (I haven't seen her 1 on 1 since the breakup). Every now and then I try and make dinner plans and she always backs up at the last minute. So I'm kind of like "Oh, she doesn't want to be friends. That's totally not what was communicated, but fine". But then if there's a party, I'm always the person she'll text for directions or to ask who's there. These are pretty infrequent, once a month or so. Yet, out of the dozen people or so she could text, it's always me. When she gets there, we're friendly, but a little weird. I generally have no idea where we are.
Also, during this time I make a bunch of really amazing friends who have made lost of amazing games and I'm busy socially and professionally and generally feeling pretty good about everything. Its not like I'm at home crying into my pillow, but I do think about her a lot.
Finally, the new girl calls me on it. She's happy with the way things are going, but she also sees that I have one foot outside the relationship. We talk about it, I admit to being partially consumed by the mystery of what happened with that first girl and we decide to call it off for a few weeks while I get my head on straight. I'm in week two of that and it's been pretty good for me. I realized how much of a fuck up I've been with New Girl and that I really do want it to work. I realize that Old Girl is probably damaged outside my capacity to understand. I send her an e-mail just saying "Hey, I miss being friends. If you don't want to be friends or you're just way too fucking busy, that's fine. I just need you to tell me that because it's not what you communicated to me and I'm getting a lot of mixed messages.". That was 4 days ago and I haven't heard a peep. I feel better for having sent it, but I'm still kind of pissed that I didn't even get a peep.
Maybe she's a fuck up. Maybe I'm a fuck up. But it's hard to let go of because we were so close for those 3 months and then it was like that ninja smoke bomb shit and she was gone. Gimmie some real talk here. I'm still trying to figure out how to really get her out of my head so I can move on in a healthy way.
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commit to your new life- be awesome
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that whole spiel was waay too coherent. Down five shots and then get back to us.
(I got no real advice to offer dude.)
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I need some real talk. Lemme lay it out: I got divorced earlier this year for a boatload of reasons. All you need to know is that its fine, we're both very happy and it was a great decision. A couple weeks after the divorce, I started dating a woman who I'd just like. Totally fallen for. Even before we started dating I'd see her 2 or 3 times a week. It was like finding out I had a (sexy) twin sister. We were amazingly alike, we got along super well and it was all pretty great. Everyone was happy about this, all of our friends saw it coming, it was A++. About 6 weeks in, we had this talk where she was like "I always knew I wanted you to be part of my life" and I was like GREAT THIS IS COOL. A few days later, she got a promotion, started working crazy hours and shut off like a lightbulb. She instantly went ice cold. I finally called her on it, she cried quite a bit and then admitted that she couldn't handle the job and the relationship. She was so freaked out by the way that she shut off that she went to go see a shrink. It was all weird, but okay. We broke up, had dinner, hung out and it was fine. We agreed that we'd see each other a few times a month and see how shit was going.
I hop on OKC, have some pointless sex and weird dates and meet a girl that I really like. She's unbelievably pretty, has her shit ridiculously together, but also is down to just hang the fuck out. Case in point: We snuck tallboys into the Opera. My friends fucking adore her. She's super sweet, really communicative and amazing fun. This thing starts to go really well, even though it wasn't my intention to hop into another relationship. Problem is: I'm still a little hung up on that first girl. Okay. A lot hung up. I barely ever see her anymore (I haven't seen her 1 on 1 since the breakup). Every now and then I try and make dinner plans and she always backs up at the last minute. So I'm kind of like "Oh, she doesn't want to be friends. That's totally not what was communicated, but fine". But then if there's a party, I'm always the person she'll text for directions or to ask who's there. These are pretty infrequent, once a month or so. Yet, out of the dozen people or so she could text, it's always me. When she gets there, we're friendly, but a little weird. I generally have no idea where we are.
Also, during this time I make a bunch of really amazing friends who have made lost of amazing games and I'm busy socially and professionally and generally feeling pretty good about everything. Its not like I'm at home crying into my pillow, but I do think about her a lot.
Finally, the new girl calls me on it. She's happy with the way things are going, but she also sees that I have one foot outside the relationship. We talk about it, I admit to being partially consumed by the mystery of what happened with that first girl and we decide to call it off for a few weeks while I get my head on straight. I'm in week two of that and it's been pretty good for me. I realized how much of a fuck up I've been with New Girl and that I really do want it to work. I realize that Old Girl is probably damaged outside my capacity to understand. I send her an e-mail just saying "Hey, I miss being friends. If you don't want to be friends or you're just way too fucking busy, that's fine. I just need you to tell me that because it's not what you communicated to me and I'm getting a lot of mixed messages.". That was 4 days ago and I haven't heard a peep. I feel better for having sent it, but I'm still kind of pissed that I didn't even get a peep.
