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Title: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 17, 2013, 07:50:26 AM: What to say to people? Do you need to message them?

I have many people I really don't want to see there no more but don't know how to do it.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Dickie Dee on July 17, 2013, 08:16:52 AM: with extreme prejudice
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Huff on July 17, 2013, 08:25:34 AM: Everyday when I remember I look at the birthday list and decide if I know/want to keep them.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: The Sceneman on July 17, 2013, 08:37:07 AM: When I have done these previously, just remove people that:

a) you dont talk to anymore

b) dont have any real history with

c) you wouldnt give a shit if you never talked to them again

the rest is easy

Keep people that would potentialy be good contacts for work, fuck the rest
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Reb on July 17, 2013, 08:42:03 AM: Just hide them from your timeline.

*removed nsfw material*
Title: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 17, 2013, 09:26:05 AM: There are some people who take Facebook very fucking seriously. So be prepared for some drama.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Robo on July 17, 2013, 09:39:10 AM: I just hide them from my feed. What difference does it make beyond that?
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Polari on July 17, 2013, 09:46:14 AM: Quote from: Robo on July 17, 2013, 09:39:10 AM
I just hide them from my feed. What difference does it make beyond that?

Two thirds of my Facebook friends are hidden from my feed. The other third I more or less just haven't got around to yet.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Steve Youngblood on July 17, 2013, 09:49:19 AM: If you are worried that unfriending them on Facebook would necessitate some sort of explanation lest feelings be hurt, I'd suggest just hiding them from you feed. For people that you legitimately don't care about, just unfriend them and be done with it.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 17, 2013, 10:10:53 AM: Yeah maybe hiding is the best option for some.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: StealthFan on July 17, 2013, 11:43:42 AM: Just try to figure out who would miss you if you weren't on their friends list. When the conclusion is naturally the number zero, just delete your profile and acquaint your feeding orifice with buckshot.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: etiolate on July 17, 2013, 01:08:48 PM: My facebook needs a massive culling. For some reason, just deleting people didn't feel like the right option. I often contemplated posting the sort of messages that would result in people deleting themselves. However, the things I would say would be read by my mother or father and that headache wasn't worth it. I could have selectively grouped people out of certain parts, but I didn't want to mess with figuring that out or have someone come across my facebook on my computer one day and realize they've been phased out.

So I just stopped visiting facebook. Avoidant ftw.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Mupepe on July 17, 2013, 01:12:09 PM: My Facebook has been mostly relegated to a place to shill for Pacific Rim. There are a few people that I miss on there, but it's a small percentage of my total friends and too many of those would require an explanation for deletion and if I hid them all then my Facebook wouldn't have anything so might as well close it down. When Pacific Rim leaves theaters I'm shutting 'er down again.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Momo on July 17, 2013, 01:12:57 PM: Dont have facebook, dont want facebook. thank god i dont have to deal with this awkward shit.
Title: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Huff on July 17, 2013, 01:15:41 PM: Momo has no friends :tear
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Momo on July 17, 2013, 01:19:01 PM: Quote from: Huff on July 17, 2013, 01:15:41 PM
Momo has no friends :tear
I tested this theory and it seems to be true. My 'friends' wont even buy me 99c games :'(

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=40399.msg1725781#msg1725781

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I have like 6 close friends and treat others as acquaintances.
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Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 17, 2013, 02:06:34 PM: Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on July 17, 2013, 10:44:40 AM
chicken

buk buk buk

NOBODY calls me a chicken
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 17, 2013, 06:37:05 PM: Just hide feeds from the people you don't want to see. You don't need to defriend that way and you don't see their shit. Best of both worlds.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: chronovore on July 17, 2013, 07:24:54 PM: Quote from: Premium Lager on July 17, 2013, 02:06:34 PM
Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on July 17, 2013, 10:44:40 AM
chicken

buk buk buk

NOBODY calls me a chicken

Cock.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Great Rumbler on July 17, 2013, 07:32:59 PM: Quote from: Premium Lager on July 17, 2013, 02:06:34 PM
Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on July 17, 2013, 10:44:40 AM
chicken

buk buk buk

NOBODY calls me a chicken

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NZaJ94x9p9E
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: radioheadrule83 on July 17, 2013, 08:09:05 PM: I culled every girl I know once because I had some sense that my GF at the time might have been wary of me talking to others or something.

