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Title: Pallando will return in "Never Say Never Again"
Post by: Fresh Prince on August 11, 2011, 03:03:37 AM

Relationship shit in here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 11, 2011, 07:45:32 AM

Married 14 years.

WOOT!

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Post by: Mupepe on August 11, 2011, 09:16:35 AM

In about 30 days ill be happily married for two years.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 11, 2011, 10:40:18 AM

married 14 years come sunday. go me!

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Post by: Brehvolution on August 11, 2011, 10:42:31 AM

Just passed the 10 year mark in married life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on August 11, 2011, 11:10:19 AM

so guys...tell me about married life. any and all tips/experiences welcome.

edit: also, a lot of you seem to have Japanese wives-- did you guys ever have to do the long distance thing for an extended period of time (like 6 months or so)? What did you do to keep it going? Anything special besides long Skype conversations?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 11, 2011, 11:26:55 AM

9 months with same girl who is good to me and def the nicest girl I have been with :interracial

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on August 11, 2011, 11:50:23 AM

Married for four years now; had our anniversary last month!

Not sure what the point of this thread is with random talk already available, really...

Quote from: Don Flamenco on August 11, 2011, 11:10:19 AM

edit: also, a lot of you seem to have Japanese wives-- did you guys ever have to do the long distance thing for an extended period of time (like 6 months or so)? What did you do to keep it going? Anything special besides long Skype conversations?

Everybody weeabooin'.

I met her over there when I was living abroad, and there's no way a long distance relationship would have worked, I think. My wife lived about an hour away (via car) and we were usually able to see each other 1-2 times a week. We never had a problem in our relationship, so we got married about a year and half after we started dating.

I've noticed that over the past few years, she will at times act like a child and get angry over shit I don't think is worth worrying about, but I just remain calm in those situations and try not to make things worse. Last night, for example, she got angry because I withdrew $40 last Sunday when I deposited a check, and meant to give her a $20. I had already spent that $40 on various things over the last few days, and she was all pissed off that I didn't have the bill. I was just went ??? :lol ??? and asked her what the problem is...it's not like she can't go to an ATM herself. She goes "OK I WILL! I WILL TAKE OUT FORTY DOLLARS HMMF!!!! :maf :maf :maf" and I just said "Uh..okay...go right ahead! :)" and she calmed down.

This type of stuff always seems to happen when it's that time of the month. :P

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Post by: Mupepe on August 11, 2011, 11:51:16 AM

Quote from: Don Flamenco on August 11, 2011, 11:10:19 AM

so guys...tell me about married life. any and all tips/experiences welcome.

edit: also, a lot of you seem to have Japanese wives-- did you guys ever have to do the long distance thing for an extended period of time (like 6 months or so)? What did you do to keep it going? Anything special besides long Skype conversations?

an oldie but goodie:

Don't go to bed mad. Seriously. It makes for an awkward morning where you're both over it but your pride is still on. And with that, keep lines of communication open. Don't start holding things in.

That's all I've got, but maybe someone with more experience can chime in.

Edit: Also, pick your battles. Some things you just gotta realize that's one of their harmless quirks. You have them too. That's not really marriage advice, more of generally living with someone advice.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on August 11, 2011, 12:09:15 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 11, 2011, 11:51:16 AM

Edit: Also, pick your battles. Some things you just gotta realize that's one of their harmless quirks. You have them too. That's not really marriage advice, more of generally living with someone advice.

Definitely.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 11, 2011, 12:41:25 PM

Been together eight years, lived together for six years, married for five years now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Trent Dole on August 11, 2011, 12:57:25 PM

Hmm, been together for eight years, this October will make it two years of marriage.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 11, 2011, 12:58:00 PM

1 month :teehee

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Post by: lennedsay on August 11, 2011, 01:31:06 PM

3 years of married life this month, 5.5 years together. Always been pretty happy, minimal arguing and bullshit.

Tip: Marry someone you don't hate. It always seems to help the relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 11, 2011, 02:12:16 PM

I hate you len

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Post by: Don Flamenco on August 11, 2011, 03:24:55 PM

I'll just spill my beans, I'm in an interesting situation. I met a slovakian woman who lives in prague while I was over there studying this summer. We hit it off while I was there and now we Skype a couple times a week, email every day, with no real signs of slowing down. Long story short, we've got a shitload in common, we already get along better than most girlfriends I've had, and I think we're going to try this out. We haven't officially been like "we're an item now!" but she hints towards wanting to talk about it and I put it off because we won't see each other until I go back there in December. So yeah, I've got tix to visit there and she's got tix to come here the april after that. We've still got 4 months to go and I'm trying to keep it very slow and simple, though I'm starting to get things that resemble love letters (or they straight up are and I'm just trying not to let it get to me haha.) I sort of politely reciprocate, but I'm all about not letting the dam break until it has to right now. I'm not cold about it, so I'm careful not to put her off...she knows I'm interested but that we've gotta get through this first 6 months before we can start talking about the future at all, imo. it's going fast and easy thankfully.

the thing is, if this happens, I'd probably move to Prague next summer (she doesn't want to move to the U.S. permanently, though she plans on getting a place here at some point, after she buys a place in italy...yeah, everyone's like "she just wants to get with an american lawyer" and no, she'd be wearing the pants in that sense.) I probably won't be working somewhere where I use my law degree there. Can't say I care that much because that's probably what would happen here too :lol I have other plans to get a librarian degree here so I could be a legal librarian (an actual position that requires both degrees), but I think I could put that off-- I've got time for one last spontaneous adventure.

tl;dr: I may join the esteemed ranks of eastern euro-bore! Shit, maybe I'll get teaching job there...prosim pochop!

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 11, 2011, 03:34:07 PM

Cool stuff man. Prague is amazing :)

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 11, 2011, 03:50:48 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on August 11, 2011, 01:23:47 PM

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I something something marriage something something not for me

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on August 11, 2011, 04:23:38 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on August 11, 2011, 03:34:07 PM

Cool stuff man. Prague is amazing :)

yeah, even without the woman situation, I was considering moving there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 11, 2011, 04:38:32 PM

I looked into jobs there but its all so low wage i wouldnt be able to save money.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on August 11, 2011, 07:21:41 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 11, 2011, 02:12:16 PM

I hate you len

Then we can't get married. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 11, 2011, 11:49:56 PM

RPGs are the best medicine for a broken heart. Stat stat statting is rewarding, engrossing, and the stories are great escapism.

I need to rpg for a little before I get back to the dating scene ;_;

If you don't like someone dating is easy because when you drop them it doesn't hurt.
If you like someone then you are fuuucked when they drop you

But what's the point of dating someone you don't like?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 12:27:13 AM

I dunno, I've been really depressed for the last 2-3 weeks :( Haven't been like this for about 2 years since my last heartbreak.

I may act cheery and say things but that's because I'm not very open and don't usually say what I really think. Like in this situation I've agreed with everyone from the start. I knew that it was stupid to keep chasing a girl who has no interest in me because she never will and it'll only make me more attached which just makes it suck more. I knew I should just cut her off completely and walk away. But it's hard when your heart is like hnnngggg everytime you think of her and you really want it to work. I'm just bad at giving up and moving on. I know exactly how this works because I was in a situation when I was 18 that was EXACTLY like this, 1 sided love for a girl who didn't have any emotional interest in me; it went on for an entire year; we hung out almost daily and spent all our time together and did a million adventures and sometimes slept together and it drove me crazy since I was always betting on the glimmer of hope that she'd come to care for me like I cared for her; but she never did and one day I finally had enough and walked away and she came crying back and I said fuck off and then that was the last straw and she went to jesus instead and became a born against christian and has kept her legs shut ever since.

So yeah, I know exactly what I'm getting into and I've known for over 2 weeks now that I need to walk away, but I am weak and it's hard and it hurts and so it's not happening yet. Instead I just live a depressed life with random moments of happiness occasionally when there's a glimmer of hope. Maybe I'll have the guts to cut this off now; I hope so; but it's hard because she keeps stringing me on. I wish she'd be an asshole and say fuck off, but she's too polite and so she says it nicely in a way that seems like there is still hope. It's tough. I need courage wolf.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Smooth Groove on August 12, 2011, 12:36:58 AM

Bebpo, sounds like you need to spend more quality time with your hand.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Fresh Prince on August 12, 2011, 12:51:17 AM

Bebpo it seems like you have your professional life sorted, I don't see why it should be so hard to get your personal life sorted as well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 01:02:31 AM

Because my heart is dumb and my mind is smart. In most of life I follow my mind, but with girls I follow my heart. My cock also has it's on 3rd party thoughts on girls, but I'm good at ignoring it. Although the reaction I got tonight from this girl when asking on a date was that hehehe, you're too horny; which I found odd because does wanting to see someone in person that you haven't seen for a week+ really come off as pushing/desperate/too horny? It's not like we're talking every day, I don't see the problem with wanting to see someone you like once a week.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Fresh Prince on August 12, 2011, 01:05:00 AM

It does if most of the time you end up having sex.

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Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 01:11:39 AM

Really?

Hmmm, see I'm not aware of these rules. I figured people in their 20s/30s who were sexually active have sex pretty often, because face it, it's more fun to spend the night sleeping with someone than sit around alone on your computer. I figured most NORMAL or casual couples were probably seeing each other/sexing at least a couple times a week (most girls say in a normal relationship they want to be having sex daily according to the questions online!), and thus once every week or week and a half was giving some space. I guess I was wrong then; oh well.

I pretty much need to see someone I am intimate with at least once a week, because after about 7 days of not seeing them in person I get sad. I guess I'm not independent enough or something.

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 12, 2011, 01:20:26 AM

Obviously both of you seem to have you wires crossed. She may seem to think you only want to meet her for a booty call or she's just choking your chain as a joke. It depends on what the context is. From what I gathered you want to meet her to get to know her and if that leads to sex so much the better. Edit but now it seems you just wanted a booty call. People generally tend not to like to be used as transparently as that. You should seek a therapist.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 01:24:13 AM

Quote from: Fresh Prince on August 12, 2011, 01:20:26 AM

Obviously both of you seem to have you wires crossed. She may seem to think you only want to meet her for a booty call or she's just choking your chain as a joke. It depends on what the context is. You want to meet her to get to know her and if that leads to sex so much the better. You should seek a therapist.

I don't get that last bit. Isn't it normal behavior to want to see someone to get to know them more and if it leads to sex then, hey that's cool too. How does that lead to a therapist?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Smooth Groove on August 12, 2011, 01:36:40 AM

Bebpo, why do you want to have such a strong emotional attachment when you're just starting on your law career?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 01:50:17 AM

Because even though I'm happy when I'm not in love/like, it's like on my own I'm 9/10 happy when there's no relationship drama and I'm just living for myself. But when I'm going crazy over a girl IF things are going well it's a 10/10 happy, though when things are bad it's a 2/10. I like the feeling of falling for someone; the endorphins or whatever that are released are addicting and it's an incredible high. Once I'm in the state I don't want to go back to living life without that feeling.

I don't need to be in a relationship or have any attachment right now. This is just a special situation because every 1-2 years I run into someone that I fall for and then that's just what happens. I'm sure once I finally cut this girl off and have a month of depressive recovery, I probably won't get emotionally attached to anyone for another 1-2 years again. It's rare that I run into someone who makes me attach easily since I'm reaaaaaaaaally picky with falling for girls. I have a huge checklist of dealbreakers and finding someone online who doesn't have them and physically attracts me and mentally attracts me is friggen tough. I mean I'm 29 and I've only met 3 girls in my life that I've felt :heart :heart about. Most girls just don't make me feel anything.

Otoh, I have no interest in hook ups, so if I don't want to be in any emotional attachment situation at this point in my life, well then I'm basically going off women until I change my mind on that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 12, 2011, 01:52:23 AM

way too many words. Just tell me: you fucking on the regular or not?

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 12, 2011, 01:53:36 AM

It leads to a therapist because you are not that simple tbh.

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Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 01:55:32 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 12, 2011, 01:52:23 AM

way too many words. Just tell me: you fucking on the regular or not?

With this girl? Not. If there was some sort of mutual agreement of regularity this might have actually worked at least in the short term. But no, it's like everytime I want to see her it's like asking her out for the first time and getting spun around in circles; we have nothing, that's the reality of it. The only reason there was any fucking is because if for some reason we do meet at the same place, same time, we hook up because she thinks I'm hot and I think she's pretty. But she makes no effort to actually get us to the same place at the same time, and in fact seems to make effort to avoid that since she shoots down my invitations to hang out on nights.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 02:07:25 AM

I mean conversation tonight was basically (not word for word):

Me: lalala funny teasing invite to hang out after work; I'll bring the wine and the massage hands
Her: hahahaha, you're too much or too horny ;)
Me: Maybe a bit of both ;) Funny funny are we on then?
Her: If you're looking for hot sex (let's be honest hehehe), I can't tonight. Girl week :P
Me: No problemoo. Offer still stands if you're interested ;) Your company is good enough :p
Her: Awww, your super sweet. But it's late and I'm tired and feeling antisocial.
Me: kk, good night.
Her: Thanks. You too :)

It's a normal conversation. Very logical. Nobody did anything wrong. But that's how most of my invites go; she is nice and polite and sort of leading on, but shoots meeting up down. Occasionally we do meet up and then have a good time hanging out + hooking up. But that's getting rare-ish. So I just need to BAIL OUT of this completely, because it's tearing my heart apart :(

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Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 02:13:29 AM

And I always set myself up for these falls because I like to do elaborate stuff for my dates because that's just who I am. Like I went and got flowers in her favorite color and picked out a bottle of wine that I wrapped the flowers around and I took a shower, groomed, got dressed in some nice proper attire.

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Since it was going to be last minute, I wanted to make sure everything was ready so I could shoot on over if the date was on. So now I have some flowers that are going to die in a day or two and a bottle of wine to drink alone :|

PS. and to come back to reality, I am perfectly aware that even if the date had happened, the flowers, sharing a bottle of wine, a massage, whatever, would have been cute for the moment but mean nothing in the long run because she doesn't care about me and none of that stuff will change her mind. I just do it anyhow because that's me. Last time we met up I showed up at her door with some fresh chocolate chip cookies because it was around dinner time and I knew she hadn't had a chance to eat and she loves chocolate chip cookies. Whenever I go on dates with someone I actually CARE about, I always put in effort to make each time we see each other unique.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 12, 2011, 02:48:39 AM

Youre overanalyzing everything and yourself and your feelings especially.

Let go a bit :)

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Post by: etiolate on August 12, 2011, 02:51:02 AM

it does sound like you're overanalyzing

Just takes whats coming to you and think about it if it feels the need for serious thought.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 02:55:18 AM

Quote from: Premium Lager on August 12, 2011, 02:48:39 AM

Youre overanalyzing everything and yourself and your feelings especially.

Let go a bit :)

I think you're right.

I just don't know how to do what you're saying. Drink?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 12, 2011, 03:32:41 AM

You use your left brain too much. Chill, relax, enjoy life, eat pussy.

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Post by: Mupepe on August 12, 2011, 10:10:48 AM

Jesus. No wonder she fucks with you. You're way too neurotic. I'd mess with your mind too.

By the way, isn't this what you what you wanted? The big chase! The drama! Oh. You thought she'd give in by now or what? Just move on, buddy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 12, 2011, 12:21:40 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 02:13:29 AM

And I always set myself up for these falls because I like to do elaborate stuff for my dates because that's just who I am. Like I went and got flowers in her favorite color and picked out a bottle of wine that I wrapped the flowers around and I took a shower, groomed, got dressed in some nice proper attire.
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Since it was going to be last minute, I wanted to make sure everything was ready so I could shoot on over if the date was on. So now I have some flowers that are going to die in a day or two and a bottle of wine to drink alone :|

PS. and to come back to reality, I am perfectly aware that even if the date had happened, the flowers, sharing a bottle of wine, a massage, whatever, would have been cute for the moment but mean nothing in the long run because she doesn't care about me and none of that stuff will change her mind. I just do it anyhow because that's me. Last time we met up I showed up at her door with some fresh chocolate chip cookies because it was around dinner time and I knew she hadn't had a chance to eat and she loves chocolate chip cookies. Whenever I go on dates with someone I actually CARE about, I always put in effort to make each time we see each other unique.

Ok...

1. You're not a couple. You keep referring to your "whatever" with this girl as one. You're not. It's pretty obvious.
2. Wrapping flowers around a bottle of wine for a girl who doesn't want to be with you? You might think it's romantic, but it's probably awkward and uncomfortable for her.

You've got a very idealized version of dating, love and romance. Not that it's bad thing, but you need to know when to tone it down.

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Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 12, 2011, 01:19:18 PM

never in my entire dating history did i make anything even approximating the sort of absurd romantic gestures you're making. in fact, it would have seemed pretty creepo if i did! DEPENDENT MUCH? my more astute dates might have asked

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Post by: Mupepe on August 12, 2011, 01:24:49 PM

I see he still hasn't explained why he cares about this girl. He admits they barely talk, rarely see each other and both want totally different things.

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Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 12, 2011, 01:27:36 PM

cookies and wine bottles with flowers are what you make when you're NEWLYWED, or when you wanna get back in your wife's good graces after you washed her favorite jacket with Tide w/ bleach. you're doin' that shit WAY too early in your relationship, which is totes creeper. at this point, the occasional "thinkin' about you" call or flirty gesture is MUCH more appropriate.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 12, 2011, 01:29:33 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on August 12, 2011, 01:27:36 PM

cookies and wine bottles with flowers are what you make when you're NEWLYWED, or when you wanna get back in your wife's good graces after you washed her favorite jacket with Tide w/ bleach. you're doin' that shit WAY too early in your relationship, which is totes creeper. at this point, the occasional "thinkin' about you" call or flirty gesture is MUCH more appropriate.

and in reference to this girl, I think she sees it as a "control me like your puppet" tattoo on his forehead.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 12, 2011, 01:31:05 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 12, 2011, 01:24:49 PM

I see he still hasn't explained why he cares about this girl. He admits they barely talk, rarely see each other and both want totally different things.

hate to pull out the cliche, but his expectations for the early beginnings of a relationship are at sore disconnect with what a successful reality might look like. he's going from HI WE MET YOU'RE KINDA HOT, LET'S MAYBE FUCK to OMG OMG LET'S DO ALL THE CUTE COUPLE THINGS NEWLYWEDS IN THE THROES OF LIMERENCE DO without the whole LET'S DO THE FIGURE-EACH-OTHER-OUT DANCE phase of six months to a year.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 12, 2011, 01:32:40 PM

yep. like I said before, an ideal/robotic way of looking at human relationships that seems to stem from too many rom-coms and dramas.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 01:39:08 PM

Hmmm, maybe I rush things a bit much. I've always felt the romance-y gestures were what you do pre-relationship because that's when it's all new and exciting to both people. From my few relationship experiences, once I actually get in a stable relationship, much of the fun and excitement and romance dies away because you start to know everything about each other and the mystery is gone.

And yes, it's true I learned everything I know about romance and dating from hollywood because uh, when you grow up, where else are you supposed to learn it? I see how the heroes do things in film and get inspired to be like them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 12, 2011, 01:40:29 PM

Picking a random flower in the park is far more romantic and thoughtful than any random bouquet of flowers anyways. Picking a flower shows consideration. Buying flowers shows you hold money as a high esteem.

In any case, this relationship you two have is broke and can't be fixed. There is no future. Move on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 12, 2011, 01:41:28 PM

That's exactly why the romantic gestures are needed when you're stable in the relationship. Surprise her with those things. That makes her day and it means something because she knows you. You're just some guy right now. It means nothing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 12, 2011, 01:42:35 PM

Exactly. If you aren't even official, why are you buying her flowers? That's like saying "I love you" or talking about marriage on the second date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 01:45:58 PM

Because it's a nice way of saying, "hey, I actually listen to your likes/dislikes and want to surprise you with something you like to brighten your day a little" as a friendly gesture?

Quote from: Mupepe on August 12, 2011, 01:24:49 PM

I see he still hasn't explained why he cares about this girl. He admits they barely talk, rarely see each other and both want totally different things.

To answer this simply, she's cute.

End of story.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 01:50:22 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 12, 2011, 01:40:29 PM

Picking a random flower in the park is far more romantic and thoughtful than any random bouquet of flowers anyways. Picking a flower shows consideration. Buying flowers shows you hold money as a high esteem.

It wasn't a bouquet of flowers. It was handpicked flowers that she likes and then hand-made art project of assembling them artfully around a bottle. I don't just buy stuff for people. If I bring cookies I bake them myself. Anything I do is a result of time and effort and being thoughtful fwiw.

But I agree with you that it's broke, can't be fixed, and move on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Fresh Prince on August 12, 2011, 01:51:55 PM

tbh sounds like she's calling the shots but being very nice bout it. tbh as a women she has more options than you do so good sex isn't the be all and end all for her since grankly that's all you have.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 12, 2011, 01:52:44 PM

Oh, okay. One of my girlfriends would buy me random shit and I hated it. We go to the movies, I need to go to Target because I need some medicine and she walks out with a watch for me as a gift. Why do I need a watch? I have a watch and a cell phone already. Then the next day she buys me a hat. I can't stand people who try to buy someone's love.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 12, 2011, 02:02:34 PM

Maybe this whole online dating thing is just unnatural, superficial and too mechanical.

Likes and dislikes or even looks dont mean nothing if the real chemistry is not there and vice versa.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 02:03:30 PM

There are definitely things I could be doing differently and better in future situations with other girls. My goal is to broken fuck up by broken fuck up figure out what I'm could do better next time.

For instance I've never gone straight to dating -> relationship. Every girl I've dated, I've started as friends because I like to just talk to them like my guy friends and get to know them and then maybe something relationship-y forms from that. I literally do-not-know how to flirt with someone -> go on a date, without the friendish conversationing between the two.

Then again I just don't know how to flirt. Period. Never learned, don't know where to pick it up. I have no "opening lines" (which makes it tough for opening messages to strangers online, or walking up to a girl at a bar), instead I just talk about stuff and see how they respond.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 02:07:52 PM

That's never happened to me though :X And if I do nothing and live my life figuring something like that will happen...I'll be 60 and still posting in this thread :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 02:13:56 PM

I know, I'm just saying I've never looked at a girl's eyes where it's been clear that she's interested. Maybe I just don't recognize it! Would make things easier because then I could just put myself out in the world, and strike up a conversation with people who give off an interested vibe.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 12, 2011, 02:15:11 PM

Women aren't interested innate. You have to MAKE them interested.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 02:17:14 PM

Even before you converse with them? Yeah I don't understand how you do that.

I like to think it's my conversational whimsy that gets people interested in me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Fresh Prince on August 12, 2011, 02:19:49 PM

Not necessarily, himu. Every guy has their signs but as Spencer said direct eye contact, looking lost is another, straightening hair with her hand.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 12, 2011, 02:23:39 PM

Well, of course. But I'm just saying. Don't sweat the small details. Not every woman is going to be interested.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 12, 2011, 02:24:54 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 12, 2011, 02:15:11 PM

Women aren't interested innate. You have to MAKE them interested.

What? That's not true at all.

Also, for most guys there are no "opening lines". Very few guys can pull off opening lines without looking like dbags. Work with what's available. I'm good at making jokes in person so I usually start off by making a joke about something around us and depending on how she responds I either drop it or proceed. In fact, I even do it now on accident.

My wife told me a few years back that I do it with every woman I meet whether it be a girl at the register, waitress or another girl in line. I didn't believe her so she made me ask my friends and they all agreed I'm a big flirt. I don't mean to. It's just kinda second nature now. Just stop being so worried about "saying the right thing" and talk to them like they're human. They're not going to scream "rape" or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 12, 2011, 02:25:44 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 02:17:14 PM

Even before you converse with them? Yeah I don't understand how you do that.

Body language, eye contact, standing firm and confident, smile. When you do eye contact, don't stare. Just glare, not like a creepo, but intensively. Do not blink. Smile. Then walk up to her and strike a conversation.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 12, 2011, 02:26:39 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 12, 2011, 02:24:54 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 12, 2011, 02:15:11 PM
Women aren't interested innate. You have to MAKE them interested.
What? That's not true at all.

Also, for most guys there are no "opening lines". Very few guys can pull off opening lines without looking like dbags. Work with what's available. I'm good at making jokes in person so I usually start off by making a joke about something around us and depending on how she responds I either drop it or proceed.

I mostly meant that hoping she's interested isn't going to get you far if you're not willing to make her interested.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 12, 2011, 02:27:31 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 12, 2011, 02:26:39 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 12, 2011, 02:24:54 PM
Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 12, 2011, 02:15:11 PM
Women aren't interested innate. You have to MAKE them interested.
What? That's not true at all.

Also, for most guys there are no "opening lines". Very few guys can pull off opening lines without looking like dbags. Work with what's available. I'm good at making jokes in person so I usually start off by making a joke about something around us and depending on how she responds I either drop it or proceed.

I mostly meant that hoping she's interested isn't going to get you far if you're not willing to make her interested.

ah. ok gotcha.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 12, 2011, 02:30:24 PM

"Lines" are cheesy. Usually there will be something that can create a common link. Maybe she's got a book. Ask her about it. Maybe she's got a drink? Talk to her about it. Is she beautiful? Take up an act and make fun of dudes who try to get with beautiful women on a daily basis by sucking up to her and kissing her ass. Get her to laugh. There are no rules. Just work with what you got, it takes practice.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 12, 2011, 02:40:24 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 11, 2011, 11:49:56 PM

RPGs are the best medicine for a broken heart. Stat stat statting is rewarding, engrossing, and the stories are great escapism.

I need to rpg for a little before I get back to the dating scene ;_;

If you don't like someone dating is easy because when you drop them it doesn't hurt.
If you like someone then you are fuuucked when they drop you

But what's the point of dating someone you don't like?

Really? I had so much trouble finishing Lost Odyssey after a girl I was dating dumped me. :-\

I have relationship issues and am kind of at a standstill as to WTF I do. My girlfriend just turned 30 but doesn't really have much in the way of motivation... she works at a small company where she doesn't make a lot of money, doesn't have a lot of cash in savings, doesn't have a car, and is held back by her deadbeat family. But she always makes excuses whenever I suggest stuff like "go back to grad school" or "why not apply for some more jobs"? My mom is one of those overbearing Italian mothers, and she's constantly saying to me "you're so handsome, you have a great job, you can do sooooo much better... this girl is not gonna change, don't you get it?"

I think she's a good and extremely genuine person, she kinda "gets" me and puts up with my love of offbeat music and gaming, but I'm getting miffed at her lack of interest in self-improvement... in the 1.5 years since we started dating, I:

-took the Dale Carnegie Course to improve my social skills/public speaking/confidence
-signed up to have a mentor at work, to help give me career guidance (I am kinda lazy too and want to work on that)
-started learning XNA development
-learning how to cook decently
-bought a townhouse in one of the most expensive regions to live in

so I am trying as best as possible to help fix my flaws. I just wish she would meet me halfway.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 12, 2011, 02:42:10 PM

:bow Tiesto :bow2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 03:32:32 PM

Yeah it sounds like you're doing the right thing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 12, 2011, 03:50:02 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on August 12, 2011, 01:19:18 PM

never in my entire dating history did i make anything even approximating the sort of absurd romantic gestures you're making. in fact, it would have seemed pretty creepo if i did! DEPENDENT MUCH? my more astute dates might have asked

Yup, I don't think I've ever done anything more romantic while still in the dating stages than give a girl a burned CD with one of my DJ mixes on it. Bebpo, as much as I'm weary of that whole "pussy on the pedestal" and internet pick-up-artist alpha male stuff... I think it's possible you can take a bit from it. Don't come across as needy and desperate, make it seem like you have your own shit going on, and don't be afraid to leave the girls hanging a bit/break off plans before they can.

Instead of looking how film characters get the women, look at friends/family who are successful with women and what you can learn from them... or even look at those who are unsuccessful with women, you can learn a lot what NOT to do.

And for "opening lines"... don't use them, they are cheesy, especially that Mystery open-with-a-neg crap like "nice nails, are they real?". Comment on something going on in your environment, or something you've noticed about the person (like a book they are reading)... I have a rather awkward and space-cadet friend, who gets mad phone #s, simply because he opens with real obvious situational stuff. He is Jewish and he was at a singles event on Passover, said to the girl "are you hungry since we are supposed to fast today?", and eventually got her #. Going up to girls and starting conversation is something that the majority of men don't do, so you already have an advantage. And if the girl likes something about you, it won't matter what you open with (provided it's not something insulting or racist lol).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: EmCeeGrammar on August 12, 2011, 04:13:18 PM

I don't see why it has to be so complicated. Unless you're an uggo who don't want uggo it ain't THAT hard to interface with girls. Then again I'm pretty good at being tactfully honest, even so much as not being ashamed of my various neurosi enough to be open about my irrational emotions from time to time. They're always good for a laugh.
Its almost like some are searching for some dating catchall the same way they would try to master a vidyagame or some shit.

I think its as easy as finding someone who likes to waste time and enjoy life in some of the same ways you do. Pursuing self-improvement for the sake of alterior motives comes off as narcissitic and deemphasises the ideal of being a problem oriented person, as opposed to a self-centered ninny. Said ninnys are usually not happy or confident people.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Fresh Prince on August 12, 2011, 04:17:03 PM

Quote from: EmCeeGrammar on August 12, 2011, 04:13:18 PM

I think its as easy as finding someone who likes to waste time and enjoy life in some of the same ways you do. Pursuing self-improvement for the sake of alterior motives comes off as narcissitic and deemphasises the ideal of being a problem oriented person, as opposed to a self-centered ninny. Said ninnys are usually not happy or confident people.

I'm trying to make sense of this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: EmCeeGrammar on August 12, 2011, 04:23:58 PM

Its more of an attitude thing. Is someone going to school because of an aspirational fantasy or because what field they are shooting for will have tangible benefits in the long run. I.e., why DO people major in sociology? Does one need a mortgage on a three bedroom home for practical reasons or is it subconciously being used as a status symbol? Its often a fine line.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on August 12, 2011, 04:25:58 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 02:03:30 PM

There are definitely things I could be doing differently and better in future situations with other girls. My goal is to broken fuck up by broken fuck up figure out what I'm could do better next time.

For instance I've never gone straight to dating -> relationship. Every girl I've dated, I've started as friends because I like to just talk to them like my guy friends and get to know them and then maybe something relationship-y forms from that. I literally do-not-know how to flirt with someone -> go on a date, without the friendish conversationing between the two.

Then again I just don't know how to flirt. Period. Never learned, don't know where to pick it up. I have no "opening lines" (which makes it tough for opening messages to strangers online, or walking up to a girl at a bar), instead I just talk about stuff and see how they respond.

that may just be what you need...some break ups to chill you out. Sounds counter-intuitive, but after a few failed attempts, you'll go from "woe is me" to "you're missing out on this fat lawyer money, biatch." (yeah, we both know lawyering has lost much of its prestige and value, but random girls still think it's a legitimate profession.)

flirting is really nothing. There are no lines or anything. it's basically just cracking double entendres or innuendos and laughing about it. Look for smiles and hair-twirling, those are like "START FLIRTING NOW" signs (or at least, signs that you're doing fine.)

i'm the same way with girls. The "straight into dating/fucking" stuff is just clumsy to me, because then you have to backtrack and be like "whelp, we fucked, so lets see if we actually like each other via conversation." Not to mention, dates with girls you don't know can feel like job interviews. Maybe that's just hoity-toity professional girls in chicago. regardless, huuuuge turn off.

side rant about chicago girls: the great part is that I have everything they want- money, security, a future, and I do want to have children. So many girls in chicago think they've already got everything and that the guy has to prove his worth to them...NOPE.jpg.

Had to dip into pools outside the U.S. because lennedsay is already married, so there are no good women left in the U.S. (just joking!!!)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Fresh Prince on August 12, 2011, 04:28:39 PM

Not it was more like the alternatives, 'narcisstic' and 'self centered ninny' are practically the same thing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on August 12, 2011, 04:29:19 PM

Quote from: EmCeeGrammar on August 12, 2011, 04:23:58 PM

why DO people major in sociology?

I fantasized of a life studying weird subcultures and their contexts within the societies they spring from. but the field is so politically...polluted. So if you don't want to study something that only serves to prove a leftist ideal, you're looked at as some kind of goof off who doesn't know where he should be.

Anthropology probably would have been the better option.

i'm not even too sure of why sociology exists. it's the black sheep of social sciences, I think.

yeah, I know you had a different point, but i answered literally :pimp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 12, 2011, 06:54:28 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 01:39:08 PM

Hmmm, maybe I rush things a bit much. I've always felt the romance-y gestures were what you do pre-relationship because that's when it's all new and exciting to both people. From my few relationship experiences, once I actually get in a stable relationship, much of the fun and excitement and romance dies away because you start to know everything about each other and the mystery is gone.

And yes, it's true I learned everything I know about romance and dating from hollywood because uh, when you grow up, where else are you supposed to learn it? I see how the heroes do things in film and get inspired to be like them.

Practice on your own. Date. A lot. And talk to other real humans who date. A lot.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Fresh Prince on August 12, 2011, 07:08:00 PM

Isn't the problem that everybody he knows outside work\family is from the internet?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 07:25:59 PM

Yeah, I am talking to people who date a lot: You guys! :)

I don't really have anyone to talk to in person. I have a very small circle of IRL friends who are all busy with their own gfs/jobs and I don't see them often and I have no co-workers or soccer club or college buddies to talk to. I have uh, me, myself, I, my EB buddies, and duckroll who lives in Singapore but we talk 24/7 and he's not really a women advice help person because of the whole culture over there being so different.

I actually was a lot more social and conversational and good in groups in real life back when I was teen and worked minimum wage jobs with random strangers-who-became-buddies co-workers and had my high school hang out groups. I was always surrounded by people and laughs and it kept me social. After college, it was like 10 years of anti-social withdrawal from real life interactions and over the last 3 months I've started working to reverse all the negative damage it did, but it's going to take a while and I'm just slowly becoming sociable again.

I see it coming down to two ways here:

#1 - I'm a happy, emotionally stable person who is productive, creative, and gets along well with all his guy friends; I have lots of fun in life, play games, watch movies, talk with friends; go on adventures; etc... Basically a life I enjoy.............when I turn off women completely and don't even give a second thought to girls, relationships and love. I tend to fall back into this for long periods of time because it's easy to just ignore the entire female population and enjoy an independant solo life of enjoyment.

#2 - Instead of giving up, I finally decide I've had enough of pussyfooting around in the dating scene where I dip my toes in, get burned, and then retreat for a few years and repeat again; and that since I'm turning fucking 30, it's finally time for me to keep at it, never relent, treat it like a job and put the real effort in to meeting lots and lots and lots and lots and lots of women until I get comfortable interacting with them and then maybe at that point 3/6/9/12 months down the line I'll be ready to actually date someone. I'm willing to go this route but god, it would be SO MUCH EASIER if I had a single person to do this with, you know, a guy wingman who would go to places with me and give me some support in making those first approaches until I finally get comfortable and over my anxiety. It's probably BETTER if I just do it alone because it takes massive cahones and if I force myself to do it a bunch it'll build those up much more quickly, but it's just going to be fucking hard. I've read the trick is to go up to 100 girls, 5 girls a day and just start conversations with them, and by the time you've done that 100 times you'll be able to do it normally when you see an attractive girl. I want to do this, maybe tonight I'll go out and try to talk to 5 girls at a starbucks (not all in the same starbucks of course). I think in general, online is a dead end and I'd like to check out meeting people in real life and see how that goes instead.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Fresh Prince on August 12, 2011, 07:46:58 PM

#1 + prostitutes is a valid lifestyle option

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 08:10:59 PM

But I don't need the physical interaction! So it'd just be a waste of money. Would rather wank and be solo than fuck random girls and be solo.

What I like out of the female kind is someone to hug, to spend time out with on a Saturday night, to be able to go to the movies with so you have someone to talk about the film afterwards with. To cuddle while watching netflix streaming. To go to concerts with. Basically since all my guys friends have moved on and I don't have any to do this stuff with I want a girl who will be a best friend and we can do stuff together.

I'm not going to get that out of prostitutes, one night stands, or possibly people I pick up at a bar. I don't need to have that stuff either, just if I am going to put any effort in for a relationship, that is what I want out of it. I want the high school stuff, holding hands, hugging, kissing; don't really care about the adult stuff like sex, I mean I can hold my own on that and make the girl quite happy but it doesn't do much for me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Fresh Prince on August 12, 2011, 08:23:22 PM

But Bebpo you're talking about the oh god help me 'the first flourishes of love' not the nitty gritty of love and relationships. That stuff your talking about it rarely lasts forever. But you're right there's no point helping you unless you grow up and have realistic expectations of an adult relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 12, 2011, 08:27:33 PM

The thing with a dude who just oozes desperation is that it scares away the normal women and attracts the manipulative women who sees you as easy prey to exploit to their benefit.

Bebpuu~ reminds me a lot of my virginal self in the sense that I'd overanalyze everything that a woman said to me. I'd break down her body language, what she said, how she said it, etc. and then try to interpret it. I'm not saying her body language and whatnot isn't important but I wound up tangling myself in a self made web of bullshit that cost me pussy every time until I was 19, when I said "fuck it." Being incredibly self conscious due to me being a fat ass had a lot to do with it, in hindsight. You just have to stop being so self conscious and stop judging your love life based on movies or anime. It will only lead to a string of shitty relationships. The same goes to women who model their lives on Sex and the City or Twilight; they're never happy about their love lives because they're comparing it to fiction. If I set a metric of my romantic relationships off of George Clooney, I'd be damn near suicidal because I know I couldn't never buy a woman her own island. Instead, I have to reframe my standards as a middle class dode living in the midwest.

Quote

why DO people major in sociology?

It's a major that lets people cruise the bars 3-5 nights a week.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on August 12, 2011, 08:38:12 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on August 12, 2011, 08:27:33 PM

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why DO people major in sociology?

It's a major that lets people cruise the bars 3-5 nights a week.

It's a trade off-- either a future or 4 years of cruising bars 3-5 nights a week.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on August 12, 2011, 08:42:05 PM

Oh Don... :-*

Just random thoughts on dating from a biological female...

Most girls want a guy who can and will gently keep them in check. All the guys I've really dated were either the "sensitive type" or complete assholes. The "sensitive" ones gave into everything I wanted (or what they thought I wanted), and when it was time for dinner, I'd ask where they'd want to go, and it was always, "Well, where ever you want to go!" No, tell me what you want like a grown up, or at least pose the question "hmmm... Chinese or seafood?" Don't be some wussy boy ready to go eat dog shit if I told you to. If my husband asks me where I want to go, I'll tell him I'm down for whatever, but here are my top picks. He does the same. None of this pussyfooting around about daily activities.

As far as gifts and gestures.... There's a fine line between cute/romantic and plain creepy. Cute/romantic = surprising with things that I want or need. Today, my husband had a half day. Did he go home? Nooooo he went and got food he knew I'd been craving all week, then picked me up from work for lunch, and we went to the park to eat. Was it fancy? No, it was fucking Chick-fil-A! But he knows I want to go for lunch sometimes and it's just far enough from work to deter me from going there. I needed food and I wanted Chick-fil-A, so it fulfilled requirements for cute/romantic. However, a guy you're not with writing a song about you and singing it to you or posting it online? Creepy. I'm sure some girls would be swooned, but the general consensus is that too much work for someone you're not actually with is creepy. With that said, I knew my husband lived in a house with all guys and only ate fast food when I met him, so our second or third date, I brought him and his roommates homemade gooey butter cake. Apparently those boys had a conversation over that gooey butter cake that he would marry me someday. But that's different, because good guys want a good wifey. And at that age, most girls they knew were just into getting drunk and being stupid. But if a guy brought me baked goods? I don't know about all that. Maybe if he cooked for me, or if we baked cookies together. But imagining a guy at home in his frilly apron is a bit much for me. (Sorry Bebpo) Plus there's something about cooking with someone... you really learn a lot about them, and either it's fun or it's unbearable.

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Post by: Himu on August 12, 2011, 08:54:06 PM

What about inviting her over and cooking for her. No apron.

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Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 08:55:44 PM

Quote from: Fresh Prince on August 12, 2011, 08:23:22 PM

But Bebpo you're talking about the oh god help me 'the first flourishes of love' not the nitty gritty of love and relationships. That stuff your talking about it rarely lasts forever. But you're right there's no point helping you unless you grow up and have realistic expectations of an adult relationship.

So what you're saying is I have to put up with weeks/months early on of flirting and dinner and sex to get to the point where I can have someone to cuddle with and hug and be all sappy cute with?

I get what you're saying, but it just feels like so much effort and time just to have someone to care about.

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Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 08:57:59 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 12, 2011, 08:54:06 PM

What about inviting her over and cooking for her. No apron.

See the other thing is that I am not vulgar at all, yet girls I talk to are always like bringing up vulgar jokes or dirty talk and I just....can't do it. I don't even curse around women. I open doors for them and let them order first. I can't see myself ever making a penis joke or saying the word vagina/cock in the company of a woman. It just feels...dirty.

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Post by: Himu on August 12, 2011, 08:58:36 PM

???

It sounds like you want a kitty cat, bebpo

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 12, 2011, 09:05:05 PM

That's it. I don't usually ignore people but you're special.

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Post by: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 09:06:54 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 12, 2011, 08:58:36 PM

???

It sounds like you want a kitty cat, bebpo

*edit* I realized how stupid that sounded.

I just want a normal relationship. I don't know what they are necessarily, but I'd like to try one. I wouldn't call my past relationships normal.

Quote from: Fresh Prince on August 12, 2011, 09:05:05 PM

That's it. I don't usually ignore people but you're special.

Sorry I offended you? You guys pose me questions and I try to answer them. I'm not trying to be mean or anything and I take people's advice.

You said:

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unless you grow up and have realistic expectations of an adult relationship.

Sounds good to me, but I don't know what those are. Can someone tell me what is a realistic expectation of an adult relationship? I don't have any frame of reference because I've never been in one. There sort of this idea here, that since this is a forum of adult intelligent people, that it's common sense how relationships are; but as someone who was off the dating scene for a decade where most everyone WAS getting their dating experience, I lack this common knowledge.

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Post by: lennedsay on August 12, 2011, 10:46:52 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 12, 2011, 08:54:06 PM

What about inviting her over and cooking for her. No apron.

Also no pants, and it's good :-*

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Post by: CrystalGemini on August 12, 2011, 11:39:04 PM

Quote from: Wrath2X on August 12, 2011, 11:18:12 PM

I've learned that all girls want different things(I know crazy right!) but that's after the initial getting to know each other period.

This. Everybody's different. There really isn't any one formula for getting that "perfect" partner. Relationships have a flow of their own whether they are romantic or not. Don't over-think it. It shows.

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 12, 2011, 11:44:26 PM

All women want the same thing.

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Post by: CrystalGemini on August 13, 2011, 12:05:36 AM

Aw. I wouldn't say that. Again every PERSON is different. Like lennedsay doesn't like men baking for her but it's definitely not something I mind. etiolate cooks and bakes for me and vice versa. But that's just the way our relationship is built and every relationship is built differently.

Think about how your relationship with your best friend (and in the same way, not everybody HAS a best friend). It's not something that can be attained by force.

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Post by: E-DuB on August 13, 2011, 12:19:07 AM

In a relationship for the past year and a half. Things are good. Could see myself marrying her. The sex is great too.

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 13, 2011, 12:47:12 AM

It was a joke. Anyway seeing 40-50 year olds (male and female) married 3/4 times and the jaded, bitter people they become has sort of ruined the concept of marriage for me.

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Post by: Trent Dole on August 13, 2011, 12:49:55 AM

Quote from: Fresh Prince on August 13, 2011, 12:47:12 AM

It was a joke. Anyway seeing 40-50 year olds (male and female) married 3/4 times and the jaded, bitter people they become has sort of ruined the concept of marriage for me.

Well they're idiot multi-time failures, of course they're going to be bitter. Shit's a dice roll - half of them don't work out. Doesn't mean it's not worth playing the game. :-*

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 13, 2011, 12:57:45 AM

I wouldn't say that, a few of them were 'good' people.

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Post by: CrystalGemini on August 13, 2011, 01:52:55 AM

It doesn't matter how "good" of a person you are. If you're not honest about yourself in the relationship it will not work out regardless of how well the relationship was before marriage. Two people playing their roles (ie using said formulas to date) will know no more about each other going into marriage than acquaintances. The courtship becomes an act on both sides because of social expectations you both choose to accept.

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 13, 2011, 02:23:13 AM

'Good' as in as far as they seemed (outside their views on the opposite sex) emotionally intelligent at work. I think they went through a lot of shit to become that understanding. Seeing people in their 30s doing what you just highlighted sort of brought it home. A guy in his 30s in all earnestly just told me, 'You're Indian. You should just get an arranged marriage. ----- got one. It's all the same in the end. There's less trouble- no chasing around. In the end there is no 'one' you just settle for what you get'. But he was sort of a lazy fuck.
I respect people who get married and have kids. Or the person (note I didn't say people) who gets married out of naive love. I don't really respect people who get married just to move onto the next phase of life or become scared of living/dying alone. The latter happens far more than people would admit.

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Post by: Human Snorenado on August 13, 2011, 02:43:48 AM

Bebpo, your main problem in life is that you're a (I'm assuming on the age here) 30 year old lawyer who fucking cosplays. Of course you don't know shit about women. If you did, you'd know you gotta play it like Fonzie... and what's Fonzie like, motherfuckers? That's right. Fonzie is COOL. Fonzie isn't gonna be all over some girl within the first couple of weeks/months of dating her. No, he's gonna say "Heeeeeyyyy" a lot and occasionally be unavailable. That and a motorcycle will make her want to fuck him; you dressing like a fey woman-man-thing just doesn't have the same draw, I'm afraid.

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Post by: Human Snorenado on August 13, 2011, 02:48:04 AM

As for me personally, I'm kind of starting over in life- going back to school and shit, and my hobbies are all super man nerdy shit, so I don't have a lot of exposure to chicks my own age and plus I don't want to put up with anyone else's bullshit in my life right now so I can't really be arsed into trying to get laid. I just don't care, honestly. This is what happens when you hit your mid 30's, boys. It sucks.

My main problem with women, honestly tho, is the whole kids thing. I don't care what any of you who have them say- those things are unnatural soul sucking messes with feet whose only purpose is to make people miserable and not live for themselves. You think it's a coincidence KIDS and AIDS are one letter off? No sir. AIDS will at least kill you, KIDS lingers forever. And women totally get the shittier end of the deal when it comes to kids and STILL they insist on having the little fuckers. I don't get you, ladies.

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Post by: CrystalGemini on August 13, 2011, 02:59:58 AM

All my close female friends are opposed to marriage, kids, or both. I really don't know where you guys are getting these ideas from. :P

There are plenty of women out there that don't fall into that stereotypical mold.

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 13, 2011, 03:05:03 AM

Old people!

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Post by: Barry Egan on August 13, 2011, 03:05:43 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 08:55:44 PM

Quote from: Fresh Prince on August 12, 2011, 08:23:22 PM
But Bebpo you're talking about the oh god help me 'the first flourishes of love' not the nitty gritty of love and relationships. That stuff your talking about it rarely lasts forever. But you're right there's no point helping you unless you grow up and have realistic expectations of an adult relationship.

So what you're saying is I have to put up with weeks/months early on of flirting and dinner and sex to get to the point where I can have someone to cuddle with and hug and be all sappy cute with?

I get what you're saying, but it just feels like so much effort and time just to have someone to care about.

See, this is where a therapist might ask you what your family life was like at home that made you foster an association between a serious, undramatic relationship and boring drudgery, or why you need affection to be flowing out of your significant other in a contestant unwavering stream. Nobody on this forum really has the patience to get in to that stuff with you in depth because it goes beyond the threshold of "entertaining way to kill some time on the internet". If you paid someone some of your big lawyer bux though, they might actually help you connect some of these dots. You just seem like you've had a lot of confusing messages In your life about what a relationship should be from a young age.

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Post by: Barry Egan on August 13, 2011, 03:08:10 AM

Wow my iPad really butchered that post smh.

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 13, 2011, 03:09:35 AM

I just realised I sound like Dr Cox and Bebpo is J.D. :'(

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Post by: Human Snorenado on August 13, 2011, 03:10:07 AM

Bebpo, if you go see a therapist, make sure you tell them about the cosplaying, and show them pics too. I personally would proscribe killing a deer with your bare hands to get over that shit.

And cg- that's awesome for you, but here in the South women are more traditional, stupid and lame and thus more likely to want to have those little fucking things clutching at their skirts and shit. Two of my exes just had kids, and one of them was seriously awesome enough to stay with if she wasn't always bringing up the "I want kids!" bullshit.

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 13, 2011, 03:12:12 AM

CG are these friends Asian? Or did they go to a liberal college like Berkley?

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Post by: etiolate on August 13, 2011, 03:19:47 AM

One is Asian :shh

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Post by: CrystalGemini on August 13, 2011, 03:21:31 AM

None of them went to Berkeley. I don't see how going to Berkeley has anything to do with this. Plenty of liberal and conservative people that go to that school...

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Post by: Himu on August 13, 2011, 03:28:05 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 13, 2011, 03:10:07 AM

Bebpo, if you go see a therapist, make sure you tell them about the cosplaying, and show them pics too. I personally would proscribe killing a deer with your bare hands to get over that shit.

And cg- that's awesome for you, but here in the South women are more traditional, stupid and lame and thus more likely to want to have those little fucking things clutching at their skirts and shit. Two of my exes just had kids, and one of them was seriously awesome enough to stay with if she wasn't always bringing up the "I want kids!" bullshit.

Your problem right here buddy :(

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 13, 2011, 03:36:30 AM

Oh I thought Berkley was liberal.

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Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 13, 2011, 03:42:14 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 13, 2011, 02:43:48 AM

Bebpo, your main problem in life is that you're a (I'm assuming on the age here) 30 year old lawyer who fucking cosplays. Of course you don't know shit about women. If you did, you'd know you gotta play it like Fonzie... and what's Fonzie like, motherfuckers? That's right. Fonzie is COOL. Fonzie isn't gonna be all over some girl within the first couple of weeks/months of dating her. No, he's gonna say "Heeeeeyyyy" a lot and occasionally be unavailable. That and a motorcycle will make her want to fuck him; you dressing like a fey woman-man-thing just doesn't have the same draw, I'm afraid.

Its good to see that Fonzie can still be used as an example in 2011!

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Post by: etiolate on August 13, 2011, 03:45:07 AM

berkeley is liberal but its also got a lot of conservative law students

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 13, 2011, 03:48:24 AM

I think California, I think liberal. I think world renown university in America not called Harvard, I think liberal. Hence I hear of a world renown university in California, I think wow that place must be liberal^2.

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Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 13, 2011, 04:09:28 AM

Bebpo the impression I get is that you just need more human interaction irl, hang out with dudes etc.

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Post by: chronovore on August 13, 2011, 04:34:48 AM

Quote from: Fresh Prince on August 13, 2011, 03:36:30 AM

Oh I thought Berkley was liberal.

Berkeley used to be liberal. Now it's faux liberal.

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Post by: CrystalGemini on August 13, 2011, 05:01:21 AM

It's the place all Asian high-schoolers aspire to go to because it's a "good college" regardless of what their actual interests are.

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Post by: BlackMage on August 13, 2011, 08:08:50 PM

I'm staying away from this god damn thread :maf

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 13, 2011, 10:00:35 PM

Yes stay away. So far the most contentious issue is whether Berkley is liberal.

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Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 13, 2011, 10:40:56 PM

never been in a relationship 8)

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Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 13, 2011, 10:46:37 PM

it's ANNIVERSARY DAY for prole. 14 years with MISSUS PROLE. why she hasn't slipped arsenic into my beverage remains unknown.

here's how we met: she was hanging out in my dorm room with her sister and a bunch of my pals. i thought she was mega-cute, but i was bein' my usual pompous, absorbed self because that's what i do. i said "fools, i am going to go to best buy. who's in?" she and the dorm goober said "yes." here's what i did NOT do: act cutesey, or clever, or smarty, or anything other than myself as i act around my friends -- because at that point in my schizophrenic dating existence, i did not care to feign any other persona than my comfortable mildly misanthropic, slightly combative one. also i wanted a new hard drive. i talked to her as i would any new-ish person to my circle: friendly, a little standoffish and dismissive, and fakely apologetic for my naughty, naughty language. the goober was crushing on her and sucking up, and it was creepy, so i riffed on him a fair bit, wanting him to stop NOT because i cared if he somehow succeeded, but because it was PAINFUL -- and it looked like it was painful to her, too. we came back, i ignored her and talked shop. a week later, her sister asked me what i thought of her, and i said "hot" and she said "she's interested in you" and i approached her and dating and then a year later MARRIAGE and HAW HAW FOURTEEN YEARS, BOY DID SHE GET CHUMPED.

i'm just kiddin'. it's been a great fourteen years <3 <3 <3 mrs. prole <3 <3 <3

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 13, 2011, 10:48:35 PM

BUT THEN YOU HAD A CHILD

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Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 13, 2011, 10:51:09 PM

:fbm

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Post by: Himu on August 13, 2011, 10:52:48 PM

for the record, prole's facebook posts on his daughter make really want to be a father some day

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 13, 2011, 10:55:37 PM

I'M SURE SHE'LL TAKE AFTER HER MOTHER. CONGRATULATIONS ON 14 YEARS MR & MRS PROLE

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 13, 2011, 10:58:42 PM

Did you make a hard drive/floppy joke?

Sometimes I think I'll get married by some women who is smarter than I am. Then we will have a daughter that is smarter than both of us and argue her way out of anything. And a son who wants to do something stupid like be a poet. Then I think that can't happen.

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Post by: Human Snorenado on August 14, 2011, 03:07:10 AM

I have yet to meet a woman smarter than I am.

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 14, 2011, 03:18:30 AM

I went on a date and was told I only needed to see Inception only once because I was that smart. Can you beat that?

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Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 14, 2011, 05:39:08 AM

Congrats Prole!

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 13, 2011, 10:52:48 PM

for the record, prole's facebook posts on his daughter make really want to be a father some day

Have to agree here. Prole has the best posts about his kid, partly because he knows how to right and partly because there is something to write about.

Some of the other kid posts on my FB make me cringe.

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Post by: BlackMage on August 14, 2011, 08:33:59 AM

Prole never accepted my friend request so fuck yall

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Post by: tiesto on August 14, 2011, 11:04:18 AM

Quote from: mojovonio on August 14, 2011, 09:57:18 AM

Met a girl, she seems really cool. Fucking cute too. But she's a bit of a weeboo.

I may be on the market again soon, so in that case, send her my way :P

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Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 14, 2011, 11:48:08 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on August 14, 2011, 08:33:59 AM

Prole never accepted my friend request so fuck yall

bitch if you want me to accept you need to call out who you are on evilbore in the invite! i.e. "HEY cigarillo THIS IS BLACKMAGE"

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 14, 2011, 01:08:05 PM

That is pretty weabo but she does have nice eyes.

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Post by: BlackMage on August 14, 2011, 01:09:45 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on August 14, 2011, 11:48:08 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on August 14, 2011, 08:33:59 AM
Prole never accepted my friend request so fuck yall

bitch if you want me to accept you need to call out who you are on evilbore in the invite! i.e. "HEY cigarillo THIS IS BLACKMAGE"

I've posted pics! :maf You've probably fapped to them at one point. :-*

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Post by: BlackMage on August 14, 2011, 01:10:40 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on August 14, 2011, 12:14:49 PM

Quote from: tiesto on August 14, 2011, 11:04:18 AM
Quote from: mojovonio on August 14, 2011, 09:57:18 AM
Met a girl, she seems really cool. Fucking cute too. But she's a bit of a weeboo.

I may be on the market again soon, so in that case, send her my way :P

oh, i'm keeping her.

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ugly earrings. NEXT

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Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 14, 2011, 01:14:35 PM

looks mighty fine to me, shame about the weeaboo though

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 14, 2011, 01:18:13 PM

The west has perfectly good apple drinks, I don't understand this.

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Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 14, 2011, 03:41:46 PM

How many of those good apple drinks make you go kawaii~!! <(^_^<) <(^_^)> (>^_^)>* when you're drinking it?

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* - This is supposed to be part of the Haruhi dance :uguu

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Post by: etiolate on August 14, 2011, 05:28:27 PM

Actually, other than Martenelli's, I'm struggling to come up with good American apple drinks.

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Post by: Fresh Prince on August 14, 2011, 05:32:38 PM

That's okay she lives in Canada.

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Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 14, 2011, 08:28:25 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on August 13, 2011, 10:46:37 PM

it's ANNIVERSARY DAY for prole. 14 years with MISSUS PROLE. why she hasn't slipped arsenic into my beverage remains unknown.

here's how we met: she was hanging out in my dorm room with her sister and a bunch of my pals. i thought she was mega-cute, but i was bein' my usual pompous, absorbed self because that's what i do. i said "fools, i am going to go to best buy. who's in?" she and the dorm goober said "yes." here's what i did NOT do: act cutesey, or clever, or smarty, or anything other than myself as i act around my friends -- because at that point in my schizophrenic dating existence, i did not care to feign any other persona than my comfortable mildly misanthropic, slightly combative one. also i wanted a new hard drive. i talked to her as i would any new-ish person to my circle: friendly, a little standoffish and dismissive, and fakely apologetic for my naughty, naughty language. the goober was crushing on her and sucking up, and it was creepy, so i riffed on him a fair bit, wanting him to stop NOT because i cared if he somehow succeeded, but because it was PAINFUL -- and it looked like it was painful to her, too. we came back, i ignored her and talked shop. a week later, her sister asked me what i thought of her, and i said "hot" and she said "she's interested in you" and i approached her and dating and then a year later MARRIAGE and HAW HAW FOURTEEN YEARS, BOY DID SHE GET CHUMPED.

i'm just kiddin'. it's been a great fourteen years <3 <3 <3 mrs. prole <3 <3 <3

Day late, but congrats man!!

I too met my wife in college during sophomore year. I was hanging out with some people one night and ended up in her dorm room. Saw that she had awesome taste in movies and music and we started talking. I thought she was cool and kind of interested in her, but I was dating someone else at the time so we were just casual acquaintances. We didn't get together until after college when she was living in Seattle and I was going to graduate school 100 miles away. I ended up volunteering to take her to the airport so she could fly home to Nebraska for Thanksgiving in 2003 and I asked her on a date. We've been stuck with each other ever since.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 14, 2011, 08:38:06 PM

So who approached whom regarding pegging?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on August 14, 2011, 08:44:39 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on August 14, 2011, 11:48:08 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on August 14, 2011, 08:33:59 AM
Prole never accepted my friend request so fuck yall

bitch if you want me to accept you need to call out who you are on evilbore in the invite! i.e. "HEY cigarillo THIS IS BLACKMAGE"

I've done this with MAF and also 1-2 Bore folk, and did not get accepted. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on August 14, 2011, 08:46:23 PM

Happy anniversary!!

Ours it at the end of the month so I'm trying to come up with gift ideas. Something brewing related probably.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Fresh Prince on August 14, 2011, 08:51:37 PM

Engraved mash paddle.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on August 14, 2011, 09:06:21 PM

He rigged up a mash ton from a plastic cooler. Maybe I can engrave a brass name plate for it.

Wish I could find a kegerator or a fridge we can mod into a kegerator.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Fresh Prince on August 14, 2011, 09:10:27 PM

In Australia you can just use an old fridge and cornelius (corny) kegs- the ones used for soft drinks. Not sure how you 'muricans do it. If you buy him the equipment he should be able to put it together over a few weekends.

Not to suggest that you couldn't do it :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on August 14, 2011, 09:19:54 PM

has anyone here ever been in a chasing amy situation? it fuckin sucks

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on August 14, 2011, 09:21:03 PM

Quote from: Fresh Prince on August 14, 2011, 09:10:27 PM

In Australia you can just use an old fridge and cornelius (corny) kegs- the ones used for soft drinks. Not sure how you 'muricans do it. If you buy him the equipment he should be able to put it together over a few weekends.

Not to suggest that you couldn't do it :lol

I just wouldn't want to :lol He would enjoy putting it together far more than I ever would.

I might look into it. We have been bottling only, so we have no kegging supplies at all. He'd enjoy it though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: EmCeeGrammar on August 14, 2011, 09:22:20 PM

Quote from: lyte edge on August 14, 2011, 08:44:39 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on August 14, 2011, 11:48:08 AM
Quote from: BlackMage on August 14, 2011, 08:33:59 AM
Prole never accepted my friend request so fuck yall

bitch if you want me to accept you need to call out who you are on evilbore in the invite! i.e. "HEY cigarillo THIS IS BLACKMAGE"

I've done this with MAF and also 1-2 Bore folk, and did not get accepted. :'(

We've all seen the pictures of your nerd den.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on August 14, 2011, 09:48:04 PM

Quote from: EmCeeGrammar on August 14, 2011, 09:22:20 PM

Quote from: lyte edge on August 14, 2011, 08:44:39 PM
Quote from: Van Cruncheon on August 14, 2011, 11:48:08 AM
Quote from: BlackMage on August 14, 2011, 08:33:59 AM
Prole never accepted my friend request so fuck yall

bitch if you want me to accept you need to call out who you are on evilbore in the invite! i.e. "HEY cigarillo THIS IS BLACKMAGE"

I've done this with MAF and also 1-2 Bore folk, and did not get accepted. :'(

We've all seen the pictures of your nerd den.

I moved to an apartment. No more nerd den. :'(

spoiler (click to show/hide)

I have a smaller nerd room now.

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 16, 2011, 09:09:03 AM

Lately, I feel like my g/f has been blowing me off.. told me she had a headache Friday nite, and on Saturday she didn't want to come with me to my friend's BBQ because her aunt was in town (she was in town for the past week) and she was gonna go to the beach with her. I think I am gonna be having a "talk" very soon. :-\

Then again, this may be a good thing. Electric Zoo is in 3 weeks and what better time to be single? :rock skanky drugged-out EDM chicks :rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 16, 2011, 09:25:40 AM

Well wasn't she holding you back anyway?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on August 16, 2011, 06:15:16 PM

was it her Aunt Flo?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 16, 2011, 07:56:44 PM

Quote from: Billy Rygar on August 16, 2011, 06:44:36 PM

Married 5 years as of last month. My wife is the best. She works the real job so I can pursue my dream of being a wine importer.

Did she get her PE? I remember a while back you were saying that she was studying to take it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 18, 2011, 02:18:23 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 12, 2011, 07:25:59 PM

Yeah, I am talking to people who date a lot: You guys! :)

I don't really have anyone to talk to in person. I have a very small circle of IRL friends who are all busy with their own gfs/jobs and I don't see them often and I have no co-workers or soccer club or college buddies to talk to. I have uh, me, myself, I, my EB buddies, and duckroll who lives in Singapore but we talk 24/7 and he's not really a women advice help person because of the whole culture over there being so different.

Dude, I just checked out your sweet sailing pictures over on FB. That's a perfect place to meet people.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 18, 2011, 03:37:28 AM

We're in the process of trying to make Lil' Gundam. I hope to have some good news soon.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bildi on August 18, 2011, 04:14:17 AM

I went to lunch with a married girl today (she invited me), and I didn't even get invited to a threesome. You married people are the worst.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 18, 2011, 10:58:42 AM

Quote from: Bildi on August 18, 2011, 04:14:17 AM

I went to lunch with a married girl today (she invited me), and I didn't even get invited to a threesome. You married people are the worst.

You have been watching too much porno again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bildi on August 18, 2011, 06:20:20 PM

So..... you don't have threesomes with babysitters? Gawd, I'm never getting married.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 18, 2011, 06:48:57 PM

If you have two babysitters, you can get a threesome there, but then usually the "married" state fails soon thereafter. Apparently it's destructive to the condition.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 18, 2011, 07:35:21 PM

i'm going on a date with a girl that messaged me on okcupid. I originally didn't want to because I thought I was done with the site, but she was pretty persistent. It's like calm down baby I know everyone wants a piece of the Grandmaster B but you got be patient, ho.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 18, 2011, 08:02:27 PM

I want to just cut my losses and move on... but now she wants me to hang out with her and her sister tomorrow... I want to break up in person but not with her sis around! Also she said she had a surprise for me when I close on my house (possibly next week)... I can't take a gift or anything. Sigh...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 18, 2011, 08:03:49 PM

Wait two weeks

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 18, 2011, 08:49:31 PM

Quote from: tiesto on August 18, 2011, 08:02:27 PM

I want to just cut my losses and move on... but now she wants me to hang out with her and her sister tomorrow... I want to break up in person but not with her sis around! Also she said she had a surprise for me when I close on my house (possibly next week)... I can't take a gift or anything. Sigh...

I sorta feel bad for this girl, but you gotta do it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 18, 2011, 09:06:09 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on August 18, 2011, 08:49:31 PM

Quote from: tiesto on August 18, 2011, 08:02:27 PM
I want to just cut my losses and move on... but now she wants me to hang out with her and her sister tomorrow... I want to break up in person but not with her sis around! Also she said she had a surprise for me when I close on my house (possibly next week)... I can't take a gift or anything. Sigh...

I sorta feel bad for this girl, but you gotta do it.

I feel bad for her too, which makes it very hard. We'll see how it goes... I've broken up with girls and remained friends before so I dunno. She's a good, genuine person and I will be running into her again in the future, due to some mutual friends. So this means I'll be at a wedding next year with 2 of my exes in attendance :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bildi on August 18, 2011, 09:15:47 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on August 18, 2011, 07:35:21 PM

i'm going on a date with a girl that messaged me on okcupid. I originally didn't want to because I thought I was done with the site, but she was pretty persistent. It's like calm down baby I know everyone wants a piece of the Grandmaster B but you got be patient, ho.

What you doing for your date?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 18, 2011, 09:56:05 PM

Quote from: Bildi on August 18, 2011, 09:15:47 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on August 18, 2011, 07:35:21 PM
i'm going on a date with a girl that messaged me on okcupid. I originally didn't want to because I thought I was done with the site, but she was pretty persistent. It's like calm down baby I know everyone wants a piece of the Grandmaster B but you got be patient, ho.

What you doing for your date?

getting drinks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bildi on August 18, 2011, 11:04:59 PM

Ideal date activity. Low financial committment, relaxing activity, no shit to distract you from the fact that your date may be a total bore. Godspeed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 19, 2011, 01:03:21 AM

Have you picked out a dumpster to violate her in after the date?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 19, 2011, 01:21:52 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 19, 2011, 01:03:21 AM

Have you picked out a dumpster to violate her in after the date?

I'm waiting out behind the bar holding it for him. Can't let anyone else get their rape on before our bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 19, 2011, 10:18:51 AM

Quote from: tiesto on August 18, 2011, 09:06:09 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on August 18, 2011, 08:49:31 PM
Quote from: tiesto on August 18, 2011, 08:02:27 PM
I want to just cut my losses and move on... but now she wants me to hang out with her and her sister tomorrow... I want to break up in person but not with her sis around! Also she said she had a surprise for me when I close on my house (possibly next week)... I can't take a gift or anything. Sigh...

I sorta feel bad for this girl, but you gotta do it.

I feel bad for her too, which makes it very hard. We'll see how it goes... I've broken up with girls and remained friends before so I dunno. She's a good, genuine person and I will be running into her again in the future, due to some mutual friends. So this means I'll be at a wedding next year with 2 of my exes in attendance :-\

Straight up pimp. It will be like a Matthew Mcconaughey movie

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 20, 2011, 05:29:45 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 19, 2011, 10:18:51 AM

Straight up pimp. It will be like a Matthew Mcconaughey movie

Tiesto will have to take off his shirt at some point, then.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 20, 2011, 10:35:03 AM

Quote from: chronovore on August 20, 2011, 05:29:45 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 19, 2011, 10:18:51 AM
Straight up pimp. It will be like a Matthew Mcconaughey movie

Tiesto will have to take off his shirt at some point, then.

Looks like I better start hitting the gym then!

Had "the talk" yesterday... poor girl was in tears... I fucked up on my handling of things, I dumped like everything on her at once and she was upset about that... we are now on a "break", and she said "give me a call when you figure your shit out". I just want a clean break and to be fully single... she fought me and had a response to everything, every step of the way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on August 20, 2011, 05:47:54 PM

Live alone and wish for someone.

Live with someone and wish for more time alone to do what you want.

I've picked the one thats the least amount of work since either way id be wishing for something else anyway.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 20, 2011, 06:48:28 PM

That is some darkness, MAF.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on August 20, 2011, 07:21:27 PM

lol im gettin old- dont care anymore- have a good job, a few good friends, thats enough till I die in a freak accident

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 20, 2011, 07:33:43 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on August 20, 2011, 07:21:27 PM

lol im gettin old- dont care anymore- have a good job, a few good friends, thats enough till I die in a freak accident

MAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :o :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on August 20, 2011, 08:26:42 PM

Sup dude

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TEEEPO on August 20, 2011, 09:07:22 PM

what the

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 21, 2011, 12:23:01 AM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on August 20, 2011, 05:47:54 PM

Live alone and wish for someone.

Live with someone and wish for more time alone to do what you want.

I've picked the one thats the least amount of work since either way id be wishing for something else anyway.

Or you can live with someone and spend time with them while also doing stuff you want to do. I hang out with my wife, but I also play vidya in the basement and go out with my buddies from time to time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 21, 2011, 12:24:15 AM

you don't "wish" for someone, either. wishing gets you nothing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 21, 2011, 12:40:53 AM

I'm in a similar boat as MAF, minus the having a good job thing. I'm just really comfortable with who I am and where I'm at in life, and am excited to be going back to school. I'd rather not have to make the sacrifices that accompany a relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on August 21, 2011, 01:32:49 AM

Gundam: Hey im not judging- but a relationship is a sacrifice some may not be willing to make and you know what- thats totally ok. Not every relationship goes great, being single isnt always awesome is all im saying.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 21, 2011, 02:29:01 AM

Just got back from my date. Girl was weird man, but I was kind of attracted to her. She wasn't ugly at all but she was kind of awkward. I'd fuck her. I'm not sure what she thought of me, though. Couldn't read her at all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CrystalGemini on August 21, 2011, 02:51:44 AM

Why not ask?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 21, 2011, 11:17:02 AM

So now that we are "on a break", with the ball in my court... what do I do? I do still care about the girl and hate to see her feelings hurt... but at the same time I need to move on, she needs to move on. Do I even bother calling her back or just ignore her completely? I think she'd at least deserve some sort of closure.

Some girl formerly of Alabama gave me her # on OKCupid... I think I am gonna txt her, see about setting something up. The girl was a former Gamestop manager lol.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on August 21, 2011, 11:37:55 AM

I'd kinda let it go for awhile, give her time to accept her life without you in it, and then have some kind of closure moment. Say things like, "I want you to be happy because I care about you, but I'm not happy in a relationship right now. If this situation were reversed, I couldn't be happy knowing you weren't." bah, I forgot how awkward all this shit is. I couldn't imagine wanting to stay with someone who didn't want to be with me. If you're in a relationship and there is a difference between how much one person likes the other one, doomed.

How long has it been since you were single? Have you pretty much always been in some sort of relationship?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 21, 2011, 11:49:56 AM

Quote from: lennedsay on August 21, 2011, 11:37:55 AM

I'd kinda let it go for awhile, give her time to accept her life without you in it, and then have some kind of closure moment. Say things like, "I want you to be happy because I care about you, but I'm not happy in a relationship right now. If this situation were reversed, I couldn't be happy knowing you weren't." bah, I forgot how awkward all this shit is. I couldn't imagine wanting to stay with someone who didn't want to be with me. If you're in a relationship and there is a difference between how much one person likes the other one, doomed.

How long has it been since you were single? Have you pretty much always been in some sort of relationship?

Last time I was single was from late 2008-late 2009... Was with this girl since late 2009. I'm usually either in full-blown dating mode, if not in a relationship. Right now I feel that I'm ready to find the girl I could marry, unfortunately I couldn't really see a future with this girl :(

I like the way you say it, but when you say "a while", about how long do you mean? I don't want to keep her around with the false promise that things may get better, btw I am also her first real relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on August 21, 2011, 03:07:30 PM

Maybe a few days or a week? Long enough for her to not be able to use the excuse that maybe you just need a break. No, I didn't want to be with you last week and I've had a good week to think about it and I've made up my mind.

Yea... Don't feel bad. She was bound to get her heart broken by somebody. Most people don't marry the first guy they're with. It's all a learning experience at this point, whether she wants to admit that or not. But the fact she wants to force or shame you into staying with her proves she really knows nothing about how relationships should actually work.

Edit: If you question a future with her, you're doing the right thing. You could even tell her that it's not fair to waste her time or your's when you just don't see it going anywhere. There's probably a better way to say it, but you get my point. Also, I was the queen of, "Well I don't want to stay with someone I know isn't the one for me, but I care about you as a person, so it's better to end this now before we both resent each other and break up down the road on really bad terms."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 21, 2011, 03:11:49 PM

What was the surprise she has for you?!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 21, 2011, 07:23:55 PM

I was browsing OKCupid some more and saw a girl named Katherine on there... it's so sad but the first thing I thought of is dating her and then cheating on her with a girl named Catherine. I really gotta lay off the games :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 21, 2011, 07:29:08 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on August 21, 2011, 02:29:01 AM

Just got back from my date. Girl was weird man, but I was kind of attracted to her. She wasn't ugly at all but she was kind of awkward. I'd fuck her. I'm not sure what she thought of me, though. Couldn't read her at all.

Weird as in...how?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 21, 2011, 08:45:52 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 21, 2011, 07:29:08 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on August 21, 2011, 02:29:01 AM
Just got back from my date. Girl was weird man, but I was kind of attracted to her. She wasn't ugly at all but she was kind of awkward. I'd fuck her. I'm not sure what she thought of me, though. Couldn't read her at all.

Weird as in...how?

She enjoyed eating at the Olive Garden. Fucking degenerate, I know.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 21, 2011, 09:38:07 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 21, 2011, 07:29:08 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on August 21, 2011, 02:29:01 AM
Just got back from my date. Girl was weird man, but I was kind of attracted to her. She wasn't ugly at all but she was kind of awkward. I'd fuck her. I'm not sure what she thought of me, though. Couldn't read her at all.

Weird as in...how?

Devolution weird.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 21, 2011, 09:56:50 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on August 21, 2011, 09:38:07 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 21, 2011, 07:29:08 PM
Quote from: BlackMage on August 21, 2011, 02:29:01 AM
Just got back from my date. Girl was weird man, but I was kind of attracted to her. She wasn't ugly at all but she was kind of awkward. I'd fuck her. I'm not sure what she thought of me, though. Couldn't read her at all.

Weird as in...how?

Devolution weird.

Super liberal BBC enthusiast?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on August 23, 2011, 10:40:30 PM

A NEW DATING SITE CHALLENGER APPEARS

http://www.gk2gk.com/

Who is gonna try it out?

edit: Himu match?

http://www.gk2gk.com/members/profile.aspx?MemberId=670016&c=y

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 23, 2011, 10:57:27 PM

Why do you say Himu Watch when I haven't posted one lick of me cosplaying and only have a tiny interest in anime despite the fact the dude in question is white and only a high school graduate?

if anything, it's Rumbler.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 23, 2011, 11:02:51 PM

i didn't know texas only had gay people. thankfully we found him on the internet so we can get rid of him.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Trent Dole on August 23, 2011, 11:13:38 PM

Haha, one of my friends from TX is gay and another is Bi...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 23, 2011, 11:55:20 PM

He's probably ugly and not cute

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on August 24, 2011, 12:20:46 AM

http://www.gk2gk.com/members/profile.aspx?MemberId=694409&c=y

libertarian okami rush my little pony

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 24, 2011, 02:31:35 AM

nm. Shouldn't even talk about positive things in the open.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 24, 2011, 03:36:18 AM

geek2geek LOL

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 24, 2011, 04:50:35 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 24, 2011, 02:31:35 AM

nm. Shouldn't even talk about positive things in the open.

We want positive stories. Positive healthy relationship stories. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other
Post by: Barry Egan on August 24, 2011, 06:52:29 AM

It's probably only positive within the bebpo distortion field and he knows it :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 24, 2011, 09:24:36 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 23, 2011, 11:02:51 PM

i didn't know texas only had gay people. thankfully we found him on the internet so we can get rid of him.

Only steers and queers come from Texas, Private Cowboy and you don't look like a steer to me so that pretty much narrows it down.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 25, 2011, 01:57:02 AM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on August 24, 2011, 04:50:35 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 24, 2011, 02:31:35 AM
nm. Shouldn't even talk about positive things in the open.

We want positive stories. Positive healthy relationship stories. :)

Well, after the total fuckup trainwreck of the last attempt at dating (I did figure out exactly what was going on there, and I want no part of it). I attempted to grow some balls, stop being a manchild, and act like a mature adult dater. So in the last couple of weeks I've met about 6/7 girls, gone on dates with about 3 new ones, including second dates, have first dates arranged for 2 others, and will see what's going on with the remaining. The more I talk to girls and go on dates the more comfortable I get at both and now, I dunno if it's the weather/time of year, or my profile is just really attractive, or I've just learned how to actually communicate with women without coming off as weird, but I'm getting responses from everyone I message and girls are even contacting me first, like I just got this message from someone who I messaged 2 months ago and they were like "I'm sooo sorry I took so long, I thought I'd replied but saw I hadn't". So right now I'm juggling e-mails, texts, dates with a half-dozen girls at once and it's weird, but I think it's a good thing because I'm feeling fairly content, confident, and not depressed over trainwreck girl anymore. It's also good because I'm getting stuff DONE at work now, whereas when I was in depression from this past girl I was really depressed and it was hard to work during the day.

Dunno if any of these girls will end up as relationships, but just taking them a date at a time and if they are interesting (aka, we actually have stuff to talk about) and they are attractive to me, then maybe I'll be game for "going out". Out of all the girls, there are a definitely a few who meet those criteria, one who doesn't and I probably need to cutoff, and since I haven't met a few in person I've yet to see how it goes.

Also there is something weird about this adult dating where you can kiss more than one girl at a time. Like back in high school if you made out with a girl and she liked you and then the next day you made out with a different girl, you'd be called a slut and it'd be like cheating even though you didn't start "going out" with the first girl. But that doesn't seem to apply to adults as girls do it all the time to me, so if that's dem rules, then I'll follow them.

The best thing about dating/hooking up/flirting/talking to many girls at once is there's no time to attach to anything, which is important since I have some attachment problems. If a girl doesn't work out, don't really feel anything since there are several others. If I see the right mood I'll go for the kiss and figure if she slaps me and says goodbye, it's fine there are other girls. So I'm just not giving a ton of fuck and instead trying to have the dates be fun things so regardless of the other person I'm getting a fun night out of it that beats hanging around home typing on the computer. It's also keeping me super busy since when I come home from work I have dates about half the time and the other half I'm still setting up my new place.

I'm not OVERJOYEDLY HAPPY like I feel when I am in manchild immature love with a girl who will hate me for being needy. But I'm not unhappy right now and I feel like I've taken a step in the right direction and am entering the world of adults. I'm also not doing one night stands cause that sucked and it's not what I'm looking for. I'm meeting people, having good times with them and just seeing how things go. I've got a karaoke + drinks date on Tuesday which should be a lot of fun for a first date. Haven't karaoke'd since Japan but I love karaoke to death. Will be belting out The Bends at full volume that day.

I also met someone who is really really cool, but logistically I think we're just going to be penpals, which is ok as I could use some more good friends who I can connect with. I think we're already past short stories and heading to light novel length with our e-mails over the last few weeks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Smooth Groove on August 25, 2011, 02:00:35 AM

TLDR Let's get to the point, bro. How many did you tap?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on August 25, 2011, 02:01:29 AM

Relationships: Shits Crazy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other
Post by: Barry Egan on August 25, 2011, 06:55:31 AM

Bebpo turning a new leaf :bow2

Evilbore psychoanalytic center making things happen :bow2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 25, 2011, 08:55:42 AM

Nice job, Bebpo... I've been sending a few emails back and forth to a bunch of different girls. Including one named Katherine, hahahahaha. And one girl who is a cute chubby, busty blonde with a really nice face. Will probably wait til after next week (:bow Electric Zoo :bow2) before I ask any of them on dates. I'm looking in specific for girls who have their shit together - Masters degrees (or going to grad school), decent jobs, and hopefully those who live close by.

How goes the new place, Bebs? I have a crapload of stuff to do now on it, hell I didn't even finish packing my stuff!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 25, 2011, 10:58:55 AM

pics of the chubby blonde, tiesto.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Great Rumbler on August 25, 2011, 11:53:24 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 23, 2011, 10:57:27 PM

if anything, it's Rumbler.

I have a college degree, thank you very much.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 25, 2011, 08:24:19 PM

I sent a chick a message who was SUPER compatible with my on okcupid and she never responded.. She visited my site but I guess she took one look at me and was like fuck no. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 12:18:28 AM

Ok, I'm really drunk...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 26, 2011, 12:21:54 AM

JUST KEEP PRESSURING ON, BEBPO

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Smooth Groove on August 26, 2011, 12:23:15 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 12:18:28 AM

Ok, I'm really drunk so it's about time I came 100% clean:

I'm dating, hooking up, sleeping, flirting, with a group of girls that gets larger by the night

What's getting larger? The group size or the girls themselves? Either way, congrats!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 12:29:04 AM

The group size, but hahah, :)

smooth you're in LA; are you a doctor yet, or still med school? I know you're totally pimp so maybe sometime I should head up and we hit the clubs together? I think it'd be fucking fun! No homo!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 26, 2011, 12:35:57 AM

this is amazing

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 12:41:23 AM

I shoulds seink moew ofren. I locw tou LLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 12:42:32 AM

especially himuro who is like my long lost jrpg buddy. I want to hang iwth him oneday and pick up chiks and have hot sexy thresomes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 26, 2011, 12:43:09 AM

oh my

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 12:46:13 AM

We dodn't have to do homo stuff; we can just take a chick from both sides. I'm super straight (I repeat this in every thread; dicks do nothing for me;l sorry; I like boobs and vaginas). But I'd love to hang with you some day; doesn't evem have to have sex involved. I've known you for spooooooooooooo many years through the internet. One day me and you should cruise downtown, pick up MAD CHICKS and enjoy the pleaseure s of life.

PS. Suikoden is awesome! So sad there is no suikoden VI. I want my Harmonia story!!!!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 26, 2011, 12:47:22 AM

I've never been to LA clubs or bars. Haven't been to LA since I was a kid. Kinda miss it. Emphasis on kinda.

It sounds good to me, though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 12:55:11 AM

<3

you're my hetrosexual hero garrett

<3

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 12:56:34 AM

PS. I just got a reject letter from last night's date: sounds like all the others:

Quote

"I'm glad you had a good time the other night, thanks again for taking me out, I had fun.

However, I have to be honest and tell you that although I think you're a really great guy and I've been having fun getting to know you, I don't think we have a lot of romantic chemistry together. I don't want to lead you on or waste your time, so I think it would be best if we parted ways and wished each other good bye and good luck on our separate adventures. I'm sorry it didn't work out, but at least we can take away some memories of good conversations and awesome mix cds."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 12:58:39 AM

Sounds like every girl's reject letter after the first date.

Might as well go and hang myself now. Jk, I'll pass out in my bed.

Still, yeah, no girl wants to be with me. I have a half-dozen lined up who willl give me fun dates and cute kisses as the night fades away but no one wants to be with me.

I am sad
I am pathetic
I am lonely
I am alone

....
I should write a song about this

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on August 26, 2011, 12:58:53 AM

Little does she realize that every time you stumble across one of the mix CDs it will be a DAGGER THROUGH YOUR HEART.

Spend less time being a sad panda and more time doing the things you love to do- maybe you'll meet someone while doing those things- if not? Time not wasted.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 26, 2011, 01:02:48 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 12:58:39 AM

Sounds like every girl's reject letter after the first date.

Might as well go and hang myself now. Jk, I'll pass out in my bed.

Still, yeah, no girl wants to be with me. I have a half-dozen lined up who willl give me fun dates and cute kisses as the night fades away but no one wants to be with me.

I am sad
I am pathetic
I am lonely
I am alone

....
I should write a song about this

You're also drunk. ;)

Dating doesn't lead to immediate soul mate, you know. Go to bed, you'll feel better in the morning. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 01:03:05 AM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on August 26, 2011, 12:58:53 AM

Little does she realize that every time you stumble across one of the mix CDs it will be a DAGGER THROUGH YOUR HEART.

Spend less time being a sad panda and more time doing the things you love to do- maybe you'll meet someone while doing those things- if not? Time not wasted.

I never meet anyone playing Kohan, sorry.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 26, 2011, 01:06:55 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 01:03:05 AM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on August 26, 2011, 12:58:53 AM
Little does she realize that every time you stumble across one of the mix CDs it will be a DAGGER THROUGH YOUR HEART.

Spend less time being a sad panda and more time doing the things you love to do- maybe you'll meet someone while doing those things- if not? Time not wasted.

I never meet anyone playing Kohan, sorry.

I'm still baffled how you don't meet women while being Super Awesome Lawyer Man.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 26, 2011, 01:07:15 AM

:rofl

damn, bebpo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 26, 2011, 01:25:00 AM

Moar lawyer, less emo animu fanthing. How many times do we have to keep telling you? Sheesh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on August 26, 2011, 02:39:41 AM

So many tears.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 26, 2011, 03:00:14 AM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on August 26, 2011, 02:39:41 AM

So many tears.

[youtube=560,345]ikOUFE7VmSY[/youtube]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 03:27:05 AM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 03:47:45 AM

I need to drink less

:(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 03:54:05 AM

I'm drunk

The girl I like said I should go to sleep

So sad

So sad

No one wrote me back from my last set of texts

Aloooone

:\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 26, 2011, 04:05:33 AM

Listen to this and man up.

[youtube=560,345]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WwoM5fLITfk[/youtube]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 04:44:13 AM

I am a little worried that girls after going on a date or two, contact me saying "oh, you're a really nice, sweet, attractive guy, but I don't feel any relationship chemistry". Uhh, yeah that means I need to work on something; just not sure what.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 26, 2011, 05:10:31 AM

Don't worry about it.

Alcohol is the devil, I've done so much stupid shit drunk it's hard to believe I'm still alive and kicking.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other
Post by: Barry Egan on August 26, 2011, 07:34:07 AM

:spin :spin :spin

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 26, 2011, 08:37:00 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 12:56:34 AM

PS. I just got a reject letter from last night's date: sounds like all the others:

Quote
"I'm glad you had a good time the other night, thanks again for taking me out, I had fun.

However, I have to be honest and tell you that although I think you're a really great guy and I've been having fun getting to know you, I don't think we have a lot of romantic chemistry together. I don't want to lead you on or waste your time, so I think it would be best if we parted ways and wished each other good bye and good luck on our separate adventures. I'm sorry it didn't work out, but at least we can take away some memories of good conversations and awesome mix cds."

Did you try making any moves on her?

(I had MAJOR problems with making moves on girls on the first or second date. Usually the girls would be the ones to make the move... but I've been getting over that fear. Read up on "kino", yeah it's more pickup artist type stuff but it just might be very useful 8))

Quote from: BlackMage on August 25, 2011, 08:24:19 PM

I sent a chick a message who was SUPER compatible with my on okcupid and she never responded.. She visited my site but I guess she took one look at me and was like fuck no. :'(

Wait a few days before giving up hope... if not, are you emailing a ton of different girls? I am in email convos with 6 or 7 girls at the moment and I am still recently single. Keep emailing different girls even if you aren't SUPER compatible, soon your mailbox will be stacked. I know that a few of those girls I'm talking to will flake out before a date, so that's why I keep sending out messages. The chubby blonde got back to me again last nite, so I think it may be time to ask her out... when the hurricane passes that is :P

And also I have been talking back and forth to a girl named Katherine... better watch myself around that one :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 26, 2011, 10:16:19 AM

Bebpo, this is the problem with "dating" buddy. Making finding a mate a priority instead of it being something casual on the side of your personal life. I'm not judging you for doing this, lots of people do. I did. But it makes the rejections and hurt that much worse because it's such a huge focus. Best of luck dude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 01:38:42 PM

Ok, back to work (literally) and boy this thread is a doozy. I don't even remember ever writing a lot of that stuff on the last page (although it's true I do homo <3 you all); I think I can track where I lost memory by post timings ^^;

Quote from: tiesto on August 26, 2011, 08:37:00 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 12:56:34 AM
PS. I just got a reject letter from last night's date: sounds like all the others:

Quote
"I'm glad you had a good time the other night, thanks again for taking me out, I had fun.

However, I have to be honest and tell you that although I think you're a really great guy and I've been having fun getting to know you, I don't think we have a lot of romantic chemistry together. I don't want to lead you on or waste your time, so I think it would be best if we parted ways and wished each other good bye and good luck on our separate adventures. I'm sorry it didn't work out, but at least we can take away some memories of good conversations and awesome mix cds."

Did you try making any moves on her?

(I had MAJOR problems with making moves on girls on the first or second date. Usually the girls would be the ones to make the move... but I've been getting over that fear. Read up on "kino", yeah it's more pickup artist type stuff but it just might be very useful 8))

Sorta. Like we went bowling and I was teaching her how to throw the ball and was holding her arm and doing the motions and she seemed to enjoy it. In fact, when we were bowling she seemed really into me. Then afterwards we went and had ramen and just sat around talking and I think she lost interest at that point.

At the end of the night when I dropped her off at her car and we did the "oh hey, thanks for all the fun" goodnight hug, I think by then the mood had pretty much died but I went for the kiss anyway and we kissed a bit and then she got out and took off.

I definitely don't do enough of the move making; I just hang out and act myself like I do with friends and girls have a good time, think I'm a fun, great guy, but don't feel any interest emotionally. They see me more as a friend or maybe friend w/benefits if they think I'm hot. Basically from what I understand of the modern people terminology, I "lack game". I probably should read up on this "kino".

I don't really care about this girl at all, so it doesn't hurt to be rejected; I see it more as an illustration my dating inexperience and weakpoints I need to work on.

Quote

And also I have been talking back and forth to a girl named Katherine... better watch myself around that one :P

hehehe :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 01:46:24 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 26, 2011, 10:16:19 AM

Bebpo, this is the problem with "dating" buddy. Making finding a mate a priority instead of it being something casual on the side of your personal life. I'm not judging you for doing this, lots of people do. I did. But it makes the rejections and hurt that much worse because it's such a huge focus. Best of luck dude.

Yeah, dependency is the worst and I'm trying to ween myself off it. The psychological damage of being in very dependent relations early on in my dating formation stages was pretty bad and it's taking YEARS to get more independent and have girls be a side thing in the bebpo life. But it's slowly getting better and it'll keep getting better as I get older and have more life experience as long as I make the effort to focus on my life, being awesome, and enjoying everything.

Having sort of ADD need for immediacy doesn't help :P Personal change takes time and constant effort; but I'm making that effort, a step at a time, and am definitely happier for it. (well when I'm not balls out drunk ;))

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on August 26, 2011, 02:02:14 PM

Living in the moment a bit more is a good idea too- you think WAY too much; and this is coming from a guy that most of his friends will admit is a smidge OCD at times.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 26, 2011, 02:09:48 PM

Yeah, you need to be more like MAF. He's always content with his life. I envy him.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on August 26, 2011, 02:11:47 PM

I think i'm just old- I had my emo time too. Course even if I was still emo it'd be pretty silly- my life is pretty awesome.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 26, 2011, 02:14:35 PM

btw, bebpo. PM me your phone number! Am I still invited to your party next weekend? :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 26, 2011, 02:20:11 PM

Of course you are :-[

I'll pm you the # now!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 28, 2011, 08:47:30 PM

I've literally ran out of girls to hit on on okcupid, in my area. The closest ones now are in Los Angeles/Santa Monica.. That's too far away! the one you recommended to me bebpo.. she deleted her account. I was too late trying to contact her. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on August 28, 2011, 09:31:29 PM

time for blackmage to hit up gk2gk

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 28, 2011, 10:36:59 PM

idk man im not interested in someone who's nerdier than me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 28, 2011, 10:39:46 PM

When you say "reject letter" are you saying women actually send you a letter of rejection, like a college admission letter or something?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 29, 2011, 10:52:13 PM

"We're sorry, but at this time we have no openings for you."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 29, 2011, 11:19:27 PM

"Please understand."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 29, 2011, 11:56:40 PM

Quote from: chronovore on August 29, 2011, 10:52:13 PM

"We're sorry, but at this time we have no openings for you."

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 29, 2011, 11:58:57 PM

Quote from: chronovore on August 29, 2011, 10:52:13 PM

"We're sorry, but at this time we have no openings for you."

(http://www.demeterclarc.com/wp-content/uploads/images/2010/12/CHASTITY-BELTS-WITH-GARTER.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 30, 2011, 09:50:20 AM

:-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 30, 2011, 06:26:22 PM

Girl-age question:

I have this girl coming over tonight to my place for dinner and then I'm pretty sure she's thinking sex and spending the night over as well.

I need to tell this girl I'm not interested in her; thanks but no thanks. We don't have anything in common, and our dates (we've had two so far, this will be the 3rd) have been pretty boring. But we hooked up each time so it was like heyyyy, this is fun even if the pre-hook up date part was boring. But I need to set the line down. Unfortunately she sort of invited herself over for me to cook her dinner and I didn't take a stand was just like "sure, sure, sounds good" and put it off in my mind but now it's happening in a few hours.

So I can either:

1. Call her now and tell her it's off, not to show and that I'm not interested in her. She's at work now so it would be a voice mail she wouldn't get until she was about to leave after work to my place and would ruin her day.

2. Wait until she arrives and tell her I'm not interested in being more than friends, might cause a fit, worried she might damage new condo

3. Cook a nice meal for her, then tell her I'm not interested; may be worse and seem like leading on.

4. Cook a nice meal for her, sleep with her, then tell her in the morning I'm not interested (probably most likely to get murdered route)

5. Cook a nice meal for her, sleep with her, then in a day or two call her and tell her I'm not interested.

Definitely a hard fight between mind and libido, but I think I should go with #1 even if my libido would rather go with #5. Also if she was down to just sort of be FwB I'd be ok with that temporarily since hooking up is fun, and takes some of the "I haven't gotten any for x days" tension/desperation away while looking around and meeting people. Plus it feels good confidence-wise to have someone appreciate you. But I'm not sure when I would tell her this. She's waaaay into me and I'm not interested at all; so I'm also kind of afraid the longer I stick around the higher possibility she does something crazy to try to latch into me like poking holes in condoms or something like that (not that she comes off as crazy, but I'm paranoid about getting into a relationship I really don't want to be in).

Also I haven't talked about this particular girl before, so she's not any of the girls that I mentioned anywhere else.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on August 30, 2011, 06:27:51 PM

I learned from Angel season 2 that THE SYMPATHY BONE is not cool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 30, 2011, 06:34:22 PM

Yeah I should probably put my faith in Whedon. He only lets me down about 33% of the time.

Also another advantage of #1 is not having to figure out wtf to cook because she's vegetarian and while I can cook some tasty meals; they all involve MEAT because I love meat and seasoning meat! And have no idea what a vegetarian dish even is besides cooking up a skillet of fresh vegetables and some bread. I'd probably just make a meat dish and substitute the meat with tofu or something ^^;

I have about 2 hours to figure out this dilemma.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 30, 2011, 06:47:41 PM

#1

Or #4 if you want to be a total asshole.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 30, 2011, 06:48:07 PM

If she's vegetarian and you're not better skip it. No long term potential with a girl that doesn't enjoy meat.

I mean at some point you want to put you teeth in a juicy, bloody steak.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 30, 2011, 06:53:23 PM

Interesting fact: every girl I've dated through okc this round has been vegetarian/vegan or had some weird allergy so they couldn't eat anything.

I wonder if there's any correlation between people who date online/offline and how picky girls are about food.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on August 30, 2011, 06:55:47 PM

cook some pasta; get laid

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 30, 2011, 06:57:22 PM

The truth hurts, might as well deliver it before making things messier than they need to be.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 30, 2011, 07:04:59 PM

Yeah, I'd rather be a good human being here than be an asshole who gets laid. I'll call her after I get off work.

As an aside, I tried messaging a 10/10 looking girl for the first time last night. She was actually pretty responsive; maybe I've been undervaluing myself. But man, she could NOT hold a conversation at all. Was tough having anything to say back when the person doesn't respond with more than 1-2 lines containing no personality at all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on August 30, 2011, 07:12:20 PM

like ripping off a band aid!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 30, 2011, 07:44:24 PM

send your rejects my way, bebpo 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 30, 2011, 08:02:56 PM

#5 but no phone call. Just ignore her. Perfect

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 30, 2011, 08:05:11 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on August 30, 2011, 06:47:41 PM

#1 if you're over 30.

Or #4 if you are under 30.

Fixed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 30, 2011, 08:09:03 PM

I'm turning 30 in 36 days though :X

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 31, 2011, 01:39:08 AM

So yesterday I contacted someone on OKCupid who seemed cool and we exchanged a few messages.

Today I'm shopping at Trader Joe's for dinner ingredients and I spot this cute redheaded girl that I'd saw the last time I went shopping there a week prior. I smiled and walked by and didn't think twice about it.

Then I get home and have an e-mail from the girl I contacted last night "So do you shop at trader joe's all the time?" and then I realized holy shit, that girl I contacted last night IS ONE AND THE SAME cute girl who I saw at the trade joe's right outside my condo.

Small world! First time I've ever accidently run into someone from the internet irl and they recognized me. Also crazy coincidence that we had just met THE DAY BEFORE on the internet before running into each other irl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on August 31, 2011, 03:24:26 AM

While I was living in St. Louis (having moved back in with my parents after my first stint in Portland) I met a girl on OKC and chatted with her a lot. When I moved back to Portland she turned out to live about three blocks from where I happened to be staying, which we only discovered by running into each other. We didn't have any relationship chemistry, but we watched a few cool movies together.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 31, 2011, 03:52:34 AM

Jesus Bebpo, hwo much online dating do you do? Seems like you have numerous dates a week. Crazy man!

When was the last time you met a girl in the wild?

Just curious. Maybe I'm just old fashioned but I can't imagine this is how people meet up nowadays.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 31, 2011, 08:30:43 AM

Usually in my day we'd just raid the neighboring village and whomever we liked we'd drag back by their hair. Ah, I long for the fjords.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 31, 2011, 08:43:42 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 30, 2011, 06:53:23 PM

Interesting fact: every girl I've dated through okc this round has been vegetarian/vegan or had some weird allergy so they couldn't eat anything.

I wonder if there's any correlation between people who date online/offline and how picky girls are about food.

Well, a lot of the girls I meet online dating... let's just say they are not at all picky about food! :P

This girl named Katherine wants to meet up for coffee this weekend, but I can't because of the Electric Zoo Festival, and I might have a date with a girl from Alabama later this week. :rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on August 31, 2011, 08:59:17 AM

Quote from: chronovore on August 31, 2011, 08:30:43 AM

Usually in my day we'd just raid the neighboring village and whomever we liked we'd drag back by their hair. Ah, I long for the fjords.

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 31, 2011, 04:04:34 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on August 31, 2011, 03:52:34 AM

Jesus Bebpo, hwo much online dating do you do? Seems like you have numerous dates a week. Crazy man!

When was the last time you met a girl in the wild?

Just curious. Maybe I'm just old fashioned but I can't imagine this is how people meet up nowadays.

He has a better selection of women online than I do. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 31, 2011, 04:12:36 PM

Wat, you're closer to LA than me! I don't think the OC pool is much larger than Oxnard.

Quote from: Premium Lager on August 31, 2011, 03:52:34 AM

Jesus Bebpo, hwo much online dating do you do? Seems like you have numerous dates a week. Crazy man!

When was the last time you met a girl in the wild?

Just curious. Maybe I'm just old fashioned but I can't imagine this is how people meet up nowadays.

Well, when I wouldn't date much and would just meet one girl, see how it goes, etc... I'd end up getting attached if the girl was cool and then I get mad depressed. So taking Howard Alan Treesang's advice I decide to keep the dating thing going, meet many people and see if anything clicks. It's certainly keeping me from being depressed, but it's really fucking tiring. I'm already getting exhausted. Also while it works on the not-attached front, it's not really working on the meeting-people-that-click front. Not feeling anything so far, just a lot of flirting and dates here and there and energy spent.

Last time I met a girl in the wild was 12 years ago when I was 18 and me and my high school buddies used to hang out at baskin robbins before we'd go to a park and do wild illegal activities. I thought a girl working there was cute, so with the help of my friends I started talking to her and met her. That was my first gf. I smile at people and get smiles back sometimes, but I never really go up and have a random conversation with a stranger. I just don't have those kind of skills currently. Probably would be a good idea to obtain them at some point.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 31, 2011, 04:16:04 PM

I generally won't date a woman from LA though. If she lives more than 40 miles away, I'm not up for it. There could be exceptions, though. Plus, there are more uglies in Oxnard than OC. In my opinion, of course. :p

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on August 31, 2011, 04:18:20 PM

Bebpo, maybe you should try dating men.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 31, 2011, 06:50:57 PM

Well, the girl I was on a "break" with called me to end things.... she was pretty pissy about it in her voicemail (I didn't pick up). I handled the breakup really poorly... told her I wanted a "break" and then proceeded to not call her for a week and a half and move on with my life. Now she never wants to talk to me again. Oh well, what can ya do?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 31, 2011, 06:52:36 PM

text her pics of your dick. that would be hilarious. Even more hilarious would be texting her pics of your dick in another girl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 31, 2011, 06:55:32 PM

Quote from: tiesto on August 31, 2011, 06:50:57 PM

Well, the girl I was on a "break" with called me to end things.... she was pretty pissy about it in her voicemail (I didn't pick up). I handled the breakup really poorly... told her I wanted a "break" and then proceeded to not call her for a week and a half and move on with my life. Now she never wants to talk to me again. Oh well, what can ya do?

WHAT WAS THE SURPRISE SHE WAS GOING TO GIVE YOU

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on August 31, 2011, 06:56:54 PM

My girlfriend left today to study abroad in Ireland for the semester (3 months) and she'll be back December 19th. I'm so sad now. :'( I've been tracking her flight online to make sure she gets there okay.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 31, 2011, 07:21:20 PM

Quote from: tiesto on August 31, 2011, 06:50:57 PM

Well, the girl I was on a "break" with called me to end things.... she was pretty pissy about it in her voicemail (I didn't pick up). I handled the breakup really poorly... told her I wanted a "break" and then proceeded to not call her for a week and a half and move on with my life. Now she never wants to talk to me again. Oh well, what can ya do?

Meh, it's how my breaks have tended to be. Breaking well and remaining friends is seriously hard to pull off. I'm trying to be more mature and do that now, but it's tough.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on August 31, 2011, 07:26:20 PM

Quote from: Wrath2X on August 31, 2011, 07:10:37 PM

D'AWWWW

Are you going to post here more?

Maaaayyybeeeeee! I browse each and every post in every thread but I never feel compelled to actually post anything. I'll contribute where I can though! I'm still always on AIM and Skype as TylertheHood and Steam as FatalT if you ever want to chat though! I'm up for playing anything as well. Lately I've been hooked on Heroes of Newerth.

Her flight says it's delayed to 6:51 est and it's 7:26 est now. The first flight to Boston went just fine and was only delayed about 10 minutes. This worries me...

http://flightaware.com/live/flight/EIN136

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 31, 2011, 08:08:55 PM

Quote from: Wrath2X on August 31, 2011, 07:25:11 PM

I honestly never had problems staying friends with girls afterwards, mostly cause the I usually stay friends with the sane ones. The batshit crazy ones can bitch all they want I'm happy they don't exist in my life anymore.

I dunno, it's hard to say "yeah I don't feel anything toward you; I'm going to find someone better; stop calling me" to a girl without becoming THE BAD GUY (or vice versa). Which doesn't really facilitate staying friends. Plus the rejected side, by sticking around the rejector doesn't get over them without great difficulty so it's easier for the rejected to just cut all ties.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 31, 2011, 08:18:14 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 31, 2011, 08:08:55 PM

Quote from: Wrath2X on August 31, 2011, 07:25:11 PM
I honestly never had problems staying friends with girls afterwards, mostly cause the I usually stay friends with the sane ones. The batshit crazy ones can bitch all they want I'm happy they don't exist in my life anymore.

I dunno, it's hard to say "yeah I don't feel anything toward you; I'm going to find someone better; stop calling me" to a girl without becoming THE BAD GUY (or vice versa). Which doesn't really facilitate staying friends. Plus the rejected side, by sticking around the rejector doesn't get over them without great difficulty so it's easier for the rejected to just cut all ties.

someday.. someday i'll get to say this to a very special girl. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 31, 2011, 08:21:01 PM

But you've got balls of steel; I mean you opened a wine company and that takes massive cajones.

Us mortal men don't get those moments.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 31, 2011, 08:24:21 PM

to get my crazy off my case i had to be a total dick to her so she'd "fall out of love" with me. I called her up, said i was sorry that I wanted to get back together, she was happy. Then we had phone sex. Reminder: I just came back to Texas from NYC, so she was in NY, I'm in Texas. Despite that she STILL wants to get back together. Yeah. So the next day she's calling me and texting me and I don't answer a single one. A week goes by and she's like YOU USED ME!!!! and stopped hitting me up.

Felt so good.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 31, 2011, 09:09:01 PM

Yeah, I have stayed friends with a few of my ex's, so I kinda thought this might have had a chance. I totally should have killed it off then and there, no mention of "break" stuff. I've always suffered from lack of assertiveness, it's definitely something I want to change. No offense, Himu, but I don't want your dick in me... :-*

spoiler (click to show/hide)

You can sure as hell bottom for me though :-*

[close]

Date tomorrow with Alabama girl, we're meeting up at John Harvard's (a local brewery), my first date since '09, it begins anew.....

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 31, 2011, 09:11:10 PM

WHAT WAS HER SURPRISE

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 31, 2011, 09:11:59 PM

No idea, I didn't stay around long enough to figure that out!

It's a relief to be single...
+No more driving to the Nassau/Queens border (almost 40 miles) to go out with her since she didn't have a car
+More time to DJ
+More time to go clubbing in NYC (she hated the club scene)
+More time for games

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 31, 2011, 09:17:11 PM

Sounds good to me!

Have you moved into your new place?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 31, 2011, 09:18:10 PM

nooooooooooo

this is why i said to wait a while. Who knows what the surprise could have been?!?! what if it was awesome?! Now i'll never know what would happened!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 31, 2011, 09:27:20 PM

I didn't think it would be fair for her to spend money or any of that, then have me break up with her :P

Bebs, not yet... it still needs a bunch of work (painting, carpeting/floors, bathrooms) and I need furniture. I went to Macy's and Raymour looking for couches and bedsets today but didn't find anything that jumped out at me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 31, 2011, 11:04:34 PM

Yeah, I just went through the same situation. I like the places that deliver furniture within 24 hours because then you can wait until the last minute when everything else is in place and figure out what works.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 31, 2011, 11:05:47 PM

Also I was in a relationship once where the girl is like "I just went to victoria secret and got a SURPRISE FOR YOU" and then we broke up and I never found out the surprise. //shrug, I'm sure her next bf enjoyed it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 01, 2011, 03:26:10 AM

Quote from: FatalT on August 31, 2011, 06:56:54 PM

My girlfriend left today to study abroad in Ireland for the semester (3 months) and she'll be back December 19th. I'm so sad now. :'( I've been tracking her flight online to make sure she gets there okay.

Really where is she studying? I can show her around.

:teehee

Also too bad you don't play LOL, just got hooked on that :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 01, 2011, 08:03:56 AM

Quote from: Billy Rygar on August 31, 2011, 07:48:54 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 31, 2011, 06:52:36 PM
text her pics of your dick. that would be hilarious. Even more hilarious would be texting her pics of your dick in another girl.
Text her pics of Himuro's dick. Even more hilarious would be texting pics of Himuro's dick in you.

:rofl

She'd probably feel better about why things didn't work out!
:supergay

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 01, 2011, 08:05:54 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 31, 2011, 09:18:10 PM

nooooooooooo

this is why i said to wait a while. Who knows what the surprise could have been?!?! what if it was awesome?! Now i'll never know what would happened!

Two words:

spoiler (click to show/hide)

"anal virgin."

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on September 01, 2011, 02:03:30 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on September 01, 2011, 03:26:10 AM

Quote from: FatalT on August 31, 2011, 06:56:54 PM
My girlfriend left today to study abroad in Ireland for the semester (3 months) and she'll be back December 19th. I'm so sad now. :'( I've been tracking her flight online to make sure she gets there okay.

Really where is she studying? I can show her around.

:teehee

Also too bad you don't play LOL, just got hooked on that :)

Dublin Business School. I skyped with her on my lunch break and she's not enjoying it at all. She wants to come home. :(

What flight ticket websites would you all suggest? I'm looking at Expedia right now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 01, 2011, 03:08:23 PM

Quote from: Wrath2X on September 01, 2011, 04:26:05 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 31, 2011, 08:08:55 PM

I dunno, it's hard to say "yeah I don't feel anything toward you; I'm going to find someone better; stop calling me" to a girl without becoming THE BAD GUY (or vice versa). Which doesn't really facilitate staying friends. Plus the rejected side, by sticking around the rejector doesn't get over them without great difficulty so it's easier for the rejected to just cut all ties.

Make sure you're at a private place, don't use cliche lines, be calm and be honest while leaving out things that shouldn't be said. Just say "Look, hanging out with you is a lot of fun and I like being around you, but I don't have any romantic feelings for you. I'm sure you don't see this relationship going anywhere in the long term too. So why not just break this off and stay friends? No use holding grudges" or something like that, the sane ones either agree and feel the same way or get a little upset then come around eventually. The crazy ones I always yell "YOU FOUND NEW VAGINA DIDN'T YOU!?" or something of that sort. Just be honest without being hurtful.

Wish I had this advice a few years ago, Wraith, I really like this... but oh well, no use crying over spilt milk.

Bebs needs to come to NY and I can wing for him. He would clean house with all the Jewish girls here wanting a nice lawyer guy, and I can have their goyim friends :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on September 01, 2011, 03:25:49 PM

Nevermind, she's going to stick it out.

109 days to go! :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on September 01, 2011, 03:31:52 PM

3 months isnt a big deal... your GF is a crybaby. Stick it out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on September 01, 2011, 03:36:12 PM

BUILDS CHARACTER

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 01, 2011, 06:07:05 PM

Quote from: demi on September 01, 2011, 03:31:52 PM

3 months isnt a big deal... your GF is a crybaby. Stick it out.

I'm in total fear of the next four words but: I agree with Demi.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 01, 2011, 06:14:13 PM

I closed my account at OKC this morning. Too exhausting. Going to focus on self-improvement and living a more enjoyable life and then when I'm comfortable I'll start dating again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on September 01, 2011, 08:04:15 PM

Quote from: chronovore on September 01, 2011, 06:07:05 PM

Quote from: demi on September 01, 2011, 03:31:52 PM
3 months isnt a big deal... your GF is a crybaby. Stick it out.

I'm in total fear of the next four words but: I agree with Demi.

I have difficulty accepting advice from someone who has never been in a serious relationship before. If I were you, I'd have trouble agreeing with said advice.

Also, your favorite sock doesn't count.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 01, 2011, 08:11:49 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 01, 2011, 06:14:13 PM

I closed my account at OKC this morning. Too exhausting. Going to focus on self-improvement and living a more enjoyable life and then when I'm comfortable I'll start dating again.

I have one more girl I'm seeing from the site, then if it doesn't work out I'ma do the same thing for a while, too. I'm moving to Thousand Oaks at the end of the month and need to get this apartment cleaned out!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 01, 2011, 08:25:12 PM

Yeah I'm seeing a girl on Monday before a concert, but I think we're just friends and that's all there is to it. Which is fine. Not going in expecting anything more. Also I'm taking a girl around town whose moving here next week and showing her the sites and eatings of OC; not expecting anything out of that either, but she's cool so might make a friend there. And then there's the girl who works at the Trader Joe's near me who said I should stop by and say hi next time I see her when I'm shopping.

So there's still some lingering threads, but I don't need the timesink of okc right now and 30 min flirt sessions and awkward first dates. The browsing and being browsed. Just burnt me out. I sat down last night and read a book for a few hours before going to sleep and it was nice; I want to have time to do that more often.

Quote from: BlackMage on September 01, 2011, 08:11:49 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 01, 2011, 06:14:13 PM
I closed my account at OKC this morning. Too exhausting. Going to focus on self-improvement and living a more enjoyable life and then when I'm comfortable I'll start dating again.

I have one more girl I'm seeing from the site, then if it doesn't work out I'ma do the same thing for a while, too. I'm moving to Thousand Oaks at the end of the month and need to get this apartment cleaned out!

Well that's a little closer to the LA hotspot :lol

How come you don't just move to LA? Where's your job located?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 01, 2011, 08:34:59 PM

in Thousand Oaks. :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on September 01, 2011, 10:11:58 PM

but you need love Bebpo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 01, 2011, 11:06:35 PM

The girls I love don't love me, the girls I don't love, love me; I think love is having fun fucking with me right now, so I'll put it aside for the moments being. Otoh reading song of ice and fire gives me plenty of love so I will stick with that for now ;)

I think I was rushing things a bit with big old 30 coming up in a month, but gotta relax and take life as it flows; no need to have arbitrary deadlines that only bring you down. I'm only 30 when I want to be!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 01, 2011, 11:08:33 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 01, 2011, 11:06:35 PM

The girls I love don't love me, the girls I don't love, love me; I think love is having fun fucking with me right now, so I'll put it aside for the moments being. Otoh reading song of ice and fire gives me plenty of love so I will stick with that for now ;)

I think I was rushing things a bit with big old 30 coming up in a month, but gotta relax and take life as it flows; no need to have arbitrary deadlines that only bring you down. I'm only 30 when I want to be!

I turned 30 in march. I am the same way. I KNOW YOUR PAIN

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 02, 2011, 12:18:22 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 01, 2011, 11:06:35 PM

The girls I love don't love me, the girls I don't love, love me; I think love is having fun fucking with me right now, so I'll put it aside for the moments being. Otoh reading song of ice and fire gives me plenty of love so I will stick with that for now ;)

I think I was rushing things a bit with big old 30 coming up in a month, but gotta relax and take life as it flows; no need to have arbitrary deadlines that only bring you down. I'm only 30 when I want to be!

Welcome to relationships and dating. You'll figure it out eventually, you just waited a while to get started.

You better come here in October, we gon' get you drunk as shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on September 02, 2011, 12:20:56 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on September 01, 2011, 11:08:33 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 01, 2011, 11:06:35 PM
The girls I love don't love me, the girls I don't love, love me; I think love is having fun fucking with me right now, so I'll put it aside for the moments being. Otoh reading song of ice and fire gives me plenty of love so I will stick with that for now ;)

I think I was rushing things a bit with big old 30 coming up in a month, but gotta relax and take life as it flows; no need to have arbitrary deadlines that only bring you down. I'm only 30 when I want to be!

I turned 30 in march. I am the same way. I KNOW YOUR PAIN

I turn 40 next week. How the fuck did that happen

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 02, 2011, 12:23:20 AM

I turned 30 a couple weeks ago. No big deal.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 02, 2011, 12:38:36 AM

It's crazy how back 10-15 years ago, everyone on the internet was 15-30. Now everyone on the internet (well, the forums and places I go) are 30-45. We're basically the internet generation that came with the internet and has stayed with it. It's not like a continual revolving door with young people coming in all the time and older folks leaving. I think the only young one we have here is green man.

It's cool because it's like we're all getting older together and you never feel like the odd man out. When I was a teen I thought 30 was THE END, but now everyone here and everywhere I go is 30 and it's normal.

Just to give an example:

I'm turning 30, Blackmage just turned 30, Mr. Gundam just turned 30, Howard Alan Treesang is only 31ish, duckroll is turning 30 soon. It's not like we all grew up together and were in the same high school class. We're random dudes who met anonymously on the internet and yet we're all fairly close in age. It's very interesting. I mean I met duckroll before I knew anything about him and later found out he's like 2 months age difference from me. Gamers are truly the internet generation.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 02, 2011, 12:48:44 AM

It's just the internet circle you interact with, like you pointed out. I talk with a bunch of baseball bloggers on Twitter and some of them are teenagers. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 02, 2011, 12:50:11 AM

Teens are all over the internet, you just don't run into them much.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 02, 2011, 09:09:07 AM

I just recently turned 29 myself but haven't really felt much pressure that I'm gonna be 30. Most of my friends are a year older than me and so they have already hit that age.

So I went on a date last nite with Alabama girl, and I had a great time. Girl was very cute, nice round face, brown hair, a bit on the thick/stocky side, and actually knew how to dress (this is a big deal since my last girlfriend wore nothing but baggy t-shirts and baggy jeans and sneakers no matter what the occasion). We talked about all sorts of stuff, I got to hear a bit about her job at Gamestop... then she asked me if I ever heard of a game called Chrono Trigger, and another called Earthbound... nope, can't say I have! I was telling her about the music festival I'm going to this weekend, and she said that she wanted to go to see Tiesto (!!!) but couldn't get off from work.

Since she is very new in NY, I think she is mostly just looking for friends... I wouldn't mind either friendship or a relationship at this stage of the game but would vastly prefer a new woman.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 02, 2011, 09:48:21 AM

Quote from: FatalT on September 01, 2011, 08:04:15 PM

Quote from: chronovore on September 01, 2011, 06:07:05 PM
Quote from: demi on September 01, 2011, 03:31:52 PM
3 months isnt a big deal... your GF is a crybaby. Stick it out.

I'm in total fear of the next four words but: I agree with Demi.

I have difficulty accepting advice from someone who has never been in a serious relationship before. If I were you, I'd have trouble agreeing with said advice.

Also, your favorite sock doesn't count.

Pronouns and suppositions. Now I don't have any idea who you're talking about. Am I a sock?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 02, 2011, 09:51:16 AM

3 months really isn't long Fatal T.

Why doesn't she like it? You'd be hard pressed to find someone who doesn't enjoy 3 months in Ireland imho.

Tell her she should go to Wicklow Mountains for a weekend hike, it's lovely and like 40 min from Dublin.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 02, 2011, 12:14:44 PM

Quote from: tiesto on September 02, 2011, 09:09:07 AM

So I went on a date last nite with Alabama girl, and I had a great time. Girl was very cute, nice round face, brown hair, a bit on the thick/stocky side, and actually knew how to dress (this is a big deal since my last girlfriend wore nothing but baggy t-shirts and baggy jeans and sneakers no matter what the occasion). We talked about all sorts of stuff, I got to hear a bit about her job at Gamestop... then she asked me if I ever heard of a game called Chrono Trigger, and another called Earthbound... nope, can't say I have! I was telling her about the music festival I'm going to this weekend, and she said that she wanted to go to see Tiesto (!!!) but couldn't get off from work.

That sounds awesome! It's great to go on a date with someone and actually have things in common to talk about together :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 02, 2011, 12:59:23 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 02, 2011, 12:38:36 AM

It's crazy how back 10-15 years ago, everyone on the internet was 15-30. Now everyone on the internet (well, the forums and places I go) are 30-45. We're basically the internet generation that came with the internet and has stayed with it. It's not like a continual revolving door with young people coming in all the time and older folks leaving. I think the only young one we have here is green man.

It's cool because it's like we're all getting older together and you never feel like the odd man out. When I was a teen I thought 30 was THE END, but now everyone here and everywhere I go is 30 and it's normal.

Just to give an example:

I'm turning 30, Blackmage just turned 30, Mr. Gundam just turned 30, Howard Alan Treesang is only 31ish, duckroll is turning 30 soon. It's not like we all grew up together and were in the same high school class. We're random dudes who met anonymously on the internet and yet we're all fairly close in age. It's very interesting. I mean I met duckroll before I knew anything about him and later found out he's like 2 months age difference from me. Gamers are truly the internet generation.

ten years ago, those kids who were 15 are now 25 aka me, cajole and others. It's more like 25-40.

but cajole's right, teens are still on the internet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on September 02, 2011, 06:34:28 PM

Girlfriend is coming home tomorrow. I'm so happy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on September 02, 2011, 06:40:53 PM

hahaha wtf? she passed on a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity because (im assuming) she didnt want to be away from friends & family for that long?

i came in here to tell you that its going to suck for you, that three months without sex while still tied to a relationship is pure hell etc. but now none of that matters. good for you, wtf for her!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 02, 2011, 07:43:43 PM

Yeah that kind of sucks. She should have given it a chance. On the other hand congratz fatal.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 03, 2011, 05:34:30 AM

Was at a grad college party with 50 strangers or something. Talked to a few people, mostly guys; I tend to mingle with the guys and get friendly but not really women much. One of the guys said one of the girls was asking about me and was into me so he introduced me and we talked for a little, enough to realize she was fucking psycho. I kept going back to my friends and she'd grab me and want to talk outside in private and I was like uhhhhh, whatever since there wasn't really anything going on in the party otherwise. At first she said she had a boyfriend, then the more she talked to me she get complaining how she was single. I didn't say much, just kind of nodded and listened to her psycho insane stories as she talked FOR HOURS and kept showing me all her facebook and rubbing up against me and so when I left I went for a kiss cause whatever I'm never going to see her again and I don't care but I'm buzzed, she's attractive, and she's into me and I got DENIED, she turned her face away and goes "I'm...shy" and that was that.

I also feel like a manwhore for trying to hook up with women after women. I need to stop wanting to lock lips with every girl who thinks I'm hot. I like kissing, but willpower man.

Also the girl goes "you look like you're 21 because your short. Being short makes you look like a kid" :maf fu crazy psycho girl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: HyperZoneWasAwesome on September 03, 2011, 06:51:05 AM

put me on the 30-ish list too.

Not a bad place to be actually,.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 03, 2011, 08:54:32 AM

Wow your gf passed on a oncr in a lifetime experience... As an avid traveker I cant even begin understanding this. One day shell look back in regret.

I hope you tried to make her stay and not come back.

Such a wasted chance :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 03, 2011, 09:38:37 AM

After how many days did she give studying abroad?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on September 03, 2011, 11:14:01 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 02, 2011, 12:38:36 AM

I'm turning 30, Blackmage just turned 30, Mr. Gundam just turned 30, Howard Alan Treesang is only 31ish, duckroll is turning 30 soon. It's not like we all grew up together and were in the same high school class. We're random dudes who met anonymously on the internet and yet we're all fairly close in age. It's very interesting. I mean I met duckroll before I knew anything about him and later found out he's like 2 months age difference from me. Gamers are truly the internet generation.

Hey, I'm 30 too. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on September 03, 2011, 12:16:17 PM

I'm sorry but I don't want to talk about her coming back anymore. You guys are making me feel bad about it even though it was ultimately her decision. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 03, 2011, 12:25:00 PM

Sorry dude. You say ultimately her decision which makes it sound like you kind of asked her too come back or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 03, 2011, 12:26:57 PM

Bebpo's posts in this thread are always so long, jeez

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 03, 2011, 12:35:43 PM

Bebpo meets a girl a day, waddya expect ;-)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 03, 2011, 05:52:47 PM

Yeah I didnt mean it bad mate, sorry.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on September 03, 2011, 09:14:59 PM

Don't worry about it guys. Lol Wrath you'll get more FatalT time! I'm always here and I'll try to post more often. She won't look back and regret this decision because we're going to take trips all over the world when we have the money together.

Sure it's really weird for her to go over there and come back but you just have to know all the details of the situation and what type of person she is. This is the best decision to make for the both of us. Yeah, I did reinforce the decision to come back home instead of staying but I believe it was right and so did she.

I'm meeting her to pick her up from the airport in about an hour! WEEEEEEEE!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 04, 2011, 02:09:12 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on September 03, 2011, 06:37:34 AM

You make like a billion dollars a year, right? Can't you get with any girl in your extended social circle?

I've asked Bebs this a million times and he's never responded to it.

I'm guessing that lawyer related girls:

1) Lack whimsy
2) Don't love the animu
3) Really lack whimsy
4) Aren't "interesting"
5) Scare him

PROVE ME WRONG, BEBS, PROVE ME WRONG.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 04, 2011, 10:35:38 AM

lol @ gundam

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 04, 2011, 01:47:05 PM

I was going to tell my childhood friend my true feelings for her ans ask her out today. We have flirted for years: petting, touching, rubbing, jealousy, all that good stuff.

I was going through my head what I was going to say to her all week.

When I finally see her, she ignores me. I hug her and she just stands there. This woman is driving me insane. Every other time I see her she gets wide-eyed and can't stop touching me. Then on days like this she ignores me completely. I've tried to be there for her because her mom has cancer and her mom is like a second mom to me, she and my mother have been friends since childhood. But she doesn't try to connect with me despite the fact I'm going through the same shit, and doesn't contact me unless she has good news. She ignores me when I try to console her in regards to her mother's cancer, but I'm among the first she invites to her Grad School graduation last May. It's like she only tries to get in touch with me when she has good news, and it's like our history (I have known her literally my entire life) and flirtations mean nothing.

Today I had it. I'm not going to let my feelings be swayed by this woman as much as I care for her and I don't just mean as a something more than a friend too, but as a friend in general.

I don't know what happened to her. She used to be so nice and open but now she's this cold-hearted career oriented black woman who bitches about not finding dates on facebook.

I'd be lying if I said I'm not sad, though, and I feel like an idiot for even making this post.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 04, 2011, 02:28:22 PM

Cherish the friendship, that's it. If she needs her space, fine. And don't let her guilt you into being her tear pillow anymore dude. She clearly doesn't deserve it, at least not right now. Maybe she'll realize how much you care for her, or perhaps she does and just takes advantage of it.

In terms of dating your best female friend from childhood....I wouldn't do it. I've turned down my best female friend twice. We're still on good terms but I can tell she's moved away from me in many ways. We barely talk or see each other, although when we do talk it's like we're in high school all over again, just having fun and making fun of each other. She's gone from a tomboyish type girl into an attractive, smart woman but this is someone I've known for a decade and I don't want to fuck it up while we're still young. I've known her long enough to know she's one of these people who has to be with her boyfriend as much as humanly possible. I know that's something I couldn't deal with right now. So no matter how much I'm attracted to her, I know it wouldn't work out for any significant amount of time. Who knows, maybe when we're older..

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 04, 2011, 03:04:33 PM

She doesn't use me as a tear pillow, I don't take that bullshit. My problem is that she fluctuates in her appreciation towards me. I've realized that she's just words and doesn't have the actions to back any of it up, no matter what she says of our friendship or bond that extends past that. When I realized this today, I just felt a lump go down my gut, swallowed my pride and left. I don't see the point in telling someone they're special to you if they act like they don't even care (unless they've done something praise worthy that is).

Maybe I'm being an emo bitch about this but I don't think so.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 04, 2011, 04:21:37 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on September 04, 2011, 03:04:33 PM

She doesn't use me as a tear pillow, I don't take that bullshit. My problem is that she fluctuates in her appreciation towards me. I've realized that she's just words and doesn't have the actions to back any of it up, no matter what she says of our friendship or bond that extends past that. When I realized this today, I just felt a lump go down my gut, swallowed my pride and left. I don't see the point in telling someone they're special to you if they act like they don't even care (unless they've done something praise worthy that is).

Maybe I'm being an emo bitch about this but I don't think so.

Although you could've told her how you felt and it would've been fine, you still took the high road.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 04, 2011, 04:47:37 PM

Well, I just have this deep feeling that I'll only come to regret not telling her, whether she appreciates it or not and not in a "I LOVE YOU! BE WITH ME!!!" nerdlinger I've-been-going-with-this girl-for-only-two-weeks-and-I-want-to-tie-the-knot way either, but a sincere message that she's important to my life. At this point, I'm not even sure if it's worth it but I don't want to doubt myself in the future, and I can't help the emotions I feel when I'm around her and she's not acting like a bitch.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 04, 2011, 04:50:48 PM

You can tell her, it's not going to cause problems, but you also know that she's not relationship material. She's not going to somehow change into a better person overnight.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 04, 2011, 05:08:48 PM

This thread makes me sad :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 04, 2011, 05:16:01 PM

Don't. Enjoy your friendship. She's not one of a kind. There are other girls out there like her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 04, 2011, 05:22:10 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on September 04, 2011, 04:50:48 PM

You can tell her, it's not going to cause problems, but you also know that she's not relationship material. She's not going to somehow change into a better person overnight.

True enough, I might as well forget about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on September 04, 2011, 06:04:54 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 04, 2011, 05:08:48 PM

This thread makes me sad :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 04, 2011, 11:42:30 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 04, 2011, 05:08:48 PM

This thread makes me sad :(

:( sorry :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on September 05, 2011, 12:12:21 AM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on September 04, 2011, 04:50:48 PM

You can tell her, it's not going to cause problems, but you also know that she's not relationship material. She's not going to somehow change into a better person overnight.

oh man, truth bombs left n right

:bow objectivity :bow2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 05, 2011, 12:19:40 AM

I might as well give everyone a rundown of my latest situation.

Early this year, I met a girl named Caty. Very cute in my eyes, extremely talented (music major; opera singer and theatre performer), very interesting style. At the time she was in the middle of a very long relationship -- two years running. We kept on meeting at college parties, and we'd always end up finding a secluded corner to just talk – about everything. We did this for weeks upon weeks. I won't lie, I was falling for her, but I knew it was all trouble considering her longterm relationship. Her boyfriend was a typical Vanderbilt student – sorta fratty, sorta douchey, but still a decent guy all around.

Well, spring break rolled around and I told her I was just going home for the week to see my family. My best friend in Nashville who goes to Vanderbilt is also a friend from my high school in Ohio, so he was coming home for a few days as well. Caty tells me right before that she was going to come to Ohio with the aforementioned friend for a day or so just to see our hometown because she was curious about the Midwest (she's from the OC in Cali). I was really looking forward to showing her around my hometown.

The first day, we hung out at night, went bowling, and drank together. A lot of fun! She was away from her boyfriend so she seemed a lot freer and more open to doing different things. She was staying at my friends house during this, mind you. The next day, my friend went to go run a few errands with his family, and he said it would take like 6 to 7 hours. So I took her from him and hung out with her the entire day, just her and I. We talked a LOT, had a lot of fun, I showed her my high school, my old job, the local hangouts and restaurants, etc. That evening, we had a party at my other friends house for other kids home for spring break. Needless to say, her and I got a bit tipsy and were partners in beer pong. We ran the table. At the end of the night, I offered to drive her back to my friends house just because it was on my way. Before she left, I (because I was a bit tipsy) told her my feelings and kissed her. She reciprocated. She had feelings as well. In retrospect I feel like an asshole for moving in on a girl who was already in a relationship, but it's how I felt. And how she felt as well. We made out in the car for 45 minutes or so. I even let her out and started to drive away, stopped the car, ran out and grabbed her again just to kiss her some more.

Obviously this was a lot to take in for her. She went back to Nashville the next day and broke up with her boyfriend a few days later, something she was thinking of doing for a while. I should've seen red flags everywhere, but I didn't. She told me I wasn't a rebound, and I believed her. I shouldn't have. Everytime we hung out the next few months (which was, like, every night), she would feel sad about her ex and get emotional, sometimes cry. I distinctly remember one night we were fooling around in an open room at a party and she was one hundred percent naked on top of me, crying. It was awkward. I was jealous of her affection towards her ex still, and I would make it known. She told me I was disrespectful for not understanding her feelings. Whatever.

But I just thought this was normal, considering it was a two year relationship. I went home for the summer for a few weeks, as did she. During that break apart, she texts me (NOT CALLS) saying that we were too different and we couldn't work. I was of course upset, because I really liked her and at one point she told me she loved me. I was blind sided. When we got back to Nashville, we still hung out all the time, but under a veil of my anger and resentment of her decisions. Right in front of my face, she started hanging out with fuck buddies. I was pissed and I would tell her, and she told me to get over her. I tried, but couldn't. This continued until school started.

And school did start. And what do you know, she got back with her ex boyfriend. She had told me NUMEROUS times that she never wanted to talk or see him again (he hooked up with one of her best friends numerous times after they broke up). So they're back together, and she wants to stop talking to me as much because she said its bad for everyone that I'm still not over her. I'm trying really hard to do so, and it's getting better, but obviously I'm still bitter and resentful. All my friends seem to side for me but they continually yell at me for even getting in that situation in the first place. I don't care. I just wish she liked me like she used to.

Blah. Take that as you will.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 05, 2011, 12:49:49 AM

What really upsets me is that a lot of people put the blame on me for the entire situation. Before they broke up, Caty and her boyfriend were thought of as the inseparable couple; perfect for each other, never fighting, never dramatic, etc. When they broke up, I lost a few friends because they blamed me for ruining their dynamic. I was both the villain and the victim in the entire situation. It's been rough.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 05, 2011, 12:59:57 AM

why would anyone blame you? she's the one who ultimately broke up with her bf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 05, 2011, 01:06:41 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 05, 2011, 12:19:40 AM

I might as well give everyone a rundown of my latest situation.

Early this year, I met a girl named Caty. Very cute in my eyes, extremely talented (music major; opera singer and theatre performer), very interesting style. At the time she was in the middle of a very long relationship -- two years running. We kept on meeting at college parties, and we'd always end up finding a secluded corner to just talk – about everything. We did this for weeks upon weeks. I won't lie, I was falling for her, but I knew it was all trouble considering her longterm relationship. Her boyfriend was a typical Vanderbilt student – sorta fratty, sorta douchey, but still a decent guy all around.

Well, spring break rolled around and I told her I was just going home for the week to see my family. My best friend in Nashville who goes to Vanderbilt is also a friend from my high school in Ohio, so he was coming home for a few days as well. Caty tells me right before that she was going to come to Ohio with the aforementioned friend for a day or so just to see our hometown because she was curious about the Midwest (she's from the OC in Cali). I was really looking forward to showing her around my hometown.

The first day, we hung out at night, went bowling, and drank together. A lot of fun! She was away from her boyfriend so she seemed a lot freer and more open to doing different things. She was staying at my friends house during this, mind you. The next day, my friend went to go run a few errands with his family, and he said it would take like 6 to 7 hours. So I took her from him and hung out with her the entire day, just her and I. We talked a LOT, had a lot of fun, I showed her my high school, my old job, the local hangouts and restaurants, etc. That evening, we had a party at my other friends house for other kids home for spring break. Needless to say, her and I got a bit tipsy and were partners in beer pong. We ran the table. At the end of the night, I offered to drive her back to my friends house just because it was on my way. Before she left, I (because I was a bit tipsy) told her my feelings and kissed her. She reciprocated. She had feelings as well. In retrospect I feel like an asshole for moving in on a girl who was already in a relationship, but it's how I felt. And how she felt as well. We made out in the car for 45 minutes or so. I even let her out and started to drive away, stopped the car, ran out and grabbed her again just to kiss her some more.

Obviously this was a lot to take in for her. She went back to Nashville the next day and broke up with her boyfriend a few days later, something she was thinking of doing for a while. I should've seen red flags everywhere, but I didn't. She told me I wasn't a rebound, and I believed her. I shouldn't have. Everytime we hung out the next few months (which was, like, every night), she would feel sad about her ex and get emotional, sometimes cry. I distinctly remember one night we were fooling around in an open room at a party and she was one hundred percent naked on top of me, crying. It was awkward. I was jealous of her affection towards her ex still, and I would make it known. She told me I was disrespectful for not understanding her feelings. Whatever.

But I just thought this was normal, considering it was a two year relationship. I went home for the summer for a few weeks, as did she. During that break apart, she texts me (NOT CALLS) saying that we were too different and we couldn't work. I was of course upset, because I really liked her and at one point she told me she loved me. I was blind sided. When we got back to Nashville, we still hung out all the time, but under a veil of my anger and resentment of her decisions. Right in front of my face, she started hanging out with fuck buddies. I was pissed and I would tell her, and she told me to get over her. I tried, but couldn't. This continued until school started.

And school did start. And what do you know, she got back with her ex boyfriend. She had told me NUMEROUS times that she never wanted to talk or see him again (he hooked up with one of her best friends numerous times after they broke up). So they're back together, and she wants to stop talking to me as much because she said its bad for everyone that I'm still not over her. I'm trying really hard to do so, and it's getting better, but obviously I'm still bitter and resentful. All my friends seem to side for me but they continually yell at me for even getting in that situation in the first place. I don't care. I just wish she liked me like she used to.

Blah. Take that as you will.

tl dr

you're hot, acquire bitches

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 05, 2011, 01:07:37 AM

They said I was the reason they did so, and they thought I ruined everything for everyone. I don't know. I was looking out for my interests, is that so wrong?

This was us at our prime:

(http://i.imgur.com/x8vhN.png)

:'(

We were so happy at one time. I just hate everything right now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 05, 2011, 01:11:30 AM

her loss, mate

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 05, 2011, 01:16:57 AM

That's a really shitty picture of her, but I wanted to show you how happy we were

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 05, 2011, 01:25:36 AM

i've seen happier

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 05, 2011, 02:06:21 AM

I read something about Sundays being the night when girls are bored and tired from the weekend and want to talk with you. I think it's true.

Tonight I've been hungover, tired all night and:

-One girl sends me a message on facebook
-One girl calls me on the phone
-One girl IMs me on aim

All at about the same time. I'm like, fuck, I'm too tired to socialize; let alone with 3 people at once!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 05, 2011, 02:07:38 AM

Ok, catching up on Brandnew's story. Brandnew is really hot.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 05, 2011, 02:52:51 AM

Ok, read that; Brandnew is still really hot; much hotter than that girl.

That being said, sorry to hear that man. I've come to the conclusion that when women get out of a long relationship they are even MORE crazy than normal! No matter wtf they say or do, they still feeling like "for everyday he was my sun, I was his moon, etc...etc...sappy sappy hopeless romantic" and it pulls them apart unless they stomp that shit DOWN. But it takes effort to move on and if a girl is weak in the confidence department they can't do it and it'll take foreeeeever and they'll destroy many guys in the process who try to start something new with them.

You're super hot, so just get out there, and keep getting out there until you find someone else. Not just someone with a pretty face who likes to suck your cock, but someone you actually connect with and can have fun together. That's where I am myself as well.

Also don't listen to romantic music and don't listen to bitter romantic music.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on September 05, 2011, 02:59:14 AM

Why is BrandNew hugging a bag lady? Xmas at the soup kitchen?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 05, 2011, 03:13:00 AM

Brandnew, an alpha male will always get some heat from jealous people.

What others say is being an asshole, like cheating or stealing women is simply your superior alpha genes trying to spread. It's not your fault, it's nature.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 05, 2011, 03:44:42 AM

Thanks everyone. I still love her but I'm just trying to be what everyone wants me to be at the time: a friend only, for her and everyone else. Le sigh.

Here are more pictures of her.

(http://i.imgur.com/Idwcj.png)
(http://i.imgur.com/NRF8T.png)

And here she is with her ex/current boyfriend:

(http://i.imgur.com/5Lj2K.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 05, 2011, 03:48:43 AM

Lol she traded you in for that? You got to be shitting me.

He looks like a christian :-X :yuck :-X

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 05, 2011, 03:54:52 AM

Religion has nothing to do with my interest in women (unless they're hardcore towards a certain direction –– indifference is what I look for), but they're both staunch atheists.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 05, 2011, 04:07:31 AM

That guy is fugly Brandnew.

Maybe she just needs security and can't hang with a cool dude like you, settling for not cool but stable and boring dude in pic.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 05, 2011, 04:11:02 AM

You can't be friends, after she screwed you over like that, sorry. It only makes it worse.

Sucks, but it's the truth.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 05, 2011, 04:14:48 AM

Yeah you can't be friends with her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 05, 2011, 04:25:52 AM

I don't believe that philosophy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 05, 2011, 04:30:28 AM

You can be friends with her.

In a year or two.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 05, 2011, 05:14:42 AM

Just got an e-mail concreting plans for tomorrow (wasn't sure if it was happening since she was out of town and sometimes it takes a day or two for her to get to an e-mail). 1st date/meet-up with a cool girl I've been penpaling with for 3 weeks now.

Life is going so good lately! I'm just worried that the come down when all this stuff explodes in my face will be harsh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on September 05, 2011, 05:54:22 AM

BN: You won't be able to be proper friends until all feelings are overcome. It will be tough to discuss relationships otherwise.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 05, 2011, 06:25:58 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 05, 2011, 12:19:40 AM

we were fooling around in an open room at a party and she was one hundred percent naked on top of me, crying. It was awkward.

You're a god of understatement.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on September 05, 2011, 06:35:38 AM

Quote from: Premium Lager on September 05, 2011, 03:48:43 AM

He looks like a christian :-X :yuck :-X

lol spot on. first words that came to my mind were "aspiring youth pastor"

i'm sorry to hear about your situation brandnew, but i don't see how staying close friends is gonna be a realistic option. if people are blaming you for breaking up the relationship, her bf prolly hates your fucking guts. being close to her will be difficult because he won't approve of the sitation at all, and of course people will talk if they know you two are still hanging out behind this dude's back. best to just work on moving forward, cuz there's not much else you can gain from holding on to feelings for her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 05, 2011, 07:43:04 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on September 05, 2011, 01:11:30 AM

her loss, mate

This.

Also, you initiated, but she responded. She was interested. She may have been using you to make the move she wanted to all along, but couldn't admit to herself.

If she's also been fooling around with the boys' choir and rugby team while on break, and then immediately got back together with her ex, it says two things:

1) You learned early and fast that it won't work for you two, consider yourself lucky.
2) A relationship that doesn't work is like a shoe that doesn't fit. She's going to find that she still doesn't fit with the young pastor, there.

When she figures it out, don't get back together with her. You can do better. Still, grey eyes. I feel your pain. I am always suckered by women with grey eyes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on September 05, 2011, 01:15:08 PM

:( BN got dumped for Bieber.

I sorry mang. Any girl who would fuck a dude that looked like that has major issues. Next step: a dykey broad who looks like Bieber.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 05, 2011, 01:15:17 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 05, 2011, 04:25:52 AM

I don't believe that philosophy.

It's the truth, though. Being around her is just gonna tear you up and you know it. Bebpo and Lager are spot on.

If nothing else, you need to spend a period of time away from her before you can be friends. My longterm girlfriend in college broke up with me right before senior year, yet she wanted to still be friends and hang out all the time. She always seemed to find a way to hang around. It fucking ruined me and plunged me into a major funk for a good six months.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 05, 2011, 07:01:59 PM

Sorry to hear that, Brian, but you deserve better, brah!

We should change title of this thread to RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of good looking single dudes... and Blackmage :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 05, 2011, 07:03:39 PM

This mother fucking fly wont get the fuck oout of the WAY fuuuuck I CANT CATCH IT :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on September 05, 2011, 08:23:23 PM

BrandNew: So you met a girl and got really emotionally attached to her, you guys dated, she broke up with you, you're real upset, and she's still around geographically and socially. That's the summary, no?

For the near future, stay away from her. You're not going to rewind the clock to some brief moment of past happiness by being around her, and you're not going to quickly transition into a simple, drama-free friendship with her either.

You'll just make yourself more miserable and prolong your own grief. So for a while, just stay the fuck away.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on September 05, 2011, 08:25:28 PM

yes but he might get some pity sex now and then. Deny the power of this argument.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 05, 2011, 08:26:15 PM

Quote from: Cormacaroni on September 05, 2011, 08:25:28 PM

yes but he might get some pity sex now and then. Deny the power of this argument.

you evil bastard

stay away, BrandNew!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 05, 2011, 08:29:07 PM

It's actually been okay lately with us, and actually her boyfriend really likes me for some reason.

It's whatever. At the very least this whole situation has gotten me a lot of sympathy from the girls in our group, regardless if they blame me or not. Got to touch the greatest ass ever the other night out of sheer coincidence. It was nice.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 05, 2011, 08:32:54 PM

Quote from: Cormacaroni on September 05, 2011, 08:25:28 PM

yes but he might get some pity sex now and then. Deny the power of this argument.

I know it's Cormac Birthday Week 2011 and all, but c'mon man, don't torture the poor lad. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on September 05, 2011, 08:34:57 PM

Look, if I can't be mean to people younger and better-looking and more single than me this week, I just don't want to live on this planet anymore. Fair warning :punch

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 05, 2011, 09:44:48 PM

I'm sure she's not so wildly unique that you need to make a big deal of this and humiliate yourself. Get over her and move on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 05, 2011, 10:31:46 PM

I'm trying. My issue is that it seems like all the girls I fall for are in serious long term relationships :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 05, 2011, 10:37:52 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 05, 2011, 10:31:46 PM

I'm trying. My issue is that it seems like all the girls I fall for are in serious long term relationships :lol

homewrecker confirmed

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 05, 2011, 10:40:12 PM

Quote from: Cormacaroni on September 05, 2011, 08:34:57 PM

Look, if I can't be mean to people younger and better-looking and more single than me this week, I just don't want to live on this planet anymore. Fair warning :punch

**adopts philosophy**

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 05, 2011, 10:41:07 PM

Cajole when I saw you replied, I was expecting "I know that feel bro." You disappoint me!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 05, 2011, 10:51:21 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 05, 2011, 02:52:51 AM

Ok, read that; Brandnew is still really hot; much hotter than that girl.

That being said, sorry to hear that man. I've come to the conclusion that when women get out of a long relationship they are even MORE crazy than normal! No matter wtf they say or do, they still feeling like "for everyday he was my sun, I was his moon, etc...etc...sappy sappy hopeless romantic" and it pulls them apart unless they stomp that shit DOWN.

That line immediately made me think of this:

[youtube=560,345]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ll5ykbAumD4[/youtube]

BN: It sucks when people "take sides" so to speak in terms of relationships... After breaking up with my ex, I think a few people are very pissed at me but just aren't coming out and saying things. One of them, normally a very close friend (the one that introduced me to her) has been very passive-aggressive towards me. IMO, it's not any of their business...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 05, 2011, 11:08:32 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 05, 2011, 10:41:07 PM

Cajole when I saw you replied, I was expecting "I know that feel bro." You disappoint me!

I'm a dick. Whatever, I don't feel bad about it. You shouldn't either.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 05, 2011, 11:10:26 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 05, 2011, 10:41:07 PM

Cajole when I saw you replied, I was expecting "I know that feel bro." You disappoint me!

but he doesn't know this feel, bro

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 05, 2011, 11:12:19 PM

I don't know how it feels to be as sexy as BrandNew, no

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 05, 2011, 11:13:47 PM

Actually if I was a girl I'd be more attracted to you, for what it's worth

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 05, 2011, 11:17:09 PM

...

:maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 05, 2011, 11:18:01 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 05, 2011, 11:13:47 PM

Actually if I was a girl I'd be more attracted to you, for what it's worth

i don't know what cajole looks like but agree'd.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on September 06, 2011, 12:53:49 AM

If BrandNew were gay, he'd have a string of hopeless crushes on straight boys.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other
Post by: Bacchus7 on September 06, 2011, 01:13:04 AM

I think that girl just falls for guys that look 17, probably because she think she won't get hurt, but that just made her feel comfortable hurting one of them, but then when that dude ended up hurting her by sleeping with one of her best friends, she respected his gangster and wants him back now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 06, 2011, 01:44:19 AM

Quote from: Mandark on September 06, 2011, 12:53:49 AM

If BrandNew were gay, he'd have a string of hopeless crushes on straight boys.

Who says I have to be gay for that :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 06, 2011, 04:31:29 AM

Date went sort of as expected since it wasn't really a date and we were penpal friends going in and that's what it was, though it still had a bit of the awkwardness of a 1st date meetup, but yeah I think she's a really interesting person, but I'm not really interested dating-wise. She's good looking and successful and fun, but we're both waaaaaay too open and it's like TOO MUCH INFORMATION OVERLOAD and it's not really romantically appealing.

Also so I'm at this concert for The Pillows and when I walk up to the line this super hot girl STARES THE FUCK AT ME for like an entire minute as I walk by her to stand further in line. She literally stares at me and tracks my movement for an entire minute while standing next to her bf. I was like wat wat wat. Then I went to dinner with my friend and when I went into the show later I never saw that girl again; if I did I dunnnnoo, I might have actually tried talking to her! She was like SO HOT and what was up with that stare! Then again when standing next to a bunch of anime/jrock people in line, being dressed for a date with an adult woman, I probably stuck out more than I normally do in a good way :P

Also x 2 despite all this, I do have moments of falling back into sappy loneliness. When I was at the show solo and saw all these guys with their girls I was like awwwww :\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 06, 2011, 04:36:22 AM

Be happy your single bro. My dad always says its easy to get one, but impossible to get rid off :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 06, 2011, 09:07:28 AM

This weekend I'm going out with some girl who really seems to like me (i.e. she txts me every day). She looks like my ex-ex girlfriend (crazy Christian girl) but with long black hair/bangs instead of short dirty blonde hair. Same build (short, curvy, big boobs), same eyes (almost Asian-looking but both girls are white).

It sucks that a lot of the girls I find the most attractive from OKC, we'll email once or twice and then they will stop mailing me back... or they won't respond when I ask them out for coffee. FUCK!

And all the girls I met at EZoo were from the UK or (go figure) Ireland... :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 06, 2011, 10:50:02 AM

Man this thread is filled with sad stories. wtf

I stole my wife from her boyfriend. There was a bit of BS at the beginning but we're fantastic now. Don't give a fuck.

Our two year marriage anniversary is Friday. It's gone by so fucking fast but it's been so awesome.

My wife insisted on taking taking two trips to the comic book store yesterday so she could load up on Wonder Woman and so we could set up subscriptions for the new DC issues #1's. We also went twice Saturday. Sunday night we went bowling with 6 other people and I came in first and she came in second. POWER COUPLE! She bought The Amazing Spiderman issues #361 and 362 over the weekend too.

Yeah we're awesome.

Just wanted to change the tone of this thread a bit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 06, 2011, 11:28:58 PM

Protip: Never enter a long distance relationship. Never never never never never.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Trent Dole on September 07, 2011, 12:12:09 AM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on September 06, 2011, 11:28:58 PM

Protip: Never enter a long distance relationship. Never never never never never.

It'll be 2 years of marriage this October for me and the gal I had a cross country LDR with. :P :rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 07, 2011, 12:16:44 AM

not saying they can't work. just saying they FUCKING SUCK.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on September 07, 2011, 01:02:06 AM

Long distance rarely works, when it does yey- normally no.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 07, 2011, 03:00:12 AM

Here's some advice:

girls :yuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on September 07, 2011, 03:03:14 AM

lol- I love women; but I dont think I want another relationship at this point, and the idea of forcing one to occur for any particular reason isnt fair to anyone. So for now (and maybe ever cause lol old people finding dates) sittin round doin what I want knowing its the choice I made so wtfever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 07, 2011, 03:19:08 AM

I know what you mean, I wasn't planning on having one and I kind of rolled into it over the last few months. Guess that's how it happens, you can't plan this shit. And I really, really wasn't looking for anything serious.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on September 07, 2011, 03:26:07 AM

Is what it is.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 07, 2011, 03:36:26 AM

yeah that's how it worked out for me. we're meeting up in a month to finally reunite after like 6 months apart, but I'm super worried the spark is gone and it's onna be awkwardfest 2k11. whatever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on September 07, 2011, 03:41:49 AM

Dont dwell on the possibility- just go with the flow and pick up where you left off.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 07, 2011, 04:45:56 AM

6 months is not too bad. In a week it will be like you never left her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 07, 2011, 09:06:13 AM

I asked the girl from Alabama out for sushi, she says that sounds like fun but she isn't sure what she's doing so she'll get back to me (ruh-roh)... so here's crossing my fingers. I'd love to have a cute girlfriend with stuff in common with...

Have a date tonite with a girl named Katherine, lol if things work out I better not cheat on her ;)

I need to go out on a bunch of dates to distract me from the horrible news of DQX :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 07, 2011, 06:29:47 PM

I want to move to where you are tiesto, I have another first date tonight (I think it's a date? Or maybe a friend hang out? I dunno, I have become incapable of differentiating the two) and it's dinner with ANOTHER VEGETARIAN ahhhhh. I didn't realize she was vegetarian when I offered to show her around town to all the good local food joints; most of my good local food joints have meat!

So we're going to shabu shabu since you can get no meat and just dip the veggies and noodles if you want :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 07, 2011, 06:42:49 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 07, 2011, 06:29:47 PM

I want to move to where you are tiesto, I have another first date tonight (I think it's a date? Or maybe a friend hang out? I dunno, I have become incapable of differentiating the two) and it's dinner with ANOTHER VEGETARIAN ahhhhh. I didn't realize she was vegetarian when I offered to show her around town to all the good local food joints; most of my good local food joints have meat!

So we're going to shabu shabu since you can get no meat and just dip the veggies and noodles if you want :P

it's a date. good luck, dude.

I had a date this weekend but my parents went out of town and I'm watching my dying dog. I didn't tell her that, though. I just told her I had to work.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 07, 2011, 06:46:48 PM

Sorry to hear that man :(

Thanks again for coming out to the party, it was really nice to meet you in person.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 07, 2011, 06:49:14 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 07, 2011, 06:46:48 PM

Sorry to hear that man :(

Thanks again for coming out to the party, it was really nice to meet you in person.

yeah same. It was fun and your place is awesome. I just wish I wasn;t so tired. Felt like a party pooper.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 07, 2011, 06:54:34 PM

No way, it was nice talking. What time did you end up leaving? When I woke up at like 9am you had already left.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 07, 2011, 06:59:25 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 07, 2011, 06:54:34 PM

No way, it was nice talking. What time did you end up leaving? When I woke up at like 9am you had already left.

I left at 7.. the drive home was nice at least. No traffic. When I got home I slept another 6 hours :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 07, 2011, 07:13:31 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 07, 2011, 06:54:34 PM

No way, it was nice talking. What time did you end up leaving? When I woke up at like 9am you had already left.

Blackmage don't cuddle :pimp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 07, 2011, 07:22:33 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 07, 2011, 07:13:31 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 07, 2011, 06:54:34 PM
No way, it was nice talking. What time did you end up leaving? When I woke up at like 9am you had already left.

Blackmage don't cuddle :pimp

i do cuddle but i was relegated to the couch :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 07, 2011, 07:26:19 PM

That reminds me. Me and Bebpo had this discussion when I was over at his house. At what age would you consider dating a woman with a kid? I think Bebpo said he wouldn't until at least 40, but I'm on the fence about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on September 07, 2011, 08:49:56 PM

anytime as long as she's hot

seriously tho it depends on how good she is with the kid(s). if she's keeping an evil little monster at home then bail the fuck out asap. if she's stern but supportive with her kids and they are well-behaved then full speed ahead.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 07, 2011, 09:02:37 PM

But if you start dating don't you suddenly go from single guy to pseudo-parent? Normally you get 9 months to prepare, it seems like it'd be a lot of responsibility for suddenly having a kid in you're life.

The reason I said 40 is I don't even want to date a single mom until I feel ready to raise a kid, aka 35-40.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 07, 2011, 09:07:26 PM

Quote from: dcharlie on September 07, 2011, 09:04:11 PM

Quote
Protip: Never enter a long distance relationship. Never never never never never.

i did it for 4 years and it was absolutely THE bet time dating that i had in ages.

Then again, this is in the UK where, at worst, it was a 4 hour train journey away - i suspect in the US that can mean X hour flights etc.

We're on opposite sides of the planet sooo.....

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 08, 2011, 01:41:09 AM

Date went good, I think. Lots of talking, good groove. We started talking about the dating world and relationships at the end and I made it clear that I'm not interested in casual hookups dates, and just dating around until I find someone to actually "date" if things click. Whereas she made it clear that she's not interested in "dating" anyone for a long while but she is looking for FwB casual hookups to keep her libido having good times. I think she was channeling she was sort of into the possibility of that with me, but I wasn't interested. She definitely seems interested in hanging out more and it's fun so I'm cool with that, but I don't think there's anything romantic there.

Also CUE this NEW AGE EARLY/MID 20s GIRL thinking that the standard form of RELATIONSHIPS is "dead" and that people don't want to be tied down by rules like "monogamy" and want to just meet people, have fun, have fun sex, and maybe one day fall in love and until that time, never be in a "relationship". She is one of the SEVERAL girls I've seen lately with this line of thought. That "Boyfriend girlfriend" relationships are old and boring and outdated.

Fuck this world, I want to get off if this is how most girls are thinking these days >:(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 08, 2011, 01:50:46 AM

Exactly. She's in her early to mid twenties.

You need to find yourself a lawyer girl. Maybe you'll meet someone at the conference up here in Seattle.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 08, 2011, 01:54:05 AM

Why do you guys keep pushing lawyer women?

You do realize that the only time you tend to meet other lawyers is when BATTLING AGAINST THEM AS ADVERSARIES :P Well that and bumping into each other at conferences.

I don't think I'd even be interested in dating a lawyer. I don't want to talk about lawyer stuff. That's what I do at work! I want to meet someone who is a right-brain user and does crazy shit that I can respect.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on September 08, 2011, 02:25:32 AM

Im not sure you'd wanna hook up with someone that does the same thing you do anyway

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 08, 2011, 02:53:06 AM

Yeah, it's boring! My work is fun to do but not really fun to talk about ^^; Plus confidentiality and all that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 08, 2011, 02:55:36 AM

Just out of curiosity, how old are you bebpo?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 08, 2011, 03:02:10 AM

Turning 30 in a month.

RANDOM TRIVIA - girl from tonight's date says HEY MY BIRTHDAY IS NEXT MONTH. ME TOO! WHAT DAY. OCT 6TH. WTF MY BIRTHDAY IS OCTOBER 6TH. So yeah, we have the exact same birthday (with a 6 year age difference). Cool coincidence for a first date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 08, 2011, 03:04:50 AM

You should consider dating older women maybe if you're looking for commitment. Maybe late twenties instead.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on September 08, 2011, 03:20:40 AM

im just sayin in bebpos case. everyones a snowflake or something

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on September 08, 2011, 03:26:01 AM

that birthday thing happened to me once, except it ended when she said "1990" and i said "fuck off"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 08, 2011, 03:44:09 AM

My gf is a couple of years older then me.

I don't have patience for these early 20's girls, besides some fun that is.

Quote from: Linkzg on September 08, 2011, 03:26:01 AM

that birthday thing happened to me once, except it ended when she said "1990" and i said "fuck off"

You should have had sex first man. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 08, 2011, 03:48:53 AM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on September 08, 2011, 03:04:50 AM

You should consider dating older women maybe if you're looking for commitment. Maybe late twenties instead.

Well, when I think older women and commitment I think long term relationships and maybe marriage and that's not what I'm looking for either. I'm looking for a start and see where it goes. Maybe 1 week, 1 month, 1 year, forever. I'm going to let things take their course. But I'd also like a girl I can tell people hi, this is my gf and who isn't going on dates and sleeping with other guys on the days i'm not seeing her. So basically a monogamous relationship with no expectations other than I like you, you like me, let's go out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 08, 2011, 03:50:37 AM

Bebpo I think everybody here told you many times, that what you want is a bubble and doesn't exist long term.

If you want to be monogamous thats the opposite of no expectations or commitments.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 08, 2011, 03:54:52 AM

The reason all the girls I date now are 6-7 years younger is because A) there are 10x the amount of 24 year olds on online dating as 30 year olds, B) many 30 year olds have kids or baggage (divorcee) because most girls find a guy and marry by 30 these days so and C) kind of shallow but girls in their 20s tend to have better bodies and the libido part of me tends to go for them over a woman in her 30s.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 08, 2011, 03:57:11 AM

Women that are older have more experience and are better in bed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 08, 2011, 04:01:01 AM

You know, you can end relationships if they're getting too intense for you. I think older women might be more into the commitment thing, and if you make it clear up front you're just looking to take it slow you can break things off pretty guilt-free if you don't like how it's headed. Just a thought. I'm in my mid-twenties so what the fuck do I know?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 08, 2011, 04:05:35 AM

You're right Bob.

Funny thing I discovered lately is that I am being more and more attracted to women, and less and less to girls. It's like I look at them and the whole package and it's just more attractive. Like I can feel they know what they want... :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on September 08, 2011, 04:12:50 AM

...and they're willing to pay for it or at least buy the drinks

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 08, 2011, 04:19:19 AM

Buying drinks for girls is for saps anyway. It just makes you look eager, and looking eager is never good.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 08, 2011, 04:26:47 AM

I can get a girl a beer... if she buys the next round.

Bebpo are you paying for dinner when you go on these dates?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 08, 2011, 04:31:15 AM

Yeah, that's cool.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 08, 2011, 05:22:34 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 08, 2011, 01:54:05 AM

Why do you guys keep pushing lawyer women?

You do realize that the only time you tend to meet other lawyers is when BATTLING AGAINST THEM AS ADVERSARIES :P Well that and bumping into each other at conferences.

I don't think I'd even be interested in dating a lawyer. I don't want to talk about lawyer stuff. That's what I do at work! I want to meet someone who is a right-brain user and does crazy shit that I can respect.

It's good practice for marriage.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 08, 2011, 05:40:59 AM

Ima tell your wife Chrono :P

Unless you wanna fight me about it. Throw punches in bunches. Punish my mid-section.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 08, 2011, 09:11:56 AM

Quote from: Premium Lager on September 08, 2011, 05:40:59 AM

Ima tell your wife Chrono :P

Unless you wanna fight me about it. Throw punches in bunches. Punish my mid-section.

I believe your midsection has already suffered a Doctor Stoppage.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 08, 2011, 09:17:58 AM

Seems I'm always dating girls 1-3 years older, except these girls have barely any experience in dating. I prefer girls a few years younger though... Date last nite went OK, she is super liberal, hardcore environmentalist, big athiest... which may be a bit too much. I mean, I am librul and pro-environment and agnostic but I'm pretty moderate in it.

Bebpuuuu, definitely try to make it out to NY sometime.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 08, 2011, 11:55:09 AM

Girls I date are 6 years younger and have more experience dating than me :P

Also I keep running into a pattern with OKC girls, most of the girls I meet are 23/24, had a late start to dating, then were in 1 or 2 long several year relationships, they went bad and so now the girls are anti-relationship and just want to have fun with casual hookups and friends. They're in the "I'm in my early 20s, time to explore my sexuality" phase.

This describes at like 3 (maybe 4) girls I've met recently. It's like these are the type of people that are drawn to the site in general.

Quote from: Premium Lager on September 08, 2011, 04:26:47 AM

I can get a girl a beer... if she buys the next round.

Bebpo are you paying for dinner when you go on these dates?

I try not to. Out of the 5 girls I've gone on dates with in the last 2 months, I paid for dinner with 2 of them.

Usually the girls are cool with splitting the bill.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Consul on September 08, 2011, 12:02:43 PM

why don't you try meeting people in real life instead of online?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 08, 2011, 12:03:46 PM

Anyhow, these aren't really rants because things are going well and I'm enjoying these dates and meeting people and other "things".

I just mention this stuff because I find it interesting from a sociology/psychology perspective of how online dating and its userbase match up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 08, 2011, 01:12:34 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 08, 2011, 01:54:05 AM

Why do you guys keep pushing lawyer women?

You do realize that the only time you tend to meet other lawyers is when BATTLING AGAINST THEM AS ADVERSARIES :P Well that and bumping into each other at conferences.

I don't think I'd even be interested in dating a lawyer. I don't want to talk about lawyer stuff. That's what I do at work! I want to meet someone who is a right-brain user and does crazy shit that I can respect.

It doesn't have to be a lawyering chick, just maybe something offline? You posted some awesome pictures of you and your family sailing in a racing league on Facebook. There aren't any single women there at the after parties? It might help cut down on the crazies to expand your horizons.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 08, 2011, 01:37:27 PM

I learned my lesson a while ago... don't use online as the only way to meet girls, just use it as one of many different tools. Always be open to the possibility that you may meet someone, but don't force it. Just do what you love...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on September 08, 2011, 02:53:16 PM

Quote from: chronovore on September 08, 2011, 05:22:34 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 08, 2011, 01:54:05 AM
Why do you guys keep pushing lawyer women?

You do realize that the only time you tend to meet other lawyers is when BATTLING AGAINST THEM AS ADVERSARIES :P Well that and bumping into each other at conferences.

I don't think I'd even be interested in dating a lawyer. I don't want to talk about lawyer stuff. That's what I do at work! I want to meet someone who is a right-brain user and does crazy shit that I can respect.

It's good practice for marriage.

If it's easier for you to comprehend, think of it this way: you knock their hitpoints down to nil, then you cast "Tame", followed by "Charm". Works every time.

This example works for white trash too, in a less oblique way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 08, 2011, 02:54:31 PM

I think specifically looking in general, be it on or offline, is a bad idea anyway. As long as you're going ou, doing the things you enjoy, and being generally sociable (and not just with girls who look attractive to you) things tend to find you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 08, 2011, 03:57:23 PM

Word.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 08, 2011, 04:00:18 PM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on September 08, 2011, 02:54:31 PM

I think specifically looking in general, be it on or offline, is a bad idea anyway. As long as you're going ou, doing the things you enjoy, and being generally sociable (and not just with girls who look attractive to you) things tend to find you.

This.

I know Bebpo and I are the same age, but I'm just an old fogey that is absolutely perplexed at the idea of online dating services.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 08, 2011, 06:23:34 PM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on September 08, 2011, 02:54:31 PM

I think specifically looking in general, be it on or offline, is a bad idea anyway. As long as you're going ou, doing the things you enjoy, and being generally sociable (and not just with girls who look attractive to you) things tend to find you.

The things I enjoy are solo experiences (traveling, photography, writing, building shit, playing guitar, drawing shit, playing games, watching movies, going to museums, building mechs, arguing on the internet, driving). I don't do anything that is a "social" experience with other human beings (besides hanging out with my friend group or going on a date); never really have.

Also I'm not generally sociable. I usually don't talk to strangers. I'm a fairly quiet person unless I'm hanging with someone I know.

The is the reason why a lot of people are online dating, guys AND girls. Because with this sector of the population, if they don't look, they'll never run into anyone in their lifestyle and so they'll never get the opportunity to meet another person or date. Yeah, the best way to give off that "I'm cool, oh yeah, totally badass come to me" vibe is to not be looking to go on dates or meet people of the opposite sex, but that kind of doesn't work if you are meeting them through a dating site.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 08, 2011, 06:28:19 PM

Lots of that stuff can include meeting people too. I just sat on the bus for hours and talked to this chinese girl next to me.

You can meet people anywhere, you just got to get over that weird step of being the first one to speak. I just said, oh youre flying back to china and we spent 2 hours talking bout china, religion, life etc. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 08, 2011, 06:30:05 PM

I've never been on a bus outside of Japan :-X

I have a car, it gets me places. Or I take a plane and then rent a car, take cabs, walk.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on September 08, 2011, 06:39:29 PM

http://www.theonion.com/articles/god-help-him-but-area-man-loves-that-crazy-bitch,2607/

made me think of you guys

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 08, 2011, 07:25:16 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 08, 2011, 06:23:34 PM

The things I enjoy are solo experiences (traveling,

Totally social activity.

Quote

photography

Same.

Quote

writing

Same here!

Quote

, building shit, playing guitar, drawing shit, playing games, watching movies, going to museums, building mechs, arguing on the internet, driving). I don't do anything that is a "social" experience with other human beings (besides hanging out with my friend group or going on a date); never really have.

You get the point. Most of these things are totally social activities. Ever thought about joining a photography club? Jam with other people? Go traveling and stay in a hostel and fuck some smokin' hot European chick? You can do it!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 08, 2011, 07:27:11 PM

http://www.meetup.com/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on September 08, 2011, 07:29:05 PM

All I hear is a lot of excuses.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Consul on September 08, 2011, 07:30:46 PM

Quote

Go traveling and stay in a hostel and fuck some smokin' hot European chick? You can do it!

I agree with this. If you need any tips PM me I am an expert on the subject.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 08, 2011, 07:36:12 PM

Seriously though, meetup is genius for this kind of thing. I've never used it, but it makes so much sense. Being socially awkward is no excuse since you'll be entirely surrounded by people with a very specific common interest. Conversation will be easy and you'll be making friends, man and woman, in no time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on September 08, 2011, 07:38:56 PM

We used to use meetup.com for finding fellow and local shiba owners. Once we had a good group, we transferred the group to Facebook. I could never remember my damn login there, but I agree - there are meetups for so many things.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on September 08, 2011, 07:45:52 PM

I dunno, I think there's something that creeps me out about people meeting up to celebrate one particular aspect of themselves- then again im so clearly antisocial these days it isnt even funny.

PAX creeps me out, the weird dog group at the local Starbucks creeps me out, neighborhood gatherings creep me out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 09, 2011, 12:36:45 AM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on September 08, 2011, 07:45:52 PM

neighborhood gatherings creep me out.

My neighborhood gatherings rock. Maybe you need a better neighborhood.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on September 09, 2011, 12:53:15 AM

Maybe you need a better FACE

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on September 09, 2011, 01:08:29 AM

Young people in general are useless- most dont know what they actually want to be doing

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 09, 2011, 02:21:10 AM

Meetup actually sounds kind of cool. Might browse and see if there are any cool local groups and go to a few gatherings.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 09, 2011, 11:00:55 AM

Three words: adult dodgeball league.

Seriously.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 09, 2011, 11:14:09 AM

I was talking to a girl last night who told me she plays in an adult dodgeball league!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 09, 2011, 11:15:19 AM

My wife and I have played in kickball, dodgeball and minigolf leagues with our friends. It's a blast.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 09, 2011, 11:39:47 AM

Quote from: Spencer on September 09, 2011, 12:57:27 AM

I went to PAX one year when it was still a pretty new thing. Oh the unwashed masses. And I do mean unwashed :yuck

Also, older girls :rock My wife is 4 years older than me. Young girls are flipping useless past the first few times you get it in.

Man i so agree.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 10, 2011, 07:14:57 AM

(http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v297/bebpo/fortune33.jpg)

Alright, bring it on suckas

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on September 10, 2011, 09:51:20 AM

Start from page 1 and take notes this time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on September 10, 2011, 10:27:24 AM

don't take advice from fortune cookies.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 10, 2011, 12:30:14 PM

Unless you're just looking to get laid, stop hooking up with crazy girls in their early 20's.

/thread

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 10, 2011, 12:40:31 PM

SET UP A DATING AGE LIMIT. 25 AND UP ONLY.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on September 10, 2011, 04:41:32 PM

also stop making excuses for why the advice in this thread wont work

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 10, 2011, 05:18:55 PM

Don't rob banks

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on September 10, 2011, 05:30:29 PM

and never cosplay again jeez

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 10, 2011, 11:48:30 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 10, 2011, 07:14:57 AM

(http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v297/bebpo/fortune33.jpg)

Alright, bring it on suckas

Quote from: lennedsay on September 10, 2011, 09:51:20 AM

Start from page 1 and take notes this time.

THIS.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 10, 2011, 11:51:00 PM

I wanna be Bebpo's wing man

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 11, 2011, 12:36:46 AM

I'll be his wing man while he's in Seattle.*

*I'd probably be a really shitty wing man, seeing how I've been married for ages now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 11, 2011, 12:56:30 AM

yea that sucks. otherwise:

"omg you look like harry potter! hi"
"hi. here's my friend, he's a lawyer"

threesome unlocked :bow

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 11, 2011, 02:19:05 AM

I'd be the best wingman ever. bebpo, come to toronto.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 11, 2011, 03:35:38 AM

I can be your Ice Man, Maverick.

Being a wingman is all about recocknizing who the girl you approached is more into early on, playing the joker role a bit and building up a contrast to your friend then taking evasive manouvers at the right time.

Edit: I dunno what I'm talking about. I don't think I've ever been a wingman.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 11, 2011, 12:56:42 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 11, 2011, 12:56:30 AM

yea that sucks. otherwise:

"omg you look like harry potter! hi"
"hi. here's my friend, he's a lawyer"

threesome unlocked :bow

:lol

But seriously Bebpo, let me know if you come up. I'll take you out for dinner or something. The rest of the Shat Pack is welcome as well, as long as you don't mind venturing into Capitol Hill for dinner at Quinn's.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 12, 2011, 08:50:17 AM

Oh man, internet dating has already started to piss me off once again...

-Alabama girl was sick with a cold so she didn't want to hang out. I'm gonna try once again tonight and then call it quits
-Was talking to a few girls via email who seemed very cool, but then when I went to ask them to go out, they stopped responding
-Met up with a girl on Saturday and of course, was much more rotund than her pics indicate
-Only girls who email me first tend to be fatties

But on brighter news, I went out for my friend's bachelor party to a local micropub (52 beers on tap)... was trying to talk to groups of girls, most didn't seem interested at all (or had bfs). Eventually I was talking to one that seemed slightly interested and I got a phone number. Girl is kinda young (22), petite blonde... and (predictably) Irish. Why is it that 90% of the girls that I end up meeting that are somewhat into me are Irish?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 12, 2011, 09:07:24 AM

They're after your lucky charms?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 12, 2011, 09:26:48 AM

No idea... Indian girls also like me a lot too, but that's very easily explainable - I'm a white software engineer who LOVES spicy vindaloo.

Irish I don't really get. There are a good deal of Irish people around here but they pale in number to Italians and Jews... Yet I end up with considerably more Irish women than either of the other 2.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 12, 2011, 06:44:01 PM

Have a date with a really pretty 25 year old on Thursday. She just broke up with her boyfriend though, so I know it's probably a lost cause.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 12, 2011, 06:49:17 PM

Depends on what you're looking for.

Might be really awesome short term relationship of fun, happy, and sex until you get dumped in 3 weeks - 3 months and are heart broken.

Quote from: tiesto on September 12, 2011, 08:50:17 AM

Oh man, internet dating has already started to piss me off once again...

-Alabama girl was sick with a cold so she didn't want to hang out. I'm gonna try once again tonight and then call it quits
-Was talking to a few girls via email who seemed very cool, but then when I went to ask them to go out, they stopped responding
-Met up with a girl on Saturday and of course, was much more rotund than her pics indicate
-Only girls who email me first tend to be fatties

But on brighter news, I went out for my friend's bachelor party to a local micropub (52 beers on tap)... was trying to talk to groups of girls, most didn't seem interested at all (or had bfs). Eventually I was talking to one that seemed slightly interested and I got a phone number. Girl is kinda young (22), petite blonde... and (predictably) Irish. Why is it that 90% of the girls that I end up meeting that are somewhat into me are Irish?

Hey, what's wrong with the Irish :wtf

I've never had the experience of meeting up with a girl who looks significantly worse than her online photos. 9/10 times she looks way better. I know I look way better in person, taking good photos is fucking hard!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 12, 2011, 06:52:59 PM

I didn't do any dating over the weekend. Instead I went out partying with my male friends every day and actually watched some movies and played some games for the first time in months. Was a pretty good weekend.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 12, 2011, 06:56:44 PM

yeah same here except i spent the majority of the weekend watching football. :hyper

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 12, 2011, 06:58:29 PM

Truth is, I'm not getting anything from online anymore. Even the girls I message don't respond. Looks like my online dating career is over for a while.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 12, 2011, 07:51:23 PM

I've sent two messages first, on dating sites. No response tho :'(

Many women have sent me pokes, prods, and messages but usually I forget to check my profile, then notice a weeks old message. By that time it's too late to respond, as the person would just think I ignored them initially only to respond late after other things fell through

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 12, 2011, 08:49:29 PM

picture of said 25 year old

(http://i.imgur.com/lkpCK.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 12, 2011, 08:50:16 PM

hummina hummina

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on September 12, 2011, 08:55:30 PM

BN: Just give her a real fun day and you might get some play.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 12, 2011, 08:59:51 PM

omgomg

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 12, 2011, 09:10:34 PM

We're going to a play and then she's coming back to watch a movie. I'm pretty excited. She looks like Mary Elizabeth Winstead.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 12, 2011, 09:41:31 PM

Bebs: Nothing is wrong with the Irish... it's just really strange how I seem to attract them so readily. No idea what it is about me, and like I said, the area I live in is way more Italian and Jewish in terms of demographics... Speaking of which, I met a 35 year old Irish-American lady and banged her tonite... she had big tits and didn't shave her muff :drool

BN: Cute girl! Not a fan of the nose piercing but that's personal preference. Give it a try, hey you might get some rebound sex from it :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on September 12, 2011, 09:52:59 PM

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 12, 2011, 10:31:33 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 12, 2011, 09:10:34 PM

We're going to a play and then she's coming back to watch a movie. I'm pretty excited. She looks like Mary Elizabeth Winstead.

Sounds like you're going to have a good time with tonight ;)

I look forward to the night recap tomorrow! She looks great! So definitely stick with it as long as you can even if it's inevitable to fail as a rebound.

Quote from: tiesto on September 12, 2011, 09:41:31 PM

Bebs: Nothing is wrong with the Irish... it's just really strange how I seem to attract them so readily. No idea what it is about me, and like I said, the area I live in is way more Italian and Jewish in terms of demographics... Speaking of which, I met a 35 year old Irish-American lady and banged her tonite... she had big tits and didn't shave her muff :drool

BN: Cute girl! Not a fan of the nose piercing but that's personal preference. Give it a try, hey you might get some rebound sex from it :drool

Wait ummmm, It's only 10:30pm on the east coast. Are you telling me you went to a bar or somewhere, told some snappy talk to some 35 year old then went back to her place and fucked like rabbits and then went home and got back by 10:30pm?

Because that's uhhh...impressive ^^;

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 12, 2011, 10:39:15 PM

date's on thursday, bebpo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 12, 2011, 10:43:17 PM

Ah, well good luck. It should be something to look forward to all week and keep you in a good mood!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 12, 2011, 11:07:29 PM

When I'm not banging girls, banging girls seems fun and enticing
When I am banging girls (literally) it seems fun and exciting
When I am done banging girls, it feels like a huge waste of time and energy and sometimes money

/this is only regarding non-emotional investment girls. A girl that I can actually have emotionally invested intimate times with is worth every second I spend together (especially if the feeling is mutual).

Which is why I'm kind of over girls for the time being. No interest in banging girls (despite that it always feels enticing but brain has control enough to say NO), and for actual emotional invested meetings it'll happen when it happens.

Enjoying life socially with friends and my hobbies and staying out in the world and not really looking for anything atm.

Also I looked back and saw the girls I've been in emotionally invested situations with and I got to admit, it's a pretty impressive set of people. I feel like I definitely know how to pick and connect with the cream of the crop. So it makes me feel better about waiting; I may be super super super picky about girls but when I find the right ones they are A++

Quote from: Wrath2X on September 12, 2011, 10:54:29 PM

Bebpo you're jewish, right? Know any hot jewish chicks who want the weapon of ass destruction?

lol, I stopped going to Temple when I was about 14. I don't know any Jewish girls! I only know like 5-7 single girls in general and 95% are people I've dated in the past :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 13, 2011, 02:55:48 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 12, 2011, 09:10:34 PM

We're going to a play and then she's coming back to watch a movie. I'm pretty excited. She looks like Mary Elizabeth Winstead.

WIN! Although I don't see it in that picture. Still cute, though!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 13, 2011, 10:29:01 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 12, 2011, 11:07:29 PM

lol, I stopped going to Temple when I was about 14. I don't know any Jewish girls! I only know like 5-7 single girls in general and 95% are people I've dated in the past :P

Come to the island, there's plenty around here... I might be going out with a Jewish girl later this week. Will be a nice change from all the Irish I go out with! :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on September 13, 2011, 10:51:29 AM

That's more like a kickstand than a third wheel.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 13, 2011, 10:51:45 AM

you drove 40 miles?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 13, 2011, 02:12:49 PM

I've noticed recently that a lot of girls NEED constant communication or they feel you're uninterested in them.
Like if I'm talking to a girl on thur/fri and then don't talk/txt them over the weekend at all, they just vanish.

I don't give them the satisfaction though. Life comes first, little flirts about nothing with girls comes distant 2nd or 3rd. The non-clingy/needy ones will be ok with that. The rest...don't need them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 13, 2011, 04:18:12 PM

My commute to work is ~30 miles each way. No big deal.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 13, 2011, 04:49:29 PM

I'm not saying it's far. It's just...driving 40 miles to meet a woman you don't even know just seems desperate.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 13, 2011, 04:59:23 PM

That's basically what I'm doing on Thursday :-\

spoiler (click to show/hide)

(http://www.ragemaker.net/images/Malicious%20-%20Troll/I%20lied.png)
Actually no I'm not, SHE'S driving 40 miles to see ME

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 13, 2011, 04:59:32 PM

I thought he knew her?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 13, 2011, 04:59:59 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 13, 2011, 04:59:23 PM

That's basically what I'm doing on Thursday :-\

spoiler (click to show/hide)
(http://www.ragemaker.net/images/Malicious%20-%20Troll/I%20lied.png)
Actually no I'm not, SHE'S driving 40 miles to see ME
[close]

:pimp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 13, 2011, 05:01:26 PM

even if he knew her it still seems desperate i dunno

then again i'm lazy. driving 40 miles is an eternity imo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 13, 2011, 05:02:04 PM

well that makes sense

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Howard Alan Treesong on September 13, 2011, 05:14:12 PM

Quote

When I am banging girls (literally) it seems fun and exciting

who do I have to blow to update the news feed around here

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 13, 2011, 05:16:36 PM

For me it's always concentrating on not jisming

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on September 13, 2011, 05:20:43 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 13, 2011, 05:16:36 PM

For me it's always concentrating on not jisming

I think of boogers and toenails, but I think it's just leading to weird fetish development.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 13, 2011, 05:24:38 PM

I think of bad jrpgs

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 13, 2011, 05:36:53 PM

That girl Caty I talked about a page ago would get pissed at me if I didn't finish in like two minutes when she was giving head or a handjob. I was like, bish really? At least pretend you like playing with it for a little while.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on September 13, 2011, 05:42:26 PM

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on September 13, 2011, 05:45:21 PM

Quote from: Spencer on September 13, 2011, 05:39:39 PM

I went out with a girl who got butthurt when I wasnt coming from a handjob. I told her "well I've been giving myself handjobs for a lot longer than you have, and I do way better job. You wanna excite me put it in you."

Literally. :teehee

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 13, 2011, 05:46:24 PM

Quote from: Spencer on September 13, 2011, 05:39:39 PM

I went out with a girl who got butthurt when I wasnt coming from a handjob. I told her "well I've been giving myself handjobs for a lot longer than you have, and I do way better job. You wanna excite me put it in you."

Basically how I felt as well. She would always ask me "well then, how would you make yourself finish in the past?" And I would say "with Heather Brooke."

She didn't know who she was.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 13, 2011, 05:46:49 PM

Man, I been with a girl who never put her wrist into it. Gave the worst fucking handjobs, and never made me cum once. I'd always have to do it for her and right when I was shoot my goo I'd hold it in and tell her, FINISH ME OFF, and let it rip.

And don't get me on the blowjobs.

FUCK.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 13, 2011, 05:47:10 PM

I'm glad girls haven't tried hjs with me considering how bad most seem at bjs.

It's like "ummmm...thanks?", now lets move on...

For a while I grew up thinking I was a mutant with anti-bj cock skin so I couldn't feel anything from bjs. But once I was with a girl who actually knew how to do it and it was sogood.jpg; so I came to the conclusion that most girls really don't know how to give head.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 13, 2011, 05:48:51 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 13, 2011, 05:47:10 PM

I'm glad girls haven't tried hjs with me considering how bad most seem at bjs.

It's like "ummmm...thanks?", now lets move on...

For a while I grew up thinking I was a mutant with anti-bj cock skin so I couldn't feel anything from bjs. But once I was with a girl who actually knew how to do it and it was sogood.jpg; so I came to the conclusion that most girls really don't know how to give head.

:teehee

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 13, 2011, 05:49:36 PM

It sucks cuz when I go down or finger bang a woman I'm going to town but she can't do the same for me??

Another time one woman wouldn't give me a blowjob but she was just perfectly fine with me eating out her pussy. I refused to eat that pussy for a week until she sucked my dick.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 13, 2011, 05:52:46 PM

In fairness to girls, I think I'm pretty atrocious at oral for them. I've been told I'm fine at it, but it just doesn't ever feel right. I now just usually just stick to the top near the clit and use my finger to do most of the work.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 13, 2011, 05:54:45 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on September 13, 2011, 05:49:36 PM

It sucks cuz when I go down or finger bang a woman I'm going to town but she can't do the same for me??

Another time one woman wouldn't give me a blowjob but she was just perfectly fine with me eating out her pussy. I refused to eat that pussy for a week until she sucked my dick.

Yeah, I mean I think of myself as pretty fucking good at getting a girl off. When I'm with a girl I'll get her body to convulse and spasm a bunch of times. But I hardly ever feel like I get the same in return. Women have it easy as guys are too nice to tell them they suck at sex. I told a girl that once and she basically thew me out of the house :-X

Quote from: BrandNew on September 13, 2011, 05:48:51 PM

:teehee

Should have seen that coming.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 13, 2011, 05:54:55 PM

Fuck that, playa. I'ma stick my entire face in that flesh gash.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on September 13, 2011, 06:17:51 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 13, 2011, 05:54:45 PM

Women have it easy as guys are too nice to tell them they suck at sex. I told a girl that once and she basically thew me out of the house :-X

yeah fuck that. nothing is worse then a bad bj or hj, and the only way to make it right is to TELL THEM. most times you're gonna get a really bad response, but hey the only way towards better sex is communication. getting an awesome bj > getting in an annoying argument

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 13, 2011, 06:23:01 PM

worst bjs are the ones where they're fucking SCARED of it. Like, they're lightly licking the head and shit.

SHOVE

THAT

DICK

DOWN

YOUR

THROAT!!!!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on September 13, 2011, 06:24:34 PM

Quote

worst bjs are the ones where they're fucking SCARED of it. Like, they're lightly licking the head and shit.

SHOVE

THAT

DICK

THROWN

YOUR

THROAT!!!!

(http://i.imgur.com/YhkcQ.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 13, 2011, 06:34:07 PM

[youtube=560,345]Sd9Yibf_UXE[/youtube]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 13, 2011, 06:37:56 PM

Eh, the licking the head stuff is wonderful I think. The most sensitive pleasure receptors of the penis are located there. Most guys these days just want gagging to occur because "porn does it."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 13, 2011, 06:42:22 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 13, 2011, 06:37:56 PM

Eh, the licking the head stuff is wonderful I think. The most sensitive pleasure receptors of the penis are located there. Most guys these days just want gagging to occur because "porn does it."

I don't want it just like how "porn does it" but I don't want her to be scared of it either. There's a difference between licking the head and acting like a kitten sniffing around a dead animal to see if it's edible.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 13, 2011, 06:46:03 PM

Some girls can't do that, though. If they try, then god bless them, but if they can work with the skillset they've got, I can dig.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 13, 2011, 06:50:54 PM

Well, as you can tell by my commentary on pussy eating, I'm a very passionate lover. It's hard for me to reconcile the fact that the person who's trying to suck my dick isn't equally as passionate.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 13, 2011, 08:02:06 PM

Ok so, I got a date this weekend with an incredibly gorgeous girl. I'm kind of not looking forward to it because I think she may be out of my league. I tend to avoid the really hot ones, but she is the one who initiated the whole thing. She says I'm hot but she's only seen pics of me and I feel like my pictures might be deceiving. I'm kind of awkward in person.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 13, 2011, 08:14:57 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on September 13, 2011, 08:02:06 PM

Ok so, I got a date this weekend with an incredibly gorgeous girl. I'm kind of not looking forward to it because I think she may be out of my league. I tend to avoid the really hot ones, but she is the one who initiated the whole thing. She says I'm hot but she's only seen pics of me and I feel like my pictures might be deceiving. I'm kind of awkward in person.

If she initiated it and thinks you're hot that means physically you happen to fall into the exact type of man that pushes her buttons.

This is good. It gives you the higher ground in the meeting. Just try to have a good time, you don't need to impress her because she's already interested in you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 13, 2011, 08:16:48 PM

I'm not saying I'm ugly, wrath. I just thought she might have set her expectations a little high based off of my pics.

Fuck it, you guys are right ima go in like this :smug I gotz the upper hand!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on September 13, 2011, 09:23:43 PM

Just tell her you're a little shy in person, but you're a fucking bad ass on Internet forums. 8)

Maybe she's not as hot as in her pics.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 13, 2011, 10:43:47 PM

Quote from: lennedsay on September 13, 2011, 09:23:43 PM

Just tell her you're a little shy in person, but you're a fucking bad ass on Internet forums. 8)

Maybe she's not as hot as in her pics.

If it's anything like my last few OKCupid experiences, you should make that bet :P

I've got dates with 2 very cute girls (much better looking than my ex) upcoming, my second date with the girl from Alabama who likes Chrono Trigger and Earthbound, and gonna meet up with the girl whose # I got at the bar. I'm really proud of myself, since I used to be extremely shy, afraid to talk to women, and suffered from major confidence issues.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on September 13, 2011, 10:45:45 PM

I find working the tip is very effective so long as the hand is well-greased and active. You guys just aren't trying hard enough.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Howard Alan Treesong on September 13, 2011, 10:57:58 PM

Quote from: tiesto on September 13, 2011, 10:43:47 PM

Quote from: lennedsay on September 13, 2011, 09:23:43 PM
Just tell her you're a little shy in person, but you're a fucking bad ass on Internet forums. 8)

Maybe she's not as hot as in her pics.

If it's anything like my last few OKCupid experiences, you should make that bet :P

I've got dates with 2 very cute girls (much better looking than my ex) upcoming, my second date with the girl from Alabama who likes Chrono Trigger and Earthbound, and gonna meet up with the girl whose # I got at the bar. I'm really proud of myself, since I used to be extremely shy, afraid to talk to women, and suffered from major confidence issues.

A southerner AND a Nintendo-bred weeaboo? Third base at least.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 13, 2011, 10:59:58 PM

Quote from: Howard Alan Treesong on September 13, 2011, 10:57:58 PM

Quote from: tiesto on September 13, 2011, 10:43:47 PM
Quote from: lennedsay on September 13, 2011, 09:23:43 PM
Just tell her you're a little shy in person, but you're a fucking bad ass on Internet forums. 8)

Maybe she's not as hot as in her pics.

If it's anything like my last few OKCupid experiences, you should make that bet :P

I've got dates with 2 very cute girls (much better looking than my ex) upcoming, my second date with the girl from Alabama who likes Chrono Trigger and Earthbound, and gonna meet up with the girl whose # I got at the bar. I'm really proud of myself, since I used to be extremely shy, afraid to talk to women, and suffered from major confidence issues.

A southerner AND a Nintendo-bred weeaboo? Third base at least.

You'll get to third base at the restaurant!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 13, 2011, 11:30:57 PM

Quote from: Cormacaroni on September 13, 2011, 10:45:45 PM

I find working the tip is very effective so long as the hand is well-greased and active. You guys just aren't trying hard enough.

No one is saying anything is wrong with working the tip.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Howard Alan Treesong on September 14, 2011, 10:43:37 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on September 13, 2011, 11:22:32 PM

Earthbound fucking sucked.

Quite. But Earthbound fans fuck'n suck, too.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 14, 2011, 10:53:03 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on September 13, 2011, 10:44:07 AM

Some chick invited me out just to be a third wheel.

I didn't expect anything to happen with her. It would have happened a few years ago if it was ever going to happen. But she asked me if I wanted to hang out with her and some friends over the weekend. So I made the 40 mile drive down to Costa Mesa, expecting that it would be her and maybe a few other people. But it was just her and one other guy. I would have been okay with that if we were all just going to have drinks and chill, but while he was in the bathroom, she confided in me that she really liked this guy and needed to get him more drunk so that she could hook up with him.

I got out of there as soon as I was done with my drink. Fortunately I had been drinking pretty slowly and was pretty sober.

That was bullshit. I guess this isn't really about relationships at all, but that was not a cool move.

Quote from: Robo on September 13, 2011, 10:51:29 AM

That's more like a kickstand than a third wheel.

Yeah, christ. I think I'd be calling off the friendship after that. But if you were interested in her at all still, hopefully this has clarified things.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 14, 2011, 11:48:21 AM

Quote from: Howard Alan Treesong on September 14, 2011, 10:43:37 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on September 13, 2011, 11:22:32 PM
Earthbound fucking sucked.

Quite. But Earthbound fans fuck'n suck, too.

I'd SMAAAAAASH!! this girl, she's very cute. I'm not a huge Earthbound fan but I'd rather she be into that than lame shit like the Yankees or Harry Potter like my ex.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 14, 2011, 12:11:52 PM

I dunno, Nintendo fans are about the bottom rung of the dating ladder.

Though I guess you could take out your constant facepalming to all their Nintendo related opinions through steamy sex.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 14, 2011, 02:22:33 PM

She's just a general game fan though, not just Nintendo... she mentioned Dragon Age 2 but I never played that, told her I was more into oldskool gaming.

Hmm... a lot of people are telling me I broke up with my ex in a very douchey manner (it's true, I handled it poorly), and now they (friends of both of us) say that she deserves a proper apology. Is it worth it to even attempt this? Or will it be reopening deep wounds?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 14, 2011, 02:37:30 PM

No it's not worth it. Tell them to mind their own business. She's an adult and there's no point in playing in dirty water. Move on completely and more importantly let her move on completely whether she realizes it's best for her or not.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 14, 2011, 02:45:58 PM

hope you don't lose friends over it, tiesto.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 14, 2011, 02:47:38 PM

Eh, I'd probably give her an apology and end it on better terms if possible if you have mutual friends if it's not going to make you feel too bad.

But I'm bad at these things!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 14, 2011, 02:48:49 PM

i agree with bebpo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 14, 2011, 02:54:26 PM

No. The problem is people sticking their nose in where it doesn't belong. If my two friends broke up, guess what I'd do? Stay the fuck out of it. I'm not going to punish my friend over what they did or did not do unless it's something completely appalling.

That's just the way it ended. Your apology isn't going to do shit. In the end she's sour because she didn't want what you wanted. Both parties should take it as a learning experience and move on.

tl;dr

There is no right way to end a relationship. Someone is always pissed and miserable. That's life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 14, 2011, 03:40:48 PM

Yeah, I know that my apology wouldn't really do shit, the mutual friends are demanding I give one though. They feel that, because they were the ones who "set us up", I disrespected them for trampling over the other girl's feelings. I am to blame for running away though and not confronting the problems head-on...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 14, 2011, 03:43:24 PM

what the hell did you even say/do to her?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 14, 2011, 03:46:25 PM

I thought he basically ignored her. Something like "let's take a break" and then 2-3 weeks pass by and he doesn't communicate to her and then they break up.

At least that's what I got from this thread.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 14, 2011, 03:52:15 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on September 14, 2011, 03:43:24 PM

what the hell did you even say/do to her?

Yeah, what did you say?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Howard Alan Treesong on September 14, 2011, 03:53:23 PM

I apologized for a bad breakup once - it went over quite well and I've stayed friends with the girl.

The real question is: do YOU feel you SHOULD apologize. If the answer is yes - if you've looked at your behavior and believe it was objectively shitty - then go ahead and apologize. Not for your friends or even for your ex, but because it's the right thing to do.

That said, girls will be able to smell an insincere apology from 10,000 yards - that would be like pouring gasoline on a fire. If you don't mean it, keep your mouth the fuck shut.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 14, 2011, 03:53:27 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 14, 2011, 03:46:25 PM

I thought he basically ignored her. Something like "let's take a break" and then 2-3 weeks pass by and he doesn't communicate to her and then they break up.

At least that's what I got from this thread.

I honestly don't understand what's wrong with this.

They took a break. That's what you do. Not talk to each other. See how you feel without each other.

WTF @ your friends. As Spencer said, that's some high school shit.

Unless you're not giving us the whole story you did nothing wrong IMO.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 14, 2011, 03:54:35 PM

Quote from: Howard Alan Treesong on September 14, 2011, 03:53:23 PM

I apologized for a bad breakup once - it went over quite well and I've stayed friends with the girl.

The real question is: do YOU feel you SHOULD apologize. If the answer is yes - if you've looked at your behavior and believe it was objectively shitty - then go ahead and apologize. Not for your friends or even for your ex, but because it's the right thing to do.

That said, girls will be able to smell an insincere apology from 10,000 yards - that would be like pouring gasoline on a fire. If you don't mean it, keep your mouth the fuck shut.

I also agree with the bolded.

But it sounds more like your friends are sticking their nose in and forcing it out of you which is BS.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 14, 2011, 03:55:45 PM

So they took a break, right? Has he told her since the break that he doesn't want to get back together?

I think taking the "break" route was a bad idea when he wanted to break up with her in the first place. Should've just broke up with her without giving her a false feeling that things may work out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 14, 2011, 04:14:42 PM

Yeah, I think what I did was really shitty... also I got rid of "relationship status" completely off my Facebook (which has the results of making it seem like I am not in a relationship anymore), I think that really set her off. Didn't mean to do that. I think what I did was shitty and cowardly, and I think I do owe her an apology. I just don't know the best way to word it, or if I should wait and let things blow over a bit more. Email or phone?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 14, 2011, 04:18:25 PM

If you really feel you owe her one, at least use the phone. An email is half a step above a text message saying "Sorry" :lol

Did you actually avoid her or did you just not communicate with her? Avoiding = cowardly. No communication doesn't mean shit. That's what a break is. Even though breaks are bad ideas in general.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 14, 2011, 04:36:32 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on September 14, 2011, 04:18:25 PM

If you really feel you owe her one, at least use the phone. An email is half a step above a text message saying "Sorry" :lol

Did you actually avoid her or did you just not communicate with her? Avoiding = cowardly. No communication doesn't mean shit. That's what a break is. Even though breaks are bad ideas in general.

Well, what happened is I was still working on personal issues, deciding how to actually break up with her... and what do you know? She calls when my phone was off. So she thinks I was deliberately avoiding her, of course her leaving with the "don't ever call me again" makes me very hesitant.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 14, 2011, 04:48:12 PM

Eh. It sounds like an honest mistake and a bit of miscommunication. If it's going to make you feel like a better person for apologizing then go for it. If you're doing this for her sake, then be prepared for a very possible backfire. You've described her in a way that makes her seem irrational and immature. Watch for her trying to start a fight or taking this as meaning something more.

Your friends still sound damn nosy though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 14, 2011, 04:59:37 PM

Eh... you kinda were avoiding her. Why was your phone off? You might not have been purposely avoiding her, but turning off your phone can be seen as avoidance from an outside observer. It's a shitty situation. Call her and apologize, but don't let her argue or try to reel you back in.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on September 14, 2011, 06:32:54 PM

Quote from: Billy Rygar on September 14, 2011, 06:01:53 PM

I've broken up in shittier ways than you imagine. Never apologize.

seriously. "boo hoo your phone was off fuck you" if she acted like that then fuck it - she wanted an excuse to act pissed off since she felt hurt and she got one when you didn't pick up. there's no great way to break it off with someone, so just be glad that you're out of a relationship you didn't want to be in anymore and don't look back. you don't need to feel guilty over dropping her just because you didn't do it in some perfect magical way that left you two on good terms. also fuck your friends for what they're doing to you too. as mups said tell them to mind their own fucking business, and if they bring up something about her still feeling hurt then just remind them that it's not your job to help her get over your breakup. they're putting you in a shitty situation.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Howard Alan Treesong on September 14, 2011, 06:34:32 PM

Quote from: Positive Touch on September 14, 2011, 06:32:54 PM

Quote from: Billy Rygar on September 14, 2011, 06:01:53 PM
I've broken up in shittier ways than you imagine. Never apologize.

seriously. "boo hoo your phone was off fuck you" if she acted like that then fuck it - she wanted an excuse to act pissed off since she felt hurt and she got one when you didn't pick up. there's no great way to break it off with someone, so just be glad that you're out of a relationship you didn't want to be in anymore and don't look back. you don't need to feel guilty over dropping her just because you didn't do it in some perfect magical way that left you two on good terms. also fuck your friends for what they're doing to you too. as mups said tell them to mind their own fucking business, and if they bring up something about her still feeling hurt then just remind them that it's not your job to help her get over your breakup. they're putting you in a shitty situation.

yeah, your situation sounds totally normal - "your phone was off" is some HS whiny shit, errbody move on

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 14, 2011, 06:48:56 PM

If you let her get away with that petty shit right out the gate, it will never stop. Better to break it off immediately than show her you're her puppy dog, because she'll treat you like that forever bro.

Personal anecdote time: one of my best friends is completely pussy whipped by his girlfriend. We've known each other for a decade, and even back when we were 14 she dominated him. Now he has a job, is in college, etc and she still treats him like that 14 year old. He's not "allowed" to hang out with us for the various shit we do, like MNF at Buffalo Wild Wings or going to see a movie. If he does manage to hang with us, she calls him multiple times, and has even driven the places we were hanging at and either yelled at him or sat in a corner staring at him until he decided to leave. He says she thinks he's out talking to other chicks and shit. If you've seen Jersey Shore: she's a sassy black version of Sam.

Anyone who hangs with their fellas knows a bit about their personal life. I've got friends who cheat on their girlfriends constantly, I've got friends who flirt with other women constantly, etc. This guy is probably the only certified saint I know. He doesn't flirt with other chicks, doesn't dance with other chicks, doesn't stay out late, etc. And she's treating him like total shit. And even as his good friend I half to say he deserves it for staying with this chick; she's smart, cute, etc but she's fucking crazy. But I have a feeling they're going to get married and one day around the age of 40 he'll realize he done fucked up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Howard Alan Treesong on September 14, 2011, 06:51:51 PM

Can he at least ... still go with you to Olive Garden

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on September 14, 2011, 08:11:22 PM

So... Your relationship status changed on FB, the girl called irate, then your phone was off so she rolled out her Jump to Conclusions mat, assumed you turned your phone off on purpose to be mean to her, and thus left an irate message on your phone. Then your friends somehow made the situation all about them and the fact they set you two up. Now they demand an apology, regardless of the sincerity. And no one took the time to think about the fact that you were wasting your life dating this girl who obviously isn't "the one" for you and were therefore miserable being with her.

That sounds like some drama unfolding on my 15 yr old cuz's FB wall, bro. You have surrounded yourself with the most selfish, immature people on the planet. If it were me, I'd probably tell them that too. If you want to apologize, do it, but I'd be vocal that it's not because some dickwads are forcing it out of you. It's not your fault she's not a person you feel is right for you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 14, 2011, 09:11:23 PM

Quote from: Wrath2X on September 14, 2011, 08:18:59 PM

Me and Tiesto should hang out. We'll wave our cocks at the local women and argue over what is better, 80's thrash metal or electronica.

Sounds like a blast, I've always wondered how I'd measure up to a (part) black man, since mine is pretty big for a cracka. You're always welcome to chill out with me in NY!

Very much appreciate all the advice, guys! I'm not really gonna call our mutual friends out on it, but yeah I need to learn to stand my ground more, be more assertive and not let everyone walk over me, or tell me that I'm an asshole/dickhead.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 14, 2011, 09:53:25 PM

California Bore > NY Bore! Get yo ass over here :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 14, 2011, 10:31:58 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on September 14, 2011, 09:53:25 PM

California Bore > NY Bore! Get yo ass over here :maf

Yeah, but the women in NY are wowwwww

Then again the women in LA are wowwww

/needs to move to LA or NY :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 14, 2011, 10:42:50 PM

I wonder what you'll think of Seattle women.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 14, 2011, 11:10:57 PM

Quote from: Wrath2X on September 14, 2011, 11:00:35 PM

I'll find out soon enough, when I visit my brother who's going to school there.

Where does he go? UW?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 14, 2011, 11:16:55 PM

Quote from: Wrath2X on September 14, 2011, 09:26:30 PM

NY has tiesto, Beezy, Eric P, and some I'm forgetting. Bore meetup?

me :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 14, 2011, 11:18:21 PM

Quote from: Wrath2X on September 14, 2011, 11:16:21 PM

Yeah

Cool. I live about a mile from the university.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 15, 2011, 12:00:06 AM

So, this girl I'm meeting on Saturday night, and who I've only talked to via text, is already drunk texting me. I don't know if this is awesome or not.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 15, 2011, 12:21:28 AM

That's awesome. I'm kind of jealous. I only drunk text girls, they never drunk text me :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 15, 2011, 12:48:55 AM

Quote from: Wrath2X on September 14, 2011, 11:26:32 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on September 14, 2011, 11:16:55 PM
Quote from: Wrath2X on September 14, 2011, 09:26:30 PM
NY has tiesto, Beezy, Eric P, and some I'm forgetting. Bore meetup?

me :(

Dude I apologize, I know I forgot someone. How will I ever make this up to you oh great Cajole?

haha it's fine, just make sure to hang out with NY-bore if you ever come around

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 15, 2011, 02:34:56 AM

I went from having like 5-6 girls communications going at once, talking to several girls on a daily basis and doing a few dates a week keeping me social and exhausted

to

absolutely nothing. Haven't talked to any girl in a week. Hanging with friends on weekends, but on weeknights, just alone at my new place, working out, grilling food for myself on my bbq, checking out TGS news, playing a little Xillia, reading song of Ice & Fire, watching an occasional movie.

It's not bad, and I enjoy not being tired out of my fucking mind all the time, but it does feel a little quiet. I don't really feel like starting up my online profile and jumping back into that madness again right away, but I dunno, I kind of want to figure out something since I do like interacting with women.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 15, 2011, 02:47:51 AM

And stories of what happened with the final 2 girls of the group I met over the last 2 months.

Girl A - We talk and talk and talk as penpals (live kind of far away) for 3+ weeks. We write 1 hour+ long e-mails to each other on a daily basis about everything. I finally go meet her on what I am ASSUMING IS A FRIEND HANGOUT, NOT A DATE because from the start I told her I just wanted to be penpals/friends because she was kind of far. It's a decent date, nothing amazing, but I thought we at least got along decently and had some good food. When we finish and she drops me off I do the awkward hug-in-a-car. The next day I add her on facebook with a message saying I had a good time and just chatting. She accepts but doesn't respond to the message part. A few days later I write her with an e-mail like we'd been doing for 3 weeks straight, just chatting about whatever, though I included a line early on about how hanging out was fun and how just to make sure I'm not leading her on, I saw it as a hang out with a cool person and not a date and I'm not interested in dating her. Then I just talked about a lot of things like a usual e-mail. She doesn't respond and hasn't said a word since. Don't know what happened there, we're still "facebook friends" but suddenly went from 3 weeks of daily penpals to uh not talking anymore and it wasn't even someone I was trying to date!

Girl B - We meet up on first date. It goes GREAT, I have the feeling she kind of wants some casual action but I take it slow and don't go for anything (not that interested in her physically; she's not bad looking, just not my type at all). She says she had a good time and we totally need to do more dates and she's looking forward to the next one. She texts me the next day about how good the leftovers are from last nights date and we text a bit. I text her the following day about a hike she wanted to attend with me that my buddy is leading this upcoming saturday. She's really into it and wants me to find out what she needs to bring. Anyhow, weekend goes by and I don't text her because I'm busy and she doesn't text me. Then on monday or tuesday I send her a "what's up" kind of text...no response. Then the next day I figure maybe I just caught her at a bad time and send her another kind of standard let's chat text...no response. Haven't heard from her since. Guess she's not interested in the hike anymore! No idea how that just broke apart and she fell off the planet since apparently she was interested in me, wanted to do another date, and wanted to go hiking with me on a specific upcoming day.

I think after those two in a row just totally flaking and falling off the earth, I was sick of dealing with bullshit and needed some man time. So I hung out a lot with my friends over the weekend and it was great, but yeah, now it's just really really quiet here :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: T234 on September 15, 2011, 01:24:33 PM

New plan for getting laid, going to the blues bar with killer weed that you could burn and EVERYONE within 50 feet will smell it. In my experience, MILFs at the blues bar like four things, Guitars, Drinks, Good weed, and good times.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 15, 2011, 09:14:46 PM

oh EM GEE. 2 more days until my date with this chick. I have a feeling i'ma get some action! :hump I NEED THIS MAN :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other
Post by: Barry Egan on September 15, 2011, 10:02:12 PM

Got a number today from someone way, way out of my league. My analyst and I are both convinced I'm going to screw this up major.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other
Post by: BlackMage on September 15, 2011, 10:23:48 PM

Quote from: My F*cking Grandpa on September 15, 2011, 10:02:12 PM

Got a number today from someone way, way out of my league. My analyst and I are both convinced I'm going to screw this up major.

we shall screw up together!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 15, 2011, 11:43:41 PM

Date went really really well! She looked gorgeous. Sorta a mix of Mary E. Winstead of Zoey Deschanel. Really great boobs, and showing plenty of them with her shirt. We talked a bit at my apartment, got to know each other more, then we went to this snazzy play/poetry reading at a local playhouse. We came back here to watch a bit of a movie, got a bit snuggly and kissed a bit. Nothing big at all, and I wasn't going to push anything. Getting a kiss and a date this fun was god enough for me. She even wanted to read a bunch of my scripts that I've written, so I gave her three or four to go over (she's a theatre major). We're seeing each other again on Sunday, she's coming to my award ceremony where I won for one of my scripts in school.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 16, 2011, 12:33:21 AM

Not bad!

Girl A in my stories above actually replied to my e-mail this morning explaining that in order to be productive she's limiting her e-mail response time to 30 mins a day and she has several hundred e-mails to go through in chronological order so it took a while to get to mine. Also mentioned she might be seeing a show down by me when she gets back from her trip she's going on next week and so we can hang out again then. Cool. Glad we are still talking friends since she she's neat. Doesn't help my dating situation, but helps my friend circle situation!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 16, 2011, 10:44:26 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 15, 2011, 11:43:41 PM

Date went really really well! She looked gorgeous. Sorta a mix of Mary E. Winstead of Zoey Deschanel. Really great boobs, and showing plenty of them with her shirt. We talked a bit at my apartment, got to know each other more, then we went to this snazzy play/poetry reading at a local playhouse. We came back here to watch a bit of a movie, got a bit snuggly and kissed a bit. Nothing big at all, and I wasn't going to push anything. Getting a kiss and a date this fun was god enough for me. She even wanted to read a bunch of my scripts that I've written, so I gave her three or four to go over (she's a theatre major). We're seeing each other again on Sunday, she's coming to my award ceremony where I won for one of my scripts in school.

I hate u.. I mean GRATS MAN

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on September 16, 2011, 10:46:42 AM

Pic of teh boobs, BN.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 16, 2011, 12:23:07 PM

aaaaand I just got a text from Girl B saying that the reason she dropped off the map a week ago was that she dropped her phone in water and has been phoneless (this is the 2nd time in 2 months that someone I know dropped their phone in water; water is dangerous!).

So the trick is doing nothing and people come to you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: The Sceneman on September 16, 2011, 12:30:56 PM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 16, 2011, 01:07:03 PM

Good going, Bebpo.

I'm proud that you didn't do a spaz out like the guys on GAF who freak out cuz she's not answering and send 30 text messages. Oops, turns out she forgot to charge her phone overnight and it was dead the whole day.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 17, 2011, 12:19:16 AM

I'm flirting so much irl whenever I'm out, it's awesomeeeeee

Like I'm not even trying, just wherever I go if I bump into a girl I'll start chatting and keep it going for a while and they'll be like "what was your name, again? Mine's ___" and we shake hands and part ways at the end. Even when I'm just going through the drive-thru at in-n-out I'll joke around with the cashier while smiling and she'll get all flustered and stumble her words.

FEELS GOOD

I feel like I've reached that stage that all men reach, most usually in their 20s, forever alone people never, where I'm feeling good about myself, confident and comfortable and women are not scary weird species, but are just people who get nervous and awkward too; especially if you're beaming awesomeness.

I'm pretty late to reaching this point since I'm turning 30, but hey, I've still got some good years left in me! Flirting with people is fun :D

I probably should go to a bar one of these days and try out being awesome and having fun conversations there, but that costs money, takes time to go there and back, and I don't really like to drink in public because it makes me mentally distinguished mentally-challenged. So instead I think I'll restart my dating profile tonight and go find some cool girls!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 17, 2011, 12:24:51 AM

don't feel bad for reaching whatever it is you've reached. I haven't gotten there yet and I'm older than you

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 17, 2011, 12:35:50 AM

But you have hot girls drunk texting you :omg

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 17, 2011, 12:42:39 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 17, 2011, 12:35:50 AM

But you have hot girls drunk texting you :omg

keyword is drunk

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 17, 2011, 12:50:24 AM

Yes, and when girls are "drunk" they tend to be a lot of fun! Plus someone confiding in another person when drunk means they want them; I only drunk text girls I have crushes on; so I really think you are in a good position going into this date this weekend. If she's a heavy drinker, even better cause then she'll lose all the nervousness and just make a move on you before you know it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 17, 2011, 12:56:46 AM

I suppose you are right. We shall see tomorrow night.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 17, 2011, 01:22:29 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 17, 2011, 12:19:16 AM

I'm flirting so much irl whenever I'm out, it's awesomeeeeee

Like I'm not even trying, just wherever I go if I bump into a girl I'll start chatting and keep it going for a while and they'll be like "what was your name, again? Mine's ___" and we shake hands and part ways at the end. Even when I'm just going through the drive-thru at in-n-out I'll joke around with the cashier while smiling and she'll get all flustered and stumble her words.

FEELS GOOD

I feel like I've reached that stage that all men reach, most usually in their 20s, forever alone people never, where I'm feeling good about myself, confident and comfortable and women are not scary weird species, but are just people who get nervous and awkward too; especially if you're beaming awesomeness.

I'm pretty late to reaching this point since I'm turning 30, but hey, I've still got some good years left in me! Flirting with people is fun :D

I probably should go to a bar one of these days and try out being awesome and having fun conversations there, but that costs money, takes time to go there and back, and I don't really like to drink in public because it makes me mentally distinguished mentally-challenged. So instead I think I'll restart my dating profile tonight and go find some cool girls!

This is why you fail. You were doing so well, but instead you're running back to the safety of online crazy chicks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 17, 2011, 01:34:34 AM

They're not all crazy!

...

....

.....

Shit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 17, 2011, 03:04:50 AM

think i might block this thread from myself

or just bebpo

god, man

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 17, 2011, 10:27:10 PM

Almost time for my date... :-\ ok breathe breathe I GOT THIS! I'ma make her swoon. :smug I hope :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 17, 2011, 10:28:17 PM

Be assertive. Grab her pussy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 17, 2011, 10:47:40 PM

With both hands

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on September 18, 2011, 01:09:44 AM

I think Bebpo has entered Season 3 if we're back to online. Fans were divided over Season 2's shift to the real world? I mean, you can argue it's back to familiar territory but we should see a resolution and satisfying conclusion to his arc that has been building. Although Season 4 needs to mix it up with a long running relationship or location change or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 18, 2011, 01:11:53 AM

Actually not back to online. Went on, looked around at the crowd, no one seemed interesting, left.

Still on season 2's cliffhanger

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 18, 2011, 02:53:00 AM

Quote from: Linkzg on September 18, 2011, 01:09:44 AM

I think Bebpo has entered Season 3 if we're back to online. Fans were divided over Season 2's shift to the real world? I mean, you can argue it's back to familiar territory but we should see a resolution and satisfying conclusion to his arc that has been building. Although Season 4 needs to mix it up with a long running relationship or location change or something.

I love this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 18, 2011, 03:03:24 AM

GUYS GUYS Date went awesome!! We made out at her car and she drove back to Sherman Oaks.. but I really like her and she definitely wants to hang out agian!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 18, 2011, 03:03:52 AM

Bebpo my BROTHA we neeed to hang out again soon!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 18, 2011, 03:25:49 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on September 18, 2011, 03:03:24 AM

GUYS GUYS Date went awesome!! We made out at her car and she drove back to Sherman Oaks.. but I really like her and she definitely wants to hang out agian!

(http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v297/bebpo/thumbs-up.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 18, 2011, 04:21:05 AM

Did you grab her pussy?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 18, 2011, 05:04:29 AM

Wif boff hanz? :o :o :o

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 18, 2011, 10:22:28 AM

I was going in for the grab but she pushed me away. :'( It's like she knew it was coming. WHO TOLD HER?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on September 18, 2011, 10:57:18 AM

She's a lurker!!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 18, 2011, 11:25:13 AM

I went on a date with a girl, but she was waaaay too young (19, I'm 29)... seemed nice enough although a bit too chubby even for my tastes. We just hung out near where she lived, grabbed some coffee and walked around. She was really into me, kissed me and txted me immediately after the date saying how much fun she had. It's just... I dunno she is too young! Gonna try setting up shit with the girl from Alabama and the girl I met at the bar, once more...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 18, 2011, 11:51:50 AM

I'm 30 and refuse to date a girl under 25. Too many bad experiences.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 18, 2011, 09:11:05 PM

Second date with Megan went really well! She came to Belmont's Writing Symposium with me (where I was recognized for my screenplays), then we went out to dinner with a few friends and came back to my place. Listened to music, read some poetry, and kissed a bit. Can't wait for our third date!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 18, 2011, 10:34:43 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 18, 2011, 09:11:05 PM

Second date with Megan went really well! She came to Belmont's Writing Symposium with me (where I was recognized for my screenplays), then we went out to dinner with a few friends and came back to my place. Listened to music, read some poetry, and kissed a bit. Can't wait for our third date!

(http://i209.photobucket.com/albums/bb44/SufjanSays/photo.jpg)

/GAF

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 19, 2011, 12:48:12 PM

Going on second date with Nina tomorrow night. :hyper I've been breaking all the rules with this girl. We went out on the first date and talked and texted each other the next day, no games here. I've never hit it off so well with a girl before. Well, besides Lennedsay. :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2011, 01:06:01 PM

what does she look like? :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 19, 2011, 01:12:40 PM

Don't forget to grab her pussy this time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 19, 2011, 01:19:13 PM

So happy things are going good for the borians.

One day this thread will become an orgy of super positive feelings as everyone will be in awesome relationships and all the posts will just be about how amazing everyone's life is.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 19, 2011, 01:20:36 PM

I actually posted pics of her before in my okcupid thread, but I never got a chance to meet her in person. She recently came back to okcupid, and we started talking again, and finally I went on a date with her Saturday night, and regret not getting together with her sooner, but here is some pics of her. She is a very sweet girl and she thinks I'm hot so I don't know what bizarre reality I'm in right now.

(http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y96/stinkyfishtaco/bm.jpg)
(http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y96/stinkyfishtaco/bm3.jpg)
(http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y96/stinkyfishtaco/bm2.jpg)

WOOOOOOOOT Tuesday night, bitches! :bow :bow :bow

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on September 19, 2011, 01:22:03 PM

Tear it up, dude. :hump

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 19, 2011, 01:22:10 PM

those tits :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 19, 2011, 01:29:37 PM

How old is she?

:bow Girls with tats :bow2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 19, 2011, 01:34:18 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 19, 2011, 01:29:37 PM

How old is she?

:bow Girls with tats :bow2

she's 33

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2011, 01:50:37 PM

dem thighs :o

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 19, 2011, 03:35:12 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2011, 01:50:37 PM

dem thighs :o

for my boy PD :o I don't like it usually when girls do this shot but she is amazing. I'm sorry

(http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y96/stinkyfishtaco/bm5.jpg)

also my favorite pic of her

(http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y96/stinkyfishtaco/bm4.jpg)
(http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y96/stinkyfishtaco/stare.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 19, 2011, 04:17:06 PM

Me rikey.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 19, 2011, 04:17:39 PM

and freckles :hyper

she's half cuban and half welsh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 19, 2011, 04:24:11 PM

Quote from: Wrath2X on September 19, 2011, 04:23:27 PM

She's half Christian Bale and half Fidel Castro :bow

you know I actually see the resemblance :o

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2011, 04:47:47 PM

I wouldn't have guessed she's 33. :bow

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 19, 2011, 04:50:44 PM

I think her being 33 is a great thing. She doesn't bullshit around. She just straight up tells me after the 1st date that she thinks I'm gorgeous, and fun to be around, and she wants to see me again. I was like oh shit hellz yeah!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 19, 2011, 05:59:39 PM

That's awesome, man. Congrats! :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 19, 2011, 06:32:51 PM

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2011, 07:11:17 PM

haters hating :violin

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on September 19, 2011, 07:25:35 PM

i'm guessing the business hasn't been having a lot of luck on his vacations recently

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 19, 2011, 07:36:01 PM

that's MY photobucket Business :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 19, 2011, 07:44:50 PM

Maybe she has plans to see a play?

I'm curious about the weaboo girl you're dumping. What made her weaboo? Was she into Naruto and stuff? Or just played a lot of Kingdom Hearts?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 19, 2011, 08:35:55 PM

Mojo, you're overanalyzing. Just keep showing her you're honestly interested.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 19, 2011, 09:13:17 PM

Yeah, you are over-analyzing things, but it's what I would do too, so don't feel bad.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 19, 2011, 09:31:43 PM

Yeah, I learned to keep a bit of distance when I first start dating, and prepare for the worst... since if things falter, I used to see it as a big blow to my self-esteem...

Just called a girl up to schedule plans for Friday at Starbucks. She seems pretty perky and a bit shy over the phone, but she has only one picture on OKC where she is making a strange face... so I dunno. She likes horses a lot too, maybe she will watch MLP with me :o

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 19, 2011, 09:33:19 PM

my new rule with first dates is FUCK Coffee.. Drinks or nothin!!! 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 19, 2011, 10:20:48 PM

It at least makes me feel better that mojo of all people is this neurotic.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 19, 2011, 10:25:04 PM

Quote from: tiesto on September 19, 2011, 09:31:43 PM

Yeah, I learned to keep a bit of distance when I first start dating, and prepare for the worst... since if things falter, I used to see it as a big blow to my self-esteem...

Just called a girl up to schedule plans for Friday at Starbucks. She seems pretty perky and a bit shy over the phone, but she has only one picture on OKC where she is making a strange face... so I dunno. She likes horses a lot too, maybe she will watch MLP with me :o

Just a heads up... horse girls are fuckin' weird.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 19, 2011, 10:25:31 PM

Everyone is neurotic, man or woman.

The trick is tame the neurons.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 19, 2011, 10:32:29 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 19, 2011, 10:25:31 PM

Everyone is neurotic, man or woman.

The trick is tame the neurons.

Horse girls are a special breed. I dated one in high school. I still have nightmares.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 19, 2011, 11:05:37 PM

What about Cat girls (and not the cosplay ones)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 19, 2011, 11:07:27 PM

Don't know. I never dated one. I love cats, though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 20, 2011, 12:44:41 AM

Especially when they impersonate them!

...oh yeah

/always feels awkward making sexual jokes

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 20, 2011, 01:16:13 AM

that was so shitty :lol i love it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 20, 2011, 01:18:42 AM

I was messaging with Girl B who I showed around town and met up once a week or two ago. She wants to hang out again but she has no money for gas or anything so I gotta pick her up and do free stuff like watching netflix at my place (hmmmmmmm) or going to the beach or something. She also doesn't get out of classes until 11pm so it would be late and dark. Hmmmmmmmm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 20, 2011, 09:06:30 AM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on September 19, 2011, 10:25:04 PM

Quote from: tiesto on September 19, 2011, 09:31:43 PM
Yeah, I learned to keep a bit of distance when I first start dating, and prepare for the worst... since if things falter, I used to see it as a big blow to my self-esteem...

Just called a girl up to schedule plans for Friday at Starbucks. She seems pretty perky and a bit shy over the phone, but she has only one picture on OKC where she is making a strange face... so I dunno. She likes horses a lot too, maybe she will watch MLP with me :o

Just a heads up... horse girls are fuckin' weird.

Yeah, because at some point in their life, they said "I want a PONY" and someone actually delivered. Hard to top that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 20, 2011, 09:07:49 AM

What if she ploughs the land with the horse? That sounds like a keeper.

I'm going backpacking soon with my gf :shh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 20, 2011, 09:11:27 AM

Quote from: chronovore on September 20, 2011, 09:06:30 AM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on September 19, 2011, 10:25:04 PM
Quote from: tiesto on September 19, 2011, 09:31:43 PM
Yeah, I learned to keep a bit of distance when I first start dating, and prepare for the worst... since if things falter, I used to see it as a big blow to my self-esteem...

Just called a girl up to schedule plans for Friday at Starbucks. She seems pretty perky and a bit shy over the phone, but she has only one picture on OKC where she is making a strange face... so I dunno. She likes horses a lot too, maybe she will watch MLP with me :o

Just a heads up... horse girls are fuckin' weird.

Yeah, because at some point in their life, they said "I want a PONY" and someone actually delivered. Hard to top that.

:lol Yeah, the best thing is I'm not much for animals... so we'll see :P My OKCupid options are rapidly drying up... :gloomy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on September 20, 2011, 12:18:04 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on September 20, 2011, 09:07:49 AM

What if she ploughs the land with the horse? That sounds like a keeper.

I'm going backpacking soon with my gf :shh

Why am I trying to connect these two statements?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 20, 2011, 07:10:57 PM

I've started making a regular habit of walking from work to the starbucks across the street once a day to take a break and get some coffee. After a week or two, ALL the girls working there started flirting with me while I wait for my drinks (not at the same time, on different days). Unfortunately they all look like 16-20 and none are my type. And I've never seen any good looking hipster chicks hanging around this particular starbucks since it's mainly near office buildings and kind of hidden and 90% businessmen. I picked the wrong starbucks to make a habit out of!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on September 20, 2011, 07:48:40 PM

Congrats Rocko! :bow2 Way to go young blood!

And tiesto, bail the fuck out. Next thing you know you'll be with her at a bar at closing time, and the employees finish their chores and sit down at the bar waiting for you both to finish your drinks, then one employee starts flipping the channels on the TV. She'll let out a shrill "GO BACK GO BACK!!" Everyone turns slowly toward her. She's on the edge of her seat, hands on the bar. "Go back to the horses!" The employee flips back a few channels and finds a horse show of some sort. They're trotting and jumping and what not.

"NICE HAUNCHES!! NICEEEEEE OOOOOH LOOK AT THAT TROT!! GO HORSEY GO!!! OOH LOOK AT THEM HAUNCHES!! OH THE FORM OF THAT ONE!!"

For 30 minutes straight. In those 30 long minutes, you slowly transition from pretend-interested in order to guarantee laid-dom down to basically drinking alone trying to find a way to rid yourself of this bitch, completely embarrassed by the fact that every employee in the restaurant is witness to this insane behavior by your date while they stare you down wishing you'd get the fuck out.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

That guy dumped her after that, but she did continue to come into the restaurant several times a week in full horse-riding gear. Her name from that day forward was and will forever be Haunches. Fuck I don't miss crazy customers I had to be nice to.

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 20, 2011, 10:25:53 PM

Lolololololololololol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on September 21, 2011, 12:14:32 AM

Neither did I :( Basically lost my innocence that night watching some middle aged woman who resembled a horse orgasming over haunches of a horse.

Mom: "Hi honey, how was work? You're getting home late."
19-yr old me: "I DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT."
Mom: "Are you feeling ok? You better not be getting sick from hanging out at work late at night. You sound a little hoarse already."
:( :( :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 21, 2011, 12:16:12 AM

"Hoarse" -- :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 21, 2011, 12:18:51 AM

I dated a horse girl for six months in high school. She liked horses more than anyone should. It was highly disturbing how she'd describe them in detail.

I was totally in love with her before we started dating. I was still in love with her for a couple months until I came to my senses and realized she'd never like me nearly as much as she loved those damn horses.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 21, 2011, 12:25:45 AM

Quote from: Wrath2X on September 21, 2011, 12:24:15 AM

I've got a horse girl to admit she loves the way her vagina rubs on the saddle as she rides :-\

I know 5 of them, 2 are tame and can be seen as "girls like animals" but the other 3 are downright insane.

My girlfriend was more of the tame sort, but it was still pretty obvious that I'd never be able to compete with the horses.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 21, 2011, 12:28:14 AM

Horse haunches? I'm fighting a weird urge to look this up on a porn site :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on September 21, 2011, 12:37:09 AM

Eh, I almost felt that way about my dogs. "My" dog at my parents hated all my bf's/potential bf's that I didn't really like, and loved the awesome ones. Basically bringing a guy over was nothing more than testing the waters with Miss Anna. If she wasn't satisfied, neither was I. NEXT.

But horses? :yuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 21, 2011, 12:45:21 AM

(http://i.imgur.com/JiERr.jpg)

She's so fucking cute :-[

Hanging out again either tomorrow or Thursday. Third date. I'm so excited.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on September 21, 2011, 01:38:48 AM

orioles :rock you done good

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 21, 2011, 01:39:59 AM

The Orioles are the one of the few teams Mets fans can look down on.

But any baseball cap is cool with me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 21, 2011, 01:58:40 AM

To ne honest, that cap is from her ex boyfriend who was from Baltimore. She's a Denver sports fan, having lived there for several years.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 21, 2011, 02:02:42 AM

The hat is the first thing Cajole saw lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 21, 2011, 02:19:34 AM

She's so gorgeous :)

She came to that reading of mine and seemed 100% interested and let me get cuddly with her that night like how couples interact in public. I just hope I'm not rushing things with her, I don't want to seem obsessive and i think that's one of my faults–when I start liking a girl, I might let on more than they are comfortable with. I'm trying to lay low now, but all I really wanna do is talk and be around her :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 21, 2011, 02:20:25 AM

Yeah, I'm a sissy like that too.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 21, 2011, 02:34:28 AM

I feel like I'm being pathetic with it all, so the last day or so I've been just quiet as I can be -- only texting her about her day and not really talking about us or anything. On our date on Thursday I'm going to try and make her make the moves so that I don't seem obsessive.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 21, 2011, 02:49:34 AM

I usually end up ending things with a "this is moving too fast!" thing, then looking back and realizing I was the one making it move fast. :derp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 21, 2011, 02:56:41 AM

That's why I'm taking things a step back. If there's one thing I think I'm always wrong at, its the speed of a relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 21, 2011, 03:06:26 AM

She's super cute, congrats brother.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 21, 2011, 03:08:50 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 21, 2011, 02:56:41 AM

That's why I'm taking things a step back. If there's one thing I think I'm always wrong at, its the speed of a relationship.

Good call.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlueTsunami on September 21, 2011, 04:54:36 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on September 19, 2011, 04:17:39 PM

and freckles :hyper

she's half cuban and half welsh

That's probably the most awesomest combo ever. Lucky mo'fucka

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 21, 2011, 09:07:40 AM

Quote from: Wrath2X on September 21, 2011, 12:31:00 AM

This Dutch girl I liked told me once that I can never measure up to her dog :'(

You should have just pooped on her, then she'd love you...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 21, 2011, 10:32:26 AM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on September 21, 2011, 02:49:34 AM

I usually end up ending things with a "this is moving too fast!" thing, then looking back and realizing I was the one making it move fast. :derp

:lol :lol

Shit that was me for a long time. Too many times I felt suffocated only to realize later that it was me that pretty much told them that kind of behavior was ok. But I always had a tendency to get bored really quickly so that definitely didn't help

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 21, 2011, 01:13:00 PM

Second date with Freckles was amazing, again. We went to this sushi place and I ate an Oyster shooter for the first time which was fucking gross and I'll never do it again.. anyway, After sushi we went to this bar and spent the rest of the night drinking, making out, and feeling each other up in a booth. It was pretty hot. Then after I walked her to my car she reached into my pants and was stroking mah dick. Though there was nobody around, thank god, but I think she gets off on public intimacy. We couldn't continue though because she had work early in the morning. Needless to say, I had the worst case of blue balls ever driving home. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 21, 2011, 01:16:37 PM

Did you touch her pussy this time? Tell me you did, boy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 21, 2011, 01:23:01 PM

I did not, but it will happen on the 3rd date. She is coming over to my place on Thursday night. :hyper

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 21, 2011, 01:50:10 PM

:o take pics, lots of pics!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 21, 2011, 03:49:08 PM

hey, Mupepe, You'll appreciate this text she sent me. "I wish I was there to put my tongue all around u and taste you as u cum!"

this girl is freaky-deaky! 8)

My self confidence is at an all time high right now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on September 21, 2011, 03:53:23 PM

just wait til she actually does it!!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 21, 2011, 03:55:57 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on September 21, 2011, 03:49:08 PM

hey, Mupepe, You'll appreciate this text she sent me. "I wish I was there to put my tongue all around u and taste you as u cum!"

this girl is freaky-deaky! 8)

My self confidence is at an all time high right now.

:o :o :o

She's a keeper

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 21, 2011, 04:19:21 PM

You better grab her fucking pussy this time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 21, 2011, 04:47:48 PM

Blackmage, you're at the best part of a new girl. Enjoy fun times ahead :DDDDDDD

Quote from: mojovonio on September 21, 2011, 04:44:44 PM

Still no word from tje brit if we're on for Sunday.

Foreveralone.jpg

How can you be foreveralone when you still have weaboo girl around? Or did you break that one off completely?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 21, 2011, 04:55:58 PM

That's the manly thing to do.

:respectknuckles

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 21, 2011, 05:23:54 PM

It is, it's just hard to see at times

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 22, 2011, 12:35:59 AM

When I go to a bar with a guy friend they think were a gay couple, no joke. Wtf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 22, 2011, 02:46:09 AM

Quote from: Wrath2X on September 21, 2011, 01:46:57 AM

I own a Yankee one, I'm guessing thats not so cool eh Mets fan

Of course you do

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 22, 2011, 09:33:59 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on September 22, 2011, 02:46:09 AM

Quote from: Wrath2X on September 21, 2011, 01:46:57 AM
I own a Yankee one, I'm guessing thats not so cool eh Mets fan

Of course you do

At least he doesn't have a Yanks tattoo like my ex.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 22, 2011, 02:00:01 PM

Quote from: Wrath2X on September 22, 2011, 01:22:24 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on September 22, 2011, 02:46:09 AM
Quote from: Wrath2X on September 21, 2011, 01:46:57 AM
I own a Yankee one, I'm guessing thats not so cool eh Mets fan

Of course you do

Not a fan of the team, just the logo. I have a Dodgers one somewhere, and a Mets one when I was a kid. I also have Seattle Mariners underwear :lol

(http://somewhatmanlynerd.com/gifs/adamapuke.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on September 22, 2011, 02:04:32 PM

leper Wrath, pls

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 22, 2011, 02:22:32 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on September 22, 2011, 02:20:32 PM

Fuck this looking for a real relationship garbage. Made plans to spend a weekend in Vermont with some chick.

Done.

real relationships :lol

spoiler (click to show/hide)

:'(

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 22, 2011, 02:23:59 PM

what happened Mojo? what did brit chick do?

hey CAJOLE! I'm watching Seinfeld and it makes me think of you :heart

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 22, 2011, 03:01:57 PM

Quote from: Wrath2X on September 22, 2011, 01:22:24 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on September 22, 2011, 02:46:09 AM
Quote from: Wrath2X on September 21, 2011, 01:46:57 AM
I own a Yankee one, I'm guessing thats not so cool eh Mets fan

Of course you do

Not a fan of the team, just the logo. I have a Dodgers one somewhere, and a Mets one when I was a kid. I also have Seattle Mariners underwear :lol

My wife wore a Mariners garter at our wedding. It's in my car now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 22, 2011, 03:47:49 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on September 22, 2011, 02:20:32 PM

Fuck this looking for a real relationship garbage. Made plans to spend a weekend in Vermont with some chick.

Done.

Sucks, but it sounds like you got this.

I wish my fallback was "got rejected, going to go spend a weekend with a different girl" instead of "got rejected, going to spend a weekend playing poker with guys and playing videogames"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlueTsunami on September 22, 2011, 05:42:37 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on September 22, 2011, 02:20:32 PM

Fuck this looking for a real relationship garbage. Made plans to spend a weekend in Vermont with some chick.

Done.

Ya'll gonna learnt he wonders of making syrup! Tapping trees and shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 23, 2011, 02:32:56 AM

Hey Blackmage, what's your profile on okc?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 23, 2011, 09:37:21 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 23, 2011, 02:32:56 AM

Hey Blackmage, what's your profile on okc?

Is this the thread where we share OKC profiles?

...I need new pics for mine.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 23, 2011, 01:16:17 PM

Nah, I was just curious to see BM's :-[

Quote from: mojovonio on September 23, 2011, 08:09:07 AM

So pretty sure british chick is done. Canceled my VT trip with other girl too. Probably would have just lead to drama.

Man, now I feel bad for jocking you about your smoothness. Hope things pick up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 23, 2011, 02:08:01 PM

PM'd you Bebpo. :) I'm not making my profile public to everyone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 23, 2011, 02:19:10 PM

nevermind i removed it. I'm done with the site for now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 23, 2011, 02:25:11 PM

guys.. I think I'm starting to get more serious with this girl. It's only been a week but we've really connected and I've never met a girl like her before. :) I don't want to fuck this up so I disabled my okcupid account for now unless I absolutely know she's not the one after all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 23, 2011, 02:52:14 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on September 23, 2011, 02:45:25 PM

Falling in to the same trap I did!

what makes you think its gonna end up the same way? Because you had one experience with a similar start? I'm looking for positive reinforcement here :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 23, 2011, 02:58:52 PM

you are already dead (alone)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 23, 2011, 03:09:38 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on September 23, 2011, 03:00:58 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on September 23, 2011, 02:52:14 PM
Quote from: mojovonio on September 23, 2011, 02:45:25 PM
Falling in to the same trap I did!

what makes you think its gonna end up the same way? Because you had one experience with a similar start? I'm looking for positive reinforcement here :maf

It may not, but why put all your eggs in that basket?

It's not the same. I can always re enable my okcupid account. if it doesn't work out, I probably wouldn't feel like dating for a while anyway.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 23, 2011, 03:18:59 PM

Hey Debbie Downers. No reason for him not to be optimistic. Relationships blossom and fail everyday and they have no effect on the chances of others. He's not running to marry this girl or writing her a crown of sonnets. He's doing a-okay.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 23, 2011, 03:26:33 PM

Thanks mups for understanding. :) I know fully well that she could just vanish out of the blue at this point, and it would hurt if she did, but I don't think putting my dating life on hold just for her is a bad thing, either. It will always be there when I need it again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 23, 2011, 05:15:14 PM

BM's got it going good

But oh man, I've encountered this situation THREE times and everytime it destroyed me and kept me from dating for a while. 1999, 2009, 2011. Good luck man, I know the feeling and it feels GOOD and so I hope you do better than me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on September 23, 2011, 07:23:46 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on September 23, 2011, 03:18:59 PM

Hey Debbie Downers. No reason for him not to be optimistic. Relationships blossom and fail everyday and they have no effect on the chances of others. He's not running to marry this girl or writing her a crown of sonnets. He's doing a-okay.

:bow

Listen to the happily married man on this one, boys.

Sometimes you just meet someone you click with. I can read my husband's mind and he can read mine. Been like that as long as I've known him. We'll have a full on convo from across the room with no words, just subtle looks or funny faces. We settled down pretty quickly, but why the hell not? I was down and knew he was down. Cherish that shit bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 23, 2011, 07:35:31 PM

Quote from: lennedsay on September 23, 2011, 07:23:46 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on September 23, 2011, 03:18:59 PM
Hey Debbie Downers. No reason for him not to be optimistic. Relationships blossom and fail everyday and they have no effect on the chances of others. He's not running to marry this girl or writing her a crown of sonnets. He's doing a-okay.

:bow

Listen to the happily married man on this one, boys.

Mupepe is also divorced. :debbiedowner

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on September 23, 2011, 07:36:29 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on September 23, 2011, 07:35:31 PM

Quote from: lennedsay on September 23, 2011, 07:23:46 PM
Quote from: Mupepe on September 23, 2011, 03:18:59 PM
Hey Debbie Downers. No reason for him not to be optimistic. Relationships blossom and fail everyday and they have no effect on the chances of others. He's not running to marry this girl or writing her a crown of sonnets. He's doing a-okay.

:bow

Listen to the happily married man on this one, boys.

Mupepe is also divorced. :debbiedowner

Exactly. Dude knows more about marriage than any of you fuckers.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 23, 2011, 08:25:41 PM

thanks, lennedsay and david. :-* I am happy right now about my situation, and none of these fuckers are gonna take that away from me. :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on September 23, 2011, 08:35:09 PM

if youre enjoying yourself awesome

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 23, 2011, 08:41:01 PM

Dunno bro, you know I got your back, being black actors and all. Don't rush things, definitely see what she's into/how she is/etc. It's a delicate dance. On one hand you don't want to rush, on the other hand you don't want to make it seem like you're hesitant.

have fun and hope for the best :bow

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 23, 2011, 11:14:36 PM

don't worry guys. I'll be ok whether it works out or not. I still got my homies! :heart :heartbeat

I'm going to her place tomorrow night. :hyper

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 23, 2011, 11:30:19 PM

Quote from: The Business on September 23, 2011, 11:18:34 PM

I think that woman is terrible, but I'm just a guy on the internet.

why are you a dick? :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 24, 2011, 08:00:02 PM

So I get this e-mail forwarded from my dad whose part of a yacht club that throws parties:

Quote

From: [guy]
To: [my dad]
Sent: Friday, September 23, 2011 12:48 AM
Subject: Dock Party Wingman for your sons

Hey [my dad],

Matt and I have been working on having some very nice girls who
would be great prospective members come to the dock party this
Saturday.

I think we may have made a major miscalculation in the ratio of babes
to guys, because we only have hot chicks coming.

You should definitely have your sons come and bring their guy friends
who would like to meet nice girls and also be prospective members. I
think we will have at least 5 or 10 extra hot girls from 25 to 35
coming.

Please try not to drool on my deck.

[guy]

I find this really awkward when my dad e-mails me these things!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 26, 2011, 11:02:47 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on September 26, 2011, 12:49:08 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on September 23, 2011, 11:14:36 PM
don't worry guys. I'll be ok whether it works out or not. I still got my homies! :heart :heartbeat

I'm going to her place tomorrow night. :hyper

Hey, how did that date turn out? Did you hit it?

LAAAAAAAAAWL

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on September 26, 2011, 11:07:59 AM

:lol annihilated

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 26, 2011, 11:14:37 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 24, 2011, 08:00:02 PM

So I get this e-mail forwarded from my dad whose part of a yacht club that throws parties:

Quote
From: [guy]
To: [my dad]
Sent: Friday, September 23, 2011 12:48 AM
Subject: Dock Party Wingman for your sons

Hey [my dad],

Matt and I have been working on having some very nice girls who
would be great prospective members come to the dock party this
Saturday.

I think we may have made a major miscalculation in the ratio of babes
to guys, because we only have hot chicks coming.

You should definitely have your sons come and bring their guy friends
who would like to meet nice girls and also be prospective members. I
think we will have at least 5 or 10 extra hot girls from 25 to 35
coming.

Please try not to drool on my deck.

[guy]

I find this really awkward when my dad e-mails me these things!

Your Dad is looking out for your dick.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on September 26, 2011, 07:00:10 PM

yea, I totally get the Jewish cliche of wealth mixed with unflappable neurosis, but it just seems so old hat nowadays. If I had my way 21st century Judaism would be all about razor sharp functionality and sexual assertiveness. But than I look at my Jewish friends (and my family, and me) and it's the same old shit. Bebpo is just a prime example of what hasn't changed in Western Jewish culture.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 26, 2011, 07:28:39 PM

Quote from: The Business on September 26, 2011, 06:49:16 PM

Bebpo makes me fucking sick. He's just so ridiculously oblivious. My life isn't bad by any means, but do you know how awesome it would be if I came from Bebpo's family's money? Fucking yacht clubs and law school and 2-seat sports cars? And he spends his time on weaboo shit and gundams and can't get laid to save his life. Disgusting.

Boo hoo hoo, cry me a river Mr. tall sexy army muscle man whose never had a problem getting laid in his life.

Money doesn't mean shit anymore. In the 1800s/1900s, sure; having a decent income pretty much gave you high status like a movie star, but these days having a good job doesn't put you on different ground than someone who just makes enough to pay the rent on a tiny $300 a month apartment in the middle of bumfuck idaho. Any girl who matters doesn't care about money at all. What matters is simply confidence, height/body/face/looks, and your wit. You don't need all three to stand out, but the more of that you have the better off you are in making a good impression. Money doesn't effect any of that.

Yeah I make a decent salary that pays my bills and I don't have to worry about if I can afford the gas to vegas and party for a weekend, yeah I don't have to worry about tipping when I get good service at a coffee shop, yeah I don't have to worry about if I can afford to go to a concert with a girl. But you know what, I worked my fucking ass off for 2/3rds of my 30 years of life so far. Instead of being out partying, getting high, and having sex on E at raves, I was sitting at home studying my ass off to overkill all my schoolwork and always be at the top of my classes. I worked my ass off to get a scholarship for law school, worked my ass off to graduate with awards, worked my ass off the pass the bar (the hardest test in the country) on my first try and I work my ass off to get people's cases moved through the system and get them the money/remedies they deserve. All this included breaking up with a girl because I didn't have time to deal with her and my school at the same time and then not dating because I didn't want to get into the same situation. So yeah, I get paid fine and for the area I live in and the ridiculous prices of everything I probably make about the average salary and guess what I earned that shit and I continue to earn it every day I get shit done and make people's lives better.

I've lived an honest to goodness life to have an honest to goodness normal living including waking up, having coffee, going to work all day, coming home, cooking some meat, sitting back and watching a movie/playing a game, then going to sleep to wake up again and repeat the cycle five days a week. My life isn't some crazy adventure of bear hunting in the wilderness every day, a waking up in a gutter not remembering the night before, or sailing across continents, but you know what, I don't need crazy in my life. I'm fine with a standard enjoyable lifestyle of good food, good entertainment, and a job that I enjoy.

If that doesn't draw women in, then so be it. If women want some crazy exciting don juan, then they can go with him and have crazy shit adventures, and get pregnant at 21 or die in a desert or end up murdering each other. Whatever, I don't need that crazy. At some point I'll run into a normal person who likes BOOKS and talking about FILM DIRECTORS and who can appreciate me having my MAN TIME for hanging with my buddies playing videogames. Then things will be like they are now, which is good, but just a little better thanks to some extra companionship. But it'll happen when it happens.

For now I'm going to enjoy my life, so excuse me while I sip my starbucks and go play some Gundam game.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on September 26, 2011, 07:57:52 PM

Business eviscerated. What a meathead... enjoy your third world country fuckstavaganza.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on September 26, 2011, 08:32:38 PM

Quote from: Bebpuu

At some point I'll run into a ~~normal~~weeaboo person who likes ~~BOOKS~~MANGA and talking about ~~FILM DIRECTORS~~ANIME SEIYUU and who can appreciate me having my ~~MAN~~MANCHILD TIME for hanging with my buddies playing videogames.

fixed for the record

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 26, 2011, 08:53:50 PM

I still maintain that I am less weaboo than many on this forum!

Last night I played Fallout, read Clash of Kings and watched Arrested Development. All non-weaboo 8)

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Also watched an ep of Sacred Seven :'(

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 26, 2011, 09:16:12 PM

I've met him in person and Bebpo is a decent and good looking fellow. He'll get a girl eventually. Beleee dat.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 26, 2011, 09:21:10 PM

My only Bebpo worry is his self-admission that he likes drama in a relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 26, 2011, 09:31:47 PM

Quote from: chronovore on September 26, 2011, 09:21:10 PM

My only Bebpo worry is his self-admission that he likes drama in a relationship.

I was sort of lying to myself to give an excuse why I was still chasing this girl in LA that I really shouldn't have been chasing because my dick said yes yes yes. Even though everyone said no no no.

Then I realized at some point that she was crazy like all of you told me and I was like "oh shit I dodged a bullet there"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on September 26, 2011, 10:02:38 PM

I wish I had Bebpo's work ethic.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 26, 2011, 10:10:41 PM

:bow Bebpo :bow2

Don't sweat the small stuff, Bebpo... I'm in the same boat as you right now, dude - going out on dates that go nowhere whilst juggling a new place. Just gotta hold your head up high.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 26, 2011, 11:19:45 PM

Hey, thanks guys. You're making me blush :-[

Helps that I like my job. Might be because it's still new and exciting, but everyday is unexpected stuff happens (law firms are like the most untypical businesses. You get emergencies out of nowhere when people call up or fax something over at the last second and are all OH SHIT, WE DONE WAITED TILL THE LAST MINUTE AND FUCKED UP). and you get a lot of stories out of it, though they are legal ones and rushing to record easements before pulling lis pendens don't sound all that exciting in a bar situation :P

But getting it under control and things accomplished daily gives a feel good high. It's not like I'm just doing meaningless time wasting crap. Sometimes I'm between stuff and just surf the web but when I'm doing work it's actually meaningful and that makes it really satisfying when I get it done. Since I have about a dozen cases going simultaneously and all week there's various updates and in them it's a lot of multi-tasking and getting a half-dozen projects done per day in 5 min - 3 hour segments. It's fun! And I don't want to go home until I've gotten the things things DONE that I want done for the day, so lately I've been pulling 11 hour days. Getting in at 8am get out at 7pm and after a bite to eat, home at 8pm. Reigns in my free time a bit.

Tonight after work I went to a sandwich shop to get a BLT and there was this tall cute short hair blond with hipster glasses and a bit of her hair dyed pink in line in front of me. Totally my type. I said hi and she said she was there with her bf who was up ahead ordering. Another day, another day.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 27, 2011, 12:51:33 AM

Quote from: The Business on September 26, 2011, 06:49:16 PM

Bebpo makes me fucking sick. He's just so ridiculously oblivious. My life isn't bad by any means, but do you know how awesome it would be if I came from Bebpo's family's money? Fucking yacht clubs and law school and 2-seat sports cars? And he spends his time on weaboo shit and gundams and can't get laid to save his life. Disgusting.

Is your vacation not going well or something? Jesus, man.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 27, 2011, 02:35:11 AM

Megan is a having a bit of an emotional breakdown regarding her ex boyfriend, so she's being a bit distant. She wants to be with me and be something long-term, but she's not sure how to approach things and doesn't want to end up hurting me since she's so emotionally fucked up right now. She doesn't know if something romantic will be good for her. I told her she can take a few days to just think things over; she's going to her hometown for a long weekend, so I won't contact her other than to ask how she is. I honestly don't judge her for her point of view, and I kind of expected it. But with our dates and the time we spent with each other, I ended up really really liking her and I hope she may be able to see that and feel like she'd like to continue it.

I haven't pressured her into calling our situation anything or thinking its a strict relationship, so I hope she can come back and continue what we've been doing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 27, 2011, 02:43:26 AM

this seems to be a trend

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 27, 2011, 02:48:09 AM

Next Week On EB Relationships

Bepbo: I thought she was everything I wanted in a woman, but last night after sex she told me she hated Evangelion's ending. I couldn't breath

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 27, 2011, 02:52:35 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 27, 2011, 02:48:09 AM

Next Week On EB Relationships

Bepbo: I thought she was everything I wanted in a woman, but last night ~~after~~ during sex she told me she hated Evangelion's ending. I couldn't ~~breath~~ come

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 27, 2011, 03:28:58 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on September 27, 2011, 02:43:26 AM

this seems to be a trend

you mean with me?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 27, 2011, 03:45:07 AM

I think he means in general that after BM's story it seems like EB relationship-ville which was heading to positive land is hitting some speedbumps.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 27, 2011, 02:48:09 AM

Next Week On EB Relationships

Bepbo: I thought she was everything I wanted in a woman, but last night after sex she told me she hated Evangelion's ending. I couldn't breath

Hey, any girl who would watch even evangelion has more than passed the "will put up with nerdy shit" requirement in my book.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 27, 2011, 03:51:52 AM

Cajole: It's over. She called me A-Rod during sex

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 27, 2011, 04:05:44 AM

I wouldn't really call this a speedbump. We both seem to be on the same general level, she just doesn't want to end up hurting me later on if a relationship buds from what we have. I told her that we can cross the bridge when we cross it.

Fact of the matter: I like her, she likes me, and we're happy around each other. I'm trying to get across to her that THAT's all that matters right now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 27, 2011, 05:22:03 AM

Phoenix Dark

(http://i53.tinypic.com/2j35xeg.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 27, 2011, 10:51:06 AM

:lol :lol :lol :lol

:bow Bebpo :bow2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on September 27, 2011, 12:08:53 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 27, 2011, 03:51:52 AM

Cajole: It's over. She called me A-Rod during sex

I wouldn't even be able to get the job done at that point. Which I guess would make me A-Rod.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 27, 2011, 12:11:25 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 27, 2011, 03:45:07 AM

I think he means in general that after BM's story it seems like EB relationship-ville which was heading to positive land is hitting some speedbumps.

You guys are in the euphoric-bubble of early relationships. It's going to burst eventually and bring you back to reality. That's when you find out if things are worth it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on September 27, 2011, 12:44:50 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 27, 2011, 04:05:44 AM

I wouldn't really call this a speedbump. We both seem to be on the same general level, she just doesn't want to end up hurting me later on if a relationship buds from what we have. I told her that we can cross the bridge when we cross it.

Fact of the matter: I like her, she likes me, and we're happy around each other. I'm trying to get across to her that THAT's all that matters right now.

did you actually use the words "we can cross the bridge when we cross it"?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 27, 2011, 12:59:00 PM

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 27, 2011, 02:41:46 PM

bahahah no I didn't. Whoops. Was kinda drunk when I was typing that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 27, 2011, 09:46:29 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 26, 2011, 09:31:47 PM

Quote from: chronovore on September 26, 2011, 09:21:10 PM
My only Bebpo worry is his self-admission that he likes drama in a relationship.

I was sort of lying to myself to give an excuse why I was still chasing this girl in LA that I really shouldn't have been chasing because my dick said yes yes yes. Even though everyone said no no no.

Then I realized at some point that she was crazy like all of you told me and I was like "oh shit I dodged a bullet there"

Well, I can relate to that. I stayed with a woman 3 months longer than I should have because she was very attractive (a model) and she craved the chrono-peen.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on September 27, 2011, 09:53:14 PM

Humblebrag of the Day!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 27, 2011, 09:55:40 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on September 27, 2011, 03:45:07 AM

I think he means in general that after BM's story it seems like EB relationship-ville which was heading to positive land is hitting some speedbumps.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 27, 2011, 02:48:09 AM
Next Week On EB Relationships

Bepbo: I thought she was everything I wanted in a woman, but last night after sex she told me she hated Evangelion's ending. I couldn't breath

Hey, any girl who would watch even evangelion has more than passed the "will put up with nerdy shit" requirement in my book.

Plus, it's entirely natural to dislike the ending to Evangelion, because it sucked.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 27, 2011, 09:59:55 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 27, 2011, 02:35:11 AM

Megan is a having a bit of an emotional breakdown regarding her ex boyfriend, so she's being a bit distant. She wants to be with me and be something long-term, but she's not sure how to approach things and doesn't want to end up hurting me since she's so emotionally fucked up right now. She doesn't know if something romantic will be good for her. I told her she can take a few days to just think things over; she's going to her hometown for a long weekend, so I won't contact her other than to ask how she is. I honestly don't judge her for her point of view, and I kind of expected it. But with our dates and the time we spent with each other, I ended up really really liking her and I hope she may be able to see that and feel like she'd like to continue it.

I haven't pressured her into calling our situation anything or thinking its a strict relationship, so I hope she can come back and continue what we've been doing.

Don't even do this. Just give her space, and let her have her time around her hometown family and friends. Just tell her she can call you if she needs to, and don't pursue.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 27, 2011, 10:59:22 PM

Yeah, you're right. I haven't talked to her since this morning, she needed my phone number because she's getting a new phone today and her contacts won't switch over.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlueTsunami on September 29, 2011, 08:54:53 AM

IF YOU LOVE HER YOU'LL LET HER GO? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on September 30, 2011, 03:46:45 AM

There's a lot to be said for just bein your own dude for a while.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 30, 2011, 05:04:01 AM

My gf is supercool but In my heart I'm a free man :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: The Sceneman on September 30, 2011, 05:13:44 AM

I'm never going to get any pussy, ever again

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 30, 2011, 05:49:06 AM

Why?

I had some weird dream last night I was having sex with two sisters (not at the same time)

What does it mean?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: The Sceneman on September 30, 2011, 07:35:15 AM

ah It's just been a major dry spell for me. Havent had any action in a long time.

There's lots of factors!

I wasnt being 100% serious, I'm just bored or something

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 02, 2011, 09:36:34 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/8BTQE.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 02, 2011, 09:42:16 PM

Is that your auto-biography? ;)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 03, 2011, 05:45:54 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on October 02, 2011, 09:42:16 PM

Is that your auto-biography? ;)

No, pretty sure I married the princess and lived a largely emotionally satisfied but still sometimes problematic life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 03, 2011, 08:53:02 AM

Second date with the horse-lover girl... there really doesn't seem to be much chemistry there, even though she isn't bad looking and is very nice. Oh well...

I saw this one girl who is 1/2 white 1/2 asian, originally from the Netherlands, loves to bike, one of her favorite books is Snow Crash, she loves Korean, plays games, and her favorite music artists are Tiesto and Daft Punk... I am just like, holy shit!!! It's like the female version of me :O She lives in the city (which is a bit far), but I shot her an email anyways.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 03, 2011, 09:27:48 AM

I'm hauling lumber just from the description! :o :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 03, 2011, 09:45:20 AM

Is she Indonesian/Dutch or what?

/drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 05, 2011, 09:00:17 AM

Damn, and no email back yet from that awesome girl. :-\

Also I hung out with an ex of mine from the college days, now all of a sudden she's txting me constantly wanting to get back together... dating is so annoying!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 05, 2011, 10:18:23 AM

:lol :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 05, 2011, 10:22:49 AM

Boohoo tiesto

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 10, 2011, 08:27:07 PM

Megan is having sex with some dude at work but still wants us to talk and maybe start a relationship later

(http://weknowmemes.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/epic-jackie-chan-template.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on October 10, 2011, 08:31:08 PM

Megan is a skank.

Sorry sweet pea. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 10, 2011, 08:36:39 PM

Yikes. I'm still for you hooking up with her though in the short term because she seems hot and fun. Don't put a lot of effort in though. It's not worth it since there's no chance for longterm there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 10, 2011, 08:37:27 PM

Oh well. T'was fun to think about and while it lasted. Maybe in a month or so she'll settle down and wanna be with me. Until then, fapping for me

(http://s3.amazonaws.com/kym-assets/entries/icons/medium/000/003/619/Untitled-1.jpg?1288903617)

Nah, not really. I'll just hit up some bars in the next few weeks. No worries. Still kind of a bummer, I really liked her.

edit: well Bebpo, she really likes me and can see us dating for in the long-term, but she doesn't want to end up hurting me right now if we started dating because she says she's still trying to clear her head from her previous relationship. Can't say I blame her or anything, that's fair. The sex is just...I guess a natural rebound thing, but I've never felt the need for such a reaction after a break up. *shrugs*

We'll see. I'm not really broken up about it, but it just sucks that this sort of situation always seems to happen to me. Maybe she'll get her wits and come around in a bit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlueTsunami on October 10, 2011, 08:39:55 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on October 10, 2011, 08:27:07 PM

Megan is having sex with some dude at work but still wants us to talk and maybe start a relationship later

(http://weknowmemes.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/epic-jackie-chan-template.png)

That's about a "How 'bout no" moment I've ever read

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 10, 2011, 08:42:45 PM

Trust me, I'm not gonna be a standard internet bubububu- kid and wait around. We still see each other and I'm sure we'll still hang around. I don't really have any ill will towards her, to be honest. It makes sense to me. I'm just gonna play it cool for a while and focus on school and maybe an occasional hook up if it ever comes up, and if she gets her shit in order then we'll talk. I know y'all think that's me being walked all over but meh, she can do whatever she wants, either way. I'm not going to lay down the penis-law or anything.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 10, 2011, 08:53:00 PM

hit it and quit it with Megan. you need to be the rebound sex guy. no relationship though

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on October 10, 2011, 08:56:55 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on October 10, 2011, 08:53:00 PM

hit it and quit it with Megan. you need to be the rebound sex guy. no relationship though

she already has a rebound guy. brandnew is the "maybe, if i dont find anything else" guy. the proper response to her should be "FUCK OFF LADY"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 10, 2011, 08:59:18 PM

Eh, I'm just gonna see what happens. I'm not going to actively do anything. I'm about as meh as I can get.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 10, 2011, 09:05:46 PM

sex sex sex! pursue that booty! and then when everyone else has left her cooch to dry and she turns to you for that long term relationship you just laugh and walk away

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on October 10, 2011, 09:05:51 PM

Taking Bebpo out Wednesday and Thursday night!

Gonna fail as a wingman! :rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 10, 2011, 09:07:22 PM

Like I said, I think I'm just going to focus on school. Gotta get my shit together to graduate by this May.

That's as forever alone a post as I can be right now, isn't it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on October 10, 2011, 09:10:13 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on October 10, 2011, 09:07:22 PM

Like I said, I think I'm just going to focus on school. Gotta get my shit together to graduate by this May.

That's as forever alone a post as I can be right now, isn't it

You're doing the right thing, though. She is just going to string you along and fuck with your head.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 10, 2011, 09:10:50 PM

I don't like the fact that you're sensible, BrandNew. I come into this thread to see trainwreck dates and shit. Dammit!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on October 10, 2011, 09:12:21 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on October 10, 2011, 09:05:51 PM

Taking Bebpo out Wednesday and Thursday night!

Gonna fail as a wingman! :rock

tell him to say "take this! my love, my anger, and all of my sorrow!" to a lady

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on October 10, 2011, 09:13:25 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on October 10, 2011, 09:10:50 PM

I don't like the fact that you're sensible, BrandNew. I come into this thread to see trainwreck dates and shit. Dammit!

Now we gotta watch soap operas due to lack of drama in this thread. :( Way to be rational, BN...

Anybody heard from BlackMage? I haven't heard anything since crazy girl got crazy. I'm worried about his pup pup...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on October 10, 2011, 09:14:11 PM

Quote from: Linkzg on October 10, 2011, 09:12:21 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on October 10, 2011, 09:05:51 PM
Taking Bebpo out Wednesday and Thursday night!

Gonna fail as a wingman! :rock

tell him to say "take this! my love, my anger, and all of my sorrow!" to a lady

Done.

We're seeing Boris on Wednesday night. Should be fun. I'm showing him around the city on Thursday, along with visiting some of my favorite breweries.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 10, 2011, 11:23:15 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on October 10, 2011, 09:05:51 PM

Taking Bebpo out Wednesday and Thursday night!

Gonna fail as a wingman! :rock

:lol

I'm not planning on picking up any girls while I'm there. There for the drinks with my fellow Borebro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on October 10, 2011, 11:25:28 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on October 10, 2011, 11:23:15 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on October 10, 2011, 09:05:51 PM
Taking Bebpo out Wednesday and Thursday night!

Gonna fail as a wingman! :rock

:lol

I'm not planning on picking up any girls while I'm there. There for the drinks with my fellow Borebro.

Are you leaving the picking up chicks for when you're in NYC, then? COME ON LET'S DO THIS

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on October 10, 2011, 11:36:39 PM

Bebpo is bringing his swank to NYC? that calls for a John Murphy score

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 11, 2011, 03:47:04 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on October 10, 2011, 08:27:07 PM

Megan is having sex with some dude at work but still wants us to talk and maybe start a relationship later

(http://weknowmemes.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/epic-jackie-chan-template.png)

My cat's name is Megan. And I'm drunk/tired so your post felt me bad, man :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on October 11, 2011, 03:48:46 AM

PD? Drunk?!

DO TELL :o

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 11, 2011, 03:50:28 AM

well i'm sorta druink

i forgot to buy milk and liqueur so i added some thai tea into my smirnoff

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on October 11, 2011, 03:54:15 AM

of course you'd drink smirnoff

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Pringo on October 11, 2011, 03:55:43 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 11, 2011, 03:47:04 AM

My cat's name is Megan.

(http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e86/PhoenixDark1/redkat-1-1.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on October 11, 2011, 03:55:46 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 11, 2011, 03:50:28 AM

well i'm sorta druink

i forgot to buy milk and liqueur so i added some thai tea into my smirnoff

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 11, 2011, 03:56:47 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on October 11, 2011, 03:54:15 AM

of course you'd drink smirnoff

i borrowed it from my buddy. you guys said the vodka doesn't evan matter for white russkies

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Post by: etiolate on October 11, 2011, 05:49:28 AM

Schmirnoff is the olive garden of vodkas.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 11, 2011, 06:08:20 AM

(http://www.janussa.pl/zdjecia_www/02LU020-003-00.jpg)

Only wodka that matters.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/W%C3%B3dka_%C5%BBo%C5%82%C4%85dkowa_Gorzka

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on October 11, 2011, 08:07:39 PM

They're not?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on October 11, 2011, 08:11:26 PM

Quote from: lennedsay on October 11, 2011, 08:07:39 PM

They're not?

[slowly backs out of thread]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Joe Molotov on October 11, 2011, 08:56:24 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on October 10, 2011, 09:14:11 PM

Quote from: Linkzg on October 10, 2011, 09:12:21 PM
Quote from: Mr. Gundam on October 10, 2011, 09:05:51 PM
Taking Bebpo out Wednesday and Thursday night!

Gonna fail as a wingman! :rock

tell him to say "take this! my love, my anger, and all of my sorrow!" to a lady

Done.

So did you guys give any girls the shining finger?

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Post by: lennedsay on October 11, 2011, 09:32:53 PM

Quote from: Wrath2X on October 11, 2011, 08:41:38 PM

Quote from: lennedsay on October 11, 2011, 08:07:39 PM
They're not?

Well since a lot of what muslims think the jews are behind is the acts of ultra conservative christian right wing dolts, their idea that every sort of entertainment from football to porn is the jews trying to take us muslims away from our religion, the "fact" that jews know we're right but refuse to worship allah out of spite and would rather see us down in hell with them, and that jews and muslims are "destined" to fight till "judgement day". Yes I'm pretty pissed actually at the distinguished mentally-challenged reasons for hating jews since 95% of them have NOTHING AT ALL TO DO WITH THEM!

I hate these fucktarded anus licking monkeyshits who run around spreading crazy bullshit and us going to jail, getting ridiculed and fucking crucified for calling them pieces of shit! Sure the royal family and government want to end them but those two are fucking batshit as well, from the royal family stealing oil money from hardworking citizens so they can spend them on doing lines off of ladyboy dicks while they don't work at all and get it because of their "birthright". The government deciding to just help out their immediate and extended families while ignoring cases that require immediate attention.

Seriously this country has been fucked so hard cause of religious extremism, dictatorship, old arabic ideologies, sex separation, executions and the like that to fully repair this country would take upwards of 60 years to a century. The sensible arabs either keep their opinions to themselves or move to another country and i don't blame them one bit.

I love that I'm bedouin, I love that I have bedouin traits, I love that I'm generous, laidback, open minded and not an overall prick to people who don't deserve to be treated like shit. But those are the good traits, the idea that pouring arabic coffee to some farting old dumbfucks makes you a man is idiotic and old, as are many of the bedouin facts and arab tribalism that people here still cling to.

tl;dr

blablablabla

I assume it's a more extreme version than America, where smart people keep their mouth shut and dumb people spout their racist mouths off.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 11, 2011, 10:18:45 PM

So Muslim women complaining about Jews is the American equivalent of black women complaining about white women? I feel your pain Wrath

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 12, 2011, 08:47:53 AM

Quote from: BlueTsunami on October 10, 2011, 08:39:55 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on October 10, 2011, 08:27:07 PM
Megan is having sex with some dude at work but still wants us to talk and maybe start a relationship later

(http://weknowmemes.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/epic-jackie-chan-template.png)

That's about a "How 'bout no" moment I've ever read

Yes.

Yesyesyes.

Quote from: Mupepe on October 10, 2011, 08:53:00 PM

hit it and quit it with Megan. you need to be the rebound sex guy. no relationship though

No.

C'mon. You KNOW BrandNew is emotional about this girl; he'd go in with the rebound plan, then start crying halfway through the fuck, and THAT never turns out well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 12, 2011, 09:23:50 AM

Speaking about Jews, I've been talking to one on OKC who's going to grad school @ Stony to be a history teacher, and she's REALLY good looking. Based on her profile though, it seems like she's one of those women on the marriage train... Gonna try and set up a date hopefully with her.

Went out with a girl I really liked on Saturday, called her and left a message but she hasn't called me back yet :( Went out with another on Monday, and I had a good time, but the girl is a big smoker and druggie and hippie, not really my "type". Dating is so freaking frustrating...

NY Comic Con is coming up this weekend, maybe there will be some ass there for me to pick up.

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but with my luck all the girls I meet will be from Jersey :-\

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 12, 2011, 06:22:54 PM

I can't imagine dating a smoker.

Also, I worry about anyone looking to get married. It's the wrong motivation; first, find someone you want to be with, a lot, a lot, A LOT... then worry about how to spend the rest of your life with them. People who want to get married are desperate. Desperation makes them suppress parts of their personality hoping for a better fit, which ironically can only make them a worse fit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on October 12, 2011, 06:48:13 PM

The oddness of dating a smoker is if you're not a smoker yourself, no?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 12, 2011, 06:59:59 PM

Smoking is a no go. Smells bad, ruins your oral health...nah.

The most annoying marriage chicks are the ones who randomly say shit like "well I'm 24 and haven't been married yet. I need to start a family but men are too busy chasing these hoes." And I'm like wtf. Marriage never crosses my mind, and won't until I'm settled. And even then I'll most likely be so happy I'm doin' thangs that it won't cross my mind then either.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 12, 2011, 07:14:02 PM

I can't even fathom contemplating marriage until I'm 30.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on October 12, 2011, 07:39:55 PM

I never dated a smoker. Just grosses me out.

I got married at 25, but my wife and I had been together for 3 years and figured out that we worked really well together. Things are still great now that we're both 30.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on October 12, 2011, 07:44:00 PM

Yea, these darn whippersnappers. I thought the same thing before I was in a serious relationship (with someone that I actually liked, that is). Started dating my husband right after I turned 21, and we got married 2 1/2 years later when I was 23. Sounds young now, but I had my shit together as did my husband.

He's thirty this year. :teehee

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 12, 2011, 08:37:25 PM

YOU YOUNG'NS GIT OFF MAH LAWN!

Christ, I can't imagine getting married -- or even serious -- at the ages Gundam and Lennesday were. I was basically a dick with legs at that point in my life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 12, 2011, 08:51:41 PM

sounds hot :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on October 12, 2011, 08:55:03 PM

Quote from: chronovore on October 12, 2011, 08:37:25 PM

YOU YOUNG'NS GIT OFF MAH LAWN!

Christ, I can't imagine getting married -- or even serious -- at the ages Gundam and Lennesday were. I was basically a dick with legs at that point in my life.

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CAN I GET A WHOOP WHOOP
(http://farm7.static.flickr.com/6217/6238895449_d30fdb97b0_z.jpg)

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 12, 2011, 08:55:56 PM

:lol :lol :lol

al pacino in this muthafucka

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on October 12, 2011, 09:21:44 PM

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on October 12, 2011, 09:24:52 PM

chrono is a fucking boss

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Post by: tiesto on October 12, 2011, 09:47:35 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on October 12, 2011, 07:14:02 PM

I can't even fathom contemplating marriage until I'm 30.

I'm gonna be 30 next year :-\

Curly-haired girl called me back but I was on my work break so I didn't get it... she says she wants to go out next week Let's hope she doesn't flake. I liked the girl, she is into art and disco/funk/edm, loves Daft Punk and actually likes to go out to dance parties. The girl who I went out with the other night wrote to me thanking me for the drink... I'd definitely fuck her, nice curvy blonde with glasses :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Joe Molotov on October 12, 2011, 11:39:56 PM

omg pics

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 13, 2011, 12:32:15 AM

You guys... :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 13, 2011, 07:24:46 PM

When I walk down the street, cute girls (22-26 range) smile at me as they pass me by.

This is arghhhhh because what the fuck am I supposed to do at that point? So it's like this good looking girl thinks I'm attractive but she just walked by and I'll never see her again

I hate knowing I appeal to girls :p. If I was ugly than I could rationalize why I never meet anyone, but it's like waving it right in my face! I need to learn how to approach girls, last time I just approached a random girl on the street and started conversation was 12 years ago and what became my first girlfriend.

It's not that I don't have the guts, it's just that I don't want to come off as a creep.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on October 13, 2011, 07:30:52 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on October 13, 2011, 07:24:46 PM

When I walk down the street, cute girls (22-26 range) smile at me as they pass me by.

This is arghhhhh because what the fuck am I supposed to do at that point? So it's like this good looking girl thinks I'm attractive but she just walked by and I'll never see her again

I hate knowing I appeal to girls :p. If I was ugly than I could rationalize why I never meet anyone, but it's like waving it right in my face! I need to learn how to approach girls, last time I just approached a random girl on the street and started conversation was 12 years ago and what became my first girlfriend.

It's not that I don't have the guts, it's just that I don't want to come off as a creep.

fuck em.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 13, 2011, 07:32:42 PM

Omg you're alive!

How are things?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on October 13, 2011, 07:40:37 PM

this is Seattle, right? if it's not where you live, just go for it. if you fail, it's not like you'll see them again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on October 13, 2011, 07:42:24 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on October 13, 2011, 07:24:46 PM

When I walk down the street, cute girls (22-26 range) smile at me as they pass me by.

This is arghhhhh because what the fuck am I supposed to do at that point? So it's like this good looking girl thinks I'm attractive but she just walked by and I'll never see her again

I hate knowing I appeal to girls :p. If I was ugly than I could rationalize why I never meet anyone, but it's like waving it right in my face! I need to learn how to approach girls, last time I just approached a random girl on the street and started conversation was 12 years ago and what became my first girlfriend.

It's not that I don't have the guts, it's just that I don't want to come off as a creep.

but if you had the guts, you wouldn't worry if you come off as a creep. if she's smiling, go for it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 13, 2011, 08:21:49 PM

Just go for it.

Also some people just smile at strangers to be polite

Also also creeps are defined by what they say, not by saying something

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on October 13, 2011, 08:33:44 PM

Yeah, don't tell them they have nice tits or anything like that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on October 13, 2011, 09:04:21 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/qxeCO.jpg)

total creeper

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on October 13, 2011, 09:12:25 PM

Quote from: The Business on October 13, 2011, 08:51:11 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on October 13, 2011, 08:21:49 PM
Just go for it.

Also some people just smile at strangers to be polite

Also also creeps are defined by what they say, not by saying something

:lol

No, creeps are defined by how they look. A great looking guy can say something obnoxious and gross and it's charming.

yeah, definitely this

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on October 13, 2011, 10:14:34 PM

Yeah, I was staring at your tits. Big deal.
/

(http://i.imgur.com/qxeCO.jpg)

      tee hee!
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   :zelda

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Yeah, I was staring at your tits. Big deal.
/

:sp0rsk1

:drudge :yuck :drudge

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 14, 2011, 12:28:26 AM

:lol :lol :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 14, 2011, 03:30:17 AM

Here I am talking to this distiushed gentlemen at a bar full of lawyers and he's like I just like to fuck bitches and bust a nut. And I'm like I can't make this happen and he's like you're a lawyer, you can do whatever the fuck you want.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 14, 2011, 03:37:44 AM

So I went back to the room of this distinguished gentlemen and we had a Philisophical talk about why I am failing in life, it seems to have come down to "why you care about these things man? Go out there and have a good time. Life is about having a good time and being yourself and the rest will come to you"

I feel like I've just met a really drunk Buddha

Will try to live free and live life for the rest of this trip.
I met a cute girl in her mid 30s but he said it ain't gonna happen, lookelsewhere man.

Also met another girl whose friend cockblocked me and said they had to go. Hmmmmm. It's hard not to get discouraged in the face of all this but I will try.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 14, 2011, 03:41:44 AM

Isn't that what I've been telling you for months?!?!

Anyway, finally my own problemz: I'm pretty sure my (female) friend's little sister likes me, and I must admit I'm pretty damn into her; she's super hot and one of the most carefree people I know. She's 20 (my friend is my age, 24). Now, I've been friends with this girl for like 10 years, so I remember when her sister was a little kid. Which makes this even more awkward...

She constantly laughs at my stupid jokes, touches me nonstop, calls me etc; I keep blocking her on facebook but eventually I'll have to add her smh. The older sister knows about all this, and I can't tell how she feels. She once asked me if I liked her sister and I was like "nah, she's just a kid..." and she was like "well you can do whatever, doesn't matter to me" in an almost passive aggressive manner. Bah.

I'm not going to get with this girl, but I do wonder what would happen if she decided to throw herself at me; luckily we're never alone together. I don't want to possibly fuck up a good friendship over this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CrystalGemini on October 14, 2011, 03:43:54 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on October 13, 2011, 07:24:46 PM

When I walk down the street, cute girls (22-26 range) smile at me as they pass me by.

This is arghhhhh because what the fuck am I supposed to do at that point? So it's like this good looking girl thinks I'm attractive but she just walked by and I'll never see her again

I hate knowing I appeal to girls :p. If I was ugly than I could rationalize why I never meet anyone, but it's like waving it right in my face! I need to learn how to approach girls, last time I just approached a random girl on the street and started conversation was 12 years ago and what became my first girlfriend.

It's not that I don't have the guts, it's just that I don't want to come off as a creep.

Once rodi and I were hanging out in the city and she spots this cute guy in the library. If you know the main library in San Francisco it's pretty big so I don't know how but I guess he noticed and started following us. Like we went to several floors of the library and he was there. Taqueria, city hall, free museum at the side of Herbst Theater...he was always there! The three of us ended up sitting in this small dark room where they were showing historic footage of nuclear bomb testing where they'd instruct people to paint their houses white because it helps protect against radiation. Anyway, rodi and I were having a hoot because this dude was totally stalking us and as we were leaving he's like "Going to paint your house white?" :lol

We thought it was cute.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on October 14, 2011, 03:44:40 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 14, 2011, 03:41:44 AM

Isn't that what I've been telling you for months?!?!

Anyway, finally my own problemz: I'm pretty sure my (female) friend's little sister likes me, and I must admit I'm pretty damn into her; she's super hot and one of the most carefree people I know. She's 20 (my friend is my age, 24). Now, I've been friends with this girl for like 10 years, so I remember when her sister was a little kid. Which makes this even more awkward...

She constantly laughs at my stupid jokes, touches me nonstop, calls me etc; I keep blocking her on facebook but eventually I'll have to add her smh. The older sister knows about all this, and I can't tell how she feels. She once asked me if I liked her sister and I was like "nah, she's just a kid..." and she was like "well you can do whatever, doesn't matter to me" in an almost passive aggressive manner. Bah.

I'm not going to get with this girl, but I do wonder what would happen if she decided to throw herself at me; luckily we're never alone together. I don't want to possibly fuck up a good friendship over this.

everything written after 'super hot' is just wrong

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 14, 2011, 03:52:49 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 14, 2011, 03:41:44 AM

Isn't that what I've been telling you for months?!?!

Anyway, finally my own problemz: I'm pretty sure my (female) friend's little sister likes me, and I must admit I'm pretty damn into her; she's super hot and one of the most carefree people I know. She's 20 (my friend is my age, 24). Now, I've been friends with this girl for like 10 years, so I remember when her sister was a little kid. Which makes this even more awkward...

She constantly laughs at my stupid jokes, touches me nonstop, calls me etc; I keep blocking her on facebook but eventually I'll have to add her smh. The older sister knows about all this, and I can't tell how she feels. She once asked me if I liked her sister and I was like "nah, she's just a kid..." and she was like "well you can do whatever, doesn't matter to me" in an almost passive aggressive manner. Bah.

I'm not going to get with this girl, but I do wonder what would happen if she decided to throw herself at me; luckily we're never alone together. I don't want to possibly fuck up a good friendship over this.

It's ons thing to say, yes that's how to do it and another thing to block a million years of hormonal instinct that says you need to have a woman tonight or you fail.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 14, 2011, 06:43:09 AM

[youtube=560,345]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XBxlAATrd-E[/youtube]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on October 14, 2011, 07:49:31 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 14, 2011, 03:41:44 AM

Isn't that what I've been telling you for months?!?!

Anyway, finally my own problemz: I'm pretty sure my (female) friend's little sister likes me, and I must admit I'm pretty damn into her; she's super hot and one of the most carefree people I know. She's 20 (my friend is my age, 24). Now, I've been friends with this girl for like 10 years, so I remember when her sister was a little kid. Which makes this even more awkward...

She constantly laughs at my stupid jokes, touches me nonstop, calls me etc; I keep blocking her on facebook but eventually I'll have to add her smh. The older sister knows about all this, and I can't tell how she feels. She once asked me if I liked her sister and I was like "nah, she's just a kid..." and she was like "well you can do whatever, doesn't matter to me" in an almost passive aggressive manner. Bah.

I'm not going to get with this girl, but I do wonder what would happen if she decided to throw herself at me; luckily we're never alone together. I don't want to possibly fuck up a good friendship over this.

why are you so completely insane pd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 14, 2011, 07:57:40 AM

She's hot

Lucky were never alone

:duh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 14, 2011, 10:06:11 AM

Quote from: The Business on October 13, 2011, 08:51:11 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on October 13, 2011, 08:21:49 PM
Just go for it.

Also some people just smile at strangers to be polite

Also also creeps are defined by what they say, not by saying something

:lol

No, creeps are defined by how they look. A great looking guy can say something obnoxious and gross and it's charming.

Great looking guys are exceptions though! Not the rule.

Refer to Seinfeld:

Jerry: Elaine, what percentage of people do you think are good looking?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on October 14, 2011, 12:21:58 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on October 14, 2011, 03:37:44 AM

So I went back to the room of this distinguished gentlemen and we had a Philisophical talk about why I am failing in life, it seems to have come down to "why you care about these things man? Go out there and have a good time. Life is about having a good time and being yourself and the rest will come to you"

I feel like I've just met a really drunk Buddha

Will try to live free and live life for the rest of this trip.
I met a cute girl in her mid 30s but he said it ain't gonna happen, lookelsewhere man.

Also met another girl whose friend cockblocked me and said they had to go. Hmmmmm. It's hard not to get discouraged in the face of all this but I will try.

Go back and bang the waitress at the ramen shop.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 15, 2011, 01:51:24 AM

I saw the cutest lesbian couple walking back to my hotel tonight. Was adorable!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 15, 2011, 01:58:55 AM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on October 14, 2011, 12:21:58 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on October 14, 2011, 03:37:44 AM
So I went back to the room of this distinguished gentlemen and we had a Philisophical talk about why I am failing in life, it seems to have come down to "why you care about these things man? Go out there and have a good time. Life is about having a good time and being yourself and the rest will come to you"

I feel like I've just met a really drunk Buddha

Will try to live free and live life for the rest of this trip.
I met a cute girl in her mid 30s but he said it ain't gonna happen, lookelsewhere man.

Also met another girl whose friend cockblocked me and said they had to go. Hmmmmm. It's hard not to get discouraged in the face of all this but I will try.

Go back and bang the waitress at the ramen shop.

lol. I'm not interested in hooking up girls outside my area (unless I was drunk like last night). Because there's no way you're going to get a longterm relationship out of that. I'm really not interested in hooking up with girls anymore. Just want to meet someone I can do things with so I'm not doing 90% of my fun activities solo.

Although part of the reason why I do most of my life solo is because I always want to be doing what I want to do. I can call up people and go do what they're doing and do stuff as a group, but I'd rather do what I enjoy and not what they enjoy if it's stuff I don't. Would be nice if interest crossed over more but uhhh I have weird interests or my interests usually cost money and my friends are all poor.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 15, 2011, 02:01:59 AM

Like I went to this really nice symphony tonight and it was awesome but there's no way any of my friends would have ever gone to something like that so I just gotta do it solo. And everyone in the audience were couples and yeah it'd be nice to have someone to go to stuff like that with.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on October 15, 2011, 02:58:11 AM

Bebpo, girls would like you better if you listened to 80s Kate Bush records

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CrystalGemini on October 15, 2011, 03:27:50 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on October 15, 2011, 02:01:59 AM

Like I went to this really nice symphony tonight and it was awesome but there's no way any of my friends would have ever gone to something like that so I just gotta do it solo. And everyone in the audience were couples and yeah it'd be nice to have someone to go to stuff like that with.

Yeah, your friends suck. Symphony > your friends

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 15, 2011, 10:47:09 AM

Who goes to a symphony with male friends? Unless it's a videogame music symphony

Check out the platonic section of Craigslist, Bepbo. I've found interesting women there. Set up a anti-blind date: mention you're going to a sympathy and whoever sends the most interesting email response/pic gets chosen as your date

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 18, 2011, 05:41:15 AM

That's a pretty good idea, though he should spellcheck "symphony" if he does it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Joe Molotov on October 18, 2011, 09:53:25 AM

I want to go to a sympathy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on October 18, 2011, 09:56:24 AM

There there Joe, it's OK...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 18, 2011, 10:07:10 AM

:piss opera, ballet, operetta :piss2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 18, 2011, 10:08:20 AM

I'm glad that my wife and I agree that while we think Opera, ballet and all that jazz is pretty neat, we both agree that it'd be difficult as hell to remain interested for the entire show. So we never go.

A symphony or play though? hell yeah!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 18, 2011, 10:23:53 AM

I agree completely Mups. 15 min and after that I had enough.

Play, musical etc. Sure thing. Symphony? Yep.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 18, 2011, 10:25:46 AM

*high five*

I don't know what it is about the other stuff. Interpretive dance, ballet, opera, etc... I can appreciate the skill that's required and for a few minutes I'm awed but then I wish I had a remote and could say "I wonder what else is on."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 18, 2011, 10:39:45 AM

Convincing my ex to go to Distant Worlds was a lot like pulling teeth. I wanted to meet Nobuo, so I even sprang for the $175-a-pop tickets. Then, she was tired and didn't want to stand in line to wait for Nobuo to sign an autograph. She didn't seem to actively dislike the concert, at least...

Oh man, dating has already got me down. Girl I liked that I met the other week giving me the runaround - "I'm busy this weekend"... I'm getting too old for this shit. Not to mention I'm am one of the only few people left my age who is not engaged/married... or at least on track to be engaged/married... so now I'm starting to get a bit depressed :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on October 18, 2011, 10:58:17 AM

Quote from: Joe Molotov® EDGE™ on October 18, 2011, 09:53:25 AM

I want to go to a sympathy.

I want Justin Timberlake to write me a symphony

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 18, 2011, 11:08:47 AM

Quote from: tiesto on October 18, 2011, 10:39:45 AM

Convincing my ex to go to Distant Worlds was a lot like pulling teeth. I wanted to meet Nobuo, so I even sprang for the $175-a-pop tickets. Then, she was tired and didn't want to stand in line to wait for Nobuo to sign an autograph. She didn't seem to actively dislike the concert, at least...

Oh man, dating has already got me down. Girl I liked that I met the other week giving me the runaround - "I'm busy this weekend"... I'm getting too old for this shit. Not to mention I'm am one of the only few people left my age who is not engaged/married... or at least on track to be engaged/married... so now I'm starting to get a bit depressed :'(

Dude all those married guys are mad envious of you.

They would pay good money to be you for a weekend.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 18, 2011, 11:17:48 AM

:yuck You couldn't pay me to jump back into the dating world

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 18, 2011, 11:18:32 AM

Your not helping here mups.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 18, 2011, 11:48:33 AM

Definitely prefer having a g/f to being single, as long as I still get my free time, and she is interested in things I want to do from time to time. My last girlfriend was great on the former, bad on the latter... and the one before that (Jesus Freak) was bad on the former, good on the latter - she liked me enough to want to go with me to WMC and Otakon :o - I could imagine her at Otakon... "Hey Lukey-pookey, let's go see this Bible Black movie they're showing! It sounds interesting!"

What's gonna happen is the same as always, I fear. Gonna meet a lot of different girls, including some of them I instantly like and feel would be a good fit in terms of personality... those girls turn out to not be interested, the ones I want nothing to do with are interested, and eventually I just get so sick of dating, say "fuck it" and settle for whatever's out there, regardless of how well we get along.

Yeah, I feel a ton of pressure from dating and in the past it's really affected my self-esteem. When you date around a lot and the only ones who seem to be biting are girls you're not interested in at all, it sucks. Trying my best to not let that get me down anymore, not to let myself be defeated, but it's kinda hard. I gotta think like John Cena, or a shounen protagonist, and "Never give up".

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on October 18, 2011, 12:08:55 PM

Being single is pretty cool 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 18, 2011, 12:46:24 PM

Yeah, I dunno what I prefer. "Grass is greener on the other side" usually rings true.

I could do a social focus and get in a relationship now and it'd have plenty of ups, but I don't really want to spend the time and effort it takes to get going right now. I still gotta finish Dark Souls.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 18, 2011, 04:24:42 PM

Dont have time? Wtf.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fomalhaut on October 18, 2011, 04:32:59 PM

women need lots of watering and tending, and a very complicated law of nature dictates how much time you must spend talking to them.

my 2nd week here i hooked up with a damn like 28 year old woman, probs my best accomplishment yet in my short life, i'm but a youngling of 20, and was all excited like fuck yeah not only did i just catch me one so quickly, but a super fine adult woman and all that. lo and behold she gots a man! I said "damn" :'(

:'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on October 18, 2011, 04:33:20 PM

Not everything in life is about relationships. Some people find other things they enjoy. Last time I was dating (way long ago) aside from work all I did was relationship stuff- kinda sucked imo. Guess i'm self-centered but whatever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 18, 2011, 09:57:58 PM

Yeah, I don't really have time and I have plenty of things I could be doing (i.e. renovating bathrooms, moving in, working on my XNA title, throwing down a new mix) but instead I'm going out on dates. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on October 18, 2011, 10:10:16 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on October 18, 2011, 04:33:20 PM

Not everything in life is about relationships. Some people find other things they enjoy. Last time I was dating (way long ago) aside from work all I did was relationship stuff- kinda sucked imo. Guess i'm self-centered but whatever.

You're a loner, MAF. A rebel.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on October 18, 2011, 10:22:06 PM

Quote from: Linkzg on October 18, 2011, 10:10:16 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on October 18, 2011, 04:33:20 PM
Not everything in life is about relationships. Some people find other things they enjoy. Last time I was dating (way long ago) aside from work all I did was relationship stuff- kinda sucked imo. Guess i'm self-centered but whatever.

You're a loner, MAF. A rebel.

No im just lazy/self centered and perfectly fine with it. I gave it a couple shots- never worked out; f it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 19, 2011, 03:09:59 AM

Quote from: Wrath2X on October 18, 2011, 04:56:34 PM

Well I have decided to better myself before even thinking of finding a girlfriend, so yeah.

That's actually really good. Be your own man first :rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on October 19, 2011, 04:43:33 AM

I have a boyfriend now, his name is Chase. He's fucking adorable and I wish I could keep him shirtless forever. Om nom nom.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 22, 2011, 10:02:08 PM

Well after a few weeks, Megan and I are pretty much together. :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Pringo on October 22, 2011, 11:27:08 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on October 22, 2011, 10:02:08 PM

Well after a few weeks, Megan and I are pretty much together. :P

Quote from: BrandNew on October 10, 2011, 08:27:07 PM

Megan is having sex with some dude at work but still wants us to talk and maybe start a relationship later

:usavich

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 23, 2011, 12:51:26 AM

I wish you the best, man!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on October 23, 2011, 01:59:38 AM

is some dude at work alright? tell him to sign up and post about it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on October 23, 2011, 02:30:09 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on October 22, 2011, 10:02:08 PM

Well after a few weeks, Megan and I are pretty much together. :P

Quote from: BrandNew on October 10, 2011, 08:27:07 PM

Megan is having sex with some dude at work but still wants us to talk and maybe start a relationship later

Have fun, but be realistic and understand what you're getting yourself into.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 23, 2011, 02:55:17 AM

Yeah, I'm not taking things as seriously as I usually do, but we both like each other and we're taking things from there. If things fall through, I won't be too distraught.

She slept over last night :D

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 23, 2011, 03:17:16 AM

us last night

(http://i.imgur.com/kReMp.jpg)

I know, I look gay and awful. But her and I had a great night.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 23, 2011, 03:51:42 AM

yeah glasses. She spent the night and we had an amazing night. honestly one of the most fun, enjoyable, and sexual nights I've ever had.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on October 23, 2011, 10:15:04 AM

Quote from: Pringo on October 22, 2011, 11:27:08 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on October 22, 2011, 10:02:08 PM
Well after a few weeks, Megan and I are pretty much together. :P

Quote from: BrandNew on October 10, 2011, 08:27:07 PM
Megan is having sex with some dude at work but still wants us to talk and maybe start a relationship later

:usavich

what is the exact opposite of :drake

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 23, 2011, 11:08:50 AM

It's not like it his gf, he's just poking her right.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on October 23, 2011, 12:44:16 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on October 23, 2011, 11:08:50 AM

It's not like it his gf, he's just poking her right.

but he wants her to be. i just dont understand! someone saying "it's complicated; i want to be with you but i'm in a non-serious fuckbuddy relationship right now so ttyl" comes off like a total slap in the face. it WOULD be fine if her & brandnew were just fuckbuddies making the rounds, but he clearly wants more from a chick who told him to sit in a corner while she finishes up with Mr. Undateable Gooddick. you cant start a healthy relationship with someone who sees you as an afterthought.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on October 23, 2011, 01:13:33 PM

She's got a history of indecision and sleeping around. It will happen again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 23, 2011, 01:55:46 PM

yeah, that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 23, 2011, 02:09:45 PM

BrandKnew's not trying to marry one, just wants to kick it with a girl. Let the young man do his thing

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 23, 2011, 02:33:20 PM

she's got some wicked nipples :teehee

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 23, 2011, 02:33:43 PM

what about dat ass?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 23, 2011, 02:38:07 PM

It's cute and fit. I danced with her the other night, it did its job. :)

She's a small girl -- 5'3 and thin, but with great boobs. Her hair is omg.

We're hanging out tomorrow, I'm excited.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 23, 2011, 03:24:00 PM

I haven't been an internet virgin for years now ???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 23, 2011, 04:47:13 PM

Quote from: The Business on October 23, 2011, 04:34:48 PM

Seems like less but you kids grow up so fast.

:-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 24, 2011, 03:05:51 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on October 23, 2011, 02:38:07 PM

Her hair is omg.

???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on October 24, 2011, 09:31:12 AM

I'm single 4 life. Fuck dis shit!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 24, 2011, 11:22:42 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on October 24, 2011, 09:31:12 AM

I'm single 4 life. Fuck dis shit!

[youtube=560,345]fjV7krmYobI[/youtube]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 25, 2011, 11:08:03 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on October 24, 2011, 09:31:12 AM

I'm single 4 life. Fuck dis shit!

It'll happen. Just takes time. Don't worry about it :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 25, 2011, 10:51:22 PM

I need more GUTS

I went to a bar to get tea & cake and there was this cuuute girl at a booth all by herself who was just my type (tall, dark hair, pale), so what do I do? I sit at the booth adjoining hers and because I don't want her to see me staring at her the whole time I sit with my back facing her. Because you know, maybe she'll enjoy staring at the back of my head so much she'll come over and say hi @_@. I am so bad at having GUTS to talk to cute girls :(. The worst thing is that she was totally checking me out when I walked in and was looking around for a seat :(. I hate myself sometimes for letting opportunities slip away.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on October 26, 2011, 12:46:21 AM

Next time that happens, go up to the girl and say hi. If she isn't interested, she isn't interested. It's not going to destroy you.

YOU CAN DO IT MAN! I HAVE FAITH IN YOU!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 26, 2011, 05:25:39 AM

Are you implying you'd make an offer she couldn't refuse?

Getting laid has nothing to do with how much you get paid.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 26, 2011, 10:46:47 AM

Quote from: The Business on October 26, 2011, 06:38:20 AM

Quote from: Premium Lager on October 26, 2011, 05:25:39 AM
Getting laid has nothing to do with how much you get paid.

:rofl

:rofl :rofl :rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 27, 2011, 02:53:22 AM

Ok ok I kid.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 27, 2011, 03:35:12 AM

Ok I admit, I am metrosexual effiminate man. Raised by a women, I took after female traits of being shy and insecure. However I don't deny that and I wear it on my skin. I still think I can find a meaningful relationship coming in from that angle.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 27, 2011, 03:39:24 AM

Yeah but you wont find that girl hanging in a bar, you will end up with some motherly older type.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 27, 2011, 03:52:48 AM

Look, I need a wingman, bad. I'm never going to get anywhere sitting alone at a bar when all the girls come in groups of twos or threes.

Since there's no point in me hooking up with girls outside my region, I think I need someone to take a trip to So CA and be my wingman. Pm me if anyone is interested.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 27, 2011, 04:20:21 AM

Stop going to bars, you're not ready. You don't need a wing man, you're not some college kid or a 35 year old IT worker. You're a lawyer, you're smart, you're nice/mannered, you're well versed in Japanese culture. You're a god damn renaissance man, b.

You aren't going to die alone. Eventually you'll find someone you like and you'll settle down. No point in worrying about the end game right now, dude. Go have fun and realize if you strike out it doesn't go on your criminal record or some shit (well assuming you aren't sexually assaulting chicks). You just move on. As I said in the other thread, go talk to some women. Regular convos. Hang out at book stores, just reading/drinking coffee. Your personality type clashes too much with the bar scene imo, there's no point in forcing the issue just to check off some "how to score ladies" list.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 27, 2011, 04:21:21 AM

Now you're trolling.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 27, 2011, 04:25:31 AM

Yes, but that's besides the point. Bepbo doesn't strike me as the type who fits in the bar scene, at least not right now. Once he gets some more confidence sure, but now? He should start with something that's comfortable, like talking to women at work or at the bank. It's not about taking women home to bang, it's honestly about getting comfortable talking to women.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on October 27, 2011, 04:27:46 AM

I distinctly remember reading pages and pages and pages of Bebpo's accounts of happy dating life recently. Am I losing it completely? Where is all this 'haven't talked to a girl in 12 years' crap coming from? Epic troll?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 27, 2011, 04:30:00 AM

Quote from: Cormacaroni on October 27, 2011, 04:27:46 AM

I distinctly remember reading pages and pages and pages of Bebpo's accounts of happy dating life recently. Am I losing it completely? Where is all this 'haven't talked to a girl in 12 years' crap coming from? Epic troll?

I'm pretty sure EB is his affirmation station, where he goes to get told everything is ok.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 27, 2011, 04:33:30 AM

CASE IN POINT: BrandKnew. Remember all those "waaaah girls wanna suck my dick but i'm scared" posts from not so long ago? Now look at the kid: more pussy than a gynecologist. Remember those pictures he used to post, rocking the "hey gurl let me be your sassy gay friend" funny face? He still dresses like a gay Quaker but that grin doesn't lie. Confidence.

Bepbo will get there, but striking out at the bar won't help. Start slow and build

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on October 27, 2011, 04:34:33 AM

And then EB will turn its beady eyes on you, PD

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 27, 2011, 09:06:41 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on October 27, 2011, 03:35:12 AM

Ok I admit, I am metrosexual effiminate man. Raised by a women, I took after female traits of being shy and insecure. However I don't deny that and I wear it on my skin. I still think I can find a meaningful relationship coming in from that angle.

I for one, am sick and tired of people deducing what is effeminate and what isn't and how we should act and how we shouldn't, and what our interests should be and what they shouldn't be especially when their exposure to manly folks is very slim at best, as if girly people are one entity. My life story. It always comes off as thinly veiled sexism to me, even if used jokingly.

Cormacaroni has his thing, The Business has his thing, Father Mike has his thing, and I have my thing.

So the next time Blue Tsunami makes a post about Euro vocal house music I'm going to make fun of him for not listening heavy metal since he's got a penis and that he's not really a man. And I'm going to drill this into his head every time he posts something that goes against the phallic quo. Because you know, that's funny as shit and not obnoxious, right? But you see, notice how people only make these observations about feminine people as if they have certain expectations. And they'll try to convince you they're not sexist.

I have to deal with this shit as it is in real life, please stop bringing up masculinity into online conversations on a nerd message board that stands as one of few institutions where I can feel comfortable "girling out".

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 27, 2011, 11:21:21 AM

Speaking about house music and metal... I've been talking to some nerdy gamer chick from Queens who is into metal and FPS games. Sounds like your average GAFfer's wet dream, girl seems a bit plain but she's skinny so that's always a plus!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on October 27, 2011, 01:38:21 PM

Eh. I've got effiminate mannerisims, but I didn't use it as an excuse.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 27, 2011, 01:59:48 PM

As anyone who has listened to an episode of the Cruncheons knows, I've got a pretty whiny voice, but I don't let it stop me from being a meathead alpha.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 27, 2011, 02:00:55 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on October 27, 2011, 01:59:48 PM

As anyone who has listened to an episode of the Cruncheons knows, I've got a pretty whiny voice, but I don't let it stop me from being a meathead alpha.

shut up and let me touch your abs

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 27, 2011, 03:06:18 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on October 27, 2011, 02:00:55 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on October 27, 2011, 01:59:48 PM
As anyone who has listened to an episode of the Cruncheons knows, I've got a pretty whiny voice, but I don't let it stop me from being a meathead alpha.
shut up and let me touch your abs

You're gonna have to do some surgery to find em

wrath- yes. Also, your favorite games and movies suck and you have bad taste. See, that was totally in character for me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 27, 2011, 03:53:27 PM

Quote from: Wrath2X on October 27, 2011, 03:48:22 PM

Dude you're always awesome when you show up, and yet you never accepted my friend request on facebook :'(

I work in a position where I can't be friends with terrorists.

...kidding I'm lazy and if someone doesn't include a message I just don't approve unless I'm sure I know them. I say a lot of stupid shit over fb.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 27, 2011, 06:08:52 PM

So that girl into metal and FPS games... just wrote me this back:

"I haven't played too many American RPGs either. The JRPGs are just done correctly, but it's sad that most developers aren't localizing them outside of Japan anymore due to the costs. You only get the big boys, and Square-Enix seems to be striking out a lot these days. You just don't get the long completely non-linear games with 40 hours of secret weapons and spells/added content from the SNES/PSX/N64/PS2 days anymore. I didn't even hear about DQX, but I just read that SE's stock plummeted after that press release. And I say good! Console MMO's are a plague unto gaming."

omg omg omg.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 27, 2011, 06:15:12 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on October 27, 2011, 06:14:50 PM

Sounds like the kind of girl you marry so long as she isn't fat.

And is into anal

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on October 27, 2011, 06:18:24 PM

Quote from: tiesto on October 27, 2011, 06:08:52 PM

So that girl into metal and FPS games... just wrote me this back:

"I haven't played too many American RPGs either. The JRPGs are just done correctly, but it's sad that most developers aren't localizing them outside of Japan anymore due to the costs. You only get the big boys, and Square-Enix seems to be striking out a lot these days. You just don't get the long completely non-linear games with 40 hours of secret weapons and spells/added content from the SNES/PSX/N64/PS2 days anymore. I didn't even hear about DQX, but I just read that SE's stock plummeted after that press release. And I say good! Console MMO's are a plague unto gaming."

omg omg omg.

No way. Someone here is playing a trick on you. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on October 27, 2011, 06:26:20 PM

:rofl Tiesto

This would only be funny if it ended up with you posting a video of her fat carcass on your bed again

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Joe Molotov on October 27, 2011, 07:52:31 PM

Tiesto, if you don't want her, tell her I've got Atelier Totori at my house and I'm DTF.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on October 28, 2011, 12:46:36 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on October 27, 2011, 06:15:12 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on October 27, 2011, 06:14:50 PM
Sounds like the kind of girl you marry so long as she isn't fat.

And is into anal

:rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on October 28, 2011, 01:31:53 AM

let's run a boretrain on bebpo and fuck the confidence back into him

like a tauntaun version of human centipede
:tauntaun :tauntaun :tauntaun :tauntaun

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 28, 2011, 03:14:18 AM

Today was a perfect example of building groundwork by talkin' to women at the job. We're in the process of hiring a new hygienist, so every few days a new one comes and has a working interview. Today we got a pretty hot 30 something chick. I had to go get lunch today, and when I asked everyone what they wanted I got the typical answers: salads for the women, Taco Bell for the doctor. But the new hygienist heard me mention I had Burger King coupons and asked for a double Whopper. No salad, no diet coke, no calling me 100 times reminding me to get two fat free ranch dressings so she can pour both on her large salad (THAT'S NOT HOW DIETING WORKS). A fucking double Whopper with cheese and an ice tea. I was in love.

I knew I was doing something right when she'd come up with excuses to walk over to me and talk during down time. One of our 60+ yo patients was hitting on her, so eventually she came over and (jokingly) complained about it. Good times that made what turned into a shitty day (2 hour emergency appointment right as we were about to leave woohaaa)...fun. Just being nice to her opened conversation doors.

Bepbo, you have chicks in your office, I've seen them. Make some small talk every day. I'm not saying you should pull the bullshit "so, the weather's nice today.." card. Just react within the work environment. Something funny happening? Talk to a chick about it. Say please and thank you. Make eye contact. Building blocks, bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on October 28, 2011, 03:20:02 AM

I haven't really bothered to look at this thread much, but I was hoping it would have a GAF |OT|-style opening post, so I was very disappointed. Could we at least have a link to this Wikipedia article (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Other)?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pilonv1 on October 28, 2011, 03:22:11 AM

As posted in other threads don't start shit at the office unless it's serious or you don't plan on staying in your current job long.

Otherwise everything is greeat

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 28, 2011, 03:31:58 AM

Dude is right.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on October 29, 2011, 06:30:12 PM

Topped a guy for the first time last night (my boyfriend). Anal is seriously awesome. It's like velvet, and you fit like a glove.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 29, 2011, 06:47:30 PM

Quote from: Billy Rygar on October 29, 2011, 06:45:57 PM

Quote from: ZephyrFate on October 29, 2011, 06:30:12 PM
Topped a guy for the first time last night (my boyfriend). Anal is seriously awesome. It's like velvet, and you fit like a glove.
The 'Bore [likes] this.

spoiler (click to show/hide)
Serious question, how often is it to have a relationship where there is a top and bottom and no switching?
[close]

Billy Rygar
gaybo journalism

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Joe Molotov on October 29, 2011, 07:07:10 PM

Gundam always bottoms in his relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on October 29, 2011, 09:12:27 PM

Quote from: Billy Rygar on October 29, 2011, 06:45:57 PM

Quote from: ZephyrFate on October 29, 2011, 06:30:12 PM
Topped a guy for the first time last night (my boyfriend). Anal is seriously awesome. It's like velvet, and you fit like a glove.
The 'Bore [likes] this.

spoiler (click to show/hide)
Serious question, how often is it to have a relationship where there is a top and bottom and no switching?
[close]

I'm a bottom and so is he. We're making this shit versatile bro.

But for serious, I don't think it happens very often. The beauty of relationships is variety... I imagine sticking to certain roles gets boring, even in straight relationships.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on October 30, 2011, 10:41:57 AM

totally correct

sometimes i hug my wife from the left side, but sometimes i hug her from the right

oh my

wwjd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 30, 2011, 01:00:36 PM

Sex with dudes :yuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 30, 2011, 01:13:18 PM

Zeph has 69 posts :omg

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other
Post by: Barry Egan on October 30, 2011, 01:30:26 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on October 30, 2011, 10:41:57 AM

totally correct

sometimes i hug my wife from the left side, but sometimes i hug her from the right

oh my

wwjd

Any Yahweh fearing son of Christ knows that embrace from the left side is THE DEVILS SIDEHUG.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on October 30, 2011, 08:09:03 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on October 30, 2011, 01:00:36 PM

Sex with dudes :yuck

is better than any sex you've ever had.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 31, 2011, 12:58:14 AM

Quote from: Premium Lager on October 30, 2011, 01:00:36 PM

Sex with dudes :yuck

Many of the girls you've been with now feel the same way, I hear.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

:teehee

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 31, 2011, 11:03:31 AM

Quote from: ZephyrFate on October 30, 2011, 08:09:03 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on October 30, 2011, 01:00:36 PM
Sex with dudes :yuck
is better than any sex you've ever had.

Keep believing!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on October 31, 2011, 01:26:30 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on October 31, 2011, 11:03:31 AM

Quote from: ZephyrFate on October 30, 2011, 08:09:03 PM
Quote from: Premium Lager on October 30, 2011, 01:00:36 PM
Sex with dudes :yuck
is better than any sex you've ever had.

Keep believing!

In the truth!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 31, 2011, 11:06:02 PM

Man, too many flaky flaky girls out there! Another week, another series of first dates that will probably never get to a second. How goes all my single brothers in this thread? Hopefully having slightly better luck...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on November 03, 2011, 07:34:18 PM

The hell happened here?!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on November 03, 2011, 09:25:02 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 03, 2011, 07:52:59 PM

Quote from: ZephyrFate on October 29, 2011, 09:12:27 PM
But for serious, I don't think it happens very often. The beauty of relationships is variety... I imagine sticking to certain roles gets boring, even in straight relationships.

Generally in my relationships I like to be the one who penetrates.

Hey I got no problem with that. I prefer tops. My boyfriend and I just had to work around the fact that we're both bottoms... by topping each other. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on November 04, 2011, 03:13:03 AM

Quote from: Wrath2X on November 03, 2011, 07:59:03 PM

I heard Black Mage is officially Christina Bale's boyfriend.

it's true. I did the opposite of what you guys told me to do lol, but it worked out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on November 04, 2011, 04:40:27 AM

Quote from: ZephyrFate on November 03, 2011, 09:25:02 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 03, 2011, 07:52:59 PM
Quote from: ZephyrFate on October 29, 2011, 09:12:27 PM
But for serious, I don't think it happens very often. The beauty of relationships is variety... I imagine sticking to certain roles gets boring, even in straight relationships.

Generally in my relationships I like to be the one who penetrates.
Hey I got no problem with that. I prefer tops. My boyfriend and I just had to work around the fact that we're both bottoms... by topping each other. :)

You know, I don't even know what that means man.

And that's cool.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on November 04, 2011, 05:18:45 AM

Quote from: Premium Lager on November 04, 2011, 04:40:27 AM

Quote from: ZephyrFate on November 03, 2011, 09:25:02 PM
Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 03, 2011, 07:52:59 PM
Quote from: ZephyrFate on October 29, 2011, 09:12:27 PM
But for serious, I don't think it happens very often. The beauty of relationships is variety... I imagine sticking to certain roles gets boring, even in straight relationships.

Generally in my relationships I like to be the one who penetrates.
Hey I got no problem with that. I prefer tops. My boyfriend and I just had to work around the fact that we're both bottoms... by topping each other. :)

You know, I don't even know what that means man.

And that's cool.

It's gay language. :o

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on November 04, 2011, 05:30:33 AM

My eeeeeeeeeyeeeeeeeeeessssssssssssss

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on November 04, 2011, 11:19:45 AM

they say if you see a gay in the wild, you become a gay :yuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on November 04, 2011, 11:39:39 AM

Unless you pray the gay away.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 04, 2011, 11:43:15 AM

Seems like stuff is starting to pick up a bit more. I went on a date last nite, and the girl seemed to want to go out again so we made preliminary plans to go out for LI Restaurant Week next week... plus I kissed her on the lips last nite and she reciprocated. So that's a good good sign! Nice girl, loves travel, reading and going out to eat. Getting a lot of emails from new people on OKC too, some of which may have potential. Still gotta meet that one RPG fan girl in person.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on November 04, 2011, 11:54:30 AM

Quote from: Premium Lager on November 04, 2011, 04:40:27 AM

Quote from: ZephyrFate on November 03, 2011, 09:25:02 PM
Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 03, 2011, 07:52:59 PM
Quote from: ZephyrFate on October 29, 2011, 09:12:27 PM
But for serious, I don't think it happens very often. The beauty of relationships is variety... I imagine sticking to certain roles gets boring, even in straight relationships.

Generally in my relationships I like to be the one who penetrates.
Hey I got no problem with that. I prefer tops. My boyfriend and I just had to work around the fact that we're both bottoms... by topping each other. :)

You know, I don't even know what that means man.

And that's cool.

Just say you're versatile.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Eric P on November 04, 2011, 11:55:02 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 04, 2011, 11:52:08 AM

Quote from: ZephyrFate on November 04, 2011, 11:19:45 AM
they say if you see a gay in the wild, you become a gay :yuck

I thought it was only if you were bitten, and even then you still have a chance if you can get the affected limb off in time.

:teehee

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on November 04, 2011, 12:01:35 PM

Quote from: Eric P on November 04, 2011, 11:55:02 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 04, 2011, 11:52:08 AM
Quote from: ZephyrFate on November 04, 2011, 11:19:45 AM
they say if you see a gay in the wild, you become a gay :yuck

I thought it was only if you were bitten, and even then you still have a chance if you can get the affected limb off in time.

:teehee

I think you're supposed to make loud noises to scare them off while hiking.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on November 04, 2011, 12:32:11 PM

I'm not a homophobe at all.

I just find men to men sex icky.

I'm all for gay rights, gay people adopting kids, gays in the army etc.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on November 04, 2011, 01:08:48 PM

It shows Kosma is Polish.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on November 04, 2011, 01:17:37 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 04, 2011, 11:52:08 AM

Quote from: ZephyrFate on November 04, 2011, 11:19:45 AM
they say if you see a gay in the wild, you become a gay :yuck

I thought it was only if you were bitten, and even then you still have a chance if you can get the affected limb off in time.

I had a gay leg once. Then it spread. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 04, 2011, 03:47:06 PM

Quote from: Rebiak on November 04, 2011, 01:08:48 PM

It shows Kosma is Polish.

Makes sense, so many hot girls in Poland it could turn the most flamboyant man ever straight! :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on November 04, 2011, 04:26:13 PM

Quote from: tiesto on November 04, 2011, 03:47:06 PM

Quote from: Rebiak on November 04, 2011, 01:08:48 PM
It shows Kosma is Polish.

Makes sense, so many hot girls in Poland it could turn the most flamboyant man ever straight! :P

Impossible.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on November 05, 2011, 09:32:00 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on November 04, 2011, 05:30:33 AM

My eeeeeeeeeyeeeeeeeeeessssssssssssss

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 04, 2011, 11:19:36 AM

Kosma's free spirit just shrank down and disappeared.

:rofl

I can't believe he googled it. Even though he knows he finds "men to men sex icky."

I can admit curiosity at the 2girls1cup phenomenon, but my revulsion and potential sick-making have consistently prevented me from looking into it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fomalhaut on November 05, 2011, 10:37:37 PM

damn i really really have hots for this woman, but i think she is straight plaaaaaaaying a man. i've never had to play this whole like fatal attraction game. I don't even know the rules.

she has a man already, but that gots nothing to do with me since we're all abroad. i've already macked on her , and last time we left with one of them goodbye kisses type things, oh and she made me crepes (so goood), and every time at partys or just hanging out in general we just talk talk talk for hours oh and wants to come with to watch The Big Sleep next weekend.. but just now she's been like purposefully leading me on, then leaving the party (best chance for menege e doi since we're all drunk and dumb), or something, like i don't know. am i supposed to be pursuing her? is that what her deal is? i just wanna fuck really, to be honest, but she'd be a great success since she's a good 8 years older heh heh, and since i'm having to work at it i want it more.

during tonights party i had some romanian cuties give me some great home made baked goods (not innuendo, i was hungry) and that lasted like 25 minutes, i come back and she's gone. and i'm sure it's because she thought i left. but i had only gone and got cozy with these other chickies because papa wasn't gettin no love.

Maybe i just don't understand European women.. or women..

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 07, 2011, 10:48:27 AM

^ I'd go for the Romanian girls myself...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fomalhaut on November 07, 2011, 11:10:12 AM

i'm thinking about it.... she gave me more baked goods today before class. is this love?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on November 07, 2011, 11:16:38 AM

Woman that cooks = winner.

I was talking to my mom on the phone about my gf and she asked me how things were and I told her I'm really happy and that my gf is a good cook, so my mom said 'I know it's not about the cookin boy', to which I replied that 'any woman can give you that, but not all women know how to cook'. In the end she agreed with me. Cooking is a rare skill amongst women nowadays. Cherish it as you'll be eating her meals long after the lust has died down.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 07, 2011, 11:27:21 AM

Wait, was your mom subtlety asking how good the pussy is?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on November 07, 2011, 11:59:16 AM

wow. kosma's mom is the new brandnew's sister.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on November 07, 2011, 08:49:12 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on November 07, 2011, 11:16:38 AM

Woman that cooks = winner.

I was talking to my mom on the phone about my gf and she asked me how things were and I told her I'm really happy and that my gf is a good cook, so my mom said 'I know it's not about the cookin boy', to which I replied that 'any woman can give you that, but not all women know how to cook'. In the end she agreed with me. Cooking is a rare skill amongst women nowadays. Cherish it as you'll be eating her meals long after the lust has died down.

Or you could spend a few weeks learning how to cook and take that pussy off the pedestal. It's not like they wield the wooden spoons with their vaginas (outside of Thailand)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 07, 2011, 08:54:46 PM

Quote from: Cormacaroni on November 07, 2011, 08:49:12 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on November 07, 2011, 11:16:38 AM
Woman that cooks = winner.

I was talking to my mom on the phone about my gf and she asked me how things were and I told her I'm really happy and that my gf is a good cook, so my mom said 'I know it's not about the cookin boy', to which I replied that 'any woman can give you that, but not all women know how to cook'. In the end she agreed with me. Cooking is a rare skill amongst women nowadays. Cherish it as you'll be eating her meals long after the lust has died down.

Or you could spend a few weeks learning how to cook and take that pussy off the pedestal. It's not like they wield the wooden spoons with their vaginas (outside of Thailand)

Considering all my girlfriends tend to be Irish, I've given up hope of them not being able to cook... so I've been learning myself.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

sorry, just had to get the ethnic dig in at your peeps, Cormac! :P

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 07, 2011, 09:00:43 PM

When I went to Texas all the women could cook, whereas here only older women I know can. I might have to find me a southern belle to marry/cook.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 07, 2011, 09:18:49 PM

LI Restaurant Week is this week and I got 2 dates lined up!

-2nd date with the girl from Thursday, first 2nd date in a while. Chubby blonde girl studying library science in college, she writes restaurant reviews on the side
-1st date with another girl who works handling tax fraud in low income housing districts or something. She likes sports and going out to eat and seems like a very chill person. She dressed up as Hello Kitty for Halloween, which I approve of! :japancry

Dating is really like a rollercoaster with me...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Inspector Thatcher on November 07, 2011, 09:28:16 PM

Quote from: Cormacaroni on November 07, 2011, 08:49:12 PM

Or you could spend a few weeks learning how to cook and take that pussy off the pedestal. It's not like they wield the wooden spoons with their vaginas (outside of Thailand)

I think you just gave womankind a really good reason to practice their Kegels.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 07, 2011, 10:45:17 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 07, 2011, 09:25:02 PM

What happened with the rpg fan, tiesto?

We got to the texting phase today... I'm not quite ready to push for a date just yet since my weekend is already pretty booked... I'll flirt via text for a few and then aim to do something next week. :pimp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on November 07, 2011, 10:49:58 PM

The texting phase? That's a phase now? Oh man, I'm so glad I'm married.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on November 07, 2011, 11:09:51 PM

It's been a phase for like seven or eight years now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on November 07, 2011, 11:18:05 PM

Megan got back with her ex. Dropped me like a bag of bricks. Expected, but still a bummer. Really liked hanging out with her, amazing kisser. Her ex/current boyfriend is a massive piece of shit, but that's her baggage, not mine. Oh well. She still talks to me, I still talk to her, we're still friends. Maybe some time in the future when she wisens up about this douche, but I'm not going to be waiting with baited breath. In the mean time, have a date on Thursday with this girl:

(http://i.imgur.com/Y5Ymx.png)

Lunch and a movie at my place. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on November 07, 2011, 11:27:34 PM

oh SNAP

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 07, 2011, 11:59:10 PM

Finally I have a decent relationship-eb affair

The girl I've been "with" for awhile ran into my mom at Whole Foods a couple days ago. My mom basically lives there, people know her by her last name so my female friend heard someone address her by her name, walked up and introduced herself. So to cut a long story short, my mom invited her to Thanksgiving dinner and she said yes.

Grandma called today trying to get details. I haven't said much. She's Trinidadian, somewhat tall (5'7), beautiful. And an atheist lol, so I pray to god religion doesn't come up. I never expected to bring anyone to Thanksgiving dinner, guess I'll see how things go.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on November 08, 2011, 12:10:27 AM

Good luck PD, but I'm sure it will go just fine with the family.

Quote from: ZephyrFate on November 07, 2011, 11:09:51 PM

It's been a phase for like seven or eight years now.

Yeah, I've been with my wife since 2003.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on November 08, 2011, 01:29:10 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 07, 2011, 11:25:41 PM

Devolution looks way better with makeup.

This girls looks nothing like Devolution, save short hair. Troll harder

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on November 08, 2011, 01:45:22 AM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on November 08, 2011, 12:10:27 AM

Good luck PD, but I'm sure it will go just fine with the family.

Quote from: ZephyrFate on November 07, 2011, 11:09:51 PM
It's been a phase for like seven or eight years now.

Yeah, I've been with my wife since 2003.

then you can't really say you don't about know about people who text their significant other in the beginning phases of a relationship

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on November 08, 2011, 01:51:27 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on November 07, 2011, 11:18:05 PM

Megan got back with her ex. Dropped me like a bag of bricks. Expected, but still a bummer. Really liked hanging out with her, amazing kisser. Her ex/current boyfriend is a massive piece of shit, but that's her baggage, not mine. Oh well. She still talks to me, I still talk to her, we're still friends. Maybe some time in the future when she wisens up about this douche, but I'm not going to be waiting with baited breath. In the mean time, have a date on Thursday with this girl:

(http://i.imgur.com/Y5Ymx.png)

Lunch and a movie at my place. :)

Just, an FYI, a heads-up, if you will: You're not friends. If it was possible for a male friend to give you an equivalent shitpile of emotional abuse, you'd not have anything further to do with them. You're likely only tolerating her abuse because there's some slim hope in your head of getting back with her. It's not healthy.

Good luck with your next date! For reals! Move on! (And let the ex- know what she's missing. Living well is the best revenge.)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on November 08, 2011, 02:09:21 AM

Oh come off it. That behavior is even more immature that continuing to convince a girl to get back with you/continue to share your feelings with them. I don't hold any serious ill will because I expected it, and I don't give that much of a shit-it's her fuck up, not mine. We are friends--were before we started seeing each other.It's just stupid to push people away simply because things didn't work out.

But yeah, this new chick is pretty cool. Real cute. Listens to jazz. Me likey.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 08, 2011, 02:23:37 AM

(http://i47.tinypic.com/6fy0wo.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on November 08, 2011, 02:28:48 AM

(http://i.imgur.com/RLy09.png)

not at fucking all, shinobi.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on November 08, 2011, 02:31:39 AM

keep trolling so BN is forced to post more pics plz

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on November 08, 2011, 03:54:16 AM

Nice going BN. The new one is a total cutie.

Oh yeah the other girl is trolling you, don't give her the satisfaction of crawling before her.

Quote from: Cormacaroni on November 07, 2011, 08:49:12 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on November 07, 2011, 11:16:38 AM
Woman that cooks = winner.

I was talking to my mom on the phone about my gf and she asked me how things were and I told her I'm really happy and that my gf is a good cook, so my mom said 'I know it's not about the cookin boy', to which I replied that 'any woman can give you that, but not all women know how to cook'. In the end she agreed with me. Cooking is a rare skill amongst women nowadays. Cherish it as you'll be eating her meals long after the lust has died down.

Or you could spend a few weeks learning how to cook and take that pussy off the pedestal. It's not like they wield the wooden spoons with their vaginas (outside of Thailand)

I know how to cook this and that, never said I didn't.

But having a girl that knows how to cook and does it well is pretty damn sweet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on November 08, 2011, 05:38:30 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on November 08, 2011, 02:09:21 AM

Oh come off it. That behavior is even more immature that continuing to convince a girl to get back with you/continue to share your feelings with them. I don't hold any serious ill will because I expected it, and I don't give that much of a shit-it's her fuck up, not mine. We are friends--were before we started seeing each other.It's just stupid to push people away simply because things didn't work out.

But yeah, this new chick is pretty cool. Real cute. Listens to jazz. Me likey.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lSVnt3--Nnk

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on November 08, 2011, 05:43:27 AM

Chrono to be fair it's possible.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

For her, since she broke it off.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 08, 2011, 08:41:49 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 07, 2011, 11:59:10 PM

Finally I have a decent relationship-eb affair

The girl I've been "with" for awhile ran into my mom at Whole Foods a couple days ago. My mom basically lives there, people know her by her last name so my female friend heard someone address her by her name, walked up and introduced herself. So to cut a long story short, my mom invited her to Thanksgiving dinner and she said yes.

Grandma called today trying to get details. I haven't said much. She's Trinidadian, somewhat tall (5'7), beautiful. And an atheist lol, so I pray to god religion doesn't come up. I never expected to bring anyone to Thanksgiving dinner, guess I'll see how things go.

Good luck, there are some very cute Trini girls out there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on November 08, 2011, 09:07:41 AM

That's a sweet story.

We need pics though PD...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on November 08, 2011, 09:17:02 AM

You don't remember the last time you and your wife hanged out with one of her ex boyrfriends over dinner DC?

It's 2011 man.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

:dizzy :dizzy :dizzy

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on November 08, 2011, 09:47:54 AM

That's pretty cool, but almost ain't quite it is it? :)

I dunno if I could sit across the table and have a laugh with a guy that used to poke my lady.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 08, 2011, 10:04:59 AM

One of my best good friends (Forrest lol) is an ex of my first wife. I met him initially and had a chip on my shoulder about the whole thing but fuck, he's an awesome guy. But yeah, that's generally the exception, not the rule.

BN, I'm not saying you have some subconscious agenda to get back with her and friendship is impossible. But I am saying that it's incredibly difficult and those feelings and issues are still there and most likely you can't control it. It will probably slowly eat away at you. Despite what movies and other people say, pushing someone away after a relationship and not wanting to be friends isn't a petty dick move. It's necessary in most cases to move on completely. I think you'll discover what Chronovore meant (and how you kind of took it the wrong way). Best of luck.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on November 08, 2011, 10:05:40 AM

y'allz a bunch of mean cunts. The amount of fucks being given by me regarding this whole thing is nearly zero. Why dwell and make a conscious effort to be a dick to her when I already have a new girl I'm talking to? That's just immature.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 08, 2011, 10:09:17 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on November 08, 2011, 10:05:40 AM

y'allz a bunch of mean cunts. The amount of fucks being given by me regarding this whole thing is nearly zero. Why dwell and make a conscious effort to be a dick to her when I already have a new girl I'm talking to? That's just immature.

I don't think anyone is seriously condoning being a straight up dick to her. I think we all tend to agree though that if you had a real bond with this girl then you're probably in post-relationship denial about what control you have over your feelings. I think most everyone says the same thing after a relationship. "I don't care what she does. It's not any of my business. Sucks to be her" but that slowly wears away in most cases. Like I said, I hope you're the exception.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Third on November 08, 2011, 10:28:44 AM

I'm currently dating someone. But I think she's too young for me. I'm 26 and she's 18.
We'll see how this goes...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on November 08, 2011, 10:30:21 AM

@Mups: yeah its an exception.

Does she look young?

A picture says a thousand words...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 08, 2011, 10:34:26 AM

Quote from: Third on November 08, 2011, 10:28:44 AM

I'm currently dating someone. But I think she's too young for me. I'm 26 and she's 18.
We'll see how this goes...

as long as her ass acts like it's 26 :drool

No, really though. That'd have to be one mature 18 year old. I can't spend five minutes with an 18 year old before wanting to kill myself

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Third on November 08, 2011, 10:41:31 AM

(http://i.imgur.com/MbGJ2.jpg) (http://imgur.com/MbGJ2)

The one in the middle.

Yeah, her behaviour is still a bit childish. But she's so cute. She loves to cook and clean. Would be the perfect wife.
But she's from Kosovo too. And her parents are very tough. I can't just fuck her and leave her be. She gets all red and crazy when I kiss her. It's cute.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 08, 2011, 11:13:41 AM

That's a keeper!

Okay really though, if the childish behavior isn't worse than a slight annoyance then go with it if you really like her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 08, 2011, 11:14:20 AM

oh yeah and hey, if you two break up can we get nudies of her too?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on November 08, 2011, 11:15:53 AM

~~I'm coming to visit you Third. Let's roll together.~~

I think I'll just move in with my gf.

:'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on November 08, 2011, 12:00:33 PM

dem legs :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fomalhaut on November 08, 2011, 12:12:55 PM

Kosovo? you break her heart her brothers will break your legs and make you crawl to safety, but safety is actually inside of a meatgrinder

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Third on November 08, 2011, 12:27:57 PM

My father is from Kosovo too. And she doesn't have older brothers. Only one younger brother and he's 16.
But her father...damn..he's tough. I don't think he likes me.

@Mupepe

Maybe :omg but you'll have to wait for a looooong time.

I'm 26 years old. If I want to settle, I'd go for her. She'd be a perfect wife. She loves doing wifey stuff and she listens like a dog on a leash. I like that. And women like it too when you're dominant. She does...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 08, 2011, 01:10:58 PM

Third partying like it's 1950 :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 08, 2011, 01:17:34 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 08, 2011, 01:10:58 PM

Third partying like it's 1950 :-\

:lol

Nah, there's nothing wrong with wanting some good ol' fashioned womanly qualities. I like that my wife likes me to be dominant and that she expects me to be alpha male around her. I like that she enjoys cooking for me and taking care of me. It's nice.

What does Lois say? "Sometimes a woman just wants to see her man be a man"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Third on November 08, 2011, 02:42:59 PM

Most women actually want a dominant male. All of the gf's I had were kind of submissive. It's not just me, it's just how it works most of the time. From my experience at least...

Thanks Wrath :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on November 08, 2011, 02:53:21 PM

Mupepe just asks everyone for nudes of their gf knowing someone will bite. Power in numbers!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 08, 2011, 02:55:33 PM

It's worked well for me so far!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 08, 2011, 03:52:13 PM

Quote from: Third on November 08, 2011, 02:42:59 PM

Most women actually want a dominant male. All of the gf's I had were kind of submissive. It's not just me, it's just how it works most of the time. From my experience at least...

Thanks Wrath :-*

Yeah, most of the girls I've dated have been pretty dominant... I've been with a few extremely shy and mousey girls early on (thinking that's what I preferred), but then discovered I need a girl with some personality to her, who's not afraid to be witty.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on November 08, 2011, 05:14:22 PM

A girl can have personality, be strong and independent but still want you to be the man in your relationship.

Ive found one :heartbeat

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 08, 2011, 06:31:19 PM

Third - hook me up with the left or right girl! :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on November 08, 2011, 11:02:04 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on November 08, 2011, 10:05:40 AM

y'allz a bunch of mean cunts. The amount of fucks being given by me regarding this whole thing is nearly zero. Why dwell and make a conscious effort to be a dick to her when I already have a new girl I'm talking to? That's just immature.

Is it more likely that we're mean spirited and being nasty to you, or that we're concerned about your well-being?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 09, 2011, 12:49:56 AM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gaj-7BroWNY

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on November 09, 2011, 12:57:43 AM

you should grow a 'fro that large, PD

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 09, 2011, 08:42:03 AM

Yup, BN just take it very carefully with the old girl and go enjoy spending time with the new one.

I'm so hyped for this weekend, and RPG fan girl wants to go out sometime next week... so many girls, so little time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Third on November 10, 2011, 09:09:16 AM

Quote from: tiesto on November 08, 2011, 06:31:19 PM

Third - hook me up with the left or right girl! :-*

They might be too young for you bro. Aren't you from Holland? It's legal to fuck 16-year olds in Holland, I guess.
But that's another issue- those girls won't fuck unless you marry them ahuahuahua

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 10, 2011, 10:39:47 AM

Quote from: Third on November 10, 2011, 09:09:16 AM

Quote from: tiesto on November 08, 2011, 06:31:19 PM
Third - hook me up with the left or right girl! :-*

They might be too young for you bro. Aren't you from Holland? It's legal to fuck 16-year olds in Holland, I guess.
But that's another issue- those girls won't fuck unless you marry them ahuahuahua

Heh, nope I'm from NY. I'm 29 so you are probably right... I think I'm getting to the age where I want a waifu though...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Third on November 10, 2011, 12:04:33 PM

Yeah, I'm thinking the same way. This girl might be it...

(http://i.imgur.com/Jbv2R.jpg)

(http://i.imgur.com/2uWaQ.jpg)

She's not the prettiest girl I've dated, and a bit on the fat side. But she's very nice and not arrogant at all. Most of the girls I've dated were really cocky and arrogant. This one is down to earth.

Buuuuuut I really have to cheat on her. She doesn't want to have sex until we're married. And we're currently just dating.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 10, 2011, 12:49:18 PM

"I could see myself marrying this girl. Gonna have to cheat on her though" :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on November 10, 2011, 01:26:11 PM

also lol @ calling her fat

you suck dude

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 10, 2011, 01:26:31 PM

"a bit on the fat side"

??? ??? ???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 10, 2011, 01:30:07 PM

Please go post this on GAF. The reaction will be hilarious. There is so much wrong with your post. Just wow.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Solo on November 10, 2011, 01:32:46 PM

mupepe, where are those big bouncy tits in your av?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 10, 2011, 01:36:43 PM

I lost the original file a while back or else I'd go back to it :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Solo on November 10, 2011, 01:37:58 PM

heartbreaking

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on November 10, 2011, 03:27:37 PM

you get banned or something, solo?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Solo on November 10, 2011, 03:55:36 PM

yup, again

sexism, serious business :hump

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Third on November 10, 2011, 04:27:07 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on November 10, 2011, 01:30:07 PM

Please go post this on GAF. The reaction will be hilarious. There is so much wrong with your post. Just wow.

Banned until 2-2-2012

Also because of sexism. :'(

Three month ban because I said that I like to conquer women. Sheesh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Solo on November 10, 2011, 04:29:33 PM

Mines only a week for posting in a feminism thread and saying "shut up and make me dinner" or something to that effect

You got fucked over, man

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Third on November 10, 2011, 04:32:26 PM

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=32333550&postcount=2653

Three month ban for that ::)

What you said was worse, IMO.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Solo on November 10, 2011, 04:34:12 PM

Yeah, GAF moderation tends to be pretty wishy washy. I should have been legitimately perma'd several times, but ive never gotten so much as a wrist slap those times. then i post some dumb shit like that or say wrestling is fake and shitty and I do get banned :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 10, 2011, 04:39:14 PM

Quote from: Third on November 10, 2011, 04:32:26 PM

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=32333550&postcount=2653

Three month ban for that ::)

What you said was worse, IMO.

wtf? That's it? Really? Jesus, which mod has an angry vag?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Third on November 10, 2011, 04:41:55 PM

Opiate

But who cares. I still have EB. :heartbeat
And shiiiit, I can't vote in the GOTY thread :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on November 10, 2011, 05:06:59 PM

A small victory for good taste.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on November 10, 2011, 06:31:31 PM

i'm in an awesome relationship right now, but we're using the L word and i've never used it so liberally before and it's freaking me out, man!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on November 10, 2011, 06:39:41 PM

Quote from: Third on November 10, 2011, 04:32:26 PM

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=32333550&postcount=2653

Three month ban for that ::)

What you said was worse, IMO.

I got a three month ban for "Fuck you."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Solo on November 10, 2011, 06:42:52 PM

you got served

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Boogie on November 10, 2011, 10:32:38 PM

Still never banned.

y'all are doing it wrong. :smug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on November 11, 2011, 06:44:18 AM

Wait you got banned for having a dick Third?

Which pussy mod did this?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Third on November 11, 2011, 07:47:54 AM

Opiate :'(

He always seemed like a down to earth mod.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Solo on November 11, 2011, 08:02:02 AM

Quote from: Boogie on November 10, 2011, 10:32:38 PM

Still never banned.

y'all are doing it wrong. :smug

Without fail, I get banned once a year. Its like an annual tradition or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on November 11, 2011, 09:35:07 AM

Quote from: Boogie on November 10, 2011, 10:32:38 PM

Still never banned.

y'all are doing it wrong. :smug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on November 11, 2011, 09:43:34 AM

Keep GAF talk in the GAF thread, you gaffabs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 13, 2011, 10:58:28 PM

Date Friday = seemed to be going decent (it was date #2), but at the end of it she seemed like in a bit of a hurry to leave, I had to go in for a hug/kiss combo, and then she said that she'll "be talking to me"... uhh I dunno about that. I will have to try calling her and setting up a 3rd date, but at this point, I dunno. Very sweet personality, fairly outgoing but not excessively so, cute, thick, dirty blonde Italian girl.

Date Saturday = we definitely seemed to hit it off, she was a very outgoing girl... short, curvy Jewish/Italian girl with big boobs :drool but towards the end of the date she started talking about her ex a lot, how they aren't on speaking terms, and then she showed me a txt her ex sent during our date... saying "I don't know what your problem is, you wanna come over and fuck tonight?"... uhh, I don't want to get into any drama with girls not over their ex. Sucks, because I had high hopes for this one for the first half of the date. :-\

Next week I will be going out with gamer chick. She's a big fan of PC gaming and I was teasing her about that (I'll play PC games but not a real big fan)... very cool girl, probably a dream girl for a lot of GAFfers - skinny, has glasses, plays Skyrim/Battlefield and likes metal. Unfortunately, she is "between jobs" and doesn't have a car. 2 major things I disliked about my last girlfriend - she was underemployed with no motivation to get a better job, and didn't have a car.

Dating sucks, I wonder if I'm too picky ???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on November 13, 2011, 11:01:56 PM

I don't think you're being too picky. You want someone who is at the same point in their life that you're at in yours (ie. stable job, finances, etc.).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 13, 2011, 11:07:46 PM

Jeez, non-stop ex talk during a date? That's just disrespectful imo. Tough situation

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on November 13, 2011, 11:08:58 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 13, 2011, 11:07:46 PM

Jeez, non-stop ex talk during a date? That's just disrespectful imo. Touch situation

good touch or bad touch?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 13, 2011, 11:12:46 PM

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on November 14, 2011, 12:20:29 AM

is someone talking about me?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on November 14, 2011, 04:25:33 AM

Quote from: tiesto on November 13, 2011, 10:58:28 PM

Date Friday = seemed to be going decent (it was date #2), but at the end of it she seemed like in a bit of a hurry to leave, I had to go in for a hug/kiss combo, and then she said that she'll "be talking to me"... uhh I dunno about that. I will have to try calling her and setting up a 3rd date, but at this point, I dunno. Very sweet personality, fairly outgoing but not excessively so, cute, thick, dirty blonde Italian girl.

Date Saturday = we definitely seemed to hit it off, she was a very outgoing girl... short, curvy Jewish/Italian girl with big boobs :drool but towards the end of the date she started talking about her ex a lot, how they aren't on speaking terms, and then she showed me a txt her ex sent during our date... saying "I don't know what your problem is, you wanna come over and fuck tonight?"... uhh, I don't want to get into any drama with girls not over their ex. Sucks, because I had high hopes for this one for the first half of the date. :-\

Next week I will be going out with gamer chick. She's a big fan of PC gaming and I was teasing her about that (I'll play PC games but not a real big fan)... very cool girl, probably a dream girl for a lot of GAFfers - skinny, has glasses, plays Skyrim/Battlefield and likes metal. Unfortunately, she is "between jobs" and doesn't have a car. 2 major things I disliked about my last girlfriend - she was underemployed with no motivation to get a better job, and didn't have a car.

Dating sucks, I wonder if I'm too picky ???

How does going on a date work Tiesto?

You meet these girl online or something and then?

I'm not sure I ever been on a real date. Maybe once.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 14, 2011, 11:48:54 AM

Quote from: Premium Lager on November 14, 2011, 04:25:33 AM

Quote from: tiesto on November 13, 2011, 10:58:28 PM
Date Friday = seemed to be going decent (it was date #2), but at the end of it she seemed like in a bit of a hurry to leave, I had to go in for a hug/kiss combo, and then she said that she'll "be talking to me"... uhh I dunno about that. I will have to try calling her and setting up a 3rd date, but at this point, I dunno. Very sweet personality, fairly outgoing but not excessively so, cute, thick, dirty blonde Italian girl.

Date Saturday = we definitely seemed to hit it off, she was a very outgoing girl... short, curvy Jewish/Italian girl with big boobs :drool but towards the end of the date she started talking about her ex a lot, how they aren't on speaking terms, and then she showed me a txt her ex sent during our date... saying "I don't know what your problem is, you wanna come over and fuck tonight?"... uhh, I don't want to get into any drama with girls not over their ex. Sucks, because I had high hopes for this one for the first half of the date. :-\

Next week I will be going out with gamer chick. She's a big fan of PC gaming and I was teasing her about that (I'll play PC games but not a real big fan)... very cool girl, probably a dream girl for a lot of GAFfers - skinny, has glasses, plays Skyrim/Battlefield and likes metal. Unfortunately, she is "between jobs" and doesn't have a car. 2 major things I disliked about my last girlfriend - she was underemployed with no motivation to get a better job, and didn't have a car.

Dating sucks, I wonder if I'm too picky ???

How does going on a date work Tiesto?

You meet these girl online or something and then?

I'm not sure I ever been on a real date. Maybe once.

Go on OKCupid, see an interesting profile, email them. If they email me back, have a bit of an email convo, if I am interested I'll ask if the girl wants to meet up for coffee/drinks. Then just go chill with them at a bar/starbux for a few hours. That's a typical "first date" for me, then after that I will call them and take it to dinner/activity type stuff.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 14, 2011, 12:27:57 PM

Speaking of which I decided to check my okcupid and jeez, I get way more visitors now. But they're still the same type: big girls. I'm not hating, it's just weird. My mom once told me fat women prefer real skinny men, maybe she was right

On a side note, my friend-girl was sick last night so I took her some soup and crackers. We wound up kissing and shit, which in hind sight is something that always disgusted me (the idea of kissing a sick person) but last night was awesome. I really like this girl but I don't want to rush things.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 14, 2011, 12:33:16 PM

IE my friend-girl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 14, 2011, 12:42:44 PM

I can't think of a better way to say it. She's not my gf, but we're more than friends. So friend-girl makes sense to me

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Solo on November 14, 2011, 12:44:26 PM

friend girl?

:tbslol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 14, 2011, 12:47:04 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 14, 2011, 12:42:44 PM

I can't think of a better way to say it. She's not my gf, but we're more than friends. So friend-girl makes sense to me

Just say friend. I think we all know you're straight, you don't have to clarify.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Solo on November 14, 2011, 12:49:42 PM

Just say "girl who will be receiving my cream pie tonight"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on November 14, 2011, 04:29:42 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 14, 2011, 12:27:57 PM

My mom once told me fat women prefer real skinny men

My OkCupid inbox agrees. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 14, 2011, 04:36:02 PM

example:

My profile includes a blurb about me really liking Sour Patches. So a heavy lady caught me online and sent me a IM message saying hi. After some small talk she mentioned she agreed with my profile that Sour Patch Kids is the best candy, then said "i like sukkin the sour off LOL then i eat the whole thing :) :) :) wanna chill in ypsi?"

:-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 14, 2011, 04:36:59 PM

:lol :lol :lol

get a bj from a fat girl, dude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other
Post by: Barry Egan on November 14, 2011, 04:53:50 PM

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Joe Molotov on November 14, 2011, 05:53:27 PM

Show up at her place with sour sugar all over your BBC and let her go to town.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on November 15, 2011, 05:39:32 PM

Quote from: Joe Molotov® EDGE™ on November 14, 2011, 05:53:27 PM

Show up at her place with sour sugar all over your BBC and let her go to town.

:lol :lol :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on November 18, 2011, 06:38:29 PM

I want to ask the girl at the small local post office on a date. She's a little tall, skinny, & cute in a nerd/hipster way and that's exactly my type. Maybe early 20s. I see her every month or so when I have large packages to drop off in the mail. We talk a little but it's just like "hi, how are you/good fine thanks and you/how do you mail to xx/etc.../have a nice weekend" generic sales talk. But I think she may be interested. Maybe! When I was mailing out my Secret Santa package today the other, older female worker, went ahead and took all the other customers so she could wait around until I finished filling out my forms so she could be the one to help me out when I was ready to mail my package. And she was sort of "there's a cute guy in my presence" nervous/flirty?

So how do I do this? The last time I asked a girl @ work on a date in person was like 12/13 years ago when I was with a group of my buddies egging me on and the girl and her co-worker were friends of our group and had hung out with us before. If I go cold turkey walk in and say "Hey, I've been in here a few times and you've always been really friendly and cool, do you want to get some coffee after your shift?", will that be really awkward for her since she'll be at work in front of her co-workers and possibly customers.

I hate this situation where I think a girl's interested and I'm interested, but getting to an actual date is tricky.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on November 18, 2011, 06:47:26 PM

Here we go again :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on November 18, 2011, 06:52:40 PM

Just askin' if it would be awkward to ask a girl on a date while she's working and if there is a better way to do it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on November 18, 2011, 06:55:23 PM

Yeah, but you always ask for advice then proceed to tell everyone why they're wrong.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on November 18, 2011, 07:09:59 PM

Thanks Spencer 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 18, 2011, 07:10:22 PM

Just make sure no one is around like you said and don't just bust out with it. Get the conversation going a bit and slip in a hey, would you like to go out with me sometime?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 18, 2011, 07:15:43 PM

Yeah, I just meant to make sure there wasn't a line forming behind him or something and while he's babbling on she's thinking "these people are getting pissed" or something

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on November 18, 2011, 07:27:08 PM

Mupepe, thanks for the added tips ;)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 18, 2011, 07:28:00 PM

No problem! Good luck, man

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 18, 2011, 07:34:57 PM

If she says no, going to the post office every month will be so awkward :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on November 18, 2011, 07:37:04 PM

Good thing there's more than one post office :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 18, 2011, 07:37:37 PM

Not true! It's only as akward as you made it. You have no idea how many times I asked out women at some of my favorite hang out spots like bars or restaurants and when they were my waitress again or something I just acted like nothing happened. Don't let that get to you otherwise you'll never break out of the fear of asking out a girl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on November 18, 2011, 07:38:17 PM

Hmmm, good point.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on November 18, 2011, 08:42:10 PM

tell her you have a large package; pause, wait for reaction, hand her your card and walk out of there

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on November 18, 2011, 11:21:14 PM

Quote from: Linkzg on November 18, 2011, 08:42:10 PM

tell her you have a large package; pause, wait for reaction, hand her your card and walk out of there

I was going to make the "large package" recommendation, but couldn't figure out how to seal the deal. You nailed it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on November 18, 2011, 11:25:26 PM

Just ask her out.

This isn't your "home" post office, right?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Dickie Dee on November 21, 2011, 01:34:10 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WNfvuJr9164

:'( :-[ :'(

spoiler (click to show/hide)

:gloomy (http://s3.amazonaws.com/kym-assets/entries/icons/original/000/003/619/Untitled-1.jpg) :gloomy

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on November 21, 2011, 03:27:51 PM

prague girl visited me in the u.s....best two weeks of my life, going to prague in december, then march, then she's gonna move here and work for about 4 months, then i think i'll propose if that goes well because why the fuck not? that's a big "if" though. I'd probably just start talking about that as we will have to start thinking practically about how we'll live in the same place.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 21, 2011, 03:31:39 PM

i'm pretty sure we just wants pics and dirty stories, Don Flamenco. Cough 'em up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on November 21, 2011, 03:38:25 PM

definitely no on the pics, but i did have my first butt orgasm. like, nothing being done to my dick, just a lubed finger up there going to town. it took like half an hour, but my whole body went numb, my face got 1000 degrees hot, I kinda writhed and twitched loudly, and I was sort of in a haze for an hour afterwards. shit was bonkers! I'm not sure what she did...just had maybe an inch and a half of her finger in there, not thrusting it or anything. I've been meaning to google it, but it keeps slipping my mind.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on November 21, 2011, 03:42:00 PM

Quote from: Don Flamenco on November 21, 2011, 03:38:25 PM

definitely no on the pics, but i did have my first butt orgasm. like, nothing being done to my dick, just a lubed finger up there going to town. it took like half an hour, but my whole body went numb, my face got 1000 degrees hot, I kinda writhed and twitched loudly, and I was sort of in a haze for an hour afterwards. shit was bonkers! I'm not sure what she did...just had maybe an inch and a half of her finger in there, not thrusting it or anything. I've been meaning to google it, but it keeps slipping my mind.

Prostate ticklin'.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 21, 2011, 03:45:42 PM

oooh nice. I've tried having my prostate tickled twice. the first time I didn't like it. It just felt uncomfortable. The 2nd time was enjoyable, but not really enjoyable enough for me to do it again. Maybe one day I'll get my wife to buy a strap on and go to town on me. *shrug*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on November 21, 2011, 03:48:06 PM

For the umpteenth time people, get this!

(http://www.vitacost.com/Images/Products/200/High-Island-Health/High-Island-Health-New-Pro-State-Prostate-Massager-894757001140.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other
Post by: Barry Egan on November 21, 2011, 03:56:30 PM

Looks too much like the wii nunchuck. Instant boner kill.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 21, 2011, 03:57:03 PM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on November 21, 2011, 03:48:06 PM

For the umpteenth time people, get this!

(http://www.vitacost.com/Images/Products/200/High-Island-Health/High-Island-Health-New-Pro-State-Prostate-Massager-894757001140.jpg)

prostate massagers were expensive when I went to the store. What if I don't like the experience? That's an expensive poop smelling ornament then.

Plus, if I'm getting something bigger than a finger in there I want someone grabbing my waist and calling me slut. know what I mean?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on November 21, 2011, 04:01:58 PM

That model is available too, you just have to fork an extra $150.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 21, 2011, 04:03:07 PM

I'm cheap

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on November 21, 2011, 04:21:33 PM

prostate massage...interesting!

i don't think i'd like it every day, it took a whole lot of effort, but it was a pretty nice treat.

also, i get to try anal on her for christmas...then i told her i was raised jewish...and that hanukkah is 8 nights long :drake

seems like it'll be more than it's cracked up to be.

edit: anyway, that's the good stuff, the rest will make you sick with lovey dovey talk

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on November 21, 2011, 06:51:12 PM

Giving anal is pretty awesome. Goddamn does it feel like you're sticking your dick into a nice oven.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 21, 2011, 07:53:02 PM

Quote from: Don Flamenco on November 21, 2011, 03:38:25 PM

definitely no on the pics, but i did have my first butt orgasm. like, nothing being done to my dick, just a lubed finger up there going to town. it took like half an hour, but my whole body went numb, my face got 1000 degrees hot, I kinda writhed and twitched loudly, and I was sort of in a haze for an hour afterwards. shit was bonkers! I'm not sure what she did...just had maybe an inch and a half of her finger in there, not thrusting it or anything. I've been meaning to google it, but it keeps slipping my mind.

:-\

I wonder how I'd react if a chick tried to randomly sneak a finger up my ass. I've scratched my taint enough to know there's some stimulation down there, but...eh. Dunno brehs. I wouldn't go all Wesley Pipes on her ass and freak out, but I dunno brehs :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Joe Molotov on November 21, 2011, 10:27:02 PM

Sticking your dick in a oven actually doesn't sound awesome at all. ???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on November 21, 2011, 11:42:30 PM

Anal has a kind of dry heat that you don't find with vaginal intercourse (which makes sense since it doesn't self-lubricate). That's the only thing I can figure.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on November 21, 2011, 11:47:29 PM

So vaginal = Florida and anal = Arizona.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 21, 2011, 11:49:15 PM

sounds like you've never had either ???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on November 21, 2011, 11:52:37 PM

Florida gets wet a lot

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 21, 2011, 11:53:11 PM

sounds like I've never had either :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 21, 2011, 11:59:29 PM

Anal is a beautiful combination of heat, pressure and friction. So good.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 22, 2011, 12:35:33 AM

I've started to shy away from anal porn as well. I used to get in debates over which porn star was better, often determined by who did anal and who didn't. But now I'm an old man more interested in blowjobs and cowgirl position

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on November 22, 2011, 01:06:00 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on November 21, 2011, 11:59:29 PM

Anal is a beautiful combination of heat, pressure and friction. So good.

Yes to all these amazing things.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 22, 2011, 08:43:16 AM

So I met with that gamer chick - the one who has about 60 hours into Skyrim and a Zelda tat and all that jazz - she was very cute actually! Tall, skinny, brown hair, glasses. Unfortunately, she doesn't have a job or a college degree, which is not what I'm looking for :( Might as well go hang out some more, have fun and tell her I'm not interested in getting too serious.

I also went out with a girl last Friday, she was a tall, thin blonde girl. Very athletic, she is doing the Tough Mudder competition next year, and she does kickboxing as well. She has a great job, a degree, her own apartment. So basically she has her shit together. And I called her yesterday and she wants to go out again :hyper

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 22, 2011, 10:06:08 AM

porn BJ's? The fast forward button was practically invented for those.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 22, 2011, 10:17:10 AM

nah, they're all pretty snooze. There's nothing exciting visually about a blowjob to me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on November 22, 2011, 10:35:52 AM

BJs in porn are prime time for the dreaded guy's face reaction shot.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 21, 2011, 07:53:02 PM

Quote from: Don Flamenco on November 21, 2011, 03:38:25 PM
definitely no on the pics, but i did have my first butt orgasm. like, nothing being done to my dick, just a lubed finger up there going to town. it took like half an hour, but my whole body went numb, my face got 1000 degrees hot, I kinda writhed and twitched loudly, and I was sort of in a haze for an hour afterwards. shit was bonkers! I'm not sure what she did...just had maybe an inch and a half of her finger in there, not thrusting it or anything. I've been meaning to google it, but it keeps slipping my mind.
:-\

I wonder how I'd react if a chick tried to randomly sneak a finger up my ass. I've scratched my taint enough to know there's some stimulation down there, but...eh. Dunno brehs. I wouldn't go all Wesley Pipes on her ass and freak out, but I dunno brehs :'(

yeah, i rarely let girls do that before because they just stick it in while you're going at it and don't pay attention to their nails. It isn't super painful, more uncomfortable than anything. it'll make you yell "WHOA STOP" pretty fast

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on November 22, 2011, 01:20:19 PM

Re: butt orgasms

I fingerbanged my boyfriend with 2 fingers and made him cum in 15 seconds. He was shaking afterward.

I have Magic Fingers.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 22, 2011, 01:26:47 PM

Cum from his dick, what?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on November 22, 2011, 01:27:38 PM

where else?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on November 22, 2011, 01:33:11 PM

Bebpo, why are you still going after girls almost 10 years younger than you when you say you want a serious relationship?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on November 22, 2011, 02:28:33 PM

whimsy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on November 22, 2011, 07:55:14 PM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on November 22, 2011, 01:33:11 PM

Bebpo, why are you still going after girls almost 10 years younger than you when you say you want a serious relationship?

well damn bebpo, there's the problem. They'll either go for it and it'll end stupidly over something stupid that will make you feel very stupid for not noticing her immaturity to begin with or they'll lead you on just because they can. late 20s, 30s-- yes, some mileage on there, but they're chilled out and don't confuse Sex And The City (or whatever bad show is rotting young female minds these days) for reality as much.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on November 22, 2011, 08:24:37 PM

Quote

Bebpo, why are you still going after girls almost 10 years younger than you when you say you want a serious relationship?

real talk: denial is driving him.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Inspector Thatcher on November 22, 2011, 09:48:25 PM

Quote from: Don Flamenco on November 22, 2011, 07:55:14 PM

well damn bebpo, there's the problem. They'll either go for it and it'll end stupidly over something stupid that will make you feel very stupid for not noticing her immaturity to begin with or they'll lead you on just because they can. late 20s, 30s-- yes, some mileage on there, but they're chilled out and don't confuse Sex And The City (or whatever bad show is rotting young female minds these days) for reality as much.

Why, whatever do you mean that a guy who gets cheated on, cheated with, just plain cheated, treats her like shit and is treated shittily in return then has to chase a girl all the way to freaking Paris and back, and then leaves her at the altar, can't win the girl in the end and live happily ever after? :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on November 22, 2011, 09:51:40 PM

Quote from: Spencer on November 22, 2011, 09:14:07 PM

Quote from: ZephyrFate on November 22, 2011, 01:20:19 PM
Re: butt orgasms

I fingerbanged my boyfriend with 2 fingers and made him cum in 15 seconds. He was shaking afterward.

I have Magic Fingers.

Like from a cold start or after some warm up?

we'd been going at it for some time. My dick wasn't up for the challenge last night so I decided to change things up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on November 23, 2011, 05:14:17 AM

(http://i44.tinypic.com/nnt7wm.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on November 23, 2011, 11:12:14 AM

Quote from: Inspector Thatcher on November 22, 2011, 09:48:25 PM

Quote from: Don Flamenco on November 22, 2011, 07:55:14 PM
well damn bebpo, there's the problem. They'll either go for it and it'll end stupidly over something stupid that will make you feel very stupid for not noticing her immaturity to begin with or they'll lead you on just because they can. late 20s, 30s-- yes, some mileage on there, but they're chilled out and don't confuse Sex And The City (or whatever bad show is rotting young female minds these days) for reality as much.

Why, whatever do you mean that a guy who gets cheated on, cheated with, just plain cheated, treats her like shit and is treated shittily in return then has to chase a girl all the way to freaking Paris and back, and then leaves her at the altar, can't win the girl in the end and live happily ever after? :P

i'm not getting the reference...need help!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on November 25, 2011, 05:05:37 PM

I told my boyfriend I was falling for him a couple days ago. Shoulda seen the look on his face. I think he was about to start crying.

Afterward, I don't think we've ever shared more passionate kisses.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 25, 2011, 05:25:12 PM

awww :-[

What does he look like

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on November 25, 2011, 05:45:58 PM

http://i.imgur.com/gpdV9.jpg

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 25, 2011, 05:49:41 PM

He'd look hotter with facial hair imo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on November 25, 2011, 05:55:12 PM

STRAIGHT MALE OPINIONS :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on November 25, 2011, 07:05:26 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 25, 2011, 05:49:41 PM

He'd look hotter with facial hair imo

Most men would.

/beardlust

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on November 25, 2011, 07:11:27 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 25, 2011, 07:05:53 PM

Are you familiar with our friend Malek?

nope.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on November 28, 2011, 01:00:28 AM

"so...if someone were to get you earrings for christmas, what kind would you want?"

"no, I told you, I want comic books."

"you were serious? like super hero comics or serious graphic novels?"

"super heroes. and peanut butter m+ms. and some bad fantasy novels with the ugly covers."

:o :-[

got her infinity gauntlet and marvel universe: the end

my present is gonna be anal and weed

jesus, i'm in pretty deep here

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on November 28, 2011, 01:38:37 AM

thats pretty much as good as it gets right there

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Inspector Thatcher on November 28, 2011, 11:31:36 PM

Quote from: Don Flamenco on November 23, 2011, 11:12:14 AM

Quote from: Inspector Thatcher on November 22, 2011, 09:48:25 PM
Quote from: Don Flamenco on November 22, 2011, 07:55:14 PM
well damn bebpo, there's the problem. They'll either go for it and it'll end stupidly over something stupid that will make you feel very stupid for not noticing her immaturity to begin with or they'll lead you on just because they can. late 20s, 30s-- yes, some mileage on there, but they're chilled out and don't confuse Sex And The City (or whatever bad show is rotting young female minds these days) for reality as much.

Why, whatever do you mean that a guy who gets cheated on, cheated with, just plain cheated, treats her like shit and is treated shittily in return then has to chase a girl all the way to freaking Paris and back, and then leaves her at the altar, can't win the girl in the end and live happily ever after? :P

i'm not getting the reference...need help!

It's the Big/Carrie plot - about 9 years condensed into 50 words or less - from Sex and the City.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on November 28, 2011, 11:50:26 PM

haven't watched the show...my man 8)

late edit: but to clarify, that's the kind of convoluted shit I would expect from it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on November 29, 2011, 03:08:10 PM

Sex and the City was actually a good show. I was surprised how much I enjoyed it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 29, 2011, 03:09:47 PM

I've seen every episode :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Inspector Thatcher on November 29, 2011, 08:52:48 PM

Quote from: Don Flamenco on November 28, 2011, 11:50:26 PM

late edit: but to clarify, that's the kind of convoluted shit I would expect from it.

Well yeah, in its attempt to be realistic and portray the characters' lives as complicated as any "real" woman's, it's went a...wee...bit overboard.

But hey, I'd probably get ripped to shreds by my fellow females if I didn't at least pretend to enjoy SATC for it's successes as well as its foibles.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on November 29, 2011, 09:15:48 PM

Sex and the City was great when the writers weren't churning out bullshit to satisfy the "average female viewer." When they focused on the comedy and insane situations of women having sex like men, pure HBO gold. When they strayed from that, it lost its edge and appeal. The main characters of the show were the four women and NYC. If you ask someone today what the show was about, they'll say Big and Carrie, which was the exact opposite of the original intentions for the show.

The movies can rot in hell and should have never been made. But man, they sure did make a whole lot of money courtesy of the average female viewer.

I MAD

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on November 29, 2011, 09:30:19 PM

I don't get mad until I hear "I learned a lot from that show." that's when you know you're dealing with a real piece of work. then, when you find out they're really into "dating" on okcupid (read: one night stands) because they don't wanna "settle," it all starts to make sense. :lol (thankfully not a real gf, just fwb going through a rough patch in her life)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on November 29, 2011, 11:25:32 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on November 29, 2011, 03:09:47 PM

I've seen every episode :-[

I know that feel, bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on November 30, 2011, 01:30:27 AM

Every single fucking dude in porn is awful at it. Watch a pro eat pussy – Nina Hartley.

I'm not kidding.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on November 30, 2011, 01:59:54 AM

Quote from: lennedsay on November 29, 2011, 09:15:48 PM

The movies can rot in hell and should have never been made. But man, they sure did make a whole lot of money courtesy of the average female viewer.

I MAD

Although I think it was unnecessary, the first film was just fine. The second film, however, is one of the most equally-offensive-to-all-humanity things I've ever witnessed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 30, 2011, 10:20:14 AM

I've never seen either of the movies. And yeah, by the time SATC ended it was convoluted bullshit.

Aidan was such a cool guy :'(

Anyways, the only time I don't fast forward oral in a porn is when it's girl on girl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on November 30, 2011, 11:24:08 AM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on November 25, 2011, 07:05:26 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 25, 2011, 05:49:41 PM
He'd look hotter with facial hair imo

Most men would.

/beardlust

Bears > Men

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 30, 2011, 11:39:05 AM

Think I'm ready to throw in the towel with dating for a bit. Got one more girl I'm meeting up with this Friday, but I'm not really sure how this is gonna work out (she finds video games boring and likes to boat... which I don't really do :P). I met a nice girl that I went out on 2 dates with, she was everything I was looking for in a girl - cute blonde, nice body, had a good job and motivation, had her shit together... but after we said goodbyes on our second date I tried to go for the kiss and got the cheek :-\ And of course tried one last ditch effort to call her, she didn't pick up. The gamer chick was weird, she only dated girls in the past and "was trying guys out" now... she lives in an apartment with a dude who pays for it completely... no job, dropped out of college b/c she was addicted to FF11... yeah, no.

The holidays are coming up and everyone is gonna be too busy, besides. When the new year kicks in I'll start it up again. Maybe I should try Match again? Or just try at the LI pubs?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 30, 2011, 11:54:05 AM

:lol @ that gamer chick

That's a mountain of red flags

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on November 30, 2011, 11:55:29 AM

Quote from: Don Flamenco on November 21, 2011, 03:38:25 PM

definitely no on the pics, but i did have my first butt orgasm. like, nothing being done to my dick, just a lubed finger up there going to town. it took like half an hour, but my whole body went numb, my face got 1000 degrees hot, I kinda writhed and twitched loudly, and I was sort of in a haze for an hour afterwards. shit was bonkers! I'm not sure what she did...just had maybe an inch and a half of her finger in there, not thrusting it or anything. I've been meaning to google it, but it keeps slipping my mind.

This post is absolutely hilarious only because I imagine distantmantra like this the whole time :smug

Also, welcome to the real world, Neo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2011, 12:12:02 PM

Why go for a kiss on the second date? Should have waited breh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on November 30, 2011, 12:22:18 PM

yea, no kissing until you've asked her parents permission at least.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 30, 2011, 12:22:38 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2011, 12:12:02 PM

Why go for a kiss on the second date? Should have waited breh

not sure if srs -_-

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on November 30, 2011, 12:32:39 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on November 30, 2011, 10:20:14 AM

I've never seen either of the movies. And yeah, by the time SATC ended it was convoluted bullshit.

Aidan was such a cool guy :'(

I was a total Team Aidan fan throughout the show but Carrie and Big finally clicked for me during the final season.

Oh yeah, never watch the second movie if you like Aidan.

Quote from: demi on November 30, 2011, 11:55:29 AM

Quote from: Don Flamenco on November 21, 2011, 03:38:25 PM
definitely no on the pics, but i did have my first butt orgasm. like, nothing being done to my dick, just a lubed finger up there going to town. it took like half an hour, but my whole body went numb, my face got 1000 degrees hot, I kinda writhed and twitched loudly, and I was sort of in a haze for an hour afterwards. shit was bonkers! I'm not sure what she did...just had maybe an inch and a half of her finger in there, not thrusting it or anything. I've been meaning to google it, but it keeps slipping my mind.

This post is absolutely hilarious only because I imagine distantmantra like this the whole time :smug

:lol

You wish.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 30, 2011, 12:37:26 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on November 30, 2011, 12:32:39 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on November 30, 2011, 10:20:14 AM
I've never seen either of the movies. And yeah, by the time SATC ended it was convoluted bullshit.

Aidan was such a cool guy :'(

I was a total Team Aidan fan throughout the show but Carrie and Big finally clicked for me during the final season.

Oh yeah, never watch the second movie if you like Aidan.

Quote from: demi on November 30, 2011, 11:55:29 AM
Quote from: Don Flamenco on November 21, 2011, 03:38:25 PM
definitely no on the pics, but i did have my first butt orgasm. like, nothing being done to my dick, just a lubed finger up there going to town. it took like half an hour, but my whole body went numb, my face got 1000 degrees hot, I kinda writhed and twitched loudly, and I was sort of in a haze for an hour afterwards. shit was bonkers! I'm not sure what she did...just had maybe an inch and a half of her finger in there, not thrusting it or anything. I've been meaning to google it, but it keeps slipping my mind.

This post is absolutely hilarious only because I imagine distantmantra like this the whole time :smug

:lol

You wish.

I never plan on watching either of the movies. I heard they were fairly awful and as sad as it is I really liked the show and would like to keep the ending on a good note.

I never cared for Big. Just something about him annoys the piss out of me and I can't stand him. Maybe it's because Carrie was stupid and Aidan should have been numero uno.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2011, 12:50:56 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on November 30, 2011, 12:22:38 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2011, 12:12:02 PM
Why go for a kiss on the second date? Should have waited breh
not sure if srs -_-

Dunno, seems kind of forward to me. Second date, you don't know exactly where you stand, maybe she changed her mind, etc. First dates are the obvious entry point, while second dates (TO ME) are seeing whether you're going to buy a car. You kick the tires, check the mileage, haggle over prices.

The third date is the test drive imo. That's where you go for the kiss, or the more logical/safe hand holding which I kind of prefer anyway.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on November 30, 2011, 12:59:19 PM

Yeah. A good second date ends with a firm handshake.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on November 30, 2011, 01:01:01 PM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on November 30, 2011, 12:59:19 PM

Yeah. A good second date ends with a firm sidehug.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 30, 2011, 01:03:00 PM

Trying to go for a kiss at the end of a second date isn't forward. That falls heavily on the conservative side actually.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on November 30, 2011, 01:06:35 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2011, 12:50:56 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on November 30, 2011, 12:22:38 PM
Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2011, 12:12:02 PM
Why go for a kiss on the second date? Should have waited breh
not sure if srs -_-

Dunno, seems kind of forward to me. Second date, you don't know exactly where you stand, maybe she changed her mind, etc. First dates are the obvious entry point, while second dates (TO ME) are seeing whether you're going to buy a car. You kick the tires, check the mileage, haggle over prices.

The third date is the test drive imo. That's where you go for the kiss, or the more logical/safe hand holding which I kind of prefer anyway.

This still seems very risky to me. When do you fax over the written consent form for her and her legal guardian to fill out and sign? It just seems a little forward when nothings down on paper.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on November 30, 2011, 01:12:30 PM

I'm dying at PD's post...

At least there will be a spot on that new TLC show down the road.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on November 30, 2011, 01:13:29 PM

Quote from: demi on November 30, 2011, 01:12:30 PM

I'm dying at PD's post...

At least there will be a spot on that new TLC show down the road.

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2011, 01:20:32 PM

I guess we'll agree to disagree. Personally I like just getting to know a girl, doing things, getting comfortable around each other...then if anything happens I have already laid the proper groundwork. I used the car analogy already but dating might as well be farming, truth be told. You plant the seed and watch things grow. Too much water, too early of a kiss, and things die or get awkward.

I'm at a point with my girlfriend that we're just compatible. We're completely comfortable around each other and hang out all the time, although not enough to push things/get tired of each other.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on November 30, 2011, 01:22:39 PM

That was painful to read.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 30, 2011, 01:27:57 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2011, 01:20:32 PM

I guess we'll agree to disagree. Personally I like just getting to know a girl, doing things, getting comfortable around each other...then if anything happens I have already laid the proper groundwork. I used the car analogy already but dating might as well be farming, truth be told. You plant the seed and watch things grow. Too much water, too early of a kiss, and things die or get awkward.

I'm at a point with my girlfriend that we're just compatible. We're completely comfortable around each other and hang out all the time, although not enough to push things/get tired of each other.

That doesn't seem... normal. Whatever works for you personally though. And things probably don't awkward or die because of an early kiss, they probably get awkward or die because I think you're making too much out of these things. Every girl or relationship is different and moves at a different pace. Some girls get fucked on the first night and others get a kiss good night. Don't be afraid of moving early in the relationship. It's called passion, son. Girls like it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 30, 2011, 01:58:34 PM

Yeah, I've had first dates where I ended the night with anything from a 5 minute makeout to a Drinky-patented sidehug. I feel that you should at least try to kiss the girls by dates 2 or 3, since I found that if I don't, the girls would lose interest and things would die down. Even with the more conservative girls (hell, me and jesus freak were on her couch making out on date 2... sadly it didn't get much farther than that :( ).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on November 30, 2011, 02:02:51 PM

Quote

I used the car analogy already but dating might as well be farming, truth be told.

newsfeed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on November 30, 2011, 02:14:41 PM

Asian girls aren't real people though, so it's cool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on November 30, 2011, 02:58:45 PM

i was forced into being the "take it slow" guy with my current girl. skyped for about 5 months after I met her (she lives in euroland) before the first kiss. it sucked at first, but it really helped me make sure I was getting into something good. Built up a lot of trust and horniness over that time. The talks were getting ridiculous, like 5, 6 hours, but going by like a minute.

but hey, now i'm getting weed and anal for christmas, so what can i say? (just joking around...i'm getting other, more normal stuff too and there's a lot more to it than that.)

of course, until next summer we're gonna be doing small visits with about 2 months in between each one, so I'm not quite out of the woods yet. Doesn't feel like a drag at all though and we're both very confident in things working out. I kinda like not having to see her all the time and she likes taking it slow too, since we both had some shitstorm "would rather be alone forever" relationships before meeting each other.

If it doesn't, oh well, at least it was interesting.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on November 30, 2011, 03:06:31 PM

Yeah but that's not normal

it's not like you had the option of trying to kiss her on your second skype date

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on November 30, 2011, 03:08:52 PM

yeah and that's not how it would've gone down, had she lived here.

But we could've given each other a hot, sexy, masturbation slideshow :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on November 30, 2011, 03:10:12 PM

Guys, I wasn't kidding. I literally shook my girlfriend's hand on the second date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Joe Molotov on November 30, 2011, 03:18:17 PM

Quote from: tiesto on November 30, 2011, 11:39:05 AM

The gamer chick was weird, she only dated girls in the past and "was trying guys out" now... she lives in an apartment with a dude who pays for it completely... no job, dropped out of college b/c she was addicted to FF11... yeah, no.

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 30, 2011, 03:26:04 PM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on November 30, 2011, 03:10:12 PM

Guys, I wasn't kidding. I literally shook my girlfriend's hand on the second date.

:(

In high school after one of my first dates the girl asked if she could come back to my house (hint #1) and while we were on my bed watching tv she asked for a backrub (hint #2). Then when I walked her to her car she kept stalling and telling me she didn't want to go home (hint #3) so what did I do? I gave her a kiss on the cheek and sent her home. I wasn't a virgin but I was still an idiot when it came to male to female relations and picking up signals.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

She called me about an hour later and told me her parents weren't going to be home that night. I went over and fucked her silly until we fell asleep around 6am. I got that hint!

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on November 30, 2011, 03:41:53 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on November 30, 2011, 03:26:04 PM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on November 30, 2011, 03:10:12 PM
Guys, I wasn't kidding. I literally shook my girlfriend's hand on the second date.
:(

In high school after one of my first dates the girl asked if she could come back to my house (hint #1) and while we were on my bed watching tv she asked for a backrub (hint #2). Then when I walked her to her car she kept stalling and telling me she didn't want to go home (hint #3) so what did I do? I gave her a kiss on the cheek and sent her home. I wasn't a virgin but I was still an idiot when it came to male to female relations and picking up signals.

spoiler (click to show/hide)
She called me about an hour later and told me her parents weren't going to be home that night. I went over and fucked her silly until we fell asleep around 6am. I got that hint!
[close]

Well, she's my girlfriend now thankfully. Rather than being completely turned away by my obliviousness she found it cute and called me on it. *shrug*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 30, 2011, 03:45:19 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 30, 2011, 03:36:38 PM

I hung out with this Kiwi chick in Cairo. We went all over the city and saw lots of cool shit. Back in the hostel, she asked if I would give her a backrub. Things might have gone well if an old dude hadn't checked in right then.

You should have told the old dude to get some lotion and help out

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on November 30, 2011, 03:41:53 PM

Well, she's my girlfriend now thankfully. Rather than being completely turned away by my obliviousness she found it cute and called me on it. *shrug*

that's good. i think most women in their 20's would be frustrated more than anything.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on November 30, 2011, 03:54:19 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 30, 2011, 03:36:38 PM

I hung out with this Kiwi chick in Cairo. We went all over the city and saw lots of cool shit. Back in the hostel, she asked if I would give her a backrub. Things might have gone well if an old dude hadn't checked in right then.

That's why you man up and get a hotel room. Hostels are for dirty poors.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 30, 2011, 03:55:22 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 30, 2011, 03:36:38 PM

I hung out with this Kiwi chick in Cairo. We went all over the city and saw lots of cool shit. Back in the hostel, she asked if I would give her a backrub. Things might have gone well if an old dude hadn't checked in right then.

Really? Sounds like things were about to get even better at that point! :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on November 30, 2011, 04:56:59 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on November 30, 2011, 03:45:19 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 30, 2011, 03:36:38 PM
I hung out with this Kiwi chick in Cairo. We went all over the city and saw lots of cool shit. Back in the hostel, she asked if I would give her a backrub. Things might have gone well if an old dude hadn't checked in right then.
You should have told the old dude to get some lotion and help out

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on November 30, 2011, 03:41:53 PM
Well, she's my girlfriend now thankfully. Rather than being completely turned away by my obliviousness she found it cute and called me on it. *shrug*
that's good. i think most women in their 20's would be frustrated more than anything.

I wouldn't get away with this shit if I weren't such a stud. 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2011, 05:01:35 PM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on November 30, 2011, 03:10:12 PM

Guys, I wasn't kidding. I literally shook my girlfriend's hand on the second date.

I shook my best female friend's hand after her sweet 16 party. Then I shook her dad's hand. He likes me to this day

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on November 30, 2011, 05:04:18 PM

Quote from: tiesto on November 30, 2011, 11:39:05 AM

The gamer chick was weird, she only dated girls in the past and "was trying guys out" now... she lives in an apartment with a dude who pays for it completely... no job, dropped out of college b/c she was addicted to FF11... yeah, no.

Sounds awesome to me except the lives in an apartment with a guy who is paying for her rent because that sounds like she's giving him favors or he wants some and that's only going to cause problems down the line.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on November 30, 2011, 05:30:08 PM

None of that sounds awesome.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on November 30, 2011, 07:53:49 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2011, 05:01:35 PM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on November 30, 2011, 03:10:12 PM
Guys, I wasn't kidding. I literally shook my girlfriend's hand on the second date.

I shook my best female friend's hand after her sweet 16 party. Then I shook her dad's hand. He likes me to this day

did either of them suck your dick? no? then you lost

someday you'll escape from mom's shadow, just not yet

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 01, 2011, 10:20:15 AM

:lol :lol PD

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fomalhaut on December 01, 2011, 10:27:12 AM

this thread has me :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on December 01, 2011, 10:49:06 AM

If you need any more proof that women are devious and pieces of shit

Poor tiesto : (

http://articles.businessinsider.com/2011-11-29/news/30453560_1_match-com-roommates-japanese-restaurant

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 01, 2011, 11:01:27 AM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on November 30, 2011, 05:30:08 PM

None of that sounds awesome.

"gamer" weighs in that heavily I guess.

hate to generalize, but the gamer girls I've met in real life have either been really ugly or completely fucking self-absorbed in their identity, annoying me to death within 5 minutes of talking...like an extroverted asperger's case. the good ones must be super rare.

then there's the weird gamestop clerk that I was nice to in order to get her to take back my opened 3DS (buyer's remorse), who remembered my voice 5 months later when I called to see if they had used 3DS' for my nephew, called me by my name, then grilled me about looking for another 3DS...all after me only saying "do you guys have used 3DS systems in stock?" after her speech, I managed to say "um...don't do that" before hanging up :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Joe Molotov on December 01, 2011, 11:10:04 AM

Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 01, 2011, 11:50:33 AM

I've never met a cool full on gamer chick. I'm sure they exist. But the ones I've met have been ugly, crazy or both. The best ones I've found are the ones that I turned on to games after we met.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on December 01, 2011, 11:50:48 AM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on November 30, 2011, 03:54:19 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 30, 2011, 03:36:38 PM
I hung out with this Kiwi chick in Cairo. We went all over the city and saw lots of cool shit. Back in the hostel, she asked if I would give her a backrub. Things might have gone well if an old dude hadn't checked in right then.

That's why you man up and get a hotel room. Hostels are for dirty poors.

You can get a private in a hostel too.

Thats what I did when I met a lady friend just spend two days fucking :)

2009 :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Inspector Thatcher on December 01, 2011, 10:46:02 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on December 01, 2011, 01:11:59 PM

I'll never understand the gamer girl obsession. My girlfriend likes to play Bioshock and is looking forward to the next Max Payne? pshhhh I'd rather have a chick who can give a mean bj.

:o

*puts down xbox controller*

Tell me more, you oracle you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on December 01, 2011, 10:54:28 PM

For the most part, a serious relationship means giving up a lot of gaming time. The dream is that a gamer girl will require minimal maintenance, allow the guy to continue playing games all the time, AND give mean BJs on demand in between Skyrim sessions.

It's a pretty dismal dream that I'd imagine is very rarely realized, even. My younger brother is crazy about this shit - will ignore girls who rank the Final Fantasies and Zeldas in the wrong order, for example. I have tried and failed to get him to think out that box a little but no luck yet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 01, 2011, 11:14:09 PM

My wife will play Katamari, Bubble Bobble and Rock Band from time to time, but other than that she doesn't give a shit about gaming whatsoever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 01, 2011, 11:39:53 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on December 01, 2011, 11:14:09 PM

My wife will play Katamari, Bubble Bobble and Rock Band from time to time, but other than that she doesn't give a shit about gaming whatsoever.

How can you possibly relate to her, given the value and importance of gaming, something that defines you as a human being?!?!!

/gaf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on December 01, 2011, 11:39:54 PM

I find people who're genuinely clueless about games to be more attractive or something. I dunno. Anytime I talk about games it's like ":ninja - I might have heard about that axeblocks thing." Because of how much I know compared to anyone else. If I didn't filter myself it's all "OH FUCK SON XBOX LOOP 2 MEGAFLOPPZ CUNMCUMMM." I post here and on gaf as a release for this meganerd shit. So when someone doesn't know/care, it can continue to be my thing; my dark secret hobby :shh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 01, 2011, 11:50:26 PM

Samesies. No one knows I'm as hardcore as I am.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on December 01, 2011, 11:59:36 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on December 01, 2011, 11:14:09 PM

My wife will play Katamari, Bubble Bobble and Rock Band from time to time, but other than that she doesn't give a shit about gaming whatsoever.

yup. my wife plays titan quest and the diablo titles, and every other game might as well not exist. i vastly prefer it that way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on December 02, 2011, 12:01:13 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 01, 2011, 11:50:33 AM

I've never met a cool full on gamer chick. I'm sure they exist. But the ones I've met have been ugly, crazy or both. The best ones I've found are the ones that I turned on to games after we met.

i know quite a few attractive -- some extremely so -- gamer chicas. you know what? they annoy me just like their male hardcore gamer counterparts. adult conversational repertoires, please!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 02, 2011, 12:37:53 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 01, 2011, 11:39:53 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on December 01, 2011, 11:14:09 PM
My wife will play Katamari, Bubble Bobble and Rock Band from time to time, but other than that she doesn't give a shit about gaming whatsoever.

How can you possibly relate to her, given the value and importance of gaming, something that defines you as a human being?!?!!

/gaf

Seriously, if you didn't know me online, you'd probably not guess that I'm a huge fan of games and giant robots. It doesn't define me nor do I desire to push it on anyone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on December 02, 2011, 12:51:06 AM

that is until you build that gundam in your front yard

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 02, 2011, 12:55:12 AM

I never understood the argument. I'm a big fantasy nerd, I'm a bigger StarCraft nerd. I may plan my nap schedules so I can stay up and watch people play a videogame professionally at 5AM on weekends, but that doesn't define me as a person or have any hold over my everyday interactions. It's just something...I do.

If a girl finds my hobbies to be odd...eh; in no way will it effect any personal relationship I have now or in the future. To be perfectly honest I can see why someone would find it odd. I think the ability to view things from another person's perspective is a rare trait amongst nerds.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 02, 2011, 12:56:47 AM

I know my wife doesn't find my hobbies interesting, but it's never mattered. They're my hobbies, I don't expect anyone else to like them. It's kind of nice that way, to be honest.

We do share a love of film, music and literature, though. Awfully nice to have someone who wants to see the same movies and go to the same concerts that I do.

Quote from: etiolate on December 02, 2011, 12:51:06 AM

that is until you build that gundam in your front yard

Quiet you!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on December 02, 2011, 01:14:53 AM

basically, find a woman who likes Dragula and Adventures in Babysitting?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on December 02, 2011, 03:37:22 AM

Quote from: Cormacaroni on December 01, 2011, 10:54:28 PM

For the most part, a serious relationship means giving up a lot of gaming time. The dream is that a gamer girl will require minimal maintenance, allow the guy to continue playing games all the time, AND give mean BJs on demand in between Skyrim sessions.

It's a pretty dismal dream that I'd imagine is very rarely realized, even. My younger brother is crazy about this shit - will ignore girls who rank the Final Fantasies and Zeldas in the wrong order, for example. I have tried and failed to get him to think out that box a little but no luck yet.

I think it's more the idea (whether it exists of not) that you can find someone who would enjoy playing games together; like how you can enjoy watching movies together. Instead of playing games being regulated to this "my hobby thing" which is only done on "my hobby time" and not during "relationship bonding time". I have plenty of "relationship bonding time" with my guy friends while playing games, I'm sure it can be done in a dating relationship as well.

I tried to get a girl to play Williams Pinball Hall of Fame with me. I mean who the fuck hates on the best pinball game ever made. It's fun for everyone! I wanted to share the awesomeness of the game with her. She was like "ehh, videogame zzzz"

This is why a girl with some slight interest in videogames gets a lot of plus points in the pros/cons analysis of date or dump.

It's also stupid how society is like "Hey mr. hetrosexual guy, it's cool to find a girl you can go to movies together with, go to concerts together with, listen to music together with, etc.... but gaming? That's man-time baby! you don't do that with a girl". Games are still scene as outcasts of entertainment fields, which is silly since they are like THE NUMBER ONE MONEY MAKING FORM OF ENTERTAINMENT ENJOYED BY AMERICANS at the moment.

tl dr; Mr & Mrs Gundam should be able to play split-screen Gundam Versus Extreme against each other for fun this weekend.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on December 02, 2011, 06:50:36 AM

Oh, if only I could find a girl who works out with kettlebells, so I could spend EVEN MORE OF MY LIFE WITH HER. BONDING.

Yeah ok, I'd probably like it if my wife wasn't so derisory about games but really, she'd be derisory about anything I spent an irrational amount of time and money on to no material end. Comics, fitness, cooking, basketball, whatever i'm into, she's against on the fundamental principle that it is not productive for her. It's a very mercenary attitude on her part, but one I understand completely and have immense amounts of fun trying to defuse and circumvent. This provides me with endless challenge because she is fundamentally correct and I cannot possibly justify spending the amount of time, money and effort on the above as I do. I am of course derisory about all her hobbies, while still encouraging to do them all so we get out of each other's face once in a while. This is how marriage works, really.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on December 02, 2011, 07:58:02 AM

In the end its all about love and having an open mind, take things as they come.and dont get stuck up on how things should be according to others, movies etc.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other
Post by: Barry Egan on December 02, 2011, 08:50:39 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on December 02, 2011, 03:37:22 AM

Quote from: Cormacaroni on December 01, 2011, 10:54:28 PM
For the most part, a serious relationship means giving up a lot of gaming time. The dream is that a gamer girl will require minimal maintenance, allow the guy to continue playing games all the time, AND give mean BJs on demand in between Skyrim sessions.

It's a pretty dismal dream that I'd imagine is very rarely realized, even. My younger brother is crazy about this shit - will ignore girls who rank the Final Fantasies and Zeldas in the wrong order, for example. I have tried and failed to get him to think out that box a little but no luck yet.

I think it's more the idea (whether it exists of not) that you can find someone who would enjoy playing games together; like how you can enjoy watching movies together. Instead of playing games being regulated to this "my hobby thing" which is only done on "my hobby time" and not during "relationship bonding time". I have plenty of "relationship bonding time" with my guy friends while playing games, I'm sure it can be done in a dating relationship as well.

I tried to get a girl to play Williams Pinball Hall of Fame with me. I mean who the fuck hates on the best pinball game ever made. It's fun for everyone! I wanted to share the awesomeness of the game with her. She was like "ehh, videogame zzzz"

This is why a girl with some slight interest in videogames gets a lot of plus points in the pros/cons analysis of date or dump.

It's also stupid how society is like "Hey mr. hetrosexual guy, it's cool to find a girl you can go to movies together with, go to concerts together with, listen to music together with, etc.... but gaming? That's man-time baby! you don't do that with a girl". Games are still scene as outcasts of entertainment fields, which is silly since they are like THE NUMBER ONE MONEY MAKING FORM OF ENTERTAINMENT ENJOYED BY AMERICANS at the moment.

tl dr; Mr & Mrs Gundam should be able to play split-screen Gundam Versus Extreme against each other for fun this weekend.

Imagine if a girl you had chemistry with dumped you because you weren't excited to attend her knitting circle once a week.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on December 02, 2011, 08:59:55 AM

Quote from: Cormacaroni on December 01, 2011, 10:54:28 PM

For the most part, a serious relationship means giving up a lot of gaming time. The dream is that a gamer girl will require minimal maintenance, allow the guy to continue playing games all the time, AND give mean BJs on demand in between Skyrim sessions.

It's a pretty dismal dream that I'd imagine is very rarely realized, even. My younger brother is crazy about this shit - will ignore girls who rank the Final Fantasies and Zeldas in the wrong order, for example. I have tried and failed to get him to think out that box a little but no luck yet.

It's also easy to find a girl who has other hobbies so you don't have to give up gaming time... I am one of those people that needs his "me time", but I've had some reasonably successful relationships with non gamers who have other hobbies they keep busy with (i.e. reading). I don't go out of my way to seek gamer girls, though a number of them tend to like me. The only dealbreaker is if the girl is actively turned off by my hobbies. I definitely appreciate it when a girl at least feigns interest in stuff I like, too (more so music than games).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on December 02, 2011, 09:18:14 AM

I need some "me time" too, so I combine it with gaming. My girl knows and respects that, even though she would rather spend that time together.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cheebo on December 02, 2011, 09:24:24 AM

Like Mupepe I have never met a gamer girl who wasn't crazy and/or ugly. It's not worth it. And I will never get the obsession a lot of geeks have in finding. The only game my girlfriend ever plays is The Sims. Fine with me. I play Skyrim when she is off doing her own thing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 02, 2011, 09:37:50 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 01, 2011, 11:50:33 AM

I've never met a cool full on gamer chick. I'm sure they exist. But the ones I've met have been ugly, crazy or both. The best ones I've found are the ones that I turned on to games after we met.

Quote from: Linkzg on December 01, 2011, 11:39:54 PM

I find people who're genuinely clueless about games to be more attractive or something. I dunno. Anytime I talk about games it's like ":ninja - I might have heard about that axeblocks thing." Because of how much I know compared to anyone else. If I didn't filter myself it's all "OH FUCK SON XBOX LOOP 2 MEGAFLOPPZ CUNMCUMMM." I post here and on gaf as a release for this meganerd shit. So when someone doesn't know/care, it can continue to be my thing; my dark secret hobby :shh

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on December 01, 2011, 11:50:26 PM

Samesies. No one knows I'm as hardcore as I am.

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on December 02, 2011, 12:37:53 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 01, 2011, 11:39:53 PM
Quote from: Mr. Gundam on December 01, 2011, 11:14:09 PM
My wife will play Katamari, Bubble Bobble and Rock Band from time to time, but other than that she doesn't give a shit about gaming whatsoever.

How can you possibly relate to her, given the value and importance of gaming, something that defines you as a human being?!?!!

/gaf

Seriously, if you didn't know me online, you'd probably not guess that I'm a huge fan of games and giant robots. It doesn't define me nor do I desire to push it on anyone.

oh man, me too @ all of that. so we're all semi-closeted nerds who are somewhat interested in the idea of taking women's gamer virginity...I'm not sure if that one is in the DSM yet or not :-\ I mean, the jig is up when I bring them to my place-- gotta explain why I have two PS3s. But I'm cool about it, not all in their face and overexcited talking about games. I frame it as "I'm saving money by having a modded ps3, so I have money for more important things." Works every time. I spend money on my girls, so they know it's not just me being a cheap ass.

but when I actually think about getting a girl into gaming, the reality doesn't seem that great. I've always liked single player games. Fighting games are my only MP games and it's not like they'll ever catch up with me on that, considering I have a 20 year head start. It would suck if they always wanted to play and I had to let them win and all that. BUT there are girls who like to watch me play and that's actually fun...they're asking questions and cheering me on and stuff...that sounds so incredibly sad when I write it out :lol

Quote from: tiesto on December 02, 2011, 08:59:55 AM

It's also easy to find a girl who has other hobbies so you don't have to give up gaming time... I am one of those people that needs his "me time", but I've had some reasonably successful relationships with non gamers who have other hobbies they keep busy with (i.e. reading). I don't go out of my way to seek gamer girls, though a number of them tend to like me. The only dealbreaker is if the girl is actively turned off by my hobbies. I definitely appreciate it when a girl at least feigns interest in stuff I like, too (more so music than games).

yep-- the optimal thing is to find someone who can at least respect the fact that you have this hobby and has her own, so you can both do your own thing at times.

either way, you aren't gonna be able to man-cave/poop-sock epic RPGs all the time when you're taken, but I cringe when I see people say "I've got a girlfriend now, so I don't get to play games anymore." Or even people who have a wife and kids-- if you love a hobby and have found the right girl, it should be able to survive that transition in some form, eh?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on December 02, 2011, 09:58:20 AM

I'm single and can't even manage to find time to catass epic RPGs anymore :'(

Can't wait for Christmas break, I've got 2 weeks off and will be playing Xenoblade all throughout.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 02, 2011, 10:43:07 AM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on December 02, 2011, 12:01:13 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 01, 2011, 11:50:33 AM
I've never met a cool full on gamer chick. I'm sure they exist. But the ones I've met have been ugly, crazy or both. The best ones I've found are the ones that I turned on to games after we met.

i know quite a few attractive -- some extremely so -- gamer chicas. you know what? they annoy me just like their male hardcore gamer counterparts. adult conversational repertoires, please!

That's another reason I've never been interested in finding a gamer girl. I rarely post in our own gaming forum because "gaming talk" annoys me. It's a mirror of political talk but about something far less important. I just want to enjoy my hobby, not argue about which pixels are rendered better. Being able to discuss real life experiences in a manner not reminiscent of an aspergers sufferer is far more important on my proverbial SO checklist.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on December 02, 2011, 11:25:31 AM

Much like Don Flaminco's lady friends I like to watch rather than play when it comes to certain types of games. japanese rpgs or adventure/puzzle games for instance, which are often popular among gamergrrlz. But I don't really need a girlfriend to do this with, as my flatmates, friends and my brothers all play games.

If I got to cherry pick every aspect of a potential partner I would much rather they had a productive hobby like dancing, knitting or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 02, 2011, 11:26:57 AM

My wife is a hardcore Steven Sondheim fangirl and loves Broadway musicals in general. We've all got our nerdy obsessions.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 02, 2011, 12:34:41 PM

My friends are into boardgames. A few play some PC games (Civ, Left 4 Dead, etc.), but we never talk about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 02, 2011, 01:37:09 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on December 02, 2011, 12:32:57 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 02, 2011, 10:43:07 AM
That's another reason I've never been interested in finding a gamer girl. I rarely post in our own gaming forum because "gaming talk" annoys me. It's a mirror of political talk but about something far less important. I just want to enjoy my hobby, not argue about which pixels are rendered better. Being able to discuss real life experiences in a manner not reminiscent of an aspergers sufferer is far more important on my proverbial SO checklist.