Maybe she's a fuck up. Maybe I'm a fuck up. But it's hard to let go of because we were so close for those 3 months and then it was like that ninja smoke bomb shit and she was gone. Gimmie some real talk here. I'm still trying to figure out how to really get her out of my head so I can move on in a healthy way.
(http://tinyurl.com/cq8mjdt)
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Be done with first new girl. She was your post-divorce rebound. You had fun, it was awesome, but it served it's purpose and it's over. Stop wondering about and dwelling on her.
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Um... the first girl made her choice. If she's still playing the wavering game, put your third leg down an tell her. Your new girl did it, she has more cock than you.
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I need some real talk. Lemme lay it out: I got divorced earlier this year for a boatload of reasons. All you need to know is that its fine, we're both very happy and it was a great decision. A couple weeks after the divorce, I started dating a woman who I'd just like. Totally fallen for. Even before we started dating I'd see her 2 or 3 times a week. It was like finding out I had a (sexy) twin sister. We were amazingly alike, we got along super well and it was all pretty great. Everyone was happy about this, all of our friends saw it coming, it was A++. About 6 weeks in, we had this talk where she was like "I always knew I wanted you to be part of my life" and I was like GREAT THIS IS COOL. A few days later, she got a promotion, started working crazy hours and shut off like a lightbulb. She instantly went ice cold. I finally called her on it, she cried quite a bit and then admitted that she couldn't handle the job and the relationship. She was so freaked out by the way that she shut off that she went to go see a shrink. It was all weird, but okay. We broke up, had dinner, hung out and it was fine. We agreed that we'd see each other a few times a month and see how shit was going.
I hop on OKC, have some pointless sex and weird dates and meet a girl that I really like. She's unbelievably pretty, has her shit ridiculously together, but also is down to just hang the fuck out. Case in point: We snuck tallboys into the Opera. My friends fucking adore her. She's super sweet, really communicative and amazing fun. This thing starts to go really well, even though it wasn't my intention to hop into another relationship. Problem is: I'm still a little hung up on that first girl. Okay. A lot hung up. I barely ever see her anymore (I haven't seen her 1 on 1 since the breakup). Every now and then I try and make dinner plans and she always backs up at the last minute. So I'm kind of like "Oh, she doesn't want to be friends. That's totally not what was communicated, but fine". But then if there's a party, I'm always the person she'll text for directions or to ask who's there. These are pretty infrequent, once a month or so. Yet, out of the dozen people or so she could text, it's always me. When she gets there, we're friendly, but a little weird. I generally have no idea where we are.
Also, during this time I make a bunch of really amazing friends who have made lost of amazing games and I'm busy socially and professionally and generally feeling pretty good about everything. Its not like I'm at home crying into my pillow, but I do think about her a lot.
Finally, the new girl calls me on it. She's happy with the way things are going, but she also sees that I have one foot outside the relationship. We talk about it, I admit to being partially consumed by the mystery of what happened with that first girl and we decide to call it off for a few weeks while I get my head on straight. I'm in week two of that and it's been pretty good for me. I realized how much of a fuck up I've been with New Girl and that I really do want it to work. I realize that Old Girl is probably damaged outside my capacity to understand. I send her an e-mail just saying "Hey, I miss being friends. If you don't want to be friends or you're just way too fucking busy, that's fine. I just need you to tell me that because it's not what you communicated to me and I'm getting a lot of mixed messages.". That was 4 days ago and I haven't heard a peep. I feel better for having sent it, but I'm still kind of pissed that I didn't even get a peep.
Maybe she's a fuck up. Maybe I'm a fuck up. But it's hard to let go of because we were so close for those 3 months and then it was like that ninja smoke bomb shit and she was gone. Gimmie some real talk here. I'm still trying to figure out how to really get her out of my head so I can move on in a healthy way.
(http://tinyurl.com/cq8mjdt)
:rofl
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Seems like first girl is probably just so confused right now.
so instead of getting all hung up and waiting on her email reply, go chill with girl number two since she seems like she's down and good to go.
