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Title: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 23, 2013, 03:32:29 PM
...here because I can't do it elsewhere without causing an even bigger fucking blow up than I just did and I really don't wanna fuck with the fallout.

tl;dr version- my sister is 34, has a kid with asperger's (actual asperger's) and is engaged to a 23 year old idiot.  Sister can't hold a job, is almost done with school (and the financial aid that it's been providing her to stay "sort of" afloat) and mom recently quit her job and is living off a really modest monthly inheritance/social security.  And by living off of, I mean, I'm paying like half the bills while she subsidizes the fucktard household.

So, idiot fiance has had like four jobs in five months and keeps quitting because either people are "mean to him" or in the case of his painting job, he fucked up his shoulder and is physically unable to do it for another six months, whereupon no one will be hiring painters.  He just called to let her know that the most recent job "didn't work out" because "the trainer was being rude and mean."

So fucking livid right now.  Expecting your 62 year old mother to support you, your child and your fiance because you and your fiance can't hold jobs is the height of fucking bullshit.  Grow the fuck up, strap on your big boy and girl panties and except that JOBS SUCK AND THAT'S PART OF LIFE.  Oh, I'm sorry, the trainer hurt your fucking feelings?  You poor beautiful snowflake you.

About ready to fucking kill people.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Mandark on August 23, 2013, 03:33:55 PM
My family is awesome and I love them.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Steve Contra on August 23, 2013, 03:35:06 PM
My family is awesome and I love them.
Yeah my family and in-laws are awesome.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 23, 2013, 03:35:29 PM
FUCK BOTH OF YOUR COUCHES WITH THOR'S DILDO OF JUSTICE
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: king of the internet on August 23, 2013, 03:39:20 PM
I'm probably the worst person in my family.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: nudemacusers on August 23, 2013, 03:43:44 PM
Due to a childhood of abuse, endless emotional toil and drama I no longer have anything to do with my family from the day I got married. Zilch. Especially when my mom and dad got in a screaming match in the parking lot outside the reception.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 23, 2013, 03:53:32 PM
My mother once threatened to kick me out of the house because the blanket being used to separate the front of the house to the rest of the house was not properly sitting and some of the warm air was getting through (winter).
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Brehvolution on August 23, 2013, 04:03:38 PM
I used to be real close to my father in law. Even worked for him for a couple years. Then 1 morning in 2009, fox news turned him into a raging teatard. We don't talk much outside of family gatherings like we used to. I just wish I could get him to understand that anxiety caused by non existing communism is a complete waste of his time at this point in his life. When I'm his age, the last thing I'll be doing is sitting in front of the TV all day complaining about the government.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: demi on August 23, 2013, 04:04:27 PM
That must be rough, fistful.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 23, 2013, 04:09:36 PM
That must be rough, fistful.

It is my struggle.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 23, 2013, 04:21:09 PM
My family is awesome and I love them.
Yeah my family and in-laws are awesome.

Same here.

But holy shit Oldguy, time to move the fuck away.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Mupepe on August 23, 2013, 04:24:46 PM
I'll copy and paste this from the other feels thread:

I don't talk to my grandparents on my father's side.  Or anyone from there actually.  They pretty much disowned me for getting a mexican pregnant at 17.  For my high school graduation I got a card that told me I was an embarrassment and they weren't coming.  Why the fuck even bother to get a card at that point?  I saw them at my dad's funeral but didn't speak to them except my grandfather.

I also don't talk to my family on my mom's side.  She owned a bar and her brother stole everything from it while she was visiting us in Tennessee (living with my dad).  TV's, pool tables, jukeboxes, beer, everything.  I remember it was only about 20 minutes after they first found my grandpa's body that my cousins were trying to get into his safe.  His body was less than 3 feet away while they sat in a circle trying to figure out how to open it without the combination.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Polari on August 23, 2013, 04:41:55 PM
My family is awesome and I love them.

Yeah pretty much. Just went on holiday with my folks around Italy and the UK. At one point I did think to myself: at 26 am I too old to be going on holiday with my parents and letting them pay for everything? And then I realised I don't give a fuck 'cos anyone that says so is just a jealous hater.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 23, 2013, 05:07:57 PM
My family is awesome and I love them.
Yeah my family and in-laws are awesome.

Same here.

But holy shit Oldguy, time to move the fuck away.

I have two more semesters of school.  If I could just move back to Georgia and have in-state tuition rates and finish up there, I would have done it already.  I basically need to make it nine more months without killing anyone, which is looking increasingly doubtful.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: nudemacusers on August 23, 2013, 05:09:15 PM
You'll be ok. I had no hope but once I got out of proximity I am much happier.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 23, 2013, 05:19:53 PM
I just want to fucking strangle my sister, man.  It's like how the fuck can you be your age and not understand that this is how the fucking real world works?  Granted, my mother is a large part of the problem- she's basically always supported my sister, but before she could afford it- had a decent job, etc.  Mom lost her decent paying job in fall 2009 and my sister hasn't dug her claws out at all.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: huckleberry on August 23, 2013, 06:21:29 PM
I have so many fucktards in my family that I just finally told half of them to fuck off and the other half stay at arms length for fear of being told to fuck off as well. My in laws are fucking douche bags and have been told to go fuck themselves as well.