It probably doesn't need saying - but don't ever do that. It's stupid.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Positive Touch on July 17, 2013, 09:53:22 PM: :snoop
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 17, 2013, 10:20:39 PM: Quote from: radioheadrule83 on July 17, 2013, 08:09:05 PM
I culled every girl I know once because I had some sense that my GF at the time might have been wary of me talking to others or something.

It probably doesn't need saying - but don't ever do that. It's stupid.

lol your gf sounds insecure or you thought she was
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: nudemacusers on July 17, 2013, 11:21:13 PM: Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on July 17, 2013, 09:18:44 AM
Just boot em. Most won't notice cuz their friends list is just a number they're trying to increase to prove they aren't losers. They'll see their number decreased but they won't have the first idea who.

The ones that do notice, just tell em you want to get your Facebook down to people you talk to on there regularly, and they haven't talked to you in a while.
^

This isn't complex.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Groogrux on July 17, 2013, 11:23:19 PM: I cull mine about once every two years. Nobody has ever said a thing to me. I once took it from over 1000 people to 98.

:pimp
Title: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Huff on July 17, 2013, 11:36:37 PM: Well they can't. Because you deleted them
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: chronovore on July 18, 2013, 12:45:33 AM: Quote from: Huff on July 17, 2013, 11:36:37 PM
Well they can't. Because you deleted them

:lol
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Yeti on July 18, 2013, 01:47:57 AM: Cull them all and let God sort it out :punch
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 18, 2013, 03:13:46 AM: I just deleted a few folks :rock
Title: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Verdigris Murder on July 18, 2013, 06:28:21 AM: Pour petrol over them, and then drive away doing wheelspins.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Groogrux on July 18, 2013, 09:36:59 AM: Quote from: Premium Lager on July 18, 2013, 03:13:46 AM
I just deleted a few folks :rock

And they'll never say a thing to you about it... because they can't.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 18, 2013, 10:06:05 AM: Quote from: radioheadrule83 on July 17, 2013, 08:09:05 PM
I culled every girl I know once because I had some sense that my GF at the time might have been wary of me talking to others or something.
I bet you didn't cull Cammie Dunaway.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: bork on July 18, 2013, 10:19:39 AM: Quote from: Premium Lager on July 18, 2013, 03:13:46 AM
I just deleted a few folks :rock

Me too. Feels good man, etc. etc.

I don't even use Facebook all that much, but there were a few people who I either never talk to or find their constant barrage of posts and photo crap about stuff I don't care about to be annoying.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 18, 2013, 10:23:50 AM: I had to delete some crazy ass people before that were posting pics of mutilated animals.

You know those hardcore vegan types.

Ugh.

Quote from: Groogrux on July 18, 2013, 09:36:59 AM
Quote from: Premium Lager on July 18, 2013, 03:13:46 AM
I just deleted a few folks :rock

And they'll never say a thing to you about it... because they can't.

(http://i1.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/000/274/522/7da.gif)
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: StealthFan on July 18, 2013, 01:57:07 PM: Ya'll motherfuckers need to add me (http://i.imgur.com/CpATyVS.png)

https://www.facebook.com/david.ryerson.50
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Positive Touch on July 18, 2013, 03:55:09 PM: ^no real pictures on the account = probable rapist
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 18, 2013, 04:00:57 PM: Quote from: StealthFan on July 18, 2013, 01:57:07 PM
Ya'll motherfuckers need to add me (http://i.imgur.com/CpATyVS.png)

https://www.facebook.com/david.ryerson.50
:comeon :beli

Even Symbios has pics of himself on his Facebook, bro. No excuse.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: StealthFan on July 18, 2013, 04:03:40 PM: That's not my main account. I just deactived my main yesterday. The one I posted is the one I use for shits and giggles.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: lennedsay on July 18, 2013, 08:51:40 PM: I use FB as a means to stay in touch with people I actually like while trolling people I don't.

I have so many people I'd like to delete just to piss them off, but it would cause unnecessary amounts of drama that I don't feel like dealing with. They're those people that don't really like you but pretend to because they want to keep tabs on you for one selfish reason or another. My husband and I laugh at their dumb posts, so I haven't deleted them... yet.