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picture the tombstone or cadaver or whatever of Old Girl. You loved her and it could have been great but she just had to get hit by that truck and now she's gone. My honest advice is that you live under that pretense for a while, because knowing that she's still out there and that maybe she'll be receptive again in the near future can be poisonous to your growth. If she changes her mind about things and wants you back in the future, she's going to have to be the one that shows initiative. Just continue to see other woman like you've been doing and if that opportunity does present itself (not that you should expect it to) decide from there
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Man, "imagine they're dead" is your solution to everything.
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GilloD is too much of a flake to take any of your advice to heart. He'll find his way...or not.
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I only like your stories when your employers behave nonsensically. These girl-fucking stories do nothing for me.
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Call the new girl you fucking dolt. God damn are you stupid? QUIT GETTING HUNG UP ON distinguished mentally-challenged GIRLS.... DONT BE LIKE I WAS :'(
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We have a relationship thread, how come every two weeks or so gillod has to make a thread about his current okcupid predicament
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I have a policy of not using the Search function. Sukkit.
Anyway. Yes, okay, Good advice. I AM TRYING TO PURGE THIS FROM MY SYSTEM. New girl rules. Rockin' boobs.
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Repay The Bore for our collective romantic advice with tit pics.
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Repay The Bore for our collective romantic advice with tit pics.
Another reason why she rules: In the middle of a boring work day I once recieved said tit pics
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Rockin boobs? Well you know what you have to do... everyone else gave you the exact same advice I would have given you already. Good luck and more funny work stories pls :P
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Give us some boobs.. I need this, man..
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I dunno, I read this and the relationship thread and there's a lot of drama and overthinkin- sometimes its better to just take it as it comes right?
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We have a relationship thread, how come every two weeks or so gillod has to make a thread about his current okcupid predicament
catch all threads suck. I approve of this thread.
anwyay I agree with Barry Egan. Life is short, do what you enjoy.
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Man, "imagine they're dead" is your solution to everything.
The more colorful personalities amongst the ranks of my Jewish relatives made it a favorite coping mechanism fairly early on.
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Your initial rebound girl, while being TOTALLY COOL OR WHATEVER has some emotional issues. That's cool, but you should probably not have to deal with them. Her contacting you, etc, is a girl thing- they want to make sure you're still thinking about them. Women like attention and affirmation. Even though you sent her that email and she didn't reply to it, in a couple of months out of the blue she'll probably randomly text you or whatever just to fuck with you and make sure you're still burning a candle for her. Fuck that. Be an adult and move on, don't play dumb games.
See if the most recent girl (ROCKIN TITS, we'll call her) will take you back after your dumbness. Tell her that after some sober reflection, you've come to the conclusion that you're a moron and she's awesome, and you totally want her and her amazing breasts in your life on a regular basis. Should do the trick. Also, BREASTS.
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(http://i0.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/newsfeed/000/198/460/iwkoqt.gif?1321057725)
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Creepy Old Guy is right, though probably overly focused on breasts.
I only like your stories when your employers behave nonsensically. These girl-fucking stories do nothing for me.
That's because you have no frame of reference.
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We have a relationship thread, how come every two weeks or so gillod has to make a thread about his current okcupid predicament
I enjoy them. They at least remind me Gillo's still alive.
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Creepy Old Guy is right, though probably overly focused on breasts.
I only like your stories when your employers behave nonsensically. These girl-fucking stories do nothing for me.
That's because you have no frame of reference.
But hey man BREASTS. What can I say, I'm a simple creature.
Also, COOOOOOOOOOLD BLOOOOOOOODED on that Arvie response. *daps*
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Also, COOOOOOOOOOLD BLOOOOOOOODED on that Arvie response. *daps*
I've decided it's the only way I can exact revenge for all the eyeball torture he puts me through in the Outside Links and NSFW threads.
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Your initial rebound girl, while being TOTALLY COOL OR WHATEVER has some emotional issues. That's cool, but you should probably not have to deal with them. Her contacting you, etc, is a girl thing- they want to make sure you're still thinking about them. Women like attention and affirmation. Even though you sent her that email and she didn't reply to it, in a couple of months out of the blue she'll probably randomly text you or whatever just to fuck with you and make sure you're still burning a candle for her. Fuck that. Be an adult and move on, don't play dumb games.
See if the most recent girl (ROCKIN TITS, we'll call her) will take you back after your dumbness. Tell her that after some sober reflection, you've come to the conclusion that you're a moron and she's awesome, and you totally want her and her amazing breasts in your life on a regular basis. Should do the trick. Also, BREASTS.
All that needs to be said.