But like politics, it really depends on the people you talk about games with. 99% of my friends aren't hardcore gamers and the ones who are don't talk about it much, and when we do its just discussing if whichever game is good or not to try out. So just recommendations. Y'all get all my nerdy game talk, well you guys and GAF to a lesser extent.

Eh. I don't like to talk about either IRL. The only time I usually talk about games is when a friend and I are having a gaming session or something. My wife's cousin is the type of guy who loves to talk about games everywhere. On his 18th birthday we took him to a club. All he wanted to do was talk about games. At a fucking club. And he's the one who begged us to take him clubbing. I didn't want to be there and I sure as shit didn't want to be there talking about games.

Very few people I know IRL can talk about games on a normal level without going fanboy insane and even with those people we usually have better things to talk about. It just usually doesn't come up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on December 02, 2011, 01:46:48 PM

I don't really like talking about games IRL that much, I have one friend who has similar tastes in games as me and we play a lot of fighters together, that's about it. I wish I had some friends more into board/video games though, most of my friends are of the 'sit around and drink' variety. Which isn't a bad thing but it gets kinda boring, especially when you're approaching 30.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on December 02, 2011, 02:29:54 PM

I talk about games irl, and movies, and music, and food, and politics. What else are you supposed to talk about with people? I'm not really into small talk, myself.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 02, 2011, 02:32:37 PM

Quote from: tiesto on December 02, 2011, 01:46:48 PM

I don't really like talking about games IRL that much, I have one friend who has similar tastes in games as me and we play a lot of fighters together, that's about it. I wish I had some friends more into board/video games though, most of my friends are of the 'sit around and drink' variety. Which isn't a bad thing but it gets kinda boring, especially when you're approaching 30.

My friends and I talk about beer a whole lot, but that's because we're really into craft and have started brewing our own the past six months. We're also big board game players. Lots of Cataan, Carcassione, Zombies, etc. We've even made a few games and tweek them from time to time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on December 02, 2011, 02:35:24 PM

My friends and I talk about SPORTS

*slams beer*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 02, 2011, 02:36:47 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on December 02, 2011, 02:35:24 PM

My friends and I talk about SPORTS

*slams beer*

We tend to talk more about screwing each other over in Fantasy Football more than actual sports, but yeah, sports as well. We also tailgate a lot for University of Washington and Seahawks games.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 02, 2011, 02:41:10 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on December 02, 2011, 02:29:54 PM

I talk about games irl, and movies, and music, and food, and politics. What else are you supposed to talk about with people? I'm not really into small talk, myself.

There are plenty of other things to talk about. I don't mind most subjects but I only mentioned games and politics because they both tend to be extremely polarizing. It's just that one is a really stupid subject to get into a heated debate about. My friends and I talk about movies, food, cars, relationships, what's generally going on in our life, gardening, home improvement, etc. Basically any of the dozens of subjects that have to do with my life. I just usually find there are far better things I want to discuss other than speculating about the Xbox 720 and what games will be localized. usually when games come up it's nostalgic conversations about how obsessed we were when we were younger.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlueTsunami on December 02, 2011, 02:49:15 PM

Having watched Peep Show (inspired by Dobby) I want that significant other I can just lay and bed with all day, drink bourbon and watch whole boxsets of TV shows. But that's man child fantasy x1000. A chick that's vibrating at my wavelength at least, doesn't need to be exactly like me... no wait, I never want to meet someone exactly like me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on December 02, 2011, 02:56:42 PM

you can have sex with yourself any time you want

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 02, 2011, 02:58:00 PM

GAME TALK IRL ONLY IF SOMEONE IS PLAYING A GAME PLZ

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on December 02, 2011, 02:58:30 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on December 02, 2011, 02:29:54 PM

I talk about games irl, and movies, and music, and food, and politics. What else are you supposed to talk about with people? I'm not really into small talk, myself.

people, office politics, gossip, shared experience, stories, personal events and history, the internet, popular culture observations, our collective dislike of furries -- there's a SHITLOAD of stuff to talk about if you aren't an insular goon that demands all conversations revolve around your hobbies/interests.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 02, 2011, 03:01:04 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on December 02, 2011, 02:58:30 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on December 02, 2011, 02:29:54 PM
I talk about games irl, and movies, and music, and food, and politics. What else are you supposed to talk about with people? I'm not really into small talk, myself.

people, office politics, gossip, shared experience, stories, personal events and history, the internet, popular culture observations, our collective dislike of furries -- there's a SHITLOAD of stuff to talk about if you aren't an insular goon that demands all conversations revolve around your hobbies/interests.

i like talking about the universe and the stars

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 02, 2011, 03:02:09 PM

:lol Van Cruncheon

I was trying not to be a dick about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on December 02, 2011, 03:21:21 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 02, 2011, 02:41:10 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on December 02, 2011, 02:29:54 PM
I talk about games irl, and movies, and music, and food, and politics. What else are you supposed to talk about with people? I'm not really into small talk, myself.
There are plenty of other things to talk about. I don't mind most subjects but I only mentioned games and politics because they both tend to be extremely polarizing. It's just that one is a really stupid subject to get into a heated debate about. My friends and I talk about movies, food, cars, relationships, what's generally going on in our life, gardening, home improvement, etc. Basically any of the dozens of subjects that have to do with my life. I just usually find there are far better things I want to discuss other than speculating about the Xbox 720 and what games will be localized. usually when games come up it's nostalgic conversations about how obsessed we were when we were younger.

I have a certain friend who loves to bring up politics. You guys can guess exactly who he supports, I'm sure (I have alluded to him in the past on this board - the dude who likes to dress up like a pirate for fun).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 02, 2011, 03:24:46 PM

:lol

Yeah and that's why I don't engage in it. I have an in law who always wants to talk politics and is so misinformed. He watches Fox news and throws out stupid completely fabricated statistics and facts. It takes all my will to avoid arguing and sometimes I can't resist just correcting him on some things

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 02, 2011, 04:41:38 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on December 02, 2011, 04:03:40 PM

can we add religion as a topic not worth discussing 99% of the time too? It will always involve distinguished mentally-challenged unless its two people who don't get butthurt over it.

what if someone's car is vandalized because it has a darwin fish on it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 02, 2011, 04:43:41 PM

Religion's pretty much just a really boring hobby, so I'd assume it was included.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 02, 2011, 04:46:26 PM

Religion is a book club you go to every Sunday and read the same book every week

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 02, 2011, 04:55:18 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 02, 2011, 04:46:26 PM

Religion is a book club you go to every Sunday and read the same book every week

Except you pick your favorite parts and refuse to accept the bad parts.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on December 02, 2011, 04:58:36 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on December 02, 2011, 04:55:18 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 02, 2011, 04:46:26 PM
Religion is a book club you go to every Sunday and read the same book every week

Except you pick your favorite parts and refuse to accept the bad parts.

Sounds like Lost fans

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlueTsunami on December 02, 2011, 05:12:25 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on December 02, 2011, 04:58:36 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on December 02, 2011, 04:55:18 PM
Quote from: Mupepe on December 02, 2011, 04:46:26 PM
Religion is a book club you go to every Sunday and read the same book every week

Except you pick your favorite parts and refuse to accept the bad parts.

Sounds like Lost fans

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 02, 2011, 07:42:23 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on December 02, 2011, 04:58:36 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on December 02, 2011, 04:55:18 PM
Quote from: Mupepe on December 02, 2011, 04:46:26 PM
Religion is a book club you go to every Sunday and read the same book every week

Except you pick your favorite parts and refuse to accept the bad parts.

Sounds like Lost fans

Suck.A.Dick

I take the good with the bad on Lost

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 02, 2011, 07:45:28 PM

I'm trying to imagine Prole gossiping

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on December 02, 2011, 09:41:05 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 02, 2011, 07:42:23 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on December 02, 2011, 04:58:36 PM
Quote from: Stringer Bell on December 02, 2011, 04:55:18 PM
Quote from: Mupepe on December 02, 2011, 04:46:26 PM
Religion is a book club you go to every Sunday and read the same book every week

Except you pick your favorite parts and refuse to accept the bad parts.

Sounds like Lost fans
Suck.A.Dick

I take the good with the bad on Lost

:rofl :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 02, 2011, 11:19:56 PM

The older I get, the less I talk about games. In fact, the only time I talk gaming is online. I especially don't talk about games to women. There are so many twentysomething manchildren who live and die by Xbox and PlayStation that I fear getting put into that category. General internet nerdery is somewhat socially acceptable or at least not totally revolting to women my age.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on December 03, 2011, 01:07:47 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 02, 2011, 07:45:28 PM

I'm trying to imagine Prole gossiping

jesus christ how little you know me after all these years

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 03, 2011, 01:12:35 AM

I just can't see it!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on December 03, 2011, 01:25:15 AM

smh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 03, 2011, 01:57:45 AM

what about Pumpkins

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on December 03, 2011, 02:15:06 AM

I won't date a Republican, because I don't date idiots. I'll hatefuck a Libertarian for a couple of weeks, but then I'm all "sorry baby, the market has spoken and I am spending my capital elsewhere"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on December 03, 2011, 06:01:46 AM

I don't mind talking about gaming, but I don't like the way most people talk about videogames.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on December 03, 2011, 06:48:00 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on December 03, 2011, 02:15:06 AM

I won't date a Republican, because I don't date idiots. I'll hatefuck a Libertarian for a couple of weeks, but then I'm all "sorry baby, the market has spoken and I am spending my capital elsewhere"

In Uni I think one of my fantasies was to sleep with some hack girl from a wealthy sorority.

So close.

I came so close.

:'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: drew on December 03, 2011, 07:32:38 AM

Quote from: etiolate on December 03, 2011, 06:01:46 AM

I don't mind talking about gaming, but I don't like the way most people talk about videogames.

I'M GONNA GET SKYRIM CAUSE THAT COMMERCIAL WAS DOPE....WHAT DO YOU MEAN THERE'S NO MULTI THATS GAY

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on December 03, 2011, 08:00:45 AM

phish :-X

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 03, 2011, 09:28:30 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on December 03, 2011, 01:48:34 AM

I don't think I ever discuss gaming unless someone else brings it up. It never even occurs to me to do so.

The subjects I have to consciously avoid on dates or when meeting new people are politics, sports and horror. I'll get into sports if the girl shows a genuine interest, but the other two are no-nos for me. The issue with horror is that after working on a horror novel for a few years, I have a tendency to gush about what I found effective in different movies/stories, and most girls just aren't down with that. "Creepy" is probably the worst label you can ever have.

gush, by all means. if they can't understand why you like something and jump immediately to "ohhh mah gawd, so creepy" then bail the fuck out. I'd rather be alone forever than be with someone who is dumb and paranoid enough to jump to shitty conclusions about me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on December 03, 2011, 12:21:04 PM

I know a few girls who would be super turned on by this conversation.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 03, 2011, 01:20:40 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on December 03, 2011, 12:10:29 PM

Quote from: Don Flamenco on December 03, 2011, 09:28:30 AM
gush, by all means. if they can't understand why you like something and jump immediately to "ohhh mah gawd, so creepy" then bail the fuck out. I'd rather be alone forever than be with someone who is dumb and paranoid enough to jump to shitty conclusions about me.

"So you like Alien?"
"Yeah, that film is completely brilliant! The creature is terrifying, but it's also hypnotic in a way because of its sexual undertones."
"What?"
"You know, the way the alien gets implanted in a human is like forced oral rape. And the way it bursts out of the chest is like sexual penetration in reverse. In a way, Ripley is like a rape survivor. And that's not even to mention that the alien's head looks like a giant... where are you going?"

well, yeah, you just don't bust that out on the first date. gotta have some tact...plus "Ripley is like a rape survivor" should be the first sentence to establish some sympathetic basis for what you're saying. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 03, 2011, 10:27:35 PM

Quote from: Don Flamenco on December 03, 2011, 09:28:30 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on December 03, 2011, 01:48:34 AM
I don't think I ever discuss gaming unless someone else brings it up. It never even occurs to me to do so.

The subjects I have to consciously avoid on dates or when meeting new people are politics, sports and horror. I'll get into sports if the girl shows a genuine interest, but the other two are no-nos for me. The issue with horror is that after working on a horror novel for a few years, I have a tendency to gush about what I found effective in different movies/stories, and most girls just aren't down with that. "Creepy" is probably the worst label you can ever have.

gush, by all means. if they can't understand why you like something and jump immediately to "ohhh mah gawd, so creepy" then bail the fuck out. I'd rather be alone forever than be with someone who is dumb and paranoid enough to jump to shitty conclusions about me.

There are a lot of women that rely on snap judgements and if you want a relationship outside of your calloused right hand, you might have to cut down (read: eliminate) discussion of hardcore nerdery unless you know she's down or will tolerate it.

Not speaking from personal experience but I do know of women that drop a dode who admitted to playing Xbox 360 on the weekends. I guess she thought it was too immature or some shit.

To be fair, I kind of do the same. Any woman that owns the complete set of Sex and the City and wants me to be the Mr. Big to her Carrie will result in me backing the fuck away. It's happened a few times btw :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Inspector Thatcher on December 05, 2011, 09:26:04 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on December 03, 2011, 10:27:35 PM

To be fair, I kind of do the same. Any woman that owns the complete set of Sex and the City and wants me to be the Mr. Big to her Carrie will result in me backing the fuck away. It's happened a few times btw :'(

I apologize on behalf of my gender (for expecting you to fulfil a fictional role).

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There are much better shows to own complete box-sets of, anyhow.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on December 06, 2011, 03:12:21 AM

chase and I broke up because he wasn't willing to work with the fact that he was working so much and seeing me very little and he felt like a bad boyfriend AND he wasn't falling for me like I was for him

so happy fucking shit sucking holidays everyone. fuck life and everyone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on December 06, 2011, 03:51:40 AM

Quote from: ZephyrFate on December 06, 2011, 03:12:21 AM

chase and I broke up because he wasn't willing to work with the fact that he was working so much and seeing me very little and he felt like a bad boyfriend AND he wasn't falling for me like I was for him

so happy fucking shit sucking holidays everyone. fuck life and everyone.

Men are assholes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on December 06, 2011, 04:05:24 AM

you guys don't give a shit about me so i dunno why im saying anything, but i need to vent somewhere

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on December 06, 2011, 04:36:22 AM

Zephyr, you're a young and smart succesful lawyer, everything will be ok.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on December 06, 2011, 06:09:22 AM

:lol poor bebpo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on December 06, 2011, 08:51:39 AM

Nothing really new with dating... talking to some veterinarian chick who lists one of her hobbies as "going down to the shooting range"... this could be interesting!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on December 06, 2011, 10:32:19 AM

Quote from: ZephyrFate on December 06, 2011, 03:12:21 AM

chase and I broke up because he wasn't willing to work with the fact that he was working so much and seeing me very little and he felt like a bad boyfriend AND he wasn't falling for me like I was for him

so happy fucking shit sucking holidays everyone. fuck life and everyone.

:rofl The other guy I know was crying for the same reason. HES NOT PAYING ENOUGH ATTENTION TO ME

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 06, 2011, 10:58:04 AM

Quote from: The Experiment on December 03, 2011, 10:27:35 PM

Quote from: Don Flamenco on December 03, 2011, 09:28:30 AM
Quote from: AWESOM-O on December 03, 2011, 01:48:34 AM
I don't think I ever discuss gaming unless someone else brings it up. It never even occurs to me to do so.

The subjects I have to consciously avoid on dates or when meeting new people are politics, sports and horror. I'll get into sports if the girl shows a genuine interest, but the other two are no-nos for me. The issue with horror is that after working on a horror novel for a few years, I have a tendency to gush about what I found effective in different movies/stories, and most girls just aren't down with that. "Creepy" is probably the worst label you can ever have.

gush, by all means. if they can't understand why you like something and jump immediately to "ohhh mah gawd, so creepy" then bail the fuck out. I'd rather be alone forever than be with someone who is dumb and paranoid enough to jump to shitty conclusions about me.

There are a lot of women that rely on snap judgements and if you want a relationship outside of your calloused right hand, you might have to cut down (read: eliminate) discussion of hardcore nerdery unless you know she's down or will tolerate it.

Not speaking from personal experience but I do know of women that drop a dode who admitted to playing Xbox 360 on the weekends. I guess she thought it was too immature or some shit.

To be fair, I kind of do the same. Any woman that owns the complete set of Sex and the City and wants me to be the Mr. Big to her Carrie will result in me backing the fuck away. It's happened a few times btw :'(

yeah, i backpedaled a bit, there's certainly some tact/timing to it.

but if "I play 360 on the weekends sometimes" disqualifies you, it's for the better.

lol @ the sex and the city box set. My comments about that show were prompted by a girl who had it prominently on display in her apartment (along with the complete Friends set) and sure enough, she twisted, turned, warmed up, cooled down, and generally couldn't decide what the hell to do with me the whole time...while I just kind of sat there knowing it was FWB (something we agreed on and constantly reminded each other of) and that all of that extra shit was her own brain torturing her.

All she had to do was be clear when it was gonna be over (I was rebound dude and knew my role and I was gonna enjoy the free sex until it was over), but she even screwed that up by dumping me, then calling me over a week later, twice. Third time she lured me into her apartment with the promise of sex as usual, then just sat there not saying anything, then mumbled something about calling it off. I got pretty mad at that point and blew it up...no reason for someone who was pretty solid in life otherwise to be so unconfident and irresponsible.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 06, 2011, 12:13:48 PM

Quote from: ZephyrFate on December 06, 2011, 03:12:21 AM

chase and I broke up because he wasn't willing to work with the fact that he was working so much and seeing me very little and he felt like a bad boyfriend AND he wasn't falling for me like I was for him

so happy fucking shit sucking holidays everyone. fuck life and everyone.

Sorry to hear that. :'(

What type of job did he have? I dunno if it's fair to demand he work less to see you more, considering him working helped you both. But if it was a case of him coming home and not wanting anything to do with you, then I'd agree. Sorry if I'm prodding too much tho

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on December 06, 2011, 12:33:45 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on December 06, 2011, 04:13:07 AM

Is this a fishing for compliments you don't care about me or a drunk and emotional you don't care about me? Either way dawg we are here for ya when you need us, chill out and go lay down for a bit or something.

Oh yeah, I was shitfaced last night.

PD: I didn't demand anything. I was willing to go the extra mile and stay with him despite the fact that I was seeing him only once a week. He works two jobs, and because of that he's sometimes working 30 hours (or more) in a weekend alone. He wasn't willing to put me through that and he didn't think it would work.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 08, 2011, 01:30:30 PM

just got dumped! merry christmas!

put a bullet in me PLEASE

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 08, 2011, 01:45:31 PM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on December 08, 2011, 01:30:30 PM

just got dumped! merry christmas!

put a bullet in me PLEASE

:( Sorry, dude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 08, 2011, 02:11:12 PM

so just HOW drunk should i get tonight?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 08, 2011, 02:11:40 PM

On a scale of 1 to 10?

20 FUCKING MILLION

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 08, 2011, 02:12:52 PM

gonna sob and play skyrim. best pity party ever!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 08, 2011, 03:43:53 PM

I'm still sending her her present cause I spent like 40 hours working on it. I don't want it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 08, 2011, 03:48:46 PM

THE ABSOLUTE WORST is I owe her like 300 dollars so I gotta set up a fucking bank transfer after she shattered my heart.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on December 08, 2011, 03:51:25 PM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on December 08, 2011, 03:48:46 PM

THE ABSOLUTE WORST is I owe her like 300 dollars so I gotta set up a fucking bank transfer after she shattered my heart.

It'd probably be worse if she owed you money and never paid you back.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 08, 2011, 03:52:34 PM

Well aren't I lucky.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on December 08, 2011, 03:53:46 PM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on December 08, 2011, 03:52:34 PM

Well aren't I lucky.

Tell her that present is worth $300.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 08, 2011, 04:01:30 PM

She played the "it's not you it's me" card and played it well. I have no room to be a dick.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 08, 2011, 05:10:11 PM

We had to take a patient to court over unpaid services, and while she lost the case, the judge didn't determine the money had to be paid on any timetable. So she pays us $5 a month out of spite

You should pay your gf $5 a month

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on December 08, 2011, 05:30:48 PM

Sorry to hear about that man. Do what you feel is right with the money.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 08, 2011, 05:45:43 PM

She's not an asshole. Well she is for going from "oh boy i sure love being in love with you and can't wait until we live together etc etc" to "i have stuff i need to sort out" in literally the span of like one or two weeks, but her "stuff" she needs to sort out is the kind of stuff i can't get mad at her for. like, it's legit stuff and only the most evil, twisted person would lie about something like that to end a relationship, which she's not.

she'll get the money and the gift but i promise im not talking to her again for a looooooong time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 08, 2011, 06:01:51 PM

sorry to hear that Bob.

as for my deal, christ, my head is spinning. I gotta slow this thing down a minute. after being hyped for so long, it starts to feel out of control!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 09, 2011, 01:45:06 AM

fffffffffuuuuuuuuuuuuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 09, 2011, 02:52:24 AM

is there any way to make someone not exist on my facebook without deleting them> fuck i;m drunk.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Pringo on December 09, 2011, 03:13:16 AM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on December 09, 2011, 02:52:24 AM

is there any way to make someone not exist on my facebook without deleting them> fuck i;m drunk.

You could probably block their updates from showing in your feed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 09, 2011, 03:22:45 AM

i dont want her on the stupid ticker or chat either

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 09, 2011, 09:28:29 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on December 09, 2011, 03:38:08 AM

Quote from: Don Flamenco on December 08, 2011, 06:01:51 PM
sorry to hear that Bob.

as for my deal, christ, my head is spinning. I gotta slow this thing down a minute. after being hyped for so long, it starts to feel out of control!

She moved from finger to strap-on?

yeah, she's being a real pain in the ass

ba dum tish

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 09, 2011, 10:30:24 AM

Cause we're not Polish man-slaves?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on December 09, 2011, 10:37:34 AM

Quote from: Borys on December 09, 2011, 10:00:20 AM

How can you dudes be borrowing money from your GFs? How does that fucking work. You are the man you are supposed to pay for everything and shit.

We're a decade into the new millennium now, Borys. If women want equal treatment, they get it in spades now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on December 09, 2011, 10:37:57 AM

Next thing you're gonna say you don't beat your women either.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 09, 2011, 12:11:49 PM

and that you can't get off until your women fuck you with a strap on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other
Post by: Barry Egan on December 09, 2011, 03:32:55 PM

Quote from: Borys on December 09, 2011, 10:00:20 AM

How can you dudes be borrowing money from your GFs? How does that fucking work. You are the man you are supposed to pay for everything and shit.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on December 09, 2011, 03:59:53 PM

I was checking out some of the girls who had been stalking my profile on OKC, and one girl wrote scripts for porn, and for a videogame dev (bioware?), and was looking for 2 "cute and intelligent" single guys to have casual DP sessions with her on a regular basis.

OKC has a lot of strangeee people :|

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on December 09, 2011, 04:04:14 PM

Quote from: Borys on December 09, 2011, 10:00:20 AM

How can you dudes be borrowing money from your GFs? How does that fucking work. You are the man you are supposed to pay for everything and shit.

:lol :lol :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 09, 2011, 04:09:49 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on December 09, 2011, 03:59:53 PM

I was checking out some of the girls who had been stalking my profile on OKC, and one girl wrote scripts for porn, and for a videogame dev (bioware?), and was looking for 2 "cute and intelligent" single guys to have casual DP sessions with her on a regular basis.

OKC has a lot of strangeee people :|

well, if you're ever just up for sex and looks-be-damned, OKC pretty much guarantees a free one night stand any day of the week.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on December 09, 2011, 04:16:19 PM

I don't think it's that strange to expect that the two bros who are going to be sharing your butt together at least be able to carry on a conversation with one another.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on December 09, 2011, 04:23:32 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on December 09, 2011, 03:59:53 PM

I was checking out some of the girls who had been stalking my profile on OKC, and one girl wrote scripts for porn, and for a videogame dev (bioware?), and was looking for 2 "cute and intelligent" single guys to have casual DP sessions with her on a regular basis.

sounds like you and blackmage got some good times ahead!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on December 09, 2011, 04:41:03 PM

Went to get a haircut today and the lady that cuts my hair wanted to set me up with the girl who works the counter (she wasn't in that day but was reportedly checking me out last time I was in)... she showed me some pics of the girl on Facebook and DAMN... so I let her take down my number and FB and the haircutter is gonna give it to the girl. :hyper

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on December 09, 2011, 06:59:35 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on December 09, 2011, 06:53:17 PM

Why go to a salon when you can go to a barbershop? SMH @ men today.

Go to the salon and get a good haircut, or go to the Russians down the street and get a haircut that makes me look like an Eastern European thug...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 09, 2011, 07:02:14 PM

There is a really nice barber shop by my house that I swear is a front for the Triad or Vietnamese mafia...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on December 09, 2011, 07:33:40 PM

what's even the difference between a barbershop and salon? that's a serious question

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on December 09, 2011, 07:48:04 PM

here's the thing about relationships... I don't know jack squat.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on December 09, 2011, 07:50:50 PM

Quote from: Linkzg on December 09, 2011, 07:33:40 PM

what's even the difference between a barbershop and salon? that's a serious question

That was already explained.

Quote from: tiesto on December 09, 2011, 06:59:35 PM

Go to the salon and get a good haircut, or go to the Russians down the street and get a haircut that makes me look like an Eastern European thug...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlueTsunami on December 09, 2011, 07:56:50 PM

Quote from: The Business on December 09, 2011, 04:48:34 PM

Man, I've definitely thought about nailing a couple of the girls at my salon in the past but I think that's last place I want to start messing around in. Think about it: the chances of the relationship going sour are pretty good, and all those girls will do is talk about it and hate you. You won't be able to go there anymore. I don't know how much you care about a good haircut but it just seems to risky to me. It's a shame, because salons usually have a wealth of good-looking women.

Definitely another case of shitting where you eat. Beware, Tiesto!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on December 09, 2011, 08:01:42 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on December 09, 2011, 07:52:20 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on December 09, 2011, 07:48:04 PM
here's the thing about relationships... I don't know jack squat.

What happened with Batgirl?

we are still together.. by some miracle I haven't scared her away.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 09, 2011, 08:17:02 PM

My barber shop is in the same building as a salon; sometimes I'll walk through the salon to get to the barber shop area. Yea...those women are crazy, brehs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 09, 2011, 08:35:32 PM

I knew I found the right barbershop when I saw the playboys on the magazine table, the dude didn't say shit through the whole cut after I told him what I wanted, and then offered to shave my neck with hot lather and a straight razor.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on December 09, 2011, 08:58:11 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on December 09, 2011, 08:39:12 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on December 09, 2011, 08:01:42 PM
we are still together.. by some miracle I haven't scared her away.

That's cool. I'm surprised she didn't scare you away with the drunk driving business.

I forgot about that real quick when she took my cock in her mouth

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 09, 2011, 09:28:37 PM

Sent her an e-mail. Got my heart stomped on further. :'( I'm so weak.

She's not getting the money.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on December 09, 2011, 09:33:58 PM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on December 09, 2011, 09:28:37 PM

Sent her an e-mail. Got my heart stomped on further. :'( I'm so weak.

She's not getting the money.

what did you say?!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 09, 2011, 09:34:57 PM

take me back ...

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on December 09, 2011, 09:35:43 PM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on December 09, 2011, 09:34:57 PM

take me back ...

:fbm

shit is rough, dude. You'll find someone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on December 09, 2011, 09:36:16 PM

Don't give her that shit back. Fuck her. Make her hate you for it so you can see her true colors and in turn realize you dodged a bullet.

Do not contact her again either. :wag

Edit: :( go get drunk, hatefuck some chicks, and forget she exists bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 09, 2011, 09:39:08 PM

She's not getting it.

I feel like I have all the reason in the world to be fucking pissed about this. She can't just fucking treat people like this. I just don't know how to make the transition from mopy fuck to healthy rage.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on December 09, 2011, 09:41:46 PM

You have hate her first.

Or alcohol, but that could turn you into a bigger mopey sap.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 09, 2011, 09:43:06 PM

It definitely will. Alcohol usually just amplifies whatever I'm feeling before I start drinking. I'd rather not sob over a bottle of gin tonight.

Guess I'll try to play vidyas and purge my room of any trace of her existence later.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 09, 2011, 10:57:06 PM

put on some shades and a hat to cover up the sadness and go on a long walk. eat some fried chicken too

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Inspector Thatcher on December 09, 2011, 11:00:04 PM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on December 09, 2011, 09:43:06 PM

It definitely will. Alcohol usually just amplifies whatever I'm feeling before I start drinking. I'd rather not sob over a bottle of gin tonight.

Guess I'll try to play vidyas and purge my room of any trace of her existence later.

The point of post-relationship drinking is to get yourself so skunked you can't even remember how you feel.

And then in the morning, you're in too damn much physical pain to worry about your emotions.

But hey, the healthy route works too.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on December 09, 2011, 11:06:01 PM

Quote from: lennedsay on December 09, 2011, 09:36:16 PM

Don't give her that shit back. Fuck her. Make her hate you for it so you can see her true colors and in turn realize you dodged a bullet.

Do not contact her again either. :wag

Edit: :( go get drunk, hatefuck some chicks, and forget she exists bro.

Wow, layin' down the law LIKE A BOSS.

I've got a great new idea, "Hatefuck™ Brand Condoms. Barbed, for your pleasure."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Boogie on December 10, 2011, 01:27:44 AM

Quote from: Inspector Thatcher on December 09, 2011, 11:00:04 PM

The point of post-relationship drinking is to get yourself so skunked you can't even remember how you feel.

And then in the morning, you're in too damn much physical pain to worry about your emotions.

But hey, the healthy route works too.

'tis that simple, huh?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on December 10, 2011, 02:59:59 AM

Drinking when you are emotional is bad

I AM THE POSTERBOY FOR THAT COMMON SENSE

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on December 10, 2011, 03:33:49 AM

Random stuff I've noticed on online profiles lately:
-gore photos - seems in fashion right now, but honestly seeing you with your throat torn open is not attractive to me, sorry.
-ten photos of you doing the same facial pose - reminds me of that meme where the girl always had the same face, eek.

in other news I ran across a profile of a gamer girl whose profile seems well written and honest, and she is a high match % w/me, and is very pretty; a combination I find rare these days. Sent her a message :rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlueTsunami on December 10, 2011, 05:25:37 AM

Quote from: The Business on December 10, 2011, 01:33:03 AM

You've got to drink so fucking much you forget what she looks like.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HO0svGjVEP8

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on December 10, 2011, 06:31:52 AM

True story: I tend to bury myself in an MMO after a breakup. It gives me a bunch of meaningless shit to occupy my brain with and no real human interaction to worry about.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 10, 2011, 09:41:40 AM

drinking just makes me write rage emails, if i'm pissed enough. not violent threats or anything, just lots of truly mean shit, you know, all the things the person tells you they're sensitive about in a relationship, but in raging drunk mode so the sentences don't really flow together well.

so, i try to smoke weed instead and get enveloped in tv shows or games.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on December 12, 2011, 12:57:28 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on December 08, 2011, 03:51:25 PM

It'd probably be worse if she owed you money and never paid you back.

Joel, do you speak from personal experience? If so, please give details.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 12, 2011, 12:59:54 AM

"I'm tired of studying for finals. I'm coming to your place"

:uguu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on December 12, 2011, 01:10:57 AM

omg time to get your dick sucked :hyper :hyper :hyper

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on December 12, 2011, 01:48:38 AM

The 'other' is truly terrifying, I advise sticking with with I-I and I-It (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Martin_Buber#Ich-Du) relationships

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 12, 2011, 02:43:43 AM

Who calls someone at 1am to come over and cuddle for the night :fbm

I shouldn't complain, but yea. She's currently in the kitchen, guess we'll just be sharing the bed together then waking up/heading to campus together. I took a shower for nothing :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 12, 2011, 08:33:33 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 12, 2011, 02:43:43 AM

Who calls someone at 1am to come over and cuddle for the night :fbm

I shouldn't complain, but yea. She's currently in the kitchen, guess we'll just be sharing the bed together then waking up/heading to campus together. I took a shower for nothing :-\

someone whose partner didn't push the issue at all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 12, 2011, 10:07:50 AM

Jesus, PD. If you spent the night and you only cuddled that is YOUR fault (Disclaimer: 99% of the time). Girls don't invite you to stay the night in their bed if they don't want you to make a move. SMFH

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 12, 2011, 10:20:43 AM

He'll learn when he finds out through other channels that she's banging someone else and when PD asks "Why not me?? I've been here!" and she replies "Have you? You sure as fuck couldn't take a hint!" It happens to us all :'(

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Although usually not as dramatic and it happens when we're like 14

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on December 12, 2011, 10:26:20 AM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on December 12, 2011, 10:24:26 AM

I can honestly say I never had that, I was too horny to not go for it. Got in a couple of awkward moments cause of that though.

I TOLD YOU BEFORE YOU CAME OVER THAT I JUST WANTED TO CUDDLE.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 12, 2011, 10:27:03 AM

Yeah but you're a muslim. You get to take what you want from women. They have rights over here :yuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 12, 2011, 11:51:22 AM

:fbm

it was a fun night though

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on December 12, 2011, 11:56:24 AM

did you get blue balls?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on December 12, 2011, 12:22:23 PM

black..er balls then?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on December 12, 2011, 12:31:17 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on December 12, 2011, 10:48:10 AM

You'd be surprised how slutty women of allah can be, those girls are KINKY!

Nah, it's all about that oppression coming out in bed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on December 12, 2011, 08:36:17 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 12, 2011, 02:43:43 AM

Who calls someone at 1am to come over and cuddle for the night :fbm

I shouldn't complain, but yea. She's currently in the kitchen, guess we'll just be sharing the bed together then waking up/heading to campus together. I took a shower for nothing :-\

That's pretty adorable. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on December 12, 2011, 11:07:54 PM

did you at least touch her boobs or ass through her clothes?? did you get a boner and touch her with it?? WE WANT TO KNOW PD

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 12, 2011, 11:23:16 PM

A little. I woke up early to work out and she was wrapped all on me. feels good man :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on December 12, 2011, 11:26:30 PM

OH MY GOD HE'S BECOMING A MAN IM SO PROUD :-[ :-[ :-[ :-[ :-[ :-[ :-[ :-[ :-[ :-[ :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on December 13, 2011, 12:09:54 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 12, 2011, 11:23:16 PM

A little. I woke up early to work out and she was wrapped all on me. feels good man :-[

Wait why didn't you fuck her?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on December 13, 2011, 02:49:14 AM

I was going to go to sleep but i got IM'd by a cool girl who likes Shivers. I think that means she's demi approved? (or she secretly is demi :o)

She seems cool! Looking forward to find out more about her!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on December 13, 2011, 06:20:37 AM

Why no fuckin PD? Have you been together for years already?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cheebo on December 13, 2011, 08:47:38 AM

Was it the first time you "slept" with a girl PD?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 13, 2011, 01:06:52 PM

Quote from: Cheebo on December 13, 2011, 08:47:38 AM

Was it the first time you "slept" with a girl PD?

No. And we've only been together officially for a couple months or so

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 13, 2011, 01:10:53 PM

PD is trolling or Christian. Even if neither of those were true, i have to believe them for my sanity.

You can't just NOT be making a move? Maybe you have some other reasons and I'm just out of the loop.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 13, 2011, 01:12:30 PM

I never said we've never had sex, I'm saying I assumed we were going to bang again at the time and it didn't happen. jesus

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on December 13, 2011, 01:21:30 PM

smells like trolling

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 13, 2011, 01:34:41 PM

meh ::)

I was bummed but I'm not sure pressing the issue is the best move. I was like ehh, ok :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 13, 2011, 01:35:20 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 13, 2011, 01:12:30 PM

I never said we've never had sex, I'm saying I assumed we were going to bang again at the time and it didn't happen. jesus

oh you're already hitting it then. i don't know why i've been interpreting this like you never kissed her. i'm a hard

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 13, 2011, 02:41:01 PM

PD isn't a virgin ???

Oh well in that case sometimes there isn't anything wrong with just a night of cuddling.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

I still would have kept pushing for it until she gave in

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on December 13, 2011, 04:52:55 PM

I dont want to sound gay, but usually I'm the one wanting to cuddle. My gf's sexdrive is bigger then mine.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Joe Molotov on December 13, 2011, 09:46:06 PM

So is her penis.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 13, 2011, 10:18:41 PM

Unless PD comes out and tells us instead of pussy footing around it with ambiguously vague and indirect comments, dude is still a virgin.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on December 13, 2011, 10:28:22 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on December 13, 2011, 04:52:55 PM

I dont want to sound gay, but usually I'm the one wanting to cuddle. My gf's sexdrive is bigger then mine.

Is she Irish?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 13, 2011, 10:31:50 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on December 13, 2011, 10:18:41 PM

Unless PD comes out and tells us instead of pussy footing around it with ambiguously vague and indirect comments, dude is still a virgin.

fine omg

I am no longer a virgin, as of 2011. I got a blowjob a earlier this year, which technically ended my streak. And I had vaginal intercourse last month for the first time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Smooth Groove on December 13, 2011, 10:41:50 PM

Is it weird to want sex less than the lady? After I've seen a chick naked and hit it once, I rarely get excited to do it with her again, even if she's hot. I just go through the motions the next couple of times so that the girl still thinks I'm into her. I dunno why but I just feel distanced from what's going on. Maybe too much porn has ruined me or maybe it's because I've never been in love since high school. It should be different, right, if you're having sex with someone you truly love?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on December 14, 2011, 10:14:54 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 13, 2011, 10:31:50 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on December 13, 2011, 10:18:41 PM
Unless PD comes out and tells us instead of pussy footing around it with ambiguously vague and indirect comments, dude is still a virgin.

fine omg

I am no longer a virgin, as of 2011. I got a blowjob a earlier this year, which technically ended my streak. And I had vaginal intercourse last month for the first time.

(http://i55.tinypic.com/al0oeq.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 14, 2011, 10:21:16 AM

Quote from: Smooth Groove on December 13, 2011, 10:41:50 PM

Is it weird to want sex less than the lady? After I've seen a chick naked and hit it once, I rarely get excited to do it with her again, even if she's hot. I just go through the motions the next couple of times so that the girl still thinks I'm into her. I dunno why but I just feel distanced from what's going on. Maybe too much porn has ruined me or maybe it's because I've never been in love since high school. It should be different, right, if you're having sex with someone you truly love?

How old are you brochacho?

At a certain point it takes a little more effort to get into it subsequent times (especially if it's a busy weekday or something). But multiple times a day is still easy and I'm still usually spending the majority of my time in bed trying to seduce my wife.

And a personal note, watching a lot of porn decreases my sex drive overall.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 14, 2011, 10:27:42 AM

oh well *shrug* My sex drive has definitely decreased over the last few years though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on December 14, 2011, 10:47:49 AM

29 and still horny as hell (more so now that I'm single and have been hitting a dry streak :-\ ).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on December 14, 2011, 10:49:23 AM

@Mups maybe I should stop jerking off or something.

Quote from: tiesto on December 13, 2011, 10:28:22 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on December 13, 2011, 04:52:55 PM
I dont want to sound gay, but usually I'm the one wanting to cuddle. My gf's sexdrive is bigger then mine.

Is she Irish?

Nope.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 14, 2011, 10:59:04 AM

How much do you jerk off? I generally don't jerk off anymore

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on December 14, 2011, 11:09:34 AM

Dunno like once a day? Sometimes more sometimes less.

I think I should just quit it though, she's up for sex all the time :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 14, 2011, 11:14:37 AM

:lol

Yeah man, I gotta ask: Why the hell are you still jerking it if she wants it all the time? I could see me wanting ass less if I already jerked it once a day every day.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on December 14, 2011, 11:34:28 AM

I dunno man :-[

Cause sometimes I get horny at some weird time. Maybe I should show some restraint then and wait till my woman is there. She's always up for it, it's mad.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on December 14, 2011, 11:59:12 AM

I think that my Girlfriend's roommate is in love with her. He messages me on Facebook earlier this week and asks if I wanted to go half on getting her a Wii. Being the nice guy that I am, I agreed. He is unemployed and probably low on funds and I felt it would be nice to help him get her a cool present. So he texts me today and tells me he no longer needs my help. I tell him "cool man, I got her Buffy the complete series on dvd so between our presents she'll be a busy girl. :)" He replies, "Cool.. I got her covered, though.." wtf does that mean?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on December 14, 2011, 12:01:00 PM

Where those elipses in the text he send?

Didnt you just break up with her?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on December 14, 2011, 12:02:04 PM

yeah the ellipses were in his message. we broke up once and got back together like within 5 hours lol. It was a misunderstanding.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on December 14, 2011, 12:03:29 PM

this is exactly what he wrote "Cool, cool... I think she's pretty well covered, though..."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on December 14, 2011, 12:08:03 PM

He's welcome to try and take her from me, but I'm not exactly intimidated by him. I'm tall and handsome. He is short, broke, and not at all good looking. The only reason he is staying with her is because he lost his job and would have been homeless if she didn't help him out. The only thing he has going for him is he's an "artist"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on December 14, 2011, 12:14:27 PM

he's like 34-35 or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 14, 2011, 12:24:41 PM

Is he the bad boy type, blackmage? If you so might be fucked :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on December 14, 2011, 12:27:21 PM

lol I'm not fucked. This girl is not gonna leave me for him. If I'm wrong and she does fuck it. I've learned a lot about myself these past months and I could easily get a woman who wouldn't fuck me like that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on December 14, 2011, 12:28:15 PM

He is a 34 year old 'artist' sharing an appartment.

I think you should be safe.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 14, 2011, 12:28:40 PM

Worrying about a guy stealing your girl is dumb shit. Don't change your behaviour cause of this clown. If a girl leaves you for another dude she's not worth it anyway.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on December 14, 2011, 12:30:13 PM

Quote from: Spencer on December 14, 2011, 12:23:03 PM

Uh that makes it even more weird. And especially weird that he's living with your gf. Idk man, I wouldn't like it. That dude could snap or something if he's that deluded

well my GF is 34 and I'm 30 hehe. She's told me she has no attraction to him whatsoever, they are just friends and she felt bad about his situation. He's from Kansas City and came to Los Angeles to make it into acting or something. I guess he had a decent job in the movie business before he got laid off.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on December 14, 2011, 12:31:54 PM

Quote from: Spencer on December 14, 2011, 12:30:08 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on December 14, 2011, 12:27:21 PM
lol I'm not fucked. This girl is not gonna leave me for him. If I'm wrong and she does fuck it. I've learned a lot about myself these past months and I could easily get a woman who wouldn't fuck me like that.

Alright then you got nothin to worry about :lol Hell if you're that unattached I might even suggest just to leave her and look for someone who doesn't have a live in loser.

Oh I'm very much attached to her or I wouldn't be posting about this. I'm just saying I'm not gonna worry about things I can't control and even if I get sad/depressed if she leaves me I know I'll eventually bounce back and find someone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 14, 2011, 12:35:16 PM

Our little PD is man now. :rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 14, 2011, 12:35:40 PM

34? :bow

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on December 14, 2011, 01:41:43 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on December 14, 2011, 12:28:15 PM

He is a 34 year old 'artist' sharing an appartment.

I think you should be safe.

Roissy and all those PUA blogs tell me that women's vaginas tingle for unemployed, broke "artist" type dudes and they choose them over "beta" males (aka the men with good solid jobs) so I'd be careful.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

just kidding, most of that PUA stuff is pure junk although it can be funny to read sometimes...

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on December 14, 2011, 01:42:05 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 14, 2011, 10:59:04 AM

How much do you jerk off? I generally don't jerk off anymore

You are no longer Mupepe.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 14, 2011, 01:50:28 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on December 14, 2011, 01:42:05 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 14, 2011, 10:59:04 AM
How much do you jerk off? I generally don't jerk off anymore

You are no longer Mupepe.

But it's because I get laid often enough that I don't need to!

And BM, you have no reason to worry from what you've described. I don't see anything wrong with what he's said. Maybe he's just trying to show appreciation to her for helping him out when he'd otherwise be homeless? Taking issue with anything he's said sounds insecure.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on December 14, 2011, 01:59:08 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 14, 2011, 01:50:28 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on December 14, 2011, 01:42:05 PM
Quote from: Mupepe on December 14, 2011, 10:59:04 AM
How much do you jerk off? I generally don't jerk off anymore

You are no longer Mupepe.
But it's because I get laid often enough that I don't need to!

And BM, you have no reason to worry from what you've described. I don't see anything wrong with what he's said. Maybe he's just trying to show appreciation to her for helping him out when he'd otherwise be homeless? Taking issue with anything he's said sounds insecure.

Yer right. That's why I haven't said anything about it since. I'm leaving the issue alone. The overall issue I guess I have is the fact that a guy I don't know has moved in with my GF. It's weird to me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on December 14, 2011, 02:01:36 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 14, 2011, 01:50:28 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on December 14, 2011, 01:42:05 PM
Quote from: Mupepe on December 14, 2011, 10:59:04 AM
How much do you jerk off? I generally don't jerk off anymore

You are no longer Mupepe.
But it's because I get laid often enough that I don't need to!

Mupepe never would have said this. WHAT DID YOU DO TO HIM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 14, 2011, 02:10:56 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on December 14, 2011, 01:59:08 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 14, 2011, 01:50:28 PM
Quote from: CajoleJuice on December 14, 2011, 01:42:05 PM
Quote from: Mupepe on December 14, 2011, 10:59:04 AM
How much do you jerk off? I generally don't jerk off anymore

You are no longer Mupepe.
But it's because I get laid often enough that I don't need to!

And BM, you have no reason to worry from what you've described. I don't see anything wrong with what he's said. Maybe he's just trying to show appreciation to her for helping him out when he'd otherwise be homeless? Taking issue with anything he's said sounds insecure.

Yer right. That's why I haven't said anything about it since. I'm leaving the issue alone. The overall issue I guess I have is the fact that a guy I don't know has moved in with my GF. It's weird to me.

I could see that. I'd feel the same way probably. But if homeboy really does fancy your girl the last thing you want is her talking to him late at night saying "he's too jealous. he should be able to trust you" :lol

Quote from: CajoleJuice on December 14, 2011, 02:01:36 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 14, 2011, 01:50:28 PM
Quote from: CajoleJuice on December 14, 2011, 01:42:05 PM
Quote from: Mupepe on December 14, 2011, 10:59:04 AM
How much do you jerk off? I generally don't jerk off anymore

You are no longer Mupepe.
But it's because I get laid often enough that I don't need to!

Mupepe never would have said this. WHAT DID YOU DO TO HIM

I hooked him up with a chick that can satisfy him :smug

spoiler (click to show/hide)

It's true. I'm not the man I used to be :'(

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 14, 2011, 02:53:54 PM

That was a misunderstanding!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 14, 2011, 03:28:40 PM

Quote from: The Business on December 14, 2011, 03:15:52 PM

BM isn't a real man unless he goes to jail for every distinguished promiscuous lassie he meets on the internet.

unlike the Boss, BM would do the right thing and eat the charge
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a35rNEBNiO4&t=1m2s

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on December 14, 2011, 04:06:31 PM

Quote from: The Business on December 14, 2011, 02:45:45 PM

Is this the same girl that got a DUI and wanted to pin it on you, BM?

Oh man forgot about that, hope this isn't here :rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on December 14, 2011, 04:33:10 PM

shutup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 14, 2011, 04:33:45 PM

omg IT IS

explain!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 14, 2011, 04:42:07 PM

:lol :lol :lol

Dude, she gave you like EVERY FUCKING RED FLAG EVER.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on December 14, 2011, 04:43:51 PM

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 14, 2011, 04:45:23 PM

You guys just don't know her :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 14, 2011, 06:47:09 PM

so how much allowance does she get...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 15, 2011, 02:37:33 AM

Girl I'm currently talking to:

(http://i.imgur.com/4mkLk.png)
(http://i.imgur.com/N4SFE.png)
(http://i.imgur.com/YEqgq.png)
(http://i.imgur.com/pJehX.png)

she's really cool, but she has two kids. I know, the usual "bailout" signs, but I just wanna see where it goes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 15, 2011, 02:38:06 AM

Bail
the
fuck
out

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 15, 2011, 02:39:12 AM

haha yeah. I probably will.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 15, 2011, 03:15:42 AM

And if you do smash, use your own condoms

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on December 15, 2011, 03:32:57 AM

I'm talking to a girl with 1 kid; never been in this situation before. Not going in with any ideas of direction, just will see where it goes. She's seems cool. She's 21.

The girl I was talking to the other night when I had 1 too many drinks beforehand...after an hour long aim session that I don't remember 90% of it, I have no idea if she will respond again :P If she does it's really positive! Because I was crazy open drunk about everything with her. If not, lesson learned!

And I'm going on a date with a girl whose 34 this weekend. We've been talking on and off for about 2 weeks now. She has a great taste in film and is really into the film industry, so that's our common interest. Looking forward to it. We're going to see Melancholia.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 15, 2011, 03:36:57 AM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on December 15, 2011, 03:17:18 AM

I was like "daaaaaamn tap that" and then I read the 2 kids thing and was like "daaaaaaaaaamn bail out"

yeah not exactly great circumstances. If I were a bit older and had a job/income, I'd be okay with this...but, like, how the shit am I supposed to support two kids when I'm 22 and still in school

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on December 15, 2011, 03:39:51 AM

The way I see it you don't need to think about that stuff at this point. Go on some dates and see how it goes and if it gets serious you'll make that decision then.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 15, 2011, 10:09:53 AM

and a desperate mom who wants somebody, anybody to help her get through the clusterfuck she's made her life will want you to meet the kids immediately to manipulate you and the children into not bailing out ASAP.

I've dated plenty of women with children and that observation has never failed me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 15, 2011, 12:58:31 PM

aw shit, i've made a huge mistake. one long letter about my lifelong struggle with drugs and how i've just failed out of law school, coming right up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 15, 2011, 01:17:57 PM

Yikes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on December 15, 2011, 01:29:08 PM

lol blackmage.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 15, 2011, 02:18:59 PM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on December 15, 2011, 01:17:57 PM

Yikes.

that's what i'm saying, hoping this can just end without much fanfare. it being overseas and unverifiable and all that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 15, 2011, 02:23:28 PM

wtf? I'm confused. what's going on Don??

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 15, 2011, 02:30:38 PM

so, that girl I told you guys about...I have thought long and hard about it and there are a bunch of things I'm concerned with. Not the least of which being that we can't actually live together to get to know each other until next summer at the earliest and that's if everything goes 100% perfect, which it already isn't. So we have this wild, crazy thing going where we just see the best of each other when we talk and on our visit. But there are a bunch of little things I'm confused about with her, which seem to indicate dishonesty. I don't want to talk about that, but lets just say I have more red flags than brandnew and that I'm better off just a-bombing it now with a "i'm too screwed up for you" letter.

I'll give you a small taste-- she owes a little money to me, couple hundred towards a plane ticket, since the beginning of november. The reason why she owes it is a sketchy story in itself, but way complicated. So, I don't care that much that she owes me, not depending on her paying me back, but I'll admit, it's been a litmus test for me. Well, apparently all of the banks in czech republic and slovakia have cut off transfers to the u.s. in response to the looming credit crunch in Europe. :| Meanwhile, none of the expat communities have a lick of information on this, none of the news sites say anything, there's nothing about this. I can't verify it at all. Actually, all I find is news about how those countries are scared that they're gonna get asked to bail out everyone else because they've been resilient to some of the problems happening over there. She's lying. Maybe it's a white lie and she'd pay me back after scraping the money together, but it's the kind of small thing that will break an already precarious situation and scare me away. I've asked a couple times if there's anything else happening that I don't know about and she freaks out a bit and asks if I don't trust her...not a good sign.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on December 15, 2011, 02:30:55 PM

I personally don't want to date a girl with kids, but if you don't mind it, more power to you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on December 15, 2011, 02:45:38 PM

Every once in a while im like 'man its been ages since ive had a girlfriend' then I read some of these posts and im like lol.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 15, 2011, 02:46:08 PM

Quote from: Don Flamenco on December 15, 2011, 02:30:38 PM

so, that girl I told you guys about...I have thought long and hard about it and there are a bunch of things I'm concerned with. Not the least of which being that we can't actually live together to get to know each other until next summer at the earliest and that's if everything goes 100% perfect, which it already isn't. So we have this wild, crazy thing going where we just see the best of each other when we talk and on our visit. But there are a bunch of little things I'm confused about with her, which seem to indicate dishonesty. I don't want to talk about that, but lets just say I have more red flags than brandnew and that I'm better off just a-bombing it now with a "i'm too screwed up for you" letter.

I'll give you a small taste-- she owes a little money to me, couple hundred towards a plane ticket, since the beginning of november. The reason why she owes it is a sketchy story in itself, but way complicated. So, I don't care that much that she owes me, not depending on her paying me back, but I'll admit, it's been a litmus test for me. Well, apparently all of the banks in czech republic and slovakia have cut off transfers to the u.s. in response to the looming credit crunch in Europe. :| Meanwhile, none of the expat communities have a lick of information on this, none of the news sites say anything, there's nothing about this. I can't verify it at all. Actually, all I find is news about how those countries are scared that they're gonna get asked to bail out everyone else because they've been resilient to some of the problems happening over there. She's lying. Maybe it's a white lie and she'd pay me back after scraping the money together, but it's the kind of small thing that will break an already precarious situation and scare me away. I've asked a couple times if there's anything else happening that I don't know about and she freaks out a bit and asks if I don't trust her...not a good sign.

Yeah that's a huge red flag. It doesn't sound like she's trying to screw you (lol) out of money, but maybe she just doesn't have it. I mean, she's not asking you for more money or anything, right? This is a case of "I want to seem perfect for you and I'll compulsively lie all I can in order to do that." Or that's how it seems to me. I've come across it before. Just white lies about really stupid things that would have never been a big deal in a healthy relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 15, 2011, 02:46:50 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on December 15, 2011, 02:45:38 PM

Every once in a while im like 'man its been ages since ive had a girlfriend' then I read some of these posts and im like lol.

It's cool buddy. Spend some money on me, buy me dinner and take me out and I'll hang out with you and play games and watch movies and stuff. No fruity shenanigans necessary.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 15, 2011, 02:53:38 PM

I agree mupepe. She isn't asking for more money, but I don't want to find out if anything else weird is next.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 15, 2011, 02:58:30 PM

If you really like her it might be worth a straight up talk of "Look, I don't care about this little shit just don't lie to me". It seems like something small to end a relationship over if she's maybe just a bit immature. Unless there's a huge pile of red flags besides this or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 15, 2011, 03:01:35 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 12, 2011, 10:07:50 AM

Jesus, PD. If you spent the night and you only cuddled that is YOUR fault (Disclaimer: 99% of the time). Girls don't invite you to stay the night in their bed if they don't want you to make a move. SMFH

ever have a girlfriend who wants to "wait for sex" but still wants to sleep in your bed? yeah. but then when you're on top of her and you start tickling her pussy lips with your dick and you're about to put it in, and she moans and then gasps "dont' put it in!"

what am i supposed to do

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 15, 2011, 03:04:39 PM

rape. she'll thank you later. Maybe tell her all the cool kids are doing it.

Real answer: Either give up and respect her wishes or continue to pressure her by speaking low and slow in her ear about how good it will feel. The end almost completely depends on how much game you have.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 15, 2011, 03:07:21 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 15, 2011, 02:58:30 PM

If you really like her it might be worth a straight up talk of "Look, I don't care about this little shit just don't lie to me". It seems like something small to end a relationship over if she's maybe just a bit immature. Unless there's a huge pile of red flags besides this or something.

pm'ed

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 15, 2011, 03:13:31 PM

the worst thing is when an ugly fat chick you gave your number just to be nice in your freshmen year texts you out of the blue at like midnight to come over. so you're like, whatever, i'll get this over with and go talk with her. so you finish your talk, and you realize she wasn't wearing panties the entire time, and shudder at her horrific attempt to have sex with you. as you walk alone on the way to your place, you hang your head in shame "why the fuck am I so nice?!?!"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 15, 2011, 03:19:04 PM

Quote from: The Business on December 09, 2011, 04:48:34 PM

Man, I've definitely thought about nailing a couple of the girls at my salon in the past but I think that's last place I want to start messing around in. Think about it: the chances of the relationship going sour are pretty good, and all those girls will do is talk about it and hate you. You won't be able to go there anymore. I don't know how much you care about a good haircut but it just seems to risky to me. It's a shame, because salons usually have a wealth of good-looking women.

(http://i.imgur.com/1atAN.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on December 15, 2011, 03:19:08 PM

Fake. You fucked her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 15, 2011, 03:19:08 PM

:lol :lol :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 15, 2011, 03:20:52 PM

False. I did not fuck her!!!!!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 15, 2011, 03:22:35 PM

I'm sure she has icky roast beef flaps anyways :yuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 15, 2011, 05:15:08 PM

Is this why you switched teams, Himu?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on December 15, 2011, 05:29:08 PM

Dont be picky now Himumu.

In the desert even a cactus is a flower.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 15, 2011, 05:30:38 PM

:lol Nothing wrong with fat chicks, but this girl is a -1 out of 10. I'm not using Fistful's scale either; she is a -1. I see no point in having sex with someone you're not even remotely attracted to. Sure, it's pussy, but you have to have SOME standards.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on December 15, 2011, 05:37:30 PM

why would you go over then? this entire thing is mighty suspect

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on December 15, 2011, 05:39:37 PM

fistful's scale is based on the number of cheeseburgers one would do well to eat in a day. -1 probably works.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on December 15, 2011, 05:42:38 PM

also by claiming to use a ten point scale and then going outside of it for the sake of hyperbole, you shoot your credibility in the foot. Don't you know anything? :wag

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 15, 2011, 05:42:44 PM

Quote from: Brobzoid on December 15, 2011, 05:37:30 PM

why would you go over then? this entire thing is mighty suspect

One of my friends was her roommate and since this is college, remember, people would hang out on late night's. you'd be desperate or naive to think every late night call to come over and chill from a female acquaintance is a plea to have sex. life != porn

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 15, 2011, 05:43:07 PM

Quote from: Brobzoid on December 15, 2011, 05:42:38 PM

also by claiming to use a ten point scale and then going outside of it for the sake of hyperbole, you shoot your credibility in the foot. Don't you know anything? :wag

I'M NOT USING HYPERBOLE, SHE'S THAT UNATTRACTIVE

Quote from: Robo on December 15, 2011, 05:39:37 PM

fistful's scale is based on the number of cheeseburgers one would do well to eat in a day. -1 probably works.

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on December 15, 2011, 05:45:16 PM

then you're not using the ten point scale correctly. where is your professionalism?!

Also, the way you presented it made it sound like it couldn't possibly be anything other than a plea for sex.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 15, 2011, 05:47:00 PM

nope. she texted me at around midnight and asked if we could chill, because we talked now and then and her roommate was a buddy of mine.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on December 15, 2011, 05:49:49 PM

Quote from: Robo on December 15, 2011, 05:39:37 PM

fistful's scale is based on the number of cheeseburgers one would do well to eat in a day. -1 probably works.

Not bad :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Joe Molotov on December 16, 2011, 09:47:25 AM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on December 16, 2011, 09:29:29 AM

Girl invites you and only you over late at night? Yeah totally not sex.

But Himu's cousin was a roomate with her friend's sister! This kind of thing happens all the time, perfectly legitimate.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 17, 2011, 11:55:30 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on December 16, 2011, 10:52:36 AM

Himu wanted that fat white girl pussy, no matter how much he denies it he went in and had some flabby fun.

SMH Black people, this decade all white women want to be with you and you choose the fatties

:-X

fatties :yuck

she's black anyways

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 17, 2011, 11:58:14 PM

Quote from: The Business on December 16, 2011, 09:28:23 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on December 15, 2011, 05:42:44 PM
you'd be desperate or naive to think every late night call to come over and chill from a female acquaintance is a plea to have sex.

lol wut

yes it is

not EVERY time

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 18, 2011, 12:00:43 AM

lol this semester I did a whole lot of class projects with a big girl. White chick, really pretty face and great personality. I'd consider her a friend. and a good person. Anyway on Thursday I hung around on campus just breathing in the atmosphere of finals week, and I saw her in the library. So we started talking and out of the blue she blurted out "gosh I just want a blunt and some sex right now, I'm so happy" then gave me the Lets Get It On smile. I pretended to get a text and told her I had to go lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 18, 2011, 12:03:58 AM

petite girls :bow :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on December 18, 2011, 08:15:45 AM

She looks pretty, Mojo. Nice smile!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on December 18, 2011, 08:17:33 PM

Cute girl, Mojo...

went on a second date with this chick and things went pretty well - we went to a nice little tapas/wine bar place in Babylon Village, and then to bowling (where she kicked my ass :P). Kissed her good night and she was texting me all this weekend, so things are going pretty well! I'm gonna ask her if she wants to go to the city and see the tree later on this week...

Girl seems to have a good head on her shoulders - she's fun to hang out with, seemingly into me, talkative, cute (very tall, light brown hair, bob cut with some blonde highlights), dresses nice, smart (about to finish her MBA at Stony), has a car, seems to have a plan in her life... and best of all, she doesn't like Star Wars and said to me "I don't really get hipsters" :bow2

There MUST be a catch but I haven't found it yet :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on December 18, 2011, 08:29:56 PM

hating star wars makes her a keeper

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on December 18, 2011, 08:31:52 PM

Did you go to Barrique? haha

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 18, 2011, 08:59:00 PM

Sounds like a good person, tiesto. She into dance music?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on December 18, 2011, 10:35:12 PM

Quote from: The Business on December 18, 2011, 08:25:14 AM

Why do you guys post pictures of the girls you are currently sleeping with? I'm not trying to be an internet white knight, but how do you think they would feel about it?

I kinda know what you mean; I keep hoping to see pictures of the borito hanging out with the girl, but when it's just the girl, I always worry that it's something re-hosted from a private Facebook feed.

:potentiallycreepy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other
Post by: Barry Egan on December 18, 2011, 10:38:26 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on December 17, 2011, 09:32:03 PM

So Wrath and I talked about this a few weeks ago, but its more or less official now.

Got back together with this girl.

(http://i.imgur.com/wZxc2.jpg)

So you guys went bowling with the epic meal time guy? Pretty sweet date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on December 18, 2011, 10:54:28 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on December 18, 2011, 08:31:52 PM

Did you go to Barrique? haha

Yup that's where we went... first time eating there, and it was pretty good...

Gundam - she is actually into country music but says she doesn't mind dance music, just is completely unfamiliar with it. I'll have to make her some mixes!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on December 19, 2011, 12:07:05 AM

Quote from: tiesto on December 18, 2011, 10:54:28 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on December 18, 2011, 08:31:52 PM
Did you go to Barrique? haha

Yup that's where we went... first time eating there, and it was pretty good...

I was only laughing because it's funny how I figured it had to be there. Female friend of mine really liked it so I've been there a couple of times. The margherita pizza is great. Nice atmosphere. Definitely a good choice for a second date!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 19, 2011, 12:16:18 AM

Quote from: The Business on December 18, 2011, 08:25:14 AM

Why do you guys post pictures of the girls you are currently sleeping with? I'm not trying to be an internet white knight, but how do you think they would feel about it?

As if girls don't post our pics on their forums. Stop white knighting :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bacchus7 on December 19, 2011, 12:30:27 AM

Their forums?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TEEEPO on December 19, 2011, 12:45:12 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 19, 2011, 12:16:18 AM

Quote from: The Business on December 18, 2011, 08:25:14 AM
Why do you guys post pictures of the girls you are currently sleeping with? I'm not trying to be an internet white knight, but how do you think they would feel about it?

As if girls don't post our pics on their forums. Stop white knighting :maf

prove it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on December 19, 2011, 01:28:48 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 19, 2011, 12:16:18 AM

Quote from: The Business on December 18, 2011, 08:25:14 AM
Why do you guys post pictures of the girls you are currently sleeping with? I'm not trying to be an internet white knight, but how do you think they would feel about it?

As if girls don't post our pics on their forums. Stop white knighting :maf

Shhhh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 20, 2011, 07:06:07 PM

Quote from: Bacchus7 on December 19, 2011, 12:30:27 AM

Their forums?

Yeah. I'm guessing they don't have forums.

My wife doesn't have forums. She doesn't really get why I post on them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 20, 2011, 07:14:38 PM

what a stupid past couple of days...my paranoia got the smack down really hard and we're back to normal. going to visit prague next week.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 20, 2011, 07:15:36 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on December 20, 2011, 07:10:49 PM

....actually yeah they do, I know a couple who do. Female exclusive forums do exist people and every post ends with a "<3"

Seems like we're the only ones here who know much about women

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Inspector Thatcher on December 20, 2011, 09:28:42 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 20, 2011, 07:15:36 PM

Seems like we're the only ones here who know much about women

I am a woman. Does that count?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 20, 2011, 09:36:11 PM

Depends, give me a short bio of yourself. You're quite the mystery member

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 20, 2011, 10:17:35 PM

Quote from: Inspector Thatcher on December 20, 2011, 09:28:42 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 20, 2011, 07:15:36 PM
Seems like we're the only ones here who know much about women
I am a woman. Does that count?

Dragona?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on December 21, 2011, 03:44:10 AM

Quote from: Inspector Thatcher on December 20, 2011, 09:28:42 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 20, 2011, 07:15:36 PM
Seems like we're the only ones here who know much about women
I am a woman. Does that count?

It counts, but this forum is a sausage-fest.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Inspector Thatcher on December 22, 2011, 12:06:40 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 20, 2011, 09:36:11 PM

Depends, give me a short bio of yourself. You're quite the mystery member

I figured you all had me pegged by now. I guess by lurking more than I post I've maintained a desirable air of mystery...You'll find out more in time.

(And no, I'm not Dragona. Though I do post on GAF)

Also, I find chorizo delicious.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 22, 2011, 12:25:26 AM

Quote from: Inspector Thatcher on December 22, 2011, 12:06:40 AM

Also, I find chorizo delicious.

:lol nah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on December 22, 2011, 01:31:48 AM

I would lol if CG posted my pic on some secret gurl forum.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on December 22, 2011, 09:01:50 AM

Quote from: Inspector Thatcher on December 22, 2011, 12:06:40 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 20, 2011, 09:36:11 PM
Depends, give me a short bio of yourself. You're quite the mystery member

I figured you all had me pegged by now. I guess by lurking more than I post I've maintained a desirable air of mystery...You'll find out more in time.

(And no, I'm not Dragona. Though I do post on GAF)

Also, I find chorizo delicious.

Skittles, Aeana, Inanna, Ella Hadrun, ummm...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on December 22, 2011, 09:05:31 AM

princess skittles is a girl? she is like...on perma PMS. I thought it was just an angry dude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on December 22, 2011, 10:17:52 AM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on December 20, 2011, 07:06:07 PM

Quote from: Bacchus7 on December 19, 2011, 12:30:27 AM
Their forums?

Yeah. I'm guessing they don't have forums.

My wife doesn't have forums. She doesn't really get why I post on them.

She doesnt need to know. Fuck her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 26, 2011, 11:15:18 PM

Signed up for okcupid. :-\

Actually it's not all :-\ cause I've already got a reply from a super hot girl after having this thing for only one day 8). How long do I have to exchange messages on this shit before I can suggest a date without sounding like a psycho? I'm new at this online stuff.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 26, 2011, 11:16:14 PM

aka paging bebpo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on December 26, 2011, 11:26:07 PM

Quote from: Don Flamenco on December 22, 2011, 09:05:31 AM

princess skittles is a girl? she is like...on perma PMS. I thought it was just an angry dude.

I need an answer to this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on December 27, 2011, 12:43:50 AM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on December 26, 2011, 11:15:18 PM

Signed up for okcupid. :-\

Actually it's not all :-\ cause I've already got a reply from a super hot girl after having this thing for only one day 8). How long do I have to exchange messages on this shit before I can suggest a date without sounding like a psycho? I'm new at this online stuff.

3-5 is what I usually do, depending on how the convo is going...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on December 27, 2011, 01:09:34 AM

Cool ok. She ended her response with "I have a feeling we'll get along famously. ;)"

WINK EMOTICON YES

*HIGH FIVE*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on December 27, 2011, 02:22:24 AM

Go get 'em, tiger.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 28, 2011, 03:09:54 AM

Me and 2 kid girl (her name is Kelly) are doing really well. Don't know what that means for the future, though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 28, 2011, 03:14:37 AM

:-\

did you buy them anything for Christmas?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on December 28, 2011, 03:32:35 AM

I'm flying to meet my GF today :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 28, 2011, 03:37:50 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 28, 2011, 03:14:37 AM

:-\

did you buy them anything for Christmas?

No, a little too soon for that. I've only really seen the kids three times. She shares them via an agreed paternity relationship with both fathers (yeah, I know), and she only has them around three days a week, really.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Pringo on December 28, 2011, 05:04:36 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on December 28, 2011, 03:37:50 AM

both fathers

wtf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on December 28, 2011, 05:32:07 AM

Quote from: The Business on December 28, 2011, 03:58:07 AM

Get that tang and move on at your earliest convenience, Brand Nizzle.

And then she'll guilt trip him for abandoning her kids

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on December 28, 2011, 05:43:47 AM

Damn not all women with children are like that guys.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 28, 2011, 12:17:47 PM

Two kids, two different fathers? What the fuck. Since you're too nice to bail out, at least use your own condoms

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 28, 2011, 12:35:14 PM

*shrug* At least she didn't try to get him to take the drunk driving charge so she can't be all bad.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 28, 2011, 03:19:09 PM

To be fair, I've met both guys -- they're complete pricks.

And she doesn't get pregnant anymore, she has that one like...tube thingy magigger

oh god I sound like PD

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 28, 2011, 04:17:54 PM

Obviously there are women with kids who are perfectly fine, but it's a risk I would never take. Not every case is bad, like that of my uncle who married a woman who didn't tell him she had a kid until 6 months into the relationship; he married her a few months later, despite that giant red flag. They got divorced after about 5 years or so

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 28, 2011, 04:18:50 PM

Quote from: Spencer on December 28, 2011, 03:53:40 PM

I married a woman with a kid. Having a kid or kids and being single is automatically a no for you guys? What reality do you come from? You really don't have enough information to pass an immediate judgement like that. Only BN knows what it's really like! BN just keep your head clear and do what's right for you personally!

I'm with Spencer. Kids are not automatically a red flag.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 28, 2011, 04:22:08 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 28, 2011, 04:17:54 PM

Obviously there are women with kids who are perfectly fine, but it's a risk I would never take. Not every case is bad, like that of my uncle who married a woman who didn't tell him she had a kid until 6 months into the relationship; he married her a few months later, despite that giant red flag. They got divorced after about 5 years or so

:lol :lol

That has nothing to do with the chick with kids. It sounds like your uncle made a really stupid decision and that could have happened with a woman that didn't have kids as well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 28, 2011, 04:26:28 PM

She's a really good mother and is very open about her kids being her priority at the moment. She works two jobs and raises them as best she can.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 28, 2011, 04:35:25 PM

Two jobs? that's a red flag. Two jobs and two kids = no time for BJ's

bail out, bro

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 28, 2011, 04:37:46 PM

kids by themselves are in no way a deal breaker.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 28, 2011, 04:38:39 PM

Yeah. :drool lactating tits :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 28, 2011, 04:43:52 PM

i think a lot of people put women who have kids as a deal breaker because "well, they're not MYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY kids" which is almost always the excuse people have for turning down adoption because "well, they're not MYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY kids and it's unnatural!"

A woman who has kids is a deal breaker if and when she's stupid with her vagina box and continuously keeps having kids without means to support them and herself, if she's an irresponsible parent, or if she hasn't even a remote passing on her future and plans on working deadbeat jobs her entire life to maintain sustenance.

But simply having kids? If you want kids eventually, why turn her down? Unless you're a dude who's rushing, you should be able to have the means to support her and her children a few years down the line if everything goes as planned. You would have to be extremely superficial to turn down a fine woman just because she has a child; you don't know her story. If she's worth it, give her a chance.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 28, 2011, 04:47:05 PM

I don't think the problem is "they're not my kids, dammit!" I think the problem is more of a single mom working two jobs with two kids from two different prick dads. Just seems like a recipe for chaos.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 28, 2011, 04:49:12 PM

Well, I'm talking in general. It's a specific case by case basis. Like I said, you don't know her story. But yes, an example that you gave is a no no. But you and I both know most dudes don't mean that when they say a woman with kids is a deal breaker.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 28, 2011, 05:02:43 PM

For the record, I think Brand New's case is a deal breaker specifically because they're both from two fathers. Assuming she's his age, that's pretty fucking horrific. But then again, I don't know her story.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Youngblood on December 28, 2011, 05:52:57 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on December 28, 2011, 04:43:52 PM

i think a lot of people put women who have kids as a deal breaker because "well, they're not MYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY kids" which is almost always the excuse people have for turning down adoption because "well, they're not MYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY kids and it's unnatural!"

Well, don't forget that many people just aren't antsy to become parents. For the longest time, I wasn't ready to be a parent. Hell, when my wife gave me the news that the test came back positive, I wasn't ready to be a parent. However, in that example, we were married and I knew we were going to have kids at some point, so I knew this was something I had to get over. I thought I had a couple of more carefree years ahead of me, but since I knocked her up, it was time to face my impending doom. And hey, it wasn't all that bad! I might even argue now that it's a good thing.

However, in an alternate lifetime where I was single at that very same time, I honestly don't think I would be very keen on dating a woman with kids. That's not to say that my incredibly high standards would have precluded me from even considering the possibility, but I think I would have been very cautious in moving forward with such a relationship. I ended up taking responsibility for my kid because he's my kid, and I played something of a role in his creation. But someone else's kid? Eeeehhh... yeah, I'm not a fan of kids. Kids suck. My kid's awesome, mind you. But kids suck.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on December 28, 2011, 06:20:12 PM

I'll never understand how people can have kids before 25. I don't really care how "mature" they claim to be, they've only been an adult for less than 7 years.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on December 28, 2011, 06:29:33 PM

ha ha ha two dads. she loves that peepee. creampie her like it was a viral video i would eventually tug to.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 28, 2011, 06:47:24 PM

Comparing having kids to adoption is stupid. Having two kids by two different fathers and being under the age of 25 is a red flag of the highest order, I'm sorry. People who adopt children tend to be older and financially set, not young and working two jobs to make ends meat. I don't want to sound like some condescending asshole but that's the truth.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on December 28, 2011, 06:58:07 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 28, 2011, 06:47:24 PM

Comparing having kids to adoption is stupid. Having two kids by two different fathers and being under the age of 25 is a red flag of the highest order, I'm sorry. People who adopt children tend to be older and financially set, not young and working two jobs to make ends meat. I don't want to sound like some condescending asshole but that's the truth.

True dat. My mom was adopted by her parents because they wanted a girl and her brother put a lot of stress on her mother in labor.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 28, 2011, 08:01:22 PM

Glad ya'll are being supportive :yuck

She's 26.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on December 28, 2011, 08:14:04 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on December 28, 2011, 04:47:05 PM

I don't think the problem is "they're not my kids, dammit!" I think the problem is more of a single mom working two jobs with two kids from two different prick dads. Just seems like a recipe for chaos.

Yes.

I have a friend who has a kid, and he's an awesome kid, but everytime a guy doesn't work out for her she blames it on him not wanting to deal with a kid. It's more of a way to excuse herself from her own behavior. You don't have to stop shamelessly flirting with every guy in a bar if you can just excuse a guy as being a kid hater when it doesn't work out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 28, 2011, 08:16:45 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 28, 2011, 06:47:24 PM

Comparing having kids to adoption is stupid. Having two kids by two different fathers and being under the age of 25 is a red flag of the highest order, I'm sorry. People who adopt children tend to be older and financially set, not young and working two jobs to make ends meat. I don't want to sound like some condescending asshole but that's the truth.

And if you read what I posted, you'd know that I agree that's the truth.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 28, 2011, 08:20:06 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on December 28, 2011, 08:01:22 PM

Glad ya'll are being supportive :yuck

She's 26.

She has two kids, each from a different man. This does not say anything to you? It's one thing to have one child young; I get it, sometimes things happen. But to have two by the age of 30, unmarried, AND both from two dads? It's suspect.

And you'd be a fool for pursuing her.

But like I said, having a child by itself isn't a deal breaker, but you'd have to be a dummy to go after a woman like this, at your age. What do you gain from it, really?

edit: I mean, I know most women your age tend to be obnoxious, why do you keep going for older women who clearly just have some angle? Women can be sly. It's easy to sniff out an angle. Don't think with your dick or your heart for a moment and think with your brain.

About two years ago this one chick tried to get me into being her baby daddy. Women will use sex as leverage for anything and they get the full bonus for doing it. Sometimes some pussy just isn't worth going after, dude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 28, 2011, 08:46:31 PM

::)

If I get a whiff of any of that, I'll bail. But she openly admits to being young and stupid, and she's focusing primarily on working and providing for her family. If I start the smell crazy, I'll tell her that I'm not game anymore.

It's really not as black and white as you make it seem, doofus.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 28, 2011, 08:51:05 PM

It's not just about her being crazy. It's also about her future, and your future with her. When I said that there's nothing wrong with going for a woman with a child, I mostly meant at a specific age and under specific circumstances. But you're like 21, a baby, and you're still in college. Do you really expect this relationship to go anywhere? Does she plan on going anywhere with her life or does she plan on working two jobs just to make ends meet? Can you provide for her if the shit hits the fan?

These are all things you must consider. I'm not completely saying bail out, but I am suggesting you use some discretion.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 28, 2011, 08:55:49 PM

She's going to be tied to those kids non-stop for more than a decade. Much of her youth will be spent worrying and taking care of them, plus dealing with TWO baby daddies/child support/drama/etc. Basically her time to be young is over, and perhaps having fun with a guy 5 years younger than her is a means of escape. I'm just saying leave the door open to be friends, hang with the kids if you want, etc. But eventually you'll have to make it clear that you're basically still a kid, and can't handle the responsibility and drama her situation will no doubt bring.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 28, 2011, 08:57:10 PM

Yeah, the whole thing is suspect. A 26 year old with two baby daddies goes for a young preppy 21 year old college student? I sniff an angle.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on December 28, 2011, 08:59:27 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on December 28, 2011, 08:46:31 PM

::)

If I get a whiff of any of that, I'll bail. But she openly admits to being young and stupid, and she's focusing primarily on working and providing for her family. If I start the smell crazy, I'll tell her that I'm not game anymore.

It's really not as black and white as you make it seem, doofus.

Are you ready to be a dad?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 28, 2011, 09:24:45 PM

y'all, I take things day by day. We'll see what happens in the next few weeks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 28, 2011, 09:26:22 PM

:wtf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 28, 2011, 09:27:27 PM

Just be careful. We're not trying to make fun of you or anything man, sometimes things aren't so clear when you're in the trenches.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 28, 2011, 09:28:12 PM

Where did you meet her? Please don't say a bar.

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Post by: Inspector Thatcher on December 28, 2011, 09:30:17 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on December 28, 2011, 09:28:12 PM

Where did you meet her? Please don't say a bar.

People say you can't meet "good" people (whatever that means) at bars, but I did. Good people hide in the strangest places!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on December 28, 2011, 09:31:30 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on December 28, 2011, 08:59:27 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on December 28, 2011, 08:46:31 PM
::)

If I get a whiff of any of that, I'll bail. But she openly admits to being young and stupid, and she's focusing primarily on working and providing for her family. If I start the smell crazy, I'll tell her that I'm not game anymore.

It's really not as black and white as you make it seem, doofus.

Are you ready to be a dad?

This.

Quote from: Stringer Bell on December 28, 2011, 09:28:12 PM

Where did you meet her? Please don't say a bar.

This, too.

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on December 28, 2011, 09:27:27 PM

Just be careful. We're not trying to make fun of you or anything man, sometimes things aren't so clear when you're in the trenches.

Mr. Gundam, that's just rude. After two kids, there's no guarantee it's a "trench." Sometimes things heal up just fine.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 28, 2011, 09:33:26 PM

Quote from: Inspector Thatcher on December 28, 2011, 09:30:17 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on December 28, 2011, 09:28:12 PM
Where did you meet her? Please don't say a bar.

People say you can't meet "good" people (whatever that means) at bars, but I did. Good people hide in the strangest places!

Yes, but we're talking about a woman with two kids at home working two jobs. A bar is the last place she needs to be.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on December 28, 2011, 09:34:58 PM

the sheer TERROR of having kids reeking from some of you people, god :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on December 28, 2011, 10:02:09 PM

Honestly it's better that than not taking the prospect of being a parent seriously.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on December 28, 2011, 10:57:53 PM

Quote from: Cormacaroni on December 28, 2011, 09:34:58 PM

the sheer TERROR of having kids reeking from some of you people, god :lol

If I was into someone with kids I'd at least be honest with myself about whether I'm ready or not to be their mother, because that's the logical conclusion to taking the relationship further.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 29, 2011, 01:15:29 AM

I could definitely see myself as a dad at some point in the next 3-5 years. Right this second? Probably not, I'd like to finish school first. But she understands that.

My dad was a father at 22. Got married at 19. He's been the best father you could ever hope for, and one of the hardest workers I know. I just hope I can be a fraction of what my dad is. I've always enjoyed the thought of caring for a kid, but not necessarily a newborn. So...again, I don't really know. And we're both sort of taking things as they come.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 29, 2011, 01:28:43 AM

i don't want to be a dad before 30. i don't get people who rush to be fathers/mothers.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 29, 2011, 01:36:13 AM

I don't call my position rushing at all. Ideally I'd be looking into marriage/having a family in my late 20s after I've worked a bit/finished law school. But if something arrises where that sort of responsibility becomes apart of my life? I'm not going to run away from it simply because "ew that girl has kids."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 29, 2011, 02:52:01 AM

I'm finally feeling good about being a Dad at 30. I can't imagine doing it sooner, and I've been married for five years now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on December 29, 2011, 09:54:36 AM

There are lots of great reasons to have kids early, if you are doing it with the right person. Chief among them:

1) Young people have far more energy than middle-aged people
2) Young people typically don't have a whole lot of cash, but they also haven't developed a bunch of expensive habits and hobbies that are hard to give up later.
3) You want to get started on home ownership as soon as possible - having kids usually forces the necessary financial discipline
4) Having kids in your 20s means you can think about retiring earlier than if your kids are still in higher education when you are in your 60s.
5) You will have a much better chance of meeting your grandchildren, and even with your own kids, you'll have a much better chance of sharing more of their lives with them (weddings etc)
6) Your health should be much better meaning far less chance of you dying or leaving your kids having to support you before they are ready. Have your first child at 45 and you could quite conceivably stroke out before they hit your teens.
7) If you want to have a bunch of kids, you have to start early. Even 4 or 5 kids (the average where I come from) means starting in your 20s.

You could go back and forth with these pros and cons all day of course. Having kids later means you are hopefully richer and wiser but there are a lot of drawbacks IMHO.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Youngblood on December 29, 2011, 10:06:42 AM

4 to 5 kids as the average? That sounds absolutely dreadful. This might be reactionary nonsense since we're right in the process of caring for an infant, but I think the wife and I might seriously be down for sticking with just the 1 kid. Other people with kids say we're crazy, but I think I could be content.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on December 29, 2011, 10:08:32 AM

Ugh, only one kid is so sad.

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Post by: Mupepe on December 29, 2011, 10:16:49 AM

Quote from: Rebiak on December 29, 2011, 10:08:32 AM

Ugh, only one kid is so sad.

True dat

No really. Some of you guys are making this into a way bigger deal than it is. BrandNew is not in a position to lose anything. If you don't think he's thought of all these things you're crazy. But he has nothing to lose by trying to work something out with a girl he genuinely cares for. And yeah, some people do make huge mistakes when they're younger but why should that disqualify them? It's pretty easy to tell who has their shit together and who doesn't after a few weeks/months.

PS: Cormac nails it by the way. I'm so happy that by the time my daughter is an adult I'll still only be 36.

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Post by: Steve Youngblood on December 29, 2011, 10:20:28 AM

Quote from: Rebiak on December 29, 2011, 10:08:32 AM

Ugh, only one kid is so sad.

Maybe, I don't know. Personally, I really just hate the idea of looking after multiple infant/toddlers. Caring for the one infant is already plenty of work (but worth it!), and as such it's hard to fathom doing this with a 1 - 3 year old running around. "Well, wait a little longer!" Yeah, that's something I suppose. But then it puts us at being a little older than we'd like to be at for raising a kid. A nice 5 year buffer puts us a 32 and 33 years of age. Not outlandish, but older than we'd like.

But we'll see. Everyone with kids says "Oh, just wait a year or two, and you'll be ready to have another." So, who knows?

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Post by: demi on December 29, 2011, 10:33:50 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 29, 2011, 10:16:49 AM

I'm so happy that by the time my daughter is an adult I'll still only be 36.

So am I

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 29, 2011, 10:40:51 AM

Wait. Do you want me or do you want her? Please say me please say me daddy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on December 29, 2011, 10:52:03 AM

Kids aren't Pokemon!

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Post by: Mupepe on December 29, 2011, 10:54:39 AM

to fistful they are. gotta catch 'em all

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 29, 2011, 11:07:30 AM

Because we realize it's not as big of a deal as most people act like? :smug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on December 29, 2011, 11:09:47 AM

I would probably initially avoid Getting involved with a woman with kids, but it's more about me. I'm really just not sure I want that yet/ever. It's unfair to waste her time while I figure that out

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on December 29, 2011, 11:12:37 AM

chicks with kids are alright wtf is wrong with you guys

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not married with kids

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 29, 2011, 01:12:04 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on December 29, 2011, 11:06:33 AM

So all the "chicks with kids are alright wtf is wrong with you guys" are already married with kids, that should tell you everything.

Another case of married people with children wanting everyone to be as miserable as them :violin

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on December 29, 2011, 01:14:01 PM

TBH people change when they become parents- but that all depends on successfully becoming the parent you need to be. I dont begrudge people who enjoy being a parent, but when they insist you arent whole unless youre a parent, or call their kids things like 'MY LITTLE MAN' I get tired of em

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 29, 2011, 01:17:13 PM

Ugh. the worst people are the ones who constantly tell my wife and I that we need children together. No no no no no no. Why? We are really happy together. If it happens, it happens. But at this point I'm not going to try. They all say that we need to complete our family and shit. Fuck that. We've got 3 dogs. We've got a huge family.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on December 29, 2011, 01:23:51 PM

Yeah people who pity single people or married without children folks need to step off

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Youngblood on December 29, 2011, 01:24:28 PM

I call my three month old little man. I'll just go quietly over into the corner and hang my head in shame...

But anyway, I don't think I'd advocate having kids as a must to anyone. I'd advise that it might not be as bad as you think, and that if you're in a long-term relationship that looks like it's going the distance, then it's something that's worth considering and not being terrified of. But honestly, I'd be a dirty, stinking liar if I were to parade about as though it's nothing but upside with absolutely no negatives to speak of. There are plenty of instances where in just this short period of time I've lamented the good ol' days of being able to do what I want when I wanted. If that kind of thing is important to someone, it'd be stupid to preach that you'll still have plenty of the proverbial "me time," because that's a lie.

There are positives to it, but just not in the way that's easy to articulate. As such, I don't mind cautioning that parenthood isn't as bad as you think, but I also don't see a point in trying to coax people into it. There's plenty of good reasons to not want kids, and I don't think any "you'll never believe what my little man did today..." anecdotes offer a compelling reason to reconsider one's stance.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on December 29, 2011, 01:29:50 PM

Quote from: Spencer on December 29, 2011, 01:28:04 PM

I'm probably gonna knock my wife up in the next year or two as my finances come together. :patel

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 29, 2011, 01:34:52 PM

I agree, Steve. But I think with any big decision there are moments where you regret it. Bought that house? When the A/C goes out you'll miss the days of the landlord having to fix it. Bought that expensive new car? You'll miss all the extra money when you didn't have the payment. Got married? You'll miss when you could just go home when she PMS'ed

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on December 29, 2011, 01:35:35 PM

I think Grass is Always Greener pretty much sums it up

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 29, 2011, 02:00:41 PM

Quote from: Rebiak on December 29, 2011, 10:08:32 AM

Ugh, only one kid is so sad.

Yep. Being an only child is shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 29, 2011, 02:23:15 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 29, 2011, 01:34:52 PM

I agree, Steve. But I think with any big decision there are moments where you regret it. Bought that house? When the A/C goes out you'll miss the days of the landlord having to fix it.

I like taking care of my house, gives me a real sense of ownership.

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Bought that expensive new car? You'll miss all the extra money when you didn't have the payment.

Buy a car that you can afford. That's why I'm rocking a totally paid-off 2009 Corolla XLE.

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Got married? You'll miss when you could just go home when she PMS'ed

Our house is big enough that we can go to different parts of the house to cool down.

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Post by: Barry Egan on December 29, 2011, 02:30:54 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on December 29, 2011, 02:00:41 PM

Quote from: Rebiak on December 29, 2011, 10:08:32 AM
Ugh, only one kid is so sad.

Yep. Being an only child is shit.

Qft

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 29, 2011, 02:35:03 PM

we are brothers in arms chipopo

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Post by: MrAngryFace on December 29, 2011, 02:38:09 PM

I have a sister, isnt that grand folks. Endless fighting.

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Post by: demi on December 29, 2011, 02:41:01 PM

Can't say I had any benefit of having a sibling either.

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Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 29, 2011, 02:50:09 PM

I've got a half sister from my dad's first marriage, but we never lived together (weekends, holidays and vacations) so I'm pretty much an only child.

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Post by: cool breeze on December 29, 2011, 03:17:22 PM

the grass is greener, etc.

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Post by: Cheebo on December 29, 2011, 06:47:42 PM

Kids are awesome I can't wait to have them. My girl and I both agree we want to start before we are 30, I am 25 now and can see myself being a father in the next few years. Ideally 27 or so.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 29, 2011, 06:48:48 PM

Quote from: Cheebo on December 29, 2011, 06:47:42 PM

Kids are awesome I can't wait to have them. My girl and I both agree we want to start before we are 30, I am 25 now and can see myself being a father in the next few years. Ideally 27 or so.

:fbm

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Post by: Cheebo on December 29, 2011, 07:03:38 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 29, 2011, 06:48:48 PM

Quote from: Cheebo on December 29, 2011, 06:47:42 PM
Kids are awesome I can't wait to have them. My girl and I both agree we want to start before we are 30, I am 25 now and can see myself being a father in the next few years. Ideally 27 or so.

:fbm

You'll have kids and you know it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 29, 2011, 07:08:53 PM

It has come to mind in the last couple months, but I feel like it's probably me being all emotional n shit. Statistically you're probably right, I'll get married/kids one day, but I want to get financially set first. And I know once I do that I'll most likely be too busy doing my own thing and having fun to start contemplating marriage.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 29, 2011, 07:11:44 PM

Does the world really need more children?

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Post by: Barry Egan on December 29, 2011, 07:48:17 PM

I think if you're a good enough dude than having a kid can be justified on political grounds.

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Post by: Shadow Mod on December 29, 2011, 07:50:07 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on December 29, 2011, 07:11:44 PM

Does the world really need more children?

Wait you're in the only child club too? Shit is lonely as fuck.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 29, 2011, 07:51:09 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on December 29, 2011, 07:50:07 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on December 29, 2011, 07:11:44 PM
Does the world really need more children?

Wait you're in the only child club too? Shit is lonely as fuck.

It really sucks balls. If I'm going to have children I will only do so if I have the means to take care of 2 children. No only child for me.

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 29, 2011, 07:53:11 PM

I doubt not having siblings truly sucks, but then again I have three brothers. Two are cool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 29, 2011, 07:57:08 PM

Why do you doubt being an only child sucks? It's lonely as hell especially after the 80's/90's child molester scare.

"I'm going to go outside. The guys across the street are cool."
"No. Don't go outside. Don't you have enough friends at school?"
":fbm"

At least if you had siblings you wouldn't be lonely.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 29, 2011, 08:00:35 PM

Eh. I've always been a loner so it wouldn't matter to me. But still, the idea that single children are lonely and have no one to play with sounds like an utter myth to me, like "homeschooled kids don't have anyone to talk/play with" talking points.

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Post by: Himu on December 29, 2011, 08:03:03 PM

It sounds like...a myth? :wtf

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Post by: Mupepe on December 29, 2011, 08:04:16 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on December 29, 2011, 07:57:08 PM

Why do you doubt being an only child sucks? It's lonely as hell especially after the 80's/90's child molester scare.

"I'm going to go outside. The guys across the street are cool."
"No. Don't go outside. Don't you have enough friends at school?"
":fbm"

At least if you had siblings you wouldn't be lonely.

Lol but you get more toys at Christmas!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 29, 2011, 08:06:14 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 29, 2011, 08:04:16 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on December 29, 2011, 07:57:08 PM
Why do you doubt being an only child sucks? It's lonely as hell especially after the 80's/90's child molester scare.

"I'm going to go outside. The guys across the street are cool."
"No. Don't go outside. Don't you have enough friends at school?"
":fbm"

At least if you had siblings you wouldn't be lonely.
Lol but you get more toys at Christmas!

Apparently toys > human life

Shows some priorities. That was always the argument some people told me growing up. I never got more toys than the other kids with siblings and I would have traded my ninja turtle blimp for a brother/sister at moment's haste.

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Post by: Mupepe on December 29, 2011, 08:13:29 PM

Ill trade you my brother and sister for that blimp right now!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 29, 2011, 08:14:02 PM

I don't really care about it these days, though, as the cousins I am close to are my brothers/sisters. But I still refuse to have a child, unless I'm capable of having multiple.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cheebo on December 29, 2011, 08:27:51 PM

I had no brothers or sisters which sucked. Yeah I was spoiled as a only child but I'd trade it for siblings. What made it worse was I never had any cousins I was close to at all. Holidays and family events rarely involved anyone but me and my parents.

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Post by: Himu on December 29, 2011, 08:29:28 PM

God that sounds horrible, Cheebs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other
Post by: Barry Egan on December 29, 2011, 08:44:46 PM

My father has a pretty serious and alienating personality disorder and my mother was adopted, so both sides of my family don't really include me amongst their ranks. Shit is tough.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 29, 2011, 08:46:30 PM

Imagine when one of your parents go and you're left with most of the work by yourself, Barry. Well, at least you had toys growing up!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 29, 2011, 08:49:41 PM

My dad's parents had 9 kids. One more including a half sister.

My mom's parents had three kids.

So I probably have like 40-50 cousins. I don't know the amount.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other
Post by: Barry Egan on December 29, 2011, 09:03:59 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on December 29, 2011, 08:46:30 PM

Imagine when one of your parents go and you're left with most of the work by yourself, Barry. Well, at least you had toys growing up!

sure was fun having mighty max all to myself in the empty desolate vacuum of childhood.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on December 29, 2011, 09:52:13 PM

My mother has 24 brothers and sisters. Poor catholics in Ireland who don't subscribe to birth control, and my granddad married 3 times due to terminal wife failure. Many of those kids went on to have families in the 6-10 range 'cause why not, still nothin' compared to what mum and dad had to deal with. They all get along famously. No-one knows exactly how many cousins I have, but it's comfortably over 300 'cause my dad had a huge family as well (9 kids). I have 3 brothers and sisters and everyone thinks that's on the small side.

On the other hand, my wife's extended family is tiny. My daughter has almost nobody. The main motivation I have to go back to the UK is just so she can experience the fun of being part of a huge extended family. I didn't appreciate it as much as I should have 'cause I just thought that shit was normal.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on December 29, 2011, 10:03:07 PM

your family could probably take over a weak country like Canada

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Youngblood on December 30, 2011, 01:05:02 PM

Hmm... on the cousins part, our son is screwed. I come from a family of 2, and my 32-year-old brother is neither currently married nor has kids. My wife comes from a family of 2 and her 25-year-old sister is neither married, in a serious relationship, nor wants kids at all currently. And my wife has 2 cousins total (one from her dad's side and one from the mom's).

At least my extended family is large, and I'm close with many of them. But that aside, my "one kid is enough" stance will be seriously challenged when he's the only kid running around at a lot of these family functions.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 30, 2011, 01:52:54 PM

I think we're only going to have one kid. Living in Seattle is expensive and our house isn't crazy big. My daughter will have lots of playmates as most of our friends already have kids or have kids on the way. My niece is in 2nd grade, and she's already psyched about getting to babysit her someday.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on December 30, 2011, 03:21:55 PM

lol, HUMAN LIFE I LOVE MY SIBLINGS

Get real fagmos. Roll of the dice when it comes to Siblings. Mostly those puritan christian familes have those sunday afternoon special relationships. Otherwise it's some bullshit hair pulling fights "he/she gets treated better, you like him/her more than me" crap.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on December 30, 2011, 03:23:04 PM

Damn, thought things were going well with this one girl (the one I mentioned earlier, who actually seemed to be somewhat normal)... but I just got ditched for a 3rd date. We were supposed to go out today, and she txts me this morning saying her friend called her up last nite in tears because she's undergoing a lot of stress, so she was gonna go spend time with her friend. I txted her back saying "That's OK, hopefully everything is OK with your friend. We can get together sometime next week." And then she was just like "thanks for being understanding". I think that one is done, and it's a shame too.

Went out with a girl yesterday, it seemed to go OK, even though she was a bit on the heavier side... txted her asking if she wanted to go out again but she said she is gonna be busy the next few weeks.

Fuck. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on December 30, 2011, 03:26:14 PM

She probably googled you and found your video of the last fat chick you fucked here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on December 31, 2011, 01:26:32 AM

Quote from: Cormacaroni on December 29, 2011, 09:52:13 PM

My mother has 24 brothers and sisters. Poor catholics in Ireland who don't subscribe to birth control, and my granddad married 3 times due to terminal wife failure. Many of those kids went on to have families in the 6-10 range 'cause why not, still nothin' compared to what mum and dad had to deal with. They all get along famously. No-one knows exactly how many cousins I have, but it's comfortably over 300 'cause my dad had a huge family as well (9 kids). I have 3 brothers and sisters and everyone thinks that's on the small side.

On the other hand, my wife's extended family is tiny. My daughter has almost nobody. The main motivation I have to go back to the UK is just so she can experience the fun of being part of a huge extended family. I didn't appreciate it as much as I should have 'cause I just thought that shit was normal.

:o :o :o

Quote from: tiesto on December 30, 2011, 03:23:04 PM

Damn, thought things were going well with this one girl (the one I mentioned earlier, who actually seemed to be somewhat normal)... but I just got ditched for a 3rd date. We were supposed to go out today, and she txts me this morning saying her friend called her up last nite in tears because she's undergoing a lot of stress, so she was gonna go spend time with her friend. I txted her back saying "That's OK, hopefully everything is OK with your friend. We can get together sometime next week." And then she was just like "thanks for being understanding". I think that one is done, and it's a shame too.

Went out with a girl yesterday, it seemed to go OK, even though she was a bit on the heavier side... txted her asking if she wanted to go out again but she said she is gonna be busy the next few weeks.

Fuck. :'(

What?! Why? It doesn't sound like a ditch, it sounds like she's being there for a friend. Sorry, what am I missing here?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on December 31, 2011, 03:11:37 AM

would YOU give up potential sex so you could help a "stressed out" friend get over their shit on a friday night?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on December 31, 2011, 03:16:04 AM

Quote from: Positive Touch on December 31, 2011, 03:11:37 AM

would YOU give up potential sex so you could help a "stressed out" friend get over their shit on a friday night?

Yeah. Pretty sure I have.

I guess is the question is, "Why would you not do that?"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on December 31, 2011, 03:36:00 AM

In cases where that friend is my wife, yes. 1,000s of times.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 31, 2011, 04:14:52 AM

Speaking of siblings, my sisters and I are best friends with each other. Sure, we argue, fight, and get stupid with each other, but we have way more fun and laughter together than ill feelings. I'd even wager that my sister Betsy is my best friend in my life. Always open to talk, always makes me laugh, and is much like me. Gives me girl advice as well.

This opens the floor for all the sister and incest jokes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 31, 2011, 04:51:54 AM

boom!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlueTsunami on December 31, 2011, 10:41:54 AM

11 aunts and uncles on my mothers side. My childhood was awesome because of it. Just having another sibling feels kind of sparse having grown up with so many cousins (and we've all grown apart now that we're older). I can't imagine how it would feel to be an only child, there are times where I don't want all of the attention of my parents on me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on December 31, 2011, 12:10:02 PM

Quote from: chronovore on December 31, 2011, 01:26:32 AM

Quote from: Cormacaroni on December 29, 2011, 09:52:13 PM
My mother has 24 brothers and sisters. Poor catholics in Ireland who don't subscribe to birth control, and my granddad married 3 times due to terminal wife failure. Many of those kids went on to have families in the 6-10 range 'cause why not, still nothin' compared to what mum and dad had to deal with. They all get along famously. No-one knows exactly how many cousins I have, but it's comfortably over 300 'cause my dad had a huge family as well (9 kids). I have 3 brothers and sisters and everyone thinks that's on the small side.

On the other hand, my wife's extended family is tiny. My daughter has almost nobody. The main motivation I have to go back to the UK is just so she can experience the fun of being part of a huge extended family. I didn't appreciate it as much as I should have 'cause I just thought that shit was normal.
:o :o :o

Quote from: tiesto on December 30, 2011, 03:23:04 PM
Damn, thought things were going well with this one girl (the one I mentioned earlier, who actually seemed to be somewhat normal)... but I just got ditched for a 3rd date. We were supposed to go out today, and she txts me this morning saying her friend called her up last nite in tears because she's undergoing a lot of stress, so she was gonna go spend time with her friend. I txted her back saying "That's OK, hopefully everything is OK with your friend. We can get together sometime next week." And then she was just like "thanks for being understanding". I think that one is done, and it's a shame too.

Went out with a girl yesterday, it seemed to go OK, even though she was a bit on the heavier side... txted her asking if she wanted to go out again but she said she is gonna be busy the next few weeks.

Fuck. :'(
What?! Why? It doesn't sound like a ditch, it sounds like she's being there for a friend. Sorry, what am I missing here?

Girls' excuses to not hang out have gotten a lot craftier lately...

but we'll see. I'll shoot her a text and try following up with her today.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 31, 2011, 01:04:50 PM

I'd give her a couple days; you don't want to sound desperate. And when you text, ask how her friend is doing first

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on January 01, 2012, 07:29:04 PM

To start the new year right, with the requisite angst and whining, it was very clarifying a year or so ago when I realized that the real reason I've never had a RELATIONSHIP had very little to do with looks, personality, insufficient confidence or aggression, being socially or interpersonally inept (which I sometimes am, but I can actually be pretty socially perceptive and effective, in my peculiar way, when I care to be and bother putting effort into it), or anything of the sort, but is almost entirely about extreme emotional laziness. Right now I have a nice long email in my inbox from a close friend I haven't seen in a year and really want to see again (not necessarily a "RELATIONSHIP" interest, but just representative of how I treat all my emotionally charged personal relationships, lowercase or uppercase), and I'm vacillating on whether to bother replying or not. It just seems like a lot of mental energy to expend when I could just spend more time feeling sorry for myself or writing stiltedly arch forum posts instead. If I do reply it'll probably be like a month later.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 01, 2012, 07:36:07 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on January 01, 2012, 06:11:27 PM

"Hey Yazeed! I know we've been hanging out for the last 5 months, but I've decided I'm tired of playing games and want to be your GF 3 days before you leave!"

:-\

you known what to do
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xt5ghXdq6Z0

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on January 01, 2012, 08:33:17 PM

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on January 01, 2012, 07:29:04 PM

To start the new year right, with the requisite angst and whining, it was very clarifying a year or so ago when I realized that the real reason I've never had a RELATIONSHIP had very little to do with looks, personality, insufficient confidence or aggression, being socially or interpersonally inept (which I sometimes am, but I can actually be pretty socially perceptive and effective, in my peculiar way, when I care to be and bother putting effort into it), or anything of the sort, but is almost entirely about extreme emotional laziness. Right now I have a nice long email in my inbox from a close friend I haven't seen in a year and really want to see again (not necessarily a "RELATIONSHIP" interest, but just representative of how I treat all my emotionally charged personal relationships, lowercase or uppercase), and I'm vacillating on whether to bother replying or not. It just seems like a lot of mental energy to expend when I could just spend more time feeling sorry for myself or writing stiltedly arch forum posts instead. If I do reply it'll probably be like a month later.

you didn't strike me as particularly socially maladroit in any way that would be offputting. also let's get lunch soon, i keep forgetting

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on January 09, 2012, 12:53:14 PM

My ex-boyfriend gave me an STI. WOOOOOOOOOOOOW. I'm furious AND disgusted.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 09, 2012, 01:37:49 PM

What's an STI?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on January 09, 2012, 01:39:50 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 09, 2012, 01:37:49 PM

What's an STI?

http://lmgtfy.com/?q=What+is+an+STI%3F

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on January 09, 2012, 01:46:53 PM

lol calling it an STI instead of STD

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on January 09, 2012, 01:47:33 PM

It's less typing and clicking just to ask on the forum and come back when someone's answered.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on January 09, 2012, 02:02:28 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on January 09, 2012, 01:46:53 PM

lol calling it an STI instead of STD

that's what the doctor calls it so that's what im calling it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on January 09, 2012, 02:03:45 PM

so don't keep us in the dark. What'd you catch?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on January 09, 2012, 02:04:18 PM

what'd you get

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on January 09, 2012, 02:06:45 PM

Quote from: ZephyrFate on January 09, 2012, 02:02:28 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on January 09, 2012, 01:46:53 PM
lol calling it an STI instead of STD
that's what the doctor calls it so that's what im calling it

damn, owned by doctors trying to make shit sound better. hope it can be cleared up

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ZephyrFate on January 09, 2012, 02:12:45 PM

chlamydia

but I just took the one dose needed to kill it so this shit is done with

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on January 09, 2012, 02:48:42 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on January 09, 2012, 01:46:53 PM

lol calling it an STI instead of STD

That's been a common term for quite a while now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on January 09, 2012, 09:01:54 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 09, 2012, 01:37:49 PM

What's an STI?

It was initiated in the Reagan era: Strategic Terror Initiative

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on January 09, 2012, 09:12:00 PM

Sadly, the real cool girl I met from OKCupid that I went out with a few times got a job offer in DC, so she said she didn't want to lead me on and that I was a nice person and all that... it sucks, but at least she was upfront. Nobody interesting has been biting lately, either... I have a date with an Indian girl but after doing some FB stalking, yeah definitely 'angle' shots on her profile :-\

Still nothing compared to Zephyr. Ouch, dude. Hope everything is OK.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 09, 2012, 09:15:53 PM

I've never heard of an Indian chick dating outside her race, at least not here

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on January 09, 2012, 09:35:01 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 09, 2012, 09:15:53 PM

I've never heard of an Indian chick dating outside her race, at least not here

I'm a white guy who loves curry and is a software engineer, you do the math :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on January 09, 2012, 09:40:43 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 09, 2012, 09:15:53 PM

I've never heard of an Indian chick dating outside her race, at least not here

It's pretty common in Seattle.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on January 09, 2012, 09:49:06 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 09, 2012, 09:15:53 PM

I've never heard of an Indian chick dating outside her race, at least not here

I've dated an Indian chick, although I guess I am kinda brown, just the other type of brown.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on January 12, 2012, 11:00:59 PM

Been emailing back and forth with this Chinese girl from (surprise) Queens, she's a Harvard Law graduate... even though I'm probably the only weeaboo in existence without a case of yellow fever... she's without a doubt very good looking! Crossing my fingers on this one...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on January 13, 2012, 07:09:31 PM

Quote from: tiesto on January 12, 2012, 11:00:59 PM

Been emailing back and forth with this Chinese girl from (surprise) Queens, she's a Harvard Law graduate... even though I'm probably the only weeaboo in existence without a case of yellow fever... she's without a doubt very good looking! Crossing my fingers on this one...

I think not having the fever is going to work to your advantage over your unfortunate weaboo brethren.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on January 29, 2012, 06:37:12 PM

I've noticed that ironically the only type of girl that I can't even get anything started with is the gamer girl.

It's weird, because with normal girls, I have a pretty high percent turnover with getting dialogue going with girls I'm interested in. I'd say probably 75% success rate. Maybe slightly higher. But I have 0% with gamer girls. Every girl who would actually have something in common with me, aka. watches anime/reads manga/plays videogames and I'm talking about the same ones that I watch/read/play so we'd actually have stuff in common to talk about; or works in the game industry and plays games, goes to cons; all these girls NEVER respond back to me. No matter how good/bad looking they are. It's so weird. Maybe I just don't fit the profile of the type of guy gamer girls are looking for. small, skinny, bearded serious business man with a sense of humor; dunno.

So instead I keep going on dates with normal girls who are cool and interesting and have normal lives and it's really great. But I'd love to go on a date with just 1 person that I could talk to like the people on this forum about games/movies/anime etc... just to see how it plays out for curiousity's sake.

Tiesto, how do you approach initial contact with gamer girls? Do you mention games in your initial message? I generally don't and just treat them as any other normal girl. But it doesn't work. I also think a problem I have is that I try to hard with their initial messages to be clever and great because I want to break this streak of 0% and finally meet someone with a shared interest. Whereas with normal girls I don't overthink and don't try to hard and it's usually successful.

Anyhow, I haven't posted in a while, but things have been really good. Not settled down in any relationships (some possibilities exist though), but could see myself in one during 2012. Depends on how things go.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on January 29, 2012, 09:37:12 PM

Bebs, I just am like "I noticed you enjoy playing video games... I like a lot of retro/classic games myself. What are some of your favorites?", but of course I will ask them about other things in their profile too.

Going out with some girl on Tuesday to my favorite local pub... she seems pretty nice, the perfect combination of younger but with her shit together... but she's a bit too "Long Island" so I don't know how much we'll have in common. Other than that, there are a few girls I'm emailing with, making some plans soon... haven't been out on a date since the year started because I've been so busy with other social events.

Went to Bell Blvd with some friends after Korean BBQ, hit on a few groups of girls with my friend Andy (a Jewish lawyer too, bebs!), none of em really seemed that interested, since there was like a big group of girls and they were obviously there for a party and more interested in talking to us just to fuck around. One girl kept introducing me as her bf, and then she said that she didn't even go to school nor had a job. So I'm like "what do you do all day, sit at home and play video games?" and she's like "Yeah, I can probably kick your ass at Call of Duty". I'm like ***BAIL OUT***

A cute 26 year old girl emailed me today, saying how she read my profile and thinks I sound like one of the most normal guys on the site... (even after pics of me cosplaying and mentioning MLP in my shows) btw she has an 8 year old. 26, with an 8 year old. Make like Atari and do the math :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on January 30, 2012, 05:59:06 PM

gamer girls don't want gamer boyfriends. they can usually have any ol' gamer dork they want, which makes mister OMG I LOVE FINARU FANTASY-DESU the LEAST appealing man on earf. thus validated, they look for dudes ABOVE that level, physically AND socially. every time you moon over them, they think "hm, maybe i COULD do better!"

on top of that, most folks seek complementary mates, unless they have dependency/validation issues.

i work with a lot of gamer girls, and their bfs/spouses are never particularly big into video games or nerd media overall -- they're usually really into niche athletic things (skiing) and the outdoors, or are musicians. they're also usually better looking than you'd think a nerd chick could score, in my opinion.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 30, 2012, 06:28:15 PM

Niche athlete things like...motorcycles?

Quote

they're also usually better looking than you'd think a nerd chick could score

:smug mm hmmmmm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on January 30, 2012, 08:37:08 PM

I don't think I could have ever dated a "game/anime" girl. Just because I like those things doesn't mean I want my partner to as well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on January 30, 2012, 08:40:52 PM

I went on a "gamer" date with a chick from OKCupid that was part of the local anime club, served in the marines for 8 years (she was 28) and was planning on reenlisting. She also dressed up and acted at the local renaissance festival. Sweet girl but yeah not really my type.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 30, 2012, 08:48:04 PM

8 years in the marines? She must have had a killer body

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on January 30, 2012, 09:02:42 PM

I learned a valuable lesson today: always cancel first dates if even remotely sick. It's very difficult to be charming when you can't hear yourself speak through inches of solid mucus build-up. :thumbsup

Could've totally pulled it off on the second one though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on January 30, 2012, 09:40:56 PM

You should never go on a first date unless you are feeling 100%

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on January 30, 2012, 09:51:22 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on January 30, 2012, 05:59:06 PM

gamer girls don't want gamer boyfriends. they can usually have any ol' gamer dork they want, which makes mister OMG I LOVE FINARU FANTASY-DESU the LEAST appealing man on earf. thus validated, they look for dudes ABOVE that level, physically AND socially. every time you moon over them, they think "hm, maybe i COULD do better!"

on top of that, most folks seek complementary mates, unless they have dependency/validation issues.

i work with a lot of gamer girls, and their bfs/spouses are never particularly big into video games or nerd media overall -- they're usually really into niche athletic things (skiing) and the outdoors, or are musicians. they're also usually better looking than you'd think a nerd chick could score, in my opinion.

Hmm, I have dated some gamer girls and am friends with quite a few - and these girls all want to date (or are currently with) gamer dudes. I don't really care whether or not a girl is into games, as long as she doesn't mind that I'm into them. I do like it when girls at least make an attempt to feign an interest in my hobbies... Was pissed that my last girlfriend didn't even want one of my DJ mixes!!! :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on January 31, 2012, 12:29:58 AM

My wife isn't into gaming/giant robots/beer, but she also doesn't care that I'm into them as long as they don't get out of hand (time, money, etc.).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on January 31, 2012, 09:55:49 AM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on January 31, 2012, 12:29:58 AM

My wife isn't into gaming/giant robots/beer, but she also doesn't care that I'm into them as long as they don't get out of hand (time, money, etc.).

Same here. My wife is nerdy as shit about her own stuff. Comic books, some manga, shows, etc. But she gives me free reign over my gaming hobbies, my gun and car tweaking and my movie obsession. She is also very supportive about it and never tells me "I'm not going to that" so I'm very thankful.

And honestly I like that I can have my own interests without having to share it all with her. I like that she is very neutral about it. She doesn't hate it and she doesn't try to always be involved in it. All I ask is that she listens to me when I am all excited and babbling about something. So I'm good

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on January 31, 2012, 11:08:56 PM

Girl I just got back with was really fucking hot. Here's crossing my fingers she's interested!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 01, 2012, 12:23:16 AM

Awesome. Hope it goes well Tiesto!

The non-Japanese girls on OKC who are into Japanese culture and have the Japanese girl photo look and answer the question "do you want your baby to be the same ethnicity as you?" with a "NO" creep the fuck out of me. I'm so glad that was a Japanese major in college before otaku culture took off. No creepy "I want Japanese babies" girls in my class. Everyone was pretty down to earth and cool. At most we talked a little about manga and FFVIII.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bloodwake on February 01, 2012, 06:05:23 PM

I'm finally single for the first time in like three years. Guess I may have to start dating again at some point.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on February 01, 2012, 09:55:48 PM

From my internet research, it seems a lot of nerd girls are into imagining fictional male characters flirting and making out wit each other.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 01, 2012, 11:55:40 PM

I can do that

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on February 01, 2012, 11:59:33 PM

I'll do anything for my Gamestop princess.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on February 02, 2012, 02:14:00 AM

Tomorrow will make 3 weeks in the USA. Missing my wife and kids pretty badly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 02, 2012, 03:41:24 AM

Are they coming over shortly? What's going on?

One of my friends had to leave his fiance in Japan and come back to the US alone and sort out all the green card stuff and get a place to live. Took a little time, but she's over here now and they went and got married like the week after she got here in a court house without telling anyone for like $30 to speed things along on making her a citizen. Then they told everyone and are having a replacement wedding in the summer, so it all worked out.

Wish the best for you and your family.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on February 02, 2012, 04:27:00 AM

Anyone ever have fart contests with their wives/husbands/gfs/bfs?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on February 02, 2012, 09:11:06 AM

You make me miss her too. :(

Quote from: chronovore on February 02, 2012, 02:14:00 AM

Tomorrow will make 3 weeks in the USA. Missing my wife and kids pretty badly.

I feel for you bro. Hang in there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on February 02, 2012, 06:31:22 PM

Quote from: chronovore on February 02, 2012, 02:14:00 AM

Tomorrow will make 3 weeks in the USA. Missing my wife and kids pretty badly.

You've got a care package in the mail. Last part of it took way longer than I thought. >:(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bloodwake on February 02, 2012, 07:59:05 PM

Quote from: Robo on February 01, 2012, 11:59:33 PM

I'll do anything for my Gamestop princess.

I work with two female employees, both of which I think hate me because I do my job better than they do.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on February 03, 2012, 08:59:56 AM

So here I am at the clinic waiting to get tested for STDs. Great way to start Friday.

So I just had a q-tip stuck up my dick.

Preliminary results came back negative. Whew. I have to call back in a week.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on February 03, 2012, 10:25:36 AM

Quote from: tiesto on January 31, 2012, 11:08:56 PM

Girl I just got back with was really fucking hot. Here's crossing my fingers she's interested!

Txted her last nite with "Hey, I had a great time meeting you the other day". She responded with "Hey, I had a great time too! But I think we are better off as friends."

:'(

This sucks... the only girl on the horizon is a rather plain one who never went to college. Tried talking to some girls last nite at the open DJ night thing I went to but most were either too young or obviously not interested. My friend said if I really want a gf I should lower my standards, but I'm past the stage in my life where I think I have to. Just gotta keep my head up high...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on February 03, 2012, 10:33:01 AM

At least she was upfront with you though.

Also dude, dont lower your standards. Unless you're a freak or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on February 03, 2012, 10:41:48 AM

You don't seem to have freakishly high standards or anything. You seem to just want stable normal chicks which isn't too much to ask. They're hard to find on their own but to find one you actually click with is even harder.

Lowering your standards won't make you happy. Just keep looking

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on February 03, 2012, 10:48:59 AM

Hardly. The girl I have been seeing called me last night saying she had a UTI. She hasn't had sex on over a year and was thinking it was an STI. Kind of freaked me out since I've only ever been with 3 people. If I had or do (fuck I dont even want to thin about it) then it would pretty much confirm my ex cheated on me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on February 03, 2012, 10:57:55 AM

Damn. Wasn't Zephyr infected less than a month ago too? Zephyr's ex had another man... named FoC.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on February 03, 2012, 10:59:13 AM

I'm clean... Hopefully.

Also, I've had no symptoms at all. I only went in because of my girl's UTI.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on February 03, 2012, 11:18:36 AM

Yeah, my friend's an idiot who is dating a 46 year old girl (he's 31) so I don't know why he is telling me to do that... I'm just gonna hang in there, just chalk things up to not having chemistry with the girls and not that there is anything wrong with me. I've been getting much more confident lately and stuff like this threatens to tear me down... Maybe I need to join some outdoors-related groups, or volunteer things, or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on February 03, 2012, 11:20:36 AM

Go shoot some guns :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on February 03, 2012, 11:22:56 AM

Quote from: tiesto on February 03, 2012, 11:18:36 AM

Yeah, my friend's an idiot who is dating a 46 year old girl (he's 31) so I don't know why he is telling me to do that... I'm just gonna hang in there, just chalk things up to not having chemistry with the girls and not that there is anything wrong with me. I've been getting much more confident lately and stuff like this threatens to tear me down... Maybe I need to join some outdoors-related groups, or volunteer things, or something.

One thing I've learned from OKcupid is that it's just a numbers game. Don't take things personally you know? Just be happy to be meeting new girls and eventually one will come along.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on February 03, 2012, 11:50:22 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on January 31, 2012, 09:55:49 AM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on January 31, 2012, 12:29:58 AM
My wife isn't into gaming/giant robots/beer, but she also doesn't care that I'm into them as long as they don't get out of hand (time, money, etc.).
Same here. My wife is nerdy as shit about her own stuff. Comic books, some manga, shows, etc. But she gives me free reign over my gaming hobbies, my gun and car tweaking and my movie obsession. She is also very supportive about it and never tells me "I'm not going to that" so I'm very thankful.

And honestly I like that I can have my own interests without having to share it all with her. I like that she is very neutral about it. She doesn't hate it and she doesn't try to always be involved in it. All I ask is that she listens to me when I am all excited and babbling about something. So I'm good

Same with my wife and I too. She doesn't give a shit about video games (Dance Central being the exception), but has no problem with me playing them. She pretty much just likes being in the same room with me and will watch stuff on TV or on her laptop while I play games. My hobby has never gotten in the way of our relationship...there's no way I would have married someone who had a problem it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 03, 2012, 01:00:40 PM

Quote from: tiesto on February 03, 2012, 10:25:36 AM

Quote from: tiesto on January 31, 2012, 11:08:56 PM
Girl I just got back with was really fucking hot. Here's crossing my fingers she's interested!

Txted her last nite with "Hey, I had a great time meeting you the other day". She responded with "Hey, I had a great time too! But I think we are better off as friends."

:'(

This sucks... the only girl on the horizon is a rather plain one who never went to college. Tried talking to some girls last nite at the open DJ night thing I went to but most were either too young or obviously not interested. My friend said if I really want a gf I should lower my standards, but I'm past the stage in my life where I think I have to. Just gotta keep my head up high...

You'll find one dude, don't drop your standards. Just keep at it!

I probably have the standards thing myself tbh, I'm really picky and I keep trying to date model looking girls and scarlett johanson look-a-likes and they're never interested. I think of myself as a hot guy in his prime who can get any woman he wants, but I might be overrating myself. When I watch movies and tv and everyone is gorgeous it makes me not want to settle for less. Media influence blah.

But yeah, it's just a numbers game with online dating and might take a while. I've been doing the first date thing with about 1 girl a week and no luck so far. Then again I've been using the site for about 5 years now and have never found a long lasting relationship from it. Meanwhile most people I know who've used online dating have found their wives/fiances/gfs within 6-12 months of signing up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on February 03, 2012, 01:11:06 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on February 03, 2012, 01:00:40 PM

Quote from: tiesto on February 03, 2012, 10:25:36 AM
Quote from: tiesto on January 31, 2012, 11:08:56 PM
Girl I just got back with was really fucking hot. Here's crossing my fingers she's interested!

Txted her last nite with "Hey, I had a great time meeting you the other day". She responded with "Hey, I had a great time too! But I think we are better off as friends."

:'(

This sucks... the only girl on the horizon is a rather plain one who never went to college. Tried talking to some girls last nite at the open DJ night thing I went to but most were either too young or obviously not interested. My friend said if I really want a gf I should lower my standards, but I'm past the stage in my life where I think I have to. Just gotta keep my head up high...

You'll find one dude, don't drop your standards. Just keep at it!

I probably have the standards thing myself tbh, I'm really picky and I keep trying to date model looking girls and scarlett johanson look-a-likes and they're never interested. I think of myself as a hot guy in his prime who can get any woman he wants, but I might be overrating myself. When I watch movies and tv and everyone is gorgeous it makes me not want to settle for less. Media influence blah.

But yeah, it's just a numbers game with online dating and might take a while. I've been doing the first date thing with about 1 girl a week and no luck so far. Then again I've been using the site for about 5 years now and have never found a long lasting relationship from it. Meanwhile most people I know who've used online dating have found their wives/fiances/gfs within 6-12 months of signing up.

TV is not real life, man! But you know that.

It could be a standards issue. Do whatever you want, but don't rule it out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on February 03, 2012, 01:27:00 PM

Quote from: lyte edge on February 03, 2012, 11:50:22 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on January 31, 2012, 09:55:49 AM
Quote from: Mr. Gundam on January 31, 2012, 12:29:58 AM
My wife isn't into gaming/giant robots/beer, but she also doesn't care that I'm into them as long as they don't get out of hand (time, money, etc.).
Same here. My wife is nerdy as shit about her own stuff. Comic books, some manga, shows, etc. But she gives me free reign over my gaming hobbies, my gun and car tweaking and my movie obsession. She is also very supportive about it and never tells me "I'm not going to that" so I'm very thankful.

And honestly I like that I can have my own interests without having to share it all with her. I like that she is very neutral about it. She doesn't hate it and she doesn't try to always be involved in it. All I ask is that she listens to me when I am all excited and babbling about something. So I'm good

Same with my wife and I too. She doesn't give a shit about video games (Dance Central being the exception), but has no problem with me playing them. She pretty much just likes being in the same room with me and will watch stuff on TV or on her laptop while I play games. My hobby has never gotten in the way of our relationship...there's no way I would have married someone who had a problem it.

Yep. I learned from my shotgun wedding that you need someone who is at least indifferent to your hobbies. I'm not giving up harmless things I enjoy for someone else. Sorry.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on February 05, 2012, 01:19:54 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on February 02, 2012, 03:41:24 AM

Are they coming over shortly? What's going on?

One of my friends had to leave his fiance in Japan and come back to the US alone and sort out all the green card stuff and get a place to live. Took a little time, but she's over here now and they went and got married like the week after she got here in a court house without telling anyone for like $30 to speed things along on making her a citizen. Then they told everyone and are having a replacement wedding in the summer, so it all worked out.

Wish the best for you and your family.

They've got school and work to wrap up, which will be finishing in March. The semester starts anew in April; they'll probably stay in school right up until the move, which first requires me to land a job. Hopefully that'll be soon, KNOCK WOOD (taps crotch).

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on February 02, 2012, 06:31:22 PM

Quote from: chronovore on February 02, 2012, 02:14:00 AM
Tomorrow will make 3 weeks in the USA. Missing my wife and kids pretty badly.

You've got a care package in the mail. Last part of it took way longer than I thought. >:(

Thanks! I won't report you as delinquent to the Secret Santa organizer. Oh... wait...

Srsly though, I am looking forward to it! Thanks!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on February 05, 2012, 01:29:07 PM

I made part of it, and it took longer than I thought.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Skidmark on February 05, 2012, 02:19:01 PM

I got drunk with a couple of friends a couple of days ago and when we went back home I made a move on my friend, she is also my classmate. We fucked . The next day she told me that i could sleep over at her place some night too if i wanted to. Yesterday I was at her place with some of my friends and some of her friends, when they all left I fucked her into next evening just like last time except this time we were a little more touchy touchy and talked a bit too.

She asked me a couple of times what I was after and I kept saying something in the lines of I do not know and let's not over think it now.
She has told me a couple of times that ''We will see each other at school again, you know?'' like she is worried about it getting complicated or something. I have heard that one shouldn't have sex with friends, classmates, co-workers and so on. I have never done this before.

Is there anything that I should watch out for? is there a typical way those kind of things end? any such experiences here on the bore?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on February 05, 2012, 02:20:14 PM

Be 100% honest with her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Skidmark on February 05, 2012, 02:25:37 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on February 05, 2012, 02:20:14 PM

Be 100% honest with her.

I like hanging out with both in front of my friends and when in private with her alone. I just do not think I can commit to her really.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on February 05, 2012, 03:42:12 PM

How it typically ends? Not good. Unless you're in a 2011 Hollywood romcom.

Edit: non smart ass response. It usually ends with one person wanting a real relationship and the other one doesn't.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Skidmark on February 05, 2012, 03:50:54 PM

Quote from: The Business on February 05, 2012, 03:14:27 PM

Why not?

Whatever it is, it is not a superiority thing. I just had a bad relationship and it got really ugly towards the end. As of lately I have been working on myself and got quite busy with it and it is just not where I have been seeing myself heading. I mean, she owns a house and she is only 23 years old, perfect settle down material. It's probably that I started enjoying being single lately. I do not know what it is really. I just want to be single but still want to have sex and intimacy if that makes sense? I do not know.

Is there anything I should watch out for or something?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 05, 2012, 09:58:20 PM

Had a couple of dates this weekend where both girls were happy with the first date and wanted a follow up date. Definitely feeling more confident now that I'm getting used to talking to women casually and comfortably, just being myself. :rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on February 06, 2012, 12:18:07 AM

yeah, I've come to accept that I'll probably be alone forever and am pretty happy & content with it now tbh. finally got my stupid OCR classifier exercise working! :rock

I like women, and hanging out with them, but being on the hunt for a "relationship" is just bad news.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on February 06, 2012, 02:12:53 AM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on February 05, 2012, 01:29:07 PM

I made part of it, and it took longer than I thought.

I am hype. Unless it is a 27 ft. long peristaltic movement.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on February 09, 2012, 08:21:23 AM

I just had a really vivid dream of my ex and I arguing for hours. Shit, she cant even let me sleep in peace.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 13, 2012, 02:50:07 AM

Had an adventure first date. 2 day straight concert/beaches/mini-golf/baking/movies/making out/sexing/etc..etc..

Was fun! Also, might be done with gaming for a while if this keeps up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on February 13, 2012, 04:17:45 AM

Moving somewhere where I can finally start meeting girls again. Thank god. I've been over my ex more than long enough to get back into the saddle!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on February 13, 2012, 04:43:54 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on February 13, 2012, 02:50:07 AM

Had an adventure first date. 2 day straight concert/beaches/mini-golf/baking/movies/making out/sexing/etc..etc..

Was fun! Also, might be done with gaming for a while if this keeps up.

our bebpo is growing up

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on February 13, 2012, 05:16:08 PM

Asian girl from Harvard wants me to go out with her to Queens tomorrow... aka V-Day... not sure if I'm ready to do all that V-day crap for a second date, not sure what kinda expectations she has or whatnot.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on February 13, 2012, 05:39:08 PM

Just take her straight to the church.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bloodwake on February 13, 2012, 05:42:57 PM

I think my tastes are changing from dating people I have a lot in common with to wanting to date people I don't have anything in common with.

Or more accurately: bone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 13, 2012, 05:48:06 PM

I never have anything in common with anyone so I don't really have a choice :lol I'm into pretty damn niche stuff even within niche hobbies.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

except for people here. Good thing I don't want to bone any of you.

Except Spencer & Brandnew :-*

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on February 13, 2012, 06:02:42 PM

Quote from: tiesto on February 13, 2012, 05:16:08 PM

Asian girl from Harvard wants me to go out with her to Queens tomorrow... aka V-Day... not sure if I'm ready to do all that V-day crap for a second date, not sure what kinda expectations she has or whatnot.

She pays on Valentines Day. You pay on White Day.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Break up with her before White Day.

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 13, 2012, 08:02:09 PM

If you start to date someone like 2 days prior to valentines day, you get a free pass and don't have to do anything for it, right?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 13, 2012, 08:26:51 PM

At least get some flowers, she'll expect something

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bloodwake on February 13, 2012, 08:45:36 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on February 13, 2012, 08:02:09 PM

If you start to date someone like 2 days prior to valentines day, you get a free pass and don't have to do anything for it, right?

Lol, wish that was the case. If you want to make it to day three, do something. Even if it is small, and even if it is unexpected.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Inspector Thatcher on February 13, 2012, 08:46:33 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on February 13, 2012, 08:02:09 PM

If you start to date someone like 2 days prior to valentines day, you get a free pass and don't have to do anything for it, right?

You don't have to spend oodles of money, but you should "do" something. Plan an inexpensive but thoughtful date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Akala on February 13, 2012, 08:47:42 PM

the crappiest chocolates you can find. a zero bar or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 13, 2012, 08:54:52 PM

She lives like 2 hours away and I don't have a physical address for her so I can't give/send flowers/chocolates anything. Also doesn't have a phone so no calling.

Will send a nice e-mail, anything more would be stupidly overboard and probably fucking creepy at this point since it's so early in.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on February 13, 2012, 08:59:50 PM

yeah, maybe just a jokey e-card or some shit but no more than that

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on February 13, 2012, 09:00:11 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on February 13, 2012, 08:26:51 PM

At least get some flowers, she'll expect something

lolol fuck that. that reeks of Jamesfrom818. "hey well since we went to the movies i bought you some flowers. you know, valentines day. heh, heh"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Joe Molotov on February 13, 2012, 09:04:50 PM

Give her a "1 Free Blowjob" Card that she can use anytime she wants to give you a bj.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 13, 2012, 09:07:44 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on February 13, 2012, 08:54:52 PM

She lives like 2 hours away and I don't have a physical address for her so I can't give/send flowers/chocolates anything. Also doesn't have a phone so no calling.

Will send a nice e-mail, anything more would be stupidly overboard and probably fucking creepy at this point since it's so early in.

oh well in that case fuck it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on February 13, 2012, 09:13:04 PM

I just got back from Whole Foods. HOLY SHIT DUDES EVERYWHERE. Buying up flowers, cookies, chocolates, wine, etc.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 13, 2012, 09:14:36 PM

guess they've never heard of Wal Mart

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on February 13, 2012, 09:45:00 PM

No Wal-Marts in Seattle.

Thank God.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on February 13, 2012, 09:55:51 PM

whole foods and trader joes are always crowded unless you go midday. it gets ten times worse when anything happens. literally anything. a little bit of snow = stock up for nuclear winter.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on February 13, 2012, 11:20:12 PM

Our Whole Foods isn't too bad unless it's after 6pm.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on February 14, 2012, 07:52:45 AM

Who else is getting some v-day action tonight? It's been almost two weeks for me between classes, work and us being sick.

:hyper

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on February 14, 2012, 10:19:45 AM

Quote from: The Business on February 14, 2012, 03:24:16 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on February 13, 2012, 08:54:52 PM
Also doesn't have a phone so no calling.

:wtf

My thoughts exactly. Bebpo needs to explain. Is she 15? Was her phone taken because she's grounded?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on February 14, 2012, 11:03:09 AM

Quote from: FlameofCallandorReturns on February 14, 2012, 07:52:45 AM

Who else is getting some v-day action tonight? It's been almost two weeks for me between classes, work and us being sick.

:hyper

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on February 14, 2012, 11:36:01 AM

Jesus. It's been almost two weeks and you're not married, FoC? Bail the fuck out. I'd divorce my wife now if she made me wait two weeks. Two weeks. YOU'RE INSANE

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on February 14, 2012, 11:37:40 AM

Dude said he was busy. It's not like he's getting DENIED action, he just can't afford between being busy and being sick.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on February 14, 2012, 11:40:15 AM

Pfft. Still not healthy. When it starts coming up on a few days you go out of your way to make it happen. Pfft. Two weeks?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bud on February 14, 2012, 01:21:04 PM

Quote from: FlameofCallandorReturns on February 14, 2012, 07:52:45 AM

Who else is getting some v-day action tonight? It's been almost two weeks for me between classes, work and us being sick.

:hyper

... and you bought that? jesus.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on February 14, 2012, 01:22:37 PM

No nookie for me tonight.

Or the next 4-6 weeks. No worries.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on February 14, 2012, 01:24:47 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on February 14, 2012, 01:22:37 PM

No nookie for me tonight.

Or the next 4-6 weeks. No worries.

see? now you have an excuse.

:lol FoC :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 14, 2012, 02:30:54 PM

Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on February 14, 2012, 11:07:45 AM

lots of people don't have phones these days

like

like bag-ladies

and magoose and diunx's families

My clients who don't have cellphones tend to be the happiest people I ever meet. They don't want all the distractions and people being able to get a hold of them at any minute in their life. They find life a lot more relaxing and enjoyable.

It's a lifestyle choice.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 15, 2012, 04:35:14 PM

Last girl I went on a date wtih is reaaaaally really into me. Like "you make me nervous/I need to see you/I want you here right now." I'm feeling a bit of it myself. I think we might make a good pair. The only problem is that sometimes if you start out relationships from crazy passion, 3-6 months down the line when it's died down you're like...uh, why did we go out again? At least that's what happened last time I was in a relationship longer than 3 weeks.

I notice that my relationships always tend to be passion based though because I meet people through the internet in this awkward form of meeting and then we meet up and if we both find each other attractive enough, one thing leads to another by the night; then days go by and we miss it and we meet up again and repeat. I think to start a relationship on friendship and getting along I'd need to meet someone through some other means where I get to know them first, then ask them to a date, or I need to stop being so fucking horny on my first dates. Being decently attractive + good at "things" + very horny is a bad bad combination for regular relationships, though probably good for one night stands but I'm not interested in the latter.

Oh well, just rambling a bit. Going to see her again this weekend and maybe spend the whole weekend living together again. Will see where it goes from there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on February 15, 2012, 05:19:55 PM

You read into this crap way too much. There's nothing wrong with starting out passionately. Trying to start out as friends with people is generally what fails. But who cares either way? Do what you do and you'll eventually find someone that you work with. Relationships starting out passionately and fizzling after a while is normal. It's not an exception for you or anyone else. That's what most relationships do. When you find someone special then you'll want to be with them even after that first excitement wears off. It has nothing to do with you being good at anything or how you appear physically. The same thing happens to everyone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on February 15, 2012, 06:00:57 PM

One of the best unknown dating tips I have gone across for ages is on the first date, you will both be pretty nervous, and nerves make adrenaline, and adrenaline reacts strongly with drink, so be insistent in buying the girl lots of booze, and insist firmly that she drinks them all, preferably hard and fast. While she does so, stare at her in an intense manner, chicks love guys who are intense.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on February 15, 2012, 06:15:18 PM

Quote from: Billy Rygar on February 15, 2012, 05:47:38 PM

Jesus Christ Bebpo. JESUS CHRIST

cosigned.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 15, 2012, 06:36:21 PM

Quote from: Billy Rygar on February 15, 2012, 05:47:38 PM

Jesus Christ Bebpo. JESUS CHRIST

???

*edit: Ok, I'm going to guess this has to do with the off-hand "live together for weekend" comment. Which normally is really weird and rushing things on the 2nd date. However, this girl has no car or mode of transportation and lives 2 hours away. So once we meet up, we're going to be spending pretty much every minute together until I drive her back. No real way of getting around that. It's a bit of a weird situation but I'm doing the best I can with it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on February 15, 2012, 09:50:27 PM

Why would you date someone with no car and 2 hours away. That's a lot of work dude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on February 15, 2012, 09:51:34 PM

Seriously. I Don't get it. Just go to the supermarket or barnes and noble and ask a chick out. Or hell, one of your clients (not sure of the legality of this). Fuck.

Why do you torture yourself with online dating?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on February 15, 2012, 09:54:49 PM

There is nothing wrong with online dating. I've met lots of cool chicks through OKcupid. It's great way to weed out peeps that are creepy or not interested.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on February 15, 2012, 11:20:31 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on February 15, 2012, 06:36:21 PM

Quote from: Billy Rygar on February 15, 2012, 05:47:38 PM
Jesus Christ Bebpo. JESUS CHRIST

???

*edit: Ok, I'm going to guess this has to do with the off-hand "live together for weekend" comment. Which normally is really weird and rushing things on the 2nd date. However, this girl has no car or mode of transportation and lives 2 hours away. So once we meet up, we're going to be spending pretty much every minute together until I drive her back. No real way of getting around that. It's a bit of a weird situation but I'm doing the best I can with it.

My co-sign has to more with you reading into things way too much. Things always start out passionately, that's the "euphoric bubble" of dating. When reality sinks in and you still want to be with her is the real indicator of "is this working?"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on February 15, 2012, 11:22:58 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on February 15, 2012, 06:36:21 PM

Quote from: Billy Rygar on February 15, 2012, 05:47:38 PM
Jesus Christ Bebpo. JESUS CHRIST

???

*edit: Ok, I'm going to guess this has to do with the off-hand "live together for weekend" comment. Which normally is really weird and rushing things on the 2nd date. However, this girl has no car or mode of transportation and lives 2 hours away. So once we meet up, we're going to be spending pretty much every minute together until I drive her back. No real way of getting around that. It's a bit of a weird situation but I'm doing the best I can with it.

Dude, just relax and roll with it! Have some fun, and quit over-thinking it.

I am a classic over-thinker. It serves no end.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 15, 2012, 11:47:38 PM

Yeah, she has a home phone and is getting a cellphone eventually because her work requires it. She just moved into the area so she's staying at a relatives and doesn't have a phone of her own right now.

And no, she's not 15! She's 30, like me :)

Yeah, I over think things. Oh well, it happens. Time to have fun!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Skidmark on February 16, 2012, 08:32:03 PM

Quote from: Akala on February 13, 2012, 08:47:42 PM

the crappiest chocolates you can find. a zero bar or something.

I have never seen a zero bar but i can imagine it :lol :lol :lol

Quote from: Joe Molotov® EDGE™ on February 13, 2012, 09:04:50 PM

Give her a "1 Free Blowjob" Card that she can use anytime she wants to give you a bj.

:lol

Edit: also, this is just sad:
(http://i.imgur.com/yETss.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on February 16, 2012, 09:10:51 PM

^ This is only because womens hormones go into complete super saiyan on Valentine's Day. Guys dont do this because they actually want to.

Men are pathetic simps on Valentine's Day.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on February 16, 2012, 10:40:59 PM

Date with a really cute perky girl today. Reddish brown, grey eyes, petite, really pale... even has some Polish and Lithuanian in her so of course you know that's my type 8) she's an EMT and works at an outsourcing company or something, has her own apartment which is good. Unfortunately we didn't really get to hang out for too long since she has to get up at the crack of dawn tomorrow, she seemed interested in wanting to hang out again so we'll see..... crossing my fingers for this one. I spilled some tea on myself during the date though :P

Tomorrow I'm going out with the Harvard Asian girl. We are going to see that Arietty movie and to eat Thai food in Queens. :hyper

This one girl who's doing her residency out east keeps wanting to hang out with me. I think she is a nice girl but wasn't overly attracted to her and she's always really busy which makes making plans hard.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 19, 2012, 02:47:42 AM

So fucking tired.

Dating/Relationships are exhausting. Good but tiring. I have no idea how you can sleep for 14 hours and still feel like you've only slept for 3 just because you're waking up every couple of hours and playing around.

Going to sleep in all tomorrow and play some vidya games.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 20, 2012, 05:56:53 PM

I kind of want some relationship advice for this relationship I'm now in, but don't want to post publicly about it for privacy concerns. Anyone who has experience with these things want to help a bro out?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on February 20, 2012, 06:07:23 PM

Feel free to PM or email me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on February 20, 2012, 06:17:21 PM

PM me, I'll tell you how deceitful women are and make you see the error of your ways.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 20, 2012, 06:52:40 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on February 20, 2012, 06:07:23 PM

Feel free to PM or email me.

Thanks man :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 21, 2012, 12:55:20 AM

Thanks to the people who offered advice through pms. I hung out with my irl friends tonight (something that doesn't happen that often anymore because everyone is busy with wives/gfs/work) and it was good hearing some outside opinions and I think I got my stuff together now. Will take you guys up on your offers if/when things get crazy down the line!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on February 21, 2012, 02:16:35 AM

Glad to hear it. Real life friends are the best source since they know you best. Hopefully they were honest.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bloodwake on March 02, 2012, 01:19:18 AM

About a week ago I hit it off with this girl and

AM FUCKING distinguished mentally-challenged.

I took down the wrong number. There was some intense making out so I'm under the impression we were both drunk and took the numbers down wrong. Maybe I am mistaken but I did meet her on a Thursday so I'm going to try to find her tonight at the same bar.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: WanderingWind on March 02, 2012, 09:49:21 AM

Sup. I've been married for, like, a decade. Very happily. Can't tell you much about getting girls, but I got some insights into keeping a relationship working. Hit me up if you ever need advice.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on March 02, 2012, 04:13:43 PM

Good to see this thread was bumped. I may be going out next week with a Japanese girl... The weeaboo in me is going absolutely crazy right now, I must try to suppress it!

Went on a date with a nice girl last nite, she was a bit on the space-cadet side of things but she likes Tiesto and AVB. Will have to call her back.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on March 02, 2012, 05:23:34 PM

Asian girls are psycho dude. I got over that a long time ago. Plus, I need a decent rack on my girl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on March 02, 2012, 06:27:31 PM

lol, every relationship here that involved an asian resulted in disaster. Stolen rabbits, hijacked accounts...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 02, 2012, 07:21:47 PM

that shit makes my dick deflate :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 03, 2012, 08:03:22 PM

Going on 6 months with my girlfriend. :heart :heartbeat :cookie

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on March 04, 2012, 09:44:00 AM

Holy shit, seems like you just started dating! Congrats! :heart

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on March 04, 2012, 10:49:16 AM

Oh wow, got the number of a really fucking CUTE blonde girl last night at a bar in Billyburg. Probably one of the hottest girls I ever picked up in person, she just moved to Manhattan from Dallas. :hyper

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on March 04, 2012, 02:37:24 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on March 03, 2012, 06:01:25 AM

Quote from: demi on March 02, 2012, 06:27:31 PM
lol, every relationship here that involved an asian resulted in disaster. Stolen rabbits, hijacked accounts...

tell that to cormacaroni and dcharlie

And me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Eric P on March 04, 2012, 02:38:56 PM

Quote from: tiesto on March 04, 2012, 10:49:16 AM

Oh wow, got the number of a really fucking CUTE blonde girl last night at a bar in Billyburg. Probably one of the hottest girls I ever picked up in person, she just moved to Manhattan from Dallas. :hyper

what bar?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Smooth Groove on March 04, 2012, 02:44:26 PM

Quote from: Spencer on March 02, 2012, 07:17:07 PM

Asian chicks are great if you're a pedophile or are into hurting chicks. Not for me, though.

I thought this japanese American girl was going to cry while I was fucking her. Not bueno.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on March 02, 2012, 07:21:47 PM

that shit makes my dick deflate :-\

Stop being racist. Ever heard of Asa Akira?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on March 04, 2012, 02:49:06 PM

Quote from: Eric P on March 04, 2012, 02:38:56 PM

Quote from: tiesto on March 04, 2012, 10:49:16 AM
Oh wow, got the number of a really fucking CUTE blonde girl last night at a bar in Billyburg. Probably one of the hottest girls I ever picked up in person, she just moved to Manhattan from Dallas. :hyper

what bar?

The Woods, right next to the Williamsburg Bridge. Have you ever been there? It's a decent place, my friends really like it for some reason. I bombed out like 4 or 5 times before I got the # though :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 04, 2012, 04:20:27 PM

Quote from: Smooth Groove on March 04, 2012, 02:44:26 PM

Quote from: Spencer on March 02, 2012, 07:17:07 PM
Asian chicks are great if you're a pedophile or are into hurting chicks. Not for me, though.

I thought this japanese American girl was going to cry while I was fucking her. Not bueno.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on March 02, 2012, 07:21:47 PM
that shit makes my dick deflate :-\

Stop being racist. Ever heard of Asa Akira?

Not a big fan tbh, but she's not bad. I'm more of a Lily Thai or Mika Tan guy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on March 04, 2012, 05:09:43 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on March 03, 2012, 08:03:22 PM

Going on 6 months with my girlfriend. :heart :heartbeat :cookie

Going on 2.5 years with mine!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Eric P on March 04, 2012, 05:21:01 PM

Quote from: tiesto on March 04, 2012, 02:49:06 PM

Quote from: Eric P on March 04, 2012, 02:38:56 PM
Quote from: tiesto on March 04, 2012, 10:49:16 AM
Oh wow, got the number of a really fucking CUTE blonde girl last night at a bar in Billyburg. Probably one of the hottest girls I ever picked up in person, she just moved to Manhattan from Dallas. :hyper

what bar?

The Woods, right next to the Williamsburg Bridge. Have you ever been there? It's a decent place, my friends really like it for some reason. I bombed out like 4 or 5 times before I got the # though :P

Yeah, I know the place. Has good tacos outside. The inclusion of taco trucks into bars is a great invention.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bloodwake on March 06, 2012, 11:39:34 PM

And no luck finding the same girl, back to.....

MASS EFFECT 3

and

MASTURBATION.

The two may be related.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on March 08, 2012, 01:45:52 AM

I don't know why I wrote that. Goddamn caffeine.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on March 08, 2012, 09:50:24 AM

Quote from: Eric P on March 04, 2012, 05:21:01 PM

Quote from: tiesto on March 04, 2012, 02:49:06 PM
Quote from: Eric P on March 04, 2012, 02:38:56 PM
Quote from: tiesto on March 04, 2012, 10:49:16 AM
Oh wow, got the number of a really fucking CUTE blonde girl last night at a bar in Billyburg. Probably one of the hottest girls I ever picked up in person, she just moved to Manhattan from Dallas. :hyper

what bar?

The Woods, right next to the Williamsburg Bridge. Have you ever been there? It's a decent place, my friends really like it for some reason. I bombed out like 4 or 5 times before I got the # though :P

Yeah, I know the place. Has good tacos outside. The inclusion of taco trucks into bars is a great invention.

Yup, now we just need to get the inclusion of whole Taco Bells into bars :P

Girl didn't respond when I called her, oh well. Dating :gloomy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 11, 2012, 12:40:18 AM

damn

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 11, 2012, 12:32:27 PM

Things are not going so great right now with my gf, either... We hang out and stuff, but nowadays it seems like she's lost that romantic interest in me. She'll never initiate a phone call or text anymore and when she does respond to me it's usually like one or two words. Maybe the honeymoon period is over.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 11, 2012, 01:41:46 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on March 11, 2012, 12:32:27 PM

Things are not going so great right now with my gf, either... We hang out and stuff, but nowadays it seems like she's lost that romantic interest in me. She'll never initiate a phone call or text anymore and when she does respond to me it's usually like one or two words. Maybe the honeymoon period is over.

Do you constantly call or text her? Maybe she needs some space; nothing wrong with that

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 11, 2012, 05:22:02 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on March 11, 2012, 01:41:46 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on March 11, 2012, 12:32:27 PM
Things are not going so great right now with my gf, either... We hang out and stuff, but nowadays it seems like she's lost that romantic interest in me. She'll never initiate a phone call or text anymore and when she does respond to me it's usually like one or two words. Maybe the honeymoon period is over.

Do you constantly call or text her? Maybe she needs some space; nothing wrong with that

I think that's it.. see, for the past 6 months we were both texting and calling a lot. She dropped off while I continued... should I just stop texting or calling at all?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on March 11, 2012, 05:23:40 PM

have you directly asked her what's up? don't just walk off without doing that at least

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 11, 2012, 05:28:27 PM

Quote from: Positive Touch on March 11, 2012, 05:23:40 PM

have you directly asked her what's up? don't just walk off without doing that at least

I'm afraid to ask her that because I feel like I'm already annoying her and pushing her away.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 11, 2012, 05:33:00 PM

God, yesterday I told her that I felt like she was having doubts about our relationship. She told me that's something I'll have to deal with because she feels fine, and proceeded not to talk to me the entire night... so I already fucking blew it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on March 11, 2012, 05:55:01 PM

wallowing in doubt aint gonna do shit. man up and force a tough conversation.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 11, 2012, 06:49:21 PM

Quote from: Positive Touch on March 11, 2012, 05:55:01 PM

wallowing in doubt aint gonna do shit. man up and force a tough conversation.

I called her an hour ago but she's didn't answer eventhough I know she's not busy...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on March 11, 2012, 06:53:17 PM

Just play her game and give yourself some time. Don't call or text her for a day and see what happens.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 11, 2012, 06:58:23 PM

that's gonna be hard to do...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on March 11, 2012, 07:36:35 PM

Quote from: The Business on March 11, 2012, 07:31:32 PM

She's trashy anyway. Remember when you found her online and on your first or second date she was arrested for DUI and said you weren't a real man because you didn't take the blame for her? Wasn't she also living with some other dude and not paying rent? You need to take those rose-colored glasses off, buddy.

:lol :lol WTF man. I don't even know you, but I know you can do better than this bitch.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 11, 2012, 09:40:04 PM

Yeah, I'm a fucking idiot :-/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 11, 2012, 09:43:08 PM

Don't send her anything for a couple days. Then one day send her some flowers with a "I miss you" letter

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on March 11, 2012, 11:20:43 PM

Right now you're letting her be in control, and you need to turn that around so that you're in control. Because if she realizes she's the one holding the cards, she's going to perceive you differently, i.e. a manbaby. And when she starts thinking of you as a manbaby, you're done son.

So either stop calling/texting her and play it off that you've been too busy OR call her out on it in a way that shows her you aren't going to play games and you want things to change (either she needs to step up or you're out).

From my experience, if your gut feeling says it's done, it's done. It was fun while it lasted, but it's reached the end and onto the next.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on March 12, 2012, 12:27:14 AM

Quote from: Positive Touch on March 11, 2012, 05:23:40 PM

have you directly asked her what's up? don't just walk off without doing that at least

Don't just walk off...DRIVE off

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 12, 2012, 12:34:41 AM

Quote from: Cormacaroni on March 12, 2012, 12:27:14 AM

Quote from: Positive Touch on March 11, 2012, 05:23:40 PM
have you directly asked her what's up? don't just walk off without doing that at least

Don't just walk off...DRIVE off

Drunk, of course

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 12, 2012, 01:48:50 AM

I broke up with her

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on March 12, 2012, 01:54:13 AM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 12, 2012, 01:55:53 AM

wait, wut?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 12, 2012, 02:03:03 AM

Found out she reopened an okcupid account claiming she was single. She fucked up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 12, 2012, 02:06:55 AM

Recently?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 12, 2012, 02:37:57 AM

As of yesterday

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on March 12, 2012, 02:51:14 AM

Don't worry, she'll be in women's prison in a year for dui.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on March 12, 2012, 03:31:11 AM

Sorry to hear that BM. I know we all said she was no good and to stay away, but hey, if it worked and you were happy, more power to you, which it seemed like you were. Time to move on though and find a better girl!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 12, 2012, 03:35:11 AM

You were happy for a few months and had lots of sex I'm sure. So in the grand scheme of things you broke even. Nothing to be sad about dude, sounds like she was trouble...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on March 12, 2012, 03:37:12 AM

Seriously. Going behind your back to do that is just cold. What a bitch. Get an sti check up immediately especially after she pulled that shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 12, 2012, 09:58:46 AM

How long were you with her? Couldn't have been that long since I remember you posting about the DUI thing. Go get drunk and be happy you dodged an obviously crazy fucking bullet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on March 12, 2012, 10:38:20 AM

life lessons, bro. dont be all sad now, just go out and get something better!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on March 12, 2012, 11:00:53 AM

Was only a matter of time. Women are scheming pieces of shit. Moving on to the next sucker.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 12, 2012, 11:32:52 AM

I'm so horribly depressed anyway...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 12, 2012, 11:40:24 AM

Maybe I should reboot my okcupid account...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on March 12, 2012, 11:42:08 AM

Play Tetris, Blackmage

http://www.ox.ac.uk/media/news_stories/2010/101111.html

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on March 12, 2012, 11:44:45 AM

From the facebook updates it looks like you had a good time for what it was- sucks she did what she did but at least you ran around partying and having sex.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on March 12, 2012, 06:47:02 PM

Me and my girl got our first place together. Its tiny, but there is a fireplace and the location is amazing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on March 12, 2012, 07:15:53 PM

I have a dilemma.

I've been seeing this really great cute art teacher from Michigan over the past few months. Our relationship is pretty awesome I feel. However, I just got accepted into UT which is about 2 hours away. She knew I was applying and what my plans were when we met so there is no secret there.

I'm gonna talk to her about what she is looking for, even though I'm not really sure. I'm not sure I can deal with another long distance relationship.

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Post by: tiesto on March 12, 2012, 08:55:58 PM

Quote from: FlameofCallandorReturns on March 12, 2012, 07:15:53 PM

I have a dilemma.

I've been seeing this really great cute art teacher from Michigan over the past few months. Our relationship is pretty awesome I feel. However, I just got accepted into UT which is about 2 hours away. She knew I was applying and what my plans were when we met so there is no secret there.

I'm gonna talk to her about what she is looking for, even though I'm not really sure. I'm not sure I can deal with another long distance relationship.

Seems like there's no real confusion what to do... just talk to her and see what she's looking for, and play it by ear.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on March 12, 2012, 09:13:29 PM

Yeah thats what I'm gonna do. I' just talking it in my mind first. Any idea how she will react?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on March 12, 2012, 09:31:24 PM

Who fucking cares? You got in a super good school. Fuck what a dumb female thinks. Go get yourself some paper, you can buy 200 of her when you're done.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on March 13, 2012, 02:30:46 PM

Sounds like the life!

;)

Congrats.

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 13, 2012, 02:46:02 PM

Quote from: Spencer on March 13, 2012, 02:29:47 PM

Man it's been awesome since my wife quit her job! Slightly less money is completely worth it for a perpetually clean house and dinner on the table when I get home. :rock She's even got a few side projects starting that could bring in significant extra money!

(http://tinyurl.com/6ro6jo8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on March 14, 2012, 08:58:16 AM

The michigan girl talked with me about our plans. She came to the conclusion to end it it now before getting more attached. It sucks because we were both into each other and today we were gonna take a road trip to SXSW to see Fiona Apple.

However, at the end of the conversation she got mad at me because I mentioned that I never changed my Facebook relationship status (even though she doesn't have a Facebook account and we've only been seeing each other for about 2 months).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on March 14, 2012, 09:41:08 AM

Clearly she had issues from the start. Fuck her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on March 14, 2012, 10:55:57 AM

Damn you guys are brutal.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 14, 2012, 12:13:30 PM

She got mad about Facebook? Yea man you're better off without her. You'll find a nice country girl soon

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on March 14, 2012, 01:49:41 PM

Yeah, don't let people on here get ya down, I'm sure UT (Texas or Tennessee?) has a lot to offer as far as women goes... sigh I miss my college days. If I only wasn't so shy back then :gloomy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on March 14, 2012, 05:59:47 PM

Thats how it goes Tiesto. Thats why old people say IF I ONLY KNEW BACK THEN WHAT I KNOW NOW.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Inspector Thatcher on March 15, 2012, 11:52:47 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on March 14, 2012, 12:13:30 PM

She got mad about Facebook? Yea man you're better off without her. You'll find a nice country girl soon

Well, sure, it sounds trivial, but sometimes it feels good to have someone be proud enough of the fact they're in a relationship with you that they're willing to broadcast it to their friends.

Other times trivial crap becomes the focus of the argument because the real stuff (and that includes with one or the other partner, or the relationship itself) isn't working.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on March 16, 2012, 08:13:44 AM

Quote from: The Business on March 11, 2012, 07:31:32 PM

She's trashy anyway. Remember when you found her online and on your first or second date she was arrested for DUI and said you weren't a real man because you didn't take the blame for her? Wasn't she also living with some other dude and not paying rent? You need to take those rose-colored glasses off, buddy.

Yeah, BM, you'll be doing better soon.

If you want to feel really good, ignore her if you ever get a booty call from her. She handled things badly when she got pulled over drunk, when she wasn't into the relationship anymore, and when she finally decided to move on. If she calls you to get back in any way, just give the old Heismann Trophy pose with a polite "No, thank you."

If you let her back into your life, she'll respect you even less, and she will bail again. Establish some return of self respect by asserting yourself, and acknowledging that she's bad for you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlueTsunami on March 16, 2012, 09:55:01 AM

You shoulda' came back with "Shoulda' put a ring on it"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 16, 2012, 10:23:38 AM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on March 16, 2012, 09:52:56 AM

So at my buddies party two days ago I hooked up with this latina chick, got a booty call from her yesterday which went awesomely. We both decided it was just casual and moved on. Drama free right? No. My new found ex found out about it and came to me crying last night. Asking me why I would do that? Jesus fucking christ I'm sorry that I'm not going through the 5 stages of grief openly weeping about you all night long, life's too fucking short.

oh god. oh god. How old is she? YOu guys didn't even date that long. I get that you two are close anyways, but still. Jesus. Fuck dating.

If I ever get divorced I'm relying on hookers to get laid and companionship will come from inanimate objects.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on March 16, 2012, 10:53:10 AM

Wait. The same chick who turned you away like you're just a piece of meat came to you CRYING because you got a little piece of action?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on March 16, 2012, 12:11:08 PM

Went out with a Jewish girl last nite, had a nice time at a small coffeehouse near Jones Beach... unfortunately, she was pretty hardcore about religion (taught Hebrew school and everything) so I told her I was a former Catholic turned Agnostic, and we both decided it wasn't gonna work out. Oh well.

Tonite I got a 3rd date with the Harvard lawyer. She is nice but always so busy, so I don't get much of a chance to see her (plus she lives far away).

And have been talking to a girl who went to the same HS as me. She seems really cool and has a kickin' body and a good job. So we'll see, that one I have the best hope for so far.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 16, 2012, 12:52:32 PM

Quote from: The Business on March 16, 2012, 12:18:15 PM

Dating for a purpose as opposed to for fun seems dreadful.

This sums up online dating for me in general. Different strokes I guess. But the best part of dating was the unexpected part. I loved going out somewhere and randomly meeting a girl and even when it didn't work out those first few weeks of getting to know someone was really fun. But there's nothing quite like ending up in some strange girl's room when you assumed you'd just be JO'ing and watching movies that night. Online dating seems more like car shopping to me. Most profiles I've seen on those sites make me cringe.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on March 16, 2012, 12:56:59 PM

My experience with online dating was a little different. I treated it pretty casual and didn't really go in expecting anything. I had fun.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on March 16, 2012, 01:06:58 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on March 16, 2012, 12:52:32 PM

Quote from: The Business on March 16, 2012, 12:18:15 PM
Dating for a purpose as opposed to for fun seems dreadful.
This sums up online dating for me in general. Different strokes I guess. But the best part of dating was the unexpected part. I loved going out somewhere and randomly meeting a girl and even when it didn't work out those first few weeks of getting to know someone was really fun. But there's nothing quite like ending up in some strange girl's room when you assumed you'd just be JO'ing and watching movies that night. Online dating seems more like car shopping to me. Most profiles I've seen on those sites make me cringe.

like one with 5 cats and a dog in her apartment who forces you to read the pages in her astrology book that correspond to your zodiac signs after she got changed into a onesie?

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Post by: Robo on March 16, 2012, 01:14:24 PM

Is this coming from experience? Because that sounds amazing. Did her onesie have a hole in the butt?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 16, 2012, 01:14:56 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on March 16, 2012, 01:06:58 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on March 16, 2012, 12:52:32 PM
Quote from: The Business on March 16, 2012, 12:18:15 PM
Dating for a purpose as opposed to for fun seems dreadful.
This sums up online dating for me in general. Different strokes I guess. But the best part of dating was the unexpected part. I loved going out somewhere and randomly meeting a girl and even when it didn't work out those first few weeks of getting to know someone was really fun. But there's nothing quite like ending up in some strange girl's room when you assumed you'd just be JO'ing and watching movies that night. Online dating seems more like car shopping to me. Most profiles I've seen on those sites make me cringe.

like one with 5 cats and a dog in her apartment who forces you to read the pages in her astrology book that correspond to your zodiac signs after she got changed into a onesie?

Jesus, Cajole. What kind of freaky shit are you into?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on March 16, 2012, 01:23:03 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on March 16, 2012, 01:14:56 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on March 16, 2012, 01:06:58 PM
Quote from: Mupepe on March 16, 2012, 12:52:32 PM
Quote from: The Business on March 16, 2012, 12:18:15 PM
Dating for a purpose as opposed to for fun seems dreadful.
This sums up online dating for me in general. Different strokes I guess. But the best part of dating was the unexpected part. I loved going out somewhere and randomly meeting a girl and even when it didn't work out those first few weeks of getting to know someone was really fun. But there's nothing quite like ending up in some strange girl's room when you assumed you'd just be JO'ing and watching movies that night. Online dating seems more like car shopping to me. Most profiles I've seen on those sites make me cringe.

like one with 5 cats and a dog in her apartment who forces you to read the pages in her astrology book that correspond to your zodiac signs after she got changed into a onesie?
Jesus, Cajole. What kind of freaky shit are you into?

Nothing you wouldn't do, Mupepe. That's how I try to live.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on March 16, 2012, 01:38:48 PM

edit: Wow, ended up on the first page of the thread thinking it was new. Whoops.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 16, 2012, 02:45:30 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on March 16, 2012, 01:23:03 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on March 16, 2012, 01:14:56 PM
Quote from: CajoleJuice on March 16, 2012, 01:06:58 PM
Quote from: Mupepe on March 16, 2012, 12:52:32 PM
Quote from: The Business on March 16, 2012, 12:18:15 PM
Dating for a purpose as opposed to for fun seems dreadful.
This sums up online dating for me in general. Different strokes I guess. But the best part of dating was the unexpected part. I loved going out somewhere and randomly meeting a girl and even when it didn't work out those first few weeks of getting to know someone was really fun. But there's nothing quite like ending up in some strange girl's room when you assumed you'd just be JO'ing and watching movies that night. Online dating seems more like car shopping to me. Most profiles I've seen on those sites make me cringe.

like one with 5 cats and a dog in her apartment who forces you to read the pages in her astrology book that correspond to your zodiac signs after she got changed into a onesie?
Jesus, Cajole. What kind of freaky shit are you into?

Nothing you wouldn't do, Mupepe. That's how I try to live.

It's certainly served me well!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 16, 2012, 02:48:28 PM

I'm imagining Cajole saying "come onnnn" in his NY accent as cat girl waltzes out the bathroom in her Yankees onesie :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on March 16, 2012, 07:42:21 PM

Quote from: chronovore on March 16, 2012, 08:13:44 AM

Quote from: The Business on March 11, 2012, 07:31:32 PM
She's trashy anyway. Remember when you found her online and on your first or second date she was arrested for DUI and said you weren't a real man because you didn't take the blame for her? Wasn't she also living with some other dude and not paying rent? You need to take those rose-colored glasses off, buddy.

Yeah, BM, you'll be doing better soon.

If you want to feel really good, ignore her if you ever get a booty call from her. She handled things badly when she got pulled over drunk, when she wasn't into the relationship anymore, and when she finally decided to move on. If she calls you to get back in any way, just give the old Heismann Trophy pose with a polite "No, thank you."

If you let her back into your life, she'll respect you even less, and she will bail again. Establish some return of self respect by asserting yourself, and acknowledging that she's bad for you.

I'm sure he'll read this advice when she dumps him again a few weeks from now, because I think he already went crawling back.

PROVE ME WRONG BM.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 16, 2012, 08:42:28 PM

Yea BM, no disrespect to your former woman but you were clearly the most fuckable/attractive member of that relationship, no homo. You're tall, attractive, normal etc - and you live in California. You'll find another girl no worries.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on March 16, 2012, 11:35:56 PM

I wish I were tall. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on March 17, 2012, 07:22:34 PM

How tall are you himuro?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other
Post by: Barry Egan on March 18, 2012, 10:25:03 PM

Being tall rules so hard omg.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on March 19, 2012, 02:39:16 AM

I think for a long time one of my problems with the relationship and dating world was not knowing how attractive I was and at what level that equated to in girl attractiveness. I thought most every girl was too attractive for me and pursued nothing that didn't show initial interest. At some point, like late 20s, I stopped caring and just felt free to attempt any girl that interested me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on March 19, 2012, 02:49:11 AM

Quote from: Barry Egan on March 18, 2012, 10:25:03 PM

Being tall rules so hard omg.

as i was making out with some girl last night, she asked, "how tall are you?" and when i tried to add an inch, she was all over it

bitch

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 19, 2012, 03:37:49 AM

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on March 19, 2012, 03:40:48 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on March 17, 2012, 07:22:34 PM

How tall are you himuro?

5'6 :(

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Post by: Positive Touch on March 19, 2012, 07:26:57 AM

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on March 19, 2012, 08:10:05 AM

Quote from: etiolate on March 19, 2012, 02:39:16 AM

I think for a long time one of my problems with the relationship and dating world was not knowing how attractive I was and at what level that equated to in girl attractiveness. I thought most every girl was too attractive for me and pursued nothing that didn't show initial interest. At some point, like late 20s, I stopped caring and just felt free to attempt any girl that interested me.

Dude. Are you me? This exactly has happened to me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on March 19, 2012, 09:03:02 AM

Quote from: etiolate on March 19, 2012, 02:39:16 AM

I think for a long time one of my problems with the relationship and dating world was not knowing how attractive I was and at what level that equated to in girl attractiveness. I thought most every girl was too attractive for me and pursued nothing that didn't show initial interest. At some point, like late 20s, I stopped caring and just felt free to attempt any girl that interested me.

Yeah this is how things are going with me now... My friends now compliment me because I manage to approach some "really hot girls". Of course I bomb out with all of em hot or not, but oh well!

So anyways I went out with the Harvard girl... and yeah, this definitely isn't gonna work. She was asking me all about my future ambitions and stuff, like the whole date... asking if I'm planning on going into management, if I'm planning on getting an MBA (I have a Masters in systems engineering already and don't want to go back to school), if I've been working on updating my resume... and then she's like "engineers make 100k right?" (I don't :P) Then she asks if I have a tux and says I should get one (wtf would I do with a tux for??)...

So, I think this is what I get. It's Karma biting me in the ass for how I acted toward my ex.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 19, 2012, 10:25:20 AM

You guys should have discovered that shit earlier. Late teens/early 20's with a good job and asking out every hot girl I wanted to bang was a fucking gold mine. A woman's definition of what's attractive is so varied and usually so different then what men think that you'd be surprised at what you can get.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on March 19, 2012, 03:02:40 PM

I know this is true because Mupepe once told me how he picked up a hot girl working in the McDonald's drive-thru. Legend.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 19, 2012, 03:31:31 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on March 19, 2012, 03:02:40 PM

I know this is true because Mupepe once told me how he picked up a hot girl working in the McDonald's drive-thru. Legend.

I won. She has a kid now and is working at a local pizza joint. Now she's one of those people who only talks about their kids because their life isn't going anywhere

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on March 19, 2012, 05:39:47 PM

:bow Mupepe :bow2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on March 19, 2012, 09:07:40 PM

Is it strange that I hardly talk to my gf? We'll text for 5 mins at night like "hey, how'd your day go?", but otherwise we never talk outside the one or two nights we see each other on the weekend. I didn't really think much of it until I read some gaf thread about a guy in a long distance relationship who would talk for hours on the phone with his gf nightly.

I dunno, it's like talking with my brother who I see at work everyday. There's not a whole lot new to say on a daily basis, so I'd rather watch a movie or browse here at night than sit and talk for an hour. We talk on the weekend, but it's mainly an eye contact, physical communication relationship, so we're not all that conversation-y. I would say it's because I'm not really a talker, but that's not true; with certain people (like 1% of the population) I jive and am very back/forth conversation quipping. My gf isn't really one of them and I'm ok with that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on March 19, 2012, 09:10:59 PM

Also as a random aside, having to explain what tentacle porn is to a person oblivious to Japanese things when tentacle porn is the winner in a board game of Cards Against Humanity for the round is... :cookiem

Especially since myself, being the known Japanese connoisseur of everyone at the table, gets blamed for everything wrong with Japan like I created and support everything Japan.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 19, 2012, 09:12:28 PM

......................................

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Inspector Thatcher on March 19, 2012, 09:23:20 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on March 19, 2012, 09:07:40 PM

Is it strange that I hardly talk to my gf?

Every relationship is different. If the two of you have found a groove that works, good on ya.

Just check in every now and then in an effort to keep things working - sometimes adjustments and a new thing once in awhile help to renew the "freshness" of a relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on March 20, 2012, 05:02:07 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on March 19, 2012, 03:31:31 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on March 19, 2012, 03:02:40 PM
I know this is true because Mupepe once told me how he picked up a hot girl working in the McDonald's drive-thru. Legend.
I won. She has a kid now and is working at a local pizza joint. Now she's one of those people who only talks about their kids because their life isn't going anywhere

that sounds like half of my facebook

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on March 20, 2012, 05:04:51 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on March 19, 2012, 09:07:40 PM

Is it strange that I hardly talk to my gf? We'll text for 5 mins at night like "hey, how'd your day go?", but otherwise we never talk outside the one or two nights we see each other on the weekend. I didn't really think much of it until I read some gaf thread about a guy in a long distance relationship who would talk for hours on the phone with his gf nightly.

I dunno, it's like talking with my brother who I see at work everyday. There's not a whole lot new to say on a daily basis, so I'd rather watch a movie or browse here at night than sit and talk for an hour. We talk on the weekend, but it's mainly an eye contact, physical communication relationship, so we're not all that conversation-y. I would say it's because I'm not really a talker, but that's not true; with certain people (like 1% of the population) I jive and am very back/forth conversation quipping. My gf isn't really one of them and I'm ok with that.

Honestly? Sounds like you guys are going to be bored of each other if and when you live together.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on March 20, 2012, 11:43:50 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on March 16, 2012, 09:52:56 AM

So at my buddies party two days ago I hooked up with this latina chick, got a booty call from her yesterday which went awesomely. We both decided it was just casual and moved on. Drama free right? No. My new found ex found out about it and came to me crying last night. Asking me why I would do that? Jesus fucking christ I'm sorry that I'm not going through the 5 stages of grief openly weeping about you all night long, life's too fucking short.

Dude. Even if she apologizes, you get one giant get-out-of-jail-free card for not just going la bomba on her. Wow.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CrystalGemini on March 21, 2012, 08:58:24 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on March 19, 2012, 09:07:40 PM

Is it strange that I hardly talk to my gf?

Every relationship is different. Don't base yours off of what other people have experienced - there are plenty of couples who talk all the time and it still doesn't work out. Communication isn't based solely on verbal dialogue and relationships need more than just communication to make it work.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on March 21, 2012, 11:19:31 AM

Interesting... I'm fucking around on OKCupid and all of a sudden I get an IM from a girl. She's going to school to be a PA, and is Ukrainian... seems very into me too so far. Got her # and I'm gonna try and set something up soon... also talking to some other chicks that show promise, one of them is a fan of the Zeruda games and is a redhead, and some other real outdoorsy type emailed me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 21, 2012, 11:56:51 AM

Quote from: CrystalGemini on March 21, 2012, 08:58:24 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on March 19, 2012, 09:07:40 PM
Is it strange that I hardly talk to my gf?

Every relationship is different. Don't base yours off of what other people have experienced - there are plenty of couples who talk all the time and it still doesn't work out. Communication isn't based solely on verbal dialogue and relationships need more than just communication to make it work.

This. Some people don't want an SO that never shuts the fuck up or always wants to chit chat. Go by whatever works for you. My wife and I talk nonsense and like to spend almost every waking moment together. People have been telling us that we'll get tired of each other and it'll make us resent one another but fuck them, they've been saying that for over 6 years. There's only been two days in the last 6 years where we haven't spoken to each other.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on March 25, 2012, 02:33:56 PM

So I have been seeing this Mich. girl since early January. Things have been going really well and I really like her, but last night something came up.

Earlier in the day I realized that I always drive when we go out, and not only do I always drive, but I have ever even been inside her car. She's pointed it out to me, so I know she drives, but I'm always the one driving on our dates. No biggie really, but I asked her if she wanted to drive last night and she say no. Which was enough for me to ask her about it. So we talked for a bit. It just never occurred to her, to ofer to drive, and apparently in her past relationships, her boyfriends always drove.

It was a little odd to me, but I don't have much to go by. Am I out of line, in thinking it was weird?

She ended up driving that night, but I couldn't tell if I had accidentally guilted her or not.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on March 25, 2012, 03:07:48 PM

I would adopt a laissez-fare approach to the issue. Sometimes potential problems simply work themselves out when they are left alone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 25, 2012, 03:31:20 PM

I read that post anticipating a "turns out she's a felon on work release" twist and it never came

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on March 25, 2012, 03:39:59 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on March 25, 2012, 03:07:48 PM

I would adopt a laissez-fare approach to the issue. Sometimes potential problems simply work themselves out when they are left alone.

Thats the plan. I was just wondering if you guys think its normal for the guy to drive all the time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on March 25, 2012, 04:33:29 PM

i drive all the time. we also rarely have long conversations -- and we never did when dating, either. we've been married 15 years, and will be for many, many more.

relationships aren't a checklist. they're to be explored, not solved.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 25, 2012, 04:44:00 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on March 25, 2012, 04:33:29 PM

i drive all the time. we also rarely have long conversations -- and we never did when dating, either. we've been married 15 years, and will be for many, many more.

relationships aren't a checklist. they're to be explored, not solved.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on March 25, 2012, 05:06:27 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on March 25, 2012, 04:33:29 PM

i drive all the time. we also rarely have long conversations -- and we never did when dating, either. we've been married 15 years, and will be for many, many more.

relationships aren't a checklist. they're to be explored, not solved.

Well yeah I know that. I just want to know if I was out of line by saying that I don't won't to drive all the time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 25, 2012, 07:36:18 PM

How would it be out of line? If you don't want to drive, you don't want to drive. There is no set rule for anything like this. If it bugs then it bugs you and it should be brought up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on March 26, 2012, 08:03:21 AM

It's amazing how quick a no strings attached fuck buddy situation (Her idea to start with) can become complicated. She didn't give me more than one fuck before she was talking about a crush, being jealous of flirting, talking about how she couldn't read me, etc.

This is what I deserve for starting something with a classmate. Now I just to find a way to nicely end it so the next three years I don't have to deal with her + her friends making my life difficult.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 26, 2012, 09:46:35 AM

SMFH. It always gets complicated. Haven't you seen the movies? They just never really end up so nicely.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on March 26, 2012, 02:02:16 PM

Quote from: FlameofCallandorReturns on March 25, 2012, 03:39:59 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on March 25, 2012, 03:07:48 PM
I would adopt a laissez-fare approach to the issue. Sometimes potential problems simply work themselves out when they are left alone.

Thats the plan. I was just wondering if you guys think its normal for the guy to drive all the time.

I drive all the time (unless I've been drinking), don't have a problem with it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on March 26, 2012, 02:43:12 PM

I prefer to drive just because I don't feel safe with anyone else driving.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 26, 2012, 03:27:47 PM

Quote from: Zero Hero on March 26, 2012, 02:43:12 PM

I prefer to drive just because I don't feel safe with anyone else driving.

Same here

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on March 26, 2012, 03:28:58 PM

I don't have a problem with other people driving, it's just habit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 26, 2012, 03:30:57 PM

Other people driving scares me. ESPECIALLY my wife. At least she acknowledges she's a terrible driver and she drives as little as possible. But I drive like a fucking grandma so there's that too.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on March 26, 2012, 05:41:21 PM

Quote from: Huff on March 26, 2012, 08:03:21 AM

It's amazing how quick a no strings attached fuck buddy situation (Her idea to start with) can become complicated. She didn't give me more than one fuck before she was talking about a crush, being jealous of flirting, talking about how she couldn't read me, etc.

This is what I deserve for starting something with a classmate. Now I just to find a way to nicely end it so the next three years I don't have to deal with her + her friends making my life difficult.

one night stands are the way to go!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on March 26, 2012, 07:19:00 PM

Quote from: Positive Touch on March 26, 2012, 05:41:21 PM

Quote from: Huff on March 26, 2012, 08:03:21 AM
It's amazing how quick a no strings attached fuck buddy situation (Her idea to start with) can become complicated. She didn't give me more than one fuck before she was talking about a crush, being jealous of flirting, talking about how she couldn't read me, etc.

This is what I deserve for starting something with a classmate. Now I just to find a way to nicely end it so the next three years I don't have to deal with her + her friends making my life difficult.

one night stands are the way to go!

It started as a drunk one night stand. I was happy to leave it at that but she wanted to continue it. It's funny, we haven't even fucked since we've "started" this "relationship" and shes already gone crazy.

I knew it would blow up, but I was hoping for a couple weeks full of sex before the end

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on March 29, 2012, 07:34:14 AM

Last night, the GF and I got into a minor argument that ended badly.

We were just texting back and forth as normally when she texted me a sarcastic comment that was obviously a joke. I didn't response right away because I was eating. She then text "kidding" as if you make suer I knew it was a joke. She has a history of doing this, which makes me feel like she thinks she has to walk on eggshells all the time.

I responded with "Can't wait to see you tomorrow. btw, you don't need to say "kidding" after your jokes. :)"

Shit hit the fan. She said I was being condescending, which I defiantly wasn't intending. Then she started to say that my smiley faces in my texts were dumb. Which I complete agree with, but only put them in my texts so that she knows I'm not taking myself seriously most of the time. The she says "I'm tired and going to get some sleep. I think I'm tired of texting so much."

3 hours later she texted this " I can't sleep now because I feel like I overreacted" I was asleep and just now asked if she was able to get some sleep.

I feel like she has some self confidence issues or something. She's really nice and great in other places but about every 10 days something comes up where I have to explain to her my thoughts. The problem is I have to do it without making her even more self conscious which makes me feel like I have to tread lightly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on March 29, 2012, 09:11:59 AM

Shoulda bailed. She's useless baggage. Who cares how she's feeling, she's a grown person. Just an act for you to give her that wanted attention. Give her the finger and go to sleep.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on March 29, 2012, 09:18:04 AM

it sounds like you need to set some standards for the relationship, otherwise things will just continue to inflate and the only recourse will be a full scale bail-out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on March 29, 2012, 09:19:54 AM

Damn demi, you're so cold.

I'm gonna try and talk tonight about some better communication. I feel like she thinks I'm mad at her even though i keep saying that if I were made she would know.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 29, 2012, 10:16:52 AM

I agree with demi. Sometimes girls actually do just want to start drama over nothing and they know coming back a while later and admitting they were stupid is an easy to get that "makeup" feeling. Tell her to quit being so immature and insecure about it all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 29, 2012, 12:36:34 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on March 29, 2012, 10:16:52 AM

I agree with demi. Sometimes girls actually do just want to start drama over nothing and they know coming back a while later and admitting they were stupid is an easy to get that "makeup" feeling. Tell her to quit being so immature and insecure about it all.

That could be too harsh. I obviously don't know her, but perhaps this is less of her wanting to create a "makeup" feeling and more an issue of personal problems and insecurity she has. Be open about it, tell her you love her (only if you do) and she can tell you anything that's on her mind.

It sounds almost like she's often trying to match or impress you, as if she feels inadequate or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 29, 2012, 12:52:48 PM

I don't know. The "your smileys are stupid" shit is what makes me think she wants to cause drama over nothing. I do annoying shit all the time and so does my wife. Shit like that. But good lord it's not even worth bringing up in the smallest of arguments. If she's causing fights over crap like that it's too much IMO. That is seriously nothing to argue about at all.

Edit: Maybe I'm just over "dating" in general anyways. After I knew what I wanted crap like that isn't worth it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 29, 2012, 12:55:40 PM

Quote from: FlameofCallandorReturns on March 29, 2012, 07:34:14 AM

I feel like she has some self confidence issues or something. She's really nice and great in other places but about every 10 days something comes up where I have to explain to her my thoughts. The problem is I have to do it without making her even more self conscious which makes me feel like I have to tread lightly.

This in particular is a red flag. Bring it up and fix it ASAP or bail out. It's not worth it.

Also, insecurity on her part is not something FoC can fix. He can be there for her but ultimately there's something she's unsatisfied with in herself. It's up to her to fix and until she can address it without blowing up over small things then FoC is just going to be there catching the shrapnel. Sounds fun!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on March 29, 2012, 02:25:22 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on March 29, 2012, 12:36:34 PM

It sounds almost like she's often trying to match or impress you, as if she feels inadequate or something.

I'm almost certain its this, because she keeps making sure I'm not mad at her. I'm gonna talk to her tonight especially about what Mupepe mentioned.

It's just this weird game of what is he/she thinking? I better think/do this if they are doing that. I'd rather just be myself and assume my SO is either okay with that or will bring it up. She's had some bad relationships in the past but that was 2+ years ago. To be honest I'm surprised about how chill I am, considering that I only got out of my last relationship that ended badly about 6 months ago. I know what it's like to be insecure so I know where she is coming from.

I'll talk to her and then see what happens. She's a pretty awesome gal otherwise.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on March 29, 2012, 10:12:50 PM

If texting was involved in the early stages of my relationship with my wife, I would not be married now. It just seems like such an endless series of death traps.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on March 29, 2012, 10:17:50 PM

Always avoid texting if you can. It's a fucking terrible indicator of emotions. If she can't be bothered to make some phone calls instead, then just drop her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on March 29, 2012, 10:23:24 PM

Texting is fucking awful for conversations that would be better served over the phone or in person. I wish someone would've told me that at some point early in my dating career, I might have fewer lines on my face.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 30, 2012, 10:20:11 AM

I text my wife pretty much throughout the day everyday and misunderstood texts is rarely an issue. :smug

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It's usually mostly nonsense though. Anything of importance and I'll probably call her

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on March 30, 2012, 03:40:54 PM

misunderstood texts are just potential foreplay

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on April 02, 2012, 04:33:30 AM

Relationships are about communicating.

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:hump :hump :hump

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on April 02, 2012, 11:28:44 AM

Speaking of texts, what's the general thought regarding someone not returning a text early-ish in the dating/relationship process? I tend to give it a few days and if there's no response, I back off, let them initiate the next contact with me. The safe assumption is that they don't want to, I think. Part of me feels like that's a bit melodramatic, but I can't think of any good reasons why someone couldn't return one in that time, and I can't help but get a bit emotional about being ignored, however irrational that may be.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 02, 2012, 12:04:41 PM

Quote from: Robo on April 02, 2012, 11:28:44 AM

Speaking of texts, what's the general thought regarding someone not returning a text early-ish in the dating/relationship process? I tend to give it a few days and if there's no response, I back off, let them initiate the next contact with me. The safe assumption is that they don't want to, I think. Part of me feels like that's a bit melodramatic, but I can't think of any good reasons why someone couldn't return one in that time, and I can't help but get a bit emotional about being ignored, however irrational that may be.

Nah. It's completely rational to getting a bit irritated about being ignored. The problem is how you react to it. A normal human being says "well, then fuck you too" and stops communicating. An emotional wreck/psycho sends a million texts asking why they're being ignored.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on April 02, 2012, 12:13:44 PM

R U OK!?!

SRS ARE U OK??

WAIT R WE OK?!?!

MG ME WHEN U GET CHANCE!!!

OOPS MSG ME WHEN U GET CHANCE!!!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on April 02, 2012, 12:15:53 PM

That's where I'm a bit torn: is "well, fuck you then" a reasonable response? It's just a text, but I don't really buy someone forgetting if they're at all interested. I can't even bring myself to pursue beyond that point—it just spoils the whole thing for me and it's a not a game I'm willing to play.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on April 02, 2012, 12:20:36 PM

Texts are just an awful way to conduct a relationship. Or much of anything really. It lacks all context.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 02, 2012, 12:23:31 PM

Well I'm not suggesting if they come back to you and say "hey, sorry about that. I lost my phone" or "I have been extremely busy" or something you don't flat out say FUCK YOU. I meant to say it as you just end up thinking that you've initiated enough contact that if they really want to talk to you they at least know you've tried and either way you know where you stand.

I think the same way as you. I have my phone and it's generally not more than a few hours before I respond if I'm actually busy. But sometimes it does slip my mind and I see the text again later and I think "oh shit, i never responded". At that point I usually respond no matter how long it's been. I think most people should be able to give me the same courtesy of at least a response.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on April 02, 2012, 12:25:50 PM

Most people dont respond to the very few texts I send- i'm used to it i guess. If something matters enough i'll talk to them about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 02, 2012, 12:26:46 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on April 02, 2012, 12:20:36 PM

Texts are just an awful way to conduct a relationship. Or much of anything really. It lacks all context.

I agree to an extent. But it's a broadly accepted form of communication now. Shit, I even get work related texts now.

Quote from: MrAngryFace on April 02, 2012, 12:25:50 PM

Most people dont respond to the very few texts I send- i'm used to it i guess. If something matters enough i'll talk to them about it.

I agree about it regarding some things. I have a few friends who I know don't use texts. I call them. But I also have friends that I know text as much as I do and it's not normal to not receive a response. But then again, maybe I'm a bit biased because the only people I text are extremely close friends that I have known 10+ years. I don't really text casual friends. and if I did they aren't the kind of friends that it would bother me if they didn't respond.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on April 02, 2012, 12:34:04 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on April 02, 2012, 12:23:31 PM

Well I'm not suggesting if they come back to you and say "hey, sorry about that. I lost my phone" or "I have been extremely busy" or something you don't flat out say FUCK YOU. I meant to say it as you just end up thinking that you've initiated enough contact that if they really want to talk to you they at least know you've tried and either way you know where you stand.

I think the same way as you. I have my phone and it's generally not more than a few hours before I respond if I'm actually busy. But sometimes it does slip my mind and I see the text again later and I think "oh shit, i never responded". At that point I usually respond no matter how long it's been. I think most people should be able to give me the same courtesy of at least a response.

Nah, I got ya, we're on the same page here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on April 02, 2012, 12:34:30 PM

I guess I just dont have many friends that text me- im TEH OLD MAN at 32 I guess.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 02, 2012, 12:37:10 PM

MAF would be one of those old people that texts with "r u busy?" "what r u doing 2day?"

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My mom :(

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on April 02, 2012, 12:40:31 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on April 02, 2012, 12:34:30 PM

I guess I just dont have many friends that text me- im TEH OLD MAN at 32 I guess.

I feel older at a younger age :-\

I never start the text chain and my two replies are: "Just call me." or I spend way too long writing out a response, and as I do there are at least two or three more texts before I finish.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on April 02, 2012, 12:41:17 PM

its just a pain in the ass to type out a text message- if its not important enough to hunt someone down on in person, over IM, over the phone- then wtf am I doing?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on April 02, 2012, 12:50:19 PM

I'll know I'm old when I start texting with one index finger and have no concept of the vibrate function.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 02, 2012, 01:00:23 PM

Quote from: Zero Hero on April 02, 2012, 12:50:19 PM

I'll know I'm old when I start texting with one index finger and have no concept of the vibrate function.

:lol

And yeah, texting is quick as hell on my phone. And it's more convenient than calling. And no one uses IM anymore, MAF!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on April 02, 2012, 01:16:25 PM

I AM OLD AND NOT CHANGING WITH TIMES

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on April 02, 2012, 02:15:45 PM

I dont like talking on the phone cause I cant see how people are reacting to shit I say. JUST DISTRACTED!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on April 02, 2012, 02:47:06 PM

it's ok Robo, a girl has confused me with her texting (or lack thereof) recently, too.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on April 02, 2012, 03:39:01 PM

It's because your physical beauty confounds reason.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on April 02, 2012, 04:48:30 PM

are you saying i should text her a cock pic

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on April 02, 2012, 05:43:27 PM

I'm considering it, myself. Sending her a picture of your dick, I mean. Mine just won't fly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on April 02, 2012, 06:05:04 PM

just do some photoshop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 06, 2012, 02:54:26 AM

So, I have a girlfriend! :D :D :D :D

Her name is Carissa. She's 26, and a hair stylist. She smokes a lot of pot but that doesn't bother me. She's so fucking cute and kajdsfns I'm happy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on April 06, 2012, 03:36:24 AM

is she as hot as your sister BN?

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Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 06, 2012, 03:44:11 AM

(http://i.imgur.com/My70z.png)
(http://i.imgur.com/OfLk3.png)
(http://i.imgur.com/BNzMg.png)

:)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: G The Resurrected on April 06, 2012, 04:51:07 AM

A woman with her own income to contribute to the household pot. Thats a keeper

I'm on the hunt for a proper engagement ring. I can't believe its gonna be 10 years come this June. 10 year anniversary usually come with diamonds hope she doesn't know that so its a surprise.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on April 06, 2012, 07:59:16 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on April 06, 2012, 02:54:26 AM

Her name is Carissa.

(http://i.imgur.com/knmbP.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on April 06, 2012, 08:12:10 AM

Did you ask her to go steady?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on April 06, 2012, 08:42:37 AM

Congrats, BN! Springtime is a great time for new love...

Stuff has been kinda slow on my front. Too many flaky girls!! :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 06, 2012, 10:03:02 AM

Quote from: G The Resurrected on April 06, 2012, 04:51:07 AM

A woman with her own income to contribute to the household pot. Thats a keeper

A woman having a job makes her a keeper? No, bro. It certainly doesn't hurt but at the very least she should have a job. A woman making more than me and being my sugar momma makes her a keeper.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on April 06, 2012, 10:42:10 AM

Are you gonna try to smoke a lot of pot now in an effort to connect? Like, spiritually and shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 06, 2012, 12:47:45 PM

Can't wait for the "wait, she just told me she has a kid" post :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 06, 2012, 12:52:46 PM

Wasn't there a GAF thread where some dude's girl had an ex that showed up at his house, pushed him around and then left with his girlfriend? That was probably the saddest thing I've ever read on the internet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: G The Resurrected on April 06, 2012, 01:09:03 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on April 06, 2012, 10:03:02 AM

Quote from: G The Resurrected on April 06, 2012, 04:51:07 AM
A woman with her own income to contribute to the household pot. Thats a keeper
A woman having a job makes her a keeper? No, bro. It certainly doesn't hurt but at the very least she should have a job. A woman making more than me and being my sugar momma makes her a keeper.

HAHA you did get the funny yes? household pot? yeah lame

BN I wish you the best of luck in your endeavors 26 is a good age they ain't all baby crazy yet. Mine is going on 28 and is crazy to have kids. It was like one day out of the blue god talked to her and she was like: "its time to have kids"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 06, 2012, 01:12:00 PM

:lol I actually missed that

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 06, 2012, 01:50:59 PM

Awww :heartbeat

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 06, 2012, 02:58:35 PM

Quote from: Billy Rygar on April 06, 2012, 01:43:43 PM

I've been married for 6 years today :-[

:uguu :uguu :uguu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on April 06, 2012, 03:54:09 PM

Quote from: Billy Rygar on April 06, 2012, 01:43:43 PM

I've been married for 6 years today :-[

:rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 06, 2012, 04:40:00 PM

which I'm sure lead to awesome, hipster wino endurance sex :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 06, 2012, 07:09:22 PM

Quote from: Billy Rygar on April 06, 2012, 04:31:15 PM

It's pretty great. We've only had one fight the entire time we've been married.

It must have been after you discovered a bottle of Manischewitz in the freezer

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on April 06, 2012, 11:22:55 PM

Congrats to Billy Rygar and Brandnew! Good times in relationship world for the both you!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on April 06, 2012, 11:29:11 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on April 06, 2012, 04:40:00 PM

which I'm sure lead to awesome, hipster wino endurance sex :drool

His wife runs marathons and shit, I bet she's a beast.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on April 07, 2012, 01:50:48 AM

Went out with a group of people including a girl that I've hooked up with that past. Everything was looking good for me getting laid tonight until her drunk ass cousin waltzed into the bar. Not a big deal until I saw he was packing. Fuck that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on April 07, 2012, 02:21:35 AM

She got mad, texted me "I only looked good for you"

next text "I didn't say that. Deleted that from your mind."

lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: DJ_Tet on April 07, 2012, 02:34:05 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on April 06, 2012, 12:52:46 PM

Wasn't there a GAF thread where some dude's girl had an ex that showed up at his house, pushed him around and then left with his girlfriend? That was probably the saddest thing I've ever read on the internet.

pls find link

Cute stoner girl BN, I don't think I could date a stoner girl but I always wanted to try.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 07, 2012, 11:57:20 AM

I mean, she's only a stoner in the fact that she blazes up every weekend, that's it really. Weekdays she stays, erm, not-high.

I had n amazing night with her last night. I haven't been this happy in years.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: DJ_Tet on April 07, 2012, 12:47:18 PM

As long as she takes care of her shit there's nothing wrong with being a stoner. Would way rather date a stoner than a drunk. Way less drama there too.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 07, 2012, 01:11:05 PM

I've heard smokers taste bad down there, if you know what I mean :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 07, 2012, 01:12:12 PM

I can testify that THATS not true.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on April 07, 2012, 03:46:42 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on April 07, 2012, 11:57:20 AM

I mean, she's only a stoner in the fact that she blazes up every weekend, that's it really. Weekdays she stays, erm, not-high.

I had n amazing night with her last night. I haven't been this happy in years.

Glad to hear it! :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: DJ_Tet on April 07, 2012, 05:07:23 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on April 07, 2012, 01:11:05 PM

I've heard smokers taste bad down there, if you know what I mean :-\

Smokers taste bad everywhere.

Stoners don't normally injest enough pot to make a difference though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on April 07, 2012, 10:32:56 PM

Quote from: Huff on April 07, 2012, 01:50:48 AM

Went out with a group of people including a girl that I've hooked up with that past. Everything was looking good for me getting laid tonight until her drunk ass cousin waltzed into the bar. Not a big deal until I saw he was packing. Fuck that.

u looked at his cock?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on April 10, 2012, 10:23:07 PM

Pretty hot 34 year old with some tig-ol-bitties wants to go out on a date with me. Not looking for a relationship with a girl 5 years older than me but if it leads to a casual fling, HELL YES. We'll see. Also talking to a 23 year old Italian dance instructor who sounds promising.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on April 11, 2012, 02:56:52 AM

Let me check in my book Tiesto.

Yes, a 23 year old Italian dancer does sound promising.

You cheeky fuck.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on April 14, 2012, 02:48:28 AM

Quote from: Premium Lager on April 11, 2012, 02:56:52 AM

Let me check in my book Tiesto.

Yes, a 23 year old Italian dancer does sound promising.

You cheeky fuck.

:lol

Stout response from a Lager.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lordmaji on April 14, 2012, 05:33:40 AM

huh... where to start? :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on April 20, 2012, 12:02:28 AM

I just broke up with my gf. I feel awful :( I hate having to do this to people. But the distance thing was really killer. Being sick and all recently, I haven't been able to go up and see her for a month and I felt bad that I wasn't spending time with her. Every weekend she'd get so excited to see me and every weekend I had to tell her I couldn't and I just felt like a shitty bf so I figured it's better to end the relationship and just be friends so she can hang out with other people and have good times and not be waiting for me.

It wasn't like we were super love/love or anything. Neither of us ever said "I love you". I liked her and she liked me and hanging out was fun, sex was fun; but because there was like a 90 min+ distance between us, everytime we saw each other it could never be a simple "let's go see a movie and I'll drop you home" kind of date, everytime had to be like 24 hour+ living together as we would end up coming back to my place and spending the night and then doing stuff the next day as well and maybe spending another night. Was a lot of time that being that close to one person so early in a relationship.

Was the first time I tried a long distance relationship and not planning on doing it again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on April 20, 2012, 08:35:26 AM

Long distance is tough. I can't imagine doing it with someone who I hadn't lived close by to first.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 20, 2012, 10:47:57 AM

I don't think I could start out with long distance between us. But like right now if I had to I could do with time away. It would be hard, no doubt but it wouldn't be a relationship killer for my wife and I. But I couldn't start a relationship with distance. I would just never be able to grow an emotional attachment without spending time with each other in person

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on April 22, 2012, 03:47:59 AM

It's really awkward when you're at a party and your friend brings a date who he just met a week before and she keeps flirting with you and sits next to you flirting with you in front of your friend. Was trying to ignore her since bros before hoes and all that, but do it in a way to not be an ass, and it just made it awkward. If a dude brings you to a party as his date, don't get drunk and hit on his friends. Not cool.

Quote from: Mupepe on April 20, 2012, 10:47:57 AM

I don't think I could start out with long distance between us. But like right now if I had to I could do with time away. It would be hard, no doubt but it wouldn't be a relationship killer for my wife and I. But I couldn't start a relationship with distance. I would just never be able to grow an emotional attachment without spending time with each other in person

Yeah, was pretty much this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 22, 2012, 01:54:52 PM

Blackmage it is time to explain yourself. I saw something on Facebook :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on April 22, 2012, 05:43:11 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on April 22, 2012, 01:54:52 PM

Blackmage it is time to explain yourself. I saw something on Facebook :(

Oh shit, brb

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on April 23, 2012, 03:08:21 PM

huh? what do you mean?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 23, 2012, 03:08:56 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on April 23, 2012, 03:08:21 PM

huh? what do you mean?

well from what I saw...it seems like you're back with you know who

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on April 23, 2012, 03:13:23 PM

shows how much you pay attention, jerkface! :maf and the answer is yes... for now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 23, 2012, 03:30:10 PM

Why add "...for now"? I'm not going to give my personal comments on her because I think you know where most of the forum stands in regards to it. But I just have to ask, why the "... for now?" Are you that unsure of your future with this girl? If so, why keep messing around? I never understood that. I have friends who are with girls and are telling me that "they've had enough" and are "over it" but they stay with them. If I had that lack of enthusiasm over my relationship I'd quit wasting my time. You're passing up pussy and potential happiness every day you keep wallowing in a failing relationship. Seems like most people are just content to pass the time with a fuck buddy rather than develop a healthy relationship. Just my $.02 and rant.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on April 23, 2012, 03:48:22 PM

I've become addicted the fun times we have when we hang out together. It's pretty sad, I know.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on April 23, 2012, 04:40:01 PM

You're young

Have fun

Don't get a DUI

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on April 23, 2012, 04:45:50 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on April 23, 2012, 03:13:23 PM

shows how much you pay attention, jerkface! :maf and the answer is yes... for now.

:whip

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 23, 2012, 05:10:27 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on April 23, 2012, 03:48:22 PM

I've become addicted the fun times we have when we hang out together. It's pretty sad, I know.

Not sad. It's honest. I think this is how a lot of people feel. That the good outweighs the bad so they stick with it. But a healthy relationship doesn't have dramatic breakups and then getting back together. A healthy relationship has so little of the bad that you never feel like you have to compromise your happiness... ever. There's better out there and you deserve it, dude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on April 23, 2012, 10:05:35 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on April 23, 2012, 05:10:27 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on April 23, 2012, 03:48:22 PM
I've become addicted the fun times we have when we hang out together. It's pretty sad, I know.
Not sad. It's honest. I think this is how a lot of people feel. That the good outweighs the bad so they stick with it. But a healthy relationship doesn't have dramatic breakups and then getting back together. A healthy relationship has so little of the bad that you never feel like you have to compromise your happiness... ever. There's better out there and you deserve it, dude.

Spoken like a happily married man. :rock

There are a few types of relationships - the stupidly-happy couple, the very content couple, and then the convenient couple. Maybe a few more in between, but those are the ones I see the most. You don't have to find "The One" to be in a healthy, happy, loving relationship, but you certainly shouldn't be wondering when you're going to break up next. Life's too short to be wasting time with someone who you don't love and/or who doesn't love you. You can have just as much fun with someone you're in love with, if not more fun.

Honestly, I think you've probably gotten a lot of good dating experience from this relationship that will help you when you start dating other people. Just don't get hung up on this one girl, and don't get discouraged if it doesn't work out. Girls don't like baggage, boo.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on April 23, 2012, 10:07:14 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on April 23, 2012, 05:10:27 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on April 23, 2012, 03:48:22 PM
I've become addicted the fun times we have when we hang out together. It's pretty sad, I know.
Not sad. It's honest. I think this is how a lot of people feel. That the good outweighs the bad so they stick with it. But a healthy relationship doesn't have dramatic breakups and then getting back together. A healthy relationship has so little of the bad that you never feel like you have to compromise your happiness... ever. There's better out there and you deserve it, dude.

:bow

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on April 25, 2012, 06:07:00 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on April 23, 2012, 03:48:22 PM

I've become addicted the fun times we have when we hang out together. It's pretty sad, I know.

I don't know you, but I've seen scenarios like this before. You probably just need to respect yourself more, and realize that you're intentionally hurting yourself by delaying ending it. Do you have self-worth or self-respect problems?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 26, 2012, 01:46:30 PM

::)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on April 26, 2012, 01:54:53 PM

I'm not even going to try to understand.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 26, 2012, 01:57:50 PM

As I said in my PM to you a few minutes ago....

:drudge :drudge :drudge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on April 26, 2012, 03:19:54 PM

Man they need to rename OKCupid to OKFlakester. So many flaky girls on that site, it's so annoying. Maybe I'll try Match again, back in the day I remember having better luck getting first dates. Starting to get a bit desperate for a girl, and that worries me. :gloomy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on April 26, 2012, 03:22:30 PM

Are you ugly?

I had no problem getting dates with OKcupid?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on April 26, 2012, 03:25:24 PM

tiesto is hunky

I thought you had a few leads going?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on April 26, 2012, 03:43:11 PM

FoC I've posted pics on here before... I don't think I'm terribly attractive (big nose, oily skin, hair that does what it wants, and lately getting a gut) but I've always suffered from low self esteem.

I've gotten plenty of dates from OKC, and I had a ton of leads... but I've been getting flaked on when I try to go for the meetup. It's just a thing I've been noticing the last few months or so.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on April 26, 2012, 07:19:37 PM

Time to pick up girls in the wild Tiesto.

Talk up a girl in the frozen foods isle.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on April 27, 2012, 02:49:42 AM

I'm really really bad at ending things with people. My ex is giving me all kinds of crap/guilt trip texts for breaking up with her so suddenly.

But if it's a short term relationship it's always sudden :P It's not like you're with each other so much you gradually both notice things not working. That's long term. I don't know how you ease into something like that without being sudden. Everytime I break up with a girl she gets mad at me afterwards. Maybe that's normal. I know what it's like being on the other side and it's pretty upsetting. I get devastated when I girl I'm really into dumps me, but I feel very little when I break up with a girl because it's not working. Shrug.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on April 27, 2012, 02:54:26 AM

Sounds like you are really, really good at breaking up with people

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 27, 2012, 10:02:23 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on April 27, 2012, 02:49:42 AM

I'm really really bad at ending things with people. My ex is giving me all kinds of crap/guilt trip texts for breaking up with her so suddenly.

But if it's a short term relationship it's always sudden :P It's not like you're with each other so much you gradually both notice things not working. That's long term. I don't know how you ease into something like that without being sudden. Everytime I break up with a girl she gets mad at me afterwards. Maybe that's normal. I know what it's like being on the other side and it's pretty upsetting. I get devastated when I girl I'm really into dumps me, but I feel very little when I break up with a girl because it's not working. Shrug.

It's normal. No one likes being broken up. Girls just tend to handle it differently.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 27, 2012, 10:59:32 AM

Quote from: Spencer on April 27, 2012, 10:57:18 AM

My first anniversary is Friday. I've already ordered her favorite flowers (birds of paradise) requested the day off to be with her, and plan on taking her to our favorite tapas restaurant, should I get something else?

If she's into this sort of thing, a BBC off craigslist as an anniversary gift.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on April 27, 2012, 12:14:54 PM

Quote from: dcharlie on April 27, 2012, 11:47:13 AM

.... 90 minutes travel is considered "long distance" ?

ok, "medium distance"

Basically if the distance is so great that you can't see your gf during the work week, or run over and comfort your SO if something is wrong, I consider that some sort of a distance issue.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 27, 2012, 03:17:35 PM

I wouldn't date a chick 90 minutes away. *shrug*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on April 27, 2012, 03:28:33 PM

:drudge :drudge :drudge

Wrath2X, if you really like the Turkish girl, bow out from the five-college-kids-in-an-apartment scenario, find a room elsewhere, and then sit back and wait for the fireworks. There is a 100% chance that shit will get sucky in the shared She'll want somewhere else to stay, and you can be the go-to location in that case.

Quote from: Bebpo on April 27, 2012, 02:49:42 AM

I'm really really bad at ending things with people. My ex is giving me all kinds of crap/guilt trip texts for breaking up with her so suddenly.

But if it's a short term relationship it's always sudden :P It's not like you're with each other so much you gradually both notice things not working. That's long term. I don't know how you ease into something like that without being sudden. Everytime I break up with a girl she gets mad at me afterwards. Maybe that's normal. I know what it's like being on the other side and it's pretty upsetting. I get devastated when I girl I'm really into dumps me, but I feel very little when I break up with a girl because it's not working. Shrug.

Quote from: Cormacaroni on April 27, 2012, 02:54:26 AM

Sounds like you are really, really good at breaking up with people

Yeah, I'm pretty sure that's how it's supposed to work.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on April 27, 2012, 07:14:53 PM

BULLET DODGED

you only want to move in with people if it looks like a pretty solid situation. moving in with someone you mess around with who doesn't even know what she wants would be so, so, so very bad

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 27, 2012, 07:31:07 PM

Wrath making badass moves, I no longer doubt you bro :bow

you can be my Hand Of The King anytime :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on April 28, 2012, 06:33:01 PM

Dry streak is over :sp0rsk1 . Even more :o is the predicament I now found myself in.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 28, 2012, 07:08:34 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on April 28, 2012, 06:33:01 PM

Dry streak is over :sp0rsk1 . Even more :o is the predicament I now found myself in.

I figured you'd be drowning in pussy, given the phat u you make

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on April 30, 2012, 10:38:55 AM

I checked on my Ex's time for a triathlon that I did (and finished) last fall. She just did it last month and.... she didnt finish. HAHA :lol

That made my morning.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on April 30, 2012, 10:43:22 AM

Quote from: The Experiment on April 28, 2012, 06:33:01 PM

Dry streak is over :sp0rsk1 . Even more :o is the predicament I now found myself in.

Doin' thangs :rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on April 30, 2012, 12:39:26 PM

Quote from: The Business on April 30, 2012, 12:31:17 PM

Quote from: FlameofCallandorReturns on April 30, 2012, 10:38:55 AM
I checked on my Ex's time for a triathlon that I did (and finished) last fall. She just did it last month and.... she didnt finish. HAHA :lol

That made my morning.

What is fueling this? Did she break up with you because you were too fat or something?

I'm not sure. I had already lost a ton of weight before she broke up with me and we were already signing up for some running events together.
She wanted to fuck some older (45 years) married man at her gym. And the Long distance relationship. Who knows.

I will say that the breakup was one of the biggest motivations I have ever had in my entire life. It completely turned my life around in the positive way. I kept myself busy with exercising and studying. I would never have gotten into UT's grad program otherwise. And I sure as hell wouldn't have signed up for a full Ironman this month.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on May 02, 2012, 07:38:01 PM

Random advice

Relationships aren't easy. The only way a relationship will work is if both people involved are willing to work hard to keep things together.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on May 02, 2012, 07:48:11 PM

That's... very puritan of you, Lan. Thank you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on May 02, 2012, 07:49:11 PM

Quote from: FlameofCallandorReturns on April 30, 2012, 12:39:26 PM

I will say that the breakup was one of the biggest motivations I have ever had in my entire life. It completely turned my life around in the positive way. I kept myself busy with exercising and studying. I would never have gotten into UT's grad program otherwise. And I sure as hell wouldn't have signed up for a full Ironman this month.

lol. Congrats on the revelation? I only said this the first time. She was a waste of time. They all are.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on May 02, 2012, 07:53:55 PM

Quote from: demi on May 02, 2012, 07:48:11 PM

That's... very puritan of you, Lan. Thank you.

It came from the heart. I hope it helps all you wonderful studs out there. :D

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on May 02, 2012, 09:36:32 PM

Quote from: Lan on May 02, 2012, 07:38:01 PM

Random advice

Relationships aren't easy. The only way a relationship will work is if both people involved are willing to work hard to keep things together.

This is true, and it is a lot of work. However, unless you are the type of person that just likes to work hard for the sake of it, I think you gotta meet the right person who is worth all your hard work. I keep meeting people who aren't.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on May 02, 2012, 11:02:53 PM

Quote from: Zero Hero on April 30, 2012, 10:43:22 AM

Quote from: The Experiment on April 28, 2012, 06:33:01 PM
Dry streak is over :sp0rsk1 . Even more :o is the predicament I now found myself in.

Doin' thangs :rock

(http://www.woosk.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/bigbear.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on May 02, 2012, 11:06:10 PM

Quote from: Spencer on May 02, 2012, 11:04:47 PM

Naw that's stupid as hell. When you meet the right person it's easy

If you communicate well off the bat everything else tends to flow from there. But after years sometimes people change.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on May 02, 2012, 11:09:44 PM

Quote from: Spencer on May 02, 2012, 11:04:47 PM

Naw that's stupid as hell. When you meet the right person it's easy

Actually, I redact that, it just seems easy because you're so willing to do the work

I know what you're saying. I think we've all been there before :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on May 03, 2012, 10:44:24 AM

I was thinking of how sometimes things will be fine for a year or more and then all of a sudden the smallest thing can cause a break up. No relationship I know is perfect, people thinking this should never enter into a relationship at all (until they can handle it).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on May 03, 2012, 12:42:41 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iicTW-PQ9S8 - pretty much how I feel.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on May 03, 2012, 04:44:53 PM

:bow Wrath getting laid :bow2

They grow up so fast :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on May 03, 2012, 05:51:29 PM

Good relationships are easy. You may be more willing to do the work, but there generally isn't any amount of chore work to the relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on May 03, 2012, 07:09:04 PM

sometimes I think expecting things to be "easy" causes more break ups. One bump and people run for the hills. But I won't say you guys are wrong either. Just that do you really think people married 20+ years have had a walk in the park?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Inspector Thatcher on May 03, 2012, 10:04:52 PM

And that's the good definition of easy.

To other people, "easy" means "I can be lazy and not do/talk about/care about anything because being in a relationship shouldn't mean I have to do anything to show I care for and appreciate this person."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on May 05, 2012, 07:54:13 AM

Quote from: Inspector Thatcher on May 03, 2012, 10:04:52 PM

And that's the good definition of easy.

To other people, "easy" means "I can be lazy and not do/talk about/care about anything because being in a relationship shouldn't mean I have to do anything to show I care for and appreciate this person."

this ^

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on May 05, 2012, 03:57:23 PM

What a shame.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 05, 2012, 03:58:51 PM

Sorry to hear that...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Baiano19 on May 05, 2012, 05:42:10 PM

about to enter a long term relationship come May 15th...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on May 05, 2012, 06:06:00 PM

Congrats on the sex

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on May 05, 2012, 06:11:14 PM

Islam Spencer. Or the deep south.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on May 05, 2012, 06:12:44 PM

Quote from: Spencer on May 05, 2012, 06:09:25 PM

How in the hell are you prescheduled to enter a relationship?

marriage?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on May 05, 2012, 06:26:45 PM

Sucks man, but you got to break your heart a few times before you hit jackpot.

Quote from: Baiano19 on May 05, 2012, 05:42:10 PM

about to enter a long term relationship come May 15th...

I hear ya

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 05, 2012, 06:41:20 PM

Jesus dude you're not even 24, it's highly unlikely any relationship you enter now will even exist in 2 years. Enjoy yourself while you prepare for the real world

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 05, 2012, 07:00:06 PM

How do you lose her as a friend though? You guys will still talk I'm sure, you just won't see each other as much

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Baiano19 on May 06, 2012, 11:03:13 PM

lol, no, I am talking about Diablo III...

(http://images.sodahead.com/polls/002290949/2056101893_Forever_Alone_answer_5_small.png)

Quote from: demi on May 05, 2012, 06:06:00 PM

Congrats on the sex

I don't know what's that for over an year...

spoiler (click to show/hide)

unless I am paying :/

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on May 09, 2012, 12:13:14 AM

You know, I think I like being single.

It's pretty awesome and exciting to not know what's around the corner and that little in your life has become permanent. That at any moment you could bump into the most amazing person and see where it takes you.

Otoh, marriage and stuff is cool too. I think both are great ways to enjoy life. However I'm beginning to feel that being single isn't necessarily worse off than being in a relationship. I know most people probably figured this out 20 years ago, but it's still a nice feeling.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 10, 2012, 02:19:47 AM

A friend of mine fixed me up with one of her friends. Said friend was like "sure thing, but I'm not interested in a relationship."

So since I'm new to the English dating vocabulary, what does it usually mean, generally speaking?
- Dates, sex, but not to be defined as a couple, let alone establish long term commitments.
- Hang out, chat, and have totally platonic fun.

Normally I wouldn't give a shit and just role with it and see where it goes. I mean the last person I dated said the same thing, and we ended up having very relationship fun. But since I'm being fixed up with a good friend of a good friend, I want to be careful.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 10, 2012, 02:22:28 AM

It means she's DTF but isn't trying to marry you

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 10, 2012, 02:24:35 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 10, 2012, 02:22:28 AM

It means she's DTF but isn't trying to marry you

"she"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 10, 2012, 02:26:52 AM

???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 10, 2012, 02:35:32 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 10, 2012, 02:22:28 AM

It means she's DTF but isn't trying to marry you

See that's a good thing. And if that's the case I'm now realizing I should be using that same line myself.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 10, 2012, 02:42:41 AM

Does it seem like a potentially decent/good match, or is your friend just playing lazy matchmaker ("you both like MLP, trust me this is gonna work!")

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 10, 2012, 03:13:56 AM

It *sounds* like a good match so far, but I guess I'll know for sure this weekend.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 10, 2012, 03:20:15 AM

Is she white?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 10, 2012, 03:23:57 AM

Yeah.

Does that change anything? lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 10, 2012, 03:26:56 AM

Tell her you're from Spain, profit :smug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on May 10, 2012, 11:08:17 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 10, 2012, 03:20:15 AM

Is she white?

"she"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on May 10, 2012, 01:57:23 PM

congrats Count. :D

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on May 11, 2012, 11:32:24 PM

URG my ex.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 12, 2012, 05:19:10 AM

you can't say that and not mention what happened, Lan

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on May 12, 2012, 05:23:56 AM

Hahaha is this the guy who always asked you to buy him shit, lan

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on May 12, 2012, 10:26:51 AM

all I have to say is, why can't ex's leave you alone?

(I don't remember telling you about my ex Himoru o_o, eep)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 12, 2012, 12:18:46 PM

Was he white, with GOOD hair?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on May 12, 2012, 12:39:40 PM

All hair types are good when they are maintained well so I'm not sure what you are going on about.

Now there are bad hair styles, but healthy hair is good no matter what kind or texture.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 12, 2012, 02:42:07 PM

it's a joke ???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on May 12, 2012, 04:11:19 PM

I've been with the same fleshtube for pretty much 12 years now, I still love tapping her sweet peachy behind.

12 years. AMA.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on May 12, 2012, 05:59:44 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 12, 2012, 02:42:07 PM

it's a joke ???

and? it sucked.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on May 12, 2012, 06:01:06 PM

goddamn i love women with some bite

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on May 12, 2012, 06:53:12 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on May 12, 2012, 06:01:06 PM

goddamn i love women with some bite

Cold shower time soldier.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 13, 2012, 01:08:02 AM

Quote from: Lan on May 12, 2012, 05:59:44 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 12, 2012, 02:42:07 PM
it's a joke ???

and? it sucked.

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on May 13, 2012, 02:32:10 AM

Quote from: Lan on May 12, 2012, 12:39:40 PM

All hair types are good when they are maintained well so I'm not sure what you are going on about.

Now there are bad hair styles, but healthy hair is good no matter what kind or texture.

Sounds like he has a Head & Shoulders horseshoe mullet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Inspector Thatcher on May 13, 2012, 10:59:05 PM

Quote from: Robo on May 13, 2012, 02:32:10 AM

Quote from: Lan on May 12, 2012, 12:39:40 PM
All hair types are good when they are maintained well so I'm not sure what you are going on about.

Now there are bad hair styles, but healthy hair is good no matter what kind or texture.

Sounds like he has a Head & Shoulders horseshoe mullet.

After close to a month of living out of a suitcase, Head and Shoulders is a quick way to get my scalp back to normal. I can't judge that product.

A mullet, OTOH...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 15, 2012, 11:41:25 PM

Oh, man. Things were going so well with my date SUDDENLY Ron Paul Libertardism. :lol :-\

I shouldn't a give a crap about American politics or politics leanings, but for some reason I apparently do. Thanks, internet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on May 15, 2012, 11:42:39 PM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on May 15, 2012, 11:41:25 PM

Oh, man. Things were going so well with my date SUDDENLY Ron Paul Libertardism. :lol :-\

I shouldn't a give a crap about American politics or politics leanings, but for some reason I apparently do. Thanks, internet.

Were you just going to fuck them or date them?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on May 16, 2012, 02:28:30 AM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on May 16, 2012, 02:01:51 AM

Does it really matter Shaka?

Me and teh gf have our arguments over political shit but it never gets in the way honestly.

It will take its toll man.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 16, 2012, 02:33:42 AM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on May 15, 2012, 11:42:39 PM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on May 15, 2012, 11:41:25 PM
Oh, man. Things were going so well with my date SUDDENLY Ron Paul Libertardism. :lol :-\

I shouldn't a give a crap about American politics or politics leanings, but for some reason I apparently do. Thanks, internet.

Were you just going to fuck them or date them?

Date them. The problem wasn't merely the Rob Paul support, but that fact that it opened a floodgate that lead to many brow-raising crazies such government conspiracy theories and what not. It was an insta-turn off.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on May 16, 2012, 02:45:02 AM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on May 16, 2012, 02:33:42 AM

Date them. The problem wasn't merely the Rob Paul support, but that fact that it opened a floodgate that lead to many brow-raising crazies such government conspiracy theories and what not. It was an insta-turn off.

Yeah batshit bullshit aside I don't know how people who can't agree on most political issues stay together. If there was a subject I couldn't breach with my partner without ever agreeing it would just seem like a pointless relationship. I mean there is stuff to teach your partner if you generally know more about subject A or B but philosophical/political ideology differences will come to ahead at some point. If they don't manage to it's because the couple rarely talks about it or is so flippant it's a non-issue. Obviously given my stances if my partner was some conservative blowhard, we'd have problems.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on May 16, 2012, 03:21:03 AM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on May 16, 2012, 03:01:45 AM

Well not american politics. We have our disagreements on that yet are still both very liberal. Its just me making fun of Turkey most of the time.

Its a natural rivalry.

Yeah was definitely thinking American politics when I wrote that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 16, 2012, 10:33:57 AM

I couldn't date a college intellectual. Even if you tried not to discuss politics, I've never met a college intellectual that doesn't relate everything back to "teh constitutional freedomz!" in some shape or form. So it most definitely will come up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on May 16, 2012, 11:57:41 AM

I had trouble when with a Jesus freak who thought Obama was a baby killer b/c he supported abortions, but I think I'd be Ok with a Paul libertard. One of my closest friends is a hardcore Paul supporter, has a Prisonplanet.com bumpersticker and last time we took a drive into the city, he played the latest Alex Jones podcast the whole time. Though I've learned to just nod my head when he gets around to talking about FEMA camps and the Bilderberg Institute and all that jazz.

Things work out best with moderate liberal and apolitical types.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 16, 2012, 02:03:47 PM

Quote from: tiesto on May 16, 2012, 11:57:41 AM

I had trouble when with a Jesus freak who thought Obama was a baby killer b/c he supported abortions, but I think I'd be Ok with a Paul libertard. One of my closest friends is a hardcore Paul supporter, has a Prisonplanet.com bumpersticker and last time we took a drive into the city, he played the latest Alex Jones podcast the whole time. Though I've learned to just nod my head when he gets around to talking about FEMA camps and the Bilderberg Institute and all that jazz.

Things work out best with moderate liberal and apolitical types.

see now that I can't do. I don't randomly go off about Romney being a douche bag and Ron Paul being an economic distinguished mentally-challenged fellow. Please don't randomly go off on your shit when I'm around. I just find it impolite to barrage political discussion on someone who's not trying to engage in it. Same with religion.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on May 16, 2012, 06:38:16 PM

Quote from: Spencer on May 16, 2012, 12:30:50 PM

There's many ways to view the world.

true, but when your opinions are hate-filled (whether you realize it or not) and based in bullshit (whether you realize it or not) then we have no future together. my politics are strong because that forms the basis of what i believe in, and they're far to the left because i fully believe the moral way to live life is to support others and help them as much as possible. being with someone who is conservative means that they support and believe in things that are in opposition to this, so i could never be close enough to be in a relationship with them because i do not fully respect them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on May 16, 2012, 07:06:30 PM

Relationships are for LOSERS!!!

spoiler (click to show/hide)

We should all marry vegetables.

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: parallax on May 16, 2012, 07:13:15 PM

Quote from: Lan on May 16, 2012, 07:06:30 PM

Relationships are for LOSERS!!!

spoiler (click to show/hide)
We should all marry vegetables.
[close]

you cant successfully have sex with salad.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on May 16, 2012, 07:37:04 PM

Single again, and I'm actually stoked about it! Why? cause Diablo 3! Talk about a remedy to heartbreak haha.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on May 16, 2012, 07:46:30 PM

It's officially over. Trust me. The only reason I haven't changed my status to single on facebook at the moment is to avoid drama lol. I am so over her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 16, 2012, 08:03:38 PM

Wait so she thinks the relationship is still on?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on May 16, 2012, 08:17:17 PM

uh no she knows. Im just avoiding the i told you so's from my friends and family lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 16, 2012, 08:46:27 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on May 16, 2012, 08:17:17 PM

uh no she knows. Im just avoiding the i told you so's from my friends and family lol

fucking facebook :lol

Now you can tell us: how was the sex

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on May 16, 2012, 09:11:30 PM

The sex was great.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on May 16, 2012, 10:03:24 PM

I put my penis in her and moved my hips around.. then after a while I splooged.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 16, 2012, 10:39:17 PM

We all know that she was batshit crazy, but was she just as crazy in the sack?

On a scale of 1 to 10, how kinky was the sex?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on May 16, 2012, 10:43:03 PM

You are implying that I have any kind of reference level here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on May 16, 2012, 11:26:16 PM

single during the summer :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 16, 2012, 11:41:08 PM

fuck gfs Brandknew, let's get some chicks off backpage.com

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 16, 2012, 11:56:53 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on May 16, 2012, 11:26:16 PM

single during the summer :'(

how are you so fucking stupid

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 16, 2012, 11:58:17 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on May 16, 2012, 10:43:03 PM

You are implying that I have any kind of reference level here.

White people. :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on May 17, 2012, 12:04:49 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on May 16, 2012, 11:56:53 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on May 16, 2012, 11:26:16 PM
single during the summer :'(

how are you so fucking stupid

don't make me feel that feel, bro :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on May 17, 2012, 12:13:07 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on May 16, 2012, 11:56:53 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on May 16, 2012, 11:26:16 PM
single during the summer :'(

how are you so fucking stupid

:lol :lol :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 17, 2012, 12:15:22 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on May 16, 2012, 11:56:53 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on May 16, 2012, 11:26:16 PM
single during the summer :'(

how are you so fucking stupid

(http://somewhatmanlynerd.com/gifs/blackwhitecookie.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on May 17, 2012, 01:05:28 AM

ya'll blow

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on May 17, 2012, 01:14:41 AM

:bow PD loves bbw's :bow2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on May 17, 2012, 09:09:41 AM

Quote from: dcharlie on May 17, 2012, 12:48:01 AM

On hols in the UK, I got mistaken for a woman in a store in my home town a few days ago - it has further impressed on me that if i were living back home and if i was single then my chances of finding a girl would be -extremely- limited. Seems 180kg+ is where the female attraction kicks in - Demi would love it.

Though - UK women - holy shit. <Glados>Where did all go so wrong?</glados> - London seemed ok for the 2 hours i was there, but....

Yeah, even when I went to visit London for the first time back in '99, as a senior in HS, I remember being rather disappointed by the women I saw... then on the same trip went over to Paris, and it was like OMG HOLY SHIT. I've met some cute British women in my day but I don't know why the hell none of them were around when I was visiting.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on May 17, 2012, 09:14:07 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on May 17, 2012, 01:14:41 AM

:bow PD loves bbw's :bow2

Nothing wrong with that, I like BBWs too. Met a cute one last week but I don't think she's interested. Damn, can't even get BBWs anymore :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 17, 2012, 09:36:10 AM

There's a delicate balance between being a true thick bbw masterpiece and being flabby overweight. The women who manage to reach thick status are amazing. I'd take that over Kate Upton, and I love Kate but she'd be hotter if she gained 20-30 pounds in the right places

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on May 19, 2012, 12:28:15 PM

I do not understand the fascination with Kate Upton.

That is all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlueTsunami on May 19, 2012, 04:01:06 PM

Quote from: chronovore on May 19, 2012, 12:28:15 PM

I do not understand the fascination with Kate Upton.

That is all.

Her tits seem to jiggle more than the average. That's bout it. Other than that her body shape isn't that compelling. But I'm highly attracted to her too.

Quote from: BrandNew on May 16, 2012, 11:26:16 PM

single during the summer :'(

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kNYJtZPL_dM

Cry with me, homo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on May 19, 2012, 04:05:53 PM

Quote from: BlueTsunami on May 19, 2012, 04:01:06 PM

Her tits seem to jiggle more than the average. That's bout it. Other than that her body shape isn't that compelling. But I'm highly attracted to her too.

she ain't meaty, but she sure has a lot more on her than most of the skeletons that are white female models

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 19, 2012, 05:58:28 PM

For those who aren't already living together with a partner, have you ever started dating someone from out of town and was able to maintain a healthy relationship? Say, 90-100 minutes away.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on May 19, 2012, 06:40:34 PM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on May 19, 2012, 05:58:28 PM

For those who aren't already living together with a partner, have you ever started dating someone from out of town and was able to maintain a healthy relationship? Say, 90-100 minutes away.

I tried out the long-distance love a few times Shaka, and every time it ended in disaster.

But as the saying goes ' 100 minutes a girl, 3 minuets for the man '.

Also when you bang a new vagina, is it like 'urgh, new tits instacum', or do you beat off in the bathroom quickly beforehand.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 19, 2012, 07:02:00 PM

Does 90 min really fall under long distance?

I don't know, I'll probably go for a few more dates. For the time being, the sex is worth it. But it's only a matter of time before we both realize gas money doesn't grow on trees.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on May 19, 2012, 07:21:52 PM

90 minutes should be divided by how much you love the girl. If she inflames you to write poetry, using flames and blood as primary constituents then go for it.

If you're just driving to dip your penis into an illusion, the stop, collaborate and listen.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 19, 2012, 07:47:29 PM

Well there's definitely more to it than the sex so far, but again, I feel it's only a matter of time before we both realize that there much more convenient alternatives. I mean, this is the "I'm not ready for a relationship" libertard, so it's not like there's no easy way out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on May 19, 2012, 07:52:07 PM

Long distance has worked and not worked for me. It depends on the person. Be aware there is that intensified feeling if you don't see each often. If you can hang out for more than a few days together and not get tired of each other then it might work.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on May 23, 2012, 11:51:21 AM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on May 19, 2012, 05:58:28 PM

For those who aren't already living together with a partner, have you ever started dating someone from out of town and was able to maintain a healthy relationship? Say, 90-100 minutes away.

That's how my wife and I started out when we were dating. We knew each other in college, but for the first 1 1/2 years of our relationship I lived ~100 miles away for graduate school. I moved in with her during the summer breaks, but it was still pretty much long distance.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 19, 2012, 02:25:47 PM

Bumping this as I finally have some time to start dating again... going out tonight and tomorrow with different girls that both are named Courtney, and then possibly have a date with a really cute girl I met at an Indian wedding. No she's not Indian, I think she's Italian actually... but she's from Queens and is into sci-fi type geeky stuff.

Of course I'll find some way to fuck it all up! But oh well, can't fault me for trying...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 20, 2012, 09:14:59 PM

Just got friend-zoned. Without benefits. Watch me lose my shit even more.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on June 21, 2012, 12:39:16 PM

Quote from: FatalT on June 20, 2012, 09:14:59 PM

Just got friend-zoned. Without benefits. Watch me lose my shit even more.

You should consider some "quality time with yourself," Bickle.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 21, 2012, 03:22:32 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on June 21, 2012, 11:27:57 AM

is it the chick who came right the fuck back from ireland or some shit cause she was too homesick?

No, that was the 3-year relationship that ended because of insanity.

Quote from: chronovore on June 21, 2012, 12:39:16 PM

Quote from: FatalT on June 20, 2012, 09:14:59 PM
Just got friend-zoned. Without benefits. Watch me lose my shit even more.

You should consider some "quality time with yourself," Bickle.

Would you like to go to the movies with me after we have coffee and pie?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 24, 2012, 04:50:21 AM

I'm going to a feminist meetup free movie showing (95% women) because hey, free movie ticket and something to do on a weeknight. This is going to be weird.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 24, 2012, 05:17:28 AM

That could either be somewhat interesting or a colossal disaster

memorize some Devolution posts, ur gonna need them

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on June 24, 2012, 08:01:17 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 24, 2012, 06:42:23 AM

Quote from: Martin Raperman on May 19, 2012, 06:40:34 PM
Also when you bang a new vagina, is it like 'urgh, new tits instacum', or do you beat off in the bathroom quickly beforehand.

I have phenomenal staying power. No need to resort to any cheap desensitization tricks.

Going to save this in the pile of Glen Shinobi comments, along with your powerful yet variable IQ.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 24, 2012, 01:39:56 PM

you need that bridge more than her, bro

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on June 25, 2012, 05:08:50 PM

fatalt is single? because of the incident with the depression meds?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on June 25, 2012, 06:36:29 PM

I asked out a cute girl while walking my dog. It's such a bad cliche but it worked.

:bow dachshunds :bow2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on June 25, 2012, 06:40:34 PM

cliches are cliches for a reason

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 25, 2012, 07:26:49 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on June 25, 2012, 06:36:29 PM

I asked out a cute girl while walking my dog. It's such a bad cliche but it worked.

:bow dachshunds :bow2

(http://img803.imageshack.us/img803/5357/mynicca1.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 27, 2012, 01:33:58 AM

So I'm trying to be more social in life and make new friends and stuff since I'm going through a midlife crisis and really bored of sitting around thinking up creative activities to do by myself in the evenings/weekends. I need new hobbies and new friends and new passions.

I finally am giving meetup.com a shot. I joined about 20 groups and have fleshed out the next two weeks of my schedule as having some social club event going on every day starting Friday. And they're all with different groups. I also joined a few book clubs including the one at my local library and picked up and started reading the books involved in my free time. I'm mainly doing book clubs, movie clubs, hiking clubs, coffee clubs, things I enjoy in life. I'll see how it goes.

I also applied to community college because I decided I want to go back to college and hone my creative skills. I will try to get into some good night classes in the fall semester to do on the side of work. Will be interesting going back to college 10 years later, kind of nervous about being the OLD MAN, but I don't think it's a big deal. I really want to take some intro acting/theatre classes because I always wanted to try my hand at acting but instead I just took boring classes in college and then law classes in law school.

When I think back about college I feel like a fucking idiot for not appreciating all the COOL SHIT YOU CAN LEARN while there. Instead I was just focused on taking the requirements studying studying studying, spitting it back out on tests, and passing all the classes with good grades to get them done and move on to the next part of education. I feel like I had my eyes closed on what a rich experience learning can be and now my eyes are wide open, so I'm really excited to go back to school.

Also going to try to take some cooking classes/wine tasting classes over the summer just in community education stuff.

I also joined a support group for social anxiety which I think could really help since even though I'm pretty comfortable with who I am at this age, I still get deathly afraid of live communication with strangers and sit in the corner and say nothing at parties or just talk to one person that I know 1 on 1. I'm 30 years old and I've still never walked up to a girl I think is cute and started a conversation. I don't even know if I have SA or I'm just really shy, but hanging out with people who have SA and are doing activities to get over it sounds like it could be the best thing ever for me. I also signed up for one of those toastmasters public speaking classes to help with the same thing.

Basically I'm going to continue with my job full-time and continue to see my small group of close friends when I do, and continue to use the internet and post and reading books, watch movies, play occasional games (although I've been getting really bored of gaming lately and have almost completely abandoned it and anime); but with all the free time I have I'm going to put it towards DOING THINGS with my life because I want to enjoy more things and live more.

Oh and I also started playing the guitar and writing songs again last weekend for the first time in like 15 years. I can play like 4 chords + power chords lol. So I got the number of a guitar teacher from a guy who lives on a boat and I think I'm going to start taking lessons again. Like acting, another thing I have never tried and have no idea if I could be any good at is singing, so I want to write some songs and sing them.

Anyhow, I blame this all on a combination of just having broken up with a girl still recently, sort of crushing on someone else that failed horribly, and watching Before Sunrise/Before Sunset which really made me question what I'm doing with my life. Was time for a change. I'm almost 31!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 27, 2012, 01:48:52 AM

spoiler (click to show/hide)

(http://tinyurl.com/7rm28ft)

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 27, 2012, 02:01:09 AM

You complain when I write one character, you complain when I write 1,000.

There's just no pleasing you, man ;)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 27, 2012, 02:37:16 AM

I was just looking for an excuse to use that gif my man

Going back to community college for more creative classes is a great idea btw. You have a career already, there won't be any pressure, and you can explore/have fun and meet some truly great people. I took a lot of community college classes in high school and had a blast. I've found it hard to concentrate in university in part because I went pure business for so long, and didn't spice things up with interesting classes. Looking at numbers all day literally killed my drive. Whereas in community college I branched out a lot and did different things.

I literally took a criminology just because I knew it was the name of a dope Raekwon song. I took psychology classes. Hell, even the biology classes I had to take were more interesting than the stuff I do now. And perhaps more importantly classes were filled with great people. In uni, I'm surrounded by boring people my age who make me want to kill them during group projects. At community college I had to work with singles moms or grandparents who not only got their stuff done, but taught me stuff I certainly would not have learned at that age.

Perhaps that's a major reason why I love Community (the show).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 27, 2012, 02:44:32 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 27, 2012, 02:37:16 AM

Perhaps that's a major reason why I love Community (the show).

Also, Annie's boobs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 27, 2012, 02:53:09 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 27, 2012, 02:44:32 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 27, 2012, 02:37:16 AM
Perhaps that's a major reason why I love Community (the show).

Also, Annie's boobs.

Those are kind of irrelevant to my particular attraction to her, but I'm not going to rehash that

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on June 27, 2012, 03:14:44 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 27, 2012, 02:44:32 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 27, 2012, 02:37:16 AM
Perhaps that's a major reason why I love Community (the show).

Also, Annie's boobs.

meine frauuuu~

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 29, 2012, 11:44:14 PM

Went out tonite with a cute, motivated, outgoing, curvy Jewish girl. Ironically, the same first name as my ex (the tomboy one that didn't take care of herself and had no motivation) We went to an upscale Mexican restaurant around town... First girl in a while that I've been out with that I liked. I think I need an outgoing girl, since I'm a bit quiet and not the best at building conversation... though for some reason quiet girls prefer me to the outgoing ones :-\

Another date tomorrow for minigolf with a different girl. I'm not a fan of first dates since it seems even if I like a girl, I'll get bummed thinking "they won't wanna go out again". I really wish I knew what I was doing wrong.

Lately what's really been bumming me is every single one of my friends is married or in a long-term relationship. I have really nobody else in my boat, to go out with (I do occasionally get #s at bars but it has never went anywhere)... so it's like either, go out on a date with a girl who it (probably) won't work out with, or sit at home and play Xenoblade...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 30, 2012, 12:10:14 AM

Quote from: tiesto on June 29, 2012, 11:44:14 PM

Lately what's really been bumming me is every single one of my friends is married or in a long-term relationship. I have really nobody else in my boat, to go out with (I do occasionally get #s at bars but it has never went anywhere)... so it's like either, go out on a date with a girl who it (probably) won't work out with, or sit at home and play Xenoblade...

I have the same issue (the all of my friends are settled down one) but even though there's a girl that I'm really interested in who I'm pretty sure kind of feels the same way, I'm not really in a position to do anything since a) she lives in another state b) i'm kind of in a shitty situation where i'll be stuck going back to school for at least another year and a half. I have no real urge to try and date people though so props to you for putting yourself out there, I'm just kind of too socially distinguished mentally-challenged to get to know new people especially in a dating environment.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on June 30, 2012, 06:24:22 AM

Tiesto dude I'm planning a NYC trip this year we can party yo.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

My gf is coming too :-[

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on June 30, 2012, 07:49:12 AM

Quote from: tiesto on June 29, 2012, 11:44:14 PM

Went out tonite with a cute, motivated, outgoing, curvy Jewish girl. Ironically, the same first name as my ex (the tomboy one that didn't take care of herself and had no motivation) We went to an upscale Mexican restaurant around town... First girl in a while that I've been out with that I liked. I think I need an outgoing girl, since I'm a bit quiet and not the best at building conversation... though for some reason quiet girls prefer me to the outgoing ones :-\

Another date tomorrow for minigolf with a different girl. I'm not a fan of first dates since it seems even if I like a girl, I'll get bummed thinking "they won't wanna go out again". I really wish I knew what I was doing wrong.

Lately what's really been bumming me is every single one of my friends is married or in a long-term relationship. I have really nobody else in my boat, to go out with (I do occasionally get #s at bars but it has never went anywhere)... so it's like either, go out on a date with a girl who it (probably) won't work out with, or sit at home and play Xenoblade...

I decided a long time ago that I didn't want to get married or have any children, so it definitely takes the edge off when it comes to dating. Doesn't help when most of your friends are going through divorce, separations, or going down the road to either one.

Sorry to hear that you're not getting much past the first date. A lot of the women in my area that's around our ages (late 20s, early 30s) are seemingly desperate to get married to have children. If you're a single dude who has something better than a minimum wage or part time gig, there is a wide variety of options out there. As a result, I know of a lot of successful young women marrying some real puds who have nothing going for him. Most guys these days have no hangups about women making more than them because it means they can sit on their asses and play 360 all day while she is working as a nurse, engineer, lawyer, etc.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fart on June 30, 2012, 09:04:03 AM

ppppppppppooooooooooooooooooppppppppppppppppppppppppp

i miss whitey :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 30, 2012, 02:27:44 PM

Quote from: tiesto on June 29, 2012, 11:44:14 PM

Went out tonite with a cute, motivated, outgoing, curvy Jewish girl. Ironically, the same first name as my ex (the tomboy one that didn't take care of herself and had no motivation) We went to an upscale Mexican restaurant around town... First girl in a while that I've been out with that I liked. I think I need an outgoing girl, since I'm a bit quiet and not the best at building conversation... though for some reason quiet girls prefer me to the outgoing ones :-\

Another date tomorrow for minigolf with a different girl. I'm not a fan of first dates since it seems even if I like a girl, I'll get bummed thinking "they won't wanna go out again". I really wish I knew what I was doing wrong.

Lately what's really been bumming me is every single one of my friends is married or in a long-term relationship. I have really nobody else in my boat, to go out with (I do occasionally get #s at bars but it has never went anywhere)... so it's like either, go out on a date with a girl who it (probably) won't work out with, or sit at home and play Xenoblade...

Statistics show that if you keep going on dates, you'll meet someone eventually. So it's good that you're keeping yourself socially active with dates.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 01, 2012, 07:42:37 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on June 30, 2012, 07:49:12 AM

Quote from: tiesto on June 29, 2012, 11:44:14 PM
Went out tonite with a cute, motivated, outgoing, curvy Jewish girl. Ironically, the same first name as my ex (the tomboy one that didn't take care of herself and had no motivation) We went to an upscale Mexican restaurant around town... First girl in a while that I've been out with that I liked. I think I need an outgoing girl, since I'm a bit quiet and not the best at building conversation... though for some reason quiet girls prefer me to the outgoing ones :-\

Another date tomorrow for minigolf with a different girl. I'm not a fan of first dates since it seems even if I like a girl, I'll get bummed thinking "they won't wanna go out again". I really wish I knew what I was doing wrong.

Lately what's really been bumming me is every single one of my friends is married or in a long-term relationship. I have really nobody else in my boat, to go out with (I do occasionally get #s at bars but it has never went anywhere)... so it's like either, go out on a date with a girl who it (probably) won't work out with, or sit at home and play Xenoblade...

I decided a long time ago that I didn't want to get married or have any children, so it definitely takes the edge off when it comes to dating. Doesn't help when most of your friends are going through divorce, separations, or going down the road to either one.

Sorry to hear that you're not getting much past the first date. A lot of the women in my area that's around our ages (late 20s, early 30s) are seemingly desperate to get married to have children. If you're a single dude who has something better than a minimum wage or part time gig, there is a wide variety of options out there. As a result, I know of a lot of successful young women marrying some real puds who have nothing going for him. Most guys these days have no hangups about women making more than them because it means they can sit on their asses and play 360 all day while she is working as a nurse, engineer, lawyer, etc.

I was thinking about making a thread about this shit. I've met or heard about a lot of YOUNG women with that mentality over the last couple years. I'm not talking about the 27-31 types though, who may feel they need to settle down. These are 22-25 year old women who seem to think getting married is not only the expected next move for them, but will solve all their problems.

My friend was messing with some girl who kept pressing him, saying she would have sex with him if he agreed to ask her to marry him the next day. As if that's an equal trade :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on July 01, 2012, 08:19:47 PM

Wtf? How long have they been "fooling around"?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 01, 2012, 08:33:17 PM

He's been working on her for a good 4 months. She's cute and in college but very religious. All they've done is kiss and she sent him some boob pics lol. Dude wants to smash that shit bad, and I don't blame him

But I'd bail the fuck out after learning any chick is hyper-religious

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 01, 2012, 08:40:20 PM

Yeah, when you're younger you can make more exceptions for shit like that but once you get older you realize it's just not worth it. So many little things are deal breakers for me now, lol.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2012, 10:14:32 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 27, 2012, 01:48:52 AM

spoiler (click to show/hide)
(http://tinyurl.com/7rm28ft)
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nice cock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 02, 2012, 02:55:04 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 01, 2012, 08:33:17 PM

He's been working on her for a good 4 months. She's cute and in college but very religious. All they've done is kiss and she sent him some boob pics lol. Dude wants to smash that shit bad, and I don't blame him

But I'd bail the fuck out after learning any chick is hyper-religious

Yep. I dealt with this myself back in the day. Absolute deal breaker and the more time you put in, the more time you waste when you could be meeting someone else awesome.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 02, 2012, 04:41:41 PM

Yea. There are plenty of very nice religious chicks out there but I can't deal with that long term. I've met some that remind me of my mom/grandmothers/aunts/etc in many ways - very nice, caring, can cook, beautiful...but they're also so stupidly religious I have to watch what I say out loud just to avoid them going on some Jesus rant.

"that was so lucky, did you see that lol"
"I don't believe in luck. Did you know luck actually means Lucifer?"
:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 02, 2012, 05:47:51 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on June 30, 2012, 07:49:12 AM

Sorry to hear that you're not getting much past the first date. A lot of the women in my area that's around our ages (late 20s, early 30s) are seemingly desperate to get married to have children. If you're a single dude who has something better than a minimum wage or part time gig, there is a wide variety of options out there. As a result, I know of a lot of successful young women marrying some real puds who have nothing going for him. Most guys these days have no hangups about women making more than them because it means they can sit on their asses and play 360 all day while she is working as a nurse, engineer, lawyer, etc.

Also on this, it's interesting when you can visually see these kind of statistics. I was looking at some speed dating sessions and it's interesting to see:

21-35 year old speed dating = entirely men signing up
37-45 year old speed dating = entirely women signing up

I know people have been saying it for ages, but when you see the numbers it really seems to back up that dating is toughest for men in the 20-35 range, and then transitions to being toughest for women around 34/35+

I guess the end result of that, is if you're still having trouble finding the right one (as a guy), time will be your friend and eventually you should find someone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 02, 2012, 05:57:01 PM

My friend, who is every bit as awkward/space cadetty as I am, if not more so (plus he is very messy) met a very nice girl during speed dating and they've been dating for close to a year. Maybe I'll give it a try, but most of the events are in the city...

I really hope I don't have to wait till I'm like 40 to meet a waifu :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 02, 2012, 07:11:32 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on July 02, 2012, 02:55:04 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 01, 2012, 08:33:17 PM
He's been working on her for a good 4 months. She's cute and in college but very religious. All they've done is kiss and she sent him some boob pics lol. Dude wants to smash that shit bad, and I don't blame him

But I'd bail the fuck out after learning any chick is hyper-religious

Yep. I dealt with this myself back in the day. Absolute deal breaker and the more time you put in, the more time you waste when you could be meeting someone else awesome.

When I was in High School, there was a catholic school a few miles away. No girl would give it up vaginally but they would take it in the pooper instead. Some of them were very hot too (it was a school where most rich families sent their sons and daughters to) and would let you put it in their butt after the first or second date.

Me being a fat loser who'd rather play PS2 instead, I didn't really get the opportunity to indulge :(

So anytime I see a girl claim to be religious, I just wonder how many backdoor favors she's given out in order to protect her virginity.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 05, 2012, 04:19:58 AM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 07, 2012, 02:14:22 PM

I found a new girl! :-* :-* :-* :heart :heart :heartbeat :heartbeat :heartbeat

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 07, 2012, 02:33:08 PM

Wat

What happened to the old one? I thought you were still seeing her.

Anyhow, congrats man!!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 07, 2012, 02:34:16 PM

Nah we've been broke up a while.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 07, 2012, 02:46:40 PM

We should hang out again sometime! I still have yo number.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 07, 2012, 08:32:31 PM

Went out with a really outgoing and fun Puerto Rican chick today. She loves to dance and she goes to Comic Con and shit... a few years older but that's OK!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 07, 2012, 09:04:37 PM

Speaking of religious girls, I feel like I'm contradicting myself on something: I'm starting to fall for my best female friend. We've known each other since high school and are good friends. I'm kind of bad at sending false signals to girls, and she wound up telling me she wanted to get together after I had sent a rather idiotic one on accident (back in high school). I turned her down, basically saying I didn't want to get into a teenage relationship and put our friendship in danger. She tried again a year later and I gave the same response...we remained good friends but there's always this weird thing between us, due to all that when we were teens.

Anyway today she has evolved from a tomboyish girl into quick a beautiful woman, my mom loves her, she can cook, her dad is friends with mine etc...and I'm starting to feel like we should give it a shot. We've been friends for so long I can't help but think we're past any awkward stuff, and if it doesn't work it doesn't work. When I was camping last weekend I found myself randomly texting her, laughing, and just reminiscing.

The problem: she's quite religious. Not in the sense of going to church every Sunday, but in terms of that dumb "Jesus is my rock" sort of way where you feel you can party and drink but it's all good if you go to church once in awhile. This also leads to her having some ridiculous socially conservative views which I doubt I could deal with. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 07, 2012, 10:14:53 PM

But I have a feeling the church shit will lead to some awkward stuff. "What church do you go to" is probably one of the first questions her family would ask me

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 07, 2012, 10:20:19 PM

I don't believe anything you say about you and women Maurice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on July 07, 2012, 10:21:23 PM

Have you tried having a conversation with her that touched on those issues? You should be able to gauge how dogmatically she adheres to conservative christian talking points after just a couple conversations.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 07, 2012, 10:21:51 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 07, 2012, 10:14:53 PM

But I have a feeling the church shit will lead to some awkward stuff. "What church do you go to" is probably one of the first questions her family would ask me

"I go to the 1st Borian Church of St. Demi."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 07, 2012, 10:22:23 PM

Quote from: Ruzbeh on July 07, 2012, 10:18:12 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 07, 2012, 09:04:37 PM
This also leads to her having some ridiculous socially conservative views which I doubt I could deal with. :-\

Let me guess. "All gays must perish or accept Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior and start banging women like God intended."

Pretty much this

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 07, 2012, 10:24:17 PM

don't bother with her, then. i wouldn't want to date anyone who thinks being gay is anything but natural

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 07, 2012, 10:24:30 PM

of course, she doesn't exist

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on July 07, 2012, 10:31:01 PM

havent you said this same shit a bunch of times before about this chick pd? if she does actually exist then just go for it. you have dick-all experience with relationships so anything at all at this point is prolly a positive. go for it, have some fun, if it works then great and if it doesnt well then at least you tried and then its on to the next one.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 07, 2012, 10:31:05 PM

I know a Christian girl who smokes pot, drinks, is okay with gay people and gay marriage, and swears like a sailor.

The only problem is that I am not that physically attracted to her but if the situation presented itself in which we were gonna-get-it-on then I would go through with it.

Why? Because FUCK that stupid bet I made in the drunk thread. I am not losing $150 dollars over something as dumb as not getting laid by the end of this year.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 07, 2012, 10:55:01 PM

Quote from: Positive Touch on July 07, 2012, 10:31:01 PM

havent you said this same shit a bunch of times before about this chick pd? if she does actually exist then just go for it. you have dick-all experience with relationships so anything at all at this point is prolly a positive. go for it, have some fun, if it works then great and if it doesnt well then at least you tried and then its on to the next one.

::)

Anyway, yes I've been on the edge of the pool with this before.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 07, 2012, 10:56:08 PM

dude, no one is going to believe you

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 07, 2012, 11:00:06 PM

I couldn't care less. If you don't want to discuss this, you're welcome not to

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 07, 2012, 11:13:56 PM

Let's talk about me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 07, 2012, 11:15:06 PM

how did you meet her, is she different from the ex, did you dump the ex or vice versa, etc

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 07, 2012, 11:16:57 PM

I met this new girl at work. She is the care taker of one of my patients. She is a nice hard working El Salvadorian girl. MY ex is a Cuban slut bitch whore. I dumped her ass because of this reason.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 08, 2012, 04:42:45 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 07, 2012, 02:46:40 PM

We should hang out again sometime! I still have yo number.

Sounds good to me! Maybe I'll come up and visit. You still in some crazy ass mansion split with other guys?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 08, 2012, 11:05:16 AM

PD, if she accepts your views then I'd say it's worth a shot. When asked about what church you go to be respectful yet honest. That's all you really can do.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 08, 2012, 12:21:37 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 07, 2012, 09:04:37 PM

Speaking of religious girls, I feel like I'm contradicting myself on something: I'm starting to fall for my best female friend. We've known each other since high school and are good friends. I'm kind of bad at sending false signals to girls, and she wound up telling me she wanted to get together after I had sent a rather idiotic one on accident (back in high school). I turned her down, basically saying I didn't want to get into a teenage relationship and put our friendship in danger. She tried again a year later and I gave the same response...we remained good friends but there's always this weird thing between us, due to all that when we were teens.

Anyway today she has evolved from a tomboyish girl into quick a beautiful woman, my mom loves her, she can cook, her dad is friends with mine etc...and I'm starting to feel like we should give it a shot. We've been friends for so long I can't help but think we're past any awkward stuff, and if it doesn't work it doesn't work. When I was camping last weekend I found myself randomly texting her, laughing, and just reminiscing.

The problem: she's quite religious. Not in the sense of going to church every Sunday, but in terms of that dumb "Jesus is my rock" sort of way where you feel you can party and drink but it's all good if you go to church once in awhile. This also leads to her having some ridiculous socially conservative views which I doubt I could deal with. :-\

The fact that she is a part-time religious person means she prolly wont have that many issues with what you believe in. Usually when they want to get drunk or high, Jesus is far from their mind. So I don't think there religion will really be an issue if they don't take religion seriously. I think you are over thinking things. I also think you don't really like her as much as you say you do. Because if you was into her you would have went out with her when you was a teen. Its hard to believe a dude going through puberty would pass on someone they are attracted to who shows interest in them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on July 08, 2012, 12:38:13 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 07, 2012, 09:04:37 PM

The problem: she's quite religious. Not in the sense of going to church every Sunday, but in terms of that dumb "Jesus is my rock" sort of way where you feel you can party and drink but it's all good if you go to church once in awhile. This also leads to her having some ridiculous socially conservative views which I doubt I could deal with. :-\

Shes really religious but doesn't go to church every week? That's like the easiest thing to do for someone that's semi religious. She sounds like the kind of religious that someone on the internet could deal with

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 08, 2012, 01:16:07 PM

Quote from: Lan on July 08, 2012, 12:21:37 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 07, 2012, 09:04:37 PM
Speaking of religious girls, I feel like I'm contradicting myself on something: I'm starting to fall for my best female friend. We've known each other since high school and are good friends. I'm kind of bad at sending false signals to girls, and she wound up telling me she wanted to get together after I had sent a rather idiotic one on accident (back in high school). I turned her down, basically saying I didn't want to get into a teenage relationship and put our friendship in danger. She tried again a year later and I gave the same response...we remained good friends but there's always this weird thing between us, due to all that when we were teens.

Anyway today she has evolved from a tomboyish girl into quick a beautiful woman, my mom loves her, she can cook, her dad is friends with mine etc...and I'm starting to feel like we should give it a shot. We've been friends for so long I can't help but think we're past any awkward stuff, and if it doesn't work it doesn't work. When I was camping last weekend I found myself randomly texting her, laughing, and just reminiscing.

The problem: she's quite religious. Not in the sense of going to church every Sunday, but in terms of that dumb "Jesus is my rock" sort of way where you feel you can party and drink but it's all good if you go to church once in awhile. This also leads to her having some ridiculous socially conservative views which I doubt I could deal with. :-\

The fact that she is a part-time religious person means she prolly wont have that many issues with what you believe in. Usually when they want to get drunk or high, Jesus is far from their mind. So I don't think there religion will really be an issue if they don't take religion seriously. I think you are over thinking things. I also think you don't really like her as much as you say you do. Because if you was into her you would have went out with her when you was a teen. Its hard to believe a dude going through puberty would pass on someone they are attracted to who shows interest in them.

I find many part-time religious people tend to express their religion in ridiculous, hypocritical manners thus leading to some friction. Drinking and partying is fine - but gay people are a danger to society, atheists are immoral, not going to church is wrong, etc. It's a frustrating double standard.

In terms of high school, I didn't "like" her like that at the time. She was rather tomboyish and I was super shy, and I felt more like she was my sister/rival/friend than anything sexual. You're right that a teenage boy is going to jump on most things, but I can honestly say I didn't really think of her in sexual ways until rather recently. I thought she was cute back then, but I guess I never took the next mental step into sexual territory. I know people have differing opinions on whether men and woman can simply be friends, and I tend to believe they can with this being an example.

She looks and dresses quite different now which is part of the reason for the attraction

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 08, 2012, 01:20:51 PM

I do want to post my own situation but people on the bore can be kind of harsh..

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 09, 2012, 06:28:40 PM

Suggest drinks at her place? If her roommate is home and joins in, it'd give you a chance to gauge interest from girl 2.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on July 09, 2012, 06:43:59 PM

Quote from: Lan on July 08, 2012, 01:20:51 PM

I do want to post my own situation but people on the bore can be kind of harsh..

Um... you would rather we pamper you and say it will be ok? We aren't harsh to be dickheads.

Most of the time, anyway.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 09, 2012, 07:54:06 PM

Quote from: demi on July 09, 2012, 06:43:59 PM

Quote from: Lan on July 08, 2012, 01:20:51 PM
I do want to post my own situation but people on the bore can be kind of harsh..

Um... you would rather we pamper you and say it will be ok? We aren't harsh to be dickheads.

Most of the time, anyway.

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=38622.0

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 09, 2012, 07:58:18 PM

I'd live to hear your situation Lan

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on July 09, 2012, 08:03:17 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on July 09, 2012, 07:54:06 PM

Quote from: demi on July 09, 2012, 06:43:59 PM
Quote from: Lan on July 08, 2012, 01:20:51 PM
I do want to post my own situation but people on the bore can be kind of harsh..

Um... you would rather we pamper you and say it will be ok? We aren't harsh to be dickheads.

Most of the time, anyway.

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=38622.0

Yeah, I banned Diunx.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 09, 2012, 09:07:00 PM

Alright tomorrow is my first date! :hyper

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 09, 2012, 09:46:51 PM

Quote from: Lan on July 08, 2012, 01:20:51 PM

I do want to post my own situation but people on the bore can be kind of harsh..

It's just a little tough love, that's all!
(post it, I will promise to be nice)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 12:22:43 AM

the night before my first date... find out the girl is hardcore catholic..

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 12:27:17 AM

and my ex keeps fucking texting me.. ugh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 10, 2012, 12:33:10 AM

ignore the ex, block her

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 10, 2012, 12:33:58 AM

as for the catholic, ask her what her stance on birth control is.

that will determine how hardcore a catholic she is: moderate or fundie.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 12:50:47 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 10, 2012, 12:33:58 AM

as for the catholic, ask her what her stance on birth control is.

that will determine how hardcore a catholic she is: moderate or fundie.

so how do i bring that shit up in a conversation?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 10, 2012, 12:51:46 AM

how'd you find out she's a hardcore catholic?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 12:52:50 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 10, 2012, 12:51:46 AM

how'd you find out she's a hardcore catholic?

all of a sudden shes posting religious shit on her facebook. had to translate it into english haha.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 10, 2012, 12:54:44 AM

link her to some catholic article about birth control and catholics saying stupid shit about it. say "this just popped up in my twitter feed, I know you're Catholic so I was curious if you had a rebuttal, what do you think?" and that's pretty easy given this (http://www.1flesh.org/) has gone viral. link to that dummy site for dummies made for dummies and see what she thinks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 01:02:37 AM

fuck that. im just gonna play it by ear.

*has 10 kids with girl*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on July 10, 2012, 01:08:49 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 10, 2012, 12:54:44 AM

link her to some catholic article about birth control and catholics saying stupid shit about it. say "this just popped up in my twitter feed, I know you're Catholic so I was curious if you had a rebuttal, what do you think?" and that's pretty easy given this (http://www.1flesh.org/) has gone viral. link to that dummy site for dummies made for dummies and see what she thinks.

bringing up birth control before a first date is totally not an awkward thing to do

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 10, 2012, 01:10:40 AM

I DON'T CARE I'M TRYING TO SABOTAGE THIS SO BM CAN SHACK UP WITH ME

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on July 10, 2012, 01:12:02 AM

just sneak into his room while him and the catholic are having sex. then sex both of them.

film it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 01:12:38 AM

Quote from: Huff on July 10, 2012, 01:12:02 AM

just sneak into his room while him and the catholic are having sex. then sex both of them.

film it

sexiest porno ever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 10, 2012, 01:14:38 AM

i dunno man, if she's a hardcore catholic maybe she doesn't believe in pre-marital sex and I'll have to wait to share a bed with BM?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 01:16:05 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 10, 2012, 01:14:38 AM

i dunno man, if she's a hardcore catholic maybe she doesn't believe in pre-marital sex and I'll have to wait to share a bed with BM?

she'll film us :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on July 10, 2012, 01:18:29 AM

if your filming from the closest, make sure to cover the camera's blinking red light so she doesn't see it

that never ends well

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 10, 2012, 01:19:12 AM

brb getting notes

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 10, 2012, 01:23:10 AM

Quote from: Huff on July 10, 2012, 01:08:49 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 10, 2012, 12:54:44 AM
link her to some catholic article about birth control and catholics saying stupid shit about it. say "this just popped up in my twitter feed, I know you're Catholic so I was curious if you had a rebuttal, what do you think?" and that's pretty easy given this (http://www.1flesh.org/) has gone viral. link to that dummy site for dummies made for dummies and see what she thinks.

bringing up birth control before a first date is totally not an awkward thing to do

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on July 10, 2012, 02:21:22 AM

Go to an amusement park, meet two girls who claim they're 17. Ride roller coasters with them and talk to them all day. Get a voice mail on your phone from one of the girls' mother saying to stay away from her 15 year old daughter.

Fail.

Go to a bar with an old co-worker and her friend. Chat up her friend, Facebook friend each other. The next day, the friend deletes you from her Facebook and blocks you.

Fail.

Time to go gay!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on July 10, 2012, 02:25:23 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 12:27:17 AM

and my ex keeps fucking texting me.. ugh

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 10, 2012, 12:33:10 AM

ignore the ex, block her

DING DING DING!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 10, 2012, 02:39:01 AM

Quote from: FatalT on July 10, 2012, 02:21:22 AM

Go to an amusement park, meet two girls who claim they're 17. Ride roller coasters with them and talk to them all day. Get a voice mail on your phone from one of the girls' mother saying to stay away from her 15 year old daughter.

Fail.

Go to a bar with an old co-worker and her friend. Chat up her friend, Facebook friend each other. The next day, the friend deletes you from her Facebook and blocks you.

Fail.

Time to go gay!

17yo girls, wat. What's the age of consent in your state breh. I'd feel way too weird macking on 17yo chicks even if it was legal in Michigan

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on July 10, 2012, 03:02:51 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 10, 2012, 02:39:01 AM

Quote from: FatalT on July 10, 2012, 02:21:22 AM
Go to an amusement park, meet two girls who claim they're 17. Ride roller coasters with them and talk to them all day. Get a voice mail on your phone from one of the girls' mother saying to stay away from her 15 year old daughter.

Fail.

Go to a bar with an old co-worker and her friend. Chat up her friend, Facebook friend each other. The next day, the friend deletes you from her Facebook and blocks you.

Fail.

Time to go gay!

17yo girls, wat. What's the age of consent in your state breh. I'd feel way too weird macking on 17yo chicks even if it was legal in Michigan

14. I kid you not. They looked older though...and stuff.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 10, 2012, 03:20:23 AM

Quote from: FatalT on July 10, 2012, 03:02:51 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 10, 2012, 02:39:01 AM
Quote from: FatalT on July 10, 2012, 02:21:22 AM
Go to an amusement park, meet two girls who claim they're 17. Ride roller coasters with them and talk to them all day. Get a voice mail on your phone from one of the girls' mother saying to stay away from her 15 year old daughter.

Fail.

Go to a bar with an old co-worker and her friend. Chat up her friend, Facebook friend each other. The next day, the friend deletes you from her Facebook and blocks you.

Fail.

Time to go gay!

17yo girls, wat. What's the age of consent in your state breh. I'd feel way too weird macking on 17yo chicks even if it was legal in Michigan

14. I kid you not. They looked older though...and stuff.

:lol South Carolina, truly still in the dark ages and shit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on July 10, 2012, 04:17:48 AM

Geeze. What was Sandusky doing wasting his time at Penn St.?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 10, 2012, 04:35:01 AM

Isn't FatalT like 18 or something?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 06:24:32 PM

Fuck! I always get mud butt right beforr a date... never fails! :'(
:( >:(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 10, 2012, 06:43:54 PM

On the first date? :dur

Good luck with that brah.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 10, 2012, 06:54:48 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 12:27:17 AM

and my ex keeps fucking texting me.. ugh

basically this is my problem only now he is crying to me over the phone and wants to marry me.

I am also interested in someone else...

That is all I'm going to say < <;

(don't be mean >_<)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 10, 2012, 06:58:43 PM

also he wants me to have his kids, and got upset when I said I don't want to have kids.

I feel like he is trolling me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 10, 2012, 09:31:07 PM

I'm going to a speed-dating event for professionals tomorrow nite. Will report in and let you guys know how it went! My first speed-dating thing ever :o

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on July 10, 2012, 09:33:27 PM

Quote from: Lan on July 10, 2012, 06:58:43 PM

also he wants me to have his kids, and got upset when I said I don't want to have kids.

I feel like he is trolling me.

Not right now, but eventually right?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 10, 2012, 09:51:03 PM

Quote from: Lan on July 10, 2012, 06:54:48 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 12:27:17 AM
and my ex keeps fucking texting me.. ugh

basically this is my problem only now he is crying to me over the phone and wants to marry me.

I am also interested in someone else...

That is all I'm going to say < <;

(don't be mean >_<)

Was it a bad break up, or more mutual?

This guy sounds rather possessive or something imo, not to mention clingy. If it's over, it's over - and if he truly likes and respects you, he will respect your feelings. Don't let him guilt you into action (getting back with him) or inaction (not pursuing the person you're interested in).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on July 10, 2012, 10:17:07 PM

Quote from: Ruzbeh on July 10, 2012, 06:40:50 PM

I have a question.

How do you handle deal breakers?

I only want serious relationships. I also never want to have kids. So if I go on a date... it'd be nice to know if we were on the same page regarding kids, marriage, and so forth...

not exactly a beginning of a relationship type of question (at least where I'm at in mid 20s)i

most likely going to scare the girl away

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 10, 2012, 10:20:31 PM

Quote from: Ruzbeh on July 10, 2012, 06:40:50 PM

I have a question.

How do you handle deal breakers?

I only want serious relationships. I also never want to have kids. So if I go on a date... it'd be nice to know if we were on the same page regarding kids, marriage, and so forth...

Have you ever dated a woman? That's not a question you ask out the gate. It makes more sense to get to know the person first and get a feel for their views on the matter. Be warned: a shit ton of women want kids.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on July 10, 2012, 10:23:18 PM

Nothing wrong with running through dealbreakers early, but obviously it doesnt fit in the movie/tv asking out scenario where yer all COOL N SHIT- it more fits in with mechanisms created entirely for matching people up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on July 10, 2012, 10:24:23 PM

I've never used a dating/match up site/set up or done any kind of speed dating thing, but that seems like more the place to ask those questions earlier on

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on July 10, 2012, 10:26:19 PM

Well thats how those things work- they get all of that out of the way by filtering matches against those things. Unfortunately your more organic relationships will look all weird if you approach them systematically ;)

That said, dont overthink the kid issue, most peoples' opinions change on children multiple times in their lifetime, and it'll be easy to pick out the kid crazy folks early in.

Really dont overthink things. Try and catch yourself overthinking things and be all like STFU AND JUST CHILL OUT JESUS

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 10, 2012, 10:28:57 PM

I don't want kids, but I'd be a fool to be 100% confident my views as a 25 year old bro will be the same when I'm a 35 year old slowbro

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 10, 2012, 10:36:52 PM

Is this the clingy ex that would ask you to buy him shit, Lan? Fuck him. No, not literally. Just block him. If you are like me and don't have a phone that CAN block because RIM are IDIOTS, then call him up, be MEAN, and make it clear you do not want to see or hear from him again.

Or, in my case, have phone sex with him with the promise that you want to get back with him, and afterwards say, that was awful, you are boring, get out of my life, do not call me. It is unfortunate, but sometimes you have to be a JERK because people just can't handle it's over when it's over.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 10, 2012, 10:40:02 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 10, 2012, 10:20:31 PM

Quote from: Ruzbeh on July 10, 2012, 06:40:50 PM
I have a question.

How do you handle deal breakers?

I only want serious relationships. I also never want to have kids. So if I go on a date... it'd be nice to know if we were on the same page regarding kids, marriage, and so forth...

Have you ever dated a woman? That's not a question you ask out the gate. It makes more sense to get to know the person first and get a feel for their views on the matter. Be warned: a shit ton of women want kids.

I say lay it on by the third date. If you are past the third date, it could blossom into something and you want to have dealbreakers out of the way before you do that stuff especially since a lot of people fuck by the 4th date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 10, 2012, 10:47:16 PM

Eh. I'd maybe agree with that if you were in your thirties dating, but most of us here are health dudes in our early to mid 20s. I sure as hell wouldn't give an ultimatum I have no idea whether I'll agree with in 5 years or not. What if this girl becomes your world and you decide fuck it, I want her to be the mother of my children.

My general rule is that if I can't see myself in a long term relationship with someone, no matter how much I like them at the time, I'm not going to pursue it. That may take a date or a few conversations to figure out. That's really the only obstacle I put up, simply because I don't want to waste my time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 10, 2012, 10:54:15 PM

Who said it's an ultimatum? A lot of women our age feel the same way about kids if we don't already have em and that's either "I dunno, I like kids but...I'm not sure if I want any" or "I don't want kids, flat out". Most professional adult women our age I know don't want kids.

It's not an ultimatum. It's stating that right now, I don't want kids and I don't know if I want kids, I may want kids down the line, but it's not really set in stone.

You would be silly if you think the modern professional woman doesn't think that very thing I just wrote. They have careers and lives on the line.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 10, 2012, 10:56:47 PM

Meh, I know plenty of professional women who talk about kids 24/7. It's a mixed bag.

My stance is that right now, I don't want kids - hell I don't even want to get married. Would I tell a girl all that after a couple months of dating? Probably not. Kids inevitably come up though, so I'd at least make my current position known in a far lighter tone than I'm using here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 10, 2012, 11:08:22 PM

You wouldn't bring that up after a couple of months of dating? You are loco. You will be knee deep in a relationship with a woman who wants a SHIT load of kids with your luck. You are acting like this is about whether you'd murder someone or something. Relationships are grounded around stuff like this. How do you have a relationship with someone if you don't outright express your own feelings? Why the need to want to use a lighter tone? Because she's a girl and not a guy?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 10, 2012, 11:23:45 PM

Quote from: Zero Hero on July 10, 2012, 09:33:27 PM

Quote from: Lan on July 10, 2012, 06:58:43 PM
also he wants me to have his kids, and got upset when I said I don't want to have kids.

I feel like he is trolling me.

Not right now, but eventually right?

As of right now I don't want none at all. But if by rare accident, I got pregant, I would keep it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 10, 2012, 11:28:11 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 10, 2012, 10:54:15 PM

Who said it's an ultimatum? A lot of women our age feel the same way about kids if we don't already have em and that's either "I dunno, I like kids but...I'm not sure if I want any" or "I don't want kids, flat out". Most professional adult women our age I know don't want kids.

It's not an ultimatum. It's stating that right now, I don't want kids and I don't know if I want kids, I may want kids down the line, but it's not really set in stone.

You would be silly if you think the modern professional woman doesn't think that very thing I just wrote. They have careers and lives on the line.

This is how I feel about kids. Also I'm actually scared of having one ripped out of my body. :D

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 10, 2012, 11:32:50 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 10, 2012, 09:51:03 PM

Quote from: Lan on July 10, 2012, 06:54:48 PM
Quote from: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 12:27:17 AM
and my ex keeps fucking texting me.. ugh

basically this is my problem only now he is crying to me over the phone and wants to marry me.

I am also interested in someone else...

That is all I'm going to say < <;

(don't be mean >_<)

Was it a bad break up, or more mutual?

This guy sounds rather possessive or something imo, not to mention clingy. If it's over, it's over - and if he truly likes and respects you, he will respect your feelings. Don't let him guilt you into action (getting back with him) or inaction (not pursuing the person you're interested in).

no it wasn't mutual, he called me up on the phone one day and dumped me. He said he is moving to Miami, where he is right now. I had to kill all my feelings for him so that I could operate. Now he wants me to get back with him? CRAY

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 10, 2012, 11:34:56 PM

Quote from: Lan on July 10, 2012, 11:32:50 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 10, 2012, 09:51:03 PM
Quote from: Lan on July 10, 2012, 06:54:48 PM
Quote from: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 12:27:17 AM
and my ex keeps fucking texting me.. ugh

basically this is my problem only now he is crying to me over the phone and wants to marry me.

I am also interested in someone else...

That is all I'm going to say < <;

(don't be mean >_<)

Was it a bad break up, or more mutual?

This guy sounds rather possessive or something imo, not to mention clingy. If it's over, it's over - and if he truly likes and respects you, he will respect your feelings. Don't let him guilt you into action (getting back with him) or inaction (not pursuing the person you're interested in).

no it wasn't mutual, he called me up on the phone one day and dumped me. He said he is moving to Miami, where he is right now. I had to kill all my feelings for him so that I could operate. Now he wants me to get back with him? CRAY

oh word? Now he's crawling back...nah Lan, don't give this dude the time of day. He may his bed.

He literally called you and dumped you like that, then told you he was moving? aw hell nah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Joe Molotov on July 10, 2012, 11:45:49 PM

Quote from: FatalT on July 10, 2012, 03:02:51 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 10, 2012, 02:39:01 AM
Quote from: FatalT on July 10, 2012, 02:21:22 AM
Go to an amusement park, meet two girls who claim they're 17. Ride roller coasters with them and talk to them all day. Get a voice mail on your phone from one of the girls' mother saying to stay away from her 15 year old daughter.

Fail.

Go to a bar with an old co-worker and her friend. Chat up her friend, Facebook friend each other. The next day, the friend deletes you from her Facebook and blocks you.

Fail.

Time to go gay!

17yo girls, wat. What's the age of consent in your state breh. I'd feel way too weird macking on 17yo chicks even if it was legal in Michigan

14. I kid you not. They looked older though...and stuff.

Call the mom back and tell her age of consent is 14. :patel :drake

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 11:46:52 PM

Date went good. Second date next Tuesday. 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 10, 2012, 11:47:22 PM

grats

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 11:48:20 PM

Quote from: Lan on July 10, 2012, 11:47:22 PM

grats

Let's fuck!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 10, 2012, 11:50:45 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 10, 2012, 11:34:56 PM

Quote from: Lan on July 10, 2012, 11:32:50 PM
Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 10, 2012, 09:51:03 PM
Quote from: Lan on July 10, 2012, 06:54:48 PM
Quote from: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 12:27:17 AM
and my ex keeps fucking texting me.. ugh

basically this is my problem only now he is crying to me over the phone and wants to marry me.

I am also interested in someone else...

That is all I'm going to say < <;

(don't be mean >_<)

Was it a bad break up, or more mutual?

This guy sounds rather possessive or something imo, not to mention clingy. If it's over, it's over - and if he truly likes and respects you, he will respect your feelings. Don't let him guilt you into action (getting back with him) or inaction (not pursuing the person you're interested in).

no it wasn't mutual, he called me up on the phone one day and dumped me. He said he is moving to Miami, where he is right now. I had to kill all my feelings for him so that I could operate. Now he wants me to get back with him? CRAY

oh word? Now he's crawling back...nah Lan, don't give this dude the time of day. He may his bed.

He literally called you and dumped you like that, then told you he was moving? aw hell nah

He is crawling back because he misses the food I would make him and how close we where. We are both graphic designers so we have the same goals.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 11:52:20 PM

aww hell naw~!~!~!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 10, 2012, 11:53:16 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 11:48:20 PM

Quote from: Lan on July 10, 2012, 11:47:22 PM
grats

Let's fuck!

are you tall, black american, sexy body, have straight white teeth, deep voice, and big brown eyes? <_< I need DAT

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 11, 2012, 12:05:55 AM

Quote from: Lan on July 10, 2012, 11:53:16 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 11:48:20 PM
Quote from: Lan on July 10, 2012, 11:47:22 PM
grats

Let's fuck!

are you tall, black american, sexy body, have straight white teeth, deep voice, and big brown eyes? <_< I need DAT

You just described PD.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on July 11, 2012, 12:07:09 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 11:46:52 PM

Date went good. Second date next Tuesday. 8)

so is she on the pill or wat

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 11, 2012, 12:10:06 AM

Quote from: The Experiment on July 11, 2012, 12:05:55 AM

Quote from: Lan on July 10, 2012, 11:53:16 PM
Quote from: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 11:48:20 PM
Quote from: Lan on July 10, 2012, 11:47:22 PM
grats

Let's fuck!

are you tall, black american, sexy body, have straight white teeth, deep voice, and big brown eyes? <_< I need DAT

You just described PD.

don't troll me :yuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 11, 2012, 12:11:28 AM

Quote from: Lan on July 10, 2012, 11:53:16 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 10, 2012, 11:48:20 PM
Quote from: Lan on July 10, 2012, 11:47:22 PM
grats

Let's fuck!

are you tall, black american, sexy body, have straight white teeth, deep voice, and big brown eyes? <_< I need DAT

this is sum bullshit!!! :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 12:11:32 AM

(http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e86/PhoenixDark1/PICT0152.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 11, 2012, 12:12:21 AM

Fuck you for existing, PD

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 11, 2012, 12:12:47 AM

whelp, guess whos getting a facial tonight! *print*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 11, 2012, 12:16:19 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 10, 2012, 10:56:47 PM

Meh, I know plenty of professional women who talk about kids 24/7. It's a mixed bag.

My stance is that right now, I don't want kids - hell I don't even want to get married. Would I tell a girl all that after a couple months of dating? Probably not. Kids inevitably come up though, so I'd at least make my current position known in a far lighter tone than I'm using here.

The kid talk should come up pretty quick if you're in your late 20s otherwise you're wasting their time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on July 11, 2012, 12:35:35 AM

Quote from: Joe Molotov® EDGE™ on July 10, 2012, 11:45:49 PM

Quote from: FatalT on July 10, 2012, 03:02:51 AM
Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 10, 2012, 02:39:01 AM
Quote from: FatalT on July 10, 2012, 02:21:22 AM
Go to an amusement park, meet two girls who claim they're 17. Ride roller coasters with them and talk to them all day. Get a voice mail on your phone from one of the girls' mother saying to stay away from her 15 year old daughter.

Fail.

Go to a bar with an old co-worker and her friend. Chat up her friend, Facebook friend each other. The next day, the friend deletes you from her Facebook and blocks you.

Fail.

Time to go gay!

17yo girls, wat. What's the age of consent in your state breh. I'd feel way too weird macking on 17yo chicks even if it was legal in Michigan

14. I kid you not. They looked older though...and stuff.

Call the mom back and tell her age of consent is 14. :patel :drake

TEMPTING! Dammit Bebpo, I'm 23. I'll be 24 this year.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 11, 2012, 12:39:33 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 11, 2012, 12:12:21 AM

Fuck you for existing, PD

lol

Who smiles like they just came from the dentist? :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 11, 2012, 12:40:22 AM

PD is the son of a dentist.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 12:41:56 AM

you know dat smile is handsome, admit it yo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 11, 2012, 12:43:00 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 11, 2012, 12:40:22 AM

PD is the son of a dentist.

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 11, 2012, 12:43:07 AM

PD, I wanna hang with you. So bad. I just, feel like you'd be a bro, ya know?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 11, 2012, 12:44:36 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 12:41:56 AM

you know dat smile is handsome, admit it yo

post more cause that last one was super blurry. It makes your lips look crusty. I don't wanna judge you harshly :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 11, 2012, 12:46:07 AM

What are crusty lips

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 12:48:08 AM

Quote from: Lan on July 11, 2012, 12:44:36 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 12:41:56 AM
you know dat smile is handsome, admit it yo

post more cause that last one was super blurry

(http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e86/PhoenixDark1/PICT0147.jpg)
my lips aren't crusty that's just the camera shine or some shit. come on, you can't deny me :-\

(http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e86/PhoenixDark1/PICT0146.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on July 11, 2012, 12:49:48 AM

Are we cam whoring now? MY FAVORITE THING TO DO!

(http://sphotos.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ash3/552390_3475885892212_833205243_n.jpg)

Yes, it's blurry and I was teary-eyed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 11, 2012, 12:50:05 AM

If I lost weight I would be better looking than you, PD.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 11, 2012, 12:52:06 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 11, 2012, 12:50:05 AM

If I lost weight I would be better looking than you, PD.

Dang looks like PD's got a date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 12:53:44 AM

not that i'm simping BUT

so Lan, those pics an improvement on the blur issue?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 11, 2012, 12:54:47 AM

Quote from: FatalT on July 11, 2012, 12:49:48 AM

Are we cam whoring now? MY FAVORITE THING TO DO!

(http://sphotos.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ash3/552390_3475885892212_833205243_n.jpg)

Yes, it's blurry and I was teary-eyed.

You look so huggable for some reason.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 11, 2012, 12:56:17 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 12:53:44 AM

not that i'm simping BUT

so Lan, those pics an improvement on the blur issue?

Your shirt is strangely faded, but its not blurry. So I think its a bit better :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 01:01:32 AM

It's an old shirt. But yea, good to hear I meet the requirements :bow

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 11, 2012, 01:02:25 AM

god you simp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 01:04:24 AM

my simp game can't be matched

(http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m6uuzpDOYh1qkagf4o1_400.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on July 11, 2012, 01:04:39 AM

Quote from: Lan on July 11, 2012, 12:54:47 AM

You look so huggable for some reason.

I love hugs! I need hugs now more than ever to be honest.

(http://i.imgur.com/yjhTJ.jpg)

The brown spots are bruises. Not self-inflicted.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 11, 2012, 01:05:47 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 01:04:24 AM

my simp game can't be matched

(http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m6uuzpDOYh1qkagf4o1_400.gif)

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 11, 2012, 01:18:11 AM

Cmon Lan.. once you go white... I mean.. you know what they say about us white folk! We have big...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 11, 2012, 01:18:48 AM

:lol @ PD

Speaking as the forum's grouchy mid-30something perpetual bachelor/everybody's asexual uncle, I would bring the kid thing up as soon as I started to think a girl had any relationship potential whatsoever, because it an ABSOLUTE dealbreaker for me. KIDS and AIDS are only one letter off for a reason, brosephs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 01:22:10 AM

(http://img88.imageshack.us/img88/9308/yeshrug.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 11, 2012, 01:22:26 AM

Simp is the most hilarious term.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 11, 2012, 01:27:11 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 01:22:10 AM

(http://img88.imageshack.us/img88/9308/yeshrug.png)

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=2150.0

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 01:32:09 AM

oh lord, speaking of which...nah, I'll PM you

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 11, 2012, 01:34:54 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 01:32:09 AM

oh lord, speaking of which...nah, I'll PM you

cock tease :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 11, 2012, 01:38:04 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 11, 2012, 01:18:11 AM

Cmon Lan.. once you go white... I mean.. you know what they say about us white folk! We have big...

I'm only describing the guy that I mentioned earlier. You know the one I'm interested in?

Anyways this pic will be up for only 5 minutes. Since everyone is sharing. lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 11, 2012, 01:38:53 AM

You have better looking pics, Lan. Don't show them this. Show them the smile.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 11, 2012, 01:39:45 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 11, 2012, 01:38:53 AM

You have better looking pics, Lan. Don't show them this. Show them the smile.

creepy? :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 01:42:58 AM

We're facebook friends, I've seen everything already (http://img521.imageshack.us/img521/7718/obamax.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 11, 2012, 01:43:42 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 01:42:58 AM

We're facebook friends, I've seen everything already (http://img521.imageshack.us/img521/7718/obamax.png)

some people in here haven't. Oh well its gone now /shrug

Time for bed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 11, 2012, 01:47:10 AM

Quote from: Lan on July 11, 2012, 01:39:45 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 11, 2012, 01:38:53 AM
You have better looking pics, Lan. Don't show them this. Show them the smile.

creepy? :lol

No. Never.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 11, 2012, 01:49:07 AM

fuck i missed it! :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 11, 2012, 02:04:16 AM

PD is a handsome looking dude!

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on July 11, 2012, 03:15:23 AM

I missed it too! :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on July 11, 2012, 03:16:30 AM

Quote from: tiesto on July 10, 2012, 09:31:07 PM

I'm going to a speed-dating event for professionals tomorrow nite. Will report in and let you guys know how it went! My first speed-dating thing ever :o

Wait. They let you, an amateur, in the professional speed-dating event?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 11, 2012, 03:32:54 AM

PD needs to lose that babyfat.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 04:20:14 AM

Kosma: I'm the black Matt Stafford

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: SantaC on July 11, 2012, 04:13:29 PM

My daughter is 10 months old right now. Her name is Emerentia.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 11, 2012, 04:44:40 PM

Quote from: SantaC on July 11, 2012, 04:13:29 PM

My daughter is 10 months old right now. Her name is Emerentia.

No fucking way, Santa has a kid?!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 11, 2012, 04:47:53 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on July 11, 2012, 04:40:07 PM

Had a date yesterday that was alright with an all tatted up chick. And tonight I have a date with a girl I used to have a massive crush on, the redhead with the lip piercing I once posted about calling her sonic girl.

Hot. Post pics of both

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 11, 2012, 05:02:41 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on July 11, 2012, 04:40:07 PM

Had a date yesterday that was alright with an all tatted up chick. And tonight I have a date with a girl I used to have a massive crush on, the redhead with the lip piercing I once posted about calling her sonic girl.

Nice. Full sleeves are awesome.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 11, 2012, 05:08:38 PM

tats are disgusting and tacky

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 05:09:48 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on July 11, 2012, 04:40:07 PM

Had a date yesterday that was alright with an all tatted up chick. And tonight I have a date with a girl I used to have a massive crush on, the redhead with the lip piercing I once posted about calling her sonic girl.

(http://img262.imageshack.us/img262/8489/whatxy.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 11, 2012, 05:38:50 PM

Is "black people not liking girls with tattoos" some sort of cultural thing along the lines of having to go to church or some shit? I DON'T GET IT. Mainly because a girl who can drink, curses like a sailor and has a lot of visible tattoos is my kryptonite. I'll do whatever the hell she wants.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 05:42:41 PM

I don't have a problem with having a tattoo or even a couple, but chicks with an art museum up their arms and down their back is a turn off to me.

Any type of mouth piercing is a no go for me though. I see too much nasty shit at work to come home to that nahmean

(http://img191.imageshack.us/img191/5079/sadbron.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on July 11, 2012, 05:55:03 PM

I love sleeves or like a shoulder thing, but that's about the extent of it. My favorite are those corny script tats.

Life Is Good
Until Its Not
So Leave Luck
Too Heaven

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 11, 2012, 05:57:47 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 11, 2012, 05:38:50 PM

Is "black people not liking girls with tattoos" some sort of cultural thing along the lines of having to go to church or some shit? I DON'T GET IT. Mainly because a girl who can drink, curses like a sailor and has a lot of visible tattoos is my kryptonite. I'll do whatever the hell she wants.

Looks gross. One tat, sure. Maybe. But a whole arm of tats? Ew. Also, plenty of black girls and dudes have tats. I just personally find it to be a turn off.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on July 11, 2012, 06:17:45 PM

I'm not big on tats either. It's like fondling a newspaper.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 11, 2012, 06:20:25 PM

I don't like to judge people by their tats but a lot of tats on a person usually signifies a lack of class. There are people who break this mold but eh. Like I don't know I feel the people who need to stand out the most with that kind of crap are trying to make up for vapid personalities and think they're uber unique because man I got ink. Of course that isn't the case but I can't help but feel that way sometimes. Same with people who dye their hair certain colors.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on July 11, 2012, 06:22:45 PM

I have had cool friends with a lot of tats. Some get addicted to it and it starts to take over their body. I don't care that they like tats, I just don't find it to be a turn-on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 11, 2012, 06:25:44 PM

Quote from: etiolate on July 11, 2012, 06:22:45 PM

I have had cool friends with a lot of tats. Some get addicted to it and it starts to take over their body. I don't care that they like tats, I just don't find it to be a turn-on.

When there is too much it looks like a layer of clothing to me. I like seeing skin. So it's a turn off for me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on July 11, 2012, 06:31:10 PM

Yes, I prefer seeing the skin. Blemishes and nuances are a sort of intimate thumbprint that tats cover up or obscure.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 11, 2012, 06:32:49 PM

When I want to see boobs, I want to see boobs. What the fuck kind of guy wants to see tat boobs?

(http://i.imgur.com/WvTSt.jpg)

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on July 11, 2012, 06:37:26 PM

but himu

Her body is like a constellation!

Or a Sanrio store.

BUT ITS ALL BEAUTIFUL!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: SantaC on July 11, 2012, 07:15:38 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 11, 2012, 04:44:40 PM

Quote from: SantaC on July 11, 2012, 04:13:29 PM
My daughter is 10 months old right now. Her name is Emerentia.

No fucking way, Santa has a kid?!

this is a joke right? I have been in a relationship for almost 5 years now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 07:18:32 PM

Quote from: SantaC on July 11, 2012, 07:15:38 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 11, 2012, 04:44:40 PM
Quote from: SantaC on July 11, 2012, 04:13:29 PM
My daughter is 10 months old right now. Her name is Emerentia.

No fucking way, Santa has a kid?!

this is a joke right? I have been in a relationship for almost 5 years now.

Cool. Don't think I've ever read one of your posts before today

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: SantaC on July 11, 2012, 07:29:25 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 07:18:32 PM

Quote from: SantaC on July 11, 2012, 07:15:38 PM
Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 11, 2012, 04:44:40 PM
Quote from: SantaC on July 11, 2012, 04:13:29 PM
My daughter is 10 months old right now. Her name is Emerentia.

No fucking way, Santa has a kid?!

this is a joke right? I have been in a relationship for almost 5 years now.

Cool. Don't think I've ever read one of your posts before today

having a baby really kills the sex though. Been going from like 3-4 times a week to twice a month now when we have kids.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 11, 2012, 07:30:42 PM

Quote from: etiolate on July 11, 2012, 06:31:10 PM

Yes, I prefer seeing the skin. Blemishes and nuances are a sort of intimate thumbprint that tats cover up or obscure.

Yup. I like exploring a body to find those kinds of things and tats just cover 'em up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Youngblood on July 11, 2012, 07:36:54 PM

Quote from: SantaC on July 11, 2012, 07:29:25 PM

having a baby really kills the sex though. Been going from like 3-4 times a week to twice a month now when we have kids.

Yeah. Unfortunately, that sounds about right. At one point a whole month had gone by and I didn't even realize it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on July 11, 2012, 07:52:44 PM

PD has posted those same pics for the past 5 years. Post some new ones... breh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 11, 2012, 08:15:29 PM

Quote from: Steve Youngblood on July 11, 2012, 07:36:54 PM

Quote from: SantaC on July 11, 2012, 07:29:25 PM
having a baby really kills the sex though. Been going from like 3-4 times a week to twice a month now when we have kids.

Yeah. Unfortunately, that sounds about right. At one point a whole month had gone by and I didn't even realize it.

That's the kind of crap that really makes me wanna put off kids.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 11, 2012, 08:19:59 PM

ditto

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 11, 2012, 10:36:31 PM

Hmmm. Some guy I knew in High School, I saw him walking last week and we had a cool chat and exchanged numbers. Now he's sending me texts with smilie faces. I like the sentiment. Think he's interested?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 11, 2012, 10:45:49 PM

so bitches really do love smiley faces

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 11, 2012, 10:48:53 PM

I'm not really too big into tats on girls either, nice to see I'm not alone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 11, 2012, 10:52:29 PM

UGH.

The worst thing about this is worrying if he likes cock or not and flirting while tip toeing around not being overly faggy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on July 11, 2012, 11:23:27 PM

hes sending you smiley-face texts. hes gay, dude

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 11, 2012, 11:54:32 PM

.........................

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on July 12, 2012, 12:19:32 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 11, 2012, 10:52:29 PM

UGH.

The worst thing about this is worrying if he likes cock or not and flirting while tip toeing around not being overly faggy.

send him your dick

spoiler (click to show/hide)

and by him, i mean me :-*

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on July 12, 2012, 12:23:42 AM

"I like your smilies, here's mine 8======D~~~~~~~"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on July 12, 2012, 04:31:27 AM

Did someone tell the girls about you getting around?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 12, 2012, 10:18:11 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 11, 2012, 10:36:31 PM

Hmmm. Some guy I knew in High School, I saw him walking last week and we had a cool chat and exchanged numbers. Now he's sending me texts with smilie faces. I like the sentiment. Think he's interested?

omg who is it? tell meeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 12, 2012, 10:27:29 AM

You don't know him.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 12, 2012, 10:31:11 AM

:( :( :( :( :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 12, 2012, 11:25:16 AM

Did the speed dating thing, and it was fun, but I don't think anything will come of it... they split everyone into different age ranges (I was in the 25-35 range), and then we each got 8 minutes to talk to the different girls... the guys rotated around while the girls sat still. (Was at a local Italian restaurant). Most of the girls I met were from Queens (about an hour away from me), and a few years older - but they all had good jobs and were dressed tastefully, and a surprising number were decent looking... The one I liked the best was a tall, thin blonde who liked Kaskade and Avicii. (oh my god, bet you all are shocked!)

After the event, you mark on a card who you would like to meet for a 2nd date/friendship/business partner, then you post it to a website and it matches you up. So far, only one girl matched up with me, for "friendship" :-\

The lady who hosts this is gonna start to do the events closer to my house, so I will try again at a later date. It was an enjoyable time, even if nothing really came of it. At least it was something a bit different for me, instead of relying on OKCupid to meet women.

But anyways, I think I need to take a serious look at myself and what I'm doing wrong. Am I too quiet/awkward on first dates? (probably) Am I just not meeting the right people? Am I simply not unattractive?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on July 12, 2012, 12:11:25 PM

I dunno why "friendship" would be an allowed possible outcome for a speed DATING event- what a kick to the nuts

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on July 12, 2012, 01:17:31 PM

Nothing is wrong with you, tiesto. It's what's wrong with them being the real issue.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 12, 2012, 05:44:12 PM

ARGH.

He sends me a youtube video. WITH A SMILEY FACE. So I put it in the address bar and it's this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hn_HaEf62h4

And then he sends me an EXTRA smiley message by itself.

HE IS TROLLING ME.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Joe Molotov on July 12, 2012, 06:03:06 PM

Quote from: tiesto on July 12, 2012, 11:25:16 AM

Did the speed dating thing, and it was fun, but I don't think anything will come of it... they split everyone into different age ranges (I was in the 25-35 range), and then we each got 8 minutes to talk to the different girls... the guys rotated around while the girls sat still. (Was at a local Italian restaurant). Most of the girls I met were from Queens (about an hour away from me), and a few years older - but they all had good jobs and were dressed tastefully, and a surprising number were decent looking... The one I liked the best was a tall, thin blonde who liked Kaskade and Avicii. (oh my god, bet you all are shocked!)

After the event, you mark on a card who you would like to meet for a 2nd date/friendship/business partner, then you post it to a website and it matches you up. So far, only one girl matched up with me, for "friendship" :-\

The lady who hosts this is gonna start to do the events closer to my house, so I will try again at a later date. It was an enjoyable time, even if nothing really came of it. At least it was something a bit different for me, instead of relying on OKCupid to meet women.

But anyways, I think I need to take a serious look at myself and what I'm doing wrong. Am I too quiet/awkward on first dates? (probably) Am I just not meeting the right people? Am I simply not unattractive?

You got friendzoned after 8 minutes. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on July 12, 2012, 06:05:47 PM

Tiesto just settle down with a nice homely chubby girl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 12, 2012, 06:47:47 PM

I don't see how speed dating wouldn't be superficial. You have a few minutes to talk so basically a woman will just evaluate you based on looks and any information she can ascertain about your job, how much money you rake in, etc. I would imagine the key to success would be to look like you're as important and wealthy as possible.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on July 12, 2012, 07:29:59 PM

or maybe you could crack some jokes and make her laugh or realize you have some of the same interests or work in similar fields

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 12, 2012, 07:32:39 PM

Quote from: Positive Touch on July 12, 2012, 07:29:59 PM

or maybe you could crack some jokes and make her laugh or realize you have some of the same interests or work in similar fields

ROFL

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 12, 2012, 07:33:54 PM

Positive is right. Making a woman laugh is the real secret to winning her heart.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 12, 2012, 07:36:06 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 12, 2012, 07:33:54 PM

Positive is right. Making a woman laugh is the real secret to winning her heart.

You guys think that tiesto didn't try to do that? Get real.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on July 12, 2012, 07:39:24 PM

i didnt say that

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 12, 2012, 07:53:34 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 12, 2012, 05:44:12 PM

ARGH.

He sends me a youtube video. WITH A SMILEY FACE. So I put it in the address bar and it's this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hn_HaEf62h4

And then he sends me an EXTRA smiley message by itself.

HE IS TROLLING ME.

Are you trolling or actually trying to kick it with a dude? Smiley face with a youtube video...why is that note worthy?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 12, 2012, 08:17:37 PM

Quote from: demi on July 12, 2012, 06:05:47 PM

Tiesto just settle down with a nice homely chubby girl.

Can't even seem to find one of those into me! Well I'd prefer a chubby girl with a cute face, that is the ideal for me.

Yeah I met a few girls with things in common (music, dining out, activities, travel) alas it was not meant to be! Maybe I'll try eharmony next, or maybe I'll just hit on every girl in sight (that's not jailbait, and not on molly) at EZoo.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on July 12, 2012, 08:24:51 PM

when has ":P" entered the female lexicon of things that are sexual orientated or picking up. I sent someone I consider my FRIEND the ":p" smiley and all I heard about it was about me trying to pick her up.

fucking smileys.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on July 13, 2012, 01:22:44 AM

i'm with T EXP here

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 13, 2012, 01:25:22 AM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6R03BVIyAdY

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 13, 2012, 09:51:51 AM

lulz "make her laugh" is such lame advice. You might as well throw out "be confident" and "don't fart".

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on July 13, 2012, 10:28:24 AM

except that i see douchebags all the time that think the best way to impress a woman is to talk up yr career or something equally as boring, not that im talking about anyone here

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: SantaC on July 13, 2012, 10:52:09 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 12, 2012, 07:33:54 PM

Positive is right. Making a woman laugh is the real secret to winning her heart.

plus be yourself. Roleplaying as someone else will not last for long.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 13, 2012, 11:09:21 AM

Quote from: Positive Touch on July 13, 2012, 10:28:24 AM

except that i see douchebags all the time that think the best way to impress a woman is to talk up yr career or something equally as boring, not that im talking about anyone here

I can make my career sound pretty interesting (even though day-to-day, it's really not). I usually prefer talking about hobbies - movies, music, travel - on a first date. I don't think I'm good at flirting, never really learned how to do that too successfully, that could be a problem as well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 14, 2012, 02:05:02 AM

Quote from: tiesto on July 13, 2012, 11:09:21 AM

Quote from: Positive Touch on July 13, 2012, 10:28:24 AM
except that i see douchebags all the time that think the best way to impress a woman is to talk up yr career or something equally as boring, not that im talking about anyone here

I can make my career sound pretty interesting (even though day-to-day, it's really not). I usually prefer talking about hobbies - movies, music, travel - on a first date. I don't think I'm good at flirting, never really learned how to do that too successfully, that could be a problem as well.

Oh fuck

You know, speaking as someone with sort of (but not as terrible) the same kind of hobbies, I don't think letting her know on the first date that you worship everything shat out of Japan's bunghole is the way to her heart. I'm just spitballing here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on July 14, 2012, 02:10:31 AM

make the woman laugh. i'm sure every man and woman has heard this before. probably as useless advice as you can get.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 14, 2012, 03:34:47 AM

Hey, someone message me on AIM, I wanna talk

bebpo

*I've been drinking

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on July 14, 2012, 03:59:30 AM

i honestly didn't know people still used AIM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 14, 2012, 04:14:17 AM

And icq!

But my icq is a dozen numbers so aim is easier.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on July 14, 2012, 04:19:44 AM

No idea what the fuck icq is. But hope someone chatted you up bebpo regardless. Goodnight

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 14, 2012, 04:28:53 AM

No one did.

It's Friday, whose at home sitting around online :p

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 14, 2012, 04:52:10 AM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Inspector Thatcher on July 14, 2012, 05:11:16 AM

People who talk about their careers a lot are taken for ambitious, career-driven people. It's a sign of confidence and financial stability. For someone who's looking to add to his/her life with a relationship with a strong, independent person, confidence, stability, and ambition are a few key traits. Not necessarily deal-breakers, but traits.

Trouble is, focus the job-talk too much and you lose the other person. Of course, I doubt that's news to anyone here...

Quote from: Bebpo on July 14, 2012, 04:52:10 AM

Why is it that you always fall for people who ignore you the most? It happens both ways.

Because we want most what we think we cannot have.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 14, 2012, 05:22:38 AM

And done

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CrystalGemini on July 14, 2012, 05:23:04 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on July 13, 2012, 09:51:51 AM

lulz "make her laugh" is such lame advice. You might as well throw out "be confident" and "don't fart".

Gotta agree with mups here. "making her laugh" will last for like five seconds. Then the joke's over.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on July 14, 2012, 05:27:12 AM

your logic is flawed, bebpo. add her

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 14, 2012, 05:31:18 AM

Thank you. Done.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 14, 2012, 10:57:10 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 14, 2012, 02:05:02 AM

Quote from: tiesto on July 13, 2012, 11:09:21 AM
Quote from: Positive Touch on July 13, 2012, 10:28:24 AM
except that i see douchebags all the time that think the best way to impress a woman is to talk up yr career or something equally as boring, not that im talking about anyone here

I can make my career sound pretty interesting (even though day-to-day, it's really not). I usually prefer talking about hobbies - movies, music, travel - on a first date. I don't think I'm good at flirting, never really learned how to do that too successfully, that could be a problem as well.

Oh fuck

You know, speaking as someone with sort of (but not as terrible) the same kind of hobbies, I don't think letting her know on the first date that you worship everything shat out of Japan's bunghole is the way to her heart. I'm just spitballing here.

Believe me, I don't mention the games/animu/weeaboo stuff much or at all on a first date (maybe a casual "I like classic games")... in fact, the girl I did best with since I started dating again - didn't like gaming at all! Unfortunately that girl moved to DC soon after we met :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 14, 2012, 12:08:59 PM

Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on July 14, 2012, 07:29:30 AM

bebs, m'lud, i pride myself on being able to sort the forever-alone losers from the people that just haven't hit the right combination yet. it's small comfort at the moment i'm sure, but you're definitely of the second sort. you've probably got some lumps to take in life before you get where you need to be, but you'll get there, i'm quite sure of it. tiesto, too. you're both decent people that are putting yourselves out there. it's really just a matter of percentages at that point.

I appreciate the encouragement :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 14, 2012, 11:12:09 PM

maybe I'm crazy but I've noticed that I'm happier when I'm single than when I'm in a relationship. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 15, 2012, 12:38:32 AM

Quote from: Lan on July 14, 2012, 11:12:09 PM

maybe I'm crazy but I've noticed that I'm happier when I'm single than when I'm in a relationship. :lol

I'm the same way but then I get horny.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 15, 2012, 11:55:41 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 15, 2012, 12:38:32 AM

Quote from: Lan on July 14, 2012, 11:12:09 PM
maybe I'm crazy but I've noticed that I'm happier when I'm single than when I'm in a relationship. :lol

I'm the same way but then I get horny.

very true, I suffer this as well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 15, 2012, 01:49:21 PM

I think this is because you get in relationships with people you don't want to be in relationships with. You just thought you did at the time because it was new and fun and you wanted it to be monogamous.

That's why I'm raising my standards and not just getting in relationships with anyone who seems fine but I'm not really into them or anything. Only going to go into future relationships with people I really like.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 15, 2012, 01:53:34 PM

A friend of a friend is apparently interested in me. She moved to the town I'm living in now for a new job.

I'm not really feeling her that much and I wonder if she just wants to hook up because I'm the only familiar single dude in a town that she is not really familiar with.

So I'm going to have lunch with her later this week to feel things out and see what's up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 15, 2012, 02:18:08 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on July 15, 2012, 01:49:21 PM

I think this is because you get in relationships with people you don't want to be in relationships with. You just thought you did at the time because it was new and fun and you wanted it to be monogamous.

That's why I'm raising my standards and not just getting in relationships with anyone who seems fine but I'm not really into them or anything. Only going to go into future relationships with people I really like.

Problem is most men my age don't hold a job. I don't even think that is a high standard but I feel its important to me now because I've tried dating someone with no job. It just doesn't work out.

I guess I need to date someone 30+ to raise the chances of them having a job.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 15, 2012, 02:28:29 PM

When you say "no job" do you mean "I work at McDonalds" or "no job" as in literally no job? Most dudes I know have jobs, even if they're also in school. I guess it might depend on location though. There are certainly areas of urban cities where dudes do nothing but hang on the corner.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 15, 2012, 02:36:57 PM

Quote from: Lan on July 15, 2012, 02:18:08 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on July 15, 2012, 01:49:21 PM
I think this is because you get in relationships with people you don't want to be in relationships with. You just thought you did at the time because it was new and fun and you wanted it to be monogamous.

That's why I'm raising my standards and not just getting in relationships with anyone who seems fine but I'm not really into them or anything. Only going to go into future relationships with people I really like.

Problem is most men my age don't hold a job. I don't even think that is a high standard but I feel its important to me now because I've tried dating someone with no job. It just doesn't work out.

I guess I need to date someone 30+ to raise the chances of them having a job.

How old are you?

Quote from: Ruzbeh on July 15, 2012, 02:29:44 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on July 15, 2012, 01:53:34 PM
So I'm going to have lunch with her later this week to feel things out

Interesting choice of words.

That was intentional :teehee

I've known this girl for years and was one of those "I'm too good for you" types when I was a fat virgin in high school. Now that I am pretty well fit and have a good paying job, suddenly I'm no longer beneath her. I'm willing to let bygones be bygones if I can put it in her asshole.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 15, 2012, 02:42:27 PM

:lol

Does she have a decent job, or will you be all :smug to her over it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 15, 2012, 02:45:44 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 15, 2012, 02:42:27 PM

:lol

Does she have a decent job, or will you be all :smug to her over it

She's working at an entry level job in advertising so it probably doesn't pay a whole lot. I don't know if I will be :smug to her about it. I'll see how lunch goes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 15, 2012, 04:23:46 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 15, 2012, 02:28:29 PM

When you say "no job" do you mean "I work at McDonalds" or "no job" as in literally no job? Most dudes I know have jobs, even if they're also in school. I guess it might depend on location though. There are certainly areas of urban cities where dudes do nothing but hang on the corner.

no job what so ever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 15, 2012, 04:27:02 PM

I don't know if you've noticed, Lan, but we are in a recession. 50% of college grads don't have a job.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 15, 2012, 05:31:09 PM

I'm going to be a misandrist elitist but here goes: I think women have handled this recession (or in reality, depression) better than men have, anecdotally.

Most of the women I know who didn't have a job tried to do something about it. Maybe it was running their own business, maybe it was doing graphic design/web design, or they went back to school until they found something. Most of the dudes I knew just played 360, watched TV, or drink/get high. That isn't to say all men do nothing and all women do something but it definitely has an end product that will lead to what is described in this article:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/03/21/income-gap-women-make-more-men_n_1368328.html

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 15, 2012, 05:37:40 PM

That would be a funny reply if multiple outlets, including Time, hadn't already run similar articles about this very subject

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 15, 2012, 05:53:22 PM

I think men are in a transitory period myself. They're at the cusp of realizing that Don Draper is a thing of the past and the definitions of traditional masculinity are taking a hit. Now they don't have to settle down as fast and are reveling in it. Meanwhile this is the largest generation of women so far not held back by gender roles and can put off kids several years down the road. Seeing what sacrificing a career has done to their own mothers I doubt so many are apt to follow in those footsteps if they have the chance not to. Except of course the south and other areas that are basically a cesspool of ignorance and teenage motherhood.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 15, 2012, 08:18:32 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 15, 2012, 04:27:02 PM

I don't know if you've noticed, Lan, but we are in a recession. 50% of college grads don't have a job.

I fully understand that.

When I meet my ex he was in school. I entered into a relationship with him because he is attractive and is at least in school. I assumed he would get a job later on. But for the entire 2 years together he didn't gain a single job. While I got a job 3 months after being in a relationship with him. I then gained a better job after a year of being with him. I assumed he would be as hard working as I was. But he wasn't. I think I was reasonable enough.

But I know that if I want a relationship to work, both people need to have jobs and show that they can take care of themselves so as to not suck the other's resources dry.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 15, 2012, 09:04:16 PM

Quote from: Lan on July 15, 2012, 08:18:32 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 15, 2012, 04:27:02 PM
I don't know if you've noticed, Lan, but we are in a recession. 50% of college grads don't have a job.

I fully understand that.

When I meet my ex he was in school. I entered into a relationship with him because he is attractive and is at least in school. I assumed he would get a job later on. But for the entire 2 years together he didn't gain a single job. While I got a job 3 months after being in a relationship with him. I then gained a better job after a year of being with him. I assumed he would be as hard working as I was. But he wasn't. I think I was reasonable enough.

But I know that if I want a relationship to work, both people need to have jobs and show that they can take care of themselves so as to not suck the other's resources dry.

I see this as a valid, adult expectation - one that has been shared many times here before (Bepbo, Tiesto).

If someone isn't putting proper focus on finding a job over the course of three years, something is wrong. I'd argue that's quite different than someone trying hard to find a good job for a long period of time, and not finding one; I'd be ok with that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 15, 2012, 09:15:03 PM

I'd be willing to cut an unemployed person a break if they're doing their best to find a job. By that I mean doing your own thing (entrepreneurship), volunteering, looking into higher education, etc. As Himuro pointed out, the effective unemployment/underemployment rate for people our age is about 50% It's unrealistic to assume that you need a job, let alone a good paying job, as an expectation. Otherwise there are going to be a lot of lonely people out there.

A girl I dated two years ago didn't have a job but she volunteered at the Girl Scouts for several months, until a job opening there came up and she took it. Now if she sat on her ass and ate Ben and Jerry's watching Real Housewives of Orange County, then I would have left her ass from the get go.

Relevant:

(http://www.investors.com/image/WEB2unemp051812.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 16, 2012, 09:00:56 AM

Quote from: The Experiment on July 15, 2012, 05:31:09 PM

I'm going to be a misandrist elitist but here goes: I think women have handled this recession (or in reality, depression) better than men have, anecdotally.

Most of the women I know who didn't have a job tried to do something about it. Maybe it was running their own business, maybe it was doing graphic design/web design, or they went back to school until they found something. Most of the dudes I knew just played 360, watched TV, or drink/get high. That isn't to say all men do nothing and all women do something but it definitely has an end product that will lead to what is described in this article:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/03/21/income-gap-women-make-more-men_n_1368328.html

A lot of the jobs that got the biggest hit in the recession were in male-dominated fields, such as construction and manufacturing. I've heard the recession be called the "man-cession" before...

I've had the problem of an unmotivated girlfriend before, who was happy in her dead-end minimum wage no bennys job, believe me :P I'm willing to cut a break if the girl is motivated and looking for a job...

Out on the island, I tend to meet a lot of girls who are looking to become teachers. Teaching is one of the biggest fields of employment, since most major employers are in the city and people move there for a job... teachers have been laid off as school budgets have dropped (yet property tax still continues to escalate...), leaving tons of people out of work or looking for work.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 16, 2012, 10:18:21 AM

Quote from: mojovonio on July 16, 2012, 10:02:46 AM

There's too many heartbreak songs with my Ex's name in it.

God dammit.

My last g/f has one of the most common female names around... I've dated a few girls with the same name since breaking up with her even :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 17, 2012, 10:51:14 PM

I asked a girl who visited my OKC profile (and didn't message) if she liked my profile and now I got this message in return:

Quote

Hey cutie! Yeah I did, was waiting for you to make the first move, glad that you decided to message me :) This one guy keeps harassing me here and he’s making new accounts when I block him…I think I'm leaving cause it’s getting really frustrating, but I’d really like to get to know you better because you seem like a nice guy + you are really cute ;) Would you mind giving me your mail so we could keep in touch?
Kisses,
adsfasd

I have a feeling this is a spam bot but has this ever happened to anybody here before?

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on July 15, 2012, 11:16:36 PM

Seriously fuck the Turk, nothing is worse than being cockblocked by an ex.

Well when a guy tries to swoop in on a girl that you're with, just start flirting with the dude. Like bro-flirt, I mean. Just be chummy and start talking about similar interests and finish his sentences and so on. It will turn off his alpha-male aggressiveness and therefore destroy his ability to cockblock.

I'm serious.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on July 17, 2012, 10:55:35 PM

Why yes, that is indeed completely fake.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 17, 2012, 11:08:11 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on July 17, 2012, 10:55:35 PM

Why yes, that is indeed completely fake.

If I randomly just got that message, I would obviously think that. But it's odd if a spammer is having the fake account simply visit profiles to see who bites by sending back an initial message. That would be less effective.

As far as establishing that she is a real person, her taste in movies/books is a bit specific and she has a lot of detail about what she's doing with her life. I'll just use a secondary email address and see where this goes.

Also wtf are you? I have never changed my name since I started posting here, there should be a rule that you can only change your name like once every five years or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on July 17, 2012, 11:14:56 PM

I made fun of you a lot in the past so I'm just going to keep it a secret (and so will the rest of you! :maf).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 17, 2012, 11:25:06 PM

meh I don't hold grudges.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 17, 2012, 11:28:12 PM

I've never heard of fake online profile bots. What's the point? Do they ask you for your credit card number and passwords?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 17, 2012, 11:33:08 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on July 17, 2012, 11:28:12 PM

I've never heard of fake online profile bots. What's the point? Do they ask you for your credit card number and passwords?

They can get your email address to send you spam about joining dating sites that aren't free for instance. I know craigslist has a lot of bots.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on July 17, 2012, 11:46:43 PM

http://www.meetme.com/jamesonhood

Y'all bitches need to make a meetme.com profile for shits and giggles. It's hilarious how superficial people are on there. It's also hilarious how many 23 year old girls have children and how many damn 16 year olds are on there claiming to be 21. FFS

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 17, 2012, 11:49:08 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on July 17, 2012, 11:36:47 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on July 17, 2012, 10:51:14 PM
Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on July 15, 2012, 11:16:36 PM
Seriously fuck the Turk, nothing is worse than being cockblocked by an ex.
Well when a guy tries to swoop in on a girl that you're with, just start flirting with the dude. Like bro-flirt, I mean. Just be chummy and start talking about similar interests and finish his sentences and so on. It will turn off his alpha-male aggressiveness and therefore destroy his ability to cockblock.
I'm serious.
She cockblocked me and is now in the "college lesbian" phase. Every time I talk to a chick she feels the need to butt in.

ohhhhhhh, I thought you meant your gf's ex is cockblocking. Or something.

Yeah then maybe she'll just find a girl and be content or she'll realize that she just doesn't want anything to do with vaginas.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on July 17, 2012, 11:49:22 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on July 17, 2012, 11:48:15 PM

I seriously worry about you sometimes, FatalT.

HEY! 16 is legal in South Carolina. Come at me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 18, 2012, 02:38:15 AM

For some fucking unknowable reason, I have created another okcupid account. Forthcoming tales of painful social awkwardness are sure to abound!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on July 18, 2012, 03:31:53 AM

devo, i advise yee not talk about men

triumph, god rest yee merry dong

myself, this cocktail is SUB LIME

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 18, 2012, 04:07:34 AM

Quote from: etiolate on July 18, 2012, 03:31:53 AM

devo, i advise yee not talk about men

triumph, god rest yee merry dong

myself, this cocktail is SUB LIME

My shit hits too close to home 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on July 18, 2012, 04:21:32 AM

No, I mean you really have no idea what it's like to be male today because you aren't male today, and this cocktail is delish.

1 part gin infused with earl grey tea
1 part club soda
1 part rose wine
hint of honey

Ice in a glass. Pour gin into a quarter cup of a brandy glass, drop a early grey tea bag in and let soak until the gin is tea brown. Pour gin in. Put a hint of honey on top. Pour in rose wine. Pour in club soda. Shake dat azz. Girly drink ftw.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 18, 2012, 04:27:22 AM

the perfect...early grey cocktail

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U8PrEfJoT6Y

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on July 18, 2012, 04:54:29 AM

*last breath*
*dies*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 18, 2012, 08:42:17 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 18, 2012, 02:38:15 AM

For some fucking unknowable reason, I have created another okcupid account. Forthcoming tales of painful social awkwardness are sure to abound!

Always good to have more people to compare war stories with. For your sake, I hope you have better luck than I've been having so far.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 18, 2012, 01:20:30 PM

I've been OKC free for 5 months now. Couldn't be happier.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 18, 2012, 03:26:03 PM

I hate when you read a huge 1,200 word online profile. See that they're into tons of cool things that you like and some that you are interested in learning more about/doing. Then you see that they're just the right amount of crazy with a mini-rant about how they never ever shave and just wear stockings. And their pictures counter said craziness with a heap of some sexy goth characteristics. And then you see that they reply "very often" to messages.

But at the end of all this, you see that this supposed bisexual is only interested in girls. It's almost like it's easier to meet women in real life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on July 18, 2012, 03:30:21 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 18, 2012, 02:09:01 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on July 18, 2012, 01:20:30 PM
I've been OKC free for 5 months now. Couldn't be happier.

What was your issue with OKC?

It was too loud.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 18, 2012, 05:02:42 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 18, 2012, 02:09:01 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on July 18, 2012, 01:20:30 PM
I've been OKC free for 5 months now. Couldn't be happier.

What was your issue with OKC?

Turns dating into this weird meta-social-game with so much faking/bullshit and everyone mass dating and I found it all just a big turn off.

But hey, I know 4 couples now who met off it and are engaged/married/happy. So for some people it works.

I find that just getting out and doing social things is a lot more fun and rewarding and the quality of people you meet (guys & girls) is much higher.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 18, 2012, 05:19:27 PM

I just got back on OKCupid after being off for almost a year.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 18, 2012, 07:41:25 PM

I hope things never get so bad that I have to resort to online dating.

That dry spell at the beginning of the year almost pushed me to that point though :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 18, 2012, 08:06:53 PM

OKC only increased my hatred for Upstate South Carolina.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 18, 2012, 10:40:31 PM

My okcupid experience basically boils down to:

*log in once every three months*
*view my visitors*
*click one that looks ok, only to realize MySpace angles are hiding 50 pounds*
* "MrsBradPitt450 is looking at your profile!" *
*log out ASAP*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 18, 2012, 11:01:43 PM

anybody ever try Geek2Geek? Saw some nerdy gamer-type chicks in my area... but it seems like a lot of them are into open relationships and all that kinda stuff (not my thing at all). Maybe I'll give it a try...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 19, 2012, 02:00:58 AM

Quote from: tiesto on July 18, 2012, 11:01:43 PM

anybody ever try Geek2Geek? Saw some nerdy gamer-type chicks in my area... but it seems like a lot of them are into open relationships and all that kinda stuff (not my thing at all). Maybe I'll give it a try...

I looked at it for a few minutes and saw that only a few girls in this area (and this is the fucking Bay Area) have logged in within the last 6 months. Seems like a waste of time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 19, 2012, 02:10:24 AM

Just checked that site, clicked first moderately attractive woman near me

Quote

hey there is more to me than meets the eye love video games nature tcg's mmorpg's music harly davidson motorcycles knows a bit about computers loves anime wants to see the world creative reads manga sings for fun loyal honest and blunt and i dont take hints very well very shy
also i am looking for yu-gi-oh players who are interested in joining a team for tournaments ect if interested or have any questions comments or concerns contact me

*exits site forever*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on July 19, 2012, 02:27:25 AM

"hi! Do u wanna fall into the black abyss of obsession with stupid shit? MSG me!"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on July 19, 2012, 06:13:41 AM

You know you want to MAF

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on July 19, 2012, 09:11:05 AM

One of my good friends found a pretty cool girlfriend through online dating, too. But both you guys are really good-looking. Yes homo.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 19, 2012, 10:13:27 AM

I'm still holding out hope that I'll meet a really hot, kinky deaf-mute chick so I'll never have to listen to inane chatter.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on July 19, 2012, 10:16:11 AM

I dunno where my current relationship is going- both of us are really busy and dont live right next to each other- so we do weekend things but thats it so far. Not a big deal really. Dating is a lot less intense/stressful when you've spent a few years being ok with living alone. Relationship could go either way *shrug*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on July 19, 2012, 10:34:46 AM

I dont really care about employment- as long as its clear they're clearly active in the pursuit of something meaningful good enough for me. I suspect there are women out there that are the same. I didnt post my job/earnings when I setup an online dating thing- it HONESTLY shouldnt be an issue- and if it is, I prolly dont wanna deal with em.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 19, 2012, 12:54:51 PM

Honestly, I just want to meet and date a girl who I don't feel is intellectually inferior to me. Which is gonna be kind of tough, since any girl who isn't dumb is probably not gonna want to date a dude in the situation I'm in but whatever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on July 19, 2012, 01:01:01 PM

Maybe need to not worry about inferiority and focus more on willingness to learn/understand. In most cases casting a wider-net is needed the older you get, but you can do that without compromising that 'type' of person you want to spend time with.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 19, 2012, 01:04:44 PM

MAF you're ignoring the elephant in the room here: what does your cat think about this relationship?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 19, 2012, 01:09:52 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on July 19, 2012, 01:01:01 PM

Maybe need to not worry about inferiority and focus more on willingness to learn/understand. In most cases casting a wider-net is needed the older you get, but you can do that without compromising that 'type' of person you want to spend time with.

I probably worded that poorly... what I really mean is that I want to date someone who isn't actively dumb.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on July 19, 2012, 01:24:05 PM

ah k, yeah thats pretty much my thing- I dont expect anyone to be 'there' yet in terms of employment or whatever- but they need to want to fuckin try

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 19, 2012, 01:36:09 PM

Also, no one with a shit ton of emotional problems and baggage- haha KIDDING WE'RE TALKING ABOUT WOMEN HERE AMIRITE???

:-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on July 19, 2012, 01:37:35 PM

Everyones got that shit sadly- I've been watching a lot of reality tv lately, thinking about how people behave at work- and I seriously marvel at how the human race is where it is

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 19, 2012, 01:54:40 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 19, 2012, 01:36:09 PM

Also, no one with a shit ton of emotional problems and baggage- haha KIDDING WE'RE TALKING ABOUT WOMEN HERE AMIRITE???

:-\

Meh, everyone's got issues. It's all about if they can move past them and keep them under control in time.

You don't want to look down the rabbit hole.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 19, 2012, 03:52:00 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on July 19, 2012, 01:37:35 PM

Everyones got that shit sadly- I've been watching a lot of reality tv lately, thinking about how people behave at work- and I seriously marvel at how the human race is where it is

Because of the exceptional few.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on July 21, 2012, 03:11:32 AM

I've gotta stay off MeetMe.com. If I talk to ONE more girl who claims to be older than 15 or 16 and actually isn't, I'm going to flip my shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 21, 2012, 03:17:47 AM

Quote from: FatalT on July 21, 2012, 03:11:32 AM

I've gotta stay off MeetMe.com. If I talk to ONE more girl who claims to be older than 15 or 16 and actually isn't, I'm going to flip my shit.

Wasn't it you who said that some 15 year old tricked you long enough to give you blowie and then kept telling you how much she loved you? Why would you subject yourself to such a site?

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on July 21, 2012, 04:35:58 AM

Quote from: am nintenho on July 21, 2012, 03:17:47 AM

Quote from: FatalT on July 21, 2012, 03:11:32 AM
I've gotta stay off MeetMe.com. If I talk to ONE more girl who claims to be older than 15 or 16 and actually isn't, I'm going to flip my shit.

Wasn't it you who said that some 15 year old tricked you long enough to give you blowie and then kept telling you how much she loved you? Why would you subject yourself to such a site?

:lol Yeah, that happened about 6 years ago when I was 18 as well! I'm glad you remembered that. The site has its ups and downs. Sure, I now have 4 16 or almost 16 year olds messaging me on kik and that site but I've also gotten in touch with a decent amount of people my age as well!

Risk and reward system. It's more entertaining to use than OKCupid or any other dating site because of the way it works. It's almost a game to see how "popular" you can get instead of just a way to meet womens. I have enough free time to actually "play the game" and never have any intentions of meeting these people in person.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 21, 2012, 08:40:30 AM

Quote from: The Experiment on July 15, 2012, 02:45:44 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 15, 2012, 02:42:27 PM
:lol

Does she have a decent job, or will you be all :smug to her over it

She's working at an entry level job in advertising so it probably doesn't pay a whole lot. I don't know if I will be :smug to her about it. I'll see how lunch goes.

Well, I had lunch with this girl yesterday and it turned out very well. Perhaps I can exact my anal revenge after all!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 21, 2012, 12:51:22 PM

I've only had my okcupid account for 2 days and I'm already being swarmed by the ladies! Already got 3 hot girls wanting to meet me in person. :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 23, 2012, 09:58:13 PM

I hope none of them turn out to be crazy.

/cheering for you

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on July 28, 2012, 02:54:58 PM

Sooooo a girl I met in person and hung out with one 2 occasions was short with me last night during our usual texting conversation. I knew something was up. She sent me a flirty text that didn't apply to anything we were saying and she said it was meant for someone else. This morning I text her and she calls me Evan. WELP. PACK IT IN BOYS.

Although now she's all apologetic and guilty because she knows she fucked up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 28, 2012, 03:14:26 PM

haha, yikes. At least you know to move on.
I took another one of Oscar's so called "lumps" myself this week. But although we were hanging out a bunch of times over the last month and getting along, she kind of was terrible at our actual date, so it was a mutual "not feeling it" in the end.

Probably gonna get back on that okc one of these days.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 28, 2012, 03:56:40 PM

(http://i.minus.com/iS4QACMtk3GxE.png)

goddamnit. drunk thread still remembers.

Guess I'll have to try to get with that girl who works at the deli.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on July 28, 2012, 05:34:27 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on July 28, 2012, 03:14:26 PM

haha, yikes. At least you know to move on.
I took another one of Oscar's so called "lumps" myself this week. But although we were hanging out a bunch of times over the last month and getting along, she kind of was terrible at our actual date, so it was a mutual "not feeling it" in the end.

Probably gonna get back on that okc one of these days.

Quote from: Bebpo on July 28, 2012, 03:14:26 PM

At least you know to move on.

Quote from: Bebpo on July 28, 2012, 03:14:26 PM

move on.

Hahahahahahahaha...eesh. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 28, 2012, 05:37:01 PM

Demand apology sex from her. (http://i.minus.com/iHWskn3qH5H93.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 28, 2012, 08:00:33 PM

So I was having a nice convo with this hot girl on okc and she brought up my job.

girl - "So it says that you work in healthcare.. I'm guessing you are a doctor? That's awesome! What field?"

poor bm - "I'm not a doctor"

*never hears from girl again*

:(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 28, 2012, 09:18:22 PM

Eh, saved you from wasting more time on a shallow gold digger. It's a good thing.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on July 28, 2012, 09:47:49 PM

Yeah, Duder, you dodged a bullet. Apparently a stupid bullet at that. Like there's no one in health care but doctors?

PLUS: Everyone knows doctors can bang any nurse or intern, on demand, 24/7 whenever they want. It's in the hippopotamus oath or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 28, 2012, 09:48:54 PM

You should have just said yes, fucked her in the ass on the first date, and then ditched her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 28, 2012, 11:12:22 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 28, 2012, 08:00:33 PM

So I was having a nice convo with this hot girl on okc and she brought up my job.

girl - "So it says that you work in healthcare.. I'm guessing you are a doctor? That's awesome! What field?"

poor bm - "I'm not a doctor"

*never hears from girl again*

:(

Fuck her. Just wants to buy shit while you work your ass off if you were one.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on July 28, 2012, 11:40:10 PM

Write her back and say you're actually a neurologist who is tired of women only wanting you for your money and huge cock. She unfortunately failed your social experiment. :smug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 29, 2012, 02:03:40 PM

so my ex-girlfriend texted me last night claiming she might be pregnant. It's been almost 2 months since we were even together. I think she is either full of shit, or it's not mine, but i dont know. I'm like freaking out right now.. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on July 29, 2012, 02:17:38 PM

awww shit :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Blastoisederp on July 29, 2012, 02:20:52 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 29, 2012, 02:03:40 PM

so my ex-girlfriend texted me last night claiming she might be pregnant. It's been almost 2 months since we were even together. I think she is either full of shit, or it's not mine, but i dont know. I'm like freaking out right now.. :-\

tell her you ain't raising some bastard and that if she's going to claim its yours, you will take it to court and demand a paternity test.

even if that turd is yours, so long as she has fucked anyone else after or before your break-up she'll start thinking that maybe the baby isn't yours but rather one of those other guys, and go after an easier target.

Just man up, tell that bitch to put up or shut up, and win the game.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 29, 2012, 02:23:41 PM

I told her that I wanted to see a piss test before anything, but she hasn't texted or called me back yet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Blastoisederp on July 29, 2012, 02:39:49 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 29, 2012, 02:23:41 PM

I told her that I wanted to see a piss test before anything, but she hasn't texted or called me back yet.

ask her how many other guys she has banged
just to make her doubt whether or not you might be the babby daddy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 29, 2012, 02:42:55 PM

well, she claims I was the only guy she was with. She was quite untrustworthy, though, which is why I dumped her to begin with.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Blastoisederp on July 29, 2012, 02:47:44 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 29, 2012, 02:42:55 PM

well, she claims I was the only guy she was with. She was quite untrustworthy, though, which is why I dumped her to begin with.

yeah shes gonna claim she was the only guy she was with whether she was or not
if you dont like her, claim paternity test, cause its gonna ruin any relationship anyway

thats better than ending up raising someone elses bastard kiddo though, especially with an untrustworthy chick

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 29, 2012, 02:49:21 PM

Quote from: Blastoisederp on July 29, 2012, 02:47:44 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 29, 2012, 02:42:55 PM
well, she claims I was the only guy she was with. She was quite untrustworthy, though, which is why I dumped her to begin with.

yeah shes gonna claim she was the only guy she was with whether she was or not
if you dont like her, claim paternity test, cause its gonna ruin any relationship anyway

thats better than ending up raising someone elses bastard kiddo though, especially with an untrustworthy chick

yeah, having a kid doesn't scare me at all. I want kids.. having her in my life, though. Fuck :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on July 29, 2012, 02:53:34 PM

yea I wouldn't get too worked up at this point given the type of person she is. If she doesn't get defensive about getting a paternity test, though, you might be in trouble. :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 29, 2012, 02:55:33 PM

I'm still waiting to see a home pregnancy test.. I doubt she's even pregnant. but still.. I'm trying to move on and date other women and with this shit hanging over my head. It kind puts a damper on all that right now. Sucks..

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on July 29, 2012, 03:35:00 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 29, 2012, 02:03:40 PM

so my ex-girlfriend texted me last night claiming she might be pregnant. It's been almost 2 months since we were even together. I think she is either full of shit, or it's not mine, but i dont know. I'm like freaking out right now.. :-\

(http://i706.photobucket.com/albums/ww64/Classic-wolf/E8ygy-1.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on July 29, 2012, 03:36:50 PM

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=38600.msg1524073#msg1524073

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 29, 2012, 03:43:36 PM

:lol
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JbgvwNqTLVw

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 29, 2012, 04:25:32 PM

Demi, yer an asshole! :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 29, 2012, 06:07:21 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 29, 2012, 02:55:33 PM

I'm still waiting to see a home pregnancy test.. I doubt she's even pregnant. but still.. I'm trying to move on and date other women and with this shit hanging over my head. It kind puts a damper on all that right now. Sucks..

uh oh...... :o

you got baby mama drama!!!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 29, 2012, 06:10:08 PM

(http://forgifs.com/gallery/d/194242-1/Abracadabra-magician-abortion.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 29, 2012, 06:29:51 PM

lol BM

Remember that time we told you to break up with her because she ignored your calls and put up "single" on ok cupid? But you DIDN'T? And you kept on dating her? And now this happens?!?!!?!??!?!?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 29, 2012, 09:29:49 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 29, 2012, 02:03:40 PM

so my ex-girlfriend texted me last night claiming she might be pregnant. It's been almost 2 months since we were even together. I think she is either full of shit, or it's not mine, but i dont know. I'm like freaking out right now.. :-\

She fucking texted you? I think she's just fucking with you.

edit: do you have a bunny?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on July 29, 2012, 09:55:01 PM

Quote from: The Business on July 29, 2012, 07:59:01 PM

You mean The Business the Prophet.

Dont be mad, breh. You still have your dapper clothes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on July 30, 2012, 02:10:41 AM

Quote from: am nintenho on July 29, 2012, 09:29:49 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 29, 2012, 02:03:40 PM
so my ex-girlfriend texted me last night claiming she might be pregnant. It's been almost 2 months since we were even together. I think she is either full of shit, or it's not mine, but i dont know. I'm like freaking out right now.. :-\

She fucking texted you? I think she's just fucking with you.

edit: do you have a bunny?

:lol :lol :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 30, 2012, 02:02:51 PM

31 why? :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on July 30, 2012, 06:34:56 PM

I frequently misread "neat knot" in the subject header as "meat knot."

Mmmm. Meat knot.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 30, 2012, 06:42:53 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on July 30, 2012, 02:11:05 PM

Just saying.

You're a normal, stable good looking guy that wants kids and to settle down eventually, and its hard to find the right girl to do it. I feel like, at least, I was programmed to believe that if you're like that, it just falls in to place seamlessly.

TV lied to us all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 30, 2012, 07:33:32 PM

she still hasnt proven to me that she is actually pregnant. When I hit her up again about it she said "don't worry about it. This is my decision" whatever that means.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on July 30, 2012, 07:37:44 PM

BM, most the time they are either lying or reading the shit wrong. During college I had two girls contact me about being late on the same day. I was ready to try and disappear but both ended up being false

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on July 30, 2012, 07:37:51 PM

Haha it's total bullshit.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on July 30, 2012, 07:42:09 PM

It's a farce. She thought you were spineless enough to come running back to her at the mere mention of a pregnancy. Fuck that. You did the right thing and stood your ground. Forget about her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 30, 2012, 08:11:33 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 30, 2012, 02:02:51 PM

31 why? :-\

older guys are <3

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 30, 2012, 08:21:10 PM

Quote from: Lan on July 30, 2012, 08:11:33 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 30, 2012, 02:02:51 PM
31 why? :-\

older guys are <3

sup :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 30, 2012, 08:22:07 PM

Lay off BM :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 30, 2012, 08:26:35 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on July 30, 2012, 08:22:07 PM

Lay off BM :maf

didn't say you couldn't join :-* MAKIN BABIES!! more babies

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 30, 2012, 08:36:37 PM

What about chubby 35 year old white dudes? :-\

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on July 30, 2012, 08:39:27 PM

BM don't think they can't get preggos cause one of the girls that accused me was. I just knew I was one of 5 or 6 that hit her, so worst come to worst get a DNA test

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 30, 2012, 08:42:03 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 30, 2012, 08:21:10 PM

Quote from: Lan on July 30, 2012, 08:11:33 PM
Quote from: BlackMage on July 30, 2012, 02:02:51 PM
31 why? :-\

older guys are <3

sup :-*

call me maybe :-*

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on July 30, 2012, 08:52:19 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 30, 2012, 08:36:37 PM

What about chubby 35 year old white dudes? :-\

if you are funny and attractive, who knows?

I've never dated a big dude. But there was a really big dude in high school that for years would examine my every move and described everything to me on the last day of senior year. Hopefully you aren't that creepy :)

wow...Random

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on July 30, 2012, 08:58:07 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 30, 2012, 08:36:37 PM

What about chubby 35 year old white dudes? :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Joe Molotov on July 30, 2012, 08:59:13 PM

Quote from: demi on July 29, 2012, 03:36:50 PM

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=38600.msg1524073#msg1524073

Demi's the sperm whisperer.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 31, 2012, 02:24:53 AM

Quote from: The Business on July 31, 2012, 02:06:13 AM

Next person to credit Demi with the BM prediction gets murdered in the digital realm.

It's just nobody has anything to gain from kissing your ass.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 31, 2012, 03:22:24 AM

bro... bro

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 31, 2012, 03:35:00 AM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on July 31, 2012, 03:23:42 AM

what?

that feel.. i knows

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on July 31, 2012, 04:01:00 AM

lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 31, 2012, 04:08:46 AM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on July 31, 2012, 03:09:34 AM

Now she probably found new yarak(turkish for penis) and is moving on. But I haven't.

No homo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 31, 2012, 10:04:17 AM

Dude. You didn't cheat on her. Don't beat yourself up. You're both at fault for being shit communicators. She'll be back soon enough and just have a talk with her and try to fix things. You didn't do anything wrong. Oh my god the drama haha

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on July 31, 2012, 11:35:34 AM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on July 31, 2012, 03:09:34 AM

OK I'm drunk so I'll be completely honest with y'all cause I need to get this off my chest.

I love Ece. If you're wondering who that is she's my "latest turkish ex" as I referred to her before. I cheated on her a couple of times, actually a lot of times, and I broke up with her at the beginning of last June. I decided we should just be friends. The only reason I cheated on her is cause we never had any sort of agreement about monogamy. Fro what I know we hooked up a bunch a times when we were drunk. But since she's from Turkey she never knew how to le me know that we were in an actual relationship, I didn't now about this until tonight when a mutual friend let me know about it. She brok up with me last march cause I never took our relationship seriously apparently. And from what I heard she took our drunken hook ups after that as I sign that we were back together, which I didn't realize until tonight. Now she's back in Turkey until the end of august before the semester starts. I hurt her by banging other chicks when I didn't realize we were back together and honestly if I knew I wouldn't have banged other girls.

I miss her a lot. She was by far the best GF I've ever had and I fucked it up. I always thought it was weird how she apologized to me for being a bitch the night before she left for Turkey, but now I know why. She asked some of my best friends out and tried to hook up with them and I thought nothing of it at the time. According to my friend Andrew she confessed that she was trying t get me jealous and confessed to him about everything two nights before that she apologized to me. And I realize that I do in fact want to be with her now.

She is a sweetheart. Good natured, funny, very intelligent and well versed about space shit(which I have an absolute boner ever). She loved comics, videogames, the same movies and books that I did sometimes more than I did myself. I can't believe a I fucked it up this much.

Now she probably found new yarak(turkish for penis) and is moving on. But I haven't. We had a talk once in which we decided we could settle for each other when we are older, but we are too young for it now. I have a "when we are 40 and haven't found someone else we'll marry each other" pact with her. She's awesome in every sense of the word. I'm really pissed that I cheated on her so much now.

tl;dr College Drama.

In before did not read lol.

P.S. it was hell writing this post cause of the grammar nazi in me. I proof read this like a bajillion times.

Mupepe's got it right: you're both "shit communicators." But it may be that you are just unable to communicate with each other, period. Your guys' communication dynamic sounds really broken.

You may be able to salvage this for a few more months, but expect drama and more bad communication. You might benefit from staying around and learning more with her, but you'll be much better off if you don't try to figure out how to "fix" this as your Ultimate Long-Term Soulmate Relationship.

It's college. You're going to find some great other people. So will she. Have fun and don't beat yourself up. If you didn't think you were together, you weren't cheating on her. If she tried to hook up with your friends to make you jealous, that's fucked up. If you didn't think much of it, good for you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on July 31, 2012, 12:13:12 PM

Mupepe can I be your shit communicator? Tell me about your bowel movements baby, oh yeah.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 31, 2012, 02:36:05 PM

Quote from: FatalT on July 31, 2012, 12:13:12 PM

Mupepe can I be your shit communicator? Tell me about your bowel movements baby, oh yeah.

YOU'RE SICK

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on July 31, 2012, 03:17:46 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on July 31, 2012, 02:36:05 PM

Quote from: FatalT on July 31, 2012, 12:13:12 PM
Mupepe can I be your shit communicator? Tell me about your bowel movements baby, oh yeah.
YOU'RE SICK

Always a bridesmaid but never a bride. :,(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 01, 2012, 12:49:53 AM

Just got stood up.. fuck women, seriously.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on August 01, 2012, 04:29:05 AM

Sorry boo... Fuck them bitches

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 01, 2012, 04:44:26 AM

It's kind of hard to do that if they won't even show up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 01, 2012, 08:53:25 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on August 01, 2012, 12:49:53 AM

Just got stood up.. fuck women, seriously.

I've had that happen to me a few times before, it sucks, dude. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 01, 2012, 09:22:41 AM

Yeah. Typical okcupid bullshit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 01, 2012, 09:32:39 AM

True but she was all "excited" to meet me and very responsive up until I'm sitting on my ass waiting for her to show. Then she doesn't respond to my text after that point. So once I get home I notice she's online on the website but at that point I was over it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 01, 2012, 10:50:12 AM

^ I'm not really sure how I deal with overthink... since I tend to think too hard and get all nervous and flustered when I'm out on a date or meeting with a girl.

mojo, have you ever done any paysites? I'm wondering whether or not the girls on a paysite would be more serious... my experience with Match seemed like there were less flakers and more girls willing to go out on multiple dates. While I've only gotten a few second dates from OKC, I actually entered into a few relationships with Match back in the day. I'm wondering if I should go on a paysite (not sure if I can handle eHarmony, I don't like their whole 'system' setup). My friend argues that only desperate girls will be on the paysites, but I'd like to think that the girls on paysites are more serious about getting into a relationship.

Anyways, I was at Otakon last weekend and it was a good time, but most of the girls there looked way too young. Like, HS young... and who I talked to that were older were all from out of town (of course).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 01, 2012, 12:39:43 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on August 01, 2012, 10:38:06 AM

What I'd like to know is, how do you guys deal with overthink?

I can pretty much directly correlate my tendency of it to the breakup with my ex where I first started doing it. That breakup was a total shitshow that lasted for 4 months where she kept giving out hints that she'd come back and then do something to counteract that hours later. So every exchange became a crime scene, I'd look over our text chats, FB chats, looking for keys that would give the answer to whether she was leaving or staying. The whole ordeal was excruciating.

So I suppose even though I'm over her and that relationship and absolutely ready to move on, whenever I start dating a girl I honestly really like, its automatic right away.

"Did I say the right thing?"
"Did I ruin everything by asking her this?"

And its all subconscious.

This is me

all the time
every time

I think it's a confidence issue. If you have really high confidence you won't think twice about what you do because you'll be confident things went fine.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on August 01, 2012, 01:49:00 PM

Overthinking is a bitch. It gets easier the older you become. Your priorities are more pronounced and you don't sweat the small stuff. Overthinking is rehashing the small stuff. The 'What ifs' per se. What helps me is changing the subject. Fire up a game on your phone or call up a buddy-something-anything- to get your mind off it and onto something else. Then, when she does pop back in my mind, I find I'm more rational about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on August 01, 2012, 03:47:56 PM

this is why the key to any successful relationship is not being friends on facebook

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on August 01, 2012, 03:50:46 PM

i'm going to hold off on being facebook friends with some girl i'm seeing as long as possible

she will also never know about twitter

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 01, 2012, 03:53:50 PM

what's wrong with texting

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 01, 2012, 03:54:15 PM

SHE'S NOT PREGNANT WOOHOO!!!!!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on August 01, 2012, 03:54:27 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 01, 2012, 03:53:50 PM

what's wrong with texting

waiting for the reply

Quote

SHE'S NOT PREGNANT WOOHOO!!!!!

no shit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 01, 2012, 03:56:09 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on August 01, 2012, 03:54:15 PM

SHE'S NOT PREGNANT WOOHOO!!!!!

(http://tinyurl.com/caa8ulm)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 01, 2012, 03:57:06 PM

look at the kid on the monitor :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 01, 2012, 04:00:32 PM

As long as you're not coming off like some weirdo who's going to start sending her 6 dozen flowers at work everyday then who cares if you get excited? If you're not crossing over into creeper territory then fuck it and be yourself and let the chips fall where they may.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 01, 2012, 04:08:18 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on August 01, 2012, 04:03:06 PM

I'm never THAT bad. Honestly.

Its more like, oh you'd like this song, this song, oh let me just make you a mix on 8tracks.

:lol

I am that way too. I used to be afraid that I was being too forward too soon. But honestly, I knew my wife was special when I met her and shit like that didn't make a difference because she was excited to share stuff with me too.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on August 01, 2012, 04:14:07 PM

dude, she'll get back to you

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 01, 2012, 04:18:00 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on August 01, 2012, 04:13:08 PM

So I don't know what the hell is going on then. There's something I'm not doing right and if its not that I'm too excited, I have no idea.

I think it's going back to overthinking it. There's probably nothing wrong at all. And if there is something wrong it came about from you being yourself (but not a creeper) so don't put too much thought into it. It sucks if you really like her but if you haven't overtly done anything to turn her off then it's probably not something you can really fix. It could be a million things wrong with her or she just might not be as interested. Either way, the best thing to do in most of these situations is let it run its course without overreacting or overthinking yourself into a nervous breakdown. Maybe she forgot her phone at home. *shrug*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 01, 2012, 04:33:18 PM

Well the same advice applies to dating in general. I think unapologetically being yourself is the most overlooked aspect in dating. Theoretically this person (and you) are applying to try to spend your life together. Don't hold back. As long as you're not busting farts or trying to play grab ass on the first date then by all means, just be yourself. If it does happen to turn them off then it most likely would have at some point anyways. Better sooner than later.

That wasn't necessarily directed specifically at you mojo. But I always read this thread and it's people asking "What am I doing wrong?" Finding a truly compatible person is just difficult. Even more so when you're not setting up a facade to appease the other person.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on August 01, 2012, 04:59:28 PM

The key to not over-thinking is to just not give a shit. Put yourself above the girl you're interested in. If you don't immediately jump at your phone when you get a text message, you're doing it right. This sounds horrible in text but I assure you, it will make you feel better.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on August 01, 2012, 07:11:18 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on August 01, 2012, 03:54:15 PM

SHE'S NOT PREGNANT WOOHOO!!!!!

Grats you do not want a baby momma.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 01, 2012, 07:17:52 PM

I dodged a bullet there. Remember kids, wrap it up!!! :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on August 01, 2012, 07:20:43 PM

I realised a while back, that having a gf is having something that will give you pleasure, but you must nourish, comfort and feed it, like a pet or a plant.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 01, 2012, 07:38:29 PM

So I didn't want to post about my last situation, but I do think some advice would be helpful. I'll try to make it short and to the point.

I tried to date a single girl who I've been hanging out with in a social group for the last month who is 100% fallen/ridiculously into another guy (who lives 2 hours away) and they are in the initial first dates stages and there's probably a good chance it won't work (he didn't ask her on a date, she asked him and their date was awkward). This was, in retrospect, a bad idea because tunnel-vision and all that. But at the same time I didn't want to sit on it and wait months before finding out if she is interested (had been giving me mixed signals all the time; sometimes thought she was flirting, sometimes ignoring). Went on 1st date (I'm not sure if she realized it was a date until during the date), it wasn't the best, but it wasn't bad. She was laughing, stories were told, not much silence, she walked me to my car at the end.

2 days later I texted her that I had a good time at dinner, made a short joke, and casually invited her to a social outting doing something we share a mutual interest in over the weekend. There wasn't much notice, it was a Friday and the weekend was the next day & two.

She didn't send a reply that day (I texted her in the afternoon), instead she sent a short one the next morning saying "thanks again (for dinner), I've got plans this weekend, have fun". I took the length of time that it took for her to reply combined with the decline to be a "thanks, but I'm not interested in you". Which is fine, so I moved on to other girls.

We haven't spoken by text/calls/facebook chat or anything since her reply Saturday morning, it's now Wednesday. I'm starting to have second thoughts that maybe I misread it and she was just busy and may still be interested. I'm not sure what to do. Should I contact her and try again? If not, I'll probably see her this weekend at one of the social group things. I could just talk to her then as well, but if she's not interested it could be pretty awkward especially in front of her friends. Otoh, I feel like maybe giving her some space right now might be what she wants, so maybe I should hold off on any pursuing for a little while she sorts out her situation with the guy she really likes.

I don't really like her that much. She has a lot of dealbreakers, but she also has a lot of positive traits and is a very interesting person, so if there is a chance I'd like to give another shot. Also she is a super shy and tries to be nice to everyone and if she wasn't interested in me I don't think she would ever tell me "No, I'm not interested in you", she would just sort of do the "Oh, that sounds fun. Sorry but I can't" until I stop inviting her to things (which is why I thought her reply was her signaling she wasn't interested).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 01, 2012, 09:27:32 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on August 01, 2012, 11:01:11 AM

I'm totally fine when I see the girls, I might let some stupid things slip out, but its when there's some distance that I get nervous, when I don't get immediate feedback.

I've done Match, and really, its the same pool. Girls go on Paysites so men will stop soliciting them for sex. They have the impression that there are more serious men on it, but that's not true at all.

Honestly, I think the best thing to do is just be more active in your social life and veer outside of your circle of friends. The more you go out and do things you like, the more you'll do what you like and meet people who have similar interests.

We all know that online chemistry doesn't always translate in real life, so why not just cut it out?

Well, I do go out a fair amount and do a variety of different activities - from standard barhopping, to clubs/festivals, to cons and other things... occasionally lately I've been hanging out with new acquaintances and I'm never afraid to venture out of my comfort zone. Unfortunately, where I live is a suburb where most people around my age are married and with kids (since young people are severely priced out of the market here). NYC is an hour away but a lot of girls there aren't really interested when you tell them you're from the island (NYCers generally don't like to leave the city if they can help it, I've found).

I don't exclusively rely on online dating, it's just nice to use to meet people that I might not normally run into. I'm a bit of an introvert - in the "need time alone to recharge" way not the "antisocial misanthrope" way, and I find I do best with introverted girls, who will much more readily be found on a dating site than out fist-pumping at an Avicii show.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 01, 2012, 09:32:32 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 01, 2012, 07:38:29 PM

So I didn't want to post about my last situation, but I do think some advice would be helpful. I'll try to make it short and to the point.

I tried to date a single girl who I've been hanging out with in a social group for the last month who is 100% fallen/ridiculously into another guy (who lives 2 hours away) and they are in the initial first dates stages and there's probably a good chance it won't work (he didn't ask her on a date, she asked him and their date was awkward). This was, in retrospect, a bad idea because tunnel-vision and all that. But at the same time I didn't want to sit on it and wait months before finding out if she is interested (had been giving me mixed signals all the time; sometimes thought she was flirting, sometimes ignoring). Went on 1st date (I'm not sure if she realized it was a date until during the date), it wasn't the best, but it wasn't bad. She was laughing, stories were told, not much silence, she walked me to my car at the end.

2 days later I texted her that I had a good time at dinner, made a short joke, and casually invited her to a social outting doing something we share a mutual interest in over the weekend. There wasn't much notice, it was a Friday and the weekend was the next day & two.

She didn't send a reply that day (I texted her in the afternoon), instead she sent a short one the next morning saying "thanks again (for dinner), I've got plans this weekend, have fun". I took the length of time that it took for her to reply combined with the decline to be a "thanks, but I'm not interested in you". Which is fine, so I moved on to other girls.

We haven't spoken by text/calls/facebook chat or anything since her reply Saturday morning, it's now Wednesday. I'm starting to have second thoughts that maybe I misread it and she was just busy and may still be interested. I'm not sure what to do. Should I contact her and try again? If not, I'll probably see her this weekend at one of the social group things. I could just talk to her then as well, but if she's not interested it could be pretty awkward especially in front of her friends. Otoh, I feel like maybe giving her some space right now might be what she wants, so maybe I should hold off on any pursuing for a little while she sorts out her situation with the guy she really likes.

I don't really like her that much. She has a lot of dealbreakers, but she also has a lot of positive traits and is a very interesting person, so if there is a chance I'd like to give another shot. Also she is a super shy and tries to be nice to everyone and if she wasn't interested in me I don't think she would ever tell me "No, I'm not interested in you", she would just sort of do the "Oh, that sounds fun. Sorry but I can't" until I stop inviting her to things (which is why I thought her reply was her signaling she wasn't interested).

Just read the bold, you should know what to do... seems like she's not at all right for you and you'd only be wasting each other's time.

What are the dealbreakers, btw? :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 01, 2012, 09:51:08 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 01, 2012, 07:38:29 PM

So I didn't want to post about my last situation, but I do think some advice would be helpful. I'll try to make it short and to the point.

I tried to date a single girl who I've been hanging out with in a social group for the last month who is 100% fallen/ridiculously into another guy (who lives 2 hours away) and they are in the initial first dates stages and there's probably a good chance it won't work (he didn't ask her on a date, she asked him and their date was awkward). This was, in retrospect, a bad idea because tunnel-vision and all that. But at the same time I didn't want to sit on it and wait months before finding out if she is interested (had been giving me mixed signals all the time; sometimes thought she was flirting, sometimes ignoring). Went on 1st date (I'm not sure if she realized it was a date until during the date), it wasn't the best, but it wasn't bad. She was laughing, stories were told, not much silence, she walked me to my car at the end.

2 days later I texted her that I had a good time at dinner, made a short joke, and casually invited her to a social outting doing something we share a mutual interest in over the weekend. There wasn't much notice, it was a Friday and the weekend was the next day & two.

She didn't send a reply that day (I texted her in the afternoon), instead she sent a short one the next morning saying "thanks again (for dinner), I've got plans this weekend, have fun". I took the length of time that it took for her to reply combined with the decline to be a "thanks, but I'm not interested in you". Which is fine, so I moved on to other girls.

We haven't spoken by text/calls/facebook chat or anything since her reply Saturday morning, it's now Wednesday. I'm starting to have second thoughts that maybe I misread it and she was just busy and may still be interested. I'm not sure what to do. Should I contact her and try again? If not, I'll probably see her this weekend at one of the social group things. I could just talk to her then as well, but if she's not interested it could be pretty awkward especially in front of her friends. Otoh, I feel like maybe giving her some space right now might be what she wants, so maybe I should hold off on any pursuing for a little while she sorts out her situation with the guy she really likes.

I don't really like her that much. She has a lot of dealbreakers, but she also has a lot of positive traits and is a very interesting person, so if there is a chance I'd like to give another shot. Also she is a super shy and tries to be nice to everyone and if she wasn't interested in me I don't think she would ever tell me "No, I'm not interested in you", she would just sort of do the "Oh, that sounds fun. Sorry but I can't" until I stop inviting her to things (which is why I thought her reply was her signaling she wasn't interested).

Don't contact her again. It would be desperate and she would see through it. You'll be hanging out with her again soon right: act like nothing happened and see what she says. Maybe she'll bring the message up, maybe not. But considering she has some issues in terms of deal breakers and you aren't super into her, no need to over reach

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 01, 2012, 10:10:11 PM

Thanks PD. That's helpful. Yeah, next time I see her I was planning on just saying hi and treating it like nothing happened and we're just back to hanging out as friends within the group again.

Quote from: tiesto on August 01, 2012, 09:32:32 PM

Just read the bold, you should know what to do... seems like she's not at all right for you and you'd only be wasting each other's time.

What are the dealbreakers, btw? :P

-Too drug friendly for me ("list of things I want to do before I die: Try LSD, Shrooms", my reply to that "You want to try LSD? :\"); I'm 100% cool with weed smokers, but I couldn't date someone who did hard drugs where I need to worry about them ODing one day.
-Can be kind of flakey.
-Really seems like she wants to move to another state in 6months to get a fresh start and leave everything here behind.
-Is too shy/awkward for me. I think it would make a relationship tougher than it would normally be because she wouldn't be open about things and I'd never have any idea what she was thinking.
-MAIN PROBLEM: She is a girl who had one major long term relationship for several years, got out if it, and has been screwed up baggage since. It's been 1.3 years already, but 3 of the last 4 girls I've dated had this situation and getting out of your first long term teenage -> early 20s relationship leaves SO MANY EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS. I should know since I didn't date a single girl for 5-6 years after I got out of my first at 19. These girls don't know what they want, are confused as hell, and will drive you nuts. I don't need nuts in my life now that I finally have my shit together.
-Is crazy into 60s-80s music and I'm more into 90s/modern indie music.

Pros:
-Is really mature for her age. Thinks before answering questions and can give opinions with depth
-intelligent
-knows a foreign language which is a huge turn on for me since I love language and I want to learn many more
-is incredibly kind and nice and good hearted
-possibly has a good job/career lined up if she doesn't quit school and move and do something else in 6 months.
-has a good sense of humor
-neat hobbies like surfing and guitar
-really really cute

I think she'd match up good with like a Bro dude, whereas I'm about 2 steps away from being a hipster half the time. But I do enjoy being around her and if there's any interest I'm game to at least get to know her better and see if there's a spark.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 02, 2012, 01:39:07 AM

hey I know a foreign language.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 02, 2012, 02:29:12 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on August 01, 2012, 12:49:53 AM

Just got stood up.. fuck women, seriously.

In college I was pretty desperate for a date, so I asked out some girl from BIO 100, who I wasn't even really into. I just wanted... I dunno, a "practice date" or something. I didn't feel a lot of pressure to make it work.

Evidently she felt even less pressure, because she never showed up at the restaurant. I was sad for a bit, but realized I didn't even have to worry about a 2nd date or breaking up; the whole thing was stillborn before it ever started, and I didn't even have to pay for her dinner to find out it wouldn't work.

Quote from: BlackMage on August 01, 2012, 07:17:52 PM

I dodged a bullet there. Remember kids, wrap it up!!! :-[

Plus: AIDS. So wrap it up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 02, 2012, 03:07:56 AM

I've never had a girl stand me up. Feel good about that. Had girls run late, and after the date I've had girls told me they kept going back and forth over whether they wanted to show up or bail, but in the end they all showed up. I tend to talk to a girl a lot before I do the first date though, so I think that makes them more comfortable since they kind of know me and if they don't show after they said they would they'll feel like jerks.

Quote from: am nintenho on August 02, 2012, 01:39:07 AM

hey I know a foreign language.

That's a good thing! Makes you interesting and helps for jobs too. I'd say 75% of my casual conversations/job conversations end up on "woah, you know Japanese??" within the first 10 mins. Language is cool. I wanna learn French, German, Spanish this decade of my life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on August 02, 2012, 12:53:06 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 01, 2012, 10:10:11 PM

-MAIN PROBLEM: She is a girl who had one major long term relationship for several years, got out if it, and has been screwed up baggage since. It's been 1.3 years already, but 3 of the last 4 girls I've dated had this situation and getting out of your first long term teenage -> early 20s relationship leaves SO MANY EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS. I should know since I didn't date a single girl for 5-6 years after I got out of my first at 19. These girls don't know what they want, are confused as hell, and will drive you nuts. I don't need nuts in my life now that I finally have my shit together.

This made me feel like shit Bebpo. It's pretty much exactly how I've been the past few months since my long-term relationshit break-up. I've since realized this fact and have made measures to change though but wow. Hammer meet nail.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 02, 2012, 04:10:09 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on August 02, 2012, 03:30:16 PM

Stupid overthinking. Girl is still talking to me, and a mutual friend suggested we double date on a weekend in Vermont and she agreed.

Oh MAN.

Just gotta play it like Fonzi, man.

And what's Fonzi like, motherfuckers? That's right, Fonzi is COOL.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 02, 2012, 05:04:24 PM

Quote from: FatalT on August 02, 2012, 12:53:06 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 01, 2012, 10:10:11 PM
-MAIN PROBLEM: She is a girl who had one major long term relationship for several years, got out if it, and has been screwed up baggage since. It's been 1.3 years already, but 3 of the last 4 girls I've dated had this situation and getting out of your first long term teenage -> early 20s relationship leaves SO MANY EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS. I should know since I didn't date a single girl for 5-6 years after I got out of my first at 19. These girls don't know what they want, are confused as hell, and will drive you nuts. I don't need nuts in my life now that I finally have my shit together.

This made me feel like shit Bebpo. It's pretty much exactly how I've been the past few months since my long-term relationshit break-up. I've since realized this fact and have made measures to change though but wow. Hammer meet nail.

Sorry man, but it's a normal thing so don't let it get you down. I'd wager most people go through this phase after their first longterm serious relationship breakup. The trick to recovery though is to just get back out there and date LOTS OF PEOPLE. You don't want to get stuck attaching to people. So date around until you feel good and back together mentally and emotionally. Then you can look for the next long term relationship.

The worst thing to do is to simply stop dating and figure you just need time to get over it and sort your baggage out. It doesn't work and you just waste years that should have been spent doing the above and getting you back emotionally healthy.

I think people still feel the same way after subsequent break ups as well, but it gets easier each time to recover and get back on the dating train. I feel pretty comfortable myself at this point, which is why I really want to stick to dating women who are also comfortable emotionally & mentally at this point. Unfortunately the girls I'm physically attracted to aren't those women :X

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on August 02, 2012, 06:32:10 PM

it's just nice to see a dude as awesome as mojo overthink things when he clearly is the 1%

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on August 02, 2012, 06:33:25 PM

Some people overthink women waaaay too much.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 02, 2012, 07:14:23 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 02, 2012, 05:04:24 PM

Quote from: FatalT on August 02, 2012, 12:53:06 PM
Quote from: Bebpo on August 01, 2012, 10:10:11 PM
-MAIN PROBLEM: She is a girl who had one major long term relationship for several years, got out if it, and has been screwed up baggage since. It's been 1.3 years already, but 3 of the last 4 girls I've dated had this situation and getting out of your first long term teenage -> early 20s relationship leaves SO MANY EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS. I should know since I didn't date a single girl for 5-6 years after I got out of my first at 19. These girls don't know what they want, are confused as hell, and will drive you nuts. I don't need nuts in my life now that I finally have my shit together.

This made me feel like shit Bebpo. It's pretty much exactly how I've been the past few months since my long-term relationshit break-up. I've since realized this fact and have made measures to change though but wow. Hammer meet nail.

Sorry man, but it's a normal thing so don't let it get you down. I'd wager most people go through this phase after their first longterm serious relationship breakup. The trick to recovery though is to just get back out there and date LOTS OF PEOPLE. You don't want to get stuck attaching to people. So date around until you feel good and back together mentally and emotionally. Then you can look for the next long term relationship.

The worst thing to do is to simply stop dating and figure you just need time to get over it and sort your baggage out. It doesn't work and you just waste years that should have been spent doing the above and getting you back emotionally healthy.

I think people still feel the same way after subsequent break ups as well, but it gets easier each time to recover and get back on the dating train. I feel pretty comfortable myself at this point, which is why I really want to stick to dating women who are also comfortable emotionally & mentally at this point. Unfortunately the girls I'm physically attracted to aren't those women :X

Oh man, I've been depressed a bit because while at Otakon... I was talking to a girl who reminded me a LOT of my ex. Same style attire, tomboyish appearance, but younger. And the girl at Otakon was all into vocaloids and stuff (unlike my ex, who didn't care for any of that, her nerd interests were Harry Potter and Lord of the Rings). That reminded me of the ex, and I haven't been doing too well on the dating scene lately...

...though I might be going out with a girl who used to be a figure skater in Germany when she was younger, and now is going for a PhD in neuroscience.

Plus I'm thinking I want a girl with a bit more in common with me than the last few ex's, someone who would do stuff like go to cons, who would enjoy going to a music festival with me... but most of OKC is your regular LI girl or "outdoorsy" people (I am not at all outdoorsy).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 02, 2012, 07:26:53 PM

man, if you want female attention, get a fuckin' motorcycle. WHERE WERE YOU SLOPPY VAGINAS 15 YEARS AGO???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 02, 2012, 07:28:21 PM

Says the man with the scooter

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on August 02, 2012, 08:06:17 PM

He has a motorcycle now sir

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 02, 2012, 08:21:04 PM

*begins saving money for a motorcycle*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on August 02, 2012, 08:21:42 PM

I'd look distinguished mentally-challenged on a motorcycle unfortunately

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 02, 2012, 08:25:04 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on August 02, 2012, 08:21:42 PM

I'd look distinguished mentally-challenged on a motorcycle unfortunately

nobody looks distinguished mentally-challenged on a motorcyle.. all leathered up with a matte black tinted helmet. you'll look like a badass

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Boogie on August 02, 2012, 08:25:17 PM

The 1% of game, sir.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 02, 2012, 08:42:51 PM

being married doesn't make you a 1 percenter. are you nuts?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 02, 2012, 08:47:30 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on August 02, 2012, 08:45:48 PM

Finding a woman you love that loves you back enough to say yes is pretty baller. We're the unwanted masses!

speak for yourself. I'm ballin!! 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 02, 2012, 09:07:36 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on August 02, 2012, 07:26:53 PM

man, if you want female attention, get a fuckin' motorcycle. WHERE WERE YOU SLOPPY VAGINAS 15 YEARS AGO???

Yeah, I've known this for a bunch of years. But down here traffic is way too dangerous for motorcycles. Not really a laugh in the face of death guy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 02, 2012, 09:21:59 PM

One of my close college friends was killed in a motorcycle accident :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on August 02, 2012, 09:25:31 PM

I dunno, I prefer my mustang so whatever

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 02, 2012, 09:48:32 PM

I like my S2000.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 03, 2012, 12:06:40 AM

Guys, I think I might have just fucked up with this girl I've been talking to online, she said she was looking up inspirational quotes so I im'd her this:

:nsfw :nsfw :nsfw
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RzL9lKCfKMM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 03, 2012, 02:43:10 AM

I had a date a few days ago where I mentioned that I was thinking about getting a motorcycle to replace my dying car.

As someone who has never ridden a motorcycle, how hard would it be to learn so I don't come off as a liar?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 03, 2012, 02:45:49 AM

Aren't motorcycle deaths high?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 03, 2012, 03:20:56 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 03, 2012, 02:45:49 AM

Aren't motorcycle deaths high?

Yeah very high compared to cars.

I'm putting a down payment on my first shitty girls learner bike soon (tomorrow?).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 03, 2012, 07:02:04 AM

I think I heard most motorcycle deaths are actually caused by getting rear-ended.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 03, 2012, 09:54:09 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on August 02, 2012, 08:25:04 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on August 02, 2012, 08:21:42 PM
I'd look distinguished mentally-challenged on a motorcycle unfortunately

nobody looks distinguished mentally-challenged on a motorcyle.. all leathered up with a matte black tinted helmet. you'll look like a badass

Bad. Ass.

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(http://i.imgur.com/o6F07.jpg)

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on August 03, 2012, 10:09:27 AM

Seat with a view

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on August 03, 2012, 10:11:51 AM

Quote from: am nintenho on August 03, 2012, 07:02:04 AM

I think I heard most motorcycle deaths are actually caused by getting rear-ended.

Also, no births are caused by rear-ending.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on August 03, 2012, 02:17:45 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on August 02, 2012, 08:45:48 PM

Finding a woman you love that loves you back enough to say yes is pretty baller. We're the unwanted masses!

I guess Mupepe is the best since he got two to say yes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 03, 2012, 02:24:19 PM

There was no love in the first marriage! It was a shotgun wedding :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 03, 2012, 07:42:36 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 03, 2012, 02:24:19 PM

There was no love in the first marriage! It was a shotgun wedding :-\

always a man of lust

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 03, 2012, 07:53:09 PM

I've been trying to think of a Hispanic joke I can make to create a "moar like a ______ wedding amirite" joke but I can't :'(

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on August 03, 2012, 09:32:53 PM

My grandma is trying to set me up with one of her friends granddaughters. I feel like I should be embarrassed but I'm interested in seeing how this situation plays out.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on August 03, 2012, 09:33:38 PM

I really don't have any better options currently, so what the hell why not

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 04, 2012, 12:15:11 AM

Quote from: Premium Lager on August 03, 2012, 03:20:56 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 03, 2012, 02:45:49 AM
Aren't motorcycle deaths high?

Yeah very high compared to cars.

I'm putting a down payment on my first shitty girls learner bike soon (tomorrow?).

dude, a year from now you MUST report in from the seat of your litre bike with the smell of euro pussy juices drenching you and tell us mortals how it feels to be THE LORD OF SMANG

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on August 04, 2012, 12:32:31 AM

I suspect a lot of motorcycle deaths have to do with people just buyin crazy ass bikes and never learning shit. Even 4chan keeps a running sticky on their auto forum to educate people on motorcycles. FUCKIN 4CHAN of all places!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 04, 2012, 01:40:09 AM

yup. take the classes, and start small. also, don't take curves off the track at 100+, don't drink and drive, stay off the road imnediately after it rains, watch for edge traps and NEVER EVER trust a left-turning driver.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 04, 2012, 01:40:48 AM

left turn you mean?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on August 04, 2012, 01:59:11 AM

First time I rode a motorcycle I crashed into a stack of tires. So, I can attest that guidance could help in the not dying.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 04, 2012, 03:39:19 AM

So the girl I was talking about on the last page crashed a party unexpectedly tonight that I was at. First time contact in like a week and week & 1/2 since our date. Was totally ignored by her and found it really uncomfortable tbh.

It was weird because the time gap (and the awkward date and lack of communication followup) let me objectively see all her dealbreakers and faults and there's really nothing there that interests me. She's not even physically that attractive to me (doesn't have much of a body and has pretty bad acne scarring). Yet despite my mind objectively understanding all this, when I stand next to her and she's smiling and laughing I just feel depressed from being rejected by her. I don't think I can hang out around her right now, it'll just bring me down :\

I guess I've never been in a situation where I developed feelings for and went on a date with someone I see semi-regularly in a friend circle. Usually I'll go on a date with someone I don't really know and if there's no followup, we say our goodbyes and never see each other again. I think I just need some space. Everything's happened really fast and emotions are in a tumble dryer mess right now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on August 04, 2012, 03:41:00 AM

owned

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 04, 2012, 04:14:14 AM

So let me get this straight. She isn't that attractive, has a bunch of deal breaking flaws, completely dissed you on two separate occasions (no followup after the first date, ignoring you at a party)....and you would still give her a piggyback ride if she told you she didn't feel like walking somewhere. Dunno what to say breh...

You have a lot going for you - young, professional, articulate, great job, even better beard. At this point if someone isn't into you, there's no point in beating yourself up over it; it's their loss not yours. And given all the pluses you possess, I see no reason to be upset some average chick you thought you had a chance with doesn't like or respect you.

(http://tinyurl.com/c2cl7k7)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lordmaji on August 04, 2012, 04:44:42 AM

I've got an amazing ass chick. Nisha is fucking great, this girl is just 100% on it.

(http://i28.photobucket.com/albums/c217/lordmaji/nishmeno.jpg)
My baby sporting her custom Menophobia shirt!

(http://i28.photobucket.com/albums/c217/lordmaji/meandmybaby.jpg)
Yup, all is well in majiville. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 04, 2012, 04:48:01 AM

awesome.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 04, 2012, 04:48:31 AM

:bow

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Blastoisederp on August 04, 2012, 05:45:43 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 11, 2011, 04:09:47 AM

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~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ Repost this if ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~
~ ~ ~ ~ you are a beautiful strong black woman ~ ~ ~
~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ who don’t need no man ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~
╚══════════════ ೋღ☃ღೋ ══════════════╝

(http://i.imgur.com/UDq2d.gif)
black bitches be the ones that totally needs a man

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on August 04, 2012, 09:33:57 AM

bebpo, pd is 100% right. you should be telling yrself "fuck her, wtf is wrong with her" because she couldn't see the good in you. stop beating yourself up.

maji congrats! great to see things are working out much better for you. glad you happy.

blastiose, SHUT THE FUCK UP

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on August 04, 2012, 09:42:47 AM

I broke it off with the woman I had been dating past few months, lived too far apart, we were both too busy with our own shit to deal with the time requirement. One discussion, ended fine.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 04, 2012, 12:21:50 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on August 04, 2012, 09:42:47 AM

I broke it off with the woman I had been dating past few months, lived too far apart, we were both too busy with our own shit to deal with the time requirement. One discussion, ended fine.

Come here, bro.. *hug* there there

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 04, 2012, 12:23:35 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on August 04, 2012, 09:42:47 AM

I broke it off with the woman I had been dating past few months, lived too far apart, we were both too busy with our own shit to deal with the time requirement. One discussion, ended fine.

Did it go over well, like enough so that you guys can still be friends?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Blastoisederp on August 04, 2012, 12:30:53 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on August 04, 2012, 09:42:47 AM

I broke it off with the woman I had been dating past few months, lived too far apart, we were both too busy with our own shit to deal with the time requirement. One discussion, ended fine.

get out there in the fucking race right now man
thats teh best way to move on

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on August 04, 2012, 12:44:04 PM

not gonna bother againt ill work settles down. not bummed out- just is what it is.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 04, 2012, 12:47:54 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 04, 2012, 04:14:14 AM

So let me get this straight. She isn't that attractive, has a bunch of deal breaking flaws, completely dissed you on two separate occasions (no followup after the first date, ignoring you at a party)....and you would still give her a piggyback ride if she told you she didn't feel like walking somewhere. Dunno what to say breh...

You have a lot going for you - young, professional, articulate, great job, even better beard. At this point if someone isn't into you, there's no point in beating yourself up over it; it's their loss not yours. And given all the pluses you possess, I see no reason to be upset some average chick you thought you had a chance with doesn't like or respect you.

(http://tinyurl.com/c2cl7k7)

Bebpo's problem is that all that pussy ass anime has given him too much feels

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 04, 2012, 01:08:38 PM

On the real though Bebpo, what you're experiencing is perfectly natural. You're probably not used to being the one rejected, so that's confusing; doubly so is that you don't find her "that attractive" or whatever, so her rejection is even more confusing. Add in the social mix of friends and yeah, there you go.

My suggestion is just do what she's doing- don't stop hanging out with mutual friends because you're afraid you might see her or whatever. Just pretend like your weird dates/communications never happened. Don't initiate contact with her though- if she wants to talk, be cordial or whatever but don't go out of your way to personally interact with her. But letting this weirdness screw up a potential social circle for you isn't cool, so don't let that happen. In college, I had all sorts of weird experiences with either bad dates with girls that were in my large circle of friends, or a couple times I'd get drunk and end up hooking up with or fucking girls that were friends with me. The first time the latter happened I was all weird about it and tried to keep seeing her and that didn't work out; as time wore on and I got older I figured out that shit like this happens, so just roll with the punches and try to keep your cool.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 04, 2012, 01:35:35 PM

One thing I'd disagree with is that I don't think this is necessarily due to being rejected - I think Bepbo has been rejected before. You basically decided to settle for this girl, at least that's what it seems like. So you lowered your standards to make this work, almost like a compromise or something - yet she was still unwilling to move towards you. Thus making the rejection feel worse

I do agree with avoiding her now. It's very important you don't let yourself be her rebound now. She clearly thinks you're still crazy about her, and she just might want to use that to her advantage at some point. Pllleassse don't fall for it bro!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 04, 2012, 02:06:31 PM

Good advice all around. Yeah, it's really just bummed about being rejected since I don't get rejected enough (maybe once or twice a year these days?) so I forget the feel. I really should date more so I get used to it and get past it. I'd been putting off dating around for the last month (even though I'm in the mood to start seeing someone again) because I thought there might be some possibilities with this girl, and a lot of things lined up right initially. so I was going to see how it went first before giving other girls a chance. Not the best way to approach it since it puts all the eggs in one basket, but I make that mistake about once a year. Then do it the right way.

And no piggyback rides coming from me on this one. I'm not letting people walk all over me; I got some self-respect at least. She missed her chance, I'm moving on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 04, 2012, 02:59:30 PM

my nicca :rock :bow

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 04, 2012, 08:39:49 PM

Oh my god, I embarrassed myself today. Went to Wal-mart to pick up some medicine, flirted with the cashier girl who was cute as hell and exactly my type physically. Then she smiled and said something I COULD NOT UNDERSTAND despite asking her to repeat it. She was patient and kept on laughing and smiling. I just nodded because I couldn't understand her and ended the conversation. Now I she asked me on a date and I wouldn't know. WHEN DO MY HEARING AIDS GET IN?! I cannot wait for them because of shit like this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 04, 2012, 09:44:09 PM

She probably told you that she was a lesbian

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 04, 2012, 10:05:27 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 04, 2012, 08:39:49 PM

Oh my god, I embarrassed myself today. Went to Wal-mart to pick up some medicine, flirted with the cashier girl who was cute as hell and exactly my type physically. Then she smiled and said something I COULD NOT UNDERSTAND despite asking her to repeat it. She was patient and kept on laughing and smiling. I just nodded because I couldn't understand her and ended the conversation. Now I she asked me on a date and I wouldn't know. WHEN DO MY HEARING AIDS GET IN?! I cannot wait for them because of shit like this.

She was telling you to meet her in a supply closet in 15 minutes for some casual sex, she wanted the bbc

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 04, 2012, 11:10:27 PM

I know plenty of people with college degrees who work at Wal-Mart. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lordmaji on August 05, 2012, 01:45:42 AM

She was telling you she was into s&m and furies.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 05, 2012, 11:04:06 AM

So, anybody try the OKCupid cellphone app? They have a thing where you can post a beacon (like, "hey, I'm meeting at Bar X in NY tonite, let's meet up!") and people can respond to you, or vice versa. So my friend and I went to Barcade last nite to meet up with some college friends of mine and decided to give the OKC thing a try. I suggest to one girl with her beacon on to meet up, and my friend sets a beacon and gets a girl interested in meeting up.

So, the 4 of us (plus 2 college friends) were all hanging out at Barcade, and the girl I met got really shitfaced and was all over me all night, we were making out in the bar and stuff. Not at all my type, (she is a smoker, among other dealbreakers) but very cute nevertheless. So that was pretty fun. Afterwards, we went to another bar, but she was freaking exhausted by the time we got there and she just wanted to go home, so she hailed a taxi, then my friend and I left... not sure if I'll ever see her or even bother to email her but was still a good nite.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on August 05, 2012, 10:18:51 PM

I finally cut off contact with the ex. He is an asshole anyways. I was only being nice by letting him call me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 05, 2012, 10:27:24 PM

Good.

Time to make my move.

*rubs hands*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on August 05, 2012, 11:04:21 PM

Quote from: Lan on August 05, 2012, 10:18:51 PM

I finally cut off contact with the ex. He is an asshole anyways. I was only being nice by letting him call me.

How you doin?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 06, 2012, 02:58:37 AM

Quote from: tiesto on August 05, 2012, 11:04:06 AM

So, anybody try the OKCupid cellphone app? They have a thing where you can post a beacon (like, "hey, I'm meeting at Bar X in NY tonite, let's meet up!") and people can respond to you, or vice versa. So my friend and I went to Barcade last nite to meet up with some college friends of mine and decided to give the OKC thing a try. I suggest to one girl with her beacon on to meet up, and my friend sets a beacon and gets a girl interested in meeting up.

So, the 4 of us (plus 2 college friends) were all hanging out at Barcade, and the girl I met got really shitfaced and was all over me all night, we were making out in the bar and stuff. Not at all my type, (she is a smoker, among other dealbreakers) but very cute nevertheless. So that was pretty fun. Afterwards, we went to another bar, but she was freaking exhausted by the time we got there and she just wanted to go home, so she hailed a taxi, then my friend and I left... not sure if I'll ever see her or even bother to email her but was still a good nite.

Iiiiinteresting. Maybe I'll throw out a beacon for the Doug Stanhope show I'm going to on Thursday.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 06, 2012, 03:02:33 AM

Set the beacon for your place.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on August 06, 2012, 09:34:46 PM

Quote from: FatalT on August 05, 2012, 11:04:21 PM

Quote from: Lan on August 05, 2012, 10:18:51 PM
I finally cut off contact with the ex. He is an asshole anyways. I was only being nice by letting him call me.

How you doin?

not so well :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 06, 2012, 09:45:24 PM

Quote from: Lan on August 06, 2012, 09:34:46 PM

Quote from: FatalT on August 05, 2012, 11:04:21 PM
Quote from: Lan on August 05, 2012, 10:18:51 PM
I finally cut off contact with the ex. He is an asshole anyways. I was only being nice by letting him call me.

How you doin?

not so well :-\

:fbm

I hope it's not due to him tho. Dude sounds like a passive aggressive, controlling asshole

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on August 06, 2012, 11:21:40 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 06, 2012, 09:45:24 PM

Quote from: Lan on August 06, 2012, 09:34:46 PM
Quote from: FatalT on August 05, 2012, 11:04:21 PM
Quote from: Lan on August 05, 2012, 10:18:51 PM
I finally cut off contact with the ex. He is an asshole anyways. I was only being nice by letting him call me.

How you doin?

not so well :-\
:fbm

I hope it's not due to him tho. Dude sounds like a passive aggressive, controlling asshole

I'm just wondering why I allowed someone so shitty to even get close to me. I did everything I thought was right, but still ended up in a terrible situation. I thought I was better than this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 06, 2012, 11:23:15 PM

Everyone makes mistakes. Lots of folks can be quite intoxicating, flaws and all. Eventually you see who they really are

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on August 06, 2012, 11:33:36 PM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on August 06, 2012, 11:28:58 PM

Quote from: Lan on August 06, 2012, 11:21:40 PM

I'm just wondering why I allowed someone so shitty to even get close to me. I did everything I thought was right, but still ended up in a terrible situation. I thought I was better than this.
You are not the first or the last to have that happen Londa. Chin up, it gets better and you'll find better.

I think you was one of the gaf members who hated me before I got perma banned. So I know you really mean what you say. thanks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 07, 2012, 12:04:18 AM

Ok, there are SERIOUS PROBLEMS with having a brother near your age, living in the same city as you, who MAY OR MAY NOT ALSO USE ONLINE DATING.

I messaged someone to get a reply:

"Hi other Karlin"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 07, 2012, 12:13:20 AM

you share that girl (http://img825.imageshack.us/img825/2181/ohhhk.png)

http://www.facebook.com/pages/You-share-that-girl/214001145492

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 07, 2012, 01:41:49 AM

Quote from: Lan on August 06, 2012, 11:21:40 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 06, 2012, 09:45:24 PM
Quote from: Lan on August 06, 2012, 09:34:46 PM
Quote from: FatalT on August 05, 2012, 11:04:21 PM
Quote from: Lan on August 05, 2012, 10:18:51 PM
I finally cut off contact with the ex. He is an asshole anyways. I was only being nice by letting him call me.

How you doin?

not so well :-\
:fbm

I hope it's not due to him tho. Dude sounds like a passive aggressive, controlling asshole

I'm just wondering why I allowed someone so shitty to even get close to me. I did everything I thought was right, but still ended up in a terrible situation. I thought I was better than this.

Don't worry, I did the same shit. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on August 07, 2012, 12:27:36 PM

So I got the girl's, that my grandmother is trying to get me to meet, information and sees actually pretty cute. She just graduated and moved down here to search for a job and is staying with her uncle and grandparents.

Should I invite her out one day/night when there is a group of my friends or 1v1 it?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 07, 2012, 12:48:28 PM

Quote from: Huff on August 07, 2012, 12:27:36 PM

So I got the girl's, that my grandmother is trying to get me to meet, information and sees actually pretty cute. She just graduated and moved down here to search for a job and is staying with her uncle and grandparents.

Should I invite her out one day/night when there is a group of my friends or 1v1 it?

One on one sounds better. Tell her if she's new to the area, you can show her some of the interesting places to go (parks, beach, etc).

Have you talked to her?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on August 07, 2012, 12:53:15 PM

Not yet, just got her name/number today. Thing is she's not unfamiliar with the area, just doesn't know anyone her age, which is why our grandmas set this up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 07, 2012, 01:00:37 PM

If you're horny enough and suave enough, I still say one on one. Make sure you mention the types of friends you have in the area and the shenanigans you get into so you don't make it seem like you're trying to "hide the competition" so to speak.

I also wouldn't make any really solid itinerary for the day, just go where ever you want to go.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 07, 2012, 01:13:09 PM

... Jesus Christ. Please don't listen to am nintenho.

Quote from: am nintenho on August 07, 2012, 01:00:37 PM

If you're horny enough and suave enough, I still say one on one. Make sure you mention the types of friends you have in the area and the shenanigans you get into so you don't make it seem like you're trying to "hide the competition" so to speak.

I had to actually check and see if I was on GAF. Fucking shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 07, 2012, 01:15:03 PM

don't forget to tell her to wear a burqa!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 07, 2012, 01:15:29 PM

Anyways, if you want it to be a date then do one on one. If you just want to be friendly, try to do a group thing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 07, 2012, 01:16:38 PM

Tomorrow is when I go into that deli/diner and ask that girl out.

Hopefully I don't fuck this up or I won't be able to eat there anymore. :lol

Actually, if I do fuck up I'll still go there because they make sandwiches that are like crack.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 07, 2012, 01:19:38 PM

(http://deadhomersociety.files.wordpress.com/2010/11/summerof4ft25.png)
"Well, I have been eating more!"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 07, 2012, 01:21:49 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 07, 2012, 01:13:09 PM

... Jesus Christ. Please don't listen to am nintenho.

Quote from: am nintenho on August 07, 2012, 01:00:37 PM
If you're horny enough and suave enough, I still say one on one. Make sure you mention the types of friends you have in the area and the shenanigans you get into so you don't make it seem like you're trying to "hide the competition" so to speak.

I had to actually check and see if I was on GAF. Fucking shit.

I was being sarcastic (at least the part that you quoted), I thought the first seven words made it sound pretty obvious.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 07, 2012, 01:38:45 PM

My bad. My sarcasm detector must be broken.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 08, 2012, 02:30:54 PM

Quote from: Atramental on August 07, 2012, 01:16:38 PM

Tomorrow is when I go into that deli/diner and ask that girl out.

Hopefully I don't fuck this up or I won't be able to eat there anymore. :lol

Actually, if I do fuck up I'll still go there because they make sandwiches that are like crack.

So... she wasn't there today but I was kinda glad because I was freaking the fuck out when I was driving there.

Fuck my nerves. :-\

Maybe I'll try again this Friday.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 08, 2012, 04:20:05 PM

There's this girl who may (or may not) be into me who works at this deli/diner that I go to every once in a while and I wanted to ask her out today but she wasn't there today.

That's pretty much it.

Oh. And she doesn't look or act like your typical southern gal either. (I think that's why I'm attracted to her. haha...)
Judging from her body type and the way she dresses she looks like she's into yoga and eastern mysticism. She might be vegetarian as well because these yoga types usually are and I don't know how I feel about that. I guess it's fine so long as I'm not judged for liking meat. (yeah, vegetarian working at a deli. Ironic, eh?)

And yes, I'm over analyzing but I always do that when I'm in this type of scenario...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 08, 2012, 04:51:31 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on August 08, 2012, 04:23:46 PM

What have past exchanges been like?

In the past, our exchanges have been pretty mundane.

But last week I went into the deli with my brother to have lunch. When we went up to counter she came up and said, "Oh hey! I haven't seen you in a while." in a flowery/happy tone. I, being the social distinguished mentally-challenged fellow that I am, responded with, "Oh yeah... I've been really busy." and out of the corner of my eye I could see my brother flinch a bit because he saw (judging from her body language) that she was really into me and I wasn't picking up on it. I should've been more open and light hearted.

Anyways, after we left the deli my brother suggested that I ask her out the next time I'm there. In response: "Uh, why? What's your justification that she's attracted to me?" and he told me that he read "The Definitive Guide to Body Language" by Allan Pease and that she was giving off certain signs that she was attracted to me.

I didn't really believe my brother (and I still don't to a certain degree) but then I thought, "Well fuck... why not? She's attractive, physically fit, and probably a lot more open minded than others girls in the south. I'll go ahead and ask her out next week"

And here I am today. Scared that I'm going to make a fool out of myself if I do ask her out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 08, 2012, 05:01:14 PM

Tell her you hate sandwiches and what you've really been craving is a taste of her hot pocket. Gold.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 08, 2012, 05:06:26 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on August 08, 2012, 04:57:00 PM

Yeah, go for it man.

Just you know what?

Before you do, just walk up to any pretty girl and introduce yourself and if it goes well, tell her you'd love to take her to dinner.

Get those nerves out on non-consequential girls before you try with this girl.

Remember, you'll get rejected 90% of the time in any scenario.

Ok.

Might need a little bit of liquid courage as well. heh..

Fuck. I hate being neurotic.

Quote from: Mupepe on August 08, 2012, 05:01:14 PM

Tell her you hate sandwiches and what you've really been craving is a taste of her hot pocket. Gold.

Ha...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on August 08, 2012, 05:12:22 PM

Tell her she could use a little extra salami in her panini, namsayin.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 08, 2012, 05:18:57 PM

Ok. ok.

Fuck.

God, I hate this shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 08, 2012, 05:33:19 PM

Imagine her riding your hog and calling you big daddy. All the motivation you need.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 08, 2012, 05:49:53 PM

Quote from: Atramental on August 08, 2012, 04:51:31 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on August 08, 2012, 04:23:46 PM
What have past exchanges been like?
In the past, our exchanges have been pretty mundane.

But last week I went into the deli with my brother to have lunch. When we went up to counter she came up and said, "Oh hey! I haven't seen you in a while." in a flowery/happy tone. I, being the social distinguished mentally-challenged fellow that I am, responded with, "Oh yeah... I've been really busy." and out of the corner of my eye I could see my brother flinch a bit because he saw (judging from her body language) that she was really into me and I wasn't picking up on it. I should've been more open and light hearted.

Anyways, after we left the deli my brother suggested that I ask her out the next time I'm there. In response: "Uh, why? What's your justification that she's attracted to me?" and he told me that he read "The Definitive Guide to Body Language" by Allan Pease and that she was giving off certain signs that she was attracted to me.

I didn't really believe my brother (and I still don't to a certain degree) but then I thought, "Well fuck... why not? She's attractive, physically fit, and probably a lot more open minded than others girls in the south. I'll go ahead and ask her out next week"

And here I am today. Scared that I'm going to make a fool out of myself if I do ask her out.

awww. This reminds me of that episode of Louie where he asks out Parker Posey.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rf3UkZToejk

Around 1:50. Can't find a clip of the scene by itself.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 08, 2012, 05:55:08 PM

.

nevermind

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 08, 2012, 07:44:45 PM

guys. Guys. GUYS.

First contact has been made. Apparently I'm grabbing drinks with a cute lady before seeing Doug Stanhope tomorrow. Fuck am I not ready for this, should be hilarious.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on August 08, 2012, 08:03:01 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 08, 2012, 07:44:45 PM

guys. Guys. GUYS.

First contact has been made. Apparently I'm grabbing drinks with a cute lady before seeing Doug Stanhope tomorrow. Fuck am I not ready for this, should be hilarious.

wait, are you going with her to doug stanhope? she's pretty cool if that's the case.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 08, 2012, 08:13:10 PM

grats my nicca :rock

hmmm that beacon thing sounds pretty cool. Gonna turn mine on at Taco Bell and watch the sparks fly

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 08, 2012, 09:35:19 PM

Nice, good luck Triumph! This an OKC girl?

Atramental, I've always wanted a chick into yoga and eastern mysticism and hippie stuff, you can bet they go all natural down there :drool

Oh yeah, I am going for coffee with this cute girl going for her clinical psych PhD, she is German and was a professional figure skater in Germany as a kid, talked to her on the phone last nite and she seemed kinda quiet but she started opening up a bit more after we got around to talking.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 08, 2012, 11:32:12 PM

Okay.... I lied. She was there today. :'(

I pussied out and just ordered a sandwich like I usually do. :gloomy

FUCK! I'm probably missing out on some mind blowing yoga sex.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on August 08, 2012, 11:33:20 PM

you're not

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 08, 2012, 11:36:08 PM

Quote from: Atramental on August 08, 2012, 11:32:12 PM

Okay.... I lied. She was there today. :'(

I pussied out and just ordered a sandwich like I usually do. :gloomy

FUCK! I'm probably missing out on some mind blowing yoga sex.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sy4D_wGGtM0

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 09, 2012, 12:13:56 AM

Lupe's right. I just gotta be confident and take a chance.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 09, 2012, 07:17:52 PM

There is a girl that I'm somewhat attracted to on OKC because ...she seems like a female version of Professor Prole.

I don't know what that means about me and Prole :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fart on August 09, 2012, 07:27:41 PM

BITCHES GET STITCHES

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 09, 2012, 07:42:00 PM

Wish me luck.

I'm going into that deli tomorrow and I'm going to man-the-fuck-up this time. :punch

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 10, 2012, 11:51:54 AM

Argh. She said no. :-\

Welp, onto the next one.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 10, 2012, 11:56:22 AM

Kudos for doing it though... rejection gets easier the more it happens.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

no it doesn't :'(

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 10, 2012, 12:12:38 PM

To be honest, I'm kinda glad she said no because I think she would've been too mature (or too experienced) for me.

And I think she could tell that as well, just from judging from my disposition and my voice, that I'm not experienced in courting, dating, asking girls out, etc.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 10, 2012, 01:13:08 PM

In that case keep putting yourself out there so that your insecurities aren't so obvious. It's all in your attitude when you ask them. If you look nervous or unsure she will most likely say no. You gotta work on your "Cool. Whatevs" 'tude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 10, 2012, 03:14:35 PM

Yeah, the problem with me having the "Cool. Whatevs" attitude is that I need to have about 3 or 4 beers in me before that personality comes out from the recesses of my mind. Haha.

