https://www.reddit.com/r/NeoFAG/comments/2wtdcn/lets_be_honest_about_kagari/
All this archaic masculinity rubbish, didn't expect that. If your wife makes more than you, maybe tuck it in a work part-time while tending to the spawn. If it's 50/50, flip a coin.
No, hell no. A man's value is directly correlated to his ability to provide for his family.
I know the rest of bore will hate that answer but it's true. You really want your kid's primary male role model to be some dickless lazy fuck who washes the laundry every day?
All this archaic masculinity rubbish, didn't expect that. If your wife makes more than you, maybe tuck it in a work part-time while tending to the spawn. If it's 50/50, flip a coin.I know you were speaking by and large, but I would like to address this comment on a personal level.
All this archaic masculinity rubbish, didn't expect that. If your wife makes more than you, maybe tuck it in a work part-time while tending to the spawn. If it's 50/50, flip a coin.I know you were speaking by and large, but I would like to address this comment on a personal level.
The economical argument isn't an excuse, neither is the "but she is five years and a half older than you!" bullshit. The man remains the one shipping & providing, in my book. I picked up the wrong green card (http://urgencesmondor.aphp.fr/IMG/arton62.jpg) in 2013 and our relationship seems to be a platonic Tatsuya Suou & Maya Amano... for now, since we are yet to be at the end of the road.
I'm a stay at home son.spoiler (click to show/hide):stahp[close]
The man remains the one shipping & providing, in my book.Why? Beyond tradition, I mean.
If you think you could handle and enjoy it, do it! My husband would be a great stay at home dad. My daughter's used to seeing both of us cook, do laundry, clean, do yard work, etc. I hope she grows up not thinking that cleaning is "women's work" and men are supposed to "provide for the family." We all pitch in, her included, to keep the house clean and us fed.
My mom stayed home and my dad worked, and I thought my dad was a complete lazy ass. I saw my mom cooking and cleaning and taking care of us and my grandparents all day and night, and my dad busted his ass at work and came home and slept all evening. I grew up thinking, "Wow, I hope I don't marry a guy that won't help me do grocery shopping or clean." My mom has the same health disorder I have, and it's hard for us to get around sometimes, and my dad never once stopped at the store for her or threw a load of laundry in. Not because he's an asshole, but because he's completely helpless without her.
Didnt expect Aia saying that and people agreeing as well.I’m taking a turn as a stay-at-home dad, and the worst thing about it is that it eats into my work time as I establish my start-up business. In general, I’m really enjoying being here for my kids and helping out around the house. My wife and I have always worked full time and split chores according to our individual schedules.
Rufus, "providing" is debatable in the case at hand, but the shipping part is self-explanatory for me, as obnoxious as I might sound here. Would you let your daughter go to visit her boyfriend if she were in a long-distance relationship? Or would you expect the BF to come to visit your home? For the first meeting I mean.I would probably want him to meet her at home, in which case being a stay-at-home dad would be even better, no? You could judge the guy all day long.
If you think you could handle and enjoy it, do it! My husband would be a great stay at home dad. My daughter's used to seeing both of us cook, do laundry, clean, do yard work, etc. I hope she grows up not thinking that cleaning is "women's work" and men are supposed to "provide for the family." We all pitch in, her included, to keep the house clean and us fed.
My mom stayed home and my dad worked, and I thought my dad was a complete lazy ass. I saw my mom cooking and cleaning and taking care of us and my grandparents all day and night, and my dad busted his ass at work and came home and slept all evening. I grew up thinking, "Wow, I hope I don't marry a guy that won't help me do grocery shopping or clean." My mom has the same health disorder I have, and it's hard for us to get around sometimes, and my dad never once stopped at the store for her or threw a load of laundry in. Not because he's an asshole, but because he's completely helpless without her.
What kind if work did your dad do?
No, hell no. A man's value is directly correlated to his ability to provide for his family.
I know the rest of bore will hate that answer but it's true. You really want your kid's primary male role model to be some dickless lazy fuck who washes the laundry every day?
I think it would be amazing to stay home a year or so with the lil one after my wife is done with maternity leave
Didnt expect Aia saying that and people agreeing as well.I’m taking a turn as a stay-at-home dad, and the worst thing about it is that it eats into my work time as I establish my start-up business. In general, I’m really enjoying being here for my kids and helping out around the house. My wife and I have always worked full time and split chores according to our individual schedules.
Lager, you’ll need to make time for yourself, as raising a kid is an all-overtime, all-the-time job. It’s not enough just to have your spouse’s help once she’s home from work, you’ll need to have a day where she is looking after the child and you’re free to clear your stress.
AiA’s wrong about stay-at-home fathers, and about saying stuff that no-one else will say. Yeah, TheBore.com is full of a bunch of shrinking violets. Sure.
QuoteI think it would be amazing to stay home a year or so with the lil one after my wife is done with maternity leave
thanks to a joyous "gardening leave/non compete" agreement i got a nice 4 months off coupled with a 2 month holiday before starting my new job just after our second kid was born - my wife was on maternity leave as well so we all got to have 6 glorious months together as a family with no work to worry about. I heartily recommend it - plus you get some quality time to bond.