Life is pretty good - until I need a babbysitter.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Positive Touch on August 23, 2013, 06:22:07 PM
I just want to fucking strangle my sister, man.  It's like how the fuck can you be your age and not understand that this is how the fucking real world works?  Granted, my mother is a large part of the problem- she's basically always supported my sister, but before she could afford it- had a decent job, etc.  Mom lost her decent paying job in fall 2009 and my sister hasn't dug her claws out at all.

yes sister acts bad but mom is an enabler. realize you can do nothing to change this no matter how much they both complain and keep your distance. it really is the only way.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 23, 2013, 06:24:00 PM
Yeah, well, if my living/financial situation wasn't tangled up with them for the next nine months it wouldn't be so bad.  But you're right, my dad has given me the exact same advice- "Their whole goal is to make you miserable.  If you play the game at all, you're losing by default."
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Positive Touch on August 23, 2013, 06:25:45 PM
also always remember "you can't change someone unless they want to change." the #1 piece of advice to save yourself from others trainwrecks
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 23, 2013, 06:25:52 PM
Does your sister claim to have fibromyalgia?
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 23, 2013, 06:31:40 PM
Does your sister claim to have fibromyalgia?

No.  She's often sick though, which is not surprising given that her house looks like an episode of hoarders and she eats like shit constantly.  She's just a fucking train wreck.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: nudemacusers on August 23, 2013, 06:34:28 PM
also always remember "you can't change someone unless they want to change." the #1 piece of advice to save yourself from others trainwrecks
sounds trite but seriously, you have to whisper this to yourself until it sticks. I tried a lot of times to 'save' my mother but after going through the same cycle over and over, I realized I was getting sucked into a vortex.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 23, 2013, 06:38:27 PM
Yeah.  In retrospect, about 2 1/2 years ago when I made the suggestion to my mother about living together while I finished school, I should have just not.  She was living with my sister at the time, and was the only one working, AND the only one doing any fucking housework, as since I've previously stated my sister is a fucking mess and incapable of cleaning up after herself/others or throwing anything away.  It just fucking infuriates me, as she shouldn't HAVE to deal with that, but she keeps letting the fucking golddigging fucktard walk all over her.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: nudemacusers on August 23, 2013, 06:45:46 PM
Dude, my mom got separated from my dad for almost a full year (after he lost his job due to failing a drug test... not sure what drug) and him generally being an abusive asshole, my grandmother moved in and they got job doing real estate together, and started actually making more money than before the split. Our relationship was mending, I could visit the house without getting nauseated from fear and anxiety, and everything was going well.

And she still took him back.

Why? She just didn't see eye to eye with my grandmother, they "disagreed over too many things". And she's telling me this, and I'm thinking, well fuck mom, better to disagree than have a chair thrown through a window and your engine being sabotaged so you can't leave the house. But no, she asked my grandmother to move out so he could come back and do whatever. It was at that point I just gave up entirely. She plainly chose him over me and my brothers.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 23, 2013, 06:47:58 PM
My sister is a trainwreck too but not to the degree that Triumph has experienced:

- Was going to drop out of high school but my parents told her that she would be kicked out if she did.  So she just graduated with a dog shit GPA (2.1), which I didn't even think was possible in high school.
- Worked a dead end job until she married some guy.  Tons of drama ensued.  I hadn't talked to her in years during this time.
- She quit her job.  Her husband makes decent money ($20/hr is plenty) but had two kids with exorbitant amounts of child support.  As a result, they lived in some shithole.
- She went to school at a for profit college.  Spent $25,000 on a worthless certificate.  I'm not kidding.
- Couldn't find a job with her worthless certificate.  She couldn't get a job until she took it off her resume.
- She proceeds to blow paychecks on concerts, tattoos, trips to Chicago, and sushi.  Lots and lots of sushi.  She also likes to frequent bars with her friends, many of whom have no jobs.
- Her gift to herself for getting a job that paid $13/hr was a brand new car that was about $30,000.  She asked me for $5,000 for a down payment.  I told her no and I haven't really talked to her since.

Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 23, 2013, 06:48:32 PM
Dude, my mom got separated from my dad for almost a full year (after he lost his job due to failing a drug test... not sure what drug) and him generally being an abusive asshole, got a job doing real estate with my grandmother, and started actually making more money than before the split. Our relationship was mending, I could visit the house without getting nauseated from fear and anxiety, and everything was going well.

And she still took him back.

Why? She just didn't see eye to eye with my grandmother, they "disagreed over too many things". And she's telling me this, and I'm thinking, well fuck mom, better to disagree than have a chair thrown through a window. But no, she asked my grandmother to move out so he could come back and do whatever. It was at that point I just gave up entirely. She plainly chose him over me and my brothers.

Ugh dude, I'm sorry.