When I don't have alcohol in my system to mellow me out I'm very reserved and boring.

And I know it's not good to rely on alcohol for my poor social skills but man it makes things a lot easier.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 10, 2012, 03:49:55 PM

No you don't need alcohol, it'll make you more nervous since you'll be wondering when the "cool guy" switch is flipped. Just be honest and open, and girls will respond to that. If you're able to just talk and talk and talk about anything with a girl, then she definitely will be willing to go out with you since there's really nothing to lose.

But yeah, no matter what you do or how much experience you have, it will be scary to ask out a girl that you like and your hands will be sweaty and your butthole will feel like it's going to explode.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 10, 2012, 04:21:38 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on August 08, 2012, 08:03:01 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 08, 2012, 07:44:45 PM
guys. Guys. GUYS.

First contact has been made. Apparently I'm grabbing drinks with a cute lady before seeing Doug Stanhope tomorrow. Fuck am I not ready for this, should be hilarious.

wait, are you going with her to doug stanhope? she's pretty cool if that's the case.

Whoops, just noticed this. Nope, we just met up before hand for drinks at a bar down the street from the club. She was pretty cool and we'll probably hang out again, but ultimately she's not reallllly my type- there were a few things about her that were kind of annoying- smoker, likes really bad (metal and shitty local punk) music, etc. Very cute and nice girl though, so who knows.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 10, 2012, 04:28:20 PM

metal and punk music are great ??? depends on what type of metal and punk

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 10, 2012, 04:37:50 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 10, 2012, 04:28:20 PM

metal and punk music are great ??? depends on what type of metal and punk

I find them to be boring genres of music. Punk can be great but it's very, very rare- it's largely a genre that becomes a refuge for people who don't have actual musical talent. Good metal to me is even more rare... I just don't like the genre. I'm old and like chill music.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 10, 2012, 05:35:28 PM

With my last gf, our first date was meeting up and going to a show. It went well, and by the end of the night we were at the beach, driving through mountains, raiding liquor stores, and then crashing at my place.

Shows are good dates.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on August 10, 2012, 06:29:36 PM

Raiding liquor stores? Like robbing them?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 11, 2012, 03:28:40 AM

Haha, no; not that bad. Like buying lots of liquor from them :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Eric P on August 11, 2012, 07:37:21 AM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on August 10, 2012, 04:54:38 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 10, 2012, 04:37:50 PM
Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 10, 2012, 04:28:20 PM
metal and punk music are great ??? depends on what type of metal and punk

I find them to be boring genres of music. Punk can be great but it's very, very rare- it's largely a genre that becomes a refuge for people who don't have actual musical talent. Good metal to me is even more rare... I just don't like the genre. I'm old and like chill music.

I can not disagree with this position especially lately. Punk and especially Metal have become genres where you have to go in deep to find the good stuff.

i can really only trust like 2 people to turn me onto metal i'll like

i didn't even really like the new Baroness album which came as quite a surprise to me

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 12, 2012, 09:37:48 AM

Quote from: mojovonio on August 11, 2012, 11:45:35 AM

So its over with me and 23 year old.

She's not over her ex who cheated on her.

Nice guys finish last, once again.

Hey, that's what happened with me and the latest girl I was seeing.

I had sex with her a couple of times and then she asked me for $300 to help her get settled in at her new place. Which is funny because on her Facebook, she took a bunch of pictures of herself recently going on a clothes shopping spree. I told this to our mutual friend and she told me that secretly, this girl was trying to get back with her unemployed alcoholic ex who lives about an hour away. I was just kind of the fill in guy until she makes this thing happen.

Since I wasn't going to be taken advantage of financially, the next time she called, I told her "You know, I don't think this is going to work out."

I'm just going to keep on keeping on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 12, 2012, 02:19:49 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on August 12, 2012, 09:37:48 AM

Quote from: mojovonio on August 11, 2012, 11:45:35 AM
So its over with me and 23 year old.

She's not over her ex who cheated on her.

Nice guys finish last, once again.

Hey, that's what happened with me and the latest girl I was seeing.

I had sex with her a couple of times and then she asked me for $300 to help her get settled in at her new place. Which is funny because on her Facebook, she took a bunch of pictures of herself recently going on a clothes shopping spree. I told this to our mutual friend and she told me that secretly, this girl was trying to get back with her unemployed alcoholic ex who lives about an hour away. I was just kind of the fill in guy until she makes this thing happen.

Since I wasn't going to be taken advantage of financially, the next time she called, I told her "You know, I don't think this is going to work out."

I'm just going to keep on keeping on.

(http://img855.imageshack.us/img855/9061/smugdon.png)

I gotta know your immediate reaction and what you said when she asked for that money. I'm imagining her asking that after a bj and you falling out the bed in shock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 14, 2012, 12:15:51 PM

Quote from: Atramental on August 10, 2012, 11:51:54 AM

Argh. She said no. :-\

Welp, onto the next one.

Protip: Don't ask women out when they're at their place of employment. It's a really hard place to put them in, as they have to be professional to you as a customer, even as you're trying to get personal with them.

Make chit-chat and such, see where that goes. It sounds like she noticed you, and noticed that you hadn't been around; that's good. But did you speak with her much, or just ask her out, outright?

Anyway, unless she made a face of unmasked disgust, you may still have a chance. Just talk with her, and realize that because she's already said "no," there's no pressure to be charming or anything. Just be yourself and talk naturally.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 14, 2012, 01:38:02 PM

Quote from: chronovore on August 14, 2012, 12:15:51 PM

Protip: Don't ask women out when they're at their place of employment. It's a really hard place to put them in, as they have to be professional to you as a customer, even as you're trying to get personal with them.

I know but that's the only place I ever see her.

Also, I asked her out before the lunch hour rush so it's not like I was being a big hindrance to her job or anything.

Quote

Make chit-chat and such, see where that goes. It sounds like she noticed you, and noticed that you hadn't been around; that's good. But did you speak with her much, or just ask her out, outright?

Here's how it went down:

I ordered my food (a salad to go), I asked her how her day was going and after she made her response I followed up with a: "Good to hear your day is going well. Also.. hey, whenever you're free, you want to get together sometime?"

And her response back was essentially: "Oh, that sounds nice but no thank you."

Me: "Oh okay. Well I hope you have a nice weekend."

Her: "Thanks."

And then I sat down and waited for someone to bring me out my food. And then once I got my salad I got up and left.

Quote

Anyway, unless she made a face of unmasked disgust, you may still have a chance. Just talk with her, and realize that because she's already said "no," there's no pressure to be charming or anything. Just be yourself and talk naturally.

I didn't sense any disgust from her but at the same time I didn't sense any interest from her either.

And at this point I don't really care if I have a chance or not because I'm already thinking about other girls that I could ask out at my university when I get back there for my fall semester.

I can't afford to stay hung up on one girl this year because of that stupid bet I made in GAF's drunk thread. haha...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 14, 2012, 02:09:15 PM

Honestly, actually asking is almost always bound to fail in those types of situations. The only way I've ever had it work was by having a conversation for more than a few seconds. Such as "What are you doing this weekend?" and then follow up with a few more questions about whatever her response is. After the conversation has gone from just pleasantries to somewhat personal you've already broken the barrier. Your problem is that you rammed through the barrier with "hey wanna go out??" My lines usually consisted of me saying she should let me take her out or we should go out together. Never asked in the form of a question. Do not ask because if she can say no she probably will. Even if she likes you. It's easier that way. And I always said it in a joking manner. Like it was fun asking her out. Like I was having fun. How you act when you're asking her out is probably how you'll act on the actual date so make a good impression. Even if she says no it makes the awkwardness less awkward. But after doing it a few dozen times you won't feel awkward anyways. I used to ask out every hot girl I encountered and the times it worked more than made up for all the times I failed. Hell, I met my wife that way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 14, 2012, 06:54:56 PM

Okay. I'll use your method, Mupepe, and I'll see where it gets me.

I just hope I get something started with a girl before my fall break because time is running out. (http://i.minus.com/ivhfu22kCBwKu.gif)

And I know you can't really schedule things like this but goddammit I'm not going into 2013 with my virginity intact and me being short of $150 dollars. That's no way to start a new year.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 14, 2012, 07:06:29 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 12, 2012, 02:19:49 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on August 12, 2012, 09:37:48 AM
Quote from: mojovonio on August 11, 2012, 11:45:35 AM
So its over with me and 23 year old.

She's not over her ex who cheated on her.

Nice guys finish last, once again.

Hey, that's what happened with me and the latest girl I was seeing.

I had sex with her a couple of times and then she asked me for $300 to help her get settled in at her new place. Which is funny because on her Facebook, she took a bunch of pictures of herself recently going on a clothes shopping spree. I told this to our mutual friend and she told me that secretly, this girl was trying to get back with her unemployed alcoholic ex who lives about an hour away. I was just kind of the fill in guy until she makes this thing happen.

Since I wasn't going to be taken advantage of financially, the next time she called, I told her "You know, I don't think this is going to work out."

I'm just going to keep on keeping on.

(http://img855.imageshack.us/img855/9061/smugdon.png)

I gotta know your immediate reaction and what you said when she asked for that money. I'm imagining her asking that after a bj and you falling out the bed in shock

Well, she asked for the money and I asked what for. After all, it costs a lot of money to move and settle in. She said it was to settle in her apartment, cookware, towels, etc. However, I've been to her place and it seemed fine to me. I told her I'd think about it and get back to her. She said, "Um...why?" in a bitchy tone, which pissed me off. I told her that I needed to think about it and the discussion about the money ended there. A few hours later, I was noodling around Facebook and saw that she went all out buying some clothes with her friend who stopped to visit her at her new place.

So I called my mutual friend about other things and I brought this up. She told me not to give her any money and that is when she brought up that she is trying to get back with her broke, unemployed alcoholic ex who lived an hour away :o I wasn't planning on giving her the money but after that, my answer turned from "no" to "hell no." I figured that this might be a good time to end it.

Oh well, it wasn't going to be a long term thing anyway.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 14, 2012, 11:04:50 PM

Letting someone borrow 3k is a big fucking deal, too. It's not something you earn after a couple nights in bed. Hell, I can't imagine the balls of someone who would viably get upset if they asked for 3k and were told "I'll think about it."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bloodwake on August 14, 2012, 11:12:58 PM

Lol relationships.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 15, 2012, 12:29:28 AM

WOMEN! :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 15, 2012, 02:45:50 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on August 15, 2012, 12:29:28 AM

WOMEN! :maf

You a baby daddy yet?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on August 15, 2012, 06:18:35 AM

He will be soon with that av :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 15, 2012, 09:01:14 AM

Fuuuu... got the runaround with that cute German chick. Called her, left a message... she txts me back saying she's in the middle of driving and will call me back later. OK, no call, she txts the next day apologizing. So I asked her if she was free that night, and she is just like "no, not tonight, sorry". Then nothing after that... shit should I even bother txting her at this point? We had a very nice time IMO, great conversation and the date didn't end prematurely.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on August 15, 2012, 02:19:28 PM

i don't see why not

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 15, 2012, 02:36:51 PM

DO NOT text or call her. Let her text or call you. If a girl is giving you the runaround after a date, no matter how good you thought the date was, it means she either wasn't into you, is preparing to friendzone you, or just needs some time to decide how to proceed. Let her make that decision

Basic rule: if you're the one constantly making contact, something is wrong. Nothing is worse than looking desperate or needy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on August 15, 2012, 02:40:55 PM

need a :shrug emoticon

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 15, 2012, 03:00:08 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on August 15, 2012, 02:40:55 PM

need a :shrug emoticon

(http://img687.imageshack.us/img687/4328/mannyg.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on August 15, 2012, 03:01:55 PM

nice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 15, 2012, 03:06:47 PM

That's Manny Ramirez btw

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on August 15, 2012, 03:07:40 PM

hahahahahahahaha thanks PD

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 15, 2012, 09:25:09 PM

Yeah, I'm just gonna chalk that one up as another loss...

Damn, just went on OKC and saw this girl whose intro paragraph is this:

Quote

I'm heavily into video games. I'm in love with most JRPGs, including, but not limited to the Persona series, the Final Fantasy series, The World Ends With You, and the Kingdom Hearts series. JRPG's give me a good story to read as well as cute characters to fall in love with, while letting me customize and fool around with the characters

Total waifu material for sure!! :uguu But she is seeing someone :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on August 15, 2012, 10:05:37 PM

She's got issues, for sure.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 15, 2012, 10:39:48 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 14, 2012, 11:04:50 PM

Letting someone borrow 3k is a big fucking deal, too. It's not something you earn after a couple nights in bed. Hell, I can't imagine the balls of someone who would viably get upset if they asked for 3k and were told "I'll think about it."

It was $300 but you're exactly right.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 15, 2012, 02:36:51 PM

DO NOT text or call her. Let her text or call you. If a girl is giving you the runaround after a date, no matter how good you thought the date was, it means she either wasn't into you, is preparing to friendzone you, or just needs some time to decide how to proceed. Let her make that decision

Basic rule: if you're the one constantly making contact, something is wrong. Nothing is worse than looking desperate or needy

Yep. If a woman is interested, she will make the effort. Nobody (who is interested) is that busy that they can't take a few seconds to send a text or make a quick call.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on August 15, 2012, 10:44:56 PM

I've been seeing some girl recently who's godawful at communication, so maybe that's why I'm pretty (http://img687.imageshack.us/img687/4328/mannyg.png) about it at the moment. I usually subscribe to what PD said, and I guess this girl *did* text me after we hadn't talked for a couple of weeks after meeting initially. I do think tiesto needs to start looking at more normal girls, but he seems to be doing that. He just can't help getting a stiffy when he sees an OKC profile like that. It's like if I saw a chick writing about loving baseball.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Inspector Thatcher on August 16, 2012, 12:23:20 AM

Quote from: tiesto on August 15, 2012, 09:01:14 AM

Fuuuu... got the runaround with that cute German chick. Called her, left a message... she txts me back saying she's in the middle of driving and will call me back later. OK, no call, she txts the next day apologizing. So I asked her if she was free that night, and she is just like "no, not tonight, sorry". Then nothing after that... shit should I even bother txting her at this point? We had a very nice time IMO, great conversation and the date didn't end prematurely.

Ordinarily I'd agree with the "let her reach out" advice already given and leave it at that, but I would also add...

Possibility: Girl rule #45 is never agree to a same-day date, especially if it's in the early goings. Could be she's just playing that game, in addition to being busy.

If you haven't already, I'd send a quick note to say you know she's busy so if she's interested she should propose the date and time of next meet. And leave it at that.

And in the meantime, do as others have suggested and move on. If she's interested, she'll reach out and you can decide if you want to keep playing the waiting-for-a-text game.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 16, 2012, 03:53:42 AM

I have a lot of things going on in my life right now. They're all pretty good though and a lot of interesting people. I'm just going to say one thing about one of them, where maybe I could use some advice:

There's a girl that I'm trying hard not to become friends with because I am seriously afraid of becoming friendzone'd if I become her friend. So I'm purposely keeping my distance while still keeping in touch with her, never really going into that buddy/buddy chatty/chatty even though we get along and have great chemistry. However, she is probably the kind of girl that needs to be friends with someone before being in a relationship with them. A take it slow kind of girl. So keeping distance is actually going against there. Seems like there's no safe approach with this one. Gotta go full speed into friends and ollie the friendzone right into a relationship grind.

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yes, I used a skateboard line as imagery, so sue me punks :punch

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 16, 2012, 05:47:04 AM

Just stop being a pussy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 16, 2012, 09:59:44 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on August 15, 2012, 10:44:56 PM

I've been seeing some girl recently who's godawful at communication, so maybe that's why I'm pretty (http://img687.imageshack.us/img687/4328/mannyg.png) about it at the moment. I usually subscribe to what PD said, and I guess this girl *did* text me after we hadn't talked for a couple of weeks after meeting initially. I do think tiesto needs to start looking at more normal girls, but he seems to be doing that. He just can't help getting a stiffy when he sees an OKC profile like that. It's like if I saw a chick writing about loving baseball.

What if she was totally into baseball... but was a die hard Braves fan? I take that back, grudge fucking is awesome. I know what I would do if the roles were reversed, anyway.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 16, 2012, 10:16:15 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on August 15, 2012, 10:44:56 PM

I've been seeing some girl recently who's godawful at communication, so maybe that's why I'm pretty (http://img687.imageshack.us/img687/4328/mannyg.png) about it at the moment. I usually subscribe to what PD said, and I guess this girl *did* text me after we hadn't talked for a couple of weeks after meeting initially. I do think tiesto needs to start looking at more normal girls, but he seems to be doing that. He just can't help getting a stiffy when he sees an OKC profile like that. It's like if I saw a chick writing about loving baseball.

Funny enough, a lot of the seemingly "normal" girls I date end up being the craziest of all! My ex was of course huge into baseball but she was a Yanks fan :P

Quote from: Inspector Thatcher on August 16, 2012, 12:23:20 AM

Ordinarily I'd agree with the "let her reach out" advice already given and leave it at that, but I would also add...

Possibility: Girl rule #45 is never agree to a same-day date, especially if it's in the early goings. Could be she's just playing that game, in addition to being busy.

If you haven't already, I'd send a quick note to say you know she's busy so if she's interested she should propose the date and time of next meet. And leave it at that.

And in the meantime, do as others have suggested and move on. If she's interested, she'll reach out and you can decide if you want to keep playing the waiting-for-a-text game.

Yeah, I never get hung up on a single girl... since there's always more out there. It's just after going out on date after date, and none of them are interested, it starts wearing you down.

I did what you said, so let's see if anything comes of it. Been getting some more emails off OKC anyways, including a chubby redhead aspiring art teacher who gave me her # and an Italian girl who went to Otakon this year. I just don't know why I'm not successful after the first date... I think once I finish moving into my new place, I'm gonna try my hand on Match for a little while.

I also heard from a friend of mine that you should start scheduling the second date towards the end of the first.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 16, 2012, 10:41:21 AM

I actually started getting girls e-mailing me on OKC just because my status was "replies very selectively". It's like they saw me as a challenge. Naturally I didn't reply. :smug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on August 16, 2012, 12:10:14 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 16, 2012, 09:59:44 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on August 15, 2012, 10:44:56 PM
I've been seeing some girl recently who's godawful at communication, so maybe that's why I'm pretty (http://img687.imageshack.us/img687/4328/mannyg.png) about it at the moment. I usually subscribe to what PD said, and I guess this girl *did* text me after we hadn't talked for a couple of weeks after meeting initially. I do think tiesto needs to start looking at more normal girls, but he seems to be doing that. He just can't help getting a stiffy when he sees an OKC profile like that. It's like if I saw a chick writing about loving baseball.

What if she was totally into baseball... but was a die hard Braves fan? I take that back, grudge fucking is awesome. I know what I would do if the roles were reversed, anyway.

I was totally ready to bang some Phillies fan one night but then she left extremely suddenly. I might have felt bad considering she was 19 and very drunk.

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No I wouldn't have.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on August 18, 2012, 12:50:47 AM

Finally got a hold of the girl my grandma is trying to set me up with. Going to grab dinner with her sometime this weekend. Still not sure if this is a date or just a opportunity for her to meet new people, but I'm not going to not pursue her if shes hot

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 18, 2012, 09:39:42 AM

When it rains, it pours :gloomy

The girl who broke my dry streak this year is moving down to Florida.

This girl is very open, sexually. She's the type of girl EviLore thought every European woman was going to be on his trip. You could text "wanna fuck?" and she'd usually come over and vice versa. I remember five years ago, she invited me to have a "classy dinner" with her mom and her sister at her place. So I wore a nice dress shirt and slacks but their idea of classy was short skirts and knee high socks (all of them were looking good too). She was great and a good conversationalist, which is an asset compared to divas and princesses and live.laugh.love<3 types. Which makes it all the more sad to see her go. She finished her masters degree to be a dietitian and after a fruitless nationwide search to find a job, she decided to move to Florida with a cousin to live in nicer weather.

She is leaving behind her 20 year old sister who told this girl that she found me attractive so maybe I could just go to her but I don't feel comfortable doing so yet. I might have to break down and get an OKC account set up or something in the meantime, I don't know...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on August 19, 2012, 12:25:24 PM

went on a coffee date with grandma's girl. getting along great until 45 min in she drops the fact that she has a boyfriend (although he lives about 7 states north). i guess it wasn't a date after all :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 19, 2012, 12:37:00 PM

Quote from: Huff on August 19, 2012, 12:25:24 PM

went on a coffee date with grandma's girl. getting along great until 45 min in she drops the fact that she has a boyfriend (although he lives about 7 states north). i guess it wasn't a date after all :(

ahh shit son.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on August 19, 2012, 12:40:42 PM

still coulda hit that; you failed son

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on August 19, 2012, 12:48:38 PM

still going to invite her out for drinks with my group of friends, well see how it goes. girls usually need a couple drinks before they sleep with me anyway

shes got to have needs if she hasn't seen the bf in months

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on August 19, 2012, 08:28:44 PM

Quote from: Huff on August 19, 2012, 12:48:38 PM

still going to invite her out for drinks with my group of friends, well see how it goes. girls usually need a couple drinks before they sleep with me anyway

shes got to have needs if she hasn't seen the bf in months

homewrecker! :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Inspector Thatcher on August 19, 2012, 09:12:21 PM

Quote from: Huff on August 19, 2012, 12:48:38 PM

still going to invite her out for drinks with my group of friends, well see how it goes. girls usually need a couple drinks before they sleep with me anyway

shes got to have needs if she hasn't seen the bf in months

Yeah, but us girls can be satisfied with a good chocolate truffle. ;)

Anyway, don't be THAT guy. That's a drama bomb in the making. Get her to introduce you to any friends she has in the area. Single ones.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on August 19, 2012, 09:38:55 PM

im the only person she knows in the area. i wasn't going to actively pursue her. got her masters in wildlife preservation. no money in that

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on August 19, 2012, 10:39:35 PM

can we talk about friendly relationships?

nothing like devoting your time to someone only to not be invited to their little party and finding out later on about it and that some other friends who they never talk to went :( horrible feeling of being used

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 20, 2012, 09:21:41 AM

Quote from: Thomas Householmes Lane on August 19, 2012, 10:39:35 PM

can we talk about friendly relationships?

nothing like devoting your time to someone only to not be invited to their little party and finding out later on about it and that some other friends who they never talk to went :( horrible feeling of being used

It's just your winning personality shining through

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on August 20, 2012, 09:26:48 AM

yeah :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 20, 2012, 09:40:58 AM

Quote from: Thomas Householmes Lane on August 19, 2012, 10:39:35 PM

can we talk about friendly relationships?

nothing like devoting your time to someone only to not be invited to their little party and finding out later on about it and that some other friends who they never talk to went :( horrible feeling of being used

That blows, dude. Sounds like you just learned a lesson really. reciprocation is something that's hard to see in friendship. When shit hits the fan you'll know who your friends are though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on August 20, 2012, 09:55:39 AM

Unless you have none in which case - best of luck!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on August 20, 2012, 10:06:30 AM

I hve friends, I actually had the weirdest day of my life yesterday. My two best friends moved away in like 3rd grade and 10th grade. Yesterday they both messaged me within a hour saying they were either ocming up to my house or where there already . It was weird because I never expected to see these guys again and they don't even know each other, I guess god threw me a bone or something.

Then he had to make sure itw as covered in shit with that party thing with other friends :fbm

but thanks for the help needed to let it out

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 21, 2012, 09:06:33 PM

OK, now that's a little weird... I've been talking to this girl from OKC, and she seems very into me. So she asks for my FB (normally I'm hesitant giving out FB before meeting someone but I was just like "ahh whatever")... and then I look around her page. She has pictures of her with a girl I went out with last summer (from OKC)! A girl I didn't really feel I had chemistry with so I never called her. Also after looking at her FB it's obvious she's using older pics for her OKC profile too :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 21, 2012, 09:12:34 PM

Let's just say.

Today? Today was a good day.

On the other hand, she's Muslim (I think?) so I'm not sure how it'll work out but damn, just getting her number is a big success. So beautiful.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 21, 2012, 09:17:10 PM

I was supposed to have lunch with someone during the weekend, but she wound up canceling. I figured meh whatevs but she called me while I was at work today, and wants to set something up for friday. hmm

And tomorrow I'm gonna be cooking dinner with a friend of mine, we'll see what happens

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on August 21, 2012, 11:31:48 PM

yeah, "a friend"

that said, the girl "i'm seeing" at the moment seems so unenthusiastic. i went down on you bitch, come on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on August 22, 2012, 12:00:02 AM

(http://somewhatmanlynerd.com/avatars/bbjesseawkwardavatar.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 22, 2012, 12:05:02 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on August 21, 2012, 11:31:48 PM

that said, the girl "i'm seeing" at the moment seems so unenthusiastic. i went down on you bitch, come on.

Ahahaha

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 22, 2012, 03:14:06 AM

I give you a week.

Edit: It's wednesday? I give you till friday.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 30, 2012, 11:57:17 AM

Going out with a girl from Brazil tonite... I will probably have to force myself not to make a reference to the Sega Master System :P
j/k I know better.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 30, 2012, 12:46:30 PM

Chick who blocked me on FB for some reason, ends up messaging me this week that she wants to go out with me. She said in the past year she has become pregnant and had a kid. Separated with the baby daddy, and that I was right about him and that she wants to start something with me.

???

SMH.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on August 30, 2012, 12:49:46 PM

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 30, 2012, 12:55:04 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice

that said, the girl "i'm seeing" at the moment seems so unenthusiastic. i went down on you bitch, come on.

causation, not correlation

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on August 30, 2012, 01:20:52 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 30, 2012, 12:46:30 PM

Chick who blocked me on FB for some reason, ends up messaging me this week that she wants to go out with me. She said in the past year she has become pregnant and had a kid. Separated with the baby daddy, and that I was right about him and that she wants to start something with me.

???

SMH.

Ahahahahah oh man. That's gold.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 30, 2012, 02:04:01 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 30, 2012, 12:46:30 PM

Chick who blocked me on FB for some reason, ends up messaging me this week that she wants to go out with me. She said in the past year she has become pregnant and had a kid. Separated with the baby daddy, and that I was right about him and that she wants to start something with me.

???

SMH.

black? :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 30, 2012, 02:13:59 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 30, 2012, 12:46:30 PM

Chick who blocked me on FB for some reason, ends up messaging me this week that she wants to go out with me. She said in the past year she has become pregnant and had a kid. Separated with the baby daddy, and that I was right about him and that she wants to start something with me.

???

SMH.

:drudge :drudge :drudge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 30, 2012, 02:14:48 PM

Pics, Himu! Please tell me she's someone from school!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on August 30, 2012, 02:22:57 PM

Sounds like a winner to me. You already have a leg up in the relationship; easy transition to having a leg in, namsayin. I bet her butthole is still plenty tight.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 30, 2012, 04:51:44 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 30, 2012, 02:14:48 PM

Pics, Himu! Please tell me she's someone from school!

(http://i.imgur.com/YIcIV.jpg)

(http://i.imgur.com/ZGeJO.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 30, 2012, 04:52:19 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 30, 2012, 02:04:01 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on August 30, 2012, 12:46:30 PM
Chick who blocked me on FB for some reason, ends up messaging me this week that she wants to go out with me. She said in the past year she has become pregnant and had a kid. Separated with the baby daddy, and that I was right about him and that she wants to start something with me.

???

SMH.

black? :-\

the daddy is black.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 30, 2012, 04:59:31 PM

hit and quit it, son!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 30, 2012, 05:01:10 PM

I have the same thoughts, yo. But those pics are a year old. She still pretty, though. I dunno, I'm open to it, but I just...like, man. Fuck it. The sad part is I told her to ditch the dude and start going to school to do what she wanted. Then she blocked me (now I know why, dude made her do it) and got preggers.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 30, 2012, 05:02:05 PM

She seems easily manipulated. Keep her number in case you ever need 20 bucks or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 30, 2012, 05:03:11 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on August 30, 2012, 05:01:33 PM

She looks like an elegant young lady.

My type. 8)

Too bad what happened though!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 30, 2012, 07:01:31 PM

Dating someone that's going well. Will know how serious soon. Might be a keeper. She might be pretty cool, I need to see her some more.

Still like a girl

spoiler (click to show/hide)

really like

[close]

where things are unsettled. It's a long haul, and I'm not used to taking things slow; I've never done "friends first" really and I don't know how to do it without going crazy. I'm also not used to girls who aren't visibly interested in me and who are hard to read. Also not good at people with tons of problems even though I'm always attracted to them.

Met a cool girl at a pharmacy. Just out of pharmacy school. Really cute and we flirted a bit. Might stop in and ask her on a date if the first person I mentioned doesn't go anywhere.

If end up in a good relationship with the first girl, it should take my mind off the second because I think that one is still a long shot. If I had to be realistic I would say 40/60 chance of it ever working out. But it'd be awesome if it did.

Otherwise girls keep swarming to my online profile on OKC. If I was willing to spend the time to message constantly every night I'd have a lot of first dates. Getting first dates has become a lot easier as I got my stuff together, built self-confidence, dressed better. I still struggle to get 2nd dates most of the time though because I never show any sexual/romantic interest in the first date and am just platonic fun guy who treats the date like taking an old friend out for a fun time. Sometimes girls really dig that and are into me and then I get 2nd dates, otherwise they fade away after that. Getting better at first dates would improve my dating a lot.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 31, 2012, 12:54:30 AM

Bros. BROS! I'm in a quandary here.

So, there's this girl that I've known and been friends with for like 7 years. We've been kind of flirty before but nothing's ever come of it- we've even passed out in the same bed before and not done anything toooooo weird. The past couple of times we've communicated though, there's been some weird "I want to fuck you vibes" from both sides, and a couple months ago I kind of addressed it by telling her, hey, we're both in dry spells and don't totally hate each other, let's do like the animals do on the Discovery Channel. Not by directly quoting Bloodhound Gang, because I'm classy and shit. But I didn't really leave any doubts as to what I was talking about. She kind of sideways said no thanks, but it wasn't weird. We've communicated and seen each other since and everything's been the same.

So, tonight she updates her fb status with "Chillin' without pants" at location My Bed, which was funny because it had a location map with a directions button and shit. I was all, "Cool, on my way" and she laughed and then texted me. We go back and forth for a while and I kind of bring up how terrible it is that she won't have meaningless sex with me but I've resigned myself to the fact. We jabber back and forth for a bit, she says goodnight, then IMMEDIATELY posts this crap sandwich of a status: "Is to call someone out on playing games still part of the game? Or once it's acknowledged it ceases to be? Thoughts?"

Yeah yeah yeah, social media is fucking WEIRD and makes trying to have sex FUCKING WEIRDER. I can only guess she's talking about me, but a) I don't think I've ever really engaged in playing games with this girl, I've been upfront about wanting to have dirty monkey sex with her b) which she turned down so c) WTF IS THIS ON ABOUT? EH?

Sorry for venting my spleen and shit. She's probably relegated me to the "useful idiot whose attention I will encourage because it gives me affirmation, but NO SEXYTIME FOR YOU!" section of the waiting room. Just annoying when I don't think I've really played games with her, trust me if I had been it would have been obvious. :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 31, 2012, 01:08:10 AM

Maybe some other dude contacted her as well, and her comment was in response to him? Everyone must have saw her post and the map, so perhaps she got some other texts from some dude in a relationship or something like that.

Either that OR she thinks you just want to hit and quit, which I guess is equal to playing games. Maybe she wants more, and you might be doing a disfavor by approaching her from the sexual perspective. I'd play it cool breh, see where her head is at but not be forward at all. Then eventually pull the trigger and tell her how you feel, beyond sexually.

Dealing with female friends can be a pain, especially when you've known them for awhile. I'm still struggling with that shit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 31, 2012, 01:25:02 AM

The thing is though, we're both currently in a "I don't want to get tied down" phase- she's outright SAID she's not looking for a relationship, and until I'm done with school, employed somewhere decent and no longer making shit money I don't really want anything serious either. She's ALSO said she just wants someone to have some dirty funtime with, but obviously I've been misconstruing what I thought were "hey come fuck me" hints as "I wish someone not named you would come fuck me" except I'm like 99% sure that was aimed at me. Whaaaaatever. I don't have the time or energy to waste on someone that is either a) conflicted over what they want b) fucking around with my head or c) a lunatic.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 31, 2012, 03:37:51 AM

Word, people with apparent issues are not worth it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pickle on September 02, 2012, 12:09:39 AM

The situation is a lot more nuanced than I initially thought. Unresolved feelings for each other on both sides. And in retrospect I don't feel comfortable sharing my personal life with a video game forum. Oops.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 02, 2012, 12:27:17 AM

It will get better.

Go out and meet some new girls. Go on some dates. Join some clubs that have female members and get to know new girls. It takes a while. Especially because until you meet another someone awesome, everyone else will just seem like a lesser version of her and you'll still think about her all the time. But eventually you do meet other really great girls, you fall for them, and then you are ok.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pickle on September 02, 2012, 12:33:45 AM

I suppose. The thing is, apparently I'm attractive enough, but I'm really shy. Meeting girls is something I'm really not good at.

Thanks for saying it gets better :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on September 02, 2012, 01:18:21 AM

do you two still live together? if so move out asap; no good at all can ever come of that. you cant move on til youve got some distance.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 02, 2012, 01:21:39 AM

Yeah, that too.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pickle on September 02, 2012, 01:45:28 AM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 02, 2012, 01:48:00 AM

Definitely find another place to live. As soon as possible.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 02, 2012, 02:23:53 AM

Yeah, move out.

Also, if she knows how you feel, and she's bringing lovers home, she's not your best friend.

It's time to move on, and that hurts, but you've got to be nice to yourself, because she's clearly not going to.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on September 02, 2012, 02:28:28 AM

Don't worry pickle, I still think about my fat bitch of an ex-girlfriend too! We lived together for 3 years but thankfully have cut all contact out between us since she broke up with me 3 months ago. You'll get better, trust me. We're in the same boat (except for the living situation, GET OUT).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lordmaji on September 02, 2012, 04:25:42 AM

For once... I can say I'm amazingly happy. I don't mean to rub it in on ya'll. Sorry for bragging if anyone thinks I am...

But god damn, Nisha is fucking amazing. This girl is the dopest chick on the planet. Great sense of humor, funny as fuck, gets shit done, loves me beyond words, is the most beautiful woman I've ever met! This girl is fucking amazing son! Proper, yet can get hood in a second... This chick is built after my own heart! Took me 30 years of my life to meet a dope ass chick like this...

The stars are in my favor... Damn shame the end of the world is 12/21/2012... Hell, I might as well go out w/ a fucking bang son! :D

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on September 02, 2012, 06:53:06 AM

:heart a happy maji warms my heart

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 03, 2012, 12:45:28 AM

Quote from: lordmaji on September 02, 2012, 04:25:42 AM

For once... I can say I'm amazingly happy. I don't mean to rub it in on ya'll. Sorry for bragging if anyone thinks I am...

But god damn, Nisha is fucking amazing. This girl is the dopest chick on the planet. Great sense of humor, funny as fuck, gets shit done, loves me beyond words, is the most beautiful woman I've ever met! This girl is fucking amazing son! Proper, yet can get hood in a second... This chick is built after my own heart! Took me 30 years of my life to meet a dope ass chick like this...

The stars are in my favor... Damn shame the end of the world is 12/21/2012... Hell, I might as well go out w/ a fucking bang son! :D

hate you. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on September 04, 2012, 10:57:39 AM

Quote from: lordmaji on September 02, 2012, 04:25:42 AM

For once... I can say I'm amazingly happy. I don't mean to rub it in on ya'll. Sorry for bragging if anyone thinks I am...

But god damn, Nisha is fucking amazing. This girl is the dopest chick on the planet. Great sense of humor, funny as fuck, gets shit done, loves me beyond words, is the most beautiful woman I've ever met! This girl is fucking amazing son! Proper, yet can get hood in a second... This chick is built after my own heart! Took me 30 years of my life to meet a dope ass chick like this...

The stars are in my favor... Damn shame the end of the world is 12/21/2012... Hell, I might as well go out w/ a fucking bang son! :D

Considering what you had to go through, this is great news.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on September 04, 2012, 07:56:13 PM

I saw my ex for the first time in about a year. She was wondering why I have been living in Austin for 2 months without calling her. :lol

Still hurts a little though. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 04, 2012, 08:04:17 PM

Had a really good date type thing Sunday night. Which, uh, brings up... how long do you guys think is a good time to wait to get back to her about doing something else? I was thinking tomorrow or Thursday and just ask her if she's got any plans for the weekend. I really like this chick- she's funny as fuck and not afraid to say "c*nt" in public, which is awesome.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on September 04, 2012, 08:09:49 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on September 04, 2012, 08:04:17 PM

Had a really good date type thing Sunday night. Which, uh, brings up... how long do you guys think is a good time to wait to get back to her about doing something else? I was thinking tomorrow or Thursday and just ask her if she's got any plans for the weekend. I really like this chick- she's funny as fuck and not afraid to say "c*nt" in public, which is awesome.

When I was doing the OKC thing, I always texted the next day saying something like "I had a really great time last night!" and see what they say. If it feels good then say something like "I'd love to hang out/whatever again would you like to do xx this coming weekend?"

Usually if a chick is into you than she be really happy about it and confirm.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 04, 2012, 08:17:47 PM

Sounds about right.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lordmaji on September 05, 2012, 12:50:19 AM

Thanks brothers. it's appreciated. :)

I love ya'll :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 06, 2012, 03:44:36 AM

I'm in a weird place.

I think I know what I need to do. Will report back here in a few days with final report of who I'm seeing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 06, 2012, 06:54:20 PM

There is this girl at work who is a babe. She's pretty cute but has the perfect body. However, my company rules state that someone from management cannot date someone who isn't in management in the company. Something about being in a position of exploitation vs. being exploited. However I had a great conversation with her and she seemed really receptive, giving out various signals and what not.

However I'm not a fucking idiot who will break the rules and get shitcanned if (when) I get caught. Also I never date anyone from work but omg, this girl is fucking me up for some reason. This is what it must feel like to be a gaffer. Man, to live like this for so long, I'd be outraged at everything too!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on September 06, 2012, 07:15:19 PM

line up another job and take the plunge :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 06, 2012, 07:22:53 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on September 06, 2012, 06:54:20 PM

There is this girl at work who is a babe. She's pretty cute but has the perfect body. However, my company rules state that someone from management cannot date someone who isn't in management in the company. Something about being in a position of exploitation vs. being exploited. However I had a great conversation with her and she seemed really receptive, giving out various signals and what not.

However I'm not a fucking idiot who will break the rules and get shitcanned if (when) I get caught. Also I never date anyone from work but omg, this girl is fucking me up for some reason. This is what it must feel like to be a gaffer. Man, to live like this for so long, I'd be outraged at everything too!

She's in management, or you?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 06, 2012, 07:27:46 PM

Me. I'm a manager and she is an analyst.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 06, 2012, 07:34:49 PM

Sounds like she wants to ANALYZE YER CAWK

boom my work here is done

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 06, 2012, 07:58:37 PM

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on September 06, 2012, 08:00:55 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on September 06, 2012, 07:15:19 PM

line up another job and take the plunge :)

or alternately she could get promoted into management. hmm ...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on September 06, 2012, 08:34:39 PM

or have casual sex on a staircase

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 06, 2012, 09:15:17 PM

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on September 06, 2012, 08:00:55 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on September 06, 2012, 07:15:19 PM
line up another job and take the plunge :)

or alternately she could get knocked up to management. hmm ...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 07, 2012, 12:20:40 AM

So I had a first date scheduled for 3 PM but about 14 hours before, the girl and I start chatting. We realize that we only live 50 yards away from each other, things get very flirty, and there was a sleep-over. We just made out naked and had oral sex for like 17 hours, we didn't have actual intercourse because she was still a virgin (as am I) and she didn't want to go that far yet.

Anyways, she's only in the area for another week or so. We both wrote this off as a "friends with benefits" type of thing since there's no way a relationship would work and only plan to be pen pals or whatever later. She was pretty cool but yeah, this definitely makes the most sense.

What I'm wondering is if it is weird to go out on a date I had already scheduled with another girl for tomorrow? That second girl actually texted me tonight saying she was nearby and we could meet up right then and I said I was too busy right now, but still down to meet tomorrow. I don't want to smang every girl I can find but I do feel like there's no problem as that first girl is still hanging out with another guy she was dating.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on September 07, 2012, 12:29:59 AM

you're in the clear bro

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 07, 2012, 02:09:35 AM

Girl from last semester wants to start something again. I have early class tomorrow and I'm horny. Def gunna fuck her

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 07, 2012, 03:32:24 AM

Had a fantastic night with the girl I've been continually having fantastic nights with for the last 10 weeks straight. At the end finally had the talk with her and got the usual "you're funny, you're good looking, you're fun to be around, you're a great guy, every girl would want to be with you, there must be something wrong with me because I just don't feel anything romantic towards you even though I enjoy every minute I spend with you" rejection speech that I've gotten word for word from girls that really got to know me and were close to me in the past who I liked.

Was expecting this as she was hard to read and I figured I only had about a 1/3 chance that she was interested. Still sucks though. But at least got some closure and can move on.

Meanwhile dating this other girl who likes me, and I like her a little, we don't even have 1/100th the amount of fun and laughs together as I do with the girl above, but we get along and the sex is alright. Might get into a relationship with her. I just really don't feel like starting from square one again after the last 3 months of my life has been relationship drama which is a huge distraction and emotional rollercoaster for an ENFP like myself.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 07, 2012, 03:45:58 AM

Kind of a random rant, but one of the things I hate about dating is:

If I want a girl to like me romantically and would like to end up in a relationship with her, right from the start I'm treating it like a date and only showing her the side I want her to see. Not being fully open. This works and the problem is that once in a relationship I still don't open up and have fun like I would with a good friend and we never click or connect really. But we sleep together and it's ok and then we break up. I'm never really happy in these.

Otoh, if I meet a girl that I do click with and we hang out all the time and just have amazing fun, fully open as myself, we have such good times, always joking and laughing and everything is great and we are both so happy and then when I try to turn it into a relationship the girl is never interested in romance. Basically friendzone'd situations. I'm never really happy in these.

So I can have relationships if I want, but they're not particularly fun and I'm not happy in them. Or I can have great friendships that are super fun, but they aren't relationships, which isn't super satisfying in the end. Been dating regularly and in relationships for about 5 years now and still haven't been in a single one where I click and get along great with a girl that I also date. Just never works out that way, and so I'm never really happy in dating except when I'm single and taking a break from women completely for a few months to concentrate on myself.

For once I'd just like to meet a girl that I get along great with like a best friend and we have so much fun together and she likes me romantically and we end up dating.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on September 07, 2012, 04:15:08 AM

The solution is pretty simple, start off as in the first scenario, then when things start to settle give her the full Bepbo.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 07, 2012, 10:38:34 AM

Quote from: Rebiak on September 07, 2012, 04:15:08 AM

The solution is pretty simple, start off as in the first scenario, then when things start to settle give her the full Bepbo.

This.

IME, being the fun and overly open guy with women at the beginning of a relationship usually leads to "he's so silly. he's like a big teddy bear" type shit. And that's the friend zone mentality. I have my theories on why but in the end it doesn't fucking matter.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 07, 2012, 05:10:37 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on September 06, 2012, 07:34:49 PM

Sounds like she wants to ANALYZE YER CAWK

boom my work here is done

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 07, 2012, 11:17:05 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on September 07, 2012, 10:38:34 AM

Quote from: Rebiak on September 07, 2012, 04:15:08 AM
The solution is pretty simple, start off as in the first scenario, then when things start to settle give her the full Bepbo.
This.

IME, being the fun and overly open guy with women at the beginning of a relationship usually leads to "he's so silly. he's like a big teddy bear" type shit. And that's the friend zone mentality. I have my theories on why but in the end it doesn't fucking matter.

Yeah, you gotta keep a little edge in your early interactions or you get relegated to no nookie town pretty quick. The girl I'm kind of in the early stages with now, I'll make kind of inappropriate jokes occasionally with, and it's great because she'll usually fire back with something equally messed up. In my opinion, you can't go wrong with a woman who likes to say "c*nt" a lot. THIS COULD BE SERIOUS, GUYS.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on September 07, 2012, 11:55:33 PM

:drudge OLD MAN IN LOVE :drudge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 08, 2012, 01:18:06 AM

What can I say, I have a thing for ladies with fat asses, big tits, tattoos, and foul mouths.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on September 08, 2012, 04:23:29 AM

Isn't C"O"G still like 30 or something?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 08, 2012, 09:05:24 AM

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on September 08, 2012, 04:23:29 AM

Isn't C"O"G still like 30 or something?

Well, I haven't gotten any younger if that's what you're wondering.

Also, I'm sad to report that people on the other side of 30 still like fucking and whatnot. Sorry Tennin. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on September 08, 2012, 10:44:03 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on September 08, 2012, 01:18:06 AM

What can I say, I have a thing for ladies with fat asses, big tits, tattoos, and foul mouths.

(http://i.imgur.com/GChiJ.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 09, 2012, 08:13:19 AM

OMG you want to hear some awkward stories?

A few days ago I mentioned that I had a weird hook up with this one girl where we had a sleep over like 12 hours before the scheduled date. We did everything but full intercourse because she said she wasn't ready to lose her virginity yet. We both signed it off as a friends with benefits type of thing since she has to move back southern california in a week so it wouldn't be possible to have a relationship. But we did fall asleep together cuddling that night and then on Friday night we did the same thing, but after we showered, I was upfront with her that it feels too weird to cuddle and do all that too knowing that there's a very real limit to the relationship. We went outside for a smoke and walked and talked for a couple of hours at the beach. I made sure that my feelings about the potential for this to get too messed up was completely clear. It was very honest and relieving to open up like that.

Then last night she sent me this link:

http://www.themodernman.com/dating/sex/sex_talk_when_no_means_yes.html

And I just went in a back-and-forth texting tirade about how I don't ever play games and wouldn't be subtle about what I do and don't want, especially when we have a very soon end date for the physical stuff, and how I would expect the same of her. If she actually doesn't want to do certain things, then that's completely fine. But don't think that I'll ever assume that a no means yes. She kept going on about she just wasn't sure and yadda yadda. I said we should each take a couple days to digest this before talking again on Monday but it is probably best if we're just friends from now on.

Then there's this other girl I went on a first date with. She was really cool and we just talked for 4-5 hours. We stopped by her house to drop off some stuff and I met one of her roommates and he was pretty cool, we got along well. Later on, when this girl hears about how I like to do karaoke, she mentions a roommate of her's Jessica who does a really good Etta James cover.

She said the full name of her roommate. Her full name is the exact same as her OKC username. I immediately recognized this girl of course since I had actually messaged that roommate a week ago and we had a couple messages back and forth but then she stopped replying because I guess she lost interest. Near the end of the date, this girl who I'm having a pretty awesome time with invites me to that roommate's birthday party and combination housewarming that was in a few hours. I said sorry, but I was too busy that night. I mean, I can't imagine how awkward it would be if she recognizes me.

I guess I'll have to just cross that bridge when I get to it.

Anyways, on the bright side there's this other girl I went on two dates with about a month ago. She said that she didn't want to go on a third date until I moved back to santa cruz though. I said it wasn't that long of a drive but she didn't beat around the bush at all, she said she was only looking for fuck buddies. Hence why it is important that I have my own place...

I said that she should know that I'm actually still a virgin but she was actually okay with that. I sent her a text after a month of not talking with her saying I'm in the area if she wants to do anything again, but I'll understand if I'm too inexperienced for her. But she said not to worry about it, and we're going to meet up again this week.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 12, 2012, 12:37:43 AM

Quote from: am nintenho on September 09, 2012, 08:13:19 AM

OMG you want to hear some awkward stories?

nope
(http://i950.photobucket.com/albums/ad346/rattlehead666/didntreadlol_japeclipsewatchers.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on September 12, 2012, 12:39:32 AM

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 12, 2012, 01:18:50 AM

I was waiting three days for that you homo. And now she's begging to come over to play cards while I'm half drunk. Time to sack up and say no means no.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on September 12, 2012, 09:52:52 PM

So I met up for coffee with my ex. I hadn't really seen or talked with her for about a year. This was someone I loved with all my heart. After talking with her it was apparent how different we had become. Looking back I'm extremely grateful for the time we spent together and I know I'm a better person because of it, but I'm also grateful things ended when they did. The whole time she was talking she was trying to brag but it all came across as kind of sad. I just smiled and tried to enjoy just being next to someone who was, at one time, so important in my life. She tried to pry a little into my life and current relationship but I didn't really give her any details because I wasn't there to gloat. There were times I would look at her smile and wish that she never break up with me and things could go back to the way they were but it was incredibly apparent that she was not the same person.

In the end, everything worked out for the best (at least for me) and I am extremely grateful for having shared my life with her but also for being able to move on. I can look back at where I was a year ago, stuck in a dead end job, overweight and just so unhappy, versus where I am at now, back in school, interviewing with the top accounting firms, and in the best shape of my life, and see how positive this past year has been for me. Something to think about for anyone going through a break up. It gets better and in more ways than you can imagine.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on September 12, 2012, 10:39:32 PM

Nice man. Doin' thangs :D

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lordmaji on September 14, 2012, 12:18:54 AM

Well... I've decided I'm moving in with Nisha. I pretty much already was, I stay here 99% of the time. But now, I'm moving all my stuff in here. It's always scary to do that after all the bs I went through in the past. But I can't take any of that out on Nisha, she's an amazing woman.

So yeah Bory's, I'm getting serious with this girl, she's head over heels for me and we have a great all around relationship. It's pretty rad, even though I'm probably forever going to be cautious. :-*

spoiler (click to show/hide)

*waits for the "it's a trap" pic*

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 14, 2012, 12:23:15 AM

grats bro :bow

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on September 14, 2012, 12:30:20 AM

congrats man!!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on September 14, 2012, 02:47:39 AM

That's great maji! Congratulations on finding the one for you!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 14, 2012, 09:59:59 AM

Congrats, Maji. :) :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 14, 2012, 10:38:39 AM

Congratulations!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 23, 2012, 10:14:44 PM

If a really funny, attractive cute lady messages you like EIGHT TIMES in a day carrying on a conversation over OKC that's a good thing, right?

OH WAIT, NO IT'S NOT BECAUSE SHE LIVES IN FUCKING WISCONSIN FFFFFFFFFFFFFUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on September 24, 2012, 12:18:05 AM

skype sex

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on September 24, 2012, 12:30:55 AM

Quote from: Rebiak on September 07, 2012, 04:15:08 AM

The solution is pretty simple, start off as in the first scenario, then when things start to settle give her the full Bepbo.

Dis is da truff. Don't reveal your goofy side ENTIRELY until you're out of the woods, that's usually between 5-8 penetrations with positive feedback.

Edit: haha, I've edited this way too much to adjust the numbers, I'm such a goofball :wub

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 24, 2012, 03:02:50 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on September 23, 2012, 10:14:44 PM

If a really funny, attractive cute lady messages you like EIGHT TIMES in a day carrying on a conversation over OKC that's a good thing, right?

OH WAIT, NO IT'S NOT BECAUSE SHE LIVES IN FUCKING WISCONSIN FFFFFFFFFFFFFUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU

eh, just move to IM chat and become pen pals with her. There's been a couple girls on okc who lived very far away but sent me a message and now I'm just friends with them and talk to them all the time. You might actually see each other every few months and then who knows what will happen then?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 28, 2012, 10:12:33 AM

got myself into another fuck buddy relationship with the same girl from last year. i really hope i get at least a couple weeks of sex before she goes crazy psycho again

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on September 28, 2012, 11:15:39 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on September 23, 2012, 10:14:44 PM

If a really funny, attractive cute lady messages you like EIGHT TIMES in a day carrying on a conversation over OKC that's a good thing, right?

OH WAIT, NO IT'S NOT BECAUSE SHE LIVES IN FUCKING WISCONSIN FFFFFFFFFFFFFUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU

Might as well show your meathog. Make sure you trim first for maximum cleanliness. Worst she can do is say no.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 29, 2012, 01:59:26 PM

I've been single for a while now. Lonely.. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 29, 2012, 02:10:01 PM

Good

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on September 29, 2012, 03:09:48 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on September 29, 2012, 02:10:01 PM

Good

whaat? :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: DCharlieJP on September 29, 2012, 06:05:32 PM

Quote

So I met up for coffee with my ex. I hadn't really seen or talked with her for about a year. This was someone I loved with all my heart. After talking with her it was apparent how different we had become

yeah, when i split from my fiancee (someone i'd been friends with since i was 11, someone i dated for 7 years) i met up with her a couple of times within a year before we cut communication and i was stunned at how quickly we both changed. It's a weird feeling.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Spurgeon on September 30, 2012, 01:32:12 AM

For how long should one feel guilty for dumping somebody?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 30, 2012, 01:40:14 AM

Quote from: Spurgeon on September 30, 2012, 01:32:12 AM

For how long should one feel guilty for dumping somebody?

It really depends on a lot of different factors... how hot she is now compared to how hot she was then, how many of your friends she's fucked, etc. Mathematically, it can probably be expressed as the equation (CH-PH) * FB = GF, where CH = Curent Hotness, PH = Previous Hotness, FB = # of friends banged and GF = your guilt factor.

No wait, sorry. That's the equation to solve for JEALOUSY FACTOR. Solving for guilt involves how fucked up she is and other boring shit, who cares.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Spurgeon on September 30, 2012, 04:00:54 PM

Ya, she lives on the other side of the planet now and haven't spoken with her since breaking up, so I have no idea what she's up to. I guess I feel guilty because this was the first person I dumped that wasn't actually cheating on me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on October 01, 2012, 12:06:14 AM

I just want some big ol titties in my face :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on October 01, 2012, 10:49:41 AM

Pretty sure that this girl that I've been trying to talk to and seemed to be getting along with well passed me off to her friend. Or maybe she just decided to stop talking to me for whatever reason and now her friend has decided to move in. I shouldn't be mad/annoyed since nothing ever actually got to happen between us AND this friend has a ridiculous body, but I really liked girl #1's personality and felt like we got along well the few times we got to see each other. Plus she's blasian (didn't realize this when I first met her).

Smh, I'll get over it eventually. Just needed to get that off my chest.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 01, 2012, 11:23:52 AM

her friend moved in with you?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on October 01, 2012, 11:48:22 AM

Lol no, I meant that she's been trying to get closer to me recently. Even got my number from a mutual friend a few days ago.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 01, 2012, 11:54:13 AM

Is she white?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on October 01, 2012, 12:05:58 PM

She's lightskinned black, but mixed with a bunch of other shit. I can't remember what exactly. The first girl is chinese/black and also Jamaican like me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on October 01, 2012, 03:26:33 PM

Yeah, might as well not make this situation a complete loss.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on October 01, 2012, 07:26:24 PM

Quote from: Beezy on October 01, 2012, 03:26:33 PM

Yeah, might as well not make this situation a complete loss.

all girls want to fuck you, beezy. YOU are the DECIDER

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on October 01, 2012, 07:53:42 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on October 01, 2012, 07:26:24 PM

Quote from: Beezy on October 01, 2012, 03:26:33 PM
Yeah, might as well not make this situation a complete loss.

all girls want to fuck you, beezy. YOU are the DECIDER

Except the ones I choose to pursue it seems. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 01, 2012, 08:13:48 PM

Story of everyone's life Beezy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2012, 05:11:24 PM

FUCKING Finally! :hyper

I'm gettin some this Friday. :omg

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on October 03, 2012, 05:47:12 PM

countin dem chickens a little early aren't we??

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 03, 2012, 05:49:13 PM

got a chinese chick's number
(http://tinyurl.com/9sno43a)
doubt I'll call though. I'll let her call me. Not a fan of the "ohhh yea...uhh well I'm gonna be busy this weekend, maybe another time?" game.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2012, 06:00:45 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on October 03, 2012, 05:47:12 PM

countin dem chickens a little early aren't we??

Maybe. :(

I'll be cautiously optimistic though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on October 03, 2012, 06:14:13 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 03, 2012, 05:49:13 PM

(http://tinyurl.com/9sno43a)
doubt I'll call though. I'll let her call me. Not a fan of the "ohhh yea...uhh well I'm gonna be busy this weekend, maybe another time?" game.

the gif and following sentence do not match correctly

you want something, go get it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on October 03, 2012, 06:15:14 PM

Quote from: Atramental on October 03, 2012, 06:00:45 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on October 03, 2012, 05:47:12 PM
countin dem chickens a little early aren't we??
Maybe. :(

I'll be cautiously optimistic though.

Don't let Barry Egan bust your balls. I know for a fact that prostitutes never cancel reservations.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on October 03, 2012, 07:07:57 PM

Quote from: Positive Touch on October 03, 2012, 06:14:13 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 03, 2012, 05:49:13 PM
(http://tinyurl.com/9sno43a)
doubt I'll call though. I'll let her call me. Not a fan of the "ohhh yea...uhh well I'm gonna be busy this weekend, maybe another time?" game.

the gif and following sentence do not match correctly

you want something, go get it

yep

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 03, 2012, 07:26:03 PM

screw you guys

She'll call me, I'm pretty sure :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on October 03, 2012, 08:20:46 PM

Quote from: Atramental on October 03, 2012, 06:00:45 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on October 03, 2012, 05:47:12 PM
countin dem chickens a little early aren't we??
Maybe. :(

I'll be cautiously optimistic though.

what did she say?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2012, 08:39:15 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on October 03, 2012, 08:20:46 PM

Quote from: Atramental on October 03, 2012, 06:00:45 PM
Quote from: Barry Egan on October 03, 2012, 05:47:12 PM
countin dem chickens a little early aren't we??
Maybe. :(

I'll be cautiously optimistic though.

what did she say?

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=42816988&postcount=20536

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on October 03, 2012, 08:43:31 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on October 03, 2012, 08:20:46 PM

Quote from: Atramental on October 03, 2012, 06:00:45 PM
Quote from: Barry Egan on October 03, 2012, 05:47:12 PM
countin dem chickens a little early aren't we??
Maybe. :(

I'll be cautiously optimistic though.

what did she say?

maybe he just knows where she'll be on friday and has the roofie ready

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on October 03, 2012, 08:44:59 PM

what happens to the bet if shes the one that ends up penetrating you?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2012, 08:47:24 PM

Quote from: Huff on October 03, 2012, 08:44:59 PM

what happens to the bet if shes the one that ends up penetrating you?

It counts.

Hopefully it doesn't come to that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 03, 2012, 08:56:38 PM

I had a case of the disappearing not-quite-gf-but-person-you-are-seeing-seriously.

We dated for a few weeks, seemed more serious than casual, figured we'd be a couple in another date or two when she went on a trip she had planned out of the country. That was almost a month ago and haven't heard from her since! At this point I'm just moving on figuring that was that. Second time in my life I've felt used. I held off dating anyone else in the past month thinking it was the right thing; time to move on. Life be crazy! Or at least all the girls I meet be crazy ones. Well, most of them; there's some cool people in there but I usually don't date them (and not for lack of trying!)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on October 03, 2012, 09:07:28 PM

Quote from: Atramental on October 03, 2012, 08:39:15 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on October 03, 2012, 08:20:46 PM
Quote from: Atramental on October 03, 2012, 06:00:45 PM
Quote from: Barry Egan on October 03, 2012, 05:47:12 PM
countin dem chickens a little early aren't we??
Maybe. :(
I'll be cautiously optimistic though.
what did she say?
http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=42816988&postcount=20536

well carry a condom and low expectations.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2012, 09:13:40 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on October 03, 2012, 09:07:28 PM

well carry a condom and low expectations.

Will do.

And having low expectations is my modus operandi.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 03, 2012, 11:17:22 PM

I think I might be joining up with Match again after I'm fully unpacked (so perhaps around November). OKC ain't going too hot. Some girls are emailing me constantly but I'm not really attracted to them and they live all the way in the city. I'm not gonna go travel 1+ hours to meet a girl who I'm not that into, ya know? :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on October 04, 2012, 12:09:36 AM

:lol

Seriously PD, you should call. If you get "maybe another time", just pick another date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 04, 2012, 12:26:34 AM

Quote from: The Business on October 04, 2012, 12:02:36 AM

(http://i.imgur.com/mZwZ6.png)

well that was my first laugh out loud moment of the week. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on October 04, 2012, 12:26:44 AM

So this girl for like the 3rd time cancelled plans for stupid reasons.. I just looked her right in her peep holes and *looks around* I says biiiiiiiiitch I'm looking elsewhere!

I'm not tying myself down to one girl right now. I'm gonna mass date whoever i want!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on October 04, 2012, 09:07:39 AM

Quote from: The Business on October 04, 2012, 12:02:36 AM

(http://i.imgur.com/mZwZ6.png)

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on October 04, 2012, 11:00:21 AM

maurice what in the fuck is that on top of your head breh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 04, 2012, 11:09:47 AM

Looks like a CVS bag

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 04, 2012, 11:54:30 AM

It's a CVS bag!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on October 04, 2012, 11:54:58 AM

...why?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on October 04, 2012, 11:57:31 AM

Saved to bore archive. Forever ingrained in the halls of embarassment history.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 04, 2012, 12:01:30 PM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on October 04, 2012, 11:54:58 AM

...why?

My cousins wouldn't let me rest basically, and begged me to take a picture with a bag on my head. So there

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bud on October 04, 2012, 01:09:01 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 03, 2012, 05:49:13 PM

got a chinese chick's number
(http://tinyurl.com/9sno43a)
doubt I'll call though. I'll let her call me. Not a fan of the "ohhh yea...uhh well I'm gonna be busy this weekend, maybe another time?" game.

i don't understand.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 04, 2012, 01:16:56 PM

I was moreso impressed by my ability to get an Asian woman's number. That shit rarely happens because they tend to either mess with white dudes or fellow Asian dudes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bud on October 04, 2012, 01:22:31 PM

did you give her your number by calling her right after she gave you hers?

i'm curious about the context.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 04, 2012, 02:15:04 PM

She's a regular Chinese American. We ran into each other at the library and wound up having to share a study table, and I made her laugh a few times. Then later that day I saw her again at the library, this time with her friends. She asked for my number and I was shocked, I gave it and she called it (easiest way to transfer numbers obviously)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 04, 2012, 07:30:24 PM

This should be completely obvious, but SHE WANTS THE DARK MEAT, MANG

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on October 04, 2012, 09:01:45 PM

That's a pretty common grad school problem. Almost every attractive girl in my class in married or engaged. And of course the amount of single friends they have is next to none

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 04, 2012, 10:23:07 PM

So I was at a luncheon at work today and sat next to a girl I never saw before... a bit shorter with a few curves, short brooklyn-vegan-esque-chick-style brown hair, cute face. Then I find out she went to MIT and I'm thinking... smart and cute oh wow... but then she mentions to someone else that she just got married 2 weeks ago. :gloomy

Seems any girl who is even remotely a catch on this godforsaken island either leave for greener pastures, or gets snapped right up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 15, 2012, 04:06:54 AM

I'm gonna go back on okc. I kind of swore it off while I was in a dating relationship and was meeting a lot of people through clubs and stuff (and still am), but no real leads or anything and with career stuff being a little time-intensive and stressful lately it'd be nice to have a gf to go do date things in the evening to unwind and have fun. Not even necessarily to have a relationship, just having fun dates would be nice. Been a month or two since I've been on a date now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on October 15, 2012, 03:56:40 PM

here have a laff at my expense

[3:31:26 PM] Jaime Lublin: Hi
[3:31:37 PM] Thomas Kirk: yo
[3:31:48 PM] Jaime Lublin: What's up
[3:32:01 PM] Thomas Kirk: not much, how about you?
[3:32:09 PM] Jaime Lublin: Nm
[3:32:21 PM] Jaime Lublin: So how's college?
[3:32:46 PM] Thomas Kirk: it's alright! you know, the same shite over and over! hah! How about you what are you up to?
[3:38:08 PM] Jaime Lublin: Nm and tired
[3:38:19 PM] Jaime Lublin: I think your cute
[3:39:09 PM] Thomas Kirk: oh thanks! sorry but have we met before?
[3:39:18 PM] Jaime Lublin: No
[3:39:31 PM] Jaime Lublin: I heard about u from heather phillips
[3:39:39 PM] Thomas Kirk: whose that
[3:39:43 PM] Jaime Lublin: I went to wlw though
[3:39:55 PM] Jaime Lublin: And I graduated from there in 2010
[3:40:01 PM] Jaime Lublin: And I'm 21 years old
[3:40:06 PM] Jaime Lublin: My name is jaime
[3:40:11 PM] Jaime Lublin: Im a female
[3:40:25 PM] Jaime Lublin: I love music and basketball
[3:40:28 PM] Thomas Kirk: Hi Jaime! I think uh you might have me confused for someone else, I don't know what WLW is
[3:40:59 PM] Jaime Lublin: Did u go to walled lake northern?
[3:41:09 PM] Thomas Kirk: no no no, I live in New Hampshire haha
[3:41:20 PM] Jaime Lublin: Oh I'm sorry bye
[3:41:27 PM] Thomas Kirk: haha no problem bye

Thomas Kirk is my skype name

http://www.facebook.com/kirk.thomas.902

thats who she thought i was :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 15, 2012, 04:18:48 PM

You should have asked to rub your junk on her hand towels.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on October 15, 2012, 06:05:08 PM

i checked to see if she was hot first, but she was quite ugly :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on October 15, 2012, 06:08:17 PM

Past few months I've discovered that I've completely lost all capability of detecting interest. Did some dating and that went nowhere cause she was pretty far away and I didn't have the time to drive to do stuff every other day. Oh well- maybe something else will happen.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 15, 2012, 06:10:58 PM

Last two messages I've gotten on OKC have been from ladies who have "casual sex" listed as one of the things they're looking for. :P Not feeling it in either case though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on October 15, 2012, 06:16:10 PM

girl I went out with was nice, but she was kind of young and still planning to go to school and its like- getting old but im in that weird zone where most look too young or too old- hard to spot those that are kind of my age.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 15, 2012, 10:38:03 PM

MAF, you and I have the exact same problems it seems... I'm terrible at reading interest (unless the date went REALLY bad) and reading ages.

Tomorrow I'm gonna ask the girl I met @ Comic Con (that I'll be on the show with) if she wants to go someplace where there aren't cameras following us around... meanwhile I've been talking with 2 other CC chicks, I stirred up a lot of interest there from gals, which is weird since normally girls tend to ignore me :P ... and if it doesn't work out with the girl I'll be on the show with, I can always tell people that I'm a reality TV star!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Joe Molotov on October 15, 2012, 11:06:46 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on October 15, 2012, 06:16:10 PM

girl I went out with was nice, but she was kind of young and still planning to go to school and its like- getting old but im in that weird zone where most look too young or too old- hard to spot those that are kind of my age.

Screw 'em all and let God sort 'em out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 17, 2012, 12:05:48 AM

I think I'm going to take another stab at OKC. Looks like there's a better selection of girls in my area now than there was a couple of months ago.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on October 17, 2012, 12:53:37 AM

On a date tonight. Went better than expected.. well, except I went in for a kiss at the end and got the cheek. so awkward... :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FlameofCallandorReturns on October 17, 2012, 08:59:48 AM

Thats not better than expected dude. That's failure.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on October 17, 2012, 10:20:25 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on October 17, 2012, 12:53:37 AM

On a date tonight. Went better than expected.. well, except I went in for a kiss at the end and got the cheek. so awkward... :'(

Haha, been there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on October 17, 2012, 12:23:51 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on October 17, 2012, 12:53:37 AM

On a date tonight. Went better than expected.. well, except I went in for a kiss at the end and got the cheek. so awkward... :'(

That's not that bad, unless he hadn't shaved in awhile.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on October 17, 2012, 02:33:32 PM

Quote from: FlameofCallandorReturns on October 17, 2012, 08:59:48 AM

Thats not better than expected dude. That's failure.

That's harsh! Maybe she's just shy. The wife didn't kiss me until the third date. It made the sex on the first two dates very impersonal.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on October 17, 2012, 03:47:53 PM

Quote from: Rusty Shackleford on October 17, 2012, 02:33:32 PM

Quote from: FlameofCallandorReturns on October 17, 2012, 08:59:48 AM
Thats not better than expected dude. That's failure.

That's harsh! Maybe she's just shy. The wife didn't kiss me until the third date. It made the sex on the first two dates very impersonal.

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on October 17, 2012, 04:13:19 PM

Full disclosure: American Dad joke. Wish I could take credit but it's not like I work at the New York Times.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bacchus7 on October 17, 2012, 04:24:38 PM

I didn't know anyone still worked at the New York Times.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on October 17, 2012, 04:27:48 PM

Quote from: Bacchus7 on October 17, 2012, 04:24:38 PM

I didn't know anyone still worked at the New York Times.

It's just an AP aggregator with bigger words and small, difficult words swapped in :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 17, 2012, 05:20:43 PM

Quote from: Atramental on October 17, 2012, 12:05:48 AM

I think I'm going to take another stab at OKC. Looks like there's a better selection of girls in my area now than there was a couple of months ago.

Oh... I keep on forgetting that decent looking girls on OKC usually have issues.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Mmmm. Issues. :drool

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 17, 2012, 05:22:31 PM

Drove home on my bike, had sex, ate bbq ribs, drank a beer and watched comedy on tv.

Yeah I can get used to settled life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 17, 2012, 06:31:52 PM

I don't know if I'd call that a failure honestly. It might've just been too early in her mind. If she shows up for date #2 it means she's still interested and probably wants you to go for it again. Now if you get smacked down twice, yeah she's just pulling your chain and wants to be friends-only.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on October 17, 2012, 06:34:35 PM

It's not a failure.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on October 17, 2012, 06:40:44 PM

That's true. On the lips on the first date might be too early for some girls. Good luck on the second date!

Diamonds: she'll pretty much have to.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on October 17, 2012, 06:53:42 PM

I think a failure reaction woulda been like "WOAH there ha ha..."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 17, 2012, 09:06:27 PM

Got a second date with this girl I met on Thursday (31 year old bi, feminist Yale women's studies major - a bit kooky but seems kinda cool), and the girl I'll be on the show with might want to go out this weekend... I txted her asking if Friday is good but she hasn't gotten back to me yet... really like the one I'll be on the show with...

Sadly I txted a girl who slipped me her # at Comic Con, we were talking for a bit then she asked me for my age and I haven't heard back after I told her... she was probably too young.

Wonder if I can play my reality TV "fame" into even more pickups, if these ones don't work out...?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on October 17, 2012, 10:25:33 PM

Quote from: tiesto on October 17, 2012, 09:06:27 PM

Got a second date with this girl I met on Thursday (31 year old bi, feminist Yale women's studies major - a bit kooky but seems kinda cool), and the girl I'll be on the show with might want to go out this weekend... I txted her asking if Friday is good but she hasn't gotten back to me yet... really like the one I'll be on the show with...

Sadly I txted a girl who slipped me her # at Comic Con, we were talking for a bit then she asked me for my age and I haven't heard back after I told her... she was probably too young.

Wonder if I can play my reality TV "fame" into even more pickups, if these ones don't work out...?

You should get them to film you trying to date both girls in the same restaurant simultaneously, Three's Company-style.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 17, 2012, 10:50:08 PM

A good friend of mine is divorcing his wife (who is also a good friend of mine) after she was caught cheating with her co-worker. Both of them make decent money and are getting pricey divorce lawyers. Things are going to get very ugly because both sides are really digging their heels in.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 18, 2012, 02:33:06 AM

Quote from: The Experiment on October 17, 2012, 10:50:08 PM

A good friend of mine is divorcing his wife (who is also a good friend of mine) after she was caught cheating with her co-worker. Both of them make decent money and are getting pricey divorce lawyers. Things are going to get very ugly because both sides are really digging their heels in.

It amazes me when the one who cheats gets belligerent. Unless, of course, the reason she cheated is because the guy was unwilling to perform the particular acts she wanted enacted upon her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on October 18, 2012, 03:39:35 AM

Quote from: chronovore on October 18, 2012, 02:33:06 AM

Quote from: The Experiment on October 17, 2012, 10:50:08 PM
A good friend of mine is divorcing his wife (who is also a good friend of mine) after she was caught cheating with her co-worker. Both of them make decent money and are getting pricey divorce lawyers. Things are going to get very ugly because both sides are really digging their heels in.

It amazes me when the one who cheats gets belligerent. Unless, of course, the reason she cheated is because the guy was unwilling to perform the particular acts she wanted enacted upon her.

Sometimes they just don't want to be down on the farm, knowwhatimean?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on October 18, 2012, 09:02:22 AM

Sometimes, even when caught red handed, people think they didn't do anything wrong and you're the one being the asshole.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 18, 2012, 10:13:41 AM

Why not just get a prenup people?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 18, 2012, 10:27:38 AM

Or, you know, be an adult about shit and if your relationship has gotten to the point where you want to fuck other people just end it. I guess you could also just modify it to include fuckin around, but in my experience that just sort of puts it on deathwatch countdown.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 18, 2012, 10:53:50 AM

Quote from: Zero Hero on October 18, 2012, 09:02:22 AM

Sometimes, even when caught red handed, people think they didn't do anything wrong and you're the one being the asshole.

Sounds like my divorce. *shrug* People turn into weirdos during break ups. They tend to lose all common decency.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 18, 2012, 10:54:25 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on October 18, 2012, 10:27:38 AM

Or, you know, be an adult about shit and if your relationship has gotten to the point where you want to fuck other people just end it. I guess you could also just modify it to include fuckin around, but in my experience that just sort of puts it on deathwatch countdown.

Definitely a better fantasy than reality.

In the end, communicate and try to make your partner happy. Most people just lock up and won't say when they're unhappy. It's pathetic.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on October 18, 2012, 11:30:45 AM

A friend recently just finished his divorce after a year (!). His wife cheated on him and he brewed on it for SIX MONTHS. It wasn't over (yet), but he tried to give it another shot because they had over 12 year history, and he just couldn't do it. When he was done, he just decided to divorce. Meanwhile he wife turned into a total bitch, decided to live with her new beau, and acts like she did nothing absolutely wrong.

Her family doesn't understand why she even did it and that she ruined a completely good thing.

I think it's a defense mechanism to spare yourself the guilt.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 18, 2012, 12:46:50 PM

It's hard to be mature about shit when you've got a long history and there's lots of feels involved, but in the long run you'll be better off if you trade a little short term awkwardness and unhappiness for being real about shit and getting it over with. You can either get stabbed real quick and let it heal, or get pricked with pins for the rest of your life and let that shit fester forever. No thanks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 18, 2012, 12:53:17 PM

When it's over it's over. It's always hard to end any relationship. Ive had two gf's for 2/2.5 years each and letting go was hard, but if you have kids and spent 10+ years together... must be devastating.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on October 18, 2012, 02:42:23 PM

Bebpo, you're in SoCal right? OC? LA?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on October 18, 2012, 02:50:36 PM

It's weird, the ugliest divorces (I have witnessed) are usually when kids aren't involved. As horrible as it is, sometimes having children involved can keep people more level-headed about their lives being ruined. Probably the threat of losing visitation rights keeps them check.

I've told this story before .. but I have a group picture on a bookshelf from a 2002 trip to Jamaica (where we went with 7 other couples). Of that group, only 2 couples are still married. With one of the girls just going through her second divorce since then. Modern marriage ... how does it work?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on October 18, 2012, 02:51:13 PM

Yeah, my friend and his wife didn't have kids.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 18, 2012, 03:30:28 PM

The absolute worst divorce I have ever seen involved a child... but it also involved a woman who faked getting beaten up by the guy and had someone take pictures of "the altercation"; she also went to school to become a paralegal for the express purpose of best learning how to fuck him over and get custody of the kid. She's a real piece of work, and needless to say I'm super glad I never fucked her back in the day.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 18, 2012, 08:35:33 PM

Worst divorce in terms of stupidity...probably my uncle's. I knew he was fucked when I heard that he dated her for MONTHS before finding out she had a kid; and she wasn't the one who told him about it. Yet he still married her, had a kid with her, and it lasted for about 7 or 8 years. Nice lady, not bad looking, but she was like the stereotypical older chick who wants to act like she's still 23, partying and pretending like she doesn't have a kid back at grandma's house. No interest in being a mom, and the results are still rather visible in my cousin :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 18, 2012, 10:57:48 PM

Quote from: Rusty Shackleford on October 18, 2012, 02:42:23 PM

Bebpo, you're in SoCal right? OC? LA?

OC. Wanna get a beer?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on October 19, 2012, 12:11:47 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on October 18, 2012, 10:57:48 PM

Quote from: Rusty Shackleford on October 18, 2012, 02:42:23 PM
Bebpo, you're in SoCal right? OC? LA?

OC. Wanna get a beer?

Sounds good! I'll have to hit you up in a couple weeks after midterms.

I was going to say I could totally be your wingman :lol As a married guy it's a lot easier to deal with girls.

"HEY LADIES, LET ME INTRODUCE YOU TO THIS GUY I MET ON THE INTERNET. HE'S DONE STRANGLING HOMELESS DRIFTERS FOR SEX AND IS READY TO SETTLE DOWN."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on October 19, 2012, 12:40:48 AM

what about me? i live near also! :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on October 19, 2012, 01:10:05 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on October 19, 2012, 12:40:48 AM

what about me? i live near also! :maf

Yeah we should have a Bore meetup! SoCal Bore is best Bore.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 19, 2012, 01:05:44 PM

It really is. Need to get all the Seattle/Oregon folk to come down here to drink tequila, eat burritos, and surf.

Where are you taking class at?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Arbys Roast Beef Sandwich on October 19, 2012, 01:49:32 PM

hey now

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on October 19, 2012, 02:53:46 PM

Quote from: Arbys Roast Beef Sandwich on October 19, 2012, 01:49:32 PM

hey now

(http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lp6l1pBqep1r0hq53o1_400.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on October 19, 2012, 03:17:34 PM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 19, 2012, 03:52:08 PM

Damn, I've known so many guys & girls who went to Fullerton. Heck, I was just in the coffee shop across the street yesterday and the barista started chatting with me and I asked where she's going to school and she said Fullerton. My first gf went to CSUF and I used to hang out on the campus helping her with her homework. My friend's little sister goes there, etc.. etc... Really popular school down here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on October 19, 2012, 03:55:59 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on October 19, 2012, 03:52:08 PM

Damn, I've known so many guys & girls who went to Fullerton. Heck, I was just in the coffee shop across the street yesterday and the barista started chatting with me and I asked where she's going to school and she said Fullerton. My first gf went to CSUF and I used to hang out on the campus helping her with her homework. My friend's little sister goes there, etc.. etc... Really popular school down here.

Yes it's a pretty good school. Less than half the cost of UCI too (did my undergrad there). I think it's impossible to live in OC and not know someone who went to CSUF.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 19, 2012, 06:45:46 PM

Quote from: Robo on October 19, 2012, 02:53:46 PM

Quote from: Arbys Roast Beef Sandwich on October 19, 2012, 01:49:32 PM
hey now

(http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lp6l1pBqep1r0hq53o1_400.gif)

Goddamn, what a great show that was.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 19, 2012, 06:52:34 PM

Talked to the Chinese chick a couple days ago, we're going to hang out tomorrow :zelda

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on October 19, 2012, 07:04:44 PM

Say that you'll be her prince chow mein. But pronounce it charming obv.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on October 19, 2012, 07:35:18 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on October 19, 2012, 06:45:46 PM

Quote from: Robo on October 19, 2012, 02:53:46 PM
Quote from: Arbys Roast Beef Sandwich on October 19, 2012, 01:49:32 PM
hey now

(http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lp6l1pBqep1r0hq53o1_400.gif)

Goddamn, what a great show that was.

Started watching this the other day just because you mentioned it in the TV show thread a while back. Pretty damn great.

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Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 19, 2012, 09:35:29 PM

One of the most pleasant surprises I found on Netflix.

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Post by: Himu on October 19, 2012, 09:43:59 PM

what show is that

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Arbys Roast Beef Sandwich on October 19, 2012, 11:19:04 PM

the larry sanders show

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 19, 2012, 11:28:16 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0IgD32TVWaQ

http://www.buzzfeed.com/abrams/37-great-moments-from-the-larry-sanders-show
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/10/25/AR2010102504937.html

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Post by: Himu on October 19, 2012, 11:58:46 PM

:lol :lol

I always wondered what they talk about during commercials on talk shows.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on October 20, 2012, 02:47:49 AM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on October 18, 2012, 02:50:36 PM

It's weird, the ugliest divorces (I have witnessed) are usually when kids aren't involved. As horrible as it is, sometimes having children involved can keep people more level-headed about their lives being ruined. Probably the threat of losing visitation rights keeps them check.

I've told this story before .. but I have a group picture on a bookshelf from a 2002 trip to Jamaica (where we went with 7 other couples). Of that group, only 2 couples are still married. With one of the girls just going through her second divorce since then. Modern marriage ... how does it work?

One of my friends was "the kid that was supposed to save the marriage." Didn't work. Left her with some serious daddy issues (since he was the philanderer and didn't even hide it). She has a half-sister the same age as her sister.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on October 20, 2012, 02:52:34 AM

I'm 99.9% my parents stayed together because of me.

I hate myself.

I also only get involved with girls online who already have a boyfriend.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 20, 2012, 02:59:51 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on October 20, 2012, 02:52:34 AM

I'm 99.9% my parents stayed together because of me.

I hate myself.

I also only get involved with girls online who already have a boyfriend.

I read this as you saying you met a chick online and just found out it's your mom

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on October 20, 2012, 03:02:56 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 20, 2012, 02:59:51 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on October 20, 2012, 02:52:34 AM
I'm 99.9% my parents stayed together because of me.

I hate myself.

I also only get involved with girls online who already have a boyfriend.

I read this as you saying you met a chick online and just found out it's your mom

I have no joke here except that I could destroy your life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 20, 2012, 03:03:33 AM

I'm pretty sure my parents got married because of me... their wedding was in December and I was born in June.

The 2nd time they got married was also probably because of me and my sister. My family life has always been supremely fucked up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on October 20, 2012, 03:04:51 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on October 20, 2012, 03:03:33 AM

I'm pretty sure my parents got married because of me... their wedding was in December and I was born in June.

The 2nd time they got married was also probably because of me and my sister. My family life has always been supremely fucked up.

Shotgun wedding? Married a second time? Wait what.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on October 20, 2012, 03:07:18 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on October 20, 2012, 02:52:34 AM

I'm 99.9% my parents stayed together because of me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 20, 2012, 03:07:52 AM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on October 20, 2012, 03:04:51 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on October 20, 2012, 03:03:33 AM
I'm pretty sure my parents got married because of me... their wedding was in December and I was born in June.

The 2nd time they got married was also probably because of me and my sister. My family life has always been supremely fucked up.

Shotgun wedding? Married a second time? Wait what.

My dad has been married five times. Twice to my mother.

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Post by: Shadow Mod on October 20, 2012, 03:11:19 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on October 20, 2012, 03:07:52 AM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on October 20, 2012, 03:04:51 AM
Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on October 20, 2012, 03:03:33 AM
I'm pretty sure my parents got married because of me... their wedding was in December and I was born in June.

The 2nd time they got married was also probably because of me and my sister. My family life has always been supremely fucked up.

Shotgun wedding? Married a second time? Wait what.

My dad has been married five times. Twice to my mother.

Do you have a bunch of half-siblings then?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on October 20, 2012, 03:11:35 AM

marriage woooo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on October 20, 2012, 03:12:32 AM

marriage sounds like torture honestly

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on October 20, 2012, 03:12:53 AM

i was being sarcastic

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on October 20, 2012, 03:18:34 AM

but it does! I know maybe 1 in 10 married couples who are happy with each other.

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 20, 2012, 03:21:06 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on October 20, 2012, 03:18:34 AM

but it does! I know maybe 1 in 10 married couples who are happy with each other.

stop hanging around religious black people

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on October 20, 2012, 03:24:15 AM

haha :lol

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Post by: Shadow Mod on October 20, 2012, 03:31:19 AM

Quote from: Stringer Bell on October 20, 2012, 03:12:32 AM

marriage sounds like torture honestly

It sounds more like a bunch of people rush into that shit with not all the checkboxes marked off. I mean it's pretty judgmental on my behalf but when I see people get married without some sort of semi-permanent job or career, only being in a relationship for less than a couple years, getting married young or the way some do married before you even live together, my prognosis for the marriage lasting is always grave.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 20, 2012, 08:15:47 AM

Quote from: Count Drugula The Satanic on October 20, 2012, 05:38:52 AM

Quote from: Martin Raperman on October 19, 2012, 07:04:44 PM
Say that you'll be her prince chow mein. But pronounce it charming obv.

OK this made me :lol

bow :bow2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 20, 2012, 11:29:05 AM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on October 20, 2012, 03:11:19 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on October 20, 2012, 03:07:52 AM
Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on October 20, 2012, 03:04:51 AM
Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on October 20, 2012, 03:03:33 AM
I'm pretty sure my parents got married because of me... their wedding was in December and I was born in June.

The 2nd time they got married was also probably because of me and my sister. My family life has always been supremely fucked up.

Shotgun wedding? Married a second time? Wait what.

My dad has been married five times. Twice to my mother.

Do you have a bunch of half-siblings then?

Just an older half brother from my dad's first marriage. My mom was number 2 & 4.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on October 20, 2012, 01:13:49 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 19, 2012, 06:52:34 PM

Talked to the Chinese chick a couple days ago, we're going to hang out tomorrow :zelda

Show her your chop stick moves.

(late response lol)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 20, 2012, 02:40:57 PM

Postponed to Sunday lol. We shall see

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 21, 2012, 09:33:07 PM

Girl from the show got tied up in a grad school research project all last nite... we rescheduled for wednesday, hopefully it goes through this time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 22, 2012, 11:37:29 AM

I think a big mistake is seeing marriage as some kind of final state, as in, you've won the game once you get married.

There are so many movies which end with the couple getting married, so many fairy tales with "Happily Ever After..." at the end -- and I think these things are more toxic to our society than all the action movies out there. When men watch an action movie, we don't think "That could really happen!" But when women watch romance movies, there's some part of their head that buys into the scenario. This is the kind of life, the kind of romance they want, and it's just not the way it works.

Marriage is really just meeting someone whom you love enough to say "I am going to work on this relationship with you for the rest of our lives. You're great, you're worth it, I'll be here for you." When people forget that, and think things should "just work," that's when they fall apart.

Quote from: tiesto on October 21, 2012, 09:33:07 PM

Girl from the show got tied up in a grad school research project all last nite... we rescheduled for wednesday, hopefully it goes through this time.

For a moment there, I was really happy for you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on October 22, 2012, 12:40:54 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 20, 2012, 02:40:57 PM

Postponed to Sunday lol. We shall see

Order sum sushi ;) (if you all go out)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 22, 2012, 12:43:34 PM

Quote from: chronovore on October 22, 2012, 11:37:29 AM

I think a big mistake is seeing marriage as some kind of final state, as in, you've won the game once you get married.

There are so many movies which end with the couple getting married, so many fairy tales with "Happily Ever After..." at the end -- and I think these things are more toxic to our society than all the action movies out there. When men watch an action movie, we don't think "That could really happen!" But when women watch romance movies, there's some part of their head that buys into the scenario. This is the kind of life, the kind of romance they want, and it's just not the way it works.

Marriage is really just meeting someone whom you love enough to say "I am going to work on this relationship with you for the rest of our lives. You're great, you're worth it, I'll be here for you." When people forget that, and think things should "just work," that's when they fall apart.

Tell me more sensei before I take the plunge.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on October 22, 2012, 02:01:57 PM

Marriage isn't the final state, it's just the beginning of the game.

Survivor. Outwit, outplay and outlast all your rivals.

The secret joy in marriage is laughing at all your friends that have failed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 22, 2012, 02:10:17 PM

Quote from: Lan on October 22, 2012, 12:40:54 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 20, 2012, 02:40:57 PM
Postponed to Sunday lol. We shall see

Order sum sushi ;) (if you all go out)

I was going to suggest a local Somalian place but let her choose. Applebee's

Went well outside of the shitty waitress. But I don't think we'll be dating, just hanging out

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 22, 2012, 02:33:53 PM

Never had Somalian food I'd love to check it out (is it anything like Ethiopian?). Many girls like it when a guy comes across as having a plan, making suggestions for a restaurant and date activity...

spoiler (click to show/hide)

I'll be honest if a girl suggested Applebees or Cheesecake Factory or one of those chains on a first date I'd rebuke with a good local place :P

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 22, 2012, 02:48:24 PM

They're rather similar. Samosas, lots of rice dishes/stew, etc

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on October 22, 2012, 03:06:15 PM

Somalian food has lots of meat, rice, and yeah beef samosas. It's really good if you have a place nearby.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on October 22, 2012, 03:28:38 PM

Quote from: chronovore on October 22, 2012, 11:37:29 AM

I think a big mistake is seeing marriage as some kind of final state, as in, you've won the game once you get married.

There are so many movies which end with the couple getting married, so many fairy tales with "Happily Ever After..." at the end -- and I think these things are more toxic to our society than all the action movies out there. When men watch an action movie, we don't think "That could really happen!" But when women watch romance movies, there's some part of their head that buys into the scenario. This is the kind of life, the kind of romance they want, and it's just not the way it works.

Marriage is really just meeting someone whom you love enough to say "I am going to work on this relationship with you for the rest of our lives. You're great, you're worth it, I'll be here for you." When people forget that, and think things should "just work," that's when they fall apart.

:bow

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 22, 2012, 08:58:45 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on October 22, 2012, 12:43:34 PM

Tell me more sensei before I take the plunge.

I think the main thing is that she has to be someone with whom you can speak honestly. Communication is the absolute foundation of any relationship, not fun, hobbies, sex, taste in music or movies or anything.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 23, 2012, 10:41:22 PM

Chatting with this cutie on OKC who's into bondage. >_>

Why is it always the sweet and innocent looking ones that are into some freaky stuff?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 25, 2012, 11:30:20 PM

Hung out with the girl from comic-con again and damn, girl is really amazing. Been a loooong time since I've liked a girl like this, I've been so jaded with dating lately. Really hoping it goes somewhere.

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Post by: Bebpo on October 27, 2012, 03:27:17 AM

Fml

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on October 27, 2012, 03:41:03 AM

Dating trouble?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on October 28, 2012, 11:19:05 AM

Girls are a waste of time.. I'ma go play some MMOs or something :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 28, 2012, 08:47:21 PM

Damn, invited her over for my housewarming party, she had prior plans with her sister but she said that she was kinda hoping her sister cancels (I said, bring the sister too :P), but then didn't hear anything from her for 2 days... I hate this kinda stuff. I'm gonna call her tomorrow and see about making plans to see "Cloud Atlas" or something.

The problem with younger, busier girls are they are pretty flaky. The problem with older girls is I find a lot of them to be very stuck in their ways (the last few girls I dated were 1-3 years older).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 29, 2012, 11:05:10 PM

lmf

I love how life is so totally random. You never know when bad things will destroy on you and likewise when good things will smack you in the face.

Today's been a neat day ;)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 30, 2012, 08:36:26 AM

Quote from: tiesto on October 28, 2012, 08:47:21 PM

Damn, invited her over for my housewarming party, she had prior plans with her sister but she said that she was kinda hoping her sister cancels (I said, bring the sister too :P), but then didn't hear anything from her for 2 days... I hate this kinda stuff. I'm gonna call her tomorrow and see about making plans to see "Cloud Atlas" or something.

The problem with younger, busier girls are they are pretty flaky. The problem with older girls is I find a lot of them to be very stuck in their ways (the last few girls I dated were 1-3 years older).

Find an older girl whos ways are a good match with yours :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 03, 2012, 05:15:22 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QN96QiOl9Nw
tips for the thread

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 03, 2012, 06:57:22 PM

What's an Iraqi doing in SA?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 03, 2012, 07:08:24 PM

Few years ago, what about you

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 11, 2012, 09:09:07 PM

Went on a date with the redhead I met at Comic Con speed dating. She's also a fan of Dragon Age... very sweet girl, very big into comic books (specifically DC), she was talking about all this obscure DC stuff that went so far completely over my head (my comic book knowledge begins and ends at Batman/Superman/Spider Man/X-Men) but we also checked out a game store in Babylon village and she likes games as well. Still haven't gotten together again with the girl I'm gonna be on the show with, our plans last week got a bit messed up due to the noreaster we had up here... but there's a good chance we'll get together this week. Now to also set something up with the redhead.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on November 11, 2012, 10:10:34 PM

You're really hoping she has carpeted floors, huh?

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 11, 2012, 10:23:14 PM

Next Tiesto post:

Turns out the redhead I met during Comic Con speed dating is a saleswoman at a car dealership. I'm looking for someone more professional so I had to cut it off. Luckily I got a nice brunette's number at an anime store. I'll call her next weekend and see how things go.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on November 11, 2012, 10:33:04 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 11, 2012, 10:23:14 PM

Next Tiesto post:

Turns out the redhead I met during Comic Con speed dating is a saleswoman at a car dealership. I'm looking for someone more professional so I had to cut it off. Luckily I got a nice brunette's number at an anime store. I'll call her next weekend and see how things go.

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 12, 2012, 09:49:59 AM

nintenho: OH GOD YES

PD: you bastard!!! :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on January 18, 2013, 07:27:27 PM

I got an email from OKC that they're trying out a new blind date thing where you just put a day, a location, and you get a date with someone whose profile picture you can still kind of see enough to get their picture but you can't get any info about them. Or you can search through girl's suggested dates and respond that you're interested in meeting up.

Gonna give it a try and see how it goes. I think it'd be better if it didn't show a picture at all and was a true blind date because then I'd be less picky browsing through available dates and it'd be more exciting because I'd know absolutely nothing about them; but I guess they gotta protect girls from overweight guys.

As for me, well, been doing fine over the last couple of months. Can't complain; life's ridiculously busy. Don't have time to date, so more short-term stuff lately and it's tough keeping long-term interests going. But then again I haven't met anyone that's really grabbed me for a while; so if that happens I'd prioritize.

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Post by: TakingBackSunday on January 18, 2013, 07:34:16 PM

that just screams "awful experiences" to me

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on January 18, 2013, 09:53:45 PM

I dunno, when I run into a random person in the street, more often than not I find I enjoy talking with them and sometimes meet cool people. With online dating I find so many times that you hit it off with your initial message, then spend a day or two or three messaging and things seem good, and then you go on a date a few days later and there's no chemistry, no interest at all. At least with blind dating you find out right away if there's any interest on either side.

But yeah, their version of its not going to work. Had 3 "dates" for tonight all fall out when the girls see my picture and cancel or decided they don't really want to go through with the blind date. The only way real blind dating would work would be with no pictures, no info, just a location/time and then it lets you chat on your phone 20 mins before so you can find each other.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on January 18, 2013, 09:57:03 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on January 18, 2013, 09:53:45 PM

I dunno, when I run into a random person in the street, more often than not I find I enjoy talking with them and sometimes meet cool people.

(http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v297/bebpo/stardriver2.jpg)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m0KFY6o6unw

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on January 18, 2013, 09:58:10 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on January 18, 2013, 09:53:45 PM

I dunno, when I run into a random person in the street, more often than not I find I enjoy talking with them and sometimes meet cool people. With online dating I find so many times that you hit it off with your initial message, then spend a day or two or three messaging and things seem good, and then you go on a date a few days later and there's no chemistry, no interest at all. At least with blind dating you find out right away if there's any interest on either side.

But yeah, their version of its not going to work. Had 3 "dates" for tonight all fall out when the girls see my picture and cancel or decided they don't really want to go through with the blind date. The only way real blind dating would work would be with no pictures, no info, just a location/time and then it lets you chat on your phone 20 mins before so you can find each other.

What happened to that fine young asian girl in that picture you posted?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on January 18, 2013, 10:09:56 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on January 18, 2013, 09:53:45 PM

I dunno, when I run into a random person in the street, more often than not I find I enjoy talking with them and sometimes meet cool people. With online dating I find so many times that you hit it off with your initial message, then spend a day or two or three messaging and things seem good, and then you go on a date a few days later and there's no chemistry, no interest at all. At least with blind dating you find out right away if there's any interest on either side.

But yeah, their version of its not going to work. Had 3 "dates" for tonight all fall out when the girls see my picture and cancel or decided they don't really want to go through with the blind date. The only way real blind dating would work would be with no pictures, no info, just a location/time and then it lets you chat on your phone 20 mins before so you can find each other.

I actually went on a couple "blind" dates with girls on that site who didn't want to upload pictures because the high creep/normal ratio of messages. They were actually pretty (showed a picture right after setting up the date so we could find each other).

A real truly blind date would be so weird because let's be honest, both parties would be super scared that the other will be really fat or a slob or something. I mean can you even see what's on their profile to get an idea what you have to talk about beyond how was your day/what's your favorite color bullshit?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on January 18, 2013, 10:12:31 PM

My favorite color is blue, though, sometimes, when I'm looking deeply into my own soulful eyes, it's green. :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on January 18, 2013, 10:28:48 PM

Quote from: Rusty Shackleford on January 18, 2013, 09:58:10 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on January 18, 2013, 09:53:45 PM
I dunno, when I run into a random person in the street, more often than not I find I enjoy talking with them and sometimes meet cool people. With online dating I find so many times that you hit it off with your initial message, then spend a day or two or three messaging and things seem good, and then you go on a date a few days later and there's no chemistry, no interest at all. At least with blind dating you find out right away if there's any interest on either side.

But yeah, their version of its not going to work. Had 3 "dates" for tonight all fall out when the girls see my picture and cancel or decided they don't really want to go through with the blind date. The only way real blind dating would work would be with no pictures, no info, just a location/time and then it lets you chat on your phone 20 mins before so you can find each other.

What happened to that fine young asian girl in that picture you posted?

lol, that's one of my best friends. She's taken :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on January 18, 2013, 10:36:42 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on January 18, 2013, 09:53:45 PM

I dunno, when I run into a random person in the street, more often than not I find I enjoy talking with them and sometimes meet cool people. With online dating I find so many times that you hit it off with your initial message, then spend a day or two or three messaging and things seem good, and then you go on a date a few days later and there's no chemistry, no interest at all. At least with blind dating you find out right away if there's any interest on either side.

I forget which pop psych guy they were interviewing on NPR (:tophat) but he was saying pretty much this. All the different variables (occupation, interests, looks) mean very little when it comes to the psychology of who we click with, so dating sites are inherently broken when it comes to "matches". I guess it's kind of an obvious point but yea.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on January 18, 2013, 10:45:48 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on January 18, 2013, 10:28:48 PM

Quote from: Rusty Shackleford on January 18, 2013, 09:58:10 PM
Quote from: Bebpo on January 18, 2013, 09:53:45 PM
I dunno, when I run into a random person in the street, more often than not I find I enjoy talking with them and sometimes meet cool people. With online dating I find so many times that you hit it off with your initial message, then spend a day or two or three messaging and things seem good, and then you go on a date a few days later and there's no chemistry, no interest at all. At least with blind dating you find out right away if there's any interest on either side.

But yeah, their version of its not going to work. Had 3 "dates" for tonight all fall out when the girls see my picture and cancel or decided they don't really want to go through with the blind date. The only way real blind dating would work would be with no pictures, no info, just a location/time and then it lets you chat on your phone 20 mins before so you can find each other.

What happened to that fine young asian girl in that picture you posted?

lol, that's one of my best friends. She's taken :P

"Taken" as in married? Don't friendzone yourself too early, now :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on January 18, 2013, 11:11:18 PM

I'm having shitty luck. I just can't find any good opportunities anywhere. At a restaurant, there was this one server chick who had a little "baby fat" (she was in her 20s but you know what I mean) but with nice (read: big) cans. Since hitting on people in the service industry is pretty lecherous if you're a customer, I had to hold off but she was pretty much my type. Then that one chick I hit it off with at work but can't date due to HR policies (I blame Devolution's people) was walking around with some kind of ultratight getup. She stopped by my office to flirt around and I had to try my hardest not to look her tits.

These days I just jack it to lots and lots of porn to ward off the tension. This is what it must feel like to be a gaffer. No wonder they're so outraged at everything.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on January 19, 2013, 01:55:46 AM

Hey, don't feel bad EXP and Bebpuu~, I haven't really had much going on with dating myself, since the last time I posted in this thread... sending out messages here and there, but it never goes anywhere, the conversation always dies down. Thought I had one that was a good match - a Jewish girl from Queens who had near-identikit taste in movies and asked me if I knew Katamari (what, me, be into niche Japanese games?)... but then I haven't heard from her in like a week. Some Chinese girl who is a foreign exchange student here at Stony Brook (state school near my house, where most students are asian or indian) gave me her # but he pic is blurry and hard to make out so I don't know what I'm gonna get... plus if our emails are anything to go by she sounds like she is quite fobby.. perhaps I'll give her a call tomorrow and see if she's around.

When I finish the last of the unpacking and I beat Persona 4 ( :lol ), I'm gonna try my luck at Match again. I figure this would be a good time to start, with v-day coming up and all :P

Watching the geek love video again makes me upset that things never really went anywhere with Brittany. Especially now that I have friends on FB who have seen that video and asked me if I still see her :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on January 19, 2013, 03:09:54 AM

Quote from: tiesto on January 19, 2013, 01:55:46 AM

Hey, don't feel bad EXP and Bebpuu~, I haven't really had much going on with dating myself, since the last time I posted in this thread... sending out messages here and there, but it never goes anywhere, the conversation always dies down. Thought I had one that was a good match - a Jewish girl from Queens who had near-identikit taste in movies and asked me if I knew Katamari (what, me, be into niche Japanese games?)... but then I haven't heard from her in like a week. Some Chinese girl who is a foreign exchange student here at Stony Brook (state school near my house, where most students are asian or indian) gave me her # but he pic is blurry and hard to make out so I don't know what I'm gonna get... plus if our emails are anything to go by she sounds like she is quite fobby.. perhaps I'll give her a call tomorrow and see if she's around.

When I finish the last of the unpacking and I beat Persona 4 ( :lol ), I'm gonna try my luck at Match again. I figure this would be a good time to start, with v-day coming up and all :P

Watching the geek love video again makes me upset that things never really went anywhere with Brittany. Especially now that I have friends on FB who have seen that video and asked me if I still see her :P

After seeing that episode you posted, tiesto...did any alarm bells go off in your head during the date? Something about her in the video, and the libertarian thing, and the flakiness with returning texts...it's just a gut feeling, but maybe you dodged a bullet on this one after all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bacchus7 on January 20, 2013, 10:05:15 AM

First-time poster, long-time listener. Pretty much for all of 2012 I was getting over a two-and-a-half year relationship. This year I'm all but over it and truly meeting women again. I asked a really pretty girl out today!
She works at a bakery near me, and so I went and got a blueberry muffin and a roll. After I paid, I gave her some nice flowers with a note attached that says, "Hi, I'm $$$. I would love to get something to eat with you sometime." She's just my type, dark, pretty face, thick brunette curls, beautiful eyes and smile, the pure kind where you can just tell he or she is a good person. Gonna roll by next weekend and see if she's game. Trying to bring something positive to the 'bore. :burgerking

Oh, the reason I didn't try to get it all done on the spot was it's a busy bakery, and more than one girl works the counter at any given time. There were three today, and I was lucky to draw her! There were customers waiting after me too, so tried to hasten it up a bit, just told her that these were for her, she said thank you and gave me a kind of flustered half-smile, I said of course and smiled back and walked out the door. I hope it was endearing.

(http://www.freeimagehosting.net/t/jn7r5.jpg) (http://www.freeimagehosting.net/jn7r5)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on January 20, 2013, 07:32:44 PM

Damn, that's slick. I'm totally gonna start introducing myself as "$$$".

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 20, 2013, 08:42:53 PM

:lol :lol :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on January 20, 2013, 08:59:30 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on October 28, 2012, 11:19:05 AM

Girls are a waste of time.. I'ma go play some MMOs or something :'(

:-\ dont give up

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 21, 2013, 12:06:57 AM

Never give up

Had a bit of a weird weekend. My best (female) friend invited me to dinner so we could catch up. I made some baked ziti lol and we had a good time. I got the impression she was subtlely trying to prompt me to make a move, and I kind of just pretended I didn't realize what was going on. A few weeks ago I told Wrath that I planned on finally admitting that I like her, and seeing where she wants it to go; she's liked me for some time, I turned her down twice in the past (high school era, basically) but we have really moved apart over the last few years. I probably should have done something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on January 21, 2013, 02:10:26 AM

I'm not giving up but I'm not looking actively either. About twice a year I'll look actively for a couple of months and sometimes that'll lead to something. The rest of the time I don't think about it or let it bother me and nothing really happens.

One difference between this year and previous years is that I have a handful of female friends for the first time in my life. But they're taken, or I'm not interested, or I've asked them out and been turned down; so I don't know if that necessarily changes the dynamic or chances this year. It has however at least made me more comfortable talking with the opposite sex casually since I do it all the time now. But meeting people of the opposite sex to get into those conversations outside of meeting through online dating is still at a rarity. And honestly I don't think online will ever lead to anything. I don't want to sound too shallow, but because of my height, attractiveness, flirting ability or something, the only girls online who actually show up on real actual dates in person with me are stocky overweight girls and since I work out and try to keep myself in decent shape, for a long term relationship I'd rather date someone who tries to stay in at least "ok" shape as well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on January 21, 2013, 02:24:28 AM

Also there's been a recent trend in that every girl I go on dates with/hook up with from online dating's idea of a good time is to go back to their place and smoke weed with their weed buddies.

Now I've got nothing against the 420 and people who smoke it. But it's not something I dig and I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who smoked like EVERY DAY. Once and a while is fine, but yeah, maybe I'm just having bad luck but I'm feeling like every girl age 25-30 who is online dating is a pothead these days and that's :\ for me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 21, 2013, 02:45:56 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on January 21, 2013, 02:24:28 AM

Also there's been a recent trend in that every girl I go on dates with/hook up with from online dating's idea of a good time is to go back to their place and smoke weed with their weed buddies.

Now I've got nothing against the 420 and people who smoke it. But it's not something I dig and I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who smoked like EVERY DAY. Once and a while is fine, but yeah, maybe I'm just having bad luck but I'm feeling like every girl age 25-30 who is online dating is a pothead these days and that's :\ for me.

I agree 100%

The plus side is that those chicks tend to be rather fun. But if you're looking for anything meaningful, it's the wrong scene to be in.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pickle on January 21, 2013, 04:07:21 AM

So like, what's the consensus on getting involved with someone that you live with? I know it's generally considered to be a bad idea... One of my new flat-mates is pretty cute and I'm sure she has a bit of a thing for me. Kinda getting mixed messages from her, though she is (usually) really friendly with me, and she does glance at me a lot. Can't resist her English accent, goddam.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on January 21, 2013, 04:24:40 AM

If you're cool with maybe having to move out if things go wrong, great. Otherwise probably not a great idea.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on January 21, 2013, 04:54:07 AM

I'd say probably its a good idea.

You're young, enjoy that. Shit goes wrong who cares. You'll look back at it and laugh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pickle on January 21, 2013, 05:26:04 AM

Quote from: chronovore on January 21, 2013, 04:24:40 AM

If you're cool with maybe having to move out if things go wrong, great. Otherwise probably not a great idea.

Yea, that's pretty much what I was thinking.

Quote from: Premium Lager on January 21, 2013, 04:54:07 AM

I'd say probably its a good idea.

You're young, enjoy that. Shit goes wrong who cares. You'll look back at it and laugh.

Also true... Oh well, I'm going to a Mount Eerie concert next month. Ground zero for cute hipster girls. :pimp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on January 21, 2013, 05:30:19 AM

Look you think youll ever look back on this in 20 years when youre a crustean and think "oh man Im so happy I didnt bang that cute housemate back when I was 20".

Unless she gives you crabs or warts.

Or her boyfriend calls you up and tells you he will kill you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pickle on January 21, 2013, 05:35:25 AM

You've given me a lot to think about duder (Her facebook relationship status is single, that's good enough for me.)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on January 21, 2013, 11:34:17 AM

Quote from: pickle on January 21, 2013, 05:26:04 AM

Also true... Oh well, I'm going to a Mount Eerie concert next month. Ground zero for cute hipster girls. :pimp

I find a lot of hipster girls cute (especially those who go for the Zooey Deschanel look with thick-rimmed glasses and bangs), but for some reason I always bomb TERRIBLY with them. I have better luck with guidettes for chrissakes :-\

Anyways pickle, go for it as long as you can handle some awkwardness if things don't work out entirely, or as long as you don't mind moving if shit REALLY hits the fan..

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on January 21, 2013, 11:37:07 AM

you're not ironic or pretentious, so it kind of makes sense why you would bomb with hipsters.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on January 21, 2013, 12:03:19 PM

Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on January 21, 2013, 09:45:59 AM

I'm with Lager.

*Print screen*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 21, 2013, 12:39:00 PM

Quote from: The Business on January 21, 2013, 12:30:56 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 21, 2013, 12:06:57 AM
Never give up

Had a bit of a weird weekend. My best (female) friend invited me to dinner so we could catch up. I made some baked ziti lol and we had a good time. I got the impression she was subtlely trying to prompt me to make a move, and I kind of just pretended I didn't realize what was going on. A few weeks ago I told Wrath that I planned on finally admitting that I like her, and seeing where she wants it to go; she's liked me for some time, I turned her down twice in the past (high school era, basically) but we have really moved apart over the last few years. I probably should have done something.

I can't believe you give people relationship advice. :lol

I do my best

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on January 21, 2013, 01:20:20 PM

this girl has given me the run around for 2 years now. shes very friendly to me and everything, she even flirts and brings up super sexual topics like what kind of nips she has (she did this the other day) and im not even that interested in her, but whenever I offer to hang out with her as a friend its always "yes" and then when it's time to go she cancels. then she'll make no hesitation of telling me how she's hanging out with some other random guys tho. oh she swings the other way btw. so i dont really know what her deal is. am i being used as a "emotional tampon"? I have never made any indication that I dig her but i've heard from several people that she had a crush on me when we worked together over the summer. it just sucks cuz shes genionely a cool person and i miss my friend please help. I dont mind being there to listen to her and talk about music and shit but I dont understand why she doesnt want to hangout ever. I imagine if she was getting creeped out she wouldve stopped talking to me after I asked her to hang out but for what its worth I NEVER start talking to her shes always igniting conversation via facebook or text message, so I just assume that shes still in love with me and afraid shell make do on those actions if we ever did hang out or thats my confidence playing off my weakness ugh please help

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on January 21, 2013, 02:28:16 PM

Maybe she's just a flake?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on January 21, 2013, 02:47:45 PM

i hope so. she has some negative...past history with men so i dont blame her for flaking, it just hurts to want to hang out and she says no only for her to go a week later "oh im hanging out with blah blah blah" its like...ok thanks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on January 21, 2013, 02:49:18 PM

I could never have sex with a female roommate, because if the sex sucks or she becomes really clingy afterwords, then you have nowhere to go. It becomes a coyote in a beartrap situation.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on January 27, 2013, 09:59:33 PM

Does okcupid actually work?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on January 27, 2013, 10:17:09 PM

I live in a rural area with a very sparse selection of girls so I haven't had much success with OKC but according to your Bore profile you live in Chi-Town so your chances of finding someone with similar interests are definitely greater.

Also, I've seen your pic and you're not ugly or bald so you have that advantage as well. Haha.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on January 27, 2013, 10:23:18 PM

Not bald yet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on January 27, 2013, 10:45:05 PM

Rax, just barely.

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on January 21, 2013, 01:20:20 PM

this girl has given me the run around for 2 years now. shes very friendly to me and everything, she even flirts and brings up super sexual topics like what kind of nips she has (she did this the other day) and im not even that interested in her, but whenever I offer to hang out with her as a friend its always "yes" and then when it's time to go she cancels. then she'll make no hesitation of telling me how she's hanging out with some other random guys tho. oh she swings the other way btw. so i dont really know what her deal is. am i being used as a "emotional tampon"? I have never made any indication that I dig her but i've heard from several people that she had a crush on me when we worked together over the summer. it just sucks cuz shes genionely a cool person and i miss my friend please help. I dont mind being there to listen to her and talk about music and shit but I dont understand why she doesnt want to hangout ever. I imagine if she was getting creeped out she wouldve stopped talking to me after I asked her to hang out but for what its worth I NEVER start talking to her shes always igniting conversation via facebook or text message, so I just assume that shes still in love with me and afraid shell make do on those actions if we ever did hang out or thats my confidence playing off my weakness ugh please help

Just tell her this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on January 27, 2013, 11:22:25 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on January 27, 2013, 09:59:33 PM

Does okcupid actually work?

One of my friends met his fiancee off of it, and another friend met a woman 15 years his senior that he's been dating for about 2 years off of it... I've had plenty of dates but none went past 2-3 dates... yet. I've definitely had more success off Match, since OKC is free the girls tend to be a lot more flaky/picky. It's worth a shot though.

Talking to this Chinese/Italian girl who seems really awesome. She's pretty cute and she had a pic of her in her halloween costume as Sonikku. :sonic

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on January 29, 2013, 04:04:36 AM

I crushed on someone for months, but got turned down because of an extended work trip they had to take to Chicago. I agree to date some kid who hasn't turned 20 yet, things escalate quickly, and the next thing I know I get a message from the Chicago person asking if I wanna go out next week. And if that wasn't ironic enough, a third person I had a thing for (who works at my neighborhood supermarket) but never interacted with beside a friendly smile, adds me on facebook out of nowhere a few hours later, and starts flirting.

I'm flattered and all, where the fuck were those two just a few days ago?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on January 29, 2013, 04:05:16 AM

shut up, gays love sex

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on January 29, 2013, 04:10:31 AM

Shaka reminds me of Charlie Runkle from Californication and his gayjent arc.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on January 29, 2013, 04:21:09 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on January 29, 2013, 04:05:16 AM

shut up, gays love sex

It's true, I want all three. I don't want to choose.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on January 29, 2013, 05:08:18 AM

Quote from: am nintenho on January 27, 2013, 10:45:05 PM

Rax, just barely.

Yes I think so to.

Though I guess it could also be my fault.

I've been on the website for awhile. Maybe half a year? And maybe I've gotten a 11 visters and a couple of messages. But really these messages have not been girls I would find attractive. Maybe my standards aren't realistic whin my actual standing, I don't know. But it's not even that these women's looks don't appeal to me. It's also that their message's don't do anything.

One girl messaged me with "Hi". I replied you know with the what's up. She replied "nothin". I tried to make a joke about how I was up to such exciting things such as nothing as well. Ok no smooth talker material, but I don't have much to go off of. I'm not a big talker myself. She replied "lol" and then I just didn't reply.

Another girl was rather blunt in her message starting off the bat saying "your hot". She wasn't, but I like the idea of an aggressive woman, especially sexually, because I think it would be easier to open up to a women who is more comfortable with that stuff and quite honestly in the end I'm no prude, just scared to open up. I'm kind of a shy dude. Anyway, the girl then proceeds to mention she's working on getting through the anniversary of her brother and father's death. If I had a boner it would be pretty dead now. It's like too much information and mood killer type at that. I never replied back.

And any other message plays out the same basically.

But at least I received messages. I try and message girls who's profiles sound more up my ally. In my message I at least try to refer to something they wrote that interested me. I have yet to get a reply back.

Though I did get a reply from a girl who said she was "bubbly" even though in her pictures she seemed anything but.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/jinxbites?cf=youve-rated
Tell me I'm wrong.
-Hey she edited out bubbly.

I guess the problem could be my profile is not appealing. I don't sound driven and successful and really I'm not. That's half the reason I don't think i'm good enough to even have a relationship. I'm still trying to get though school while a lot of people my age(according to my facebook) are done with it. But on the flipside, I'm 22 and well I think I kind of need to at least date a girl or something. People have already asked "questions".

Maybe my standards aren't inline with my actual abilities, but then again I don't think I'm messaging super models. Though the girls messaging me don't help my confidence. If I sound like a dick, well hey I can't help it.

So yeah I don't know about this okcupid thing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on January 29, 2013, 05:26:50 AM

That one sounds crazy, and she's 19. Might be fun for a day or two before you realize how dumb she is. A lot of girls in general have the same facial expressions in their pictures. A friend of mine who did modeling says that you're supposed do a perpetual half-swallow to constrict your facial muscles and make your features look skinnier.

Anyways, it sounds like you just suck at sending messages to strangers on the net. Just be funny and honest and curious. Don't try to flatter them or say some generic question like "how was your weekend/summer etc?"

I think you said you work as a plumbers assistant. I don't know if you feel that makes you seem less desirable but you could just say that after hs, you didn't know what you wanted to do so you decided to go into a trade where you make decent money but then you realized that you're fascinated by xyz academic subject and are working towards going into that.

I'm assuming your personality match questions are mostly sane.

Oh and if you send a message that is pretty good but the girl doesn't visit your profile, bump it like a week later because most girls can't keep up with every single message, just ask them if they got around to reading it. It's worked for me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on January 29, 2013, 11:04:39 AM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on January 29, 2013, 04:21:09 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on January 29, 2013, 04:05:16 AM
shut up, gays love sex

It's true, I want all three. I don't want to choose.

who says you have to? you're not marrying them. Are you already exclusive with whatstheirface? Nothing wrong with dating around

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on January 29, 2013, 11:48:48 AM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on January 29, 2013, 04:21:09 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on January 29, 2013, 04:05:16 AM
shut up, gays love sex

It's true, I want all three. I don't want to choose.

Your gay sex land of plenty will make some unlucky hetero's here consider playing for your team.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on January 29, 2013, 02:01:08 PM

Quote from: The Business on January 29, 2013, 08:36:27 AM

Is there a reason your failures on OKC necessarily mean the system is flawed? It's just another tool to meet girls and ask them out. If you struggle with that already, it's not magic.

No? I belive I said I was probably at fault.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on January 29, 2013, 02:09:10 PM

Quote from: The Business on January 29, 2013, 11:17:43 AM

Except that it's gross and devalues you as a person.

nothing wrong with being a slut

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on January 29, 2013, 02:14:42 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on January 27, 2013, 10:45:05 PM

Just tell her this.

I want to and prob will shortly. Thanks. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 29, 2013, 07:29:12 PM

Get notice from OKCupid that a woman indicated interest

Look @ her profile

"most important part of my life is my savior jes..."

goddamnit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on January 29, 2013, 08:55:38 PM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on January 29, 2013, 04:21:09 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on January 29, 2013, 04:05:16 AM
shut up, gays love sex

It's true, I want all three. I don't want to choose.

a date is not a proposal of marriage, why not explore all the options.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 29, 2013, 09:12:22 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on January 29, 2013, 07:29:12 PM

Get notice from OKCupid that a woman indicated interest

(http://gifsoup.com/imager.php?id=3751816&t=o)

Quote from: MrAngryFace on January 29, 2013, 07:29:12 PM

Look @ her profile

"most important part of my life is my savior jes..."

goddamnit

(http://i1195.photobucket.com/albums/aa398/gp03stamen/Lulz/cry.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on January 29, 2013, 09:18:30 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on January 29, 2013, 05:08:18 AM

Quote from: am nintenho on January 27, 2013, 10:45:05 PM
Rax, just barely.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/jinxbites?cf=youve-rated

Quote

The first things people usually notice about me
My height. Which I get 'aww you're tiny' or 'aww you're so cute' right away. Next would be my piercings, then my chest

ooh...

Rahx, did you get any more pictures than what's on her profile?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on January 29, 2013, 10:04:33 PM

lol, no I'm pretty sure I offended her by saying she did'nt look very happy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 29, 2013, 10:09:14 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 29, 2013, 09:12:22 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on January 29, 2013, 07:29:12 PM
Get notice from OKCupid that a woman indicated interest
(http://gifsoup.com/imager.php?id=3751816&t=o)

Quote from: MrAngryFace on January 29, 2013, 07:29:12 PM
Look @ her profile

"most important part of my life is my savior jes..."

goddamnit
(http://i1195.photobucket.com/albums/aa398/gp03stamen/Lulz/cry.gif)

lol- I just don't wanna compete with A MAN WHO MAY OR MAY NOT HAVE EXISTED

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 29, 2013, 10:12:23 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 29, 2013, 09:12:22 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on January 29, 2013, 07:29:12 PM
Get notice from OKCupid that a woman indicated interest
(http://gifsoup.com/imager.php?id=3751816&t=o)

Quote from: MrAngryFace on January 29, 2013, 07:29:12 PM
Look @ her profile

"most important part of my life is my savior jes..."

goddamnit
(http://i1195.photobucket.com/albums/aa398/gp03stamen/Lulz/cry.gif)

More like

Get notice from OKCupid that a woman indicated interest

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VLnWf1sQkjY

Look @ her profile

"most important part of my life is my savior jes..."

goddamnit

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p2Rch6WvPJE

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on January 30, 2013, 06:05:49 AM

That doesn't mean much, btw. I know plenty of self professed holy rolling women that get down and dirty on the regular. You're closing yourself off to a lot of good opportunities.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 30, 2013, 08:51:25 AM

I've had a lot of bad experiences with organized religion, it can matter a whole lot in the long run.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 30, 2013, 09:29:04 AM

Same, I don't blame you. The fact is there are some cool laid back Religious people but there are too many potential social pitfalls to dating religious people overall. Family, annoying social commentary, etc. I'm especially turned off by the casual homophobia I hear from most Christians I know. Basically IMO if you're intolerant and in my age bracket, in fucking 2013, there's no hope for you so buh bye.

Oh and I want to avoid the "I do stuff you want to do, how come you can't go to church with me?" game.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 30, 2013, 10:41:16 AM

Im sorry, but if your online dating profile has the words my savior jesus Christ that puts you in a pretty special camp of folks. Last woman I dated seriously wasn't even super religious but I still found myself at a church where they're all singing loud and clapping n shit and its like GODDAMNITTTTTTTT. She was cool though but a relationship with someone into organized religion usually means you also have to maintain a relationship it their church if you're serious about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on January 30, 2013, 10:53:40 AM

You're cockblocked by life anyways you fucking cunt

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on January 30, 2013, 10:56:27 AM

Quote from: The Experiment on January 30, 2013, 06:05:49 AM

That doesn't mean much, btw. I know plenty of self professed holy rolling women that get down and dirty on the regular. You're closing yourself off to a lot of good opportunities.

These people usually just select the appropriate drop down box in the religion category vs proclaiming their love

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on January 30, 2013, 11:20:08 AM

I dated a bible thumper for a few months and it ended in disaster. Seeing the word "Jesus" on a profile is enough to make me say no.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on January 30, 2013, 11:24:36 AM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on January 30, 2013, 10:41:16 AM

Im sorry, but if your online dating profile has the words my savior jesus Christ that puts you in a pretty special camp of folks. Last woman I dated seriously wasn't even super religious but I still found myself at a church where they're all singing loud and clapping n shit and its like GODDAMNITTTTTTTT. She was cool though but a relationship with someone into organized religion usually means you also have to maintain a relationship it their church if you're serious about it.

Nah, I wouldn't go to church either. It is just that most people who claim to be religious are the non-practicing kinds or CEOs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on January 30, 2013, 11:35:06 AM

My urge to move to the Pacific Northwest grows stronger by the day... The cute country gal I kinda had the hots for is religious. :-\

I'm hoping that while I'm still in SC one of my non-religious guy friends can help set me up with any non-religious girls he knows. But... that's kind of an odd thing to ask of someone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 30, 2013, 12:01:02 PM

Can't speak for other demographics but I'd say a good 60% of "my savior Jesus Christ" black chicks are heavy partiers and do everything but suck dick. I rarely meet a true bible thumper young black person, and I was raised in that environment my entire childhood.

It's more of an inspirational thing than an ideology - well, except for the gay bashing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on January 30, 2013, 01:56:05 PM

Glad I live in #85:

(http://cities.barna.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/barna_biblemindedcities_preview1.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bacchus7 on January 30, 2013, 01:57:40 PM

I knew there was a reason I miss living in 96.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on January 30, 2013, 02:26:50 PM

I used to live in #88. Kind of surprised to see it there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on January 30, 2013, 03:00:50 PM

#11 :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on January 30, 2013, 03:00:56 PM

I'm surprised to see Buffalo so close to NYC, I thought the prominence of Polish and Irish Catholics would have made it more bible-minded. My friends from Buffalo are definitely overall more religious than my friends from the island (though no where close to "bible thumper" territory).

I have nothing wrong with casual churchgoers but those who make it a big part of their lives tend to scare me off. I've had one really bad experience that soured me on it, and would rather not compromise my beliefs (or lack of them) to appease a girl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 30, 2013, 07:45:49 PM

AGAIN- if your OK CUPID account has you talkin about Jesus Christ bein your savior- you aren't the average.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on January 30, 2013, 07:52:44 PM

A friend of mine who I was neighbors with for several years announced on her Facebook that she is pregnant with her 5th child. At age 29.

Oh well, I guess someone is having the kids that I'm not going to have.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 30, 2013, 07:58:30 PM

How is that possible :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on January 30, 2013, 08:18:23 PM

Quote from: Atramental on January 30, 2013, 11:35:06 AM

My urge to move to the Pacific Northwest grows stronger by the day... The cute country gal I kinda had the hots for is religious. :-\

I'm hoping that while I'm still in SC one of my non-religious guy friends can help set me up with any non-religious girls he knows. But... that's kind of an odd thing to ask of someone.

How is it odd to ask a male friend to set you up with somebody who's like-minded?

I mean, it could just naturally come up in a conversation talking about bible-thumpers.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on January 30, 2013, 08:51:11 PM

Jewish girl I mentioned earlier (the one who is into EDM and many of the same movies as me) gave me her #... turns out she was in Florida on vacation that's why she didn't get back to me sooner. So I'm gonna try to set something up, will be my first date of 2013.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on January 30, 2013, 09:40:01 PM

:bow Japanese women with utter indifference to religion :bow2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on January 30, 2013, 09:44:26 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on January 30, 2013, 08:18:23 PM

Quote from: Atramental on January 30, 2013, 11:35:06 AM
My urge to move to the Pacific Northwest grows stronger by the day... The cute country gal I kinda had the hots for is religious. :-\

I'm hoping that while I'm still in SC one of my non-religious guy friends can help set me up with any non-religious girls he knows. But... that's kind of an odd thing to ask of someone.
How is it odd to ask a male friend to set you up with somebody who's like-minded?

I mean, it could just naturally come up in a conversation talking about bible-thumpers.

Okay then. If it's not that odd to do then I'll try to bring it up during one of our conversations.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on January 30, 2013, 10:31:53 PM

Yer stumpy gaijin wiener sent her down the path of sin. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on January 30, 2013, 10:33:44 PM

oooh defiling a nun, that's hot

does she yell 'Amaterasu preserve me!' like in Claremont's X-men

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on January 30, 2013, 10:34:40 PM

OldBore?? Excuse me while I kick this punk's ass everybody

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on January 30, 2013, 10:38:07 PM

swing his ass like a kettlebell

i perverted my wife away from the lord with sexxxular sinning* :hump

spoiler (click to show/hide)

*sidehugging 4 life

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on January 30, 2013, 10:39:09 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on January 30, 2013, 10:35:21 PM

Don't be surprised if I welcome it :heartbeat

i was about to slip on my sandpaper condom but then i realized your Saudi asshole is used to sandy cock already and i'm back at square one

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 30, 2013, 10:52:48 PM

Now that you mention it, around 60% of AARP Bore are married to Asian women
(http://imageshack.us/a/img835/1166/ehhv.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on January 30, 2013, 11:11:11 PM

i am not really sensitive about being old, i've enjoyed the years and i am glad to have survived them

EB in general has a massively desensitizing effect, well for everyone except Himuro

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on January 30, 2013, 11:47:05 PM

Hey Cormac, are really as old as what your FB page says you are? Going by your photos I always thought you were a 35-ish bloke.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on January 31, 2013, 01:02:46 AM

I've been single for 6+ months now... I'm actually pretty content but I wish there was SOMEONE out there for me.. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on January 31, 2013, 01:05:30 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on January 31, 2013, 01:02:46 AM

I've been single for 6+ months now... I'm actually pretty content but I wish there was SOMEONE out there for me.. :(

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mh8MIp2FOhc

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on January 31, 2013, 01:05:44 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on January 31, 2013, 01:04:24 AM

Might want to change your tag then, no?

This tag was given to me by my best borefriend so no!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on January 31, 2013, 01:06:22 AM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on January 31, 2013, 01:05:30 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on January 31, 2013, 01:02:46 AM
I've been single for 6+ months now... I'm actually pretty content but I wish there was SOMEONE out there for me.. :(

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mh8MIp2FOhc

Bon Jobi knows how to speak to my heart :heart

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 05, 2013, 01:20:08 AM

:elephant :elephant :elephant

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on February 06, 2013, 01:54:25 AM

Quote from: Cormacaroni on January 30, 2013, 09:40:01 PM

:bow Japanese women with utter indifference to religion :bow2

Yeah, this is pretty great.

Although in my neighborhood there have been a lot of nosy middle-aged women showing up trying to get me to go to church. WTF is up with that? "Oh, he's a foreigner! They're all Christian, so this should be an easy sell!" GO AWAY.

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on January 30, 2013, 10:39:57 PM

:heart

EDIT: For real though, I didn't mean offense by that if you guys did get irked by that comment. So I apologize.

Back to the matter at hand, I've found that most of the girls I've liked have come from countries that are rather indifferent to religion. I have a thing for Dutch girls, they're always fun and i haven't met one who wears her religion on her sleeve or is defined by it. Unsurprisingly I've been thinking about moving there at some point in the near future.

I'm actually pretty happy to be where I am, age-wise, right now. I occasionally feel old; mostly things related to my vision going, and a herniated neck, but I am pretty sure I got that in the dojo, so it's not exactly "general decrepitude."

If you ever offend me, I'll hit you up directly in PM, no worries.

On the other hand, I think it's amazing that Himumu feels comfortable slinging so much shit around here, and gets so bent out of shape when he's on the receiving end of it. I apologized in the other thread where he claimed to be hurt, now I think maybe he was just trolling; either way, he can spend some time in the Internet penalty box, until I feel like paying attention to him again.

Quote from: Cormacaroni on January 30, 2013, 10:39:09 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on January 30, 2013, 10:35:21 PM
Don't be surprised if I welcome it :heartbeat

i was about to slip on my sandpaper condom but then i realized your Saudi asshole is used to sandy cock already and i'm back at square one

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on February 07, 2013, 01:38:42 AM

/beta

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on February 07, 2013, 01:39:39 AM

Quote from: Robo on February 07, 2013, 01:38:42 AM

/beta

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 07, 2013, 01:47:49 AM

girl: this weather...oomf
puddles: ...yes, this weather. i should have worn my Gucci sweater
girl: in this weather? it would be too hot
puddles: ha yea that's true...
girl: yea *puzzled smile*
puddles: yea weather...sometimes it's hot, sometimes it's cold, what ya gonna do
girl: yea...
puddles: cyclical. that's what the process is called
girl: *slowly walks across the street*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on February 07, 2013, 10:26:14 AM

Had a great date last nite with this petite Jewish brunette from OKCupid. Ending with a kiss. :-* She is a fan of AVB and a big fighting game fan (lately she's addicted to Tekken Tag 2)... doesn't like turn-based RPGs though :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on February 07, 2013, 03:19:22 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on February 07, 2013, 01:48:57 PM

So gaming taste is a major factor in your dating preferences?

Actually, most of the girls I've dated weren't into videogames at all. This girl seems pretty cool, she's cute and we seemed to hit it off fairly well. So we'll see...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on February 07, 2013, 03:44:00 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on January 30, 2013, 10:33:04 PM

Well marry Japanese or someone in Seattle, or both.

Hehe. My wife is from Nebraska, but she has lived in Seattle for 14 years now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 07, 2013, 04:04:22 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on February 07, 2013, 03:44:00 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on January 30, 2013, 10:33:04 PM

Well marry Japanese or someone in Seattle, or both.

Hehe. My wife is from Nebraska, but she has lived in Seattle for 14 years now.

Pretty sure I've met people from every state except Nebraska, Idaho, and Wyoming. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on February 08, 2013, 01:49:15 AM

Quote from: tiesto on February 07, 2013, 10:26:14 AM

Had a great date last nite with this petite Jewish brunette from OKCupid. Ending with a kiss. :-* She is a fan of AVB and a big fighting game fan (lately she's addicted to Tekken Tag 2)... doesn't like turn-based RPGs though :P

One of the mistakes I used to make was to try and find someone interested in the same hobbies and music and stuff. In the end, I married someone who valued the same things I do, but we have very little in common in terms of what media we consume. We don't focus on money, but we are proud to be good at our jobs, we care about our immediate family, including parents, grandparents, and our siblings. Our aunts and uncles, second cousins, they can participate in our lives if they behave themselves, but otherwise they're on their own. It's worked for 16 years so far.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on February 08, 2013, 02:55:10 AM

I don't think most of us have been physically capable of sex for 16 years.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on February 08, 2013, 11:43:29 AM

My wife and I like the same bands and movies, but that's about it. She's not into gaming and thinks my giant robot cartoons are silly but harmless. She's a hardcore Broadway musical fan, but there's only a handful of shows that interest me.

Works well that we have some shared interests, but also things that are our own.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 08, 2013, 11:52:45 AM

So a Gundam broadway musical would be the greatest thing ever for you two

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on February 08, 2013, 11:55:11 AM

my wife and I enjoy some of the same shows/movies and we have a pretty similar sense of humor but that's it. And I like it that way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on February 08, 2013, 11:56:11 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on February 08, 2013, 11:52:45 AM

So a Gundam broadway musical would be the greatest thing ever for you two

I think we would both equally hate it. So yeah, we'd find some common ground. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on February 08, 2013, 11:57:34 AM

I would totally watch a gundam musical and I'm not really into either of those things.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on February 08, 2013, 11:59:17 AM

The OP for the original Mobile Suit Gundam (1979) would be right up your alley, then.

I'm actually surprised there hasn't been a musical stage adaptation of Gundam in Japan, they do it for tons of anime/manga/game properties.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on February 08, 2013, 12:04:00 PM

I like both giant robot shows and musicals, tho I'm more an Evangelion kind of guy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on February 08, 2013, 01:23:34 PM

I like certain musicals. The more traditional over the top stuff isn't my bag, but I do enjoy Hedwig and the Angry Inch, Assassins, Avenue Q, In the Heights, Book of Mormon, etc.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on February 08, 2013, 01:49:21 PM

I've never been one to actively seek out and go to musicals, but I really liked Les Mis, Rent, and The 39 Steps. Didn't care for American Idiot. I really do need to see Book of Mormon (and to a lesser extent, Fela) and have no excuse to why I haven't.

Usually, I end up dating girls with nothing in common than me who actively disdain my hobbies (like my ex, who would refuse to give anything I was into even a try). It's so weird... thats why if I actually meet people who share the same love for music/movies/games it makes things all the more exciting. Though of course having a common worldview is of the utmost importance.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on February 08, 2013, 03:10:28 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on February 07, 2013, 01:47:49 AM

girl: this weather...oomf
puddles: ...yes, this weather. i should have worn my Gucci sweater
girl: in this weather? it would be too hot
puddles: ha yea that's true...
girl: yea *puzzled smile*
puddles: yea weather...sometimes it's hot, sometimes it's cold, what ya gonna do
girl: yea...
puddles: cyclical. that's what the process is called
girl: *slowly walks across the street*

out of curiosity what are you supposed toa ctually do in this situation cuz im lost besides the awkward attempts to make more conversation

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on February 08, 2013, 03:24:45 PM

"In this weather? it would be too hot."
"You're the one who's hot."

*begin inserting your tongue down her throat"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on February 08, 2013, 03:27:09 PM

"In this weather? it would be too hot."
"You're right. Let me take my shirt off."

(http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-NSWCBr7f3Bk/Tjdfosk08zI/AAAAAAAAZp0/a_tdO7FmUTQ/s1600/tumblr_lp10yyZyKM1qfnac5o1_500.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on February 08, 2013, 03:41:56 PM

i dig ya brothers.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on February 08, 2013, 03:46:36 PM

i wish i was better at flirting online and in text. im fine irl but when it comes to facebook or texts im shite

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on February 08, 2013, 03:53:28 PM

Has anyone seen this tumbler. In the great tradition of fedoras of ok cupid and Okcupind goldmine.

http://creepywhiteguys.tumblr.com/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on February 08, 2013, 04:03:29 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on February 08, 2013, 03:27:09 PM

(http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-NSWCBr7f3Bk/Tjdfosk08zI/AAAAAAAAZp0/a_tdO7FmUTQ/s1600/tumblr_lp10yyZyKM1qfnac5o1_500.gif)

/FitnessBore

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on February 08, 2013, 04:17:58 PM

Quote from: Atramental on February 08, 2013, 03:24:45 PM

"In this weather? it would be too hot."
"You're the one who's hot."

And then, we banged.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on February 11, 2013, 09:11:02 AM

Anyone use the app Tinder before? A buddy of mine told me all his NYC lawyer friends are using it. Some anonymous thing linked to your facebook that allows you to message local girls/guys, but you both have to "like" each other before you can talk.

I'm skeptical. Not only about this but all other dating services as well. But I'll give it a shot. At worst, I'll be able to creep on local wimenz.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on February 11, 2013, 08:06:58 PM

The first and only question you should ask is "would women really use it?".

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 11, 2013, 08:48:39 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on February 11, 2013, 08:06:58 PM

The first and only question you should ask is "would women really use it?".

.

Sounds far fetched. If you want super easy NSA sex, go gay

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on February 11, 2013, 09:59:23 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on February 11, 2013, 08:06:58 PM

The first and only question you should ask is "would women really use it?".

It's linked to Facebook. And it's a new hot iPhone app.

Way better shot of women using it than a dating site.

Regardless I don't live in a big enough city for this to work. Everyone already knows everyone. So deleted

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on February 11, 2013, 10:03:49 PM

How hard is it to make fake Facebook accounts for phishing? Not saying no one's using it, I just would set my expectations low.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on February 11, 2013, 10:06:54 PM

It shows you if you have any friends in common. And I did with almost all the girls. So it appears at least most of the accounts in my area are real. For now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on February 12, 2013, 05:51:45 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on February 11, 2013, 11:03:10 PM

Sent my first two okcupid messages ever. We'll see if I get any replies. The goal was to send 10, but I'm too busy tonight. Definitely gonna try to cast a wide net though.

good luck.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pickle on February 12, 2013, 06:55:28 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on February 11, 2013, 08:48:39 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on February 11, 2013, 08:06:58 PM
The first and only question you should ask is "would women really use it?".
.

Sounds far fetched. If you want super easy NSA sex, go gay

Everyone knows that maths PhDs have big cocks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on February 14, 2013, 09:05:10 PM

Looks like C2E2(Chicago comic convention) is going to have the sci-fi speed dating thing. Inspired by tiesto, I'm going to do this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on February 14, 2013, 09:11:30 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1SsEAq4-p2w&feature=youtu.be

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 14, 2013, 09:38:01 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on February 14, 2013, 09:05:10 PM

Looks like C2E2(Chicago comic convention) is going to have the sci-fi speed dating thing. Inspired by tiesto, I'm going to do this.

I hope they only pair you with black girls

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on February 14, 2013, 09:39:31 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on February 14, 2013, 09:05:10 PM

Looks like C2E2(Chicago comic convention) is going to have the sci-fi speed dating thing. Inspired by tiesto, I'm going to do this.

Awesome, best of luck to you!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pickle on February 16, 2013, 07:35:14 PM

I'm starting to form more of an older brother relationship with my cute flatmate, which I'm actually kinda enjoying. I think she'd be too young for me anyway. Although she has told me "I know I've said this before when I was quite drunk, but you are very good-looking." Massive confidence boost. It's put me in a good mood. :pimp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 16, 2013, 10:10:01 PM

Make sure she calls you big brother during the sex

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pickle on February 16, 2013, 11:59:35 PM

:lol Fuck you

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pickle on February 19, 2013, 01:51:03 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on February 16, 2013, 10:10:01 PM

Make sure she calls you big brother during the sex

Actually she's asked me to come out with her and her friends tonight. This'll be interesting.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on February 19, 2013, 04:21:03 AM

Exo you got the butt-secks tho in a place that never gets cold.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on February 19, 2013, 06:55:49 PM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on February 19, 2013, 06:59:38 PM

Have a date with a 20 year old this weekend myself :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on February 19, 2013, 07:16:27 PM

Quote from: Robo on February 19, 2013, 06:55:49 PM

I have a date with a 21-year-old redhead hottie this weekend. Thinking about printing out some consent forms—learned that shit from Law & Order: SVU.

From what I know about women, getting her to sign it might be awkward. I'd just forge her signature.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on February 19, 2013, 07:52:16 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on February 19, 2013, 06:59:38 PM

Have a date with a 20 year old this weekend myself :-\

I'm about six years older than you, but this is definitely worse. You know damn well drinking age is the minimum. :wag

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on February 19, 2013, 08:04:03 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on February 19, 2013, 06:59:38 PM

Have a date with a 20 year old this weekend myself :-\

I had someone 6 years younger than me ask me to go out with them in Gamestop (he was the cashier of Gamestop :lol). I always avoid Gamestop but I wanted to buy Xenoblade.... He was begging for my number as I walked out the door with my game. I feel for you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Don Flamenco on February 19, 2013, 08:07:22 PM

Sorry, but the gamestop clerk didn't really like you.

See, they find marks, act really nice to them, ask to hang out and stuff. Then you invite them over and they're very polite. A few weeks later, it'll seem like the gamestop employee is your friend or possibly even your lover. But eventually, you will put it together that he's gotten all of your friends and relatives, individually, to pre-order a game with him.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Lan on February 19, 2013, 08:22:04 PM

never trust Gamestop... NEVER

everytime I go there some dude is looking at me funny. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on February 19, 2013, 09:07:02 PM

yeah, do it somewhere classy like outside a McDonalds

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on February 19, 2013, 09:30:11 PM

because you made someone who was probably pretty cool uncomfortable in a place that should be a refuge from being hassled for their interests, not to mention everyone who had to watch you get shot down? it's not always about YOU

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on February 19, 2013, 09:36:07 PM

referring to the process as taking shots and assuming you'll never see her again gives quite the opposite impression but hey

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on February 19, 2013, 10:53:47 PM

I'm gonna go ice skating with the Jewish girl this weekend... should be fun, I haven't been ice skating in ages (used to go all the time in HS and try to pick up girls on the ice :P ).

It just hit me that 4 of my closest HS friends are all getting married this year. And I don't have a date for any of the weddings. :fbm

Still have a bit of time but damn I gotta step things up a bit. Gonna rejoin Match soon I think, in the past I had more dates off that than OKC (girls seemed a lot more serious and less flaky on Match, prob because it's a paysite)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on February 20, 2013, 12:57:23 AM

no, it is utterly, utterly normal

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 23, 2013, 04:31:56 AM

Was at a bar with friends and came back from the restroom and they told me I missed them chatting with this buzzed American-Japanese girl which they said was such a waste since I know Japanese and was not there. So I sit back down and then bring her over and she's pretty much supermodel looking, and she starts shooting out fast paced Japanese valley talk and, myself being fairly buzzed at the time, I start rolling in dialogue with her in Japanese back and forth and we are talking and shooting shit in Japanese and then my friends are like "hey, how's his Japanese" and she's like "haha, it's good. He's really cute!!" and she's grabbing and hugging me.

My friends wanted me to get her number, but I'm just so not into asian girls, I didn't do it. Honestly the act of actually having a chance to shoot the shit in Japanese was way more fun than the actual act of shooting the shit with a smoking hot supermodel girl. I probably should've got her number just to practice Japanese even if I wasn't interested. Was kind of a fail on my part.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on February 23, 2013, 04:56:08 AM

Hold on, was she just not that interesting or are you totally turned off by asian girls? I've never heard of a japanophile being turned off by asian girls.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on February 23, 2013, 06:15:12 AM

I would hit on a interested supermodel looking girl just for cred.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on February 23, 2013, 07:21:54 AM

Going out with a girl next week. A friend of a friend type of thing. She is cute but no T&A to speak of. I don't care at this point, I just want to get my pencil wet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on February 23, 2013, 10:34:06 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on February 23, 2013, 04:31:56 AM

Honestly the act of actually having a chance to shoot the shit in Japanese was way more fun than the actual act of shooting the shit with a smoking hot supermodel girl.

(http://i.imgur.com/IbKDiPr.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on February 23, 2013, 11:11:32 AM

There is no excuse for not hooking with a supermodel looking girl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on February 23, 2013, 11:25:50 AM

if youre gay there is :( poor bebpo :(

i was at a bar last night with my friends and my friend played the part perfectly and was tlaking to this girl and she was diggin him but the coward didn't get her number or anything, he just let her leave. felt so bad for him :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on February 23, 2013, 12:13:13 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on February 23, 2013, 04:56:08 AM

Hold on, was she just not that interesting or are you totally turned off by asian girls? I've never heard of a japanophile being turned off by asian girls.

Yeah, I'm really surprised Bebs. I thought I was the only weeaboo not hardcore into Asian chicks - though I'm about as into a hot Asian girl the same amount as most people would be, what really makes me crazy is the eastern Euros.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 23, 2013, 01:13:37 PM

That's Wilde Homo territory IMO, you might as well let a guy braid your hair because nothing will be gayer than what you just did, sir. I don't like blondes but if a blonde super model type was super into me due to some shared connection, best believe I'd play along.

She even said you were cute :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on February 23, 2013, 01:38:27 PM

WTF am i reading in this thread CHRIST

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 23, 2013, 08:16:19 PM

I could MAYBE understand this is you were partying with some friends, including a girl you like. So you turn down the Asian chick to basically show the female friend that you have self restraint, are interested in someone else, etc. But even that is dumb because a bird in the hand is better than two in the bush.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on February 23, 2013, 08:17:24 PM

This semester is not helping me get out of my "seldom laid" status at all.

I feel like a goddamn zombie after each week because I'm up so late each night trying to create bullshit projects that I'll never put into my design portfolio. It's fucking infuriating and soul crushing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on February 23, 2013, 08:54:39 PM

True.

But now it's like I have this itch that needs to be constantly scratched because now I know what I have been missing out on for so long. :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on February 23, 2013, 10:07:24 PM

Second date with Jewish girl, we went to a French bistro and then ice skating, followed by Starbucks. She's got a really weird and zany sense of humor, outgoing maybe a bit crazy (but in a good way)... had a great time with her and ended our date with a makeout (first time getting to that stage in a LONG while). :rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on February 24, 2013, 03:03:36 AM

Just because a girl is hot and interested in you doesn't mean you can't keep your weiner out of her guys.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on February 24, 2013, 07:13:59 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on February 23, 2013, 04:31:56 AM

Was at a bar with friends and came back from the restroom and they told me I missed them chatting with this buzzed American-Japanese girl which they said was such a waste since I know Japanese and was not there. So I sit back down and then bring her over and she's pretty much supermodel looking, and she starts shooting out fast paced Japanese valley talk and, myself being fairly buzzed at the time, I start rolling in dialogue with her in Japanese back and forth and we are talking and shooting shit in Japanese and then my friends are like "hey, how's his Japanese" and she's like "haha, it's good. He's really cute!!" and she's grabbing and hugging me.

My friends wanted me to get her number, but I'm just so not into asian girls, I didn't do it. Honestly the act of actually having a chance to shoot the shit in Japanese was way more fun than the actual act of shooting the shit with a smoking hot supermodel girl. I probably should've got her number just to practice Japanese even if I wasn't interested. Was kind of a fail on my part.

I'm impressed by your iron will. They do all look the same in the dark, though :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on February 24, 2013, 08:18:47 AM

Quote from: am nintenho on February 24, 2013, 03:03:36 AM

Just because a girl is hot and interested in you doesn't mean you can't keep your weiner out of her guys.

Gay

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on February 24, 2013, 11:52:06 PM

People who use OK Cupid for 'finding friends' = wat

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on February 24, 2013, 11:56:01 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on February 24, 2013, 11:52:06 PM

People who use OK Cupid for 'finding friends' = wat

Those people are just asking for dry thirst beggars and simps.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on February 25, 2013, 01:41:14 AM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on February 24, 2013, 11:52:06 PM

People who use OK Cupid for 'finding friends' = wat

They want to start out as friends since there's a lot of thirsty guys who will try to immediately sex them. At least in my age group that makes sense.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on February 25, 2013, 01:52:32 AM

No- these are people IN relationships looking for just friends on OK cupid lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 25, 2013, 01:55:23 AM

stop stealth bragging MAF!!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on February 25, 2013, 07:36:23 AM

Bebs, you are a mystery to me. I don't think I've ever me a fan of Japanese culture, media, language, etc. who is not also a fan of the fabulous ladies.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 25, 2013, 09:35:47 AM

Maybe Bebs can't get over the disappointment that Asian women don't really have large eyes and blue hair.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on February 25, 2013, 10:18:56 AM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on February 24, 2013, 11:52:06 PM

People who use OK Cupid for 'finding friends' = wat

From what I gather, those girls are wary of internet dating, probably just got out of a long relationship and need a quick self-esteem boost, so they make a profile and hope to get the quick attention. I've talked to a number of girls who seemed like we'd match up good together, then when I got to the stage of asking them out (~4 emails usually), they told me they don't want to meet anyone off the internet. So annoying.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on February 25, 2013, 10:36:35 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on February 23, 2013, 04:31:56 AM

Was at a bar with friends and came back from the restroom and they told me I missed them chatting with this buzzed American-Japanese girl which they said was such a waste since I know Japanese and was not there. So I sit back down and then bring her over and she's pretty much supermodel looking, and she starts shooting out fast paced Japanese valley talk and, myself being fairly buzzed at the time, I start rolling in dialogue with her in Japanese back and forth and we are talking and shooting shit in Japanese and then my friends are like "hey, how's his Japanese" and she's like "haha, it's good. He's really cute!!" and she's grabbing and hugging me.

My friends wanted me to get her number, but I'm just so not into asian girls, I didn't do it. Honestly the act of actually having a chance to shoot the shit in Japanese was way more fun than the actual act of shooting the shit with a smoking hot supermodel girl. I probably should've got her number just to practice Japanese even if I wasn't interested. Was kind of a fail on my part.

(http://i46.tinypic.com/5zgllu.jpg)
:dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 25, 2013, 03:55:25 PM

Yeah, I actually realized that was a mistake when I sobered up. OH WELL. :derp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on February 25, 2013, 05:26:21 PM

Quote from: Zero Hero on February 25, 2013, 10:36:35 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on February 23, 2013, 04:31:56 AM
Was at a bar with friends and came back from the restroom and they told me I missed them chatting with this buzzed American-Japanese girl which they said was such a waste since I know Japanese and was not there. So I sit back down and then bring her over and she's pretty much supermodel looking, and she starts shooting out fast paced Japanese valley talk and, myself being fairly buzzed at the time, I start rolling in dialogue with her in Japanese back and forth and we are talking and shooting shit in Japanese and then my friends are like "hey, how's his Japanese" and she's like "haha, it's good. He's really cute!!" and she's grabbing and hugging me.

My friends wanted me to get her number, but I'm just so not into asian girls, I didn't do it. Honestly the act of actually having a chance to shoot the shit in Japanese was way more fun than the actual act of shooting the shit with a smoking hot supermodel girl. I probably should've got her number just to practice Japanese even if I wasn't interested. Was kind of a fail on my part.
(http://i46.tinypic.com/5zgllu.jpg)
:dead

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on February 25, 2013, 05:31:39 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on February 25, 2013, 03:55:25 PM

Yeah, I actually realized that was a mistake when I sobered up. OH WELL. :derp

What the hell this is not how being drunk works

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on February 25, 2013, 06:01:31 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on February 25, 2013, 05:31:39 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on February 25, 2013, 03:55:25 PM
Yeah, I actually realized that was a mistake when I sobered up. OH WELL. :derp

What the hell this is not how being drunk works

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 25, 2013, 07:32:47 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on February 25, 2013, 05:31:39 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on February 25, 2013, 03:55:25 PM
Yeah, I actually realized that was a mistake when I sobered up. OH WELL. :derp

What the hell this is not how being drunk works

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on February 25, 2013, 08:20:34 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on February 25, 2013, 05:31:39 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on February 25, 2013, 03:55:25 PM
Yeah, I actually realized that was a mistake when I sobered up. OH WELL. :derp

What the hell this is not how being drunk works

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Smooth Groove on February 25, 2013, 09:55:12 PM

I don't get how one can be so into Japanese culture and still find their women so unattractive

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on February 25, 2013, 10:42:47 PM

Quote from: Smooth Groove on February 25, 2013, 09:55:12 PM

I don't get how one can be so into Japanese culture and still find their women so unattractive

females in animu and video games are white women. probably.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on February 25, 2013, 11:17:06 PM

Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on February 25, 2013, 10:07:24 PM

Quote from: Smooth Groove on February 25, 2013, 09:55:12 PM
I don't get how one can be so into Japanese culture and still find their women so unattractive

this pretty much describes japan-born otaku in a nutshell.

Don't they find any non-2D women unattractive though?

I like Japanese women same as the next straight male, but even as a weeaboo my favorite will always be the girls from the Eastern Bloc.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on February 26, 2013, 01:09:36 AM

Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on February 25, 2013, 10:07:24 PM

Quote from: Smooth Groove on February 25, 2013, 09:55:12 PM
I don't get how one can be so into Japanese culture and still find their women so unattractive

this pretty much describes japan-born otaku in a nutshell.

I like 'herbivores' better than otaku

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on February 26, 2013, 03:25:25 AM

Quote from: Premium Lager on February 25, 2013, 05:31:39 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on February 25, 2013, 03:55:25 PM
Yeah, I actually realized that was a mistake when I sobered up. OH WELL. :derp

What the hell this is not how being drunk works

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on February 26, 2013, 03:27:17 AM

So I guess this is kind of lol, but it's also a step forward for me as I'm deathly shy when it comes to meeting girls in public (and why I meet all the girls I date through online dating)

I got my first number from a girl (not through online dating) tonight. Was at a concert and saw a girl standing around drinking a beer by herself so I went up and said hi and we talked for a while and after the show talked more and exchanged numbers and facebook names and I gave her a ride home.

It's good because now I don't feel like afraid to just walk up to a girl and say hi. I didn't have some genius line to say or anything, but I just said literally "hi, are you here for the opening band or main band?" and we talked. It helped that it was a super indie show with like 15 people total so we actually had something in common both liking the band.

I guess I just got sick of cute girls looking at me and smiling as they walk by and myself always being too shy to do anything about it. Even tonight, before I talked to this girl, some reallllly cute girl walked right by me with her friend, turned her head and smiled right at me. I dunno, these days I swear I'm getting hit on left and right; probably because outside of my shyness around talking to girls my confidence is actually doing great and I'm good looking guy with a nice smile. If I can just get over my shyness I would be doing very ok in romantic antics right about now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 26, 2013, 04:05:03 AM

Quote from: Premium Lager on February 25, 2013, 05:31:39 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on February 25, 2013, 03:55:25 PM
Yeah, I actually realized that was a mistake when I sobered up. OH WELL. :derp

What the hell this is not how being drunk works

:lol

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Post by: brawndolicious on February 26, 2013, 05:25:19 AM

Quote from: Premium Lager on February 24, 2013, 08:18:47 AM

Quote from: am nintenho on February 24, 2013, 03:03:36 AM
Just because a girl is hot and interested in you doesn't mean you can't keep your weiner out of her guys.

Gay

You must be a cigarillo-cunt because you're riding all ovah me.

Quote from: MrAngryFace on February 25, 2013, 01:52:32 AM

No- these are people IN relationships looking for just friends on OK cupid lol

Then they're idiots and you don't need to have anything to do with them.

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Post by: Mupepe on February 26, 2013, 08:29:08 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on February 26, 2013, 03:27:17 AM

So I guess this is kind of lol, but it's also a step forward for me as I'm deathly shy when it comes to meeting girls in public (and why I meet all the girls I date through online dating)

I got my first number from a girl (not through online dating) tonight. Was at a concert and saw a girl standing around drinking a beer by herself so I went up and said hi and we talked for a while and after the show talked more and exchanged numbers and facebook names and I gave her a ride home.

It's good because now I don't feel like afraid to just walk up to a girl and say hi. I didn't have some genius line to say or anything, but I just said literally "hi, are you here for the opening band or main band?" and we talked. It helped that it was a super indie show with like 15 people total so we actually had something in common both liking the band.

I guess I just got sick of cute girls looking at me and smiling as they walk by and myself always being too shy to do anything about it. Even tonight, before I talked to this girl, some reallllly cute girl walked right by me with her friend, turned her head and smiled right at me. I dunno, these days I swear I'm getting hit on left and right; probably because outside of my shyness around talking to girls my confidence is actually doing great and I'm good looking guy with a nice smile. If I can just get over my shyness I would be doing very ok in romantic antics right about now.

You don't have to have anything genius to say. Talking to them like a human being instead of an idol on a pedestal or some target on a wall is really all most guys need to do. Good job, man!

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 26, 2013, 08:33:48 AM

Gratz Beps. Like Mupepe said, talking to girls like regular people helps. We tend to get analyze stuff, trying to determine the funniest most impressive shit to say...when in reality a basic concersation is best. You're golden as long as you don't talk about the weather or compliment her boobs.

She let ou drive her home? Wut whoa, impressive; how did that come about?

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Post by: Bebpo on February 26, 2013, 12:02:19 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on February 26, 2013, 08:33:48 AM

Gratz Beps. Like Mupepe said, talking to girls like regular people helps. We tend to get analyze stuff, trying to determine the funniest most impressive shit to say...when in reality a basic concersation is best. You're golden as long as you don't talk about the weather or compliment her boobs.

She let ou drive her home? Wut whoa, impressive; how did that come about?

Yeah, I mean I have no problem talking to girls since I have a decent amount of female friends. My problem is walking up and approaching strangers and starting a conversation. Even doing that with guys has always been really tough for me. I'm fine when I'm in a situation where you're supposed to talk to the people around you, like in a class or a club or hanging out with a group of friends. In those situations I go up to everyone and introduce myself. It's when I'm in a public place and everyone's sort of keeping to themselves it's always been ridiculously tough for me to introduce myself. For instance, when waiting at stop lights for the light to change, there's always a few people hanging around but I've never said anything to anyone there and no one has ever said anything to me.

In general I feel like our society is very much a "keep to yourself" one and everyone is afraid to say hi to each other (I think this is easier if you're in a city where people actually walk around. I live in the suburbs where everyone drives 50 feet to get coffee rather than cross a street). There's always this apprehension of coming off as bugging someone or a creep when approaching a stranger. It's something I've been trying to get over, so last night was a good first step of finally actually doing it.

And yeah, she had taken the bus to the show so I offered to give her a ride home and that's how that happened.

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 27, 2013, 01:55:53 PM

older women :lawd

we have a 30 something chick who always play-flirts with me whenever she comes in. Brunette, kind of tall, nice boobs better ass. oh lawd

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 27, 2013, 02:16:23 PM

Naw :smugfavre

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Post by: Lan on February 27, 2013, 07:35:39 PM

but the stick goes into the hole

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 27, 2013, 08:14:36 PM

I've only liked a couple girls my age. Most of the ones I've pursued we're in their late 20s early 30s

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Post by: BlackMage on February 27, 2013, 10:52:43 PM

A girl just gave me a wrong number on OKCupid.. wtf that's mean :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pickle on March 01, 2013, 08:54:40 AM

Ok, cute flatmate definitely feels the same way about me. Fuck, I'm not sure we know what to do about it...

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Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on March 01, 2013, 08:56:49 AM

Quote from: pickle on March 01, 2013, 08:54:40 AM

Ok, cute flatmate definitely feels the same way about me. Fuck, I'm not sure we know what to do about it...

Go and have sex with her as many times as possible.

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Post by: Brehvolution on March 01, 2013, 08:57:36 AM

Sneak some pics for the :nsfw thread.

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Post by: pickle on March 01, 2013, 09:03:05 AM

We're both well aware that getting involved with flatmates is a bad idea. It's tricky, but at this point I think it might be inevitable.

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Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on March 01, 2013, 09:04:02 AM

Quote from: pickle on March 01, 2013, 09:03:05 AM

We're both well aware that getting involved with flatmates is a bad idea. It's tricky, but at this point I think it might be inevitable.

You only got one life to live, man. Worst case scenario, moving out isn't the worst thing in the world.

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Post by: brawndolicious on March 02, 2013, 12:14:58 AM

Dude you already got her back to your apartment, that's the hardest part.

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Post by: Atramental on March 02, 2013, 04:17:43 AM

Eurgh....

I'm going to do something ballsy this week.... Ballsy for me at least.

Gonna try and get with this gorgeous girl (who to my knowledge is single) that's in one of my design classes.

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Post by: BlackMage on March 02, 2013, 07:25:22 PM

Quote from: Atramental on March 02, 2013, 04:17:43 AM

Eurgh....

I'm going to do something ballsy this week.... Ballsy for me at least.

Gonna try and get with this gorgeous girl (who to my knowledge is single) that's in one of my design classes.

sorry it didn't work out, bro.

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Post by: Atramental on March 02, 2013, 07:36:46 PM

Fuck. :lol

You're already assuming I'm going to fail?

Jesus.

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 02, 2013, 07:42:05 PM

Are you gonna dress like you did in that pic you posted today? :skip

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Post by: Atramental on March 02, 2013, 07:49:27 PM

God no.

The day I was wearing that "movie henchman" getup was out of necessity because it was super cold and rainy that day and the building that I was in has no heat because it's basically a renovated garage.

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Post by: Cerveza mas fina on March 02, 2013, 08:21:04 PM

You shouldnt wear leather in rain

Henchmen these day tsssk

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on March 02, 2013, 11:13:20 PM

I don't know how to talk to girls on online dating sites what am I supposed to say for a first message or what do you guys say? i'm not totally idiotic but i'm not sure what the protocol is. is it just a simple "hello!"

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Post by: pickle on March 03, 2013, 12:35:21 AM

She doesn't want us to do anything while we're still living together. Damn. :-\

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Post by: Beezy on March 03, 2013, 12:50:38 AM

This older woman with a great body who I've never met before holds my hand during a picture at my friend's baby shower today. I'm probably overthinking as usual and it probably meant nothing, but after she leaves my friend's pregnant wife tells me that she went to college with her and that she likes younger dudes. Now I can't stop thinking "what if I knew about that before she left?!" :noah

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Post by: BlackMage on March 03, 2013, 12:56:58 AM

Quote from: Beezy on March 03, 2013, 12:50:38 AM

This older woman with a great body who I've never met before holds my hand during a picture at my friend's baby shower today. I'm probably overthinking as usual and it probably meant nothing, but after she leaves my friend's pregnant wife tells me that she went to college with her and that she likes younger dudes. Now I can't stop thinking "what if I knew about that before she left?!" :noah

well.. what IF you did?!

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Post by: Beezy on March 03, 2013, 01:00:33 AM

I could've been the next Blue or even surpassed him. :(

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 03, 2013, 01:01:09 AM

black chick?

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Post by: BlackMage on March 03, 2013, 01:04:19 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on March 03, 2013, 01:01:09 AM

black chick?

In my mind, she was latina

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Post by: Beezy on March 03, 2013, 01:05:10 AM

Yeah, looked like she was in her late 30s early 40s. Her age only showed in her face. From behind she looked like someone our age.

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Post by: Positive Touch on March 03, 2013, 01:20:21 AM

Quote from: Beezy on March 03, 2013, 01:05:10 AM

Yeah, looked like she was in her late 30s early 40s. Her age only showed in her face. From behind she looked like someone our age.

:quagmire

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Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on March 03, 2013, 01:22:07 AM

I'm about GilloD levels of durnk. Girl I went out with earlier this week had sex with me today as a birthday present (I turn 28 on March 3rd) but she was too bony. I've spent too much time jacking it to thick/chubby chick porn these days. So the slump is over but I think this is the worst yet. Going to have to get out there.

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Post by: Cerveza mas fina on March 03, 2013, 04:08:54 AM

Its one for the stats.

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Post by: tiesto on March 03, 2013, 12:01:47 PM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on March 02, 2013, 11:13:20 PM

I don't know how to talk to girls on online dating sites what am I supposed to say for a first message or what do you guys say? i'm not totally idiotic but i'm not sure what the protocol is. is it just a simple "hello!"

What usually works for me is find something interesting about their profile, like a shared movie/TV show/band/etc. and relate a small anecdote about it. Some brief questions about how they like their job/their school program/whatever it is they say they are doing with their life.

Also it sucks but the Jewish girl I made out with never got back to me when I asked about a 3rd date. Ahh well... this weekend I'm going to Brooklyn Brewery with a girl from nearby Rzeszow, Poland. And hanging out with a chubby psych PhD with a really cute face. So that's cool...

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 03, 2013, 12:22:21 PM

Polish girl sounds like a keeper. Especially if she needs a green card :shaq

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Post by: Atramental on March 03, 2013, 02:46:30 PM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on March 02, 2013, 11:13:20 PM

I don't know how to talk to girls on online dating sites what am I supposed to say for a first message or what do you guys say? i'm not totally idiotic but i'm not sure what the protocol is. is it just a simple "hello!"

Unless you're a stud a simple "hello" or "hey" will get you ignored.

You have to make it fun and interesting for them right out the gate.

I usually open with "Hey, which would you rather have? A house made out of cheese 2x4s or a house made out of fudge brownie bricks?" or something similar to that. More often than not I get a response because it's different from what other guys do.

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 03, 2013, 03:45:05 PM

Fuck you guys. 80% of the messages I've received say "hi I see you like Harry Potter! Who is ur fav character?" :)

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Post by: Shaka Khan on March 03, 2013, 03:58:57 PM

Quote from: Atramental on March 03, 2013, 02:46:30 PM

Unless you're a stud a simple "hello" or "hey" will get you ignored.

You have to make it fun and interesting for them right out the gate.

I usually open with "Hey, which would you rather have? A house made out of cheese 2x4s or a house made out of fudge brownie bricks?" or something similar to that. More often than not I get a response because it's different from what other guys do.

No offense, but this sounds neither interesting nor fun. :|

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Post by: Robo on March 03, 2013, 04:01:07 PM

Cheese 2x4s would stink to high heaven.

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Post by: Shaka Khan on March 03, 2013, 04:06:11 PM

Seriously, I'd probably block anyone with that opener. Might as well go with "Who'd win in a fight, He-Man equipped with Cap's shield or a Laser breathing dragon" while we're at it.

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Post by: Shaka Khan on March 03, 2013, 04:06:51 PM

HURT: Sephiroth
HEAL: Sonic

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Post by: Barry Egan on March 03, 2013, 05:11:44 PM

I open with "what are your thoughts on Aguirre?"

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Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on March 03, 2013, 05:13:20 PM

I've just been saying "Oh you like this artist thats cool" :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on March 03, 2013, 05:18:36 PM

Atra's logic is sound though, if you ain't a stud you need a better hook than a "hello", albeit not the one he suggested.

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Post by: Robo on March 03, 2013, 05:25:20 PM

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Post by: Shaka Khan on March 03, 2013, 05:27:10 PM

Same here. Never had to go even go through the trouble of sending anyone messages. I just create my profile, put up a picture, and everyone starts flocking. Same as real life.

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Post by: brawndolicious on March 03, 2013, 05:41:39 PM

But you're gay, shaka. Atra's message tries too hard to stand out. No matter how shitty your message is, the girl is reading it and if she's smart, she's first visiting your profile in an incognito tab so you can't see if she visited yet.

Just be creative, funny, and upfront and you'll do fine on the site.

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Post by: Shaka Khan on March 03, 2013, 05:47:36 PM

Whoa, who said anything about being gay, breh?

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Post by: brawndolicious on March 03, 2013, 06:06:43 PM

You are on the down low, pencil-grabbing, cock-crunching heathen right? I don't know, what would you say you are?

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Post by: Robo on March 03, 2013, 08:02:05 PM

Shaka is a beautiful young man in the prime of his life—stop trying to shackle him with your primitive labels and base expectations.

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 03, 2013, 08:06:30 PM

Could have sworn Shaka said he was bi

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Post by: Shaka Khan on March 03, 2013, 08:22:09 PM

I'm a god fearing hetero who greatly appreciates the male physique. What's so gay about that?

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Post by: chronovore on March 03, 2013, 08:32:41 PM

:tauntaun

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Post by: Robo on March 06, 2013, 11:13:49 PM

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Post by: Inspector Thatcher on March 06, 2013, 11:32:40 PM

Quote from: Ben Kingsley on March 06, 2013, 11:17:26 PM

Quote from: Atramental on March 03, 2013, 02:46:30 PM
Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on March 02, 2013, 11:13:20 PM
I don't know how to talk to girls on online dating sites what am I supposed to say for a first message or what do you guys say? i'm not totally idiotic but i'm not sure what the protocol is. is it just a simple "hello!"
Unless you're a stud a simple "hello" or "hey" will get you ignored.

Actually, i get the most replies from something like "hey, i saw your profile and you seem interesting. let me know if you're interested in getting to know each other. (insert crack/tidbit/ about something in her profile here).

I'm actually going on my first OKC date tomorrow, shit

For what it's worth, a view from the other side: It's always refreshing to receive a message that doesn't contain pornographic references, terrible slang, or gag-worthy spelling and grammar errors. It's as though... you put some thought and consideration into it. Or, maybe that you're actually sane.

Good on you for keeping it simple, and good luck tomorrow.

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 07, 2013, 04:26:03 AM

I called him a corny ass loser and still think he is...but lord knows Marvin's Room describes me right now

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Post by: Vertigo on March 07, 2013, 07:57:37 AM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on March 02, 2013, 11:13:20 PM

I don't know how to talk to girls on online dating sites what am I supposed to say for a first message or what do you guys say? i'm not totally idiotic but i'm not sure what the protocol is. is it just a simple "hello!"

A simple "hello" or "Hi" will get you deleted. Even worst is "How are you doing?"

Think of how many messages these women are getting per day and plan your attack from there. You want to stand out but also not be a cock.

Too many guys talk about sex in the first message so they'll get deleted. Others will post a blatant copy and paste message they'll be deleted too.

As others have said read her profile thoroughly. I'm not sure which dating site you're using but a place like Ok Cupid lets you see stuff on a women's profiles like 'the two of us' which will let you find out a bit more about a person and if they have the same opinions as you.

Using that and also dropping in a few words about her fave band or films usually works a treat. I've found asking them to look at your profile always works. Also make sure you have about 5 pictures. When I was on the dating sites I usually had 5-6 good face pictures but make sure none of them are of you topless in the bathroom mirror with a phone in your hand. For any woman worth her salt that immediately = dickhead

1 more tip. If the dating site you're using has instant messenger never use it for introductions. Nothing will have you blanked faster than trying to chat to her out of the blue. Mail her first then if she responds suggest the instant messenger.

Good luck.

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Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on March 07, 2013, 09:34:18 AM

Awesome thank you for the tips :D

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Post by: tiesto on March 07, 2013, 04:35:53 PM

It also helps to comment on a facet of their picture (though do NOT directly compliment their looks... i think it's pretty much implied you find them cute if you are messaging them)... ex. the girl I'm going out with tomorrow had a pic of her with Neil DeGrasse Tyson, so I commented on that when I first emailed her. If you see a girl who is taking a pic while on vacation, comment on that. Another good strategy to use.

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Post by: Polari on March 07, 2013, 04:40:14 PM

Quote from: Atramental on March 03, 2013, 02:46:30 PM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on March 02, 2013, 11:13:20 PM
I don't know how to talk to girls on online dating sites what am I supposed to say for a first message or what do you guys say? i'm not totally idiotic but i'm not sure what the protocol is. is it just a simple "hello!"
Unless you're a stud a simple "hello" or "hey" will get you ignored.

You have to make it fun and interesting for them right out the gate.

I usually open with "Hey, which would you rather have? A house made out of cheese 2x4s or a house made out of fudge brownie bricks?" or something similar to that. More often than not I get a response because it's different from what other guys do.

If a stranger asked me that I'd assume they were either distinguished mentally-challenged or insane and try and put as much distance as possible between us without provoking them.

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Post by: BlackMage on March 08, 2013, 01:57:15 PM

Quote from: Eschaton on March 08, 2013, 02:56:56 AM

That OKC date went really well. Chick was nice, and stacked too man, i expected the worst when her profile pic had no body, but damn

she even brought me donuts too :-[

she's already trying to fatten you up.

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Post by: BlackMage on March 08, 2013, 01:58:27 PM

I never message girls first. I just wait for a girl to message me, and it's been working out really well so far. In fact, I've been told my profile is "replies very selectively" and that gets girls' panties moist for some reason.

translation: I'm pimptastic and I'm gonna gloat about it.

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Post by: Atramental on March 08, 2013, 09:07:26 PM

:shaq2

Well shit. So much for uni.

Guess I have the rest of my life ahead of me. Plenty of time to crash and burn until I get something right.

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Post by: Shaka Khan on March 08, 2013, 11:30:35 PM

Quote from: Vertigo on March 07, 2013, 07:57:37 AM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on March 02, 2013, 11:13:20 PM
I don't know how to talk to girls on online dating sites what am I supposed to say for a first message or what do you guys say? i'm not totally idiotic but i'm not sure what the protocol is. is it just a simple "hello!"

A simple "hello" or "Hi" will get you deleted. Even worst is "How are you doing?"

Think of how many messages these women are getting per day and plan your attack from there. You want to stand out but also not be a cock.

Too many guys talk about sex in the first message so they'll get deleted. Others will post a blatant copy and paste message they'll be deleted too.

As others have said read her profile thoroughly. I'm not sure which dating site you're using but a place like Ok Cupid lets you see stuff on a women's profiles like 'the two of us' which will let you find out a bit more about a person and if they have the same opinions as you.

Using that and also dropping in a few words about her fave band or films usually works a treat. I've found asking them to look at your profile always works. Also make sure you have about 5 pictures. When I was on the dating sites I usually had 5-6 good face pictures but make sure none of them are of you topless in the bathroom mirror with a phone in your hand. For any woman worth her salt that immediately = dickhead

1 more tip. If the dating site you're using has instant messenger never use it for introductions. Nothing will have you blanked faster than trying to chat to her out of the blue. Mail her first then if she responds suggest the instant messenger.

Good luck.

Quality advice. I approve.

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Post by: CajoleJuice on March 09, 2013, 12:15:50 AM

i just hit on girls on twitter

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Post by: BlackMage on March 10, 2013, 03:05:38 AM

So I went out on a second date with a girl tonight. She's very nice, very beautiful, but.. wow there was no chemistry between us. The date lasted a whopping hour and a half and we parted ways with just a hug. I couldn't put my finger on it. We had the same interests and everything but I don't know.. nothing.

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Post by: brawndolicious on March 10, 2013, 04:15:06 AM

Why did you go on a second date, feel obligated?

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Post by: BlackMage on March 10, 2013, 01:09:40 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on March 10, 2013, 04:15:06 AM

Why did you go on a second date, feel obligated?

I was blinded by her beauty the first time around.

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 10, 2013, 01:39:43 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on March 09, 2013, 12:15:50 AM

i just hit on girls on twitter

You ever get to third base, ie DM sex?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on March 10, 2013, 02:31:06 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on March 10, 2013, 01:39:43 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on March 09, 2013, 12:15:50 AM
i just hit on girls on twitter

You ever get to third base, ie DM sex?

yes

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on March 11, 2013, 11:09:23 PM

So the date with the chubby psych PhD girl went pretty well (very intelligent, cute face, seems like a great girl, and naturally I can overlook the fact she is a big girl 8)), the Jewish girl who I thought fell off the face of the earth contacted me out of the blue, going out with a Polish nurse on Wed, and some chubby redhead feminist chick looking for "casual sex" emails me telling me she thinks I'm cute and gives me her #.

Weird that this is all happening the week I find out about my job situation. I just hope when I go on interviews, the interviewers will be as willing to get back to me...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on March 13, 2013, 11:05:09 AM

were are all the 5-7's on OKCupid it's all fucking 10's i need girls my level jfc :'(

theres a lack of bbw's also its horrendous

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 13, 2013, 11:09:14 AM

uhhh what state? There are BBWs and average chicks everywhere on OkCupid...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on March 13, 2013, 11:32:46 AM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on March 13, 2013, 11:05:09 AM

were are all the 5-7's on OKCupid it's all fucking 10's i need girls my level jfc :'(

theres a lack of bbw's also its horrendous

Those "10's" are most likely 8's or at most 7's. :childplease

HIT 'EM UP.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on March 13, 2013, 12:08:43 PM

new hampshire try putting on 03301 and youll see

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 13, 2013, 02:13:39 PM

Why can't I get a girl. :( I think I haven't done enough interesting things in my life.. I need to travel

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on March 17, 2013, 01:21:29 PM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on March 13, 2013, 11:05:09 AM

were are all the 5-7's on OKCupid it's all fucking 10's i need girls my level jfc :'(

theres a lack of bbw's also its horrendous

I hardly see anything close to a "10" on my okcupid and I only get messaged by "5s" and below. I'm not saying I'm Johnny Depp, but it would be nice to be messaged or get a response from what I would consider attractive women. So yeah it's hurting my confidence, but I'm not taking okcupid that seriously as an outlet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on March 17, 2013, 01:29:40 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on March 13, 2013, 02:13:39 PM

Why can't I get a girl. :( I think I haven't done enough interesting things in my life.. I need to travel

I don't think girl care in your age bracket what you did.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 17, 2013, 01:59:43 PM

At my age, do you think I should start talking to girls that have kids? :'( they are becoming more common

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on March 17, 2013, 02:39:40 PM

Dayum blackmage is 31? Is dating women with a child a dealbreaker?

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 17, 2013, 01:21:29 PM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on March 13, 2013, 11:05:09 AM
were are all the 5-7's on OKCupid it's all fucking 10's i need girls my level jfc :'(

theres a lack of bbw's also its horrendous
I hardly see anything close to a "10" on my okcupid and I only get messaged by "5s" and below. I'm not saying I'm Johnny Depp, but it would be nice to be messaged or get a response from what I would consider attractive women. So yeah it's hurting my confidence, but I'm not taking okcupid that seriously as an outlet.

Really attractive women never send messages since the site is a black hole of simping for them. Too much effort to just keep up with the messages you receive. To get a message from an average girl even shows you have at least a pretty interesting profile.

As far as a lack of bbws, there were tons of fat girls. I never got the point of the hands-on-waist shot.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on March 17, 2013, 04:40:52 PM

Yeah I guess, but it still sucks to ignore them. I hate being ignored and not getting 1 response, but here I am doing the same thing

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 17, 2013, 10:23:04 PM

I get messages all the time from attractive women. Of course, they disappear after a couple replies.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 17, 2013, 10:40:28 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on March 17, 2013, 10:26:13 PM

The girl I'm seeing just watched Nosferatu and loved it. She enjoys silent black and white movies, also she's a huge fan of HP Lovecraft and John Carpenter.

I think I'm in love :uguu

careful! her other hobbies include eating feces and punching you in the face during sex.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 18, 2013, 01:27:24 AM

...touche...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on March 18, 2013, 06:50:33 PM

OKCupid sent me the "Congratulations you're hot we'll give you hotter matches" email and that's like the exact opposite of what i needed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 18, 2013, 07:11:54 PM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on March 18, 2013, 06:50:33 PM

OKCupid sent me the "Congratulations you're hot we'll give you hotter matches" email and that's like the exact opposite of what i needed.

everyone gets that message.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on March 18, 2013, 07:18:01 PM

good ^_^

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 18, 2013, 07:20:33 PM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on March 18, 2013, 07:18:01 PM

good ^_^

It's a good business tactic.. make you feel more confident so you don't get discouraged from using their site. I thought I was the shiznit until I found out the truth.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on March 18, 2013, 07:22:47 PM

I didn't actually care about it, I just wanted to know if it was true if I could turn it off

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: G The Resurrected on March 19, 2013, 01:09:22 AM

Got into an argument after making a dinner that I agreed was awful and uneatable. So I offered to get some take out in lieu of making more mistakes and more dish's in the sink. One thing leads to another and yelling starts up so I get my tablet and head for the living room. I know that if I just ignore the yelling that she'll eventually calm down. Well that didn't work this time. I now have a broken tablet and a huge knot in my forehead and back of my head from the cast iron skillet I made dinner with. I made sure not to make any sassy remarks or continue the feuding. That's why I went to the living room in the first place, so as to give her some space.

Fuck my head hurts like hell!

This wouldn't be the first time something like this has escalated into violence. How do any of you deal with those type of situations in your relationships? Do you ignore them and move on and forget about it?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 19, 2013, 01:14:16 AM

Quote from: G The Resurrected on March 19, 2013, 01:09:22 AM

Got into an argument after making a dinner that I agreed was awful and uneatable. So I offered to get some take out in lieu of making more mistakes and more dish's in the sink. One thing leads to another and yelling starts up so I get my tablet and head for the living room. I know that if I just ignore the yelling that she'll eventually calm down. Well that didn't work this time. I now have a broken tablet and a huge knot in my forehead and back of my head from the cast iron skillet I made dinner with. I made sure not to make any sassy remarks or continue the feuding. That's why I went to the living room in the first place, so as to give her some space.

Fuck my head hurts like hell!

This wouldn't be the first time something like this has escalated into violence. How do any of you deal with those type of situations in your relationships? Do you ignore them and move on and forget about it?

I find much joy in envisioning you getting smacked with a skillet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on March 19, 2013, 01:16:28 AM

violence wtf? i dont play that shit. i mean, you been together for too long to just walk out, but you need to put down some severe consequences for that AT LEAST. no way in hell that should ever be tolerable even once.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on March 19, 2013, 01:29:01 AM

wow, thats a seriously broken relationship.

Id love to know what it was you cooked.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 19, 2013, 01:40:48 AM

Must have been vegetables
:orly

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on March 19, 2013, 01:47:48 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on March 19, 2013, 01:40:48 AM

Must have been vegetables
:orly

I'm gagging

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on March 19, 2013, 01:48:34 AM

Quote from: G The Resurrected on March 19, 2013, 01:09:22 AM

Got into an argument after making a dinner that I agreed was awful and uneatable. So I offered to get some take out in lieu of making more mistakes and more dish's in the sink. One thing leads to another and yelling starts up so I get my tablet and head for the living room. I know that if I just ignore the yelling that she'll eventually calm down. Well that didn't work this time. I now have a broken tablet and a huge knot in my forehead and back of my head from the cast iron skillet I made dinner with. I made sure not to make any sassy remarks or continue the feuding. That's why I went to the living room in the first place, so as to give her some space.

Fuck my head hurts like hell!

This wouldn't be the first time something like this has escalated into violence. How do any of you deal with those type of situations in your relationships? Do you ignore them and move on and forget about it?

Quote from: Positive Touch on March 19, 2013, 01:16:28 AM

violence wtf? i dont play that shit. i mean, you been together for too long to just walk out, but you need to put down some severe consequences for that AT LEAST. no way in hell that should ever be tolerable even once.

Agreed. Violence is unacceptable, period. You can leave, she can leave, and/or you can tell her you'll call the cops and have her arrested for assault next time. I am not even marginally joking.

Also, you should recommend that she seek counseling if violence is a common occurrence in your household.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on March 19, 2013, 02:02:49 AM

Getting hit over the head with a blunt object is no joke. It's not cartoon violence.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on March 19, 2013, 03:55:55 AM

Hit hard enough on the head with a skillet to break a tablet? That's REAL TALK, and I'm Irish :lol

You could have died and she could be in jail - you need to make sure that it doesn't happen again 'cause being lonely beats being dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on March 19, 2013, 03:58:38 AM

Quote from: G The Resurrected on March 19, 2013, 01:09:22 AM

Got into an argument after making a dinner that I agreed was awful and uneatable. So I offered to get some take out in lieu of making more mistakes and more dish's in the sink. One thing leads to another and yelling starts up so I get my tablet and head for the living room. I know that if I just ignore the yelling that she'll eventually calm down. Well that didn't work this time. I now have a broken tablet and a huge knot in my forehead and back of my head from the cast iron skillet I made dinner with. I made sure not to make any sassy remarks or continue the feuding. That's why I went to the living room in the first place, so as to give her some space.

Fuck my head hurts like hell!

This wouldn't be the first time something like this has escalated into violence. How do any of you deal with those type of situations in your relationships? Do you ignore them and move on and forget about it?

Whoa what? Get her some anger management.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: G The Resurrected on March 19, 2013, 04:14:35 AM

I made some overly salted blackened chicken alfredo one of her favorites. The meat was too salty, probably due to the solution they use to plump the chicken's up with and the seasoning mix I used.

This is the first time such a thing has happened. I've had to buy 2 new monitors and I have to back up my 360 saves regularly cause she'll delete them from my HDD. Anger issues run deep! I know better than to hit her, but she doesn't know better than to hit me. Just cause I'm huge doesn't mean I can take beatings like that on a daily basis. We've had the cops come out a few times but I've never called them.

On one such occasion they saw she was bruised but that was to keep her from throwing our coffee table at me. So they threatened us both with going to jail. I was just trying to restrain her, and in most occasions I have to leave my own home for a while. God forbid I take the car during this time though, she's tracked me down and continued fighting in public too!

I've been trying to get her to see a doctor for a long time so she can get on some anti-depressants and get the help she needs. I've recorded many of these instances to show her after the fact what she is like when she is mad. She just says that's normal, now I know how it is to be angry. I used to hurt my mom and act out a lot cause of how I was feeling. But I got the help I needed and it took me years to fix myself up to where I wasn't so damn angry.

I just wondered if it was normal for such things to happen and be so nonchalantly shrugged off.

I know a lot of how she's feeling is cause she is frustrated about her life situation, but you can't take that out on others around you. You have to want to fix the issues. I have no problems helping her out, but I can't if she doesn't want me to. It seems like I'm the easy target cause I'm always around her. Even when I take myself out of the equation the minute I'm back into it she'll start up.

Just last week she took a piece of broken pyrex bakeware that I broke due to thermal shock to my knee. And once it broke in her hand she took my meat tenderizer to my knee. She was fine 5 minutes later like it didn't even happen.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on March 19, 2013, 04:22:53 AM

She sounds completely psychotic what are you doing staying with her man? It's only going to escalate.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on March 19, 2013, 04:27:26 AM

I dunno guys, sounds like he deserves it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: G The Resurrected on March 19, 2013, 04:34:05 AM

I must state this is not normal behavior, but has progressed over the past few weeks.

We've been dealing with a lot of stressful things in our lives. Between her dad (gulfwar vet with PTSD) going crazy and being put into the hospital. And them putting him into our care since they don't have room for inpatient treatment. Then my work situation since I lost my job back in January, and her schooling which is not going anywhere due to her classes not being available. And top that off with her resentment towards me cause I won't have a wedding with her till we get our lives in order. And last but not least our continued issues with infertility which is due to her body not producing the natural enzymes that the sperm need to survive. We don't have the money to afford IVF.

I have loved this girl for a long time and was committed from the get go. Through a 5 year long distance relationship, and now 6 years living together.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on March 19, 2013, 04:40:00 AM

Quote from: G The Resurrected on March 19, 2013, 04:34:05 AM

I must state this is not normal behavior, but has progressed over the past few weeks.

We've been dealing with a lot of stressful things in our lives. Between her dad (gulfwar vet with PTSD) going crazy and being put into the hospital. And them putting him into our care since they don't have room for inpatient treatment. Then my work situation since I lost my job back in January, and her schooling which is not going anywhere due to her classes not being available. And top that off with her resentment towards me cause I won't have a wedding with her till we get our lives in order. And last but not least our continued issues with infertility which is due to her body not producing the natural enzymes that the sperm need to survive. We don't have the money to afford IVF.

I have loved this girl for a long time and was committed from the get go. Through a 5 year long distance relationship, and now 6 years living together.

Okay given the time and circumstances I understand a bit better but violence is something that strikes me as a "get the hell out now" situation. All of the violent relationships I've come across it never stops unless someone dies or the couple breaks up. =/.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on March 19, 2013, 04:52:00 AM

Wow. I'm just gonna echo what Cormacaroni said:

Quote from: Cormacaroni on March 19, 2013, 03:55:55 AM

You could have died and she could be in jail - you need to make sure that it doesn't happen again 'cause being lonely beats being dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on March 19, 2013, 06:52:23 AM

Yeah, I'm with Cormacaroni and the rest of the common-sense speakers here: you can't help her if she doesn't want help, there is NOTHING you have done which can legitimately lead to violence from her, despite your own problematic past, you don't owe it to anyone to suffer through the same yourself. This isn't penance.

If she isn't willing to immediately commit to nonviolence and seeking help for this, you need to GTFO and get on with life.

I'll go a step further and say you can't get married with her unless this is solved and, for god's sake, don't bring a child into this picture.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 19, 2013, 08:26:11 AM

what the fuck, G? I don't give a shit. You should have been gone when it turned to violence. I would have been gone when she turned passive agressive psycho like you says she did a few weeks ago. Quit enabling this shit by still being there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 19, 2013, 08:46:57 AM

You should leave and tell her she needs to seek help or else you're done with her. There's no excuse for her hitting you, especially not multiple times over nothing. She has tried to stab you and has hit you with items that could kill you...dude, remove yourself before it's too late.

If she cannot recognize this is a problem it's time to move on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: hampster on March 19, 2013, 09:10:08 AM

Wow G, that’s terrible. I hope things turn out okay (either through therapy or someone leaving).

My step mom did similar things to my dad. She would hit him and throw shit at him while arguing. Then she would dare him to hit her so she could call the cops. That shit went on for years. They should have split long ago but never did

I've barely spoken to them in 10 years. Hopefully it’s better now. Just not dealing with kids probably helps. I never had anger issues until my kid came along. I never hit anyone or anything, but I do have two broken MP3 players to my name, one broken electric spongebob toothbrush and countless bottles of water that were thrown (not at people). Shit is stressful (Jeff Green talked about this a bit on the recent Tested Dadcast and he was spot on).

If things are bad now I'd hate to see what would happen when you add sleep deprivation into the mix :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: G The Resurrected on March 19, 2013, 10:29:58 AM

I ended up sleeping in the car last night. Can't really sleep when it's cold. I couldn't sleep much since I was all screwed up with a bad headache. So I decided to feed our cats since they were hungry and I forgot to feed them last night. I mistakengly awoke the sleeping dragon. She threw my ass out of the house. I am gonna wait a while, but I'm gonna get some clothing and go somewhere away from this shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on March 19, 2013, 11:07:14 AM

Welp, good luck. Might want to get that headache checked out as well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 19, 2013, 11:42:53 AM

Do you feel dizzy or disorientated?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on March 19, 2013, 11:52:25 AM

When things calm down a bit, I would approach her and tell her that you want to make things work out, but if it ever comes to violence like that again you will be calling the police.

Then make sure you call the police when it happens again. Not just for yourself, but for the next guy that might get involved with her.

Most guys let too many women get away with this shit, because we are too proud to get other people involved. The women never learn their lesson and keep using violence when they get frustrated with life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: G The Resurrected on March 19, 2013, 02:38:36 PM

Well this day is just fucked. I went to get my head checked out only to come find the police waiting for me. She said that I couldn't take the car and so what I did was theft. Wtf seriously so I'm waiting for her to come pick up the car with the police waiting by my side. I've explained as much as I can in hopes they don't try and let her charge me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on March 19, 2013, 02:42:59 PM

it's over dude. the relationship is dead.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 19, 2013, 02:57:31 PM

There's no reconciling now, dude. You have to move on, you deserve way better.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 19, 2013, 03:03:58 PM

This isn't another lie to get attention is it?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on March 19, 2013, 03:07:51 PM

G, you gotta bail unless she checks herself into some kind of rehab.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on March 21, 2013, 07:44:31 AM

G, it seems like you want to help her, but she's the only one who can initiate change in herself. You need to protect yourself. Bail and check in after a year or two have passed. See if she's straightened out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on March 21, 2013, 11:43:01 AM

messaging this girl on OKC and she gets back to me like right away but she adds nothing to the conversation and i have to do all the work :piss

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on March 21, 2013, 11:55:01 AM

:leo red dot?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on March 21, 2013, 12:16:10 PM

:mynicca

dis girl im talking to is p cute and nice but she converts like a dead snail. wondering when I should just ask her out for a date but she gives such nonansewrs i bet she would non answer that :beli

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on March 21, 2013, 12:43:53 PM

ty Eschaton friend :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 21, 2013, 01:20:28 PM

Met a girl last night for a drink! She was very cool and talkative and cute. :) We aren't going out on a 2nd date until Tuesday. We will see how this one plays out. :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on March 21, 2013, 06:08:32 PM

Birthday Power!

Congrats man :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on March 21, 2013, 06:42:31 PM

i blew it like a puss :lol i was too scared to ask her :lawd

bring on the next chubby white girl :mynicca

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: G The Resurrected on March 22, 2013, 08:55:01 PM

Quote from: chronovore on March 21, 2013, 07:44:31 AM

G, it seems like you want to help her, but she's the only one who can initiate change in herself. You need to protect yourself. Bail and check in after a year or two have passed. See if she's straightened out.

So a small update of what was going on earlier this week. After waiting for more than two hours with the cops, she finally came to pick up the car. At which time she became belligerent and highly hostile towards me for no reason. They determined that she was a threat to herself and those around her. So they took her in for a 51-50 which got us to get to a doctor for evaluation. Upon getting there and waiting for god know's how long she was seen and they determined she would be more comfortable at home. They sedated her and gave her a few mild psychotropic drugs.

Later on in the week I got her to see a psychiatrist and start up some counseling/anger management sessions. So far things have been much more calmer, but she is very emotional still. Xanax seems to be helping the most by leveling out the rage and emotions. I've been trying my best to keep her focused on doing things that are productive so she gets wore out mentally and doesn't have time to dwell on stuff for too long. It's been working, but its been really hard dealing with a broken human being.

We went on a little day trip up to the mountains and took a awesome little drive through the redwoods and into SF city for a while. We're planning on going back to SF for the Bioshock launch, which she is obsessing over. Heck she's got me cosplaying as Booker, not something I wanted to do but something she wanted me to do. I guess its all about small compromises and communication. I know our relationship isn't perfect, but at least we're both working on it together now. It's a small step in the right direction I hope.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on March 22, 2013, 09:05:45 PM

Quote from: The Business on March 19, 2013, 07:16:06 AM

You ruined her favorite meal and blamed the CAFO chicken first instead of your seasoning, you stupid asshole. Then you went on the Internet and told the world your wife was beating you. If I were her I'd lay low for a while but you'd get it eventually.

i lol'd :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on March 22, 2013, 09:09:44 PM

g, in 2 days she's turned around? my bullshit meter is ringin' all four alarms, here

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: G The Resurrected on March 22, 2013, 09:13:43 PM

Not major progress I should note, but at least its better than having her be violent all the damn time. It's not been the most perfect of days, but I'll take it over what it could be. Xanax is one hell of a drug man! No wonder why so many people are on it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on March 22, 2013, 09:21:11 PM

Quote from: G The Resurrected on March 22, 2013, 09:13:43 PM

Not major progress I should note, but at least its better than having her be violent all the damn time. It's not been the most perfect of days, but I'll take it over what it could be. Xanax is one hell of a drug man! No wonder why so many people are on it.

So she's only decent while she's on a cocktail of drugs? =/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 22, 2013, 09:23:44 PM

Dude. Bail out. When the drugs wear off she'll be back to being disrespectful towards you

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: G The Resurrected on March 22, 2013, 09:33:27 PM

Until she learn's how to properly deal with things on her own it might be the only way to keep her sanity in check. I used to be on a combination of medications and with the proper therapy I eventually straightened out. I've been off of med's for more than 7 years now and I've been through some serious emotional event's without falling apart. So I know its possible for her to make the same type of turn around and she seems to be highly receptive to making changes. As long as there is a support system in place to get her the help she needs, I'm optimistic that things will get better and she'll get to that same point that I did.

I hear you guys and I know that it would be easier for me to leave in this situation than it is to stay. I do love her and it pains me to see her struggle through whatever it is she's going through. I know it's not my responsibility to make her better. But I do feel I can help her get to that place and maybe then she might realize that I'm not her enemy but someone who loves her through thick and thin. I'm not in denial about the situation, I know damn well what's happened and have payed the price for her actions. No one should have to put themselves through something like that.

But I don't see her getting any better if I left the situation, she's very reliant upon me. I could leave at any point if things get back to what they were like earlier in the week. And I have no intentions of staying around if she goes back to acting out like that. The doctor said that what she was doing was acting out cause she didn't know how to ask for help. Help she didn't know she needed till she got to that point. They've warned me that staying with her is one of the only things keeping her together and if I wasn't around things would be a lot worse. So it's not been without some level of thought that I'm staying of my own free will.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on March 22, 2013, 11:49:56 PM

wait until the cc debt comes home to roost

dude, this reads like a textbook codependency case

which, with your penchant for emotional dishonesty, reads like a high school textbook case

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on March 22, 2013, 11:51:42 PM

paging dr. miletski all up in this

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on March 22, 2013, 11:54:02 PM

my advice is to check YOURSELF back into therapy while you still have a line of credit, is wot i'm sayin

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 23, 2013, 12:10:36 AM

In the wise words of one Rick Ross: bust a nut and vanish.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on March 23, 2013, 12:17:53 AM

Holy shit I'm mad jelly. The sexy is probably through the roof!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on March 24, 2013, 06:12:42 AM

Quote from: BlackMage on March 21, 2013, 01:20:28 PM

Met a girl last night for a drink! She was very cool and talkative and cute. :) We aren't going out on a 2nd date until Tuesday. We will see how this one plays out. :-*

Wait, I thought you were seeing that Nisha lady. Who is hawt.

Quote from: G The Resurrected on March 22, 2013, 09:33:27 PM

Until she learn's how to properly deal with things on her own it might be the only way to keep her sanity in check. I used to be on a combination of medications and with the proper therapy I eventually straightened out. I've been off of med's for more than 7 years now and I've been through some serious emotional event's without falling apart. So I know its possible for her to make the same type of turn around and she seems to be highly receptive to making changes. As long as there is a support system in place to get her the help she needs, I'm optimistic that things will get better and she'll get to that same point that I did.

I hear you guys and I know that it would be easier for me to leave in this situation than it is to stay. I do love her and it pains me to see her struggle through whatever it is she's going through. I know it's not my responsibility to make her better. But I do feel I can help her get to that place and maybe then she might realize that I'm not her enemy but someone who loves her through thick and thin. I'm not in denial about the situation, I know damn well what's happened and have payed the price for her actions. No one should have to put themselves through something like that.

But I don't see her getting any better if I left the situation, she's very reliant upon me. I could leave at any point if things get back to what they were like earlier in the week. And I have no intentions of staying around if she goes back to acting out like that. The doctor said that what she was doing was acting out cause she didn't know how to ask for help. Help she didn't know she needed till she got to that point. They've warned me that staying with her is one of the only things keeping her together and if I wasn't around things would be a lot worse. So it's not been without some level of thought that I'm staying of my own free will.

You are in a codependent relationship. She's historically violent and abusive. She doesn't need you, you are using her to fill some role in your mental landscape. She needs to get straight, and you can't help her with that; she has to do it on her own. When we eventually hang out, I'd prefer it's not the frying pan brain-damaged version of G. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on March 24, 2013, 10:01:16 AM

Ah, thanks; got my mages confused...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on March 24, 2013, 09:35:57 PM

Girls should come with spreadsheets. I don't understand this shit and I want to see some figures.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on March 24, 2013, 09:55:08 PM

Getting dumped is fun. Now I don't have to shower for the next couple weeks!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on March 24, 2013, 09:56:38 PM

I missed possible G and Roxy antics?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on March 24, 2013, 10:51:07 PM

I don't know. Too effete, maybe? Self-reflection in this sort of circumstance is invariably a miserable activity, so I'm not considering dwelling on it very much beyond these few dorky posts.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on March 24, 2013, 11:04:40 PM

Like this:

(http://assets.sbnation.com/assets/2368721/frams.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TEEEPO on March 25, 2013, 12:41:32 AM

at least you're not _________.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on March 25, 2013, 01:30:44 AM

I'm starting to get serious with this girl. :heart :heartbeat she's pretty amazing..

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Eric P on March 25, 2013, 03:50:18 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/JSHrkDk.jpg)
relationship advice from a liquor company

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on March 25, 2013, 04:14:44 PM

He should get a haircut, too. Seriously, what is that? Looks like a lid.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on March 25, 2013, 08:12:29 PM

Quote from: TEEEPO on March 25, 2013, 12:41:32 AM

at least you're not _________.

I like this game. On one hand, it puts things in a positive perspective, on the other, it made me realize I'm a terrible person and definitely a racist.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on March 25, 2013, 10:55:27 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on March 25, 2013, 01:30:44 AM

I'm starting to get serious with this girl. :heart :heartbeat she's pretty amazing..

I'm in a same situation. I don't guys, I just don't know. :heart

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on March 25, 2013, 10:55:44 PM

Oh I had no idea Robo was moping. Aca-awkward.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on March 26, 2013, 12:59:07 AM

Naw, I'm over it. I found solace in your inevitable misery. Good luck!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on March 26, 2013, 01:27:21 AM

I love you Robo and I'm truly sorry.

If it makes you feel any better I give my thing one more month. I'm mostly good at making first impressions and my big cock can only take me so far.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on March 26, 2013, 03:31:56 AM

But your big cock is also useful for making a certain person forgive you. hint hint hint hint

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on March 30, 2013, 02:33:25 AM

Local gurl made me put her number in my phone. Told me to get ready for summer time when the bikinis get brought out. Fuck yeah :hyper

Now I'm stalking her facebook looking for pics. Feel kinda lame

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on March 30, 2013, 11:37:13 AM

Got the # of a Hispanic girl on the plane ride home from SD... caught her giving me the eye initially, then saw she was reading "Call of Cthulu" so I was talking to her about that, found out she lived near my favorite local coffee joint, and asked her to go one day. She's a little young though (on her jr. year of college at Parsons School of Design)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bacchus7 on March 30, 2013, 06:35:47 PM

Probably.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on March 30, 2013, 07:29:46 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on March 03, 2013, 01:22:07 AM

I'm about GilloD levels of durnk. Girl I went out with earlier this week had sex with me today as a birthday present (I turn 28 on March 3rd) but she was too bony. I've spent too much time jacking it to thick/chubby chick porn these days. So the slump is over but I think this is the worst yet. Going to have to get out there.

Well, this thing is dead. She started talking about marriage already. I had to end it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on April 01, 2013, 09:35:12 AM

i have the worst fucking luck :lol

a cute awesome girl messaged me on okcupid last night we hit it off moved to texting and she asks me out on a date, except I have a real bad head cold right now so I had to tell her it'll be in a few days, which is why I didn't ask her out :( :( :( :( :( :(

why are you so cruel world

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on April 01, 2013, 10:38:13 AM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on March 30, 2013, 01:36:37 PM

What's wrong with being young? While I love Call of Cthulu in my experience girls who like that tend to be crazy, so tread lightly.

My thing with the GF has been going great. Just now it dawned me that I actually am leaving. We agreed from the start that the moment I step on that plane we'd break up. She already knows i'm leaving, I already know I'm leaving, and at the end of the day my best option is going back to Bozeman to finish my studies. Problem is she is by far the best girl I've dated. We dated a year ago before I left for Bozeman for the second time, been good friends ever since. Found ourselves back together when we met up again in Bahrain. And now I'll be gone again. While I do know we'll keep in touch and if at the same place and single we'd date again in a heart beat, but that;s not certain, you know?

Man I've had to deal with some big boy stuff lately, I wonder if I'm changed because of it.

She's 10 years younger than me, and not old enough to drink yet :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 02, 2013, 01:03:33 AM

Quote from: Eschaton on April 02, 2013, 12:58:34 AM

just saw this chick on OKC who looks like fat devo :heh i'm dying here :dead

something like this

spoiler (click to show/hide)

(http://tinyurl.com/cc4uot8)

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Smooth Groove on April 02, 2013, 01:11:13 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on April 02, 2013, 01:03:33 AM

Quote from: Eschaton on April 02, 2013, 12:58:34 AM
just saw this chick on OKC who looks like fat devo :heh i'm dying here :dead

something like this
spoiler (click to show/hide)
(http://tinyurl.com/cc4uot8)
[close]

PAWG

would smash if I had a bbc

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on April 02, 2013, 01:56:24 AM

I talked to this girl for 2 hours on teh tellephone i have a feeling our eventual meet up is going to be a bombing but shes cool and she wants to jam and watch finding nemo im so nervous.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 02, 2013, 02:14:16 AM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on April 02, 2013, 01:56:24 AM

I talked to this girl for 2 hours on teh tellephone i have a feeling our eventual meet up is going to be a bombing but shes cool and she wants to jam and watch finding nemo im so nervous.

You sold your WiiU to set up a Finding Nemo date with a girl off the internet?
:sabu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on April 02, 2013, 10:09:37 AM

Thats good to hear then ^_^ . She really badly wants to meet today but I am sick as a dog and I fear if I keep pushing it back she'll not want to see me :fbm . Might just say to her "Hey, i'm still sick, I still would love to meet you, so it's up ot you if you want to meet today, cuz I would feel bad if I got you sick blah blah"

that sound gtood?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on April 02, 2013, 10:10:35 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on April 02, 2013, 02:14:16 AM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on April 02, 2013, 01:56:24 AM
I talked to this girl for 2 hours on teh tellephone i have a feeling our eventual meet up is going to be a bombing but shes cool and she wants to jam and watch finding nemo im so nervous.

You sold your WiiU to set up a Finding Nemo date with a girl off the internet?
:sabu

Ya. Best use of the Wii U yet :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on April 03, 2013, 03:49:57 AM

i just went over her house at 1 am and we hung out and listening to music. she was 40 lbs heavier than her pictures so i dunno but she was cool i dunno thanks for helps

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on April 03, 2013, 03:31:18 PM

I thought you liked BBWs though Methodis?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on April 03, 2013, 03:41:50 PM

i do it its just her lieing / using myspace angles that kinda hurts ya know

i didnt go for a kiss or anything mostly because I was sick and this was entirely impromptu. we danced and shit it was fun. I guess I kinda have to go for it tomorrow when we meet up tho right

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 03, 2013, 03:46:37 PM

:rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on April 03, 2013, 03:58:05 PM

the only person to get laid due to a wii u ; methodis

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on April 03, 2013, 04:14:13 PM

dont be jealous i literally didn't do any work; she messaged me and asked me on the date lmao

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on April 03, 2013, 04:53:02 PM

u are hot i would fuk u if i was gay no lie you just need to shave your beard lad dats all

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on April 08, 2013, 10:55:43 PM

did some hardcore making out today after a 8 hour date.

no sexs yet but im not too bothered. :-[

im not sure if i should still be logging into okcupid or not tho ya know? what do u guys think

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on April 10, 2013, 09:09:10 PM

it sucks, its unfulfilling, dont do it, etc

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on April 10, 2013, 09:15:42 PM

I know one couple who dated long-distance, flying between Los Angeles and San Jose for nearly 5 years. They have been married for nearly 10 years now. It's the only case where I've seen it work, and the couple was near 30 when they started.

You're young and, unless you are completely sure this is the person with whom you want to spend your entire life, you'll be wasting your time. Get out there, have fun and explore, and if you're still interested in each other when you're able to see each other regularly again, go for it.

LDRs suck.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on April 10, 2013, 10:07:53 PM

Don't do it.

*doesn't follow own advice*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on April 10, 2013, 11:30:24 PM

Wrath, it sounds like it's going to be a mess, but it's not the worst mess you can have. If you're both planning on being with other people when separated, always use protection. You should be using it anyway, but in this case just remember you're "using a shared space." :-*

On another topic, from the :nsfw thread, does any of the other men here find it a complete boner killer when a woman says "Come inside me"? I immediately get that Admiral Ackbar feeling. "Let's have kids! Kids will bring us closer together!"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: The Sceneman on April 10, 2013, 11:33:45 PM

:rofl

I've only ever had a woman say that to me once, she was on the pill and was down with it... it was pretty hot I guess. I still didn't do it though!

Oh, X post from random talk thread:

I also had a woman approach me on OK Cupid and we're already exchanging a lot of flirty emails. She seems like totally my type and we're getting along really well. Lets hope we get on as well IRL as we do via email.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on April 11, 2013, 12:31:02 AM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on April 10, 2013, 11:55:32 PM

This might sound weird, but I've never ever had unprotected sex. I've always used condoms, the only times I haven't were during 2 blow jobs, all others have been with condoms.

I check regularly and I'm all good, you don't have to worry about me when it comes to protection.

I've never had protected sex.. YOLOOOO

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on April 11, 2013, 07:15:40 AM

Hmmmm. I remember once I was with a girl, and this one time we found ourselves having to spend the night in front of a huge roaring log fire, she basically had a romantic picture of us making passionate love until the darkness fled the night like a guilty rapist.
In reality I made her assume the fdau position, had my fun and fell asleep. The image of her creamy ass and the shadows flickering over her perspiring back still makes my blood pump.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on April 11, 2013, 07:21:37 AM

Missionary is utterably dull.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 11, 2013, 08:26:43 AM

Quote from: Martin Raperman on April 11, 2013, 07:15:40 AM

Hmmmm. I remember once I was with a girl, and this one time we found ourselves having to spend the night in front of a huge roaring log fire, she basically had a romantic picture of us making passionate love until the darkness fled the night like a guilty rapist.
In reality I made her assume the fdau position, had my fun and fell asleep. The image of her creamy ass and the shadows flickering over her perspiring back still makes my blood pump.

:lol :lol

when a woman says "cum inside me" I find it really hot. But I like anything that sounds super slutty so whatevs.

Also I say go for it Wrath. People come into these types of threads and ask for advice and it's ignored 99% of the time. Why? Because people need to experience these types of things for themselves. Everyone believes that their love can be the exception. Who knows? It might be. If not, it's just an experience that (if you're stable) won't really make you any worse in the long run. Maybe just some Wasted Time (awesome Eagles song, fuck the haters).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: The Sceneman on April 11, 2013, 09:26:10 AM

Okay so I just spent about 2 hours chatting on gmail to the woman I just met on OKCupid. We have an amazing amount in common. She sent me a sexy photo so I sent her this:

(http://i61.photobucket.com/albums/h52/mad_chump/Photoon11-04-13at1023PM2_zps13728025.jpg)

She said she is really attracted to me and she has an awesome job and arghrghrg

she lives about 150 miles north of me and has booked a bus ride down and a hotel room for next weekend. Pressure is OONNNNNNNNNN :whew

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on April 11, 2013, 09:31:49 AM

A bus ride to meet a stranger in a hotel room for sex.
She sounds like a keeper dude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: The Sceneman on April 11, 2013, 09:34:31 AM

Oh were going to a great restaurant and getting some swank ass cocktails afterwards. Got the night pretty planned out. TBH I'm not expecting anything. Were already getting on like a house on fire though and she's super cute, so should be a great night regardless!

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on April 11, 2013, 09:50:04 AM

Sounds like fun. Take inspiration from the great philosopher/lover/orator/survivor of a staged shooting Rick Ross: Put molly all in her champagne/she ain’t even know it/I took her home and I enjoyed that/she ain’t even know it.

A creed to live by.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on April 11, 2013, 10:29:47 AM

what pressure? sceneman gonna get LAAAAAIIIIIIIDD

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on April 11, 2013, 10:45:35 AM

personally, I would make sure to speak with her on the phone a little bit before meeting at a hotel. But maybe that's just my own tin foil hat shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: The Sceneman on April 11, 2013, 11:04:33 AM

Well, we're not meeting at a hotel. Were meeting for dinner... But the dates a week away, and I am planning to call her on the phone or maybe do a google hangout first. I've been fucked around and stood up enough times to have a pretty good BS detector. I think.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on April 11, 2013, 01:27:42 PM

Good luck on the date, Sceneman!

I'm going out on Friday with the chick I met on the plane home to San Diego, Hispanic 20 year old chick. Not really expecting anything to come of it due to her age but it should still be a good time nevertheless.

Also, next Friday I'm meeting this girl who my friend tried to set me up with. She used to work at my company, though I didn't know her very well (I've seen her around and remember what she looked like a bit)... we talked on the phone last nite and she seems nice if a bit "Long Island", we're gonna meet and shoot some pool.

Saw this funny thing from jezebel - Frat boy writes how to pick up Jewish girls:

http://jezebel.com/frat-bro-writes-best-ever-guide-for-talking-to-jewish-g-471857237 (http://jezebel.com/frat-bro-writes-best-ever-guide-for-talking-to-jewish-g-471857237)

So if I want to get Jewish girls, I have to say I'm from Long Island, listen to house music, make small talk about going to Ultra Music Festival, and look like I could pass off as Jewish?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on April 11, 2013, 07:42:58 PM

Dude.

Two things:

The J-Art is sent to you is seriously cursed.

www.coldeyesxwarmheart.tumblr.com/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on April 11, 2013, 11:13:19 PM

Quote from: Martin Raperman on April 11, 2013, 07:42:58 PM

Dude.

Two things:

The J-Art is sent to you is seriously cursed.

How so?

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on April 12, 2013, 11:18:33 AM

That wasn't me who wrote that. It were the ghost of Lao Tse the lustful.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: The Sceneman on April 13, 2013, 05:39:57 AM

shit is getting cray with the OK Cupid woman. We are exchanging photos and personal videos... we chatted for 5 hours on gmail last night. I need to keep my expectations in check, sheesh :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on April 13, 2013, 06:25:53 AM

...personal videos? God you're not getting your dick out for the webcam are you?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: The Sceneman on April 13, 2013, 07:00:32 AM

Unfortunately not. Just sent her a 10 sec clip to prove I do in fact have a deep voice.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 13, 2013, 10:37:27 AM

Did she do the same?

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: The Sceneman on April 13, 2013, 07:29:56 PM

Yes. She called me up last night and we talked for an hour. She's definitely girlfriend material! I'm actually a little anxious as its been a long time since I've felt these kinds of emotions

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on April 13, 2013, 07:57:59 PM

Quote from: The Sceneman on April 13, 2013, 07:29:56 PM

Yes. She called me up last night and we talked for an hour. She's definitely girlfriend material! I'm actually a little anxious as its been a long time since I've felt these kinds of emotions

are you sure she's real?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 13, 2013, 08:21:11 PM

Quote from: The Sceneman on April 13, 2013, 07:29:56 PM

Yes. She called me up last night and we talked for an hour. She's definitely girlfriend material! I'm actually a little anxious as its been a long time since I've felt these kinds of emotions

(http://www.diehardsport.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/11/TeoFlexingDunk.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: The Sceneman on April 13, 2013, 10:51:13 PM

Quote from: The Business on April 13, 2013, 07:48:52 PM

You might want to meet her before you decide if she's girlfriend material. Right?

Well yeah of course. I meant to say "potential girlfriend material".

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on April 17, 2013, 09:16:37 AM

So last night, I signed up for a Match.com account. We'll see how this goes. Any tips?

And I just had a girl IM me on there, but she's over 4 hours away from me and I'm not sure if it's a scammer.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on April 17, 2013, 10:29:41 AM

Some girl on OKC keeps emailing me, she is from Westchester and her profile says she is in a relationship.

...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: The Sceneman on April 20, 2013, 01:03:16 AM

ONE HOUR UNTIL MY DATE AND I AM NERVOUS AS FUCK

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on April 20, 2013, 01:20:22 AM

I think I have ED, you guys, or I'm becoming an alcoholic. Someone give me some advice or just 'like' this post so I'll feel better.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 20, 2013, 03:01:19 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on April 20, 2013, 02:53:06 AM

Who gives a shit about words? They're little individually defined partitions of meaning that we use to varying degrees of success to translate the actual thoughts we have in our heads.

I find this girl interesting and am attracted to her personality and her physical appearance. All else being equal, I would prefer a reality in which I went on dates with her to one in which I didn't. That's probably a more accurate depiction of what I was thinking.

classic GS :rofl :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on April 20, 2013, 03:23:54 AM

Quote

Who gives a shit about words?

newsfeed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 20, 2013, 03:57:08 AM

I will give "crushing on" a pass, at least online. If you said it out loud irl then it would be a man code violation. This isn't the 80s, there are rules.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 20, 2013, 04:36:59 AM

Awesome, you're so angry. Before you ask somebody else out, you should ask yourself out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on April 20, 2013, 11:44:03 AM

Well, a girl from OKC just messaged me and we've sent a few notes back and forth. She's actually a real person, so that's good. And she's cute, which is also a plus. We're going to add each other on Facebook...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on April 20, 2013, 04:07:19 PM

Does meeting someone through World of Warcraft count?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 20, 2013, 05:47:19 PM

Quote from: The Business on April 20, 2013, 02:07:28 PM

Do any of you date outside of OKC?

I do :derp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on April 20, 2013, 06:42:51 PM

Did Sceneman get laid last night? The Bore awaits his post with bated breath.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 20, 2013, 06:57:42 PM

his next thread: "EB, guess who's getting married?"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: The Sceneman on April 20, 2013, 07:45:33 PM

just got home after sexing all night at a hotel and I am BUSHED. Yeah, date was successful. She's really cool.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on April 20, 2013, 07:55:35 PM

:win

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 21, 2013, 12:03:12 AM

Good job sceneman.

Quote from: The Business on April 20, 2013, 02:07:28 PM

Do any of you date outside of OKC?

I just arranged a date with a girl from there. On one of her questions, it said that she would probably google someone before the first date so I just did that and from her username, found a creative writing forum account from 2004 (when she was fifteen). Thankfully I did not read it as I'm sure we all posted things we're ashamed of online at that age. OKC is a lot more convenient and frankly, makes you less shy to ask out a girl but it's pretty weird and it might be time to mix in some dates with real-life girls.

I'm thankful I only used nintenho on gaming related sites.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on April 21, 2013, 11:58:39 AM

Quote from: The Business on April 20, 2013, 02:07:28 PM

Do any of you date outside of OKC?

I do, sometimes...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on April 21, 2013, 12:03:22 PM

Quote from: The Business on April 20, 2013, 02:07:28 PM

Do any of you date outside of OKC?

I'm shy. :-[

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on April 22, 2013, 12:12:07 AM

From OKC, I've had one girl add me on Facebook and another just gave me her number. Holy crap, is it that easy?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 22, 2013, 12:24:31 AM

The trick is if you think you've come across a more or less "perfect" profile, give a little intro of yourself and ask them out and ask them out in the first message. If you seem cool and not jaw droppingly ugly, they'll most likely be eager to go out with you. Just because of that site being filled with dumb dudes using weird pick-up line tricks to try and get attention from the smaller female population.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on April 22, 2013, 01:01:03 AM

Not bad advice, but I'm not sure I even have the confidence to ask anybody out right off the bat. Even if it is online!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on April 22, 2013, 04:19:43 AM

Quote from: Groogrux on April 22, 2013, 01:01:03 AM

Not bad advice, but I'm not sure I even have the confidence to ask anybody out right off the bat. Even if it is online!

Just ask her out for coffee somewhere; keep it public so she feels safe, put a short timer on it so she doesn't feel like she's committing to a day out (and you can bail if there's no chemistry) and, if coffee works out okay, you set up a lunch or dinner date. Just keep it light, realizing you're both trying to get to know each other.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on April 22, 2013, 10:40:52 AM

I've been texting this girl since yesterday. It's going pretty well. She seems to be interested in me. I'm going to work up the nerve and ask her out soon.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on April 22, 2013, 11:12:12 AM

The girl im seeing now ended up asking me out and hse didnt even wait for the date she ended up inviting me over her apartment. We've been on like 8 dates in 3 weeks and im having a blast i fingerbanghed her the other night it was ok.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 22, 2013, 11:47:37 AM

I hope your hands were clean

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on April 22, 2013, 01:18:40 PM

Quote from: Eschaton on April 22, 2013, 10:48:12 AM

Quote from: The Business on April 20, 2013, 02:07:28 PM
Do any of you date outside of OKC?
I do and it's actually easier than OKC. I feel like social media actually comes with a lot of expectations/baggage/face value evaluation and it's annoying. It's like applying for a job with some of these chicks when normally we could just have a conversation, see if it works or not, and KIM

I agree with you, I've always had better luck when I was set up, or met a girl in person.. than if I relied on the internet. Internet dating, after a certain point, feels way too much like "shopping", and a lot of girls don't take it nearly as seriously.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on April 22, 2013, 03:51:01 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on April 22, 2013, 11:47:37 AM

I hope your hands were clean

i think so

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on April 23, 2013, 10:20:49 AM

yes because i pretend to be a black man irl too

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on April 23, 2013, 08:49:58 PM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on April 23, 2013, 09:15:50 PM

Quote from: Robo on April 23, 2013, 08:49:58 PM

I've got a big e-dick. ;)

I'm so fucking awesome :win

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on April 23, 2013, 09:25:27 PM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on April 23, 2013, 10:20:49 AM

yes because i pretend to be a black man irl too

She's gonna find out when she asks for more than finger-banging.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on April 23, 2013, 09:45:32 PM

I'm setting up my first date with a girl from OKC. We're really hitting it off.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on April 24, 2013, 12:57:21 PM

Another girl just sent me a message on there. I took a look at her profile and this is one of the photos I found:

spoiler (click to show/hide)

(http://ak1.okccdn.com/php/load_okc_image.php/images/150x150/558x800/25x192/481x648/0/11765170283920091.jpeg)

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:lol :yuck That's just... not sexy at all...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on April 24, 2013, 01:30:49 PM

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 24, 2013, 01:52:12 PM

:mouf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on April 24, 2013, 05:35:47 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on April 24, 2013, 12:57:21 PM

Another girl just sent me a message on there. I took a look at her profile and this is one of the photos I found:

spoiler (click to show/hide)
(http://ak1.okccdn.com/php/load_okc_image.php/images/150x150/558x800/25x192/481x648/0/11765170283920091.jpeg)
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:lol :yuck That's just... not sexy at all...

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on April 24, 2013, 01:52:12 PM

:mouf

(http://danisdailydose.files.wordpress.com/2011/08/i-just-threw-up-in-my-mouth.gif?w=500)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on April 24, 2013, 05:46:11 PM

I never realized what implications this has if you have a vagina.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Or if you're obese. Which lead me to this: http://lessismorph.blogspot.de/2009/03/morbid-obesity-and-toilet-hygiene.html and this http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=220523

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: The Sceneman on April 26, 2013, 08:30:55 AM

me and the woman I met on OKC are officially "dating" now. Woop woop. We're pretty nuts about each other, and she wants to play videogames with me, which is pretty sweet. Got a heavy duty romantic weekend planned.

Sceneman may have a girlfriend :anhuld

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Raban on April 26, 2013, 11:29:46 AM

Quote from: Rufus on April 24, 2013, 05:46:11 PM

I never realized what implications this has if you have a vagina.
spoiler (click to show/hide)
Or if you're obese. Which lead me to this: http://lessismorph.blogspot.de/2009/03/morbid-obesity-and-toilet-hygiene.html and this http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=220523
[close]

:yuck :yuck :yuck :yuck :yuck :yuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 27, 2013, 11:25:27 PM

Well I did the Sci-Fi Speed Dating thing and well I didn't do so hot. I guess I'm just super nervous and boring. Anyway, I got some numbers, but I sure don't remember who they are? Should I even bother? It kind of feels strange randomly texting people.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on April 27, 2013, 11:30:13 PM

I say go for it! If they gave you their numbers, they were at least interested enough to want to talk to you again. Text them and see what happens.

My dilemma is this: I'm trying to think of a place to take a girl for a first date in a small town. I thought about taking this girl for coffee. I just don't want to do the cliche dinner and a movie.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 27, 2013, 11:35:23 PM

Yeah, I mean that sounds like the most logical response. I'm just being a spaz.

As for your question. While I'm obviously no expert I've always been told coffee is the more casual and relaxed thing to do. I've been told that a movie is kind of a bad first date, since you spend a good amount of time not actually talking?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on April 28, 2013, 08:03:28 PM

Also, the movie might suck.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on April 28, 2013, 08:26:43 PM

I don't get coffee dates—how long am I expected to sit there and drink coffee? Maybe it's because I don't particularly like pastries either, but I'm ready to leave after 15 minutes no matter how well things are going.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on April 28, 2013, 08:32:25 PM

Treat it like a business meeting. You're there to presents yourself as a sane and stable individual. One of the shortest date-type activities and therefore perfect if things don't go well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on April 28, 2013, 08:33:34 PM

Quote from: Robo on April 28, 2013, 08:26:43 PM

I don't get coffee dates—how long am I expected to sit there and drink coffee? Maybe it's because I don't particularly like pastries either, but I'm ready to leave after 15 minutes no matter how well things are going.

Three hours (we went to the park)? Shit--should've bought her some pastries.

Quote from: Rufus on April 28, 2013, 08:32:25 PM

You're there to presents yourself as a sane and stable individual.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 28, 2013, 08:40:48 PM

Fuck coffee dates. Do something interesting, like go see a play and then go to lunch or dinner. That shit always works

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 28, 2013, 08:52:23 PM

that's fucking weird for a first date, Maurice. you ask a girl you've only talked to for 20 minutes to a play, that's almost always an immediate "lulwhat" from her

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on April 28, 2013, 08:57:37 PM

I don't see what's so weird about it. I got a girls number inviting her to a play that a few of my friend were in. it was what I was doing anyways so why not have more company?

edit: I will say that she was a film student and we were already talking about theater, heh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 28, 2013, 09:03:00 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on April 28, 2013, 08:52:23 PM

that's fucking weird for a first date, Maurice. you ask a girl you've only talked to for 20 minutes to a play, that's almost always an immediate "lulwhat" from her

If you both are into drama or whatever the play is about, it makes sense. A play is a more interesting experience than a movie.

I generally don't like to go anywhere with food because then you always have to ask them to repeat what they said.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 28, 2013, 09:11:11 PM

Plays are perfect, for the right woman of course. There are some I wouldn't take to a play, whereas others love plays; you just have to know what type of woman you're dealing with.

Plus, a play pretty much shits on the traditional "dinner or movie" dynamic that most girls are familiar with. Another good idea: a museum. Detroit has an amazing. There's a great African History museum in Detroit, it was awesome for a date (with a pawg at least, never tried taking a black woman there).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on April 28, 2013, 09:32:35 PM

The only problem with a play is that it has the same problem as a movie where you show up, talk for 15 mins, sit in silence for the entire date, and then talk about it for 15 mins on the walk back to your cars and if it's late there's a good chance both of you say goodbye and drive home. Doesn't give a good chance to get to know the other person much. I only did a movie date once because the girl and I were huge film buffs and we both loved David Fincher and loved the original Girl w/Dragon Tattoo so we made our first date to see the Fincher remake opening night...still was a bad date.

Quote from: Robo on April 28, 2013, 08:26:43 PM

I don't get coffee dates—how long am I expected to sit there and drink coffee? Maybe it's because I don't particularly like pastries either, but I'm ready to leave after 15 minutes no matter how well things are going.

I'm not big on these either. Fairly boring for parties, especially if one of the parties is not super good at conversation. Better to do something where you're both having fun even without each other so the interaction is just a bonus and not the main focus. I find stuff like mini-golf, concerts, museums, bowling to be good first dates. If there's something that you're both really into though, that's the best, like if you're both into hiking, a short picnic hike is great; or if you're both into flowers, going to a botanical garden; videogames, an arcade, etc etc...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on April 28, 2013, 09:41:16 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on April 28, 2013, 08:33:34 PM

:/

Fake it til you make it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on April 28, 2013, 10:56:00 PM

How about you just go to the movies with a girl as a friend, take the pussy off the tall pedestal you currently have it on, and just enjoy life with yourself?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on April 28, 2013, 11:13:35 PM

Quote from: FatalT on April 28, 2013, 10:56:00 PM

enjoy

Not happening

Quote from: FatalT on April 28, 2013, 10:56:00 PM

enjoy life

Enjoy whatnow?

Quote from: FatalT on April 28, 2013, 10:56:00 PM

enjoy life with yourself?

:heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on April 28, 2013, 11:48:18 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on April 28, 2013, 11:13:35 PM

Quote from: FatalT on April 28, 2013, 10:56:00 PM
enjoy
Not happening
Quote from: FatalT on April 28, 2013, 10:56:00 PM
enjoy life
Enjoy whatnow?

Quote from: FatalT on April 28, 2013, 10:56:00 PM
enjoy life with yourself?
:heh

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=unkIVvjZc9Y

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: The Sceneman on April 29, 2013, 01:58:26 AM

just got home from 2 day sex marathon with OKC woman. My back is fucked. It's more or less official now that I've met her mum :win

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on April 29, 2013, 03:23:12 AM

"met" -- :lol :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on April 29, 2013, 02:23:14 PM

couldnt come from a handjob last night :fbm

im not a man

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 29, 2013, 02:44:57 PM

was it a bad HJ? I bet she had no consistency. She was probably changing tempo every few seconds wasn't she? You're concentrating, concentrating, almost there... why the hell did you slow down??? Understandable. You just need to teach her how to J you O.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on April 29, 2013, 03:04:47 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on April 29, 2013, 02:44:57 PM

was it a bad HJ? I bet she had no consistency. She was probably changing tempo every few seconds wasn't she? You're concentrating, concentrating, almost there... why the hell did you slow down??? Understandable. You just need to teach her how to J you O.

ya it was p shit. but props to her she kept trying for atleast a hour lmao.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 29, 2013, 03:40:25 PM

I mean you're naked in front of each other, you probably trust each other enough to get constructive criticism. Plus it feels better to get told what to do than to try for an hour and not get anything.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 29, 2013, 04:03:25 PM

Quote from: The Business on April 29, 2013, 03:13:44 PM

Why are we blaming the woman here? You failed at communicating. Explaining to someone how to jack you off is a test of your leadership ability.

My final comment says "you need to teach her how to J you O"

Sex in general is bad if there's no communication.

All they really need is a "slow down" or "go faster" or "squeeze tighter" here and there and 98% of the issues will be cleared up with HJ's.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on April 29, 2013, 04:06:15 PM

Handjobs :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on April 29, 2013, 05:08:31 PM

i did tell her what to do ???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on April 29, 2013, 05:36:10 PM

My problem right now is that I'm not finding most women attractive/creating interest :\ I'm seeing someone casually (not committed, dating for a couple of months now, probably going to end it soon cause she's controlling, I'm busy, and I'm not particularly into her), but it's getting hard to feel excited about getting back into the dating world when most women aren't interesting me. I feel like I've gotten pickier and pickier over the years instead of what should be the opposite. Every time I date or have a fling with someone who falls into my super tiny niche of the kind of girls I like, it pushes this idea that "there are girls just my type out there" and makes me focus more on that small niche group and be less and less attracted to all other types of girls.

Right now it's like if you aren't shorter than me (so 5'2" or smaller), pale, have tattoos, neat piercings or crazy hair, and would be down to marathon horror movies, go to live shows or play Suda51 games with me...I'm not going to be attracted. I can look through a hundred profiles of girls on OKC and not see a single person I'm attracted to. I see all these good looking guys with great beards but I hardly see any good looking girls. It just seems like there's great looking guys everywhere these days but great looking girls are getting more and more scarce in the world.

I've been in enough relationships that I know looks aren't that important in the scheme of things, but they're kind of what pulls you in for the first contact unless you happen to meet in a work/hobby/school situation. It's hard to muster up enthusiasm to approach someone in online dating that I don't find attractive.

In terms of finding solutions to get less picky, especially on physical attraction, I'm thinking about just making friends with a lot of people on online dating and cold contacting people on the street and not go in looking to date them and maybe as I get to know some of them I'll find connections that will get me interested in them. Never tried trying actively to be friends instead of date before (doesn't mean it hasn't happened by accident many of times), so, I'm curious to where it goes.

Are there any good ways to become less picky about your "type"? I can't even watch porn anymore, 99% of the girls don't do anything for me :\

PS. Since I know how this will read to a lot of people, especially on this forum, I'm still not into guys either.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on April 29, 2013, 06:06:07 PM

Quote

Right now it's like if you aren't shorter than me (so 5'2" or smaller), pale, have tattoos, neat piercings or crazy hair, and would be down to marathon horror movies, go to live shows or play Suda51 games with me...I'm not going to be attracted.

:snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on April 29, 2013, 06:19:44 PM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on April 29, 2013, 06:06:07 PM

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Right now it's like if you aren't shorter than me (so 5'2" or smaller), pale, have tattoos, neat piercings or crazy hair, and would be down to marathon horror movies, go to live shows or play Suda51 games with me...I'm not going to be attracted.

:snoop

I'll second that :snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on April 29, 2013, 06:21:54 PM

Looking for advice, not critiques on the types of girls I'm into. Everyone's got their own preferences! ;)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on April 29, 2013, 06:24:29 PM

It's not a critique of the girls, it's a critique of the narrowness of your tastes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 29, 2013, 06:25:03 PM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on April 29, 2013, 06:06:07 PM

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Right now it's like if you aren't shorter than me (so 5'2" or smaller), pale, have tattoos, neat piercings or crazy hair, and would be down to marathon horror movies, go to live shows or play Suda51 games with me...I'm not going to be attracted.

:snoop

please tell me this is real

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on April 29, 2013, 06:25:48 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on April 29, 2013, 06:25:03 PM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on April 29, 2013, 06:06:07 PM
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Right now it's like if you aren't shorter than me (so 5'2" or smaller), pale, have tattoos, neat piercings or crazy hair, and would be down to marathon horror movies, go to live shows or play Suda51 games with me...I'm not going to be attracted.

:snoop

please tell me this is real

It's in Bebpo's post, like 4 up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on April 29, 2013, 06:32:23 PM

Quote from: Steve Contra on April 29, 2013, 06:24:29 PM

It's not a critique of the girls, it's a critique of the narrowness of your tastes.

That's why I'm looking for advice in order to become less picky/narrow.

My type of girls I've always been in interested started out broad, but as I dated more and more girls I found more and more what I liked/preferred about them and kept narrowing down what I liked about them and it's gotten really narrow picky at this point and I need to figure out how to get broaden it back up and start being more attracted to girls who aren't exactly my "type"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 29, 2013, 06:33:11 PM

Quote from: Steve Contra on April 29, 2013, 06:25:48 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on April 29, 2013, 06:25:03 PM
Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on April 29, 2013, 06:06:07 PM
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Right now it's like if you aren't shorter than me (so 5'2" or smaller), pale, have tattoos, neat piercings or crazy hair, and would be down to marathon horror movies, go to live shows or play Suda51 games with me...I'm not going to be attracted.

:snoop

please tell me this is real
It's in Bebpo's post, like 4 up.

:snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on April 29, 2013, 06:36:12 PM

It's a bit long, but I want to say it's newsfeed material anyway.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on April 29, 2013, 06:37:05 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on April 29, 2013, 05:36:10 PM

Are there any good ways to become less picky about your "type"? I can't even watch porn anymore, 99% of the girls don't do anything for me :\

Celibacy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on April 29, 2013, 06:38:04 PM

Why is it that every time I post something it becomes newsfeed :(

This is why I don't post in this thread! :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Howard Alan Treesong on April 29, 2013, 06:41:48 PM

Bebpo

my serious advice to you is you need to become a total manwhore

just start smanging the shit out of all sorts of girls

all races all sizes all tattoo levels

smang smang smang

even if you're not attracted, smang it up. grit your teeth and smang it.

after a 90-day crash course of total manslutgeddon your seventh chakra will be opened and you will no longer limit yourself to a certain type

As my man Benjamin Franklin famously said (http://www.swarthmore.edu/SocSci/bdorsey1/41docs/51-fra.html), "And as in the dark all Cats are grey, the Pleasure of corporal Enjoyment with a [girl who is taller than you (so 5'3" or larger), dark, no tattoos, boring piercings, normal hair, can't watch horror movies, disinterested in live music and prefers Matsuno to Suda51] is at least equal, and frequently superior, every Knack being by Practice capable of Improvement."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on April 29, 2013, 06:46:13 PM

All Cats are Grey is my favorite Cure song :)

Seriously though you need to get out of your comfort zone pretty fast. You've obviously created a girl in your head that isn't real and trust me, real girls are much more interesting.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 29, 2013, 07:32:31 PM

Bebpo goes through hundreds of women on OKC and isn't attracted to a single one but he does notice all the great looking guys. In fact, he says there are more great looking guys everyday. Plus, he posts on The Bore. Its all adding up.

I don't have any real advice though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 29, 2013, 07:46:59 PM

If you suck a dick, maybe you will better understand how to satisfy your own?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Howard Alan Treesong on April 29, 2013, 08:02:17 PM

Maybe you should sleep with a guy (just to make sure you're not into it). I can get you some phone numbers.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on April 29, 2013, 08:09:16 PM

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 29, 2013, 08:10:55 PM

we need a "women Bepbo would not date" thread. Starting with Lucy Lui

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Howard Alan Treesong on April 29, 2013, 08:13:54 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on April 29, 2013, 08:10:55 PM

we need a "women Bepbo would not date" thread. Starting with Lucy Lui

actually I never thought Lucy Lu was attractive for like 10 years. until, of all things, Lucky Number Slevin. then I was like :hnng

(http://data.whicdn.com/images/14454479/normal_001_large.jpg)

Freckles x Scarf = yum

(http://www.aceshowbiz.com/images/still/lucky_number_slevin08.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on April 29, 2013, 08:30:01 PM

Lucy Liu in Payback

:lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on April 29, 2013, 10:58:02 PM

Wow. I just. Wow.

Obviously everyone has some sort of "perfect" person in their mind, but that description is to the extreme. I generally like dudes with brown hair and dark eyes, but shit. I was more interested in finding someone with a great sense of humor and who was caring and who was enjoyable to talk to and who could hold a job so I didn't have to always support him.

When we reminisce about our first impressions of each other, my husband's never "Well you met my exact physical criteria of a suitable woman." It's always that I was intelligent and funny and was the only girl he had ever met who was paying for her own car, school, etc by working constantly while going to school full time at the ripe old age of 19.

Maybe we're less romantic and more practical? Not that we aren't romantic but we both make choices in a practical way rather than a romantic, whimsical way. And that was when we were a decade younger than you are now. We were both more focused on personality characteristics than looks, but even after 7 years, we can go to the damn grocery store, make each other laugh the entire time, and truly enjoy each other's company. I can't say that for any couples we know who got together solely based on looks and common hobbies.

Not trying to rail on you Beps but damn. Someday you're going to be old. Are you really going to care about tattoos and piercings? With expectations that high, you're just setting yourself up to fail, unless you want to fail for whatever reason.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on April 29, 2013, 11:43:15 PM

Bebpo is in his thirties. At that age, it just seems kind of ridiculous. I mean liking Suda51 games being any kind of factor :comeon

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 30, 2013, 12:44:13 AM

Quote from: Howard Alan Treesong on April 29, 2013, 08:02:17 PM

Maybe you should sleep with a guy (just to make sure you're not into it). I can get you some phone numbers.

Sadly, I kind of thought about this idea.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on April 30, 2013, 12:51:09 AM

We know you are gay tho. Bebpo is kinda like - is he just foolin us? Naw... Maybe?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 30, 2013, 12:52:04 AM

What????????

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on April 30, 2013, 12:59:05 AM

U like weiners

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 30, 2013, 01:11:50 AM

Smanged a soccer player tonight :whew

chick could pinch my dick off like a loaf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 30, 2013, 01:16:56 AM

Quote from: demi on April 30, 2013, 12:59:05 AM

U like weiners

Nope.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on April 30, 2013, 02:02:30 AM

Maybe it's ZephyrFate that demi is thinking of? I've gotten you two completely mixed up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on April 30, 2013, 02:05:18 AM

Quote from: The Experiment on April 29, 2013, 11:43:15 PM

Bebpo is in his thirties. At that age, it just seems kind of ridiculous. I mean liking Suda51 games being any kind of factor :comeon

A lot of that wasn't literal :P

that line particularly just meant enjoyment of artsy stuff in general, since almost all the girls I've dated have been artists/musicians. I dunno, I couldn't go out with someone who wasn't into art films for instance. I take my friends to see stuff like Drive or Killing Them Softly or The Tree of Life and they leave wanting to kick the shit out of me for the money they wasted. I'd want someone who I'm in a committed relationship with to actually enjoy going out and seeing those type of movies with me since seeing interesting films and discussing them are a big hobby of mine.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MCD on April 30, 2013, 02:10:24 AM

Quote from: BobFromPikeCreek on April 29, 2013, 06:06:07 PM

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Right now it's like if you aren't shorter than me (so 5'2" or smaller), pale, have tattoos, neat piercings or crazy hair, and would be down to marathon horror movies, go to live shows or play Suda51 games with me...I'm not going to be attracted.

:snoop

It's just like one of my Japanese anime!

Bebpo, people get married and fuck for eternity with barely any interest in between.

Do you want a life time partner, a fuck buddy or someone to play Sude51 games with you?

I'm a virgin, you can talk to me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 30, 2013, 02:16:24 AM

So if a girl is into Ryan Gosling movies, you're thinking that she might like Suda51 games?

I think I'm gonna have to overrule your objection.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on April 30, 2013, 02:20:42 AM

Quote from: lennedsay on April 29, 2013, 10:58:02 PM

Wow. I just. Wow.

Obviously everyone has some sort of "perfect" person in their mind, but that description is to the extreme. I generally like dudes with brown hair and dark eyes, but shit. I was more interested in finding someone with a great sense of humor and who was caring and who was enjoyable to talk to and who could hold a job so I didn't have to always support him.

When we reminisce about our first impressions of each other, my husband's never "Well you met my exact physical criteria of a suitable woman." It's always that I was intelligent and funny and was the only girl he had ever met who was paying for her own car, school, etc by working constantly while going to school full time at the ripe old age of 19.

Maybe we're less romantic and more practical? Not that we aren't romantic but we both make choices in a practical way rather than a romantic, whimsical way. And that was when we were a decade younger than you are now. We were both more focused on personality characteristics than looks, but even after 7 years, we can go to the damn grocery store, make each other laugh the entire time, and truly enjoy each other's company. I can't say that for any couples we know who got together solely based on looks and common hobbies.

Not trying to rail on you Beps but damn. Someday you're going to be old. Are you really going to care about tattoos and piercings? With expectations that high, you're just setting yourself up to fail, unless you want to fail for whatever reason.

Tattoos/piercings don't really matter, they just tend to be indicative of people more into art, which is what's important to me. I've been holding off on a while for getting piercings and tattoos myself because of the job (it's why I don't dye my hair) and wanting to make 100% sure the tattoo design is what I want to live with my whole life; but I'll probably get at least my ears pierced pretty soon and maybe my sleeve tattoo by the end of the year.

A lot of that stuff doesn't matter, but basically someone I get along with (which usually means they're into art since that's the main passion in my life). I've dated a decent amount of people (couple dozen) and I've never been able to get along with someone who wasn't passionate about at least the general pursuit and appreciation of art. I find people who just work, talk about work, and have one thing outside of work like sports/videogames/etc.. boring :\ If you want to excite me, you have to bring something to the world. I'm busy as fuck with my day job and I watch movies, play games, etc... but I still have time to do photography, creative writing, baking, build cardboard robots, learn languages, run clubs, learn dances, stay fit, etc... I feel like I have a high criteria but I also feel like I'm mentally active and I don't want to be with someone who isn't as passionate about experiencing life as me.

Quote from: am nintenho on April 30, 2013, 02:16:24 AM

So if a girl is into Ryan Gosling movies, you're thinking that she might like Suda51 games?

I think I'm gonna have to overrule your objection.

I don't even like Suda51 games anymore post Killer7/NMH1 (and even half his backlog is awful like Blood+, Champloo, etc...); was just an example.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 30, 2013, 02:26:50 AM

Quote

I don't even like Suda51 games anymore post Killer7/NMH1 (and even half his backlog is awful like Blood+, Champloo, etc...); was just an example.

Bebpo, the correct answer is:

Quote

I don't even like Suda51 games anymore.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on April 30, 2013, 02:33:20 AM

Maybe :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on April 30, 2013, 02:35:31 AM

Dude I play SRW, have Gundam/ZoE2 calendars and the only anime I really watch anymore are mecha shows. I once dreamed of building a mecha museum divided into two halves with Real Robot statutes on one side, Super Robot statutes on the other.

I like mechs/robots :P Some people like Cars, some people like Ponies, I like aesthetically pleasing robot designs that shoot rocket punches.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 30, 2013, 02:36:42 AM

Well keep an open mind bebpo. "artistic" girls are like 95% of okc.

Tip: If you date a taller girl, your nose is less likely to go into their butthole during 69.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on April 30, 2013, 02:36:52 AM

I once had a gf who drew robots on every card she made for me. It was cute :heart

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on April 30, 2013, 02:55:04 AM

Well, it sounds like you tried your best with the dating scene and it's time to hand in the towel and accept solitude and the slow creep of death.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cormacaroni on April 30, 2013, 03:03:25 AM

Quote from: Groogrux on April 27, 2013, 11:30:13 PM

I say go for it! If they gave you their numbers, they were at least interested enough to want to talk to you again. Text them and see what happens.

My dilemma is this: I'm trying to think of a place to take a girl for a first date in a small town. I thought about taking this girl for coffee. I just don't want to do the cliche dinner and a movie.

just show up with your Aeropress and some heated cups

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on April 30, 2013, 07:24:08 AM

Quote from: Cormacaroni on April 30, 2013, 03:03:25 AM

Quote from: Groogrux on April 27, 2013, 11:30:13 PM
I say go for it! If they gave you their numbers, they were at least interested enough to want to talk to you again. Text them and see what happens.

My dilemma is this: I'm trying to think of a place to take a girl for a first date in a small town. I thought about taking this girl for coffee. I just don't want to do the cliche dinner and a movie.

just show up with your Aeropress and some heated cups

You're saying I should make her orgasm at first sight? :smug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on April 30, 2013, 07:59:28 AM

Making a woman a cup of delicious coffee, especially if your town is short on such necessities, is an ace in the hole.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 30, 2013, 08:34:14 AM

Okay you say you want something new brought to the table but you're applying hugely limiting requirements. You've made your specifications so narrow that it's almost impossible and thus impossible for someone to bring something to the table. Just go on dates with some of these people on OKC. I can buy that you don't particularly find yourself attracted to any of them but on some level you MUST think "Yeah, I'd fuck her". Go on a date with her and see if she does bring something exciting. Maybe you'll find yourself in a new hobby with her. It's not necessary about making someone be into your hobby. You gotta be flexible.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on April 30, 2013, 09:58:05 AM

I gave my fleshtube the worst sexual experience in her lifetime last night, I know this because she told me so.
Our 2 or 3 month old son was in the bed at the time, but I'm pretty sure that had nothing to do with it.

Anyway, the only way is up henceforth!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Howard Alan Treesong on April 30, 2013, 10:40:04 AM

Do your cardboard robots...run on money?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on April 30, 2013, 12:17:06 PM

Bebs, the easiest thing to do is just take a chance and go out with as many people as possible, even if their profiles make them sound boring/not your type... Looks wise, my favorite is of course the pale, Eastern European blondes but I have been on so many dates with all different girls - Jewish, Hispanic, Asian, Indian, (still no black girls... yet :mynicca) - your typical Long Island types, your artsy hipster types, your geeky girls, your jock/outdoorsy types... skinny girls, chunky girls, girls 4'10", girls 6' (taller than me), you NEVER know who you will hit it off with and who you will be attracted to. I have certainly surprised myself!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on April 30, 2013, 12:32:56 PM

Quote from: Eschaton on April 30, 2013, 12:17:30 PM

i took that bish to a gastropub

bishes love gastropubs

I took a hipster vegan (I did not know before the date that she was either vegan or hipster) to a gastropub filled with LI townies... one of the worst dates I've ever been on :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on April 30, 2013, 05:46:15 PM

if your starting criteria on what you are looking for in a partner is something like what console generation is their favorite, then you will be alone forever

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 30, 2013, 06:00:48 PM

Hey man. At this point ill take anything. If I failed with my own kind, can't really be picky?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on April 30, 2013, 10:09:56 PM

"I just didn't feel that spark."

Damn female Bebpo!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: The Sceneman on April 30, 2013, 11:27:37 PM

well, its official:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m6w6jJJoBPk

shit happened real fast, but after spending the weekend together and figuring out were on the same page about almost everything and we tick all of each others boxes, I just thought fuck it, lets do this

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on April 30, 2013, 11:39:24 PM

Leper The Sceneman
Ban Malek

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: The Sceneman on April 30, 2013, 11:45:52 PM

good thing about my girl is she interested in me showing her some sweet videogames, but doesnt really play any. All the girls I've met that game are like "ooooh I love Ass Creed and Skyrim. Skyrim is so beautiful lolz." Dumbasses. They don't know beauty until they've experienced Okami and Killer 7

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on April 30, 2013, 11:52:16 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on April 30, 2013, 11:40:33 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on April 30, 2013, 10:09:56 PM
"I just didn't feel that spark."

Damn female Bebpo!

She was probably a Nintard anyway.

She doesn't care about vidya.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on April 30, 2013, 11:52:43 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 30, 2013, 06:00:48 PM

Hey man. At this point ill take anything. If I failed with my own kind, can't really be picky?

U call those girls from Sci Fi Speed Dating? Ir eally liked the girl I met.. till I find out she was LIBERTARIAN. seriosully, I can handle the Bioware stuff (I even metnioned when I met her that I was more of a fan of Japanese games than bioware) but whe she mentins libertarian, that she is supporting Rand in 2016... that is just too much. I'm acentrist libral type... and have enough dealings with peopel who are libertarian, read inforwars religiously... etc.

my dream would be a girl who doesn't like videogames at all... that way I don't have to waste time trolling... I like single-player games ... though I did have an ex of mine watch me play Wld Arms 3 not ever having played a video game before... and was into it I guess. (this was the hardcore evangelical... too bad I didn't get to show her some classic anti-xtian Jaanese RPGs like FFT, Xenogears, Breath of Fire 2, etc)... my last gf had a ds but didn't play ROcket Slime when I bought it for her :( :( (

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on May 01, 2013, 12:08:18 AM

:bow drunkposting

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: hampster on May 01, 2013, 12:09:10 AM

Quote from: The Sceneman on April 30, 2013, 11:45:52 PM

good thing about my girl is she interested in me showing her some sweet videogames, but doesnt really play any. All the girls I've met that game are like "ooooh I love Ass Creed and Skyrim. Skyrim is so beautiful lolz." Dumbasses. They don't know beauty until they've experienced Okami and Killer 7

:beli

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1grlHF7uyWg

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on May 01, 2013, 03:07:17 AM

I think I'm going to go back to dating punk girls (2/3rds of my ex's). I love punk music so much and the girls I meet at punk shows are just ARGHARGHARGH awesome. Except for the smell, everyone fucking smells horrible at punk shows after a night of sweating in the pit.

Met a gorgeous girl tonight :heartbeat

You know, at least where I am it's pretty hard to find punk girls on OKC or any online site. It's annoying that like 3/4ths of the girls I'm into are the type of girls who don't use online dating. Concerts are great for meeting people but there's not always a ton of concerts going on, especially in genre that are less active these days like punk or ska-punk or ska.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on May 01, 2013, 10:54:34 AM

Ever give raver girls a try, Bebpo?

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Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on May 01, 2013, 11:16:50 AM

People still listen to ska?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on May 01, 2013, 11:19:55 AM

Quote from: Barry Egan on May 01, 2013, 12:08:18 AM

:bow drunkposting

Yeah, I think that was the first time I drunk posted on a forum, ever. Seems I wasn't TOO bad, just rambled a bit about waifus and Eastern Euro chicks... (so basically... same thing I ramble on about when I'm sober) :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on May 01, 2013, 04:43:49 PM

how do i get my girl to stop texting me nonstop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 01, 2013, 04:49:12 PM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on May 01, 2013, 04:43:49 PM

how do i get my girl to stop texting me nonstop

You can stop her from texting for at least an hour by asking for another handjob.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on May 01, 2013, 05:02:26 PM

i laffed

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Post by: Robo on May 01, 2013, 07:01:06 PM

WTF is ska?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on May 01, 2013, 07:43:18 PM

Short music for short people

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on May 01, 2013, 10:29:29 PM

Quote from: Robo on May 01, 2013, 07:01:06 PM

WTF is ska?

Something it seemed every girl I liked in college was into...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 02, 2013, 01:07:08 AM

Quote from: Robo on May 01, 2013, 07:01:06 PM

WTF is ska?

Smash Mouth

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on May 02, 2013, 03:05:36 AM

I'm going to crush some sleeping pills into my other halfs soup tonight and do some experiments of a sexual nature on her. These experiments will probably entail erection, penetration, ejaculation and a fleeting sense of guilt and self loathing.

But it must be done, my science paper depends on finding out what would happen if the above scenario is made manifest.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: The Sceneman on May 02, 2013, 06:24:20 AM

:anhuld

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on May 02, 2013, 10:33:26 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 02, 2013, 01:07:08 AM

Quote from: Robo on May 01, 2013, 07:01:06 PM
WTF is ska?

Smash Mouth

Smash Mouth was more pop rock.

No Doubt (earlier days), Real Big Fish, They Might Be Giants.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on May 02, 2013, 10:35:11 AM

Madness - Baggy Trousers

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Post by: demi on May 02, 2013, 10:40:55 AM

Some ska for yo bitchass

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iClCEKqMbGc

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on May 02, 2013, 11:13:34 AM

Here's some ska:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tKdcjJoXeEY

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on May 02, 2013, 11:23:57 AM

You sayin you porked her?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on May 02, 2013, 11:30:02 AM

Good jon.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on May 02, 2013, 11:34:29 AM

But you did. Didn't you? :rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on May 02, 2013, 11:35:20 AM

Fine. Did you drill her?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on May 02, 2013, 11:43:43 AM

Alriiiiiiiiiiiight.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 02, 2013, 11:54:43 AM

How long did you last?

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Post by: Mupepe on May 02, 2013, 01:21:08 PM

13 minutes maximum. Because he's a gentleman.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 02, 2013, 01:24:09 PM

I'm going to bet he lasted 10 minutes, and spent the next 10 minutes asking her how long her previous partners lasted in order to calculate whether he was above or below the average.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 02, 2013, 01:35:33 PM

The Business or more like The Last Gentleman.

13 minutes

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Post by: FatalT on May 02, 2013, 03:21:26 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 02, 2013, 03:19:31 PM

Actually you're right, I shouldn't have answered that question. Apologies for my poor display of character. None of you guys will ever know her identity though.

QUICK! To the Google-mobile!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on May 02, 2013, 04:43:08 PM

um ill have u know i still havent had sex with my lady friend im a gentlemen

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 02, 2013, 04:44:56 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 02, 2013, 11:37:48 AM

Yeah, that happened.

She felt that spark.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 02, 2013, 04:45:49 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 02, 2013, 01:24:09 PM

I'm going to bet he lasted 10 minutes, and spent the next 10 minutes asking her how long her previous partners lasted in order to calculate whether he was above or below the average.

Doubt he's four standard deviations above the mean.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on May 02, 2013, 05:26:00 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on May 02, 2013, 10:33:26 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 02, 2013, 01:07:08 AM
Quote from: Robo on May 01, 2013, 07:01:06 PM
WTF is ska?

Smash Mouth

Smash Mouth was more pop rock.

No Doubt (earlier days), Real Big Fish, They Might Be Giants.

HOW DARE YOU

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on May 03, 2013, 07:23:36 AM

Quote from: etiolate on May 02, 2013, 05:26:00 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on May 02, 2013, 10:33:26 AM
Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 02, 2013, 01:07:08 AM
Quote from: Robo on May 01, 2013, 07:01:06 PM
WTF is ska?

Smash Mouth

Smash Mouth was more pop rock.

No Doubt (earlier days), Real Big Fish, They Might Be Giants.

HOW DARE YOU

Am I wrong?

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on May 03, 2013, 05:36:04 PM

I was actually a dick, my almost wife picked my up from work, after dealing with two little ones all day. In my defence, my day begins at 3am, as I work in the fish markets. It was actually a bucket party of major stress today, we were meant to be meeting a potentially serious buyer from Japan: huge interest in scallops and langoustine, caught specifically up around the Polbain area of Scotland, there's also a Michelin starred (but recently went off the boil restaurant there, google Achultibuie it'll make a proper spelling correction) anyway, the business dude arrived with a small entourage expecting some serious action.

His name was Mr Yen (Alias).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on May 04, 2013, 02:30:49 AM

This girl that I've been talking to is way out of my league when it comes to career. She works in the schools, is taking night classes for her masters, and just got offered a job to work as a professor at her old college.

I work 20-25 hours a week as a low-level manager for Gamestop...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 04, 2013, 02:44:09 AM

While having a kid. Don't beat yourself down especially if you're still working on your career/education.

I had a date set up on OKC last weekend but right before, the girl said she was going to stand me up because she was "too nervous that she wouldn't have anything to talk to me about". I had no idea what to do since it never happened before (I just assumed only guys who had no personality/confidence might get stood up) so we kept in touch and talked a little more and I just told her now that I'm fine if she thinks my pictures or profile just don't click with her, but would like to know now what she wants to do. The vain part is that I consider myself a pretty handsome guy but I look a lot worse in self-pictures, I've been told that my pictures are deceptively bad. So I don't even know if I appeal to her on a superficial level that I'm sure I could be.

So that's my epic failure-whine of the night.

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Post by: chronovore on May 04, 2013, 05:58:20 AM

Groogrux, be nice to yourself. If she's agreeing to meet with you, she's not out of your league. You're doing fine, and you've got a life ahead of you.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 02, 2013, 01:07:08 AM

Quote from: Robo on May 01, 2013, 07:01:06 PM
WTF is ska?

Smash Mouth

Fishbone. Madness. No Doubt to some degree.

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Post by: The Sceneman on May 04, 2013, 09:52:56 AM

The Specials

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Post by: Robo on May 04, 2013, 02:43:59 PM

They Might Be Giants are terrible, so they must be ska.

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Post by: Groogrux on May 04, 2013, 03:30:27 PM

Quote from: Robo on May 04, 2013, 02:43:59 PM

They Might Be Giants are terrible, so they must be ska.

This may be true, but any member of ParentBore could unknowingly be a fan that sings one of their songs.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wePMYM4av6Q

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on May 04, 2013, 09:50:10 PM

Quote from: Robo on May 04, 2013, 02:43:59 PM

They Might Be Giants are terrible, so they must be ska.

I'MA FIGHT YOU, SO SHUT UP NOW.

TMBG is awesomesauce. Nerd rock. :rock

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Post by: Bebpo on May 04, 2013, 10:51:55 PM

I never listened to TMBG and never heard them mentioned as ska. I always thought they were another 90s alt rock band like Sonic Youth.

The biggest MAINSTREAM examples of Ska are Reel Big Fish & No Doubt & Cherry Poppin Daddies; I'm not that into pure ska, and the ska I like is 3rd wave Ska Punk where the biggest bands were probably Less Than Jake, NoFX, Rancid and well...the biggest is probably Operation Ivy. Green Day too, sorta. Ska is usually defined by upstrum guitar playing and horn sections.

classic ska-punk (political)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WuTQeu0w9Aw

mid-90s ska (pure fun, cheesy)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uIqLz6LqMsU

modern ska punk (serious)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A-UTPKL-UGY

Ska Punk is basically about having fast music you can dance to, get the blood flowing, and some people skank (though not really much anymore) not a ton of moshing unless at a crazy venue.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on May 04, 2013, 11:28:45 PM

Are you kidding me? Nofx has horns and ska riffs everywhere. It's Ska Punk.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rIrdA1xDXFE

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I-8skzQCH0c

Rancid of course is, since it's a branch off of Op Ivy

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0jCA7F7aHxA

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qQ9mj6psiHE

Anyhow, I never took music history classes so splitting subgenres of ska is not really my specialty, but all the bands I mentioned are ska or ska punk.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on May 06, 2013, 01:09:10 AM

So this girl and I have been talking a lot lately and we're getting pretty close. Then out of the blue, a girl I've been trying to hook up with for the last three years (yes, I would wait that long for this one), finds out that I'm getting into a relationship and sends me a tit pic and one in her bra and panties! ??? :'( ??? :'( ???

spoiler (click to show/hide)

I mean, I'm going to save it to the spank bank. BUT WHY NOW?!?!

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on May 06, 2013, 12:19:52 PM

Either you failed to make the right move in three years, or she's petty and manipulative.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 06, 2013, 01:15:09 PM

Quote from: The Business on May 06, 2013, 01:09:36 PM

My expectations were definitely too high when I clicked that spoiler.

But aren't you relieved that he's a gentlemen, not a guy who posts pictures of women online?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 06, 2013, 01:36:26 PM

setting the bar pretty low

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Post by: Groogrux on May 06, 2013, 02:04:58 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on May 06, 2013, 01:36:26 PM

setting the bar pretty low

(http://i.imgur.com/Ol1qWgf.jpg)

It's kinda what I do...

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 06, 2013, 01:15:09 PM

Quote from: The Business on May 06, 2013, 01:09:36 PM
My expectations were definitely too high when I clicked that spoiler.
But aren't you relieved that he's a gentlemen, not a guy who posts pictures of women online?

Yeah, I'm not going to post them on here just yet. I'm actually having an internal debate on whether or not I'm going to delete them all together. If I do, I'll sacrifice them to the Demi-god (because she's a thick girl) before I wash them away. He can decide what to do with them after that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on May 06, 2013, 02:48:00 PM

anyone willing to critique my okcupid profile? :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 06, 2013, 02:49:45 PM

Fine, I'll do it: Your profile is horrible and you'll have less success with it than I had with mine.

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Post by: Flannel Boy on May 06, 2013, 02:55:13 PM

Done.

(http://24.media.tumblr.com/9fa8f42d318cece0e5fefc83d34dd6c5/tumblr_mlu6biZuCX1s1av4bo1_500.jpg)

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Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on May 06, 2013, 02:57:28 PM

i wish the girl i've crushed on the past two years owuld send me tit pics instead of pics of her bloated.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on May 06, 2013, 06:09:05 PM

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/baylee81 be nice pls. :-[

Title: seems legit
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 06, 2013, 06:11:07 PM

Quote

(http://img003.lazygirls.info/people/natalie_gauvreau/natalie_gauvreau_x2_68bfcd1_sd6TXSz.sized.jpg)

Good-looking
How are you doing, hope you are doing Good, I am julia antonio by Name and I am seeking for the right man too start a new life with, I really like your profile and I will like too get too know you more better if you don't mind, You have a lovely profile and I will like too know more about you, if you are interested in me,get back too me at my private address.

The most offending parts of the message are the grammar and punctuation.

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Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on May 06, 2013, 06:27:12 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on May 06, 2013, 06:09:05 PM

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/baylee81 be nice pls. :-[

I think the pros would say that, as a guy, you need to be really detailed and shit, but you're handsome so fuck them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 06, 2013, 06:29:43 PM

self-proclaimed foodie

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 06, 2013, 06:29:52 PM

Why must you be tall and good looking?
Your dog. :heartbeat

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on May 06, 2013, 06:37:25 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on May 06, 2013, 06:29:43 PM

self-proclaimed foodie

hahaa yeah i removed that just now :\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on May 06, 2013, 06:37:53 PM

well, thanks dudes.. there hasnt been much out there lately.. i guess i should just be more active in messaging people

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Post by: Positive Touch on May 06, 2013, 06:53:45 PM

i'd take out stuff like "I'm horrible at everything" "Nobody has ever told me this" and "If you are still reading my profile at this point" because it screams no confidence. also get rid of "I take a lot of naps" because lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on May 06, 2013, 07:00:43 PM

they are just jokes. And i do take a lot of naps.. im old

besides they'll find out sooner or later about my self-deprecating humor. :p

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on May 06, 2013, 07:11:23 PM

I'm really not good at anything, so I don't know what to put. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on May 06, 2013, 07:13:43 PM

Say you're good at being sexy as fuck and ironically self-deprecating (because you're so fucking sexy).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on May 06, 2013, 07:20:17 PM

I have to agree, you're pretty good at being sexy as fuck Blackmage. Deffo a plus in the dating game.

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Post by: BlackMage on May 06, 2013, 07:28:23 PM

Quote from: Shark Johnson on May 06, 2013, 07:23:17 PM

I think you need a fedora.

And a sword collection in the background of one of your pictures.

will do!

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Post by: BlackMage on May 06, 2013, 07:30:11 PM

ok all fixed. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 06, 2013, 08:05:20 PM

I'd say a good 70% of my matches are either overweight or bisexual.

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Post by: CajoleJuice on May 06, 2013, 08:25:34 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 06, 2013, 08:05:20 PM

I'd say a good 70% of my matches are either overweight or bisexual.

this is too easy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 06, 2013, 09:20:51 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 06, 2013, 08:05:20 PM

I'd say a good 70% of my matches are either overweight or bisexual.

70% of the women on okcupid are overweight or bisexual.

Wait, I made the assumption that your matches are women.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 08, 2013, 08:33:01 PM

I'm browsing match.com, and some of the minimum height and income requirements, though completely unsurprising, are depressing.

You're 5'2", 32 years-old, and DEFINITELY want kids--yet you insist on a min height of 5'10" and a min income of $75k? K.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 08, 2013, 08:37:03 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on May 08, 2013, 08:33:01 PM

I'm browsing match.com, and some of the minimum height and income requirements, though completely unsurprising, are depressing.

You're 5'2", 32 years-old, and DEFINITELY want kids--yet you insist on a min height of 5'10" and a min income of $75k? K.

You sure you're not on asianmatch.com?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 08, 2013, 08:46:17 PM

What's the point of claiming that you're "athletic and toned" when your profile includes photos of yourself displaying a large beer belly?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 08, 2013, 09:07:32 PM

That's what happens to words when we redefine "marriage"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on May 09, 2013, 12:59:12 AM

I love the girls who put that they want a guy who's athletic and toned, yet they look god-awful themselves.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on May 09, 2013, 07:27:13 AM

I think of men as proud hungry tigers prowling the jungles of love, women are the wily hunters out to ensnare the tigers. But how? They hide up in a figurative tree, using their vaginas as bait like one would use a goat for the same literal purpose of catching a tiger.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on May 09, 2013, 10:34:48 PM

This girl I'm seeing wants to go fishing for the second date.

Yes, please.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on May 09, 2013, 11:04:29 PM

I like that idea. Nothing kicks off a relationship quite like a huge deception.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 09, 2013, 11:15:02 PM

You're a frugal saver and/or have an expensive coke habit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 09, 2013, 11:18:10 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 09, 2013, 11:06:45 PM

I wouldn't actually go on dates under false pretenses. I'm strictly talking about an experiment to see if my reply rate increased.

I mean, the deception would fall apart pretty quickly anyway. There is nothing about my apartment or car that remotely suggests a six figure salary.

You could just tell women you have the dick of a black man and the wallet of an old Jewish man.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 09, 2013, 11:20:19 PM

My username is in honor of the wrong Beatles' song; I should have went with "No Reply." :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Timber on May 10, 2013, 06:16:17 AM

Broke up with a girl who has a long history of sexual abuse, rape, physically abusive ex-boyfriends, no fewer than three pregnancies and miscarriages and a late fiancee who died in Afghanistan. She suffered eight heart attacks (during some of which she was pronounced clinically dead), concussions, broke just about everything there is to break in a body, and was pushed down the stairs causing her to suffer acute memory loss which she had to regain gradually. She divided her time between The Netherlands and England. While she still lived with her parents in NL, she was joint owner of a house in England together with a friend/ex-lover a decade older than her. Also living in said house were her four siblings - whom she'd gained legal custody over and for whose education she paid in full - and two young children, not biologically hers but considered to be her children regardless, who came into their care through all sorts of misery and calamity (parents committing suicide, etc...).

She studied at two different colleges and worked two different jobs, one full-time, 40 hrs/week where she was in a managerial position and in charge of hundreds of employees. She had a personal assistant. She was also a noted dancer and choreographer, having worked on the most recent tours of One Direction and Girls Aloud (all of whom she knew personally and was such great friends with. You should have heard her on the phone with them.) and having been a back-up dancer on several sold-out arena shows.

Last year she had an affair with John Terry.

Don't date pathological liars, guys!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on May 10, 2013, 07:10:44 AM

So she doesn't actually exist. :ohhh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 10, 2013, 08:28:53 AM

Jeez. How long did you date her?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 10, 2013, 09:37:19 AM

My sister is a pathological liar. She has invented her ethnic background before (we're Irish, she claims to be Finnish) and claimed to be very good friends with the lead singer of HIM and Garbage. I just ignore what she says since it's all bullshit but you can't call her on it since she will start freaking out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 10, 2013, 09:43:51 AM

:yeshrug Imma let you Finnish.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Timber on May 10, 2013, 12:11:20 PM

None of the people in my previous post are actually real, save for her. Well, I guess John Terry exists.

We dated for about five months. During this time she once told me there was a chance she might be pregnant, only to go on smoking and drinking that same day. She told me it would take at least two months for the doctors to know for certain. When I insisted on accompanying her to the doctor she freaked out. When she had her period, she claimed she had miscarried.

She also said she'd been involved in a bad drug scene and had been addicted to cocaine. Lots of dealing and prostitution and knives and guns and what have you. She claimed to be suicidal and threatened suicide during arguments, once going as far as to fake taking an overdose of painkillers (her newfound addiction) during a Skype call.

She told me I reminded her of her abusive ex and that I mistreated and manipulated her. She made up a past, a second life, friends, siblings, illnesses, etc. She created several Twitter accounts where she would pretend to be her friends, sisters and ex-boyfriends.

Quote from: The Experiment on May 10, 2013, 09:37:19 AM

My sister is a pathological liar. She has invented her ethnic background before (we're Irish, she claims to be Finnish) and claimed to be very good friends with the lead singer of HIM and Garbage. I just ignore what she says since it's all bullshit but you can't call her on it since she will start freaking out.

Yeah, this sounds very familiar. Inventing a background/past, pretending to know famous people (pop singers, footballers, the cast of Geordie Shore WTF) and absolutely freaking the fuck out whenever confronted are all things she did. I called her one last time yesterday urging her to seek professional help and she called me every name in the book, screamed at me and told me never to harrass her and her family again.

Well, I guess that's that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on May 10, 2013, 12:37:35 PM

Holy shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 10, 2013, 01:18:58 PM

wow. So how long did you continue to date her after the "pregnancy"??

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Timber on May 10, 2013, 05:28:15 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on May 10, 2013, 01:18:58 PM

wow. So how long did you continue to date her after the "pregnancy"??

About a month? Look, I'm not a sensible man. After this I consulted some people on how to handle the situation, because I did want to help her. But the crazy was too much for me. Also,

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on May 10, 2013, 01:21:40 PM

I bet she was awesome in the sack.

Yes. I mean... Yes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on May 10, 2013, 05:52:35 PM

my lady friend and i had sex its ok sex is still overrated by virgins it only get thumbs up form me

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on May 10, 2013, 06:08:16 PM

Five bags of popcorn, two sodas.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on May 10, 2013, 06:18:22 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on May 10, 2013, 06:08:16 PM

Five bags of popcorn, two sodas.

It really thrilled and chilled me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 10, 2013, 10:59:59 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on May 06, 2013, 06:09:05 PM

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/baylee81 be nice pls. :-[

You took down your account? I think I saw it a few days ago and wanted to see if I could give any advice.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/hydnellum_fella

I tried to trim down my account to make it a little bit more digestible/normal. It feels a little boring.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 10, 2013, 11:17:25 PM

your pictures :dead

gonna need to re-do them breh, you looking like a disabled serial rapist

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on May 11, 2013, 03:00:38 AM

Quote

I've posted on forums for about a decade

I can't think of a statement any more appealing to a person than this

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on May 11, 2013, 12:04:08 PM

Had a date with the girl I've been talking to from OKC last night. It went really well. We should be getting together again sometime soon.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 11, 2013, 01:41:17 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 10, 2013, 11:17:25 PM

your pictures :dead

gonna need to re-do them breh, you looking like a disabled serial rapist

:rofl :rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 11, 2013, 08:09:48 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 10, 2013, 11:17:25 PM

your pictures :dead

gonna need to re-do them breh, you looking like a disabled serial rapist

There's like one intentionally bad one but I might take it down.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on May 11, 2013, 08:22:52 PM

i'm sorry but...

(http://i.imgur.com/e5obcQT.jpg)

(http://i.imgur.com/LVGrIr4.gif)(http://i.imgur.com/LVGrIr4.gif)(http://i.imgur.com/LVGrIr4.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on May 11, 2013, 08:34:20 PM

those cheeks of yours make me want to do something naughty am nintenho :-*

spoiler (click to show/hide)

(http://stream1.gifsoup.com/view1/1316703/billy-madison-o.gif)

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 11, 2013, 11:51:48 PM

Yeah I've been told by dentists/orthodontists that I have an unusually small mouth. It's something to keep in mind when criticizing blowjobs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nice cat but chicken on May 12, 2013, 08:53:21 PM

i don't know why i post or if anyone can actually give me any advice here but:
last year i was sleeping with my flatmate, kept seeing her after she moved out but she left town at the end of the year. she's coming back this weekend to do some modelling and wants to stay with me. i haven't told her that i've committed to a course of sexual abstinence. i'd be happy for her to stay and actually really miss having someone to cuddle but i'm worried that it might get awkward and then she'd have nowhere to go.. probably not even enough context here for anyone to say anything but... thoughts?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on May 12, 2013, 09:03:19 PM

why the abstinence?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nice cat but chicken on May 12, 2013, 09:23:19 PM

sex was confusing a lot of my relationships with females at the start of this year and i reasoned that if i was officially not having sex then this wouldn't be such an issue. i also like the fact that it's so controversial for a male to avoid sex i suppose. ultimately i do want for companionship and i thought that taking sex out of the equation (for myself) might make it easier to find someone i actually enjoy the company of etc. i'm not hugely committed to it i guess but i don't feel like breaking it soon. (i have had sex once since deciding this. it was a mistake). another reason is that it irks me that so much weight is put on sex and having sex in our society when the people pursuing it have no plan to conceive children. people lie to themselves about why they want to have sex (fyi it's because their body wants to make babies) and i am a strong advocate for mass sterilisation/human extinction so having sex is pretty hypocritical.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on May 12, 2013, 09:35:42 PM

Quote from: nice cat but chicken on May 12, 2013, 09:23:19 PM

sex was confusing a lot of my relationships with females at the start of this year and i reasoned that if i was officially not having sex then this wouldn't be such an issue. i also like the fact that it's so controversial for a male to avoid sex i suppose. ultimately i do want for companionship and i thought that taking sex out of the equation (for myself) might make it easier to find someone i actually enjoy the company of etc. i'm not hugely committed to it i guess but i don't feel like breaking it soon. (i have had sex once since deciding this. it was a mistake). another reason is that it irks me that so much weight is put on sex and having sex in our society when the people pursuing it have no plan to conceive children. people lie to themselves about why they want to have sex (fyi it's because their body wants to make babies) and i am a strong advocate for mass sterilisation/human extinction so having sex is pretty hypocritical.

Animals have sex because they want to have babies. Humans have sex because it feels good and/or they want to have babies, but mostly because it feels good.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on May 12, 2013, 09:39:04 PM

can't you just tell her about the abstinence before she shows up? no reason for things to get weird if you let her know what she's getting in to beforehand. or I suppose you think it's presumptuous to bring up? gonna hafta find a way to just slip it casually in to conversation bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nice cat but chicken on May 12, 2013, 09:41:50 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on May 12, 2013, 09:35:42 PM

Animals have sex because they want to have babies. Humans have sex because it feels good and/or they want to have babies, but mostly because it feels good.

well i did say that their bodies want to make babies, not necessarily the conciousness attached to them. we have been given a bunch of reasons to tell ourselves we want to have sex (i agree the main one is "it feels good" but also social status and others) but it is not called the biological imperative for nothing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nice cat but chicken on May 12, 2013, 09:42:53 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on May 12, 2013, 09:39:04 PM

can't you just tell her about the abstinence before she shows up? no reason for things to get weird if you let her know what she's getting in to beforehand. or I suppose you think it's presumptuous to bring up? gonna hafta find a way to just slip it casually in to conversation bro.

this is a good point and i still haven't actually replied to her email. i suppose i will say that she's welcome to stay but give her my reasons for wondering if its the best idea and we'll take it from there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on May 12, 2013, 09:53:01 PM

Quote from: nice cat but chicken on May 12, 2013, 09:41:50 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on May 12, 2013, 09:35:42 PM
Animals have sex because they want to have babies. Humans have sex because it feels good and/or they want to have babies, but mostly because it feels good.
well i did say that their bodies want to make babies, not necessarily the conciousness attached to them. we have been given a bunch of reasons to tell ourselves we want to have sex (i agree the main one is "it feels good" but also social status and others) but it is not called the biological imperative for nothing.

Please understand... :lol

I'm not against you striving for abstinence. I think it's admirable, and that it can get in the way of having a healthy relationship with someone else. All I'm pointing out is that every time I had sex with someone, it wasn't to make a baby. A baby did happen once, and I'm grateful for it. But I was in it for the feel goods.

You're right though; there are a lot of guys (and girls I assume) that are not only doing it for the feels, but for the purpose of "adding notches to the bedpost." But seeing as how you're looking for abstinence, I'm thinking you're probably not one of them. However, there are people out there that are just simply in it because they love the way it feels and they like that feeling of closeness to the other person that comes along with it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 12, 2013, 10:00:33 PM

With other women online, I'm having 1/10th of the chemistry I had with Spark Girl, and I just read one of her responses to an OKCupid question in which she states that she likes to have rough animal sex (she's more than fit enough for it).

*looks at her apartment, 300m from from my window*
*slams head on desk*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on May 12, 2013, 11:39:17 PM

Quote from: nice cat but chicken on May 12, 2013, 09:23:19 PM

(fyi it's because their body wants to make babies)

:ohhh :whoo :obama

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 12, 2013, 11:57:53 PM

Quote from: Positive Touch on May 12, 2013, 11:39:17 PM

Quote from: nice cat but chicken on May 12, 2013, 09:23:19 PM
(fyi it's because their body wants to make babies)

:ohhh :whoo :obama

Ultimate cause: reproduction.
Proximate cause: it feels good.

Also cat's post reminded of this internet meme.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ll-lia-FEIY

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 13, 2013, 02:09:07 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 13, 2013, 01:49:53 AM

Who was Spark Girl again?

(http://i4.minus.com/iTlL0ea5UggBN.jpg)

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Spark Girl (not pictured) is a Masters student who asked me out on okcupid only to then murder me in the analog realm after our first and only date by telling me she "just didn't feel that spark."

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 13, 2013, 02:24:48 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 13, 2013, 02:14:07 AM

Does she at least look a little bit like the girl in that photo you just posted?

Girl?
http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=8429.msg1684948#msg1684948

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 13, 2013, 02:56:18 AM

Okay I applied y'alls bitches changes and shit. Like four of you apparently have an okc account and visited my profile. Whoever is from the bronx has a really interesting profile actually. but I have no idea who you are.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on May 13, 2013, 09:34:52 AM

thanks bro :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on May 13, 2013, 01:08:07 PM

i dont rly like sex i dont blame catman its just...eh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 13, 2013, 01:20:31 PM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on May 13, 2013, 01:08:07 PM

i dont rly like sex i dont blame catman its just...eh.

Maybe you just haven't found your kink or the people you have been with have sucked? I can't imagine just thinking sex is eh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on May 13, 2013, 01:22:26 PM

jmaybe fat girls just aint for me

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 13, 2013, 01:58:29 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on May 13, 2013, 01:20:31 PM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on May 13, 2013, 01:08:07 PM
i dont rly like sex i dont blame catman its just...eh.
Maybe you just haven't found your kink or the people you have been with have sucked? I can't imagine just thinking sex is eh.

Maybe this is too much information but I rarely come during sex. I usually just fake it because the girl freaks out about it otherwise. I blame it on years of jackhammering my cock. Of course I always wear condoms which suck. The second I'm married, they're going off and never going back on.

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on May 13, 2013, 01:22:26 PM

jmaybe fat girls just aint for me

Probably not. Fat chicks are pretty gross. Not to be confused with fat tittied chicks, which I love dearly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 13, 2013, 02:08:10 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on May 13, 2013, 01:58:29 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on May 13, 2013, 01:20:31 PM
Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on May 13, 2013, 01:08:07 PM
i dont rly like sex i dont blame catman its just...eh.
Maybe you just haven't found your kink or the people you have been with have sucked? I can't imagine just thinking sex is eh.

Maybe this is too much information but I rarely come during sex. I usually just fake it because the girl freaks out about it otherwise. I blame it on years of jackhammering my cock. Of course I always wear condoms which suck. The second I'm married, they're going off and never going back on.

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on May 13, 2013, 01:22:26 PM
jmaybe fat girls just aint for me

Probably not. Fat chicks are pretty gross. Not to be confused with fat tittied chicks, which I love dearly.

I think it's the condoms. The few times I've used them they've definitely made it difficult to finish. It's why I've rarely used them unless the chick absolutely insists. I've always been hornier than intelligent. That's why I have a daughter.

And yeah, fat chicks are gross and usually don't know how and physically can't fuck good. I've banged quite a few fatties and it was never a good idea.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 13, 2013, 02:26:49 PM

I just go for the largest target

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 13, 2013, 02:27:32 PM

because they're hungry?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 13, 2013, 03:17:49 PM

I'll admit I didn't come once and it was with an extremely hot girl but it was with a condom and I was very drunk and she refused to do oral for some reason. Didn't want me to do it on her either. Normally I love condoms since I'm easily excitable, I joke that you should wear them for the same reason motorcyclists wear helmet and leathers; so you last longer.

Usually chubby girls aren't so lazy except during intercourse since they can't move around as much. Still never had a problem with them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 13, 2013, 04:43:55 PM

condomless sex :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 13, 2013, 04:49:53 PM

I'm not about that life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 13, 2013, 04:55:31 PM

It's in my Hispanic blood. Right, Mupepe?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on May 13, 2013, 04:59:28 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on May 13, 2013, 04:55:31 PM

It's in my Hispanic blood. Right, Mupepe?

Mupepe would tell you rimjobs are in your Hispanic blood.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 13, 2013, 05:22:31 PM

Quote from: FatalT on May 13, 2013, 04:59:28 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on May 13, 2013, 04:55:31 PM
It's in my Hispanic blood. Right, Mupepe?

Mupepe would tell you rimjobs are in your Hispanic blood.

I would agree.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 13, 2013, 05:39:30 PM

Getting or giving rimjobs? If a girl did it to me, I'd imagine it would feel like licking a cat. :aah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 13, 2013, 05:41:07 PM

no condoms, rimjobs, am nintenho...this is the worst page of this thread

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on May 13, 2013, 05:55:38 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on May 13, 2013, 05:39:30 PM

Getting or giving rimjobs? If a girl did it to me, I'd imagine it would feel like licking a cat. :aah

I'm not sure I understand how the cat factors into any of this. You met any women with suspiciously raspy tongues or have you licked cat-ass before?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on May 13, 2013, 06:12:32 PM

Quote from: Rufus on May 13, 2013, 05:55:38 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on May 13, 2013, 05:39:30 PM
Getting or giving rimjobs? If a girl did it to me, I'd imagine it would feel like licking a cat. :aah
I'm not sure I understand how the cat factors into any of this. You met any women with suspiciously raspy tongues or have you licked cat-ass before?

Laughing my ass off so hard right now at this fucking post.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 13, 2013, 06:18:41 PM

Quote from: Rufus on May 13, 2013, 05:55:38 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on May 13, 2013, 05:39:30 PM
Getting or giving rimjobs? If a girl did it to me, I'd imagine it would feel like licking a cat. :aah
I'm not sure I understand how the cat factors into any of this. You met any women with suspiciously raspy tongues or have you licked cat-ass before?

If you've ever seen a cat's butthole and my butthole I think you'd understand. Let's just say you don't need to understand.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 13, 2013, 09:13:44 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on May 13, 2013, 05:22:31 PM

Quote from: FatalT on May 13, 2013, 04:59:28 PM
Quote from: CajoleJuice on May 13, 2013, 04:55:31 PM
It's in my Hispanic blood. Right, Mupepe?

Mupepe would tell you rimjobs are in your Hispanic blood.

I would agree.

yep yep. Hispanics are nasty. Rawr

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on May 13, 2013, 10:52:47 PM

It's so great when relationships end without a touch of bitterness. I actually feel happier right this very moment than I have at any time in the past two months.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on May 13, 2013, 10:56:54 PM

Bet you anything she's crying and watching The Notebook.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 13, 2013, 11:14:09 PM

Quote from: Robo on May 13, 2013, 10:52:47 PM

It's so great when relationships end without a touch of bitterness. I actually feel happier right this very moment than I have at any time in the past two months.

The relationship was only for two months?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 15, 2013, 04:44:13 AM

This girl in my lab seems to be possibly into me and she likes my shittastic humor that you guys have 6 years of experience with but I'm worried since this is the first time I know I'll be spending at least a year with somebody.

Shit I have no idea what I'm doing. This is the whole reason I tried out the online series of cock out date sites. This is like an adult problem. All I know is I can't beat around any bush but I'm not exactly sure how close I'm beating to the bush.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 15, 2013, 08:36:42 AM

what the hell are you talking about? beating around what bush? This is what they call overthinking it. It seems like you're worried about how you'll come off over the next year. If that's the case, who cares? It's you. If she likes you, great! If she doesn't, oh well. Learn from the experience and move on to another girl.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on May 15, 2013, 09:09:52 AM

I guess this is as good a place as any to start: my gf seems to have developed bdd it started off with just her being slightly coy about getting undressed in front of me and it's now actually affecting our sex life. Due to the way she only wants to have sex in darkness.

Tbh, before she got this thing I only thought fat people had it, but as she's a fairly normal sized lady, my beliefs were challenged.
Anyway, there's a sub reddit called gone wild, it's dedicated to girls on the plump side showing off their asses and beasts to be voted on by strangers for validation. She's actually pretty slim, so her pics are actually going down quite well ie. guys are masturbating over them, and giving her pics points.
I'm going to wait until her birthday, and then show her all the adulation she's been receiving!

My engagement to her will follow.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on May 15, 2013, 09:15:20 AM

I her defence, my plan of swapping meat based foods I cook for her with soy substitutes didnt really pan out as she noticed pretty quickly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lordmaji on May 15, 2013, 10:08:28 AM

I'm just a jerk from time to time. I don't mean to be, a lot of it has to do with overworking, then after work everyone have a million other things for me to do and I don't really get any down time to myself. If I'm not at work, I have band stuff I have to do (finishing the album) if not that, it's classes, if not that someone is wanting us to drive hours to visit them.

All of this is causing me to stress out and get super edgy and snappy at Nisha (and others) but I got really shitty with her last night and didn't have any reason to really. I try to maintain and greenery helps, but it only helps so much.

Solution,
I need a vacation.
/lj
::)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 17, 2013, 12:38:24 AM

I was asked to go an another coffee date this Saturday with yet another masters student finishing of her thesis. :/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 17, 2013, 02:44:39 AM

None of that sounds bad playboy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on May 17, 2013, 03:26:51 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on May 17, 2013, 12:38:24 AM

I was asked to go an another coffee date this Saturday with yet another masters student finishing of her thesis. :/

Tell her you're polish and buy this t-shirt.

(http://rlv.zcache.com.au/everyone_loves_my_polish_kielbasa_funny_polish_tee-r88ddda2679664e758a5fc780af86b0c6_804gs_512.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 17, 2013, 02:28:45 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 17, 2013, 03:19:35 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on May 17, 2013, 12:38:24 AM
I was asked to go an another coffee date this Saturday with yet another masters student finishing of her thesis. :/

Make her feel that spark.

I would but Boogie refused to lend me his taser.

Quote from: Premium Lager on May 17, 2013, 03:26:51 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on May 17, 2013, 12:38:24 AM
I was asked to go an another coffee date this Saturday with yet another masters student finishing of her thesis. :/

Tell her you're polish and buy this t-shirt.

(http://rlv.zcache.com.au/everyone_loves_my_polish_kielbasa_funny_polish_tee-r88ddda2679664e758a5fc780af86b0c6_804gs_512.jpg)

I do not buy T-shirts containing false statements. Only you can rock that shirt.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on May 19, 2013, 12:57:57 AM

Some cute girl smiled at me during Carl Cox's set at EDC, then after I smiled back and she asked me my age. I said 30 and then she walked away, I was probably too old for her. :gloomy

I went out with this one girl who was really heavy the other day (like, too much for even me) who txts me all the time. Need to bring her down gently, I hate when I have to do that. :gloomy

Just crossing my fingers that my new job has some cute girls working there. Since I'm in a huuuuuge slump.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 20, 2013, 08:37:11 PM

I have a second date tomorrow and a potential date with an Asian MILF. Thankfully, didn't have to do any of the asking.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Boogie on May 20, 2013, 08:40:08 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on May 17, 2013, 02:28:45 PM

I would but Boogie refused to lend me his taser.

Me? Carry a taser? Fuck that shit. :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 21, 2013, 08:51:10 PM

I'm imagining Awesom-O sipping coffee while reading excerpts to the girl as she twirls her hair and checks her iPhone

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on May 22, 2013, 01:48:11 PM

My relationship life has been shit. In the past two weeks I've been used like a piece of meat. I had a two-night stand and a one-night stand . Some of you may appreciate this but it's not what I want. Screw you guys and your OKCupid dates.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 22, 2013, 02:22:55 PM

Leper FatalT.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 22, 2013, 05:16:35 PM

I have a date with another woman, who's a radio reporter.

I almost feel like Tiesto. Where's my techno?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wZTWgeW5M0E

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on May 22, 2013, 05:32:59 PM

Techno Viking sued the person that filmed him:
http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2013/jan/24/techno-viking-internet-celebrity-curse

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 22, 2013, 05:44:36 PM

Quote from: Rufus on May 22, 2013, 05:32:59 PM

Techno Viking sued the person that filmed him:
http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2013/jan/24/techno-viking-internet-celebrity-curse

Quote

To date, Walker has collected 54 million video views on her YouTube channel, which at an average payout rate of $2 per 1,000 views comes out to $108,037 in ad revenue from Google alone.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l-d-rRkV4fo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 22, 2013, 05:57:41 PM

(http://i2.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/newsfeed/000/321/839/e0e.jpg)

:heartbeat

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JfSThQ5Tx54

:lol

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on May 22, 2013, 06:40:56 PM

Single guys: is dating still lots of fun?

It sounds like an utter grind from this thread. Is LAN single? Her posts remind me of a sassy Whitney Houston but without the drugs or coffin lol.

LAN hasn't posted for a while though....

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 22, 2013, 06:56:24 PM

I doubt she's coming back.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 22, 2013, 07:00:42 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 22, 2013, 06:56:24 PM

I doubt she's coming back.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JfSThQ5Tx54
Devo = Lianna
Lan = the dog

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on May 22, 2013, 09:20:28 PM

I imagine that's a pretty typical online dating experience.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 22, 2013, 09:36:07 PM

My roommate has been doing a massive amount of online dating and it just sounds brutal.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on May 22, 2013, 11:34:12 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on May 22, 2013, 05:16:35 PM

I have a date with another woman, who's a radio reporter.

I almost feel like Tiesto. Where's my techno?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wZTWgeW5M0E

I'm a house fan not techno though :P

I went on a date today with a girl, she was cute (black hair with bangs, had a bit of a "rugby player" esque build but still attractive)... but seemed like she was about ready to fall asleep on our date, she was really tired, and pretty shy on top of that (didn't even make eye contact)... like, I thought I was shy but was trying to do most of the talking :P At least I had some fucking incredible beer while at the bar.

Meeting this one girl tomorrow for sushi in Smithtown. She is a web designer, and is really cute... glasses, long brown hair, chubby, really cute face. Doesn't like edm though :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on May 23, 2013, 12:11:10 PM

So I've been talking to the same girl for over a month now, and things are going really well. However, another woman, who is a family friend, has been texting me for the past couple of weeks. Her husband died about a month ago and she's been really lonely ever since. We started talking as friends because we could relate on that issue.

Now, she's sending me texts pretty much saying that she's DTF. I'm not interested in a relationship with her at all, but sex always sounds nice, especially for a guy like me who never gets any. If I stay with the girl I've been talking to, that part of the relationship probably won't happen for a really long time.

Eck! Fuck a girl and potentially lose the relationship with the other, or don't fuck a girl and potentially get into a relationship where I get long-term sex down the road...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 23, 2013, 12:21:22 PM

She's DTF, oblige her ass. You're not in a relationship right now, you're just talking to some girl. If things don't pan out with the first girl, the DTF girl will continue to be there assuming you're decent in bed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 23, 2013, 12:32:49 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 22, 2013, 09:15:06 PM

Looks like last night's date is going to be a no go. I texted her around 2:30 pm saying that yesterday was fun, and we should get together again. No reply. I get the picture, and I certainly won't debase myself by sending a follow up text like I might have done ten years ago,

I commend you.

Quote from: CajoleJuice on May 22, 2013, 09:36:07 PM

My roommate has been doing a massive amount of online dating and it just sounds brutal.

You seem to do well with online dating, but maybe that's because you bypass the dating sites.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on May 23, 2013, 06:39:17 PM

What is a family friend?

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on May 23, 2013, 06:39:34 PM

Sounds sketchy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on May 23, 2013, 08:38:11 PM

I have a date with a really awesome gal tomorrow. I've been meeting a bunch of new people lately since getting out of school -- professional life is awesome. Met her at pint night, hit it off immediately. She was a film major but she now works as a designer at the Country Music Association. Has great taste in music despite working there. Knows a shit load about sports, which is great. Very freewheeling and down to earth. Very excited for it tomorrow.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on May 23, 2013, 09:11:31 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 22, 2013, 11:56:52 PM

I wasn't planning to drink tonight, but I think I'm gonna have to. Fuck dating.

Try to avoid self-medication.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 23, 2013, 10:17:29 PM

I hit it off with a nursing student who is my type who lives in my apartment complex. Seems kind of lazy to go for women where I live but who cares.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 23, 2013, 10:46:18 PM

Just don't shit where you eat breh, and you'll be fine.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 23, 2013, 11:19:49 PM

The radio reporter's sexy radio voice can get even sexier! :o I felt like I should be getting charged $3.99 per minute.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on May 23, 2013, 11:43:46 PM

Awesome date tonite, we went for sushi and then to a bar (Croxleys in Smithtown for Cajole). Apart from not being into EDM the girl is fucking awesome. She's really pretty (brown hair, glasses, light complexion, curvy), we got along real well, and it ended with a makeout :-*

Also checked in a few good beers and unlocked a few badges in Untappd 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on May 24, 2013, 07:39:05 AM

Quote from: Verdigris Murder on May 23, 2013, 06:39:17 PM

What is a family friend?

Not my friend, a friend of someone else in my family.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on May 25, 2013, 01:58:20 PM

Just called the girl, she seemed very happy I called and thanked me for calling and said she had a great time. She wants to go out Wednesday, no plans set in stone (she was shopping in the mall when I called her) but since she mentioned she enjoyed watching figure skating - I'm gonna ask her to go ice skating with me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on May 25, 2013, 03:38:04 PM

Quote from: tiesto on May 25, 2013, 01:58:20 PM

Just called the girl, she seemed very happy I called and thanked me for calling and said she had a great time. She wants to go out Wednesday, no plans set in stone (she was shopping in the mall when I called her) but since she mentioned she enjoyed watching figure skating - I'm gonna ask her to go ice skating with me.

:mynicca

So, this girl I've been talking to and I are officially a couple now.

She's coming over tonight for dinner and a movie.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 25, 2013, 04:07:19 PM

I'm going to have to stop going on coffee dates.

95% sure the news reporter didn't feel a spark. And I never got to ask her whether her workplace is like NewsRadio.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 25, 2013, 05:25:14 PM

Need to go on dates that involve alcohol.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 25, 2013, 05:45:12 PM

Yes. At the very least, I shouldn't take them on a date where they're consuming beverages that increase their focus and alertness.

It's pretty discouraging as all three women contacted me and all seemed more interested in me than I was of them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on May 25, 2013, 09:54:03 PM

Had what I was promised won't just be a one night stand but we'll see. We're supposed to hang out again tomorrow after I get off work and all of Monday after I'm off. I really like this one and she said she was interested in an actual relationship so we'll see.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on May 25, 2013, 11:26:15 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on May 25, 2013, 04:07:19 PM

I'm going to have to stop going on coffee dates.

95% sure the news reporter didn't feel a spark. And I never got to ask her whether her workplace is like NewsRadio.

Coffee dates sound like the most pointless thing ever. Nothing good ever happens during the daytime.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 26, 2013, 01:00:13 AM

Quote from: Polari on May 25, 2013, 11:26:15 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on May 25, 2013, 04:07:19 PM
I'm going to have to stop going on coffee dates.

95% sure the news reporter didn't feel a spark. And I never got to ask her whether her workplace is like NewsRadio.

Coffee dates sound like the most pointless thing ever. Nothing good ever happens during the daytime.

They're the ones asking me out/making the dates. Speaking of which, I have a date tomorrow in the afternoon with a MILF. Four dates in a week--I hope hedging my bets works better for me than it did for Antonius (skip to 2:48):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GcblN1S00ow

"I'm sorry; I just didn't feel that spark." #things no woman has ever said to Patrik Antonius.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on May 26, 2013, 11:37:14 AM

Nice to hear you have been getting a string of dates, Malek. Hope it works out for you...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 26, 2013, 11:56:35 AM

". . . but I know it won't."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on May 26, 2013, 12:37:44 PM

Some Belarussian model is emailing me now on OKC. Obviously hunting for a green card but damn she is hot :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on May 26, 2013, 12:56:02 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on May 26, 2013, 11:56:35 AM

". . . but I know it won't."

Damp wood don't burn, mang.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 26, 2013, 01:25:23 PM

Quote from: tiesto on May 26, 2013, 12:37:44 PM

Some Belarussian model is emailing me now on OKC. Obviously hunting for a green card but damn she is hot :P

whoa whoa wut

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bud on May 26, 2013, 02:14:20 PM

eb, would you fuck a fat girl?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on May 27, 2013, 12:22:59 AM

Had a date with the girlfriend tonight. Reached Arvie levels of awkward.

Awkward hand holding.
Awkward holding each other.
Awkward "is it a kiss or a hug?...
....
....
....
....
....
....it's a hug..." moment

:-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 27, 2013, 04:59:15 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 27, 2013, 12:47:23 AM

Fuck everything.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 27, 2013, 05:06:23 AM

Quote from: Groogrux on May 27, 2013, 12:22:59 AM

Had a date with the girlfriend tonight. Reached Arvie levels of awkward.

Awkward hand holding.
Awkward holding each other.
Awkward "is it a kiss or a hug?...
....
....
....
....
....
....it's a hug..." moment
:-\

Sex is really just a hug with more small talk.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 27, 2013, 01:07:02 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TQDMrFuFXGc

x4

I "run bad" at life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 27, 2013, 07:34:17 PM

(http://www.syty.net/forums/images/smilies/Pills_-_Emoticon_Fixed_1.gif)

(http://fi.somethingawful.com/images/smilies/emot-emo.gif)

(http://www.mortalkombatunited.com/public/style_emoticons/default//images/smilies2/SmileySuicide.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on May 27, 2013, 08:09:10 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on May 27, 2013, 12:22:59 AM

Had a date with the girlfriend tonight. Reached Arvie levels of awkward.

Awkward hand holding.
Awkward holding each other.
Awkward "is it a kiss or a hug?...
....
....
....
....
....
....it's a hug..." moment

:-\

lol, you jumped the gun. You'll be separated by week's end.

"It's Facebook Official!"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on May 27, 2013, 08:10:25 PM

I haz a gf. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on May 27, 2013, 08:13:50 PM

Quote from: demi on May 27, 2013, 08:09:10 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on May 27, 2013, 12:22:59 AM
Had a date with the girlfriend tonight. Reached Arvie levels of awkward.

Awkward hand holding.
Awkward holding each other.
Awkward "is it a kiss or a hug?...
....
....
....
....
....
....it's a hug..." moment

:-\

lol, you jumped the gun. You'll be separated by week's end.

"It's Facebook Official!"

:lol Fuck you :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 27, 2013, 08:14:25 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on May 27, 2013, 08:10:25 PM

I haz a gf. :)

I will cut you!

(http://medias.omgif.net/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/Emo-suicide.gif)

A piece of cake. Congrats.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on May 27, 2013, 08:42:14 PM

I have... more friends who are girls. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 27, 2013, 09:41:18 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on May 27, 2013, 08:10:25 PM

I haz a gf. :)

Is she African American?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 30, 2013, 11:31:27 AM

Five days after a date, what is the meaning of a random "goodnight :)" message outside of the fact that women are crazy and love smiley faces?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on May 30, 2013, 11:53:58 AM

Is it the only text she's sent you?

Cause if so, she probably sent it to the wrong guy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on May 30, 2013, 12:03:07 PM

Goddamit, the last month or so have been chock full of promising dates only to find out during said dates that all these girls are moving away from Nashville within a week or two. FUCK.

Gotta get free meals out of me before they leave. :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on May 30, 2013, 02:03:23 PM

oh its happened. thats cool and all but I'm kinda past that stage and looking for something more serious

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 30, 2013, 02:20:12 PM

Respond by informing her that she's the star of an erotic novel you're writing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 30, 2013, 03:20:46 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on May 30, 2013, 11:53:58 AM

Is it the only text she's sent you?

Cause if so, she probably sent it to the wrong guy.

Nah, it was for me. In her next message she said she was busy at work. The MILF also replied and said she was very busy.

Prior to a date, they have more than enough time for dozens of texts and messages each day. After a date, they're too busy to type a one-word text with a smiley face.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 30, 2013, 03:58:50 PM

You're drunk today, Biz. My main problem is that their post-date conduct is pretty anti-social (and I'm the shut in). What's the point of waiting five days to reply when the reply consists of the words "goodnight insert smiley face."

Also, how the fuck can Phoenix Dark like that message?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on May 30, 2013, 04:17:37 PM

we got a bad ass over here

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 30, 2013, 04:18:01 PM

At this point, you're just complaining about my complaining.

Your "solution" doesn't address the problem I have here. Even if I had other dates lined up--and god that's easy right--I could still be fucking annoyed with their behavior. A prompt "I'm no longer interested--please die in a fire" isn't too much to ask for.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on May 30, 2013, 04:31:14 PM

If they're interested in you, you'd know it. They'd be on your jock. Don't bother with them at all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 30, 2013, 04:34:11 PM

How many beta males do you want to kill in one week?

They could also let me know with ten-seconds worth of effort instead of leaving me with a small sliver of doubt.

Goodnight :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on May 30, 2013, 04:37:07 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on May 30, 2013, 04:34:11 PM

How many beta males do you want to kill in one week?

They could also let me know with ten-seconds worth of effort instead of leaving me with a small sliver of doubt.

Goodnight :)

If I've learned anything it's that dudes could help themselves by not giving a shit about these women unless they show more of a vested interest in you. Your best armor is disinterest.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 30, 2013, 06:02:06 PM

Time to delete all my accounts.

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. . . I have to apologize. I didn't realize you were an atheist. I totally respect everyone's beliefs but I don't think that is something that I would be able to work with.

::)

edit:
Wait, she's

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Spiritual but not religious

:dizzy
::) ::)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on May 30, 2013, 06:31:45 PM

Quote from: The Business on May 30, 2013, 04:39:19 PM

Not only is it your best armor but its also your best lure.

Biggest truth spoken in this thread so far.

(http://i.imgur.com/Ifd6v.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 30, 2013, 06:43:03 PM

Quote from: The Business on May 30, 2013, 04:39:19 PM

Not only is it your best armor but its also your best lure.

truth bomb. Women get fawned over all day, they get stared at all day, they deal with asshole comments all day. Being respectful but disinterested makes you stand out. I don't mean "sitting in the back of the class not talking to anyone, not making eye contact with women at work, etc" btw. Just act normal for gods sake

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 30, 2013, 06:46:33 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 30, 2013, 06:43:03 PM

Quote from: The Business on May 30, 2013, 04:39:19 PM
Not only is it your best armor but its also your best lure.

truth bomb. Women get fawned over all day, they get stared at all day, they deal with asshole comments all day. Being respectful but disinterested makes you stand out. I don't mean "sitting in the back of the class not talking to anyone, not making eye contact with women at work, etc" btw. Just act normal for gods sake

(http://24.media.tumblr.com/29be324f2c38a2a8ff3c4919414f4ddf/tumblr_miybgfwBzB1s6ezlmo1_400.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 30, 2013, 06:51:43 PM

I was assuming The Business was referring to Devo's post.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on May 30, 2013, 09:55:02 PM

So I had my second date with the girl I mentioned a few pages back. We went bowling instead of ice skating, and this one went even better than the first one! She's itching to see my place so I'm gonna show her this Saturday ;)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 30, 2013, 10:01:38 PM

Do like grown-up grown-ups also have to clean up everything an hour before a date?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on May 31, 2013, 06:46:27 AM

Only if you want to get some.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on May 31, 2013, 09:02:17 AM

Quote from: tiesto on May 30, 2013, 09:55:02 PM

So I had my second date with the girl I mentioned a few pages back. We went bowling instead of ice skating, and this one went even better than the first one! She's itching to see my place so I'm gonna show her this Saturday ;)

Show her the clock I sent you a couple years back. P-A-N-T-Y D-R-O-P-P-E-R :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Inspector Thatcher on May 31, 2013, 09:30:30 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on May 30, 2013, 10:01:38 PM

Do like grown-up grown-ups also have to clean up everything an hour before a date?

If only because we don't bother to clean any other time of the week...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 31, 2013, 10:25:05 PM

Women. >:(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 01, 2013, 07:24:07 AM

Yeah I have some big cleaning to do this afternoon... (and cleaning my bedsheets, which will hopefully be getting all dirty right again 8)) shiiit, I was hoping to get in a few hours of DDS2 before she comes over.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 01, 2013, 10:07:50 PM

Wink at me, I send a message . . . no reply
Favorite me, I send a message . . . no reply
Say you're interested, I send a message . . . no reply
Do all of the above, I send a message . . . no reply.

???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on June 01, 2013, 11:29:27 PM

think of it as a warm up for when you're on the labor market.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 01, 2013, 11:31:02 PM

Quote from: The Business on June 01, 2013, 11:18:59 PM

Shut up taco

:( :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 01, 2013, 11:38:51 PM

Just got this email from one of my dates last week: "I just didn't feel the chemistry."

:dead

:stahp

~~spark~~ ~~chemistry~~

And do they have to wait a week to tell me this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 01, 2013, 11:41:26 PM

So they can move in that time frame.

(I kid).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 01, 2013, 11:46:42 PM

Why do you want all of us beta males to kill ourselves. :(

spoiler (click to show/hide)

That was fucking funny.

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 01, 2013, 11:48:20 PM

(http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-4za5RNcUBH8/UKMJ6mTItkI/AAAAAAAAAVA/VXleyk5g6xw/s1600/Blog+2.jpg): A woman nearly didn't feel that spark with me, but then I found out she was a lesbian.

(http://l3.yimg.com/bt/api/res/1.2/4vYY1vGvzxPW.8Kt3.GnDQ--/YXBwaWQ9eW5ld3M7cT04NTt3PTMxMA--/http://media.zenfs.com/en_GB/News/Handbag/Mad-Men-don-draper-season-5-lgn.jpg): I kissed her, and she found out that she was a bi-sexual.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 01, 2013, 11:51:56 PM

In all honesty I think some women are just flaky because they can be and no one has told them they're rude selfish insensitive shits.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 01, 2013, 11:54:09 PM

I understand that men can be dicks when women turn them down, but if you're going to tell me there's no spark or chemistry, do it within 48 hours thanks.

Next girl that asks me out: booze or GTFO

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on June 01, 2013, 11:56:05 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 01, 2013, 11:54:09 PM

I understand that men can be dicks when women turn them down, but if you're going to tell me there's no spark or chemistry, do it within 48 hours thanks.

Need to thicken that skin man.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 01, 2013, 11:57:10 PM

If you were within 300 miles of me, I'd skin you alive and glue your fucking epidermis on my body. Would that be thick enough?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on June 02, 2013, 12:00:11 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 01, 2013, 11:57:10 PM

If you were within 300 miles of me, I'd skin you alive and glue your fucking epidermis on my body. Would that be thick enough?

I don't know. It would probably improve your chances of getting a second date though. :teehee

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 02, 2013, 12:37:39 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 01, 2013, 11:38:51 PM

Just got this email from one of my dates last week: "I just didn't feel the chemistry."

:dead

:stahp

~~spark~~ ~~chemistry~~

And do they have to wait a week to tell me this.

I don't get it. You spent much of the last two weeks basically saying "I have a date, not gonna try to make it work because it doesn't matter." And now that you struck out with women you apparently liked, you're upset? I really don't understand what you expected.

You're an attractive, smart guy. Within a short period of time you have transformed your physical appearance from being flabby-n-sick status to a solid, fit dude. But in terms of your social skills/experience you seem to be the same guy who doesn't talk to people, stays in, etc - at least, based on your posts; maybe I'm wrong. I think you should put as much time into working on your social skills as you did working on your beautiful body, bro.

I hope I don't sound like some asshole know-it-all because I'm far from that. But I spent years complaining about women ignoring me until I realized I didn't really have decent social skills or confidence with respect to them. You're not going to get anywhere with a defeatist attitude, nor can you jump into the deep end of the pool and expect good results. If you have female friends, talk to them more. If you don't, start saying hello to women or something. Don't hit on them, don't annoy or pin them with bad conversations. Just...be social, and work on your confidence one step at a time.

School is a great place to talk to women. It gives you an excuse to start conversations without asking "so...how about this weather aye." Nearly every study session or group project I ever attended included a good deal of random, non-school related talk. Just shooting the breeze talking about music, or the weird janitor guy who stared at you, or that movie you saw last night, etc. The more you do that, the more confident you get. And the more confident you get, the more you realize women are not strange alien life forms. Meaning the next time you're on a date you'll be comfortable shooting the breeze talking to a person who just so happens to be female.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on June 02, 2013, 01:44:51 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 01, 2013, 11:54:09 PM

I understand that men can be dicks when women turn them down, but if you're going to tell me there's no spark or chemistry, do it within 48 hours thanks.

Next girl that asks me out: booze or GTFO

You know you could just take a swig right before if you're nervous.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 02, 2013, 02:39:48 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 02, 2013, 12:37:39 AM

I don't get it. You spent much of the last two weeks basically saying "I have a date, not gonna try to make it work because it doesn't matter."

Citation needed.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 02, 2013, 12:37:39 AM

I think you should put as much time into working on your social skills

I think my social skills are fine.* Let me transcribe some of the conversations I had with my latest date.

Me: You look nice.
Her: Thank you.
Me: I’m not flirting with you.
Her: Oh, I didn’t think you were.
Me: I just see that you made an effort and I’m gonna be better with Flannel Girl, I’m working on that. I wanna acknowledge her beauty. I never used to do that. I do that now. ‘Cause we’re gonna be better than ever.... Just practicing. How’d Tommy die? . . . What about your job?
Her: I just got fired, actually.
Me: Oh, really? How? I mean, I’m sorry. How’d that happen?
Her: Does it really matter?

Me: Well, I don’t have an iPod. I don’t even have a phone. They won’t let me make any calls. They think I’m gonna call Flannel Girl.
Ron: Don’t worry about it. Don’t focus on that.
Me: I would call Flannel Girl

Insert a discussion of pharmacology (coincidentally, I just got a prescription for Trazodone**)

Her: Are you gonna walk me home or what?
Me: You mean me?
Her: Yeah, you. Are you gonna walk me home?
Me: You have poor social skills. You have a problem.
Her: I have a problem? You say more inappropriate things than appropriate things. You scare people.
Me: I tell the truth. But you’re mean.
Her: What? I’m not telling the truth?

I probably shouldn't have worn the Eagles jersey though. I mean . . . I'm not even a fan of the Eagles.

*Fine for a shut-in with several anxiety disorders who has been clinically depressed for more than sixteen years. . . .
*that would be the third anti-depressant I'm taking concurrently.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 02, 2013, 02:47:03 AM

Her: Listen, I haven't dated since before my marriage so I don't really remember how this works.
Me: How what works?
Her: I saw the way you were looking at me, Adam. You felt it, I felt it, don't lie. We're not liars like they are. I live in the addition around back, which is completely separate from my parents' house, so there's no chance of them walking in on us. I hate the fact that you wore a football jersey to dinner because I hate football, but you can fuck me if you turn the lights off, okay?
Me: . . . How old are you?
Her: Old enough to have a marriage end and not wind up in a mental hospital.
Me: Look, I had a really good time tonight and I think you're really pretty, but I'm married to Jenny Lewis.
Her: You're married? So am I.
Me: No, that's confusing. He's dead.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on June 02, 2013, 02:53:18 AM

Maybe its your canadian accent

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 02, 2013, 02:58:45 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 02, 2013, 02:39:48 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 02, 2013, 12:37:39 AM

I don't get it. You spent much of the last two weeks basically saying "I have a date, not gonna try to make it work because it doesn't matter."
Citation needed.

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=34032.msg1678783#msg1678783
http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=34032.msg1676537#msg1676537

That's just the impression I got. :yeshrug

Have you considered group therapy for your social anxiety? I realize every case is different but I have a friend who has struggled with this, started therapy, and she has said that it helped put her on the right path.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 02, 2013, 03:08:42 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 02, 2013, 02:58:45 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 02, 2013, 02:39:48 AM
Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 02, 2013, 12:37:39 AM

I don't get it. You spent much of the last two weeks basically saying "I have a date, not gonna try to make it work because it doesn't matter."
Citation needed.

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=34032.msg1678783#msg1678783
http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=34032.msg1676537#msg1676537

That's just the impression I got. :yeshrug

One of your citations is a citation of yourself claiming I didn't try.
The second is of me obviously exaggerating. I don't think honesty equates to not trying. Regardless, that comment was strictly regarding online chatting. For the most part, I've been letting them show an interest before I give a fuck. Thus, three of the four women asked me out and the one I did ask out contacted me first and was fishing for a date.

I tried on the fucking dates. The only thing I didn't try to do was to act confident--I was just trying to hide my insecurities and lack of confidence.

Quote

Have you considered group therapy for your social anxiety? I realize every case is different but I have a friend who has struggled with this, started therapy, and she has said that it helped put her on the right path.

Group therapy is horrible.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on June 02, 2013, 03:21:25 AM

There's a big difference between not giving a fuck and showing no interest guys.

You should friendzone the girl on dates not the other way around. Be funny witty etc but don't show romantic interest. This doesn't mean you're aloof or an asshole as some beta buddies might think. You're actually being very cool and nice, until the time is ripe and she is sliding of her chair.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Fifstar on June 02, 2013, 11:11:21 AM

Playing the best "not interested" card is probably your second best bet if you're not confident in social situations, at least it worked somewhat for me. Nothing beats getting drunk at decent parties though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 02, 2013, 12:56:57 PM

This girl is fucking awesome, she's a BBW with a really cute face, long wavy brown hair, and glasses. She slept over, wants to see me again. Really great personality, also fun to talk to and spend time with - yeah this is pretty awesome :heartbeat

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 02, 2013, 01:46:47 PM

What do you mean by slept over?
:shaq

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 02, 2013, 03:08:57 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 02, 2013, 01:46:47 PM

What do you mean by slept over?
:shaq

:teehee

Quote from: The Business on June 02, 2013, 02:00:48 PM

Those Malek convos were amazing. More!

I think they were lines from Silver Linings.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 03, 2013, 12:29:02 AM

Another one of my dates from last week chimed in ten minutes ago.

"Nothing about you is bad, horrible or whatever."

:stahp

The Game of Thrones episode was bad enough. Fuck this hetro Earth.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 03, 2013, 02:02:50 AM

The contrasts of online dating: I'm talking to a girl who wants to play scrabble on a first date while talking to another who doesn't know the meaning of the word "voyeur."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on June 03, 2013, 02:03:07 AM

It's all about online dating without the actual online dating website.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 03, 2013, 02:06:02 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on June 03, 2013, 02:03:07 AM

It's all about online dating without the actual online dating website.

It is. I must learn your secret.

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=36858.msg1691499#msg1691499

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on June 03, 2013, 02:06:40 AM

Yes, I know I stole your post. I just wanted to be a dick.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 03, 2013, 02:15:55 AM

I'm going to steal your girl. She on my home turf, god damn it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 03, 2013, 02:16:20 AM

Or you hook me up with her chubby friend.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 03, 2013, 02:39:04 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 03, 2013, 02:15:55 AM

I'm going to steal your girl. She on my home turf, god damn it.

This is a baseball post, isn't it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 03, 2013, 12:16:59 PM

Okay I'm done sleeping around. It was a fun month but I can't handle NSA sex. I'm sticking with one special girl now who I've been talking to, going to the movies with, having dinner with, and hanging out with since October. I've already met her parents and they approve. :D

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 04, 2013, 02:02:14 PM

Quote

******** explained her answer publicly

Q: Do you believe in ghosts?

A: Yes

Explanation: “i've been visited by the ghost of kitties past, so i kind of have to believe.”

:kobeyuck

These are the types of women who reject me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on June 04, 2013, 02:07:14 PM

keep in mind that if you're expecting a rational dating market, you're the analogue to whatever Libertarians are to economics.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 04, 2013, 03:13:20 PM

The market has decided I lack lure. :paul

Time to give new dates gold.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on June 04, 2013, 04:15:48 PM

Quote from: tiesto on June 02, 2013, 12:56:57 PM

This girl is fucking awesome, she's a BBW with a really cute face, long wavy brown hair, and glasses. She slept over, wants to see me again. Really great personality, also fun to talk to and spend time with - yeah this is pretty awesome :heartbeat

No recording for us?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: hampster on June 04, 2013, 04:26:02 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 04, 2013, 02:02:14 PM

These are the types of women who reject me.

Past pets never revisted you? Guess they didn't love you that much :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 04, 2013, 04:45:02 PM

I would have thought that your bed would bounce more frequently than a coupe of times a year with your looks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 04, 2013, 05:52:56 PM

Where does Flannel live?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 04, 2013, 06:01:19 PM

Winnipeg.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 04, 2013, 06:01:54 PM

Quote from: Rufus on June 04, 2013, 06:01:19 PM

Winnipeg.

Oh, that shithole?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on June 04, 2013, 06:23:50 PM

You can't survive without a shithole.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on June 05, 2013, 08:42:09 PM

my gf is getting wayyyyyy too attached to me, like constantly texting me and wanting to be with me but all i wnat is some privacy to hang out with people how do i fix this ty lads

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 05, 2013, 08:59:01 PM

first gonna need pics, since you're not a gentlemen.

Second just tell her you enjoy being with her but need some space. But don't call her and say it like that. Hang out with her, do something fun, then a couple days later tell her whatever you need to tell her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 05, 2013, 09:29:26 PM

i'm so glad i'm married. I feel for you bros out there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on June 05, 2013, 09:34:41 PM

thanks pd. she's spent like no less than 5 times trying to get me to drive a half hour and pick her up and bring her back to my place. no thnx.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 05, 2013, 10:13:38 PM

Nevermind I'm not done being a manwhore.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 05, 2013, 11:27:09 PM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on June 05, 2013, 09:34:41 PM

thanks pd. she's spent like no less than 5 times trying to get me to drive a half hour and pick her up and bring her back to my place. no thnx.

...actually I would have brought her over lol :shaq

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 05, 2013, 11:30:05 PM

Why can't she come to you?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 05, 2013, 11:32:33 PM

Quote from: FatalT on June 05, 2013, 10:13:38 PM

Nevermind I'm not done being a manwhore.

I remember my manslut days. They were fun but troubling.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 05, 2013, 11:49:30 PM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on June 05, 2013, 08:42:09 PM

my gf is getting wayyyyyy too attached to me

Your first warning occurred when her hand was attached to your penis for an entire hour.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 06, 2013, 01:27:35 AM

I haven't been single for a long time. It's probably not so healthy either but whatevs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 06, 2013, 02:40:59 AM

Quote from: The Business on June 06, 2013, 01:14:15 AM

Quote from: macuser3of5 on June 05, 2013, 11:32:33 PM
Quote from: FatalT on June 05, 2013, 10:13:38 PM
Nevermind I'm not done being a manwhore.
I remember my manslut days. They were fun but troubling.

This is how I feel. And they were only fun in the sense that everything seems funner through nostalgia goggles. I remember being miserable a lot of the time. I feel like there was only a total of a few months my entire life where I actually enjoyed being single.

yeah pretty much. chasing skirts (and mostly failing) is a lot of work and depressing as fuck.

I get my kicks now by encouraging bad, reckless behavior in my single friends.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 06, 2013, 09:12:20 AM

Quote from: The Business on June 06, 2013, 01:14:15 AM

Quote from: macuser3of5 on June 05, 2013, 11:32:33 PM
Quote from: FatalT on June 05, 2013, 10:13:38 PM
Nevermind I'm not done being a manwhore.
I remember my manslut days. They were fun but troubling.

This is how I feel. And they were only fun in the sense that everything seems funner through nostalgia goggles. I remember being miserable a lot of the time. I feel like there was only a total of a few months my entire life where I actually enjoyed being single.

Single manslut days were terribly depressing for the most part. There's countless threads and posts on this forum about it from me. lulz. I've told my wife that if we end I'm not jumping back into the dating world. Hookers and video games. Fuck dating.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 06, 2013, 09:26:35 AM

Dude if I get divorced I'm probably going gay. I don't know how to talk to women anymore.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 06, 2013, 09:55:14 AM

:lol I don't think I ever knew. I just had a routine that worked often enough for my liking. And now that I don't try to sleep with women and I talk to them like human beings I get flirted with a lot. But I bet if I was to ever try to act on one of those flirtations I'd turn into a bumbling fucking mess. No thanks. Don't need that kind of stress.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 06, 2013, 11:51:05 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 06, 2013, 10:46:44 AM

Why does trying to sleep with women != talking to them like human beings?

nah, it's more not knowing how to go from A -> B. I have lost that skill.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 06, 2013, 01:30:54 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 06, 2013, 10:46:44 AM

Why does trying to sleep with women != talking to them like human beings?

because I don't think straight when I'm thinking with my dick? I tend to treat them like an object when I think of them as an object.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 06, 2013, 02:33:28 PM

Quote from: macuser3of5 on June 06, 2013, 11:51:05 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 06, 2013, 10:46:44 AM
Why does trying to sleep with women != talking to them like human beings?
nah, it's more not knowing how to go from A -> B. I have lost that skill.

I don't have the skill to go from A -> B either, it just happens. My main gripe is going from B -> C. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 06, 2013, 02:55:01 PM

Quote from: FatalT on June 06, 2013, 02:33:28 PM

Quote from: macuser3of5 on June 06, 2013, 11:51:05 AM
Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 06, 2013, 10:46:44 AM
Why does trying to sleep with women != talking to them like human beings?
nah, it's more not knowing how to go from A -> B. I have lost that skill.

I don't have the skill to go from A -> B either, it just happens. My main gripe is going from B -> C. :(

B -> C is easy. Ignoring B and going straight to C, I've found, is even easier. Just grab it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 06, 2013, 03:16:24 PM

I can't think of any.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 06, 2013, 03:16:28 PM

Ooof. Spoiled rich girl? Does she have a maid?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on June 06, 2013, 03:17:09 PM

And if yes, are you doing the maid yet?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 06, 2013, 03:46:47 PM

can I send her my beautifulpeople.com profile?

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Post by: Flannel Boy on June 06, 2013, 06:03:33 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on June 06, 2013, 03:40:21 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on June 06, 2013, 03:16:28 PM
Ooof. Spoiled rich girl? Does she have a maid?

Two. Her mother bought her a car on a whim today when she barely uses the one she already has.

(http://i.imgur.com/LApA4.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 06, 2013, 09:24:12 PM

Girl came over last nite and she cooked for me <3

I showed her some DDS2 and she actually understood wtf was going on. When I finally found a savepoint she was like "watch, right before you get to it you're gonna get into a battle!". She is not much of a gamer but she does know of KH and doesnt mind that I'm into them... and even though she doesn't like a lot of edm she is still willing to hear my sets...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on June 06, 2013, 09:25:18 PM

tounge punch her fart box and put a ring on it, tiesto. you aint getting any younger.

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 06, 2013, 09:30:00 PM

what did she cook, and did you help?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on June 06, 2013, 11:16:32 PM

Quote from: demi on June 06, 2013, 09:25:18 PM

tounge punch her fart box and put a ring on it, tiesto. you aint getting any younger.

Newsfeed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on June 07, 2013, 04:55:44 AM

Random thought: When some people are scouting their potential partners out, many people worry too much about having the same hobbies or similar musical tastes or liking the same TV shows... But for the most part how many of us like the same music we liked 10 years ago, or are still into the same hobbies? These things are all very much on the surface of who we are.

It's more important to find a person who shares your values. When we can manage that, everything else becomes easier.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on June 07, 2013, 05:13:50 AM

My girl has shit music taste and doesn't care about games.

She does comment on my Binding of Isaac goings on sometimes though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Fifstar on June 07, 2013, 01:03:23 PM

Quote from: chronovore on June 07, 2013, 04:55:44 AM

Random thought: When some people are scouting their potential partners out, many people worry too much about having the same hobbies or similar musical tastes or liking the same TV shows... But for the most part how many of us like the same music we liked 10 years ago, or are still into the same hobbies? These things are all very much on the surface of who we are.

It's more important to find a person who shares your values. When we can manage that, everything else becomes easier.

I think that's partly an age thing. Lots of people tend to define themselves over stuff they like, especially when they are younger. And liking the same stuff just makes it easier to socialize together, be it music or other hobbies. This plays a lesser role when you're older and less about getting to know knew stuff or seeing the newest bands or whatever and more about settling down and finding your place in life. In fact I think after some time it's good to have some interests that are different between you and your partner because being together all the time drives almost anyone mad.

In the long term values (and matching personalities) definetely trump common interests, no doubts about that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 07, 2013, 01:12:45 PM

Quote from: chronovore on June 07, 2013, 04:55:44 AM

Random thought: When some people are scouting their potential partners out, many people worry too much about having the same hobbies or similar musical tastes or liking the same TV shows... But for the most part how many of us like the same music we liked 10 years ago, or are still into the same hobbies? These things are all very much on the surface of who we are.

It's more important to find a person who shares your values. When we can manage that, everything else becomes easier.

Very true. My wife really doesn't enjoy half the entertainment I do, but why would I care? We do have, however, the same overall goals in life and share a pretty close set of values. I think I consciously set out to find someone like that, I think it would get kinda old to have someone that was into the same stuff I was.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on June 07, 2013, 01:17:58 PM

Quote from: chronovore on June 07, 2013, 04:55:44 AM

Random thought: When some people are scouting their potential partners out, many people worry too much about having the same hobbies or similar musical tastes or liking the same TV shows... But for the most part how many of us like the same music we liked 10 years ago, or are still into the same hobbies? These things are all very much on the surface of who we are.

It's more important to find a person who shares your values. When we can manage that, everything else becomes easier.

Paging Bebpo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on June 07, 2013, 01:36:32 PM

Quote from: chronovore on June 07, 2013, 04:55:44 AM

Random thought: When some people are scouting their potential partners out, many people worry too much about having the same hobbies or similar musical tastes or liking the same TV shows... But for the most part how many of us like the same music we liked 10 years ago, or are still into the same hobbies? These things are all very much on the surface of who we are.

It's more important to find a person who shares your values. When we can manage that, everything else becomes easier.

This is the sort of relationship advice every poor sap needs. I'd put 5-6 things above shared interests for the health of a long term relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on June 07, 2013, 01:58:09 PM

Yeah but Roger Ebert said to never marry someone who doesn't like the same movies as you, guys.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on June 07, 2013, 02:01:26 PM

And now he's dead

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Post by: nudemacusers on June 07, 2013, 02:02:18 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on June 07, 2013, 01:58:09 PM

Yeah but Roger Ebert said to never marry someone who doesn't like the same movies as you, guys.

and now look at him

edit: fuuu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on June 07, 2013, 02:04:06 PM

I knew I could count on you guys hitting that softball.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on June 07, 2013, 02:04:50 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on June 07, 2013, 02:04:06 PM

I knew I could count on you guys hitting that softball.

Unlike your Mets :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on June 07, 2013, 02:08:13 PM

Why'd you have to go and say that? :gloomy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 07, 2013, 02:09:11 PM

Quote from: Steve Contra on June 07, 2013, 02:04:50 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on June 07, 2013, 02:04:06 PM
I knew I could count on you guys hitting that softball.
Unlike your Mets :'(

too far bro

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on June 07, 2013, 03:06:06 PM

My wife and I like a lot of the same music and movies, but she doesn't give a shit about games or giant robots. I don't think I could've dated/married someone who liked all the same things as me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 07, 2013, 03:45:50 PM

You can find stuff that overlaps. Introduce your partner to new shit. Definitely need something to talk about. I'd say having a similar core philosophy is more important than specific interests at this point since a good partner will sometimes tag along even if they're not super into it. But if you're not on the same page about how you want life to be, what's the point of shared interests.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 07, 2013, 04:28:07 PM

I'll never understand some people's obsession with determining their mate based on the acceptance of all their hobbies. Honestly it's not a concept I was familiar with until I ventured on GAF a decade ago and saw people saying if a woman didn't appreciate the art of videogames, or anime etc they couldn't date them.

I can think of a host of values I'd want a girlfriend or wife to have, and they all revolve around being a decent person - and the same ideals and standards I hold myself to. Does she treat people with respect, is she trustworthy, would she make a good mother (regardless of whether we plan on having kids or not), etc. And then there's stuff like: is she funny/decent sense of humor. Sure I'd like to meet someone who shared some hobbies or interests like reading, some types of music, etc. But if she's not into politics or sports I'm not going to be like "too bad, we can't be together."

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Although I suppose I couldn't date a woman who liked Jay-Z more than Nas...

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Post by: Mupepe on June 07, 2013, 04:38:52 PM

Big Pimpin is a better song than anything Nas ever wrote.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on June 07, 2013, 04:42:42 PM

That's only because UGK killed Jay on that song. Twice.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uijHb5U1pD8

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Post by: Raban on June 07, 2013, 04:44:53 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on June 07, 2013, 04:38:52 PM

Big Pimpin is a better song than anything Nas ever wrote.

:holeup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on June 07, 2013, 04:47:01 PM

I fully endorse that opinion. It's a UGK song with some the best production Timbaland ever did that unfortunately features Jay Z.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 07, 2013, 04:48:25 PM

Quote from: Steve Contra on June 07, 2013, 04:47:01 PM

I fully endorse that opinion. It's a UGK song with some the best production Timbaland ever did that unfortunately features Jay Z.

:bow Steve :bow2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on June 07, 2013, 04:50:03 PM

I take that back. it's the best production Timbaland ever did.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cgoqrgc_0cM

I'm bumping this on repeat through Oakland on my way home.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 07, 2013, 04:51:44 PM

Welp, sounds like I'll never marry Contra or Mupepe. :what

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on June 07, 2013, 04:52:28 PM

I don't do interracial scenes so it doesn't matter

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Best top of the page post ever?

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 07, 2013, 04:53:24 PM

I'm not looking to catch any feels. I'm up for some NSA fun if you are, PD.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 07, 2013, 05:08:48 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 07, 2013, 04:51:44 PM

Welp, sounds like I'll never marry Contra or Mupepe. :what

you can tape a picture of tupac over my face bb

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 07, 2013, 06:05:37 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 07, 2013, 04:28:07 PM

I'll never understand some people's obsession with determining their mate based on the acceptance of all their hobbies. Honestly it's not a concept I was familiar with until I ventured on GAF a decade ago and saw people saying if a woman didn't appreciate the art of videogames, or anime etc they couldn't date them.

I can think of a host of values I'd want a girlfriend or wife to have, and they all revolve around being a decent person - and the same ideals and standards I hold myself to. Does she treat people with respect, is she trustworthy, would she make a good mother (regardless of whether we plan on having kids or not), etc. And then there's stuff like: is she funny/decent sense of humor. Sure I'd like to meet someone who shared some hobbies or interests like reading, some types of music, etc. But if she's not into politics or sports I'm not going to be like "too bad, we can't be together."

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Although I suppose I couldn't date a woman who liked Jay-Z more than Nas...
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That's because gaming just isn't a "hobby" for those kinds of people it's a "way of life."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 07, 2013, 06:58:50 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on June 07, 2013, 06:05:37 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 07, 2013, 04:28:07 PM
I'll never understand some people's obsession with determining their mate based on the acceptance of all their hobbies. Honestly it's not a concept I was familiar with until I ventured on GAF a decade ago and saw people saying if a woman didn't appreciate the art of videogames, or anime etc they couldn't date them.

I can think of a host of values I'd want a girlfriend or wife to have, and they all revolve around being a decent person - and the same ideals and standards I hold myself to. Does she treat people with respect, is she trustworthy, would she make a good mother (regardless of whether we plan on having kids or not), etc. And then there's stuff like: is she funny/decent sense of humor. Sure I'd like to meet someone who shared some hobbies or interests like reading, some types of music, etc. But if she's not into politics or sports I'm not going to be like "too bad, we can't be together."

spoiler (click to show/hide)
Although I suppose I couldn't date a woman who liked Jay-Z more than Nas...
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That's because gaming just isn't a "hobby" for those kinds of people it's a "way of life."

Yup. Everything is about the outside world validating vidya games, be it girls or this recent Last Of Us/Citizen Kane shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 07, 2013, 10:47:43 PM

I have a date for tomorrow--and there's no caffeine involved.

Oddly, I just had three women from match.com message me out of the blue this evening.

beautifulpeople.com Winnipeg is a ghost town, having just one female member from the city up until today (she's smoking and lives just a few hundred meters from my apartment).

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Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on June 07, 2013, 11:07:45 PM

lol malek owned

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 08, 2013, 01:36:58 AM

I didn't take any of his son's classes at Robson Hall. :-\

I wonder whether he'll hold parties at the billion-dollar* human rights museum he's backed?

*not actual figure (inserts photo of extreme poverty in North Winnipeg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 08, 2013, 02:35:16 AM

I don't think I spent a lot of money (well a bar tab here or there) it's just so awful when you get to closing time and you try your desperate best to pork on your way out the door. I remember one terrible time I walked with a girl on the way back to my place, she goes up to her door and I do a 'uhhh ehyyy wasssup girrl' type thing and she just looks at me blankly. i shuffled away with my penis in my butt and probably cried in my pillow.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 08, 2013, 02:43:45 AM

In college with my twinky body it was only like $15 or so to get me hammered. Not bad.

But I get what you mean, the whole divebombing pussy THAT NIGHT game is just not for me. I tried and failed. You're definitely better off letting it grow naturally and not pushing the fuck angle.

I'm so glad I don't have to navigate this shit lol goddamn.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on June 08, 2013, 08:06:50 PM

had a lovely date in Cincinnati with a girl who is moving to nashville in the next month or so. We had met through a mutual friend when I was visiting UC for a weekend. I spent all of Thursday and Friday with her, and slept at her house. Snuggled up that thursday night, amongst other things :heart

I'm very excited for her to move here. I can feel something budding.

Like my penis.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 08, 2013, 09:06:07 PM

have you informed her that you are officially a beautiful person?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 08, 2013, 09:48:11 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 07, 2013, 06:58:50 PM

Yup. Everything is about the outside world validating vidya games, be it girls or this recent Last Of Us/Citizen Kane shit.

I missed the Last of Us/Citizen Kane shit, deets?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on June 08, 2013, 11:41:19 PM

Quote from: The Business on June 08, 2013, 09:34:47 PM

Just for all you aspertards out there who still don't get it: romantic relationships and everything they imply are implied. There is never a time when it is necessary to let anyone know you spent the night with someone.

Sure there is, its called telling your buddies about it. Are you honestly that much of a stick in the fuck to act all high and mighty when somebody tells you about a sexual experience? I don't see a lot of people in here just reporting back in the amount of pussy they swim in, and thats certainly never the intention that I have when I talk about my current dating life.

Honestly man, you're becoming quite possibly the worst poster on this board with all your pretention of holier-than-thou attitudes and all around douchiness. You enter threads literally just to shit on particular members for not even doing anything offensive, or outright stupid. They're just being how they always have been.

You must be the absolute worst at bars. Go fuck yourself, dude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 09, 2013, 02:07:01 AM

Unlike the other dates, Fit Girl felt the spark. I could see it in her eyes.

She said I look like Liev Schreiber. I don't know whether that's a good thing or a bad thing. My size 31 pants are loose on me, yet I still seem to have a chubby face. :-\ At least she didn't think I looked like Karlheinz Schreiber (Canadian/German reference).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 09, 2013, 02:27:57 AM

Before my date, I hedged my bets by creating a POF account. Ten women already want to meet me. :pimp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 09, 2013, 05:48:34 AM

You don't have a chubby face.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on June 09, 2013, 08:23:35 AM

Eh, sex/romance/dating is pretty important to the vast majority of people, and it's probably healthier in the long run to treat it as something that you can discuss with your friends (and e-friends, if that's how you roll, e-socially) rather than a sacred taboo. Lord knows "let's not talk about it" has a shaky record at best in helping people cope with the physical and emotional aspects of love. So many stories of fucked up situations that people tolerated involve some variation of the phrase "I didn't realize it wasn't normal."

Adolescent bragging about getting laid is obviously chintzy, as is the humblebrag. But I'm only really bugged by the sense that someone is using another person to get achievement points from their social circle , not that they're breaking some age-old code of chivalry. I mean, a "gentleman" doesn't let his lady vote or own property, so I'm not all that concerned with meeting his standards.

PS Posting pictures of a girl without her knowledge or consent is most definitely a party foul in most or all contexts.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 09, 2013, 09:48:24 AM

A gentlemen doesn't lust after his sister either. Just saying.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on June 09, 2013, 11:56:55 AM

Quote from: The Business on June 09, 2013, 08:08:03 AM

Surely once in your life you've been told "a gentleman doesn't kiss and tell." The saying isn't "a gentleman doesn't kiss and tell unless he's telling his buddies about it." The reason for that is because it makes you look classless and sullied the name of your poor date. Most girls don't want a reputation for sleeping around--wheter they do or not. You've always been a slimy fuck when it come to posting pictures of girls (that you arent dating) or talking about them here. Grow up, get some class.

this doesnt happen coz you told your bros you slept with her; it happens coz you told them you slept with her and said that she was a whore for doing it. dudes can brag and joke about sex without trashing the women they do it with; thats better than trying to be whatever a fuckin gentleman is.

ps - women talk about sex too! and they usually talk in way more detail and with way less self-important hyperbole than dudes do.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 09, 2013, 02:27:52 PM

What is going on in here.

:whoo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 09, 2013, 02:45:34 PM

Business' posts are starting to sound more like slut shaming to me than some gentlemanly defense of women's honor. A woman having sex with you doesn't make her a slut, nor does a guy telling his friends that he had sex="that bitch was all on my nuts bro, shit was crazy. She swallowed itttt."

News flash: women talk about sex too. BrandKnew's post was far from some dudebro brag, it seems quite heartfelt to me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 09, 2013, 03:08:54 PM

Saying you got laid: cool.
Posting pics and bragging: gross.

If we can't agree on this then fffffffffffffff.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 09, 2013, 03:11:39 PM

what if I just take pics of myself with my latest 'lady friend' :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 09, 2013, 03:12:17 PM

Girl we all know you're tied the hell down.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 09, 2013, 03:28:45 PM

i need to work on my dark chris references. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 09, 2013, 03:32:16 PM

Quote from: macuser3of5 on June 09, 2013, 03:28:45 PM

i need to work on my dark chris references. :-\

That guy :yuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 09, 2013, 04:51:19 PM

Wow, not all women take three to ten days to respond to a message after a date. :o

Also, what happened to plenty of fish--the quality of that site has improved immensely.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 09, 2013, 05:02:05 PM

I was lying when I said I was going back to manwhoring. I just didn't want to admit that the girl I'm involved with is quite a bit younger than myself. I spent all day yesterday with her in the ER of a hospital because her parents are out of town for the weekend. It was nice. <3

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 09, 2013, 05:11:00 PM

Quote from: FatalT on June 09, 2013, 05:02:05 PM

I was lying when I said I was going back to manwhoring. I just didn't want to admit that the girl I'm involved with is quite a bit younger than myself.

What is she, nine?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on June 09, 2013, 05:44:13 PM

i appreciate brand news stories of getting laid. it makes me wish i wasw a young female who could have him enter me with his indiew dick

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 09, 2013, 07:20:53 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on June 09, 2013, 07:19:16 PM

Rated 10 by Pitchfork.com

like Brandnew himself, that score is inflated.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 09, 2013, 07:21:05 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 09, 2013, 05:11:00 PM

Quote from: FatalT on June 09, 2013, 05:02:05 PM
I was lying when I said I was going back to manwhoring. I just didn't want to admit that the girl I'm involved with is quite a bit younger than myself.

What is she, nine?

Less than double that. :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 09, 2013, 07:23:43 PM

Fistful is jealous.

Half-your-age-plus-seven-years.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 09, 2013, 07:37:32 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 09, 2013, 07:23:43 PM

Fistful is jealous.

Half-your-age-plus-seven-years.

I'm going off Half-your-looks-plus-seven-years. I'm well under that limit. :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on June 09, 2013, 09:03:36 PM

Quote from: The Business on June 07, 2013, 01:10:47 PM

Sometimes interests and values overlap, don't they? It's hard to predict what your personality will be like or what your values are in ten years which is probably what makes marriage so difficult.

I guess they can overlap, like if your hobbies include larger-picture issues, e.g. fitness, earth conservatism, political activism, zombie survivalism...

Quote from: FatalT on June 09, 2013, 07:21:05 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 09, 2013, 05:11:00 PM
Quote from: FatalT on June 09, 2013, 05:02:05 PM
I was lying when I said I was going back to manwhoring. I just didn't want to admit that the girl I'm involved with is quite a bit younger than myself.

What is she, nine?

Less than double that. :-[

Dude. DUDE. Enjoy the jailtime if her parents decide they don't like you anymore.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on June 09, 2013, 09:06:33 PM

Good news: I had sex last night :rejoice
Bad news: It was with someone that I wasn't planning to have sex with. Got drunk at a party... one thing led to another... she takes me back to her place... and bam I have my wiener in her honeypot. :picard

Extra note for PD: She is a PAWG. A butterfaced PAWG but a PAWG nonetheless.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on June 09, 2013, 09:22:35 PM

Incoming biz slutshaming

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on June 09, 2013, 09:27:22 PM

Why is it bad news if you have unexpected sex? sounds pretty positive to me

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on June 09, 2013, 09:31:09 PM

Quote from: Huff on June 09, 2013, 09:27:22 PM

Why is it bad news if you have unexpected sex? sounds pretty positive to me

I guess bad is too strong of a word. More like "subpar news".

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 09, 2013, 09:31:53 PM

Quote from: chronovore on June 09, 2013, 09:03:36 PM

Quote from: FatalT on June 09, 2013, 07:21:05 PM
Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 09, 2013, 05:11:00 PM
Quote from: FatalT on June 09, 2013, 05:02:05 PM
I was lying when I said I was going back to manwhoring. I just didn't want to admit that the girl I'm involved with is quite a bit younger than myself.

What is she, nine?

Less than double that. :-[
Dude. DUDE. Enjoy the jailtime if her parents decide they don't like you anymore.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_North_America#South_Carolina

Come at me brrooooooooooooo!

But seriously. We're not doing that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on June 09, 2013, 09:38:07 PM

Quote from: Atramental on June 09, 2013, 09:31:09 PM

Quote from: Huff on June 09, 2013, 09:27:22 PM
Why is it bad news if you have unexpected sex? sounds pretty positive to me
I guess bad is too strong of a word. More like "subpar news".

still going to say above par. for you. no offense. the more experience the better

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Boogie on June 09, 2013, 09:53:25 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 09, 2013, 02:07:01 AM

Unlike the other dates, Fit Girl felt the spark. I could see it in her eyes.

She said I look like Liev Schreiber. I don't know whether that's a good thing or a bad thing.

I've thought you look like Liev Schreiber for a while too, and I think that's a good thing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 09, 2013, 10:05:53 PM

Atramental :rejoice

feast, my brother.

The Business :pacspit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 09, 2013, 10:23:33 PM

Quote from: Boogie on June 09, 2013, 09:53:25 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 09, 2013, 02:07:01 AM
Unlike the other dates, Fit Girl felt the spark. I could see it in her eyes.

She said I look like Liev Schreiber. I don't know whether that's a good thing or a bad thing.

I've thought you look like Liev Schreiber for a while too, and I think that's a good thing.

I could almost see it.
(http://knockedupcelebs.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/liev-father.jpg)(http://i1256.photobucket.com/albums/ii488/flannelboy82/16739304230889124834.jpeg) (3 month old pic)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 09, 2013, 10:30:13 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 09, 2013, 10:23:33 PM

Quote from: Boogie on June 09, 2013, 09:53:25 PM
Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 09, 2013, 02:07:01 AM
Unlike the other dates, Fit Girl felt the spark. I could see it in her eyes.

She said I look like Liev Schreiber. I don't know whether that's a good thing or a bad thing.

I've thought you look like Liev Schreiber for a while too, and I think that's a good thing.

I could almost see it.
(http://knockedupcelebs.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/liev-father.jpg)(http://i1256.photobucket.com/albums/ii488/flannelboy82/16739304230889124834.jpeg) (3 month old pic)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cQixIVikB0M&t=0m16s
:gladbron

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 10, 2013, 12:08:45 AM

Quote from: Atramental on June 09, 2013, 09:31:09 PM

Quote from: Huff on June 09, 2013, 09:27:22 PM
Why is it bad news if you have unexpected sex? sounds pretty positive to me
I guess bad is too strong of a word. More like "subpar news".

you're in the prime of your manslut days. make the most of it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on June 10, 2013, 12:35:46 AM

The sooner I get my own place the sooner I'll be slutting it up in Upstate SC.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 10, 2013, 12:51:36 AM

Quote from: Atramental on June 10, 2013, 12:35:46 AM

The sooner I get my own place the sooner I'll be slutting it up in Upstate SC.

All the sluts are in Charlotte. Come up here again, I'll be your wingman. Seriously.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on June 10, 2013, 01:10:42 AM

My job is making my life somewhat hectic at the moment so I'll have to plan some things out before I decide to make a trip to Charlotte.

But I'll definitely keep your offer in mind, FatalT.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 10, 2013, 01:15:09 AM

it's gonna be weird when you eiffel tower some chick and one of you jizzes and it hits the other on the navel.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on June 10, 2013, 01:27:57 AM

:kobeyuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 10, 2013, 02:00:34 AM

Quote from: The Business on June 09, 2013, 10:32:20 PM

Malek is so god damned sexy. If he wined and dined me and then bragged about bringing me back to his place I would consider it my greatest accomplishment.

I see. I might be in the States in a few weeks. . . .

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 10, 2013, 02:42:20 PM

Chatting with a girl who has a .69 waist-to-hip ratio (27 and 39").

Mine's 0.78, which is right in the "good" category for women. :kobeyuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 10, 2013, 02:44:10 PM

She doesn't need those ribs anyways.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 10, 2013, 02:49:03 PM

I'm 24 and 35 :o. Makes buying clothes an asshole though. Waist sides are rarely that small.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 10, 2013, 02:50:52 PM

gotta go euro gurl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 10, 2013, 02:53:30 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on June 10, 2013, 02:49:03 PM

I'm 24 and 35 :o. Makes buying clothes an asshole though. Waist sides are rarely that small.

That's also .69. . . The sexy ratio.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 10, 2013, 02:53:40 PM

Quote from: macuser3of5 on June 10, 2013, 02:50:52 PM

gotta go euro gurl.

What does this mean specifically? Euro designers?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 10, 2013, 03:32:50 PM

Hey, a gorgeous tall blonde just messaged me out of the blue.

Quote

How are you doing? I am nicole by name and I am seeking for the right man to start a new life with,i got to see your profile and it was captivating I wouldn't mind getting to know you better, I can't chat on here cos am not a full member, if you are interested in me,kindly get back too me at my private address.

Sounds legit. She also happens to be a Nigerian Prince.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Raban on June 10, 2013, 04:05:38 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on June 10, 2013, 02:49:03 PM

I'm 24 and 35 :o. Makes buying clothes an asshole though. Waist sides are rarely that small.

31 and 41 :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 10, 2013, 04:34:46 PM

Quote from: Raban on June 10, 2013, 04:05:38 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on June 10, 2013, 02:49:03 PM
I'm 24 and 35 :o. Makes buying clothes an asshole though. Waist sides are rarely that small.
31 and 41 :fbm

Why sad though? You've got a pretty good ratio there. Lots of women are > .8.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 10, 2013, 04:37:24 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on June 10, 2013, 02:53:40 PM

Quote from: macuser3of5 on June 10, 2013, 02:50:52 PM
gotta go euro gurl.

What does this mean specifically? Euro designers?

word. you're probably a eu 38.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Raban on June 10, 2013, 04:41:25 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on June 10, 2013, 04:34:46 PM

Why sad though? You've got a pretty good ratio there. Lots of women are > .8.

really!? :o I just wish I was smaller, I guess. It's not often you see women that are 6' tall, though I've seen plenty who pull it off and look very sexy.

I'm not too worried about it, but it does bother me from time to time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 10, 2013, 04:44:09 PM

Quote from: Raban on June 10, 2013, 04:41:25 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on June 10, 2013, 04:34:46 PM
Why sad though? You've got a pretty good ratio there. Lots of women are > .8.
really!? :o I just wish I was smaller, I guess. It's not often you see women that are 6' tall, though I've seen plenty who pull it off and look very sexy.

I'm not too worried about it, but it does bother me from time to time.

Really. A lot of women have big hips sure but a quite smaller waist not so much, especially as they get older and pack on the fat.

Also mac I'm poor doe.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 10, 2013, 04:51:30 PM

plenty of stuff out there at target-level pricing

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 10, 2013, 04:53:13 PM

Quote from: macuser3of5 on June 10, 2013, 04:51:30 PM

plenty of stuff out there at target-level pricing

Yeah but it's usually online. Buying clothes online is hit or miss regardless of what their so called measurements are.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 10, 2013, 05:18:57 PM

dem euros are a lot more consistent tho

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on June 10, 2013, 07:19:38 PM

so im going bowling with my friend tomorrow who has a crush on me but i havent told my gf yet that im going. she is my friend first and foremost so im not sure if i should say something. what do i do evilbore

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 10, 2013, 11:55:27 PM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on June 10, 2013, 07:19:38 PM

so im going bowling with my friend tomorrow who has a crush on me but i havent told my gf yet that im going. she is my friend first and foremost so im not sure if i should say something. what do i do evilbore

Don't say shit. Don't post anything about it on your social media sites. Don't bring it up. It never happened. You two were just knocking down some pins together.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on June 11, 2013, 12:19:08 AM

thanks fatalt buddy :bow

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 11, 2013, 12:57:17 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on June 11, 2013, 12:54:00 PM

I missed this thread!

I miss your pics of the hot Montreal women you're dating. :mouf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 11, 2013, 01:04:21 PM

then post pics of your woman

#NoTheBusiness

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 11, 2013, 01:05:12 PM

Quote from: Shark Johnson on June 11, 2013, 04:40:50 AM

I think a girl might have just been flirting with me. Oh God.

and?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 11, 2013, 01:07:48 PM

Quote from: macuser3of5 on June 11, 2013, 01:05:12 PM

Quote from: Shark Johnson on June 11, 2013, 04:40:50 AM
I think a girl might have just been flirting with me. Oh God.
and?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VLnWf1sQkjY

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 11, 2013, 01:27:36 PM

:rejoice

#NoTheBusiness

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 11, 2013, 01:29:09 PM

Wow. She's absolutely gorgeous.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on June 11, 2013, 01:42:11 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 11, 2013, 01:29:09 PM

Wow. She's absolutely gorgeous.

Ditto.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 11, 2013, 03:56:22 PM

You'll get used to it. Avoiding it with people you don't like will never not be awkward though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 11, 2013, 04:14:44 PM

Quote from: Rufus on June 11, 2013, 03:56:22 PM

You'll get used to it. Avoiding it with people you don't like will never not be awkward though.

This.

There's an older (late 30's) woman at work who has asked me out to coffee at least once a week for the last few months under the pretense of discussing how each of our respective jobs tie into each other (they don't). And no one at work has coffee meetings. This afternoon while I was getting a cup of water in the break room she tells me that I'm looking "so buff" and that i've been looking better and better each time she sees me. It was flattering at first but I'd expect people to take a hint after months of no reciprocation. She also knows I'm married.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on June 11, 2013, 04:20:06 PM

you also occasionally get dudes who are ostensibly straight but who want to hang out a little too much and a little too often, and become persistent when you try to dodge them. crazy awkward. never be that dude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on June 11, 2013, 04:21:07 PM

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 11, 2013, 04:21:27 PM

:lol

I'm always paranoid that I'm that guy. But I think I'm too anti social to be that guy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on June 11, 2013, 04:28:45 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on June 11, 2013, 04:21:27 PM

:lol

I'm always paranoid that I'm that guy. But I think I'm too anti social to be that guy.

me too. but to be fair its probably because I'm so antisocial that it bothers me when people I've shown no interest in get persistent. normal people probably just find it flattering.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on June 11, 2013, 06:20:29 PM

Quote from: Shark Johnson on June 11, 2013, 04:23:02 PM

Well, I like this girl a ton. That's why it's so weird to me.

Might as well put your pein inside her when the opportunity presents itself. Things are only going to get more awkward between you two the more you prolong this "courtship" phase. :yeshrug

spoiler (click to show/hide)

/totally talking out of my ass

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 11, 2013, 06:24:02 PM

that was a good asstalk, atra

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 11, 2013, 07:37:36 PM

Yeah, I'm starting to have my doubts that I'll be getting a second date. :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 11, 2013, 08:01:57 PM

Pretty, sure this woman is now gong to put me on ignore.

Her:

Quote

My roommate and I can't imagine leaving each other because we love each others cats.

You can guess what my response was.

edit:

False alarm

Her:

Quote

Hahahahahaha! Oh my gosh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 11, 2013, 08:07:57 PM

:mynicca

Quote from: Shark Johnson on June 11, 2013, 04:23:02 PM

Well, I like this girl a ton. That's why it's so weird to me.

Win-win, congratulations. Now at least try to capitalize on it, don't worry about failing. I've been oblivious to so many opportunities, it's not even funny.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 11, 2013, 09:25:17 PM

Malek is going to think his self out of pussy one day. Just go with the flow my brother.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 11, 2013, 10:51:14 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on June 11, 2013, 09:22:22 PM

Malak, stop fucking overthinking things. Girls pick up on that really easily.

Are you an expert? Oh wait. . . .

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 11, 2013, 10:53:00 PM

Puddles, go to Plenty of Fish or pay for an account at match.com. The OKC women. . . .

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 11, 2013, 11:04:10 PM

Over the last three days, I've had over twenty women message me on POF and another twenty, though with some overlap, wanting to meet, and most of the women in the former group are attractive.

Match.com has a lot of perfectionist types. Hell, Fit Girl ran twenty miles before our date on Saturday (usually, my dates wait until after the date is over to run away like that) and she's running a marathon this weekend.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on June 11, 2013, 11:08:29 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 11, 2013, 10:53:00 PM

Puddles, go to Plenty of Fish or pay for an account at match.com. The OKC women. . . .

I don't know. I've been seeing the same girl from OKC for about 2 months now and it's going really well. I think it's just about finding the right one.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 11, 2013, 11:10:49 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on June 11, 2013, 10:40:51 PM

Quote from: mojovonio on June 11, 2013, 03:07:17 PM
I... don't know who you are.

It was Catherine, right?

:(

spoiler (click to show/hide)
It's Wrath
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Queen Catherine wakes the cat, and the cat quietly cries.

Quote from: Groogrux on June 11, 2013, 11:08:29 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 11, 2013, 10:53:00 PM
Puddles, go to Plenty of Fish or pay for an account at match.com. The OKC women. . . .

I don't know. I've been seeing the same girl from OKC for about 2 months now and it's going really well. I think it's just about finding the right one.

If I tell you winters in Winnipeg are extremely cold and it happens to be mild and sunny when you come to Winnipeg, that doesn't mean I was wrong.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 11, 2013, 11:18:46 PM

Fuck, Mojo was right. Fit Girl just messaged me and wants to go on a date ASAP.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 11, 2013, 11:39:12 PM

I think she wouldn't respect me after I passed out 1/5th through her run.

I'd much rather join her for her after run shower.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 11, 2013, 11:46:43 PM

PoF is insane, and strikes me as more hook up focused than OKC.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on June 11, 2013, 11:47:28 PM

It's all about Twitter.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 11, 2013, 11:48:58 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 11, 2013, 11:46:43 PM

PoF is insane, and strikes me as more hook up focused than OKC.

That sounds horrible. ::)

Women on match.com want a husband, women on PoF want everything, and women on OKCupid don't know what the fuck they want.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 12, 2013, 12:08:24 AM

Dunno, when I did the online dating thing I preferred OKC because overall they were more "serious" to me. My PoF experience revolves around dinner dates ending in awkward one night stand offers. I don't say that to brag or act like I didn't go along with some, but overall it just felt off

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 12, 2013, 12:34:27 AM

Quote from: mojovonio on June 11, 2013, 11:52:31 PM

Well if you get a date 2, be interested in her. Ask her questions. Lean in to her (make mental checks ensuring you do this) while she talks. Open doors for her, let her in first, let her walk ahead and put your hand on the small of her back.

There's a huge difference between being a PUA douche and being a confident gentleman. Don't game her, they always know.

But if you like her, don't be afraid to show her, just not too much.

And yeah, at the end of date 2, unless she initiates, don't kiss her. Kiss her on one cheek, a little longer than a peck, with one hand on the small of her back. That's it.

If you actually like her and she actually likes you, date 3 is in.

I leaned in during date one, but that was because it was getting extremly loud in the bar. Do I get a half point for that?

No one would believe I was a player, so I don't try that act.

Is this lower back thing like the neck trick with dogs? IF so, :ohhh

PS: I'm taking notes

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on June 12, 2013, 08:31:16 AM

Mojo is right. Just look at the second step in the D.E.N.N.I.S. System.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 12, 2013, 08:42:41 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on June 12, 2013, 08:31:16 AM

Mojo is right. Just look at the second step in the D.E.N.N.I.S. System.

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 12, 2013, 11:01:47 AM

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 12, 2013, 07:03:06 PM

Thai food and a movie tomorrow with Fit Girl.

Mojo, what movie should I choose? Sadly, Man of Steel won't be out 'til Friday, but Iron Man fills the penis connotation void.

Would Before Midnight do the trick?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 12, 2013, 07:05:47 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on June 12, 2013, 08:31:16 AM

Mojo is right. Just look at the second step in the D.E.N.N.I.S. System.

it works, I DENNIS'd my wife.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 12, 2013, 07:06:40 PM

You separated entirely?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 12, 2013, 07:54:42 PM

sorta, I just avoid her whenever possible

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 12, 2013, 07:55:09 PM

married life?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 12, 2013, 07:56:41 PM

Quote from: macuser3of5 on June 12, 2013, 07:54:42 PM

sorta, I just avoid her whenever possible

pics?

#NoTheBusiness

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 12, 2013, 08:16:01 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 12, 2013, 07:56:41 PM

Quote from: macuser3of5 on June 12, 2013, 07:54:42 PM
sorta, I just avoid her whenever possible

pics?

#NoTheBusiness

I only have pictures of her booty and vageen

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 12, 2013, 08:19:54 PM

:shaq

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on June 12, 2013, 08:24:51 PM

Quote from: macuser3of5 on June 12, 2013, 08:16:01 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 12, 2013, 07:56:41 PM
Quote from: macuser3of5 on June 12, 2013, 07:54:42 PM
sorta, I just avoid her whenever possible

pics?

#NoTheBusiness
I only have pictures of her booty and vageen

#broseidon

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 12, 2013, 11:28:17 PM

An incredibility attractive 21-year-old blonde asked me out. What do I do, besides a google image search?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 12, 2013, 11:58:13 PM

Thanks for the advice, people. I said yes. Now I feel bad because I like Fit Girl so much and because I'll probably lose all my organs. I also feel bad for the guy getting my liver.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on June 13, 2013, 12:00:48 AM

feel bad why?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 13, 2013, 12:04:10 AM

I blame Catholic school.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 13, 2013, 12:09:59 AM

Ask her to wear a nun costume.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 13, 2013, 12:11:21 AM

We didn't have nuns at the school. And the nuns at my Polish church didn't wear the traditional garb association with nuns in NA.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 13, 2013, 12:14:08 AM

well now I don't have a boner anymore

Malek'd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 13, 2013, 12:21:25 AM

Yeah I can be a Debbie Downer.

Date this upcoming Saturday
Her: So do you like my dirty blonde hair?
Me: Aren't all blondes dirty? Well, except my dead golden-lab, unless he was in the garden during the rain. I miss him so much.
Her: Umm OK.
Me: I'm dying, too
Her: What? Really?
Me: Yes, eventually. Maybe in ten years, maybe in seventy. You didn't think I'd live forever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 13, 2013, 12:31:57 AM

exactly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 13, 2013, 12:34:26 AM

The hot blonde is from PoF, you poofs. And she seems incredibly confident.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 13, 2013, 12:43:57 AM

I probably shouldn't even bother asking... but it's not cool for, say, a 35 year old dude to date a 21 year old, no matter how hot she is, right?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 13, 2013, 12:45:21 AM

I'm not 35, dude!

But I think it's fine unless she's really naive.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 13, 2013, 12:50:37 AM

She's naive :(

but really, really hot

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 13, 2013, 12:57:47 AM

I'm not really sure

We live in different states so we can't really see each other too often anyway

I'm assuming hang out, go out for food, events, shit like that, and have dirty sweaty nerd sex

I'm worried that I'm now old enough to be appealing to young women with potential daddy issues/things for older dudes

But... :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 13, 2013, 12:58:53 AM

But . . .
(http://cache.gawker.com/assets/images/7/2008/08/edwards_affairnightline_gawker.flv.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 13, 2013, 01:06:49 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 13, 2013, 12:43:57 AM

I probably shouldn't even bother asking... but it's not cool for, say, a 35 year old dude to date a 21 year old, no matter how hot she is, right?

date casually I suppose, but I can't see myself at 29 having much to say to a 21 year old long-term.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 13, 2013, 01:18:38 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 13, 2013, 12:43:57 AM

I probably shouldn't even bother asking... but it's not cool for, say, a 35 year old dude to date a 21 year old, no matter how hot she is, right?

If you can find something to talk about other than her cute views on subjects just because she took that one intro class.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 13, 2013, 01:22:56 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 13, 2013, 12:43:57 AM

I probably shouldn't even bother asking... but it's not cool for, say, a 35 year old dude to date a 21 year old, no matter how hot she is, right?

I don't see anything wrong with it although I wouldn't do it personally. Just don't expect anything serious, given her age. Have fun, nothing wrong with that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 13, 2013, 01:23:48 AM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on June 13, 2013, 01:18:38 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 13, 2013, 12:43:57 AM
I probably shouldn't even bother asking... but it's not cool for, say, a 35 year old dude to date a 21 year old, no matter how hot she is, right?

If you can find something to talk about other than her cute views on subjects just because she took that one intro class.

I mean, we're both nerdy and like video games, other nerdy shit, similar tv shows, whatever

I just think that if we ever got serious it would be weird to date someone without a lot of life experiences... who knows though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 13, 2013, 01:25:09 AM

Depends on the person but yeah the average 21 yr old hasn't exactly lived out a huge swath of experiences which can lead to some disconnect on certain matters.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 13, 2013, 01:42:43 AM

Is she a libertarian? :smug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on June 13, 2013, 01:47:34 AM

I'm 24 and was immediately turned off when this girl I was talking to a few days ago told me she was 19. I mean even at 21, they may not have had a real relationship and they probably have very little self-confidence/experiences. You'll go crazy after 48 hours, I'm sure.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on June 13, 2013, 07:09:19 AM

As long as it is legal, who gives a fuck?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on June 13, 2013, 08:16:36 AM

x/2+7 ~ 24

close enough.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: hampster on June 13, 2013, 08:46:39 AM

Life experience is inconsequential. The only difference between someone at 21 and 31 is the 21-year-old hasn't had their dreams and metabolism crushed by life yet :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 13, 2013, 08:48:38 AM

Quote from: The Experiment on June 13, 2013, 07:09:19 AM

As long as it is legal, who gives a fuck?

This is my thinking. Whether you connect or not beyond sex is a different matter. But it's perfectly fine to date someone that much younger. Two consenting adults and all that. You'll pull out whatever hair you have left though probably.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 13, 2013, 10:38:36 PM

Alright you fucking assholes. Before you date someone that's 16, think about the implications of this. Not the legal implications. Nor the implications of dating someone who was in elementary school when you were in High School. No, think about the maturity level you're dealing with. Fuck. That. Shit.

I hung out with a nice girl today (3 years older than me, 28), went to dinner, had a good time. Busted a nut. I think I'll go back to manwhoring again. It was much more pleasurable. Atramental, get your ass up here.

Also now I'm stuck visiting previously mentioned 16 year old at work tomorrow. Instead of playing Last of Us. Or hanging out with previously mentioned handjob girl. Don't do that. Don't make promises you think you can keep because things might come up that make you want to break said promises.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 13, 2013, 10:43:12 PM

just tell her you busted a nut in another chick. she'll probably lose interest.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 13, 2013, 10:47:48 PM

Quote from: macuser3of5 on June 13, 2013, 10:43:12 PM

just tell her you busted a nut in another chick. she'll probably lose interest.

That's the easy way out. I like to make my life difficult and miserable. It's more fun that way!

Quote from: Eschaton on June 13, 2013, 10:44:58 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/nPG1h.png)

That's pretty much the face I made. Cheers!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 13, 2013, 11:43:01 PM

Things are still going really well with the bbw girl I mentioned before. I had her come out to meet my friends and she got along very well with them... this weekend we are gonna go to the aquarium... yeah for the first time in a long time nothing to complain about on the dating front, feels good man.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 14, 2013, 12:02:50 AM

When you say bbw, do you actually mean bbw or thick? Maybe a celebrity example?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 14, 2013, 12:24:03 AM

The coward dies a thousand deaths, but the potential relationship just one.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 14, 2013, 02:00:01 AM

]ust wondering because some people call a slightly "thick" woman a bbw, and IMO that's not accurate.

imo this would be a BBW (whether you think she's attractive/beautiful is up to you lol)
http://oi47.tinypic.com/25hip07.jpg

whereas I'd call this thick

spoiler (click to show/hide)

http://25.media.tumblr.com/500bd83d4d4a1e89f29a8faa862bd44f/tumblr_mnqpfwqmdo1spuxbbo1_500.jpg

[close]

:nsfw

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 14, 2013, 10:30:49 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 14, 2013, 02:00:01 AM

whereas I'd call this thick
spoiler (click to show/hide)
http://25.media.tumblr.com/500bd83d4d4a1e89f29a8faa862bd44f/tumblr_mnqpfwqmdo1spuxbbo1_500.jpg
[close]
:nsfw

Shopped to hell and back:
:nsfw

spoiler (click to show/hide)

http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_l1yezaPRck1qag8gfo1_500.jpg

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Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on June 14, 2013, 11:06:38 AM

I'm going to be using this thread as an anonymous sounding board, to just see if anyone else shares the same evolution in niche tastes as I.

I've always been very careful with cutting costs, and saving money wherever I can; be it not buying new computer games, patching up tears in my jeans, saving those eat at a carvery for a tenner deals you sometimes get in glossy magazines. Anyway, I discovered to my surprise that I'd developed a MASSIVE fixation for japanese looking girls, and became addicted to a plethora of unpleasant j-porn, and found myself having to masturbate at least 3 times a day to feel at peace. This was making my work life pretty awkward, as you can imagine, having to co-ordinate sexual needs with customer service is not an easy matter.......

Anyway I realised that this had to stop, and the best way of combatting my sexual appetite was to find a japanese girlfriend, or someone similarly oriental looking. This proved harder than the videos I'd watched seemed to demonstrate, in the end I met a beautiful girl at a pottery class, who looks massively oriental due to the fact that she has downs. Yes, I know thats like getting an imitation oriental gf, but she's quite cheap to take out, and I sometimes doss at her carers.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 14, 2013, 12:23:13 PM

I didn't want to talk about my date, but I'll do it since I need advice here.

The first five hours of my date with Fit Girl went really well--hell she insisted on paying for both dinner and the movie--but at the end of the night, when we were saying our goodbyes, I kind of gave her a Christian side-hug. She almost immediately commented on it, saying "side arm hug" with a hint of both disgust and shock in her voice.

So here's my question: do I slit my wrists or jump off the nearest bridge?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on June 14, 2013, 12:34:22 PM

A side arm hug :larry

Did she seem into you before this bit of awkwardness?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 14, 2013, 12:39:25 PM

Yes, she seemed very into me and even spoke in the future tense as if it was understood we would be having dates again. She talked about coming back together to the restaurant, going to see the Great Gatsby together next, and she even said, though jokingly, that her father would love me as I'm would be the first boyfriend she dated into sports. But women don't want to date men who give 'em side arm hugs.

edit: To be more accurate, it was like a hybrid-hug/side arm hug.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on June 14, 2013, 12:40:31 PM

Shouldn't be a problem in that case, just no weird hugs in the future. And give her a kiss for christ sakes.

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 14, 2013, 12:39:25 PM

edit: To be more accurate, it was like a hybrid-hug/side arm hug.

This sounds like a failed wwe move.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 14, 2013, 12:42:53 PM

Call, tell her you had a great time (even if you didn't) and apologize for the side-hug, you're just a bit timid and awkward but would like to see her again/hope she's still interested.

Then maybe suicide.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 14, 2013, 12:58:11 PM

Quote from: Rufus on June 14, 2013, 12:42:53 PM

Call, tell her you had a great time (even if you didn't) and apologize for the side-hug, you're just a bit timid and awkward but would like to see her again/hope she's still interested.

Then maybe suicide.

This

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 14, 2013, 12:59:50 PM

Also, 21 year old has decided she's moving to Asheville (just north of me) to finish college

(http://img60.exs.cx/img60/3715/bailout.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on June 14, 2013, 01:05:32 PM

She sounds crazy. Bail, man.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 14, 2013, 01:29:07 PM

:lol @ creepy old guy

Quote from: Rufus on June 14, 2013, 12:42:53 PM

Call, tell her you had a great time (even if you didn't) and apologize for the side-hug, you're just a bit timid and awkward but would like to see her again/hope she's still interested.

Then maybe suicide.

And I agree with this. She will appreciate you being upfront and probably respect the balls it takes to bring it up and recognize your own awkwardness.

Just out of curiosity, is there any reason you decided to do the side hug? Was it conscious like "Can't kiss her until Date 3" type shit? Or was it just an oh shit, I better do something and that's what happened?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 14, 2013, 01:51:37 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 14, 2013, 12:59:50 PM

Also, 21 year old has decided she's moving to Asheville (just north of me) to finish college

I was about to say send her my way but that's a 2 hour drive. Nope.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 14, 2013, 01:52:43 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on June 14, 2013, 01:29:07 PM

:lol @ creepy old guy

Quote from: Rufus on June 14, 2013, 12:42:53 PM
Call, tell her you had a great time (even if you didn't) and apologize for the side-hug, you're just a bit timid and awkward but would like to see her again/hope she's still interested.

Then maybe suicide.
And I agree with this. She will appreciate you being upfront and probably respect the balls it takes to bring it up and recognize your own awkwardness.

Just out of curiosity, is there any reason you decided to do the side hug? Was it conscious like "Can't kiss her until Date 3" type shit? Or was it just an oh shit, I better do something and that's what happened?

I messaged her immediately after the date. I apologized and told her that I really like her.

The latter. I was going to go in for a kiss, but then I didn't know what to do.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 14, 2013, 02:00:56 PM

Next time just go for a kiss if you're feeling it. Being rejected for a kiss is less humiliating than pulling a "big brother" move. At least there's a certain amount of dignity in going for a kiss as long as you can cooly brush it off.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 14, 2013, 05:43:11 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 14, 2013, 12:23:13 PM

I didn't want to talk about my date, but I'll do it since I need advice here.

The first five hours of my date with Fit Girl went really well--hell she insisted on paying for both dinner and the movie--but at the end of the night, when we were saying our goodbyes, I kind of gave her a Christian side-hug. She almost immediately commented on it, saying "side arm hug" with a hint of both disgust and shock in her voice.

So here's my question: do I slit my wrists or jump off the nearest bridge?

wut

btw if you can't determine whether to hug, shake her hand. It'll completely throw her off and set you apart from everyone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on June 14, 2013, 05:49:03 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 14, 2013, 05:43:11 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 14, 2013, 12:23:13 PM
I didn't want to talk about my date, but I'll do it since I need advice here.

The first five hours of my date with Fit Girl went really well--hell she insisted on paying for both dinner and the movie--but at the end of the night, when we were saying our goodbyes, I kind of gave her a Christian side-hug. She almost immediately commented on it, saying "side arm hug" with a hint of both disgust and shock in her voice.

So here's my question: do I slit my wrists or jump off the nearest bridge?
wut

btw if you can't determine whether to hug, shake her hand. It'll completely throw her off and set you apart from everyone.

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on June 14, 2013, 07:40:55 PM

smh PD. I actually did that once and felt like a massive tool afterward.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 14, 2013, 07:47:04 PM

I've only done it a couple times. The first time it was at my friend's sweet 16 birthday party (I was 16 too). Her dad was in the room watching everything, and a couple dudes went in for the hug. I felt uncomfortable so I shook her hand; then I shook her dad's hand at the end of the party. He's been a fan of mine ever since.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on June 14, 2013, 09:01:46 PM

I shook hands at the end of my first date with my last GF and she made fun of me for it for the entirety of our relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 14, 2013, 09:09:46 PM

I reconnected with an old friend from college several years ago. We met up for drinks and were having a good time, catching up and shit. We were leaving and going our separate ways and I tried to shake hands, but she wanted a hug. Awk-WARD. She *is* a lesbian though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 14, 2013, 09:37:46 PM

I went to get some liquor today and there was a guy who was letting people taste test stuff rums from a local brewery. Dudes could learn from that guy. Always had an answer when I said something.

'Examples
"Blazers fan?"
"Haven't watched enough of them. I like the logo got the shirt cheap at the bins."
"Well I like people who like the logo too."

"Can I take your picture with the booze."
"I dunno..."
"It's for my boss."

Slick.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 14, 2013, 09:53:39 PM

Did he give you a stiff one down your throat?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 14, 2013, 09:55:35 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/etacm7h.gif)

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on June 14, 2013, 09:58:15 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 14, 2013, 09:09:46 PM

I reconnected with an old friend from college several years ago. We met up for drinks and were having a good time, catching up and shit. We were leaving and going our separate ways and I tried to shake hands, but she wanted a hug. Awk-WARD. She *is* a lesbian though.

I always go for the hug and butt squeeze with my lesbian friends

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 15, 2013, 02:35:22 PM

I got a third date with Fit Girl. But I think that if I greet her with a handshake or something, she's going to kick me in the balls.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 15, 2013, 03:22:37 PM

Hot, usually you gotta pay extra for that

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 15, 2013, 04:55:45 PM

Greet her by putting your tongue in her mouth?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 15, 2013, 06:49:00 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 15, 2013, 02:35:22 PM

I got a third date with Fit Girl. But I think that if I greet her with a handshake or something, she's going to kick me in the balls.

Just lightly squeeze her elbow

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 15, 2013, 10:47:32 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 15, 2013, 06:49:00 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 15, 2013, 02:35:22 PM
I got a third date with Fit Girl. But I think that if I greet her with a handshake or something, she's going to kick me in the balls.

Just BITE THE PILLOW

Fixed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 16, 2013, 03:47:50 PM

The 21-year-old blonde canceled at the last second, and I was the one who apologized. I think I should write a guide on dating. If you read it, just make sure to do the exact opposite of what I recommend.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 16, 2013, 03:55:28 PM

You should have shook her hand bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 16, 2013, 04:08:00 PM

I would have--but she canceled the date!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 16, 2013, 09:29:29 PM

Welp, I cut the 28 year old creeper out of my life today. Feels good and bad at the same time but it needed to be done. She was the definition of "crazy."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 16, 2013, 11:52:29 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 14, 2013, 02:00:01 AM

]ust wondering because some people call a slightly "thick" woman a bbw, and IMO that's not accurate.

imo this would be a BBW (whether you think she's attractive/beautiful is up to you lol)
http://oi47.tinypic.com/25hip07.jpg

whereas I'd call this thick
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http://25.media.tumblr.com/500bd83d4d4a1e89f29a8faa862bd44f/tumblr_mnqpfwqmdo1spuxbbo1_500.jpg
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:nsfw

A bit closer to the first one...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 17, 2013, 04:19:48 PM

I always thought that, in any sort of utilitarian calculus, the benefits of dating unattractive girls weren't worth the costs--turns out that the benefits of dating attractive girls aren't worth the costs either. Fit Girl is passive-aggressive and

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 17, 2013, 07:24:03 PM

And what??? I'm dying to know!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 17, 2013, 07:24:47 PM

Can passive-aggresive be turned into a verb?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 17, 2013, 07:25:38 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on June 17, 2013, 07:24:03 PM

And what??? I'm dying to know!

Oh--the blonde might be a sociopath.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 17, 2013, 07:38:10 PM

(http://i.somethingawful.com/forumsystem/emoticons/emot-stare.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 17, 2013, 08:09:27 PM

(http://www.world-nomad.com/wn-uploads/upside-down-dog-420x385.jpg)

Fuck this shit. I'm moving to a shack in the woods.

edit: also, fuck the internet

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on June 18, 2013, 02:21:30 AM

Maybe she's angry because you let her pay? I once had a girl get mad at me afterwards because of that.

Actually, I went back and looked at it and you let her pay for two separate events. Where's your pride man?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on June 18, 2013, 08:58:19 AM

Chicks that don't go double dutch out of their own >>>>>>>>>>>> :trash

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 18, 2013, 11:52:23 AM

Quote from: am nintenho on June 18, 2013, 02:21:30 AM

Maybe she's angry because you let her pay? I once had a girl get mad at me afterwards because of that.

Actually, I went back and looked at it and you let her pay for two separate events. Where's your pride man?

First off, I overreacted again.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

It's almost as if I had various anxiety disorders caused by cognitive distortions.

[close]

She's coming over tonight. :mynicca

Second, she was ardent, and went so far as to remove my debit card from the Interac.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 18, 2013, 11:59:00 AM

So...when she comes over what are you going to do. Any cooking experience? I'd suggest making something, and planning on it being halfway prepared when she arrives; that way she can help you make it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on June 18, 2013, 12:08:00 PM

so last week i went bowling with that chick, we had a great time it wans't a date just two friend shanging out but i'm like 100% positive the girl likes me likes me, but i have a gf, who i am debating on breaking up with because she's zzzzzzzz and bee nbugging me. ive never broken up with anyone before my last gf moved away and the ones before that broke up with me what do i do plz help ur friend

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 18, 2013, 12:30:00 PM

man up and tell her you just don't think it's going to work for you. If she wants reasons, give her reasons. It's never easy. Always awkward and always annoying. So get used to it buddy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 20, 2013, 01:54:52 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on June 18, 2013, 12:30:00 PM

man up and tell her you just don't think it's going to work for you. If she wants reasons, give her reasons. It's never easy. Always awkward and always annoying. So get used to it buddy.

Pretty much this. Part of becoming an adult is acting like an adult. It's always gonna suck for someone when a relationship ends.

Malek- any updates?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 02:07:46 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 20, 2013, 01:54:52 AM

Malek- any updates?

I ate her to orgasm several times yesterday. She dumped me today.

edit: She dumped me after I had my blood pressure tested. I hate to see what it is nw.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 02:16:43 AM

The title of my dating book is now Eat Chutes, Leaves.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 20, 2013, 02:16:51 AM

:(

Fuckin A man. I'm sorry.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 02:20:38 AM

Thanks. Apparently I don't have the right personality for a long-term relationship. She's right, but it still hurts.

I like her so much--and I thought she liked me. It's really killing me (that or my hypertension).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 20, 2013, 08:17:38 AM

She's missing out, dude. She has no idea that you're funny as hell on the internet and now she'll never know.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 09:00:30 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on June 20, 2013, 08:17:38 AM

She's missing out, dude. She has no idea that you're funny as hell on the internet and now she'll never know.

I have no idea whether this is sarcasm. I also have no idea whether the following is sarcasm:

Quote

Wow, how was the book The Great Gatsby? I always wanted to watch the movie, but I didn't know there was a book.

Internet dating. Now I know why people get married. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 20, 2013, 10:05:54 AM

:lol

Mine wasn't sarcasm btw.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 20, 2013, 10:44:23 AM

sounds like you should work on your own health before dating, Malek. No offense but I don't think you're ready to date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on June 20, 2013, 11:17:46 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 02:07:46 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 20, 2013, 01:54:52 AM

Malek- any updates?

I ate her to orgasm several times yesterday.

:drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 11:40:49 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on June 20, 2013, 10:05:54 AM

:lol

Mine wasn't sarcasm btw.

Oh, thanks. My internet humor may have translated as I made her laugh hysterically all the time.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 20, 2013, 10:44:23 AM

sounds like you should work on your own health before dating, Malek. No offense but I don't think you're ready to date.

I am a mess, but enough about the cunnilingus.

Seriously, I'm very concerned about my health right now. I don't know how I'm going to drop three different anti-depressants. I also don't know what to do with the kilos of bacon in my fridge! I have a doctor's appointment in a few hours. I'm anxious to hear what she says--she'll probably recommend storing it in the freezer.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on June 20, 2013, 12:55:33 PM

You still got some hair between your teeth?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 20, 2013, 12:58:05 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 11:40:49 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on June 20, 2013, 10:05:54 AM
:lol

Mine wasn't sarcasm btw.

Oh, thanks. My internet humor may have translated as I made her laugh hysterically all the time.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 20, 2013, 10:44:23 AM
sounds like you should work on your own health before dating, Malek. No offense but I don't think you're ready to date.

I am a mess, but enough about the cunnilingus.

Seriously, I'm very concerned about my health right now. I don't know how I'm going to drop three different anti-depressants. I also don't know what to do with the kilos of bacon in my fridge! I have a doctor's appointment in a few hours. I'm anxious to hear what she says--she'll probably recommend storing it in the freezer.

:whoo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 01:14:34 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on June 20, 2013, 12:55:33 PM

You still got some hair between your teeth?

Completely waxed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 20, 2013, 01:15:09 PM

I can help. Store 2/3 of that bacon in the freezer. I go through about 2 lbs per week so you can too. It's delicious! when you see the doctor, arm wrestle her. Let her know you're in charge. Then ask about the pork and see what she says.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 01:19:51 PM

I put it in the freezer. I wanted to make eggs and bacon for breakfast, but had oatmeal and Greek yogurt instead. :/

With my hypertension, she might win.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 20, 2013, 01:25:52 PM

better bust out the Cheerios and oatmeal bro

But enough of food talk, tell us about this doctor.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 20, 2013, 01:34:24 PM

How old is this doctor? The older the better

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 01:36:40 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on June 20, 2013, 01:34:24 PM

How old is this doctor? The older the better

My regular doctor is in her 30s and cute as fuck, but she's on maternity leave. The doctor I'm seeing today is probably in her early 40s.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 20, 2013, 01:40:45 PM

Do you struggle suppressing the boner when she peeks at your dick? That used to be my favorite part of seeing the doctor (milf Indian), just working on my self control; good practice for lasting longer BTW. But now my doctor is a middle aged Indian man so there's no challenge. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 20, 2013, 01:44:18 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 20, 2013, 01:40:45 PM

Do you struggle suppressing the boner when she peeks at your dick? That used to be my favorite part of seeing the doctor (milf Indian), just working on my self control; good practice for lasting longer BTW. But now my doctor is a middle aged Indian man so there's no challenge. :-\

You just come right away now?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 01:48:45 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 20, 2013, 01:40:45 PM

Do you struggle suppressing the boner when she peeks at your dick? That used to be my favorite part of seeing the doctor (milf Indian), just working on my self control; good practice for lasting longer BTW. But now my doctor is a middle aged Indian man so there's no challenge. :-\

Not at my age and not with my blood pressure.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on June 20, 2013, 06:03:01 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 01:14:34 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on June 20, 2013, 12:55:33 PM
You still got some hair between your teeth?
Completely waxed.

Now were getting somewhere in this thread :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 07:05:32 PM

She wants to kill me.

Quote

I just don't feel the right kind of "spark" from you

Does that mean she felt a spark--but it was the wrong kind? OMG you're a genius, OMG you're so hot, OMG you're such a good kisser, OMG I don't feel the right spark.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 20, 2013, 07:11:24 PM

I think what she means is that she didn't see the potential for a serious, long term relationship with you. I've gotten basically the same sort of answers from women before, and years later when we talked or whatever after running into each other (irl and on social media crap) that's what was behind it, basically.

Which would be nicer if they could just fucking say that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 20, 2013, 07:14:37 PM

Also, I have found no real solution to this. I'm not the marrying type I don't think- I have social anxiety disorder, I'm fucking weird, and I'm in a perpetual state of arrested development.

Well, apparently my solution is "date crazy 21 year olds" but I don't know if I can seriously recommend that as the way to go.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 20, 2013, 07:20:01 PM

chill Triumph from what I can tell you're pretty awesome and a good dude, you'll hit the jackpot eventually.

Malek my African American brother, I think you'll be fine too. You've put yourself out there a lot recently, and had some successes. That's a step in the right direction, and you're making progress addressing the issues n stuff. When I come to Canada I'll be your wingman.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 07:35:28 PM

I was hoping my law degree would provide documentation that I was the marrying type. I guess I have to get a job, too.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 20, 2013, 07:20:01 PM

Malek my African American brother

My flaccid penis pics are very deceptive.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 20, 2013, 07:20:01 PM

I think you'll be fine too. You've put yourself out there a lot recently, and had some successes. That's a step in the right direction, and you're making progress addressing the issues n stuff. When I come to Canada I'll be your wingman.

I'm not headed in the right direction; the right direction points to Fit Girl's open arms. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 20, 2013, 08:36:08 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on June 20, 2013, 06:03:01 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 01:14:34 PM
Quote from: Premium Lager on June 20, 2013, 12:55:33 PM
You still got some hair between your teeth?
Completely waxed.

Now were getting somewhere in this thread :drool

Boo you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 09:13:43 PM

I'm thinking about some self-immolation in front of Fit Girl's apartment building. Yay or nay?

I'm trying to figure out how to electrocute myself to the point I have sparks flying out of every orifice.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on June 20, 2013, 09:17:44 PM

is a month of cranial sparks while tapering not enough ???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 09:19:08 PM

But she won't see them! She needs to see the spark. She needs to feel that spark!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 09:26:32 PM

I'll never be able to eat butterscotch ice cream again. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on June 20, 2013, 09:39:47 PM

youre going to let some girl you dated 3 times ruin butterscotch ice cream? :kobeyuck thats a key flavor to lose just like that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 09:41:13 PM

But you don't know what flavor it was mixed with.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on June 20, 2013, 09:46:06 PM

please dont be chocolate.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 20, 2013, 10:57:36 PM

I'm disappointed that there's no parody of T-Pain's "I'm in Love with a Stripper" called "I'm in Love with a Minor." I'm going to start writing the lyrics now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on June 20, 2013, 11:01:49 PM

Well malek at least you succeeded more than you did before. Just try to be graceful about it and focus on the legitimate problems you might have had.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 20, 2013, 11:16:30 PM

Quote from: FatalT on June 20, 2013, 10:57:36 PM

I'm disappointed that there's no parody of T-Pain's "I'm in Love with a Stripper" called "I'm in Love with a Minor." I'm going to start writing the lyrics now.

Dude. What's your age difference? This thing I'm going through with the 21 year old is really flipping me out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 11:27:14 PM

I wrote her a love* letter. I've gone full distinguished mentally-challenged fellow.

*Word never used in the actual letter.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 11:30:18 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on June 20, 2013, 11:01:49 PM

Well malek at least you succeeded more than you did before. Just try to be graceful about it and focus on the legitimate problems you might have had.

This isn't about getting back on the saddle--I really care for her (not that this is going to make me sound any less crazy, but we talked online for a month before our first date).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on June 20, 2013, 11:30:35 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 11:27:14 PM

I wrote her a love* letter. I've gone full distinguished mentally-challenged fellow.

*Word never used in the actual letter.

Don't send it.

Don't you fucking send it.

Tear it up and eat it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 11:33:24 PM

By "letter" I meant "email" and by "wrote" I meant "wrote and sent."

Boogie, when you come to arrest me, please don't use a tazer. Thanks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on June 20, 2013, 11:36:51 PM

post it. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on June 20, 2013, 11:40:35 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 11:33:24 PM

By "letter" I meant "email" and by "wrote" I meant "wrote and sent."

:snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 11:46:28 PM

Women like crazy, right?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 12:08:29 AM

Food tastes like unsweetened oatmeal or leafy vegetables. That's probably because that's all I'm actually eating. Still.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 12:37:38 AM

Fuck, she even liked the Rilo Kiley albums playing in the background.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HNUAZ9pQDLY

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on June 21, 2013, 12:40:05 AM

Malek, sucks to hear about your women troubles/medical issues/mental unraveling. Give it a few days and you'll be back on the road to black excellence.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 21, 2013, 01:13:27 AM

no simping
(http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-0a3fg-fUWdw/T3On8vGgmVI/AAAAAAAAA4A/PJg-1gRMH5Y/s1600/bunk-the-wire.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 01:15:31 AM

Quote from: Mandark on June 21, 2013, 12:40:05 AM

Malek, sucks to hear about your women troubles/medical issues/mental unraveling. Give it a few days and you'll be back on the road to black excellence.

Thanks.

I don't see this ending without a restraining order. Luckily I know a good lawyer . . . :smug Wait, does Bebpo know Canadian law?

I really don't understand women. As sure as I was that Spark Girl version 1.0 wasn't into me I was sure ~~Fit~~ Spark Girl version 2.0 was. And on Tuesday, when she invited herself over, I thought I was proven right. Over the weeks, she has said so many complimentary--though completely delusional--things about me. Why would she build me up? Just so . . . oh shit.

Quote

Why do you build me up (build me up) Buttercup, baby
Just to let me down (let me down) and mess me around
And then worst of all (worst of all) you never call, baby
When you say you will (say you will) but I love you still
I need you (I need you) more than anyone, darlin'
You know that I have from the start
So build me up (build me up) Buttercup, don't break my heart

The 21-year-old blonde and I are going out on Monday (I hedge my bets, bitches).

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on June 21, 2013, 01:08:20 AM

I was going to post "Stop being a bitch, Malek", but I'm not sure if he's serious but fucking around.

My tone is a form of hedging.
You never saw her naked body.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on June 21, 2013, 03:55:57 AM

Permission to word-filter bitch to Malek?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on June 21, 2013, 03:57:48 AM

"What a Malek!"
"That Malek was being extra Maleky today."
"MALEKING!"
"Malek imma 'bout to Malek-slap you if you!"
"Oh, nothing much, just walking my Malek."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 21, 2013, 07:08:52 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 01:15:31 AM

And on Tuesday, when she invited herself over, I thought I was proven right. Over the weeks, she has said so many complimentary--though completely delusional--things about me. Why would she build me up? Just so . . . oh shit.

Did she check inspect your place when she was over? You know, check the cupboards and stuff like that? May sound weird, but the last time I heard something like that the people involved ended up becoming a couple.

Not sure about the love letter though, but I guess sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. Hope you didn't sound too crazy. /shrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 21, 2013, 08:29:43 AM

I've written my fair share of "love letters" and each and every one of them was a mistake

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 08:47:42 AM

Stop maleking or I'll start maleking about how Fit Girl didn't share my interest in anime or videogames or some other meaningless shit.

Quote from: Rufus on June 21, 2013, 07:08:52 AM

Did she check inspect your place when she was over? You know, check the cupboards and stuff like that?

Yes, she did. But there was nothing embarrassing or incriminating.

Quote from: Rufus on June 21, 2013, 07:08:52 AM

May sound weird, but the last time I heard something like that the people involved ended up becoming a couple.

I don't even know what that means. Stop filling me with false hope.

Quote from: Mupepe on June 21, 2013, 08:29:43 AM

I've written my fair share of "love letters" and each and every one of them was a mistake

It's difficult to see how such a malek-move would make her reconsider: "Oh, I didn't want to see you ever again, but I changed my mind now that I know you're a clingy malek. . . . "

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 21, 2013, 08:53:52 AM

Send her another one to let her know the first one wasn't a psycho letter or anything!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 21, 2013, 09:46:58 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 08:47:42 AM

I don't even know what that means. Stop filling me with false hope.

Right, I guess that was a dumb thing to say. Still, she was curious at least.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 21, 2013, 09:50:26 AM

I was curious once. It ended with a bad taste in my mouth and a sore ass. Never again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 21, 2013, 10:01:53 AM

Bad chili, huh? :lenowned

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 21, 2013, 10:08:54 AM

Oh you!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on June 21, 2013, 11:07:47 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 11:27:14 PM

I wrote her a love* letter. I've gone full distinguished mentally-challenged fellow.

:lol :lol :lol

Yep, you're done here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 11:55:06 AM

Whatever, I'm writing one by hand now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on June 21, 2013, 12:24:29 PM

Make sure to tell her about flaying her live and then wearing her skin suit too, you crazy sumbitch.