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Since Im the expert on vagina around here Ill just say that after being married already you should be able to your own shots on this and not ask us.
But since you are:
1) Forget about girl 1. As said she has issues.
2) Forget about girl 2, if she was the (next) the one you wouldnt be thinking bout the other.
3) Enjoy single life for a bit more.
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Your answer is to always enjoy single life.
And go on vacations.
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you seem to have a lot of interesting problems with your life.
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somebody has a nostalgia addiction! that's the first sign you have a self-destructive personality: a sentimentality for a past that never actually was.
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Your answer is to always enjoy single life.
And go on vacations.
Life can be easy if you take it easy.
If you start overthinking shit things you tend to find problems that aren't there (i.e. how can she not like XXX or how can she think YYY omg were so incompatible).
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Since Im the expert on vagina around here Ill just say that after being married already you should be able to your own shots on this and not ask us.
But since you are:
1) Forget about girl 1. As said she has issues.
2) Forget about girl 2, if she was the (next) the one you wouldnt be thinking bout the other.
3) Enjoy single life for a bit more.
:rofl
/thread
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news feed
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Im a distinguished mentally-challenged fellow, but I got my head on straight. Girl 1 is a fuck up, Girl 2 and I are all good and now we just bone and go to nice restaurants and get drunk at the beach and its the best.
/thread
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Im a distinguished mentally-challenged fellow, but I got my head on straight. Girl 1 is a fuck up, Girl 2 and I are all good and now we just bone and go to nice restaurants and get drunk at the beach and its the best.
/thread
and we will be here to hold your feels when that honeymoons ends too. :)
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Your answer is to always enjoy single life.
And go on vacations.
Life can be easy if you take it easy.
If you start overthinking shit things you tend to find problems that aren't there (i.e. how can she not like XXX or how can she think YYY omg were so incompatible).
Too close to home :'(
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somebody has a nostalgia addiction! that's the first sign you have a self-destructive personality: a sentimentality for a past that never actually was.
I saw that movie. It was good.
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Spoilers: I married the new girl
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I saw that movie too. It was a snoozer.
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Glad we could be of help. Now pay up.
Repay The Bore for our collective romantic advice with tit pics.
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Spoilers: I married the new girl
That's awesome man, congrats
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Since Im the expert on vagina around here Ill just say that after being married already you should be able to your own shots on this and not ask us.
But since you are:
1) Forget about girl 1. As said she has issues.
2) Forget about girl 2, if she was the (next) the one you wouldnt be thinking bout the other.
3) Enjoy single life for a bit more.
clearly written before i was married
now at best a vagina historian
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fucking hell. gillod! congrats man.
i will never forget the picture you posted of your mom eating. that is all.
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bud back from the dead
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Here's the full update. I guess I could post it in the crazy stories thread but WHATEVER ITS MY LIFE:
- i went to grad school
- while there i got deep into vr stuff and made a few games that got some eyeballs
- i parlayed that into my first real boy game job and worked on some vr stuff for the GearVR launch
- that got me a job working on a Vive launch title that was super popular
- then i got married to the smart girl in this thread and we have a dog
- i worked on some other stuff at that place, other big VR titles.
- then an old co-worker pulled me aboard at (MULTINATIONAL HUGE MEDIA CONGLOMERATE) where we run the VR department together
When I started this thread I was like "I just got divorced and I have no money and make 10 bucks an hour" and now I make an embarassing sum of money and am re-married and well respected in my field and that RULES and is also proof that the universe is unjust and unfair because I did not deserve it.
phew. what a tale.
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:whew sicc thread, hype for GilloD
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Here's the full update. I guess I could post it in the crazy stories thread but WHATEVER ITS MY LIFE:
- i went to grad school
- while there i got deep into vr stuff and made a few games that got some eyeballs
- i parlayed that into my first real boy game job and worked on some vr stuff for the GearVR launch
- that got me a job working on a Vive launch title that was super popular
- then i got married to the smart girl in this thread and we have a dog
- i worked on some other stuff at that place, other big VR titles.
- then an old co-worker pulled me aboard at (MULTINATIONAL HUGE MEDIA CONGLOMERATE) where we run the VR department together
When I started this thread I was like "I just got divorced and I have no money and make 10 bucks an hour" and now I make an embarassing sum of money and am re-married and well respected in my field and that RULES and is also proof that the universe is unjust and unfair because I did not deserve it.
phew. what a tale.
What was the outro theme song to this DreamWorks film? :doge