It's shit like this that pisses me off about people who have kids and don't put them first. You gotta make yourself happy and all but you bring a child into this world, you basically said "I am having a human being whom I need to prioritize over myself." Of course plenty of people don't actually believe that statement, so it's all fucked.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Himu on August 23, 2013, 07:25:21 PM
Jesus Christ this thread.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 23, 2013, 07:26:44 PM
Ha. Ha. Ha.

My sister's 22 year old fiance just called me to yell at me for "talking shit behind his back about things I don't know anything about" and proceeded to get even angrier as I laughed in his face for like five minutes.  He also told me "to get a real job" which is, really, just fucking precious.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 23, 2013, 07:42:43 PM
Ha. Ha. Ha.

My sister's 22 year old fiance just called me to yell at me for "talking shit behind his back about things I don't know anything about" and proceeded to get even angrier as I laughed in his face for like five minutes.  He also told me "to get a real job" which is, really, just fucking precious.

Saw that on Facebook, I'm waiting for awesome carnival of the stupid.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 23, 2013, 07:44:57 PM
A friend and I were walking out of the gym when my mom suddenly rolled up on us; she was heading to a grocery store that's within the same parking lot area. We were talking, and my friend mentioned that he's engaged/getting married next year. My mom's response: "Oh congratulations! Is she domesticated?"
 :snoop

My friend was like "actually I don't know what that means..." at which point my mom explained it's cooking/baking/etc. When he told her that she's a banker my mom was all like "that's good too I guess. Well see you boys later."
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: nudemacusers on August 23, 2013, 07:44:59 PM
Ha. Ha. Ha.

My sister's 22 year old fiance just called me to yell at me for "talking shit behind his back about things I don't know anything about" and proceeded to get even angrier as I laughed in his face for like five minutes.  He also told me "to get a real job" which is, really, just fucking precious.
Just retort that the job might not be real, but the money is :sabu
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 23, 2013, 07:46:15 PM
Ha. Ha. Ha.

My sister's 22 year old fiance just called me to yell at me for "talking shit behind his back about things I don't know anything about" and proceeded to get even angrier as I laughed in his face for like five minutes.  He also told me "to get a real job" which is, really, just fucking precious.

Saw that on Facebook, I'm waiting for awesome carnival of the stupid.

Fuck that, you're not gonna see shit.  I'm not social media friends with those fucking idiots.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 23, 2013, 07:47:14 PM
I can actively FEEL my blood pressure being elevated right now.  Jesus fucking shit.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 23, 2013, 07:48:15 PM
Ask him what kind of punk hurts himself painting.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 23, 2013, 07:49:28 PM
Dude, my mom got separated from my dad for almost a full year (after he lost his job due to failing a drug test... not sure what drug) and him generally being an abusive asshole, got a job doing real estate with my grandmother, and started actually making more money than before the split. Our relationship was mending, I could visit the house without getting nauseated from fear and anxiety, and everything was going well.

And she still took him back.

Why? She just didn't see eye to eye with my grandmother, they "disagreed over too many things". And she's telling me this, and I'm thinking, well fuck mom, better to disagree than have a chair thrown through a window. But no, she asked my grandmother to move out so he could come back and do whatever. It was at that point I just gave up entirely. She plainly chose him over me and my brothers.

Ugh dude, I'm sorry.

It's shit like this that pisses me off about people who have kids and don't put them first. You gotta make yourself happy and all but you bring a child into this world, you basically said "I am having a human being whom I need to prioritize over myself." Of course plenty of people don't actually believe that statement, so it's all fucked.

Damn straight. My wife and I find time to do our stuff, but kiddo takes priority.

Too bad the people who say "Fuck it! I'm gonna do what I want!" have way more kids than the rational people.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Himu on August 23, 2013, 07:51:26 PM
Creepy. Play some games. Chill down. Go do fun stuff. Give yourself a facial massage. You will feel better.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Mandark on August 23, 2013, 07:56:00 PM
Ask him what kind of punk hurts himself painting.

Eh, I did some (sloppy, paid under-the-table) painting over a summer in my teens, and I'm pretty sure if I did it full time now my body's response would be somewhere on the spectrum from mild kvetching to open rebellion.

Granted, this guy's younger than I am, but I still wouldn't rag on him for getting hurt doing physical labor.  Sounds like he's got a plethora of actual deficiencies to go after instead.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 23, 2013, 07:57:10 PM
Ask him what kind of punk hurts himself painting.

Eh, I did some (sloppy, paid under-the-table) painting over a summer in my teens, and I'm pretty sure if I did it full time now my body's response would be somewhere on the spectrum from mild kvetching to open rebellion.

Granted, this guy's younger than I am, but I still wouldn't rag on him for getting hurt doing physical labor.  Sounds like he's got a plethora of actual deficiencies to go after instead.

I can understand getting injured doing just about anything but he seems like the type that will find an excuse to get out of working.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 23, 2013, 07:58:14 PM
Ha. Ha. Ha.

My sister's 22 year old fiance just called me to yell at me for "talking shit behind his back about things I don't know anything about" and proceeded to get even angrier as I laughed in his face for like five minutes.  He also told me "to get a real job" which is, really, just fucking precious.

Saw that on Facebook, I'm waiting for awesome carnival of the stupid.