Don't forget to sign XOXOXO

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on June 21, 2013, 12:36:57 PM

Hello Maleks attorney. If you are reading through this thread right now it's very likely that Malek has done the unspeakable and is currently on trial. I would just like to say good luck to you on your case, and know that Demi, the forum administrator, has in the past been willing to take PayPal money in exchange for the deletion of account history. Godspeed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 12:58:42 PM

Written.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Boogie on June 21, 2013, 12:59:30 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 20, 2013, 11:33:24 PM

Boogie, when you come to arrest me, please don't use a tazer. Thanks.

Don't worry, bro, I'll be gentle. :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 01:04:24 PM

What I meant is--please use your gun.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: T234 on June 21, 2013, 03:38:12 PM

Feels really fucking weird to be the sex object in a fling. REALLY, REALLY FUCKING WEIRD. Especially after all this time. And even more given how hot she is.

As it turns out, 50+ year-old women REALLY like guys who can go for an hour or more without blowing their wad and who are willing to reciprocate. I am EXHAUSTED. I feel like I could sleep all weekend long.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 03:52:17 PM

I just got an email from another dating site: "xxxxxxx is a Negotiator, meet her now!"

One guess as to who xxxxxxx is.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 21, 2013, 04:52:36 PM

Negotiator?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: T234 on June 21, 2013, 05:05:42 PM

Malek, what ya gotta do is find something you like and wimmenfolk like. In mah case it was weed, cause I love it, and she loves it. Very social, this ganja thing. Find a woman who likes vodka, slow burns on the plains, and air conditioning in the rain. Turns out people with vaginas are people too. Just talk to them. They dig movie theaters, concerts, food, anything that costs folding money really.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on June 21, 2013, 06:32:11 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 12:58:42 PM

Written.

:what
leave her alone for fucks sake

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 06:45:36 PM

Quote from: Rufus on June 21, 2013, 04:52:36 PM

Negotiator?

blame chemistry.com (I'm a director).

Quote from: T234 on June 21, 2013, 05:05:42 PM

Malek, what ya gotta do is find something you like and wimmenfolk like. In mah case it was weed, cause I love it, and she loves it. Very social, this ganja thing. Find a woman who likes vodka, slow burns on the plains, and air conditioning in the rain. Turns out people with vaginas are people too. Just talk to them. They dig movie theaters, concerts, food, anything that costs folding money really.

I thought Fit Girl and I had a lot of shared interests; what we didn't share was an interest in a relationship. :(

Quote from: Positive Touch on June 21, 2013, 06:32:11 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 12:58:42 PM
Written.

:what
leave her alone for fucks sake

I haven't delivered it--yet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 21, 2013, 06:56:13 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 06:45:36 PM

Quote from: Rufus on June 21, 2013, 04:52:36 PM
Negotiator?
blame chemistry.com (I'm a director).

Bleh, can't see a rundown of the types without registering.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on June 21, 2013, 06:57:19 PM

I also cast my vote for burning rather than delivering the letter.

A post-rejection letter has won over a woman maybe once in history, and even in that case it wasn't written as an attempt to get her back Plus it laid out the previously secret truth behind George Wickham's scandalous behavior towards the Darcy family and I don't think there was a similar misunderstanding that needs to be corrected in your case.

I guess what I'm saying is that instead of driving yourself nuts over this, we should all do a Bore book club for Pride and Prejudice. It's really good.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 07:10:43 PM

Quote from: Rufus on June 21, 2013, 06:56:13 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 06:45:36 PM
Quote from: Rufus on June 21, 2013, 04:52:36 PM
Negotiator?
blame chemistry.com (I'm a director).
Bleh, can't see a rundown of the types without registering.

Quote

Negotiator / Builder Her
[deleted] cares about the big picture. [deleted] is comfortable with large, ambiguous issues. [deleted] carefully weighs all of the variables involved, and regularly comes up with imaginative solutions to complex problems.
[deleted] is friendly and humane. [deleted] has a big heart; she tends to trust people and sympathize with them easily. [deleted] wants to make others happy and self-confident. So she works to build supportive networks among friends and kin.
Her empathy and kindness spill over into a desire to make the world a better place. And with Her resilience and creativity, Her ability to do many things at the same time, and Her cleverness with words, she can be remarkably effective at improving the lives of others.
[deleted] is ambitious for Her family and friends, but not always for Herself. [deleted] likes an environment of sharing and consensus and she enjoys working in teams and planning long term.
[deleted] tends to be socially well-adjusted and skilled at inspiring others to reach their goals. So she is an empathetic and engaging companion.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 07:12:34 PM

Quote from: Mandark on June 21, 2013, 06:57:19 PM

I also cast my vote for burning rather than delivering the letter.

A post-rejection letter has won over a woman maybe once in history, and even in that case it wasn't written as an attempt to get her back Plus it laid out the previously secret truth behind George Wickham's scandalous behavior towards the Darcy family and I don't think there was a similar misunderstanding that needs to be corrected in your case.

I guess what I'm saying is that instead of driving yourself nuts over this, we should all do a Bore book club for Pride and Prejudice. It's really good.

There are no votes. But I'll put Pride and Prejudice on the to do list.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on June 21, 2013, 07:14:49 PM

Just make sure "read Pride and Prejudice" comes before "send this letter"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 21, 2013, 07:18:18 PM

Dude, don't hand deliver the letter. Pull a Lloyd Dobler instead.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 21, 2013, 07:18:53 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 07:10:43 PM

Quote
Negotiator / Builder Her
[deleted] cares about the big picture. [deleted] is comfortable with large, ambiguous issues. [deleted] carefully weighs all of the variables involved, and regularly comes up with imaginative solutions to complex problems.
[deleted] is friendly and humane. [deleted] has a big heart; she tends to trust people and sympathize with them easily. [deleted] wants to make others happy and self-confident. So she works to build supportive networks among friends and kin.
Her empathy and kindness spill over into a desire to make the world a better place. And with Her resilience and creativity, Her ability to do many things at the same time, and Her cleverness with words, she can be remarkably effective at improving the lives of others.
[deleted] is ambitious for Her family and friends, but not always for Herself. [deleted] likes an environment of sharing and consensus and she enjoys working in teams and planning long term.
[deleted] tends to be socially well-adjusted and skilled at inspiring others to reach their goals. So she is an empathetic and engaging companion.

Sounds like a horoscope. ...I'm not sure what I expected.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 07:33:21 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 21, 2013, 07:18:18 PM

Dude, don't hand deliver the letter. Pull a Lloyd Dobler instead.

OMFG. We were supposed to watch Say Anything (a movie neither of us have watched yet [I know of the boombox scene]). This is a sign!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=11wX2iKCouc

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 07:34:43 PM

Quote from: Rufus on June 21, 2013, 07:18:53 PM

Sounds like a horoscope. ...I'm not sure what I expected.

She doesn't believe in horoscopes. <3

When I lifted her up, she said that she'd break my back; instead she broke my heart.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 21, 2013, 07:38:20 PM

Aw. (http://i.somethingawful.com/forumsystem/emoticons/emot-unsmith.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 07:43:52 PM

Quote from: Rufus on June 21, 2013, 07:38:20 PM

Aw. (http://i.somethingawful.com/forumsystem/emoticons/emot-unsmith.gif)

Added to the letter.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 08:06:35 PM

The love letter from last night? No. She probably never read it/deleted it/market it as spam/blocked my account/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 21, 2013, 08:29:13 PM

Dear Fit-Girl

Hi Fit-Girl. It's only been a couple days but I just wanted to know if you changed your mind. I figured out what the problem was - I forgot to pay my electricity bill. Well I'm up to date now, and the spark is better than ever. That was a joke. But yea, I'm an improved man and would like to eat out. At a restaurant of course. You can call me anytime, I have payed my phone bill.

Malek

P.S.
What gym do you go to?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 10:30:44 PM

I'm experiencing all seven stages of grief at the same time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 11:05:01 PM

I don't know know if you're trolling me. I don't know if she was trolling me.

PS: I'm about to call her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 21, 2013, 11:49:05 PM

Three days ago just had my best friend of the last year confess that she loved me and that those feelings that she'd kept since I'd friendzone'd her for a year had kept growing and had kept her from getting in a new relationship with a manipulative, evil, PUA (which unfortunately I introduced to her because he seemed like a decent friend when I knew him, but then he fell for her and started gaming) that she had just started dating against my disapproval (cause I saw right through his shit and called him on it, which caused him to confess to her and double down). So I decided to go for it and let her know that I liked her too as more than a friend. I'm not sure if this was because I really liked her romantically or if I just really cared for her an incredible amount cause she's my best friend. It's hard to differentiate, I've always cared about her a ton and she's cared about me a ton. She decided to break off with the dude that was manipulating the shit out of her (for one thing, he broke her up with her bf and then swooped in while she was depressed and lonely the week after [this was like 2-3 weeks ago, so they've been dating that long]) and we decided we'd take it slow and always keep our friendship the highest priority. I'd never been in a relationship with a "best friend" but that's kind of my ideal & hers, so was pretty optimistic about maybe being in a great relationship that might last more than 3 months. We get along amazing and have for the last year. We'd hang out all the time and we're both totally hang loose and everything's great just doing it together.

The next day the PUA dude did not take it well and went aggro telling her to choose between me & him, that he didn't trust her around me and didn't want her in his life if she was going to still see me, and that valueing friendships over relationships would get her nowhere in life. He also was caught on twisting stuff I'd say and others and manipulating her red-handed and she saw it. This pissed her off at him even more and she was pretty much done with him.

Then she saw him again last night, he did his magic, and she slept over again and then she texted me today saying she wants to try to make it work with him because honestly she really likes him a lot and that she was confusing her feelings of deep friendship with romantic feelings towards me and she's sorry, the end.

So now she's with the dude who is a douche, and I lost my best friend that I was close with for all the time for the last year, and I got sort of in a possible great relationship and then dumped all within the span of two days.

This is probably the worst I've ever felt from any relationship. If I ever felt suicidal, now would be the time to feel that way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 21, 2013, 11:53:01 PM

I'm not sure if I should get drunk tonight because I think I'll just feel even more depressed and shittier. Need to get this off my mind so I can think of other stuff. Really don't want this to ruin my weekend, so want to get past the depression as soon as I can and get back to life with no best friends and no romantic interests.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 22, 2013, 12:08:58 AM

fuck, wow :'(

I don't even know what to say.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 22, 2013, 12:13:05 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 21, 2013, 11:09:23 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZChD_Gni8U

:rofl

I only left one message, but it was as long as the entire youtube clip. So . . . yeah.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 22, 2013, 12:15:33 AM

Sorry to hear that, Bebpo.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 22, 2013, 12:16:59 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 22, 2013, 12:08:58 AM

fuck, wow :'(

I don't even know what to say.

Yup. I don't even know what to do about it besides be sad, get over it, and start fresh.

If my job wasn't tied down locally, it might not be a bad idea to move to a new area and get a new start with new friends at this point. Still might do it. Maybe move to SF.

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 22, 2013, 12:15:33 AM

Sorry to hear that, Bebpo.

Thanks Malek.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on June 22, 2013, 01:06:30 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 22, 2013, 12:49:06 AM

You need to be good to yourself right now. You did absolutely nothing wrong.

both them chose to be stupid; you did everything right. write both of them off for that b.s.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 22, 2013, 01:07:22 AM

Ouch Bebs, that sounds rough... seems like you are having a good attitude though, not letting it put a damper on your weekend.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on June 22, 2013, 01:32:41 AM

Quote from: Positive Touch on June 22, 2013, 01:06:30 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 22, 2013, 12:49:06 AM
You need to be good to yourself right now. You did absolutely nothing wrong.

both them chose to be stupid; you did everything right. write both of them off for that b.s.

I don't know, a lot of younger girls do get stupidly infatuated really fast and maybe this girl is immature/feeling guilty or some shit? I would suggest giving them some space but still willing to be that girl's friend when this relationship fizzles and explodes in a month.

You need to be there to tell her you told her so (joking). But bebpo's story tells me that she's probably not really relationship-material but if he forgives her then at least he'll be able to salvage a strong friendship rather than get depressed and think about moving to a better part of California where this all might repeat again and then where can he go?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on June 22, 2013, 10:26:12 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on June 21, 2013, 11:53:01 PM

I'm not sure if I should get drunk tonight because I think I'll just feel even more depressed and shittier. Need to get this off my mind so I can think of other stuff. Really don't want this to ruin my weekend, so want to get past the depression as soon as I can and get back to life with no best friends and no romantic interests.

Go out with some friends and get loaded, you'll feel better around people. No-one ever got shit from wallowing. If that's not an option I always find watching shitty comedies keeps your mind off things.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 22, 2013, 10:34:36 AM

Quote from: Positive Touch on June 22, 2013, 01:06:30 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 22, 2013, 12:49:06 AM
You need to be good to yourself right now. You did absolutely nothing wrong.

both them chose to be stupid; you did everything right. write both of them off for that b.s.

Yeah man, pretty much this. I'm sorry to hear that. Take care of yourself, keep on keepin on. DON'T LET HER BACK IN. This may sound shitty, but she's proven she can't be trusted.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on June 22, 2013, 12:04:41 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on June 22, 2013, 12:16:59 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 22, 2013, 12:08:58 AM
fuck, wow :'(

I don't even know what to say.

Yup. I don't even know what to do about it besides be sad, get over it, and start fresh.

If my job wasn't tied down locally, it might not be a bad idea to move to a new area and get a new start with new friends at this point. Still might do it. Maybe move to SF.

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 22, 2013, 12:15:33 AM
Sorry to hear that, Bebpo.

Thanks Malek.

you work for a family/friend law firm right? no reason you can't talk to them about wanting to branch out. besides the lack of jobs and over abundance of lawyers everywhere

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 22, 2013, 12:19:08 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on June 22, 2013, 01:32:41 AM

Quote from: Positive Touch on June 22, 2013, 01:06:30 AM
Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 22, 2013, 12:49:06 AM
You need to be good to yourself right now. You did absolutely nothing wrong.

both them chose to be stupid; you did everything right. write both of them off for that b.s.

I don't know, a lot of younger girls do get stupidly infatuated really fast and maybe this girl is immature/feeling guilty or some shit? I would suggest giving them some space but still willing to be that girl's friend when this relationship fizzles and explodes in a month.

You need to be there to tell her you told her so (joking). But bebpo's story tells me that she's probably not really relationship-material but if he forgives her then at least he'll be able to salvage a strong friendship rather than get depressed and think about moving to a better part of California where this all might repeat again and then where can he go?

Yeah, this is happening for sure. She's 20 and is extremely feelings driven so gets infatuated really quickly and really strongly and rejects all logical thinking to pursue those feelings. But the dude's last relationship lasted 7 years and he's completely fallen for her and she's totally into him and her last relationship was 6 months and she wasn't anywhere near as into her last bf. So for all I know they could end up getting married in a few years.

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 22, 2013, 10:34:36 AM

Quote from: Positive Touch on June 22, 2013, 01:06:30 AM
Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 22, 2013, 12:49:06 AM
You need to be good to yourself right now. You did absolutely nothing wrong.

both them chose to be stupid; you did everything right. write both of them off for that b.s.

Yeah man, pretty much this. I'm sorry to hear that. Take care of yourself, keep on keepin on. DON'T LET HER BACK IN. This may sound shitty, but she's proven she can't be trusted.

This is good advice, and I agree with it. But it's going to be hard to take someone who I spent almost every other day talking to or hanging out with, going on road trips & vacations with, going to theme parks with, going to shopping for each other's clothes, going to cheap dinners at the beach, or fancy celebration meals, being there emotionally for each other; It's hard to take someone like that out of my life and not feel incomplete.

The problem is that we were really more than friends tbh, we were close to the point we basically were dating without doing anything for a year because she was in a relationship and I was friends with her bf as well and would never do anything to break them up or cheat. I was happy having a really awesome female friend that we cared about each other so much and we'd help each other out with all our problems emotionally. I never had to think about how I felt about her because I didn't need to take it to the next level. I didn't need anything more out of our relationship than we already had. I was still dating and looking for a gf for the romantic needs of life, and she'd even help me with that.

When I asked her following up on what happened asking if she was cutting me off, she said nooooo, that was not what she meant at all. But when I asked her to meet up and clear things up she was making excuses (because it seemed like she had a date night with the guy). So at this point the choice for me is to keep this long, important more-than-a-friendship with the understanding that now I'm the one being friendzone'd (it's so weird how just by responding to her confessing about her feelings, we switched from me friendzone'ing her to the opposite) and try to ignore the fact that she's seeing a douche that basically convinced her that she didn't really like me, and that a relationship with him is more important than what she had with me, or I leave my best friend completely, even though I know she needs friends because that is her personality and she doesn't have any other close friends she can depend on, and I'm missing a major part of what's become my normal life on a day-to-day basis for the last year.

Basically both choices suck and there's no good solution to this without feeling like shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 22, 2013, 12:37:11 PM

I agree with Triumph, cut her loose man. No point in dealing with such a manipulative person. And she's 20, she probably won't have a serious long term relationship anytime soon.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bacchus7 on June 22, 2013, 12:56:57 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on June 21, 2013, 11:49:05 PM

I'm not sure if this was because I really liked her romantically or if I just really cared for her an incredible amount cause she's my best friend. It's hard to differentiate, I've always cared about her a ton and she's cared about me a ton.

I don't know, man. It sounds like she really put herself out there for you, the above being your initial response to it. If you're hurt because you got played around with by a friend, it sounds raw, and I'm sorry, but you have to move along from it all asap, and you'll recover quickly, I promise, no matter how you work it out. But if you're hurt because you really love her, then you need to really fight for this girl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 22, 2013, 01:14:52 PM

Here's the score- you can waffle, and let her stay in your life when she's proven she's already a destructive influence on your emotions. If you do this, the hurt ain't gonna stop any time soon, man.

Or, and this will be shitty... you can politely explain things to her, and move on with your life. It will probably hurt more in the short term, but you're setting yourself up better to move on with your life.

I've been here, man. Learn from my stupidity.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 22, 2013, 01:42:53 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on June 22, 2013, 12:45:37 PM

Fuck her dude, fuck her. Stop being stuck in the high school mentality, she isn't worth it. She chose a douche over you and played with your emotions to boot. There is no point now, it sucks but write her off completely cause she wrote you down as a guy on her hook if she doesn't stick with the asshole or find something better. She decided that you aren't worth the effort for her, so she's certainly not worth your pining.

You're a goddamn lawyer in California, fuck random bitches at bars instead. Keep dating, too. You'll be fine and dandy before you know it.

Here's the thing. I know her better than you guys (no offense intended, it's just a fact), right now I'm actually pretty damn sure I know her better than herself. We're extremely close and we know each other's mental patters in and out. She's even TOLD me that she's confused right now and can't trust her feelings because she just got out of a 6 month relationship like 3 weeks ago. Now manipulative guy turned that around saying part of that is why she was confused about her feelings towards me and was confusing her deep friendship feelings for love/relationship feelings. But that's BS, she's liked me for 6-8 months straight, I know this because she's told me in the past and even tried to make out but I shut her down because she was in a relationship and that's goes against my values. She's confused, irrational (she gets irrational when she gets emotional and she's a highly emotional person), and the douche is taking advantage of that and manipulating her to his benefit. Basically she's choosing a post-breakup rebound super high crush over a long deep-rooted love she's built up over a year.

I'm not sure HOW to say that to her (at least that she's confused and I probably know her better than she knows herself right now) without coming off as a condescending asshole. And being that's she extremely sensitive it'll just push her away.

Eventually yeah, maybe she'll figure it out for herself. She's seen the facts that he's manipulative, she's seen him be controlling, she's seen him be a total asshole and act like a child emotionally when he's attacked on an emotional level, she knows that all of her friends disapprove of him. When she's not being led around by her emotions (which like I said, unfortunately is 99% of the time because she's highly emotional [like me lol, which is why we connect so much]) she's actually really intelligent. So yeah, one day I'd have to think she'll figure it all out. Assholes don't just become great guys forever and ever after they act like an asshole and fuck everyone around them over to get their girl.

Quote from: Bacchus7 on June 22, 2013, 12:56:57 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on June 21, 2013, 11:49:05 PM
I'm not sure if this was because I really liked her romantically or if I just really cared for her an incredible amount cause she's my best friend. It's hard to differentiate, I've always cared about her a ton and she's cared about me a ton.

I don't know, man. It sounds like she really put herself out there for you, the above being your initial response to it. If you're hurt because you got played around with by a friend, it sounds raw, and I'm sorry, but you have to move along from it all asap, and you'll recover quickly, I promise, no matter how you work it out. But if you're hurt because you really love her, then you need to really fight for this girl.

As to this...I think it's great advice. But I hate pussyfooting around this but I...don't know if I'm in love or just frustrated & upset that she's falling for this PUA who was my good friend (but cut me off 3 weeks ago, the minute this girl broke up with her bf and he saw me as an obstacle. His sole objective for the last 3 weeks as been getting me out of the picture after the bf was out of the picture and then getting her to fall for him; I was really fucking naive and did not realize this until it was too late).

This is the first time I've ever questioned what love is?

1. Do I care about her well-being and want her to be healthy and happy and have the best life she can? Yes
2. Do I enjoy every minute I spend with her? Yes
3. Do I always want to hang out with her? Yes & No. I like to hang out with her, but I don't want to spend every day, every minute with her. Even texting I don't want to be texting constantly all day, every day. I need my space and my life.
4. Do I want to kiss her? She's gorgeous for sure, and I like kissing girls, so I'd be up for it.
5. Do I want to sleep with her? This is where it's sort of interesting. The thought of "sex" with her is completely unappealing to me. She is not "sexy" to me even though she is a very attractive person. I just don't see her that way. But the thought of sharing a bed and holding each other closely and comforting each other is something that I would love.

[I'm pretty sure her answer to 1 & 2 would be the same, not sure about the rest]

Obviously I really like her a lot, but do I love her? I don't know. I want her to always be a part of my life and until this guy happened, I know she felt the same. She even said after she slept with him and had been dating him for a week or two on the night she confessed to me that we would always be best friends no matter what happened with us or any other relationship and she said sleeping with him was a mistake and she regrets it, but I didn't judge her for that cause she's an adult and it happens.

She's really confused and I think we both are because we both care immensely about each other and want to always be extremely close emotionally and physically (in a non-sexual way) but we both can't figure out if that means we're in love with each other or if that's just a deep close friendship.

I think after all this advice from everyone, which I appreciate. I can't back off if I care about her this much. Both for my sake and for her sake. For my feelings and so she won't be hurt and used by this guy. I'm not sure how I'm going to approach this, especially because she's at the honeymoon phase now where she's decided to really try to make a full relationship work with this guy, is totally infatuated, and like I said, becomes completely irrational and won't consider logic when her feelings are in control. Knowing all that I don't see anyway she'll change anything no matter what I say right now. So in the face of futility maybe it's best to leave her be for a while. But knowing how feelings driven I am and how things are right now I'll probably still talk to her about a lot of this stuff soon, even if it won't do anything and might just push her away :|

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 22, 2013, 01:52:25 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 22, 2013, 01:14:52 PM

Here's the score- you can waffle, and let her stay in your life when she's proven she's already a destructive influence on your emotions. If you do this, the hurt ain't gonna stop any time soon, man.

Or, and this will be shitty... you can politely explain things to her, and move on with your life. It will probably hurt more in the short term, but you're setting yourself up better to move on with your life.

I've been here, man. Learn from my stupidity.

I will do this, but I think I can't give up so fast. That's exactly what the other guy wants. When she talked to me and decided to break it off with the guy and she told him she just wanted to be friends, he didn't give up. He came back as controlling/guilt-tripping asshole and it got her to change her mind again and go back to him even harder than she was before. Now, that's not my style so I'm not gonna do it like that, but I think the point of not backing down/giving up is important if I really care about her, which I do.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on June 22, 2013, 02:04:40 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on June 22, 2013, 01:42:53 PM

She's really confused and I think we both are because we both care immensely about each other and want to always be extremely close emotionally and physically (in a non-sexual way) but we both can't figure out if that means we're in love with each other or if that's just a deep close friendship.

How do you know she is confused? Maybe she knows exactly what she wants and that is not you.

Injecting yourself further into this drama is going to make her resent you, not see you in the light that you want to be seen in. You should just move on if you're smart.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 22, 2013, 02:09:59 PM

Well, I was going by the fact that she said she was confused and has been saying she was confused and didn't trust herself or her feelings for the last couple of weeks since she broke up with her bf.

But you're right about the 2nd line, for sure.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on June 22, 2013, 02:14:49 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on June 22, 2013, 01:52:25 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 22, 2013, 01:14:52 PM
Here's the score- you can waffle, and let her stay in your life when she's proven she's already a destructive influence on your emotions. If you do this, the hurt ain't gonna stop any time soon, man.

Or, and this will be shitty... you can politely explain things to her, and move on with your life. It will probably hurt more in the short term, but you're setting yourself up better to move on with your life.

I've been here, man. Learn from my stupidity.

I will do this, but I think I can't give up so fast. That's exactly what the other guy wants. When she talked to me and decided to break it off with the guy and she told him she just wanted to be friends, he didn't give up. He came back as controlling/guilt-tripping asshole and it got her to change her mind again and go back to him even harder than she was before. Now, that's not my style so I'm not gonna do it like that, but I think the point of not backing down/giving up is important if I really care about her, which I do.

Dude won because he persisted. That's all it takes. At the end of the day if a woman is attracted to you in any way it might take a while but you'll get there eventually. I wouldn't give up so easily if I were you. They've been going out for what, 3 weeks?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Akala on June 22, 2013, 02:25:26 PM

yikes.

definitely have to keep your distance. it'll just be poisonous otherwise. take it as a learning experience, such wild swings in a short amount of time imply being unstable or flaky.

look on the bright side: you have a rare opportunity to attempt the fabled triple-reverse-friendzone if their thing fizzles out quickly and/or she reconsiders.

*edit* fuck, thinking about it, this would be a double-reverse. >:(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 22, 2013, 02:31:11 PM

Quote from: Polari on June 22, 2013, 02:14:49 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on June 22, 2013, 01:52:25 PM
Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 22, 2013, 01:14:52 PM
Here's the score- you can waffle, and let her stay in your life when she's proven she's already a destructive influence on your emotions. If you do this, the hurt ain't gonna stop any time soon, man.

Or, and this will be shitty... you can politely explain things to her, and move on with your life. It will probably hurt more in the short term, but you're setting yourself up better to move on with your life.

I've been here, man. Learn from my stupidity.

I will do this, but I think I can't give up so fast. That's exactly what the other guy wants. When she talked to me and decided to break it off with the guy and she told him she just wanted to be friends, he didn't give up. He came back as controlling/guilt-tripping asshole and it got her to change her mind again and go back to him even harder than she was before. Now, that's not my style so I'm not gonna do it like that, but I think the point of not backing down/giving up is important if I really care about her, which I do.

Dude won because he persisted. That's all it takes. At the end of the day if a woman is attracted to you in any way it might take a while but you'll get there eventually. I wouldn't give up so easily if I were you. They've been going out for what, 3 weeks?

I introduced the guy to her about 2 months ago and they hit it off as friends right away (he's an easy guy to be friends with, which is how I ended up being friends with him). Things didn't get date-ish until about 3 weeks ago when he convinced her to break up with her bf when she was on the edge and not sure what to do (I told her to sleep on it and look at it logically the next day). Since then he was gaming her while she was all alone for the first time in 6 months (I talked to her occasionally, but since I knew she had feelings for me, I didn't want to get too close; felt it was dick to jump in at that kind of time) saying to her that he wasn't interested in her but spending 24/7 with her on dates, flirting with her, paying for all her stuff for about 1-2 weeks, she got a huge crush on him, he confessed about a week and a half ago (after I saw him for the first time in weeks and confronted him on it, which he denied, and then he ran off into the parking lot and confessed to her because he was afraid everyone knew now and she confessed to him) and they've been dating since then.

I not only introduced them to each other, but pushed them into dating, and then when she confessed her feelings to me, by responding to them and her attempting to break it off with the guy, I ended up pushing the two of them into a relationship now. So yeah, basically everytime I've done anything it's pushed them both closer together and her away from me. I THINK THERE IS A PATTERN THERE.

So it's like I can be persistent and not give up, but going by past experiences and stuff like The Experiment said there's a good chance it'll just push her closer to him and make her resent me. Or walk away and never see her again when I may be in love with her. It just seems so futile in every way.

If I had jumped in at any time prior to the last 2 weeks and told her that I liked her, I'm 100% it would have worked and we would have been in a good relationship right now. But if I had done that I would have lost a lot of mutual friends I care about a lot and gone against my values (prior to the break up - for cheating, directly after the break up - for taking advantage of someone being lonely, confused and vunerable right after a breakup). In the end, I would've done the same thing I did if I could have done it again. It's really, really hard choosing friends and good morals over a potentially great long relationship with someone you care about, but I just can't do it. Which is one of the reasons why I get fucked in relationships a lot of times, because I won't play dirty and the relationship isn't my highest priority in life. My friends and my core values run even higher.

Quote from: Akala on June 22, 2013, 02:25:26 PM

yikes.

definitely have to keep your distance. it'll just be poisonous otherwise. take it as a learning experience, such wild swings in a short amount of time imply being unstable or flaky.

look on the bright side: you have a rare opportunity to attempt the fabled triple-reverse-friendzone if their thing fizzles out quickly and/or she reconsiders.

Yeah, this is what ideally I want to do. How do you keep distance in something like this without cutting off completely? Like do I still offer to hang out and still text and be friends but just not talk about her relationship stuff? Right now we're kind of not talking.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 22, 2013, 02:36:00 PM

Quote from: Polari on June 22, 2013, 02:14:49 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on June 22, 2013, 01:52:25 PM
Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 22, 2013, 01:14:52 PM
Here's the score- you can waffle, and let her stay in your life when she's proven she's already a destructive influence on your emotions. If you do this, the hurt ain't gonna stop any time soon, man.

Or, and this will be shitty... you can politely explain things to her, and move on with your life. It will probably hurt more in the short term, but you're setting yourself up better to move on with your life.

I've been here, man. Learn from my stupidity.

I will do this, but I think I can't give up so fast. That's exactly what the other guy wants. When she talked to me and decided to break it off with the guy and she told him she just wanted to be friends, he didn't give up. He came back as controlling/guilt-tripping asshole and it got her to change her mind again and go back to him even harder than she was before. Now, that's not my style so I'm not gonna do it like that, but I think the point of not backing down/giving up is important if I really care about her, which I do.

Dude won because he persisted. That's all it takes. At the end of the day if a woman is attracted to you in any way it might take a while but you'll get there eventually. I wouldn't give up so easily if I were you. They've been going out for what, 3 weeks?

If she's as easily swayed and influenced as bebpo has made her out to be (and just blindly judging from her age, I'd say she is) then is that someone you really want to be with? If all someone has to do is just spit enough game at you and keep at it for long enough, are you a good match?

If your goal is just to have some fun, sure. Go for it. If you're looking for an actual relationship, I'd look elsewhere.

Judging from bebpo's replies though, he seems hell bent on putting his heart in the blender, so I'm gonna just dip outta here. I tried to help.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 22, 2013, 02:41:55 PM

Oh Jesus fuck, I just read more.

This girl (and if she's 20, she's a girl, not a woman with life experiences to help her make sound decisions) apparently:

-was in a relationship with someone for a while but had a thing for you, and tried to hook up with you while in that relationship
-has easily fallen prey to a douchey PUA post break-up
-then apparently fell for you
-then fell for the PUA again

Dude. For fucks fucking sakes. I know feels make shit complicated, and considering that I'm currently sort of seeing a 21 year old this may come off as hypocritical: THIS GIRL IS NOT FUCKING MATURE ENOUGH TO KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS AND YOUR HEART IS GOING TO GET SODOMIZED BECAUSE YOU'RE TOO STUPID TO MAKE THE RIGHT DECISION.

Now I'm fucking out of here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 22, 2013, 02:45:59 PM

And I already know she's unstable, flaky, irrational. In fact even in the 2 days between her confessing to me and her rejecting me, the couple of friends I talked to pretty much said "Don't date her; she's crazy and incredibly unstable" but then they said "but you always like the crazy ones", I dunno; I recognize all of that but we also get along so well and I've never had a friend as close as her for as long (and she told me she's never had a friend as close as I am for so long; which is why we both kind of wanted it to last forever [we said this])

When my friend was dating her for the 6 months, they would fight all the time and she'd go crazy and I'd feel really sorry for him. I'd always feel like "god, I wouldn't want to be in your shoes in any situation".

Actually writing that now and thinking about all those times I felt really really bad for my guy friend who was dating her for all the emotional tantrums she'd pull and how nuts she would actually go....I'm starting to feel a little more ok about this. Those times I felt sorry for him and said I wouldn't want to date her...I wasn't bs-ing to consul, I really felt that way at those times and THOSE WERE A LOT OF TIMES, especially in the last 3 months of their relationship as it was falling apart.

I'm stupid, I think I actually see the answer here. There's a reason why I didn't feel anything strongly beyond a strong friendship for the last 8 months and why I fell in love with other girls along the timeframe. There's a reason that it wasn't until she was getting game'd by this PUA guy that I started actually feeling burning in my chest and strong emotions about her. The answer is pretty clear. I was never in love with her, I just cared about her a lot as a friend and losing her and her friendship to an asshole got me riled up and incredibly emotional. When she confessed it was so nice having someone that liked me even more than as a friend, and being so emotional at the timeframe, I went for it. But it's not what I really want.

I...think writing this out helped a lot. It was a lot of the little things everyone here said that kind of pulled me bit by bit back to reality from some ideal romance-world that I often get stuck in when being emotion-driven. I know what I want, and it's not her romantically or relationship-y.

I still don't want to lose her as a friend though. Especially if she wakes up and ditches this guy when she realizes what's going on. The tough part will be going from how were are now to maintaining our friendship (as just friends) in the face of her dating a guy I really disapprove of. Also clearing up with her how I feel. This is going to be really really tough especially since she's so sensitive and unstable. I think for now I need to just let it sit for a couple of days and then say hi and kind of start talking a little as friends, both apologizing for fighting and trying to clear things up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 22, 2013, 02:48:07 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on June 22, 2013, 02:45:59 PM

then they said "but you always like the crazy ones"

THIS MAY IN FACT BE A PERSONALLY TRAIT THAT COULD USE SOME WORK

Again, I'm yelling at you from the top of a mountain that is built on lots of epically collapsed, laughably horrible relationships with women that were crazeballs insane.

Alright. Let's hug it out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 22, 2013, 03:03:13 PM

We really need a hug emoticon here

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Akala on June 22, 2013, 03:17:16 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on June 22, 2013, 02:31:11 PM

Yeah, this is what ideally I want to do. How do you keep distance in something like this without cutting off completely? Like do I still offer to hang out and still text and be friends but just not talk about her relationship stuff? Right now we're kind of not talking.

if I was in your situation I wouldn't really initiate contact whatsoever. she will get in contact with you. if she tries to guilt trip you about 'cutting her off', you have a perfectly good reason and should tell her honestly.

to an extent it's up to you where it goes from there...although you really want to have to have your macro-level emotions about the whole thing fairly sorted. if it amounts to friendship, cool, since you obviously seem to enjoy hanging out with her. just don't allow yourself to become an emotional crutch and become bitter about it...it's a bad look. if things go nowhere, at least you tried. try not to overthink it and for the love of god avoid drunk dialing.

Triumph's advice is scorched earth, but it's honestly the method that will be guaranteed to work and stop pain the most quickly overall. it puts you back to square one, but likely saves you a ton of time and hassle to get there, just going by numbers. a finesse method best-case has a chance to be a bit complicated but good, worst-case will drag things out more far than necessary.

*edit* haha looks like you became rational as I was typing. good jon bebpu.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 22, 2013, 05:08:41 PM

Yikes bebpo. She's young as hell too. People are dumb in relationships at that age and this has already proven to be emotionally immature. Bail out man. Who cares if that's what the other guy wants? Let him win. Its between them and the choices they make and will learn from. I'd bail out and keep her at arms length as a friend until she grows up.

but whatever you do I wish you the best. My wife and I were in a similar situation, although more complicated actually and I would have told myself to bail out. But after the dust settled im happy I made the decision I made. I can honestly say my marriage was worth the BS. So who knows? I'm rambling. Kinda drunk. Sorry. I'll shut up now. Good luck.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on June 22, 2013, 05:11:23 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on June 22, 2013, 03:03:13 PM

We really need a hug emoticon here

here u go

:tauntaun

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bacchus7 on June 22, 2013, 05:50:41 PM

Yeah, I mean I asked you about love before just to make sure you weren't in a pissing contest without realizing it (I seriously think guys get just as blind trying to beat other guys as falling in love with girls; fuck nature). Just try to do the right thing; I'm sure deep down you want someone better than her, so let him have her. If all else fails, the next time you masturbate think about being next to her immediately afterward and ask yourself if you'd be happy that way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 22, 2013, 06:50:18 PM

6 months after meeting her, I'm now officially dating a beautiful 16 year old! :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on June 22, 2013, 06:58:37 PM

I guess you'd be like the romantic opposite of T234.

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that's not legal is it?

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 22, 2013, 07:04:07 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on June 22, 2013, 06:58:37 PM

I guess you'd be like the romantic opposite of T234.

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that's not legal is it?
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If I remember correctly, FatalT is from South Carolina, and there's not much that's illegal there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 22, 2013, 07:06:22 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 22, 2013, 07:04:07 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on June 22, 2013, 06:58:37 PM
I guess you'd be like the romantic opposite of T234.

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that's not legal is it?
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If I remember correctly, FatalT is from South Carolina, and there's not much that's illegal there.

Sounds about right. 'MURICA! THE SOUTH WILL RISE AGAIN! HURR DURR!

EDIT:

Age of consent 16 (30): Alabama, Alaska, Arkansas, Connecticut, District of Columbia, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, North Carolina, Ohio, Oklahoma, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Vermont, Washington, West Virginia

Age of consent 17 (9): Colorado, Illinois, Louisiana, Missouri, Nebraska, New Mexico, New York, Texas, Wyoming

Age of consent 18 (12): Arizona, California, Delaware, Florida, Idaho, North Dakota, Oregon, Tennessee, Utah, Virginia, Wisconsin, Pennsylvania

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 22, 2013, 07:15:39 PM

I feel way better about my involvement with a 21 year old now :mynicca

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not really, the age difference in years in my case is so large it's really jarring :-\

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 22, 2013, 07:30:24 PM

this nicca worrying about winning the lottery :gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 22, 2013, 07:35:50 PM

I'm worried about winning the lottery turning me into some sort of crazed deviant

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She *IS* super fine tho...

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 22, 2013, 07:39:54 PM

Pics!

#YeaTheBusiness

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 22, 2013, 07:40:24 PM

:obama

she fine

#NoTheBusiness

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 22, 2013, 07:51:08 PM

We should settle this with paper, rock, scissors.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 22, 2013, 08:42:34 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C_fxGt45miY

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 22, 2013, 10:21:01 PM

I actually have to say half of the pain from this is that I've lived in this naive happy world of decent/good people my whole life and I've never actually been backstabbed by a friend before. I thought that only happened in movies. But I got played so hard by someone I thought was a really good friend (we'd been hanging out for 3-4 months now and he'd be helping me with dating advice [though none of it ever ended up working...at all]) and we'd hang out every other day and text every day and jokingly bro-flirt and crack jokes. Then he found his target, saw me as an enemy, and threw me under the bus skillfully to fuck up my life. I've never had something like that happen and I kind of blame myself for being naive and not seeing it. There were plenty of signals that he was a creep, misogynist and a bad person, but I stupidly still led him straight into my naive, young, model best friend. I know you can't blame yourself for the past and only learn from it, but the backstabbing still fucking hurts.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 22, 2013, 10:33:27 PM

She always spoke as if we had a future together, the restaurants we'd go to, the movies we'd see, the places we'd visit. She talked about how the distance between us, once she moved, would only make the relationship more interesting. That night she talked about bringing the Heineken over the next time.

God. Why.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 22, 2013, 10:36:36 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on June 22, 2013, 10:21:01 PM

I actually have to say half of the pain from this is that I've lived in this naive happy world of decent/good people my whole life and I've never actually been backstabbed by a friend before. I thought that only happened in movies. But I got played so hard by someone I thought was a really good friend (we'd been hanging out for 3-4 months now and he'd be helping me with dating advice [though none of it ever ended up working...at all]) and we'd hang out every other day and text every day and jokingly bro-flirt and crack jokes. Then he found his target, saw me as an enemy, and threw me under the bus skillfully to fuck up my life. I've never had something like that happen and I kind of blame myself for being naive and not seeing it. There were plenty of signals that he was a creep, misogynist and a bad person, but I stupidly still led him straight into my naive, young, model best friend. I know you can't blame yourself for the past and only learn from it, but the backstabbing still fucking hurts.

Sorry to hear, but at least you didn't have to wait years for him to show his true face/tell you what he really thinks of you. The years multiply the pain.

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 22, 2013, 10:33:27 PM

She always spoke as if we had a future together, the restaurants we'd go to, the movies we'd see, the places we'd visit. She talked about how the distance between us, once she moved, would only make the relationship more interesting. That night she talked about bringing the Heineken over the next time.

God. Why.

Woah, that's fucked up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Timber on June 22, 2013, 10:37:11 PM

Feeling this thread plus the unrequited love thread so much right now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 22, 2013, 10:44:15 PM

I knew it was a bad sign when she said I looked like Liev Schreiber.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Timber on June 22, 2013, 10:45:10 PM

Well she said she'd think about the things I said and that she'd contact me tomorrow.

Things I shouldn't be doing right now:

- This
- Be awake in general
- Watch a documentary about Richard Ramirez

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 23, 2013, 08:32:11 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 22, 2013, 10:44:15 PM

I knew it was a bad sign when she said I looked like Liev Schreiber.

but you do!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 23, 2013, 10:02:27 AM

Yeah, why is that a bad thing?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 23, 2013, 01:19:05 PM

Quote from: Rufus on June 23, 2013, 10:02:27 AM

Yeah, why is that a bad thing?

She never said he was attractive--has any woman?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 23, 2013, 01:40:17 PM

Of course he is! He's a movie star!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Dickie Dee on June 23, 2013, 02:14:36 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 23, 2013, 01:19:05 PM

Quote from: Rufus on June 23, 2013, 10:02:27 AM
Yeah, why is that a bad thing?

She never said he was attractive--has any woman?

(http://www.usmagazine.com/uploads/assets/articles/38962-liev-schreiber-naomi-watts-makes-beautiful-children/1297789073_liev-naomi-290.jpg)

(http://lievschreiber.net/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/liev_schreiber_-and-_watts.jpg)

:lawd :aah :aah :noah :noah :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 23, 2013, 04:34:17 PM

I'm sorry but I lol'd

What do you sound like now?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on June 23, 2013, 05:02:05 PM

Are you going to see if you can get lessons through a speech therapist?

If not, you might end up trying to sound like Tay Zonday or some shit and people are just going to laugh at you instead.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 23, 2013, 09:18:17 PM

Fuck--she also said she'd bring the measuring tape* next time.

Update: I sent her nothing today and only one text yesterday. Nevertheless, I still plan on delivering the hand-written letter to her tomorrow.

*To measure her height, you pervs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 23, 2013, 09:31:37 PM

:lol

just stay home tomorrow bro. don't do this

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on June 23, 2013, 09:35:12 PM

(http://i.minus.com/iKZPr43WD5qRe.gif)

Damnit, Malek.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 23, 2013, 09:39:51 PM

Love is real. Real is love.
All you need is love.
The word is love.
It's real love.
Love.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Boogie on June 23, 2013, 09:40:25 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 21, 2013, 01:04:24 PM

What I meant is--please use your gun.

We're still talking in metaphors, right, boo? :-*

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 23, 2013, 09:41:03 PM

Boogie, is there a way you could detain Malek until he's ok?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 23, 2013, 09:42:03 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 23, 2013, 09:41:03 PM

Boogie, is there a way you could detain Malek until he's ok?

I don't think I deserve detention for life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on June 23, 2013, 09:55:25 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 23, 2013, 09:42:03 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 23, 2013, 09:41:03 PM
Boogie, is there a way you could detain Malek until he's ok?

I don't think I deserve detention for life.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UGFxyrOC7so

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 23, 2013, 09:58:58 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on June 23, 2013, 09:55:25 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 23, 2013, 09:42:03 PM
Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 23, 2013, 09:41:03 PM
Boogie, is there a way you could detain Malek until he's ok?

I don't think I deserve detention for life.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UGFxyrOC7so

That's it. I'm going to cut myself.

:nsfanyone

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 23, 2013, 10:23:27 PM

I'm starting to get the suspicion that she's not coming back.

(http://i.imgur.com/29mZcqc.gif)

(http://stream1.gifsoup.com/view7/3524601/simpsons-flying-pig-o.gif)

She's just a little air-born.
:'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 23, 2013, 10:25:36 PM

Fuck. Her hair color is about the same as Claudia Cardinale's in Once Upon a Time. I need a new avatar. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on June 23, 2013, 10:42:15 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 23, 2013, 09:39:51 PM

Love is real. Real is love.
All you need is love.
The word is love.
It's real love.
Love.

this aint love, its stalker shit. youre quickly diving into the lowest levels of fedora-wearing nice guy loserdom. you might not care, but she does. let it go and stop being a dick.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 23, 2013, 10:58:07 PM

Malek, I'd like to give you some good advice but I have none. Feeling like you were used that way sucks. Eventually you'll find someone else, though! Don't worry.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 23, 2013, 11:00:00 PM

Who would you choose between Fit Girl and Flannel Girl, Malek?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 23, 2013, 11:05:05 PM

Quote from: Positive Touch on June 23, 2013, 10:42:15 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 23, 2013, 09:39:51 PM
Love is real. Real is love.
All you need is love.
The word is love.
It's real love.
Love.

this aint love, its stalker shit. youre quickly diving into the lowest levels of fedora-wearing nice guy loserdom. you might not care, but she does. let it go and stop being a dick.

It's five lines from Beatles/Lennon songs. Stop being a dick. I don't actually love her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 23, 2013, 11:06:00 PM

Quote from: tiesto on June 23, 2013, 11:00:00 PM

Who would you choose between Fit Girl and Flannel Girl, Malek?

Fit Girl. Warmer (not to me), cuter, better shape, better ass.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: hampster on June 23, 2013, 11:09:19 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 23, 2013, 05:21:43 PM

I've considered getting a few sessions from a professional.

I wonder how much speech therapy for adults is. I've always been very self conscious about my voice and can't read out loud with out seriously fucking up and I avoid the word "participation" at all costs. Be nice if my insurance cover it but probably doesn't :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on June 23, 2013, 11:18:15 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 23, 2013, 11:05:05 PM

It's five lines from Beatles/Lennon songs. Stop being a dick. I don't actually love her.

well duh but you still sound obsessed talking about text messaging her and leaving letters when youve already been dumped after just a few dates. just sayin :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 24, 2013, 12:34:11 AM

Quote from: hampster on June 23, 2013, 11:09:19 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 23, 2013, 05:21:43 PM
I've considered getting a few sessions from a professional.

I wonder how much speech therapy for adults is. I've always been very self conscious about my voice and can't read out loud with out seriously fucking up and I avoid the word "participation" at all costs. Be nice if my insurance cover it but probably doesn't :(

I mumble something awful, and as anyone that's ever listened to an episode of The Cruncheons can tell you, I'm the nasally one of the group, and that's saying something. (sorry guys)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 24, 2013, 03:23:06 AM

Standing up for yourself and cutting close people off when enough is enough is...eh, not fun. But did the right thing, and life will be a lot nicer without the weight of all this f-ing drama for a while.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on June 24, 2013, 09:55:39 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on June 24, 2013, 03:23:06 AM

Standing up for yourself and cutting close people off when enough is enough is...eh, not fun. But did the right thing, and life will be a lot nicer without the weight of all this f-ing drama for a while.

BEBPO, good on you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 24, 2013, 11:04:44 AM

Quote from: hampster on June 23, 2013, 11:09:19 PM

I wonder how much speech therapy for adults is. I've always been very self conscious about my voice and can't read out loud with out seriously fucking up and I avoid the word "participation" at all costs. Be nice if my insurance cover it but probably doesn't :(

I used to have a speech impediment where I couldn't pronounce the letter S because I had my two front teeth knocked out from slipping in the bathroom as a child. I did speech therapy in like 3rd - 4th grade and had it fixed. I still have a problem actually speaking normally to this day where my brain thinks faster than my mouth and I slur my words together or just mumble them out. Basically, I repeat myself a lot.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 24, 2013, 11:12:24 AM

Yeah . . . so the 21-year-old blonde canceled on me--again. Why she asked me out in the first place I don't know.

I prefer being a shut-in--the lows don't feel as bad as when they're preceded by false hope.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 24, 2013, 11:14:46 AM

I'm telling the next woman who contacts me or asks me out to eat a bag of dicks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 24, 2013, 11:28:24 AM

:gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 24, 2013, 11:36:34 AM

My resentment has turned into resentment (French pronunciation), which has turned into rancoeur.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 24, 2013, 11:39:56 AM

On the road to recovery then. Good to hear.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 24, 2013, 11:43:23 AM

Malek, real talk. Use this website: www.meetme.com The girls you'll meet on there will mostly be thirsty as hell and just looking for sex. You'll go through them quickly. I can't tell you that you'll actually meet a decent person on there but at least you'll get your anger out in a productive way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 24, 2013, 12:22:23 PM

When closing up and dealing with all this drama I'd been in, I at least was able to find and put into words my motto for my beliefs in how I interact with people guy or girl, friend or acquaintance in terms of trust:

I'll give advice, believe in them, and let their actions speak for themselves.

If they fuck me over, or do something really messed up, I'll walk. No bargaining, no bickering. Just be supportive and let people make their own choices and represent themselves.

As opposed to telling them what to do, and threatening them that if they don't do it, I'll walk.

People always tell me that I'm too nice (not like girls saying "nice guy", but like guy friends telling me I'm too trusting and supportive), but no matter how many times I get burned, I still like to believe that people are generally good at their core and everyone makes mistakes. I'd rather assume someone is a decent human being and get burned than watch my back and never fully trust them. The latter just seems like the whole "state of fear" lifestyle.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on June 24, 2013, 12:33:00 PM

do you trust me bebpo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 24, 2013, 12:34:07 PM

Quote from: demi on June 24, 2013, 12:33:00 PM

do you trust me bebpo

(http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-91fNe-hvi0Q/TcBcnYBFnYI/AAAAAAAALSs/v8bMq9uD3zU/s1600/grindhouse%2Bdo_not_okay-570x254.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 24, 2013, 12:51:36 PM

It's based on a terrifying best seller. I guess I have to do what it says.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 24, 2013, 01:42:02 PM

Quote from: demi on June 24, 2013, 12:33:00 PM

do you trust me bebpo

You keep the servers up during E3. If that's not the sign of a trustworthy person, I don't know what is.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 24, 2013, 01:48:53 PM

I would trust him with hosting my Fit Girl fan site.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 24, 2013, 02:03:05 PM

No. I haven't sent her anything since Saturday, and that was one tiny phone text.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 24, 2013, 02:31:49 PM

No.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 24, 2013, 02:57:50 PM

Her last communication to me was Thursday afternoon when she told me via email she didn't feel the right kind of spark.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 24, 2013, 09:06:12 PM

So I got a reply from my breaking it off last night. I didn't break it off 100%, I just said I couldn't be close friends anymore since she broke my trust over and over, but given our history and promises to stay as bffs forever I'm still gonna be her friend at arms length.

Which really pissed her off cause I guess it was the first time I'd ever "attacked" her and she's gets really angry/defensive when someone does. So she writes a whole bunch of stuff which basically boils down to f u I don't like you, I'm with this douche because he gets me hot & wet like no guy ever has, and I always felt uncomfortable in our friendship but I don't want to explain any of it. I don't want to be your friend.

Which I should have just left alone and walked away and that was that. But I'm bad at this part, so I went all out on her and called her out on trying to make this about us (if she's not interested in me romantically and vice/versa, why would we be throwing away our friendship over it? Makes no sense) and scapegoat it so later on she can think "oh I lost my best friendship I've ever had because of friendzone issues" and not "because I threw away my friendship for a crush w/ a douche"; because that way it won't bother her when she's in her relationship thinking back on it. Anyhow, I should have had the balls to hold back and let her have the last insults and walk away, but fuck it, sometimes if you push me enough I'll be a dick and push back.

Now if she ever responds (which I doubt), I'm sure it'll be a flurry of hate and at that point I'm not gonna bother responding. It's over. Forever and for good cause. At least it makes it easier to walk away when the other person is fighting with you, vs. walking away because of a depressing loss of friendship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on June 24, 2013, 09:08:41 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 24, 2013, 02:57:50 PM

Her last communication to me was Thursday afternoon when she told me via email she didn't feel the right kind of spark.

You should send another e-mail telling her how you feel about that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 24, 2013, 09:54:50 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on June 24, 2013, 09:08:41 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 24, 2013, 02:57:50 PM
Her last communication to me was Thursday afternoon when she told me via email she didn't feel the right kind of spark.

You should send another e-mail telling her how you feel about that.

She, you, and this entire forum can eat a bag of dicks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 24, 2013, 10:14:31 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 24, 2013, 09:54:50 PM

She, you, and this entire forum can eat a bag of dicks.

That's too many carbs for my daily intake. Sorry bra.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 24, 2013, 10:56:42 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 24, 2013, 09:54:50 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on June 24, 2013, 09:08:41 PM
Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 24, 2013, 02:57:50 PM
Her last communication to me was Thursday afternoon when she told me via email she didn't feel the right kind of spark.

You should send another e-mail telling her how you feel about that.

She, you, and this entire forum can eat a bag of dicks.

Do we each get our own bag or are we sharing?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: hampster on June 24, 2013, 11:00:45 PM

If it was a pringles tube I might consider but you know how greasy dicks from the bag are. I'm constantly wiping my hand on my shirt :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 24, 2013, 11:04:01 PM

Who's providing the dicks?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 24, 2013, 11:34:36 PM

Well hell, if we're sharing said dicks then I guess I'll take one for the team. There's no "I" in team but there is some "MEAT."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 12:20:12 AM

Seriously, I have to provide the bag and the dicks? I'm just a loser with a fedora. Get your own fucking dicks.

White Woman:

Quote

"I follow traditional First Nation believes"

This is what I have to deal with on Internet dating sites. This is my world without Fit Girl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 25, 2013, 12:47:18 AM

What is typical first nation "beliefs" anyway?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 12:50:42 AM

This is starting to get. . . . Now I had a coffee date for later in the week cancel because she's now too busy for coffee. Why'd she ask me out?

Is my personality that repulsive? Confirm or deny that you'd rather be locked in a room with Kevin Federline for ten hours discussing world politics than talk to me for one minute on the phone.

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on June 25, 2013, 12:47:18 AM

What is typical first nation "beliefs" anyway?

Oscar, help? I'd assume this varies a lot by tribe.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 12:53:44 AM

:dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 25, 2013, 12:55:15 AM

Change your name to Sparks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on June 25, 2013, 12:56:37 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 12:50:42 AM

be locked in a room with Kevin Federline for ten hours discussing world politics

This sounds amazing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 25, 2013, 12:57:35 AM

Other appointments? Maybe her grandma died. :larry

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Fit Girl put the word out. Change your name and make new pics with a beard.

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Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 12:50:42 AM

Oscar, help? I'd assume this various a lot by tribe.

Mahfugger you slip up now? :gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on June 25, 2013, 01:00:01 AM

Canadian spelling always adds a u.

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I got your back, sparkless!

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 01:07:53 AM

« Last Edit: June 24, 2013, 11:53:17 PM by Flannel Boy »

Quote from: Rufus on June 25, 2013, 12:57:35 AM

Mahfugger you slip up now? :gurl

You using Wayback Machine, mother fucker.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 25, 2013, 01:12:58 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 01:07:53 AM

« Last Edit: June 24, 2013, 11:53:17 PM by Flannel Boy »

Quote from: Rufus on June 25, 2013, 12:57:35 AM

Mahfugger you slip up now? :gurl

You using Wayback Machine, mother fucker.

Gotcha now, bitch. You could have just denied it. :heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 01:15:37 AM

:fbm

Title: Adventures in e-dating
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 01:26:47 AM

Don't tell me you're an analyst and then act all shocked by my predictable response.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 01:36:12 AM

OMG, match.com! You motherfuckers. You delete messages more than 30 days old automatically? The first few weeks of conversations between Fit Girl and me are gone. :(

Yes, I'm drunk. You can tell by my various spelling errors.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 01:42:24 AM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3JWTaaS7LdU

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 01:49:34 AM

Actual message I just sent.

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Chris Bosh sucks.
Britney Spears sucks
The Backstreet Boys suck.
tattoos suck
olive garden sucks
smiling sucks
The N64 sucks
gambing sucks

Grow the fuck up.

PS: You have an amazing ass.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 25, 2013, 01:53:05 AM

N64 sucks?

:maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 01:56:21 AM

Actual messages I'm sending to women:

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Coffee makes for a terrible first date. When was the last time you spread your legs after a Mint mocha chip frap.

Actual reply:

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WTF

her

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I don't want a nasty guy that just cares about sex... Thanks though

me:

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I don't just care about sex. I also care about sports.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 01:57:22 AM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on June 25, 2013, 01:53:05 AM

N64 sucks?

:maf

Take off your nostalgia glasses. The system had no games--and the games it did have cost like $89.99 CDN.

Still
N64's peak > PSX's peak

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 25, 2013, 01:59:46 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 01:57:22 AM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on June 25, 2013, 01:53:05 AM
N64 sucks?

:maf
Take off your nostalgia glasses. The system had no games--and the games it did have cost like $89.99 CDN.

Still
N64's peak > PSX's peak

No games? The hell.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 02:01:40 AM

Jesus Christ, why are women so literal. It's like the time I told Spark Girl version one I had a foot-long.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 25, 2013, 02:22:14 AM

Did you mention your social anxiety in the heartfelt letter?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 02:24:31 AM

I mentioned how she should eat a bag of dicks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 02:34:47 AM

Why the fuck would I need to add something that's understood.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 25, 2013, 02:38:11 AM

Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on June 25, 2013, 02:36:46 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 12:50:42 AM
This is starting to get. . . . Now I had a coffee date for later in the week cancel because she's now too busy for coffee. Why'd she ask me out?

Is my personality that repulsive? Confirm or deny that you'd rather be locked in a room with Kevin Federline for ten hours discussing world politics than talk to me for one minute on the phone.

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on June 25, 2013, 12:47:18 AM
What is typical first nation "beliefs" anyway?

Oscar, help? I'd assume this varies a lot by tribe.

i assume she preaches to other people about how they've never heard the wolf cry to the blue corn moon while she enjoys all the benefits of living in the modern world created by whitey.

But can she paint with all the colors of the wind?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 02:41:39 AM

And the prices!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 02:42:03 AM

I mean, I was distinguished mentally-challenged enough to buy an N64 over a PSX.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 25, 2013, 02:44:59 AM

Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on June 25, 2013, 02:39:07 AM

also, even though he's in full-on fuck the world mode, malek's right, the n64 had fuck all for games

I liked Goldeneye, Ocarina of Time, Majora's Mask, Mario Kart, Super Mario 64, Diddy Kong Racing, Lego Racers, Banjo Kazooie, Bomberman, Cruis'n USA, Tony Hawk, Paper Mario, Perfect Dark, Star Wars, Turok and Mario Tennis.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 02:47:14 AM

Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on June 25, 2013, 02:44:47 AM

luckily there were less than 10 games worth owning, so that's some savings right there.

The Nintendo difference.

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on June 25, 2013, 02:44:59 AM

. . . .

No mention of Beetle Adventure Racing? Wave Race 64?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 02:49:17 AM

I think we can all agree that the N64 is superior to the wii u and that Fit Girl needs to eat a bag of dicks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 25, 2013, 02:49:40 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 02:47:14 AM

Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on June 25, 2013, 02:44:47 AM
luckily there were less than 10 games worth owning, so that's some savings right there.

The Nintendo difference.

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on June 25, 2013, 02:44:59 AM
. . . .

No mention of Beetle Adventure Racing? Wave Race 64?

Wave Race was good. I don't think I ever played Beetle Adventure Racing.

Obviously the best game was Pilot Wings.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 02:51:46 AM

How can we ever agree on the best N64 game? There are nearly ten games from which to choose.

Would anyone play Banjo-Tooie for money? The game was terrible.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 02:55:09 AM

Who the fuck is Flannel Boy?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 02:59:10 AM

Why do you hate this Liev Schreiber in flannel?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 03:03:22 AM

I knew her for over a month online.

Are you saying that doesn't count? Then you don't know me.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=omLgJe9cnCw

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 03:03:53 AM

Also, I'm over Sour Grapes. I can't reach them, so I don't want them. So sour.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 03:08:45 AM

Drunken messages working?

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You're cute and sexy. Awesome combo. I'd fuck you.

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Lol thnx just heading go bed goodnight :)

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Have a good night.

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:) you to

She can't spell "too" but beggars can't be choosers.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 03:09:26 AM

Demi, please nuke my account in the morning.

k thnx.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 03:27:04 AM

Being an angry drunk is preferable to being a sad drunk.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 03:34:39 AM

Too busy writing angry messages.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 25, 2013, 03:36:36 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 03:34:39 AM

Too busy writing angry messages.

Go to fucking bed :cancry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 03:40:27 AM

this is probably the advice Hitler received when he was writing Mein Kampf.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 03:47:10 AM

Hey, to be fair, I didn't send the messages. I just wrote them.

good night.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on June 25, 2013, 06:48:20 AM

I can say now with certainty that this thread is our greatest source of shame. The GAF threads had a good run.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 25, 2013, 07:21:31 AM

I <3 Malek :lol :lol :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 25, 2013, 08:35:50 AM

I'm glad this thread was here in the morning for me to read

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 25, 2013, 11:15:00 AM

Malek it's time to hire an escort, they're legal in Canada. Not for sex, just to hold conversations and practice dating.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 12:02:17 PM

God, my hangover.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8mVYbQHVJsY

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on June 25, 2013, 12:52:17 PM

Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on June 25, 2013, 02:46:18 AM

standing by that less than ten.

Pass me that bag of dicks, it's feeding time for Oscar.

N64 #1

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 01:21:02 PM

Quote

You look like Wolverine. Dig.

From Sabretooth to Wolverine. :pimp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 01:23:36 PM

I don't see why that would make me feel better.

edit: sorry to hear about it. But didn't you express some doubts before?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on June 25, 2013, 01:24:00 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on June 25, 2013, 01:22:54 PM

Well if it makes you feel better Malek, I just got out of an engagement. Well dumped out of one, more like.

sorry to hear that man. at least you didn't get married before things devolved.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 25, 2013, 01:46:21 PM

Wrath, want me to beat her up? I will. Just for you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 25, 2013, 02:23:32 PM

I'm down. I moved so if you PM me I'll get you my new address, bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bacchus7 on June 25, 2013, 03:42:23 PM

I think the thread should end here^

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 25, 2013, 04:31:49 PM

friendship ended too?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 25, 2013, 05:13:24 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on June 25, 2013, 01:32:50 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 01:23:36 PM
I don't see why that would make me feel better.

edit: sorry to hear about it. But didn't you express some doubts before?

Not really. My doubts were mostly due to my cynical world view of how nothing really works out that well for me. I'm sort of glad cause the dumping opened my mind up to all her flaws that I've been masking due to feels. She just wants to stay friends, and decided that a long distance thing wouldn't work even though she's the one who talked me into it in the first place. So whatever. I'm not really a fan of marriage, I'm more of a girlfriend for good sort of guy. I thought I had that with her but there it goes.

I'll be fine. I've had worse dumpings before. Hell, a much worse one last summer that led to that ex stalking me here and spreading rumors. So don't worry about me, I can deal.

Sorry breh. Does friends mean still tapping it?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 25, 2013, 05:19:10 PM

:-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 25, 2013, 05:20:38 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on June 25, 2013, 05:18:07 PM

Like I was tapping it that much to begin with, fucking prude.

;_;

So what did you two do then?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 25, 2013, 06:10:57 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on June 25, 2013, 02:44:59 AM

Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on June 25, 2013, 02:39:07 AM
also, even though he's in full-on fuck the world mode, malek's right, the n64 had fuck all for games

I liked Goldeneye, Ocarina of Time, Majora's Mask, Mario Kart, Super Mario 64, Diddy Kong Racing, Lego Racers, Banjo Kazooie, Bomberman, Cruis'n USA, Tony Hawk, Paper Mario, Perfect Dark, Star Wars, Turok and Mario Tennis.

Mischief Makers, Ogre Battle 64 and Sin and Punishment are my top 3 for the system.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 06:59:06 PM

Are you kidding me.

Quote

c**********5
6/25/2013 5:22:22 PM

Did anyone ever tell you, you look like that one actor?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 25, 2013, 07:11:36 PM

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 09:37:06 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on June 25, 2013, 07:31:07 PM

I just watched The Omen today :heart

I look nothing like Julia Stiles.

Also online dating continues to suck. Looks like I'm going to have to get drunk again tonight.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 25, 2013, 09:49:25 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 06:59:06 PM

Are you kidding me.

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c**********5
6/25/2013 5:22:22 PM

Did anyone ever tell you, you look like that one actor?

:dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 25, 2013, 11:21:02 PM

Use MeetMe.com dammit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 25, 2013, 11:36:09 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 25, 2013, 11:25:17 PM

FatalT, how do the 16 year old's parents feel about her relationship with you?

They like me. We went out to eat with my parents today and spent the day together. It was nice!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 25, 2013, 11:37:31 PM

wait how old are you?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 25, 2013, 11:41:07 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 25, 2013, 11:37:31 PM

wait how old are you?

Um, 18.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 25, 2013, 11:41:52 PM

oh nm, I thought you were 21. 16 is fine for you bro, just don't smash...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 25, 2013, 11:55:49 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 25, 2013, 11:41:52 PM

oh nm, I thought you were 21. 16 is fine for you bro, just don't smash...

:-[

I um, used a fake age on Facebook. Ignore that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 25, 2013, 11:59:52 PM

Quote from: FatalT on June 25, 2013, 11:21:02 PM

Use MeetMe.com dammit.

Very few users from Winnipeg.

thebore fails me again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 26, 2013, 12:10:50 AM

*clicks on profile pics*
*sees ankle Disney tattoo surrounded by varicose veins*
*closes tab*
*throws up*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on June 26, 2013, 12:12:20 AM

Lower your standards. You're not going to be dating these girls.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 26, 2013, 12:13:37 AM

I'm not putting that ankle anywhere near my shoulder. And I can't go from a perfect woman who hated tattoos to a woman who would put that logo/trademark on her body.
And no you can not have a link to her profile, Manabyte.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on June 26, 2013, 01:19:47 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 24, 2013, 11:36:34 AM

My resentment has turned into resentment (French pronunciation), which has turned into rancoeur.

Since you're getting angry before the conversation begins, it's called "preresentment." Sounds great pronounced with the French accent, like you're negotiating with a bag of marbles in your mouth.

Quote from: Bebpo on June 24, 2013, 09:06:12 PM

So I got a reply from my breaking it off last night. I didn't break it off 100%, I just said I couldn't be close friends anymore since she broke my trust over and over, but given our history and promises to stay as bffs forever I'm still gonna be her friend at arms length.

Which really pissed her off cause I guess it was the first time I'd ever "attacked" her and she's gets really angry/defensive when someone does. So she writes a whole bunch of stuff which basically boils down to f u I don't like you, I'm with this douche because he gets me hot & wet like no guy ever has, and I always felt uncomfortable in our friendship but I don't want to explain any of it. I don't want to be your friend.

Which I should have just left alone and walked away and that was that. But I'm bad at this part, so I went all out on her and called her out on trying to make this about us (if she's not interested in me romantically and vice/versa, why would we be throwing away our friendship over it? Makes no sense) and scapegoat it so later on she can think "oh I lost my best friendship I've ever had because of friendzone issues" and not "because I threw away my friendship for a crush w/ a douche"; because that way it won't bother her when she's in her relationship thinking back on it. Anyhow, I should have had the balls to hold back and let her have the last insults and walk away, but fuck it, sometimes if you push me enough I'll be a dick and push back.

Now if she ever responds (which I doubt), I'm sure it'll be a flurry of hate and at that point I'm not gonna bother responding. It's over. Forever and for good cause. At least it makes it easier to walk away when the other person is fighting with you, vs. walking away because of a depressing loss of friendship.

You got off easy! If there had actually been a relationship with this woman, you'd have been dining at the crazy shack 7 days a week. Don't get angry, be thankful you're out with minimum damages. Don't hold onto the hate; it's one more area she can find purchase on your emotions. You're lucky to have both those clowns out of your life.

Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 25, 2013, 12:53:20 AM

It's really hard to get a sense of anyone's real life personality based on their forum posts.

::)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on June 26, 2013, 02:46:56 AM

Really sad to hear about your broken off engagement wrath, but to be honest it actually kind of makes me feel relieved in a way like it's easier to convince myself not to think about any relationships going for more than a year at my age.

If I am not saying what everybody else is thinking, I will gladly take an e-punch-to-the-nuts.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 26, 2013, 12:55:26 PM

Fit Girl finally replied.

:holeup

I wrote her goodbye.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HPkTGm4RtVM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on June 26, 2013, 12:58:36 PM

Did she finally agree that you were as crazy for writing that letter as we had been telling you?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 26, 2013, 01:26:57 PM

The exact reply doesn't matter; the message is clear (but she still refuses to clarify the why).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 26, 2013, 01:29:43 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 26, 2013, 01:26:57 PM

The exact reply doesn't matter; the message is clear (but she still refuses to clarify the why).

Want me to beat her up? Or maybe I'll get beat up. Give me her address. I'll take care of this for you

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 26, 2013, 01:38:50 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 26, 2013, 01:26:57 PM

The exact reply doesn't matter; the message is clear (but she still refuses to clarify the why).

If it's what I assume it is then she doesn't know any more than you do.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 26, 2013, 01:41:04 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on June 26, 2013, 01:29:43 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 26, 2013, 01:26:57 PM
The exact reply doesn't matter; the message is clear (but she still refuses to clarify the why).
Want me to beat her up? Or maybe I'll get beat up. Give me her address. I'll take care of this for you

She's strong, and can make a man cry like a baby. And, knowing you, it would begin with fighting, then wrestling, then . . . :tauntaun

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 26, 2013, 01:43:58 PM

Mups would turn her into an expert over night.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 26, 2013, 01:53:16 PM

awkward sex is the best sex! Like Japanese porn! I'm in!!!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 26, 2013, 01:53:50 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 26, 2013, 01:41:04 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on June 26, 2013, 01:29:43 PM
Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 26, 2013, 01:26:57 PM
The exact reply doesn't matter; the message is clear (but she still refuses to clarify the why).
Want me to beat her up? Or maybe I'll get beat up. Give me her address. I'll take care of this for you

She's strong, and can make a man cry like a baby. And, knowing you, it would begin with fighting, then wrestling, then . . . :tauntaun

Do you think she could squeeze my head with her thighs?? :omg

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 26, 2013, 01:56:29 PM

Yes. Either head.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 26, 2013, 02:07:18 PM

These messages!

I'm starting to appreciate Fit Girl's grammar--it was always perfect. The one time she made a typo, she instantly corrected herself.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 26, 2013, 02:13:07 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 26, 2013, 01:56:29 PM

Yes. Either head.

:o

She can be my gym partner! I'll call her "bro" and everything.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 26, 2013, 02:20:45 PM

I wouldn't trust her. She'd squat and demand your full attention without ever returning the favor.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 26, 2013, 02:29:50 PM

I can handle that. I'm self conscious anyways

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 26, 2013, 07:05:48 PM

I don't even.

Quote

you definitely look like an awesome actor :P

Quote

Liev Schreiber?

Quote

haha! yess! lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 26, 2013, 07:11:22 PM

Tell her its really you and flannel boy is your alter ego

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 27, 2013, 12:43:01 AM

lol, love is stupid, love is blind, love be worth less than your mind.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 27, 2013, 04:42:11 AM

True story:

The best way to get over losing a girl is to lose something more important

like Atlus JPN and Persona 5 FFFUUUUUU

All better now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 01:26:12 PM

This is starting to get silly.

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I saw Liev's newest film last night. the reluctant fundamentalist. made me think of you! haha :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 27, 2013, 01:44:02 PM

I think she's saying you're into side hugs but crave missionary position.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 03:46:23 PM

Let's go over my last five dates:
Blonde-21-year-old cancels at the last second.
Fit Girl breaks my heart (my jaw isn't broken, but it's sore).
Blonde-21-year-old cancels again.
Small Town Girl cancels coffee date.
Small Town Girl does not show to rescheduled coffee date today.

And I did none of the asking. Stop asking me out you [deleted]!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 03:53:39 PM

I ain't even mad.

This would not happen if I looked less like Liev Schreiber and more like Hugh Jackman

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 27, 2013, 04:06:43 PM

I would never stand you up

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 05:00:16 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on June 27, 2013, 04:06:43 PM

I would never stand you up

Of course not, you'd put me on my knees.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 05:01:52 PM

Anyway, she claims she entered Starbucks but left because of anxiety. That's a reversal.

It's understandable. I too would be anxious to meet a movie star.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 27, 2013, 05:22:16 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 05:01:52 PM

Anyway, she claims she entered Starbucks but left because of anxiety. That's a reversal.

It's understandable. I too would be anxious to meet a movie star.

Or even Liev Shcreiber

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 05:25:40 PM

A woman could stand me up every night for the rest of the year and not hurt me as much as Fit Girl did.

I keep asking myself why.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 05:27:27 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 27, 2013, 05:22:16 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 05:01:52 PM
Anyway, she claims she entered Starbucks but left because of anxiety. That's a reversal.

It's understandable. I too would be anxious to meet a movie star.

Or even Liev Shcreiber

The only movie I've seen Liev in is Scream. But I guess it's natural for a person to avoid his own movies.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on June 27, 2013, 05:36:49 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 01:26:12 PM

This is starting to get silly.

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I saw Liev's newest film last night. the reluctant fundamentalist. made me think of you! haha :)

Maybe you don't have a very interesting or informative profile so they just have to point out the most superficial things?

You've never seen Manchurian Candidate?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Youngblood on June 27, 2013, 05:37:01 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 05:27:27 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 27, 2013, 05:22:16 PM
Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 05:01:52 PM
Anyway, she claims she entered Starbucks but left because of anxiety. That's a reversal.

It's understandable. I too would be anxious to meet a movie star.

Or even Liev Shcreiber
The only movie I've seen Liev in is Scream. But I guess it's natural for a person to avoid his own movies.

Might I recommend a little gem called X-Men Origins: Wolverine?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Youngblood on June 27, 2013, 05:37:56 PM

Or better yet, RKO 281. It's the Citizen Kane of movies about Citizen Kane.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 05:48:18 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on June 27, 2013, 05:36:49 PM

Maybe you don't have a very interesting or informative profile so they just have to point out the most superficial things?

You've never seen Manchurian Candidate?

I guess I could fill out my profile more. . . .
Yeah--I saw the one with Frank fucking Sinatra.

Quote from: Steve Youngblood on June 27, 2013, 05:37:01 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 05:27:27 PM

The only movie I've seen Liev in is Scream. But I guess it's natural for a person to avoid his own movies.

Might I recommend a little gem called X-Men Origins: Wolverine?

I've only watched X-Men and X2. I'll ask Jinfash to torrent me a copy along with his copy of Xenoblade.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 06:00:59 PM

I'll probably need to take screencaps because you people are going to think I'm making this shit up.

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Jun 27, 2013 – 4:53pm [central time zone]

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Haha my little brother said you looked like Wolverine when he saw your picture... ;P

Sabertooth or Wolverine? Make up your minds!

edit: These are spontaneous and random messages. I'm not some lawyer* asking leading questions.

*I need to article and pass the bar.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on June 27, 2013, 06:02:15 PM

Make what up? We know you look like Wolverine.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 06:04:52 PM

But I thought I looked like the other guy. :PP

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on June 27, 2013, 06:07:43 PM

Does it really matter? Neither is gonna get you a hookup any quicker.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 06:09:16 PM

:'(

I need tips, Demi. Should I go to costco and buy a 12-pack of industrial-sized cheese-wiz? Grow out my chest hair?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on June 27, 2013, 06:10:57 PM

It'd work for me, yeah. Would probably work for the chicks too. They will nuzzle in your flesh sack and want to just cuddle the night away.

(http://i.imgur.com/yszfW.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 06:27:52 PM

The third and fourth panel. . . .

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 06:57:52 PM

06/27/2013 05:53 pm (central)

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I didn't realize how much you look like Liev Do people tell you, you look like him?

You're the first one.

edit: to be fair, I prodded and offered him up after she said I looked like a famous actor.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on June 27, 2013, 07:00:21 PM

I get Jason Stathem sometimes :pimp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 07:02:48 PM

Useless without pics.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 27, 2013, 07:09:55 PM

...I look like John Lithgow when I don't have a beard :-\

Now you know why I never shave

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 27, 2013, 07:10:44 PM

We have a lot of lookalikes...

Barry Egan: Jason statham
Malek: liev
Macuser: Tom hardy
jinfash: prince
lord maji: snowden/nsa leaked dude

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 27, 2013, 07:13:17 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on June 27, 2013, 07:10:44 PM

We have a lot of lookalikes...

Barry Egan: Jason statham
Malek: liev
Macuser: Tom hardy
jinfash: prince
lord maji: snowden/nsa leaked dude

mupepe- younger danny trejo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 27, 2013, 07:14:29 PM

I don't have the hair for that!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 07:17:56 PM

wait, doesn't Hyoushi look like Jason Statham.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 27, 2013, 07:19:32 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 07:17:56 PM

wait, doesn't Hyoushi look like Jason Statham.

dunno. I haven't noticed because I always get lost in his eyes

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 07:28:13 PM

Useless without pics.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 27, 2013, 09:35:55 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on June 27, 2013, 07:10:44 PM

We have a lot of lookalikes...

Barry Egan: Jason statham
Malek: liev
Macuser: Tom hardy
jinfash: prince
lord maji: snowden/nsa leaked dude

People here used to say I looked like Dave Grohl. Not anymore I guess.

Last Celeb comparison was a girl saying I looked like Aziz Ansari :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Boogie on June 27, 2013, 09:50:18 PM

I have a coworker who is a pretty dead ringer for Statham.

I used to get that I looked like James Spader on GAF. Not so sure the resemblance is really there anymore.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Dickie Dee on June 27, 2013, 10:22:43 PM

When I was 50 lbs lighter I used to get Matt Damon all the time

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Fatt Damon :fbm

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 10:40:02 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on June 27, 2013, 09:35:55 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on June 27, 2013, 07:10:44 PM
We have a lot of lookalikes...

Barry Egan: Jason statham
Malek: liev
Macuser: Tom hardy
jinfash: prince
lord maji: snowden/nsa leaked dude

People here used to say I looked like Dave Grohl. Not anymore I guess.

Last Celeb comparison was a girl saying I looked like Aziz Ansari :'(

It must've been dark.

And you still look like him.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 28, 2013, 12:05:52 AM

I get compared to Tarantino all the time. Luckily I'm a big fan of his movies...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on June 28, 2013, 11:40:00 PM

The worst thing about being told you look like someone is when you realize later that they're absolutely right and it completely contradicts your self-image.

I was told I look like Pippin from LOTR this evening. And it's true. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 28, 2013, 11:41:07 PM

Yeah, why do you think I haven't shaved in 2+ years? No one wants to look like Jon Lithgow. Even Jon Lithgow.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on June 28, 2013, 11:43:03 PM

And you have a very handsome beard. :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on June 28, 2013, 11:43:19 PM

I also get Edward Norton quite a lot, which is more reassuring.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on June 28, 2013, 11:53:33 PM

speaking of hobbits, I looked a great deal like Elijah Wood in my skinnier days. now i get compared to zach galifinankis and jonah hill

not sure which is better

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on June 30, 2013, 02:39:06 AM

I had another date (potentially) cancel on me (she's "maybe" "thinking" about it). She wasn't clear on her reasons, but apparently "we have different approaches to the whole dating experience." I don't know what that means and I don't care. I'm just responding with one letter: "k." I sent more than enough letters to Fit Girl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 30, 2013, 03:41:17 AM

Holy shit, the more I hear about my "best friend" who I split up with last week, the more it seems I definitely dodged a bullet. Seems besides just being blinded to a lot of her flaws, it also seems like I only knew one side of her and now I wonder a bit who this person even was. Lot of shady shit coming out of the closet from mutual friends. Wow; it's crazy how you think you know someone when you're close and talk everyday and see each all the time but you really only know the side they show. Even her ex-bf (who is my friend) is like "I feel like I don't even know who I was dating the last ten months".

I need to get away from shady people. Both the guy friend & the girl best friend seem equally manipulative coming away from this.

How do you even tell who someone really is?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 30, 2013, 03:57:47 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on June 30, 2013, 03:41:17 AM

Holy shit, the more I hear about my "best friend" who I split up with last week, the more it seems I definitely dodged a bullet. Seems besides just being blinded to a lot of her flaws, it also seems like I only knew one side of her and now I wonder a bit who this person even was. Lot of shady shit coming out of the closet from mutual friends. Wow; it's crazy how you think you know someone when you're close and talk everyday and see each all the time but you really only know the side they show. Even her ex-bf (who is my friend) is like "I feel like I don't even know who I was dating the last ten months".

I need to get away from shady people. Both the guy friend & the girl best friend seem equally manipulative coming away from this.

How do you even tell who someone really is?

Def agree with Oscar but honestly one way to tell is to listen to your instincts and pay attention to details. People who are real shits are sometimes just good at hiding that fact. I pay attention to the smallest of details if I get a bad vibe off someone like how they interact with service industry folks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on June 30, 2013, 03:10:03 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 30, 2013, 04:40:52 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on June 27, 2013, 05:25:40 PM
A woman could stand me up every night for the rest of the year and not hurt me as much as Fit Girl did.

I keep asking myself why.

Honestly, I was pretty bummed about the way things happened with one of my OK Cupid dates. I'll call her Startup Girl. I thought the date went really well. She was laughing a lot, making constant eye contact and smiling, asking me lots of questions, and doing stuff that made me think she was having a good time. When it was time to go, I said that we should do something again, and she said "Yeah, totally." She never replied to my text the next day. She's really the only girl I've been out with so far that I've been into, and thus the only one that's hurt at all. It's lame as fuck. I didn't go down on her to orgasm, but I did really like her. Now every time I go on a date with a girl who isn't as great as Startup Girl (which is every single one), I keep asking myself if there was something I could have said or done differently on that date, or if her silence was a complete rejection of me and all that my personality encompasses. It's almost certainly the latter. And I don't even have a movie star resemblance to fall back on.

I'm just curious, you slept with someone on the first date but they didn't text you back?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 01, 2013, 02:04:48 AM

I wish I were gay(er).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 01, 2013, 02:13:36 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 01, 2013, 02:04:48 AM

I wish I were gay(er).

(http://i.imgur.com/LMrwpgv.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 01, 2013, 02:18:15 AM

We'd only need one or one and half points on the Kinsey scale.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 01, 2013, 02:23:48 AM

That's not really in the middle of the scale.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 01, 2013, 02:28:26 AM

I thought the Kinsey Scale only went up to six.

I'm, at most, at 1.5.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 01, 2013, 02:31:21 AM

do you speak from experience?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 01, 2013, 02:42:47 AM

That was a question.

Also, I need to rescind my recommendation of PoF.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on July 01, 2013, 11:25:11 AM

Eschaton looks hotter. He's a premium cut of sirloin rubbed with organic brown sugar. I'd cook him medium rare, slather him with a marsala reduction and eat him for breakfast.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

(http://i.imgur.com/ZH2lUJX.jpg)

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 01, 2013, 12:52:15 PM

A Mexican version.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 01, 2013, 01:03:21 PM

I don't even look Mexican! :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 01, 2013, 06:44:01 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 30, 2013, 02:35:20 PM

I went wine-tasting with an okc chick I'll call Lawyer Girl on Thursday. Honestly, she's a really awesome person, but a tad overweight for my tastes. Not obese by any means, but just a little bigger than I'd prefer.

#YesTheBusiness, but the date was fun. However, she lives 15 of the most rush hour prone miles away from me, and I know that when school starts in September and I'm pulling 80 hour weeks, there's no way I'd be able to see her much. Later on in the date, she asked me what I was looking for. After answering, I asked her what she was looking for. She said she's looking for a boyfriend, someone to come home to after tough days in court. I know that wouldn't work out.

We were supposed to go out again today, and I probably could have ended up with a story that The Business wouldn't approve of, but in the long run I'd end up hurting her, so I called it off. I think that was the right thing to do. These situations are tough.

I've passed up plenty of great girls because they were "too big for me". And I've come to regret it every single time. That's why, even though the girl I'm dating now is plus-size, I am not gonna turn her down. Things have been going extremely well and she is a wonderful and sweet person - she'll do things like call me up to treat me to breakfast, cook food for me, etc. My friends absolutely love her as well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on July 01, 2013, 07:58:52 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on June 27, 2013, 07:10:44 PM

We have a lot of lookalikes...

Barry Egan: Jason statham
Malek: liev
Macuser: Tom hardy
jinfash: prince
lord maji: snowden/nsa leaked dude

Add me in there as Doug Stanhope. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 01, 2013, 08:02:32 PM

Dude, Doug Stanhope is fucking hilarious.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 01, 2013, 08:58:00 PM

Quote from: tiesto on July 01, 2013, 06:44:01 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 30, 2013, 02:35:20 PM
I went wine-tasting with an okc chick I'll call Lawyer Girl on Thursday. Honestly, she's a really awesome person, but a tad overweight for my tastes. Not obese by any means, but just a little bigger than I'd prefer.

#YesTheBusiness, but the date was fun. However, she lives 15 of the most rush hour prone miles away from me, and I know that when school starts in September and I'm pulling 80 hour weeks, there's no way I'd be able to see her much. Later on in the date, she asked me what I was looking for. After answering, I asked her what she was looking for. She said she's looking for a boyfriend, someone to come home to after tough days in court. I know that wouldn't work out.

We were supposed to go out again today, and I probably could have ended up with a story that The Business wouldn't approve of, but in the long run I'd end up hurting her, so I called it off. I think that was the right thing to do. These situations are tough.

I've passed up plenty of great girls because they were "too big for me". And I've come to regret it every single time. That's why, even though the girl I'm dating now is plus-size, I am not gonna turn her down. Things have been going extremely well and she is a wonderful and sweet person - she'll do things like call me up to treat me to breakfast, cook food for me, etc. My friends absolutely love her as well.

How big are her tits?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on July 01, 2013, 09:46:42 PM

Fat chicks are awesome. Put her on a treadmill and now she's a skinny chick. And since you are so supportive she will ride your dick like no tomorrow. But probably not do as good a job as when she was fat.

Pick your poison.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on July 02, 2013, 07:34:18 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 01, 2013, 08:02:32 PM

Dude, Doug Stanhope is fucking hilarious.

Yeah, but no-one is wondering what he looks like nude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 02, 2013, 08:36:20 AM

Well, I am now that you mention it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 02, 2013, 02:50:34 PM

I'm just going to screencap these from now on.
Cold-message:
(http://i1256.photobucket.com/albums/ii488/flannelboy82/xmen.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 02, 2013, 04:00:59 PM

Because I'm Polish. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 02, 2013, 04:07:05 PM

Might as well post some pics of her now

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 02, 2013, 08:04:36 PM

So today we had one of our milf patients come in; black lady, very "sophisticated" and business like but with a sense of humor; her daughter is 21 and very attractive too, but naturally I prefer the mother. They both look a bit like Pam Grier with long hair.

Anyway I'm going over some insurance stuff with the mom and she's texting on her phone. We get a call and the receptionist person says it's for me. I answer and it's the daughter, saying she needs to set up an appointment; she missed her last appointment and needed a new one. Normally I don't set appointments up, but I did for her, said have a nice day and hung up. Ok, boom.

Then, as I'm looking over paperwork the mother makes a phone call, and I hear her say "did you ask him? Awww, I'll talk to you later" and hangs up. She then starts talking about her daughter...

her: I told her not to miss that appointment
me: It's alright
her: I also told her to set up an appointment and ask you on a date lol
me: *nervous smile*
:snoop

Brehs I didn't know what to do, I think I dropped the ball but it was such a weird situation I can't really fault myself too much. I just went back to discussing the stuff we needed to go over. She's always been super nice to me, but I can't really remember talking to the daughter much. She'll be here in a couple weeks for her appointment, and I'll have to talk with her about some stuff this time. There's no way I'm gonna say "so...you're mom wanted us to date..." but if I can think of something slick to say, I might go for it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 02, 2013, 08:10:05 PM

"Hey your mom asked me if I want to go on a date with you yadda yadda yadda..."

You have her phone number right? Obviously you should talk for a while so you know if you have anything in common, it would suck if you sort of pressured somebody into a date and then got bored after 10 minutes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 02, 2013, 10:35:14 PM

Just got asked out by a hot redhead. :pimp

We know this won't end well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 02, 2013, 10:39:27 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on July 02, 2013, 08:10:05 PM

"Hey your mom asked me if I want to go on a date with you yadda yadda yadda..."

You have her phone number right? Obviously you should talk for a while so you know if you have anything in common, it would suck if you sort of pressured somebody into a date and then got bored after 10 minutes.

that strikes me as the absolute worse non sexually explicit/sexist thing any guy could say to a woman

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on July 02, 2013, 11:05:23 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 02, 2013, 10:39:27 PM

that strikes me as the absolute worse non sexually explicit/sexist thing any guy could say to a woman

Maybe second worst, after telling her you think her mom's hotter.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 02, 2013, 11:21:53 PM

I have a date for Saturday with a Little Red-Haired Girl. :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 02, 2013, 11:31:00 PM

GLHF

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 02, 2013, 11:35:10 PM

GG.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 03, 2013, 01:58:48 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 02, 2013, 11:21:53 PM

I have a date for Saturday with a Little Red-Haired Girl. :-*

:mynicca

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 03, 2013, 02:04:56 AM

I've been seeing a 4'11" girl recently :shaq

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 03, 2013, 02:20:38 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 03, 2013, 02:03:34 AM

Are we talking FatalT little, or duckroll little?

I don't know what that means. FatalT looks tall.
She's 5' exactly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 03, 2013, 05:28:11 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 02, 2013, 10:39:27 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on July 02, 2013, 08:10:05 PM
"Hey your mom asked me if I want to go on a date with you yadda yadda yadda..."

You have her phone number right? Obviously you should talk for a while so you know if you have anything in common, it would suck if you sort of pressured somebody into a date and then got bored after 10 minutes.

that strikes me as the absolute worse non sexually explicit/sexist thing any guy could say to a woman

I should have inserted an "uh" in there or something as it's meant to be an awkward and upfront way of acknowledging that you both know somebody is trying to play matchmaker. I don't think you can flirt for a couple minutes to tell if you really want to go on a date with someone for something beyond sex but at least make it known that you want to try and get to know her.

The alternative is your right hand though amirite?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 03, 2013, 08:32:33 AM

My wife is 4'11"

Short women :drool

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on July 03, 2013, 09:07:04 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 02, 2013, 08:04:36 PM

She'll be here in a couple weeks for her appointment, and I'll have to talk with her about some stuff this time. There's no way I'm gonna say "so...you're mom wanted us to date..." but if I can think of something slick to say, I might go for it.

Don't stress about it. The world moves way too fast, and in a couple of weeks she'll walk in with her baby (from an actual dentist) to cancel the appointment.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 03, 2013, 06:52:46 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/BR6LXlG.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on July 03, 2013, 09:06:12 PM

Hopeless romantic is so true. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 03, 2013, 09:42:34 PM

shitbin

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 03, 2013, 10:44:43 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 03, 2013, 10:39:56 PM

What about Jewish girls who are really only interested in Jewish guys? I've come across several of those, in both the digital and analog realms.

That's not exclusive to Jewish girls, though. In any ethnic group that has a strong identity, that's pretty common. Korean girls, for instance.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on July 03, 2013, 11:40:03 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 03, 2013, 10:59:03 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 03, 2013, 02:20:38 AM
Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 03, 2013, 02:03:34 AM
Are we talking FatalT little, or duckroll little?
I don't know what that means. FatalT looks tall.
She's 5' exactly.

I meant in terms of age.

I'm 5'9" but I see what you did there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on July 04, 2013, 12:23:49 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 03, 2013, 10:44:43 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 03, 2013, 10:39:56 PM
What about Jewish girls who are really only interested in Jewish guys? I've come across several of those, in both the digital and analog realms.

That's not exclusive to Jewish girls, though. In any ethnic group that has a strong identity, that's pretty common. Korean girls, for instance.

korean girls love white dikku tho. at least IME.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 04, 2013, 01:23:45 AM

Quote from: Formerly Known As Himuro on July 03, 2013, 06:52:46 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/BR6LXlG.jpg)

Ah shit, the Hitler quote. :dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on July 04, 2013, 01:29:51 AM

Hitler quote got me, too. :rofl

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 02, 2013, 08:04:36 PM

So today we had one of our milf patients come in; black lady, very "sophisticated" and business like but with a sense of humor; her daughter is 21 and very attractive too, but naturally I prefer the mother. They both look a bit like Pam Grier with long hair.

Anyway I'm going over some insurance stuff with the mom and she's texting on her phone. We get a call and the receptionist person says it's for me. I answer and it's the daughter, saying she needs to set up an appointment; she missed her last appointment and needed a new one. Normally I don't set appointments up, but I did for her, said have a nice day and hung up. Ok, boom.

Then, as I'm looking over paperwork the mother makes a phone call, and I hear her say "did you ask him? Awww, I'll talk to you later" and hangs up. She then starts talking about her daughter...

her: I told her not to miss that appointment
me: It's alright
her: I also told her to set up an appointment and ask you on a date lol
me: *nervous smile*
:snoop

Brehs I didn't know what to do, I think I dropped the ball but it was such a weird situation I can't really fault myself too much. I just went back to discussing the stuff we needed to go over. She's always been super nice to me, but I can't really remember talking to the daughter much. She'll be here in a couple weeks for her appointment, and I'll have to talk with her about some stuff this time. There's no way I'm gonna say "so...you're mom wanted us to date..." but if I can think of something slick to say, I might go for it.

Maybe tell her, "Your Mom seems to have a pretty good sense of humor... or did I misread her?" Gives you a chance to mention her mom's "joke," and then move on to offer that it might be a good idea.

Then again, it's always trick (read: a bad idea) to try and work out a date with a customer while in the work place. So start with asking about her interests and see if anything sparks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 04, 2013, 02:26:40 AM

"Interests"

You know, like if she's interested in THE COCK

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 04, 2013, 03:28:56 AM

"Letting" and "helping along" are two very different things.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on July 04, 2013, 04:48:00 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 04, 2013, 03:23:06 AM

What kind of low IQs are we talking about?

If we're talking like 60 or below, then I don't really see an issue with letting their genes die out.

Calm down Hitler.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on July 04, 2013, 05:29:46 AM

Let's remember the context here. What are the odds someone volunteering that particular quote on an OKC profile or during a first/second date is actually trying to express a thoughtful and informed, if controversial opinion vs. them just being a dick?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 04, 2013, 06:33:05 AM

Quote from: Mandark on July 04, 2013, 05:29:46 AM

Let's remember the context here. What are the odds someone volunteering that particular quote on an OKC profile or during a first/second date is actually trying to express a thoughtful and informed, if controversial opinion vs. them just being a dick?

On OKC, there are like a million match questions and one of them asks if you think either ugly people or people with low IQs should not be allowed to breed. So that is why you would see a lot of online dating profiles with opinions on eugenics.

It's not exactly small talk/flirty banter shit but it is definitely good to know about somebody.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 04, 2013, 07:42:43 AM

Quote from: Formerly Known As Himuro on July 03, 2013, 06:52:46 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/BR6LXlG.jpg)

Who the hell would put most of that shit on their profile? I don't do online dating but most of that shit would read "psychotic" to me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 04, 2013, 11:55:44 AM

Quote from: The Experiment on July 04, 2013, 07:42:43 AM

Quote from: Formerly Known As Himuro on July 03, 2013, 06:52:46 PM
(http://i.imgur.com/BR6LXlG.jpg)

Who the hell would put most of that shit on their profile? I don't do online dating but most of that shit would read "psychotic" to me.

Some of those things are part of the OKC compatibility questions.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on July 04, 2013, 01:21:24 PM

As long as we keep working towards stopping the gays from reproducing, I don't really care.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on July 04, 2013, 07:09:39 PM

I'm pretty certain that my wife fucked one of her cousins when she was staying with him. On one hand, I don't find it hot, and on the other who gives a shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 04, 2013, 07:26:33 PM

Quote from: Verdigris Murder on July 04, 2013, 07:09:39 PM

I'm pretty certain that my wife fucked one of her cousins when she was staying with him. On one hand, I don't find it hot, and on the other who gives a shit.

How do you know this?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 04, 2013, 07:49:11 PM

Quote from: Verdigris Murder on July 04, 2013, 07:09:39 PM

I'm pretty certain that my wife fucked one of her cousins when she was staying with him. On one hand, I don't find it hot, and on the other who gives a shit.

uhhhhh. Incest is a huge fantasy of mine. Deets please

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 04, 2013, 11:03:36 PM

NOT my date:

Quote

See your nicer then me

:duh
The sooner I'm off of dating sites, the happier I'll be.

. . .

My date's first name contains all of the letters of Fit Girl first name plus two additional letters. :ohhh They're both three three syllables long, start with the same letter, and end with the same letter. I know I'm accidentally going to call her by the wrong name.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on July 05, 2013, 01:48:16 AM

Hopeless.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 05, 2013, 02:19:21 PM

I don't see why I'm hopeless, especially considering how I'm doing compared to just three months ago.

And all but one of my dates over the last few months have been both hot and intelligent (and she was one for two).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on July 05, 2013, 03:52:59 PM

I would make the argument that people with above-average IQ's are that way because of some major deficiencies in other parts of their character. Driven because they need a shield for which to maintain some sense of ego and self-worth.

So, great that we have this incredible pool of humans that are smarter, but unfortunate that they all spit when they talk, can't look you in the eyes and still occasionally piss the bed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on July 05, 2013, 04:43:27 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 05, 2013, 03:51:28 PM

Fucking chronovore liked Wrath's bullshit post... fuck that shit. I will not be made out to be some monster because I don't think mentally challenged people should pass on their genes.

You have to go pretty deep into libertarian territory to even justify the counterargument.

my argument would simply be that it would be psychologically disastrous if I knew the government had taken such action against me, so I wouldn't want the government to be doing it to anyone else.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on July 05, 2013, 04:57:48 PM

i cant remember ever hearing about any problems with forced sterilization, so why not!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 05, 2013, 05:21:51 PM

Jesus Christ Awesom-o sometimes you post like the the dumbest person in the developed world. If I was a high IQ woman I wouldn't let your seed anywhere near my reproductive organs. I'd let you nut on my breasts and that would be the end of your pitiful seed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on July 05, 2013, 06:25:00 PM

you're kind of being a douchebag bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on July 05, 2013, 06:45:31 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 05, 2013, 06:11:38 PM

We routinely treat people differently based on their limitations. The profoundly distinguished mentally-challenged can be institutionalized. Insane people can be forced into treatment. Pedos aren't allowed near playgrounds. In much the same vein, the mentally handicapped sure as shit shouldn't be allowed to breed. The reasons are so obvious that I can't believe this is a serious discussion. I'm just going to assume you guys are trolling.

Also, people need to gtfo with the reducto ad hitlorums.

pedos have limitations because they hurt people. "insane" people are forced on medication or into treatment centers for the same reason usually. most people with mental disabilities do not hurt others, so your comparison doesnt work. MR doesnt even have a high possibility of being transferred to children, so why the fuck would argue forced sterilization? or to be more precise, why are you so stupid?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 05, 2013, 07:45:39 PM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on July 05, 2013, 03:52:59 PM

I would make the argument that people with above-average IQ's are that way because of some major deficiencies in other parts of their character. Driven because they need a shield for which to maintain some sense of ego and self-worth.

You're not making an argument; you're making a conclusion and then restating it in different words.

If your conclusion were correct, there would have to be evidence that high intellect is correlated with "major deficiencies," whatever that means. To the contrary, high IQ is correlated with positive life outcomes in almost anything. Furthermore, you would need to show that people, motivated by these "deficiencies," can improve their IQs (outisde of the practice effect). A few studies exist (dual-n-back?), but none have been replicated. And the countless studies on siblings--adopted, twins, whatever--indicate that this is not something within a person's control.

The foregoing is not an endorsement of Green Shinobi's views.

edit: dual-n-back does improve working memory.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 05, 2013, 07:48:59 PM

Anyway, I think it's 50/50 my date cancels for tomorrow. She was actually under the impression that I have a law career.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on July 05, 2013, 07:59:52 PM

I'm so confused. When you get pregnant and go to the doctor, the first thing they're offering, after confirming pregnancy, are a multitude of tests and screenings on the fetus (well, embryo at that point). Down's syndrome is the main reason for the checks, but it covers many other disabilities and conditions. If you "fail" the basic genetic screening, which is extremely common (these tests have huge failure rates), they move you onto an amniocentesis and more in depth tests. The in-depth tests are also higher risk for the baby.

So, people have complete access to these resources already. Why force them? If they wanted to find out and abort, they're capable of making that decision on their own. Neither you or I are in a position to make that decision for them.

There are a lot worse things in the world than having a baby with Downs. Yes, mental disabilities can be difficult to deal with, especially with a lack of resources, but anyone I know with MR children wouldn't give them up or change them. They're just different.

Not sure how in the hell they should be treated like pedophiles. In your scenario, pedophiles aren't allowed to go to the playground but a potentially distinguished mentally-challenged person wouldn't be allowed to be born. Yea that's the same thing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 05, 2013, 08:00:04 PM

Lots of chicks date law students though, Malek. It's like investing in a good start-up company with a bright future. You get in early, grab some shares, rub a few dicks, and before you know it you're spending allowance money on Madison Ave.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Boogie on July 05, 2013, 08:01:17 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 05, 2013, 03:51:28 PM

Fucking chronovore liked Wrath's bullshit post... fuck that shit. I will not be made out to be some monster because I don't think mentally challenged people should pass on their genes.

Just because of that, I liked his post too.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on July 05, 2013, 08:10:57 PM

me too :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 05, 2013, 08:19:01 PM

jesus christ this thread. time to go back ignoring it for another 4 until I click the link - because i'm a fucking moron - and see why this is the worst thread on the site - AGAIN.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on July 05, 2013, 08:19:58 PM

yes lets all go back to the gaf thread

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 05, 2013, 08:39:02 PM

no way is gaf thread worse.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on July 05, 2013, 08:42:14 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/EMkHoJr.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on July 05, 2013, 09:03:11 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 05, 2013, 08:00:04 PM

Lots of chicks date law students though, Malek. It's like investing in a good start-up company with a bright future. You get in early, grab some shares, rub a few dicks, and before you know it you're spending allowance money on Madison Ave.

Given the employment rates of law school grads in the US, that's more like a bubble economy than a sound investment.

What's the outlook up in Canada, though?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 05, 2013, 09:41:41 PM

Quote from: Mandark on July 05, 2013, 09:03:11 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 05, 2013, 08:00:04 PM
Lots of chicks date law students though, Malek. It's like investing in a good start-up company with a bright future. You get in early, grab some shares, rub a few dicks, and before you know it you're spending allowance money on Madison Ave.

Given the employment rates of law school grads in the US, that's more like a bubble economy than a sound investment.

What's the outlook up in Canada, though?

Even though law school has been a bum deal for the past five years, a lot of people still think it means instabux once you graduate. A guy I know is going to some fourth tier hole and everyone is all "Wow, law school!"

This should be Malek's target: people who are just wowed that he is going to law school at all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 05, 2013, 10:05:24 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 05, 2013, 08:00:04 PM

Lots of chicks date law students though, Malek.

I'm no longer a student (though, because of deferred papers, I won't get a JD until October).

Quote from: Mandark on July 05, 2013, 09:03:11 PM

Given the employment rates of law school grads in the US, that's more like a bubble economy than a sound investment.

What's the outlook up in Canada, though?

It's decent; there are far fewer schools and far fewer students per school. There is no Thomas M. Cooley Law Schools here, so there's less of a bimodal split in income for lawyers (ignoring regional discrepancies). Thomas M. Cooley has like 3,500 students and the average LSAT score is 145 (compared to 170 for Yale). The U of M, one of Canada's less prestigious schools, has 300 students and the average LSAT score is 162 (compared to 167 for Toronto). In other words, there isn't as significant a gap between Canada best and worst schools, and the worst schools are usually rather small.

edit: Also almost no one fails bar exams in Canada.

That said, a woman would be unwise counting on me to have a stable anything.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 05, 2013, 10:50:14 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on July 05, 2013, 09:41:41 PM

Quote from: Mandark on July 05, 2013, 09:03:11 PM
Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 05, 2013, 08:00:04 PM
Lots of chicks date law students though, Malek. It's like investing in a good start-up company with a bright future. You get in early, grab some shares, rub a few dicks, and before you know it you're spending allowance money on Madison Ave.

Given the employment rates of law school grads in the US, that's more like a bubble economy than a sound investment.

What's the outlook up in Canada, though?

Even though law school has been a bum deal for the past five years, a lot of people still think it means instabux once you graduate. A guy I know is going to some fourth tier hole and everyone is all "Wow, law school!"

This should be Malek's target: people who are just wowed that he is going to law school at all.

Yup. Lawyers will probably always be seen with $$$ signs, regardless of the economy. Same with doctors.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 06, 2013, 12:47:51 AM

Well, she's still talking to me, so that's a good sign.

Her favorite videogame is Ocarina of Time. :-\ She even named her cat Zelda.

And no, I did not initiate a chat about videogames.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 06, 2013, 03:43:50 AM

So it's been about two weeks now since all my drama and it's weird, I'm at the point where I need to remember how to make myself happy (that doesn't consist of eating tasty fattening foods). When I'm working, I'm content, when I'm out socializing I'm having a good time with my friends and even strangers. But when I'm at home, alone, it's sort of of empty. Haven't really game'd much, or read, or watched any movies, or written, or painted, or shopped, or done anything really during times alone. Which is why I've been keeping myself active and busy, with plans out almost every day. Because at home with nothing to do, I'm just missing the drive to do anything. It's not really a depression as I've made peace with everything that went down and where people are at; have empathy and understanding for all involved. It's more that it's been so long that I was always being there for someone or they were being there for me during any free time, that I've just forgotten how to feel 100% satisfied and happy on my own. I have friends still, but now that I don't have have any "close & best" friends that I can text/call whenever during these free & empty periods of time...it's like I've got to find other things to do to fill the time gaps when I'm home alone on a Friday night or something, things that make me feel like I'm not "missing out" by being couped in while people are out having a nice weekend night out.

I guess this is what it normally feels like coming out of a long term relationship made up of two co-dependent people. What sucks is I didn't even know I was in a relationship!

Things ain't bad. Not in the least. Just kind of weird, slowly finding my groove again after a long extended break of not having to look for it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on July 06, 2013, 05:47:54 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 05, 2013, 03:51:28 PM

Fucking chronovore liked Wrath's bullshit post... fuck that shit. I will not be made out to be some monster because I don't think mentally challenged people should pass on their genes.

You have to go pretty deep into libertarian territory to even justify the counterargument.

Why do you care what I think about you? I've got nothing to do with you.

I'll just sit over here and be glad you're not in charge of government policies.

Go hang out at a sanitarium for a bit, come back and tell me how these people should have their bodies violated to prevent any chance of offspring, even though there's no assurance that, in the rare chance they're able to breed, that the child would have the same illnesses their parent had.

Tell me how, with your recently diagnosed illness, you should be allowed to breed. Or do you not see what a slippery slope you're proposing?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 06, 2013, 10:49:18 AM

Quote from: The Experiment on July 05, 2013, 09:41:41 PM

Quote from: Mandark on July 05, 2013, 09:03:11 PM
Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 05, 2013, 08:00:04 PM
Lots of chicks date law students though, Malek. It's like investing in a good start-up company with a bright future. You get in early, grab some shares, rub a few dicks, and before you know it you're spending allowance money on Madison Ave.

Given the employment rates of law school grads in the US, that's more like a bubble economy than a sound investment.

What's the outlook up in Canada, though?

Even though law school has been a bum deal for the past five years, a lot of people still think it means instabux once you graduate. A guy I know is going to some fourth tier hole and everyone is all "Wow, law school!"

This should be Malek's target: people who are just wowed that he is going to law school at all.

Yeah, my friend passed the bar 5 years ago and still has been unable to find any kind of work... he lives on Staten Island and has looked all over the tri-state area but nothing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 06, 2013, 12:24:58 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 05, 2013, 06:11:38 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on July 05, 2013, 04:43:27 PM
Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 05, 2013, 03:51:28 PM
Fucking chronovore liked Wrath's bullshit post... fuck that shit. I will not be made out to be some monster because I don't think mentally challenged people should pass on their genes.

You have to go pretty deep into libertarian territory to even justify the counterargument.

my argument would simply be that it would be psychologically disastrous if I knew the government had taken such action against me, so I wouldn't want the government to be doing it to anyone else.

We routinely treat people differently based on their limitations. The profoundly distinguished mentally-challenged can be institutionalized. Insane people can be forced into treatment. Pedos aren't allowed near playgrounds. In much the same vein, the mentally handicapped sure as shit shouldn't be allowed to breed. The reasons are so obvious that I can't believe this is a serious discussion. I'm just going to assume you guys are trolling.

Also, people need to gtfo with the reducto ad hitlorums.

Aren't you mentally handicapped since you're severely no polar, among other things? Why should you be allowed to breed under these restrictions?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 06, 2013, 04:27:19 PM

I'm guessing that awesom-o is just suggesting that it's okay for a geneticist to advise a couple to adopt if it looks like their child will have a good chance of being mentally handicapped. Not the whole forcible sterilization/abortion thing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on July 06, 2013, 05:31:37 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/KvQkU5Y.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 06, 2013, 05:45:12 PM

I can understand being advised against having children if both parents carry sickle cell for instance; in fact doctors already do that. But there's no way of saying "oh well the mother is dyslexic and the father is bi polar, if you have a kid there's a 73.5% chance he could be the king of distinguished mentally-challenged fellows. Adopt, for the love of god."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 06, 2013, 06:26:27 PM

This shit is unreal.

(http://i1256.photobucket.com/albums/ii488/flannelboy82/great.jpg)

Let's recap my last seven dates:
Heart broken and six fucking cancellations.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 06, 2013, 06:34:31 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 05, 2013, 07:48:59 PM

Anyway, I think it's 50/50 my date cancels for tomorrow. She was actually under the impression that I have a law career.

Good thing no one took those odds.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 06, 2013, 06:34:50 PM

It's a good thing I didn't have any self-confidence to begin with.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 06, 2013, 06:35:10 PM

I'm taking a break from the Internet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on July 06, 2013, 06:39:27 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 06, 2013, 06:35:10 PM

I'm taking a break from the Internet.

This is about the Mavericks, isn't it?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on July 06, 2013, 06:44:07 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 06, 2013, 06:35:10 PM

I'm taking a break from the Internet.

too busy with other stuff going on?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 06, 2013, 07:38:41 PM

time to move to the D-League bro: Plenty of Fish. Less girlfriend material, more girlfriend experiences.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on July 06, 2013, 09:31:16 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 06, 2013, 06:26:27 PM

This shit is unreal.

(http://i1256.photobucket.com/albums/ii488/flannelboy82/great.jpg)

Let's recap my last seven dates:
Heart broken and six fucking cancellations.

This sounds legit. Hang in there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 07, 2013, 03:12:51 AM

Eugenics talk is a real turn off. Makes you sound like a control freak for sure. I'd definitely stray the fuck away from the conversation. Also the first thing in my mind would be "would this dude pressure me to abort if his child wasn't perfect?" That's not something I really want to deal with.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 07, 2013, 12:31:32 PM

Quote from: chronovore on July 06, 2013, 09:31:16 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 06, 2013, 06:26:27 PM
This shit is unreal.

(http://i1256.photobucket.com/albums/ii488/flannelboy82/great.jpg)

Let's recap my last seven dates:
Heart broken and six fucking cancellations.

This sounds legit. Hang in there.

It's legit if and only if she proposes another time since the onus is now on her to provide an alternative time. If she doesn't then I guess she lost interest.

Quote from: tiesto on July 04, 2013, 11:55:44 AM

Quote from: The Experiment on July 04, 2013, 07:42:43 AM
Quote from: Formerly Known As Himuro on July 03, 2013, 06:52:46 PM

Who the hell would put most of that shit on their profile? I don't do online dating but most of that shit would read "psychotic" to me.

Some of those things are part of the OKC compatibility questions.

Oh, ok. Thanks because I was surprised that people would just willingly put that information up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on July 07, 2013, 09:39:37 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on July 07, 2013, 12:31:32 PM

Quote from: chronovore on July 06, 2013, 09:31:16 PM
Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 06, 2013, 06:26:27 PM
This shit is unreal.

(http://i1256.photobucket.com/albums/ii488/flannelboy82/great.jpg)

Let's recap my last seven dates:
Heart broken and six fucking cancellations.

This sounds legit. Hang in there.

It's legit if and only if she proposes another time since the onus is now on her to provide an alternative time. If she doesn't then I guess she lost interest.

Yes, and the only caveat I'd add there is that Flannel Boy just let her know that: "Hey, I understand about the parents. Just let me know if and when you are able to reschedule."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 08, 2013, 01:06:50 AM

Man, fuck this shit.

So this douche guy who manipulated the shit out of everything and turned my best friend against me and took off with her; at first they just bailed out from our mutual friends. I didn't go around bad mouthing him cause I cut my friend off (and he'd already cut me off weeks before when he decided I was his enemy and did everything to get me out of the) and moved on and figured that was the end of it. I try not to be petty.

Well being the clever, charismatic, asshole motherfucker that he is, he decided just having his girl wasn't good enough and decided in the last week or two to start taking all our mutual friends as well. He started with the one's who weren't close to me first and started telling them stories to make him and her look like the victims and that I was this bad person who'd been fooling everyone. Then he went to the people I was close with and tried to put doubt in their minds about everything.

One of my friends in the middle straight up told me that "it's fucked up but he's winning at taking everyone over to his side" and that he straight up told him he "had the girl, he had the friends, he doesn't need the rest of us anymore"; he's been making people choose sides and unfortunately he's a really, really slick talker with a fun personality. It's all superficial and surface bullshit, he doesn't let anyone really know him, but it works. Meanwhile I'm kind of shy and people only really know me when they get to know me under the surface.

And one of the main things he's using in ammo to try to fuck up all my friendships is that thing I posted about back in December where I made a move and kissed a girl (after first asking if she wanted me to and she gave the ok) who was high while I was drunk at a party and she wasn't interested so I left and that was it. Except in his twisting version he's telling people he's making it seem like I tried to date rape her. This was resolved back when between me & the girl and my two best friends after we all realized it was a misunderstanding and not a big deal. In fact the asshole guy in question wasn't even around back then so the only reason he even knows about this and is using it to turn people against me is because my best friend was one of the people who was involved and knew and she also knew that it had been a misunderstanding and that everyone was cool now. But apparently after going over to this asshole she lied and twisted it to give to him as ammo to try to kill my friendships and steal all my friends.

It's just ridiculous at this point. Almost like something out of a movie where there's an evil villain and apparently now his evil empress queen. They've done everything immoral, nasty, wrong, and inhuman and they've gotten each other, the bulk of my friends, and screwed up my remaining friendships. I'd like to sit back and take the higher ground and figure at some point this will all come down on them and bite them in the ass, but I've lived long enough in this world to know that a lot of the times, people who do fucking evil disgusting shit get away with it and the people who try to take the high ground end up fucked over and losing everything.

At this point it looks like I'm going to have to start over completely, not just with myself, but find a new group of friends and everything while only keeping a couple from my current set who have my back. Is there anything I can even do at this point? Wtf kind of war can I run against this guy whose smooth and has all the cards and if not do I just walk away and lose everything and let him take it all.

Fucking soap opera here (excuse the cursing).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 08, 2013, 02:43:35 AM

How do you graduate?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on July 08, 2013, 02:49:43 AM

this is the part where youre supposed to get drunk and fight him

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 08, 2013, 02:53:08 AM

He's an ex-MMA fighter who works out at the gym everyday.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on July 08, 2013, 03:19:14 AM

How old are these "friends" of yours? My mind really can't comprehend people in their 30's still acting like tha... wait I can.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 08, 2013, 03:32:38 AM

Mid 20s-early 30s.

I kind of don't get it though. When you have a large enough group of friends, drama will usually end up happening between people. How does getting older and more mature change this. I mean I'd imagine a group of friend couples in their 40s, when one married couple who are both friends with everyone in the group gets divorced in a really nasty angry divorce, that both spouses fight for "who keeps their friends". It's just sort of human nature that if their both friends with all these people, and especially if these people are their only friends, than neither wants to give up their friends just because they are splitting with each other and what are the friends supposed to do when they're being forced to pick sides?

I think if you have a smaller group of closely knit friends, maybe things are more mature and civilized. But these are basically a bunch of strangers who all came together through a club and became a group of friends outside of the club. Originally everyone was single, then everyone ended up in relationships and at some point when there's relationship drama it's going to affect everyone. My fight with this guy and my best friend isn't the only major drama going down right now dividing up the group of friends. There's other stuff too with other couples.

I think it's also different because when you're in your 30s and it's a bunch of married or long-term relationship couples hanging around drinking beers on the weekend it's a lot different than 20-30 mixed group of single guys & girls hanging out all the time with each other because they have no SOs to spend time with. Everyone's hooking up with everyone and in that way it is a lot like high school.

I tried the "hang around with friend couples around your age" thing for a decade. It's true the drama was minimal, but friends also weren't very available because everyone was in committed relationships and I was the one left single and with no friends to hang out with. I also didn't meet very many new people because it was always the same group of friends. So I went out and found friends near my age (a little younger) who were also single and looking for people to hang out with and I actually had friends to do things with all the time and was meeting new people everyday.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on July 08, 2013, 03:35:17 AM

These people seem like they're pretty shitty individuals. I can't see why you'd want to be friends with them, honestly. Seems like some seriously stunted social/emotional development going on with these upstanding citizens.

I've had friends break up in the past, and they didn't act like this. Not even back in college.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 08, 2013, 03:38:46 AM

Eh, there are good people in here. Some really good people. The wiser ones say the same thing as you guys. Drop all this shit and walk away. Be the bigger man, and be happy with the friends you've got and not the friends you've lost.

I agree. And I'm glad to have friends like them.

Just still very sucky to see how all this is going down.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on July 08, 2013, 03:47:32 AM

Oscar and Señor Gundam have it right, and Wrath nailed the puppy on its wet little nose: Anyone who's buying this from them, without going back to you at some point, you don't need them. Not just that, but you don't WANT them in your life. The smarter and caring ones will eventually get back in touch, but just stay clear of that group and let the few good ones come back to you, if there are any actually in there.

It's a lot of stupid drama, you can do better, and they all deserve each other if this is how they act.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 08, 2013, 04:09:35 AM

Thanks. I'd already been going down the path of reason and maturity for a while on all this, but thanks to some great advice here and from a few of my wiser friends, I got this figured out.

Done with this. I got my good friends, my own life, and I'll keep what's positive and let the crap drop down the drain where it belongs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 08, 2013, 07:39:36 AM

I would just tell them that rather than feeling they have to take one side in a love triangle they should just ask that original "high girl" wtf happened and you should also tell all your supposed friends to go FUCK themselves for being so emotionally undeveloped that they can cut you out based on another person's hearsay of a situation.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 08, 2013, 01:49:29 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 08, 2013, 01:34:26 PM

Is there any way you can call this guy out in a public setting?

Not worth it, man. If you play that game, you're losing. Don't play.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on July 08, 2013, 03:31:07 PM

But if you can seduce the dudes mom, go for that.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on July 08, 2013, 03:31:35 PM

Just make sure to start carrying a gun around if you succeed

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 08, 2013, 05:12:38 PM

wtf is this shit, Bar of Thrones?

Bepbo, just go to different bars. Find new friends. I have had drama amongst friends, and some hostility...but I've never experienced anything like this. If these "friends" are willing to believe the word of this bastard over your own, perhaps they aren't real friends after all. You have sworn them no vows, nor are they your liege lords. It's time to create your own house. And if this "best friend" comes riding back to you, tell her winter may be coming, but the chance to be your friend already passed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on July 08, 2013, 05:23:31 PM

i had something sorta similar happen to me a few years back and cutting and running was the best thing i ever did. when stupid people started believing a little shit-talker without even trying to hear my side i knew they werent worth my time at all. i had to cut loose some good friends that id known for a LONG time, but most of the people in the group were just there as backdrop to my partying and were no big loss at all. plus the way i saw it was, if the good friends of mine were still willing to hang out with an asshole that was talking shit nonstop about me, then they werent good enough friends to keep around any longer. no use struggling for someone that doesnt even have your back.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Howard Alan Treesong on July 08, 2013, 05:35:59 PM

everyone else has already said everything that needs saying

it's tough, but you need new friends.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on July 08, 2013, 05:38:15 PM

Just so happens I have a slot open to be someone's friend!

I like JRPGs and I won't ever bother you with my own relationship issues because women are pieces of shit!

:)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on July 08, 2013, 05:51:04 PM

Quote from: demi on July 08, 2013, 05:38:15 PM

Just so happens I have a slot open to be someone's friend!

I like JRPGs and I won't ever bother you with my own relationship issues because women are pieces of shit!

:)

Also: You give good head.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on July 08, 2013, 06:45:32 PM

Flip em over do the tounge trick and treat em with a big dick

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 08, 2013, 06:51:46 PM

My former best friend (from like senior year of high school up till about 2010) was really big into creating drama - going after friend's exes as soon as the relationship ended, talking shit behind others' backs (he had serious jealousy issues even though he would never admit it), and was a bit of a control freak that had to have everything perfectly his way (when meanwhile, he was horrible at organization). After some sad events happened in his life, he really went off the deep end with the drama, and eventually my friends completely dropped him and things have been much better for it. I mean, he was great fun to hang out with when he wasn't bringing the drama but after a point it just got to be too much. It's always much better to cut your losses.

There was also a friend of mine who set me up with my ex (it was his now-wife's sister's best friend). I think I related the story on here a few years ago, but anyways - I broke up with my ex because she had no drive to better herself, we had nothing in common, and she flat out refused when I offered her help (ie helping her with her resume, helping with finding and applying for jobs, helping to give her a little bit more style beyond baggy t-shirt and mom jeans). My "friend" then said that I didn't try hard enough (meanwhile I went above and beyond for this girl with very little reciprocation) and wanted me to apologize to him, his wife, and her because of the way I treated her (I told her I wanted to "take a break" and then didn't talk to her and got rid of my FB relationship status). I realized that, even though we share many of the same friends (we knew each other from my former job of 9 years), no real friend would pull shit like that.

Now I've met you in person, Bebs, and you seemed like a very outgoing and easygoing person, so I don't think you'll have any trouble at all finding a new group that brings much less drama.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 08, 2013, 06:53:33 PM

I dunno I can hardly feel the tounge trick most of times #realtalk

Seriously bebpo, if youre looking youll never find a girl for life. Have fun and one day youll meet a girl and be all like "hell Im not ready for this" and that's the jackpot.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 08, 2013, 08:46:40 PM

No big loss. If they're taking this guy's side, some dude they barely just met, over yours, then they didn't think much of you to begin with and can be safely discarded.

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 08, 2013, 01:34:26 PM

Is there any way you can call this guy out in a public setting?

Do NOT do this, unless you want to look like a joke.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 08, 2013, 09:13:59 PM

Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on July 08, 2013, 02:58:30 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on July 08, 2013, 02:53:08 AM
He's an ex-MMA fighter who works out at the gym everyday.

fight him, get your ass whupped, some Asian guy will show up and save you and teach you his ways. then you'll face off at the big martial arts tournament where even though you're the underdog, you'll win thanks to your determination. impressed by your skill, his girlfriend/your ex-friend will try to get with you, but you're smarter than that, you tell her off, and shortly after realize asian dude's shy plainly dressed daughter was there for you the whole time and is actually quite a looker when she takes her glasses off.

I am fucking DYING.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 09, 2013, 02:14:31 AM

Yeah, that was an awesome post by Oscar :rock

Well everything is all good! Drama dropped, dramatic people cut off, and I talked with my friends who matter and none of them were even phased by the bs. Anxiety is gone, and can finally move on with my life and my friends and replace the section of my life occupied by negative drama with more positive things like making new friends, getting back to the gym, and actually getting some gaming/reading/movie watching time in again. GOOD TIMES BE HERE :D

Quote from: Premium Lager on July 08, 2013, 06:53:33 PM

Seriously bebpo, if youre looking youll never find a girl for life. Have fun and one day youll meet a girl and be all like "hell Im not ready for this" and that's the jackpot.

I have no idea where this came from, since this isn't really about my dating life and more just drama :P But I haven't been looking in a long time. Haven't messaged anyone on OKC since like February. Just been having fun the past year and have met lots of girls! Even found out girls had crushes on me! Just haven't met the right person, right timing yet. I know it'll happen so I'm not too worried about it. This was all just shitty drama.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on July 09, 2013, 02:16:29 AM

Good for you, man.

7-year wedding anniversary today. :rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 09, 2013, 02:18:02 AM

Quote from: tiesto on July 08, 2013, 06:51:46 PM

Now I've met you in person, Bebs, and you seemed like a very outgoing and easygoing person, so I don't think you'll have any trouble at all finding a new group that brings much less drama.

Thanks man! I really dug hanging out with you too :)

Yeah I know I'm a good dude, I just still have anxiety issues approaching people and starting conversation. I'm way better now than I was a year ago, but I still need a lot of practice. Once I do talk to people I get along with them fairly easily. I'm fairly hang loose.

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on July 09, 2013, 02:16:29 AM

Good for you, man.

7-year wedding anniversary today. :rock

That's awesome! Congratulations

:uguu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 09, 2013, 02:24:31 AM

Those people are secretly doing you a favor. They and anyone who takes their side is someone you should just cut out of your life ASAP. Drama whores aren't worth keeping around.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 09, 2013, 04:25:04 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on July 09, 2013, 02:14:31 AM

I have no idea where this came from, since this isn't really about my dating life and more just drama :P But I haven't been looking in a long time. Haven't messaged anyone on OKC since like February. Just been having fun the past year and have met lots of girls! Even found out girls had crushes on me! Just haven't met the right person, right timing yet. I know it'll happen so I'm not too worried about it. This was all just shitty drama.

I was a bit tipsy and my lady is out of town :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 09, 2013, 05:41:40 PM

Coffee today. . . .
(http://i1256.photobucket.com/albums/ii488/flannelboy82/proofers.jpg)
:kobeyuck

Is someone from this forum playing a practical joke on me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on July 09, 2013, 05:48:38 PM

are you sending them paul mccartney videos after setting up the dates

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 09, 2013, 05:49:22 PM

Silly Love Songs is a classic.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 09, 2013, 05:53:51 PM

It's 4:52 and the fridge repairmen haven't showed up with my replacement fridge. Really, no one can keep their dates with me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on July 09, 2013, 06:04:21 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on July 09, 2013, 02:24:31 AM

Those people are secretly doing you a favor. They and anyone who takes their side is someone you should just cut out of your life ASAP. Drama whores aren't worth keeping around.

seriously. I somehow managed to avoid these types through 80% of my college life, and then in my senior year a couple friends got mixed into a crowd that did nothing but constantly backstab and gossip about each other. So fucking annoying to be around, I don't know how people put up with it or do it themselves. I don't have time for that shit. Even worse when you see grown-ass adults with kids/family doing it too.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 09, 2013, 06:09:47 PM

Quote from: macuser3of5 on July 09, 2013, 06:04:21 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on July 09, 2013, 02:24:31 AM
Those people are secretly doing you a favor. They and anyone who takes their side is someone you should just cut out of your life ASAP. Drama whores aren't worth keeping around.
seriously. I somehow managed to avoid these types through 80% of my college life, and then in my senior year a couple friends got mixed into a crowd that did nothing but constantly backstab and gossip about each other. So fucking annoying to be around, I don't know how people put up with it or do it themselves. I don't have time for that shit. Even worse when you see grown-ass adults with kids/family doing it too.

Family is harder to take out of the equation for sure. My group from highschool and on has always been "there's better shit to do than gossip" so that's what we do.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on July 09, 2013, 06:57:48 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 09, 2013, 05:41:40 PM

Coffee today. . . .
(http://i1256.photobucket.com/albums/ii488/flannelboy82/proofers.jpg)
:kobeyuck

Is someone from this forum playing a practical joke on me.

That's OK? THAT'S OK?

You need to be a little more active in this conversation. Something like "Thanks for letting me know. How about later in the week?" You gotta follow it up with something other than just "THAT'S OK."

That, or you just need to cut and run.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 09, 2013, 07:09:57 PM

LOL, there was a second paragraph.

And, unsurprisingly, she's busy for the next two weeks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 09, 2013, 07:19:25 PM

Try talking to the girls a lot more online before meeting up? I'm assuming if they're asking you out it was probably just a few messages. I mean I would be all sorts of pissed if I had that many cancellations as you do but I'm guessing they would be more likely to try meeting if they knew at least a little something about your personality.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 09, 2013, 09:00:36 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on July 09, 2013, 08:50:46 PM

Quote from: macuser3of5 on July 09, 2013, 06:04:21 PM
Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on July 09, 2013, 02:24:31 AM
Those people are secretly doing you a favor. They and anyone who takes their side is someone you should just cut out of your life ASAP. Drama whores aren't worth keeping around.
seriously. I somehow managed to avoid these types through 80% of my college life, and then in my senior year a couple friends got mixed into a crowd that did nothing but constantly backstab and gossip about each other. So fucking annoying to be around, I don't know how people put up with it or do it themselves. I don't have time for that shit. Even worse when you see grown-ass adults with kids/family doing it too.

I'm in college and 99% of my group is sane and unlike that. I say 99% cause there's the 1% former New Jersey cop rich ass spoiled brat who CONTINUOUSLY pulls all sorts of crap to alienate everyone around him but then wins them back by buying us stuff. I seem to be the only one who gives him shit for being an asshole cause everyone else is either too nice or is scared cause he's a "violent" drunk. He's just a harmless stupid brat who's all bark and gossip but is too afraid to actually do anything really dangerous, he just ruins what should be hang outs cause he's an emotional bitch. He asked to room with him when I didn't have a place to go and I outright said "Nope, you're an awful drunk and annoying to be around most of the time". All he did was bitch about me for a month then come back and buy me cases of beer to hang out with him again.

Really don't understan how you can be a grown up and still act like that. Too many of us have our own shit to deal with to have to deal with yours during times where we want to chill.

This is such an important point. A lot of selfish egotistical people will think their issues allow them to act out or get ridiculously drunk when most people are dealing with some heavy shit. Part of growing up is realizing everyone has to deal with some fucked up stuff and ruining what should be a fun time for all makes you an asshole.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 09, 2013, 09:27:25 PM

Got a CVS clerk's number tonight

#NoTiesto
#NoGreenMan

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 09, 2013, 10:09:24 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 09, 2013, 09:27:25 PM

Got a CVS clerk's number tonight

#NoTiesto
#NoGreenMan

???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on July 09, 2013, 10:09:30 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 09, 2013, 05:41:40 PM

(http://i1256.photobucket.com/albums/ii488/flannelboy82/proofers.jpg)

(http://okayface.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/08/OKay-Face-Facebook-Code.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 10, 2013, 01:09:36 AM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on July 09, 2013, 09:00:36 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on July 09, 2013, 08:50:46 PM
Quote from: macuser3of5 on July 09, 2013, 06:04:21 PM
Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on July 09, 2013, 02:24:31 AM
Those people are secretly doing you a favor. They and anyone who takes their side is someone you should just cut out of your life ASAP. Drama whores aren't worth keeping around.
seriously. I somehow managed to avoid these types through 80% of my college life, and then in my senior year a couple friends got mixed into a crowd that did nothing but constantly backstab and gossip about each other. So fucking annoying to be around, I don't know how people put up with it or do it themselves. I don't have time for that shit. Even worse when you see grown-ass adults with kids/family doing it too.

I'm in college and 99% of my group is sane and unlike that. I say 99% cause there's the 1% former New Jersey cop rich ass spoiled brat who CONTINUOUSLY pulls all sorts of crap to alienate everyone around him but then wins them back by buying us stuff. I seem to be the only one who gives him shit for being an asshole cause everyone else is either too nice or is scared cause he's a "violent" drunk. He's just a harmless stupid brat who's all bark and gossip but is too afraid to actually do anything really dangerous, he just ruins what should be hang outs cause he's an emotional bitch. He asked to room with him when I didn't have a place to go and I outright said "Nope, you're an awful drunk and annoying to be around most of the time". All he did was bitch about me for a month then come back and buy me cases of beer to hang out with him again.

Really don't understan how you can be a grown up and still act like that. Too many of us have our own shit to deal with to have to deal with yours during times where we want to chill.

This is such an important point. A lot of selfish egotistical people will think their issues allow them to act out or get ridiculously drunk when most people are dealing with some heavy shit. Part of growing up is realizing everyone has to deal with some fucked up stuff and ruining what should be a fun time for all makes you an asshole.

Yup. I want to get one of those "you must be THIS TALL to ride" signs from an amusement park and change it to "your bullshit can't be any higher than THIS to ride" and put it in my house.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 10, 2013, 08:01:04 PM

Well, I am shocked to report that my date for tonight is still on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 10, 2013, 10:34:41 PM

The only thing worse than a canceled date is an uncanceled one with someone who doesn't eat meat, dairy, eggs, carbs, or any sugar; doesn't drink; doesn't do drugs; doesn't watch sports, television, or movies.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 10, 2013, 10:37:06 PM

Well, you guys can talk about porn I guess

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 10, 2013, 11:04:59 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 10, 2013, 10:34:41 PM

The only thing worse than a canceled date is an uncanceled one with someone who doesn't eat meat, dairy, eggs, carbs, or any sugar; doesn't drink; doesn't do drugs; doesn't watch sports, television, or movies.

Shouldn't you be excited about finding someone as boring as you?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on July 10, 2013, 11:09:16 PM

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 10, 2013, 11:10:56 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/E8v3w3J.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 10, 2013, 11:22:46 PM

But I do all the things listed except drugs. ???

edit: and I guess carbs most days of the week.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 10, 2013, 11:23:23 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 10, 2013, 10:34:41 PM

The only thing worse than a canceled date is an uncanceled one with someone who doesn't eat meat, dairy, eggs, carbs, or any sugar; doesn't drink; doesn't do drugs; doesn't watch sports, television, or movies.

Is she in a cult?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 10, 2013, 11:23:54 PM

I didn't ask and she wasn't recruiting.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 11, 2013, 04:23:09 PM

"I guess I should warn you - I'm the only person in the world who doesn't like Arrested Development."

Why don't they ever tell me these things before the dates are made.

Right, an 18 year-old canceled for Friday, so instead I'm going out with a 35 year-old who doesn't like AD.

(http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m84b5txkNh1r76lino1_250.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: hampster on July 11, 2013, 04:25:23 PM

I also hate people who use the phrase "I'm the only person who..." or "Am I the only one who..."

The worst :yuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 11, 2013, 04:26:26 PM

In her defense, I think she is literally the only person who has watched a lot of AD who doesn't like it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 13, 2013, 12:52:26 AM

IGN review of my date:
+scientist
+Mandark-level IQ
+Drinky-level wit
+handles her booze better than a male Slav
+natural redhead (yes another one)
+encyclopedic knowledge of 90s music
(too drunk for parallelism)
– Controls can frustrate
– Over four years older than I
- Will probably use the word spark in the future.

8.9

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 13, 2013, 12:58:09 AM

+she kissed me to end the date.
-I have no penis.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 13, 2013, 01:06:44 AM

I don't mind being the dumb one in a relationship, but what exactly would I bring to table. Exactly! I don't expect a second date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 13, 2013, 01:07:35 AM

How the hell does a slender white chick drink that much and not appear the least bit inebriated. :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 13, 2013, 01:10:16 AM

Sounds like it went well. Grats bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 13, 2013, 01:14:23 AM

It was probably the best non-Fit Girl date I've been on since I started dating again three months ago.

She's basically a female batman.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 13, 2013, 01:15:51 AM

If she doesn't like AD...what does she like? ???

Not sure I've met any serious people of note who dislike AD

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 13, 2013, 01:20:31 AM

She likes the Simpsons, Always Sunny, Peep Show, the British Office

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 13, 2013, 02:22:22 AM

She should get a prenup.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 13, 2013, 06:13:41 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 13, 2013, 01:20:31 AM

She likes the Simpsons, Always Sunny, Peep Show, the British Office

Don't fuck this up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 13, 2013, 12:47:59 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 13, 2013, 01:20:31 AM

She likes the Simpsons, Always Sunny, Peep Show, the British Office

You sure it wasn't MAF wearing Atramental's wig?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on July 13, 2013, 04:07:47 PM

Start taking anti-depressants to lower your sex drive. Don't ask questions. Just do it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 13, 2013, 11:43:35 PM

Off for a date with an 18-year-old. :obama

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 14, 2013, 02:33:27 AM

tl;dr

The 18-year-old is hot as fuck and, as it turns out, has a huge ass.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

second base :PP

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 14, 2013, 03:05:37 AM

I wasn't being literal when I said "+Mandark-level IQ." But she is Bruce Fucking Wayne.

But dat ass.

If I date the two of 'em, I'm basically dating someone my own age.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 14, 2013, 03:10:42 AM

Her entire family lives here and she travels all the time because of her job anyway.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Momo on July 14, 2013, 03:36:08 AM

one of those moments i realized my internet trail may lead to this post and it will get me into kaka

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Momo on July 14, 2013, 03:42:44 AM

She was acting a tad out there though, she took my hand put it on her tit and asked me to feel her heartbeat, also she leaned into me, stuck her boobs on my chest and licked my chin because "she wanted to know what I taste like" and then when we sat back down she was stroking my inner thigh all the time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Momo on July 14, 2013, 03:55:37 AM

Nah, I'm not hard up for dates/relations. She's very attractive but there is no overwhelming attraction from my side.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on July 15, 2013, 08:25:39 AM

Stone cold.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 15, 2013, 10:21:33 AM

I don't care if I'm looking for relationships/ass or not. She's throwing it at you and if she's not ugly then why the fuck not? But I guess I'm just a perv.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 15, 2013, 12:29:38 PM

Is she black? South African muthafucka :pacspit

Get your dick wet dude, jesus. She's throwing it at you. It's not like you have to marry her afterwards.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 15, 2013, 06:02:02 PM

Scientist Girl hasn't responded to my message, so that's that. :-\

Teenage Girl is angry me, so that's probably that. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 15, 2013, 06:28:41 PM

18 year-old. :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 15, 2013, 06:45:56 PM

Sorry, Malek. You just don't have that spark I'm looking for.

(http://i.minus.com/iUD2oC4FTTn4E.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 15, 2013, 07:04:20 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on July 15, 2013, 06:34:19 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 15, 2013, 06:02:02 PM
Scientist Girl hasn't responded to my message, so that's that. :-\

Teenage Girl is angry me, so that's probably that. :-\

Or maybe it's that.

I don't know where it's at.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 15, 2013, 08:58:39 PM

I was able to find it, just not with the body part I wanted.

And Scientist Girl, despite her thorough knowledge of electricity, didn't find the spark (but she didn't use the word spark). These rejections still hurt, and they hurt a lot.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 15, 2013, 09:00:47 PM

(http://media.tumblr.com/6ca7b327749ab5ea70a1ab83e5926605/tumblr_inline_mn9syn4tCh1qz4rgp.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 15, 2013, 09:21:22 PM

I think I figured it out:

(http://i.imgur.com/qxvg7Jn.png)
(http://i.imgur.com/bL1f6LU.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 15, 2013, 09:27:39 PM

Oh fucking god. This is . . . oh my fucking god.

The redheaded girl canceled my date and then ignored me because she is friends with a friend of Fit Girl. I fucking. Oh god.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 15, 2013, 09:29:48 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 15, 2013, 09:27:39 PM

Oh fucking god. This is . . . oh my fucking god.

The redheaded girl canceled my date and then ignored me because she is friends with a friend of Fit Girl. I fucking. Oh god.

No offense but you must be really poisoning the well to cause that kind of shit. What exactly are you saying to these girls?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 15, 2013, 09:46:37 PM

I wrote Fit Girl a couple of letters asking her to reconsider. Admittedly, they were pathetic, but they were not threatening, or insulting, or anything like that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on July 15, 2013, 09:49:48 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GtkST5-ZFHw

Malek, I'm posting this 50% ironically but also 100% sincerely.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on July 15, 2013, 09:53:32 PM

Exo, you're just all sorts of feisty tonight. You keep this up, and PRISM's gonna put you on the no-marathons list.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on July 15, 2013, 09:56:55 PM

Have you not heard about the giant shitstorm?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/PRISM_(surveillance_program)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 15, 2013, 09:59:10 PM

And, Mandark, it's 100% my fault, but 50% effexor's fault.

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on July 15, 2013, 09:50:32 PM

fit girl probably told her to cancel.

You don't say?

I really should stop trying to date. I'm extremely lonely and needy, and women can tell. And the women who can't will just be told by Fit Girl. Jesus.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 15, 2013, 10:00:11 PM

~~I'm really curious to hear if you've heard of Snowden.~~

edit: I really, really, really need to refresh before I post...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 15, 2013, 10:13:17 PM

Never write girls letters. They always come off passive aggressive and whiny even if YOU think they don't.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 15, 2013, 10:53:23 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on July 15, 2013, 10:13:17 PM

Never write girls letters. They always come off passive aggressive and whiny even if YOU think they don't.

Lesson learned. And there was nothing passive-agg--

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 15, 2013, 10:48:50 PM

So Female Mandark wrote back, and that's a definite no? What about 18 year old? Is she a definite no as well?

Now this is passive aggressive.

Female Mandark said she doesn't think we "would work that well," which is code for "you're a horrible human being, please die in a fire."

The teen is ignoring me after I refused to skype late last night. ::)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 15, 2013, 11:00:47 PM

It was 2:00 am and I barely slept the night and I jogged six k. BLAHsalkgsdf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on July 15, 2013, 11:10:16 PM

send her some dick pics. can you achieve erection these days?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on July 15, 2013, 11:13:00 PM

Earlier in the thread I saw Malek described a girl as having "Mandark's IQ" and it was pretty flattering, honestly.

I'm not so crazy about the direction it's taken since then.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 15, 2013, 11:13:37 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 15, 2013, 10:53:23 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on July 15, 2013, 10:13:17 PM
Never write girls letters. They always come off passive aggressive and whiny even if YOU think they don't.
Lesson learned. And there was nothing passive-agg--

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 15, 2013, 10:48:50 PM
So Female Mandark wrote back, and that's a definite no? What about 18 year old? Is she a definite no as well?
Now this is passive aggressive.

Female Mandark said she doesn't think we "would work that well," which is code for "you're a horrible human being, please die in a fire."

The teen is ignoring me after I refused to skype late last night. ::)

You fucked that up. It's on you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on July 15, 2013, 11:16:15 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 15, 2013, 10:53:23 PM

Now this is passive aggressive.

Female Mandark said she doesn't think we "would work that well," which is code for "you're a horrible human being, please die in a fire."

The teen is ignoring me after I refused to skype late last night. ::)

I object vehemently to the bolded.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 15, 2013, 11:21:09 PM

The female Mandark wouldn't date a gentile in the first place, lest she be consumed by esh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 15, 2013, 11:40:03 PM

Demi, nuke my account.

Thanks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on July 15, 2013, 11:49:14 PM

dont do it demi

make malek immortal

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 16, 2013, 12:09:27 AM

Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on July 15, 2013, 11:50:16 PM

winnipeg's a small, small place. found that one out m'self.

Small and cold.

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 16, 2013, 12:03:52 AM

How smart could this girl be if she didn't want to date you, Malek?

harhar

That said, maybe I should date dumber women. Not including the teenager, the least educated woman I went on a date with spent three years at university.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Momo on July 16, 2013, 12:14:00 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on July 15, 2013, 10:21:33 AM

I don't care if I'm looking for relationships/ass or not. She's throwing it at you and if she's not ugly then why the fuck not? But I guess I'm just a perv.

Nah, that's not being a perv thats pretty normal. The situation was too weird.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 15, 2013, 12:29:38 PM

Is she black? South African muthafucka :pacspit

Get your dick wet dude, jesus. She's throwing it at you. It's not like you have to marry her afterwards.

She's coloured (think latina or google cape coloured). I've known this chick for years and nothing has ever happened till then, moment is past :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 16, 2013, 12:25:18 AM

Malek do you like yourself, like at all? I'm not trying to be mean but some guys give off mopey ass vibes that people just don't want to continue to humor.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 16, 2013, 01:15:23 AM

I must like myself a little; I haven't killed myself yet.

I don't mope on dates!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Michael Moaner on July 16, 2013, 04:13:28 AM

Could use some relationship (maybe even sex?) advice. Not entirely sure if I'm overreacting or what.

Backstory: Been dating this girl for a month now. Everything has been great - we probably spend way too much time together (4-5 times a week). Anyway, as far as sex goes - she's really shy/inexperienced. Only been with one other guy (her ex-husband, she's 24). Furthermore, she's asked me to take things really slow with her. Doesn't want to have sex anytime soon. Despite us having fairly open conversations about our tastes and habits etc.

Flash forward to tonight. We make out in bed for awhile. She's wearing nothing but her bra and panties. Bra comes off - I'm rubbing her through her panties. Things of that nature. That's about as far as it goes, though. In the car ride home - I playfully asked her if she had fun. Truthfully, I was trying to gauge whether or not it pushed her away.

So here's the main issue I'm having. At some point, I specifically asked her if she felt like I was satisfying her. I mean, hell - I'm pretty inexperienced as well, so I was also genuinely curious. Anyhow, she replied "if you have to ask and can't read my body language, then we have a problem". Which really took me back. Mainly because she said it in a really crass/cold tone. Now, I realize that taken literally - that could likely be a compliment. However, when I asked her to clarify, she wouldn't, and proceeded to ultimately say goodnight and just head to sleep. Which I thought was kind of fucked up. Who knows, maybe she's embarrassed? Am I overreacting bore?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 16, 2013, 04:17:12 AM

"if you have to ask and can't read my body language, then we have a problem"

Fuck her.

Not literally.

People like this are douchebags.

You don't really know her sexually well enough to make calls on what she's really into. People who refuse to openly tell you have some shit they need to work out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on July 16, 2013, 04:27:29 AM

Quote from: Michael Moaner on July 16, 2013, 04:13:28 AM

Which I thought was kind of fucked up. Who knows, maybe she's embarrassed? Am I overreacting bore?

Nah, you're right. Even if it's coming from her hangups about sex, it was fucked up on her part. Wouldn't write her off as quick as Cowbell's saying. Bring it up honestly but non-judgmentally and try to make her understand why you're concerned, that you want in general to have good communication, that you understand it could be awkward for her but that it's important, etc.

People will sometimes act shitty. If you let her know it bothers you and she refuses to make an effort, then you've got serious problems.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Michael Moaner on July 16, 2013, 04:28:00 AM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on July 16, 2013, 04:17:12 AM

"if you have to ask and can't read my body language, then we have a problem"

Fuck her.

Not literally.

People like this are douchebags.

You don't really know her sexually well enough to make calls on what she's really into. People who refuse to openly tell you have some shit they need to work out.

Quote from: Mandark on July 16, 2013, 04:27:29 AM

Nah, you're right. Even if it's coming from her hangups about sex, it was fucked up on her part. Wouldn't write her off as quick as Cowbell's saying. Bring it up honestly but non-judgmentally and try to make her understand why you're concerned, that you want in general to have good communication, that you understand it could be awkward for her but that it's important, etc.

People will sometimes act shitty. If you let her know it bothers you and she refuses to make an effort, then you've got serious problems.

Thanks, that was kind of my line of thinking as well. I mean, I really don't know her sexually at all. Furthermore, she seems to have a lot of baggage/issues with any intimacy. Therefore, I had assumed that by opening up a bit of dialogue, it would be easier for the both of us. However, all it seemed to do was piss her off and upset me in the process.

The tipping point, however, was the end of this entire conversation. Because a few minutes after making that comment - her phone lost signal. After which, she called me back and said nothing except for a very brief/rushed goodnight. Mind you, 20 minutes earlier in the car she said she wasn't tired at all, and I'm clearly bothered and upset at this point. It's as if she didn't even care at all. Ugh, feels bad man :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 16, 2013, 04:40:34 AM

Best sex is when you know how the girl likes it :pimp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 16, 2013, 04:40:34 AM

Quote from: Michael Moaner on July 16, 2013, 04:28:00 AM

Thanks, that was kind of my line of thinking as well. I mean, I really don't know her sexually at all. Furthermore, she seems to have a lot of baggage/issues with any intimacy. Therefore, I had assumed that by opening up a bit of dialogue, it would be easier for the both of us. However, all it seemed to do was piss her off and upset me in the process.

The tipping point, however, was the end of this entire conversation. Because a few minutes after making that comment - her phone lost signal. After which, she called me back and said nothing except for a very brief/rushed goodnight. Mind you, 20 minutes earlier in the car she said she wasn't tired at all, and I'm clearly bothered and upset at this point. It's as if she didn't even care at all. Ugh, feels bad man :-\

If you really like her make sure she realizes the whole point of asking is because

a) she's inexperienced and not verbally communicating much
b) YOU WANT TO PLEASURE HER

Emphasize the fuck out of (b), if she continues being an ass I wouldn't waste my effort unless she was really cool otherwise.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Momo on July 16, 2013, 05:36:58 AM

Quote from: Premium Lager on July 16, 2013, 04:40:34 AM

Best sex is when you know how the girl likes it :pimp

This is so wrong you considerate fuck, [best sex]* is to get your own personal maximum pleasure out of it, roll over eat a peanut butter sammich, grab a smoke then catch a power nap.

Please dont try this in a relationship setting*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 16, 2013, 05:42:40 AM

A girl who is enjoying herself and knows how to fuck will do kegels on your dick. Ever felt that? Try getting that shit from a corpse.

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Post by: Shadow Mod on July 16, 2013, 05:45:24 AM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on July 16, 2013, 05:44:24 AM

It's only ever fun for me if the girl is really into it. A girl just laying there doing nothing is basically me masturbating using a human being.

lmao. Dead fish syndrome. I couldn't do that. Plus I dunno how they are capable of it. I usually have to direct traffic in some way so I get off and it's not uncomfortable.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: The Sceneman on July 16, 2013, 06:08:23 AM

Myself the girl I met on OKC have been going steady for like 3 months now. I taught her how to play Magic, which is pretty sweet

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 16, 2013, 10:27:46 AM

ugh. The "sex psychic theory" is fucking horrible. "I shouldn't have to tell you" Bullshit. Know why I enjoy your blowjobs? Because I tell you when you're doing something wrong. Give me the same courtesy please. You were a toothy bitch when I met you.

I really don't miss dating :p

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on July 16, 2013, 11:28:47 AM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on July 16, 2013, 05:46:38 AM

A girl who wants the D is the girl you want to please.

Too real.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 16, 2013, 01:40:01 PM

Share your moves, Awesome-O

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Post by: hampster on July 16, 2013, 03:21:15 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 16, 2013, 01:49:30 PM

I put all my points into dexterity.

GF uses "I'm tired"

It's Super Effective :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 16, 2013, 03:32:47 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 16, 2013, 01:49:30 PM

I put all my points into dexterity.

Min-maxed DEX only? Eh. You need CON too for that endurance and at least enough STR to shift her around easily. :larry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 16, 2013, 05:35:51 PM

The girl whose mom wanted her to set up a date with me came in today. Talked a bit to her when she first came in, and then later..

her: my mom said you wanted to go out with me lol
me: :beli

I laughed it off and told her that wasn't true, and that her mom seemed rather eager to play match maker. She was like "so you don't want to go out..?" and I said well sure, I'd love to.

Got her number :obama

but still SMH @ her mom

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 16, 2013, 05:54:28 PM

You like the mom right? Just use this as a chance to get closer to her. Or is she married?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 16, 2013, 05:57:39 PM

Yup she's married. Would it be weird to invite them both to see Pacific Rim?

:shaq

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 16, 2013, 05:59:10 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 16, 2013, 05:57:39 PM

Yup she's married. Would it be weird to invite them both to see Pacific Rim?

:shaq

Yes but who cares they like you. Also married is kind of a bummer but the older I get the more I realize a bunch of people are married but not exclusive.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 16, 2013, 06:00:27 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on July 16, 2013, 05:59:10 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 16, 2013, 05:57:39 PM
Yup she's married. Would it be weird to invite them both to see Pacific Rim?

:shaq

Yes but who cares they like you. Also married is kind of a bummer but the older I get the more I realize a bunch of people are married but not exclusive.

hotwifing and swinging are bigger than ever

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on July 16, 2013, 07:09:40 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on July 16, 2013, 05:42:40 AM

A girl who is enjoying herself and knows how to fuck will do kegels on your dick. Ever felt that? Try getting that shit from a corpse.

I'm much more interested in getting my wife off than myself.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 16, 2013, 07:10:07 PM

Nah. Not interested in that kinda threesome. MMF is hotter

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 16, 2013, 07:13:13 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on July 16, 2013, 07:09:40 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on July 16, 2013, 05:42:40 AM
A girl who is enjoying herself and knows how to fuck will do kegels on your dick. Ever felt that? Try getting that shit from a corpse.

I'm much more interested in getting my wife off than myself.

Kegels feel good for both people ???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 18, 2013, 09:51:11 PM

One thing I've noticed is that when you haven't had sex in a while (maybe it's just me, but I think this probably applies to most men), girls start looking more and more attractive when you're drinking...which is scary.

I don't want to stop drinking with my friends and having a good time, but I feel it's kind of distracting right now. Trying to fight the urge to hit up a bar and hook up. I'm not dating right now, been trying to get some rest after all the drama in my life happened a month ago. Wanted a few months with no drama and just finding and doing things I love; self-improvement, before getting back into the dating scene more confident and interested in newer hobbies. But when I have a beer or two or three I really start to feel like getting back into the dating scene. It's tough. I hate how men have this physiological drive to sleep with women and you're always having to fight that when it's been a while. Especially if you are a beer connoisseur and like to drink once a week with friends to the point of being buzzed and that drive starts pushing at you when there's cool girls all around >:(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on July 18, 2013, 11:08:01 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on July 18, 2013, 09:51:11 PM

One thing I've noticed is that when you haven't had sex in a while (maybe it's just me, but I think this probably applies to most men), girls start looking more and more attractive when you're drinking...which is scary.

BREAKING

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 18, 2013, 11:18:05 PM

Bepbo it's like you're purposely deciding to play the dating game on hardcore mode.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 18, 2013, 11:57:46 PM

(http://imageshack.us/a/img541/4789/owj7.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on July 19, 2013, 12:17:42 AM

PD: :clap

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on July 19, 2013, 12:19:04 AM

lock the thread.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 19, 2013, 12:20:49 AM

Flawless victory, PD. Flawless victory.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 19, 2013, 12:23:30 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 18, 2013, 11:57:46 PM

(http://imageshack.us/a/img541/4789/owj7.png)

Hmm, the pic isn't loading for me...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on July 19, 2013, 12:59:02 AM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-q1YWvePsVI

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 19, 2013, 01:11:08 AM

(http://i.imgur.com/8MmOoey.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on July 19, 2013, 04:32:08 AM

PD:
(http://i.imgur.com/Ifd6v.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 19, 2013, 04:42:46 AM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o x2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on July 19, 2013, 04:49:34 AM

(http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-Z5M9MwlPDg0/T5TXuUKKPyI/AAAAAAAADm0/-jxnjMsKfhc/s1600/adam-samberg-sex-cake-i-just-had-sex-video-the-lonely-island.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 19, 2013, 09:03:40 AM

I remember when Bebpo got drunk once then posted he turned a girl down while drunk, then when he sobered up he realized it was a mistake.

Good to see he is coming around. Wish I could find that post.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 19, 2013, 09:39:07 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 19, 2013, 04:42:46 AM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o x2

With 18 year old girl or who?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 19, 2013, 12:24:20 PM

spoiler (click to show/hide)

The 18 year-old.
:shaq

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 19, 2013, 12:46:40 PM

ICON MALEK
BAN FLANNEL BOY
SOMEONE HAND 18 YR OLD GIRL A TOWEL TO CLEAN UP

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 19, 2013, 05:25:55 PM

Congrats Malek!

:tauntaun

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pilonv1 on July 20, 2013, 08:23:03 AM

I got engaged today :interracial

Had a shit of a week at work (about 15mins from quitting) so it's been great to have something awesome happen

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on July 20, 2013, 12:24:28 PM

*:likes: instead of actually posting congrats*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 20, 2013, 01:08:43 PM

Why are people surprised that Malek got laid?

Polacks on this forum have a 100% laid to non laid ratio.

:usacry :auscry :swisscry :gbcry :cancry :chinacry :japancry :ussrcry

:umad

Quote from: pilonv1 on July 20, 2013, 08:23:03 AM

I got engaged today :interracial

Had a shit of a week at work (about 15mins from quitting) so it's been great to have something awesome happen

Awesome dude, congrats!!!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 20, 2013, 02:46:54 PM

Quote from: pilonv1 on July 20, 2013, 08:23:03 AM

I got engaged today :interracial

Had a shit of a week at work (about 15mins from quitting) so it's been great to have something awesome happen

Awesome!!!

Congratulations :D

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pilonv1 on July 21, 2013, 01:09:33 AM

As far from Bebpo as possible (sorry Bebpo). We've been together for 5 years so I knew she'd say yes. I'd had the ring for months and was waiting for "the right time", but then after having a shitty week at work I realised that any time was the right time and if I kept waiting I'd never find "the right time". So it was almost spontaneous.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on July 21, 2013, 10:05:20 AM

Quote from: pilonv1 on July 21, 2013, 01:09:33 AM

As far from Bebpo as possible (sorry Bebpo). We've been together for 5 years so I knew she'd say yes. I'd had the ring for months and was waiting for "the right time", but then after having a shitty week at work I realised that any time was the right time and if I kept waiting I'd never find "the right time". So it was almost spontaneous.

I don't understand why people go to all these distinguished mentally-challenged lengths. It seems more romantic if it's just there and it's honest.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on July 21, 2013, 10:07:45 AM

I guess what I mean is, do you really need anything else?

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Post by: Mupepe on July 21, 2013, 11:32:02 AM

I proposed while eating wing stop and watching tv

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Post by: Barry Egan on July 21, 2013, 11:41:18 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on July 21, 2013, 11:32:02 AM

I proposed while eating wing stop and watching tv

take notes Bebpo: a glimpse in to easy mode.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 21, 2013, 01:09:21 PM

I proposed numerous times while a bit tipsy :-[

Then decided we should pick a ring and we did, then when we got it i proposed one more time :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on July 22, 2013, 12:24:35 PM

So I just went into one of my flatmate's rooms to reset the router and her diary was lying open beside it. I couldn't help but sneak a glance at the page and it was confessing her love for me. Oops.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 22, 2013, 12:32:22 PM

:lol

Have fun second guessing everything she says from now on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 22, 2013, 12:33:10 PM

pics of flatmate please

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on July 22, 2013, 12:51:09 PM

I'm moving out in two months thankfully. It's a pain though as she's the only one here I think is cool and actually get along with.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 22, 2013, 12:52:36 PM

oh poor you. someone wants to hump you. let her slob on your knob, bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on July 22, 2013, 12:53:59 PM

Oh I already did. That was a few months ago though. I'm currently 2 for 3 with my flatmates.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on July 22, 2013, 12:54:36 PM

And yeah, I do need to get out of the house more.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 22, 2013, 01:44:41 PM

Quote from: Polari on July 22, 2013, 12:53:59 PM

Oh I already did. That was a few months ago though. I'm currently 2 for 3 with my flatmates.

Sounds like a good flatmate to me! I couldn't live with someone I wasn't humping again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on July 22, 2013, 01:51:37 PM

Nah the other one's fat.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on July 22, 2013, 02:36:30 PM

Quote from: Polari on July 22, 2013, 01:51:37 PM

Nah the other one's fat.

And..? She probably rides it better than #1 and 2. Time to enjoy life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 22, 2013, 03:12:46 PM

Quote from: Polari on July 22, 2013, 12:53:59 PM

Oh I already did. That was a few months ago though. I'm currently 2 for 3 with my flatmates.

Was the filthy one one of them?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on July 22, 2013, 03:36:52 PM

Quote from: Rufus on July 22, 2013, 03:12:46 PM

Quote from: Polari on July 22, 2013, 12:53:59 PM
Oh I already did. That was a few months ago though. I'm currently 2 for 3 with my flatmates.
Was the filthy one one of them?

Yeah. :( She is a model/actress though so she's pretty fit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 22, 2013, 04:31:35 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 22, 2013, 12:46:31 PM

Speaking of easy mode, I've always wondered what it would be like to look like young Brad Pitt for a day. Not with the celebrity recognition, but just to be as good looking as him. That would probably be true Easy Mode (but without the outright hacks that would come from being a movie star or music star). I've always wondered what that feels like. I could probably say any old bullshit and have it get a great response.

I knew a guy like that in college. He was about 6'4'', built, and basically looked like a mythical Greek hero. He didn't even have to do anything to get girls. He could literally sit in a corner, and girls would come up to him.

In that case it would probably be impossible to do small talk/bullshit with a girl, you'd only want to make moves when you have a real interest unless you are somewhere high on the sociopathy spectrum.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 22, 2013, 07:23:51 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on July 22, 2013, 04:31:35 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 22, 2013, 12:46:31 PM
Speaking of easy mode, I've always wondered what it would be like to look like young Brad Pitt for a day. Not with the celebrity recognition, but just to be as good looking as him. That would probably be true Easy Mode (but without the outright hacks that would come from being a movie star or music star). I've always wondered what that feels like. I could probably say any old bullshit and have it get a great response.

I knew a guy like that in college. He was about 6'4'', built, and basically looked like a mythical Greek hero. He didn't even have to do anything to get girls. He could literally sit in a corner, and girls would come up to him.

In that case it would probably be impossible to do small talk/bullshit with a girl, you'd only want to make moves when you have a real interest unless you are somewhere high on the sociopathy spectrum.

there's so much wrong with this post. I'm not even sure where to begin

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 22, 2013, 09:15:02 PM

If you take an am nintenho post seriously, it's your own fault.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 22, 2013, 09:28:54 PM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 23, 2013, 12:03:11 PM

Well how do you hit on girls in a way that they won't get jealous that you got five other phone numbers right before them?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 23, 2013, 12:09:55 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on July 23, 2013, 12:03:11 PM

Well how do you hit on girls in a way that they won't get jealous that you got five other phone numbers right before them?

How does this make the guy a sociopath? You're projecting that good looking guys are either sociopaths for going after poon or tortured by their own good looks. This isn't even getting into the "impossible to small talk" shit. You're also implying that women are just uncontrollable sopping wet pussies that can't contain themselves if a good looking man asks how their day is going. Not everyone who talks to a good looking person starts to imagine what their life would be like with them.

Fuck. Why am I getting into this with you? I think you're trolling.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 23, 2013, 01:42:59 PM

If you're attracted to someone and making small talk with them then the general reason is because you want to bang them but want to get to know them more first. If you believe that the majority of girls view you as a possibility then I don't see how that would be a very fun life to live.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 23, 2013, 02:11:57 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on July 23, 2013, 01:42:59 PM

If you're attracted to someone and making small talk with them then the general reason is because you want to bang them but want to get to know them more first. If you believe that the majority of girls view you as a possibility then I don't see how that would be a very fun life to live.

Being able to find someone attractive and wanting to bang them are not mutually exclusive. I have plenty of friends that I recognize as attractive but I don't want to sleep with them. Not being able to distinguish the two is... extremely dysfunctional to say the least. I don't see why knowing that a large amount of people find you attractive would inhibit your social life. You're not doing anything wrong and the majority of well adjusted people aren't going to be creaming their pants just because you give them a bit of attention. Your description just reads like some fantasy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 23, 2013, 02:16:59 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 23, 2013, 01:48:14 PM

So I have a date for tomorrow, but one of my friends is setting me up on a date with her friend. These things are happening in the wrong order. The date with the friend of a friend should come first, since the likelihood of success is higher. Now if tomorrow's date goes really well, I'm gonna look awkward with the friend.

I've never been about having overlapping second or third dates with multiple people. I don't play real life like Persona. If I go on a successful date, I don't really want to see anyone else until it becomes clear that things won't work out with the first girl. Maybe I should change that mindset, but it seems kind of fucked up. Earlier this year, I went on a date with an okc chick who told me straight up that she had four or five other dates lined up over the next week. And then that weekend, she texted to basically say "I had a better connection with one of the other guys, good luck!" That shit sucked a lot, and I'd prefer not to do that to anyone else.

I think you should change this mindset as well. You don't owe anyone anything based on one date and all you're doing is possibly spoiling other opportunities. It makes no sense. This is the whole idea of dating. Getting out there and meeting new people and experiencing new things. Plus, few if any people are going to give you this same courtesy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 23, 2013, 04:35:35 PM

Part of growing up is going "sure that person is hot but I'm not interested in them sexually." People who never reach this plane scare me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on July 23, 2013, 05:08:07 PM

I don't want to read this shit anymore. Where is Malek?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 23, 2013, 05:25:57 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 23, 2013, 05:18:44 PM

He's off banging an 18 year old bombshell.

Truly, there is no justice in this world.

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...because he's beating me by 3 years

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 23, 2013, 06:12:44 PM

:holeup I ain't fistful up in hurr, breh. Other direction. Besides, I'm in NC.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on July 23, 2013, 06:19:18 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on July 23, 2013, 04:35:35 PM

Part of growing up is going "sure that person is hot but I'm not interested in them sexually." People who never reach this plane scare me.

now that i'm older i'm only sexually interesting in ugly people. its weird

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 24, 2013, 12:40:51 AM

Quote from: Robo on July 23, 2013, 05:08:07 PM

I don't want to read this shit anymore. Where is Malek?

I'm too busy dealing with this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJOYRS6CCaM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on July 24, 2013, 12:42:01 AM

#Envelopedinwomanfleshproblems

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 24, 2013, 12:44:03 AM

having never seen an episode of The Simpsons, I must reach for another frame of reference
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YZe0r1rHg4Y

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on July 24, 2013, 07:31:26 PM

I thought drohne was back. Fuck this gay earth.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 24, 2013, 07:58:07 PM

Going on a date on Saturday, with the girl from work. Dunno exactly what we're going to do yet, I'll come up with something. I know she wants to go out to eat though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 24, 2013, 08:15:04 PM

Massively overthinking it in my opinion. Ask her out for some pizza. Who doesn't like pizza.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on July 24, 2013, 08:22:57 PM

Pizza is for children.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 24, 2013, 08:28:32 PM

Quote from: Robo on July 24, 2013, 08:22:57 PM

Pizza is for children.

You shut the fuck up. :ufup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on July 24, 2013, 08:31:58 PM

neg her. "star wars is for fat cunts. i hope you're not a fat cunt."

hey, what's internet advice worth, anyway?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 24, 2013, 08:40:01 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 24, 2013, 08:27:54 PM

IM conversation:

Quote
Me: I'm really not sure about opening with a Star Wars quote
this goes against everything I've learned in life about talking to women

Her: TRUST ME. Do it. If you don't, then you've learned nothing about women. Also, who told you that? Because I need to slap them. You have to read the person you're communicating with. If they like something, then there you go. Obviously, if you were writing me an e-mail, you would not open with Star Wars but maybe a joke of some sort.
Talking to Girls, Lesson #1

Me: okay, sending!

Her: good

Either I'm getting trolled, or this is really going to work.

:-\

Just fucking do what comes natural. Nothing more awkward than contrived crap that you can't keep up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on July 24, 2013, 08:44:08 PM

i'd say "go with what's contextually appropriate." smile a lot, laugh, make mildly mean observations about the people around you, tell safe but amusing stories.

"what comes natural," on the other hand, could lead to hilarity, at least if this advice was supplied to one of lovelorn-gaf.

--
"Hey," said don't_call_me_leia26.

"Hey," said Kung Fu Grip. "Well, uhhhh."

"Heh heh," she said.

PANICKING HERE! thought Kung Fu Grip. WHAT DID THAT GIRL ON THE INTERNET SAY, DO WHAT COMES NATURALLY? THAT.

"I want to explore all of your orifices!" he blurted, and then stared at his feet.

He didn't look up until he heard the sound of sirens.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 24, 2013, 08:45:10 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on July 24, 2013, 08:44:08 PM

i'd say "go with what's contextually appropriate." smile a lot, laugh, make mildly mean observations about the people around you, tell safe but amusing stories.

"what comes natural," on the other hand, could lead to hilarity, at least if this advice was supplied to one of lovelorn-gaf.

This isn't GAF dude, most people here seem to have some common sense. Except momo.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on July 24, 2013, 08:48:33 PM

it'd work for me! :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on July 24, 2013, 08:49:52 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on July 24, 2013, 08:45:10 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on July 24, 2013, 08:44:08 PM
i'd say "go with what's contextually appropriate." smile a lot, laugh, make mildly mean observations about the people around you, tell safe but amusing stories.

"what comes natural," on the other hand, could lead to hilarity, at least if this advice was supplied to one of lovelorn-gaf.

This isn't GAF dude, most people here seem to have some common sense. Except momo.

And Father Mike. And Malek. And Himu. And drew. And Bebpo. And fistful. And the rest of this thread.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 24, 2013, 08:50:36 PM

For GAF it would be something like: try to control your aspergers for some time and just calm the fuck down about shit. If I said something like this though I'd get banned for real talk for months.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on July 24, 2013, 08:52:09 PM

i think that once you've asked for dating advice on the internet -- be it in rare earnestness or as a plea for validating pity -- you're in special fellow COUNTRY.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on July 24, 2013, 08:52:38 PM

although "calm the fuck down" is pretty much THE quintessential dating advice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 24, 2013, 08:55:06 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on July 24, 2013, 08:52:09 PM

i think that once you've asked for dating advice on the internet -- be it in rare earnestness or as a plea for validating pity -- you're in special fellow COUNTRY.

Especially awful when they keep posting various body language and "WHAT DOES THIS MEAN?" Dude she just scratched her elbow because it was probably itchy. Stop looking for signs and enjoy the fucking moment.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 24, 2013, 09:02:58 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on July 24, 2013, 08:49:52 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on July 24, 2013, 08:45:10 PM
Quote from: Van Cruncheon on July 24, 2013, 08:44:08 PM
i'd say "go with what's contextually appropriate." smile a lot, laugh, make mildly mean observations about the people around you, tell safe but amusing stories.

"what comes natural," on the other hand, could lead to hilarity, at least if this advice was supplied to one of lovelorn-gaf.

This isn't GAF dude, most people here seem to have some common sense. Except momo.

And Father Mike. And Malek. And Himu. And drew. And Bebpo. And fistful. And the rest of this thread.

I've been back actively dating for a couple of months now. But you'll notice I don't really ask for advice in here, unless it's of the "is it really moral to date someone 15 years your junior if she's REALLY hot and you just want to make the sexy times with her?" variety.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on July 24, 2013, 09:06:20 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 24, 2013, 09:04:30 PM

I see nothing wrong with crowdsourcing.

until it's your turn on the pool table!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 24, 2013, 09:09:01 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on July 24, 2013, 09:06:20 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 24, 2013, 09:04:30 PM
I see nothing wrong with crowdsourcing.

until it's your turn on the pool table!

We're not savages here, Van Cruncheon.

Dumpster and not pool table, plz

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 24, 2013, 09:47:39 PM

When in doubt, I just ask (not interview style) my date questions about herself. Then go from there.

It has worked well for me, mostly because I'm boring. I can't just say "I go to work, go home, read a message board, jack off, and then go to bed" without her vagine turning into the Sahara.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 24, 2013, 10:25:02 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 24, 2013, 09:02:58 PM

I've been back actively dating for a couple of months now. But you'll notice I don't really ask for advice in here, unless it's of the "is it really moral to date someone 15 years your junior if she's REALLY hot and you just want to make the sexy times with her?" variety.

Teacher's pet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 24, 2013, 10:45:26 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on July 24, 2013, 09:47:39 PM

When in doubt, I just ask (not interview style) my date questions about herself. Then go from there.

It has worked well for me, mostly because I'm boring. I can't just say "I go to work, go home, read a message board, jack off, and then go to bed" without her vagine turning into the Sahara.

Talking to your date about her life and interests is a good general policy. Gets them to open up and feel appreciated.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on July 24, 2013, 10:49:26 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 24, 2013, 10:43:53 PM

Holy shit, the girl responded to my Star Wars joke, and we have a date.

IT'S A TRAP LOL

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: hampster on July 24, 2013, 11:46:25 PM

Don't Star Wars nerds get sick of Star Wars jokes ??? You think by some point they've heard them all and/or they get sick of people assuming because they like star wars that they live and breath the shit. Thats always the vibe I got from Anthony at 1up / The Comedy Button anyway

spoiler (click to show/hide)

I know this great restaurant. Of course some of the workers are a little stiff, like the Darth Waiter 8)

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 24, 2013, 11:48:48 PM

Quote from: hampster on July 24, 2013, 11:46:25 PM

Don't Star Wars nerds get sick of Star Wars jokes ??? You think by some point they've heard them all and/or they get sick of people assuming because they like star wars that they live and breath the shit. Thats always the vibe I got from Anthony at 1up / The Comedy Button anyway

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I know this great restaurant. Of course some of the workers are a little stiff, like the Darth Waiter 8)
[close]

Because of my name, I can't go a single day without hearing some wiseass make a Star Wars joke. Yeah like I haven't heard it 15 billion times before. Needless to say, I fucking hate Star Wars.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on July 24, 2013, 11:59:49 PM

I feel you, I get to hear James Bond jokes quite a lot. (Because my nickname is Pussy Galore)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on July 25, 2013, 12:33:26 AM

ask her if she has a life in the lord jesus christ

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 25, 2013, 01:13:54 AM

Quote from: tiesto on July 24, 2013, 11:48:48 PM

Quote from: hampster on July 24, 2013, 11:46:25 PM
Don't Star Wars nerds get sick of Star Wars jokes ??? You think by some point they've heard them all and/or they get sick of people assuming because they like star wars that they live and breath the shit. Thats always the vibe I got from Anthony at 1up / The Comedy Button anyway

spoiler (click to show/hide)
I know this great restaurant. Of course some of the workers are a little stiff, like the Darth Waiter 8)
[close]

Because of my name, I can't go a single day without hearing some wiseass make a Star Wars joke. Yeah like I haven't heard it 15 billion times before. Needless to say, I fucking hate Star Wars.

Waaaaah, my name is the same as a Star Wars character

Try being named ARIAN and having a thing for Jewish girls.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 25, 2013, 02:30:21 AM

It sounds silly but I looked it up and its a welsh name meaning silver.

And what do jews like?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 25, 2013, 02:42:48 AM

Apparently not dudes with a name that sounds like ARYAN RACE

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 25, 2013, 03:53:47 AM

Oh no I got it arian

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 25, 2013, 10:08:50 AM

Shorten Arian to Ari.

Ari means lion in Hebrew.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on July 25, 2013, 10:47:53 AM

A-Arian

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: hampster on July 25, 2013, 02:14:43 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 25, 2013, 01:13:54 AM

Quote from: tiesto on July 24, 2013, 11:48:48 PM
Quote from: hampster on July 24, 2013, 11:46:25 PM
Don't Star Wars nerds get sick of Star Wars jokes ??? You think by some point they've heard them all and/or they get sick of people assuming because they like star wars that they live and breath the shit. Thats always the vibe I got from Anthony at 1up / The Comedy Button anyway

spoiler (click to show/hide)
I know this great restaurant. Of course some of the workers are a little stiff, like the Darth Waiter 8)
[close]

Because of my name, I can't go a single day without hearing some wiseass make a Star Wars joke. Yeah like I haven't heard it 15 billion times before. Needless to say, I fucking hate Star Wars.

Waaaaah, my name is the same as a Star Wars character

Try being named ARIAN and having a thing for Jewish girls.

Trying being named James. Everyone over 50 wants to call you Jim :'(

Who would pick Jim over James :yuck :yuck :yuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 25, 2013, 02:39:02 PM

My elementary school friend who was Iranian Jewish was named Arian.

???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 25, 2013, 02:47:13 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on July 25, 2013, 02:39:02 PM

My elementary school friend who was Iranian Jewish was named Arian.

???

It's actually a not too uncommon Iranian/Persian from what I've heard. I'm straight up honkey though, Irish on mom's side and Dutch-German on dad's. My name was an accident of mom slurring together "Aaron" and "Ariana" after she found out I was a boy. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 25, 2013, 02:50:37 PM

"a given name in different cultures: Aria, Aryan (both Persian or Indian names) or Arian (Albanian name)"

themoreyouknow.jpg

I knew a polish kid named Arian.

"Polish Brethren, also known as Arians" ha.

themoreyouknow.jpg 2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Youngblood on July 25, 2013, 02:52:49 PM

Speaking of terrible first names, you know what name sucks? Randy. You know what makes it even worse? Knowing that you were named that because your parents loved the country group Alabama (Randy Owen).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 25, 2013, 02:56:39 PM

You could always explain the connection to Arius/Arianism, which makes more sense than Aryan/Aryanism.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 25, 2013, 02:56:57 PM

Fuck all y'all. I have gender neutral name with several different spellings. :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on July 25, 2013, 03:02:51 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 25, 2013, 01:13:54 AM

Waaaaah, my name is the same as a Star Wars character

Try being named ARIAN and having a thing for Jewish girls.

Plus you're a misanthrope who keeps trying to date humans. The irony of it!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on July 25, 2013, 03:19:26 PM

I have a friend named Alaakkilli. Everyone calls her AK. Even her father, who I assume came up with this shit, hardly ever uses her proper name. It's hilarious.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 25, 2013, 03:50:53 PM

Quote from: Mandark on July 25, 2013, 03:02:51 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 25, 2013, 01:13:54 AM
Waaaaah, my name is the same as a Star Wars character

Try being named ARIAN and having a thing for Jewish girls.

Plus you're a misanthrope who keeps trying to date humans. The irony of it!

Human women should quit being so hot and I'd leave them alone!

(actually more interested in sappy companionship crap as I get older oh god what have i become)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on July 25, 2013, 04:38:54 PM

Quote from: hampster on July 25, 2013, 02:14:43 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 25, 2013, 01:13:54 AM
Quote from: tiesto on July 24, 2013, 11:48:48 PM
Quote from: hampster on July 24, 2013, 11:46:25 PM
Don't Star Wars nerds get sick of Star Wars jokes ??? You think by some point they've heard them all and/or they get sick of people assuming because they like star wars that they live and breath the shit. Thats always the vibe I got from Anthony at 1up / The Comedy Button anyway

spoiler (click to show/hide)
I know this great restaurant. Of course some of the workers are a little stiff, like the Darth Waiter 8)
[close]

Because of my name, I can't go a single day without hearing some wiseass make a Star Wars joke. Yeah like I haven't heard it 15 billion times before. Needless to say, I fucking hate Star Wars.

Waaaaah, my name is the same as a Star Wars character

Try being named ARIAN and having a thing for Jewish girls.

Trying being named James. Everyone over 50 wants to call you Jim :'(

Who would pick Jim over James :yuck :yuck :yuck

I prefer "Jim", actually. "James" is very formal. But I just let folks call me whatever they like; it doesn't particularly matter to me. I tend to confuse the issue by switching back and forth on a whim, myself, so there's no sense in demanding consistency from others.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 25, 2013, 04:55:56 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on July 25, 2013, 03:40:11 PM

My first name is basically Islamic Hitler, quit your bitching.

Best character from The Wire though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 25, 2013, 05:06:48 PM

There's an Islamic person named Stringer Bell?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 25, 2013, 06:43:50 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on July 25, 2013, 05:03:20 PM

:wtf

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 25, 2013, 05:06:48 PM

There's an Islamic person named Stringer Bell?

Omar?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on July 25, 2013, 07:08:39 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 24, 2013, 08:47:07 PM

Yeah, natural wouldn't always work for me.

"So what made you go into policy?"
"Well honestly, I just think I'm probably the best person out there to rule the planet, you know? Forget probably, I'd be by far the best dictator. And I frequently think about sterilizing the entire Tea Party and putting them into forced labor camps."
"OMG, do me right here on this table!"

Ah, the Dr. Horrible Dilemma.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 26, 2013, 01:56:45 AM

Maybe you could just express your political opinions in a nicer way, which I assume is not a big problem unless some of your close friends or family are huge dicks about being libertarian.

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on July 25, 2013, 06:50:45 PM

:snoop

I just remember you saying something a looooooong time ago about Shias hating the name.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on July 26, 2013, 02:51:56 AM

I liked the first part.

just wanted to make that clear.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 26, 2013, 04:31:21 AM

Fellow nerds are cool, just make sure they're at about the same level as you are otherwise you're stuck thinking "jesus what an uber nerd."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on July 26, 2013, 02:11:39 PM

Quote from: Eschaton on July 26, 2013, 02:35:08 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 25, 2013, 05:24:40 PM
In case any of you weren't aware, I'm a bit of a closet nerd. Being able to talk about sci-fi shit with a woman who I'm actually dating would be pretty goddamn amazing.
Look at the site you're on. This is the motherfucking closet. You're in it :heh

I need my (future) wife to be a nerd.

My wife is probably (definitely) a bigger Iain Banks fan than I am. She's also more obsessed with GoT than I am, and has no problem with most of the sci-fi I read. She also thinks "Superman sucks" :heart

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on July 26, 2013, 02:49:25 PM

No, but my last name is Contra

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 26, 2013, 02:51:27 PM

Quote from: Steve Contra on July 26, 2013, 02:11:39 PM

Quote from: Eschaton on July 26, 2013, 02:35:08 AM
Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 25, 2013, 05:24:40 PM
In case any of you weren't aware, I'm a bit of a closet nerd. Being able to talk about sci-fi shit with a woman who I'm actually dating would be pretty goddamn amazing.
Look at the site you're on. This is the motherfucking closet. You're in it :heh

I need my (future) wife to be a nerd.
My wife is probably (definitely) a bigger Iain Banks fan than I am. She's also more obsessed with GoT than I am, and has no problem with most of the sci-fi I read. She also thinks "Superman sucks" :heart

leper Mr. Contra, mod Mrs. Contra
:rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on July 26, 2013, 02:52:08 PM

Wait, your first name isn't Green or Awesom? :wtf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on July 27, 2013, 04:24:38 PM

just like frog from chrono trigger

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 27, 2013, 08:38:13 PM

Date cancelled because...it's raining. She wants to go out tomorrow. Which violates my "never do anything on Sunday" beliefs but I agreed.
:beli

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 27, 2013, 08:56:28 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 27, 2013, 08:38:13 PM

Date cancelled because...it's raining. She wants to go out tomorrow. Which violates my "never do anything on Sunday" beliefs but I agreed.
:beli

Tell her you don't fucking roll on Shabbos, man

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Yes, I know Shabbos is Saturday, fuck off

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 27, 2013, 09:30:15 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 24, 2013, 10:43:53 PM

Holy shit, the girl responded to my Star Wars joke, and we have a date.

Since we knew she loves Star Wars, we already knew that she was easily impressed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 27, 2013, 09:31:43 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on July 27, 2013, 09:30:15 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 24, 2013, 10:43:53 PM
Holy shit, the girl responded to my Star Wars joke, and we have a date.
Since we knew she loves Star Wars, we already knew that she was easily impressed.

Oooof.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 27, 2013, 09:46:36 PM

:leon

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on July 27, 2013, 10:58:13 PM

Took a big step in the relationship with the girlfriend today and introduced her to my son. It went really well!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 27, 2013, 11:04:04 PM

Grats dude! You told her about your son awhile ago? Seems like a good way to handle that situation. My uncle dated someone for half a year, and didn't know she had a son until they were engaged...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 27, 2013, 11:09:36 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 27, 2013, 10:15:01 PM

Damn.

She has a link to her tumblr right there in her email signature, so I checked it out. Claims that she likes puzzles and Legos. Even more in common.

Star Wars, puzzles, and legos? And I thought I was going too young with the 18-year-old girl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on July 27, 2013, 11:21:39 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 27, 2013, 11:04:04 PM

Grats dude! You told her about your son awhile ago? Seems like a good way to handle that situation. My uncle dated someone for half a year, and didn't know she had a son until they were engaged...

Yeah, she knew about him from the beginning. We met through OKC and that was something I listed on my profile. I didn't figure there was any point in bothering with somebody not interested in kids.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on July 27, 2013, 11:40:31 PM

My relationship is turning to shit and I don't like it. Derp.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on July 28, 2013, 03:54:09 PM

I had to cancel a date for once. I have bronchitis and an eye infection. Typical. :/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 28, 2013, 03:58:43 PM

Any reason for texting instead of calling? Just curious, I know a lot of people have differing opinions on it. Calling/leaving a message could be odd, depending on what you say. Whereas texting could come off as too hands off/going by the numbers.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 28, 2013, 04:09:29 PM

I prefer calling but I'm far from universal. Especially if he's got a great voice. Also texting all of the time just feels so detached.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 28, 2013, 04:40:34 PM

Yup, I prefer calling too. It's alot easier to read a person's voice than a text, imo. But as one of my friends pointed out, you can't text after a call without looking desperate. You can text someone a couple times and be safe, but if she doesn't respond to your call/message, that's game over.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 28, 2013, 04:58:26 PM

facetime/skype if you're actually serious with someone and like, are in a different state or something, texting otherwise. calling :yuck

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on July 28, 2013, 05:01:17 PM

I only use snap chat to communicate

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 28, 2013, 05:10:52 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 28, 2013, 04:40:34 PM

Yup, I prefer calling too. It's alot easier to read a person's voice than a text, imo. But as one of my friends pointed out, you can't text after a call without looking desperate. You can text someone a couple times and be safe, but if she doesn't respond to your call/message, that's game over.

I think voice chat avoids some confusing situations or stuff that just sounds awkward over text. To me text makes more sense if you're really casual but eh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 28, 2013, 05:40:48 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 28, 2013, 04:58:26 PM

facetime/skype if you're actually serious with someone and like, are in a different state or something, texting otherwise. calling :yuck

Oh god yes. I knew a girl that was really, really shy about cam-chatting with me. I even blow up at her over it once it annoyed me that much. She'd rather chat over MSN or fucking send text messages. Not only was that about the most ineffective way to communicate besides maybe using morse code or signal flags, but it also cost more. I barely fucking use my dumb-phone. It took forever to have something approaching a conversation via texts.
Long distance communication through anything other than a webcam fucking sucks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 28, 2013, 05:43:42 PM

A girl in Atlanta that keeps me around as an emotional tampon and I like to use facetime to chat for an hour or so each month... obviously more frequently if she's having troubles with dudes that are actually good enough for her to date, or is single and needs emotional validation, etc etc. I mean, it's free on your iCrap devices and works great, why not use it?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 28, 2013, 05:50:19 PM

Because you have crippling hang-ups about your appearance, for no obvious reason. Strangely, sending pictures was fine. Video? NOoooOOOooooo~
I don't get it, but I don't have to deal with it any more so whatever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 28, 2013, 05:51:04 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 28, 2013, 05:43:42 PM

A girl in Atlanta that keeps me around as an emotional tampon and I like to use facetime to chat for an hour or so each month... obviously more frequently if she's having troubles with dudes that are actually good enough for her to date, or is single and needs emotional validation, etc etc. I mean, it's free on your iCrap devices and works great, why not use it?

this isn't Red Head Girl is it
:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 28, 2013, 06:08:54 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 28, 2013, 05:51:04 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 28, 2013, 05:43:42 PM
A girl in Atlanta that keeps me around as an emotional tampon and I like to use facetime to chat for an hour or so each month... obviously more frequently if she's having troubles with dudes that are actually good enough for her to date, or is single and needs emotional validation, etc etc. I mean, it's free on your iCrap devices and works great, why not use it?
this isn't Red Head Girl is it
:fbm

21 year old? No. Redheaded girl from, like, earlier this year? Yeah.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 28, 2013, 06:10:38 PM

whew, good to hear
:rejoice

feast my brother, feast

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on July 28, 2013, 06:17:35 PM

just wait! she could be at work or taking a nap or something. or fucking with your emotions intentionally, maybe.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on July 28, 2013, 06:18:54 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 28, 2013, 04:58:26 PM

facetime/skype if you're actually serious with someone and like, are in a different state or something, texting otherwise. calling :yuck

with triumph on this

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 28, 2013, 06:20:58 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 28, 2013, 06:14:23 PM

God, the urge to send a follow-up text is getting overwhelming. I won't do it, but I really want to. I wish I could just get a clear answer. This is going to feel even worse than Start-up Girl if it turns out to be a dud.

You get one followup text, it has at 48hr cooldown though. For the love of god don't send another today.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on July 28, 2013, 07:09:16 PM

You think about it way too much. It probably comes across. Need to care less.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on July 28, 2013, 07:13:30 PM

I don't actually know how you can figure out how to care less. Just a thought.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on July 28, 2013, 07:28:19 PM

I need to figure out how to care less too. If any of you learn that let me know. Prepare for the return of crazy acting, depressed FatalT!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 28, 2013, 07:30:59 PM

There is no secret. You just have to learn to protect yourself and not invest so much of your emotional well being in others. Shitty but necessary lesson to learn, that we all have to keep relearning on a continual basis.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on July 28, 2013, 07:53:14 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 28, 2013, 07:39:23 PM

Quote from: Polari on July 28, 2013, 07:09:16 PM
You think about it way too much. It probably comes across. Need to care less.

To you guys, sure. To her, no way. I suffer in silence.

Perhaps. But I can't help but think it must manifest to some extent in the way you interact with women. Maybe not though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on July 28, 2013, 07:53:53 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 28, 2013, 07:30:59 PM

There is no secret. You just have to learn to protect yourself and not invest so much of your emotional well being in others. Shitty but necessary lesson to learn, that we all have to keep relearning on a continual basis.

I really like this line. It bears repeating.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on July 28, 2013, 08:25:02 PM

After investigating with FB futching, she pretty much banged her cousin in a stable. He took her from behind while she was brushing a horses mane.
Tbh I would kill him, if it weren't for the weird hotness. We all met at a family party, and his eyes were looking at her tits like he'd enjoyed them before.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on July 28, 2013, 09:30:53 PM

It's strange. Some people are lazy texters though. I often go a day without texting back if its not urgent. Her phone could have run out of battery or credit, or she could be asleep or at work or something and just doesn't want to think about it now. Just try and relax. There's nothing you can do.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 28, 2013, 09:32:49 PM

I'm terrible at texting people myself.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 28, 2013, 09:39:19 PM

Date was a success. We went to a nice Somalian restaurant, small place with real spicy food. Dunno brehs, she was cool and seemed into me but I didn't feel a spark on my end. And she spent a lot of time talking about her dad which was odd to me. As in "my dad always says..." multiple times. And her favorite movie is Diary Of A Mad Black Woman...

She wants to go out again though, I'm going to do it. We both jog so she suggested we do that together.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 28, 2013, 09:45:33 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 28, 2013, 09:39:19 PM

Date was a success. We went to a nice Somalian restaurant, small place with real spicy food. Dunno brehs, she was cool and seemed into me but I didn't feel a spark on my end. And she spent a lot of time talking about her dad which was odd to me. As in "my dad always says..." multiple times. And her favorite movie is Diary Of A Mad Black Woman...

She wants to go out again though, I'm going to do it. We both jog so she suggested we do that together.

:kobeyuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 28, 2013, 09:47:50 PM

Someone is going to call you daddy in bed! Get ready for it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 29, 2013, 12:03:07 AM

Quote from: FatalT on July 27, 2013, 11:40:31 PM

My relationship is turning to shit and I don't like it. Derp.

You could suggest doing the whole take a "break" for a week thing so you can each cool-down and relax a bit. Then come back and see if it was working well together or if you should just try to do an amicable break-up.

I would not recommend doing what I advise on these things unless you can get a second opinion also saying to do it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on July 29, 2013, 01:04:58 AM

y'all get too lovestruck too quick. you need MORE rejection, not less, until you learn to save your limerence until 4+ dates in

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on July 29, 2013, 01:11:49 AM

I will gladly give the farm to anyone who is into me for more than my prize-winning hog. :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 29, 2013, 01:42:00 AM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on July 29, 2013, 01:04:58 AM

y'all get too lovestruck too quick. you need MORE rejection, not less, until you learn to save your limerence until 4+ dates in

Meanwhile, I'm to the point where I'm all like, "wtf do you want to date ME for? I'm crazy, go away."

...which isn't working.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 29, 2013, 03:12:48 AM

Is dating the stuff you do in between having sex?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 29, 2013, 06:48:06 PM

Was at a wedding this past weekend, since I'm one of the only 3 single guys left in our circle of friends, and the only one of those 3 that are seeing a girl at the moment... I keep on getting asked "when are you and D gonna make things official?" I dunno, I'm always bad at these things. Even if the situation with me and the girl in question is going really well...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on July 29, 2013, 07:00:51 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 29, 2013, 06:19:33 PM

Hope is about 90% extinguished. Christ, I wish people would mean what they say and say what they mean. I could have been over the whole thing in an hour if she'd just said straight-up that she didn't really see this going anywhere. Instead I get to languish for days. Fuck that shit.

And the whole "her silence is an answer" shit... fuck that. This is clearly something that people do all of the time, and it needs to stop. How about an answer being an answer? I'm a big boy; I can handle a direct rejection.

Tomorrow I'll give her a call after the close of business day and see for sure. Literally nothing to lose as long as I don't pull a Malek.

Jesus dude. You really do need to try and temper your emotions. It was one date. How fucked up are you gonna be if someone drops you after six months? Or hell, six years? Until you can figure that out you probably shouldn't be pursuing a relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 29, 2013, 07:09:55 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 29, 2013, 07:06:44 PM

Rejection doesn't affect me nearly as much as waiting around. If she were to text right now saying "You're a great guy, but I'm not really feeling it," I'd be perfectly fine. It's the not knowing that turns me into a wreck.

Agreed. And it's not just with respect to dating. I hate having to wait for potentially bad news, be it a followup to a job interview or a medical test.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on July 29, 2013, 07:10:04 PM

Perhaps, but it's more that you're so emotionally invested after one date. Idk.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 29, 2013, 07:30:01 PM

I agree with polari. You gotta learn to not care. The itch you get after sending the texts and waiting for a response is what's wrong. This isn't just directed at you awesome-o. Its not a problem to be a little annoyed or even disappointed but that's life. But you guys get really worked up. Its probably not wrong to assume that women can also read that insecurity in other mannerisms when you're on the date with them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 29, 2013, 07:33:12 PM

Awesom-O is also a pretty competitive, serious guy, and I'd imagine some of the tension comes from an "I did everything right, this should work" view. I could be wrong of course, and I'm not criticizing, just that's what I'm picking up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 29, 2013, 11:06:05 PM

Rub your nuts on it and fuck it hard. Just don't injure your member with it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 30, 2013, 01:53:42 AM

You know in all of the sci-fi movies (Star Wars, etc) nobody predicted how stupid texting actually feels. But they also never showed sex.

You gotta tell her you don't want to text anymore.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 30, 2013, 02:16:10 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 29, 2013, 10:35:40 PM

OMFG, she had apparently texted back yesterday, but I didn't get it due to some phone issue. We are going out again on Sunday.

Fuck my phone.

Well, at least you didn't jump off a building or something, because then you'd feel really silly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 30, 2013, 03:19:27 AM

Jesus Green relax bro :-[

Quote from: Polari on July 28, 2013, 07:53:14 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 28, 2013, 07:39:23 PM
Quote from: Polari on July 28, 2013, 07:09:16 PM
You think about it way too much. It probably comes across. Need to care less.

To you guys, sure. To her, no way. I suffer in silence.

Perhaps. But I can't help but think it must manifest to some extent in the way you interact with women. Maybe not though.

Polari nails it.

It must ooze out somewhere.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 02, 2013, 09:28:09 AM

AWESOME-O, it's great that she actually wrote back, and another date is on the immediate horizon.

Part of what compels you is your focus and drive, which serve you well in competitive settings, but probably less so in cooperative or collaborative ones like dating.

When reading your earlier statements, I couldn't help but feel that you are demanding that she proceed according to your rules of communication. If you can learn that other opinions are equally valid to your own, compromise becomes more natural.

My apologies in advance if this seems patronizing.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on August 02, 2013, 11:47:34 AM

Single again! Lesson learned on dating someone extremely young.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 02, 2013, 02:56:17 PM

Quote from: FatalT on August 02, 2013, 11:47:34 AM

Single again! Lesson learned on dating someone extremely young.

I know this feel

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on August 02, 2013, 03:05:38 PM

Isn't FatalT like 19?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 02, 2013, 03:24:27 PM

Quote from: Steve Contra on August 02, 2013, 03:05:38 PM

Isn't FatalT like 19?

As FatalT's lawyer I will advise him not to respond to this question.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 02, 2013, 06:24:48 PM

I have dates with teachers on Friday and Saturday, one short and curvy and one blonde, tall and fit.

Time for the sparks to fly. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 02, 2013, 07:03:32 PM

:maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on August 02, 2013, 09:51:07 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 02, 2013, 03:24:27 PM

Quote from: Steve Contra on August 02, 2013, 03:05:38 PM
Isn't FatalT like 19?

As FatalT's lawyer I will advise him not to respond to this question.

Thank you Dr. Dark!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 02, 2013, 10:44:10 PM

I'll grade this date a D for disaster.

She asked me out for dinner, but decided to eat a meal right before our date. And, guess what, she's a teetotaler. Of course, while she watched me eat and drink she still couldn't make conversation.

Me: "blah blah blah"
Her: "OK" *looks away completely uninterested* *reads texts*

She did talk to me more when we got outside, insulting me in the third person by going on about how she's had bad experiences with online dating and "white middle-class men who are academically smart but socially stupid." :derp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 02, 2013, 10:47:19 PM

That's an L on her side, not yours. You did your part, assuming your conversation wasn't :derp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on August 02, 2013, 10:55:06 PM

I wouldn't even know what to say after the "socially stupid" line. I'd expect a laughtrack or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 02, 2013, 10:57:36 PM

Malek: ....well I had sex with your wife

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 02, 2013, 11:08:47 PM

Don't online dating profiles list if someone doesn't drink? I would have thought that's a red flag for you right away (cuz you so mopey).

Anyways, you should have told her you may be a yuppie but you got thick skin and a big cock.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 02, 2013, 11:13:49 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 02, 2013, 10:47:19 PM

That's an L on her side,

I'm pretty sure she's straight.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 02, 2013, 10:57:36 PM

Malek: ....well I had sex with your wife

See above. :derp

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 02, 2013, 10:47:19 PM

You did your part, assuming your conversation wasn't :derp

That's always a big assumption. I stayed away from GS's sterilization policies, but still.

Quote from: am nintenho on August 02, 2013, 11:08:47 PM

should have told her you may be a yuppie but you got thick skin and a big cock.

That's only half true, unless we're talking about the thick uncircumcised skin on my big cock.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 02, 2013, 11:25:54 PM

Bad date signs: Your date laughs hysterically after you finish a joke, but when you look up at her you realize that your punchline simply coincided with a funny text she received from Ian.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 02, 2013, 11:35:13 PM

Bad date signs: your date tells you that she would like to date someone who is just like herself--because she's a size queen.

OK, she didn't add that dependent clause. Still, what kind of narcissist wants to date someone who is just like him or herself?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 02, 2013, 11:50:57 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 02, 2013, 11:35:13 PM

Bad date signs: your date tells you that she would like to date someone who is just like herself--because she's a size queen.

OK, she didn't add that dependent clause. Still, what kind of narcissist wants to date someone who is just like him or herself?

you went out with a cheeseburger?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 02, 2013, 11:59:15 PM

edit: that was the joke.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 02, 2013, 11:59:38 PM

*drinks more*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on August 03, 2013, 12:11:22 AM

Join a local club or something, this is just miserable.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 03, 2013, 08:22:21 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 03, 2013, 05:12:03 AM

Maybe you should have talked about sterilization policies.

No one is going to try to impregnate her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 03, 2013, 08:31:56 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 02, 2013, 03:24:27 PM

Quote from: Steve Contra on August 02, 2013, 03:05:38 PM
Isn't FatalT like 19?

As FatalT's lawyer I will advise him not to respond to this question.

FatalIT is living Fistful's dream.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on August 03, 2013, 09:27:41 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 02, 2013, 10:44:10 PM

I'll grade this date a D for disaster.

She asked me out for dinner, but decided to eat a meal right before our date. And, guess what, she's a teetotaler. Of course, while she watched me eat and drink she still couldn't make conversation.

Me: "blah blah blah"
Her: "OK" *looks away completely uninterested* *reads texts*

She did talk to me more when we got outside, insulting me in the third person by going on about how she's had bad experiences with online dating and "white middle-class men who are academically smart but socially stupid." :derp

I hope you at least tried to sleep with her still.

Title: Teachers keep giving me Fs
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 03, 2013, 10:55:19 PM

Teacher Number 2 managed to look more beautiful in person than she does in her profile pictures. She also turned out to be very nice, smart, and quirky. Anyway, I thought the date was going reasonably well, but then she stopped it, along with our conversation about cats and dogs, to tell me that we're "too different." She then immediately went for her purse and started to get up.

And, of course, she didn't even offer to go dutch. She makes $75k, she asked me out, and she told me to die in a fire. The least she could do is offer to split the bill.

edit: "Romantic rejection does not invalidate you as a person."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on August 03, 2013, 11:07:37 PM

:whoo cold blooded.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 03, 2013, 11:10:05 PM

What are you saying to these women
:dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 03, 2013, 11:15:28 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on August 03, 2013, 11:01:44 PM

Wow that's awful dude. I am however impressed with how you keep dating still and I'm sure it will work out for ya in the end.

If not, I'll send a wild Shaka Khan your way.

Well, on my way home I was telling myself this was the last date I'd go on. But I already agreed to go on a date with someone from the RCMP.

Quote from: Barry Egan on August 03, 2013, 11:07:37 PM

:whoo cold blooded.

I guess I have to admire her balls. When she said that I tried to maintain my poker face, but Phil Ivey I am not.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 03, 2013, 11:10:05 PM

What are you saying to these women
:dead

Dogs > cats

A transcript of my dates would reveal nothing offensive, except for some minor innuendo and double entendres.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on August 03, 2013, 11:40:05 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 03, 2013, 11:25:35 PM

Second date with Star Wars Girl tomorrow. To be honest, I'm not even excited about it anymore. I'm not sure I even want to date people.

probably for the best, population growth being what it is.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 03, 2013, 11:40:52 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 03, 2013, 11:25:35 PM

Second date with Star Wars Girl tomorrow. To be honest, I'm not even excited about it anymore. I'm not sure I even want to date people.

During the date, tell her you guys are too different. Then tell her she has shitty taste in movies and hope that she doesn't bring up Avatar.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 03, 2013, 11:41:40 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 03, 2013, 11:25:35 PM

Second date with Star Wars Girl tomorrow. To be honest, I'm not even excited about it anymore. I'm not sure I even want to date people.

Feeling more Clone Wars than Empire Strikes Back?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 03, 2013, 11:58:48 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 03, 2013, 11:48:04 PM

It's just too much work.

This is pretty much where I'm at. I don't even want to think about dating or a relationship until I'm done with school. Just wanna focus on that shit, get done and get a job and start my life over somewhere. Sometimes you wanna go where nobody knows your name.

Title: Re: Teachers keep giving me Fs
Post by: chronovore on August 04, 2013, 12:07:04 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 03, 2013, 10:55:19 PM

Teacher Number 2 managed to look more beautiful in person than she does in her profile pictures. She also turned out to be very nice, smart, and quirky. Anyway, I thought the date was going reasonably well, but then she stopped it, along with our conversation about cats and dogs, to tell me that we're "too different." She then immediately went for her purse and started to get up.

And, of course, she didn't even offer to go dutch. She makes $75k, she asked me out, and she told me to die in a fire. The least she could do is offer to split the bill.

edit: "Romantic rejection does not invalidate you as a person."

You got off lucky and cheap. It only cost you a couple hours and the price of a single meal to learn that she's selfish and cheap.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 04, 2013, 12:10:22 AM

To be fair I'm not sure I've ever gone out to eat with a woman and not paid, without even asking. It's sexist or whatever but I'd feel like a bum if the woman paid.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 04, 2013, 12:11:46 AM

So I kind of fucked up according to advice here.

After 5 weeks of silence since the whole drama thing I had between ex-best-friend girl and jerkbag guy who was friend until he stabbed me in the back. I went to an event today where girl was (because we have mutual friend circles). I knew she was going to be there and I planned on saying hi and leaving it at that because we'd ended it, I'd moved on with my life (PD or someone said if she ever came back it's something like "Winter is coming but the gates of Winterfell have closed" or something nerdy cool like that).

Well I didn't talk to her at the event and she didn't try to talk to me, but I heard her say something to someone about some random topic while I was nearby (and within an earshot) and she said something like "it's the hardest choice because the one you leave behind is going to hate you forever" and I felt bad and then at the end when she was leaving I asked if she could talk outside for a minute and I told her that I don't hate her and it is what it is.

And she apologized like crazy, said the guy broke up with her because she was "weak" and he couldn't be with a "weak" girl and set goals that she needed to accomplish before he would ever take her back. She said he was everything I told her that he was, crazy, manipulative, sexists, controlling, an asshole. And that she felt so guilty about me. She said her last goodbye text she sent to me where she didn't want to be friends anymore was basically written by him and that he set a rule at the start of their relationship that if she wanted him she was not allowed to ever talk to me or see me. Yeah, that's not an excuse; who says "ok" to that and cuts off their "best" friend because they have the hots for a guy? And that she learned a life lesson and thought the price was losing her best friend and that she had destroyed and napalmed our bridges to death and she was in a bad place.

Now I have a weak spot for girls, especially people I care about, being like that and I couldn't just keep a straight face and give her that Winterfell line. So I consoled her and said it's ok, that we all said a lot of things we didn't mean towards the end and that people make mistakes. That our friendship isn't napalmed to death, but just broken and damaged and we can repair it over time. That if she's in trouble I'm still there for her, but I'm not getting involved in any of her relationship drama because I can't deal with that again. She said she wouldn't want or expect me to get involved because she hurt me so much last time and she is going to get strong and independent on her own two feet over the next few weeks. And I said that's great and totally what she should do. And she had to run and I told her she could still text me if she wanted and it'll be ok. And she texted me later saying that she really appreciated everything.

So yeah, I'm still just human and I can't cut her off. I'm going to keep some distance and just BE FRIENDS with her again very, very slowly and I have zero romantic inclinings now or in the future with her. I can't afford to get invested with her because she'll just cut me off and hurt me again in the future unfortunately.

And I brought up the whole thing about how the rumors being spread against me were the one thing that really hurt me and according to her (and I believe her on this) she told it to the dickbag guy confidentially and not in a bad way and that he promised her that he wasn't saying anything bad about me to other people (when in actuality he was twisting things around and telling everyone to try to steal friends from me and make me seem like a bad person). She was shocked that any of this had happened and said she had no idea. Unfortunately I believe her, she can be really naive and if the guy said he wasn't doing it, she'd believe him.

Ok, now it's time for everyone to laugh at me and my human weakness for girls in trouble that I care about.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on August 04, 2013, 12:12:34 AM

I'd be really turned on if a woman was that blunt with me during a date. Worth the price of the meal I'd say.

edit: irt Malek's date, obviously.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 04, 2013, 12:23:51 AM

BEBPO, NO

NO, BEBPO

:snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 04, 2013, 12:26:28 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 04, 2013, 12:22:18 AM

You basically gave her Bran's last line from A Clash of Kings. Winterfell's not dead, just broken like me, and all that. Good job.

Oh and speaking of you, I've got the next week completely free from M-Sunday. Let me know what day you don't have a date on F/Sat/Sun night and let's grab dinner.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 04, 2013, 01:58:21 AM

L-O-to-the-maximum-L

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 04, 2013, 02:35:06 AM

Bebpo, this is the part where you know she's not remotely ready for a real relationship but you still want to push her to find somebody else so that she's not your problem anymore.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 04, 2013, 12:10:22 AM

To be fair I'm not sure I've ever gone out to eat with a woman and not paid, without even asking. It's sexist or whatever but I'd feel like a bum if the woman paid.

Well if you're the one asking them out then you are kind of offering to pay for whatever happens but some girls will get offended if you just automatically pay for everything. I did have a girl gently chew my ass out once for not slapping her money away when she put it down (as a test). I think if they really like you, they'll insist on paying at least their half and you should accept that no matter how rich/sexist/oblivious you are just not to offend them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 04, 2013, 03:50:15 AM

Quote from: am nintenho on August 04, 2013, 02:35:06 AM

Bebpo, this is the part where you know she's not remotely ready for a real relationship but you still want to push her to find somebody else so that she's not your problem anymore.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 04, 2013, 12:10:22 AM
To be fair I'm not sure I've ever gone out to eat with a woman and not paid, without even asking. It's sexist or whatever but I'd feel like a bum if the woman paid.

Well if you're the one asking them out then you are kind of offering to pay for whatever happens but some girls will get offended if you just automatically pay for everything. I did have a girl gently chew my ass out once for not slapping her money away when she put it down (as a test). I think if they really like you, they'll insist on paying at least their half and you should accept that no matter how rich/sexist/oblivious you are just not to offend them.

I dunno, in this age of equality, if both parties are interested in going out, seems like it should be OK to assume you're both paying your own way so neither one owes anything to the other.

I have no idea what the situation was when you got your ass "gently chewed out," but maybe you should have given her quid pro quo for putting something out there as a test, and then letting them know that they'd failed it. How far did that relationship go, anyway?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 04, 2013, 04:16:44 AM

Paying for a girl in 2013 :lol

If you find a woman nowadays that expects you will pay for her dinner you should ask her if she also plans to quit her job once the baby is there, stay home and cook and clean. Cause by letting you pay the bill on the first/second etc. date that is what she is offering I assume.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 04, 2013, 04:36:17 AM

No I told her that I would just think it's rude if I tried to reject that gesture since it shows that somebody is just trying to be fair and in fact I've had girls get upset when they saw me ready to pay before them. That was like a second date and obviously we didn't do anything again. I've never done any meal, movie, or anything over $5 for a first date. I'm usually the one talking most of the time so it makes sense to do something where they have as much chance to talk as possible.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 04, 2013, 07:00:54 AM

To me, on the first date, if you asked somebody out, you should pay. Now if a girl asked me out, she should be expected to pay.

As you keep going on dates, you just keep switching it up so it evens out. Splitting a check in half is awkward so fuck that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 04, 2013, 10:49:28 AM

If she put down her money fine, I wouldn't snatch it off the table and demand she not pay. But especially on the first date, I get my wallet out fast enough so that there isn't any ambiguity. Even if she asked me out on the first date. Or if she pays I'll leave a larger tip than normal.

It's not about going out with women who can't pay for shit. 95% of the women I've ever gone out to eat with, be they friends or dates, were more than capable of paying for their own shit. I just see it as a gentlemanly thing to do.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on August 04, 2013, 02:41:50 PM

look at this budding beautiful romance:

(http://i.imgur.com/Uxsc1S6.jpg?1)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 04, 2013, 02:45:06 PM

Awesome-O and Malek should date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 04, 2013, 02:50:26 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 03, 2013, 11:58:48 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 03, 2013, 11:48:04 PM
It's just too much work.

This is pretty much where I'm at. I don't even want to think about dating or a relationship until I'm done with school. Just wanna focus on that shit, get done and get a job and start my life over somewhere. Sometimes you wanna go where nobody knows your name.

Ironically enough, the time when I want to focus on getting my life in order, is when I end up meeting someone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 04, 2013, 08:28:09 PM

"You look like a real life wolverine."

Hugh has caught up to Liev. But in the end, all women Liev me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 05, 2013, 02:55:10 AM

Don't be a homo.

You're an awesome-o!

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Seriously though, you may have not made a spark, connection, or shameful sexual activity with this person but it's not the end of the world and you should still respect yourself and her too to figure what you actually want.

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 05, 2013, 03:10:46 AM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on August 05, 2013, 12:15:44 AM

You guys take all this shit waaaaaay too seriously and then wonder why these girls don't feel the spark. My guess is they smelt the desperation and got the fuck out of there.

You guys are doing fine. You'd be surprised by how well things fall in place when you don't obsess over them.

This. For fucks sakes, LIGHTEN UP YOU SOUR FUCKING BITCHES.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 05, 2013, 03:10:57 AM

Quote from: Positive Touch on August 04, 2013, 02:41:50 PM

look at this budding beautiful romance:

(http://i.imgur.com/Uxsc1S6.jpg?1)

Escha is so short!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on August 05, 2013, 03:48:58 AM

Shaka is 6'3" :mynicca

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 05, 2013, 07:03:55 AM

I wanna hang out with you bastards :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 05, 2013, 07:37:34 AM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on August 05, 2013, 03:48:58 AM

Shaka is 6'3" :mynicca

How big is his penis? :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 05, 2013, 08:46:12 AM

Dating is a numbers game.

I used to scratch my head when a date would go awesomely and then I'd never hear from the girl again. When you really break it down, there's all kinds of factors, many of which we have little or no idea about. Maybe she got really busy with her job, maybe her ex stopped by and they wanted to try to make it work again, maybe she is just self absorbed and doesn't know/care what you are feeling to have the courtesy to tell you what's up, maybe she just lost interest, etc. I got over the overanalyzing thing during college because there was always another girl that I could go out with. About 15,000 girls, many of which were in their prime, made me forget about the girl who was too flaky to call me back. It hardened me up to where I wouldn't obsess over the minutiae to figure out what went wrong.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on August 05, 2013, 09:26:55 AM

The glass looks like a teacup in Shaka's hand. :lol

Quote from: Eschaton on August 05, 2013, 09:07:34 AM

i'm 5'8" :fbm

I'm about 5'9". I take it 6' is the magic number in America? In Europe it's 1.8m, which is inbetween 5'9" and 6'.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on August 05, 2013, 12:28:25 PM

Digging deeper, I think.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 05, 2013, 01:06:59 PM

A person who fails to understand that should be automatically sterilized. :derp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on August 05, 2013, 01:21:29 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 05, 2013, 01:06:59 PM

A person who fails to understand that should be automatically sterilized. :derp

Sterilisation would clearly be redundant in this instance. :sabu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 05, 2013, 02:11:45 PM

Quote from: tiesto on August 04, 2013, 02:50:26 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 03, 2013, 11:58:48 PM
Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 03, 2013, 11:48:04 PM
It's just too much work.

This is pretty much where I'm at. I don't even want to think about dating or a relationship until I'm done with school. Just wanna focus on that shit, get done and get a job and start my life over somewhere. Sometimes you wanna go where nobody knows your name.

Ironically enough, the time when I want to focus on getting my life in order, is when I end up meeting someone.

I started dating my wife right around the time I stopped worrying about dating and just focused on my own shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 05, 2013, 02:29:33 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 05, 2013, 03:07:52 AM

I don't think you understand, am nintenho. Deep down, you (and Malek, Bepbo, Wrath, etc) are a good person. And deep down, I'm not.

Eh, I haven't seen anything from you that says you're not a normal dude. Everyone's got their ups & downs, their good spots & their bad. Stop being so hard on yourself, let's get dinner this weekend :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 05, 2013, 02:55:11 PM

"you are without a doubt the most intelligent, well spoken man I've chatted with on here so I have taken a liking to you "

Then comes the date where she'll reject me for liking dogs more than cats or giving her the wrong spark or having too large of a penis.*

*One of the three has never happened

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 05, 2013, 03:01:01 PM

Put your apps and work aside. A person like Positive Touch comes around only so often.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 05, 2013, 06:20:53 PM

Don't understand doing the movie thing unless it's like at your own house and you can pause at will or do other things :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 05, 2013, 06:50:37 PM

Jesus Christ, Glen. I'd say you're acting like a woman, but I don't want to insult Devo with your behavior.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 05, 2013, 06:54:12 PM

This is why you should ask women if you can kiss them. Saves you a lot of pain.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on August 05, 2013, 07:00:03 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 05, 2013, 05:46:25 PM

I figured I needed to go for it, but the lips didn't happen.

Ah jeez man. Did you figure you needed to go for it because it was the second date and it was now or never, or did you actually think there was a moment happening between the two of you? Because if it was the former :snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on August 05, 2013, 07:00:46 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 05, 2013, 06:54:12 PM

This is why you should ask women if you can kiss them. Saves you a lot of pain.

Beta move.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 05, 2013, 07:03:46 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 05, 2013, 06:54:12 PM

This is why you should ask women if you can kiss them. Saves you a lot of pain.

Hey, I only did that twice! Both were unique situations. First time I didn't ask as much as I didn't think we were on a date but was getting signals so was like "uh, I'm getting this vibe that you want me to kiss you" and she's like "so why don't you?" and it went well. Other time was because the person was a friend and was high and I wasn't sure if I was getting signals so I wanted to be careful about not doing anything too stupid.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 05, 2013, 07:06:56 PM

Quote from: Polari on August 05, 2013, 07:00:46 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 05, 2013, 06:54:12 PM
This is why you should ask women if you can kiss them. Saves you a lot of pain.

Beta move.

beta get that pussy tho
:patel

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 05, 2013, 07:09:35 PM

Quote from: Polari on August 05, 2013, 07:00:03 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 05, 2013, 05:46:25 PM
I figured I needed to go for it, but the lips didn't happen.

Ah jeez man. Did you figure you needed to go for it because it was the second date and it was now or never, or did you actually think there was a moment happening between the two of you? Because if it was the former :snoop

I'm oblivious to those "moments" (and a lot of signals) and if I wait for a "moment" then it never happens. So I just make a moment myself either at the end of a first, second, or third date and go for a kiss when saying goodbye or if we're chilling on the couch together in a private place after a couple of dates I'll put my arm around the other person and if they're digging it then I'll follow up with a kiss. I've never had one of those "first kiss in the middle of a bridge while fireworks are exploding" moments, but I have had "twenty-fifth or two-hundreth kiss in the middle of a bridge while fireworks are exploding". I figure you can always have the romantic "moments" later, first kiss is just establishing that you both like each other enough to actually be cool kissing; and I usually want to establish that within a few dates so I'm not just wasting my time if it's someone I want to date and they're not interested.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on August 05, 2013, 07:14:37 PM

what

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 05, 2013, 07:22:45 PM

Never been asked if someone could kiss me. Seems awkward.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 05, 2013, 07:34:50 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 05, 2013, 07:29:02 PM

I haven't asked since freshman year of college. And to be honest, one of the reasons this got me so shook is that it's actually the first time that a girl has turned away my kiss attempt at the end of a date. Prior to this, I'd had a pretty spectacular batting average which I compiled by swinging at very few pitches, and also because a lot of the girls I'd dated were people I'd had one-night stands with before.

Also, let's be real. Unless two people are attending Mass every Sunday, if they haven't kissed by the end of Date # 3 at the very latest, it probably isn't happening.

Either the physical chemistry is there or it's not. If she can't stand to kiss you then move on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 05, 2013, 07:43:42 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 05, 2013, 07:40:31 PM

Sure, moving on isn't the issue. I'm very conscientious about not being a crazy obsessed stalker. If I don't get a reply, she won't hear from me again.

I would say, however, that it's not quite as simple as "there's either physical chemistry or there isn't." Sure, that's a big part of it, but there are things people can do or not do to influence the outcome.

Meh. I wouldn't waste my time waiting for someone to get comfortable with me if it's just kissing.

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Post by: Flannel Boy on August 05, 2013, 08:01:32 PM

Stop asking me out, women.

I'm having drinks with a 21-year-old crim major tomorrow. She is so into me that it's scary.

Also, a girl who is actually prettier than Fit Girl is fishing for a date. I'm not sure what to do, other than share her photos with Cajole.

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Post by: Flannel Boy on August 05, 2013, 08:12:13 PM

:umad

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Post by: Shadow Mod on August 05, 2013, 08:34:29 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 05, 2013, 08:01:32 PM

Stop asking me out, women.

I'm having drinks with a 21-year-old crim major tomorrow. She is so into me that it's scary.

Also, a girl who is actually prettier than Fit Girl is fishing for a date. I'm not sure what to do, other than share her photos with Cajole.

The fuck are you ever content? =p

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Post by: Flannel Boy on August 05, 2013, 08:38:00 PM

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I finally can put both of my feet behind my head. I was proud.

:dizzy

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Post by: Positive Touch on August 05, 2013, 08:42:55 PM

translation: lets skip dinner and go straight to the back of my car

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Post by: Flannel Boy on August 05, 2013, 08:44:16 PM

I don't know--that sounds like an invitation to eat.

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Post by: Positive Touch on August 05, 2013, 08:47:03 PM

HEY-OOOOOOO

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Post by: Flannel Boy on August 05, 2013, 08:58:41 PM

My anxiety transfers much better.

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Post by: brawndolicious on August 05, 2013, 10:09:43 PM

Now this might be even more overcomplicated but what about at the end of the date, you just ask if they could turn their cheek towards you so that you could kiss it? They could say whatever but it lets them know that you think the date went well but that you don't want to go through what I would call "dating bullshit". I think that's what I would do now that I thought about it, but I like to always announce my intentions with everything.

Malek, try it out.

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Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 05, 2013, 10:29:22 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on August 05, 2013, 10:09:43 PM

Now this might be even more overcomplicated but what about at the end of the date, you just ask if they could turn their cheek towards you so that you could kiss it? They could say whatever but it lets them know that you think the date went well but that you don't want to go through what I would call "dating bullshit". I think that's what I would do now that I thought about it, but I like to always announce my intentions with everything.

Malek, try it out.

Hopefully with the same coherency and clarity as your posts here.

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Post by: brawndolicious on August 05, 2013, 10:31:34 PM

Quote from: The Business on August 05, 2013, 10:21:26 PM

A better idea: instead of asking them to turn their cheek so you can kiss it, you ask them to get themselves drunk, think sexy thoughts, and take off their clothes so you can bed them. They could say whatever but it lets them know that you think the date went well but that you don't want to go through what I would call "dating bullshit". I too like to always announce my intentions with everything.

Even better is if you do what Creepy Old Guy said and ask if they want to do it like they do it on the discovery channel. Lets you know if they have a sense of humor too.

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Post by: Human Snorenado on August 05, 2013, 10:35:56 PM

If a woman says she likes Blazing Saddles, ask her if she likes to play chess or screw. :jawalrus

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Post by: lennedsay on August 05, 2013, 11:24:31 PM

You guys are doing it all wrong.

First date with hubs -
1) I was in his neighborhood, so I met him at his place before dinner.
2) Knocked on the door and his roommate let me in.
3) Walked into his room and gave him a big hug.
4) He kissed me WITHOUT asking.
5) Then we went to dinner with zero awkwardness.

Got that shit out the way in 5 min. :mynicca

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Post by: Bebpo on August 05, 2013, 11:25:52 PM

Why'd you give him a hug? Did you know him already or do you hug random people you meet before you go on a first date with them?

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Post by: Bebpo on August 05, 2013, 11:46:19 PM

Well, just trying to figure out the order of things. Like is Lennedsay suggesting that when you setup a date with a girl you met online, that when you first meet them you should go up to them and kiss them to get the awkwardness out of the way before the rest of the date? Because I've never had a girl run up and hug me at the start of a first date. They usually come up and shake hands and we have a date and then if it goes ok we hug at the end of the date.

Or did she hug him because she'd already known him and he had asked her on a date? Like if I asked a girl that I knew from a friend circle to go see a movie, is Lennedsay suggesting that when I go pick her up and she gives me a hug that I go ahead and kiss her?

Both those situations seem like they would freak out the girl and cause the date to be awkward. In the first one because you're just meeting for the first time in person and they're like "wtf why is this guy kissing me; I don't even know him" and in the second they're like "wtf, I thought we were friends going to the movies, this is out of nowhere"

Also it wasn't one joint, it was edibles and a decent amount.

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Post by: Shadow Mod on August 05, 2013, 11:54:45 PM

If you're communicating for a while online there should honestly not be that much tension. Nervousness and anxiety sure but physically intimacy is easy after a bit of introduction. If a girl is really into you a kiss should be pretty easy to acquire without problems. This is of course based on my experience, but my experience is the men I was really into, I even kissed myself without prompt.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 05, 2013, 11:56:55 PM

Eh, I've been dating for a decade and I've never "felt" that there was the right time or even felt anything I would consider physical chemistry with anyone, even the girls that are into me. I just can't read signals for shit. Totally obtuse when it comes to vibes.

So much easier once you make out and then it's like "ok, we're into each other" and everything is fun and games from that point on it. But the initial, when should I kiss this person? thing is always a big ??? Even worse if it's with friends cause it's one thing to ask a friend on a date and get shut down, but if you're hanging out with a female friend and you go for a kiss because you think there's some chemistry and you think she's into you...can have repercussions on your friendship (aka, make it awkward) if you're wrong.

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Post by: brawndolicious on August 06, 2013, 12:00:09 AM

Just kiss yourself like devo said.

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Post by: Bebpo on August 06, 2013, 12:06:02 AM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on August 05, 2013, 11:54:45 PM

If you're communicating for a while online there should honestly not be that much tension. Nervousness and anxiety sure but physically intimacy is easy after a bit of introduction. If a girl is really into you a kiss should be pretty easy to acquire without problems. This is of course based on my experience, but my experience is the men I was really into, I even kissed myself without prompt.

Most first dates I've had off online dating sites have been super platonic, even if we got along fun online before the date. Usually shake hands at the start, hang out with no physical touching (no hand holding or hugging or anything) and then at the end a hug and sometimes the hug turns into a kiss and then sometimes the kiss into going back to someone's place, etc.., etc... but for the whole date it's super platonic whether it's a walk on a beach, a concert, dinner, coffee, bowling, ice skating, a museum, beers at a bar, whatever.

I probably should be more aggressive and go for more intimacy from the start of the date. I'm so used to always being "friends" first, even with people I meet online, that sometimes we just hang out for a few dates like platonic friends before we get physical. When talking online (through site messaging) I never mention any romance/dating/kissing/sex stuff; just talk about stuff like I would with my guy friends. Find similar interests, make jokes, get to know each other.

I remember this one girl I met online was so surprised when we made out, she said "I didn't think you were into me, we never talked about any of this stuff in our a month of talking back and forth everyday" At that point I realized I probably need to work in talking about "this stuff" while I chat with a potential date online before we actually meet up because otherwise girls just get this vibe from me that they think I just want to be friends and I'm not interested in them. I never compliment them on their bodies or anything, but rather their work if it's cool (their art, music, movies, poems, etc...), I want to get to know them as a person and not just on a physical/sexual level at the start, also because that just seems creepy.

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Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 06, 2013, 12:06:54 AM

:picard

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Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 06, 2013, 12:59:15 AM

there's no vibes because you're a dead zone, bebpo. when a certain comfort level is attained, even online, you hafta resonate -- give off sexy vibes of your own. what you think is kind, cool, and gentlemanly seems like total platonic remove -- a sheet of glass that deadens all interesting tension.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 06, 2013, 01:39:41 AM

I dunno, I'm pretty goofy and open around people. That's why girls usually end up falling for me once we get talking or meeting in real life. I'm just don't know they do until after I kiss them or they confess their feelings to me. I can't read vibes. I have a female friend whose like that too. She never has anyone idea who likes her and all the guys she tries to make a move on reject her.

I'm not sure why I'm even in this thread half the time. I have a pretty successful ratio when I date. I just don't date much (like I'm on a 2 month sabatical from all dating right now because I don't want the drama that can come with it) and I'm super picky about "liking" a girl. 90% of the girls I meet or go on dates with, I feel nothing besides maybe "hey, this person is cool, I'd be friends with them", even after 2-3 dates. It takes a really special girl to get me to feel any romantic emotions towards them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 06, 2013, 02:13:01 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 06, 2013, 12:06:02 AM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on August 05, 2013, 11:54:45 PM
If you're communicating for a while online there should honestly not be that much tension. Nervousness and anxiety sure but physically intimacy is easy after a bit of introduction. If a girl is really into you a kiss should be pretty easy to acquire without problems. This is of course based on my experience, but my experience is the men I was really into, I even kissed myself without prompt.

Most first dates I've had off online dating sites have been super platonic, even if we got along fun online before the date. Usually shake hands at the start, hang out with no physical touching (no hand holding or hugging or anything) and then at the end a hug and sometimes the hug turns into a kiss and then sometimes the kiss into going back to someone's place, etc.., etc... but for the whole date it's super platonic whether it's a walk on a beach, a concert, dinner, coffee, bowling, ice skating, a museum, beers at a bar, whatever.

I probably should be more aggressive and go for more intimacy from the start of the date. I'm so used to always being "friends" first, even with people I meet online, that sometimes we just hang out for a few dates like platonic friends before we get physical. When talking online (through site messaging) I never mention any romance/dating/kissing/sex stuff; just talk about stuff like I would with my guy friends. Find similar interests, make jokes, get to know each other.

I remember this one girl I met online was so surprised when we made out, she said "I didn't think you were into me, we never talked about any of this stuff in our a month of talking back and forth everyday" At that point I realized I probably need to work in talking about "this stuff" while I chat with a potential date online before we actually meet up because otherwise girls just get this vibe from me that they think I just want to be friends and I'm not interested in them. I never compliment them on their bodies or anything, but rather their work if it's cool (their art, music, movies, poems, etc...), I want to get to know them as a person and not just on a physical/sexual level at the start, also because that just seems creepy.

Shake hands? Total business vibes from the start, dude x_x.

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 06, 2013, 02:18:39 AM

But the surprise and innovation of a handshake works. She's expecting a weak hug or awkward kiss attempt and then you shake her hand instead. Now she's trying to impress you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on August 06, 2013, 02:30:10 AM

Better yet, you could just dap her.

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Post by: Shadow Mod on August 06, 2013, 02:33:12 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 06, 2013, 02:18:39 AM

But the surprise and innovation of a handshake works. She's expecting a weak hug or awkward kiss attempt and then you shake her hand instead. Now she's trying to impress you.

:beli :comeon

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Post by: Mupepe on August 06, 2013, 07:31:36 AM

:lol This whole page is fucking gold

Len has the right idea. Just do it. A woman knows if you're being all nervous about it and I'd imagine it's a goddamn turn off.

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Post by: Barry Egan on August 06, 2013, 09:45:49 AM

at least one of you sad sacks are repressing a fetish. Just be open about it bros, we're your friends. I like kinky shit too.

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Post by: Mupepe on August 06, 2013, 09:47:59 AM

I'm kinkier than you, Barry.

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Post by: Barry Egan on August 06, 2013, 09:58:05 AM

I only had to read 5 posts in the leather daddy biker thread to figure that out. I'll catch up though!

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Post by: Mupepe on August 06, 2013, 10:00:22 AM

Come on over with your chaps on when you're ready.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on August 06, 2013, 10:42:39 AM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on August 06, 2013, 12:59:15 AM

there's no vibes be because you're a dead zone, bebpo. when a certain comfort level is attained, even online, you hafta resonate -- give off sexy vibes of your own. what you think is kind, cool, and gentlemanly seems like total platonic remove -- a sheet of glass that deadens all interesting tension.

This rang true to me. Realizing this a few years ago made the whole dating thing much easier.
You gots to let them know you are down to fuck (subtly off course). So they can see you in that way, or let you know pretty soon that's not going to happen.
It moves things along, friend zoning was no longer an issue.

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Post by: Mupepe on August 06, 2013, 10:52:35 AM

Quote from: Eschaton on August 06, 2013, 10:49:02 AM

Imagine if it was the stone ages and shit and dudes were shaking hands with cavewomen and asking them if they could kiss :dead

There were no fedoras in the stone age. Coincidence? I think not.

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Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 06, 2013, 12:05:50 PM

bitches want you to want 'em! and if they don't want you in return -- when you say you're feelin' into them and they don't respond -- back off, close up the date, and move on. EFFICIENCY UBER ALLES! but you gotta put it out there. acting all cool and aloof or kind-hearted gentlemanly past the point of first contact doesn't make them get into you unless you look like the business or brandnew, and you schlubs (and definitely i) don't! NOT HARD PEOPLE.

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Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 06, 2013, 12:10:12 PM

Quote from: Eschaton on August 06, 2013, 10:49:02 AM

Imagine if it was the stone ages and shit and dudes were shaking hands with cavewomen and asking them if they could kiss :dead

imagine if cavemen had stupid evo psych proponents and were all HOW DO YOU BETAS PLAN TO GET PUSSY IF YOU DON'T BITE THE HEAD OFF YOUR POTENTIAL MATE IF SHE REJECTS YOUR GIFT OF A BRONTOSAUR, IT WORKS FOR T-REXES IT CAN WORK FOR YOU

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Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 06, 2013, 12:13:30 PM

or just buy a gotdam motorcycle. seriously, i have no interest in pussy beyond what i'm currently sidehugging4life, but when I roll up to the bar with the v-twin growling and wearing my steve mcqueen triumph jacket, i get plenty of attractive conversational partners -- and i look like a bespectacled archnerd doofus! NO OKCUPID BULLSHIT NECESSARY. mrs. cruncheon can't wait to get on mah stick.

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Post by: Mupepe on August 06, 2013, 12:31:58 PM

Chicks will definitely be more attracted to you if you ride a motorcycle.

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Post by: Shadow Mod on August 06, 2013, 01:38:13 PM

Just stop giving that shoulder to cry on aura and give that dick to ride on aura.

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Post by: Steve Youngblood on August 06, 2013, 01:50:24 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on August 06, 2013, 12:32:41 PM

Sometimes I wish we had a PUA guy here, I could use a good laugh.

What about AWESOME-O?

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Post by: Tasty on August 06, 2013, 02:20:40 PM

Quote from: Steve Youngblood on August 06, 2013, 01:50:24 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on August 06, 2013, 12:32:41 PM
Sometimes I wish we had a PUA guy here, I could use a good laugh.

What about AWESOME-O?

He's ex-PUA, although he does still defend them constantly.

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Post by: Mupepe on August 06, 2013, 03:29:57 PM

Congrats awesome-o!

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Post by: Shaka Khan on August 06, 2013, 03:56:03 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 06, 2013, 02:53:24 PM

I broke through a wall last night. I was coming home from the gym, running home like I usually do, and I just started sprinting. And here comes nerd alert, but it's the best analogy I can think of. You guys know in DBZ how Vegeta is basically killing himself to unlock his Super Saiyan ability, and it just won't happen? And then he's training during a meteor shower, and he just stops giving a single fuck, and it happens? That's kind of what I felt, except with no meteors and less golden hair.

This is the first time I literally facepalmed after reading something on the internet. I still love you though and I'm happy for you.

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Post by: brawndolicious on August 06, 2013, 04:38:20 PM

I guess I just do the foreplay.

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Post by: Tasty on August 06, 2013, 04:53:55 PM

Someone just watched the latest ep of TFS.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 06, 2013, 05:05:33 PM

I think, and Im going out on a limb here, that all the best advice has been given already in the first 10 pages of this thread. After that its the same patterns over and over again, and the same advice.

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Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 06, 2013, 05:08:41 PM

Like this is what Triumph told Bebpo in 2011

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Bebpo, your main problem in life is that you're a (I'm assuming on the age here) 30 year old lawyer who fucking cosplays. Of course you don't know shit about women. If you did, you'd know you gotta play it like Fonzie... and what's Fonzie like, motherfuckers? That's right. Fonzie is COOL. Fonzie isn't gonna be all over some girl within the first couple of weeks/months of dating her. No, he's gonna say "Heeeeeyyyy" a lot and occasionally be unavailable. That and a motorcycle will make her want to fuck him; you dressing like a fey woman-man-thing just doesn't have the same draw, I'm afraid.

And this is Drinky to Bebpo in 2013

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there's no vibes be because you're a dead zone, bebpo. when a certain comfort level is attained, even online, you hafta resonate -- give off sexy vibes of your own. what you think is kind, cool, and gentlemanly seems like total platonic remove -- a sheet of glass that deadens all interesting tension.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 06, 2013, 05:11:17 PM

It's true. Unless you somehow manage to immerse yourself in a gaggle of nerdy chicks who are single, you're better off slowly introducing most women to your utter nerdmode side.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 06, 2013, 05:30:32 PM

Trying to explain Magic: The Gathering to women. :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 06, 2013, 05:37:59 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 06, 2013, 05:30:32 PM

Trying to explain Magic: The Gathering to women. :fbm

I don't think anyone tried to explain it to me.

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Post by: Human Snorenado on August 06, 2013, 05:44:01 PM

Not the game itself per se, but that you find enjoyment in sitting at a table with a bunch of other nerdy dudes, many of whom are socially incapable of not sticking their foot in their mouth for more than five minutes, to flop around pieces of cardboard.

Videogames, fantasy books, every other vaguely "nerdy" thing I've ever engaged in I usually have no problems explaining to women, and a lot of them have similar interests. Magic tho? :gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 06, 2013, 05:47:39 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 06, 2013, 05:44:01 PM

Not the game itself per se, but that you find enjoyment in sitting at a table with a bunch of other nerdy dudes, many of whom are socially incapable of not sticking their foot in their mouth for more than five minutes, to flop around pieces of cardboard.

Videogames, fantasy books, every other vaguely "nerdy" thing I've ever engaged in I usually have no problems explaining to women, and a lot of them have similar interests? Magic tho? :gurl

Well that's different from being taught. You enter into some kind of hobby shop like that as a woman sometimes and you're either asked where your bf is, completely patronized or a bunch of dudes don't even realize you exist because they're too fucking scared to say a word. It's pretty inhospitable. The last one I went to was cool but we weren't playing that shit.

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Post by: Mandark on August 06, 2013, 06:06:25 PM

Just explain that it's like Texas Hold 'Em, only with goblins and convoluted rules about what order actions proceed in.

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Post by: Flannel Boy on August 06, 2013, 06:41:22 PM

Quote from: Mandark on August 06, 2013, 06:06:25 PM

Just explain that it's like Texas Hold 'Em, only with goblins and convoluted rules about what order actions proceed in.

Then you'll have to explain NLHE to her--then you'll have to explain why you spend so much time playing it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on August 06, 2013, 06:47:51 PM

I love this thread :heartbeat

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Post by: tiesto on August 06, 2013, 07:16:01 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on August 06, 2013, 05:11:17 PM

It's true. Unless you somehow manage to immerse yourself in a gaggle of nerdy chicks who are single, you're better off slowly introducing most women to your utter nerdmode side.

I just put it all out there on my OKC profile, sure it may have scared away a few girls but I still got enough responses back :P

Some girls really appreciated the honesty; that I gave a true representation of myself on my profile.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 06, 2013, 07:39:33 PM

Quote from: tiesto on August 06, 2013, 07:16:01 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on August 06, 2013, 05:11:17 PM
It's true. Unless you somehow manage to immerse yourself in a gaggle of nerdy chicks who are single, you're better off slowly introducing most women to your utter nerdmode side.

I just put it all out there on my OKC profile, sure it may have scared away a few girls but I still got enough responses back :P

Some girls really appreciated the honesty; that I gave a true representation of myself on my profile.

That's just listing your interests though. There's a diff between that and showing them a room full of anime posters and figurines.

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Post by: Human Snorenado on August 06, 2013, 07:46:24 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on August 06, 2013, 05:47:39 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 06, 2013, 05:44:01 PM
Not the game itself per se, but that you find enjoyment in sitting at a table with a bunch of other nerdy dudes, many of whom are socially incapable of not sticking their foot in their mouth for more than five minutes, to flop around pieces of cardboard.

Videogames, fantasy books, every other vaguely "nerdy" thing I've ever engaged in I usually have no problems explaining to women, and a lot of them have similar interests? Magic tho? :gurl

Well that's different from being taught. You enter into some kind of hobby shop like that as a woman sometimes and you're either asked where your bf is, completely patronized or a bunch of dudes don't even realize you exist because they're too fucking scared to say a word. It's pretty inhospitable. The last one I went to was cool but we weren't playing that shit.

Yeah, I honestly think that for people who end up becoming regulars in hobby shops like that, it's sort of the last stop on social awkwardness before becoming a complete and total recluse or mass-murderer or something. Like, if you can manage to fit in there, at least you've fit in somewhere. And when someone that seems more normal (gasp! a pretty girl!) comes in, it totally fucks with their engineered environment in ways they're not ready for.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 06, 2013, 08:28:29 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 06, 2013, 07:46:24 PM

Yeah, I honestly think that for people who end up becoming regulars in hobby shops like that, it's sort of the last stop on social awkwardness before becoming a complete and total recluse or mass-murderer or something. Like, if you can manage to fit in there, at least you've fit in somewhere. And when someone that seems more normal (gasp! a pretty girl!) comes in, it totally fucks with their engineered environment in ways they're not ready for.

Happens in gaming and gaming related spaces in general. Girl comes in, you gotta take a lot of shit especially if you don't kowtow to stupid crap. If you're lucky you can find guys who are over that shit or are actually quite happy to have some diversity in their group.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 06, 2013, 08:31:33 PM

I think that's definitely true about internet forums to some degree, except for being able to be anonymous and filter your real-life personality.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on August 06, 2013, 10:16:47 PM

Bebpo - all this:

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on August 05, 2013, 11:49:19 PM

Depends on the girl, depends on the guy.

Just go with your gut feeling, man. And you know I was joking with that line.

Quote from: Eschaton on August 05, 2013, 11:51:29 PM

len's man did it because he was a fucking boss and had 100% confidence in himself. He probably figured that len was into him. You can do the same, if it's the right girl and the right time. Stop thinking about it so much.

Quote from: Mupepe on August 06, 2013, 07:31:36 AM

:lol This whole page is fucking gold

Len has the right idea. Just do it. A woman knows if you're being all nervous about it and I'd imagine it's a goddamn turn off.

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on August 05, 2013, 11:54:45 PM

If you're communicating for a while online there should honestly not be that much tension. Nervousness and anxiety sure but physically intimacy is easy after a bit of introduction. If a girl is really into you a kiss should be pretty easy to acquire without problems. This is of course based on my experience, but my experience is the men I was really into, I even kissed myself without prompt.

To answer your question specifically - why did I hug him - why the fuck not? Life's too short to be walking around thinking, "Ughhh I really like this person and I wonder if they like me and what if there's a spark but we're just too nervous to see it?" No. So if I walk in and hug him, I could feel any spark while seeing his reaction and still playing it off cool. If it felt awkward, I'd just do the quick tap and pretend that's just what I do to all my friends, nothing special or awkward. "oh sorry, I'm a hugger lol"

Fortunately for me, his reaction was hugging me super tight and kissing me. Why??? I don't know why! Because its not part of the rules, but we both wanted to. It made it special. He could have just hugged me back, and it would have left him wanting more throughout the date. He's not exactly patient though. :P

Yes, we "knew" each other beforehand, which honestly probably should have made it more awkward. Things were super awkward before we started talking on the phone, texting and messaging each other online. So knowing him beforehand didn't make the situation easier. What made it easier were our conversations beforehand - a blend of genuine care, interest in each other, and flirty jokes. We both felt romantic interest before our first date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 06, 2013, 10:24:37 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 06, 2013, 07:46:24 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on August 06, 2013, 05:47:39 PM
Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 06, 2013, 05:44:01 PM
Not the game itself per se, but that you find enjoyment in sitting at a table with a bunch of other nerdy dudes, many of whom are socially incapable of not sticking their foot in their mouth for more than five minutes, to flop around pieces of cardboard.

Videogames, fantasy books, every other vaguely "nerdy" thing I've ever engaged in I usually have no problems explaining to women, and a lot of them have similar interests? Magic tho? :gurl

Well that's different from being taught. You enter into some kind of hobby shop like that as a woman sometimes and you're either asked where your bf is, completely patronized or a bunch of dudes don't even realize you exist because they're too fucking scared to say a word. It's pretty inhospitable. The last one I went to was cool but we weren't playing that shit.

Yeah, I honestly think that for people who end up becoming regulars in hobby shops like that, it's sort of the last stop on social awkwardness before becoming a complete and total recluse or mass-murderer or something. Like, if you can manage to fit in there, at least you've fit in somewhere. And when someone that seems more normal (gasp! a pretty girl!) comes in, it totally fucks with their engineered environment in ways they're not ready for.

Man, you've nailed it.

So many times, even as a nerd in Ye Olde Nerd Shoppe, I've seen guys in there who have a palpable aura of desperation, an assumption that we're in some kind of brotherhood together, and this is the Last Safe Place for him. Those guys are horrifying.

Bring in someone without a penis, and they lose their shit. They either go fetal, or they go on the attack, either assuming that this is The One Girl They Have a Chance With or, even worse, they aggressively want them to justify their presence and validity in this holy ground for nerddom.

"HERE'S THE DEAL, SPORTO: IT ISN'T ALWAYS ABOUT YOU. CALM THE FUCK DOWN. TAKE YOUR LITHIUM AND LET THE NICE PERSON ENJOY THEIR TIME, TOO."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 06, 2013, 10:33:17 PM

The nerd store that I worked at for a while had a pretty good atmosphere, because it had a pretty diverse crowd show up there to game. A lot of the magic players were dudes in their later 20's/early 30's, and while nerdy dudes at that age aren't GUARANTEED to have it figured out, most of us did. And there was also a board gaming group of mostly older people that met up a couple times a week to game, and they were all really chill and there were actually plenty of women in that group.

Everyone hated the YuGiOh kids, though. Like, everyone. They were loud, stupid, obnoxious and didn't clean up after themselves. I was so happy when I got to cancel their weekly tournament one day.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on August 06, 2013, 11:22:16 PM

How does anyone read any post over two sentences in this thread?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on August 06, 2013, 11:24:04 PM

More proof that Twitter kills brain cells.

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Post by: hampster on August 06, 2013, 11:26:13 PM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on August 06, 2013, 03:56:03 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 06, 2013, 02:53:24 PM
I broke through a wall last night. I was coming home from the gym, running home like I usually do, and I just started sprinting. And here comes nerd alert, but it's the best analogy I can think of. You guys know in DBZ how Vegeta is basically killing himself to unlock his Super Saiyan ability, and it just won't happen? And then he's training during a meteor shower, and he just stops giving a single fuck, and it happens? That's kind of what I felt, except with no meteors and less golden hair.

This is the first time I literally facepalmed after reading something on the internet. I still love you though and I'm happy for you.

Don't worry awesom-o, I know that feel. Sometimes when I'm in the bathroom and the poop is putting up a fight I put my hands into a triangle and think of this scene while pushing

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0NhN86rKACA

spoiler (click to show/hide)

TRI-BEAM TRI-BEAM TRI-BEAM

::splash::

:whew

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on August 06, 2013, 11:28:54 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 06, 2013, 11:26:58 PM

50-60. 17 GB.

Your posts aren't even bad, I think I just black out when I see a Bebpo post.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on August 07, 2013, 01:07:06 AM

Saw Pacific Rim with this random overweight girl from MeetMe. I didn't want to go alone. Movie was awesome. She was creepy. Talked hella loud during the previews and movie, breathed like a Kaiju, and fell asleep like 20 times during the movie.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 07, 2013, 02:14:16 AM

I kissed the 21 year-old and then stuck my tongue down her throat. I didn't ask her for permission because fuck PD.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on August 07, 2013, 02:26:22 AM

Next time you can use your cock!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 07, 2013, 02:29:09 AM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 07, 2013, 02:44:31 AM

Quote

I'm definitely smitten :)

:pimp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 07, 2013, 03:07:34 AM

Malek is smiting gurls up in hurr :ohhh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 07, 2013, 12:08:44 PM

Quote

I don't have a gag reflex

:gladbron

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 07, 2013, 12:38:33 PM

"proof plz"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 07, 2013, 01:15:52 PM

A baby is a blessing ya'll.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 07, 2013, 01:20:34 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 07, 2013, 12:52:04 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 07, 2013, 02:29:09 AM
.

Thanks for editing your post and neutering my joke. I'm being forcefully sterilized even in the digital realm these days. :-\

I deleted it a minute before you responded. And I only deleted it because I was too drunk to edit it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 07, 2013, 01:50:43 PM

Maybe she just wants to fuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 07, 2013, 01:53:29 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 07, 2013, 01:24:11 PM

It still blows my mind that Star Wars Girl wants to go out again.

She's slogged through the Phantom Menace and Attack of the Clones, so she might as well watch Revenge of the Sith.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 08, 2013, 08:50:18 PM

Women. ::)

You know my age, you cold message me, you message me non-stop, you ask me out, you ask me out again, you message me non-stop some more, and now you tell me that our age difference bothers you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 08, 2013, 08:50:38 PM

At least the age difference can't make her gag.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 08, 2013, 09:09:48 PM

You go out with youngins, you usually get drama queens.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 08, 2013, 09:26:03 PM

Well, she hasn't dumped me yet. She has said she has to "think about it," which I guess just means she's putting it off.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 08, 2013, 09:59:14 PM

Yeah, I prefer being a shut-in to this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 08, 2013, 10:07:58 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on August 08, 2013, 09:09:48 PM

You go out with youngins, you usually get drama queens.

A-fucking-men, sister.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 09, 2013, 10:24:40 PM

Quote

I just wanna be banged by you.

I don't understand women.

Quote

I swallow

:gladbron

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on August 09, 2013, 11:48:04 PM

Because you don't understand what she sees in you?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on August 09, 2013, 11:54:23 PM

Quote from: Rufus on August 09, 2013, 11:48:04 PM

Because you don't understand what she sees in you?

It's more that she sees him in her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 10, 2013, 12:10:29 AM

She jut wants to bang. What is there to understand?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 10, 2013, 03:11:52 AM

put it all out there: ask for anal. and before dinner, natch.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 10, 2013, 03:16:04 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on August 10, 2013, 12:10:29 AM

She jut wants to bang. What is there to understand?

I'm not a piece of meat!

A smoking hot 25-year-old from the Czech Republic (why is she living in Winnipeg) seems attracted to me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 10, 2013, 03:17:00 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 10, 2013, 03:05:44 AM

Sounds about right. I'll try to set that up. I'll just need to find out if she's vegetarian/vegan or whatever.

You need to find that out before you ever ask her out in the first place.

Vegans. :yuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on August 10, 2013, 04:14:45 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 10, 2013, 03:16:04 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on August 10, 2013, 12:10:29 AM
She jut wants to bang. What is there to understand?

I'm not a piece of meat!

She wants the D. Oblige the lady. :mynicca

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 12, 2013, 12:19:29 AM

The Czech* agreed to a date. Now let's see whether I can deposit that Czech (I don't know what that means[answer is no anyway]).

*she looks like a computer-generated composite made from a database of Czech porn stars.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 12, 2013, 01:54:00 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 12, 2013, 01:48:46 AM

I bet the Czech ends up in the male.

So she pegs and he receives?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on August 12, 2013, 12:14:03 PM

The ex bragged to me about how she's hanging out with a friend who is more than a friend now today and won't be able to talk to me much. "But Fatal.." you say, "...she's only 17 so you really shouldn't give a shit about her anymore!" I know, I know. In all honesty I should just sever communication and delete her from Facebook but eh. I'll just start looking at her like my little sister.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 12, 2013, 12:18:55 PM

Little sister's gotta learn the ropes somehow. Might as well be from her big brother with his big...

spoiler (click to show/hide)

shoes

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on August 12, 2013, 12:27:49 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 12, 2013, 12:18:55 PM

Little sister's gotta learn the ropes somehow. Might as well be from her big brother with his big...
spoiler (click to show/hide)
shoes
[close]

I hate you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 12, 2013, 12:31:09 PM

Whats the point of catching feels if youre a decade away from settling down?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on August 12, 2013, 12:37:19 PM

If he had thought his way into feeling this way he'd be able to think himself out. But that's unfortunately not how it works.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on August 12, 2013, 12:42:09 PM

Quote from: FatalT on August 12, 2013, 12:14:03 PM

The ex bragged to me about how she's hanging out with a friend who is more than a friend now today and won't be able to talk to me much. "But Fatal.." you say, "...she's only 17 so you really shouldn't give a shit about her anymore!" I know, I know. In all honesty I should just sever communication and delete her from Facebook but eh. I'll just start looking at her like my little sister.

It's so awkward buying large condoms for my little sister

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on August 12, 2013, 12:56:26 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on August 12, 2013, 12:31:09 PM

Whats the point of catching feels if youre a decade away from settling down?

Because I'm 24 (25 next month) and somewhat ready to find a stable relationship GO AWAY CHRIS HANSEN :-\

Quote from: Rufus on August 12, 2013, 12:37:19 PM

If he had thought his way into feeling this way he'd be able to think himself out. But that's unfortunately not how it works.

Sounds about right. Last time I got all mopey and depressed after a serious relationship, it lasted like a month and then I moved on to different people. Since this didn't last the 2 and a half years that one did, this should be over by 5:00 PM.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on August 12, 2013, 01:04:44 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 12, 2013, 01:02:25 PM

Quote from: FatalT on August 12, 2013, 12:56:26 PM
Quote from: Premium Lager on August 12, 2013, 12:31:09 PM
Whats the point of catching feels if youre a decade away from settling down?

Because I'm 24 (25 next month) and somewhat ready to find a stable relationship GO AWAY CHRIS HANSEN :-\

I thought you were 19 for some reason. This just got a bit creepier.

(http://i.imgur.com/ghusMaq.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on August 12, 2013, 01:14:29 PM

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 12, 2013, 02:06:45 PM

Yeah i thought you were 19 too.

Console yourself with the fact that someone that is 17 is not ready for anything serious.

Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone with no life experience??

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 12, 2013, 04:26:14 PM

this thread's gettin' sexy again! tell us more about what you'd like to do with little sis... :drool :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 12, 2013, 06:00:57 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 08, 2013, 09:26:03 PM

Well, she hasn't dumped me yet. She has said she has to "think about it," which I guess just means she's putting it off.

And . . . she finally stopped putting it off, but only after teasing me 500 times. Great. And she claims she can't see me only because she "doesn't have time" to date. Right--that's why you joined a dating site a little over a week ago and, since then, sent me over 300 messages. No time.

Brad Pitt: Wanna go out.
21-yr-old: I have no time!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 12, 2013, 10:04:42 PM

Next time you're on a date, you could humbly brag about how often you get asked out on that site by random women who you would never normally go out with (read: they're very different). Then maybe next time a girl will be a bit more upfront and you won't shower us with so many horror stories. Cause man, it's just depressing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 12, 2013, 10:22:51 PM

My middle name is Depressing. Actually, I don't have a middle name--that's even more depressing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 12, 2013, 10:35:37 PM

My middle name is so boss. :smug

:bow Roman :bow2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 12, 2013, 11:45:41 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 12, 2013, 06:00:57 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 08, 2013, 09:26:03 PM
Well, she hasn't dumped me yet. She has said she has to "think about it," which I guess just means she's putting it off.

And . . . she finally stopped putting it off, but only after teasing me 500 times. Great. And she claims she can't see me only because she "doesn't have time" to date. Right--that's why you joined a dating site a little over a week ago and, since then, sent me over 300 messages. No time.

Brad Pitt: Wanna go out.
21-yr-old: I have no time!

"I'm busy" is what a lot of girls will say in lieu of "not interested, sorry". Girls who liked me and truly were busy (i.e. a med school student, a lawyer who frequently traveled), still made every effort to keep in contact and wanted to go out when they truly were free.

FatalT's Little Sister Can't Be This Cute.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 13, 2013, 01:07:35 AM

I just got asked out by a Russian. I agreed despite my concerns regarding my organs.

Really, if I can't make it with Slavic women, I shouldn't even try anymore.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 13, 2013, 09:56:51 PM

Single again. My now ex wants to travel the world with a friend of hers. Which I assume will mean impaling herself on the dicks of the locals.

No big deal, onwards and upwards.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 13, 2013, 10:00:14 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on August 13, 2013, 09:56:51 PM

Single again. My now ex wants to travel the world with a friend of hers. Which I assume will mean impaling herself on the dicks of the locals.

No big deal, onwards and upwards.

fucking Diunx... :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 13, 2013, 11:59:38 PM

Little chance the Czech felt a spark. I might as well be Marian Hossa.

Have a date with a photographer tomorrow.

The 21-year-old seems to want to see me again. . . .

I am very drunk so you're lucky that I can write in complete sentence--don't expect paragraphs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 14, 2013, 12:21:10 AM

OK, so the 21-year-old now wants to see me one or two times a week.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 14, 2013, 12:33:07 AM

It's like you guys are playing Dark Souls or something
:heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 14, 2013, 01:44:41 AM

dating sites are annoying

Quote

your smile is super cute.

You won't feel the spark in real life. Leave me alone.

God, she has perfect curves. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on August 14, 2013, 09:30:27 AM

Believe.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on August 14, 2013, 10:10:06 AM

Women need to learn how to objectify men. I don't want to hear that my smile is cute or my hair looks nice, I want to hear that my hips look powerful and dangerous.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 14, 2013, 10:28:14 AM

"Damn! Check out that shoulder to waist ratio!"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 14, 2013, 12:09:36 PM

Isn't that what she means when she say she has a cute smile? I assume it's the same as telling a girl she has nice eyes when you're really thinking of her ass or boobs, it's just a bit subtle. Some girls will outright tell men that they look pretty masculine or intimidating and that always comes off as weird. And let's not forget that a lot of modern girls love femme guys and calling a guy pretty can have very mixed reactions.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 14, 2013, 12:17:51 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on August 14, 2013, 12:09:36 PM

Isn't that what she means when she say she has a cute smile? I assume it's the same as telling a girl she has nice eyes when you're really thinking of her ass or boobs, it's just a bit subtle. Some girls will outright tell men that they look pretty masculine or intimidating and that always comes off as weird. And let's not forget that a lot of modern girls love femme guys and calling a guy pretty can have very mixed reactions.

Does it? I've always found it flattering. Kinda how in my ideal world a woman would be flattered when I told her that her ass is beautiful.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on August 14, 2013, 12:36:50 PM

Hedging your compliments against embarrashment is a pretty sound and wide-spread strategy though. Varying levels of experience and 'special fellow obliviousness complicate the matter, but ideally, either party knows that "beatiful eyes" and "have coffee" has more than one meaning. If they don't react to the sub-text you can at least claim that it was never about that anyway, saving face in the process.

You know, I think we deserve a robot apocalypse.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 14, 2013, 11:15:00 PM

So I introduced my g/f to vocaloids and she wasn't running for the hills... yeah this one is definitely a keeper.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 14, 2013, 11:19:09 PM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on August 14, 2013, 10:10:06 AM

Women need to learn how to objectify men. I don't want to hear that my smile is cute or my hair looks nice, I want to hear that my hips look powerful and dangerous.

I objectify asses all of the time. Stop dating prudes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 14, 2013, 11:23:11 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on August 14, 2013, 11:19:09 PM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on August 14, 2013, 10:10:06 AM
Women need to learn how to objectify men. I don't want to hear that my smile is cute or my hair looks nice, I want to hear that my hips look powerful and dangerous.

I objectify asses all of the time. Stop dating prudes.

I have a big plump ass and I've gotten complimented on it all the time (between the big ass and my inexplicable love for 80's freestyle I swear I was a Puerto Rican chick in a former life)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 15, 2013, 12:01:03 AM

The photographer is gf material (not going to list her positives). The date went well, but she likely didn't feel "the spark." She did tell me to contact her if I wanted to "hang-out," whatever that means.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 15, 2013, 12:36:43 AM

It's girl speak for, "I like you well enough to keep around, but not well enough to get freaky with."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 15, 2013, 01:17:00 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 15, 2013, 12:36:43 AM

It's girl speak for, "I like you well enough to keep around, but not well enough to get freaky with."

I thought it might mean something like this. I'd say I'm disappointed--especially since she's a big Jenny Lewis fan--but this was the first date I came to with no expectations.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 15, 2013, 02:44:51 PM

Quote from: The Business on August 15, 2013, 08:43:08 AM

Hang-means means sex in every instance except for this one.

>:(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 15, 2013, 08:32:24 PM

Welp, I went to the mall after work to pick up some new shoes. I then sat down to get a quick bite to eat when I ran into a girl who's a friend of the family. Hadn't seen her in awhile, we ate together and had a good time. She then asked for my number and I declined because...well...she's 17. She looks almost exactly like Nicki Minaj (body wise...) just with a naturally beautiful face, no uber makeup. She laughed and was like "well I turn 18 in three months, I know we'll run into each other during the holidays lol"
:stahp

Fatal, help

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 15, 2013, 08:42:16 PM

destroy her cornflower, pd.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 15, 2013, 08:45:29 PM

You went to the mall.

That's like teenager central.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 15, 2013, 08:51:05 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on August 15, 2013, 08:45:29 PM

You went to the mall.

That's like teenager central.

I went to go to Foot Locker and get some food! It's not my fault

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 15, 2013, 08:52:40 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 15, 2013, 08:51:05 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on August 15, 2013, 08:45:29 PM
You went to the mall.

That's like teenager central.

I went to go to Foot Locker and get some food! It's not my fault

I know. I go there too. I have to remind myself while I'm there it's a teenage wasteland though. Last time I totally saw two 15 yr olds making out right by the playpen.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on August 15, 2013, 08:54:45 PM

Fatal succumbed to temptation, dude. He's not going to discourage you. Not as far as casual sex goes, anyway.

Actually, nobody here is.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 15, 2013, 09:46:35 PM

Well it was a family friend you perverted Persian.

Title: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on August 15, 2013, 11:39:15 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 15, 2013, 08:32:24 PM

Welp, I went to the mall after work to pick up some new shoes. I then sat down to get a quick bite to eat when I ran into a girl who's a friend of the family. Hadn't seen her in awhile, we ate together and had a good time. She then asked for my number and I declined because...well...she's 17. She looks almost exactly like Nicki Minaj (body wise...) just with a naturally beautiful face, no uber makeup. She laughed and was like "well I turn 18 in three months, I know we'll run into each other during the holidays lol"
:stahp

Fatal, help

Go for it. Three months until 18? Family friend? Honestly if you pursue an actual relationship with her and anything happens your family will take your side. Enjoy yourself!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 16, 2013, 09:49:26 PM

The date with the Russian went OK considering I was completely asexual. :-\

Anyway the Photographer messaged me back:

Quote

Hey,

Thanks, I had a good time also. Thanks for the glasses of wine!

Have a good weekend. :)

[deleted]

Does this message, in conjunction with her comment about hanging out again, open up the possibility for a second date? I have no clue.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 16, 2013, 09:53:04 PM

Yes, I'd say so. This is going to sound incredibly cliche, but WAIT A FEW DAYS BEFORE MESSAGING HER BACK. Keep your message brief, and make a suggestion about what you could do on your second time out. Be cool and have a plan*

*plan should not involve incapacitating her with chloroform and then slowly dismembering her in your basement. Let's keep things on the level in here and out of Arvie-land.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 16, 2013, 09:59:15 PM

Well, she is going up to a cabin for the weekend, so I might as well wait a few days.

Any date ideas for an artsy intellectual?

That shouldn't be a problem--I don't have a basement.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 17, 2013, 12:27:09 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 16, 2013, 09:59:15 PM

Well, she is going up to a cabin for the weekend, so I might as well wait a few days.

Any date ideas for an artsy intellectual?

That shouldn't be a problem--I don't have a basement.

Museum? Gallery? Walk around the trendy "artsy" part of the city? (not sure if this is even present in Winnipeg, but hell even Buffalo had an area kinda like this...)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 17, 2013, 03:14:22 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 16, 2013, 09:59:15 PM

Well, she is going up to a cabin for the weekend, so I might as well wait a few days.

Any date ideas for an artsy intellectual?

That shouldn't be a problem--I don't have a basement.

stick it up her pooper, jesus people i shouldn't hafta repeat myself

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on August 17, 2013, 07:29:59 PM

Make stencils of Foucault quotes. :dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 17, 2013, 08:22:31 PM

Just respond to everything with "I would prefer not to" for the entire date. Very meta.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 17, 2013, 08:23:29 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 16, 2013, 09:59:15 PM

Well, she is going up to a cabin for the weekend, so I might as well wait a few days.

Any date ideas for an artsy intellectual?

That shouldn't be a problem--I don't have a basement.

Go to a play. Seriously.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 18, 2013, 10:57:11 PM

I don't even know how the date with the Ukrainian Civil Servant went tonight. I have no fucking clue. I give up!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 18, 2013, 10:59:45 PM

I thought all you had to do with Ukrainian girls is feed them and you're good to go.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 18, 2013, 11:25:18 PM

It's more complicated when they're born and raised in Canada. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 19, 2013, 01:36:59 AM

Quote from: Shark Johnson on August 19, 2013, 01:07:42 AM

So hey, I may be going out on a date this week. Welp.

It's all right to be nervous as long as you don't get really self-conscious and weird. And don't pick at your beard constantly when you get jittery or awkward (if you still have one).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 20, 2013, 01:18:43 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 12, 2013, 12:19:29 AM

The Czech* agreed to a date. Now let's see whether I can deposit that Czech (I don't know what that means[answer is no anyway]).

*she looks like a computer-generated composite made from a database of Czech porn stars.

:hyper

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 13, 2013, 11:59:38 PM

Little chance the Czech felt a spark. I might as well be Marian Hossa.

:'( :'( :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 20, 2013, 09:38:45 AM

Yep. If she's interested she will let you know. I'd drop it if I were you. Oh well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on August 20, 2013, 04:06:01 PM

The details are what this thread exists for. If you're not going to slut shame, then don't post at all, chump.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 20, 2013, 04:33:43 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 20, 2013, 04:14:14 PM

The gist of it is that this girl and I had some interactions where everything that she actually said indicated that she wanted to go out again, but her actions indicated the exact opposite.

I went ahead and sent an email basically picking up where our last interaction left off as though I were completely oblivious to the fact that we haven't talked in two weeks. This time I can honestly say it was fire and forget. If she gets back to me with a yes answer, great. If she writes back saying she doesn't feel the spark, great. If she never replies, great.

You sent an email after your last post on it? smh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on August 20, 2013, 04:39:24 PM

He was doing so well. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: T234 on August 20, 2013, 04:46:00 PM

Trouble in paradise. My ladyfriend stole buds out of my pocket while I was asleep. When I was gonna smoke the VAST majority of it with her. Goddammit, bitch, it don't matter how much of it you've seen me with, I don't care. I DO NOT TOLERATE THIEVERY. Were it a man, I woulda beat them until I couldn't anymore.

I just screamed "I AIN'T NO GODDAMN SAM ROTHSTEIN!" and left forever. Serious MDMA binge for the ages incoming. :( :( :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on August 20, 2013, 04:49:21 PM

What? She stole some buds. Like to take away with her or just to smoke while you were napping? Because if it's the latter you're a tight shit distinguished mentally-challenged fellow.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Howard Alan Treesong on August 20, 2013, 04:51:18 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 15, 2013, 08:51:05 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on August 15, 2013, 08:45:29 PM
You went to the mall.

That's like teenager central.

I went to go to Foot Locker and get some food! It's not my fault

sometimes your feet feel good and you want to celebrate with a new pair of shoes from Foot Locker

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: T234 on August 20, 2013, 04:52:37 PM

Like to steal. There was a goddamn humidor with 50 blunts of 25 different strains sitting right on the table. And it was about $175 worth of weed she took.

The part that pisses me off was the fact that if she had asked, I'd have given it to her. And she knew that. I gave her 8 different 8ths of the best fucking weed I'd ever seen for her birthday.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on August 20, 2013, 05:02:17 PM

Oh yeah that is fucked up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 20, 2013, 05:09:11 PM

I wish I had pockets that big.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 20, 2013, 06:21:15 PM

/me realizes he has too much in common with GS.

Sorry to hear that, T234. Your reaction is understandable.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on August 20, 2013, 06:42:31 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 20, 2013, 06:21:15 PM

/me realizes he has too much in common with GS.

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on August 04, 2013, 02:45:06 PM

Awesome-O and Malek should date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 20, 2013, 06:57:37 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 20, 2013, 06:56:57 PM

The traits we have in common are traits that lots of guys have.

Then what's your excuse?

;p

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on August 20, 2013, 07:06:55 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 20, 2013, 06:56:57 PM

Besides, I sent one email after being out of town for like five days when the last thing she said when we actually spoke was "Yeah, let's touch base next week and hang out." If she responds with something like "Lol, no, I didn't actually mean that, didn't you get the hint?" then I'll just move on.

You can't expect that though. A lot of people are wishy washy and expect others to just get the hint somehow so they don't have to say anything overtly confrontational.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 20, 2013, 07:15:28 PM

I don't know why this has to be said, but I feel like I have to say it, if a girl/woman is really interested in you and not playing games then you shouldn't have to go out of your way to keep the contact up with her. She should be maintain just as much if not more contact with you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on August 20, 2013, 07:17:49 PM

Quote from: The Business on August 20, 2013, 07:13:03 PM

B) It's not as good as you think it will be. If you have annoyed another person so much that they are LETTING YOU KNOW IT then you have gone way way too far already.

This. At best, you look like a needy fool. At worst, like a psycho stalker. If she doesn't reciprocate it's time to cut your losses and move on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 20, 2013, 07:22:12 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 20, 2013, 07:15:44 PM

And here's a post that does contribute. You're probably right. Oh well. She's free to ignore my casual and not at all stalkery message if she wants to. It's the only one I'll send.

I know it has to be hard and I haven't gone through this bullshit myself but seeing the beginning of my relationships through my scope, I was really into the guys I was communicating with probably moreso than they were. So when I see a guy trying so hard to maintain communication with a flighty chick I just want to tell him it's not worth it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 20, 2013, 07:25:07 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 20, 2013, 07:24:08 PM

Again, you're right, but one email in two weeks != trying hard. Thanks for the advice though.

Well trying harder than she is obviously.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 20, 2013, 09:33:46 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on August 20, 2013, 07:25:07 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 20, 2013, 07:24:08 PM
Again, you're right, but one email in two weeks != trying hard. Thanks for the advice though.

Well trying harder than she is obviously.

(http://imageshack.us/a/img543/8877/walter.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 20, 2013, 09:42:35 PM

Quote from: T234 on August 20, 2013, 04:46:00 PM

Trouble in paradise. My ladyfriend stole buds out of my pocket while I was asleep. When I was gonna smoke the VAST majority of it with her. Goddammit, bitch, it don't matter how much of it you've seen me with, I don't care. I DO NOT TOLERATE THIEVERY. Were it a man, I woulda beat them until I couldn't anymore.

I just screamed "I AIN'T NO GODDAMN SAM ROTHSTEIN!" and left forever. Serious MDMA binge for the ages incoming. :( :( :(

Come up to visit me in NY, Electric Zoo is next weekend and you'll be in good company should you choose to partake in an MDMA binge.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on August 20, 2013, 09:46:12 PM

I'll take up for GS a bit here.

Adults in a dating situation shouldn't be so conflict-averse that they avoid a brief bit of potentially hurtful honesty. If you've gone out with someone and said encouraging things to them, but now they want to keep it going and you want to end it, then the grown-ass thing to do is tell them directly, rather than ducking them and assuming they'll get the hint at some point because gosh

Which isn't to say you can expect people to always act how they should, or that you don't need to learn to interpret passive-aggressive (non-)communication as a dating and life skill (I wouldn't have made that call, but at least it wasn't a letter!). But that doesn't mean the way she handled it was totally kosher, or what we ought to expect from people, women, or ourselves.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 20, 2013, 09:47:46 PM

Quote from: Mandark on August 20, 2013, 09:46:12 PM

I'll take up for GS a bit here.

Adults in a dating situation shouldn't be so conflict-averse that they avoid a brief bit of potentially hurtful honesty. If you've gone out with someone and said encouraging things to them, but now they want to keep it going and you want to end it, then the grown-ass thing to do is tell them directly, rather than ducking them and assuming they'll get the hint at some point because gosh

Which isn't to say you can expect people to always act how they should, or that you don't need to learn to interpret passive-aggressive (non-)communication as a dating and life skill (I wouldn't have made that call, but at least it wasn't a letter!). But that doesn't mean the way she handled it was totally kosher, or what we ought to expect from people, women, or ourselves.

This is what I imagine Malek's date conversation to be like.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on August 20, 2013, 09:50:20 PM

Malek's dick is busy breaking the glass ceiling that is the Half Your Age Plus Seven rule. Whatever he's doing is working well enough.

edit: The main difference between this and the Fit Girl Saga being that FG let Malek know she wasn't interested. I think you have an obligation to tell someone why you don't want to go out with them again, but you don't have an obligation to give them a detailed justification of your decision.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 20, 2013, 09:59:49 PM

Quote from: Mandark on August 20, 2013, 09:50:20 PM

Malek's dick is busy breaking the glass ceiling that is the Half Your Age Plus Seven rule. Whatever he's doing is working well enough.

edit: The main difference between this and the Fit Girl Saga being that FG let Malek know she wasn't interested. I think you have an obligation to tell someone why you don't want to go out with them again, but you don't have an obligation to give them a detailed justification of your decision.

What if you've had sex?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: T234 on August 20, 2013, 10:04:58 PM

Quote from: tiesto on August 20, 2013, 09:42:35 PM

Quote from: T234 on August 20, 2013, 04:46:00 PM
Trouble in paradise. My ladyfriend stole buds out of my pocket while I was asleep. When I was gonna smoke the VAST majority of it with her. Goddammit, bitch, it don't matter how much of it you've seen me with, I don't care. I DO NOT TOLERATE THIEVERY. Were it a man, I woulda beat them until I couldn't anymore.

I just screamed "I AIN'T NO GODDAMN SAM ROTHSTEIN!" and left forever. Serious MDMA binge for the ages incoming. :( :( :(

Come up to visit me in NY, Electric Zoo is next weekend and you'll be in good company should you choose to partake in an MDMA binge.

If I hadn't ate a bunch tonight I would. I imagine me coming to NYC would be wild.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on August 20, 2013, 10:06:19 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 20, 2013, 07:20:16 PM

You do read my posts, right?

Not the one you neutered later. I just saw a list of events but didn't read it. If what I said doesn't apply in this situation I apologize for talking past you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 20, 2013, 10:15:23 PM

Quote from: Mandark on August 20, 2013, 09:46:12 PM

I'll take up for GS a bit here.

Adults in a dating situation shouldn't be so conflict-averse that they avoid a brief bit of potentially hurtful honesty. If you've gone out with someone and said encouraging things to them, but now they want to keep it going and you want to end it, then the grown-ass thing to do is tell them directly, rather than ducking them and assuming they'll get the hint at some point because gosh

Which isn't to say you can expect people to always act how they should, or that you don't need to learn to interpret passive-aggressive (non-)communication as a dating and life skill (I wouldn't have made that call, but at least it wasn't a letter!). But that doesn't mean the way she handled it was totally kosher, or what we ought to expect from people, women, or ourselves.

Yeah, well, they are. I've heard of marriages getting broken up via text messaging.

Most people are conflict-averse because they don't want to deal with the ugliness face to face or to give an explanation that is shitty (ie, "I found some newer, better dick to ride on. Go away.") and would sound shitty if said out loud. So it's best (to them) just to duck and hide or send a couple of text messages and end it that way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 20, 2013, 10:41:39 PM

god i love this thread

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on August 20, 2013, 10:52:05 PM

I'm not even sure why it's called RELATIONSHIPS anymore. It should just be CONSTANT REJECTION: The thread of your life not knotted with anyone

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on August 20, 2013, 10:56:30 PM

Quote from: Steve Contra on August 20, 2013, 10:52:05 PM

I'm not even sure why it's called RELATIONSHIPS anymore. It should just be CONSTANT REJECTION: The thread of your life not knotted with anyone

And thank God for it. Listening to people talk about how happy they are in a relationship is like listening to them tell you about their fantasy team, a weird dream they had, or their motorcycle.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 21, 2013, 12:40:01 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 20, 2013, 10:53:40 PM

People are scared to post their successes because of The Business.

Eh. I just come from a school of thought that other than close friends, that shit is private. I may ask a weird random question/post a humblebrag (like when I was going on a couple of dates/nailing a 21 year old) but by and large, you guys don't get to know my shit because I don't want you to, and I have people IRL that I trust with that shit. Also, when I'm drunk I'll post crazy shit on social media and then delete it when I sober up, so there's that, too.

I understand that not everyone is the same and some people might need/want to bounce ideas off other people here, vent, etc. Which is perfectly acceptable.

Also, if everyone was a former soldier (vag-magnet) in great shape (further vag-magnet) that dressed well (yet FURTHER vag-magnet) then they'd probably be as successful as The Business, too.

...well, not bebpo, but whatever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 21, 2013, 12:42:01 AM

i wanna talk about my motorcycle(s)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 21, 2013, 12:58:08 AM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on August 21, 2013, 12:42:01 AM

i wanna talk about my motorcycle(s)

What did you name your crotch rockets?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 21, 2013, 01:27:12 AM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on August 21, 2013, 12:58:08 AM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on August 21, 2013, 12:42:01 AM
i wanna talk about my motorcycle(s)

What did you name your crotch rockets?

"the red one" and "the black one" :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 21, 2013, 01:32:49 AM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on August 21, 2013, 01:27:12 AM

"the red one" and "the black one" :'(

Come on man. Give 'em some names. BF's first gf was a scooter named Jessica.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on August 21, 2013, 09:28:45 AM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on August 21, 2013, 01:32:49 AM

a scooter

:teehee

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 21, 2013, 10:11:22 AM

I named my motorcycle Gipsy Danger.

I don't talk about my relationship in here because it's pretty damn stable. This seems just like a place where you talk about new accomplishments or horrible failures.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 21, 2013, 10:54:06 AM

:)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ygZdOKY-LPg

Thanks for everything guys & gals.

Will be posting more in the gaming side in the future.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 21, 2013, 03:18:33 PM

For those who enjoy schadenfreude:

Quote

I don't think we really had that spark though

Dat spark!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 21, 2013, 03:19:58 PM

Your response should be, "babe give me 10 minutes and I'll short-circuit your pants".

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 21, 2013, 03:28:04 PM

Awkward: a woman from my charity law class viewed my okcupid profile.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 21, 2013, 03:44:56 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 21, 2013, 03:18:33 PM

For those who enjoy schadenfreude:

Quote
I don't think we really had that spark though

Dat spark!

Is this the new youngun?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 21, 2013, 03:47:00 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 21, 2013, 03:28:04 PM

Awkward: a woman from my charity law class viewed my okcupid profile.

Maybe I don't know the rules of okc, but why is this awkward? Maybe she was hoping to catch a glimpse of some selfies.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 21, 2013, 04:31:44 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 21, 2013, 03:44:56 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 21, 2013, 03:18:33 PM
For those who enjoy schadenfreude:

Quote
I don't think we really had that spark though

Dat spark!
Is this the new youngun?

No. She is still jerking me around instead of jerkin' me off.

This was the government worker from Sunday.

Quote from: macuser3of5 on August 21, 2013, 03:47:00 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 21, 2013, 03:28:04 PM
Awkward: a woman from my charity law class viewed my okcupid profile.
Maybe I don't know the rules of okc, but why is this awkward? Maybe she was hoping to catch a glimpse of some selfies.

And that's what makes it awkward.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 21, 2013, 04:32:36 PM

You should just message her and ask if she wants cock pics... what could go wrong?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 21, 2013, 04:35:44 PM

why is a girl looking you up on a dating site awkward? could be she wanted to see if you are cigarillo/in a relationship without going to the trouble to ask. maybe she just wants to see what you're about. isn't that why you have a okc account in the first place?

thinking too much about it yo.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 21, 2013, 05:41:48 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 21, 2013, 04:32:36 PM

You should just message her and ask if she wants cock pics... what could go wrong?

I just went ahead and sent her the cock pics without asking.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 21, 2013, 05:46:01 PM

Quote from: macuser3of5 on August 21, 2013, 04:35:44 PM

why is a girl looking you up on a dating site awkward? could be she wanted to see if you are cigarillo/in a relationship without going to the trouble to ask. maybe she just wants to see what you're about. isn't that why you have a okc account in the first place?

thinking too much about it yo.

Because if she didn't want to show up on his visitors list she could have just opened it in an incognito tab so obviously the fact that she didn't do that and didn't send him a message is like her preemptively saying there isn't a spark.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 21, 2013, 06:03:23 PM

Yeah, that's definitely not it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 21, 2013, 06:25:37 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 21, 2013, 06:16:39 PM

Or maybe she saw his pic and was like "Wow, is that that guy from my law class? I'm gonna click and find out."

so awkward

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 21, 2013, 06:34:44 PM

How is it awkward to see a thumbnail and think "is this guy in my class? I need to look at more pics to figure this out." Jesus. Over thinking to the max again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 21, 2013, 06:42:36 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on August 21, 2013, 06:03:23 PM

Yeah, that's definitely not it.

My point is that if you overthink it and make yourself feel awkward then there is no chance for your genitals to touch each other.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 21, 2013, 07:02:58 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on August 21, 2013, 05:46:01 PM

Quote from: macuser3of5 on August 21, 2013, 04:35:44 PM
why is a girl looking you up on a dating site awkward? could be she wanted to see if you are cigarillo/in a relationship without going to the trouble to ask. maybe she just wants to see what you're about. isn't that why you have a okc account in the first place?

thinking too much about it yo.

Because if she didn't want to show up on his visitors list she could have just opened it in an incognito tab so obviously the fact that she didn't do that and didn't send him a message is like her preemptively saying there isn't a spark.

this is actually pretty good trolling.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 21, 2013, 09:15:32 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on August 21, 2013, 06:34:44 PM

How is it awkward to see a thumbnail and think "is this guy in my class? I need to look at more pics to figure this out." Jesus. Over thinking to the max again.

Yeah, uh, that is exactly what I would do if I saw a pic on a dating site and thought it looked like a person I may know irl.

...which I've done before.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on August 22, 2013, 02:07:41 PM

"You're bi. And I showed your picture to three girls and two asked if you were gay."

What the fuck girl get outta here. I'm dying laughing at this shit. YOU DON'T KNOW ME! GIRL YOU DON'T KNOW ME!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on August 22, 2013, 02:51:06 PM

Their expert panel has concluded that you are gay. Who are you to say otherwise?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on August 22, 2013, 02:52:02 PM

Quote from: Rufus on August 22, 2013, 02:51:06 PM

Their expert panel has concluded that you are gay. Who are you to say otherwise?

Welp, shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 22, 2013, 03:33:19 PM

She just probably found your posts on here and it all made sense

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 22, 2013, 05:01:57 PM

I cancelled my remaining first dates. I was especially sad about canceling the date with the spunky ginger. :/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on August 22, 2013, 05:56:19 PM

suicide is not the answer malek

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 22, 2013, 08:16:40 PM

Quote from: Positive Touch on August 22, 2013, 05:56:19 PM

suicide is not the answer malek

Agreed.

Although, if you decide that memberships to porn sites ARE the answer, you can always share the passwords.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 23, 2013, 01:33:25 AM

Quote from: Positive Touch on August 22, 2013, 05:56:19 PM

suicide is not the answer malek

How do you know? Have you ever tried it?

It does seem tempting, especially today, but I'm just moving back to Toronto instead.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 23, 2013, 01:58:31 AM

Moving for some people isn't going to change their inability to stop overthinking/overanalyzing the women they do happen to meet and greet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 23, 2013, 07:50:00 PM

Devo, my moving back to Toronto has nothing to do with women (if that's what you're implying). I planned to move back before I even started online dating at the end of April (this could be confirmed by Cajole).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 23, 2013, 07:52:21 PM

No. Just sayin' location doesn't make a diff. But why Toronto? If I had to be in Canada I'd take my ass to Vancouver.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 23, 2013, 07:55:52 PM

Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on August 23, 2013, 07:55:17 PM

I assume it's because he's from Toronto.

I'd still move to Vancouver.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 24, 2013, 04:50:23 PM

Arvie+Gundam would probably be the most handsome stud+wingman combo on The Bore.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 25, 2013, 11:50:38 AM

For guys who think they're owed some kind of explanation about why there will be no further dates, refer to this Margaret Atwood quote: "Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them."

Women have NO IDEA how obsessive a guy is; having someone pursue them after they've shown no further interest in continuing the relationship looks like some form of cluelessness at best, stalkerish and frightening at worst. Women assume the actually properly socialized men will understand that it was just not going to work and move on. Explaining why it wasn't going to work is a form of confrontation, and that can lead to unpredictable reactions.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 25, 2013, 05:01:43 PM

Some dudes build a lot of shit up in their head. :-\ When it comes crashing down, oh boy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 25, 2013, 07:01:53 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on August 25, 2013, 05:01:43 PM

Some dudes build a lot of shit up in their head. :-\ When it comes crashing down, oh boy.

I'd say most dudes do, but the ones who can figure it out on their own without outwardly seeming nuts about it just seem like they have their shit more together. Frankly, I don't have time in my life for people who don't know who they are and what they want anymore, so when people seem wishy-washy after a little bit, I just sort of politely excuse myself out of their lives.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 26, 2013, 02:12:48 AM

That's not vindication, that's trolling.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 26, 2013, 02:20:59 AM

Your number one problem in life is that you care too much. Quit being that guy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on August 26, 2013, 02:56:37 AM

chrono: Point very well taken.

I still don't like the idea that "properly socialized" implies an expectation that women will always avoid directness or even small amounts of conflict. At some point (totally legitimate) caution in the face of the (very real) threat of male violence becomes entangled with the idea that it's unacceptable/bitchy for women to ever be assertive or say "no". IME, especially when I was younger, the girls who were most likely to count on a boy taking a hint were also the least likely to deal with problems directly, even among their family and girl friends.

Oh well. Like most of this shit, it would get a lot simpler if dudes would stop assaulting women.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 26, 2013, 03:55:54 AM

Yeah, I agree.

I used to be one of those guys, and the problem is that it doesn't matter if we like it or not, or agree with it or not, it is just a part of our current culture. There is no point in taking it personally, either. It doesn't say anything about you, Awesome-O, or me-- it is about her feelings and need for safety, and about what a despairingly scarce commodity it is for her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 26, 2013, 03:58:05 AM

Quote from: chronovore on August 26, 2013, 03:55:54 AM

Yeah, I agree.

I used to be one of those guys, and the problem is that it doesn't matter if we like it or not, or agree with it or not, it is just a part of our current culture. There is no point in taking it personally, either. It doesn't say anything about you, Awesome-O, or me-- it is about her feelings and need for safety, and about what a despairingly scarce commodity it is for her.

I don't think I've met a woman (this includes myself) without some kind of stalker whether a stranger, would be relationship or ex. The only difference is how scary and violent it got and how long it lasted. But nearly every one of them has "been there" in some form or another. It's really scary.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 26, 2013, 11:45:04 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 26, 2013, 10:01:20 AM

I agree with you, chronovore, and I never meant to imply that I was owed anything. I think being upfront about your intentions is more polite, but people can do what they want. Also: I've tried to be clear about this, but I would never continue to contact a girl who was clearly uninterested. In this case, I thought the situation was ambiguous enough that it was worth sending a throwaway message on the chance that she hadn't contacted me because she really had been just that damn busy, and it turns out I was correct.

It's so cute that you believed her! :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 26, 2013, 12:22:32 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 26, 2013, 02:16:35 AM

STFU, am nintenho.

I'm not saying that to be mean, it just seems like she thought she already gave you the hint but then for your last message she sits on her thumb for a week before saying in a totally beating around the bush way that you can't see each other for a few weeks.

If I were you, I wouldn't take that as vindication but as a sign to go into the NSFW thread and jerk off to that good shit Broseidon posts and recompose myself and move on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 26, 2013, 12:59:28 PM

I think she was just trying to respect your feelings in a very self-aware way by saying "I don't reject you, but you're on the waitlist".

I don't know and whether I'm right or wrong, I really don't have the energy to argue this on a Monday morning.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 26, 2013, 01:23:03 PM

Sometimes people feel like they're too mean if they do option A, but they don't want to do Option B (for whatever reason, but we know lots of people don't) so they do Option C. It's like asking why some people continue to lie after they've clearly been caught or why some women will tell men "Yeah it was the best I've ever had" when both parties know it's not true. Sometimes a little white lie just isn't as messy and is the easiest way to avoid feels.

Your email most likely was not some sort of vindication. Instead it was probably just what you wanted to hear and that helps her sleep better at night.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 26, 2013, 01:53:22 PM

I get what you're saying and I don't really have a response. I guess because I see that as a really strange way of approaching the dating scene. Your post almost sounds like a PUA pitch.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 26, 2013, 06:33:38 PM

I had to go to campus today and holy shit: so many hot chicks. It was 100 degrees so they were wearing as little as possible; I nearly got down on my knees and cried in joy :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Verdigris Murder on August 26, 2013, 07:24:34 PM

Love lacking nerds:

Less of the walls of text please. I sortof take interest in your sexless mating rituals, but seriously. I have other things to do.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 26, 2013, 07:32:08 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 26, 2013, 01:57:31 PM

Anyway, there's this cool girl from the Urban Planning department who I'd love to hang out with sometime. I was at her birthday party a few weeks ago, and she came up specifically to talk to me. Thing is I don't know if she's single. Back in the fall I added her on facebook, and she was in a relationship then, but she deleted her account a few months ago. This boyfriend, if he exists, has never been present at any event where I've seen her, and you'd think he would be there at a birthday party. She's a year out of undergrad at Santa Cruz, so I figure he was a long-distance holdover, and they've probably broken up since then.

She talked about wanting to do some kind of microbrewery tour, so I think I'll do some research into good local breweries and then invite her.

An urban planning major who is into microbrews? Sounds like my kinda girl, go for it!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 26, 2013, 09:12:07 PM

You're assuming that she has a sexy beer belly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on August 27, 2013, 12:21:19 AM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 01, 2013, 03:37:33 AM

might as well share.

(http://i.imgur.com/bsrtGxY.jpg)

We've been dating since the end of May, more or less, but its been getting serious since July. She's a doll, and I think I love her :3

She's a film student turned graphic designer, and she's much more talented than I am. She can drink me under the table, and knows more about films than I think even eric P does. She's just swell. I'm very happy!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 01, 2013, 03:40:40 AM

and before you ask: no, that's not her jim morrison poster; she hates the doors

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on September 01, 2013, 04:00:03 AM

Already saved and uploaded on 10 different locations.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 01, 2013, 04:13:30 AM

oh for gods sakes, she's sitting right next to me. white knight all you want.

also biz, when did you become such an asshole? if you look back through this thread you used to be much nicer.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 01, 2013, 06:15:22 AM

The most disturbing thing in all of this is that you used the word "swell," I mean fuck. Who does that?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 01, 2013, 08:34:03 AM

I did an Amir0x: I printed out her picture, jizzed all over it, took a picture of it, and uploaded it to the internet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 01, 2013, 08:37:27 AM

Congrats, BN!

Everything should be okay, unless she needs you to eat a ghost pepper.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 01, 2013, 12:00:22 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 01, 2013, 04:13:30 AM

oh for gods sakes, she's sitting right next to me. white knight all you want.

also biz, when did you become such an asshole? if you look back through this thread you used to be much nicer.

not really

grats BN. Does this mean your sister is available? I'm going in :bow

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on September 01, 2013, 12:41:03 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on September 01, 2013, 08:34:03 AM

I did an Amir0x: I printed out her picture, jizzed all over it, took a picture of it, and uploaded it to the internet.

:lol jesus he do this with olis gf i guess?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 01, 2013, 12:42:03 PM

Quote from: Positive Touch on September 01, 2013, 12:41:03 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on September 01, 2013, 08:34:03 AM
I did an Amir0x: I printed out her picture, jizzed all over it, took a picture of it, and uploaded it to the internet.

:lol jesus he do this with olis gf i guess?

Yep :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 01, 2013, 12:46:40 PM

That still cancels out the $400 in GAF money he used to buy drugs imo. What a swell guy :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 01, 2013, 01:56:21 PM

Yeah, some of us are still perm'd for calling him a great big blubbering vag for trying to enforce politeness in the OT.

And by some of us, really I just mean me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 01, 2013, 06:52:41 PM

Quote from: Positive Touch on September 01, 2013, 12:41:03 PM

Quote from: The Experiment on September 01, 2013, 08:34:03 AM
I did an Amir0x: I printed out her picture, jizzed all over it, took a picture of it, and uploaded it to the internet.

:lol jesus he do this with olis gf i guess?

wait, whu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on September 01, 2013, 07:00:56 PM

Yeah, he posted it on OA a long time ago.

Was kinda gross, only because the load did not look very healthy. Like it oozed out like a Squeez-it Bottle.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 01, 2013, 07:17:38 PM

If he was really dedicated to his art, he would have abstained for a week beforehand.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 01, 2013, 07:46:55 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on September 01, 2013, 07:17:38 PM

If he was really dedicated to his art, he would have abstained for a week beforehand.

He was both premature and immature. It was also the first time actual posters on the internet scared me with a guy selling nudies of his virgin gf for a psp and then after they were released in the wild, somebody stalks his facebook/myspace page to track down his dad who works at NASA to email them to his work email.

Between the shaming and the ejaculation, it was pretty messed up. And of course, a decade later the guy is still posting there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on September 03, 2013, 10:26:43 AM

Congrats Brandnew! She's adorable!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 03, 2013, 02:13:48 PM

Congrats Brandnew!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on September 06, 2013, 03:24:46 PM

So there's a woman on match.com from Toronto whose username is Fit Girl Junior. :wtf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on September 06, 2013, 03:43:58 PM

Hey guys, I've been having sooooo much sex lately that I'm getting sorta sick of it. What should I do?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on September 06, 2013, 03:49:14 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 01, 2013, 03:37:33 AM

might as well share.

(http://i.imgur.com/bsrtGxY.jpg)

We've been dating since the end of May, more or less, but its been getting serious since July. She's a doll, and I think I love her :3

She's a film student turned graphic designer, and she's much more talented than I am. She can drink me under the table, and knows more about films than I think even eric P does. She's just swell. I'm very happy!

Does Andre Drummond know about this?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on September 06, 2013, 04:16:14 PM

Quote from: Robo on September 06, 2013, 03:43:58 PM

Hey guys, I've been having sooooo much sex lately that I'm getting sorta sick of it. What should I do?

Make sure that you keep lubing up your ass.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 06, 2013, 04:42:08 PM

Quote from: Robo on September 06, 2013, 03:43:58 PM

Hey guys, I've been having sooooo much sex lately that I'm getting sorta sick of it. What should I do?

Probably light your dick on fire or something

If you do that, though, make sure to take pics and send them to Arvie.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 06, 2013, 04:48:45 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on September 06, 2013, 04:42:08 PM

Quote from: Robo on September 06, 2013, 03:43:58 PM
Hey guys, I've been having sooooo much sex lately that I'm getting sorta sick of it. What should I do?

Probably light your dick on fire or something

If you do that, though, make sure to take pics and send them to Arvie.

god dammit he'd just post them in the outside thread

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 07, 2013, 07:10:56 PM

Speaking of Arvie.

Where has he been lately?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on September 09, 2013, 02:14:39 PM

I received two dozen "winks" on match.com over the weekend after changing my profile location from Winnipeg to Toronto. Some of the women are hot, but I don't feel like putting in the effort just for the chance to be rejected irl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on September 09, 2013, 02:19:45 PM

...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on September 22, 2013, 11:55:30 AM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: T234 on September 22, 2013, 12:53:52 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 01, 2013, 03:40:40 AM

and before you ask: no, that's not her jim morrison poster; she hates the doors

Dealbreaker.

So I tried dating again. Why do women in my age bracket hafta be so crazy?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on September 22, 2013, 04:08:59 PM

What age bracket is that?

Also: they're crazy at every age mang.

:patel

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: T234 on September 22, 2013, 04:47:49 PM

27-35

Lost my virginity to a GMILF. Only real dating experience I got. And then she stole a crazy amount of buds outta mah pocket, when there was a humidor of already-rolled blunts on the table the likes of which most people never see, much less are given free reign over.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on September 22, 2013, 04:51:16 PM

Aww yeah the range where they feel their bio-clock ticking hard and want babies. Yeah I don't envy guys when it comes to having to deal with that part of the dating scene.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 22, 2013, 05:20:52 PM

That's one of the reasons why I've given up on dating for a while... I'm always very upfront on any dating site with the "don't want kids" stuff. I don't mind dating single mothers, though, and could see myself being in a ltr with one; just don't ever want to have to go through the process of spawning and the early years. Ew.

Also, with my personal life in flux over the next year or so it just doesn't make much sense to try to get serious about anything.

I am going out of town for a weekend of debauchery in early October, though... :mynicca

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on September 22, 2013, 10:39:01 PM

I hate when attractive women ask me out (I have not cold messaged a woman in a month and have ignored most of the messages in my inbox, but I guess I sent her a belated three word reply). I'm going to have to say yes, and she'll eventually tell me there's no spark.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on September 23, 2013, 01:09:21 AM

You hate everything breh and it comes off in your dates.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 23, 2013, 10:16:55 AM

Malek, don't get so angry about it. I think it's reasonable that most dates aren't going to go anywhere. Just take it as a good time. Like seeing a movie. It might not be the best movie you've ever seen but it was better than jackin it in the pale light of your monitor.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on September 23, 2013, 07:26:12 PM

I am turning into an unaccomplished, though much better looking, Sir Richard Owen.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on September 23, 2013, 07:39:50 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on September 23, 2013, 07:26:12 PM

I am turning into an unaccomplished, though much better looking, Sir Richard Owen.

Sir Richard Owen had a wife though...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on September 23, 2013, 09:03:16 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on September 23, 2013, 07:39:50 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on September 23, 2013, 07:26:12 PM
I am turning into an unaccomplished, though much better looking, Sir Richard Owen.

Sir Richard Owen had a wife though...

I guess I better agree to the date then.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on September 23, 2013, 09:35:08 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on September 23, 2013, 09:03:16 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on September 23, 2013, 07:39:50 PM
Quote from: Flannel Boy on September 23, 2013, 07:26:12 PM
I am turning into an unaccomplished, though much better looking, Sir Richard Owen.

Sir Richard Owen had a wife though...
I guess I better agree to the date then.

Do you ever have fun on your dates? The way you post about this shit makes it sound like it's a chore, so you're not doing you or them a favor. And I can't imagine you mask this very well when going out with these women.

I hate kicking people when they're down and all but it's like why are you bothering dude?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on September 23, 2013, 09:40:51 PM

He already gave in to the societal pressure pushing him towards a law degree, so now he feels obligated to collect on the societal pressure that pushes woman towards lawyers.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on September 23, 2013, 09:42:22 PM

Just get a mail order bride or some shit then if it's to complete some model of a life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 23, 2013, 10:22:22 PM

backpage.com Malek. Pay someone to go on a date, give you pointers, and clean the spark plug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 23, 2013, 10:26:11 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 23, 2013, 10:22:22 PM

backpage.com Malek. Pay someone to go on a date, give you pointers, and clean the spark plug

I'd be scared to use that site. Seems like it would be teeming with undercover cops.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 23, 2013, 10:31:28 PM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on September 23, 2013, 10:26:11 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 23, 2013, 10:22:22 PM
backpage.com Malek. Pay someone to go on a date, give you pointers, and clean the spark plug

I'd be scared to use that site. Seems like it would be teeming with undercover cops.

The Coli taught me that the way to check is to google the phone numbers. If you see multiple listings of multiple girls off one number, it's fake. And anyone quoting prices on their page is suspect.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 23, 2013, 10:34:48 PM

Also call from a number other than your own and start talking about how much for a blowjob, etc. if they go along and don't immediately hang up it is a cop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on September 24, 2013, 02:20:48 PM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 24, 2013, 02:26:35 PM

just fly out to nevada

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_brothels_in_Nevada#Active_brothels

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 24, 2013, 05:35:13 PM

Quote from: Robo on September 24, 2013, 02:20:48 PM

Backpage is legit; I've used it plenty of times. Don't judge! What else are you supposed to do when your girl won't let you put the D in the A?

I'm not judging, I just don't want to get arrested.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on September 26, 2013, 02:05:26 PM

Devo talks about me as if I'm Dexter Morgan or Opiate from neogaf. :-\ I want to date for all the normal reasons.

All my dates with Fit Girl were fun!

Anyway, take that Sabretooth:

Quote

Hey, just thought I'd let you know I think you look like wolverine. Sexy. :)

:pimp

I'm going out with the architect on Saturday. I'll show her my leaning tower.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on September 26, 2013, 03:04:57 PM

Well maybe if you weren't "I hate it when ____" about every fucking thing dude.

:-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 26, 2013, 03:26:14 PM

It could be more complicated, like not seeing eye-to-eye as far as higher motivations in life. In that case, somebody who is mature enough to tell you what they want could figure it's easier to just say there was no spark rather than try to explain why they think you'll get bored with each other after spending a hundred hours together.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: DCharlieJP on September 28, 2013, 10:13:40 PM

Quote

I'm going out with the architect on Saturday. I'll show her my leaning tower.

hmm - the main reaction from the tower i've heard is "it's quite disappointing.... not very big..." so... um... GOOD LUCK! ;)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 29, 2013, 12:02:20 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on September 28, 2013, 01:25:38 AM

I want to ask out a classmate, but I have no idea if I'll succeed or not. We aren't really even classmates anymore since she's staying in public policy and finishing this year, and I'm doing the joint degree with the business program. I may have posted about her before. Last night I had a great opportunity to just sack up and do it, but I didn't. :-\

There was a white girl with all of the thickness that I like in one of my classes. So I go and talk to her. Turns out she is 36, has three kids, and has been married for years.

It sucks. I was hoping to find some cute, single ambitious girl in my program but I haven't found her yet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 29, 2013, 12:09:16 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on September 28, 2013, 01:25:38 AM

I want to ask out a classmate, but I have no idea if I'll succeed or not. We aren't really even classmates anymore since she's staying in public policy and finishing this year, and I'm doing the joint degree with the business program. I may have posted about her before. Last night I had a great opportunity to just sack up and do it, but I didn't. :-\

Just do it. Not taking the shot will haunt you far longer than being rejected. Trust me on this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on September 29, 2013, 01:14:00 AM

The date went very well despite my attempts to sabotage it. And, unprompted, she told me she wants to go an another.

A fun, attractive, and intelligent woman with nice curves and great job seems into me. :-\

edit: she split the bill, too.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 29, 2013, 01:16:51 AM

I look forward to learning how you plan to ruin this turn of events.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 29, 2013, 01:23:32 AM

propose marriage asap

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on September 29, 2013, 01:33:04 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 29, 2013, 01:16:51 AM

I look forward to learning how you plan to ruin this turn of events.

I don't want to ruin things (Emily Blunt Girl is pretty awesome) but I will.

Quote from: nudemacusers on September 29, 2013, 01:23:32 AM

propose marriage asap

That will work. Let's call this "Plan Fit Girl."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on September 29, 2013, 01:52:52 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on September 29, 2013, 01:14:00 AM

A fun, attractive, and intelligent woman with nice curves and great job seems into me. :-\

Anyone else: #humblebrag

Malek: #miredinirrationalanxiety #selfdeprecatinghumorthatbeliesaveryrealpain #deepbreaths #yougotthisbuddy #youhaveworthasahumanbeing #notlikeyou'reManabyte #teamSabretooth

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 29, 2013, 01:55:34 AM

lol I was joking about the proposal but you should definitely tell her you love her. look into her eyes when you say this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 29, 2013, 06:10:29 AM

Tell her about Pamperchu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 29, 2013, 11:53:13 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on September 29, 2013, 06:10:29 AM

Tell her about Pamperchu

This is not a bad strategy. "Hey babe, I may have my shit to work out, but I'm not pretending to be an infant and shitting in my pants".

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 29, 2013, 01:19:47 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on September 29, 2013, 11:53:13 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on September 29, 2013, 06:10:29 AM
Tell her about Pamperchu
This is not a bad strategy. "Hey babe, I may have my shit to work out, but I'm not pretending to be an infant and shitting in my pants".

You may joke now but in 5-10 years when the generation raised by the internet becomes legal age, you could probably use this line and get away with it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 01, 2013, 10:23:09 PM

Date number two is a go for tomorrow. :nervous

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 01, 2013, 10:35:23 PM

stop by kay's beforehand to select the appropriate ring to set the mood.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 01, 2013, 11:44:47 PM

Kay's sells cock rings?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 01, 2013, 11:46:52 PM

You should just find an excuse to bow out gracefully instead.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on October 01, 2013, 11:49:38 PM

Take this chance to finally be the one to say "I just don't feel a spark."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 01, 2013, 11:52:34 PM

I don't think anyone on this forum likes me. :cancry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 01, 2013, 11:55:40 PM

I think you're cool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 02, 2013, 01:16:58 AM

I'm rooting for you, duder

spoiler (click to show/hide)

not much comfort, i know

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 02, 2013, 03:09:45 AM

I think you're awesome. I really wish you didn't have such a crippling social phobia.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on October 02, 2013, 04:23:45 AM

You are I think the most "successful" Internet dater I've ever seen.

But no, that doesn't raise my opinion on that format. I'm sure you're full of sparks that you maybe are trying to suppress with new people. What perhaps more logical people would call social phobia.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 02, 2013, 04:28:24 AM

You're ok in my book Malek.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on October 02, 2013, 04:29:51 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on October 01, 2013, 11:52:34 PM

I don't think anyone on this forum likes me. :cancry

I doubt this. I know I don't. Just find the complaining bemusing is all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 02, 2013, 09:18:41 AM

You're cool IMO. I'd meet you if I could :)

spoiler (click to show/hide)

You probably don't want to meet me :(

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 02, 2013, 10:52:02 PM

Thanks for the kind words.

The date didn't go too well, especially at the end. I was very nervous--more nervous than I was during the first date when I felt as if I had nothing to lose. Tonight my brain was telling me not to fuck up--not a good mindset. :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 02, 2013, 11:11:33 PM

I just sent her a desperate email.

The only other woman I've liked as much since I started dating again is Fit Girl. They're very similar--same age, height, eye color, hair color. They both laugh easily. They're both atheists. They also share the same initial bad taste in men (both, probably come to their senses quickly). I-Need-a-Nickname-Girl isn't a vegetarian and doesn't live in Winnipeg (also has big ass titties).

The date really went sour when the topic of sparks and chemistry came up--I freaked out and did my best Opiate impression: "beep-boop chemistry is illogical boop."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on October 02, 2013, 11:26:08 PM

i'd intensely violate your bitter mouf and pleasingly clenched anus, malek. <3

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 02, 2013, 11:32:19 PM

:-[ If only Toronto Girl felt that way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 02, 2013, 11:43:58 PM

why would you talk about sparks and chemistry? ???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 02, 2013, 11:56:05 PM

We were watching Breaking Bad during an electrical storm.

She was talking about exes and her need for that connection (she actually has her very own term for it that's not a "spark," and it will be her nickname once she tells me that she never wants to see me again).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on October 03, 2013, 12:03:38 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on October 02, 2013, 10:52:02 PM

Thanks for the kind words.

The date didn't go too well, especially at the end. I was very nervous--more nervous than I was during the first date when I felt as if I had nothing to lose. Tonight my brain was telling me not to fuck up--not a good mindset. :fbm

(http://www.medsmarket.net/images/P/Buspar_10mg.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 03, 2013, 12:12:11 AM

Have you experienced any bad side-effects?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on October 03, 2013, 12:19:50 AM

You know I'm in yer corner, and further what I think of "spark" and how you tend to filter that message.

I do think it's funny when Cowbell or whoever lectures you, as if people act on their social anxiety deliberately and are too dumb to realize that it's counterproductive.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on October 03, 2013, 12:19:55 AM

Quote

Have you experienced any bad side-effects?

one of the things that got me on board was that whatever potential side effects do exist are pretty negligible, especially compared to SSRI's (you can quit at anytime for example). I've experienced no side-effects, personally.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 03, 2013, 12:49:31 AM

Quote from: Mandark on October 03, 2013, 12:19:50 AM

You know I'm in yer corner, and further what I think of "spark" and how you tend to filter that message.

I do think it's funny when Cowbell or whoever lectures you, as if people act on their social anxiety deliberately and are too dumb to realize that it's counterproductive.

In her defense, I could work on my cognitive distortions--but even though I know they're distortions I still believe them.

Quote

I hate when attractive women ask me out. . . . I'm going to have to say yes, and she'll eventually tell me there's no spark.

Jumping to Conclusions, catastrophizing, mind-reading, control fallacy. And, by tomorrow, I'll be shown to be correct (except for the control fallacy--this rejection doesn't have to make an emotional wreck, but. . . ).

Quote from: Barry Egan on October 03, 2013, 12:19:55 AM

Quote
Have you experienced any bad side-effects?

one of the things that got me on board was that whatever potential side effects do exist are pretty negligible, especially compared to SSRI's (you can quit at anytime for example). I've experienced no side-effects, personally.

I'll make an appointment with a GP and give it a try--especially on the off-chance [insert nickname here] Girl gives me another date.

edit: Last negative post in this thread. If she rejects me, I'll change my avatar to a stock Jewel photo.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 03, 2013, 08:15:01 PM

Thanks The Business

She hasn't replied.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TQDMrFuFXGc

Of course, against my better judgement, I sent her another message.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on October 03, 2013, 08:34:36 PM

jesus FUCKING CHRIST dude

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on October 03, 2013, 08:45:50 PM

I concur.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on October 03, 2013, 08:52:27 PM

lol malek you just look insane at this point its over lad its over

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qpCV2wgoxC8

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 03, 2013, 09:22:28 PM

Quote from: Positive Touch on October 03, 2013, 08:34:36 PM

jesus FUCKING CHRIST dude

On an all new segment of "Indefensible" Drinky attempts to defend malek's actions, can't, and begs to defend the wii u tablet instead.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 03, 2013, 09:42:16 PM

After dinner, she did mention date number three. At that high point, I should've just pulled a George Costanza and left; instead, I ended the date with a hurried kiss in the middle of a very crowded St. George subway platform.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 03, 2013, 09:58:47 PM

I think you're awesome, Malek.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 03, 2013, 10:05:37 PM

Quote from: tiesto on October 03, 2013, 09:58:47 PM

I think you're awesome, Malek.

:heartbeat This is where I get all clingy and shit. Expect a dozen roses with a ten-page letter.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 04, 2013, 03:54:57 PM

What's driving me nuts is that she hasn't responded yet. I know what that means, but still. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 04, 2013, 04:14:37 PM

I wasn't very optimistic after the date, but I held out some hope (only the last twenty minutes of the date were bad). Now that hope is gone, and I just wish the executioner would hurry the fuck up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on October 04, 2013, 04:20:09 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on October 04, 2013, 04:14:37 PM

I wasn't very optimistic after the date, but I held out some hope (only the last twenty minutes of the date were bad). Now that hope is gone, and I just wish the executioner would hurry the fuck up.

Huh? She mentioned a third date. And you actually kissed her, which I'd say is a way better move than running away.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 04, 2013, 04:24:09 PM

She mentioned the third date when the second one was still going relatively well. The kiss on the lips was bad; there's more passion in a kiss from a grandson to his Italian grandmother.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on October 04, 2013, 04:25:58 PM

I get the social phobia thing, man. But is there anything you can find a positive in?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 04, 2013, 04:27:51 PM

She hasn't been on match.com in over five days, which confirms her story that I'm the only one on the site she's interested in.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 05, 2013, 02:52:24 AM

That's a good sign.

Now stahp. Do something else. She'll come around or she won't; you're still a sweetie.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 05, 2013, 04:58:17 AM

You're insecure, but when you are yourself and unburdened by pretense, things go well. You're definitely on to something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 05, 2013, 05:40:28 AM

I'm 100% serious here, Awesome-O: have you considered/tried therapy? Just having someone to talk to about this stuff (a professional, no less) would probably be something you'd find helpful.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on October 05, 2013, 10:38:34 AM

You seem to want it too much awesome.

In other news, I'm now on tinder. It's pretty fun just to randomly talk with people who think you are at least semi attractive.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on October 05, 2013, 11:29:35 AM

Yeah. I was going to suggest being meeting women in a context that is not all about finding a "mate", but I didn't want it to look like I was purposefully trying to give trite advice. "Graduating" from friendships or accquantainces is probably going to be less stressful in the long run.
Well, unless you fall for someone and then never make a move, but that's a different issue.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 05, 2013, 11:42:39 AM

Because of this woman, I've played videogames* for the first time in 16 months. Me--playing a videogame!

*RE4 and MLB the Show.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 05, 2013, 11:43:57 AM

Yes, I was an easy target for bullies in elementary school.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 05, 2013, 11:50:07 AM

They beat the spark out of you :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on October 05, 2013, 12:55:49 PM

You should have boogie come train you

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 05, 2013, 01:02:26 PM

You look like youd be gruff in your pictures honestly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 05, 2013, 01:51:52 PM

I feel like a lot of us would benefit by taking a trip with Mother Ayahuasca.

The drug would probably turn Malek into a massive electrical storm of infinite potential.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 05, 2013, 02:35:11 PM

Well, since she's never going to actually talk to me ever again, I'll have to write this myself.

Quote

Hi (Bye),

I'm sorry that I haven't responded sooner (writing this isn't fun so I watched a Big Bang marathon) but I've been very busy (I expect you to commute two hours to a date I asked you out on but I can't spare five minutes of my time). You're a nice guy (you're the type of guy I'd never fuck), but I just don't feel that right spark (I'm being vague to spare your feelings--you're horrible). I wish you good luck (I don't care if you die in a fire tomorrow).

Please don't try to contact me again (I get the first and last words; put on your fedora and cry, bitch).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 05, 2013, 02:40:35 PM

(http://static.ylilauta.org/files/qt/thumb/1378757543781545.jpg/hT8HZw5.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 05, 2013, 02:49:34 PM

Dude. Dude. Dude... :/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on October 05, 2013, 03:21:37 PM

without reading too closely, I thought she had actually written you something that you then annotated.

you wrote both drafts. :stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 05, 2013, 11:26:55 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on October 05, 2013, 04:13:21 PM

Try not to feel that you're entitled to a response.

But she actually said she'd text/message me after I kissed her.

Whatever. I just drank a bottle of red wine while watching the Tigers/A's game.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 06, 2013, 12:22:05 AM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ug88HO2mg44

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 06, 2013, 12:24:54 AM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Eo-KmOd3i7s

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 06, 2013, 12:28:19 AM

I always thought *Nsync was the better of the two (98 degrees does not exist lol)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 06, 2013, 12:32:42 AM

I never contemplated which was better because I'm not a faggurt.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ZcmuKsyvzg

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 06, 2013, 12:36:20 AM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=is6gtilerPk

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 06, 2013, 12:40:46 AM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IbRwSI8yi1o

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 06, 2013, 12:45:55 AM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=saxnXiBKEaY

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 06, 2013, 12:56:40 AM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QUuKvHHt8Sk

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 06, 2013, 01:04:01 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on October 06, 2013, 12:40:46 AM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IbRwSI8yi1o

legit good song

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 06, 2013, 01:07:50 AM

JT is talented. No homo.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uuZE_IRwLNI

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 06, 2013, 01:28:04 AM

fuuuuu just got a cold-message from a cute 25-year-old in Mississauga who lifts weights.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 06, 2013, 01:32:13 AM

Second message from her: "You are very cute."

:-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on October 06, 2013, 01:35:15 AM

awww yiss go get em stud :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 06, 2013, 01:38:44 AM

her: I should've said something a bit more clever - but I'm just too relaxed in bed right now Sent from the OkCupid app
Oct 6, 2013 – 1:31am

me: I'm wittiest when I'm in bed--or is that wettest.
Oct 6, 2013 – 1:31am

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 06, 2013, 01:40:52 AM

Not with the wetness.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 06, 2013, 10:12:30 PM

I still can't believe that she hasn't messaged me back. I'm using all my willpower not to write to her again.

The cute 25-year-old called me "very attractive" and gave me her number. :pimp

A Polish blonde also gave me her number. :pimp

Tether Girl :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 06, 2013, 10:15:28 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on October 05, 2013, 11:26:55 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on October 05, 2013, 04:13:21 PM
Try not to feel that you're entitled to a response.

But she actually said she'd text/message me after I kissed her.

Was this before or after you sent her a bunch of crazy sounding messages, because I'm betting it was before.

I'm also starting to see a pattern here...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 06, 2013, 10:25:46 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on October 06, 2013, 10:15:28 PM

Was this before or after you sent her a bunch of crazy sounding messages, because I'm betting it was before.

I'm also starting to see a pattern here...

None of the two messages were the least bit crazy. The first one was short and simply included a compliment and a request for another date. The second one wasn't about her or another date (just an excuse to write a follow-up). And that's it.

But, fuck--I'm always in the wrong.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 06, 2013, 10:37:52 PM

I think it's just that except in rare situations where you really hit it off the 2nd message is almost always a bad idea. Especially if you already requested a 2nd date in the first. It can just be misinterpreted.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 06, 2013, 10:39:49 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on October 06, 2013, 10:37:52 PM

I think it's just that except in rare situations where you really hit it off the 2nd message is almost always a bad idea. Especially if you already requested a 2nd date in the first. It can just be misinterpreted.

We already had the second date (her request). But, yeah, the second message was pointless (but it wasn't crazy).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 06, 2013, 10:41:50 PM

The next woman who asks me out will have to sign a contract that prohibits her from uttering the words "chemistry," "spark," "tether," or any synonym.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 06, 2013, 10:46:36 PM

That's a lot of women. The real crazy chicks are the ones who feel that spark with any guy that gives some attention.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 06, 2013, 10:51:07 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on October 06, 2013, 10:46:36 PM

That's a lot of women. The real crazy chicks are the ones who feel that spark with any guy that gives some attention.

They're all crazy!

Great, an attractive blonde from the sticks just asked me out. I know how this will turn out, but whatever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 07, 2013, 03:55:42 PM

:'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 07, 2013, 07:05:53 PM

Is that a reaction to the joke, or did Tether Girl shut it down?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 07, 2013, 07:26:00 PM

Quote from: chronovore on October 07, 2013, 07:05:53 PM

Is that a reaction to the joke, or did Tether Girl shut it down?

Tether Girl has not responded--she's clearly tied-up.

I have a date with a blonde horse-rider (this didn't go well with the last two)*

*Both canceled on me--one was was a friend of Fit Girl's, and Fit Girl told her not to go out with me.

edit 2: Cajole said she's cute, but I only respect his television picks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 07, 2013, 08:27:14 PM

A redhead just emailed me telling me she finds flannel comfortable.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

I told her she should try some flannel in bed.

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 07, 2013, 08:28:55 PM

oh good god, is your profile name "flannel boy"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 07, 2013, 08:56:08 PM

My profile name isn't the problem, clearly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on October 07, 2013, 09:00:24 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on October 07, 2013, 07:26:00 PM

I have a date with a blonde horse-rider (this didn't go well with the last two)*

Horse-girls are weird. I dated a girl in high school who rode horses. Not sure what it is.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 07, 2013, 09:04:17 PM

Skewed perspective.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

horse cock

[close]

This one trains thoroughbred race horses.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 07, 2013, 09:18:12 PM

Also, you're never going to compare with the powerful animal she normally has between her legs

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on October 07, 2013, 09:19:53 PM

Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on October 07, 2013, 09:17:35 PM

haha, my family's nuts about horses.

i guess what i will offer as advice is that the woman will never love you as much as she loves her horse. if you can't deal with that, don't even get into it.

This. :(

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on October 07, 2013, 09:18:12 PM

Also, you're never going to compare with the powerful animal she normally has between her legs

:fbm

And this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 07, 2013, 10:51:17 PM

Bodybuilder Girl has a figure contest this weekend. :shaq

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 07, 2013, 11:18:15 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on October 07, 2013, 10:51:17 PM

Bodybuilder Girl has a figure contest this weekend. :shaq

Offer to go and cheer her on :shaq

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 07, 2013, 11:41:27 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on October 05, 2013, 05:28:11 AM

Well yes, it all sounds simple. It's the practice that's difficult.

That is supremely true.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 07, 2013, 11:50:40 PM

Brehs, this actually worked:

So I just met you
and this is crazy
but wanna hang out
sometime, maybe?

:jawalrus

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on October 07, 2013, 11:58:53 PM

was the coli smiley part of the message? this is important.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on October 08, 2013, 12:04:18 AM

Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on October 07, 2013, 09:17:35 PM

haha, my family's nuts about horses.

i guess what i will offer as advice is that the woman will never love you as much as she loves her horse. if you can't deal with that, don't even get into it.

Unless your cock is bigger than the horse's.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 08, 2013, 12:17:52 AM

Quote from: Barry Egan on October 07, 2013, 11:58:53 PM

was the coli smiley part of the message? this is important.

No

Also, I kind of knew this girl (friend of a friend, met her a few times, fb friends, blah blah blah) and knew she loved cheesy humor, so the likelihood of that stupidity resulting in a "yes" to the date request was pretty high.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 08, 2013, 12:25:32 AM

Quote from: Barry Egan on October 07, 2013, 11:58:53 PM

was the coli smiley part of the message? this is important.

My GF saw me browsing the Bore and thought the coli emoticons were hysterical... guess that means she's a keeper :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 08, 2013, 08:40:29 PM

Fuck--a cute redhead nurse just sent me a cold message.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on October 08, 2013, 08:55:59 PM

oh no :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 08, 2013, 11:12:14 PM

I've had three today. But what good are cold messages when they lead to cold shoulders?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on October 08, 2013, 11:58:41 PM

meeting women has gotten pretty easy for me lately, bizarrely. unfortunately the better I get at the trivial superficial parts of the relationship development process, the more obvious my deeper emotional cowardice/laziness and lack of basic life skills becomes. go to coffeeshop/bar -> talk to nice girl -> have nice long conversation -> she gives me her number -> I never call her -> repeat twice a week or so.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on October 09, 2013, 12:02:13 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on October 08, 2013, 12:17:52 AM

Quote from: Barry Egan on October 07, 2013, 11:58:53 PM
was the coli smiley part of the message? this is important.

No

Also, I kind of knew this girl (friend of a friend, met her a few times, fb friends, blah blah blah) and knew she loved cheesy humor, so the likelihood of that stupidity resulting in a "yes" to the date request was pretty high.

I guess it's not so much that it's cheesy as that I'm not even sure where the "humor" part comes in at all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on October 09, 2013, 12:21:26 AM

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on October 08, 2013, 11:58:41 PM

meeting women has gotten pretty easy for me lately, bizarrely. unfortunately the better I get at the trivial superficial parts of the relationship development process, the more obvious my deeper emotional cowardice/laziness and lack of basic life skills becomes.

Ha. Well put. I'm right there with you. Coulda, woulda, shoulda. I just put the whole relationship thing on indefinite hiatus.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on October 09, 2013, 01:26:25 AM

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on October 08, 2013, 11:58:41 PM

meeting women has gotten pretty easy for me lately, bizarrely. unfortunately the better I get at the trivial superficial parts of the relationship development process, the more obvious my deeper emotional cowardice/laziness and lack of basic life skills becomes.

wow this is spot-on

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on October 09, 2013, 02:48:06 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on October 07, 2013, 09:00:24 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on October 07, 2013, 07:26:00 PM
I have a date with a blonde horse-rider (this didn't go well with the last two)*

Horse-girls are weird. I dated a girl in high school who rode horses. Not sure what it is.

I married a horse girl :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 09, 2013, 03:52:43 PM

Quote from: The Business on October 09, 2013, 02:57:48 PM

I'd rather marry a horse man. :drool

That shit is not legal in Kansas, Dorothy

:gurl

Title: Get your schadenfreude on
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 10, 2013, 03:21:01 PM

Horse Girl canceled. No reason given.

Internet dating is worse than Jay Cutler.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 10, 2013, 06:42:02 PM

It's probably best that you don't know the reason.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

(http://i.imgur.com/7aRPhHY.jpg)

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 15, 2013, 11:07:29 PM

Horseback Riding Girl hasn't contacted me again--shocking. Everything else is leading nowhere fast. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 15, 2013, 11:36:54 PM

FUCK FUCK FUCK

This will be the only time I post about this here as I generally consider myself to be more mature and well-adjusted to the point where I don't need to talk to people about shit like this, but here goes

Let's say there's a woman I've carried a flame for for several years now, and expressed that to her earlier this year and was gently put into the friend zone. I more or less moved on with my life, and she did too, dating here or there and eventually getting into a serious relationship over the summer. The last time I saw her two months ago, she was really happy in her relationship, and I was, to my astonishment, not bitter at the situation, but genuinely happy for her. She's been a really dear friend for forever (I don't make friends easily... I probably count the people I consider genuine friends on one hand, and she's one of them) so I was happy for her.

I visited Atlanta again this weekend and looked her up, to find out that a) she'd been dumped by her boyfriend a couple weeks ago b) was a wreck c) needed help over the weekend with some work shit. Well fuck, I helped her out of her work jam... because I'm such a good friend/sucker. We also went out to a bunch of different shit, drinking, hanging out, having a good time generally speaking. End of the weekend comes around and we're saying goodbye and it gets awkward. Why? "Because I do have feelings for you, but everything is fucked up right now, it's my super busy time of the year with work, and you live out of state... I just don't think we could make this work." OUT OF THE BLUE.

WHAT THE FUCK. WHY SAY THAT. FUCK THIS GAY EARTH.

Ok, we can now go back to giving Malek advice about dating. I'll be over here quietly drinking myself to death.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 15, 2013, 11:41:57 PM

You've rustled two of my largest jimmies: simping and "taking the shot" while you can. I'm going to give you a pass and say that wasn't neccisarrily simping per se...you were helping out a friend. Did she reward you by putting you on a hook, only to casually throw you off ("oh I said that? sorry I don't remember lol, I was so busy") later? Or is it real? Who knows. But if you believe this is your shot, go for it dude. You don't want to be sitting around bitter and depressed over not trying, trust me.

Give her time to do the shit she's busy with, obviously.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 15, 2013, 11:49:02 PM

Was not simping, honest to blog. Even after hearing about the breakup, I didn't even THINK about her in a romantic way, nor did I all weekend until we were saying our goodbyes on Sunday afternoon and she got awkward and teary eyed again... I just thought she was getting upset about the ex again (believe me, she's overly emotional) and told her, "It's ok, this too shall pass," or something cornball like that and that's when she told me, no, this was about having feelings for me and being confused about them.

I mean, I told her I was floored because I had mentally (or so I thought) managed to move on. But I'm not gonna lie, that fucked my head up pretty fucking good. Still is. Then I told her that I still felt the same way about her that I did earlier this year, but understood that everything was fucked up with her emotions right now and work. (she has a shit ton of work to do until the beginning of November, then every weekend from then until Christmas will be doing trade shows selling her art and shit) So, with that and my school/work load, there's probably not even an opportunity for us to say hi for five minutes until 2014.

Fuck. Just fuck. Didn't need this distraction.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 16, 2013, 01:34:24 AM

My thoughts on the issue:

-she's confused and had a good time with me as a friend over the weekend, and is conflating the fun times we had with something more
-she's emotionally vulnerable right now and I'm a known quantity as a friend and also someone that has told her I liked her
-I'm probably way more appealing as a potential mate now than I was earlier in the year when I was 20-25 pounds heavier and less sure of myself/my future plans

All that said, I think the fact that she waited until I was loading shit into my car to spring this means she's not really sure what's up in her head/heart. I was leaning towards moving back to Atlanta early next summer anyway, and I'll suggest to her the next time we talk that if we're both still single and want to address this at that point, that would be a good idea. But I'm not going to fuck with a long distance thing, and I don't just want to hook up with this woman. It would be something serious and monogamous or nothing at all.

I think that's probably the adult thing to do and shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 16, 2013, 01:45:20 AM

If you're good friends, keep it that way. As Wrath said, best case is you are a Rebound Guy. Things get more weird after that. As you said, she is conflating the good times she had with you, and contrasting them with the wreck of her current situation.

Let her get stable on her own terms, be a friend, don't let anything start right now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 16, 2013, 01:52:34 AM

Eh, nothing could reasonably start right now other than a stupid long distance relationship that would probably just be a bunch of feels for a couple months. Just gonna ride the wave of this nonsense for a week or so, aided by liberal applications of booze, and I'll be fine. Just such a head fuck for now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 16, 2013, 10:19:22 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on October 16, 2013, 01:34:24 AM

My thoughts on the issue:

-she's confused and had a good time with me as a friend over the weekend, and is conflating the fun times we had with something more
-she's emotionally vulnerable right now and I'm a known quantity as a friend and also someone that has told her I liked her
-I'm probably way more appealing as a potential mate now than I was earlier in the year when I was 20-25 pounds heavier and less sure of myself/my future plans

All that said, I think the fact that she waited until I was loading shit into my car to spring this means she's not really sure what's up in her head/heart. I was leaning towards moving back to Atlanta early next summer anyway, and I'll suggest to her the next time we talk that if we're both still single and want to address this at that point, that would be a good idea. But I'm not going to fuck with a long distance thing, and I don't just want to hook up with this woman. It would be something serious and monogamous or nothing at all.

I think that's probably the adult thing to do and shit.

I'd say your analysis is probably correct. Anything you'd do right now would be rebound. Wait it out. You be the mature one if she starts talking any crazy shit. Give her your reasoning too. You don't want to be a rebound she might regret. If she still has these feelings in 1, 2 or 3 months from now then you and her can reevaluate.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 17, 2013, 03:03:34 AM

Yeah, okay. Or that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 17, 2013, 06:50:48 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on October 15, 2013, 11:36:54 PM

FUCK FUCK FUCK

This will be the only time I post about this here as I generally consider myself to be more mature and well-adjusted to the point where I don't need to talk to people about shit like this, but here goes

Let's say there's a woman I've carried a flame for for several years now, and expressed that to her earlier this year and was gently put into the friend zone. I more or less moved on with my life, and she did too, dating here or there and eventually getting into a serious relationship over the summer. The last time I saw her two months ago, she was really happy in her relationship, and I was, to my astonishment, not bitter at the situation, but genuinely happy for her. She's been a really dear friend for forever (I don't make friends easily... I probably count the people I consider genuine friends on one hand, and she's one of them) so I was happy for her.

I visited Atlanta again this weekend and looked her up, to find out that a) she'd been dumped by her boyfriend a couple weeks ago b) was a wreck c) needed help over the weekend with some work shit. Well fuck, I helped her out of her work jam... because I'm such a good friend/sucker. We also went out to a bunch of different shit, drinking, hanging out, having a good time generally speaking. End of the weekend comes around and we're saying goodbye and it gets awkward. Why? "Because I do have feelings for you, but everything is fucked up right now, it's my super busy time of the year with work, and you live out of state... I just don't think we could make this work." OUT OF THE BLUE.

WHAT THE FUCK. WHY SAY THAT. FUCK THIS GAY EARTH.

Ok, we can now go back to giving Malek advice about dating. I'll be over here quietly drinking myself to death.

Did you have sex with her?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 17, 2013, 09:55:38 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on October 17, 2013, 03:28:57 AM

Wasn't that what happened with one of the married dudes on this forum? Gundam, or Contra, or etiolate, or one of those guys?

Happened with me. Though we had a relationship of sorts of years prior to that too.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 17, 2013, 10:53:07 AM

This girl and I have been friends for... shit... 8 years now? Almost 9? She was roommates with one of my best friends for a while.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on October 17, 2013, 01:00:41 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on October 17, 2013, 03:28:57 AM

Wasn't that what happened with one of the married dudes on this forum? Gundam, or Contra, or etiolate, or one of those guys?

I was the "rebound guy" with a girl I dated before getting together with my now-wife. It was definitely for the best that it ended.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 17, 2013, 02:20:20 PM

I met my wife in a terrible, terrible college bar and tried to smang ASAP.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on October 17, 2013, 03:24:40 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on October 17, 2013, 03:28:57 AM

Wasn't that what happened with one of the married dudes on this forum? Gundam, or Contra, or etiolate, or one of those guys?

Nah, I was introduced to my wife by an ex-girlfriend. She took me home that night, and that's that :obama

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on October 17, 2013, 03:46:49 PM

I met my wife when she first started dating a friend of mine. I was engaged to someone else at the time so it was no big deal. That fell through( :rejoice) and it didn't work out with them so :aah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 17, 2013, 05:10:45 PM

Quote from: Steve Contra on October 17, 2013, 03:24:40 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on October 17, 2013, 03:28:57 AM
Wasn't that what happened with one of the married dudes on this forum? Gundam, or Contra, or etiolate, or one of those guys?
Nah, I was introduced to my wife by an ex-girlfriend. She took me home that night, and that's that :obama

(http://25.media.tumblr.com/dc658a74329ffc4e56a0433bfcff966d/tumblr_msyfj8ujMR1shjzdpo1_400.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 19, 2013, 01:05:41 PM

It's been over two months since I last had teh sex. With work and classes, there's just little time to find anyone. This is why prostitution should be legal - I could just call up some chick on backpage.com and get off inside of her instead of my hairy, calloused right hand.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on October 20, 2013, 01:59:16 AM

Quote from: Steve Contra on October 17, 2013, 03:24:40 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on October 17, 2013, 03:28:57 AM
Wasn't that what happened with one of the married dudes on this forum? Gundam, or Contra, or etiolate, or one of those guys?
Nah, I was introduced to my wife by an ex-girlfriend. She took me home that night, and that's that :obama

i was introduced to my wife by an ex-girlfriend, too.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

her sister. we also went home that night. :umad :mynicca

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 20, 2013, 02:09:33 AM

wow

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on October 20, 2013, 02:16:35 AM

Boasting about being a hand-me-down. :goty2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 20, 2013, 02:33:28 AM

Was it like that scene in Soul Food where Teri finds out her little sister Maxine stole her boyfriend?
:ohhh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on October 20, 2013, 03:54:04 AM

Quote from: Rufus on October 20, 2013, 02:16:35 AM

Boasting about being a hand-me-down. :goty2

lmao

Title: RE-BITCHA
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 25, 2013, 07:42:12 PM

I love women who have secret codes in their profiles that you must enter in a message to them to prove that you read their entire profiles. "I need you to type 'tippy toes' in your message to me as proof you read my entire stream of concsiousness I call a profile. How dare you not know that my favorite TV show is Weeds or that my favorite book is 50 Shades of Grey?"

Well, I'm sorry that I didn't make it to the end of your profile, but I just had to send you a message after reading you describe your personality as "stable, humble, and unassuming."

Title: Re: RE-BITCHA
Post by: Shadow Mod on October 26, 2013, 06:49:13 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on October 25, 2013, 07:42:12 PM

I love women who have secret codes in their profiles that you must enter in a message to them to prove that you read their entire profiles. "I need you to type 'tippy toes' in your message to me as proof you read my entire stream of concsiousness I call a profile. How dare you not know that my favorite TV show is Weeds or that my favorite book is 50 Shades of Grey?"

Well, I'm sorry that I didn't make it to the end of your profile, but I just had to send you a message after reading you describe your personality as "stable, humble, and unassuming."

"stable, humble, and unassuming."

No one says these things about themselves if they're true.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 26, 2013, 06:56:41 AM

I've had more dates since I deactivated my OkStupid profile, and I don't have to deal with flaky people who don't know wtf they want out of life

winning

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 26, 2013, 09:46:40 AM

What kind of girls are you into?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 26, 2013, 10:00:52 AM

Quote from: Premium Lager on October 26, 2013, 09:46:40 AM

What kind of girls are you into?

Judging from my past history, one of two stereotypes:

Crazy, foul-mouthed, hard drinking, tattooed brunettes -or-
Crazy redhead (redundant, but still)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 26, 2013, 10:47:49 AM

They sound hot

What bodytype?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 26, 2013, 10:56:48 AM

Whatever. Short, tall, skinny to my favorite "15 extra pounds in all the right places"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on October 26, 2013, 02:36:30 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on October 20, 2013, 01:59:16 AM

Quote from: Steve Contra on October 17, 2013, 03:24:40 PM
Quote from: AWESOM-O on October 17, 2013, 03:28:57 AM
Wasn't that what happened with one of the married dudes on this forum? Gundam, or Contra, or etiolate, or one of those guys?
Nah, I was introduced to my wife by an ex-girlfriend. She took me home that night, and that's that :obama

i was introduced to my wife by an ex-girlfriend, too.

spoiler (click to show/hide)
her sister. we also went home that night. :umad :mynicca
[close]

Was the sister thick? :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 26, 2013, 03:14:16 PM

Going out tonight with a super hot brunette hairdresser that can drink me under the table, has a bunch of awesome tattoos, and does roller derby for fun. The best part? I'll let Pacino take this one.

http://youtu.be/k9hFRw5jeRQ

:noah

edit: stupid fucking youtube. well, you get the idea.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on October 26, 2013, 05:46:30 PM

If she has a tramp stamp, make a Lady & the Tramp pun (you're the tramp)! I'm kidding sort of.

Advice needed: you have a class and are always studying with a girl and there seems to be a mutual interest although she's always nervous around me and I think assumes I'm too oblivious, should I wait a month until right before finals or just ask sooner? I'm extremely awkward yet deliberate since quitting the dating sites but I feel like I need to be a bit more clear in showing interest.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 26, 2013, 11:08:22 PM

50% of you don't care, 50% of you think I deserve what I get (e.g., Devo), 50% of you are Mandark, Bebpo, and Cajole, 50% of you wonder how I won my grade 8 match competition.

I went out for drinks with Simpsons Fangirl. We talked for three hours and drank Ontario craft beer. We have a lot in common, but--as per fucking usual--I'm pretty sure she didn't feel DAT SPARK.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on October 27, 2013, 02:38:27 AM

Quote from: am nintenho on October 26, 2013, 05:46:30 PM

Advice needed: you have a class and are always studying with a girl and there seems to be a mutual interest although she's always nervous around me and I think assumes I'm too oblivious, should I wait a month until right before finals or just ask sooner? I'm extremely awkward yet deliberate since quitting the dating sites but I feel like I need to be a bit more clear in showing interest.

As someone who actually is very oblivious (but getting better every year): don't procrastinate and ask her out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 27, 2013, 03:02:17 AM

Somebody is waaaaaay into me :mynicca

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on October 28, 2013, 11:42:05 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on October 26, 2013, 11:08:22 PM

I'm pretty sure she didn't feel DAT SPARK.

She didn't feel "that connection." Women and their thesauruses.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 28, 2013, 11:57:35 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on October 28, 2013, 11:42:05 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on October 26, 2013, 11:08:22 PM
I'm pretty sure she didn't feel DAT SPARK.

She didn't feel "that connection." Women and their thesauruses.

???

(http://i.imgur.com/dh1D0nt.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 28, 2013, 08:16:11 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on October 28, 2013, 08:14:00 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on October 27, 2013, 03:02:17 AM
Somebody is waaaaaay into me :mynicca

Is this the girl who always leaves supportive and flirty comments on your facebook posts?

No. That girl lives about 200 miles away and is always trying to get me to come visit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on October 28, 2013, 08:27:36 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on October 26, 2013, 11:08:22 PM

50% of you don't care, 50% of you think I deserve what I get (e.g., Devo), 50% of you are Mandark, Bebpo, and Cajole, 50% of you wonder how I won my grade 8 match competition.

I went out for drinks with Simpsons Fangirl. We talked for three hours and drank Ontario craft beer. We have a lot in common, but--as per fucking usual--I'm pretty sure she didn't feel DAT SPARK.

I don't think you deserve bad things. I think you go at it with the wrong attitude and it ends up terribly because that attitude shines through. Stop making dating this thing where you're just constantly looking for something specific and an end game. Meet new people and let the shit click on its own. Then there is less pressure on you to perform.

:gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: T234 on October 28, 2013, 08:56:05 PM

Don't go looking for your soulmate every time you go out looking for women. Only broad I ever went with just basically used me for free medical ganja and rides to work. At least she taught me what the music on the radio meant before breaking my heart. :(

Broad I asked out before that gave me the cold shoulder.

Chick I asked out before that laughed in my face.

Girl I asked out before that stabbed me through the foot and tried to set me on fire with gasoline. I was 14, she was 15. Didn't ask another one out for ten years after that.

IMPROVEMENT

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on October 29, 2013, 03:05:50 AM

That first real "I wish she wasn't the first girl I ever fucked" step is a pretty big step. It makes you realize you have to be honest with yourself and be patient for what you want.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 31, 2013, 03:11:08 AM

Come on breh. Classmates go out for drinks all the time, why wouldn't she think of it as a friendly thing. I bet she quickly said yes, and regrets it knowing that guys interpret that wrong. Don't be surprised if she delays or cancels.

I'm glad you took the shot but you can't expect that she wants a relationship simply because she'll go to a bar with you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 31, 2013, 03:25:38 AM

No! You should still go if she wants. Maybe she's totally into you. I'm just saying that overall, classmates eat and drink together all the time. Especially in business classes where there's a lot of group work.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 31, 2013, 10:09:59 AM

Jesus Christ. SMFH

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 31, 2013, 10:12:46 AM

Got another date tonight with the lady I guess I'll refer to as "tattooed hairdresser" :mynicca

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 31, 2013, 10:19:46 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on October 31, 2013, 10:13:38 AM

I was kinda joking there, Mups. I'm going to give this a fair shot, and if nothing happens, I ain't even mad.

Also, I think it was really clear that I was asking her on a date. Supposedly, women have this amazing intuition and almost always know when guys are into them. But if there's any confusion, I should be able to figure it out quickly.

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on October 31, 2013, 10:12:46 AM
Got another date tonight with the lady I guess I'll refer to as "tattooed hairdresser"

Should be Tattooed Hairdresser Girl to fit the template of this thread.

My bad. It's too early and we all know some ridiculous shit has been posted in here.

I think asking a classmate for a drink and not tying it to something class related is plenty clear enough.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 31, 2013, 10:22:00 AM

Shit, you're right. Tattooed Hairdresser Girl it is.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Raban on October 31, 2013, 11:45:11 AM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on October 31, 2013, 11:40:02 AM

She wanted to send her descriptions of my shits every time I took one cause she likes that for some weird reason.

I know :-\

(http://i584.photobucket.com/albums/ss281/Wrath2X5/2133b5d3-4875-4059-be20-ceef0cf9f836_zpsf676839f.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on October 31, 2013, 01:35:12 PM

My girlfriend is dressing up as a boy scout. She really knows what gets me going. :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 31, 2013, 01:40:31 PM

Quote from: Robo on October 31, 2013, 01:35:12 PM

My girlfriend is dressing up as a boy scout. She really knows what gets me going. :drool

(http://i.ytimg.com/vi/KKnsivs9C8Q/0.jpg)
"He was caught sucking a cub scout's dick."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 01, 2013, 01:21:11 AM

Hey guys, anyone notice that the sky is a particularly lovely shade of blue lately?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 01, 2013, 11:28:48 AM

She's sending mixed signals?

In my experience it's more effective to ask a classmate out to a casual lunch, preferably at some hole in the wall place near campus. It's easy to make it school related, and during the lunch you'll inevitably talk about non-school stuff too.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on November 01, 2013, 01:23:40 PM

Sometimes even ladies use that tactic.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on November 01, 2013, 03:40:59 PM

Some of us aren't willing to sacrifice our integrity and join the servant class just to get laid.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on November 01, 2013, 03:42:18 PM

I wish I could 'like' my own posts.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on November 01, 2013, 04:16:29 PM

Pity liked.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 02, 2013, 11:47:26 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on October 31, 2013, 10:12:46 AM

Got another date tonight with the lady I guess I'll refer to as "tattooed hairdresser" :mynicca

Good luck with this... in my personal experience the tattooed hairdresser girls tend to be on the crazy side...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on November 02, 2013, 12:17:56 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on November 01, 2013, 01:21:11 AM

Hey guys, anyone notice that the sky is a particularly lovely shade of blue lately?

No, for the last few weeks in Toronto it's been raining non-stop.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 02, 2013, 01:36:55 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on November 02, 2013, 12:17:56 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on November 01, 2013, 01:21:11 AM
Hey guys, anyone notice that the sky is a particularly lovely shade of blue lately?

No, for the last few weeks in Toronto it's been raining non-stop.

Same.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 02, 2013, 03:56:29 PM

Y'all are hopeless.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 02, 2013, 03:59:36 PM

Yeah, I sure wish I lived in Georgia.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Michigan :deadpos

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on November 03, 2013, 01:03:34 AM

I've not posted in this thread in a while, but I thought I would update since Demi, Jaybo, and Bloodwake are the only ones on the Bore that see my crap on Facebook.

I've been dating the same girl I met from OKC since April. Things are going really well. So well, that I began paying on an engagement ring back in September and finally paid it off. She has no clue that I've already got one, but we have talked about marriage and she wants to.

Still working on meeting her parents. They live over an hour away and our schedules just haven't lined up for it. I'm a traditionalist, so I'm not going to propose until after I have met her parents and have had a chance to ask her father for his blessing.

She loves my son and he loves her back.

All is well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 03, 2013, 01:16:08 AM

I'm happy for you dude. Is a congrats ok even though you haven't asked yet??

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on November 03, 2013, 02:02:53 PM

So my girlfriend broke up with me, I think. Maybe. We have communication problems once in a while where she gets depressed or does something wrong and cuts me (and everyone else in the universe off) for like a week because she's afraid of confrontation. Complete communication black out, won't answer texts/phone/door etc... It's like when I quit The Bore or Gaf for a week to get away from the drama, except with real life and instead she just takes care of herself and reads and posts on reddit. Otherwise the relationship has been great and we've both been really happy and we see a therapist to talk about stuff like that on a weekly basis.

But last week she did that again and I was kind of stressed out and lashed out a bit about how it's not cool and unfair and hurts me when she disappears like that when we have plans and she just vanishes off the face of the earth without even giving me a heads up, and then yesterday she e-mailed me that she wanted me to let her let me go because it hurts her to hurt me so much when things like this happen and it's not fair to me and she wants me to be with someone whose got their shit together more like I do. So I replied, no and some reasons why.

So maybe I just got dumped and it sucks and was sudden since less than a week ago she was shouting out to a crowd that "this is the man I'm going to marry!" and writing posts on reddit about how this relationship has made her into a better person and I was telling her how happy I was with life and how it was nice being happy and stable and it gives me time to pursue my hobbies and arts and spend more time with my friends.

Or maybe things will work out. I don't know. I'd like it to work out and when we talk we have good communication and can work through anything and make the relationship stronger but when she cuts me off and we're not talking at all (well I'm talking through occasional texts, knocking on her door; but it's all one-sided since she doesn't answer) for days, she has all the power in the relationship since I can't do anything about it until she is ready to talk and come back to the world again.

A lot of this comes down to the age difference. She's 20, I'm 32. She said she was fine with the gap, even her parents are (which surprised me and I was seriously afraid her dad would beat the crap out of me). She's pretty intellectually mature in a lot of ways so it makes her think she's older than she is and she should be responsible and have her shit together so she feels guilty and that she's a mess because she doesn't. But in a lot of ways she's still an 18-24 year old whose just starting college and just getting out of the house for the first time and it's totally normal for her to still be just learning how to stand on her own two feet. Hell, I didn't really learn that until I was around 24/25. But it makes her feel guilty and she compares herself to me having a stable life, house, career, friends, hobbies, good time management for being able to keep on top of all of them and sees herself as weak and not able to carry her half of the weight of a relationship.

Drama :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on November 03, 2013, 02:15:19 PM

Yeah, it's something that's been a problem her whole life. Previous boyfriends have broken up with her because of it and it definitely puts strain on any relationship. I had to cancel a trip we were going to do for my birthday weekend because she fell off the grid right before my birthday. This time our Halloween plans went out the window (we'd gotten costumes and everything) because it happened right before Halloween. She tries to work on it with therapy (and she sees a psychiatrist and is on plenty of medications for depression & anxiety), but it still happens. It's tough, because it's definitely hard on a relationship (and that you can't make any concrete plans), but if everything else is great outside those times, it's worth it despite of it. Plus it's still early in the relationship so I feel like there's ways to figure out how to make those times less destructive on the relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 03, 2013, 03:25:40 PM

Of course her parents were fine with her dating a lawyer.

Too many red flags bro, I'd cut my losses and dip. The age gap was going to screw you eventually anyway.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on November 03, 2013, 03:38:35 PM

Age gap. How old is she?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 03, 2013, 03:52:48 PM

20. 12 years gap.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on November 03, 2013, 04:26:30 PM

20 plus issues that make it so she doesn't talk to someone for weeks on end? Bounce.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on November 04, 2013, 11:14:03 AM

I'm a random person on the internet making snap judgments on limited information of your complicated situation and emotional commitments and I also say, "bounce".

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 04, 2013, 11:50:41 AM

...bounce.

And, this is gonna seem super dickish, but I'm gonna say it anyway- you should stop seeing such younger women. If there's a reason you don't like women closer to your own age, I would hope that your last couple of experiences would have helped fix that. If (my theory) there's a reason women your age aren't as interested in you, maybe you need to look to making some changes in your life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 04, 2013, 12:20:27 PM

What can I say? I'm a glutton for punishment.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 04, 2013, 12:20:57 PM

Jeez. All that and you say she seems mature for her age? what? Sounds like a regular self absorbed twenty year old to me. Read what you posted and realize she has no respect for you as a partner if that's the way she treats you. That bullshit is pure selfishness.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 04, 2013, 12:30:03 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on November 03, 2013, 02:15:19 PM

Yeah, it's something that's been a problem her whole life. Previous boyfriends have broken up with her because of it and it definitely puts strain on any relationship. I had to cancel a trip we were going to do for my birthday weekend because she fell off the grid right before my birthday. This time our Halloween plans went out the window (we'd gotten costumes and everything) because it happened right before Halloween. She tries to work on it with therapy (and she sees a psychiatrist and is on plenty of medications for depression & anxiety), but it still happens. It's tough, because it's definitely hard on a relationship (and that you can't make any concrete plans), but if everything else is great outside those times, it's worth it despite of it. Plus it's still early in the relationship so I feel like there's ways to figure out how to make those times less destructive on the relationship.

Jesus just read the bold again. You're basically saying you're going to find a way to cope with her bullshit. Or she could, ya know, grow the fuck up. But she's 20. So give it another 5 years at least before that happens. WHAT ARE YOU DOING, BEBS?? Don't do this to yourself, bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on November 04, 2013, 12:39:39 PM

Give her another chance. Nobody is perfect.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on November 04, 2013, 12:44:15 PM

Telling her to stop suffering from mental illness and grow the fuck up is obviously the best advice.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on November 04, 2013, 12:45:26 PM

You have all your life to grow up. Can't we live while we're young?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 04, 2013, 01:03:44 PM

Is she interested in black guys?

:leon

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on November 04, 2013, 01:26:59 PM

don't date 20 year olds

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 04, 2013, 01:29:15 PM

Quote from: Brobzoid on November 04, 2013, 12:44:15 PM

Telling her to stop suffering from mental illness and grow the fuck up is obviously the best advice.

Seems more like it's an issue of her being a 20 year old, the immaturity involved in that and how she treats Bebpo in regards to her mental illness TBH. Could be wrong as we're all on the outside looking in though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 04, 2013, 07:34:24 PM

I have an 8 year gap between my g/f and I - I haven't found it to be too much of a problem, and her parents love me... the only thing is sometimes she doesn't get nostalgic references I tend to make... for example, Above and Beyond's radio show was on and they were playing a remix of "Blue Monday", and she never heard the song...

The funniest thing is she gets tired out a bit earlier than I do when we go out. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on November 04, 2013, 09:15:46 PM

at least wait til theyre 21

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on November 04, 2013, 09:17:52 PM

Quote from: Robo on November 04, 2013, 11:14:03 AM

I'm a random person on the internet making snap judgments on limited information of your complicated situation and emotional commitments and I also say, "bounce".

How can one have a relationship with someone who takes a break from it for weeks on end?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 04, 2013, 10:30:04 PM

For you, Malek:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aU7FBkzKrsc

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on November 04, 2013, 10:51:18 PM

I do love a good synchronicity every now and then. Except when they bring up memories of me being a total goober.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on November 06, 2013, 01:41:07 AM

Have you ever told someone that you actually like them and their response was "What??" and you're wondering if everything you know about the human emotional complex is wrong?

But that's why we have whiskey.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on November 06, 2013, 01:56:34 AM

Quote from: tiesto on November 04, 2013, 10:30:04 PM

For you, Malek:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aU7FBkzKrsc

I'm just not feeling "the Spark."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on November 06, 2013, 02:07:11 AM

That's why you shouldn't like people.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on November 06, 2013, 02:24:07 AM

Unless you're already dating what's the point of any kind of confessional. It's just going to be awkward.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on November 06, 2013, 03:16:24 AM

She was just asking why I looked weird as she was going back to do something which I tried denying and a few hours later I just texted saying that it was because I actually liked talking to her (yes this was all texts). I'm like 95% sure she's trying to seem oblivious but we have the same class and work in the same lab so there's guaranteed to be aftermath.

What do you know, I still have lots of whiskey left.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on November 06, 2013, 03:28:46 AM

Oh the latter of course. I don't text as stupid as I look.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 06, 2013, 03:35:37 AM

Tell girls you like them with texts, brehs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on November 06, 2013, 03:46:44 AM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on November 06, 2013, 03:31:37 AM

If it's the latter, then there's your problem. I'm usually left confused after reading your posts about anything. Can't imagine you trying to explain to this girl that you like her through a text.

What exactly did you write?

That I had "a weird expression because I actually just liked talking to her if that made any sense".

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on November 06, 2013, 07:36:05 AM

:what are you in fouth grade

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on November 06, 2013, 07:42:00 AM

To be fair, English is am nintenho's 7th or 8th language.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 06, 2013, 10:22:29 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 06, 2013, 10:11:19 AM

Alright, time to go feel awkward around a girl who ostensibly has still agreed to go out with me.

It's amazing that, after 29 years, life can still find new ways to fuck with me.

Just gotta avoid eye contact at all costs.

I don't understand this thinking. Why do you let it get to you so much? It's really not that big of a deal. You're being a bit melodramatic.

And by the way, did you ever follow it up? Like "hey, so what about that coffee?" If not, I don't think you have a reason to be this way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 06, 2013, 03:23:45 PM

Stahp! She's probably feeling awkward wondering "I thought the guy wanted to go on a coffee date with me. I wonder why he never brought it up again." It's not like a date was ever set and she stood you up or really bailed. You're just hoping that you can dangle a bit of it in front of her and she'll do the rest of the heavy lifting. Good luck with that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 06, 2013, 06:48:32 PM

Just be all, "hey did you still want to get coffee/a drink/whatever sometime? how's this weekend?"

QUIT BEING SUCH A WEIRDO ABOUT IT

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on November 06, 2013, 07:08:22 PM

Please don't be the guy who 'clears it up' by going on an awkward, lengthy explanation for your actions. Just ask a ho out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on November 06, 2013, 08:46:56 PM

There was never an instance where overanalyzing the fuck out of a situation ever helped me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 06, 2013, 08:55:28 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 06, 2013, 03:14:42 PM

Because my whole thing is combining narcissism with crippling self-doubt and a tendency to catastrophize every situation. This is nothing new.

You sound like Dwight Howard.

Your life is not going to end if you get turned down. That revelation is like when you first discovered xhamster or xvideos, life changing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on November 07, 2013, 12:06:08 AM

I haven't been on The Bore in like 2 months. Coincidentally I also got into a relationship 2 months ago.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 07, 2013, 12:13:24 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 07, 2013, 12:01:34 AM

She replied "Hey! Sorry, I'm meeting up with another friend tmrw night. Perhaps another time!"

Of course any well-socialized male is supposed to recognize this as a polite rejection, but I decided to take it literally and replied "When is good for you? I'm pretty open most evenings."

Life is too short. I'm taking all the low-percentage shots.

A true Kobe fan

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 07, 2013, 10:40:02 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 07, 2013, 04:10:52 AM

So of course she didn't reply. If she had actually meant "perhaps another time", she would have suggested a time. Three times this year alone I've gotten a fake yes. It's enough to mentally prepare yourself for a no, now we guys have to be ready for a yes that doesn't actually mean yes? And of course I can never call anyone out on this. I can never just come out and say "Hey I get it. But in the future, if another guy asks you out and you don't want to go with him, just tell him honestly that you aren't interested. It will save both of you a world of stress." But I can't say that, because that would be weird, or even creepy. I just have to accept that this is how human interactions work sometimes.

Well, onto the next one. All things considered, asking out a classmate wasn't that bad, and I can easily do it again.

Nailed it. This kind of BS is not specific to this situation either. It's this way with all sorts of social interactions, not just dating. Being okay with it will set you free, bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on November 07, 2013, 01:35:41 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 07, 2013, 01:22:26 PM

Well sure. I'm certain all of us have agreed with some old friend that "we need to catch up" or "you should come over for dinner sometime" and it never happens. I feel like the difference is in those situations both people know it's kind of bullshit with a remote likelihood of ever happening.

Well, yes. Why would it be any different for two strangers?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 07, 2013, 01:44:09 PM

Yep. Most adults just find polite ways to avoid awkward conversations. We all know that if someone really wants to hang out or go on a date with you they will make an obvious effort and not just gestures.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on November 11, 2013, 02:54:44 PM

I can't stand my gf anymore, I have to get rid of her. I work too much, am starting another job, and she literally has no friends so she constantly wants to hang out or talk to me. I've been ignoring her for two weeks hoping she gets the fucking point but she doesn't. I need to dump her but for some reason I can't even though I really want to.

Is it real bad if I dump her over text? Also is it bad if I dump her before she has to go to work? I don't know what to do. This sux.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 11, 2013, 02:56:35 PM

Post pics so I can give educated advice.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on November 11, 2013, 03:00:18 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on November 07, 2013, 01:44:09 PM

Yep. Most adults just find polite ways to avoid awkward conversations. We all know that if someone really wants to hang out or go on a date with you they will make an obvious effort and not just gestures.

It's similar to the word maybe and how it never means maybe. It means no

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on November 11, 2013, 03:00:19 PM

she lives a half hour away i dont want to fucking drive that to her house and she keeps knifes

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on November 11, 2013, 03:00:47 PM

i drive a ford exploer thats like $30 just to dump her and not evne get a blowie

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 11, 2013, 04:16:33 PM

Jesus. Meet her someplace public. Make her meet you there so you don't have to ride together afterwards. Make sure to say "It's not you, it's me. I'm about to start a new job and I just don't have time for a girlfriend. I wish I did." And most importantly stick to your damn guns. If you wanna break up through text you're probably a pussy so there's a very high chance she'll talk you into giving her another chance.

Whatever happens, post it here.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Don't actually say "It's not you, it's me."

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on November 11, 2013, 04:52:56 PM

dump her over text because it will be funnier that way

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on November 11, 2013, 05:25:32 PM

yeah. should i dump her before she works tho or wait until she has a day off

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 11, 2013, 05:36:01 PM

True dick move would be to go over to her place and get some/fool around, then drop the "lol dumping you" bomb on your way out the door

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on November 11, 2013, 05:52:02 PM

yeah I wouldnt do that though part of the problem i want to dump her is i dont want sex nearly as much as she does. thats literally all we did when we hung out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Howard Alan Treesong on November 11, 2013, 05:52:20 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on November 11, 2013, 05:36:01 PM

True dick move would be to go over to her place and get some/fool around, then drop the "lol dumping you" bomb on your way out the door

I did the SSJ3 level of that, where you invite her over to your place to get some/fool around, then drop the "lol dumping you" bomb on HER way out YOUR door

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on November 11, 2013, 06:22:25 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on November 03, 2013, 01:03:34 AM

I've not posted in this thread in a while, but I thought I would update since Demi, Jaybo, and Bloodwake are the only ones on the Bore that see my crap on Facebook.

I've been dating the same girl I met from OKC since April. Things are going really well. So well, that I began paying on an engagement ring back in September and finally paid it off. She has no clue that I've already got one, but we have talked about marriage and she wants to.

Still working on meeting her parents. They live over an hour away and our schedules just haven't lined up for it. I'm a traditionalist, so I'm not going to propose until after I have met her parents and have had a chance to ask her father for his blessing.

She loves my son and he loves her back.

All is well.

You do seem to enjoy her company. You lay the pipe yet?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on November 11, 2013, 09:21:58 PM

Breaking up was one of the perks of smoking. Cigarettes have a time limit so when you do sit someone down and explain to them why you have to break up, you have a little ten minute stop watch in your hand. Granted I would always use at least 2-3, and the first was just for beating around the bush small talk.

Do it face-to-face, it's supposed to be cathartic. And yes, you have to be completely honest about how much attention you're actually looking for in a girlfriend. Don't try to put the blame on yourself or say "I'm just not that into you anymore" or some bullshit. Honesty will set you free.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on November 11, 2013, 09:48:57 PM

yeah. she almost called me out on my bluff today "I know babe. I'm sorry if I took things the wrong way but in my experience when people act the way you've been it means I'm about to be dumped so I was getting a little paranoid."

looks like tomorrow might be the day :-\ thnx for help all

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 11, 2013, 09:57:58 PM

You should definitely go now. She might be more inclined to smash if she thinks you're gonna dump her.

:win

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 11, 2013, 10:11:13 PM

But he doesn't care about getting his dick wet. Make it easy on her. Have a friend send you some dirty texts and make it seems like you're cheating. She will be happy to be rid of you and you'll do her a favor

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on November 11, 2013, 10:22:11 PM

I was thinking about that, but shes never checke dmy texts or anything. our relationship is weird.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 11, 2013, 10:47:06 PM

You gotta make it too obvious to resist. Get a text and leave it on the screen and right in front of her. Do this after you receive a call from your friend where you have a very awkward conversation. Like "yeah. Yeah. I really want to but I don't know if I can. I'll try ok? No promises. Yeah I gotta see if I can get away somehow. I do too. Bye" and then when she asks who it was or what it was about say "nothing. No one.". Then get the text, leave it up on the phone and go to the bathroom.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 11, 2013, 10:48:02 PM

And the text should say "I can't wait to suck your dick tonight baby" bam!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on November 11, 2013, 10:58:08 PM

that sounds like a great idea i might steal that if only for the fact that she carries fucking knives and her dad lives above her

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 11, 2013, 11:18:48 PM

That changes the equation a bit. A phone call will suffice.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 11, 2013, 11:21:55 PM

You're doing this in public, bro. Don't be an amateur and do it at her place.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on November 12, 2013, 12:32:14 AM

Quote from: demi on November 11, 2013, 06:22:25 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on November 03, 2013, 01:03:34 AM
I've not posted in this thread in a while, but I thought I would update since Demi, Jaybo, and Bloodwake are the only ones on the Bore that see my crap on Facebook.

I've been dating the same girl I met from OKC since April. Things are going really well. So well, that I began paying on an engagement ring back in September and finally paid it off. She has no clue that I've already got one, but we have talked about marriage and she wants to.

Still working on meeting her parents. They live over an hour away and our schedules just haven't lined up for it. I'm a traditionalist, so I'm not going to propose until after I have met her parents and have had a chance to ask her father for his blessing.

She loves my son and he loves her back.

All is well.

You do seem to enjoy her company. You lay the pipe yet?

Haha no. Waiting.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on November 12, 2013, 12:33:56 AM

The blue balls must be atrocious :uguu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 12, 2013, 01:10:29 PM

Quote from: The Business on November 12, 2013, 01:06:05 PM

I can be direct and what you perceive to be combative to you because I am big and intimidating, but if I were a small, beautiful, delicate woman :-*, I would definitely ignore you until you went away. You give off creepy vibes over the internet—I can't imagine what they must be like in real life mixed with your desperate pheromones.

And did you really just use my real name? Do you see what I mean about creepy?

This cracks me up :lol :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 12, 2013, 01:28:03 PM

Quote from: The Business on November 12, 2013, 01:06:05 PM

I can be direct and what you perceive to be combative to you because I am big and intimidating, but if I were a small, beautiful, delicate woman :-*, I would definitely ignore you until you went away. You give off creepy vibes over the internet—I can't imagine what they must be like in real life mixed with your desperate pheromones.

And did you really just use my real name? Do you see what I mean about creepy?

:dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on November 12, 2013, 01:31:27 PM

:mollywater

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 12, 2013, 01:32:55 PM

Don't let them rustle your jimmies, dude. Just spit back or joke about it and move on. I think this has happened to everyone at some point here on The Bore but the only difference is that after years of being here you still let it get to you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Raban on November 12, 2013, 01:35:02 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 12, 2013, 01:16:25 PM

Edit: I want to clarify something. I'm not angry. I also hold absolutely no ill will against the girl in question, and I'm sure we'll remain friends. I'm just disappointed and discouraged, because for a few hours after that moment in the hallway I was happier than I can remember being in years, and then it was like Lucy pulled the football away.

:kobeyuck

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 12, 2013, 01:30:45 PM

Not angry about what happened. Kind of pissed off by people liking posts in which I am called creepy, immature, etc.

It's because there are 3.5 billion women on this planet and this is your reaction to being turned down by one. What if she's a cunt? Obviously it wasn't going to work out in the first place if the two of you can't even communicate enough to have one date. Here's my piece of dating advice, though take it with a grain of salt because I'm as virginal as the day I was born: dating doesn't require this much effort. People are either interested, or they aren't. Don't make it a federal affair when you find out a woman isn't into you. The odds are most of them probably aren't :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 12, 2013, 01:35:59 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 12, 2013, 01:30:45 PM

Quote from: The Business on November 12, 2013, 01:26:01 PM
Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 12, 2013, 01:16:25 PM
Also, DIAF, Brobzoid. And Raban.

Edit: I want to clarify something. I'm not angry.

(http://i.imgur.com/xphOKsc.png)

Not angry about what happened. Kind of pissed off by people liking posts in which I am called creepy, immature, etc.

Dude, you threaten people online with violence and advocate sterilization to prevent the spreading of potentially low IQ gene pools. I'm a straight dude obsessed with BBC porn and even I find you weird.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on November 12, 2013, 01:37:05 PM

Can't be telling folks to die in a fire over the internet and getting rustled when people think you're immature. C'mon. Take a breath.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 12, 2013, 01:41:46 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 12, 2013, 01:35:59 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 12, 2013, 01:30:45 PM
Quote from: The Business on November 12, 2013, 01:26:01 PM
Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 12, 2013, 01:16:25 PM
Also, DIAF, Brobzoid. And Raban.

Edit: I want to clarify something. I'm not angry.

(http://i.imgur.com/xphOKsc.png)

Not angry about what happened. Kind of pissed off by people liking posts in which I am called creepy, immature, etc.

Dude, you threaten people online with violence and advocate sterilization to prevent the spreading of potentially low IQ gene pools. I'm a straight dude obsessed with BBC porn and even I find you weird.

Do you think I'm weird?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on November 12, 2013, 01:46:40 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 12, 2013, 01:39:20 PM

I suppose I could be creepy. I can certainly give off those vibes on the internet, although I filter my thoughts much less on a forum like The Bore than I do in real life or anywhere my actual name is attached to posts. Intuitively, I don't think I would have so many female friends if I genuinely give off a creepy vibe a lot of the time, and I haven't been confronted about it by anyone. Given that I know of a few people who have been confronted by others about their creepy behavior, I'd like to think that at least one of my friends would let me know if I'd been giving off a bunch of creepy vibes, but I could be wrong.

It's possible that I'm not creepy most of the time, but then I subconsciously become creepy once I'm interested in a girl. That's something to think about. I think I've seen enough examples of how girls react around genuinely creepy guys to say that I really don't think any girls have reacted to me in that way, but again, I could be wrong.

It's situational. You might project as a normal, well-adjusted dude in most social and academic situations, but if you're persisting when a girl feels that she's shown a lack of interest (even if it's in a roundabout, passive aggressive way), she'll be apt to interpret your behavior as creepy.

Creepiness isn't an innate characteristic that could be bred out of the population, like low IQ.

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:teehee

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on November 12, 2013, 03:51:26 PM

i couildnt do it im such a fukkin coward ugh atleast i managed to act distant and left early god this sucks

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 12, 2013, 04:00:49 PM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on November 12, 2013, 03:51:26 PM

i couildnt do it im such a fukkin coward ugh atleast i managed to act distant and left early god this sucks

You tried your best. Now do it through texts. Or emails. Or use a backdoor number to whoever her carrier is and leave a voicemail (I did this when I was like 19).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on November 12, 2013, 04:12:45 PM

ty for the support i really really appreciate it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on November 12, 2013, 07:03:11 PM

Quote from: The Business on November 12, 2013, 01:01:53 PM

Check your gender privilege and quit your whining. Like Cowbell said, if every girl was direct in their rejections to men, then the big, immature, insane ones would beat and rape them. Passive aggressiveness is a survival trait.

I'd actually call it "non-confrontational" but I completely agree that it's a survival trait. Margaret Atwood said, "Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them." The power imbalance is there, both socially and physically, and yet men consistently feel entitled to complete, reckless honesty.

Guess what: Actively not showing interest in a male is complete honesty. The desire for a definitive moment, for conclusive proof that the woman is not interested, that's a male thing. The woman has given you all the clues, we're able to solve this mystery for ourselves. Some of us are just stuck in denial longer than others.

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 12, 2013, 04:30:19 PM

I knew I was going to break up with my Korean ex at least a month before I did it, and I kept chickening out. When I finally mustered the courage, she really freaked the fuck out. Hopefully your experience goes better than mine did.

So what would you call your unwillingness to confront your Ex with they fact that you wanted to break up? What dissuaded you from just telling her?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on November 12, 2013, 07:17:31 PM

Methodis, if there's anything I learned from my first long, serious relationship, it's that being with someone you don't want to be with is hell for both of you. Just go ahead and pull the trigger on a text or email if that's how you gotta do it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on November 12, 2013, 07:20:20 PM

And yeah, you can't expect girls to be overt, and sometimes them not being overt results in you catching the feels. You just gotta learn that if a girl isn't responding well, you move on. Being less persistent is a better way to connect to someone as a human being and not just an object of desire.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on November 12, 2013, 07:30:48 PM

Ah, well, that's the last time I try to help, or engage you for awhile. Enjoy your time in the PLONK Box.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on November 12, 2013, 07:40:55 PM

:hitler

(http://i.imgur.com/VG4T0FF.jpg?2)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 12, 2013, 07:45:07 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 12, 2013, 07:38:15 PM

Whatever, Wrath.

Anyway, it's clear that the consensus on this forum is that there's absolutely nothing wrong with girls giving fake yes answers, so I won't keep arguing, because I honestly don't give a fuck. I'll keep the possibility in mind in all future endeavors and try not to get excited at all until I'm putting a ring on it or something.

what we are saying is that women do it as a result of the way our social structure is set up. We are also saying that normal people suck it up and realize its nothing personal and that this is the way this particular social dynamic works. You don't have to make a fuss every time it happens. The healthy thing is to say "well too bad for her that she didn't get to feel my wiener inside her" or something and not give it another thought. Ya know?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on November 12, 2013, 07:51:41 PM

I think the consensus on this forum is less "it's totally okay to say yes when you mean no" than "sometimes when people say no they feel pressure to say yes while signalling no in other ways, which can be confusing, but once you recognize this and learn to deal with the world as it is and look for those signs, you'll be much better off than by stubbornly holding other people to your own particular standards of behavior."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 12, 2013, 07:54:42 PM

Glen, take a break from the internet for a while. For yourself.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on November 12, 2013, 08:17:09 PM

let's remember to stay posi brehs

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on November 12, 2013, 09:18:41 PM

I'm dying.

This isn't even going to help cause he's raging already, but chicks also don't want to make the situation more awkward than it already is. If you see this chick on a regular basis - work, school, whatever - the chances for a "yea maybe we can hang out sometime" are high. If you flat out turn a guy down, there's usually only a few outcomes, none of which are positive. You get the persistent dude who keeps trying to change your mind, or the rager who gets pissed, or the overcompensator who goes out of his way to show how he's doing better without you. Its full of awkward no matter the outcome.

It should be telling that girls encounter so many creepy dudes that they feel like they have to react this way to any guy they're not into. They're just praying a guy will forget about them and go onto the next chick so that they don't end up duct taped in a basement somewhere.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 12, 2013, 09:36:03 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 12, 2013, 07:33:23 PM

Fuck yourself, you smug POS. Like I give a fuck about some ancient expat's "plonk box".

(http://i.imgur.com/6x5iM1h.png)(http://i.imgur.com/6x5iM1h.png)(http://i.imgur.com/6x5iM1h.png)(http://i.imgur.com/6x5iM1h.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 12, 2013, 10:02:54 PM

You realize you bring this on yourself, right?

Serious advice: consider therapy. I'm not saying this glibly or in an insulting manner. I think having a professional to talk to about things would be beneficial for you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on November 12, 2013, 10:05:55 PM

We rib you because we care, GS. (http://i.imgur.com/j3DPR6D.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 12, 2013, 10:10:05 PM

Also- someone in here is acting like an idiot, but it ain't any of us.

(ok, other than methodis)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on November 12, 2013, 10:12:18 PM

Wants women to be more direct; pissed when people are direct

:deadpos

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on November 12, 2013, 10:42:34 PM

awesome-o how many of these would you say describe yourself?

http://www.babble.com/babble-voices/a-focused-life-me-ra-koh/13-characteristics-of-a-date-rapist-a-list-you-need-to-share/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on November 12, 2013, 10:45:06 PM

All I can say is this would be an amazing satirical version of What Women Want.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 12, 2013, 10:56:09 PM

I really don't see what's confusing or unfair about a woman not showing interest. You act like she's supposed to send you a rejection notice on a letterhead or some shit...

I've missed signals from women who liked me, multiple times. But I have NEVER missed a signal that a woman didn't like me. It's pretty obvious.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 12, 2013, 11:03:52 PM

I've missed plenty of signals from women... mostly when I was younger. I'd either hear from it about them later down the road or they'd get sick of waiting and be like, "Hey dipshit, date me," and I'd be all "word."

Which makes my most recent ladyfriend (imagine that, I've been kind of seriously seeing this woman for a month now and for some reason DIDN'T FEEL THE NEED TO TELL THE WORLD ABOUT IT) so awesome- we both knew we were pretty into each other like, almost immediately.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on November 13, 2013, 12:22:43 AM

Quote from: lennedsay on November 12, 2013, 09:18:41 PM

I'm dying.

This isn't even going to help cause he's raging already, but chicks also don't want to make the situation more awkward than it already is. If you see this chick on a regular basis - work, school, whatever - the chances for a "yea maybe we can hang out sometime" are high. If you flat out turn a guy down, there's usually only a few outcomes, none of which are positive. You get the persistent dude who keeps trying to change your mind, or the rager who gets pissed, or the overcompensator who goes out of his way to show how he's doing better without you. Its full of awkward no matter the outcome.

It should be telling that girls encounter so many creepy dudes that they feel like they have to react this way to any guy they're not into. They're just praying a guy will forget about them and go onto the next chick so that they don't end up duct taped in a basement somewhere.

Being upfront and honest to the wrong dude nets you a stalker. It's happened to myself and a couple others. I don't even want to go there.

We are "nice" because honesty means you're a cunt when it doesn't go their way and they're going to ruin you because of it.

It's really upsetting that a bunch of men who consider themselves "better than that" can't come to the realization that a bunch of fucking creepers and stalkers fucked it up for you, NOT US.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on November 13, 2013, 12:30:43 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 13, 2013, 12:23:45 AM

Quote from: Positive Touch on November 12, 2013, 10:42:34 PM
awesome-o how many of these would you say describe yourself?

http://www.babble.com/babble-voices/a-focused-life-me-ra-koh/13-characteristics-of-a-date-rapist-a-list-you-need-to-share/

Zero. How many characteristics of a whore describe your mother? Because I'm pretty sure the answer is "all of them".

:wtf

Quote

1. Displays anger or aggression, either physically or verbally (The anger need not be directed toward you, but may be displayed during conversations by general negative references to women. . . .)

2. Displays a short temper

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on November 13, 2013, 12:37:13 AM

This is, in general, why I think more men on the dating scene need female friends. You need a broader perspective of the shit that most women have had to deal with in their lives and how that's shaped how they date, their own quirks and their baggage. Then you might come to realize that a lot of them have dealt with abuse, stalking, rape or other sexual assault, sexual harassment and how each and every one of these incidents has changed how they interact with people, especially on the dating scene. For many of them it results in a kind of flighty non-confrontational type of dating that lets them kind of slip away without infuriating the guy to the point of stalking or hunting them down. I'm sorry but that's just how reality is and I wish it could be better and different for all of my gal pals and guy pals but for the most part stop fucking personalizing this shit and realize that when they're not interested they'll slowly drop off your radar because that's the safest fucking choice.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on November 13, 2013, 12:42:10 AM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on November 13, 2013, 12:22:43 AM

It's really upsetting that a bunch of men who consider themselves "better than that" can't come to the realization that a bunch of fucking creepers and stalkers fucked it up for you, NOT US.

Eh I get what you're saying but I don't think it's wrong to say it's stupid and should probably change in an Ideal Utopian Society. Putting the blame back on men for not playing ball doesn't move things forward. Like, let's make some alterations to your post, for sake of example:

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on November 13, 2013, 12:22:43 AM

It's really upsetting that a bunch of <insert race here> who consider themselves "better than that" can't come to the realization that a bunch of <x> and <y> fucked it up for you, NOT US.

Obviously, this is wrong. We shouldn't punish the majority for the actions of the few. Now, lying to someone's face isn't exactly an unbearable punishment, and defending dishonesty as an evolutionary tactic, or whatever, isn't exactly wrong. But I don't think it should be something we advocate for and say "yes, all women should do this forever and ever." Whether or not that's what people ITT are intending, it's coming off as complacence.

In general I feel like society can only advance when everyone becomes more trustful, but unfortunately that's the opposite of what tends to happen as you get older and more exposed to the world.

Anyways, I've said my peace, gonna bail out now before this becomes a discussion about how I'm a creep, or worse, an AWESOME-O defender.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on November 13, 2013, 12:43:42 AM

There's a difference between defending the actions of people who should be working in your ideal world. And telling people HOW THE FUCK IT IS. I'm sorry if the latter is a problem. I can't help how the fuck things are. Being more trustworthy is what got those people into shitty situations in the first place, do you think they're going to put themselves at risk when it can cost them so much?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on November 13, 2013, 12:45:12 AM

Quote from: Tasty Meat on November 13, 2013, 12:42:10 AM

Anyways, I've said my peace, gonna bail out now before this becomes a discussion about how I'm a creep, or worse, an AWESOME-O defender.

"Y'all are probably going to misinterpret me, so I'm just going to respond your statement without the courtesy of reading your response to mine."

Look, if you're not willing to take the heat of defending and clarifying your position, make room on the internet for the rest of us.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on November 13, 2013, 12:49:20 AM

Here's the thing: you're not entitled to shit. Just get that in your head. Once you come to this realization. That's when you should date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on November 13, 2013, 12:55:03 AM

Will say that I still think it's problematic that this kind of conflict avoidance is so widely and unquestioningly accepted. Last time this came up, everyone was saying "Of COURSE she's gonna say she wants another date, that's how you do things!" rather than "she doesn't know you and has to hedge against the worst possibilities, thanks to fucking rape culture" until chronovore made the connection. Even Cowbell wasn't making the argument from a feminist perspective like she is now.

And, you know, the feminist point about the prospect of male violence is a thousand percent correct. But IME a lot of women who behave that way aren't completely making that connection, and a lot of it comes from just being trained as females to never be assertive or direct, because that's not what girls do. So it's a behavior pattern that's useful for navigating the patriarchy while also being one that tends to reinforce it, if I can put on my liberal squish hat.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 13, 2013, 12:55:20 AM

Yeah, cause you're not a hardheaded, borderline obsessive dude that has to get the last word or anything. ::)

(not directed @ Mandark)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on November 13, 2013, 12:57:24 AM

Fuck your ninja edit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Raban on November 13, 2013, 12:57:35 AM

(http://i.minus.com/iZcTuAo2yjZsj.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on November 13, 2013, 12:58:29 AM

Quote from: Mandark on November 13, 2013, 12:55:03 AM

Will say that I still think it's problematic that this kind of conflict avoidance is so widely and unquestioningly accepted. Last time this came up, everyone was saying "Of COURSE she's gonna say she wants another date, that's how you do things!" rather than "she doesn't know you and has to hedge against the worst possibilities, thanks to fucking rape culture" until chronovore made the connection. Even Cowbell wasn't making the argument from a feminist perspective like she is now.

And, you know, the feminist point about the prospect of male violence is a thousand percent correct. But IME a lot of women who behave that way aren't completely making that connection, and a lot of it comes from just being trained as females to never be assertive or direct, because that's not what girls do. So it's a behavior pattern that's useful for navigating the patriarchy while also being one that tends to reinforce it, if I can put on my liberal squish hat.

It's that too. But for the most part I was honest and direct until it bit me in the ass. So there's that.

If we're being honest I think people, especially some of the guys asking for advice on the internet, simply invest too much right away. It sounds like they planned out some life together with a gal the way they act so scorned.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 13, 2013, 12:58:41 AM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on November 13, 2013, 12:57:24 AM

Fuck your ninja edit.

:umad

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 13, 2013, 01:17:36 AM

last two pages tho
(http://i54.tinypic.com/ild3s9.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on November 13, 2013, 01:20:06 AM

Speaking of your av did you ever rob the grave with that mom?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on November 13, 2013, 01:23:00 AM

:wag

age-shaming

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on November 13, 2013, 01:40:13 AM

Jokes man. Jokes. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 13, 2013, 02:46:43 AM

I'll still pick Awesom-O for my team over Andrex any day of the week.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on November 13, 2013, 03:01:17 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 13, 2013, 02:44:44 AM

I probably did catch too many feels. Apologies to everyone except The Business, P-Touch, chronovore, and Andrex.

Also, I have been the complete opposite of a stalker. In the last six days I've managed to not make eye contact with this girl once, despite having four lectures, three company presentations, and a roundtable career night together. I can easily keep this up for another 19 months. 8)

I don't think you're a stalker. I just warn of coming off strong because of stalkers.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on November 13, 2013, 12:42:16 PM

Whoa dude. These last couple pages went places. I wasn't tryin to shit on you for the record bro, I was sympathisizing. I've been in similar situations and it sucks ass when you realize you may have had the wrong idea when it felt good. Live and learn is all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on November 15, 2013, 03:19:00 PM

My GF just broke up with me... fuck this sucks :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: hampster on November 15, 2013, 03:19:52 PM

Sorry to hear :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on November 15, 2013, 03:23:23 PM

Sucks :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on November 15, 2013, 04:50:28 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on November 13, 2013, 12:23:45 AM

Quote from: Positive Touch on November 12, 2013, 10:42:34 PM
awesome-o how many of these would you say describe yourself?

http://www.babble.com/babble-voices/a-focused-life-me-ra-koh/13-characteristics-of-a-date-rapist-a-list-you-need-to-share/

Zero. How many characteristics of a whore describe your mother? Because I'm pretty sure the answer is "all of them".

Whether you actually admit it, I'm sure this strange shit you think and say online creeps into your everyday real life persona.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Smooth Groove on November 15, 2013, 06:16:29 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on November 13, 2013, 12:58:29 AM

Quote from: Mandark on November 13, 2013, 12:55:03 AM
Will say that I still think it's problematic that this kind of conflict avoidance is so widely and unquestioningly accepted. Last time this came up, everyone was saying "Of COURSE she's gonna say she wants another date, that's how you do things!" rather than "she doesn't know you and has to hedge against the worst possibilities, thanks to fucking rape culture" until chronovore made the connection. Even Cowbell wasn't making the argument from a feminist perspective like she is now.

And, you know, the feminist point about the prospect of male violence is a thousand percent correct. But IME a lot of women who behave that way aren't completely making that connection, and a lot of it comes from just being trained as females to never be assertive or direct, because that's not what girls do. So it's a behavior pattern that's useful for navigating the patriarchy while also being one that tends to reinforce it, if I can put on my liberal squish hat.

It's that too. But for the most part I was honest and direct until it bit me in the ass. So there's that.

If we're being honest I think people, especially some of the guys asking for advice on the internet, simply invest too much right away. It sounds like they planned out some life together with a gal the way they act so scorned.

The planning takes time and effort. Why can't bitches be more appreciative?

http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y6/mssmojorising/owed/o5.jpg

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 15, 2013, 06:18:45 PM

I'll forever kick myself for not re-hosting the pics Whiteacid used to PM me :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Smooth Groove on November 15, 2013, 06:22:36 PM

Were there nudies?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 15, 2013, 06:24:51 PM

Nah, some extra Halloween pics. Nurse and devil pics

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on November 15, 2013, 07:39:22 PM

No, women just treat him like a gay man.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 15, 2013, 08:02:11 PM

:oreilly

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 15, 2013, 08:44:28 PM

I trust Smooth Groove.

we were literally discussing that topic today in PMs :dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 15, 2013, 09:31:56 PM

We were debating this topic

:nsfw :nsfw :nsfw
http://ir-tube.net/forum/anybody-else-turned-off-the-term-black-cock-slut-t150934.html
:nsfw :nsfw :nsfw

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on November 15, 2013, 10:06:29 PM

Porn labels are just all kinds of gross. What's new.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Smooth Groove on November 15, 2013, 11:45:07 PM

Black cock slut isn't necessarily a porn label. For example, the Kardashians and Cheryl Cole are all known as BCS.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on November 15, 2013, 11:53:19 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 15, 2013, 09:31:56 PM

We were debating this topic

:nsfw :nsfw :nsfw
http://ir-tube.net/forum/anybody-else-turned-off-the-term-black-cock-slut-t150934.html
:nsfw :nsfw :nsfw

you would post on a forum dedicated to interracial porn discussion

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on November 16, 2013, 04:59:28 PM

So my date last night with a curvy redhead went really well. :win

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on November 16, 2013, 05:12:01 PM

Was the smell of ozone prevalent that night?

/stupid joke

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on November 17, 2013, 09:48:12 AM

this thread is amazing and totally cured my cabernet hangover. :pacspit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: T234 on November 17, 2013, 08:13:56 PM

If I were a broad who liked black cock, I sure wouldn't wanna share initials with the least effective way of determining a national champion.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on November 18, 2013, 04:06:35 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o x2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 18, 2013, 04:09:50 PM

Did you spark in 3 minutes?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on November 18, 2013, 04:14:09 PM

Careful, my man, red heads are undeniably good in bed and crazy in the head.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on November 18, 2013, 05:56:35 PM

So... 100% awesome?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on November 18, 2013, 06:00:26 PM

Unless you attempt any real sort of relationship with them, totally

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on November 18, 2013, 06:07:17 PM

Quote from: Spencer on November 18, 2013, 04:14:09 PM

Careful, my man, red heads are undeniably good in bed and crazy in the head.

Well, she'd have to be.

Anyway, this has some chance to work as she, without any prompting, affectionately gave me the nickname Eeyore. Eeyore is her favorite.

edit 20: I didn't sleep last night so salfjfwlefo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Smooth Groove on November 18, 2013, 06:58:07 PM

In college, I had a pretty terrible experience with a redhead. I dated her for a few months just to copy her chemistry homework. Eventually she caught on because I thought she was too chubby and wouldn't hit it. We stopped talking and I didn't see her for a year.

Next time I saw her, she looked smoking hot and had obliviously been getting into much better shape. When I went to say hi to her, she just looked at me like I was invisible and walked on by.

:goty2

So yeah, never piss off a redhead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 18, 2013, 07:16:54 PM

I thought everyone knew that you never piss off a fat chick because A) it's dickish B) when she gets hot she'll dismiss your ass.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Smooth Groove on November 18, 2013, 07:30:37 PM

I should have been honest, "How do you expect me to hit it if your ass doesn't get in shape? Don't have a BBC, mang!"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 18, 2013, 07:33:22 PM

to be fair, your views on weight are a bit extreme Smooth Groove. Basically a woman is overweight if she doesn't have abs to you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Smooth Groove on November 18, 2013, 07:34:47 PM

True, my ideal woman is "when the pawn" era Fiona Apple

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 18, 2013, 08:03:51 PM

Is she still orgasming in the corner?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on November 18, 2013, 08:26:49 PM

I've decided I'll stay single until after the holidays to save money. I haven't been alone for 6 months so I've forgotten what to do with myself. :'( Currently playing World of Warcraft... Yeah, this is a low moment for me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on November 18, 2013, 08:27:26 PM

After thanksgiving, I'm gonna buy a christmas tree to make me happy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Smooth Groove on November 18, 2013, 08:29:44 PM

Saving money is a pretty lame reason to not date. There are plenty of thrifty ways to have fun.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on November 18, 2013, 08:31:48 PM

I got a lot of other problems.. my check engine light is on, and my credit card is near maxed out. I feel like I should take care of these things

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Smooth Groove on November 18, 2013, 08:36:59 PM

Find a MILF with a secure job

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 18, 2013, 11:40:20 PM

Agreed. It is cuffing season, after all.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sjq6LTBRDqI

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Eric P on November 21, 2013, 10:31:33 AM

http://www.rollingstone.com/culture/news/is-charles-manson-getting-married-20131120

Charles Manson has a 25 year old girlfriend.

November 20, 2013 12:00 PM ET

Charles Manson, perhaps the most infamous convicted killer of all time, is 79 years old and still locked up in California's Corcoran State Prison, where he walks with a cane and sports chipped prison dentures. Star is a 25-year-old brunette who's been loyally visiting Manson in jail since she was 19 years old and maintains several websites devoted to defending Manson and his pro-Earth environmental causes. And according to an astonishingly in-depth new profile by Rolling Stone contributing editor Erik Hedegaard in our new issue (on stands Friday) that was nearly two years in the making, the pair could be heading down the aisle. Sort of.

In 2007, Star moved to Corcoran to be near Charlie, who she visits each Saturday and Sunday for up to five hours a day. "Yeah, well, people can think I'm crazy," she likes to say. "But they don't know. This is what's right for me. This is what I was born for." She grew up near St. Louis, where her deeply religious family feared she'd lost her way ("I was smoking marijuana, eating mushrooms, not wanted to go to church every Sunday," she explains), so they locked her in her room for much of her high school years. A friend passed her some of Manson's environmental writing, and she started corresponding with him. When she was 19, she took the $2,000 she'd saved up working in a retirement home kitchen and hopped a train to Corcoran. Manson named her Star. She recently cut an X onto her forehead.

Star's resemblence to Manson Family member Susan Atkins is beyond striking, and Star seeks to distinguish herself from the woman known as Sexy Sadie, who was incarcerated for her role in the Tate-LaBianca killings until her death in 2009. "That bitch was fucking crazy," she tells RS. "She was a crazy fucking whore. 'Oh Charlie, I did this for you.' She didn't know what she was doing."

And Star says she can prove Manson is more devoted to her than any other girl: "I'll tell you straight up, Charlie and I are going to get married," she tells us. "When that will be, we don't know. But I take it very seriously. Charlie is my husband. Charlie told me to tell you this. We haven't told anybody about that."

Star says there won't be any conjugal visits because "California lifers no longer get them." If they were an option, "we'd be married by now."

Manson, however, seems less convinced the impending nuptials are a reality, "Oh that," he says. "That's a bunch of garbage. You know that, man. That's trash. We're just playing that for public consumption."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on November 21, 2013, 11:10:40 AM

Sounds like true love :heartbeat

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Raban on November 21, 2013, 01:50:16 PM

Quote from: Eric P on November 21, 2013, 10:31:33 AM

Star says there won't be any conjugal visits because "California lifers no longer get them." If they were an option, "we'd be married by now."

bless California :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on November 21, 2013, 02:35:26 PM

chicks dig scars, it is known.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on November 21, 2013, 05:32:36 PM

Sounds like a perfect bait thread. Charlie can, why can't you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on November 24, 2013, 02:32:09 PM

Well, I'm in a relationship. :o

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on November 24, 2013, 02:34:09 PM

The chubby redhead? :gladbron

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on November 24, 2013, 02:56:10 PM

I referred to her as "curvy."

Quote from: Flannel Boy on November 16, 2013, 04:59:28 PM

So my date last night with a curvy redhead went really well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on November 24, 2013, 02:58:47 PM

My bad. Mazel tov!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 24, 2013, 03:32:38 PM

Grats Malek.

Did it just naturally happen, or did you ask to be her boyfriend in a letter?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on November 24, 2013, 04:50:38 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 24, 2013, 03:32:38 PM

Grats Malek.

Did it just naturally happen, or did you ask to be her boyfriend in a letter?

:sabu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on November 26, 2013, 06:02:33 PM

update from me i still havne't broken up yet, I tried again today but she kinda freaked out about it cuz i was dropping hint over text that I needed to talk to her, now shes kind aignoring me and sleeping lol. fml.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TEEEPO on November 26, 2013, 06:30:24 PM

Quote from: Smooth Groove on November 18, 2013, 07:34:47 PM

True, my ideal woman is "when the pawn" era Fiona Apple

/highfive

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 08, 2013, 10:58:40 PM

I hope she has average IQ.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on December 08, 2013, 11:01:39 PM

It's amazing how much this thread died once things started going well for Malek and AWESOM-O.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on December 08, 2013, 11:09:03 PM

Whoa, don't be too hasty, what if things don't work out on the end? You need some matured anger/hatred to fall back onto!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on December 08, 2013, 11:11:29 PM

Quote from: Mandark on December 08, 2013, 11:01:39 PM

It's amazing how much this thread died once things started going well for Malek and AWESOM-O.

It's going really well--she actually told me she loves me. My response can be seen in the following clip:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bfx7izBNHeI

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 08, 2013, 11:18:34 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on December 08, 2013, 11:05:15 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 08, 2013, 10:58:40 PM
I hope she has average IQ.

