Makes sense. I'm kind of fucked up.
It's never one thing though. A parent that is abusive is likely lacking in a lot of other areas which can further exacerbate whatever becomes of the child. Stress, low intelligence, alcoholism, neglect, low income, overworked, divorce, etc etc all go hand in hand with an abusive parent or parents.
You can be a parent that never raises a hand towards your child, but if you work 14 hours a day and barely attend to their basic needs, they are going to be equally as fucked.
Personally, I don't have a problem with occasionally swatting a 3 or 4 year old to correct them. But you can't tell average people that because some are stupid and lazy and will take it to the extreme.
It's never one thing though. A parent that is abusive is likely lacking in a lot of other areas which can further exacerbate whatever becomes of the child. Stress, low intelligence, alcoholism, neglect, low income, overworked, divorce, etc etc all go hand in hand with an abusive parent or parents.It's my understanding that what they looked at here is what qualifies as 'spanking', rather than abuse. I'd love to look at the paper regarding the other factors, but I'm not paying 12$ for it and I can't find this year's issues of the journal on lib.gen. :<
You can be a parent that never raises a hand towards your child, but if you work 14 hours a day and barely attend to their basic needs, they are going to be equally as fucked.
It's never one thing though. A parent that is abusive is likely lacking in a lot of other areas which can further exacerbate whatever becomes of the child. Stress, low intelligence, alcoholism, neglect, low income, overworked, divorce, etc etc all go hand in hand with an abusive parent or parents.It's my understanding that what they looked at here is what qualifies as 'spanking', rather than abuse. I'd love to look at the paper regarding the other factors, but I'm not paying 12$ for it and I can't find this year's issues of the journal on lib.gen. :<
You can be a parent that never raises a hand towards your child, but if you work 14 hours a day and barely attend to their basic needs, they are going to be equally as fucked.
Well said.I got the death squeeze as a kid. That was the signal that a gasket was gonna be blown real quick.
I don't swat but I do grab and shoulder squeeze when required. The 5th time dad has to tell you you aren't getting (Insert item here) and you continue to whine you are getting a spock style death squeeze for a second.
Tip: Don't try that with your wife
Well, all I can find is "Our analysis focuses on what most Americans would recognize as spanking and not on potentially abusive behaviors". Difficult to tell what that actually means.It's never one thing though. A parent that is abusive is likely lacking in a lot of other areas which can further exacerbate whatever becomes of the child. Stress, low intelligence, alcoholism, neglect, low income, overworked, divorce, etc etc all go hand in hand with an abusive parent or parents.It's my understanding that what they looked at here is what qualifies as 'spanking', rather than abuse. I'd love to look at the paper regarding the other factors, but I'm not paying 12$ for it and I can't find this year's issues of the journal on lib.gen. :<
You can be a parent that never raises a hand towards your child, but if you work 14 hours a day and barely attend to their basic needs, they are going to be equally as fucked.
Not sure how you can scientifically decide that as there are so many factors at play. Size of person, power of strikes, verbal abuse, etc.
If you want to see the difference between discipline and abuse, go to walmart and you will see some of both.My stepmoms Dad was the principal at my elementary where they used a paddle. That shit sucked bro
I remember getting spanked in school by the principal a few times between grades of 1 and 4. It was a christian school and my parents had to sign off on it I'm sure. You were told how many whacks you were going to get and you got to sit in his office and cry it out before you had to go back to your classroom. Looking back on it the shit is pretty barbaric. If I saw the dude now, I'd have no remorse in paying his elderly ass back with a few whacks to his backside. Dude is probably in hell now anyway.
All I remember is laughter defiantly as my mom took the spoon to me 8)
PD, you ever laugh at your mom when she went biblical on that ass?#notallwhitepeople
Seriously, white people.....
The worst I ever got was flat hand. No belts, no fists. Just flat hand. I don't know if I agree with that method or the squeeze A_I_A goes with. Generally ignoring the kid for a bit will get them to calm down, but that might seem like neglect and doing that in public isn't the best method. :doge
Not that I'm one for parenting tips.
It's never one thing though. A parent that is abusive is likely lacking in a lot of other areas which can further exacerbate whatever becomes of the child. Stress, low intelligence, alcoholism, neglect, low income, overworked, divorce, etc etc all go hand in hand with an abusive parent or parents.
Anyway growing up we got our ass whupped, mama tolerated no shit. And I watched all my friends get whupped too. It was normal back them.
The worst I ever got was flat hand. No belts, no fists. Just flat hand. I don't know if I agree with that method or the squeeze A_I_A goes with. Generally ignoring the kid for a bit will get them to calm down, but that might seem like neglect and doing that in public isn't the best method. :doge(http://i.imgur.com/8HADQ1k.png)
Not that I'm one for parenting tips.