Fuck that, you're not gonna see shit.  I'm not social media friends with those fucking idiots.

Good man.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Himu on August 23, 2013, 07:59:10 PM
Any thing simple you do for long periods is a job. Painting all day with a big ass brush could definitely lead to an injury in some way if you're not careful.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: nudemacusers on August 23, 2013, 07:59:28 PM
Dude, my mom got separated from my dad for almost a full year (after he lost his job due to failing a drug test... not sure what drug) and him generally being an abusive asshole, got a job doing real estate with my grandmother, and started actually making more money than before the split. Our relationship was mending, I could visit the house without getting nauseated from fear and anxiety, and everything was going well.

And she still took him back.

Why? She just didn't see eye to eye with my grandmother, they "disagreed over too many things". And she's telling me this, and I'm thinking, well fuck mom, better to disagree than have a chair thrown through a window. But no, she asked my grandmother to move out so he could come back and do whatever. It was at that point I just gave up entirely. She plainly chose him over me and my brothers.

Ugh dude, I'm sorry.

It's shit like this that pisses me off about people who have kids and don't put them first. You gotta make yourself happy and all but you bring a child into this world, you basically said "I am having a human being whom I need to prioritize over myself." Of course plenty of people don't actually believe that statement, so it's all fucked.
Yeah, it was kind of a chilling moment, especially since he was my stepfather and we were her biological kids. I figured I would have some level of priority when it came to push/shove. Of course, it was all predicated on the idea that he was changed blah blah blah, but the next time I visited my younger brother, he told me that our stepdad came into his room at three in the morning and told him how terrible and worthless he was for more than 30 minutes straight. Who the fuck does that, and who turns a blind eye to something like that? That pretty much blew all guilt I had over my feelings of resentment off the map, since I was beginning to realize my mom would minimize anything he did and just not hear it at all. I could go on and on with 18 years of examples, but that was pretty much it for me. I threw them a bone for my wedding since I figured that would be a neutral ground, and nope, same shit. That was ... 6 years ago almost? Haven't touched it since.

To this day she calls every know and then, leaving a voicemail about how she doesn't understand what she did wrong, but that she still loves me etc etc. Whole thing is sick and manipulative.


I could go on and on about this, kind of cathartic heh. I'm pretty much over it at this point, like a bad dream.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Himu on August 23, 2013, 08:00:11 PM
How did he find out you're talking behind back?
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 23, 2013, 08:04:01 PM
Because my nephew was over here today when he called my mother to let her know he had quit his most recent job, meaning she's probably going to have to go back to work.  When I found out about it I lost my shit in front of my nephew, which admittedly is bad form but you know what?  Fuck it.  I'm over this shit.  It's been going on for like 16 goddamn years with my sister, and it's time for it to fucking stop.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Polari on August 23, 2013, 08:05:59 PM
A friend and I were walking out of the gym when my mom suddenly rolled up on us; she was heading to a grocery store that's within the same parking lot area. We were talking, and my friend mentioned that he's engaged/getting married next year. My mom's response: "Oh congratulations! Is she domesticated?"
 :snoop

My friend was like "actually I don't know what that means..." at which point my mom explained it's cooking/baking/etc. When he told her that she's a banker my mom was all like "that's good too I guess. Well see you boys later."

Sounds like your mom's got her priorities straight. :yeshrug
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: nudemacusers on August 23, 2013, 08:06:00 PM
I'm telling you dude, you need to D.E.N.N.I.S your family, you will go crazy trying to be the referee.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Polari on August 23, 2013, 08:07:32 PM
You need to engage physically?
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 23, 2013, 08:11:13 PM
:holeup
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: nudemacusers on August 23, 2013, 08:11:19 PM
 :phil
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 23, 2013, 08:13:11 PM
People who can't even be good family members must be awful people in general. Can we put them all on an island?  :-\
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: huckleberry on August 23, 2013, 08:17:11 PM
Because my nephew was over here today when he called my mother to let her know he had quit his most recent job, meaning she's probably going to have to go back to work.  When I found out about it I lost my shit in front of my nephew, which admittedly is bad form but you know what?  Fuck it.  I'm over this shit.  It's been going on for like 16 goddamn years with my sister, and it's time for it to fucking stop.


Let it all out on them...you will feel better and the older you get that's all that really matters. Fucking truth is supposed to hurt.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Rufus on August 23, 2013, 08:19:09 PM
People who can't even be good family members must be awful people in general. Can we put them all on an island?  :-\
You'd be surprised. With strangers and friends, there's actually some degree of shame and face saving going on, because they won't forgive everything or carry your ass for you.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 23, 2013, 08:27:22 PM
You're more likely to be killed by someone you know than a random stranger.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Mandark on August 23, 2013, 08:37:15 PM
:holeup

I'm just proud it took until the second page.  Admirable restraint, The Bore!
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 23, 2013, 08:42:54 PM
:holeup

I'm just proud it took until the second page.  Admirable restraint, The Bore!

Space Moose era bore would have gone for it in the first five replies.  We've grown soft in our old age.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 23, 2013, 08:43:30 PM
You're more likely to be killed by someone you know than a random stranger.