She's really smart! She's a PhD student in the Social Welfare department (which shares the same building with the Public Policy department, which is how I met her). Brains are a huge turn-on.

Also, I think I can put my Angry GS persona completely to rest at this point. Everyone who I told to die in a fire or whatever, please accept my apologies.

:rejoice

I love you too bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on December 08, 2013, 11:48:11 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on December 08, 2013, 11:05:15 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 08, 2013, 10:58:40 PM
I hope she has average IQ.

She's really smart! She's a PhD student in the Social Welfare department (which shares the same building with the Public Policy department, which is how I met her). Brains are a huge turn-on.

Also, I think I can put my Angry GS persona completely to rest at this point. Everyone who I told to die in a fire or whatever, please accept my apologies.

Whatever, you just trolled the shit out of a fb status update tonight with REPEATED prog rock posts. SOME SHIT CAN'T BE FORGIVEN :maf

(although one of my old college roommates outdid you by showing up and posting about Pearl Jam n shit)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on December 08, 2013, 11:56:25 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on December 08, 2013, 11:52:43 PM

Easy for you to say. I had a Korn fan agree with me on your wall :maf

:umad

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 09, 2013, 12:44:50 AM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on December 08, 2013, 11:52:43 PM

Easy for you to say. I had a Korn fan agree with me on your wall :maf

Creepy Old Guy, explain this shit. Now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on December 09, 2013, 12:45:51 AM

Old college roommates, breh. You forgive a lot of things for people that you've been in the trenches with, both literally and figuratively speaking.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on December 09, 2013, 02:18:11 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on December 08, 2013, 11:05:15 PM

Everyone who I told to die in a fire or whatever, please accept my apologies.

I accept it. Sorry if I was being an ass before.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Polari on December 10, 2013, 04:38:30 AM

Holy shit Charlie M's girlfriend is a babe.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 10, 2013, 11:16:19 AM

Nevermind. Fuck this thread. :shaq

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 10, 2013, 11:23:13 AM

the last six pages were a rollercoaster brehs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 10, 2013, 11:26:58 AM

deleted

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on December 10, 2013, 11:29:51 AM

Quote from: Esch on December 10, 2013, 11:29:17 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on December 08, 2013, 11:48:11 PM
Whatever, you just trolled the shit out of a fb status update tonight with REPEATED prog rock posts.
is there no decency in this world anymore

NOPE

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on December 10, 2013, 11:37:37 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on December 10, 2013, 11:23:13 AM

the last six pages were a rollercoaster brehs.

The last couple of posts even. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 10, 2013, 11:40:35 AM

Quote from: Rufus on December 10, 2013, 11:37:37 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on December 10, 2013, 11:23:13 AM
the last six pages were a rollercoaster brehs.
The last couple of posts even. :lol

which ones? "deleted" or "fuck this thread"

:lenowned

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on December 10, 2013, 12:00:59 PM

I didn't catch "deleted" before it was struck from Bore memory, but I did see the other one, teehee. :omg

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 10, 2013, 12:07:29 PM

Quote from: Rufus on December 10, 2013, 12:00:59 PM

I didn't catch "deleted" before it was struck from Bore memory, but I did see the other one, teehee. :omg

please tell

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 10, 2013, 12:22:06 PM

Eh, I met a girl and we've been talking. Her long periods between texts drove me crazy. So then I realized that I'm too invested in this and that posting in here is a waste of time because I already know what to do.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 10, 2013, 12:23:09 PM

Yeah. You certainly do...

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Bring her over so we can shishka bob her

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 10, 2013, 12:24:48 PM

Meh, I doubt she's interested. She's cool tho so I'd like to be friends and shit. It just sucks because this is the first chick to turn me on in almost a year.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 10, 2013, 12:26:42 PM

I shot her a message at 4 pm and she replied at 10 pm. I dunno man. She's clearly not interested.

NEXT.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 10, 2013, 12:31:19 PM

Quote from: Formerly Known As Himuro on December 10, 2013, 12:24:48 PM

Meh, I doubt she's interested. She's cool tho so I'd like to be friends and shit. It just sucks because this is the first chick to turn me on in almost a year.

Didn't a chick give you a boner a couple months ago?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 10, 2013, 12:34:03 PM

In like, real life, or like, on the internet and I'm trying to fit in? Because that shit mos def wasn't in real life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 10, 2013, 12:35:57 PM

6 hrs isn't that long. Chill! In fact, 10 pm is bordering on late night interest

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 10, 2013, 12:36:30 PM

I love when chicks give me boners. Like "Merry Christmas! And happy frustration!" Noooooooooooooooooooo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 10, 2013, 12:39:45 PM

Quote from: Formerly Known As Himuro on December 10, 2013, 12:34:03 PM

In like, real life, or like, on the internet and I'm trying to fit in? Because that shit mos def wasn't in real life.

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=34032.msg1749706#msg1749706
:leon

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 10, 2013, 12:44:16 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 10, 2013, 12:36:30 PM

I love when chicks give me boners. Like "Merry Christmas! And happy frustration!" Noooooooooooooooooooo

the worst is a quick, single tug before they leave for work/etc. WHY WOULD YOU DO THIS TO ME

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 10, 2013, 12:47:43 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 10, 2013, 12:39:45 PM

Quote from: Formerly Known As Himuro on December 10, 2013, 12:34:03 PM
In like, real life, or like, on the internet and I'm trying to fit in? Because that shit mos def wasn't in real life.
http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=34032.msg1749706#msg1749706
:leon

:yeshrug

Well it's been a while I guess. It's been that long since I've had a female romantic interest, so that you should tell you all you need to know.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 10, 2013, 12:56:16 PM

3 months tho. you got a nicca feeling jealous

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 10, 2013, 01:06:32 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on December 10, 2013, 12:44:16 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 10, 2013, 12:36:30 PM
I love when chicks give me boners. Like "Merry Christmas! And happy frustration!" Noooooooooooooooooooo
the worst is a quick, single tug before they leave for work/etc. WHY WOULD YOU DO THIS TO ME

This is truth. That frustration lasts all fucking day.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on December 24, 2013, 09:37:44 PM

I'm about to go out on a date later in the week with this chick who's a real PAWG. :drool

Wish me luck, fellas.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on December 27, 2013, 10:51:17 PM

Woo! My date turned out pretty damn awesome! She was even better than her pics showed. Not only does she have plenty of junk in the trunk, but she's quite top heavy too, if you know what I mean. :drool

She invited me over to her place tomorrow to watch a movie, so yeah, I'm in pretty good spirits. :rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 27, 2013, 11:04:06 PM

Get ready to be ass deep in that face

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on December 29, 2013, 12:01:05 AM

Tonight's skype conversation makes me pine for the single days. :maf :'( :gloomy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on December 29, 2013, 12:22:01 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on December 29, 2013, 12:19:05 AM

Details?

She lamented her inability to do a single push-up (she was in a car accident six months ago) a week ago, so today I sent her an image of various push-up variants. She went nuts.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 29, 2013, 12:23:40 AM

that's one way to crash a relationship

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 29, 2013, 12:25:42 AM

She didn't want you to give her solutions to her push up problems. (she can do that herself)

She wanted you to be all, "Poor baby. Talk to me. Let me empathize with you."

spoiler (click to show/hide)

/talking out of my ass

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on December 29, 2013, 12:38:20 AM

I'm digging a hole for myself here. I wonder whether a relationship has ended for worse reasons.

This is what I should have sent: (http://25.media.tumblr.com/308cbabaff5cdf5b1147c4ff31121a80/tumblr_mwmoj0qY051t0i1e4o1_400.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 29, 2013, 12:41:06 AM

Just gotta get in touch with your feminine side, brehs. :rejoice

Don't be afraid to feel those ooey gooey feelings.

edit: but then of course, you gotta find your dick & balls eventually and take charge of certain situations. :shaq

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/still talking out of my ass

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edit2: When I wake tomorrow I bet I'm going to be embaressed with what I have posted tonight.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 29, 2013, 01:20:58 AM

should have followed the rules breh
http://getmarriedbrehs.blogspot.ca/2013/09/dating-rules-to-live-by.html

(http://i.minus.com/joeuZS3LFjVqu.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on December 29, 2013, 02:10:16 AM

Update: Kill me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on December 29, 2013, 02:17:15 AM

just say youre sorry and move on fuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on December 29, 2013, 03:29:31 AM

Yeah just apologize and say you should have seen what she wanted.

But still, I can't stop laughing at the image of you trying to sell her on push-up variations when she's complaining about her injury.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 29, 2013, 10:35:19 AM

If your relationship truly ends over that (unless you left out something else unbelievably stupid that you said) then it probably wouldn't have lasted long anyways bro

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on December 29, 2013, 11:02:23 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on December 29, 2013, 12:24:40 AM

One thing that I've been noticing with the girl I've been seeing is that she often doesn't want practical advice so much as emotional support when she's talking about her problems. Not sure if this is a universal thing, but it might apply with your girl. Or maybe emotional support first, then practical advice.

It's universal.

It's also the hardest thing for men to get used to. I don't know that women can be accommodating in that aspect, 'cos it sure seems like it's up to the guy to learn.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 29, 2013, 11:53:57 AM

Told you. Red heads.

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:teehee

No, really, Oscar nailed this one. You support, empathsize and then only if advice is asked for do you offer up the solution that seems so clear to you. Most women don't want quick fixes to their emotions.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on December 29, 2013, 01:16:12 PM

Gotta find that unicorn who's more into finding a solution than moping around. I like to squash shit ASAP. Fuck the silent treatment and fuck stewing on things.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on December 29, 2013, 01:25:57 PM

I dunno bros, I've known a lot of guys who, when they complained about a situation, were more inclined to mope or simply express their feelings than seek or follow simple advice to help the situation.

Like, say, Malek for instance.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on December 29, 2013, 01:29:51 PM

Quote from: Mandark on December 29, 2013, 01:25:57 PM

I dunno bros, I've known a lot of guys who, when they complained about a situation, were more inclined to mope or simply express their feelings than seek or follow simple advice to help the situation.

Like, say, Malek for instance.

Yeah. Guys mope. Guys also pull the "I don't want to talk about this." If women are too emotional, men just want to stay silent because why air problems when you can just be a passive aggressive dick and blow up instead.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on December 29, 2013, 01:45:11 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on December 29, 2013, 01:29:51 PM

Yeah. Guys mope. Guys also pull the "I don't want to talk about this." If women are too emotional, men just want to stay silent because why air problems when you can just be a passive aggressive dick and blow up instead.

I realize that this is a crapshoot from the outside perspective, but silence doesn not mean there's something brewing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on December 29, 2013, 01:53:12 PM

Quote from: Rufus on December 29, 2013, 01:45:11 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on December 29, 2013, 01:29:51 PM
Yeah. Guys mope. Guys also pull the "I don't want to talk about this." If women are too emotional, men just want to stay silent because why air problems when you can just be a passive aggressive dick and blow up instead.
I realize that this is a crapshoot from the outside perspective, but silence doesn not mean there's something brewing.

I didn't say that but when you get to know someone you know the difference between silence and sitting on some shit.

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Post by: Rufus on December 29, 2013, 02:14:21 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on December 29, 2013, 01:53:12 PM

I didn't say that but when you get to know someone you know the difference between silence and sitting on some shit.

Well, that's the ideal, anyway.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 29, 2013, 03:07:43 PM

Quote from: Positive Touch on December 29, 2013, 02:17:15 AM

just say youre sorry and move on fuck

Don't say sorry. Pretend like it never happened.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on December 29, 2013, 04:25:58 PM

Some people don't forget. Address the situation, find a solution and or apologize, make sure it's dropped. If she brings it up in the future realize that maybe she doesn't want to move past certain things.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 29, 2013, 04:37:04 PM

This is a gut check. If she can't get over a dumb joke, end it now; you leave the relationship with good experience you can apply to your next one. Don't mention it. Don't call her. Let her call you, and just go from there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on December 29, 2013, 04:40:27 PM

^bad advice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on December 29, 2013, 04:56:49 PM

Let me just say some people's "dumb jokes" are actually quite cruel and mean. Then they double down acting like you're somehow just another "emotional" person who doesn't get humor.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 29, 2013, 05:05:01 PM

Well that's not the case with what Malek said.
:yeshrug

Do what you're going to do. My point is simply that if something this stupid can threaten your relationship, it's probably time to move on. The ball is in her court. If she wants to move on fine. I've apologized for stuff I didn't think I needed to in order to maintain peace, but this shit? Don't do it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on December 29, 2013, 05:06:26 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 29, 2013, 05:05:01 PM

Well that's not the case with what Malek said.
:yeshrug

Do what you're going to do. My point is simply that if something this stupid can threaten your relationship, it's probably time to move on. The ball is in her court. If she wants to move on fine. I've apologized for stuff I didn't think I needed to in order to maintain peace, but this shit? Don't do it.

I trust you on that then.

Your point is also valid. Some people just want drama in their relationships. Seen this happen all too often.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 29, 2013, 05:10:42 PM

But I highly doubt it is threatening his relationship, Malek is just freakin out.

Now if he continues to freak out, that could threaten it. So don't freak out

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 30, 2013, 11:18:49 PM

so let's say you get to talking to a girl and you think she's pretty cool right

and you wanna ask her out right

but the problem is

she lives across the border.

and you don't have the means to travel across the border (at least coming back would be the problem)

do you:

ask anyway
wait until you do have the means and then do

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 30, 2013, 11:32:28 PM

the trick is to never pay attention to your significant other, so that when you actually DO pay attention, it's treated as a special event worthy of adulation.

then just get her mom on the phone and let them figure it out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 30, 2013, 11:36:04 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 30, 2013, 11:18:49 PM

so let's say you get to talking to a girl and you think she's pretty cool right

and you wanna ask her out right

but the problem is

she lives across the border.

and you don't have the means to travel across the border (at least coming back would be the problem)

do you:

ask anyway
wait until you do have the means and then do

is this something that will be fixed in the near future? If not, just communicate bro. Tell her you would like a relationship and talk about the issue and see if she is willing to try to work around it with you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 30, 2013, 11:45:13 PM

(http://25.media.tumblr.com/gXO4eDo3wjcvpoytj1DzuIGJo1_250.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 30, 2013, 11:50:27 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 30, 2013, 11:36:04 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 30, 2013, 11:18:49 PM
so let's say you get to talking to a girl and you think she's pretty cool right

and you wanna ask her out right

but the problem is

she lives across the border.

and you don't have the means to travel across the border (at least coming back would be the problem)

do you:

ask anyway
wait until you do have the means and then do
is this something that will be fixed in the near future? If not, just communicate bro. Tell her you would like a relationship and talk about the issue and see if she is willing to try to work around it with you.

yeah i could easily fix the border crossing issue. just awkward asking and then being like 'oh wait, but i cant actually GO anywhere on your side right now LOL!"

oh well. i already asked. we'll see what happens.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on December 31, 2013, 02:48:45 PM

Update: Everything is fine.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 31, 2013, 03:58:21 PM

Good to hear you followed my advice.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on December 31, 2013, 05:12:09 PM

Re problem solving, I met a woman who claimed her approach to any problem was to make an Excel spreadsheet. Deciding what to have for dinner, relationship issues, whatever, she'd list the pros and cons of each alternative in neat rows, rank them, score them, etc. We hit it off pretty well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on December 31, 2013, 10:44:19 PM

What if she finds out there are more cons than pros to laying out everything in a spreadsheet?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on December 31, 2013, 11:31:22 PM

If there are any cons, I'm sure the team is aware of them and will address them in future versions of Excel.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on January 03, 2014, 02:21:41 PM

Well, I'm proposing to my girlfriend today. So there's that.

Paid off the ring a couple months ago. Been planning it for a while. She's out with some of her girl friends right now, and they're going to be bringing her to the spot where I'm going to ask.

Wish me luck.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on January 03, 2014, 02:22:51 PM

:omg :hyper

Good luck breh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on January 03, 2014, 02:28:54 PM

rip groogux

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Post by: ToxicAdam on January 03, 2014, 02:32:50 PM

rip blowjobs.

Good luck man.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on January 03, 2014, 02:34:59 PM

record the proposal!!! i want to see! YAY YAY YAY!

Groogrux getting shit done

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on January 03, 2014, 02:36:12 PM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on January 03, 2014, 02:32:50 PM

rip blowjobs.

there are always truck stops :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on January 03, 2014, 02:48:23 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on January 03, 2014, 02:34:59 PM

record the proposal!!! i want to see! YAY YAY YAY!

Groogrux getting shit done

It won't be recorded, but there are going to be plenty of photos. One of the girls she's out with has a sister that is going to be there waiting too with a camera.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 03, 2014, 03:04:12 PM

So you told her friends beforehand? No worries that one might spill the beans early?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on January 04, 2014, 01:16:06 AM

Just a couple of her friends that were necessary for the set-up. It all went off without a hitch!

She said yes!

We went out this evening and had dinner to celebrate.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on January 04, 2014, 05:41:23 AM

WOOO HOOO! Good for you guys!

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Post by: bud on January 04, 2014, 09:12:13 AM

congrats, man.

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Post by: DCharlieJP on January 04, 2014, 12:54:26 PM

congrats!!!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on January 04, 2014, 02:15:07 PM

Congrats breh! :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 04, 2014, 05:09:46 PM

date tomorrow - we'll see.

#wellsee

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on January 04, 2014, 05:17:27 PM

Show your date pictures of my dog.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 04, 2014, 05:24:22 PM

"Hey check out the dog!"

"Oh mah gersh, he's adorable! How long have you had him?"

"Oh, he's not mine, I'm just the President of his online fan club."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 04, 2014, 05:38:28 PM

you know it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 04, 2014, 05:39:22 PM

Quote from: Steve Contra on January 04, 2014, 05:17:27 PM

Show your date pictures of my dog.

That' my "Nuclear option"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 05, 2014, 02:56:32 PM

Kinda wish I set this up for earlier in the day- I hate anticipating social engagements

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on January 05, 2014, 03:42:58 PM

Make sure to clean the pipes before the date to get rid of any anxiety

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 05, 2014, 03:43:28 PM

hah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on January 05, 2014, 04:08:02 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on January 05, 2014, 03:42:58 PM

Make sure to clean the pipes before the date to get rid of any anxiety

pro tip: if you do it to gay porn you're even less anxious because you're temporarily emotionally detached to the idea of heterosexual intercourse.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 05, 2014, 08:52:01 PM

Went fine- talked for a couple hours; will follow up since she didn't run away screaming when I suggested it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 06, 2014, 02:21:29 AM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on January 05, 2014, 08:52:01 PM

Went fine- talked for a couple hours; will follow up since she didn't run away screaming when I suggested it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z2l6RnWM2tU

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 16, 2014, 11:32:55 PM

Sorry to hear that man. You're still young, I wouldn't get too worried about long term relationships. The law of averages says you're probably not going to date anyone who will last, at least not for a few more years.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on January 17, 2014, 08:45:41 AM

my gf keeps saying jokes and comments about being pregnant and "having thom jr in me" and it really unsettles me what do i do

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on January 17, 2014, 09:40:42 AM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on January 17, 2014, 08:45:41 AM

my gf keeps saying jokes and comments about being pregnant and "having thom jr in me" and it really unsettles me what do i do

Is this the girl you wanted to break up with? Bro.... Come on now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on January 17, 2014, 09:42:32 AM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on January 17, 2014, 08:45:41 AM

my gf keeps saying jokes and comments about being pregnant and "having thom jr in me" and it really unsettles me what do i do

How big are her tits?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on January 17, 2014, 10:17:19 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on January 17, 2014, 09:40:42 AM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on January 17, 2014, 08:45:41 AM
my gf keeps saying jokes and comments about being pregnant and "having thom jr in me" and it really unsettles me what do i do
Is this the girl you wanted to break up with? Bro.... Come on now.

ya i was just wondering tho is this something all girls do or just crazy ones

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on January 17, 2014, 10:20:16 AM

Crazy and/or stupid ones.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on January 17, 2014, 10:52:10 AM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on January 17, 2014, 10:17:19 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on January 17, 2014, 09:40:42 AM
Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on January 17, 2014, 08:45:41 AM
my gf keeps saying jokes and comments about being pregnant and "having thom jr in me" and it really unsettles me what do i do
Is this the girl you wanted to break up with? Bro.... Come on now.

ya i was just wondering tho is this something all girls do or just crazy ones

crazy/immature ones do this

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on January 17, 2014, 11:00:59 AM

Better do a taste test bro

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on January 17, 2014, 03:27:01 PM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on January 17, 2014, 08:45:41 AM

my gf keeps saying jokes and comments about being pregnant and "having thom jr in me" and it really unsettles me what do i do

How long have you two been dating?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 17, 2014, 03:30:39 PM

Remember how methodis used to be black? I don't know why anyone takes a fucking word that clown says at face value.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on January 17, 2014, 07:09:48 PM

You've got the right idea, awesome-o. Just learn from it and apply it in your next relationship

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on January 17, 2014, 08:13:32 PM

I wonder if I should try to pursue a serious relationship this year. (http://i.imgur.com/FsCsHoL.png)

I guess I'll see if I'm still up for it once I have enough money to pay rent on a monthly basis.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on January 17, 2014, 08:17:58 PM

weve been dating since april fuk

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 17, 2014, 08:22:56 PM

You were allegedly black your entire life, so forgive my skepticism.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on January 17, 2014, 08:46:44 PM

I, on and off, pretend that I'm a girl. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 18, 2014, 03:25:30 PM

PoF :holeup

I reactivated my OkStupid profile earlier this week. Talking to a couple of women on there but ehhhh. Most of the single women in this area are either single mothers or crazy hippie chicks... or BOTH. I don't mind dating women with kids but single parents don't have a lot of spare time to devote to relationships.

Getting back to Atlanta will be good for me this summer. I've browsed single women there a couple times and it's WAY better.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 18, 2014, 03:41:32 PM

Done with school in mid May, I'll be back in Atlanta by the first of June.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on January 18, 2014, 04:22:42 PM

fuck that garb. tinder is where it's at

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on January 18, 2014, 05:27:26 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on January 18, 2014, 03:25:30 PM

PoF :holeup

I reactivated my OkStupid profile earlier this week. Talking to a couple of women on there but ehhhh. Most of the single women in this area are either single mothers or crazy hippie chicks... or BOTH. I don't mind dating women with kids but single parents don't have a lot of spare time to devote to relationships.

Getting back to Atlanta will be good for me this summer. I've browsed single women there a couple times and it's WAY better.

Hippie chicks :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 18, 2014, 05:31:14 PM

Quote from: Huff on January 18, 2014, 04:22:42 PM

fuck that garb. tinder is where it's at

Is that the shitty straight version of grindr that doesn't work?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on January 18, 2014, 08:03:29 PM

I think my parent's beagle and I shall have little photo shoot next weekend. :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on January 18, 2014, 08:04:45 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on January 18, 2014, 05:31:14 PM

Quote from: Huff on January 18, 2014, 04:22:42 PM
fuck that garb. tinder is where it's at

Is that the shitty straight version of grindr that doesn't work?

well it's not a magic all you can sex app, but it works pretty well and ive met people threw it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 18, 2014, 08:37:59 PM

My PoF mailbox is full of comments from fat chicks
:beli

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 18, 2014, 11:58:46 PM

I'm pretty sure that the secret to success with any of these sites/services is to just be attractive and not overweight.

WELP

:shaq2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 20, 2014, 12:44:56 AM

Careful tho, you send same/similar messages to shit tons of girls, some may be friends and compare shit. :hitler

I'm also going on a date with a woman I've been talking to in the next week sometime, and the last woman I've been dating is wanting to hang out again (of course, it always fucking works that way) we're going to see some concerts together in February. I swear I made a joke post on FB about reactivating my OkStupid profile and then she starts texting about hanging out again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on January 20, 2014, 01:30:29 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on January 20, 2014, 12:44:56 AM

Careful tho, you send same/similar messages to shit tons of girls, some may be friends and compare shit. :hitler

Yup, this is definitely the case... my g/f told me before she met me, her and her former roommate (who turned her onto the site) would frequently get canned messages from the same people.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on January 20, 2014, 03:53:01 AM

Roxanne?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on January 20, 2014, 04:44:29 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on January 20, 2014, 03:35:17 AM

She's named after a well known classic rock song that I know how to play. Could be an opportunity to score some points.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ixqbc7X2NQY

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 20, 2014, 09:10:03 AM

Ask her out now so you don't run out of stuff to talk about on a first date using FB chat.

Edit: Which it looks like you've done.

I learned that the hard way doing OKCupid dating stuff. Too many messages up front always made the first date even harder, because in most cases there is a specific level of conversation that can happen during the first date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 20, 2014, 10:28:24 AM

Fat Bottomed Girls?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 20, 2014, 10:30:07 AM

Also, ugh. Yeah, there's definitely a "sweet spot" when you're chatting to someone on OkStupid where you need to ask them out, but don't do it in the first couple of messages, then you seem like a lunatic I think. Not exactly sure when the perfect time to do that is. This crap is a nightmare, hate dating.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 20, 2014, 11:07:29 AM

I dunno- I think you can mitigate chances of perceived lunacy by meeting in a neutral location mid-afternoon on the weekend that you both arrive at separately- that gives them an easy (safe) out.

Like all things though- a crap-shoot.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on January 20, 2014, 03:13:21 PM

3 to 4 messages... anything after that is waiting too long IMO. Some girls use OKC just for attention with no intention of meeting, too, so that's why I like to ask them out pretty quickly, instead of wasting any time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 20, 2014, 05:19:16 PM

Yeah, I'm all over the place. I've asked girls out in my INITIAL MESSAGE but that's usually probably stupid, as it makes you seem crazy I guess? Then lately, due to just not having enough time and being overly cautious I guess, I waited until like 10th message or some shit to ask this most recent girl out, but she seems to like me so I dunno? She's also busy, we're supposed to be meeting up this coming Sunday for something though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 20, 2014, 06:07:48 PM

Well it sounds like it's working itself out. Lately I've been forcing myself to not over-think most of my dating stuff and its been working out pretty well. It's wayyy hard to not overthink it though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 21, 2014, 01:18:35 AM

Or just ask her out- there's no actual rule or anything ;)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on January 22, 2014, 05:15:52 PM

Good: Celebrating my two month anniversary (as a couple) with the Curvy Redhead tonight.
Bad: She might be moving to Ottawa.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on January 22, 2014, 05:20:43 PM

Quote from: Flannel Boy on January 22, 2014, 05:15:52 PM

Good: Celebrating my two month anniversary (as a couple) with the Curvy Redhead tonight.
Bad: She might be moving to Ottawa.

I don't think that word means what you think it means.

Sucks if she's moving tho :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 22, 2014, 07:37:22 PM

its not a doctors appointment, don't reschedule

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on January 22, 2014, 08:40:21 PM

Saw this on Wired while reading Chris Kohler's piece about Nintendo. Guy using data mining to improve his match % on OKC.

http://www.wired.com/wiredscience/2014/01/how-to-hack-okcupid/ (http://www.wired.com/wiredscience/2014/01/how-to-hack-okcupid/)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on January 22, 2014, 09:48:56 PM

Quote from: tiesto on January 22, 2014, 08:40:21 PM

Saw this on Wired while reading Chris Kohler's piece about Nintendo. Guy using data mining to improve his match % on OKC.

http://www.wired.com/wiredscience/2014/01/how-to-hack-okcupid/ (http://www.wired.com/wiredscience/2014/01/how-to-hack-okcupid/)

So he ends up going on 88 dates off OKC and finds someone eventually. Other people do this by socializing and don't need to set up dozens of accounts to generate the batch of women they want.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 22, 2014, 10:18:08 PM

:neogaf

spergs gonna special fellow, tho

:yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on January 22, 2014, 10:43:46 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on January 22, 2014, 09:48:56 PM

Quote from: tiesto on January 22, 2014, 08:40:21 PM
Saw this on Wired while reading Chris Kohler's piece about Nintendo. Guy using data mining to improve his match % on OKC.

http://www.wired.com/wiredscience/2014/01/how-to-hack-okcupid/ (http://www.wired.com/wiredscience/2014/01/how-to-hack-okcupid/)

So he ends up going on 88 dates off OKC and finds someone eventually. Other people do this by socializing and don't need to set up dozens of accounts to generate the batch of women they want.

Yup, I liked reading about this from the data mining/analysis angle, since I used to do some work in that field.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 22, 2014, 10:45:06 PM

My current OK Cupid match is like a thing now- hopefully I don't fuck it up somewhere down the road ha ha ha *nervous sweats*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 22, 2014, 11:07:10 PM

My message box tends to look like this

(http://imageshack.com/a/img46/3255/b95a.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on January 22, 2014, 11:08:47 PM

:lol :lol :lol

spoiler (click to show/hide)

:lol :lol :lol

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on January 22, 2014, 11:11:20 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 22, 2014, 11:07:10 PM

My message box tends to look like this

(http://imageshack.com/a/img28/7194/cqkn.png)

:dead :dead
:dead :neogaf :dead
:dead :neogaf :dead
:dead :neogaf :dead
:dead :neogaf :dead
:dead :dead

how did you find the female special fellow in the crowd my dude?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Raban on January 22, 2014, 11:11:53 PM

well? which house?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 22, 2014, 11:17:18 PM

Y'all know this fool be in Hufflepuff, quit frontin

:jawalrus

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 23, 2014, 12:57:50 AM

(http://imageshack.com/a/img196/5075/cufr.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Your Stalker on January 23, 2014, 01:22:18 AM

like you're gonna turn down a "pawg"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on January 23, 2014, 02:04:04 AM

:deadpos

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 23, 2014, 02:34:12 AM

They're the only ones who outright say that in their profiles in my experience; well, except for a few white southern women who will also say they don't want to date black dudes. Seriously.

But, if you look at people's questions they've answered, there's a question under "dating" or maybe "ethics" along those lines- "would you prefer to date someone of your own ethnicity?" and I generally use that as a filter to weed out secret bigots. Wish hot black chicks liked fat goofy white dudes. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 23, 2014, 02:39:06 AM

To say nothing of dating a dude named "Arian" :smug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 23, 2014, 02:50:41 AM

I've seen white chicks specifically ask for responses from Asian guys but overall the only consistent race preference I've seen is Jewish women asking for Jewish guys. Not that I care :smug

All my highest matches are white or Asian, and usually 26-30yo. Pretty boring stuff. It's easier to meet people irl at least for me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 23, 2014, 03:03:36 AM

I have to agree with someone who mentioned this to me the other day- I'm kind of in the wrong part of the country for finding women that I like. Up here it's all fucking hippie chicks, and while I may have a lot in common with them, "I like to go hiking" is complete boner kill for me. Even women who I would otherwise probably be interested in seem super flaky and flighty up here around Asheville... I should probably just say fuck it and wait until I'm done with school and have moved to bother with it, but DADDY HAS NEEDS.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on January 23, 2014, 03:26:06 AM

wtf is wrong with hiking? perfect date activity.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 23, 2014, 10:59:38 AM

Not in Georgia bro, unless you like humidity. And considering you eat chicken with a fork, maybe you do.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on January 23, 2014, 11:31:38 AM

I can attest to what the Creepy Old Fart is saying. Everyone near where he lives is either a/an A) Redneck B) Hippie C) Redneck D) "Mountain person" E) Redneck F) Hippie so I'd listen to what he says.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on January 23, 2014, 01:06:08 PM

I really like causal hiking, the kind where really you're just going for a long walk in the woods with a few drinks and a pipe in your coat pocket.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on January 23, 2014, 05:52:34 PM

I like walking, hiking and don't do nearly enough of it. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 23, 2014, 09:22:15 PM

I actually like going for 30 minute to an hour long casual STROLLS through nature. Emphasis on casual and stroll. The hiking dig is because so many women in this area seem to fucking let that shit define them on dating sites. Fucking names like "naturlovr39" and shit, nothing but pictures of nasty white girls with dreads hiking with backpacks and shit. I get it, this area is really pretty, the mountains are gorgeous, let's go outside, blah blah blah. But it just seems that that's all they're fucking about.

I just need to move back to a more urban setting.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on January 23, 2014, 09:37:03 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on January 23, 2014, 09:22:15 PM

I actually like going for 30 minute to an hour long casual STROLLS through nature. Emphasis on casual and stroll. The hiking dig is because so many women in this area seem to fucking let that shit define them on dating sites. Fucking names like "naturlovr39" and shit, nothing but pictures of nasty white girls with dreads hiking with backpacks and shit. I get it, this area is really pretty, the mountains are gorgeous, let's go outside, blah blah blah. But it just seems that that's all they're fucking about.

I just need to move back to a more urban setting.

Are they those kinds of naturelovers that think funk is cool and not showering for several days is great.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on January 23, 2014, 09:53:01 PM

He already mentioned hippies.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on January 23, 2014, 10:24:13 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on January 23, 2014, 02:16:05 AM

I swear Jewish girls are the only ones who regularly put racial preferences right in their profiles.

"Strongly prefer that you be Jewish." You never see any other ethnicity do this often. Read the profile of a 95% match today. I was getting to half-mast and was just about to click the "Send Her a Message" button when I read that shit :-\

Yeah, back when I was using the site my highest match (which was about 95%) was a Jewish girl who said she was only looking for Jewish men. Then again considering where I live, that describes most of my matches :P I remember going on a date with one girl, and we really hit it off... then at the end of it she says she is only looking for Jewish guys or a guy willing to convert. I'm like... "I don't even follow my own religion let alone someone else's, sorry..."

I did manage to meet and get into relationships with a few extremely secular Jewish chicks though... those types are out there, and there are plenty who like to have flings with goyims before settling down with a nice clean cut Jewish boy. I think if COG spent a few weeks up here and took the nickname "Ari" he'd get some nice Jewish gals... but then again that would mean he would have to put up with being on Long Island :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on January 23, 2014, 10:27:38 PM

Quote from: tiesto on January 23, 2014, 10:24:13 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on January 23, 2014, 02:16:05 AM
I swear Jewish girls are the only ones who regularly put racial preferences right in their profiles.

"Strongly prefer that you be Jewish." You never see any other ethnicity do this often. Read the profile of a 95% match today. I was getting to half-mast and was just about to click the "Send Her a Message" button when I read that shit :-\

Yeah, back when I was using the site my highest match (which was about 95%) was a Jewish girl who said she was only looking for Jewish men. Then again considering where I live, that describes most of my matches :P I remember going on a date with one girl, and we really hit it off... then at the end of it she says she is only looking for Jewish guys or a guy willing to convert. I'm like... "I don't even follow my own religion let alone someone else's, sorry..."

I did manage to meet and get into relationships with a few extremely secular Jewish chicks though... those types are out there, and there are plenty who like to have flings with goyims before settling down with a nice clean cut Jewish boy.

There was a smoking hot Mormon girl at my high school who wouldn't date anyone unless they were Mormon or were willing to convert. There were a lot of dudes willing to convert. One actually did and the both of them ran off to Utah after they graduated high school.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 23, 2014, 11:32:26 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on January 23, 2014, 09:37:03 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on January 23, 2014, 09:22:15 PM
I actually like going for 30 minute to an hour long casual STROLLS through nature. Emphasis on casual and stroll. The hiking dig is because so many women in this area seem to fucking let that shit define them on dating sites. Fucking names like "naturlovr39" and shit, nothing but pictures of nasty white girls with dreads hiking with backpacks and shit. I get it, this area is really pretty, the mountains are gorgeous, let's go outside, blah blah blah. But it just seems that that's all they're fucking about.

I just need to move back to a more urban setting.

Are they those kinds of naturelovers that think funk is cool and not showering for several days is great.

YES. Not what I'm looking for.

I do have a boring, probably nothingburger of a coffee meet up with a really hot woman on Sunday though. She works out a bunch and her arms are really ripped, worried she'll rip my head off or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on January 23, 2014, 11:47:39 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on January 23, 2014, 11:32:26 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on January 23, 2014, 09:37:03 PM
Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on January 23, 2014, 09:22:15 PM
I actually like going for 30 minute to an hour long casual STROLLS through nature. Emphasis on casual and stroll. The hiking dig is because so many women in this area seem to fucking let that shit define them on dating sites. Fucking names like "naturlovr39" and shit, nothing but pictures of nasty white girls with dreads hiking with backpacks and shit. I get it, this area is really pretty, the mountains are gorgeous, let's go outside, blah blah blah. But it just seems that that's all they're fucking about.

I just need to move back to a more urban setting.

Are they those kinds of naturelovers that think funk is cool and not showering for several days is great.

YES. Not what I'm looking for.

I do have a boring, probably nothingburger of a coffee meet up with a really hot woman on Sunday though. She works out a bunch and her arms are really ripped, worried she'll rip my head off or something.

That's just to peg you better.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 24, 2014, 12:29:19 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on January 23, 2014, 11:48:26 PM

Triumph should just settle down with a pegger and call it a day. He's already an accountant, so the transition wouldn't be too difficult.

:pacspit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on January 24, 2014, 01:16:46 PM

At least you're going into it with a great attitude!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on January 25, 2014, 03:03:30 PM

The Curvy Redhead is meeting the folks tonight. :suicide

(I've been requesting a suicide emoticon for eight years, damn it!)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on January 25, 2014, 03:51:36 PM

(http://i.somethingawful.com/forumsystem/emoticons/emot-suicide.gif)

There you go.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on January 25, 2014, 05:57:25 PM

Moving to LA for anything

:heh

I'm serious too, if there is a place where tons of fake people go to congregate it's there. Everyone I know who lives there or has lived there, some kind of drama, even from the ones that don't have drama ever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on January 25, 2014, 06:20:42 PM

Quote from: The Business on January 25, 2014, 06:19:05 PM

I make sure to always check where a city ranks on the national drama index before I move there.

The kinds of people you have to interact with daily will have an impact. A good job offer is a good job offer and all but people will wear you thin.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on January 25, 2014, 09:51:00 PM

Ipso facto, drama town :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on January 25, 2014, 10:01:25 PM

Living in SC making $10 an hour, brehs. :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on January 25, 2014, 10:08:43 PM

I'd offer you my standard for visitors, but to better meet your needs if you're ever in town I'd let you yell at me to do push ups instead of rolling you any nasty drugs

Actually, I'd take you to Secret Society for fancy gentleman drinks

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on January 25, 2014, 10:23:07 PM

Quote from: The Business on January 25, 2014, 09:54:30 PM

Cowbell and Spencer win according to stereotypes:

(https://pbs.twimg.com/media/Be1_uCwIEAEmCVF.png)

See? I can totes be a snob about this here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Your Stalker on January 25, 2014, 10:25:19 PM

what's so good about alabama

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on January 25, 2014, 10:26:35 PM

Quote from: The Business on January 25, 2014, 10:04:12 PM

Looking at that map, I want to live in Washington, Oregon, Colorado, Michigan, Vermont, or Massachusetts. I've only been to three of those places. :(

why michigan?

Quote

what's so good about alabama

they were googling about the college football team

same probably goes for oregon, tbh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on January 25, 2014, 10:28:17 PM

They're bizarro good. They need to look up the reasons they don't suck.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on January 25, 2014, 10:48:53 PM

(https://pbs.twimg.com/media/Be3MXFeCYAAfbpm.jpg:large)

I think this map says it all. (Favorite beers)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on January 25, 2014, 11:12:14 PM

Quote from: The Business on January 25, 2014, 09:54:30 PM

Cowbell and Spencer win according to stereotypes:

(https://pbs.twimg.com/media/Be1_uCwIEAEmCVF.png)

I don't get what it says for my state.

I also didn't realize Blue Moon was so popular.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on January 26, 2014, 02:19:34 AM

Quote from: Your Stalker on January 25, 2014, 10:25:19 PM

what's so good about alabama

The BBQ is pretty good! I've only been to Huntsville and that area didn't seem that bad (although it seemed like it could get dull quickly) - big defense industry and a ton of engineers/military there so it largely eschews the typical stereotype of the South.

And on hiking - that's one good thing about living here. No mountains or any interesting scenery (unless you love 60's style splanches and shopping malls), plus half the year the weather is shit. The big outdoor activity on every single girl's profile is the beach... and I can live with that!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: T234 on January 26, 2014, 03:18:36 AM

Quote from: Your Stalker on January 25, 2014, 10:25:19 PM

what's so good about alabama

The Bass Fishing and the Dope.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 26, 2014, 11:55:05 AM

hah, replying to an old bebpo post

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 26, 2014, 12:10:58 PM

What has nine arms and sucks? Well, I mean, obviously.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 26, 2014, 12:27:34 PM

Did she nibble a donut off yer erect johnson, tho?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 26, 2014, 08:36:23 PM

Achievement Unlocked: NEXT LEVEL AWKWARDNESS

Go on a date with a pretty lady that ends up being life long friends with your sister.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on January 26, 2014, 09:44:26 PM

I am close...so fucking CLOSE to meeting up with this bodacious babe tonight. We already have a meet up place, but she hasn't given me the time yet. UGH WOMEN! Why'd we ever give them the right to vote? :punch

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 26, 2014, 10:13:13 PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9dfZyfckKPk
:tocry

just found out my former best friend had a kid. If you have the chance, take the shot gentlemen. Don't be a pussy and decide not to give it a try when given the opportunity.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on January 26, 2014, 10:50:31 PM

Not to make a big deal out of this or nothing, but where the fuck is this broad?!? :maf

We agreed to meet up for coffee almost two hours ago, but she still hasn't told me what time to be there. And Starbucks closes at 9:30! :punch :punch :punch

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on January 26, 2014, 11:21:18 PM

IT'S ON! Apparently her dumbass was already there and forgot to mention it.

Wish me luck, gentlemen.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 26, 2014, 11:39:13 PM

Quote from: Esch on January 26, 2014, 10:34:47 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on January 26, 2014, 08:36:23 PM
Achievement Unlocked: NEXT LEVEL AWKWARDNESS

Go on a date with a pretty lady that ends up being life long friends with your sister.
You mean NEXT LEVEL AWESOME. Get serious with her and troll your sister.

We talked shit about my sister for like half an hour. :jawalrus

...there will be no sexy times, though. :tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on January 27, 2014, 03:46:06 AM

Okay, back from my date. It was...interesting. While still definitely smashable, she wasn't as hot as she appeared in her pics. Not to mention she was much older than she claimed (she said she was 29, but turned out was 41). We seemed to have a pretty good time and everything, but I don't know if she would be interested in continuing. We scheduled to meet up again next weekend, and ended the date with a couple of kisses and such, but it seems unpredictable at this point.

I hope she decides to because she's got some massive mammaries and fortunately, unlike the PAWG I went out with a few weeks ago, her's happen to be real. And boy are they real. :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on January 27, 2014, 10:07:31 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on January 27, 2014, 03:46:06 AM

Okay, back from my date. It was...interesting. While still definitely smashable, she wasn't as hot as she appeared in her pics. Not to mention she was much older than she claimed (she said she was 29, but turned out was 41). We seemed to have a pretty good time and everything, but I don't know if she would be interested in continuing. We scheduled to meet up again next weekend, and ended the date with a couple of kisses and such, but it seems unpredictable at this point.

I hope she decides to because she's got some massive mammaries and fortunately, unlike the PAWG I went out with a few weeks ago, her's happen to be real. And boy are they real. :drool

:dead

Whatever man, if she's not crazy, have fun.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on January 27, 2014, 10:33:25 AM

For real real, I bet that 41 year old is kinky and experienced. Can't go wrong with that combo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on January 27, 2014, 02:30:25 PM

Hey, I wasn't complaining! I've went out with cougars many times before. I was only slightly disappointed in the sense that this would have been my first time dating someone my age in over a year.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 27, 2014, 04:01:22 PM

So like, 8th date in- and now my crippling fears have gone from ever finding someone to 'fucking things up' -

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on January 28, 2014, 10:24:43 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on January 28, 2014, 01:35:29 AM

Dude, like a week ago you were posting about starting to hang out with a new girl, and now she's "the gf"?

I refer to any bitch I talk to as my girlfriend.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on January 29, 2014, 01:06:38 AM

Ate tacos and watched Maximum Overdrive - best date ever

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 31, 2014, 12:20:38 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on January 29, 2014, 12:47:25 AM

Set up another date with the girl I was supposed to go out with last week. Not too unhappy with the situation, all things considering. This is why guys have to play a numbers game. I think from here on out I will just try to set up dates with as many people as possible until something turns into an actual relationship.

How big is your relationship with God. Thats more important because women who are impressed by your genital size before you as a man, are obviously demonic, friends
(http://imageshack.com/a/img545/2986/hxvu.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on January 31, 2014, 02:25:49 AM

Random question: When's the fart point of a relationship? That means when you can fart in front of someone without pretending you're asleep.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on January 31, 2014, 08:55:42 AM

Yep. If your date can't survive a fart then why bother?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on January 31, 2014, 01:57:52 PM

Girl farts are gross. But everyone does them so if homegirl can't handle that you fart, then she has problems.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on January 31, 2014, 11:44:46 PM

The last three days have been fun. . . .

Kill me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 03, 2014, 11:15:21 PM

So what's the smoothest way of rejecting a second date offer through text?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 03, 2014, 11:18:05 PM

Kinda hard to pull when you have no family here.

Maybe I can get away with a dead sister?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 03, 2014, 11:25:38 PM

I totally got AWESOM-O vibes from this person. Like, I can see in their eyes they already started building a future and shit. Got me clutching my purse and scanning for exits.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 03, 2014, 11:26:19 PM

Tell her it's Ramadan.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on February 03, 2014, 11:44:26 PM

Quote from: The Business on February 03, 2014, 11:40:35 PM

Tell him you really like him as a person and think that his IQ is really impressive but that you are a soulless, manipulative bitch that only went out with him to destroy his life.

Add a blurb about a dead bunny and you're set.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 03, 2014, 11:44:27 PM

I made a huge mistake on our first date: I bought tickets for "Her" at the moolah (couch-style theater) which paved the way for some serious snuggling, and understandably sent mixed signals. Had we started with dinner and chatted for a bit I woulda friend-zoned that post-haste.

Quote from: The Business on February 03, 2014, 11:40:35 PM

Tell him you really like him as a person and think that his IQ is really impressive but that you are a soulless, manipulative bitch that only went out with him to destroy his life.

There's a lot of #truth to this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 03, 2014, 11:50:15 PM

Quote from: Esch on February 03, 2014, 11:46:45 PM

You filthy betch.

It was the second first date of day.

(http://i.minus.com/ihQIxh1JpxRyI.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 03, 2014, 11:51:47 PM

I'd literally take myself off the market for that hot churro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 03, 2014, 11:52:02 PM

Quote from: The Business on February 03, 2014, 11:40:35 PM

Tell him you really like him as a person and think that his IQ is really impressive but that you are a soulless, manipulative bitch that only went out with him to destroy his life.

don't you mean her
(http://imageshack.com/a/img853/4754/ldwj.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on February 04, 2014, 12:01:11 AM

Just use the "sorry, I'm not ready for a relationship" card. Shit gets used on me allllllll the time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 04, 2014, 12:11:06 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on February 04, 2014, 12:01:11 AM

Just use the "sorry, I'm not ready for a relationship" card. Shit gets used on me allllllll the time.

"I'd like to see you again. Can I take you out to another movie?"

"You make for a great theater companion, but I'm afraid I'm not ready for anything serious."

I don't feel good. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on February 04, 2014, 12:19:32 AM

Eh, just try to be as upfront as possible.

"Sorry if I gave you the wrong impression the other night, I was feeling sort of 'in the moment' but I'm really not looking for anything serious."

Or whatever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 04, 2014, 12:21:16 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on February 04, 2014, 12:19:32 AM

Eh, just try to be as upfront as possible.

"Sorry if I gave you the wrong impression the other night, I was feeling sort of 'in the moment' but I'm really not looking for anything serious."

Or whatever.

That's perfectly put because, well, it's the truth. That movie was so demonic, friend.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on February 04, 2014, 12:23:01 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on February 04, 2014, 12:19:32 AM

Eh, just try to be as upfront as possible.

"Sorry if I gave you the wrong impression the other night, I was feeling sort of 'in the moment' but I'm really not looking for anything serious."

Or whatever.

Yup, just be blunt. If they've had any sort of experience with dating they'll deal with it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 04, 2014, 12:23:15 AM

I just got this long text for a reply...

Quote

Nor am I. But I am looking for someone to have some fun with. I'm not looking to settle down or get tied down to STL. But if I could find someone's company to enjoy socially in a low stakes environment that would be ok with me. I appreciate you being up front. And I'm terrible with this kind of thing, But I did have a good time and if you're looking for a fun night out I hope you'll keep me in mind.

Translation: FWB :lol

And now I'm thinking of using your other line, Triumph.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 04, 2014, 12:31:40 AM

So I replied with Truimph's "in the moment" line and got back "I understand =) movies do that sometimes."

Done.

Dude you're a genius.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on February 04, 2014, 12:42:20 AM

I'ma write a book detailing all the ways I've been friendzoned over the years, brehs

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on February 04, 2014, 12:44:23 AM

I was really proud of myself the last time it happened. I got the "you're so nice, I really want to be friends with you and don't want to complicate that with a relationship, blah blah blah" gambit, and I just said, "Well, I guess that's cool. I was unaware of the rule about not sleeping with nice guys, but it must exist because I get that a lot."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on February 04, 2014, 12:46:04 AM

Just don't reach for the fedora, Triumph.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 04, 2014, 12:46:44 AM

I enjoy Shaka's moment of relationship drama/advice far more than Bepbo's or Green Shinobi's.

everyone is happy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on February 04, 2014, 12:47:20 AM

Nah. She got pissed (understandably) and the next ten minutes were spent patching shit up so that we could, in fact, continue being friends. I'm going to two more concerts with her this month because I'm a sucker! (at least we split the cost of tickets, amirite guys???)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on February 04, 2014, 12:53:22 AM

What really sucks is now I'm sitting on $40 of FTD credit I bought for $20 from groupon and no woman to give it to.

:tocry

...just kidding, I have all these lady friends who would love some flowers, especially since it's already been made clear to me there's no sex ever happening!

(http://www.drfc-vsc.co.uk/Smileys/aaron/suicide.gif)

(I'll shut up now. Been a shitty year or so for me vis a vis the whole dating thing. Just need to forget about it until I've moved.)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on February 04, 2014, 01:09:58 AM

I am dating a woman that willingly watched Batman (1966), Maximum Overdrive, and Street Fighter the Movie and enjoyed them allfor being what they are- AND appreciates the first TMNT movie- how cool is that?

#jinxedwtfdamn

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on February 04, 2014, 10:07:54 PM

I don't think I've ever gotten the "LJBF" before... usually just got ignored or a vague (and usually mutual) "This isn't working out..."

One girl I was dating for a few months told me that I needed someone more conservative ( ??? )...

spoiler (click to show/hide)

And of course the one after that was an insane evangelical bible-thumpin' republican who non-ironically said that Obama is a baby-killer

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 04, 2014, 10:10:24 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on February 04, 2014, 01:09:58 AM

I am dating a woman that willingly watched Batman (1966), Maximum Overdrive, and Street Fighter the Movie and enjoyed them allfor being what they are- AND appreciates the first TMNT movie- how cool is that?

#jinxedwtfdamn

There has to be a flip side to this coin. Is she a libertarian, or One Direction fan?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 04, 2014, 10:18:02 PM

Ok breh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on February 04, 2014, 10:31:28 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on February 04, 2014, 10:15:16 PM

Could ya'll guys and gals do me a favor and keep the "Giving Awesom-O shit" stuff to yourselves?

I'm off that bandwagon unless you flip out again.

As for everyone else, why let it bother you? Particularly, why let it bother you when you KNOW it's the only reason this stuff is appearing?

I know saying "don't obsess" is much easier to preach than practice. I have problems with it myself -- but you'll be better off if you only care about advice which comes from people who care about you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on February 05, 2014, 07:41:41 PM

Quote from: chronovore on February 04, 2014, 10:31:28 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on February 04, 2014, 10:15:16 PM
Could ya'll guys and gals do me a favor and keep the "Giving Awesom-O shit" stuff to yourselves?

I'm off that bandwagon unless you flip out again.

As for everyone else, why let it bother you? Particularly, why let it bother you when you KNOW it's the only reason this stuff is appearing?

I know saying "don't obsess" is much easier to preach than practice. I have problems with it myself -- but you'll be better off if you only care about advice which comes from people who care about you.

I think what he's basically asking you is, in your life, why do you give valuable time, to people who don't care if you, live or you die?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on February 05, 2014, 08:19:43 PM

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on February 05, 2014, 07:41:41 PM

I think what he's basically asking you is, in your life, why do you give valuable time, to people who don't care if you, live or you die?

I guess, yeah, that would be the corollary. I was trying to keep it positive.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on February 05, 2014, 09:29:48 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on February 05, 2014, 08:34:39 PM

I'd like to imagine that most of these dudes would care at least a little if I turned up dead tomorrow.

Maybe. It would probably have more to do with the headlines of HOW you turned up dead than anything else:

160 IQ Genius Trades Life for Firefighter's in Arson-related MENSA Rescue Effort
Rabbit-Wielding Korean Exchange Student Dead in Hollywood Murder/Suicide
Autoerotic Asphyxiation Claims Life of MBA Student at James Cameron's Avatar Sequel Screening

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 05, 2014, 09:45:49 PM

Fwiw AWESOM-O I haven't been following this thread and I've no idea if it's referencing anything recent. I just rolled with it cause that's how I roll. Your feels makes me STRONGER STAND A LITTLE TALLER!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 05, 2014, 09:50:20 PM

For real breh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on February 05, 2014, 10:01:21 PM

Brown Bore has it in for Awesom-O's cheeks. Who knew?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on February 05, 2014, 11:34:23 PM

I think of everyone I know on forums as a another random soul that I could learn things from but I'd be pretty hurt if any regular on this forum died.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on February 06, 2014, 12:29:22 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on February 04, 2014, 10:10:24 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on February 04, 2014, 01:09:58 AM
I am dating a woman that willingly watched Batman (1966), Maximum Overdrive, and Street Fighter the Movie and enjoyed them allfor being what they are- AND appreciates the first TMNT movie- how cool is that?

#jinxedwtfdamn

There has to be a flip side to this coin. Is she a libertarian, or One Direction fan?

who knows? Im not gonna overthink it cause so far its been great.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on February 06, 2014, 08:56:13 AM

One Direction is p. good, though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 06, 2014, 09:42:20 PM

Quote from: Esch on February 06, 2014, 09:36:35 PM

(http://i.minus.com/jE6tqM7bOn3fY.png)

Going on my first non-interracial date next week

(http://i.minus.com/jhwfQdJoJNwqv.png)

it's so demonic friends.

I always thought it was weird that many black Coli posters have never dated a black chick :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on February 06, 2014, 09:46:54 PM

I might have dated more black chicks than some Coli posters

:gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 06, 2014, 10:30:26 PM

ie you couldn't afford to holla at Indian chicks before, but now you swole with them IT certs and grant money
:mynicca

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sd0S0LwhEDU

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 07, 2014, 03:00:48 AM

Quote from: Esch on February 07, 2014, 01:50:52 AM

:yeshrug same shit dude. The sheltered princess. Just not my thing. Im a foul, uncouth swarthy bastard and I need someone who can tolerate that. Plus there's the aspect of indian regional beefs and the fact that my parents are not even from there so its pretty complicated for me.

They be throwing shade at the dark skinned Indians :whew

Keep your head up breh, and find some role models. Wesley Snipes and Akon saved my life, no homo.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on February 09, 2014, 08:17:00 PM

having a serious case of self awareness all of a sudden.

been talking to this one girl sporadically, recently asked her out but she's going down the cliche "playing hard to get" alley pretty hard. playing along a bit, haven't heard anything since yesterday... but that's somewhat common from this girl. my dumb brain keeps convincing myself i'm never gonna hear from her pretty much every time. basically playing right into her game every step of the way.

but then on the flip side i also been talking to this other girl from toronto who... tbh i'll probably never meet because this distance and also i may be moving away from buffalo and EXTENDING that distance. but i like talking to her so whatevs. sometimes i won't respond to her for over a day and now i realized i'm kinda doing the EXACT same thing i'm flipping out over.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on February 09, 2014, 08:37:35 PM

You gotta find that one person where you both can't get enough of talking to each other. Sounds like it's only one half in either situation.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on February 09, 2014, 11:10:09 PM

Yeah, I don't think I've had a date with my current girlfriend that didn't result in at least a few hours of just talking. Actually closed out my OK Cupid account today. Feel slightly bad cause she closed hers out first. #beatentothepunch

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on February 11, 2014, 10:29:25 AM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on February 09, 2014, 11:10:09 PM

Yeah, I don't think I've had a date with my current girlfriend that didn't result in at least a few hours of just talking. Actually closed out my OK Cupid account today. Feel slightly bad cause she closed hers out first. #beatentothepunch

Don't feel bad. You now know you control that relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on February 11, 2014, 11:24:55 AM

id rather not look at it that way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on February 11, 2014, 02:20:09 PM

I was really hoping you were more of a sociopath, but I guess it's good that you're not.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on February 21, 2014, 10:37:17 PM

vaguely racist, dumb, and valley girl? :o

:drool :drool :drool :drool :drool :drool :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 21, 2014, 10:40:01 PM

What did she say. :lol

racist Indians :pacspit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on February 21, 2014, 10:40:45 PM

All the girls at my place of work are vaguely racist. :stahp

Fucking BJU grads...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on February 21, 2014, 10:56:13 PM

tinder bitty?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on February 21, 2014, 11:13:23 PM

what mexican

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on February 21, 2014, 11:20:01 PM

:aah vicariously tasting the delicious food

and yes you lucked out shaved duck is way too much for a bullshit date. that chick doesnt deserve savory duck leg :pacspit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on February 21, 2014, 11:27:11 PM

I think she's more than vaguely racist. :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on February 21, 2014, 11:28:20 PM

:stlcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on February 21, 2014, 11:29:18 PM

Put it in her butt for Obama.

And yes, I'm drinking.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on February 22, 2014, 12:04:55 AM

Quote from: Esch on February 21, 2014, 11:22:38 PM

The funny thing is i really tried hard to give her the out with a laugh and topic change when she said the black guy thing and then continued on "well I was so scared! He was a really dark scary black guy"

:picard

Sounds like my kind of girl. Toss her over here and I'll have some sloppy seconds (http://i.imgur.com/RU1SvSA.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 22, 2014, 12:40:23 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on February 21, 2014, 10:40:01 PM

What did she say. :lol

racist Indians :pacspit

"Why do most capsules come in white?"
"Because they want them to work."

(Actual joke someone told me on a date lol)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on February 22, 2014, 12:51:13 AM

Quote from: Esch on February 21, 2014, 10:54:16 PM

AND she didn't wanna drink. Who the fuck goes to eat mexican and won't have a damn margarita. Thank Yu-Huang I didn't actually take her to the more expensive place and shell out more than the 20 I ended up spending on our meal.

(http://i.minus.com/jsiwQ82wB4DCW.png)

I can't seriously date someone that doesn't drink. Like, I don't get shit hammered multiple times a week or whatever, but going out and getting your drank on occasionally is FUN.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 22, 2014, 01:12:02 AM

classic page gentlemen :rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 22, 2014, 01:18:24 AM

Esch on blast

Biz doesn't know what a compass looks like

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 22, 2014, 01:33:33 AM

Gee if only there was a way to find an answer!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 22, 2014, 01:37:53 AM

(I looked it up and the answer was some weeabo shit)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on February 22, 2014, 01:50:37 AM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on February 22, 2014, 01:37:53 AM

(I looked it up and the answer was some weeabo shit)

I dunno, I GISed it didn't see any weeaboo stuff.

There was this (presumably 90's CRPG status screen?)
(http://i877.photobucket.com/albums/ab332/Crawlscreens/Avernum/Screenshot-2010_08_0123_21_18.jpg)

And this:

(http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_b-irc6OROLc/TPUvODcjQ9I/AAAAAAAAAVs/WTsP374noRY/s1600/tatseless.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 22, 2014, 02:00:58 AM

The top results were Law/Chaos for the missing directions. That's some straight up Squeenix shite. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on February 22, 2014, 02:06:13 AM

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alignment_(role-playing_games)

This is new to you, Shaka?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 22, 2014, 02:12:15 AM

Aside from some a few JRPGs employing that alignment system, it's sorta new to me.

(I've been exposed brehs)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on February 22, 2014, 02:25:41 AM

Quote from: tiesto on February 22, 2014, 01:50:37 AM

There was this (presumably 90's CRPG status screen?)
(http://i877.photobucket.com/albums/ab332/Crawlscreens/Avernum/Screenshot-2010_08_0123_21_18.jpg)

That's Arcanum. Interesting but flawed game.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arcanum:_Of_Steamworks_and_Magick_Obscura

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on February 22, 2014, 02:41:54 AM

Fuck those mines though. I had to cheese them with the (ridiculously OP) Harm spell.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on February 22, 2014, 11:22:14 AM

Quote from: The Business on February 22, 2014, 01:26:58 AM

What would a literal moral compass look like?

Good
|
??? ---O--- ???
|
Bad

Good
|
Gay ---O--- JO with friends, no gay stuff
|
Bad

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on February 22, 2014, 12:19:50 PM

Quote from: Steve Contra on February 22, 2014, 11:22:14 AM

Quote from: The Business on February 22, 2014, 01:26:58 AM
What would a literal moral compass look like?

Good
|
??? ---O--- ???
|
Bad

Good
|
Gay ---O--- JO with friends, no gay stuff
|
Bad

replace bad with side hugging and I think this is it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on February 22, 2014, 03:10:44 PM

Quote from: The Business on February 22, 2014, 01:16:03 AM

I said work in restaurants to meet women, but that's interesting that you imagined a rape scenario involving alcohol.

(http://i.imgur.com/ZtizaoK.png)

I thought you said waitresses usually like to unwind by going out for drinks after their shift?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on February 22, 2014, 03:19:19 PM

I can only speak for myself but I prefer racism and date rape.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on February 22, 2014, 03:34:07 PM

i prefer dating racist rapists

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on February 22, 2014, 03:37:11 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xMwOeTmkF7A

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on February 22, 2014, 06:44:16 PM

Okay, so a quick summary of stuff that happened over the past month or so.

As I mentioned in this thread last month, I went out with a PAWG and our first date seemed to go well. We had a second date where she invited me over to her house and we proceeded to get it on. I come to find out that she wasn't really PAWG material and her clothes were holding back several layers of fat, and NOT the good kind! To make matters worse, the boobs that I was so enamored with when we first me turned out to be implants. Seriously, is there anything worse than a fat chick with fake tits? Then some stuff happens that I'd rather not get into, and so we both never speak to each other again.

Then, a week or so later, I meet up with this cougar who claimed she was 29 but is in fact, 41. She turns out not to be as attractive in person as she was in her pictures (specifically her face), but she's got a decent body, but with a really great rack, so whatever. We meet for coffee and seem like we're hitting it off, and end with some kisses. Our schedules don't work at all on the weekdays and the only time we can meet is on the weekends, but she seems to be pre-occupied every time, so I figure she's not really interested. Yet she still texts me pretty much every day.

After that I start chatting with this other chick, who is a LEGIT PAWG (chubby, but the good kind of chubby), and we decide to meet, but she flakes on me the first time by saying she was sick, flakes on me the second time saying her apartment had no running water, and then flakes on me a THIRD time by just disappearing off the face of the Earth. :punch

Yesterday however, the cougar contacts me again and we set up a second date for tonight to go see the new Robocop. Hopefully this has a happy ending (and I'm not talking about Robocop :apimp )

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on February 22, 2014, 06:49:47 PM

I skimmed until I saw my favorite word, cougar, so whatever you need to do to keep one, do it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on February 22, 2014, 07:09:02 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on February 22, 2014, 06:49:47 PM

I skimmed until I saw my favorite word, cougar, so whatever you need to do to keep one, do it.

I'm not sure why but for some reason I seem to attract cougars way more than girls my own age. I mean, nothing wrong with cougars OBVIOUSLY but goddamn, I want to date in my own range again, at least for a little while.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on February 24, 2014, 03:40:52 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on February 22, 2014, 07:09:02 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on February 22, 2014, 06:49:47 PM
I skimmed until I saw my favorite word, cougar, so whatever you need to do to keep one, do it.

I'm not sure why but for some reason I seem to attract cougars way more than girls my own age. I mean, nothing wrong with cougars OBVIOUSLY but goddamn, I want to date in my own range again, at least for a little while.

You must be too polite. Cougars love polite young men. They know they can make them their slave.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on February 24, 2014, 10:40:19 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on February 22, 2014, 06:44:16 PM

Okay, so a quick summary of stuff that happened over the past month or so.

As I mentioned in this thread last month, I went out with a PAWG and our first date seemed to go well. We had a second date where she invited me over to her house and we proceeded to get it on. I come to find out that she wasn't really PAWG material and her clothes were holding back several layers of fat, and NOT the good kind! To make matters worse, the boobs that I was so enamored with when we first me turned out to be implants. Seriously, is there anything worse than a fat chick with fake tits? Then some stuff happens that I'd rather not get into, and so we both never speak to each other again.

Then, a week or so later, I meet up with this cougar who claimed she was 29 but is in fact, 41. She turns out not to be as attractive in person as she was in her pictures (specifically her face), but she's got a decent body, but with a really great rack, so whatever. We meet for coffee and seem like we're hitting it off, and end with some kisses. Our schedules don't work at all on the weekdays and the only time we can meet is on the weekends, but she seems to be pre-occupied every time, so I figure she's not really interested. Yet she still texts me pretty much every day.

After that I start chatting with this other chick, who is a LEGIT PAWG (chubby, but the good kind of chubby), and we decide to meet, but she flakes on me the first time by saying she was sick, flakes on me the second time saying her apartment had no running water, and then flakes on me a THIRD time by just disappearing off the face of the Earth. :punch

Yesterday however, the cougar contacts me again and we set up a second date for tonight to go see the new Robocop. Hopefully this has a happy ending (and I'm not talking about Robocop :apimp )

I REALLY want to know more about the bolded

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on February 24, 2014, 09:05:09 PM

I'm guessing after she made him come, he saw who she really was on the inside, and that was when it became clear that it was her plan to conquer him.

Or maybe he said something really stupid about her body.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on February 24, 2014, 10:19:26 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on February 24, 2014, 03:40:52 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on February 22, 2014, 07:09:02 PM
Quote from: nudemacusers on February 22, 2014, 06:49:47 PM
I skimmed until I saw my favorite word, cougar, so whatever you need to do to keep one, do it.

I'm not sure why but for some reason I seem to attract cougars way more than girls my own age. I mean, nothing wrong with cougars OBVIOUSLY but goddamn, I want to date in my own range again, at least for a little while.

You must be too polite. Cougars love polite young men. They know they can make them their slave.

Guilty as charged.

Quote from: Mupepe on February 24, 2014, 10:40:19 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on February 22, 2014, 06:44:16 PM
Okay, so a quick summary of stuff that happened over the past month or so.

As I mentioned in this thread last month, I went out with a PAWG and our first date seemed to go well. We had a second date where she invited me over to her house and we proceeded to get it on. I come to find out that she wasn't really PAWG material and her clothes were holding back several layers of fat, and NOT the good kind! To make matters worse, the boobs that I was so enamored with when we first me turned out to be implants. Seriously, is there anything worse than a fat chick with fake tits? Then some stuff happens that I'd rather not get into, and so we both never speak to each other again.

Then, a week or so later, I meet up with this cougar who claimed she was 29 but is in fact, 41. She turns out not to be as attractive in person as she was in her pictures (specifically her face), but she's got a decent body, but with a really great rack, so whatever. We meet for coffee and seem like we're hitting it off, and end with some kisses. Our schedules don't work at all on the weekdays and the only time we can meet is on the weekends, but she seems to be pre-occupied every time, so I figure she's not really interested. Yet she still texts me pretty much every day.

After that I start chatting with this other chick, who is a LEGIT PAWG (chubby, but the good kind of chubby), and we decide to meet, but she flakes on me the first time by saying she was sick, flakes on me the second time saying her apartment had no running water, and then flakes on me a THIRD time by just disappearing off the face of the Earth. :punch

Yesterday however, the cougar contacts me again and we set up a second date for tonight to go see the new Robocop. Hopefully this has a happy ending (and I'm not talking about Robocop :apimp )
I REALLY want to know more about the bolded

I dunno...it's pretty embarrassing. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on February 24, 2014, 10:20:39 PM

You farted while she was giving you head, didn't you?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on February 24, 2014, 10:27:10 PM

You ended up cumming in one of her fat rolls instead of her vag?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on February 24, 2014, 10:48:51 PM

Okay, fine. I'll tell you guys what happened, but the contents of this post never leave this thread. :punch

So we're in her bed, cuddling at first but eventually start getting to the good stuff. She wants to give me a hand job, gets a bottle of oil and starts stroking me. Things are going pretty well until a few minutes in where she sees this weird little foreign object of some kind that was building up in her hand. We both go wtf and have no idea what that was (and I didn't feel it release from inside, so I thought that was a good sign), and she throws it away and continues at it. A few minutes later, she finds ANOTHER one, and by that point she's like "Yeah...okay I think I'm gonna call it a night".

After I go home I find out what happened. That stuff she found on my dick was actually lint that was in my underwear, which must have placed itself in my pubes and when it got mixed with the oil, it solidified, thus creating what we just saw.

So there you have it. Didn't even get a chance to jizz. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on February 24, 2014, 10:51:56 PM

1) this is why you at least trim

2) thats pretty funny

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on February 24, 2014, 10:54:01 PM

I think people have this weird idea that its all or nothing for body hair- its like come on- just don't look like a monster

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on February 24, 2014, 11:00:47 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on February 24, 2014, 10:51:56 PM

1) this is why you at least trim

Indeed, but I'm not that hairy (surprisingly). The bigger lesson is to clean out the underwear, I think.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on February 24, 2014, 11:04:50 PM

Nah. Good riddance. You dont wanna get down with any woman who can't handle your dirty undies. Thats like the first rule of boning

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on February 24, 2014, 11:23:03 PM

next time remember this important quote
(http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lifckxVEiZ1qhkkt7o1_500.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on February 24, 2014, 11:30:46 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on February 24, 2014, 11:23:03 PM

next time remember this important quote
(http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lifckxVEiZ1qhkkt7o1_500.png)

The kerning gave me cancer. :dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on February 24, 2014, 11:53:01 PM

That's some shitty ass kerning alright

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on February 25, 2014, 12:33:17 AM

She was good-to-go, ready with handjob lube next to the bed, but abandoned the duty once a lint ball was discovered? Lame. If you're still hard and she stops tugging over that, that's not a relationship which is going to go anywhere.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: hampster on February 25, 2014, 12:58:55 AM

Making a big deal about kerning. Oh that's real attractive. Must be drowning in the genitalia :pacspit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on February 25, 2014, 01:02:39 AM

Hipsters are slutes :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on February 25, 2014, 01:04:24 AM

Quote from: hampster on February 25, 2014, 12:58:55 AM

Making a big deal about kerning. Oh that's real attractive. Must be drowning in the genitalia :pacspit

My girlfriend complained about the kerning on a sign on the LIRR. I had no idea wtf she was talking about before she explained (she's a web designer)... so I guess Andrex needs to find a designer girl or something and impress her with his kerning knowledge :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on February 25, 2014, 01:10:44 AM

Quote from: hampster on February 25, 2014, 12:58:55 AM

Making a big deal about kerning. Oh that's real attractive. Must be drowning in the genitalia :pacspit

Graphic designer genitalia. (http://i.imgur.com/fjOm7nR.png)

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Actually, most designers I've met so far I wouldn't fuck if they were the last wet hole on earth. :maf

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on March 01, 2014, 09:46:06 AM

Oops.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on March 01, 2014, 12:35:01 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on March 01, 2014, 11:35:16 AM

Who's the lucky guy?

Check your CIS privilege, sir

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on March 01, 2014, 09:57:34 PM

Tinder is so much better is a college town. MD, Vet, JD, etc students all on it. Time to work on my trophy husband status

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on March 06, 2014, 01:51:49 AM

I know this is a very lame question ,but I'm a newbie. So how do you tell if a girl is interested in you? I've been pretty bad at telling at all if a women is slightly interested in me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on March 06, 2014, 01:52:44 AM

if you have to ask, ask her out

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on March 06, 2014, 07:13:10 AM

If she is ok with anal

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on March 06, 2014, 01:25:55 PM

I would just ask her best friend, she will know. Also, it will be a good way to signal your interest.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 06, 2014, 01:32:48 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 06, 2014, 01:51:49 AM

I know this is a very lame question ,but I'm a newbie. So how do you tell if a girl is interested in you? I've been pretty bad at telling at all if a women is slightly interested in me.

gauge her view of interracial porn.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on March 06, 2014, 05:39:27 PM

Motherfuck, I burrowed my way into friend zone status with a girl I've been hanging out with. Mehhhhhhhhhhhh. She's a friend from college that has been hanging around with my roommate as of late and her and I started hanging out a bunch together over the last three weeks or so. She's been over pretty much every other day or so, hanging out with ONLY me, and shit was going really well. Physical contact, sex eyes, it was going well :gladbron

The other night she had a shitty night at work and was texting me saying how crappy she felt, blah. Decided I'd stop by the florist and buy her some flowers. I head home and wait for her to come over to hang. She never does. She ends up going out for drinks and then heading to her ex boyfriends place and stays the night :dead

She comes around the next day and sees the flowers I got her. They were in a coffee mug with water near the sink -- I had forgotten to throw them away. "Aw you bought me flowers? You are the sweetest person! No one has bought me flowers since high school." We end up hanging out all night watching TV on opposite ends of the couch and she takes her flowers home.

Should've thrown that shit away :pacspit Upset that I find myself in this situation, and upset that I couldn't have picked up on that earlier. Radio silence from me for the next few days in regards to talking to her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on March 06, 2014, 06:33:43 PM

ACHIEVEMENT UNLOCKED:

EMOTIONAL TAMPON

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on March 06, 2014, 06:44:43 PM

I think you misread "sex eyes" as "her looking at you"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 06, 2014, 06:48:17 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on March 06, 2014, 05:39:27 PM

Decided I'd stop by the florist and buy her some flowers.

(http://imageshack.com/a/img713/46/na3e.png)

Quote from: BrandNew on March 06, 2014, 05:39:27 PM

I head home and wait for her to come over to hang. She never does. She ends up going out for drinks and then heading to her ex boyfriends place and stays the night

(http://i.imgur.com/SOwCzsF.png)

Quote from: BrandNew on March 06, 2014, 05:39:27 PM

"Aw you bought me flowers? You are the sweetest person! No one has bought me flowers since high school." We end up hanging out all night watching TV on opposite ends of the couch and she takes her flowers home.

(http://i.imgur.com/nm3j5VX.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on March 06, 2014, 07:33:55 PM

yeah yeah yeah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on March 06, 2014, 07:44:49 PM

Next time, write her a heroic crown of sonnets.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 06, 2014, 08:01:46 PM

BrandKnew, I'm sorry but that's some simp shit. You are too handsome and emotionally/mentally normal to be doing that shit out here in these streets, my brother.

She was tired? Guess what, so were you. That doesn't make her special, or worthy of you spending money on her. Unless they're for your grandmother or wife, don't buy flowers. Just imagine, her ex is probably at her house right now. He casually sniffs the flowers and says "wow these smell bad." She playfully says "aww be nice, they're not THAT bad." And then they head to her room, where he proceeds to blow her back out. So tomorrow when she says the flowers make her place smell better, what she's really saying is that they partially mask the smell of pussy juice and fecal dust in the air.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on March 06, 2014, 08:06:37 PM

:yeshrug I knew the flowers were a shitty idea. still bought them for some ungodly reason

Listen I ain't mad. It was a pretty casual circumstance, and I'm not losing sleep over this or anything. Didn't end up the way I wanted, so whatever, onto the next one. Been trying this Tinder shit and its very weird to me. I've been around a bunch of female friends who are just always on it just for shits, so I'm surprised people actually go out for dates using it. I have a couple dates scheduled in the next week or so, should be an entertaining experience.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on March 06, 2014, 08:21:32 PM

Oh I definitely did take her out. Nice brunch place. But I don't think she realized what I was trying to do, and I didn't realize THAT until it was too late. Again, who gives a shit after all is said and done.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on March 06, 2014, 09:09:45 PM

Quote from: hampster on February 25, 2014, 12:58:55 AM

Making a big deal about kerning. Oh that's real attractive. Must be drowning in the genitalia :pacspit

http://xkcd.com/1015/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on March 07, 2014, 10:46:46 PM

The flower part was the only thing that really jumped out at me. Everybody gets some weird connection vibes going but actually picking up some flowers...and I'm guessing you paid for her brunch too just to be a gentleman?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on March 08, 2014, 01:05:16 AM

Duh :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on March 09, 2014, 03:29:34 AM

Been pretty stressed out lately (trying to work out a decent bit because actually afraid of having a heart attack) because of my gf's parents. I've never been in a situation like this so don't really know if there's anyway to deal with it. Basically my gf's parents (well her dad who makes the decisions) are stubborn traditional koreans who stay within the korean community and don't trust anyone who isn't in the community. So they'd rather go to their friend of a friend whose a terrible doctor and pay an exorbitant fee than a normal doctor who is good and charges a normal amount. Basically they've been making my gf getting proper treatment to heal from her major car accident last year difficult and consistently giving me headaches (the latest is that we were supposed to have a meeting with a health broker to show them better health insurance options for their family under obamacare, but now the dad won't even look because his insurance is "fine" and it would offend his friend who he gets insurance from if he changes insurance [ps, they have terrible insurance for the whole family]) and I've been working my butt off researching and making contact with attorneys because they just got sued for a ridiculous thing too and they're listening to what their friends in the community are telling them to do for legal advice instead of actual, you know, lawyers and getting all stressed out about going to jail and stuff which is not going to happen for a civil lawsuit.

I wouldn't get so worked up and stressed out about this if my gf wasn't still financially dependent on her parents so all their decisions, good or bad, affects her. They pay her bills and pay for her education and even if we get married down the road I don't make enough to pay for college + grad school. And she can't get a job part-time while she's in school right now because she's still pretty injured and is at physical therapy 3 times a week. Hopefully she'll recover 99%ish this year and next year will be able to get a part-time job and become independent from her parents. But right now if they go bankrupt, her college money is gone. If they stay on a shitty insurance and then don't want to pay the $5,600 deductible, she gets screwed. So besides just working at work a ton lately because work is busy, I'm spending lots of hours every week on weekdays/weekends trying to help her parents take care of all this stuff but then everytime we make some progress some "korean community" or "korean tradition" thing keeps them from doing the intelligent normal decision and messes up everything bring us back to square one.

And it sucks because my gf is awesome and rational and totally fights her parents to be the same but they don't really listen to her and they find it awkward listening to me for advice since I'm younger and not korean. It's just been really stressful. I'm not sure what you can do when your SO is still dependent on their parents and their parents are frustrating to deal with.

I guess this is the problem with dating people in their early 20s, but I love my gf and she's awesome and we've made it through mountains of shit early on and things are pretty fantastic other than this.

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ps, we sort of got engaged, but I've not told anyone yet (you guys are the first to know) cause we decided it would be wise to be a conditional engagement where it's not "active" until we first live with each other for like 3-5 months as a final test to make sure we can make it. We're planning on moving in together in the summer.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on March 09, 2014, 06:25:45 AM

bebpo tells the best stories

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 09, 2014, 11:35:41 AM

Grata Bepbo

One of the weirdest things I saw while working at a dental practice was how horrible the dental work of many immigrants was. Usually their American born children would drag them to us. We saw a Russian guy who had some type of jagged metal wire in his mouth to hold a crown in. It was constantly bleeding yet he seemed perfectly fine with it. His son said that he flew back to Russia to get it done, and the dentist was a good friend; he didn't want it removed because the Russian dentist would be insulted.

Ultimately we wound up not accepting him for fear of getting sued; his mouth looked horrible, and also like a big lawsuit waiting to happen.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on March 09, 2014, 05:03:54 PM

Congrats, Bebpo!

Now for some not so pleasant news: I think I'm scared of women now. :goty2

Check it out. So I have (or had, I guess) a female friend who I've known for about 3 years now. I have two jobs currently, and she too worked at both of them (we met at one job and she found a new job which she referred me to). She was very nice, pleasant, and fun to hang out with. After a while, I started to get the impression that she actually liked me. She would be very touchy feel-y, would smile for long periods of time around me, you know little things like that. I thought about tapping that every so often, mainly on accounta the fact that she had among the biggest knockers I'd ever seen up close, but passed on it cause her face was pretty fugly. So I thought we'd keep this professional for the most part.

Now here's where shit got real.

Last week a bunch of my co-workers were supposed to go to this comedy club where our receptionist was gonna perform a standup routine. I was set to go, but a bunch of things happened that just made it a bad time and so I had to bail out at the last minute. Well, apparently she REALLY didn't like that. That was last Saturday and she didn't speak to me at all until Friday. I get an e-mail from her and she basically says that she never wants to speak to me again.

Did I mention that this event wasn't even for her? And also that she's acting this way when we're just FRIENDS?! Can you imagine what would happen if we were actually dating?

Long story short: bitch is crazy and it looks like I dodged a major bullet.

WTF women?! Why y'all so cray cray? :punch :punch :punch

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on March 09, 2014, 07:46:50 PM

What's really shocking is that she was literally one of the nicest people I've ever met. To see her act like I ran over her fucking dog is just... :whoo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on March 09, 2014, 07:58:17 PM

People are weird, man. I don't take anything for granted anymore. Last weekend I was out with a woman and when I suggested we go back to her place while we were out she got all pissed and snapped "I'm not going to fuck you!"

...flash forward like 2 hours later...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on March 09, 2014, 08:47:49 PM

I want a bf. Badly. :goty2 Now isn't a good time tho.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on March 09, 2014, 08:50:22 PM

Congrats Bebpuu~ :uguu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on March 09, 2014, 08:52:25 PM

beepo congrats but do a real engagement not this wishywashy millennial stuff. i mean if you're willing to get engaged you've been around her house enough to know whether or not it's gonna work cohabitation-wise.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on March 09, 2014, 09:06:10 PM

Wait, bepbo is engaged?!

My Bebpo. :uguu CONGRATS

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 09, 2014, 09:15:23 PM

Quote from: Formerly Known As Himuro on March 09, 2014, 08:47:49 PM

I want a bf. Badly. :goty2 Now isn't a good time tho.

(http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lvwcmqC1i71r2e34vo1_500.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on March 09, 2014, 09:29:37 PM

paws

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 09, 2014, 09:32:07 PM

(http://img404.imageshack.us/img404/1827/deadbecky.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on March 09, 2014, 10:40:40 PM

PD, thoughts on giving anal sex. :larry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on March 09, 2014, 10:47:44 PM

Thanks for all the congrats! Yeah, it took me a while but I found an amazing person who wants to be with me for the long run and I couldn't be happier. I got her Dangan Roppa (Trigger Happy Havoc) the other day for Vita and lent her my Vita and she played through it in like a week and loved it and is now reading the prequel novels. She's cool and I love her :)

Quote from: nudemacusers on March 09, 2014, 08:52:25 PM

beepo congrats but do a real engagement not this wishywashy millennial stuff. i mean if you're willing to get engaged you've been around her house enough to know whether or not it's gonna work cohabitation-wise.

Nah, I agree. I asked, she said yes. But we both feel like we don't want to rush things, so we're gonna wait until later on in the year after we've moved in together to tell family and stuff. She doesn't want to get married for like another 2-3 years because she wants to finish school so she has time to plan for the wedding and take time off whenever for the honeymoon. Otoh, I'd like to get married sometime late 2015. So we're gonna figure the exact timing out later on. I'm not worried, as yeah, we know each other damn well at this point. But we both want to be responsible, so we're gonna hold off letting people know for a bit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 09, 2014, 10:52:03 PM

Quote from: Formerly Known As Himuro on March 09, 2014, 10:40:40 PM

PD, thoughts on giving anal sex. :larry

:tocry

I'd prefer oral, and jerking each other off with our thighs breh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on March 09, 2014, 10:53:01 PM

That's not straight. Sorry. :tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 09, 2014, 11:08:44 PM

I can't think of anything straighter than making another man submit with your thighs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on March 09, 2014, 11:20:47 PM

I thought you were talking about the opposite :larry :yuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on March 10, 2014, 01:10:57 AM

Bebsy!!! Congrats!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on March 19, 2014, 02:52:41 PM

Normally when you flirt or talk a lot with a girl that's taken, they'll let it slip that they have a boyfriend. I can definitely be shy about communicating my intentions when I start feeling an interest in someone but does anyone know if someone who for instance grew up in Europe and whose primary language is not English would maybe not be sure how to put that out there?

I've known her for like 6 months but only really started to talk with her in the past month or so. Tried scouring Facebook already obviously so I guess the only thing to do is to wait and ask her out and see what happens. I'm suspicious because imo she's very pretty although she does kind of have an intimidating/seemingly cold personality.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on March 19, 2014, 03:18:00 PM

I'm saying that I've known her by name for that long you Harley fucking Race dick. Never seen or heard of anyone dating her so I'm confused if I'm too subtle and she's just nice.

Did not check Facebook until today.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 19, 2014, 06:02:03 PM

From: Am Nintenho
To: Girl

Hey girl, what is up with you this nice afternoon? I am thinking maybe we can do something fun, no? Perhaps we can watch an episode of Big Bang Theory, How I Met Your Mother, Downton Abbey, True Blood, Game Of Thrones, Sherlock, New Girl, Lost, or Parks & Rec. But if you did not pay the power bill haha we can read, perhaps one chapter from The Qur'an, Twilight, Harry Potter, The Help, Memoirs of a Geisha, or Jane Austen. We can do that at the park I believe.

Please respond back to me ok. If you forget my number remember it is on my Facebook.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on March 19, 2014, 06:26:49 PM

I've been dating my girlfriend for 6 months now. Yay!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on March 22, 2014, 04:20:43 PM

So I go to the bar yesterday after work, and I meet these two very attractive girls. Turns out they're sisters and, while they were both good looking, the older sister was significantly hotter. The older one steps out towards the end of the night to smoke and I finally get a chance to properly chat with her. We seem to be hitting it off very well until the bouncer shows up and asks me if I needed to pay my tab since they were closing. I tell her I'd be right back and go in pay and get out. By the time I came back out, she was already walking towards her car, which I didn't see as a great sign, but still, decided to catch up with her and asked her for her number. She gives me her Facebook instead and allows me to have her send a friend request from an app on her phone. We hug and I tell her I'll hit her up some time.

I go home and send her a quick message about having a fun time talking with her. She hasn't responded, and I thought she might not have logged on yet, but I see that she's been posting on her timeline.

Am I digging too much into this? What should be my next move?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on March 22, 2014, 04:55:03 PM

"She gives me her Facebook instead and allows me to have her send a friend request from an app on her phone. We hug and I tell her I'll hit her up some time.

I go home and send her a quick message about having a fun time talking with her. She hasn't responded, and I thought she might not have logged on yet, but I see that she's been posting on her timeline."

Ya blew it. :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on March 22, 2014, 05:18:44 PM

:rofl you are already dead, dude

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on March 22, 2014, 05:29:01 PM

Quote from: Oblivion on March 22, 2014, 04:20:43 PM

By the time I came back out, she was already walking towards her car, which I didn't see as a great sign, but still, decided to catch up with her and asked her for her number. She gives me her Facebook instead and allows me to have her send a friend request from an app on her phone.

:snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on March 22, 2014, 05:46:50 PM

Is it the fact that she gave me her FB instead of her number bad, or is it the message I sent?

Or both? D:

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on March 22, 2014, 05:55:05 PM

at least your tried, bro. can't say as much over here. so props to you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on March 22, 2014, 05:56:19 PM

Quote from: Esch on March 22, 2014, 05:48:19 PM

She just wasn't that into it in general, dude. You had to catch up with her, she wasn't sticking around for you etc.

:fbm

Well yeah I thought about that too, but why'd she bother giving me any way of contacting her? She could have said she had a boyfriend or that she wasn't dating at the moment or whatever.

I mean, yeah giving someone you FB might not be the most intimate way of communicating, but still why bother?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on March 22, 2014, 05:58:19 PM

Quote from: Oblivion on March 22, 2014, 05:56:19 PM

Well yeah I thought about that too, but why'd she bother giving me any way of contacting her? She could have said she had a boyfriend or that she wasn't dating at the moment or whatever.

I mean, yeah giving someone you FB might not be the most intimate way of communicating, but still why bother?

you would be surprised how many people would prefer to not be a dick and lie and instead just "give in" a little bit. doing what she does won't make her feel guilty but it allows her to easily ignore you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on March 22, 2014, 06:03:27 PM

I mean, if you're cute enough maybe she'll have some casual sex with you in a couple of months after she breaks it off with another dude? :yeshrug

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Nah, definitely not because there is absolutely no shortage of dick in the world. :mouf (http://i.imgur.com/2WFmARa.png)

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on March 22, 2014, 11:20:47 PM

the facebook shit is game over

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 23, 2014, 12:53:45 AM

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on March 23, 2014, 01:55:51 AM

There's a temporary pussy hypnosis period where guys try too hard to get with a girl they just met. It is simply your mind billshitting itself when you're horny and infatuated.

Don't worry about it, just move on to the next one.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on March 23, 2014, 09:22:14 AM

Guys, you all need to follow the teachings in the Tao of Steve: be there, be excellent, be gone. This is not to say that you should all start practicing PUA shit, because that's gross. But for whatever reason, the maxim of "we pursue that which retreats from us" is so fucking true. I wish it wasn't, but for whatever reason it is.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on March 24, 2014, 04:07:35 AM

Okay, good news. I've been talking with someone else who happens to be way hotter than the last chick. However, she keeps asking for cock pics.

Yay or nay?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on March 24, 2014, 04:24:00 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on March 24, 2014, 04:07:35 AM

Okay, good news. I've been talking with someone else who happens to be way hotter than the last chick. However, she keeps asking for cock pics.

Yay or nay?

She's a dude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 24, 2014, 09:09:50 AM

As long as you don't go back it's not an L breh. I got you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on March 24, 2014, 08:50:10 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on March 24, 2014, 09:06:43 AM

Talk about your mutual problems with your ex-fiance on Skype, brehs.

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I stay taking Ls :snoop
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Did you cyber or something?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on March 25, 2014, 12:25:49 AM

Went to go play trivia tonight at a bar with a friend. Friend bailed on me and didn't show up, he had to work late. Decided to just stick around and watch some basketball and play trivia alone. Waitress I had was fucking cute as hell -- short, petite, black hair, brown eyes, and a cool collar rocker tattoo. We get to talking and we were vibing. She checked on me a lot more than her other tables, and she was touchy with me, which was cool. I thought to myself "eh its just a waitress being flirty for the tips. Oh well, I'll play along because its fun and nothing more."

Middle of trivia, she comes up and sits down and starts talking to me more. Looked dead in my eyes and said that if I won that I should buy her a drink after she got off. Well boys and girls you can bet my dick was at full attention

Unfortunately she had two more parties come in at the end of her shift so she had to work longer. I pay out, and she says "you don't have to stay, even though I'd like you too...but you absolutely have to call me" Got her number and she got mine.

(http://data3.whicdn.com/images/27917484/large.gif)

Gonna give her a call on Thursday I think.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on March 25, 2014, 01:43:15 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on March 22, 2014, 04:20:43 PM

So I go to the bar yesterday after work, and I meet these two very attractive girls. Turns out they're sisters and, while they were both good looking, the older sister was significantly hotter. The older one steps out towards the end of the night to smoke and I finally get a chance to properly chat with her. We seem to be hitting it off very well until the bouncer shows up and asks me if I needed to pay my tab since they were closing. I tell her I'd be right back and go in pay and get out. By the time I came back out, she was already walking towards her car, which I didn't see as a great sign, but still, decided to catch up with her and asked her for her number. She gives me her Facebook instead and allows me to have her send a friend request from an app on her phone. We hug and I tell her I'll hit her up some time.

I go home and send her a quick message about having a fun time talking with her. She hasn't responded, and I thought she might not have logged on yet, but I see that she's been posting on her timeline.

Am I digging too much into this? What should be my next move?

Quote from: Positive Touch on March 22, 2014, 05:18:44 PM

:rofl you are already dead, dude

(http://i2.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/000/483/928/fb0.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on March 25, 2014, 06:29:22 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on March 22, 2014, 05:46:50 PM

Is it the fact that she gave me her FB instead of her number bad, or is it the message I sent?

Or both? D:

At least you got that far. I sent a friend request to a girl I thought was at least slightly interested and well haven't even got accepted. Yeah I just don't get women.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on March 25, 2014, 06:56:13 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 25, 2014, 06:29:22 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on March 22, 2014, 05:46:50 PM
Is it the fact that she gave me her FB instead of her number bad, or is it the message I sent?

Or both? D:
At least you got that far. I sent a friend request to a girl I thought was at least slightly interested and well haven't even got accepted. Yeah I just don't get women.

Did she reject it or is it just not accepted? Some people actually don't go on Facebook that often and if you go on their profile and see that it says friend request pending, then that means they still haven't rejected it. If they do reject it, then apparently that would give you the ability to send a new one.

Nearly every one will accept a friend request from a person they've actually met just out of courtesy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on March 25, 2014, 09:52:53 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on March 25, 2014, 06:56:13 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 25, 2014, 06:29:22 AM
Quote from: Oblivion on March 22, 2014, 05:46:50 PM
Is it the fact that she gave me her FB instead of her number bad, or is it the message I sent?

Or both? D:
At least you got that far. I sent a friend request to a girl I thought was at least slightly interested and well haven't even got accepted. Yeah I just don't get women.

Did she reject it or is it just not accepted? Some people actually don't go on Facebook that often and if you go on their profile and see that it says friend request pending, then that means they still haven't rejected it. If they do reject it, then apparently that would give you the ability to send a new one.

Nearly every one will accept a friend request from a person they've actually met just out of courtesy.

I mean I guess your right, but then again you can just ignore friend requests and they just stay there. I've done it with supposed bot profiles.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on March 26, 2014, 04:34:22 AM

Great news, men. I'm in happier spirits again. I just met this busty Ukrainian cougar on the bus today and in a nice change of pace, she asked ME for my number. We'll be going out this weekend for a movie or something or other.

:rock :rock

:bow cougars :bow2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on March 26, 2014, 06:58:33 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 25, 2014, 06:29:22 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on March 22, 2014, 05:46:50 PM
Is it the fact that she gave me her FB instead of her number bad, or is it the message I sent?

Or both? D:
At least you got that far. I sent a friend request to a girl I thought was at least slightly interested and well haven't even got accepted. Yeah I just don't get women.

She wasn't interested, she was just being nice.

There.

Now you understand.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on March 26, 2014, 07:15:52 PM

It would be easier to just go gay at this point.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on March 26, 2014, 07:22:07 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 26, 2014, 07:15:52 PM

It would be easier to just go gay at this point.

You're getting beat up about investing too much into a single interaction that didn't gain that much traction. You gotta socialize with a shit ton of people, that's how you find someone. Honestly you should be using tinder, you're attractive enough.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on March 26, 2014, 07:25:16 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 26, 2014, 07:15:52 PM

It would be easier to just go gay at this point.

Well, you've certainly come to the right place. (http://imgur.com/aI48kgr.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on March 26, 2014, 09:52:39 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on March 26, 2014, 06:58:33 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 25, 2014, 06:29:22 AM
Quote from: Oblivion on March 22, 2014, 05:46:50 PM
Is it the fact that she gave me her FB instead of her number bad, or is it the message I sent?

Or both? D:
At least you got that far. I sent a friend request to a girl I thought was at least slightly interested and well haven't even got accepted. Yeah I just don't get women.

She wasn't interested, she was just being nice.

There.

Now you understand.

What if this is somebody you see fairly often and who is excited to possibly work with you and they haven't had a status update since December?

I'm just asking for a friend.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on March 26, 2014, 11:08:15 PM

i've had a short conversation going with this chick on okc for the last week or so. she actually messaged me which i was surprised. i was def interested so i kept it up. my problem has always been dragging things out too long and not getting to the point. so tonight she up and directly asks me if i'm interested. like i said, i am. so i spent a few minutes deciding how to respond and decided to reply back simply with my number and saying i was def interested.

shrug dunno if that was the right move. we'll see.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on March 27, 2014, 12:06:45 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on March 25, 2014, 12:25:49 AM

Went to go play trivia tonight at a bar with a friend. Friend bailed on me and didn't show up, he had to work late. Decided to just stick around and watch some basketball and play trivia alone. Waitress I had was fucking cute as hell -- short, petite, black hair, brown eyes, and a cool collar rocker tattoo. We get to talking and we were vibing. She checked on me a lot more than her other tables, and she was touchy with me, which was cool. I thought to myself "eh its just a waitress being flirty for the tips. Oh well, I'll play along because its fun and nothing more."

Middle of trivia, she comes up and sits down and starts talking to me more. Looked dead in my eyes and said that if I won that I should buy her a drink after she got off. Well boys and girls you can bet my dick was at full attention

Unfortunately she had two more parties come in at the end of her shift so she had to work longer. I pay out, and she says "you don't have to stay, even though I'd like you too...but you absolutely have to call me" Got her number and she got mine.

(http://data3.whicdn.com/images/27917484/large.gif)

Gonna give her a call on Thursday I think.

Oh man, wasn't it you who got his balls busted for a story that involved flirting with a waitress? I want you to point at the camera and laugh at them. It's only fair.

Good jon, breh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on March 27, 2014, 05:30:16 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on March 26, 2014, 04:34:22 AM

Great news, men. I'm in happier spirits again. I just met this busty Ukrainian cougar on the bus today and in a nice change of pace, she asked ME for my number. We'll be going out this weekend for a movie or something or other.

:rock :rock

:bow cougars :bow2

...aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand sure enough I can't seem to contact her. Tried texting and calling and I keep getting a message that says "your call cannot be completed, try again later". The universe is against me for some reason. What'd I ever do to it, HUH?! :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on March 27, 2014, 09:55:20 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on March 26, 2014, 11:08:15 PM

i've had a short conversation going with this chick on okc for the last week or so. she actually messaged me which i was surprised. i was def interested so i kept it up. my problem has always been dragging things out too long and not getting to the point. so tonight she up and directly asks me if i'm interested. like i said, i am. so i spent a few minutes deciding how to respond and decided to reply back simply with my number and saying i was def interested.

shrug dunno if that was the right move. we'll see.

She made the move? Nice. I'd have asked for her number instead, your turn for some initiative, you know?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 27, 2014, 10:24:59 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on March 27, 2014, 05:30:16 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on March 26, 2014, 04:34:22 AM
Great news, men. I'm in happier spirits again. I just met this busty Ukrainian cougar on the bus today and in a nice change of pace, she asked ME for my number. We'll be going out this weekend for a movie or something or other.

:rock :rock

:bow cougars :bow2

...aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand sure enough I can't seem to contact her. Tried texting and calling and I keep getting a message that says "your call cannot be completed, try again later". The universe is against me for some reason. What'd I ever do to it, HUH?! :maf

I had this problem when my wife originally gave me her number. The first night I didn't call because who fucking does that? amirite? I see her the next day and she looks pissed and asks why I didn't call. So that night I call and I keep getting a "beep beep beep... the number you dialed is no longer in service". Now I was thinking "she gives me a fake number and she calls me out for not calling!" but I tried again a few hours later and it worked.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on March 27, 2014, 11:20:25 AM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on March 27, 2014, 12:06:45 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on March 25, 2014, 12:25:49 AM
Went to go play trivia tonight at a bar with a friend. Friend bailed on me and didn't show up, he had to work late. Decided to just stick around and watch some basketball and play trivia alone. Waitress I had was fucking cute as hell -- short, petite, black hair, brown eyes, and a cool collar rocker tattoo. We get to talking and we were vibing. She checked on me a lot more than her other tables, and she was touchy with me, which was cool. I thought to myself "eh its just a waitress being flirty for the tips. Oh well, I'll play along because its fun and nothing more."

Middle of trivia, she comes up and sits down and starts talking to me more. Looked dead in my eyes and said that if I won that I should buy her a drink after she got off. Well boys and girls you can bet my dick was at full attention

Unfortunately she had two more parties come in at the end of her shift so she had to work longer. I pay out, and she says "you don't have to stay, even though I'd like you too...but you absolutely have to call me" Got her number and she got mine.

(http://data3.whicdn.com/images/27917484/large.gif)

Gonna give her a call on Thursday I think.

Oh man, wasn't it you who got his balls busted for a story that involved flirting with a waitress? I want you to point at the camera and laugh at them. It's only fair.

Good jon, breh.

That was me! Yeah that was real embarrassing, but different situation. That one time, I left my number on the tab ( :snoop ) and expected her to call me. She texted me once but nothing else. This situation, she actively wanted me number. We talked last night and we're going for a drink tonight. If it blows up in my face tonight, its because I sucked at the date, not the fact she's a waitress.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on March 27, 2014, 11:34:15 AM

Quote from: Rufus on March 27, 2014, 09:55:20 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on March 26, 2014, 11:08:15 PM
i've had a short conversation going with this chick on okc for the last week or so. she actually messaged me which i was surprised. i was def interested so i kept it up. my problem has always been dragging things out too long and not getting to the point. so tonight she up and directly asks me if i'm interested. like i said, i am. so i spent a few minutes deciding how to respond and decided to reply back simply with my number and saying i was def interested.

shrug dunno if that was the right move. we'll see.
She made the move? Nice. I'd have asked for her number instead, your turn for some initiative, you know?

yeah i was pretty surprised because that's never happened.

i figured giving my number was showing some initiative cuz i was showing interest.

actually, i didn't mention but i'm in the same boat with another chick from okc as well. but i messaged her. last night she asked me if i had some messaging app called kik (never heard of it) so i created an account and we started talking on there.

weird how this all happened on the same night.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on March 28, 2014, 12:09:46 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on March 27, 2014, 10:24:59 AM

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I'd agree, but...

1) SHE gave ME her number first
2) I did a bit of..."research" if you will, and it turns out it's legit. Either that or she's got a twin running around with the same fascination with Angelina Jolie.

This whole week's been disappointing as fuck.

- Tried to send a casual message to FB girl, hasn't responded so if there were any doubts, there aren't any longer.
- Cock pics girl seems to have just disappeared off the face of the Earth.
- Met another chick on OKCupid who responded after several weeks but hasn't responded for a few days after the last message.
- This cute, busty nerdy broad I met for the third time on the bus today said she had a boyfriend.

And the one that I had the best shot with so far seems to be taking forever to pay her phone bill.

UGH.

I'm with Raxhephon at this point.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on March 28, 2014, 01:39:35 AM

Quote from: Esch on March 26, 2014, 07:22:52 PM

Have you tried ruthlessly spitting game at fat or ugly girls yet

I feel like there is no safe way to answer this question.

But no.

Either way, I downloaded that Tinder app. It all feels very awkward. I don't know even ok okcupid I feel bad rating women, but besides that the whole online thing has never worked for me. Maybe my profile is terrible, but I do try to tone down the obnoxious FANDOM qualities I exhibit here. Either way no bites in the two years I've been on okcupid. Well I guess thats not true, I've had bites from women I don't find attractive. Maybe I have high standards and think well beyond my means. I do not know. So I don't know about this Tinder app.

Either like I said I'm pretty awful at telling what anything means and at least as far as I know, no woman has shown interests in me in my entire life. Well no woman that I'd want. So it's not big confidence booster.

I had a "friend" in high school ounce tell me that I (unlike him) should lower my standards because I'm not going to get hot chicks. Now obviously "hot" is vague and means many different things to people. I have a friend who dosen't think Jenifer Lawrence is attractive. Either way I don't think "oh if shes not Megan Fox" I don't want her. I have my taste just like anyone else. Contrary to popular belief (as if anyone cares) my taste are pretty varied and it's just not skinny or no thank you. Of course I have a stronger preference to white women with black hair and I stereotypicaly like Asian women(my days of all hail Nippon are long over though). But this dosen't mean I don't like all kinds of women. Unlike games I will leave confront zones!

Still, either it's my looks or personality but I've never attracted a girl I like. Sure I'm an Adonis so it can't be looks. Still, I'm quite uncomfortable with how I look. From my skin to my hair, my body image is not something I've been able to get a hold of. I've often wondered if race has played a part and if my brown vaguness means anything.

It could be my personality. Now I now I come off as a huge idiot and un-humorous person on the bore, but quest honestly that may not be totally me. I believe I kind of take a bit of fustruation on the internet and like to push buttons just to see what people will say about me. Now I guess that makes me a bit crazy and says something about me, but I don't know. In real life I think I'm a bit different. Far more mild mannered and sometimes funny with people I'm very comfortable with. I've also tried to stay away from being the obnoxious nerd who can't smell. Simply put, I think I come off a simple dude.

Or maybe I come off as gay? Now nothing wrong with being gay, but I'm often told I give off gay vibes. I don't know what that means and my gaydar is non-existent. I don't think I dress fancy and askmen- the paragon of men knowledge-ounce described dudes who care about fashion as a source of the gays. I just wear a shirt and jeans all the time. Maybe it's being quiet? I am often quiet in real life because I don't usually feel comfortable around people I don't know, I don't know how they'll respond to me so I guess it makes me nervous. If I get to know you and you respond well to me, I probably can't shut up. A dude ounce said he thought I was gay because he never saw me around women. I've been hit on a lot by dudes as well. I really don't know what it is.

I mean I've moved pass the stage of being offended by it and just take it in stride, but I just find the whole thing baffling.

Man I've ranted about a whole lot of nonsense, but allow me to continue.

Anyway, I thought a girl in my Japanese class was slightly into me, mostly for shallow reasons. ("Oh she talks to me"). You know, I did use to be that guy who thought any girl who talked to them maybe liked them or the guy who liked any girl who talked to him. Thankfully that's over and I never went through the nice guy feadora stage. Anyway, she laughed at most of the things I said and generally seemed enthused to talk to me. She even seemed to remember the movies I talked about. Slipping into my 18 year old self I thought "well those are the signs right!!!?". Hell, she even agredd with always high kid that I looked like Johnny Depp(I hate when people say this because I have to be soul crushingly negative about my looks) and said yes with a cute nervous smile. So armed with the knowledge of a quick "How do I know if a girl likes me" google search I felt I was getting positive feedback.

Anyway, I'm tasked with this "make a comic book" project from my "how to write a comic book class"(yes I know my writing on the bore is shitty, give me the benefit of the doubt here. This is a whole other issue) and you need an artist. Well, I know she's an artists, because I'm a creeper and remember details women tell me. So i thought I had a gateway into getting to know her a bit better and I asked if she wanted to be an artist. She seemed kind of exited or at least interested in working together. But during the talk about it, I may have come off as kind of nervous. I don't really know.

Either way, since I get pretty childish about these things and over analyze things the fact that she hasn't responded to a little facebook FR is a BIG deal to me for stupid reasons. I mean I guess she could just be a way, but what modern girl with an iphone dosen't visit her facebook at least one time during the week?

I don't know, I may just be being a little bitch about this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on March 28, 2014, 02:52:40 AM

Gotta stop latching unto people. There is a big wide world out there and single women are part of it.

I still think you should use tinder are you on tinder.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on March 28, 2014, 03:03:32 AM

Quote from: Esch on March 28, 2014, 02:20:49 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 28, 2014, 01:39:35 AM
Quote from: Esch on March 26, 2014, 07:22:52 PM
Have you tried ruthlessly spitting game at fat or ugly girls yet
I feel like there is no safe way to answer this question.

But no.

Give it a whirl dude. Try bagging some girls that you would think are 'below your standard'.

Pffft, "Standards."

Standards is something you construct when you're swimming in so many vags and peens that you go "oh man, this is too much. We need some QA up in this bitch."

Otherwise, you take what you can get. If only for your physical and mental wellbeing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on March 28, 2014, 03:05:41 AM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on March 28, 2014, 03:03:32 AM

Pffft, "Standards."

Standards is something you construct when you're swimming in so many vags and peens that you go "oh man, this is too much. We need some QA up in this bitch."

Otherwise, you take what you can get. If only for your physical and mental wellbeing.

This is kind of true as well. Having standards before you even bother actually having experience sexually or romantically with individuals is kind of silly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on March 28, 2014, 03:21:46 AM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on March 28, 2014, 03:15:54 AM

Blame it on TV, movies, porn, the beauty industry, etc.

When you're young and watch a lot of it there's always something telling you have this amazing, beautiful woman is your soulmate and fucks like a bitch from hell. It's not exactly surprising that guys and girls are fucked up by what they think they're owed due to disney movies and shit.

I had standards in highschool but it was the justified kind, as in one of the dudes who wanted to date me was a drug dealing piece of shit 2 grades ahead of me. Was not about to bother with that bullshit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on March 28, 2014, 02:55:51 PM

Rahx, I was also a late bloomer and used to be like you where I would over think everything and let every social failure incubate into a new insecurity. Then I would go on the Internet and be annoying and pedantic about the world so I could get some attention and positive or negative validation.

But then I learned not to care and to actually be both critical and accepting of all the different types of people in the world. You can either put your energy into building personal relationships that eventually let you find a person that is supportive and relatable every day, or you can look for somebody that makes you spin in infatuation for two weeks before you drive each other crazy.

It sucks to hear, but personality is usually the first thing that unattracts (word?) someone to you but people learn.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on March 28, 2014, 03:02:25 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on March 28, 2014, 02:55:51 PM

It sucks to hear, but personality is usually the first thing that unattracts (word?) someone to you but people learn.

*repels

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on March 28, 2014, 03:58:03 PM

Yeah from like 17-20 I hit whatever I could, just polishing my ability to interact with the better gender

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on March 28, 2014, 06:45:08 PM

I had like no standards whatsoever until my mid-20s but I'm not a hunk like Rah. The flipside to this is that I was a real asshole in relationships that did start and did a lot of stuff I'm not proud of.

Thankfully I'm punching way above my weight wrt my long-term partner. :heartbeat

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 28, 2014, 07:23:53 PM

Quote from: Esch on March 28, 2014, 04:02:39 PM

If you fish with a grenade, you'll hit a fish. It might have bits of shrapnel in it, but a man's gotta eat

(http://i.minus.com/iYGQSFQ0cVL3.gif)

this is why I like every girl I see on Tinder
:jawalrus

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on March 28, 2014, 07:25:18 PM

Bold move, I like it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on March 28, 2014, 08:26:13 PM

So it's been 3 days and the Ukrainian chick still hasn't fixed her goddamned phone. Should I go ahead and contact her through her instagram (which she didn't give me)? Or does that sound too stalker-ish?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on March 28, 2014, 08:44:57 PM

Too stalkerish, don't do it. You're a handsome brown devil so it's not like it's your only opportunity. The best thing to do is wait and if she gets her stuff sorted out and gets back to you then you'll feel good.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on March 28, 2014, 08:58:42 PM

Don't fucking contact her period anymore. She obviously doesn't care to respond. Shit sucks, but its https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WM1RChZk1EU&feature=kp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on March 28, 2014, 09:49:37 PM

catching the feels I see

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on March 28, 2014, 09:52:09 PM

"Yup, now's the time to dig in my heels and fight this internet war."

- AWESOM-O, 2014

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- AWESOM-O, 2013

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- AWESOM-O, 2012

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- AWESOM-O, 2011

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- AWESOM-O, 2010

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- AWESOM-O, 2009

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 28, 2014, 09:54:02 PM

I'd like the above post if each spoiler revealed the written contents and a smiley.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 28, 2014, 09:54:30 PM

I thought you said you were over that last year Awesome-O. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on March 28, 2014, 10:05:47 PM

Awesome-O the other night I heard some yelling of "BITCH BITCH BITCH" and then "I don't give a fuck I'll fight your god damn boyfriend."

Was that you?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on March 28, 2014, 10:18:33 PM

I certainly understand the frustration he is talking about though. All of us have thought that at one point or another. Just gotta know when to say fuck it and focus your energy on someone/something else.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on March 28, 2014, 10:31:06 PM

https://medium.com/lessons-learned/177091f864a4

I'm still on #teamdirectinteractions rather than #teambyzantinesocialrulestoavoidanyhintofconflict, but you deal with the world as it is. Besides which, women feel (with pretty good reason) that extra caution and conflict-avoidance is warranted in dealing with dudes they don't know very well, and frankly going into a seething, bitter rage about it ain't exactly disproving their point.

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and no, "but they don't realize how angry I am because I vent my spleen in other venues" isn't an acceptable answer

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on March 28, 2014, 10:39:22 PM

Fair enough, but IME dudes don't actually seem to benefit from repeated cathartic outbursts of anger, and your version of "now and again" is rather frequent. ymmv

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on March 29, 2014, 02:46:38 AM

Quote from: Mandark on March 28, 2014, 10:31:06 PM

https://medium.com/lessons-learned/177091f864a4

I'm still on #teamdirectinteractions rather than #teambyzantinesocialrulestoavoidanyhintofconflict, but you deal with the world as it is. Besides which, women feel (with pretty good reason) that extra caution and conflict-avoidance is warranted in dealing with dudes they don't know very well, and frankly going into a seething, bitter rage about it ain't exactly disproving their point.

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and no, "but they don't realize how angry I am because I vent my spleen in other venues" isn't an acceptable answer
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Seattle is not fucking special in this regard. A Seattle No exists in every city. I have been to San Fran, Chicago, NY, Nashville, Orlando, Philly, and Pittsburgh, and all people I've been around in those cities respond this way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on March 29, 2014, 04:41:49 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on March 29, 2014, 02:46:38 AM

Seattle is not fucking special in this regard. A Seattle No exists in every city. I have been to San Fran, Chicago, NY, Nashville, Orlando, Philly, and Pittsburgh, and all people I've been around in those cities respond this way.

Oh it's definitely not limited to Seattle. I do think it's a pretty white, middle-class tendency though. IME poor people are a lot more comfortable saying no in pretty blunt terms (and with direct conflict in general).

One of my favorite Chappelle bits was part of a live show I got to see over a decade ago, which I guess never made it into a televised special, about the passive aggression in dealing with his white neighbors now that he was rich and lived in the country ("I see your grass is getting pretty long there, Dave. So you think you're gonna keep it that length or maybe cut it?") vs. interactions in the ghetto ("HEY YO NICCA LEMME HAVE A BITE OF THAT PIZZA!").

The Washington Post ran a front-page story on people using up two seats on the metro while other people stand. Which is mildly insane, because 99.99999999% you can just say "excuse me," tilt your head towards their bag or purse or whatever, and they'll clear the other seat, no fuss. That so many people don't even consider doing this says something.

Quote from: AWESOM-O on March 29, 2014, 02:53:28 AM

How does Mandark even find some of the articles he links to? He always seems to have something applicable. Is he the greatest googler of all time, or does he just read that much?

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=39936.msg1668172#msg1668172

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on March 29, 2014, 04:43:29 AM

I usually wanna sit so I'm all "can I sit there?" and point at the bag taking up the place of where a person should be. They never say "no" because they'll look like a shitheel.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on March 29, 2014, 04:49:11 AM

I've only ever had someone refuse once, and that was a young lady who was... what's a nice way for a white liberal to say "likely to end up on WSHH"? A middle aged black guy didn't appreciate it and they wound up having a shouting match that kept going after I got to my station.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on March 29, 2014, 04:51:38 AM

Well she ended up looking like an asshole even though you didn't get the seat heh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on March 29, 2014, 04:57:14 AM

Oh yeah. You're right about the asking thing. They're basically relying on bluffing people out of making the request at all. Ditto for talking at the movies. "Hey, could you keep it down a bit?" is quick and painless and works.*

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*I make no guarantees for theatres where a certain percentage of the audience is talking, or where Stoney's family is seeing a movie together.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on March 29, 2014, 05:00:09 AM

These days I'm more annoyed with the teenagers who have to text with their bright screens while I'm trying to watch. Fuckheads who care more about telling people they're at the movies than watching the film are fucktards.

What ever happened to just making out quietly in the back rows, ffff.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on March 29, 2014, 10:21:23 AM

I sat down in a hurry once, thinking yay, free seat, but then it hit me. The odour of stale piss coming from the old man opposite me. He had the whole four-seat arrangment to himself on a packed train.
Guy kept mumbling about his dead wife, so he was definitely not all there. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on March 30, 2014, 05:36:33 PM

:ufup

I saw that

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on March 30, 2014, 06:33:25 PM

The chick who initiated text'd me shortly after I sent her my number but I was asleep so I didn't respond till the next morning.
Then never heard from her again ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

whatevs. i'm already talking to someone else, but i can't get over the hump to ask her out. blah blah blah blah blah blah blah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on March 30, 2014, 06:45:20 PM

Is it online dating? Just say you're new to the format (true) and would like to see if she'd want to go and do something low-key like have coffee and walk and talk.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on March 30, 2014, 07:12:35 PM

Well, my first attempt at trying to move on went pretty horribly. Had the second worst date ever so far.

So I meet up with this cougar from OKCupid (she was 38). When we were chatting online she was quick to respond and seemed pretty friendly for the most part, and she seemed eager to meet up right away. So we decided to meet for coffee. Immediately I realized that there might be problems with this one, since she tried to shake my hand, and when I tried to hug her she seemed visibly uncomfortable. Then she didn't want me to pay for her coffee and said we should have separate bills. Sure that in itself probably might not have meant anything negative, but it didn't seem good. The first ten minutes we sat down and she kept having this weird, nervous look on her face. However, after that she started feeling more comfortable and she was smiling and seemingly actually enjoying herself. We chatted for two hours and I asked if she'd be up for something else. She said she was, and so we went to theater, which at first I thought was a good sign. Again, though she decided to pay for herself and when we went inside, she didn't seem to want to hold hands or anything. The movie experience (as well as the movie itself) sucked and was glad when it was over. I walk her to her car and ask her if she wanted to pursue a relationship and she says that she's not looking for a boyfriend right now and wants to remain friends.

UGH.

Okay, so she wasn't exactly the date from hell, and it's not like all my other dates ended in a slam dunk. But most of the time I had SOMETHING to show for it. This wouldn't be so bad if I didn't waste half my day with her. :punch :punch :punch

At least she paid for her own shit, so credit where credit's due, I suppose.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on March 30, 2014, 07:13:53 PM

But there was some shockingly positive news as well. Facebook girl messaged me and asked me out to a party. :o

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on March 30, 2014, 07:34:01 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on March 30, 2014, 06:45:20 PM

Is it online dating? Just say you're new to the format (true) and would like to see if she'd want to go and do something low-key like have coffee and walk and talk.

I have an idea already. There's a thai restaurant I want to go to so I'll probably propose that as an idea. Maybe going to see a movie if I want to be lame.

It's the asking that's the hurdle.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on March 30, 2014, 07:43:45 PM

If it goes sideways you can always ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ it off.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on March 31, 2014, 12:24:34 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on March 28, 2014, 09:56:27 PM

One is never truly "over it." But I won't harp on it again for awhile.

Anyway, move on to the next one, Oblivion.

It's probably been stated here before, but does it help to realize that, when a woman chooses not to engage you directly when rejecting you, it says nothing about you?

If she doesn't even know you, is it reasonable to be hurt by her lack of acceptance or trust? Or is it more realistic to accept that the reaction says more about her, or a woman's tenuous situation in this world?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on March 31, 2014, 12:48:41 PM

I think its natural to take something like that personal, especially if you suffer from symptoms of being HSP. It's just important to remember that unless you were a total skeezoid or put out rape vibes, that its nothing you did. It's especially frustrating when a girl seems totally down to kick it, and they give you their number first without you even asking for it. But hey, sometimes people go through things and have particular personalities. If they don't seem interested, its their loss most of the time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 01, 2014, 06:36:30 AM

I casually suggested a meet up to give a restaurant a try to the OKC girl I've been talking to. It's a Thai places and she essentially said she would have to think about doing that specifically because she's a bit afraid of foreign food but she thinks we should definitely meet up sometime.

I didn't want to push the subject too much because it was clear either she:
-isn't ready to meet quite yet
-doesnt want to period

I side with the former because of course I do. I'll keep it casual and mention it again sometime.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 03, 2014, 01:01:15 AM

Quote from: am nintenho on March 19, 2014, 02:52:41 PM

Normally when you flirt or talk a lot with a girl that's taken, they'll let it slip that they have a boyfriend. I can definitely be shy about communicating my intentions when I start feeling an interest in someone but does anyone know if someone who for instance grew up in Europe and whose primary language is not English would maybe not be sure how to put that out there?

I've known her for like 6 months but only really started to talk with her in the past month or so. Tried scouring Facebook already obviously so I guess the only thing to do is to wait and ask her out and see what happens. I'm suspicious because imo she's very pretty although she does kind of have an intimidating/seemingly cold personality.

Okay update if anyone cares: The thing is that she was actually the TA of a class I was in and a grad student I work with mentioned how serious they may come down on TAs dating students (possible expulsion). He mentioned it with his own story of how he waited until after the term was over to begin dating a former student.

So a couple days ago on you first day of the new term, I went up and asked and her response was "I can't". I asked if there was a rule against it even when you're not in their class and she said that it was because she has a boyfriend and obviously I apologized and explained I was actually trying not to hint my interest because I knew she wouldn't be allowed to so it wasn't her fault for not telling me earlier or anything. Thankfully I talk really fast when I'm afraid of saying the wrong thing or of someone wrongly feeling like they didn't do their duty and I think her main concern was actually that she hurt my ego or something. Even if she actually had no interest that would be fine and I'd move on.

I'd like to say that this turned out differently and that I'm a testament to why you should have the restraint to always do the right thing even if it means being really patient but yeah. I did learn to always let your interest show when you know it's there and not to waste time (2 months wanting to ask her out).

But the upside is that that was actually the first time I'd asked a girl out face-to-face, at the tender age of 25, and it just felt so much more natural and fun rather than super tense and awkward like when you can't see them. It actually makes me want to put myself out there a lot more. The last time I asked was a year ago which was my first and only rejection, since I wouldn't count accidentally asking out a girl with bf as a rejection. Even if that does happen again, the worst case scenario is somebody feels a bit flattered and I get thicker skin.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on April 03, 2014, 04:24:24 AM

Put your self out there more. If you're not one of the guys who is mortally afraid of other people or rejection, there is everything to gain, and nothing to lose by being rejected once in a while.

Actually, there was a fun LifeHacker article on this game centered on that:
http://lifehacker.com/5888637/rejection-therapy-the-game-you-win-by-actively-seeking-out-rejection

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 03, 2014, 05:52:05 AM

So are long hair and facial hair a no go for dudes? I've taken the PD strategy and just liked everyone on the tinder app(I'm sure I'm well past 500 now I'm sure) and haven't gotten a single bite.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on April 03, 2014, 06:32:14 AM

Choosing your pictures carefully is definitely a tinder requirement. It might have nothing to do with your looks but other stuff in your pictures that is giving a left swipe vibe.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on April 03, 2014, 09:58:49 AM

I had pretty good success with my long hair and facial hair back when I was single. You keepin it clean, facial hair short? If your hair is greasy looking or something that wouldn't go over well. Post the pics you're using

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 03, 2014, 10:09:07 AM

the first chick that ever showed interest in me (high school) was because of my long hair.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on April 03, 2014, 11:57:22 AM

Tl;dr version: brush your hair, trim your face, and bathe if you don't already

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on April 03, 2014, 05:59:11 PM

some girls may like it, but your going to increase your odds if you cut it.

so cut that shit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 03, 2014, 07:34:51 PM

Quote from: Spencer on April 03, 2014, 09:58:49 AM

I had pretty good success with my long hair and facial hair back when I was single. You keepin it clean, facial hair short? If your hair is greasy looking or something that wouldn't go over well. Post the pics you're using

I pretty much wash my hair every other day with shampoo and conditioner. Conditioner on the days without shampoo. It's just part of the normal "get up and take a shower routine". I don't think hygiene is much of an issue. I'm pretty clean. As for having facial hair, it dosen't go to my neck or anything. I don't "line" or whatever bros call it.

As for cutting my hair. I don't really like having short hair. My hair in general is source of constant confidence issues. I don't like it at all, but I at least dislike it less when its long and somewhat curly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on April 03, 2014, 08:01:07 PM

Facial hair short: hot.

Facial hair long like zz top: not.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on April 03, 2014, 08:32:17 PM

Wrath is right you want to make them Tinder pics hot and ensure you look approachable.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Robo on April 04, 2014, 10:23:36 AM

Try breathing from your nose.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on April 04, 2014, 10:29:24 AM

Personal appearance is a series of trade-offs, in my opinion. How much are you willing to inconvenience yourself in order to attract and keep a mate, or just get laid if that's what you're looking for? Keep in mind that women do all sorts of that sort of thing to attract YOU.

That said, I have good news from mid-30's land: people start settling for less as they get older. "Oh, he's employed, doesn't live at home and hasn't hit me? Might as well fuck him, despite the beard."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on April 04, 2014, 11:05:32 AM

You just feel better overall if you take care of yourself.

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on April 04, 2014, 10:29:24 AM

That said, I have good news from mid-30's land: people start settling for less as they get older. "Oh, he's employed, doesn't live at home and hasn't hit me? Might as well fuck him, despite the beard."

:dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 04, 2014, 11:28:29 AM

If you want attention, earn it. You don't need to be ripped but just being in shape and having shoulders works wonders. You'll grab attention, and realize all of a sudden women are laughing with you or putting their hand on your arm.

If you don't want to go to the gym, do some jogging or something. Start small then get more ambitious with your exercise. You'll notice the difference in reactions immediately, once you lose weight and gain some muscle.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 04, 2014, 12:52:33 PM

It's difficult because the things that prevent you from functioning out in social settings also prevent you from doing things like, going to the gym, etc.

For me, my primary mental block is being alone. I can't deal with being in these settings alone. It scares me to the point where I simply don't do it.

So you say "Then have someone go with you!" But you see, this block also applies to asking people. Or finding people. It's the worst cycle.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 04, 2014, 12:55:05 PM

Having dealt with similar issues, one thing I did was buy some weights from the Salvation Army and just work out at home.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 04, 2014, 01:37:53 PM

Yep. My first weight set I bought from Academy for 200 bucks and it came with 245 lbs. Squat rack, OHP rack, bench and an olympic bar. twas the shit and I didn't have to go to a gym.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on April 04, 2014, 01:41:35 PM

Or start (and maybe stop) with bodyweight exercises.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 04, 2014, 01:49:58 PM

I was thinking about looking into DDP Yoga.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 04, 2014, 02:07:21 PM

I've recently felt really great just by running and playing basketball every other day. I don't really care to bulk up muscle wise -- not really my thing. But I'm getting leaner by doing the cardio. And I'm actually halfway decent at basketball now, so there's that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on April 04, 2014, 05:06:33 PM

Muscles are fucking hot. Being out of shape you can get girls too but the better you look the more you can play the field.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 04, 2014, 06:34:35 PM

Muscles are hot, yeah, but weight lifting for some people just isn't enjoyable or fun. Finding a routine that you're into and you enjoy is more important I think.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on April 04, 2014, 06:38:34 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on April 04, 2014, 06:34:35 PM

Muscles are hot, yeah, but weight lifting for some people just isn't enjoyable or fun. Finding a routine that you're into and you enjoy is more important I think.

You can get them from other activities.

If I had more money I'd go to one of those rock climbing places. And bowl more.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 04, 2014, 06:42:22 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on April 04, 2014, 06:38:34 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on April 04, 2014, 06:34:35 PM
Muscles are hot, yeah, but weight lifting for some people just isn't enjoyable or fun. Finding a routine that you're into and you enjoy is more important I think.

You can get them from other activities.

If I had more money I'd go to one of those rock climbing places. And bowl more.

oh sure, I wasn't denying that. I've been doing body weight exercises at home and I don't hate it. Still have much much more fun running and playing basketball.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on April 04, 2014, 06:45:50 PM

The plus about weight lifting (if you have your own shit) though is you can just be a bum, ask what you want to focus on today, and do it like 3 sets of 5 reps and you're done for the day after no time at all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on April 06, 2014, 07:18:45 PM

20-30 lbs. is :mouf

50 lbs. or so is when we have issues, or I do anyway. Then again I'm a fat fuck, but I'm told I'm funny, adorable, blah blah blah all these other things that women like, so I've got that going for me.

(they're lying to me, I know)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on April 08, 2014, 12:34:26 AM

im knee deep in relationship

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on April 08, 2014, 12:49:15 AM

Tell me more.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on April 08, 2014, 02:17:02 AM

Yo, flannel boy, am I right about red heads being terrible humans yet?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 08, 2014, 03:33:52 AM

Quote from: Esch on April 04, 2014, 10:42:21 AM

On the other hand, some people don't need to try hard at all to maintain a great appearance.

:yeshrug

i have a name you know

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on April 08, 2014, 09:38:30 AM

Doesn't count, Wrath, they ain't people :teehee

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on April 08, 2014, 10:37:00 AM

I know I'd frack with that toaster

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on April 10, 2014, 08:34:48 PM

There's a girl at work that I want to plow but she's more religious than the other religious girls I've played naked twister with.

What do?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 10, 2014, 08:44:35 PM

Quote from: Atramental on April 10, 2014, 08:34:48 PM

There's a girl at work that I want to plow but she's more religious than the other religious girls I've played naked twister with.

What do?

anal to preserve her maiden head

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on April 10, 2014, 08:45:21 PM

Ah, who am I kidding. I'm just going to stick with bar broads for 2 more years while I'm stuck in SC. :noah

The less complications the better.

But man... I've been day dreaming a lot at the office about "stuff"...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 15, 2014, 06:54:39 PM

Quote from: Huff on April 03, 2014, 05:59:11 PM

some girls may like it, but your going to increase your odds if you cut it.

so cut that shit

Yeah I guess I will go back to boring old short hair. Having long hair hasn't done anything for me in the women department and I guess it never fit me. Today my friend said I look like Lt. Dan from Forest Gump. So yeah I guess it's time to back to normal.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on April 15, 2014, 07:22:37 PM

Quote from: Atramental on April 10, 2014, 08:45:21 PM

Ah, who am I kidding. I'm just going to stick with bar broads for 2 more years while I'm stuck in SC. :noah

The less complications the better.

But man... I've been day dreaming a lot at the office about "stuff"...

when you say "naked twister" and "stuff"...what are you referring to exactly ??? these posts are confusing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on April 15, 2014, 07:22:52 PM

oh wait, are you talking about "pop pop"?!? you devil! ;)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 15, 2014, 09:47:05 PM

Quote from: Esch on April 15, 2014, 07:45:23 PM

That feeling when you inadvertently drop the ball on some sure shit is horrible indeed :fbm

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9dfZyfckKPk

take the shot brehs. don't hesitate :tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 15, 2014, 09:57:54 PM

so i don't remember if i mentioned this here or not

awhile back before i moved, around December I believe I had a dentist appointment. The hygienist was a really nice girl that I chatted up for a bit and ended up "asking out" but kinda botched and then botched harder later on when i tried to follow up. oh well whatevs.

but weird thing is, months later (at least in the last month) i notice she sent me a friends request on the facebooks.

just thought it was an interesting turn of events.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on April 15, 2014, 10:08:03 PM

Please. No more. :tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 15, 2014, 10:12:01 PM

Esch got Sam Bowie'd :tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 15, 2014, 10:17:18 PM

how fat are we talking though?
:leon

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on April 15, 2014, 11:34:29 PM

So, if you lift...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 15, 2014, 11:41:09 PM

Quote from: Rufus on April 15, 2014, 11:34:29 PM

So, if you lift...

You lower your standards?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on April 15, 2014, 11:42:40 PM

Boom.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 16, 2014, 01:52:14 AM

Eh nah I think she was looking for a random douche rather than a real thing. It sounds like you were looking for a bit more than that so it's best to just forget about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 16, 2014, 02:02:21 AM

Okay sorry I realize that probably JUST happened but I have no better advice to give since I've been in that "we want it but yet" void only once before and yeah. If it's any consolation, you may have avoided something crazy and meaningless.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on April 16, 2014, 02:13:41 AM

Quote from: Atramental on April 10, 2014, 08:34:48 PM

There's a girl at work that I want to plow but she's more religious than the other religious girls I've played naked twister with.

What do?

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/wave-off

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 16, 2014, 02:24:32 AM

you served an important role, exodust. i'm sure clubdouche will pay it forward.

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Post by: Mandark on April 16, 2014, 02:25:54 AM

Responding seriously to an am nintenho post is the ultimate L.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 21, 2014, 07:19:55 PM

so uh. it looks like i'm gonna be going out on a date next sunday. pretty straight forward, a movie (her idea) and dinner (my idea).

sooo some general advice? i'm mostly just gonna wing it but is there anything to keep in mind? dos and donts? etc.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 21, 2014, 07:35:11 PM

Wear sandals with socks. Dont wear cologne. Try to smell her hair when she isn't looking.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 21, 2014, 07:37:24 PM

If she says "be right back, I have to go to the restroom" always ask if you can come with her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 21, 2014, 07:39:24 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on April 21, 2014, 07:37:24 PM

If she says "be right back, I have to go to the restroom" always ask if you can come with her.

and if she leaves her purse behind see if you can get into her phone. You dont want to waste months or years on this broad if she isn't a virgin.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 21, 2014, 07:40:08 PM

I don't own any kind of smelly stuff cuz that generally bothers my nose. Is that really a big deal? I wouldn't even know what to get.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 21, 2014, 07:43:36 PM

Real advice: a good cologne doesn't hurt as long as you dont wear too much. Its kinda like clothes. Doesn't mean much really but is a good first impression showing you care about presentation

what to get: Armani black code is fail proof

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 21, 2014, 07:49:38 PM

Quote from: Esch on April 21, 2014, 07:45:52 PM

You know what else doesn't hurt? Penis in the popcorn.

mmmm buttery

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 21, 2014, 08:11:53 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on April 21, 2014, 07:43:36 PM

what to get: Armani black code is fail proof

amazon can have it to me by the 28th. :beli

guess i may have to actually go to a store.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on April 21, 2014, 08:18:14 PM

Dude, don't worry about cologne. Just be clean.

Most importantly, try to be cool and approachable. Fun.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Dickie Dee on April 21, 2014, 08:38:06 PM

Quote from: Esch on April 21, 2014, 08:28:26 PM

Meh, call me weird but i actually enjoy going into the mall cologne section and sniffing my way through this and that

:yeshrug

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h_9ATQFgu9o

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 21, 2014, 08:38:11 PM

Just be yourself, don't try to force things, but make sure you talk to her. Let her tell you about herself, pay attention, relate whenever you can, etc.

Don't touch your phone during the movie or dinner.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on April 21, 2014, 08:39:54 PM

what movie?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 21, 2014, 08:44:11 PM

Quote from: fryinghigh on April 21, 2014, 08:39:54 PM

what movie?

God Is Not Dead.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 21, 2014, 08:44:22 PM

Quote from: fryinghigh on April 21, 2014, 08:39:54 PM

what movie?

The Quiet Ones. We both like horror movies so that makes sense. If it sucks we'll be able to talk shit about it at least.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 21, 2014, 08:48:29 PM

Quote from: Esch on April 21, 2014, 08:44:28 PM

Interesting, smelling cologne makes me gay. And here I thought it was putting my cock in another man's ass :leon

#dualities

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on April 21, 2014, 08:49:06 PM

Quote from: Esch on April 21, 2014, 08:44:28 PM

Interesting, smelling cologne makes me gay. And here I thought it was putting my cock in another man's ass :leon

No no no. See, that makes you a homosexual. We're talking GAY, breh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on April 21, 2014, 10:40:58 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on April 21, 2014, 07:19:55 PM

so uh. it looks like i'm gonna be going out on a date next sunday. pretty straight forward, a movie (her idea) and dinner (my idea).

sooo some general advice? i'm mostly just gonna wing it but is there anything to keep in mind? dos and donts? etc.

Have you told her about your carefully crafted and cataloged Natalie Portman picture folder?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 21, 2014, 10:51:08 PM

Just look like your dressed with more effort than usual for a first date. Most important thing for both of you is seeing how naturally the conversation and chemistry come together. I wouldn't bother with applying synthetic body odors.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 27, 2014, 12:15:34 PM

*deep breath*

(http://i.minus.com/ibv6ZIv4B72rtt.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on April 27, 2014, 12:22:43 PM

So... when someone you've been dating off and on for half a year somehow can't find 2 hours in 4 weeks to grab a meal and drinks with you before you move out of state, I guess they never really thought that much of you. Ouch.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 27, 2014, 05:28:32 PM

Sorry man. It just helps you be pickier next time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 27, 2014, 05:36:10 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on April 27, 2014, 12:22:43 PM

So... when someone you've been dating off and on for half a year somehow can't find 2 hours in 4 weeks to grab a meal and drinks with you before you move out of state, I guess they never really thought that much of you. Ouch.

damn breh

You know what to do now, though. When she inevitably calls you up looking for a favor, to hang out, or the "hey I'm in x, figured I'd call. Maybe we could chill, got any weed?" trick...say no. Don't fall for that shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on April 27, 2014, 05:58:50 PM

Ehhhh. I feel like I was 100% upfront with her about my feelings and intentions the entire time and she was flighty and playing games for most of the time we were dating. She had a lot of good things about her that initially attracted me, but ultimately she's just never been in a healthy relationship so I don't think she knows HOW to be. Should have paid attention to the warning signs but oh well, live and learn.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

...still smanged her a couple times tho :shaq

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 27, 2014, 09:05:30 PM

That was longer than I expected.

So all in all I think it went pretty well. I'm super critical of myself so I'll probably never think I did awesome. And I KNOW I messed up in ONE specific thing that I knew was happening but still fucked it up. I'll explain in a bit.

We met at the theater and saw the movie. It was mediocre and was mostly a time waster. whatever. We then drove down to a Japanese restaurant cuz the Thai place was closed. Ate there are talked about the movie, movies, school, work, etc etc. stuff. I think I excelled at that and didn't allow many awkward moments.

Then from there she weirdly took charge. My inexperience really shined through here. She suggested going to a coffee shop so we drove down to Barnes and Noble, at something to drink and wandered around the store talking about books and stuff. I enjoyed that.

So here's my mistake. When we left the store she said she would invite me to her place but it was a mess. At no point did I imply anything of the sort and she basically brought it up. Again my inexperience was palpable. I retorted back that mine was probably equally a mess and then moved on to suggesting some place else we could go. In retrospect... hell, in currentspect I knew I fucked up. But again, my inexperience and I'll admit, fear took over.

We were going to hang around a hobby store but they were closed. Instead we spend some time in her car comparing our music to each other. I actually got a pretty good band out of it.

Then we drove down to the water front and hung around by the water continuing to talk about movies and her life and goals etc. We got to nerd out in our own ways. Then when it started to get dark and cold we down back to my car.

Here's the only real big awkard moment. I'm terrible at ending things and saying goodbye. I shook her hand. But thankfully I'm completely shameless and was able to turn it into a joke which we both laughed about. She then offered a hug and we parted ways with the thoughts of a second date mentioned.

A roughly 7 hour date. Even she mentioned she didn't expect to be out as long as we were.

As I said. I think it went well. Not perfect. I made mistakes but I think I did decent enough. I kept conversation going and allowed her to talk about herself. However I never took charge and allowed her to basically lead me around. I think in the specific context of me being new to the city allowed that to be somewhat OK.

Tomorrow I'll be busy all day so I'll probably wait until Tuesday to contact her. Unless she contacts me, which has happened. We'll see.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on April 27, 2014, 09:25:31 PM

A handshake, huh?

Looks like PD's dating advice is rubbing off on yah. (http://i.imgur.com/Hy7V4Tw.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 27, 2014, 09:49:55 PM

And yall dudes was laughing at me. Handshakes are for closers. Good job fistfull, you did well
:rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on April 27, 2014, 09:53:11 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/AcEaI4V.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on April 27, 2014, 10:35:45 PM

Seems like it went pretty well, Fistful... when you were going over music did you tell her about the JPop group you like? :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 27, 2014, 11:01:50 PM

haha YES i did actually. went through a bunch of stuff.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on April 27, 2014, 11:20:57 PM

That went way better than you made it sound. Yeah, the house invitation was a cue and the handshake was a missed opportunity, but more importantly you played it off and the date continued, and the two of you continued to have fun. Instead of irrationally distorting how the date went with negativity, you should focus on your next move. For all you know she could have thought "fun date, and he didn't want to jump into my pants at the first chance. Maybe he *ISN'T* as creepy as all my friends from GAF and evilbore say he is."

Random observation: where the fuck do you live, and why is everything closed?!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 28, 2014, 12:33:33 AM

That went really well and sounds exactly like my first date ever. How did you two meet if you don't mind my asking?

Also when you get to the point of opening up about your inexperience, you should try to let yourself be more comfortable with her rather than intimidated as that was my big mistake.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 28, 2014, 11:46:20 AM

It was Sunday so I guess some stores tend to close :yeshrug

We met on OKC.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on April 28, 2014, 11:55:59 AM

You'll get more comfortable, fistful. It might be even in your favor to make this known. She'll have fun playing and teaching you things.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 28, 2014, 01:37:14 PM

Quote from: Esch on April 21, 2014, 08:17:36 PM

I also like bvlgari aqva pour homme and aqua di gio

inb4macusersuggests some 600$ shit

bb if you need me i'm just a pm away :-*

spoiler (click to show/hide)

lalique encre noire, lalique hommage a l'homme, chanel sycomore, terre d'hermes, dior bois d'argent, or dior homme, weather depending

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 28, 2014, 02:05:32 PM

I actually tried to think of some $600 fragrances but nothing really came to mind (outside of giant decanters but that doesn't count). :( On the plus side, you can get a good number of what I listed off amazon for half or more off retail. encre noire is absurdly cheap.

Yeah, the dior stuff usually has a bit of flowery-sweetness to them, but I will say chanel sycomore is probably one of the best things i've ever smelled, period. if you like citrusy-spice costume national homme is very good, IMO.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 29, 2014, 11:34:42 AM

:shaq

honestly i don't think i could do that :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 29, 2014, 11:39:13 AM

So if you had sex and she told you to scream her name...

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on April 29, 2014, 12:01:45 PM

Give her a new nickname, I'm sure she'll understand. :uguu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 29, 2014, 12:41:47 PM

I don't see the problem. My incest fetish says fucking go for it, bro. Pics of your sis too please

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 29, 2014, 01:21:59 PM

Mupepe has given me pics of his sisters, I can vouch for his integrity.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 29, 2014, 01:25:18 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on April 29, 2014, 01:21:59 PM

Mupepe has given me pics of his sisters, I can vouch for his integrity.

I'm not actually attracted to my sister though (I wish I was... I guess). She's crazy. Himu used to lust after her though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 29, 2014, 02:56:16 PM

One pic of her was pretty ehhh but another wasn't bad

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 29, 2014, 04:54:51 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on April 29, 2014, 04:53:38 PM

Mups has seen my sister, he can be my brother in law if he wants.

I haven't seen your sister
:gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 29, 2014, 05:12:03 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/dnX48Cv.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 29, 2014, 05:20:31 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on April 29, 2014, 05:00:54 PM

You've seen enough of my exes, though. You ran out on your pics privileges due to your pm inbox issue. And you're not as smooth as mups.

yea, you have blessed me with some impressive pics. I can't complain.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 29, 2014, 07:45:54 PM

Wraths sis is going to be my sexy 2nd wife.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 29, 2014, 07:49:17 PM

Welp, date 2 confirmed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on April 29, 2014, 07:52:19 PM

Fistful gonna get it wet. :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 29, 2014, 07:53:15 PM

Shake her hand again at the beginning of the date, it'll remind her of the first time and make her laugh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 30, 2014, 08:59:22 PM

Date 2 is gonna consist of her coming over to my apartment and we're gonna watch The Visitor (1979) and I'll probably make something to eat? It's gonna be interesting.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 30, 2014, 09:02:41 PM

What are you gonna cook? You should practice a bit in the meantime - don't do anything you can't pull off, but try to do something interesting.

also...are you a virgin?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 30, 2014, 09:10:33 PM

YUP.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 30, 2014, 09:18:09 PM

I dunno. I might suggest we go out to eat first and then come back. I dunno.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 30, 2014, 09:46:13 PM

Why not cook? Spaghetti is pretty easy for instance, and is an easy way to impress chicks. Or...does she know how to cook? Maybe you both can make something together.

If she wants to have sex with you, are you gonna tell her you're a virgin?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on April 30, 2014, 09:52:13 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on April 30, 2014, 08:59:22 PM

Date 2

I read that as "Dota 2" and I was like "Too soon" :kobeyuck

Anyhow, a movie and a home cooked meal is a solid idea. As PD said, cook something you're good at and personally enjoy, rather than something complex you never attempted. Meaningful dishes could always lead to interesting conversations.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on April 30, 2014, 09:46:13 PM

Or...does she know how to cook? Maybe you both can make something together.

Cooking together is awesome, but I'd rather do it with someone I've gotten to know better. Save it for a future date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 30, 2014, 09:55:55 PM

breh do this

http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/anne-burrell/linguine-with-white-clam-sauce-recipe.html

and sub the fresh clam shit for a can of baby clams (strained, naturally). hard to fuck up, lightweight and delicious. drink the leftover wine with dinner. done. virgin no more.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on April 30, 2014, 09:57:39 PM

^ thumbs up

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 30, 2014, 09:58:02 PM

I've heard both sides regarding being open about that. If I don't and she learned I held it back it will be bad. If I tell she may think it's weird and that ends bad.

So it could be bad either way. I always tend to side with honesty so there's that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 30, 2014, 10:00:47 PM

re: the virgin thing, I would only bring it up if she asked, I wouldn't preempt. when my cherry was popped so many years ago, I just rolled with the motions* and it seemed fine, certainly did it a lot afterward heh. don't build yourself up too much. i believe in you :tocry

*try not to poke the wrong hole like I did. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on April 30, 2014, 10:02:24 PM

How about honesty after the fact, and especially if it goes well?

I can't relate since I lost it before realizing people make a big deal out of it. Blissful, 3rd world country ignorance. :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 30, 2014, 10:03:04 PM

oh yeah and condoms are usually face up in the package. just a protip so you don't fumble and lose your groove.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on April 30, 2014, 10:03:56 PM

co-sign on not bringing it up on your own. worst case, be like: ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ it's been awhile

it's honest, technically.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on April 30, 2014, 10:05:33 PM

Dude, don't overthink and overprepare any speeches. For now focus on cooking a meal and having a good time. If you two genuinely have a good time things should progress smoothly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 30, 2014, 10:06:26 PM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on April 30, 2014, 10:02:24 PM

I can't relate since I lost it before realizing people make a big deal out of it. Blissful, 3rd world country ignorance. :rejoice

were you a dancing boy? :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on April 30, 2014, 10:07:04 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on April 30, 2014, 10:06:26 PM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on April 30, 2014, 10:02:24 PM

I can't relate since I lost it before realizing people make a big deal out of it. Blissful, 3rd world country ignorance. :rejoice
were you a dancing boy? :hitler

I was, and still am, a DTF slut.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 30, 2014, 10:07:44 PM

you're going to the 2016 boremeet right? :phil

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 30, 2014, 10:09:46 PM

wouldn't surprise me, i'd imagine its like having sex while you kids nap on the other side of the house, but on a larger cultural scale.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 30, 2014, 10:10:16 PM

tbh i'd be more nervous to buy... uh you know, than anything. maybe i can just get them online.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 30, 2014, 10:11:42 PM

buy condoms? just buy em with your groceries. I get them while my son is in the cart, no shame to my game. go trojan ultrathin or for her pleasure. ladies like the rib.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on April 30, 2014, 10:12:02 PM

congratulations, fistful. sounds like she likes you. I would also suggest going to a store to get try on cologne. tell them you have a fussy nose and see how they respond. love you bb, and gj.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on April 30, 2014, 10:13:31 PM

If she is coming over to your place, it seems like that would be hard to screw up.

Also yes, you can order condoms online. You might want to try a couple on so you get an idea of what to do as practice. Even if you don't, I wouldn't sweat it too much since again, she is coming over to your place and also on the first date, she gave you a opening to fuck her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 30, 2014, 10:15:53 PM

consider a chaturbate livestream so viewers can give you tips and guidance

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Raban on April 30, 2014, 10:19:05 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on April 30, 2014, 10:07:44 PM

you're going to the 2016 boremeet right? :phil

Shaka's gonna be like the official 2016 Bore meet-up peace pipe. Everyone gets a blow :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 30, 2014, 10:20:25 PM

Quote from: Raban on April 30, 2014, 10:19:05 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on April 30, 2014, 10:07:44 PM
you're going to the 2016 boremeet right? :phil
Shaka's gonna be like the official 2016 Bore meet-up peace pipe. Everyone gets a blow :drool

:what

more like bong :aah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on April 30, 2014, 10:23:50 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on April 30, 2014, 10:15:53 PM

consider a chaturbate livestream so viewers can give you tips and guidance

Me and you breh, we're on the same wavelength :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 30, 2014, 10:30:18 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on April 30, 2014, 09:52:05 PM

Don't tell, just do it. There's no point in telling someone you're a virgin, all it will do is bring negative connotations that you don't want.

I would mention it when you're in bed and things are getting above making out. Like just say "There's something you should probably know..." and just explain that you actually still are one. It's up to her if she's okay with it.

That's if your goal is to see her again which of course I assume is the case. I can't imagine carrying on a relationship with that secret.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 30, 2014, 10:34:07 PM

I don't know, from my perspective I'd think it would put a lot of unnecessary pressure on the whole affair to talk about it right up front. I can only give my experience but when my first m'lady let me pierce her maidenhead she only asked about it a couple of days later, in a how many you've been with way, and didn't seem to be taken aback by it much. IIRC she laughed a bit and then we boned. ymmv.

edit: I will say that for some reason, after it spread around school a bit (college), some chicks became a little interested in me for that sole reason alone. I guess everyone thought I would have a bunch of notches lol.

Quote from: Shaka Khan on April 30, 2014, 10:23:50 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on April 30, 2014, 10:15:53 PM
consider a chaturbate livestream so viewers can give you tips and guidance

Me and you breh, we're on the same wavelength :lol

(http://i.imgur.com/BKVhMbw.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on April 30, 2014, 10:41:58 PM

I wouldn't mention it before doing it. but a few days later, if she asks, I'd suggest answering honestly. If you guys become a thing, telling her during pillow talk or something a few months after the fact would be sort of cute. That way, it was a long while ago, and you can treat it as a sort of joke to make her feel better and not create anxiety, while also being honest that she took your virginity.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on May 01, 2014, 12:51:50 AM

i'm pretty fucking nervous.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 01, 2014, 12:59:05 AM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on April 30, 2014, 09:52:13 PM

I read that as "Dota 2" and I was like "Too soon" :kobeyuck

OMG SAME :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on May 01, 2014, 01:18:22 AM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on April 30, 2014, 10:08:05 PM

Having sex in Saudi isn't as hard as people make it out to be. Sluts are everywhere in the world.

And god bless them!!

I wouldn't be so worried about how difficult it is, I'd be worried about what happened if I got caught.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 01, 2014, 01:23:48 AM

you seem to know a lot about clandestine sexual encounters in a male dominated society :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on May 01, 2014, 04:52:26 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on May 01, 2014, 12:51:50 AM

i'm pretty fucking nervous.

Try not to sweat it. You played it cool the first date. Don't be afraid to let her guide you along for things you're not sure about and go with the flow. Have you told her about your lack of dating experience?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Space Jam is Canon on May 01, 2014, 06:07:29 AM

fistful, i was almost in your exact position a few years ago -- 20 years old, lost 100lbs, turned my life around -- but was probably a lot more hung up on being a virgin than you are now. you should read up on giving head -- it's a great way to take the pressure off your performance, as most guys, if they even initiate, are fucking terrible at it. personally, i read Kerner's She Comes First the day before and found everything pretty intuitive when i went up to bat, but even just looking up a couple fundamentals, like come hither and rhythmic broad, flat tongue will make you stand out

just try to remember that the OKCupid match algorithm can work a strange magic sometimes, brehs*. after a long drought, i met both my fiancé and best friend in the span of a week. keep the faith, and you, too, might just find your own 19-year-old PAWG at the end of the rainbow :rejoice

spoiler (click to show/hide)

*i lived in LA at the time and am 6'4" so ymmv

still, inspo:

(http://i.imgur.com/GwsOH90.jpg)

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on May 01, 2014, 07:10:47 AM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on May 01, 2014, 06:10:56 AM

Space Jam Is Canon is an inspiration to us all.

Golly, even just for that username! :swoon

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 07:30:15 AM

:tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 01, 2014, 08:01:43 AM

Quote from: Esch on May 01, 2014, 01:51:14 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on May 01, 2014, 01:23:48 AM
you seem to know a lot about clandestine sexual encounters in a male dominated society :hitler

Implying homosexuality is only really funny when youre doing it to PD :shaq2

:hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on May 01, 2014, 08:31:50 AM

Quote from: Formerly Known As Himuro on May 01, 2014, 04:52:26 AM

Have you told her about your lack of dating experience?

not yet, no. i have told her I don't drink though. but the opportunity hasn't come up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 01, 2014, 09:43:48 AM

why would you talk about amount of dating experience?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 10:06:28 AM

eating pussy definitely can be a game changer for you...but eating out OkCupid chicks on the second date? Nah...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 10:11:39 AM

Shake and Cheebs ruined my chances with a couple decent chicks by trolling them. :lol

I randomly check it now but don't contact anyone since I'm semi-dating anyway. But glancing at my visitors...yup, still lots of fat chicks with a few hot older women thrown in.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on May 01, 2014, 10:26:18 AM

Quote from: chronovore on May 01, 2014, 07:10:47 AM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on May 01, 2014, 06:10:56 AM
Space Jam Is Canon is an inspiration to us all.

Golly, even just for that username! :swoon

I gave my girlfriend the Space Jam soundtrack and the novelization of the movie and she was pumped.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on May 01, 2014, 10:38:41 AM

Buying condoms isnt anything to be nervous about. Just dont buy, you know, a giant fucking box of them. Also use the self-checkout, duh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 01, 2014, 10:43:49 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 10:06:28 AM

eating pussy definitely can be a game changer for you...but eating out OkCupid chicks on the second date? Nah...

lol i went to vegas with my brother and a friend of his and his friend hooked up with a chick at mgm and ate her ass out that very same night. she apparently was very appreciative but breh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on May 01, 2014, 10:46:15 AM

I wish I could find that thread on GAF about the one guy who lost his virginity to some fat chick. It might give you some good pointers.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 10:58:16 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on May 01, 2014, 10:43:49 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 10:06:28 AM
eating pussy definitely can be a game changer for you...but eating out OkCupid chicks on the second date? Nah...
lol i went to vegas with my brother and a friend of his and his friend hooked up with a chick at mgm and ate her ass out that very same night. she apparently was very appreciative but breh.

:dead

and he told you this?

Vegas is probably the worst state to put your mouth below a woman's navel.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 01, 2014, 11:04:21 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 10:58:16 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on May 01, 2014, 10:43:49 AM
Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 10:06:28 AM
eating pussy definitely can be a game changer for you...but eating out OkCupid chicks on the second date? Nah...
lol i went to vegas with my brother and a friend of his and his friend hooked up with a chick at mgm and ate her ass out that very same night. she apparently was very appreciative but breh.
:dead

and he told you this?

Vegas is probably the worst state to put your mouth below a woman's navel.

oh he was quite proud of his accomplishments. we were just like... no.

another friend of mine licked a stripper's bootyhole for $10. it was pretty clean apparently.

just fyi for bore these are the kinds of things that i encourage to happen around me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 11:11:51 AM

the best is when you surprise them with it and they've never had it done before, that alone can get a nut.

It's like hitting a triple double in the first inning. If you lose after that you're a loser of the highest quality.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on May 01, 2014, 11:27:27 AM

Fistful, I wouldnt exactly stress eating your date's potentially disgusting muff. I know plenty of people who havent even considered the thought and have been together for X years.

I find it just as weird that they havent eaten their wife's gash, but, whatever works for them I suppose. Get in there, and if it comes to it, have her do all the work. Its clear she just wants some dick. Let her take it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on May 01, 2014, 11:36:35 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 11:11:51 AM

the best is when you surprise them with it and they've never had it done before, that alone can get a nut.

It's like hitting a triple double in the first inning. If you lose after that you're a loser of the highest quality.

You expect us to believe the same guy who drinks Mike's surprises girls by licking their brown star? I don't think so.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 11:37:16 AM

But if she's just there for dick then it could be a problem. I say do some foreplay first and try to get a gauge of her vagine cleanliness. And if it passes the smell test go to town, young man.

Do you still have a beard? You could rub it in there first.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 11:45:20 AM

Quote from: Spencer on May 01, 2014, 11:36:35 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 11:11:51 AM
the best is when you surprise them with it and they've never had it done before, that alone can get a nut.

It's like hitting a triple double in the first inning. If you lose after that you're a loser of the highest quality.

You expect us to believe the same guy who drinks Mike's surprises girls by licking their brown star? I don't think so.

noooo breh, I'm talking about vagina. I wouldn't even tongue Beyonce's booty hole, mainly because Hov has been in there no doubt
:holeup

ok, I'd eat Monica Bellucci's ass though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on May 01, 2014, 12:00:39 PM

Or, you know, just enjoy a nice meal of spaghetti and movie. End it with a handshake.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 01, 2014, 12:02:03 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 11:11:51 AM

the best is when you surprise them with it and they've never had it done before, that alone can get a nut.

It's like hitting a triple double in the first inning. If you lose after that you're a loser of the highest quality.

true, i was the first one to do it to my wife. note the wife part.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 12:44:50 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on May 01, 2014, 12:02:03 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 11:11:51 AM
the best is when you surprise them with it and they've never had it done before, that alone can get a nut.

It's like hitting a triple double in the first inning. If you lose after that you're a loser of the highest quality.
true, i was the first one to do it to my wife. note the wife part.

vagina or brown round?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 01, 2014, 12:51:02 PM

My advice is only based on my experience but I can have a pretty big guilt complex about things. Her response was "Well we can fix that". If other people say they mentioned it a little while later or when asked and didn't have a problem then I guess that should be fine too.

And hasn't everybody licked a butt on accident during 69?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 01, 2014, 12:51:28 PM

the former of course, babies come from there

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on May 01, 2014, 01:36:23 PM

mom caught wind of this. flood gate of questions commence.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 02:11:56 PM

:lol

How did she find out? Oh man...gonna need details my brony

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 01, 2014, 02:25:23 PM

bro, rule one is to keep the moms away. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on May 01, 2014, 02:28:12 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 10:06:28 AM

eating pussy definitely can be a game changer for you...but eating out OkCupid chicks on the second date? Nah...

Agreed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 02:30:00 PM

Quote from: Formerly Known As Himuro on May 01, 2014, 02:28:12 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 10:06:28 AM
eating pussy definitely can be a game changer for you...but eating out OkCupid chicks on the second date? Nah...

Agreed.

Himuro we've been e-friends for a decade. What would that get me on a first date?
(http://i.imgur.com/hfsittm.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 01, 2014, 02:52:39 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 02:30:00 PM

Quote from: Formerly Known As Himuro on May 01, 2014, 02:28:12 PM
Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 10:06:28 AM
eating pussy definitely can be a game changer for you...but eating out OkCupid chicks on the second date? Nah...

Agreed.

Himuro we've been e-friends for a decade. What would that get me on a first date?
(http://i.imgur.com/hfsittm.png)

Nothing more than a top less dry hump I hope. SHe doesn't know where you've been.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on May 01, 2014, 03:02:19 PM

I'm surprised no one is telling Fist he doesn't have to rush if he doesn't want to. How do you feel about having sex on the second date, fist? Is that why you're nervous?

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 02:30:00 PM

Quote from: Formerly Known As Himuro on May 01, 2014, 02:28:12 PM
Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 10:06:28 AM
eating pussy definitely can be a game changer for you...but eating out OkCupid chicks on the second date? Nah...

Agreed.

Himuro we've been e-friends for a decade. What would that get me on a first date?
(http://i.imgur.com/hfsittm.png)

The furthest I will let a guy get on a first date at this point is a kiss.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on May 01, 2014, 03:16:59 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 02:11:56 PM

:lol

How did she find out? Oh man...gonna need details my brony

Told my dad and brother on Monday, dad told mom.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 03:23:51 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on May 01, 2014, 03:16:59 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 02:11:56 PM
:lol

How did she find out? Oh man...gonna need details my brony

Told my dad and brother on Monday, dad told mom.

What did she say?

didn't know you had a dad breh (no shots).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on May 01, 2014, 03:26:11 PM

of course I have a dad. that's how I was born

she just asked a ton of questions. what's she look like? what's her name? are you going out again? what does she do? go to school? does she live in her own? etc. then she ended by telling me to "be careful".

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 03:59:55 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on May 01, 2014, 03:26:11 PM

of course I have a dad. that's how I was born

she just asked a ton of questions. what's she look like? what's her name? are you going out again? what does she do? go to school? does she live in her own? etc. then she ended by telling me to "be careful".

You're mom is a GAFer?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 01, 2014, 10:46:29 PM

Why even tell your dad and brother now? :shaq2

Always keep these things to yourself until you get a steady thing going on, otherwise you're risking everyone major disappointment.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 01, 2014, 10:59:48 PM

yea you don't want to deal that shit. Imagine the next time you go to visit your mom, she has some friends over, and she blurts out "so how are things going with that girl." And you'll be like "uhhh we dated a couple times and are now friends..." and your mom will be like :smug and her friends will be like :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on May 01, 2014, 11:15:50 PM

On a long enough timeline I will tell everyone everything.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Raban on May 01, 2014, 11:16:46 PM

gotta make the timeline longer than one date, breh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on May 01, 2014, 11:18:42 PM

I hope my parents never find out about my late night sexpeditions. :goty2

I'm pretty sure they still think I'm a virgin. :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on May 01, 2014, 11:20:37 PM

Quote from: Raban on May 01, 2014, 11:16:46 PM

gotta make the timeline longer than one date, breh

My brother and my dad were very important parts of the recent depression issues I had. Telling them about the changes I've made to my life it as much helpful to me but meant to make them proud of me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 02, 2014, 12:06:49 AM

My mom dislikes my brother's gf. They have a cordial relationship publicly, but my mom is constantly complaining behind the scenes. My brother's gf lives with him and that is really what the problem is. Apparently my mom told her something like "why would you give out a free glass of milk before selling the cow?" which insulted the gf :lol

My mom is a traditionalist, the idea of them living together rustles her jimmies to the maximum level. She's in contact with the gf's mom, who is also not thrilled about the relationship. I'm pretty sure they'll break up before the end of the year. She's boring as fuck.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 02, 2014, 12:08:21 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on May 01, 2014, 11:20:37 PM

Quote from: Raban on May 01, 2014, 11:16:46 PM
gotta make the timeline longer than one date, breh

My brother and my dad were very important parts of the recent depression issues I had. Telling them about the changes I've made to my life it as much helpful to me but meant to make them proud of me.

Well, when you put it like that. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 02, 2014, 12:13:22 AM

Quote from: Atramental on May 01, 2014, 11:18:42 PM

I hope my parents never find out about my late night sexpeditions. :goty2

I'm pretty sure they still think I'm a virgin. :whew

i remember my mom, when I moved in with my then fiancee soon to be wife, asking if I had been "intimate". no shit mom, i've been busting them guts since day 3.

fwiw i just said "yes"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on May 02, 2014, 12:16:55 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 02, 2014, 12:06:49 AM

My mom dislikes my brother's gf. They have a cordial relationship publicly, but my mom is constantly complaining behind the scenes. My brother's gf lives with him and that is really what the problem is. Apparently my mom told her something like "why would you give out a free glass of milk before selling the cow?" which insulted the gf :lol

So she's slut-shaming her? :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 02, 2014, 12:24:35 AM

Quote from: Rufus on May 02, 2014, 12:16:55 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 02, 2014, 12:06:49 AM
My mom dislikes my brother's gf. They have a cordial relationship publicly, but my mom is constantly complaining behind the scenes. My brother's gf lives with him and that is really what the problem is. Apparently my mom told her something like "why would you give out a free glass of milk before selling the cow?" which insulted the gf :lol
So she's slut-shaming her? :lol

Pretty much. And this girl is super nice, loves to cook, very soft spoken etc. She's the type of girl you'd think my mom would love, but nope.

she's white :larry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 02, 2014, 01:14:17 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 02, 2014, 12:06:49 AM

My mom dislikes my brother's gf. They have a cordial relationship publicly, but my mom is constantly complaining behind the scenes. My brother's gf lives with him and that is really what the problem is. Apparently my mom told her something like "why would you give out a free glass of milk before selling the cow?" which insulted the gf :lol

My mom is a traditionalist, the idea of them living together rustles her jimmies to the maximum level. She's in contact with the gf's mom, who is also not thrilled about the relationship. I'm pretty sure they'll break up before the end of the year. She's boring as fuck.

Sounds sort of like my parents reaction to my now sister-in-law. She is Pakistani rather than Iranian and they weren't shy about telling him how that was a problem. But they finally got married like a year ago and they haven't said anything on front of him or behind his back AFAIK.

Awkward thing is they think I might carry on the Iranian pureness but I've never dated a middle-eastern much less Muslim chick.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 02, 2014, 02:54:28 AM

I'm sort of going on maybe a date tomorrow with a girl who offered to take me to lunch for a favor I did and I'm deathly afraid. We've been friends for like 6 months and sort of tip toeing around what feels like mutual attraction and I don't know what to say or do. For reference, I haven't dated anyone in a year and I've never dated someone who was already a friend. Do ~~girls~~ people give you you a chance after you've ignored obvious hints?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on May 02, 2014, 10:03:50 AM

If you want it to progress beyond friendship, you'll need to make that apparent through your actions

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 02, 2014, 11:13:11 AM

Actions>>>"soooo I want to tell you something if that's ok..."

Just see how she reacts to stuff. You'll be able to tell if she's interested beyond a general attraction. If so make a move, if not you keep the friendship without that awkward friendzone punch.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on May 02, 2014, 11:18:19 PM

So I'm not gonna cook (cuz passing up a chance to go to Dinosaur BBQ would be silly) but I AM going to try this cool desert idea I learned recently where you use a balloon to create chocolate bowls and serve ice cream and stuff inside. It's pretty neat and I'm gonna do it for the movie.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 04, 2014, 08:39:27 PM

Did she offer to drive you in a feminist power way, or was it due to you being impaired?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on May 05, 2014, 11:36:11 AM

second date just technically ended.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on May 05, 2014, 11:45:20 AM

Technically? Is this a mid-mission progress report?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on May 05, 2014, 12:11:11 PM

We watched a lot of movies last night. Got really close to each other, lots of holding each other and arm around and stuff like that. She stayed over the night but we didn't sleep together. We did basically spoon all night. We cuddled watching shitty Monday morning reality shows and talked. She had to leave for a dentists appointment and something work related but she's coming over again later tonight. I gave her a hug and a brief kiss on the lips when she left (first legit kiss, go me).

She straight up told me I'm the first guy she's dated that she's actually liked. Pretty big ego boost. I did tell her my dating inexperience, it was a sudden shift in conversation towards that subject and I felt it right to bring it up. It didn't crash and burn the entire situation (at least I don't think).

Things went really well I feel.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on May 05, 2014, 12:19:20 PM

D'aw, you go, you. :uguu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 05, 2014, 12:33:47 PM

(http://i20.photobucket.com/albums/b221/eXdream1999/antm_fist_pump-1332519690.gif)

Sounds like you have something good. :tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 05, 2014, 01:01:44 PM

Red flags everywhere. Bail out.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

jk. Thats awesome dude. Congrats

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 05, 2014, 03:16:11 PM

Good for you, fistful.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 05, 2014, 03:36:01 PM

discuss long term plans after one date with a girl from the internet brehs

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on May 05, 2014, 03:38:32 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on May 05, 2014, 12:11:11 PM

We watched a lot of movies last night. Got really close to each other, lots of holding each other and arm around and stuff like that. She stayed over the night but we didn't sleep together. We did basically spoon all night. We cuddled watching shitty Monday morning reality shows and talked. She had to leave for a dentists appointment and something work related but she's coming over again later tonight. I gave her a hug and a brief kiss on the lips when she left (first legit kiss, go me).

She straight up told me I'm the first guy she's dated that she's actually liked. Pretty big ego boost. I did tell her my dating inexperience, it was a sudden shift in conversation towards that subject and I felt it right to bring it up. It didn't crash and burn the entire situation (at least I don't think).

Things went really well I feel.

I'd probably start trying on condoms around now. You're pretty much on the home stretch.

Can you go into detail about when you brought up the inexperience?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on May 05, 2014, 03:43:05 PM

Act like you're in Seinfeld brehs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: hampster on May 05, 2014, 03:46:18 PM

Who cares about the rest of the date, I want to hear more about these chocolate bowls fistful :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on May 05, 2014, 03:54:55 PM

Quote from: demi on May 05, 2014, 03:38:32 PM

Can you go into detail about when you brought up the inexperience?

I don't remember the exact context of what she said but the opportunity came up and I just kinda said "This is the second date I've been on" and left it open for a bit so she could digest what I said. We've already talked about me not drinking and the why so I connected it to that. She seemed surprised tbh. I was able to make a joke when she said I was the first guy she's dated that she's actually liked by saying the same thing essentially "You're the first girl I've dated that I've actually liked".

Quote from: hampster on May 05, 2014, 03:46:18 PM

Who cares about the rest of the date, I want to hear more about these chocolate bowls fistful :drool

I was only able to make TWO successfully. The balloons kept sticking to the chocolate or the coating wasn't thick enough. But two were made and they were amaze. Really leaves a good impression.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on May 05, 2014, 03:57:24 PM

Has it been mostly you taking charge, or does it feel like she is kind of giving the motions?

It sounds like you're pretty comfortable with where this is going, at the moment. This girl can do a lot for your self-esteem, so keep it up. Even if she ends up leaving, the experience and esteem boosts can do wonders going forward.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 05, 2014, 03:58:59 PM

Are you writing this down demi?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on May 05, 2014, 04:00:49 PM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on May 05, 2014, 03:58:59 PM

Are you writing this down demi?

No, I'm content sharing dick pics with people on the internet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 05, 2014, 04:01:24 PM

Same here. :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 05, 2014, 04:06:01 PM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on May 05, 2014, 04:01:24 PM

Same here. :whew

uncircumcised? pass
:beli

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 05, 2014, 06:02:53 PM

Shaka is most definitely packing an aesthetically pleasing, prime cut of meat. All you disgusting Snuffleupaguses can go home.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 05, 2014, 06:16:22 PM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on May 05, 2014, 06:02:53 PM

Shaka is most definitely packing an aesthetically pleasing, prime cut of meat. All you disgusting Snuffleupaguses can go home.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 05, 2014, 06:27:50 PM

First off, I'd like to point out how right I alone was in saying a girl won't care about inexperience if she actually likes you and is looking for a real thing. I might just rub this in forever.

But also fistful, don't feel like you should be in a rush to anything. It sounds like you both are keeping things open to communication which is really good. Good luck and try masturbating with some condoms.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 05, 2014, 06:36:43 PM

Don't JO with condoms. Don't use them when you fuck either.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 05, 2014, 06:50:07 PM

masturbating with condoms? :what

whatever points you think you won you lost twofold

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 05, 2014, 06:53:48 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 05, 2014, 03:19:21 PM

Texted my brother:

"Do you think it would be weird if I started dating a girl with the first name ____? I just went out with one, and the date turned out really well."

Him: "Haha, not really? We could go back to calling (our sister) (other nickname we had for our sister when we were kids)"

I wonder what my sister would think. If a few more dates go well and things start to look serious, I'll have to tell her about it.

My partner has the same name as 2 of my cousins, it's just a name breh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 05, 2014, 07:04:05 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on May 05, 2014, 06:50:07 PM

masturbating with condoms? :what

whatever points you think you won you lost twofold

To know what a condom feels like.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 05, 2014, 10:02:57 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on May 05, 2014, 06:27:50 PM

First off, I'd like to point out how right I alone was in saying a girl won't care about inexperience if she actually likes you and is looking for a real thing. I might just rub this in forever.

(http://i.imgur.com/IbJrgPk.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 05, 2014, 10:08:59 PM

and like clockwork, he recommended someone masturbate while wearing a condom. brehs

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 06, 2014, 09:22:49 AM

And the whole blowing people up thing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 06, 2014, 09:28:07 AM

and marrying children

wait were we making a good or bad list

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on May 06, 2014, 11:04:05 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 06, 2014, 09:22:49 AM

And the whole blowing people up thing.

WELL ACTUALLY

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 06, 2014, 11:22:53 AM

Quote from: Positive Touch on May 06, 2014, 11:04:05 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 06, 2014, 09:22:49 AM
And the whole blowing people up thing.

WELL ACTUALLY

anti semite
:pacspit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on May 06, 2014, 03:36:18 PM

i'm not gonna go into too much detail anymore about this as i'd rather keep it private from this point forward.

but it's been done. it's all been done. all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on May 06, 2014, 03:39:30 PM

:o
(http://i42.tinypic.com/30vk7xx.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on May 06, 2014, 03:40:28 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on May 06, 2014, 03:36:18 PM

i'm not gonna go into too much detail anymore about this as i'd rather keep it private from this point forward.

but it's been done. it's all been done. all.

Oral. Anal. In her ear. With her sister. With her mom. Donkey punch. Rusty trombone. Cleveland steamer. Manhattan transfer. Space docking. All the German shit. All.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on May 06, 2014, 03:44:01 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on May 06, 2014, 03:36:18 PM

i'm not gonna go into too much detail anymore about this as i'd rather keep it private from this point forward.

but it's been done. it's all been done. all.

deleting your porn folder :whoo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on May 06, 2014, 03:46:01 PM

Who would have thought fistful would win the race before PD.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on May 06, 2014, 04:02:10 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on May 06, 2014, 03:36:18 PM

i'm not gonna go into too much detail anymore about this as i'd rather keep it private from this point forward.

but it's been done. it's all been done. all.

(http://i.imgur.com/4lEATbY.jpg)

Congrats. (http://i.imgur.com/opHhNYk.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on May 06, 2014, 04:06:18 PM

Quote from: Steve Contra on May 06, 2014, 03:40:28 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on May 06, 2014, 03:36:18 PM
i'm not gonna go into too much detail anymore about this as i'd rather keep it private from this point forward.

but it's been done. it's all been done. all.
Oral. Anal. In her ear. With her sister. With her mom. Donkey punch. Rusty trombone. Cleveland steamer. Manhattan transfer. Space docking. All the German shit. All.

you could've just said German shit. everything else is implied.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

I just noticed how racist this sounds by forgetting to add a word :fbm

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on May 06, 2014, 04:41:08 PM

:beli

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: cool breeze on May 06, 2014, 05:01:16 PM

Quote from: Rufus on May 06, 2014, 04:41:08 PM

:beli

I apologize for singling out Germany.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 06, 2014, 05:05:12 PM

Grats Fistfull. Pretty sure demon is the only virgin left in the original VirginGAF gang.

Boogie paved the way for us all, brehs
:rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on May 06, 2014, 05:06:56 PM

how were the tits

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 06, 2014, 05:28:38 PM

Quote from: Esch on May 06, 2014, 05:12:25 PM

Like bags of sand?

GAF must have deleted that post because I can't find it. Although while searching I ran across this gem
http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?p=3042341&highlight=breast#post3042341

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on May 07, 2014, 11:39:03 PM

spoiler (click to show/hide)

I've been told my oral is "fantastic" not for just my first time

[close]

just sayin

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 07, 2014, 11:40:33 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on May 07, 2014, 11:39:03 PM

spoiler (click to show/hide)
I've been told my oral is "fantastic" not for just my first time
[close]

just sayin

(http://i.imgur.com/dG4nbPV.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 07, 2014, 11:45:26 PM

write the alphabet with your tongue, never goes wrong
:tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on May 07, 2014, 11:45:58 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on May 07, 2014, 11:41:50 PM

Who said watching porn won't teach you anything?

Idiots, that's who. As far as oral goes anyway.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 07, 2014, 11:52:35 PM

it's all about hoovering the labia and bean brehs. get in there like it's a reservoir of fresh mountain spring water.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 07, 2014, 11:52:56 PM

Promised myself I wouldn't cry.

(http://i.minus.com/iRZBYvuOgpGdr.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on May 07, 2014, 11:56:23 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on May 07, 2014, 11:39:03 PM

spoiler (click to show/hide)
I've been told my oral is "fantastic" not for just my first time
[close]

just sayin

Suck that clit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on May 14, 2014, 05:20:38 PM

So I got a girl from my Japanese class's phone number. So what do I do now?....

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on May 14, 2014, 05:32:12 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on May 14, 2014, 05:22:39 PM

When did you get it? Call or text during the weekend to see if she wants to hang out.

I got it a few hours ago, after the last class of the semester.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 14, 2014, 08:18:30 PM

have unprotected sex with random bar chicks brehs. I have a feeling we're gonna have an epic thread in a few weeks.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

You were a virgin? I could have sworn you weren't. Regardless grats. Sounds like you were over-thinking and nervous during the act, and that's why the bust didn't feel great. Next time will be better.

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 14, 2014, 08:19:43 PM

too long, couldn't masturbate

didn't know you were a virgeen. your first pop in a girl isn't ever as good as your handwork, but as you get less anxious and delve a little deeper into an intimate relationship, there is no comparison. especially if you both pop together. :heart

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on May 14, 2014, 08:23:04 PM

I agree with the two above posters with regards to how believable it is that awesomo wrote that post (though the part about the readers not knowing what the writer looks like should have been exorcized).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 14, 2014, 08:24:59 PM

i am tricked. for shame. >:(

awesome-o remains a virgin :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 14, 2014, 08:26:39 PM

I actually remembered that from GAF. Totally not AO's writing style either.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 14, 2014, 08:33:06 PM

Seems more like a Fistfull post...

he did say that his good head skills were complimented by the lady

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on May 15, 2014, 03:00:22 AM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on May 14, 2014, 05:43:10 PM

K, weekend sounds appropriate assuming you don't have finals.

No this is finals week, though I have no actual final test.

Anyway, I know I sound pathetic, but honestly this is as far as I've gotten. I've never gotten a girls number on my own abilities really. The girl seemes somewhat interested in me from my own biased view. I mean getting her number is a good sign right? Honestly, I'm not even sure what to say or ask? lol this is all very bad.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on May 15, 2014, 04:26:05 AM

Quote from: am nintenho on May 14, 2014, 08:26:39 PM

I actually remembered that from GAF. Totally not AO's writing style either.

Here's the giveaway:

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 14, 2014, 08:00:33 PM

She actually asked me if i had any stds earlier and i said no. I know it's not safe but i dont really care, she was a clean looking girl and very intelligent, much smarter than me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on May 16, 2014, 08:01:36 PM

Well that girl never replied to my text. I'm not going to send more then one, because I'm sure thats not gonna help. I guess that's a dead end now. On top of that I was told I look like a creep and a pedo from one of my friends well gf/fuck buddies/whatever? . Confidence at an all time high for sure.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 16, 2014, 08:27:44 PM

shoot back that ian watkins was a pedo and i'm sure she would have let him pierce her maidenhead. you gotta zip when they zap.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 16, 2014, 09:37:55 PM

How did the conversation come up, or did she just randomly say you look like a pedo? :-\

Maybe you should cut your hair breh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 17, 2014, 06:04:45 AM

5.5 year relationship down the toilet brehs. :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 17, 2014, 11:52:49 AM

Quote from: Karakand on May 17, 2014, 06:04:45 AM

5.5 year relationship down the toilet brehs. :fbm

That sucks.

Never happened to me but I have friends who ended super long relationships, and then had to deal with family members asking "is your girlfriend coming too? Oh you broke up, what happened?!" over and over again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 17, 2014, 12:51:12 PM

I'm especially looking forward to that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 17, 2014, 01:36:54 PM

Quote from: Karakand on May 17, 2014, 12:51:12 PM

I'm especially looking forward to that.

Use social media/email to your advantage. Send family a message "so and so and I have broken up, here are the relevant details I feel you're entitled to, blah blah blah, thanks k bye" and then just try not to interact with people for a month or two, so the next time you see them they're hopefully used to the idea that you're not together anymore.

That does suck, sorry man. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 17, 2014, 01:40:35 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on May 17, 2014, 01:36:54 PM

Quote from: Karakand on May 17, 2014, 12:51:12 PM
I'm especially looking forward to that.

Use social media/email to your advantage. Send family a message "so and so and I have broken up, here are the relevant details I feel you're entitled to, blah blah blah, thanks k bye" and then just try not to interact with people for a month or two, so the next time you see them they're hopefully used to the idea that you're not together anymore.

That does suck, sorry man. :(

That's not gonna work though because you know your computer illiterate grandma won't hear anything, and then on Labor Day she'll be wondering where Ariella is, then your dumbass aunt will be like "oh yea, can we get an update on that Facebook post you made about her? Are you back together?"

uncle: you broke up?
cousin: you have a Facebook?
grandad: what's Facespace?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 17, 2014, 01:45:29 PM

:yeshrug

I just interact with my nuclear family, fuck a bunch of fringe cousins, aunts n uncles, and grandparents n shit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 17, 2014, 01:47:46 PM

That's why I don't friend family on Facebook outside of my brothers, and skip multiple family events.
:yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 17, 2014, 03:00:22 PM

I told everyone in my family this morning (I don't have much of one so this was easy) and I'll probably tell my clients about it on Monday since my professional arc will need to change radically in the next 2 years. All I'll have left then are my irl friends. Being emotionally distant has its upsides from time to time. :punch

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on May 17, 2014, 11:40:50 PM

It's the way of his people.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 18, 2014, 10:50:00 AM

Admittedly, a poor choice of words

:larry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 18, 2014, 11:28:55 AM

i wish i had hot cousins

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 18, 2014, 11:46:43 AM

I do have hot cousins. Or did when I was younger. I haven't seen any of my cousins since I was like 14 I think.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 18, 2014, 11:55:03 AM

I met so many hot cousins when I went to Texas.
:whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 18, 2014, 12:33:19 PM

Quote from: Esch on May 18, 2014, 11:58:20 AM

Lust over blood relatives brehs :kobeyuck

It beats being forced to marry a random one
(http://i.imgur.com/t6s2I0h.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 18, 2014, 12:46:41 PM

:lawd

they were thick brehs. The only bad thing is that all their parents were fat, so I'd imagine they'd become fat too. The food down there is amazing but I don't see how you could eat that fried stuff all year round.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 18, 2014, 04:44:27 PM

Quote from: Karakand on May 17, 2014, 06:04:45 AM

5.5 year relationship down the toilet brehs. :fbm

Sweet, I can unfollow her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 18, 2014, 06:13:14 PM

Don't feel the need to, it's not acrimonious.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 18, 2014, 08:51:43 PM

Aw. (Sorry, man)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 18, 2014, 09:19:46 PM

Real sorry bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 19, 2014, 01:00:00 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/SocB0tP.gif)

Having one of these days where I don't know what the fuck is going on anymore, why am I even bothering, and why haven't packed my stuff sailed back home.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 19, 2014, 01:50:50 PM

Thanks breh. Esch, like the true bro he is, just gave me a call we talked it over for a bit. I feel better already.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 19, 2014, 05:31:09 PM

Fuck, I am a wreck. I ran a red light in a busy intersection because my mind was on this instead of the road. (Thankfully no one hit me.)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on May 19, 2014, 10:45:08 PM

So the thing about my new relationship with my girlfriend is that it's not going to last very long. Unfortunately she's finishing her school career shortly and is very likely moving at the end of July. Granted this is been her plan for awhile and she's acknowledged how much a poor move it was to troll OKC at this stage.

So it's a weirdly melancholic relationship right now. It gets brought up every now and then but we try not to dwell on it. Like I think we REALLY like each other but we've only been together for a few weeks. We just recently started feeling comfortable SAYING the words boyfriend/girlfriend.

We've basically fully accepted that it's gonna get really tough and weird in the end but we've also agreed that we aren't doing long distance, no way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 19, 2014, 10:51:31 PM

move with her. #yolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on May 20, 2014, 02:55:04 AM

I know a smart person would say "But you've only known her for 2 weeks, but she's your first real girlfriend" but I've actually thought about it.

shrug. we'll see what happens in 2 months.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on May 20, 2014, 10:04:57 AM

She may be the first, but won't be the last. The whole experience should be a huge boost of confidence moving forward. Congrats, breh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on May 20, 2014, 01:00:19 PM

Zero nails it. She's always going to be a special memory as your introduction into relationships, just enjoy that and be thankful for the time you get with her and the lessons you learn from it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 20, 2014, 01:05:19 PM

Plus you can remain friends if things don't work out, it's not like you never get to talk to her again once she moves.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 20, 2014, 01:34:29 PM

Sorry Karakand.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 21, 2014, 12:27:39 AM

Thanks for the sympathy y'all, I know I only recently remembered my password to post again here but it means something that internet strangers feel empathy for my self-inflicted plight.

Did much better today, but that's because my car blew up and I've been trying to sort out getting a new car.

Started on the path to my new career too I think. :punch

e: Also didn't have to work.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 21, 2014, 09:35:33 PM

Today was pretty bad (I went back to work). It's not my job's fault, it's mine for letting it grind me down, but I irrationally loathe it so much now for what I let it do to me and it's hard enough to do this shit when you're copacetic, let alone like this. To add insult to injury I'm currently on deadline so there's that fun too. Even though a client surprised me by offering to sponsor me for my CPA on Monday, I don't think I'll ever be able to stay in this field long-term because of the way I hold grudges.

One of my client's spouses (who's been through a couple of spouses and failed relationships) gave me the "it gets better talk" (which I am so fucking sick of hearing already) in that awkward "manly men don't talk about their feelings in a direct way" today too. :snoop (I appreciated the gesture, truly, especially as someone without much of a support network, it's just that people don't understand my feelings about this in their totality and I would never share them in totality because appearances mean a lot in my field when you don't have credentials.) I'm also kind of miffed that my client passed along this info but you can't really demand people keep secrets, especially from their spouses, and it wasn't done for any other reason than to try and help me.

fml :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 21, 2014, 09:53:47 PM

Good luck with the CPA breh.

How did folks at work find out?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on May 22, 2014, 07:52:36 AM

Maybe you shouldn't have facebook.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 22, 2014, 11:14:07 AM

Awesom-O seems like the type to create fake Facebook accounts and send angry messages to women on his shit list.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 22, 2014, 11:15:57 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 21, 2014, 09:53:47 PM

Good luck with the CPA breh.

How did folks at work find out?

Thank you, but I don't think I'll accept the sponsorship. Accounting (which I'm already in, just without credentials because those aren't required for a lot of business entity accounting needs) is a terrible field for someone like me. There's always work to be done and I always give of myself to do it, even when it becomes unhealthy. (I don't think civvies can ever really understand that sometimes we can't just abandon our responsibilities because of our personal lives, even if we aren't EMTs, or coppers, or w/e other professions sometimes get a pass to do this.) And as I said, I've been doing OK while away from my work but while I'm at it all I do is hate it and (most of all) myself for what I let it do to me. It might just be a phase, but I know that I can hold grudges until the cows come home, and hating myself is my national pastime. That hardly sounds like a recipe for sustained career success.

This particular client found out because they have been looking to shake up their firm (right now it's just the CPA, me, and whoever we bring on to do clerical work (they often leave quickly, a guy this year didn't even last 2 weeks :lol )) and I told them 3-4 months ago that I couldn't commit to a future there because of my relationship and the fact that I'd be moving because of it. On Monday they let me know that they had finalized their plans for the company (keeping me, getting 2 clerical workers, and bringing on another CPA with the hope of selling some of their clients to) and that I would always be welcome to stay with the company even though I couldn't commit to that vision. (We go way back and have been through a lot together professionally.) They also said that if I was interested, they wanted to sponsor me for my CPA and I could be that CPA they sold some of their clients to. Unfortunately I had to let the cat out of the bag at that point because there's no way I was in a state of mind to make a decision like that on Monday morning.

Got a new car last night, it's probably not the best deal but it's the end of the hooptie I held onto for too long because it made no sense to buy a new car when you were in my previous situation. Apparently even though I'm a total shitbird I have pretty damn good credit. (800 across all 3 credit reporting firms.) :omg :dizzy :pimp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on May 22, 2014, 11:17:42 AM

Quote from: Karakand on May 17, 2014, 12:51:12 PM

I'm especially looking forward to that.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wrULozjHqkI

edit: might just want to listen to it and not watch it; ending is sad.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 22, 2014, 01:25:06 PM

Quote from: Karakand on May 22, 2014, 11:15:57 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 21, 2014, 09:53:47 PM
Good luck with the CPA breh.

How did folks at work find out?

Thank you, but I don't think I'll accept the sponsorship. Accounting (which I'm already in, just without credentials because those aren't required for a lot of business entity accounting needs) is a terrible field for someone like me. There's always work to be done and I always give of myself to do it, even when it becomes unhealthy. (I don't think civvies can ever really understand that sometimes we can't just abandon our responsibilities because of our personal lives, even if we aren't EMTs, or coppers, or w/e other professions sometimes get a pass to do this.) And as I said, I've been doing OK while away from my work but while I'm at it all I do is hate it and (most of all) myself for what I let it do to me. It might just be a phase, but I know that I can hold grudges until the cows come home, and hating myself is my national pastime. That hardly sounds like a recipe for sustained career success.

This particular client found out because they have been looking to shake up their firm (right now it's just the CPA, me, and whoever we bring on to do clerical work (they often leave quickly, a guy this year didn't even last 2 weeks :lol )) and I told them 3-4 months ago that I couldn't commit to a future there because of my relationship and the fact that I'd be moving because of it. On Monday they let me know that they had finalized their plans for the company (keeping me, getting 2 clerical workers, and bringing on another CPA with the hope of selling some of their clients to) and that I would always be welcome to stay with the company even though I couldn't commit to that vision. (We go way back and have been through a lot together professionally.) They also said that if I was interested, they wanted to sponsor me for my CPA and I could be that CPA they sold some of their clients to. Unfortunately I had to let the cat out of the bag at that point because there's no way I was in a state of mind to make a decision like that on Monday morning.

Got a new car last night, it's probably not the best deal but it's the end of the hooptie I held onto for too long because it made no sense to buy a new car when you were in my previous situation. Apparently even though I'm a total shitbird I have pretty damn good credit. (800 across all 3 credit reporting firms.) :omg :dizzy :pimp

Ah I see. I definitely agree, I'd stay away from the CPA tests in this case too, any distractions could waste time and money.

In my experience assholes rise to the top. Personally I don't care enough about most people to hold grudges, but I'm starting to get my jimmies rustled by some work stuff; people getting rewarded for being assholes. And when I talk to friends who are working for firms it sounds like the same thing is going on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on May 22, 2014, 01:31:02 PM

Something something meritocracy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 22, 2014, 02:01:56 PM

Situation I'm in right now...

(http://i.imgur.com/tqSsJv3.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 22, 2014, 02:34:20 PM

God, Sunny's title cards are so good.

Oh nice, found a GIF

(http://i.minus.com/ixoEeCM2XoYmz.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 22, 2014, 04:00:00 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 22, 2014, 03:37:35 PM

but maybe I'm just more honorable than most.

You sound like a really nice guy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 22, 2014, 04:03:48 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 22, 2014, 03:37:35 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 22, 2014, 11:14:07 AM
Awesom-O seems like the type to create fake Facebook accounts and send angry messages to women on his shit list.

I would never do that.

I would also never date a girl who treated one of my classmates the way this girl treated me, but maybe I'm just more honorable than most.

She didn't offer you bread and salt before breaking your heart? Better call the banners and declare war breh
:heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 22, 2014, 08:06:55 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 22, 2014, 03:37:35 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 22, 2014, 11:14:07 AM
Awesom-O seems like the type to create fake Facebook accounts and send angry messages to women on his shit list.

I would never do that.

I would also never date a girl who treated one of my classmates the way this girl treated me, but maybe I'm just more honorable than most.

Wait why is she still on your friends list?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on May 22, 2014, 09:24:18 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on May 22, 2014, 02:34:20 PM

God, Sunny's title cards are so good.

Oh nice, found a GIF

(http://i.minus.com/ixoEeCM2XoYmz.gif)

Ironically enough, my gf and I were watching this episode on Netflix last nite, she loves the show...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 22, 2014, 09:33:50 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 22, 2014, 01:25:06 PM

In my experience assholes rise to the top. Personally I don't care enough about most people to hold grudges, but I'm starting to get my jimmies rustled by some work stuff; people getting rewarded for being assholes. And when I talk to friends who are working for firms it sounds like the same thing is going on.

That's a good attitude, you don't want to be someone like me.

And while assholes might get ahead, you're not going to get ahead holding a grudge against your occupation itself like I am atm.

On an unrelated note, I wrote a bunch of emo shit that I then deleted before hitting post. I'm like a day removed from starting a LiveJournal. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on May 23, 2014, 03:10:58 AM

Why the hell would someone not date another person you had your own exclusive drama with? Who are you to them?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 23, 2014, 09:12:45 AM

What moral code? She wasn't your girlfriend. If this was a case of your buddy dating a chick you had been with for awhile sure - that's a man code violation. But this girl wasn't in a relationship with you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 23, 2014, 11:20:49 AM

Quote from: tiesto on May 22, 2014, 09:24:18 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on May 22, 2014, 02:34:20 PM
God, Sunny's title cards are so good.

Oh nice, found a GIF

(http://i.minus.com/ixoEeCM2XoYmz.gif)

Ironically enough, my gf and I were watching this episode on Netflix last nite, she loves the show...

the first time my now wife and I hung out we stayed up at a friend's house until 5am watching south park and making out :lol

she wouldn't give me the p tho >:(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 23, 2014, 11:47:21 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 23, 2014, 10:34:14 AM

Discussing this further requires details I'd rather not get into. I'll just take the L on this one.

:dead

This better not include a written letter.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 23, 2014, 12:02:26 PM

It's a Chekhov's gun situation, or in this case Shinobi's rabbit: you can't introduce it and not cook it. This L is going to be explained or we will theorycraft.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 23, 2014, 12:03:30 PM

one day his porridge will be just right

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 23, 2014, 06:51:25 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 23, 2014, 12:02:26 PM

It's a Chekhov's gun situation, or in this case Shinobi's rabbit: you can't introduce it and not cook it. This L is going to be explained or we will theorycraft.

I think it might the one from a post he wrote awhile back and then deleted (for reasons I completely understand, this isn't that private a forum).

And if I'm being wrong about it feel free to blast me with some patented G***n S*****i vitriol.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on May 23, 2014, 08:53:56 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 22, 2014, 03:37:35 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 22, 2014, 11:14:07 AM
Awesom-O seems like the type to create fake Facebook accounts and send angry messages to women on his shit list.

I would never do that.

I would also never date a girl who treated one of my classmates the way this girl treated me, but maybe I'm just more honorable than most.

Getting into that way of thinking is a trap for yourself. Please be wary.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 25, 2014, 05:50:05 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 22, 2014, 01:25:06 PM

Quote from: Karakand on May 22, 2014, 11:15:57 AM
Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 21, 2014, 09:53:47 PM
Good luck with the CPA breh.

How did folks at work find out?

Thank you, but I don't think I'll accept the sponsorship. Accounting (which I'm already in, just without credentials because those aren't required for a lot of business entity accounting needs) is a terrible field for someone like me. There's always work to be done and I always give of myself to do it, even when it becomes unhealthy. (I don't think civvies can ever really understand that sometimes we can't just abandon our responsibilities because of our personal lives, even if we aren't EMTs, or coppers, or w/e other professions sometimes get a pass to do this.) And as I said, I've been doing OK while away from my work but while I'm at it all I do is hate it and (most of all) myself for what I let it do to me. It might just be a phase, but I know that I can hold grudges until the cows come home, and hating myself is my national pastime. That hardly sounds like a recipe for sustained career success.

This particular client found out because they have been looking to shake up their firm (right now it's just the CPA, me, and whoever we bring on to do clerical work (they often leave quickly, a guy this year didn't even last 2 weeks :lol )) and I told them 3-4 months ago that I couldn't commit to a future there because of my relationship and the fact that I'd be moving because of it. On Monday they let me know that they had finalized their plans for the company (keeping me, getting 2 clerical workers, and bringing on another CPA with the hope of selling some of their clients to) and that I would always be welcome to stay with the company even though I couldn't commit to that vision. (We go way back and have been through a lot together professionally.) They also said that if I was interested, they wanted to sponsor me for my CPA and I could be that CPA they sold some of their clients to. Unfortunately I had to let the cat out of the bag at that point because there's no way I was in a state of mind to make a decision like that on Monday morning.

Got a new car last night, it's probably not the best deal but it's the end of the hooptie I held onto for too long because it made no sense to buy a new car when you were in my previous situation. Apparently even though I'm a total shitbird I have pretty damn good credit. (800 across all 3 credit reporting firms.) :omg :dizzy :pimp

Ah I see. I definitely agree, I'd stay away from the CPA tests in this case too, any distractions could waste time and money.

In my experience assholes rise to the top. Personally I don't care enough about most people to hold grudges, but I'm starting to get my jimmies rustled by some work stuff; people getting rewarded for being assholes. And when I talk to friends who are working for firms it sounds like the same thing is going on.

Yeah, that's how it goes generally. Where I work, upper management consists of these types:

- Sociopaths who don't even bother pretending exhibiting the slightest formalities of social interaction.
- Work 16-20 hours a day six days a week, taking a half day on Sunday
- Reflexively tries to find someone nearby to throw under the bus if something goes wrong
- Keeps quiet and hidden if they fucked up but is leading the witch hunt if they know for sure they didn't fuck something up

That is the key to corporate success: always be on a rampage, work insane hours, and try to make sure that nothing ever sticks to you

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 25, 2014, 07:05:38 PM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on May 25, 2014, 05:50:05 PM

That is the key to corporate success: always be on a rampage, work insane hours, and try to make sure that nothing ever sticks to you

Agree 100%.

-------------

I contacted my ex last Friday with a long note, mainly thanking her for giving me a respectful breakup I didn't deserve, and also for everything she'd done for me in our relationship. I also explained what happened to me last year that started the long, slow descent into our relationship ending. (I'd kept it all hidden from her as it was going on and wanted to let her know why I'd hurt her so much now that things are over. It was selfish of me, but I know that it hurts when people do bad things to you and you don't know why. And just for closure, I did something that I should have done months ago but didn't because I'm a perpetual fuck up.)

I got a nice response back from her today and the gist of it (after the pleasantries) was, "I wish I could say I was surprised by the truth now that I know it, but in a way I'm not."

It's not going to be easy, but I have to make a lot of fundamental changes in my life now, and about who I am as a person. I'll never be with a partner of her caliber again, but maybe someday I'll find one I don't eventually destroy with the weight of my emotional being.

ل

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 26, 2014, 12:37:57 AM

sounds like me in 6-12 months

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 26, 2014, 12:41:08 AM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on May 26, 2014, 12:37:57 AM

sounds like me in 6-12 months

Be strong. I believe in you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on May 26, 2014, 12:34:50 PM

wait were you guys even friends though? I thought he was just a classmate.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 26, 2014, 01:02:34 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 26, 2014, 10:42:26 AM

Confirmed what I had suspected earlier. Welp, that's just one friend who's dead to me.

At various points in life before this I thought I knew what salt was. Boy was I wrong.

Somebody needs to watch Frozen until they figure it out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on May 26, 2014, 01:04:40 PM

(http://37.media.tumblr.com/2c75da1e24622e0ebce4097737dadc80/tumblr_n444stT4xr1s25wgdo1_1280.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 26, 2014, 02:27:38 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 26, 2014, 02:22:37 PM

Will not happen.

I may see this dude at a graduation in a few weeks. Trying to think of absolutely the most cutting series of words possible. Nothing is really off limits here. Hopefully it doesn't end up in a jerk store situation, but this dude isn't that quick.

Idgaf how I come I off. Logic not at all.

Get a hold of yourself and get help for your obvious anger issues.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on May 26, 2014, 02:57:00 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 26, 2014, 02:22:37 PM

Will not happen.

I may see this dude at a graduation in a few weeks. Trying to think of absolutely the most cutting series of words possible. Nothing is really off limits here. Hopefully it doesn't end up in a jerk store situation, but this dude isn't that quick.

Idgaf how I come I off. Logic not at all.

Just curious, have you considered throwing coffee at them while they are out having a good time?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on May 26, 2014, 03:01:18 PM

You're seeing someone else now, right? Things are going well and you like her?

Does she know you're still so hung up on another young woman that you're still stewing over it, and plotting a devastating zinger weeks in advance, aimed at the guy who's dating her now? How do you expect that'd make her feel? How would you feel if the situation were reversed? C'mon man.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on May 26, 2014, 03:02:21 PM

Sage advice: masturbate 10 times before you do anything.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on May 26, 2014, 03:40:11 PM

Entitlement brehs.

:gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 26, 2014, 04:10:14 PM

I'm going to be completely honest here: you need therapy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on May 26, 2014, 04:13:25 PM

If you're not willing to take advise than get the fuck out of this thread. We had one happy story, we don't need to see this shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 26, 2014, 04:13:59 PM

The instances where you are losing your shit are happening more and more often.

Get help. I'm sure UCLA has someone they can connect you to for a discounted rate or for free.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on May 26, 2014, 04:18:44 PM

I'll post it here instead of the other thread..

Awesom-o, you come off really angry, entitled and a fucking jerk about how you handle rejection. You want to pretend like you just vent here and play up the anger but it's come to a point where it's pretty obvious you think these things on the regular and it needs to be dealt with. You post then try to laugh it off as just fleeting thoughts you've put in text, we're just not buying it simply because, those are thoughts we just don't even entertain period. They are the thoughts born of someone who thinks just because he has an interest in someone they need to cater to his whims on everything, even how they decline his attentions. That's not how reality works. That's not how it should work. You're dealing with people with their own thoughts and desires. Yes some people will be rather callous or not upfront about their rejection or string you along, but are you really getting self-righteous about that fact when you clearly post about how people have "betrayed" you who have the most tenuous link to yourself? I read other things you have to say and you're not stupid, you can dissect and analyze politics, but when it comes to yourself and your obviously entitled and toxic mindset towards what you expect of people just because you were "nice" or "attracted" to them, I fucking cringe so hard.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: etiolate on May 26, 2014, 04:48:29 PM

1. I don't know how much of Shinobi to take seriously. This is a problem with the internet and post-irony.
2. Most of you view others as cartoon characters instead of real people. This makes any sort of discussion like this hard.

Continue on with being pieces of shit now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 26, 2014, 05:00:32 PM

It's OK to get mad AO, but what we do with that anger is what makes us either unhealthy or healthy. If you use these incidents of rage to reflect on yourself and where it's really coming from and how you can stop the cycle for yourself in the future, then being mad wasn't such a bad thing after all. If you just keep feeling mad all the time and venting online things you wouldn't want people irl to see, or displacing your anger onto others, you're not being healthy and locking yourself into a vicious emotional cycle long-term where you will be nothing but sad and alone.

In a way I wish that there were heavier (in the way Zygmunt Bauman described them) social structures for all of us to lean on (without the horrible things they had in their historical manifestations), but this is the era of liquid modernity and you aren't going to change that. No one owes you loyalty unless there's a signed contract, and even those can be broken. Your friends have to think about the rest of their lives and their own happiness, and you should be thinking about yours too instead of looking for reasons to feel betrayed by them. And shit, even the fucking Baratheons couldn't stay loyal to each other, how the hell are the rest of us going to do any better.

Quote from: CajoleJuice on May 26, 2014, 12:37:57 AM

sounds like me in 6-12 months

Son, just never shut her out, never think you can do it alone, and never stop trying to be your best. You've got a tough relationship like your pops had, but that doesn't mean you have to repeat his mistakes.

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on May 26, 2014, 01:04:35 AM

I understand being sad, buddy. But you'll be on your feet and going strong pretty soon. I wish you the best of luck with all that.

Thanks for the well wishes, but it's not just being sad, it's facing myself and that's the hardest part of all of it, especially since I need to face things from half a decade or more ago.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 26, 2014, 05:01:21 PM

:whew So much real talk.

Glad it comes after an etoilet post about post-irony or whatever shit he harps about. Give that sucker a flush y'all!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 26, 2014, 05:14:11 PM

Quote from: etiolate on May 26, 2014, 04:48:29 PM

1. I don't know how much of Shinobi to take seriously. This is a problem with the internet and post-irony.
2. Most of you view others as cartoon characters instead of real people. This makes any sort of discussion like this hard.

Continue on with being pieces of shit now.

This is sage advice from someone who spends so much of his life as some sort of cartoon rabbit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 26, 2014, 06:42:49 PM

Was this the girl that you "hung out" with and then when you properly asked her out, she said yes but then ignored you?

What she did was because of fear/confusion, and clearly the best thing to do is reach inside of yourself and forgive her. Even getting to the point of sending a message saying "It's okay I understand why you did that and don't blame you, good luck on graduation and the new relationship." Getting angry won't solve a damn thing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 26, 2014, 06:56:55 PM

There's nothing wrong with feeling bad about being rejected. I still remember back when I was a freshman and sent a face pic to a 38 year old bbw on Craigslist, and she never contacted me back. She wasn't even good looking, which made it sting even more. But you're supposed to dust yourself off and move on to the next one.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 26, 2014, 07:33:08 PM

Your mistake was sending a face pic. A 38 year old bbw is after one thing- should have led with the dick pic. AMATEUR HOUR UP IN HERE, BREHS.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on May 26, 2014, 08:13:23 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 26, 2014, 02:22:37 PM

Will not happen.

I may see this dude at a graduation in a few weeks. Trying to think of absolutely the most cutting series of words possible. Nothing is really off limits here. Hopefully it doesn't end up in a jerk store situation, but this dude isn't that quick.

Idgaf how I come I off. Logic not at all.

Awesom-O, I also think you need counseling, and if you're on any kind of psychiatric medication you are not helping yourself with further chemical imbalance from alcohol.

I fear that you have obsessive tendencies and considerable anger management problems stemming from an inability to empathize with people who don't see the world identically to you. Ask yourself if you're happy with the way you see the world, and if you'd be happy if everyone in the world was suffering like you do, inside your own head, every day. Is that what you want? Wouldn't it be better if there were a worldview which allowed for people to be happy and satisfied?

Quote from: etiolate on May 26, 2014, 04:48:29 PM

1. I don't know how much of Shinobi to take seriously. This is a problem with the internet and post-irony.
2. Most of you view others as cartoon characters instead of real people. This makes any sort of discussion like this hard.

Continue on with being pieces of shit now.

I'm unclear on how much actual accusatory poo-flinging you're intending here, or if it's defensive sarcasm of your own. So far pretty much has shown legitimate concern for Awesom-O / GlenShinobi / Puddles despite their usual tendency to try and troll and goad him into apoplectic fits.

On the heels of an angry white dude going to school in SoCal, feeling like he's entitled to the world accommodating his needs, dealing poorly with rejection, and finally going on killing spree, I suspect The Bore of being UNUSUALLY SENSITIVE to his situation, and SINCERE in their desire for him to seek and receive help.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 26, 2014, 08:38:59 PM

Quote from: Karakand on May 26, 2014, 05:00:32 PM

Son, just never shut her out, never think you can do it alone, and never stop trying to be your best. You've got a tough relationship like your pops had, but that doesn't mean you have to repeat his mistakes.

Thanks, Dad. Really. :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 26, 2014, 10:29:24 PM

surely you understand we're befuddled because this girl wasn't your girlfriend, you weren't in a relationship with her, etc yet you're acting like he broke a man code by picking up your ex. He didn't do anything wrong. You struck out with the chick and he picked her up, how is that illegal?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on May 26, 2014, 10:34:28 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 26, 2014, 10:29:24 PM

surely you understand we're befuddled because this girl wasn't your girlfriend, you weren't in a relationship with her, etc yet you're acting like he broke a man code by picking up your ex. He didn't do anything wrong. You struck out with the chick and he picked her up, how is that illegal?

Having not kept up too much with the details or knowing what AWESOM-O has shared, he seems to have three main problems with his classmate/friend's behavior:

1) He is tricksy

2) He stole precious

3) We hates him

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on May 26, 2014, 10:39:39 PM

if one of your classmates had ended a relationship with another girl in the class, and you found the girl attractive and there was chemistry, would you not ask her out for the sake of your classmate?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on May 26, 2014, 10:40:10 PM

There have been many times when I've acted out in anger and it only ended up burning me in the end.

One example I'm willing to share (because the others are too embarrassing): On the bus ride back from my high school senior trip I told some chick to shut the fuck up because she was making a lot of annoying sounds and then I ended up looking like the bad guy because of it. Especially when she came up to me, hugged me, and told me she was sorry... Felt like such a piece of shit. :-\

After that and many other events I've been trying to mellow down as much as possible.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 26, 2014, 10:47:44 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 26, 2014, 10:34:35 PM

You may think this is a different person. I was dating this girl for a few months.

Was this the one who broke things off because of something's name? (I'm trying to be ambiguous for your privacy.)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on May 26, 2014, 11:02:00 PM

Quote from: Mandark on May 26, 2014, 10:34:28 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 26, 2014, 10:29:24 PM
surely you understand we're befuddled because this girl wasn't your girlfriend, you weren't in a relationship with her, etc yet you're acting like he broke a man code by picking up your ex. He didn't do anything wrong. You struck out with the chick and he picked her up, how is that illegal?

Having not kept up too much with the details or knowing what AWESOM-O has shared, he seems to have three main problems with his classmate/friend's behavior:

1) He is tricksy

2) He stole precious

3) We hates him

omg :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on May 26, 2014, 11:05:46 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 26, 2014, 10:15:28 PM

Y'all ARE being overly sensitive. I'm going to use harsh language on a dude who started dating an ex. You can argue about how much entitlement it takes to justify such an action to yourself, but I'd be fairly comfortable betting that most of you have had a similar urge at some point in your lives, and also that you or someone you would call a good friend has actually done this.

never thought about it once, and i've had more break-ups than andrex has pubes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on May 26, 2014, 11:09:08 PM

Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on May 26, 2014, 11:08:02 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on May 26, 2014, 11:05:46 PM
Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 26, 2014, 10:15:28 PM
Y'all ARE being overly sensitive. I'm going to use harsh language on a dude who started dating an ex. You can argue about how much entitlement it takes to justify such an action to yourself, but I'd be fairly comfortable betting that most of you have had a similar urge at some point in your lives, and also that you or someone you would call a good friend has actually done this.

never thought about it once, and i've had more break-ups than andrex has pubes.

Married the first one you dated, then?

SPIKED IT, BABY

(probably the 20th or so, but point conceded)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on May 26, 2014, 11:14:44 PM

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Post by: Tasty on May 26, 2014, 11:15:14 PM

Quote from: Oscar the Grouch on May 26, 2014, 11:08:02 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on May 26, 2014, 11:05:46 PM
Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 26, 2014, 10:15:28 PM
Y'all ARE being overly sensitive. I'm going to use harsh language on a dude who started dating an ex. You can argue about how much entitlement it takes to justify such an action to yourself, but I'd be fairly comfortable betting that most of you have had a similar urge at some point in your lives, and also that you or someone you would call a good friend has actually done this.

never thought about it once, and i've had more break-ups than andrex has pubes.

Married the first one you dated, then?

(http://i.imgur.com/9r1FxlP.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on May 26, 2014, 11:17:21 PM

Quote from: Esch on May 26, 2014, 11:16:35 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on May 26, 2014, 11:14:44 PM
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I saw before the edit (http://i.minus.com/jt17IHvzZD5Zh.png)

it was a response to a post bebpo made about how he loves being adorbs, and it wasn't chronologically in order. :-(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 26, 2014, 11:36:09 PM

My best group of friends in the world, the dudes I went to college with and lived together with for several years, several of us have dated other's exes before. Sometimes, we were THE NEXT GUY. In one instance, a girl (who we're all still friends with today) was in a relationship with my best friend, got drunk and fucked another one of our friends one night.

Even back then in the drug addled haze of our early 20's, no one got up in anyone's face. Everyone either handled shit like adults, or just shrugged and said, "that's life, man."

So, that's who you're more emotionally immature than. A bunch of idiot, constantly fucked up on whatever substance they could get their hands on early 20 somethings.

Reassess your life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on May 27, 2014, 09:39:16 AM

Oh yeah, hiding that you're bipolar from her would have fixed everything...

C'mon, man. She wasnt the one, move on. Hiding things like that ain't how relationships work.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 27, 2014, 09:51:41 AM

I bet the real problem is that the guy is a Liberal Arts major.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 27, 2014, 10:01:00 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 27, 2014, 09:51:41 AM

I bet the real problem is that the guy is a Liberal Arts major.

good news is that only 2% of firms are looking to hire him.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on May 27, 2014, 10:35:31 AM

You'll get it figured out dude, take care of yo head

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 27, 2014, 11:21:39 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 27, 2014, 09:51:41 AM

I bet the real problem is that the guy is a Liberal Arts major.

we're all about #stealyogirl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 27, 2014, 03:48:02 PM

Awesome-O, it doesn't matter in the end. You can play what if's all day but all they're doing it basically keeping you stuck in mud. Put that shit in first and move forward

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on May 27, 2014, 04:18:13 PM

You need to get the fuck over her before you date someone else. All the other bullshit aside it's not fair to your current interest.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 27, 2014, 05:09:11 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 27, 2014, 03:44:35 PM

Still, I wonder about how things might have gone if I'd told her like six months after we started dating, instead of like a month after. If she'd had enough time to see that I'm basically extremely stable and high-functioning IRL.

I know it's useless to think about this, but I do. Something else to talk about on Thursday.

Thank you for talking with us about this, I know the last time you did you later edited your post because it was a risk you weren't ready to take. Mental health awareness is light years away from what it once was, but society is still so ableist, especially with mental health.

If you had told her 6 months later it wouldn't have mattered. People already covered the deception thing, so I'm not going to rehash that with you other than to say you can't deceive the people you love, it destroys both you during the process and them as it's going on, and when they finally learn the truth. I can talk to you about where she was coming from when she left you at a personal level, though.

I don't know if bipolarity ran in your family or not (I believe they think it is partly genetic?), and please don't feel the need to tell me if it does, but it does in mine and the bipolarity of one of my parents absolutely destroyed my family growing up. I love that parent and am so grateful for everything they gave me--even if my behaviors and actions have often indicated otherwise--but they were also never as committed to treating their disease as you are with yours, AO, (times were different for mental health care then, and I have no right to judge them even if things weren't, I merely state this as a matter of fact) and it ruined us all so terribly. My sibling sees multiple shrinks and support groups and my other parent is basically a recluse waiting to die.

If you've gone through that with someone you love it's such a hard thing to face doing again because love is unconditional. I know I'm at ground zero with my romantic life now and this is just pipe dream talk (more like "winning the lottery" wishful thinking, if I'm being frank), but when I had my life on track for a wife and a possible family of my own, I was always utterly terrified that I'd have a bipolar child myself someday because I'm not sure I could handle loving another bipolar person, no matter how well it was treated, or how great a person they ended up being. There's just too much pain and memories it would dredge up and I knew as a parent I'd have to eat all those awful feelings inside me to love. I know that you had a different formation of the disease than her parent did, but you can't know how triggering just the word bipolar is if you've experienced it bad and inescapably, or at least I really hope you don't know.

I know that you feel like you've been wronged by all this, and I won't dispute that the cards in life you've been dealt aren't the fairest, but I'm going to give you some real talk: even if you think you might have been growing to love this girl, you didn't love her. If you did love her, letting her go so that should could be happy and not constantly triggered or anxious by her past by being romantically involved with you would have been a difficult choice for you to make, but you would have done it in the end, and you wouldn't be so angry that she's on the track to being happy now (hopefully). Like I said, love's unconditional, even if it's unreciprocated by those we love.

People have been beating you up a lot itt and elsewhere at The Bore lately but you're a stand up fella for telling her about your own medical history so early in your relationship when you learned about her childhood. She didn't have the right to know your medical history that early on in your relationship, and it didn't matter enough to her to ask about it up front, but you could sense that she needed to know and you let her know. In the end that decision put you through a lot of pain and memories you regret, but at least you weren't a coward or a liar, and those are character traits you can always build from to be the best person you can be, no matter what else you've got working against you. One of the things I dread the most about dating again is having to do the same thing because unlike you I am a coward and a liar.

Real Talk Express now departing Karakand Station. All aboard. :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on May 27, 2014, 05:47:04 PM

:tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on May 27, 2014, 09:48:45 PM

now that, ladies and gents, is a proper mensch.

:bow karakand :bow2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 28, 2014, 04:12:59 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 27, 2014, 05:26:27 PM

That is the best thing anyone could have said to me. I'm almost about to start crying here in the campus library, but I needed to read that. Thank you so much.

You're welcome. I really am glad it helped, you've been in such a dark place. What I talked about was a hard thing to talk about, and I'm so sorry you couldn't hear the things I said from her instead of me, but at least you finally did hear them. (And were able to listen to them, that's not easy either.)

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on May 27, 2014, 09:48:45 PM

now that, ladies and gents, is a proper mensch.

:bow karakand :bow2

There are things I put in that post to a bunch of semi-strangers on the internet (I've known some of y'all like 7+ years via GAF, but I don't think I will exactly cause any offense when I say we ain't exactly bffs) that I'd never told my ex in the 5 years of our relationship, even though she'd been with me to some of the darkest places I've ever been in my life and stayed by my side, because I didn't trust her enough to think that she'd want to be with me knowing that I'm not just a funny, shameless flirt who can seemingly shrug off anything, but a person with an emotional past that I can't quite let go of and hopes, dreams, and fears of my own.

I'm no mensch, just a fucking putz who's finally realizing that I don't have to be one for the rest of my life, even if it's only alone in the dark (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Comes_the_Inquisitor).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 28, 2014, 09:42:48 PM

this thread :tocry (http://i.imgur.com/8j4rH.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on May 29, 2014, 01:23:52 AM

Quote from: Karakand on May 27, 2014, 05:09:11 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 27, 2014, 03:44:35 PM
Still, I wonder about how things might have gone if I'd told her like six months after we started dating, instead of like a month after. If she'd had enough time to see that I'm basically extremely stable and high-functioning IRL.

I know it's useless to think about this, but I do. Something else to talk about on Thursday.

Thank you for talking with us about this, I know the last time you did you later edited your post because it was a risk you weren't ready to take. Mental health awareness is light years away from what it once was, but society is still so ableist, especially with mental health.

If you had told her 6 months later it wouldn't have mattered. People already covered the deception thing, so I'm not going to rehash that with you other than to say you can't deceive the people you love, it destroys both you during the process and them as it's going on, and when they finally learn the truth. I can talk to you about where she was coming from when she left you at a personal level, though.

I don't know if bipolarity ran in your family or not (I believe they think it is partly genetic?), and please don't feel the need to tell me if it does, but it does in mine and the bipolarity of one of my parents absolutely destroyed my family growing up. I love that parent and am so grateful for everything they gave me--even if my behaviors and actions have often indicated otherwise--but they were also never as committed to treating their disease as you are with yours, AO, (times were different for mental health care then, and I have no right to judge them even if things weren't, I merely state this as a matter of fact) and it ruined us all so terribly. My sibling sees multiple shrinks and support groups and my other parent is basically a recluse waiting to die.

If you've gone through that with someone you love it's such a hard thing to face doing again because love is unconditional. I know I'm at ground zero with my romantic life now and this is just pipe dream talk (more like "winning the lottery" wishful thinking, if I'm being frank), but when I had my life on track for a wife and a possible family of my own, I was always utterly terrified that I'd have a bipolar child myself someday because I'm not sure I could handle loving another bipolar person, no matter how well it was treated, or how great a person they ended up being. There's just too much pain and memories it would dredge up and I knew as a parent I'd have to eat all those awful feelings inside me to love. I know that you had a different formation of the disease than her parent did, but you can't know how triggering just the word bipolar is if you've experienced it bad and inescapably, or at least I really hope you don't know.

I know that you feel like you've been wronged by all this, and I won't dispute that the cards in life you've been dealt aren't the fairest, but I'm going to give you some real talk: even if you think you might have been growing to love this girl, you didn't love her. If you did love her, letting her go so that should could be happy and not constantly triggered or anxious by her past by being romantically involved with you would have been a difficult choice for you to make, but you would have done it in the end, and you wouldn't be so angry that she's on the track to being happy now (hopefully). Like I said, love's unconditional, even if it's unreciprocated by those we love.

People have been beating you up a lot itt and elsewhere at The Bore lately but you're a stand up fella for telling her about your own medical history so early in your relationship when you learned about her childhood. She didn't have the right to know your medical history that early on in your relationship, and it didn't matter enough to her to ask about it up front, but you could sense that she needed to know and you let her know. In the end that decision put you through a lot of pain and memories you regret, but at least you weren't a coward or a liar, and those are character traits you can always build from to be the best person you can be, no matter what else you've got working against you. One of the things I dread the most about dating again is having to do the same thing because unlike you I am a coward and a liar.

Real Talk Express now departing Karakand Station. All aboard. :whew

:bow KARAKAND :bow2

So much REALTALK in that post. Spot-on.

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 28, 2014, 08:41:53 PM

Jesus, the posts bashing me on the last page got more likes than a George Takei status.

Fuck you fucks :lol

I think if you re-read, even the bashing ones are legitimately concerned for you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on May 29, 2014, 01:46:38 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 28, 2014, 08:41:53 PM

Jesus, the posts bashing me on the last page got more likes than a George Takei status.

Fuck you fucks :lol

Flipping out so the rest of us can collect Likes. :rejoice

Don't let anyone call you selfish.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 29, 2014, 05:00:57 PM

Last night the spouse of an accountant I often contract with took me rich people bar hopping to cheer me up, but after a few drinks we just talked heavy shit about love, family, and pain. :larry :tocry

Apparently what happened with me is not entirely unique, and the accountant I often contract with is a lot like how I am but no longer want to be. (I guess that's why we work so well together). And as a result, the spouse who took me out feels similar things about the accountant I often contract for that my ex probably felt about me. It was therapeutic to try and explain to a civvie what the trade does to you wrt secrecy ("confidentiality" in professional terminology), how disciplined you have to be to not fall into unhealthy emotional behavior as a result of that, and just trying to be a tough guy who doesn't burden people, even when you really do need help. I know they're the kind of things a partner would disregard as excuse-making or bargaining if they heard it from their partner themselves in a spat, but maybe hearing that from a third party who only wants the best for everyone involved will be illuminating. It's probably greedy of me to go 2 for 2 on reaching people in a deep despair this week, but all I've got left in life now is my ambition. :punch

On a mildly humorous note, let me tell y'all something, when (if, preferably) you get the "I'm so heartbroken I can't bring myself to eat" blues, DO NOT break your emotional fasting with lobster enchiladas in chile de arbol sauce and sour cream. I've subjected my body to a lot in life, but that's a trip I'd rather take again. I think I'll go with a grilled cheese sandwich next time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 29, 2014, 06:27:49 PM

Quote from: Karakand on May 29, 2014, 05:00:57 PM

Last night the spouse of an accountant I often contract with took me rich people bar hopping to cheer me up, but after a few drinks we just talked heavy shit about love, family, and pain. :larry :tocry

Apparently what happened with me is not entirely unique, and the accountant I often contract with is a lot like how I am but no longer want to be. (I guess that's why we work so well together). And as a result, the spouse who took me out feels similar things about the accountant I often contract for that my ex probably felt about me. It was therapeutic to try and explain to a civvie what the trade does to you wrt secrecy ("confidentiality" in professional terminology), how disciplined you have to be to not fall into unhealthy emotional behavior as a result of that, and just trying to be a tough guy who doesn't burden people, even when you really do need help. I know they're the kind of things a partner would disregard as excuse-making or bargaining if they heard it from their partner themselves in a spat, but maybe hearing that from a third party who only wants the best for everyone involved will be illuminating. It's probably greedy of me to go 2 for 2 on reaching people in a deep despair this week, but all I've got left in life now is my ambition. :punch

On a mildly humorous note, let me tell y'all something, when (if, preferably) you get the "I'm so heartbroken I can't bring myself to eat" blues, DO NOT break your emotional fasting with lobster enchiladas in chile de arbol sauce and sour cream. I've subjected my body to a lot in life, but that's a trip I'd rather take again. I think I'll go with a grilled cheese sandwich next time.

I don't think the bolded is true in a healthy relationship. Knowing your partner and being able to discern when they're actually struggling is definitely a required skill. I would only write it off as excuses if my partner continuously deceived me regarding it. Otherwise it sounds like a lack of trust. If my partner says they're having a tough time with something I don't brush it off as nonsense, I try to help them fix it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 29, 2014, 07:04:13 PM

Change "a partner" to "that partner" in the bolded. I meant them specifically, not in general.

And of course it's unhealthy, we're talking about someone on their third marriage confiding things they can't say to their spouse to some schmuck who works for them after a few margaritas too many.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 29, 2014, 07:30:18 PM

Ah okay. I thought you were making a general statement with that line. Nvm then

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on May 29, 2014, 09:07:19 PM

Wish I could have an experience like that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 29, 2014, 10:44:55 PM

One day you'll find that special shrink, son. One day.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on May 29, 2014, 11:13:22 PM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 31, 2014, 11:34:51 AM

I don't usually remember dreams when I wake up, never really have unless I was ill the night before, but I did remember the dream I had last night after I did eventually fall asleep. (It was hard to fall asleep because Friday was our night every week, and the night we broke up, and I can't help but think about that when Friday night comes now. Thanks for sobbing about Zeon last stands in U.C. Gundams with me Himu, it helped me not have to face that last night, if only for a while. I'm no Bernie, except maybe when it comes to not speaking my feelings when I should have.)

Anyways, I dreamt that she found me at a hotel (they were a common fixture of our relationship, and the reason why is irrelevant to this post) and we talked over candle light, I think I had been eating alone and know I was definitely not expecting her. I dreamt that unlike the night we broke up, she was willing to listen to me. Unlike that night, I could mean a lot more of what I was saying because I'm in a different place now than I was then. Unlike the night we broke up, none of what I was saying was repelling her, she even seemed like she was considering what I was saying instead of just letting me say my say so that she could reject it flatly and it would make it easier for me to accept her decision. When I'd said all I had to say, she gave it a lot of thought and was about to say something in response when...

my alarm went off because I had irl responsibilities to deal with early on a Saturday, and I woke up alone knowing that I am alone instead of waking up knowing someone loves me, and it broke my heart in a way that I haven't felt in the last 2 weeks.

Then I saw that I had Twitter interactions on my phone and excitedly opened the app, maybe my dream had be some odd sort of subconscious clairvoyance, and that maybe there was a notification that I had DM from her. But no, it wasn't that, it wasn't anything I really care about, it was just more people laughing about an anarcho-capitalist rap song I'd posted on Twitter last night. Whoop-de-do. Hooray. The world is mine.

I know you know I saw your tweet last night son, and I'm sorry I didn't raise you right, but trust me no matter how hard it might seem now, it's even harder to deal with the aftermath of not dealing with it, and it fucking hurts a lot more.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on May 31, 2014, 08:37:04 PM

some advice plz

i want to talk to my gf about the notion of going moving together, to see where she stands on it in serious context. but she's under a lot of pressure because her thesis is due soon. i feel i should wait until thats out of the way because this might be too much drama. but i don't want to wait too long as the longer i wait the harder the decision is.

thoughts?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 31, 2014, 08:42:43 PM

I'd let her finish the thesis, and then bring it up. It'll be tricky because the longer you want, the more concrete her moving plans could become.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 01, 2014, 12:10:43 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on May 31, 2014, 01:38:40 PM

Oh god, that fucking kills.

About five years ago I had what was initially the best relationship of my life, by far. I said I've only ever loved two people: she was the first. Everything before her was a joke compared to that, and if I'm honest, everything afterwards was as well. She broke up with me due to huge mistakes I made that I won't get into here.

For a long time I would have dreams where she would want to get back together, and everything was wonderful. The feeling you get when you wake up and realize it wasn't real... absolutely crushing.

They got less frequent after awhile, but I still have them sometimes. The waking up part gets easier though.

Thank you for sharing that, I would be lying if I said it brought me any solace to know I'll have to face this again, but at least we have #solidarity. :meeble

My initial post about this was kinda shitposty and I'm sorry about that, this is the only social media where I have something resembling community and confidence that my ex is completely unaware of its existence so I feel more liberal about posting my feelings. (In her last email to me she complimented me on taking all this much better than she ever could have imagined.) On my Twitter (which she follows) I have to do embarrassing shit like post Fairuz lyrics in Arabic when I just need to be blue.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 01, 2014, 04:17:32 PM

Would you say she is your khaleesi?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 01, 2014, 06:49:51 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on June 01, 2014, 12:15:13 AM

Quote from: Karakand on June 01, 2014, 12:10:43 AM
I have to do embarrassing shit like post Fairuz lyrics in Arabic when I just need to be blue.

A non-arab on The Bore listens to Fairuz, now I've seen everything. :lol

Hey man dirastu al-'rabi hawal khams sanawaat, I'm practically ibn 'amak. :mynicca Wallahi. :comeon

Yaa'ni... I guess I'm still just :expert

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 01, 2014, 06:50:45 PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OnwsOcFdhdE

:lawd

:tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 01, 2014, 07:44:54 PM

Hard to find 'yns sexy after being the recipient of a few 'ayb 'alayaks in my day.

If we're gonna nuke this thread with an off-topic tangent, let's go full bore.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zgz8ybG6l-U

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 02, 2014, 07:33:30 AM

but you do like cookie monster metal :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lordmaji on June 02, 2014, 01:19:21 PM

Hey brothers,

what's your thoughts on relationships that are 2 girls, 1 guy, and everyone is cool and has sexual terms with just each other? Basically 3 people dating each other gf/gf/bf.

I'm just curious what ya'll think. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on June 02, 2014, 01:22:05 PM

Likelihood of it eventually blowing up in a storm of drama is high, but have fun while it lasts?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 02, 2014, 01:22:24 PM

You're like the luckiest god damn dude ever. I won't give you any advice! :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on June 02, 2014, 01:50:48 PM

I don't feel like poly relationships make sense for most people, it's hard enough to find and keep just one stable relationship with good communication but I know some people who do it successfully.

Is the third wheel here a friend or are you/your current gf expecting something more serious?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on June 02, 2014, 02:35:21 PM

Quote from: lordmaji on June 02, 2014, 01:19:21 PM

Hey brothers,

what's your thoughts on relationships that are 2 girls, 1 guy, and everyone is cool and has sexual terms with just each other? Basically 3 people dating each other gf/gf/bf.

I'm just curious what ya'll think. :)

There's a high likelihood of someone getting jealous and drama ensuing, but knock yourself out as long as you know what you're getting into.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 02, 2014, 02:47:21 PM

Had one of the shittiest dates ever last week. Just moved back to Atlanta, figured I'd hit the ground running after negative experiences in most facets of my life the past year or so in NC, so I signed up for a couple dating sites, blah blah blah, traded messages with a few different women, and set up a date with one.

We get to the place at about 7, order drinks, then food, and we're talking and having generally a good time, nice rapport or so I think. Anyway, right at 8 she's like, "sooooo- did you want to stay for trivia?"

I figure this means we're going to play trivia. Sure, whatever. "Ok, my friends are over here at this other table, let's go!"

What. The. Fuck. This wasn't mentioned previously at all. Anyway, being a good sport I agree, and as soon as we get to the other table and after introductions are made all the way around, I basically become invisible to her. She goes off to smoke her e-cig with her friends a couple times and has the grace to apologize to me the 2nd time, but whatever. This is fucking lame.

I think I'm just going to give up on this shit for a while.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on June 02, 2014, 02:57:22 PM

:lol Stupid rules so blatantly written by men.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on June 02, 2014, 02:59:09 PM

All these e-cig shops popping up around here will become weed shops once it's legalized.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 02, 2014, 04:37:35 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on June 02, 2014, 01:07:16 AM

I can give a pass to Umm Kulthum and Fairuz. But Haifa Wehbe(aside from looks) and Nancy Ajram?

فك اوتى هير عربوس

:lol I don't listen to Nancy Ajram, I'm just (unfortunately) familiar with her.

Give me the soulful oldies where they pour out emotions I can never understand as a ghareeb. :usacry

On topic: really tired of people trying to tell me this will get better with stories about failed relationships. I ALREADY GOT THOSE IN SPADES, Y'ALL, DON'T NEED TO BE REMINDED THERE WILL BE MANY MORE.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 02, 2014, 04:43:41 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 02, 2014, 02:47:21 PM

Had one of the shittiest dates ever last week. Just moved back to Atlanta, figured I'd hit the ground running after negative experiences in most facets of my life the past year or so in NC, so I signed up for a couple dating sites, blah blah blah, traded messages with a few different women, and set up a date with one.

We get to the place at about 7, order drinks, then food, and we're talking and having generally a good time, nice rapport or so I think. Anyway, right at 8 she's like, "sooooo- did you want to stay for trivia?"

I figure this means we're going to play trivia. Sure, whatever. "Ok, my friends are over here at this other table, let's go!"

What. The. Fuck. This wasn't mentioned previously at all. Anyway, being a good sport I agree, and as soon as we get to the other table and after introductions are made all the way around, I basically become invisible to her. She goes off to smoke her e-cig with her friends a couple times and has the grace to apologize to me the 2nd time, but whatever. This is fucking lame.

I think I'm just going to give up on this shit for a while.

Did you pay for her meal?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 02, 2014, 07:57:24 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on June 02, 2014, 02:47:21 PM

Had one of the shittiest dates ever last week. Just moved back to Atlanta, figured I'd hit the ground running after negative experiences in most facets of my life the past year or so in NC, so I signed up for a couple dating sites, blah blah blah, traded messages with a few different women, and set up a date with one.

We get to the place at about 7, order drinks, then food, and we're talking and having generally a good time, nice rapport or so I think. Anyway, right at 8 she's like, "sooooo- did you want to stay for trivia?"

I figure this means we're going to play trivia. Sure, whatever. "Ok, my friends are over here at this other table, let's go!"

What. The. Fuck. This wasn't mentioned previously at all. Anyway, being a good sport I agree, and as soon as we get to the other table and after introductions are made all the way around, I basically become invisible to her. She goes off to smoke her e-cig with her friends a couple times and has the grace to apologize to me the 2nd time, but whatever. This is fucking lame.

I think I'm just going to give up on this shit for a while.

I remember having a date kinda similar - met up with this girl at a coffee house, and then her friends (2 girls and their bfs) tag along. The ironic part is I ended up getting along much better with the friends than with her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on June 02, 2014, 08:47:02 PM

Yeah, COG, you just should'a switched to a new target! ;)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 02, 2014, 09:52:59 PM

lmao my ex just read Madame Bovary.

Not going to log into my Goodreads for the next few months / years / lifetime.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on June 02, 2014, 11:39:24 PM

I agree that smoking real tar sticks has some actual sexiness and that most vape shops look like douchey new-age head shops but vaping is like a wine cooler, it's a cheap imitation and easy to hate on but you'll still enjoy it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 02, 2014, 11:56:56 PM

There's nothing sexy about bad breath, cancer, receding gums, and all the other shit that is associated with smoking.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 03, 2014, 10:55:00 AM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on June 03, 2014, 10:23:37 AM

Stop being a square, PD.

I'm sorry Wrath, I'm afraid I can't do that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 03, 2014, 11:04:18 AM

Women who smoke or drink beer turn me off because when I smell their breath it just reminds me of my dad. :-\ Not sexy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on June 03, 2014, 11:30:44 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on June 03, 2014, 11:04:18 AM

Women who smoke or drink beer turn me off because when I smell their breath it just reminds me of my dad. :-\ Not sexy

Incest connotations just got weirder.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on June 03, 2014, 11:49:56 AM

Oh peedee, I bet you fuck in a full-body dental dam.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 03, 2014, 01:13:44 PM

I got drunk last night and almost tweeted Mayakovsky poetry (in Russian) relevant to all this.

Thankfully the bartender in my head said, "you ain't gotta go home but you can't stay here buddy," and cut me off.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on June 03, 2014, 05:47:28 PM

I feel like this is an appropriate place to put this:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/pamela-brill/10-things-single-men-need-to-know_b_5233396.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/pamela-brill/10-things-single-men-need-to-know_b_5233396.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular)

Some girl I know posted this on Facebook. Now, most of it is pretty simple and duh-worthy.

But, is number one really necessary? I've had plenty of women take that same action of not calling or texting me after a date after I've texted them, but I don't particularly find it cowardly...I'm man enough and intelligent enough now (after years of shitty trial and error) to just realize she's not interested. I wouldn't say that's cowardly. I'm I wrong for drawing a comparison here, or is it different for guys in this situation? Genuinely curious.

edit: I meant the body of that entry, not the entry's title itself

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 03, 2014, 05:54:29 PM

*reads list dejectedly*

Shit, I forgot how bad at interpersonal behavior the competition is. ez rares, ez life

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on June 03, 2014, 06:13:27 PM

I would say at the very least, it's less of a big deal than the author is making it. Who cares what the girl you don't want to date thinks about that fact? Then again, doesn't hurt to provide that little piece of closure to her, I suppose. Just in case you want to date her friend.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on June 03, 2014, 07:01:21 PM

stop reading facebook lists

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on June 05, 2014, 12:13:57 AM

So thanks to technology I haven't done the old school number-from-a-stranger in a while, let alone from a badass bartender (totally bragging). So what's the standard time I should wait before at least texting, if only for the sake of "hey this is my number"? I wanna look cool.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 05, 2014, 12:33:45 AM

Most of these lists can just be summed with "be honest and open about shit" and "take a hint and go after someone who reciprocates attention instead of blowing you off."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on June 05, 2014, 12:59:53 AM

Too late. Already text with "This is xx. Don't ever think of shaving your beard. Night."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on June 05, 2014, 01:15:36 AM

Yeah, I always felt the rules are somewhat different. I also believe that if "texting early" would blow my chances, then my chances were pretty slim to begin with and not worth the trouble.

Plus, we already outlined when we'll be meeting next (i.e. certain night, different bar, right before the end of his shift there) so I'm not too worried.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on June 05, 2014, 01:28:45 AM

Sudden unforeseen circumstances lead to me having to broach the *moving* subject earlier than I wanted.

We discussed it for a bit earlier yesterday night. She's got a lot on her plate right now. A lot. And I really hate that I threw more on, makes me feel like shit. But it had to be done.

She's taking some time to think the situation over. She made it clear to me she thinks it's too soon to *move in together* which I agree with.

Due to short time-frames I likely wouldn't even be literally moving with her but maybe a month thereafter.

It's gonna be a weird June.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on June 05, 2014, 01:31:37 AM

Well at least you were clear fistful. Let her have the time and space to feel ready to talk about it.

Shaka, don't find weird shit to obsess over. That's the #1 rule of courtshipping.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 05, 2014, 02:22:34 AM

Best of luck, FoM. You didn't flinch when the sitch came, nothing to be ashamed of no matter what happens, and you're pretty thoughtful for still feeling bad about dumping more on her even though you had to.

--------------

In one of the other threads I lied when I said I work with no one under 50, I do sort of work with someone my age (of the opposite gender)--it's complicated--and she was at the swanky dinner I was at last night. ANYWAYS, she invited me to go to Disneyland in a fortnight and then texted me later on asking if I got home OK (but no one else, I asked around) even though I only had a grappa and a vodka with a multihour meal while everyone else got trashed.

I really hope I'm just getting pity friendship. Don't shit where you eat, especially with someone who literally grew up in the home of the boss as a child. :holeup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 05, 2014, 02:36:47 AM

Quote from: The Business on June 05, 2014, 02:32:13 AM

I married a girl woman whom not only did I work with, but was also my superior.

:leon maa shaa'allah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 05, 2014, 09:03:04 AM

Yea Kara I'd imagine she just wants to be nice. But if it's more I agree that you should avoid it for obvious reasons. If only to avoid "I bought you some Kobe beef, now you want to fuck my daughter?" awkwardness.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: hampster on June 05, 2014, 01:51:20 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 03, 2014, 05:56:50 PM

#8 is weird. What's wrong with cats?

I'm suspicious of people with only one cat or pet. Doesn't the cat deserve a friend ???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 05, 2014, 01:59:23 PM

Are you sure it's brisket?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on June 05, 2014, 03:31:32 PM

If this was a pulp fiction novel, it'd be a rabbit stew.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 05, 2014, 04:20:02 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 05, 2014, 09:03:04 AM

Yea Kara I'd imagine she just wants to be nice. But if it's more I agree that you should avoid it for obvious reasons. If only to avoid "I bought you some Kobe beef, now you want to fuck my daughter?" awkwardness.

I'll never know unless I go, which I decided I am. #yolo :yeshrug

e: I know everyone's been on the edge of their seat about this, but I did finally break down and tweet Mayakovsky poetry last night. "You" just hit me a little too close to home when I read it in my collection, in spite of the old translation I have using a slur for (American) Indian even though I'm pretty sure the actual Russian word used isn't one. :goty2

Л

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on June 05, 2014, 04:54:02 PM

I have bad feelings about things.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on June 05, 2014, 04:56:58 PM

I essentially moved in with my then girlfriend now wife after oh about a week of going out. We had our own place in 4 months.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 05, 2014, 05:07:17 PM

Quote from: Karakand on June 05, 2014, 04:20:02 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 05, 2014, 09:03:04 AM
Yea Kara I'd imagine she just wants to be nice. But if it's more I agree that you should avoid it for obvious reasons. If only to avoid "I bought you some Kobe beef, now you want to fuck my daughter?" awkwardness.

I'll never know unless I go, which I decided I am. #yolo :yeshrug

e: I know everyone's been on the edge of their seat about this, but I did finally break down and tweet Mayakovsky poetry last night. "You" just hit me a little too close to home when I read it in my collection, in spite of the old translation I have using a slur for (American) Indian even though I'm pretty sure the actual Russian word used isn't one. :goty2

Л

:what
I don't know what part of the game this is, but if it was standardized test I'd fail it due to cultural bias.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 05, 2014, 05:30:03 PM

I can't always be a wreck here, y'all'll ostracize me for being pathetic, but everywhere else online she also occupies with me (your lives kind of co-mingle a lot in 5 years) so I have to be a wreck in indirect ways to save face. (She's not going to give enough of a fuck about me right now to Google translate some Russian, and even if she did, his Russian doesn't really translate easily.)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on June 05, 2014, 05:47:35 PM

I need to stop overthinking things. We planned to go see a movie tonight and I asked yesterday if she still wanted to go and she said yes. But she bailed on me today.

I just really hope this isn't a sign she's trying to push me away. It probably isn't. But right now I'm not fully with it in mind and body so it's easy to think things.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 05, 2014, 05:48:33 PM

What was the excuse given.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on June 05, 2014, 05:50:19 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on June 05, 2014, 05:48:33 PM

What was the excuse given.

"Why would I want to see Maleficent? I'm not a teen age...oh wait. Don't call me again."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on June 05, 2014, 05:53:02 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on June 05, 2014, 05:48:33 PM

What was the excuse given.

Thesis. Which is a valid excuse. I know. But then I mentioned our visit on Sunday and she kinda was like "most likely" so I'm worried about that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 05, 2014, 05:55:17 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on June 05, 2014, 05:47:35 PM

I need to stop overthinking things. We planned to go see a movie tonight and I asked yesterday if she still wanted to go and she said yes. But she bailed on me today.

I just really hope this isn't a sign she's trying to push me away. It probably isn't. But right now I'm not fully with it in mind and body so it's easy to think things.

She's quite busy with school work right, plus the stress of moving. I'd give her some space, and just be supportive. Maybe cook her something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 05, 2014, 05:57:34 PM

PD's got the right idea. Even busy people gotta eat. You could always mention stealing her away for a break from the crazy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on June 05, 2014, 06:04:13 PM

Thanks guys. I just need to sleep right now because thinking about this right now is a bad idea.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on June 05, 2014, 08:40:34 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on June 05, 2014, 06:04:13 PM

Thanks guys. I just need to sleep right now because thinking about this right now is a bad idea.

Yeah, don't overthink it. Just stop and hang out with yourself for awhile. Or other friends. Get outside yer brain.

Quote from: BrandNew on June 03, 2014, 05:47:28 PM

I feel like this is an appropriate place to put this:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/pamela-brill/10-things-single-men-need-to-know_b_5233396.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/pamela-brill/10-things-single-men-need-to-know_b_5233396.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular)

Some girl I know posted this on Facebook. Now, most of it is pretty simple and duh-worthy.

But, is number one really necessary? I've had plenty of women take that same action of not calling or texting me after a date after I've texted them, but I don't particularly find it cowardly...I'm man enough and intelligent enough now (after years of shitty trial and error) to just realize she's not interested. I wouldn't say that's cowardly. I'm I wrong for drawing a comparison here, or is it different for guys in this situation? Genuinely curious.

edit: I meant the body of that entry, not the entry's title itself

BN, just be aware that you can't easily juxtapose the rules for women and men. Women don't call back, usually, because confronting a man can lead to ugly, hate and vitriol, even violence filled confrontations. Men, generally, don't worry about those things from women so much.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on June 05, 2014, 11:08:18 PM

So, I'm single again. LOL

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 05, 2014, 11:09:24 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on June 05, 2014, 11:08:18 PM

So, I'm single again. LOL

She was your fiance right...? damn

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on June 05, 2014, 11:22:59 PM

Shitty dude, what happened :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on June 05, 2014, 11:33:32 PM

We split up on Tuesday night. We just weren't able to function as a couple. We've actually been able to talk better with each other since we broke up than anytime before in the last couple of months.

She's (admitted it) got commitment issues and didn't like that the "honeymoon phase" of the relationship ended and we started holding each other accountable for our crap.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 05, 2014, 11:39:01 PM

Sucks to hear, but better now than after getting married.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on June 05, 2014, 11:50:42 PM

True enough, and I am thankful for that.

Of course, a little sex would have been nice, but beggers can't be choosers!

In all honesty, the only one I'm worried about right now is my kid. He doesn't know yet that we've split. He really loves her though, and had started to call her "mommy" recently. I don't know how he's going to take it. The good thing is, she is willing to work with me on talking to him about it. She still loves him immensely, and I think one of the reasons we didn't split before now is that she didn't want to hurt him. Granted, letting the relationship go on didn't help, but she's never been a parent, so I don't think she was fully thinking it through like that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 05, 2014, 11:52:54 PM

Any other Boreans engaged atm? You better do it quick before you join the 2014 Club.

e: Sorry Groog, the kid thing is tough.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 06, 2014, 11:50:25 AM

Sorry to here that groogrux. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on June 06, 2014, 03:04:33 PM

Quote from: Karakand on June 05, 2014, 05:30:03 PM

I can't always be a wreck here, y'all'll ostracize me for being pathetic, but everywhere else online she also occupies with me (your lives kind of co-mingle a lot in 5 years) so I have to be a wreck in indirect ways to save face. (She's not going to give enough of a fuck about me right now to Google translate some Russian, and even if she did, his Russian doesn't really translate easily.)

man, i know this feel. twitter used to be my pathetic dumping ground, but i can't do that much anymore.

and sorry groo :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 06, 2014, 03:14:40 PM

Today was the first time in forever that I answered "not applicable" to the question "on a scale of 1-10, 10 being the strongest, how has your romantic relationship been doing since your last visit?" when I was filling out my shrink's self-diagnosis questionnaire. :stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 06, 2014, 08:27:01 PM

Ex is drunk tweeting, hope it's drunk in joy and not drunk in sadness--I should be the unhappy one, not her. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 06, 2014, 08:29:18 PM

Quote from: Karakand on June 06, 2014, 08:27:01 PM

Ex is drunk tweeting, hope it's drunk in joy and not drunk in sadness--I should be the unhappy one, not her. :-\

:fbm

Where are you located anyway kara.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 06, 2014, 08:36:09 PM

I'm in OC, which is the worst place in the world to find yourself when you've suddenly got nothing. I was driving through a parking lot of Bentleys and Maseratis this morning ruminating on a very unsatisfactory but necessary therapy session, for example.

Portland was pretty swell when I was there a couple of years ago. :aah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 06, 2014, 08:46:36 PM

One thing I've noticed- being single sucks more and more the older you get. As people get older, they're more likely to pair off and get married or settle down. When I lived in Atlanta in my mid/late 20's, there were all sorts of group hang outs with people just chilling and shit. Now that sort of thing is basically non-existent as people have paired off, settled down, had kids, etc. I don't begrudge anyone their happiness and I'm not trying to get people to go out and get hammered with me on a random Wednesday, but man it sure does feel lonelier in a lot of ways since I've moved back.

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on June 06, 2014, 09:22:23 PM

Quote from: Karakand on June 06, 2014, 08:36:09 PM

I'm in OC, which is the worst place in the world to find yourself when you've suddenly got nothing. I was driving through a parking lot of Bentleys and Maseratis this morning ruminating on a very unsatisfactory but necessary therapy session, for example.

Portland was pretty swell when I was there a couple of years ago. :aah

Come back! I can't help you with your problems, but I can get you high and listen to them!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on June 06, 2014, 09:51:37 PM

Quote from: Karakand on June 06, 2014, 08:27:01 PM

Ex is drunk tweeting, hope it's drunk in joy and not drunk in sadness--I should be the unhappy one, not her. :-\

bruh can you do me a favor and get the fuck ahold of yourself

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on June 06, 2014, 09:58:29 PM

Edit: too gay of a post, even for me

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 06, 2014, 11:01:07 PM

Quote from: Spencer on June 06, 2014, 09:22:23 PM

Come back! I can't help you with your problems, but I can get you high and listen to them!

I'll crash at the Joyce Hotel, I've been morbidly curious about the horrors it contains inside ever since I stumbled by it on the way to Powell's I think it was?

Quote from: Positive Touch on June 06, 2014, 09:51:37 PM

bruh can you do me a favor and get the fuck ahold of yourself

Done, ripping out a late night tax return as we speak. :punch

TY4TLC, coach.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 06, 2014, 11:06:59 PM

Quote from: Karakand on June 06, 2014, 11:01:07 PM

Quote from: Spencer on June 06, 2014, 09:22:23 PM
Come back! I can't help you with your problems, but I can get you high and listen to them!

I'll crash at the Joyce Hotel, I've been morbidly curious about the horrors it contains inside ever since I stumbled by it on the way to Powell's I think it was?

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Joyce%20Hotel

Quote

An old-school hotel in downtown Portland - next to the seemingly-famous Powell's books.

The hotel features a very nice, positive staff and has private rooms as well as shared dormitory-style rooms. The prices range from 17$ to 42$ a night. If you stay at the hotel for more than a month, they will cut you a small deal on paying rent weekly. The rooms are of varying quality. In order to have a guest, you need to pay an additional 7.50$ a night.

The most notable characteristic of the Joyce Hotel is those that live there.

The hotel contains truly crazy people getting their bills paid by SSI, male and female prostitutes, bums, criminals, junkies, drug-dealers, COMPLETE losers in general, sex offenders that can't get a place anywhere else, and the occassional couple staying a night - it's not uncommon for a person to be more than one of these things.

The restrooms are trashed regularly, ranging from graffiti to a feces party.

The garbage receptacles are rummaged often for cans.

It's not uncommon to see the police

Two people have died from drug-overdose within the last thirty days of me being here - that I know of.

People you don't know will try to come into your room, and those same people will knock on your door and try to talk to you. If you're about to leave your room and someone can hear you, it's not uncommon for them to wait and see who is leaving said room. People will come and see if your door is unlocked as soon as you leave. If you leave your door open for a draft, or whatever - people WILL try to look into your room.

If you are going to stay at the Joyce Hotel for an extended period of time, I strongly recommend befriending NO ONE, and to not talk to anyone unless you absolutely have to. I promise if you talk to someone too many times you'll find them knocking on your door all the time.

Don't stay here if you are a single girl/woman.

I was date-raped by a neighbor I still have to see.

Don't stay here if you have kids.

I don't really recommend staying more than a night.

Don't buy weed from room 415 at the Joyce Hotel, and trust me - they'll probably still be there regardless of when you read this.

:kobeyuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Raban on June 07, 2014, 02:51:06 AM

feces party :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 07, 2014, 03:01:35 AM

The hotel contains truly crazy people getting their bills paid by SSI, male and female prostitutes, bums, criminals, junkies, drug-dealers, COMPLETE losers in general, sex offenders that can't get a place anywhere else, and the occassional couple staying a night - it's not uncommon for a person to be more than one of these things.

Finally a place I can call home. :rejoice

Seriously doe, the place looks so seedy just from the outside, I can only imagine what it's like on the inside. :holeup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on June 08, 2014, 04:56:04 PM

Summer A needs to hurry up and end, can't handle this ghost town of a college.

Actually have to make small talk, date, talk on the phone, etc to get laid instead of just going to one of the bars. So annoying

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 08, 2014, 06:50:44 PM

Is she thick?
:noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on June 09, 2014, 11:40:44 AM

I went ahead and decided that I'm not going to follow her to Texas. At least I'm not going to on the outset.

She's going to go. Then if in a month or two we think it's an idea worth pursuing, we'll discuss it then.

But for now, we're going to enjoy this last month. We'll go on a short trip somewhere before she leaves.

And when Pax South rolls around I'll have a person to go with and a place to sleep.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 09, 2014, 12:02:56 PM

whoa whoa whoa. fistful we could have been so close!!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 09, 2014, 12:14:18 PM

At least she's not moving to Hungary.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 09, 2014, 12:56:06 PM

spoiler tags, mofo!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on June 11, 2014, 10:31:20 PM

Brehs, how many texts can you send someone in a row without it getting too weird?
Give me a number.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 11, 2014, 10:35:24 PM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on June 11, 2014, 10:36:54 PM

+/- 1, right?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on June 11, 2014, 10:37:49 PM

No.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on June 11, 2014, 10:38:13 PM

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 11, 2014, 10:44:19 PM

depends on time spacing too.

three quick texts in a few minutes = a little unusual, but no biggie

three texts spanning a couple of days at random intervals = go away creep

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on June 11, 2014, 10:45:37 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on June 11, 2014, 10:44:19 PM

depends on time spacing too.

three quick texts in a few minutes = a little unusual, but no biggie

three texts spanning a couple of days at random intervals = go away creep

Yeah, it was within a few minutes, I have a writing style that trail over texts - bad twitter habit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 11, 2014, 10:46:27 PM

yeah i do that too. granted, not to potential dates :p

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on June 11, 2014, 10:49:18 PM

Also depends on context. If the discussion calls for it, go for it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on June 11, 2014, 10:51:32 PM

Background: Talked to her for a day in OKC, she gave me her details and asked me to keep in touch but that she was going to go on a back packing trip for a couple of weeks and might not be able to respond depending on coverage/whatnot. I'm trying to keep talking even if only sporadically so I can make a move when she gets back, I think that sounds like a good idea at least since she seems to be into me.

I have no idea, I've never grabbed a date from OKC.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 11, 2014, 10:52:57 PM

2, and I'd feel awkward as fuck doing that myself. If I don't get a response I just assume the person has a life and is doing constructive shit - which makes me want to do constructive shit too. I'm more concerned when I get constant texts. Which is one of the problems with being involved with a younger chick, as they want to text all the fucking time and I'm like...why? If you want to talk so much why don't you come over and chill, fuck text messages.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on June 11, 2014, 10:55:06 PM

I'm absorbing all of your wise words and have come to the conclusion to put her out of my mind and just keep on trucking with my own life, and in the event she's still interested in me when she comes back - that's a win.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on June 12, 2014, 08:39:37 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 11, 2014, 10:52:57 PM

2, and I'd feel awkward as fuck doing that myself. If I don't get a response I just assume the person has a life and is doing constructive shit - which makes me want to do constructive shit too. I'm more concerned when I get constant texts. Which is one of the problems with being involved with a younger chick, as they want to text all the fucking time and I'm like...why? If you want to talk so much why don't you come over and chill, fuck text messages.

This. And what happened to good old regular phone calls? What needs to be said can be taken care of in less than 5 minutes on a phone call that might take 2-3 hours through text messages. Drives me crazy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on June 12, 2014, 09:33:14 AM

it's like instant messaging. it allows a conversation that you can walk away from for a bit and return to. not everyone wants to engage in direct conversation that they're locked into.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on June 12, 2014, 11:48:06 AM

Quote from: The Business on June 12, 2014, 10:10:52 AM

ITT: Old people. What does Chrono know about texting potential dates? When he got married flip phones weren't even invented.

:dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on June 13, 2014, 01:36:55 PM

Someone help me out here with a possibly stupid question. During E3 yesterday, I struck up a conversation with this cute Asian girl. She seemed pretty friendly and cool, and we spoke for like half an hour, which I figured was a good thing. Then, towards the end, she said that I reminded her of her ex.

Uh...is that supposed to be a good or bad thing? I really didn't know how to respond to that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on June 13, 2014, 02:20:52 PM

Quote from: Esch on June 13, 2014, 01:59:44 PM

well she probably used to fuck her ex so

That's what I thought. But on the other hand it could also mean she's been there, done that, right? D:

Quote from: The Business on June 13, 2014, 02:11:18 PM

Go to E3 to meet girls, brehs. Might as well go look for chicks on a Marine base.

Actually it just sorta happened. I was watching the Smash Bros. contest on Nintendo's huge T.V. in their booth, and and this chick sat down next to me and we just started shooting the shit.

And you joke, but surprisingly enough, E3 is full of smoking hot girls. And I'm not even talking about booth babes. :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 13, 2014, 02:22:37 PM

Seems like escorts could make so much money going to E3 and hooking virgins with disposable income and no god damn common sense.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on June 13, 2014, 02:25:25 PM

Pretty sure they already do that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on June 13, 2014, 08:01:46 PM

Quote from: Oblivion on June 13, 2014, 02:25:25 PM

Pretty sure they already do that.

They do. There was a story back in the day when three or more Gamefan staffers fucked a hooker (one hooker total, not each) when they were at E3. Since there were more dudes than holes, the odd man (men?) out played Yoshi's Island while they waited for their turn.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 13, 2014, 08:07:31 PM

:rofl

Title: .
Post by: Bebpo on June 14, 2014, 01:36:19 AM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on June 14, 2014, 07:40:29 AM

I always imagined that guys who Groupon a hooker would be really macho.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on June 14, 2014, 09:12:35 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on June 13, 2014, 01:36:55 PM

Someone help me out here with a possibly stupid question. During E3 yesterday, I struck up a conversation with this cute Asian girl. She seemed pretty friendly and cool, and we spoke for like half an hour, which I figured was a good thing. Then, towards the end, she said that I reminded her of her ex.

Uh...is that supposed to be a good or bad thing? I really didn't know how to respond to that.

It's good and bad. She's interested, but for the wrong reasons.

Quote from: Oblivion on June 13, 2014, 02:20:52 PM

And you joke, but surprisingly enough, E3 is full of smoking hot girls. And I'm not even talking about booth babes. :drool

Women in sales, marketing, and PR tend to be fairly attractive and outgoing.

Quote from: The Business on June 12, 2014, 10:10:52 AM

ITT: Old people. What does Chrono know about texting potential dates? When he got married flip phones weren't even invented.

:lol
We did, we just had to send telegrams.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on June 15, 2014, 11:37:28 PM

I think I'm going to lose it. Everyone keeps on telling me, "If God wills it, maybe you two will get back together..."

I'm pretty sure her will is going to come before God's on this one. In the meantime, I'm trying to find a reason to hate her and I can't.

[Edit] In other news, I reactivated my OKC account a couple of days ago for reasons I can't figure out. Feeling pathetic, I deactivated it again tonight.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 16, 2014, 07:33:40 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on June 15, 2014, 11:37:28 PM

[Edit] In other news, I reactivated my OKC account a couple of days ago for reasons I can't figure out. Feeling pathetic, I deactivated it again tonight.

As a public-ish figure idek if I can really put up an online dating profile. :shaq2

All I need is a client's kid spotting me and narcing me out to their 'rents. :neogaf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 16, 2014, 10:55:54 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 13, 2014, 02:22:37 PM

Seems like escorts could make so much money going to E3 and hooking virgins with disposable income and no god damn common sense.

When I went to E3 back in '06, people were handing out Spearmint Rhino (stripclub) coupons at the entrance to the Staples Center...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on June 17, 2014, 08:02:04 AM

well I had basically written off this kind of thing for the foreseeable future of my life, was content putting my energy into math and arguing on the internet and stuff, but I randomly met a girlllllllll who I'm pretty into, and she likes me if I'm not delusional, and we will see each other again. now watch me spin up wild unmoored fantasies in my head to come crashing down

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on June 17, 2014, 07:08:42 PM

I went on a second date tonight.

pretty meh.

welp that's my story.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 17, 2014, 07:18:42 PM

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on June 17, 2014, 08:02:04 AM

well I had basically written off this kind of thing for the foreseeable future of my life, was content putting my energy into math and arguing on the internet and stuff, but I randomly met a girlllllllll who I'm pretty into, and she likes me if I'm not delusional, and we will see each other again. now watch me spin up wild unmoored fantasies in my head to come crashing down

I didn't know you were a Five Percenter. It all makes sense now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on June 17, 2014, 08:40:46 PM

Quote from: Karakand on June 16, 2014, 07:33:40 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on June 15, 2014, 11:37:28 PM
[Edit] In other news, I reactivated my OKC account a couple of days ago for reasons I can't figure out. Feeling pathetic, I deactivated it again tonight.

As a public-ish figure idek if I can really put up an online dating profile. :shaq2

All I need is a client's kid spotting me and narcing me out to their 'rents. :neogaf

Why should it make any difference to anyone if you're on an online dating site or not? ???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kevtones on June 17, 2014, 10:37:06 PM

Celebrated our month anniversary with Italian, a nice zin, and some anal beads.

All in all, great night.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on June 17, 2014, 11:46:20 PM

I'm single again and ready to mingle! !

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kevtones on June 18, 2014, 12:02:08 AM

What are you offering Blackmage?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 18, 2014, 12:18:50 AM

today i discovered bracli pearl undergarments ( :nsfw )

:whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on June 18, 2014, 01:16:08 AM

Quote from: Groogrux on June 15, 2014, 11:37:28 PM

In other news, I reactivated my OKC account a couple of days ago for reasons I can't figure out. Feeling pathetic, I deactivated it again tonight.

And I just ran into her account on another dating website, and it said she was active three days ago. BLOCKED THE BITCH. Now I need to find me a woman.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Momo on June 18, 2014, 01:38:54 AM

My last relationship was a trainwreck, I've been staying out of the long game the last two years or so (been dating no more than 3/4 times and staying away from girls i could potentially see myself falling for) not only cause of the last relationship, but because I wanted to focus on my studies. I'm finishing off my Oracle (yes boo hisss etc) certifications this year and past that all I want to do is take cooking, jog, judo and do some languages. I'll have plenty of time for a full on chick again.

The thought is kind of scaring me though, my life has been near flawlessly awesome the way it has been going the last two years. I'm pretty selfish when it comes to doing stuff, my biggest flaw I think (I only want to do what I want lol). It's probably going to be a struggle for me to ease back into the long game (there is a girl I like, but have purposefully held her at arms length till I sort my shit) i'm hoping she's still interested and willing to deal with a highly imperfect brah :heart

I kinda dont want to do the long thing though, but I somehow feel I need to, conflicting themes battling inside :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 18, 2014, 01:54:47 AM

Quote from: chronovore on June 17, 2014, 08:40:46 PM

Why should it make any difference to anyone if you're on an online dating site or not? ???

Not that I was on one, but what I would have to say on one if I didn't want to end up with someone who I couldn't really be in a relationship with.

I both maintain an inaccurate professional persona and allow my clients to take pieces of biographical information about me and draw their own inaccurate conclusions with that information. Karakand gots to get paid, yo. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on June 18, 2014, 07:40:30 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on June 18, 2014, 12:18:50 AM

today i discovered bracli pearl undergarments ( :nsfw )

:whew

today i discovered C thongs :nsfw

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on June 18, 2014, 08:14:50 AM

Quote from: Groogrux on June 15, 2014, 11:37:28 PM

I think I'm going to lose it. Everyone keeps on telling me, "If God wills it, maybe you two will get back together..."

I'm pretty sure her will is going to come before God's on this one. In the meantime, I'm trying to find a reason to hate her and I can't.

[Edit] In other news, I reactivated my OKC account a couple of days ago for reasons I can't figure out. Feeling pathetic, I deactivated it again tonight.

What??? What's the story with this one. Marriage is off? You didnt even get to fuck her on the cruise? Come fuck me, Andy. God wills it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 18, 2014, 09:56:56 AM

Quote from: Huff on June 18, 2014, 07:40:30 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on June 18, 2014, 12:18:50 AM
today i discovered bracli pearl undergarments ( :nsfw )

:whew

today i discovered C thongs :nsfw

those are for skanks and hoors

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on June 18, 2014, 11:08:44 AM

Did you check out the guy one sided thongs? Perfect summer attire

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on June 18, 2014, 12:27:47 PM

there is some good feedback on those. i'll consider it. :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on June 18, 2014, 05:39:35 PM

Quote from: demi on June 18, 2014, 08:14:50 AM

Quote from: Groogrux on June 15, 2014, 11:37:28 PM
I think I'm going to lose it. Everyone keeps on telling me, "If God wills it, maybe you two will get back together..."

I'm pretty sure her will is going to come before God's on this one. In the meantime, I'm trying to find a reason to hate her and I can't.

[Edit] In other news, I reactivated my OKC account a couple of days ago for reasons I can't figure out. Feeling pathetic, I deactivated it again tonight.

What??? What's the story with this one. Marriage is off? You didnt even get to fuck her on the cruise? Come fuck me, Andy. God wills it.

Yeah, we split up two weeks ago. I'm past the denial and sadness stage. Now I'm just angry.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on June 18, 2014, 06:18:04 PM

She prolly would change her mind if she knew you could eat pussy like a champ.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on June 19, 2014, 01:20:15 AM

I am pretty good at that. I got my alphabet technique down and everything.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 20, 2014, 04:59:59 PM

Joined a dating site. :snoop

I used to be in a relationship with someone who'd make jokes involving What Is to Be Done? and their college dorm shower, now I'm being pointed at people who only read Nick Sparks books. :stahp

At least getting messages is an ego boost after feeling so thoroughly rejected. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 20, 2014, 06:16:34 PM

I Am The Walrus?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 20, 2014, 07:01:27 PM

Once a friend of mine said, "I am the Walrus, coo coo, ka-fucking-choo," and I tried to replicate this phrase while extremely drunk another night and ended up saying, "coo coo fa-cock-in," instead.

I never lived that one down. :goty2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 21, 2014, 08:56:00 PM

Just got an email from my dating site of choice promising that they'd found someone "as unique as [I am]".

My responses:

1. :heh

2. Jesus I hope not. One of me is bad enough.

3. :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on June 22, 2014, 06:01:28 AM

Pretty bad when you're mother notices girls checked you out and then tries to nudge into some sort of conversation with them.

Which is what happen today at my niece's birthday. I guess one of my niece's friends had her sister accompany her. Decent looking Filipino girl who of course had no one her age to talk to at this party. Of course my inability to talk to women naturally stopped me from instigating any conversation.

This is kind of a big problem with me in general and it's pretty crippling.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on June 22, 2014, 10:29:47 AM

I put myself back on OKcupid, but I haven't filled it out yet. Just put up pictures. The ladies be hollerin' already!! :aah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 22, 2014, 10:34:24 AM

Damn. Do you find that it's easy to talk to women once a conversation starts, but it's impossible for you to instigate a conversation? I had that problem. If a girl started talking to me I'd be fine and could converse decently, whereas the thought of walking up to a girl and saying hi was crippling.

One thig I used to do was approach women when they were somewhere I was heading. So I wouldn't walk over and sit next to a girl, but if she was in a library section I needed to go to or in line for something I planned on doing (like getting food) I'd head over there. That way she might start the conversation and I could follow her lead.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on June 22, 2014, 10:43:34 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 22, 2014, 10:34:24 AM

Damn. Do you find that it's easy to talk to women once a conversation starts, but it's impossible for you to instigate a conversation? I had that problem. If a girl started talking to me I'd be fine and could converse decently, whereas the thought of walking up to a girl and saying hi was crippling.

One thig I used to do was approach women when they were somewhere I was heading. So I wouldn't walk over and sit next to a girl, but if she was in a library section I needed to go to or in line for something I planned on doing (like getting food) I'd head over there. That way she might start the conversation and I could follow her lead.

I don't like being approached by women because of white problems. If I'm not prepared for it, and a hot girl approaches me, I get really red in the face. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 22, 2014, 11:11:52 AM

That's a good hint though. I appreciate it in women, anyway.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on June 22, 2014, 04:57:48 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on June 22, 2014, 04:33:42 PM

That L's I receive when it comes to women is astronomical.

L's? Does that mean Lusty Eyes? :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on June 22, 2014, 05:25:22 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on June 22, 2014, 10:43:34 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 22, 2014, 10:34:24 AM
Damn. Do you find that it's easy to talk to women once a conversation starts, but it's impossible for you to instigate a conversation? I had that problem. If a girl started talking to me I'd be fine and could converse decently, whereas the thought of walking up to a girl and saying hi was crippling.

One thig I used to do was approach women when they were somewhere I was heading. So I wouldn't walk over and sit next to a girl, but if she was in a library section I needed to go to or in line for something I planned on doing (like getting food) I'd head over there. That way she might start the conversation and I could follow her lead.

I don't like being approached by women because of white problems. If I'm not prepared for it, and a hot girl approaches me, I get really red in the face. :(

A girl I have/had a huge crush on actually just came up to me and kissed me once, out of nowhere, and I wasn't ready for it and didn't react properly at all, it was very sad :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on June 22, 2014, 08:49:06 PM

I was just completely dead-fish passive and non-reactive when she tried to kiss me. I felt absolutely terrible about it like I'd insulted her.

It sux because she's one of the most attractive-to-me people I've ever met - intellectually (she is a research biochemist omg), spiritually and physically. I'm still friends-ish with her but she has a quasi-boyfriend these days.

I mean, I guess it's still possible something might happen, but Cordelia and Wesley never tried getting back together even after he became a badass on Angel, so I'm not holding my breath.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 22, 2014, 11:06:03 PM

Always gotta embrace a kiss, breh. It can lead anywhere.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on June 22, 2014, 11:08:01 PM

Yeah, I just happened to be in an unreceptive mental state at that moment sadly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on June 23, 2014, 12:07:49 AM

Dude. The interest is still there, recoverable. Just say, "hey, could we try that kiss again?"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 23, 2014, 12:10:14 AM

If someone wants to kiss you it's not like the desire just goes away unless they're a fucking weirdo cocktease.

I think the biggest mistake I see people new or shy to this is that they think there are these moments they haven't capitalized on and it's over. Shit ain't like that at all. Be proactive.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on June 23, 2014, 12:31:15 AM

eh, I guess the real problem is that I don't really believe I'm capable of having a relationship (tm) because

(1) I've never really had one and am afraid of fucking up and hurting her + me, b/c I am selfish, exploitive, alternately egomaniacal and self-loathing, and emotionally/spiritually lazy and broken in too many ways
(2) I have too much other stuff screwed up in my life right now (well, pretty much all the time actually) and trying to bring someone else into that seems like a recipe for disaster

as long as those hold true I will probably continue finding excuses to squander "opportunities" and disappoint any women misguided enough to think they like me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 23, 2014, 12:49:55 AM

:shaq2 :goty

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 23, 2014, 12:57:27 AM

If someone cares about you recurse they'll buckle up and ride along with you through the screwed up stuff in your life. It's very empowering.

As for your first point, it's commendable to not want to hurt people but you're not going to work through those negative personality traits hermetically. In the past I haven't been all that dissimilar myself but I got to a point through trial and error that I never thought I'd get to when I was in my early 20s.

e: Dating site update - I contacted someone the other day and they literally deactivated their profile lmao.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on June 23, 2014, 01:00:13 AM

I'm already going on a date on Thursday night and I haven't even filled out my profile still... Maybe I'll just leave it blank forever. I think I can only make it worse anyway

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on June 23, 2014, 01:03:27 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 23, 2014, 12:54:25 AM

Hmm, you've never struck me as egomaniacal.

the ostentatious self-hating as seen in e.g. this thread is largely a thinly veiled expression of narcissism.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 23, 2014, 01:26:39 AM

Someone messaged me whose favorite book is 1984. :snoop

I need to find a nice Party woman. :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on June 23, 2014, 03:48:45 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 22, 2014, 10:34:24 AM

Damn. Do you find that it's easy to talk to women once a conversation starts, but it's impossible for you to instigate a conversation? I had that problem. If a girl started talking to me I'd be fine and could converse decently, whereas the thought of walking up to a girl and saying hi was crippling.

One thig I used to do was approach women when they were somewhere I was heading. So I wouldn't walk over and sit next to a girl, but if she was in a library section I needed to go to or in line for something I planned on doing (like getting food) I'd head over there. That way she might start the conversation and I could follow her lead.

Well in general I find it hard to talk to people I don't know. I'm not comfortable and thus can't really talk naturally. I've mad some progress being a bit more outgoing, but it's still a thing. But sure if someone talked to me first and I got good feedback, I would be able to converse better. That never happens though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on June 23, 2014, 05:49:45 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on June 23, 2014, 03:48:45 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 22, 2014, 10:34:24 AM
Damn. Do you find that it's easy to talk to women once a conversation starts, but it's impossible for you to instigate a conversation? I had that problem. If a girl started talking to me I'd be fine and could converse decently, whereas the thought of walking up to a girl and saying hi was crippling.

One thig I used to do was approach women when they were somewhere I was heading. So I wouldn't walk over and sit next to a girl, but if she was in a library section I needed to go to or in line for something I planned on doing (like getting food) I'd head over there. That way she might start the conversation and I could follow her lead.
Well in general I find it hard to talk to people I don't know. I'm not comfortable and thus can't really talk naturally. I've mad some progress being a bit more outgoing, but it's still a thing. But sure if someone talked to me first and I got good feedback, I would be able to converse better. That never happens though.

Don't fret about the last bit, it's not a big deal.

I've never had a woman start a conversation with me, but at least I've managed to approach women successfully in clubs and have gotten laid. I don't think I look terrible, but I've come to accept that I'm not attractive enough for strangers to approach me.

:yeshrug

I have been hit on by gay men though :lol, but unfortunately I don't swing that way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 23, 2014, 07:43:35 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 22, 2014, 10:34:24 AM

Damn. Do you find that it's easy to talk to women once a conversation starts, but it's impossible for you to instigate a conversation? I had that problem. If a girl started talking to me I'd be fine and could converse decently, whereas the thought of walking up to a girl and saying hi was crippling.

One thig I used to do was approach women when they were somewhere I was heading. So I wouldn't walk over and sit next to a girl, but if she was in a library section I needed to go to or in line for something I planned on doing (like getting food) I'd head over there. That way she might start the conversation and I could follow her lead.

I've always had the other problem... easy for me to approach and talk to a girl, difficult for me to keep a conversation going.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on June 23, 2014, 12:33:53 PM

So I was browsing okcupid and came across a girl with the biggest boobs ever. Her face is meh but holy crap those boobs were ridiculous.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 23, 2014, 01:15:40 PM

Quote from: Karakand on June 23, 2014, 01:26:39 AM

Someone messaged me whose favorite book is 1984. :snoop

I need to find a nice Party woman. :lawd

High Schoolers :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 23, 2014, 04:49:49 PM

Funnily enough, they said it had been their favorite book since 10th grade. :lol

I also got a message from a self-described otaku. :snoop

I should just join a monastery, do they still illuminate manuscripts by hand?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 24, 2014, 01:23:24 AM

Come home to hits in my inbox. :whew

Probably shouldn't open them up. :goty2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 24, 2014, 02:02:18 AM

Update: one of them is a bookkeeper. :rejoice

e: Lowlight from another one - "people don't get a chance to see that I'm intelligent . . . However when a subject peaks [sic] my interest I must read all about it." :snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 24, 2014, 03:14:40 AM

You really hate the ones that sound like you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on June 24, 2014, 03:21:39 AM

Don't have a favorite book but if I had to choose...I'd go with Monkey: Folk Novel of China.

I'm such a Cheeaboo.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 24, 2014, 03:34:24 AM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on June 24, 2014, 03:14:40 AM

You really hate the ones that sound like you.

It makes me feel v. self-conscious. :-[

Apparently my favorite book shares a name with an entry in a serial Swedish crime drama series. Thanks Helene Tursten, now I have to specify which Golden Calf is my favorite.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 24, 2014, 09:04:49 AM

I just list my favorite authors instead of favorite books, to be different.
:smug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 24, 2014, 01:14:47 PM

To prove that I'm not an ultra serious liberal loving taco I'll just say my favorite book is The Gunslinger because it has guns in it. Out-angst that

spoiler (click to show/hide)

I actually don't really care much for fiction books anymore. Take that motherfuckers :smug

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TVC15 on June 24, 2014, 01:36:42 PM

My favorite book is A Rebours. My favorite book in english is A Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man. Now which of you assholes is gonna fuck me?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 25, 2014, 05:19:52 PM

If I were a switch hitter you'd be my dreamboat, WM. :heartbeat

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on June 24, 2014, 04:22:47 AM

My favorite book is Karakand's post history, which inspired Don Draper from Mad Men.

:dead

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My life would be much less complicated if I could assume the identity of a successful person while making sure I died in a manner that paid out on the lucrative life insurance policy on my head in a way that would cast no suspicion on the beneficiaries. :ohhh :fbm

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 26, 2014, 07:50:28 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on June 24, 2014, 10:15:39 AM

Tell her to look up http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/pique (http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/pique) and read all about that.

This person asked me what my #1 pet peeve in a partner was and instead of providing my usual response (being ignorant of -any- current events), I responded with some snide comment about homophones. :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on June 26, 2014, 07:55:11 PM

these days I'm incredibly ignorant of current events that aren't tech industry bullshit. :derp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 26, 2014, 07:56:58 PM

I said -any-, recur. :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 27, 2014, 03:33:44 PM

Exchanged a flurry of messages with a driven, independent woman last night. :jawalrus

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Now bring on the crushing rejection when she eventually realizes I'm a fucking piece of shit. :aah

[close]

BTW, whenever I get asked "what's one thing you'd change about yourself?" on this site since apparently online dating is a fucking job interview, it always takes a colossal act of will on my part to just not write, "cease being a fucking piece of shit."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on June 27, 2014, 04:14:12 PM

There was a real funny screen grab on twitter earlier today of a Randian dating site profile of a woman looking for her Galt who used similar language. I can't find it now, but trust it would be a comical follow-up to karakand's post above.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 27, 2014, 04:43:34 PM

I also think she's p. cute but I'm self-conscious about being an unwilling member of da patriarchy so I left that out of my post (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unreliable_narrator). :-[

Since we're on the subject of dating ideologically however, I found this the other day. Please enjoy everyone.

https://www.facebook.com/OKComrade

Gareth the Trot posted on June 17th. :drool :drool :drool

"but no Stalinists please" :ussrcry Our love was never meant to be, Gareth.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on June 27, 2014, 05:34:09 PM

I went on a couple dates with an actress from rural Ohio recently. She has a nice, playful energy and is really cute but she kept sharing the type of anecdotes that you almost exclusively here from bigoted people (recurring variations of "can you believe [this person of specific ethnicity] was offended when I said this!....") When I jokingly insinuated that she might be racist she responded, literally, with "No, I even have black friends" :-\

Complete turn-off for me. I'm done.

Have a date with another girl lined up for tuesday. She's an extremely quiet girl, and I'd say there's around a 30% chance that her silence isn't in fact an indication of inner depth and really just means has no personality at all. Hoping for the best though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on June 27, 2014, 06:04:22 PM

Quote from: Karakand on June 27, 2014, 03:33:44 PM

Exchanged a flurry of messages with a driven, independent woman last night. :jawalrus

spoiler (click to show/hide)
Now bring on the crushing rejection when she eventually realizes I'm a fucking piece of shit. :aah
[close]

BTW, whenever I get asked "what's one thing you'd change about yourself?" on this site since apparently online dating is a fucking job interview, it always takes a colossal act of will on my part to just not write, "cease being a fucking piece of shit."

ooh, does dating these days involve coding at the whiteboard? :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 27, 2014, 06:16:18 PM

I remember I once interviewed for a position at a tech company and the owner went to the person I would be replacing and explained how they did job interviews in the tech industry (i.e. whiteboard coding bullshit) and that they wanted the person I would be replacing to do likewise with me and we both just looked at him like he was from Mars because you don't advance in accounting if you can't do things, and there's no fucking Perl-esque creativity bullshit in accounting--we follow the same rules that Pacioli wrote down hundreds of years ago fer chrissake.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on June 27, 2014, 06:19:00 PM

sounds like accounting could use some disruption tbqh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 27, 2014, 06:39:58 PM

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on June 27, 2014, 06:19:00 PM

sounds like accounting could use some disruption tbqh

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enron_scandal#Causes_of_downfall

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fair_value_accounting_and_the_subprime_mortgage_crisis

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on June 27, 2014, 06:41:21 PM

wouldn't have happened if they'd used ruby or node.js

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 27, 2014, 06:44:21 PM

In college I interviewed for a book keeping job at a local bookstore. The owner asked me what my biggest strength was and I went on some sophomore level spiel about working hard - noting how I once spent a large amount of time trying to figure out a small error I made on an accounting class project blah blah blah. Then the owner said "that's dedication but we don't need all that. Small errors are going to happen, after all." He started laughing so I started laughing, thinking he was joking. But then I realized he was serious.

I turned down the job.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 27, 2014, 06:54:27 PM

Ah yes, good ol' material vs. immaterial errors. Miscellaneous expense adjustment entries ahoy!

On a tax return you have to reconcile a company's books to the tax return on a specific schedule because they will never agree with one another, if only because tax returns only measure in whole dollars. This makes some business owners livid for some reason, which I find amusing slightly.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

You made the right choice.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 29, 2014, 10:15:00 PM

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on June 27, 2014, 06:41:21 PM

wouldn't have happened if they'd used ruby or node.js

NPM :bow :bow :bow

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 30, 2014, 12:52:42 AM

Christ, could people PLEASE edit their dating profiles. You don't like to read books about forbitten love, unless that's some new vampire word I'm unfamiliar with.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 30, 2014, 02:22:47 AM

I run in very... out there circles that Boreans would :heh in a nanosecond and one day I had to read someone drone on about how prescriptive grammar was tyrannical and blah blah blah and while I could empathize with their perspective to a certain extent, I wanted to point out to them that they were showing their "I'm a monoglot whose sole language happens to be the world's current lingua franca" privilege because if you've ever studied multiple languages you'll find that prescriptive grammar is :rejoice, even if it's full of fucking bullshit made up by hegemons and doesn't necessarily equip you to survive below a certain socio-economic level in places where that language is spoken.

But I held my tongue because the last time I called them out on their fucking bullshit Twitter spiraled so far out of control at me that the lead singer of the Mountain Goats tried to own me by unironically linking me to the etymology of words J.R.R. Tolkien made up. (I wish I was making this up, if I was I would have at least tried to make it passably funny.) :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 30, 2014, 03:05:36 AM

Sure, the Bore is a chill zone. I think I made fun of Andrex for not knowing the word despair the other day, but I'm a fucking piece of shit.

But dating sites are a meat market, and you better be showing off that USDA Prime label shit in your profile imo.

I should just change my match settings on education, but I feel like I could be missing someone who sort of fell through the cracks like I did if I did do that. (NOT TO SAY THAT I'M SMART, ESCH.)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 30, 2014, 03:17:49 AM

If you're in LA you should really be utilizing Tinder anyway.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on June 30, 2014, 03:19:25 AM

Prescriptive grammar, pff.
Any grammar is designed to be deficient, as you say. I don't usually see it brought up in regards to language learning, because you kinda have to be practical there and I hope most sane people agree. It's not a useful lens to view language through otherwise, especially when people and institutions try to slam their normative dick on the table.

That said there are a lot of things which stir the curmudgeon in me, too, like "gonna wanna do" and "with no". Or the wave of transcription fuck ups (which I feel comfortable calling mistakes) like "could of". I hope it's just orthography, anyway. I don't have to like the changes to accept change, but please not in that direction...
Other things just have my ears piqued, because I've learned them differently not too long ago, like "sneaked". Desperately awaiting the first "swimmed" from an adult.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 30, 2014, 03:20:53 AM

Just about the only thing that pushes my buttons via spelling/grammar anymore is if someone knows me a while and can't get my name right because of the implication of generally not giving a shit, that's about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 30, 2014, 03:27:49 AM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on June 30, 2014, 03:17:49 AM

If you're in LA you should really be utilizing Tinder anyway.

From my understanding this is based on immediate proximity, right?

I'm not using that shit until I move out of where I currently live (too close to my clientele).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on June 30, 2014, 03:29:19 AM

So what are you doing now, hitting on people in completely different geographical locations?

If you're that vexxed by it be sure to pay attention to how many miles away they are.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 30, 2014, 03:42:49 AM

Southland + San Diego. My new car has sick MPG, the world is my oyster. :jawalrus

TBH I've only hit on 2 people, one deactivated their profile and / or blocked me and the other I talked about having a good back and forth with the other night, but I think she's blown me off now. :fbm I could have upgraded from working the mail room to being Mandark's PA at the Elders of Zion HQ if she'd given me a chance. :tocry

I'm mainly fielding being hit on myself because I think being a white looking tax accountant who lives in OC probably makes me sound like more of a catch than I really am.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on July 02, 2014, 12:45:36 AM

I have a second date lined up. She is soooo quiet though. :-| The lack of feedback can be disconcerting.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 02, 2014, 01:05:00 PM

The woman I was interested in messaged me back, I was wrong about being blown off. :rejoice

She'd just been moving. :whew

I also finally ended that 3 day, mostly late night, way-too-flirty-given-the-stakes text message conversation I had been having with that person I kind of work with last night. :jawalrus

spoiler (click to show/hide)

The damage is already done on that front though, I think. :fbm

Unless she's just a huge flirt like I am. :ohhh

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 03, 2014, 04:09:54 AM

I just had a girl disappear on me after 2 really awesome dates! You know, If they just said they weren't interested, I wouldn't feel so shitty. The funny thing is, she lives right down the street from me, so how awkward.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on July 03, 2014, 04:18:55 AM

Poop on her doorstep.

Preferably an arrow shape pointing to your direction.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 03, 2014, 07:27:16 AM

follow your moisturized heart

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 03, 2014, 11:32:55 PM

Brehs I used "Spanish West Indies milieu" in a communication. (:snoop)

I think I'm taking the el (:heh) on this one.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 05, 2014, 02:19:09 AM

fml I'm getting drunk texts from that person I kind of work with while they're still at the actual bar. I'm not taking the L on this one, I'm going to be fucking Elohim.

How is Virgin-GAF so bad at life? I haven't even been single for 2 months, am a fucking emotional, psychological and biological wreck, and even with all that I'm already embroiled in 2 fucking awkward things. (I haven't even talked about the other one here it's so ugh.)

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It's because I tell people what they want to hear instead of being myself. :shh

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 05, 2014, 04:03:22 AM

You leave your house and talk to people. Boom.

My self-help book will be out soon.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on July 05, 2014, 05:08:03 AM

Ugh. I thought I had a great first date yesterday, but apparently it wasn't. Girl I've been talking to on OKC on and off for like a week or two finally agrees to meet up for lunch. We go to Denny's and seems everything's going well. We're making great conversation, we have a few things in common, and the ones where we don't, she still seems interested at least. She tells me she had a good time and wants to meet up again and we kiss. Later that day I send her another message on OKC saying I enjoyed meeting up and that maybe next time we could see a movie or something.

She hasn't responded so far. And I know she saw my message cause I saw her last online status. Alas. She was really hot too. :'( Much better than her pictures which were already nice.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 05, 2014, 11:33:24 AM

Breh she kissed you don't stress out about it. Neuroses are red, psychoses are blue, etc. First date doesn't equal rapid response communication unless maybe you had really hot sex.

Quote from: Rufus on July 05, 2014, 04:03:22 AM

You leave your house and talk to people. Boom.

My self-help book will be out soon.

Nah, I'm not that good looking or funny (as I stopped casually drinking) anymore for this to work. You could make a killing doe, get dat ish out there.

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People love to talk about themselves and I don't like to talk about myself (which I'm sure none of you who post / lurk here believe, but I don't act the way irl that I do here) so I'm happy to direct a conversation around a person talking about him or herself, which makes it seem like I might be interested when that's not necessarily the case. So as to avoid any suspicions, I do share things about myself, but only things about myself that compliment what the person has told me during the directed conversation which builds a false sense of connection.

Still the same POS I was at 22. :snoop

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 05, 2014, 12:29:48 PM

Quote from: Karakand on July 05, 2014, 02:19:09 AM

fml I'm getting drunk texts from that person I kind of work with while they're still at the actual bar. I'm not taking the L on this one, I'm going to be fucking Elohim.

How is Virgin-GAF so bad at life? I haven't even been single for 2 months, am a fucking emotional, psychological and biological wreck, and even with all that I'm already embroiled in 2 fucking awkward things. (I haven't even talked about the other one here it's so ugh.)

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It's because I tell people what they want to hear instead of being myself. :shh
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Speaking from personal experience: Don't talk to people unless it's for practical reasons like work, food, school, etc. And if, out of the blue, someone expresses interest in you, romantically or sexually, recede into a state of emotional numbness and assure yourself that no one would ACTUALLY be that crazy or stupid to want to fuck you, or love you, or whatever.

Also, becoming a workaholic and a home body really helps. "Hey Atra, want to go to the bar after class?" "Nope. Sorry. Can't. I have to go home and get all these projects done before Friday." Then rinse and repeat until no one bothers asking you to go places with them anymore.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on July 05, 2014, 01:04:12 PM

Quote from: Rufus on July 05, 2014, 04:03:22 AM

You leave your house and talk to people. Boom.

My self-help book will be out soon.

i always did this and it took me forever :'(

i also need to stop reading karakand posts because they are so depressingly relateable

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on July 05, 2014, 01:31:30 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on July 05, 2014, 12:52:22 PM

When did this thread become dating-gaf?

Atramental has been steadily gaffing up this place for a while now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on July 05, 2014, 01:48:38 PM

Atra gives excellent advice a few posts up tho

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 05, 2014, 03:59:49 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on July 05, 2014, 01:04:12 PM

i also need to stop reading karakand posts because they are so depressingly relateable

"Like father, like son" isn't an adage for no reason. :goty2

@Atra those are all good tricks and I used them to great effect during the portions of my last relationship that were long distance but I have no reason to use them anymore. And to change careers I also need to be able to produce references that know me better than, "Oh yeah I worked with him for X years... he did good work but I can't tell you anything else about him sorry. I exploited the fuck out of that sucker, doe."

I felt repulsive, I pulled some old behaviors out of the toolbox of my young adulthood (with origins in my childhood) that are bad but effective. I now know I'm not repulsive again and it's time to put those old behaviors away because they just get me into trouble, hurt people, or both.

---------------

"So what books are you reading?"
"[Book 1 in a fantasy romance series], [Book 5 (!!!) in an urban fantasy series], and A Storm of Swords."

I should just go find a book club, do the ones single women attend (if such a book club even exists) read real books?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 05, 2014, 04:34:17 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on July 05, 2014, 01:04:12 PM

Quote from: Rufus on July 05, 2014, 04:03:22 AM
You leave your house and talk to people. Boom.

My self-help book will be out soon.

i always did this and it took me forever :'(

No guarantess, it's in the disclaimer.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 05, 2014, 08:36:49 PM

Awkward thing #1: Resolved :rejoice
Awkward thing #2: Escalated horribly :fbm

(#1 is the work thing, #2 is the thing I didn't talk about here.)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on July 06, 2014, 02:18:31 PM

ok, I took the extreme step of sending a facebook friend request to woman I'm super attracted to who tried to kiss me earlier. this feels kind of stalker-ish because we never talked about contact methods or facebook or anything, and she doesn't seem to have posted any facebook stuff since March and I suspect she barely uses facebook and has possibly turned anti-facebook finding it creepy in general. and she's been kind of cold towards me the last couple times we ran into each other, she sees me and gives me a hug but then we barely talk. (she might have a new boyfriend also)

but otoh, I don't know any other way to contact her, and it just feels ridiculous that we are two people who were at least at one moment in time mutually attracted to each other, and I just go places hoping she'll randomly show up, and I think she might actually do the same since she was asking me if I had a certain schedule for when I went to a place she goes to (answer: not really). unless my model of her feelings is completely delusional and she was asking for purposes of avoiding me, lol.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 06, 2014, 02:34:22 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on July 06, 2014, 05:02:01 AM

Keep us updated!

No fucking way lol. #2 is so bad brehs, it's like Zack Morris "I fucked up" tier. I didn't even get to have sex (and am definitely NOT going to have sex), which is at least how I used to console myself when I got into these situations as a lad. :goty2

I was honest too! (That's how I cleared up #1 as well, being honest is actually pretty rad brehs. It's up there with crying when you feel sad imo.) And instead I got, "I'm not looking for the perfect man anymore." :mindblown

I already hate dating people in my age group, the desperation is palpable. :comeon

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on July 06, 2014, 02:41:30 PM

what is yr age group?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 06, 2014, 02:47:27 PM

Late 20s.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on July 06, 2014, 02:53:30 PM

lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 06, 2014, 02:56:01 PM

ikr

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 06, 2014, 03:07:22 PM

Quote from: Karakand on July 05, 2014, 03:59:49 PM

I should just go find a book club, do the ones single women attend (if such a book club even exists) read real books?

There are even clubs for specific genres. You gotta find 'em though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 06, 2014, 03:21:22 PM

Damn... :ohhh

Oh wait it's Biz using that term. :neogaf

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Still something to consider, however. :larry

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Meetup seemed like a wash for OC (which doesn't surprise me given its rampant philistinism), I'll try LA proper and maybe have some better luck.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 06, 2014, 03:23:17 PM

Just join a bunch of clubs and try some volunteering. Don't hope you'll met a woman but it's inevitable once you start actually doing shit other than work and internet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on July 06, 2014, 03:25:11 PM

To me it's important to at least have some legit interest in the ostensible reason for the meetup. If I do that + have enough things going on at once that I don't need to have any particular expectation of meeting anyone at any individual event or group, I think I'm OK.

I do mentally tally/estimate the gender ratio everywhere I go tho, lol. creepy as fuck probably

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 06, 2014, 03:28:16 PM

You, me, and TVC. :noah

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on July 06, 2014, 03:23:17 PM

Just join a bunch of clubs and try some volunteering. Don't hope you'll met a woman but it's inevitable once you start actually doing shit other than work and internet.

Finding a volunteer organization has been on my to-do list for awhile (2-3 weeks). Gonna get a list together tonight and make some calls tomorrow... unfortunately it has to be weekend only.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 06, 2014, 09:52:32 PM

I had a date cancel on me tonight, Soo... video games? YUP!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on July 07, 2014, 08:25:56 AM

I was extremely nauseous before last nights date and vomited what seemed like a few days worth of food before we met (this probably had less to do with nerves and more to do with all the adderall I've been taking). Despite feeling terrible, the date went really well. Girl is legit, and really cute too.

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The obscurity of her interests :noah

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Date 3 coming up :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 07, 2014, 08:28:02 AM

give us an example of this obscurity. I was talking to a friend who complained about this shit. He went on a OKC date with a chick whose profile mentioned she often makes obscure pop culture references. During the date she then proceeded to make references to minor Harry Potter characters multiple times - including Luna Lovegood who isn't even technically a "minor" Harry Potter character.

:heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 07, 2014, 08:41:10 AM

Quote from: Karakand on July 06, 2014, 02:47:27 PM

Late 20s.

Pffft, that's fucking nothing. Wait until you're in your late 30's.

I fucked around with my profile yesterday, messaged a bunch of women, and got 2 numbers. Lunch date tomorrow with one and a potential date Friday with the other. We'll see. I am starting to suspect that I'm far better in print than in person, which is not good for me I think, cause I'm already not that charming and funny in print.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on July 07, 2014, 08:41:52 AM

The girl I saw a couple of times before this one worked at a bookstore but the only books she actually had interest in was Harry Potter :picard

Current girl is really in to avant-garde jazz (she spent a lot of time in undergrad working at a digital archive that wanted to preserve that sound) and I can't really remember the names of the authors she's big on, only that I'm sure I've never heard them come up in conversation before. She doesn't sprinkle these things in to casual conversation, you'd really have to ask before she'd mention it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 07, 2014, 08:53:45 AM

Harry Potter is like the female equivalent of dudes who parade their Christopher Nolan film appreciation (or Fight Club...). Sure it's cool or whatever, but if that's the height of your interest in the medium or a means of showing you like "good shit" then gtfo from me.

I made the mistake of having Harry Potter listed on my books list on OKC. I generally like the series, and while I recognize its flaws now tbh I haven't touched it since finished the last book. I'll re-read it one day, probably when I have kids or nephews.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 07, 2014, 11:24:09 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 07, 2014, 08:41:10 AM

Pffft, that's fucking nothing. Wait until you're in your late 30's.

I'm extrapolating what this might be like from what it's like now and :stahp.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 07, 2014, 09:38:32 PM

I met a girl on OKC who wrote that her music taste was "eclectic" and I thought it was cute and witty how she used that word ironically. Eventually I asked her after a few days to tell me about some of the eclectic bands she listens to because I'm the type that makes small talk during foreplay and she's telling me about Avenged Sevenfold, Linkin Park, etc. I'm far from a music snob but I lost a boner for a minute and had to pretend like she couldn't notice.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on July 07, 2014, 10:02:56 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on July 07, 2014, 09:38:32 PM

I met a girl on OKC who wrote that her music taste was "eclectic" and I thought it was cute and witty how she used that word ironically. Eventually I asked her after a few days to tell me about some of the eclectic bands she listens to because I'm the type that makes small talk during foreplay and she's telling me about Avenged Sevenfold, Linkin Park, etc. I'm far from a music snob but I lost a boner for a minute and had to pretend like she couldn't notice.

:mindblown

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 07, 2014, 11:21:33 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 07, 2014, 08:41:10 AM

Quote from: Karakand on July 06, 2014, 02:47:27 PM
Late 20s.

Pffft, that's fucking nothing. Wait until you're in your late 30's.

I fucked around with my profile yesterday, messaged a bunch of women, and got 2 numbers. Lunch date tomorrow with one and a potential date Friday with the other. We'll see. I am starting to suspect that I'm far better in print than in person, which is not good for me I think, cause I'm already not that charming and funny in print.

The fact that you have some semblance of command of the English language already puts you ahead of a significant portion of the OKC population.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 08, 2014, 08:35:10 PM

Speaking of OKC. That site keeps on reminding me why I need to go to bars more. :lol

Saw a chick that looked like my type but turns out she's a furry with Aspergers.

God can be so cruel. :shaq2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on July 08, 2014, 08:46:56 PM

You're not just limited to bars, matey.

Widen your friend circle, take part of hobbies and stuff that get you in contact with people, yadda-yadda.
But I know that feel, OKC is a bit of a crackshot.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 08, 2014, 09:10:29 PM

While the site I use is kind of bizarre in its own ways, I am damn glad I'm not using OKC. :holeup

However after thinking a lot about myself thanks to that ACA discussion in the random talk thread, idk if I should even try and be meeting people for the time being. I don't think there's really a way to swords to plowshare not trusting partners who aren't exploitative in some respect while being utterly unable to trust anyone who isn't.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on July 09, 2014, 03:12:58 AM

What site do you use? I liked okc fine back in the day but it feels really scuzzy now, the way of all services that gotta monetize I guess.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on July 09, 2014, 04:10:20 AM

It seems to me that OKC have more liberal, young people.
Other sites like PoF or Match.com seem to be filled with old ones, and conservatives.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 09, 2014, 11:06:25 AM

Furry aspie sounds about right for you dude

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 09, 2014, 01:40:23 PM

Well, on my bad days I am a neurotic, creepy, and unhinged piece of shit who probably does deserve the companionship of someone who obsessively writes fur fan fiction.
:yeshrug

But I'm trying to remedy that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on July 09, 2014, 03:59:56 PM

Quote from: Atramental on July 09, 2014, 01:40:23 PM

Well, on my bad days I am a neurotic, creepy, and unhinged piece of shit who probably does deserve the companionship of someone who obsessively writes fur fan fiction.
:yeshrug

But I'm trying to remedy that.

You're posting less on here, and stopped with the creepy fem-atra gimmick, so I'd say you're def. progressing. You seem relatively normal all considering, you're just in a shitty place in life at the moment - that would have a detrimental effect on most people.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 09, 2014, 04:35:57 PM

Quote from: Atramental on July 09, 2014, 01:40:23 PM

Well, on my bad days I am a neurotic, creepy, and unhinged piece of shit who probably does deserve the companionship of someone who obsessively writes fur fan fiction.
:yeshrug

But I'm trying to remedy that.

Breh someone is interested in me and seems genuinely nice but is just is a little bit down on their luck atm while finishing their PhD and I'm literally recoiling in disgust from them because of this. :goty2

Maybe we should wifeswap.

e: Clarification - I'm recoiling from them because they seem genuinely nice.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 09, 2014, 05:20:37 PM

So that person I used "Spanish West Indies milieu" in a message to messaged me back and I think subconsciously I've taken this as a challenge to talk about the stupidest shit possible with anyone insane enough to make contact with me because I just mentioned Transnistria when talking to someone else.

:snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on July 10, 2014, 01:38:40 AM

I've decided German poetry girl is just really bad at relationship stuff. Probably not as bad as me overall, but still. Feels good to be able to blame her for a change.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on July 10, 2014, 01:51:51 AM

Like, if she wants to let me down, gently or otherwise, she could do a way better job of it. and of course if she's interested in me she could do a better job of signaling that. and if she just wants to be friends, etc.

and even supposing she were evil and purposely leading me on, she could stand to be less incompetent at THAT. I could give her all kinds of great pointers on twisting the knife in my heart.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 10, 2014, 02:38:28 AM

Give her the tips breh.

They say the strongest couples have common interests, yours could be twisting the knife in your heart.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on July 10, 2014, 02:44:05 AM

I feel like this idea of the heroine (probably) giving advice on how to break her heart properly could make a good premise for a pop song.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on July 10, 2014, 02:54:25 AM

Damn, I could probably get a whole 7" single out of tonight's drunken Bore posting session, with Homoé (What's This Feeling?) as the A-side and How to Twist the Knife as the B-side.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 10, 2014, 04:26:41 AM

Dorothy Parker fan :lawd

Fond of profanity :lawd

Misfits (band) fan :lawd

Works a demanding public service job :lawd

Sleeves :lawd

Way out of my league :fbm

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Still messaged anyway. :yeshrug

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 10, 2014, 05:00:51 AM

From message to massage

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 10, 2014, 04:49:14 PM

"But I want to know about you! [Asks a series of questions.]"

Damn, this person knows my kryptonite. :larry Sound a tactical retreat, sergeant.

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I'm just kidding about the retreat, and this isn't the person I just posted about.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: G The Resurrected on July 11, 2014, 08:52:48 AM

Should I be guilt tripping the misses for not try or attempting to do anything for my birthday? I kind of feel she doesn't care at all. I know she won't leave the house to get a card or gift, but to not at all try to do anything... I'm kind of concerned cause that doesn't seem right.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on July 11, 2014, 08:54:22 AM

You're 30 years old, Bz. Nobody cares about birthdays.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: G The Resurrected on July 11, 2014, 08:59:25 AM

30 is next year dude. I'm just going through some stuff and I got no one to talk to about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 11, 2014, 10:11:39 AM

I wish I could get my wife to forget about my birthday. She doesn't like my answer when I say I want to be able to spend one damn day just sitting in undies playing TV uninterrupted by obligations. I want to be a kid again dammit!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 11, 2014, 10:15:25 AM

Apparently here in Denmark you have to buy each other gifts for the day after the wedding.

I'm gonna give my waifu a tattoo in NYC.

She never wants anything material and this is seriously the only thing she mentioned that she wants in the last few months (a new tat).

I hope she gives me a PS4 although I told her not to spend much money cause we have a baby on the way etc.

Quote from: Mupepe on July 11, 2014, 10:11:39 AM

I wish I could get my wife to forget about my birthday. She doesn't like my answer when I say I want to be able to spend one damn day just sitting in undies playing TV uninterrupted by obligations. I want to be a kid again dammit!

Why not ask for a day like that so? :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on July 11, 2014, 10:18:56 AM

It’s Summer And If You’re Not Hopelessly In Love, You Might As Well Be Dead (http://www.clickhole.com/blogpost/its-summer-and-if-youre-not-hopelessly-love-you-mi-408)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 11, 2014, 11:16:12 AM

Quote from: Premium Lager on July 11, 2014, 10:15:25 AM

Apparently here in Denmark you have to buy each other gifts for the day after the wedding.

I'm gonna give my waifu a tattoo in NYC.

She never wants anything material and this is seriously the only thing she mentioned that she wants in the last few months (a new tat).

I hope she gives me a PS4 although I told her not to spend much money cause we have a baby on the way etc.

Quote from: Mupepe on July 11, 2014, 10:11:39 AM
I wish I could get my wife to forget about my birthday. She doesn't like my answer when I say I want to be able to spend one damn day just sitting in undies playing TV uninterrupted by obligations. I want to be a kid again dammit!

Why not ask for a day like that so? :)

I hope you get your PS4!

I did ask for that this year :lol But i think she has trouble believing that's really what I want. But it is!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 11, 2014, 12:15:36 PM

Quote from: G The Resurrected on July 11, 2014, 08:52:48 AM

Should I be guilt tripping the misses for not try or attempting to do anything for my birthday? I kind of feel she doesn't care at all. I know she won't leave the house to get a card or gift, but to not at all try to do anything... I'm kind of concerned cause that doesn't seem right.

Guilt tripping? No, but if it matters to you you should tell her clearly and ask if she doesn't care, and if she doesn't then why.

Have you as a couple been lackadaisical about gift giving occasions previously?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on July 12, 2014, 08:19:32 AM

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on July 11, 2014, 10:18:56 AM

It’s Summer And If You’re Not Hopelessly In Love, You Might As Well Be Dead (http://www.clickhole.com/blogpost/its-summer-and-if-youre-not-hopelessly-love-you-mi-408)

There's always the car.

(http://38.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m3kuurEd7F1qb9pa3o1_500.gif)

I don't own a car :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 12, 2014, 08:38:52 AM

Today's the last day of my relationship. She'll be on her way to Texas by the time I wake up on Sunday.

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on July 12, 2014, 08:45:31 AM

Quote from: G The Resurrected on July 11, 2014, 08:52:48 AM

Should I be guilt tripping the misses for not try or attempting to do anything for my birthday? I kind of feel she doesn't care at all. I know she won't leave the house to get a card or gift, but to not at all try to do anything... I'm kind of concerned cause that doesn't seem right.

From another thread:

Quote from: G The Resurrected on July 06, 2014, 11:02:19 PM

I'm getting more and more distraught with Roxanne's family about my birthday dinner and gifts. I have to consider so many variables when it comes to places they are OK eating at. As well as the gifts in which they can potentially get, since they want a damn list of local shit to buy. I don't even care anymore at this point, I just want it to be over with.

Maybe that's why.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 12, 2014, 09:20:43 AM

G, hypothetically would you be okay with your gf not doing anything even if she knew it would upset you even a little bit?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 12, 2014, 12:20:29 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on July 12, 2014, 08:38:52 AM

Today's the last day of my relationship. She'll be on her way to Texas by the time I wake up on Sunday.

:fbm

You tried breh, and from what I read you played about as well as you could with the cards you had. Sucks, but sometimes it goes down like that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on July 12, 2014, 01:46:21 PM

Quote from: G The Resurrected on July 11, 2014, 08:52:48 AM

Should I be guilt tripping the misses for not try or attempting to do anything for my birthday? I kind of feel she doesn't care at all. I know she won't leave the house to get a card or gift, but to not at all try to do anything... I'm kind of concerned cause that doesn't seem right.

at least she didn't hit you with a frying pan and lock you out of your own home again. Sounds like you're not being very appreciative.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 12, 2014, 01:55:52 PM

I'm really proud of myself- went out twice with a lady that had all sorts of obvious red flags that she was crazy and I shouldn't get involved with her, and I have politely let her know that I think we'd be best as friends. Normally those are the ones I have awful month long relationships with. Progress!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 12, 2014, 02:25:16 PM

Well in the same spirit of progress, I told someone whose top 2 long-term relationship priorities are (1) having kids and (2) finding someone they can (emotionally) support / be supported (emotionally) by that (1) I can't even consider kids for 5+ years and that they're kind of too old to wait that long and (2) emotional support is wasted on someone like me and the support I offer is very hard-nosed, not emotional.

I can't wait for a monther with someone crazy again though. :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 12, 2014, 02:31:07 PM

I'm surprisingly dating a lot- have a date with one lady tomorrow and another with a different lady Monday night. I blatantly state in any dating profile that I don't want kids, ever, but that shit keeps coming up. Women are baby crazy around my age. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 12, 2014, 03:12:26 PM

Yeah, it's already a noticeable thing in my bracket, I can only imagine how bad it is in the double overtime that you play in. :holeup

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Politically: Green
Can't live without: my iPhone

www.motherjones.com/environment/2012/11/rare-earth-elements-iphone-malaysia :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: G The Resurrected on July 12, 2014, 03:14:53 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on July 12, 2014, 09:20:43 AM

G, hypothetically would you be okay with your gf not doing anything even if she knew it would upset you even a little bit?

I'm ok with it as long as it's the expected and natural response for her. I just don't see it that way and since I try so hard to make every birthday a special occasion it's hard when someone isn't willing to even put a little effort into something. Especially since I'm so willing to do so.

Quote from: Karakand on July 11, 2014, 12:15:36 PM

Guilt tripping? No, but if it matters to you you should tell her clearly and ask if she doesn't care, and if she doesn't then why.

Have you as a couple been lackadaisical about gift giving occasions previously?

This is just her MO I guess since last year the same shit happened. And I can't even remember the year before that. So I just deal with it, even if it depresses me a little.

We can't even celebrate today because of her family dictating when we can go out and enjoy ourselves. I suggested we go out today and she isn't having it at all. Saying that it'd ruin wednesday when we get together with her family. I'm just entertaining their idea of getting together as I don't think it's as much about me as it is them. I'm not trying to sound like i'm high and mighty, but if I want to celebrate on my birthday I should be allowed to.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 12, 2014, 03:37:12 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on July 12, 2014, 08:38:52 AM

Today's the last day of my relationship. She'll be on her way to Texas by the time I wake up on Sunday.

:fbm

I'm so sorry, buddy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on July 12, 2014, 04:56:20 PM

I'm happy for you :)
Your days of playing guitar for koreans in an attempt to woo them is hopefully over now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 12, 2014, 06:34:46 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on July 12, 2014, 08:38:52 AM

Today's the last day of my relationship. She'll be on her way to Texas by the time I wake up on Sunday.

:fbm

Sorry to hear that, Fistful.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on July 12, 2014, 06:59:31 PM

Quote from: Karakand on July 12, 2014, 03:12:26 PM

Yeah, it's already a noticeable thing in my bracket, I can only imagine how bad it is in the double overtime that you play in. :holeup

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Politically: Green
Can't live without: my iPhone

www.motherjones.com/environment/2012/11/rare-earth-elements-iphone-malaysia :hitler

How old are you guys?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 12, 2014, 07:02:38 PM

I'm 37, I think Kara is in his late 20's.

Dudes, I'm telling you- dating women in their mid 30's is a total double edged sword. They like having sex way more, but they're also fighting the biological imperative to HAVE SO MANY FUCKING KIDS RIGHT NOW. If you don't want to spawn, that shit is so rough to deal with in this age bracket. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on July 12, 2014, 07:15:15 PM

Sadly feel like that kinda dating game is in my future. About to be 26 here and If I can get a relationship to last longer than a month it's a miracle.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on July 12, 2014, 07:40:38 PM

tie your tubes, old breh. baby crazed women might not hear you if you say you don't want kids, but they'll def hear you if you say you can't.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on July 12, 2014, 07:42:17 PM

Quote from: Brobzoid on July 12, 2014, 07:40:38 PM

tie your tubes, old breh. baby crazed women might not hear you if you say you don't want kids, but they'll def hear you if you say you can't.

The issue with that is that some women, even if they don't want kids, will view this as a sign of reduced masculinity.

Virility is a very attractive trait, whether or not you're spurting it out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on July 12, 2014, 07:43:07 PM

I really think there should be more of a middle ground between having a kid and not having a kid, and maybe it'll take fundamental upgrades to our biological technology to achieve this. Like if instead of taking nine months to produce an entire person there was a way for a woman to spend a few weeks and give birth to an individual organ, which could then be assembled together with organs produced by X other women to make a child for which each involved mother and father would have 1/(2X) responsibility, that could be great.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 12, 2014, 07:43:50 PM

I'm a lil older than you, Toku.

Your age is fine now, 26/27 year old's I've been chatting with seem fine. It's 30+ where I'm like :holeup.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 12, 2014, 08:14:29 PM

Quote from: Squiddy on July 12, 2014, 07:42:17 PM

Quote from: Brobzoid on July 12, 2014, 07:40:38 PM
tie your tubes, old breh. baby crazed women might not hear you if you say you don't want kids, but they'll def hear you if you say you can't.

The issue with that is that some women, even if they don't want kids, will view this as a sign of reduced masculinity.

Virility is a very attractive trait, whether or not you're spurting it out.

Shut.

Up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 12, 2014, 08:22:00 PM

27. Been in somewhat of a early year/summer fling that's probably going to end soon. But I knew this would happen so I'm not really upset; had fun, felt good, etc. But at this point I can't be involved with college age chicks unless they've got their shit in order.

M

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on July 12, 2014, 09:03:46 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 12, 2014, 08:22:00 PM

27. Been in somewhat of a early year/summer fling that's probably going to end soon. But I knew this would happen so I'm not really upset; had fun, felt good, etc. But at this point I can't be involved with college age chicks unless they've got their shit in order.

M

Yeah this is kinda what I do. Month or so long flings twice a couple times a year. My main problem, and this kinda hurts work life too, is I just can't be around ppl like this all the time. I see you all week, I'm not gonna want to see you at all on the weeknd. So I get to a point with these girls where they're texting me all throughout the day, and they want just hang out and be around when I just want to not see or hear from them for at least 24 hours you know? The last time I was with a girl that actually made me feel like "wow I wish I could see you all the time" was high school.

I tried living with a girl I was seeing once and it was fucking disastrous.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 12, 2014, 09:15:21 PM

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 12, 2014, 09:19:46 PM

everything is awful

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 12, 2014, 09:23:10 PM

everything in this apartment is from the last two months

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 12, 2014, 09:23:27 PM

Fistful, people rarely have their first relationship end in such a sane, amicable way (I definitely didn't). While it sucks to end it, you'll see that you're set up right emotionally for the future.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 12, 2014, 09:25:36 PM

:larry thanks

doesnt really help tho

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 12, 2014, 09:28:24 PM

i just want to be a mopey loser for awhile that everyone hates being around

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 12, 2014, 09:32:58 PM

so, hope you all enjoy that for the next week or two or whatever

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 12, 2014, 09:46:03 PM

Quote from: toku on July 12, 2014, 09:03:46 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 12, 2014, 08:22:00 PM
27. Been in somewhat of a early year/summer fling that's probably going to end soon. But I knew this would happen so I'm not really upset; had fun, felt good, etc. But at this point I can't be involved with college age chicks unless they've got their shit in order.

M

Yeah this is kinda what I do. Month or so long flings twice a couple times a year. My main problem, and this kinda hurts work life too, is I just can't be around ppl like this all the time. I see you all week, I'm not gonna want to see you at all on the weeknd. So I get to a point with these girls where they're texting me all throughout the day, and they want just hang out and be around when I just want to not see or hear from them for at least 24 hours you know? The last time I was with a girl that actually made me feel like "wow I wish I could see you all the time" was high school.

I tried living with a girl I was seeing once and it was fucking disastrous.

I'll never understand the "text 24/7" thing, or how people honestly get MAD if you don't respond immediately. I have shit to do. If you want to hang out fine, but don't talk to me all day in texts. And on the weekends...don't most people like having a considerable amount of "me time" before having to go back to work on Monday? I don't want to spend my weekend with just about anyone...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 12, 2014, 10:11:14 PM

My ex and I used Couple and talked like a billion times a day with it. It was great. :lawd

I miss it so much. :tocry

I used to be in the phase you are in toku, but then I found a 10 and I didn't care about needing 24 hours of silence. It can happen.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 12, 2014, 10:24:57 PM

being alone in this city isn't helping

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 12, 2014, 11:05:36 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on July 12, 2014, 10:24:57 PM

being alone in this city isn't helping

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cMLiFpecgVg

Just cry it out breh. I've discovered crying rules the last 2 months, shit is like a fucking superpower.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on July 12, 2014, 11:47:32 PM

Quote from: Karakand on July 12, 2014, 10:11:14 PM

My ex and I used Couple and talked like a billion times a day with it. It was great. :lawd

we used to do that and then just started using gchat (or google hangouts or whatever they call it now)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 12, 2014, 11:49:18 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on July 12, 2014, 10:24:57 PM

being alone in this city isn't helping

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 12, 2014, 11:50:38 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on July 12, 2014, 11:47:32 PM

we used to do that and then just started using gchat (or google hangouts or whatever they call it now)

Son I am really disappointed in you. Do you have any idea how many cheap laughs there are to be had thanks to Couple's suite of absurd emoticons?

I miss using them. :tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on July 12, 2014, 11:58:31 PM

Quote from: Karakand on July 12, 2014, 11:50:38 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on July 12, 2014, 11:47:32 PM
we used to do that and then just started using gchat (or google hangouts or whatever they call it now)

Son I am really disappointed in you. Do you have any idea how many cheap laughs there are to be had thanks to Couple's suite of absurd emoticons?

I miss using them. :tocry

:(

couple was being shitty occasionally so we just switched it up

although she didn't enjoy those emoticons nearly as much as i did

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 13, 2014, 12:02:21 AM

It's murder on batteries too. (At least the battery on my phone.)

When I uninstalled it I was like, "Wait I don't have to charge my phone every day now?" :leon

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 13, 2014, 02:36:48 AM

decided not to sleep tonight and just stick with my nigh shift schedule since i dont have to worry about being with anyone at regular hours. up all night!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 13, 2014, 02:41:27 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on July 13, 2014, 02:36:48 AM

decided not to sleep tonight and just stick with my nigh shift schedule since i dont have to worry about being with anyone at regular hours. up all night!

you decided not to move to Texas?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on July 13, 2014, 02:42:22 AM

Exgf that was still trying to reconnect two months after we broke up is coming back to town and if she hits me up...I don't think I'm gonna be strong enough. It's been a year but I'm definitely more in a hole than usual .

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 13, 2014, 02:43:20 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 13, 2014, 02:41:27 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on July 13, 2014, 02:36:48 AM
decided not to sleep tonight and just stick with my nigh shift schedule since i dont have to worry about being with anyone at regular hours. up all night!

you decided not to move to Texas?

of course. it was silly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 13, 2014, 03:06:10 AM

Quote from: toku on July 13, 2014, 02:42:22 AM

Exgf that was still trying to reconnect two months after we broke up is coming back to town and if she hits me up...I don't think I'm gonna be strong enough. It's been a year but I'm definitely more in a hole than usual .

Recall the worst moments rather than the best.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 13, 2014, 03:30:49 AM

Quote from: toku on July 13, 2014, 02:42:22 AM

Exgf that was still trying to reconnect two months after we broke up is coming back to town and if she hits me up...I don't think I'm gonna be strong enough. It's been a year but I'm definitely more in a hole than usual .

Unless you broke up because you were a shithead, shit's just going to be a land war in Asia breh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: G The Resurrected on July 13, 2014, 04:02:12 AM

Just wanted to say thanks to Karakand and acknowledge that they helped me realize something. And because of that I was able to have an amazing day with Roxanne.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on July 13, 2014, 04:31:13 AM

CO₂

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 13, 2014, 01:08:07 PM

Quote from: toku on July 13, 2014, 02:42:22 AM

Exgf that was still trying to reconnect two months after we broke up is coming back to town and if she hits me up...I don't think I'm gonna be strong enough. It's been a year but I'm definitely more in a hole than usual .

Depends on what she means by "reconnect." If she just wants to chill and possibly fuck...who cares. If it's more...be strong. Just be open about it and see where her head is.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 13, 2014, 02:49:10 PM

Not a complete mess like I was last night. Now that feeling is reserved for the times any memory decides to enter my brain. Which is basically when I look at anything in this apartment.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: BlackMage on July 13, 2014, 02:50:48 PM

I have a really weird sense of humor, apparently. People take my self-deprecation, as serious too much. I'm pretty confident person, but I enjoy laughing at myself.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on July 13, 2014, 03:17:45 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on July 13, 2014, 03:06:10 AM

Quote from: toku on July 13, 2014, 02:42:22 AM
Exgf that was still trying to reconnect two months after we broke up is coming back to town and if she hits me up...I don't think I'm gonna be strong enough. It's been a year but I'm definitely more in a hole than usual .

Recall the worst moments rather than the best.

This so much!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 13, 2014, 09:16:54 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on July 13, 2014, 02:49:10 PM

Not a complete mess like I was last night. Now that feeling is reserved for the times any memory decides to enter my brain. Which is basically when I look at anything in this apartment.

Occasionally (more so of late) I still vividly remember the first kiss I got from the first person I was ever in love with and that shit was almost 10 years ago now. :beli

Involuntary memory sucks, you can only make new ones to keep the painful ones at bay. :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on July 13, 2014, 10:24:58 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/fQUyfVG.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 13, 2014, 10:29:26 PM

Ooooo.

That comic hits too close to home. :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 13, 2014, 10:36:42 PM

I used to be really into Mrs. doubtfire. In preschool, all of us boys would take the dresses from the costume closet and run around while the girls tried to kiss us and give us cooties. I guess what I'm saying is love is complicated.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 15, 2014, 06:05:04 AM

was feeling particularly shitty at work and started the whole 'tinder' process but stopped because i realized i ain't ready for that shit right now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 15, 2014, 11:59:01 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on July 15, 2014, 06:05:04 AM

was feeling particularly shitty at work and started the whole 'tinder' process but stopped because i realized i ain't ready for that shit right now.

Probably not.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 15, 2014, 05:37:13 PM

A Fox News fan messaged me. (http://i.imgur.com/Wl3mHXN.png)

spoiler (click to show/hide)

I messaged back. (http://i.imgur.com/9nhsYyc.png)

[close]

If only this site let me put something more explicit than "other" for my political viewpoint. :ussrcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TEEEPO on July 15, 2014, 05:42:03 PM

Quote from: BlackMage on July 13, 2014, 02:50:48 PM

I have a really weird sense of humor, apparently. People take my self-deprecation, as serious too much. I'm pretty confident person, but I enjoy laughing at myself.

i had called myself a terrorist because of my jihadist beard on a third date and my date called me a racist with the most disgusted and judgmental look she could possibly give

:kobeyuck

she wasn't even white

:mindblown

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 15, 2014, 05:54:05 PM

Are we talking like a legit Arabist or a "I like couscous (which isn't even Arab :teehee) and belly dancing" type here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 15, 2014, 06:12:31 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/Wl3mHXN.png)

Once I was in an Islamics course and was sitting in the front row with all the other tryhards (this was when I was passionate about being at a world renown university, myself, and being successful :heh) and one of the ghareebas next to me told our hilarious professor (they were an Ismaili who loved trolling Sunnis, the reactions they provoked in lecture made Islamics 101 so entertaining :lawd) that they were taking Arabic through the campus extension... I imagine to try and impress the professor or something maybe. I probably shouldn't speculate.

So the professor asked back (in Arabic) "Once a week?" and the ghareeba next to me didn't understand but couldn't even ask the professor to repeat themselves (in Arabic) and so just sort of looked at them awkwardly. So the professor asks the same question (in Arabic) 3 or 4 more times and finally in utter frustration I interrupt with, "They want to know if your class is once a week," :beli to the ghareeba.

Then the professor was like :leon (in Arabic) "You speak Arabic?" to me and I was all, "Shwaya." :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 15, 2014, 08:58:14 PM

it's unfortunate the whole 'making friends' thing got sidetracked due to my linear thought processes once i started dating. as such i'm back to square one and once again trying to finally pull the trigger on attending a meetup group.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 15, 2014, 09:00:18 PM

the entire situation can best be described with the sound of a wet fart

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on July 15, 2014, 09:02:53 PM

Go to the meet up group. Have fun. I'm rooting for you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 15, 2014, 09:08:52 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on July 15, 2014, 08:58:14 PM

it's unfortunate the whole 'making friends' thing got sidetracked due to my linear thought processes once i started dating. as such i'm back to square one and once again trying to finally pull the trigger on attending a meetup group.

did things end with your gf on good grounds? As in just "let's not try long distance, and just be friends?"

with your new found confidence I think you'll do fine

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 15, 2014, 09:12:16 PM

basically. yes.

but i'm most definitely still hung up on her so there's that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 16, 2014, 12:52:23 AM

The Yenta A.I. that runs my dating site wants me to be James Taggart.

If you get that reference I'd laugh at you but I also get it since I've read Atlas Shrugged. :fbm :snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 16, 2014, 01:53:32 AM

So, the one date I went on Sunday was meeeeeh, no chemistry at all.

Last night was better, but she's been blowing up my phone with texts and shit today. I kind of like her but I don't really dig her THAT much. Guess I'm gonna let her know it's not happening. Ugh.

I'm half tempted to just shut shit down and worry about this nonsense later this year after I've lost a bunch more weight- still making slow but steady progress there, and I haven't even joined a gym yet, which I will soon. Also, a friend I haven't seen in 7 years is in town this weekend, there's a bunch of work bullshit going on, and next weekend I'm driving up to Cooperstown with my best friend to see Maddux, Glavine and wife beatin' Bobby Cox all get inducted into the baseball Hall of Fame. In short, I have no free time for the next several weeks, so of course this is when several hot women have just messaged me asking about going out. For the love of fuck.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on July 17, 2014, 03:24:49 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on July 15, 2014, 08:58:14 PM

it's unfortunate the whole 'making friends' thing got sidetracked due to my linear thought processes once i started dating. as such i'm back to square one and once again trying to finally pull the trigger on attending a meetup group.

Dont feel bad. Many people who get tied up with a woman forget about all their prior friends and relationships.

It's definitely a :umad for me. Fuck that bitch. Bros > Hoes

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 18, 2014, 07:46:55 PM

I'm really lucky that I make friends quickly because yeah, I did the same thing. (Doesn't help when your partner is also your best friend.)

Up to a couple new ones now doe and I'm not even really going out much yet. :whew

I'm also really lucky that my closest friend still kept in contact with me when I blew off everyone else, it just sucks trying to arrange anything with them now that I'm able to again since they got married in the interim and don't really have as much free time because of that and their job.

Keep your own life too brehs, basically.

On a more on topic note, I have been striking out more than Chris Carter ca. 2013 over the past 2 weeks. Sweet, sweet rejection. :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 21, 2014, 12:06:41 AM

:rejoice 4 rye and gingers, a fat ass half Korean chick, and probably weeks of awkwardness

Let's hear it for poor life decisions, brehs

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: G The Resurrected on July 21, 2014, 12:11:32 AM

that's not a poor life decision that's motivation to get out of the hole you're in an into a better hole down the road.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on July 21, 2014, 12:40:19 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 21, 2014, 12:06:41 AM

:rejoice 4 rye and gingers, a fat ass half Korean chick, and probably weeks of awkwardness

Let's hear it for poor life decisions, brehs

Sounds like a good time to me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 21, 2014, 10:29:46 AM

now is she fat or does she just have a fat ass? I'm confused. Pics please

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on July 21, 2014, 10:48:32 AM

Quote from: Karakand on July 15, 2014, 05:37:13 PM

A Fox News fan messaged me. (http://i.imgur.com/Wl3mHXN.png)

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I messaged back. (http://i.imgur.com/9nhsYyc.png)
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If only this site let me put something more explicit than "other" for my political viewpoint. :ussrcry

I was dating a hardcore conservative chick once....well, more just hooking up. I'm not very political, so whatever I just avoided the subject, but it kinda got weird when (this was in 2012) we were together when Obama got re-elected and she started crying and saying word-for-word "why won't somebody shoot that distinguished black fellow". I was like :holeup.

Still kept hitting it for awhile. :jawalrus Fuck it, pussy's pussy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 21, 2014, 11:15:47 AM

Quote from: king of the internet on July 21, 2014, 10:48:32 AM

Quote from: Karakand on July 15, 2014, 05:37:13 PM
A Fox News fan messaged me. (http://i.imgur.com/Wl3mHXN.png)

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I messaged back. (http://i.imgur.com/9nhsYyc.png)
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If only this site let me put something more explicit than "other" for my political viewpoint. :ussrcry

I was dating a hardcore conservative chick once....well, more just hooking up. I'm not very political, so whatever I just avoided the subject, but it kinda got weird when (this was in 2012) we were together when Obama got re-elected and she started crying and saying word-for-word "why won't somebody shoot that distinguished black fellow". I was like :holeup.

Still kept hitting it for awhile. :jawalrus Fuck it, pussy's pussy.

The racist ones are the ones that want the BBC the most. Should have used it for dirty talking so that at least when you ditch her she's gotta admit to herself that all she wants is to be pounded by a brotha

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 21, 2014, 12:05:16 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on July 21, 2014, 10:29:46 AM

now is she fat or does she just have a fat ass? I'm confused. Pics please

Yes and yes, and no pics. She's nice but she's super needy and not really my type. Got drunk and made a series of increasingly poor decisions... gonna get awkward tonight probably, best just to nip this shit in the bud really quick.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 21, 2014, 08:25:32 PM

Everything gets so fucking heavy with age, breh. It's better to respect other people's finite time and cut your losses early if you have serious misgivings about something in their personality instead of ignoring that and trying to maximize the good time you can get before the serious misgiving comes to a head.

I did that recently with someone I had a ton in common with and a bunch of chemistry because I knew the person would be too invasive of my emotional space if we were in an actual relationship and that would eventually destroy the relationship. Guess what? We're just friends and they fucking invade my emotional space all the time. And I don't mean in a "asking me to share my feelings in a respectful manner that lets me share what I can share within my comfort zone," I mean god damn invasive. I've had less invasive shrinks, fer chrissake.

Speaking of "so fucking heavy at this age" dating, the other day someone broke the ice with me by asking, "What are you willing to fight for?" :what I can't exactly say, "the liberation of all individuals from alienating work, and therefore the freedom from having to work in order to subsist," before the first date. :ussrcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on July 21, 2014, 08:39:18 PM

You should have just said it. Don't be afraid to be yourself Karkand.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on July 21, 2014, 08:54:10 PM

the answer is pussy. always answer with pussy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 21, 2014, 09:30:20 PM

Quote from: toku on July 21, 2014, 08:39:18 PM

You should have just said it. Don't be afraid to be yourself Karkand.

:heh Wouldn't you be if you were me?

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The answer to this question depends upon how much you read my LJ shitposting, I suppose. :larry

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On a related note, after the bidness thing I went to on Friday night I hung out with a friend and we shared our feelings (:yuck) over some beers. In the midst of this I evaded answering a question concretely that I didn't really need to be so evasive about so Imma gonna tell them the whole truth next time we hang. Might as well get used to airing out painful shit with people that are just friends.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 21, 2014, 11:53:36 PM

Quote from: Karakand on July 21, 2014, 08:25:32 PM

Everything gets so fucking heavy with age, breh. It's better to respect other people's finite time and cut your losses early if you have serious misgivings about something in their personality instead of ignoring that and trying to maximize the good time you can get before the serious misgiving comes to a head.

And then you're SO old the bargaining starts and it reverses to where you ignore one (two, three, four, five minor and two major) misgivings just so you don't have to live alone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on July 21, 2014, 11:58:29 PM

i wonder what those dudes who are virgins and want someone of equal or very low sexual experience do when they hit their 30s-40s.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 22, 2014, 12:00:21 AM

They go on vacation to Thailand. Possibly bring over a bride from the Phillipines, but maybe that's passed. Oh, and they might collect Realdolls.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 22, 2014, 12:30:35 AM

i'm finding myself sitting here with the facebook chat thing open staring at the blinking cursor trying to decide if i should contact her. i'm feeling that doing this would mean closure, would allow me to stop living inside my head.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 22, 2014, 12:33:41 AM

That's the exact opposite that it would mean. Your head doesn't want closure, it wants her back, so it tricks you into thinking that talking to her will bring you closure.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 22, 2014, 12:45:28 AM

:-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 22, 2014, 12:50:16 AM

Hang in there. We've all had this shitty experience. If it makes it any easier, you definitely do NOT want her to talk about the guys she's seeing, or worse, your replacement. You also don't want her to lie to you. So just keep your distance until it doesn't hurt any more.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 22, 2014, 12:57:31 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on July 22, 2014, 12:30:35 AM

i'm finding myself sitting here with the facebook chat thing open staring at the blinking cursor trying to decide if i should contact her. i'm feeling that doing this would mean closure, would allow me to stop living inside my head.

I got closure from sending one last email, but it was very painful closure and compounded my rejection.

You left on good terms, just let it lie. (Unless you really like being rejected.)

e: Still living in my head, too, so don't count on that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Sausage on July 22, 2014, 01:53:34 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on July 21, 2014, 11:58:29 PM

i wonder what those dudes who are virgins and want someone of equal or very low sexual experience do when they hit their 30s-40s.

(http://www.mildlypleased.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/David-Wooderson.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 22, 2014, 03:13:34 AM

Dont do it broooo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 22, 2014, 04:57:34 AM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on July 22, 2014, 03:00:11 AM

I'm going after my ex-fiance guys. Maybe I'm drunk(I am, I totally am) but I can't help but feel alone and shit when I am in that state of mind(drunk) and I kind of want some sort of female moral support cause I'm awful at meeting with gurrrrrrls.

The last girl who I got her number(if you even given enough of a shit to follow me on twitter). I told her I was only looking for something serious and she wasn't up for it :goty2

So here I am, alone, drunk, and idiotic waiting for Domino's to show up with my shitty pizza :'(

we're in the same boat brother

sans the alcohol
and pizza

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 22, 2014, 10:18:45 AM

Don't be Drake, brehs. She's awesome, she's beautiful...but you don't want the inevitable drama. And in your case fistfull, you know the long distance thing is a killer. Hold off on contacting her, and only re-commit to being her friend when you're over her. You don't want to be staring at her relationship status changes or worrying about who she's seeing now, trust me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 22, 2014, 01:06:16 PM

It might turn into a cool fetish for you if you do contact her though. Never know.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on July 23, 2014, 02:54:30 PM

Went to the gym earlier, got checked out by a brunette :-*
But I didn't have any time for that, I'm at the gym to get swole

bitches swerve

spoiler (click to show/hide)

And I didn't want to get rejected :(

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 27, 2014, 04:53:43 PM

Rejected someone else. Feels bad brehs. :goty2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 27, 2014, 05:29:36 PM

Am I in any way whatsoever humble? :gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 27, 2014, 05:31:41 PM

starting again.

realizing why i stopped in the first place (before i was contacted by her). Such an annoying process. blah.

in other news, I started talking to the ex finally.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 27, 2014, 05:42:03 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on July 27, 2014, 05:31:41 PM

in other news, I started talking to the ex finally.

How's that going?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 27, 2014, 05:45:41 PM

fine. it was just a bit of conversation last night when i was sitting at the drive in. i'll probably engage again later tonight to delve a bit into how things have been going in San An.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 27, 2014, 05:51:06 PM

Doesn't sound so bad. Good luck dealing with heavier shit if it comes up.

I don't think mine will ever contact me again as a friend, but I dread it happening pretty much every day.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 28, 2014, 12:54:28 AM

the notification sound tinder makes when there's a match is one of the most terrifying fucking things i've ever heard. holy shit.

in other news, i have no idea what to do with this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 28, 2014, 02:46:33 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/jBCrDS2.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on July 28, 2014, 03:06:58 PM

http://imgur.com/gallery/nOZHTF4

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 28, 2014, 04:26:05 PM

fistful, just try to fuck them. it's pretty simple

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on July 28, 2014, 05:25:44 PM

Quote from: Squiddy on July 28, 2014, 03:06:58 PM

http://imgur.com/gallery/nOZHTF4

Damn. Five years but he didn't want to marry her =/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 28, 2014, 06:46:50 PM

Quote from: Squiddy on July 28, 2014, 03:06:58 PM

http://imgur.com/gallery/nOZHTF4

At least he said no when you asked instead of asking you, you accepting, and then he went "lol nvm" down the road. :goty2

e: Preemptive "fuck you" to Esch for cornball emoticon replying to this post.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on July 28, 2014, 06:56:22 PM

wow i'm in pretty awful physical shape

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 28, 2014, 10:48:41 PM

been swapping messages with a chick today. got to a point where it felt right to ask her out. she seems to playing 'hard to get' with the whole 'maybeee' thing

so i'm being a bit playful back. but i dunno, should i ease off a bit? or maybe keep at it? i feel like i should easy off, casually change the subject and then swing back round to it tomorrow?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 29, 2014, 01:02:32 AM

nope. OKC. I casually eased off a bit on this one. I'll probably try for her number tomorrow.

the tinder chick is moving away soon (my fucking luck right? HA HA) so i assume that IS what she's after but fuck i don't know how to play those cards. we'll see.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on July 29, 2014, 06:18:57 AM

"Hey, I'm around X o clock, want to hang?"

Pretty much code word for "Sex, y/n?"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on July 29, 2014, 12:31:49 PM

7 months in! #milestones

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on July 29, 2014, 02:45:50 PM

"I now pronounce you the Angryfaces. You may now snort derisively at the bride."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 29, 2014, 02:58:02 PM

I'm not ready for a MrsAngryFace.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on July 29, 2014, 03:01:27 PM

all the faces

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on July 29, 2014, 03:03:21 PM

lil angry face :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 29, 2014, 03:07:31 PM

man just imagine how boring TheBore will be when StonyMason Jr and LilMrAngryFace are having logic based conversations and weighing the positives/negatives of every issue.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 29, 2014, 03:18:59 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on July 29, 2014, 03:12:00 PM

Wrathchild and PD's adopted son would be annoying enough to infuriate them into a frenzy. But hey, boys will be boys.

Especially when he starts bragging about enjoying "classics" like Carter IV and Drake albums.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 29, 2014, 04:29:35 PM

re: tinder

so should you, like actually schedule a date with one of these chicks? or what? invite back to the place? already?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 29, 2014, 07:00:03 PM

"I like to read a lot." *gets question about identifying the direct object in a sentence wrong* (Why this is even a question on a dating site?)

"Is it ever OK to lie?" Answer: No
"Have you ever lied to get out of a date?" Answer: Yes

#thedualities #theinternalcontradictions :lawd

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Still going to message. :fbm

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Still going to get rejected. :fbm :fbm

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Probably deserve to be. :fbm :fbm :fbm

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 29, 2014, 08:42:09 PM

pushed a bit to the OKC chick to go out again, but she went silent. not gonna assume the worst yet though.

the tinder chick, already swapped numbers and setup a thing for next week. gonna bring her over and make dinner so that's a thing. i gotta remember that she's not my long term interest. remember. gotta remember.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 29, 2014, 09:12:25 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on July 29, 2014, 08:42:09 PM

pushed a bit to the OKC chick to go out again, but she went silent. not gonna assume the worst yet though.

the tinder chick, already swapped numbers and setup a thing for next week. gonna bring her over and make dinner so that's a thing. i gotta remember that she's not my long term interest. remember. gotta remember.

it will probably be easy to remember when you're slipping the condom on

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on July 29, 2014, 09:23:41 PM

It'll be easiest to remember once he's a few strokes in and realizes he's basically just using her for masturbation. In that moment, you'll both be empty. I hope you get/enjoy that nut though ;)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 29, 2014, 09:34:32 PM

Emotionally vacuous sexual relationships. :aah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 29, 2014, 11:14:08 PM

Quote from: The Business on July 29, 2014, 09:17:41 PM

It will actually be hardest to remember then but we've all gotta make mistakes.

I need your validation in the fitness thread. Like right now!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 30, 2014, 12:52:04 AM

the OKC girl is playing super hard to get.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 30, 2014, 12:57:00 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on July 30, 2014, 12:52:04 AM

the OKC girl is playing super hard to get.

not after you eat her out

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 30, 2014, 01:03:22 AM

i mean... yeah. that's the plan. but getting her to finally fucking go out with me seems to be a challenge.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 30, 2014, 01:27:05 AM

Just flat out tell her that you'll suck her clit like a vacuum cleaner. :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on July 30, 2014, 01:36:33 AM

"Girl I'm just trying to eat it, maybe beat it. Only hit me back if you bout that life. Deuces." - fistfulofmetal, 2014

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 30, 2014, 10:10:39 PM

Need some help.

My fiance's doesn't have many friends. She had 3 close friends in the past 2 years, a girl and a guy and me. The girl got a bf and stopped being available, my fiance and I got in a relationship, and the other guy who I could tell liked my fiance, kept being her only close friend out of the relationship. She'd text with him and talk with him and hang out with him all the time. Then when she got in her depression about 4 months ago she became distant from everyone.

A couple of weeks ago she got out of her depression and has tried to get social with all her friends again. Her and her guy close friend hit it off back again and were back to hanging out all the time (because he doesn't work and she doesn't work and I'm at work 5 days a week) and texting and calling and then finally he told her he loved her and has only loved her and hasn't got in a relationship with anyone for the past 2 years because she is the only girl out who challenges him and he gets along with so well.

And my fiance basically said let's talk about it and spent a day out talking with him all day. She told him that she wasn't interested in a relationship and was happy in the relationship with me but she wanted to stay friends and tried to get him to move on. He said he wouldn't move on, that he'd respect our relationship but he'd never give up on her until she's married and would wait for her.

Now in my mind, this is the point where you're like "uh, that makes me uncomfortable. Goodbye". But my fiance is so afraid of losing her only friend outside our relationship and was like "ok, cool. Great!" and since then they've been talking/texting like everyday while she tries to "cheer him up" because she felt bad he was depressed from the rejection and they've been hanging out in person and basically they're totally "best buddies". It was always uncomfortable before since it was obvious to everyone that he liked her and all the times they would hang out together people would be like "who is this? I thought you were in a relationship with bebpo" and they'd take lots of pictures together like couples. They joke with each other and tease with each other all day through texts and calls and I'll be sitting in bed with my fiance and she'll be texting with him and I'm like "that's not cool".

But she doesn't get it. She keeps insisting he's just a friend and she's only treating him like how she treats all her close friends, male or female. She jokes and teases with them and talks and calls and hangs out with them. I tell her it's different because he likes her a lot and sees her as more than a friend and it makes me really uncomfortable. She's always hanging out or talking with him and I brought up "emotional cheating" but she says it's not because he's just a friend. I go "hey, let's go see a movie tonight" and she's like "hey, can this guy come too?" and I'm like "no, that makes me uncomfortable" and then she gets mad at me like it's my fault. I've been avoiding any sort of group thing where he'd be there because seeing them together makes me feel really bad, like it's seeing her with her "other boyfriend" even if there's no physical anything between them.

I'm not sure what to do. Since she won't tell this guy to back off and since he's stated he won't move on, this is just going to keep happening. It's been like this for about a week or two now and it's been putting our relationship through a rough spot. I know she won't physically cheat on me as I trust her, but it hurts that she basically spends more time with him (through texting mainly) than with me and I feel like I'm missing the time/communication part of our relationship as she's going to him for it. I've said this to her but she just sort of avoids it with "it's not like that, I love you" stuff.

I feel like the only way to get rid of this feeling is for either him to back off, or me and my fiance to break up so she can just go shack up with this guy already and I can move on with my life. What are people supposed to do in situations like this?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 30, 2014, 10:40:30 PM

Just break up with her. What's the point of dealing with nonstop drama and caring for someone if they're going to continue to do shit you're uncomfortable with? Now for me personally, I wouldn't have a problem with my girlfriend having male friends because I'm a confident guy, I'd trust my gf, etc. That's not the case with you (no offense), so the best course of action would be to make one last appeal about this, and when she continues to not listen/understand break her off.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 30, 2014, 10:42:36 PM

Homeboy isn't respecting your relationship. If he was he wouldn't be saying that to her and go on a spiel about how he wont give up.

if you really feel that strongly you two need to talk and come to some sort of consensus. Hamstringing your relationship because of this dude is basically what he would want. Communicate communicate communicate. And most importantly dont let this douche dictate the time you two spend together. Its not healthy and it will come to a head real quick.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 30, 2014, 10:52:27 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on July 30, 2014, 10:42:36 PM

Homeboy isn't respecting your relationship. If he was he wouldn't be saying that to her and go on a spiel about how he wont give up.

if you really feel that strongly you two need to talk and come to some sort of consensus. Hamstringing your relationship because of this dude is basically what he would want. Communicate communicate communicate. And most importantly dont let this douche dictate the time you two spend together. Its not healthy and it will come to a head real quick.

I try to talk to her about it to come to a consensus, but she never seems to throw out any ideas to meet halfway or even do something to reel it in a bit. And she just gets upset and we fight whenever I try to suggest her backing off.

I was just talking with her and she excuses it by saying that he is being respectful because he's never made a physical pass at her and that I shouldn't be mad because she is the one who initiates contact with him the majority of the time (basically every day, all of the time). Still feels like she's emotionally trying to get things elsewhere that she is unhappy with in our relationship instead of talking about it and figuring it out together.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: DCharlieJP on July 30, 2014, 10:52:56 PM

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I feel like the only way to get rid of this feeling is for either him to back off, or me and my fiance to break up so she can just go shack up with this guy already and I can move on with my life. What are people supposed to do in situations like this?

you're making a jump here - it sounds like even if you weren't dating she wouldn't pursue a relationship with this guy anyways. From her perspective they are friends and that's it - the fact he's declared that he loves her is obviously going to cause you some anxiety but the fact is that unless your girlfriend is complicit then nothing is going to happen - she doesn't particularly sound like she's interested in the other guy in that way.

Ultimately though, hypocrit hat on here, my wife when we started dating had a whole massive slew of male friends who she spent a great deal of time with and i did have a huge amount of misgiving and problems with it and , whilst not in all cases, i actively looked to disuade her from seeing some of her male friends #shameface. In the best cases , people who had made it clear that they were interested in her are actually the easier to get over. Lol, a certain Japanese game industry guy (that you might now) punched me in the arm and called me a "complete bastard" because i was dating her as he had hoped he'd get there eventually even after many years of having her visit her house to play games until the dead of night. You know what helped? we became friends - the guy and I.

My biggest issue was her still meeting an ex. a couple of ex's actually. Due to an absolutely brutally honest and devastating reality check at the start of our relationship which let me know -exactly- where i stood at the early stages, it made trusting what she was saying so much easier. However, even years later it didn't stop the cogs from turning - eventually though she lost touch with most of her male friends - and this ... THIS is where it -will- bite you in the ass if you aren't careful.

You put too much pressure on her to not see someone and you are slipping a noose around your neck because, especially if that leaves here with basically no friends, she will one day resent the fact that you took that away from her. My advise is simply this : as difficult as it is - have him along, YOU suggest having him over, show a level of trust regardless of the situation and let things roll. Your girlfriend has given you all the details of everything that has happened - you have no reason to distrust her and whilst part of your brain is saying "yeah, but i don't trust him" that ultimately doesn't matter. The more he see's that she's happy with you, the more he gets to know you - the easier it'll be to accept the reality and the fact that he's holding out for something that's not going to happen.

showing you are above this will pay massive dividends in the future and, frankly, if you can trust your girlfriend to not shack up with anyone else then this is basically a zero risk proposition.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 30, 2014, 10:55:08 PM

Quote from: DCharlieJP on July 30, 2014, 10:52:56 PM

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I feel like the only way to get rid of this feeling is for either him to back off, or me and my fiance to break up so she can just go shack up with this guy already and I can move on with my life. What are people supposed to do in situations like this?

you're making a jump here - it sounds like even if you weren't dating she wouldn't pursue a relationship with this guy anyways. From her perspective they are friends and that's it - the fact he's declared that he loves her is obviously going to cause you some anxiety but the fact is that unless your girlfriend is complicit then nothing is going to happen - she doesn't particularly sound like she's interested in the other guy in that way.

Ultimately though, hypocrit hat on here, my wife when we started dating had a whole massive slew of male friends who she spent a great deal of time with and i did have a huge amount of misgiving and problems with it and , whilst not in all cases, i actively looked to disuade her from seeing some of her male friends. In the best cases , people who had made it clear that they were interested in her are actually the easier to get over. Lol, a certain Japanese game industry guy (that you might now) punched me in the arm and called me a "complete bastard" because i was dating her as he had hoped he'd get there eventually even after many years of having her visit her house to play games until the dead of night. You know what helped? we became friends - the guy and I.

My biggest issue was her still meeting an ex. a couple actually. Due to an absolutely brutally honest and devastating reality check at the start of our relationship which let me know -exactly- where i stood at the early stages, it made trusting what she was saying so much easier. However, it didn't stop the cogs from turning - eventually though she lost touch with most of her male friends - and this ... THIS is where it -will- bite you in the ass if you aren't careful.

You put too much pressure on her to not see someone and you are slipping a noose around your neck because, especially if that leaves here with basically no friends, she will one day resent the fact that you took that away from her. My advise is simply this : as difficult as it is - have him along, YOU suggest having him over, show a level of trust regardless of the situation and let things roll. Your girlfriend has given you all the details of everything that has happened - you have no reason to distrust her and whilst part of your brain is saying "yeah, but i don't trust him" that ultimately doesn't matter. The more he see's that she's happy with you, the more he gets to know you - the easier it'll be to accept the reality and the fact that he's holding out for something that's not going to happen.

showing you are above this will pay massive dividends in the future and, frankly, if you can trust your girlfriend to not shack up with anyone else then this is basically a zero risk proposition.

Thanks DC, yeah that sounds like a good idea.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 31, 2014, 01:10:41 AM

Bebpo. I love you.

Please break up with your fiance for good. It's for the best. I know you may not think so, but fuck man. You're too good for that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 31, 2014, 01:13:43 AM

Also, I was having drinks with an old friend tonight, and one of her friends randomly came into the bar we were at and proceeded to basically ask me out. So, I'm still hot to late 40 somethings, I guess I've got that going for me.

Further also, I have decided that when women call me "adorable," that's code for "unfuckable." Just a hypothesis, but testing has born this out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on July 31, 2014, 01:56:48 AM

Hold up, bebs— I'm way behind. You have a fiancé?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on July 31, 2014, 02:41:27 AM

I'm going to be completely honest here: the problems you consistently have with your gf (now fiancee) have led me to believe that you're just sticking around because you believe it to be a sure thing despite all of the red flags we notice.

That being said, I have male friends who have admitted feelings or been obvious about it, you either have to trust your SO or not. If you don't consider her trustworthy maybe you're not ready to date her let alone tie the knot.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 31, 2014, 04:35:46 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 31, 2014, 01:13:43 AM

Further also, I have decided that when women call me "adorable," that's code for "unfuckable." Just a hypothesis, but testing has born this out.

I have been fucked by someone who called me adorable, but that label was not applied to me by them at the beginning of our interlude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on July 31, 2014, 04:38:33 AM

Quote from: Karakand on July 31, 2014, 04:35:46 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 31, 2014, 01:13:43 AM
Further also, I have decided that when women call me "adorable," that's code for "unfuckable." Just a hypothesis, but testing has born this out.

I have been fucked by someone who called me adorable, but that label was not applied to me by them at the beginning of our interlude.

After she saw your penis, right?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 31, 2014, 04:44:41 AM

Quote from: Rebiak on July 31, 2014, 04:38:33 AM

Quote from: Karakand on July 31, 2014, 04:35:46 AM
Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on July 31, 2014, 01:13:43 AM
Further also, I have decided that when women call me "adorable," that's code for "unfuckable." Just a hypothesis, but testing has born this out.

I have been fucked by someone who called me adorable, but that label was not applied to me by them at the beginning of our interlude.

After she saw your penis, right?

(http://static.tumblr.com/af04f38a6c2f3acfe0f5c4332b7d25ff/2g0qdnl/xp0n0uphp/tumblr_static_ayyyyy.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 31, 2014, 05:46:43 AM

Quote from: Rebiak on July 31, 2014, 04:38:33 AM

After she saw your penis, right?

We were lying on top of a bed in opposite directions (my feet were where her head was and hers at mine) one night and after a period of silence I said something sweet. I wish I could recall what it was that I said, but the specifics... elude my faculties.

Remember the particulars of guilt, remorse, debasement, minutiae, and obscurae in your life but not the circumstances of your happiness brehs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 31, 2014, 07:33:16 AM

Bebpo she sounds like she just isn't attracted to him and so would never date him for that reason but she doesn't realize how unfair it is to both guys to basically tell this dude that he can still sit on the bench as a backup.

What dcharlie said is correct, where if you cut off an SO's social circle or life progress in some way then they'll resent you years later. But I personally would not consider someone like this as a person I would want to marry since it sounds like she just doesn't understand how you feel despite how much it bothers you. It's one thing if she has a jealous friend who wished he had a chance but this guy sounds totally crazy. Ask yourself if you think she would be okay with the reverse situation.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 31, 2014, 08:01:51 AM

There are too many red flags bro. I think it would be best to break off things, and remember anything that happens afterwards isn't your fault. You've given everything to make it work, and while I disagree with your view on her male friend at the least your gf should respect or understand your view, and discuss it with you. If she can't recognize how serious it is to you, move on. Why would you marry someone that doesn't care about your feelings? Save yourself time and money.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on July 31, 2014, 08:37:37 AM

You're the one by her side, why not let her friend tag along occasionally so that he can see how strong the two of you are together?

That seems like the best way of changing his mind regarding trying to go after your SO, and she gets to keep a friend and won't develop resentment towards you over your jealousy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 31, 2014, 10:30:41 AM

bang her friend so that he realizes he's gay and no longer wants your gf. Problem solved

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 31, 2014, 12:03:23 PM

One of my shitfuck parents gave my cousin who I haven't talked to in 15 years and who has the same name as my ex as well as the same nationality (one of) my email addresses and I got this long rambling email from them this morning at the buttcrack of dawn that woke me up and could be summed up as "things will get better, just promise me that you'll take your meds."

She signed her fucking email the way my ex would too. [Name] xxxxxx

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I can understand why a romantic partner would only want to send kisses instead of hugs and kisses, but my cousin too? :goty2

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Fuck my fucking shitfuck life. Fuck everyone in my fucking shitfuck life.

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Except y'all.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 31, 2014, 12:32:55 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/JQACRDi.gif)

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Sorry. Just wanted an excuse to post this gif.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 31, 2014, 01:35:43 PM

Quote from: Karakand on July 31, 2014, 12:03:23 PM

One of my shitfuck parents gave my cousin who I haven't talked to in 15 years and who has the same name as my ex as well as the same nationality (one of) my email addresses and I got this long rambling email from them this morning at the buttcrack of dawn that woke me up and could be summed up as "things will get better, just promise me that you'll take your meds."

She signed her fucking email the way my ex would too. [Name] xxxxxx

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I can understand why a romantic partner would only want to send kisses instead of hugs and kisses, but my cousin too? :goty2
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Fuck my fucking shitfuck life. Fuck everyone in my fucking shitfuck life.

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Except y'all.
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Fuck you. This is like my dream fantasy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 31, 2014, 03:59:44 PM

I like how y'all focused on the incest angle instead of the triggering memories I'm trying to forget angle. :neogaf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 31, 2014, 05:22:01 PM

As for the red flag posts...yeah, I know and I've known for a while unfortunately. This year's been kind of a mess relationship-wise. For now I've backed off a lot on serious commitment/marriage (before I wanted to get married in 2015, my fiance wanted 2017, now I'm siding with waiting a while to see if we really want to do this). Our relationship is rocky and I'm seeing where it goes at this point. It's a reason why this guy friend made me more uncomfortable, because we have problems with our relationship and it's sort of ugh to think there's a guy waiting to just swoop in if we take a break for a bit or split up and stay friends. My SO wants us to go to couples counseling and I'm fine with that. We both do really love & care about each other and we both want to make this work, but there's a lot of red flags/problems and we're either going to work through them (would like it to go that way) or we'll split.

Quote from: Squiddy on July 31, 2014, 08:37:37 AM

You're the one by her side, why not let her friend tag along occasionally so that he can see how strong the two of you are together?

That seems like the best way of changing his mind regarding trying to go after your SO, and she gets to keep a friend and won't develop resentment towards you over your jealousy.

Yeah, he's not even a fan of it either because it hurts him emotionally to see my and my fiance together. I shouldn't let him bother me. I read some tip on a google search that basically said in a situation like this "don't let a 3rd party dictate when you can spend time with your SO" and that really struck me as true. I'm going to spend time with her and if this guy wants to tag along sometimes that's fine. I'm not going to not spend time with my SO because I'm worried about being uncomfortable around a guy friend of hers who likes her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on July 31, 2014, 06:06:36 PM

Good for you, sounds like all you needed was a pat on your back.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on July 31, 2014, 10:08:30 PM

I don't see this drama ever going away. If it's not this, it will be something else, and then something else, and so on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 01, 2014, 12:23:50 AM

it could turn into some sexy cuckold shit. is her friend black? pics plz

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on August 01, 2014, 12:32:53 AM

The point of being a couple is spending time together. Any time spent with a third party (doesn't matter who) is time being robbed from you.

Plus, any dude that is pathetic enough to try to wedge himself into a relationship via playing on the pity of a woman, is A person that you dont want in your life. They are capable of doing some crazy shit because they have such low self-esteem.

A some point, when you surround yourself with crazy and/or depressed, it infects your own mind and drags you into the well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 01, 2014, 01:51:06 AM

the ex and I had a talk

we've been having idle chat here and there. mostly me asking how things are and having her tell me about the city. etc. she then paused and basically told me she's worried I'm only having these idle chats because she doesn't think I'm ready for a casual friendship.

and she's mostly not wrong. really the reason I decided to reach out to her was because I felt the cold turkey approach wasn't working and only making things worse for me. I WANT to have her as a casual friend and the only way I felt that can happen is if i opened communication channels.

she doesn't think I'm over her.

and it's hard to come to terms if I really am? I think I'm over her enough. The relationship and the thoughts that used to plague my head are pretty much gone. They aren't relevant in my life anymore. I'm already talking to other girls and my motivations aren't isolated to just her. am I completely over her? Probably not. But I don't think cutting her off is going to help. I'll just end up thinking about her constantly. Having some kind of release - some kind of outlet - is helping me, long term.

is this all bullshit? maybe. but i feel better now.

i feel our current situation will tapper off. she'll start seeing someone, so will I. i'll be less motivated to talk to her about things. etc etc.

but the talk was good. it was something i needed to have because we never got to really do it. i felt so uncomfortable doing it and at the same time i didn't want to burden her with this during such a stressful time. so having the talk helped.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 01, 2014, 02:39:25 AM

if you mean it's not a binary state then yes, i agree.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on August 01, 2014, 01:45:01 PM

isnt she your first? probably why you are so hung up on her. its normal... to a certain point, then it gets just kinda weird and sad. you will find someone else to latch onto.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 01, 2014, 02:00:50 PM

you're probably still attached to her, you relate a very significant thing (porking) to her and her only. I was the same way, got a little clingy. this is gonna sound cold but bone some rando and see if you still have that feeling. if not, problem solved.

and bebpo, this dude probably shittalks you nonstop when he's with your girl. sure she may not feel anything for him romantically, but it's kinda fucked that she doesn't see the problem with hanging with a guy who says 'i will love you until the end of time and will not rest until you are my betrothed'.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 01, 2014, 02:33:43 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on August 01, 2014, 02:00:50 PM

you're probably still attached to her, you relate a very significant thing (porking) to her and her only. I was the same way, got a little clingy. this is gonna sound cold but bone some rando and see if you still have that feeling. if not, problem solved.

and bebpo, this dude probably shittalks you nonstop when he's with your girl. sure she may not feel anything for him romantically, but it's kinda fucked that she doesn't see the problem with hanging with a guy who says 'i will love you until the end of time and will not rest until you are my betrothed'.

honestly if this is the case it's on her to shut that shit down. If she doesn't, bebpo's got more problems than this guy trying to squeeze in. That means she's unhappy on some level.

With that said Bebpo has already said they're having problems and he thinks she's unhappy and she doesn't seem to care about how he feels about the situation.

All in all, he's in a bad spot. Relationship is already unstable, he thinks she's not being honest about how she feels and douche nozzle is horning in.

I'd honestly cut my losses with everything you've posted in the past and this current situation.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 01, 2014, 02:35:20 PM

Sorry, what I meant to post was:

(http://i51.tinypic.com/r0dzme.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 01, 2014, 02:39:34 PM

oh i'm confident it happens, and while she may try to defend him or ignore it and play it off... he should bail out. maybe that guy technically 'wins' because he gets what he wants but who gives a fuck.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on August 01, 2014, 02:55:21 PM

Bebsy wins when he gets his next SO and they're not a basket case clinging on to back up men.

Sorry to be callous, Bebpo, but it's time to cut her loose. You're not responsible for her, even if you feel like maybe you are. It's not honorable to trudge through a situation like that, it's self destructive

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 01, 2014, 03:38:08 PM

What does this guy...do? He doesn't have a job so I guess he's in school, thus allowing him time to chill with your gf all the time?

Bail out, cut contact, don't let her guilt you into anything. Let her family (and her simp friend) deal with her and move on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 01, 2014, 03:41:13 PM

Big simpin'. Smellin' like cheese. He be big simpin playin' D&D. It's that jobless chump white knightin' Bebpo's girl as he pleases.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Arbys Roast Beef Sandwich on August 01, 2014, 03:53:05 PM

Serious question, no trollin' -- how many times have ya'all been telling Bebs to dump this basketcase he's been saddled with? No offense, but it seems like anybody sane would have bailed out a long time ago. What's the underlying issue here that's causing you to still stick around, brother? Emotional attachment?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on August 01, 2014, 04:11:50 PM

Quote from: Arbys Roast Beef Sandwich on August 01, 2014, 03:53:05 PM

Serious question, no trollin' -- how many times have ya'all been telling Bebs to dump this basketcase he's been saddled with? No offense, but it seems like anybody sane would have bailed out a long time ago. What's the underlying issue here that's causing you to still stick around, brother? Emotional attachment?

Pussy on tap is powerful.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 01, 2014, 04:20:18 PM

I don't think we even know how Bebs and his fiancée got back together? They broke up a little while back... then Bebs came back asking for relationship advice and indicating they were back together.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 01, 2014, 08:08:04 PM

You can't make someone love you, Bebs. If she acts like this about relatively small stuff, how are you going to handle bigger issues? Worse yet as others pointed out, this dude she's chilling with isn't exactly being passive about his pursuit of her - he's no doubt trying to convince her why he's better for her than you. Which means that more than likely he's talking shit about you, yet she continues to hang with him.

You brought her from the brink, paid for her healthcare, presumably spent money to help her pursue her education...I'm not saying you "own" her and don't want to give that impression. All I'm saying is that given the time and effort you've put in, you would expect her to at least give your concerns some honest, mature consideration. She not only blew you off, she then asked to bring this guy on a date with you - knowing that you guys have a limited among of "couple time" as is, and knowing she has ALL DAY to chill with this guy if she wants to.

Don't feel trapped out of fear that if you leave her it'll increase her emotional problems. If you're going to call things off, be firm and don't let pity or fear change your mind. After a breakup you are no longer responsible for her; hell, you aren't responsible for her now, but you took on that responsibility because you're a decent guy. Another woman will be able to sense that about you, and hopefully she'll care about you as much as you care about her. You won't be single for long breh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 01, 2014, 08:36:19 PM

We talked it out about this situation (which got diffused, I went out to a group thing and the guy was there and could tell it was way more uncomfortable for him, so I realized I was stupid for getting so worried about it) and things are better (we hadn't had a good chance to talk about our problems for a few weeks). I'm still not committing for years and will see how this goes. I'm with her because I care about her, have fun together with her, enjoy living together, enjoy conversations together, doing things together, eating meals together, I'm really close with the cats that are both technically hers (she got the younger one after were together). She's got a great sense of humor, she's pretty, she tries to do nice things for me a lot and is very kind towards me and her friends, gives me space and let's me chill in my tv/computer room when I want. She chips in for the mortgage which is helping both of us out financially. I like her a lot, love her even though over time all the negative stuff is taking that feeling away and making it more like "like" than "love".

On the negatives she's messy and I spend the first 15 mins of waking up each day cleaning the mess up from the previous night (clothes on the floor, trash on the floor, plates and utensils still out), she's flaky and terrible at planning, she likes doing things that are a little dangerous because they're exciting (I do not like danger; for example her and a friend trailed cars picking up prostitutes just because it was something different and exciting; she prank called a KKK hotline from a fake number because it was "fun"; these things make me uncomfortable), she's a bit ditzy and doesn't think about how actions would affect me sometimes (she's working on it), we don't have a lot of hobbies in common (her hobby is reddit, science and gaming on her phone, I like movies [she does not like movies at all], game industry news and physical activity) but we do have some we like to do together (exploring/traveling, eating).

There's also logistics of her having just moved a ridiculous amount of stuff over, bought $1,000 worth of Ikea furniture which we built together and if she moved having to find a place, get movers to move it all out again, what to do about the cats, myself helping her out with her lawsuit which if I gave to another attorney there's a good chance she would flake and blow the lawsuit and not get her medical bills paid back and have to file bankruptcy.

We're sort of at a point where we both say "hey this isn't working that great and we aren't super compatible in living together [things really got exponentially worse when she moved in], but we care a lot about each other and love each other and we want to make this relationship work and last for good, so let's communicate, identify problems and openly discuss how to minimize them and make each other enjoy our company together and let's find more hobbies we can do together and enjoy spending time together". There's no negativity or anger between us. She's open to breaking up, I'm open to breaking up, but we'd both would prefer to stay together and try to make this work. I think we could probably stay as friends (not close) if we break up, and there's always the idea of taking a break for a few weeks to get some fresh air for both of us, but with some work on both sides, I think we could also have a better relationship and be happier. We'll see.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 01, 2014, 08:40:52 PM

I think the overall feel is just what everyone says and is expected of a relationship between an early 20s girl and early 30s guy. People in their 20s can be fun, cool people, but they don't have their shit together, crack under pressure, and don't really know what they want. Meanwhile early 30s people tend to know what they're doing, be responsible and not want "crazy" stuff in their life as they wanna relax and have a good responsible time. So there's always some clashing.

If this doesn't work out, the next time I date I'm only dating 35-40 year old women who have full time jobs and their life together and don't need wild and crazy excitement.

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on August 01, 2014, 08:38:15 PM

You sure it's not just freak nasty sex that you'd miss?

I'll take that as why you're still in a relationship

haha, ummm I haven't really wanted to say anything about that, but she's very shy/anxiety so sex life is...ummm...how do I put this in a public space? Satisfactory? But I am not bragging at all to anyone and it is not what is keeping me in the relationship, but I wouldn't list it as a negative either.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 01, 2014, 08:45:31 PM

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 01, 2014, 08:46:33 PM

you're both open to breaking up, and probably should, but are staying together because its comfortable. i mean this is bad enough for a dating relationship, but an engagement-to-be-married? no way.

"I now pronounce you husband and wife"

"ehhh"

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I think the overall feel is just what everyone says and is expected of a relationship between an early 20s girl and early 30s guy. People in their 20s can be fun, cool people, but they don't have their shit together, crack under pressure, and don't really know what they want. Meanwhile early 30s people tend to know what they're doing, be responsible and not want "crazy" stuff in their life as they wanna relax and have a good responsible time. So there's always some clashing.

lol don't buy into this nonsense. sure early 20s people may lack a clear direction in life but they sure as fuck aren't required to leave a scorched trail of drama everywhere they go.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 01, 2014, 08:48:44 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 01, 2014, 08:36:19 PM

We talked it out about this situation (which got diffused, I went out to a group thing and the guy was there and could tell it was way more uncomfortable for him, so I realized I was stupid for getting so worried about it) and things are better (we hadn't had a good chance to talk about our problems for a few weeks). I'm still not committing for years and will see how this goes. I'm with her because I care about her, have fun together with her, enjoy living together, enjoy conversations together, doing things together, eating meals together, I'm really close with the cats that are both technically hers (she got the younger one after were together). She's got a great sense of humor, she's pretty, she tries to do nice things for me a lot and is very kind towards me and her friends, gives me space and let's me chill in my tv/computer room when I want. She chips in for the mortgage which is helping both of us out financially. I like her a lot, love her even though over time all the negative stuff is taking that feeling away and making it more like "like" than "love".

On the negatives she's messy and I spend the first 15 mins of waking up each day cleaning the mess up from the previous night (clothes on the floor, trash on the floor, plates and utensils still out), she's flaky and terrible at planning, she likes doing things that are a little dangerous because they're exciting (I do not like danger; for example her and a friend trailed cars picking up prostitutes just because it was something different and exciting; she prank called a KKK hotline from a fake number because it was "fun"; these things make me uncomfortable), she's a bit ditzy and doesn't think about how actions would affect me sometimes (she's working on it), we don't have a lot of hobbies in common (her hobby is reddit, science and gaming on her phone, I like movies [she does not like movies at all], game industry news and physical activity) but we do have some we like to do together (exploring/traveling, eating).

There's also logistics of her having just moved a ridiculous amount of stuff over, bought $1,000 worth of Ikea furniture which we built together and if she moved having to find a place, get movers to move it all out again, what to do about the cats, myself helping her out with her lawsuit which if I gave to another attorney there's a good chance she would flake and blow the lawsuit and not get her medical bills paid back and have to file bankruptcy.

We're sort of at a point where we both say "hey this isn't working that great and we aren't super compatible in living together [things really got exponentially worse when she moved in], but we care a lot about each other and love each other and we want to make this relationship work and last for good, so let's communicate, identify problems and openly discuss how to minimize them and make each other enjoy our company together and let's find more hobbies we can do together and enjoy spending time together". There's no negativity or anger between us. She's open to breaking up, I'm open to breaking up, but we'd both would prefer to stay together and try to make this work. I think we could probably stay as friends (not close) if we break up, and there's always the idea of taking a break for a few weeks to get some fresh air for both of us, but with some work on both sides, I think we could also have a better relationship and be happier. We'll see.

(http://i.imgur.com/lti4zw9.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 01, 2014, 09:00:26 PM

yeah, uh, tailing johns is a good way to get your ass beat or worse. honestly she sounds, from what I've read here, someone who craves drama above all else. you don't want that kind of person in your life, my friends have dated this kind of person and it gets old real fucking quick.

srs question, has she ever done or said something to you or around you knowing you don't like it, just to start a fight or conflict? I mean, aside from hanging out with a guy who is borderline obsessed with her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 01, 2014, 09:09:30 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on August 01, 2014, 09:00:26 PM

yeah, uh, tailing johns is a good way to get your ass beat or worse. honestly she sounds, from what I've read here, someone who craves drama above all else. you don't want that kind of person in your life, my friends have dated this kind of person and it gets old real fucking quick.

Yeah, this is what I said, but she said she was in a car with a friend and they just U-turned and drove off when they thought they got spotted. I'm like "yeah, that was a super bad idea" and my friends were all "wtf" when I told them and yet she says when she tells people about the experience (her friends and people from her school) they just laugh and tell her that's hilarious. Age group difference?

There's definitely a lot of drama. She says she doesn't want drama, and is sick of drama in her life, but every week there's something.

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srs question, has she ever done or said something to you or around you knowing you don't like it, just to start a fight or conflict? I mean, aside from hanging out with a guy who is borderline obsessed with her.

Nah, not really. She never really tries to do stuff intentionally to bother me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 01, 2014, 09:13:34 PM

yea breh that might be normal behavior for Jaden Smith, but not most young people. I've certainly never heard younger people discuss the joys of tailing johns.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on August 01, 2014, 09:14:12 PM

Ask if he's interested in any time shares

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 01, 2014, 09:16:05 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on August 01, 2014, 09:10:46 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 01, 2014, 09:09:30 PM
Yeah, this is what I said, but she said she was in a car with a friend and they just U-turned and drove off when they thought they got spotted. I'm like "yeah, that was a super bad idea" and my friends were all "wtf" when I told them and yet she says when she tells people about the experience (her friends and people from her school) they just laugh and tell her that's hilarious. Age group difference?

:comeon

It also might be that she hangs out with weird people who are similar and find that stuff funny? idk

The only other thing is if we do break up, I kind of don't want to date for a while (maybe a year). Not because I'd be down on dating, but just because it'd be nice to get back to hanging with friends, seeing movies, getting more sleep, staying in shape, could travel more since it's now half the price! etc... the things I like but didn't have time for in a relationship, especially after living with someone.

But then I worry about being in kind of those "prime" dating years at 28-32 and worried that if I wait until I'm 34-35 or something to get back to dating, it'll be really pain in the ass at that age. Kind of worried about being old and single I guess.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 01, 2014, 09:16:14 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 01, 2014, 09:09:30 PM

Age group difference?

(http://i.imgur.com/6cPCx3q.jpg)

you're not allowed to chalk this stuff up to an 'age difference'. I met my wife when we were both 22-23; there was no drama, no chaos, no 'work', no fixing.

Quote from: Bebpo on August 01, 2014, 09:16:05 PM

Kind of worried about being old and single I guess.

well, it explains why you are putting up with all of this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 01, 2014, 09:18:35 PM

It honestly sounds like the honeymoon is over and you guys rushed certain aspects of your relationship so instead of doing what most people would do and call it quits, you're both trying to salvage something only because you invested more than you should have and its not quite that simple anymore.

the longer you wait, the worse it will be. Everything you have said on this page is not indicative of a lasting relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 01, 2014, 09:19:36 PM

tldr; I'm sticking around because I care about her and like being with her and it'll be a pain in the ass to split up because of the logistics.

But I understand we should probably split and it'd be better for us in the long-term. I know that, but just...reasons.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 01, 2014, 09:22:17 PM

I think most people have been in a similar situation. Know its bad, stick around anyways. Its something most people have to learn by themselves.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on August 01, 2014, 09:22:24 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 01, 2014, 09:19:36 PM

tldr; I'm sticking around because I care about her and like being with her and it'll be a pain in the ass to split up because of the logistics.

But I understand we should probably split and it'd be better for us in the long-term. I know that, but just...reasons.

(http://somewhatmanlynerd.com/gifs/michaelheadshake.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 01, 2014, 09:24:43 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 01, 2014, 09:19:36 PM

tldr; I'm sticking around because I care about her and like being with her and it'll be a pain in the ass to split up because of the logistics.

But I understand we should probably split and it'd be better for us in the long-term. I know that, but just...reasons.

everyone knows why you're doing it, we're just telling you not to

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 01, 2014, 09:29:59 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 01, 2014, 09:16:05 PM

The only other thing is if we do break up, I kind of don't want to date for a while (maybe a year). Not because I'd be down on dating, but just because it'd be nice to get back to hanging with friends, seeing movies, getting more sleep, staying in shape, could travel more since it's now half the price! etc... the things I like but didn't have time for in a relationship, especially after living with someone.

Bro you should be able to do all of that in a relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 01, 2014, 09:31:21 PM

Also, fwiw this is the first time I've been in a long-term relationship. All the ones in my 20s were < 3 months. Also first time living with an SO. Not sure how easy it'll be to adjust. I know even with the 3 month relationships it felt kind of empty for a while and I'd debate about trying to get back together.

And considering that we don't have any antagonism towards each other, if we split there's a good chance we'll stay friends, especially since we don't have many friends besides each other. But I think it'd be hard on her for us being friends because she really cares about me more than I care about her. I'd like to be friends and hang out with the cats here and there, but don't want to hurt her.

That's also another reason why I haven't broken up with her that I've never really brought up: I don't want to hurt her. I care about her a lot and we've been through a ton together. She's had a shit life full of people treating her badly and people leaving her. Don't want to put her through that :\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 01, 2014, 09:32:44 PM

Beps, it's going to hurt more in the long run when everything we say finally hits you square in the face and the break up is ugly because of all that time and emotion invested rather than nipped in the bud.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 01, 2014, 09:36:21 PM

Do it now while everything is just a slight annoyance and you don't resent each other. Give it enough time and it will sour.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on August 01, 2014, 09:56:15 PM

Shit, no, Bebsy, no! Listen to the internet people on this one :( If the things that are stopping you are logistical, you definitely need to figure those logistics out and do it!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 02, 2014, 12:26:06 AM

I'm just not going to talk to you until you come to your fucking senses and have been broken up with her for like six months.

HELP ME TO HELP YOU TO HELP YOURSELF

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 02, 2014, 12:42:41 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 01, 2014, 09:16:05 PM

Kind of worried about being old and single I guess.

You will be when she dumps you in a few years after getting her shit together.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 02, 2014, 01:30:01 AM

Well tonight was the worst fucking night of my life

/single

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 02, 2014, 01:36:11 AM

Beps you seem like a genuinely nice guy, you're successful and good looking. Don't sell yourself short please.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 02, 2014, 01:47:29 AM

welcome to the sad club, breh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 02, 2014, 01:53:05 AM

Bebpo, I'm glad you're out of it. Please do not go back like after the last round.

Relish this:

you were NOT happy. You cannot force happiness. You cannot hope that happiness comes. Sometimes relationships have hills and valleys, but there's no perceivable way to have a lasting, healthy relationship with the person you described the past year. How would marriage even be like if you're taking care of her like she's a child? What happens when/if you have children? Is she suddenly going to grow up? Bebpo, you had no obligation for her to finally blossom. No one does in a relationship - especially an adult relationship.

Relish this and please do not go back. In fact, do not even contact her. It'll tempt you like a Siren's kiss. It always does. Don't throw yourself into the cycle or childish games. You an adult, and you want happiness, and you were not getting it.

On a better note, I'm positive you'll find a fantastic woman out there in orange county. Any woman would be dumb to not try to go for such a hard-working, good-looking, caring guy who tries to improve any and every situation he comes around to and thinks so positively no matter what is thrown at him. Bebpo, I say this as someone who has been talking to you for nearly 10 years online. We have never met, but I know you will find her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 02, 2014, 01:53:08 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on August 02, 2014, 01:47:29 AM

welcome to the sad club, breh

Y'all owe me membership dues BTW. :Mandark

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 02, 2014, 02:09:07 AM

Good for you bro, although I don't think your plan of just transitioning to being friends is going to work.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on August 02, 2014, 02:22:26 AM

Well done, first long term relationship is hell to break but it's for the best

Sorry :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 02, 2014, 02:24:13 AM

Nope, went down like the Hindenburg. Super fucked.

Having broken up with people before, I know I made the wrong decision on a rash moment without thinking it through. I just hope i don't hate myself for the rest of my life for it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 02, 2014, 02:27:14 AM

She lives with you right? So what's the plan in terms of separation? I assume she bailed shortly after the breakout, or is she still in the house; it's nearly midnight in Cali :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 02, 2014, 02:39:36 AM

Bailed instantly for a few days (to the other guys house). Already talking with her mom to get movers to move everything out. She's going to move 2 hours away in with a friend.

The problem with taking advice from places like here is that I'm generally a fairly criticism-focused speaker. When I review games or movies I spend the majority of the time talking about the flaws. When things are good I don't post here, I only post when there are problems. So without being "here" and knowing the people personally you can't get a really clear picture.

I know I made a mistake here. I took her and our relationship for granted. Yes it had its share of problems, but goddamn I loved her and she was the most devotedly in love person or even friend to me that I've ever met. She was doing everything she could to respond to each and every problem I had with our relationship and for 75-85% of the days/time I was the happiest I've been in my life and so was she and felt great thinking that we'd be together forever.

We were best friends before we were lovers, and in a single 30 second gap, 2 years of everything was gone. Just like that that. I could tell from the second her eyes reacted that I'd called the shots wrong and said the wrong thing. And by then it was too late, she was hurt, upset and threw me out of her life. We'd just made love earlier for the first time in like a week and we're heading out on our first date night "aka, heading towards the right direction" in a week for dinner and guardians of the galaxy. But this stuff was in the back of my mind and she asked me what was wrong and I said that I think we should break up so we can still be friends and not have this blow up in our face down the line and hate each other" and she said "I agree" and that was the end.

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 02, 2014, 02:31:26 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 02, 2014, 02:24:13 AM
Nope, went down like the Hindenburg. Super fucked.

Having broken up with people before, I know I made the wrong decision on a rash moment without thinking it through. I just hope i don't hate myself for the rest of my life for it.

There's usually a period where things can still be fixed. If you feel you made the wrong decision, most times you can change things. This is a critical time for you. Think things through to the utmost.

I tried, dear god I tried, but she is very stubborn, does not like being hurt and runs away from all her problems. She is through and left (and already getting ready to move out) and that's that. I have a feeling there's no chance of this being fixed unfortunately.

The reason being, which is logical and understandable, is "If you can do this now like this, how can I trust you and know you won't do it again?" and there's really no good answer because you never know how a relationship will go down the line and break ups may happen. She doesn't want to take the chance of being hurt again like this, and while it's understandable that also hurts that everything we have and getting married and being together forever isn't worth the chance of being broken up with by the person you love. I mean this is the first time something like this has happened, while she's tried to push me away a half dozen times (but never directly saying to break up; she pushes the other person to make them break up with her). I've been there and I've been hurt like that but it's better to love and lose than never love at all (still applies with getting back together imo).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 02, 2014, 02:57:20 AM

What'd you say?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 02, 2014, 03:16:28 AM

You say you mention the problems and not the good stuff which is the majority...but all the problems you mentioned were complete deal breakers. It's not like you were complaining that she kisses the cats on the mouth or likes bad TV shows - these were serious issues. Mental issues, acts childish, isn't self independent at all, has no problem making you feel uncomfortable by chilling with a male friend who is pursuing her....come on.

The fact that she bailed to the other guy's house should tell you everything, bro. Sucks that it happened but by your own admission yall had issues.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 02, 2014, 03:17:43 AM

Try to explain it to her? Get on steam.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 02, 2014, 03:26:57 AM

Also we were going to go on a trip to South Carolina, fully paid for ($2100) non-refundable all out of my pocket on Thursday which I booked weeks ago and have time scheduled off work for this next week. I thought about holding off on bringing this up to her until post-trip but my dumbass self thought everything would go fine and I'd cancel it or we'd just go as friends. Was thinking about cancelling it because of the weather and tropical storms and flooding anyhow, probably end up cancelling it and eating $1,100 for the non-refundable airline tickets (hotel part is refundable). Or I can go by myself...but I don't think I'll be in the mood, especially if the weather sucks like that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 02, 2014, 03:39:43 AM

Also I kind of hate that all of her few friends would fucking bad mouth me. Or at least that what'd she'd tell me. Like once every 3 weeks I'd hit up one of her friends for nothing big, just like trying to figure out where my SO is because we were supposed to meet and she was last with them. But somehow they'd take a half sentence out of context from one text and she'd throw it back at me like my friend X said you were talking to her and told her Y and I'm like wtf?

And then there'd be rumors in our social friend circle. Like she'd come back from hanging with someone and say Z says that she heard you want a daughter (wtf, I have no idea where this could come from) or that you hate L and it's all 100% untrue stuff and I hardly ever even talk to any of these people.

It was so weird and man, nothing feels more uncomfortable than when people are talking shit about you and making up stuff you said behind your back. Especially because I know these people she gets it from and they all seemed like nice people that I was on a friend basis with so it was so weird to here untrue rumors come from them (apparently, since it was my SO telling me she heard from them who heard from someone).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 02, 2014, 04:42:31 AM

Dude she just thrives on drama.

You gotta find someone already working and past all that shit because they don't have time for bullshit.

She's young and it shows dude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 02, 2014, 10:10:28 AM

sorry it didn't break the way you wanted it to, but go on the trip, will be good for your soul.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on August 02, 2014, 10:13:21 AM

And go on your own.
Please do not bring her along. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 02, 2014, 11:13:17 AM

I'm still not seeing how you it was the wrong decision bebpo. Everything you have said since your regret post has made it sound worse. Like others have said, the girl loves drama. Your sanity will thank you later

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 02, 2014, 11:46:27 AM

Go on the trip breh. I wish so much I could have taken a vacation to get my head straight 2.5 months ago instead of going to work the immediate Monday, running a red light because I was still in shock and almost killing myself or someone else.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 02, 2014, 11:51:05 AM

Go on the trip. Lay back and relax.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 02, 2014, 12:20:19 PM

Come to Houston instead. Sheeeit. I'll make you forget all bout her

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 02, 2014, 03:03:03 PM

When you have to keep running to the internet to complain about your girl, you ain't happy in your relationship bruddas.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 02, 2014, 10:30:17 PM

I managed to pull a conversation out of a tinder girl by implying her vagina spawns Gremlins when it gets wet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 03, 2014, 01:08:04 AM

I'm alive and sane and mostly ok today as a followup. Saw my therapist and that helped a bit just talking it all out. Tried to go see Guardians of the Galaxy but it was sold out so watching Breaking Bad at home and playing Persona Q. Bought the new Wolfenstein to play over the next couple of weeks.

Gonna go on the trip to SC on Thursday, hope I don't get killed in a hurricane, flood, or get ebola during my layover at Atlanta :X

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 03, 2014, 01:22:39 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 03, 2014, 01:08:04 AM

Gonna go on the trip to SC on Thursday, hope I don't get killed in a hurricane, flood, or get ebola during my layover at Atlanta :X

Wish I could. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 03, 2014, 09:43:30 AM

...South Carolina? Or the Supreme Court? Man I hope you're not going to South Carolina. That place sucks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 03, 2014, 03:11:44 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 03, 2014, 09:43:30 AM

...South Carolina? Or the Supreme Court? Man I hope you're not going to South Carolina. That place sucks.

What's wrong with SC besides the weather being absolutely miserable?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 03, 2014, 04:22:53 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 03, 2014, 03:11:44 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 03, 2014, 09:43:30 AM
...South Carolina? Or the Supreme Court? Man I hope you're not going to South Carolina. That place sucks.

What's wrong with SC besides the weather being absolutely miserable?

Their unofficial state motto is "too small to be our own country, too large to be an insane asylum" for starters.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 04, 2014, 02:06:26 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 01, 2014, 09:16:05 PM

Kind of worried about being old and single I guess.

That is never a valid reason to stay in a toxic relationship. It sucks now, but this is seriously for the best.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 04, 2014, 08:30:55 AM

When I'm 48 and single I'll be sure to remember that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on August 05, 2014, 05:30:35 PM

Quote from: Esch on August 02, 2014, 03:12:32 AM

Well....

I walked out on a girl tonight before things went down. I think from now on I don't want to have drunk sex.... ever. It leaves me unhappy, feeling bad physically, etc. It's a shame too because I really enjoyed talking to her and she's leaving town for the foreseeable future. I played it close for no reason other than habit and now I feel like I insulted this woman for walking out of the bedroom.

my problem is I don't really like drunk sex but I do really like drunk hanging-out-in-random-girl-I-just-met's-apartment-at-3am. I always convince myself I can get away with the latter without the expectation of the former, then she pours me a strange drink and I wake up on her couch wearing her clothes with no memory of what happened

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 05, 2014, 09:02:03 PM

advise

have two things happening this week:

thursday i'm bringing a girl over for probably nothing more than dinner movie and sex.

however i've been talking to this other girl for the last two weeks and we're going out this weekend and i'm really getting a good feeling about her. i kinda feel bad about bringing this other girl over before we meet. i dunno. feels weird.

should i feel bad?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 05, 2014, 09:06:12 PM

No. Only if you want to or the first girl has unrealistic expectations that you've encouraged.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 05, 2014, 09:41:59 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 05, 2014, 09:06:12 PM

No. Only if you want to or the first girl has unrealistic expectations that you've encouraged.

the other girl and i have begin some light innuendo and picture swapping. nothing explicit. but it's getting there. so there could be a line of thinking? but that's probably just in my head.

i guess i'm just getting those feels again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 05, 2014, 09:58:29 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on August 05, 2014, 09:02:03 PM

advise

have two things happening this week:

thursday i'm bringing a girl over for probably nothing more than dinner movie and sex.

however i've been talking to this other girl for the last two weeks and we're going out this weekend and i'm really getting a good feeling about her. i kinda feel bad about bringing this other girl over before we meet. i dunno. feels weird.

should i feel bad?

No one's going to salute your probity, but no one cares about probity.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 05, 2014, 10:32:59 PM

You're not committed to either. Do as you please

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on August 05, 2014, 11:25:07 PM

If you are into having your probity saluted, that is a service I offer but I do charge extra.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 06, 2014, 10:05:32 PM

ehhh. i think i'm gonna be a dick and cancel at the last minute. it just feels weird and is making me uncomfortable.

edit: yeah, it's done. i don't think this kind of thing is for me. at least not yet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on August 07, 2014, 04:38:33 AM

so my resolution is to get rejected and get my heart broken more often.

n.b. you MIGHT be thinking this is a cute way of expressing the idea that I want to be "putting myself out there" more, that I "miss 100 percent of the shots I don't take", and so on but that is emphatically and importantly NOT the idea here. I am seeking out rejection and heartbreak FOR THEIR OWN SAKE.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on August 07, 2014, 04:40:57 AM

Good for you, putting yourself out there more!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on August 07, 2014, 04:42:29 AM

Quote from: Mandark on August 07, 2014, 04:40:57 AM

Good for you, putting yourself out there more!

i think this might be some sort of rejection of the conceit of my post, and as such, i welcome and savor it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 07, 2014, 01:39:28 PM

You seem like you'd be into hotwife scenarios. If you have any questions Stealthfan and I can answer them for you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 07, 2014, 11:07:15 PM

girl i'm seeing this weekend came down with hand foot and mouth from her work at a daycare

which makes our date this weekend a lot less interesting

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 08, 2014, 12:00:24 AM

Sucks breh, sorry.

On the bright side you'll know what they're like when they're really sick early on in dating instead of at some point in the future.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on August 08, 2014, 09:00:28 PM

Over the past few days, I've randomly started talking to a girl that I went to high school with. She's a few years older than me, but she seems really cool. I think we're going to have lunch tomorrow. I don't know if she's interested in me as anything more than a friend, which is cool. But it does feel nice to finally be getting back out there.

Also been talking to a girl on OKC that lives 1 1/2 hours from me. Seems really cool, but she's being shy too, so I don't know how interested in me she really is.

Either way, I'm finally putting myself back out there, AGAIN. Me and the ex have been split up for close to 3 months. We still talk as friends, and sometimes she lets on like she's still interested in me, but she's not making a move.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 08, 2014, 10:17:42 PM

It's that good, huh? :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 08, 2014, 10:29:04 PM

Who blinked first in "I love you but I won't say it until you do" chicken?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 08, 2014, 10:32:05 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 08, 2014, 10:15:00 PM

GF and I dropped the L bomb.

FAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAG

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 08, 2014, 11:29:24 PM

I love you both. Polyamory here we come

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 08, 2014, 11:56:05 PM

Good story, well played, etc.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 09, 2014, 01:52:40 AM

Had an impromptu date earlier with the girl i'm seeing tomorrow. She mentioned she wanted to go get gelato and I was like "I've never had that!" so we met and enjoyed some before I had to go to work. and it went pretty great.

i need to learn that dates can be small things instead of day long planned things. like, i focused all on tomorrow being a multi tiered thing then all of sudden our first date is a few hours in an afternoon at an ice cream shop.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 09, 2014, 10:42:34 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 02, 2014, 03:39:43 AM

Also I kind of hate that all of her few friends would fucking bad mouth me. Or at least that what'd she'd tell me. Like once every 3 weeks I'd hit up one of her friends for nothing big, just like trying to figure out where my SO is because we were supposed to meet and she was last with them. But somehow they'd take a half sentence out of context from one text and she'd throw it back at me like my friend X said you were talking to her and told her Y and I'm like wtf?

And then there'd be rumors in our social friend circle. Like she'd come back from hanging with someone and say Z says that she heard you want a daughter (wtf, I have no idea where this could come from) or that you hate L and it's all 100% untrue stuff and I hardly ever even talk to any of these people.

It was so weird and man, nothing feels more uncomfortable than when people are talking shit about you and making up stuff you said behind your back. Especially because I know these people she gets it from and they all seemed like nice people that I was on a friend basis with so it was so weird to here untrue rumors come from them (apparently, since it was my SO telling me she heard from them who heard from someone).

this too will pass. you'll always have the scars -- they may even hurt forever -- but the wisdom you bring to your next relationship will make it more true than the last.

focus on where you'll be emotionally six months from now. fight the tides of the past; don't drown in them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 09, 2014, 11:29:04 AM

(http://i.imgur.com/jY5XE4U.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 09, 2014, 11:49:41 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on August 09, 2014, 01:52:40 AM

Had an impromptu date earlier with the girl i'm seeing tomorrow. She mentioned she wanted to go get gelato and I was like "I've never had that!" so we met and enjoyed some before I had to go to work. and it went pretty great.

i need to learn that dates can be small things instead of day long planned things. like, i focused all on tomorrow being a multi tiered thing then all of sudden our first date is a few hours in an afternoon at an ice cream shop.

You're onto something. Short first dates are the way to go. You can always choose to hang out longer and improvise your next activity, or you can cut out at the planned time, leaving her wanting to see more of you. Worst case, when things don't work out, you're not uncomfortably committed to spending the entire day together.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on August 09, 2014, 09:49:23 PM

Had lunch with a girl today that I know from high school.

I wasn't really attracted to her, her maturity level is under mine (which is no good), and she's got some baggage.

Now she's sending me messages on FB and acting all needy for attention.

IT WAS JUST LUNCH, GIRL!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 09, 2014, 10:07:04 PM

This is God telling you to quit denying yourself fleshly delights, aka "Hit it and quit it for Jesus!"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on August 09, 2014, 10:41:54 PM

Yeah... that's not my thing.