When I got pregnant, I deactivated my account until I told work and good friends/family. Sure enough, the very next morning my husband already had a message from one of them asking why I deleted them. I've gone years without noticing people deleting me or their account. HOURS.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Mupepe on July 18, 2013, 09:46:33 PM: I noticed when you deactivated :(

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because my phone linked your texts to your FB so it only showed your number. I'm not a creep. Am I?
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Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 18, 2013, 11:26:13 PM: Quote from: Eschaton on July 18, 2013, 09:51:55 PM
my aunt from New Zealand called me up and told me i had too many facebook friends

(http://www.the-coli.com/images/smilies/dwill.png)

(http://i.imgur.com/6OMlP5q.jpg?1)
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Vertigo on July 19, 2013, 02:44:26 AM: Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on July 18, 2013, 11:22:15 PM
People who get offended about being defriended on Facebook are people you don't want in your life anyway. High school-level distinguished mentally-challenged.

Shamefully, it's so embedded into our lives now that it would be seen as a slap in the face for the majority of people whether intended or not.

People would never admit that of course. But if you know the person just being removed is not nice. Especially if you run into them again like I did in one case.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: chronovore on July 19, 2013, 03:58:40 AM: Quote from: lennedsay on July 18, 2013, 08:51:40 PM
I use FB as a means to stay in touch with people I actually like while trolling people I don't.

I have so many people I'd like to delete just to piss them off, but it would cause unnecessary amounts of drama that I don't feel like dealing with. They're those people that don't really like you but pretend to because they want to keep tabs on you for one selfish reason or another. My husband and I laugh at their dumb posts, so I haven't deleted them... yet.

When I got pregnant, I deactivated my account until I told work and good friends/family. Sure enough, the very next morning my husband already had a message from one of them asking why I deleted them. I've gone years without noticing people deleting me or their account. HOURS.

Please describe your FB trolling technique. I am super-curious about what level of mischief you achieve.

I have some REALLY DUMB relatives who post stuff that makes me SMH so hard, I look like a bobblehead.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 19, 2013, 08:39:48 AM: FB is so nice if you live abroad, you can keep tabs and still feel included in some way.

Then again you pick up some people you meet along the way and goo wtf how did he/she and up on friends list?
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: lennedsay on July 19, 2013, 06:57:08 PM: Quote from: chronovore on July 19, 2013, 03:58:40 AM

Please describe your FB trolling technique. I am super-curious about what level of mischief you achieve.

I have some REALLY DUMB relatives who post stuff that makes me SMH so hard, I look like a bobblehead.

Well I know a lot of narcissists between my family and friends, who all insist on remaining in touch despite having nothing in common with us. Primarily so they can compare to try and feel better about themselves. The narcissistic friends have intermingled with my real friends, so there's no way to get away cleanly. And my mother-in-law is a master narcissist, who has convinced her stupid friends that we're horrible people who won't allow them to see their grandchild. If we delete them, it'll confirm my MIL's lies that I'm isolating the baby and my husband from his family. All of these people are FB friends, including my MIL. It's horrible.

So, anything that would annoy and undermine a narcissistic person's plight to be the best, most awesome person ever who is the center of the universe, I do that. It's pretty subtle because I actually do have an amazing husband and strong marriage, an amazing little girl, and a very close family and group of real friends. I have a job that I really love. We've had a hard road in a lot of ways, which has made us closer and more appreciative of everything we do have. We're really happy, and that pretty much infuriates these people. They pretend to have these awesome lives, but they forget that we actually know them and remember that their husband threatens to leave their crazy ass all the time, or they get into physical altercations with family, or they are such a bitch they can't even ask about or care about their own grandchild. :P

But for instance, I know my mom always shares pictures I post of the baby, so I just tag her in photos sometimes so that she doesn't have to. A lot of our friends with kids do the same all the time. BUT I know my MIL will be pissed when she sees it because she will roll out her Jump to Conclusions mat and assume we spent this whole fun weekend with my parents. Then when she brings it up, I know she's been FB stalking, or her friends were and they were gossiping. Turns out it also got some people on my side of the family, who are also Narcissistic Personality Disorder beyond definition. They were furious that I went to the park with my mom and had my parents over for all these fun times without inviting them. Oh boy, were they even more pissed when I nonchalantly asked them what on Earf they were talking about. Then I said something to the effect of "I shouldn't have to apologize to my own family for taking my child to the park on a Sat morning with my husband by ourselves." BUT YOUR MOM WAS THERE BECAUSE I SAW ON THE INTERNET!!!! No, bitch, and even if she was, who the fuck cares. Now you look really stupid because you threw a hissy fit over us taking a walk in a park an hour from your house.