Which is why they need to be on an island.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 23, 2013, 09:22:11 PM
cut em off. i've put my fam on the ropes for far smaller infractions.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 23, 2013, 09:23:22 PM
fuck i've gotten soft
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: nudemacusers on August 23, 2013, 09:24:22 PM
fuck i've gotten soft
:phil
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 23, 2013, 09:29:24 PM
fuck i've gotten soft
(http://tinyurl.com/knqmlvp)
 :phil
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 23, 2013, 09:37:08 PM
 :shaq2 :obama :noah
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: hampster on August 23, 2013, 09:50:45 PM
My step mom hated me and made high school a complete headache. Once in a restaurant I ordered orange juice and she completely flipped out and started shouting how I don't deserve orange juice. Sigh, life was full of shit like that (and lots of water!)

Anyway in the middle of college I dropped out and moved across the country. I told my dad to come pick up the shit I left in the dorm and have barely spoken to him since (and never her). God it still pisses me off how upset I am thinking about it >:( You think after a decade I'd be over this shit but just thinking about it makes my stomach hurt.

Recently I moved back to my home state for a job and my parents found out :'( I thought about enrolling my kid in the school I went to (decided against it) and someone told them "Oh, I saw Hampster and your grand kid." Thats how they found out they have a grand kid :lol I got a flood of emails and calls after that one
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 23, 2013, 09:53:16 PM
You have to earn a simple orange juice? She sounds cool.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 23, 2013, 09:56:51 PM
You have to earn a simple orange juice? She sounds cool.

Juice is expensive.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: hampster on August 23, 2013, 09:58:34 PM
You have to earn a simple orange juice? She sounds cool.

Juice is expensive.

Not that expensive :(
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Positive Touch on August 23, 2013, 10:01:45 PM
itt we realize we all have ptsd :(
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 23, 2013, 10:04:17 PM
My step-mom is also a piece of work... she never had kids of her own, and my dad was her only marriage (she was his fifth...) so she didn't really have experience with kids.  They got married when I was... 14 I wanna say?  A 14 year old boy is an awkward mother fucker with poor manners in the BEST of times.  She would get pissy when I didn't use my silverware "properly" and shit like that.

Whatever.  That was like the least of her fucking awfulness though... for some reason, I was always the worst, most disappointing child.  Not my sister, who had a kid at 18 or whatever.  Not my half-brother, who spent five years in jail for selling dope, and has subsequently had a restraining order placed on him by my dad.  (Dad's the only chill, on the level relative I've got.)  Nope!  Me.  Because apparently, "I've squandered my potential" by not finishing school and getting a real job and blah blah blah.  Yeah.  That's so much more disappointing than my siblings. 

She's gotten almost civil in the past two years after I went back to school and my half-brother went insane and my dad had to change his phone number and get a restraining order.

Just re-read all that, and have decided that yes, my family is fucking insane.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 23, 2013, 10:34:37 PM
My step-mom is also a piece of work... she never had kids of her own, and my dad was her only marriage (she was his fifth...) so she didn't really have experience with kids.  They got married when I was... 14 I wanna say?  A 14 year old boy is an awkward mother fucker with poor manners in the BEST of times.  She would get pissy when I didn't use my silverware "properly" and shit like that.

Whatever.  That was like the least of her fucking awfulness though... for some reason, I was always the worst, most disappointing child.  Not my sister, who had a kid at 18 or whatever.  Not my half-brother, who spent five years in jail for selling dope, and has subsequently had a restraining order placed on him by my dad.  (Dad's the only chill, on the level relative I've got.)  Nope!  Me.  Because apparently, "I've squandered my potential" by not finishing school and getting a real job and blah blah blah.  Yeah.  That's so much more disappointing than my siblings. 

She's gotten almost civil in the past two years after I went back to school and my half-brother went insane and my dad had to change his phone number and get a restraining order.

Just re-read all that, and have decided that yes, my family is fucking insane.

was she hot tho?  :leon
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 23, 2013, 10:38:09 PM
Nope
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Joe Molotov on August 23, 2013, 11:02:42 PM
Nope

She's probably a freak in the sack to make up for it. :phil
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: brawndolicious on August 23, 2013, 11:07:20 PM
My parents are married because they decided it's easier to live with someone you hate than to divorce. Seriously, my older brother and I actually got a lawyer and religious cleric to advise my mother on how to break up (she was threatening to spend the rest of her life raising my little brother in Iran) but she came back after 8 months abroad only after both sides agreed on how to separate their assets. Despite the fact that he was a crazy piece of shit who had apparently hit her. I do believe that my father has some sort of mental illness that makes him react way too emotionally to situations or he just has serious temper issues. Sometimes when I'm over, my mother tells me not to leave my little brother alone when my dad "starts going crazy".

Within 6 months of her coming back, I had decided to finally actually try to date and my older brother had met the girl who is now his wife. I guess both of us just got scared that that was the main role model for relationships in our life.