That would be a big old bag of regretted sex, right there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on August 10, 2014, 12:51:29 AM

When did u turn into some prude lame? Ol JC seems to have 4 fingers up in yer turdhole

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on August 10, 2014, 09:14:07 AM

Yeah, prude kind of comes along with the territory. Don't get me wrong, I still think about it. The problem was, I couldn't even think about that with her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on August 10, 2014, 09:48:02 AM

I'm staying neutral in this controversy other than to note that I really like the image of a "big old bag of regretted sex".

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on August 10, 2014, 10:57:31 AM

I mean, we just went to lunch. She's sending me messages on FB like crazy.

If we'd had sex, she would probably be out shopping for a wedding dress right now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on August 10, 2014, 01:24:16 PM

I'm with Groo on this one, she sounds just a tad crazy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 10, 2014, 01:40:48 PM

:yeshrug

The funny thing about regret is, it's better to regret the things you have done than the things you haven't done

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 10, 2014, 01:44:54 PM

Maybe she just wants to hang out, and if you aren't interested you should tell her instead of posting about it here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on August 10, 2014, 02:12:34 PM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 10, 2014, 01:40:48 PM

:yeshrug

The funny thing about regret is, it's better to regret the things you have done than the things you haven't done

The funny thing about adages is that they're not always true. :yeshrug

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 10, 2014, 01:44:54 PM

Maybe she just wants to hang out, and if you aren't interested you should tell her instead of posting about it here.

This too.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 10, 2014, 02:34:53 PM

Quote from: Rufus on August 10, 2014, 01:24:16 PM

I'm with Groo on this one, she sounds just a tad crazy.

Yup. Crazy in the sack is one thing. Just plain crazy is not something you want to get with.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on August 10, 2014, 05:23:29 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 10, 2014, 01:44:54 PM

Maybe she just wants to hang out, and if you aren't interested you should tell her instead of posting about it here.

Oh come on! Isn't my cowardly way of not responding not good enough?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 10, 2014, 10:00:18 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on August 10, 2014, 05:23:29 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 10, 2014, 01:44:54 PM
Maybe she just wants to hang out, and if you aren't interested you should tell her instead of posting about it here.

Oh come on! Isn't my cowardly way of not responding not good enough?

:lol

No. At least, not according to AWESOM-O, who posited that women were obligated to let him off the hook.

The general wisdom is that women feel threatened by men, so they don't have to. By extension, if you think you'd be threatened by the crazy chick, you're off the hook.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 10, 2014, 10:04:06 PM

Silent rejection is the best. Been getting so much of it lately. :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on August 10, 2014, 10:06:09 PM

Quote from: Karakand on August 10, 2014, 10:04:06 PM

Silent rejection is the best. Been getting so much of it lately. :lawd

:leon

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on August 10, 2014, 10:51:10 PM

Quote from: chronovore on August 10, 2014, 10:00:18 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on August 10, 2014, 05:23:29 PM
Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 10, 2014, 01:44:54 PM
Maybe she just wants to hang out, and if you aren't interested you should tell her instead of posting about it here.

Oh come on! Isn't my cowardly way of not responding not good enough?
:lol

No. At least, not according to AWESOM-O, who posited that women were obligated to let him off the hook.

The general wisdom is that women feel threatened by men, so they don't have to. By extension, if you think you'd be threatened by the crazy chick, you're off the hook.

So... I don't have to talk to her?

[Edit]

I think she figured it out...

Quote

I pour myself out until I am empty, and as soon as I am I fill up again. This expanse is endless. The love I have to give. Why are these limits in place where they have no place? I want to break everything and put it back together more perfectly.

She posted that on her FB an hour ago. :derp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 10, 2014, 11:01:45 PM

RUN

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 10, 2014, 11:05:47 PM

Jesus Christ. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on August 10, 2014, 11:37:53 PM

Quote from: Atramental on August 10, 2014, 11:01:45 PM

RUN

Quote from: Mupepe on August 10, 2014, 11:05:47 PM

Jesus Christ. :lol

I know, right?

I immediately checked my FB to make sure my home address wasn't listed. Also, I'm really glad I don't have an office to go into for work. I don't want to run into this girl ANYWHERE EVER AT ALL.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 11, 2014, 12:15:35 AM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on August 10, 2014, 11:29:19 PM

Right there with ya buddy :rejoice :mynicca

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gRfnv4m5ZUQ

I can't wait to move, Tinder, and take even more silent Ls. :lawd

Knickerbockers be calling me Red October soon. :heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 11, 2014, 01:33:08 AM

guess i got a new thing going on lol

her sex drive is bonkers

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 11, 2014, 02:08:29 AM

Quote from: Atramental on August 10, 2014, 11:01:45 PM

RUN

HIDE

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on August 11, 2014, 01:33:08 AM

guess i got a new thing going on lol

her sex drive is bonkers

I am stoked that you're moving on. I am sorry I was mean in that other thread.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 11, 2014, 04:21:10 AM

UGH.

Went out with this great chick who was nice and thick in all the correct areas. She was a fun date and was smoking hot, but she lives far as fuck (about 25 miles away) and didn't have a car of her own. On top of that I spent like $60 at the bar we went to. Now all of this would have been okay if she seemed interested in me, but while we had a great time at the bar, afterwards she seemed pretty quiet and distant. I got a kiss out of it, but that doesn't necessarily mean shit. I sent her a text an hour or so later telling her I had a great time, but she hasn't responded.

I'm frustrated as hell right now.

UGH.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 11, 2014, 10:12:15 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on August 11, 2014, 04:21:10 AM

UGH.

Went out with this great chick who was nice and thick in all the correct areas. She was a fun date and was smoking hot, but she lives far as fuck (about 25 miles away) and didn't have a car of her own. On top of that I spent like $60 at the bar we went to. Now all of this would have been okay if she seemed interested in me, but while we had a great time at the bar, afterwards she seemed pretty quiet and distant. I got a kiss out of it, but that doesn't necessarily mean shit. I sent her a text an hour or so later telling her I had a great time, but she hasn't responded.

I'm frustrated as hell right now.

UGH.

You took an unforced L breh. No transportation and 20+ miles away? Nope.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 11, 2014, 12:23:11 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on August 10, 2014, 10:51:10 PM

Quote from: chronovore on August 10, 2014, 10:00:18 PM
Quote from: Groogrux on August 10, 2014, 05:23:29 PM
Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 10, 2014, 01:44:54 PM
Maybe she just wants to hang out, and if you aren't interested you should tell her instead of posting about it here.

Oh come on! Isn't my cowardly way of not responding not good enough?
:lol

No. At least, not according to AWESOM-O, who posited that women were obligated to let him off the hook.

The general wisdom is that women feel threatened by men, so they don't have to. By extension, if you think you'd be threatened by the crazy chick, you're off the hook.

So... I don't have to talk to her?

[Edit]

I think she figured it out...

Quote
I pour myself out until I am empty, and as soon as I am I fill up again. This expanse is endless. The love I have to give. Why are these limits in place where they have no place? I want to break everything and put it back together more perfectly.

She posted that on her FB an hour ago. :derp

:kobeyuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 11, 2014, 01:27:57 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on August 10, 2014, 10:51:10 PM

Quote
I pour myself out until I am empty, and as soon as I am I fill up again. This expanse is endless. The love I have to give. Why are these limits in place where they have no place? I want to break everything and put it back together more perfectly.
She posted that on her FB an hour ago. :derp

Time is a flat circle
:ohhh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on August 11, 2014, 01:33:41 PM

20 miles is nothing, unless its a dirt road or something :wtf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 11, 2014, 09:58:13 PM

This is where you guys can be like "smh" about my relationship status.

We talked, we decided to have a test phase of a few weeks where we see if we can make some changes for the better, and if we're still fighting/having problems then we'll call it a day and she'll move out. Her mom's still looking for apartments for her.

Things have actually been a lot better and we've been pretty happy. I don't really have anything to complain about atm.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 11, 2014, 10:01:17 PM

why.jpg

you really are genuinely afraid of being alone. how many test phases/trial periods is this now? and her mom is looking for plan b apartments? are you still want to get married!??!

dude

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on August 11, 2014, 10:05:07 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on August 10, 2014, 10:51:10 PM

Quote
I pour myself out until I am empty, and as soon as I am I fill up again. This expanse is endless. The love I have to give. Why are these limits in place where they have no place? I want to break everything and put it back together more perfectly.

She posted that on her FB an hour ago. :derp

being pursued by a JRPG villain :ohhh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 11, 2014, 10:06:11 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on August 11, 2014, 10:01:17 PM

why.jpg

you really are genuinely afraid of being alone. how many test phases/trial periods is this now? and her mom is looking for plan b apartments? are you still want to get married!??!

dude

It's not this. I'm with her because I love her. It's just sometimes the relationship gets hard to maintain.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 11, 2014, 10:08:49 PM

No, no, no. See, a relationship where people have regular disagreements can be hard to maintain.

What you've described is living with a crazy person. But, and I honestly understand that, you don't think you can do better, so you do everything you can to keep it together. Well, I don't have to be a party to that anymore. I'm on a Bebpo news blackout until the inevitable has happened and this time has stuck for at least six months. I genuinely wish you the best, and one day you're going to figure that means NOT BEING WITH THIS PERSON ANYMORE.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 11, 2014, 10:12:12 PM

you're talking about marriage, long-term commitment shit, supposedly for life, and here is all this on/off hot/cold craziness and you're engaged. what's gonna happen after the wedding and shit gets out of sorts? she moves into her own apartment for a couple weeks? you have annual trial separation periods? she hangs out with her friend who wants to desperately bang her and unloads emotionally and lets him talk shit about you some more? while you're married?!?

relationships should not be hard to maintain at a base level of functionality, don't know who told you that lie, but it's a lie.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 11, 2014, 10:16:06 PM

my wife and I went to Office Max today and we played paper rock scissors to see whose card we would use to pay (I lost :() and the cashier thought it was super cute and said "Newly weds, huh?" My wife laughed and said not really. Cashier was surprised when my wife said our 5 year marriage anniversary is in less than a month. :winning

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 11, 2014, 10:36:52 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 11, 2014, 10:16:06 PM

my wife and I went to Office Max today and we played paper rock scissors to see whose card we would use to pay (I lost :() and the cashier thought it was super cute and said "Newly weds, huh?" My wife laughed and said not really. Cashier was surprised when my wife said our 5 year marriage anniversary is in less than a month. :winning

Bepbo's girlfriend would have played rocky paper scissors with the cashier instead and kissed him on the cheek after he won.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on August 11, 2014, 10:41:19 PM

Hope it works out Bebpo. It's hard for us to imagine, but maybe it will and we'll all eat crow.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 11, 2014, 11:54:15 PM

Bebs we're gonna find you a nice chola at one of the backyard barbecues my new roommates throw.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 11, 2014, 11:58:37 PM

Fucking hell Bebpo

And fistful keeps fucking on the first date?? :noah unfffff

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on August 12, 2014, 12:17:38 AM

Somehow I managed to line up two dates this week and all I can think about is how I'm gonna manage to fuck them both up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 12, 2014, 12:22:08 AM

They sisters right? :gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 12, 2014, 12:24:30 AM

I've given up dating again. Fuck it, I've got enough crazy of my own to deal with.

...unless I can find a therapist to date.

:noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 12, 2014, 12:28:16 AM

What the fucking fuck.

What?

Ok. Seriously. You say you love her. But does she love you? Her behaviors don't really support that theory. Mental illness or not, you deserve better and can do better. You deserve a healthy relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 12, 2014, 12:30:53 AM

Quote from: Creepy Old Guy on August 12, 2014, 12:24:30 AM

I've given up dating again. Fuck it, I've got enough crazy of my own to deal with.

...unless I can find a therapist to date.

:noah

Being able to play head games with a mental health professional at home and in the bedroom as well as at the office? :leon :lawd :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on August 12, 2014, 12:31:33 AM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on August 12, 2014, 12:22:08 AM

They sisters right? :gurl

Haha no. But I never thought either of them would seriously consider fuckin me. I still feel like I'm being setup.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 12, 2014, 12:34:45 AM

Beps: she's drama.

You claim you don't want drama.

You haven't ended the relationship. You take her on your vacay.

I'm prone to thinking you delight in the drama at this point and are in denial.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 12, 2014, 12:36:43 AM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on August 11, 2014, 11:58:37 PM

And fistful keeps fucking on the first date?? :noah unfffff

second, actually.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

is it normal for a girl to have over 15 orgasms in one session

spoiler (click to show/hide)

:jawalrus

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 12, 2014, 12:38:13 AM

I dunno about normal but that's good yes.

8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 12, 2014, 12:39:22 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 11, 2014, 10:12:15 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on August 11, 2014, 04:21:10 AM
UGH.

Went out with this great chick who was nice and thick in all the correct areas. She was a fun date and was smoking hot, but she lives far as fuck (about 25 miles away) and didn't have a car of her own. On top of that I spent like $60 at the bar we went to. Now all of this would have been okay if she seemed interested in me, but while we had a great time at the bar, afterwards she seemed pretty quiet and distant. I got a kiss out of it, but that doesn't necessarily mean shit. I sent her a text an hour or so later telling her I had a great time, but she hasn't responded.

I'm frustrated as hell right now.

UGH.
You took an unforced L breh. No transportation and 20+ miles away? Nope.

Actually, it turns out she did have a car, but for some douchey reason didn't want to use it.

We texted a bit earlier tonight, and while she was responding fairly quickly, they were almost all one word answers. Not sure how I should continue this. I don't know if I should just forget about her, or stick around and see how this goes.

Quote from: Pineapple Sauce on August 11, 2014, 01:33:41 PM

20 miles is nothing, unless its a dirt road or something :wtf

It is if you're not using the freeway.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 12, 2014, 12:39:31 AM

:noah

fistful is the biggest stud on the bore :uguu POST PIC

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 12, 2014, 12:43:50 AM

i actually have. you just werent paying attention.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 12, 2014, 12:44:43 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 11, 2014, 11:04:39 PM

Quote from: chronovore on August 10, 2014, 10:00:18 PM
:lol

No. At least, not according to AWESOM-O, who posited that women were obligated to let him off the hook.

The general wisdom is that women feel threatened by men, so they don't have to. By extension, if you think you'd be threatened by the crazy chick, you're off the hook.

I never said they were obligated to respond to me. I said that they shouldn't say yes when I ask them out if they have no interest in going out.

The general wisdom is that women are allowed to destroy a man slowly from the inside like that because he might flip out if they said no when they weren't interested. Or something.

But just not responding? That's pretty uncontroversial.

You're still taking their actions too personally.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 12, 2014, 12:45:07 AM

I don't remember you posting a pic.

btw how does this new gf feel about your tongue game
:rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 12, 2014, 12:47:08 AM

bringing your ex fiance on a trip shortly after a relationship blowout is something i really only thought happened in movies, those really cheesy early 90s relationship farces. are you carting around a dead guy in sunglasses you accidentally killed in a humorous fashion? are you staying next to a crazy old foreign couple dispensing valuable 3rd act life lessons?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on August 12, 2014, 12:47:33 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 11, 2014, 11:04:39 PM

The general wisdom is that women are allowed to destroy a man slowly from the inside like that because he might flip out if they said no when they weren't interested. Or something.

:gurl

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Unless that's some new euphemism for a prostate massage, in which case that's well within the spirit of The Bore so carry on.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 12, 2014, 12:48:26 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on August 12, 2014, 12:43:50 AM

i actually have. you just werent paying attention.

You posted a pic with you having a piece of paper covering your face, but not your dreamy eyes :uguu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 12, 2014, 12:48:32 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 11, 2014, 11:04:39 PM

Quote from: chronovore on August 10, 2014, 10:00:18 PM
:lol

No. At least, not according to AWESOM-O, who posited that women were obligated to let him off the hook.

The general wisdom is that women feel threatened by men, so they don't have to. By extension, if you think you'd be threatened by the crazy chick, you're off the hook.

I never said they were obligated to respond to me. I said that they shouldn't say yes when I ask them out if they have no interest in going out.

The general wisdom is that women are allowed to destroy a man slowly from the inside like that because he might flip out if they said no when they weren't interested. Or something.

But just not responding? That's pretty uncontroversial.

The general wisdom is you should get the hell over it and stop investing so much into people you barely fucking know for the sake of your sanity and those around you so they don't have to listen to your insipid whining this late in the game. You think men don't blow women off? Get some perspective please.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 12, 2014, 12:53:20 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on August 12, 2014, 12:47:08 AM

bringing your ex fiance on a trip shortly after a relationship blowout is something i really only thought happened in movies, those really cheesy early 90s relationship farces. are you carting around a dead guy in sunglasses you accidentally killed in a humorous fashion? are you staying next to a crazy old foreign couple dispensing valuable 3rd act life lessons?

I did stupid shit like this in high school because I was afraid of being alone. I knew I should end it, I knew I would be better off, but I couldn't let go. And it wrecked me for a long time.

At least I had the excuse of being a dumb high school kid.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 12, 2014, 12:53:26 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 12, 2014, 12:45:07 AM

btw how does this new gf feel about your tongue game
:rejoice

haven't done that yet.

Quote from: Queen of Ice on August 12, 2014, 12:48:26 AM

You posted a pic with you having a piece of paper covering your face, but not your dreamy eyes :uguu

nope. someone didn't bother looking at my vacation pictures :wag

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 12, 2014, 12:54:30 AM

I just learned puddles has a girl. You're still fucking whining about hookup blow off shit?

:what

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 12, 2014, 12:54:41 AM

*hurries to pic thread*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 12, 2014, 01:04:27 AM

Fistfull looks like Awesom-O's son?
:ohhh

:rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Purple Filth on August 12, 2014, 01:43:58 AM

read like the last 5 pages with this Bebpo stuff

....

....

(http://imgur.com/6Ma24sk.gif)

this is the same lady that had that chronic pain drama right?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 12, 2014, 02:36:22 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on August 12, 2014, 12:47:08 AM

bringing your ex fiance on a trip shortly after a relationship blowout is something i really only thought happened in movies, those really cheesy early 90s relationship farces. are you carting around a dead guy in sunglasses you accidentally killed in a humorous fashion? are you staying next to a crazy old foreign couple dispensing valuable 3rd act life lessons?

:heartbeat

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Howard Alan Treesong on August 12, 2014, 07:33:40 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on August 12, 2014, 12:47:08 AM

bringing your ex fiance on a trip shortly after a relationship blowout is something i really only thought happened in movies, those really cheesy early 90s relationship farces. are you carting around a dead guy in sunglasses you accidentally killed in a humorous fashion? are you staying next to a crazy old foreign couple dispensing valuable 3rd act life lessons?

Well, there ARE ghosts.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Howard Alan Treesong on August 12, 2014, 07:42:54 AM

Bebpo, I'm done giving you advice. I'm giving you an ultimatum: GET OUT. You deserve better. Your family deserves better. Your friends deserve better. Hell, strangers you know on a message board deserve better.

Do you want a family one day? Would you trust this woman to be the mother of your children? (No.) Is there any real future here? You need to be realistic about what's going on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on August 12, 2014, 08:41:56 AM

Bebpo, what do your IRL friends and family members think about what's going on?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on August 12, 2014, 09:13:26 AM

It's really hard to comment on this without feeling like you're piling on.

Bebpo, we all like you, we all agree that this relationship is a bad idea.
I know it's hard to back out of a situation like this. But the future will be hard for a much longer time if you decide to stick it out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Great Rumbler on August 12, 2014, 10:47:39 AM

This thread is demonic. Like, Satan is literally in this thread, brehs, and he's loving it. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Squiddy on August 12, 2014, 11:05:57 AM

On one hand, reading about people getting laid when you're in a dry spell :(
On the otherhand, you don't have it nearly as bad as Bep.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on August 12, 2014, 05:39:05 PM

what the fuck happened itt

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 12, 2014, 05:42:03 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on August 12, 2014, 05:39:05 PM

what the fuck happened itt

Someone worse than me arrived. :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on August 12, 2014, 05:48:10 PM

Quote from: Squiddy on August 12, 2014, 11:05:57 AM

On one hand, reading about people getting laid when you're in a dry spell :(
On the otherhand, you don't have it nearly as bad as Bep.

Better to jerk off in a dark corner than be in his position. I still win

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 12, 2014, 08:41:54 PM

apparently if you have intercourse with a sick person several times over the course of 3 days you will probably also get sick

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 12, 2014, 08:42:37 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on August 12, 2014, 08:41:54 PM

apparently if you have intercourse with a sick person several times over the course of 3 days you will probably also get sick

RIP

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 12, 2014, 08:49:25 PM

Should've worn a full body condom (http://www.amazon.com/Pipedream-Products-FULL-BODY-CONDOM/dp/B002K4KFCC).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 12, 2014, 08:49:41 PM

Quote from: Needs More Cowbell on August 12, 2014, 12:34:45 AM

Beps: she's drama.

You claim you don't want drama.

You haven't ended the relationship. You take her on your vacay.

I'm prone to thinking you delight in the drama at this point and are in denial.

Bebpuu loves the drama because if you say you hate drama, you will avoid drama instead of getting deeper into it. I blame all of the loli PS2 JRPGs he played.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on August 12, 2014, 11:00:50 PM

Finally sent stalker girl a message telling her that it wasn't going to happen between us. I couldn't even "like" a post on FB without her sending me a message.

I think it's over now.

:duh myself for ever thinking it was safe to date.

HERMIT MODE! ACTIVATE!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 12, 2014, 11:06:39 PM

You'll be good, Groog, no need to join me in the monastery yet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on August 12, 2014, 11:13:58 PM

what is JC's views on jacking off, you still jack your twee little dick right?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on August 12, 2014, 11:41:19 PM

My hand and I have a solid relationship.

I don't know if fapping was mentioned in the Sermon of the Mount though...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on August 12, 2014, 11:43:54 PM

hot

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 12, 2014, 11:45:47 PM

what about puttin' a finger up your holy glory when yer servicin' your earthly temperament? how does the lord feel about that?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on August 12, 2014, 11:48:32 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on August 12, 2014, 11:45:47 PM

what about puttin' a finger up your holy glory when yer servicin' your earthly temperament? how does the lord feel about that?

Can't say that I've partaked in that. Not my thing. Had a girl once jam a finger in there by surprise. That's when I confirmed that it was "Exit Only" in my case.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on August 12, 2014, 11:54:16 PM

its cool man, we dont have to go that route if you arent comfortable

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 12, 2014, 11:55:20 PM

my boyfriend (http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00HS16MK6?pc_redir=1404736366&robot_redir=1)

My side nicca (http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00MA9Y10Y/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1407902075&sr=8-1&pi=SY200_QL40)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on August 13, 2014, 12:00:32 AM

Quote from: demi on August 12, 2014, 11:54:16 PM

its cool man, we dont have to go that route if you arent comfortable

Demi's a cuddler.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 13, 2014, 12:25:34 AM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on August 12, 2014, 11:55:20 PM

my boyfriend (http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00HS16MK6?pc_redir=1404736366&robot_redir=1)

My side nicca (http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00MA9Y10Y/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1407902075&sr=8-1&pi=SY200_QL40)

(http://i.imgur.com/2LtlCtp.png)

*deletes internet history*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 13, 2014, 12:37:56 AM

I'm pretty sure that's a common habit.

:hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 13, 2014, 12:54:13 AM

you know what they say, delete it after you beat it.
(http://i.imgur.com/gQFUgON.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 13, 2014, 01:00:33 AM

Incognito mode 24/7 y'all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 13, 2014, 01:05:43 AM

Brehs if they were making a movie about my life what would it be called.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 13, 2014, 01:07:47 AM

Quote from: Karakand on August 13, 2014, 01:05:43 AM

Brehs if they were making a movie about my life what would it be called.

Quote from: Karakand on August 13, 2014, 01:00:33 AM

Incognito mode 24/7 y'all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 13, 2014, 01:12:18 AM

What if Perchik Wasn't an Ephebophile?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on August 13, 2014, 01:48:43 AM

If a woman dumps you, then several months later picks you up again and then dumps you again within a week, you should probably not make an attempt at a third go around, right?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 13, 2014, 05:45:29 AM

Quote from: seagrams hotsauce on August 13, 2014, 01:48:43 AM

If a woman dumps you, then several months later picks you up again and then dumps you again within a week, you should probably not make an attempt at a third go around, right?

Breh why would they say that the third time's the charm if it wasn't true?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 13, 2014, 09:10:12 AM

Quote from: Karakand on August 13, 2014, 05:45:29 AM

Quote from: seagrams hotsauce on August 13, 2014, 01:48:43 AM
If a woman dumps you, then several months later picks you up again and then dumps you again within a week, you should probably not make an attempt at a third go around, right?

Breh why would they say that the third time's the charm if it wasn't true?

You're just being mean.

Seagrams-hotsauce, have you ever tried on a shoe, and it didn't fit right?

When you tried it on again, did it fit THAT time?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on August 13, 2014, 09:31:30 AM

Sometimes my USB plug works the third time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 13, 2014, 10:24:23 AM

Quote from: chronovore on August 13, 2014, 09:10:12 AM

Quote from: Karakand on August 13, 2014, 05:45:29 AM
Quote from: seagrams hotsauce on August 13, 2014, 01:48:43 AM
If a woman dumps you, then several months later picks you up again and then dumps you again within a week, you should probably not make an attempt at a third go around, right?

Breh why would they say that the third time's the charm if it wasn't true?

You're just being mean.

Seagrams-hotsauce, have you ever tried on a shoe, and it didn't fit right?

When you tried it on again, did it fit THAT time?

this analogy is pretty fuckin incredible.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on August 13, 2014, 10:58:23 AM

Quote from: seagrams hotsauce on August 13, 2014, 01:48:43 AM

If a woman dumps you, then several months later picks you up again and then dumps you again within a week, you should probably not make an attempt at a third go around, right?

Make-up sex IS awesome though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 13, 2014, 11:50:14 AM

Quote from: chronovore on August 13, 2014, 09:10:12 AM

Quote from: Karakand on August 13, 2014, 05:45:29 AM
Quote from: seagrams hotsauce on August 13, 2014, 01:48:43 AM
If a woman dumps you, then several months later picks you up again and then dumps you again within a week, you should probably not make an attempt at a third go around, right?

Breh why would they say that the third time's the charm if it wasn't true?

You're just being mean.

Seagrams-hotsauce, have you ever tried on a shoe, and it didn't fit right?

When you tried it on again, did it fit THAT time?

well, sometimes a shoe has a stiff welt and takes some time to break in to get comfortable...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 13, 2014, 12:41:53 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on August 13, 2014, 11:50:14 AM

Quote from: chronovore on August 13, 2014, 09:10:12 AM
Quote from: Karakand on August 13, 2014, 05:45:29 AM
Quote from: seagrams hotsauce on August 13, 2014, 01:48:43 AM
If a woman dumps you, then several months later picks you up again and then dumps you again within a week, you should probably not make an attempt at a third go around, right?

Breh why would they say that the third time's the charm if it wasn't true?

You're just being mean.

Seagrams-hotsauce, have you ever tried on a shoe, and it didn't fit right?

When you tried it on again, did it fit THAT time?
well, sometimes a shoe has a stiff welt and takes some time to break in to get comfortable...

kinda like an anus

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on August 13, 2014, 09:01:35 PM

Quote from: chronovore on August 13, 2014, 09:10:12 AM

Quote from: Karakand on August 13, 2014, 05:45:29 AM
Quote from: seagrams hotsauce on August 13, 2014, 01:48:43 AM
If a woman dumps you, then several months later picks you up again and then dumps you again within a week, you should probably not make an attempt at a third go around, right?

Breh why would they say that the third time's the charm if it wasn't true?

You're just being mean.

Seagrams-hotsauce, have you ever tried on a shoe, and it didn't fit right?

When you tried it on again, did it fit THAT time?

.

But it's such a nice, interesting and thoughtful shoe!
Sobriety brought me the clarity that I don't really want none of that. I'd def sleep with that shoe again tho :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 13, 2014, 09:35:19 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 13, 2014, 12:41:53 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on August 13, 2014, 11:50:14 AM
Quote from: chronovore on August 13, 2014, 09:10:12 AM
Quote from: Karakand on August 13, 2014, 05:45:29 AM
Quote from: seagrams hotsauce on August 13, 2014, 01:48:43 AM
If a woman dumps you, then several months later picks you up again and then dumps you again within a week, you should probably not make an attempt at a third go around, right?

Breh why would they say that the third time's the charm if it wasn't true?

You're just being mean.

Seagrams-hotsauce, have you ever tried on a shoe, and it didn't fit right?

When you tried it on again, did it fit THAT time?
well, sometimes a shoe has a stiff welt and takes some time to break in to get comfortable...
kinda like an anus

well you can't just put your foot in an anus, can you?

wait... :ohhh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 14, 2014, 12:15:26 AM

So oddly enough that chick I posted about the other day who I thought wasn't interested in me? She wants to go out again this weekend.

Any advice on what to do to avoid the mistakes the first time around?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 14, 2014, 04:58:29 AM

So I took a (what I presume to be) silent L from someone a few weeks ago but every few days I see that she looks at my profile but then never responds to my last message.

Just let me take my L in peace. :brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 14, 2014, 05:14:49 AM

Nah, really, really hot girls will either be unaware of their hotness, or assume you've got mad Arab oil money (when in point you're just The Mad Arab).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on August 14, 2014, 01:59:35 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on August 14, 2014, 09:32:51 AM

OKCupid is a weird sea of desperate yet picky women of all sizes. I just saw a chick calling herself coffinfucker who said she wouldn't bang anyone with an Xbox One, but a manga collection is a requirement to achieve her love. Ah well, her loss.

She'll let you step over her in the Barnes & Noble manga aisle but lord have mercy she catches you with a kinect in the house.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 14, 2014, 02:05:28 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on August 14, 2014, 09:32:51 AM

OKCupid is a weird sea of desperate yet picky women of all sizes. I just saw a chick calling herself coffinfucker who said she wouldn't bang anyone with an Xbox One, but a manga collection is a requirement to achieve her love. Ah well, her loss.

she sounds like a fucking special fellow. Mid coitus start talking dirty about kinect and xbox live.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 14, 2014, 02:05:33 PM

MLP DVDs are required for oral.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 14, 2014, 11:22:22 PM

Full figure fashion model brehs. :lawd I'm going in (to take another L :fbm).

Quote from: Oblivion on August 14, 2014, 12:15:26 AM

So oddly enough that chick I posted about the other day who I thought wasn't interested in me? She wants to go out again this weekend.

Any advice on what to do to avoid the mistakes the first time around?

Didn't we agree that this was an unforced L for you? She ran up a tab at the bar and didn't drive to the date for (in your words) a douchey reason.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 15, 2014, 01:39:20 AM

That's why I can't do OKC in my area. All the 20 something's have kids and all the 30 something's want kids.

:holeup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 15, 2014, 01:46:09 AM

Not gonna lie, I've been thinking about it a lot lately. :larry

The world doesn't need more crazed bald headed spazzes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 15, 2014, 01:52:37 AM

it would appear my luck with OKC is good, but really it's really poor. close to a year using it and I've had two dates from it.

part of it is probably my inability to find people that are interesting or find anything interesting in people. both dates were from girls who messages me first so thats a thing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 15, 2014, 06:12:03 AM

i dont know if i'm really into the girl i'm seeing right now. can't tell if it's because i don't think she's interesting or if i'm just constantly comparing her to my previous thing. i kinda don't want to be single right now but i feel like a dick. i don't dislike her or anything but i don't necessarily feel anything for her? ehh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 15, 2014, 06:45:00 AM

yeah, you're the second person to basically say that. i'm still learning! bear with me!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 15, 2014, 07:52:38 PM

You should break up when you know for sure it's not going to work out rather than let it go on until you dump her for somebody else you'd rather be with. I'd say give it a month or two at most, I can't imagine spending a year with basically a fuck buddy but that's my own personal opinion based on the way I would feel.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on August 15, 2014, 07:57:08 PM

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on August 15, 2014, 06:28:01 AM

Sometimes you have THAT girlfriend. She's cool, you do like her but not in a girlfriend way. You hang out and fuck. It could last a few months to a year, maybe more. But one or both parties just have it for the sake of having a relationship.

It's fine, you should keep it. That's like the jumpstart to when you do find someone you have those feelings for. It might seem stagnant at times, but stick around and enjoy it until there's a big reason why you should end it. Who knows, you might end up developing real feelings for her.

You might want to add a caveat about, you know, not stringing someone along. Hell, if both of them are on the same page, go for it. But it seems kinda cruel otherwise.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 16, 2014, 02:22:29 PM

Made out with someone I shouldn't have been making out with last night. :goty2

Thankfully they had the presence of mind to go :holeup before we did the dirty.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on August 16, 2014, 09:17:30 PM

I'd take my chance with the fuck-buddy. :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 16, 2014, 09:43:05 PM

Only play away games with crazy :wag

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 16, 2014, 10:09:34 PM

Quote from: Karakand on August 16, 2014, 02:22:29 PM

Made out with someone I shouldn't have been making out with last night. :goty2

Thankfully they had the presence of mind to go :holeup before we did the dirty.

your cousin?
:brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 17, 2014, 11:09:25 AM

I try to share my frustration and the Bore will be incest shipping me forever. :stahp

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Unrelated: Do y'all ever judge people by the times they respond to your dating site messages (especially on the weekend)?

Like I received X responses (number redacted to avoid accusations of humble bragging) last night while I was out:

19:30-20:30 - It's Saturday night shouldn't you be doing something? :gurl
23:30-00:30 - Thanks for thinking of me when you came in. :obama
03:30-04:30 - Either you party hard or work hard, which one doesn't really matter. :phil

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 17, 2014, 04:59:01 PM

Quote from: Karakand on August 14, 2014, 11:22:22 PM

Full figure fashion model brehs. :lawd I'm going in (to take another L :fbm).

Quote from: Oblivion on August 14, 2014, 12:15:26 AM
So oddly enough that chick I posted about the other day who I thought wasn't interested in me? She wants to go out again this weekend.

Any advice on what to do to avoid the mistakes the first time around?

Didn't we agree that this was an unforced L for you? She ran up a tab at the bar and didn't drive to the date for (in your words) a douchey reason.

Yeah...but her tits are so big. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 18, 2014, 03:05:01 AM

(http://imgur.com/zTwavpw.jpg)

#devoism

spoiler (click to show/hide)

but probably fake let's be honest

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 18, 2014, 08:10:50 AM

Edit: original fixed now

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 18, 2014, 03:37:04 PM

And they say the poet is a dying breed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 18, 2014, 08:13:40 PM

Okay, so I came back from my date yesterday, and it was...interesting.

First the good stuff. I find somewhat of a shortcut to her place, so the drive wasn't as bad as it was last time. She seems a lot more engaged than she did last time, and we kissed quiet a few times throughout the night where she actually seemed really into it, as opposed to last week where I got what appeared to be a very quick, reluctant peck on the lips. And to top it all off, I spent WAY less than last time. So overall, much, much better than last week.

Now here's the other part. This isn't really bad, just...something I wasn't expecting. This chick is a model, which I knew beforehand. What I didn't know until yesterday was that occasionally she does nude modeling as well. Nothing porn related, just the very, um.."tasteful" stuff. Okay, whatever I can live with that, I suppose. But then she drops a bomb on me. She invites me to a nudist swingers party that will be happening some time this week. Needless to say, I was a bit surprised at such an offer. Also needless to say, I've never been to such a party.

What do you guys think? Should I go for it?

Also, she says she won't be banging any other dudes while we're there. Which I'd hope so cause it'd be weird to act like swingers if we didn't even have sex yet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 18, 2014, 08:30:44 PM

I'd go. I have poor impulse control and bad judgment in interpersonal relationships.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on August 18, 2014, 08:32:47 PM

You're gonna get your dick sucked by an old man HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 18, 2014, 08:38:25 PM

Quote from: demi on August 18, 2014, 08:32:47 PM

You're gonna get your dick sucked by an old man HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

So you're in the I should go camp too?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 18, 2014, 08:42:03 PM

It's 2014.

Head is head. :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 18, 2014, 08:49:29 PM

so a hot chick wants to hang out with you at a party where people are naked and banging.

and says she won't have sex with other guys.

and you ask if you should go or not.

there aren't enough coli emotes for how I feel right now.

also, from what I know of acquaintances who are swingers (and for some reason the military is full of them), it's mostly straight dudes swapping wives or girlfriends and shit. sometimes Eiffel tower action. not like there will be dicks on your shoulder the whole time. we (as in mah waifu and i) have talked about it but decided it would be too weird for us. but a chick you're barely attached to? breh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 18, 2014, 09:36:59 PM

Just spoke with her. She says it's just gonna be a naked swimming party. No swinging involved.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 18, 2014, 09:45:09 PM

Is your body up to snuff breh? You've been called up to the majors, are you ready? Got rid of that pot belly in time? Got some abs showing? Decent frame? This is the test. If you're prepared I see no reason not to go. If you've been slouching on your health this year...might want to find an excuse not to go.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 18, 2014, 09:45:40 PM

That feel when I'll never experience an underwater blow job from a model that does tasteful nudes. :fbm

Don't fuck this up. :ufup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 18, 2014, 09:53:37 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 18, 2014, 09:45:09 PM

Is your body up to snuff breh? You've been called up to the majors, are you ready? Got rid of that pot belly in time? Got some abs showing? Decent frame? This is the test. If you're prepared I see no reason not to go. If you've been slouching on your health this year...might want to find an excuse not to go.

If this was a year ago, hell no I wouldn't even entertain the thought of being involved in something like this. I'm definitely no Greek god, but after a good while of hitting the gym, I'm at a point where I feel totally comfortable showing my naked flesh. At least to strangers anyway.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 18, 2014, 09:53:55 PM

Quote from: demi on August 18, 2014, 08:32:47 PM

You're gonna get your dick sucked by an old man HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

I like how Creepy Old Guy likes that post.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 18, 2014, 10:21:01 PM

Quote from: tiesto on August 18, 2014, 09:53:55 PM

Quote from: demi on August 18, 2014, 08:32:47 PM
You're gonna get your dick sucked by an old man HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

I like how Creepy Old Guy likes that post.

Don't leave Esch out

:jawalrus

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 18, 2014, 10:28:03 PM

Oblivion has a damn good body compared to the average male. He's being modest. Pics in the fitness thread for anyone who needs a good jerk

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 18, 2014, 10:28:21 PM

Quote from: Esch on August 18, 2014, 10:25:44 PM

the joke is that you're the creepy old guy sucking oblivions dick though

Demi didn't make a value judgment about the behavior of the fellator doe. :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 18, 2014, 10:29:28 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 18, 2014, 10:28:03 PM

Oblivion has a damn good body compared to the average male. He's being modest. Pics in the fitness thread for anyone who needs a good jerk

You're too good to me, Mups. I don't deserve someone like you. :heartbeat

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 18, 2014, 10:50:12 PM

oblivion just trim up your gooch/dick regions nobody wants to see a mess down there bb

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 19, 2014, 12:44:20 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on August 18, 2014, 10:50:12 PM

oblivion just trim up your gooch/dick regions nobody wants to see a mess down there bb

Way ahead of ya, broham.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 19, 2014, 02:14:51 AM

Quote from: Esch on August 18, 2014, 10:25:44 PM

the twist is that you're the creepy old guy sucking oblivions dick though

FTFY

spoiler (click to show/hide)

(http://i.imgur.com/FUpUW51.jpg)

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 20, 2014, 03:15:32 AM

This is how I imagine some of relationship bore

(http://i.imgur.com/OthpUzx.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 20, 2014, 04:27:03 PM

Okay, I'm going to leave to that nude pool party in a few minutes. If you guys don't see me post here (or anywhere else on the Bore) by midnight, do me a favor and call the popo.

Wish me luck!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 20, 2014, 09:20:42 PM

Okay, I'm back.

Good news is that my kidneys are safe and sound.

Bad news is that it ended pretty horribly.

I won't get into the details, but it started off pretty great, but by the end, it went to hell. Basically she tells me straight up that she's not interested in me. This would have been okay were it not for the fact that she led me on, specifically from our most recent date. Needless to say, I wasn't too thrilled upon hearing that and hightailed it out of there.

Gonna be in a pretty bad mood for a while, but on the plus side, I don't have to deal with her anymore. Also, it's become abundantly clear to me that the shelf life for naturally big boobs is pretty dang short, unfortunately.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 20, 2014, 09:23:29 PM

Well.

(http://i.imgur.com/AJvxBOO.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on August 20, 2014, 09:25:42 PM

Damn, not naturally big boobs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 20, 2014, 09:27:45 PM

I think we need to talk about the "natural shelf life" of big boobs. People age, bro. All tits change shape with age but I see it like aged beef or cheese, you learn to appreciate the new distinct flavors.*

*All assuming the woman actually takes care of herself and the natural aging process isn't sped up by any number of methods.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 20, 2014, 09:33:52 PM

Sorry Skyrim, we got caught up in the nude party thing and forgot about reminding you that this was a self-assessed L.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on August 20, 2014, 09:37:51 PM

Quote from: Karakand on August 20, 2014, 09:33:52 PM

Sorry Skyrim, we got caught up in the nude party thing and forgot about reminding you that this was a self-assessed L.

:rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 20, 2014, 09:41:11 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 20, 2014, 09:27:45 PM

I think we need to talk about the "natural shelf life" of big boobs. People age, bro. All tits change shape with age but I see it like aged beef or cheese, you learn to appreciate the new distinct flavors.*

*All assuming the woman actually takes care of herself and the natural aging process isn't sped up by any number of methods.

Well don't get me wrong. It'd still suck on them like a hungry two year old. They were just a little bit droopier than I thought they'd be for someone her age (she was 37 btw).

Quote from: Karakand on August 20, 2014, 09:33:52 PM

Sorry Skyrim, we got caught up in the nude party thing and forgot about reminding you that this was a self-assessed L.

Oh you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 20, 2014, 09:51:33 PM

I coulda been mean / obtuse and made a Daggerfall / limp dick joke instead. :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on August 20, 2014, 10:31:15 PM

She's 40, that sounds pretty natural for "droopy boobs" -- ofcourse, no pics means it didnt happen. You probably sat at home eating a sandwich like a LOSER

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 20, 2014, 11:15:03 PM

Tips on asking a man out?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 20, 2014, 11:17:53 PM

Depends on how thirsty he is.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 20, 2014, 11:20:22 PM

He looks at my tits and I've caught him staring at my ass.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 20, 2014, 11:22:20 PM

HOW? :brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 20, 2014, 11:23:01 PM

"Hey wanna go out sometime?"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 20, 2014, 11:25:51 PM

"Is there something you want to ask me?" *twirls hair* :-*

I dunno. I'm not a woman. :yeshrug

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well... at least not anymore... (http://i.imgur.com/xUp8dvM.png)

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 20, 2014, 11:26:40 PM

I've never asked a guy out before. I could try that. I just wish he'd ask instead. Oh well. :brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 20, 2014, 11:36:38 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on August 20, 2014, 11:26:40 PM

I've never asked a guy out before.

Now's the time to try!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 20, 2014, 11:40:38 PM

Devo knows the TMI :nsfw girl version. Devooo help :stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 20, 2014, 11:53:12 PM

No. I refuse to ask him out. I can't risk it. :brazilcry But he sends butterflies down to my phantom vagina :noah

Mixed sexy eyes dreads Man :brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 20, 2014, 11:53:55 PM

Work relationships too risky, especially if you have sekretz.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 20, 2014, 11:55:20 PM

The butterflies :stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 21, 2014, 12:10:47 AM

I just drown my butterflies in booze and forget that I had any interest in someone in the first place. :aah

Worked out great when I had the hots for some co-worker but I knew it wouldn't work because she was too religious. I even said swear words when I was around her to demonstrate that I wasn't some clean cut Boj (derogatory word for a BJU student) that she could have brought home to her parent's. :aah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 21, 2014, 01:14:24 AM

if you want to go out them with, ask em out. don't do that thing you've done where you wait for everyone to initiate activities with you and then get depressed when they don't

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 21, 2014, 01:19:45 AM

Quote from: Atramental on August 21, 2014, 12:10:47 AM

I just drown my butterflies in booze and forget that I had any interest in someone in the first place. :aah

:mynicca

Think I'm gonna preemptively give myself the L and do this this instead of leaping and taking the L with my latest cock up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 21, 2014, 04:24:34 AM

In other news, "Phantom Vagina" is a great name for a punk band, or a Venture Bros. villain.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 22, 2014, 12:02:28 PM

...I think I'm entering into a whore phase, and I'm kind of ok with that

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 22, 2014, 10:03:05 PM

Has anyone ever happily given up on dating? I didn't start until I moved out of my parents house a couple years ago and for about 6 months I tried online dating which was all right but pretty volatile.

Then I figured it would be better to just only try to ask girls out in real life. The first person I asked out (and was rejected by) preferred a guy who randomly came up to her and asked her out and who she was completely gushing over even though she wasn't sure of his first name. That plus the fact that she thought 4 months was a pretty long relationship helped me feel better even though she was really passive-aggressive and used me for favors which I only did to show I wasn't holding a grudge. At least it was a problem with my appearance rather than attitude.

Including her, I have asked 5 girls in the last year and a half and didn't get one date. I never expect anyone to be a perfect match, I just would want to see someone is interested. I'm pretty sure the problem is that I have hemifacial microsomia which is pretty apparent despite a handful of surgeries that tried to correct it. It's one thing if you look flawed in a way that people see everyday like acne scars or being a little overweight but it's different if you are the only person with such a flaw. It feels like too much of a compromise to date someone like that. With Internet dating at least you can take a picture from an angle which hides it in my case but I really don't think I want to go through the trouble anymore if it just keeps acknowledging something I can't fix.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 22, 2014, 10:26:10 PM

Have you considered working with groups that would, given their purpose, be comprised of people who are more familiar with hemifacial microsomia? (e.g. The Little Baby Face Foundation)

I could (as much as someone who doesn't have it) understand if you don't want to be reminded of it all the time, but people in those circles would be more accommodating of you as you really are and not you as you appear. Also you could look better as a person [via volunteerism] which some sick fucks find attractive. :yuck

I don't know where you live, if it's BFE this is probably bad advice.

It's also predatory, but I'm open about being a piece of shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 22, 2014, 10:38:09 PM

I've already had whatever surgeries can be used to correct it if that's what you're saying.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 22, 2014, 11:23:04 PM

Quote from: am nintenho on August 22, 2014, 10:38:09 PM

I've already had whatever surgeries can be used to correct it if that's what you're saying.

I'm saying be around people who don't think anything of it.

Fishing with grenades works too.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 23, 2014, 06:01:13 AM

am nintenho, you only need to find the one partner, but you may have to try many time before finding that partner. You perceive your hemifacial microsomia as a disadvantage, and many others may as well, but your future partner --who is out there-- will not perceive it as anything other than part of your whole.

You're fine. Don't focus on it so much.

If you look in a site which focuses on visual matching, you may hinder yourself. If you instead engage in activities with people with similar values, you'll find similarly minded people immediately.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 23, 2014, 12:23:24 PM

5 girls in the last year and a half doesn't sound like enough to give up to me. Thats low. In my early 20s I asked out every woman I was attracted to. You get over the no really quick and 10-20% said yes in my experience. Its just a numbers game. Throw enough shit at a wall and something will stick. That 10-20% was more than enough dating experience. But maybe I am just a slut. But I feel like this method was good for socializing myself, building my confidence and earning relationship experience.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 23, 2014, 12:27:27 PM

Oh yeah and I met my wife with that method. I would have never had any real reason to ask for her number because our interactions were extremely limited. But I liked the shape of her ass and asked for her number. Never knew she would be my best friend and now wife for almost 5 years now (18 more days).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on August 23, 2014, 11:11:39 PM

dat ass brought you together :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on August 24, 2014, 01:00:10 PM

i broke up with my gf two days ago but i dont feel anything. no sad. no remorse. little bits of happiness of being free but i dont feel like this is right. i should feel something right? it was a ~2 year relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 24, 2014, 06:18:40 PM

There are people who argue that the opposite of love is not hate, it's apathy. If that's the case, you might be just not-caring which is reasonable.

The other possibility is that you were so into her that you're in a kind of emotional shock, but it doesn't sound like that was the case.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 24, 2014, 06:27:39 PM

IIRC he was asking advice on how to dump her like a year ago but chickened out. Its the apathy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 24, 2014, 06:31:19 PM

If you didn't care about the person apathy and relief are normal feelings--they just don't assuage a conscience.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on August 24, 2014, 09:12:33 PM

ya i think i stopped caring. i dont even think about her really anymore

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 24, 2014, 09:20:00 PM

What's that meme itt... on to the next one then?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on August 24, 2014, 11:23:33 PM

I've been going through phases where I get hung up on my ex every now and then, and sometimes I even think there is a chance that we could get back together.

Now that is over though.

Got a date this weekend, and this girl is awesome.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 25, 2014, 12:56:04 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 25, 2014, 12:43:11 AM

Five year breakup mark was a few days ago. I remember I came back to the world bitter and not giving a fuck if I lived a single day more. Starting fights with everything under the sun. Going on weeks-long alcohol rampages, playing my guitar in public, smanging indiscriminately, trying to learn everything I could to give myself some solace that life would not go on that way if I kept living it.

Five fucking years. I drove off into a dark canyon highway and almost went off the road three times having lost what I thought was a part of the rest of my life. Now I'm here and usually happy.

Don't worry B, I got you.

(http://i.imgur.com/bCnwig6.jpg?1)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 25, 2014, 05:38:02 AM

the girl i'm seeing and i finally decided to have a talk and mutually we agree'd we're not right for each other

but we're still gonna be friends

and we're still gonna fuck.

because it's like totally amazing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on August 25, 2014, 07:07:23 AM

Doesn't that move her from girlfriend status to marriage material?

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on August 25, 2014, 08:45:15 AM

No, because he said "we're still gonna fuck"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 25, 2014, 10:36:18 AM

Quote from: Death Ghidorah on August 25, 2014, 10:14:45 AM

I can't wait till she fucks someone else and fistful decides he loves her.

The best :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 25, 2014, 01:09:19 PM

Fistfull gives head so well that chicks can't leave em
:whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 25, 2014, 06:34:17 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 25, 2014, 06:26:58 PM

Beps is engaged, brehs.

(http://www.technobuffalo.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/Seinfeld-Leaving.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 25, 2014, 06:39:51 PM

didn't want to be the first to mention it since I'd feel creepy. Thanks Awesom-O

but yea. smh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 25, 2014, 06:42:04 PM

we all have our white wale

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 25, 2014, 06:45:01 PM

I have a feeling he'll be paying child support for at least 15 years. Marry the first woman who lets you bang her brehs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 25, 2014, 06:46:07 PM

I was lurking on bebpo's fb page last night and I saw his fiancé mention something about chloroform. :tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on August 25, 2014, 06:46:29 PM

Sell me your harem of weeb anime RPGs when she gives you an ultimatum, please

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 25, 2014, 08:01:16 PM

::)

So many assumptions here. You dudes are kind of ridiculous. I don't pay more than 50% for anything. My fiance buys ever other meal, pays half my mortgage payments, and buys me gifts and stuff all the time. She's specifically asked for a pre-nup before marriage. This has nothing to do with money.

PD, c'mon man, you know this isn't anywhere near my first relationship wtf. I've been dating and in relationships non-stop for the last 5-6 years with a half-dozen+ girls. I'm with my fiance because she's the right one for me.

Like I've mentioned here, I only tend to post relationship stuff when I run into problems, same problems that most couples run into over time. Sometimes I go 3-4 months without posting once about my relationship, because everything's good and there's nothing to vent about. Sometimes are problems are rough, but we talk about them, work through them and find a solution like adults. Like the last thing I came for advice on where everyone was down on us was when her guy friend confessed to her. Well, it was weird for a couple of weeks when she told him she wasn't interested but let him keep in contact as she didn't know what to do because she didn't want to hurt him/lose him as a friend, but eventually she on her own came to the decision to tell him to fuck off and that his obsession with her is creepy and she's not interested and won't ever be. Everyone here was down on her for not doing that right away, to the point where most people wanted me to break up with her, but eventually she did exactly what everyone thought she should do. She took a little while because it was a tough situation and she had to think it through and compose herself to tell a longtime close friend to fuck off.

Life isn't black & white, it's complicated and so are the people in it. I'm happy, we're happy, and we're finally where we're comfortable letting people know we're engaged. My fiance got me a badass engagement ring and I'm wearing it with pride. We spent our relationship anniversary building furniture, cleaning the house and redecorating because having a clean, organized nice place to live is important to me and my fiance wanted to do something that meant a lot to me. It was a nice way to celebrate and now our house is a place we enjoy being at.

Good times.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 25, 2014, 08:08:05 PM

Do what makes you happy, bro. I think most people here are legitimately worried, not just trying to be gossip queens. But I can't say shit. I think most people on here (RL friends sure as shit did) would have told me I was making a mistake with my wife if I aired some our early dirty laundry here. So best of luck to you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 25, 2014, 08:10:01 PM

Good to hear she saw the light on the male friend drama. I'm still concerned about all this but I'm just a guy on the internet. You know we like you Bepbo, no one is trying to be mean to you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 25, 2014, 08:20:20 PM

Bebs, I can't speak for everyone here, but I feel like most of us just want you to be happy, and we're worried about you having a good life. If you think we're worried because you only gave us the perspective angle which presented as the most miserable, well that's possible, but it's also the only thing you presented.

That's just me defending the largely good intentions of your fellow Boritos. I'm still done commenting on your relationship decisions, except to wish you the best.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on August 25, 2014, 08:21:42 PM

:yeshrug fuck us, Bebs, live yo life

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 25, 2014, 08:30:37 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 25, 2014, 08:01:16 PM

Like I've mentioned here, I only tend to post relationship stuff when I run into problems, same problems that most couples run into over time.

Uhhhh...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 25, 2014, 09:40:49 PM

So. Now that I have some free-time I think I'm going to spend it by getting my fragile ego torn asunder at coffee shops, bars, and book stores. It'll be good for me since I haven't asked anyone out/got a chick's number in a long ass time. :tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 25, 2014, 10:09:07 PM

'Kay. (http://i.imgur.com/mnDjXsl.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 25, 2014, 10:11:11 PM

Quote from: Atramental on August 25, 2014, 09:40:49 PM

So. Now that I have some free-time I think I'm going to spend it by getting my fragile ego torn asunder at coffee shops, bars, and book stores. It'll be good for me since I haven't asked anyone out/got a chick's number in a long ass time. :tocry

:mynicca

Casual rejection. :aah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pilonv1 on August 26, 2014, 06:43:49 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 25, 2014, 08:01:16 PM

Life isn't black & white, it's complicated and so are the people in it. I'm happy, we're happy, and we're finally where we're comfortable letting people know we're engaged. My fiance got me a badass engagement ring and I'm wearing it with pride. We spent our relationship anniversary building furniture, cleaning the house and redecorating because having a clean, organized nice place to live is important to me and my fiance wanted to do something that meant a lot to me. It was a nice way to celebrate and now our house is a place we enjoy being at.

Good times.

If you're happy that's the main thing. Congrats :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 26, 2014, 08:22:23 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 25, 2014, 06:45:01 PM

I have a feeling he'll be paying child support for at least 15 years. Marry the first woman who lets you bang her brehs.

I...don't think this is true for bebpo.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on August 26, 2014, 04:19:01 PM

I think it's far more likely that Bebpo confesses the truth of his situation to us during the periods when he can no longer ignore it, and then backtracks from what he's admitted whenever his situation allows him to return to comforting half-truths. That's just been my experience with people.

Congrats though, if I'm wrong.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 26, 2014, 04:48:35 PM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on August 25, 2014, 08:30:37 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on August 25, 2014, 08:01:16 PM
Like I've mentioned here, I only tend to post relationship stuff when I run into problems, same problems that most couples run into over time.

Uhhhh...

yeaaaaaah, no. you are in crazy-ass denial, my friend. i've dated crazy as hell (plus i am also crazy as hell) and been married 17 years, and i ain't NEVAH run into anything like the stories and conflicts you've been describing.

(http://image.shutterstock.com/display_pic_with_logo/517558/517558,1259694450,3/stock-photo-ghost-drinking-tea-41992084.jpg)

ain't none of my business doe

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on August 26, 2014, 05:17:09 PM

Yup, 10 years here and nothing like that. People I know who've had problems like that though...they're all divorced.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 26, 2014, 05:18:08 PM

Hauntings are more common than you guys think. In fact, more white americans believe in Ghost than racial inequality. Or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 26, 2014, 06:30:12 PM

I'm white and I don't see colored ghosts (http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v608/Elendil6/Smilies/itisamystery5if6jb.gif)

and bebs ... don't know what to say... a friend of mine just separated last week from his wife of two years who was needlessly dramatic and, well, crazy, much in the way your fiancee seems to be. good luck?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 26, 2014, 07:11:00 PM

#notallghosts

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on August 26, 2014, 08:28:38 PM

Married 6 years, together 8. Many boyfriends before that. Never seen or dealt with these common issues all couples face.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on August 26, 2014, 08:29:13 PM

yeah neither have I

spoiler (click to show/hide)

still single, 25 years old, fml

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 26, 2014, 08:30:35 PM

Quote from: lennedsay on August 26, 2014, 08:28:38 PM

Married 6 years, together 8. Many boyfriends before that. Never seen or dealt with these common issues all couples face.

did you ever have a black bf?
:ufup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on August 26, 2014, 09:00:20 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 26, 2014, 08:30:35 PM

Quote from: lennedsay on August 26, 2014, 08:28:38 PM
Married 6 years, together 8. Many boyfriends before that. Never seen or dealt with these common issues all couples face.

did you ever have a black bf?
:ufup

Fuck, I wish. There was one black kid in my whole town. I had a huge crush on a family friend who was biracial. Other than that, I didn't meet any black kids my own age until I was in college and was already in long term relationships.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on August 26, 2014, 09:29:02 PM

I honestly believe that all people bring a certain level of crazy to a relationship, but it's the way the person you're with reacts to your particular brand of crazy that makes or breaks the relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 26, 2014, 09:32:00 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on August 26, 2014, 09:29:02 PM

I honestly believe that all people bring a certain level of crazy to a relationship, but it's the way the person you're with reacts to your particular brand of crazy that makes or breaks the relationship.

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 26, 2014, 09:32:46 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on August 26, 2014, 09:29:02 PM

I honestly believe that all people bring a certain level of crazy to a relationship, but it's the way the person you're with reacts to your particular brand of crazy that makes or breaks the relationship.

I agree, but I think everyone is talking about an extrapolation of that normal craziness. We're not talking about "she boils hot dogs. wtf?" type of crazy here

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on August 27, 2014, 12:15:48 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 26, 2014, 09:32:46 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on August 26, 2014, 09:29:02 PM
I honestly believe that all people bring a certain level of crazy to a relationship, but it's the way the person you're with reacts to your particular brand of crazy that makes or breaks the relationship.
I agree, but I think everyone is talking about an extrapolation of that normal craziness. We're not talking about "she boils hot dogs. wtf?" type of crazy here

Mups, I love how in some realm, boiling hotdogs is a deal-breaker for you. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 27, 2014, 12:20:25 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 26, 2014, 11:42:33 PM

Bepbo's gf is a pretty nice girl.

Rusty said it after OC-Bore's meet up but he speaks very differently about her in person.

Wish him all the best. :D

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on August 27, 2014, 12:30:35 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 26, 2014, 09:32:46 PM

Quote from: Groogrux on August 26, 2014, 09:29:02 PM
I honestly believe that all people bring a certain level of crazy to a relationship, but it's the way the person you're with reacts to your particular brand of crazy that makes or breaks the relationship.
I agree, but I think everyone is talking about an extrapolation of that normal craziness. We're not talking about "she boils hot dogs. wtf?" type of crazy here

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 27, 2014, 12:32:22 AM

Quote from: Groogrux on August 27, 2014, 12:15:48 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on August 26, 2014, 09:32:46 PM
Quote from: Groogrux on August 26, 2014, 09:29:02 PM
I honestly believe that all people bring a certain level of crazy to a relationship, but it's the way the person you're with reacts to your particular brand of crazy that makes or breaks the relationship.
I agree, but I think everyone is talking about an extrapolation of that normal craziness. We're not talking about "she boils hot dogs. wtf?" type of crazy here

Mups, I love how in some realm, boiling hotdogs is a deal-breaker for you. :lol

It's a sin! I had to break my wife of that disgusting habit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 27, 2014, 12:55:46 AM

fuck you, I don't even eat hot dogs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on August 27, 2014, 01:08:30 AM

Yeah wtf. People think boiling hotdogs is weird?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 27, 2014, 01:12:17 AM

Anything is better than microwaving them. (http://i.imgur.com/bGa7DYz.png)

Grilled - top tier
Boiled - medium tier
Microwaved- shit tier

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 27, 2014, 01:15:38 AM

I boil hotdogs. Less clean up required after. Grilling is better, tho.

:yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 27, 2014, 01:16:38 AM

Quote from: Esch on August 27, 2014, 01:15:02 AM

Guilty pleasure: Microwaving a hot dog IN the bun for like 35-40 seconds. Instead of it getting all crackly and weird it has a nice steamed texture. Would recommend, eat again.

Hmm. Guess I should try that.

Especially since I'll be doing a lot of microwave cooking once I have my own place. :larry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 27, 2014, 01:36:43 AM

Quote from: Esch on August 27, 2014, 12:56:28 AM

West coast grilled hot dog bias in this post. Boiled hot dogs come out very juicy tbh.

Pretty sure they boil 'em at Pink's.

BTW I like how we're talking about sausage preferences in the relationship thread.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 27, 2014, 01:57:48 AM

Heaping sauerkraut all over kielbasas at Dozynki every year. :lawd

Being isolated from my people because I'm a halfbreed who doesn't speak Polish at Dozynki every year. (http://i.imgur.com/E304kj8.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on August 27, 2014, 02:13:07 AM

Quote from: Sovok on August 27, 2014, 01:57:48 AM

Being isolated from my people because I'm a halfbreed who doesn't speak Polish at Dozynki every year. (http://i.imgur.com/E304kj8.gif)

Oh God, it feels so emasculating when you can understand casual conversation but not form a simple sentence to save your life. You're better off not knowing the language at all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 27, 2014, 02:22:17 AM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 27, 2014, 02:14:33 AM

My Korean-American friends who taught English in Korea, but didn't speak the language, got looked at like they were aliens.

Well, isn't that definitively correct?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 27, 2014, 02:36:13 AM

Quote from: Rufus on August 27, 2014, 02:13:07 AM

Oh God, it feels so emasculating when you can understand casual conversation but not form a simple sentence to save your life. You're better off not knowing the language at all.

The emigre community (at least the one I grew up with) is pretty shit, TBH. They all got thorough technical educations in the People's Republic, came here, made a bunch of money in tech or applied engineering with those educations, run around going (http://i.imgur.com/kG1YOvr.gif) but act like they're in Skierniewice or some shit still.

At least when my grandparent did the exact same thing it was because they were on an NKVD's most wanted list.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 27, 2014, 02:48:15 AM

This is really neither here nor there, but I'm a bit drunk and it's funny to me.

Last year for Thanksgiving, my friend had her Indian (as in the subcontinent) friend over, and I ostentatiously said "I'm really sorry about those small pox blankets."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 27, 2014, 02:49:03 AM

Quote from: Esch on August 27, 2014, 02:40:13 AM

Really? You're No True Polacking us?

:comeon

That appendage was more "at least they didn't run over your dog too" than "but THIS one was legit."

I didn't really want to rant about my grandparent doing the same shit as they do but doing it while profiteering off of government welfare (working in military aerospace during the Cold War) instead of in computer start-ups or nuclear energy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on August 27, 2014, 12:46:01 PM

leave it to you dipshits to turn the conversation in a relationship thread to weiners

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on August 27, 2014, 01:48:34 PM

Quote from: AWESOM-O on August 27, 2014, 02:59:58 AM

Have American ancestors with your last name from the 1800s, brehs :aah

Be a descendant of Samuel Morse, brehs :noah

My great great grandmother was Cherokee, my great great grandfather bought her. :american

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on August 27, 2014, 03:18:10 PM

:kobeyuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on August 27, 2014, 11:24:33 PM

Quote from: Atramental on August 27, 2014, 01:16:38 AM

microwave "cooking"

One of the lowest of cactivities. :what

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 27, 2014, 11:59:26 PM

Girl asked for my number today. :jawalrus

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Because she doesn't understand corporate income tax and I do. :goty2

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on August 28, 2014, 12:01:20 AM

I've been talking to a girl for the last few weeks. We're meeting for the first time on Saturday. I'm nervous and excited about it.

Anyway, we're talking tonight and we get on the subject of pro-football. She says she doesn't like it and apologizes because she knows that I'm a fan. But I had never told her that.

That's when we revealed to each other that we had stalked one another's FB profiles a time or two.

:whew
#marriagematerial

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 28, 2014, 12:15:26 AM

Quote from: Groogrux on August 28, 2014, 12:01:20 AM

I've been talking to a girl for the last few weeks. We're meeting for the first time on Saturday. I'm nervous and excited about it.

Anyway, we're talking tonight and we get on the subject of pro-football. She says she doesn't like it and apologizes because she knows that I'm a fan. But I had never told her that.

That's when we revealed to each other that we had stalked one another's FB profiles a time or two.

:whew
#marriagematerial

(http://i.imgur.com/4HjMWKv.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 28, 2014, 06:19:19 PM

Well, I got an interesting story to tell y'all.

So this morning I'm walking over to class and this very cute girl and I start walking along the same path. While I wanted to talk to her, I decided not to, both because I was in kind of a hurry, and cause I was too tired to go through the effort.

So I start walking past her, and I notice that she was keeping up the same speed. I felt like that was odd, but I also thought it wasn't anything. A few minutes after following me, to my surprise, she taps me on the shoulder and starts talking to me. She starts off by asking if it was my first semester (I guess I still look pretty young), and where I transferred from. So we talk for a bit about my college history, and I'm feeling pretty good cause hey, this cute girl I wanted to talk to is talking to me on her own. Then the conversation takes an interesting turn.

Her: So...do you live by yourself?
Me: No, there's one other person.
Her: Family or friend?
Me: Friend (actually, it's my mom, but I thought it'd be wise not to mention that)
Her: Oh that's good.
Me: Yeah, it's okay.
Her: Well, I was just wondering because as I was walking behind you, I noticed your shoes.
Me: My shoes?
Her: Yeah, they seem to be falling apart.
Me: Oh... Yeah, they've seen better days, haha.
Her: Right, and it's because of that, that I thought you might be in trouble or something.
Me: Uh..."trouble"?
Her: Yeah, you know...
Me:...Ohhhhhhhh. No, no it's not what you think!
Her: It's okay, I'm just saying..
Me: No, really I'm good!

So it went on like that for a few minutes where I tried to explain to her that I wasn't really poor, just that I (meaning my mom) bought some really cheap shoes that picked an awful week to break down.

So there I am feeling pretty embarrassed and depressed because now I'm thinking this chick was only talking to me cause she was feeling sorry for me.

BUT...

It turns out that this story has a seemingly happy ending after all. Here's what happened next.

Her: Well, I just want you to know that if you do need help, you can call me.
Me: Thanks, I appreciate that...
Her: Here, let me give you my number.
Me: Uh...okay.
Her: Maybe we could even get coffee or something some time?
Me: (I'm slightly taken aback when she says that) Uh, yeah sure definitely.
Her: Okay, this was a really convoluted way to exchange numbers, but it works.

I honestly don't even remember what I told her after that I heard last line. What the hell, right?

Needless to say, I was feeling pretty good. This makes the second time I've ever had a girl directly ask me for my number. Fuck yes!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 28, 2014, 06:23:28 PM

sounds like you need to buy a new pair of goddamn shoes breh. are them shits resoled in duct tape and caulk?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 28, 2014, 06:33:08 PM

I'll definitely be getting a new pair this weekend. The heels have some fairly large holes in them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on August 28, 2014, 11:09:38 PM

Quote from: Oblivion on August 28, 2014, 06:19:19 PM

Well, I got an interesting story to tell y'all.

So this morning I'm walking over to class and this very cute girl and I start walking along the same path. While I wanted to talk to her, I decided not to, both because I was in kind of a hurry, and cause I was too tired to go through the effort.

So I start walking past her, and I notice that she was keeping up the same speed. I felt like that was odd, but I also thought it wasn't anything. A few minutes after following me, to my surprise, she taps me on the shoulder and starts talking to me. She starts off by asking if it was my first semester (I guess I still look pretty young), and where I transferred from. So we talk for a bit about my college history, and I'm feeling pretty good cause hey, this cute girl I wanted to talk to is talking to me on her own. Then the conversation takes an interesting turn.

Her: So...do you live by yourself?
Me: No, there's one other person.
Her: Family or friend?
Me: Friend (actually, it's my mom, but I thought it'd be wise not to mention that)
Her: Oh that's good.
Me: Yeah, it's okay.
Her: Well, I was just wondering because as I was walking behind you, I noticed your shoes.
Me: My shoes?
Her: Yeah, they seem to be falling apart.
Me: Oh... Yeah, they've seen better days, haha.
Her: Right, and it's because of that, that I thought you might be in trouble or something.
Me: Uh..."trouble"?
Her: Yeah, you know...
Me:...Ohhhhhhhh. No, no it's not what you think!
Her: It's okay, I'm just saying..
Me: No, really I'm good!

So it went on like that for a few minutes where I tried to explain to her that I wasn't really poor, just that I (meaning my mom) bought some really cheap shoes that picked an awful week to break down.

So there I am feeling pretty embarrassed and depressed because now I'm thinking this chick was only talking to me cause she was feeling sorry for me.

BUT...

It turns out that this story has a seemingly happy ending after all. Here's what happened next.

Her: Well, I just want you to know that if you do need help, you can call me.
Me: Thanks, I appreciate that...
Her: Here, let me give you my number.
Me: Uh...okay.
Her: Maybe we could even get coffee or something some time?
Me: (I'm slightly taken aback when she says that) Uh, yeah sure definitely.
Her: Okay, this was a really convoluted way to exchange numbers, but it works.

I honestly don't even remember what I told her after that I heard last line. What the hell, right?

Needless to say, I was feeling pretty good. This makes the second time I've ever had a girl directly ask me for my number. Fuck yes!

religiouuuuuus, giving you the soft selllllll

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barraco Barner on August 29, 2014, 02:40:37 AM

Yo, I think my 1.5 year relationship just ended? :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 29, 2014, 02:46:32 AM

Quote from: Barraco Barner on August 29, 2014, 02:40:37 AM

Yo, I think my 1.5 year relationship just ended? :-\

Welcome to the 2014 Club breh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on August 29, 2014, 06:08:28 AM

Quote from: Rusty Shackleford on August 28, 2014, 11:09:38 PM

Quote from: Oblivion on August 28, 2014, 06:19:19 PM
Well, I got an interesting story to tell y'all.

So this morning I'm walking over to class and this very cute girl and I start walking along the same path. While I wanted to talk to her, I decided not to, both because I was in kind of a hurry, and cause I was too tired to go through the effort.

So I start walking past her, and I notice that she was keeping up the same speed. I felt like that was odd, but I also thought it wasn't anything. A few minutes after following me, to my surprise, she taps me on the shoulder and starts talking to me. She starts off by asking if it was my first semester (I guess I still look pretty young), and where I transferred from. So we talk for a bit about my college history, and I'm feeling pretty good cause hey, this cute girl I wanted to talk to is talking to me on her own. Then the conversation takes an interesting turn.

Her: So...do you live by yourself?
Me: No, there's one other person.
Her: Family or friend?
Me: Friend (actually, it's my mom, but I thought it'd be wise not to mention that)
Her: Oh that's good.
Me: Yeah, it's okay.
Her: Well, I was just wondering because as I was walking behind you, I noticed your shoes.
Me: My shoes?
Her: Yeah, they seem to be falling apart.
Me: Oh... Yeah, they've seen better days, haha.
Her: Right, and it's because of that, that I thought you might be in trouble or something.
Me: Uh..."trouble"?
Her: Yeah, you know...
Me:...Ohhhhhhhh. No, no it's not what you think!
Her: It's okay, I'm just saying..
Me: No, really I'm good!

So it went on like that for a few minutes where I tried to explain to her that I wasn't really poor, just that I (meaning my mom) bought some really cheap shoes that picked an awful week to break down.

So there I am feeling pretty embarrassed and depressed because now I'm thinking this chick was only talking to me cause she was feeling sorry for me.

BUT...

It turns out that this story has a seemingly happy ending after all. Here's what happened next.

Her: Well, I just want you to know that if you do need help, you can call me.
Me: Thanks, I appreciate that...
Her: Here, let me give you my number.
Me: Uh...okay.
Her: Maybe we could even get coffee or something some time?
Me: (I'm slightly taken aback when she says that) Uh, yeah sure definitely.
Her: Okay, this was a really convoluted way to exchange numbers, but it works.

I honestly don't even remember what I told her after that I heard last line. What the hell, right?

Needless to say, I was feeling pretty good. This makes the second time I've ever had a girl directly ask me for my number. Fuck yes!

religiouuuuuus, giving you the soft selllllll

Yeah. The church guy is going to have to agree here. She was totally trying to save you, and not with her vagina.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on August 29, 2014, 05:29:32 PM

I feel bad about posting that now. I don't want to rain on his parade. Who knows? Maybe he did get really lucky. Go get em bud!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 29, 2014, 05:48:19 PM

Hey, you never know. Maybe she's apart of a Christian cult that has a sex sacrament. (http://i.imgur.com/UqrwphO.png)

:nsfw
http://www.vice.com/read/sex-church

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on August 29, 2014, 05:56:08 PM

"Correct sex" with yogurt as a lube. Oh lordy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 29, 2014, 08:39:10 PM

Long shot diaries, stardate 2014.212

Someone who works in translating Czech and Slovak, gets mad if you ask where in Russia Slovakia is, and explicitly says they're crazy in their profile. :lawd

Baby please let me tell you all I know about the Tatras. :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 30, 2014, 08:50:50 PM

Okay, so I (probably unwisely) texted shoe girl the same day (though at night) and she doesn't get back to me for a whole day later. And she responds with a completely half assed "sorry, was busy" text. I say it's cool, and make a joke about our meeting, and it's been another day later and she hasn't responded. I'm honestly trying to give her the benefit of the doubt for her lack of replies because it's labor day weekend, but I dunno. If a girl goes through the effort of initiating a conversation and then asking you for your number, you'd think they'd be at least slightly more enthusiastic about responding to your texts. I'm not asking her to be waiting anxiously by her phone every waking minute, but one fricken text in the span of 3 days? Come on, son. The really weird thing is that the same thing happened with the last girl who asked me for my number (except in her case, she never responded at all).

Why do women have to be so weird? :punch

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 30, 2014, 08:52:29 PM

why did you text? you should have called. It looks nutless to be honest (at least for the first interaction post meeting). Or at least it used to when I dated but who knows now with you kids

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 30, 2014, 09:02:11 PM

I dunno, I thought it'd be okay to keep things casual, no? It generally worked for most of the women I met, minus one or two.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 30, 2014, 09:26:22 PM

you should have texted her "I have new shoes and now we can be seen in public together".

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 30, 2014, 11:10:30 PM

So should I move on or give her one more shot?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 30, 2014, 11:11:24 PM

wait until monday and ask if anything is going on that night (party/bar event/whatever). that way if she legit actually wants to spend time with you she will be somewhat forced to respond in a fairly reasonable timeframe either giving you somewhere to be or leaving it to you (have something casual-public in mind), otherwise if she thinks your busted-shoe ass is wack she'll leave you high and dry and there is your answer.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 30, 2014, 11:16:02 PM

oh yeah and it's quite likely she might be bored at like 9pm on monday and text you as a backup plan so then that is your opportunity to ignore her and establish dominance.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 31, 2014, 01:30:47 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on August 30, 2014, 11:10:30 PM

So should I move on or give her one more shot?

jerk off, bust a nut, and then determine your next move with that post-nut clarity buff.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 31, 2014, 01:56:33 AM

O, you're fit as fuck, why do you put up with this shit?

Are you an emotional husk inside or something I should know about?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rusty Shackleford on August 31, 2014, 03:16:33 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on August 30, 2014, 11:10:30 PM

So should I move on or give her one more shot?

The Jesus ship has sailed. She probably belatedly realized you were mooslim :teehee

If she was really interested, she would have made time for you and been more active in contacting you. Besides, even if she was interested, I'm not sure you want to waste your time with someone who is either half-assing this stuff or playing games with you. The stark contrast between your first meeting and her response to your text is a red flag. Who ever heard of 18-21 y.o. undergrads being charitable to strangers? Especially girls? At least guys that age are aware of their dumbassery. Female undergrads have a tone of sullen defensiveness with strangers. Or friends. Or family.

The whole thing was strange. Time to move on.

Consider it a lesson learned - don't text them, call them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 31, 2014, 03:47:25 PM

Quote from: Sovok on August 31, 2014, 01:56:33 AM

O, you're fit as fuck, why do you put up with this shit?

Are you an emotional husk inside or something I should know about?

Thanks. For the past few years my contact with women was pretty limited, since I've was working all the time. I've been on quite a few dates, sure but almost all of them are from women I met online. I don't get an opportunity to meet women normally, though that might change since I started school again.

Quote from: Rusty Shackleford on August 31, 2014, 03:16:33 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on August 30, 2014, 11:10:30 PM
So should I move on or give her one more shot?

The Jesus ship has sailed. She probably belatedly realized you were mooslim :teehee

If she was really interested, she would have made time for you and been more active in contacting you. Besides, even if she was interested, I'm not sure you want to waste your time with someone who is either half-assing this stuff or playing games with you. The stark contrast between your first meeting and her response to your text is a red flag. Who ever heard of 18-21 y.o. undergrads being charitable to strangers? Especially girls? At least guys that age are aware of their dumbassery. Female undergrads have a tone of sullen defensiveness with strangers. Or friends. Or family.

The whole thing was strange. Time to move on.

Consider it a lesson learned - don't text them, call them.

Yeah, it's not that I'm pining over her, it's just that this whole thing was really weird. I'm more confused than angry/annoyed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 01, 2014, 07:51:45 PM

Quote from: Atramental on August 29, 2014, 05:48:19 PM

Hey, you never know. Maybe she's apart of a Christian cult that has a sex sacrament. (http://i.imgur.com/UqrwphO.png)

:nsfw
http://www.vice.com/read/sex-church

If there is any country that gets its christianity more crazy mixed up than the USA, it's Japan.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shingō,_Aomori#Tomb_of_Jesus_Christ

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Groogrux on September 01, 2014, 11:08:47 PM

I've been talking to a girl for the past couple of weeks from OkCupid. Things were going really really well lately and I was really starting to like her. She told me tonight that she wanted us to slow down and be friends first.

so, we are still talking but it doesn't look like we're going to be dating anytime soon. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on September 01, 2014, 11:10:59 PM

God just thought it wasn't meant to be

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on September 02, 2014, 12:46:33 AM

I uh met a girl and um ... don't judge my judgment

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on September 04, 2014, 09:13:58 PM

Guys, I finally have a fuck buddy. :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on September 04, 2014, 09:35:55 PM

Lol no, light skinned black. Jamaican background. Nice body, great but not ridiculously big ass, natural haired girl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 04, 2014, 10:12:05 PM

went out on a date with a girl tonight

we spent an hour talking about the Mass Effect series

should i marry her

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 04, 2014, 10:16:28 PM

How about a long term relationship instead? :yeshrug

Also, I don't like the M word... :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on September 04, 2014, 10:16:32 PM

No, because gamerchicks have issues

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 04, 2014, 10:52:51 PM

dating a lovely short brunette with tattoos and brown eyes

:rejoice

She's the bees knees and its going so well. She's really shy and awkward which makes my job so much easier omfg

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 04, 2014, 10:59:57 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 04, 2014, 10:52:51 PM

dating a lovely short brunette with tattoos and brown eyes

:rejoice

She's the bees knees and its going so well. She's really shy and awkward which makes my job so much easier omfg

is she shy in bed though
:shaq

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 04, 2014, 11:41:27 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 04, 2014, 10:59:57 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 04, 2014, 10:52:51 PM
dating a lovely short brunette with tattoos and brown eyes

:rejoice

She's the bees knees and its going so well. She's really shy and awkward which makes my job so much easier omfg
is she shy in bed though
:shaq

Not. at. all. :gladbron

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 05, 2014, 11:31:17 AM

How great is this? Boritos getting some, pseudo-deets being relayed, and The Business is not here to troll-shame the happy bonitos into regretting their pronouncements.

God I'm tired. So, so tired.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 05, 2014, 01:53:58 PM

5 year wedding anniversary on Tuesday, brehs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 05, 2014, 06:45:31 PM

Quote from: The Walrus on September 05, 2014, 04:44:28 PM

Show her that 315 lb bench press video during the anniversary dinner.

well I don't want us to end up doing anything illegal in the restaurant so I'll wait til we're in a park or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 05, 2014, 06:47:41 PM

I've been on the verge of shutting down my OKC profile a couple times now, then someone will contact me, we'll banter back and forth and go out on a date.

The last couple times I went with an "eh, IDGAF" attitude and had sex on the first date both times, so maybe that works?

:larry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 05, 2014, 06:51:55 PM

#struggle

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 05, 2014, 07:10:22 PM

You gotta find that balance in idgaf. No one wants to date a pyschopath. The tree that bends brehs...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 05, 2014, 07:12:37 PM

500 Internal Server Error

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 05, 2014, 07:25:21 PM

Srsly doe I'm glad you can live the dream at this stage in the game, Triumph.

It's all I know how to do but I don't want to do it anymore so I'm just sort of :shaq2 now, probably forever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 05, 2014, 07:40:41 PM

I would PREFER to have a relationship, but for it to work I'd have to respect her intellect, and that doesn't happen often with the women who date me. I've almost started just assuming they're dumb if they're into me.

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 05, 2014, 10:15:57 PM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on September 05, 2014, 07:40:41 PM

I would PREFER to have a relationship, but for it to work I'd have to respect her intellect, and that doesn't happen often with the women who date me. I've almost started just assuming they're dumb if they're into me.

:fbm

I once dated someone who was smart and into (mild) ageplay (I was older than her and not really into that but w/e :yeshrug) and when she grew out of that fetish I knew our relationship was pretty much toast (even though it lasted awhile after that) since there was nothing else I had to offer. :noooo

I remember reading a story about a crooked Orthodox monastery, I bet they need an accountant. :larry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 06, 2014, 02:31:32 PM

Well ikhwan I think I gots a date tonight. :brazilcry

Time to crash and burn. :cody

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 06, 2014, 03:56:26 PM

You'll be alright man, don't say that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 07, 2014, 12:12:25 AM

We're about to find out.

:whew .في امان الله اخواني

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 07, 2014, 04:56:42 AM

Date went well. :larry

I picked a place that was far from mine to avoid the potential for first date sex. :shaq

But for our next date she wants to do something near my place. :brazilcry

She's very... Orange County, which isn't a bad thing, it's just that I haven't dated my people since I was like 19 or something. :ohhh

So far so good. :obama

Aside from a fucking bar tab. :beli

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 07, 2014, 12:53:13 PM

get that nut, sovok

get that nut

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 07, 2014, 01:59:17 PM

She texted first this morning. :jawalrus

spoiler (click to show/hide)

:brazilcry

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 07, 2014, 02:15:51 PM

I should also add that I tipped the bartender like 30% because she was wearing white booty shorts and would shake her ass while at the register. :lawd

But when we talked about the tips I said I tipped well because she had been our bartender at the OC-Bore meetup and treated us right. :heh

Just in case anyone is feeling happy for me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on September 08, 2014, 04:21:39 PM

how do u go from flirting to >give me ur number on tinder

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 08, 2014, 04:43:13 PM

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on September 08, 2014, 04:21:39 PM

how do u go from flirting to >give me ur number on tinder

'we should <insert activity>, why don't you give me your number'

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 08, 2014, 05:06:34 PM

fistful giving dating protips now. Our little tiger's all grown up. :tocry

On a self-absorbed note, I forgot to mention the best part of my date on Saturday. We were discussing why we were using the dating service we were using and she said, "Yeah, all the guy's I've dated on my own have been douchebags so I figured I needed a helping hand."

I didn't have the heart to tell her that I was a douchebag. :heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 08, 2014, 05:56:48 PM

Quote from: Shark Johnson on September 08, 2014, 05:54:12 PM

Hit the eleven month mark yesterday. I am super in love; shit is so great. The reason I'm mention this isn't to brag but to let anyone here with any doubt know, that if I could find someone as great as my partner, you all can too.

- Never give up
- Believe in yourselves
- Always be who you are

wish I could give you a hug bro. you went through some dark times and while things aren't perfect now (they aren't for anybody, trust me) this part of your life really blossomed. I'm proud of you man, and it's awesome seeing things work out. She seems really nice too.

nicca we made it :tocry

@shark johnson
@wrath

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 08, 2014, 06:00:30 PM

Quote from: Shark Johnson on September 08, 2014, 05:54:12 PM

- Always be who you are

:brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 08, 2014, 07:01:27 PM

Quote from: Sovok on September 08, 2014, 06:00:30 PM

Quote from: Shark Johnson on September 08, 2014, 05:54:12 PM
- Always be who you are

:brazilcry

That's the most important part though!

And you clearly never give yourself enough credit.

I want to staple your parents to a rabid chicken.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 08, 2014, 08:35:21 PM

Well you'll be happy to know I was recently disowned. :jawalrus (I actually had to sort of talk about this on my date. :goty2)

Anyway, excluding my unsavory psychological aspects, being myself is :brazilcry for a whole host of other lovely reasons.

For example, my date is pretty (STEM) smart (who the fuck takes C++ for generic upper div credits?) but doesn't know a lick about general history, let alone the obscure-ass shit I've filled my head with over the years to amuse myself. So on our date we were talking about silly places we wanted to see someday and of course I have to bring up my dream of going to San Marino which required that I tersely explain Italian reunification and the fact that the world's oldest existing republic is only still as such because it let Giuseppe Garibaldi couchsurf there when he was on the run from the fuzz back in the day.

I make Thufir Hawat look like James Dean. :snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 08, 2014, 08:40:03 PM

Dude at work does a number on my panties. Security girl is interested in me. She's cute but she doesn't do anything for me. Decisions, decisions. I DO miss eating puss and she's pretty cool.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 08, 2014, 09:24:14 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on September 08, 2014, 08:40:03 PM

Dude at work does a number on my panties. Security girl is interested in me. She's cute but she doesn't do anything for me. Decisions, decisions. I DO miss eating puss and she's pretty cool.

part of being a straight girl is playing bi when duty calls. make a threesome happen. :ufup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 09, 2014, 06:16:11 PM

Hmm. Hot Guy is hot and all but we don't have much chemistry. So I'm giving up on that. Security Girl and I get each other to laugh and flirt with each other a bit. Today I noticed she was wearing eye makeup, so I complimented her eyes. She lit up and then went and giggled with the other security girl. Tomorrow I'm getting dat number. 95% chance I get it or I put cilantro in tomorrow's dinner.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 09, 2014, 06:20:20 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on September 09, 2014, 06:16:11 PM

Hmm. Hot Guy is hot and all but we don't have much chemistry. So I'm giving up on that. Security Girl and I get each other to laugh and flirt with each other a bit. Today I noticed she was wearing eye makeup, so I complimented her eyes. She lit up and then went and giggled with the other security girl. Tomorrow I'm getting dat number. 95% chance I get it or I put cilantro in tomorrow's dinner.

Can I ask a question...

Are your coworkers aware of your transition? I'm just curious whether this girl sees you as Naomi or as a guy. I don't want to sound offensive, couldn't think of another way to phrase the question. Likewise with the guy at work.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 09, 2014, 06:26:02 PM

I live as a guy in public. I do not have a name change or a gender marker change on my ID, so it'd be pretty stupid to go in public in girl mode. I'm waiting till I get to California to do that. That said, it's impossible to hide an ass, tits, and face like this, so they probably know anyways, some don't seem to care because I see them checking me out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 09, 2014, 06:31:06 PM

i matched with this chick on tinder and sent a message. then like a day later found her on okc and liked her profile. so now we're having two separate conversations on both services. it's weird.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 09, 2014, 07:28:15 PM

Yeah that's weird, but such is the world of online dating.

I was talking to my date every day before we went out, now we're doing that irl not trying to seem clingy infrequent texting tango thing instead.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 09, 2014, 11:45:56 PM

Got the stupid motherfucking "I don't want to jump into anything right now, I just got screwed in a previous blahblahblah" thing earlier this evening from aforementioned girl

every goddamned time I think I find a girl who DOESN'T say this and seems happy with me, BOOM

fuck this gay earth

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 10, 2014, 12:12:19 AM

no shit dude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 10, 2014, 12:34:28 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 09, 2014, 11:45:56 PM

Got the stupid motherfucking "I don't want to jump into anything right now, I just got screwed in a previous blahblahblah" thing earlier this evening from aforementioned girl

every goddamned time I think I find a girl who DOESN'T say this and seems happy with me, BOOM

fuck this gay earth

did this happen after you talked to her about it? just curious.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 10, 2014, 12:40:03 AM

Didn't bring it up, no. We had a date scheduled last night that she cancelled due to work, which I believe because I know the sort of work she does. Asked her today if she wanted to hang tonight or tomorrow and she said yes, followed by that shit.

She said after that she liked me and wanted to keep seeing me but wanted to take things slow. I'm cool with that as long as that's not some farce response to avoid telling me the truth, but I know fucking better at this point

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 10, 2014, 01:41:23 AM

why do people always need to quantify this shit? take things slow? wtf does that even mean.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 10, 2014, 02:32:29 AM

Quote from: Death Ghidorah on September 09, 2014, 10:19:38 PM

دمر طيزها :whew

Get that shit, sovok.

I really shouldn't, and in spite of the fact that I know I can't run forever I hope I don't, but I feel like I'm already on a roller coaster I've ridden too many times before and it can't be stopped. :goty2 We already have running jokes. :brazilcry

It's also really bad for me (in terms of personal growth) to be with someone who indulges in sarcasm and irony as much as I do. :shaq2 (If you ever want to torture etiolate just record our social interactions and make him observe them in perpetuity.)

On the other hand I like her so far and find the way in which she's smart but either unaware of it or completely apathetic about it intriguing. :larry

Maybe she can become successful (I mean this in a societal way, I already consider her to be) and throw me out like :trash too when she realizes I'm a broken record. :gladbron :lawd :fbm

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Do you kiss ummuka with that mouth? :gurl

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 10, 2014, 06:29:48 AM

As a guy who has done that to girls, recently even, I'm sorry BrandNew.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 10, 2014, 10:36:09 AM

I'm sick of being used as an emotional hanky for girls who can't fucking get over their shitty experiences. This has been the story of my first 5 years in my 20s.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 10, 2014, 10:51:54 AM

No? I'm not even sure what you're asking. I met this girl on Tinder, we've been dating for almost two months.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 10, 2014, 11:21:17 AM

I probably fall victim to eagerness, sure. But with this circumstance I played it pretty casually. We had dates, we hung out, we fooled around, we both liked each other. Wasn't hanging on her every word, wasn't texting her throughout the day.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on September 10, 2014, 11:45:37 AM

That's why people get in shitty relationships or can't break free from the cycle. They confuse love with the strong emotions you get when you are in a bad relationship. So, when they meet someone new who is just a normal person, they don't think they like them because they are not getting those 'strong emotions'.

'Falling in love' is just as much a practical choice as it is an emotional one. Some people never want it to be, so they just keep riding that crazy roller coaster.

It took me until I was about 27 (and a bunch of failed relationships) to figure that shit out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 10, 2014, 11:53:03 AM

If I were in BN's position I would have no trouble accepting that girls wouldn't want to be in a long term relationship with me. Anyone who can put up with me and my bullshit for at least 2 weeks is a saint in my book. :aah

/Karakand-esque self-deprecation

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 10, 2014, 02:05:09 PM

Quote from: Death Ghidorah link=topic=36858.msg1926785#msg1926785

#thedualities of that line :whew

The only vulgar word I learned in Arabic classes. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 10, 2014, 08:53:23 PM

You know like that "must love dogs" cliché? I just encountered "must love rape documentaries."

Not sure if :holeup or :phil or :larry. #ennui

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 10, 2014, 08:53:56 PM

number gotten

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 11, 2014, 06:07:27 AM

got another date scheduled with the girl i mentioned before. going to see a play this weekend. i'll probably try to get dinner out of her as well.

the only issue i'm seeing right now is that she takes FOREVER to respond a lot of the times. and it drives my impatient tendencies crazy.

i would think it's just because she isn't interested but she's the one who asked me out to the date this weekend. so i guess i'll just deal with it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 11, 2014, 12:25:42 PM

I got the number of a girl I met a couple months ago. Saw her again last night and flirted with her a bunch, bought the table drinks (classy!) and hung out with her for a while. She's super cute but I wonder if she's smart enough for a prolonged thing, or maybe I should just stfu and enjoy life.

:larry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 11, 2014, 08:20:53 PM

My therapist was excited that I'm dating again. :goty2

My date's already taken the subject matter in our texting into inappropriate territory. :goty2

The Business e-mmolated himself to defend our (American only sry) freedoms and isn't here to accuse me of humblebragging. :goty2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on September 11, 2014, 09:49:34 PM

yea I'm having trouble reconciling the content of the sentences with the smiley accompanying them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 11, 2014, 10:43:36 PM

Just remember that it's me posting about myself and you shouldn't have any reconciliation discrepancies anymore. :sabu

spoiler (click to show/hide)

1. I hate it when people are excited for me. Good curse for the curse a Borean thread. "Karakand has to suffer people being excited about his life indefinitely."

2. Feel like I'm driving on a road I've already driven on and rekt multiple times.

3. I miss my high school message board bully because I relate better to people through negative social interactions than positive ones. (See #1.)

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 12, 2014, 02:52:43 AM

I have a second date on Saturday. :goty

She's excited for it. :goty

Now the great dilemma, dinner before or after the movie?

spoiler (click to show/hide)

After so it's easier for us to end up at my place. :goty

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 12, 2014, 02:56:35 AM

hey we're gonna be date buddies on saturday! maybe we'll both get laid (i probably won't)!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: jakefromstatefarm on September 12, 2014, 02:59:59 AM

Quote from: Sovok on September 11, 2014, 10:43:36 PM

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...I relate better to people through negative social interactions than positive ones.
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I like funerals more than weddings :larry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 12, 2014, 03:01:38 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on September 12, 2014, 02:56:35 AM

hey we're gonna be date buddies on saturday! maybe we'll both get laid (i probably won't)!

I have a bad feeling that I will. :beli

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 12, 2014, 03:19:17 AM

I'm not exactly planning on making any moves. I think the girl may still have her v card so I don't wanna be too aggressive and scare her away.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 12, 2014, 01:00:50 PM

Quote from: Sovok on September 12, 2014, 03:01:38 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on September 12, 2014, 02:56:35 AM
hey we're gonna be date buddies on saturday! maybe we'll both get laid (i probably won't)!

I have a bad feeling that I will. :beli

Wah wah.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 12, 2014, 01:58:39 PM

Quote from: Sovok on September 12, 2014, 03:01:38 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on September 12, 2014, 02:56:35 AM
hey we're gonna be date buddies on saturday! maybe we'll both get laid (i probably won't)!

I have a bad feeling that I will. :beli

what a strange reaction to the possibility of getting your dick wet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on September 12, 2014, 03:34:34 PM

8 months! :drudge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: G The Resurrected on September 12, 2014, 03:42:38 PM

MAF settling down getting married soon no doubt too.. Someone tamed the wild beast!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: G The Resurrected on September 12, 2014, 04:11:05 PM

MAF I've got a question for you. Did you meet the parents yet? If so prepare the wedding bells!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on September 12, 2014, 04:28:10 PM

MAF's come across as one of those "Yes, Dear" domesticated husbands #nomaam

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 12, 2014, 04:35:42 PM

nah. I can imagine MAF just telling his wife "nope" in response to a variety of things.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 12, 2014, 04:51:18 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on September 12, 2014, 03:34:34 PM

8 months! :drudge

Congrats, man. Really happy for you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bud on September 12, 2014, 05:28:33 PM

i have never slept with a woman. "slept" is meant to be taken literally.

i always leave after sex. always.

i have never woken up next to a woman.
i have never cuddled with a woman until we both fall asleep.

how broken am i?

i feel like i'm almost entirely broken.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on September 12, 2014, 05:45:46 PM

I did, but if you're essentially only there to fuck (and then stuck in a hotel room together) it's not that great, tbh. "Oh, you. Good morning I guess." Cuddling still gives a cheap dopamine rush, but I imagine it feels a lot better with people you love. :larry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 12, 2014, 06:06:02 PM

That's why I keep extra toothbrushes in the crib. If you're staying over the night, you're brushing your teeth before we go to bed. But gotta wait at least 30 minutes after brushing before any kissing tho.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 12, 2014, 08:09:05 PM

Waking up the next morning next to someone you don't really care about but feigning intimacy anyway because you are an emotional marionette at war to destroy any sense of self you have left. :lawd

Quote from: The Walrus on September 12, 2014, 02:42:02 PM

$10 says Karakand lies awake in bed, staring into the darkness for about an hour after the sex is done, then goes to the kitchen and pours himself a drink and chain-smokes on the balcony.

Please, I don't even have a balcony. :smug

And even if it's slivovitz, I don't trust the ancom revolutionary cell I inadvertently moved in with enough to leave it anywhere but my closet, so I don't even need to go to the kitchen to drink away my pain. :smug

spoiler (click to show/hide)

I could write a wall of text about my general ambivalence towards all this that I hope would clear up any confusion but (1) lol didn't read, (2) counting chickens before the hatch, (3) I think some things should probably die with me. Even my roster of mental health professionals with an NFL turnover rate doesn't get into this shit.

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 13, 2014, 02:04:28 AM

I suggested I drive for our date saturday night. but girl is really apprehensive about it. she must be really skiddish about this whole online dating thing which i understand. i'm just not used to it. the last two were really willing and trusting. guess i'll just have to adjust my approach a bit. she agree'd to meet me at her work and take my car from there.

actually i think maybe the fact that she's currently back living at home has something to do with it.

nervous i'm gonna be either: be too aggressive and scare her off. or i'll be too light with the approach and bore her.

dating is dumb

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 13, 2014, 04:32:16 AM

We're meeting at my place before we go out today and taking 1 car. :beli

Dinner first at least. :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bud on September 13, 2014, 05:49:55 AM

what is the oldest woman you've had sex with, bore? :mynicca

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bud on September 13, 2014, 06:06:14 AM

mine is 49.

i've had three women in their 40s. one was 42, the other 44 (or 45/46; i can't remember), the last one 49.

42 was the best i've ever had in term of how she went up and down my dick. :lawd

i was too big for her though so i couldn't go balls deep. doggy especially was lame. :beli

44 smelled like fish. i ended up faking an orgasm. :snoop

49's pussy is incredible. :stahp she also can't take it too deep, but she says she kind of enjoys the pain. so yeah. :phil

Quote from: Death Ghidorah on September 13, 2014, 05:57:18 AM

47 years old.

how was it?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on September 13, 2014, 09:46:22 AM

Quote from: bud on September 13, 2014, 06:06:14 AM

44 smelled like fish. i ended up faking an orgasm. :snoop

You made the right choice.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 13, 2014, 12:26:43 PM

I haven't had sex with a woman more than a couple years older than me. Huh, that's something I should fix.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on September 13, 2014, 12:45:00 PM

Aren't you within GILF range already?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 13, 2014, 01:31:26 PM

I'm 37. All of the women I've been sleeping with lately are a couple years younger than me, though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 13, 2014, 01:33:11 PM

I don't think I've slept with anyone older than me except for like "same age, slightly older by months" older.

Some thought they were older than me doe. :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 13, 2014, 01:38:02 PM

A couple of women I'm friends with (ages 32 and 35) are sleeping with dudes in their early 20's.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 13, 2014, 01:44:30 PM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on September 13, 2014, 01:38:02 PM

A couple of women I'm friends with (ages 32 and 35) are sleeping with dudes in their early 20's.

I knew a liberated woman that did this and her stories about extended family events were hilarious because of how awkward it was.

Like just leave your boy toy in the toy box, girlfriend. :gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 13, 2014, 03:16:24 PM

Quote from: Death Ghidorah on September 13, 2014, 01:39:19 PM

Low key, getting with older women (late 30's, all 40's and 50's) is pretty damn easy and most of the time, it's good.

:rejoice

it's just different. the pussy feels warmer when she's older.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 13, 2014, 03:16:26 PM

Date tonight. Scared.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on September 13, 2014, 03:33:32 PM

Wait. Have I missed some PD stories or is he just talking shit right now?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 13, 2014, 04:43:20 PM

I've smashed a couple 34+ yos.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 13, 2014, 05:09:17 PM

She's "in no rush :)" tonight. :brazilcry

GLHF tonight, Himu-chan. :shaq

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 13, 2014, 05:09:37 PM

:dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bud on September 13, 2014, 05:41:17 PM

has pd ever shared the story of how he lost his virginity

when did this happen

did it actually happen

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 13, 2014, 07:10:44 PM

Fat chick in college, on one of those "hey let's study together" tips. Which always seemed to actually mean "let's study for 30 minutes then start watching TV."

I think it was Business Statistics, shout out to karakand

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 13, 2014, 10:48:03 PM

date went well. i had fun, so why do I feel like it didn't happen at all and so, so unhappy?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 13, 2014, 10:58:10 PM

I want to buy a pack of cigarettes so bad right now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 13, 2014, 11:42:32 PM

my date went well also. ate at a thai place, walked around a book store, ate a cookie at subway, then saw a play at a local theater. after i drove her back to her car and we talked about tv/movies for a half hour. didn't go in for a kiss. didn't feel right. got another hug. suggestions of another date looming. she's not gonna be around next week tho which sucks. might try to get her over my place sometime this week to watch a movie? maybe she's still a bit skiddish about this whole thing. hard to get a read off of her.

had fun though! i really like talking to her about movies and tv. we have a lot of the same opinions about those things.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 14, 2014, 06:27:07 PM

:goty :goty :goty :goty

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 14, 2014, 06:57:20 PM

Highlight of my date: our tatted up waitress (:lawd) at dinner asking me how I knew what kalimotxo was and why I ordered it, then talking with me about our shared euskaltzaletasun. (http://i.imgur.com/wvDiIEE.gif)

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Kalimotxo is Franzia tier BTW.

[close]

Lowlight of my date: the fucking bartender coming up with a 100 different reasons why he couldn't serve me absinthe how I wanted to be served absinthe (with absinthiana). Eventually the international banker in me had to relent when he promised it would be on the house if I didn't like it his way. (I didn't like it but didn't give enough of a shit to make a stink about it. Guess I'm just a halfbreed after all.)

That neither of these things involved my date I guess is demonstrative.

On a related note I had dates on a date which is like a silly little thing I would find amusing and did.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on September 14, 2014, 07:01:08 PM

Quote from: Sovok on September 14, 2014, 06:57:20 PM

On a related note I had dates on a date which is like a silly little thing I would find amusing and did.

:goty

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 14, 2014, 07:47:22 PM

The waitress was dumbfounded that people didn't want to drink it when she explained what it was to them when queried about it. :dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 14, 2014, 08:02:56 PM

Hmmm, girl is trying to plan second date already. I'm down.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 14, 2014, 08:09:19 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on September 14, 2014, 08:02:56 PM

Hmmm, girl is trying to plan second date already. I'm down.

You were probably just hard on yourself Himu! Sometimes when that negative demon comes up on you, you gotta just go to bed man and force it down. I say that like it doesn't win sometimes, it does, but you always gotta fight it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 14, 2014, 10:19:54 PM

Had a very...numb sex experience today, to the point of concern. She didn't seem to notice but I felt like I was in another room or something. Wasn't a date, just had my ladyfriend over after the Lions debacle to eat and play around. I wasn't feeling it I guess.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 15, 2014, 12:08:53 AM

I've been there.

In my case, I was just done-done-done with her. And then it was another 3 months before I got around to calling it off. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: PlayDat on September 15, 2014, 02:33:19 PM

Should I be suspicious of women who are overtly sexual on tinder? I asked about food and her first message back to me is hinting at cunnilingus.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 15, 2014, 02:38:18 PM

Oh bby you can check me out on cam in a few minutes adfly.xxx.ru

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 15, 2014, 02:38:39 PM

Too eager is a sure sign of some kind of a trap

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 15, 2014, 02:52:31 PM

There *ARE* women out there that just want to fuck. When you find one tho, play away, never at home, cause you don't want crazy knowing where you live.

:hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 15, 2014, 04:38:11 PM

Quote from: PlayDat on September 15, 2014, 02:33:19 PM

Should I be suspicious of women who are overtly sexual on tinder? I asked about food and her first message back to me is hinting at cunnilingus.

breh...
(http://i.imgur.com/aUSZGol.png)

:snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 15, 2014, 05:16:25 PM

Quote from: Esch on September 14, 2014, 07:50:58 PM

It's alright I guess. Totally depends on the wine. Is it drinkable? Absolutely. I don't think I'd order it on a date though, people are pretty judgmental about wine even though they're not Contra status. Nor do I particularly find myself wanting to drink it (kalimotxo) outside of a home drinking situation(http://i.minus.com/jbuwzsBt3Y22gC.png)

You know you don't have to tell them what alcohol is used to make one right.

And if they ask you can just pretend you don't know.

No one is going to research kalimotxo at the table, and if the date was good they won't remember you had kalimotxo on the date. Plus they won't be able to Google it when they get home because lol Basque orthography.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 15, 2014, 06:47:24 PM

I was really looking forward to being able to fully embrace it for the rest of my life with my last relationship. :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 15, 2014, 07:10:41 PM

Quote from: Sovok on September 15, 2014, 05:16:25 PM

Quote from: Esch on September 14, 2014, 07:50:58 PM
It's alright I guess. Totally depends on the wine. Is it drinkable? Absolutely. I don't think I'd order it on a date though, people are pretty judgmental about wine even though they're not Contra status. Nor do I particularly find myself wanting to drink it (kalimotxo) outside of a home drinking situation(http://i.minus.com/jbuwzsBt3Y22gC.png)

You know you don't have to tell them what alcohol is used to make one right.

And if they ask you can just pretend you don't know.

No one is going to research kalimotxo at the table, and if the date was good they won't remember you had kalimotxo on the date. Plus they won't be able to Google it when they get home because lol Basque orthography.

I find myself wondering if this is the first time these words have ever been combined in this particular order. Like, ever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 15, 2014, 08:34:11 PM

I talked about the guy I have no chemistry with at work. Why does he still turn me on SO MUCH? Just his presence gets me hot. Today he walked by me and just his smell gets my nipples sore as fuck.

WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!?!?! :stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 15, 2014, 09:25:09 PM

Pheromones?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 15, 2014, 09:30:16 PM

are you sure he isn't a large baby and you aren't feeling nursing pangs?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 15, 2014, 09:31:36 PM

I usually don't get hard nipples when aroused but with him it's like :yeshrug that entire is a male fantasy so far in my experience. Today he acted like a jerk though, so and it stopped. Thankfully. :obama

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 15, 2014, 09:34:05 PM

this is just the lull period in the plot, you'll be back engraving window panes with those nips soon enough.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: PlayDat on September 16, 2014, 12:30:02 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 15, 2014, 04:38:11 PM

Quote from: PlayDat on September 15, 2014, 02:33:19 PM
Should I be suspicious of women who are overtly sexual on tinder? I asked about food and her first message back to me is hinting at cunnilingus.

breh...
(http://i.imgur.com/aUSZGol.png)

:snoop

If I'm speaking to a bot then it has to be a very sophisticated one. I sent the first message, ended it with a question and she responded directly to it. She's given direct responses to everything I've said so far actually. Well, except for the part where I asked when she wants to meet up. That was right before I left for work over 6 hours ago. She hasn't gotten back to me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 16, 2014, 12:38:22 AM

Quote from: Esch on September 16, 2014, 12:28:56 AM

I'm usually pretty lazy about checking snap chat, I seriously do it every week or so. I'm just not good at taking selfies is probably most of it. So I load up my shits and the 'one that got away' sent me a mostly top less picture. Like 4 days ago saying 'holaaa' with a fuck me face on. Saw most of a nipple.

:shaq2 I don't know what to do with this one. I know how she likes to manipulate people but I'm not trying to get looped into that again. On the other hand, she lives like 9 hours away and I could just send it with no consequences. On the other hand, I've never sent a dick pic.

:yeshrug

send a picture of your neck and say something like "this isn't even the thickest part of my body wink wink"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on September 16, 2014, 12:47:57 AM

Quote from: Esch on September 16, 2014, 12:28:56 AM

I'm usually pretty lazy about checking snap chat, I seriously do it every week or so. I'm just not good at taking selfies is probably most of it. So I load up my shits and the 'one that got away' sent me a mostly top less picture. Like 4 days ago saying 'holaaa' with a fuck me face on. Saw most of a nipple.

:shaq2 I don't know what to do with this one. I know how she likes to manipulate people but I'm not trying to get looped into that again. On the other hand, she lives like 9 hours away and I could just send it with no consequences. On the other hand, I've never sent a dick pic.

:yeshrug

Relevant:

http://youtu.be/SLFkiyCjc2E

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 16, 2014, 08:02:58 AM

Got nothing to lose really. If a picture of your dick gets on the interwebz or anywhere else what are people going to say "eh. it looks like a dick" There's not much to those wormy bastards

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 16, 2014, 01:47:29 PM

Now that my work load has finally become manageable and noninvasive on my leisure time I guess it's back to the dating scene for me or whatever... :goty2

Wish me luck! (http://i.imgur.com/X0uTI4T.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 16, 2014, 01:58:20 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/wwwWSQI.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on September 16, 2014, 02:34:04 PM

Quote from: Esch on September 16, 2014, 12:28:56 AM

I'm usually pretty lazy about checking snap chat, I seriously do it every week or so. I'm just not good at taking selfies is probably most of it. So I load up my shits and the 'one that got away' sent me a mostly top less picture. Like 4 days ago saying 'holaaa' with a fuck me face on. Saw most of a nipple.

:shaq2 I don't know what to do with this one. I know how she likes to manipulate people but I'm not trying to get looped into that again. On the other hand, she lives like 9 hours away and I could just send it with no consequences. On the other hand, I've never sent a dick pic.

:yeshrug

You self concious? Dickpics are an art. Fluff yerself up half-mast, get a nice angle (no half pulled down underwear/pants, thats amateur shit), and snap. May take a few tries.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on September 16, 2014, 04:00:05 PM

ayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy lmao

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on September 16, 2014, 04:03:03 PM

Submit it here for professional review -> critiquemydickpic.tumblr.com

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 16, 2014, 04:04:17 PM

esch :neogaf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 16, 2014, 04:13:42 PM

Quote from: Esch on September 16, 2014, 03:49:48 PM

Well I got a nice floppy going, some good lighting and sent my first dick pic. We'll see how it goes :leon

(http://i.imgur.com/qwpI0pI.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 16, 2014, 04:19:26 PM

honestly though you shouldn't have send a full dick pick. She only sent you half topless pics, you should have sent the male equivalent - maybe a boxer shot with half an inch showing. This is an Obama-esque failure of negotiating, breh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 16, 2014, 04:22:48 PM

Quote from: Esch on September 16, 2014, 04:21:28 PM

Just the tip? Nah. She's seen me mostly naked anyway. If I'm sending a dick pick its gonna be my full scimitar and stones, breh.

go on

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 16, 2014, 04:43:32 PM

Esch working that magic

Don't circumcise your sons, brehs :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on September 16, 2014, 05:34:09 PM

Getting complimented on your dick is a huge ego booster for sure

"Things are going to be alright. I think we're going to be ok."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 16, 2014, 07:25:13 PM

So I have a date scheduled for tomorrow with a new cute brunette with lovely eyes. Excited for that. But now previous girl wants to hang out and get dinner :larry

I'm gonna try and see how each one goes before I make a judgment call. Part of me wants to tell the first girl to fuck off...but she says she really wants to see me.

Not the worst circumstance to be in I suppose

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 16, 2014, 09:02:11 PM

Quote from: Death Ghidorah on September 16, 2014, 08:53:12 PM

Ignore the first girl, go with the new one.

Listen to this man.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 16, 2014, 10:10:04 PM

esch next move is a snap video featuring a slow jerk

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 16, 2014, 10:11:53 PM

See both girls on separate days. Sounds like the first girl realizes she fucked up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 16, 2014, 10:21:03 PM

I'm gonna hang out with both but I'm going to guess first girl is on the way out

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 17, 2014, 01:53:20 AM

Quote from: Death Ghidorah on September 15, 2014, 06:55:23 PM

Instead, embrace your arab side by saving a nice arab shiksa :shaq

You know I'm not sure if they count as shiksas. :larry

:fbm .ليت... انا الحادي و شـيـوعـي، لي صاحبة عربية في احلامي فقط

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 17, 2014, 02:20:46 AM

the former chick i was dating who is now a good friend of mine has become my own Cyrano over here, helping me respond to this girl i'm trying to start something with.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 18, 2014, 08:02:09 PM

date last night went REALLY well. very instantly comfortable with her.

second date with original girl is happening in half an hour. we'll see how this goes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on September 18, 2014, 08:25:59 PM

I met MAF and his girlfriend. They're sort of perfect together :heart

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 18, 2014, 10:23:07 PM

I find myself in quite the pickle :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 18, 2014, 10:58:30 PM

Hey wrath, for once, stop acting like you know what you're talking about. Do you know what my situation is? No. Am I looking for sage advice about dating from you? No. So while I appreciate you being a bro for me, stop acting high and mighty with this shit.

I find myself in a pickle because she never dumped me. She just said she wanted to take things slow a few weeks ago. We had a really really great time tonight. The pickle I'm in is trying to express to one of these girls that I'm interested in the other. It's my fault for being in this situation, and I realize that the first girl is wanting to be more casual with things. I have to identify which person I envision myself having more fun with, and letting her know I'm interested in someone else.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 18, 2014, 11:03:14 PM

I honestly dont think you owe either anything at this moment. As far as I can remember you never discussed being exclusive with either of these girls. Take both at their different paces and dont try to make a decision now

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 18, 2014, 11:04:01 PM

You're fine dude, just please try and have a bit more understanding. And hey, it's not like I'm blaming my situation on ghosts.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 18, 2014, 11:14:02 PM

just get your dick wet bruh. universal advice.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on September 19, 2014, 12:34:22 AM

which sister gets the tip? :phil

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 19, 2014, 02:36:29 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 18, 2014, 10:23:07 PM

I find myself in quite the pickle :-\

In the game ya gotta hurt peeps unfortunately.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on September 19, 2014, 11:06:07 AM

Went on a dinner date last night. She played on her phone the whole time, talked about her kids and complained about her mom. I paid the bill and she didn't even thank me. No physical contact either even though we slept in the same bed.

I don't think this is going to work out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on September 19, 2014, 11:35:19 AM

I'm sorry TA. :(

There are a lot of thing that are tolerable in relationships/marriage. Ungratefulness shouldn't be one of them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on September 19, 2014, 11:42:27 AM

It was a joke post. The woman was my wife, and everything's cool. I should have put that in spoilers.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on September 19, 2014, 11:44:18 AM

I assumed it was your wife. :lol

Plus, I've been feeling a little unsettled because good friends of my wife an I just announced a divorce and we thought they were the happiest family ever. They have 4 kids under 8 and the youngest isn't even 3 yet. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 19, 2014, 11:47:36 AM

Lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on September 19, 2014, 11:50:13 AM

BrandNew's post made me objectively evaluate my last 'date' with my wife and it made me chuckle to describe it that way.

Too much caffeine today, I guess.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 19, 2014, 12:45:01 PM

:dead TA showing the singles how neurotic they are.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2014, 01:05:37 PM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on September 19, 2014, 11:06:07 AM

Went on a dinner date last night. She played on her phone the whole time, talked about her kids and complained about her mom. I paid the bill and she didn't even thank me. No physical contact either even though we slept in the same bed.

I don't think this is going to work out.

Sounds like you didn't have something good to celebrate.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 19, 2014, 01:42:16 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2014, 01:05:37 PM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on September 19, 2014, 11:06:07 AM
Went on a dinner date last night. She played on her phone the whole time, talked about her kids and complained about her mom. I paid the bill and she didn't even thank me. No physical contact either even though we slept in the same bed.

I don't think this is going to work out.

Sounds like you didn't have something good to celebrate.

well he didn't say he went to Olive Garden so we assumed so.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Howard Alan Treesong on September 19, 2014, 01:43:57 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on September 19, 2014, 01:42:16 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2014, 01:05:37 PM
Quote from: ToxicAdam on September 19, 2014, 11:06:07 AM
Went on a dinner date last night. She played on her phone the whole time, talked about her kids and complained about her mom. I paid the bill and she didn't even thank me. No physical contact either even though we slept in the same bed.

I don't think this is going to work out.

Sounds like you didn't have something good to celebrate.
well he didn't say he went to Olive Garden so we assumed so.

back when I was single, taking a girl to Olive Garden was a surefire way to get laid

you've already established she has low standards

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on September 19, 2014, 01:53:19 PM

Quote from: Brehvolution on September 19, 2014, 11:44:18 AM

Plus, I've been feeling a little unsettled because good friends of my wife an I just announced a divorce and we thought they were the happiest family ever. They have 4 kids under 8 and the youngest isn't even 3 yet. :-\

Yea, it's a terrible thing.

All my childhood friends came from divorced families, my parents were the only ones that stayed together. Although that was a sham too, because once all the kids moved out they divorced. They were just waiting it out.

All those childhood friends grew up and got their own marriages/divorces by the age of 30. So then I moved away and met a large group of married couples (mostly my wife's friends). 12 years later and all but 2 couples are divorced.

Hard to remain optimistic about love when you see so much emotional carnage along the way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on September 19, 2014, 02:04:26 PM

It's kind of the same way here except none of my high school friends got married. :lol
My wife's friends are all divorced or never married. One did get married last year and just had her first baby at age 39.

Having babies in late 30's (http://i.imgur.com/4nE8HT0.png)

No thanks!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 19, 2014, 02:44:40 PM

The modern idea of "love" is largely horseshit. People should be looking for someone that, in five years, 2 kids, and 40 lbs they can realistically think they'll look at that person and say, "Eh, you're still alright." Love is for suckers.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on September 19, 2014, 03:06:32 PM

They say marriage is a permanent commitment to a temporary delusion. There are two sides to that coin, though.

Even though you are right, the pursuit of love can be a terrific motivating factor to make yourself into a better person. Finding a good significant other can greatly improve your financial security, health, mental outlook.

So, it's hard for me to be to be too cynical when I've seen it improve so many lives.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 19, 2014, 03:12:03 PM

Date night.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 19, 2014, 04:01:03 PM

Life would be way easier if I were dumber. Most happy people I know are stupid.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 19, 2014, 04:13:39 PM

that is the most euphoric statement I've heard in a long fucking while on this website

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on September 19, 2014, 04:17:00 PM

what a fucking nerd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 19, 2014, 04:30:19 PM

i think most people just have the wrong idea of what they're looking for. They have a list of qualities and look at marriage like choosing a car: "oh this'll work"

example: they must be at least 6 ft tall, brown hair, have a good job, like dogs, listen to country music and enjoy theater. ::) Yes because those are the attributes that determine the marriage quality of a person.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 19, 2014, 08:40:26 PM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on September 19, 2014, 01:53:19 PM

All my childhood friends came from divorced families, my parents were the only ones that stayed together. Although that was a sham too, because once all the kids moved out they divorced. They were just waiting it out.

Thanks for sharing, I'm only quoting this part to say that while yes, you were being deceived, that was probably a tremendous sacrifice your parents made so that you wouldn't have to go through that as a kid.

Love might be horseshit in a world of liquid institutions (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Late_modernity), maybe it was always horseshit, I don't know, but I do know we're all still capable of self-sacrifice no matter what's going on around us.

What I'm trying to say is monicas, may Marcus Aurelius lead you to Stoicism.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on September 19, 2014, 08:55:49 PM

all that is solid melts in to air brehs

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 19, 2014, 08:58:45 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on September 19, 2014, 08:55:49 PM

all that is solid melts in to air brehs

You're going to get benji excited about the death of the state with talk like this and that's just mean.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 19, 2014, 09:51:20 PM

I'm actually going through Meditations right now but it kinda makes me feel like some neckbeard mra =/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 20, 2014, 01:31:28 AM

Met at a local burger joint in the cool part of town, ate, flirted, took her to her first drag show, laughed, then we went to discovery green park in downtown, and made out. Was short, but sexy. I think this may have potential.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 20, 2014, 01:37:11 AM

this is discovery green. it's :uguu @ night

(http://cdn.c.photoshelter.com/img-get2/I0000ToKPPEmDNlk/fit=1000x750/ZW2L7496.jpg)

(http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-VCWMq6SAVe8/TvtvIcymofI/AAAAAAAAAO8/O77a18n5g3A/s1600/Discovery_Green2.jpg)

it's one of the best places in the city.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 20, 2014, 04:53:58 AM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on September 19, 2014, 11:42:27 AM

It was a joke post. The woman was my wife, and everything's cool. I should have put that in spoilers.

:lol

Even so: :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 20, 2014, 07:26:51 AM

Quote from: toku on September 19, 2014, 09:51:20 PM

I'm actually going through Meditations right now but it kinda makes me feel like some neckbeard mra =/

When I read Epictetus' Discourses for the first time I kept thinking to myself, "I've heard of slave morality (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/On_the_Genealogy_of_Morality) but this is ridiculous. :beli"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 20, 2014, 04:35:59 PM

making sweet love in the shower :rejoice

having your three year old son pop the lock, tear the curtain open and say HELLOOOOOO :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 20, 2014, 05:06:07 PM

he didn't see anything, early-adult counseling averted :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 20, 2014, 05:29:59 PM

thank god for premature ejaculation or else he would have seen something huh

(http://i.imgur.com/rVtN8WL.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 20, 2014, 05:33:44 PM

nah it was the second go around (http://i.imgur.com/rVtN8WL.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 20, 2014, 06:36:06 PM

Illegal use of :fbm, #9 on the offense. -15 likes, repeat first post.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 21, 2014, 05:22:37 PM

Second date with second girl today was enlightening. Found out she's kinda religious, and she found out I was kinda not. We both talked about liking each other but realizing things wouldn't work. No big deal! Ended civilly, and in fact she wants to play trivia with a big group soon. Don't think we'll stop hanging out, she really is a cool gal. No sex occurred, so a friendship is viable.

Back to the first one! We're having a date on Tuesday or Wednesday, I'm cooking for her. We're watching Evil Dead together. Should be fun!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on September 21, 2014, 05:36:10 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on September 18, 2014, 10:58:30 PM

Hey wrath, for once, stop acting like you know what you're talking about. Do you know what my situation is? No. Am I looking for sage advice about dating from you? No. So while I appreciate you being a bro for me, stop acting high and mighty with this shit.

I find myself in a pickle because she never dumped me. She just said she wanted to take things slow a few weeks ago. We had a really really great time tonight. The pickle I'm in is trying to express to one of these girls that I'm interested in the other. It's my fault for being in this situation, and I realize that the first girl is wanting to be more casual with things. I have to identify which person I envision myself having more fun with, and letting her know I'm interested in someone else.

Old but I tend to see "taking it slow" as "I don't really think I'm all that into you but I have no other prospects atm." I dunno. I just think about when I was really interested in my beaus, taking it slow was never on the table. Not like "marriage" or any of that stuff was on the table but I wasn't like "hol' up I dunno about this here." I was like "can't wait to do stuff and hang outs weeee!"

:yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 21, 2014, 05:58:49 PM

Well, that very well might be the case. But we enjoy hanging out together, and we see each other often now. I don't know, I'm having fun, and I'm happy. It's all I care about at the moment.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 22, 2014, 12:25:17 AM

That gal I went on some dates with and I decided to part ways. :yeshrug

moveontothenextone.gif

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 22, 2014, 12:35:51 AM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 22, 2014, 01:03:10 AM

Oh god. Facebook. Again. Why did I have to see that.

Smh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 22, 2014, 01:04:16 AM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on September 22, 2014, 01:03:10 AM

Oh god. Facebook. Again. Why did I have to see that.

Smh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 22, 2014, 01:08:30 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 22, 2014, 01:04:16 AM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on September 22, 2014, 01:03:10 AM
Oh god. Facebook. Again. Why did I have to see that.

Smh.
?

I think someone got back together with someone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 22, 2014, 01:15:50 AM

Oh. I'm not checking Facebook. I have a feeling I know who it is but I don't want to know.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 22, 2014, 01:25:30 AM

The next time bebpo makes a post about his ex-now-fiancee-I-don't-know-anymore every one just ignore it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 22, 2014, 01:36:11 AM

y'all just jealous her pussy game too strong

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 22, 2014, 01:50:16 AM

Her pussy's haunted

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on September 22, 2014, 01:54:04 AM

Quote from: Bebpo

I don't know, I'm having fun, and I'm happy. It's all I care about at the moment.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 22, 2014, 02:21:48 AM

At this point, this is really the only appropriate reaction.

(http://media.tumblr.com/0aef6d83f3a944c2220817a0e043d761/tumblr_inline_nbyw9tg2BG1rz44at.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 22, 2014, 03:28:39 AM

I'm not claiming any of us got some winning recipe for success in relationships, but god-damn Beps

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 22, 2014, 03:53:32 AM

Meh, I had a ~~Vietnam War~~ War in Afghanistan relationship myself once. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 22, 2014, 04:02:53 AM

The only people who give me advice are people I pay to give me advice. Everyone else knew I was a lost cause in early adolescence and stopped proffering it. (http://i.imgur.com/dE8Kb8z.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 22, 2014, 04:18:54 AM

This whole forum is kind of a depressing place. I don't think anyone who is actually happy or healthy actually posts here. At least I refuse to believe it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 22, 2014, 04:23:49 AM

Hmm I'm pretty damn healthy and happy now, just got married, little baby on the way, got a new job :-*

Think the people that are happy just post less cause there is less to talk about.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 22, 2014, 10:10:21 AM

I just celebrated 5 years married, went on vacation and bought a new motorcycle because my wife kept telling me to go ahead and do it while we were at the dealership. I'm pretty sure I'm happy. Healthy? Dunno. Don't care.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 22, 2014, 11:10:52 AM

Quote from: toku on September 22, 2014, 04:18:54 AM

This whole forum is kind of a depressing place. I don't think anyone who is actually happy or healthy actually posts here. At least I refuse to believe it.

I have two children and am quite happy :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 22, 2014, 12:01:17 PM

Eh, things could be worse. :yeshrug

spoiler (click to show/hide)

But they also could be a lot better. :beli

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 22, 2014, 12:07:43 PM

Quote from: toku on September 22, 2014, 04:18:54 AM

This whole forum is kind of a depressing place. I don't think anyone who is actually happy or healthy actually posts here. At least I refuse to believe it.

You got smoked pretty good on this one. :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 22, 2014, 12:34:11 PM

I eat my Ls.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 22, 2014, 12:35:36 PM

But are they......... Cheery L's. :hitler

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Sorry y'all. :snoop

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 22, 2014, 12:41:36 PM

getting all this prep work in this weekend to have this girl over this week

get sick on monday

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 22, 2014, 12:42:54 PM

Quote from: Sovok on September 22, 2014, 12:35:36 PM

But are they......... Cheery L's. :hitler

spoiler (click to show/hide)
Sorry y'all. :snoop
[close]

(http://i.minus.com/ibTNTGcc1Cjpd.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 22, 2014, 01:30:03 PM

Married eight years, got a 2 1/2 year old daughter, very very happy.

And I genuinely want what's best for Bebs. I saw that on Facebook and my heart just sank. I was in a toxic relationship when I was younger (high school/college). We'd break up and get back together so many times when we both knew that it was a terrible idea. Things never got better, we weren't good for each other, and it took forever for us realize it.

Maybe I'm wrong and just being a jerk, but there are so many red flags that give me flashbacks to my own relationship that it scares me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Howard Alan Treesong on September 22, 2014, 01:48:28 PM

Quote from: Sovok on September 22, 2014, 03:53:32 AM

Meh, I had a ~~Vietnam War~~ War in Afghanistan relationship myself once. :yeshrug

You went back 3 times over several years because hey, why not?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 22, 2014, 01:57:12 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on September 22, 2014, 01:30:03 PM

Married eight years, got a 2 1/2 year old daughter, very very happy.

And I genuinely want what's best for Bebs. I saw that on Facebook and my heart just sank. I was in a toxic relationship when I was younger (high school/college). We'd break up and get back together so many times when we both knew that it was a terrible idea. Things never got better, we weren't good for each other, and it took forever for us realize it.

Maybe I'm wrong and just being a jerk, but there are so many red flags that give me flashbacks to my own relationship that it scares me.

Cho Chang?
(http://i.imgur.com/RQmQmqm.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on September 22, 2014, 02:18:33 PM

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on September 22, 2014, 02:22:10 PM

Only if Cho was bipolar, cut herself regularly and sucked the enjoyment out of things that I really liked doing.

It was a bad, co-dependent relationship that lasted for 6 years. Fortunately we both moved on and are in happy relationships with others. She's actually an "auntie" to my daughter now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on September 22, 2014, 02:27:41 PM

I'm pretty happy. Been married 14 years, have 3 kids, house, 2 cars, a dog, and good health. Since no one cares if you are unhappy, why bother? ;)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 22, 2014, 02:49:55 PM

I was about to say I thought Brehvolution was a new black poster in his 20s all this time, then I clicked his username and realized it's Zero Hero.
:whew

:lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on September 22, 2014, 03:06:06 PM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on September 22, 2014, 02:21:48 AM

At this point, this is really the only appropriate reaction.

(http://media.tumblr.com/0aef6d83f3a944c2220817a0e043d761/tumblr_inline_nbyw9tg2BG1rz44at.gif)

it's so demonic, friends.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on September 22, 2014, 03:10:41 PM

and for the record, i'm in decent shape, well into the 17th year of marriage with a kid, and i gots a strong career, a house, and SO MANY MOTORCYCLES WOWOWOWOW. all my L's are 100% self-inflicted.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 22, 2014, 03:13:55 PM

Yeah, I'm married 17 years, two kids who are amazing and wonderful and have even inspired other kid-questioning couples to reconsider and procreate. Wife and I are still finding new things to talk about after all these years. We're each other's biggest source of support. Good stuff.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on September 22, 2014, 03:19:51 PM

Yeah, 8 years of marriage here, just bought a house, own my own business. For an internet forum this place is pretty well adjusted.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on September 22, 2014, 03:31:57 PM

Going on three years this December with the beau, my how time flies. Finished up my degree finally this past summer. Working a couple different jobs at once, volunteering, having a love/hate relationship with Destiny.

On the subject of screwy relationships if I ever have kids I want to encourage them to socialize and get that teenage angst dating out of the way before they hit adulthood where it just becomes sad.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on September 22, 2014, 04:14:17 PM

The fuck is going on in this thread? This is sickening.

Limp wristed circle-jerk.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 22, 2014, 04:17:00 PM

Well, I'm crazy and unhappy, but that's par for the course.

I've had some relatively successful dates recently, if you define success as ending in meaningless sex. I think my problem on that front is two fold: 1) looking in the wrong places and 2) seriously trying to pursue a relationship before I'm happy with myself.

But, you know, whatever man. That's just like my opinion and shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 22, 2014, 04:46:37 PM

Thanks for making me hand out WTG likes like this is a fucking self-improvement thread, toku. :beli :bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on September 22, 2014, 04:49:44 PM

Ewwwww positivity :yuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 22, 2014, 05:28:57 PM

Quote from: Howard Alan Treesong on September 22, 2014, 01:48:28 PM

You went back 3 times over several years because hey, why not?

I was too callow to sustain multi-year relationships then, I think this one was maybe 18 months? But yes, hey why not? was definitely a key player.

Also poor impulse control.

So much drama crammed into so little time brehs. :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 22, 2014, 05:44:39 PM

mods, delete this page.

too much positivity.

who's gonna write the Bore Couples erotic novel though. We just need one black couple to qualify for placement in the African American literature section of Barnes And Noble.

sup Himu :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on September 22, 2014, 05:49:29 PM

Just here to deliver more L's.

8 years together, 6 married. Still head over heels in love. Amazing baby girl.

The only bad thing about our relationship is that it's so great and easy that we routinely find ourselves in these conversations with friends who are upset they can't find the same strong relationship. We always feel bad.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Howard Alan Treesong on September 22, 2014, 07:21:36 PM

5 years together, EXACTLY 2 years married (today is our anniversary!), have a 3mo old daughter, two hilarious cats, and a house so nice I can hardly understand it. my life will be awesome if I can just learn to stay off Twitter. (the ultimate self inflicted L)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 22, 2014, 07:24:56 PM

Quote from: Howard Alan Treesong on September 22, 2014, 07:21:36 PM

5 years together, EXACTLY 2 years married (today is our anniversary!), have a 3mo old daughter, two hilarious cats, and a house so nice I can hardly understand it. my life will be awesome if I can just learn to stop caring about video games and the video games industry. (the ultimate self inflicted L)

ftfy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 22, 2014, 07:35:55 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 22, 2014, 05:44:39 PM

mods, delete this page.

too much positivity.

who's gonna write the Bore Couples erotic novel though. We just need one black couple to qualify for placement in the African American literature section of Barnes And Noble.

sup Himu :hitler

I'm blushing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on September 22, 2014, 07:38:33 PM

Probably happy. I think my particular collection of neuroses will keep me from really feeling/saying it with confidence. Sometimes though- with enough beer im almost there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 22, 2014, 07:41:21 PM

OK that one isn't getting a like. :bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 22, 2014, 07:54:52 PM

How did I start a happy spiral? I'm sick.

(http://i.minus.com/iR7xSOfyVEBwi.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 22, 2014, 07:59:43 PM

Oh, don't worry.

I'll make it dark and depressing soon. :smug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 22, 2014, 08:27:46 PM

Quote from: toku on September 22, 2014, 07:54:52 PM

How did I start a happy spiral? I'm sick.

(http://i.minus.com/iR7xSOfyVEBwi.gif)

Not only did you take the L, you made the rest of us take involuntary ones too. :bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 22, 2014, 08:46:06 PM

Quote from: Reb on September 22, 2014, 04:14:17 PM

The fuck is going on in this thread? This is sickening.

Limp wristed circle-jerk.

I just realized you're using my overly-direct translation of お疲れ様 as your avatar-text.
Reb様
:uguu

Quote from: MrAngryFace on September 22, 2014, 07:38:33 PM

Probably happy. I think my particular collection of neuroses will keep me from really feeling/saying it with confidence. Sometimes though- with enough beer im almost there.

Just accept my XBL Friend invite, you big wookiee. We can timeshare our neuroses after that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 22, 2014, 08:53:45 PM

Quote from: Vularai on September 22, 2014, 08:27:46 PM

Quote from: toku on September 22, 2014, 07:54:52 PM
How did I start a happy spiral? I'm sick.

(http://i.minus.com/iR7xSOfyVEBwi.gif)

Not only did you take the L, you made the rest of us take involuntary ones too. :bolo

My losses are your losses comrade.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: PlayDat on September 23, 2014, 04:47:56 PM

I like one of my coworkers. She has the kind of bubbly personality that guys probably mistake for flirting all the time. I don’t think she’s been flirting with me, but I never think anyone is. She’s only been working here for the past couple weeks and she’ll be leaving soon because the schedule isn’t working out for her. Last night I asked her when her last day would be and she glared at me, then responded with a very exaggerated “What? Why do you want to know?” I’m not sure if this was a missed opportunity or if she somehow knew I liked her, but didn’t want me to ask her out. We’ll be working together three more times before she’s gone for good.

Most 20 years olds have more experience dating than I do. I have a chronic illness that I’ve only gotten under control fairly recently. For the better part of a decade, I had near constant diarrhea, rectal bleeding, hemorrhoids, and a tiny appetite. I dreaded going to the bathroom as each bowel movement was half hour or more ordeal. I was in a lot of pain. My ass hurt just walking to and from class. My confidence was rekt.

My pediatrician was horrible, which is why I didn’t get diagnosed until late 2012 when I moved away for school. I started receiving treatment in early 2013. My health improved dramatically. I also started going to the gym regularly. By the end of the year I gained 40 pounds, with muscle making up a decent portion of it.

That same year was also the first time I ever really dated. I went to an all boys high school and didn’t make much of an effort to socialize with any of the girls in my neighborhood. I didn’t go to my prom because I literally didn’t know any teenage girls I could have asked. Since my health has started improving, I’ve asked out a bunch of women, but have yet to go on a second date with anyone.

I’m not really sure if this is the right approach. There’s a lot of hooking up that happens here, but it’s not really something I’ve ever tried for a number of reasons. A lot of them happen while both parties are inebriated, but due to my illness, alcohol is prohibited among many other dietary restrictions. I also don't like how the ones that don't result in relationships leave at least one person bitter in the end.

I’ve been much more direct with the women I’ve been interested in, but I’m not sure if that’s a sign of confidence or an inability to interpret more subtle forms of communication. I like being honest with people and knowing where exactly I stand with them. This has mean racking up rejections, with each one burning my soul much more than it ought to. When I think about it logically, I know it shouldn’t matter but that doesn’t stop it from bothering me. I end up getting upset at myself for not having figured this stuff out yet.

I don’t even really know what I’m looking for right now. Relationships seem nice, but I’m starting to think I might not have room in my life for a girlfriend right now. I’m majoring in STEM and I work part time. I’d have to find someone who was okay with not seeing me several days a week. I’m barely able to submit my assignments on time. I can’t even goof off on forums the way I did during the summer. I don’t know if I could tolerate having someone that I need to check in with everyday. It’s possible I only feel this way because I’m afraid of getting hurt and I’m sure I’d feel even more upset if I graduated college unfucked.

Outside of the sexlessness, I'm very happy with my life right now. I’m living in an apartment this year which means I have my own room for the first time ever, I completed a couple of projects over the summer which did wonders for my confidence in my skills as a programmer, and I’m currently the healthiest I’ve ever been. There are certainly things I’d change, but I like the way I look and I love the person I’m growing into.

Closing questions:

1) Was college easy mode for you dating-wise?
2) Is it a waste of time trying to date in the traditional sense while I'm here?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on September 23, 2014, 04:50:02 PM

This is really fun if you only read the first sentence of every paragraph. The twists and turns are amazing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 23, 2014, 04:56:56 PM

1. Yes but for reasons I'd rather not get into that may or may not be universal.
2. Not necessarily, but you need to play catch up before you should be thinking about that (imo).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 23, 2014, 05:42:21 PM

Quote from: PlayDat on September 23, 2014, 04:47:56 PM

I like one of my coworkers.

(http://i.imgur.com/GzCkvre.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 24, 2014, 12:54:25 AM

damn dude. how did it go out?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 24, 2014, 12:58:30 AM

sorry to hear that man

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 24, 2014, 01:04:17 AM

I got you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 24, 2014, 01:32:29 AM

2014 claims another victim.

Sorry Shark.

Fuck this shitty fucking year.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 24, 2014, 01:57:07 AM

sorry to hear bruh, you're gonna feel worse than you've ever felt pretty soon but it'll get better

the girl i've been on two dates with was originally going to come over my place for dinner/movie date but i feel she's still unsure about doing it because i brought it up and she diverted into going to see another play this week instead.

:yeshrug guess i won't try to force the matter.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 24, 2014, 02:19:20 AM

Sorry Shark. I could tell you that this is just part of life and it's going to happen to you again and again, but I'm sure that's not what you want or need to hear right now. So, just sorry it is. Hang in there, buddy.

:tocry

On a personal level, was about to deactivate my profile AGAIN and yet AGAIN some random woman messaged me. She's cute but super hippie dippie, makes all of her own food, sources it locally/organically, blah blah blah. This will end poorly, so of course I'm gonna ask her out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 24, 2014, 02:27:37 AM

That's a physical impossibility for me

:shaq

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 24, 2014, 03:23:38 AM

Hang in there dude. If there's one thing I learned over the years

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: hampster on September 24, 2014, 01:54:53 PM

Sorry to hear that Shark :( But weren't you planning to move to Texas at some point? Hopefully this all ends up being for the best

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 24, 2014, 07:49:59 PM

I meant it, I'm proud of your Shark. You'll be fine.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on September 24, 2014, 08:13:42 PM

Sorry Shark :'( shit sucks, but it sounds like it might be for the best.

Still :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: mitchbade on September 24, 2014, 09:41:59 PM

Holy fucking shit. My friend's wife is leaving him for me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: mitchbade on September 24, 2014, 10:15:09 PM

;)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 24, 2014, 10:18:39 PM

Quote from: mitchbade on September 24, 2014, 09:41:59 PM

Holy fucking shit. My friend's wife is leaving him for me.

Horus Lupercal stylee. :obama

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: PlayDat on September 24, 2014, 11:07:05 PM

Quote from: PlayDat on September 23, 2014, 04:47:56 PM

I like one of my coworkers. She has the kind of bubbly personality that guys probably mistake for flirting all the time. I don’t think she’s been flirting with me, but I never think anyone is. She’s only been working here for the past couple weeks and she’ll be leaving soon because the schedule isn’t working out for her. Last night I asked her when her last day would be and she glared at me, then responded with a very exaggerated “What? Why do you want to know?” I’m not sure if this was a missed opportunity or if she somehow knew I liked her, but didn’t want me to ask her out. We’ll be working together three more times before she’s gone for good.

(http://i.minus.com/i3QgZbTLftMNi.gif)

She said yes. It's been way too long since I went on a date. I'm trying to keep a cool head about things. Gonna keep my eyes peeled for other potential women of interest.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 24, 2014, 11:30:59 PM

hope you have some resumes on deck breh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: PlayDat on September 24, 2014, 11:52:56 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 24, 2014, 11:30:59 PM

hope you have some resumes on deck breh

Did you read the post? She's leaving next week.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 25, 2014, 07:50:22 AM

she's coming back when the pregnancy test reads positive. and this time she's coming back for good

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 25, 2014, 10:24:06 AM

Quote from: PlayDat on September 24, 2014, 11:52:56 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 24, 2014, 11:30:59 PM
hope you have some resumes on deck breh

Did you read the post? She's leaving next week.

Honestly no. I just read the first sentence. (http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=36858.msg1935599#msg1935599)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 25, 2014, 01:11:20 PM

Quote from: lennedsay on September 22, 2014, 05:49:29 PM

Just here to deliver more L's.

8 years together, 6 married. Still head over heels in love. Amazing baby girl.

The only bad thing about our relationship is that it's so great and easy that we routinely find ourselves in these conversations with friends who are upset they can't find the same strong relationship. We always feel bad.

this is a brutal post i love it.

but it also true.

I think i'm at 7 years next year. gettin old brehs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 26, 2014, 02:34:25 AM

date 3 tonight

another really good night of comfortable talk. good chemistry (IMO). laughing, very casual. we ate at a mexican place and saw an Oscar Wilde play (no hipster). good night

I'm still not progressing passed the hug state though. i'm not feeling comfortable doing stuff like "making moves" in public i guess. and i feel she's really shy about it as well so we're basically just spinning wheels? i'm super pessimistic about this.

we're totally planning on seeing each other again. i'm gonna push for a dinner date at my place. gonna try hard because I think that's the where the progression can happen.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 26, 2014, 11:21:56 AM

walk her back to her car and just lean in. Do it taco

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on September 26, 2014, 11:54:01 AM

Yea, you're not going to know until you try. Even if it's awkward and you have the slight smell of vomit on your breath, it will be better than this purgatory you find yourself in.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 26, 2014, 12:09:01 PM

Or even worse in two months you go for it and you're now just a friend. A friend she thought was gay. And she's actually banging your best friend. Do it bro

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 26, 2014, 12:18:05 PM

And a lot of times, the girl will reciprocate. I've never been in a situation where a girl backs away. You're on a date. She knows what to expect.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on September 26, 2014, 12:24:46 PM

I think it's a mistake to go in for the first kiss at the end of the date. Because you become preoccupied by the idea the whole date and start to get anxious. Then when it happens, she leaves and you are left there wondering how it went .. did she like it .. will she call you again? It can lead to even more uncertainty, especially if you are prone to that kind of thing.

It's best to do it sometime in the middle of a date when you two share a moment or a laugh. It feels more natural and it takes the edge off the date and you can just relax and enjoy each other's company from then on out. Also, if it goes horribly, you can bail on the night and not waste each other's time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 26, 2014, 12:57:46 PM

Hmm. That's a good approach, I never thought of that

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 26, 2014, 04:45:05 PM

This is why the handshake always works. It's a weird ice breaker that automatically makes her feel comfortable and will get a chuckle. And when you go for the handshake again on the third date she'll be the one who hugs you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on September 26, 2014, 04:54:22 PM

Next time, give her a dap. If she just daps, she is still being shy. If she daps and makes it explode, she want the d.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 26, 2014, 05:10:40 PM

Ayyo why Tinder gotta hate on me for trying to use a fresh Facebook account. :shaq2

Time to find 50 "friends" with it I guess. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 27, 2014, 02:23:55 AM

This post is semi-explicit and a look into ones psychosis.

:drudge

WARNING.

So laying in bed with this chick just watching tv...I like her. I like this. And it once again confirms that this transition thing was the best decision I've made in my life. I haven't done this in so long. I've finally shed any excess baggage and stress due to my transition and everything else that I'm finally in the mental zone to date again and be proud of my body. In past relationships, there was a big mental block for me. I didn't like being treated like a man, and I didn't enjoy having relations as one either. So say time I'd date someone it felt forced. How can you have a fo relationship with someone if they see you as how you don't want to be seen? It's impossible. She makes me feel incredibly sexy and now I realize my body issues the past few months are just in my head, sort of like when you lose a shit ton of weight and you still consider yourself fat. But when she compliments my hips and says I have sexier thighs than hers, slaps my ass, or when she plays with my breasts, I finally feel like I don't have to pretend. I'm finally feel at home and comfortable with someone and there's no longer this unexplainable wall between the two of us. The fact she accepts me makes it even better.

I also did miss pussy. :noah especially black pussy :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on September 27, 2014, 02:36:58 AM

Even if this doesn't work out, this has given me so much confidence, and I desperately need more of that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 27, 2014, 03:06:46 AM

Bless up Himu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on September 27, 2014, 08:21:53 AM

Being accepted always feels great. Happy for you, Himu.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on September 29, 2014, 01:59:31 AM

your life tied into a meat knot

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 29, 2014, 11:30:40 AM

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on September 29, 2014, 01:59:31 AM

your life tied into a meat knot

Hand to god, this is how I misread the thread title EVERY TIME.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cheddahz on October 01, 2014, 09:55:26 PM

So, I've gone on a couple of lunch dates with this girl and yeah...I like her, but I have no idea how to "ask her out"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 01, 2014, 10:07:23 PM

:what

You've already been "out" with her. There have been dates. Call/text her and just ask if she wants to grab dinner or drinks at night. Done.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 01, 2014, 10:16:51 PM

Cheddahz this is your father. Just ask that young lady out. Send her a text message from your cell phone. And don't forget to brush your teeth tonight.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 01, 2014, 10:23:47 PM

This is all terrible advice. Put your hand in her back pocket next time you're both out to let her and everyone else know she's been claimed

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 01, 2014, 10:29:39 PM

ask her out for dinner.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 01, 2014, 10:32:45 PM

Side hug her

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cheddahz on October 01, 2014, 10:33:00 PM

Damn it, I probably shouldn't had asked here lol

Well, I guess I'll just see if she is free after work Saturday and see if she wants to grab coffee (and I'll offer to pay for it)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 01, 2014, 10:33:29 PM

shaking hands is for closers. do that after the date, never fails.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 01, 2014, 10:34:56 PM

Fuck coffee, get dinner. You're already dangerously close to the lunch-buddy status. And don't blurt out "I'LL PAY MA'AM" for this. That reeks of desperation. Just ask her out for dinner or drinks. This ain't hard.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 01, 2014, 10:36:56 PM

I'm hard. What up!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cheddahz on October 01, 2014, 10:51:02 PM

Shit, I'm just going to ask her out for sushi on Saturday

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 01, 2014, 10:56:45 PM

Quote from: Cheddahz on October 01, 2014, 10:33:00 PM

Damn it, I probably shouldn't had asked here lol

Well, I guess I'll just see if she is free after work Saturday and see if she wants to grab coffee (and I'll offer to pay for it)

Don't mind BN, he was suffering from a painful lack of self-awareness when he :what 'd you. :beli

e: Now that I'm reentering my #dgaf phase, I hope I can reach a level of no fuck giving where I closer handshake. I'm so curious how hilarious it will be irl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 01, 2014, 11:15:33 PM

Hey Cheddahz man you'll figure it out. You'll be alright.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cheddahz on October 01, 2014, 11:40:44 PM

Well, I just asked her out for dinner and we're grabbing sushi this weekend

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 01, 2014, 11:57:39 PM

Nice! Hope it goes well man.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on October 02, 2014, 12:07:49 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 01, 2014, 10:33:29 PM

shaking hands is for closers. do that after the date, never fails.

i have a 100% success rate

spoiler (click to show/hide)

1/1

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 02, 2014, 01:24:07 AM

I add like half of Bangladesh to my friends list on my fresh Facebook account and Tinder still giving me shit. :brazilcry

This shit better be the best thing since sliced bread, I had to send a tech support email like it was 2005 or some shit. :goty

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 02, 2014, 01:30:48 AM

Hope is the first step on the road to disappointment.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 02, 2014, 01:33:53 AM

TBH this is some fucking Sindri shit. :shaq2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on October 02, 2014, 03:47:40 AM

So I realize that, I mean, I love pussy and stuff, but every time I think of myself in a relationship in my head, I think of me with a guy. There's this guy I saw in my neighborhood jogging while I was doing my daily leisure walk and we talked, and recalled working together a long time back. He's very sexy and his smell turns me on bad. I've thought about him for the past day. I've come to the realization that even though things with Security Girl are fun and stuff, I just don't see a future there because I will always be pining for men sexually and romantically. Be bisexual, brehs. Date a bisexual, brehettes. Nope. This is why I don't want to be a bi guy, because I know of the personal conflict that comes with being bi. Unless he vastly prefers women, of course. Being bi sucks, don't recommend it unless you want to argue about who fucks better: men or women.

I just know there won't be anything between me and Jog Guy. :lupe But damn one could hope. :mouf

I can't get over the dick lust. :tocry I hated to do this to Security Girl given that it was my first thing since transition and it means a lot to me and she makes me feel womanly and shit, but I don't see a future there. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 02, 2014, 06:48:57 AM

Quote from: Death Ghidorah on October 02, 2014, 05:21:22 AM

Girls suck when it comes to me. That is all :goty2

(http://i.imgur.com/orWhtqM.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cheddahz on October 02, 2014, 11:50:19 AM

Quote from: toku on October 02, 2014, 06:48:57 AM

Quote from: Death Ghidorah on October 02, 2014, 05:21:22 AM
Girls suck when it comes to me. That is all :goty2

(http://i.imgur.com/orWhtqM.jpg)

"the feels"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 10, 2014, 12:27:19 AM

Welp, my ex just let me know today that she has cancer. This is a shit sandwich of feels.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 10, 2014, 02:08:34 AM

Sorry. :(

And sorry if I'm prying, but is it a "death sentence" cancer or a "I could maybe beat this" cancer?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 10, 2014, 02:10:24 AM

Stage 1 cancer, there's every reason to think she'll beat it. However, it is on her vocal cords, so the very real possibility of losing the ability to speak regardless exists.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 10, 2014, 02:22:39 AM

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 10, 2014, 09:38:26 AM

How does one even develop vocal chord cancer :fbm

sorry dude. Cancer is an asshole

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 10, 2014, 10:36:05 AM

Sorry to hear that. Smoker?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 10, 2014, 12:49:05 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 10, 2014, 10:36:05 AM

Sorry to hear that. Smoker?

Yeah. Sad/funny part is that she quit in January of this year. Whole thing is just fucked.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on October 12, 2014, 02:52:47 PM

What The Rise Of Hookup Culture Means For Everyone But You (http://www.clickhole.com/article/what-rise-hookup-culture-means-everyone-you-1111)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 12, 2014, 03:12:13 PM

One of my friends has started saying things that cross over from friendly banter into telegraphing romantic feelings. Once in a week is just me being neurotic, twice is getting a little weird, thrice is a band I used to listen to I mean smoke coming from fire. :goty2

Am I going to have the chance fulfill every neckbeard's revenge fantasy and deny someone trying to jump off one of the ladders onto the other? (Not to endorse the existence of the ladder theory.) Tune in next time for another miserable episode of my fucking shitty life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 12, 2014, 04:34:35 PM

Quote from: The Walrus on October 12, 2014, 03:57:43 PM

GF and I talked this morning about how we haven't been doing it much. Hard to have that talk.

You still had it though, and it sounds like as soon as it started becoming a problem to instead of letting it fester.

As for practical solutions to your problem, maybe swap intercourse for added oral? It's not like you need to really be in the mood yourself to do that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 12, 2014, 05:16:50 PM

Eat her out or someone else will.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 12, 2014, 05:33:31 PM

Go have your test levels checked, dude. I'd also suggest looking at your diet and activity levels. Eating better and getting consistent exercise makes me hard as a rock 24/7.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 12, 2014, 07:36:16 PM

Quote from: Death Ghidorah on October 12, 2014, 06:04:33 PM

But mupepe, you were already hard as a rock 24/7!

Well now I dont have to walk around with one hand down my pants

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 13, 2014, 08:35:29 AM

then i'd go back and say get your test levels checked. sounds hormonal.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on October 13, 2014, 11:53:27 AM

Seems like it would be the anti-depressants. It's the #1 thing I hear people complain about when they are on them. (The #2 thing being the 'dead inside' feeling).

Maybe it's not such a bad thing. Maybe you only feel guilty/worried about it because we are constantly conditioned by advertising and peer pressure to be thinking about sex all the time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on October 13, 2014, 12:18:23 PM

Quote from: The Walrus on October 13, 2014, 01:02:33 AM

And I barely even fap. 3x a week at most.

??????????????????????? Am I doing something wrong?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pilonv1 on October 17, 2014, 07:00:19 AM

Getting married tomorrow, is it bad that I'm looking forward more to the fact we get our life back and there is no more planning than the event itself?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on October 17, 2014, 07:10:29 AM

Quote from: pilonv1 on October 17, 2014, 07:00:19 AM

Getting married tomorrow, is it bad that I'm looking forward more to the fact we get our life back and there is no more planning than the event itself?

No, I felt the same way. That shit is stressful.

Congrats bud! Marriage can be truly amazing if you get along well and work together. Enjoy your day!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 17, 2014, 09:50:15 AM

Quote from: pilonv1 on October 17, 2014, 07:00:19 AM

Getting married tomorrow, is it bad that I'm looking forward more to the fact we get our life back and there is no more planning than the event itself?

nah we had the same feeling. don't get me wrong, we had a lot of fun at our wedding, sans some family drama, but we were happy to not be in the maelstrom of doting aunts and attention.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 17, 2014, 08:00:24 PM

Quote from: Vularai on October 12, 2014, 03:12:13 PM

One of my friends has started saying things that cross over from friendly banter into telegraphing romantic feelings. Once in a week is just me being neurotic, twice is getting a little weird, thrice is a band I used to listen to I mean smoke coming from fire. :goty2

Am I going to have the chance fulfill every neckbeard's revenge fantasy and deny someone trying to jump off one of the ladders onto the other? (Not to endorse the existence of the ladder theory.) Tune in next time for another miserable episode of my fucking shitty life.

Update: I asked if they wanted to smoke (cigarettes) and drink this weekend and they said they wanted to get dinner too. :brazilcry

And then they suggested one of these intimate downtown hotspot places. :brazilcry

My stupid fucking life. :dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 17, 2014, 08:40:58 PM

Fall back you ~~nerd~~ ikhwan. I agreed to go because I have bad judgment in my personal life (Only in your personal life? Did you read your post in Random Talk last night? -Ed.) and I want to know if it's a place worth taking someone else out on a date to because I'm a fucking piece of shit but I'm not asking someone out who I'm not attracted to and is just a friend to me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 17, 2014, 09:25:37 PM

kara: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pDFersmE8QU

Quote from: pilonv1 on October 17, 2014, 07:00:19 AM

Getting married tomorrow, is it bad that I'm looking forward more to the fact we get our life back and there is no more planning than the event itself?

I just realized I was lame and didn't say congrats. Congrats! :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pilonv1 on October 17, 2014, 10:01:31 PM

Too late you're on ignore

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 17, 2014, 10:48:19 PM

:tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 18, 2014, 08:45:57 PM

Quote from: Death Ghidorah on October 17, 2014, 09:01:40 PM

Sorry, just kind of sick and cranky. And why not? Just go out and try to have fun, if it doesn't work out tell her so. Easy way to have a good time AND end something before it gets too problematic.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 18, 2014, 09:14:31 PM

No, but in my life I've never seen another set like it.

And even if I found a copy (I look from time to time), it still wouldn't be the set I learned to play with.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Michael Moaner on October 19, 2014, 01:20:08 AM

Need some advice friends. I'll try and give the cliff notes/TLDR version at the end because this is long and I'm bored. Okay here's go:

I've been with my current girlfriend for about 9 months. Things have been pretty good thus far. We've had our moments and bicker like most couples, but ultimately there's been great chemistry and I really do love her. We practically live together and we've both talked about a future together in terms of what our hopes and goals are with each other down the road.

Anyway, throughout the past 9 months, there's been this dude who she's known since High School (she's 25 now) that will text her every month or so. She claims he's just a really good friend who's 'helped her through some really tough spots in life sometimes'. The texts themselves are pretty friendly. Except for the fact that he would on occasion call or text really late at night - in addition to saying stuff like "I miss you". Again, nothing blatant, but enough to make me feel a bit uncomfortable. She claimed at the time that she's never had anything to do with him romantically (fling or otherwise), and that he's always been just a 'friend'.

Well, beyond one major issue we had when we first started dating, which resulted in her sending explicit texts to a co-worker (which I forgave her for ::)), there's never really been any trust issues since. I mean, yeah this guy gives me the creeps, because I could tell that he's thirsty, but I certainly didn't dwell on it. In fact, I told her numerous times that I'm cool with them being friends, just don't cross any boundaries and disrespect me.

So anyway, flash forward to tonight. I go into plug my phone, notice hers on the counter - and she has a bunch of texts from him. Didn't read them, mostly because she was walking in behind me, but immediately she started acting a bit odd. She then kept asking me if everything was okay. Clearly, she knew I saw what was on her phone. She then proceeded to reassure me that nothing was going on, and that she 'just called him on the way to work to see how he was doing'. It turns out that he actually called her yesterday, but she deleted his call and possibly a voicemail? I should probably point out that we both use each other's phones a lot for various reasons when we're both at home being lazy.

Anyhow, we then get into a fight. She feels like I'm acting weird now, or being distant now that I saw his texts. I told her straight up; I'm not entirely comfortable with it, but it's whatever - I'm not her parent, and it isn't my place to tell her who she can and can't talk too. She then proceeds to say that she's just going to call him once and for all, and tell him that they can't be friends anymore. Because as she said "It isn't worth losing you over something so stupid - or making you not trust me". I repeated what I said about not being her parent and that she's a grown woman, but I also feel like I'm able to voice my opinion when something doesn't seem right to me.

So we finish talking/arguing. I guess there was closure. She says she's going to call him - I said whatever (still feeling a bit awkward now that she's essentially losing a 'friend' because he CANT leave her alone or act socially responsible in my estimation). The next part gets a bit weird. She calls him basically balling her eyes out. I wasn't in the room, but I could hear her crying really loudly, with various parts of the conversation mixed in (my house is really small). She proceeds to tell him that I am the love of her life, and she doesn't want to risk losing me over keeping in contact with him because 'it's not right'. I guess he responds by telling her he knew this phone call was coming, and that she shouldn't do it, but he'll respect her decision?

Anyhow, the end of the phone call is what makes me the most uneasy. She ends the call still crying and telling him he's a wonderful guy, and she hopes he gets all the happiness in the world and meets a great person. Except before she hangs up, she says "Can I ask you one question?". She then says "Did you ever have feelings for me at some point???". I don't know what his response was, but whatever. It just makes me uncomfortable because if you really don't give a fuck about this dude, why even ask or care? Female/Human curiousity? I don't know. The other part is, after their conversation, she confesses that she DID have feelings for him right before we got together, and that she had a thing for him during High School. However, they've never dated because "the timing has never been right". This kind of contradicts in the past about her saying she's never felt anything for him, but whatever.

Do you guys think I am overreacting in feeling a bit awkward and bothered by this? I feel like it's some 90's RomCom, where the best friend (which in this case he's not) can't leave some girl alone who's about to get married (which we're not, but have talked about). In my opinion, there's just some socially acceptable behavior that you don't do towards a friend of they're in relationship. Like calling/texting them late a night, or sending suggestive texts. Thoughts on the whole thing?

TLDR Version:

- Girlfriend of 9 months has guy friend from High School years ago (she's 25 now).
- Dude has called and texted her every month or so since we've been dating.
- Texts are fairly innocent, does sometimes get a bit odd with him telling her stuff along the lines that he 'misses' her at midnight
- Said shes never dated or hooked with him, only been a friend and that's it. I told her its whatever - just don't cross any boundaries and its cool with me
- Got into a fight tonight because they've been contacting each other again.
- Told her it's kind of awkward for me, but whatever - i'm not her dad.
- She tells me she's going to call him and tell him they can't be friends anymore because it might cause us more drama.
- She cries on the phone with him, emotional call, tells him I'm the love of her life.
- She says goodbye, but then asks at the end if he ever had feelings for her.
- She later admits that she DID have feelings for him back in High School and before we started dating. Never got together due to "timing"
- I again feel awkward as fuck.

:yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2014, 01:24:21 AM

You probably wouldn't want to hear any advice from me because I would want to see the gf and the dude get it on whilst I watch from afar in a dark corner.

(http://i.imgur.com/6Ikdtal.gif)

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totally joking btw.

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:hitler

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 19, 2014, 01:27:41 AM

Quote from: Michael Moaner on October 19, 2014, 01:20:08 AM

Need some advice friends. I'll try and give the cliff notes/TLDR version at the end because this is long and I'm bored. Okay here's go:

I've been with my current girlfriend for about 9 months. Things have been pretty good thus far. We've had our moments and bicker like most couples, but ultimately there's been great chemistry and I really do love her. We practically live together and we've both talked about a future together in terms of what our hopes and goals are with each other down the road.

Anyway, throughout the past 9 months, there's been this dude who she's known since High School (she's 25 now) that will text her every month or so. She claims he's just a really good friend who's 'helped her through some really tough spots in life sometimes'. The texts themselves are pretty friendly. Except for the fact that he would on occasion call or text really late at night - in addition to saying stuff like "I miss you". Again, nothing blatant, but enough to make me feel a bit uncomfortable. She claimed at the time that she's never had anything to do with him romantically (fling or otherwise), and that he's always been just a 'friend'.

Well, beyond one major issue we had when we first started dating, which resulted in her sending explicit texts to a co-worker (which I forgave her for ::)), there's never really been any trust issues since. I mean, yeah this guy gives me the creeps, because I could tell that he's thirsty, but I certainly didn't dwell on it. In fact, I told her numerous times that I'm cool with them being friends, just don't cross any boundaries and disrespect me.

So anyway, flash forward to tonight. I go into plug my phone, notice hers on the counter - and she has a bunch of texts from him. Didn't read them, mostly because she was walking in behind me, but immediately she started acting a bit odd. She then kept asking me if everything was okay. Clearly, she knew I saw what was on her phone. She then proceeded to reassure me that nothing was going on, and that she 'just called him on the way to work to see how he was doing'. It turns out that he actually called her yesterday, but she deleted his call and possibly a voicemail? I should probably point out that we both use each other's phones a lot for various reasons when we're both at home being lazy.

Anyhow, we then get into a fight. She feels like I'm acting weird now, or being distant now that I saw his texts. I told her straight up; I'm not entirely comfortable with it, but it's whatever - I'm not her parent, and it isn't my place to tell her who she can and can't talk too. She then proceeds to say that she's just going to call him once and for all, and tell him that they can't be friends anymore. Because as she said "It isn't worth losing you over something so stupid - or making you not trust me". I repeated what I said about not being her parent and that she's a grown woman, but I also feel like I'm able to voice my opinion when something doesn't seem right to me.

So we finish talking/arguing. I guess there was closure. She says she's going to call him - I said whatever (still feeling a bit awkward now that she's essentially losing a 'friend' because he CANT leave her alone or act socially responsible in my estimation). The next part gets a bit weird. She calls him basically balling her eyes out. I wasn't in the room, but I could hear her crying really loudly, with various parts of the conversation mixed in (my house is really small). She proceeds to tell him that I am the love of her life, and she doesn't want to risk losing me over keeping in contact with him because 'it's not right'. I guess he responds by telling her he knew this phone call was coming, and that she shouldn't do it, but he'll respect her decision?

Anyhow, the end of the phone call is what makes me the most uneasy. She ends the call still crying and telling him he's a wonderful guy, and she hopes he gets all the happiness in the world and meets a great person. Except before she hangs up, she says "Can I ask you one question?". She then says "Did you ever have feelings for me at some point???". I don't know what his response was, but whatever. It just makes me uncomfortable because if you really don't give a fuck about this dude, why even ask or care? Female/Human curiousity? I don't know. The other part is, after their conversation, she confesses that she DID have feelings for him right before we got together, and that she had a thing for him during High School. However, they've never dated because "the timing has never been right". This kind of contradicts in the past about her saying she's never felt anything for him, but whatever.

Do you guys think I am overreacting in feeling a bit awkward and bothered by this? I feel like it's some 90's RomCom, where the best friend (which in this case he's not) can't leave some girl alone who's about to get married (which we're not, but have talked about). In my opinion, there's just some socially acceptable behavior that you don't do towards a friend of they're in relationship. Like calling/texting them late a night, or sending suggestive texts. Thoughts on the whole thing?

TLDR Version:

- Girlfriend of 9 months has guy friend from High School years ago (she's 25 now).
- Dude has called and texted her every month or so since we've been dating.
- Texts are fairly innocent, does sometimes get a bit odd with him telling her stuff along the lines that he 'misses' her at midnight
- Said shes never dated or hooked with him, only been a friend and that's it. I told her its whatever - just don't cross any boundaries and its cool with me
- Got into a fight tonight because they've been contacting each other again.
- Told her it's kind of awkward for me, but whatever - i'm not her dad.
- She tells me she's going to call him and tell him they can't be friends anymore because it might cause us more drama.
- She cries on the phone with him, emotional call, tells him I'm the love of her life.
- She says goodbye, but then asks at the end if he ever had feelings for her.
- She later admits that she DID have feelings for him back in High School and before we started dating. Never got together due to "timing"
- I again feel awkward as fuck.

:yeshrug

You should totally feel awkward about this pretty sure I've been the other guy in a similar situation though so idk what to tell you besides some kinda very real make or break situation with her. If y'all both agree she shouldn't talk to him again...and she does then I'd end it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 19, 2014, 01:54:55 AM

In my experience this probably isn't the end of the issue. It seems a bit childish, too damn dramatic and a little weird. Watching your SO call a friend, end the friendship and is crying the whole time. Yeahhhhhh. I would also say you have reason for concern because was actually lying to you. It wasn't a misunderstanding. It was deception. Red flag obviously.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on October 19, 2014, 02:14:50 AM

Honestly like if the dude has feels for her, that happens whatever, I have a friend who would probably date me if we were single at the same time. THAT BEING SAID...

The shit he says is fucking disrespectful to your relationship and my pal would never do that shit so when it comes to crap like that, that she's allowing to happen, I can't sympathize.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 19, 2014, 02:19:29 AM

I think you overreacted but it probably doesn't matter: you're going to break up with her soon. She's going to contact him again, and since an ultimatum is involved it'll end the relationship. I'd say that's a better outcome than having to deal with this guy slowly creeping on your gf over a period of time and waiting for a vunerable point (ie the next time you have a disagreement). I'm going to guess this isn't the first time she has cried her heart out to this guy.

The guy is pushing boundaries and he sees that she is willing to play along. Calling her late at night is like sticking the tip in. He's just seeing if she'll say no, and clearly she wasn't until tonight.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on October 19, 2014, 02:28:44 AM

He honestly sounds like the stereotypical friend zone guy waiting in the wings saying "I told you those guys were all shit but I'm here."

I'm skeeved out now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 19, 2014, 03:18:58 AM

my friend invited me to something thursday night like right away tonight

then later on she was like "i want to see the inside of your place"

fml

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on October 19, 2014, 03:21:43 AM

by place she means butthole

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 19, 2014, 03:23:01 AM

i fucking hope not

my stupid fucking life is so fucking stupid :stahp

e: she just texted me "i love hanging out with you" FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK everything

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2014, 03:29:52 AM

(http://i.imgur.com/D5lxGWA.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 19, 2014, 03:33:38 AM

Quote from: Vularai on October 19, 2014, 03:18:58 AM

my friend invited me to something thursday night like right away tonight

then later on she was like "i want to see the inside of your place"

fml

by place she means naked. emotionally naked. your soul bared for her, no barriers, no limits, no fear. you will join as one for but a moment, the pathways of your lives intertwined in a psychological embrace. you will know her, she will know you. the real you, without the hardened carapace we build around our emotional core, the facade we hide behind to claw through the day to reach another dawn.

:ufup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2014, 03:35:29 AM

Kara probably needs to take a heroic dose of DMT to get to that point.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 19, 2014, 03:36:56 AM

you should def take a heavy dose of psychedelics together and chill in the bathtub.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 19, 2014, 03:37:34 AM

i was in a relationship like that for half a decade and got ethered :bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2014, 03:40:26 AM

Open your heart up too much and it's bound to get torn asunder, brehs. (http://i.imgur.com/QMqH5Pg.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 19, 2014, 03:41:34 AM

count on people brehs (http://i.imgur.com/QMqH5Pg.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 19, 2014, 03:42:44 AM

but it can be rebuilt and improved upon over successive failures. like Doomsday.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 19, 2014, 03:44:57 AM

Ride the horse or get trampled by it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 19, 2014, 03:46:03 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on October 19, 2014, 03:42:44 AM

but it can be rebuilt and improved upon over successive failures. like Doomsday.

the only improvement i got was being ideologically uplifted which just isolates me because i live in reactionary shitsville :bolo

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i'm actually a better person for this regardless of the isolation

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 19, 2014, 06:16:23 AM

Quote from: The Walrus on October 19, 2014, 03:45:07 AM

My gf sent me some really soul-baring emails while I was in South America, and at first I was kind of a mix of :larry and :badass , but by the end I was like :obama

Was the title "You were right about the blacks"?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pilonv1 on October 19, 2014, 07:21:38 AM

Wedding went down without a major problems, food was good, music was good and everyone enjoyed it. So happy to have a sleep in and my normal life back :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 19, 2014, 08:37:57 AM

Grats man.

Got any pics?
:hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 19, 2014, 11:29:30 AM

how did i forget this in my stream of consciousness shitposting last night

at the bar she just turned to me out of the blue and asked "do you like s&m?"

:snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 19, 2014, 11:57:13 AM

:phil

This one sounds like a KEEPER, dude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: PlayDat on October 19, 2014, 01:04:04 PM

I'm still very confused about most things dating related.

Got someone's number
Texted her
No response
Run into her again
"I was in the library at the time and forgot to get back to you. I'll let you know next time I'm free"
Haven't seen her since

It's been well over a week. I told my friend I was just going to delete the number and move on, but he thinks I'm being too prideful.

This can't be read as anything other than a rejection right? I hate feeling like I'm chasing people down.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2014, 01:10:36 PM

Over a week?

(http://i.imgur.com/AJvxBOO.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on October 19, 2014, 01:50:19 PM

Yup. Just sounds like she made something up on the spot.

That said, I don't understand your friend's response to this. Prideful? Whut?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: PlayDat on October 19, 2014, 02:50:59 PM

He thinks the reason I haven't tried to contact her again is because I'm afraid of being rejected and that I'm giving up too easily. I already feel like I've been blown off though. I don't see the point in wasting anymore time and energy on someone I've already expressed interest in and who didn't show any feelings for me when I gave her the chance. Even if she did actually forget that's still a sign that she's unenthusiastic about the prospect of spending time with me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on October 19, 2014, 02:51:52 PM

If she really wants to spend time with you she'll go out of her way to try to do so.

That's why I never understood the pursuit game.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 19, 2014, 03:12:19 PM

Quote from: PlayDat on October 19, 2014, 01:04:04 PM

I'm still very confused about most things dating related.
Got someone's number
Texted her
No response
Run into her again
"I was in the library at the time and forgot to get back to you. I'll let you know next time I'm free"
Haven't seen her since

It's been well over a week. I told my friend I was just going to delete the number and move on, but he thinks I'm being too prideful.

This can't be read as anything other than a rejection right? I hate feeling like I'm chasing people down.

Quote from: PlayDat on October 19, 2014, 02:50:59 PM

He thinks the reason I haven't tried to contact her again is because I'm afraid of being rejected and that I'm giving up too easily. I already feel like I've been blown off though. I don't see the point in wasting anymore time and energy on someone I've already expressed interest in and who didn't show any feelings for me when I gave her the chance. Even if she did actually forget that's still a sign that she's unenthusiastic about the prospect of spending time with me.

She laid out the conditions, you’ve respected those conditions. If she wanted to contact you, she would. She still might, but you shouldn’t be waiting on her. Get out there and find the next one, and if this last girl shows up again later, well, she had her chance. LATES.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pilonv1 on October 19, 2014, 07:12:02 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 19, 2014, 08:37:57 AM

Grats man.

Got any pics?
:hitler

Wifi at my hotel right now is spotty at best, will try to post one or two decent ones later.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 19, 2014, 07:56:24 PM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on October 19, 2014, 11:57:13 AM

:phil

This one sounds like a KEEPER, dude.

:beli

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on October 19, 2014, 11:40:37 PM

5th date with the girl I've been seeing. Date at my place, dinner/movie deal.

Went really well. It was slightly awkward since the girl is awkward and so am I. So everything is slooowwww going. But I got a kiss at the end.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on October 20, 2014, 04:04:47 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on October 19, 2014, 11:40:37 PM

5th date with the girl I've been seeing. Date at my place, dinner/movie deal.

Went really well. It was slightly awkward since the girl is awkward and so am I. So everything is slooowwww going. But I got a kiss at the end.

Imminent explosive release. :whoo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on October 20, 2014, 07:18:04 AM

*Parks. There are 6 parks at WDW with the 2 water parks. 40 square miles of Disney property. Still blows my mind how big it is and I've been multiple times.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 20, 2014, 08:21:58 AM

Quote from: lennedsay on October 20, 2014, 07:18:04 AM

*Parks. There are 6 parks at WDW with the 2 water parks. 40 square miles of Disney property. Still blows my mind how big it is and I've been multiple times.

DO TELL

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 20, 2014, 10:05:58 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on October 19, 2014, 11:40:37 PM

5th date with the girl I've been seeing. Date at my place, dinner/movie deal.

Went really well. It was slightly awkward since the girl is awkward and so am I. So everything is slooowwww going. But I got a kiss at the end.

5 dates and you haven't eaten her out? You're slipping bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on October 20, 2014, 05:24:13 PM

it's different with this chick :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 20, 2014, 05:27:11 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on October 20, 2014, 05:24:13 PM

it's different with this chick :yeshrug

It's 2014. Head is head.
:yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on October 22, 2014, 12:27:49 AM

Nothing warms my cockles more than peeking into this thread only to find my bros doing well. :rejoice

Congrats on your marriage, Pilonv1. :rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on October 22, 2014, 12:50:36 AM

Quote from: lennedsay on October 20, 2014, 07:18:04 AM

*Parks. There are 6 parks at WDW with the 2 water parks. 40 square miles of Disney property. Still blows my mind how big it is and I've been multiple times.

I went for the first time this summer. It's basically its own little city. Ridiculous.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on October 22, 2014, 11:33:04 AM

I would love to stay at the Boardwalk resort some time. It's so nice.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on October 22, 2014, 11:15:33 PM

i keep clicking this hoping for bebpo and all i get is boooooooring

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on October 23, 2014, 03:31:27 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on October 22, 2014, 11:15:33 PM

i keep clicking this hoping for bebpo and all i get is boooooooring

I'm kinda glad.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 23, 2014, 03:34:17 PM

We won't hear anything until they have triplets.
(http://i.imgur.com/QfEBYuB.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on October 23, 2014, 03:37:08 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 23, 2014, 03:34:17 PM

We won't hear anything until they have triplets.
(http://i.imgur.com/QfEBYuB.png)

And one of the fathers will be a ghost.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on October 23, 2014, 03:40:32 PM

Quote from: Shadow Mod on October 23, 2014, 03:37:08 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 23, 2014, 03:34:17 PM
We won't hear anything until they have triplets.
(http://i.imgur.com/QfEBYuB.png)

And one of the fathers will be a ghost.

(http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/3/37/Ghost_Dad_Poster.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on October 25, 2014, 08:59:13 PM

My nipple is still sore a week later

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 26, 2014, 02:26:38 AM

:fbm

Had a Halloween movie-themed date planned for yesterday, was really looking forward to it. As I'm buying the pizza and prepping for the awesome horror-filled cuddle fest, the chick calls me and says "hey, my friend sarah is joining us, can you buy some breadsticks?"

:goty

:goty :goty :goty :goty :goty :goty

I end up going and having an okay time with the both of them, even though I wanted to tell her to fuck off at that point.

we end up hanging out again tonight at a bar, had a fun time again, only for her to text me explicitly afterwards she just wants to be friends

:goty

fuck this earthly dimension and my terrible senses when it comes to this shit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 26, 2014, 02:27:23 AM

tl;dr:

:fbm
:fbm
:fbm
:fbm
:fbm
:fbm
:fbm :fbm :fbm :fbm :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on October 26, 2014, 02:41:11 AM

She either brought that friend to get an opinion on you or she didn't want you putting a move on her. Sucks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 26, 2014, 02:43:56 AM

I believe the customary response is OnToTheNextOne.gif?

If it makes you feel any better BN, I was talking to a prospective date today and she said I sounded like I had my shit together. Can you believe that? :heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 26, 2014, 02:50:46 AM

I got set up by a girl earlier this year- first date back in Atlanta, actually. She asked me to dinner at a restaurant/bar on a night when she and her friends play trivia. We had an ok dinner going, then she's all "oh hey, want to move over to this table and play trivia with my friends?"

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 26, 2014, 02:54:57 AM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on October 26, 2014, 02:41:11 AM

She either brought that friend to get an opinion on you or she didn't want you putting a move on her. Sucks.

Pretty much.

I don't know how you happy borians have been able to find such cool fucking girls. At this point I've just come to the conclusion that I'm shitty and girls only come to me for a quick pick me up or treat me like a security blanket. I just want all of them to fuck off so I can try and find some happiness.

But honestly, its really about ethics in video game journalism.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on October 26, 2014, 02:57:46 AM

relationships more like reLOLtionships

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 26, 2014, 03:11:41 AM

Quote from: Death Ghidorah on October 26, 2014, 02:48:18 AM

EDIT: Stop with your strange unaware #humblebrag, Karakand. Now's not the time.

The only thing that's strange is this place's obsession with me not self-loathing at an 11 on a 10 point scale in the most direct, obvious, third grade reading comprehension manner 100% of the time. (I'm reminded of people thinking me referring to myself as a mentat was some supreme display of ego when mentats look like fucking this (http://i.imgur.com/A8JbuLb.jpg), are fucking drug addicts, are fucking servile things who never ascend beyond being things, and, as demonstrated quite ably by one Piter De Vries, are not necessarily even noble things.)

I mentioned that exact same thing to someone else today and they laughed at it because it's fucking hilarious that anyone would think that about me.

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TA you better fucking like this post for all this Dune lore I'm spitting. :snoop

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on October 26, 2014, 03:28:44 AM

i recently got really high at a party w/ friends and went into this amazing continuous uncontrollable speech jam where each sentence was a higher level of metacommentary on the previous sentence, which led to my eventually having to marshal the entire transfinite cardinal hierarchy to support the resulting semantic constructions, then from there ascending into yet loftier and lonelier and more terrifying realms of symbolic rhetoric. it was the most awesome and also worst experience of my life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 26, 2014, 07:48:40 AM

"But all those big words ain't gon' get you paid
And those abstract ideas for sure won't get you laid"

- wise cac poet (http://youtu.be/x58UYC640EA)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on October 26, 2014, 08:42:35 AM

Quote from: Vularai on October 26, 2014, 03:11:41 AM

Quote from: Death Ghidorah on October 26, 2014, 02:48:18 AM
EDIT: Stop with your strange unaware #humblebrag, Karakand. Now's not the time.

The only thing that's strange is this place's obsession with me not self-loathing at an 11 on a 10 point scale in the most direct, obvious, third grade reading comprehension manner 100% of the time.

Die Geister, die ich rief... :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on October 26, 2014, 09:26:24 AM

Quote from: Death Ghidorah on October 26, 2014, 02:54:11 AM

A pretty bad one was when a girl I've liked for a while was finally single. I ask to meet here at the bar we usually hang out in on a date. She was all for it until I was walking over and she called to let me know that she's at my place, so a friend of hers can hook up with my roommate. So after i got back she tells me we should go to a freshman party for free drinks and so we can be each others wingmen. Declined, took that L and stayed at home. :fbm

Smh, had a similar experience recently. It wasn't as bad though because this girl already curved me like 2 months earlier when I tried to set up a 2nd date by saying "I'll let you know when I'm not busy." Never heard from her again and when I finally did see her, she was talking about being the best wingman ever so that I could get this girl who was cosplaying as Zero Suit Samus. It was at a NY Comic Con related party in case you're wondering. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pilonv1 on October 27, 2014, 07:30:49 AM

For PD :jawalrus

(http://i.imgur.com/thcUn8o.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on October 27, 2014, 10:53:23 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on October 26, 2014, 02:54:57 AM

I don't know how you happy borians have been able to find such cool fucking girls. At this point I've just come to the conclusion that I'm shitty and girls only come to me for a quick pick me up or treat me like a security blanket. I just want all of them to fuck off so I can try and find some happiness.

Maybe the problem is the criteria for what you find attractive? At the most basic level.

I was always a guy that put a pretty face over all else. So, I would end up dating a lot of girls that were either crazy or high maintainence (or both). Those girls were trophies I could show off to friends to make me feel better about myself (at least in my head, they were probably all rolling thier eyes at me).

It wasn't until I recognized that problem, that I was able to untrain myself from having that proclivity. People might consider that 'settling' but it's just being practical.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 27, 2014, 11:28:41 AM

Maybe, but I'm attracted to a wide range of different looks, personalities, and ages, so I don't think I'm being too selective. If I think a girl is cute, I think she's cute -- I've gone from casually dating a 24 year old short tattooed art grad to a 6'0 27 year old former women's basketball player.

This current girl who spawned my L-fest a few days ago is very normal, down to Earth. She's not what you'd call typically pretty, but I think she has girl-next-door hot. She dresses like a grandma and has a streak of white hair :lol

So I don't know. You might be right, but I personally don't see it...or I just haven't realized it yet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on October 27, 2014, 11:46:22 AM

Oh well, thought I'd give it a shot. Could just be bad luck.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 27, 2014, 11:54:10 AM

I could also just be butt fugly and creepy as shit IRL :stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 27, 2014, 12:07:10 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on October 27, 2014, 11:54:10 AM

I could also just be butt fugly and creepy as shit IRL :stahp

Dude, you're not a bad looking guy.

...you may be creepy as fuck, tho

:hitler

(don't worry, I'm like the most socially awkward, weird dude ever when I'm dealing with a woman I like)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on October 27, 2014, 01:20:45 PM

Yea, you're not an ugly dude. Maybe there is an air of desperation about you IRL? That's a big turn off to most people*.

* - Except for horny men.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on October 27, 2014, 01:21:59 PM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on October 27, 2014, 01:20:45 PM

Yea, you're not an ugly dude. Maybe there is an air of desperation about you IRL? That's a big turn off to most people*.

* - Except for horny men.

Bingo.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 27, 2014, 01:25:44 PM

Yeah, women can smell that shit. The stink of it is all over me, sadly.

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on October 27, 2014, 01:36:45 PM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on October 27, 2014, 01:25:44 PM

Yeah, women can smell that shit. The stink of it is all over me, sadly.

:fbm

On the flip side I've been called "cute" about 5 times in the past week. I love women, always there to lift your spirits.

:jawalrus

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 27, 2014, 01:43:11 PM

I definitely think I can come across as too strong for some girls, but that's usually because I'm really nervous and I don't feel like I'm cool enough for them in the first place. In this current situation, it was very lax -- she called me up first and was the one who wanted to watch a movie. I think I handled it normally. I think with this girl, she really just wanted to be friends from the getgo. Which is totally fine, just got mixed signals I think.

Also, I definitely do not come off as a creep IRL, thinking about it. I don't say or do anything that's creepy.

I definitely can be eager though. That's been a problem for a long time that I've tried to get better at.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on October 27, 2014, 01:46:15 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on October 27, 2014, 01:43:11 PM

I definitely think I can come across as too strong for some girls, but that's usually because I'm really nervous and I don't feel like I'm cool enough for them in the first place. In this current situation, it was very lax -- she called me up first and was the one who wanted to watch a movie. I think I handled it normally. I think with this girl, she really just wanted to be friends from the getgo. Which is totally fine, just got mixed signals I think.

Also, I definitely do not come off as a creep IRL, thinking about it. I don't say or do anything that's creepy.

I definitely can be eager though. That's been a problem for a long time that I've tried to get better at.

best to let them make the play bro. Wait for them to touch you, or say something flirty, or do something to get attention, etc. If they are interested they will do these things, I promise.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 27, 2014, 01:48:36 PM

I get how the game is played, dude. I'm just bad at it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on October 27, 2014, 01:49:39 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on October 27, 2014, 01:48:36 PM

I get how the game is played, dude. I'm just bad at it.

I'm saying, actively think about it next time instead of acting, react. This will produce better results.

Also, don't text too much, etc.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 27, 2014, 01:53:04 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on October 27, 2014, 01:36:45 PM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on October 27, 2014, 01:25:44 PM
Yeah, women can smell that shit. The stink of it is all over me, sadly.

:fbm

On the flip side I've been called "cute" about 5 times in the past week. I love women, always there to lift your spirits.

:jawalrus

I get called "adorable" all the fucking time, which I guess is a synonym for "unfuckable"

:stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on October 27, 2014, 01:53:45 PM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on October 27, 2014, 01:53:04 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on October 27, 2014, 01:36:45 PM
Quote from: Human Snorenado on October 27, 2014, 01:25:44 PM
Yeah, women can smell that shit. The stink of it is all over me, sadly.

:fbm

On the flip side I've been called "cute" about 5 times in the past week. I love women, always there to lift your spirits.

:jawalrus

I get called "adorable" all the fucking time, which I guess is a synonym for "unfuckable"

:stahp

Yeah, that one is not good. Right up there with "he's an awesome guy" and "I wish more guys were like him"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 27, 2014, 01:55:55 PM

Here's the real real- women will always say they're looking for smart and funny, but what they're really looking for is confidence.

As the human avatar for self-doubt, that leaves me at a bit of a disadvantage.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on October 27, 2014, 01:57:04 PM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on October 27, 2014, 01:55:55 PM

Here's the real real- women will always say they're looking for smart and funny, but what they're really looking for is confidence.

As the human avatar for self-doubt, that leaves me at a bit of a disadvantage.

Honestly women are competitive bro. That's why it's easier to find one when you have one. Being married sends of like a signal to every girls brain to see if they can fuck shit up.

Wish that wasn't true, but it is.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on October 28, 2014, 11:12:03 PM

i have a girlfriend :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on October 28, 2014, 11:15:06 PM

:-[ :-[ :-[ :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 28, 2014, 11:21:19 PM

grats breh
(http://i.imgur.com/S799vbT.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on October 28, 2014, 11:33:59 PM

:mynicca

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 28, 2014, 11:38:59 PM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on October 27, 2014, 01:53:04 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on October 27, 2014, 01:36:45 PM
Quote from: Human Snorenado on October 27, 2014, 01:25:44 PM
Yeah, women can smell that shit. The stink of it is all over me, sadly.

:fbm

On the flip side I've been called "cute" about 5 times in the past week. I love women, always there to lift your spirits.

:jawalrus

I get called "adorable" all the fucking time, which I guess is a synonym for "unfuckable"

:stahp

let me fix this for you :ufup

"you're adorable"

"puppies are adorable, so excuse me while I get on all fours and beg"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 28, 2014, 11:39:31 PM

Could just proceed to piss on their leg

:larry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 28, 2014, 11:43:37 PM

you're trying to disarm deeze hoes with your charm, guile and verbal ripostes, not send them to the nearest police station.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 29, 2014, 01:36:18 AM

BrandNew I would kill for your fucking beard. You're not fucking ugly. :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 29, 2014, 03:04:12 AM

OK it hasn't been forever or anything, but it's nice to get messages from a gal who's interested in me that end in xoxo again. :-[

Maybe she won't want me just for my youth and race. :uguu

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Who am I kidding? :heh

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P.S. If you don't know what I'm talking about check out the triumph thread. (The #intertextualities. :lawd)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on October 29, 2014, 03:10:31 AM

Had a prospect but decided to X it out. Feel good about that. Maybe the next one will be better.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 30, 2014, 09:00:38 PM

Feel like I'm kinda over being a racial boy toy already. While it's highly amusing to see an august woman behave like a teenager and comforting that my thoughts and feelings are irrelevant, there's not much else to it.

If anyone's still around when I kick the bucket (I imagine I will outlive almost everyone because fuck my fucking shitfuck life), could you please make sure my headstone says ENNUI on it?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 31, 2014, 04:14:38 AM

What's an august woman?
racial boy toy?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on October 31, 2014, 10:31:57 AM

Mexican mama-aged mama.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 31, 2014, 11:10:13 AM

Do you call her mama during sex? Seems like that could take things to another level.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 31, 2014, 11:32:51 AM

I've already done ageplay and don't really enjoy it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 31, 2014, 03:27:46 PM

Had an impromptu date last night :rejoice

by far the most beautiful girl I've gone out with, and we even made out :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 31, 2014, 03:37:51 PM

Quote from: Vularai on October 31, 2014, 11:32:51 AM

I've already done ageplay and don't really enjoy it.

(http://i.imgur.com/UumIEMJ.png)

forgot i still had this one :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 31, 2014, 03:39:02 PM

shit got dark real quick

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 31, 2014, 04:08:38 PM

Come to think of it, didn't Karakand say that he was raised intellectually different from his other siblings, which resulted in him having a significantly more expansive vocabulary? Therefore any ageplay would no doubt include him playing the role of his father, using big words to tantalize his sister.

"vellicate your vagina for me, puerile daughter"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 31, 2014, 04:11:05 PM

Way to go darker PD.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 31, 2014, 07:43:38 PM

I was raised differently than my sibling and speak differently than them as a result, yes. Good recollection of my origin story found in No-Action Comics #1.

They still have the bizarre memory for useless facts like I do, though. (Flags : me : : Spanish monarchs : my sibling.)

Trolling your family by deliberately starting an argument about Bourbon legitimacy at your Thanksgiving table. :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on November 04, 2014, 03:27:03 AM

"I want to get to know you better, Karakand."
*talks about herself incessantly or asks questions / makes statements that otherwise lead back to her*
"Do I bore you?"

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Go fucking watch Rules of Attraction (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PfSIOk9NIQc) or something.

What do you want to fucking know anyway? That I was born in a city that no longer exists, in a hospital that no longer has a maternity unit, to parents who no longer consider themselves as such, into a clan that doesn't bear its actual name--that there is a preponderance of evidence that I exist to cease? There's a reason why the conversation "naturally" flows around you. :neogaf

As for your ability to hold my interest, what do you fucking think (http://clyp.it/z4hoarw2)?

Honestly, I can't remember all my teenage feelings (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Uj2JpvsvX4), but you're sure giving me deja vu of my early 20s.

[close]

Wanted to milk this one awhile longer but fucking hell I could barely put up with this kind of bullshit when I was 21 and a layabout, let alone a burnout with a brutal trade.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 15, 2014, 10:29:43 PM

So I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks. We have been having sex for the past week. I'm spending most of nights with him, either at his or my place, doing non-sexual things too. Of the past week, we've hung out with each other five times. When are we considered "together"? I've never gotten this far with a man before. One of the things I highlighted when we first started is that I not be his side bitch and he has taken that and ran with it. He messages me daily, calls me regularly, and genuinely seems to care about my day and spending time with me. When does this thing be considered leveling up our relationship? When do we go from "dating and fucking" to "gf/bf?" Is there a precise moment or is it a talk or are we already that? Sorry for the lame question, I have never had a boyfriend before.

And before PD asks, yes, he is black.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on November 15, 2014, 10:36:21 PM

First off, really happy for you! Right into the next thing, I would just keep going along with this for now and see where it goes? I know you're planning to move "soonish" too so just enjoy this ride. I'm mainly saying this because these things can burn up the instant you go "well okay are going now?" in a real sense. If it's a real problem for you then you should totally bring it up, just don't be too surprised if things peter out for there =/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on November 15, 2014, 10:40:36 PM

I don't think that's the only question pd would have :hitler

but jokes aside, I dunno, my wife and I never really defined it until we were on the marriage tip. I mean it sure sounds like you're boyfriend/girlfriend to me. :)

maybe next time you wake up in the same bed say 'hey boyfriend, what do you want for breakfast?' I dunno. I've never done the sit down and talk about our status thing, we've always just been cute about it. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 15, 2014, 10:45:03 PM

Stats for PD to add to his notebook:

He's circumcised (:fbm)
Average length, slightly stocky in girth
Has abs
Chest hair :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on November 15, 2014, 10:52:05 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on November 15, 2014, 10:40:36 PM

I don't think that's the only question pd would have :hitler

but jokes aside, I dunno, my wife and I never really defined it until we were on the marriage tip. I mean it sure sounds like you're boyfriend/girlfriend to me. :)

maybe next time you wake up in the same bed say 'hey boyfriend, what do you want for breakfast?' I dunno. I've never done the sit down and talk about our status thing, we've always just been cute about it. :yeshrug

Yeah, in my experience its always better if it comes up like that or say you're out together and run into a friend that you haven't spoken to them about yet and go "oh yea this my boyfriend/girlfriend." If it's a problem you'll know, if it isn't you'll still know and might get special confirmed monogamy sex later that day.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 15, 2014, 10:58:42 PM

In the past I brought it up with girls I dated but it never felt like there was any pressure, probably because I've never really wanted to be that much to a woman. But a guy is different, especially since I definitely want to be with him, so there's internal pressure to bring/not bring it up. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on November 15, 2014, 11:08:08 PM

oh man the post "saying I love you for the firs time" sex :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 15, 2014, 11:09:06 PM

I've said I love you before but I've never meant it...I've never been in love. :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 15, 2014, 11:24:51 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on November 15, 2014, 10:45:03 PM

Stats for PD to add to his notebook:

He's circumcised (:fbm)
Average length, slightly stocky in girth
Has abs
Chest hair :drool

Dark skinned?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on November 15, 2014, 11:30:23 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on November 15, 2014, 11:09:06 PM

I've said I love you before but I've never meant it...I've never been in love. :fbm

you'll know it when it happens. and it's cool.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 15, 2014, 11:37:00 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 15, 2014, 11:24:51 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on November 15, 2014, 10:45:03 PM
Stats for PD to add to his notebook:

He's circumcised (:fbm)
Average length, slightly stocky in girth
Has abs
Chest hair :drool
Dark skinned?

Of course.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 15, 2014, 11:58:15 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on November 15, 2014, 11:37:00 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 15, 2014, 11:24:51 PM
Quote from: Queen of Ice on November 15, 2014, 10:45:03 PM
Stats for PD to add to his notebook:

He's circumcised (:fbm)
Average length, slightly stocky in girth
Has abs
Chest hair :drool
Dark skinned?

Of course.

(http://i.imgur.com/pKvr2pq.gif)

how did you meet

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 16, 2014, 12:37:39 AM

A concert last month. He wanted my number because he liked what he saw so I gave it and it went from there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 16, 2014, 01:28:05 AM

What concert? Set the stage for me, girl. Does he have a job, etc.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 16, 2014, 01:34:47 AM

Himu already said the guy is average length, of course he doesn't need to be bitten.
:what

Trivialize a serious condition brehs. Gift and the curse. Imagine being that large but gaining little pleasure unless someone but your dick head. No wonder his money shots are so weak.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 16, 2014, 01:39:59 AM

Why do you want to know all of this? These questions are weird.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 16, 2014, 01:43:28 AM

Well, "how did you meet" strikes me as a pretty regular question, and asking for basic details isn't out of the norm. I would also like a GRRM-esque description of what everyone was wearing and eating.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on November 16, 2014, 01:45:02 AM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on November 16, 2014, 01:39:59 AM

Why do you want to know all of this? These questions are weird.

we're family, girl. we wanna know the full story.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 16, 2014, 02:19:20 AM

Oh. You went all Fast and Furious on me!

Well, I try go to the house of blues about once a month, sometimes by myself, usually with others. I just go to enjoy the music and scenary and food. Last month I went by myself, and I thought it was going to be a downer because of that since my girlfriends were busy. I went to the Friday Night House Party with DJ Illset, who owns. So I'm enjoying the music, and I'm approached by a cute guy. We hit it off and talk about music, dance, and exchange numbers. I thought nothing would come from it, and was satisfied with a just a fun night out and meeting a new friend, but he actually ended up following up and saying he wanted to see me again.

Yes, he has a job. He works a psychology assistant at a hospital in Houston. He lives about 20 minutes away so seeing each other was tricky, but we made effort to doing it. I didn't really think anything would come from it - my cynicism :stahp - but he has lived up to every word he has said. When I was feeling under the weather the other week, he really stepped up and made sure I knew he supported me, and it pretty much blew up from there and this week we started to have sex.

It's weird for me because I've only ever had sex with men in a non-relationship manner. Just hook ups. Unlike my relationship with any woman ever, so far, this feels right. :obama so I'm feeling pretty good. I hope it lasts but all things don't last forever and I'm trying to enjoy it while I can - again, my cynicism!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on November 16, 2014, 03:01:59 AM

good going. its funny how shit like this basically happens when you are not expecting it to happen. always when you're like "fuck i'm getting no luck, maybe i'll take a break" then whoop, someone awesome shows up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 16, 2014, 03:03:11 AM

Yeah, dating was the last thing on my mind at that pont tbh.

PD, what's your favorite part of a guy besides his penis. Inquiring minds want to know. *sips tea* *side eyes*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 16, 2014, 10:51:37 AM

I used to dream about finding a Nubian queen at small jazz or rap shows, back when I was a backpacker. Instead I'd see white women with dread locks and Asian chicks.

Right now I'm in that sympathy window where people, mainly women and the older dudes at work, invite me to random things to "cheer me up." I understand Kara's pain: I have no idea how everyone found out. And I'm not even sad. But I can take advantage of this for awhile so who cares.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on November 16, 2014, 11:17:20 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 16, 2014, 10:51:37 AM

I used to dream about finding a Nubian queen at small jazz or rap shows, back when I was a backpacker. Instead I'd see white women with dread locks and Asian chicks.

Right now I'm in that sympathy window where people, mainly women and the older dudes at work, invite me to random things to "cheer me up." I understand Kara's pain: I have no idea how everyone found out. And I'm not even sad. But I can take advantage of this for awhile so who cares.

We got a cousin like that. 35 and recently single....my damn wife has made it her mission to get this girl fucked by somebody....well they say find a boyfriend but I know what that shit really means :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 16, 2014, 03:47:00 PM

PD go to R/B shows or Afro Punk.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 16, 2014, 03:49:45 PM

Also, if you're going to rap shows make sure it's stuff like Drake.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on November 16, 2014, 04:30:01 PM

You already know PD would never do any of those things. Can you imagine PD at an afropunk show? I am actually laughing right now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on November 16, 2014, 04:35:57 PM

He'd walk in, see all the natural hair, purple lipstick, noserings and be shook.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 16, 2014, 04:50:08 PM

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 16, 2014, 06:23:31 PM

Negro Bore has to meet up at Afropunk next year. :heart

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on November 16, 2014, 08:21:00 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on November 16, 2014, 06:23:31 PM

Negro Bore has to meet up at Afropunk next year. :heart

I've been there every year except the first so far. The girls there always look amazing. I have fun just people watching at Afropunk tbh. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 16, 2014, 09:52:51 PM

Brehs I won't front, I'd make like Edward in FF4 and and run away from a afropunk concert. That's not my cup of Lipton's.

Jazz crowds are pretty wack, but that's about my speed tbh. I saw Danny Brown a couple years ago and the chicks were pretty...eh. Some hot ones but I could tell they wouldn't fuck with my accountant ass.
:heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on November 16, 2014, 11:41:42 PM

dapped for the final fantasy reference from someone I would not expect

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 16, 2014, 11:44:52 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 16, 2014, 09:52:51 PM

Brehs I won't front, I'd make like Edward in FF4 and and run away from a afropunk concert. That's not my cup of Lipton's.

Jazz crowds are pretty wack, but that's about my speed tbh. I saw Danny Brown a couple years ago and the chicks were pretty...eh. Some hot ones but I could tell they wouldn't fuck with my accountant ass.
:heh

You're such a dork. :heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 17, 2014, 03:42:45 PM

I'm going out drinking tonight with some coworkers.
:leon

drinking in "upper class" areas because your coworkers are afraid of allegedly shady places :beli

MILF prospects increase though :leon

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 17, 2014, 03:55:23 PM

Enjoy the 10 buck entry fee.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 17, 2014, 06:53:58 PM

Heh, I went out with a girl a while back who worked doing graphic design for Afropunk. She was a pretty cute Colombian girl but unfortunately I didn't pursue because I was undergoing the whole issue with my job getting transferred.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 17, 2014, 08:04:45 PM

Quote from: Esch on November 17, 2014, 07:35:17 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on November 17, 2014, 03:55:23 PM
Enjoy the 10 buck entry fee.
it's a weekday in detroit, sis.

:sabu

That nicca don't live in Detroit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 17, 2014, 08:06:59 PM

Plus they specifically said "upper class" which disqualifies Detroit

:heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 17, 2014, 09:04:09 PM

We had the talk. He brought it up. I mentioned my career goals and that I was moving to try to achieve them pretty soon and I wasn't sure I could be a good girlfriend to him if I'm just going to up and leave him like that. He said he didn't give a shit and that we'd work something out. Then he kissed me and we talked about how rad Discovery Zone was.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on November 17, 2014, 09:08:51 PM

:rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 17, 2014, 09:14:28 PM

I don't know how I lucked out like this. I thought the second I tried dating men I'd be rejected or beaten up or murdered for obvious reasons. But to just meet some guy, him not giving a shit, and just being supportive and confident sets :punch me :punch on :punch fire :punch

What do you know? There are great guys out there. :3

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 17, 2014, 09:40:11 PM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cheddahz on November 17, 2014, 09:41:25 PM

I got a ride home from two girls today and I've been kinda interested in one for a while now, should I go up to her tomorrow and be like "Hey yo, we should get coffee together" or something like that? I think she's kinda interested in me as well, so it would be all cool (I think)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 17, 2014, 09:53:31 PM

No. You got a ride from them, which is an instant L.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on November 17, 2014, 10:09:19 PM

eh in college that isn't an automatic disqualification.

also if you're into someone ask them at the next available opportunity duh. but 'going to get coffee' sounds kinda cac. meet up at a bar or someshit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cheddahz on November 17, 2014, 10:09:38 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 17, 2014, 09:53:31 PM

No. You got a ride from them, which is an instant L.

I mean, my car is broken down right now and we were on a tornado watch (shit looked like it was about to storm badly)

Quote from: nudemacusers on November 17, 2014, 10:09:19 PM

eh in college that isn't an automatic disqualification.

also if you're into someone ask them at the next available opportunity duh. but 'going to get coffee' sounds kinda cac. meet up at a bar or someshit.

gonna go with the cac life and ask her for a cup of coffee (won't be able to go into bars for another two months)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on November 17, 2014, 10:11:50 PM

go to some dude's house party then. getting coffee with a bish is some belle and sebastian twee shit :pacspit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 17, 2014, 10:12:37 PM

I'll rescind the L in that case.

might as well try, don't be that guy sitting around thinking "man I should have..."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on November 17, 2014, 10:17:45 PM

:rock BELLE AND SEBASTIAN TWEE SHIT FOR LIFE :rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cheddahz on November 17, 2014, 10:18:09 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on November 17, 2014, 10:17:45 PM

:rock BELLE AND SEBASTIAN TWEE SHIT FOR LIFE :rock

nah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 17, 2014, 10:20:22 PM

First date, imo, don't do coffee unless you know her personality and if she'll like it. Coffee is okay, but it's not like, overly fun or anything. Test the waters with some sloppy food. What's a good sloppy food? Burgers. See how fun she is and how compatible the two of you are by asking her out for burgers at a local hole in the wall joint and see if she's a girl who can get her hands dirty and is down to Earth. Coffee feels too expected; a bar or house party feels too informal. Personally, I wouldn't feel safe around a guy at a bar, drinking, on a first date. Much more, coffee is something quick. There's not much wait time, and it's not like it takes a while to down a cup of coffee.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on November 17, 2014, 10:34:59 PM

ice cream place

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 17, 2014, 10:38:12 PM

If you go with a coffee date, do it at some place with a nice view. Coffee dates are pretty standard, so try to make it less standard. Make sure it's a place where you won't be interrupted by some hipster who wants to plug his Macbook into the wall outlet while he eyes your table and you lose any sense of intimacy aka Starbucks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on November 17, 2014, 10:39:09 PM

Mine was at a Japanese restaurant, then later we went to a pub. Though I've had quite a few relationships where my first date was at a coffee house.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 17, 2014, 10:39:31 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on November 17, 2014, 10:34:59 PM

ice cream place

Yes! :rock

Alternatively, frozen yogurt.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 17, 2014, 10:41:09 PM

The first date I took this lady on the other night was to the Atlanta Symphony Orchestra to hear Beethoven's 9th Symphony; we ate at an expensive restaurant beforehand, and went out for drinks after.

30's life

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cheddahz on November 17, 2014, 11:09:24 PM

I'll probably just ask her for ice cream or frozen yogurt then, since we have shops that serve both of those close to the school and what not

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 17, 2014, 11:56:17 PM

Yep. A first date should be a private thing, imo.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on November 18, 2014, 12:13:38 AM

Quote from: The Walrus on November 17, 2014, 11:43:35 PM

Whatever you do don't invite her to a party. That's where college first dates go to die.

i met my wife at a college party tho

actually gundam will like this, our second meeting was at the oak rail :dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on November 18, 2014, 12:21:44 AM

what's funny is when I met her at a house party, she was borderline blackout drunk and getting a back massage from a friend of mine who was tryin to smash.

i swooped in with a quickness and did my work :heh we were gentlemen of course so there were no hard feelings.

it's even funnier when i bring this up because she claims she doesn't remember it :heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: El Babua on November 18, 2014, 12:27:13 AM

All the girls I ever asked out for coffee dates ended up cancelling for one reason or another. :goty2

So fuck that gay shit imho

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on November 18, 2014, 11:26:21 AM

I met my wife 10 years ago today :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on November 18, 2014, 11:32:21 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on November 18, 2014, 12:13:38 AM

Quote from: The Walrus on November 17, 2014, 11:43:35 PM
Whatever you do don't invite her to a party. That's where college first dates go to die.
i met my wife at a college party tho

same here. she chugged an oe800 when i dared her. <3 <3 <3

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 18, 2014, 12:29:08 PM

the mental hurdles of messaging chicks on okcupid. I forgot about this shit :snoop

got matched with an Asian chick, figured fuck it I'll message her. I assume she must get tons of messages a day so I figured I needed to stand out. He profile is quite food oriented, she says she loves unhealthy foods/food porn/etc etc (but isn't overweight or even thick). I came up with a variety of witty reponses before nixing them as tryhard shit, and ultimately settled for "do you like macaroni and cheese?"
:larry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on November 18, 2014, 12:45:55 PM

you ARE the black larry david.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on November 18, 2014, 01:08:09 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 18, 2014, 12:29:08 PM

"do you like macaroni and cheese?"

(https://bigromey.files.wordpress.com/2010/07/n2218923275_33780.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 18, 2014, 03:30:27 PM

She logged on an hour after I sent the message, no reply so far.
(http://i.imgur.com/5Q2j5gS.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 18, 2014, 03:30:59 PM

She's not into IR

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on November 18, 2014, 04:09:30 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 18, 2014, 03:30:27 PM

She logged on an hour after I sent the message, no reply so far.
(http://i.imgur.com/5Q2j5gS.png)

welcome to online dating. hope you enjoy hating yourself.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on November 18, 2014, 04:17:15 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 18, 2014, 03:30:27 PM

She logged on an hour after I sent the message, no reply so far.
(http://i.imgur.com/5Q2j5gS.png)

this seems like information no man should ever know lol. soul destroying.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on November 18, 2014, 04:25:01 PM

Spend time coming up with a witty intro, instead ask a girl if she like mac and cheese and worry she hasn't gotten back to you in an hour brehs

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on November 18, 2014, 04:41:22 PM

the girl i'm currently with didn't respond to the message I sent her until like 2 weeks later.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 18, 2014, 04:43:46 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on November 18, 2014, 04:41:22 PM

the girl i'm currently with didn't respond to the message I sent her until like 2 weeks later.

what has the world come to when Fistfull is giving me hope and inspiration
:lawd

:tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on November 18, 2014, 08:36:42 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 18, 2014, 03:30:27 PM

She logged on an hour after I sent the message, no reply so far.
(http://i.imgur.com/5Q2j5gS.png)

You should ask her to respond.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: El Babua on November 18, 2014, 09:35:09 PM

Politely, of course.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on November 19, 2014, 12:34:21 AM

so

before my girlfriend and i got together she lived in NYC for two years. while in NYC she spent a lot of time trying to get a job at Marvel. she even managed to get an interview. unfortunately nothing ever came of it and she eventually moved back here to Rochester

Back in October, before we officially became a couple, she went to Comicon and once again put some work into potentially getting hired by Marvel. She gave her portfolio to some Marvel contacts that were there.

Flash forward to yesterday. She gets an email from Marvel. They want her to do a skype interview.

The job would, of course, require her to move back to NYC.

She told me about the email tonight.

It's like I've been here before.

Now, she doesn't have the job. And obviously since it's a place like Marvel there are likely many other people being interviewed so it's not like it's guaranteed she would get the job. But there's still a chance.

Our relationship is just getting off the ground. She's mentioned how I feel about long distance and while I don't like it, I told her it might not be the best time to talk about that since there's too many unknowns. I remain supportive. Like the last time, the last thing I want to do is get in the way of someone doing something with their life.

But I really like her. Like, a lot. More than the last girl that I was in this situation with. I don't want her to leave. But I feel it's too early to say something like that. We've only been a couple for less than a month.

I dunno. feelsbadman, etc. But it's not over, and it may never even happen. But i'm catching mad feels already because I'm flashing back to July. I really don't want to do this again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 19, 2014, 12:48:06 AM

Have you told her your feelings and reservations like you said in that post? I think clearing all communication and misgivings could possibly help you relieve any possible tension. Though I am happy you remain supportive. My boyfriend and I are in a similar situation except it's firsties for us. I wish you luck! Here's hoping things go well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on November 19, 2014, 12:59:30 AM

She showed real concern for me (she knows this would be the second time dealing with this) and I made sure to reassure her she should be worrying about the interview and doing the absolute best to nail it.

I told her:

-It's too soon to talk about the potential of having a long-distance relationship (she doesn't even know when the interview would be, Marvel takes a very long time to get back to people)
-We shouldn't let this loom over things (even though it probably will, hard to avoid it)

I have a problem coming to terms with the time we've been together and the feelings I have for her. I attach to people quickly, and easily. I truly don't want her to go but I'm unsure if I should tell her that, or if I should... how.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 19, 2014, 01:06:30 AM

You're a great boyfriend. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on November 19, 2014, 02:37:10 AM

That's always an option. A much more appealing option than Texas :lol

I'm gonna wait and see.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on November 19, 2014, 06:36:32 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on November 18, 2014, 12:13:38 AM

Quote from: The Walrus on November 17, 2014, 11:43:35 PM
Whatever you do don't invite her to a party. That's where college first dates go to die.
i met my wife at a college party tho

actually gundam will like this, our second meeting was at the oak rail :dead

My wife was my tutor for math (I was actually better than her)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on November 19, 2014, 09:08:52 AM

Quote from: The Walrus on November 19, 2014, 02:32:57 AM

What if you just moved to NYC with her?

This.

Seems like your specialization would make finding work in the city pretty straightforward. You might really enjoy it here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on November 19, 2014, 09:09:34 AM

Quote from: Barry Egan on November 19, 2014, 09:08:52 AM

Quote from: The Walrus on November 19, 2014, 02:32:57 AM
What if you just moved to NYC with her?

This.

Seems like your specialization would make finding work in the city pretty straightforward. You might really enjoy it here.

Man I lived in NYC for a year and a half...I'd rather get buttfucked by a Rhino then live there again....

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 19, 2014, 09:18:35 AM

Warning about living in NYC. If you are not prepared that place will chew you up and spit you out. Lots of New Yorkers are leaving New York for a reason.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on November 19, 2014, 09:21:33 AM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on November 19, 2014, 09:18:35 AM

Warning about living in NYC. If you are not prepared that place will chew you up and spit you out. Lots of New Yorkers are leaving New York for a reason.

That's for sure true, I just don't have the mentality it takes to live next to somebody for a year and never know their name. So weird.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on November 19, 2014, 09:44:50 AM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on November 19, 2014, 09:21:33 AM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on November 19, 2014, 09:18:35 AM
Warning about living in NYC. If you are not prepared that place will chew you up and spit you out. Lots of New Yorkers are leaving New York for a reason.

That's for sure true, I just don't have the mentality it takes to live next to somebody for a year and never know their name. So weird.

That actually sounds awesome. I've been here in this complex for awhile and barely know anything about my neighbors.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on November 19, 2014, 10:13:29 AM

I've been living in apartment buildings almost my entire life. Not knowing your neighbours is normal to me. You know the janitor and maybe the people you run into most often, but some people you don't ever even see and just randomly knocking on someone's door? Nah. It depends on the layout of the building too. Draughty hallways and stairwells aren't exactly inviting places.
Some of the older people in my building get together to grill in the backyard or just talk, but everyone else is either busy or meeting going out to meet friends. There's always at least one gossiping housewive or pensioner(s) who have the time to linger outside their door and draw people random people into conversations.

What's it like when everyone has their own house? I don't imagine you know everyone who lives on the same street.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on November 19, 2014, 10:14:26 AM

Quote from: Rufus on November 19, 2014, 10:13:29 AM

I've been living in apartment buildings almost my entire life. Not knowing your neighbours is normal to me. You know the janitor and maybe the people you run into most often, but some people you don't ever even see and just randomly knocking on someone's door? Nah. It depends on the layout of the building too. Draughty hallways and stairwells aren't exactly inviting places.
Some of the older people in my building get together to grill in the backyard or just talk, but everyone else is either busy or meeting going out to meet friends. There's always at least one gossiping housewive or pensioner(s) who have the time to linger outside their door and draw people random people into conversations.

What's it like when everyone has their own house? I don't imagine you know everyone who lives on the same street.

Here in whiteyville? I know everybody in the damn town much less the same street. Small town living breh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 19, 2014, 10:15:34 AM

I talk to my cute neighbor. I don't even know her name though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on November 19, 2014, 10:41:51 AM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on November 19, 2014, 10:14:26 AM

Here in whiteyville? I know everybody in the damn town much less the same street. Small town living breh.

Hm, I bet that has its perks, but I think I prefer being a random nobody.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on November 19, 2014, 10:49:34 AM

Quote from: Rufus on November 19, 2014, 10:41:51 AM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on November 19, 2014, 10:14:26 AM
Here in whiteyville? I know everybody in the damn town much less the same street. Small town living breh.
Hm, I bet that has its perks, but I think I prefer being a random nobody.

Well if I fart half the town can tell me where I had dinner. It's basically a balance....small town gossip is crap but the safety of living in that town is incredible. Our kids still walk to parks and ride their bikes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 19, 2014, 11:02:06 AM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on November 19, 2014, 09:21:33 AM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on November 19, 2014, 09:18:35 AM
Warning about living in NYC. If you are not prepared that place will chew you up and spit you out. Lots of New Yorkers are leaving New York for a reason.

That's for sure true, I just don't have the mentality it takes to live next to somebody for a year and never know their name. So weird.

What? I was talking about expense. And it's not like living in a house in the suburbs is any better. You know your neighbors names and but the most you ever do with them is wave.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on November 19, 2014, 11:05:50 AM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on November 19, 2014, 11:02:06 AM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on November 19, 2014, 09:21:33 AM
Quote from: Queen of Ice on November 19, 2014, 09:18:35 AM
Warning about living in NYC. If you are not prepared that place will chew you up and spit you out. Lots of New Yorkers are leaving New York for a reason.

That's for sure true, I just don't have the mentality it takes to live next to somebody for a year and never know their name. So weird.

What? I was talking about expense. And it's not like suburbs are better.

Yes, yes they are.

I paid 3200 bucks A MONTH in rent right across from Penn Station. I own a 3100 square foot house and I pay 1,049 dollars a month + 2500 bucks a half on property taxes.

So let's see

$38,400 a year and own nothing or

$17,588 and own 6 acres, breh.

I'm not hating on city living, I was born in one. But for myself I enjoy the country now.

Over 4k now.... :holeup

http://www.forrent.com/apartment-community-profile/1000061268.php

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 19, 2014, 11:27:56 AM

Read my edit. I wasn't saying suburbs weren't better in regards to expense. I said suburbs weren't better in regards your neighbors giving a fuck about you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on November 19, 2014, 11:30:31 AM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on November 19, 2014, 11:27:56 AM

Read my edit. I wasn't saying suburbs weren't better in regards to expense. I said suburbs weren't better in regards your neighbors giving a fuck about you.

Like I said there is good and bad to living out in the country. Nosey neighbors definitely being a "bad"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on November 19, 2014, 11:36:43 AM

Quote from: Death Ghidorah on November 19, 2014, 11:36:08 AM

or you can be like me, live in a small town and not know your neighbors at all.

How do you manage to pull that off, buddy?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 19, 2014, 11:39:05 AM

I guess different strokes. I personally find neighbors who try to get to know you a good thing. I find the isolated nature of suburban living depressing. I need human interaction, and when I go on walks I'm the only person ever out. Shit is sad.

Not knowing my neighbors drives me nuts. :stahp the worst part are the new Chinese neighbors. The mom won't stop feeding my dog SHE'S ON A DIET :stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 19, 2014, 11:57:24 AM

Chinese lady feeding your dog? Fattening her up for consumption, most likely.

:hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on November 19, 2014, 12:01:56 PM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on November 19, 2014, 11:57:24 AM

Chinese lady feeding your dog? Fattening her up for consumption, most likely.

:hitler

Short ribs for thanksgiving

:lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on November 19, 2014, 02:42:15 PM

brehs i just unlocked a next level of relationship trolling :lawd

start heavy making out, pause your mouth/body at some random point in the middle, and wait until she notices :lawd :heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on November 19, 2014, 05:02:43 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on November 19, 2014, 10:15:34 AM

I talk to my cute neighbor. I don't even know her name though.

You should move to New York.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on November 20, 2014, 12:00:34 AM

pull the statue move on her

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 20, 2014, 10:50:33 AM

Quote from: Death Ghidorah on November 19, 2014, 11:58:47 PM

Looks like your old boy Wrath just fucked around and got himself a girlfriend.

Is she Jewish?
:hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on November 20, 2014, 12:07:48 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on November 20, 2014, 12:00:34 AM

pull the statue move on her

every time we make out she accuses me of doing this now :rejoice

there is no going back :sabu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 20, 2014, 12:27:16 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on November 20, 2014, 12:07:48 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on November 20, 2014, 12:00:34 AM
pull the statue move on her
every time we make out she accuses me of doing this now :rejoice

there is no going back :sabu

My wife does this to me. It drives me nuts

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on November 20, 2014, 02:51:04 PM

Y'all thought cuffin season was a joke huh? #staywoke

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 20, 2014, 03:29:51 PM

I'm going to try that statue thing!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on November 20, 2014, 11:25:06 PM

girls suck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 21, 2014, 12:25:00 AM

Bad news brehs, they don't get much better when they get to be women

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on November 21, 2014, 12:41:09 AM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on November 20, 2014, 03:29:51 PM

I'm going to try that statue thing!

do it

i also think this is the real pickup art for the future. challenge a bish to a statue off after a couple drinks :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 21, 2014, 01:17:42 AM

Makes for a fun make out session! Fun teasing!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 21, 2014, 01:46:24 AM

Having someone to talk to intimately about your daily struggles feels so good. :heartbeat I've never had so much fun dating before. Girls :yuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 21, 2014, 02:00:03 AM

WELL THAT'S COOL Y'ALL, I'M PLAYING VIDEO GAMES AND CARRYING ON BOTH SIDES OF A CONVERSATION BETWEEN ME AND MY DOG, SO I'M NOT SWEATING IT OR ANYTHING

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 21, 2014, 02:00:45 AM

It's going to be okay, creepy!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 21, 2014, 02:01:49 AM

Yeah, after I pass out from being drunk THINGS WILL GET JUST PEACHY

...it's been a rough year or so.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 21, 2014, 02:01:56 AM

Quote from: The Walrus on November 21, 2014, 01:57:27 AM

Got a text from my gf a little while ago that said, "Can I come snuggle for 15 minutes before I have to go write again?"

So she comes down (she lives above me), and it turns into 45 minutes with her telling me a lot about her struggles of the day, and then 15 minutes with the two of us playing with the hamster. Totally worth it.

I wasn't going to see my guy today but I ended up just crashing at his place. Cuddling :heartbeat

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 21, 2014, 02:02:36 AM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on November 21, 2014, 02:01:49 AM

Yeah, after I pass out from being drunk THINGS WILL GET JUST PEACHY

...it's been a rough year or so.

2014 is pretty bad :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on November 21, 2014, 02:07:18 AM

spontaneous visits are difficult when you're with someone who lives at least 20 minutes away. up to this point we've always planned it ahead a time.

but she's coming over tomorrow and we're doing a thing on saturday so that's super nice :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on November 21, 2014, 02:14:34 AM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on November 21, 2014, 02:02:36 AM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on November 21, 2014, 02:01:49 AM
Yeah, after I pass out from being drunk THINGS WILL GET JUST PEACHY

...it's been a rough year or so.

2014 is pretty bad :(

Hopefully 2015 will be better.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

:shaq2

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 21, 2014, 08:36:01 AM

Morning sex :heartbeat

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 21, 2014, 03:49:19 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on November 20, 2014, 11:25:06 PM

girls suck

:tocry

was it the hot chick?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on November 21, 2014, 03:50:08 PM

yup. supposed to see her this weekend but I'm seeing the writing on the wall

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 21, 2014, 03:50:58 PM

Does she like your beard?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on November 21, 2014, 05:12:10 PM

she loves it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on November 21, 2014, 07:33:10 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on November 21, 2014, 02:02:36 AM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on November 21, 2014, 02:01:49 AM
Yeah, after I pass out from being drunk THINGS WILL GET JUST PEACHY

...it's been a rough year or so.

2014 is pretty bad :(

Yeah, 2014 can gobble my sac.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 22, 2014, 10:54:42 AM

Yea but if you break up it'll be awkward as fuck living so close to her and vice versa.
:fbm

My online dating continues to flounder. I have a bunch of likes and matches on tinder and okcupid but they don't seem good. On tinder I'm constantly getting likes from (real) 18-20 year olds. I'm talking to one but I just want to smash - I have NO interest in another relationship with a college aged adult kid.

Ok Cupid is trash. I just realized things to faster when you like profiles because it'll tell you who liked you. But based on my quick matches it's clear I'm being liked by chubby chicks, many of whom have young children. Where did my life to wrong to the point where this demographic is the most attracted to me on one site?
:fbm

Meanwhile my friend's birthday is tomorrow. She has a kid and fiancé, I should have dated her when I had the chance. She asked me three times in HS. Sure she's too religious for my taste but now I realize we should have tried. There were too many weird coincidences that often made us cross paths, as if fate was willing us together. Don't be a coward brehs, if your best friend likes you just take the chance. If it doesn't work out you can still be friends, it might just take awhile. Just do it.
:tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Flannel Boy on November 22, 2014, 03:43:29 PM

Today a certain couple is having their first anniversary.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on November 22, 2014, 04:02:40 PM

Time flies.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on November 23, 2014, 03:57:50 AM

I feel old

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: El Babua on November 23, 2014, 04:26:34 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 22, 2014, 10:54:42 AM

But based on my quick matches it's clear I'm being liked by chubby chicks, many of whom have young children. Where did my life to wrong to the point where this demographic is the most attracted to me on one site?
:fbm

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 23, 2014, 09:56:55 AM

My recent 94% match, in her own words:

"I identify as fluid and not bi--it's a newish term so pansexual or queer works too. I'm waiting for this site to catch up."

:beli

That sounds like some hipster gender shit to me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on November 23, 2014, 09:59:49 AM

It may take awhile but you'll learn to ignore 90% of the stuff people put in their profiles. Most of it is nonsense.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 23, 2014, 10:09:50 AM

Ah yes, now we have to deal with PD's ever wise views on sex and gender in the relationship thread

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 23, 2014, 10:14:03 AM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on November 23, 2014, 10:09:50 AM

Ah yes, now we have to deal with PD's ever wise views on sex and gender in the relationship thread

No hate, I just had to roll my eyes when I saw that.

I'm a simple man. I like curves, big asses and BBC porn.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 23, 2014, 12:21:03 PM

Strange. Basically the only thing I want to do on my birthday is watch Predator. Maybe anal.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on November 23, 2014, 02:20:44 PM

Quote from: The Walrus on November 23, 2014, 10:51:13 AM

Got my gf to watch The Terminator with me, and she loved it. :rejoice

She actually got kind of emotional when Kyle and Sarah are in the hotel and Kyle tells her how he came back through time for her. Dat early Cameron writing before he got full of himself :lawd

She refuses to watch Predator with me though. Even when I told her it's a sci-fi action movie, not horror, she's not down for it. I offered to watch 10 Things I Hate About You if she'd do it, but she wouldn't make that trade. Unless it's on my birthday. She'll watch it with me on my birthday, but there are lots of other things I'd rather do on that day than watch Predator. So I guess we'll never share the experience of bonding over "Get to the choppah!!!" :fbm

Honestly, everyone tends to bring up the horror tone of the first and it's there but the thing that really solidifies the first 2 Terminator films over their poorer sequels is love. T1 is Kyle and Sarah both lonely individuals searching (literally in Kyle's case) and of course T2 is John's search for a family particularly a father figure that makes sense to him.

I still think Salvation could have been great if John/Bale wasn't in it at all and the film instead focused on Marcus and Blair (Worthington and Moon Bloodgood's characters). Showing that even at the end of the world there could still be hope and not just one messiah style hope.

It's a shame Justin Lin (FF films) never got to do the Terminator he wanted. Outside of Cameron he seemed to be the only one to understand this.

I'm just a dude on the internet though so
:yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on November 23, 2014, 04:24:52 PM

Problem with terminator franchise is that literally no one cares about the war of the machines. What makes terminator great is the days of future past esque story with robots mixed in modern times

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on November 23, 2014, 10:20:12 PM

everyone shut up and turn this thread back into depressing anecdotes

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on November 23, 2014, 11:59:33 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on November 23, 2014, 10:20:12 PM

everyone shut up and turn this thread back into depressing anecdotes

you got it

she's having her interview with marvel tomorrow morning. my stomach feels like there's a giant pit inside.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on November 24, 2014, 12:06:12 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on November 23, 2014, 10:20:12 PM

everyone shut up and turn this thread back into depressing anecdotes

I think I'm just gonna get my nuts cut off and become a monk. (http://i.imgur.com/zTGx55y.png)

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Totally not serious, btw. I'm not that crazy.

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Yet.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on November 24, 2014, 12:32:10 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on November 23, 2014, 10:20:12 PM

everyone shut up and turn this thread back into depressing anecdotes

...got stood up tonight by the girl from last weekend

:fbm

I'm giving up on this shit for a while I think.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on November 24, 2014, 02:19:56 AM

hot girl hasn't gotten back to me in a week

most attractive, coolest girl I've ever hung out with. definitely feel like I played too strong a hand with her; regretting the things I did/said around her

fuck her

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 24, 2014, 02:27:59 AM

What did you say/do?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: PlayDat on December 05, 2014, 12:00:08 AM

Digestive illness Bore (Does this exist?): How do you usually avoid dinner dates? I'd be our first time out together and I don't feel like bringing up my medical history. I already tried suggesting something else, but it'd kind of take some time to travel there and back. With finals coming up she doesn't feel like doing anything too time consuming. I'll take the fact that she offered something else rather than just cancel on me as a good sign though.

I rarely even eat out with friends for this reason.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 05, 2014, 02:22:39 AM

I think you're thinking this as a bad thing. When in fact it's a perfect awkward thing you can use to be slightly endearing. Just play it as a super dumb awkward thing you feel dumb about and lean into the embarrassing nature. I've found chicks are OK with you being a little bit awkward because it makes the whole situation less stressful.

Be like "I got this dumb medical thing which makes going out to eat a challenge... (mind if we do something else?) OR (just so you know why I'm not eating anything.)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on December 05, 2014, 08:02:10 AM

Man I gotta tell you guys I am so fucking glad I got married before internet dating was a thing. Just seems so weird and shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 05, 2014, 10:14:33 AM

no, it wasn't, but thanks

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 05, 2014, 09:04:01 PM

Errr... you having gotten this far in life I thought you would've known by now that women don't want your logical advice. They just want you to lie to them and support them emotionally. She was testing you, breh, and you didn't pass.

Hell, I've never had a gf and I even know this shit. :brazilcry

She'll eventually (well... maybe) find it within herself to lose the weight. She's a grown ass woman. She knows what she has do or at least can figure it out on her own.

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Also... I did pretend to be a woman for a brief amount of time. So I have some credentials. :hitler

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on December 05, 2014, 09:10:24 PM

2 things, lots of us know your irl identity, and how old is she? I'd say 25 is the oldest you get to be and still pull out trap scenarios like that. Past that beware.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 05, 2014, 09:42:02 PM

Throw her in the bushes. Not because of the weight gain - lord knows the world needs more pawgs. But if she's playing games like that...it'll get worse on more important subjects.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on December 05, 2014, 09:48:21 PM

Nope, it was a game.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 05, 2014, 10:06:17 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/i0Ioxoy.jpg)

:drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 05, 2014, 10:15:33 PM

it's one thing to, in the moment, be like 'i just wanted a little feel-good support!' but to marinate on that overnight and then get emotional/mad about it? that's wack imo and you should say as much.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 05, 2014, 10:21:03 PM

how fat are we talking? we know that awesom-o is white so we don't know if he's talking about donk or what ya'll.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 05, 2014, 10:27:57 PM

you can be white and appreciate a good booty :bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 05, 2014, 10:30:45 PM

You win the "am I fat" shit by not just saying no, but saying you think she's as attractive today as she was x ago. That is, assuming she is a pawg/thick and not legit fat. Regardless though, anyone (man or woman) playing that trap game is a problem.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 05, 2014, 10:53:49 PM

What does love feel like? Because I think I'm definitely in love right now. I said I've never been in love before a few weeks ago, and it's true, but I've never felt like this about anyone before. But it's only been two months. Is that too soon? Am I overthinking this?

I'm turned on all the time now.

Like (http://media.tumblr.com/6fa55894ca4d61143be2bc4da6632323/tumblr_inline_n98cwvxM1d1rkx7am.gif)

I'm willing to do anything for this man. I probably care more about his needs than mine.

I just got horny again just thinking of him.

(http://i.imgur.com/P9mYF.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 05, 2014, 11:01:18 PM

Fuck that. I hope you told her she shouldn't ask questions she doesn't want to hear the answer to. I tell my wife the truth. Anything else is a mistake

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 05, 2014, 11:02:53 PM

i don't think there is a strict definition of love but if you're pickin up a vibe that his feelings match yours you might as well drop the l bomb. i'm a believer that you really shouldn't be conservative with your feelings on these matters :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 05, 2014, 11:05:58 PM

but do you love yourself
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8aShfolR6w8

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 05, 2014, 11:06:25 PM

Quote from: Esch on December 05, 2014, 11:03:04 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 05, 2014, 10:53:49 PM
What does love feel like? Because I think I'm definitely in love right now. I said I've never been in love before a few weeks ago, and it's true, but I've never felt like this about anyone before. But it's only been two months. Is that too soon? Am I overthinking this?

I'm turned on all the time now.
I'm willing to do anything for this man. I probably care more about his needs than mine.

I just got horny again just thinking of him.

i love you too babe

(http://i.imgur.com/tQYypAO.png)

Mraow.

(http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m3s92gmbVp1qiezmeo1_500.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 05, 2014, 11:08:17 PM

goddamit tumblr is it so hard to make a gif where the dialogue matches the words!?!?!?! is this gif making 101?!?!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 06, 2014, 12:28:16 AM

honestly himu, i'm thinking the same things right now. lmao

IG: feels about SO

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on December 06, 2014, 01:08:18 AM

happy thread

(http://i.minus.com/i7QqMe11D3i54.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 06, 2014, 02:44:27 AM

:heart

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 06, 2014, 02:46:39 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 06, 2014, 12:28:16 AM

honestly himu, i'm thinking the same things right now. lmao

IG: feels about SO

Tell me your situation!!

(http://i.minus.com/i7QqMe11D3i54.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 06, 2014, 03:00:09 AM

i mean

i like her a lot. but i dunno if that word accurately describes the feels.

and there's a 90% chance she's gonna be moving back to NYC early next year and I don't even fuckin' care. i'd rather only see her once a month than never. we'll figure it out and make it work.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barraco Barner on December 06, 2014, 06:19:45 AM

Was considering asking a lady from OKC to meet.

I did what any respectable/paranoid person would do and conducted a basic Google search beforehand and found her LinkedIn profile.

Someone lied about her age big time. Literally closer to my mom's age than my age ::)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pollo on December 06, 2014, 10:21:24 AM

I met my girl 10 yrs ago so were celebrating today

One of my first memories with her was having sex for the first time and then me nekkid browsing neogaf. She sits on my lap and asked me what I was doing and I told her im browsing a forum but I was trying to kick the habit.

10 years later :brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 07, 2014, 04:57:39 AM

Came across a girl on OKC who is pretty much my ideal partner.

I guess tomorrow I'll find out if that sentiment is mutual...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on December 07, 2014, 08:31:06 AM

Quote from: Atramental on December 07, 2014, 04:57:39 AM

Came across a girl on OKC who is pretty much my ideal partner.

I guess tomorrow I'll find out if that sentiment is mutual...

Since it sounds like this girl is The One, it's important that you take tomorrows conversation seriously. After a little small talk, surprise her with "I feel that you are my ideal partner, is the feeling mutual?" As Mupepe said earlier (and he is the master when it comes to this stuff), you have to tell woman the truth. She will be impressed with your ability to cut through the bullshit and get to the point. She may be a little too stunned to respond, so you should fill in the gaps by enumerating why you would be perfect for each other based on an OKC profile ("I too like The Guild!" for example). I'd say good luck but we both know you don't need it. Sounds like your life is about to change forever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 07, 2014, 11:52:10 AM

Took my girl back home with me to meet muh family. Ended up doing like, a double date thing, with her and my mom and her boyfriend to see Niagara Falls with all the lights and stuff.

then we came back here, watched Frozen (first time for me) then she stayed over the night for the first time. :-[ :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 07, 2014, 12:45:24 PM

Quote from: Atramental on December 07, 2014, 04:57:39 AM

Came across a girl on OKC who is pretty much my ideal partner.

*calls the FBI*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 07, 2014, 01:15:17 PM

By ideal I mean: what she wrote on her profile doesn't make me cringe, her physical appearance is close to my type, and she lives in relative proximity to where I live. I know for a fact that I have more ideal partners out there but they all live in states that aren't GOP strongholds.

She talks about her art a bunch so I'm going start off by asking her what her preferred medium is and then I'll branch off from there.

:yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 07, 2014, 02:18:53 PM

invite me to the wedding :uguu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 07, 2014, 02:25:01 PM

Let's tag team her

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 07, 2014, 02:31:04 PM

D-do you mind if I watch?

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(http://i.imgur.com/6TmANAR.gif)

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In her profile she said that she's totally willing to do MMF threesomes. :cody

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 07, 2014, 02:32:21 PM

Went to the theatre (live, not movies) with my guy last night and then went to a nearby thai place. Then we went to my place, snuggled and watched Agents of SHIELD the rest of the night, then we woke up and fucked.

:heart

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 07, 2014, 02:46:16 PM

Quote from: Atramental on December 07, 2014, 02:31:04 PM

D-do you mind if I watch?
spoiler (click to show/hide)
(http://i.imgur.com/6TmANAR.gif)
spoiler (click to show/hide)
In her profile she said that she's totally willing to do MMF threesomes. :cody
[close]
[close]

She's a keeper

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on December 07, 2014, 03:06:45 PM

Quote from: The Walrus on December 05, 2014, 08:35:05 PM

Fuck it, none of ya'll know my IRL identity, so I'll just be honest with this shit.

My gf has put on a few pounds. Probably more than a few now.

Last night she told me she looked in the mirror and felt disgusting. I told her she wasn't. She said she was really frustrated about the weight gain. I suggested workout tips, diet tips, etc, talked about how I'd managed to lose a few pounds recently, etc. Constructive, motivational advice. I mean, I'm not the one who brought it up. She brought it up, so I thought it was fine to give her some pro-tips. I told her I still loved her, still thought she was cute, etc. Told her I wanted to lose 5 pounds myself and we could do it together.

Today she called me and told me that she was really sad and that I hadn't given her the support she needed in that moment. Not sure what that was supposed to be. The gist of it was she wanted me to say that I'm just as attracted to her as I was at the beginning.

That would have been a lie. Being perfectly real, the weight gain has made her a lot less attractive to me. I still have a lot of fun with her, and I still love her. But those last few pounds have definitely pushed things past the point where I don't really feel the urge to initiate sex rather than just pass out or watch a movie or whatever. But there is no earthly way to tell her this. It's so demonic, friends.

You might not know this, but has your girlfriend either had weight issues in the past, or, perhaps more acutely troubling for her, is this the first time she's really put on weight?

lulz at people telling you that stewing on something for one U.S. night is a BFD, BTW. Y'all either soft as fuck or been out the crazy game too long.

e: You mentioned you'd been having a disinterest in being intimate recentish, is this in conjunction with that or was it the reason for it?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 07, 2014, 03:29:43 PM

the only way to win the crazy game is to not play the crazy game.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 07, 2014, 04:57:47 PM

Quote from: The Walrus on December 07, 2014, 04:53:54 PM

Anecdotal evidence suggests that I have always been somewhat less interested in sex than the average male, but yes, these two trends are correlated. I'm just not as turned on anymore. We still have sex, but many nights I'd rather go do other stuff, and that wasn't the case before.

Maybe two months ago she got back into her workout regime and was looking really good again, and I made a lot of efforts to compliment her, saying stuff like, "Wow, you're looking really fit, baby!" Positive reinforcement and all. Unfortunately there was a regression.

I have never brought it up though, and never will. I still love this girl to death. She gives me a lot of emotional intimacy, which is what I value far more than the physical part. The fact that I'm just not as eager to jump her bones as I used to be makes me kind of sad though.

Also, a big part of it is beyond her control. She works in tv production, and they've been shooting for the last few months, so she's on set 12 hours a day, has to eat whatever junk they provide, and doesn't really have time to work out like she did when we first started dating.

From talking to her though, it does seem like she's really dedicated to getting back in shape at this point.

"how come you never bring me lunch? you know I can't leave set to get anything healthy. it's like you don't even care"

:bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 07, 2014, 07:40:00 PM

Decided to see again how many guys in my area are similar to me and I'm basically competing against 50+ versions of myself. :lol :'(
Also, that chick saw my message and bounced.

OKC in my area is really imbalanced. You got a bunch of super religious, right of center girls on one side and then a bunch of non-religious, left of center guys on the other.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 07, 2014, 07:43:57 PM

Getting right on that. :phil

Edit: I have only 2 pics up and I'm already getting bombarded with visits and messages. ::)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 07, 2014, 09:29:27 PM

"Hello my name is [redacted]. I know you get a lot of messages because your beautiful! I will not use any pick up lines, nicknames, or sexual remarks to get your attention! I will tell you that I am very funny, respectful, and honest. I hope I caught your attention? I hope to hear from you soon!"

Mmmhmmm :goty2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 07, 2014, 09:43:10 PM

Should have asked if she likes mac and cheese.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 07, 2014, 09:46:24 PM

seeing people just start the online dating process knowing the year long 'banging your head against a brick wall" journey I've been through :goty2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 07, 2014, 09:52:27 PM

Yeah... I think I'm just better off going to bars. When I move closer to downtown early next year I'll be able to do this on the reg instead of once every 3 months.

I really do not have the patience for this shit. There's just too many thirsty dudes trying to prove how non-thirsty they are. Really taints the whole dating pool. :goty2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on December 07, 2014, 10:00:41 PM

It's not their fault your milkshake brings them to the yard :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 07, 2014, 10:39:58 PM

"I wanna marry u"

Uh-oh! :anhuld

Another guy:
"Hello there."
"How r u doing tonight"
"Would u be interested in casual sex?"
"You are so cute and sexy"

:gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on December 07, 2014, 10:49:55 PM

Think about all the amazing stories you're going to tell your future wife Atra.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 07, 2014, 10:51:39 PM

i mean

you should at least use this to get some perspective if you end up sending chicks messages and end up not getting any kind of response. now you know why.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 07, 2014, 10:56:29 PM

fistful becoming the yoda of the relationships thread :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 07, 2014, 11:14:43 PM

it is funny considering i'm just repeating back most of the advice i was given in the first place

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 07, 2014, 11:55:18 PM

I wish I learned like you did

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on December 08, 2014, 12:45:38 AM

You'll learn to build a light saber one day. Just have some faith and believe.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 08, 2014, 12:50:03 AM

Welp. Just got a message from that girl I messaged earlier today. I need to go to sleep though. :-\

It's almost 1:00 am and I need to be awake at 8:00 am. Fuck...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 08, 2014, 12:58:32 AM

God I'm such a dork. I'm googling stuff like how soon should I move in with my boyfriend and crap. Jesus, I'm a dork. I read this.

http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/2012/06/13-signs-youre-ready-to-move-in-together/1

*bangs head on desk*

It's too soon for this, why am I doing this to myself? :brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 08, 2014, 01:08:10 AM

stop reading wack 'bored 24 yo intern tier' lists on how to live your goddamn life bae :bolo

edit: ok that list is basically 'you're ready to cohabitate if you are capable of working out disagreements and hey it's ok to be nervous to take the next step in a relationship' wow much revelation.

maybe i'm just ever so slightly too old to relate to this mindset but i see a lot of stuff on the internet now about 'having dialogues' and/or 'setting parameters/expectations' on relationship shit that I feel people work themselves up for no reason and add an unnecessary layer to shit.

:yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 08, 2014, 01:25:47 AM

http://www.forbes.com/sites/rent/2014/04/26/moving-in-together-how-soon-is-too-soon/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 08, 2014, 01:33:37 AM

Quote from: Atramental on December 08, 2014, 12:50:03 AM

Welp. Just got a message from that girl I messaged earlier today. I need to go to sleep though. :-\

It's almost 1:00 am and I need to be awake at 8:00 am. Fuck...

there's a pretty good chance even if you reply right now you won't get the second response until tomorrow. so just wait.

or maybe you won't. maybe she'll reply immediately and you'll have a super awesome engaging conversation all night.

who knows :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 08, 2014, 01:36:08 AM

We're having a little back and forth right now.

Eh... Fuck sleep...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 08, 2014, 01:37:09 AM

Good luck! Cheering for YOUUU!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 08, 2014, 02:08:36 AM

Ha. No. :lol

I haven't lost all of my marbles. yet.

edit: Ugh... yeah. I can't be staying up this late. I told her later and to feel free to chat me back up tomorrow evening but... that convo seemed to drag. I'll be surprised if she chats me back again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on December 08, 2014, 03:51:45 PM

Coming up on the 1 year- pressure mounting #stress #inevitable

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 08, 2014, 04:25:14 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on December 08, 2014, 03:51:45 PM

Coming up on the 1 year- pressure mounting #stress #inevitable

There's no damn stress. Get over it and just enjoy what you've got. My wife and I had the 11th anniversary of our first date on Saturday. Didn't do anything special. I put Christmas lights on the house while she and the kiddo decorated the tree. We did randomly end up at the restaurant where we had that first date (5 Spot on Queen Anne), but this time our daughter and my parents where there with us.

It sounds like you two are doing great, no need to stress and mess it up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 08, 2014, 04:48:19 PM

oh god i need to buy her a gift for christmas

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on December 08, 2014, 09:20:18 PM

give him some quick pointers on 1st year buttsekz, gundam -- the gift for year 1 is sphincter

they don't call it the "analversary" for nuttin :ufup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 08, 2014, 09:36:01 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on December 08, 2014, 09:20:18 PM

give him some quick pointers on 1st year buttsekz, gundam -- the gift for year 1 is sphincter

they don't call it the "analversary" for nuttin :ufup

Okay. Everyone knows that you don't know anything about the stinkhole game, Mr. Sidehugger.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on December 08, 2014, 10:56:31 PM

oh shit, the poser just got busted by the royce gracie of the difficult brown

:deadpos

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on December 09, 2014, 12:10:50 PM

My sibling has been pestering me for dating advice lately which is something like Albert Kesselring pestering Jean-Baptiste Bessieres for guidance on how best to use resources on the road to Moscow.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on December 09, 2014, 03:01:21 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on December 08, 2014, 03:51:45 PM

Coming up on the 1 year- pressure mounting #stress #inevitable

Me and my wife were engaged shortly after our first anniversary being together HOW'S THAT FOR PRESSURE :bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on December 09, 2014, 03:03:49 PM

Quote from: The Walrus on December 05, 2014, 08:35:05 PM

Fuck it, none of ya'll know my IRL identity, so I'll just be honest with this shit.

My gf has put on a few pounds. Probably more than a few now.

Last night she told me she looked in the mirror and felt disgusting. I told her she wasn't. She said she was really frustrated about the weight gain. I suggested workout tips, diet tips, etc, talked about how I'd managed to lose a few pounds recently, etc. Constructive, motivational advice. I mean, I'm not the one who brought it up. She brought it up, so I thought it was fine to give her some pro-tips. I told her I still loved her, still thought she was cute, etc. Told her I wanted to lose 5 pounds myself and we could do it together.

Today she called me and told me that she was really sad and that I hadn't given her the support she needed in that moment. Not sure what that was supposed to be. The gist of it was she wanted me to say that I'm just as attracted to her as I was at the beginning.

That would have been a lie. Being perfectly real, the weight gain has made her a lot less attractive to me. I still have a lot of fun with her, and I still love her. But those last few pounds have definitely pushed things past the point where I don't really feel the urge to initiate sex rather than just pass out or watch a movie or whatever. But there is no earthly way to tell her this. It's so demonic, friends.

Thank god my wife is a workout warrior. I don't even know how I'd handle that all the sudden fat wife shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 09, 2014, 03:04:56 PM

you're quite a keeper huh

:heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on December 09, 2014, 03:05:07 PM

Quote from: Steve Contra on December 09, 2014, 03:01:21 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on December 08, 2014, 03:51:45 PM
Coming up on the 1 year- pressure mounting #stress #inevitable
Me and my wife were engaged shortly after our first anniversary being together HOW'S THAT FOR PRESSURE :bolo

Y'all was in a hurry breh.....we got married after I graduated college so I'm in the same boat.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on December 09, 2014, 03:06:10 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 09, 2014, 03:04:56 PM

you're quite a keeper huh

:heh

Hell, you got that backwards. She puts me on notice when I put on a few LB's normally. Especially after the holidays. I can hear it now "You startin' to look like my dad"

:tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on December 09, 2014, 03:07:21 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on December 09, 2014, 03:05:07 PM

Quote from: Steve Contra on December 09, 2014, 03:01:21 PM
Quote from: MrAngryFace on December 08, 2014, 03:51:45 PM
Coming up on the 1 year- pressure mounting #stress #inevitable
Me and my wife were engaged shortly after our first anniversary being together HOW'S THAT FOR PRESSURE :bolo

Y'all was in a hurry breh.....we got married after I graduated college so I'm in the same boat.

We had essentially been living together since day one because we were essentially inseparable, so it didn't feel like a hurry.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 09, 2014, 03:07:53 PM

Well that's kinky

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on December 09, 2014, 03:08:10 PM

Quote from: Steve Contra on December 09, 2014, 03:07:21 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on December 09, 2014, 03:05:07 PM
Quote from: Steve Contra on December 09, 2014, 03:01:21 PM
Quote from: MrAngryFace on December 08, 2014, 03:51:45 PM
Coming up on the 1 year- pressure mounting #stress #inevitable
Me and my wife were engaged shortly after our first anniversary being together HOW'S THAT FOR PRESSURE :bolo

Y'all was in a hurry breh.....we got married after I graduated college so I'm in the same boat.
We had essentially been living together since day one because we were essentially inseparable, so it didn't feel like a hurry.

That's pretty much how I did it. Met in college...resisted like a motherfucker...gave in...I move in with her...baby...married...no sex :tocry

Nah I'm playin though. I love my wife, would not trade her for anyone in the world. Doesn't mean she doesn't grind my gears on a daily basis.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: pollo on December 09, 2014, 03:24:23 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on December 09, 2014, 03:08:10 PM

Quote from: Steve Contra on December 09, 2014, 03:07:21 PM
Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on December 09, 2014, 03:05:07 PM
Quote from: Steve Contra on December 09, 2014, 03:01:21 PM
Quote from: MrAngryFace on December 08, 2014, 03:51:45 PM
Coming up on the 1 year- pressure mounting #stress #inevitable
Me and my wife were engaged shortly after our first anniversary being together HOW'S THAT FOR PRESSURE :bolo

Y'all was in a hurry breh.....we got married after I graduated college so I'm in the same boat.
We had essentially been living together since day one because we were essentially inseparable, so it didn't feel like a hurry.

That's pretty much how I did it. Met in college...resisted like a motherfucker...gave in...I move in with her...baby...married...no sex :tocry

Nah I'm playin though. I love my wife, would not trade her for anyone in the world. Doesn't mean she doesn't grind my gears on a daily basis.

Same. Well, except for the baby part. We met in college and were really comfortable around each other. Saw no need to change.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on December 09, 2014, 03:46:48 PM

I know I know- im already driving a hatchback with a dog hammock in the backseat. #ithasbegun

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on December 09, 2014, 03:48:27 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on December 09, 2014, 03:46:48 PM

I know I know- im already driving a hatchback with a dog hammock in the backseat. #ithasbegun

:tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 10, 2014, 02:06:26 AM

So what do you guys think about this. Is this girl sending me messages. I've been working at Target for the apst two months and they have a starbucks. So I go there a lot and it's run pretty much only by women. They are all kind of attractive, but thier may be one in particular who's sending me hints. She makes comments about how I always visit Starbucks in a playful matter which could either mean nothing or that I'm a creep. The last two times though she served me a large when I ordered a medium. Now I'm a typical virgin gaffer so I over analyze things, but I don't the first time I did'nt think much of it. The 2nd time though was a bit more telling especially since another clerk already put my name on a medium cup anyway. So that seemed pretty deliberate.

But I don't know.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 10, 2014, 02:08:05 AM

Why don't you just ask her out dude

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 10, 2014, 03:15:58 AM

(http://www.scifinow.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/S9Am5.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 10, 2014, 03:41:48 AM

dont be a pussy, man

be a pussy man

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 11, 2014, 01:36:36 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 10, 2014, 02:06:26 AM

So what do you guys think about this. Is this girl sending me messages. I've been working at Target for the apst two months and they have a starbucks. So I go there a lot and it's run pretty much only by women. They are all kind of attractive, but thier may be one in particular who's sending me hints. She makes comments about how I always visit Starbucks in a playful matter which could either mean nothing or that I'm a creep. The last two times though she served me a large when I ordered a medium. Now I'm a typical virgin gaffer so I over analyze things, but I don't the first time I did'nt think much of it. The 2nd time though was a bit more telling especially since another clerk already put my name on a medium cup anyway. So that seemed pretty deliberate.

But I don't know.

Talk to her more, see whether it's truly flirty stuff or just her being nice to a customer. Try to make small talk with her. I wouldn't ask her out anytime soon simply because you don't seem ready for dating (no offense), but just get comfortable talking to her and making eye contact bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 11, 2014, 06:52:20 PM

i'm fucking terrified about giving my gift to her this xmas. like, i'm deathly afraid she'll hate what i got.

how absolutely cliche can i be right now?

especially considering i'll like whatever she gets me because THAT'S THE POINT.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 11, 2014, 08:40:13 PM

what did you get her?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 11, 2014, 08:46:11 PM

2 things (so far)

-A Garrus POP figure (she's a big Garrus fan)
-A red Cashmere scarf (she really likes scarves)

I feel like it's missing something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on December 11, 2014, 09:22:53 PM

Quote from: Atramental on December 07, 2014, 01:15:17 PM

By ideal I mean: what she wrote on her profile doesn't make me cringe, her physical appearance is close to my type, and she lives in relative proximity to where I live. I know for a fact that I have more ideal partners out there but they all live in states that aren't GOP strongholds.

She talks about her art a bunch so I'm going start off by asking her what her preferred medium is and then I'll branch off from there.

:yeshrug

Are you certain that she isn’t just an alt you registered and forgot about?

Edit: REPEATEDLY BEATEN, like HALO player picking up COD for the first time. :lol

Quote from: The Walrus on December 07, 2014, 07:42:33 PM

Make a fem-Atra profile and see how many messages you get.

Quote from: Atramental on December 07, 2014, 07:43:57 PM

Getting right on that. :phil

Edit: I have only 2 pics up and I'm already getting bombarded with visits and messages. ::)

Quote from: Esch on December 08, 2014, 01:52:26 AM

Quote from: Atramental on December 08, 2014, 01:36:08 AM
We're having a little back and forth right now.

Eh... Fuck sleep...

You're writing messages to yourself using your FemAtra account, aren't you ? :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 11, 2014, 10:47:15 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 11, 2014, 08:46:11 PM

2 things (so far)

-A Garrus POP figure (she's a big Garrus fan)
-A red Cashmere scarf (she really likes scarves)

I feel like it's missing something.

Why are you so concerned about this? She's going to love them. Only other thing that you could do is get her something that she would treasure that reminds her of the two of you. Even so, she's gonna love it man

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 12, 2014, 12:28:59 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on December 11, 2014, 10:47:15 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 11, 2014, 08:46:11 PM
2 things (so far)

-A Garrus POP figure (she's a big Garrus fan)
-A red Cashmere scarf (she really likes scarves)

I feel like it's missing something.

Why are you so concerned about this? She's going to love them. Only other thing that you could do is get her something that she would treasure that reminds her of the two of you. Even so, she's gonna love it man

I mean I KNOW that but I'm still NERVOUS about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on December 13, 2014, 03:39:47 AM

I'm not sure what to get a certain someone for Christmas. :( I can think of getting my aunts a cute personalized skin care basket but I can't come up with anything creative for this guy I've been seeing and know lots of intimate and personal things about.

:snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on December 15, 2014, 11:44:53 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 11, 2014, 08:46:11 PM

2 things (so far)

-A Garrus POP figure (she's a big Garrus fan)
-A red Cashmere scarf (she really likes scarves)

I feel like it's missing something.

(http://fc02.deviantart.net/fs70/f/2013/097/e/9/garrus_calibrating_by_lynntattoos-d60shuk.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on December 15, 2014, 12:06:07 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 11, 2014, 06:52:20 PM

i'm fucking terrified about giving my gift to her this xmas. like, i'm deathly afraid she'll hate what i got.

how absolutely cliche can i be right now?

especially considering i'll like whatever she gets me because THAT'S THE POINT.

is this bitch the reason why you arent coming to pax?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 15, 2014, 12:28:02 PM

no.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: PlayDat on December 18, 2014, 01:50:21 PM

Am I coming off as desperate if I continue pursuing someone after a long period of absence? We agreed to go on a date over 2 weeks ago, but our schedules didn't really permit it since finals were on their way. The semester's officially over on Friday. We won't even be in the same state for almost another 5 weeks. We aren't all that close to each other so I don't expect to speak to her much over the break if we do talk at all. Our university is big enough where I doubt I'd see her in January unless we arranged to.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on December 18, 2014, 01:52:23 PM

Quote from: PlayDat on December 18, 2014, 01:50:21 PM

Am I coming off as desperate if I continue pursuing someone after a long period of absence? We agreed to go on a date over 2 weeks ago, but our schedules didn't really permit it since finals were on their way. The semester's officially over on Friday. We won't even be in the same state for almost another 5 weeks. We aren't all that close to each other so I don't expect to speak to her much over the break if we do talk at all. Our university is big enough where I doubt I'd see her in January unless we arranged to.

Ask once. If she agrees then yes. If she is distant or does not reply? Move along.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 18, 2014, 02:12:38 PM

what he said

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 21, 2014, 03:19:00 AM

so one of the three gifts I got my girlfriend is a little writers notebook i bought at an art exhibit last week. we were together and she knows about it BUT i want to use it as a segue into saying DEM WORDS

like, my idea is to write something from the heart on the inside front page. either i'll say it directly in the book or when she reads it i'll say it after or something. i dunno.

not really sure what to write yet but we're exchanging gifts on tuesday afternoon so i have some time.

does that sound lame?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 21, 2014, 08:26:03 AM

I never understood making things into a production but then again every woman I was ever with complained that I am not romantic. So yeah, that would probably be sweet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 21, 2014, 08:30:45 PM

I'm having a particularly hard time getting over the girl from last month, no matter how many dates I've gone on since. I really fucking hate this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on December 21, 2014, 08:36:09 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on December 21, 2014, 08:30:45 PM

I'm having a particularly hard time getting over the girl from last month, no matter how many dates I've gone on since. I really fucking hate this.

There is no cheat code for this. Sorry.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 21, 2014, 08:38:44 PM

I know. It's the worst. I can't go over to her side of town without thinking of her, I can't hang out with certain people anymore without being reminded of her, and I can't stand seeing friends post about her/post pictures of her on social feeds. It's just all a constant bummer and I can't fucking take it.

It's ruining certain aspects of the city for me, and keeping me away from people I'd like to be around.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 22, 2014, 12:23:05 AM

Take a break from dating. You don't want to meet a cool person now who you blow off because of this, and then regret it later.

It takes awhile to get over it, and then you move on to the next one.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 22, 2014, 11:42:38 AM

A pretty cute chick liked me on Ok Cupid yesterday; I found out after randomly liking her. We're only a 67% match though but her profile is definitely in the vein of what I like: not too serious, weirdly funny. Minor religion reference which is better than the hyper religious people that usually like me. Also mentions she is always nude or half clothed when at home.
:hitler

I don't feel like messaging her though, or anyone on OK Cupid. I'll wait a few days and see if she messages me...girls should take the initiative, I'm too shook right now. My dick problems seem to be getting better at least.

edit: she speaks sign language
:rejoice

edit: Would not sleep with someone before marriage :goty

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 22, 2014, 12:18:22 PM

I sent her a wack ass message, we'll see
:snoop

I probably shouldn't have mentioned my lunch break is soon because it might give the impression I want to go out for lunch.
:snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on December 22, 2014, 06:57:35 PM

why doesn't bebpo post in this thread anymore :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 22, 2014, 07:13:14 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on December 22, 2014, 06:57:35 PM

why doesn't bebpo post in this thread anymore :'(

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fq3abPnEEGE

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 22, 2014, 07:16:27 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on December 22, 2014, 06:57:35 PM

why doesn't bebpo post in this thread anymore :'(

Some Ls take nine months to form.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on December 22, 2014, 07:17:30 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 22, 2014, 07:16:27 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on December 22, 2014, 06:57:35 PM
why doesn't bebpo post in this thread anymore :'(

Some Ls take nine months to form.

:goty2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on December 22, 2014, 07:33:21 PM

:obama

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 22, 2014, 07:33:50 PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CiWk8VCGBOY

:heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 23, 2014, 12:22:09 AM

fuck i'm super stressing out right now. tomorrow is gonna be like, a major turning point for things and i'm afraid brehs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on December 23, 2014, 12:53:18 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 23, 2014, 12:22:09 AM

fuck i'm super stressing out right now. tomorrow is gonna be like, a major turning point for things and i'm afraid brehs.

You'll be alright.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 23, 2014, 01:13:50 AM

:anhuld

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 23, 2014, 10:57:15 PM

i chickened out and didn't say it :stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 23, 2014, 11:03:23 PM

I think the casual drop is much better. I told my wife randomly when she said something funny and after laughing I said I love you. She just smiled and said I love you too. Quit putting so much pressure on it. Say it when you feel it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 23, 2014, 11:53:39 PM

probably. we're both terrible at SAYING how we feel.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on December 24, 2014, 09:16:16 AM

Talk with your hands. :uguu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 24, 2014, 09:27:42 AM

making the 'i love you drop' some dramatic important event™ is super corny and something out of a movie. just fuckin say it goddamn.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on January 01, 2015, 03:53:11 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on December 24, 2014, 09:27:42 AM

making the 'i love you drop' some dramatic important event™ is super corny and something out of a movie. just fuckin say it goddamn.

i did it :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on January 01, 2015, 04:59:53 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on December 24, 2014, 09:27:42 AM

making the 'i love you drop' some dramatic important event™ is super corny and something out of a movie. just fuckin say it goddamn.

It could be worse, could be like the episode of Seinfeld where George drops it and he's not sure if the chick heard it. Talk about awkward!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on January 01, 2015, 05:22:21 AM

she def heard and even said it back!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on January 01, 2015, 05:33:45 AM

Your journey has been brilliant and no one else can own that. Isn't that amazing? You should be proud of yourself. Don't let anyone steal it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on January 01, 2015, 05:59:45 AM

going back and reading the first reference I made to her is interesting: http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=36858.msg1924015#msg1924015

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on January 01, 2015, 06:07:51 AM

Yeah your an inspiration. Maybe I can also stop being a pip sqweak nerd and talk to the short nice ass redhead at Starbucks. Though I think she has a bf. Whatever she started this. Chick shouldn't be all smiley and given my free large drinks least I get the wrong messaging. Damnit women

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 01, 2015, 11:46:44 AM

Think about it this way: if she says no thanks you aren't going to die, or be shamed in front of the world, or be laughed at by people, or be jailed, or be slapped, etc. It took me a long time to realize that being turned down isn't the end of the world. In fact it's the easiest rejection to deal with because you don't have many feelings invested: you don't really know her. Whereas the possibility of rejection Fistfull faced with the "I love you" thing was a legit concern.

Just do it. If it doesn't work that's just a weight off your shoulders. You can go about your business, continue to drink there and talk to her without wondering what she thinks .

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on January 01, 2015, 01:30:42 PM

I've said it before and I'll say it again. It's like throwing shit at a wall, something will stick. Just ask ones you're interested in. Someone will eventually say yes. Its a numbers game.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 01, 2015, 03:24:14 PM

Also don't ask her unless you're serious. If you don't want to put effort into going on a date, having conversations, making jokes/laughing etc then don't try yet. Wait until you're ready for that shit. You don't want to rush into things, screw it up, and then feel bad.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h5SNAluOj6U

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on January 05, 2015, 12:14:39 AM

praise the ghosts

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Purple Filth on January 07, 2015, 08:15:49 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 22, 2014, 07:16:27 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on December 22, 2014, 06:57:35 PM
why doesn't bebpo post in this thread anymore :'(

Some Ls take nine months to form.

seriously?

no where to run now :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on January 11, 2015, 02:22:26 PM

How would one go about approaching a super cute barista at the coffee shop I visit every weekend? Or is that pretty much frowned upon :-\

I don't want to outright as for her number, I wanna engage a bit more for the possibility of exchanging numbers. But I don't know how to go about doing that without crossing the creepy line

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on January 11, 2015, 04:06:41 PM

You should probably find out if she's single first. Ask a coworker.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on January 11, 2015, 04:13:02 PM

Luckily my sister is friends with a few of the baristas there so I should be able to find out

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on January 11, 2015, 05:33:37 PM

I said the co worker route because it shows you are interested. The co worker will naturally tell her that you asked about her and it gives her time to loosen up the next time you come in and ask her out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 11, 2015, 05:55:26 PM

I have a friend that likes to play matchmaker when she gets drunk, and it's gotten several people pissed at her. Including me, I was going on about a waitress I have a crush on when we were out one night, and she just walked over to the waitress and asked her if I could call her sometime, and of course the waitress is married. Womp womp womp, awkward times abound.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on January 11, 2015, 06:13:24 PM

if it makes people feel better I am no closer to having a Relationship than ever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on January 11, 2015, 07:23:38 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on January 11, 2015, 04:13:02 PM

Luckily my sister is friends with a few of the baristas there so I should be able to find out

Won't your sister get jealous doe?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on January 11, 2015, 07:27:56 PM

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on January 11, 2015, 06:13:24 PM

if it makes people feel better I am no closer to having a Relationship than ever.

you say this now but you literally never know even when you're trying. It's kinda what this whole life thing is about.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 11, 2015, 08:52:41 PM

I'm the master of sending mixed messages. A friend of mine was sick this weekend and thus unable to hang with me. We were going to watch Netflix at my place on Saturday and today; she planned on bringing her brother (who is mentally handicapped) with her on Saturday, and would come solo today. We're just friends although there is some sexual tension.

Anyway...today I had an itch to make some homemade soup, so I made chicken noodle soup. I made too much so I just figured I'd drop some off at her place...so I called, asked if I could bring her something, then showed up with the soup. She was very grateful, I could tell she was quite touched by the gesture.

Fast forward to this evening. I got a text from a mutual friend (and gossip snitch) saying that my friend told her about the soup, and wants to be more than friends. I "like" her in the sense that we're friends and have a good time together, but I'm not really thinking about girlfriends n shit.

I just wanted to give her some soup yall :brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on January 11, 2015, 09:40:45 PM

Yeah... that's all on you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TVC15 on January 11, 2015, 09:42:41 PM

When you said "I had an itch to make some homemade soup," I totally thought it was going to end up being an innuendo for something.

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Give her your soup. Give her ALL your soup in her mouth

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on January 11, 2015, 09:55:55 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 11, 2015, 08:52:41 PM

I'm the master of sending mixed messages. A friend of mine was sick this weekend and thus unable to hang with me. We were going to watch Netflix at my place on Saturday and today; she planned on bringing her brother (who is mentally handicapped) with her on Saturday, and would come solo today. We're just friends although there is some sexual tension.

Anyway...today I had an itch to make some homemade soup, so I made chicken noodle soup. I made too much so I just figured I'd drop some off at her place...so I called, asked if I could bring her something, then showed up with the soup. She was very grateful, I could tell she was quite touched by the gesture.

Fast forward to this evening. I got a text from a mutual friend (and gossip snitch) saying that my friend told her about the soup, and wants to be more than friends. I "like" her in the sense that we're friends and have a good time together, but I'm not really thinking about girlfriends n shit.

I just wanted to give her some soup yall :brazilcry

(http://i.imgur.com/cBAHCMw.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 11, 2015, 11:11:32 PM

This has happened to me a few times. Doing shit that is misread, and then having to awkwardly back out and look like I'm flip flopping. When I decided to take her the soup I admittedly thought she might think it was something more than what I intended, but I quickly dismissed the thought. We've cooked food together before so she knows is not out or he ordinary for me to make stuff.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on January 11, 2015, 11:59:27 PM

You could have simply asked her if she wanted some soup or told her what you were bringing instead of being so vague and seeming like you were trying to surprise her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TVC15 on January 12, 2015, 12:02:55 AM

Quote from: Beezy on January 11, 2015, 11:59:27 PM

You could have simply asked her if she wanted some soup or told her what you were bringing instead of being so vague and seeming like you were trying to surprise her.

Really. Bringing soup to a sick person without prompting is like something you do for a family member. She probably thinks you'll be asking her to move in soon.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on January 12, 2015, 06:46:03 AM

valentine's day :gddr5

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on January 15, 2015, 08:27:04 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on January 12, 2015, 06:46:03 AM

valentine's day :gddr5

More than a month away from an entirely industry created holiday. Chill.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on January 15, 2015, 09:14:20 AM

it's important to start the "this holiday is corporate bullshit don't you agree we should protest by not doing anything" convo early, so you don't set a bad precedent

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on January 15, 2015, 09:49:37 AM

Just lay her down on a bed of roses.

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All my advice is Bon Jovi based.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 15, 2015, 10:54:20 AM

Chicken Noodle Soup Girl wants to do dinner/Netflix tomorrow night. Usually we just chill, cook dinner, watch stuff, laugh and flirt etc, we'll see if she acts differently in the post-soup world I have created.
:brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on January 15, 2015, 11:00:08 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 11, 2015, 08:52:41 PM

I'm the master of sending mixed messages. A friend of mine was sick this weekend and thus unable to hang with me. We were going to watch Netflix at my place on Saturday and today; she planned on bringing her brother (who is mentally handicapped) with her on Saturday, and would come solo today. We're just friends although there is some sexual tension.

Anyway...today I had an itch to make some homemade soup, so I made chicken noodle soup. I made too much so I just figured I'd drop some off at her place...so I called, asked if I could bring her something, then showed up with the soup. She was very grateful, I could tell she was quite touched by the gesture.

Fast forward to this evening. I got a text from a mutual friend (and gossip snitch) saying that my friend told her about the soup, and wants to be more than friends. I "like" her in the sense that we're friends and have a good time together, but I'm not really thinking about girlfriends n shit.

I just wanted to give her some soup yall :brazilcry

(http://persephonemagazine.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/will-smith-the-fuck.gif)

Get off the wall, PD.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on January 15, 2015, 05:01:02 PM

Chicken noodle soup gurl wanna taste your noodle. Slurp slurp.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on January 18, 2015, 07:33:32 AM

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on January 11, 2015, 06:13:24 PM

if it makes people feel better I am no closer to having a Relationship than ever.

Me either man. And I'm probably itching closer to being a misogynist as well.

I just can't seem to attract the actual women I want. It's crazy, but I'm an actual funny person who dosen't wear his nerdom on his leaves in real life. I know my annoying bore persona would lead you to belive otherwise. Never the less I freeze up around anyone I'm not comfortable with and anyone who I want to actually fuck is an even colder freeze. I simply can't channel my actual personality and it's annoying. Regardless my confidence level is so shitty. Jesus even an awkward turtle may get actual female attention, but fuck no female has ever shown interest in me and it's damn annoying. At this point I give up. This entire thing is too annoying to deal with. Men are so obvious in who they find attractive. Women are so godamn annying.

Yes, I;m a little drunk now. See, I've even gotten over my shitty stereotypical gaf nerddom of "oh I don't like to drink, it's not proper and wholesome". No I love drinkinging and socializng. Yet, women still don't come up to me and I'm a fun drunk. I grew long hair, a cut my hair, I take care of my self. I'm not fat. Like what the fuck do I have to do to get women to notice me? Jesus, I guess I must have to drop everything and bulk up to get attracive women. I mean christ I'm not trying to date models.Just you're average good looking white girl, but I guess I'm not good enugh for that shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: PlayDat on January 18, 2015, 10:03:42 AM

I'm not in much of a position to give dating advice, but I'll say this: You have to keep in mind that women rarely ever take the initiative with this kind of thing. It's the price we pay for slut-shaming those who are even a little bit forward about sex. It's likely you've come across women who were interested, but they expressed it in a way that was too subtle for you to notice. In time you'll get better at reading these cues. Until then you might be better of not letting "Is she interested in me?" be a factor in who you decide to pursue. TL;DR version: Take some damn risks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on January 18, 2015, 10:12:03 AM

And if you're like me Rahx (which I'm assuming you are) asking someone out makes me want to crawl underneath a rock and die. (http://i.imgur.com/fFo9b.png)

So. Best wishes and good luck because that's the only real solution for your problem. :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on January 18, 2015, 11:11:28 AM

Quote from: PlayDat on January 18, 2015, 10:03:42 AM

I'm not in much of a position to give dating advice, but I'll say this: You have to keep in mind that women rarely ever take the initiative with this kind of thing. It's the price we pay for slut-shaming those who are even a little bit forward about sex. It's likely you've come across women who were interested, but they expressed it in a way that was too subtle for you to notice. In time you'll get better at reading these cues. Until then you might be better of not letting "Is she interested in me?" be a factor in who you decide to pursue. TL;DR version: Take some damn risks.

I had a friend who was very good looking and girls had no problem throwing themselves at him. It was kind of surreal to watch. He was a pretty nice guy and had a long term girlfriend (who he eventually married and had kids with). Most dudes, by the law of the bell curve, are average and you're going to have to put in the work to make yourself stand out. Average guys like us are going to have to do more than just exist, so we work out, get a good education, nice job, etc. That is how it is always going to be so moping about it on the internet is a surefire way to chronic masturbation.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on January 18, 2015, 01:09:14 PM

Rahx has no perspective from the sound of it. Seems like he mildly still thinks he's owed something by having certain traits that he thinks are desirable to the opposite sex. Maybe he views himself as the only person out there vying for their attention? Hard to say.

Either way. Start putting yourself in the shoes of the women. Think from their perspective. It's not easy but when you start seeing it from their point of view, dating becomes easier. Not EASY, mind you, just easier.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 18, 2015, 01:15:30 PM

Didn't smash brehs but I had a good time. Wasn't awkward; I had expected her to give me "the talk" about how we should be dating but nah, she didn't press it.

Anybody else like cuddling and watching Netflix? That shit is just peaceful.

Rahx: How many non-family women do you talk to in person on a weekly basis? Classmates, coworkers, friends, etc.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on January 18, 2015, 01:22:26 PM

Quote

Anybody else like cuddling and watching Netflix? That shit is just peaceful.

:heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: G The Resurrected on January 18, 2015, 01:25:38 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 18, 2015, 01:15:30 PM

Anybody else like cuddling and watching Netflix? That shit is just peaceful.

It's a staple in my life. Especially on those nice cold nights, you can make up some cocoa/tea/coffee and relax into one another. :mynicca

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But usually we just watch how its made and sometimes porn together.

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Glad you had a good time, it's healthy to have a good foundation to any relationship. Build it up and who knows what might flourish.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on January 18, 2015, 01:27:14 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on January 18, 2015, 01:22:26 PM

Quote
Anybody else like cuddling and watching Netflix? That shit is just peaceful.

:heh

it's a staple of most solid relationships.

just sayin'

:yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on January 18, 2015, 01:31:49 PM

I know, I enjoy it too. You just have a way with words, my friend :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: G The Resurrected on January 18, 2015, 01:42:59 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on January 18, 2015, 01:27:14 PM

it's a staple of most solid relationships.

just sayin'

:yeshrug

This is PD were talking about here remember.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 18, 2015, 01:44:04 PM

I won't wait for Rahx's answer. IMO dudes with the most social problems around women have little to no meaningful experience having social interaction with women. If you were a "nerd" as a kid you probably didn't talk to many girls. Those people tend to grow up and go to college and breeze through without having any genuine interaction with chicks. Then they're grown and have a job where they have to interact with a variety of people and still struggle at it. I run into those types all the time, and of course it wasn't too long ago that I had no meaningful interaction with women.

When I was homeschooled I had plenty of social interaction with kids in my neighborhood, but no girls. I played basketball outside, played Brood War, went house to house challenging people at Pokemon, etc...but during none of this social shit did I deal with girls. I was awkward around them.

Then I went to a highschool in 10th grade. I remember it like it was yesterday: a group of us were doing an orientation event when I heard a girl say "hey, you. Yeah you." She introduced herself to me and eventually became my best friend. I was socially awkward around girls but she pulled me out of my shell over the years, (jokingly) made fun of me, teased me, etc. And then I broke her heart later but whatever: the point is that once I had a female friend, who (at the time) I had no sexual thoughts of, I found it easier to converse with other women. It was no longer a foreign concept. I could walk up to a chick and ask if she knew when the homework was due, or properly converse during a group project.

Talk to women. I don't mean start asinine small time about the weather...just talk. If you have a female coworker and need to discuss work shit with her...do it. Be polite, don't try to be funny - be yourself. If you hear some people talking about a subject you're interested in, don't be afraid to join, even if a chick is there too.

Once you're not constantly over-analyzing things you'll be able to naturally talk to people in general. Talk to guys to. You want to continually build your social skills.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on January 18, 2015, 02:42:33 PM

bububu they owe me

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on January 18, 2015, 03:58:40 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 18, 2015, 01:44:04 PM

Talk to women. I don't mean start asinine small time about the weather...just talk. If you have a female coworker and need to discuss work shit with her...do it. Be polite, don't try to be funny - be yourself. If you hear some people talking about a subject you're interested in, don't be afraid to join, even if a chick is there too.

Once you're not constantly over-analyzing things you'll be able to naturally talk to people in general. Talk to guys to. You want to continually build your social skills.

PD is making sense here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on January 18, 2015, 11:50:31 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 18, 2015, 01:15:30 PM

Rahx: How many non-family women do you talk to in person on a weekly basis? Classmates, coworkers, friends, etc.

About 20 I'd say. It certainly has nothing to being awkward or owed anything as a few of you are implying.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on January 19, 2015, 01:18:42 AM

edit: stupid late night post

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on January 19, 2015, 01:37:33 AM

don't be shy, bruh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on January 19, 2015, 01:39:43 AM

Ah, it's nothing really.

I just found it odd that my most recent pic I posted of myself here is getting me more likes than usual on OKC.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on January 19, 2015, 06:31:09 PM

Quote from: Death Ghidorah on January 19, 2015, 11:50:29 AM

The amount of attractive women who just walked into this coffee place :o :lawd

Being a spineless piece of shit who'll just head out in 5 minutes and do nothing :fbm

If they came in one at a time, unaccompanied, yeah, you’re horribad. If they came in pairs or larger sets, you’re just exercising common sense: dudes trying to break into “girl time” are shut down faster than a VHS porno when your parents come home early.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on January 19, 2015, 09:49:53 PM

I'm talking to this chick on OKC at the moment. She's got some meat on her bones, which is perfectly FINE as long as her body mass is distributed evenly, but unfortunately, her boobs aren't the corresponding size for a woman of her heft.

Seriously, how can you be a fat chick with not much boobage? Should be scientifically impossible.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on January 19, 2015, 11:27:47 PM

Ask Lena Dunham.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: FatalT on January 20, 2015, 05:30:04 PM

My current relationship (a year and about 5 months now) has caused me to neglect The Bore. Mostly because I'm not really around my desktop anymore and I have to browse the internet from my phone. The Bore doesn't look very good on mobile...and I'm too lazy to reinstall Tapatalk.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on January 20, 2015, 05:53:37 PM

Quote from: FatalT on January 20, 2015, 05:30:04 PM

My current relationship (a year and about 5 months now) has caused me to neglect The Bore. Mostly because I'm not really around my desktop anymore and I have to browse the internet from my phone. The Bore doesn't look very good on mobile...and I'm too lazy to reinstall Tapatalk.

Struggle Thread is :thataway.gif

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on January 20, 2015, 07:02:49 PM

I broke up with my girlfriend last week, which is why I've been posting here a lot more lately. She became way too possessive and I don't play that shit. The way I see it is that trust and respect are the cornerstones of a relationship and if either one of them are now in question, I'll usually talk to her about it. I understand some people will push the limits on things and in some respects, that is a good thing but not all things obviously. So I had a conversation with her about it and she got angry and defensive. So to hell with that shit, I ended it before it got too crazy. I am taking a trip to Germany (no TDM) in May and if things were going fine, I would have bought her a ticket. So on the upside, I don't have to worry about that now.

As a result, I reluctantly decided to try online dating. I put up my profile on Sunday and got a few likes and a couple of messages from girls. One was "Hi" and one was "How are you doing". I'm not sure if that means good things or if that is just the standard. One girl looks okay and doesn't appear to have a job (so pass) and one looks pretty cute but looks pretty stacked, which as you all know, I love. So I'm going to play this casually and see what happens. Probably nothing but fuck it, why not. I haven't sent any messages to any girls yet but this weekend, I might look into it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 20, 2015, 07:32:26 PM

Normally I'd say "sorry to hear that" but it sounds like you dodged a bullet. Good man. What was she jealous of? I have friends with possessive gfs and they tend to get most upset about work relationships and "chilling with the homies" situations. I remember one time my friend's gf showed up at Buffalo Wild Wings just to watch him.
:beli

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on January 20, 2015, 07:38:09 PM

Yeah, bullet: dodged.

That possessiveness is a symptom of a bunch of other problems, so good going.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: naff on January 20, 2015, 08:17:40 PM

I left my cat outside for 2 nights, now all he wants to do is snuggle me. He won't leave me alone when he's in the house, before this he was chill and very aloof emotionally but it's like my neglect got him shook, now he comes in at a reasonable hour instead of meowing at some ungodly hour and waking me up then slinking off. Tough love and tactical neglect. Works a charm.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on January 20, 2015, 09:45:18 PM

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on January 20, 2015, 10:32:49 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 20, 2015, 07:32:26 PM

Normally I'd say "sorry to hear that" but it sounds like you dodged a bullet. Good man. What was she jealous of? I have friends with possessive gfs and they tend to get most upset about work relationships and "chilling with the homies" situations. I remember one time my friend's gf showed up at Buffalo Wild Wings just to watch him.
:beli

It was a friendship with a girl I have had classes with. We worked our asses off on a big project (myself, herself, and four other people) so we've become good friends since. My now ex and I came across her and her husband the weekend before last and had a friendly chat, introduced our significant others, and all that. Apparently she got really pissed that I was friends with this girl and kept bringing it up throughout the week until I had a chat with her. I'm too busy to really screw around and the girl in question happened to be married as we just met her fucking husband. My now ex just wanted to be the only woman in my life (friendly or otherwise) and that ain't gonna happen. So I stopped the relationship then and there. Part of me wonders if the long con was marriage: isolate me from other women and then try to make it seem like I absolutely had to have her in my life and I need to marry her before she goes away.

There were other little things too but that was the big one. Like I said, not a big deal. It had been just for a few months; I might have been feeling it more if it was something that was longer term.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 20, 2015, 10:43:23 PM

What the fuck? She met the husband and was still upset? You did the right thing. Throw her in the bushes.
:mindblown

is the friend more attractive than your ex?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on January 20, 2015, 11:06:14 PM

Yeah, the friend is pretty good looking but so is my ex.

I've seen that type of behavior before. The thing is, it never stops there which is why I had to end it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on January 20, 2015, 11:45:37 PM

I have a buddy that was dating this woman for like 3-4 months, and she was insanely jealous. Like, refused to believe that a man could have a friendship with a woman without actively trying to sleep with her kind of jealous. Not just *thinking* about it, mind you, but actively pursuing it. She refused to believe that his woman friends of multiple years weren't trying to fuck him, or vice versa.

(http://38.media.tumblr.com/6b3131b40330d187e995a8774821f9b6/tumblr_mhpuzwAIYs1s559c9o1_500.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on January 21, 2015, 02:40:51 AM

Most likely she’s the type who feels that way about men, and has felt compelled to cheat, no?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on January 21, 2015, 09:50:15 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on January 18, 2015, 01:09:14 PM

Either way. Start putting yourself in the shoes of the women. Think from their perspective. It's not easy but when you start seeing it from their point of view, dating becomes easier. Not EASY, mind you, just easier.

Don't ever do this. You'll get confused.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 21, 2015, 10:09:09 AM

Nah Fistfull is right.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on January 21, 2015, 10:09:55 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on January 21, 2015, 10:09:09 AM

Nah Fistfull is right.

So the unmarried guys are the ones who should tell a guy how to find a woman.

Hmmm.....tell me more

:ohhh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on January 21, 2015, 10:29:49 AM

Yes, because marriage is al about finding new women regularly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on January 21, 2015, 10:32:20 AM

Quote from: Reb on January 21, 2015, 10:29:49 AM

Yes, because marriage is al about finding new women regularly.

And being single means dealing with rejection. 1/1

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on January 21, 2015, 06:33:01 PM

My advice is what worked for me so that's what I tend to recommend for others.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on January 21, 2015, 07:56:18 PM

I don't even know what Fistfuls advice means.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on January 21, 2015, 08:03:22 PM

To understand women you must become... a woman.

(http://i.imgur.com/v5D7kXX.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on January 21, 2015, 08:04:25 PM

wtf is AiA even trying to prove here

I swear dude, you go into every single thread and try and "win" shit by saying "oh but have YOUUUUUU done X?" "Oh, but have you ever actually BEEN to X???"

It's an exhausting and worthless way to try and prove that you're smarter than everyone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on January 21, 2015, 08:16:47 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on January 21, 2015, 07:56:18 PM

I don't even know what Fistfuls advice means.

You go into dating understanding what the other side has to deal with and adjust your approach accordingly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on January 22, 2015, 08:19:33 PM

Well I'm trying to figure out what that entails.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on January 22, 2015, 09:12:04 PM

Think about how much effort you put into doing everything exactly right. What you say, what you do, what you wear, etc. All that to be the most perfect unique suitor.

Now imagine being the other side. Imagine having literally every guy throw themselves at you with every clever line they can think of. Sometimes it's a nice compliment, other times it's just mildly misogynistic. Most of the time they aren't going to be your type. You can't say yes to every guy. So 95% of the time you're turning them down. And unfortunately you don't know how that will turn out. Will they take it like a regular person? Blow up in anger?

When you begin to understand what kind of stuff women deal with on a constant basis, it helps you empathize their situation.

And for me, it made dating easier.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on January 22, 2015, 11:05:06 PM

Do you still have your Natalie Portman collection?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on January 23, 2015, 01:26:07 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on January 22, 2015, 08:19:33 PM

Well I'm trying to figure out what that entails.

I've only had limited (and unlucky) experience with asking girls out in real life but it's easier to deal with as long as you go in with the attitude of being happy that you're not worrying and being a pussy anymore about what somebody thinks of you. I think as fistful said, it gives them the impression that you're not going to be weird and too upset about it.

And yeah, there is a chance they'll say yes and a chance that they'll say no but probably a high chance that they already have a bf. I mean if you're like me, then if you get the answer you don't want you'll probably go home and get drunk and then later on hopefully you're happier than you were before asking since you've realized it was stupid to have whatever insecurities that made you hesitate. I'm still working on really getting to the last part but I think it's a matter of faith and I'm an infidel so I'm not too familiar.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on January 23, 2015, 08:52:22 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on January 21, 2015, 08:04:25 PM

wtf is AiA even trying to prove here

I swear dude, you go into every single thread and try and "win" shit by saying "oh but have YOUUUUUU done X?" "Oh, but have you ever actually BEEN to X???"

It's an exhausting and worthless way to try and prove that you're smarter than everyone.

.

(http://www.thecoli.com/media/sad-mjcry-troll.3250/full?d=1418886914)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: dkdk on January 25, 2015, 02:46:39 AM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on January 22, 2015, 09:12:04 PM

Think about how much effort you put into doing everything exactly right. What you say, what you do, what you wear, etc. All that to be the most perfect unique suitor.

Now imagine being the other side. Imagine having literally every guy throw themselves at you with every clever line they can think of. Sometimes it's a nice compliment, other times it's just mildly misogynistic. Most of the time they aren't going to be your type. You can't say yes to every guy. So 95% of the time you're turning them down. And unfortunately you don't know how that will turn out. Will they take it like a regular person? Blow up in anger?

When you begin to understand what kind of stuff women deal with on a constant basis, it helps you empathize their situation.

And for me, it made dating easier.

i guess looking at it like this would make it easier to not hate women. but i have been told that i lack empathy.

i dont see how thinking about it like that could make dating easier for yourself tho.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on January 25, 2015, 05:55:13 AM

Quote from: dkdk on January 25, 2015, 02:46:39 AM

i dont see how thinking about it like that could make dating easier for yourself tho.

If anything, it will tamper your expectations.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on January 26, 2015, 02:54:34 AM

I want to get her some kind of jewelry for v-day. but i know fuck-all about jewelry. anyone have a suggestion?

edit: keep in mind i already have another gift for her lined up that i think is *better* than just some jewelry but i think it would be a good thing to round it off with.

edit2: it's super annoying because one of her longest best friends got her a hobbit door locket necklace recently that I'm currently running into a lot in my search and would totally be something i'd get her so now I feel like I have to avoid something like that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on January 26, 2015, 03:06:52 AM

I think I may really like this:

https://www.etsy.com/listing/120618199/silver-love-note-and-blue-bird-necklace?ref=br_feed_6&br_feed_tlp=valentines-day

edit: Decided to go with this. It's simple, gets the point across. I think it's pretty good for the first v-day in an early relationship. Figured going with my gut was better than sitting around for days worrying.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on January 26, 2015, 03:34:29 AM

Quote from: The Walrus on January 18, 2015, 01:05:35 PM

Rahx, you should try dating black girls.

I don't actually understand the thinking behind this.

Though honestly, I don't have a strong interest in black women. Though I find they have an interest in me..

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on January 26, 2015, 04:08:47 AM

Yeah probably, what you find attractive is probably informed by what your surrounded by. I've never found black women attractive and it seems to be a thing even among my black friends. They all find white, Mexican, and Asian women more attractive. I hate to say "I have many black friends", but actually I only have black friends. So it's not a conscious raciest thing.

And like a lot of minorities I want a white woman.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on January 26, 2015, 06:04:58 AM

Securing majority prestige, breh. :win We're only animals.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 26, 2015, 07:53:44 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on January 26, 2015, 04:08:47 AM

Yeah probably, what you find attractive is probably informed by what your surrounded by. I've never found black women attractive and it seems to be a thing even among my black friends. They all find white, Mexican, and Asian women more attractive. I hate to say "I have many black friends", but actually I only have black friends. So it's not a conscious raciest thing.

And like a lot of minorities I want a white woman.

:kobeyuck

you one of those mixed people who dislikes black people huh :pacspit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on January 26, 2015, 09:55:21 PM

This is a complicated issue. Too complicated for this thread.

But no I don't dislike black people. I have maybe one white friend, with the rest of my friend group being nothing but blacks and a Filipino. Quite honestly, I mostly associate with black people. I didn't even say I don't find black women attractive. I just don't have a strong preference.

I mean no one in my family identifies as black. No one in my family identifies with anything actually. My mother and my father are also mixed and so were there parents. I grew up in a white neighborhood. Had mostly "white" friends until high school. Was considered "white" by most blacks, because I liked "white" things. I can't really help the way things turned out. It's not my fault I have privilege to float between groups, but the flipside is both groups are the first to point out that you aren't one of them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on January 26, 2015, 09:56:49 PM

Quote from: /r/neofeg on January 26, 2015, 07:44:46 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on January 26, 2015, 04:08:47 AM
I've never found black women attractive

perfectly natural and/or reasonable

to prefer women from your own race

Your closet hate mongering sucks. A lot.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on January 27, 2015, 01:43:52 AM

Um

(http://i.imgur.com/uZ2HGiX.jpg)

Ok?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on January 27, 2015, 01:50:24 AM

Yeah, but I left my Okcupid open from when I trolled around trying to guage interest from like six months back so I'm posting this here in case people don't know okcupid gives you results based on attractiveness, which is something I didn't know. Given this is the relationship thread, and people here use OKC I thought it'd be helpful. Plus, it's really extra. Even for a dating site.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on January 27, 2015, 02:02:28 AM

afaik it's all bullshit. got it too when i first created my account and i had only been on for like a week or two.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: El Babua on January 27, 2015, 02:08:57 AM

Got that like the day I signed up way back when :smug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on January 27, 2015, 02:54:42 AM

Oh. No wonder. I forgot I updated my profile pic when I wanted to see if it was possible to meet new (non-romantic, purely platonic) people on OKC before I realized that was a bad idea.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on January 27, 2015, 10:20:29 AM

Quote from: The Walrus on January 27, 2015, 10:12:28 AM

Rahx, all I'm saying is that going for white women hasn't worked out for you so far, so it might be time to look at other options.

I respect your opinion but I'm going to say the opposite. Don't let a few setbacks control your destiny man. You like what you like and you can't change that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on January 28, 2015, 06:41:26 AM

Yeah, true, but sometimes what one likes can be the result of an unhealthy pathology.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on January 28, 2015, 08:28:28 AM

Quote from: chronovore on January 28, 2015, 06:41:26 AM

Yeah, true, but sometimes what one likes can be the result of an unhealthy pathology.

The converse holds true too. Abandoning the things you are interested in is unhealthy. Let's say he meets a cool black girl and marries her...he's always going to think about white girls. He needs to date a few, realize that are batshit insane, then he won't be tempted to stray later in life.

Trust me....hitting your mid-life crisis is a bitch.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on January 28, 2015, 08:15:25 PM

Quote from: /r/neofeg on January 28, 2015, 07:09:24 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on January 28, 2015, 08:28:28 AM
realize that are batshit insane

they'd have to be insane to date outside their race :lol

which is why most of the ones who do already likely have severe daddy issues and are faaaaaaaaaaaaat

And yet I just know you are single with both an inferiority complex towards women with power and black guys with a bigger dick than yours. You can pretend the rest of this site believes you have something to offer to life other than a butthurt directed at a video game site but be damn sure I don't, B-Team.

You're the guy everybody invites to a party to laugh at to break the initial awkward social cycle....congrats.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on January 28, 2015, 11:15:02 PM

White girls are flabby and sick anyway, sometimes literally. Latinas are the new hotness.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on January 29, 2015, 01:53:00 AM

pale white girls :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on February 01, 2015, 04:42:50 PM

:goty2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on February 02, 2015, 09:26:58 PM

I'm going full on cliche for v-day. I feel so lame, lmao.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on February 05, 2015, 10:13:39 PM

I broke up with my boyfriend today. I'm surprisingly calm about it. I'm utterly heartbroken, but I feel like it needed to be done before anyone got truly hurt. It helps that I'm grunt to be more positive, even if it's forced positivity.

The other day, We were talking about moving together to California. I said that after I get settled, I fully plan on saving for sexual reassignment surgery. This is the first time I've mentioned srs to him, and he recoiled. Like he was disgusted at the thought, and then he asked,"why would you want to do that? That's unnatural and you are attractive the way you are." Which is code word for "I like your cock". Gross. I haven't been able to see him differently since that conversation and I'm angry at myself for falling for a guy who would eventually be unsupportive because he likes dick.

A few days after the convo, he actually asked if he could go down on me. No. Never. I said at the beginning of the relationship that no one touches it, I'm not going to fuck anyone - especially a guy. He was supportive then, so why not now? I feel lied to and used. It's like he faked being okay with it the whole time so he could build himself to that one moment and see how much he likes cock versus a woman's body. All while under the guise of being straight I don't like dick no homo.

How utterly ficking contemptible. I spent the better part of this week crying my eyes out and eating ice cream out of the bucket, but it needed to be done and I don't regret it. I'm all for the modern sex revolution and dudes getting pegged by their GF's/wives or whatever, but don't expect me to do it. Fuck that. I'm not your experiment, asshole. God, I wish I liked chicks nearly as much as dudes.

Re: dating white people. I have dated only one white person it just felt so alienating. More than that, I really do not find white men attractive. It takes a certain something that makes me attracted to them. There's always exceptions, but most of the guys society tells me are hot, generally aren't. :yeshrug Looks like I'm racist! Honestly, the "most minorities desire white people" thing is odd to me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 05, 2015, 11:04:09 PM

sorry to hear that naomi
:fbm

but I'm glad that you stood up for yourself and your views.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u09s0uz0tEU

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on February 05, 2015, 11:05:55 PM

sorry to hear it didn't work out. get yourself to cali and find someone else. it'll happen.

RE: my thing

tonight we had a conversation about her moving to NYC. Her new job starts March 2nd, so we have less than 3 weeks before she's gone. Going in, my gut reaction is to move in together. She started and told me what she thinks.

She wants me there with her. She just doesn't feel she's ready to live with someone she's involved with. Throughout this entire relationship we've been working through the wall she's put up over countless years. We've acknowledged that I feel further along than she does. I do believe she loves me, but the way she shows it isn't as obvious as I do.

We discussed our points of view and explained how we felt about each scenario, felt about each other, where we are in the relationship, etc. It was a good talk. We've been pretty good at being honest with each other.

Ultimately we came down to this: She's leaving in March and I'm staying here. In March I'll take a week off and spend it down in NYC with her. We'll see where we're at and if things look OK, I'll see about moving to the city in April. Very likely we'll live separately and then we'll go from there.

It's all still very tough for me but we're going to try and that's the best we can do, really.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on February 06, 2015, 04:24:30 AM

I'm still processing it. It's the first break up that ever emotionally destroyed me. Right now I'm just trying to pretend it didn't happen, but I cant. I had powerful feelings for him and I feel betrayed. I'm saddened that he disgusts me now, and I can't believe it ended like this. It's 3am and I can't sleep. I miss him already and yet I can't deal with the stuff he said. I'm kind of regretting it but it felt like it needed to be done.

As for the move, I wish you all the luck in the world. NYC is tough. What neighborhoods are you guys looking at?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on February 06, 2015, 04:43:02 AM

Try not to see him a bad guy. Feelings change and it doesn't sound like he was necessarily trying to be a bad guy but you guys just hit a snag that was not resolvable. Even if he something wrong, holding all that angst against them isn't gonna help anything.

As for the move, it's too early for me to be looking at places. She just started and she's probably going to find a roommate like she did when she lived there before. I'll likely go down that route as well. But I won't worry about that until next month.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on February 06, 2015, 10:00:15 AM

Sorry, H. If you can, try to take it easy the next few days.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on February 06, 2015, 11:30:21 AM

That seems to be a common problem for trans people with dating. A lot of people just want to try something new but it sounds like he genuinely cared about you and really was in limbo with figuring out his own sexuality. My guess is that he was looking for a relationship, not an experiment, but he wasn't ready yet to find what he wants. There isn't any simple advice here other than what kak said about taking some time off.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on February 06, 2015, 11:33:21 AM

I got roped into a fucking couples weekend on Valentines weekend. Not super excited about going to a cabin in the woods in the winter with my wife and her friends but whatever. Happy Wife Happy Life.

Black folks camping brehs....in the winter brehs....

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Himu on February 06, 2015, 12:30:06 PM

At least you have a cabin. I think that's be nice. Imagine the cuddly night against a warm fire. It sounds fun.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on February 06, 2015, 12:38:36 PM

lmaoooooo have fun eating warmed up canned food and going hiking in nine degree weather dude

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on February 06, 2015, 12:44:42 PM

If you were white, you'd be doing mushrooms. That's what cabin trips are for.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on February 06, 2015, 01:22:37 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on February 06, 2015, 12:44:42 PM

If you were white, you'd be doing mushrooms. That's what cabin trips are for.

(http://www.cigarettesflavours.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/Admitted-to-Smoking-Marijuana.jpg)

+

(http://www.bacardilimited.com/Content/uploads/brand/bombay/bombay_glass.jpg)

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(http://24.media.tumblr.com/26535f92593e7b5db218fcc5a49dd6ff/tumblr_n1a43wf4VN1r3cqoco1_250.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on February 06, 2015, 02:37:54 PM

Moving in together at the end of my lease :gddr5

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: El Babua on February 06, 2015, 03:49:46 PM

Sucks Himu. Sorry to hear.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on February 06, 2015, 10:52:56 PM

Damn himu... I'm sorry to hear sis. It sounded so promising and that he really supported you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on February 07, 2015, 11:09:39 AM

Shit... gotta get a V-day gift. I have no idea what to get this year. Did the 'flowers at work' last year.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cheddahz on February 07, 2015, 11:37:00 AM

Pretty much was talking to someone for a while and she had to go to training for a month (she's in the military), so I was offered by her family to go up with them to see her graduate and yeah, I pretty much just got shot down whenever we had a chance to talk about it (even though things were looking differently a month or so ago)

I just feel like I wasted my time to go see her and I've felt like shit this week, but I'm not going to dwell on it

edit: I think more or less, I just feel hurt by the fact she told me she liked me and then shot me down whenever I made the effort to come see her (five hour drive there and back) and the fact she was the first chick I've actually liked since my ex cheated on me a year or so ago

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on February 08, 2015, 06:26:24 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on February 06, 2015, 02:37:54 PM

Moving in together at the end of my lease :gddr5

Congrats, man! For some reason I assumed you were already living together.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: E-DuB on February 08, 2015, 10:46:10 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on February 06, 2015, 11:33:21 AM

I got roped into a fucking couples weekend on Valentines weekend. Not super excited about going to a cabin in the woods in the winter with my wife and her friends but whatever. Happy Wife Happy Life.

Black folks camping brehs....in the winter brehs....

Sounds like what I've got going on next weekend. The GF and I are only going up to the cottage for 24 hours but you damn sure I'm going up there with a case of beer and a bottle of scotch.

My goal is to fight a bear. Human or otherwise.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on February 09, 2015, 12:14:11 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on February 08, 2015, 06:26:24 PM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on February 06, 2015, 02:37:54 PM
Moving in together at the end of my lease :gddr5

Congrats, man! For some reason I assumed you were already living together.

Pretty much are though the logistics of having two places to live with three pets takes its toll.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on February 14, 2015, 04:47:22 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/iHS0a7k.jpg?1)

edit: That reminds me. I need to start painting again.

Shit's relaxing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on February 15, 2015, 03:12:57 AM

Every day is that picture for me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on February 16, 2015, 10:46:03 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on February 15, 2015, 03:12:57 AM

Every day is that picture for me.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hW5lZmxNHes

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on February 19, 2015, 12:29:10 AM

Quote from: Barry Egan on February 16, 2015, 10:46:03 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on February 15, 2015, 03:12:57 AM
Every day is that picture for me.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hW5lZmxNHes

This is the only Lincoln Park song I've ever heard.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G19x0dWLhFM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on February 21, 2015, 01:32:27 AM

Well I mean the problem is confidence. Not even necessarily social skills. I have no problem talking and joking like a normal non-special fellow person to anyone even women. It's just women I want to actively have anything more then say friendship with that I don't know how to talk to. Which is pretty funny because the supposed "player" at work claims that I talk to everyone as if they are my friends and that puts me in that thing.....the friend zone. Not that I actually believe that or even understand it.

But I mean I don't know how you get confidence with women if you've never had a reason to actually believe that you should.

Then again, maybe I'm just too picky, but I never understand that point when people throw it at you. You should at least be psychically and mentally attracted to the person you want to date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on February 21, 2015, 02:11:55 AM

You just gotta start taking more risks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on February 21, 2015, 02:59:01 AM

No Plato, but until you date you don't know what you're physically and mentally attracted to.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on February 23, 2015, 10:27:02 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on February 21, 2015, 01:32:27 AM

Well I mean the problem is confidence. Not even necessarily social skills. I have no problem talking and joking like a normal non-special fellow person to anyone even women.

That's the catch-22 of dating. You can't get the girl you want until you gain the skills needed to do so. How do you get those skills? Dating people that you might not (or barely) be interested in.

Also, DG makes a good point, what you want (or value) will change as you gain more experiences. You'll transition from very superficial things to deeper things that you haven't even considered yet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on February 23, 2015, 01:29:05 PM

Quote from: Atramental on February 14, 2015, 04:47:22 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/iHS0a7k.jpg?1)

edit: That reminds me. I need to start painting again.

Shit's relaxing.

I could only be so lucky to have that kind of free time to drink 6 beers without somebody calling/needing something/etc. I know single seems tough man but there are some perks you will miss when you find somebody. Trust me. Keep your chin up bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 23, 2015, 01:32:47 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on February 21, 2015, 01:32:27 AM

Well I mean the problem is confidence. Not even necessarily social skills. I have no problem talking and joking like a normal non-special fellow person to anyone even women. It's just women I want to actively have anything more then say friendship with that I don't know how to talk to. Which is pretty funny because the supposed "player" at work claims that I talk to everyone as if they are my friends and that puts me in that thing.....the friend zone. Not that I actually believe that or even understand it.

But I mean I don't know how you get confidence with women if you've never had a reason to actually believe that you should.

Then again, maybe I'm just too picky, but I never understand that point when people throw it at you. You should at least be psychically and mentally attracted to the person you want to date.

Why not try to get involved with a woman you're able to casually talk to? Not to be your gf but surely you can try to bang one of these chicks. Just to see if you can.

You have to take risks, but if you have to level up your XP first...just see how things go with chicks you aren't necessarily interested in.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on February 23, 2015, 01:34:59 PM

Eh. I just don't get this stuff.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on February 23, 2015, 01:35:08 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on February 23, 2015, 01:32:47 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on February 21, 2015, 01:32:27 AM
Well I mean the problem is confidence. Not even necessarily social skills. I have no problem talking and joking like a normal non-special fellow person to anyone even women. It's just women I want to actively have anything more then say friendship with that I don't know how to talk to. Which is pretty funny because the supposed "player" at work claims that I talk to everyone as if they are my friends and that puts me in that thing.....the friend zone. Not that I actually believe that or even understand it.

But I mean I don't know how you get confidence with women if you've never had a reason to actually believe that you should.

Then again, maybe I'm just too picky, but I never understand that point when people throw it at you. You should at least be psychically and mentally attracted to the person you want to date.

Why not try to get involved with a woman you're able to casually talk to? Not to be your gf but surely you can try to bang one of these chicks. Just to see if you can.

You have to take risks, but if you have to level up your XP first...just see how things go with chicks you aren't necessarily interested in.

This is some seriously solid advice.

To achieve you can't be afraid to fail. And you will fail, anyone who says they never get told no is a straight up liar. Take it in stride man.

I know this is going to sound bad but you should find a solid 5 or 6 type girl who will appreciate your attention to get accustomed to handling their reactions to things.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on February 23, 2015, 01:36:08 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on February 23, 2015, 01:29:05 PM

Quote from: Atramental on February 14, 2015, 04:47:22 PM
(http://i.imgur.com/iHS0a7k.jpg?1)

edit: That reminds me. I need to start painting again.

Shit's relaxing.

I could only be so lucky to have that kind of free time to drink 6 beers without somebody calling/needing something/etc. I know single seems tough man but there are some perks you will miss when you find somebody. Trust me. Keep your chin up bro.

Lol I remember free time

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on February 23, 2015, 01:38:20 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on February 23, 2015, 01:36:08 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on February 23, 2015, 01:29:05 PM
Quote from: Atramental on February 14, 2015, 04:47:22 PM
(http://i.imgur.com/iHS0a7k.jpg?1)

edit: That reminds me. I need to start painting again.

Shit's relaxing.

I could only be so lucky to have that kind of free time to drink 6 beers without somebody calling/needing something/etc. I know single seems tough man but there are some perks you will miss when you find somebody. Trust me. Keep your chin up bro.

Lol I remember free time

Don't get me wrong, I love my wife and my children. They are everything to me, period. However a brother could use like an entire sunday off to fuck around and Cliff Huxtable around the house eating sandwiches.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 23, 2015, 01:40:05 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on February 23, 2015, 01:38:20 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on February 23, 2015, 01:36:08 PM
Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on February 23, 2015, 01:29:05 PM
Quote from: Atramental on February 14, 2015, 04:47:22 PM
(http://i.imgur.com/iHS0a7k.jpg?1)

edit: That reminds me. I need to start painting again.

Shit's relaxing.

I could only be so lucky to have that kind of free time to drink 6 beers without somebody calling/needing something/etc. I know single seems tough man but there are some perks you will miss when you find somebody. Trust me. Keep your chin up bro.

Lol I remember free time

Don't get me wrong, I love my wife and my children. They are everything to me, period. However a brother could use like an entire sunday off to fuck around and Cliff Huxtable around the house eating sandwiches.

:drudge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on February 23, 2015, 01:41:06 PM

Hey man, Cliff Huxtable was my other uncle growing up, I got no beef with him.

The guy who played him though, :ufup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on February 23, 2015, 02:30:59 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on February 23, 2015, 01:34:59 PM

Eh. I just don't get this stuff.

Did Ayato Kamina undo the dimensional tear right away, or did he have to become one with his mecha first?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on February 23, 2015, 06:14:02 PM

My advice is to set aside the posts from people with more adaptive brain chemistry and seek out a psychiatrist who values practical results over rigid diagnostics. Then go through a couple years of trial and error while you figure out the cocktail of medications that allows you to feel at least a quantum of self-empathy. At that point you can start taking advice from real humans again. Believing that a series of practical steps is all that separates you from the people living an integrated life is just going to feed in to your self-loathing. In all likelihood your issues are deeper than that ...and that's the good news!

...But I have an eccentric view on these things so :shrug.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on February 23, 2015, 06:27:43 PM

Quote from: Vularai on February 23, 2015, 02:30:59 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on February 23, 2015, 01:34:59 PM
Eh. I just don't get this stuff.

Did Ayato Kamina undo the dimensional tear right away, or did he have to become one with his mecha first?

:dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: dkdk on February 23, 2015, 06:54:26 PM

Quote from: Esch on February 23, 2015, 01:47:29 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on February 21, 2015, 01:32:27 AM
Then again, maybe I'm just too picky, but I never understand that point when people throw it at you. You should at least be psychically and mentally attracted to the person you want to date.

You can't be picky AND lack confidence, that's a bad combination. You can't really afford to have things like strict racial preferences (btw have some self respect, as a man of color saying you exclusively want a white girl is :kobeyuck ).

You just gotta put yourself out there with women, and not just in a dating sense. Make conversation, make friends. Sometimes the people you don't think are attractive on first sight can end up being the people you want the most. And you have to be able to take an L from rejection and get up from it again.

let that man pawg in peace. his conditioning is conditioned.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on February 23, 2015, 07:21:53 PM

Quote from: Vularai on February 23, 2015, 02:30:59 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on February 23, 2015, 01:34:59 PM
Eh. I just don't get this stuff.

Did Ayato Kamina undo the dimensional tear right away, or did he have to become one with his mecha first?

I love this board so much

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on February 28, 2015, 12:07:20 AM

girlfriend is leaving for NYC early tomorrow morning. at work currently after leaving her place. not going to see her again until i visit at the end of march.

feeling quite shit right now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on March 08, 2015, 01:03:17 AM

GL HF y'all!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Um9dxmMrbPg

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on March 08, 2015, 03:00:00 AM

Please, that dosen't take what you look like into account.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on March 08, 2015, 03:42:55 AM

It also doesn't take into account my penchant to stare at her breasts while I'm talking to any woman.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on March 09, 2015, 11:24:23 AM

Because if there isn't must to stare at, there isn't much to say. :cody

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on March 09, 2015, 11:25:19 AM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on March 08, 2015, 03:42:55 AM

It also doesn't take into account my penchant to stare at her breasts while I'm talking to any woman.

I share this affliction.

Tit Anonymous meets at the Crazy Horse on Brook Park road every tuesday at 5pm :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on March 09, 2015, 12:36:09 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 08, 2015, 03:00:00 AM

Please, that dosen't take what you look like into account.

Not to seriously defend a joke post, but I think it's presumed people have a vague idea of their beauty "tier".

Either that or dey just play dat numbers game. :aah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on March 09, 2015, 12:57:27 PM

Had so much sex this weekend :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cheddahz on March 09, 2015, 11:13:06 PM

is asking for a number on facebook (message, of course) lame? should i just wait a week to ask for their number in person?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on March 10, 2015, 12:19:07 AM

ask in person

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on March 10, 2015, 12:47:23 AM

asking on fb is stalker-level desperate. it's embarrassing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on March 10, 2015, 12:49:17 AM

Quote from: Cheddahz on March 09, 2015, 11:13:06 PM

is asking for a number on facebook (message, of course) lame? should i just wait a week to ask for their number in person?

well how do you know this person? have you hung out with them in person before around other people?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on March 10, 2015, 12:58:54 AM

I just had the worst conversation ever. A woman from OKC who seems like the most mature and intelligent person I've pursued and who I've been talking to nearly every day for a month (usually over an hour each day) just told me that she just can't bring herself to find me attractive because of my deformed ear and uneven jawline after finally seeing it the one time we met. And she feels really guilty about it but she still wants to remain friends and still talk.

It's not even due to mutation, it's just a random mistake that can happen during pregnancy. If you get a kid with a similar unique imperfection just kill it, even with all the reconstructive surgeries available (over a dozen done on me) there's just no way to have a chance at a full life.

Edit: meant to say deformed ear, that was mainly what bothered her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on March 10, 2015, 01:12:34 AM

jesus christ, that girl is cold as hell

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on March 10, 2015, 01:32:31 AM

AN, not gonna give you a hollow pep talk but
-Anyone on an online dating site :ufup somewhere along the way; I assume she has eyes bigger than her stomach given what you told me.
-She talked to you a lot and (giving the benefit of the doubt when I say this) tried to work past her hang up(s) to pursue something with you.
-Don't try and be friends (strictly imo). She wants to live a life like that, she can take the consequences of that.

Lick your wounds and then get back out there. Unless you want to spend your days smoking unfiltered cigarettes, drinking expensive overpriced liquor, and waiting for death. :bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on March 10, 2015, 01:39:10 AM

I'm not hung up on her though and I don't think I'll talk to her again. I just am upset at her opinion and how common such a minimum standard must be now that I've finally discussed it with a girl. She's more shallow than I expected (but totally honest) and I understand why I have so far one of the best personalities of any guy she's met in the last few years but I'm wondering how futile it is to keep trying when you're ultimately blocked directly by something you can never fix or work on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on March 10, 2015, 01:49:45 AM

Only you can decide that one for yourself. I would trade a lot to not be hideous on the inside (which you aren't), to give you a different perspective.

(I'm not mac tier on the outside either, though I do acknowledge that I'm speaking from a certain level of privilege when I say that.)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on March 10, 2015, 04:17:31 AM

Quote from: Vularai on March 09, 2015, 12:36:09 PM

Not to seriously defend a joke post, but I think it's presumed people have a vague idea of their beauty "tier".

I guess, too bad I don't want any of the chicks in my supposed tier. Time to just give up on women.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on March 10, 2015, 05:25:55 AM

So what you're saying is it's open season on hitting on you now. :phil

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on March 10, 2015, 08:52:41 AM

I'm not sure how I'm too picky or how anyone can be too picky. I'm not making "sharp knees" comments. I simply like what I like and it's dumb to tell someone "no stop that, be interested in things you have no interest in". Littearly no one I've ever known has dated someone for experience. They've only been with people they liked and were attracted to. People on thebore are the only people I've ever seen give this advice. Hell I can only stand to be around people I actually like for so much and I'm supposed to deal with people I'm using as a stepping stone? That's impossible and makes no sense. And improve what? I'm fine. It's everyone else who makes no sense. I can't explain or understand why girls have no intrest in me. It's honestly not my real life personality. Maybe it's my looks, well I can't help that. Nor can I help being "picky". Hey no wonder I'm bitter, itt's been like that my entire life. You'd be bitter too.

The bore's advice is stupid. It's essentially "waste time with things you don't like and profit somehow" as if that makes since. Yes waste time with things you have no attraction to for some sort of level up. As if people actually want to to deal and associate with people they'd have no interest in.

This game is very dumb.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on March 10, 2015, 09:23:42 AM

It's very sound advice though. You only improve in life by repeatingly doing something. Quite often, that 'something' is less than your ideal. For many months and maybe years. You can apply that truism to about anything in life.

But, there is nothing wrong with 'giving up'. If you can learn to quell your biological urges and the people that will try to make you feel guilty about not honoring them, you can live a content life. You just have to manage all that shit and make sure it doesn't manifest itself into depression.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on March 10, 2015, 11:32:52 AM

I don't think anyone is telling you to be Sean Bateman (though I can vouch for this if all you care about is sexual gratification and are able to look yourself in the mirror after engaging in ignoble behavior), rather acting on opportunities instead of rationalizing why you didn't.

I'm not unsympathetic to a lot of what you're saying, due to things I'd prefer not to discuss with someone I don't pay three figures an hour to, I am utterly revulsed by what I assume is the normal human need to bond over sharing everyday emotions. It's not interesting and it others me, again for reasons I care not to discuss. When I was on the second or third date with someone recently listening to them drone on about utterly inane #struggle, I realized that I'd rather die on a mountain solo than put up with this fucking bullshit. If I was missing a leg, no one would think it was reasonable for partners to expect me to do things an able person could do. It shouldn't be any different just because it's my mind that's maimed instead of an extremity.

The difference between us though is that I know this sad truth through the rigorous application of Bob Avakian's New Synthesis while you're living life a priori. Next time you have a decent conversation with a gal, ask her out. Literally the only thing you have to lose is your constructed universe.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on March 10, 2015, 11:38:39 AM

My girlfriend insists that I continue playing games and watching anime from time to time if I enjoy it- my brain is just too crazy to fit it into a daily schedule that's actually quite normal for most people.

It's like I need to be able to catass something or I can't bring myself to do it :/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on March 10, 2015, 11:41:52 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 10, 2015, 08:52:41 AM

I'm not sure how I'm too picky or how anyone can be too picky. I'm not making "sharp knees" comments. I simply like what I like and it's dumb to tell someone "no stop that, be interested in things you have no interest in". Littearly no one I've ever known has dated someone for experience. They've only been with people they liked and were attracted to. People on thebore are the only people I've ever seen give this advice. Hell I can only stand to be around people I actually like for so much and I'm supposed to deal with people I'm using as a stepping stone? That's impossible and makes no sense. And improve what? I'm fine. It's everyone else who makes no sense. I can't explain or understand why girls have no intrest in me. It's honestly not my real life personality. Maybe it's my looks, well I can't help that. Nor can I help being "picky". Hey no wonder I'm bitter, itt's been like that my entire life. You'd be bitter too.

The bore's advice is stupid. It's essentially "waste time with things you don't like and profit somehow" as if that makes since. Yes waste time with things you have no attraction to for some sort of level up. As if people actually want to to deal and associate with people they'd have no interest in.

This game is very dumb.

Honest question: do you know many people?
Since I'm just dropping by without any knowledge of prior discussion and would also suggest just going out for the experience.

To me trying something as low stakes as going out with someone is a better option than doing nothing and losing by default.

Quote from: MrAngryFace on March 10, 2015, 11:38:39 AM

My girlfriend insists that I continue playing games and watching anime from time to time if I enjoy it- my brain is just too crazy to fit it into a daily schedule that's actually quite normal for most people.

It's like I need to be able to catass something or I can't bring myself to do it :/

That's how I stopped gaming mostly, once I had to actually plan it I never got around to it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on March 10, 2015, 12:01:27 PM

Quote from: Reb on March 10, 2015, 11:41:52 AM

Quote from: MrAngryFace on March 10, 2015, 11:38:39 AM
My girlfriend insists that I continue playing games and watching anime from time to time if I enjoy it- my brain is just too crazy to fit it into a daily schedule that's actually quite normal for most people.

It's like I need to be able to catass something or I can't bring myself to do it :/

That's how I stopped gaming mostly, once I had to actually plan it I never got around to it.

I'm still able to watch some anime now and then since it's passive- but planning to play a game for an hour (or two at most) limits the kinds of games I can play to most levels of personal satisfaction. Hopefully i'll get to wherever I need to be mentally to make the jump.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on March 10, 2015, 12:07:08 PM

Yeah, MAF, there is a solution though! Have a kid! Play videogames with it :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cheddahz on March 10, 2015, 01:40:03 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on March 10, 2015, 12:19:07 AM

ask in person

i'll ask them in person then

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on March 10, 2015, 05:43:33 PM

Quote from: Reb on March 10, 2015, 11:41:52 AM

That's how I stopped gaming mostly, once I had to actually plan it I never got around to it.

i think you just explained it for me as well :ohhh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on March 10, 2015, 09:08:15 PM

you don't really know what you want or find attractive until you start dating and putting yourself out there more.

sometimes a person you may not immediately be attracted to will become more attractive based on other factors like personality and stuff.

there's no downside to meeting more people. being bored isn't a downside. every time you meet a new person you learn more about yourself and what you like. it all is a net positive in the game of life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on March 10, 2015, 09:14:45 PM

Giving advice doesn't really work because in the end, a lot of these "woe is me" posts are looking for pity parties, not constructive advice. If he wants to get laid, he will do so. Right now, he's comfortable in his 700 GB porn collection rut. He may not like it but it's more safe than taking a chance and getting rejected. While he doesn't actually succeed, he doesn't really fail either and that is the most important thing to permavirgins.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on March 10, 2015, 09:30:25 PM

Usually this is the case but sometimes a person will realize they were being dumb and suddenly will want to change and then will go back and reread all the old advise they were given.

source: me

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on March 10, 2015, 10:24:13 PM

IME when people say they are 'picky' about who they are attracted to it's usually shorthand for 'i've built up the idea of the perfect woman with xyz physical characteristics and xyz personality traits and i can't find anyone matching these criteria within 10 seconds of meeting them so eh why bother'. IME they also tend to get infatuated real quickly based on really superficial stuff (she likes video games! she has curly hair! she's perfect!). just based off of what iv'e seen from college and etc. it's all over gaf too.

like, i have a good friend of mine, nice guy, nothing wrong with him whatsoever, would make a good partner, but he had these totally bonkers arbitrary criteria like only wanting a girl who is 5'8" with brown hair and i told him he isn't a fucking supermodel ubermensch so cutting out 90%+ of the dating pool for no particular reason was fucking stupid and he should get over it.

lo and behold he did and wow look dates :bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on March 11, 2015, 03:41:03 AM

Quote from: am nintenho on March 10, 2015, 01:39:10 AM

I'm not hung up on her though and I don't think I'll talk to her again. I just am upset at her opinion and how common such a minimum standard must be now that I've finally discussed it with a girl. She's more shallow than I expected (but totally honest) and I understand why I have so far one of the best personalities of any guy she's met in the last few years but I'm wondering how futile it is to keep trying when you're ultimately blocked directly by something you can never fix or work on.

Vularai’s advice is sound.

You should also try and remember that there may be a lot of women out there who feel this way, but you don’t need A LOT OF WOMEN, you just need one. You only need to find one woman who isn’t superficial.

There are actually plenty of women out there who aren’t superficial. Percentage-wise, there are probably more of them than non-superficial men. But they’re probably not as well represented on online dating sites.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on March 11, 2015, 04:47:27 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on March 10, 2015, 10:24:13 PM

IME when people say they are 'picky' about who they are attracted to it's usually shorthand for 'i've built up the idea of the perfect woman with xyz physical characteristics and xyz personality traits and i can't find anyone matching these criteria within 10 seconds of meeting them so eh why bother'. IME they also tend to get infatuated real quickly based on really superficial stuff (she likes video games! she has curly hair! she's perfect!). just based off of what iv'e seen from college and etc. it's all over gaf too.

like, i have a good friend of mine, nice guy, nothing wrong with him whatsoever, would make a good partner, but he had these totally bonkers arbitrary criteria like only wanting a girl who is 5'8" with brown hair and i told him he isn't a fucking supermodel ubermensch so cutting out 90%+ of the dating pool for no particular reason was fucking stupid and he should get over it.

lo and behold he did and wow look dates :bolo

I'm a little drunk now because lo and behold I actually go out and sociolise and am not the sociol special fellow these posts paint me as and so I shall reply to them one by one.

This is complete horse shit. I don't have some xmas list that a girl needs to be in order for me to find her attarctive. I find many body types of women attractive. Except fatsos. Oh no I'm a monster because i don't find women who weigh more then double me attractive. Except I'm find with thiker women.

Oh noes I don't find black women attractive. I'm sorry if thats a nerd steortype, but I don't care. I don't find black women attractive. I'm not a raciest, I have mostly black friends. Talk with mostly black women. I simply dont find them sexually attractive, nor do I find thier ghetto personalities attractive. Sue me.

My problems have nothing to do with some sort of incredible standards of women looks. Why people keep throwing that at me I don't know. I can't help what I find attractive and it sure is'nt some sort of rigid checklist. Women simply don't apprach me and have no way to appraoch women.

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on March 10, 2015, 09:14:45 PM

Giving advice doesn't really work because in the end, a lot of these "woe is me" posts are looking for pity parties, not constructive advice. If he wants to get laid, he will do so. Right now, he's comfortable in his 700 GB porn collection rut. He may not like it but it's more safe than taking a chance and getting rejected. While he doesn't actually succeed, he doesn't really fail either and that is the most important thing to permavirgins.

Please I'm not a virgin. I'm just fucking tired of women and thier bullshit. Everytime I've taken a supposed risk it's blown up in my face and I'm the one thats been hurt. Enough of that bullshit. I'm tierd of playing the bullshit game of "is a girl intersted in me" because 100% of the time they arent. Never in my life has a girl displayed intrest in me and it;s incredibly disheartning. I'm sorry if I'm boarding on mysgonsit terrotyoty but it's hard not to when you feel you've been fucked and ingorend by the oppoasite sex for whatever reason. Meanwhile you watch everyone else seemingly have no problems. Plenty of friends have found partners without doing any of the bullshit you people talk about in this thread. Plenty of girls easily displayed interst in them. I don't know what I do that is so off putting. It's bad enough I;m extrmley self consious about the way I look, but even then I've seen uglier and less well kept dudes score chicks and they have douche personalites. Nor do I play yhr nice guy bs card, so I have no understanfing of anything. Of course I;m becmoing angry at the sutuation. Dosen't help it when you fegs treat me like shit(which bastars like human sornedo do do beyond even this topic) and put me in those fedora special fellow catogiroes. I'm not accepted anyhwere much less by women and it's extremly madding to feel disowned by every sociol group of humanity with the oppaisote sex's ignoring of you being the ultimate one. I'm 24 soon to be 25, I should have at least kissed a female and just in genearl done this shit. No experinced women is going to want such a late start case.

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I honestly think it's disheartening that you even think that anyone not in your constructed lane of perfect woman is a waste of time. Like the only thing that matters to you is how they look, i guess.

I'm not sure whats disheartning about knowing what you find sexually attractive. Sexual attraction is important. Why would I want to have sex withsomeone I find revolting? I would'nt. Yes personalty is important, but I'm not looking for just a friend here so there has to be a physical attraction with a mental one. Thats just being honest and realstic.

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Like Karakand said, you're welcome to be lonely and self-isolate if that's what you want. but do it for real. don't post in dating threads, just kiss it goodbye right?

Thats just the way it seems to be going. I simply cant find a women that I find attracive and actually finds me attractive. All women seem to ignore me and I cant help that. I'm not trying to self isolate, but it just seems easier then playing this sutpid game, because at this point I can't figure out whats wrong with me. It's really not my personality. I'm not a douche, I can be funny irl, I'm not an overbearing obnoxious nerd. Is it my looks. I have a big oily forehead and I've always just in general dislikeed the way I look, but I can't change these things. If this is what leads me to women I simply don't find attarctive, then what am I supposed to do, just settale and be unfullfiled and miserable? I can be those things on my own.

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Like the only thing that matters to you is how they look, i guess.

Looks are always important. Is my dick supposed to get hard staring at women I am disgusted by?

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You told us a while ago black girls find you cute, but you don't want to cause you only want to date white girls. I'm sure there's a pretty black girl out there who would go out with you, why not? And you tell me you aren't picky?

Because I don't fucking find Black women attractive. What is so fucking hard to understand about this. I don't like thier hair, the way thier faces look, just in general everything. it does nothing for me and is not my idea of hot. Why would I want to date them when i activley don't find them attractive. It is very madding knowing that my options are pretty much just black women which only find me atteactive for my ethnic meets white features anyway. I know what I can get and it sucks, so why even bother? Years have shown me nothing else why everyone else I know acheives with no work beyond simply being a person. It sucks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on March 11, 2015, 06:17:04 AM

:stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on March 11, 2015, 06:32:50 AM

You are mentally ill and need therapy. Please seek professional help for your own sake. Nothing anyone says or does in this arena is going to make sense to you until you get some brain repair. This is not a drill.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on March 11, 2015, 07:47:10 AM

the declarative "i don't find *race* attractive" statement usually stems from a latent racist mentality. maybe from questionable upbringing. there isn't a single mold for all black women. unless you just simple are revolted by the appearance of black skin, it's impossible for you to find every black chick ugly. if the former is actually the case, then yeah, you're a racist.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on March 11, 2015, 07:50:27 AM

yeah I saw that. definitely a racist.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on March 11, 2015, 08:42:04 AM

:kobeyuck

I was on his side, now I would clearly warn any girl who's friends with me against him if I knew him.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on March 11, 2015, 10:51:30 AM

"nor do I find thier ghetto personalities attractive. Sue me."

"I don't like thier hair"

You might be a piece of shit. Or just extremely ignorant. I'm not sure if there's a difference.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on March 11, 2015, 10:59:45 AM

Quote from: Beezy on March 11, 2015, 10:51:30 AM

"nor do I find thier ghetto personalities attractive. Sue me."

"I don't like thier hair"

You might be a piece of shit. Or just extremely ignorant. I'm not sure if there's a difference.

I just want to know what the fuck a ghetto personality is :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on March 11, 2015, 11:03:30 AM

Is this how someone like Olimario thinks?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on March 11, 2015, 11:06:53 AM

Quote from: demi on March 11, 2015, 11:03:30 AM

Is this how someone like Olimario thinks?

Who?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on March 11, 2015, 11:12:38 AM

Rahx, I've seen a pic of you on here before. My forehead is bigger than yours and my hairline is kinda fucked. I'm darker than you. I don't have "white features" which seem to be really important to you. Yet I've managed to have girls of all races attracted to me (unfortunately I usually didn't notice until it was too late). You're too worried about your looks.

You are a scrawny fuck tho. :heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on March 11, 2015, 11:21:20 AM

You know, he's old enough to know this but I'll post it anway:

How girls judge you in order of importance:

1) Are you mentally sane?
2) Are you witty/humorous?
3) Do you have a good social circle
4) Do you have money/are you settled (more important past age 25)
5) Do you work and have goals
6) Looks

Now I know as a man you think they are like us:

1) Tits
2) Ass (changeable)
3) Face
4) Normal? Meh who gives a fuck if 1-3 are popping

But they really aren't. Not saying you can't have sex just because you're good looking but those girls normally need to hit the bushes quick because you aren't the first dude they same day smanged no matter how many times they tell you that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on March 11, 2015, 11:42:56 AM

I dunno why you guys are just putting pressure on him. If he wants to dwell on this, leave him alone to dwell.

The most humorous part is Fistful acting sageful when not even a year ago he was in Rahx's same exact position. Fuck outta here with that condescending shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on March 11, 2015, 11:43:38 AM

Quote from: demi on March 11, 2015, 11:42:56 AM

The most humorous part is Fistful acting sageful when not even a year ago he was in Rahx's same exact position. Fuck outta here.

:holeup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on March 11, 2015, 01:00:24 PM

Wife and I are considering having a baby.

The pros and cons basically spell out like

Cons:
My stepson is already 9, we're like half way out of the woods
Obviously is expensive
Less free time
Babies are hard bro
Could end up with multiples, or birth defects etc

Pros:

baby :uguu

spoiler (click to show/hide)

pretty sure we'll try

[close]

Edit: oh didn't mean to interrupt dude's meltdown. Don't fret so much guys, his inability to procreate is evolution in progress

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on March 11, 2015, 01:02:01 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on March 11, 2015, 01:00:24 PM

Wife and I are considering having a baby.

The pros and cons basically spell out like

Cons:
My stepson is already 9, we're like half way out of the woods
Obviously is expensive
Less free time
Babies are hard bro
Could end up with multiples, or birth defects etc

Pros:

baby :uguu

spoiler (click to show/hide)
pretty sure we'll try
[close]

You want more kids?

(http://i.imgur.com/Fv07nGR.gif)

God bless ya, I exceeded the 2.3 kids by .7 and let me tell you, free time will not exist for the first 14 years.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on March 11, 2015, 01:03:49 PM

Gotta contribute to that true American birth rate :usacry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on March 11, 2015, 01:07:19 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on March 11, 2015, 01:03:49 PM

Gotta contribute to that true American birth rate :usacry

Each kid is going to cost you about a million bucks nowadays. Just an FYI.

Man what I could be doing with 3 million extra dollars :heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 11, 2015, 01:09:04 PM

I can't tell if Rahx is the dude or the chick in this
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0WgenwfYmwk

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on March 11, 2015, 01:13:34 PM

:usacry

:snoop

:usacry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on March 11, 2015, 06:08:06 PM

Quote from: demi on March 11, 2015, 11:42:56 AM

The most humorous part is Fistful acting sageful when not even a year ago he was in Rahx's same exact position. Fuck outta here with that condescending shit.

yeah and i managed to pull myself out of that and have some success in the areas he's struggling with. why wouldn't i want to help someone who's going through some of the same issues? scuse me for trying to help :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: dkdk on March 11, 2015, 07:03:40 PM

that drunken screed tho :kobeyuck

rahx you're gonna have to fix what's inside to get anywhere man. fucked up on so many levels that i actually hope this is just an elaborate, poorly executed troll.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on March 11, 2015, 08:23:08 PM

christ, I thought I was mentally ill. That last page :stahp

I can at least say that I don't have problems getting dates. I guess I just have a problem maintaining a girl's interest. That's no one's fault but my own, I get a little too connected too quickly, as well.

I've started trying to focus more on work and working out/reading. The more I dwell on my faults the more my anxiety about them crescendos, and it leads to insecurity and the need to always be in contact with a girl. It's pretty pathetic. So with me focusing my efforts on more "me" stuff, I hope to grow from it and get better at handling women.

But I still enjoy going on dates, they're fun.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on March 12, 2015, 03:42:52 PM

I'm not mentally ill.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: mormapope on March 12, 2015, 04:03:30 PM

You have to be content with who you are on almost every level to build a relationship. Not many people want to start a relationship with somebody whose baggage leaks and explodes out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: MrAngryFace on March 12, 2015, 04:42:03 PM

Let's be real- almost everyone is a little off to some degree; no shame in seeing someone to help you talk through shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on March 12, 2015, 04:50:50 PM

Nah, I'm perfect.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on March 12, 2015, 06:32:58 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 12, 2015, 03:42:52 PM

I'm not mentally ill.

How do you know?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on March 12, 2015, 07:54:29 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on March 12, 2015, 06:32:58 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 12, 2015, 03:42:52 PM
I'm not mentally ill.

How do you know?

Because I'm sure it would have come up in real life with people I actively interact with not fourm goers on a fourm spin off who don't know me and sometimes attack me over defending a certain game.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on March 12, 2015, 08:00:14 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 12, 2015, 07:54:29 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on March 12, 2015, 06:32:58 PM
Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 12, 2015, 03:42:52 PM
I'm not mentally ill.

How do you know?
Because I'm sure it would have come up in real life with people I actively interact with not fourm goers on a fourm spin off who don't know me and sometimes attack me over defending a certain game.

Let's ask all the women you've dated how they feel

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on March 12, 2015, 08:18:51 PM

Quote from: Esch on March 12, 2015, 06:37:58 PM

Rahx's laundry list of crazy shit aside, have any of you single straightguys tried out Hinge? Since Tinder seems to have shit the bucket. Feels like a more.. Upscale? Bougie Tinder? Haven't had the matches coming in as fast on it tho :'(

I'm on it now, as well. I've gotten a few matches and they're all mid to upper 20s young professionals, which I dig way more than 21 year old pot heads with monroe piercings who call themselves Tinderella

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on March 12, 2015, 08:30:10 PM

*clicks on thread*

(http://karaboo.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/i-dont-know-what-i-expected.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on March 12, 2015, 09:18:20 PM

Quote from: Esch on March 12, 2015, 06:37:58 PM

Rahx's laundry list of crazy shit aside, have any of you single straightguys tried out Hinge? Since Tinder seems to have shit the bucket. Feels like a more.. Upscale? Bougie Tinder? Haven't had the matches coming in as fast on it tho :'(

Hinge would be my main one and I've had a lot better matches with more attractive and real people than Tinder. Only issue is that I'm about 90 minutes from the nearest city that has Hinge. I always eventually get the question of why the fuck I'm on their area.

But I've yet to have a casual hook-up with a hinger, everyone is looking for something more long term. Compared to the tinder bitties

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on March 12, 2015, 09:39:50 PM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on March 12, 2015, 08:00:14 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 12, 2015, 07:54:29 PM
Quote from: Barry Egan on March 12, 2015, 06:32:58 PM
Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 12, 2015, 03:42:52 PM
I'm not mentally ill.

How do you know?
Because I'm sure it would have come up in real life with people I actively interact with not fourm goers on a fourm spin off who don't know me and sometimes attack me over defending a certain game.

Let's ask all the women you've dated how they feel

That would be pretty quick and easy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on March 12, 2015, 09:56:56 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 12, 2015, 07:54:29 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on March 12, 2015, 06:32:58 PM
Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 12, 2015, 03:42:52 PM
I'm not mentally ill.

How do you know?
Because I'm sure it would have come up in real life with people I actively interact with not fourm goers on a fourm spin off who don't know me and sometimes attack me over defending a certain game.

well I'm not privy to what kind of thoughts you share with your social circle or whether your social circle is made up of people who can dish the Real Talk. I just know that your situation definitely fits the criteria for mental illness in that a) it diverges from the social norm and b) it's causing you angst and suffering.

How about this? Print out your drunk post on the last page and have ten or so people in your life read it. Then ask them whether or not you should seek help. That might clear things up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: StealthFan on March 13, 2015, 01:01:20 AM

:heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on March 13, 2015, 01:40:08 AM

Being bitter and somewhat angry is not a mental illness. Lacking confidence is not a mental illness. I don't even know why pieces of shit like Human Snoernado are getting in thier kicks. I've read this thread and seen his sad and bitter posts over and over.

I don't have a mental illness. I'm not depressed. It's not like I have actual problems in normal human interaction or daily life.

But whatever this has been Barry's constant reply since I've been here and it's been annoying. I'm not going to waste money and go to a therapist to talk to him about how to get women. That's stupid.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on March 13, 2015, 02:09:27 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 13, 2015, 01:40:08 AM

I'm not going to waste money and go to a therapist to talk to him about how to get women. That's stupid.

its really not. people go see therapists for a lot of reasons. issues with women are probably pretty popular on that list. if you didn't care as much as you seem to claim you wouldn't be in here so often talking about it.

edit: and i wish you'd take a step back and understand that most people here are trying to help you. it's a pretty classic trope to have the person with some issues strike back at the people trying to help and claim they have no issues. you see that right? you know that's a thing?

second edit: Also all the things you mentioned, anger, bitterness, and lack of confidence can be symptoms of depression. and most of the time people who are depressed don't realize they are depressed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on March 13, 2015, 06:13:46 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on March 12, 2015, 08:18:51 PM

Quote from: Esch on March 12, 2015, 06:37:58 PM
Rahx's laundry list of crazy shit aside, have any of you single straightguys tried out Hinge? Since Tinder seems to have shit the bucket. Feels like a more.. Upscale? Bougie Tinder? Haven't had the matches coming in as fast on it tho :'(

I'm on it now, as well. I've gotten a few matches and they're all mid to upper 20s young professionals, which I dig way more than 21 year old pot heads with monroe piercings who call themselves Tinderella

To be fair out where you're at you have 2 colleges worth of girls, meth heads, and hillbillies.

Your particular struggle is real. This I will attest to .

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on March 13, 2015, 11:22:48 AM

Even if I wasn't fundamentally broken as an emotional being I'd still see one because I can't talk about professional shit that troubles me anymore after taking up the cloth and a talk doc can't snitch on me if I do. :shh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on March 13, 2015, 11:24:27 AM

Quote from: Vularai on March 13, 2015, 11:22:48 AM

Even if I wasn't fundamentally broken as an emotional being I'd still see one because I can't talk about professional shit that troubles me anymore after taking up the cloth and a talk doc can't snitch on me if I do. :shh

We had to see the talk doc every week our rookie year in the NFL.

At first I was like :kobeyuck

But after going I did find it extremely helpful in dealing with off the field matters. Remember we were all in our early 20's and living on our own often 1,000's of miles from home.

Mrs. Bell was a saint.

I wasn't :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on March 15, 2015, 03:52:08 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 12, 2015, 03:42:52 PM

I'm not mentally ill.

What's your definition of mental illness? No wikipedia pls. Real talk.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on March 15, 2015, 10:44:51 PM

Rahx you mentioned that you see friends easily get girls interested in them without "doing any bullshit" and even I have gotten to that point but that's simply from seeing a person who looks comfortable and confident in themselves and becoming interested in them for that reason, that's not because they tick any aesthetic value boxes.

You also mentioned that you aren't a virgin but have never kissed a girl, is that because you had a moment of frustration and decided to hire an escort or something just to get virginity out of the way? I just ask because it feels like there's more that you're not saying that goes towards why you're hating yourself.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on March 20, 2015, 06:00:52 AM

Long distance? I feel for you, but it's probably for the best.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on March 20, 2015, 06:04:27 AM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on March 20, 2015, 05:45:52 AM

My gf comes over here for a week, we have a blast. Then the moment her feet touches down on Bahrain she breaks up with me over skype.

Yay >:(

this is literally the last thing i want to hear going into a week long visit to my girl starting tomorrow afternoon...

that sucks tho man, sorry to hear about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on March 20, 2015, 07:59:22 AM

yeah you're right. sorry for making it about myself. that was pretty selfish of me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on March 20, 2015, 12:43:18 PM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on March 20, 2015, 05:45:52 AM

My gf comes over here for a week, we have a blast. Then the moment her feet touches down on Bahrain she breaks up with me over skype.

Yay >:(

:hitler .إثنان بحر إثنان وجه

:shaq2 .اعرف انا، بحرين وجهين

:bolo .المثـنى

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on March 20, 2015, 12:49:33 PM

Yes but I said it Fusha, so that makes it infinitely more sophisticated. :tophat

spoiler (click to show/hide)

...m'lady. :expert

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 20, 2015, 02:18:23 PM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on March 20, 2015, 05:45:52 AM

My gf comes over here for a week, we have a blast. Then the moment her feet touches down on Bahrain she breaks up with me over skype.

Yay >:(

what the fuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on March 20, 2015, 02:37:14 PM

sorry to hear that bro

bury yourself in cowpoke punani :rejoice

also, having a 'never go to bed angry or sleep on the couch' rule is good. not only does that reduce next day leftover drama, but when she harrumphs and turns away from you to sleep in a passive aggressive measure to 'win', you reap the booty benefits while she sleeps :phil

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on March 20, 2015, 03:20:27 PM

SLEEP CREEP :phil

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on March 21, 2015, 02:38:15 PM

Tinder is what it is. Some really cool girls on there but don't expect to find your true match on there.

I've tried coffee meets bagel and that's pretty cool. One match a day, and the girls on there have all been very put together.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on March 21, 2015, 03:23:53 PM

Wrath, buddy, your biggest problem is geography. Move to a city.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on March 21, 2015, 07:26:22 PM

The new girl in this office has the Oxford American Dictionary at her desk. :noah

And a Rough Collie. :uguu

Don't let her get away, assholes. :bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on March 21, 2015, 08:16:06 PM

You should bang her and yell 'Shelties are better' at her as you cum

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on March 23, 2015, 07:23:39 AM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on March 20, 2015, 05:45:52 AM

My gf comes over here for a week, we have a blast. Then the moment her feet touches down on Bahrain she breaks up with me over skype.

Yay >:(

Christ, you must be magnificent in bed.

All that way for a fuck, and then BOOM, when she's done, she'd done until she comes to visit you next time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on March 27, 2015, 06:09:09 PM

Got a girl's number. :jawalrus

spoiler (click to show/hide)

To prepare her taxes. :snoop

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 27, 2015, 06:15:09 PM

Quote from: Vularai on March 27, 2015, 06:09:09 PM

Got a girl's number. :jawalrus

spoiler (click to show/hide)
To prepare her taxes. :snoop
[close]

is this the accountant version of the Successful Black Man meme?

http://i2.kym-cdn.com/entries/icons/original/000/002/526/99problems.jpg

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on March 27, 2015, 06:39:54 PM

It's likely she'll reject my services because she can't judge pricing correctly (see note below), so really it's just the Karakand "rejected by everyone" meme in a new and exciting field. :leon

Note: a client of mine who is tired of sharing me has been funneling me solo work in what I assume is an attempt to buy me off. As these are low value clients (otherwise they wouldn't be pawned off) I price myself close to break even as a counter-troll with a large degree of plausible deniability. Unfortunately someone who should self-prepare but doesn't have the wherewithal to is unable to see they won't get a better deal because the hourly rate looks bad.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on March 27, 2015, 07:31:54 PM

Quote from: Vularai on March 27, 2015, 06:09:09 PM

Got a girl's number. :jawalrus

spoiler (click to show/hide)
To prepare her taxes. :snoop
[close]

discuss her tax deductions over lunch/dinner :tophat

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on March 27, 2015, 07:34:04 PM

You don't go to business dinners with small potatoes. :beli You might have to pick up a check then. :heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on March 27, 2015, 07:40:10 PM

so like a date :bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on March 27, 2015, 08:35:52 PM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on March 27, 2015, 07:52:59 PM

Vularai is struggling to get an L here.

Waking up is an L for me, I don't gotta struggle g-friend. :bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on April 10, 2015, 05:16:42 PM

Guys, I don't want to jinx it, but....I think I'm in love! :D

I met this girl on OKC. We chatted back and forth for about a week and finally met up last Sunday. At first she seemed kinda nervous, but the more we spoke, the more comfortable she appeared to be. We had a ton of things in common and before we knew it, we had spent 4 hours at Starbucks until the place closed. She said she would be interested in getting a bite to eat late at night since she was a night owl (which was great cause so am I).

We texted each other every day until Wednesday when I asked if she wanted to meet up for dinner, which she agreed to. We met at a sports bar which unfortunately was a bad night to go (cause they already closed the kitchen and it was open mic night with a bunch of losers performing on stage). Despite that, we were still having fun, just shooting the shit and got a few drinks. Afterwards, we went to Denny's and bonded further over our mutual disgust for Ayn Rand (omg!). When we finished eating, I was planning on paying for her, but she insisted I didn't, which kinda got me worried for a bit. But when I walked her to her car, after engaging in some playfully awkward banter, I go in for a hug and she grabs my face and we start making out like crazy. Guess she liked me afterall! :D

The next day I texted her again and we exchanged a few messages back and forth. Around 11 PM, she asks me, while being short notice, if I'd be willing to meet up for dinner again, and I said sure. We meet at the same Denny's, have a great convo like usual, and she once again paid for her meal. Afterwards, we hung out for a bit in my car just talking and then we once again start making out furiously as well as doing some other naughty things (but not going all the way). This happens for like 3 hours and we both seem to be enjoying ourselves very much. We're supposed to be meeting again Monday.

This girl is amazing. She's pretty smart and we've had some pretty intellectually stimulating conversations. She's also an absolute sweetheart, and totally adorable in an awkward, nerdy kinda way. And she's actually quite beautiful. Pretty much checks out nearly everything on my list. Both Wednesday and Thursday, when we were saying goodbye, she just would not stop with the goodbye kisses, and I almost had to call 911, haha.

Oh and to make matters even better, she's also around my age for once! (a year younger than me). I can't remember the last time I dated someone like that (for whatever reason, older women were the ones who responded most on OKC). She is totally, absolutely girlfriend material. I think I may finally rid myself of that wretched OKC account! :D :rock :rock :rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 11, 2015, 05:23:18 AM

Hey I'm drunk again and at steAk and shake. A referdum! I think I'm a mysigonsit and it's silly be case it makes no sense why I would be beyond the fact that I'm annoyed that no women has ever showed intrest in me. It's very saddling to know that no wome has ever thought of you in an sexy wa that's all I want. An qttrqrctive women to think I'm attractive. No fatsos or whatever though I like thick girls whatever back to self imposed exile

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 11, 2015, 05:28:28 AM

I hate women and thier confounding qays.all they do is confuse the hell out of me

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on April 11, 2015, 07:56:48 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 11, 2015, 05:23:18 AM

Hey I'm drunk again and at steAk and shake. A referdum! I think I'm a mysigonsit and it's silly be case it makes no sense why I would be beyond the fact that I'm annoyed that no women has ever showed intrest in me. It's very saddling to know that no wome has ever thought of you in an sexy wa that's all I want. An qttrqrctive women to think I'm attractive. No fatsos or whatever though I like thick girls whatever back to self imposed exile

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pB_1t-Vn6Vs

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on April 11, 2015, 02:03:27 PM

Quote from: Oblivion on April 10, 2015, 05:16:42 PM

Guys, I don't want to jinx it, but....I think I'm in love! :D

I met this girl on OKC. We chatted back and forth for about a week and finally met up last Sunday. At first she seemed kinda nervous, but the more we spoke, the more comfortable she appeared to be. We had a ton of things in common and before we knew it, we had spent 4 hours at Starbucks until the place closed. She said she would be interested in getting a bite to eat late at night since she was a night owl (which was great cause so am I).

We texted each other every day until Wednesday when I asked if she wanted to meet up for dinner, which she agreed to. We met at a sports bar which unfortunately was a bad night to go (cause they already closed the kitchen and it was open mic night with a bunch of losers performing on stage). Despite that, we were still having fun, just shooting the shit and got a few drinks. Afterwards, we went to Denny's and bonded further over our mutual disgust for Ayn Rand (omg!). When we finished eating, I was planning on paying for her, but she insisted I didn't, which kinda got me worried for a bit. But when I walked her to her car, after engaging in some playfully awkward banter, I go in for a hug and she grabs my face and we start making out like crazy. Guess she liked me afterall! :D

The next day I texted her again and we exchanged a few messages back and forth. Around 11 PM, she asks me, while being short notice, if I'd be willing to meet up for dinner again, and I said sure. We meet at the same Denny's, have a great convo like usual, and she once again paid for her meal. Afterwards, we hung out for a bit in my car just talking and then we once again start making out furiously as well as doing some other naughty things (but not going all the way). This happens for like 3 hours and we both seem to be enjoying ourselves very much. We're supposed to be meeting again Monday.

This girl is amazing. She's pretty smart and we've had some pretty intellectually stimulating conversations. She's also an absolute sweetheart, and totally adorable in an awkward, nerdy kinda way. And she's actually quite beautiful. Pretty much checks out nearly everything on my list. Both Wednesday and Thursday, when we were saying goodbye, she just would not stop with the goodbye kisses, and I almost had to call 911, haha.

Oh and to make matters even better, she's also around my age for once! (a year younger than me). I can't remember the last time I dated someone like that (for whatever reason, older women were the ones who responded most on OKC). She is totally, absolutely girlfriend material. I think I may finally rid myself of that wretched OKC account! :D :rock :rock :rock

highlighted the funny parts

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on April 11, 2015, 02:34:10 PM

u gone pull that on the same page as a rah drunk post :gurl

just cuz i'm reppin ANGRON with my current title :beli

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 14, 2015, 04:34:14 PM

Why does this ugly fuck next to me get plenty of tinder replies while I've never gotten one? WTF

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on April 14, 2015, 04:46:33 PM

Maybe you can learn from him.

Copy his strategies n' shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on April 14, 2015, 05:04:11 PM

Went on date #4 yesterday, which is probably the first time in a decade that I've actually gone on as many dates with someone who I actually wanted to. We met up late night after I finished work, and had dinner at TGIFridays and got some drinks. Then she invited me over to her place and we went at it all night. Seriously, I think I hit the jackpot! :rock :rock :rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 14, 2015, 05:51:44 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 14, 2015, 04:34:14 PM

Why does this ugly fuck next to me get plenty of tinder replies while I've never gotten one? WTF

maybe he isn't ugly :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 14, 2015, 05:57:58 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 14, 2015, 04:34:14 PM

Why does this ugly fuck next to me get plenty of tinder replies while I've never gotten one? WTF

probably because he doesn't list videogames as his only hobby.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on April 14, 2015, 06:01:48 PM

I'll never get how I hate the world less than you do, Rah. ???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Narolf on April 14, 2015, 06:06:20 PM

Seems like he receives replies from ladies devils may cry for.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 14, 2015, 06:18:32 PM

You're also pretty skinny Rahx. If your body was more defined you'd look better to chicks. You don't need to be buff, but lean and "in shape-looking" is a good look.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 14, 2015, 07:09:45 PM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on April 14, 2015, 06:03:48 PM

Let me guess, Rahx. He's uglier cause he's black? :comeon

Clean cut and built black and Asian dudes are probably the best looking dudes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 14, 2015, 07:10:44 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 14, 2015, 07:09:45 PM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on April 14, 2015, 06:03:48 PM
Let me guess, Rahx. He's uglier cause he's black? :comeon
Clean cut and built black and Asian dudes are probably the best looking dudes.

maybe grindr will do you better :cody

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 14, 2015, 07:15:19 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on April 14, 2015, 05:57:58 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 14, 2015, 04:34:14 PM
Why does this ugly fuck next to me get plenty of tinder replies while I've never gotten one? WTF

probably because he doesn't list videogames as his only hobby.

The guy was wearing a Princess Mononoke shirt while checking out imdb in my foreign films writing class at my art school.

No one is winning cool awards.

Quote from: Esch on April 14, 2015, 05:54:02 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 14, 2015, 04:34:14 PM
Why does this ugly fuck next to me get plenty of tinder replies while I've never gotten one? WTF

he has:

A) better pictures than you
B) a better personality than you
C) more swaggeur than you
D) is actually better looking than you
E) all of the above

Really only A is possible.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 14, 2015, 07:16:10 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 14, 2015, 07:09:45 PM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on April 14, 2015, 06:03:48 PM
Let me guess, Rahx. He's uglier cause he's black? :comeon
Clean cut and built black and Asian dudes are probably the best looking dudes.

(http://i.imgur.com/QovB07n.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 14, 2015, 07:21:38 PM

i feel slightly olive skinned cacmen are the most aesthetically pleasing of the bunch. :-[ :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 14, 2015, 07:27:12 PM

Well as more or less one I can say that's not true.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 14, 2015, 07:29:39 PM

:bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on April 14, 2015, 11:27:16 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 14, 2015, 07:09:45 PM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on April 14, 2015, 06:03:48 PM
Let me guess, Rahx. He's uglier cause he's black? :comeon
Clean cut and built black and Asian dudes are probably the best looking dudes.

They are, aren't they. (http://i.imgur.com/aJBLf.gif)

#drunk

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 15, 2015, 02:33:54 AM

Rahx, you might not have a good sense of humor which is necessary for the average man on online dating and I personally have doubts that you are a really a bon vivant sort of personality which is a very attractive thing to everyone (similar to Each's suggestion of swagger).

The most important thing to think about isn't what you lack but if there is a reason why you want to pursue a woman right now besides to put your penis in her and to feel more confident.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on April 15, 2015, 05:41:56 AM

trying to give Rahx helpful advice lmao

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on April 15, 2015, 01:32:53 PM

Quote from: Vularai on March 27, 2015, 06:39:54 PM

It's likely she'll reject my services because she can't judge pricing correctly (see note below), so really it's just the Karakand "rejected by everyone" meme in a new and exciting field. :leon

Note: a client of mine who is tired of sharing me has been funneling me solo work in what I assume is an attempt to buy me off. As these are low value clients (otherwise they wouldn't be pawned off) I price myself close to break even as a counter-troll with a large degree of plausible deniability. Unfortunately someone who should self-prepare but doesn't have the wherewithal to is unable to see they won't get a better deal because the hourly rate looks bad.

Update: she contacted me today to politely decline my services. :dead

Extrapolating from this data set, my ex should be contacting me in the next month to say she really can't be friends. (One year is coming up for those who haven't bought in to the death pool.)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 15, 2015, 04:38:43 PM

Quote

Rahx, you might not have a good sense of humor which is necessary for the average man on online dating and I personally have doubts that you are a really a bon vivant sort of personality which is a very attractive thing to everyone (similar to Each's suggestion of swagger).

But I do have an incredible sense of humor. Maybe not on here, maybe not through text, but I am an incredibly funny person in real life. It's possibly my only real positive and probably the only reason I have actual friends. While I may not be the most social person. Once I become comfortable with a group I'm very talkative. Too talkative maybe. Either way this wouldn't matter on things like Tinder anyway. Maybe okcupid and I don't get any hits on there anyway.

Quote

The most important thing to think about isn't what you lack but if there is a reason why you want to pursue a woman right now besides to put your penis in her and to feel more confident.

I mean I guess, but I'm almost 25 and at this point it's pathetic and aggravating with my failures. Barry Eggan's constant "go see a theapist" crap is'nt helpful as that's not the problem. Being a nerd as some of you joke is'nt the problem as I'm not obnoxious or very evident on the surface about my nerdy things. Though hell I don't even appeal to nerdy women anyway. It may not even be my body type. Yes, it's annoying that I'm not a burly dude that most women want, but it's not like skinny dudes don't get women. I don't know what people want, but I seem to be a pariah and things like tinder and what not only reinforce this feeling.

Quote from: Vularai on April 14, 2015, 06:01:48 PM

I'll never get how I hate the world less than you do, Rah. ???

But I don't hate anything. I'm not a very depressing or angsty person. I never went through a "ima listen to Lincoln Park" phase or anything. I'm pretty content with most things. Just very unsatisfied and fustrated with some aspects of life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 15, 2015, 05:18:49 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 15, 2015, 04:38:43 PM

Quote
Rahx, you might not have a good sense of humor which is necessary for the average man on online dating and I personally have doubts that you are a really a bon vivant sort of personality which is a very attractive thing to everyone (similar to Each's suggestion of swagger).
But I do have an incredible sense of humor.

stopped there

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on April 15, 2015, 05:20:38 PM

Again, if Rahx wants to unfuck his situation, he will do it himself. You're not going to get anywhere with him.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on April 15, 2015, 06:02:02 PM

His problem is basically

F) visibly spergy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 15, 2015, 06:36:54 PM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on April 15, 2015, 06:02:02 PM

His problem is basically

F) visibly spergy

ill be very happy when you die.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 15, 2015, 06:38:52 PM

Look at that sense of humor guys

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 15, 2015, 07:08:16 PM

You said you have a good sense of humor but that there isn't much else about you that is really appealing to other people. It's worth thinking about how those other qualities get judged in a first impression.

The reason I said you should think about why you're trying to date is that you have incredibly low self-esteem for no reason, and I think you should listen people like snorenado/old man make fun of you and your whiny attitude since that's not normal. Maybe you just don't have something about your general attitude about life that you love like most people but you're not going to start getting confidence just by having the privilege of getting your dick grabbed. You've cock-blocked yourself for half your life and that's why people say you should talk to a therapist since that is a complicated issue that will take some time and trust to break down. Now go figure out how to go about that process and stop venting/getting off on the shame or whatever you're doing with most of your posts in this thread.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on April 15, 2015, 07:19:51 PM

Oooh, oooh, looks like I pushed someone's spergy buttons!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on April 15, 2015, 07:21:01 PM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on March 21, 2015, 02:07:19 PM

So, what are the best dating websites and/or apps to use? OKCupid is pretty weak in bozeman, and have no idea about any of the apps and how to use them.

Any help is appreciated.

I used Match for a while and that was my go-to... the girls on there seem to be a bit more ready to settle down and they take dating a bit more seriously than the free ones, from what I've found. For myself and 3 of my close friends, we've all met our long-term gfs on OKC. (though for me it wasn't until after a lot of searching)

Quote from: BrandNew on April 15, 2015, 06:38:52 PM

Look at that sense of humor guys

Sardonic, dark humor is a type of humor too :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on April 15, 2015, 07:42:20 PM

Rahx's reaction to even the possibility of seeing a therapist makes me wonder who he thinks therapy is actually for. Like do you need to be yelling at a blank television screen about the tracking device the IRS installed in your fillings before you seek help? The majority of therapists help people with exactly the type of First World Problems he describes in his self-pitying solliloquys.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 15, 2015, 08:03:02 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on April 15, 2015, 07:42:20 PM

Rahx's reaction to even the possibility of seeing a therapist makes me wonder who he thinks therapy is actually for. Like do you need to be yelling at a blank television screen about the tracking device the IRS installed in your fillings before you seek help? The majority of therapists help people with exactly the type of First World Problems he describes in his self-pitying solliloquys.

no YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND he's FINE. his bitter, poisonous, and hate-filled posts aren't really him. they're just for us. they don't actually reflect his state of mind and tone. he's just a fun loving happy go lucky dude and it's literally everyone else, including women, who are at fault. he's making no mistakes whatsoever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on April 15, 2015, 08:03:53 PM

Many people seem to think therapists exclusively deal with serious mental issues, when a lot of the time it's just life-coaching for people who are, for whatever reason, socially maladapted.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 15, 2015, 08:33:34 PM

The best thing I've done in a long time is go on Lexapro and start going to therapy since October of last year. I couldn't take internalizing my problems anymore and trying to paint other people in negative lights because of my ineptitude in understanding other people's motives and behavior. My problem now is that I'm entirely too hard on myself, but I know that because of my therapy. It's coaching. It's helpful. And it's healthy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 15, 2015, 08:47:39 PM

It's funny you mention that, my therapist has come to the conclusion that I might have gone 20 years undiagnosed for ADHD. Finding out my results to the tests tomorrow actually

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on April 15, 2015, 10:07:54 PM

What kind of tests did they have you do?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 15, 2015, 10:11:13 PM

I already saw a therapist, way back when I tried to off myself. It was pointless and concluded nothing was wrong with me. I even made a GAF thread about it. So that wasn't very helpful. A waste of time.

I just hate human snoreado and find him to be a pompous asshole who is a big douche for no reason beyond being a wanabee nihilistic try hard fuck. All I know about him is his own crybaby "my life is hard/life sucks" posts he made in this very thread. His assholishnes seems to steam from the same shit.

But I guess I should make more dick and jokes with homoerotic subtext for the bores level of humor. You people don't know me outside of this small fourm where you complain about another gay fourm with jokes stolen from another fourm. So it's not like anyone here is the patron saint humor. I have a good sense of humor when I'm not in a very antagonizing state which I am everytime a post on this fourm. Plus I just enjoy seeing what mean things people will say to me, which is actually something I should see a therapist about. Not my dislike of women.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 15, 2015, 10:14:02 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 15, 2015, 10:11:13 PM

I already saw a therapist, way back when I tried to off myself. It was pointless and concluded nothing was wrong with me. I even made a GAF thread about it. So that wasn't very helpful. A waste of time.

I just hate human snoreado and find him to be a pompous asshole who is a big douche for no reason beyond being a wanabee nihilistic try hard fuck. All I know about him is his own crybaby "my life is hard/life sucks" posts he made in this very thread. His assholishnes seems to steam from the same shit.

But I guess I should make more dick and jokes with homoerotic subtext for the bores level of humor. You people don't know me outside of this small fourm where you complain about another gay fourm with jokes stolen from another fourm. So it's not like anyone here is the patron saint humor. I have a good sense of humor when I'm not in a very antagonizing state which I am everytime a post on this fourm. Plus I just enjoy seeing what mean things people will say to me, which is actually something I should see a therapist about. Not my dislike of women.

must be exhausting.

ultimately bro...expecting women to flock to you is sucker shit. You have to better yourself. You've admitted you aren't social, you don't seem to have many social hobbies or interests, you're skinny and pasty. Summer is almost here, you have some time to try new things. Maybe start working out, even if you just buy some weights instead of going to a gym.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on April 15, 2015, 10:27:51 PM

Ultimately, women want a man that promises them a better future. If you can't even muster the energy to fake it, they won't even give ya first look.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on April 15, 2015, 11:11:31 PM

When I make this argument about myself (offline, not here) it's consistently challenged / dismissed. Now someone lying to me is hardly breaking news, but I also gotta ask that you log out of your alt AiA. :larry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on April 15, 2015, 11:25:12 PM

(http://i885.photobucket.com/albums/ac55/GabrieLuiz/Popcorn-09-Psych.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on April 15, 2015, 11:35:11 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 15, 2015, 10:11:13 PM

I already saw a therapist, way back when I tried to off myself. It was pointless and concluded nothing was wrong with me. I even made a GAF thread about it. So that wasn't very helpful. A waste of time.

I just hate human snoreado and find him to be a pompous asshole who is a big douche for no reason beyond being a wanabee nihilistic try hard fuck. All I know about him is his own crybaby "my life is hard/life sucks" posts he made in this very thread. His assholishnes seems to steam from the same shit.

But I guess I should make more dick and jokes with homoerotic subtext for the bores level of humor. You people don't know me outside of this small fourm where you complain about another gay fourm with jokes stolen from another fourm. So it's not like anyone here is the patron saint humor. I have a good sense of humor when I'm not in a very antagonizing state which I am everytime a post on this fourm. Plus I just enjoy seeing what mean things people will say to me, which is actually something I should see a therapist about. Not my dislike of women.

I went on a date last night and made out with an actual woman, so, you know, I've got that going for me.

I guarantee you that you'd benefit from therapy. Sometimes you have to try to find the right therapist for you, though. The reason I give you shit is because you try to front like there's nothing wrong with you- for all of my faults (and they're many) that is not a claim I ever try to make. But anyway, whatever, you literally bring your problems on yourself and then DON'T RECOGNIZE THEM AS PROBLEMS. I, at least, recognize my faults as faults and problems as problems. Failure to do so is textbook special fellow behavior. Have fun with your shitty attitude in your shitty life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on April 16, 2015, 12:21:13 AM

So....don't want to interrupt this back and forth going on between Raxh and everyone else, but I just wanted to say I'm batting a thousand with my new lady friend. :heartbeat

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 17, 2015, 01:02:13 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on April 15, 2015, 08:03:02 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on April 15, 2015, 07:42:20 PM
Rahx's reaction to even the possibility of seeing a therapist makes me wonder who he thinks therapy is actually for. Like do you need to be yelling at a blank television screen about the tracking device the IRS installed in your fillings before you seek help? The majority of therapists help people with exactly the type of First World Problems he describes in his self-pitying solliloquys.

no YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND he's FINE. his bitter, poisonous, and hate-filled posts aren't really him. they're just for us. they don't actually reflect his state of mind and tone. he's just a fun loving happy go lucky dude and it's literally everyone else, including women, who are at fault. he's making no mistakes whatsoever.

I know this is a parody, but it is the truth. No one in real life would describe me as a bitter and hate filled person because I'm not. The bore just brings that out. I'm not fine, but I certainly don't have any problems beyond the average person. Nothing worth talking to a therapist over and I certainly wouldn't want to tell someone I don't know anything. Plus I'm not sure having to go to a doctor and take drugs is going to really help the confidence. I already know what my problems are.

It really is women's fault. I don't know what I can possibly do to get them to notice me beyond apparently changing myself completely.

Apparently I can't be skinny even though I see men who are worse off do better. Yes it could do better to be a bit better build, but as I am now its app rant that I keep care of myself. Dirty and scummy guys do better, but I have to try harder why?

I'm also not pasty. I tan very well. So fuck whatever PD was saying there. I spend most of my summers outside.

Apparently I need better hobbies and interests. Yes, i guess I am too focused on nerdy hobbies. You know what I guess that makes me boring. Sucks for me, but that's too late. I can't help what I'm interested in. Besides you people act like all I do is love and breather video games. No, I'm not obnoxious about that stuff. I keep that to myself. Hell I don't even post that much about games here and none of my friends play games. Its not the sole thing I'm about. But apparently I have to fake being intersted in sports or some shit.

I also am more social. I'm a bit mean and stand offish, but I do talk to people and willing to go out. I dress ok, at least don't looklike a slob. I can't help that it dosent do anything.

But no it is thier fault. Not mine. I've put myself out there. They don't want it. You can't blame me for being ticked off.

No I probably shouldn't be dating, because I'd do so for the wrong reasons. Selfish reasons such as just wanting to be wanted. Being accepted is a big issue for me as I've never felt accepted anywhere. By a "race", school, a friend group, women, whatever. I didn't need to see a therapist to understand that most issues stem from that, but for all your advice you people give it seems completly useless in the real world.

Pretty much ever guy Ive known has attracted women without doing anything you people tell me you have to do. Even my good friend who is not far removed from me and in some ways much worse. He's had three gas and they've all come after him. But apparently I have to jump over hoops. It's not fair and only serves to be one further disillusioned with everything,

But that's ok. Everyone else gets to have an easy time, but I have to change everything about me to be liked. That's a great lesson. At the point it's not worth it. I'm not trying to become that Elliot kid who shoot up some women, but it becomes harder to not see them as antagonists.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 17, 2015, 01:04:40 PM

:lucas

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on April 17, 2015, 01:12:18 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 17, 2015, 01:02:13 PM

I know this is a parody, but it is the truth. No one in real life would describe me as a bitter and hate filled person because I'm not. The bore just brings that out. I'm not fine, but I certainly don't have any problems beyond the average person. Nothing worth talking to a therapist over and I certainly wouldn't want to tell someone I don't know anything. Plus I'm not sure having to go to a doctor and take drugs is going to really help the confidence. I already know what my problems are.

It really is women's fault. I don't know what I can possibly do to get them to notice me beyond apparently changing myself completely.

Apparently I can't be skinny even though I see men who are worse off do better. Yes it could do better to be a bit better build, but as I am now its app rant that I keep care of myself. Dirty and scummy guys do better, but I have to try harder why?

I'm also not pasty. I tan very well. So fuck whatever PD was saying there. I spend most of my summers outside.

Apparently I need better hobbies and interests. Yes, i guess I am too focused on nerdy hobbies. You know what I guess that makes me boring. Sucks for me, but that's too late. I can't help what I'm interested in. Besides you people act like all I do is love and breather video games. No, I'm not obnoxious about that stuff. I keep that to myself. Hell I don't even post that much about games here and none of my friends play games. Its not the sole thing I'm about. But apparently I have to fake being intersted in sports or some shit.

I also am more social. I'm a bit mean and stand offish, but I do talk to people and willing to go out. I dress ok, at least don't looklike a slob. I can't help that it dosent do anything.

But no it is thier fault. Not mine. I've put myself out there. They don't want it. You can't blame me for being ticked off.

No I probably shouldn't be dating, because I'd do so for the wrong reasons. Selfish reasons such as just wanting to be wanted. Being accepted is a big issue for me as I've never felt accepted anywhere. By a "race", school, a friend group, women, whatever. I didn't need to see a therapist to understand that most issues stem from that, but for all your advice you people give it seems completly useless in the real world.

Pretty much ever guy Ive known has attracted women without doing anything you people tell me you have to do. Even my good friend who is not far removed from me and in some ways much worse. He's had three gas and they've all come after him. But apparently I have to jump over hoops. It's not fair and only serves to be one further disillusioned with everything,

But that's ok. Everyone else gets to have an easy time, but I have to change everything about me to be liked. That's a great lesson. At the point it's not worth it. I'm not trying to become that Elliot kid who shoot up some women, but it becomes harder to not see them as antagonists.

I'm sorry, but you do not present yourself as a well-adjusted individual. The way you talk, you've developed a self-fulfilling prophecy.

When I was in graduate school I had clients with similar issues, and I work with high school students dealing with these feelings. There is no weakness in seeking out someone to work through these issues. There is a difference between being aware of them and working through them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on April 17, 2015, 01:13:52 PM

IMO, the best way to find a suitable match is play the numbers game. Even if you don't meet people you click with, or you meet people you like and it doesn't work out, it'll help to relieve some of your anxieties around women.

I'm not very attractive, am pretty reserved (but not shy), awkward, and obviously a big weeaboo with a lot of esoteric interests (believe me, the average person doesn't care what the difference between deep house, progressive house, and tech house is). But I've always managed to find girls to go on dates with, regardless with how it worked out... and that really helped me improve overall with women. You never know who you will hit it off with.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 17, 2015, 01:16:41 PM

Update for Esch – I was diagnosed with ADHD yesterday :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 17, 2015, 01:20:45 PM

these last few pages :goty

in... other news my wife kept elbowing me and shoving me in her sleep so i rolled her over on her side and basically sausaged her in blankets to restrict her movements. fast forward to this morning and i ask wtf her deal was and apparently she dreamed that i clogged the toilet and shitwater flooded our house :lol

fucking women :yuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on April 17, 2015, 01:22:15 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on April 17, 2015, 01:16:41 PM

Update for Esch – I was diagnosed with ADHD yesterday :-\

You paid for this? We have been saying this pro bono. Nintendo fan. Lel.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on April 17, 2015, 01:26:25 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on April 17, 2015, 01:20:45 PM

these last few pages :goty

in... other news my wife kept elbowing me and shoving me in her sleep so i rolled her over on her side and basically sausaged her in blankets to restrict her movements. fast forward to this morning and i ask wtf her deal was and apparently she dreamed that i clogged the toilet and shitwater flooded our house :lol

fucking women :yuck

Women are the worst :yuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 17, 2015, 01:29:08 PM

there have been days she has been mad at me for something i did in her dreams. i can't win :brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on April 17, 2015, 01:37:44 PM

A crazy coworker does that to us. Gets pissed at us for shit she dreamed, and brings the dreams back up for weeks. It's a little unsettling because she's the type to slash tires and burn down houses.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on April 17, 2015, 02:11:20 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 17, 2015, 01:02:13 PM

But apparently I have to jump over hoops. It's not fair and only serves to be one further disillusioned with everything,

But that's ok. Everyone else gets to have an easy time, but I have to change everything about me to be liked. That's a great lesson. At the point it's not worth it. I'm not trying to become that Elliot kid who shoot up some women, but it becomes harder to not see them as antagonists.

And in the same breathe you say "but no fatties lol". You're a hypocrite.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on April 17, 2015, 02:15:41 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on April 17, 2015, 01:29:08 PM

there have been days she has been mad at me for something i did in her dreams. i can't win :brazilcry

Yeah I've been there before :dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 17, 2015, 03:01:16 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on April 17, 2015, 02:11:20 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 17, 2015, 01:02:13 PM
But apparently I have to jump over hoops. It's not fair and only serves to be one further disillusioned with everything,

But that's ok. Everyone else gets to have an easy time, but I have to change everything about me to be liked. That's a great lesson. At the point it's not worth it. I'm not trying to become that Elliot kid who shoot up some women, but it becomes harder to not see them as antagonists.

And in the same breathe you say "but no fatties lol". You're a hypocrite.

Yes...........

Most people are.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on April 17, 2015, 03:16:49 PM

just promise us when the time comes you point the violence inwards and not outwards

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lennedsay on April 17, 2015, 05:05:42 PM

I don't pet cats, I don't offer anything of interest to cats, cats may find me attractive but I offer them nothing they are seeking. I don't try to get cats to like me because I want to find a cat who likes me for who I am, a person who is unwilling to offer anything of interest to cats although I easily could and still choose not to.

Fucking cats. :yuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 17, 2015, 05:28:43 PM

I would leave if I could go back to GAF, but I can't. So I stay here. Sorry you feel that way but I don't care. My annoyance entertains myself so I find it funny. I have thick skin and my feelings clearly don't break easily. If they did, I would have left this place already, but I never have.

I'm maybe casually misognist, but not really. I'm not rasist. How could I be? Not finding black women attractive on average dosent make it so. I doubt anyone here who's not black really dates black women.

I'm not desperate. If I was I'd pay women or just go for fatties.

I'm not mentally ill, if I was it would have been concluded by those theapists you all praise.

So nope.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Narolf on April 17, 2015, 05:35:33 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 17, 2015, 05:28:43 PM

I would leave if I could go back to GAF, but I can't.

I remember being as saddened as you were at some point, but I no longer am; I actually prefer TB. Boreans don't get as offended as GAFfers, generally-speaking. The only thing that frustrates me is the banner. Still didn't figure out the private joke behind it to this day...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on April 17, 2015, 06:27:31 PM

We should all just put rahx on ignore, that would be hilarious

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on April 17, 2015, 06:52:57 PM

For those catching up, this is our new operational definition of mental health:

spoiler (click to show/hide)

I'm fine. It's everyone else who makes no sense. I can't explain or understand why girls have no intrest in me. It's honestly not my real life personality. Maybe it's my looks, well I can't help that. Nor can I help being "picky". Hey no wonder I'm bitter, itt's been like that my entire life. You'd be bitter too. Yes waste time with things you have no attraction to for some sort of level up. As if people actually want to to deal and associate with people they'd have no interest in.This game is very dumb.It really is women's fault. I'm a little drunk now because lo and behold I actually go out and sociolise and am not the sociol special fellow these posts paint me as and so I shall reply to them one by one.This is complete horse shit. I don't have some xmas list that a girl needs to be in order for me to find her attarctive. Oh noes I don't find black women attractive. I simply dont find them sexually attractive, nor do I find thier ghetto personalities attractive. Sue me. My problems have nothing to do with some sort of incredible standards of women looks. Why people keep throwing that at me I don't know. I can't help what I find attractive and it sure is'nt some sort of rigid checklist. Women simply don't apprach me and have no way to appraoch women. It really is women's fault. I'm not trying to self isolate, but it just seems easier then playing this sutpid game, because at this point I can't figure out whats wrong with me. It's really not my personality. I'm not a douche, I can be funny irl, I'm not an overbearing obnoxious nerd. Is it my looks. If this is what leads me to women I simply don't find attarctive, then what am I supposed to do, just settale and be unfullfiled and miserable? I can be those things on my own. Looks are always important. Is my dick supposed to get hard staring at women I am disgusted by? I don't fucking find Black women attractive. What is so fucking hard to understand about this. I don't like thier hair, the way thier faces look, just in general everything. it does nothing for me and is not my idea of hot. Why would I want to date them when i activley don't find them attractive. It is very madding knowing that my options are pretty much just black women which only find me atteactive for my ethnic meets white features anyway. I know what I can get and it sucks, so why even bother? Years have shown me nothing else why everyone else I know acheives with no work beyond simply being a person. It sucks. It really is women's fault. Please I'm not a virgin. I'm just fucking tired of women and thier bullshit. Everytime I've taken a supposed risk it's blown up in my face and I'm the one thats been hurt. Enough of that bullshit. I'm tierd of playing the bullshit game of "is a girl intersted in me" because 100% of the time they arent. Never in my life has a girl displayed intrest in me and it;s incredibly disheartning. I'm sorry if I'm boarding on mysgonsit terrotyoty but it's hard not to when you feel you've been fucked and ingorend by the oppoasite sex for whatever reason. Meanwhile you watch everyone else seemingly have no problems. Plenty of friends have found partners without doing any of the bullshit you people talk about in this thread. Plenty of girls easily displayed interst in them. I don't know what I do that is so off putting. It's bad enough I;m extrmley self consious about the way I look, but even then I've seen uglier and less well kept dudes score chicks and they have douche personalites. Nor do I play yhr nice guy bs card, so I have no understanfing of anything. Of course I;m becmoing angry at the sutuation. Dosen't help it when you fegs treat me like shit(which bastars like human sornedo do do beyond even this topic) and put me in those fedora special fellow catogiroes. I'm not accepted anyhwere much less by women and it's extremly madding to feel disowned by every sociol group of humanity with the oppaisote sex's ignoring of you being the ultimate one. I'm 24 soon to be 25, I should have at least kissed a female and just in genearl done this shit. No experinced women is going to want such a late start case. Being bitter and somewhat angry is not a mental illness. Lacking confidence is not a mental illness. I don't have a mental illness. I'm not depressed. It's not like I have actual problems in normal human interaction or daily life. Hey I'm drunk again and at steAk and shake. A referdum! I think I'm a mysigonsit and it's silly be case it makes no sense why I would be beyond the fact that I'm annoyed that no women has ever showed intrest in me. It's very saddling to know that no wome has ever thought of you in an sexy wa that's all I want. An qttrqrctive women to think I'm attractive. No fatsos or whatever though I like thick girls whatever back to self imposed exile. I'm not a very depressing or angsty person. I never went through a "ima listen to Lincoln Park" phase or anything. I'm pretty content with most things. Just very unsatisfied and fustrated with some aspects of life. I’m almost 25 and at this point it's pathetic and aggravating with my failures. The constant "go see a theapist" crap is'nt helpful as that's not the problem. Being a nerd as some of you joke is'nt the problem as I'm not obnoxious or very evident on the surface about my nerdy things. Though hell I don't even appeal to nerdy women anyway. It may not even be my body type. Yes, it's annoying that I'm not a burly dude that most women want, but it's not like skinny dudes don't get women. I don't know what people want, but I seem to be a pariah and things like tinder and what not only reinforce this feeling. It really is women’s fault. I have an incredible sense of humor. I am an incredibly funny person in real life. It really is women's fault. No one in real life would describe me as a bitter and hate filled person because I'm not. I'm not fine, but I certainly don't have any problems beyond the average person. Nothing worth talking to a therapist over and I certainly wouldn't want to tell someone I don't know anything. Plus I'm not sure having to go to a doctor and take drugs is going to really help the confidence. I already know what my problems are. It really is women's fault. I don't know what I can possibly do to get them to notice me beyond apparently changing myself completely. Apparently I can't be skinny even though I see men who are worse off do better. Yes it could do better to be a bit better build, but as I am now its app rant that I keep care of myself. Dirty and scummy guys do better, but I have to try harder why? Apparently I need better hobbies and interests. Yes, i guess I am too focused on nerdy hobbies. You know what I guess that makes me boring. Sucks for me, but that's too late. I can't help what I'm interested in. Besides you people act like all I do is love and breather video games. No, I'm not obnoxious about that stuff. I keep that to myself. Hell I don't even post that much about games here and none of my friends play games. Its not the sole thing I'm about. But apparently I have to fake being intersted in sports or some shit. I also am more social. I'm a bit mean and stand offish, but I do talk to people and willing to go out. I dress ok, at least don't looklike a slob. I can't help that it dosent do anything. It really is women's fault, not mine. I've put myself out there. They don't want it. You can't blame me for being ticked off. No I probably shouldn't be dating, because I'd do so for the wrong reasons. Selfish reasons such as just wanting to be wanted. Being accepted is a big issue for me as I've never felt accepted anywhere. By a "race", school, a friend group, women, whatever. I didn't need to see a therapist to understand that most issues stem from that, but for all your advice you people give it seems completly useless in the real world. Pretty much ever guy Ive known has attracted women without doing anything you people tell me you have to do. Even my good friend who is not far removed from me and in some ways much worse. He's had three gas and they've all come after him. But apparently I have to jump over hoops. It really is women's fault it's not fair and only serves to be one further disillusioned with everything, But that's ok. Everyone else gets to have an easy time, but I have to change everything about me to be liked. That's a great lesson. At the point it's not worth it. I'm not trying to become that Elliot kid who shoot up some women, but it becomes harder to not see them as antagonists. I'm maybe casually misognist, but not really. I'm not rasist. How could I be? Not finding black women attractive on average dosent make it so. I doubt anyone here who's not black really dates black women. I'm not desperate. If I was I'd pay women or just go for fatties. I'm not mentally ill, if I was it would have been concluded by those theapists you all praise. So nope. It really is women's fault.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 17, 2015, 06:56:16 PM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on April 17, 2015, 06:27:31 PM

We should all just put rahx on ignore, that would be hilarious

i actually told you to do that a while ago when you started being a big douche for no reason. I don't know why you didn't?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on April 17, 2015, 07:00:36 PM

Also...

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on March 11, 2015, 04:47:27 AM

Please I'm not a virgin.

[...]

I'm 24 soon to be 25, I should have at least kissed a female and just in genearl done this shit. No experinced women is going to want such a late start case.

:ufup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on April 17, 2015, 11:22:21 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 17, 2015, 05:28:43 PM

I'm not mentally ill, if I was it would have been concluded by those theapists you all praise.

Mental health requires the patient to be honest and self-aware to be effective, it's why so many people stay in the system forever / quit because they don't get better.

Also practitioners lie / withhold the truth from patients, especially when there's concern about how they'll react to it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 17, 2015, 11:29:52 PM

Quote from: Esch on April 17, 2015, 11:04:22 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 17, 2015, 05:28:43 PM
I doubt anyone here who's not black really dates black women.

some people don't deserve their unhappiness, but you do

Why? Because I've stated I have a prefence and am sure everyone else does too? Please I've done nothing wrong and hurt no one. Whatever I guess I'm a monster. I don't need to see a theapist because I'm a terrible person somehow and don't deserve it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 18, 2015, 12:49:50 PM

It's one thing to say you're not particularly attracted to a certain set of women; it's not the most open-minded view but its honest, and thats fine. But to make such a hateful, sweeping generalization that says that no one wants to date black women other than black men is just cruel. It's not fair to people who are attracted to any person or soul, and its exponentially unfair to said women to begin with. What right do you have to paint an entire group of people with such an uninformed, lazy stroke of hate?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on April 18, 2015, 01:30:23 PM

Eric P's girlfriend is black afaik. He doesnt really post here much these days though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 18, 2015, 03:57:30 PM

In my experience, anybody I've seen with a preference for/against a particular race is either someone with shit self-image looking for a cultural trophy in a relationship or just afraid of their parents disapproving.

I don't think I've ever met a well-adjusted guy who isn't attracted to/tried dating a black person. I mean what he said about the ghetto attitude bullshit shows how juvenile his world view is and how far his social skills and principles are from the norm. He just can't figure out how to organically relate to other people at the most basic level and so there's no point in giving him advice on something like dating.

Quote from: demi on April 18, 2015, 01:30:23 PM

Eric P's girlfriend is black afaik. He doesnt really post here much these days though.

Yeah hopefully he doesn't have to see this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 18, 2015, 05:46:57 PM

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No, because you've projected your prejudice against black women onto the rest of us.

I guess, but I'm not seeing much of counter point from you people. I don't have a prejudice against black women and most certainly not black people. On average I don't find black women attractive. Sure I find plenty of the black women you guys would post in the NSFW thread attractive. Sure, but I don't see those everyday. On average I see far mor women of other races attrative than black women. I'm sorry thats the way it is. Stop crucifying me for telling the truth. Again, how many of you have actually dated or had sex with a black woman? How many of you actually pursue black women? I'm sure most of you maybe because of pure convenience, coincidence, or unconsciously have dated women of your race.

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Spend the rest of your dating life fruitlessly chasing after your perfect ideal of a white woman you self hating

Well I'm not self hating because I'm not black. Black people didn't want me so thats the way it is. I also don't only like white women. I like pretty much all minority women and I guess ideally I'd like a brownish mixed women.

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In my experience, anybody I've seen with a preference for/against a particular race is either someone with shit self-image looking for a cultural trophy in a relationship or just afraid of their parents disapproving.

Well I clearly do have a poor self image, but that can't be helped. At one point it was something of a trophy when my friend circle was mostly white guys, but I guess that's lessened since pretty much everyone I interact with on a friendly or consistent basis is a minority.

My father is dead and I don't really know how mother would think. I don't think she would care, but she wouldn't really expect a black woman.

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I don't think I've ever met a well-adjusted guy who isn't attracted to/tried dating a black person.

And I've hardly meant any non-black person who actively has tried to date a black woman. That's why interracial relationships are still noteworthy. It is'nt the norm. Yes, most men will find an obvious attractive women attractive. I'd clearly find a black women who is clearly hot, hot. That's not an issue.

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I mean what he said about the ghetto attitude bullshit shows how juvenile his world view is and how far his social skills and principles are from the norm.

Please, like this is'nt a normal stereotype. Yes I know not every black person is "ratchet" or whatever. I associate with plenty of them. Yet, I also interact because of where I live with plenty that fall into this stereotype.

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He just can't figure out how to organically relate to other people at the most basic level and so there's no point in giving him advice on something like dating.

I don't know what this means, but clearly I'm not ready for anything and according to you people I never will be.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on April 18, 2015, 05:55:02 PM

If someone is willing to put up with my bullshit and doesn't continue the seemingly unending cycle of taking a huge fucking dump on me, I don't care if they're purple.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on April 18, 2015, 09:28:03 PM

masterstroke

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 19, 2015, 01:31:51 AM

Well I guess your right wrath. Thanks for confirming what I already knew. I guess the only answer is to kill myself and not fail this time. So I will. It's what I got these sleeping pills for today. Thanks and goodbye.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on April 19, 2015, 01:42:21 AM

They won't work.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 19, 2015, 01:44:24 AM

can we have a splinter relationship thread for normal people in normal people relationships? i feel odd dropping in little marriage anecdotes after... this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on April 19, 2015, 01:46:22 AM

Christ, Rahx. You dish out vitriol but you sure as fuck can't take it. ::)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 19, 2015, 01:51:53 AM

Your issue is with your own inferiority complex over something, I don't know what but it's something and it goes into poisoning the rest of your personality. You can't pretend like there's anything that wrath said that can let you pin a suicide attempt on him.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on April 19, 2015, 02:02:35 AM

...I prefer not to get too specific.

It's the most important decision of your life, at least hit up Hemlock Society or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on April 19, 2015, 02:12:44 AM

what would Zordon think about all this...?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on April 19, 2015, 02:19:37 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on April 15, 2015, 06:38:52 PM

Look at that sense of humor guys

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on April 19, 2015, 02:46:36 AM

Um... so does anyone actually have Rahx on facebook or something, to contact people he knows? I'd rather not have suicide threats going on here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 19, 2015, 11:22:50 AM

Quote from: demi on April 19, 2015, 02:46:36 AM

Um... so does anyone actually have Rahx on facebook or something, to contact people he knows? I'd rather not have suicide threats going on here.

this too. everyone pls chill a bit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on April 19, 2015, 11:29:20 AM

I have no idea how to contact anyone, and he hasnt posted or logged in since that one. Does he live with anyone?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on April 19, 2015, 11:35:12 AM

Wrath implied he had him on FB.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on April 19, 2015, 11:46:14 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 15, 2015, 06:36:54 PM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on April 15, 2015, 06:02:02 PM
His problem is basically

F) visibly spergy
ill be very happy when you die.

#OriginStory

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Narolf on April 19, 2015, 11:56:14 AM

Don't get banned in here the moment KevinCow gets un-banned on GAF, Rahx.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on April 19, 2015, 11:58:26 AM

Cow is unbanned?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Narolf on April 19, 2015, 12:20:57 PM

Soon to be: http://neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=116923763&postcount=382

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 19, 2015, 01:10:51 PM

Rahx...smh. As the GOAT said...

Light-skinned women, bi-racial, hateful toward themselves
Denying even their blood
I don't judge Tiger Woods but I overstand the mental poison
That's even worser than drugs

:violin

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on April 19, 2015, 02:18:22 PM

Good job, guys. I hope it was worth the entertainment. :bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Narolf on April 19, 2015, 02:20:14 PM

Yeah, I sometimes suspect Rahx to be a troll. Can't figure how a pretty boy like him transpires so sad...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 20, 2015, 10:30:35 AM

:dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Narolf on April 20, 2015, 10:34:26 AM

Was she muslim too?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Narolf on April 20, 2015, 10:51:01 AM

Traditions, etc. I wouldn't expect a muslim woman to pull that stunt to be honest.

Edit: Nevermind, I am dumb. You already told us she was, lol.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on April 20, 2015, 11:40:57 AM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on April 20, 2015, 10:19:18 AM

So y'all remember my ex? The one who flew over here for a week and then broke up with me? The one who begged me to come back to the middle east so we can be together and shit? Well, turns out she's been cheating on another dude when she did all that. They're engaged and getting married next week.

These past two weeks have been amazing for all the wrong reasons.

Misery takes many forms

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on April 20, 2015, 11:54:47 AM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on April 20, 2015, 10:19:18 AM

So y'all remember my ex? The one who flew over here for a week and then broke up with me? The one who begged me to come back to the middle east so we can be together and shit? Well, turns out she's been cheating on another dude when she did all that. They're engaged and getting married next week.

These past two weeks have been amazing for all the wrong reasons.

I would find it a relief that there was an actual reason and not the way she left you hanging before.

Sitting there (post-breakup) in my own self-loathing without any real answers was the worst.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on April 20, 2015, 12:09:20 PM

Quote from: Creepy Stalker on April 20, 2015, 10:51:01 AM

Traditions, etc. I wouldn't expect a muslim woman to pull that stunt to be honest.

Edit: Nevermind, I am dumb. You already told us she was, lol.

Everything wrath posts is a stunt. If he's not giving people suicidal tendencies, he's going through a bizarre depressive episode.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 20, 2015, 12:12:07 PM

Quote from: demi on April 20, 2015, 12:09:20 PM

Quote from: Creepy Stalker on April 20, 2015, 10:51:01 AM
Traditions, etc. I wouldn't expect a muslim woman to pull that stunt to be honest.

Edit: Nevermind, I am dumb. You already told us she was, lol.

Everything wrath posts is a stunt. If he's not giving people suicidal tendencies, he's going through a bizarre depressive episode.

(http://i.imgur.com/ZlYRQB2.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 20, 2015, 03:40:14 PM

On one hand, the other guy probably would like a heads up assuming weddings happen quickly there (at least the religious/legal ceremony). On the other, it's not your problem and there's a chance he could try to fight you when you go back.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Narolf on May 07, 2015, 08:56:22 AM

One single woman, one single man; the both of them being straight. Can they merely be "very good friends"?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on May 07, 2015, 10:59:32 AM

They most certainly can

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Narolf on May 07, 2015, 11:13:38 AM

I will be honest & straight-forward, at the risk of sounding like a huge bigot devoid-ed of actual social interactions. I simply do not believe in friendships between women and men unless both are in couple, in which case a love-square may be formed at some point, depending on each one's ethics/religious beliefs of course...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on May 07, 2015, 11:21:57 AM

You're allowed to believe what you want. But it's 2015 and head is head. Not much you can do about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Narolf on May 07, 2015, 11:26:03 AM

Oh yes, you're right: physical appearance & looks are definitely parameters I forgot to include into the equation...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on May 07, 2015, 12:40:55 PM

Quote from: Creepy Stalker on May 07, 2015, 11:13:38 AM

I will be honest & straight-forward, at the risk of sounding like a huge bigot devoid-ed of actual social interactions. I simply do not believe in friendships between women and men unless both are in couple, in which case a love-square may be formed at some point, depending on each one's ethics/religious beliefs of course...