It's dumb shit that would only infuriate someone who is looking to be pissed off and then make them look stupid, which is something I can always get behind. It doesn't actually accomplish anything, because even after a blow up, they keep me as a FB friend to keep tabs and continue being jealous over dumb shit, like we went to dinner with our best friend, who some self-absorbed FB "friend" dated and fucked over. How dare we spend time with people we like.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 19, 2013, 07:00:42 PM: Bitch sounds crazy Lennes. Effin hell. Congrats for putting up with her.

Can't you just totally not see her?
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: lennedsay on July 19, 2013, 07:40:45 PM: We've managed to only see her once in the last year, and only because she showed up to our house uninvited. She still randomly emails some stupid shit or has his dad call periodically. Or they drive past our house to see if we're here.

She would seriously be that person who calls anonymously to report us for child abuse or tries suing us for custody, and me deleting all these people from FB would only support her bullshit. But if it were up to me, they'll never have a relationship with the baby, not because I'm an evil bitch but because I know the law and the only way they can sue for custody is if they have an existing relationship with her. She's fucking crazy and lies constantly, so I wouldn't put it past her.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 19, 2013, 08:07:56 PM: Is it a clinical condition? Horrible situation for you guys.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: chronovore on July 19, 2013, 09:31:53 PM: Yeah, that MIL sounds like a bad combination of crazy and too much spare time.

Good call on not trying to escalate directly.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: lennedsay on July 19, 2013, 11:00:05 PM: As far as we know, she's never been diagnosed with anything. But if you read up on Narcissistic Personality Disorder, it could've been written about her. We recently read up on the children of NPD parents, and the mental abuse they endure, and the examples were uncanny. Reading article after article, I felt so bad for my husband that he grew up with that shit, and no one knew except his dad (who did nothing to stop it) because part of the disorder is to make it seem like they have a perfect life and that she's the perfect mother.

Typically, family members of people with mental illness are asked to be supportive and patient, although maybe cautious. Except for NPD, because they almost never get diagnosed because they never seek help (they're perfect, and everyone else is crazy). Everything I've read said to have little or no contact, ever. And sure enough, reading through comments, so many people had their mom or MIL spread lies and rumors until they could substantiate a child abuse case or custody case based on the lies. That's been my biggest fear since I was pregnant, and I thought I was overreacting. I know she'd never actually get anywhere, but the last thing we need is our lives turned upside down, and have to get a lawyer we can't afford. They have the money for it.
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: lennedsay on July 20, 2013, 03:56:11 PM: Thanks man :) it's very frustrating, but we try to joke about the whole thing and not take it personally. She pretends to be disinterested in the baby because she wants to hurt our feelings, because if she successfully hurts us, that means we care about her. It's such a fucked up way to look at life, and in the end, she's the one suffering.

We just keep verbally establishing boundaries, even though we know she'll break them, but we've been able to use these examples to explain the situation to people (family and friends of the family) who wouldn't otherwise get it. And we refuse to even respond to the people who have flat out told us off over her lies, but I have explained, in a rational, civil manner, to THEIR close family what is going on. It's stopped since, so I assume the word got to them. It feels like we have a 14 year old child. "We'll talk/see you, but only if you'll be nice and positive." And as soon as she breaks the one rule we have, "Ok, we're done with this conversation." It really infuriates her, but she can't exactly defend her actions. We told you to do one thing and you refuse to, so we'll try again when you decide to act like a grown up. lol
Title: Re: How to go about a Facebook culling?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 20, 2013, 04:24:01 PM: Quote from: Eschaton on July 18, 2013, 09:51:55 PM
my aunt from New Zealand called me up and told me i had too many facebook friends

(http://www.the-coli.com/images/smilies/dwill.png)

Dunno what's more shocking, calling someone on the phone to tell them they have too many Facebook friends...or Indians in New Zealand
:ohhh