My sister is a trainwreck too but not to the degree that Triumph has experienced:

- Was going to drop out of high school but my parents told her that she would be kicked out if she did.  So she just graduated with a dog shit GPA (2.1), which I didn't even think was possible in high school.
- Worked a dead end job until she married some guy.  Tons of drama ensued.  I hadn't talked to her in years during this time.
- She quit her job.  Her husband makes decent money ($20/hr is plenty) but had two kids with exorbitant amounts of child support.  As a result, they lived in some shithole.
- She went to school at a for profit college.  Spent $25,000 on a worthless certificate.  I'm not kidding.
- Couldn't find a job with her worthless certificate.  She couldn't get a job until she took it off her resume.
- She proceeds to blow paychecks on concerts, tattoos, trips to Chicago, and sushi.  Lots and lots of sushi.  She also likes to frequent bars with her friends, many of whom have no jobs.
- Her gift to herself for getting a job that paid $13/hr was a brand new car that was about $30,000.  She asked me for $5,000 for a down payment.  I told her no and I haven't really talked to her since.

She must be hot.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 23, 2013, 11:13:38 PM
i think we need pics of sexy family members up in hurr.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 23, 2013, 11:16:22 PM
I have the benefit of not suffering under any abuse but god damn if my hubby hit my kid, he's going to the fucking emergency room  :maf.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: nudemacusers on August 23, 2013, 11:21:25 PM
timedog doesn't seem like the hitting type

i think we need pics of sexy family members up in hurr.
sorry, this all took place in lewis county, no hot milfs here.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 23, 2013, 11:22:18 PM
timedog doesn't seem like the hitting type

i think we need pics of sexy family members up in hurr.
sorry, this all took place in lewis county, no hot milfs here.

He's not at all. I mean it's a situation I don't see myself getting into period but I'm just the type to react very angrily to violence against fam or friends.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: nudemacusers on August 23, 2013, 11:24:02 PM
I see you didnt' deny husbando status  :-*
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 23, 2013, 11:26:12 PM
I see you didnt' deny husbando status  :-*

Not getting married any time soon but finding a dude like him is  :-*
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: CatsCatsCats on August 23, 2013, 11:29:25 PM
I have an alcoholic father who got wasted and called me a disappointment last fathers day and then told my wife he never liked her, so that was fun.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: nudemacusers on August 23, 2013, 11:31:20 PM
I have an alcoholic father who got wasted and called me a disappointment last fathers day and then told my wife he never liked her, so that was fun.
damn dude
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: CatsCatsCats on August 23, 2013, 11:33:12 PM
Yeah it started a huge deal when I called him out the next day.

He remembered none of it.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: lennedsay on August 23, 2013, 11:50:47 PM
My immediate family is awesome, and most of my mom's side is cool. My parents and us kids have been through a lot together - my brother's lifelong illness and death, my sister's accident and brain damage, and my mom and I both have fibromyalgia and a slew of other chronic stress-related conditions, my dad has a ton of health issues and almost died last year, and a ton of other random stressful shit. So we're super close. We actually appreciate each other because we know first hand things can always be worse, and life's too short to deal with bullshit, and we all adore the baby, who is this sweet little bundle of joy we got as payment for the last few decades of stress. 

I have a couple psycho family members on my mom's side that are total fucking assholes. They lie constantly and put everyone down to try and make their shitty little lives better. And a few are co-dependent on each other to enable each other's behavior while crying about their behavior to everyone else. Recently told one of them off for talking shit behind my back.

My dad's side, besides one uncle, are coke addicts that are half in prison and half trying to start drama. I have seen my grandparents once this decade, and once last decade. Haven't seen the rest of them since I was a kid. They don't know my husbands name, my married name, where we live, my phone number, nothing. Despite seeing them so infrequently, they still call my parents and cause fights. My parents have blocked the numbers, didn't answer, hung up on them. But eventually my grandma lies about someone being sick and my dad falls for it. He's still desperately seeking her approval after 60+ years of her narcissistic, manipulative abuse. The other kids are her favorites and can do no wrong, despite being complete fuck ups. One of my cousins robbed a bank for drug money (been in prison now for over 10 years), another cousin is in prison for selling a guy heroine, which he OD'd on and died so they found her liable, and the rest of them are complete low lives and drug addicts. I wrote them off entirely at the ripe age of 8 and never looked back. I was 2 or 3 years old and told my parents that my grandparents hated me, so my decision to never see them again wasn't a shock to my parents.

Then you have my in-laws. Pretty small family overall, and the ones I've met have been overwhelming good people or some of the biggest assholes you'll meet. Take your pick. Luckily my husband is rational enough to realize he'll never gain dear mom's approval, so hopefully that will save him decades of trying, like my dad did for so long. Actually my dad is trying to seek their approval for my husband and is constantly saying, "Well if they just see the baby again and how sweet she is, they'll have to fall in love with her and make things right." They saw her 2 months ago, immediately caused a scene at her birthday party and left, and haven't asked about her since. They've actually called in that timeframe but went out of their way to not bring up their only grandchild. My husband even said something snarky about how they're more than welcome to call and check on her, you know, show interest. Still nothing.