Life is not an anime.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Narolf on May 07, 2015, 01:26:45 PM

...I refuse to be a younger, weaboo EviLore! :o

I genuinely don't believe in that kind of "friendship"... but you know what? You are definitely right to some extent, since I even less believe into this!(http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/sites/default/files/imagecache/675x380/2012/05/kim_dotcom_mona_schmitz_a_h.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on May 07, 2015, 01:32:54 PM

Normal humans are able to treat other humans as friends and not just objects of sexual desire, Creepy Stalker. This is fact. You may be projecting an inability to get over not being desired sexually.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: studyguy on May 07, 2015, 01:34:41 PM

Quote from: Tasty Meat on May 07, 2015, 12:40:55 PM

Quote from: Creepy Stalker on May 07, 2015, 11:13:38 AM
I will be honest & straight-forward, at the risk of sounding like a huge bigot devoid-ed of actual social interactions. I simply do not believe in friendships between women and men unless both are in couple, in which case a love-square may be formed at some point, depending on each one's ethics/religious beliefs of course...

Life is not an anime.

Not with that attitude.
:uguu

Anyway it's not hard to keep your thirst in check if you aren't feeing for it in the first place. Feel like my relationship has settled most of the drive I had before during college. Either that or I got bored idk.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on May 07, 2015, 01:40:17 PM

Quote from: Creepy Stalker on May 07, 2015, 01:26:45 PM

...I refuse to be a younger, weaboo EviLore! :o

I genuinely don't believe in that kind of "friendship"... but you know what? You are definitely right to some extent, since I even less believe into this!(http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/sites/default/files/imagecache/675x380/2012/05/kim_dotcom_mona_schmitz_a_h.jpg)

What does this mean? You are aware that his wife fucked the poolboy and they divorced?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Narolf on May 07, 2015, 01:48:35 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on May 07, 2015, 01:32:54 PM

Normal humans are able to treat other humans as friends and not just objects of sexual desire, Creepy Stalker. This is fact. You may be projecting an inability to get over not being desired sexually.

This is definitely true, and an ability I expect to have once my virginity has been taken away.

Demi, I was aware of that, and that's exactly what I meant. Money wasn't "enough"; it's never enough to cover up a horrible human being, both physically & ethically.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 07, 2015, 01:55:55 PM

when i was in college i had plenty of single chick friends, attractive ones too, and it was never burden or source of angst etc.

Quote from: Tasty Meat on May 07, 2015, 12:40:55 PM

Quote from: Creepy Stalker on May 07, 2015, 11:13:38 AM
I will be honest & straight-forward, at the risk of sounding like a huge bigot devoid-ed of actual social interactions. I simply do not believe in friendships between women and men unless both are in couple, in which case a love-square may be formed at some point, depending on each one's ethics/religious beliefs of course...

Life is not an anime.

now someone tells me! :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on May 07, 2015, 01:56:03 PM

Quote from: Creepy Stalker on May 07, 2015, 01:26:45 PM

(http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/sites/default/files/imagecache/675x380/2012/05/kim_dotcom_mona_schmitz_a_h.jpg)

Huh, Jim Sterling is doing well for himself.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Narolf on May 07, 2015, 01:58:39 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on May 07, 2015, 01:55:55 PM

when i was in college i had plenty of single chick friends, attractive ones too, and it was never burden or source of angst etc.
Quote from: Tasty Meat on May 07, 2015, 12:40:55 PM
Quote from: Creepy Stalker on May 07, 2015, 11:13:38 AM
I will be honest & straight-forward, at the risk of sounding like a huge bigot devoid-ed of actual social interactions. I simply do not believe in friendships between women and men unless both are in couple, in which case a love-square may be formed at some point, depending on each one's ethics/religious beliefs of course...

Life is not an anime.
now someone tells me! :-\

Because you were attractive/confident yourself. On that note, I am yet to see an attractive person insecure.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on May 07, 2015, 02:01:45 PM

They're good at hiding it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on May 07, 2015, 02:33:43 PM

In my experience (obviously not speaking personally since I'm like a 5), attractive people are pretty much wrecks emotionally. The attention they get makes them believe they have to be more than they are, and they fail to meet their own impossibly high standards.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on May 07, 2015, 02:49:29 PM

Quote from: Creepy Stalker on May 07, 2015, 01:58:39 PM

Because you were attractive/confident yourself. On that note, I am yet to see an attractive person insecure.

The first step would be to getting off of the Internet and getting out of your house to actually see people in general.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on May 07, 2015, 03:05:56 PM

plz don't encourage Creepy Stalker to go around other people

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Narolf on May 07, 2015, 03:09:37 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/maL4Wl.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on May 07, 2015, 03:09:40 PM

Quote from: Big Jumbo on May 07, 2015, 03:05:56 PM

plz don't encourage Creepy Stalker to go around other people

Unless it's to turn himself in to the authorities.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on May 07, 2015, 03:42:55 PM

i'm friends with lots of hott ladyfolk i don't wanna bone, and i'm as painfully cishet as you can get

spoiler (click to show/hide)

shaka :drool

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 07, 2015, 04:19:22 PM

I only have like two guy friends anymore, but I'm regularly molested (by gals :yuck).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 07, 2015, 05:30:12 PM

In my experience the only people who pimp "men can't be friends with women" tripe are either PUA types or social outcasts. I have a lady friends who are hot and single, we're able to do shit without awkwardness. TBH the thing that ruins most male/female friendships is dudes who think any woman being nice to them=wants to date or have sex with them. I don't get the impression that chicks think that way, it's like an exclusive dude thing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on May 07, 2015, 06:04:46 PM

Mostly, don't discount the thirstiness of women tho

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on May 07, 2015, 06:57:09 PM

the d compels

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Narolf on May 07, 2015, 06:59:09 PM

In my experience the only people who pimp "men can't be friends with women" tripe are either PUA types or social outcasts.

PUA types are the worst and they all start as social outcasts--case in point being, EviLore. I am not so sure where he falls into nowadays, but he definitely was a PUA at some point; not the worst kind, though.

PUA rarely get girls who look better than average. Remember when EL simped on TAM big time? "I thought you were different", etc. That one quote was a straight insult to her intelligence. The irony? He would have probably labeled me a PUA if I called him out on that in the open...

TBH the thing that ruins most male/female friendships is dudes who think any woman being nice to them=wants to date or have sex with them

Mostly, don't discount the thirstiness of women tho

Women are "allowed" to creep on men because men remain less vulnerable than women physically-speaking.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on May 07, 2015, 07:27:05 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on May 07, 2015, 03:42:55 PM

i'm friends with lots of hott ladyfolk i don't wanna bone, and i'm as painfully cishet as you can get

spoiler (click to show/hide)
shaka :drool
[close]

My best friend is a 24 year old ballerina

spoiler (click to show/hide)

People give us uncomfortable looks all the time :(

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: OnlyRegret on May 07, 2015, 08:35:32 PM

I'm sure there is someone out there for a person even as unique as Creepy Stalker.

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on May 07, 2015, 06:57:09 PM

the d compels

First person I've seen banned on this site.
Hm...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brob on May 07, 2015, 08:39:44 PM

Quote from: OnlyRegret on May 07, 2015, 08:35:32 PM

First person I've seen banned on this site.
Hm...

:teehee

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 07, 2015, 08:50:16 PM

Quote from: Steve Contra on May 07, 2015, 07:27:05 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on May 07, 2015, 03:42:55 PM
i'm friends with lots of hott ladyfolk i don't wanna bone, and i'm as painfully cishet as you can get

spoiler (click to show/hide)
shaka :drool
[close]
My best friend is a 24 year old ballerina

spoiler (click to show/hide)
People give us uncomfortable looks all the time :(
[close]

gonna need more info on this dude

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on May 07, 2015, 08:51:27 PM

Why are Creepy Stalker's examples about EviLore? Raise the bar a little, man.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 07, 2015, 08:56:34 PM

Quote from: OnlyRegret on May 07, 2015, 08:35:32 PM

I'm sure there is someone out there for a person even as unique as Creepy Stalker.

If Creepy Stalker finds someone I will undo the "gg ff" I typed in the allchat of life and start rat Dota'ing like my name is nezumi-sama.

NO PRESSURE MON AMI.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on May 07, 2015, 08:57:49 PM

Haven't had sex since November bros :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 07, 2015, 08:59:16 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on May 07, 2015, 08:57:49 PM

Haven't had sex since November bros :-\

But Sibling Day was last month.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on May 07, 2015, 09:17:17 PM

Quote from: Vularai on May 07, 2015, 04:19:22 PM

I only have like two guy friends anymore, but I'm regularly molested (by gals :yuck).

gals :-X

vagina :yuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Narolf on May 07, 2015, 10:52:06 PM

Quote from: OnlyRegret on May 07, 2015, 08:35:32 PM

I'm sure there is someone out there for a person even as unique as Creepy Stalker.

:D

;)

Quote from: demi on May 07, 2015, 08:51:27 PM

Why are Creepy Stalker's examples about EviLore? Raise the bar a little, man.

He was also a shut-in in his younger days, and I attempted to make a living off Dissidia Forums once.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on May 08, 2015, 11:08:36 AM

this forum's all about filthy peen cravings. see: our mascot, phoenixdark

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on May 08, 2015, 11:10:28 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 07, 2015, 08:59:16 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on May 07, 2015, 08:57:49 PM
Haven't had sex since November bros :-\

But Sibling Day was last month.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Narolf on May 08, 2015, 11:11:03 AM

I would like to use this to get the Head Is Head point across someone; will I transpire misogynistic?https://youtu.be/bS0Wk-oKoEk

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on May 08, 2015, 11:29:25 AM

Probably. "Head is Head" refers to getting sexual favors regardless of gender and looks. Times are different than back then. hashtag yolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Narolf on May 08, 2015, 11:38:40 AM

Loss in translation then. I thought it meant Nice guy getting laid with an ugly girl who is in love with him. Thanks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on May 08, 2015, 11:40:37 AM

Quote from: Creepy Stalker on May 07, 2015, 06:59:09 PM

Women are "allowed" to creep on men because men remain less vulnerable than women physically-speaking.

wut

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on May 08, 2015, 11:45:43 AM

Showing a clip from a show will be more lost in translation without context. Even I don't know what the context is, someone who has watched the show would have to explain.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Narolf on May 08, 2015, 12:16:28 PM

Quote from: Barry Egan on May 08, 2015, 11:40:37 AM

Quote from: Creepy Stalker on May 07, 2015, 06:59:09 PM
Women are "allowed" to creep on men because men remain less vulnerable than women physically-speaking.

wut

https://youtu.be/fWNaR-rxAic

Women "creeping on" men is cute; at worst the girl is ugly and the guy says Nah, thanks. Men creeping on women makes them uncomfortable if the brand of creeping is inappropriate, moreover if the dude isn't pretty.

Demi, I didn't watch the show and understood the meaning behind that scene.

This is how it goes in the matter at hand.

Dude is rather attractive but a huge flock for reasons I cannot even explain myself.
Girl is ugly but confident, an Arty.
Dude is very clearly insecure even though he looks great, and definitely a Head Is Head kind of guy.
Girl is virgin.

I just want to help the poor girl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 08, 2015, 12:20:27 PM

You seem to be magically unaware of the fact that women "creeping" on men isn't creepy because women don't go around sexually assaulting men, statistically speaking.

Here's a life tip that you are in dire need of: creeping on ANYONE isn't really a thing you should do. For the love of fuck, go get your head examined and stop filling forums full of bullshit, you fucking lunatic.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Narolf on May 08, 2015, 12:40:40 PM

You seem to be magically unaware of the fact that women "creeping" on men isn't creepy because women don't go around sexually assaulting men, statistically speaking.

That is exactly what I was saying. You just put it in proper words.

Here's a life tip that you are in dire need of: creeping on ANYONE isn't really a thing you should do.

Are we at a point where engaging in conversations with women is deemed to be creeping?

For the love of fuck, go get your head examined and stop filling forums full of bullshit, you fucking lunatic.

NeoF/r/agots' massive, enormous and vomiting lies.

Creepy Stalker is literally a lunatic, no hyperbole. He thinks he has all these special relationships with online girls that want nothing to do with him, especially after he intrudes into their personal lives. Now he's creeping on backslashbunny's blog after reading her posts on a forum he was banned from years ago. Six months from now he will be explaining to everyone how he came to obtain her personal contact information. He will say it's all a misunderstanding, while pointing to all the great "chats" (obsessively creeping on her blog) he had with her at 4am as proof they were GOOD FRIENDS. A platonic Squall and Rinoa, honest.

http://www.reddit.com/r/NeoFAG/comments/32r2cb/turns_out_neogaf_cuck_narolf_who_was_sperging_up/

Context: https://backslashbunny.wordpress.com/2015/04/14/abnormal/#comments

I wanted to discuss her ban: anyone else but her labeled my act "creeping".

Rinoa was the only GAFfer I actually crept out: http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=43156.msg2029651#msg2029651

Are you following the other thread? Did you notice how Bork leave Paola out of all the women I crept on?

Apart from her, please do continue in believing Kagari wants to have nothing to do with me, and carry on your crusade, whoever you are thinking to defend in your distorded mind could be. I am now completely used to deal with Creepy Old Guys (https://youtu.be/lw9ENjPjEFg) pulling massive misinformations out of their hairy assholes such as you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 08, 2015, 12:55:21 PM

:umad

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on May 08, 2015, 12:55:38 PM

Creepy Stalker, use the quote feature for your replies. Snorenado isn't coming to that conclusion from some Reddit shit, he's getting that from your posts here.

And for the love of fuck, LEAVE THE CREEPING SHIT IN YOUR OWN THREAD.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Barry Egan on May 08, 2015, 01:26:35 PM

at first I thought your statements weren't substantial, but the pop song for 12 year olds and the obscure NeoGAF picture from 5 years ago (?) have really opened my eyes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on May 08, 2015, 05:11:20 PM

i suggest sticking to moe, as actual women, what with being humans and all, are nothing like your reductivist cultural stereotypes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 08, 2015, 05:33:07 PM

Warnings for not using quotes? Narloff is exploiting every Bore loophole. The greatest Bore heel of all time.
:neogaf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 08, 2015, 05:33:26 PM

Tsundere :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 10, 2015, 11:30:36 AM

On another note, in the past month I've been seeing (banging) a single mom with huge titties. I know it's not going anywhere, I'm just enjoying the ride (lol) while it lasts.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on June 04, 2015, 06:15:48 AM

Well, that was fun while it lasted. The girl that I've been seeing for the past two months finally broke up with me tonight.

A little background on what happened. We met on OKC and hit it off amazingly well. Before we knew it, we were seeing each other several times per week. This was just fine because she lived like 10 minutes away from me.

But then about a month later, she moved into a new place that provided a whole host of problems. It was way further than where she was originally (and in the complete opposite direction), the parking was absolutely atrocious, and worst of all, she was living in a fucking loft. What's wrong with a loft? Nothing. At least normally. But she was sharing a loft with a fricken roommate. This would be bad enough, but said roommate also happened to work from home, thus guaranteeing there would be very little privacy to be had between us ever again.

It was a pretty shitty situation, but we tried to make the most of it by just hanging out in her car in her garage or some abandoned street. Yes, it wasn't the most ideal situation, but it was something. But the past two weeks she started acting a bit different. She became more noticeably quiet and wasn't interested in fooling around in the car anymore. I had a feeling that this was gonna lead up to something and today she came right out and said it.

She insisted that it had nothing to do with anything that I did, but that our situation at the moment just would not work out. She was also stressed with work and was worried about whether her roommate would come through with the rent, and bills, and all this other stuff that was constantly on her mind.

I didn't want this to happen, but I understood where she was coming from. It was a pain for me especially cause I had to keep driving to her place and leave early in the morning, which wasn't a very fun trek. In certain ways it was probably a good thing that this happened, and while I was preparing myself for the eventual day, I was still pretty depressed.

On the plus side, we did end on good terms. We held each other one last time for a long while before we kissed goodbye for the last time. It's a real shame, she was the best girlfriend I had in years. It's most likely gonna be a good while until I find someone like her again. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on June 04, 2015, 10:34:14 AM

That's a bummer man. Sounds like it was great while it lasted. However,

Quote

She insisted that it had nothing to do with anything that I did, but that our situation at the moment just would not work out.

This is a go to response for ANYONE who just isn't feeling the other person anymore. Don't take this as an insult, though. I used to (and still do, sometimes) always take it so personally and lash out at myself, believing there is something wrong with me and that I am not good enough for anyone. It doesn't mean you're not good enough, it doesn't mean you're not on her level....it just means that you're different.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, you're allowed to grieve over the end of this relationship, but you need to keep your eyes forward and use this experience as a learning opportunity for self-improvement. Don't expect her to change her mind, don't expect her to come back to you. Learn from my mistakes when I encountered the same situation. I ended up royally fucking up potential friendships because of my irresponsible handling of a very common end to relationships.

You'll be back in the game in no time. Buck up buddy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 04, 2015, 11:09:14 AM

Sorry, O.

Was your place not feasible?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on June 04, 2015, 03:16:22 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on June 04, 2015, 10:34:14 AM

That's a bummer man. Sounds like it was great while it lasted. However,

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She insisted that it had nothing to do with anything that I did, but that our situation at the moment just would not work out.

This is a go to response for ANYONE who just isn't feeling the other person anymore. Don't take this as an insult, though. I used to (and still do, sometimes) always take it so personally and lash out at myself, believing there is something wrong with me and that I am not good enough for anyone. It doesn't mean you're not good enough, it doesn't mean you're not on her level....it just means that you're different.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, you're allowed to grieve over the end of this relationship, but you need to keep your eyes forward and use this experience as a learning opportunity for self-improvement. Don't expect her to change her mind, don't expect her to come back to you. Learn from my mistakes when I encountered the same situation. I ended up royally fucking up potential friendships because of my irresponsible handling of a very common end to relationships.

You'll be back in the game in no time. Buck up buddy.

Thanks, dude.

Quote from: Vularai on June 04, 2015, 11:09:14 AM

Sorry, O.

Was your place not feasible?

Sadly nay, on account of there already being another woman occupying my apartment.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

My ma :-\ :-\ :-\

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 04, 2015, 03:33:24 PM

My reaction went from "Oblivion the pimp? :leon" to "oh... :brazilcry" upon clicking that spoiler.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on June 04, 2015, 03:43:11 PM

Let us be clear here. I don't live with her, she lives with me. :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: studyguy on June 04, 2015, 03:51:16 PM

Quote from: Oblivion on June 04, 2015, 03:43:11 PM

Let us be clear here. I don't live with her, she lives with me. :maf

That's a pretty big distinction.
I've booted my girl once out of my pad about a year and a half back for her acting like a fool.
It felt shitty for a bit and we ended up back together, but I wasn't the one out of a place to live for a week.
:win

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 04, 2015, 03:55:41 PM

Trust other people brehs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 04, 2015, 03:56:06 PM

Quote from: studyguy on June 04, 2015, 03:51:16 PM

Quote from: Oblivion on June 04, 2015, 03:43:11 PM
Let us be clear here. I don't live with her, she lives with me. :maf

That's a pretty big distinction.
I've booted my girl once out of my pad about a year and a half back for her acting like a fool.
It felt shitty for a bit and we ended up back together, but I wasn't the one out of a place to live for a week.
:win

I would have taken her in.
:tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: studyguy on June 04, 2015, 04:04:55 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 04, 2015, 03:56:06 PM

Quote from: studyguy on June 04, 2015, 03:51:16 PM
Quote from: Oblivion on June 04, 2015, 03:43:11 PM
Let us be clear here. I don't live with her, she lives with me. :maf

That's a pretty big distinction.
I've booted my girl once out of my pad about a year and a half back for her acting like a fool.
It felt shitty for a bit and we ended up back together, but I wasn't the one out of a place to live for a week.
:win

I would have taken her in.
:tocry

How do you feel about white jewish chicks?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 04, 2015, 04:08:50 PM

Quote from: studyguy on June 04, 2015, 04:04:55 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 04, 2015, 03:56:06 PM
Quote from: studyguy on June 04, 2015, 03:51:16 PM
Quote from: Oblivion on June 04, 2015, 03:43:11 PM
Let us be clear here. I don't live with her, she lives with me. :maf

That's a pretty big distinction.
I've booted my girl once out of my pad about a year and a half back for her acting like a fool.
It felt shitty for a bit and we ended up back together, but I wasn't the one out of a place to live for a week.
:win

I would have taken her in.
:tocry

How do you feel about white jewish chicks?

I already have a neurotic cat, pass.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

what's the ass like tho

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: studyguy on June 04, 2015, 04:12:54 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 04, 2015, 04:08:50 PM

Quote from: studyguy on June 04, 2015, 04:04:55 PM
Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 04, 2015, 03:56:06 PM
Quote from: studyguy on June 04, 2015, 03:51:16 PM
Quote from: Oblivion on June 04, 2015, 03:43:11 PM
Let us be clear here. I don't live with her, she lives with me. :maf

That's a pretty big distinction.
I've booted my girl once out of my pad about a year and a half back for her acting like a fool.
It felt shitty for a bit and we ended up back together, but I wasn't the one out of a place to live for a week.
:win

I would have taken her in.
:tocry

How do you feel about white jewish chicks?

I already have a neurotic cat, pass.

spoiler (click to show/hide)
what's the ass like tho
[close]

:whew
Her Italian mother blessed her with some fine assets. Top to bottom.
And a temper too, which I've had to stamp the fuck out in the past, thus the split.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on June 04, 2015, 08:16:25 PM

mmmmm, batshit insane thick-ass mediterraneans

:mouf xxxtreme hatefucks :mouf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on June 04, 2015, 11:32:57 PM

Quote from: studyguy on June 04, 2015, 04:12:54 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 04, 2015, 04:08:50 PM
Quote from: studyguy on June 04, 2015, 04:04:55 PM
Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 04, 2015, 03:56:06 PM
Quote from: studyguy on June 04, 2015, 03:51:16 PM
Quote from: Oblivion on June 04, 2015, 03:43:11 PM
Let us be clear here. I don't live with her, she lives with me. :maf

That's a pretty big distinction.
I've booted my girl once out of my pad about a year and a half back for her acting like a fool.
It felt shitty for a bit and we ended up back together, but I wasn't the one out of a place to live for a week.
:win

I would have taken her in.
:tocry

How do you feel about white jewish chicks?

I already have a neurotic cat, pass.

spoiler (click to show/hide)
what's the ass like tho
[close]

:whew
Her Italian mother blessed her with some fine assets. Top to bottom.
And a temper too, which I've had to stamp the fuck out in the past, thus the split.

Nice. My girl was like that, minus the temper. She was a real genetic unicorn almost. A thin, White girl with massive melons, an ass that would put your average Latina's to shame, and practically zero belly fat. :ohhh :rejoice :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on June 08, 2015, 11:10:21 PM

Wife and I are separating. Don't want to make a big deal about it. Just wanted to day it sucks. That's all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 08, 2015, 11:36:53 PM

Damn man, sorry to hear that. Hope things work out for the best.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 08, 2015, 11:52:04 PM

Wow man, sorry to hear that...

:fbm

hang in there man, stay strong for the kids.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 09, 2015, 12:03:28 AM

Dang, sorry AiA.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: PlayDat on June 09, 2015, 12:45:04 AM

That sucks. Sorry breh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on June 09, 2015, 12:58:46 AM

Sorry AiA :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on June 09, 2015, 01:20:42 AM

That blows. Sorry AIA.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: El Babua on June 09, 2015, 02:03:16 AM

Sorry to hear man.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on June 09, 2015, 02:39:07 AM

Damn AiA, I'm sorry dude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 09, 2015, 08:34:54 AM

Damn, sorry to hear that AiA. Stay strong.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on June 09, 2015, 10:31:43 AM

We won't separate from you, bro :tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on June 09, 2015, 10:34:40 AM

That must really fucking suck, dude :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on June 09, 2015, 10:52:52 AM

Damn, sorry to hear that AIA. I hope it works out for you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on June 09, 2015, 11:14:31 AM

Thanks guys. It was a mutual decision. We'll see what happens in a few months. For now, I suppose I get to leave my house and find another one :-/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: studyguy on June 09, 2015, 11:40:09 AM

Damn son

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on June 09, 2015, 02:50:31 PM

Fuck man that sucks. I honestly have no idea what I'd be like if it came to that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on June 10, 2015, 11:15:09 AM

I really don't know what to say other than I'm sorry AIA. At least in a few months the tension will be lower.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: dkdk on June 10, 2015, 06:31:04 PM

damn. stay up bruh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on June 10, 2015, 07:27:47 PM

ugh. that really sucks. hope you and the kids can pull through well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on June 11, 2015, 06:33:12 AM

Shit, AiA, that is a sad thing to hear. I'm sure you'll handle it well, and be there for your kids.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 12, 2015, 06:58:08 AM

Feeling pretty in the dumps. The SO and me had a big spout cause she's fucking crazy, and took some time off, we talked for days straight, and things seemed sweet and kind to each other, and then she found a new dick from a stalker dude who'd been an admirer trying to get with her for months now (her not cutting off these admirers she would get was always a huge red flag and basis for many fights) and she's moving out and into his place and everything's over.

That's fine and all, but what hurts is that I stayed with her for two years despite all the insane awful shit she did that would fill books because despite everything she really really loved me and that love was genuine and I loved her too. I really trusted that love and felt it was her most redeeming quality.

So her getting a new dick within a week, turning totally cold and leaving feels pretty bad man. Feels like the biggest fucking betrayal ever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on June 12, 2015, 07:11:35 AM

I'm so sorry you have to feel this way, after all the trouble you went through to be decent to her. From what you explained before in this thread about her issues, there was absolutely nothing you could have done and it's important you don't blame yourself.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on June 12, 2015, 07:45:25 AM

That really sucks Bebpo, but at some point you'll realize that you dodged a bullet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on June 12, 2015, 08:03:59 AM

Bebpo, this is probably the best thing that could have happened to you.

Make sure you don't take her back.

Whatever need in you she had been filling, you probably want to take a good, long look at. It wasn't good for you.

But you probably just want to vent in this thread, you are about as likely to take advice or consolation from us as you ever have been, which is "not very likely," so I will simply say that I hope you get past this as a stronger and more insightful person. You are a genuinely nice guy, and it's sad when you suffer.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on June 12, 2015, 10:22:37 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on June 12, 2015, 06:58:08 AM

That's fine and all, but what hurts is that I stayed with her for two years despite all the insane awful shit she did that would fill books because despite everything she really really loved me and that love was genuine and I loved her too. I really trusted that love and felt it was her most redeeming quality.

Sorry about that.

I know you need to feel like the love was real, so you don't beat yourself up and feel like you wasted years of your life ... but someone that genuinely loves another person doesn't treat them the way she treated you.

You're going to need to deprogram yourself from thinking that love equals strong emotions (both positive and negative). She didn't have love for you. You were just a safe place for her until she could find a new safe place to land.

She will keep repeating her cycle and so will you (only falling for crazy people), unless you retrain yourself.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on June 12, 2015, 10:24:56 AM

I have spent the last five days with a girl that I have incredibly strong feelings for already. All last night, we stayed up and just looked at each other, kissing. It was a great, amazing night. I couldn't take my eyes off of her :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 12, 2015, 11:27:32 AM

Sorry, bebpo. If you want to grab a beer or something let me know. I feel a lot of the same stuff sometimes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on June 12, 2015, 11:28:31 AM

bebpo come hang out and have alcohol with me and slime at e3.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 12, 2015, 11:32:19 AM

Bebpo, I don't want to say that literally everyone on the forum told you not to continue putting time and energy into a relationship with that women REPEATEDLY, but literally everyone on the forum told you not to continue putting time and energy into a relationship with that woman, so it's kind of hard to feel bad for you at this point. I'll just say that I hope you actually learned something this time and will get her out of your life and move onto better things. You deserve better.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on June 12, 2015, 11:40:04 AM

Come on man, there are times to be a dick and times not to be a dick

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 12, 2015, 11:47:40 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on June 12, 2015, 11:40:04 AM

Come on man, there are times to be a dick and times not to be a dick

I don't think what he said is dickish. One of the hardest things to learn in life is to be able to digest and look at outside opinions without emotion. I think most people went through what bebpo went through. Everyone tells you it's a bad idea, you don't listen because they just don't understand and when it all falls apart you can reevaluate what people told you or make more excuses about why they were still wrong.

Bebpo, you deserve better and I hope you find it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on June 12, 2015, 12:29:34 PM

Let me be the dick.

Is she fucking a ghost now?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 12, 2015, 12:44:33 PM

Sorry Bebs. We warned you about the admirers, how she didn't seem to appreciate you, and the liability of her health. At least you didn't knock her up.

You dodged a bullet. I'd imagine her new dick doesn't have the money to keep up with her crazy shit, meaning she'll be calling you up again before winter. Don't fall for it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on June 12, 2015, 08:34:14 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 12, 2015, 12:44:33 PM

You dodged a bullet. I'd imagine her new dick doesn't have the money to keep up with her crazy shit, meaning she'll be calling you up again before winter. Don't fall for it.

Bebs, I'm sorry you're going through this. I'd bet money the bolded will happen eventually. And unfortunately you'll fall for it. But please prove me wrong.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on June 12, 2015, 11:04:55 PM

for some reason, i thought you were engaged to her...?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on June 12, 2015, 11:07:29 PM

love's just a chemical. for some folks, it's on and off like a switch, and usually in a relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 12, 2015, 11:12:47 PM

Greater love hath no wo/man than this, that a wo/man lay off his or her love switch for his or her friends.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on June 14, 2015, 10:51:22 PM

the love switch :phil

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on June 14, 2015, 11:34:36 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on June 14, 2015, 10:51:22 PM

the love switch :phil

Get over here and toggle my love switch, you swishy, 'spergy, depleted uranium deposit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on June 14, 2015, 11:57:42 PM

i'll trip your breaker and blow your fuse my friend :cody

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Howard Alan Treesong on June 16, 2015, 09:28:39 PM

bebpo pls :goty2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on June 16, 2015, 09:32:26 PM

i got nothin' for bebs but -- and i am not a religious man -- GOD SAVE YOU FROM YOURSELF

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 16, 2015, 11:20:11 PM

Bebs, you're a really cool person and definitely didn't deserve all the hardship she put you through. I have faith you will quickly bounce back and meet someone much more deserving of you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on June 16, 2015, 11:46:50 PM

Quote from: tiesto on June 16, 2015, 11:20:11 PM

Bebs, you're a really cool person and definitely didn't deserve all the hardship she put you through. I have faith you will quickly bounce back and meet someone much more deserving of you.

lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on June 17, 2015, 12:02:42 AM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on June 16, 2015, 11:46:50 PM

Quote from: tiesto on June 16, 2015, 11:20:11 PM
Bebs, you're a really cool person and definitely didn't deserve all the hardship she put you through. I have faith you will quickly bounce back and meet someone much more deserving of you.

lol

:'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 17, 2015, 12:06:07 AM

Quote from: tiesto on June 16, 2015, 11:20:11 PM

Bebs, you're a really cool person and definitely didn't deserve all the hardship she put you through. I have faith you will quickly bounce back and meet someone much more deserving of you.

Well, Treesong did magically re-appear the minute Bepbo became single...

:uguu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on August 03, 2015, 05:24:46 AM

Here you go bebs

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 03, 2015, 10:38:55 AM

Here you go, Bebs:
(http://i.imgur.com/zfjzZrz.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 03, 2015, 10:42:48 AM

I'm glad the situation was resolved. Work probably makes it hard but you'll find someone soon enough I'm sure.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: T234 on August 03, 2015, 11:15:18 AM

One of my friends is in the middle of doing exactly what Bebpo did. With a much more violent girl. This broad has broken more than $10,000 worth of electronics and shit during her last three breakups. The first time I ever saw her, she went into a screaming fit in my living room so bad I had to get out of my own house. I now keep a Zoo tranquilizer gun at my house just in case she shows back up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 03, 2015, 11:32:21 AM

I'm hardly the relationship exemplar, and in fact this contributed to my current state, but I'm really glad that I have a zero tolerance policy for emotional outbursts. :spock:

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 03, 2015, 11:36:03 AM

What about emotional neglect and/or passive aggressiveness?
:leon

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CajoleJuice on August 03, 2015, 02:37:54 PM

Quote from: Vularai on August 03, 2015, 11:32:21 AM

I'm hardly the relationship exemplar, and in fact this contributed to my current state, but I'm really glad that I have a zero tolerance policy for emotional outbursts. :spock:

this is why i hold everything in, dad

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 03, 2015, 09:26:08 PM

As an update, I've been with a girl for the past two months. We hang out maybe a couple times a week. She's DTF whenever, wherever, which is nice.

A friend of mine tipped me off about an over 30s singles event coming up. He's went before and said it's a bunch of creepy, desperate MILFs and cougars and that he got a blowski out of the deal. I'm going to go, I'm hoping for the same thing.

I've had a greater appreciation for the single life in recent weeks. The feeling of doing whatever you want whenever you want is nice to me. With various work and school stresses, it's a nice and fun diversion.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 03, 2015, 09:43:11 PM

An expat acquaintance whom I've known for a few years is moving back to the USA to try and find work. He says he's been making less money every year for the last seven years teaching English. What's freaking me out is that he's leaving behind two kids and separating from his wife, stating that money has made things consistently stressful.

I feel really bad for him; I hope this is a wake-up call for him. I can't imagine being separate from my kids for any extended time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 03, 2015, 10:27:45 PM

Quote from: CajoleJuice on August 03, 2015, 02:37:54 PM

Quote from: Vularai on August 03, 2015, 11:32:21 AM
I'm hardly the relationship exemplar, and in fact this contributed to my current state, but I'm really glad that I have a zero tolerance policy for emotional outbursts. :spock:

this is why i hold everything in, dad

AND LOOK HOW YOU TURNED OUT! :smug *gestures to the ruins of your life*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 03, 2015, 10:33:50 PM

Emotional neglect - I take a regimen of pills and intramuscular injections of varying cost and clinically proven efficacy that would probably astonish PED using athletes just so that I will not have to suffer unabating melancholy (note, I said unabating melancholy, not melancholy); I don't think it's really a reasonable relationship expectation to expect anything but emotional neglect.

Emotional passive aggressiveness - Only if it's expressed in an amusing fashion, practical jokes for example.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 06, 2015, 12:22:05 AM

Reading through dating profile

Ok this girl sounds cool maybe I'll message her right -

Quote

I spend a lot of time thinking about

Racism, the prison industrial complex, what I want to eat, slapping some people, booty, how they killed Darwin in X-men: First Class when his power was continuous circumstantial evolution for self protection, the tiddies, how there is no ethical consumption under capitalism, WHY DIDN'T ZUKO AND KATARA END UP TOGETHER LIKE SRLY?, orgasms.

:stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 06, 2015, 12:41:18 AM

how there is no ethical consumption under capitalism

:dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on August 06, 2015, 01:05:44 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 06, 2015, 12:22:05 AM

Reading through dating profile

Ok this girl sounds cool maybe I'll message her right -

Quote
I spend a lot of time thinking about

Racism, the prison industrial complex, what I want to eat, slapping some people, booty, how they killed Darwin in X-men: First Class when his power was continuous circumstantial evolution for self protection, the tiddies, how there is no ethical consumption under capitalism, WHY DIDN'T ZUKO AND KATARA END UP TOGETHER LIKE SRLY?, orgasms.

:stahp

thas bae

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 06, 2015, 01:32:13 AM

the worse feeling is being 300 miles away and having to hear your SO crying on the phone about a problem you can't do anything about. :fbm

few more weeks until this long distance bullshit is over

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on August 06, 2015, 01:37:06 AM

There's a cute new girl at work who i think is giving me the stare down. I think I'm going to try this one.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on August 06, 2015, 01:43:33 AM

Darwin was fucking weaksauce and deserved to die first.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 06, 2015, 10:33:44 AM

Quote from: Vularai on August 06, 2015, 12:41:18 AM

how there is no ethical consumption under capitalism

:dead

All this time...I should have known Benji was a strong black woman who doesn't need no cisman.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 06, 2015, 11:25:36 AM

Quote from: toku on August 06, 2015, 01:05:44 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 06, 2015, 12:22:05 AM
Reading through dating profile

Ok this girl sounds cool maybe I'll message her right -

Quote

I spend a lot of time thinking about

Racism, the prison industrial complex, what I want to eat, slapping some people, booty, how they killed Darwin in X-men: First Class when his power was continuous circumstantial evolution for self protection, the tiddies, how there is no ethical consumption under capitalism, WHY DIDN'T ZUKO AND KATARA END UP TOGETHER LIKE SRLY?, orgasms.

:stahp

thas bae

i'd hit it twice :jawalrus

spoiler (click to show/hide)

then run like fukk :goty

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 09, 2015, 01:39:49 AM

94% match, cute lady, let me read her summary and see if -

Quote

I am (flexibly) polyamorous, biromantic, and asexual. What does that mean?
Polyamorous = prefers to carry on committed relationships with multiple partners, conducted honestly and openly. This is primarily because I, as an asexual (see below), am worried that I alone cannot fulfill your needs sexually as I am naturally nearly celibate.
Biromantic = romantically attracted to both men and women.
Asexual = Uninterested in sex. I may have it on occasion, but I have no desire for it. Sex just ain't my thing.

:what

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 09, 2015, 01:41:49 AM

match numbers don't lie b

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 09, 2015, 03:07:48 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on August 09, 2015, 01:41:49 AM

match numbers don't lie b

:dead

However, it seems she's uninterested in men's penises, so that accounts for the 6% slippage.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Positive Touch on August 09, 2015, 08:29:18 AM

dude why don't you try christianmingle

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 09, 2015, 08:32:20 AM

So basically she's just looking for friends?

Overall, the online dating experience is far inferior to offline. I had better luck just wandering around running errands than going online. Mostly because offline, you never run into special snowflakes like that girl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 09, 2015, 10:25:58 AM

few more weeks away from not being long distance anymore :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 09, 2015, 02:56:08 PM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on August 09, 2015, 08:32:20 AM

So basically she's just looking for friends?

Overall, the online dating experience is far inferior to offline. I had better luck just wandering around running errands than going online. Mostly because offline, you never run into special snowflakes like that girl.

Unless you're at Whole Foods I guess. I've been amazed at how many weird profiles I run into, with high match % for me. Can't tell if this is real stuff or just a group of entitled, well off normal people looking for some way to be diverse/different/a minority/whatever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on August 09, 2015, 03:27:59 PM

I'd rather match with horny fatties

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 10, 2015, 01:54:42 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on August 09, 2015, 03:27:59 PM

I'd rather match with horny fatties

Dunno maybe if I was desperate. I think I'll take Wrath da Gawd's advice and just stick to real life shit. I'm not really looking for a gf, just mainly looking for a chick to kick it with. Sometimes I almost want to call my ex, just to chill and watch Netflix or something.
:brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 10, 2015, 05:36:58 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on August 09, 2015, 10:25:58 AM

few more weeks away from not being long distance anymore :rejoice

It's been a while, does this mean you're moving to NYC?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 10, 2015, 06:01:54 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 10, 2015, 01:54:42 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on August 09, 2015, 03:27:59 PM
I'd rather match with horny fatties

Dunno maybe if I was desperate. I think I'll take Wrath da Gawd's advice and just stick to real life shit. I'm not really looking for a gf, just mainly looking for a chick to kick it with. Sometimes I almost want to call my ex, just to chill and watch Netflix or something.
:brazilcry

I know this struggle.

(http://www.thecoli.com/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/mjcry1.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 10, 2015, 06:09:43 PM

Just act more :fabulous and don't act weird when you're molested and you'll have what you desire, PD. Last night I got to go on a picnic with a gal pal. :preach

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 10, 2015, 06:36:42 PM

Quote from: tiesto on August 10, 2015, 05:36:58 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on August 09, 2015, 10:25:58 AM
few more weeks away from not being long distance anymore :rejoice

It's been a while, does this mean you're moving to NYC?

end of the month

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 11, 2015, 09:25:10 AM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on August 10, 2015, 06:01:54 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 10, 2015, 01:54:42 PM
Quote from: BrandNew on August 09, 2015, 03:27:59 PM
I'd rather match with horny fatties

Dunno maybe if I was desperate. I think I'll take Wrath da Gawd's advice and just stick to real life shit. I'm not really looking for a gf, just mainly looking for a chick to kick it with. Sometimes I almost want to call my ex, just to chill and watch Netflix or something.
:brazilcry

I know this struggle.

(http://www.thecoli.com/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/mjcry1.png)

say, my cornball friends, have you heard the good news about sidehugging?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on August 11, 2015, 09:56:33 AM

I'm back with the wife, forgot to update you guys. We're better than we were and I gained an understanding for her views on our life. Happy to be back to be honest, still love her more than anyone else on earth whom I didn't create.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on August 11, 2015, 11:38:54 AM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on August 11, 2015, 09:56:33 AM

I'm back with the wife, forgot to update you guys. We're better than we were and I gained an understanding for her views on our life. Happy to be back to be honest, still love her more than anyone else on earth whom I didn't create.

Glad to hear it, breh. :mynicca

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on August 11, 2015, 11:57:57 AM

Quote from: Brehvolution on August 11, 2015, 11:38:54 AM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on August 11, 2015, 09:56:33 AM
I'm back with the wife, forgot to update you guys. We're better than we were and I gained an understanding for her views on our life. Happy to be back to be honest, still love her more than anyone else on earth whom I didn't create.

Glad to hear it, breh. :mynicca

Thanks man. Being quasi-single was not something I want to be again. Lesson learned.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 11, 2015, 11:59:41 AM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on August 11, 2015, 11:57:57 AM

Quote from: Brehvolution on August 11, 2015, 11:38:54 AM
Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on August 11, 2015, 09:56:33 AM
I'm back with the wife, forgot to update you guys. We're better than we were and I gained an understanding for her views on our life. Happy to be back to be honest, still love her more than anyone else on earth whom I didn't create.

Glad to hear it, breh. :mynicca

Thanks man. Being quasi-single was not something I want to be again. Lesson learned.

You got to smash a couple Latinas and pawgs tho :lawd

Grats on getting back with the wife tho. Black excellence :obama

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on August 11, 2015, 12:00:35 PM

oops

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on August 11, 2015, 12:10:18 PM

There was this one white girl with the meanest ass bro. Seriously.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on August 11, 2015, 12:12:03 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on August 11, 2015, 09:56:33 AM

I'm back with the wife, forgot to update you guys. We're better than we were and I gained an understanding for her views on our life. Happy to be back to be honest, still love her more than anyone else on earth whom I didn't create.

(http://i.imgur.com/4aviP2Q.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on August 13, 2015, 10:37:40 PM

Question to all:

Have you ever been able to stay friends with someone who broke up with you? And no I don't mean years later when you no longer care.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on August 13, 2015, 10:40:30 PM

No. Well, I could have, but no I didn't.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 13, 2015, 10:42:33 PM

I'd like to more than anything. :shaq2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 13, 2015, 11:12:23 PM

Nope.

I didn't have that many serious relationships. I'm civil with each of them, connected on Facebook, but not I'm not close friends with any of them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on August 13, 2015, 11:43:10 PM

Really? Close friends like chrono mentioned?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 13, 2015, 11:54:31 PM

Quote from: Beezy on August 13, 2015, 10:37:40 PM

Question to all:

Have you ever been able to stay friends with someone who broke up with you? And no I don't mean years later when you no longer care.

Yup, one of my ex's from college - we had a big falling out when she broke up with me (due to it being a long distance thing), a few years later she apologized profusely. Later she moved down to Queens and we hung out a few times but as friends.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on August 14, 2015, 12:32:59 AM

Quote from: Beezy on August 13, 2015, 10:37:40 PM

Question to all:

Have you ever been able to stay friends with someone who broke up with you? And no I don't mean years later when you no longer care.

Nope. Because when her or I would start dating someone new, white lies and hurt feelings were unavoidable.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on August 14, 2015, 02:10:03 AM

Quote from: chronovore on August 13, 2015, 11:12:23 PM

Nope.

I didn't have that many serious relationships. I'm civil with each of them, connected on Facebook, but not I'm not close friends with any of them.

Same.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 14, 2015, 02:49:20 AM

Funny thing, I realized after I responded that I have one best friend who I was in a brief romantic relationship with. But it was really brief and we weren't compatible, so we ended up as friends. But it's different from being in a long-term relationship, breaking up, and then becoming friends.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 14, 2015, 03:05:41 AM

I'm on cordial terms with pretty much all of my serious exes. It probably helps that they're all married at this point, so nothing is going to happen. Good friends? Nah. IMO that ship sails if you're in a relationship of any length. Sucks, but there it is.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 14, 2015, 03:18:29 AM

As far as a friendship which became a fling, yes. I wouldn't trust somebody as a friend if I thought it made sense to have a real break up with them.

But I tend to commit totally when I'm judgemental of someone so I've never stopped holding a grudge for as long as I can remember the person. That's probably a bad thing but that's my experience. Never had a serious relationship (more than a few months) I should add.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on August 14, 2015, 04:54:42 AM

Quote from: chronovore on August 14, 2015, 02:49:20 AM

But it's different from being in a long-term relationship, breaking up, and then becoming friends.

Quote from: ToxicAdam on August 14, 2015, 12:32:59 AM

Quote from: Beezy on August 13, 2015, 10:37:40 PM
Question to all:

Have you ever been able to stay friends with someone who broke up with you? And no I don't mean years later when you no longer care.

Nope. Because when her or I would start dating someone new, white lies and hurt feelings were unavoidable.

Quote from: Human Snorenado on August 14, 2015, 03:05:41 AM

Good friends? Nah. IMO that ship sails if you're in a relationship of any length. Sucks, but there it is.

Yeah, that's how I feel. A friend of mine asked me if me and this girl would still talk and hangout. I just thought it was a really dumb and naive question. I can't think of one situation where I've ever seen this happen. Social network comments every couple of months isn't any type of friendship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on August 14, 2015, 06:50:10 PM

Kinda but I've never been been in an extremely serious relationship, so not sure they count

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 14, 2015, 08:16:50 PM

nope, with one exception*. i tend to cut all ties asap, as i was usually the dumped. don't like no potential drama.

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my wife's sister :dead

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and i dumped her. :dead :dead :dead

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 14, 2015, 08:27:11 PM

Quote from: Beezy on August 13, 2015, 10:37:40 PM

Question to all:

Have you ever been able to stay friends with someone who broke up with you? And no I don't mean years later when you no longer care.

Yeah but it doesn't really count when you're both 15-17 and it lasts like 3 weeks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on August 14, 2015, 09:39:23 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on August 14, 2015, 08:16:50 PM

nope, with one exception*. i tend to cut all ties asap, as i was usually the dumped. don't like no potential drama.

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my wife's sister :dead

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and i dumped her. :dead :dead :dead
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Lmao, I'm guessing you didn't start dating your wife immediately after her sister?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 14, 2015, 09:51:14 PM

i broke up with her to date her sister after she introduced us at a party

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we were on sort of a break

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but i wound up sleeping with my wife-to-be the next evening anyhow :dead

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wow there is no version of this story in which i am not the bad guy :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on August 14, 2015, 09:59:39 PM

:neogaf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 14, 2015, 09:59:45 PM

You slept with your SIL. Christ dude, I thought your love for the two stroke was the peak of your hillbillyness. :dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 14, 2015, 10:02:45 PM

i am still highly guilty at fam-in-law gatherings almost 20 years later :tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 14, 2015, 10:05:24 PM

we are all made of Ls my judgmental friends

now fack off, i'mma go watch space battleship yamato 2199 with my brat

. . .

:brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 14, 2015, 10:10:49 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on August 14, 2015, 09:51:14 PM

i broke up with her to date her sister after she introduced us at a party

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we were on sort of a break
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but i wound up sleeping with my wife-to-be the next evening anyhow :dead
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wow there is no version of this story in which i am not the bad guy :fbm

This made me laugh so hard it started a coughing fit. Fuck you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 14, 2015, 10:11:44 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on August 14, 2015, 08:16:50 PM

nope, with one exception*. i tend to cut all ties asap, as i was usually the dumped. don't like no potential drama.

spoiler (click to show/hide)
my wife's sister :dead

spoiler (click to show/hide)
and i dumped her. :dead :dead :dead
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typical adna pirate :trash

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on August 14, 2015, 10:47:48 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on August 14, 2015, 09:51:14 PM

i broke up with her to date her sister after she introduced us at a party

spoiler (click to show/hide)
we were on sort of a break
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but i wound up sleeping with my wife-to-be the next evening anyhow :dead
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wow there is no version of this story in which i am not the bad guy :fbm

This sounds like an anime

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 15, 2015, 12:13:27 AM

Quote from: Beezy on August 13, 2015, 10:37:40 PM

Question to all:

Have you ever been able to stay friends with someone who broke up with you? And no I don't mean years later when you no longer care.

Yes. Occasionally hooked up with them from time to time as well.

I think friendships are fine but not if you're expecting to restart the relationship. If you're keeping the candle alight for your failed relationship, then just cut off contact altogether. This requires you to be honest with yourself; you think that you want to be friends but deep down, if one night she says "Let's get back together" and your response is "OK", then cut off contact.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 15, 2015, 12:58:30 AM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on August 14, 2015, 10:05:24 PM

we are all made of Ls my judgmental friends

now fack off, i'mma go watch space battleship yamato 2199 with my brat

. . .

:brazilcry

Funny coincidence you mention Space Battleship Yamato, I went to a small local convention this evening and met a voice actor from Star Blazers (the heavily edited English version) there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 15, 2015, 01:42:55 AM

Cruncheon side hugged the side chick
:ohhh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 15, 2015, 01:52:46 AM

Drinky you're a scumbag.

But we all knew that, cheers.

(http://byt.wpengine.netdna-cdn.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/Screen-Shot-2014-09-09-at-4.06.45-PM-350x300.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 15, 2015, 02:13:36 AM

:dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 15, 2015, 02:33:18 AM

This last half a page, man

(http://static.gamespot.com/uploads/original/1338/13388005/2389133-4949054815-micha.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 29, 2015, 07:46:51 PM

Okay guys, need some advice.

This is regarding a former girlfriend, one I dated quite recently. I've mentioned her in this thread a while back. She was absolutely wonderful. Gorgeous, smart, sweet, practically perfect gf material. Everything was going great until she moved to her new place, which allowed for ZERO privacy. We still hung out, but any intimate things were left to the backseat of her car. As you would probably expect, this wasn't really the most enjoyable way of handling things long term. So she decided to break up with me because we couldn't actually be together in a proper space by ourselves.

And as I've mentioned before, my place is totally out of the question because sadly my place is also inhabited by my mother (and let me reiterate once again, I'm taking care of her :punch)

But fortune seemed to smile upon me as the madre decided she's going to take a very long trip out of the country. She'll be going to India for 6 months! (amusingly enough, with the intent of finding me a wife). So without her around, I'd have the place all to myself and all the privacy we'd need.

So my question is, should I call her up? When we broke up, we did so under good terms, though we haven't spoken since.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 29, 2015, 07:57:01 PM

If she really wanted to mess around she'd find a way to have it happen, so I'm confused by the story.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 29, 2015, 08:02:38 PM

I mean the worst that could happen is that she says no and to fuck off, but you should probably have no expectations of this working.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 29, 2015, 08:05:58 PM

Quote from: Beezy on August 13, 2015, 10:37:40 PM

Question to all:

Have you ever been able to stay friends with someone who broke up with you? And no I don't mean years later when you no longer care.

Not sure if it counts, but I had a former co-worker who had a crush on me for a long time, and while I wasn't really too ecstatic about dating her (she had ginormous titties, but a rather unattractive face), I decided to give it a shot. We never technically went on an official date as she immediately broke up with me when she I showed up at the wrong restaurant for our first date. While I was pissed at that for a while, she contacted me again a few weeks later and things just went back to normal.

Quote from: Shadow Mod on August 29, 2015, 07:57:01 PM

If she really wanted to mess around she'd find a way to have it happen, so I'm confused by the story.

Well, practically speaking, what would the options be? Get a hotel several times a week? Even as someone who enjoyed sexing it up, I thought doing it in the car all the time was getting pretty annoying (we really didn't have much room at all).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 29, 2015, 08:11:29 PM

How long were you doing this and how did her place have zero privacy? Also living with parents or something? Fucking in a car just sounds like she was trying to hide you from people and then was done with it after a while.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 29, 2015, 08:19:41 PM

Quote from: Shadow Mod on August 29, 2015, 08:11:29 PM

How long were you doing this and how did her place have zero privacy? Also living with parents or something? Fucking in a car just sounds like she was trying to hide you from people and then was done with it after a while.

Okay, when we started dating, she was living not too far from me in a house where she was renting a room. Everything was going great, but a few months later, she moved to a new place much further away, that happened to be in a giant loft that she would be sharing with one of her friends who was coming in from Texas (she made this agreement before we met, so it was already a done deal). The loft that she rented, is pretty much what it sounds like, one giant, continuous piece of real estate with no walls or anything. Not to mention sound carried over from one part of the loft to the other very easily. We attempted to solve this by handling things in the bathroom, but that we might has well have been surrounded with rice paper because everything could be heard by her roommate (who, by the way, was ALWAYS around, as he worked from home). After that little instance, she still invited me over, but any happy fun time was absolutely out of the question.

We dated for several months overall and we broke up probably about 3 or 4 weeks after she moved into this new place.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 29, 2015, 08:21:52 PM

Okay but you basically broke up because she couldn't perform with roomie around and was tired of the car? Like you just broke up because of that? The sex issue? Doesn't sound like a relationship to me. It sounds like it was just about getting dick. That's where my confusion lies.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 29, 2015, 08:30:17 PM

Well, isn't it kinda difficult to be in a relationship if you can't be intimate?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 29, 2015, 08:40:56 PM

Yes but if you're serious about it you make it work.

Nothing wrong with a relationship based on physical intimacy, but is it something you want to chase after again?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on August 29, 2015, 08:41:23 PM

Quote from: Oblivion on August 29, 2015, 08:30:17 PM

Well, isn't it kinda difficult to be in a relationship if you can't be intimate?

If you really dig someone a dry spell isn't a big deal. It happens. That's how life is.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on August 29, 2015, 09:09:23 PM

Quote from: Kara on August 29, 2015, 08:40:56 PM

Yes but if you're serious about it you make it work.

Nothing wrong with a relationship based on physical intimacy, but is it something you want to chase after again?

Well, I wouldn't mind it, I guess.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 29, 2015, 09:15:11 PM

"Hey...how are you? I'm good. Anyway my mom will be out of the country for half a year so I have the house to myself. Want to fuck?"

I don't think this will work breh. Should have kept the relationship going and just booked hotels every few weeks, or whenever yall felt like smashing. Now she has moved on and probably doesn't want to be your 6mo booty call.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 30, 2015, 12:11:34 AM

Just to play devil's advocate, even though her initial response will most likely be that that's not the type of thing she's looking for right now, there's a good chance that after a week she'll call back and change her mind.

And the way I see things going is that since you can't keep just banging someone and not catch feelings, the second breakup will be sour and then his mom will come home with a nubile Indian girl who wants a visa and he'll accept his mother's proposal and be miserable for the rest of his life. A living cautionary tale about casual sex.

Just to play devil's advocate.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on August 30, 2015, 03:41:23 AM

six months? time to become a tinder and okc savage

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 05, 2015, 12:12:11 AM

Nurse I've been seeing is looking into fostering/adopting one of the kids on her floor. Asked me if I had any issues with it.

I don't, but I'm not sure she understands the commitment she's taking on. It's going to break us up and I feel more sorry for her than anything.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 05, 2015, 01:09:15 AM

Quote from: Huff on September 05, 2015, 12:12:11 AM

Nurse I've been seeing is looking into fostering/adopting one of the kids on her floor. Asked me if I had any issues with it.

I don't, but I'm not sure she understands the commitment she's taking on. It's going to break us up and I feel more sorry for her than anything.

Aren't these two statements in opposition to each other?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 05, 2015, 02:21:46 AM

Quote from: chronovore on September 05, 2015, 01:09:15 AM

Quote from: Huff on September 05, 2015, 12:12:11 AM
Nurse I've been seeing is looking into fostering/adopting one of the kids on her floor. Asked me if I had any issues with it.

I don't, but I'm not sure she understands the commitment she's taking on. It's going to break us up and I feel more sorry for her than anything.
Aren't these two statements in opposition to each other?

I'm assuming he doesn't care whether they break up or not.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 05, 2015, 07:23:04 AM

I'm in an area where most single ladies have kids, usually their first at 16/17, so that's not an issue. It's the time problem, were just never going to see each other when you add a medically needy child on her plate.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 19, 2015, 09:16:37 AM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on August 03, 2015, 09:26:08 PM

As an update, I've been with a girl for the past two months. We hang out maybe a couple times a week. She's DTF whenever, wherever, which is nice.

A friend of mine tipped me off about an over 30s singles event coming up. He's went before and said it's a bunch of creepy, desperate MILFs and cougars and that he got a blowski out of the deal. I'm going to go, I'm hoping for the same thing.

I've had a greater appreciation for the single life in recent weeks. The feeling of doing whatever you want whenever you want is nice to me. With various work and school stresses, it's a nice and fun diversion.

As an update, I went to this thing. It was weird. There were more women than men, which is an interesting dynamic. What it was is a bunch of divorcees (or single moms or women who never married, whatever) who have never worked a job in their life trying to find their next (rich) husband. They weren't really too interested in me because I was not a multimillionaire; I might make decent money but it was not enough to fund their Real Housewives standard of living. There were a lot of grey haired/balding/bald men there who had to be in their 40s and 50s and the women flocked to them. I did end up getting four numbers: two of them never responded back, one kept coming up with BS reasons why she couldn't meet so I gave up there, and I'm going out with the last one next week. There was one woman with cartoonishly large fake tits that I wanted to talk to at the party but she was too busy hitting up the older men.

So kind of a bust but it was a good lesson: if you take care of yourself and have a good job, you will probably never run out of options even as you get to be middle aged or older. These women were almost all hot and were easily in their 30s and 40s but looked like they were in their mid or late 20s.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2015, 10:09:19 AM

I'd imagine many of the chicks knew any older guy who witnessed her talking to you would automatically throw her in the bushes. Same if she was talking to a black guy there. Older rich dudes might have financial advantages but many are still childish and insecure as fuck. I remember a business trip to Chicago where my friend and I got to stay at a pretty good hotel. We went to eat at a restaurant close by, and while I was chilling at our table I saw my friend in the bar area talking to the hottest Hispanic chick I've ever seen. To my right at another table I heard silverware drop. Didn't look to see what happened, I was too busy staring ahead at this chick, hoping my friend would strike out (did I mention he's married).

Anyway he struck out and walked back to our table. Couple minutes later the chick walked past us smiling and sat at the table to my right. We heard a whispered argument, I turned and saw some old dude stand up and tell her "well we won't be going there tonight after all." He stormed out and gave my buddy an ugly look. The chick held it together but I could tell she busted out crying after walking out the restaurant.

The old dude was probably in his 50s, looked like an executive type. Butt hurt over the smallest shit. I think a lot of those dudes resent the fact that while their money buys them chicks it doesn't really buy them the authentic experience. Sure some old dudes don't give a fuck, they just want to wake up with a hot chick regardless of if she likes him or not. But many are really looking for love and any reality check will send them into a breakdown.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 19, 2015, 10:26:00 AM

I think you described most men whether they have money or not. People in general are insecure as fuck.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 19, 2015, 02:54:18 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on September 19, 2015, 10:26:00 AM

I think you described most men whether they have money or not. People in general are insecure as fuck.

I'm secure in the belief that on a long enough timeline I always lose so there's no sense in worrying about it. :jawalrus

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 21, 2015, 11:23:16 AM

nearly 5 months with the lady :D

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 22, 2015, 07:48:40 PM

Quote from: Kara on September 19, 2015, 02:54:18 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on September 19, 2015, 10:26:00 AM
I think you described most men whether they have money or not. People in general are insecure as fuck.

I'm secure in the belief that on a long enough timeline I always lose so there's no sense in worrying about it. :jawalrus

I would like to retract my prior braggadocio and crawl into a fetal position of self-doubt if your honors would permit. :stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 22, 2015, 08:52:27 PM

I don't know. :brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 22, 2015, 10:11:39 PM

a-are you in love with someone?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on September 22, 2015, 10:30:20 PM

Loverboy over here :sabu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 22, 2015, 10:57:37 PM

Quote from: king of the internet on September 22, 2015, 10:30:20 PM

Loverboy over here :sabu

Your Majesty, you don't even want to know the half of it. :goty2 :snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on September 22, 2015, 11:15:28 PM

Quote from: Kara on September 22, 2015, 10:57:37 PM

Quote from: king of the internet on September 22, 2015, 10:30:20 PM
Loverboy over here :sabu

Your Majesty, you don't even want to know the half of it. :goty2 :snoop

My meal ticket :brazilcry :noooo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on September 23, 2015, 12:37:33 AM

Quote from: Kara on September 22, 2015, 10:57:37 PM

Quote from: king of the internet on September 22, 2015, 10:30:20 PM
Loverboy over here :sabu

Your Majesty, you don't even want to know the half of it. :goty2 :snoop

I need to know the full of it. Share pls.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 23, 2015, 07:12:02 AM

been over a year since I made this post:

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=36858.msg1924015#msg1924015

still together

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 23, 2015, 10:37:51 AM

Quote from: king of the internet on September 23, 2015, 12:37:33 AM

Quote from: Kara on September 22, 2015, 10:57:37 PM
Quote from: king of the internet on September 22, 2015, 10:30:20 PM
Loverboy over here :sabu

Your Majesty, you don't even want to know the half of it. :goty2 :snoop

I need to know the full of it. Share pls.

I can't ever make fun of that GAFer who wrote sonnets.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on September 23, 2015, 02:48:30 PM

Quote from: Kara on September 23, 2015, 10:37:51 AM

Quote from: king of the internet on September 23, 2015, 12:37:33 AM
Quote from: Kara on September 22, 2015, 10:57:37 PM
Quote from: king of the internet on September 22, 2015, 10:30:20 PM
Loverboy over here :sabu

Your Majesty, you don't even want to know the half of it. :goty2 :snoop

I need to know the full of it. Share pls.

I can't ever make fun of that GAFer who wrote sonnets.

I can still do that though, right?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 23, 2015, 03:13:36 PM

That all depends on how much personal hypocrisy you can stomach. As I didn't actually write a sonnet, I narrowly construe my definition of it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 23, 2015, 06:00:23 PM

damn breh. Can't win them all. But real talk, getting rejected after not really experiencing it in ages would suck. You go in with the calm confidence of 1000 greenlights only to get stopped at red.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

she was white, wasn't she :doge

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 29, 2015, 09:44:40 PM

Actively trying to date again.

Shit is :stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on September 30, 2015, 08:58:27 AM

If my wife would ever leave or pass away, there's no way I would go back and date again. I think I've conquered that primal urge.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on September 30, 2015, 09:18:47 AM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on September 30, 2015, 08:58:27 AM

If my wife would ever leave or pass away, there's no way I would go back and date again. I think I've conquered that primal urge.

Same. I'd maybe try to find a fuckbuddy or 2 and get a motorcycle.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 30, 2015, 10:30:04 AM

Yeah, assuming the kid is grown up and doing fine on his own, I would go full mountain hermit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 30, 2015, 06:53:51 PM

Shit is fucking gross, weird and unnatural. Sadly, it turns out doing stand-up comedy around town is no way to lure them in when the majority of your act is about self-loathing.

:neogaf

That said, got a date Saturday (dinner and drinks) and then a coffee date ( :shaq2 ) on Tuesday morning.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 30, 2015, 07:28:00 PM

Yeah, there's only one person for me. If that's not meant to be, I can just become this chap. I'm too old to care and too wracked by ennui to fake being someone different to get laid in the context of a meaningful relationship.

(http://i.imgur.com/lOleFRi.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on September 30, 2015, 07:50:41 PM

Ehhhh. I'm 38, dude. I'm pretty sure I'm older than you. And the notion of "the one" is horseshit, no matter how twee and precious you are. There's a sliding scale of suitability for partners depending on lots of shit. (for me, "willingness to put up with each other's shit" is paramount, but I'm just one asshole out here in the universe, ymmv)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on September 30, 2015, 08:44:05 PM

I like how you reduce this to some vanity thing when my utter ridiculousness is well documented here. Being by myself is preferable to talking with people who don't follow my thought patterns, or even worse, politely tolerate them.

I'd also say that yes, for most people it's bullshit. Most people are babbies who have spent their entire lives mollycoddled by close contact and can't stare down the prospect of anything else. Viz. the institution of serial monogamy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 30, 2015, 08:55:33 PM

The fact that Kara of all people believes only one person in the world is meant for him tells me that love is real. And powerful. And if you find it you can't let it go.
:uguu

I am not in love. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u09s0uz0tEU) Nor am I dating. But I'm pretty happy with who I'm chilling with. And who knows maybe it'll become something else. At this point I've realized who I am right now as a 28 year old professional. I don't want to deal with families and commitments and expectations - I deal with enough of that shit at work, at least I get paid to deal with it there. It's like when you want a child but don't want to deal with the responsibility - you get a pet, or wait for a cool ass niece or nephew. In my case I just want to chill with someone who is cool, have feels, watch some Netflix, maybe go out to eat or to a movie or listen to each others hopes/dreams. But I also want to be alone without someone catching feelings or wondering where I am. That's what I have.

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't tempted to go for something more. Last week I sure as hell saw myself with this person for years - I saw a future, and by god I didn't run away.
:leon
:tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 30, 2015, 09:03:40 PM

recognize yourself as a scumbag brehs
:preach

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 30, 2015, 09:20:23 PM

I came to the same realization after fucking expensive European hookers. Even with the occasional dry spell, I still enjoy the single life much better overall. Maybe if I thought I was running out of options I'd feel differently but to be honest, I don't think I will ever find myself in that position.

Also dating isn't that bad at all. I never really understood why some people whined about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on October 01, 2015, 12:39:16 AM

Dating is fucked today because of the Internet which sucks no matter who you are. When there's your height, ethnicity, and salary listed as filters, you know you are meeting people with warped expectations.

Quote from: Human Snorenado on September 30, 2015, 06:53:51 PM

Shit is fucking gross, weird and unnatural. Sadly, it turns out doing stand-up comedy around town is no way to lure them in when the majority of your act is about self-loathing.

:neogaf

That said, got a date Saturday (dinner and drinks) and then a coffee date ( :shaq2 ) on Tuesday morning.

You see this actually sounds awesome because you know you're meeting people who have no expectation that you'll give some false bravado on the first date before finding a time to show how vulnerable you can be. Finding a way to be yourself with somebody is practically an accomplishment today.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 01, 2015, 12:56:46 AM

Quote from: Kara on September 30, 2015, 08:44:05 PM

I like how you reduce this to some vanity thing when my utter ridiculousness is well documented here. Being by myself is preferable to talking with people who don't follow my thought patterns, or even worse, politely tolerate them.

I'd also say that yes, for most people it's bullshit. Most people are babbies who have spent their entire lives mollycoddled by close contact and can't stare down the prospect of anything else. Viz. the institution of serial monogamy.

(http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m6lxue3jSK1rri87i.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on October 03, 2015, 07:30:28 PM

Anyone else more successful getting dates in real life than getting dates online? I honestly would have expected it would be easier the other way around. I ain't no Brad Pitt, but I would think I would get more replies than I currently do (which is about 100 to 1).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on October 03, 2015, 07:41:15 PM

Serious question though how many people you know in successful relationships found that person by going on dates via apps/internet and not through a friend or chance encounter/hanging out more and more?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on October 03, 2015, 08:21:26 PM

You talkin' to me?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on October 03, 2015, 08:27:19 PM

Anyone in here really. I mean Tinder et al can get you dates but even now I see a lot of people meeting their partner through other stuff.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on October 03, 2015, 08:56:49 PM

Well I was mainly referring to the idea of getting dates in general (merely getting your foot through the door, as it were). Having a successful relationship come out of it is a different matter (which, no I don't know anyone in real life who has had one from somone they met online).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 03, 2015, 09:18:46 PM

Dating in general is a numbers game, especially online dating. You have to cast a wide net because most accounts are barely active or they don't take online dating very seriously. If you read the Vanity Fair article about Tinder, even male models, marketing managers, and investment bankers have to swipe right on hundreds of women in order to hook up with a few of them. 1 in 100 sounds about right to be honest.

Online dating at best should be a backup plan. I've always done best out in "the real world" by far.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 04, 2015, 12:47:47 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 30, 2015, 08:55:33 PM

The fact that Kara of all people believes only one person in the world is meant for him tells me that love is real. And powerful. And if you find it you can't let it go.
:uguu

She's the only person who tries to think like I think and that makes me feel so much less alone.

I can't believe I got so hung up about a bunch of other stupid shit and forgot that, but I am nothing if not a fucking idiot.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 05, 2015, 02:23:49 PM

Quote from: Oblivion on October 03, 2015, 08:56:49 PM

Well I was mainly referring to the idea of getting dates in general (merely getting your foot through the door, as it were). Having a successful relationship come out of it is a different matter (which, no I don't know anyone in real life who has had one from somone they met online).

Myself and 3 other of my friends met our SOs on Cupid - 1 of them is married and the other is engaged. I found it pretty easy to get my foot through the door, all things considered since I'm not terribly attractive and I'm unabashedly nerdy... getting a second date out of the deal, MUCH harder though. And going all the way to a relationship... I say I went on close to 100 dates before I found one.

My mom works at a dress store and she says that a lot of the customers met their husbands online, too.

Tinder is a bit after my dating time so I don't know how that works. And although I was able to meet a few girls in person it never really went anywhere... at least online you can 'vet' the person a bit, find out their age/interests/job/etc (the last girl I went out with that I met in person I later found out she wasn't even 21 yet. Sure I like my Vita but that's just WAY too young for me)

I'd imagine the ideal way to meet a girl for a lot of people would be through mutual friends. Unfortunately, the last time that happened for me it ended in disaster (I talked about it much earlier in this very thread :P).

And finally, things are probably a lot different depending on where in the country you are. Where I live, most 20-somethings live at home due to a ridiculous cost of living, which hinders dating, and a lot of professional/educated women moved off the island or into the city.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 05, 2015, 02:37:06 PM

Quote from: Shadow Mod on October 03, 2015, 08:27:19 PM

Anyone in here really. I mean Tinder et al can get you dates but even now I see a lot of people meeting their partner through other stuff.

Eh, two of my married friends met their SO through online. Seems pretty standard these days if you're not in a social circle where you meet lots of people of the opposite sex regularly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 05, 2015, 02:54:11 PM

Yeah, I know multiple people that have been/are currently in serious relationships and they met their SO online. I think people who just want to have sex use online dating apps/site more, and if someone you know goes to the trouble of setting you up, you're more likely to try and make something work.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 05, 2015, 08:30:40 PM

Good friend of mine met his wife through online dating. She's pretty awesome too.

OT: feeling like a goober. Correction, like more of a goober than I already feel like being myself. :stahp Help me get back to #dgaf KotI. :busta

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 06, 2015, 05:57:54 AM

Is this in relation to the ex? Sometimes we want things we cannot have. Maybe when you're both in your late 50s things will work out - she'll be a divorcee, you'll be single, and everything will just gel as you both realize you were meant for each other. And then you'll die of prostate cancer a year later. As someone on The Wire said, life just be that way I guess.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 06, 2015, 09:53:26 AM

That sounds like a grande finale. :aah

E: Except for the part where misfortune befell her. :ufup

And yes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on October 06, 2015, 11:24:44 PM

<daps>

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 06, 2015, 11:39:29 PM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on October 06, 2015, 12:35:37 PM

A_I_A doesn't have to worry about me anymore. Got a date for tonight. And yes, it's pulling a drinky.

We all know this is just your #SaudiHack around the male chaperone who's a family member rule.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 07, 2015, 01:22:39 AM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on October 06, 2015, 12:35:37 PM

A_I_A doesn't have to worry about me anymore. Got a date for tonight. And yes, it's pulling a drinky.

She's your ex's sister?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on October 07, 2015, 07:17:31 AM

Eh that shit happens with Catholics all the time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 07, 2015, 12:14:33 PM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on October 07, 2015, 04:07:09 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 07, 2015, 01:22:39 AM
Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on October 06, 2015, 12:35:37 PM
A_I_A doesn't have to worry about me anymore. Got a date for tonight. And yes, it's pulling a drinky.

She's your ex's sister?

Nope, aunt.

The aunt is 2 years younger than her niece, because this is the arab world and these things happen, but they might as well be sisters.

Oh yea, her. This is hilarious lol. You know the ex is gonna catch feelings super hard, if she hasn't already.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 07, 2015, 12:45:35 PM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on October 07, 2015, 12:21:24 PM

She already knows. And I don't care if it does happen, she had her chance with the God and she wasted it.

Mods, please change my name to 'abd al-Wrath Man. Thanks in advance.

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عبدالرحمن

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on October 12, 2015, 01:27:19 AM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on October 07, 2015, 04:07:09 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 07, 2015, 01:22:39 AM
Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on October 06, 2015, 12:35:37 PM
A_I_A doesn't have to worry about me anymore. Got a date for tonight. And yes, it's pulling a drinky.

She's your ex's sister?

Nope, aunt.

The aunt is 2 years younger than her niece, because this is the arab world and these things happen, but they might as well be sisters.

Wait, I thought you were gay? Or am I thinking of some other A-rab?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on October 12, 2015, 01:28:07 AM

Also, too. Good news. Met some cultured cougar on OKC and we're gonna meet for dinner tomorrow.

And she's got major yams too. :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 12, 2015, 04:05:13 AM

Straight #struggle. :stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 12, 2015, 05:58:00 AM

haha

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on October 12, 2015, 05:38:02 PM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on October 12, 2015, 04:02:11 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on October 12, 2015, 01:27:19 AM
Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on October 07, 2015, 04:07:09 AM
Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 07, 2015, 01:22:39 AM
Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on October 06, 2015, 12:35:37 PM
A_I_A doesn't have to worry about me anymore. Got a date for tonight. And yes, it's pulling a drinky.

She's your ex's sister?

Nope, aunt.

The aunt is 2 years younger than her niece, because this is the arab world and these things happen, but they might as well be sisters.

Wait, I thought you were gay? Or am I thinking of some other A-rab?

Nah, sadly I'm completely straight.

Oh, maybe I was thinking of Andrex.

He's gay right?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on October 12, 2015, 05:49:34 PM

Allegedly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on October 12, 2015, 05:59:10 PM

Andrex is gay but he isn't gay enough to be a gay Arab. You have to imagine somebody a bit more ostentatious.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 18, 2015, 01:03:13 AM

I found this article pretty interesting about how media reinforces emotional unstableness as a virtue and normal part of a "quirky" woman:

http://www.reluctantfemme.com/2013/08/manic-pixie-dream-girls-not-so-fun.html

Quote

Because the Manic Pixie Dream Girl portrayal of women is so common in the media, for the longest time I didn’t think I had a mental illness, not REALLY. I thought I was just a “free spirit”, that this was how girls like me were supposed to feel and act, that my behaviour was acceptable and understandable. I saw my choices as being the Manic Pixie Dream Girl, or a Boring Sheep, and clearly one of these choices was superior to the other. I simply had no concept that I could be interesting, but ALSO emotionally stable (relatively, anyway).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on October 18, 2015, 01:10:01 AM

MPDG is probably the trope I most love to hate of the past few years. So dumb.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 18, 2015, 09:16:22 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on October 18, 2015, 01:03:13 AM

I found this article pretty interesting about how media reinforces emotional unstableness as a virtue and normal part of a "quirky" woman:

http://www.reluctantfemme.com/2013/08/manic-pixie-dream-girls-not-so-fun.html

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Because the Manic Pixie Dream Girl portrayal of women is so common in the media, for the longest time I didn’t think I had a mental illness, not REALLY. I thought I was just a “free spirit”, that this was how girls like me were supposed to feel and act, that my behaviour was acceptable and understandable. I saw my choices as being the Manic Pixie Dream Girl, or a Boring Sheep, and clearly one of these choices was superior to the other. I simply had no concept that I could be interesting, but ALSO emotionally stable (relatively, anyway).

Yup. I dated a few of these, and it's not surprising how the magical/supportive necessitations reinforced by media also breeds a weird resentment and anger in women. There's also the difficulty in a reasonable relationship in being a pedestal-mounted focus, rather than a partner who shares responsibility equally.

On the other hand, movies and tell me that --as a man-- I can fix my problems by physically confronting them. With enough training montages, I can knock out the bully who had been problematic for me. Hell, it will probably also get me the girl, who has just been waiting for me to stand up for myself. It's certainly not the kind of thing which will add up to a sloppy, dragged out fight, probably ending in charges of assault, according to most movies.

But most men recognize this as a silly fantasy, which is why I think romantic comedies are inherently more dangerous to society than the most violent action movies.

Also, this is funny and sad, but doesn't really hit the political points mentioned in The Featured Article:

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FBNss2PMj60

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on October 22, 2015, 03:54:51 AM

Can't even do my usual :yuck ew feelings thing...kinda feeling great about this one. It's surreal. 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 22, 2015, 04:59:49 AM

Quote from: king of the internet on October 22, 2015, 03:54:51 AM

Can't even do my usual :yuck ew feelings thing...kinda feeling great about this one. It's surreal. 8)

this is good be good

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on October 22, 2015, 06:58:22 AM

I'm presently watching a white friend of mine completely lose his shit about losing a girl. Never seen anything like it. He's on FB crying, threatening to beat up anybody who talks to her, and posting ridiculous love shit at 3am. (He's 34)

Don't do this brehs, its a bad look. Especially when its your fault she's gone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on October 22, 2015, 09:50:52 AM

I think all emotionally stable people left Facebook by now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on October 22, 2015, 11:24:08 AM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on October 22, 2015, 06:58:22 AM

I'm presently watching a white friend of mine completely lose his shit about losing a girl. Never seen anything like it. He's on FB crying, threatening to beat up anybody who talks to her, and posting ridiculous love shit at 3am. (He's 34)

There are teenagers who handle things better than that. :shaq2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on October 22, 2015, 12:43:14 PM

Quote from: Reb on October 22, 2015, 09:50:52 AM

I think all emotionally stable people left Facebook by now.

That's the truth all that's left are Trump fans, people with families (guilty), and the stray emo teenager/20 something that posts a bunch of life mottos that they can't quite understand.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on October 22, 2015, 12:44:09 PM

Quote from: Rufus on October 22, 2015, 11:24:08 AM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on October 22, 2015, 06:58:22 AM
I'm presently watching a white friend of mine completely lose his shit about losing a girl. Never seen anything like it. He's on FB crying, threatening to beat up anybody who talks to her, and posting ridiculous love shit at 3am. (He's 34)
There are teenagers who handle things better than that. :shaq2

Here's a tip my pops taught me..shit...30 years ago. If you lose a girl son the best way to get her back is move on with your life. If it's meant to be it's meant to be.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 22, 2015, 01:40:15 PM

Agree with (one of) our Bore Dads and the Dad of our Bore Dad.

Given recent events, I'm really glad that I downsized my life, got as much of my shit together as it's possible for someone like me to have my shit together, and dragged my pathetic ass as far forward as I could for fifteen months, if only to have been able to make her laugh when I told her that I have to inject myself in the butt per doctor's orders.

E: And shitposted here instead of on social media.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 22, 2015, 02:14:07 PM

buddy of mine is basically this guy:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n5vmqMfFZ94
my favorite radio bit of the year :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on October 22, 2015, 03:09:10 PM

When dudes panic about losing a girl or feel obliged to celebrate an anniversary every month for the one they currently have .. it's because they feel so shitty about themselves, they don't think they'll ever find love again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 22, 2015, 04:34:37 PM

Deleted my dating accounts today

Giving up :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on October 22, 2015, 05:00:30 PM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on October 22, 2015, 03:09:10 PM

When dudes panic about losing a girl or feel obliged to celebrate an anniversary every month for the one they currently have .. it's because they feel so shitty about themselves, they don't think they'll ever find love again.

Agreed

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 22, 2015, 05:10:58 PM

That dude is dating a Detroit Piston cheerleader btw :doge

Scust. I'm all for doing nice things and treating your SO out. If I had a real gf I'd be doing things for holidays and on random days too. But there's no fucking way I'd tolerate a woman who demands I celebrate our anniversary on a monthly basis. That's worm boy shit.

You're right, it's the behavior of a man who is afraid.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on October 22, 2015, 05:11:58 PM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on October 22, 2015, 04:34:37 PM

Deleted my dating accounts today

Giving up :rejoice

I could never do that shit. :kobeyuck

(edit - I mean online dating, not giving up)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 22, 2015, 06:00:40 PM

I like to think there's a correlation between me not remembering anniversaries and me never finding love. :jawalrus

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on October 22, 2015, 06:23:05 PM

I actually can't think of any dudes over 30 who didn't moan a lot when their new gf dumped them. They probably feel like they're running out of time or something. Yet these dudes also seem to be by far the most comfortable hitting on random girls so it could be just a general issue with wearing a mask to hide your genuine feelings on first impressions.

Eventually, those men either realize this and learn to express themselves more honestly to get out of that funk or (most of the time) they settle for someone who is really dumb/unambitious. And those in the latter group tend to be pretty depressed or compulsively cheating.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 22, 2015, 06:33:49 PM

Quote from: Kara on October 22, 2015, 06:00:40 PM

I like to think there's a correlation between me not remembering anniversaries and me never finding love. :jawalrus

"you remember the exact publication date of The Revolution Betrayed yet can't remember the month we met?!"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 23, 2015, 02:50:48 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 22, 2015, 06:33:49 PM

Quote from: Kara on October 22, 2015, 06:00:40 PM
I like to think there's a correlation between me not remembering anniversaries and me never finding love. :jawalrus

"you remember the exact publication date of The Revolution Betrayed yet can't remember the month we met?!"

The last time I used Couple I was the first one to log in and I set our anniversary as 9 May (https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Victory_Day_(9_May)) "as a joke" when I really just didn't know the date but didn't want to look like I didn't know the date.

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She changed it to the correct date pretty soon after. :dead

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 23, 2015, 02:52:22 PM

my wife and I have forgotten our anniversary every single year so far...

"oh yeah that's this weekend isn't it".

still :tauntaun on the reg and makin babies like it wasn't nothing :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 23, 2015, 02:55:32 PM

Breeding (http://www.thecoli.com/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/scust.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 23, 2015, 02:58:55 PM

I wonder what non-breeder Macuser would be like. :hitler

Also, has anyone said you look like Nathan Fielder from Nathan for You? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 23, 2015, 04:46:54 PM

1. i'm not much different pre vs post children

2. a Nathan fielder comparison is worse than being called a breeder (http://www.thecoli.com/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/scust.png)

3. nutting raw is the goat, especially when you risk a baby. like Russian roulette but nobody dies. :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on October 23, 2015, 04:57:55 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on October 23, 2015, 04:46:54 PM

3. nutting raw is the goat

(http://www.blastr.com/sites/blastr/files/Riker_Smiling-3.jpg)

Quote

especially when you risk a baby

(https://media1.giphy.com/media/3rgXBLedWcfE1GaGI0/200_s.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 23, 2015, 05:15:43 PM

:comeon

:shaq :uguu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 23, 2015, 05:17:35 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on October 23, 2015, 04:46:54 PM

3. nutting raw is the goat, especially when you risk a baby. like Russian roulette but nobody dies. :whew

except for JayDubya's soul. Imagine the judgement and disappointment in his eyes the next time you release inside your queen without quickening a seed. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 23, 2015, 06:41:04 PM

https://youtu.be/4AoOa-Fz2kw

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 23, 2015, 11:08:32 PM

A coworker has set me up with her daughter next week. This type of thing seems very rare today (at least in my experience) so I was a little hesitant. Sensing my hesitation, she said that she was very cute and showed me a picture of her. She was very cute...but with no tits and ass to speak of. As you all know, I like them thick. To avoid creating some dumb office tiff, I agreed to see her. I did further research (read: cyberstalking) and found that she is 24 and hasn't held a job since she graduated (she's an English major so it's to be expected lol). Part of me thinks that my coworker wants to fix her daughter up with someone who makes enough so she can stay home but I'm going to be an optimist and try to have a good time. I don't like the idea of tangling work and outside time together but this is pretty harmless.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on October 28, 2015, 07:57:38 AM

1 year anniversary with my girl :heart :heart

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 28, 2015, 11:47:59 AM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on October 28, 2015, 11:33:24 AM

And now I'm pulling a double drinky. Going full scumbag.

عيب عليك. ش م ه

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on October 28, 2015, 01:59:53 PM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on October 23, 2015, 04:57:55 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on October 23, 2015, 04:46:54 PM
3. nutting raw is the goat

(http://www.blastr.com/sites/blastr/files/Riker_Smiling-3.jpg)

Quote
especially when you risk a baby

(https://media1.giphy.com/media/3rgXBLedWcfE1GaGI0/200_s.gif)

:ryker

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 28, 2015, 02:00:29 PM

:stahp .انا مجنون لكن هناك لا ليلة

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 28, 2015, 02:04:29 PM

Quote from: Kara on October 28, 2015, 02:00:29 PM

:stahp .انا مجنون لكن هناك لا ليلة

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You can do it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on October 28, 2015, 03:04:36 PM

About to spend my night off with the new lady friend. :uguu I've been feeling something real for this one....pray4me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on November 06, 2015, 08:43:22 PM

Apology away. Now time to kick back and wait for life to ether me once more. (http://i.imgur.com/5lgRJl5.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on November 09, 2015, 04:56:32 PM

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on November 14, 2015, 03:26:42 AM

Me being emotionally attached to another person again :mindblown

Missing them something serious after being apart for two nights :snoop

Have I forgotten all my training??? :brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 14, 2015, 11:01:24 AM

You're scaring the shit out of me, man.
:brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on November 15, 2015, 01:06:51 AM

Don't worry I already am waiting to just get rekt by this one :stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on November 18, 2015, 10:00:53 PM

is there a guide somewhere on How To Friendzone? I've been hanging out with a woman I really enjoy hanging out with and I'd enjoy it more if I weren't afraid she's expecting something more.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on November 18, 2015, 10:04:43 PM

Wear a fedora

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on November 18, 2015, 11:14:29 PM

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on November 18, 2015, 10:00:53 PM

is there a guide somewhere on How To Friendzone? I've been hanging out with a woman I really enjoy hanging out with and I'd enjoy it more if I weren't afraid she's expecting something more.

make her read your posts.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on November 18, 2015, 11:30:00 PM

Make out and then act like nothing happened.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on November 18, 2015, 11:46:31 PM

Quote from: Kara on November 18, 2015, 11:30:00 PM

Make out and then act like nothing happened.

Yeah, ignoring women always makes them less interested.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on November 19, 2015, 12:18:50 AM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on October 23, 2015, 11:08:32 PM

A coworker has set me up with her daughter next week. This type of thing seems very rare today (at least in my experience) so I was a little hesitant. Sensing my hesitation, she said that she was very cute and showed me a picture of her. She was very cute...but with no tits and ass to speak of. As you all know, I like them thick. To avoid creating some dumb office tiff, I agreed to see her. I did further research (read: cyberstalking) and found that she is 24 and hasn't held a job since she graduated (she's an English major so it's to be expected lol). Part of me thinks that my coworker wants to fix her daughter up with someone who makes enough so she can stay home but I'm going to be an optimist and try to have a good time. I don't like the idea of tangling work and outside time together but this is pretty harmless.

Damn, sounds like a recipe for disaster, honestly. Especially if she ain't got plenty up top.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on November 19, 2015, 12:19:59 AM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on November 18, 2015, 11:46:31 PM

Quote from: Kara on November 18, 2015, 11:30:00 PM
Make out and then act like nothing happened.

Yeah, ignoring women always makes them less interested.

Depends. Those with low self-esteem (mainly due to appearance) don't think they deserve attention and hence interpret possible affections as unintended or misleading. They never initiate or cease whatever subtle or not so subtle courtship rituals they tried quickly, to avoid embarrassing themselves.

This is also a source of romantic obliviousness often attributed to men.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on November 19, 2015, 12:37:52 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on November 19, 2015, 12:18:50 AM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on October 23, 2015, 11:08:32 PM
A coworker has set me up with her daughter next week. This type of thing seems very rare today (at least in my experience) so I was a little hesitant. Sensing my hesitation, she said that she was very cute and showed me a picture of her. She was very cute...but with no tits and ass to speak of. As you all know, I like them thick. To avoid creating some dumb office tiff, I agreed to see her. I did further research (read: cyberstalking) and found that she is 24 and hasn't held a job since she graduated (she's an English major so it's to be expected lol). Part of me thinks that my coworker wants to fix her daughter up with someone who makes enough so she can stay home but I'm going to be an optimist and try to have a good time. I don't like the idea of tangling work and outside time together but this is pretty harmless.

Damn, sounds like a recipe for disaster, honestly. Especially if she ain't got plenty up top.

:iface

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on November 19, 2015, 01:05:42 AM

What I mean is that if you're going to take a big risk like that, it might as well be with someone hot.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on November 19, 2015, 01:07:26 AM

Gambling is fun, whether it's at $5 or $500.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on November 19, 2015, 01:10:42 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on November 19, 2015, 01:05:42 AM

What I mean is that if you're going to take a big risk like that, it might as well be with someone hot.

How's that goin' for ya...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on November 19, 2015, 01:26:17 AM

Quote from: Shadow Mod on November 19, 2015, 01:10:42 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on November 19, 2015, 01:05:42 AM
What I mean is that if you're going to take a big risk like that, it might as well be with someone hot.

How's that goin' for ya...

I'm referring to Experiment's current specific situation. Come on now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 19, 2015, 01:37:12 AM

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on November 18, 2015, 10:00:53 PM

is there a guide somewhere on How To Friendzone? I've been hanging out with a woman I really enjoy hanging out with and I'd enjoy it more if I weren't afraid she's expecting something more.

Doesn't hurt to try. It's better than living the rest of your days wondering what could have been. And if she says no don't be a weirdo about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on November 20, 2015, 10:51:33 AM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on November 20, 2015, 11:03:57 AM

i think you may have misread. but either way, it usually hurts to try and i'm fundamentally not capable of not being a weirdo about anything. like the scorpion in the fable, it's my nature.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 20, 2015, 11:32:56 AM

That's a tough problem. Personally I'd take the short term disappointment of being turned down over the long term sense that I missed out on an opportunity/living with "what if..." for years. If it's not meant to be (i.e. if she turns me down) I can deal with moving on. That's easy to me at least. But imagine randomly thinking about where you both could have been together if only you had tried - blah.

I think about that shit far less now since I'm having fun again but jeez. Regret is not a good feeling.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on November 21, 2015, 05:50:24 PM

The main thing is that I've pretty much decided any girlfriend of mine needs to be either a biologist/medical researcher or a social scientist of some kind, and she's neither of these things, but I love going out with her. The relationship I want with her is more or less exactly the relationship I already have, but I dunno if she knows that or not.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on November 21, 2015, 05:55:44 PM

This going to sound crazy, but you could tell her your expectations of your relationship together.

Having a specific profession requirement for a significant other is ridiculous though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on November 21, 2015, 06:06:47 PM

It's a broad range of professions. It is ridiculous, but unfortunately necessary for the next phase of NM activation. No sacrifice, no progress.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on November 21, 2015, 09:26:06 PM

Why biology researchers? I mean there's an extremely diverse range of personalities in that field. I must know this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on November 21, 2015, 09:38:51 PM

Both because I've noticed a pattern of the women I really connect with being in those fields, and because (like many on okcupid) I'm looking for a partner in crime. That crime being engineering a biological and/or psychosemiotic epidemic that breaks down all of humanity's AT Fields bringing about Instrumentality.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on December 05, 2015, 03:03:31 AM

http://thoughtcatalog.com/leo-steven/2014/04/dear-girls-who-are-finally-ready-to-date-nice-guys-we-dont-want-you-anymore/

Just saw this posted on facebook :neogaf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on December 05, 2015, 03:09:26 AM

Hope you laughed at that person hard. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on December 05, 2015, 03:54:11 AM

Quote from: king of the internet on December 05, 2015, 03:03:31 AM

http://thoughtcatalog.com/leo-steven/2014/04/dear-girls-who-are-finally-ready-to-date-nice-guys-we-dont-want-you-anymore/

Just saw this posted on facebook :neogaf

This article has so much strawmanning it's likely to spontaneously combust at any moment.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 05, 2015, 05:04:54 AM

I shudder to think about the online posts I made in support of that mentality a decade plus ago. There needs to be a way to amend for shit like that. Like a carbon footprint payment version for dudes who used to say stupid shit about women.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 05, 2015, 09:13:54 AM

(http://msnotrightnow.files.wordpress.com/2013/03/thugs.jpg)

Still the goat.

Edit: there are new ones http://alexlartwork22.deviantart.com/gallery/?catpath=%2F&q=Bad+boy :dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 05, 2015, 09:52:54 AM

If there's one thing I did learn from neogaf its that all nerds are successful and well dressed as adults....

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on December 05, 2015, 10:48:18 AM

Quote from: Tasty Meat on December 05, 2015, 03:54:11 AM

Quote from: king of the internet on December 05, 2015, 03:03:31 AM
http://thoughtcatalog.com/leo-steven/2014/04/dear-girls-who-are-finally-ready-to-date-nice-guys-we-dont-want-you-anymore/

Just saw this posted on facebook :neogaf

This article has so much strawmanning it's likely to spontaneously combust at any moment.

That article has so much straw man in it, it's going to go petition The Wizard for a brain.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on December 07, 2015, 01:50:42 AM

Since I know some people have seen it on my FB, in a relationship :-[

My girlfriend is pretty darn awesome, I'm happy :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on December 07, 2015, 12:01:47 PM

...does she see ghosts?

(kidding. congrats.)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 07, 2015, 04:25:49 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on December 07, 2015, 01:50:42 AM

Since I know some people have seen it on my FB, in a relationship :-[

My girlfriend is pretty darn awesome, I'm happy :)

I saw that she went back and commented on a Facebook post from when you visited me back in 2011. Caught me off guard.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on December 07, 2015, 04:29:30 PM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on December 07, 2015, 03:08:59 PM

Don't worry, Dufus. You'll always have porn from 2005.

I'm with an awesome girl myself. Cheers everybody.

I always knew Dufus was into 10-year old porn.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 07, 2015, 04:50:34 PM

Ryan Conner :lawd

based on Dufus' past posts I think he's just fishing for a like from me. you don't like that big booty goddess, you just fuck with skinny chicks with fake boobs
:bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on December 07, 2015, 05:00:22 PM

So lately my g/f is bothered by the fact that I tend to post too much about games/music/anime and not a bunch of couples pics of the 2 of us. I'm not a photogenic person at all and thus I hate getting pics taken of me. Not to mention I was never a fan of posting tons of couples pics, talking about how my gf is the bestest and greatest (yes I do love her but don't feel the need to repeat ad nauseum on FB). It almost feels like 'bragging' to me. The girlfriends I've had in the past generally tended toward being reserved and hated getting pics taken even more than myself :P

Part of me chalks this up to her age, she's in her mid 20's (I'm in my early 30's), never had a long term relationship, and also more in tune with the whole social media thingy. Where what you put on FB is a persona you have to cultivate and not just something to dick around with in your down time. Her friends I feel are also putting some of these ideas into her head, since they're your average jappy girls who tend to do a lot of social media posturing. Is she just being needy/insecure? Or should I be more attentive on social media?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on December 07, 2015, 05:10:51 PM

I don't want to be someone to do that "dump that dumbass" shit but really, if someone's priorities are that far off your own it's only going to get worse from here. You shouldn't have to show off your relationship on social media, she can do that on her page but the fact that she's insisting you do it on yours? Good luck with trying to be your own person when she insists your identity be "us as a couple."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on December 07, 2015, 05:43:10 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on December 07, 2015, 04:25:49 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on December 07, 2015, 01:50:42 AM
Since I know some people have seen it on my FB, in a relationship :-[

My girlfriend is pretty darn awesome, I'm happy :)

I saw that she went back and commented on a Facebook post from when you visited me back in 2011. Caught me off guard.

Oh, that was because I was telling her the story of how you got me into beer and showed her that pic from when we went to Fremont.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on December 08, 2015, 02:29:25 AM

Quote from: Shadow Mod on December 07, 2015, 05:10:51 PM

I don't want to be someone to do that "dump that dumbass" shit

You love doing that "dump that dumbass" shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shadow Mod on December 08, 2015, 02:46:28 AM

Quote from: Mandark on December 08, 2015, 02:29:25 AM

Quote from: Shadow Mod on December 07, 2015, 05:10:51 PM
I don't want to be someone to do that "dump that dumbass" shit

You love doing that "dump that dumbass" shit.

Look man ain't my fault I know incompatibility when I sees it. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Fifstar on December 08, 2015, 05:31:17 AM

:comeon

Younger girlfriend being more social media affine is a deal breaker now?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on December 08, 2015, 07:42:16 AM

Quote from: Fifstar on December 08, 2015, 05:31:17 AM

:comeon

Younger girlfriend being more social media affine is a deal breaker now?

Yeah I'm pretty sure he just said "bothered". That's not much insight into how big of a deal she's making. I get bothered when my wife eats food off my plate. I'm hoping she's not going to divorce me over it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on December 21, 2015, 08:44:40 PM

Found the one, y'all.

(http://i.imgur.com/TzsJVFU.jpg)

Like this post if you think I'm going to torpedo it spectacularly. Quote this post if you think I'm going to find out a horrible secret about her that's a deal breaker. (For example, unironically believing in the capitalist mode of production.)

Yes I inserted these poison pills to prevent y'all from showing me any congratulations or support. Get fucked. :bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on December 21, 2015, 08:53:45 PM

Whew, difficult choice that. Gonna go with self-sabotage.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on December 21, 2015, 08:54:09 PM

Stay blessed

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on December 21, 2015, 09:17:33 PM

Quote from: Kara on December 21, 2015, 08:44:40 PM

Found the one, y'all.

(http://i.imgur.com/TzsJVFU.jpg)

Like this post if you think I'm going to torpedo it spectacularly. Quote this post if you think I'm going to find out a horrible secret about her that's a deal breaker. (For example, unironically believing in the capitalist mode of production.)

Yes I inserted these poison pills to prevent y'all from showing me any congratulations or support. Get fucked. :bolo

Liked and quoted.👌

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 22, 2015, 07:13:41 AM

A girl who I haven't seen in a couple months out of the blue sent me a text asking me to accompany her to her family's Christmas dinner. So I called her and basically said "what's in it for me?" Long story short, she came over late last night and blew me while I was watching Bob's Burgers on Netflix.

I guess I'll be having Christmas dinner elsewhere this year.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 26, 2015, 09:29:51 AM

This was more of a lunch than a dinner. On the way there, she told me that she told her parents that we've been seeing each other for about six months. :neogaf I promised to stay consistent with that. The lunch itself was pretty mediocre (dry turkey :yuck) but various people who I can't remember now kept grilling me; I can only assume they are wanting to see if I'm good enough to marry this girl. I seem to have done a good enough job or not, who knows/cares. Afterwards, we went to her apartment, had sex, and then I went home. Then I played some Dragon Quest Heroes, uninstalled Steam, and then later jerked off.

A good holiday. A+++ would do it again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on December 26, 2015, 11:27:11 AM

That's such a weird story. It seems like the plot out of a movie. Why would she want to bring you home for Christmas and tell her family you've been dating six months if you haven't? How does that benefit her?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 26, 2015, 11:40:26 AM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on December 26, 2015, 11:27:11 AM

That's such a weird story. It seems like the plot out of a movie. Why would she want to bring you home for Christmas and tell her family you've been dating six months if you haven't? How does that benefit her?

Lots of people do that on the holidays, especially younger siblings tired of their older siblings getting all the attention with their gf or bf.

Daps to Whore but I gotta ask. You jerked off after sex?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on December 26, 2015, 11:44:59 AM

the best xmas gift is pd being pd. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 26, 2015, 11:59:29 AM

:hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 26, 2015, 01:06:33 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 26, 2015, 11:40:26 AM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on December 26, 2015, 11:27:11 AM
That's such a weird story. It seems like the plot out of a movie. Why would she want to bring you home for Christmas and tell her family you've been dating six months if you haven't? How does that benefit her?
Lots of people do that on the holidays, especially younger siblings tired of their older siblings getting all the attention with their gf or bf.

Daps to Whore but I gotta ask. You jerked off after sex?

Yep. I'm on HRT now so it's like being 14 when a stiff breeze would give you a boner.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 29, 2015, 12:18:44 PM

Going on two weeks without sex :stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on December 29, 2015, 12:26:10 PM

stfu

spoiler (click to show/hide)

>:(

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on December 29, 2015, 01:37:00 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on December 29, 2015, 12:18:44 PM

Going on two weeks without sex :stahp

It's been a few days for me. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 29, 2015, 01:45:27 PM

Let me know when you guys go two decades and five years without booty and then maybe I'll feel sorry for you. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 29, 2015, 02:33:42 PM

Never playing a game is different than playing one and having it taken from you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 29, 2015, 03:02:06 PM

Maybe the winning move is... not to play. :marimo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 29, 2015, 03:19:06 PM

there is one way to win, Pallando :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 29, 2015, 03:23:00 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 29, 2015, 03:19:06 PM

there is one way to win, Pallando :doge

Oh, I know. :hitler

spoiler (click to show/hide)

but I spent all that money on the winter Steam sale and a nice laptop... :gaben

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 29, 2015, 03:32:35 PM

But a hooker would never give out your personal information :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on December 29, 2015, 04:03:16 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 29, 2015, 03:02:06 PM

Maybe the winning move is... not to play. :marimo

(http://38.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lhs1yjxrUJ1qcsioio1_500.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on December 29, 2015, 04:14:32 PM

You're not missing anything femmeatra-chan~ Swapping fluids is gross :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 29, 2015, 05:07:18 PM

One out of the three FemAtras would probably feel that way about sex.

But the other two... they gobble that shit up, bruh. Especially the one that smokes Newports and pops pills. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 29, 2015, 05:08:14 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 29, 2015, 05:07:18 PM

One out of the three FemAtras would probably feel that way about sex.

But the other two... they gobble that shit up, bruh. Especially the one that smokes Newports and pops pills. :doge

toku trigger warning

does she eat kale too

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 29, 2015, 05:11:02 PM

I don't think she eats. Period.

She just absorbs life out of the men she fucks. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on December 29, 2015, 05:14:43 PM

You know how to dm me babe :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 29, 2015, 05:18:16 PM

Honestly Pallando, just play rocket league, its nearly as good

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 29, 2015, 05:19:14 PM

And the match making isn't based on personality.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Alcoholic Fish on December 29, 2015, 05:54:34 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on December 29, 2015, 12:18:44 PM

Going on two weeks without sex :stahp

Recently broke a three week dry spell :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 29, 2015, 07:14:09 PM

Atramental, if Borecon 2016 in Vegas becomes a thing, I will pay for a high end prostitute for you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 29, 2015, 07:35:42 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/ZEtHRyB.gif)

Boritos... BORECON 2016 MUST HAPPEN!!! (http://i.imgur.com/vkOV7oQ.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 29, 2015, 07:47:39 PM

I'll pitch in; but I dunno if I can do 2016; will have to wait until 2017 probably :'(

Can your wiener and remaining dignity wait?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 29, 2015, 07:48:14 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 29, 2015, 01:45:27 PM

Let me know when you guys go two decades and five years without booty and then maybe I'll feel sorry for you. :doge

I'm still unable to understand the reality you live in. We're in the same country, but I just don't get it. It's not that difficult. ???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on December 29, 2015, 07:52:00 PM

altra,

just find some 5 or a 6 on tinder then ask to "neflix and chill"

piece of pie

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other
Post by: nudemacusers on December 29, 2015, 07:53:23 PM

Palla went to BJU, which is despite the suggestive abbreviation, is light on the human to human contact. Our boy has been broken, and needs a hard reset, the kind you can only get from fellow male ( :doge) intervention.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on December 29, 2015, 07:53:55 PM

like right now i'm drunk

and probably about to go have sex with someone that might be fat

but whatevers

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 29, 2015, 07:55:35 PM

Realizing I'm not having sex until March :( :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on December 29, 2015, 07:56:59 PM

one time i started a tinder convo with "i love to eat big women"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 29, 2015, 07:59:46 PM

Also Vegas is a good place to drunk grind on randos at a club and wander to their rooms for some sloppy lovin. The place is designed to get you to fuck randos.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on December 29, 2015, 08:01:38 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on December 29, 2015, 07:55:35 PM

Realizing I'm not having sex until March :( :'(

breeders

:umad

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 29, 2015, 08:04:36 PM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on December 29, 2015, 08:01:38 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on December 29, 2015, 07:55:35 PM
Realizing I'm not having sex until March :( :'(

breeders

:umad

All the raw busting was worth it :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on December 29, 2015, 08:08:16 PM

Vasectomy, breh. Or tube tyin. Or whatever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 29, 2015, 08:09:36 PM

That's in March. That's when they take your nuts off right?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 29, 2015, 08:10:34 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on December 29, 2015, 07:48:14 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 29, 2015, 01:45:27 PM
Let me know when you guys go two decades and five years without booty and then maybe I'll feel sorry for you. :doge

I'm still unable to understand the reality you live in. We're in the same country, but I just don't get it. It's not that difficult. ???

Quick summary: I was given constant and rather large doses of conservative Christianity during my most impressionable years.

If you asked 15 year old me where I would be in life at age 25 I probably would've said, "Married and with one kid on the way."

Then a bunch of bad shit happened around 08' & 09' and I fucking snapped.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on December 29, 2015, 08:12:33 PM

Well, married and a kid would mean you're getting laid tho. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on December 29, 2015, 08:14:07 PM

Getting laid in the confines of holy matrimony tho.

For such an act of obedience is pleasing to the LORD's sight. :doge

edit: And everything else outside of that is demonic.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 29, 2015, 09:58:59 PM

Quote from: Huff on December 29, 2015, 07:52:00 PM

altra,

just find some 5 or a 6 on tinder then ask to "neflix and chill"

piece of pie

Not everyone is a pharmacist, bryh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 29, 2015, 10:57:07 PM

Yea but let's be real: Atra isn't a bad looking guy, he seems like he's in decent physical shape (based on the tone of his face at least...), etc. That shit alone should at least get you a couple Tinder hits that you can get to your place. Might not smash on first try but Netflix n Chill is no joke. I'm not on the market anymore :doge but when I was I had success with that shit. Never had notable Tinder success, but in terms of regular chicks I know/knew or met at bars who wanted to just watch Netflix at my place? That shit was easy. It proves to them you at least have some money, and if they can actually chill with you it proves you aren't a creep.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on December 29, 2015, 11:14:22 PM

Tinder is hilarious. I'm going to start a thread where I document the cultural wasteland it presents. Using it to get laid or date is just a fringe benefit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 29, 2015, 11:19:53 PM

Quote from: Kara on December 29, 2015, 11:14:22 PM

Tinder is hilarious. I'm going to start a thread where I document the cultural wasteland it presents. Using it to get laid or date is just a fringe benefit.

Didn't Vanity Fair already cover this?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on December 29, 2015, 11:21:52 PM

I don't read Thackeray, sorry.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on December 29, 2015, 11:22:05 PM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on December 29, 2015, 09:58:59 PM

Quote from: Huff on December 29, 2015, 07:52:00 PM
altra,

just find some 5 or a 6 on tinder then ask to "neflix and chill"

piece of pie

Not everyone is a pharmacist, bryh.

I don't play that card

I just prey on the weak

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 29, 2015, 11:24:18 PM

I kept forgetting to open it up in a more diverse area. When I had Tinder it was basically white girl central. As in pics of girls riding their horse or with their 90yo grandma or posing with police, amongst other shit I #cantrelate to.

And the black chicks were grad student types with short hair who seemed boring. Chicks I would have killed to meet during my backpacker phase but now it's whatever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on December 29, 2015, 11:24:42 PM

I could never fuck with online dating. But even human garbage like me can have some success out in the wild. It's not that hard. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on December 30, 2015, 12:13:35 AM

I guess it's cause I'm older but I had waaaaaaaay more success with OkStupid than I did with Tinder. I only had Tinder on my phone for like a month and it was just fucking stupid. Had a few conversations on there that never amounted to anything.

Have had lots of hook ups from OkCupid. Finally got tired of putting the energy into it though. I'm in fwb territory with a woman I like now, that's good enough for me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on December 30, 2015, 01:30:48 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 29, 2015, 08:10:34 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on December 29, 2015, 07:48:14 PM
Quote from: Pallando on December 29, 2015, 01:45:27 PM
Let me know when you guys go two decades and five years without booty and then maybe I'll feel sorry for you. :doge

I'm still unable to understand the reality you live in. We're in the same country, but I just don't get it. It's not that difficult. ???
Quick summary: I was given constant and rather large doses of conservative Christianity during my most impressionable years.

If you asked 15 year old me where I would be in life at age 25 I probably would've said, "Married and with one kid on the way."

Then a bunch of bad shit happened around 08' & 09' and I fucking snapped.

I'm well aware dude, I don ignore your posts. I feel bad for you, I do. I just have a tough time wrapping my mind around your "American experience." That crazy stuff just doesn't happen out here in the Northwest. Unless you live on a compound out in the middle of nowhere.

Pick up your shit and move away. Start the fuck over. You don't owe your family a goddamn thing.

Quote from: nudemacusers on December 29, 2015, 07:53:23 PM

Palla went to BJU, which is despite the suggestive abbreviation, is light on the human to human contact. Our boy has been broken, and needs a hard reset, the kind you can only get from fellow male ( :doge) intervention.

That's what I meant by different reality.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on December 30, 2015, 03:03:53 AM

Quote from: The Walrus on December 30, 2015, 12:33:11 AM

Quote from: Kara on December 29, 2015, 11:14:22 PM
Tinder is hilarious. I'm going to start a thread where I document the cultural wasteland it presents. Using it to get laid or date is just a fringe benefit.

What happened to the one?

I still talk to her almost every day and I still love her, but she's trying to live her life (if awkwardly tip toeing around me in doing so) and I want that. I got a second chance to be the positive part in her life that I wasn't before and I'm not going to cock that up if I can help it.

In the meantime, I get to have my guts ripped out. :itagaki

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=43251.msg2114082#msg2114082

Tinder owns doe. Right now I have a thing going with:

-a tsundere Russian Jew who is huge on theatre (even worked on Broadway)

-an adorable vegetarian alt cutie who loves my stupid puns and also has no parents in her life and is unbelievably positive and I know I'm going to disappoint righteously but I don't care rn

In this void of purpose, fear, or duty... I shall at long last be free. Blood for the blood god. Skulls for the skull throne :rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on December 30, 2015, 03:22:51 AM

Vegetarian alt rock chick. The former is rarely that emotionally warm.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on December 30, 2015, 03:57:25 AM

My girl is gonna rip my guts out so bad, just waiting for it, I like her too much to not get destroyed

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 30, 2015, 06:04:47 PM

Dating in general, especially online dating, is easy unless you have a lot of anxiety about losing your v-card. Which is why I recommended my solution. Once that hurdle clears, it will get a lot easier from there for him.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on December 31, 2015, 10:18:42 PM

She said she's glad to have me back in her life. :uguu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 31, 2015, 10:26:59 PM

Are you talking about absinthe?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on December 31, 2015, 11:38:33 PM

Quote from: Kara on December 31, 2015, 10:18:42 PM

She said she's glad to have me back in her life.

There's your problem. :wag

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on January 01, 2016, 12:21:37 AM

So she didn't love him because he liked dick?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on January 01, 2016, 12:30:32 AM

I think it would have made more sense if he was into dick in both timelines but was just repressed in one which made their relationship fail. Ideally the soldier is also into dick and in both timelines the two dudes end up together and she ends up alone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on January 01, 2016, 02:01:36 AM

I saw Sliding Doors too.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on January 01, 2016, 02:02:41 AM

That's not sarcasm, I have actually seen that movie. Several times. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on January 01, 2016, 02:18:55 AM

A recent Spotify binge led me to The Smashing Pumpink's Zero. I finally paid attention to the lyrics for once and they reminded me of your predicament. :larry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on January 01, 2016, 02:24:00 AM

Walrus is liking all my posts lately

I feel like we should date

Walrus plz respond

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mods Help on January 01, 2016, 04:13:12 AM

Made out with a guy tonight at a party at the stroke of midnight.

*wipes drool off mouth*

Was hot. He has my numero.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on January 02, 2016, 09:16:11 PM

Quote from: Rufus on January 01, 2016, 02:18:55 AM

A recent Spotify binge led me to The Smashing Pumpink's Zero. I finally paid attention to the lyrics for once and they reminded me of your predicament. :larry

The best thing about this is that you're mediating my life with mass media.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on January 02, 2016, 09:33:57 PM

What do you mean? It's the best way to relate to other people. Ask Creepy Stalker.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on January 12, 2016, 09:59:28 PM

Quote from: Kara on December 21, 2015, 08:44:40 PM

Found the one, y'all.

(http://i.imgur.com/TzsJVFU.jpg)

Like this post if you think I'm going to torpedo it spectacularly. Quote this post if you think I'm going to find out a horrible secret about her that's a deal breaker. (For example, unironically believing in the capitalist mode of production.)

Yes I inserted these poison pills to prevent y'all from showing me any congratulations or support. Get fucked. :bolo

Update on this: she really needs orthodontia (PD, breh, the struggle is real) and is an unrepentant glory hunter (be a Steelers and Alabama football fan brehs), but I strongly suspected the former for reasons I won't disclose because if you're the same way you should be thinking of ways to afford Invisalign instead of how to hide your dental deficiencies in shame and frankly I don't care about the latter unless she supports Team Sky.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on January 12, 2016, 10:11:52 PM

that's the saddest post you've ever made

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on January 12, 2016, 10:26:43 PM

be a good patriot and inform her of Care Credit. She can even find an office that will absorb the interest.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on January 14, 2016, 10:35:32 PM

Man, when I was young and dumb I got myself into Zack Morris shit on purpose trying to get laid, now I'm just a nice Jewish boy that unintentionally walks his-self into two liaisons in the same day because standards fall precipitously with age. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: mormapope on January 14, 2016, 11:29:20 PM

You need to become a BAD Jewish boy then.

:cody

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on January 15, 2016, 02:10:59 AM

Quote from: mormapope on January 14, 2016, 11:29:20 PM

You need to become a BAD Jewish boy then.

:cody

http://imgur.com/gallery/RG0BS1U

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on February 08, 2016, 10:51:49 AM

Turns out the lady I'd been dating for 3 weeks and was pretty into had a bf and I was a side piece

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on February 08, 2016, 12:23:31 PM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on February 08, 2016, 10:51:49 AM

Turns out the lady I'd been dating for 3 weeks and was pretty into had a bf and I was a side piece

:fbm

Sucks.

You gonna walk away, play along, or burn that shit down?

Or make a routine out of it?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on February 08, 2016, 12:28:10 PM

Walk away. I have (just barely) enough dignity to not wanna do that shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on February 29, 2016, 08:06:46 PM

This girl I've been seeing for about a month had a small argument with me last night and then texted that she wants to take a break (took me by surprise). Then this morning she apologized and told me she misses me and now we're going to talk tonight. I don't know what to say since I don't think she's necessarily an insecure woman being that she's 32, thin/attractive, and educated so I shouldn't be intimidating. Is this usually a red flag or a common small problem in the early part of relationships?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on February 29, 2016, 09:03:37 PM

Real talk: Break up with her. If she's that indecisive and wants a "break" after one month you might as well save yourself the future headache.

Man talk: or you could just stay, continue to smash, and start looking for another option

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on March 01, 2016, 01:20:19 AM

Ask her why she acted that way. She may have baggage; you may or may not be willing to deal with it. Just get more information before deciding.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on March 01, 2016, 02:56:54 AM

Nono, she said she wasn't sure if I really considered it an exclusive, serious relationship at this point because I made several jokes last night about calling her my old lady or mistress instead of girlfriend.....which is hilarious. She did have some communication issues in her past relationships.

I made it clear how I felt about her and how angry I am. And that there won't be any third chances or anything so I'll see how it goes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on March 01, 2016, 08:44:24 AM

I'd be more forgiving. When relationships are new, it's touch and go. People get afraid to get involved because they don't want to get hurt again. So the moment they get some adversity their instinct is to run away before they get in too deep.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on March 01, 2016, 09:42:34 AM

Did I never mention this?

Girlfriend and I are planning on moving in together when our respective leases are up in the summer. :D

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on March 04, 2016, 01:43:58 PM

Girl I dated for a few months right before I got together with my wife just announced on Facebook she got married to a guy she met in January. With wedding ring tattoos. That's either her fourth or fifth marriage now. She was divorced when I dated her, and she's been with four guys since. Can't remember if she married the first one after me or not.

I knew she was chaos back when I dated her. A whole lot of fun when we're 22 years old, but chaos. My wife and I were like "WTF" when we saw her status change on Facebook the other day.

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on March 01, 2016, 09:42:34 AM

Did I never mention this?

Girlfriend and I are planning on moving in together when our respective leases are up in the summer. :D

:rock

:tauntaun

:rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on March 05, 2016, 12:08:31 PM

I have an aunt and an uncle who have been married at least five or six times. My uncle got divorced again a couple of months ago after being married for maybe a year if that. My aunt, after divorcing for the last time, has finally decided that marriage isn't for her (no rly?) and has been single now for a few years.

As an update for me, I've been seeing a 24 year old cute nurse who is a little thick (the right thick) with big boobs. I couldn't be any happier at the moment. I'm now 31 (birthday was two days ago) and I think the biological clock is ticking because I've been thinking a lot about knocking her up. However thanks to years of rigorous masturbation, I can't come by having sex, with or without a condom. So I've really cut back on it and might cut it out entirely.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 05, 2016, 12:57:00 PM

You ever need a son, you let me know. I'll hook your old lady up. I can't miss.
:mynicca

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on March 07, 2016, 02:15:05 AM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on March 07, 2016, 09:55:50 AM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on March 05, 2016, 12:08:31 PM

However thanks to years of rigorous masturbation, I can't come by having sex, with or without a condom.

Yeah you could. If you can masturbate without porn, you can have an orgasm while having sex. You just close your eyes and create a fantasy in your head and commit to it. It will happen.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Purrp Skirrp on March 08, 2016, 01:16:34 AM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on March 05, 2016, 12:08:31 PM

However thanks to years of rigorous masturbation, I can't come by having sex, with or without a condom. So I've really cut back on it and might cut it out entirely.

(http://i.imgur.com/2i9hyGR.gif)

You think that's really it though? My first time I couldn't nut and was thinking the same thing, that masturbating so much has conditioned me to a specific technique hand crafted over many sessions.

However, I still masturbate p much the same amount and now finish every time rest assured. Doggystyle is my GF's fatality.

For me any issue with cumming was due to anxiety, especially the anticipatory kind. Also I know you mentioned low t and that can def cause this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on March 08, 2016, 09:17:22 AM

You tellin me spent all that money on euro prozzies and couldn't cum from it?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 08, 2016, 11:21:25 AM

Yea I think it's more anxiety. I had a major problem with that awhile ago but have gotten better. I watch less porn now too though.

But yea, dat wanking technique :lawd :tocry

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Post by: I'm a Puppy! on March 20, 2016, 10:55:44 AM

So did the threesome. It was great. Very sore.
My wife is all kinds of awesome.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 20, 2016, 11:22:32 AM

wait, what?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on March 20, 2016, 11:45:40 AM

Wife's single friend says she wants a threesome. Yada yada yada. Now I'm sore.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on March 20, 2016, 12:11:29 PM

Well jesus. I was gonna come in here and tell you all my girlfriend and I are moving in together, but this is a much cooler story.

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Post by: I'm a Puppy! on March 20, 2016, 12:17:32 PM

Congrats BrandNew! That's awesome!
(I still don't love you, but that's awesome!)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mr. Gundam on March 20, 2016, 12:32:27 PM

Good luck, puppy. Hopefully everything stays normal and the single friend doesn't get all weird or catch feels.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on March 20, 2016, 12:43:17 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on March 20, 2016, 12:17:32 PM

Congrats BrandNew! That's awesome!
(I still don't love you, but that's awesome!)

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Post by: I'm a Puppy! on March 20, 2016, 12:59:00 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on March 20, 2016, 12:32:27 PM

Good luck, puppy. Hopefully everything stays normal and the single friend doesn't get all weird or catch feels.

So far so good. Wife was way cool. So I'm not expecting drama on her front. Friend, we'll see. She's a cool chick and certainly seemed very cool with all it and has always been very respectful of my wife's and my relationship. she's also not someone we see often, so it's not likely she'll catch feels. Of course I can't speak for anything in the future, but for right now everyone is taking it for what it was. A fun night, and that's all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on March 20, 2016, 01:37:59 PM

How do you feel about repaying the favour with a single guy?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on March 20, 2016, 01:44:37 PM

Its a chick? She got better goods than the wife? I need details this is a good jerkoff story.

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Post by: I'm a Puppy! on March 20, 2016, 06:32:54 PM

Sorry demi no midgets in this story

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Post by: demi on March 20, 2016, 06:57:32 PM

Who did you cum on?

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Post by: Mr. Gundam on March 20, 2016, 07:07:35 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on March 20, 2016, 12:59:00 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on March 20, 2016, 12:32:27 PM
Good luck, puppy. Hopefully everything stays normal and the single friend doesn't get all weird or catch feels.
So far so good. Wife was way cool. So I'm not expecting drama on her front. Friend, we'll see. She's a cool chick and certainly seemed very cool with all it and has always been very respectful of my wife's and my relationship. she's also not someone we see often, so it's not likely she'll catch feels. Of course I can't speak for anything in the future, but for right now everyone is taking it for what it was. A fun night, and that's all.

Good for you. I've known people who took part in a threesome and it nuked their marriage from orbit. Known others where it wasn't a big deal a tall. My wife and I are both on the same page about stuff like open marriages, threesomes, etc. We don't like to share and are happy with monogamy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on March 20, 2016, 07:34:40 PM

Hey, that was a serious question. I wasn't trying to jokingly suggest myself. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on March 20, 2016, 08:09:47 PM

Quote from: demi on March 20, 2016, 06:57:32 PM

Who did you cum on?

Which time? I lied. There was a midget. And it was the midget. Both times

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on March 20, 2016, 08:14:29 PM

Quote from: Mr. Gundam on March 20, 2016, 07:07:35 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on March 20, 2016, 12:59:00 PM
Quote from: Mr. Gundam on March 20, 2016, 12:32:27 PM
Good luck, puppy. Hopefully everything stays normal and the single friend doesn't get all weird or catch feels.
So far so good. Wife was way cool. So I'm not expecting drama on her front. Friend, we'll see. She's a cool chick and certainly seemed very cool with all it and has always been very respectful of my wife's and my relationship. she's also not someone we see often, so it's not likely she'll catch feels. Of course I can't speak for anything in the future, but for right now everyone is taking it for what it was. A fun night, and that's all.

Good for you. I've known people who took part in a threesome and it nuked their marriage from orbit. Known others where it wasn't a big deal a tall. My wife and I are both on the same page about stuff like open marriages, threesomes, etc. We don't like to share and are happy with monogamy.

Oh we totally get it and have seen it tear apart people that do it wrong. Luckily it's something we had discussed for a long long time. And my wife is ridiculously confident in our relationship to the point of her coming up to women that are flirting with me and telling them "oh you're adorable". Like I said, you can never speak to the future. But my wife is my soul mate. So if any feels get caught we will correct course asap. Oh and open marriages never work. We always said that anything like this would be an us thing, not a her or me thing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on March 20, 2016, 08:15:55 PM

Quote from: Rufus on March 20, 2016, 07:34:40 PM

Hey, that was a serious question. I wasn't trying to jokingly suggest myself. :lol

Where you at bebe? Can you supply some lube and a donkey?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on March 20, 2016, 09:28:47 PM

Getting back in touch with your Mormon roots I see

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Post by: brawndolicious on March 21, 2016, 12:16:09 AM

Back in college in Santa Cruz, this girl I had just started seeing suggested doing a threesome with her friend but I argued that it wasn't something I would actually enjoy being a "one penis sort of guy". I was very, very new to sex at the time and I think I was just intimidated that I wasn't yet good enough for two at once.

I'll just pick up that L.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on March 21, 2016, 06:17:43 PM

Went on my first gay date last Saturday. :)

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Post by: I'm a Puppy! on March 21, 2016, 08:47:38 PM

So? How did it go?

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Post by: Tasty on March 21, 2016, 10:25:01 PM

It was great! I was nervous cause there had been some awkwardness in our conversations when we talked previously, but we were both able to keep it up (:teehee) the whole night. Went from Whiskey Tango Foxtrot to Red Robin to a Japanese bar. Night ended nice (and chastely), unfortunately he lives in Maine so we can't see each other like all the time but it might be for the best at this stage of the "relationship" (if it can be called that at this stage, but I know we're going for date two sometime.)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on March 24, 2016, 08:36:53 PM

Did you send an email or a text or something? Or write a letter? When you spill something like that it should be in person if at all possible and in person the look on her face will tell you everything. Details man!

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Post by: I'm a Puppy! on March 25, 2016, 03:29:10 AM

Yeah, give us the deets!

The first time I told my wife I loved her it wasn't dramatic. She said, "Oh I know, I've known for a long time. I love you too."

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Post by: nudemacusers on March 25, 2016, 03:40:00 AM

Quote from: Tasty Meat on March 21, 2016, 06:17:43 PM

Went on my first gay date last Saturday. :)

I finally move to the area and this is how you treat me :(

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Post by: Mupepe on March 25, 2016, 08:02:33 AM

Oh man. Is this the super hot one?? This is my Arab fantasy come true

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Post by: toku on March 25, 2016, 03:57:15 PM

bless up

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 25, 2016, 04:03:31 PM

Dunno dude. The games she plays makes me very cautious about this. Wouldn't be the first time she led you on only to do something stupid.

:snoop

stay safe out chea in these relationship streetz brehs

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Post by: Tasty on March 25, 2016, 04:21:01 PM

Congrats Wrath!

Quote from: nudemacusers on March 25, 2016, 03:40:00 AM

Quote from: Tasty Meat on March 21, 2016, 06:17:43 PM
Went on my first gay date last Saturday. :)
I finally move to the area and this is how you treat me :(

Where you at b

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on March 25, 2016, 04:24:34 PM

In a certain "gated community" between Lexington and concord

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Post by: Tasty on March 25, 2016, 07:28:45 PM

You finally got busted for public solicitation? ;)

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Post by: Samson Manhug on March 25, 2016, 07:58:29 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on March 25, 2016, 04:24:34 PM

In a certain "gated community" between Lexington and concord

I used to use this line on girls :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on March 26, 2016, 12:06:15 AM

Also Lexington is too far out there for me. Even going to Quincy is too much sometimes. Lol.

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Post by: nudemacusers on March 26, 2016, 02:15:29 AM

God you're so urban

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Post by: Tasty on March 26, 2016, 12:02:16 PM

They don't call me a yuppy for nothing. 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on March 26, 2016, 05:27:05 PM

oh shit, another one in the Bostonbore contingency? salute

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on March 26, 2016, 06:23:16 PM

Another one? How many of us are there? :omg

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Post by: seagrams hotsauce on March 26, 2016, 06:37:04 PM

Counting you guys? two lol, I lived in Dorchester for a year or two when I got out of high school, but I'm on cape now so I don't count anymore

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Post by: Tasty on March 26, 2016, 06:40:22 PM

TBH mac doesn't count either, Concord isn't Boston (neither are Cambridge, Somerville and Quincy for that matter.) ;)

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Post by: seagrams hotsauce on March 26, 2016, 06:45:10 PM

I know, but it's more Boston than where I'm at. On a related note, I really think Bostonians should consider adopting Cambridge as Boston proper to make up for Allston. Would really throw a wrench in the 'well it wasn't EXACTLY Boston' preamble from Harvard blowhards too

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on March 26, 2016, 06:48:03 PM

No, that preamble makes it worth it. Right?

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Post by: nudemacusers on March 26, 2016, 09:25:08 PM

Everything on the east coast is like one hour away so it all counts IMO. Come to Montana where it takes four hours to go anywhere 😫

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Post by: Tasty on March 26, 2016, 09:48:43 PM

Lol when I go home to CT by train I cross through RI for like half an hour and I'm like, "Wow, the world is so small." :lol Total trip takes like 1h 40m.

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Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on March 26, 2016, 10:32:59 PM

So dumb

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Post by: brawndolicious on March 28, 2016, 05:50:24 AM

Assuming she's somebody like you, was she afraid that having a serious relationship with somebody in SA would make it harder for her to get out?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on March 28, 2016, 08:57:50 AM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on March 28, 2016, 05:33:22 AM

:fbm

:tocry

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Post by: Tasty on March 28, 2016, 10:27:15 AM

:brazilcry

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Post by: Mupepe on March 28, 2016, 12:04:22 PM

I love you. I hope that helps some.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on March 28, 2016, 02:16:52 PM

And I love your body, Wrath. Don't forget that.

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Post by: I'm a Puppy! on March 29, 2016, 12:50:50 PM

Ahem,
I'm sorry. Let me get on my little soapbox.
I don't get this whole, "b..b..but the distance!" shit.
Is love worth sacrificing for or not? Isn't love the only thing worth sacrificing for?
I don't get this "I love you, but it's not convenient" stuff. If you love someone, you make it convenient damn it. Love is a rare enough thing, it's not like a nice restaurant where you can be like, "I love the place, but it's just so hard to get to. Oh well." Nah man, it's love. Just how many people are going to be like "Not only will I put up with your shit, but I'll love in spite of it."? You think that happens everyday? Love doesn't just "happen" sparks just happen. But love? That takes work.

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Post by: Rufus on March 29, 2016, 12:56:13 PM

It does take work. It's just that distance makes it more difficult. /shrug

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Post by: I'm a Puppy! on March 29, 2016, 12:59:19 PM

Oh, I know. For a while when we were courting my wife and I were over 500 miles apart.
But we made it work. I just have seen a few friends be like "I love this person, but they're too far away." And then they dump them.
Then two years later they're still alone and like "Why can't I find love?!!" :brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Purrp Skirrp on March 29, 2016, 01:29:23 PM

Distance is a (temporary) inconvenience but she's using it as a reason to avoid a relationship altogether. Doesn't sound like love and I'd bail at that point because she's not willing/doesn't think that inconvenience is worth the extra effort. Any serious lasting relationship is going to have greater sacrifices than that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on March 29, 2016, 03:55:43 PM

If you end up together, are both of you on the same page as far as what country/culture you'll eventually want to live in?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on March 29, 2016, 04:31:00 PM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on March 29, 2016, 04:08:11 PM

Quote from: brawndolicious on March 29, 2016, 03:55:43 PM
If you end up together, are both of you on the same page as far as what country/culture you'll eventually want to live in?

Yes.

Well then like you said, it sounds like the situation is as good as it can be and there's no point not taking the leap. I hope you find your happiness.

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Post by: brawndolicious on April 01, 2016, 12:57:00 AM

I think we've known it for a while but my girlfriend and I said we love each other today and we've been talking about moving in together a few months from now*. Quite exciting.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

*I promised my mother I'd help her out until June.

[close]

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 03, 2016, 06:10:53 PM

I'm proud of you breh. She's been jerking you around for too long. I feel bad for her, I don't think she's a bad person. But she has lot learn a better way to handle her business/issues.

Gonna make you a savage breh
:rejoice

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 04, 2016, 01:57:19 PM

Never forget these words of wisdom
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n5vmqMfFZ94

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Post by: Tasty on April 04, 2016, 03:40:01 PM

Went on my second date on Saturday. It went well. :) He lives in Maine so we can't see each other all the time but it's been a good cadence. Won't be able to see him until next Sunday at the earliest.

In the back of my head I have the gnawing thought that there isn't a "whiz-bang" spark between us but since this is my first relationship I'm going to give it some time. We like each other and that's what matters right now. :)

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 04, 2016, 03:56:19 PM

You haven't banged yet?!

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Post by: Tasty on April 04, 2016, 04:36:56 PM

He stayed over on Saturday. I came twice.

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Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 04, 2016, 04:38:48 PM

Through anal stimulation or did he provide oral pleasure?
(https://secure.static.tumblr.com/f79161e5741825fb6b4ee51731dc8f5d/y3ilafl/9wnncd0xp/tumblr_static_tumblr_static_1n7ezh6ggd7o4c00s884cgw0o_640.jpg)

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Post by: Tasty on April 04, 2016, 04:53:37 PM

I'll let your imagination fill in the details. ;)

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Post by: toku on April 04, 2016, 05:43:48 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on April 04, 2016, 04:38:48 PM

(https://secure.static.tumblr.com/f79161e5741825fb6b4ee51731dc8f5d/y3ilafl/9wnncd0xp/tumblr_static_tumblr_static_1n7ezh6ggd7o4c00s884cgw0o_640.jpg)

I miss murder husbands

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 06, 2016, 05:40:08 PM

As in "tell your brother to respond to my texts" or "let me tell you some personal shit about your brother"?

If it's the former :yeshrug

If it's the latter
(http://i.imgur.com/HCaH4MG.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 07, 2016, 07:28:57 AM

To be fair, I would take any excuse to talk to your sister as well :heartbeat

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on April 07, 2016, 12:47:47 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on March 29, 2016, 12:50:50 PM

Ahem,
I'm sorry. Let me get on my little soapbox.
I don't get this whole, "b..b..but the distance!" shit.
Is love worth sacrificing for or not? Isn't love the only thing worth sacrificing for?
I don't get this "I love you, but it's not convenient" stuff. If you love someone, you make it convenient damn it. Love is a rare enough thing, it's not like a nice restaurant where you can be like, "I love the place, but it's just so hard to get to. Oh well." Nah man, it's love. Just how many people are going to be like "Not only will I put up with your shit, but I'll love in spite of it."? You think that happens everyday? Love doesn't just "happen" sparks just happen. But love? That takes work.

Long distance doesn't work. It has never worked. And it will never work.

Bitches get hit on all the time and if you expect her to sit their and wait for your nerd ass to escape your parent's house you are crazy.

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Post by: I'm a Puppy! on April 07, 2016, 01:09:14 PM

Worked for me. You just gotta be someone worth waiting for :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on April 07, 2016, 01:10:07 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on April 07, 2016, 01:09:14 PM

Worked for me. You just gotta be someone worth waiting for :hitler

Or unattractive, I suppose.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 07, 2016, 01:46:39 PM

You seem mighty bitter and angry recently.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on April 07, 2016, 01:48:56 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 07, 2016, 01:46:39 PM

You seem mighty bitter and angry recently.

Agreed.

You seem to have a better disposition recently though Rahx. ^_^

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on April 07, 2016, 01:58:31 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 07, 2016, 01:46:39 PM

You seem mighty bitter and angry recently.

I just don't pretend you people are normal. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on April 07, 2016, 02:05:56 PM

Quote from: Tasty Meat on April 07, 2016, 01:48:56 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 07, 2016, 01:46:39 PM
You seem mighty bitter and angry recently.

Agreed.

You seem to have a better disposition recently though Rahx. ^_^

Probably getting some pussy on the regular now. (http://i.imgur.com/JFnIyOT.png) (http://i.imgur.com/wVPbMUj.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 07, 2016, 02:07:31 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on April 07, 2016, 01:58:31 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 07, 2016, 01:46:39 PM
You seem mighty bitter and angry recently.

I just don't pretend you people are normal. :yeshrug

What do you mean "you people" :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on April 07, 2016, 02:10:38 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on April 07, 2016, 02:07:31 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on April 07, 2016, 01:58:31 PM
Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 07, 2016, 01:46:39 PM
You seem mighty bitter and angry recently.

I just don't pretend you people are normal. :yeshrug

What do you mean "you people" :hitler

:cac

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 07, 2016, 06:26:31 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on April 07, 2016, 01:58:31 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 07, 2016, 01:46:39 PM
You seem mighty bitter and angry recently.

I just don't pretend you people are normal. :yeshrug

I couldn't even be if I tried.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Yulwei on April 07, 2016, 06:31:10 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 07, 2016, 06:26:31 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on April 07, 2016, 01:58:31 PM
Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 07, 2016, 01:46:39 PM
You seem mighty bitter and angry recently.

I just don't pretend you people are normal. :yeshrug
I couldn't even be if I tried.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on April 07, 2016, 06:33:49 PM

*right click*
*saved* :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 07, 2016, 11:46:03 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on April 07, 2016, 01:10:07 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on April 07, 2016, 01:09:14 PM
Worked for me. You just gotta be someone worth waiting for :hitler

Or unattractive, I suppose.

If a girl is just fit and knows how to put on make-up then she'll get hit on a lot but if she's hot (like legitimately model-caliber) then very few guys will try asking her out besides random strangers. Girls like that usually do have more dude friends than average which is understandable considering how back-bitey other girls who are less sure of themselves get.

Basically, I have no idea what puppy or his wife look like but they both sure sound like really confident peoples.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on April 08, 2016, 01:48:41 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 07, 2016, 06:26:31 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on April 07, 2016, 01:58:31 PM
Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 07, 2016, 01:46:39 PM
You seem mighty bitter and angry recently.

I just don't pretend you people are normal. :yeshrug
I couldn't even be if I tried.

(http://vignette2.wikia.nocookie.net/legomessageboards/images/2/21/Ow_the_edge.jpg/revision/latest?cb=20140812001940)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Purrp Skirrp on April 08, 2016, 02:25:42 AM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on April 07, 2016, 02:10:38 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on April 07, 2016, 02:07:31 PM
Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on April 07, 2016, 01:58:31 PM
Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 07, 2016, 01:46:39 PM
You seem mighty bitter and angry recently.

I just don't pretend you people are normal. :yeshrug

What do you mean "you people" :hitler

:cac

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on April 09, 2016, 11:58:42 AM

Things are getting weird with my nurse girlfriend.

A little while ago, my gf wanted me to start fucking her in the ass. I've fucked a few chicks in the ass and I don't really care much for it. It's always been at the girl's insistence. I just don't care much for it but I feel that if a girl asks for it, I generally do it. So yeah, I've done anal with her a few times. Last night, she apparently wanted to go further and she got brought some various BDSM sex toys.

Thanks to the internet, I associate BDSM with fat blobs who care more about talking about their fetishes on their Tumblr than getting a job. Furthermore I just don't get BDSM. So :kobeyuck was my reaction when she got out shit like a ball gag, one of those multistrand whips, and other shit that I didn't really know what it was for. She didn't care much for my reaction so we wound up fighting instead of fucking. She did end up staying overnight and we're all good now but inevitably it will come up again.

The only positive here is that this might give me a window to ask for a threesome. She has a lot of good looking friends and we're all on great terms. Making lemonade out of lemons :win

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on April 09, 2016, 04:01:13 PM

marry that girl and stop being a pussy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on April 09, 2016, 04:03:50 PM

BDSM :holeup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 09, 2016, 04:35:36 PM

Think of it as currency. You may not like BDSM, but putting up with it might end up buying you something you want down the line. Like a threesome or an hour of sloppy face fucking.

Pay the toll.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 09, 2016, 04:41:13 PM

Quote from: Rufus on April 09, 2016, 04:03:50 PM

BDSM :holeup

http://kikidm.com/accessories/leather-goods/restraining-arts-kit-black.html

:cody

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on April 09, 2016, 04:46:10 PM

"restraining arts"

:whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on April 09, 2016, 05:00:53 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on April 09, 2016, 04:41:13 PM

Quote from: Rufus on April 09, 2016, 04:03:50 PM
BDSM :holeup

http://kikidm.com/accessories/leather-goods/restraining-arts-kit-black.html

:cody

$1,350, are you kidding me? :beli
The Japanese have this one figured out, it seems. "Here's some rope."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on April 09, 2016, 05:18:51 PM

well it's either that or get a macbook pro

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 09, 2016, 05:22:41 PM

Mary Tyler Whore needs to check his fucking privilege. You hit the jackpot, motherfucker.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on April 10, 2016, 01:00:08 AM

Hey, don’t prude shame him. Imagine for one second what it’s like being a man who only likes vanilla sex.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on April 10, 2016, 01:06:12 AM

Or give me her contact info. I know what to do with her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Purrp Skirrp on April 10, 2016, 01:19:03 AM

Imagine being a man(child) like Rahx who only likes vanilla women (http://i.imgur.com/vs53drP.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on April 10, 2016, 01:29:23 AM

Mary Tyler Whore
Proud Kinkshamer

#TheDualities

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 10, 2016, 01:41:56 AM

Anecdotally, it does seem like there's little overlap between people who are into threesomes and people who are into anything a bit dirty/painful though. There's nothing wrong with being afraid of hurting the girl but at the least you could enjoy making her happy and have some points to cash in.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on April 10, 2016, 11:17:22 AM

How you gonna be asking for another woman in the mix when you can't handle the one you got? :heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on April 10, 2016, 10:37:43 PM

Eh...I'm probably gonna make a lot of enemies here, but I'm not really fond of the idea of anal sex either. Sorry, but that just ain't appealing. I mean, the stuff that comes out of there. :doge :kobeyuck

On the other hand, I'm willing to partake in BDSM. Just have to make sure you trust your partner and she ain't crazy. And like Mary said, this is probably a good gateway towards a threesome.

Does your nurse gf have big boobs, Mary? :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on April 10, 2016, 11:46:31 PM

While I don't get the BDSM "lifestyle" hell some BDSM never hurt anyone (permanently).

What I don't get though, is that intersection of feminism and BDSM subs that I don't get. I have a lot of feminist friends and many of them are in BDSM relationships. I have a friend and his girlfriend is Ms. Ultra-Feminist (majored in Gender Studies, spends a considerable amount of time fighting "gamer gate", is always calling people out for treating women as less than men) but then at the same time my friend tells me if they're going out for a date she asks him what he wants her to wear and he's like "Uh..whatever you want and makes your comfy" and then she's like "No. You don't understand, you have to tell me specifically what to wear." And isn't satisfied until he tells her what clothes, underewear and shoes to wear. Hey man, bedroom stuff is sexy, but ordering people around in daily life? :kobeyuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on April 11, 2016, 12:00:50 AM

It's about ethics in consent, puppy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 11, 2016, 12:54:05 AM

Quote from: WRATH VICE™ on April 11, 2016, 12:27:34 AM

What gets you off doesn't necessarily dictate your identity.

:expert

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Purrp Skirrp on April 11, 2016, 01:14:19 AM

On the Merits of Anal

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It's a tighter hole and kind of a dirty deed which ups the kink factor. Feels really dominating as a giver and has got to be one of the most submissive positions on the receiving end.

The tighter fit also helps buff penis size, which some men tend to be insecure about. Some chicks are into it too and can get off to it, so be considerate if your woman likes it in the ass.

In regards to it being an orifice for waste, again kinky but also I'm pretty sure there's ways to help ensure you don't wind up recreating the Tucker Max anal story.

Personally, I love ass and I'll dine on some fresh out a shower. Anal was aight and I'm glad I tried it, but it was more of a thing my girl did for me in the beginning to help earn her that LT relationship status.

Also came talk of threesomes, which have yet to materialize but will in time. Call it misleading but to me a woman is a keeper when she's willing to bend over back for you and challenge some of her reservations.

I'm willing to explore the ass game more, but pressuring someone is never a good look and I'd rather have my GF actually want it like how some dirrrty chicks do.

Same goes for threesomes, and I can tell as she becomes more confident in herself she is willing to explore more sexually, and what a beautiful thing that is to witness (cuck joke goes here).

That kind of confidence is one of the things that attracts me to MILFs, who I see as women who are more assured in themselves, their bodies and their needs.

With sex, it's all about communicating your wants and needs, setting boundaries and establishing trust.

Don't hesitate to ask when someone is not outwardly conveying this information, they might not even know what they like until the two of you try it out.

Bottom line: I like (the idea of) anal but do your own thing bro it's cool.

(http://i.imgur.com/gMHHL2Q.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 22, 2016, 05:10:22 PM

Did you miss me? No...Well I'm back here. Hopefully, this post won't be as terrible as ones before.

Since I'm an anime character(let's say Shinji from Eva is my spirt animal) I don't pick up signals well and am in general an awkward turtle. Really only able to interact with people I'm comfortable with. Which goes double for women who make me uncomfortable in general. Espically when I find them attractive.

Whatever, I'm not tottaly at a lost. I have some friends, including women and I've moved past the "a girl smiled at me, she must like me" phase. Maybe too in the other extreme of "of course no girl is interested" phase. Anyway chalk it up to too much weeb shit.

Anyway, in my Exploring Fantasy Genres class there is a girl who I'm unsure about. She doesn't talk much. Then again I don't either. She usually sits on one side of the room and has so for the entire semester. Hell it looked like she was today until she decided to sit right next to me.

Now no big deal. Except I think she did give me the hard stare the one time we worked together, but I thought best not to overthink it. It could have been nothing.

Anyway she sat there. Made a little joke about switching it up. Ok whatever.

Now at random intervals she would ask me a question. Maybe to start up conversation. I don't know.

Harry Potter came up. She asked me if I like Harry Potter.

Randomly she asked me about what my favorite Marvel Super Heros were. I answered. Notice she had a Hawkeye shirt on and then procededed to talk about the recent stuff.

Then for whatever reason she asked me if I wanted to know a secret.....that she was going to a Justin Beebs concert today, to which I just made a playful joke about and mentioned how my coworkers like his recent cd.

I had a few jokes in class. She laughed. I don't know I'm bad a feeling people in relation to me, but to someone unsure like me this felt too random to be anything else other then a girl trying to feel her around a dude.

So I'm just asking the Bores opinion. I'll probably try to peruse something. Not like I haven't asked out a classmate before(which didn't exactly go bad). Besides any girl who likes Hawkeye is cool in my book.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on April 22, 2016, 05:58:50 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on April 09, 2016, 04:35:36 PM

Think of it as currency. You may not like BDSM, but putting up with it might end up buying you something you want down the line. Like a threesome or an hour of sloppy face fucking.

Pay the toll.

As an update, I took this approach. I don't like BDSM but you're right, I have to look at the bigger picture.

I found the window of opportunity for the threesome. A few months ago, I booked a trip to Spain for two weeks. Now that I have a girlfriend, she's coming along. I figured that if we do this out of the country, it's more discreet, which would work in my favor. I carefully planned the discussion and fortunately she seems down. I had to make sure I didn't sound too eager so I responded by saying, "ok, we can discuss this later as it gets closer." I can't make sure I'm too excited but I'm not letting the opportunity pass by either.

More to come.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 25, 2016, 05:39:39 PM

Quote from: Swishercrat on April 10, 2016, 01:19:03 AM

Imagine being a man(child) like Rahx who only likes vanilla women (http://i.imgur.com/vs53drP.jpg)

That's unfair. My porn folder would disagree.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on April 25, 2016, 05:41:08 PM

Just make sure your relationship is strong and really discuss what you want out of it upfront. You don't want to be a Ross.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on April 25, 2016, 05:45:13 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 22, 2016, 05:10:22 PM

Shinji from Eva is my spirt animal

Just, like... man...

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 25, 2016, 11:09:05 PM

eww Rebuild.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 25, 2016, 11:21:47 PM

https://youtu.be/-4EDhdAHrOg

poignant.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on April 26, 2016, 01:37:54 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on April 25, 2016, 11:09:05 PM

eww Rebuild.

Rebuild :rejoice

OG series :trash

Utada Hikaru :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 26, 2016, 10:10:41 AM

Girlfriend and I have talked about how our sex has become less and less frequent. I think its due to a couple things:

a) Our schedules conflict a lot
b) We both masturbate because of the previous reason
c) She usually can have an orgasm almost immediately, whereas it takes me a good long while

To remedy this, we've both committed to stop masturbating. And I'm hoping once I move in with her, reason A will be thrown out.

Anyone have experience on this, or has advice?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on April 26, 2016, 10:12:01 AM

Masturbate together via Facetime :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on April 26, 2016, 10:39:09 AM

Hrmm....not so sure that stopping for both of you might be the issue.
Sex is one of those things that the more you get, the more you want. I guess it would help you in cutting down your lasting time. But women have a very small refractory period and can cum multiple times, so long as you're not lasting so long you're making her raw I think lasting a while might be a good thing rather than a bad one. I mean, you're both masturbating a lot so you have a lot drive obviously. How bad is the schedule thing? Are you guys so tired when you get together that sex is more cursory than anything? Maybe you guys are in a sexual rut? Or maybe one of you is?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on April 26, 2016, 11:10:17 AM

Or maybe it's just A all the way and you'll go back to fucking like rabbits once you're living together.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 26, 2016, 11:16:13 AM

How open are sexual discussions? Are you two able to freely share fantasies and discuss likes/dislikes? That usually kicks things up a notch.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 26, 2016, 11:28:01 AM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on April 26, 2016, 10:39:09 AM

Hrmm....not so sure that stopping for both of you might be the issue.
Sex is one of those things that the more you get, the more you want. I guess it would help you in cutting down your lasting time. But women have a very small refractory period and can cum multiple times, so long as you're not lasting so long you're making her raw I think lasting a while might be a good thing rather than a bad one. I mean, you're both masturbating a lot so you have a lot drive obviously. How bad is the schedule thing? Are you guys so tired when you get together that sex is more cursory than anything? Maybe you guys are in a sexual rut? Or maybe one of you is?

My lasting time is seriously fucking weird and I hate that about myself. I'm 100% game for pound town for the first 10 minutes, but after that and a few position changes, I need to be in a verrrrry particular position/rhythm to get myself going again. And when I do, I need to do it for a decent amount of time. At that point, she's already had three or four orgasms, and she'll often times plop down, exhausted. And yeah, it's become an issue where after a while I end up hurting her vagina, and obviously I don't want that. And she gets upset if I don't finish, which I completely understand.

The schedule thing fucks up 4 or 5 out of 7 nights for us. I'll come home at 5:30, but she'll have just started a shift at 2 and won't get out until 11, sometimes 12. And when she works mornings, she'll be exhausted at night because she has to get up at 4 am. When we try and have sex those nights, it definitely does feel like we're going through the motions. I would not be surprised if I'm going through a rut. I haven't been as active lately at the gym/basketball so my endurance is not super high. That's another thing I've committed to – getting back into my cardio workout.

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How open are sexual discussions? Are you two able to freely share fantasies and discuss likes/dislikes? That usually kicks things up a notch.

We talk, but it hasn't ever been a full on discussion. I've mentioned the idea of a threesome, and she's not into it. Understandable. I then mentioned maybe watching porn together. She seemed into that, but with the caveat that it shouldn't be something we use all the time. Again, I agree with her on that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on April 26, 2016, 11:34:19 AM

That lasting is a problem then. Cutting back might help you out after all.
Though, I'd say she does need to understand that you don't need to orgasm every time.
The porn thing works really well to sorta expand the repertoire. Does she view porn on her own now?

Also you should do something like mojoupgrade. it's a good way to start conversations about sex.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 26, 2016, 11:54:29 AM

I've told her that too. Honestly, much of my enjoyment during sex is seeing her experience her orgasms. Having me cap the night off with trying to orgasm is like watching the Cavs put out Dahntay Jones during garbage time in the 4th quarter. Sure, he might get a bucket or two, but no one is really jazzed about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on April 26, 2016, 12:43:55 PM

There was a period where the only time I could finish was basically by me jerking it while getting the tip sucked. My sensitivity issues remain but have gotten better. At first I just tried to look at it from the bright side: I didn't have to worry about taking an L by busting early. But it got to the point where I couldn't get a decent, lasting erection during sex. As an example I might have an erection during a blowjob but the minute we got ready for sex I'd notice my junk deflate a bit. Or sometimes I'd deflate in the middle of sex.

Cutting down on porn helped. I used to watch porn daily, sometimes twice a day. Now I jack off once or twice a week. The other thing that helped was extended the sensuality of the event. Cuddling before sex, for instance. Or a long period of foreplay like giving her a massage, kissing for longer, etc. Jumping right to sex doesn't really work for me yet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on April 26, 2016, 12:47:00 PM

Just communicating about it is 80% of the battle. It's real easy just to bottle that shit up (or to be afraid to talk about it) and then watch it spill over into other parts of your relationship and poison the well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 26, 2016, 01:26:35 PM

Yeah, we're learning that as well. We had a little fight last week and part of why she was upset was that she didn't think we had enough sex. So we've both made it a point to discuss it openly instead of it being this looming subject that we don't touch upon.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on April 26, 2016, 01:30:10 PM

It's good that you're able to have that discussion though. there are many people that just bottle that shit up. So that's a very good first. Just make sure you keep communicating. Seriously, consider doing mojoupgrade it might be fun.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Alcoholic Fish on April 26, 2016, 01:33:47 PM

Think I'm going through the same rut right now, BrandNew, but for slightly different reasons.

All you can do is talk it out and be open. I've been with my GF for long enough to know not to let shit fester. It seems like you're doing that already, so stay the course.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 26, 2016, 01:57:09 PM

I'll give mojoupgrade a look! Thanks

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 26, 2016, 03:06:23 PM

You could try dirty talking online if she's the verbally creative sort and of course masturbate less, but be careful with that. I did that a few weeks ago and she ended up making me shoot myself on the chin, we couldn't stop laughing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on April 26, 2016, 03:22:18 PM

Yes be careful with not masturbating lest you ABSOLUTELY HATE monster loads that shoot out of a cannon

Easily the worst, ugh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on April 26, 2016, 03:27:20 PM

Quote from: demi on April 26, 2016, 03:22:18 PM

Yes be careful with not masturbating lest you ABSOLUTELY HATE monster loads that shoot out of a cannon

Easily the worst, ugh

https://gfycat.com/PoshNeighboringAnophelesmosquito

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 29, 2016, 04:37:46 PM

I hate to inturpt the BDSM and actual adult talk, but I gotta get back to my man child issues.

Like what do people do when casually asking out a girl today. I was told a number things like people don't even use phone numbers anymore. Should I ask for a number to instigate texting? Do you ask out a girl for coffee?

I followed up today on my fantasy class girl. We talked and walked after class about the comics we're writing. She was nice, but that doesn't mean much. I know I should go for the kill, but I am nervous. Hell in nervous that even if I succeeded and got "date"(which hasn't happened before) I'd even be able to do that and be myself.

I'm nervous, but I think my first story showed clear interests on her part, but I may have failed because I didn't exactly show any. Hey I'm nervous and unsure.

Either way I'm trying. My female coworker said my problem is I don't put myself out there and in general don't try. So I'm at least trying since I believe I got something positive.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 29, 2016, 05:33:51 PM

Well then in going to do that next Friday.

But should I go and do it because at least from what I told you it sounds good?

She wouldn't have talked to me if she wasn't slightly interested after all. And women like assertiveness right?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on April 29, 2016, 06:50:33 PM

Don't feel like you're supposed to be assertive. People generally like it when they get asked out in a way that shows some vulnerability and real interest. You'll be nervous which is the natural human reaction but just going forward with your momentum is all that matters. And get over it beforehand if she doesn't see you that way.

None of this complicated stuff applies if you're just asking somebody to bang. But good luck and I hope you end up happy (and regret your prior racist impulses).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on April 29, 2016, 06:50:56 PM

Sorry, I can't help it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on April 29, 2016, 06:56:42 PM

Practice by asking out random intimidating looking women. You'll get over the nervousness really quick and then you'll have no issues with asking out target woman.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on April 29, 2016, 07:12:09 PM

Just keep your tone of voice casual & friendly when asking her out and things won't get too weird.

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"So sayeth the wizard..."
(http://i.imgur.com/GPBZMl3.gif)

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Boogie on April 29, 2016, 07:24:13 PM

Hey everybody.

Today, my girlfriend, after going back to school for a two-year master's program, and then working on a contract basis for the provincial government in her "dream job" as a policy analyst for the past year, was told that she got a permanent, full time position in the department.

She came home to announce the news depressed and nearly in tears because she considers the position beneath her.

Fuck this shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on April 29, 2016, 07:36:18 PM

So, is it, or is she being dramatic?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on April 29, 2016, 07:47:38 PM

:confused

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on April 29, 2016, 07:53:31 PM

Quote from: Boogie on April 29, 2016, 07:24:13 PM

Hey everybody.

Today, my girlfriend, after going back to school for a two-year master's program, and then working on a contract basis for the provincial government in her "dream job" as a policy analyst for the past year, was told that she got a permanent, full time position in the department.

She came home to announce the news depressed and nearly in tears because she considers the position beneath her.

Fuck this shit.

Sounds like you should be talking to her, not us.

That is weird, though. Maybe it was their tone? Maybe she knows more about the job now than when she thought it was a "dream job"?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on April 29, 2016, 09:15:24 PM

You know what... it's been a while since I've asked a legitimate question here so I might as well ask one now:

How the hell am I supposed to ask girls out/date if I'm so worn out by the end of each day and I use my weekends to recover (i.e. sleep)?

Also, my work schedule is completely unpredictable.

And I'm sick and tired of trying to do online dating. Too much competition for a large group of women I have nothing in common with and/or absolute fat slobs that have no respect for their health.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on April 29, 2016, 09:19:12 PM

Don't use your weekends to recover. It's called putting yourself out there for a reason!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on April 29, 2016, 09:22:08 PM

Due to my introversion I'm not the most sociable person when I'm dead dog tired from working late on most days and after having to deal with co-workers & clients all week...

edit: I think I'm starting to understand why people develop coke habits. :doge

edit2: y'know what. I'm just gonna have to be lonely fucker for a little bit longer. Can't really worry about dating until l I eject myself out of my wagecuck job and land on a less wagecucky job.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on April 29, 2016, 11:47:01 PM

Atra.
Join toastmasters.
It's full of women. It can considered "serious" and "professional" so your business contacts wont get in your way. It'll also help you with introversion.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on April 29, 2016, 11:49:16 PM

Heh, what a coincidence. My creative director just joined that...

After my week of vacation I'll see if I can join a chapter in my area.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on May 03, 2016, 03:55:30 PM

Well my thing is over. I chickened out of perfect chance to talk to her today and I do mean perfect. I'm just too nervous and scared, no way anyone would find that tolerable. So yeah I screwed this one.

Then again I guess that's fine. She didn't try and talk to me either, so she's not interested either.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on May 03, 2016, 04:06:57 PM

Nothing I'm just a vagiana.

I was at the train station heading home and was in the bathroom. I come out and bam there she is, eyes meet and quickly dash away(at least mine) and then I do nothing but sit somewhere else. I'm pretty sure it was her but I told myself maybe it wasn't. So I just didn't approach her and she didn't look back or anything. I was too nervous and I can't be myself when I am like that. Can't act. Can't really do anything.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on May 03, 2016, 04:07:13 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/q7yRXWD.jpg?1)

:doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on May 03, 2016, 04:10:53 PM

(https://static2.fjcdn.com/thumbnails/comments/5425105+_190ba45a00940252bb8d07aa0bbef0a2.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on May 03, 2016, 04:12:02 PM

You whipped that out very quickly lol.

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and I'm not fat and he only anime shirt I have is white. Eww black t shirts.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 03, 2016, 04:24:43 PM

Sounds like you still have a chance to talk to her. Here's the thing: she prob won't be your gf, you won't have sex with her, etc. But just having some conversations with her will do wonders for your confidence and help prepare you for the next girl that catches your fancy. You like anime right...consider this your anti-gravity chamber training. Don't worry about embarrassing yourself, you have nothing to lose because you know she's not going to be your girlfriend dude. It's real talk.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on May 03, 2016, 04:34:47 PM

I wish I could remember the podcast name/speaker but on it there was a business couch of some sort saying that there's two common traits found in a lot of successful people:

1. Mental toughness
2. Not being afraid of embarrassment or not allowing embarrassment to cripple them

Both traits are easier said than done. But I've been kinda practicing the whole doing/saying minor embarrassing stuff to help myself realize that most people really don't give a fuck.

Anyways, the point I'm trying to make is... you have to do embarrassing shit if you want to get anywhere with girls.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on May 03, 2016, 06:02:45 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 03, 2016, 04:24:43 PM

Sounds like you still have a chance to talk to her. Here's the thing: she prob won't be your gf, you won't have sex with her, etc. But just having some conversations with her will do wonders for your confidence and help prepare you for the next girl that catches your fancy. You like anime right...consider this your anti-gravity chamber training. Don't worry about embarrassing yourself, you have nothing to lose because you know she's not going to be your girlfriend dude. It's real talk.

Yeah I don't think I'm mentally prepared for anything. My confidence issues are insanely low.

And today someone who I thought was my friend called me a piece of shit and garbage.

It hasn't been a winning day. I feel like I really need to do some personal help this summer.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on May 03, 2016, 08:55:32 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on May 03, 2016, 04:06:57 PM

Nothing I'm just a vagiana.

I was at the train station heading home and was in the bathroom. I come out and bam there she is, eyes meet and quickly dash away(at least mine) and then I do nothing but sit somewhere else. I'm pretty sure it was her but I told myself maybe it wasn't. So I just didn't approach her and she didn't look back or anything. I was too nervous and I can't be myself when I am like that. Can't act. Can't really do anything.

If you just came out of a train station bathroom, it's perfectly acceptable to want to avoid the "hey, I just evacuated myself -- some weather we're having today" awkwardness.

But as PD recommends, be yourself when talking to her. Don't assume intent or invest emotion in something which doesn't yet exist. Just be yourself, because that's the only way to get to know someone else. Put yourself out there, you're not a bad guy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on May 06, 2016, 04:42:53 PM

So yeah that didn't go so hot. Of course maybe I'm a little creepy who knows.

Well at first break I decided to attempt and talk to her but too many people around so I wasn't going to ask there I think that's understandable.

Well as we're leaving she jumps into the bathroom. Maybe to avoid talking in the elevator which is were I've been able to talk to her the two times.

Even though it's creepy, I decide to wait by the elevators just so maybe I can ask and no ones around. I'm sure she saw me and decides to go down the stairs. We are on the 13th floor.

GFE time boys.

So I think she was trying to avoid. Which ok. Cool I guess. Never had a girl avoid me before lol. Maybe I'll try this again in a year or two.

It's just bad because I internalize my failures too much and pretty much everything involving women has been a failure. This one stings differently because the others were from my perspective were one sided. Now I thought this girl was pretty before and seems nervously flirty but it was only when sh instigated conversation that I thought about having a go because well that's a thing I want a girl to do. Either way I'm confused and just going to label this one a wash. Adding to my further confusion with women. I believe I have a 0 in 10 batting average . You're confidenc can only be ravaged.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on May 06, 2016, 06:12:04 PM

Yeah, it sounds like it's done.

Here's the thing, if you weren't sure if she was avoiding you or not, don't exacerbate it by waiting for her. That would be a nail-in-the-coffin scenario.

I had the same thing happen in my twenties: Woman chats me up, we go out for a day. We talk, things seemed great and she even leaned in for the big kiss at the end. I called her the next day. The day after that. And again the day after that. Probably five days in a row. Finally her roomie had to explain that she wasn't going to take my calls.

Women smell desperation as the same reek you and I can detect cat poo on the lawn.

From what you've described, she was interested but then she decided otherwise, and that's it. There's no turnaround. It's great that she instigated it. But something didn't click between you, or you did something that freaked her out, and now you can try again with someone else.

:on_to_the_next_one.gif

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on May 06, 2016, 06:15:35 PM

You know, I feel you're right. I feel like I learned a lesson and should be happy that she was at least slightly interested. A small victory. Next time (whenever that could be) I get that feeling form someone I should just go for the kill as quickly as possible. I probably do come off as desperate and unconfident which is unattractive. So I get why someone would retreat once they got a wiff of that.

I just hope the next one comes sooner then later. It's been like what? 25 years since a girl seemed slightly interested in me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 06, 2016, 06:31:24 PM

It happens, yo. Keep your wits and don't despair. I have to ride the interested-pursued-not interested roller coaster far too much for my liking.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on May 06, 2016, 06:37:58 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on May 06, 2016, 06:15:35 PM

You know, I feel you're right. I feel like I learned a lesson and should be happy that she was at least slightly interested. A small victory. Next time (whenever that could be) I get that feeling form someone I should just go for the kill as quickly as possible. I probably do come off as desperate and unconfident which is unattractive. So I get why someone would retreat once they got a wiff of that.

I just hope the next one comes sooner then later. It's been like what? 25 years since a girl seemed slightly interested in me.

Glad to hear you're up for more!

However, unless you mean "kill" in the FatherMike-disposing-of-evidence definition, you really just want to take it easy. When people say, "Just be yourself," they mean "Be yourself but not desperate. Even if you're desperate."

Actually, especially if you're desperate.

If you can approach another person with genuine interest AND without heavy, weighted expectations about how it will turn out, you'll be in the best possible approach.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on May 06, 2016, 06:42:44 PM

Well how does someone seem desperate? I'm sure I was and I'm sure I put much more weight into this then I should. But I don't know how to exactly not act like I'm desperate. Being myself is hard, it takes me a little bit to find myself comfortable with someone new. Which is my problem. I really am only ok with someone after they've responded well to me. Which is after a few interactions usually. So I'm never going to simply pick up women right then and there, I just can't operate like that.

I mean go for the kill in the sense that maybe not play around, act so aloof, and act actually interested. It's clear she wasn't going to wait for me to get my act together.

There was another girl who I meet through my one(lol) female friend. We were at the bar and I was tipsy so of course I found it easy to be fun and whatnot. I was drunk! But the next time I met her I didn't act at all interested. Which is a problem for me. I don't know how to respond so I don't. Of course in the end I really wasn't interested in this girl for many reasons but the point stands.

While at first the school girl did catch me off guard, I'm sure if I had actually appeared more interested in her there this probably would have played out better. Oh well.

It just would have actually been nice to be talking to a girl heading into summer, espically since I'm going to be alone at home for a huge part of it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on May 06, 2016, 06:44:55 PM

@ the post talking about interest.

"To be interesting you must be interested" is a common tactic my creative director and I use to convince clients that we're full of great ideas/smarter than we look even though we're just asking the client specific questions and writing down/acknowledging their answers.

Seems like this tactic could be transferred over to courting a girl but I'm too much of spaz to effectively execute it in the wild. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on May 06, 2016, 06:59:40 PM

When I was young I had a speech impediment that made my Spanish difficult to understand. Then we moved the the states and my English wasn't very good. So for a good chunk of time I had a difficult time communicating with anyone about anything. I set out to change that. I made it a point to be able to discuss anything with anyone. And it all comes down to stories.
Go out and experience things just to know what they're like. I'm not a cowboy, but I've gone several rodeos. Now I can talk to any cowgirl that knows the rodeo. Know art. I hate running, but I tried it for 6 weeks so I can use that as an inroads with runners. I hate golf. But I've made friends that are great golfers and know the places they play. It's all about getting someone to tell them something about themselves being like "Oh! I know that!" and then they feel like you're a kindred spirit. After that you can pivot to something else you know better. And if you get good enough at it, if you find someone that is into something you've never heard of, you can be like "Wow, I never heard of that. Tell me more." People love to talk about what they do. Then while they're telling you make a note of it. So if you ever meet someone else like them you can do the whole "Oh I know that!"

I've heard the whole "To be interesting, be interested." I don't necessarily agree. I'm interesting to most of my clients and I couldn't give a fuck about being interested in a vast majority of them. I'm more of a fan of the whole "to be interesting, you must be interesting." Accumulate stories. Work at it. My boss likes to say I was born with a talent for conversation. That's bullshit. I just work at it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 06, 2016, 07:32:52 PM

Yea dude I think expanding your interests or horizons will work wonders for you. Not only as a means of adopting more things to talk about besides RPGs, but also as a means of getting you out the house/out your social circle/etc and into new experiences.

I recommended you start working out awhile ago and still think it's a good idea. Even if you're just running at a local track for 30 minutes, 2-3 times a week. The point is to get active, get out, do something etc. You might even meet somebody.

You're clearly passionate about videogames, and I'd imagine if your crush came up to you and said "hey, what do you think about Persona?" you'd have all types of shit to say right? As Puppy said, expanding the things you can discuss with other people will help you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on May 07, 2016, 04:53:27 AM

I think both Pallando and Puppy! are right. Doing stuff and building your own reservoir of interesting things is important. Take those chances, and do it for yourself. But when it's time to listen, be responsive and show that you're paying attention.

As to how to not appear desperate: Don't *be* desperate. Be interested in someone for who they are, not because you need to get your dick wet. No-one wants to feel like you're only talking to them because you need something to do. Save that shit for your neighboring passenger on an airplane.

I remember another time just out of high school where I thought I needed to go out with someone, so I asked out this woman in my Biology class. She wasn't particularly attractive or interesting. She agreed to meet me at this restaurant, but stood me up. I was really torn: I didn't even really want to go out with her, but being stood up by someone I wasn't even really interested in made the burn that much more icy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 07, 2016, 07:31:26 AM

For me, the key to not be desperate is to have many options. Talk to as many girls as you can. If something falls through, you didn't put all your eggs in one basket so you're able to move on.

Putting yourself out there is important. I met my girlfriend at a social event that I was invited to by an acquaintance who I met a while ago when I was at some alumni event. If I sat home and jerked off during that alumni event, I would have never been invited to the party where I met a girl who let me come in her ass earlier this week. You got to put yourself out there.

I agree with ronito that to be interesting you have to do interesting things. As dumb and cliche as it sounds, putting yourself out of your comfort zone is key. Your evenings should not be spent browsing NeoGAF and binging on Netflix; I mean that's okay every now and then but every night? Fuck that. Unsurprisingly the moments when I spent the most time on the internet is the time I did the worst with women. Not a coincidence by any means. Hit up as many events as you can.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on May 08, 2016, 03:44:27 AM

am i super close minded for being creeped out by an open relationship

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 08, 2016, 08:08:11 AM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on May 08, 2016, 05:26:56 AM

Quote from: seagrams hotsauce on May 08, 2016, 03:44:27 AM
am i super close minded for being creeped out by an open relationship

No, you're normal.

This is a problematic view. Why are you shamijg alternate relationship proponents?
:violin

Agreed, shit is weird and never really seems to work unless one person is a desperate simp/cuck.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on May 08, 2016, 10:39:08 AM

Or just really doesn't care about the people involved

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on May 08, 2016, 11:16:59 AM

I've never really seen an open relationship work. I say that, but in actuality I do know one couple that has an open relationship (he's a musician in the public eye so they've discussed it publically) that have been in an open relationship for several years. But the actuality of it is that they're so separate in everything I don't think you can actually call it a relationship. I mean they come home, say "Oh I'm going out with x tonight" and then leave. Doesn't seem like much of a relationship. Still wonder why they're even together.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 08, 2016, 12:27:28 PM

I've only really known one couple (also creative types) that did that have been together for several years. The thing is the girl was 17 when they met and he was like early 20s which is kinda sketch but whatever. They're both queer and committed to each other but apparently sometimes have threesomes so I guess that's the way it would work where you only have to communicate and have deep emotional attachment with one person but other people come and go physically.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mandark on May 09, 2016, 03:00:58 AM

I know a black guy in his mid-70's with a wife and a girlfriend. The women know about each other but live apart from each other. He stays with each a few days a week, and he's been with both for over at least three decades now.

I think you guys just lack imagination.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on May 09, 2016, 07:14:43 PM

eh, I don't know. I've known many people that have tried to make an open relationship work and only one sorta does while the rest ended in horrific disaster. Don't think it's a stretch to say that in general they don't work :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 09, 2016, 07:26:27 PM

"The Bore lacks imagination I think."

"No, you don't understand, this thing is a priori impossible!"

:dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on May 09, 2016, 08:28:50 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on May 09, 2016, 07:14:43 PM

eh, I don't know. I've known many people that have tried to make an open relationship work and only one sorta does while the rest ended in horrific disaster. Don't think it's a stretch to say that in general they don't work :yeshrug

Yeah, I think most people know how their OS are written. I'm barely post-Victorian in my social mores, so I know that I wouldn't be able to manage polyamory. I think it is possible to love more than one person at a time, but my societal wiring tells me it's wrong. I think it will become more common as time goes on, just as other nontraditional marriages have recently become acceptable.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on May 10, 2016, 04:44:09 AM

bleh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on May 10, 2016, 09:11:09 AM

A non-traditional marriage? Is that one that lasts more than 10 years?

ba-dum-dump

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 10, 2016, 10:57:52 AM

I'm going to say the fundamentals of a successful marriage stay the same regardless of whether other partners are involved.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on May 10, 2016, 11:04:39 AM

Certainly not disagreeing with that. It's just that most people can't make a marriage work even with one person, let alone more.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 10, 2016, 12:27:00 PM

I'm not sure I'd argumentum ad populum when it comes to mores and institutions that bind women. :ohyou

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on May 11, 2016, 09:10:30 AM

Ever reflect on your past relationships and realize that no woman ever really loved you? She just loved the representation (either the one you put forward or the one she created in her head) of what you were at the time she met you.

Am I (and many others) just chasing that unconditional love that only a mother can provide? Only to lead to inevitable disappointment.

Srry fer emo post.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Reb on May 11, 2016, 09:36:30 AM

Wait, mothers provide unconditional love?

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on May 11, 2016, 09:35:38 AM

It's funny you bring this up, because I found out not too long ago the my ex, THE ex(we all have that one), could be working where I work now. When I first saw her name in the directory I was like "nah, that name combination is probably common".

Well, it's her. Ran into her after some meeting and we both got the "oh shit the fuck?" looks in the hallway. Aside from that we talked and it was cool. She's married now, has kids and is pretty happy about it. She asked me about how these last 6 years been for me, told her about graduating and going back to the US. We got along very well and best of all there wasn't really any torches still lit or any hard feelings. Felt like catching up with an old friend where we're both happy to see each other and genuinely glad that the other person is fine.

She probably never really loved me, to be honest I never really lvoed her either. We were teenage and hormonal in a sexually repressed country, we may have actually liked each other but it was more lust than anything. It was just nice seeing her again.

This literally has nothing to do with his post, you shoehorning fuck.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on May 11, 2016, 09:42:11 AM

Unconditional love is difficult to obtain without blood involved. Like your mother to you or your kids to you.

Vows and rings are symbols of unconditional love in theory but we all know there is no guarantees it will last forever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Fifstar on May 11, 2016, 09:42:29 AM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on May 11, 2016, 09:10:30 AM

Ever reflect on your past relationships and realize that no woman ever really loved you? She just loved the representation (either the one you put forward or the one she created in her head) of what you were at the time she met you.

My fear is the opposite, that I actually never loved another woman and am uncapable of doing so.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 11, 2016, 10:06:38 AM

I don't know if they ever really loved me or just an image, but it was only years later when I realized I didn't love any of them. I told myself I did at the time and I supposed that was true. But as corny as it sounds when I met my wife I figured out what love really was. I knew "THIS is a real connection." The others, I was usually attracted to certain aspects of them that filled some sort of need, but I could easily live without them and always knew it on some level.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on May 11, 2016, 10:17:29 AM

Quote from: Reb on May 11, 2016, 09:36:30 AM

Wait, mothers provide unconditional love?.

heh, I knew I shouldn't have added that. I had friends that had some real shitty moms.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on May 11, 2016, 10:56:25 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on May 11, 2016, 10:06:38 AM

I don't know if they ever really loved me or just an image, but it was only years later when I realized I didn't love any of them. I told myself I did at the time and I supposed that was true. But as corny as it sounds when I met my wife I figured out what love really was. I knew "THIS is a real connection." The others, I was usually attracted to certain aspects of them that filled some sort of need, but I could easily live without them and always knew it on some level.

I had been kind of a serial dater from 2011-2014 and while I would get really sad if things didn't work out with a girl, I realize now that I was just getting attached to the idea of having a girlfriend, not the actual girl herself.

Laying in bed with my girlfriend in August of last year, I couldn't stop looking at her. That's when I knew that I truly, for the first time in my life, loved someone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on May 11, 2016, 11:10:12 AM

I just need a moist hole to fill.

:rash

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 11, 2016, 12:13:39 PM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on May 11, 2016, 10:17:29 AM

Quote from: Reb on May 11, 2016, 09:36:30 AM
Wait, mothers provide unconditional love?.

heh, I knew I shouldn't have added that. I had friends that had some real shitty moms.

It's the most relatable example of it for the most number of people. I just substituted Lenin and the proletariat in my head to make it more logical for my own life experience.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 11, 2016, 12:15:23 PM

And to answer your queries, yes and no.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 11, 2016, 01:44:42 PM

I'm pretty sure no woman has ever loved me, even if they said it. Similarly I don't think I've ever fallen in love either. Even now my girlfriend says and does some things that make me realize it's not going to work out in the long term so I'm just enjoying the ride for now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 11, 2016, 05:39:44 PM

some #HarshRealities in this thread :tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 11, 2016, 07:09:37 PM

I'm pretty sure I've called everyone I've loved an asshole at some point so it's possible that everyone loves me.

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But really the only time I felt loved was if I wasn't lying about the type of person I am.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on May 11, 2016, 07:28:44 PM

Nah man, I saw a friend go through her husband's slow death from brain cancer and several other couples in similar situations. If they don't have love then no one does.

Of course I've seen couples that went through it and hated each other through all of it. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 18, 2016, 04:04:36 PM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on May 11, 2016, 01:44:42 PM

I'm pretty sure no woman has ever loved me, even if they said it. Similarly I don't think I've ever fallen in love either. Even now my girlfriend says and does some things that make me realize it's not going to work out in the long term so I'm just enjoying the ride for now.

Wow how relevant.

I booked a ticket for my probably now ex girlfriend. We landed in Spain on Sunday and she's been bitching and whining nonstop:

- Her debit card didn't work. Turns out she forgot to contact the bank (even though I said it was necessary) but it was a fix that got resolved in minutes. Yet here it is Wednesday and you think it just happened.

- Bitching about the heat.

- Bitching about how nobody speaks English fluently but refuses to learn any Spanish. Even basic phrases like "como estas" she refuses to learn.

- Rude to hotel staff, which is a big no no in my book.

- Didn't feel like sightseeing. She spent most of today wandering around the hotel amenity locations (gym, pool, etc.)

It was obvious she didn't want to go but weeks ago I told her that she didn't have to go and that couples can spend time apart but she insisted on going. So we had a big argument and she said that she hates the place and wants to leave. Okay. I tell her that I will book her a ticket and she can probably leave tomorrow morning. The catch apparently was that I was supposed to go with her. I told her no, that I was going to stay here and continue my vacation. She got furious. She said that if I didn't go with her the relationship was over. I told her that I didn't want to break up with her, we can discuss this when I get back to the US, but I'm not leaving. She left a little bit ago to go stay overnight at another hotel. She has a flight that will leave tomorrow morning that I paid for. She also got pissed that I refused to get a first class ticket (we came here and were going to return on first class) for her flight. I told her she could pay for it but she didn't like that answer.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on May 18, 2016, 04:58:45 PM

*Oof* Ay dios mio...

Is she a millennial? :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 18, 2016, 05:01:17 PM

First off try to enjoy your trip and don't think too much about what went wrong. She's probably going to call you right after landing and apologize for the fussing and then when you get back you can figure out if it makes sense to continue the relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on May 18, 2016, 05:06:17 PM

:lol Doesn't she realize she's a walking joke?

At least she's not seeing ghosts. :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 18, 2016, 05:20:16 PM

I think that she was just mad and wanted to make me suffer a bit as well. Not gonna work, I booked this vacation last October, fuck if I'm going to give it all up due to a tantrum. She should have been honest at the beginning and said she didn't want to go. That or say that she wanted to leave without any drama, I'd be fine with that.

She probably didn't mean it but the question is if I feel like trying to fix it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 18, 2016, 05:30:10 PM

Jesus Christ. Yeah, none of that save for the debit card shit is acceptable or understandable. Who the fuck wants to be that miserable on a vacation that's paid for by someone else and who you're fucking? I go out of my way to be happy on a vacation despite troubles, not the other way around.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 18, 2016, 05:38:02 PM

I bet she only tips 15%. :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 18, 2016, 06:58:22 PM

Throw her in the bushes dude. As far as I'm concerned she violated multiple "no nos" on my list, and I'm pretty sure we have similar lists.

-Don't be a dick, ESPECIALLY to those less fortunate than you
-Don't be ungrateful about major shit
-Don't constantly complain about shit that was resolved long ago

You spent a lot of money on a long planned vacation and were decent enough to take her with you, all expenses paid. Not saying she has no right to complain about legitimate stuff, but hand wringing over petty shit after someone splurged on you? Nope.

Might as well cut your losses now because this should tell you it's not going to last.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 19, 2016, 04:18:12 AM

She sent a text a few minutes ago that said "fuck u" without any conversation before it today. I sent one back saying, "We're done. Don't call back." Sure enough my phone is blowing up, I'm not answering.

Life is too short for this bullshit. Now I'm a free man yet again bryhs :lawd :rejoice :success :win

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 19, 2016, 05:04:31 AM

May Eros guide you to Aphrodite, wayward one. :quark

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 19, 2016, 05:08:13 AM

Hmm...apparently Spain has decriminalized prostitution but it's neither illegal or legal. I will take that as a green light. Wish me luck, bryhs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 19, 2016, 10:01:00 AM

Sh expected a "LOL what's wrong" and you hit her with the no bullshit stunner
:rejoice

Does she have stuff at your apartment/house?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on May 19, 2016, 10:32:04 AM

"Why can't these people learn my language so that I can talk to them?"
Seems you dodged a bullet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 19, 2016, 10:35:03 AM

Maybe she just wanted you to punish her BDSM style. She was being a bad girl on purpose.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 19, 2016, 11:27:23 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 19, 2016, 10:01:00 AM

Sh expected a "LOL what's wrong" and you hit her with the no bullshit stunner
:rejoice

Does she have stuff at your apartment/house?

Yes unfortunately. She will just have to get them when I get back.

Also I'm in the final stages of booking a porn star who is in the area. Here's a picture of her:

:nsfw

spoiler (click to show/hide)

(https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-4Zu3RXtYDrA/U9QlhrcX5II/AAAAAAAAAdE/T1RvNd5UD_M/w426-h629/5318526-marta-la-croft-in-tight-jeans.jpg)

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I'm moving too fast but I feel I need to get it out of my system.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on May 19, 2016, 11:47:59 AM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on May 19, 2016, 04:18:12 AM

She sent a text a few minutes ago that said "fuck u" without any conversation before it today. I sent one back saying, "We're done. Don't call back." Sure enough my phone is blowing up, I'm not answering.

Life is too short for this bullshit. Now I'm a free man yet again bryhs :lawd :rejoice :success :win

:dead :dead :dead :dead :dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on May 19, 2016, 12:00:21 PM

It's humorous to me to see a thread talking about paying for a 'girlfriend experience' next to a thread chock full of complaining about the girlfriend experience.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 19, 2016, 12:43:24 PM

Update: confirmed three hours with this lady:

:nsfw

spoiler (click to show/hide)

(https://t4.kn3.net/taringa/0/4/0/E/3/E/DonpijoteDelasan/7A3.jpg)

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Never watched any of her porn and probably won't. I will give you all the breakdown once it's done.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on May 19, 2016, 01:22:55 PM

:lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 19, 2016, 01:24:36 PM

Have you checked any of your now ex's texts or phone messages? Just curious how long it'll take for them to go from "you can't be serious/you can't break up with me" to "I'm sorry u know i love u"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 19, 2016, 01:32:10 PM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on May 19, 2016, 12:00:21 PM

It's humorous to me to see a thread talking about paying for a 'girlfriend experience' next to a thread chock full of complaining about the girlfriend experience.

We also talk about eating ass in here. :bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 19, 2016, 01:33:34 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 19, 2016, 01:24:36 PM

Have you checked any of your now ex's texts or phone messages? Just curious how long it'll take for them to go from "you can't be serious/you can't break up with me" to "I'm sorry u know i love u"

She's in flight now so it will be a while until I hear more from her.

Edit: Also should point out that since it was a very last minute booking, she has two stops so she isn't going to be very happy for a while.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on May 19, 2016, 02:21:30 PM

Quote from: Mandark on May 09, 2016, 03:00:58 AM

I know a black guy in his mid-70's with a wife and a girlfriend. The women know about each other but live apart from each other. He stays with each a few days a week, and he's been with both for over at least three decades now.

I think you guys just lack imagination.

You talking about me? :ufup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 19, 2016, 03:50:35 PM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on May 19, 2016, 12:43:24 PM

Update: confirmed three hours with this lady:

:nsfw

spoiler (click to show/hide)
(https://t4.kn3.net/taringa/0/4/0/E/3/E/DonpijoteDelasan/7A3.jpg)
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Never watched any of her porn and probably won't. I will give you all the breakdown once it's done.

This is without a doubt the best possible outcome.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on May 19, 2016, 05:06:08 PM

I watched some of her vids.

You're in for a treat, Mr. Whore. :itagaki

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 20, 2016, 04:05:59 AM

Quote from: Pallando on May 19, 2016, 05:06:08 PM

I watched some of her vids.

You're in for a treat, Mr. Whore. :itagaki

Sweet.

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on May 19, 2016, 01:33:34 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 19, 2016, 01:24:36 PM
Have you checked any of your now ex's texts or phone messages? Just curious how long it'll take for them to go from "you can't be serious/you can't break up with me" to "I'm sorry u know i love u"

She's in flight now so it will be a while until I hear more from her.

Edit: Also should point out that since it was a very last minute booking, she has two stops so she isn't going to be very happy for a while.

I started getting a bunch of texts and phone calls a couple hours ago. I made the mistake of calling her back. She was asking about the stuff left at her apartment (hair dryer, brushes, etc.) and made it sound like I was stealing them or holding them for ransom. I told her "why would I want your hair dryer?" I told her that once I get back, she can stop by and pick them up any time I'm at my apartment.

Then she offered to fly back on her own dime and I said that if she didn't like Spain the first time, she's not going to like it a second time, that she should have stayed home in the first place, and she ruined the relationship because she couldn't be honest and forthright. I said "ruin" which triggered her and she started ranting about how I don't love her because I didn't fly back with her. I said, "Look, it's over. When I come back, I will send you a text and you can stop by anytime I'm home to pick up your stuff." She started crying and it was a garbled mess but it was the mad crying type of mess. I listened to this for a few seconds and said, "I have to go. Take care." and hung up.

My phone is buzzing and ringing. I'm going to the Museo del Prado and other things today. I'm putting it on silent. I would turn it off but I like the functionality on the iPhone where it is a pedometer and I like to see how much I've walked (I've been averaging over 10 miles each day so far).

I feel pretty bad about what happened. I kind of hate being in relationships, it gets to be too stultifying for me and it seems like the BS factor increases over time. I understand there is a "honeymoon" period but it seems like the demands keep building up while the payoff shrinks.

Better luck next time. As far as I'm concerned, the relationship is over.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on May 20, 2016, 05:09:30 AM

Yeah, what you spelled out right there is why I'm hella reluctant about getting into a serious long term relationship with some chick.

My personality type (INTP) has hardly any patience or empathy for emotional garbage that seems prevalent at the tail end of relationships. Being around someone like your now ex-gf would be extremely draining to my mental and physical energy.

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*beep boop* :doge

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Fifstar on May 20, 2016, 06:17:57 AM

:comeon

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on May 20, 2016, 06:35:11 AM

You don't need to experience everything yourself to extrapolate some things, sure, but it's good to know where the lines actually are before you decide that you can't deal with them being crossed. Some things sound a lot worse than they are.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 20, 2016, 07:23:34 AM

I do believe sacrifices need to be made to keep a relationship going; it was just too much of an ask this time around at this stage in the relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on May 20, 2016, 02:21:23 PM

Quote from: Fifstar on May 20, 2016, 06:17:57 AM

:comeon

My bad, I wrote this after midnight and a couple of drinks. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 20, 2016, 04:00:39 PM

Not to put much stock in Myers-Briggs, but you usually have a corresponding type or two that works well with you in relationships, even if you're a misbegotten small percentage IXXX category. (INTJ caricature reporting in.)

While I miss being in a relationship with an IXXX for various reasons, I've found it's A LOT easier dating ENXX's since they do all the emotional lifting and won't let things stew unsaid if there's a problem. (From each according to their ability, to each according to their need. :ussrcry)

Don't let a personality test give you an excuse to quit on things, Atramentar.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 20, 2016, 04:30:14 PM

Quote from: Pallando on May 20, 2016, 02:21:23 PM

Quote from: Fifstar on May 20, 2016, 06:17:57 AM
:comeon
My bad, I wrote this after midnight and a couple of drinks. :doge

Hard Mikes? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 20, 2016, 05:10:50 PM

I'd imagine she's told her family/friends about the break up. I wonder what her spin on it is, and how did she turn you into The Bad Guy. Still I bet she has female friends and family who will listen to this shit and think wow girl you fucked up big time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on May 20, 2016, 05:37:37 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 20, 2016, 04:30:14 PM

Quote from: Pallando on May 20, 2016, 02:21:23 PM
Quote from: Fifstar on May 20, 2016, 06:17:57 AM
:comeon
My bad, I wrote this after midnight and a couple of drinks. :doge

Hard Mikes? :doge

White Russians. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on May 20, 2016, 05:41:19 PM

Quote from: Kara on May 20, 2016, 04:00:39 PM

Not to put much stock in Myers-Briggs, but you usually have a corresponding type or two that works well with you in relationships, even if you're a misbegotten small percentage IXXX category. (INTJ caricature reporting in.)

While I miss being in a relationship with an IXXX for various reasons, I've found it's A LOT easier dating ENXX's since they do all the emotional lifting and won't let things stew unsaid if there's a problem. (From each according to their ability, to each according to their need. :ussrcry)

Don't let a personality test give you an excuse to quit on things, Atramentar.

I know Myers-Briggs is far from being scientific but it's far more politically correct for me to say that I'm an INTP rather than saying I'm an autist when it comes to interacting with people on an emotional level. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on May 20, 2016, 05:45:27 PM

I once had someone at work introduce themselves to me with their Myers-Brigg's profile

They were like "Hi, my name is xxxx and I'm an <whatever the hell he was>"
I shook their hand and said, "Hi, I'm puppy and I actually know how to interact with people."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on May 20, 2016, 05:57:37 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 20, 2016, 05:10:50 PM

I'd imagine she's told her family/friends about the break up. I wonder what her spin on it is, and how did she turn you into The Bad Guy. Still I bet she has female friends and family who will listen to this shit and think wow girl you fucked up big time.

So basically her friends and family will have her back. This is normal behavior.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 20, 2016, 06:13:41 PM

Quote from: Pallando on May 20, 2016, 05:41:19 PM

I know Myers-Briggs is far from being scientific but it's far more politically correct for me to say that I'm an INTP rather than saying I'm an autist when it comes to interacting with people on an emotional level. :doge

You're supposed to use it to understand yourself better (and hopefully become better), not as a crutch. This is sounding like that Introvert Pride shite that gets peddled to introverts who don't want to work on themselves every so often...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on May 20, 2016, 06:48:29 PM

Whatever if I want to be a mountain hermit I will

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on May 20, 2016, 09:06:43 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 20, 2016, 04:30:14 PM

Quote from: Pallando on May 20, 2016, 02:21:23 PM
Quote from: Fifstar on May 20, 2016, 06:17:57 AM
:comeon
My bad, I wrote this after midnight and a couple of drinks. :doge

Hard Mikes? :doge

I think one of them is Dave. But enough about my weekend plans...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on May 20, 2016, 09:07:43 PM

Quote from: Pallando on May 20, 2016, 05:37:37 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 20, 2016, 04:30:14 PM
Quote from: Pallando on May 20, 2016, 02:21:23 PM
Quote from: Fifstar on May 20, 2016, 06:17:57 AM
:comeon
My bad, I wrote this after midnight and a couple of drinks. :doge

Hard Mikes? :doge
White Russians. :doge

I think one of them is Belerussian. But enough about my weekend plans...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on May 21, 2016, 01:46:18 AM

Quote from: Kara on May 20, 2016, 06:13:41 PM

Quote from: Pallando on May 20, 2016, 05:41:19 PM
I know Myers-Briggs is far from being scientific but it's far more politically correct for me to say that I'm an INTP rather than saying I'm an autist when it comes to interacting with people on an emotional level. :doge

You're supposed to use it to understand yourself better (and hopefully become better), not as a crutch. This is sounding like that Introvert Pride shite that gets peddled to introverts who don't want to work on themselves every so often...

Thanks. You've concisely nailed the problem I had with all those "How to deal with me, the precious little introvert" posts I was seeing nonstop.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on May 21, 2016, 01:53:28 AM

You adapt to the world. It will not adapt to you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 21, 2016, 02:16:26 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 20, 2016, 05:10:50 PM

I'd imagine she's told her family/friends about the break up. I wonder what her spin on it is, and how did she turn you into The Bad Guy. Still I bet she has female friends and family who will listen to this shit and think wow girl you fucked up big time.

I'm sure. I'm good with a lot of her friends but I have not heard a word since the shit went down. I assume I'm already persona non grata to them. I got a couple of texts last night but since there is a seven hour time difference, I was asleep when I got them. For now I'm just going to hang back and focus on enjoying the remainder of my vacation. I still feel sad that it had to go down like this because it didn't have to. I will look into it when I get back although I fly back on the 30th so there's still over a week left.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 21, 2016, 02:00:17 PM

Yeah, at every juncture she made the wrong call. After the initial fight she could have said, "Look, I'm sorry, I'm insecure about couples taking separate vacations and as a result I came along on a vacation that I had no business in coming on. Thank you for bringing me out here and sorry that I have to go home." Instead she texted you "fuck u [sic.]" and later threw the blame on you for being a bad partner for not cancelling your own vacation because she made a terrible mistake.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on May 21, 2016, 02:12:13 PM

Quote

Look, I'm sorry, I'm insecure about couples taking separate vacations

To be fair, the moment he was on vacation alone he started banging hookers

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on May 21, 2016, 03:19:26 PM

Quote from: king of the internet on May 21, 2016, 01:53:28 AM

You adapt to the world. It will not adapt to you.

I like that aphorism as a reminder that there are limits to everything, but if there's any defining human trait it's that we make the world fit our needs, including our societies.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 21, 2016, 05:26:10 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on May 21, 2016, 02:12:13 PM

Quote
Look, I'm sorry, I'm insecure about couples taking separate vacations

To be fair, the moment he was on vacation alone he started banging hookers

???

I made an appointment but I haven't done shit yet

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 21, 2016, 05:51:11 PM

To be fair it's not cheating if you're in different countries.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 21, 2016, 06:21:40 PM

Quote from: Esch on May 21, 2016, 04:37:11 PM

Quote from: Kara on May 20, 2016, 04:00:39 PM
While I miss being in a relationship with an IXXX for various reasons, I've found it's A LOT easier dating ENXX's since they do all the emotional lifting and won't let things stew unsaid if there's a problem. (From each according to their ability, to each according to their need. :ussrcry)

Coincidentally i always test as an ENFJ or ENTP. I always knew you were bae :ussrcry

I-It's not like I want to overthrow the capitalist mode of production with you. B-baka. :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 21, 2016, 06:23:20 PM

On a related note, my ENXX girlfriend asked me to party with her sorority sisters and their boyfriends tonight which I agreed to so as to get out of my comfort zone.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=46Kv4rBJi68

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on May 21, 2016, 06:37:25 PM

You're going to be making so many enemies tonight bless up

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 22, 2016, 10:40:20 AM

Are you referring to W*** or another ex?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 22, 2016, 10:44:46 AM

I woke up in a v-neck sorority shirt this morning. Please send help.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on May 22, 2016, 10:48:27 AM

Sounds like that party went well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on May 22, 2016, 11:04:46 AM

Quote from: Kara on May 22, 2016, 10:44:46 AM

I woke up in a v-neck sorority shirt this morning. Please send help.

(http://i.imgur.com/j4Jv16l.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on May 22, 2016, 02:12:19 PM

I was gonna make a "I'll send my penis to help" joke but remembered I'm gay.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on May 22, 2016, 08:31:19 PM

Curious, what's the minimum age y'all would be willing to date someone? There's this little cutie in one of my classes that seems interested in me, who happens to be 22. I'm 31. I have no moral issues dating anyone that's of adult age, even if the gap is huge. But at the same time, it still feels kinda weird. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on May 22, 2016, 08:39:24 PM

I think that's too big of a gap too date.

Bang once or twice? Maybe. But I think you'd quickly get annoyed with her and she'd get bored of you.

Of course I say this knowing no specifics about either of you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on May 22, 2016, 09:13:00 PM

Oh I should also probably mention she doesn't know how old I am.

I didn't lie to her, mind you. It just hasn't been brought up so far.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 23, 2016, 09:10:10 AM

Yeah I wouldn't say anything about it being creepy or inappropriate, but I would imagine you'll regret dating as opposed to just fucking.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 23, 2016, 11:14:32 AM

I don't think it is creepy or inappropriate. The big issue is the maturity gap. Nine years is a long time.

The biggest gap for me has been six years and that is pretty big. For example, younger girls do everything on social media. If you don't have shit like Snapchat and WhatsApp, I'm sure you will be.

Have fun. It won't last but get your dick wet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on May 23, 2016, 11:16:33 AM

Young broads go after older dudes for two reasons.

1) They have major daddy issues.

2) They think you have money/power

That's all you need to know. Don't go in thinking you're the one for her and you'll be fine.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 23, 2016, 11:31:49 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on May 22, 2016, 09:13:00 PM

Oh I should also probably mention she doesn't know how old I am.

I didn't lie to her, mind you. It just hasn't been brought up so far.

A rare time when your mom living with you will work to your benefit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 23, 2016, 11:50:40 AM

I dated a 19yo last year, when I was 28. It was a bad idea. Not concerned about the age different if she's mature...but most young people aren't mature so...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 23, 2016, 11:52:30 AM

To be fair, there are a lot of people our age who aren't very mature either.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 23, 2016, 01:36:22 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on May 23, 2016, 01:29:45 PM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on May 23, 2016, 11:52:30 AM
To be fair, there are a lot of people our age who aren't very mature either.

I mean just look at us, excited to see E3 meltdowns in a few weeks.

:aah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 23, 2016, 02:34:53 PM

I prefer to date younger (not ten years though, lol), but I don't conceal my age at the beginning. Better to know ahead of time that there's no future with me and decide you want to waste an indeterminate amount of your youth with your eyes open than to waste it involuntarily on the assumption that there will be one.

If having a laundry list of deal breakers because you made poor life choices in your youth and now find yourself with 2-3 years of a championship contending window left (to indulge in a sports metaphor) is maturity, I'll stick to being immature for the rest of my life.

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Blame yourself or god.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 23, 2016, 02:50:05 PM

2011 Dallas Mavs of getting pussy
:rejoice

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Or are you the 1999-2001 Sacramento Kings/Portland Trailblazers :gurl

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 23, 2016, 03:32:40 PM

The New York Knicks ca. 2000 to the present: embracing #NoFuture and lighting money on fire in the pursuit of frivolities.

(I was going to say the Beane era Oakland A's, but I probably make more money in a year than they do and there are actually deluded A's fans on the internet who honestly think that team has a future while Knicks fans are actually LARPing a mental asylum when they talk about the Knicks building into contenders as a protest against the Reagan cuts to mental health services.)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 23, 2016, 04:47:11 PM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on May 19, 2016, 12:43:24 PM

Update: confirmed three hours with this lady:

:nsfw

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(https://t4.kn3.net/taringa/0/4/0/E/3/E/DonpijoteDelasan/7A3.jpg)
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Never watched any of her porn and probably won't. I will give you all the breakdown once it's done.

Just got done. It was mindblowing stuff. Her ass was on another level and is definitely real (you never know these days). Her reverse cowgirl was amazing because it was that perfect slapping sound with a perfect view. She even wore the same heels that was in the first picture I posted (not the one I quoted).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on May 23, 2016, 04:55:11 PM

:dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 23, 2016, 04:55:44 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on May 23, 2016, 04:19:15 PM

I see you more as a modern day Arsenal. Confusing your issues and using delusion to continue on.

I have never been more insulted in my entire life, hdu.

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If we go global there are much more fitting teams / clubs, I was opting to continue with the NBA for the sake of continuity.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on May 23, 2016, 05:18:25 PM

:yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on May 24, 2016, 02:12:14 AM

Me and my gf of six months split up. I didn't put anything online about us because I learned my lesson in the past about keeping relationships private, but it was a good six months and it only really got rocky in the last month. We were at different places in our lives and wanted different things out of relationships. She wanted more commitment and working 60-80 hour weeks I just wanted an SO to stay in with on the weeknights and give me some space and time to myself to relax and recover from work when I needed it on the weekend. Sucks, but was our second break this month and after the first I decided I wasn't gonna do the on/off stuff with all the constant heartbreak, so if we broke up a second time I wouldn't go back.

She's a good gal, and I miss her, but honestly until my work gets more manageable I probably shouldn't be in a relationship because I can't put enough time and energy into one right now and it just leaves the other person feeling unwanted :\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on May 24, 2016, 02:46:18 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on May 24, 2016, 02:12:14 AM

Me and my gf of six months split up. I didn't put anything online about us because I learned my lesson in the past about keeping relationships private, but it was a good six months and it only really got rocky in the last month. We were at different places in our lives and wanted different things out of relationships. She wanted more commitment and working 60-80 hour weeks I just wanted an SO to stay in with on the weeknights and give me some space and time to myself to relax and recover from work when I needed it on the weekend. Sucks, but was our second break this month and after the first I decided I wasn't gonna do the on/off stuff with all the constant heartbreak, so if we broke up a second time I wouldn't go back.

She's a good gal, and I miss her, but honestly until my work gets more manageable I probably shouldn't be in a relationship because I can't put enough time and energy into one right now and it just leaves the other person feeling unwanted :\

I didn't want to say anything when you were out here, but it didn't seem to me like it was going to last. You were a perfect gentleman to her, but she was a bit surly to you. Many people would read it as shy, but she wasn't.

I am happy to read you being more self-actualized in what you need in a relationship, but you're also going to need to work on your work/life balance if you want something long term.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 24, 2016, 03:09:07 AM

Sorry to hear that Bebpo, but it's good that you're recognizing prior bad behaviors and not repeating them again.

I can definitely sympathize with the work / life / decompression balance. Sometimes I feel like I'm stuck in an otome game but without any cute anime boys pursuing me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on May 24, 2016, 09:19:05 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on May 24, 2016, 02:12:14 AM

I just wanted an SO to stay in with on the weeknights and give me some space and time to myself to relax and recover from work when I needed it on the weekend.

We all do, breh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on May 24, 2016, 10:44:04 AM

That's shitty, Bebs. Sounds like you're looking at it in a very mature way though

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on May 24, 2016, 01:00:18 PM

Find another girl :yeshrug

I know this is the "old man" in me but I fucking go nuts when dudes start acting like girls over breakups. Stop it, you're only allowed to have 2 emotions as a man. Angry and normal. That's it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 24, 2016, 01:04:22 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on May 24, 2016, 01:00:18 PM

Find another girl :yeshrug

I know this is the "old man" in me but I fucking go nuts when dudes start acting like girls over breakups. Stop it, you're only allowed to have 2 emotions as a man. Angry and normal. That's it.

This is a big improvement over his past breakups.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on May 24, 2016, 01:09:17 PM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on May 24, 2016, 01:04:22 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on May 24, 2016, 01:00:18 PM
Find another girl :yeshrug

I know this is the "old man" in me but I fucking go nuts when dudes start acting like girls over breakups. Stop it, you're only allowed to have 2 emotions as a man. Angry and normal. That's it.

This is a big improvement over his past breakups.

I had a friend in college that acted like a bitch every time somebody broke up with him. Mostly for him being too fucking clingy. There's a correlation in there somewhere.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on May 24, 2016, 01:10:23 PM

He's handling it exceptionally well. I do not understand your dumb masculine outlook AiA

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on May 24, 2016, 01:12:27 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on May 24, 2016, 01:10:23 PM

He's handling it exceptionally well. I do not understand your dumb masculine outlook AiA

This is why you struggle with women. Girls don't want to date themselves, bitch. :snob

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on May 24, 2016, 01:17:23 PM

You're thinking of someone else again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on May 24, 2016, 01:17:48 PM

Quote from: Rufus on May 24, 2016, 01:17:23 PM

You're thinking of someone else again.

Probably :neogaf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 24, 2016, 01:26:44 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on May 24, 2016, 02:12:14 AM

Me and my gf of six months split up. I didn't put anything online about us because I learned my lesson in the past about keeping relationships private, but it was a good six months and it only really got rocky in the last month. We were at different places in our lives and wanted different things out of relationships. She wanted more commitment and working 60-80 hour weeks I just wanted an SO to stay in with on the weeknights and give me some space and time to myself to relax and recover from work when I needed it on the weekend. Sucks, but was our second break this month and after the first I decided I wasn't gonna do the on/off stuff with all the constant heartbreak, so if we broke up a second time I wouldn't go back.

She's a good gal, and I miss her, but honestly until my work gets more manageable I probably shouldn't be in a relationship because I can't put enough time and energy into one right now and it just leaves the other person feeling unwanted :\

Sorry to hear this Bepbo. BTW have you heard the good news of the gospel of The Bore? (http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=44170.0)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 24, 2016, 02:38:59 PM

Anger is a meta-emotion* (i.e. an emotion caused by another emotion) so one cannot "just" be angry and normal. In anger management they teach you first how to relieve your anger in less destructive ways and then they begin to pick at what emotions are causing the anger to ameliorate the anger itself.

I hypothesize that the Bore loves anger due to its innate meta qualities.

*This is why, for example, :umad can be incredibly effective if a person is angry because they feel belittled.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on May 24, 2016, 03:27:38 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on May 24, 2016, 01:00:18 PM

Stop it, you're only allowed to have 2 emotions as a man. Angry and normal. That's it.

This is very poor advice!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on May 24, 2016, 03:29:43 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on May 24, 2016, 01:00:18 PM

Find another girl :yeshrug

I know this is the "old man" in me but I fucking go nuts when dudes start acting like girls over breakups. Stop it, you're only allowed to have 2 emotions as a man. Angry and normal. That's it.

:confused

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on May 24, 2016, 05:19:12 PM

Common sentiment, but rarely expressed as directly. The stoic provider and protector, reach longer than your grasp, bla bla.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on May 24, 2016, 05:23:56 PM

Old crusty married guy gives old crusty opinions on gender roles. Shocked!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on May 24, 2016, 07:10:15 PM

Quote from: Am_I_Anonymous on May 24, 2016, 01:17:48 PM

Quote from: Rufus on May 24, 2016, 01:17:23 PM
You're thinking of someone else again.

Probably :neogaf

so what you're saying is all white people look alike :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on May 24, 2016, 11:03:25 PM

Quote from: Kara on May 24, 2016, 02:38:59 PM

Anger is a meta-emotion* (i.e. an emotion caused by another emotion) so one cannot "just" be angry and normal. In anger management they teach you first how to relieve your anger in less destructive ways and then they begin to pick at what emotions are causing the anger to ameliorate the anger itself.

I hypothesize that the Bore loves anger due to its innate meta qualities.

*This is why, for example, :umad can be incredibly effective if a person is angry because they feel belittled.

I feel like, for the first time in my life, I've successfully subsumed the full spectrum of my emotions (and mood oscillations) into an integrated framework, centered on an apocalyptic vision. (this framework associates mental state patterns with fields, for example "the masculine sad" can be redirected to serve the vision by applying a tactical field I call the Monstrous Bend.) This is what I mean when I say that maintaining an apocalyptic vision is necessary and sufficient condition for my happiness.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 25, 2016, 02:06:22 AM

I invited another high end hooker over. She was a former model, half Brazilian and half Dutch. Was gorgeous, had huge T&A and was about my height (I'm 5'11). After banging, we had a great conversation and really hit it off. So once our time was over, I left with her to meet with two of her other friends (another hot chick and a gay guy) to a nice bar a couple blocks away. Then we went to a McDonald's (apparently it is pronounced "MacDonald's" over here) until it closed down. Then I wandered back to my hotel where I threw up (due to the McDonald's I'm sure more than the drinks) and then stumbled into bed. She wants to take me sightseeing on Thursday.

I'm sunburnt and hung over. Woke up this morning and saw that my ex took a bunch of pictures at her in a bar with another guy. Good for her. I haven't received a text for a couple days now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 25, 2016, 02:17:56 AM

It's not over until she fucks a black guy.
:noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 25, 2016, 02:21:46 AM

One other thing about the porn star. I left out a bunch of details for discretionary purposes but one thing I noticed is that she would get calls every now and then. It said "Secret Name Dubai" and it was a Arabic guy in a white suit and behind him was a well landscaped lawn. Imagine being such a regular that you can call a porn star directly instead of through an agency.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 25, 2016, 02:22:01 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 25, 2016, 02:17:56 AM

It's not over until she fucks a black guy.
:noah

Or even better- a fat, unattractive, broke white guy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 25, 2016, 07:45:34 AM

I'm jealous. Half Dutch, Half Brazilian sounds like an amazing combo.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on May 25, 2016, 11:56:57 AM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on May 25, 2016, 02:21:46 AM

Imagine being such a regular that you can call a porn star directly instead of through an agency.

Or its a girl that has no boundaries and lets anyone into her life. I mean, she invited you into her world after one conversation.

Be careful, bud.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on May 25, 2016, 12:56:52 PM

Quote from: Oblivion on May 22, 2016, 08:31:19 PM

Curious, what's the minimum age y'all would be willing to date someone? There's this little cutie in one of my classes that seems interested in me, who happens to be 22. I'm 31. I have no moral issues dating anyone that's of adult age, even if the gap is huge. But at the same time, it still feels kinda weird. :doge

I started dating my girlfriend when I was 31 and she was 23 (8 year gap). There definitely has been some issues between us, or us just not culturally relating on some things (she didn't know who Led Zeppelin was or has ever seen Ghostbusters, I have no desire to sign up for Instagram, Snapchat, or make Vine videos), but we've been able to work stuff out. Then again, I'm a bit immature for my age so that helps.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: eleuin on May 25, 2016, 05:24:53 PM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on May 25, 2016, 02:21:46 AM

It said "Secret Name Dubai" and it was a Arabic guy in a white suit and behind him was a well landscaped lawn. Imagine being such a regular that you can call a porn star directly instead of through an agency.

he's probably shit on her chest a bunch of times already

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 26, 2016, 01:06:48 PM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on May 25, 2016, 02:06:22 AM

I invited another high end hooker over. She was a former model, half Brazilian and half Dutch. Was gorgeous, had huge T&A and was about my height (I'm 5'11). She wants to take me sightseeing on Thursday.

To conclude this, today was kind of a dud. We met up and turns out I've pretty much seen everything already. So we wound up having a long lunch, talking about drugs (cocaine mostly) and when she was an escort in London. She says that most of her friends escort, most models escort (which is how she got into it), and when she was in London, she worked in Knightsbridge, which seems upscale according to Google (I had no idea about Knightsbridge until she mentioned it). Most of her clientele was the wealthy, actors, and athletes (never said any names). She said that they could probably have any girl they wanted but it was more about discretion and for the right price, do certain things that groupies probably wouldn't do (without it spreading everywhere). It was an interesting conversation. At the end, we hugged and went separate ways. I never got her Instagram or whatever so this is it.

Still a weird twist. I already made an appointment next week to get tested so this concludes my dalliances with hookers for now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on May 26, 2016, 07:59:16 PM

I've heard that celebrities don't pay escorts for the sex, because they can always get sex; they pay escorts to go away quietly after sex.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on May 27, 2016, 12:08:22 AM

Quote from: tiesto on May 25, 2016, 12:56:52 PM

Quote from: Oblivion on May 22, 2016, 08:31:19 PM
Curious, what's the minimum age y'all would be willing to date someone? There's this little cutie in one of my classes that seems interested in me, who happens to be 22. I'm 31. I have no moral issues dating anyone that's of adult age, even if the gap is huge. But at the same time, it still feels kinda weird. :doge

I started dating my girlfriend when I was 31 and she was 23 (8 year gap). There definitely has been some issues between us, or us just not culturally relating on some things (she didn't know who Led Zeppelin was or has ever seen Ghostbusters, I have no desire to sign up for Instagram, Snapchat, or make Vine videos), but we've been able to work stuff out. Then again, I'm a bit immature for my age so that helps.

"culturally relate"? hell, the reason i've been successfully married for 20 years is because neither of us gives a shit about the other's dumb interests

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 27, 2016, 12:11:28 AM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on May 27, 2016, 12:08:22 AM

Quote from: tiesto on May 25, 2016, 12:56:52 PM
Quote from: Oblivion on May 22, 2016, 08:31:19 PM
Curious, what's the minimum age y'all would be willing to date someone? There's this little cutie in one of my classes that seems interested in me, who happens to be 22. I'm 31. I have no moral issues dating anyone that's of adult age, even if the gap is huge. But at the same time, it still feels kinda weird. :doge

I started dating my girlfriend when I was 31 and she was 23 (8 year gap). There definitely has been some issues between us, or us just not culturally relating on some things (she didn't know who Led Zeppelin was or has ever seen Ghostbusters, I have no desire to sign up for Instagram, Snapchat, or make Vine videos), but we've been able to work stuff out. Then again, I'm a bit immature for my age so that helps.

"culturally relate"? hell, the reason i've been successfully married for 20 years is because neither of us gives a shit about the other's dumb interests

I don't believe this is true for a minute. She has to keep up with your dumb interests, or you'd spend the retirement money on motorcycles within 6 months.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Van Cruncheon on May 27, 2016, 01:43:16 AM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on May 27, 2016, 12:11:28 AM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on May 27, 2016, 12:08:22 AM
Quote from: tiesto on May 25, 2016, 12:56:52 PM
Quote from: Oblivion on May 22, 2016, 08:31:19 PM
Curious, what's the minimum age y'all would be willing to date someone? There's this little cutie in one of my classes that seems interested in me, who happens to be 22. I'm 31. I have no moral issues dating anyone that's of adult age, even if the gap is huge. But at the same time, it still feels kinda weird. :doge

I started dating my girlfriend when I was 31 and she was 23 (8 year gap). There definitely has been some issues between us, or us just not culturally relating on some things (she didn't know who Led Zeppelin was or has ever seen Ghostbusters, I have no desire to sign up for Instagram, Snapchat, or make Vine videos), but we've been able to work stuff out. Then again, I'm a bit immature for my age so that helps.

"culturally relate"? hell, the reason i've been successfully married for 20 years is because neither of us gives a shit about the other's dumb interests

I don't believe this is true for a minute. She has to keep up with your dumb interests, or you'd spend the retirement money on motorcycles within 6 months.

she doesn't give a shit, which is awesome. feels good to be a coupla spergs who need no mutual validation <3

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fizzel on May 27, 2016, 02:52:01 PM

My mum and dad were the same before she passed. Only thing he used to tell her was "try not to get too involved".

She ignored him of course, but he knew she would. :lol :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 27, 2016, 04:14:55 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on May 27, 2016, 01:43:16 AM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on May 27, 2016, 12:11:28 AM
Quote from: Van Cruncheon on May 27, 2016, 12:08:22 AM
Quote from: tiesto on May 25, 2016, 12:56:52 PM
Quote from: Oblivion on May 22, 2016, 08:31:19 PM
Curious, what's the minimum age y'all would be willing to date someone? There's this little cutie in one of my classes that seems interested in me, who happens to be 22. I'm 31. I have no moral issues dating anyone that's of adult age, even if the gap is huge. But at the same time, it still feels kinda weird. :doge

I started dating my girlfriend when I was 31 and she was 23 (8 year gap). There definitely has been some issues between us, or us just not culturally relating on some things (she didn't know who Led Zeppelin was or has ever seen Ghostbusters, I have no desire to sign up for Instagram, Snapchat, or make Vine videos), but we've been able to work stuff out. Then again, I'm a bit immature for my age so that helps.

"culturally relate"? hell, the reason i've been successfully married for 20 years is because neither of us gives a shit about the other's dumb interests

I don't believe this is true for a minute. She has to keep up with your dumb interests, or you'd spend the retirement money on motorcycles within 6 months.

she doesn't give a shit, which is awesome. feels good to be a coupla spergs who need no mutual validation <3

A lesser special fellow would have committed seppuku by now due to vicious disses from Lil Prole
:lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on May 27, 2016, 07:32:57 PM

"Li'l Prole"
:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 29, 2016, 09:44:19 PM

Quote from: Van Cruncheon on May 27, 2016, 01:43:16 AM

Quote from: Human Snorenado on May 27, 2016, 12:11:28 AM
Quote from: Van Cruncheon on May 27, 2016, 12:08:22 AM
Quote from: tiesto on May 25, 2016, 12:56:52 PM
Quote from: Oblivion on May 22, 2016, 08:31:19 PM
Curious, what's the minimum age y'all would be willing to date someone? There's this little cutie in one of my classes that seems interested in me, who happens to be 22. I'm 31. I have no moral issues dating anyone that's of adult age, even if the gap is huge. But at the same time, it still feels kinda weird. :doge

I started dating my girlfriend when I was 31 and she was 23 (8 year gap). There definitely has been some issues between us, or us just not culturally relating on some things (she didn't know who Led Zeppelin was or has ever seen Ghostbusters, I have no desire to sign up for Instagram, Snapchat, or make Vine videos), but we've been able to work stuff out. Then again, I'm a bit immature for my age so that helps.

"culturally relate"? hell, the reason i've been successfully married for 20 years is because neither of us gives a shit about the other's dumb interests

I don't believe this is true for a minute. She has to keep up with your dumb interests, or you'd spend the retirement money on motorcycles within 6 months.

she doesn't give a shit, which is awesome. feels good to be a coupla spergs who need no mutual validation <3

Same. We intersect over comedy and bondage but that's about it. The important stuff.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on May 30, 2016, 12:01:11 AM

Some marriage lessons I have learned (recently).

Do a few sessions of couples therapy after you have a child (wait a year). Even if you don't think you need it, you probably do.

Don't keep "lists". Mentally checking off all things she has done or not done is the start of building walls. Creating a narrative of your resentment towards her. Once the walls go up high enough, then the marriage falls apart. Throw away your "list".

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on May 31, 2016, 12:24:45 PM

I whole heartedly agree on the list thing. That is toxic to marriages or relationships in general. It's a partnership not a checklist.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 31, 2016, 03:44:38 PM

Do you mean wound (injustice) collecting when you talk about keeping lists? That's rank behavior, though understandable if for whatever reason you can't express your feelings at the time of the incident.

It's also a behavior of people who suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder, which is very treatable if you're willing to be treated.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on May 31, 2016, 04:17:18 PM

Hmmmm, maybe that is my issue. Resentment.

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Lately, I've been tuning my wife out a lot when she goes on with her stories. She can go on for 20 minutes(or more) with backstories of this and that that have nothing to do with point of what she is trying to say. It's fucking annoying! So much so that I either do the 'moving along' gesture with my hand or just interrupt her asking if this is an important part or if she is just rambling. That pisses her off and sometimes rightfully so, but I don't give a shit.

Another annoyance is when this happens. We can have a 2 hour car ride and barely say anything which is fine because I like to concentrate on getting a family of 5 from A to B safely. But when I'm on the computer or watching something on TV she will just walk in and start up the gab machine. She talks loud as well. She is a teacher and she is probably used to being loud having to talk over 20 kids. She gets mad if you tell her to quiet down.

Anyway, maybe it's just 15 years of marriage and all the ups and downs that come with it that made it what it is today. So brehs, if I have a list and it has caused some level of resentment, how would you you go about eliminating it?

My marriage is fine otherwise.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 31, 2016, 04:45:15 PM

Here's some marriage lessons I learned long ago: don't get married.
:obama

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on May 31, 2016, 04:49:31 PM

:mynicca

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on May 31, 2016, 05:49:22 PM

Breh, I know that feel. Whats the good way of telling your wife you want her to talk more quietly or less altogether? I'm sure there's a grant out there somewhere for an answer to this unsolvable question

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on May 31, 2016, 05:52:00 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on May 31, 2016, 05:49:22 PM

Breh, I know that feel. Whats the good way of telling your wife you want her to talk more quietly or less altogether? I'm sure there's a grant out there somewhere for an answer to this unsolvable question

Wear headphones when you're around her. They don't even have to be playing anything, as long as she thinks you can't hear her. I had to do this with an annoying roommate and it worked. 🙉

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on May 31, 2016, 06:01:39 PM

Naw I just take super long poops. Maybe I should move the Xbox in there

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on May 31, 2016, 06:03:06 PM

Be married brehs

Me *goes all in for morning sex.

Wifey "nicca get your dick out of my back, I need sleep"

Me "come on babe"

Wifey "you better not I showered yesterday"

Me *goes to work

Get married brehs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 31, 2016, 06:05:18 PM

Quote from: Pallando on May 31, 2016, 04:49:31 PM

:mynicca

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 31, 2016, 04:45:15 PM

Here's some marriage lessons I learned long ago: don't get married.
:obama

can you truly make a statement against marriage when nobody wants to marry you in the first place? :snob

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 31, 2016, 06:05:26 PM

Quote

Wifey "you better not I showered yesterday"

(http://i.imgur.com/Yk67QFU.png)

marry someone who doesn't shower daily brehs

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on May 31, 2016, 06:06:53 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark [link=topic=36858.msg2150968#msg2150968 date=1464732326

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Wifey "you better not I showered yesterday"
(http://i.imgur.com/Yk67QFU.png)

marry someone who doesn't shower daily brehs

You never lived with a woman, have you? Their hair bro. None of them do. You'll learn.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on May 31, 2016, 06:08:28 PM

obvious solution is to rub pussy juice in her hair during the act of love making, necessitating a full shower. :doge

this is how I make sure my wife washes our dishes on a regular basis. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 31, 2016, 06:14:31 PM

I've never lived with a woman for more than a weekend/week at a time but in those periods I noticed they showered daily.
:ufup

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Does your wife have a weave

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Am_I_Anonymous on May 31, 2016, 06:15:34 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on May 31, 2016, 06:08:28 PM

obvious solution is to rub pussy juice in her hair during the act of love making, necessitating a full shower. :doge

this is how I make sure my wife washes our dishes on a regular basis. :doge

So you bought a dishwasher. That's an odd stealth brag...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on May 31, 2016, 07:22:58 PM

Quote from: Brehvolution on May 31, 2016, 04:17:18 PM

Hmmmm, maybe that is my issue. Resentment.

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Lately, I've been tuning my wife out a lot when she goes on with her stories. She can go on for 20 minutes(or more) with backstories of this and that that have nothing to do with point of what she is trying to say. It's fucking annoying! So much so that I either do the 'moving along' gesture with my hand or just interrupt her asking if this is an important part or if she is just rambling. That pisses her off and sometimes rightfully so, but I don't give a shit.

Another annoyance is when this happens. We can have a 2 hour car ride and barely say anything which is fine because I like to concentrate on getting a family of 5 from A to B safely. But when I'm on the computer or watching something on TV she will just walk in and start up the gab machine. She talks loud as well. She is a teacher and she is probably used to being loud having to talk over 20 kids. She gets mad if you tell her to quiet down.

Anyway, maybe it's just 15 years of marriage and all the ups and downs that come with it that made it what it is today. So brehs, if I have a list and it has caused some level of resentment, how would you you go about eliminating it?

My marriage is fine otherwise.
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Identify what's causing the resentment and try to lessen it. I don't think that your wife's conversations being pointless* are the problem in and of itself. The overwhelming majority of what we talk about here (actually, everything we talk about here outside the Taco Bell thread) is utterly pointless yet you're not a cantankerous poster.

If I had to venture a guess, it sounds like you've got too much going on at the moment and you're not getting enough rest, recharge, and reboot time. (Sensitivity to volume, preoccupation with time waste, and so on. I have the same problem on the reg.) If you can't do anything about that (e.g. cutting back at work) you're going to have to suck it up and communicate that to the fam so they can help you get what you need, even if it means they don't get what they want or need. I am reliably informed that this is what fam is for.

The hand waving thing and interrupting are really nasty behavior. I think you realize that even if you're at the point where you #dgaf. Hopefully you can come back from that. :)

*Is it really pointless when your loved one is trying to include you in the details of their life, no matter how mundane they might seem? And don't give me some whack jaded dad / husband shit in response to that question, jaded dad / husband Bore, I C U.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on May 31, 2016, 07:31:55 PM

You could just tell her that when she goes really long on a explanation, it makes it hard to remember everything. And don't shoot into your wife's hair. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 31, 2016, 07:37:10 PM

Tell your wife she should write fantasy novels. I'd read them. Overly long backstories and exposition that has nothing to do with anything.
:lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on May 31, 2016, 09:09:24 PM

Maybe your wife just wants to talk and really only cares if you pretend to pay attention? Some people just like to tell the story and someone listening is just a bonus. That's how I am. My wife is terrible at paying attention and i talk way too much. I'm okay with this because I just want to tell my story. I don't really give a fuck if anyone listens.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 31, 2016, 09:34:52 PM

I'd rather just turn into a lech who fucks high end hookers and is a sugar daddy to various twentysomething girls who want to pay off their gargantuan student loan debts.

Embrace degeneracy :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on May 31, 2016, 09:50:09 PM

Thanks for the nods, brehs.

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I think Kara said it about preoccupation with time waste. It's true, I detest gossip. I really #dgaf who's coworker's student's uncle got arrested for whatever when it's 11:30pm on a work night. I'm not that petty. I pick and choose my 'battles'. It's the gossip I have a hard time tolerating.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on June 02, 2016, 12:39:38 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on May 31, 2016, 06:08:28 PM

obvious solution is to rub pussy juice in her hair during the act of love making, necessitating a full shower. :doge

this is how I make sure my wife washes our dishes on a regular basis. :doge

I'm not sure I want to know how you get vagina drippings on your dishes, but I applaud the effort.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on June 02, 2016, 02:39:08 AM

uhhh this woman is like kissing me and stuff

what do I do

sure I like her I guess, why not

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on June 02, 2016, 02:46:55 AM

Read her a crown of sonnets

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Purrp Skirrp on June 02, 2016, 05:41:53 AM

Quote from: Brehvolution on May 31, 2016, 09:50:09 PM

Thanks for the nods, brehs.

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I think Kara said it about preoccupation with time waste. It's true, I detest gossip. I really #dgaf who's coworker's student's uncle got arrested for whatever when it's 11:30pm on a work night. I'm not that petty. I pick and choose my 'battles'. It's the gossip I have a hard time tolerating.
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Since she's a teacher, remind your wife to use her indoor voice.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Alcoholic Fish on June 07, 2016, 08:39:59 AM

Starting to ring shop. Really hope I don't fuck this up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on June 09, 2016, 07:45:05 AM

Been talking to two girls: one is a 26 year old dietitian and another one is a 33 year old office manager. In an example of how age ≠ maturity, the dietitian is quiet and low key and the office manager constantly uses thot filters on her Snapchat (not to mention a 33 year old having a Snapchat in the first place although she has already sent me near nudes on it; for perverts like me, Snapchat is an amazing app), among other things. Things are also firmed up with my eros adventure where I'm meeting two girls at the same time.

All of this is dependent on the STD test results, which I'm supposed to get back early next week. I'm fortunate to say in my 12 years of whoring around, I haven't had a single STD.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 09, 2016, 07:48:29 AM

Go with the dietitian. That body will be firm for years to come if things get serious. The office manager will at best get promoted and the lack of physical activity in her job will compound its toll year after year.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 23, 2016, 09:29:53 AM

Well, I ended my relationship of 3 years yesterday. Spoiler in case she is lurking.

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Still extremely shook up, still have a lot of feelings for her. But I am slowly coming to terms with the fact I made the right decision (though it took a lot of prodding from various family members before I 'saw the light'). Lots of confidence issues and emotional issues that all reared their head at my brother's wedding last weekend.

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It's sad and I know I'll be in a funk for a few weeks - not to mention I'm getting old and watching as my last few friends get married off this summer - but I'll take a break from dating for now, and eventually get out back there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on June 23, 2016, 10:12:22 AM

Sorry man. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 23, 2016, 10:29:18 AM

swinging? PM me if you want non pushy, dorky couple to get you into the swing of things.

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For real, sorry dude :(

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 23, 2016, 10:53:47 AM

Mupepe :D :D :D

Yeah I'm gonna just go on a bit of a social media blackout, maybe see a few friends (they will probably be crushed since they all seemed to like her), bury myself in a few games - then stop over her apartment probably in a week or two (when she isn't there, I'll go to the landlord) to drop her stuff off and maybe send her a final message like 'I thought about it and have made my decision. Wishing you the best in life.'

One thing though, I think the last few years of my life have drastically improved my self-esteem (buying and maintaining a townhouse, dating more, and losing my job and subsequently getting a new one really helped), I don't have all these thoughts "nobody will love me and put up with my eccentricities and geekiness and OCD and social awkwardness" like I usually do after a breakup. So that's good, took me a long while to overcome that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 23, 2016, 11:09:37 AM

Sorry T, but it sounds like you'll get through this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 23, 2016, 01:32:05 PM

sorry to hear that Tiesto.

and never let the pressure of others making popular mistakes (ie getting married) cause you to feel bad. Take your time, it's not a race.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on June 23, 2016, 02:31:02 PM

I give PD 2 years before he wifeys up

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on June 23, 2016, 03:04:05 PM

Another advantage of not having Facebook: not having to see a bajillion cliché wedding photos. :aah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on June 23, 2016, 05:28:16 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on June 23, 2016, 02:31:02 PM

I give PD 2 years before he wifeys up

Yeah I've been saying this to him for at least 6 months now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 23, 2016, 08:04:18 PM

Sorry to hear Tiesto. Welcome to the old single guys club. It's not so bad, but I feel you on all friends getting married. You'll be happier now though for a while being single again, at least from my experience.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 25, 2016, 03:50:52 PM

One thing that was so different between this relationship and my last relationship was just how prominent social media was for us and how technologically intermingled we were - with my last gf it was a matter of blocking her on Facebook, removing her number from my phone, untagging a few pics (she wasn't a big picture taker), and being done with it. This one has a ton of her stuff at my house (a friend will drop it off next week), and we have a lot of mutual friends, along with a shitton of tagged photos of the 2 of us. She was trying to get in touch with me a couple of times so I temporarily deactivated my FB and blocked her #. She lives pretty close so I'm hoping I don't run into her in person any time soon (i.e. at the mall, or out to dinner, or at the supermarket).

Also, the day I broke up with her, my best friend got engaged to his girlfriend since 2010. She is ~11 years older than him and has 4 kids from divorce. He has a bit of MRA tendencies (probably because he's seen how his gf gets alimony and part of her ex husband's pension) and was one of those "I'll never get married" types, so this shocked a LOT of people. Not to mention he doesn't work and still lives at home (at 35). They haven't figured ANYTHING out yet, like where to live, where will they start working, when will they have the official wedding (since she loses all the alimony once that happens), etc. So that officially makes me the last one that I know to be single. I'm a tad of a loner so it won't be too big a deal, and I have enough friends in different groups that I can probably catch up with, so I won't be lonely on the weekends. (not to mention I'm not afraid to grab dinner, go to the movies, go to a pub, etc by myself if need be).

Anyways, in a piece of good news I got a cute blonde girl giving me a smile while I was at B&N drinking coffee today. Baby steps, baby steps.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 26, 2016, 10:27:03 PM

I only have 2 pieces of useful relationship advice, one of which I don't follow myself and thus only proffer in emergencies, but the other one is don't enmesh yourself with your partner on social media for any reason whatsoever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 26, 2016, 11:47:01 PM

Washington wasn't just talking about global alliances when he warned against foreign entanglements, brehs. :doge

crazy how much personal/relationship shit people flood their social media with. ugh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 27, 2016, 06:32:59 AM

It's not even that per se, social media (I'll include forums, Reddit, et cetera under that heading too) is a place where you can build personal space in a way you can't quite make it in your analog life and dragging that into your relationship(s) means you have to either be untrue to yourself (thus defeating the purpose of using it) or risk losing something intensely personal if (when) it all goes to shit.

To put it a different way, if you kept a diary would you want your partner(s) to read it? Would you consider it reasonable if your partner(s) insisted on being able to read it?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on June 27, 2016, 06:44:59 AM

trust other people brehs

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 27, 2016, 09:19:08 AM

Quote from: Kara on June 27, 2016, 06:32:59 AM

It's not even that per se, social media (I'll include forums, Reddit, et cetera under that heading too) is a place where you can build personal space in a way you can't quite make it in your analog life and dragging that into your relationship(s) means you have to either be untrue to yourself (thus defeating the purpose of using it) or risk losing something intensely personal if (when) it all goes to shit.

To put it a different way, if you kept a diary would you want your partner(s) to read it? Would you consider it reasonable if your partner(s) insisted on being able to read it?

The funny thing about it is about a year or so ago we had a fight because she said I didn't post enough about her on social media, or pose for lots of pics with her... instead I would post music I was listening to, video game news, etc. Should have seen the signs back then that she was emotionally needy and lacking in confidence.

Anyways, she tried getting in touch with me a few times, I blocked her # but it didn't block her texts... then she was talking about how much of a coward I was for 'ghosting' her. I told her "I'm sorry but it's over. Please leave me alone. I will drop off your stuff some time in the next week or two."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on June 27, 2016, 10:02:48 AM

Quote from: Kara on June 27, 2016, 06:32:59 AM

It's not even that per se, social media (I'll include forums, Reddit, et cetera under that heading too) is a place where you can build personal space in a way you can't quite make it in your analog life and dragging that into your relationship(s) means you have to either be untrue to yourself (thus defeating the purpose of using it) or risk losing something intensely personal if (when) it all goes to shit.

To put it a different way, if you kept a diary would you want your partner(s) to read it? Would you consider it reasonable if your partner(s) insisted on being able to read it?

I’m having this problem now. Eventually I will need to delete all the pictures of my ex-wife and me together on social media and unfortunately those pictures are of some of my best memories. So many pictures of us in really incredible places. Once they’re all gone, the ones that are left are really unsatisfying. Everyone knows that you shouldn’t get a tattoo of your partner (although we almost did that too), but the social media thing is something I never really considered. Sure, it is reversible, but I don’t really want all those pictures of me in magical places gone. It’s sad.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 27, 2016, 10:10:36 AM

I'm honestly a little confused by all this. I'll admit I've never had a long term breakup in the social media age (I also don't have any social media accounts), but can't you just untag them from the photos and leave them there? What is gained by deleting the pictures completely? I understand removing pictures just of them but why remove memories you'd like to keep?

Edit: I do understand it can be painful to see them in the short term, but past pictures aren't ones you have to see every day. It just seems like something you will regret one day.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on June 27, 2016, 10:26:31 AM

Well in the short term it helps to move on, but in the long term when you are in another relationship it could make things difficult on that relationship. It seems to me like it would be like moving in with a woman who has photos of her former marriage still hung in the house, but I could be wrong.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on June 27, 2016, 10:36:52 AM

I don't think you need to cull the pictures, personally. It's not like you would pretend never to have been married before. It's an honest part of your life.

Sorry to hear you guys are goin through some shit, Biz, tiesto.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on June 27, 2016, 10:55:45 AM

I’ve got a funny story to lighten up the relationship thread:

I downloaded Tinder for the first time over the weekend. The entire idea of Tinder scared me and I was glad I started dating my ex-wife before it got big so I never had to use it. But, things change, and there’s a gigantic whole in my life I’m trying to fill so I figured Tinder would help a little bit.

I read some guides online (mostly written by women because the ones written by men were disgusting) on how to get a date through Tinder so I created my profile accordingly and started messaging my matches. Being a tall white guy apparently makes things very easy and within a couple days I had three dates lined up.

I was texting a buddy about my successes and he asked me to send pictures. So I took a screenshot of my messages screen and sent a message that said “Deidra, Anna, and Lindsay” indicating the three that had generously agreed to go on a date with me:

(http://i.imgur.com/wpotrTc.png)

Then I sent that screenshot and message to Deidra, not my friend.

(https://m.popkey.co/c67b3a/A4wy_f-maxage-0.gif)

To her credit, she was really, really cool about it:

(http://i.imgur.com/t5DBj2H.png)

Still, so embarrassing. Dating is the worst.

:dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on June 27, 2016, 10:58:34 AM

Lmfao, my man, you need to work on your proof reading before hitting send. First the compromising pic to your friends, now this? Proof read, proof read, proof read.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 27, 2016, 11:04:38 AM

I didn't know you were divorced Samson. Sorry to hear that :tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: VomKriege on June 27, 2016, 11:11:20 AM

Couldn't you just save those pictures from Facebook to your hard drive ?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on June 27, 2016, 11:13:59 AM

Not yet PD, but on my way. Here are some lessons I learned when my seemingly perfect marriage disappeared over a matter of a couple weeks:

Not fighting doesn’t necessarily mean you have a good relationship
Don’t move your wife to the middle of nowhere while you work 100 hour weeks and take out your professional frustrations on her
Don’t leave your wife in a camper trailer with no job and nothing to do in the middle of nowhere while you go play mercenary in Afghanistan

I’ll update this more as I learn more things from my therapists. Some of these may be more applicable generally than others.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Purrp Skirrp on June 27, 2016, 11:56:11 AM

Everyone my age got their FBs in HS so you can imagine how many past relationships got documented along the way. Wouldn't worry about it.

If anything it'll probably help you going forward keeping those pics, for all the same reasons ~~some~~ women tend to view taken men more favorably.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 27, 2016, 12:09:08 PM

Quote from: tiesto on June 27, 2016, 09:19:08 AM

The funny thing about it is about a year or so ago we had a fight because she said I didn't post enough about her on social media, or pose for lots of pics with her... instead I would post music I was listening to, video game news, etc. Should have seen the signs back then that she was emotionally needy and lacking in confidence.

You might not have seen it then, but you see it now and (hopefully) you won't let it happen again. All we can do is do better next time. :)

But yeah, situations like this are why I use the diary metaphor when making my case. It's easy to fall into thinking of your social media accounts as not being terribly important (not to overstate their worth to humanity in general) and then you become susceptible to being badgered into things no one with an ounce of reason would accept if it was a pen and paper journal. They're not strictly fungible with one another, but it wasn't pure happenstance that lead to LiveJournal being one of the original social media titans.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on June 27, 2016, 12:24:37 PM

"The funny thing about it is about a year or so ago we had a fight because she said I didn't post enough about her on social media, or pose for lots of pics with her..."

Gross. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 27, 2016, 01:17:30 PM

Really sorry to hear about what you are going through, Samson. It seems you're doing a good job of bouncing back and you definitely realized what went wrong so you'll be better equipped to deal with them next time. (Even though my own posts are pretty one-sided, there are definitely things I did wrong... being a bit more reserved about my :uguu and geekiness, not being so OCD about my lifestyle and house - embarrassingly I flipped out on her for using multiple towels when she showered and another time for her giving me all this stuff for my house I didn't feel I needed, being more on time for things).

Speaking of Tinder, though... that wasn't really a thing back when I started my last relationship but it's since grown into one of the primary ways of meeting people online. I'm a bit worried about going that route - I don't really think I'm super good looking, and I chalk up a lot of my success on dating sites to being able to write a legible message to them that actually shows I read their profile and engages them somewhat.

Also, thanks to everybody for their sympathies. It's cool to have such awesome people all over the world providing support!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on June 27, 2016, 01:34:57 PM

tiesto, you're not fat, you have a good job, and you're in a major metro area, you shouldn't have much issues with Tinder.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: VomKriege on June 27, 2016, 02:07:21 PM

That Deidra seems to be good natured. :lol
Don't send her the link to this thread by mistake !

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 27, 2016, 02:52:56 PM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on June 27, 2016, 01:34:57 PM

tiesto, you're not fat, you have a good job, and you're in a major metro area, you shouldn't have much issues with Tinder.

he's also white :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on June 27, 2016, 10:13:50 PM

What do people use for dating these days? I'm guessing Okcupid is out of style by now?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 29, 2016, 09:30:12 AM

Quote from: Bebpo on June 27, 2016, 10:13:50 PM

What do people use for dating these days? I'm guessing Okcupid is out of style by now?

That's a good question, for when I feel up for getting back into the game. I briefly looked into Tinder but you have to connect it to FB which I'm taking a break from at the moment. I might go the Match route next time, it occasionally worked for me before but I figure the pay gate might weed out some of the less serious types.

I was looking on Craigslist out of boredom and I found a post in the W4M personals looking for a 'new friend' that I'm almost convinced might be my ex - same build, similar age range, very familiar writing style, and looking for the thing I know she's attracted to (lanky white guys). It's a confusing feeling for me seeing this - but if that's her, it's good that she's able to move on right away (especially since I was her first long-term relationship).

Boss is leaving at work, he's been an excellent and visionary leader, so that too has me extremely nervous about the future.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 29, 2016, 06:16:58 PM

Sorry things didn't work out, Samson and Tiesto.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on June 29, 2016, 06:23:15 PM

This is one of those instances where the platitude “it is better to have loved and lost. . .” really is applicable. My soon to be ex-wife is an incredible person and I learned a lot from her and had some of the best times with my life with her. My life was enriched by her and I only hope that she finds what she is looking for.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 29, 2016, 07:31:55 PM

Have you discussed divorce or do you just sense it's about to end?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on June 29, 2016, 09:02:17 PM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on June 29, 2016, 06:23:15 PM

This is one of those instances where the platitude “it is better to have loved and lost. . .” really is applicable. My soon to be ex-wife is an incredible person and I learned a lot from her and had some of the best times with my life with her. My life was enriched by her and I only hope that she finds what she is looking for.

As TA once said, (paraphrasing) the measure of a relationship isn't its duration, or level of achieved formal recognition, or any of the other metrics we commonly use, but simply if it made us better people. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: agrajag on June 29, 2016, 10:06:31 PM

All the hot girls on Tinder in my area are bots :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 29, 2016, 10:20:38 PM

Quote from: agrajag on June 29, 2016, 10:06:31 PM

All the hot girls on Tinder in my area are bots :fbm

don't make the same mistakes as me
(http://i.imgur.com/aUSZGol.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: agrajag on June 29, 2016, 11:52:28 PM

Too late breh :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on June 30, 2016, 12:51:30 AM

Quote from: Kara on June 29, 2016, 09:02:17 PM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on June 29, 2016, 06:23:15 PM
This is one of those instances where the platitude “it is better to have loved and lost. . .” really is applicable. My soon to be ex-wife is an incredible person and I learned a lot from her and had some of the best times with my life with her. My life was enriched by her and I only hope that she finds what she is looking for.

As TA once said, (paraphrasing) the measure of a relationship isn't its duration, or level of achieved formal recognition, or any of the other metrics we commonly use, but simply if it made us better people. :)

Yeah, the important thing with relationships is that if you do them right you can learn how to love and to be loved and what you're willing to accept, to give and what you're not willing to accept and what you wont give up. Take the chance to learn from it. too many people just think "Oh my ex was insane" which might be true, but it shouldn't keep you from learning from it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: agrajag on June 30, 2016, 01:13:08 AM

my ex was a psychopathic whore

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on June 30, 2016, 01:15:46 AM

I think I've told this story before but one my exes was bipolar and just a mess. And I was commenting to a coworker that I was happy she was getting on meds because she was acting more in control. And my coworker asked if I thought that if she had been on meds back when we were together if we'd still be together. i was like "There's no pill for 'bitch' "

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on June 30, 2016, 01:25:15 AM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on June 30, 2016, 01:15:46 AM

I think I've told this story before but one my exes was bipolar and just a mess. And I was commenting to a coworker that I was happy she was getting on meds because she was acting more in control. And my coworker asked if I thought that if she had been on meds back when we were together if we'd still be together. i was like "There's no pill for 'bitch' "

:dead

Was she super attractive? I stayed in one relationship half a year longer than I should have because she was too good looking.

She had been a model, and was smart and creative, but had self esteem issues and pessimism that I couldn't get past. She was working on them until we got serious, and then she pulled a Groucho Marx: "I wouldn't belong to any club that would have me as a member." She's been married twice, has some lovely kids, but is always on FB talking about how bad everything is going, even though she's traveling the country, doing what she wants for a living, and even having vacations and cruises with her family. Jesus, take a moment to appreciate what's going RIGHT in your life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 30, 2016, 07:42:35 AM

Quote from: chronovore on June 30, 2016, 01:25:15 AM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on June 30, 2016, 01:15:46 AM
I think I've told this story before but one my exes was bipolar and just a mess. And I was commenting to a coworker that I was happy she was getting on meds because she was acting more in control. And my coworker asked if I thought that if she had been on meds back when we were together if we'd still be together. i was like "There's no pill for 'bitch' "
:dead

Was she super attractive? I stayed in one relationship half a year longer than I should have because she was too good looking.

She had been a model, and was smart and creative, but had self esteem issues and pessimism that I couldn't get past. She was working on them until we got serious, and then she pulled a Groucho Marx: "I wouldn't belong to any club that would have me as a member." She's been married twice, has some lovely kids, but is always on FB talking about how bad everything is going, even though she's traveling the country, doing what she wants for a living, and even having vacations and cruises with her family. Jesus, take a moment to appreciate what's going RIGHT in your life.

You should have tried to fix her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on June 30, 2016, 08:36:13 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on June 29, 2016, 10:20:38 PM

Quote from: agrajag on June 29, 2016, 10:06:31 PM
All the hot girls on Tinder in my area are bots :fbm

don't make the same mistakes as me
(http://i.imgur.com/aUSZGol.png)

At this point I don't trust any attractive chick on Tinder.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Pretty bad when you 65 year old mother is telling you to use tinder. I think my mother is afraid I have the gays.

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on June 30, 2016, 09:12:55 AM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on June 30, 2016, 05:06:27 AM

You always stick to a relationship too long if the girl is super attractive to you, I think that's happened to every dude at this point.

That's probably why I was in a relationship with this last one. Probably the prettiest girl I've ever been in a relationship with, face-wise. Was easy to overlook the whining and her disappearing for large portions at a time whenever there was a big social gathering.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TVC15 on June 30, 2016, 09:34:52 AM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on June 30, 2016, 09:23:18 AM

Last relationship I was in(The girl I'm now cutting all ties with) was with the most attractive girl I've ever been with, hook up or otherwise. Not just in looks(I've been with some beauties but she takes the cake IMO) but personality and interest wise, too. I know it's a big part of the reason why I was fighting to keep a relationship going for so long, even though it wasn't very good for me in the end.

Was this the girl that you believed to have gotten a "Illin like Salmonella" tattoo?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on June 30, 2016, 09:53:36 AM

Quote from: TVC 15 on June 30, 2016, 09:34:52 AM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on June 30, 2016, 09:23:18 AM
Last relationship I was in(The girl I'm now cutting all ties with) was with the most attractive girl I've ever been with, hook up or otherwise. Not just in looks(I've been with some beauties but she takes the cake IMO) but personality and interest wise, too. I know it's a big part of the reason why I was fighting to keep a relationship going for so long, even though it wasn't very good for me in the end.

Was this the girl that you believed to have gotten a "Illin like Salmonella" tattoo?

the answer will make or break my perception of you, Kaffir.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on June 30, 2016, 10:05:01 AM

Every girl Wrath has shown me has been smokin' hot. I like the one that looks like Selena Gomez :uguu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on June 30, 2016, 04:07:00 PM

Water seeks its own level.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on June 30, 2016, 07:47:48 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on June 30, 2016, 07:42:35 AM

Quote from: chronovore on June 30, 2016, 01:25:15 AM
Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on June 30, 2016, 01:15:46 AM
I think I've told this story before but one my exes was bipolar and just a mess. And I was commenting to a coworker that I was happy she was getting on meds because she was acting more in control. And my coworker asked if I thought that if she had been on meds back when we were together if we'd still be together. i was like "There's no pill for 'bitch' "
:dead

Was she super attractive? I stayed in one relationship half a year longer than I should have because she was too good looking.

She had been a model, and was smart and creative, but had self esteem issues and pessimism that I couldn't get past. She was working on them until we got serious, and then she pulled a Groucho Marx: "I wouldn't belong to any club that would have me as a member." She's been married twice, has some lovely kids, but is always on FB talking about how bad everything is going, even though she's traveling the country, doing what she wants for a living, and even having vacations and cruises with her family. Jesus, take a moment to appreciate what's going RIGHT in your life.
You should have tried to fix her.

:lol

If it were almost any other Borito, I wouldn't have seen the sarcasm as clearly.

Well played, sir.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on June 30, 2016, 07:53:54 PM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on June 30, 2016, 04:07:00 PM

Water seeks its own level.

Is this a Bruce Lee-style "be like water" comment, or a statement that we all find our lowest common denominator?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 01, 2016, 12:22:17 AM

Quote from: chronovore on June 30, 2016, 07:53:54 PM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on June 30, 2016, 04:07:00 PM
Water seeks its own level.

Is this a Bruce Lee-style "be like water" comment, or a statement that we all find our lowest common denominator?

Water's flat. I think he's saying Wrath had some sort of wrong expectations or something that drew him to that girl(s).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on July 01, 2016, 01:01:54 AM

Chronovore is on the right track with the lowest common denominator.

I read it recently in a relationship book. Basically, we seek partners that have a similar degree of brokenness as us. Healthy people do not seek broken partners. If one repeatedly finds themself with broken partners, it is probably time to look inward.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 01, 2016, 01:56:45 AM

:snoop I can't believe that wasn't axiomatic enough for y'all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on July 01, 2016, 10:05:58 AM

Quote from: Kara on July 01, 2016, 01:56:45 AM

:snoop I can't believe that wasn't axiomatic enough for y'all.

how dumb most people are about computers=how dumb me&every1 is about everything :shh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 01, 2016, 11:10:17 AM

Quote from: Kara on July 01, 2016, 01:56:45 AM

:snoop I can't believe that wasn't axiomatic enough for y'all.

What if I got it but had to look up axiomatic?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 01, 2016, 11:19:13 AM

axiom is in the title of some recently released indie trash game, sry but no dispensation :doge

no pity! no remorse! no fear! (shakespeare)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 01, 2016, 11:42:19 AM

Well, fuck you, knowitall *knocks your books to the ground*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 01, 2016, 11:53:17 AM

I don't really agree with that whole "seeks its own kind".
I feel my wife and I have a great relationship and certainly its better than most of our friends. But we're not really very alike in anything other than our love for each other. I spent all this time with people that were a lot like me and had similar interests. You know what I found? Why would I want to hang out with someone that was just like me? I've been around myself all my life and I hate me. For us, our differences is what makes it all work. Everyone that I know is always hooking up with people that are like themselves (some even look like another version of themselves :kobeyuck)

That's just never worked for me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 01, 2016, 11:55:01 AM

It's not about being like you, it's about being about as fucked up as you are

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 01, 2016, 11:55:29 AM

I read that more as "also crazy" not "exact same kind of crazy".

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 01, 2016, 11:58:10 AM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on July 01, 2016, 11:55:01 AM

It's not about being like you, it's about being about as fucked up as you are

Equally fucked up but in a different way so you get to experience new versions of fucked up :delicious

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 01, 2016, 01:29:34 PM

I know the distinction was already addressed about Ronito's post, but I also don't understand people who want to date someone just like them. Every time I end up finding someone just like me I tend to get annoyed with them. I am annoying. I'm self loathing. Get away from me, people.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 01, 2016, 01:36:21 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on July 01, 2016, 01:29:34 PM

I know the distinction was already addressed about Ronito's post, but I also don't understand people who want to date someone just like them. Every time I end up finding someone just like me I tend to get annoyed with them. I am annoying. I'm self loathing. Get away from me, people.

The only thing worse than me is other people. Also, I'm never going to do anything other than hate fuck a conservative or libertarian. Nope.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 01, 2016, 01:42:55 PM

My ex was a lot like me (imo) and I rather enjoyed that, but I'm quite narcissistic.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on July 01, 2016, 05:45:05 PM

Most of my exes are like me. In that they were black out and don't remember how they ended up in bed with me either

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 01, 2016, 08:20:24 PM

>Have no exes
>Have no flawed exes
>Have given up seeking the love and admiration of the opposite sex (AND the same sex. #NotGay :doge)
>Realize that true love and peace comes from within
>TFW you have attained perfection

(http://i.imgur.com/uNLKpdk.png?1)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on July 01, 2016, 08:38:43 PM

one day you will also sip from the cup of heartache atra-chan believe

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 01, 2016, 08:41:29 PM

Quote from: toku on July 01, 2016, 08:38:43 PM

one day you will also sip from the cup of heartache atra-chan believe

You're not a real man until then. :bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 01, 2016, 10:02:59 PM

Quote from: Pallando on July 01, 2016, 08:20:24 PM

>Have no exes
>Have no flawed exes
>Have given up seeking the love and admiration of the opposite sex (AND the same sex. #NotGay :doge)
>Realize that true love and peace comes from within
>TFW you have attained perfection

(http://i.imgur.com/uNLKpdk.png?1)

Since you seem unfamiliar with (or uncomfortable saying) the word ataraxia, I'd say you have some miles left on the road to perfection. :dice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 01, 2016, 10:46:41 PM

edit: drunk post

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 02, 2016, 12:49:51 AM

Quote from: Pallando on July 01, 2016, 10:46:41 PM

edit: drunk post

http://overwatch.gamepedia.com/File:D.Va_-_AFK.ogg

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 16, 2016, 01:29:16 AM

Anybody here try out Plenty of Fish? Seems like the site got a facelift since I first looked at it some odd years ago... was just browsing around, seeing what's out there, since you don't need to make a profile to look (unlike a lot of other sites). Some cute girls in my area in my age range, and holy shit at the # of special ed teachers out there. Which is good because we could at least bitch about our jobs to each other on a first date or something :P

Not quite ready to go out dating again, there's a bunch of personal shit I want to do in the meantime (stupid stuff, like recording a new mix, or designing a small mobile game, or cleaning out my garage)... but POF may be a good site to start with.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 16, 2016, 01:38:38 AM

I've known women who used it... no complaints (beyond the usual "being a straight woman on online dating") but none of them found a meaningful relationship there either.

California is basically perdition though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: zomgee on July 16, 2016, 09:45:35 AM

You want broken - try having a wife of 20 years getting diagnosed with bipolar disorder.

All aboard

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 16, 2016, 11:26:33 AM

It helps to understand what causes her issues and how to deal with them. Although I wouldn't assume anyone exhibits all the textbook signs of any mental condition and whatever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 16, 2016, 11:36:26 AM

Sorry zom, I take it she has the type 2 formation?

Besides getting the appropriate medications, learning how to handle the mood swings through therapy will help a lot. (I'm inclined to say more because she will probably experience the start of a cycle before she can get medications.)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: zomgee on July 16, 2016, 05:11:51 PM

I'll go through it in detail someday. It's diagnosed as being very minor, really. It's bipolar tendencies with a borderline personality disorder. She had a legendary, classic, full blown manic episode when our daughter was born 18 years ago and doctors chalked it up to wimmin-juices stuff. She had a bipolar episode brought on by the stress of a harsh pregnancy and lack of sleep. Since then she's had a couple minor (yet major to me yikes) instances that then got diagnosed upon intake. It's one of those things where she'll do something without thinking about the consequences even when people tell her what those consequences are. Turns out the always had the tendencies, maybe brought on by a rape, maybe she was born with it. Maybe it's Maybelline. She's on meds now and therapy, and we're both going to fight for her.

I guess the lesson is there's no such thing as normal.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 16, 2016, 05:47:33 PM

I'm glad she's willing to fight. (And you too.) :) With the right treatment the prognosis for people with BPD is good. (~50% remission by 2 years, IIRC.)

One of my parents has a very severe form of borderline personality disorder that was misdiagnosed as bipolarity until it became a rather impossible to miss, but they never took getting better seriously and I wish that they had, even if it would have done nothing to stop the bad blood that exists between us.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 16, 2016, 08:27:41 PM

I'm back on Tinder again now that I'm able to manage my anxiety a lot better. :doge

(http://i.imgur.com/vBPBwhB.jpg?1)

:comeon

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I ended up swiping right because ze's cute. :-[

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: zomgee on July 16, 2016, 09:57:34 PM

Quote from: Kara on July 16, 2016, 05:47:33 PM

I'm glad she's willing to fight. (And you too.) :) With the right treatment the prognosis for people with BPD is good. (~50% remission by 2 years, IIRC.)

One of my parents has a very severe form of borderline personality disorder that was misdiagnosed as bipolarity until it became a rather impossible to miss, but they never took getting better seriously and I wish that they had, even if it would have done nothing to stop the bad blood that exists between us.

Reading that made me really, really sad.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 16, 2016, 10:18:32 PM

at least she's willing to work on it. I have an ex that was diagnosed with bipolar disorder but doesn't really take it seriously. It's sad because over the years she's essentially pushed everyone in her life away through her actions/selfishness and she's essentially all alone now. I think if she got treatment and worked on it she could function but she doesn't believe she has a problem it's everyone else that has the problem. So the fact that your wife is getting treatment is a very very good sign. Hang in there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on July 17, 2016, 01:56:47 AM

I'm going to a Beer Share thingy hosted by my friend this upcoming Monday and his cousin is supposedly going to be there. I only meant her once, but she must have left an impression because I remember her being nice, very smart(probably too good for me who's stuck in the nebulous pre-real adult stage). I hope I'm able to strike up a solid conversation, I'll take that as a victory.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 17, 2016, 09:55:00 AM

God, I love cousins.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 17, 2016, 11:03:44 AM

One of the hookers I've been seeing has invited me to an orgy that's supposed to happen in a few weeks. Not sure if I'm going to do it or not. It doesn't sound very appealing to me but the YOLO factor is strong here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 17, 2016, 11:24:10 AM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on July 17, 2016, 11:03:44 AM

One of the hookers I've been seeing has invited me to an orgy that's supposed to happen in a few weeks. Not sure if I'm going to do it or not. It doesn't sound very appealing to me but the YOLO factor is strong here.

Is this a high class escort, and a high class event?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 18, 2016, 07:59:57 AM

Yes to the first part, not sure about the second. I asked for more information.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 19, 2016, 02:20:04 AM

My (internal) reactions to a couple of recent situations have made it clear to me that some of my existing psychological malformations are virtually ineradicable and to be in a relationship means either concealing those malformations and feeling shitty in a way that I don't care to feel or subjecting someone to unnecessary pain and neither option there strikes me as being particularly desirable. After my current relationship ends (and it will end as I am involved in it) I think I'm going to hang 'em up. At the very least I've proven to myself that I can be better than I have been.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 19, 2016, 02:35:42 AM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on July 17, 2016, 11:03:44 AM

One of the hookers I've been seeing has invited me to an orgy that's supposed to happen in a few weeks. Not sure if I'm going to do it or not. It doesn't sound very appealing to me but the YOLO factor is strong here.

Can't you always leave if you walk in and it's not appealing? I'd be real careful about STDs though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: VomKriege on July 19, 2016, 02:53:25 AM

Quote from: Kara on July 19, 2016, 02:20:04 AM

My (internal) reactions to a couple of recent situations have made it clear to me that some of my existing psychological malformations are virtually ineradicable and to be in a relationship means either concealing those malformations and feeling shitty in a way that I don't care to feel or subjecting someone to unnecessary pain and neither option there strikes me as being particularly desirable. After my current relationship ends (and it will end as I am involved in it) I think I'm going to hang 'em up. At the very least I've proven to myself that I can be better than I have been.

Come on now, Marxism is a terrible affliction, but not to that point.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 19, 2016, 10:49:13 AM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on July 17, 2016, 11:03:44 AM

One of the hookers I've been seeing has invited me to an orgy that's supposed to happen in a few weeks. Not sure if I'm going to do it or not. It doesn't sound very appealing to me but the YOLO factor is strong here.

Is it a pay event? If so, you're not paying for an orgy, you're paying for a gangbang.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 20, 2016, 12:27:46 AM

Quote from: VomKriege on July 19, 2016, 02:53:25 AM

Come on now, Marxism is a terrible affliction, but not to that point.

Nah, the "I can't deal with this" is already starting. And unlike my last serious relationship there's no context / shared experience for any of it to offset my bullshit.

One step closer to being Ultra Romance (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L9XA8xNcgZg). :aah

Thanks for the chuckle though. :D

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 20, 2016, 06:16:19 PM

Gen_Y_Divorce.txt

- A good friend of mine is getting divorced after being married six years. Apparently he found that she had a secret credit card and things went downhill quickly from there.
- She tried to flip it on him and said that the reason they're getting divorced is because he has a small dick.
- To prove he has a small dick, she uploaded a bunch of their nude pictures and homemade videos onto a dropbox.
- Regret sets in hours later but too late, too many people downloaded a copy (including me :doge).
- The pictures and videos are now spreading like wildfire and despite begging and pleading, you can't unring that bell.
- Now she claims she is being cyberbullied and that it's all one giant conspiracy led by her soon to be ex-husband. The ex-husband (my friend) was simultaneously pleading for people to delete the pictures and videos.
- Girl is now threatening legal action against everyone who downloaded the pictures and videos.

It blows my mind that people want to get married these days. Here's hoping Generation Z learns from our mistakes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 20, 2016, 06:27:34 PM

Get married, brehs. :doge
Trust other people, brehs. :doge

Wizard excellence. :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 20, 2016, 06:28:31 PM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on July 20, 2016, 06:16:19 PM

- To prove he has a small dick, she uploaded a bunch of their nude pictures and homemade videos onto a dropbox.

:what

How does that even make logical sense?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: VomKriege on July 20, 2016, 06:36:55 PM

I know people can be driven mad spiteful because of a breakup, that there's violence and you can't keep it nice and clean between the two of you but why even do that shit of giving the rope to be hanged with ?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 20, 2016, 06:44:51 PM

She was hoping that people would point and laugh at how small my friend's dick is. Didn't quite turn out that way.

His dick is pretty normal sized too, which is the kicker.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 20, 2016, 06:50:32 PM

Until the law catches up with reality, marriage will always have a certain utility (next of kin, inheritance, et cetera).

Good luck getting the Bible thumpers to go along with eroding the one country, two systems we currently have though. Discrimination is cool if it sunsidizes a particular value system or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 20, 2016, 06:54:47 PM

So women suffer from the same porn delusions, huh.

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Do keep filming yourself though, it's the best material. :shaq

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 20, 2016, 07:12:34 PM

Did any of the pics/videos include nudes of her?

send nude videos to a woman brehs :beli

trust other people brehs :holeup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on July 20, 2016, 07:21:06 PM

Skip marriage, be forever alone brehs :snob

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: SmokyDave on July 20, 2016, 07:26:27 PM

Eh, I like being married. Didn't really care about marriage until about an hour after the ceremony, but I'm definitely digging it now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: naff on July 20, 2016, 07:44:22 PM

i thought my last partner was 'the one', i don't really have any qualms about marriage now. i used to be really anti-institution and while i still think it's a relatively pointless symbolic gesture i find the idea of celebrating a relationship publicly more interesting as i get older, and shit i do seem to love long drawn out relationships where you slowly develop resentment til eventually your partnership crumbles. The struggle is so real when you understand your pattern but remain consistent.

Bill Cosby and Camille, now THAT is a solid relationship - just do a bit of raping every now and again to keep things happy at home.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 20, 2016, 07:47:03 PM

Yeah, I'm in no rush, but I'd like to get married at some point with the right person after a 3 year make-sure-this-is-working period including 1 year+ of living together.

Kids though, 50/50 at this point in my life (which is better than 0% want where I was five years ago). It's weird how I never started feeling old and limited time life choices until this year where I'm turning 35. I feel like before 35 you can fuck around and have fun, concentrate on yourself, career, family, friends, gfs, but 35-40 is where you really need to decide if you want to settle down & be a parent.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 20, 2016, 07:47:36 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on July 20, 2016, 07:21:06 PM

Skip marriage, be forever alone brehs :snob

(http://i.imgur.com/OTSMGXv.gif)

I'll just overdose on heroin if the loneliness becomes too overwhelming. :hitler

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Kidding.

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Sorta.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 20, 2016, 08:02:55 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on July 20, 2016, 07:21:06 PM

Skip marriage, be forever alone brehs :snob

By the time free university for all in America covers MFAs and renders this a plausibility for me, I'll be close enough to natural death that I can marry a mail order bride and transmit my estate tax free to the developing world while making Americans pay her my Social Security benefits after I kick the bucket.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on July 20, 2016, 08:07:33 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/xaPa6Wz.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on July 20, 2016, 10:03:17 PM

Love yourself because you are the only person you’re guaranteed to spend the rest of your life with.

As Fitnessbore readers know, I’m in the process of getting divorced. She’s done some things I’d rather she hadn’t, but in the end I’m not bitter about her or the institution. The next one will be better and in the meantime I get to be born-again single. Viktor Frankl said, “Live as if you were living already for the second time and as if you had acted the first time as wrongly as you are about to act now!” So in a way, I get to do that.

And honestly, being married is awesome. Best 3 years of my life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on July 21, 2016, 03:09:29 AM

Quote from: Kara on July 19, 2016, 02:20:04 AM

My (internal) reactions to a couple of recent situations have made it clear to me that some of my existing psychological malformations are virtually ineradicable and to be in a relationship means either concealing those malformations and feeling shitty in a way that I don't care to feel or subjecting someone to unnecessary pain and neither option there strikes me as being particularly desirable. After my current relationship ends (and it will end as I am involved in it) I think I'm going to hang 'em up. At the very least I've proven to myself that I can be better than I have been.

I've reached this point as well. Some people are meant to be on their own. Atm I'm pretty certain that I'll never be in another relationship for the remainder of my wretched existence. 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 21, 2016, 03:25:09 AM

Guys cheer up, after my last gf over a decade ago now I thought I'd just cruise through life single because I was not able to be in a successful relationship due to me being me.

Then I met my wife.

Stuff can happen and maybe you and your craziness can't change that much, but you might meet someone that will complement you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on July 21, 2016, 06:53:26 AM

Quote from: Pallando on July 20, 2016, 06:27:34 PM

Get married, brehs. :doge
Trust other people, brehs. :doge

Wizard excellence. :lawd

It's really nice to have someone who looks after me when I'm sick, supports me when I'm down, and cheers me on from the sidelines. I highly recommend it.

Quote from: Bebpo on July 20, 2016, 06:28:31 PM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on July 20, 2016, 06:16:19 PM
- To prove he has a small dick, she uploaded a bunch of their nude pictures and homemade videos onto a dropbox.

:what

How does that even make logical sense?

Bebs. Behhhhhhhhhbs. After all your ladyfriend shenanigans, is that a rock you want to throw, from within your crystalized silicon domicile?

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No, it makes no fucking sense.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 21, 2016, 10:01:00 AM

went out with a friend that married a hot young irresponsible guy. She had a few kids with him. Turns out he's sleeping around.
She was like "I can't believe he's cheating on me."
I was like :gurl

For the record being married is easily the best thing in my life. BUT! I know we're an odd case and certainly know that it doesn't work for most people.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on July 21, 2016, 10:15:16 AM

this thread took a dark turn

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on July 21, 2016, 11:12:59 AM

Quote from: Premium Lager on July 21, 2016, 03:25:09 AM

Guys cheer up, after my last gf over a decade ago now I thought I'd just cruise through life single because I was not able to be in a successful relationship due to me being me.

Then I met my wife.

Stuff can happen and maybe you and your craziness can't change that much, but you might meet someone that will complement you.

I didn't want to get into specifics, but I'll throw out some of the most obviously Manichean situations to demonstrate.

1. A few weeks ago we went out for a nice day in nature and she got a decent sunburn as well as having a bad reaction to the suntan lotion she used (to the point where she had to go to the doctor 2 days later). She didn't suffer in silence with either of these things, and spent the rest of the weekend at my place moping around on top of that. Externally I was supportive and understanding throughout all of this, but internally I was experiencing a profound sense of revulsion at the weakness of the flesh on display. The kind of revulsion you might feel if you walked into an abattoir after the cows were processed (like most eaters of flesh I assume you don't think about how your tasty treats get to plate too much), not the kind you might feel as a man socialized to suck it up / walk it off when saddled with someone not equally socialized.

2. She was raised by elderly relatives, one of whom has been experiencing health problems lately. They live close enough to us that she can be pressed into service in emergencies, but not close enough where this just involves a 90 minute drive there. At the prospect of being called up for an umpteenth time for one of them for the same health issue (and its unforeseen consequences) she was mopey and said, "But I miss you!" when I said that I completely understood if she had to cancel our plans so that she could go pitch in. I responded by saying that it's not like she wanted this to happen and that I would miss her too but internally I was like, "Then tell them to fuck off. Your relative is old, they get sick and die ex officio."

I not only have a very malformed lovemap, but as a being capable of rational thought I know it's one where if I encountered someone who actually fit it that the person would be the kind of person who leaves you in a burning building after running a cost/benefit analysis, or forever loathes themselves for fishing you out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on July 21, 2016, 11:32:26 AM

Quote from: chronovore on July 21, 2016, 06:53:26 AM

Quote from: Pallando on July 20, 2016, 06:27:34 PM
Get married, brehs. :doge
Trust other people, brehs. :doge

Wizard excellence. :lawd
It's really nice to have someone who looks after me when I'm sick, supports me when I'm down, and cheers me on from the sidelines. I highly recommend it.

I can do that too if you really want. No marriage needed. Weird, I know, but - it's 2016 and not the stone age anymore

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on July 21, 2016, 11:34:54 AM

Quote from: zomgee on July 16, 2016, 09:45:35 AM

You want broken - try having a wife of 20 years getting diagnosed with bipolar disorder.

All aboard

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OamWXqLP6U4

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 21, 2016, 11:48:14 AM

I'm really confused by how much importance people on the internet put on how others define their intimate relationships.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on July 23, 2016, 03:22:28 PM

BF spent last night here.

:nsfw

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First time I've ever come twice in a row. :-[

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on July 23, 2016, 03:24:29 PM

Quote from: demi on July 21, 2016, 11:34:54 AM

Quote from: zomgee on July 16, 2016, 09:45:35 AM
You want broken - try having a wife of 20 years getting diagnosed with bipolar disorder.

All aboard

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OamWXqLP6U4

This movie is an American classic.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on July 26, 2016, 03:48:44 PM

First day of marriage counseling.

Abandon all hope ye who enter here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on July 26, 2016, 04:19:50 PM

Don't give up before it's really started.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on July 26, 2016, 05:38:22 PM

I wish I had the opportunity to do that with my ex. Don't take it for granted. Good luck!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on July 26, 2016, 08:52:04 PM

My wife is back in "work depression mode." Hates her job. Just spent NINE-HUNDRED FUCKIN' DOLLARS on an online ~~scam~~ course to "change your future." I asked her what this was and she gets text messages/emails/facebook shit every month. For $900.
:dead

There's supposed to be actual meetings you attend, but they're in Japan and we live in the States. So she's giving them a bunch of money for nothing. This follows the $400 she spent a few years ago on some DVDs that were supposed to make the viewer "happy forever" after watching them. She watched one of them and never looked at them again. :doge

Absolutely floored here. I had the credit card company on the phone to dispute the charge but ended up stopping because it would just piss her off and make our relationship hell. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on July 26, 2016, 09:00:54 PM

Can your wife just like, send me $50 every month or something.

I promise it'll go to a better cause (Pokemon GO Gold.)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on July 26, 2016, 09:03:12 PM

Quote from: Tasty Meat on July 26, 2016, 09:00:54 PM

Can your wife just like, send me $50 every month or something.

I promise it'll go to a better cause (Pokemon GO Gold.)

You joke, but that would actually be a better use of that money. :P

See, when I got my new job, I had to go out and buy a whole new wardrobe. It cost almost $1,000 for everything. It was insane but necessary and she said she understood. This is now the card being played against me. She was like "you return the clothes and I'll cancel the order." So you know, go to work dressed in jeans and a t-shirt, get fired, and have no money. Makes sense. :doge

I tried to explain to her that it's not the money she's spending that's got me riled up here...it's what the money is being spent on. But I know better and I'm just gonna let her shit that money away. Way better for mental health.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on July 26, 2016, 09:21:39 PM

It feels like an obvious stopgap. What's the real issue? You mention "work depression," can she get a new job? Go back to school? It sounds like a rut or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on July 26, 2016, 09:42:17 PM

Quote from: Tasty Meat on July 26, 2016, 09:21:39 PM

It feels like an obvious stopgap. What's the real issue? You mention "work depression," can she get a new job? Go back to school? It sounds like a rut or something.

She hasn't been big on her job for a while now. Up until now it was always the social aspect of it-- she thinks her co-workers are a bunch of backstabbing bitches. This is exactly what she said about her previous job, btw. But now she thinks she's going to be stuck in that job forever and wants to do something else. She is interested in web design and I've been encouraging her to study and practice up on it.

Going back to school would be hard on us financially, but the bigger problem is her English-- she still needs to learn a lot more and that is what is really stopping her from finding a new job. There's slim pickings for her around here with her current language skills. What would have been better is spending that $900 on some English-related courses or something.

She's also going to be pretty much back to normal by tomorrow. This shit comes and goes every year or so. In fact we had some friends pop by unexpectedly and she was having a great time and forgot all about everything. Too bad she'd already ordered that shit. :'(

I should also mention that she was also feeling a bit down because we couldn't go on vacation this summer. Again related to my new job. I started the week she had off. So I think that also came into play here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on July 26, 2016, 09:51:59 PM

Sorry to hear about the rough patch, bork. I had a girlfriend once that would get in similar routines. She would get depressed and would spend a bunch of money on something to make her happy again. I remember she wanted to buy the “Insanity” workout DVD set really badly and I told her I thought it was a bad idea and that it was a waste of money. She ended up getting it, using it once, and never using it again.

To me, this validated my initial skepticism, proved I was “right” and I let her know how much of a waste it was. So she ended up being just as depressed as she was and down however much it cost.

But looking back on it I realized I set her up to fail. By doubting her I made it harder for her to feel confident in doing the exercises. Instead, she probably just felt stupid and ashamed — not what she was hoping when she got them. What could have been a positive change in her life: routine, exercise, new hobby was ruined by my negativity.

It sucks your down the $900, but I think you’ve got the right attitude with, " I know better and I'm just gonna let her shit that money away. Way better for mental health.” Sometimes its hard to be encouraging despite your disapproval, but it’s what the people who we care about need.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 26, 2016, 09:56:49 PM

Get married, brehs

spoiler (click to show/hide)

I have a therapy session Thursday, probably a good 45 minutes of it will be spent talking about how being alone has me depressed :-\

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on July 26, 2016, 10:24:52 PM

Agreed with Manhug but I would be careful about letting this issue boil under the surface. In fact it seems connected to a couple other issues too (resentment over you spending $1000 on clothes, not spending enough time with friends, your new job for not letting a vacation happen.)

If it's not the time to talk about this stuff it's not the time but I'd be careful about letting it fester, especially since it seems like a yearly thing.

Best of luck bork.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on July 26, 2016, 11:09:45 PM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on July 26, 2016, 09:51:59 PM

It sucks your down the $900, but I think you’ve got the right attitude with, " I know better and I'm just gonna let her shit that money away. Way better for mental health.” Sometimes its hard to be encouraging despite your disapproval, but it’s what the people who we care about need.

:respect

Quote from: Tasty Meat on July 26, 2016, 10:24:52 PM

Agreed with Manhug but I would be careful about letting this issue boil under the surface. In fact it seems connected to a couple other issues too (resentment over you spending $1000 on clothes, not spending enough time with friends, your new job for not letting a vacation happen.)

There's no issue with friends-- friends popped by and it totally changed her mood. We talked about what would happen if I got this new job going months back and she kept saying she was fine with it. What's really going on here is that she wants to buy this shit in the hopes that it's going to fix her work woes and then uses stuff I bought (or not going on the vacation) in almost child-like way, saying it's not fair that I spent money so she should go spend the same thing too. That shit doesn't phase me though.

Quote from: Samson Manhug on July 26, 2016, 09:51:59 PM

If it's not the time to talk about this stuff it's not the time but I'd be careful about letting it fester, especially since it seems like a yearly thing.

Best of luck bork.

At the end of the day, our relationship is fine. I'm not the cause of her problems and I just do my best to support her. :)

Now, what IS something that comes up between us is having kids. She wants to have one and I am...not ready. She also flip-flops on it from time to time. It's mainly money that I worry about, TBH. Nobody else in my family thinks it's a good idea at the moment either...but that said she is 37 and understandably that biological clock is ticking. So it's a tough one. What makes it worse is her bitch of a sister getting in her head and making this worse. Her sister, BTW, is basically the equivalent of my wife when she's really pissed off...except that this is how she acts all the time. She actually stopped talking to me completely and I'm glad. Also glad that we don't live in the same country.
:whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 27, 2016, 12:04:59 AM

Sorry to hear your going through that lyte.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on July 27, 2016, 01:56:44 AM

I think I recognize some of those problems. I've only been with my girlfriend for a little over 6 months but we both share the discontent with not feeling a real purpose/goal in life at the moment which gets us talking about why we want to change our careers and (in the long-term) have children. 37 definitely isn't too late but I think she's really anxious about it and brings it up periodically because she doesn't want to make you throw away your prospects of advancing your career by having them too soon due to work/family balance.

It does sound like you're right now on a good track with being in a good job and company so it might make sense make a little borker when you feel settled in to your new job. It is common in Asian households for the grandparents to essentially be a live-in babysitter which frees you two up a little. All I know is that kids take a lot of time off your hands but I can't say what the exact financial costs are.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 27, 2016, 02:06:04 AM

There's a fine line when it comes to kids. You should never just have them willy-nilly, but if you wait for things to be perfect to have a kid it'll never happen. I had my first when I was 22. Looking back it, by my standards now I never would've done it and would've waited for better financial footing. But we made it. And I'm glad we did it when we did. I had my last kid when I was 35 and man I could totally feel the drag of my age at that point. I honestly would not want to start in late thirties. Not only are the pregnancies higher risk, you're just not as energetic as you are in your twenties. And really, looking back at each of my kids there was ALWAYS an argument that it wasn't the right time for each and there never was a time when everything lined up perfectly. If I had waited for the right time I wouldn't have any kids.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 27, 2016, 02:51:11 AM

Quote from: brawndolicious on July 27, 2016, 01:56:44 AM

I think I recognize some of those problems. I've only been with my girlfriend for a little over 6 months but we both share the discontent with not feeling a real purpose/goal in life at the moment which gets us talking about why we want to change our careers and (in the long-term) have children. 37 definitely isn't too late but I think she's really anxious about it and brings it up periodically because she doesn't want to make you throw away your prospects of advancing your career by having them too soon due to work/family balance.

It does sound like you're right now on a good track with being in a good job and company so it might make sense make a little borker when you feel settled in to your new job. It is common in Asian households for the grandparents to essentially be a live-in babysitter which frees you two up a little. All I know is that kids take a lot of time off your hands but I can't say what the exact financial costs are.

37 is pretty late if you are just thinking about it and not doing it, I mean it could take years to get one

How old are you Lyte?

My wife was 35 when we got our angel hellspawn and I was 32.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 27, 2016, 02:56:16 AM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on July 27, 2016, 02:06:04 AM

There's a fine line when it comes to kids. You should never just have them willy-nilly

nudemacusers most assuredly NEVER said that

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 27, 2016, 03:00:32 AM

he does in the king james version fyi

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on July 27, 2016, 10:27:35 AM

Quote from: Premium Lager on July 27, 2016, 02:51:11 AM

37 is pretty late if you are just thinking about it and not doing it, I mean it could take years to get one

How old are you Lyte?

My wife was 35 when we got our angel hellspawn and I was 32.

I'm 35.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on July 27, 2016, 10:47:47 AM

No-one is ever actually ready for kids. The people that think they are have no real idea of what they're getting into. No-one does.

It's still worth it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 27, 2016, 12:14:55 PM

exactly. I had a friend that waited until he was 40 to be "ready" I was like "LOL dude, you're not ready you're never ready." He got all indignant that I didn't know what I was talking about. When the baby was 3 months old he called me up and was like "I wasn't ready!" :brazilcry

You're never ready. It's like trying to describe a color. Unless you've seen it, you wont know what people are talking about.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on July 27, 2016, 01:31:21 PM

You should never get depressed about being alone. You are making your own decisions and are not at the mercy of others. That's the greatest freedom in life, we spend so much of our lives following the whims of others (directly and indirectly). You should appreciate it every day you wake up.

Like a tourist from a First World Country that visits a shithole to feel better about his/her life, maybe be a tourist to support groups for people with troubled relationships or people that are stuck in toxic relationships they can't get out of. Then maybe you will come to value the incredible amount of freedom you enjoy and take for granted.

My advice on lessening the pain of loneliness (which I believe is just the male psychological version of 'baby fever') is to stop watching porn, stop looking at Facebook and start getting more massages and doing group activities with random strangers. There are tons of them out there if you just look.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 27, 2016, 03:47:01 PM

As someone who recently ended a 3 year relationship, that's excellent advice, TA. Taking a break from FB really feels great, and I've replaced the time I would spend screwing around on FB (or chatting with my gf) with doing little house projects (cleaning the garage, changing air filters, etc.). Or actually picking up a phone and calling people I haven't chatted with in a while. Or even taking up new hobbies or old ones I've neglected (wanting to get back into drawing, game dev, weights, bike riding, and DJing). Or getting ready to schedule my dream vacation, without being encumbered by my ex and her neediness and whinyness.

Sure, it sucks a bit when everyone is out with their SO's on Saturday night and I'm stuck at home by myself, but I've been so busy lately that just staying in and playing some backlogged RPGs (or reading a book, or practicing my sketching) is refreshing.

It's weird, I feel so much different after this particular breakup. Got over the girl MUCH faster than usual, am not in such a hurry to jump back in, or hell even start dating. Even though I'm 34 and the only non engaged/married one in my social circle, and after previous relationships I fretted that "nobody else is gonna go for someone like me, I'm too much of an unattractive, socially awkward nerd with weird-ass interests". I dunno what it is, it could be that there are too many little things I want to do first.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 27, 2016, 04:24:53 PM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on July 27, 2016, 01:31:21 PM

You should never get depressed about being alone. You are making your own decisions and are not at the mercy of others. That's the greatest freedom in life, we spend so much of our lives following the whims of others (directly and indirectly). You should appreciate it every day you wake up.

Like a tourist from a First World Country that visits a shithole to feel better about his/her life, maybe be a tourist to support groups for people with troubled relationships or people that are stuck in toxic relationships they can't get out of. Then maybe you will come to value the incredible amount of freedom you enjoy and take for granted.

My advice on lessening the pain of loneliness (which I believe is just the male psychological version of 'baby fever') is to stop watching porn, stop looking at Facebook and start getting more massages and doing group activities with random strangers. There are tons of them out there if you just look.

all of this is so true. My brother is in a toxic virtually non-relationship. And when I ask him why he's still there he always replies "You don't know how hard it is to be alone." I keep telling him it's better than where he is, but it just doesn't register for him.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 27, 2016, 04:38:40 PM

Chasing after the imitation of a relationship while depressed or lonely is a recipe for complete disaster.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on July 27, 2016, 10:44:14 PM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on July 27, 2016, 01:31:21 PM

My advice on lessening the pain of loneliness (which I believe is just the male psychological version of 'baby fever') is to stop watching porn, stop looking at Facebook and start getting more massages and doing group activities with random strangers. There are tons of them out there if you just look.

Yeah, but if you do that you're practically guaranteed to get a in a relationship :P

Seriously, putting yourself constantly in social situations is the most sure-fire way to end up in relationship because no matter how weird, awkward or depressed you are, the reality is you're not actually that bad and if you're around enough people, percentages make it so that some people are gonna like who you are and want to be with you.

If that's what you want, then just get out there and do it.
JUST DON'T BE CREEPY.
:bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on July 28, 2016, 07:52:58 AM

My wife was back to her old self yesterday. :) In fact...she seemed to be doing so well that she told me to go ahead and buy the Surface Pro 4 I'd been eyeing. So now I just spent a nice chunk of cash, too.

:dead

Still less than that scam shit though. :doge (Plus I got shit to sell off to make up for the difference.)

I talked to my parents about what happened and my mother still thinks it would be a bad idea to have kids because of the financial situation. She thinks it will cost like $1000 a month for daycare alone. That seems insanely high...and appears to be the case from a quick Google search. I'd love to have my wife stay home, but that wouldn't work. The two of us working makes us pretty financially-stable and comfortable as a couple, but I think a baby would throw a monkey wrench into that situation. :-\ I dunno.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on July 28, 2016, 09:10:23 AM

Wouldnt it be a concern that she is "suddenly back to her old self again"? Just asian hormones at work or something more sinister?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 28, 2016, 09:23:25 AM

Kids cost a lot of money yeah. Do you parents life close by? Maybe grandma can babysit.

Did I mention kids cost a lot of money? Probably if you have kids you won't have money for something else, that's how it is for most people unfortunately.

It seems like your finances are pretty ok when you can just buy a Surface Pro 4 after your wife spent a grand on a online course. That's all disposable income that could go to lil Bork. I'm sure you would make if you want to :gun

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 28, 2016, 09:41:58 AM

All I can say about this subject is that I hope my parents don't badger me when I'm 30 to get married and have kids. :doge

I also hope that I have an app business or a slew of information products that makes me money in my sleep by then. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on July 28, 2016, 10:36:38 AM

Quote from: demi on July 28, 2016, 09:10:23 AM

Wouldnt it be a concern that she is "suddenly back to her old self again"? Just asian hormones at work or something more sinister?

I think this is a case of her feeling satisfied after blowing that money. It's ultimately going to be a short term 'fix' since something else at work will get her feeling down again. She also said that she was very unhappy about not having been able to go somewhere during her week off. So I'm looking into some options for labor day weekend now.

My mother thinks she is flat-out jealous of my new job and money being spent on clothes. I don't think its the job but I do think it is because of the clothes. Her sister acts the same way. It's pretty childish. I didn't buy those clothes because I wanted to go shopping...I bought them because I needed them to be able to work where I am now. My previous job let us wear whatever, so I had no business/casual things to wear.

Quote from: Premium Lager on July 28, 2016, 09:23:25 AM

Kids cost a lot of money yeah. Do you parents life close by? Maybe grandma can babysit.

They do, yeah- my parents come over M-F to pick up the dog and take care of her while we're at work, in fact. But taking care of a dog is a hell of a lot easier and there's no stress with her. My mother isn't interesting in babysitting an infant.

Quote from: Premium Lager on July 28, 2016, 09:23:25 AM

Did I mention kids cost a lot of money? Probably if you have kids you won't have money for something else, that's how it is for most people unfortunately.

It seems like your finances are pretty ok when you can just buy a Surface Pro 4 after your wife spent a grand on a online course. That's all disposable income that could go to lil Bork. I'm sure you would make if you want to :gun

We don't have any debt apart from standard stuff like the mortgage, utilities, and a car payment, plus we have a decent-ish savings, so stuff can be bought...but $900 on a scam 'course' is not smart. The Surface I'm only getting because I'm selling shit off to cover it. I already sold my previous tablet to put towards it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 28, 2016, 11:33:19 AM

how long ago did you move to the states with her? has she ever lived abroad?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on July 28, 2016, 12:21:03 PM

This is her first time living abroad. We came here at the end of 2008. She adjusted pretty well here and doesn't have a problem being in another country. I've seen what Japanese women who hate it outside of Japan act like and she's nothing like that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 28, 2016, 01:21:11 PM

oh ok I thought you guys just moved, dont have any advice in that case :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on July 28, 2016, 01:46:54 PM

If there was any hesitation about living here, I'd still be in Japan. She likes going places and trying new things (especially food), so she adjusted pretty well. The main problem is the language barrier, but things are getting easier with time. She could barely speak English when she came here and now she can have conversations. It's more of a self-image thing/lack of confidence that can cause some problems. She had a great job lined up at the consulate, was on her third interview, and then freaked out in front of the interviewer when they wanted her to do some basic translations to English.
:dead

One my buddies came back to Atlanta before I did and his wife clearly did not want to move here. She ended up leaving him here after a few years and he wanted to stick with the marriage, so he dropped a promising career here and moved back to the sticks there to work a shitty low-paying English teaching job. But they have a kid now and seem to be happy enough...I think. Every time he does anything I see him and junior, but never the wife in pictures or descriptions of events. That's what happens when you marry an otaku/NEET, I guess. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 28, 2016, 11:36:46 PM

Guys...

Dating single moms. Yay or Nay? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 29, 2016, 12:05:49 AM

Quote from: Pallando on July 28, 2016, 11:36:46 PM

Guys...

Dating single moms. Yay or Nay? :doge

Might as well get your dick wet but
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B0C8sL89YYo
:ufup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on July 29, 2016, 12:35:19 AM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on July 27, 2016, 12:14:55 PM

exactly. I had a friend that waited until he was 40 to be "ready" I was like "LOL dude, you're not ready you're never ready." He got all indignant that I didn't know what I was talking about. When the baby was 3 months old he called me up and was like "I wasn't ready!" :brazilcry

You're never ready. It's like trying to describe a color. Unless you've seen it, you wont know what people are talking about.

Yeah.

I had a friend at work get his wife pregnant, and he said "Now I'm a Dad, too!"

I said, "Hey, congratulations, I can't wait to see how you enjoy having a kid! You're going to be a great dad!"

He said, "I'm already a dad!"

"Did you have a kid? Have you changed a diaper? Have you been awake at 4AM when you have to get up again at 6AM? You're not a dad, but you'll be fine."

Dude was SO PISSED at me. Really pissed.

A month after his kid was born, he came back and said, "You were right. It's not the same."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Human Snorenado on July 29, 2016, 12:41:19 AM

Quote from: Pallando on July 28, 2016, 11:36:46 PM

Guys...

Dating single moms. Yay or Nay? :doge

I've done it. It should be readily apparent if she's looking for someone to have fun with or a serious partner and potential dude to step in and be part of the kid's life.

Your call on which one you're interested in. One great thing about dating single mothers is that they generally don't have time for bullshit, so they're pretty up front about what they're looking for. If she IS looking for a sugar daddy situation, just be upfront about how much you make and she'll figure it out pretty quick. :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on July 29, 2016, 09:36:38 AM

Went to a restaurant by myself last night, down port, that was more (much more) like a bar filled with barely-21 people. Quite a few cute girls though waaaay too young. While eating a chubby Asian girl glanced in my direction and smiled... I'll chalk that up as a minor win for now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 29, 2016, 09:45:04 AM

Also don't lead single moms on. It's hard enough for them, no need to swoop in promising shit and then disappear. And as others have said many tend to be very blunt. Maybe she's just looking for dick, maybe she's looking for help, maybe something short term. Sometimes they just want to feel appreciated again.

Also you should be up front too. You don't have much (any?) relationship experience, which could actually be a good thing here depending on the chick. Just be up front and serious and know she's probably been lied to many times so any hint of bullshit or indecision on your part will be met with anger.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on July 29, 2016, 01:30:36 PM

Is she still lactating? If so, definitely go for it. Say what you need to in order to drink the milk.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 29, 2016, 01:33:54 PM

fucking scust mups

fucking scust

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 29, 2016, 01:46:55 PM

Most of their kids seem to fall in the 3 to 7 range so... I kinda hope not. That would be some Lysa Arryn shit. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 29, 2016, 01:53:28 PM

Met my wife when she was a single mom with a 4 year old :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 29, 2016, 02:08:53 PM

Oh wow, didn't know that. :ohhh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 29, 2016, 02:17:08 PM

She had a kid with a four year old?! :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on July 29, 2016, 02:18:31 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on July 29, 2016, 02:17:08 PM

She had a kid with a four year old?! :doge

Not in anime years :jared

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 29, 2016, 06:59:25 PM

Luxury milk :drool

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtiyNv7zCbQ

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on July 30, 2016, 08:20:28 PM

catching up on this thread... wow. some heavy stuff in here. hang in there brehs.

Quote from: Human Snorenado on July 27, 2016, 02:56:16 AM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on July 27, 2016, 02:06:04 AM
There's a fine line when it comes to kids. You should never just have them willy-nilly

nudemacusers most assuredly NEVER said that

:brazilcry

:larry fair tho

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on July 30, 2016, 09:45:35 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on July 30, 2016, 07:56:47 PM

First tinder girl: Revealed she was an escort in Bahrain trying to get Johns.

Pass.

Dipped my toes into Tinder for the first time a few nights ago and saw a married woman that my wife and I are good friends with.

*immediately deletes account and app**

Living in a small city sucks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on July 30, 2016, 11:51:04 PM

I mean Tinder sucks even in a big city unless your good looking and white.

I'm not and vaguely ethnic so Tinder was a waste the three times I tried it. Online dating in general is crappy. The women are picky and demanding (not that I'm saying they shouldn't) more then the men.

At this point I'm just hoping for the best. Having a positive outlook, doing things when the chance pops up, and hoping something comes my way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 31, 2016, 12:47:51 AM

Something that I've noticed about a lot guy's tinder profiles is that most say (and show) basically the same thing over and over again. And they take themselves too seriously.

"I work at such n such place. I do such n such recreational activities. I'm totally not here to hookup *nervous laugh*."

I feel like being humorous would work more to ones favor but I'm by no means a comedy genius.

But once I get a green screen for my home office I think I'll do some weird shit with my profile pics to really stand out from every Chad Thundercock and mopey Beta Males. :doge

Also, I've been toying around with a bio that makes it seem like it was written by some guy in India who I hired on Upwork. Or it'll be a bunch of absurdist text. :doge

And yes, I have been drinking tonight, officer. What of it? :doge

Edit:

Also, this guy has the right idea but it's been copied by a bunch of people already so it's useless now:
(https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/564x/23/6e/b2/236eb20c34278a595a6285a10cd9ced5.jpg)

Be interesting. Don't be boring. That's really the only take away from this tl;dr post of mine.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on July 31, 2016, 05:20:48 AM

Well who am I to say anything. I just told someone I was slightly interested in to basically go fuck herself for leading me on.

Yes I'm drunk.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on July 31, 2016, 06:39:56 AM

you'll be alright

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on July 31, 2016, 12:07:50 PM

Who even pays attention to the pages? Just mash the like button and go from there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on July 31, 2016, 12:38:59 PM

Quote from: Dufus on July 31, 2016, 03:24:55 AM

Quote from: Pallando on July 28, 2016, 11:36:46 PM
Guys...

Dating single moms. Yay or Nay? :doge

I've been giving this some thought, because I don't want to have kids and I like older women. That means I'm screwed... unless I'm okay with a single mom. :ohhh

There's a lot of young single moms in my area. Like 21 years old. :doge

Live in a red state, brehs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on July 31, 2016, 12:48:09 PM

Quote from: Pallando on July 31, 2016, 12:38:59 PM

Quote from: Dufus on July 31, 2016, 03:24:55 AM
Quote from: Pallando on July 28, 2016, 11:36:46 PM
Guys...

Dating single moms. Yay or Nay? :doge

I've been giving this some thought, because I don't want to have kids and I like older women. That means I'm screwed... unless I'm okay with a single mom. :ohhh
There's a lot of young single moms in my area. Like 21 years old. :doge

Live in a red state, brehs.

This is what happens when people shit on Planned Parenthood and teach teenagers that abstinence is the only form of acceptable birth control.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on July 31, 2016, 05:15:21 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on July 31, 2016, 12:26:12 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on July 31, 2016, 12:07:50 PM
Who even pays attention to the pages? Just mash the like button and go from there.

I pay attention because I'm not looking to fuck just anybody. And i'm not mashing the like button to get girls I wouldn't be interested in and do nothing with in the first place.

Well lets be honest, I'm not fucking anyone, but I'd like to just see whoever's swiped right on me. Tinder just isn't a serious thing for me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on August 01, 2016, 05:16:53 AM

Yeah I know what you mean.

Anyway, in my on going saga I continue to not understand anything.

My firend from work and I have been overly flirty for over a year. To the point where people do ask me if it is a thing or already think that it is. My "bros" also think theres something. I just think there's good chemistry and she's being friendly, but the over anylyzer in me argue if it means anything. I mean she use to joke around that I should ask her out under the guise of helping out a awkward dude like me. I thought she was just joking probably because of my general low self esteem at that point. Anyway I got tired of this "leading on" and she also started dating someone else. Though while she did date the flirtyness did'nt stop and she would throw some shade about her current BF to me.

The thing is lets be honest, I'm borderline autistic and I can discern if she really was beng friendly or actually flirty. I just got over the "a girl smiled at me she's interested" phase. So I wouldnt do anything because I'm chicken shit and can't read.

It's why women are maddening, but also I have no problem being friends with her(if you can even be friends with women)

Anyway she broke up with the other dude and it's been kind of awkward, but really because people like my boss so I should go for it. Yet, I'm sure theres nothing there and unfortunately I've gotten kind of jealous. When I wasn't available she invited another dude(who honestly is better looking) to go out to the bars and well there snapchats said they had a good time. Then I guess there was some skinny dipping. She was all over my work place when I made jokes about the snapchat, so I don't know what that was about.

So basically I don't think there's anything there, but now I feel for whatever dumb reason there was and I've been a bit lead on and I have some strange unfounded feelings and it annoys me.

I don't know, I'm just annoyed by women and would like a simple thing to happen.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: VomKriege on August 01, 2016, 05:24:30 AM

I'm not sure I follow ? Did you ask her plainly if there was something there ? Maybe you should do that over a coffee out of the workplace ?
Without subscribing to the idea that any relationship at a job is an automatic curse, I'd say that if you don't feel like disambiguating the situation (for possible awkwardness or such in a professional setting), you should just look elsewhere and keep the flirt as is, a playful and nice game with someone you like to hang with.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on August 01, 2016, 05:43:19 AM

Quote from: VomKriege on August 01, 2016, 05:24:30 AM

I'm not sure I follow ? Did you ask her plainly if there was something there ? Maybe you should do that over a coffee out of the workplace ?
Without subscribing to the idea that any relationship at a job is an automatic curse, I'd say that if you don't feel like disambiguating the situation (for possible awkwardness or such in a professional setting), you should just look elsewhere and keep the flirt as is, a playful and nice game with someone you like to hang with.

I'm not surprised its hard to follow. We just had a night of weed and beer at my house, so I'm a little buzzed and I made a joke that may have offended her which led to some bro talk which brought me here to talk to my internet extended family!

What I did a few days ago was go out because guys I'm trying to put myself out there and have been going out more and more. The problem is my friend group is lame and is bad a planning. So I took one friend and just decided to go. I made a snapchat about it and this female friend decided to send one saying I suck because I didn't invite her. Well me being drunk I said plainly that I did'nt because I doubt she would want to hand with just me and she always needs an extra female friend. She said that was'nt excatly true, but whatever I went further in. I said her flirtyness annoyed and confused me, to which she just played dumb. I then said it was a bad look about hanging out with that other guy. She said we should just talk when I''m not drunk. We did'nt, she just asked if I was ok and I said sure. Sweept under the rug, because my friends and I were hanging out tonight. And again we sliighty flirted(a dude friend described the car ride interactions as a married couple) complete with some jokes about my drunk text. Anyway, whatever. People were high and joking, she made a joke about me using a viberator and I made a joke about how she did'nt need one because she had that other guy. I guess that offended her slightly, so she left. I get it jealously is'nt a a good look and while I doubt I'd be a clingy or controlleing person, I don't have much experience with this stuff and I don't know how to control these things. Besides, we were all joking and I just thought I was being joky too.

Dude I just don't get these things and I'm sure you all know that by my post history. I just don't get what women want, but I also think I'm part of the problem. I sell my self short far too much.

To answer your questions.

She actually doesn't work where I do anymore o thats not a big problem anymore. I don't feel like disambiguating the situation(which yeah this is the real problem) because I would'nt mind just keeping her as a friend and I doubt any of us are mature enough for it to be not awkward once someone puts it out there. So I feel once its out there I'd probably be unable to not be awkward about it if it did'nt go anywhere. I'm not like 100% into this girl. I simply think shes cool and attractive. I'd try it out, but you know I don't handle rejection well enough. Also she has a lot of baggage including a kid, but actually reading the thread recently made me think thats not a problem. The problem would really just be my general lack of maturity. It use to be that I think my mother wouldnt approve, but at this point she'd approve of me dating any girl lol.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 01, 2016, 05:53:17 AM

I've analyzed your situation.

You think too much but do too little.

You probably heard this before I'm sure.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on August 01, 2016, 06:06:12 AM

Yeah I know that is my problem, I just don't know how to make that logical jump and not do that.

Well right now I just wanted to rant thanks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Alcoholic Fish on August 01, 2016, 03:59:53 PM

Gotta have the girlfriend's engagement ring custom made because she allergic to a bunch of metals.

Platinum bands :stahp

Labor on top of the ring price :stahp

My bank account :stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 01, 2016, 04:27:56 PM

Get married brehs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on August 01, 2016, 05:13:49 PM

I've started looking at rings

:stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on August 01, 2016, 05:18:07 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on August 01, 2016, 05:13:49 PM

I've started looking at rings

:stahp

:jawalrus
:mynicca

spoiler (click to show/hide)

:sabu

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 01, 2016, 05:27:32 PM

The poor, highly misguided woman that would want to get hitched to me will have to settle for something like this (https://www.amazon.com/Rhodium-Plated-Sterling-Silver-Zirconia/dp/B019DXU8V0/ref=pd_srecs_cs_197_30?ie=UTF8&dpID=410vzJPMgvL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL250_SR170%2C250_&psc=1&refRID=58S1WYWT4PWPD6SEE492).

But I think it's safe to say I'm not getting married anytime soon. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on August 01, 2016, 05:48:47 PM

nah you'd do right by this mythical figure

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: VomKriege on August 01, 2016, 06:12:01 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on August 01, 2016, 05:43:19 AM

She actually doesn't work where I do anymore o thats not a big problem anymore. I don't feel like disambiguating the situation(which yeah this is the real problem) because I would'nt mind just keeping her as a friend and I doubt any of us are mature enough for it to be not awkward once someone puts it out there.

I'm not an authority, mind. You said your friends caught the flirtation, so you know it's not just projecting and it sounds it would be legitimate for you to ask straight if you want so (not while being shitfaced, obviously). If you wish to not instigate further because you think you wouldn't handle it properly, that's perfectly fair, just own the decision : She's a friend you can have some banter with & you'd rather have it like that so don't angst about what she may or may not be thinking, go look elsewhere for sex und romance.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 01, 2016, 06:18:25 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 01, 2016, 04:27:56 PM

Get married brehs.

(http://i.imgur.com/VyKpJ6i.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: eleuin on August 01, 2016, 06:25:24 PM

Quote from: Pallando on July 31, 2016, 12:47:51 AM

But once I get a green screen for my home office I think I'll do some weird shit with my profile pics to really stand out from every Chad Thundercock and mopey Beta Males. :doge

green screen done right :doge (https://imgur.com/gallery/m8jxF)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on August 01, 2016, 06:42:11 PM

Well it seems like the whole thing was a joke to her and that just makes me feel stupid and strange so today I basicly just cut her out of my life. I'm back to having negative views towards women. Hopefully one day I can stop being so toxic about them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 01, 2016, 07:26:59 PM

How did you find out it was a joke?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on August 01, 2016, 07:51:12 PM

She told me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 01, 2016, 08:11:04 PM

Are you sure she meant it to be cruel? I have a few friends that I'll jokingly flirt with. She may not have meant it to be malicious, unless she made that clear.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 01, 2016, 08:21:31 PM

Rahxephon, I very highly doubt that it was meant to be malicious. As grown adults, childhood cruelty like that doesn't really exist (for the most part :doge) If she didn't like you at all, she would avoid you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 01, 2016, 08:42:20 PM

Rahx here's what you do. Have sex with her, and when she's on the verge of climaxing pull out, get dressed, and walk out the door. Never talk to her again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on August 01, 2016, 09:08:05 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 01, 2016, 08:42:20 PM

Rahx here's what you do. Have sex with her, and when she's on the verge of climaxing pull out, get dressed, and walk out the door. Never talk to her again.

Also, please make sure it's consensual.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on August 01, 2016, 09:16:59 PM

I know it wasn't malicious, I'm just butthurt for whatever reason. I feel stupid.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 01, 2016, 09:24:18 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 01, 2016, 08:42:20 PM

Rahx here's what you do. Have sex with her, and when she's on the verge of climaxing pull out, get dressed, and walk out the door. Never talk to her again.

Don't forget to leave her in the corner shaking.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on August 01, 2016, 09:28:27 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on August 01, 2016, 09:16:59 PM

I know it wasn't malicious, I'm just butthurt for whatever reason. I feel stupid.

whatever you're feeling now, see it, hell laugh at yourself but then don't go back to it. You're here right now, and that isn't happening to you right now. It happened. It's done and she's done.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on August 02, 2016, 09:30:22 AM

Even if a girl is dating someone else, (many) will still cast out lines to hook other guys in case that relationship fails. Many are insecure and afraid to be alone and will always have an 'exit plan' if shit goes south.

So, it's not really 'leading you on', just letting you know you're in the 'on deck' circle.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 02, 2016, 11:58:06 AM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on August 02, 2016, 09:30:22 AM

Even if a girl is dating someone else, (many) will still cast out lines to hook other guys in case that relationship fails. Many are insecure and afraid to be alone and will always have an 'exit plan' if shit goes south.

So, it's not really 'leading you on', just letting you know you're in the 'on deck' circle.

Agreed and don't be afraid to do that yourself.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on August 02, 2016, 12:02:25 PM

Been stringing along some girl I met outside a bar. Think she wants to date but I just want to bust all over those glorious titties. :aah Also signed up for tinder and thinking I might just good swipe every single at least moderately attractive girl just to see what happens. Current life goal is to achieve absolute detachment while still beating the pussy up to the max. I'm not a great person. 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on August 02, 2016, 12:52:14 PM

Quote from: king of the internet on August 02, 2016, 12:02:25 PM

Been stringing along some girl I met outside a bar. Think she wants to date but I just want to bust all over those glorious titties. :aah Also signed up for tinder and thinking I might just good swipe every single at least moderately attractive girl just to see what happens. Current life goal is to achieve absolute detachment while still beating the pussy up to the max. I'm not a great person. 8)

This is probably the best post in this thread

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on August 02, 2016, 03:56:21 PM

"Why more millenials are avoiding sex with Rahxephon91" - Washington Post (https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/social-issues/there-isnt-really-anything-magical-about-it-why-more-millennials-are-putting-off-sex/2016/08/02/e7b73d6e-37f4-11e6-8f7c-d4c723a2becb_story.html)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 04, 2016, 10:00:45 AM

So... I'm going to try chatting up a girl, I've met a couple times, at a party I'm going to this Saturday. :doge

She's definitely my type: artsy, smart, bisexual, dark hair, thin, single. :doge

How do I not royally fuck this up? :brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 04, 2016, 10:39:29 AM

Quote from: Pallando on August 04, 2016, 10:00:45 AM

So... I'm going to try chatting up a girl, I've met a couple times, at a party I'm going to this Saturday. :doge

She's definitely my type: artsy, smart, bisexual, dark hair, thin, single. :doge

How do I not royally fuck this up? :brazilcry

Don't interrogate her, weave in and out. You don't want to seem like you're only there to talk to her. Have fun. Just try to have a regular conversation with her and make an impression.

Remember you're not there to ask her on a date or kiss her. You're just there to chat her up and have fun. So there should be no fear of rejection or failure. Just talk.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 04, 2016, 10:44:28 AM

Sounds like a plan. 👍

Also, it helps that we're Facebook friends (since late last year) and I follow her art on Instagram. So I'm not a total stranger. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 04, 2016, 10:58:51 AM

Quote from: Pallando on August 04, 2016, 10:44:28 AM

Sounds like a plan. 👍

Also, it helps that we're Facebook friends (since late last year) and I follow her art on Instagram. So I'm not a total stranger. :doge

That gives you something specific to talk about instead of taking an L with "so how about that weather huh." Mention one of her paintings that you really like, and come up with some reason why ("there's like a cathartic feeling I get when I look at it, and the color reminds me of blah blah blah"). Ask if she sells her art and maybe ask what was it like selling her first piece. Also ask where she draws inspiration from - everyday events, personal experience, etc. Basically you want to ask her shit about her passion and get her talking.

But like I said you don't want to interrogate her. She's gonna be there to chill with multiple people, and you should do the same.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on August 04, 2016, 11:10:36 AM

don't think about it too much

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 04, 2016, 11:30:30 AM

Just checked her insta after not seeing it for a while... There's dick drawings all of a sudden.

:leon :larry

Who's dick is it tho? :what :tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on August 04, 2016, 11:40:21 AM

yea don't do this

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 04, 2016, 11:43:12 AM

Quote from: toku on August 04, 2016, 11:40:21 AM

yea don't do this

Don't look/draw conclusions about her art or don't chat her up? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on August 04, 2016, 11:44:40 AM

Dont lurk her instagram you fucking weirdo. Pretty sure this is another made up story. Go sit in a corner you fucking cuck. I'll fuck your girl for you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 04, 2016, 11:48:26 AM

lurking IGs
:lawd

:tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 04, 2016, 11:50:23 AM

PD, wanna verify this shit for me since Demi doesn't believe me? :hitler

Edit: second thought. Nah.
Shit will get too weird/out of hand.

Edit: third thought. Fuck it. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on August 04, 2016, 12:15:18 PM

Quote from: Pallando on August 04, 2016, 11:50:23 AM

PD, wanna verify this shit for me since Demi doesn't believe me? :hitler

Edit: second thought. Nah.
Shit will get too weird/out of hand.

:comeon

Like it isn't already?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: VomKriege on August 04, 2016, 12:20:41 PM

Yeah don't lurk that shit. You're going to chat her up, discover her as a person in her own words instead of profiling some 2 cent pseudo psychological portrait through social media hints.

Drawing anatomy pieces isn't exactly too far fetched for artists. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on August 04, 2016, 12:22:57 PM

Bruhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Step 1) stop planning and lurking
Step 2) engage her in normal human conversation without fixating on her like you've been stalking her
Step 3) leave her alone, creep :P

Also don't do PD's art plan, it makes it clear you've been stalking her pages

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 04, 2016, 12:36:10 PM

Is it stalking? You follow her on IG right, she sent you the info and told you she's an artist so
:yeshrug

BTW I can confirm that she is real and she has less than 200 followers so she's not a thot. You're good bro.
:whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on August 04, 2016, 01:50:16 PM

bisexual and has drawings of dicks everywhere? Yeah she does sound your type :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 04, 2016, 04:55:48 PM

Be somewhat upfront about the fact that you think she's attractive. Like mention that she looks cute (she's probably dressed nicely anyways) and don't be afraid of showing awkwardness.

If you just waltz in asking her how passionate she is about art that you saw her post online but still politely ignore the dick art, then she'll think you're a desperate MGTOW type trying moves on her.

Those dicks right there are traps. You must admit to what you have seen when the conversation vibe tells you that you aroused some curiosity. A girl doesn't post ding don't portraits online unless she's somewhat bored of regular men.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 04, 2016, 05:37:06 PM

"I saw that you drew a couple of white penises but have you ever considered drawing a majestic big black cock? Also, you have the most dazzling eyes."

:flabbypd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: D3RANG3D on August 04, 2016, 05:39:28 PM

:dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 04, 2016, 05:42:23 PM

Arvie: Sushi Girl
Flannel Boy: Flannel Girl
Pallando: Penis Girl :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 04, 2016, 06:23:14 PM

I was at some pointless luncheon today when I met the wife of one of the senior managers of the company. Holy fuck, she was a dead ringer for McKayla Maroney and she was very friendly and was very nice. The senior manager is 41 or 42 and after talking to her, she was 26. She already had one child, they're actively trying to have another, and want a total of 3-4 kids.

I think this is how I want to end up: being in my late 30s, shacking up with a hottie in her 20s, and having a few children. You have to think that even if the marriage crashes and burns, you got the opportunity to knock up a babe a few times :win Maybe a girl who looks and is built like Angie Varona, that would be sweet.

I should point out that he likely makes around $400k a year in a low COL area. So double that if you can imagine an equivalent coastal salary.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 04, 2016, 08:52:34 PM

Back in high school, I thought I needed to know everything about a girl before I tried to hit on her. I thought maybe if I knew everything about her, I would find what we had in common and we would hit it off from there! Except it never turned out that way. I'd go to the party and either the vibe was not happening, I got distracted by something else, or when I wanted to talk to her, she had just left with her friends. All of my grand plans totally failed because what I imagined things to be didn't happen at all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 04, 2016, 08:59:28 PM

I'll just do my usual "have a few drinks and go with the flow" strategy.

edit:
Also, I already posted this in the outside link thread but this how I'm going to approach Tinder from now on:
https://youtu.be/8uwYo_M_I5Q

Not giving one single fuck. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on August 05, 2016, 12:30:21 PM

Quote from: Pallando on August 04, 2016, 05:37:06 PM

"I saw that you drew a couple of white penises but have you ever considered drawing a majestic big black cock? Also, you have the most dazzling eyes."

:flabbypd

Lead with this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 05, 2016, 04:43:22 PM

I've been half-assing online dating for the last few weeks. Put some profiles up, but not taking the time and effort to message people and keep conversations going. Work's been crazy busy for the last month and when my entire day is spent non-stop having dozens of email conversations & phone calls back and forth, the last thing I want to do in my free time is have a bunch more conversations. I figure either I'll put the effort in and meet some people online, or I'll just go to more social stuff and I'm sure I'll meet some people. Right now feeling more the latter, but maybe put more effort into the former the longer I'm single. Been about 3 months now I think?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on August 05, 2016, 08:40:13 PM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on August 04, 2016, 08:52:34 PM

Back in high school, I thought I needed to know everything about a girl before I tried to hit on her. I thought maybe if I knew everything about her, I would find what we had in common and we would hit it off from there! Except it never turned out that way. I'd go to the party and either the vibe was not happening, I got distracted by something else, or when I wanted to talk to her, she had just left with her friends. All of my grand plans totally failed because what I imagined things to be didn't happen at all.

If I've learned anything from this thread is that expectations are bad. Have none.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 05, 2016, 09:25:46 PM

Or just make sure not to overthink/over plan things because the best-laid plans of mice and men often go awry.

All the business books I've been reading even talk about how trying to lay out a detailed business plan when trying to start your first business is essentially futile because so much unforeseen shit can happen.

#HopeForTheBest
#PrepareForTheWorst
#ChaosReigns :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on August 05, 2016, 09:34:15 PM

you'll be alright

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: El Babua on August 06, 2016, 12:39:46 AM

Talk about memes with her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 06, 2016, 10:28:35 AM

(https://pics.onsizzle.com/Facebook-56adbc.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on August 06, 2016, 01:53:31 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/6IUJE37.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 06, 2016, 10:40:24 PM

She wasn't there. :snoop

Granted, she does live in North Carolina.

Anyways, I ended up talking with one of my design/college buddies about possibly setting up a group for all of us designers who are trying to make it in this dog eat dog world. We would possibly meet once a month or every two months and trade tips & advice about business and what not. Maybe once I sober up I'll start messaging some of my design friends about it.

I think this shit could really create a lot of value for people in my immeditate group of designer friends. :ryker

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on August 06, 2016, 11:03:59 PM

career building oppurtunities over pussy gang gang bang bang bang

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 06, 2016, 11:16:55 PM

maybe Pallando is already in a relationship: with his job. goes to meet a hot chick at a party...ends up meeting his job. thinks about doing cool stuff with escorts...ends up staying home with his job. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 06, 2016, 11:21:00 PM

It's the only thing that I'm good at. :noah :brazilcry :picard :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 06, 2016, 11:23:09 PM

This is basically the plot of Mr Robot.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on August 06, 2016, 11:24:32 PM

Need to watch Mr Robot. Someone told me I remind him of the main character. :jawalrus

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on August 06, 2016, 11:27:14 PM

The best way to get IG girls is to be rich and Arab, Pal. Have you tried that?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on August 06, 2016, 11:37:09 PM

Quote from: king of the internet on August 06, 2016, 11:24:32 PM

Need to watch Mr Robot. Someone told me I remind him of the main character. :jawalrus

I hope someone is there for you as your face your mentall illnesses

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 06, 2016, 11:40:32 PM

hold her close and never let her go

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on August 06, 2016, 11:40:40 PM

Quote from: toku on August 06, 2016, 11:37:09 PM

Quote from: king of the internet on August 06, 2016, 11:24:32 PM
Need to watch Mr Robot. Someone told me I remind him of the main character. :jawalrus

I hope someone is there for you as your face your mentall illnesses

Maybe he's just saying that I'm good at computers. 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: naff on August 08, 2016, 06:04:18 AM

Quote from: Pallando on August 04, 2016, 08:59:28 PM

I'll just do my usual "have a few drinks and go with the flow" strategy.

edit:
Also, I already posted this in the outside link thread but this how I'm going to approach Tinder from now on:
https://youtu.be/8uwYo_M_I5Q

Not giving one single fuck. :doge

My impression of tinder in the US now :o :leon :whew

I live in a city full of anxious white liberals, it's p hot, i imagine it's kinda like Seattle. That short series they flipped through almost too good...

Also, Hannibal saying they're C- celebrities :gurl dudes face was all over the place in NYC and LA last time i was there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 08, 2016, 06:58:13 AM

That's most likely the Tinder population in LA.

Elsewhere the results are a lot different. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 08, 2016, 07:57:47 AM

Quote from: king of the internet on August 06, 2016, 01:53:31 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/6IUJE37.jpg)

Sounds like a fantasy of virgin gaffer, you know people that say this shit don't get laid

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on August 08, 2016, 11:42:29 AM

Quote from: Premium Lager on August 08, 2016, 07:57:47 AM

Quote from: king of the internet on August 06, 2016, 01:53:31 PM
(http://i.imgur.com/6IUJE37.jpg)

Sounds like a fantasy of virgin gaffer, you know people that say this shit don't get laid

Rust Chole got laid.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O93EtnBD3ng

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on August 08, 2016, 04:29:54 PM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on August 02, 2016, 09:30:22 AM

Even if a girl is dating someone else, (many) will still cast out lines to hook other guys in case that relationship fails. Many are insecure and afraid to be alone and will always have an 'exit plan' if shit goes south.

So, it's not really 'leading you on', just letting you know you're in the 'on deck' circle.

I mean thats fine and I had no problem "being an deck", but I guess my frustration comes from the fact that it was fruitless. I did'nt mean to catch feels, but I did and that annoys me. Now that I've caught feels and don't see that repriocated I feel stupid. Espically, because I don't think I made it up or projected. So many people have asked me about this and thought there was something there, even sometimes her own boyfriend. So I just feel stupid and I kind of don't want anything to do with this girl. Is that wrong? Like I don't think you can really go back to being friends when your cards are the table like that and I feel kind of angry about it. Of course this has gotten a lot of blowback from friends who think I'm just being a bitch. Which I guess I am a little bit, but I don't know I think it makes perfect since why I would kind of just want to drop this person. Or maybe I am being a huge douche.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on August 08, 2016, 04:43:22 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on August 08, 2016, 05:42:13 AM

Second Tinder girl:

Turns out she's a transsexual escort in Bahrain.

Pass.

What have you got against Bahrainians?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on August 08, 2016, 05:10:23 PM

A ba-ba-ba, ba-ba-bahrainians

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 08, 2016, 05:48:47 PM

Quote from: naff on August 08, 2016, 06:04:18 AM

Quote from: Pallando on August 04, 2016, 08:59:28 PM
I'll just do my usual "have a few drinks and go with the flow" strategy.

edit:
Also, I already posted this in the outside link thread but this how I'm going to approach Tinder from now on:
https://youtu.be/8uwYo_M_I5Q

Not giving one single fuck. :doge

My impression of tinder in the US now :o :leon :whew

I live in a city full of anxious white liberals, it's p hot, i imagine it's kinda like Seattle. That short series they flipped through almost too good...

Also, Hannibal saying they're C- celebrities :gurl dudes face was all over the place in NYC and LA last time i was there.

It's fake/staged. Hope this helps.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: naff on August 08, 2016, 09:19:27 PM

Not really, im on the fence. I've done/said weirder shit to people on tinder, why would you fake that?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: PlayDat on August 08, 2016, 10:54:34 PM

I don't think it's fake, but I'm sure it was heavily edited. Could have been a couple hours of swiping that got condensed into less than 10 minutes of video. We're not seeing all the women who didn't have entertaining reactions or those who didn't respond at all. The made a nice YouTube vid, but I wouldn't take much from it except maybe "don't take yourself so seriously".

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on August 09, 2016, 09:50:20 AM

All of those magazines have interns that could easily make accounts and play along.

Anything that has been 'produced' has been meddled with.

Still entertaining as hell though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Alcoholic Fish on August 09, 2016, 05:18:16 PM

She said yes :win

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 09, 2016, 05:29:12 PM

Quote from: Alcoholic Fish on August 09, 2016, 05:18:16 PM

She said yes :win

You have my condolences.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

grats :doge

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on August 10, 2016, 12:01:34 AM

Quote from: Alcoholic Fish on August 09, 2016, 05:18:16 PM

She said yes :win

Congrats!! :gladbron

spoiler (click to show/hide)

:ufup

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 10, 2016, 08:57:01 AM

Got two matches on Tinder (out of hundreds I swiped right on). :doge

Yet I feel zero motivation to message these two woman back since they're probably inundated with hundreds if not thousands of messages from an army's worth of Chad Thundercocks. :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on August 10, 2016, 09:55:25 AM

On the contrary, fat bald guys are fuego

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 10, 2016, 10:05:54 AM

I'm like... mike stoklasa fat right now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on August 10, 2016, 10:27:22 AM

Quote from: Dufus on August 10, 2016, 10:08:05 AM

have you seen how many average looking fatties have hot girlfriends :doge

it all doesn't matter as long as your game is strong

Poor Pallando :brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on August 10, 2016, 10:38:04 AM

Also Mike isn't super big for his height. He's above average but I wouldn't say he's obese or anything.

A better comparison might have been Vintage Jay. Dude was pretty pudgy back in the day.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on August 10, 2016, 12:56:21 PM

fuck these bitches man focus on your career, get a non gaming hobby, enrich your soul/spirit/life. Let the potency of your magic accrue.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 10, 2016, 05:51:23 PM

Quote from: toku on August 10, 2016, 12:56:21 PM

fuck these bitches man focus on your career, get a non gaming hobby, enrich your soul/spirit/life. Let the potency of your magic accrue.

(http://i.imgur.com/UDpX7nb.jpg?1)

:doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on August 10, 2016, 10:51:19 PM

Quote from: 213372bu on August 10, 2016, 06:07:53 PM

Everytime I see "Last Post by Pallando" in the relationship thread I think something would've finally worked out for him.

Nooooope

Prediction: this post will get 7+ likes by tomorrow night.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on August 10, 2016, 10:54:30 PM

Quote from: Tasty Meat on August 10, 2016, 10:51:19 PM

Quote from: 213372bu on August 10, 2016, 06:07:53 PM
Everytime I see "Last Post by Pallando" in the relationship thread I think something would've finally worked out for him.

Nooooope

Prediction: this post will get 7+ likes by tomorrow night.

Speaking on it will put it out in the universe thus making it happening. See Pollando, magic is real.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 14, 2016, 08:53:55 AM

I stopped seeing hookers. Next year I want to get porcelain veneers, a down payment on a house, and a motorcycle. I was needlessly throwing money away, especially when I'm doing fine having sex with girls for free :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on August 14, 2016, 09:19:14 AM

T supplements stopped working? :hans1

I hope you're going for a sane shade with the veneers. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 14, 2016, 10:00:18 AM

Quote from: Tasty Meat on August 10, 2016, 10:38:04 AM

Also Mike isn't super big for his height. He's above average but I wouldn't say he's obese or anything.

A better comparison might have been Vintage Jay. Dude was pretty pudgy back in the day.

nah they're both soft fatbodies. hit the gym brehs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 14, 2016, 10:36:00 AM

Swiped right on that bisexual, artist girl (aka Penis Girl) on Tinder. :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 18, 2016, 10:29:03 PM

Swiped right on a cutey with full blown alopecia but she didn't swipe right on my bald ass. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 20, 2016, 01:08:48 PM

I kind of see why most of my (few remaining) friends are either also workaholics or members of the leisure class. People outside those categories really fucking suck and maintaining their personal life when work becomes unexpectedly demanding.

On a related note, I have been quietly collecting a list of impossible-to-navigate-in-their-entirety dealbreakers (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dhp9Tsw7Oyk) to support Operation: Born-Again (Emotional) Wizard for its duration. My favorite so far is "Does not know what the Battle of Dunkirk was." (Big ups to the Batdork director for this one.)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on August 20, 2016, 02:17:18 PM

Since uploading a much better picture, I've done better on Tinder which has actually given me a little boost in confidence. I'm not ugly!

But I'm very bad at actually conversing. Even in person I really have to click with someone for me to talk and even care about the conversation. Obviously it's a bit harder through text and with people I don't know.

Anyone have any pointers and what you talk about and how you go about it?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on August 20, 2016, 02:24:06 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on August 20, 2016, 02:17:18 PM

Since uploading a much better picture, I've done better on Tinder which has actually given me a little boost in confidence. I'm not ugly!

We've all told you this... :gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on August 20, 2016, 03:34:20 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on August 20, 2016, 02:17:18 PM

Since uploading a much better picture, I've done better on Tinder which has actually given me a little boost in confidence. I'm not ugly!

But I'm very bad at actually conversing. Even in person I really have to click with someone for me to talk and even care about the conversation. Obviously it's a bit harder through text and with people I don't know.

Anyone have any pointers and what you talk about and how you go about it?

Ask a question every single message. If you ask three questions without the other reciprocating, move on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on August 20, 2016, 04:45:31 PM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on August 20, 2016, 03:34:20 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on August 20, 2016, 02:17:18 PM
Since uploading a much better picture, I've done better on Tinder which has actually given me a little boost in confidence. I'm not ugly!

But I'm very bad at actually conversing. Even in person I really have to click with someone for me to talk and even care about the conversation. Obviously it's a bit harder through text and with people I don't know.

Anyone have any pointers and what you talk about and how you go about it?

Ask a question every single message. If you ask three questions without the other reciprocating, move on.

That's not bad advice.
I believe I said this earlier, but treat each conversation as preparation for your next conversation with someone else. Learn something new, etc.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on August 20, 2016, 07:21:42 PM

Got to also make the move from chatting to meeting pretty quick. If's its longer than a week or so it's probably not going to happen.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on August 21, 2016, 12:45:10 PM

I think a week is too long. If you've both swiped right, then she's interested. Chat for an hour max (depending on frequency of messages*—if they are coming quick then 20 minutes) and then ask for her number. Another hour (same as before) and ask her out.

There might be some privilege I need to check here, but my basic logic is if she swiped right and gave you her number, she wants to be asked out. No sense putting it off. It's more fun to learn about her on a date than during texts.

*If the frequency is super slow, like a message every 4 hours, move on. The Brad Pitt rule applies here: if you looked like Brad Pitt, would she wait 4 hours? In my opinion, this is a good gauge of her interest in pretty much all things.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on August 21, 2016, 12:55:45 PM

I meant you needed to try to meet up within a week of matching, even if it's just something simple.

I don't necessarily go by frequency of messages as long as she still responds. Especially in the post college crowd. Things get busy. Sometimes I'll message people at work when it's slow then not be able to respond for another 6 or so hours.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on August 21, 2016, 01:11:16 PM

yeah, people have jobs and shit. 4 hours seems a bit short.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 21, 2016, 01:45:45 PM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on August 21, 2016, 12:45:10 PM

There might be some privilege I need to check here,

lol yes

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 21, 2016, 01:49:52 PM

male beauty isn't a privilege, it's a right

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 21, 2016, 01:54:43 PM

If she can squeeze you in the first week, great!

If she can't, she's actually got a life, which is even better.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on August 21, 2016, 02:20:18 PM

yeah, something to destroy #relationshipgoals

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on August 21, 2016, 03:34:33 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on August 21, 2016, 01:11:16 PM

yeah, people have jobs and shit. 4 hours seems a bit short.

Most people I talk to through these kind of sites follow the 1 message per day rule. There are some conversations I've had with people where it's like 1 message every 2-4 days, but it works both ways as I only message people back when I've got some free time.

Quote from: Kara on August 21, 2016, 01:54:43 PM

If she can squeeze you in the first week, great!

If she can't, she's actually got a life, which is even better.

I had a date the other day that came after maybe 3-4 days of messages. But then the second date is like two weeks later because we're both busy. We still talk, but there's no rush and we've got lives.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on August 21, 2016, 06:40:13 PM

I dunno, I get being casual and busy but the point of the app is to date, not have an e-buddy. Completely anecdotal, but one girl I went out with complained that guys were too talky and not enough ask outy. He who dares wins and all that.

There's a lot of guides about Tinder and whatnot written by women for men. Those are worth a glance, I think.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on August 21, 2016, 08:29:51 PM

Dating is like trying to get a job. Anonymous cold calls/online applications are almost worthless but if you end up getting an interview, you've pretty much got it. Unless you don't sound like you believe half the shit on your resume.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 21, 2016, 08:37:19 PM

There might be a generational divide here. Personally I never feel obligated to immediately respond to texts, and when I used tinder I wasn't responding to every message within 24 hours either. But I think Rhax is younger than us and thus more likely to deal with people in the "respond ASAP all day" crowd.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 21, 2016, 08:55:26 PM

Back a few years ago when I was dating, I'd wait a day or two between responses, and on the 3rd or 4th message of mine I'd ask her out. Seemed to work pretty well back then.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on August 21, 2016, 08:58:18 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on August 21, 2016, 08:37:19 PM

There might be a generational divide here. Personally I never feel obligated to immediately respond to texts, and when I used tinder I wasn't responding to every message within 24 hours either. But I think Rhax is younger than us and thus more likely to deal with people in the "respond ASAP all day" crowd.

Yeah I've noticed that. Back in my day if you responded too quick it would look bad on you. So it was always wait a while.
But I've noticed a lot of my younger friends responding/expecting a response quickly. And these aren't "pls respond" guys/gals

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 21, 2016, 09:06:51 PM

I make it very clear I'm not into that shit. I don't do the "hey sorry for late response" stuff either. I'll get to it when I can. Obviously if it's a good friend and we're planning something sure I'll respond. Or if the ladyfriend asks something specific I'll respond semi reasonably. But outside of that nope.

Speaking of which my brother is staying with me as he waits on a job offer. We'll be watching Netflix and he'll be on his phone for long periods of time. I just don't get that shit. I leave my phone in my room when I'm watching a movie. If I'm watching tv the only time I'm really on my phone is when I'm watching sports, since I gotta tweet/check fantasy football/etc.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on August 22, 2016, 12:34:04 AM

Well if you already ignore your friends' and acquaintances' texts then it makes sense you would ignore potential dates' texts too. . .I guess?

App dating advice part C:

Always stand by your deal breakers

(http://i.imgur.com/UmViKP1l.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on August 22, 2016, 12:35:23 AM

Lol you know how I know you're swimming in puss?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 24, 2016, 03:46:48 PM

I'm glad Sam has healed enough from his divorce to troll this thread, though tbh it's a little thickly lain rn.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 24, 2016, 03:49:53 PM

sticking it to a chelsea "fan" though

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on August 24, 2016, 04:02:37 PM

Gooners are, almost to the very last soul, plastics, to say nothing of American Prem fans in general.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on August 24, 2016, 04:42:58 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on August 24, 2016, 03:49:53 PM

sticking it to a chelsea "fan" though

Dude passed up a chance to possibly fuck a chelsea fan up the ass. Who does that? :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 27, 2016, 04:46:14 PM

Another sign of me moving on: my VIP TER account expired and chose not to renew it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on August 31, 2016, 10:09:54 PM

A real (non-chat bot) girl who I think is super cute liked me back on Tinder. :o

I don't know what to do. This never happened before. :doge

Also, I'm kinda occupied with my cluster fuck of a job at the moment. :fbm

edit: She does go to the same college my brother is going to for his post graduate degree. Maybe I could use that as an in. 🤔

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on August 31, 2016, 10:39:22 PM

Don't think about it too much

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on August 31, 2016, 11:13:30 PM

Was browsing POF and saw a girl who seemed interesting - a teacher who likes dance music/raving and geek culture/anime/manga. Not really a combo you see every day! Black hair, glasses, thin hourglass figure... I still want to give myself a bit more time to get back into dating (besides I have a shit ton of work to do around my house first, and a few more big events that'll keep me occupied these next few weekends), but if anyone can get me to hurry back and make a dating profile...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on August 31, 2016, 11:14:57 PM

Quote from: Pallando on August 31, 2016, 10:09:54 PM

A real (non-chat bot) girl who I think is super cute liked me back on Tinder. :o

I don't know what to do. This never happened before. :doge

Also, I'm kinda occupied with my cluster fuck of a job at the moment. :fbm

edit: She does go to the same college my brother is going to for his post graduate degree. Maybe I could use that as an in. 🤔

Remove yourself from the outcome.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on August 31, 2016, 11:46:04 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on August 31, 2016, 11:14:57 PM

Quote from: Pallando on August 31, 2016, 10:09:54 PM
A real (non-chat bot) girl who I think is super cute liked me back on Tinder. :o

I don't know what to do. This never happened before. :doge

Also, I'm kinda occupied with my cluster fuck of a job at the moment. :fbm

edit: She does go to the same college my brother is going to for his post graduate degree. Maybe I could use that as an in. 🤔
Remove yourself from the outcome.

The only hope you have is to accept the fact that you're already dead.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on August 31, 2016, 11:50:36 PM

Then ask her if she is into corpses.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 01, 2016, 01:25:12 AM

Just have fun and enjoy the moment as far as chatting/entertaining her. Matching on Tinder is the same as a girl sitting next to you on the bus.

And it's kind of a dickish thing to say but the best way to get over the heebie-jeebies of elevating pussy is to flirt with every girl who's a little bit less attractive than yourself in real life. Only do this if you're single too.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on September 01, 2016, 08:22:05 PM

After a pretty long dry spell I finally got a catch on OKC. I've dated girls of almost all ethnicities you can name, except of the Asian persuasion..until now. She's not exactly waifu material, but she's still pretty attractive. And unlike the average Asian chick (from what I've encountered), this one is actually quite top heavy. And she has huge calves! :drool (big calves on women are one of my fetishes)

We're going to be meeting up for our fourth date tomorrow. Can't wait. :rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 01, 2016, 08:28:20 PM

Pics?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on September 01, 2016, 08:38:49 PM

Here ye go:

spoiler (click to show/hide)

http://imgur.com/a/pA62a

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 01, 2016, 08:42:13 PM

Aw shit yeah! I didn't expect that.

I can see them calves. Right on, man.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on September 01, 2016, 08:46:13 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on September 01, 2016, 08:42:13 PM

Aw shit yeah! I didn't expect that.

In a good or bad way?

Quote

I can see them calves. Right on, man.

Right??

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 01, 2016, 08:53:34 PM

In a good way!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 03, 2016, 01:09:59 AM

Got a # from a cute girl at the Anjunadeep tent today! A curvy girl with glasses and wavy blonde hair who loves Anjunabeats/deep! Only problem is she just moved to NYC for college, so I think she is really young (found out she just moved to NYC for college after I got the #...). If anything I told her I'll be a clubbing buddy since my friends are all too old for it now and it would be nice to go to these shows with someone else once in a while.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 03, 2016, 01:11:01 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on September 01, 2016, 08:38:49 PM

Here ye go:

spoiler (click to show/hide)
https://k3.okccdn.com/php/load_okc_image.php/images/0x110/1125x1236/0/2109914840770123607.webp?v=2
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Can't open it, it just asks me to save a MIME file...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on September 03, 2016, 04:35:08 PM

Quote from: tiesto on September 03, 2016, 01:11:01 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on September 01, 2016, 08:38:49 PM
Here ye go:

spoiler (click to show/hide)
https://k3.okccdn.com/php/load_okc_image.php/images/0x110/1125x1236/0/2109914840770123607.webp?v=2
[close]

Can't open it, it just asks me to save a MIME file...

Weird...not sure why it's doing that since it was fine up until yesterday.

Anyway, try it now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on September 04, 2016, 05:37:39 AM

Funny how you can get so hung up on an ex-girl but then when you encounter them again in person and it's like wow, they're actually kind of just annoying and I'm glad I don't have to listen to their shit anymore.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 04, 2016, 01:03:17 PM

Sent messages out to the 4 girls I've matched with on Tinder. :doge

Will update later on how that goes.

edit: the cutey that I really like messaged me back first. :shaq

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 04, 2016, 03:48:31 PM

It's a bot :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 04, 2016, 04:10:49 PM

No kik or cam site links yet. And she's been conversing with me like a normal person and agreed to go on a coffee date with me next time she is in my area so... :yeshrug :hitler :letsfukk :rash :marimo :ryker

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 04, 2016, 04:11:35 PM

Quote from: Huff on September 04, 2016, 03:48:31 PM

It's a bot :)

no we build with atra we don't destroy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: eleuin on September 04, 2016, 04:32:18 PM

The day atra posts in this thread and declares he is no longer a virgin

:whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 04, 2016, 06:13:40 PM

The back and forth is still going. :doge

What I need to know is how do I pause this interaction for now so I can focus on other stuff and should I be giving this chick my phone number as a means to put the ball back in her court? :doge

This is basically the first time I've really hit it off with someone in the realm of online dating hence the reason why I'm asking these silly questions. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 04, 2016, 06:25:00 PM

Give her your number. If she texts, respond a couple times and then go dark until tomorrow.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 04, 2016, 08:46:35 PM

She said she had a great time chatting with me and gave me her number as well. :rejoice

(http://bbook.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/milhouse.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: El Babua on September 04, 2016, 09:02:23 PM

$50 like last time? :smug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 04, 2016, 09:22:46 PM

There are black people in SA?

spoiler (click to show/hide)

:doge troll troll. grats tho breh.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on September 04, 2016, 11:55:55 PM

So my date on Friday went...okay. The only problem was that after we had dinner, we didn't have any place to be...intimate. Why? Because it turns out I'm not the only one that still has to deal with parents where they live.

However! She just texted me a while ago saying that they'll be gone for a few days and invited me over. :rock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 05, 2016, 12:09:19 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on September 04, 2016, 11:55:55 PM

So my date on Friday went...okay. The only problem was that after we had dinner, we didn't have any place to be...intimate. Why? Because it turns out I'm not the only one that still has to deal with parents where they live.

However! She just texted me a while ago saying that they'll be gone for a few days and invited me over. :rock

Why not get a hotel room? Do it on a weekend evening, spend the night, go to breakfast in the morning...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 05, 2016, 12:21:00 AM

needing to fuck like monkeys away from parents/kids/roommates is why they invented bed and breakfast joints. hit one up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on September 05, 2016, 12:29:23 AM

Yeah, we were gonna get a hotel or something ourselves, but she changed her mind at the last minute.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on September 05, 2016, 12:41:02 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 05, 2016, 12:09:19 AM

Quote from: Oblivion on September 04, 2016, 11:55:55 PM
So my date on Friday went...okay. The only problem was that after we had dinner, we didn't have any place to be...intimate. Why? Because it turns out I'm not the only one that still has to deal with parents where they live.

However! She just texted me a while ago saying that they'll be gone for a few days and invited me over. :rock
Why not get a hotel room? Do it on a weekend evening, spend the night, go to breakfast in the morning...

Use a car. Even if it's a small vehicle you can just lean back the passenger side seat. The only downside is that pulling out is more difficult in a constricted area. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on September 05, 2016, 12:53:44 AM

We tried that on our previous date and while she seemed to have fun, she was adamant in not doing it again. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 05, 2016, 05:36:55 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 04, 2016, 06:25:00 PM

Give her your number. If she texts, respond a couple times and then go dark until tomorrow.

Okay... so now what I'm wondering is should I wait for her to text me back first or... go ahead text her back so it doesn't seem like I've lost interest in her? :doge

edit: I mean... her last message to me on Tinder was:

Quote

I have too! Have a great night text me as well at [phone number].

So? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on September 05, 2016, 05:58:18 PM

Definitely over-think it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 05, 2016, 05:59:35 PM

OH! Speak of the devil.

She texted me back. :doge

spoiler (click to show/hide)

This better not be one of you guys trolling me. :noah

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 05, 2016, 06:11:08 PM

bless up don't worry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: El Babua on September 05, 2016, 06:17:42 PM

Just chill bro.

And hit up some more girls in the meantime.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 05, 2016, 06:23:16 PM

Yea man never stop. Keep talking to chicks, getting numbers, etc.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 05, 2016, 06:34:34 PM

WELL WELL!

Girl #2 just pinged me on Tinder while I was texting girl #1. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 05, 2016, 06:38:29 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 05, 2016, 06:34:34 PM

WELL WELL!

Girl #2 just pinged me on Tinder while I was texting girl #1. :doge

Don't think

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 05, 2016, 06:40:49 PM

'Kay :derp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 05, 2016, 07:33:36 PM

I BELIEVE IN YOU, WIZARD-KUN

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 05, 2016, 08:02:36 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 05, 2016, 06:34:34 PM

WELL WELL!

Girl #2 just pinged me on Tinder while I was texting girl #1. :doge

You're in this breh. Enjoy the moment and go with the flow. This is not just about potentially meeting a chick who likes you and vice versa, it's about building confidence and experience. Even if things don't work out you'll come out better than you went in.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 05, 2016, 09:11:38 PM

Girl #2 seems like she's in need of more friends (in other words, she's not actively trying to get the pipe. :doge ) since a lot of them ended up moving out of state.

Girl #1 probably wants the pipe but only after a bunch of Wes Anderson twee-ness. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 05, 2016, 09:14:32 PM

Bullshit. There are better places than Tinder to find friends if that's what she really wanted. Send her pics of your junk.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 05, 2016, 09:38:45 PM

Trying to set up a Wes Anderson movie marathon with girl #1 right now. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 05, 2016, 09:39:37 PM

go get that dick wet, son

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 05, 2016, 09:43:34 PM

Oh... Something I should mention...

This girl is 19. :doge

I'm going to guess that she's drank before but I wanna bring wine or some other alcoholic beverages to loosen the mood. If I were in the UK this wouldn't be an issue but in the US it is because the legal drinking age is 21. :doge

edit: she agreed to the Wes Anderson movie marathon. GONNA GET MY MANA DEPLETED, BREHZ.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 05, 2016, 09:49:51 PM

Oh shit, it's on. Remember to jerk off earlier that day so you can last longer.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: El Babua on September 05, 2016, 09:54:56 PM

:rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: eleuin on September 05, 2016, 10:07:16 PM

:mynicca

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 05, 2016, 11:16:30 PM

Lose your virginity

Go to jail for #rape

be careful with that alcohol son, it's 2016 :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 05, 2016, 11:23:26 PM

So you're the older guy buying a teen alcohol and having sex with her, sure some people might call it problematic, so don't tell some people 😈

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 05, 2016, 11:30:12 PM

:brazilcry

It also doesn't help that she goes to one of the more "progressive" colleges around here.

Shall I print off some consent forms? :doge

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Kidding... Maybe...

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Edit: tbh, the simple fact that I've gotten this far with a cute slender 19 year old blonde girl with a pixie haircut is an award in and of itself. It almost makes me think none of this is real. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on September 05, 2016, 11:42:05 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 05, 2016, 11:30:12 PM

It almost makes me think none of this is real. :doge

You're so close to the right mindset

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 05, 2016, 11:46:59 PM

I mean, I'm definitely trying not to be outcome oriented (keyword "trying").

edit: hell, if all we do is chill out and watch movies while cuddled up next to each other in her dorm I'd be fine with that. That's more action than most gaffers are going to see in their lives. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 06, 2016, 12:32:29 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 05, 2016, 11:46:59 PM

I mean, I'm definitely trying not to be outcome oriented (keyword "trying").

edit: hell, if all we do is chill out and watch movies while cuddled up next to each other in her dorm I'd be fine with that. That's more action than most gaffers are going to see in their lives. :doge

I believe I've said this here before, but you gotta just treat it like if it succeeds great, and if it doesn't it will give you stories/tools to make future efforts more successful. For example, I once went on a date with a chick and while were waiting for our food a friend of mine walked up to the table and started talking to me. He was a good friend so I was happy to see him. Did the intros and such and while he and were chatting just like one or two minutes after he walked up I saw my date breathing into her hand to check her breath. As is always the case my mouth engaged before my brain did and I said to her, "Now you have to decide, is it your hand or your breath that stinks?" Obviously, she was offended and got up and stormed off. My friend was like "Puppy, you should go after her!" I held up a hand and said, "Nah man, this story ends better this way."

So yeah, that was a bit of a disaster. But I've used that many times as a first date disaster story and it (along with other stories) have gotten more women than not interested in the next step. If I had just looked at it like "Oh shit! What a fuck up!" Whenever I was on a date and they wanted to swap funny date stories, I'd have nothing. But viewing every date as something to give you experience in future dates I was able to get a ton of mileage out of it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 06, 2016, 01:29:27 AM

I agree with what Puppy said. The cringey things are often not your fault and any woman with confidence will like that you're not peacocking some bullshit suave past.

Really just look at a relationship with a similar person as something that you deserve rather than a game where you have to earn a victory. Don't drink to loosen things up and don't tell her you're a virgin until she's ready to jump your bones. Seriously, a lot of women get mad horny once you tell them that they get to be your first.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 06, 2016, 01:36:24 AM

Probably won't tell her that I'm a virgin unless she asks... 🤐

That would be like trying to audition as a trumpet player for a band and flat out telling the judges that you suck at playing the trumpet.

edit: Also, I could see that strategy working with an older, more experienced woman but I don't know about someone as young as Miss Pixiecut...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on September 06, 2016, 03:36:20 AM

Finally admitted my feelings to her and kissed her literally the night before she left town to move to france :neogaf
Turns out she liked me back and now she's gone forever :sabu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: VomKriege on September 06, 2016, 03:54:27 AM

Quote from: king of the internet on September 06, 2016, 03:36:20 AM

Finally admitted my feelings to her and kissed her literally the night before she left town to move to france :neogaf
Turns out she liked me back and now she's gone forever :sabu

Well shit.
Can't fault her choice of destination tho.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on September 06, 2016, 05:27:35 AM

So we had sex.

All night.

I'd say it was a pretty good day.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 06, 2016, 06:24:19 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 06, 2016, 01:36:24 AM

Probably won't tell her that I'm a virgin unless she asks... 🤐

That would be like trying to audition as a trumpet player for a band and flat out telling the judges that you suck at playing the trumpet.

edit: Also, I could see that strategy working with an older, more experienced woman but I don't know about someone as young as Miss Pixiecut...

No offense but you don't know how to have bad sex yet. Regardless of how much experience you have, no girl thinks a guy is perfect the first time they do it which is part of the appeal of a dude with no experience I think. Blank slate and all that you can customize.

When I was 23, I told girls that were 19/23/24 my status while I was at varying levels of virginity and they all immediately wanted to "fix it". And of course they had very different levels of experience, education, and cultural background so it's not like this was a narrow cross-section. My only fear came from worrying that their interest was too superficial (it wasn't :'() but as long as you go into dating viewing it as a way to have an honest emotional connection rather than a New Years Resolution/social milestone then you'll be fine. What you said about cuddling makes me think you're on the right track.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: VomKriege on September 06, 2016, 06:44:56 AM

Quote

No offense but you don't know how to have bad sex yet. Regardless of how much experience you have, no girl thinks a guy is perfect the first time.

Besides it's not like you will have a ton of control on your "performance" anyway, it's well understood by most women. Don't try to mimic the shit you may have seen in porno : we're hard-wired to do it, it will come naturally. Just follow her instructions.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 06, 2016, 07:07:41 AM

Pallandoooooo my man :mynicca

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on September 06, 2016, 01:05:49 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on September 06, 2016, 03:49:02 AM

Sucks, man. That's what you get for not taking a shot the entire time she was there. :yeshrug

She was only here for the summer and I'm trying not to get attached to anyone at all. I probably took the smartest route. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 06, 2016, 05:47:18 PM

I kinda want to drop girl #2 because she has mentioned a couple of times that she's lonely and seems to heavily imply that she just wants a friend(s) to hang out with. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 06, 2016, 05:48:57 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 06, 2016, 05:47:18 PM

I kinda want to drop girl #2 because she has mentioned a couple of times that she's lonely and seems to heavily imply that she just wants a friend(s) to hang out with. :doge

Stay the course, just in case. You never know, and besides you're still getting something out of it (experience talking to a get, potentially going out to drink or eat with an attractive girl, etc).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 06, 2016, 06:02:54 PM

She just updated her bio and the last line says:

"Looking for friendship, so ladies don't get it twisted. If I swipe right, I just think you seem cool."

:yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 06, 2016, 06:08:13 PM

You're not a lady, you're a man wizard!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 06, 2016, 06:16:04 PM

Aren't we forgetting about FemAtra? :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on September 06, 2016, 06:19:29 PM

Trying to, yeah.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 06, 2016, 07:42:04 PM

Girl #2 vanished from my Tinder chat when I admitted to her that I was only on there for dating. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 06, 2016, 07:59:43 PM

how dare you use tinder for its intended use?!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 07, 2016, 10:55:31 PM

Got a date lined up with Ms. Pixiecut on Saturday and JUST as I was typing this post an alternative HOT pornstar looking chick just swiped right on me. :doge

Going to reverse image search her pics just to make sure she's legit and isn't flashing her gash on cam sites or something. :doge

edit: Reverse image search didn't turn up anything.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 07, 2016, 11:48:02 PM

bless up

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 08, 2016, 10:53:19 PM

Pixiecut and I have been texting back and forth about regular life stuff but nothing has esculated to the more erotic/sexual innuendo side of things. But she has been consistently texting me first and seems eager to meet me Saturday. So I'm not too worried. Yet. :doge

Also, I have no idea if she's super nervous or kinda "eh" about the whole thing. I tried to talk with her via a phone call yesterday to ask her some quick questions about Saturday but she said she couldn't because she was in the school library at the moment. I mean that's realistic but eh... who knows.

An oddly enough I don't feel anxious (despite my overthinking) but for some odd reason I keep on thinking I'm going to get catfished. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 08, 2016, 11:06:15 PM

Ppl in our generation and younger don't really call anymore, not unless it's an emergency. Don't think too much into that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 09, 2016, 12:48:17 AM

Id hold off on any sexting until you actually meet her

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 09, 2016, 12:51:59 AM

Quote from: Huff on September 09, 2016, 12:48:17 AM

Id hold off on any sexting until you actually meet her

*whew*

Thank goodness I've been keeping things pretty PG so far. :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 09, 2016, 01:11:47 AM

Remember don't eat her out right away. Suck her boobs, kiss her stomach, kiss down her legs slowly, etc.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 09, 2016, 01:17:46 AM

Another fear of mine, besides getting catfished, is that she's straight up asexual :stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: VomKriege on September 09, 2016, 02:38:38 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 09, 2016, 01:17:46 AM

Another fear of mine, besides getting catfished, is that she's straight up asexual :stahp

You're thinking way too hard about this. Stop second guessing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 09, 2016, 03:21:28 AM

Quote from: VomKriege on September 09, 2016, 02:38:38 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 09, 2016, 01:17:46 AM
Another fear of mine, besides getting catfished, is that she's straight up asexual :stahp

You're thinking way too hard about this. Stop second guessing.

Yeah don't think about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 09, 2016, 07:38:14 AM

if she turns out to be a dude, suck his dick and give us deets.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 09, 2016, 10:13:47 AM

Ahem, I think you mean WHEN she turns out to be a dude, suck his dick and give us deets. :snob

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 09, 2016, 05:15:13 PM

Does she have a hot, posh British accent? :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 09, 2016, 11:46:05 PM

Finding out that Pixiecut is definitely a drinking lass (through her own admission) as she texts me whilst meticulously drinking through a bottle of whiskey. 😎👌🌚

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 10, 2016, 09:52:26 AM

Make sure to watch the first episode of The Night Of before you meet her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 10, 2016, 10:45:03 AM

:lucas

Yeah, don't worry. I definitely won't be drinking anything alcoholic with her, in person, any time soon. It's just good to know she's not a teetotalist.

Also, we're meeting for coffee downtown at 1 pm. So, we'll be the opposite of drowsy after this date. :D

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 10, 2016, 02:58:20 PM

Eh... date happened, she's real, but things fizzled out at the end.

Better luck next time I guess. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 10, 2016, 03:02:11 PM

:stahp

what happened

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 10, 2016, 03:05:50 PM

I dunno. I guess there was too many long pauses and a few moments of awkwardness. :yeshrug

I mean, this was my first actual date tbh.

Also, I should I send her a text just saying "Thanks for hanging out. Have safe trip back." ?

edit: eh, sent her something along those lines. I wish her well in her future endeavours.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 10, 2016, 03:12:36 PM

I'm going to die alone. :stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 10, 2016, 03:15:56 PM

LOL. Don't worry about it. You accomplished a big step, which is going on a date, even if there won't be a second one with her. Also most first dates will have some awkward pauses in it because you really don't know the person.

Dating is a numbers game. Just keep plugging away.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 10, 2016, 03:24:00 PM

On Sunday or Monday, ask her if she wants to hang out again. It's common to think you were a disaster on a first date even when the other person became more interested. Just send one text, expect her to make you wait at least 12 hours for a response, and then proceed to victory-dance or cry for a prescribed amount of time. Do not send multiple texts.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on September 10, 2016, 03:24:21 PM

Every step forward is one more step towards your destination.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 10, 2016, 03:25:59 PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KxGRhd_iWuE

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 10, 2016, 03:47:49 PM

Quote from: brawndolicious on September 10, 2016, 03:24:00 PM

On Sunday or Monday, ask her if she wants to hang out again. It's common to think you were a disaster on a first date even when the other person became more interested. Just send one text, expect her to make you wait at least 12 hours for a response, and then proceed to victory-dance or cry for a prescribed amount of time. Do not send multiple texts.

Well, I did ask her while the date was nearing its end if she would be down to hang out again the weekend after the next one but she gave me the 'ol "Oh, I have a friend coming into town that weekend."

So... eh.

At least I'm going to be having fun with 3 of my local friends this evening to take my mind off of this. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on September 10, 2016, 04:15:10 PM

Quote from: Tasty Meat on September 10, 2016, 03:24:21 PM

Every step forward is one more step towards your destination.

Or a lonely death. :)

Dates suck anyways. Better just to draft cute girls from your social circle. No need for the interview process.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 10, 2016, 05:16:49 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 10, 2016, 03:05:50 PM

I dunno. I guess there was too many long pauses and a few moments of awkwardness. :yeshrug

I mean, this was my first actual date tbh.

Also, I should I send her a text just saying "Thanks for hanging out. Have safe trip back." ?

edit: eh, sent her something along those lines. I wish her well in her future endeavours.

Grand Wizard, do you feel you've mastered the art of communication yet? Maybe that's why it felt that way? At times it can be difficult to know if a date has potential or not simply because communication skills are lacking. It's one thing if you know you're rather good at communication then you can tell easier. If you're bad and she's bad you might have passed up an opportunity simply because you're both bad at it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 10, 2016, 05:28:48 PM

this will be u one day bro. never give up
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fL04P5uPEOQ

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 10, 2016, 07:29:15 PM

When I was out she texted me back and said she had fun. :idont

Probably just being nice, though. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: El Babua on September 10, 2016, 08:15:49 PM

Kaffir :jawalrus

And yeah Atra, she might wanna hang out again, but no biggie if she doesn't.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 10, 2016, 08:28:48 PM

"Glad to hear that you had fun and let me know if you want to hangout sometime later. Bye for now."

Is this fine? :idont

edit: Christ, I feel so socially distinguished mentally-challenged sometimes. 😞

Random aside: She seemed very mature for her age. :jared

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: eleuin on September 10, 2016, 08:52:22 PM

ditch the bye for now

on to the next one in the meantime

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 10, 2016, 09:02:56 PM

Sometime Monday I'll send it without "bye for now".

onto-the-next-one.gif

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 10, 2016, 09:48:45 PM

Yea ditch the bye for now. Just say have a good day/night whatever. Overall good idea though.

All you're doing is putting lines in the water. Think about it this way: you went on a date, it didn't go great...and you didn't die. All that anxiety over failure is going to start decreasing now that you realize the end result wasn't that bad. Yea you didn't do what you wanted but hey, more experience. Keep it up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 10, 2016, 10:14:08 PM

Will the bore's combined mack skills be enough to de-wizard Pallando? Stay tuned!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 10, 2016, 10:52:23 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on September 10, 2016, 10:14:08 PM

Will the bore's combined mack skills be enough to de-wizard Pallando? Stay tuned!

It's not a matter of if, but when. Bless up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 10, 2016, 11:16:09 PM

Also, it's nice knowing that I am somewhat attractive to girls who I used to consider out of my league. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on September 10, 2016, 11:43:38 PM

Delete her contact information and just wait it out imo. 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 10, 2016, 11:53:33 PM

Quote from: king of the internet on September 10, 2016, 11:43:38 PM

Delete her contact information and just wait it out imo. 8)

I admire your "dating nihilism" but I still care just a smidgen. :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 11, 2016, 12:14:25 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 10, 2016, 03:05:50 PM

I dunno. I guess there was too many long pauses and a few moments of awkwardness. :yeshrug

I mean, this was my first actual date tbh.

Also, I should I send her a text just saying "Thanks for hanging out. Have safe trip back." ?

edit: eh, sent her something along those lines. I wish her well in her future endeavours.

Since I started dating, I haven't really gotten over the sheer disappointment I feel after every single one of them. It's always like 'I got excited over this?'

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 11, 2016, 12:41:48 AM

And it's so fucking draining as well (for introverts like myself).

I felt like I needed a nap afterwards...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 11, 2016, 12:43:37 AM

Goddamn it they are lamps now! Transformed into something that can bring light into this world

spoiler (click to show/hide)

(http://nowiknow.com/quizzes/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/leg-lamp.jpg)

So pretty

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 11, 2016, 12:52:42 AM

It took a lot of courage to click that spoiler. I'm shaking.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on September 11, 2016, 12:57:00 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 10, 2016, 11:53:33 PM

Quote from: king of the internet on September 10, 2016, 11:43:38 PM
Delete her contact information and just wait it out imo. 8)
I admire your "dating nihilism" but I still care just a smidgen. :noah

The idea is to avoid fixation on this one. No need to overthink your follow up. If she wants to, she'll reach out, if not fuck it. In the meantime focus on planting seeds (so to speak 8) ) as far and wide as possible until you find one worthy of some initiative.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 11, 2016, 01:01:36 AM

Yes, spread your seed to the wind and let it land on women. I suggest using a balcony.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on September 11, 2016, 01:07:35 AM

This is why you can get any hoes :ufup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 11, 2016, 01:14:17 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 11, 2016, 12:41:48 AM

And it's so fucking draining as well (for introverts like myself).

I felt like I needed a nap afterwards...

fake it until you make it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on September 11, 2016, 12:42:31 PM

If she ever messages you again, hit her back with a “who’s this?” and it’s in the bag.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 11, 2016, 01:30:21 PM

Just start going on dates to bars with chubby chicks. It will at least take care of your virginity in no time

I didn't even feel the normal shame waking up with one this morning

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 11, 2016, 01:31:33 PM

@Dufus

"Are you sure you don't have autism?"

I wonder about this almost daily. :doge

I even brought this up to a friend yesterday and he said if you're wondering about it you most likely aren't on the spectrum. I don't know if that's true or not, though. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 11, 2016, 04:55:52 PM

ugh... keep on getting bots on tinder.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 12, 2016, 08:16:11 AM

On another note: I think I'll go ahead and refrain from texting her back today. She knows how to reach me.

I think she was expecting someone who had it "together" a bit more than I do currently and I didn't quite portray that as best as I could during the date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 12, 2016, 09:54:41 AM

I mean, if you guys saw how everything played out you would have a better idea of why I'm kinda skittish to text her back.

And I forgot to mention that she left a bit abruptly without much of an explanation after we had talked for... I think it was an hour and a half.

Maybe she didn't realize how much time had passed and forgot she had other shit to do. Maybe I or someone right behind me was giving off weird vibes. Maybe she felt like she was going to throw up. Who can say?

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Yes. Yes. I'm overthinking. It's my default state. :doge

[close]

edit: and don't worry. I'll put this all to rest after today. I'm even annoying myself with this shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 12, 2016, 10:03:30 AM

Thinking is an emotion, and emotions can be switched off

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 12, 2016, 01:34:09 PM

Well, I got another cute girl (that isn't a bot) in the hopper so. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I feel the angst just leaving my body. Things are gonna be alright. :aah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on September 12, 2016, 02:02:25 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on September 12, 2016, 10:03:30 AM

Thinking is an emotion, and emotions can be switched off

None of this is true

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 12, 2016, 02:10:35 PM

It's not but sometimes stupid advice can be the best advice.

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that's not true either :doge

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 12, 2016, 02:13:41 PM

Telling an overthinker they're overthinking doesn't help. They already know.
My advice? Stop caring. Think of it like a bus. If you miss one there's just going to be another in a few minutes. Don't sweat it. If you stop caring, you wont overthink. No one that I've known has ever stopped overthinking when someone told them "You're overthinking"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 12, 2016, 02:18:00 PM

She stayed for an hour and a half? That seems good to me. If she had left after 30 minutes I'd agree it didn't go well, but nearly two hours seems like solid. Build on that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 12, 2016, 02:20:50 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 12, 2016, 02:18:00 PM

She stayed for an hour and a half? That seems good to me. If she had left after 30 minutes I'd agree it didn't go well, but nearly two hours seems like solid. Build on that.

I'll throw a line out later tonight.

Now that I have another fish- I mean girl on the line I don't feel so desperate. :doge

edit: girl #2 even reached out to me first and called me handsome. :ryker

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 12, 2016, 02:46:33 PM

way to go tiger!
:fabulous

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 12, 2016, 03:17:12 PM

I believe in you Pallando!
(http://i.imgur.com/l5bbPHD.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 12, 2016, 04:34:03 PM

I think I spooked #2 or she's busy. :doge

God, it's like trying to herd cats outchea. :shaq2

Edit: Gonna keep the Tinder shit to myself until major developments take place. God, I'm so annoying. :doge

Edit2: Got Girl #2's Number.

(https://media.giphy.com/media/yhekrBGjZhs2I/giphy.gif)

spoiler (click to show/hide)

All thanks to a Hannibal Buress gif from the Eric Andre Show. :doge

(https://media.giphy.com/media/GAlNH4LNlGlW0/giphy.gif)

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 12, 2016, 07:58:51 PM

Should I even fux with girl #1 now? I don't even know, y'all.

#2 is 22 and seems to know what she wants. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 12, 2016, 08:05:31 PM

Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Having multiple options is a good thing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 12, 2016, 08:12:30 PM

Breh we keep saying: juggle as many as you can. #2 is the priority but keep talking to #1 and see what's up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 12, 2016, 08:13:15 PM

Hmm. It's already 8 pm and I have to be in bed by 9 pm for tomorrow.

I guess another day of not texting #1 couldn't hurt, right?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 12, 2016, 08:14:30 PM

Don't even think about it if you already feel in your gut not to do it tonight then don't do it. That simple. Hit her up tomorrow.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: eleuin on September 12, 2016, 08:18:26 PM

these girls got 10 dudes waiting with bated breath on their every response

don't be one of them

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 12, 2016, 08:19:33 PM

Then I'll go with my gut and text #1 tomorrow.

I also told #2 to text me whenever this week. I don't think she has a job at the moment (she's going back to college to get a post grad degree pretty soon) so who knows when that will be.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 12, 2016, 08:23:19 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 12, 2016, 08:19:33 PM

Then I'll go with my gut and text #1 tomorrow.

I also told #2 to text me whenever this week. I don't think she has a job at the moment (she's going back to college to get a post grad degree pretty soon) so who knows when that will be.

Good job, now put on your favorite japanese cartoon and get ready for bed :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 12, 2016, 09:22:13 PM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on September 12, 2016, 08:05:31 PM

Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Having multiple options is a good thing.

Yes, except don't be like me who at times would go out with 3-4 girls a week and then get confused as fuck between the 2 of them. Blew a date with a cute curvy blonde when I was like "your brother works for the county parks, right?" and it turned out that was another girl I went out with the previous week :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 12, 2016, 09:58:38 PM

Quote from: tiesto on September 12, 2016, 09:22:13 PM

Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on September 12, 2016, 08:05:31 PM
Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Having multiple options is a good thing.

Yes, except don't be like me who at times would go out with 3-4 girls a week and then get confused as fuck between the 2 of them. Blew a date with a cute curvy blonde when I was like "your brother works for the county parks, right?" and it turned out that was another girl I went out with the previous week :-\

What's my professional answer for everything: make a spreadsheet.

Excel
:rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 12, 2016, 10:57:13 PM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on September 12, 2016, 02:02:25 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on September 12, 2016, 10:03:30 AM
Thinking is an emotion, and emotions can be switched off

None of this is true

He forgot to turn on his feelings before he posted.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 12, 2016, 11:31:46 PM

http://www.thecoli.com/threads/tinder-hive-mind-a-coli-experiment-pictures-included.462893/
:lol

if all else fails

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 12, 2016, 11:57:30 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 12, 2016, 09:58:38 PM

Quote from: tiesto on September 12, 2016, 09:22:13 PM
Quote from: Mary Tyler Whore on September 12, 2016, 08:05:31 PM
Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Having multiple options is a good thing.

Yes, except don't be like me who at times would go out with 3-4 girls a week and then get confused as fuck between the 2 of them. Blew a date with a cute curvy blonde when I was like "your brother works for the county parks, right?" and it turned out that was another girl I went out with the previous week :-\

What's my professional answer for everything: make a spreadsheet.

Excel
:rejoice

As a professional I can verify this. Excel fixes everything.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 13, 2016, 12:27:48 AM

Btw Pallando, when you finally do score. Right after you're done, roll off and make sure you say, "You have no idea how many people you just made happy." :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 13, 2016, 12:52:25 AM

Then phone your mom

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 13, 2016, 03:01:35 AM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on September 12, 2016, 02:02:25 PM

Quote from: Premium Lager on September 12, 2016, 10:03:30 AM
Thinking is an emotion, and emotions can be switched off

None of this is true

It's something a guy I used to know kept saying, obviously he unstable meathead thats been to Afghanistan. You know the type.

He was already like this before his tour though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on September 13, 2016, 04:40:52 AM

Pallando, a few points of consideration

1. You're right at the finish line, but a bunch of your recent posts make me feel like you're almost psyching yourself out. Chill breh, you're doing fine, no need to constantly second guess yourself.

2. Even if chick 1 decides she wasn't interested after the first date, it's a success. You got yourself out there. People decide they're not compatible with each other for a wide number of both completely valid and completely random personal reasons. Getting rejected sucks, but the more it happens, the less you give a fuck, and sooner than later you will be the one handing out arbitrary curves

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 13, 2016, 07:14:51 AM

Going to text #1 around the time I leave the office.

I was thinking about tacking on "Also, just want to check if everything is okay?" to my original message but... That already sours things by implying that something is terribly wrong. :doge

Gotta keep my shit upbeat & positive.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 13, 2016, 08:07:33 AM

Sounds more like he is doing his best Dufus, stfu Dufus

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 13, 2016, 08:09:18 AM

Nah, bruh. I'm just writing my thoughts down and trying to get input. That's all. :doge

Also, I'm a highly neurotic INTP according to my Myers-Briggs results. So this is just how I roll. :doge

edit: I mean, this is part of the reason why I drink because my brain is a constantly spinning hamster wheel that's always spitting out thoughts, ideas, potential outcomes, etc. It's rather annoying. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 13, 2016, 08:12:10 AM

Avoid asking the question "Are you mad?" or "Are you ok?" to a woman - or any similar type question. It's weird and if they are mad or not ok, they won't tell you anyways because that's how chicks operate. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 13, 2016, 08:13:14 AM

See. That's what I need.

Thanks, Mups. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 13, 2016, 09:42:51 AM

Always ask my wife is she is mad, drives her crazy :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 13, 2016, 09:48:53 AM

Never ask a girl that on these sites. Frankly you shouldn't even care. If she doesn't want to see you she'll make it clear - either by ignoring you or telling you. Until then just operate as if things are normal. You're putting yourself out there, getting experience, etc. Also apply lessons learned. Maybe something you said didn't work with girl 1, so avoid it with girl 2.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 13, 2016, 09:48:57 AM

yeah definitely ditch the "is everything ok?" bit. Nothing good has ever come from that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 13, 2016, 09:53:52 AM

So... just for future reference:

Say I am in a relationship and my SO is in an obviously negative mood. What... What the hell do you do? Give her space until she wants something from you? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 13, 2016, 10:13:07 AM

No one knows.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 13, 2016, 10:16:38 AM

If she's acting like she's mad, she's mad. So don't ask her that crap. The rest depends on your SO. Everyone is different, obviously. Some people need cooling off time and others want to talk/yell about it. At a certain point you'll learn how to react to their moods... maybe. Probably not. You'll try. Do your best, bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 13, 2016, 10:18:24 AM

Buy her a Chanel bag and eat her out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 13, 2016, 10:20:53 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 13, 2016, 10:18:24 AM

Buy her a Chanel bag and eat her out.

But(t) which hole?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 13, 2016, 10:49:10 AM

(https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2015-06/6/13/enhanced/webdr02/anigif_enhanced-9153-1433613458-4.gif)

:doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 13, 2016, 11:55:10 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 13, 2016, 07:14:51 AM

Going to text #1 around the time I leave the office.

I was thinking about tacking on "Also, just want to check if everything is okay?" to my original message but... That already sours things by implying that something is terribly wrong. :doge

Gotta keep my shit upbeat & positive.

:lol don't write that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 13, 2016, 12:01:40 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on September 13, 2016, 10:20:53 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 13, 2016, 10:18:24 AM
Buy her a Chanel bag and eat her out.
But(t) which hole?

all of the above
(http://i.imgur.com/vKj1ivd.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 13, 2016, 12:55:39 PM

Oh sorry, another thing:

What if things start going really well with two girls and I end needing to pick one because I'm not a player or a Mormon that practices polygamy? Pick the one with the most pros and the least cons & tell the other one she didn't make the cut (in a nice way)?

:doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 13, 2016, 01:03:34 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 13, 2016, 12:55:39 PM

Oh sorry, another thing:

What if things start going really well with two girls and I end needing to pick one because I'm not a player or a Mormon that practices polygamy? Pick the one with the most pros and the least cons & tell the other one she didn't make the cut (in a nice way)?

:doge

If you do end it with one, do it on good terms. There's really nothing more useful in this world than having a booty call in your back pocket at your disposal.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 13, 2016, 01:28:13 PM

I would also assume that it would be better to end it in person?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 13, 2016, 01:53:48 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 13, 2016, 01:28:13 PM

I would also assume that it would be better to end it in person?

Yeah. For breakup sex.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on September 13, 2016, 02:33:00 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 13, 2016, 12:55:39 PM

Oh sorry, another thing:

What if things start going really well with two girls and I end needing to pick one because I'm not a player or a Mormon that practices polygamy? Pick the one with the most pros and the least cons & tell the other one she didn't make the cut (in a nice way)?

:doge

Let's not get ahead of ourselves here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 13, 2016, 02:51:59 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 13, 2016, 12:55:39 PM

Oh sorry, another thing:

What if things start going really well with two girls and I end needing to pick one because I'm not a player or a Mormon that practices polygamy? Pick the one with the most pros and the least cons & tell the other one she didn't make the cut (in a nice way)?

:doge

Dude, that's a good problem to have. A good problem that you don't have now. Don't worry about it.

edit: it's only polygamy if you marry them :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on September 13, 2016, 03:22:54 PM

Oh, one more thing:

If I end up marrying girl 2, how do I propose? Should I get a ring in my budget with the biggest diamond, or the most clarity?

:)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 13, 2016, 03:24:24 PM

the one that did anal first wins.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 13, 2016, 04:31:51 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 13, 2016, 12:55:39 PM

Oh sorry, another thing:

What if things start going really well with two girls and I end needing to pick one because I'm not a player or a Mormon that practices polygamy? Pick the one with the most pros and the least cons & tell the other one she didn't make the cut (in a nice way)?

:doge

You pick the one that you have a better 'gut feeling' about, tell the other one that you met someone else, then 6 months later when things don't work out with the one you chose, bang your head against a wall. Happened multiple times to me :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 13, 2016, 04:40:14 PM

Pick the one which makes the most money

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 13, 2016, 04:47:11 PM

That will be one consideration but not the only consideration.

Edit: and I'm about to shoot #1 a text in about 15 minutes. Here's hopping I didn't scar that poor girl's psyche with my social ineptness. :doge

Edit2: Welp. She didn't block my number (yet) so that's a good start. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 13, 2016, 06:08:17 PM

You become exclusive when you want to really. If no one brings it up then they probably don't want to stop meeting other people yet. I would personally want romantic/sexual exclusivity but hey Yolo.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

ask yourself if you really have the energy for 20 first dates?

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 13, 2016, 06:51:58 PM

LOL, you're just at the very beginning :lol Concocting fantasy scenarios and asking what to do should be the last thing on your mind when it comes to this stuff.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 13, 2016, 07:06:41 PM

Sure.

Also, something that's standing out to me in hindsight about that first date was that I did not initiate any physical contact with #1. Whoops. :doge

edit: or compliment her on her looks. Fuck. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 13, 2016, 08:39:17 PM

I think you do need to say that stuff or else no one would risk the grueling emotional slog that is dating, but I would tell female friends they're cute platonically all the time because I didn't want to look desperate. :yeshrug

It could be the first thing you say to her on the next date: "you always look cute (in pics/dates)" or say something about whatever physical feature of hers you're into. Keep your compliments above the neck. Like high cheekbones or hair or whatever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 13, 2016, 08:43:14 PM

Fuck that. Tell her she has nice collar bones.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 13, 2016, 08:50:33 PM

Chix dig it when u compliment them on the outline of their pudenda

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 13, 2016, 09:10:55 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on September 13, 2016, 08:43:14 PM

Fuck that. Tell her she has nice collar bones.

Do not use this if she is fat.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on September 14, 2016, 08:56:23 AM

(http://i.imgur.com/BPDYujx.png)

how did i do?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 14, 2016, 02:11:11 PM

I'm thinking if #2 doesn't text me back tonight I'm going to shoot her a text Thursday to set up a date up either this weekend or for the next one if she's "busy*" this weekend.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

*Getting pounded by Chad Thundercock. :doge

[close]

edit: I wonder if I should bring up that I got promoted at work and I want to celebrate? 🤔
Nah... then I'm just asking to get cucked. 😭

edit2: Ah. She got back to me first. 👍

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 14, 2016, 10:05:46 PM

Date #2 with girl #2 is in the bag.

I decided to switch it up and do dinner at a pretty good restaurant downtown this Saturday.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Also, something tells me she really wants the pipe. :rash

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 15, 2016, 11:42:38 AM

Sorry, another silly question:

When girl #2 and I meet up (before walking to the restaurant) would it be okay to say: "you can totally be yourself around me. I want you to have a good time." or something along those lines to set the mood?

Judging from her pics and our text convos she seems like she has a sense of humor and is a fun loving type and I don't want to squelch that with my sometimes stiff demeanor. (Also, I will be drinking some wine or something during this dinner date ...thank god.) :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on September 15, 2016, 11:47:10 AM

No, don't say that. She doesn't need your permission to act like herself and she assumes you want her to have a good time. You'd be setting a mood for sure but not the one you intend.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 15, 2016, 11:48:37 AM

*phew* Okay, good.

Gah, I'm such an autist. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 15, 2016, 11:48:55 AM

(http://replygif.net/i/326.gif)

Dude. Nothing says "don't be at ease" more than someone saying "be at ease".
This is why you must master the art of the conversation padawan.
You must learn that communication is reciprocal. You want someone to be themselves and at ease? Then they must see you as being at ease and yourself. Be the person you want the other person you're conversing with to be and they will move that way in kind.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on September 15, 2016, 11:51:30 AM

Yeah, you want to tell her something that will come off creepy af because you are worried about your demeanor. So focus on adjusting that, not adjusting her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 15, 2016, 12:12:18 PM

Seeing how oblivious I am anyone wanna type up (or link to) a general list of dating do's and don'ts? That would mean the world to me. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 15, 2016, 12:21:27 PM

Don't: try to follow a list of prescribed behaviors and actions

Do: relax and be honestly human

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 15, 2016, 12:29:33 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on September 15, 2016, 12:21:27 PM

Don't: try to follow a list of prescribed behaviors and actions

Do: relax and be honestly human

I- I'll try. 🤖

edit: totally going to have a glass of wine before hand. Perhaps two.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 15, 2016, 12:41:33 PM

Remember to breathe
It's not that serious

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 15, 2016, 12:43:01 PM

-Don't feel like you need to constantly be talking and keeping a convo going.
-Don't just play 21 questions with them. It's a first date not the Spanish Inquisition.
-No talk about religion. Politics I'd play it safe with too but it depends on the person. Some girls love political discussion, and I was surprised that when I went out with a girl who turned out to be a hardcore conservative, she called me wanting to go out again.
-It's kind of a PUA thing but "venue switching" isn't a bad idea. After dinner, if things go well, ask her if she wants to continue the convo at a bar or maybe do a round of minigolf or bowling. But some people take this to the extreme and have 'marathon dates', don't do that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 15, 2016, 12:46:02 PM

I tried not to bring up religion during my last date but my past is so entrenched in it it's kinda hard not to bring it up.

I guess I just won't bring up BJU and Southside Christian unless I'm directly asked. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 15, 2016, 12:48:05 PM

Venue switching is kind of a good idea since you're going to dinner, have a secondary place to go in mind at least

In my opinion no topic is really taboo if it's about who you are or your past, just avoid making rude/strong denouncements. It's okay to have views.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 15, 2016, 12:48:44 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 15, 2016, 11:42:38 AM

Sorry, another silly question:

When girl #2 and I meet up (before walking to the restaurant) would it be okay to say: "you can totally be yourself around me. I want you to have a good time." or something along those lines to set the mood?

Never say that to any woman unless you're paying her for her time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 15, 2016, 12:54:15 PM

I thought you paid her to leave, PD?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 15, 2016, 12:55:55 PM

I like the idea of venue switching.

Heck, I guess we're technically doing that because first we are going to meet at an entrance of a park near a coffee/ice cream place (don't worry, it's well lit and there's usually a lot people in that spot), then we will walk to the restaurant, and then I guess if it seems like things are going well I'll suggest we walk to a nearby bar to continue our conversation.

:yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 15, 2016, 12:58:23 PM

Solid date plan. Here's some special fellow to special fellow advice -- if the plan changes go with it and let it go. It's more important to connect with the person you're on a date with than that you follow the plan you had for your date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: eleuin on September 15, 2016, 01:34:42 PM

Sounds like something dandy would say before knocking the woman out and cutting her up :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 15, 2016, 01:42:27 PM

"I want you to have a good time, my dear. And it's best you come with me peacefully."

*CONK*

:doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 15, 2016, 02:16:08 PM

Uh why would you say anything before you knock them out. Pick better targets dude.

Also don't tell her you want to lick the whites of her eyes, Pall.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 15, 2016, 02:24:40 PM

Oh yeah: hold hands or link arms?

Or just do what feels right? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: El Babua on September 15, 2016, 02:30:56 PM

If I didn't know better, I'd think Pallando is just trolling us with all these GAF-DatingAge-isms :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on September 15, 2016, 02:36:06 PM

For shits and giggles you should make this same thread over at bodybuilding.com/misc, Pallando.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 15, 2016, 02:38:00 PM

Don't make everything she says about yourself but try to relate in some way in order to extend conversations. If she says she likes to read ask what are her favorite books, if you've read one of them talk about it, mention your own favorite books etc.

Be polite. If you go out to eat be nice to the waiter, tip, etc. This seems small but still. You seem like a decent dude so I'm sure you'll do that stuff perfectly. Also if you want to hold doors open for her, just do it. Don't be like "I uh didnt know if you wanted me to get the door, ya know...2016 and all." I'm serious, I've seen people do this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 15, 2016, 03:55:06 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 15, 2016, 02:24:40 PM

Oh yeah: hold hands or link arms?

Or just do what feels right? :doge

I read this as lick anus.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 15, 2016, 04:10:22 PM

Not until AFTER dessert. :doge

Also, my inner critic and inner skeptic is wondering how a girl this attractive (at least to me) is wanting to hang out with me. Her previous bf must've been a real shit show or I'm about to get hardcore catfished or everything is fine. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 15, 2016, 07:11:03 PM

edit: I gotta stop or I'm going to drink myself stupid Saturday.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 15, 2016, 07:15:34 PM

One thing to keep in mind is to try and not say stuff like 'fuck it gonna fuck a fatty' on a message board if you're thinking of dating that person

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 15, 2016, 07:18:45 PM

Sorry, it's my self hatred coming through.

As a former fatty I can be a giant asshole about this sort of thing. :stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 15, 2016, 07:24:01 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 15, 2016, 07:18:45 PM

Sorry, it's my self hatred coming through.

As a former fatty I can be a giant asshole about this sort of thing. :stahp

No judgement here, but aren't you currently a fatty, or did you burn off some of that sedentary sludge after all those weeks (months) of being overworked at a job requiring a sessile lifestyle?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 15, 2016, 07:30:27 PM

For several weeks now I've been eating basically nothing but sardines and green leafy vegetables. And drinking mostly black coffee and water.

My heaviest I've ever been was around 250 lbs back in 2011 (the summer after getting kicked from BJU)

I was around 225 lbs at the beginning of this year. Now I'm down to 190 lbs.

Also, is this just me or do other people tend to look fatter when you're in the process of losing weight? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 15, 2016, 08:26:23 PM

I didn't think I would need to ask this so soon but... What if she makes a comment about her weight? What do I say/do? :doge

"Think nothing of it, babe. I'm into PAWGs." :doge

"Big girls are great. More to hug." :doge

Demi Halp!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 15, 2016, 08:45:11 PM

a simple "you're crazy! You look great" works. It's not creepy and not patronizing.

stop trying to predict what might be said or what might happen. And stop trying to remember lines and shit. Go with the flow, bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 15, 2016, 08:46:48 PM

"Are black guys hitting on you? Lose weight" :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 15, 2016, 10:00:10 PM

'there are 3 posters on the bore who would enjoy seeing you naked'. This is a great lead in to talk about the bore.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 15, 2016, 10:31:16 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 15, 2016, 07:30:27 PM

For several weeks now I've been eating basically nothing but sardines and green leafy vegetables. And drinking mostly black coffee and water.

My heaviest I've ever been was around 250 lbs back in 2011 (the summer after getting kicked from BJU)

I was around 225 lbs at the beginning of this year. Now I'm down to 190 lbs.

Also, is this just me or do other people tend to look fatter when you're in the process of losing weight? :doge

(http://stream1.gifsoup.com/view/187757/exploding-high-five-o.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 15, 2016, 10:38:06 PM

Quote from: TheInfelicitousDandy on September 15, 2016, 10:00:10 PM

'there are 3 posters on the bore who would enjoy seeing you naked'. This is a great lead in to talk about the bore.

"Are you kidding? You're hot! I know an ex-mormon and his wife that might be interested in a threesome with you, another guy who would love to see you naked....while getting slammed by a BBC and another guy who would like to stuff parts of you in his trunk."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 15, 2016, 10:39:30 PM

I feel like a goddamn circus seal eating all these sardines for breakfast (I skip lunch) and sometimes dinner but it's been working so far. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 15, 2016, 10:55:49 PM

Pallando, have you considered joining an online group for ex-BJU type people? I know for mormons it's pretty easy to find a group of fellow people that have left the church. If there is, you might want to check it out. It might be good for you to see if there is. Then you wouldn't have to worry so much about the women thinking you're weird about religion, because they're going through it too. I know first hand, religion can do quite a number on you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 15, 2016, 11:14:31 PM

Maybe there is but that's the thing, I really wasn't a "Joneser" to begin with. I was a conservative leaning more moderate nondenominational Protestant Christian that came from a fairly conservative school (SCS) but it wasn't some crazy fundamentalist southern baptist hell hole like BJU.

The only real reason why I ended up at BJU was because I was too apathetic/burnt out/lazy/easily led to research colleges that had good graphic design programs and my parents kept on goading me into it because they didn't think it would be too different from SCS plus I would be living from home. But it was very different...

For example, at SCS we only had chapel service once a week and they were about 30 to 45 minutes long. Also, we sang contemporary Christian music during those services and we sometimes had interesting & thought provoking speakers.

At BJU we had chapel every week day that lasted an hour and it was right before lunch... And we had to sing old and stale hymns from a bygone era and listen to crotchety old men or fiery young preachers drone on about nonsense.

And that's not really the "worst" example but it's the one that comes to mind this late at night.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 15, 2016, 11:25:24 PM

this just needs to be called the Pallando tries to get his dick wet thread

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 15, 2016, 11:34:38 PM

I really didn't have much to post about, in this thread, up until now. So I'm just now cashing in my "relationship thread tokens" that I've saving up over the years. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 15, 2016, 11:54:47 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on September 15, 2016, 10:38:06 PM

Quote from: TheInfelicitousDandy on September 15, 2016, 10:00:10 PM
'there are 3 posters on the bore who would enjoy seeing you naked'. This is a great lead in to talk about the bore.
"Are you kidding? You're hot! I know an ex-mormon and his wife that might be interested in a threesome with you, another guy who would love to see you naked....while getting slammed by a BBC and another guy who would like to stuff parts of you in his trunk."

And don't forget the guido weeaboo from NY who would just wanna tap that ass. 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 15, 2016, 11:55:38 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 15, 2016, 08:26:23 PM

I didn't think I would need to ask this so soon but... What if she makes a comment about her weight? What do I say/do? :doge

"Think nothing of it, babe. I'm into PAWGs." :doge

"Big girls are great. More to hug." :doge

Demi Halp!

Anytime you're confused about what to do or say, you're doing it right.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 16, 2016, 12:05:11 AM

"Don't worry, you look great!" works best if a girl makes a comment about her weight. You know I have plenty of experience in this situation...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 16, 2016, 02:28:45 AM

*Two glasses of wine later*... Yeah, I can totally do this. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 16, 2016, 02:30:44 AM

I believe in you! You got this!

(http://i.imgur.com/KzCs1Jy.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 16, 2016, 03:04:31 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 15, 2016, 11:42:38 AM

When girl #2 and I meet up (before walking to the restaurant) would it be okay to say: "you can totally be yourself around me. I want you to have a good time." or something along those lines to set the mood?

Breh what is this :dead

And now I'm scrolling through all this.... way overthinking this stuff. You aren't proposing here. Just trying to get some pus/tit/nut.

*goes back to holding baby*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 16, 2016, 03:11:16 AM

I'll find my chill Saturday. Don't worry.

Things are going to be fine. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 16, 2016, 03:29:18 AM

:anhuld :busta :brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 16, 2016, 11:20:06 AM

I feel like I need to take a course in Toaism when it comes to dating...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 16, 2016, 11:45:07 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 16, 2016, 11:20:06 AM

I feel like I need to take a course in Toaism when it comes to dating...

If you have to take a course on Taoism you don't understand Taoism. :PP

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 16, 2016, 11:02:28 PM

god I was losing my head... I'm all chilled out now guys. 👌

This chick seems pretty great over texts. Today during our exchange we seem to vibe pretty well.

Wish me luck tomorrow. 😎

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 16, 2016, 11:45:07 PM

we don't say good luck we say never give up!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 17, 2016, 03:28:03 AM

Break a leg!

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Preferably your third leg.

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 17, 2016, 08:01:24 PM

She just revealed to me via a text that she smokes... Ugh...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 17, 2016, 08:13:12 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/2whmNRS.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 17, 2016, 08:14:31 PM

If she smokes, she pokes

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 17, 2016, 08:49:20 PM

Just means she doesn't give much thought about what she puts in her mouth. Could be a plus

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 17, 2016, 08:51:12 PM

Overweight AND smokes?

Let the oral fixation work for you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 17, 2016, 08:59:42 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 17, 2016, 08:01:24 PM

She just revealed to me via a text that she smokes... Ugh...

Seriously wish I could put 'no smokers, sorry' in my tinder profile but only (hot) girls can get away with that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 17, 2016, 09:03:20 PM

I just realized that if she smokes menthols her pole game is gonna feel so good :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 17, 2016, 10:40:19 PM

Omg this girl is the fucking best! :heart :heart :heart :heart

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 17, 2016, 11:43:00 PM

Remember my oral sex advice.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 18, 2016, 12:02:19 AM

Everything went really well.

Got to kiss her goodnight/goodbye as well. :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 18, 2016, 12:02:27 AM

No, she is a cis women PD.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 18, 2016, 12:11:47 AM

Yes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on September 18, 2016, 12:13:17 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 18, 2016, 12:02:19 AM

Everything went really well.

Got to kiss her goodnight/goodbye as well. :-[

Describe the kiss. We need to know all the details. :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 18, 2016, 12:28:44 AM

Dat boi did it. Daps to you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 18, 2016, 12:34:32 AM

We were both grining at each other like idiots in her car for a bit and she goes "go ahead" and faces her cheek towards me and *boop* I kiss her on the cheek.

:doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 18, 2016, 01:02:26 AM

Oh. After we had a couple of drinks I asked her in a playful way what specifically drew her to me on Tinder

It WAS (partially) the Hannibal Buress gif from the Eric Andre Show. She was saying, "Okay, I just have to meet this guy now if he's down with the Eric Andre Show." after posting that gif. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 18, 2016, 01:12:20 AM

(http://67.media.tumblr.com/d0bda999a01bbaee6cba95d425b3f9f4/tumblr_netfs2Y7K41r7nts4o1_r2_500.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 18, 2016, 01:24:44 AM

I really hope we can get together soon.

It seemed like we clicked really well. (We're so similar in certain ways it's fucking scary. :doge)

Also, I feel like I need to be a bit more physical next time around...

I did hug her when we first met tho.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 18, 2016, 01:46:52 AM

Yeah she knows you're trying to be polite and respects that. Obviously if she's liking you then she wants that type of affection at some point but don't throw all your eggs into one basket, don't bang without being upfront about what you're looking for (like if she's not your type physically), and know it's okay that you hesitated with the physical stuff because it takes a while to overcome that and follow your instincts.

Also I assume you have a beard trimmer, you know what you have to do.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

I kind of want to try bareback full bush sex once. To know how our ancestors felt.

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 18, 2016, 02:16:57 AM

She's totally my type physically (she actually slimmed down a bunch). She's optimally chubby, if that makes sense. :doge

And are you saying I need to trim my beard down if I'm going to eat that puss. I mean I can but I kinda want to know ahead of time that she's down for that before I alter my face in that way. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: El Babua on September 18, 2016, 02:45:42 AM

Big Dick Pallando :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 18, 2016, 05:04:20 AM

No your beard hair isn't a problem. Pubes will be super duper annoying for ones partner to deal with tho.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on September 18, 2016, 05:55:53 AM

Quote from: brawndolicious on September 18, 2016, 01:46:52 AM

spoiler (click to show/hide)
I kind of want to try bareback full bush sex once. To know how our ancestors felt.
[close]

Like absolute animals. Stupid, brainless animals. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on September 18, 2016, 06:25:49 AM

Don't shave anything.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 18, 2016, 10:20:30 AM

If you're gonna touch your public hair use scissors. Nobody wants a crotch full of small stingy trimmed hair follicles rubbing against their body.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 18, 2016, 10:28:28 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 18, 2016, 10:20:30 AM

If you're gonna touch your public hair use scissors. Nobody wants a crotch full of small stingy trimmed hair follicles rubbing against their body.

Sounds like you need to work on your (razor) stroke game

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 18, 2016, 10:54:07 AM

Went to a BBQ yesterday for a friend who lives in Astoria. He was always the shy and socially awkward type, but since moving out on his own a few years back and joining some Meetup groups he's become extremely outgoing. One of the clubs he was in was for people with social anxiety, and holy shit there were a bunch of cute girls in the group... if you folks feel you have anxiety I'd recommend looking for a Meetup group similar to the one my friend found. All of the people in the group seemed like they were doing really great with their anxiety too, approaching and making conversations with me and others they didn't know...

So anyways, there were quite a few cute single Asian girls at the party, I struck up a long conversation and managed to get the FB info of one of the girls. She lives all the way out by my friend in Queens, but work brings her out to the Island a lot (she's the project manager for a construction company). She was cute and seemed very nice (though a bit on the shy side). Will have to follow up!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 18, 2016, 05:50:59 PM

nvm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 18, 2016, 05:51:36 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on September 18, 2016, 10:28:28 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 18, 2016, 10:20:30 AM
If you're gonna touch your public hair use scissors. Nobody wants a crotch full of small stingy trimmed hair follicles rubbing against their body.
Sounds like you need to work on your (razor) stroke game

:tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 18, 2016, 06:50:08 PM

So uh... I guess I'll just wait until Wednesday to text her or get a text from her? :doge

We had talked about possibly me driving down to her place to play board games and drink with her roommates/landlords (a husband and wife that she rents a place from).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 18, 2016, 06:52:50 PM

No harm in texting before then.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 18, 2016, 06:54:13 PM

Mmm... Like Monday evening if I'm not too busy that day?

Probably Tuesday would be better, tbh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 18, 2016, 07:21:08 PM

lol don't play this goofy high school texting/call game.

Again with this overthinking.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 18, 2016, 07:43:11 PM

Dude. This IS the furthest I've ever gotten with a girl.

Give me some slack. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on September 18, 2016, 07:52:50 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 18, 2016, 06:54:13 PM

Mmm... Like Monday evening if I'm not too busy that day?