My grandma, my mother-in-law, and my aunt and her daughter could all be the exact same person. They'd definitely be the type to drown their kids in a bathtub and claim god told them to, but really because kids are just inconvenient for them. My MIL, aunt and cousin hate me and my mom so bad it's ridiculous, primarily because we are natural caregivers and maternal, which they are 100% not, so it makes them feel inferior. And when you're your biggest fan, you don't take too kindly to feeling inferior in any way. Comments were always made to my mom before that it just wasn't fair that her kids were so close to her vs my aunt and her kids. They never had an issue with me until I got pregnant, then it's been a race to prove that I'm some sort of fuck up asshole. Unfortunately for them I'm really laid back and nonconfrontational until they hurt my family and I have a really great excuse to tell them off. Feels good man. Now that I've told them all off so recently (except my grandma cause I never speak to her), I just troll them on Facebook. It's to the point where I could delete them without it being a shock, but it's more fun this way since they analyze everything I say there. It's great.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 24, 2013, 12:50:13 AM
timedog doesn't seem like the hitting type

i think we need pics of sexy family members up in hurr.
sorry, this all took place in lewis county, no hot milfs here.

bro, i grew up in lewis county! please tell me you weren't from napavine -- or worse, pe ell
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: nudemacusers on August 24, 2013, 12:54:05 AM
omfg


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doty  :trash  :dead
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I assume you're a twin cities dude, so I might be able to tell you I worked at the copy depot for about 2 years and you might know what that is (same mall as sight and sound)
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 24, 2013, 12:56:49 AM
sweet jesus! we must get drinks sometime, if you can stomach someone from

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Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 24, 2013, 12:57:23 AM
YARD BIRDS, BRAH
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 24, 2013, 12:58:23 AM
My mom's fam is weird.

Long story short she just found her biological family this year. (She's 67). Her dad was a total man whore which ironically made it easier for the biofam to accept that she's one of the bunch.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: nudemacusers on August 24, 2013, 12:59:29 AM
dude, definitely.

I played minor league baseball for pe ell as a pitcher, we hated you fucks  :maf

YARD BIRDS, BRAH

 :holeup

Centralia college

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Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 24, 2013, 01:01:15 AM
i played second and shortstop for adna, we made fun of pe ell for being the polack hicks

until your football team shot up my sweet chevy spectrum at hoppers :fbm
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 24, 2013, 01:02:47 AM
i will msg the shat pack! finally someone to corroborate my tales of lewis county hillbilly devilry

i worked at fullers market basket in centralia selling booze to kids and mexicans
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: nudemacusers on August 24, 2013, 01:04:20 AM
Well, it was a weyerhauser town. And you dudes always had way nicer equipment than us.  >:(



oh man, lots of weird memories flooding back right now heh.

i will msg the shat pack! finally someone to corroborate my tales of lewis county hillbilly devilry

i worked at fullers market basket in centralia selling booze to kids and mexicans
fullers? that's where all the poors went :heh



I went there all the time :shaq2
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 24, 2013, 01:07:16 AM
i was an ur-poor, i worked there just to steal smokes and get the checker ladies to sell me boone's farm :dead
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: nudemacusers on August 24, 2013, 01:08:58 AM
Well if we're being confessional, I spent a lot of my late teen years at the matrix coffeehouse  :snoop
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 24, 2013, 01:09:10 AM
we had darigold and steam plant rich kids alongside us dirtfolk. fuckin' sleepy hollow upper middle class shitfucks and their jacked up, blinged out f150s
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 24, 2013, 01:10:23 AM
My mom's side is fucked up, but I enjoy them nonetheless. My two uncles on that side (including the computer illiterate one I've discussed before) are cool, I love my aunts, etc. Cousins are all fucked up...drugs, MS, disability, etc. Detroit, basically.

Dad's side is more successful but annoying as fuck. His two sisters were pretty much nonexistent for most of my life, my mom doesn't get along with them at all and I've kind of glad the bridge is burned. One time my dad's oldest sister visited my college place, with my dad. At the time I had a female friend over, we were just chilling watching movies or whatever; white chick, tall beautiful brunette who's super smart. Anyway my aunt comes in, I introduce her, and she asks if this is my girlfriend. I said no, we're just friends. Then my aunt says "you don't have to hide Maurice. I'd date a white woman too if I was raised by your mother." Not shitting you. I kept calm and asked what's that supposed to mean, and she laughed it off as a joke or whatever. I decided to just let it die instead of making a scene. My dad's sisters really don't like my mom. One is an overweight, balding shut in who's a nurse. The older one is also overweight, diabetes, adopted a bunch of kids (including the cousin in Brooklyn I've discussed...) and doesn't really have a job anymore, used to be a teacher and now just goes to church every other day.

Couple uncles on that side. One passed away last year, the other is probably the funniest person I know; he's basically the black Joe Pesci. He's retired, now all he does is golf and restore old cars.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 24, 2013, 06:45:33 AM
I know I shouldn't be at this point, but I think what really trips me out about shit like this is that... do these people (my relatives and everyone else's) really lack any basic human empathy?  Are they that incapable of putting themselves in someone else's situation, thinking about it, and then concluding that they maybe shouldn't be such a fucking asshole about whatever it is? 

People who know me will tell you that I'm not an easy person to get along with.  I often speak without thinking, but that's usually in relation to someone saying they like X movie, tv show, band, whatever, and then I'll bust their chops for it.  I just don't fucking get people who are incapable of basic human decency like the shit show of fucktardery I've been dealing with, and that everyone else has shared in here.

Anyway.  Thanks for listening to me vent.  This was oddly therapeutic.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 24, 2013, 07:51:10 AM
Speaking politically, both sides of my family are devout Catholics.  My mother's side can be described as Blue State Catholic and my father's side Red State Catholic.  Very different interpretation on things and a very different way of how they live.

I'm pretty much persona non grata on my father's side because I'm an atheist.  Not the loud, obnoxious r/atheism or NeoGAF atheism, I usually don't say shit about it until somebody asks but it isn't like I'm ashamed of it or anything.  Well, that was simply too much for some to handle and I've been asked not to attend their various gatherings.  That's fine.  Most of them are either disabled or diabetic (or disabled from being diabetic).  My father's brothers and sisters broke their backs (literally) and didn't make shit and have grown bitter about that fact.  Their children (my cousins) claim a wide variety of disabilities.  A cousin of mine is a millionaire after suing a hospital.  I'm the only one in their family who has attended college and now I'm in graduate school, which I'm sure only cements my status with them.

Mother's side tends to be great but we're too widely dispersed, from Hawaii to Ohio.  We meet up once every five years or so.  Since we're Catholics, I have over 40 cousins on that side, several of whom I've never met.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 24, 2013, 04:48:29 PM
I've largely avoided all religious talk given that I'm agnostic; there may be a god as there's no evidence there isn't a god, but he/she/it sure as fuck isn't the Abrahamic god or any other man made creation. My entire family is religious to varying degrees. Some are name-it-claim-it types who believe in healing yet have disabilities. After my uncle died we all went to the hospital, and his pastor had us circle the bed, hold hands, and pray for healing. As if that was going to reverse an aneurysm. And afterwards the pastor was basically like "he's in a better place now, thank you lord."

I used to get shit for reading Harry Potter and other (non Narnia) fantasy as a kid. One of my uncles, who watches every sci fi film that comes out every year, complained about me reading demonic stuff. Yet when I asked why is it ok for him to watch sci fi and fantasy films, he claimed "because Dracula isn't in the bible, but magic is in the bible and god said it's bad."  :-\
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 24, 2013, 06:27:49 PM
Never been happier that my fam are some chill hippy types when it comes to religious/racism crap I hear from other people ranting about their family.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: brawndolicious on August 24, 2013, 06:51:07 PM
I'd say over half my relatives work in science/engineering/medicine and most of them are strict about religion so I nearly never hear anyone mixing up their beliefs with what's happening in the real world in anything other than a "well maybe this is proof...haha" way.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Himu on August 24, 2013, 07:43:08 PM
I'd say over half my relatives work in science/engineering/medicine and most of them are strict about religion so I nearly never hear anyone mixing up their beliefs with what's happening in the real world in anything other than a "well maybe this is proof...haha" way.

I've seen a lot of muslims join the science fields to prove gods existence.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: brawndolicious on August 24, 2013, 09:15:46 PM
Well they've successfully not disproved the existence of God.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Himu on August 25, 2013, 01:03:36 AM
:lol
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: chronovore on August 25, 2013, 11:18:56 AM
I love my family; there were some alcohol problems with both my parents, but my mom is recovering now, and my dad was in recovery for nearly 20 years when he passed on. My biggest problem is my sister, who desperately wants me to move back to the USA from Japan. My in-laws are wonderful people, kind and supportive and generous.

To actually complain about my family, I have to get to my aunts and uncles, with whom I have very little contact these days. My dad's cousin is a slumlord and some kind of neat-freak and hoarder. One uncle raised a chronic drug user, who has been in jail a few times. That cousin has had a child, who the uncle has had to raise because of how brain-damaged that cousin is. Another cousin married a woman who herself had been married to a jerk who already had a kid in a previous marriage. She had accepted and raised this jerk's son as her own, but the jerk is abusive to both of them. She left him, and the son wanted to stay with the non-abusive mom, but the courts ruled that she had no legal claim to the boy because she had no blood connection to him, and shipped him back to the abusive father.

I see these people less than once a decade now, so it never affects my day-to-day life. The family which I have, which is close to me emotionally, is wonderful. I'm lucky.
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: Mandark on October 01, 2013, 10:45:27 PM
How awesome is my family?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bE2r7r7VVic

My grandma just turned 87 today.  That's her at 26 seconds.  :rock
Title: Re: EB thread of let's talk about our shitty families
Post by: nudemacusers on October 01, 2013, 10:52:12 PM
your grandma is rad.

I should also say that my wife's family is super cool. sadly her grandmother (mom's mom) passed a while ago due to cancer, and she donated her body to medical science. she was awesome, getting misty thinking about her and I only knew her for a year or so.