Too busy to send a text? :goty2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 18, 2016, 08:02:21 PM

I almost never text unless it is to set up a time to call her or meet her in person.

Same pretty much goes for friends and family also, at least for me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 18, 2016, 08:08:40 PM

I don't remember the last time I spent a lot of time talking to anyone on the phone. text or gtfo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 18, 2016, 09:05:34 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 18, 2016, 06:50:08 PM

So uh... I guess I'll just wait until Wednesday to text her or get a text from her? :doge

We had talked about possibly me driving down to her place to play board games and drink with her roommates/landlords (a husband and wife that she rents a place from).

monday night

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 18, 2016, 09:14:11 PM

7:13pm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 18, 2016, 09:25:03 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on September 18, 2016, 09:14:11 PM

7:13pm

Gonna take a screen cap of my text at exactly this time. Just you watch. :teehee

Edit: actually... I might end up texting her around lunch time because she works during the closing shift at a grocery store during the weekdays. (Also, she works at a quilt shop on weekends as well).

Edit: "Hey, beautiful. How's your day going?" Eh... Fuck it. It's from the heart goddamnit. (Haven't called her beautiful with my voice/words yet but my eyes sure as fuck did.) :doge

spoiler (click to show/hide)

I'll have more time to (over) think this through tomorrow...

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 19, 2016, 07:01:20 AM

"Hey beautiful"? Breh. :doge

A simple hey what's up will do.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on September 19, 2016, 08:22:33 AM

The more you treat her like a person and not an abstract concept of what you think a romantic relationship is supposed to be like, the better this will go.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 19, 2016, 09:09:35 AM

Sure.

Again, I have zero experience at this point in the game. And no one ever sat me down and gave me advice about this shit.

I'm basically making random stabs in the dark here until someone who has WAAAY more experience than me can tell me that I'm spouting nonsense and can course correct me.

Edit: Also, my "romantic instinct" is severely underdeveloped. It's like this part of me has been in a coma for years and is just now trying to walk on its own two legs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 19, 2016, 09:29:50 AM

Would it help to know that the sum total of all knowledge men have of females :quark is how not to sound like a psychopath? What you're going to do next is the scariest, most subjective and experimental stage of it where it depends on whether you two like each other.

At this point, you have to see if she's going to like YOU and your conversational habits. Now when you start getting physical there's a few tips to give but we all know we're overrated.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2016, 09:32:33 AM

All you can do is be honest with yourself and recognize your short comings, so I give you dap. You say things went well, you got a kiss, it's clear she wants to "do something" again. So the hard part is over then. Text her whenever you feel like it, you don't need to overthink this. If your date was on Friday for instance and you guys sent a couple "I had a great time" texts that evening...why not give her a text on Monday saying hey what's up, how was your weekend, want to do something blah blah blah. Why not.

And of course meanwhile continue to look for other chicks on tinder.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 19, 2016, 09:58:32 AM

Ever since matching with girl #2 I've been getting nothing but bots on Tinder. I mean, I'll keep swiping but it feels like an exercise in futility at this point.

Edit: Also when I was talking with her on our date it was like talking to a good friend that I had know for sometime. Except we couldn't stop staring at each other. :doge

I guess my big disconnect is with texting because I can't (of course) gage facial expressions or tone of voice. Actually tbh, I fucking hate texting most of the time because I feel like so much can get misinterpreted.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2016, 10:27:00 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 19, 2016, 09:58:32 AM

Ever since matching with girl #2 I've been getting nothing but bots on Tinder. I mean, I'll keep swiping but it feels like an exercise in futility at this point.

Edit: Also when I was talking with her on our date it was like talking to a good friend that I had know for sometime. Except we couldn't stop staring at each other. :doge

I guess my big disconnect is with texting because I can't (of course) gage facial expressions or tone of voice. Actually tbh, I fucking hate texting most of the time because I feel like so much can get misinterpreted.

Tell her that in one of your texts today, or simply tell her the next time you guys meet. But don't say it was like talking to a good friend...say, "...yea me too. It was like we've known each other for some time" or something like that.

As long as you aren't saying weird shit in texts you shouldn't have to worry about misinterpretations dude. You're gonna be texting pretty basic conversation stuff.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 19, 2016, 11:05:12 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2016, 10:27:00 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 19, 2016, 09:58:32 AM
Ever since matching with girl #2 I've been getting nothing but bots on Tinder. I mean, I'll keep swiping but it feels like an exercise in futility at this point.

Edit: Also when I was talking with her on our date it was like talking to a good friend that I had know for sometime. Except we couldn't stop staring at each other. :doge

I guess my big disconnect is with texting because I can't (of course) gage facial expressions or tone of voice. Actually tbh, I fucking hate texting most of the time because I feel like so much can get misinterpreted.

Tell her that in one of your texts today, or simply tell her the next time you guys meet. But don't say it was like talking to a good friend...say, "...yea me too. It was like we've known each other for some time" or something like that.

As long as you aren't saying weird shit in texts you shouldn't have to worry about misinterpretations dude. You're gonna be texting pretty basic conversation stuff.

Sounds cory/shitty (2 u especially poll) but you want to be a little vague/mysterious at this stage. Be clear with your intentions but obfuscate your speech a bit. She needs to know you wanna fuck/romantic interest but you can't make that obvious to the degree of simp bitch. I think she already knows this so you're doing a good job so far! Y'all already to seem to have some natural energy/chemistry going on so thats like half the battle!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2016, 11:21:59 AM

do my demons blind me, donny
:brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 19, 2016, 11:27:34 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2016, 11:21:59 AM

do my demons blind me, donny
:brazilcry

I was trying to back you up actually. Just that he should avoid certain words like friend etc and be a little vague. Basically just reinforce what she's saying about their date and align more with her energy. #hippietalk

I'm done giving you relationship advice nicca, now that i know the depth and breadth of your sins. You're good. The goal here is to bring out that closet blasphemous demon in Atra.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2016, 11:29:11 AM

Quote from: toku on September 19, 2016, 11:27:34 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2016, 11:21:59 AM
do my demons blind me, donny
:brazilcry

I was trying to back you up actually. Just that he should avoid certain words like friend etc and be a little vague. Basically just reinforce what she's saying about their date and align more with her energy. #hippietalk

I'm done giving you relationship advice nicca, now that i know the depth and breadth of your sins. You're good. The goal here is to bring out that closet blasphemous demon in Atra.

:brazilcry

bless up

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 19, 2016, 11:32:25 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2016, 11:29:11 AM

Quote from: toku on September 19, 2016, 11:27:34 AM
Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2016, 11:21:59 AM
do my demons blind me, donny
:brazilcry

I was trying to back you up actually. Just that he should avoid certain words like friend etc and be a little vague. Basically just reinforce what she's saying about their date and align more with her energy. #hippietalk

I'm done giving you relationship advice nicca, now that i know the depth and breadth of your sins. You're good. The goal here is to bring out that closet blasphemous demon in Atra.
:brazilcry

bless up

No :brazilcry you're ahead of the game. You're better for the experience. There is no shame/shaming here or in my voice/words. Bless up, you're good!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2016, 11:38:11 AM

It's like Silence Of The Lambs. I'm just trying to save one (Pallando).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 19, 2016, 12:24:08 PM

When I first started dating - this part of the process was the most nerve wrecking part. The first girl I dated was SUPER responsive and messaged me all the time. That relationship didn't work out. Another girl wasn't as responsive and it seemed she didn't care. Turns out she had just got her first smartphone and texting wasn't really a thing she did to chitchat so she constantly forgot to check her phone. I've been with her for 2 years.

So none of that shit really matters in the end.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 19, 2016, 12:32:36 PM

Just shot her a quick text. Nothing weird or mushy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2016, 12:34:25 PM

"It's pretty windy today. I hope your hair isn't getting in your nose"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 19, 2016, 12:34:53 PM

You need experience much more than advice, really. Just keep going

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 19, 2016, 12:41:17 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2016, 12:34:25 PM

"It's pretty windy today. I hope your hair isn't getting in your nose"

:lol This made me laugh way more than it should have

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 19, 2016, 12:45:57 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on September 19, 2016, 12:34:53 PM

You need experience much more than advice, really. Just keep going

Important. It's okay to fail and fuck up. You'll be alright I promise.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 19, 2016, 12:49:17 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2016, 12:34:25 PM

"It's pretty windy today. I hope your hair isn't getting in your nose"

i think this is genuinely a great line to send to any girl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 19, 2016, 12:53:11 PM

I just sent that to my girlfriend then realized her hair isn't long enough to do that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 19, 2016, 12:54:03 PM

"Who the fuck you seeing with long hair, fistful?!"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 19, 2016, 01:51:32 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on September 19, 2016, 12:53:11 PM

I just sent that to my girlfriend then realized her hair isn't long enough to do that.

What did she say? We need to know.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 19, 2016, 02:05:09 PM

Just a confused "Wha"

which i responded "You heard me"

then another "Wha"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 19, 2016, 07:06:32 PM

Hrrmmm... I probably should've texted a day or two later..

Monday's are typically everyone's most busiest day.

Also, I might give the paid version of tinder a whirl so I stop running out of right swipes. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 19, 2016, 07:37:11 PM

paid is a lot nicer. I find the superlikes actually work.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 19, 2016, 08:51:02 PM

I call my wife by the name beautiful every day. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 19, 2016, 08:52:55 PM

Quote from: TheInfelicitousDandy on September 19, 2016, 07:37:11 PM

paid is a lot nicer. I find the superlikes actually work.

Dandy's love-dungeon is full of unsuspecting people who fell for superlikes.

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on September 19, 2016, 08:51:02 PM

I call my wife by the name beautiful every day. :yeshrug

I do the same for my wife, but she's already been wifed. A wife talking like she wants kids, that's one thing. A second date talking about kids, that's another.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 19, 2016, 08:58:04 PM

Eh, I guess you're right.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 19, 2016, 09:07:40 PM

Another thing that is bothering me is that I feel like I've been inadvertently coming across as super thirsty this whole entire time. God, when does this mental torture end? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on September 19, 2016, 09:12:34 PM

You'll be stuck inside your head for the rest of your days on the earth. Get used to it. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 19, 2016, 09:12:53 PM

thats why you shoulda just fucked a fatty first. the thirst is equal

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 20, 2016, 02:58:01 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 19, 2016, 09:07:40 PM

Another thing that is bothering me is that I feel like I've been inadvertently coming across as super thirsty this whole entire time. God, when does this mental torture end? :doge

All men are always completely thirsty all the time.
All women already know this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 20, 2016, 07:03:24 AM

Gotcha.

Also, if my date with #2 has taught me anything it's that a date can be fun and spontaneous. (Which date #1 with girl #1 was not)

The restaurant I was planning to go to was jam packed that Saturday with 30 to 45 minute wait time (apparently they don't do reservations even though the person on the phone there on Wednesday told me they did... and I had set up one.)

Anyways, we both said fuck it and went to a pizza & craft beer place. Talked for hours there. Walked around and talked and dropped the half of the pizza off at my car. Walked around and talked some more. Went to a bar and talked some more while gazing deeply into each other's eyes. Then she offered to drive me back to the parking garage my car was parked at. I brought up Vapenaysh on the way back and it turns out she's a big Ethan & Hila fan as well. Got to my parking garage. Kissed. Thanked her for the wonderful time and wished her a safe trip home.

So... I hope I wasn't imagining things and I really did build up a lot of rapport with this girl. :doge

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Then again, if looking at the guy's profiles on Tinder and other dating sites has taught me anything it's that I'm not that unique.

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: benjipwns on September 20, 2016, 07:12:24 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 20, 2016, 07:03:24 AM

I brought up Vapenaysh on the way back and it turns out she's a big Ethan & Hila fan as well.

:drudge

alt-right alert, avoid avoid, scream at her about trump's internment camps and how she's a gender traitor next time you see her until she pledges "i'm with her"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 20, 2016, 07:16:03 AM

Oh yeah, we both shat on Trump pretty early on.

But that's just proper etiquette in 2016.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: benjipwns on September 20, 2016, 07:35:38 AM

2016's icebreaker "hey did you hear what Trump said...no, no that was earlier, the newest thing" :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on September 20, 2016, 08:33:33 AM

Quote from: chronovore on September 20, 2016, 02:58:01 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 19, 2016, 09:07:40 PM
Another thing that is bothering me is that I feel like I've been inadvertently coming across as super thirsty this whole entire time. God, when does this mental torture end? :doge
All men are always completely thirsty all the time.
All women already know this.

The thirst is the realest for those that have had plenty to drink already.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 20, 2016, 10:57:03 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 20, 2016, 07:03:24 AM

Gotcha.

Also, if my date with #2 has taught me anything it's that a date can be fun and spontaneous. (Which date #1 with girl #1 was not)

The restaurant I was planning to go to was jam packed that Saturday with 30 to 45 minute wait time (apparently they don't do reservations even though the person on the phone there on Wednesday told me they did... and I had set up one.)

Anyways, we both said fuck it and went to a pizza & craft beer place. Talked for hours there. Walked around and talked and dropped the half of the pizza off at my car. Walked around and talked some more. Went to a bar and talked some more while gazing deeply into each other's eyes. Then she offered to drive me back to the parking garage my car was parked at. I brought up Vapenaysh on the way back and it turns out she's a big Ethan & Hila fan as well. Got to my parking garage. Kissed. Thanked her for the wonderful time and wished her a safe trip home.

So... I hope I wasn't imagining things and I really did build up a lot of rapport with this girl. :doge

spoiler (click to show/hide)
Then again, if looking at the guy's profiles on Tinder and other dating sites has taught me anything it's that I'm not that unique.
[close]

This sounds like a great date, and yea the flexibility definitely made it better. Really seems like the hardest parts of this process are over for you man. There have been times in my life where my anxiety would make an abrupt change in plans like that stressful/a problem, and might have ruined the situation. I know you have similar issues so yoo bro, you're doing good breh.
:rejoice

Seems like it went really well. Just remember not to take things personally. Always assume she's operating like you are, IE she is still using tinder and looking at other options. Doesn't mean you should be like "well fuck that I won't try as hard," it just means you know your eggs aren't all in one basket. It also means you should try to set up another date soon. BTW did you suggest the restaurant? If so let her pick what you guys do next time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 20, 2016, 12:18:16 PM

I suggested the (initial) restaurant, yes.

And then later that night I said for next time (if there ever is a next time) I'd be cool driving down to her area to hang out instead of her having to drive 45 minutes to my area. And, at the time, she sounded receptive to that idea.

Also, last night while I was asleep I got 3 more matches but 1 is an hour away from me and 2 of them are 2 hours away from me. Not living in a dense urban area sucks sometimes...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 20, 2016, 12:22:53 PM

Sorry if it's been asked already, but what did her hair smell like?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 20, 2016, 12:53:42 PM

Nice man, way to be flexible on the date, that's really good!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 20, 2016, 01:08:37 PM

I'm probably going to message all 3 of these girls later tonight when I get home from work but I'm kinda anxious that #2 will end up getting back to me on Wednesday and then I'll end up having to juggle 3 girls (assuming they're not bots) + #2. :doge

Update: Just messaged 4 girls.

Also, I tried getting Tinder Plus and it charged my credit card but it hasn't activated on my account. Went ahead and contacted customer support but I don't know if that's going to help or not.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on September 20, 2016, 04:41:46 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on September 20, 2016, 04:38:38 PM

You're thinking way too far ahead on unsure things right now. Take it easy.

This has been Pallando for the past 10 pages

Of which he's been 80% of posts

Slow down breh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 20, 2016, 05:18:58 PM

I remember when I felt like Pall, all hopeful about life and shit.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

I resisted my urges to post about it though. :ufup

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 20, 2016, 05:24:42 PM

Speaking of thinking way too far ahead... look at what came in the mail today. :hitler

(http://i.imgur.com/hD7FofD.jpg?2)

Context:
http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=43620.msg2181903#msg2181903

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on September 20, 2016, 05:26:38 PM

:lol

Good luck.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 20, 2016, 06:06:14 PM

Cmon man, don't roll into this like

(http://www.oocities.org/televisioncity/studio/1589/Seth.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 20, 2016, 06:21:44 PM

Don't worry.

I'm saving this mint shit for when me and my SO have had sex multiple times and have gotten used to each other sexually. Then one night I'll be like, "Hey, babe. I wanna try something different tonight." :hitler :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 20, 2016, 06:25:09 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/pKvr2pq.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on September 20, 2016, 06:25:17 PM

Tried jerkin with it yet? :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 20, 2016, 06:31:00 PM

Quote from: king of the internet on September 20, 2016, 06:25:17 PM

Tried jerkin with it yet? :hitler

Nah. That seems too risky.

I'll probably only put it on my lips ( pause :doge ) and see if it tingles there.

edit: Just tested it. It just tingles like your typical peppermint candy. :yeshrug

But it must feel crazy on dat bean tho. :marimo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 20, 2016, 06:38:21 PM

Did you test it on your lips or dick? Might as well rub a bit down there, I know it can be used on guys (according to the research I've done on the internet, not irl of course).

I'll be ordering my own soon.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 20, 2016, 06:39:54 PM

Just my lips.

And I'll just take your word about the dick for now. I got shit to do. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 20, 2016, 06:44:25 PM

:doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on September 20, 2016, 09:02:27 PM

I'd be hesitant too. One time I got this tin of super minty gum called Everest or something and made the mistake of swallowing a piece. One of the weirdest shits I've ever taken in my life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 20, 2016, 09:37:37 PM

Got Tinder Plus working.

Checking out Saudi Arabia. :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on September 20, 2016, 09:43:26 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 20, 2016, 09:37:37 PM

Got Tinder Plus working.

Checking out Saudi Arabia. :hitler

That's my pet name for Wrath, bitch. 😒

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 20, 2016, 09:49:18 PM

Quote from: Tasty Meat on September 20, 2016, 09:43:26 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 20, 2016, 09:37:37 PM
Got Tinder Plus working.

Checking out Saudi Arabia. :hitler

That's my pet name for Wrath, bitch. 😒

Don't worry, I'm over in Israel now. 👌

Edit: Now Russia.

Someone in the world is gonna get a minty vag, I'll tell you hwat.

edit: just super liked some chick in Russia. 🌚

edit: hopped over to Berlin and here's the first profile I came across:

"Intelligent Sub looking for a man with a dominant personality. I'm submissive in bed, but nothing close to that in outside of the bedroom. Not interested in sex only.

Deutsch geht auch"

There's only one image of her holding a collar. Can't make out a face. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 20, 2016, 10:37:53 PM

Quote from: Tasty Meat on September 20, 2016, 04:41:46 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on September 20, 2016, 04:38:38 PM
You're thinking way too far ahead on unsure things right now. Take it easy.

This has been Pallando for the past 10 pages

Of which he's been 80% of posts

Slow down breh

You could always hop in and let us know how things are going in downtown Bonertown.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 20, 2016, 10:56:26 PM

Been reading some articles/posts and seems like it's not uncommon for first dates to go really well and then absolutely nothing happens afterwards. :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 20, 2016, 11:03:33 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 20, 2016, 10:56:26 PM

Been reading some articles/posts and seems like it's not uncommon for first dates to go really well and then absolutely nothing happens afterwards. :fbm

Stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on September 21, 2016, 08:51:17 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 20, 2016, 06:25:09 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/pKvr2pq.gif)

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 21, 2016, 09:49:34 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 20, 2016, 09:49:18 PM

edit: hopped over to Berlin and here's the first profile I came across:

"Intelligent Sub looking for a man with a dominant personality. I'm submissive in bed, but nothing close to that in outside of the bedroom. Not interested in sex only.

Deutsch geht auch"

There's only one image of her holding a collar. Can't make out a face. :doge

I'd go for it because she can probably get me into Berghain...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 21, 2016, 12:17:48 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on September 21, 2016, 11:49:25 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 20, 2016, 09:37:37 PM
Got Tinder Plus working.

Checking out Saudi Arabia. :hitler

Thoughts?

A lot of Malaysians and bunch of weird profiles that don't really show anything except some tacky Web 2.0 art or random photos.

Then again, I only swiped through about 20 profiles.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 21, 2016, 12:23:10 PM

What is Tinder Plus?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 21, 2016, 12:27:48 PM

Basically a paid version of tinder that allows you to swipe right as many times as possible and let's you hop around the globe.

And there's a bunch of other features but I don't have time to really explain them all.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 21, 2016, 12:42:26 PM

Tinder sounds like a nightmare, glad I missed that one

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on September 21, 2016, 01:11:41 PM

Grindr :aah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 21, 2016, 01:28:06 PM

Heterosexual courtship rituals :snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 21, 2016, 01:32:01 PM

Quote from: Tasty Meat on September 21, 2016, 01:11:41 PM

Grindr :aah

You a straight up motha fuckin dick pig

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on September 21, 2016, 01:35:10 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on September 21, 2016, 01:32:01 PM

Quote from: Tasty Meat on September 21, 2016, 01:11:41 PM
Grindr :aah

You a straight up motha fuckin dick pig

I actually haven't used it in 1.5+ years. :goty2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on September 21, 2016, 02:09:22 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on September 21, 2016, 01:32:01 PM

Quote from: Tasty Meat on September 21, 2016, 01:11:41 PM
Grindr :aah

You a straight up motha fuckin dick pig

Also, slut shaming? :wag

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on September 21, 2016, 02:10:37 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 21, 2016, 01:28:06 PM

Heterosexual courtship rituals :snoop

This is how I imagine it:

(http://i899.photobucket.com/albums/ac195/pew_pew/Star%20Trek%20%20jpg%20and%20gif/blutff3.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 21, 2016, 02:10:54 PM

It's only slut shaming if you can feel shame.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 21, 2016, 02:19:16 PM

You sayin there's something shameful about being a dick pig?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 21, 2016, 02:26:13 PM

Well I do seem to tease PD every day about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 21, 2016, 02:38:33 PM

Sorry that I keep on harping on this but I'm not crazy in thinking that girl #2 is going to flake on me/already found someone better, right? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 21, 2016, 02:47:28 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 21, 2016, 02:38:33 PM

Sorry that I keep on harping on this but I'm not crazy in thinking that girl #2 is going to flake on me/already found someone better, right? :doge

Did you set something up already, or just small talk texts? Lock that shit down breh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 21, 2016, 02:54:29 PM

She never responded to my first text (after the date) on Monday. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 21, 2016, 03:01:40 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 21, 2016, 02:54:29 PM

She never responded to my first text (after the date) on Monday. :doge

damn

Ok in that case don't send more texts, let her text you. You don't want to see thirsty and it's not like she owes you a response. Maybe she wasn't feeling it. Maybe she's busy. Don't stress it.
:tocry

Just keep grinding the other options.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on September 21, 2016, 03:14:19 PM

Never double text. :wag (unless the first one didn't require a response obv.)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on September 21, 2016, 03:19:02 PM

If you double text, make sure that second text is "pls respond"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 21, 2016, 03:29:21 PM

I'm going to die alone. Again. :stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 21, 2016, 05:55:27 PM

Since you have her number, just add on snapchat and send a dick pic to show her you are still interested

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 21, 2016, 06:18:24 PM

Well, I guess the good news is that I finally have a weekend where I'm not going anywhere or doing anything. :shaq2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 21, 2016, 07:11:28 PM

stop caring

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 21, 2016, 07:12:56 PM

stop caring

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: eleuin on September 21, 2016, 07:17:19 PM

Jerking it with that peppermint is better use of your time than reading dating articles

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 21, 2016, 09:37:54 PM

stop caring

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 21, 2016, 09:39:24 PM

I didn't mean to double post but

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 21, 2016, 09:42:26 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 21, 2016, 03:29:21 PM

I'm going to die alone. Again. :stahp

(https://pbs.twimg.com/media/CsVbFAXVYAA7wfZ.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 21, 2016, 09:54:55 PM

Quote from: toku on September 21, 2016, 09:39:24 PM

I didn't mean to double post but

It worked for me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 21, 2016, 10:01:36 PM

Just don't image her in the hot languid clutches of Chad Thundercock. Just don't do it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 21, 2016, 10:45:25 PM

Too late. :brazilcry

I should've just went for it and gave her a big smooch on the lips (then again... a Chad probably fucked her mouth already :doge) while we were grinning at each other in her car. I didn't take any initiative. I just sat there like a brain dead invalid. :(

edit: I probably need to start asking for girl's numbers IRL. This Tinder shit makes me feel like I am but one average dick in a endless sea of dicks. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 21, 2016, 10:50:17 PM

Meh those kinds of should haves are almost never realistic. Also, statistically, she has an STD

spoiler (click to show/hide)

from Chad Thundercock

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 21, 2016, 11:02:59 PM

Quote from: toku on September 21, 2016, 09:39:24 PM

I didn't mean to double post but

The best is how the same people liked both posts.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 21, 2016, 11:03:01 PM

No offense Pallo, I may not be hip with the kids and their facespace and mybooks but maybe starting on Tinder is a bit like diving into the deep end?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 21, 2016, 11:14:53 PM

Eh, it's less scary than going up to some random girl and asking for her number.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 21, 2016, 11:15:56 PM

Maybe other sites like OK Cupid or Plenty of Fish? Farmers only???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 21, 2016, 11:20:24 PM

Or just cut the bullshit and do Seeking Arrangement.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 21, 2016, 11:26:27 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on September 21, 2016, 11:15:56 PM

Maybe other sites like OK Cupid or Plenty of Fish? Farmers only???

Those sites typically want you to write up a résumé about yourself and take super in depth surveys which just ends up alienating you from most women that use that (OKC) site.

Also, they would always match me with these grotesque women. :doge

With Tinder I at least got two dates with two fairly attractive women under my belt. With OKC I got zilch.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 21, 2016, 11:39:53 PM

Not directly and not recently. Also, a couple of my friends are kinda in the same boat as me. :doge

Also, I just recently learned that one of my friends from college is actually heavily medicated and turned into a super extrovert once he started taking his meds during his freshman year of college. So... he kinda has this abnormal advantage with women.

I once asked him, back in college (not BJU. the other one I ended up at afterwards) if he could help me out in some way and he was like "Errr. I don't know what to say, man. Sorry. Best of luck."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 22, 2016, 01:05:19 AM

Okay okay. Christ. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 22, 2016, 01:17:22 AM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on September 22, 2016, 12:38:41 AM

Jesus christ, the girl might just be busy with stuff and doesn't have time to respond yet. She doesn't owe you shit but you're acting like she signed your wizard application for you.

Seriously, stop caring.

For sure. The dude is flipping between the proper smooch technique and buying menthol clit cream. He is in maximum pussy-pedestaling mode which is unhealthy and he needs to realize that feelings are usually a mutual thing rather than fussing all over his "methodology". Pallando boy, send her a text again tomorrow saying:

"I think I like you......so I wouldn't be opposed at all to hanging out again this weekend. No worries though if you didn't think we mesh and good luck to you out there. =]"

And boom. You get over the fact that this shit is supposed to feel painful and awkward when it's real motherfucking life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 22, 2016, 01:22:06 AM

:noooo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 22, 2016, 01:29:44 AM

I still and will always believe in you Pollando. Gonna be a beautiful moment when you come back in her you got the cheeks but then you're like "that was it..? I wasted so much of my life worrying about this?" but bless up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 22, 2016, 08:09:45 AM

print out a picture from her profile, jerk off on it and then take a picture and send it to her.

"for you, bae"

spoiler (click to show/hide)

bae is what the cool kids say now, right?

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on September 22, 2016, 08:16:52 AM

Quote from: Dufus on September 22, 2016, 08:02:10 AM

Quote from: brawndolicious on September 22, 2016, 01:17:22 AM
Pallando boy, send her a text again tomorrow saying:

"I think I like you [...]"

wait what :doge

Pallando, I recommend not to send defeatist, passive aggressive texts like this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 22, 2016, 08:30:17 AM

Also if she responds with "oh hey I was busy sorry blah blah blah" don't respond ASAP. Take your time too. Don't want to look thirsty. I'm not saying wait a day but you know, a couple hours or so.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 22, 2016, 09:25:07 AM

Also, when I got into online dating it took me like 6 months before I actually went on a date with someone. So you've just started and already been on at least one so you're already miles ahead of me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 22, 2016, 10:01:51 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on September 22, 2016, 08:09:45 AM

print out a picture from her profile, jerk off on it and then take a picture and send it to her.

"for you, bae"

spoiler (click to show/hide)
bae is what the cool kids say now, right?
[close]

Ah yes, the Amir0x method of courting women.

I think I'll pass. :doge

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on September 22, 2016, 09:25:07 AM

Also, when I got into online dating it took me like 6 months before I actually went on a date with someone. So you've just started and already been on at least one so you're already miles ahead of me.

This was on OKC, right?

And I've been on and off struggling with online dating since... I wanna say 2012 (the year I lost a bunch of weight). And I realize now that I can get a date quicker if I figure out what kind of comedy the girl is into and make my sense of humor line up with theirs. And then after a few more back and forths I just say the standard "it's been a joy chatting with you. I have some other obligations I need to attend to. Here's my number. Text me whenever you want this week so we can possibly set something up for this weekend."

Now I just need to figure out how not to scare them away after the first date. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 22, 2016, 11:51:45 AM

"gotta run, sweet cheeks. hit me up"

It's all about learning how to talk to a lady.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on September 22, 2016, 11:58:56 AM

Quote from: Dufus on September 22, 2016, 11:50:39 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 22, 2016, 10:01:51 AM
"it's been a joy chatting with you. I have some other obligations I need to attend to. Here's my number. Text me whenever you want this week so we can possibly set something up for this weekend."

:rofl might as well go all the way and add m'lady at the end of that message

:dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 22, 2016, 12:10:31 PM

That's not verbatim, btw. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 22, 2016, 12:11:05 PM

How much worse was the real thing?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 22, 2016, 12:16:51 PM

"People are starting to want stuff from me at work so I gotta split. But if you want to chat some more and arrange something for later my number is [number]. Feel free to hit me up whenever this week."

:doge

This is verbatim what I chatted to #2 on Tinder before she texted me back shortly after.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 22, 2016, 12:21:40 PM

Hit me up before you go go. Don't leave me hanging on like a yo-yo.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 22, 2016, 12:24:52 PM

I don't think many 22 year olds are familiar with Wham! songs unless it was on Family Guy at some point. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 22, 2016, 12:26:46 PM

You could always invite her to take on you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 22, 2016, 12:46:47 PM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on September 22, 2016, 08:16:52 AM

Quote from: Dufus on September 22, 2016, 08:02:10 AM
Quote from: brawndolicious on September 22, 2016, 01:17:22 AM
Pallando boy, send her a text again tomorrow saying:

"I think I like you [...]"

wait what :doge

Pallando, I recommend not to send defeatist, passive aggressive texts like this.

I'm extremely sarcastic when it comes to "failure" so that's how I text. Basically I think he should be forward and respectful but not make it seem like he thinks he's running out of chances.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 22, 2016, 12:52:14 PM

@brawndoliscious

Did your approach ever get you another date/chance to meet up with them again?

edit: some imbalanced looking cosplayer chick just super liked me... :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 22, 2016, 06:23:01 PM

go for it. Just don't ask them what intersectional feminism is.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 22, 2016, 06:32:26 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 22, 2016, 12:52:14 PM

@brawndoliscious

Did your approach ever get you another date/chance to meet up with them again?

edit: some unbalanced looking cosplayer chick just super liked me... :doge

I don't usually give this advice but

HIT IT AND QUIT IT

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 22, 2016, 07:11:48 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 22, 2016, 12:52:14 PM

@brawndoliscious

Did your approach ever get you another date/chance to meet up with them again?

edit: some unbalanced looking cosplayer chick just super liked me... :doge

yes I wouldn't give you advice that I wouldn't follow. It might help to know that I dress like an Arab in a Norman Rockwell painting so girls don't usually assume I'm going to be a try-hard simp who just wants to get laid. But I've been where you are waiting for a response and the reason could be that she's not interested or busy/forgetful or that she even thinks I expect something more serious than what she wants. The last one especially makes sense for you since you were a bit shy on your last date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 22, 2016, 08:34:05 PM

I'm cutting Atramental some slack because he's doing in a few weeks what takes most people a few years (the awkward high school years).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 22, 2016, 08:40:45 PM

I am a fast learner when I put my mind to something.

Hopefully by next month I'll graduate to those semi-awkward college years.

And then by late November I'll be your friendly neighborhood dick slinger. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 22, 2016, 09:03:25 PM

I've been trying to help you graduate to the semi-awkward college years with all my advice.

Get drunk and fuck a fatty.

The sooner you loose these standards the better

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on September 22, 2016, 09:04:57 PM

After a good while, I'm gonna see my lady friend again tomorrow. Unfortunately, like I mentioned before, since both our living situations are both unfortunate, I had to rent a hotel.

Do you guys do that often? This is the first time I had to actually get a hotel. It's never been a problem until now. And goddamn, hotels are fucking expensive. Even the shitty ones. :punch

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 22, 2016, 09:23:14 PM

Luring cosplay girl into my web (that sounds so bad...). I'm probably going to have to drink a lot to stand this woman-child for longer than 5 minutes but I need practice. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 22, 2016, 09:24:53 PM

Quote from: Huff on September 22, 2016, 09:03:25 PM

I've been trying to help you graduate to the semi-awkward college years with all my advice.

Get drunk and fuck a fatty.

The sooner you loose these standards the better

If only I realized I liked both beer and fatties in college...

So many chances to tap some bbw puss in college and I blew it. I mean I went to school in Buffalo which is one of the fattest parts of the country :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 22, 2016, 09:36:57 PM

Quote from: Oblivion on September 22, 2016, 09:04:57 PM

After a good while, I'm gonna see my lady friend again tomorrow. Unfortunately, like I mentioned before, since both our living situations are both unfortunate, I had to rent a hotel.

Do you guys do that often? This is the first time I had to actually get a hotel. It's never been a problem until now. And goddamn, hotels are fucking expensive. Even the shitty ones. :punch

Don't get a shitty one. Find one that is decent enough so that it doesn't kill the mood. It's also not a bad idea to get one that's close to some decent restaurants - somewhere that's local, not a Olive Garden/Applebees/etc type place. No offense to Olive Garden obviously, it's my heart, but my dick says find a nicer spot.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 22, 2016, 09:38:07 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 22, 2016, 09:23:14 PM

Luring cosplay girl into my web (that sounds so bad...). I'm probably going to have to drink a lot to stand this woman-child for longer than 5 minutes but I need practice. :doge

Why even worry about this. Just get drunk together and nut a few times on her tits then part ways.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 22, 2016, 09:40:17 PM

Nut in her and have really messed up children.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 22, 2016, 09:42:28 PM

I would pay for the abortion so fast you wouldn't even see the money leaving my wallet. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 22, 2016, 09:45:19 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on September 22, 2016, 09:38:07 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 22, 2016, 09:23:14 PM
Luring cosplay girl into my web (that sounds so bad...). I'm probably going to have to drink a lot to stand this woman-child for longer than 5 minutes but I need practice. :doge
Why even worry about this. Just get drunk together and nut a few times on her tits then part ways.

Should I aim at doing this back at her place or just do it an alley behind a dumpster? :doge

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Joking. Kinda...

[close]

Hell, I'll settle for a blowjob behind a dumpster if I have to. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 22, 2016, 09:46:59 PM

Her place. Duh. How is that even a q. You can't DENNIS a chick if she knows where u live.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 22, 2016, 09:48:46 PM

I should probably refrain from giving her my actual phone number as well. Gotta get that "burner" app or whatever it is that generates disposable phone numbers. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 22, 2016, 09:51:09 PM

Nah give ur # so you have a booty call in ur side pocket when u need a fallback pussy. She may hate you if you go dark after a hookup but if she has appropriately low self esteem you can probably get your nut anyway.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 22, 2016, 10:05:34 PM

Quote from: tiesto on September 22, 2016, 09:24:53 PM

Quote from: Huff on September 22, 2016, 09:03:25 PM
I've been trying to help you graduate to the semi-awkward college years with all my advice.

Get drunk and fuck a fatty.

The sooner you loose these standards the better

If only I realized I liked both beer and fatties in college...

So many chances to tap some bbw puss in college and I blew it. I mean I went to school in Buffalo which is one of the fattest parts of the country :P

Cheers!

I don't even like bbws. I just like their self esteem issues

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 22, 2016, 10:16:07 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on September 22, 2016, 09:51:09 PM

Nah give ur # so you have a booty call in ur side pocket when u need a fallback pussy. She may hate you if you go dark after a hookup but if she has appropriately low self esteem you can probably get your nut anyway.

The logistics are a bit complicated tho since she lives NC and I live in SC

I guess go to NC, get drunk with her in downtown Asheville, drunk drive back to her place (assuming she doesn't live downtown), nut, "sleep", leave quietly in the early morning? :doge

edit: or drink downtown, drink some more at her place until we're drunk, make out, nut, "sleep", leave? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 22, 2016, 10:27:46 PM

(https://66.media.tumblr.com/e9613cda669c15ffafca41ebd3803bfb/tumblr_odddf7EIQR1r5tymxo1_540.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 22, 2016, 10:34:02 PM

Altra, you are welcome to crash on my couch in Asheville.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 22, 2016, 10:34:09 PM

Ur plan of action is as follows:

1 Nut at home (v important)
2 Go meet her at a bar nearish her place but too far 2 walk after dark
3 Get drunk
4 Make out at bar (drunk pda = bone zone)
5 Pay for Uber to her house (v important see 9)
6 Nut
7 Sleep
8 Wake up and nut
9 Get her to drive u back to ur car as thanks for the 2 aforementioned nuts
10 maybe hook up again, date, wife up and Procreate or just archive her # for future nut use

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 22, 2016, 10:41:16 PM

She seems like the "dating" type though. Or is this a "read between the lines" scenario?

Or don't tell me... Most girls secretly want to get their box stretched on the first "date" but don't say so because they don't want to seem slutty? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 22, 2016, 10:42:13 PM

Who cares about 'types' just follow the list

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 22, 2016, 10:44:10 PM

Quote from: Huff on September 22, 2016, 10:34:02 PM

Altra, you are welcome to crash on my couch in Asheville.

You're not in Florida?

Edit: Arvie, are you sure these super likes help? I don't seem to be getting jack shit from them...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 22, 2016, 10:52:41 PM

In NC for the next year at least

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 22, 2016, 11:01:16 PM

Ah. Well I'll be sure to let you know if I need that couch of yours.

edit: cosplay chick offered me dinner and/or coffee when I'm up in Asheville.

I'm going to shoot for dinner because there is no way in hell I'm going to nut on this chick stone cold sober when the sun is still up. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 22, 2016, 11:19:33 PM

worked for me. also the girls who initiate talking.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 22, 2016, 11:32:31 PM

Getting date #3 with girl #3 in order tomorrow afternoon.

And wow, I actually don't give a shit how this all plays out. I just want to check out Asheville since it's been forever since I've been up there. :doge

edit: Huff, I probably need you to PM me your number. I may need that couch sooner than I thought. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 22, 2016, 11:46:39 PM

check you pms

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 22, 2016, 11:47:01 PM

also im going to spy on your date

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on September 22, 2016, 11:50:03 PM

Quote from: Huff on September 22, 2016, 11:46:39 PM

check you pms

:hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 22, 2016, 11:59:55 PM

:gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 23, 2016, 12:04:53 AM

Quote from: Huff on September 22, 2016, 11:47:01 PM

also im going to spy on your date

She's a big fucking nerd from what I've scoped out with an okay face (Not my type really. Too angular).

At least she has nice tits. 👌

I pray to god she doesn't have the same cringy demeanor of those "foam girls" or whatever that cringy YouTube vid was called. :snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 23, 2016, 12:17:12 AM

1) You don't have a type yet

2) check you PMs fucker

3) we gunna get you laid by a fatty

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 23, 2016, 12:31:42 AM

Pallo you must first get laid before claiming to have a "type"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 23, 2016, 12:32:05 AM

Quote from: 213372bu on September 22, 2016, 06:31:48 PM

Ask her to cosplay as FemAtra.

That... that might be a possibility.

She has an "Elizabeth from Bioshock Infinite" wig. :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 23, 2016, 01:22:49 AM

Yessss

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 23, 2016, 01:33:40 AM

Trust the universe and be rewarded.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 23, 2016, 01:49:43 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 23, 2016, 01:33:40 AM

Trust the universe and be rewarded.

(http://i.imgur.com/EVJ3Dgl.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 23, 2016, 06:31:04 AM

Oh... Anyone here care to share with the class on how the fuck you go from talking about 1st date nonsense to her dropping her panties for you? :doge

A lot of assumptions were being made that I have the (non-existent) skill to do so.

edit She just turned 21 as well so drinking shouldn't be an issue.

edit: I could just imagine myself, after a couple drinks, being like... "Ey gurl... Are you trying to get the pipe?"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 23, 2016, 07:50:14 AM

I've got a nice smokey, low tone voice I can bring out when I'm relaxed ...key word being "relaxed".

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 23, 2016, 07:53:57 AM

Quote from: Huff on September 22, 2016, 10:05:34 PM

Quote from: tiesto on September 22, 2016, 09:24:53 PM
Quote from: Huff on September 22, 2016, 09:03:25 PM
I've been trying to help you graduate to the semi-awkward college years with all my advice.

Get drunk and fuck a fatty.

The sooner you loose these standards the better

If only I realized I liked both beer and fatties in college...

So many chances to tap some bbw puss in college and I blew it. I mean I went to school in Buffalo which is one of the fattest parts of the country :P

Cheers!

I don't even like bbws. I just like their self esteem issues

I'm the other way around... hence why my last relationship failed. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 23, 2016, 08:30:51 AM

Go with the flow. It's her place, she'll set the rules of the game. Just know that sometimes the rules say "go," and when it time to go you have to be ready. Take iniative. If she wants to fuck you'll know.

And if the pants do come off...don't tell her you're a virgin or cop pleas. Again, go with the flow. But know your limitations. I'm going to assume your stroke game isn't great, but I'd imagine most white chicks in the south haven't experienced decent stroke game. So like I said ages ago you have to compensate with something: eat her out. Kissing will probably be awkward but kissing her neck is easy. Sucking her breasts is easy. Kiss down to her navel and lick it. Kiss her thighs. That area of the groin that's between the thigh and vagina, when her legs are spread apart? Lick that area trust me. Lick around her vagina without actually licking it yet. You're building anticipation. You want her wet before your tongue or dick enter Valhalla. I'm hoping you've familiarized yourself with the areas of the vagina by now. Know where to find the clit, it's very easy. Just think wizard of oz: you're pulling up the hood/cloak and then you see it.

Don't attack it outright. Lick around it and then light tongue pressure. Increase as you go. Assuming she doesn't tell you "keep doing it like that" you want to alternate a bit. Maybe lick the clit, suck it, lick the area of the groin area I mentioned, go back to the clit, thighs, etc. And then go ham on the clit.

We'll discuss fingers later. But the point of this is that by the time you stick your dick in you've already made yourself memorable, maybe she nutted if you did it right/she's in the mood, and she doesn't simply remember your time as awkward kisses and struggle strokes. Trust me, if you eat her pussy right she'll drive to you next weekend.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 23, 2016, 08:32:33 AM

She's obv into anime so it seems to me you can go to her pad and watch bible black or maybe la blue girl :rash

PDs post tho :lawd :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 23, 2016, 10:41:02 AM

Try to fist her on your first date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 23, 2016, 11:28:48 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on September 23, 2016, 10:41:02 AM

Try to fist her on your first date.

Pass... :donot

edit: Also, now that I think about it, this girl looks like a hardy version of Faye Reagan. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 23, 2016, 04:16:56 PM

Hopefully not on the inside :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 23, 2016, 04:22:32 PM

Not a hardy Ronald Reagan? :goty

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 23, 2016, 06:35:56 PM

I don't understand the bottom part. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 23, 2016, 06:51:46 PM

you know nothing pallan do

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 23, 2016, 08:11:19 PM

Update: I've scheduled date #3 with cosplay girl for next Saturday. Which works better for both of us because she has a friend coming into town this Saturday and I'm fucking exhausted & don't want to do jack shit this weekend.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 23, 2016, 08:59:03 PM

I'll be out of town, so better seal the deal and spoon all night

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 23, 2016, 09:12:12 PM

We shall see. We shall see. 😒

Also, I'm thinking it would be good to shower together before going down on this chick but I dunno. Thoughts?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 23, 2016, 09:16:22 PM

Probably, but while you're making such plans do you have a plan for when Batman bursts into said shower and "Robin! To the batmobile!!"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 23, 2016, 09:22:18 PM

Speaking for myself, I always get a girl to cum faster and more reliably by fingerbanging her, not by eating her out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 23, 2016, 09:41:10 PM

I'll be sure to cut & file my finger nails before hand. :doge

And I hear that the "come hither" motion with the index and middle finger is rather effective.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 23, 2016, 09:59:14 PM

Every girl gets off differently but you want to go slow and take your time. Don't just shove your fingers up her vag.

Also if her chest starts getting flushed, you're on the right track /broscience

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 23, 2016, 10:07:49 PM

Oh nice, one of the girls I "super liked" liked me back. But she lives 100 miles away in Augusta, GA...

Hmm... Wonder if I can squeeze her in for Friday next week. 🤔

My poor car is going to need to get serviced again if I keep on traveling all over the southeast just to get my dick wet. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 23, 2016, 10:38:35 PM

One of my ex girlfriends was from Augusta/Thompson, GA. It was hard getting excited to fuck her after she said "Wee stonkey" once when I made her cum. Never forget :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 23, 2016, 10:41:50 PM

"Wee stonkey" :wtf

Also, according to girl #4's profile it says she's originally from Minnesota. Plus, she looks classy and wicked smart too. :like

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 23, 2016, 11:11:57 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 23, 2016, 09:41:10 PM

I'll be sure to cut & file my finger nails before hand. :doge

And I hear that the "come hither" motion with the index and middle finger is rather effective.

Yea, that's how you find the g-spot. She'll help guide you. Go slow to start. And lick your finger before you put it in.

Also if you firmly press down with your finger you'll stimulate her anus. Some chicks really like that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 24, 2016, 01:06:16 AM

Awww. Girl #3 is drunk texting me. :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on September 24, 2016, 01:13:20 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 23, 2016, 06:35:56 PM

I don't understand the bottom part. :doge

:hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 24, 2016, 01:16:17 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 24, 2016, 01:06:16 AM

Awww. Girl #3 is drunk texting me. :P

Ask if she likes weasels - no matter how she answers send her a dick pic. It's ok because shes drunk.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on September 24, 2016, 09:53:08 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on September 23, 2016, 10:38:35 PM

One of my ex girlfriends was from Augusta/Thompson, GA. It was hard getting excited to fuck her after she said "Wee stonkey" once when I made her cum. Never forget :'(

Wee stonkey? Was your ex Yangus from Dragon Quest 8?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on September 24, 2016, 10:25:44 AM

This man has never gotten his dick wet and yall are telling him to start out by eating her out? As if that's not even more complicated if you've never done it before? How he's gonna compensate for a weak stroke game with a weak tongue game? :confused

Actually don't mind me, I'll go back to watching this thread for entertainment.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 24, 2016, 10:31:04 AM

At least she'll appreciate the attempt :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 24, 2016, 11:50:08 AM

Quote from: 213372bu on September 23, 2016, 07:03:36 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 23, 2016, 06:35:56 PM
I don't understand the bottom part. :doge
(Tom) Hardy was Bane, Faye Reagan is a redhead porn star.

I was going to make that the end of the shitpost until I remembered about the Bane impersonators in Meme Lovers and that the pornstar in it was a redhead.

spoiler (click to show/hide)
It seemed more clever when I first posted it :(
[close]

I liked it. Have a pat on the back.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 24, 2016, 12:16:56 PM

Quote from: Beezy on September 24, 2016, 10:25:44 AM

This man has never gotten his dick wet and yall are telling him to start out by eating her out? As if that's not even more complicated if you've never done it before? How he's gonna compensate for a weak stroke game with a weak tongue game? :confused

Actually don't mind me, I'll go back to watching this thread for entertainment.

You're right.

Pallo watch Nina Hartley's guide to cunnilinguis first

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: eleuin on September 24, 2016, 12:52:36 PM

low self-esteem cosplay girls :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 24, 2016, 01:25:42 PM

Quote from: tiesto on September 24, 2016, 09:53:08 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on September 23, 2016, 10:38:35 PM
One of my ex girlfriends was from Augusta/Thompson, GA. It was hard getting excited to fuck her after she said "Wee stonkey" once when I made her cum. Never forget :'(

Wee stonkey? Was your ex Yangus from Dragon Quest 8?

I don't understand that reference

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 24, 2016, 01:37:35 PM

Quote from: Beezy on September 24, 2016, 10:25:44 AM

This man has never gotten his dick wet and yall are telling him to start out by eating her out? As if that's not even more complicated if you've never done it before? How he's gonna compensate for a weak stroke game with a weak tongue game? :confused

Actually don't mind me, I'll go back to watching this thread for entertainment.

TBH eating pussy is probably easier than fucking if you're new to this. There will be less confusion over positions, angles, etc etc. I can imagine Pallando torturing himself during sex with all types of second guesses. Should I just lay on top of her, should I use my hands to keep myself upright, am I going too fast, omg did the condom break, etc etc etc.

Whereas with eating pussy it's pretty simple.
:yeshrug

Struggle strokes on the first date...nah, we're not about that life here Beezy. Eating her out you know you're hitting the right spot and she's enjoying it. That is...assuming you follow the advice and find the clit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 24, 2016, 01:52:56 PM

Lick her butthole too. Surprise her with that. Worst case scenario she has a wet butthole.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 24, 2016, 02:35:02 PM

Y'all I thought we were supposed to be helping 🤔

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 24, 2016, 02:45:24 PM

Analingus is too advanced. I feel like we've got to start at the beginning.

eating pussy
finger bang
eating ass

We haven't even discussed stroke game theory yet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 24, 2016, 02:48:59 PM

Fingerbanging is excellent for beginners. It's not that hard to make a girl come from fingerbanging unless she has been using a Hitachi wand all her life.

I wouldn't eat her pussy or ass unless you know her better. I'd hate for you to get herpes or pink eye your first time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 24, 2016, 03:46:34 PM

Literally the first sex thing I ever did was go down on a chick.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 24, 2016, 03:56:07 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on September 24, 2016, 01:52:56 PM

Lick her butthole too. Surprise her with that. Worst case scenario she has a wet butthole.

And if she doesn't protest at that, put a finger in. The long one.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 24, 2016, 04:00:46 PM

Don't really do that. But do rub her butthole with a wet thumb with a slight pressure that makes her anxious that you are thinking about sticking it in. When you don't you'll establish trust.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 24, 2016, 05:18:28 PM

This is all becoming too advanced too quick. :doge

And there's no way in hell I'm doing butt related activities with someone I just met. :doge

Quote from: Tasty Meat on September 24, 2016, 01:13:20 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 23, 2016, 06:35:56 PM
I don't understand the bottom part. :doge

:hitler

Heh. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 24, 2016, 05:39:09 PM

http://flyandfamousblackgirls.tumblr.com/post/137472794799/advice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 24, 2016, 06:10:03 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 24, 2016, 05:39:09 PM

http://flyandfamousblackgirls.tumblr.com/post/137472794799/advice

should be a gaf thread tbh

shes right tho. you needs to suck enough in to swirl around in your mouth like a lollipop.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 24, 2016, 07:29:42 PM

Taking a break from dating for a while. The reason why I'm taking a break is I made some pretty :snoop decisions in the past few weeks.

That means I'm going to be downloading a lot more porn so I will post more in the :nsfw thread

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 24, 2016, 08:13:44 PM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on September 24, 2016, 07:29:42 PM

Taking a break from dating for a while. The reason why I'm taking a break is I made some pretty :snoop decisions in the past few weeks.

That means I'm going to be downloading a lot more porn so I will post more in the :nsfw thread

what happened fam

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 24, 2016, 08:21:00 PM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on September 24, 2016, 07:29:42 PM

Taking a break from dating for a while. The reason why I'm taking a break is I made some pretty :snoop decisions in the past few weeks.

That means I'm going to be downloading a lot more porn so I will post more in the :nsfw thread

Relationship problems?
:brazilcry

The NSFW thread will continue getting awesome content?
:rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on September 24, 2016, 08:43:05 PM

My chill levels increased exponentially when I made the decision to quit dating for the forseeable future. I already got enough shit to stress about. If I'm not dead in like five years I might give it another shot, but until then fuck all that shit. 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 24, 2016, 08:43:49 PM

I intentionally tried to knock up the girl I was seeing. She wanted to get pregnant as well.

:snoop

Will be an interesting few weeks to hear if she will be late or not.

On a better note...

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on September 24, 2016, 08:21:00 PM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on September 24, 2016, 07:29:42 PM
Taking a break from dating for a while. The reason why I'm taking a break is I made some pretty :snoop decisions in the past few weeks.

That means I'm going to be downloading a lot more porn so I will post more in the :nsfw thread
Relationship problems?
:brazilcry

The NSFW thread will continue getting awesome content?
:rejoice

Yes!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 24, 2016, 08:45:24 PM

:doge

:doge

:doge!!!!!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 24, 2016, 08:56:38 PM

Knocking some girl up seems pretty dumb.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 24, 2016, 08:57:18 PM

I do swipe right on preggo chicks because that seems kinda hot to fuck one

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 24, 2016, 08:59:11 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/pertzmx.gif)

1. you have good money
2. you have a good job
3. you're young

what the fuck :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 24, 2016, 09:02:23 PM

:lol I know, that's why I need to take a step back for a while

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 24, 2016, 09:43:09 PM

My dude.

I know a dude who makes real good money (IT). Got a chick pregnant in his 20s. A stripper
:dead

Now he's fucked, and I mean really fucked.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 24, 2016, 09:48:21 PM

That nut when u conceive feels so good tho.

(https://67.media.tumblr.com/f4010cfb98342c6c2867c3ec672be5e7/tumblr_nupst4crK11txt22yo1_500.gif)

I know that feeling well. I can identify when it happens. it's a high that is hard not to chase. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 24, 2016, 10:06:27 PM

y'all need Jesus.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 24, 2016, 11:32:53 PM

To turn Whore's whore's budding fetus into wine?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 25, 2016, 10:38:55 AM

I'm already thinking of all the stuff I want to buy and things I want to do in order to sublimate my sex drive.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 25, 2016, 11:12:54 AM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on September 25, 2016, 10:38:55 AM

I'm already thinking of all the stuff I want to buy and things I want to do in order to sublimate my sex drive.

do something instead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 25, 2016, 12:59:23 PM

Accidentally shot girl #4 the wrong gif on tinder (A stupid you make me melt gif with two animated grilled chilled sandwiches :snoop) and sent her a message being like "whoops... Hey, [name]. How was your week?" :snoop

I guess I can cross this chick off of my list and just focus on #3/cosplay chick. Who I can already tell is not going to put out this coming Saturday. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 25, 2016, 01:00:09 PM

LMFAO

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 25, 2016, 01:01:08 PM

In for a penny in for a pound Pallo.
If you make a mistake. Make it all the way.
You should've been like "Sorry, that was a little cheesy."
Don't half-ass things.
Sometimes they'll admire your commitment to the mistake.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 25, 2016, 01:01:37 PM

I guess I should unmatch with #4 to save myself from this embarrassment but let's see what happens...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 25, 2016, 01:09:36 PM

Jesus.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

This mostly hurts because I remember when I was like this and had feelings and shit.

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 25, 2016, 02:17:08 PM

Nah. Too much time has passed. (If she responds back I'll make a joke about it.)

Also, if date #3 with girl #3 doesn't pan out into something more I'm going to take a break and try to get a bunch of my shit in order.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 25, 2016, 02:23:21 PM

Does chatting with 2 people online really require that much effort you need to make a break :gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 25, 2016, 02:24:48 PM

I'm juggling work stuff as well. Which I've been slacking on because of this tinder nonsense.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on September 25, 2016, 02:25:49 PM

Quote from: Huff on September 25, 2016, 02:23:21 PM

Does chatting with 2 people online really require that much effort you need to make a break :gurl

Are you considering what you've seen in this thread? He's probably doing 'research' in-between messages. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 25, 2016, 03:43:38 PM

Quote from: Huff on September 25, 2016, 02:23:21 PM

Does chatting with 2 people online really require that much effort you need to make a break :gurl

If he is anything like me, this stuff is super energy zapping.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 25, 2016, 03:46:20 PM

I'm actually laying in bed right now. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on September 25, 2016, 03:59:38 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 25, 2016, 03:46:20 PM

I'm actually laying in bed right now. :-\

what u wearing

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 25, 2016, 04:02:02 PM

Shame. :brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on September 25, 2016, 04:09:06 PM

and nothing else? hot

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 25, 2016, 04:19:45 PM

I almost want to text #2 back and be like "Hey. If you don't have much going on next Friday night I'll eat you out."

But I won't because I'm not a psycho. :doge

spoiler (click to show/hide)

...or am I? 🤔

[close]

edit: or... "Hey, was I imagining things (or just drunk) but I thought we seemed to click well together." :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 25, 2016, 04:35:44 PM

instead of all that creepy bullshit why not just ask if she's got any plans next friday because you'd like to see her again.

Idk, just an idea.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 25, 2016, 04:41:22 PM

I like that idea better.

I'll text her that Wednesday. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 25, 2016, 04:54:00 PM

Or you could text her today lol why put a date on it?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 25, 2016, 04:54:52 PM

Who needs the 31 days of horror when we got this thread

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Purrp Skirrp on September 25, 2016, 05:01:50 PM

Pallando, you gotta stop reading articles and incessantly looking for reassurance.
Every time you run with an anxious thought and then act on it with a certain behavior or compulsion you're strengthening those neural pathways, reinforcing to your brain that this shit is worth worrying about (it isn't :shh).

Try not to stress when you get a thought in your head that bothers you. Generating thousands of thoughts a day with little quality control is what you're brain does -- you're fucking up if you attach meaning to every little thing you think.

Meditation/mindfulness might be worth looking into. People who aren't as neurotic, people without anxiety disorders like OCD, they might still have the same thoughts as you but they can let them go more easily.

So start challenging some of your thoughts, and be mindful whether your actions are actually helping you or if you're just rationalizing some bullshit under the guise of self-help.
I promise you the better you get with all this the more natural dating (and life) will feel. Just gotta get you out of your head, less inhibited, and more comfortable being in the moment thinking on your feet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 25, 2016, 05:07:55 PM

About to shoot #2 a text...
"Hey, got any plans next Friday?"

God, I feel like shit doing this but... fuckit, here goes nothing. :-\

edit: I... I can't...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 25, 2016, 05:10:30 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 25, 2016, 02:24:48 PM

I'm juggling work stuff as well. Which I've been slacking on because of this tinder nonsense.

Excel
:rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 25, 2016, 05:12:14 PM

Wtf dude just hit send -- you were willing to text some weird shit but that totally normal message? Just do it, failure is acceptable, not trying isn't

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 25, 2016, 05:14:22 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on September 25, 2016, 05:12:14 PM

Wtf dude just hit send -- you were willing to text some weird shit but that totally normal message? Just do it, failure is acceptable, not trying isn't

I haven't read all the background in this thread, but I can sort of understand it if the girls he's talking to are weirdos and he doesn't want to sound square with a normal message or something.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 25, 2016, 05:16:04 PM

nah man just send the fucking text

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 25, 2016, 05:16:12 PM

I mean this chick and I were joking about "A Serbian Film" and gay orgies on the BJU front lawn. On the first date! :doge

So...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 25, 2016, 05:17:38 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 25, 2016, 05:16:12 PM

I mean this chick and I were joking about "A Serbian Film" and gay orgies on the BJU lawn. On the first date! :doge

So...

you are what you're never gonna get, pussy.

Send the fucking text

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 25, 2016, 05:19:47 PM

Text sent.

Excuse me while I go dry heave...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 25, 2016, 05:24:42 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 25, 2016, 05:19:47 PM

Text sent.

Excuse me while I go dry heave...

proud of u

(http://i.imgur.com/l5bbPHD.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 25, 2016, 05:27:51 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 25, 2016, 04:19:45 PM

I almost want to text #2 back and be like "Hey. If you don't have much going on next Friday night I'll eat you out."

Quote

edit: or... "Hey, was I imagining things (or just drunk) but I thought we seemed to click well together." :doge

(https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-YVHP6VRPqco/UQQZxWUJFxI/AAAAAAAAHIo/U0iStEdFTLU/s1600/jimmy-mcnulty.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 25, 2016, 05:30:28 PM

It's gonna be alright bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 25, 2016, 05:30:36 PM

:lol

Were you expecting me to send those texts instead, Mac?

I'm crazy but NOT that crazy. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 25, 2016, 05:42:54 PM

Okay... :noah

But this trial and error shit is fucking painful and expensive (both emotionally & financially).

edit:
Oh, you guys would probably get a kick out of this ( :nsfw -ish ) :

spoiler (click to show/hide)

http://i.imgur.com/QDmOCaq.png?1

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 25, 2016, 06:02:06 PM

Just keep reminding yourself that you've done this before, ie you went on a successful date with a chick from the internet. Doing it again is nothing to worry about OR stress over. Whether it happens immediately or takes a bit is irrelevant...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 25, 2016, 10:20:06 PM

#3 is still texting me so... I've got that going for me. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 25, 2016, 10:42:53 PM

Flannel boy eventually found flannel girl so I have faith in you altra!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 25, 2016, 10:50:54 PM

Was Flannel Boy worse off than me? :doge

Actually, is there a way someone could link me to the whole "Flannel Saga"?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 26, 2016, 12:14:38 AM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on September 25, 2016, 04:54:52 PM

Who needs the 31 days of horror when we got this thread

I know, right? The suspense is palpable.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 26, 2016, 02:42:18 AM

Unless you're trying to marry a girl, you don't have to learn from your "mistakes". You just roll with them. Also don't act like dating is a thing that is really draining because gotdam that looks fucking desperate. The reality is that you didn't stay a virgin because you're a benchwarmer, but because you skipped the stupid, meaningless mistakes most of us made when we we got the opportunity. And now you're a prime piece of man-hymen intact masculinity.

Sometimes, everyone's a pussy but you're the only type that gets to be on a pedestal. :fistbump

not losing it for the sake of it :bow2

or religious bs :bow2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 26, 2016, 08:03:14 PM

Oh... just thought of this but should I get a HPV vaccination or any sort of vaccination before doing it? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on September 26, 2016, 08:04:17 PM

Stop trolling

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 26, 2016, 08:23:33 PM

careful, if you keep joking about being a pathetic loser you'll get stuck that way. it's like crossing your eyes too long.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: El Babua on September 26, 2016, 08:26:39 PM

Just like you being a fan of the little girl cartoons?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on September 26, 2016, 08:36:00 PM

Quote from: El Babua on September 26, 2016, 08:26:39 PM

Just like you being a fan of the little girl cartoons?

(https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-r3pWBIWZxPg/VzZv88zkx7I/AAAAAAAAAR8/xZfhigsC1pYbMOkXCxvCHsZ5FscNx6PCwCKgB/s1600/tumblr_mwvqfimUoU1t30debo1_500.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 26, 2016, 08:41:05 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 26, 2016, 08:03:14 PM

Oh... just thought of this but should I get a HPV vaccination or any sort of vaccination before doing it? :doge

You are too old for one.

If you give a girl cervical cancer, that's on her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 26, 2016, 09:13:46 PM

Man... They didn't teach us jack shit in abstinence only sex ed at my religious school... :doge :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 26, 2016, 09:33:00 PM

Really? seems like what they taught you worked

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 26, 2016, 10:06:53 PM

:stahp

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 26, 2016, 11:01:53 PM

Quote from: TheInfelicitousDandy on September 26, 2016, 09:33:00 PM

Really? seems like what they taught you worked

(http://i.imgur.com/dLuzC2p.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 26, 2016, 11:14:11 PM

Well the good news (for today) is that #3 is excited to see me this coming Saturday.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Also, her previous two boyfriends were scrawny sticks. :hitler

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 26, 2016, 11:24:13 PM

Arv with the deep soul burn, ouch

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 26, 2016, 11:31:47 PM

Only a soul as tortured as Arvie's can dish out so much pain. :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 26, 2016, 11:41:02 PM

I only say mean things because I can.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 26, 2016, 11:49:55 PM

And out of love

spoiler (click to show/hide)

love of burns lol

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on September 27, 2016, 09:29:35 AM

Quote from: TheInfelicitousDandy on September 26, 2016, 09:33:00 PM

Really? seems like what they taught you worked

(http://www.reactiongifs.com/r/gc.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 27, 2016, 12:52:46 PM

edit: I need to stop thinking about #2...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 27, 2016, 01:50:17 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 27, 2016, 12:52:46 PM

I need to stop thinking

fixed

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 27, 2016, 02:10:43 PM

Quote from: toku on September 27, 2016, 01:50:17 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 27, 2016, 12:52:46 PM
I need to stop thinking

fixed

Easier said than done. :doge 🤖

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on September 27, 2016, 07:37:04 PM

Yeah. Go take a walk in the park

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Shaka Khan on September 27, 2016, 08:37:31 PM

Quote from: toku on September 27, 2016, 01:50:17 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 27, 2016, 12:52:46 PM
I need to stop

fixed

Fixed

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 27, 2016, 09:37:54 PM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on September 27, 2016, 08:37:31 PM

Quote from: toku on September 27, 2016, 01:50:17 PM
Quote from: Pallando on September 27, 2016, 12:52:46 PM
I need to stop

fixed

Fixed

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on September 27, 2016, 11:11:31 PM

nm, don't want to put any pressure! Good luck man!!

(any likes on this post were from pre-edit)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 27, 2016, 11:31:49 PM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on September 27, 2016, 08:37:31 PM

Quote from: toku on September 27, 2016, 01:50:17 PM
Quote from: Pallando on September 27, 2016, 12:52:46 PM
stop

fixed

Fixed

Fixed

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on September 27, 2016, 11:47:51 PM

Kinda seeing two people. Both are semi long distance (1-2 hours away). I like both for different reasons.

This is totes going to blow up in my face.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 28, 2016, 09:36:29 PM

Is there anyway to add more "zest" to text convos before the first date without setting off red flags?

I'm getting tired of talking about movies, tv shows, pets, food, travel, etc. and this is only girl #3. :doge

I can't imagine doing this 10 more times with 10 (or more) completely different girls. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 28, 2016, 09:37:42 PM

What do you want to talk about?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 28, 2016, 09:38:40 PM

Oh I don't think that's gonna be an issue :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 28, 2016, 09:38:41 PM

Welcome to the dating life, bryh. Prepare to have the same conversations over and over. You will find out why there are people who dread being single, even if it means being in a shitty relationship.

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on September 28, 2016, 09:37:42 PM

What do you want to talk about?

Dank maymays

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 28, 2016, 09:45:38 PM

Fuuuuuuuck :-\

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on September 28, 2016, 09:37:42 PM

What do you want to talk about?

Philosophy.
Sexy, kinky stuff.
Dank Memes.

:doge

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Kidding about the 1st and 3rd one.

[close]

edit: I guess that it helps that girl #3 is a bit of a weeaboo and I can pull on her weeb heartstrings. Today I brought up Japanese food and how my bro and I were planning on visiting Japan one day. And a couple of days before that I brought up anime. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 28, 2016, 10:02:15 PM

This is how I tinder, I don't talk so much. After a day or two max I say something like it was nice talking to you text me sometime #. If she texts, I set up a date instead of just talking more. It saves energy and leaves small talk topics for the first date. That being said I've only ever got short term hookups out of tinder and rotten first dates.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 28, 2016, 10:06:00 PM

Short Term Hookups and Rotten First Dates is my favorite 80's synthpop album.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 28, 2016, 10:09:36 PM

Crying (It's the music that plays in my dreams) was a good song from that album.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on September 28, 2016, 10:22:36 PM

Quote from: Shaka Khan on September 27, 2016, 08:37:31 PM

Quote from: toku on September 27, 2016, 01:50:17 PM
Quote from: Pallando on September 27, 2016, 12:52:46 PM
I need some top

fixed

Fixed

fixed

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 28, 2016, 10:59:25 PM

Quote from: TheInfelicitousDandy on September 28, 2016, 10:09:36 PM

Crying (It's the music that plays in my dreams) was a good song from that album.

I Don't Even Care Anymore was my favorite.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on September 29, 2016, 12:45:07 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 28, 2016, 09:36:29 PM

Is there anyway to add more "zest" to text convos before the first date without setting off red flags?

I'm getting tired of talking about movies, tv shows, pets, food, travel, etc. and this is only girl #3. :doge

I can't imagine doing this 10 more times with 10 (or more) completely different girls. :-\

I don't understand how a guy with your level of overanalysis could have this problem. Why don't you just text about stuff you find interesting in order to find out more about them? You could start off by talking about college majors and then casually mentioning that you took a little bit of extra time to graduate because you got expelled from BJU for being an atheist. Boom you're in the philosophy zone of conversation.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on September 29, 2016, 07:38:25 AM

As I've said before, texting for me is only really for setting up the next date or shit like "Had a great time". It's total shit as a conversation medium unless you know her well, are in tune with each other's emotions and personality, etc.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 29, 2016, 09:47:21 AM

I'm probably not setting up boundaries as well as I could because all three girls have consistently texted me first, several days before the date. And then, on and off, they text me every other day.

Also, it probably doesn't help that I deliberately made my tinder bio very vague. Well... actually it does help because I don't end up pigeonholing myself as one thing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 29, 2016, 11:18:30 PM

Had a pretty engaging text conversation about design with #3.

She's studying to be a costume designer and I'm a graphic designer so there is some overlap in both of our industries.

And our date is still on for Saturday. Here's hoping I don't scare this one away. And she has more control over the situation so that helps. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 29, 2016, 11:22:26 PM

Quote from: Pallando on September 29, 2016, 11:18:30 PM

Had a pretty engaging text conversation about design with #3.

hahahahhaha

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 29, 2016, 11:23:30 PM

Wha? What's so funny? :tocry

edit: Oh. You're just drunk.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on September 30, 2016, 05:04:12 AM

Pallando, I found a new, winning technique for you:

spoiler (click to show/hide)

(http://i.imgur.com/KWcixk7.jpg)

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 30, 2016, 06:47:10 AM

Most younger people text more than talk on the phone. Personally I prefer to text as well.

Sounds like this could be s good date for you. No reason to be nervous, you've successfully done this before and I bet you'll do fine here too. And as always ask questions and be interested in what she's saying. Not "what do you like to do? Cool, so what do you like to eat? Ok. What are your hobbies?" An actual conversation.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on September 30, 2016, 11:05:08 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 29, 2016, 11:23:30 PM

Wha? What's so funny? :tocry

edit: Oh. You're just drunk.

If I remember, I wasn't laughing at you just the idea of having an engaging conversation about design.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 30, 2016, 07:56:22 PM

Date is all set up.

Gonna drive an hour to Asheville and then eat deliscious Indian food with this girl then possibly walk around and get some tea. :doge

(She was kinda adamant about not drinking too much.)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on September 30, 2016, 08:02:57 PM

asheville is a cool spot man, there is(was?) a hip mixed drink place that was in an old bank vault that was cool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 30, 2016, 08:43:24 PM

I was wondering how that would work out with your plans to get out of there

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 30, 2016, 09:14:03 PM

Quote from: toku on September 30, 2016, 08:02:57 PM

asheville is a cool spot man, there is(was?) a hip mixed drink place that was in an old bank vault that was cool

I'll ask her about it. Sounds like a cool place.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Boogie on September 30, 2016, 09:15:09 PM

Quote from: TheInfelicitousDandy on September 26, 2016, 09:33:00 PM

Really? seems like what they taught you worked

Holy shit I need to follow this thread more

:dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on September 30, 2016, 11:42:02 PM

Girl #3 might be bisexual. :lucas

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Then again, what girl isn't during college after a few drinks amiright? :drake

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 01, 2016, 01:52:42 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 30, 2016, 07:56:22 PM

Date is all set up.

Gonna drive an hour to Asheville and then eat deliscious Indian food with this girl then possibly walk around and get some tea. :doge

(She was kinda adamant about not drinking too much.)

Sounds like the kinda date I'd take a girl on! Is this the cosplayer weeb one? I'm pullin for ya, dude, good luck!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 01, 2016, 10:55:36 AM

Yep. #3 is a spunky 21 year old redhead weeb.

Also, she is fit/works out. So that's nice as well. :doge

I just hope we can vibe well together and I don't have to go through this whole process again with a potential girl #4. And if that is the case... I'll probably take a break and just regroup on a bunch of personal/professional stuff I've been putting off.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 01, 2016, 10:58:11 AM

Quote from: Pallando on September 30, 2016, 11:42:02 PM

Girl #3 might be bisexual. :lucas

spoiler (click to show/hide)
Then again, what girl isn't during college after a few drinks amiright? :drake
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this just doubles the number of people she'd rather bang

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 01, 2016, 10:52:47 PM

Date #3 went really well.

We made out twice.

She wants to see me again.

I'm going to drive home now.

😍

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 01, 2016, 11:00:21 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/T8cSsjL.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: El Babua on October 01, 2016, 11:06:05 PM

Fuckin finally

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 02, 2016, 12:19:58 AM

(http://i.imgur.com/rInUTCh.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 02, 2016, 01:01:32 AM

I even asked her about how her experience with tinder was going so far.

Her last two dates were really weird/awful. One guy showed up wearing a My Little Pony t-shirt and had a higher pitched voice than her's. The other guy showed up with a Doctor Who t-shirt and gave her a large sickening sweet bottle of wine that he got from his recent trip to Italy. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 02, 2016, 01:52:38 AM

(http://pm1.narvii.com/5759/b0093f39c06d8e8985ec50332de826116da73f89_hq.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 02, 2016, 01:54:23 AM

Also, my kissing/make out game is fucking weak.

Holy fuck I need to get better at this shit quick.

I mean, it's not every day you stick your tongue into someone else's mouth. Y'know? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on October 02, 2016, 02:18:02 AM

Unless you're smashing teeth together or biting something you shouldn't, it doesn't really matter. Let her take charge until you're good at it, maybe.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 02, 2016, 05:22:12 AM

Quote from: Tasty Meat on October 02, 2016, 02:18:02 AM

Unless you're smashing teeth together or biting something you shouldn't, it doesn't really matter. Let her take charge until you're good at it, maybe.

Yeah, this. Most people will give you what they're hoping to get back. If she's being tentative, stay conservative. If she's got her mouth open and is going for your tonsils, all bets are off. I find brief, light biting on the lips tends to work well as an invitation to more once things have started picking up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 02, 2016, 06:15:46 AM

Paint a picture for is Palladaddy. Details, small things, best part worst part, how did the kisses happen etc.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 02, 2016, 09:54:44 AM

so proud :tocry

in related news, my son (5 years old!) apparently has a 'girlfriend'. her name is molly and she has brown hair and is pretty. this explains his sudden interest in looking at himself in the mirror doing kissyface stuff. I get the feeling they hold hand and maybe dole out little kid style kisses. don't know if I should do anything about this or let it ride. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on October 02, 2016, 10:33:46 AM

Let it ride

Need to know who gets to second base first, your son or altra

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 02, 2016, 10:45:58 AM

Quote from: Huff on October 02, 2016, 10:33:46 AM

Let it ride

Need to know who gets to second base first, your son or altra

:dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: eleuin on October 02, 2016, 10:46:35 AM

(http://i.imgur.com/CcwJ0YO.gif)

I'll save the crying gifs for when the deed is done

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 02, 2016, 11:25:36 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on October 02, 2016, 09:54:44 AM

so proud :tocry

in related news, my son (5 years old!) apparently has a 'girlfriend'. her name is molly and she has brown hair and is pretty. this explains his sudden interest in looking at himself in the mirror doing kissyface stuff. I get the feeling they hold hand and maybe dole out little kid style kisses. don't know if I should do anything about this or let it ride. :doge

Fact. Gay people dress better. You sure you want to encourage experimentation with girls? Squash it now and you will be getting fabulous xmas gifts for the rest of your life. Just send him to a British boarding school.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 02, 2016, 02:42:00 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 02, 2016, 06:15:46 AM

Paint a picture for us Palladaddy. Details, small things, best part worst part, how did the kisses happen etc.

I'll try to keep this short because I have a bunch of stuff I need to do today.

>The drive up to Asheville was absolutely beautiful. I felt pure euphoria washing over my being as the sun was setting and the light was dancing across the tree enveloped mountains.
>Got to Asheville. Holy fuck, hippy/hipster city. I had never been to downtown on a Saturday night. It was fucking wild. People everywhere. People riding bikes everywhere. A big purple repurposed school bus (http://www.lazoomtours.com/), with cackling people inside of it, was behind me while I was trying to find parking. It's like someone extracted a heavy dose of Portland, OR and used an eye dropper to place that dosage up near the mountains in North Carolina. :doge
>Parking was a bitch to find in the tangled, tight mess that is Asheville. But I found a spot (happened to be the same parking lot my date had parked at as well)
>Started walking to the Indian restaurant.
>There were two girls waiting outside. Put my glasses on really quick to make sure I was walking toward the right one. I was.
>Briskly walked up to her, greeted her, gave her a quick friendly hug.
>We walked inside. It was packed.
>The hostess told me to give her my phone and she would call once there was a table ready.
>So me and #3 decided to walk around Asheville for a bit and talk.
>Hostess called my phone and said our spot was ready. We walked back. Got there. Sat down. Ordered the same dish (lamb curry). She was happy that I was a fellow meat eater and was not a Vegetarian/Vegan (like a lot of people in Asheville, apparently). :doge
>She's a big Mass Effect fan. I asked her how she reacted to ME3's ending. She said was a blubbering mess over it. Haha. :lol
>We talked about a bunch of other nerdy shit.
>I asked her how her tinder experience was going so far. She told me about the Brony and Doctor Who t-shirt guy with the sickening sweet wine and how she quickly blocked both of their numbers because they were fucking weird.
>We finished our dinner and walked to the tea place which wasn't that far away.
>We had some really good tea and talked some more about our lives and our jobs.
>Lots of minor hand touching.
>Things were winding down and I was feeling pretty tired. Told her I was happy that I hadn't drank anything or I would be passed out already.
>There was something that I was really wanting to ask her but it had completely left my mind (still can't remember what it was...). She then said that maybe next time when we get together you can ask me "I mean... if you want to..." and I replied "Absolutely. I'm totally down for a next time." :-[
>We both were blushing pretty heavily even though it was rather dim in the tea room that we were in.
>She said I was really cute. I said she was really cute.
>I go in for a kiss. And kiss her on the lips once.
>"No.. wait.." she said wanting more.
>I go back in and we start making out. :aah
>I get kinda weirded out by it after a couple of seconds. Kinda in awe that I had finally done this. :doge
>We go ahead gather our things and I pay for the tea (I remember to grab her shawl/coat that she almost forgot). We walk back to her car (and mine since it's in the same parking lot).
>We start making out at her car. Did it on the right sided of her face instead of the left side. Switched sides. Left felt better/less awkward. :doge
>Made out a little bit more. Embraced her with my arms and brought her in closer to me.
>We then kinda pull away from each other. And I jokingly said, "Ah, I'm bad. It's been a while and I'm usually a lot smoother after a couple of drinks" (I didn't have any alcohol that night).
>We both said our goodbyes and she said for me to text her as soon as I got home to make sure I got their safely. And she also said that to make sure to text her again this week so we can possibly set up date #2.
>Got in my car. Posted on the bore. Drove back to my house.

I really really hope date two happens with this girl. We seem to vibe very well together.

Oh, almost forgot. She was a bit chubbier than I was expecting (Nothing too crazy. Totally fine if she stays the size she's currently at). She told me at the Indian restaurant she was trying to lose the extra weight but I told her she looked great. Really great. I could see her blushing a bit and she told me thank you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 02, 2016, 03:03:34 PM

Chubby tits are awesome

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 02, 2016, 03:06:09 PM

Her tittays were pretty nice. She was wearing a rather revealing dress that night as well. :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 02, 2016, 03:09:39 PM

Now text her this thread!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 02, 2016, 04:06:19 PM

I actually had a nightmare last night that somebody did. :-\ :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 02, 2016, 04:10:38 PM

Grats man. Sounds like a great time. Sounds like date #2 is in definitely going to happen, but remember...keep searching.

You kissed her in the restaurant? Whew.
:whoo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 02, 2016, 04:13:51 PM

Well, it was a tea place with seperate, semi-private booths with little cushion chairs and tiny tables.

There were two other people in the booth beside us but I didn't give a fuck. I just went for it. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: eleuin on October 02, 2016, 04:16:01 PM

asari cosplay sex incoming :rejoice

spoiler (click to show/hide)

don't bring that shit up ever

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 02, 2016, 04:18:16 PM

Chubby weeaboo redhead... oh man can't say I'm not jelly! :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 02, 2016, 04:21:49 PM

Oh, that was another interesting thing.

She's 100% Italian. She says she gets mistaken as Irish all the time (I asked her if she was) but nope. Italian. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 02, 2016, 04:43:24 PM

You mean she's white.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 02, 2016, 04:55:23 PM

Very.

Pale as a ghost with freckles.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rahxephon91 on October 02, 2016, 06:04:21 PM

(http://imgur.com/a/AYiPz)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 02, 2016, 08:56:53 PM

So... I told her in my "goodnight/safe travels" text late Saturday that I would text her again early this coming week. To check back with her and possibly get things rolling for date #2.

I'm kinda trigger shy about shooting the text Monday after work because #2 already fell off the face of the earth when I did that.

But at the same time #3 seemed eager to hear back from me ASAP. :doge

Again, I hate feeling needy/coming off as thirsty. It's a disgusting feeling.

Thankfully I don't feel the same level of uncontrollable infatuation with #3 as I did with #2 (even though #3 and I were swapping spit. :doge ). So if #3 falls off the face of the earth I won't be too broken up about it.

:yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 02, 2016, 09:18:42 PM

Just, you know, never ever go for "PLS RESPOND" in any text. Keep it short and light.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 02, 2016, 09:36:09 PM

Any thoughts on what you'd do for date 2? Go back to her area or have her come to you, etc?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 02, 2016, 10:03:13 PM

She had mentioned possibly going to a park somewhere in NC and having a picnic style lunch w/ wine. And I told her I would totally be down for that.

Also, I don't mind driving up to NC at all because man... I forgot how fucking beautiful that drive was. I felt like I was fucking high that's how beautiful/scenic it was. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on October 02, 2016, 11:49:32 PM

Why don't you just add her on FB and start shooting the shit on IM and over the phone about whatever you two horny bastards like to talk about? Don't even worry about when to plan and set up the second date, it'll just happen.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 02, 2016, 11:56:20 PM

Well, "technically" we don't know each other's last names even though facebook is already suggesting her as a friend to me.

I'll worry about that after the second date or if she brings it up before then. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on October 03, 2016, 12:45:26 AM

uh huh....

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on October 03, 2016, 12:44:36 PM

Facebook will suggest people when you have their number in your phone.

FYI being reluctant / playing it safe might make sense in your head but on her end it just reads as a lack of interest or cowardice. If things actually went well you should reach out to her right away and she will be responsive to it. And then you'll realize how silly it is to plan five days ahead when you might send her a "hey what's up text". tl;dr - Don't be an idiot and fuck this up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 01:39:07 PM

I'm going to text her back this evening.

As for adding her on facebook... I'm going to refrain until it's obvious that we're going to be exclusive with one another.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: WanderingWind on October 03, 2016, 02:23:28 PM

Congrats Atra. Happy for ya bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 02:25:17 PM

Thanks. But I'm not out of the woods yet. :doge

edit: I wonder if she would be down for chatting over Skype. :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: WanderingWind on October 03, 2016, 03:06:12 PM

A win's a win. Gotta walk before you run a marathon.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 03, 2016, 03:49:04 PM

Meeting a potential FWB for happy hour this Friday. She's a mid 30's single mom with curly black hair, toned body, and a big schnozz. She also seems to be really excited that I own a copy of Kid Icarus, lol.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 05:11:49 PM

Shot #3 a text...

*crosses fingers*
*pls respond*

:doge

edit: I'm... ugh... Well, at least I'll have plenty of time to work on my design portfolio and other personal projects during my weekends if this doesn't pan out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on October 03, 2016, 06:28:13 PM

My dude you need a distraction for when you're doing this kinda thinking

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 06:49:01 PM

(http://a.fod4.com/misc/15%20yes%20soccer%20fan.gif)

HOLY FUCK. She actually texted back. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 08:02:55 PM

I'm trying to think of an interesting question to replace the one that slipped my mind.

Hmm...

edit: I'm kinda curious if she is into mindfulness/meditation/awareness expansion but eh... I dunno.

Also, it's something I have been struggling to maintain in my own life as you can tell from my overthinking in this thread.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 03, 2016, 08:09:56 PM

"want to trade undies on the next date?"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 08:11:50 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on October 03, 2016, 08:09:56 PM

"want to trade undies on the next date?"

I'm not suave enough to pull that off. :doge

Also, I was worried that pulling her in closer to me (toward my erection) was what scared her away. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 08:20:23 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on October 03, 2016, 08:09:56 PM

"want to trade undies on the next date?"

I'm not suave enough to pull that off. :doge

Also, I was worried that pulling her in closer to me (toward my erection) was what scared her away. :doge

Quote from: 213372bu on October 03, 2016, 08:10:42 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 03, 2016, 08:02:55 PM
I'm trying to think of an interesting question to replace the one that slipped my mind.

Hmm...
"I thought last time went great, want to go for another one sometime ___?"

Afterwards take a Xanax.

"Want me to bring anything for our picnic?" :doge

I dunno maybe.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 03, 2016, 08:28:41 PM

Nothing stops this train breh
(http://i.imgur.com/S799vbT.gif)

BLESS UP ENERGY UP

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 03, 2016, 08:33:24 PM

Exactly. Show her that you know shit. Don't be a snob but show her that you have stuff you like to do and are good at things. Be like "Oh I have this nice wine I'll bring that" that way you're being a partner not a burden also you're showing her stuff.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on October 03, 2016, 09:21:36 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 03, 2016, 08:11:50 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on October 03, 2016, 08:09:56 PM
"want to trade undies on the next date?"

I'm not suave enough to pull that off. :doge

Also, I was worried that pulling her in closer to me (toward my erection) was what scared her away. :doge

Put these two sentences together in the newsfeed.

boners are OKAY dude. ladies are cool with the fact that kissing leads to tents getting pitched.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on October 03, 2016, 09:23:16 PM

Last time I had a romantic experience with a girl I was wearing gym shorts and my trouser snake was at full mast :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 09:38:39 PM

2 hours and 30 minutes of radio silence later... fuck texting. I still prefer the immediacy of phone calls and being able to gauge what mood someone is in by the tone of their voice. :noah

I have to go to bed soon too...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on October 03, 2016, 09:45:59 PM

https://www.xanax.com/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 09:58:51 PM

I need to get a prescription...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 03, 2016, 10:04:52 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 03, 2016, 09:58:51 PM

I need to get a prescription...

u don't need one. bless up
(https://media.tenor.co/images/4101b2f38b50d334db87de48c9250c22/raw)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 10:10:34 PM

She said she was exhausted from work so maybe she took a nap and it went longer than expected...

Welp... whatever... I'm going to bed. Goodnight.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 10:12:16 PM

I could see Mupepe pulling that line off.

As for me? No so much...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 03, 2016, 10:15:01 PM

It's a good line. You should try it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 10:17:25 PM

Really?

Really?

REALLY?

I don't fucking know, man. That seems risky as fuck.

edit: Again, I just met this girl and I don't want to torpedo this shit right out the gate.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 03, 2016, 10:18:59 PM

Sometimes you got to get risky

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on October 03, 2016, 10:21:03 PM

Do it. :hyper

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 10:22:42 PM

Nope. Nope. NOPE.

Fuck that shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 03, 2016, 10:22:44 PM

and post results.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 10:23:55 PM

The results would be me wanting to drink myself to death for being so fucking stupid.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 10:26:21 PM

If I do this... you all who are wanting me to do this better buy me a fuck load of liquor.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on October 03, 2016, 10:27:05 PM

I will. I promise. Just do it now. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 10:28:49 PM

take the advice of a bunch of internet trolls, brehs...

edit: PD! Stop me before I do something I regret...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on October 03, 2016, 10:32:02 PM

We're just trying to help you have a breakthrough. Sometimes it takes a bold move to make it happen. 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 10:38:51 PM

There's got to be a subtler way of asking that question...

edit: She is a type 1 diabetic as well ...here's hoping she didn't pass out or anything...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 03, 2016, 10:47:29 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/2AM44hC.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 03, 2016, 10:48:27 PM

Stop fucking this up dude. She'll respond, she just has a life. She already responded once. You're good.

and don't send her any creepy shit man. it's not worth it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 10:50:28 PM

My last text to her was this:

Quote

Also, if you haven't had dinner yet I'll let you get to that first. But I finally remembered one of the questions I was going to ask you Saturday.

I hope she hasn't been waiting all this time for me to ask a silly question about meditation (not undie swapping)...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 11:01:43 PM

Ssssssshit...

Again, I'm so used to quick back and forths with friends & coworkers...

And I can't fucking sleep now because I'm on edge. Fuck.

edit: I guess I'll just sit tight and wait for the sun to come up. :doge

edit: I feel like an idiot. I should've slowed my roll and thought shit out. But no... I just had to wing it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 03, 2016, 11:20:22 PM

Jesus Frederick Christ

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 11:25:32 PM

:stahp

Welp. It's a about time I got a break from this madness anyways.

In a week or two I'll take 5 days off from work and just get so much shit in order.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: eleuin on October 03, 2016, 11:29:16 PM

RELAX
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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 03, 2016, 11:43:34 PM

Tell her she can't have any sugar ... cause she's already too sweet. Then thumb her bum.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 03, 2016, 11:44:26 PM

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on October 04, 2016, 01:20:14 AM

The only cool time to be a slut is when you're angry, not desperate because then you :ufup

You're bringing back really painful memories of when I first wondered what the line was between gentleman and coward but my best advice is that she's more afraid of you than you are of her. And to jerk off to porn stars that look like her so you don't stare at her too long. :ryker

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on October 04, 2016, 01:28:32 AM

Can someone ban Pallo for a week so he calms the fuck down

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 04, 2016, 01:30:10 AM

I don't understand why that was so important to bring up in text. Should have asked her that during the next date. Your text should have just been "hey what's up, how's work? Wondering if your like to go out again this weekend?" Get to the point and keep the convo short.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 04, 2016, 07:51:10 AM

She texted back around 1:15 am...

I think I'll hold off on my "mystery question" and tell her that it would be better to ask in her person because it's a bit metaphysical and complex.

edit: Nah, I'll just go ahead ask her "Oh, I was just curious if you were into mindfulness/meditation. The Indian restaurant and tea house kinda sparked that notion. Also, I wanted to know if you would like me to bring one of my favorite kinds of wine to our picnic (it's not sickening sweet or from Italy)."

Last bit is a joke about the Doctor Who t-shirt guy who gifted her a large bottle of gross wine.

Or Ill just bring mention the wine later and ask her if she is free this coming Saturday.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 04, 2016, 08:29:23 AM

Ask the meditation thing in person. Don't ask about the wine. Either just bring it or mention what wine you chose or something (you can still make your joke if you do this).

Keep texts simple IMO. "Hey how was work? blah blah blah"

Edit: And the undies thing is totally something I'd ask, but maybe not until a few more dates.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 04, 2016, 10:27:05 AM

Agreed. Ask in person, and bring a wine and make that joke live so you get her reaction.

I don't even understand why you wanted to ask a metaphysical question through texts, given your views over the impersonal nature of texting. Ask that shit in person and see where it goes. Maybe it was a coincidence that she chose those places, maybe not. Either way she'll prob like the fact that you find her interesting enough to ask.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 04, 2016, 10:54:39 AM

Right... Also, my forum posting habits bleed into my texting.

It's super easy for me to come off as long winded in a text even though the text would seem like a short post on a forum.

Also, I largely write in the same manner I talk and vice versa. A lot of rambling and going down different rabbit holes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 04, 2016, 01:11:46 PM

Okay... so she says she does want to get together again but she's going to be leaving for Florida early Thursday and will be there all weekend.

Hmmm...

edit: Okay, not this weekend but next weekend she'll be down. :rejoice

edit: Wow, all that worry and strife over nothing. :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 04, 2016, 03:09:23 PM

You sure you want your first time to be with someone who goes on weekend trips to Florida?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 04, 2016, 03:24:39 PM

She's going to Universal Orlando with her best friend (a girl) for Fall Break. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on October 04, 2016, 03:26:09 PM

The real test (not really) is if she texts you at any point during her weekend trip.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 04, 2016, 03:56:24 PM

Since I've got date #2 in the bag (apparently) I guess I can chill now and not worry about texting her back until next week? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on October 04, 2016, 04:19:13 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 04, 2016, 03:56:24 PM

Since I've got date #2 in the bag (apparently) I guess I can chill now and not worry about texting her back until next week? :doge

oh lord...

text her, call her, etc. you're in the fragile "does he/she care about me" stage of the relationship. Or you could put your effort into busting a nut into some chubby desperate chick. It's one of those special abilities you have called free fucking will.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 04, 2016, 04:27:08 PM

Okay, I'll text her later. Perhaps tomorrow evening before she leaves for Florida.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 04, 2016, 05:24:09 PM

Why not just text her when you feel like you have something to say? That's generally how communication works.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 04, 2016, 05:27:39 PM

Just don't want to over stay my welcome. That's all. :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 04, 2016, 06:10:35 PM

You don't need to schedule texts man. She's going on vacation, you don't need to text her anything until she comes back, at which point you ask how was her vacation/how are you/blah blah blah.

See if she'll initiate contact. If not just realize she's having fun on vacation.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 04, 2016, 06:12:46 PM

I like that better. I'm going to do that instead.

Plus I might be hanging out with friends during this weekend so that'll be my conversation piece.

And really... all I have to talk about myself right now is work and I can't really think of anything to ask her at this moment except what's going on with her at school & work.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: El Babua on October 04, 2016, 06:33:25 PM

Wait, Thursday as in the day Hurricane Matthew makes landfall in FLA? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 04, 2016, 06:44:12 PM

:dunno

Hmmmm. :larry

edit: what time is it expected to make landfall?

Maybe they'll stop somewhere in Georgia or Florida's panhandle before they reach Orlando.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 04, 2016, 07:10:05 PM

Mods, please change thread title:

ATRA'S RELATIONSHIPS: his life turned into a meat knot with any other.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 04, 2016, 07:12:54 PM

Yeah we're supposed to get it thurs/fri

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 04, 2016, 07:13:06 PM

Pallando and his quest to deplete his mana. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 04, 2016, 09:10:15 PM

Well, hopefully from this point on I'll be less of a worry wart and there won't be 10 more pages of you guys talking me off of a cliff.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Ah... who am I kidding. :doge

[close]

When the deal gets sealed I definitely owe you all a drink.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 04, 2016, 11:02:10 PM

She's hurling herself into the hurricane to avoid the second date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 04, 2016, 11:39:35 PM

Hurricane Matthew Thundercock

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 04, 2016, 11:44:24 PM

Get cucked by a hurricane, brehs. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 05, 2016, 12:42:57 AM

Quote from: Pallando on October 04, 2016, 11:44:24 PM

Get cucked by a hurricane, brehs. :doge

Only thing that can stop a wizard is a more powerful one.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 05, 2016, 12:47:23 AM

Oh... another fun fact I forgot to mention.

This girl is a big LOTR fan. She even has the script from the ring of power tattooed around one of her thighs. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on October 05, 2016, 12:53:16 AM

Something to focus on as a distraction when you're tryn not to nut :obama

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 05, 2016, 01:23:37 AM

Quote from: Pallando on October 05, 2016, 12:47:23 AM

Oh... another fun fact I forgot to mention.

This girl is a big LOTR fan. She even has the script from the ring of power tattooed around one of her thighs. :doge

Just remember, that's not the ring that "in the darkness binds them." It's nearby, though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 05, 2016, 01:34:29 AM

Creepy Stalker was sent to a ghetto for this kind of thread shitting.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 05, 2016, 03:12:37 AM

Quote from: Kara on October 05, 2016, 01:34:29 AM

Creepy Stalker was sent to a ghetto for this kind of thread shitting.

Technically it was a virtual ghetto, and he lived in an actual ghetto, so:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bxU2eqZtYmc

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: bork on October 05, 2016, 10:44:29 AM

Quote from: Pallando on October 04, 2016, 11:44:24 PM

Get cucked by a hurricane, brehs. :doge

(http://i.imgur.com/Cm6fQmo.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 06, 2016, 12:39:20 AM

Just wished her safe travels during this Hurricane Matthew madness. She seemed to appreciate that. :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 09, 2016, 12:08:53 AM

My desire to see #3 again grows stronger by the day. My only hope is that she feels the same way about me. :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 09, 2016, 12:11:40 AM

You should be trying to go on another date while she's away.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on October 09, 2016, 12:19:18 AM

Be careful with expectations. Not even trying to be all pessimistic and shit, just know that these things are very fragile in such an early stage. It would be wise to continue looking for #4 and beyond while you wait and see how things play out with 3.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 09, 2016, 12:35:45 AM

There is a potential #4 that is only 3 miles away from me but I did some snooping and she might be a single mom.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 09, 2016, 12:39:59 AM

Quote from: Pallando on October 09, 2016, 12:35:45 AM

There is a potential #4 that is only 3 miles away from me but I did some snooping and she might be a single mom.

So? You're just going on dates, you're not trying to save her. Take her out and make her laugh. You might get in her pants faster than anyone else TBH...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on October 09, 2016, 01:25:47 AM

Youre not ready to date a single mom

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on October 09, 2016, 01:27:55 AM

But don't act all love struck for #3 just because she's the first girl to show you attention

Maybe it's a fistful situation. Or maybe you decide you're not a good match after a couple dates

Keep on tindering. But bumbles better btw

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on October 09, 2016, 02:06:58 AM

Maybe he's not ready but there's nothing hotter than a single mom makin it work to me :lawd

You know she don't need yo ass, she is all woman :drool

The thing having a baby does to the body, just look at Beyoncé

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 09, 2016, 03:15:38 AM

Did some more snooping.

Trump supporter.

:donot

edit: Oh wait. Different girl with the same first and last name. Weird.

edit: one of her last relationships/guys she was with was physically and mentally abusive tho... :larry

edit: Overall #4 seems like a sweet girl (cute/pretty as well). I'll message her tomorrow. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 09, 2016, 09:51:19 AM

You're just trying to get your dick wet. Go for it no matter what dirt you dig up.

But yeah, single moms are hot.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: VomKriege on October 09, 2016, 11:04:40 AM

"Did some more snooping.
Posts at the Bore. :donot "

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 09, 2016, 11:35:43 AM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on October 09, 2016, 10:56:10 AM

:comeon

Don't stalk these girls, breh. If you get a date you'll find out about shit then anyway.

In my thirsty teenage years I assumed that you needed to have everything in common with a girl in order to date (don't ask why).

So many late nights spent wasting my time listening to Dashboard Confessional and Yellowcard :snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 09, 2016, 11:47:09 AM

caring about political affiliation when you're tryin to nut in randos :sabu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 09, 2016, 12:04:47 PM

Pallo, stop the creepy stalking shit. You're self sabotaging.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 09, 2016, 12:05:45 PM

also that

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 09, 2016, 12:07:25 PM

In a world with Trump supporters, its not creepy its being proactive about your mental wellness.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 09, 2016, 05:01:34 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on October 09, 2016, 11:47:09 AM

caring about political affiliation when you're tryin to nut in randos :sabu

I'm not much of a player so I'm just trying to get into a relationship and nut multiple times into one girl who isn't stupid and/or crazy. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Oblivion on October 09, 2016, 05:12:03 PM

Oh you guys are gonna love this story.

So I went to meet up with my new lady friend on Friday because her parents would be out of town for a few days. This was also gonna be the first time that she cooked me dinner (she was gonna make lasagna). So I go there, and we start to fool around in her room. No more than half an hour passes by, and suddenly we hear the front door unlocking. Sure enough, it's her folks. Her bedroom door was wide open, but thankfully it was a good ways away from the front door so nobody saw anything. So sadly, after that, no more fun time was allowed, and instead we spent the rest of the night watching that shitty Spy movie starring the fat chick from Ghostbusters.

As if all that wasn't bad enough...

spoiler (click to show/hide)

I didn't even get any lasagna :'(

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 09, 2016, 05:16:30 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 09, 2016, 05:01:34 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on October 09, 2016, 11:47:09 AM
caring about political affiliation when you're tryin to nut in randos :sabu
I'm not much of a player so I'm just trying to get into a relationship and nut multiple times into one girl who isn't stupid and/or crazy. :doge

:what

these are tinder chix brah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 09, 2016, 05:31:42 PM

Maybe that was the case years ago but now... nah, brah. These girls want to get in a relationship.

edit: #4 messaged me back. :)

edit: #4 just moved back to SC from Florida. Thanks Hurricane Matthew. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: VomKriege on October 09, 2016, 05:48:17 PM

Lasagna is the best.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 09, 2016, 05:55:59 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 09, 2016, 05:31:42 PM

Maybe that was the case years ago but now... nah, brah. These girls want to get in a relationship.

edit: #4 messaged me back. :)

edit: #4 just moved back to SC from Florida. Thanks Hurricane Matthew. :doge

no i'm saying this isn't eharmony etc, you're not being frontloaded with details etc. tinder is a virtual bar. thus just let shit grow naturally. no pretense.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 10, 2016, 12:29:14 AM

Let the single mom decide what she wants. It's not up to you anyway. If she wants more than you can give, then walk away. Chances are she just wants to have some fun. that being said, again, you're sorta dealing in things that take a fair amount of experience. A single mom is going to know the "rodeo" and if she got out of a bad relationship there's gonna be some baggage there. Probably not the easiest place to start to be truthful. But again, she's just like anyone else.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 10, 2016, 01:11:15 AM

Single moms like getting their pussy ate too.
:yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 10, 2016, 07:02:02 AM

There's a potential girl #5 on the horizon...

I never thought I would have this problem. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on October 10, 2016, 07:10:44 AM

Turns out things happen if you try. 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 10, 2016, 10:15:39 AM

Also a Tinder date isn't real until you actually meet her in person

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 10, 2016, 04:52:20 PM

True. Also, #5 might end becoming the new #4 if the current #4 has already lost interest.

Feeling like I should text back #3 fairly soon to check up on her. And judging from her school's calendar classes start back on Wednesday.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 10, 2016, 04:54:37 PM

Which one is Cosplay Girl again?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 10, 2016, 04:56:01 PM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 10, 2016, 04:56:03 PM

"I like you Pallo."
"I like you too #3"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 10, 2016, 05:50:59 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on October 10, 2016, 03:02:00 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 10, 2016, 01:11:15 AM
Single moms like getting their pussy ate too.
:yeshrug

A baby shooting out of there takes out the shyness real quick.

I once nearly made a guy puke by referring to that as "smooching the kid tunnel."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on October 10, 2016, 05:58:20 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on October 10, 2016, 04:56:03 PM

"I like you Pallo."
"I like you too, victim #3"

Fixed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 10, 2016, 06:21:33 PM

I'm trying to decide whether or not to shoot #3 a quick text asking her if she's having fun but...

Then I would have to say ttyl soon after that since I have a bunch of work I need to finish up.

What to do... what to do...

I guess I'll just wait for her to get back on Tuesday or Wednesday and text her then.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on October 10, 2016, 06:32:15 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 10, 2016, 06:21:33 PM

I'm trying to decide whether or not to shoot #3 a quick text asking her if she's having fun but...

No.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 10, 2016, 06:40:15 PM

If she's not the chatty type don't check in unless it's to make plans

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 10, 2016, 06:48:03 PM

Gotcha. Then I'll hold off.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 10, 2016, 06:52:03 PM

Go a head a text her. Be the GOAT.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9-QcWVPFxGA&feature=youtu.be

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 10, 2016, 07:07:03 PM

That goat will be me after the second date. :cody

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 10, 2016, 07:15:29 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 10, 2016, 07:07:03 PM

That goat will be me after the second date. :cody

I didn't know you had a dog :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 10, 2016, 07:19:11 PM

:doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 10, 2016, 07:23:28 PM

Oh and don't wait too long to make plans. Otherwise she'll think you're not interested.
Oh but don't seem too interested.
But be interested.
So Text her and don't text her. OK?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 10, 2016, 07:52:43 PM

Quote from: Dufus on October 10, 2016, 05:57:29 PM

referring to a vagina as a "kid tunnel" is pretty fucking gross to be fair (http://www.thecoli.com/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/scust.png)

I think the gerund "smooching" was also very evocative.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 10, 2016, 11:07:34 PM

Meeting the potential FWB (the one who likes Kid Icarus) tomorrow... we'll see how it goes. First 'date' since I broke up with my ex.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 10, 2016, 11:13:45 PM

Which Kid Icarus? Because if it's the 3DS one you'll just leave with a sore hand.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 10, 2016, 11:18:13 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on October 10, 2016, 11:13:45 PM

Which Kid Icarus? Because if it's the 3DS one you'll just leave with a sore hand.

Original one, thankfully! I think the 3DS game gave me carpal tunnel when I played it during Sandy...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 11, 2016, 12:16:18 AM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on October 10, 2016, 11:13:45 PM

Which Kid Icarus? Because if it's the 3DS one you'll just leave with a sore hand.

I see what you did there. :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on October 11, 2016, 12:17:05 AM

Kid Icarus NES is a legit good game.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 11, 2016, 12:00:40 PM

Got girl #4's number. :doge

Now I just hope #3's and #4's schedules don't conflict this weekend. :doge

Also, it doesn't help that #3 and #5 both live in Asheville but I'll cross that bridge when I get #5's number...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on October 11, 2016, 12:07:29 PM

well you'll cross that bridge when the time comes

edit: oh you didn't mean an actual bridge. my joke doesn't work then...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 11, 2016, 01:14:46 PM

Well the good news is that #4 is going to be out of town this weekend visiting her parents so I can focus on #3 and potentially #5.

And #4 just revealed to me she doesn't have a car when I was trying to set up a date for her...

Hrrmm... I hope this isn't some elaborate ploy to harvest my kidneys. :doge

Or worse... a ploy for me to be this chick's personal taxi service. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 11, 2016, 02:50:55 PM

Her kid is sick but she rescheduled to Friday. She's been to my favorite pub a few times and loves it, when I made that suggestion. Maybe I ran into her and didn't even know it. I'll keep ya posted, Bore.

For something more serious, I am going to start on Match again sometime next week.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 11, 2016, 04:26:11 PM

I almost sent a message to #5 addressing her as #5. :brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on October 11, 2016, 04:27:44 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 11, 2016, 04:26:11 PM

I almost sent a message to #5 addressing her as #5. :brazilcry

why are you juggling 5 chicks at once

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 11, 2016, 04:31:56 PM

3 actually.

#3: Cosplay Girl
#4: No Car/No Job Girl (I don't think that kid on her Facebook page is her's. Could be a niece.)
#5: Gynecologist Girl

:doge

#1 was pixiecut, hipster girl
#2 was septum piercing, cool girl that smokes

But those two didn't work out after our 1st dates

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 11, 2016, 05:35:14 PM

Why not put their contact info in your phone ???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 11, 2016, 05:59:47 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 11, 2016, 04:31:56 PM

3 actually.

#3: Cosplay Girl
#4: No Car/No Job Girl (I don't think that kid on her Facebook page is her's. Could be a niece.)
#5: Gynecologist Girl

:doge

#1 was pixiecut, hipster girl
#2 was septum piercing, cool girl that smokes

But those two didn't work out after our 1st dates

:confused

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 11, 2016, 06:05:21 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 11, 2016, 05:35:14 PM

Why not put their contact info in your phone ???

I have the contact info of 1 through 4. Just not 5.

And I'm probably going to message #5 on tinder tomorrow when I'm not so busy with work. :-\

edit: Actually... I don't know if I should be juggling three girls at once... Hopefully things work out with #3 so I'm not stuck in this seemingly infinite cycle of 1st date hell. :doge

Also, date with #4 is all set up for next Wednesday. Which works because I'm off from work that day and she just moved and has no job at the moment.

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on October 11, 2016, 05:59:47 PM

:confused

She's an assitant at an OB/GYN clinic. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 11, 2016, 06:20:48 PM

Quote from: Shark Johnson on October 11, 2016, 05:58:14 PM

Atra in a few weeks:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cC2ZgCEaLWs

we can only hope

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 11, 2016, 06:28:43 PM

Oh, something else I want to say: I was able to set the date up with #4 without much small talk. Probably helped that she wasn't that chatty and probably just wants to hang with someone in the Upstate SC area after living in South Florida for a while. :yeshrug

She's probably thinking "Oh thank god... someone who isn't crazy and on drugs." :doge

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Also, she might be another stealth chubby chick but we shall see... At least she has a cute face. :doge

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 11, 2016, 06:35:48 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 11, 2016, 06:28:43 PM

Probably helped that she wasn't that chatty and probably just wants to hang with someone in the Upstate SC area after living in South Florida for a while. :yeshrug

She's probably thinking "Oh thank god, someone who isn't crazy and on drugs." :doge

look at you motherfucker, you live in sc with a dry ass dick and you throwing stones now go sit down and bless up

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 11, 2016, 06:36:35 PM

I just knew I was going to get shit from Toku for throwing shade on Floridians. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on October 11, 2016, 06:48:19 PM

Date #1 with gynecologist girl:

Atra: "So wait, you work with vaginas? So you know how they work and stuff?"

Girl: "Umm, yeah..."

Atra:

(https://media.giphy.com/media/26AHPxxnSw1L9T1rW/giphy.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 11, 2016, 08:49:45 PM

Quote from: toku on October 11, 2016, 06:35:48 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 11, 2016, 06:28:43 PM
Probably helped that she wasn't that chatty and probably just wants to hang with someone in the Upstate SC area after living in South Florida for a while. :yeshrug

She's probably thinking "Oh thank god, someone who isn't crazy and on drugs." :doge

look at you motherfucker, you live in sc with a dry ass dick and you throwing stones now go sit down and bless up

:dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 11, 2016, 10:11:40 PM

wrong thread

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 13, 2016, 06:44:13 PM

Cosplay girl is back in town and we're setting up plans for date #2. :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 13, 2016, 06:45:30 PM

:rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 13, 2016, 06:47:56 PM

She says she has to get her pills back at her parent's house this weekend. Ummm.... :-\

But she's down for next Saturday....

WTF :brazilcry

edit: Guess I'll try and get with the OB/GYN girl. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Bebpo on October 13, 2016, 06:53:29 PM

Like medicine pills? Or like birth control pills? Because that can be taken two very different ways. If the former, that's understandable, if it's the latter, it sounds like you've got a promising next date with her!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 13, 2016, 06:55:32 PM

Most likely medicine pills because she can't sleep without medication.

edit: I beginning to wonder if I'm guy #2 just in case guy #1 doesn't work out. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 13, 2016, 07:25:17 PM

You are but #1 is only good looking and possibly rich, he can do better than #2 who is his #7.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on October 13, 2016, 07:25:59 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 13, 2016, 06:55:32 PM

edit: I beginning to wonder if I'm guy #2 just in case guy #1 doesn't work out. :doge

Sound strategy, as you know.

Bond over it. Be each other's #2.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 13, 2016, 07:27:12 PM

Is she German? cause you could do #2 related activities together.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on October 13, 2016, 07:29:15 PM

Sigh

Sigh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 13, 2016, 07:31:18 PM

German's love shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 13, 2016, 07:47:11 PM

Also, I didn't want to bring this up as a courtesy to Bebpo but girl #3 is accident prone and believes in ghosts. So maybe I'm dodging a bullet with this one... :doge

spoiler (click to show/hide)

She once broke her pelvis because a ghost pushed something heavy on her when she was working late one night. :doge

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 13, 2016, 08:03:55 PM

Quote from: TheInfelicitousDandy on October 13, 2016, 07:27:12 PM

Is she German? cause you could do #2 related activities together.

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 13, 2016, 08:33:18 PM

Well... at least I got a date for Wednesday with #4. Here's hoping she's not too damaged. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on October 14, 2016, 03:40:57 AM

Dude you're her Caspernova.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 14, 2016, 07:37:32 AM

That just means she'll be into some kinky shit. She could probably teach you a thing or two.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 14, 2016, 02:17:25 PM

Was browsing POF, just about ready to activate my account. One thing I've noticed is how many girls out there seem to be virtual copies of each other with their interests and descriptions. "I like the Yankees, I love the beach, I'm so outdoorsy, and believe it or not I like country music, which is OMG cray because I live in New York!".

I definitely need someone who at least has -something- quirky about them. I don't care if it's that she listens to Tuvan throat singing on a regular basis, has a collection of WWII artifacts, builds birdhouses in her free time, whatever... just gotta have something unique and interesting to talk about.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on October 14, 2016, 04:19:48 PM

"I love to laugh!"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 14, 2016, 04:20:23 PM

Have you considered Seeking Arrangement? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: tiesto on October 14, 2016, 06:02:16 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 14, 2016, 04:20:23 PM

Have you considered Seeking Arrangement? :doge

I'd need for it to be the other way around... I wouldn't mind a sugar mommy :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 15, 2016, 09:46:45 AM

Earlier this week I went to the Apple Store on my lunch break to get another USB cable. I went into the store and suddenly a girl rushes up to me and asks how I'm doing, more than just being friendly. Turns out it's a girl who used to work where I work now and quit for whatever reason, I didn't ask. I have this problem where people know me more than I know them so I always feel bad if I don't remember them. She was a little chubby but she had huge tits. As you all know, I decided last month to stop dating and banging women for a while. However those tits were calling me. So I got her number. Last night she stopped over and we were watching HBO Now. After a few minutes we were making out and I started rubbing her pussy (vs. grabbing her pussy. I'm a real gentleman unlike Donald Trump) and she said "hold on" and went down to start blowing me. It's next to impossible to come so I warned her and she said that she was certain I was going to come. Well, sure enough I didn't. She started getting frustrated. So I told her that was enough and started fingerbanging her until she came. We spent most of the night cuddling, kissing, light making out, etc. Before she left she said "I want you to come. I'd feel bad if you didn't." So I asked her to get out her big tits while I jerked off. I asked if I could come in her mouth and she said yeah. I forgot that I didn't jack off for a few days so I nutted for a good few seconds in her mouth, which then she ran to the bathroom. We laughed about my giant load and she was on her way out.

Anyway, not sure if this was meant to go anywhere but it was an interesting night.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 15, 2016, 11:00:13 AM

Not being able to come sucks

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 15, 2016, 11:11:09 AM

MTW, that's more of a triumph

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 15, 2016, 11:44:51 AM

grats bro

but you really need to stop jacking off so much, it has ruined your mind/dick.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 15, 2016, 11:45:42 AM

Tfw you haven't met any girls that were THAT cumgry yet. :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on October 15, 2016, 11:59:32 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 15, 2016, 11:44:51 AM

grats bro

but you really need to stop jacking off so much, it has ruined your mind/dick.

Because he can't come from head? Nah, some guys are just like that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Rufus on October 15, 2016, 12:04:38 PM

Quote from: Beezy on October 15, 2016, 11:59:32 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 15, 2016, 11:44:51 AM
grats bro

but you really need to stop jacking off so much, it has ruined your mind/dick.
Because he can't come from head? Nah, some guys are just like that.

Can confirm. I get bored if it goes on too long. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 15, 2016, 12:25:58 PM

As long as she knows how to suck and use her hands during a bj I can finish.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on October 15, 2016, 12:53:49 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on October 15, 2016, 12:32:13 PM

This girl didn't use hands. Just exceptional head bobbing and tongue skills :noah

Haven't experienced this yet. :tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 15, 2016, 02:00:48 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on October 15, 2016, 01:00:26 PM

Jewish girls usually do it best since they're predisposed to self loathing, but this chick was a Latina and I haven't been with another since.

Need more Hispanic women in my life.

Toku hold me :tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 15, 2016, 02:21:33 PM

Hispanic women are indeed great at sucking dick. Marry latinas, brehs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 15, 2016, 02:35:29 PM

If my GF decides to nut up and try to deepthroat me, I can come pretty fucking quickly

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on October 15, 2016, 06:39:21 PM

I've only been able to nut from a bj when I grip her head by the hair and manually move it at the desired speed. I suppose it's more like I'm fucking her mouth versus just sitting back and letting her do all the work.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 15, 2016, 09:14:32 PM

The only thing I'm going to say is that my trust in #3 has increased tonight. :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on October 15, 2016, 10:25:35 PM

You can't withhold after inundating us with ecrutiating detail on the build up

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 15, 2016, 10:37:31 PM

She was telling the truth about her needing to go back home to get her medication.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 16, 2016, 07:48:28 PM

Question: Cosplay girl wants to meet up in the morning this coming Saturday. Does this mean... date #2 is going to lead to more "stuff" later on in the day? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 16, 2016, 08:07:54 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 16, 2016, 07:48:28 PM

Question: Cosplay girl wants to meet up in the morning this coming Saturday. Does this mean... date #2 is going to lead to more "stuff" later on in the day? :doge

It means there is stuff happening later on in the day. Whether or not you're part of it is not clear. To be fair, this is always true on any given Saturday.

Seriously though, she may have other plans, or she may be open to spending the day with you depending on whether or not you turn into a freak during breakfast.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 16, 2016, 08:49:17 PM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on October 15, 2016, 09:46:45 AM

.

Spent most of the afternoon banging this girl. Made her come enough times to where she couldn't go any longer and took a two hour nap; during that time I was watching Larry Sanders, which I recommend you all go watch if you haven't already.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 16, 2016, 09:32:14 PM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on October 16, 2016, 08:49:17 PM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on October 15, 2016, 09:46:45 AM
.

Spent most of the afternoon banging this girl. Made her come enough times to where she couldn't go any longer and took a two hour nap; during that time I was watching Larry Sanders, which I recommend you all go watch if you haven't already.

Username checks out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on October 16, 2016, 10:32:53 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 16, 2016, 07:48:28 PM

Question: Cosplay girl wants to meet up in the morning this coming Saturday. Does this mean... date #2 is going to lead to more "stuff" later on in the day? :doge

Is she in asheville?

My go to (depending on what time) is wicked weed for brew/food --> bhramai brewery --> funkatorium or greenman.

If you get to number three, shes obvious interested. Ask if she wants to watch a movie ( hint hint ) or see a show

Yet to fail if you do it right

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 16, 2016, 10:49:09 PM

We got pretty frisky without alcohol so I can only imagine what it'll be like with some booze in our systems. :doge

edit: Also, I don't know why I feel this guilt for not texting her.

Probably not going to text her all week until Friday to make sure she's still down for Saturday.

But at the same time I feel like I'm neglecting this very nice girl. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: eleuin on October 16, 2016, 11:54:25 PM

Remember to get written consent

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 17, 2016, 04:23:21 AM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on October 16, 2016, 08:49:17 PM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on October 15, 2016, 09:46:45 AM
.

Spent most of the afternoon banging this girl. Made her come enough times to where she couldn't go any longer and took a two hour nap; during that time I was watching Larry Sanders, which I recommend you all go watch if you haven't already.

Was it the stroke game or fingers?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 17, 2016, 07:45:13 PM

The date with #4 has changed a bit.

She's actually moving closer to where I live so I don't have to drive too far to pick her up.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Also, I just saw a recent pic of her on Facebook. Short pink "tumblrina" hair and bordering on obese. Thank goodness I don't have to go into work Thursday because I'm going to be drinking a lot this Wednesday night. :-\

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 17, 2016, 08:12:22 PM

She looked so hot/cute in her Tinder pics as well. Fuck.... :noah

edit: Are fat chicks more likely to give head on the first date? I need to know. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 17, 2016, 08:14:37 PM

It happens. Don't trust ~~women~~ tinder.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 17, 2016, 08:16:58 PM

I guess it was bound to happen sooner or later...

I've been pretty "lucky" so far with the last 3 girls. :doge

edit: I'm going to go to the gym and exercise off this frustration. BRB.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 17, 2016, 08:50:04 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/MjFicDJ.png)

Still...complete the mission. Build up that experience and see if she wants to fuck. You're driving her so there's the chance. When you get to her place to drop her off, hit her with compliments and kinda slow talk your way thru. I had a great time...I was so nervous but you made me feel pretty at ease...etc. All you're trying to do is see if she'll open up for a kiss. If she does ask if she wants to have one more drink before you go. If she says yes and invites you in...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9ucd3cB9r4Q

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 17, 2016, 09:13:09 PM

A fatty with big tits? I could think of worse ways to spend an evening. Have fun dude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 17, 2016, 09:22:23 PM

Pallo stop coming off like you're Mr. Hot Shit. You're a bald virgin that plots out his text messages like its the next move in a risk game but is actually playing Guess Who.
Just go and have some fun.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 17, 2016, 09:58:54 PM

New addenda for Project Deal-breaker:

-Doesn't know who Edgar Degas was.
-Can't recognize "Call me Ishmael."*

*Subject to cultural and linguistic reasonableness. If you an AmeriKKKan though... :heh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 17, 2016, 10:00:37 PM

Boned my wife late last nite brehs. Went in raw for the first 15 but then had to rubber up so I could bust inside. Which kinda starts the whole process over. :-\ can't play the pull out game no more.

Pray for me. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on October 17, 2016, 10:02:31 PM

like what happens if you end up really liking the girl or something then she ends up seeing the stuff you posted about her online? cut that stuff out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 17, 2016, 10:03:09 PM

Quote from: Kara on October 17, 2016, 09:58:54 PM

New addenda for Project Deal-breaker:

-Doesn't know who Edgar Degas was.
-Can't recognize "Call me Ishmael."*

*Subject to cultural and linguistic reasonableness. If you an AmeriKKKan though... :heh

Post if you're ok

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 17, 2016, 10:08:23 PM

I know who Edgar Degas is, Karakand-senpai. :uguu

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on October 17, 2016, 09:22:23 PM

Pallo stop coming off like you're Mr. Hot Shit. You're a bald virgin that plots out his text messages like its the next move in a risk game but is actually playing Guess Who.
Just go and have some fun.

2 out of 3 girls, that I've dated, think I'm attractive and funny.

My ego is out of control, breh. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Kara on October 17, 2016, 10:13:13 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 17, 2016, 10:08:23 PM

I know who Edgar Degas is, Karakand-senpai. :uguu

Congratulations on meeting the bare minimum, kohai. :salute

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 17, 2016, 10:16:28 PM

There is nothing wrong with being unattracted to a girl because of her weight, nor should you feel pressure to be with her instead of being alone but banging her while dissing her online is not something lots of people will be fine with. I'm fine with it though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 17, 2016, 10:17:55 PM

I present myself as is on my Tinder profile and I expect the same from my matches.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 17, 2016, 10:18:15 PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=fmE4NU4ljUg

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 17, 2016, 10:19:28 PM

Ya I even made a point of having a pic in a tshirt which shows my fat tummy in one of mine. Better that than look at there disappointed eyes when I meet them in public.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on October 17, 2016, 10:39:47 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 17, 2016, 10:17:55 PM

I present myself as is on my Tinder profile and I expect the same from my matches.

Does your Tinder profile say "I am crowdsourcing how to have normal human interactions with you on a video game forum"?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on October 17, 2016, 10:43:44 PM

Quote from: Kara on October 17, 2016, 09:58:54 PM

New addenda for Project Deal-breaker:

-Doesn't know who Edgar Degas was.
-Can't recognize "Call me Ishmael."*

*Subject to cultural and linguistic reasonableness. If you an AmeriKKKan though... :heh

Quote from: nudemacusers on October 17, 2016, 10:00:37 PM

Boned my wife late last nite brehs. Went in raw for the first 15 but then had to rubber up so I could bust inside. Which kinda starts the whole process over. :-\ can't play the pull out game no more.

Pray for me. :doge

Pretty great argument to stay a virgin right here tbh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 17, 2016, 10:44:28 PM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on October 17, 2016, 10:39:47 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 17, 2016, 10:17:55 PM
I present myself as is on my Tinder profile and I expect the same from my matches.

Does your Tinder profile say "I am crowdsourcing how to have normal human interactions with you on a video game forum"?

Touché. :dunno

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on October 18, 2016, 04:03:43 PM

Quote from: king of the internet on October 15, 2016, 06:39:21 PM

I've only been able to nut from a bj when I grip her head by the hair and manually move it at the desired speed. I suppose it's more like I'm fucking her mouth versus just sitting back and letting her do all the work.

I used to be like this until I figured out to just treat it like a masturbation session. I close my eyes and let my imagination go wild. It works for me and the girl feels like she is good at it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 18, 2016, 04:21:47 PM

No shame in going whaling.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 18, 2016, 06:20:59 PM

I guess it all feels the same if you close your eyes and try not to get lost in the fat rolls. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on October 18, 2016, 10:27:39 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on October 18, 2016, 07:05:49 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on October 17, 2016, 09:13:09 PM
A fatty with big tits? I could think of worse ways to spend an evening. Have fun dude.

It's like they say: you have to slay the dragon to get to the princess.

But he's a wizard, not a knight. He's not specced for this breh. :brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 18, 2016, 11:32:28 PM

Chubby women are plenty of fun and --not uncommonly-- have had to work on their personality more than women who are always being pursued. Of course there are plenty of self-worth and image problems in any human. But the chubby women I've dated definitely worked harder on conversation, kissing, cuddling, and were more assertive when it was sexy time.

Quote from: Samson Manhug on October 17, 2016, 10:39:47 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 17, 2016, 10:17:55 PM
I present myself as is on my Tinder profile and I expect the same from my matches.

Does your Tinder profile say "I am crowdsourcing how to have normal human interactions with you on a video game forum"?

:dead so remarkably :dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lordmaji on October 19, 2016, 12:12:57 AM

Man, my relationship situation is a multiple train wreck. lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 19, 2016, 12:20:17 AM

Quote from: lordmaji on October 19, 2016, 12:12:57 AM

Man, my relationship situation is a multiple train wreck. lol

Sup bro!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 12:23:32 AM

Quote from: chronovore on October 18, 2016, 11:32:28 PM

Chubby women are plenty of fun and --not uncommonly-- have had to work on their personality more than women who are always being pursued. Of course there are plenty of self-worth and image problems in any human. But the chubby women I've dated definitely worked harder on conversation, kissing, cuddling, and were more assertive when it was sexy time.

I can deal with chubby girls. But obese girls... eh... nah.

#3 is moderately chubby and even flat out told me she was working on slimming down (I told her she looked great though. Which probably earned me a bunch of brownie points. :doge)

#4 though... She's obese or on the fast track to becoming obese. And I am not down with that at all. It's unhealthy to be that fat and it's not a good look at all (Sorry Demi :doge).

edit: Also, despite how far we've come in the early 21st century (and in the 1st world) one thing I absolutely hate about this time in history is how damn easy it is to become the size of a house. It's fucking ridiculous.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: lordmaji on October 19, 2016, 12:35:31 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 19, 2016, 12:20:17 AM

Quote from: lordmaji on October 19, 2016, 12:12:57 AM
Man, my relationship situation is a multiple train wreck. lol
Sup bro!

eh, you know. Living the tortured soul life. lol I'm alright though, had to pop in and see whats groovin at the bore. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on October 19, 2016, 06:53:54 AM

https://m.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 19, 2016, 10:35:29 AM

You're just getting experience and possibly getting your dick wet breh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 11:25:57 AM

I'll try to keep that in mind tonight while I'm pounding drinks until she looks more like she did in her Tinder pics.

Quote from: Samson Manhug on October 19, 2016, 06:53:54 AM

https://m.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/

:crazy

Also, I always swipe left on obese landwhales so I'm just a bit miffed that this one fell through the cracks. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 01:05:20 PM

She just texted me:

"I have a question. Do you like thick women?"

Whew lad...

edit: Told her I was fine with thick women. :doge

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Now excuse me while I get some pregame drinks...

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 19, 2016, 02:11:05 PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3flv5nWZgII

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on October 19, 2016, 02:21:29 PM

When did Atramental turn into this Olimario-esque character?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 02:26:34 PM

>implying that this "side" of me doesn't already exist in my subconscious (http://i.imgur.com/7DKxwfk.gif)

spoiler (click to show/hide)

(http://i.imgur.com/WQqHuVp.gif)

spoiler (click to show/hide)

(http://i.imgur.com/4nH71P7.gif)

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on October 19, 2016, 02:27:34 PM

It's pretty fucked up dude. Step back for a minute and stop playing a character here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 02:33:21 PM

Don't worry. I'll treat #4 with plenty respect and kindness. And if we hit it off? Great.

But I'm still hoping things work out with girl #3.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 19, 2016, 02:36:47 PM

or just be casual and see how things play themselves out lord

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 02:39:09 PM

I use this thread as a dumping ground for all of my anxiety and prejudice so it doesn't come up during a date.

Also, I'm pretty cool, calm, and collected in person after a few wank sessions, a couple of drinks, and several shit posts. :doge

Everything is going to be alright.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Hopefully.

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 05:31:06 PM

Heading out to sea to get me a white whale.

Wish me luck.

And I'll be sure to provide details afterwards. :doge

edit: goddamit... she's wanting me to pick her up at a church...

This is some gospel outreach shit isn't it? :doge

I guess I'll find out soon enough.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 19, 2016, 06:13:39 PM

Is this the single mom?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 06:19:05 PM

I initially thought she was a single mom but she isn't.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 19, 2016, 07:14:56 PM

stop thinking

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 19, 2016, 07:49:16 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 19, 2016, 06:19:05 PM

I initially thought she was a single mom but she isn't.

"I thought she was just pregnant"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: El Babua on October 19, 2016, 08:30:47 PM

Didn't Atra talk about hooking up with thicc chicks in his stories?

You reap what you sow breh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 09:31:43 PM

FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUUUUUUUUUUCK!!!!!!

Sweet shit sucking tittty fucking Christ!

I'll post all of what went down in a bit....

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: eleuin on October 19, 2016, 09:39:02 PM

(https://g.redditmedia.com/4dTYE-YJL852Qof_EzubQJCl2RIP8JZcRFMHHiqYcDY.gif?w=320&s=63fd8324a59f3c016f0b4ae13ada3b74)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 19, 2016, 09:39:07 PM

You find her blow hole?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 19, 2016, 09:40:56 PM

how long does it take to write up that you put your wiener in her for 30 seconds and blew your wad ???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 19, 2016, 09:46:14 PM

Don't worry Atra, just buy a plan b fam you're good. #creampieenergy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 19, 2016, 09:46:50 PM

It WAS a christian outreach program. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 10:03:00 PM

Okay.... so girl #4 being fat is the LEAST of her problems. Actually, she looks pretty good at her current size in person.

So...

>I get to the church where she wants me to pick her up at.
>I see a bunch of people smoking in the parking lot and think... "huh, that's odd. A bunch of smokers at a church?"
>She walks out and hops into my car and we start chatting as I pull out of the driveway
>She brings up that she just came out of an Narcotics Anonymous meeting and that's she's a heroin addict in recovery...
>I play it off as nothing
>We chat about other things on the way over. I park the car and we walk to the restaurant.
>We have a really great conversation about all sorts of shit.
>I bring up my past about getting kicked out of BJU for being an atheist. She tells me she's an atheist as well.
>She tells me about all the drugs and alcohol she abused throughout her life (from 15 to now)....
>She brings up that she smokes Newports (Non-menthols). About a pack a day... She saw that kinda bothered me... and she said "Ah... I guess that means no second date...?" and I told her "Hey, I rather you do that instead of inject heroin. Y'know, lesser of two evils and all that shit. And I'm totally down for a second date because you're a lot of fun to talk to."
>I pay for our meal, we leave the restaurant, and head back to my car.
>She tells me that she had a great time and that I'm so nice. Especially compared to the other guys on Tinder (who apparently have sent her dick picks as soon as they got her number...)
>We get to my car at my parking garage. And we drive out.
>She then tells me "Oh... there's one thing I haven't told you yet that I need to tell you... I have Hepatitis C."
>I try to act like I'm not phased by that...
>She goes on "It's curable but I have to wait 6 months." and yadda yadda.
>And upon hearing that I just go "Well! I myself have a secret as well. I'm a virgin. A 26 year old virgin!"
>She was kinda taken aback by that. "I don't think I've ever been with a virgin before. Well, not since high school." And we joke about how much of a slutty druggy sleazebag she is and how pure I am and yadda yadda.
>Then before I drop her off at her place she tells me she wants to quickly meet an old friend of hers (THE GUY THAT WAS HER FUCKING DEALER WHO GOT HER HOOKED ON FUCKING HEROIN!!)
>And we got to the halfway house he was at and dropped her off really quick (The halfway house is walking distance from her house SO I WOULDN'T BE SURPRISED IF HER AND THAT GUY END UP FUCKING LATER). They chatted for a bit and an owl swooped by and landed on the sign I was staring at...
>She got done talking with that loser and hoped in my car
>We chat a bit more, I get to her house, I give her the customary PhoenixDark handshake. She jokingly scoffed "Heh~ A handshake. Give me a hug, silly." and I apologized and said sorry I'm being fucking weird. Cya later.

And I drove home cursing underneath my breath. As soon as I got home I quickly looked up how Hep C is contracted in fear that touching her and sharing some food with her would've gotten that shit inside of me. Thankfully that's not the case...

So yeah. FUUUUUUUUUUUCK!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 10:08:04 PM

I want to friendzone this chick soooo bad.

She's cool to talk to but there's NO WAY in hell I would get in a long term relationship with this mess.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 19, 2016, 10:09:27 PM

skimmed. No sex then?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 10:10:53 PM

No sex.

I don't need Hepatitis C in my life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 19, 2016, 10:11:54 PM

Wife her immediately

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 10:13:44 PM

I mean, how serious is Hep C?

Can I fuck with a condom and be okay?

Oh, yeah. She's a sex addict as well... She's totally gonna bone that other guy.

Edit: and she's bisexual. So, she's gonna probably scissor some puss on the side as well.

This is the type of girl they warned me about at my religious school

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: eleuin on October 19, 2016, 10:18:01 PM

ask for her tumblr name

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 10:25:13 PM

Gonna text her back...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 19, 2016, 10:25:24 PM

Sounds like you had a low effort win here but got scared

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 10:36:14 PM

"Hey [name], letting you know that I got home safely and I had a great time with you. Sorry if I got a bit weird at the end. Had to process some stuff. Feel free to text me later if you wanna hangout again. Bye and goodnight."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 19, 2016, 10:39:21 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 19, 2016, 10:36:14 PM

"Hey [name], letting you know that I got home safely and I had a great time with you. Sorry if I got a bit weird at the end. Had to process some stuff. Feel free to text me later if you wanna hangout again. Bye and goodnight."

:oreilly

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 10:40:47 PM

What the fuck would you say to a hep c, druggy, slut?

Haven't sent a text yet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 19, 2016, 10:41:15 PM

Not that

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 19, 2016, 10:41:18 PM

DONT SEND THAT

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 10:41:52 PM

What do I do...

What do I do?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 19, 2016, 10:43:01 PM

You're limited to 10 word or less.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on October 19, 2016, 10:44:06 PM

Yeah dude you don't, you don't get get sucked up in that. You've over lowered your standards

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 19, 2016, 10:45:06 PM

speak love songs in whale tongue to her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 10:48:04 PM

I'm gonna cut my losses on this one.

She's cool but my god she's so fucked up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 19, 2016, 10:48:21 PM

:whew

as long as you don't come in contact with blood you'll be alright. so only vaginal sex bro. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 10:49:44 PM

What about period blood though?

Also, seriously guys, what do I text this girl back?

I'm so torn right now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on October 19, 2016, 10:55:19 PM

If it were me, nothing at all. I mean was it really even a date? Kinda sounds like she just needed a ride from NA to a drug deal

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 10:57:21 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on October 19, 2016, 10:55:19 PM

If it were me, nothing at all. I mean was it really even a date? Kinda sounds like she just needed a ride from NA to a drug deal

You're right, cats.

Fuck it. I'm not her fucking savior. I'm just a dweeby guy trying to get my dick wet in a non-diseased hole.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 19, 2016, 10:59:05 PM

Don't see her again. Just say you had a good time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: El Babua on October 19, 2016, 11:01:46 PM

Just send her the "better luck next time" text.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 11:02:05 PM

My rational mind is starting to come to...

Yeah, there's no way in hell this is going to work out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 11:10:56 PM

"Hey. Had a fun time. See yah in 6 months."

I'm gonna send this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 19, 2016, 11:10:56 PM

send her egg plant emoticons drunk

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 11:11:35 PM

Nah.

Nah.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: El Babua on October 19, 2016, 11:14:21 PM

At this point, go for the gusto and send a dick pic.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 19, 2016, 11:17:22 PM

jesus christ

a) addict
b) fat
c) has hep c

don't fucking touch her with a 10 ft pole. dude, seriously?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 19, 2016, 11:20:13 PM

Fuck feelings. She's an adult like you and by signing up for a dating app she willingly exposed herself to disappointment. Just like you did. Just say you had a nice time, have a good night. The end. You don't need to respond to any texts from her again. She'll "get" it, just as you "got" it when that one chick stopped responding to you. This is how the game is played.

It's a train and it moves from stop to stop. Don't worry about the last stop.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 11:20:44 PM

I think I might block her number so I don't end up doing something stupid

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 19, 2016, 11:21:40 PM

PD is right, you don't owe other people shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 11:26:31 PM

Just shot her a "Had a nice time. Have a good night." text.

Aaaand blocked.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 19, 2016, 11:27:43 PM

SMH you are a weak man. I will pray for you to the man-god.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 19, 2016, 11:27:49 PM

Deep down she knows why it didn't go well, just as you know when things don't go well on your dates. You aren't being mean or putting her down. Just send the message I suggested and that's that. You don't even need to block her number, just delete her texts. She'll prob send one in a week, like a "hey" or "what's up..." When you don't respond she'll definitely realize what's up and move on for good.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on October 19, 2016, 11:30:27 PM

I never thought Pallando's tale would have me looking up Hep C. Sounds like she just got infected if she's saying wait 6 months.

Quote from: Pallando on October 19, 2016, 11:20:44 PM

I think I might block her number so I don't end up doing something stupid

No dog. You can always unblock if you're that afraid you might stick it in. Look at you, you tried to huff and puff your horniness away by coming out about your "secret" and she just brushed it off like I told you every girl would. You're going to try to fuck her. No what you have to do is be honest, and just say that you didn't feel a physical spark. Which will piss her off enough to cut communication.

I'm only telling you because we've all been there were we did things we told ourselves we wouldn't do because of sex. Drop the nuke on her. Move on and be your same damn charming ass self but with full confidence in your virginality. It'll be all right.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 19, 2016, 11:36:24 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 19, 2016, 10:48:04 PM

I'm gonna cut my losses on this one.

She's cool but my god she's so fucked up.

Dude. This is the most concise and accurate thing you've ever posted on this forum.

Recovering heroin addict, still seeing her dealer? GTFO. You don't need this madness.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 19, 2016, 11:39:18 PM

Gonna hangout with one of my guy friends this Friday and tell him what went down to recoup a bit before my date with cosplay girl on Saturday.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 20, 2016, 12:05:08 AM

Nothing more tragic than a fat heroin addict.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 20, 2016, 12:37:30 AM

I've said it before and I'll say it again. Pallo, I think going straight to Tinder with little to no dating experience is probably like trying to learn to swim in the ocean during a hurricane. This chick? I mean it would be nice to think that someone can help her through her transition to clean. But let's be real. That's not happening. The weight thing, OK no problem. People can still be good looking if they have some weight. The recovering addict thing, that's a bit of a problem. I try not to judge people on their prior experiences and take them as they are now, but heroin is a heavy thing and you don't want to get pulled into that. Hep C? OK, now you're really getting into problem areas. Sure, you can wait/try to be safe but still, that's not good by any stretch. Then the having you drop her off to see her friend that was her dealer? Holy shit, you're at like defcon 1 at that point. First off, what kind of person has her date take her so she can chat with another guy? that's not OK or normal. Let alone her former dealer? What the flying fuck?

......of course.....you could keep things platonic and watch the train wreck from afar. I mean, imagine the schadenfreude she will supply you with so long as you can keep yourself at arms length :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 20, 2016, 01:32:13 AM

This was a black swan event as far as tinder dates go. :doge

Especially since I try not to swipe right on obvious druggies and degenerates of that sort.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 20, 2016, 02:01:19 AM

calm down

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 20, 2016, 02:05:22 AM

I just want a normal loving relationship, brehs.

(http://i.imgur.com/IFwUwmY.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 20, 2016, 02:19:59 AM

How's your life in other areas man? Got any friends you see regularly? Any grps you can join? Still trying to do side design work?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on October 20, 2016, 02:20:30 AM

Quote from: Pallando on October 19, 2016, 10:13:44 PM

Oh, yeah. She's a sex addict as well... She's totally gonna bone that other guy.

Edit: and she's bisexual. So, she's gonna probably scissor some puss on the side as well.

This is the type of girl they warned me about at my religious school

:rofl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 20, 2016, 02:23:39 AM

Quote from: toku on October 20, 2016, 02:19:59 AM

How's your life in other areas man? Got any friends you see regularly? Any grps you can join? Still trying to do side design work?

I do pretty good work at my job (got a raise just recently and I'm now salaried).
I need to draw and do more side design work.
And I have a handful of good friends that I see once every two weeks or so depending how busy they are with stuff.

Quote from: Beezy on October 20, 2016, 02:20:30 AM

Quote from: Pallando on October 19, 2016, 10:13:44 PM
Oh, yeah. She's a sex addict as well... She's totally gonna bone that other guy.

Edit: and she's bisexual. So, she's gonna probably scissor some puss on the side as well.

This is the type of girl they warned me about at my religious school
:rofl

I feel like the bolded is newsfeed worthy. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Beezy on October 20, 2016, 02:24:58 AM

Definitely.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: king of the internet on October 20, 2016, 02:43:26 AM

Friend found out that I had sex with his ex-girlfriend. :snoop Not taking it well. Expecting some retaliation in the near future.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: VomKriege on October 20, 2016, 04:48:01 AM

Quote from: king of the internet on October 20, 2016, 02:43:26 AM

Friend found out that I had sex with his ex-girlfriend. :snoop Not taking it well. Expecting some retaliation in the near future.

If you fucked her after they break-up (which is why I get through your wording) :yeshrug
I can see how one could be hurt in their feelings but she's not his, you know ?

Pallando - Calm down and take a step back. It's not a fucking race, you don't have to jump in any first hole presented, I mean :comeon Hepatitis C ? :oreilly You don't need that shit (BTW, Condoms, condoms, condoms, get some and use them).

The key point in all your latest flooding is that you met several females :quark and -who could have guessed ?- they didn't stone you on sight and even had mild fun on dates with you. Keep at it and you'll find someone that will click with you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 20, 2016, 08:01:52 AM

wife and I had incredible sex when we were done she said, "Wow, wow wubzee...wubzee wubzee wow wow."

Parents with young kids will understand. :oreilly

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 20, 2016, 08:09:43 AM

Man, my morning started off so shitty but Pallando's date recap brought a smile to my face.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Brehvolution on October 20, 2016, 09:09:47 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on October 19, 2016, 11:17:22 PM

jesus christ

a) addict
b) fat
c) has hep c

don't fucking touch her with a 10 ft pole. dude, seriously?

Did Pallo just go on a date with ke$ha? (http://i.imgur.com/5NBGCLA.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on October 20, 2016, 09:27:12 AM

Why even text back? Just ghost

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: fistfulofmetal on October 20, 2016, 10:46:56 AM

(http://i.imgur.com/Fd7Hsu5.png) do it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on October 20, 2016, 11:19:08 AM

May have sent dick snaps to people while blackout after a Vegas show

Yolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on October 20, 2016, 11:23:35 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on October 19, 2016, 11:17:22 PM

jesus christ

a) addict
b) fat
c) has hep c

don't fucking touch her with a 10 ft pole. dude, seriously?

I guarantee her head game is :preach

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on October 20, 2016, 11:53:33 AM

Quote from: Steve Contra on October 20, 2016, 11:23:35 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on October 19, 2016, 11:17:22 PM
jesus christ

a) addict
b) fat
c) has hep c

don't fucking touch her with a 10 ft pole. dude, seriously?
I guarantee her head game is :preach

:larry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Tasty on October 20, 2016, 11:57:12 AM

holy fucking shit three pages in less than twelve hours

pallo shut the fuck up holy shit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on October 20, 2016, 12:09:28 PM

Don't be jealous of content creators, Tasty

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 20, 2016, 12:33:23 PM

I'd like to think I'm providing more entertainment with my dates than all the loser virgins and their belly aching on NeoGAF combined.

KevinCow and ~Kinggi~ can only dream about the shit I've gotten into so far. :bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on October 20, 2016, 12:43:54 PM

You had me until you started referencing characters I don't know

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 20, 2016, 12:47:09 PM

They're just two 30+ year old virgins on GAF that bitch and moan all the time about how they'll never get laid.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on October 20, 2016, 12:59:40 PM

And you're not exactly like them because . . .

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 20, 2016, 01:22:25 PM

I'm actually putting myself out there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 20, 2016, 01:26:32 PM

Imagine all the times she fucked or sucked her drug dealer for that next hit. Think about the countless trains undoubtedly run on her. I bet she is good at it. You should have went for it. You're not trying to marry her, you just want to get off and move on. Sometimes you need some mattress monsters in your life to show you a thing or two :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 20, 2016, 01:41:42 PM

"You should have went for it."

Nah. I'm good, fam. :doge

Who knows what other kind of diseases she has.

edit: Anyways. In other news, I'm going to text cosplay girl tomorrow to see if we're still on for Saturday morning.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on October 20, 2016, 02:02:50 PM

I read your story and there wasnt much putting yourself out there beyond looking at owls

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Joe Molotov on October 20, 2016, 02:28:10 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 20, 2016, 01:41:42 PM

Nah. I'm good, fam. :doge

Are you tho? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 20, 2016, 02:40:59 PM

Quote from: demi on October 20, 2016, 02:02:50 PM

I read your story and there wasnt much putting yourself out there beyond looking at owls

I know what a cougar , a bear, an otter, and a silver fox are but what is an owl is sex terminology?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Joe Molotov on October 20, 2016, 02:55:12 PM

Quote from: TheInfelicitousDandy on October 20, 2016, 02:40:59 PM

Quote from: demi on October 20, 2016, 02:02:50 PM
I read your story and there wasnt much putting yourself out there beyond looking at owls

I know what a cougar , a bear, an otter, and a silver fox are but what is an owl is sex terminology?

You just have sex with a literal owl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: ToxicAdam on October 20, 2016, 03:04:12 PM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on October 20, 2016, 01:26:32 PM

Imagine all the times she fucked or sucked her drug dealer for that next hit. Think about the countless trains undoubtedly run on her. I bet she is good at it. You should have went for it. You're not trying to marry her, you just want to get off and move on. Sometimes you need some mattress monsters in your life to show you a thing or two :doge

I don't really agree. If your first time is with someone that rocks your world, you might not be able to free yourself.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 20, 2016, 03:24:01 PM

Quote from: Joe Molotov on October 20, 2016, 02:55:12 PM

Quote from: TheInfelicitousDandy on October 20, 2016, 02:40:59 PM
Quote from: demi on October 20, 2016, 02:02:50 PM
I read your story and there wasnt much putting yourself out there beyond looking at owls

I know what a cougar , a bear, an otter, and a silver fox are but what is an owl is sex terminology?

You just have sex with a literal owl.

sounds like a woot.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on October 20, 2016, 04:16:31 PM

Do owls say "woo" in Canada?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 20, 2016, 04:21:19 PM

No they say 'sorry'.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on October 20, 2016, 04:24:57 PM

In America, that joke would have been "sounds like a hoot" because owls say hoo (or who?) So I was confused that it said woot. I know that roosters say kikiriki in a lot of Europe, so I was just wondering if Canadian owl dialect was different than American.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 20, 2016, 04:27:56 PM

That was the joke I just misspelt the word and didn't see it :dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Madrun Badrun on October 20, 2016, 04:28:17 PM

NO ONE LOOK AT ME

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: demi on October 20, 2016, 04:30:27 PM

sounds like a woot

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 20, 2016, 06:12:34 PM

Oh yeah, I'm still perplexed to learn (at least from Hep C girl's perspective) that a large chunk of guys on tinder send dick pics as soon as they get a girl's number.

I mean... what the fuck is up with that? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on October 20, 2016, 06:18:01 PM

They are sending a clear message about what they are offering

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 20, 2016, 06:26:01 PM

Sure. But it seems to scare off more girls than it attracts.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on October 20, 2016, 06:38:48 PM

Sometimes you just get real drunk and dicks happen

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: chronovore on October 20, 2016, 07:03:15 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 20, 2016, 06:26:01 PM

Sure. But it seems to scare off more girls than it attracts.

It's likely a matter of time investment vs. returns. You've heard the joke: Walk in to a bar, ask each woman if she'll come home with you and fuck. 99 times out of 100, she'll slap you. But that 1 woman in 100 will say "yes."

On Tinder, I can only imagine that scenario is EVEN EASIER than having to face the women while you give your pitch.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: thisismyusername on October 20, 2016, 07:20:01 PM

Quote from: chronovore on October 20, 2016, 07:03:15 PM

On Tinder, I can only imagine that scenario is EVEN EASIER than having to face the women while you give your pitch.

Well, I mean what are they gonna do? Post it on "Dicks of Tinder?"

(You know, I should probably make that site and reap dual-benefits)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 20, 2016, 07:22:25 PM

atra ur not allowed to post itt until you get laid

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 20, 2016, 08:03:05 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on October 20, 2016, 07:22:25 PM

atra ur not allowed to post itt until you get laid

welp. Atra had a good run. Miss you man.
:salute

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 20, 2016, 08:10:41 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on October 20, 2016, 07:22:25 PM

atra ur not allowed to post itt until you get laid

But I need this thread to help me get laid.

It's a bit of a catch 22.

:doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 20, 2016, 08:52:37 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 20, 2016, 08:10:41 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on October 20, 2016, 07:22:25 PM
atra ur not allowed to post itt until you get laid
But I need this thread to help me get laid.

time to take the training wheels off

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 21, 2016, 12:53:36 PM

To the relief of most if not all, if cosplay girl ends up flaking I'm going to take a long break from tinder/dating and just keep on improving in other areas of my life.

This shit is just too exhausting.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on October 21, 2016, 12:54:59 PM

Uh fuck that, asshole, you owe us a nut in a human female for all that shit posting -- you get out there and get it in

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 21, 2016, 01:04:14 PM

Was it the British kickboxer or someone else?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 21, 2016, 01:15:19 PM

I dunno man...

Being dependent on pills just to function like a quote "normal" human being is... I'm not sure if I could be down with that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Steve Contra on October 21, 2016, 01:16:51 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 21, 2016, 01:15:19 PM

I dunno man...

Being dependent on pills just to function like a quote "normal" human being is... I'm not sure if I could be down with that.

Yeah you need to get over that thinking.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: brawndolicious on October 21, 2016, 01:20:07 PM

You could just sack up. :doge Dating is mostly about keeping an open mind and not being afraid of anything that could happen.

Of course if you're constantly thinking your choices are either an obese drug addict with an std versus a professional then...you're going to definitely post something entertaining.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

We've all been at the stage of having no idea what to expect and that is the worst part. You'll become enlightened soon enough.

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 21, 2016, 01:22:22 PM

"Try it for a bit"

How the hell am I supposed to get xanax on such short notice? Also, I don't really have a medical doctor that I can see right away to write me a prescription.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 21, 2016, 01:32:17 PM

Yeah, fuck no.

Not taking xanax.

I'll just be a "socially acceptable" druggy if I get hooked on that shit or something like it.

edit: I'm going to drink some camomile tea

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 21, 2016, 01:36:43 PM

Nah. I'm good.

I'll just stick to exercise, meditation, tea, and shit posting.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 21, 2016, 01:46:47 PM

Go back to Plan A, backpage or eros.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Samson Manhug on October 21, 2016, 01:54:37 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 21, 2016, 01:36:43 PM

Nah. I'm good.

I'll just stick to exercise, meditation, tea, and shit posting.

Seems to be working so far. Maybe you'll have an intimate relationship with another person next year.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 21, 2016, 01:54:46 PM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on October 21, 2016, 01:46:47 PM

Go back to Plan A, backpage or eros.

Backpage made me even more anxious. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 21, 2016, 02:35:44 PM

I'm sorry, but if this is "too exhausting" it's because you think about this shit too much. What is so exhausting? Exchanging messages? Making out? Laughing at some drugged up and diseased slut? I'm not sure why any of that should be weighing on you in any way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 21, 2016, 02:52:09 PM

I guess it would be safe to assume that you're an extrovert, Mupepe.

I'm a highly neurotic introvert and interacting with new people is fucking exhausting and nerve wracking for me most of the time. I have to constantly think about how I'm coming across to someone I just met since my emotional intelligence/EQ is not that great.

If I don't think things through and put on my "jovial, overly friendly mask" I can come off as robotic and uncaring. Even assholish if I'm tired or stressed.

edit: My creative director even pulled me aside once and said I needed to smile more during client meetings. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 21, 2016, 03:03:26 PM

According to all the Myers Briggs tests I've taken at work I'm not an extrovert :doge

Really though, I'm not that social. But I'm also just not so darn neurotic and based on what you've put in this thread your neurosis seems to stem from your inexperience. That's why it doesn't make sense to stop when you've been making a lot of progress lately and getting a lot of good experience (yes even the druggy was a good experience).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 21, 2016, 03:09:10 PM

I second guess myself constantly. And despite making some progress I still feel like I'm spinning my wheels and not going anywhere fast.

Also, the whole Hep C thing just brought up all of my neurosis concerning sex.

I mean, for me, I was brought up thinking sex was this dangerous and dark thing that's only safe if you do it with another virgin after getting married.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Mupepe on October 21, 2016, 03:17:44 PM

How fast did you expect to go? Didn't you just feel up and make out with some chick? That's not too bad at all IMO.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on October 21, 2016, 03:22:13 PM

Just wrap it up. And avoid anal with HCV/HIV. Good to go

Maybe send a dick pic to someone you don't expect to see again

Yolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 21, 2016, 03:33:59 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on October 21, 2016, 03:17:44 PM

How fast did you expect to go? Didn't you just feel up and make out with some chick? That's not too bad at all IMO.

Cosplay girl being gone on a vacation trip on one weekend and then having to go home to get her medication the next weekend definitely put a road bump or two in our progress to become much more well acquainted with one another. Also, I've only texted her just to set up dates and haven't been chatty with her at all... makes me wonder if that's why I haven't gotten a response yet from her today (or she could be busy). I have no idea if not chatting with her at all during those two weeks fucked up my chances of getting back together with her again.

Again, it's that weird balance of not seeming desperate but at the same time being interested.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 21, 2016, 04:04:18 PM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on October 21, 2016, 01:46:47 PM

Go back to Plan A, backpage or eros.

Nah I'm convinced Seeking Arrangement is your calling Pallando. You're young and white, you'll rake in chicks. Just pretend like you own your own IT company or something.

:ryker

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 21, 2016, 04:41:37 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 21, 2016, 02:52:09 PM

I guess it would be safe to assume that you're an extrovert, Mupepe.

I'm a highly neurotic introvert and interacting with new people is fucking exhausting and nerve wracking for me most of the time. I have to constantly think about how I'm coming across to someone I just met since my emotional intelligence/EQ is not that great.

If I don't think things through and put on my "jovial, overly friendly mask" I can come off as robotic and uncaring. Even assholish if I'm tired or stressed.

edit: My creative director even pulled me aside once and said I needed to smile more during client meetings. :doge

That sexist bastard!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 21, 2016, 05:21:23 PM

Damn son all I'm seeing here is that BJU got their hooks in deep

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 21, 2016, 05:22:42 PM

Southside Christian actually.

BJU was just the straw that broke the camel's back.

edit: I'm thinking cosplay girl moved on. So I guess I can just sleep in and chill out this Saturday.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 21, 2016, 05:30:04 PM

jesus dude you need lexapro in your life stat

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Atramental on October 21, 2016, 05:47:24 PM

Again. I'm not taking any pills. Especially SSRIs.

I'll just work through this shit like I have through most of my adult life.

Me in 2009 would've marveled at how far I've come in 2016.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 21, 2016, 05:48:57 PM

You're not being courageous by not taking medication. I used to think that too, until I had a terrifying panic attack that left me with a bleeding hand and a broken mirror.

Medication and therapy do wonders man. Seriously, trust me. I was going through this same shit as you not three years ago.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on October 21, 2016, 05:50:22 PM

Yeah, basically we have the medical ability to alter our brain chemistry, not using it isn't virtuous

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: toku on October 21, 2016, 06:04:42 PM

request to change the title to something more fitting

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Joe Molotov on October 21, 2016, 06:38:58 PM

Quote from: toku on October 21, 2016, 06:04:42 PM

request to change the title to something more fitting

Okay

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on October 21, 2016, 07:40:34 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on October 21, 2016, 05:50:22 PM

Yeah, basically we have the medical ability to alter our brain chemistry, not using it isn't virtuous

to be fair, we're not very good at it and don't really know why it works

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: nudemacusers on October 21, 2016, 08:16:49 PM

Quote from: Huff on October 21, 2016, 07:40:34 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on October 21, 2016, 05:50:22 PM
Yeah, basically we have the medical ability to alter our brain chemistry, not using it isn't virtuous

to be fair, we're not very good at it and don't really know why it works

But will it keep atra from posting in this thread :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: CatsCatsCats on October 21, 2016, 08:34:17 PM

Quote from: Huff on October 21, 2016, 07:40:34 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on October 21, 2016, 05:50:22 PM
Yeah, basically we have the medical ability to alter our brain chemistry, not using it isn't virtuous

to be fair, we're not very good at it and don't really know why it works

yeah, I was overselling ... and being pretty hypocritical honestly

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on October 21, 2016, 08:40:22 PM

What the hell did I miss? You told me yesterday you two were going to head out for the day. What happened?

Quote from: Huff on October 21, 2016, 07:40:34 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on October 21, 2016, 05:50:22 PM
Yeah, basically we have the medical ability to alter our brain chemistry, not using it isn't virtuous

to be fair, we're not very good at it and don't really know why it works

Exactly why I'm not on SSRI's after that one week of feeling nothing (then again, I feel nothing in general :doge :doge ) while on Lexapro. But that's a whole 'nother topic and this is apparently "Atramental trying to get laid: the movie: the thread."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on October 21, 2016, 08:48:32 PM

well they do take 4-6 weeks to start working.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 21, 2016, 08:51:50 PM

Quote from: thisismyusername on October 21, 2016, 08:40:22 PM

What the hell did I miss? You told me yesterday you two were going to head out for the day. What happened?

She flaked I guess. :yeshrug
When it hits 9pm I'll shoot her just a quick "bump" text just to check one last time and then... Oh well. Better luck next time.

edit: I mean, what's the point of staying in contact with me these last two weeks? I guess she didn't have the fortitude to just ignore me outright like everyone else. :goty2

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on October 21, 2016, 09:28:43 PM

Maybe she forgot. You shouldn't be jumping to conclusions or being (more of) a basketcase simply because you didn't go out today.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 21, 2016, 09:30:30 PM

The date was supposed to be Saturday morning.

I was just wanting to know the exact time and location tonight so I wouldn't be scrambling at the last second tomorrow morning to get all my shit together and then do an hour drive up to Asheville.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on October 21, 2016, 09:31:22 PM

Next time, actually keep in touch like you're interested in seeing what kinda girl she is.

You can't learn to ride a bike on a hill dude. It seems like you view every girl as either "desperate measures" or out of your reach.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 21, 2016, 09:34:35 PM

If she needs me to text her every other day to chit chat about random shit and we're not even in a relationship yet... nah. I'm not doing that.

I followed the advice that texting should be used to set up dates and nothing else this early on in the dating phase.

edit: Again, I wasn't expecting her to go on vacation the next weekend. And then the weekend after next because she forget her meds.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 21, 2016, 09:48:24 PM

This should be the part where you realize dating is ultimately a numbers game, especially on the likes of Tinder. You need to be out there trying to lay the pipe on an almost daily basis. Just try to date as many girls as possible. Most of them won't turn out but a few will. Also don't just rely on Tinder.

Quote from: Pallando on October 21, 2016, 09:30:30 PM

The date was supposed to be Saturday morning.

I was just wanting to know the exact time and location tonight so I wouldn't be scrambling at the last second tomorrow morning to get all my shit together and then do an hour drive up to Asheville.

Fuck that. If you don't hear anything tonight, don't go tomorrow. If you don't hear at all, she ghosted you and it's time to move on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 21, 2016, 10:25:26 PM

I'm going to have to start asking girls out person...

I've been using Tinder since mid-September and I've only gotten 4 dates out of it. 3 of which were rather lackluster in hindsight.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 21, 2016, 10:30:08 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/VlAOIZP.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 21, 2016, 10:32:09 PM

Also, I lied about blocking Hep C girl. :doge :doge :doge

She texted me back yesterday and said she had a fun time as well. :doge

I GUESS HEP C GIRL WILL HAVE TO DO, BREHS. a_hep_c_girl_is_fine_too.jpg :doge :doge :doge :doge :doge :doge :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 21, 2016, 10:34:02 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 21, 2016, 10:32:09 PM

Also, I lied about blocking Hep C girl. :doge :doge :doge

She texted me back yesterday and said she had a fun time as well. :doge

I GUESS HEP C GIRL WILL HAVE TO DO, BREHS. a_hep_c_girl_is_fine_too.jpg :doge :doge :doge :doge :doge :doge :doge

(http://i.imgur.com/rXDCwsT.png)

the return of the "head is head" movement

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 21, 2016, 10:39:12 PM

Actaully, too be fair...

I was kinda low key losing it when we were driving back to her place.

So I wouldn't be suprised if the hep c chick ghosted on me as well.

At least it's nice to know that not every girl down in this cultural wasteland is a conservative Jebus lover

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on October 21, 2016, 10:44:28 PM

fuck bitches get money dude just go do some push ups, work on some #art #staylow #andbuild

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 21, 2016, 10:48:05 PM

On the one hand she's obviously a train wreck. On the other hand, she's likely to fuck you as thoroughly as your religious upbringing. :obama

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on October 21, 2016, 11:56:10 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 21, 2016, 10:25:26 PM

I'm going to have to start asking girls out person...

I've been using Tinder since mid-September and I've only gotten 4 dates out of it. 3 of which were rather lackluster in hindsight.

Brah, you are an IRL 6.5/7 in looks and 3 in personality and you got almost a date a week with strangers from an app on your phone. Think about how amazing that is. What a wonderful world! Stay posi—you’re doing great.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on October 22, 2016, 12:07:38 AM

Jesus Christ, you're freaking out over nothing.

I'm telling you right now, go to the meet-point tomorrow. Sit there for an hour if she doesn't show up, you know she's ghosted. If she does: Great. Hurrah. The only time you ask for confirmation is if you're friends and planning to get together.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 22, 2016, 12:09:21 AM

No no no no.

She was supposed to tell me the meeting point this week. I've got nothing but radio silence.

Also, it's an hour drive to her general proximity.

She really really ghosted me, breh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: eleuin on October 22, 2016, 12:17:23 AM

it's time breh (https://www.christianmingle.com/)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 22, 2016, 12:18:49 AM

Apparently Christian Mingle will ban you if they find out you're not really a Christian.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: eleuin on October 22, 2016, 12:20:19 AM

you're willing to bang a fat heroin addict with hep c, you can lie about still being a christian

but seriously try okcupid or match or pof :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 22, 2016, 12:46:51 AM

Yeah yeah...

In other news, I haven't bought a lottery ticket in a while. Let's see if my bad luck with women transmutes into good luck with getting riches. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: VomKriege on October 22, 2016, 01:17:36 AM

Quote from: Pallando on October 21, 2016, 10:32:09 PM

I lied

:comeon
Are you looking for genuine advice or writing your shitty erotic fanfic breh ?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 22, 2016, 01:19:45 AM

I just don't give a fuck anymore.

edit: I'll follow advice when it's a perceived net positive.

Also, I'm probably not going to fuck Miss Hep C. But I wouldn't mind being a purely platonic friend though so I can hear all her fucked up stories.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on October 22, 2016, 01:51:23 AM

Quote from: Pallando on October 22, 2016, 01:19:45 AM

But I wouldn't mind being a purely platonic friend though so I can hear all her fucked up stories.

:comeon

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 22, 2016, 02:04:54 AM

I live a fairly vanilla, boring life. So, I like to hear what the underbelly of American society gets up to. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on October 22, 2016, 02:42:55 AM

So you lie to yourself, too :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 22, 2016, 03:12:15 AM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on October 22, 2016, 02:42:55 AM

So you lie to yourself, too :doge

Self delusion is one of my many talents. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 22, 2016, 03:15:01 AM

What should it be instead?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on October 22, 2016, 03:35:46 AM

Dude, stop texting women after horrible dates. You don't owe these hoes shit. Maybe you think it's gentlemanly to give them some "I BID ADIUE TO YOU MADAM" shit but it's not, none of them care. Leave Hep C Girl (cmon dude) in the dust already.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 22, 2016, 07:16:46 AM

This is where losing your virginity to a hooker is a good idea. You would then realize that it's not worth the neurosis that you're putting yourself through. Honestly these girls give little or no thought about you (don't take that personally). With Tinder or online dating in general, you are quite possibly one in hundreds they could be seeing. Their investment in this shit is so small as to be non-existent. That's why ghosting is so common with meeting girls online.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on October 22, 2016, 08:41:17 AM

Atra seems like he might fall for a hoe tho. Dangerous idea.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on October 22, 2016, 08:45:13 AM

:idont

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 22, 2016, 08:48:53 PM

So I'm guessing the date didn't happen?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 22, 2016, 09:42:18 PM

Yeah, no date. :-\

I just chilled out at my house, ate dinner at my parent's house, and now I'm back at my place playing vidya gaems and drinking beer until I fall asleep.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on October 22, 2016, 11:18:05 PM

Not knowing your previous text messages and assuming you didn't scare her off for whatever reason, it wouldn't be bad to send an easy text tomorrow like "didn't hear from you yesterday, would you like to grab dinner/whatever today". Then if no response, drop it.

I disagree with the no texting if not setting up a date talk, especially if post date 1. With so many people and apps trying to grab attention, even a "hey how was work" small talk bullshit lets them know you are thinking about them

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on October 22, 2016, 11:19:25 PM

Or whatever. I'm hammered.

Bout to send some dick pics

Stop worrying so much

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on October 22, 2016, 11:45:24 PM

Quote from: Huff on October 22, 2016, 11:19:25 PM

Bout to send some dick pics

:phil

Quote from: Pallando on October 22, 2016, 01:19:45 AM

edit: I'll follow advice when it's a perceived net positive.

OH MY ALLAH. :snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 22, 2016, 11:54:29 PM

Nah don't send her anything, it's clear that it's over. Unless she had some emergency type situation, in which case she'll text you.

Might be time to save up $300 and call a pro. Or a sugar baby. Either way I agree with MTW that at this point you just need to get the money off your back. Take her out to lunch and then head to a hotel.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on October 22, 2016, 11:58:22 PM

That first time man, when Pollando realizes he wasted so much effort, struggle all for...this....
:whew

That's why I'm still here and then right after when he comes in here and we get to hit him with the "lol if you think losing that was hard now try to find someone you care about and want to spend the rest of your life with and share your secrets with"

:neogaf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 23, 2016, 12:08:00 AM

:brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on October 23, 2016, 12:11:16 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 22, 2016, 11:54:29 PM

Nah don't send her anything, it's clear that it's over. Unless she had some emergency type situation, in which case she'll text you.

What's the harm? Shrug

Maybe she just wanted more attention than we suggested to give.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on October 23, 2016, 12:25:52 AM

Man why is it that you thought having radio silence with somebody you're interested in was a good idea tho? I think she just figured you weren't "that into her" while you were getting anxious OCDish about the right path to take like it's a public transportation map.

It ain't. Go risk/experiment/try new things when you're dating and don't worry about failure. Right now, just cherish the fact that you're still alive despite wasting a sure thing with a decent chick since you wanted to focus your time and effort on the Hep C million red flags chick.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 23, 2016, 12:26:34 AM

The harm is looking desperate and not taking a hint. Granted he is desperate but she don't need to know that shit.

I do agree that texting more makes sense I guess. It's hard to discuss because this should be a natural process but you've turned it into a diagram. Usually a text convo starts and ends naturally. Hey I had a great time, thanks me too, too bad I have to go to work tomorrow, lol I know right, etc etc. I'm guessing Pallando has done that before...right?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 23, 2016, 12:28:08 AM

Some people need a lot of attention. Others don't.

I guess she was the former.

Sucks but oh well.

And again we're assuming things. After two weeks away from me she must've been getting other matches on tinder and realized that there were better options out there.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 23, 2016, 12:26:34 AM

The harm is looking desperate and not taking a hint. Granted he is desperate but she don't need to know that shit.

I do agree that texting more makes sense I guess. It's hard to discuss because this should be a natural process but you've turned it into a diagram. Usually a text convo starts and ends naturally. Hey I had a great time, thanks me too, too bad I have to go to work tomorrow, lol I know right, etc etc. I'm guessing Pallando has done that before...right?

Yes.

edit; Also, also. I was NOT expecting her to be gone for TWO consecutive weekends.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 23, 2016, 02:21:31 AM

One of my super likes liked me back.

She seems fairly innocent looking...

here-we-go-again.mp3 :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: VomKriege on October 23, 2016, 06:55:25 AM

Quote from: Pallando on October 23, 2016, 12:28:08 AM

Some people need a lot of attention.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 23, 2016, 07:55:54 AM

I don't know, if a girl is interested, usually she will do what it takes to keep things moving. Two weekends of nothing, especially towards the beginning of knowing someone, pretty much means that it's over. In college I once dated a girl who was a full time student and had a full time job. We would meet at weird times like a Thursday during her lunch break or Saturday at 9 PM, she found the time because she was interested. "I forgot my meds" is a really shitty excuse.

You might find this interesting Pallando: http://www.express.co.uk/news/uk/723323/Sexual-partner-fertility-disability-World-Health-Organisation-IVF

Quote

But now in dramatic move the World Health Organisation will change the standard to suggest that a person who is unable to find a suitable sexual partner or is lacking a sexual relationship to have children - will now be equally classified as disabled.

WHO says the change will give every individual “the right to reproduce”.

Imagine if they change the laws to where banging a hooker is legal to alleviate your disability.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on October 23, 2016, 08:37:27 AM

Text when you actually have something to say - the same as anyone else.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 23, 2016, 04:38:58 PM

Well... I didn't have much to say in the first place. :doge

Correction: I did have a lot to say but it was a bunch of anxiety babble that I dumped here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on October 23, 2016, 07:29:39 PM

Did you at any point wonder how her day went? Ask. Did you get an idea for the next date and think "I wonder if she'd be interested in going here"? Ask. Funny joke or picture you felt like sharing? Share it. When I was dating I talked to them as much or as little as I felt like it. Whatever comes from that so be it because trying to manicure your interactions into perfection is what's stressful. I think you know what's verging into special fellow territory because you would ask here first. So rule of thumb, if it passes the special fellow test and you want to send it to a girl - just do it. Unless you're a creep you'll eventually find someone on the same wavelength as you but yeah, it's difficult.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on October 23, 2016, 07:32:16 PM

Just text her memes

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 23, 2016, 07:49:55 PM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on October 16, 2016, 08:49:17 PM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on October 15, 2016, 09:46:45 AM
.

Spent most of the afternoon banging this girl. Made her come enough times to where she couldn't go any longer and took a two hour nap; during that time I was watching Larry Sanders, which I recommend you all go watch if you haven't already.

She stopped by again for the afternoon. I've been very stressed out these past few days so I was able to take it out on her. This wasn't love making, this was pretty much me drilling and pounding her until I almost collapsed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 23, 2016, 08:33:04 PM

Meh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on October 23, 2016, 08:39:28 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on October 23, 2016, 08:33:04 PM

This isn't a sex thread

It would be if we were all doing it right.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on October 23, 2016, 11:01:01 PM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on October 23, 2016, 07:55:54 AM

I don't know, if a girl is interested, usually she will do what it takes to keep things moving. Two weekends of nothing, especially towards the beginning of knowing someone, pretty much means that it's over. In college I once dated a girl who was a full time student and had a full time job. We would meet at weird times like a Thursday during her lunch break or Saturday at 9 PM, she found the time because she was interested. "I forgot my meds" is a really shitty excuse.

You might find this interesting Pallando: http://www.express.co.uk/news/uk/723323/Sexual-partner-fertility-disability-World-Health-Organisation-IVF

Quote
But now in dramatic move the World Health Organisation will change the standard to suggest that a person who is unable to find a suitable sexual partner or is lacking a sexual relationship to have children - will now be equally classified as disabled.

WHO says the change will give every individual “the right to reproduce”.

Imagine if they change the laws to where banging a hooker is legal to alleviate your disability.

I could only imagine if people had to get IEPs for this kinda stuff. Would make work much more interesting...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 24, 2016, 09:32:00 PM

I just matched with my "type". :mouf

Dark hair, blue eyes, thin, kinda witchy looking.

I pray to whatever deity that can hear me that this works out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on October 24, 2016, 10:09:05 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 24, 2016, 09:32:00 PM

I just matched with my "type". :mouf

Dark hair, blue eyes, thin, kinda witchy looking.

I pray to whatever deity that can hear me that this works out.

Practice being the real you with the ones you don't care about. Continue being you around the one you want. Not only is it critically important to be genuine with people, any chance at long-term relationship success will rely on both people knowing who the other person is.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 24, 2016, 10:11:29 PM

She has a cat. Also, I have a picture of my cat on my profile as well.

Maybe that could be a good jumping off point...

"That's a pretty cat. What's its name?" :doge

edit: "I love cats. I heard you have a nice pussy. Can i play with her?" :doge
"My cat's dead, can I play with your pussy instead?" :doge
"Show me some catnip." :doge

edit: Please, help me. I have a problem. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on October 24, 2016, 10:35:35 PM

Be a little bit weird but not a perv.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 24, 2016, 10:37:20 PM

It's hard to find that middle ground. Especially for me.

edit: "Let me guess... you swiped right for my cat? He is pretty handsome."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 24, 2016, 10:39:21 PM

pussy/cat jokes are pedestrian.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 24, 2016, 10:40:06 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on October 24, 2016, 10:39:21 PM

pussy/cat jokes are pedestrian.

(http://i.imgur.com/U3yAq.jpg)

Quote from: Pallando on October 24, 2016, 10:37:20 PM

edit: "Let me guess... you swiped right for my cat? He is pretty handsome."

I dunno. I'm kinda feeling this one.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on October 24, 2016, 11:07:46 PM

You're gonna be alright.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on October 25, 2016, 12:23:01 AM

http://tinderhipsterswithcats-blog.tumblr.com/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 25, 2016, 12:30:04 AM

Cats and dogs are basically cheat codes for online dating. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 25, 2016, 12:56:57 AM

I like the cat joke. No kink shaming tho, she might have really swiped for the cat. Bless up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 25, 2016, 01:38:27 AM

I found an Alt-Right unicorn brehs. :doge

http://i.imgur.com/DJcPLqg.png?2
http://i.imgur.com/GoiwOyD.png?2

:crazy :cac :confused :what

spoiler (click to show/hide)

So young. So misguided... :hitler

spoiler (click to show/hide)

*swipes right* :rash

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 25, 2016, 02:37:42 AM

Four years ago that girl was getting molested in 7th grade by her History / basketball coach. Make America great again indeed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 25, 2016, 02:38:45 AM

Whoa. Wait. What?! :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on October 25, 2016, 02:40:02 AM

she probably fake alt-right, probably okay with cucks

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 25, 2016, 05:35:56 PM

With some matches I decided to be "ballsy" and just straight up ask them out.

I wonder how successful this shall be. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 26, 2016, 01:50:53 AM

Shot cosplay girl a short, friendly message on Tinder acknowledging that things fizzled out and asking her to give me brutally honest feedback on what I could've done better. :doge

I'm hoping I get some sort of clarity/insight out of this, instead of just assuming things. That way I can vastly improve upon my other encounters. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 26, 2016, 02:00:12 AM

::)

Well. It's too late now. :noah

edit: I'm really beginning to wonder if I'm a highly functioning autistic person. Because what seems like normal behavior to me is obviously not. :-[

edit: I guess I can save myself from this embarrassment and just unmatch her. That should delete the message entirely.

edit: It's gone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 26, 2016, 03:18:25 AM

*high functioning

It's late and I'm rambling. Bigly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on October 26, 2016, 06:38:08 AM

Bro it's dating not eBay

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on October 26, 2016, 07:04:24 AM

Dude as another awkward loser in dating to another:

You need to stop taking Tinder seriously. It's just another avenue, not the main street. Sending a "feedback message" is creepy and desperate.

You got a date on tinder. A girl found you good enough for that. It did'nt work. Feel good that you got that far and move on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 26, 2016, 07:52:47 AM

When fucking Rahxephon91 of all people is the voice of reason...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on October 26, 2016, 08:27:52 AM

Since you're wondering why it's weird to send a feedback request: Either she likes you or she doesn't. And if she doesn't, who cares why? Why would you change yourself to suit some stranger you met once?

(http://i.giphy.com/vmJnAJo3P82Vq.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on October 26, 2016, 08:28:31 AM

Now is when you should be sending dick pics. Show her what she missed out on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 26, 2016, 09:17:17 AM

It didn't work, the end.

Why would she respond to that type of message? She might already think you're weird and now she'll think you're really weird...

You have other matches. Focus on them. If a girl stands you up she has zero interest in seeing you. Move on. Keep looking. Go on as many dates as possible. If you know your awkward-ness is an issue then you should realize getting as much experience as possible will help you. Think of it like grinding in a Japanese RPG that I'd never play of course. You need more XP bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on October 26, 2016, 09:19:39 AM

Don't be too hard on him, I totally did something similar once in 6th grade :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on October 26, 2016, 09:22:17 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on October 26, 2016, 08:28:31 AM

Now is when you should be sending dick pics. Show her what she missed out on.

Thats how I met my wife

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on October 26, 2016, 09:51:39 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 26, 2016, 09:17:17 AM

It didn't work, the end.

Why would she respond to that type of message? She might already think you're weird and now she'll think you're really weird...

You have other matches. Focus on them. If a girl stands you up she has zero interest in seeing you. Move on. Keep looking. Go on as many dates as possible. If you know your awkward-ness is an issue then you should realize getting as much experience as possible will help you. Think of it like grinding in a Japanese RPG that I'd never play of course. You need more XP bro.

You don't need to grind in most Japanese RPGs 8)

Dating, on the other hand. I feel like I've been running around fighting the same slimes over and over for 34 years.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 26, 2016, 10:25:28 AM

You sent a "feedback" message? :kobeyuck

Quote

I'm a highly functioning autistic person.

Yeah, about that...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on October 26, 2016, 10:29:22 AM

Would you even listen to the feedback if she gave it to you? You've been ignoring most the advice in this thread for a while now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 26, 2016, 12:57:23 PM

You're all right. I won't do that again. But man, I sometimes wish I could get detailed "critiques" of how shit I am at dating and how I can improve. It's how I got better and continue to get better at my job by constantly getting input from my creative director and our clients.

Also, I keep on getting really hot matches in Asheville... I should just move there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on October 26, 2016, 01:06:40 PM

Don't look at it that way. For most people this isn't a recipe you can adjust to get the perfect result. There's way too many variables at play (most out of your control) with dating and all you're doing is stressing yourself out.

Go out. Have a good time. Learn from your mistakes where possible and get some experience. This should be fun. It's not a job interview, dude. Maybe that's what you've been doing wrong.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 26, 2016, 01:27:41 PM

Dating is a performance. You have to just do it. You don't go to the audience and say "Did that work? Was that good?" even when you're workshopping, you see how they react, you mentally note what went well and what didn't. If you don't know what went well and what didn't, keep doing it until you do. Most importantly you keep doing it so that you're better at performing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 26, 2016, 02:21:29 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 26, 2016, 12:57:23 PM

You're all right. I won't do that again. But man, I sometimes wish I could get detailed "critiques" of how shit I am at dating and how I can improve. It's how I got better and continue to get better at my job by constantly getting input from my creative director and our clients.

Also, I keep on getting really hot matches in Asheville... I should just move there.

You could pay someone to do that for you, as a fetish. Seeking Arrangement :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 26, 2016, 04:15:35 PM

Well. I might have a date with a hot single mom this weekend.

Any pointers I should keep in mind? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on October 26, 2016, 05:03:08 PM

pretend to be someone else

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 26, 2016, 05:12:02 PM

An enterprising and fulfilled man that would potentially be a great provider and father? :doge

And not the fucking degenerate, garbage person I am now? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: El Babua on October 26, 2016, 05:14:04 PM

Just be a pal, Pallando.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on October 26, 2016, 05:22:57 PM

If she's still breastfeeding drink some of her milk and report back. Also call her mami or mama a lot. Report back. With mucho details.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on October 26, 2016, 05:39:45 PM

getting a little splash of titty milk the exact same time that you nut inside :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 26, 2016, 06:14:55 PM

Act childish but kind, remind her of fertility. She last had a child come out her vajeen, make her want one to go inside her vajeen next.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Joe Molotov on October 26, 2016, 07:05:36 PM

Hand her a feedback card at the first of the date and ask her if she could fill it out before the date's over. Offer a free order of breadsticks as incentive.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 26, 2016, 07:51:15 PM

Start the date by saying, "So I'm guessing you have done 'the sex' before yes?"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 26, 2016, 08:09:20 PM

Offer her an Olive Garden coupon if she fills out your quick dating survey.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 26, 2016, 08:43:24 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 26, 2016, 02:21:29 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 26, 2016, 12:57:23 PM
You're all right. I won't do that again. But man, I sometimes wish I could get detailed "critiques" of how shit I am at dating and how I can improve. It's how I got better and continue to get better at my job by constantly getting input from my creative director and our clients.

Also, I keep on getting really hot matches in Asheville... I should just move there.
You could pay someone to do that for you, as a fetish. Seeking Arrangement :doge

Can a wagecuck afford a sugar baby?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 26, 2016, 08:48:49 PM

Nope. I can not.

Maybe in ten years I can but hopefully I won't be as desperate by then. :doge

Speaking desperation... I felt an urge to text back Hep C girl today. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 26, 2016, 09:00:08 PM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on October 26, 2016, 08:43:24 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 26, 2016, 02:21:29 PM
Quote from: Pallando on October 26, 2016, 12:57:23 PM
You're all right. I won't do that again. But man, I sometimes wish I could get detailed "critiques" of how shit I am at dating and how I can improve. It's how I got better and continue to get better at my job by constantly getting input from my creative director and our clients.

Also, I keep on getting really hot matches in Asheville... I should just move there.
You could pay someone to do that for you, as a fetish. Seeking Arrangement :doge

Can a wagecuck afford a sugar baby?

that's why pay-per-play exists for the broke bois

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 26, 2016, 09:03:47 PM

I signed up on SA and some of the dollar amounts these girls were asking for (https://i.sli.mg/pUHc4u.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 26, 2016, 09:05:04 PM

Toku hold me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 26, 2016, 09:12:01 PM

Oh dear :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on October 26, 2016, 09:12:23 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on October 26, 2016, 09:05:04 PM

Toku hold me.

(http://i.imgur.com/bzMPSPZ.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 26, 2016, 09:31:09 PM

Quote from: Shark Johnson on October 26, 2016, 09:05:11 PM

Yo Atra, serious offer.

You and I go on mock dates via Skype and at the end of them I'll rate your performance.

You get to develop your date skills and I get to work on my character acting and improvisational skills. win-win.

I would have to be inebriated to do this...

Especially if it ends up be being captured and uploaded to YouTube as an unlisted video for The Bore's viewing pleasure. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 26, 2016, 10:03:38 PM

Yes. Do it Pallo! And please record the sessions and post them here. :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 26, 2016, 10:07:20 PM

Fuck it. I'll give it a go. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 26, 2016, 10:09:57 PM

This is definitely the thread of the year.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: king of the internet on October 26, 2016, 10:24:29 PM

We're gonna need to see this video...👀

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Tasty on October 26, 2016, 10:28:18 PM

Atra, real talk:

I'll pay you $10 over Paypal for nudes. PM me.

Plz respond.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 26, 2016, 10:44:37 PM

No. I'm not flashing my virgin boy parts for no measly 10 bux :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 26, 2016, 10:45:03 PM

I'll paypal $11!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 26, 2016, 10:46:41 PM

$110,000 minimum and then we can talk. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 26, 2016, 10:49:34 PM

So while Sharkie J is giving you dating lessons, I can give you some lessons on Market demand and pricing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 26, 2016, 11:01:50 PM

My nudes are probably worth a meal at Taco Bell but I'm using my "set the price so high they can't afford it" tactic. :doge

I do that all the time for freelance work I don't want to do.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 26, 2016, 11:10:38 PM

True. But Tasty is making a personal request. That always costs more. :doge

Also, I have no idea how free I'm going to be this weekend but that's probably the best time for me to do a Skype call.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on October 26, 2016, 11:14:51 PM

I'm revoking your couch privileges in Asheville

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on October 26, 2016, 11:18:14 PM

Will this Skype feature fematra? :uguu

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 26, 2016, 11:35:44 PM

Quote from: Huff on October 26, 2016, 11:14:51 PM

I'm revoking your couch privileges in Asheville

That's okay.

I might just end up moving there because a large portion of my matches live there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 26, 2016, 11:42:21 PM

Will this content require a Bore Gold sub?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 26, 2016, 11:44:23 PM

Now watch Pallo get stood up/ghosted by a borean. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on October 26, 2016, 11:57:14 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 26, 2016, 11:01:50 PM

My nudes are probably worth a meal at Taco Bell but I'm using my "set the price so high they can't afford it" tactic. :doge

I do that all the time for freelance work I don't want to do.

About that: Make sure you price yourself high enough that it's worthwhile, but low enough that it's not going to prevent them from coming back to you later. The client may have work you want later, and overpricing will burn a bridge, such as $11,000 for virgin dick pics.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 27, 2016, 04:39:28 AM

So I'm noticing a new problem...

I'm matching with solid 7s, 8s, (and, dare I say, 9s) BUT because they're probably in such high demand by the "Chad Thundercocks" I'm getting no responses to my initial messages.

Also, I need to get better at opening messages. My standard "Hey [name], how's your week going? Anything interesting or eventful happen?" isn't going to cut it with these girls because they probably get that all the time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 27, 2016, 06:19:06 AM

:fbm

edit: it has had its hooks in me, more or less, since 2005. This is a chronic ailment.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rufus on October 27, 2016, 07:36:23 AM

Pathological issues, I don't think so, but it definitely seems to have re-inforced some strange ideas.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on October 27, 2016, 07:51:55 AM

Use Joey's line: "How you doin'?" and send it with a picture of Joey.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 27, 2016, 08:35:24 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on October 27, 2016, 07:51:55 AM

Use Joey's line: "How you doin'?" and send it with a picture of Joey.

TBH this is something fresh that could make you stand out but do young people know anything about Friends? It fails if she doesn't get the reference.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on October 27, 2016, 09:04:06 AM

Pallando: Are you a koala?

Tinder lady: [any answer it doesn't mantter]

Pallando: Well, you've got all the koalafications [koala emoji, sly face emoji, winking heart emoji]

http://pastebin.com/f91cZvnJ

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on October 27, 2016, 09:11:39 AM

I used to just open by asking where they wanted to meet for happy hour.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 27, 2016, 09:17:33 AM

Quote from: Huff on October 27, 2016, 09:11:39 AM

I used to just open by asking where they wanted to meet for happy hour.

"Sure, $1 Baja Blasts are always cool with me"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on October 27, 2016, 09:32:03 AM

Chips and salsa on me at the chilis bar

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on October 27, 2016, 09:46:03 AM

The only time I used Tinder I matched with a girl who had a picture of herself with a Gizmo doll. My opening line was something about getting her wet. Ya know, cuz Gremlins. It worked and the only reason we didn't meet up was because I canceled at the last minute.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 27, 2016, 10:05:31 AM

Jesus fucking christ. It's just a constant barrage of attractive Asheville women.

No wonder why I have had such a hard time dating women in my area. My "type" all fled to Asheville to be hippies and manic pixie dream girls. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on October 27, 2016, 10:07:46 AM

We've gone over this. Desperate virgins don't have types

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on October 27, 2016, 10:43:06 AM

Kinda feel like you should just put "is a virgin" on your profile and hope for charity

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 27, 2016, 10:47:40 AM

"I'm a virgin.
Just kidding!
Or am I?
Let's find out. 😏"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 27, 2016, 10:49:51 AM

The girl will figure it out pretty much right away anyway

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: ToxicAdam on October 27, 2016, 11:28:27 AM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on October 27, 2016, 10:43:06 AM

Kinda feel like you should just put "is a virgin" on your profile and hope for charity

The 'pity gene' embedded in all women that is a safety mechanism to keep our species alive.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 27, 2016, 11:39:44 AM

Well, I'm done with this thread. It's clear Pallando doesn't care enough to take our advice and is in a constant loop of disappointment without actually taking the action that is needed to make him able to thrive in social settings, particularly around women.

It's clear that you a) need therapy and medication and b) need to access what habits you have when you're alone and identify which ones are toxic. IE, 4chan visitation.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: VomKriege on October 27, 2016, 11:47:53 AM

Quote from: Pallando on October 27, 2016, 04:39:28 AM

So I'm noticing a new problem...

I'm matching with solid 7s, 8s, (and, dare I say, 9s) BUT because they're probably in such high demand by the "Chad Thundercocks" I'm getting no responses to my initial messages.

Also, I need to get better at opening messages. My standard "Hey [name], how's your week going? Anything interesting or eventful happen?" isn't going to cut it with these girls because they probably get that all the time.

Or, you know, they're just not interested (irrespective of why, not that you're in any position to know). Try the next ones. Isn't "Tinder a numbers game" ?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on October 27, 2016, 11:48:59 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on October 27, 2016, 11:39:44 AM

Well, I'm done with this thread. It's clear Pallando doesn't care enough to take our advice and is in a constant loop of disappointment without actually taking the action that is needed to make him able to thrive in social settings, particularly around women.

It's clear that you a) need therapy and medication and b) need to access what habits you have when you're alone and identify which ones are toxic. IE, 4chan visitation.

At the very worst you're getting to watch a train wreck. I'm in.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on October 27, 2016, 11:50:10 AM

That's what they said about Elliot Rodger, Mupepe.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 27, 2016, 12:06:22 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on October 27, 2016, 11:39:44 AM

Well, I'm done with this thread. It's clear Pallando doesn't care enough to take our advice and is in a constant loop of disappointment without actually taking the action that is needed to make him able to thrive in social settings, particularly around women.

It's clear that you a) need therapy and medication and b) need to access what habits you have when you're alone and identify which ones are toxic. IE, 4chan visitation.

Pallo: I'm going to go and do all this cringy/stupid stuff!
Bore: You know, that's really not such a good....
Pallo: I'm gonna go and do it!
Bore:(https://img.pandawhale.com/99300-stop-dont-come-back-Wonka-gif-9Ssr.gif)
Pallo: It was a disaster! :brazilcry
Bore: (http://i.imgur.com/gkWarJD.gif)

Rinse and Repeat

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on October 27, 2016, 12:11:14 PM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on October 27, 2016, 11:50:10 AM

That's what they said about Elliot Rodger, Mupepe.

I had to look up who that is but the parallels are uncanny.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 27, 2016, 01:39:37 PM

It all comes down to how bad he wants it. If the answer is 'not that bad' then he will keep coming up against these scenarios and want to give up or sabotage them. By 2025, there will be VR waifus on your Okkkulus anyway. Maybe just stick it out until then. Think of all the dank memes you will miss out on if you leave 4chan.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 27, 2016, 05:15:34 PM

Cute chubby girl who lives close by said hey.

This might be it, brehs. :doge

edit: Eh, think I spooked her. Went straight for the "I'm in need of a small spoon. How would you rank your cuddling on a scale from 1-10."

Whatever. I don't have time for prudes. :doge

edit: OHHH! Spoke too soon.

"I would say like 20, but I'm more of a knife kind of girl."

Knife? :doge

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=knifing

???

Eh, I'll just wing it from here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on October 27, 2016, 06:09:58 PM

I hope she kills you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 27, 2016, 06:12:10 PM

YEAH! I FUCKING HOPE SO! OOH-OOHHH!!! :kinison

edit: I guess knifing could either mean we're laying parellel to one another or it's synonymous with "daggering" (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vhfVMoDEqMk). :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Bebpo on October 27, 2016, 06:48:32 PM

Never heard of knifing. Yeah, if I got that response I'd be like wtf this person wants to stab me, no thanks, but sounds like its a real term. Still could mean actually stabbing, tread w/caution dude.

On the other hand, if a woman messages you first on something, it usually means they find you attractive and they are interested to a degree, so unless you really fuck up the date will probably go well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 27, 2016, 06:51:36 PM

You should have told her to meet in your stabbin cabin.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 27, 2016, 07:08:53 PM

I'll make a joke about the "knife" thing over dinner.

Don't want to scare her away with a vaguely threatening text. :doge

Edit: shit... she was on a choir tour with her university. She's back over in Charolette now...

I just have her my number and told her to hit me up whenever she's back in my area.

She also said she loved my straightforwardness. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on October 27, 2016, 07:18:54 PM

You've hinted at this a few times so I feel compelled to mention it. Please don't move to Ashville because you've convinced yourself it's a pussy goldmine based on fuckin Tinder. If you absolutely cannot stop yourself, please lie to us about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 27, 2016, 07:23:11 PM

Yeah, I'm not really moving there.

The job market there for the stuff I do for a living is kinda shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on October 27, 2016, 08:30:01 PM

Job market here for most things is shit

But it's totally a pussy goldmine if your in to smelly hipsters that don't know how to shave or hold down a job

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 27, 2016, 10:07:22 PM

If only it were closer and not an hour drive. :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on October 27, 2016, 10:27:27 PM

Quote from: Shark Johnson on October 26, 2016, 09:05:11 PM

Yo Atra, serious offer.

You and I go on mock dates via Skype and at the end of them I'll rate your performance.

You get to develop your date skills and I get to work on my character acting and improvisational skills. win-win.

You need a convincing wig for him to snatch, though. Wait, what were we talking about? Dates? Not the actual play-sex part? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on October 27, 2016, 10:40:40 PM

Okay, caught up. Time for me to put this cup of tea down and give a response...

Quote from: Pallando on October 27, 2016, 07:08:53 PM

She also said she loved my straightforwardness. :yeshrug

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8T_8xBUDHXs

Okay, with that out of the way. Some girls will not like that. So keep that in mind. That said: You need to learn to be somewhat charming and less a head-case like you are now.

1) Asking a girl for feedback is kinda a "no" move because it means you aren't confident in what you're doing.
2) You need to stop overthinking EVERYTHING. I remember you told me you pushed cosplay girl into your erection (I'm airing this publicly because this isn't a major thing to keep private, IMO). You don't need to do that to show her you want to fuck. I'm pretty sure when she's in the mood, you'd get it up for her given how badly you want to fuck.
3) With #2 being said: The fastest way to be charming is to try to be funny. Which, I'm not sure will work in your case. :doge

But seriously: Stop overthinking things and just be funny with people with no intention of screwing. I know that's gonna be hard with your "WOE IS ME! I'M A VIRGIN! I'LL BE A VIRGIN FOREVER!" thinking, but seriously: It works.

You know how I know? Because I've gotten one-night stands plenty of times from making jokes and just keeping a conversation going. The difference here (and I feel this will be crossing a line) is outright asking after buttering them up "hey, you wanna screw?" Because with men/gay men: YES. YES. YES. OH JESUS YES. Women may not want that straight-forward asking, but hell if I know. Someone like Wrath or PD would know that better.

But seriously: Be funny and have no intention of getting into their pants. You'll find that to have a farrrrrrr better success than your method(s) you've been doing now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 27, 2016, 10:55:27 PM

Chubby choir girl just messaged me back and said she'll definitely be down to hangout next time she's in my area. :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on October 27, 2016, 11:13:10 PM

Well, whenever that is: Make sure you don't thrust your erection into their crotch as a sort-of-hint-you-wanna-fuck-oh-god-so-lonely. Okay? Give her a good time, without the "good-time" you're looking for. :doge :doge

Because seriously: If you stopped giving a damn about your virginity and caring about it and wanting sex so badly... it'll happen. I say that a fellow basketcase.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 28, 2016, 01:08:41 AM

I read it. Very insightful post. I'll try to keep that all in mind.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 28, 2016, 01:11:12 AM

You're typing out another "pls give feedback" text right now aren't you? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 28, 2016, 01:12:18 AM

No. I learned my lesson. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 28, 2016, 12:46:15 PM

Well, despite being a fuck up in my dating life, I successfully matched a friend (who is also using tinder) with a girl that's basically his other half. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on October 28, 2016, 12:50:59 PM

You're sounding more and more like you're a gay bottom after all. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 28, 2016, 12:53:14 PM

Heh. You wish. :snob

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on October 28, 2016, 01:04:57 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 28, 2016, 12:53:14 PM

Heh. You wish. :snob

At the rate you're going, not for very long. :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: D3RANG3D on October 28, 2016, 01:11:40 PM

spoiler (click to show/hide)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cJ-TVhKO7Vc

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on October 28, 2016, 01:27:07 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 28, 2016, 12:53:14 PM

Heh. You wish. :snob

More like Andy wishes. Why would I get with an ex-Christian basketcase when I have plenty of straight men to convert? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Tasty on October 28, 2016, 01:40:39 PM

Quote from: thisismyusername on October 28, 2016, 01:27:07 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 28, 2016, 12:53:14 PM
Heh. You wish. :snob

More like Andy wishes. Why would I get with an ex-Christian basketcase when I have plenty of straight men to convert? :doge

Is that what you're doing right now? :ohhh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on October 28, 2016, 01:44:56 PM

:shh You, if I wanted comments from the peanut gallery I'd ask.

To be fair: I should've thrown in "non-Basketcase" to the straight men comment.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 30, 2016, 02:58:03 AM

FUUUUUUUCK.

I JUST matched with a FemAtra looking chick but I was drunk and made an ass out of myself when talking to her...

She hasn't unmatched me yet but no replies to any of my recent questions.

Pray for me, brehs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: TakingBackSunday on October 30, 2016, 03:00:02 AM

Stop drinking and messaging

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 30, 2016, 03:03:39 AM

I'm gonna die alone
I'm gonna die alone
I'm gonna die alone
I'm gonna die alone
I'm gonna die alone
I'm gonna die alone
I'm gonna die alone
I'm gonna die alone
I'm gonna die alone
I'm gonna die alone
I'm gonna die alone
I'm gonna die alone
I'm gonna die alone
I'm gonna die alone
I'm gonna die alone
I'm gonna die alone
I'm gonna die alone
I'm gonna die alone

:stahp

WHY GOD? WHY DO YOU HATE ME SO MUCH? :brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 30, 2016, 03:27:58 AM

Someone just kill now. I can't live anymore.

It hurts to breath.

:noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Raist on October 30, 2016, 04:42:32 AM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3XjUFYxSxDk

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 30, 2016, 08:02:07 AM

Quote from: Pallando on October 30, 2016, 02:58:03 AM

FUUUUUUUCK.

I JUST matched with a FemAtra looking chick but I was drunk and made an ass out of myself when talking to her...

She hasn't unmatched me yet but no replies to any of my recent questions.

Pray for me, brehs.

I give up. Good luck on wherever this takes you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on October 30, 2016, 09:25:14 AM

Quote from: Pallando on October 30, 2016, 02:58:03 AM

I JUST matched with a FemAtra looking chick but I was drunk and made an ass out of myself when talking to her...

She hasn't unmatched me yet but no replies to any of my recent questions.

(http://i.imgur.com/L1g1RXg.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on October 30, 2016, 11:07:16 AM

A friend of a friend has parties once a month, where people go over, chill, and play his arcades (he has probably 10+ cabinets, plus a Neo Geo with like 40 MVS games). His fiancee's friend is usually there, and I've seen her around a few times. Cute, short and curvy, with curly light brown hair. Yesterday I was at his Halloween party and was talking to her for a bit, found out she is into gaming and anime as well, seems pretty nice and stable. At the end of the night I fucked up, I told her to add me on FB instead of asking for her # or FB name :-\ Don't know why I did that but I just wasn't really thinking. Oh well, we'll see if she actually does, if not there's always next party.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Raist on October 30, 2016, 12:34:34 PM

Y'all overthinking shit way too much.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=APx2yFA0-B4

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: eleuin on October 30, 2016, 12:40:29 PM

The autism spectrum: it goes farther than you think - the thread

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on October 30, 2016, 12:55:57 PM

I'm out

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on October 30, 2016, 01:45:10 PM

At this point Pallo I'd say just focus on your work and hobbies. Maybe try to get some friends or repair old friendships because actively trying only seems to be making your life worse.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on October 30, 2016, 01:48:56 PM

A season for everything. Water comes in and then goes out. Bless up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on October 30, 2016, 02:24:39 PM

Quote from: toku on October 30, 2016, 01:45:10 PM

At this point Pallo I'd say just focus on your work and hobbies. Maybe try to get some friends or repair old friendships because actively trying only seems to be making your life worse.

I'm gonna disagree. Keep doing what you do. Most of us have done this same shit, but we did it in our teens and learned from it and those that didn't were able to follow advice. You don't seem to be able to follow our advice so you need to learn from your own experience. If you stop you'll find yourself in your 40's still saying weird shit to women.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 30, 2016, 02:44:26 PM

I agree with my fine latino brother. You gotta keep practicing and yeah, we all did stupid shit when we were younger. One though, I'm not kidding. Just pay to get laid and knock it out of the way. It's become too big a stumbling block for you. Just get it out of the way, see what it's like.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on October 30, 2016, 03:11:42 PM

Quote from: Shark Johnson on October 30, 2016, 11:27:27 AM

Atra, text me your number bro.

You really need to start running shit by someone before you take action. Your ass needs a filter until you can get it under control.

Your in my prayers, bruh.

Dude, fuck this. What's next, a fuckin' earpiece when he actually goes on a date? This isn't doing him any favors, at this point it's on him to keep plugging away, fucking up, learning from those fuck ups, and eventually getting his dick wet, though that looks to be a ways off.

I think we're reaching Hail Mary advice part of this thread, so my suggestion at this point is to develop a pattern of substance abuse. Become an addict to just about anything that doesn't destroy your genitals, and you're almost garunteed to get laid eventually. Wether it's in the throes of addiction when you're possibly exchanging sex acts for drugs, or in rehab when people are so desparate to escape the creeping darkness of sobriety that they'll fuck a beanbag chair, you'll get your damn dick wet.

I recommend benzos. They're great at taking the edge of the nerve wracking experience of talking to new people, a great party favor, and a lot more manageable than smack or coke. Good luck captain

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on October 30, 2016, 03:25:01 PM

He's already past the undergrad seen where having drugs will auto get you laid

I'd say become a regular at a bar or two. Eventually you'll find someone desperate enough to fuck you

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on October 30, 2016, 03:33:13 PM

I wanted to say something similar but I want Pallo to stay positive and be healthy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 30, 2016, 04:41:25 PM

I fear Pallando has reached self destructive depths. Cock blocking yourself with a hot girl is like the last stage of wizardry. The only things left are pedophilia or shooting up a community college. We've gotta get you back in the right direction dude, but do you WANT to go in the right direction?
(http://i.imgur.com/Yk67QFU.png)

After weeks/months it's clear you won't stop overthinking or obsessing over stuff, so I guess we gotta give up on that part. But surely you can continue going on dates to build some confidence.

I still think getting laid would calm you down. Once you fuck you'll realize you wasted a lot of time stressing something that isn't that crazy. You should save up $200-300 and pay someone to cuddle with you and then fuck. Get it out the way. Continue going on dates and your mind will be at ease.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 30, 2016, 05:12:22 PM

I'm so sorry guys. :'(

I think I really need to take a break or I'm going to break.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on October 30, 2016, 05:17:27 PM

I'm going to reiterate the suggestion for therapy. Being told over and over again that it's no big deal or that you're normal when you don't overthink things isn't going to help when you're not comfortable in your own situation. But getting some guidance on how to recognize and deal with your issues gets you on the right path.

Basically, you fuck up because you have sexual milestones as a relationship goal and that leads to a self destructive cycle no matter who you are.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on October 30, 2016, 05:32:38 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on October 30, 2016, 12:55:57 PM

I'm out

We know. :phil :supergay

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on October 30, 2016, 05:43:38 PM

Quote from: Huff on October 30, 2016, 03:25:01 PM

He's already past the undergrad seen where having drugs will auto get you laid

I'd say become a regular at a bar or two. Eventually you'll find someone desperate enough to fuck you

Hey, I wasn't saying "stock up on recreational drugs and appeal to people," I was saying "Develop a crippling addiction that will erase your dignity [sidenote, a touch of ego death couldn't hurt here, so Dr. Grams is also prescribing some LSD] and eventually force you to socialize with morally flexible degenerates."

I guess it goes without saying that I agree with becoming a bar regular.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 30, 2016, 06:05:34 PM

If my pick up game on Tinder is bad... It's even fucking worse in real life.

I probably could've gotten with that chick's number last night but I got weird REALLY fucking fast when I was drunk.

Quote from: brawndolicious on October 30, 2016, 05:17:27 PM

I'm going to reiterate the suggestion for therapy. Being told over and over again that it's no big deal or that you're normal when you don't overthink things isn't going to help when you're not comfortable in your own situation. But getting some guidance on how to recognize and deal with your issues gets you on the right path.

Basically, you fuck up because you have sexual milestones as a relationship goal and that leads to a self destructive cycle no matter who you are.

I had friend trying to find a therapist around here... A lot of them are religious quacks that try and push God on you.

Apparently there's some guy here who is legit but I forgot the name.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 30, 2016, 06:12:41 PM

Fuck it. I'll do it. I'll go to bars on the weekends.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on October 30, 2016, 06:21:30 PM

enjoy your life

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on October 30, 2016, 06:39:26 PM

Tell us what you did/said to her first

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 30, 2016, 06:49:21 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on October 30, 2016, 06:39:26 PM

Tell us what you did/said to her first

I no longer have it all in verbatim because she unmatched me (thank goodness...).

I basically started bombarding her with a bunch of questions because I was drunk and I was getting bit too overly sentimental too fast.

I would never had done that if I was sober. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on October 30, 2016, 06:52:57 PM

The sooner you stop caring so much the better

I was stood up on my first tinder date. I just grabbed a beer, bowled some balls, and swiped right some more

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on October 30, 2016, 06:53:15 PM

Damn bro. Next time just send pics of your dick like a normal dude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 30, 2016, 06:54:24 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on October 30, 2016, 06:53:15 PM

Damn bro. Next time just send pics of your dick like a normal dude.

It would have to be in the form of eggplant emojis since you can't sent pics on Tinder.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on October 30, 2016, 06:54:34 PM

Quote from: thisismyusername on October 30, 2016, 05:32:38 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on October 30, 2016, 12:55:57 PM
I'm out

We know. :phil :supergay

:hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on October 30, 2016, 07:36:05 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 30, 2016, 06:54:24 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on October 30, 2016, 06:53:15 PM
Damn bro. Next time just send pics of your dick like a normal dude.
It would have to be in the form of eggplant emojis since you can't sent pics on Tinder.

I'm so confused. Didn't someone say women complain about getting dick pics on tinder?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on October 30, 2016, 07:43:27 PM

You used to be able to

Now you can't send pics. Just got to get their number (or snapchat)

Then send dick pix

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on October 30, 2016, 07:44:42 PM

pallando just start going to bars and get wasted and bang the first chick that lets you. fuck, find an older chick with miles on her. this way you can't think about it too much. all this tinder stuff is doing, despite the whole purpose of the platform being to remove the layers of anxiety from hookup communication online, is clearly exacerbating your neuroses and overdue need to pipe a chick.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 30, 2016, 07:56:17 PM

Just matched with another hot girl that's 5 miles away from me.

She works at a local craft brewery that makes the beer that I was drinking last night. :doge

edit: I'll ask her about her job

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on October 30, 2016, 08:12:14 PM

Don't send the wrong signals so early! If you ask about her job she will assume you're gay. Ask about her tits. Specifically what type of nipples does she have.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on October 30, 2016, 08:13:25 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on October 30, 2016, 08:12:14 PM

Don't send the wrong signals so early! If you ask about her job she will assume you're gay. Ask about her tits. Specifically what type of nipples does she have.

Does... does that work? I thought straight men were supposed to neg the tits. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on October 30, 2016, 08:14:09 PM

Maybe this thread lead you astray steering you away from Smack Girl. Send her a 'u up?' text at like 2:30 am and just get this over with

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on October 30, 2016, 08:15:30 PM

nobody wants to talk about their job bro. for 99% of people their job is either something they leave behind completely when they clock out or source of stress in their lives. job talk is for established relationships, not hooking up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 30, 2016, 08:20:55 PM

:snoop

edit: Her bio was blank and all I had to work with is instagram pics

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on October 30, 2016, 08:22:39 PM

Quote from: thisismyusername on October 30, 2016, 08:13:25 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on October 30, 2016, 08:12:14 PM
Don't send the wrong signals so early! If you ask about her job she will assume you're gay. Ask about her tits. Specifically what type of nipples does she have.

Does... does that work? I thought straight men were supposed to neg the tits. :doge

You neg her if she says she has pink puffy nipples. Gross.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on October 30, 2016, 09:03:50 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 30, 2016, 08:20:55 PM

:snoop

edit: Her bio was blank and all I had to work with is instagram pics

blank bio sounds like an opportunity to give her some playful grief over having a blank bio. come on bro, be flexible in the moment/context.

and i assume she linked to her instagram. cuz if not, stop it. you don't need to internet detective to find things to talk about with a rando who wants a dick.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 30, 2016, 09:06:32 PM

Yes, she linked to it. I can see her feed in Tinder.

Edit: Also, hardly anyone uses tinder to hookup. I don't know why you guys keep on saying that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on October 30, 2016, 09:15:34 PM

all the people i know who use tinder use it to hook up or casually date ie delayed hookup tactic for closet prudes. ymmv.

however they certainly don't use it to talk about their jobs or answer streams of questions from drunk dudes. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on October 30, 2016, 09:19:05 PM

everyone uses it to hook up

maybe just not with you

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 30, 2016, 09:28:59 PM

:-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on October 30, 2016, 10:26:49 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 30, 2016, 09:06:32 PM

Edit: Also, hardly anyone uses tinder to hookup. I don't know why you guys keep on saying that.

(https://i.ytimg.com/vi/3SmZC4IFAIM/maxresdefault.jpg)

For you, maybe.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on October 30, 2016, 10:36:03 PM

Tinder is a meat market. Get jacked like The Business and even Atramental could get laid on it...maybe :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on October 30, 2016, 10:48:33 PM

Quote from: Pallando on October 30, 2016, 07:56:17 PM

Just matched with another hot girl that's 5 miles away from me.

She works at a local craft brewery that makes the beer that I was drinking last night. :doge

edit: I'll ask her about her job

What brewery?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 30, 2016, 10:49:58 PM

Quest.

It doesn't matter now though. I went ahead and unmatched her.

I really need to take a break or I'm just going to go down a self destructive path.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 30, 2016, 10:53:44 PM

Or, you know, take the advice you've been given many times here. Go to therapy, learn the art of conversation, pay to get that pesky virginity parasite gone...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 30, 2016, 11:31:13 PM

I'll need to find a therapist that isn't pushing Christian dogma first.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on October 31, 2016, 12:13:17 AM

Quote from: Pallando on October 30, 2016, 11:31:13 PM

I'll need to find a therapist that isn't pushing Christian dogma first.

Bro, that isn't that hard. Go to a University that isn't BJU.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on October 31, 2016, 07:32:08 AM

You unmatched someone because you assume you'd fuck up and then get more depressed?

Yeah you probably should talk to some kind of counselor

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 31, 2016, 08:53:33 AM

I also forgot to type a word in my initial message and it made me sound like an illiterate fuckup that doesn't proof read before sending messages.

edit: Eh, whatever. Maybe I'll run into her one day when I'm walking around downtown. But what I would say to "save face" is beyond me. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on October 31, 2016, 09:05:46 AM

Quote from: Pallando on October 31, 2016, 08:53:33 AM

I also forgot to type a word in my initial message and it made me sound like an illiterate fuckup that doesn't proof read before sending messages.

Breh... no one cares if you made a typo. Only yourself. OMG YOU'RE DUMB. You're so gonna be a virgin forever. :snoop

What did I tell you!? Stop overthinking shit! This *points to quote* is overthinking shit. *slaps*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 31, 2016, 09:12:41 AM

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: demi on October 31, 2016, 09:38:57 AM

Should have had sex with the fat chick instead of calling her disgusting. Oh well! Enjoy being a virgin forever.

Sad!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on October 31, 2016, 09:47:37 AM

Quote from: Pallando on October 31, 2016, 08:53:33 AM

I also forgot to type a word in my initial message and it made me sound like an illiterate fuckup that doesn't proof read before sending messages.

edit: Eh, whatever. Maybe I'll run into her one day when I'm walking around downtown. But what I would say to "save face" is beyond me. :doge

(http://i.imgur.com/1zQSVQx.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 31, 2016, 09:56:14 AM

You would probably slap me if you saw how beautiful this girl was, PD. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on October 31, 2016, 10:06:35 AM

PAWG?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 31, 2016, 10:10:35 AM

No. Slender but still very pretty.

edit: Also, another thing you have to remember is that I'm probably competing with 50+ guys for her attention right out the gate.

And probably a half or a quarter are using super likes like me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 31, 2016, 10:24:51 AM

It's hard to break a decade's worth of negative self talk and rationalizations. :idont

edit: Also, I've seen what the female side of things looks like on a dating site. Put a moderately attractive girl's pic up and the profile just gets swarmed with hundreds of messages in about an hour or two.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on October 31, 2016, 10:31:08 AM

Tell us more about your "type" and what women aren't in it?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on October 31, 2016, 10:32:46 AM

Audition for a local small town play, you might get some weird theater pussy and it will at least make a good story for us

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on October 31, 2016, 10:45:43 AM

You gotta get in the growth mindset instead of focusing on success. Failure is your greatest learning tool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on October 31, 2016, 10:54:06 AM

Get a second job in a restaurant. They all live fucked up lives.

And will help start you on a drug addiction

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on October 31, 2016, 11:13:05 AM

Just matched with two more beauties. But they're 80+ miles away... Makes me wonder if I should reset my account since nothing is showing up now in a 40 mile radius from my location.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on October 31, 2016, 11:30:46 AM

Quote from: Huff on October 31, 2016, 10:54:06 AM

Get a second job in a restaurant. They all live fucked up lives.

And will help start you on a drug addiction

Working in a kitchen will net Polla a lot of firsts real fast.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on November 01, 2016, 11:28:11 AM

I'm going to say it again:

Disregard females; acquire aesthetics.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 01, 2016, 11:39:43 AM

I probably need to get a personal trainer eventually to 1. hold me accountable so I don't skip workout days and 2. make sure I'm not throwing my back out from doing something stupid with weights.

Or at least have some simple yet effective workout routine I could do every other day in the morning.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 01, 2016, 11:48:35 AM

You should do some cardio too. Are you near any tracks? I live within 2 minutes of a high school that has nice track and bleachers. I run the track and bleachers at least 3 days a week. Once you get into a routine you'll be set. It'll also help your diet, as you'll feel like shit if you eat fast food ("why did I eat that shit..."). It's not that impressive but I just completed a full month without having fast food. Celebrated with a pizza, and had some candy. Now I plan on not touching any sweets or fast food until Thanksgiving, and after that I'll prob go until Christmas. etc etc.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 01, 2016, 11:49:57 AM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on November 01, 2016, 11:43:10 AM

You overthink everything, don't you?

Just took a DISC personality test for work yesterday and it confirms that fact, yes.

The "C" stands for "Caution" and the "D" for "Decisive". My score for C was super high and my score for D was super low. :yeshrug

@PD

I've been doing nothing but cardio as of late. Weights can be kinda intimidating for me. Especially in public. :doge

And I do eat fairly healthy throughout the week except for my once a week cheat days.

Plus, I'm already down to my standard weight of 180 lbs. I just have hardly any muscle tone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on November 01, 2016, 12:00:59 PM

Do P90X in the comfort of your home then

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: ToxicAdam on November 01, 2016, 12:06:39 PM

Gym anxiety is the stupidest thing. I've been in and out of gyms since I was 18 and NO ONE gives a shit about you are what you are doing.

Everyone there is focused on their own shit or consumed by their own personal bullshit which drove them into the gym in the first place.

If anything, people that have been working out for a long time remember what it was to be a novice or they are happy to see you actually trying. It's the people that are slobs their entire lives who they have disdain for.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on November 01, 2016, 12:08:55 PM

Live your life according to online 5 minute personality tests brehs

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 01, 2016, 12:11:07 PM

It's just a reflection of my default state.

If anything, my DISC profile is saying I need to be more decisive and less cautious.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 01, 2016, 12:52:33 PM

I know. I know...

It's just that I seem to royally fuck up a lot when I just do shit without thinking about all of the angles first.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: demi on November 01, 2016, 12:54:58 PM

Even fistful wasnt this much of a wimp and he stored photos of Natalie Portman ROFL

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on November 01, 2016, 01:06:07 PM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on November 01, 2016, 11:28:11 AM

I'm going to say it again:

Disregard females; acquire aesthetics.

There's a deeper meaning to this that pallando might not understand: if you like something about yourself and personal struggles that you've overcome then you can easily connect with somebody else like that.

You've considered banging unattractive, drug addicts with STDs and probably paying a hooker so you're down there in rock bottom. Now time to put the pieces back together.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 01, 2016, 03:18:01 PM

Quote from: Dufus on November 01, 2016, 02:59:39 PM

jesus I've been trying to write a post for Panaldo for the past five minutes but I keep deleting it

I just don't know brehs.

I have to say a lot of advice here is useless. Panaldo reminds me of younger self. Now I'm all wise and shit and know about human interaction and stuff, and I'm still terrible at it, but a lot of people here are trying to give advice when you don't know how Panaldo really is and how he acts IRL. It becomes too impractical to give advice.

I still see so many damn posts that go "nah man you just need to [insert common sense here]". Even basic common sense shit doesn't work if you don't know the real cause of whatever the problem is (autism, some kind of psychiatric disorder, certain types of phobia, whatever).

I'd suggest seeing a psychiatrist aka a person that actually gets to meet you IRL instead relying on advice of people who don't know how you are in IRL. But, I think mental healthcare in the US is really uneven so I'm not sure if that will help. In any case someone who can meet you IRL can more easily tell what you're having difficulty with.

Also I think at this point you can admit you don't really have any friends, only acquaintances. If they really are your friends, learn to socially interact with them first. Then apply that to women (and subsequently learn to treat women like ordinary people).

You want likes so bad for this post. I'm going to treat this like the vagina and withhold pleasure for a bit. Maybe I'll like it, maybe I won't.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on November 01, 2016, 03:29:08 PM

Quote from: Dufus on November 01, 2016, 02:59:39 PM

jesus I've been trying to write a post for Panaldo for the past five minutes but I keep deleting it

I just don't know brehs.

I have to say a lot of advice here is useless. Panaldo reminds me of younger self. Now I'm all wise and shit and know about human interaction and stuff, and I'm still terrible at it, but a lot of people here are trying to give advice when you don't know how Panaldo really is and how he acts IRL. It becomes too impractical to give advice.

I still see so many damn posts that go "nah man you just need to [insert common sense here]". Even basic common sense shit doesn't work if you don't know the real cause of whatever the problem is (autism, some kind of psychiatric disorder, certain types of phobia, whatever).

I'd suggest seeing a psychiatrist aka a person that actually gets to meet you IRL instead relying on advice of people who don't know how you are in IRL. But, I think mental healthcare in the US is really uneven so I'm not sure if that will help. In any case someone who can meet you IRL can more easily tell what you're having difficulty with.

Also I think at this point you can admit you don't really have any friends, only acquaintances. If they really are your friends, learn to socially interact with them first. Then apply that to women (and subsequently learn to treat women like ordinary people).

Ruzbeh, don't act like you're in a position to lecture Atramental :gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 01, 2016, 04:42:55 PM

If you guys saw how I operate IRL you would realize a lot this "craziness" and neuroticism is out of my control in social contexts that I'm not used to being in.

It takes me a month or two to feel super comfortable around a new person in my social circle. Especially women I want to have an intimate relationship with.

Also, with dating I have to condense that "becoming comfortable" phase from a span of a month to just a couple of hours. And I suppose the good news is that the more I put myself in these uncomfortable scenarios the more used to them I become.

But it takes a lot of painful failures and lukewarm successes for me to really adapt to new social contexts.

Anyways, I could ramble on but I need to finish up some work.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on November 01, 2016, 04:45:03 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 01, 2016, 11:49:57 AM

and my score for D was super low. :yeshrug

Newsfeed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rufus on November 02, 2016, 07:14:37 AM

Inflating challenges in your mind is a double edged sword. Failure doesn't feel as bad if you think you never had a chance, but if you overdo it you only intimidate yourself into giving up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on November 02, 2016, 09:00:55 AM

^That's completely accurate, speaking as someone that does that often. Seriously listen to that, Atra.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Joe Molotov on November 02, 2016, 10:53:53 AM

Hey Palla, maybe your gf just drinks a lot of Red Bull, you should hit her back up.

http://gizmodo.com/man-contracts-severe-hepatitis-after-binging-on-energy-1788457458

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 02, 2016, 01:58:13 PM

Another very forward chubby chick matched with me and messaged me during lunch. She liked that I was using Charlie's (from It's Always Sunny) shitty dating profile as one of my pics.

Told her I was occupied with work at the moment but I'll message her back later this afternoon.

She's 80+ miles away but so are my other matches at this point. :yeshrug

Also, my gut is telling me she's DTF. She's a teacher of elementary school kids so she probably has to stay all "buttoned up" all day and she has put like zero effort in her profile.

edit: She has a pic with Hillary Clinton as well but that's not really relevant.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: king of the internet on November 02, 2016, 02:47:57 PM

You gut clearly doesn't know shit just fyi

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 02, 2016, 02:53:15 PM

Give it a try. Building date experience with chubby girls isn't a bad idea.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 02, 2016, 03:03:02 PM

I should probably mention that I have 3 better looking opinions on standby. One of which I already have her number.

Chubby chick will be option D in case options A, B, and C fall through.

Correction/update: make that 4 better options :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on November 02, 2016, 03:06:19 PM

Why not all of them? Just B your L on some fucking fat T's, dude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 02, 2016, 03:13:00 PM

That's a lot of traveling around the southeast tho...

I've got girls in:
Charlotte, NC
Asheville, NC
Athens, GA
Augusta, GA
Rock Hill, SC
Columbia, SC

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on November 02, 2016, 03:20:40 PM

You've got hoes in different area codes.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

You don't have to spunk on them all on the same day or weekend.

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on November 02, 2016, 04:41:19 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 02, 2016, 03:03:02 PM

I should probably mention that I have 3 better looking opinions on standby. One of which I already have her number.

Chubby chick will be option D in case options A, B, and C fall through.

Correction/update: make that 4 better options :doge

Lmao. Look at this perma-virgin turning down the clearly DTF fat girl because he doesn't want his first time to be with one. Keep carrying that L, loser.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Joe Molotov on November 02, 2016, 04:48:55 PM

That fat girl is gonna get dicked down this weekend (and so will your four better options (by someone else)). :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 02, 2016, 04:49:26 PM

bested by chad thundercock once again. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 02, 2016, 04:51:53 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 02, 2016, 03:03:02 PM

I should probably mention that I have 3 better looking opinions on standby. One of which I already have her number.

Chubby chick will be option D in case options A, B, and C fall through.

Correction/update: make that 4 better options :doge

He's learning.
(http://i.imgur.com/kN0vCUf.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on November 02, 2016, 06:26:59 PM

dunno why a) you think you have the experience to suss out a true DTF'er, and b) if you did, you aren't just gonna hook up with the DTF'er so you don't turn into a wizard shortly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on November 02, 2016, 06:47:24 PM

Back in my day*, you'd take your virginity and give it to any girl who looked cute and down even if you know she's totally not your type and you would never tell your friends about it because no one gives a poop.

Seriously pallando, bang a girl who seems nice and not baggage ridden and you'll start caring more about the next Nintendo system than your sexual xp. It's just the way the male mind works.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

*Like 3 years ago

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on November 02, 2016, 06:49:07 PM

Quote from: Rufus on November 02, 2016, 07:14:37 AM

Inflating challenges in your mind is a double edged sword. Failure doesn't feel as bad if you think you never had a chance, but if you overdo it you only intimidate yourself into giving up.

This is the number one reason many stunningly good-looking women don't have boyfriends: guys assume they have no chance and never try. In my youth (Mesozoic Period) it was easier to talk to beautiful women because I assumed they were out of my league. I only panicked when they actually turned out to be interested.

Pallando, the easiest way for you to let things work is to not care. The less you actually get wrapped up in whether or not things might work out, the more you'll be letting things work out on their own -- or not, but you won't care!

As Manhug was saying, "Disregard females, acquire aesthetics." Or self-respect if you can manage it, but that's harder than aesthetics.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 02, 2016, 07:12:16 PM

Just asked the chubby chick what other comedy shows she really likes ... Big Bang Theory... :doge It's quote "Always good."

Well, she's not getting any of my seed. That's for fucking sure. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on November 02, 2016, 07:15:05 PM

Cmon dude, you're not in a position to not fuck a chick because she likes a stupid show, you're not The Biz

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on November 02, 2016, 07:16:10 PM

:beli my wife likes those dumb celebrity lip sync battles, do you think that impacts my desire to nut?

spoiler warning: no

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on November 02, 2016, 07:45:15 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 02, 2016, 07:12:16 PM

Just asked the chubby chick what other comedy shows she really likes ... Big Bang Theory... :doge It's quote "Always good."

Well, she's not getting any of my seed. That's for fucking sure. :doge

Ok, you're officially staying a perma-virgin. Enjoy your no-pussy life, taco. Or become the gay bottom you've been born to be. Either/or. Because clearly you're not in this for the pussy.

Tip: If she said what you said she said above, you smile and nod and go "cool" and change the subject or say a comedy you enjoy. You don't automatically exclude her because you don't like that show. :comeon

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: VomKriege on November 02, 2016, 07:54:27 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 02, 2016, 07:11:20 PM

dp

Sure. On whom it will happen however...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on November 02, 2016, 08:19:41 PM

leper altra until he gets someone/thing to fuck him

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: TakingBackSunday on November 02, 2016, 08:21:22 PM

Pallando is me from 2010

and its fucking terrifying to witness

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on November 02, 2016, 08:40:40 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 02, 2016, 07:12:16 PM

Just asked the chubby chick what other comedy shows she really likes ... Big Bang Theory... :doge It's quote "Always good."

Well, she's not getting any of my seed. That's for fucking sure. :doge

(http://i.imgur.com/H7epBaj.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 02, 2016, 08:49:46 PM

I'm chatting with two girls at the same time. So I'm not without hope yet.

edit: I did send a 3rd one an opening message but she's probably busy

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on November 02, 2016, 10:24:14 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 02, 2016, 08:49:46 PM

I'm chatting with two girls at the same time. So I'm not without hope yet.

edit: I did send a 3rd one an opening message but she's probably busy

Breh, pork the fat chick. There is no shame in that game. Plenty of people have done that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on November 02, 2016, 10:33:50 PM

Can there be a separate thread for this yet? In the last 30 pages maybe five posts have been about actual relationships

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: eleuin on November 02, 2016, 10:42:03 PM

HOF this when the deed is finally done

change the title to fat chicks

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 02, 2016, 10:54:06 PM

this is gonna be you bro
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cjt8SJPfZeA

keep on keeping on

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on November 02, 2016, 11:00:59 PM

ok so actual relationship post: gonna get snipped soon. hold me brehs. scheduled my consultation (aka 'do you really want to do this') visit for a couple weeks from now. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on November 02, 2016, 11:23:54 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on November 02, 2016, 11:00:59 PM

ok so actual relationship post: gonna get snipped soon. hold me brehs. scheduled my consultation (aka 'do you really want to do this') visit for a couple weeks from now. :doge

For some reason, this operation is about ¥300,000 in Japan, but fully covered by insurance in the USA. I sincerely wish I'd had this done when I was working in California during 2012. :'( :'( :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on November 02, 2016, 11:44:04 PM

To be fair, Japan needs kids more than 'murica.
Keep us posted Mac. I've been thinking about getting the snip snip.

edit: Pallo unless she's in a rascal or looks like a truck you got no room to talk.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on November 03, 2016, 01:03:46 AM

yeah, fortunately the man will cover this 100%. but on the other hand, my balls are in the hands of ... the man. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Raist on November 03, 2016, 03:47:13 AM

Has this thread been retitled to "Pallando finds excuses to not fuck anyone" yet?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on November 03, 2016, 04:03:12 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on November 03, 2016, 01:03:46 AM

yeah, fortunately the man will cover this 100%. but on the other hand, my balls are in the hands of ... the man. :doge

:supergay

Oh, man. Can you at least find a sexy woman doctor to micromanage your taint?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on November 03, 2016, 05:52:38 AM

Nudemac: Don't do it!

Pallando: Do it!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on November 03, 2016, 06:12:17 AM

Quote from: Premium Lager on November 03, 2016, 05:52:38 AM

Nudemac: Don't do it!

He already has kids. I'm sure he

spoiler (click to show/hide)

totally doesn't

[close]

regret it now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rufus on November 03, 2016, 07:37:15 AM

Quote from: chronovore on November 02, 2016, 11:23:54 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on November 02, 2016, 11:00:59 PM
ok so actual relationship post: gonna get snipped soon. hold me brehs. scheduled my consultation (aka 'do you really want to do this') visit for a couple weeks from now. :doge

For some reason, this operation is about ¥300,000 in Japan, but fully covered by insurance in the USA. I sincerely wish I'd had this done when I was working in California during 2012. :'( :'( :'(

What, no foreigner discount? :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rufus on November 03, 2016, 08:13:55 AM

:shh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Joe Molotov on November 03, 2016, 10:01:39 AM

Quote from: Rufus on November 03, 2016, 07:37:15 AM

Quote from: chronovore on November 02, 2016, 11:23:54 PM
Quote from: nudemacusers on November 02, 2016, 11:00:59 PM
ok so actual relationship post: gonna get snipped soon. hold me brehs. scheduled my consultation (aka 'do you really want to do this') visit for a couple weeks from now. :doge

For some reason, this operation is about ¥300,000 in Japan, but fully covered by insurance in the USA. I sincerely wish I'd had this done when I was working in California during 2012. :'( :'( :'(
What, no foreigner discount? :hitler

Big cauku Americans probably cost extra. :brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: demi on November 03, 2016, 10:44:50 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on November 02, 2016, 11:00:59 PM

ok so actual relationship post: gonna get snipped soon. hold me brehs. scheduled my consultation (aka 'do you really want to do this') visit for a couple weeks from now. :doge

Muckhole did this a long time ago, he constantly tells me stories about the lovely guilt free creampies going on

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: ToxicAdam on November 03, 2016, 12:19:11 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on November 02, 2016, 11:00:59 PM

ok so actual relationship post: gonna get snipped soon. hold me brehs. scheduled my consultation (aka 'do you really want to do this') visit for a couple weeks from now. :doge

The after-effects of the surgery weren't that bad, the only weird thing for me was the surgery itself.

I was sitting in a reclining chair at about a 40 degree angle. A blue absorbent mat covering most of my body except for one hole where you put your junk through. The doctor is to my left and the nurse is to my right and facing me. It takes about 10-12 minutes and the whole time your conversing with them while they are working on your balls.

If felt like a dinner party where everyone was talking about their lives not acknowledging that there was a set of shaved balls in the center of the table.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on November 03, 2016, 12:32:24 PM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on November 03, 2016, 12:19:11 PM

If felt like a dinner party where everyone was talking about their lives not acknowledging that there was a set of shaved balls in the center of the table.

W-what dinner parties have you been to?!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: ToxicAdam on November 03, 2016, 12:46:14 PM

It's a pretty good way to weed out women that are only into a LTR for a baby and not for you. Especially as you approach your early 30's and baby fever consumes a lot of women.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Brehvolution on November 03, 2016, 12:50:29 PM

Get snipped on a Friday. Lay around all weekend. You'll be good to go by Monday.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on November 03, 2016, 12:55:24 PM

Go for what

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on November 03, 2016, 12:58:14 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on November 03, 2016, 12:57:09 PM

Over the past few months I've found myself thinking that I'd never want to have kids, for a variety of reasons. But what's stopping me is the fact that I used to want to have a family, and maybe I'll see that as a goal again later on. So pretty unsure. Seems like a short term gain but possible long term issue.

You and I could raise a pretty cool kid together, bro.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on November 03, 2016, 01:32:46 PM

I don't think doctors in America approve a lot of snips for single, childless males in their twenties

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on November 03, 2016, 06:03:28 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on November 03, 2016, 12:43:25 PM

Is it weird that I'm thinking about the old snipsnip even though I don't have kids nor am I in a relationship?

Thought we'd show our own weird insecurities for once.

No. It's reasonable if you are sure you never want kids.

But I've heard plenty of people say that and then take their word back. I'd rather have that shot that kills your sperm that is reversible hit the US (which the FDA is blocking IIRC) instead of the standard "snip."

Quote from: TheInfelicitousDandy on November 03, 2016, 12:55:24 PM

Go for what

To work. :comeon

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on November 03, 2016, 06:13:27 PM

Quote from: demi on November 03, 2016, 10:44:50 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on November 02, 2016, 11:00:59 PM
ok so actual relationship post: gonna get snipped soon. hold me brehs. scheduled my consultation (aka 'do you really want to do this') visit for a couple weeks from now. :doge

Muckhole did this a long time ago, he constantly tells me stories about the lovely guilt free creampies going on

The dream :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on November 03, 2016, 08:29:26 PM

Quote from: demi on November 03, 2016, 10:44:50 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on November 02, 2016, 11:00:59 PM
ok so actual relationship post: gonna get snipped soon. hold me brehs. scheduled my consultation (aka 'do you really want to do this') visit for a couple weeks from now. :doge

Muckhole did this a long time ago, he constantly tells me stories about the lovely guilt free creampies going on

I miss Muckhole. Hope he's doing well. OTOH, it sounds like he's getting more action than I am. :-\

Quote from: Rufus on November 03, 2016, 07:37:15 AM

Quote from: chronovore on November 02, 2016, 11:23:54 PM
Quote from: nudemacusers on November 02, 2016, 11:00:59 PM
ok so actual relationship post: gonna get snipped soon. hold me brehs. scheduled my consultation (aka 'do you really want to do this') visit for a couple weeks from now. :doge

For some reason, this operation is about ¥300,000 in Japan, but fully covered by insurance in the USA. I sincerely wish I'd had this done when I was working in California during 2012. :'( :'( :'(
What, no foreigner discount? :hitler

Yeah, you'd think that there would be some program for maintaining the purity of the Japanese race which would allow resident aliens to submit-to-snip for eugenics reasons.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 03, 2016, 11:30:45 PM

I think I've hit a turning point, brehs. :woody

I won't count my chickens before they hatch and go into too much detail but things are clicking into place.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on November 03, 2016, 11:38:15 PM

(http://static1.businessinsider.com/image/504f309b6bb3f7aa2a000013/rorty.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 04, 2016, 12:32:28 AM

:preach

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 04, 2016, 12:39:08 AM

PD and Shark Johnson know what I'm talking about.

PD, me and the "Velma" girl are vibing pretty well so far.

:whew

edit: Also, I don't know what it is with me and 19 year olds but we seem to get along great. :doge

spoiler (click to show/hide)

But I feel like this when I'm courting them. :doge
(http://i.imgur.com/HxAOSLH.jpg?1)

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 04, 2016, 12:46:13 AM

My Pallando Gold sub is paying off
:preach

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on November 04, 2016, 07:39:27 AM

19 year olds, huh? Well, alright.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rufus on November 04, 2016, 07:47:52 AM

Quote from: Pallando on November 04, 2016, 12:39:08 AM

edit: Also, I don't know what it is with me and 19 year olds but we seem to get along great. :doge

Similar experience levels perhaps. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on November 04, 2016, 02:00:19 PM

Yooo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on November 04, 2016, 06:14:18 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 03, 2016, 11:30:45 PM

I think I've hit a turning point, brehs. :woody

I won't count my chickens before they hatch and go into too much detail but things are clicking into place.

I'm gonna love if this blows up in your face, and if it doesn't I blame PD and Shark for that win.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on November 04, 2016, 11:01:40 PM

Bless up

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: El Babua on November 05, 2016, 02:37:09 AM

mods please change thread title when it finally happens. the anticipation is killing me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Raist on November 05, 2016, 07:09:40 AM

Quote from: Pallando on November 03, 2016, 11:30:45 PM

I think I've hit a turning point, brehs. :woody

I won't count my chickens before they hatch and go into too much detail but things are clicking into place.

OK which one of you made that tinder account to troll him.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on November 05, 2016, 08:45:29 AM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on November 05, 2016, 08:37:05 AM

For the record, Pallando, I never believed in you.

:whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 05, 2016, 07:08:56 PM

I don't need belief to succeed.

All I need is the will and determination to keep on going when shit seems dire.

And I will promise you all this: before my 27th birthday (June 17th) I will get laid! :bolo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on November 05, 2016, 08:00:44 PM

By a hooker. Not hating. Just saying.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on November 05, 2016, 08:14:55 PM

q for gay gaf, does getting your booty plugged by a dikk count as losing virginity?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 05, 2016, 08:24:39 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on November 05, 2016, 08:00:44 PM

By a hooker. Not hating. Just saying.

Tbh, man. The hookers around here are gross as fuck. :yeshrug

I much rather do a frumpy fatty off of tinder.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 05, 2016, 09:05:41 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 05, 2016, 08:24:39 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on November 05, 2016, 08:00:44 PM
By a hooker. Not hating. Just saying.
Tbh, man. The hookers around here are gross as fuck.

Who said anything about hookers
:holeup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on November 05, 2016, 09:15:08 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 05, 2016, 09:05:41 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 05, 2016, 08:24:39 PM
Quote from: Mupepe on November 05, 2016, 08:00:44 PM
By a hooker. Not hating. Just saying.
Tbh, man. The hookers around here are gross as fuck.

Who said anything about hookers
:holeup

Pallando, in 2025

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on November 05, 2016, 09:32:39 PM

Is the proper term escort? I don't necessarily mean the girl on the corner. They're all hookers to me

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 05, 2016, 09:37:19 PM

If all fails we already gave you the key Pallando. Go to Seeking Arrangement and fuck a 10/10 college aged chick.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on November 05, 2016, 10:13:06 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on November 05, 2016, 08:14:55 PM

q for gay gaf, does getting your booty plugged by a dikk count as losing virginity?

Serious answer: I mean, do you want it to? Losing your virginity is like the Kinsey scale. It really depends on peoples definitions. For some, it's any sexual activity that isn't masturbation and with another person (so I guess Mutual Masturbation could count): Oral, Anal, Vaginal...

For some it's straight up hetero-sex (generally with heterosexual's that's the mindview). For others, it's anal (in the gay community).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 07, 2016, 02:13:08 AM

Still chatting with the 19 year old "Velma Girl" and a 24 year old "Punk Girl".

If all goes well I'll have two dates this coming weekend.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on November 07, 2016, 02:46:45 AM

The only way you're going to get over your anxiety/self-doubt is by figuring out why you want to explode your man-cherry with "girl x". As is slowly becoming obvious to you, girls almost never care about virginity (unlike dudes) but they are wondering how you view them as a person. Whether you value the parts of their personality that actually are important to them vs just fetishizing/wanting to get it over with.

In most cases, people don't find relationship material in a dozen first dates/hookups so your chances are low and your expectations should be the same. You'll just feel worse about yourself though if you go into it without knowing what kind of girl you think you should open up to emotionally because then they'll think you came off a long dry spell and are desperate to bang which is far worse than being VIRGIN. Your only little issue is it'll take a very compatible or apathetic person to have sex with you. But that's true for everyone I guess.

Damn.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 07, 2016, 04:36:33 PM

I'm beginning to wonder if "Velma" is a virgin as well... probably not. She's bi and probably has been with girls.

But she's your classic "ugly duckling turned swan" once she got into college. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: demi on November 07, 2016, 04:54:19 PM

"classic"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 07, 2016, 04:58:09 PM

Quote from: demi on November 07, 2016, 04:54:19 PM

"classic"

:itagaki

I mean, it's whatever. I'm just stoked that I'm attractive to other attractive people. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 07, 2016, 05:12:35 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/QisCIqM.gif)

I'm bored, when do the fireworks start? This weekend?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 07, 2016, 05:15:50 PM

Yep. The weekend.

I'll be sure to give you and Shark the inside scoop before I post anything here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 07, 2016, 05:17:13 PM

I was told that Bore Gold includes (edited) screen shots of texts.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 07, 2016, 05:18:16 PM

If anything juicy comes up I'll be sure to share (with BoreGold members who have the Pallando subscription)

It's been pretty PG so far.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 07, 2016, 06:25:32 PM

I getcha.

Even if nothing comes about with these two, I'm becoming a much better conversationalist and persuader.

I mean, if I told my past fat depressed anxious self about how I was able to convince 4 girls to meet up with me in a span of a month I would fucking blow my past self's mind. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on November 07, 2016, 06:38:59 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 07, 2016, 04:58:09 PM

I'm just stoked that I'm attractive to other attractive people. :yeshrug

...Surprise? Didn't Andy say as much, or was that just him fawning over Rah?

IIRC people have told you in the past you're not completely ugly, dude.

Quote from: Pallando on November 07, 2016, 06:25:32 PM

I'm becoming a much better conversationalist and persuader.

Good, this will help you in the long run.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 07, 2016, 06:48:35 PM

Sure.

I've just been in a pit of cowardice and self doubt for so long that it's all very surprising to me.

I mean, it's a no brainer that mindset can really fuck with you and your worldview. And it's a lesson I constantly have to re-learn because I get stuck in negative feedback loops so easily.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 07, 2016, 08:17:05 PM

Oh yeah. Something I need to be hyper vigilant with concerning the 19 year old. :noah

(http://i.imgur.com/82N1oPd.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on November 07, 2016, 09:13:57 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 07, 2016, 08:17:05 PM

Oh yeah. Something I need to be hyper vigilant with concerning the 19 year old. :noah

(http://i.imgur.com/82N1oPd.jpg)

Stop being a goober goddamnit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on November 07, 2016, 09:52:59 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 07, 2016, 08:17:05 PM

Oh yeah. Something I need to be hyper vigilant with concerning the 19 year old. :noah

http://i.imgur.com/82N1oPd.jpg

:confused

This post is epitome of why you aren't gonna get pussy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on November 07, 2016, 09:54:39 PM

The problem here is you seem to have odd ideas about what normal human motivations are

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 07, 2016, 09:58:21 PM

I'm just playing around. :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on November 07, 2016, 10:01:46 PM

:gurl :comeon

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 08, 2016, 08:51:13 AM

https://imgur.com/a/o9sWp

:doge :doge :doge :doge :doge

Found my Mormon female self. :doge

Just shot her a super like. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on November 08, 2016, 09:04:33 AM

I bet it could be pretty fun actually. As long as both sides are open to doing things and trying stuff out. Figuring out how it all works together could be romantic in a way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 08, 2016, 09:08:10 AM

Quote from: Dufus on November 08, 2016, 09:02:51 AM

virgin on virgin sex (http://www.thecoli.com/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/scust.png)

Just how Mormon Jesus intended. :marimo

I agree, fistful. It does sound like a fun time. Us just fumbling around and trying shit. No expectations of getting things right the first time. :aah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 08, 2016, 09:13:00 AM

Quote from: Dufus on November 08, 2016, 09:02:51 AM

virgin on virgin sex (http://www.thecoli.com/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/scust.png)

:gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on November 08, 2016, 09:22:46 AM

Quote from: Pallando on November 08, 2016, 08:51:13 AM

https://imgur.com/a/o9sWp

:doge :doge :doge :doge :doge

Found my Mormon female self. :doge

Just shot her a super like. :doge

Long and fat describes my Italian sausage I should msg her :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 08, 2016, 09:27:48 AM

Not until she has my Polish kielbasa. :bolo

edit: tbh, she's probably super picky about who she wants to pop her cherry first. :fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on November 08, 2016, 09:49:30 AM

Quote from: Pallando on November 08, 2016, 09:27:48 AM

edit: tbh, she's probably super picky about who she wants to pop her cherry first. :fbm

Probably. But, you don't know that and you may have a chance. So... uh... stop thinking the above, jackass. *smack*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on November 08, 2016, 10:05:50 AM

Even if she is going to be super picky, what if you end up being the exact kind of person she wants to do it? You don't know, and there's only one way to find out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on November 08, 2016, 11:18:29 AM

Love yourself, bless up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Joe Molotov on November 08, 2016, 11:32:35 AM

Quote from: Pallando on November 08, 2016, 09:27:48 AM

edit: tbh, she's probably super picky about who she wants to pop her cherry first. :fbm

Wow, you two already have so much in common!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 08, 2016, 11:51:06 AM

Probably fucking her former (and possibly current) dealer and working a dead end job as a waitress.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on November 08, 2016, 05:00:40 PM

Pallo, I'm serious here. Tell her an angel with a flaming sword told you to message her.
Trust me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Tasty on November 08, 2016, 05:13:38 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on November 08, 2016, 05:06:44 PM

Why would an angel be holding Tasty Meat's dick?

(http://33.media.tumblr.com/8b4d4f91830de9e71d06939c8c408d0b/tumblr_nh3ry8YDbv1s8nx0go1_500.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on November 08, 2016, 05:49:11 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on November 08, 2016, 05:06:44 PM

Why would an angel be holding Tasty Meat's dick?

Joseph Smith got a few teenaged wives by claiming that an angel with a sword threatened to kill him if they didn't agree. All this time it was just Tasty :ohhh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on November 08, 2016, 06:54:18 PM

except this time it was a pork sword, amirite???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 08, 2016, 07:13:07 PM

I wish more Mormon girls would go bad. :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: El Babua on November 09, 2016, 01:22:43 AM

If Donald Trump can get elected, Pallando can get laid.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rufus on November 09, 2016, 07:12:23 AM

Atra, save 2016 for the Bore. Do it for us.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

No pressure.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

In the correct thread this time.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 11, 2016, 01:30:55 AM

I was talking to two girls on and off this week. And then out of no where a super cute 21 year old liked me back and now we're in the process of lining up a potential coffee date in Asheville this weekend. Funny how that works out. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on November 11, 2016, 09:56:01 AM

Quote from: El Babua on November 09, 2016, 01:22:43 AM

If Donald Trump can get elected, Pallando can get laid.

but can he rouse his base?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on November 11, 2016, 11:04:59 AM

Quote from: Pallando on November 11, 2016, 01:30:55 AM

I was talking to two girls on and off this week. And then out of no where a super cute 21 year old liked me back and now we're in the process of lining up a potential coffee date in Asheville this weekend. Funny how that works out. :doge

When I saw you crowdsourcing places to hit up in Asheville on FB I was just thinking to myself "niceee, my man scored a date this weekend!" Good luck!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 11, 2016, 05:44:44 PM

The 21 year old and I are now texting each other back and forth to get our plans in order.

Also, I just found out that Cosplay girl (the chick I pulled into my boner when we were making out like the fucking degenerate that I am) was raped 7 different times throughout her life.
:brazilcry :brazilcry :brazilcry :brazilcry

edit: I almost want to reach out to her and say I'm sorry but I know that won't do any good.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on November 11, 2016, 06:04:03 PM

Wait. How did you find this out?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 11, 2016, 06:06:34 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on November 11, 2016, 06:04:03 PM

Wait. How did you find this out?

Here facebook page is public to friends of friends (some of my cosplay friends are friends with her cosplay friends) and she made a post about how deeply disturbed she was about Trump (a sexual predator) being elected president. :-\

I was curious how she was reacting to the election because we were both shitting on trump pretty hard during our date.... well. Now I know.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on November 11, 2016, 06:49:11 PM

Dude being like "hey I was facebook stalking you and saw that you had been raped..." it probably not the best way to go about things.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 11, 2016, 07:07:54 PM

Yeah, I know. I'm not going to communicate with her ever again. It's in the past now.

Also, I'm still waiting for the 21 year old to answer my question about how her Saturday is looking...

edit: Well, while I'm waiting for the 21 y/o hipster chick I just superliked a rather attractive fat girl. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on November 11, 2016, 09:16:20 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 11, 2016, 07:07:54 PM

Yeah, I know. I'm not going to communicate with her ever again. It's in the past now.

:mindblown

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 11, 2016, 09:21:41 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on November 11, 2016, 09:16:20 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 11, 2016, 07:07:54 PM
Yeah, I know. I'm not going to communicate with her ever again. It's in the past now.

:mindblown

???

I haven't talked to her in weeks and she lives an hour away from me. She probably has my number blocked at this point. So it's highly unlikely I'm ever going to talk to her again.

Also, it would be very creepy to try and message her on facebook and say sorry I hugged you and brought you in a little too close to my chub. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on November 11, 2016, 09:28:59 PM

You should invite the fat chick over for ice cream and to watch the exorcist movie. You'll get laid for sure.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 11, 2016, 09:37:26 PM

Why the exorcist? Or can it be any scary movie?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 11, 2016, 09:40:16 PM

If you say so. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on November 11, 2016, 09:49:46 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 11, 2016, 09:21:41 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on November 11, 2016, 09:16:20 PM
Quote from: Pallando on November 11, 2016, 07:07:54 PM
Yeah, I know. I'm not going to communicate with her ever again. It's in the past now.

:mindblown
???

I haven't talked to her in weeks and she lives an hour away from me. She probably has my number blocked at this point. So it's highly unlikely I'm ever going to talk to her again.

Also, it would be very creepy to try and message her on facebook and say sorry I hugged you and brought you in a little too close to my chub. :doge

Oh I think I confused girls

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on November 11, 2016, 09:51:29 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 11, 2016, 09:37:26 PM

Why the exorcist? Or can it be any scary movie?

It just has to be graphic so that she uses your strong shoulder to cover her eyes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on November 11, 2016, 10:02:46 PM

1st date movies:

the notebook

bible black

marley & me

urotsukidoji

the secretary

baby's day out

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on November 11, 2016, 10:19:31 PM

Mac has the most swag of all

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Tasty on November 11, 2016, 10:35:55 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on November 11, 2016, 10:02:46 PM

1st date movies:

the notebook

bible black

marley & me

urotsukidoji

the secretary

baby's day out

Expanded list:

Crazy Stupid Love

Boku No Pico

Basic Instinct

500 Days of Summer

30 Days of Night

Groundhog Day

Cannibal Holocaust

Ghostbusters 2016

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: king of the internet on November 11, 2016, 11:13:20 PM

Scary movies have always been a good choice for me. They're fun but they also get the juices flowing if u know what I mean.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on November 11, 2016, 11:37:12 PM

Puppet Master might make a good one

Mostly I just remembered Puppet Master, someone member with me

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: king of the internet on November 11, 2016, 11:37:51 PM

It Follows would be a great choice imo ;)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on November 12, 2016, 12:12:58 AM

+1 for urotsukidoji. Excellent date movie.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 12, 2016, 12:25:30 AM

Hmmm. It's got monsters raping girls doesn't it? I'm gonna pass on that. :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 12, 2016, 03:27:06 AM

Okay... so Hipster chick texted me back at 2:45 am saying that she is staying in her college town which is a two hour drive instead of Asheville which is an one hour drive...

So not to seem desperate or weird I'm not going to suggest that I'm going to drive two hours just to get coffee in some small NC town and then drive back another two hours.

I'm patient enough to wait for another opportunity to meet in Asheville on the next weekend BUT then I'm also racing against the clock of her own interest in me and against other guys who are closer to her geographically than I am...

Fuck.

I don't know what to do. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on November 12, 2016, 04:20:37 AM

Do what you want.

Then again, if you were even thinking about driving two hours for someone you haven't yet met, that has its own reek of desperation.

Reschedule.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 12, 2016, 01:14:35 PM

I'm going to suggest we try to meet up in the middle some other time and that we just get to know each other better over texts.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on November 12, 2016, 05:25:25 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 12, 2016, 12:25:30 AM

Hmmm. It's got monsters raping girls doesn't it? I'm gonna pass on that. :hitler

most of it is consensual, save some female teacher tentacle + female student action. but that lezzy stuff so it's cool either way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 12, 2016, 07:54:36 PM

I asked her if she likes Neutral Milk Hotel. She says she adores them. :gladbron :aah :lawd

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hD6_QXwKesU

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 13, 2016, 06:44:18 AM

Good. Gooood. :marimo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on November 13, 2016, 07:50:19 AM

skip, liking good music means she has standards and you don't want that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 13, 2016, 09:02:08 AM

Don't worry. I have a gothy pagan pear shaped chick in the hopper as well. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 13, 2016, 12:54:40 PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8IfUY1dTCb0
:kobeyuck

pallando on a scale of Kent to 10, where are you on the conversation scale?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 13, 2016, 02:51:49 PM

With a couple of dates under my belt now like a 5 to 7.

I was kinda like Kent on my first tinder date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on November 13, 2016, 07:15:15 PM

(https://i.imgur.com/cxXDDa0.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 13, 2016, 07:31:55 PM

I gotta know your secret, Wrath. How do you convince these women to sleep with you so fast? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 13, 2016, 07:54:50 PM

Yeah but... there must be a replicatable technique of some kind. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 14, 2016, 07:54:55 PM

Oh my god. I want to get married and have a baby with this hipster chick. :doge

spoiler (click to show/hide)

kidding.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

maybe. :doge

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on November 14, 2016, 08:25:41 PM

Just, don't start angling that way or hinting that or have a big moment where you spill that you have strong feelings, k? Play it interested but not desperate or overly invested

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 14, 2016, 08:29:08 PM

Don't worry. I haven't really reached that stage of infatuation yet.

I'm just stoked that we seem to vibing pretty well in our text convos. Also, I've learned how to ask better and more thought provoking questions.

edit: Also, I need to get better at leaving text convos "hanging" and not being so formal & telling them I'll ttyl. But that's what I do whenever I'm having an engaging text convo with a friend so... eh. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 15, 2016, 03:25:57 PM

Matched with another hot 21 y/o. :noah

Since the 5 other girls, I was in contact with, fell off the face of the earth I'll just go ahead and juggle her and her hipster counterpart.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 15, 2016, 03:30:02 PM

What happened to the girl you were planning on meeting for coffee soon?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 15, 2016, 03:33:18 PM

Quote from: Dufus on November 15, 2016, 03:29:32 PM

breh maybe you should try someone a bit older

young girls want guys who know what they're doing, that's why they love men who are much older than they are

I think an older woman might be more patient with a young buck who's clusmy like you

I've never been able to match with an older woman. Just young ones. They can smell inexperience a mile away. :fbm

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 15, 2016, 03:30:02 PM

What happened to the girl you were planning on meeting for coffee soon?

We're still chatting. She told me specifically where we could meet in Asheville just last night.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on November 15, 2016, 03:38:37 PM

I met up with my cousin at the bar on Saturday night. She had a cute friend with her so I asked her out. She agreed. Today she texted me and said that she found out from my cousin that I'm 31 and she's not interested anymore. I think she's 24.

(http://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads//2012/10/philippe-de-champaigne-vanitas-1671.jpeg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 15, 2016, 03:39:49 PM

That's probably why the 19 y/o bailed. She was way too young for me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on November 15, 2016, 03:42:00 PM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on November 15, 2016, 03:38:37 PM

I met up with my cousin at the bar on Saturday night. She had a cute friend with her so I asked her out. She agreed. Today she texted me and said that she found out from my cousin that I'm 31 and she's not interested anymore. I think she's 24.

(http://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads//2012/10/philippe-de-champaigne-vanitas-1671.jpeg)

:lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Tasty on November 15, 2016, 03:58:51 PM

(https://i.imgflip.com/1e7zvt.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 15, 2016, 04:03:17 PM

Maybe 5th time's the charm. We shall see.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Joe Molotov on November 15, 2016, 04:09:32 PM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on November 15, 2016, 03:38:37 PM

I met up with my cousin at the bar on Saturday night.

:drudge MUPEPE ALERT :drudge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 15, 2016, 04:22:20 PM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on November 15, 2016, 03:38:37 PM

I met up with my cousin at the bar on Saturday night. She had a cute friend with her so I asked her out. She agreed. Today she texted me and said that she found out from my cousin that I'm 31 and she's not interested anymore. I think she's 24.

(http://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads//2012/10/philippe-de-champaigne-vanitas-1671.jpeg)

Disrespect the troops brehettes.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Brehvolution on November 15, 2016, 04:46:35 PM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on November 15, 2016, 03:38:37 PM

I met up with my cousin at the bar on Saturday night. She had a cute friend with her so I asked her out. She agreed. Today she texted me and said that she found out from my cousin that I'm 31 and she's not interested anymore. I think she's 24.

(http://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads//2012/10/philippe-de-champaigne-vanitas-1671.jpeg)

Even outside of active duty, you are still dodging bullets. :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on November 15, 2016, 06:47:31 PM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on November 15, 2016, 03:38:37 PM

I met up with my cousin at the bar on Saturday night. She had a cute friend with her so I asked her out. She agreed. Today she texted me and said that she found out from my cousin that I'm 31 and she's not interested anymore. I think she's 24.

(http://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads//2012/10/philippe-de-champaigne-vanitas-1671.jpeg)

:salute

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on November 15, 2016, 09:35:41 PM

Quote from: Brehvolution on November 15, 2016, 04:46:35 PM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on November 15, 2016, 03:38:37 PM
I met up with my cousin at the bar on Saturday night. She had a cute friend with her so I asked her out. She agreed. Today she texted me and said that she found out from my cousin that I'm 31 and she's not interested anymore. I think she's 24.

(http://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads//2012/10/philippe-de-champaigne-vanitas-1671.jpeg)

Even outside of active duty, you are still dodging bullets. :whew

:lol /thread

Yeah, my first thought was the same thing: dodged a bullet. Anyone who meets you, talks with you, agrees to meet again, and then flakes based on something minor -- well, you're lucky you didn't have to invest more than you did.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 16, 2016, 06:54:51 PM

I really hope me and hipster girl get together this weekend. We're still chatting back and forth so that's a good sign. Just have to get through Thursday and I'll ask her again if she's still down to get coffee at that coffee shop/bookstore in Asheville. And if not I will no joke offer to drive 100 miles to her small town just so I can say I dated a super cute girl that rivals Brand New's gf's attractiveness. :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: TakingBackSunday on November 16, 2016, 07:12:26 PM

I'm...honored?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 16, 2016, 08:42:10 PM

edit: ronito is right. this is too creepy. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on November 16, 2016, 08:42:38 PM

Just when I thought Pallo couldn't get creepier :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 16, 2016, 08:55:53 PM

She might be religious, as well...

Hopefully not to the point that she won't date a non-religious guy like myself. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 16, 2016, 09:06:48 PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1giVzxyoclE

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on November 16, 2016, 09:07:52 PM

http://observer.com/2016/11/tinder-just-became-trans-and-non-conforming-inclusive-with-37-new-gender-options/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on November 16, 2016, 09:32:15 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on November 16, 2016, 09:09:48 PM

What's the point?

Well, I'm guessing it's easier to filter your desired search results?

Sadly, if their data is ever sifted and incorporated with bigger data results, it would also mean that Bannon's and Pence's Thought Police will have an easier time targeting non-cis-heteronormative individuals, but let's not get ahead of ourselves. Promiscuous republicans are all hiding out on Grindr anyway.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 16, 2016, 09:40:57 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/rnVQWsp.jpg?1)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 16, 2016, 10:14:34 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 16, 2016, 08:55:53 PM

She might be religious, as well...

Hopefully not to the point that she won't date a non-religious guy like myself. :-\

Also, I saw a pic of her dad...

I look like her dad...

(http://i.imgur.com/c7Bmb44.png) :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on November 16, 2016, 10:18:47 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 16, 2016, 10:14:34 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 16, 2016, 08:55:53 PM
She might be religious, as well...

Hopefully not to the point that she won't date a non-religious guy like myself. :-\

Also, I saw a pic of her dad...

I look like her dad...

(http://i.imgur.com/c7Bmb44.png) :doge

http://www.wikihow.com/Live-a-Life-of-Celibacy
(http://pad1.whstatic.com/images/thumb/5/5d/Live-a-Life-of-Celibacy-Step-7-Version-2.jpg/aid32900-728px-Live-a-Life-of-Celibacy-Step-7-Version-2.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 16, 2016, 10:19:58 PM

I'm going to bed before I say any more weird shit...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on November 17, 2016, 12:10:32 AM

Why is Pallando wasting hours of time on the weekends to talk to these girls but so afraid to actually talk to them? Maybe I'm in a bubble since I've always been a talkative type and confident in that but I mean like...your dick is never going to ask a girl out. And frankly isn't charming enough to get them to fall for you.

Trust me on that. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on November 17, 2016, 05:24:44 AM

Quote from: Pallando on November 16, 2016, 10:19:58 PM

I'm going to bed before I say any more weird shit...

(http://image.shutterstock.com/z/stock-photo-too-late-time-is-up-and-you-missed-the-deadline-train-or-flight-connection-158797628.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 17, 2016, 12:00:27 PM

And suddenly, out of no where, a beautiful 18 year old Chinese exchange student in my city is chatting with me. :doge

Her English could use some work though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on November 17, 2016, 12:39:05 PM

Shut up and be grateful if you get your dick wet through fuckin' smoke signals dawg

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on November 17, 2016, 12:41:16 PM

Quote from: 213372bu on November 17, 2016, 12:23:06 AM

I kinda get it.

People with anxiety legitimately are ok 99% of the time. They can even psyche themselves up into thinking they're perfectly fine. Anxiety often kicks in at the moment and completely fucks with your thinking and makes you do stupid stuff... despite knowing better. Even though I've always flourished under stress, anxiety limited my ability to date beyond being introduced by people I knew.

You know, I understand that. But a lot of it is stuff he's becoming aware of as he goes through it (ie: the process of self-sabotage) and while he's getting better at realizing it, he needs a shift in his attitude towards failure.

Pallando, the only thing you need to know is that when it comes to courtship, there is absolutely no downside to being overconfident.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on November 17, 2016, 12:53:42 PM

holy fuck pallando at least youre fucking with us in this thread cause goddamn

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 17, 2016, 01:02:27 PM

Quote from: Dufus on November 17, 2016, 12:38:42 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 17, 2016, 12:00:27 PM
Her English could use some work though.

I'm done.

I'm out.

Fuck you for wasting my time reading your bullshit.

:marimo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on November 17, 2016, 01:03:12 PM

Pallando, do you have anything like the Dale Carnegie Course that you can take? I took it at my last job and it really helped me with public speaking and interpersonal/professional relationships.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 17, 2016, 01:38:41 PM

I could be doing toast masters but it would disruptive to my work schedule.

And I'm fine at conversations with girls once I get comfortable (aka had a few drinks).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on November 17, 2016, 01:48:11 PM

Sure.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 17, 2016, 02:01:46 PM

Woot! Got a date with her this Friday. :itagaki

edit: and she's real. I checked. :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Joe Molotov on November 17, 2016, 02:20:52 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/hjxU3Bb.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 17, 2016, 02:58:22 PM

From what I've seen a friend go through, Chinese women are great up until the point they start pushing for marriage. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on November 17, 2016, 03:07:20 PM

Oh, I don't think you really need to worry about that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on November 17, 2016, 03:18:43 PM

I dated a Chinese girl for a month or two, she was pretty, had a great job as a patent lawyer for big pharma (made close to $200k a year), Yale grad... but she was disappointed that I "only" drove an Acura (a step down from Lexus according to her) and was surprised when she asked "you're an engineer, you probably make 6 figures, right?" and I said no, and then kept urging me to get a tuxedo for 'social events'. Yeah... definitely not my 'scene' if ya will. I mean I don't do bad for myself (single guy who owns his own place is a rarity on the island) but not quite that level...

Met some cute Chinese girls at a party I went to a few weeks ago who didn't seem nearly as crazy, but they all lived in Queens, which is a bit of a hike for me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 17, 2016, 03:28:06 PM

Quote from: tiesto on November 17, 2016, 03:18:43 PM

I dated a Chinese girl for a month or two, she was pretty, had a great job as a patent lawyer for big pharma (made close to $200k a year), Yale grad... but she was disappointed that I "only" drove an Acura (a step down from Lexus according to her) and was surprised when she asked "you're an engineer, you probably make 6 figures, right?" and I said no, and then kept urging me to get a tuxedo for 'social events'. Yeah... definitely not my 'scene' if ya will. I mean I don't do bad for myself (single guy who owns his own place is a rarity on the island) but not quite that level...

Met some cute Chinese girls at a party I went to a few weeks ago who didn't seem nearly as crazy, but they all lived in Queens, which is a bit of a hike for me.

If I can borrow from Pallando's creepy swag for a second....how was the sex? :esports

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 17, 2016, 04:50:03 PM

*slams foot long dick on a table*

https://imgur.com/a/iJ7I6

Just went balls to the wall with this one because she was literally taking a day to respond to only two of my messages. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Bebpo on November 17, 2016, 05:03:47 PM

Quote from: tiesto on November 17, 2016, 03:18:43 PM

I dated a Chinese girl for a month or two, she was pretty, had a great job as a patent lawyer for big pharma (made close to $200k a year), Yale grad... but she was disappointed that I "only" drove an Acura (a step down from Lexus according to her) and was surprised when she asked "you're an engineer, you probably make 6 figures, right?" and I said no, and then kept urging me to get a tuxedo for 'social events'. Yeah... definitely not my 'scene' if ya will. I mean I don't do bad for myself (single guy who owns his own place is a rarity on the island) but not quite that level...

Met some cute Chinese girls at a party I went to a few weeks ago who didn't seem nearly as crazy, but they all lived in Queens, which is a bit of a hike for me.

Wow, I've never been on a date with anyone who brought up money & status stuff. You always hear about that, but I didn't think people actually did stuff like be disappointed your car isn't expensive enough :o My car's had pretty moderate cosmetic damage on the back for like 3 years and I never fixed it because "eh, it's not gonna effect how the car drives" and who gives a shit how your car looks like. I have a feeling someone like this would not approve :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 17, 2016, 05:10:01 PM

Quote from: Dufus on November 17, 2016, 04:56:01 PM

:snoop

so wordy

I'm no girl but that reads like such a major turn off omg

Bish. Let me cook. :gurl

Also, she can ignore my ass for all I care. I've got bigger fish to fry. :dice

edit: Also, the fact that I'm matching with solid 8s is making my ego sky rocket. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 17, 2016, 08:06:55 PM

Hipster girl still keeping in contact. :rejoice

I was getting worried there for a second. She went silent longer than usual. :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 17, 2016, 08:16:06 PM

If I'm being completely honest with myself... getting laid multiple times is probably not going to help either. (http://i.imgur.com/t05dxjs.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on November 17, 2016, 08:27:48 PM

Plz just fuck something soon

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 17, 2016, 08:53:14 PM

Quote from: toku on November 17, 2016, 08:27:48 PM

Plz just fuck something soon

(http://i.imgur.com/X7KCBDm.jpg?1)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 18, 2016, 08:43:46 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 17, 2016, 08:06:55 PM

Hipster girl still keeping in contact. :rejoice

I was getting worried there for a second. She went silent longer than usual. :whew

Well, I'm on the final stretch now... we shall she if a whole week of texting and her saying she would text me back details today comes to fruition. And if not. Wow.

I'll definitely be using tinder less and hitting up bars more from this point on. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 19, 2016, 12:12:55 AM

Just got done chatting with a polyamorus 31 y/o on Bumble (I've seen her on Tinder before but we never matched there). I also (implicitly) told her via a question that I was a virgin and she didn't seem to mind. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on November 19, 2016, 06:57:29 AM

Quote from: Pallando on November 19, 2016, 12:12:55 AM

Just got done chatting with a polyamorus 31 y/o on Bumble (I've seen her on Tinder before but we never matched there). I also (implicitly) told her via a question that I was a virgin and she didn't seem to mind. :doge

This thread is not your LiveJournal :maf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: zomgee on November 19, 2016, 03:48:57 PM

It's like Scott Pilgrim mixed with Cameron Frye.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Joe Molotov on November 19, 2016, 04:04:36 PM

It's like high school mixed with not having sex.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 19, 2016, 06:05:44 PM

A lot of balls (pussy) are being juggled in the air. I hope you catch one Pallando. :doge

and by catch I mean bang one of the balls.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 19, 2016, 07:07:22 PM

So far...

The 21 y/o hipster girl has gone silent.
The other 21 y/o responded "ok" to my message about how we can watch star trek and cuddle. :doge I sent her a gif of a guy walking on thin ice and falling through because it's obvious that I botched that up. She still hasn't unmatched me yet. Which baffles me.
The 19 y/o Chinese girl will probably not text me back until after she gets her portfolio together for a review at her school on Sunday. And she's probably going to go silent as well if I had to guess.
Me and the 31 y/o are still texting each other back and forth.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: zomgee on November 19, 2016, 07:17:26 PM

I envision black and white photos of women in a small smoky room, with long pieces of yarn tied on these pictures leading to words, phrases, and research.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 19, 2016, 07:20:32 PM

That room is my brain, dawg. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Boogie on November 19, 2016, 08:02:37 PM

Quote from: Joe Molotov on November 19, 2016, 04:04:36 PM

It's like high school mixed with not having sex.

So, it's like high school.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on November 19, 2016, 08:58:46 PM

So good friends of mine (well I'm more friends with the dude) have split after a decade of dating. Very strange, not sure what to make of it or how to proceed. She initiated, everything seemed ok when I saw them in september but I guess she just felt her career and etc required her to need a personal break. I don't know where I'm going with this really but it's just... strange. I'm not even sure if they're totally finished or not, dating lacks the formal clear cut of a divorce. I guess this is something I'll have to adjust to as I get older considering divorce rates.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on November 19, 2016, 10:00:17 PM

I introduced my gf to my family. That was interesting.

Quote from: Boogie on November 19, 2016, 08:02:37 PM

Quote from: Joe Molotov on November 19, 2016, 04:04:36 PM
It's like high school mixed with not having sex.

So, it's like high school.

:'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 20, 2016, 01:25:09 AM

LiveJournal: Went to a bar and was flirting with a girl that was a solid 4 looks wise but had a solid 8 personality. She seemed eager to meet me again later and my drunk self was ready to bed her asap. But I went home before I got too drunk and did something foolish. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 20, 2016, 01:42:21 AM

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on November 20, 2016, 01:52:38 AM

Quote from: Boogie on November 19, 2016, 08:02:37 PM

Quote from: Joe Molotov on November 19, 2016, 04:04:36 PM
It's like high school mixed with not having sex.

So, it's like high school.

It's impossible to believe HS Boogie was not getting action.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Boogie on November 20, 2016, 06:57:48 AM

haha, ohhh no, I was co-captain of Virgin-GAF until like 2006.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Raist on November 20, 2016, 08:51:14 AM

Quote from: Pallando on November 20, 2016, 01:25:09 AM

But I went home before I got too drunk and did something foolish. :doge

Quote from: Pallando on November 20, 2016, 01:42:21 AM

dp

Like, to yourself?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on November 20, 2016, 10:17:20 AM

Quote from: Pallando on November 20, 2016, 01:25:09 AM

LiveJournal: Went to a bar and was flirting with a girl that was a solid 4 looks wise but had a solid 8 personality. She seemed eager to meet me again later and my drunk self was ready to bed her asap. But I went home before I got too drunk and did something foolish. :doge

Youre supposed to be doing foolish things. Omg.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on November 20, 2016, 10:31:37 AM

This thread jumped the shark.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 20, 2016, 10:32:08 AM

She was with friends. And I didn't quite know how to pull her away.

Probably should've gave her my number... :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 20, 2016, 11:03:50 AM

Tell me something I don't know.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on November 20, 2016, 11:16:59 AM

Bless up

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on November 20, 2016, 02:37:53 PM

what is a solid 4? We need to know.

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on November 19, 2016, 11:29:44 PM

Quote from: brawndolicious on November 19, 2016, 10:00:17 PM
I introduced my gf to my family. That was interesting.

How did that go?

I surprised them. Got all sorts of religious advice on the "proper" process to go through. It was everything I ever dreamed of.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 20, 2016, 03:08:26 PM

A 4 is just my dumb self trying quantify beauty.

Let's just say she's atypical looking but cute in some weird way. :doge

Quote from: Pallando on November 20, 2016, 10:32:08 AM

She was with friends. And I didn't quite know how to pull her away.

Probably should've gave her my number... :doge

I just right swiped one of her friends on Tinder. Let's see if that leads to anything. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Beezy on November 20, 2016, 05:13:22 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on November 19, 2016, 08:58:46 PM

So good friends of mine (well I'm more friends with the dude) have split after a decade of dating. Very strange, not sure what to make of it or how to proceed. She initiated, everything seemed ok when I saw them in september but I guess she just felt her career and etc required her to need a personal break. I don't know where I'm going with this really but it's just... strange. I'm not even sure if they're totally finished or not, dating lacks the formal clear cut of a divorce. I guess this is something I'll have to adjust to as I get older considering divorce rates.

A personal break for some new dick.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on November 20, 2016, 05:17:16 PM

Quote from: Boogie on November 20, 2016, 06:57:48 AM

haha, ohhh no, I was co-captain of Virgin-GAF until like 2006.

:mindblown

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Boogie on November 20, 2016, 08:07:10 PM

Quote from: chronovore on November 20, 2016, 05:17:16 PM

Quote from: Boogie on November 20, 2016, 06:57:48 AM
haha, ohhh no, I was co-captain of Virgin-GAF until like 2006.
:mindblown

I've, uhh, I've come a long way since then. :-[ :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Joe Molotov on November 20, 2016, 08:18:04 PM

I still remember when Boogie posted his first time getting laid. I feel like, in some small way, we all got laid that day.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on November 20, 2016, 08:24:12 PM

Quote from: Joe Molotov on November 20, 2016, 08:18:04 PM

I still remember when Boogie posted his first time getting laid. I feel like, in some small way, we all got laid that day.

:rofl

Better than Nov. 8, when I feel like we all got fucked.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: TakingBackSunday on November 20, 2016, 11:27:01 PM

my first time was in 2011 and woof. It was terrible

honestly sex for me was terrible until like 2014

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Tasty on November 20, 2016, 11:54:35 PM

2013 for me. Also terrible.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Raist on November 21, 2016, 02:55:27 AM

1999.

Fuck me, I'm old :'(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on November 21, 2016, 04:03:39 AM

1983.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on November 21, 2016, 05:49:27 AM

I was born in 83... and I don't know my dad.

...

Dad?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on November 21, 2016, 08:34:06 AM

2002 and I've always liked it. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on November 21, 2016, 09:23:16 AM

First time was 2 years ago and it was fun as hell.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 21, 2016, 09:44:08 AM

To the relief of some (if not all), I'm taking a break from dating.

I have a bunch of other important shit that I've been putting off and it's about time I went back to it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on November 21, 2016, 10:26:37 AM

I remember this same post last week!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 21, 2016, 10:30:32 AM

I was probably mulling it over as a possibility then.

But after having 4 different women (correction: 5) ghost on me in one week... yeah, it's time to take a break.

edit: I just don't have the mental stamina to be conversing/persuading total strangers that I'm a suitable partner for a full week with zero payoff at the end.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on November 21, 2016, 10:34:55 AM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on November 01, 2016, 11:28:11 AM

I'm going to say it again:

Disregard females; acquire aesthetics.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on November 21, 2016, 11:50:47 AM

Quote from: Pallando on November 21, 2016, 10:30:32 AM

I was probably mulling it over as a possibility then.

But after having 4 different women (correction: 5) ghost on me in one week... yeah, it's time to take a break.

edit: I just don't have the mental stamina to be conversing/persuading total strangers that I'm a suitable partner for a full week with zero payoff at the end.

lol. Good luck then. :neogaf

spoiler (click to show/hide)

seriously, the trick is to be so good at it that even if you fail you learn, so every step is a step forward and not draining. Also, it helps if you don't get emotionally invested in people so early on.

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on November 21, 2016, 11:51:35 AM

Come on guys. We're going to pretend that bad sex is bad? I mean, even when it's bad, it's still pretty damn good.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on November 21, 2016, 12:52:01 PM

Yo, I didn't get laid for like two years and I was beginning to doubt I would ever get my dick wet again, and then last year a girl I knew moved back in town and hit me up and we started a casual thing. I was really apprehensive to get into a relationship again, but eventually we were like "aaight lets do this thing" and I gotta say, it's been fucking great. Our tastes in pop culture align very well, she's super hot, and when she calls me out on shit she offers solutions. It's been a while since I've allowed myself to have something good and I will do my best to continue not fucking this up. Being loved feels really good.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: king of the internet on November 21, 2016, 01:18:13 PM

I decided to revisit tinder today after drunkenly downloading the app one night last summer then immediately deleting it the next morning. No hits. :fbm
I go to browse people in my area and they're all old ladies. Totally forgot I selected the maximum age on facebook and tinder had me set as 111 years old. :neogaf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Raist on November 21, 2016, 01:27:40 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 21, 2016, 10:30:32 AM

edit: I just don't have the mental stamina to be conversing/persuading total strangers that I'm a suitable partner for a full week with zero payoff at the end.

You think women will see a handful of messages on tinder as a measure of you being a suitable partner?

Oh you sweet summer child.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on November 21, 2016, 01:37:09 PM

Quote from: seagrams hotsauce on November 21, 2016, 12:52:01 PM

Yo, I didn't get laid for like two years and I was beginning to doubt I would ever get my dick wet again, and then last year a girl I knew moved back in town and hit me up and we started a casual thing. I was really apprehensive to get into a relationship again, but eventually we were like "aaight lets do this thing" and I gotta say, it's been fucking great. Our tastes in pop culture align very well, she's super hot, and when she calls me out on shit she offers solutions. It's been a while since I've allowed myself to have something good and I will do my best to continue not fucking this up. Being loved feels really good.

bless up

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on November 21, 2016, 02:04:10 PM

mhm your boy got the toku bless up. anointed :rejoice
suck my dick haters

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 21, 2016, 03:06:23 PM

Quote from: Raist on November 21, 2016, 01:27:40 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 21, 2016, 10:30:32 AM

edit: I just don't have the mental stamina to be conversing/persuading total strangers that I'm a suitable partner for a full week with zero payoff at the end.

You think women will see a handful of messages on tinder as a measure of you being a suitable partner?

Oh you sweet summer child.

I misspoke. I should've said suitable to meet in person.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on November 21, 2016, 07:22:44 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 21, 2016, 03:06:23 PM

I misspoke. I should've said suitable to meet in person.

*shakes you like a baby* Tinder is meant to fuck not Philosoraptor things. If they're ghosting on you, I feel you're too worried about texts or conversations BEFORE the bonking.

You're gonna take a break (if you do, lord knows you'll probably hop back on it), but if you don't: Swipe left/right/whatever on a girl you like. Be direct and forward and ask her out to dinner. If she accepts GO. When at dinner, be charming and not creepy/a basketcase. DO NOT OVERTHINK THINGS. Just make her laugh and be a huge dork and embarrass yourself. Invite her to head to a park or movies or somewhere else. Enjoy another hour or two. Then invite her back to your place if it's around 10PM.

If she comes back, make her laugh some more. Lead into bonking. Bonk. Done.

Then the next day, unmatch her and forget her. Your job is done. Unless you really like her, your main job right now (what you want) is to bonk. Not find a :quark "life partner." :quark

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 21, 2016, 07:26:26 PM

As soon as I ask these girls out they say "Oh, I don't meet up with anyone until we've chatted for a week at least."

I guess I should just say "later" at that point because all 3 or 4 times that has happened it's led to nothing.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: zomgee on November 21, 2016, 08:31:30 PM

If tinder had a "pay for unswipe" service they'd make millions.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on November 21, 2016, 08:47:27 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 21, 2016, 07:26:26 PM

As soon as I ask these girls out they say "Oh, I don't meet up with anyone until we've chatted for a week at least."

I guess I should just say "later" at that point because all 3 or 4 times that has happened it's led to nothing.

Yes, if your goal is to bonk: You need to get out there and tell them (not flatout) what you want, you want to meet up and see where things are going to go. I can understand their fear of you being a creep serial murder (and let's be honest: You probably could be. :doge ) but that's why you ask them out to a coffee shop or someplace public where people will see you both.

It feels like a lot of your matches are looking for the same thing you want (long-term relationships) while your goal is more immediate (wanting to fuck), which is hindering both of you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on November 21, 2016, 09:33:51 PM

Quote from: zomgee on November 21, 2016, 08:31:30 PM

If tinder had a "pay for unswipe" service they'd make millions.

I run in business and venture capitalist circles so please believe me when I say, this could be the best business idea I have ever heard.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on November 21, 2016, 10:00:48 PM

What's hindering you is not going after fat desperate chicks you toser

Trust me your dick can't tell the difference

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on November 21, 2016, 10:28:44 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 21, 2016, 07:26:26 PM

As soon as I ask these girls out they say "Oh, I don't meet up with anyone until we've chatted for a week at least."

I guess I should just say "later" at that point because all 3 or 4 times that has happened it's led to nothing.

Tell them that you don't know how to play hard-to-get (truth) but you never really chat that long before meeting (lie) because that's not ultimately the point of the app. Sometimes, you have to know when to stop being charming and be up-front.

Anyways, I had some real relationship drama:

GF: I think I do get anxious with shopping for big things because I tend to look very closely at every option for a long time while you choose something in 10 minutes. It might be a girl thing....

Me: Well I just bought a pink iPhone so that's like the girliest thing you can do.

GF: Uhhhhhh

Me: :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 21, 2016, 11:16:36 PM

Well, just as I was about to call it quits three new attractive women started messaging me tonight. Fuck. :doge

We've got:

Hot Latina, Fitness Girl - 27 y/o (already asked her if she could whip me into shape and she seems fairly open to that.)
Cute Single Mom - 26 y/o
Hot Semi-goth, Non-Religious Girl - 21 y/o

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on November 21, 2016, 11:30:59 PM

Quote from: Boogie on November 20, 2016, 08:07:10 PM

Quote from: chronovore on November 20, 2016, 05:17:16 PM
Quote from: Boogie on November 20, 2016, 06:57:48 AM
haha, ohhh no, I was co-captain of Virgin-GAF until like 2006.
:mindblown

I've, uhh, I've come a long way since then. :-[ :lol

Did demon ever get laid? It seemed like he wasn't going to make it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 21, 2016, 11:47:47 PM

I'm fairly certain that demon is a legit wizard now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on November 21, 2016, 11:54:46 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 21, 2016, 11:47:47 PM

I'm fairly certain that demon is a legit wizard now.

And you're next. :bolo

Quote from: brawndolicious on November 21, 2016, 10:28:44 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 21, 2016, 07:26:26 PM
As soon as I ask these girls out they say "Oh, I don't meet up with anyone until we've chatted for a week at least."

I guess I should just say "later" at that point because all 3 or 4 times that has happened it's led to nothing.

Tell them that you don't know how to play hard-to-get (truth) but you never really chat that long before meeting (lie) because that's not ultimately the point of the app. Sometimes, you have to know when to stop being charming and be up-front.

Listen to this, seriously. Do this to the single-mom.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on November 21, 2016, 11:55:31 PM

Quote from: thisismyusername link=topic=36858.msg2204919#msg2204919

It feels like a lot of your matches are looking for the same thing you want (long-term relationships) while your goal is more immediate (wanting to fuck), which is hindering both of you.

Not only is this not a thing, but it's not even accurate. Pallando is desperate for human companionship and once women get a whiff of that they're out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 22, 2016, 12:02:14 AM

Quote from: Pallando on November 21, 2016, 07:26:26 PM

As soon as I ask these girls out they say "Oh, I don't meet up with anyone until we've chatted for a week at least."

I guess I should just say "later" at that point because all 3 or 4 times that has happened it's led to nothing.

YES. This is what you should do. These girls clearly meet with people quickly, just not you. If they can't commit to meeting after initial introductions and chit chat you need to move on. Just stop carrying on the conversation. If she wants to carry it on with something interesting let her, but you've already mentally moved on so it doesn't really matter unless she says "we can still meet if you want."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on November 22, 2016, 12:11:26 AM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on November 21, 2016, 11:55:31 PM

Pallando is desperate for human companionship and once women get a whiff of that they're out.

That's true. To be fair: I don't use Tinder, so I got no clue what beyond it being a hook-up app for most would the population split on "I'm using this to try to find someone for a relationship" versus "I am looking for a NSA" is.

But yeah, PD is right in that you need to mentally check-out right after they do. It's clear they have no interest in you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: king of the internet on November 22, 2016, 04:00:27 AM

Had another romantic experience with a girl who I wasn't trying to get with due to her being my friend's ex and my ex's friend but things happened again. This might be for real. Sometimes you just have a gravitational pull towards certain people. How could you deny your true feelings in this type of situation? Sucks when people gotta get their feelings hurt but I'm selfish and I can't resist her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on November 22, 2016, 04:59:14 AM

Quote from: king of the internet on November 22, 2016, 04:00:27 AM

Had another romantic experience with a girl who I wasn't trying to get with due to her being my friend's ex and my ex's friend but things happened again. This might be for real. Sometimes you just have a gravitational pull towards certain people. How could you deny your true feelings in this type of situation? Sucks when people gotta get their feelings hurt but I'm selfish and I can't resist her.

I went through a similarly careless and wanton time when I was 19-20, but my friends set me straight. Are you really young, or are you inherently destructive?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 22, 2016, 05:36:24 AM

Pallando you have to be able to adapt. If something isn't working you can't just do it 5 more times (at once) and expect something to happen. No more letting women use you as a chaser. It's like when a chubby chick messages you and you're aimlessly talking to her while trying to find someone you actually want to meet. You're that chubby girl right now bro. We've all been her before. But you don't gotta be her forever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Raist on November 22, 2016, 06:13:57 AM

"I don't meet up before at least a week's worth of chatting" is a shitty ass excuse.

Or the beginning of the end of mankind. I mean, what happened to going for a drink or coffee or dinner to have said chats. Fuck millenials.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: VomKriege on November 22, 2016, 08:08:21 AM

Long story short, we boned for 5 hours. We'd go at it for 10-20 minutes and then take a break and chat. At one point, I went into the bathroom (to ask TheBore for advice obviously) and noticed that I had a dozen hickeys on my neck and shoulders. We continued another few hours and I didn't finish until around 6 am, a far cry from the 30 or so orgasms she had. I didn't even know it was possible to get off that much but she wouldn't stop shaking. We chatted some more until the morning and I went home.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: zomgee on November 22, 2016, 09:01:07 AM

Grocery store girls are the best.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on November 22, 2016, 10:14:49 AM

Quote from: king of the internet on November 22, 2016, 04:00:27 AM

Had another romantic experience with a girl who I wasn't trying to get with due to her being my friend's ex and my ex's friend but things happened again. This might be for real. Sometimes you just have a gravitational pull towards certain people. How could you deny your true feelings in this type of situation? Sucks when people gotta get their feelings hurt but I'm selfish and I can't resist her.

(https://i.ytimg.com/vi/fYpisAJsKgY/maxresdefault.jpg)

You're gonna potentially poison a friendship over a girl that said friend dated? I don't know the situation, but if their break-up was messy and he still has feelings for her (or the other way around), I wouldn't do it. I mean think about it this way: They broke up for a reason. What's to say you wouldn't do the same in a few months once the infatuation wears off? (Unless you've been lusting for her form afar for years while they were together, in which case... uh... still don't, definitely don't)

Oh, I just missed your ex's friend. Yeah, I wouldn't do that unless you really want to poison the well on your friend and ex.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: ToxicAdam on November 22, 2016, 11:08:23 AM

Quote from: king of the internet on November 22, 2016, 04:00:27 AM

Had another romantic experience with a girl who I wasn't trying to get with due to her being my friend's ex and my ex's friend but things happened again. This might be for real. Sometimes you just have a gravitational pull towards certain people. How could you deny your true feelings in this type of situation? Sucks when people gotta get their feelings hurt but I'm selfish and I can't resist her.

If the friend hasn't gotten over her yet, it's a shitty thing to do. If he has moved on (or should have moved on), you shouldn't feel any guilt about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: king of the internet on November 22, 2016, 12:21:13 PM

Quote from: chronovore on November 22, 2016, 04:59:14 AM

Quote from: king of the internet on November 22, 2016, 04:00:27 AM
Had another romantic experience with a girl who I wasn't trying to get with due to her being my friend's ex and my ex's friend but things happened again. This might be for real. Sometimes you just have a gravitational pull towards certain people. How could you deny your true feelings in this type of situation? Sucks when people gotta get their feelings hurt but I'm selfish and I can't resist her.

I went through a similarly careless and wanton time when I was 19-20, but my friends set me straight. Are you really young, or are you inherently destructive?

Probably the latter. I already pretty much destroyed my friendship with this dude over her. He found out about the first time things happened. To be fair he did attempt to court my most recent ex gf. He just happened to fail at it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on November 22, 2016, 12:51:40 PM

hos before bros. dicks ain't got nothing on chicks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on November 22, 2016, 12:54:24 PM

Yeah, fuck it, man, unless this is a friendship you seriously expect to maintain for your whole life, do your thing, who cares?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on November 22, 2016, 12:58:07 PM

real opinion: If you communicated your intent to him just as a "so you don't hear it elsewhere" I think that's all that's required. Did he piss on her and claim her or something? There's no ownership there. Fuck passing up a possible relationship if you really feel something because a friend has some imaginary dominion over her. A real bro would understand I think.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: king of the internet on November 22, 2016, 01:19:46 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on November 22, 2016, 12:58:07 PM

real opinion: If you communicated your intent to him just as a "so you don't hear it elsewhere" I think that's all that's required. Did he piss on her and claim her or something? There's no ownership there. Fuck passing up a possible relationship if you really feel something because a friend has some imaginary dominion over her. A real bro would understand I think.

I fucked that first part up, he found out months after the fact. I felt like if he was better off not knowing. :yeshrug

We're all adults here imo. I have no control over who my ex-girlfriends fuck, and I don't care at all with most of them. If he successfully fucked my last ex, I wouldn't feel good about it, but his and her sex lives are none of my business . I would be doing myself a disservice by hung up on it. I don't expect everyone to share this perspective but the fact is that in this world no one cares how you feel. There are no rules. People are gonna do what they want to do. Gotta adapt or die. :yeshrug

Title: MARRIAGE
Post by: chronovore on November 22, 2016, 10:39:13 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/jtnaDeM.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on November 23, 2016, 12:14:41 AM

Earlier tonight I made out with my ex-girlfriend who threw the shitfit in Spain. She put on a little weight but it went in all the right places :cody

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on November 23, 2016, 01:11:04 AM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on November 23, 2016, 12:14:41 AM

Earlier tonight I made out with my ex-girlfriend who threw the shitfit in Spain. She put on a little weight but it went in all the right places :cody

:drudge :drudge :drudge :drudge :drudge :drudge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Raist on November 23, 2016, 02:46:46 AM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on November 23, 2016, 12:14:41 AM

Earlier tonight I made out with my ex-girlfriend who threw the shitfit in Spain. She put on a little weight but it went in all the right places :cody

Was that before or after she got her ass grabbed by EviLore?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on November 27, 2016, 01:43:58 PM

Wife woke me up a 5 this morning. Fucked my brains out. Then we both passed out. Best early morning wake up ever.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on November 27, 2016, 01:57:01 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 21, 2016, 10:30:32 AM

I was probably mulling it over as a possibility then.

But after having 4 different women (correction: 5) ghost on me in one week... yeah, it's time to take a break.

edit: I just don't have the mental stamina to be conversing/persuading total strangers that I'm a suitable partner for a full week with zero payoff at the end.

This happened to me a few months ago and I stopped tindering. It sucks. Might get back into it in the new year when I'm less busy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 27, 2016, 03:09:36 PM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on November 23, 2016, 12:14:41 AM

Earlier tonight I made out with my ex-girlfriend who threw the shitfit in Spain. She put on a little weight but it went in all the right places :cody

How did you get to this point? She apologized? I hope you didn't appease her with "yea I'm sorry too, I should have xyz" fuckery.
:ufup

don't take her back :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on November 29, 2016, 10:07:51 PM

Man. Pallo ghosted us. :fbm

spoiler (click to show/hide)

I guess we now know how he feels :dice

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on November 29, 2016, 10:16:56 PM

maybe he's too busy running a nut streak on a girl to post updates.

:doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on November 30, 2016, 12:44:16 AM

Quote from: king of the internet on November 22, 2016, 12:21:13 PM

Quote from: chronovore on November 22, 2016, 04:59:14 AM
Quote from: king of the internet on November 22, 2016, 04:00:27 AM
Had another romantic experience with a girl who I wasn't trying to get with due to her being my friend's ex and my ex's friend but things happened again. This might be for real. Sometimes you just have a gravitational pull towards certain people. How could you deny your true feelings in this type of situation? Sucks when people gotta get their feelings hurt but I'm selfish and I can't resist her.

I went through a similarly careless and wanton time when I was 19-20, but my friends set me straight. Are you really young, or are you inherently destructive?
Probably the latter. I already pretty much destroyed my friendship with this dude over her. He found out about the first time things happened. To be fair he did attempt to court my most recent ex gf. He just happened to fail at it.

You fucked up by not telling him first, TBH. But in this case, it's clear you don't care about him. So uh... poison that well I guess. Just prepare for blowback with your ex if she cares?

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on November 29, 2016, 10:07:51 PM

Man. Pallo ghosted us. :fbm

If he's taking a break for real, that's probably for the best.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on November 30, 2016, 06:36:29 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 27, 2016, 03:09:36 PM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on November 23, 2016, 12:14:41 AM
Earlier tonight I made out with my ex-girlfriend who threw the shitfit in Spain. She put on a little weight but it went in all the right places :cody
How did you get to this point? She apologized? I hope you didn't appease her with "yea I'm sorry too, I should have xyz" fuckery.
:ufup

don't take her back :doge

I actually bumped into her when getting groceries :lol

She was the one who was apologizing. At first I was just being friendly because I don't believe in burning bridges in general so in hindsight I didn't like how everything went down. Then I saw that her ass got bigger (or she was wearing the right jeans) and just decided to go for it.

I haven't seen her since. We texted a few times and she wanted to stop over again but I thought better of it. If I see her again in public, I will just be polite but distant.

Honestly I hate dating or seeing girls in the winter since I hate cold weather and snow so I will probably just hang back and do my own thing for a while.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 30, 2016, 08:26:22 AM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on November 29, 2016, 10:07:51 PM

Man. Pallo ghosted us. :fbm

spoiler (click to show/hide)
I guess we now know how he feels :dice
[close]

I'd rather not jinx myself by going into too much detail but let's just say I still have some irons in the fire.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on November 30, 2016, 01:39:23 PM

Are you branding something on yourself?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2016, 01:55:58 PM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on November 30, 2016, 06:36:29 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 27, 2016, 03:09:36 PM
Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on November 23, 2016, 12:14:41 AM
Earlier tonight I made out with my ex-girlfriend who threw the shitfit in Spain. She put on a little weight but it went in all the right places :cody
How did you get to this point? She apologized? I hope you didn't appease her with "yea I'm sorry too, I should have xyz" fuckery.
:ufup

don't take her back :doge

I actually bumped into her when getting groceries :lol

She was the one who was apologizing. At first I was just being friendly because I don't believe in burning bridges in general so in hindsight I didn't like how everything went down. Then I saw that her ass got bigger (or she was wearing the right jeans) and just decided to go for it.

I haven't seen her since. We texted a few times and she wanted to stop over again but I thought better of it. If I see her again in public, I will just be polite but distant.

Honestly I hate dating or seeing girls in the winter since I hate cold weather and snow so I will probably just hang back and do my own thing for a while.

Good to hear.

You don't like having a chick over during a snowy winter day/night to chill and do whatever? Even the most "let's go out" tier chicks are cool with that due to the weather, at least in Michigan.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on November 30, 2016, 02:04:13 PM

Yeah bro, it's cuffing season.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on November 30, 2016, 02:05:26 PM

Quote from: thisismyusername on November 30, 2016, 12:44:16 AM

Quote from: king of the internet on November 22, 2016, 12:21:13 PM
Quote from: chronovore on November 22, 2016, 04:59:14 AM
Quote from: king of the internet on November 22, 2016, 04:00:27 AM
Had another romantic experience with a girl who I wasn't trying to get with due to her being my friend's ex and my ex's friend but things happened again. This might be for real. Sometimes you just have a gravitational pull towards certain people. How could you deny your true feelings in this type of situation? Sucks when people gotta get their feelings hurt but I'm selfish and I can't resist her.

I went through a similarly careless and wanton time when I was 19-20, but my friends set me straight. Are you really young, or are you inherently destructive?
Probably the latter. I already pretty much destroyed my friendship with this dude over her. He found out about the first time things happened. To be fair he did attempt to court my most recent ex gf. He just happened to fail at it.

You fucked up by not telling him first, TBH. But in this case, it's clear you don't care about him. So uh... poison that well I guess. Just prepare for blowback with your ex if she cares?

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on November 29, 2016, 10:07:51 PM
Man. Pallo ghosted us. :fbm

If he's taking a break for real, that's probably for the best.

Oh, most assuredly so. But what about my schadenfreude?! :brazilcry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 30, 2016, 03:57:41 PM

If things go well with this girl I've been chatting with as of late...

You'll be getting some heavy doses of schadenfreude fairly soon. :doge

spoiler (click to show/hide)

She's even more socially inept than I am but she's pretty so I don't really care. :doge :doge :doge

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2016, 03:58:39 PM

I BELIEVE IN YOU ~~PETER~~ PALLANDO

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 30, 2016, 03:59:37 PM

Like for real bruhs...

I'm 75% sure this girl is a virgin because of how sheltered she is. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2016, 04:15:08 PM

PM me :doge

Remember your past mistake was talking to chicks too long, and then they ghost you when they match someone else on Tinder. Is she open with meeting soon? This weekend perhaps...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 30, 2016, 04:28:12 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2016, 04:15:08 PM

PM me :doge

Remember your past mistake was talking to chicks too long, and then they ghost you when they match someone else on Tinder. Is she open with meeting soon? This weekend perhaps...

Some deets...

She's 21
Lives with her parents (who homeschooled her from 4th to 12th grade)
Doesn't know how to drive out of fear
She's not religious but her parents are
She's lived in the same small town for 11 years but didn't get out much due to social anxiety and not having any friends to hang out with
She is the oldest out of 8 siblings
She is currently going to a community college in her town but she doesn't really hang out or talk to anyone from her classes

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Tasty on November 30, 2016, 04:28:39 PM

Quote from: Mupepe on November 22, 2016, 12:51:40 PM

hos before bros. dicks ain't got nothing on chicks.

:dunno

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Raist on November 30, 2016, 04:44:26 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 30, 2016, 04:28:12 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2016, 04:15:08 PM
PM me :doge

Remember your past mistake was talking to chicks too long, and then they ghost you when they match someone else on Tinder. Is she open with meeting soon? This weekend perhaps...
Some deets...

She's 21
Lives with her parents (who homeschooled her from 4th to 12th grade)
Doesn't know how to drive out of fear
She's not religious but her parents are
She's lived in the same small town for 11 years but didn't get out much due to social anxiety and not having any friends to hang out with
She is the oldest out of 8 siblings
She is currently going to a community college in her town but she doesn't really hang out or talk to anyone from her classes

Sounds like a keeper!

spoiler (click to show/hide)

:doge

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 30, 2016, 04:56:42 PM

This whole thing is not ideal but I'll take what I can get at this point. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on November 30, 2016, 05:33:09 PM

Finally! Someone Pallo's speed.
Don't fuck this up for me Pallo!

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fuck it up for me

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2016, 05:53:58 PM

:leon

So you'd have to pick her up from her parents house to go on a date? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on November 30, 2016, 06:14:37 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 30, 2016, 04:28:12 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2016, 04:15:08 PM
PM me :doge

Remember your past mistake was talking to chicks too long, and then they ghost you when they match someone else on Tinder. Is she open with meeting soon? This weekend perhaps...
Some deets...

She's 21
Lives with her parents (who homeschooled her from 4th to 12th grade)
Doesn't know how to drive out of fear
She's not religious but her parents are
She's lived in the same small town for 11 years but didn't get out much due to social anxiety and not having any friends to hang out with
She is the oldest out of 8 siblings
She is currently going to a community college in her town but she doesn't really hang out or talk to anyone from her classes

She'll be into kinky shit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 30, 2016, 06:35:49 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2016, 05:53:58 PM

:leon

So you'd have to pick her up from her parents house to go on a date? :doge

I'm hoping to pick her up near her job or college instead...

Quote from: Dufus on November 30, 2016, 06:24:22 PM

PM me.

Also those details are way too fucking specific man.

Are you going to give me tips on how to court a shut-in? :doge

Quote from: TheInfelicitousDandy on November 30, 2016, 06:14:37 PM

She'll be into kinky shit

God, I hope so. :whew

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She likes anime as well. :hitler

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 30, 2016, 07:04:08 PM

And another cute single mom that's not too far away just messaged me back...

Ladies, ladies. Please. There's only so much of this wizard to go around. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on November 30, 2016, 07:53:33 PM

Quote from: Pallando on November 30, 2016, 03:57:41 PM

If things go well with this girl I've been chatting with as of late...

You'll be getting some heavy doses of schadenfreude fairly soon. :doge

spoiler (click to show/hide)
She's even more socially inept than I am but she's pretty so I don't really care. :doge :doge :doge
[close]

She's pretty and sheltered. You're both socially inept. I dunno, could be MAGIC.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on November 30, 2016, 08:09:07 PM

Schadenfruede rising :phil

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2016, 08:20:43 PM

How old is the single mom's kid?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on November 30, 2016, 08:37:24 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2016, 08:20:43 PM

How old is the single mom's kid?

What you're trying to ask: "She still making milk?"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on November 30, 2016, 08:55:03 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on November 30, 2016, 08:20:43 PM

How old is the single mom's kid?

Two boys. 3 and 5 if I had to guess. :doge

I'll shoot you a pic of her later. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on November 30, 2016, 10:41:19 PM

Well, I finally did it. I reactivated my Match account... haven't re-subscribed yet since it shot up in price a bit from the last time I was on. Which, it still had my profile from 2008 (deactivated)... I added some new pics and cleaned things up a bit, made it a bit less generic and slightly more nerdy since I'm much more confident in who I am than I was in '08.

It's getting a bit late so I'll re-sub tomorrow and start emailing some girls. Just looking on here right now, one of my first matches is a girl who lives nearby with a Triforce tat who mentions she likes oldskool games. Maybe blasting Zeruda music will get me laid 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 01, 2016, 04:10:02 AM

If you saw our full text convo you'd get a better idea of why I think she's a bit "off" and definitely more sheltered than I am.

edit: Too good looking for me? I don't need to look like an 8 to get an 8. I'm funny/witty and have this earnestness about me that's refreshing to these women who deal with fuckbois all the time. :gurl :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 01, 2016, 04:20:46 AM

I'll sleep when I'm in her bed. :rash

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So... tired... :goty

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 01, 2016, 05:22:02 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 01, 2016, 04:10:02 AM

If you saw our full text convo you'd get a better idea of why I think she's a bit "off" and definitely more sheltered than I am.

edit: Too good looking for me? I don't need to look like an 8 to get an 8. I'm funny/witty and have this earnestness about me that's refreshing to these women who deal with fuckbois all the time. :gurl :doge

Well that's one approach to 'fake it till you make it' :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 01, 2016, 09:23:29 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 01, 2016, 04:10:02 AM

If you saw our full text convo you'd get a better idea of why I think she's a bit "off" and definitely more sheltered than I am.

edit: Too good looking for me? I don't need to look like an 8 to get an 8. I'm funny/witty and have this earnestness about me that's refreshing to these women who deal with fuckbois all the time. :gurl :doge

(http://i.imgur.com/Q1NuATb.png)

Well you just convinced me (Homeschool Boy) to fuck you, so convincing Homeschool Girl shouldn't be hard.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 01, 2016, 10:44:56 AM

TBH you are probably more eager to experiment PD

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 01, 2016, 10:48:54 AM

A few months ago a black friend of mine told me white guys hit on her more than anyone else, and she hates it. I asked her why and she said "because, well you know. Pink dicks."
:dead

I asked her what's the first thing she thinks when she sees white chicks and she said "pink nipples."

BUT I have no such hang ups Pallando so we're good. :shaq

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 01, 2016, 10:50:15 AM

Mine is hot pink due to a highlighter accident.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on December 01, 2016, 11:07:41 AM

puffy pink nipples are the worst.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on December 01, 2016, 10:59:27 PM

Reactivated my account, emailed a few girls... here goes nothin'. I'll hopefully have some good dating stories for ya, maybe not quite Pallando's level (and the stakes aren't really as high for me)...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: benjipwns on December 02, 2016, 01:00:18 PM

http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/rambling-reporter/donald-trump-dating-site-gets-post-election-membership-boost-951129

https://trumpsingles.com/

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Purrp Skirrp on December 03, 2016, 06:37:52 PM

My life turned into the direct to DVD sequel to Silver Linings Playbook, and it played out exactly as you'd expect. FML. Why didn't I listen. Over 3 years bruhs.

What disturbs me more is that while deactivating Amazon Video from this bish's Roku I noticed I registered something like 5 Wii U's at various points, none of which I own now or remember liking much.

Hand me that L(ithium) :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on December 03, 2016, 09:34:13 PM

Quote from: Swishercrat on December 03, 2016, 06:37:52 PM

My life turned into the direct to DVD sequel to Silver Linings Playbook, and it played out exactly as you'd expect. FML. Why didn't I listen. Over 3 years bruhs.

What disturbs me more is that while deactivating Amazon Video from this bish's Roku I noticed I registered something like 5 Wii U's at various points, none of which I own now or remember liking much.

Hand me that L(ithium) :-[

I have no idea what any of this means.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: eleuin on December 03, 2016, 10:53:14 PM

you bought 5 wii Us?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 04, 2016, 12:06:04 AM

I thought I was the only one who re-U'd although it was just the one time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on December 04, 2016, 12:29:24 PM

Well, emailed 20 girls since I reactivated the other night. So far only one has gotten back to me. But, she's one of the best looking out of all the ones I emailed, at least!

Hopefully some more get back to me soon and I can get out on a few dates... been out of the game for a while.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on December 06, 2016, 07:45:09 AM

Quote from: Mupepe on December 01, 2016, 11:07:41 AM

puffy pink nipples are the worst.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on December 06, 2016, 10:57:31 AM

Emailing back and forth with 4 girls:
-a 35 year old teacher who lives nearby. thicc and blonde, has some slight nerdy qualities about her?
-a 30 year old brunette from the Hamptons who is very pretty and one of those 'world traveler' types (been all over Africa and Asia).
-a 28 year old short and curvy blonde from north shore Nassau, big into sports.
-a 27 year old brunette who is from the town I grew up in. thin and busty but maybe a bit 'basic' for lack of a better term?

Still a bit too early to set up dates with any of them (want to wait for 1 or 2 more emails), and I'm a tad disappointed with how I'm doing on the site so far. Expected to get more responses. Don't know if it's because:
-while I'm 34, I look and have the interests of someone in their 20's and my profile reflects that
-my profile pics may not be that appealing (?)
-while OKC tends to attract more nerds and hipster girls (which I have more in common with), Match attracts more of the "basic" types
-Match girls may be more into 'serious' dating so are much pickier than OKC who are more 'casual' daters (?)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Bebpo on December 07, 2016, 07:31:31 PM

I realized I haven't checked this thread in a couple of weeks. Pallando, have you gotten any action? Like even if not sex, any progress at all with any of these people?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on December 07, 2016, 07:32:30 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on December 07, 2016, 07:31:31 PM

I realized I haven't checked this thread in a couple of weeks. Pallando, have you gotten any action? Like even if not sex, any progress at all with any of these people?

His right arm is stronger.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on December 07, 2016, 07:44:51 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on December 07, 2016, 07:31:31 PM

I realized I haven't checked this thread in a couple of weeks. Pallando, have you gotten any action? Like even if not sex, any progress at all with any of these people?

:neogaf

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 07, 2016, 08:46:58 PM

Quote from: Bebpo on December 07, 2016, 07:31:31 PM

I realized I haven't checked this thread in a couple of weeks. Pallando, have you gotten any action? Like even if not sex, any progress at all with any of these people?

I have a date with a super cute 21 y/o this weekend and I'm trying to lure another cute 21 y/o with Pokémon once she finishes up with her exams. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 08, 2016, 10:14:20 PM

The way you just wrote "*someone*" in your status update would totally creep me out if I read it and was that someone, fyi

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 08, 2016, 10:19:39 PM

I ended up deleting it because it creeped me out as well. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on December 08, 2016, 10:56:38 PM

Going out to dinner with the teacher next week. We were texting each other all day, she seems pretty neat, is a history teacher (I love history and it was one of my best subjects in HS) and likes Asian dramas (which means it's probably not much of a stretch to get her into weeb stuff :uguu ). She works at the HS literally next door from the condo complex I live in.

Some other girls have winked at me and emailed me back, too, a few of those have potential. But yeah, this will be my first date since I met my ex 3+ years ago. :hyper

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 08, 2016, 10:57:48 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 08, 2016, 10:19:39 PM

I ended up deleting it because it creeped me out as well. :doge

That's even creepier :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 08, 2016, 11:08:56 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on December 08, 2016, 10:57:48 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 08, 2016, 10:19:39 PM
I ended up deleting it because it creeped me out as well. :doge

That's even creepier :doge

Fuck. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 08, 2016, 11:17:35 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 08, 2016, 11:08:56 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on December 08, 2016, 10:57:48 PM
Quote from: Pallando on December 08, 2016, 10:19:39 PM
I ended up deleting it because it creeped me out as well. :doge

That's even creepier :doge
Fuck. :doge

Odds are pretty good it wasn't seen tho

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on December 08, 2016, 11:31:27 PM

Pallo has a facebook? Oh man, I gotta get in on this schadenfruede. PM me!!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 08, 2016, 11:35:57 PM

Check your PMs, fam-ma-lam. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on December 08, 2016, 11:42:08 PM

The oncoming satiation of my schadenfreude :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Vertigo on December 09, 2016, 03:22:09 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on December 07, 2016, 05:49:07 PM

You're doing a lot better than most people are on those dating websites. You should try Tinder, it's basically the way to date/hook up/etc. now

Tinder is good in short bursts, I'd also recommend Bumble. The best thing about Bumble is the women have to message you first so you know she's at least made the effort and is semi interested, unlike on Tinder where some women have this weird you have to message me first 'rule'.

As with most of these things the sooner you get them off the app the better.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 10, 2016, 02:32:58 AM

Everything could've gone to shit tonight but I persevered.

In short, my date with the cute 21 y/o hipster girl went well.

I'll try to post details later tomorrow but now I have a 2 hr and 30 minute drive home before me. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 10, 2016, 04:33:33 AM

Well at least Tinder is working out for you. I get no messages and replies and most matches are uggos.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 10, 2016, 09:59:45 AM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on December 10, 2016, 05:12:53 AM

Fuck the uggos.

I agree. Besides, it's Tinder. She's just going to run to your place or you run to her's. It's not like you need to be seen with her in public.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 10, 2016, 10:57:06 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 10, 2016, 04:33:33 AM

Well at least Tinder is working out for you. I get no messages and replies and most matches are uggos.

So you sit alone not getting pussy or dating experience because you haven't found the perfect blue haired Asian with anime eyes.

Smh dude. You lost.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 10, 2016, 11:44:46 AM

I'm still waiting for my perfect blue haired Asian with anime eyes, and I own a shiba. Just saying.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 10, 2016, 12:24:30 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 10, 2016, 10:57:06 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 10, 2016, 04:33:33 AM
Well at least Tinder is working out for you. I get no messages and replies and most matches are uggos.

So you sit alone not getting pussy or dating experience because you haven't found the perfect blue haired Asian with anime eyes.

Smh dude. You lost.

I don't think I agree with this "you should just use girls you have no interests in/find disgusting for experience concept.

I'm not looking for any perfect girl. Just a decent looking girl with a cool personality.

Also I guess I don't know how Tinder is played? Most of these girls are of the "swipe left if u just want a hookup variety"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on December 10, 2016, 03:04:53 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 10, 2016, 12:24:30 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 10, 2016, 10:57:06 AM
Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 10, 2016, 04:33:33 AM
Well at least Tinder is working out for you. I get no messages and replies and most matches are uggos.

So you sit alone not getting pussy or dating experience because you haven't found the perfect blue haired Asian with anime eyes.

Smh dude. You lost.
I don't think I agree with this "you should just use girls you have no interests in/find disgusting for experience concept.

I'm not looking for any perfect girl. Just a decent looking girl with a cool personality.

Also I guess I don't know how Tinder is played? Most of these girls are of the "swipe left if u just want a hookup variety"

What about a slightly unattractive girl with a great personality? Or a bbw with a pretty face and a great personality? Anyways, attraction is a weird thing, and if you really click with someone you may find her a lot more attractive as time goes on. Although, as someone who has been in this situation a number of times, it's annoying hearing "you're such a great catch, you can get a lot hotter than her!" from family and friends.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on December 10, 2016, 03:43:13 PM

Your family are full of shit but if your friends are telling you that you can do better, listen to them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 10, 2016, 03:47:46 PM

Rahx you should be going on as many dates as you can and having as much social interaction as you can tolerate. Just saying.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 10, 2016, 04:21:51 PM

I'd like to, it's the women who aren't giving me a chance.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 10, 2016, 06:10:54 PM

Feel free to use and modify my bio, Rahx.

"Just another background character.

If you're into indoor, nerdy activities we'll probably get along. And I'm down for outdoor stuff as well.

Let's get pizza/coffee/drinks and talk about weird shit. 🌚

Also, please don't lure me into some gospel outreach program, fertility cult, or pyramid scheme. Thanks. 😂👌"

And it helps to have a picture of a pet. And Charlie Kelly from It's Always Sunny.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 10, 2016, 06:28:37 PM

I'm hardly the only person to call some women ugly and to have a few preferences such as don't be 200 pounds.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 10, 2016, 06:57:57 PM

Or women are just bitches. That's an option as well

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rufus on December 10, 2016, 07:18:24 PM

What's more likely, given that not every guy on the planet has this issue with women?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 10, 2016, 07:22:24 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 10, 2016, 06:57:57 PM

Or women are just bitches. That's an option as well

https://www.reddit.com/r/truecels

Imagine me editing that Penn "This is your Home"/into the trash it goes meme with the anime stuff being that link.

No, really. That's your home. Go there, bitch about women being unfair because you're a "nice guy" and get the fuck off this board. Otherwise, Wrath/et. al. have given you more than enough reasonable advice for you to get pussy. Unlike Atra, you're not going to get it with the above attitude.

Edit: Lemme put it this way. Andy would want to fuck you silly. BUT with that shitty attitude you're displaying, why would he want to do that? Now, replace "Andy" with "the woman of your dreams" and kill yourself.</4chan filter:off>

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 10, 2016, 08:43:29 PM

Talking to the other 21 y/o right now.

Might try to see Rouge One with her and a group of friends.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 10, 2016, 08:48:11 PM

Quote from: Rufus on December 10, 2016, 07:18:24 PM

What's more likely, given that not every guy on the planet has this issue with women?

Its more likely that women are bitches given the number of threads like these. People wouldn't be misogynistic if women didn't treat people like shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 10, 2016, 08:51:24 PM

Aight go make a misogyny thread, this ones for folks who are tryin

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 10, 2016, 08:52:03 PM

post those date details pallando :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 10, 2016, 09:13:21 PM

Let me get some snacks & a drink and I'll type it up ASAP.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on December 10, 2016, 09:21:57 PM

Please tell us all the details Pal.

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 10, 2016, 06:28:37 PM

I'm hardly the only person to call some women ugly and to have a few preferences such as don't be 200 pounds.

I'll try be nice but you lack the confidence to talk to an attractive woman like it's no big deal. You don't do that because you do not see any value in yourself either in the form of being able to be charming or having good looks or whatever. Maybe the reason you say such toxic shit is to fish for compliments about your looks because you secretly know you can change your opinions more easily than the physical things but that's why the only advice to give to you is to try with girls who are as heavy as you can possibly lift (I'm gonna say at least 160 pounds?). So that you stop trying to judge things and can enjoy life long enough to get some perspective on how self-harming and shortsighted you are.

I know tons of not very dashing men who date girls that are model-level because they approach it knowing that they have what it takes. If you can't do it, then you've got your prescription.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 10, 2016, 09:36:55 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 10, 2016, 09:13:21 PM

Let me get some snacks & a drink and I'll type it up ASAP.

It's cold as fuck outside and I'm contemplating heading out to get some snacks in anticipation of an upcoming classic post.
:lawd

nah I'll make some oatmeal instead

side note brehs but oatmeal with peanut butter :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on December 10, 2016, 09:46:06 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 10, 2016, 06:57:57 PM

Or women are just bitches. That's an option as well

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: eleuin on December 10, 2016, 10:10:39 PM

hope somebody shoots me before I ever approach rahx's level :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 11, 2016, 01:04:31 AM

I don't think I'm going to shoot anyone. I'm not interested in hurting anyone.

I just find most women I meet to be either bitchy or just manipulative and I'm tired of being played by them and their bullshit.

And most of my matches on tinder are extremely ugly and/or annoying self righteous feminists who probably think they are far smarter then they actually are. Which pretty much reflects poorly on me.

Quote

Edit: Lemme put it this way. Andy would want to fuck you silly. BUT with that shitty attitude you're displaying, why would he want to do that? Now, replace "Andy" with "the woman of your dreams" and kill yourself.</4chan filter:off>

I'm not gay and this creeps me out. I wish it would stop being mentioned.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 11, 2016, 01:38:10 AM

Sorry for the delay. I had to take care of some shit.

Here's how my date (and the events that led up to it) went last night with the 21 y/o hipster girl.

>So I had matched with this girl on Tinder way back in late November
>We chatted for about a week and then she totally disappeared
>Then Thanksgiving week came around and out of the blue she texts me back saying that she had gotten really busy with work and she was really sorry about not getting back to me sooner.
>So, we text each other some more on and on off. She seems really cool and friendly but her work schedule seemed to be putting a dampener on things.
>This week comes around and I try to arrange a date on Friday.
>She seemed eager for it.
>Then Friday comes around and then things become really iffy. (Shark Johnson can testify to this)
>Apparently she had to take over for another co-worker's shift or something. So she was going to working later than usual on Friday.
>So I thought. Fuck it. She lives in Boone (a 2 hour & 30 minute Drive from Greenville, SC). I'll go ahead and risk a drive to Asheville, NC (which is about an hour and 30 minute drive from Boone), chill out there and get some top quality food at this place called Farm Burger (Farm to Table type of place), and wait for her to confirm whether or not should could meet me that night.
>So I drive up to Asheville. Got a speeding ticket on my way up there for driving 85mph in 55mph zone. It was dark and I zoomed right past a cop car like a dumb ass. :doge
>Anyways, I get up to Asheville and have my food.
>I was having a text conversation with Shark in the meantime. Both of us were wondering if I should just ghost on her (by sending her a Patrick Swayze pic from the movie Ghost and blocking her number. :lol ) and move on because she wasn't giving me any surefire answers on whether or not I should come up.
>10pm rolls around as I'm finishing up my late dinner and I finally get a text from her saying that she would be done with work after 11:30pm because she had to close up.
>I basically gambled on that text being a sign that she would be able to meet me somewhere in Boone. So, I run to my car, hop in, and book it to Boone as fast as possible.
>Around 11pm I get another text from here saying that She knew it was a bit of a drive from Asheville to Boone and that I didn't need to get up there tonight if I didn't want to.
>I texted her back (pulled off to the side of the road. didn't want to get another ticket for texting and driving. :doge) and told her that I was only 45 miles away, it wasn't that far from me, and that I was willing to see this through since I was that close. :doge
> It's already nearing midnight and I get another text from her: "Oh! Have you started the trip?"
Me: "Haha. Yep. I'm only 20 miles away now. I promise I'll keep my stay as brief as possible."
>She tells me how she's going to be a bit of a zombie from work and that I wouldn't be getting her at 100% but I told her no problem. My stoner friends say I'm very easy to talk to so take that as you will.
>I arrive at Boone and it's 12:30am. It's really fucking cold up there. There was even some snow on the ground.
>I go to the designated spot. The Boone Saloon since it was open late. :doge
>I'm there for about 30 minutes. Listening to this loud as fuck live band that was playing there and nursing a beer. They thankfully wrapped up after those 30 minutes.
>She comes in around 1:15am. I can't tell you how happy I was to see her. I was grinning ear to ear.
>We talk about all sorts of shit. Design, Anthropology, Marketing, World Travel, Ancient Civilizations, Latin America, Hieroglyphics, Linguistics, etc. Definitely the intellectual/academic type which I like.
>We both have a lot of fundamental things in common and it turns out she is not religious (I thought she was based off of how she texted me by not really swearing). She was though in the past just like me so we have that in common (she was even a youth group worship leader at some point).
>The bar closed around 2am but I got to talk to her for a good 45 to 50 minutes. We walked outside to our cars. She seemed eager to meet up again but she said was going to be fairly busy with work in December and possibly going to California for a bit to visit with some family.
>Told her thank you for making it out that night.
>We bear hugged each other goodbye. Her warm little body against mine in the freezing cold felt so good. :aah
>And then I drove back home. Got back around 5am.

I haven't texted her back anything yet but I plan to text/chat with her some more later tomorrow.

Hopefully I can keep the fire burning with her because I could really see myself getting into a long term relationship with this girl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on December 11, 2016, 01:47:30 AM

Thank you for specifying "bear hug" instead of "Christian side hug."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 11, 2016, 02:08:31 AM

:larry seems pretty good

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 11, 2016, 02:26:58 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 10, 2016, 08:43:29 PM

Talking to the other 21 y/o right now.

Might try to see Rouge One with her and a group of friends.

Oh yeah, this girl said she'll have to check with her friend first who invited her to see if she/he would be cool with me tagging along.

Plus, this girl was kinda skittish about meeting me one-on-one so perhaps me meeting her with a group of her friend/acquaintances would put her more at ease.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 11, 2016, 03:45:17 AM

So is the girl. :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Syph on December 11, 2016, 04:47:07 AM

Pallando I wish you the best but that is a long fucking trip
set that tinder radius smaller breh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 11, 2016, 04:52:20 AM

Quote from: Syph on December 11, 2016, 04:47:07 AM

Pallando I wish you the best but that is a long fucking trip
set that tinder radius smaller breh

The girls that are closer to me seem to get swiped up very fast by other guys.

There are A LOT of well-to-do, very handsome, eligible bachelors in my city.

But I have hardly any competition when I'm matching with girls who live in tiny towns in North Carolina. Plus, most of these girls are still in college and it's probably impressive to them (on a certain level) that I'm working full time at a design/marketing firm instead of at McDonalds or Starbucks (broad examples) like their male counterparts are currently working at.

edit: Also, there seems to be large swaths of religious single moms in my area. And I'm not really looking to be a substitute dad who is willing to go to church every Sunday.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 11, 2016, 05:27:04 AM

This pic basically sums up my whole Tinder experience:
(http://i.imgur.com/LCitXLl.png)

North Carolina women. :rejoice

South Carolina women. :yeshrug

edit: And the last woman I dated from SC was a fucking heroin addict. So yeah. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 11, 2016, 05:46:24 AM

Probably not. :doge

Also, I saw a new pic of her on FB a couple of days ago. She's looking a bit rough. :doge

edit: FB recommends former tinder matches/dates as friends. I can't help but look. Also, she shares one mutual friend with me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Boogie on December 11, 2016, 09:51:05 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 11, 2016, 01:04:31 AM

I don't think I'm going to shoot anyone.

You "don't think"? But.....you're not sure?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on December 11, 2016, 10:25:17 AM

Rax, what's your address? I have a leather bound book with secrets to getting hot women I want to send you. It changed my life.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 11, 2016, 10:27:50 AM

Is it the holy bible or the Quran

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 11, 2016, 10:44:05 AM

Rahx scares me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on December 11, 2016, 10:55:55 AM

Don't worry, you're safe. He apparently has a problem getting in the vicinity of hot women.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 11, 2016, 11:05:06 AM

I'll be honest Rah.

With this attitude I wouldn't even consider you. I'm not sure how you present yourself to women but I do know that men who harbor feelings like yours act in ways that make them unappealing to a woman in the day to day interactions. With such embittered animosity it would be clear to most women by how you handle yourself that you lack confidence. I smell it through my phone screen. I can only imagine what it's like interacting with you on the daily irl. That feeling that you're owed a woman can be read with quickness in ways that you cannot see. I personally have felt and experienced this multiple times and I can tell you right now that if you don't work on it, you'll be without a partner for good.

Tell me what you usually say when you get a girls number or when you want to talk to a woman period? How do you initiate contact? Give me a play by play and I'll analyze it top to bottom for you.

The ultimate problem here for you is that I SMELL WEAKNESS. I should never sense that. Now, what is weakness? Is it alpha male cadence? No. It's basic self respect. I do no sense weakness from Pallando or Tiesto. If I can sense weakness from you without having never met you, on the Internet, on my phone, please know that women in your vicinity who might potentially consider you, are smelling it too.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 11, 2016, 11:34:33 AM

I wouldn't have met anyone that late but it sounds like it went well so grats Pallando. Did she smell nice when you hugged?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 11, 2016, 12:57:10 PM

If she did I couldn't tell. It's hard to smell anything when it's that cold outside. :doge

Anyways, hopefully me making an effort to come up there left a good impression on her. Her actually meeting me when she could've easily said, "Nah, not tonight. I'm going to bed. Have a safe trip home." definitely left a good impression on me. I even thanked her for coming out and told her that I really appreciated it.

Also, I felt like I came off as very confident when I was talking with her. It was like I was talking to a good friend. My words, for the most part, flowed naturally. Plus, she seemed genuinely interested by what I had to say and smiled & laughed at my jokes and goofy comments.

And if we do have a second date hopefully the circumstances will be much more ideal.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on December 11, 2016, 01:03:06 PM

Atra learning some skills :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 11, 2016, 01:03:58 PM

:bow pallando

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on December 11, 2016, 01:06:48 PM

proud of u

(http://i.imgur.com/2ewSyuf.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on December 11, 2016, 01:18:04 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on December 10, 2016, 06:13:48 PM

Pallando, your problem isn't so much in your profile as much as it's in how you approach girls. You meander on till they lose interest.

Rahx, your problem is that you don't even approach girls and take it as a personal insult to have yourself besmirched by their company.

There, now y'all can shut the fuck up. I wanna hear more about tiesto manwhoring it up in Buffalo.

I sucked when I was in college in Buffalo :(

Had a girlfriend for a half a year but she was a goodie 2 shoes Catholic girl so I didn't even get past 2nd base.

Almost lost my virginity to a 6'1" thicc girl but that was before I realized that was what I was into. I was very shy and awkward in college.

In more Match news, a 30 year old petite blonde who likes EDM messaged me the other day. 8) And a really cute 37 year old. And a Jewish girl with curly brown hair and some nice curves. Things are moving...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Bebpo on December 11, 2016, 01:18:35 PM

I'm late to Rahx's posts, only became aware when I saw the other thread, which like Syph said I thought was gonna be a joke sarcastic thread.

I agree 1000000000000% with the post on this page that says you need to make some female friends before you consider dating women. Like, put your dick on hold for some months, stick with porn or whatever gets you off, and go out to social group stuff and try to have a good time and talk to the men & women around you. If you keep with it you'll probably make some friends in both sexes, and as you hang out and spend time around women, you'll realize they're people good & bad like men, you'll get comfortable interacting with women and spending time with friends that are more equal with male/female ratio you'll grow as a person and become more attractive to the people you're interested.

As someone who used to run social groups, just do not come off as needy and creepy straight off the bat. First impressions go a long way and I can't tell you the number of awkward guys who would show up for the first time and be hitting on women, being creepy or straight out saying they're looking for a gf. Just ignore dating/sex for a while and go hang out with people like you're asexual. If it helps, just consider all the women at any group you're going to "off-limits" and if you just act normal people will like you because unlike so many people you're not coming off as a creep. You'll make friends and it'll help, I promise. Just don't do the opposite thing either where you ignore women because you overthink and don't want to come off as creepy/hitting on them. Just go and say hi to everyone at a social thing or party, male & female. Say hi, introduce yourself, ask them a little about themselves and unless you're clicking just move on to the next person and do the same. If you talk to everyone, you'll be the life of the party and people will like you because that takes courage, and by doing it you'll get more comfortable talking to people and it'll give you more confidence.

tldr; put your dick away, join some meetups and make friends and try to have a good time for now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on December 11, 2016, 04:16:18 PM

Do not take advice from Bebpo under any circumstances.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 11, 2016, 05:34:53 PM

What will I do without the respect of bore members.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 11, 2016, 06:07:45 PM

I'd do that with the respect of Bore members so no difference.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Boogie on December 11, 2016, 08:04:01 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 11, 2016, 06:07:45 PM

I'd do that with the respect of Bore members so no difference.

you sure about that?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 11, 2016, 10:24:06 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on December 11, 2016, 08:08:14 PM

If a bunch of losers on a videogame forum can't respect you I'm not sure a woman will.

women don't even give me a chance so I'm not sure why I should care what they think?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: benjipwns on December 11, 2016, 10:31:15 PM

men/women/TheBore posters/losers are not monoliths

dating is about losing more than you win, inherently, that's kinda the point

especially as the information is asymmetrical for both parties

wait, why am i posing in this thread, when have i ever had a healthy or normal relationship??? never done any internet stuff either

spoiler (click to show/hide)

i guess my main recurring one has mostly been stable for years, so that's something...

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: zomgee on December 11, 2016, 10:59:36 PM

Fake nudes for fake news am I right

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on December 11, 2016, 11:28:14 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 11, 2016, 10:24:06 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on December 11, 2016, 08:08:14 PM
If a bunch of losers on a videogame forum can't respect you I'm not sure a woman will.
women don't even give me a chance so I'm not sure why I should care what they think?

That's the trouble: you do care what they think. You've got something in your head telling you they're being unfair or mean. If you can actually manage not care about what women think of you, and treat yourself with respect, the whole problem you're experiencing will pivot on its axis.

I figured half of this out in college. My roomie always seemed to have women trying to get his attention, but he didn't acknowledge their efforts. It made most of them double-down. Just pretending that I didn't care was enough to intrigue them, but I was still insecure and sometimes a dick, so it didn't ever go more than a week or two. That's why the self-respect is still critical.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 12, 2016, 12:03:01 AM

I think you need more girl friends. Not a girlfriend but girl friends.

I will be your friend if you'll have me. 😇

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 12, 2016, 01:24:54 AM

Quote from: Boogie on December 11, 2016, 08:04:01 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 11, 2016, 06:07:45 PM
I'd do that with the respect of Bore members so no difference.

you sure about that?

Guess I never had the respect of bore members, but it also never affected me getting laid or not so.... I guess it means nothing.

I don't know where this idea that I don't respect myself comes from. I don't even know how you don't respect myself. I think I'm a pretty solid guy, but apparently not good enough for most women. I'll have to be happy with 1s and 2s.

And I already have a few female friends. You can check my facebook if you don't believe me. I'm not sure what they're supposed to help with.

Women just don't want anything to do with me, even before I became bitter and annoyed by their presence. At this point I just need another outlet. I pay a black bbw to blow me every once in awhile. I find her disgusting, but at least its something to relive the tension.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 12, 2016, 01:30:08 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 12, 2016, 01:24:54 AM

Quote from: Boogie on December 11, 2016, 08:04:01 PM
Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 11, 2016, 06:07:45 PM
I'd do that with the respect of Bore members so no difference.

you sure about that?
Guess I never had the respect of bore members, but it also never affected me getting laid or not so.... I guess it means nothing.

I don't know where this idea that I don't respect myself comes from. I don't even know how you don't respect myself. I think I'm a pretty solid guy, but apparently not good enough for most women. I'll have to be happy with 1s and 2s.

And I already have a few female friends. You can check my facebook if you don't believe me. I'm not sure what they're supposed to help with.

Women just don't want anything to do with me, even before I became bitter and annoyed by their presence. At this point I just need another outlet. I pay a black bbw to blow me every once in awhile. I find her disgusting, but at least its something to relive the tension.

:crazy

I just don't believe a man that has confidence in himself says these things. The problem is that you now see women as just objects you throw your rage at because you're unsuccessful with.

But the question is why? Looking at your posts it's not shocking to see why and like I said on the last page, any woman will be able to pick up on this eventually.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: etiolate on December 12, 2016, 01:48:02 AM

Rahx do you know what you want in a girl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 12, 2016, 08:45:13 AM

I'm fairly new here but I can't tell if Rahx is serious. I'm no doctor but his views on women seem less than healthy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on December 12, 2016, 10:33:40 AM

Maybe try a guy? :idont

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 12, 2016, 12:16:42 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on December 12, 2016, 10:33:40 AM

Maybe try a guy? :idont

There is something to this. There was a guy who lived with my friend in the dorms who complained constantly about not being able to get women or get laid. After Christmas break he decided to date a guy and has been dating guys ever since. He was a really neurotic, morose fucker and after he embraced the cock, he was a much happier, even pleasant person to be around.

Just a thought.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on December 12, 2016, 12:19:05 PM

I wasn't entirely joking. I've had several female friends that were just angry against guys all the time (think female version of Rax) and then a few years later I come back and they're dating a woman and they're just so much happier.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 12, 2016, 12:32:18 PM

The thought did cross my mind that RahX is gay and just doesn't know it yet.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: demi on December 12, 2016, 12:33:19 PM

How much does she cost?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on December 12, 2016, 12:50:51 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 11, 2016, 10:24:06 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on December 11, 2016, 08:08:14 PM
If a bunch of losers on a videogame forum can't respect you I'm not sure a woman will.
women don't even give me a chance so I'm not sure why I should care what they think?

Sounds like you don't give a lot of women a chance either...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 12, 2016, 12:52:55 PM

As much as it would make things easier, I'm not gay.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Joe Molotov on December 12, 2016, 12:55:26 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 12, 2016, 12:52:55 PM

As much as it would make things easier, I'm not gay.

How hard have you tried?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 12, 2016, 12:57:00 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 12, 2016, 12:52:55 PM

As much as it would make things easier, I'm not gay.

hahahaha dating as lgbtq is a unique bag of chips. You have a smaller dating pool, in less ways to find people who will want to date you.

getting laid is easier as lgbtq, but dating? Depends on what you want I guess.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on December 12, 2016, 12:59:31 PM

Time to make that pof account rahx

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 12, 2016, 01:02:04 PM

Quote from: toku on December 12, 2016, 12:59:31 PM

Time to make that grindr account rahx

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on December 12, 2016, 01:03:16 PM

Just remember, head is head, and it's not gay if the balls don't touch. Bless up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 12, 2016, 01:26:58 PM

Quote from: toku on December 12, 2016, 12:59:31 PM

Time to make that okcupid account rahx

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 12, 2016, 01:29:45 PM

i met my bf on okc

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 12, 2016, 01:34:38 PM

Yeah that real really solve confidence issues. Can't make it with the gender you actually like, go gay!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 12, 2016, 01:39:53 PM

Do you like women tho? Doesn't sound like it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 12, 2016, 01:41:01 PM

No, just that a lot of gay men/gay women have resentment towards women/men if they are not comfortable with their sexuality. It can come from a place where they're continuously turned down, they build up resentment towards the opposite sex because they feel they should be with the opposite sex, but the opposite sex isn't biting because they read them as gay, which breeds more resentment towards the opposite sex. You do not turn gay. Just saying that your posts sometimes remind me of frustrated gay men I've seen trying to get with women, but women don't want them and they don't know why, so they lash out.

Resentment towards the opposite sex among people who are gay is very real.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 12, 2016, 01:47:54 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 12, 2016, 01:41:01 PM

Resentment towards the opposite sex among people who are gay is very real.

No wonder gay dudes like Madonna.
:holeup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Tasty on December 12, 2016, 01:55:02 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 12, 2016, 01:41:01 PM

Resentment towards the opposite sex among people who are gay is very real.

Gurl what

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 12, 2016, 01:56:25 PM

Everyone point and laugh, Tasty likes girls as people, nanannana

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 12, 2016, 01:58:30 PM

Quote from: Tasty Meat on December 12, 2016, 01:55:02 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 12, 2016, 01:41:01 PM
Resentment towards the opposite sex among people who are gay is very real.

Gurl what

I didn't mean it among every person - or even most - that is gay. Don't read it as that. I'm talking about people who mostly have not come to terms with their sexuality.

Rahx trying to get with women, but can't stand them, and is continuously turned down reminds me of gay friends who have been on the down low or hadn't realized they're gay yet.

I'm not sure he's gay though, so I'll leave it at that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 12, 2016, 02:01:54 PM

gay dudes also steal all of their clever shit from black women and pass it off as their own.
:holeup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 12, 2016, 02:05:09 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 12, 2016, 02:01:54 PM

gay dudes also steal all of their clever shit from black women and pass it off as their own.
:holeup

most of this comes from black gay men so it's not necessarily stealing. Then it just goes out into the community.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: ToxicAdam on December 12, 2016, 02:41:48 PM

You can get that way by having a horrible mother or older sister, also.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Tasty on December 12, 2016, 02:47:27 PM

If Rahx says he isn't gay then he isn't, simple as that. It's a scale anyways.

What he has to realize though is that womenkind isn't some giant hivemind of anti-Rahx harpie bitches. They're individual people and deserve to be treated as such and given the benefit of the doubt. Once it's stuck in your head that "everyone is against me," it's a rabbit hole that's hard to recover from and could likely end with Elliot Roger.

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 12, 2016, 02:05:09 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 12, 2016, 02:01:54 PM
gay dudes also steal all of their clever shit from black women and pass it off as their own.
:holeup

most of this comes from black gay men so it's not necessarily stealing. Then it just goes out into the community.

We need cultural tariffs. #MakeBlacksGreatAgain

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 12, 2016, 02:52:34 PM

Quote from: Tasty Meat on December 12, 2016, 02:47:27 PM

What he has to realize though is that womenkind isn't some giant hivemind of anti-Rahx harpie bitches. They're individual people and deserve to be treated as such and given the benefit of the doubt.

The fact this needs to be said is sad.

Have you expressed your frustration with women with your therapist, Rah?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on December 12, 2016, 10:35:58 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 12, 2016, 01:47:54 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 12, 2016, 01:41:01 PM
Resentment towards the opposite sex among people who are gay is very real.

No wonder gay dudes like Madonna.
:holeup

She teams up with some good producers at least. This was probably the first ever Above & Beyond production I heard:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cAgaPk4GHPY

Also this:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v4Knuyyf5oQ

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: king of the internet on December 13, 2016, 02:56:37 AM

Someday I will learn the right buttons for tinder and stop accidentally super liking the wrong girls. Especially when I'm buzzed. But the good news is that I'm matched with 6 or 7 girls I'll probably never try to talk to. I just don't care right now. I'm on here to feed my ego. I did see a few girls I know and like irl but I'm not gonna chase them on a fucking app. That's what RL is for.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on December 13, 2016, 04:10:59 PM

Tomorrow's the big day. Meeting up for Korean food (it'll be her first time trying Korean food). I'm honestly a bit nervous (I'm also a bit twitchy and awkward in person, which sucks when you first meet new people) since it's been a while since I have went out on a date, and this girl seems very cool from the texting we do back and forth with each other.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 13, 2016, 05:19:18 PM

Quote from: etiolate on December 12, 2016, 01:48:02 AM

Rahx do you know what you want in a girl

I guess I don't really know, since I've never had a girlfriend.

I'm not looking for a clingy, lovey doovy type girl. That would annoy me. A girl who can stand on her own, do her own thing, have her own life separate from mine. I don't think Im a controlling person, but I also like my alone time even from my own friends. I have a friend who basically gets into symbiotic relationships and I guess he likes them for his own issues. I rather just date a chill girl who is still herself during the whole thing.

I wouldn't mind a girl who is a bit more together then myself. Smarter and more organized. I'm smartish and for the most part able to handle myself, but I am easily unfocused and unorganized. Recently, I'm attracted to women who are more put together, at least professionally. But not unkept emotionally either, for all my ranting on here. I don't actually believe most of it and I don't really talk like this outside of the fourm and I like to think I'm a rather logical and rationale person. So whatever matches with that would be nice.

I'm also extremely liberal, but probably a bit more of an asshole and ignorant to more I guess SJW stuff. So a girl who bleeds feminism is'nt my cup of tea. I'm liberal, but not political.

I'm also not really into sports, so I doubt I'd interests a more sporty girl, but that doesn't mean I'm not interested in biking, swimming, or general outdoorsy stuff. I'm just not much of an athletic stuff and don't care about competitive sports. I do like to swim, go kayaking, biking, and being outside in general.

I do like to go out, to the movies, shows, bars, whatever. So a girl who likes to do those things would be cool. Someone who just likes to leave the house for random reasons is what I'm talking about. Sitting at home is cool and I like to do it, but it need not be the only thing you do.

Yes I like comic books, video games, and anime, but I'm not looking for a girl who is a nerd. At least, not defined by the nerdom to the point that they take it completely serious and it is their life. Honestly, most of my friends aren't nerds and only casually like what I like. Which is cool and preferable to me. Be open to the stuff. My mother only has a passing interests in what I like mostly because she really likes movies and is a movie buff. Open to some anime or comic books, but really only the stuff that a little casual person could find appealing. And thats what I'm looking for. Have a passing interest. Most of my friends are into rap music, I only have a passing interest and thats fine.

I guess I'd like a girl who is actually stylish with he clothes. Nice jackets and boots. I don't know, I like when women have nice jackets and boots. I guess I have more posh sense of clothing style that I like. I hate to see a girl in sweats or boy looking outfits. But I'm not into fashionistas either. Someone who wears simple but nice clothing is what I'm getting at. Someone who is mellow about their appearance i guess. Someone who looks like they drink at starbucks if that makes sense.

As far as looks I guess I have preferences, like anyone, but I dont think they are as rigid as some here think they are. I like girls with long hair, while plenty of girls with short hair are able to make it work. I still like long, soft, flowing hair. I'm just a fan of long hair, at least shoulder length hair. Doesn't matter the color though, but obviously I like red heads and blondes. Brunettes are nice when a girl has pale skin or brownish skin like I do.

As for body type, I don't think I care for athletic looking girls, or girls who are too skinny. Girls with some meat or at least somewhat curvy appeal to me. If shes skinny, I guess I'd hope she is short, but wiith long legs. But I guess short and stout girls are somewhat perferable? I don't know. I'm attracted to all body types I guess, except girls who are BBW. But what really defines BBW I don't know. Either way I think I like shorter curvyier girls than anything.

If I had to use references it would have to be porntstar refrences because it's me. I guess I like (currently) Mandy Muse, Harley Jade, Riley Reynolds, Melissa Moore, Remy LaCroix, Ava Addams, Lexi Belle, Veronica Rodriguez, Angella White, Jamie Jackson, Lola Foxx, Alexis Breeze, Felcia Clover, Jessica Rabbit, Dani Daneils, Natasha Nice, Siri, Noelle Easton, Candice Dare, Keisha Grey,Jynx Maze, Aj Applegate, Ryan Smiles..

Maybe that tells you something.

As for ethnicity and race. I probably have a preference for white and latino women over anything, but it's whatever.

I mean I guess at the end of the day it's all whatever, but this is what I have in my mind at this moment.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on December 13, 2016, 06:28:59 PM

That also can be a problem. Not wanting a girl that's "too available." I know because I have/had that problem too. You will get called on it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: king of the internet on December 13, 2016, 10:06:41 PM

What you want from a person shouldn't be a fucking novel. But I know I'm responding to a future serial killer so my views on the simplicity of connecting with people would be lost on the likes of you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 13, 2016, 10:38:22 PM

I don't fucking understand any of this.

I try to tone down any angry rhetoric. Apparently that makes me a serial killer.

I try to describe what I'm interested in like a lot of people do. Apparently I'm on the spectrum.

I try to describe those interests with a dose of being open minded to other things(which is something I was criticized for before). That makes me indecisive and I guess a potential murder.

I've never wanted to hurt or kill anyone before in my life(well except maybe myself). I don't know why I'm being pinned as a potential killer. I got help, it did'nt do anything. It was a lot of "change your mindset bs". I've tried your people's advice. I've gone out there, tried dating apps, I guess tired "lowering my standards". None of it went anywhere, and apparently even mentioning that means I'm some kind of murder.

All your advice here is the most inane stuff.

Degrade yourself and get a hooker.
Lower Your standards and find someone who disgusts you.
Have confidence somehow.
Use women as practice women(and somehow I'm the mysgonist)
Don't have any prefrences.
Have prefrences, just not a lot?
Have prefrencs, but not be loose or else you're an Elliot Roger's person.
Your hobbies suck. Find New Hobbies.
You suck, change everything about you.
Somehow have confidence in yourself despite the fact that we said you're a boring person and you're hobbies suck.
Pay women for sex, because it's not low at all and bask in the fakness of their admiration.
Relationships are so simple! I guess you should just be able to make them easily!
Relationships are complex and you have to do all these things to make them!

Such great advice!

Either way, I would never kill anyone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: king of the internet on December 13, 2016, 10:43:43 PM

I'm not reading that shit :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 13, 2016, 10:51:20 PM

I'm not reading any of this shit.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 13, 2016, 11:23:28 PM

Man it probably would be easy for me to get a gun.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 13, 2016, 11:34:22 PM

I think an unspoken rule of finding your quote "ideal partner" is that there's no such thing as an "ideal partner".

Everyone settles for someone that meets most of their standards. Not all of their standards.

edit: Another thing, I think you've set the bar for success so high that's impossible for you to succeed, Rahx.

That's something that I've been doing as of late is setting my bar for success super low so I can build momentum for larger successes down the road.

You're trying to lift 4x your body weight when really you should only be lifting 35 pound weights.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 13, 2016, 11:41:27 PM

one of my standards is that he fucks me in the ass joyously

(http://i.imgur.com/lSiuGTs.gif)

sorry for overshare but i can't help it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 13, 2016, 11:45:48 PM

my standards for a man:

support and protection
is willing to work out and be gym buddies
interesting to talk to
will fuck me in the ass

thank god such a man is out there :rejoice :mouf

keep it simple and ye shall succeed!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on December 14, 2016, 12:23:32 AM

Rahx, you say stuff that seems really resentful some days. I want you to be happy and fulfilled, and I think it starts with addressing your own self-worth. Who cares what any of us here think?

I dunno, maybe meditate or get a physical activity like a martial art or something? Find some peace in yourself.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 14, 2016, 12:28:33 AM

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I think an unspoken rule of finding your quote "ideal partner" is that there's no such thing as an "ideal partner".

Everyone settles for someone that meets most of their standards. Not all of their standards.

I thought that was what I was saying, but apparently not.

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edit: Another thing, I think you've set the bar for success so high that's impossible for you to succeed, Rahx.

That's something that I've been doing as of late is setting my bar for success super low so I can build momentum for larger successes down the road.

You're trying to lift 4x your body weight when really you should only be lifting 35 pound weights.

I just want a decent woman who I connect with. Everyone else seems to be able to do it, with little effort. Little effort, most guys I know simply exist and women like them. They get to be just themselves. Why can't I? I'm not trying to find a super model or some pristine asian anime girl. Just someone decent. Is that a crime? Even you are able to get moderate attractive women on tinder. Tinder was the worst thing to even try, because it just proved my point. All women past me, just based on my picture. It's not even my supposed toxic personality. I don't even get a chance to be boring. Have confidence? Go out and be social? Ok then what? My friends get hit on, I get ignored. I dress and smell like a decent person, don't even get a chance. How can you even have confidence if it's clear your very being is unattractive unless you just take whatever you can get. I doubt you people here just take whatever you can get. I'm not an Elliot Rogers person. I would never harm anyone for my own problems or deficiency. Get the hell out of here with that shit. I blame myself before I blame anyone.

But how can you even talk to me. You have success and you've had it with women you actually find attractive by simply being on tinder. Of course, you're confidence is'nt broken. You find things you like. I've seen the pictures of girls you post, there's hardly anything bad about them. So don't feed me this bullshit about lifting. You easily went straight to what you wanted. I'm being told I should try being gay.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on December 14, 2016, 12:36:04 AM

Idk I'll say what I said to pallo before he doubled down. Just focus on yourself for a bit. Peace and equanimity and all that. Get some new hobbies, maybe something outdoors or exercise based? Focus on just making friends. Get into situations with ppl without expectations of getting something in return, learn to be okay with that. Love yourself.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 14, 2016, 12:40:06 AM

What are your hobbies RahX?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 14, 2016, 12:47:59 AM

I mean... I've only been able to date these cute girls once and afterwards they fall off the face of the earth. :doge

So it's not like I'm getting mad puss or anything. At least... not yet. :doge

edit: I'm probably not going to see that girl from Boone ever again, btw. I think I talked way too much about myself and didn't ask enough about her. I dunno. Just a guess.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 14, 2016, 11:13:53 AM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RPfx_jFZQuI

:doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 14, 2016, 11:19:50 AM

We've been giving dude a lot of advise. Some good some not as good, some maybe contradictory (at least to him). So whatever. Not all us are experts but we're trying to help by giving him advise that has worked (or not worked as much) for us.

The only advise I have is that Rahx needs to have some self awareness. I didn't start having any kind of success until I stopped assuming things and removed all expectations. I was like "wow, I'm just a dude. there's a lot of other dudes out there with the same problems as me. i'm not special in my idiosyncrasies." that perspective helped a lot.

Nobody expects you to take every piece of advise as gospel. listen to all of it and let it help you inform your own decisions. get some perspective.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 14, 2016, 11:31:14 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 13, 2016, 11:23:28 PM

Man it probably would be easy for me to get a gun.

Please just kill yourself, don't take other people out with you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on December 14, 2016, 11:38:27 AM

Stop it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Boogie on December 14, 2016, 11:44:38 AM

Rahx, maybe not include an extensive list of porn star names as a reference in a serious post about what you want in a woman.

K thx bye

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on December 14, 2016, 11:48:10 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 13, 2016, 05:19:18 PM

If I had to use references it would have to be porntstar refrences because it's me. I guess I like (currently) Mandy Muse, Harley Jade, Riley Reynolds, Melissa Moore, Remy LaCroix, Ava Addams, Lexi Belle, Veronica Rodriguez, Angella White, Jamie Jackson, Lola Foxx, Alexis Breeze, Felcia Clover, Jessica Rabbit, Dani Daneils, Natasha Nice, Siri, Noelle Easton, Candice Dare, Keisha Grey,Jynx Maze, Aj Applegate, Ryan Smiles..

Maybe that tells you something.

Yes it does.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Joe Molotov on December 14, 2016, 11:49:03 AM

I want a girl with a short skirt and a long jacket.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 14, 2016, 11:54:55 AM

Quote from: Boogie on December 14, 2016, 11:44:38 AM

Rahx, maybe not include an extensive list of porn star names as a reference in a serious post about what you want in a woman.

K thx bye

that's the kind of lack of self awareness i was talking about.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 14, 2016, 12:00:58 PM

all you're telling me rah, especially based off that porn star thing is that you don't see women as people but as perfect beings. you say what you're looking for and it's everything under the sun. you wonder why you're not a hit with women but post your favorite porn stars in the same post as your highly detailed requirements. it just feels like you have placed women on an unnecessary pedestal.

there is a relevant quote in ferris bueller's day off for this:

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Cameron's never been in love. At least no one's ever been in love with him. He's gonna marry the first girl he lays. And she's gonna treat him like shit because he's gonna kiss her ass for giving him what he's built-up in his mind as the end-all, be-all of human existance. She won't respect him because you can't respect someone who kisses your ass. It just doesn't work.

Sex is not the highest of human existence. I mean, it's up there and and amazing feeling, but it's not all there is to life, dating, or relationships.

Naming porn stars just sends me a red flag on how you perceive women to be and what your main goal in pursuing a woman is. It's normal for a man to want to have sex, but not at the expense of a woman's humanity. Women are just people. That special flower you described in that list of demands you jotted down will never come. Porn is fake. It is an illusion. All you're telling me is you don't interact with women in no real way.

Bebpo may be right. You need to be more social and pursue friendships more than looking for a relationship at this point, for your own good.

Again, what are your hobbies? You need to work on yourself before you put any time into anyone else.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on December 14, 2016, 12:03:08 PM

If I had to name the perfect woman based off of porn stars it would be Sunny Leone and Lacey Banghard. Someone like that. They seem sweet and like someone I could share a life with.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 14, 2016, 12:05:00 PM

i don't know who any of these porn stars are.

who is siri? rah jacks it to the iphone chick?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 14, 2016, 12:10:48 PM

It would probably do you some good to ween yourself off of porn, Rahx.

Like, if you fap only once ever other day try fapping at least once a week instead. :doge

And it has to be to legit amateur stuff. Poorly lit amateur stuff. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 14, 2016, 12:17:22 PM

I didn't bring it up specifically, but Himu is right on the money. In your mind when you list the long string of porn stars you're merely providing context to your physical preferences. And I get it. You probably have no idea that it looks pretty bad. But that's the lack of self awareness I mean. It does look bad. It throws up red flags about how you view women.

You may disagree with us, and we may not really know you that well. But it's a good idea to take some time and really trying to figure out why you decided to list a bunch of porn stars to describe your ideal girl may be in bad taste.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 14, 2016, 12:21:29 PM

And I don't want you to think we're looking down on you for anything. Dude this shit can be hard to figure out when you have no one to help. Not everyone just does it on their own. I didn't start to figure it out without the people here helping and friends at home as well. I had to realize that I wasn't getting anywhere on my own and actually started taking the advise of others seriously. I knew not all of it was relevant but I listened to it and helped it color my future choices.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 14, 2016, 12:29:50 PM

I understand you're a man and you're going to place an emphasis on looks but what about personality? What about hobbies? Why do looks take a precedence over everything else? Are we talking about gaining a partner or a fuck buddy? Sharing a human connection is the basis of relationships that goes beyond looks. This morning, my bf and I lifted weights together at the gym. What do you have that you are willing to share with someone to be a part of your life? What do you have to offer? It sucks to frame it like this, but relationships are a two way street. You listed a whole slew of things you want, without offering anything that you can offer in return. It is very...um, nerdy. I hope for your sake that you've got abs, chiseled muscles, a hot face, and a thick ass dick because there's no reason a woman should go for you with your list of requirements when you're not on par. Combined with the list of porn star names, it comes across as entitlement and objectification. This is why working on yourself is so important. What do you have to offer a woman? You can't ask for the world while having the value of a single buck. Any woman is going to wonder what you have to offer, and no offense but I'm not seeing much. Do you put nearly into yourself as you demand a woman puts into herself? If you don't, then you have a problem. I'm not saying to be a beautiful gym beast but work on some part of yourself to make yourself attractive and palpable to women.

I'm sorry but if i were single I would choose Pallando over you any day of the week.

Please don't take my tone as harsh criticism but it's a fact that people need to work on themselves.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 14, 2016, 01:40:48 PM

I thought I just listed things I liked, not required. But no I don't have anything to offer. Neither did most of the dudes I knew back in high school and early days of college. That wasn't a problem for them, but I gussed I missed out on that developmental stage.

So as I see it it's pretty lose lose situation. I have to basicly become a new person because as I am I'm worth nothing. So I guess that will take a few years. Which by then I'll be in my 30s and have had no experience or knowledge and probably be at an extreme loss. I'd have basicly wasted my peak years. This is great. I wonder why I had to have such a hard time with this while everyone I know seemed to just have these things naturally happen while not having to force new hobbies on themselves, workout, or be completely different people.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 14, 2016, 02:03:41 PM

Or you can keep putting yourself out there and use trial & error until something clicks.

All these text convos I've had and dates I've been on are nothing but little social experiments. Eventually you'll begin to discover what works best for you and what doesn't.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 14, 2016, 02:10:25 PM

What did you do other then try various online dating things? I've tried okCupid and Tinder and they don't really go anywhere for me. Do you think I wouldn't try dating if I was allowed to?

And I have a friend group that goes it, so it's not like I'm not social.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 14, 2016, 02:19:14 PM

The issue I'm trying address here is that you're not comfortable with failure.

You need to be comfortable with failure because your failures (and there will be many) will teach you how to succeed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 14, 2016, 02:33:55 PM

I've been failing for the last decade. It's nothing new and it's lessons are exteremley frustrating.

Treat women like shit. Don't treat women like shit. Ignore Women. Give a lot of attention to women. Give no attention. Give a little attention. Be mysterious. Be open. Care. Don't care. Be yourself. Don't be yourself. Don't like anything gay. Like whatever you want. Have some preferences, don't have any, and so on.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 14, 2016, 02:35:03 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 14, 2016, 02:33:55 PM

I've been failing for the last decade. It's nothing new and it's lessons are exteremley frustrating.

Treat women like shit. Don't treat women like shit. Ignore Women. Give a lot of attention to women. Give no attention. Give a little attention. Be mysterious. Be open. Care. Don't care. Be yourself. Don't be yourself. Don't like anything gay. Like whatever you want. Have some preferences, don't have any, and so on.

Just treat women like humans. :yeshrug Don't think too hard. All these "rules" are pointless and don't fit every glove. But I'm sure you can make it work with self reflection. Don't treat it as a game or something with established rules of what to do and what not to do. Just treat women like people. You have some friendships that work and some that don't work. Dating is like that. You said you have female friends, right? How do you treat them compared to how you treat a woman you like?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 14, 2016, 02:46:02 PM

"Treat women like humans"

What the fuck does that even mean? I don't know what image you have in your head, but I'm not some fedorea wearing dude who goes around treating women like sacred objects needing protection. I treat every woman like I treat every dude. If they are cool, I talk to them. If they don't jive with me I don't. It doesn't matter if I'm sexually attracted to them or not. If they seem cool and can tolarte the kind of person I am then I am cool with them. Thats it. I have female friends that I talk to and interact the same way I do my male friends. Them being women doesn't change that(which actually leads to some problems).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 14, 2016, 02:54:51 PM

it means what it sounds like. not every person is going to have a connection with you. a lot of date "rules" for men are done in a way where they have to use some pick up artist crap or rules about basic social engagement with another human being when it's mostly just going up to them, talking about their day or interests, and maybe asking for their number to see if they want to go to the rodeo with you that weekend or whatever. Too many men fall for tricks like "ignore them" or "act uninterested" or "don't reply to her text for two days, i'm fucking telling you" when all you have to do is treat a woman like a person and have a basic sense of self worth. You don't make these rules with your other friends, so why do it with women that interest you? It just complicates matters, gives you anxiety, makes you curious about your performance rather than concentrating the most important thing: the human connection.

speaking of rodeos, it's almost rodeo season :hyper

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: bork on December 14, 2016, 03:09:51 PM

Quote from: chronovore on December 14, 2016, 12:23:32 AM

Rahx, you say stuff that seems really resentful some days. I want you to be happy and fulfilled, and I think it starts with addressing your own self-worth. Who cares what any of us here think?

I dunno, maybe meditate or get a physical activity like a martial art or something? Find some peace in yourself.

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 14, 2016, 12:17:22 PM

I didn't bring it up specifically, but Himu is right on the money. In your mind when you list the long string of porn stars you're merely providing context to your physical preferences. And I get it. You probably have no idea that it looks pretty bad. But that's the lack of self awareness I mean. It does look bad. It throws up red flags about how you view women.

You may disagree with us, and we may not really know you that well. But it's a good idea to take some time and really trying to figure out why you decided to list a bunch of porn stars to describe your ideal girl may be in bad taste.

Good advice here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: etiolate on December 14, 2016, 03:55:51 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 13, 2016, 05:19:18 PM

Quote from: etiolate on December 12, 2016, 01:48:02 AM
Rahx do you know what you want in a girl
I guess I don't really know, since I've never had a girlfriend.

I'm not looking for a clingy, lovey doovy type girl. That would annoy me. A girl who can stand on her own, do her own thing, have her own life separate from mine. I don't think Im a controlling person, but I also like my alone time even from my own friends. I have a friend who basically gets into symbiotic relationships and I guess he likes them for his own issues. I rather just date a chill girl who is still herself during the whole thing.

I wouldn't mind a girl who is a bit more together then myself. Smarter and more organized. I'm smartish and for the most part able to handle myself, but I am easily unfocused and unorganized. Recently, I'm attracted to women who are more put together, at least professionally. But not unkept emotionally either, for all my ranting on here. I don't actually believe most of it and I don't really talk like this outside of the fourm and I like to think I'm a rather logical and rationale person. So whatever matches with that would be nice.

I'm also extremely liberal, but probably a bit more of an asshole and ignorant to more I guess SJW stuff. So a girl who bleeds feminism is'nt my cup of tea. I'm liberal, but not political.

I'm also not really into sports, so I doubt I'd interests a more sporty girl, but that doesn't mean I'm not interested in biking, swimming, or general outdoorsy stuff. I'm just not much of an athletic stuff and don't care about competitive sports. I do like to swim, go kayaking, biking, and being outside in general.

I do like to go out, to the movies, shows, bars, whatever. So a girl who likes to do those things would be cool. Someone who just likes to leave the house for random reasons is what I'm talking about. Sitting at home is cool and I like to do it, but it need not be the only thing you do.

Yes I like comic books, video games, and anime, but I'm not looking for a girl who is a nerd. At least, not defined by the nerdom to the point that they take it completely serious and it is their life. Honestly, most of my friends aren't nerds and only casually like what I like. Which is cool and preferable to me. Be open to the stuff. My mother only has a passing interests in what I like mostly because she really likes movies and is a movie buff. Open to some anime or comic books, but really only the stuff that a little casual person could find appealing. And thats what I'm looking for. Have a passing interest. Most of my friends are into rap music, I only have a passing interest and thats fine.

I guess I'd like a girl who is actually stylish with he clothes. Nice jackets and boots. I don't know, I like when women have nice jackets and boots. I guess I have more posh sense of clothing style that I like. I hate to see a girl in sweats or boy looking outfits. But I'm not into fashionistas either. Someone who wears simple but nice clothing is what I'm getting at. Someone who is mellow about their appearance i guess. Someone who looks like they drink at starbucks if that makes sense.

As far as looks I guess I have preferences, like anyone, but I dont think they are as rigid as some here think they are. I like girls with long hair, while plenty of girls with short hair are able to make it work. I still like long, soft, flowing hair. I'm just a fan of long hair, at least shoulder length hair. Doesn't matter the color though, but obviously I like red heads and blondes. Brunettes are nice when a girl has pale skin or brownish skin like I do.

As for body type, I don't think I care for athletic looking girls, or girls who are too skinny. Girls with some meat or at least somewhat curvy appeal to me. If shes skinny, I guess I'd hope she is short, but wiith long legs. But I guess short and stout girls are somewhat perferable? I don't know. I'm attracted to all body types I guess, except girls who are BBW. But what really defines BBW I don't know. Either way I think I like shorter curvyier girls than anything.

If I had to use references it would have to be porntstar refrences because it's me. I guess I like (currently) Mandy Muse, Harley Jade, Riley Reynolds, Melissa Moore, Remy LaCroix, Ava Addams, Lexi Belle, Veronica Rodriguez, Angella White, Jamie Jackson, Lola Foxx, Alexis Breeze, Felcia Clover, Jessica Rabbit, Dani Daneils, Natasha Nice, Siri, Noelle Easton, Candice Dare, Keisha Grey,Jynx Maze, Aj Applegate, Ryan Smiles..

Maybe that tells you something.

As for ethnicity and race. I probably have a preference for white and latino women over anything, but it's whatever.

I mean I guess at the end of the day it's all whatever, but this is what I have in my mind at this moment.

I'm going to assume that this was a long response just because you're responding to me like a questionnaire that you're trying to fully fill out.

I can understand wanting to avoid the modern internet feminist type. They really aren't compatible with a healthy relationship. However, you sound like you want a self-assured independent woman and those exist. They just take time to find because it's a matter of maturity on both sides part.

You can either have a lot of casual dating with women you don't see anything more with or you can know what you want and have to wait a long time to find it. I would suggest looking in places you may not be looking. Perhaps girls you hadn't thought about. Something outside the pornstar body, because I doubt you're really that picky about physical features.

My final advice is not to seek advice from this forum. I wouldn't ever do so and for many damned good reasons. You have to figure things out on your own. Vent here if you must, not care about the response, and keep trying.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 14, 2016, 04:14:48 PM

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I can understand wanting to avoid the modern internet feminist type. They really aren't compatible with a healthy relationship.

Oh my god :dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on December 14, 2016, 07:15:56 PM

Man, Pallando looking more and more well adjusted by the page.

Rahx, get to a fucking shrink dude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 14, 2016, 07:49:06 PM

I also have Shark Johnson to thank for coaching me as I weave in and out of all these various social interactions. :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 14, 2016, 08:09:05 PM

Chatting with a chubby Latina with big tiddies right now. She just got Pokémon Moon as well. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on December 14, 2016, 08:20:08 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 14, 2016, 01:40:48 PM

I thought I just listed things I liked, not required. But no I don't have anything to offer. Neither did most of the dudes I knew back in high school and early days of college. That wasn't a problem for them, but I gussed I missed out on that developmental stage.

So as I see it it's pretty lose lose situation. I have to basicly become a new person because as I am I'm worth nothing. So I guess that will take a few years. Which by then I'll be in my 30s and have had no experience or knowledge and probably be at an extreme loss. I'd have basicly wasted my peak years. This is great. I wonder why I had to have such a hard time with this while everyone I know seemed to just have these things naturally happen while not having to force new hobbies on themselves, workout, or be completely different people.

No-one is saying you're worth nothing. At least, not seriously. It's frustrating to see you so down on yourself, and there is the indignation that comes with seeing someone with low self-worth also make entitled assumptions about what they deserve.

You're not worthless, you're not a bad person. You probably aren't looking at yourself enough, or you're looking through cracked lenses at yourself and seeing something distorted. You have value, and you seem to not recognize it.

As for those "other guys" that also didn't have anything to offer, I think we all saw that in high school and college, where some other guy seemed to have nothing more to offer than what we did, but actually was having luck getting dates. The thing is, at the very least they did not stop themselves before starting. They put themselves out there and took chances.

I worry you're in a vicious cycle that is just going to leave you in a deeper hole than you need to be. Exercise. Get out and start a chat with someone. Don't chat up the cute register clerk or barista, because they are required to be pleasant. Anyone not-working, just tell them you like their shoes or their belt or whatever, and ask them about it. People love to talk. Let them carry the bulk of the conversation, and you'll get used to actually interacting with people. And by people, I mean women, because that's all women are.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 14, 2016, 08:44:18 PM

This thread is depressing

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on December 14, 2016, 10:19:35 PM

So I just got back from my date. Dirty blonde hair, big brown eyes, got some curves, definitely my type. She seemed to be enjoying herself (kept twirling her hair, lol), we talked a lot about all sorts of things - art history, our respective trips to Paris back in HS, home ownership (she recently bought a house as well), our jobs, movies, etc. She seemed to really enjoy the Korean food and then I venue switched to the Starbucks up the block. She is big into politics (she teaches government as well as word history) and thankfully is liberal, though we didn't discuss much about politics aside from how we are both pretty reviled at Trump and his cabinet picks. I told her I had a great time and we should do this again, we hugged and I kissed her on the cheek. Then right as I'm walking into the door of my house, I get a text from her saying she was so glad to meet me and is looking forward to seeing me again!

Me right now:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGTIeL_02g8

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: WanderingWind on December 14, 2016, 10:23:03 PM

Ya if X-rated stories were allowed at the Academy, Atra's 2016 would be Oscar-bait feel good movie stuff. Casey Affleck would play him, prolly

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 15, 2016, 12:22:01 AM

Probably. But for what exactly? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Raist on December 15, 2016, 02:11:15 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 14, 2016, 02:19:14 PM

The issue I'm trying address here is that you're not comfortable with failure.

You need to be comfortable with failure because your failures (and there will be many) will teach you how to succeed.

Who the fuck are you and where did you hide Pallando's body.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Syph on December 15, 2016, 05:09:19 AM

Quote from: Jack Remington on December 15, 2016, 04:19:43 AM

Lost a long term relationship last week. Guess I'm going to have to get into some new activities, maybe deactivate my OKC profile. Tinder didn't even exist when me and this last girl got together, so maybe I'll give it a shot.

Sorry to hear. My immediate advice is hit the gym if you don't already. Forces you to focus on something else (the weights) with the added bonus of, you know, a workout

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 15, 2016, 05:29:11 AM

Dare I read the last few pages

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 15, 2016, 06:07:04 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on December 15, 2016, 05:29:11 AM

Dare I read the last few pages

There's a solid list of pornstars a few pages back.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 15, 2016, 06:25:33 AM

turns out I do hate myself and did read the last few pages.

paying for blowies from a girl you despise is a new depth I've yet to encounter. props.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on December 15, 2016, 09:17:31 AM

Yeah, remember the time when Pallo was the lowest depth here? We raise him up and someone new comes to take his place. The king is dead. Long live the king!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 15, 2016, 10:17:20 AM

Quote from: Esch on December 15, 2016, 12:15:37 AM

Atra, don't you think you deserve to be punched at least once? Ffs

Can we not post spoilers for the Relationship thread's 2017 season please? I figured a BDSM arc was possible but did not want confirmation.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on December 15, 2016, 10:46:13 AM

I like altars progress

But small tip

Driving 3+ hours to meet someone for the first time at 1 am after a work shift comes off a teensy bit desperate

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 15, 2016, 10:53:15 AM

Indeed. Also, that girl has ghosted on me anyways.

I've got chubby Latina girl and spooky, homeschooled girl now. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 15, 2016, 10:55:06 AM

Yea next time someone drags you on like that for a late hour meet, don't do it. Meet on your terms.

that's some Chris Hansen shit. Driving 3 hours and then well :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 15, 2016, 11:00:24 AM

I know. It's just that she kept putting things off and was kind of bad at saying no. So I just bolted at the first opportunity that presented itself. :doge

And I made it seem like I was just chilling out in Asheville on my own accord. So I wasn't too far from her that night.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 15, 2016, 11:07:13 AM

What's the plan for Homeschool Girl? Is she evading meeting up, or just busy?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 15, 2016, 11:25:11 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 15, 2016, 11:07:13 AM

What's the plan for Homeschool Girl? Is she evading meeting up, or just busy?

She's going to see Rogue One with a group of people Friday. I asked her to ask them if they would be cool with me tagging along but apparently she hasn't heard anything from them yet.

And if that falls through (I'm guessing it will) then we're aiming for dinner Saturday since she gets off work around 5:00 or 5:30 that day.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: studyguy on December 15, 2016, 11:26:58 AM

At some point next year I'll prob be tying the knot.
It's all downhill from here fam.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 15, 2016, 12:08:54 PM

Why would you want to go see a movie with her friends? You'll be the weird 4th or 5th wheel, and her friends will no doubt talk about you afterwards. Yea perhaps they'll think you're cool but I'd rather not have a bunch of a chick's friends around judging me. Are they female friends? Even worse.

You should have just been like "oh, I'm going to see it too on [insert day]."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 15, 2016, 12:12:05 PM

Going to a movie with a someone you're trying to hook up with and all of her friends sounds like a fucking awful idea.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 15, 2016, 02:54:06 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 15, 2016, 12:08:54 PM

Why would you want to go see a movie with her friends? You'll be the weird 4th or 5th wheel, and her friends will no doubt talk about you afterwards. Yea perhaps they'll think you're cool but I'd rather not have a bunch of a chick's friends around judging me. Are they female friends? Even worse.

You should have just been like "oh, I'm going to see it too on [insert day]."

Shit. You're right.

I was thinking if she was with a group of people she knew she would feel safer (chick has social anxiety issues. :doge)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on December 15, 2016, 03:13:54 PM

Not only would that not benefit you, it is considered rude in most circles to invite yourself to other people's social events. If you knew her well it'd be a different story, but it's going to come off weird to most people on Tinder. You're gonna make it, though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 15, 2016, 03:27:53 PM

I called it off. *phew*

Shark can testify that this girl has been the most difficult to get with because she shot down every opportunity for us to meet up until now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 15, 2016, 04:35:55 PM

In other news, chubby Latina seems down to meet up on Friday but she doesn't have a car either. :doge

That's now 4 girls in a row with no cars...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on December 15, 2016, 06:37:52 PM

Yeah, if you're in or near a larger city, try Meetup.com or any other social site where people meet in person over common things.

If I were in the Bay Area, I'd be attending Doctor Sketchy's SF weekly drawing sessions, or sitting in at game stores to play a card game or RPG. Here in Osaka, I'm mainly happy if I get a chance to speak native-level English when I'm trying to relieve stress or homesickness. I finally made connection with an RPG group in downtown Osaka, so I hope to meet up with them in January.

Anyway, yeah: contact your old friends, apologize for being out of touch, and start again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on December 15, 2016, 06:53:42 PM

Back to the anxiety thing. My wife has anxiety and it got especially bad at the beginning of this year. We got her help and she's doing better but I'll be honest it was hard. I didn't have a problem going through it all because she's my soulmate and I'm in love with her over all these years, but it was still difficult. But it wasn't anywhere close to what you're experiencing. I don't believe in the mantra "just break up" when they run into the slightest problem, honestly this might be a big huge problem, one that you might not want to put up with for someone that you sorta like or don't have a life long committment to. Take it from me, I had an ex that, while not anxious, couldn't do much without me and I had to do everything. I put up with it at the time, but the resent will grow and make small problems into big. You need you choose what you want and make sure you're good with that choice and wont regret it. Like I said, my wife has anxiety and I decided to help her through it and I don't regret a thing because of who and what she is to me. If I had to make that choice for someone else, I highly doubt I'd choose as I did.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on December 15, 2016, 09:36:58 PM

Quote from: Jack Remington on December 15, 2016, 04:42:56 PM

It's like 8 days now since the breakup, and I'm... fine? It's weird. The first couple days were rough, and I drank myself completely stupid on Friday and Saturday. But since Monday or so I've felt pretty good. I had a couple breakups in the past that basically broke me in half, and those relationships were much shorter than this one (I was with my last gf the better part of 3 years).

What's really bumming me out is the instant loss of a lot of my social circle. The majority of my own personal friends moved to different cities over the last few years, or I just fell out of touch with people, and since I was with her, and she had a lot of friends, I just kind of took her social circles as my own. Now it's at the point where there are like 3 people in this whole city who I'd feel comfortable seeing if they wanted to catch Rogue One this weekend.

I guess the first step is going to be trying to reconnect with as many of those lapsed friends as I can. I don't know that there's really any obstacle to that but effort, but there's a big gap between catch-up drinks with an old friend and getting to the point where that person is really part of your circle. Could be a challenge.

I might also try meetup or one of those other social sites.

Hmm, it seems you are in a similar situation to where I was this summer, when I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years. I wasn't nearly as torn up over her as I was the girl before (who I dated for close to 2 years). Sometimes, it's not the length of the relationship, it's the circumstances of your breakup.

But also, when I broke up with my ex, it coincided with a good friend of mine having trouble at home and sinking into depression, another friend who was a former coworker and my link to a large social circle having a baby and not going out anymore, and my core group of friends (that I've had since HS) having their own internal issues when one friend got married to a woman some other of my friends didn't approve of. But thankfully, I have found some people who are still around (plus I'm good at being by myself), one of the people I hang out with the most lately I met via Meetup a few years ago. It's pretty tricky when you're in your mid 30's like me (not sure about your age) but it's also highly possible. Reconnecting with lapsed friends is a good thing to start with, though you'll have to accept these people may not at first (or never) be 'regulars'.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 15, 2016, 10:10:43 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 15, 2016, 04:35:55 PM

In other news, chubby Latina seems down to meet up on Friday but she doesn't have a car either. :doge

That's now 4 girls in a row with no cars...

Looks like I'm set for Friday. This girl is thirsty, brehs. :whew :phil

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If I play my cards right I might get THE SUCC. :doge

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on December 16, 2016, 02:48:22 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 15, 2016, 10:10:43 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 15, 2016, 04:35:55 PM
In other news, chubby Latina seems down to meet up on Friday but she doesn't have a car either. :doge

That's now 4 girls in a row with no cars...
Looks like I'm set for Friday. This girl is thirsty, brehs. :whew :phil

spoiler (click to show/hide)
If I play my cards right I might get THE SUCC. :doge
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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: demi on December 16, 2016, 01:21:34 PM

If you dont get the chubby girl to suck you off I'm pretty much hitting the delete button.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on December 17, 2016, 10:51:01 AM

Second date lined up for next Wednesday 8)

Gonna take her to dinner and do some bowling...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 17, 2016, 02:24:17 PM

Date with the chubby latina went super well. She basically told me she was DTF when I was driving back to her mom's house (actually she said that when we were in her driveway) and assumed I was going to take her back to my place after the first date.. :doge

but I was tired from waking up early that day, was kinda out of it & feeling skittish, and had a bunch of other shit Saturday that had to do with my family.

So we just made out in my car and kissed each other goodbye.

We're still in contact and she is definitely down for a second date. And shark can testify that she really wants the D. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on December 17, 2016, 02:30:36 PM

You blew it smh

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 17, 2016, 04:23:31 PM

RIP your account

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Raist on December 17, 2016, 04:31:27 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 17, 2016, 02:24:17 PM

Date with the chubby latina went super well. She basically told me she was DTF when I was driving back to her mom's house (actually she said that when we were in her driveway) and assumed I was going to take her back to my place after the first date.. :doge

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Quote

but I was tired from waking up early that day, was kinda out of it & feeling skittish, and had a bunch of other shit Saturday that had to do with my family.

So we just made out in my car and kissed each other goodbye.

We're still in contact and she is definitely down for a second date. And shark can testify that she really wants the D. :doge

(https://abload.de/img/gaijin4koma_peersblogojjdm.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 17, 2016, 05:04:12 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/yu6AYmS.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: eleuin on December 17, 2016, 05:29:48 PM

Leper pallando

Jesus christ

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 17, 2016, 05:35:09 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 17, 2016, 02:24:17 PM

Date with the chubby latina went super well. She basically told me she was DTF when I was driving back to her mom's house (actually she said that when we were in her driveway) and assumed I was going to take her back to my place after the first date.. :doge

but I was tired from waking up early that day, was kinda out of it & feeling skittish, and had a bunch of other shit Saturday that had to do with my family.

So we just made out in my car and kissed each other goodbye.

We're still in contact and she is definitely down for a second date. And shark can testify that she really wants the D. :doge

lol what the fuck is this. you get maybe one mulligan for pussying out on a fuck before she's bucketing you in the PASS category. don't fuck that up again.

'tired from waking up early that day', 'bunch of shit to do the next day' :heh son i'll eat my wife out while kids are screaming in the next room and i have to leave for work in 10 minutes. you never pass up a nut :ufup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 17, 2016, 05:39:27 PM

i do like that i have a respite from this by way of tiesto going out and being a proper single manslut. :salute

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 17, 2016, 06:06:24 PM

Pallando letting that pussy marinate until the last possible minute. I can dig it.

(http://i.imgur.com/9JHsNSe.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 17, 2016, 06:22:04 PM

You leave juice sitting too long in the fridge it turns to vinegar :donot

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on December 17, 2016, 06:47:15 PM

(http://replygif.net/i/1426.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on December 17, 2016, 06:51:56 PM

Demi is going to delete your account for real

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on December 17, 2016, 07:13:38 PM

This is the point you call her up and chat and then see where the night takes you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Raist on December 17, 2016, 07:19:54 PM

Pallando
"Born on a mountain. Raised in a cave. Truckin & makin out for a bit because I had a long day is all I crave." –Matt. 5:27-28
Senile Member

Mods plz

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on December 17, 2016, 11:16:24 PM

This is completely unacceptable.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: ToxicAdam on December 18, 2016, 12:18:50 AM

You guys are high if you think a virgin is going to have first date sex. Give the dude some time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 18, 2016, 01:32:23 AM

Quote from: ToxicAdam on December 18, 2016, 12:18:50 AM

You guys are high if you think a virgin is going to have first date sex. Give the dude some time.

Good point, maybe he should get high

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: zomgee on December 18, 2016, 01:32:32 PM

Why do I get the feeling you're going to be drowning in (marinated) pussy when you hit up America?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 18, 2016, 01:51:40 PM

to reiterate: this girl was shy I didn't know she was DTF until we were back at her mom's place. (about a 30 minute drive from my place).

My limited experience so far has conditioned me to think that most girls aren't DTF after the first date. :doge

Also, I had a rather large amount of control that I was not comfortable with. She was essentially a (willing) captive in my car. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 18, 2016, 02:02:01 PM

Nah. I was feeling pretty confident for the most part.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on December 18, 2016, 02:06:59 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 18, 2016, 01:51:40 PM

to reiterate: this girl was shy I didn't know she was DTF until we were back at her mom's place. (about a 30 minute drive from my place).

My limited experience so far has conditioned me to think that most girls aren't DTF after the first date. :doge

Also, I had a rather large amount of control that I was not comfortable with. She was essentially a (willing) captive in my car. :doge

Well, if it was a 30 minute drive. :gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 18, 2016, 02:07:23 PM

Confidence is not a constant state of being, Dufus.

It fluctuates. :bolo

I started out strong, did really well in the middle, and became soft at the tail end. ( :doge )

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 18, 2016, 02:23:25 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 18, 2016, 01:51:40 PM

Also, I had a rather large amount of control that I was not comfortable with. She was essentially a (willing) captive in my car. :doge

lol what

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 18, 2016, 02:26:26 PM

I don't want to come off as rapey. That's all.

Like Dennis from it's always sunny and that boat discussion he had with Mac.
https://youtu.be/a8Gjw50rSAs

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Joe Molotov on December 18, 2016, 02:44:29 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 18, 2016, 02:26:26 PM

I don't want to come off as rapey. That's all.

Pallando's complete OKC profile.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 18, 2016, 02:50:42 PM

Just got a text back from her saying I could snapchat her whenever. So... now I just need to learn how to sext. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on December 18, 2016, 02:56:39 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 18, 2016, 02:50:42 PM

Just got a text back from her saying I could snapchat her whenever. So... now I just need to learn how to sext. :doge

NONONONONONOONONONONONONOONO

she's not going to see your half-chub and start squirting hormones or whatever they say in those animes. Just use words to tell her if you wanna do something physical.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 18, 2016, 02:59:30 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 18, 2016, 02:50:42 PM

Just got a text back from her saying I could snapchat her whenever. So... now I just need to learn how to sext. :doge

No you don't. Not until you have real sex

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 18, 2016, 03:00:50 PM

send her a picture of your butt

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 18, 2016, 03:00:51 PM

Last night I was walking around in long johns and my cat jumped at me playfully and scratched an one inch cut into the head of my cock and I still fucked my wife 20 minutes later -- get in there dude

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 18, 2016, 03:03:02 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 18, 2016, 03:00:50 PM

send her a picture of your butt

Clothed or...?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 18, 2016, 03:05:09 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 18, 2016, 03:03:02 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 18, 2016, 03:00:50 PM
send her a picture of your butt
Clothed or...?

Neither

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 18, 2016, 03:05:18 PM

Quote from: brawndolicious on December 18, 2016, 02:56:39 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 18, 2016, 02:50:42 PM
Just got a text back from her saying I could snapchat her whenever. So... now I just need to learn how to sext. :doge

NONONONONONOONONONONONONOONO

she's not going to see your half-chub and start squirting hormones or whatever they say in those animes. Just use words to tell her if you wanna do something physical.

I'm basically going into totally new territory so ... I need A LOT of help here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Tasty on December 18, 2016, 03:11:21 PM

Wait for her to make the first move in Snapchat.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 18, 2016, 03:12:10 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 18, 2016, 03:03:02 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 18, 2016, 03:00:50 PM
send her a picture of your butt
Clothed or...?

I generally just lay on my back and try to get my legs as far up as possible. Use a selfie stick cause if you don't you have to reach down and it will make your stomach look fat.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 18, 2016, 04:57:25 PM

fuck snap. I'm assuming you can't smash her at her parents house. Invite her to your place today to "watch Netflix or something." Have some snacks, pop...liquor. Cuddle up on her and just chill. Use the snacks as nut bait: she'll inevitably say something like "I shouldn't be eating this, I'm already fat..." Then you say "well you look good to me..." If you can't get her naked after that then cut your dick off.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 18, 2016, 05:02:47 PM

PD how much Pokemon snap did you play as a kid?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 18, 2016, 05:03:18 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on December 14, 2016, 08:44:18 PM

This thread is depressing

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 18, 2016, 05:05:23 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 18, 2016, 04:57:25 PM

fuck snap. I'm assuming you can't smash her at her parents house. Invite her to your place today to "watch Netflix or something." Have some snacks, pop...liquor. Cuddle up on her and just chill. Use the snacks as nut bait: she'll inevitably say something like "I shouldn't be eating this, I'm already fat..." Then you say "well you look good to me..." If you can't get her naked after that then cut your dick off.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 18, 2016, 06:07:05 PM

She has Monday, Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday off this week.

I absolutely can not miss Mondays at work. I'm going to see if I can do a bullshit "work from home" thing for Thursday. But then I have to drive her back to her place later...

Fridays and the weekend are basically my only days that I can fuck on. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 18, 2016, 06:08:09 PM

If you fuck on thurs, let her stay the night and take her in the morning

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 18, 2016, 06:10:43 PM

We'd have to wake up fairly early though.

If we fucked Thursday night I have would have leave my house around 6. And then we would arrive at her place around 6:30 or so. Then I would have to fight traffic back to Greenville and pray I get to my office at 9.

This would be SOOOO much simpler if she had a car. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on December 18, 2016, 06:17:12 PM

Fuck her than call an uber for her to get back home

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 18, 2016, 07:24:53 PM

Regardless...fuck her on Thursday or Friday. You really don't have an excuse at this point dude. She's DTF, she's completely free on Friday, you're relatively free on Friday...

Hell, what are you doing on Saturday? Bring her on Friday and she can stay the night.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 18, 2016, 07:40:04 PM

I'll do Friday.

Too much could go wrong on those other days.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 18, 2016, 07:42:13 PM

You got this shit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 18, 2016, 08:12:40 PM

Bout to be your best Christmas gift so far

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 18, 2016, 08:51:28 PM

http://sluttygirlproblems.com/guide/the-cat-coital-alignment-technique/#.WFc84rnwDMA
:drudge

spoiler (click to show/hide)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XkU23m6yX04

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 18, 2016, 09:08:16 PM

Is there video of this technique somewhere?

I'm a visual learner. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 18, 2016, 09:14:24 PM

Save up your stock this week so when you guys finally do it you can spray paint her tits white.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 18, 2016, 09:14:33 PM

just rock up and down, shits easy and works. can get my wife to leave me alone in a couple of minutes :doge

as the link states... you're really not going in an out at all when you do this. once you get aggressive about it it kinda feels like your dick is kinda bending in half cuz she'll be gyrating toward climax and the base of your dick is taking care of the clit in an rubbing up and down fashion at the same time, cuz contrary to the guide you can be balls deep but it will hurt a bit. but maybe pain is good.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 18, 2016, 09:19:09 PM

Shit. I need buy some extra pillows for Friday. :doge

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 18, 2016, 09:14:24 PM

Save up your stock this week so when you guys finally do it you can spray paint her tits white.

But my nice bed sheets tho. :noah

edit: better buy some extra bed sheets as well. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 18, 2016, 09:23:23 PM

Go down on her. Do it you fucking pussy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 18, 2016, 09:29:06 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 18, 2016, 09:08:16 PM

Is there video of this technique somewhere?

I'm a visual learner. :doge

All you need to do is kiss her. Work down. Kiss her neck a bit and tease it but don't give her a hickie, then suck and lick them nipples (don't bite because it hurts), keep kissing all the down to her pussy and suck her clit. Unfold it so that the really sensitive part is exposed and go to town. When she's ready, stick it in and let it rip.

As a virgin, you probably won't last long so savor it and don't put p in v on a pedastal. Eat her out and prolong it so that the experience is fun and not short af. Actively going for foreplay will keep you in the running and make her probably want to see you again ASAP because too many dudes think with their dicks and as a virgin you naturally won't be good at sex. Foreplay will give you an advantage.

Dudes who enjoy foreplay are the hottest. A man who wants to make you moan by licking your nipples before sticking it in is a five star mother fucker. Never under estimate boob play. I can get orgasm just by having my breasts sucked. Try to hold off and build up the sexual tension as much as you can. Build up is the key to messy, awesome sex. Don't go from 0 to 100 unless she deliberately says she wants to get fucked then and there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 18, 2016, 09:36:35 PM

Honestly there's a chance that you won't even cum at all if you bang. Don't worry about it. Does the chick know you're a v?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 18, 2016, 09:39:35 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 18, 2016, 09:36:35 PM

Honestly there's a chance that you won't even cum at all if you bang. Don't worry about it. Does the chick know you're a v?

Nope.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 18, 2016, 09:40:22 PM

You should tell her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 18, 2016, 09:41:31 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 18, 2016, 09:40:22 PM

You should tell her.

Because? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 18, 2016, 09:47:26 PM

Being honest is a pretty cool thing. Also if you have trouble performing you have a reason. She won't think you're not into her. Don't girls may be into the idea of teaching you things.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 18, 2016, 09:47:29 PM

If you cum too quick she'll have questions. You will be hiding it. If you say you've had sex before and you cum in ten seconds after sticking it in she'll be like :what and you'll be suspect.

But if you tell her you're a virgin, she might want to make it extra special for you and help guide you.

Hiding that you're a virgin is not a valuable asset in the least. It's not even that important besides among high schoolers and college kids. What if you end up really liking her and you two try it hit it off and start dating? You will have went into the relationship with a lie off the bat.

There's also the benefit that admitting your virginity will be a sign of courage to her. She will respect you more - if she has a good head on her shoulders - if you admit your virginity than if you lie. If she gives you shit for being a virgin then she's not much worth anyways and isn't worth pursuing. Win-win.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 18, 2016, 09:51:53 PM

Just be honest you fucking pussy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 18, 2016, 09:53:33 PM

I have been practicing with my flesh light tho. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 18, 2016, 09:58:23 PM

Being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of. Just tell her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Tasty on December 18, 2016, 09:59:48 PM

Something to be more wary of (IMO) is not being able to finish. I was nervous my first few times and I just couldn't do it due to feeling uncomfortable and nervous.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 18, 2016, 10:04:50 PM

Fuuuuck...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 18, 2016, 10:20:23 PM

What are some tale-tell signs someone is a virgin when they're fucking? I'll just do the exact opposite. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 18, 2016, 10:25:04 PM

I told the girl I first slept with on our seond date when she was over my place. I don't remember the exact context though. But I knew it was gonna be a bit awkward so I just used that.

First times are awkward. You're not going to be able to prevent that. And if she isn't a v herself she'll know. Don't try to hide shit. Own it and make it work for you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 18, 2016, 10:29:34 PM

Fine. I'll tell her.

I hope this doesn't fucking backfire on me and I have to wait until next year to get my dick wet. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 18, 2016, 10:38:54 PM

If she turns you down cuz you're a virgin she's not shit anyway and you dodged a bullet. Being in a rush to lose your virginity won't help matters. Where'd you meet her tindr?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 18, 2016, 10:40:17 PM

Yep. Tinder.

She has already said that she really likes being around me and that I'm super nice. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 18, 2016, 10:43:28 PM

That's good.

Don't hold your v card too tight to your chest. If you just wanted to get laid you could have just ordered yourself an escort. I thought you were in this to date? If a woman turns you down because of your virginity she's not shit. Repeat after me. Your loss of virginity is not worth more than your self respect.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 18, 2016, 10:48:07 PM

Given your porn habits you might end up lasting. Not everyone busts early during their first time. Your hand is tighter than her vajeen. Make sure you worship her body before sticking it in though. You might feel uncomfortable. I won't give you a list but just don't go for the boobs or pussy first. Surprise her, maybe kiss her neck first or something. Then move down to the boobs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 19, 2016, 02:47:04 AM

That's a pretty simplistic approach no? I thought his goal was to date? Who said anything about get married? Plus, if he admits he's a virgin, she'll be far more understanding and be more willing to have sex on more occasions if it goes right. If he doesn't say he's a virgin and he has trouble performing, she might throw him into the bushes. This means less sex. Again, if he just wanted to get laid he could have just hired an escort.

What IS your goal, Pallando? To date or to get laid or both?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 19, 2016, 04:46:08 AM

I wouldn't worry too much about letting her know you're a virgin, that can be a lot of pressure to put on someone who was just looking to hook up with a tinder date.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on December 19, 2016, 05:45:07 AM

^Let the man get his dick wet and stop being a crab in a bucket, ho

I'm with Wrath on this one. The whole point of this mission has been "get Pallando laid," not "get Pallando a girlfriend." If she's putting out signals that she's DTF I doubt she's expecting a relationship, so it's not like she's being misled. If you want to mention it, cool, if not, don't sweat it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 19, 2016, 08:53:08 AM

Quote from: Dufus on December 19, 2016, 05:37:39 AM

I still think it's kinda weird for panaldo to get a girlfriend without having friends. It'll be too weird and probably not a good idea. It's the reason I don't search for a girl. I want friends before I have a girlfriend, even tho I'm thirsty as fuck.

I have friends now. :larry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 19, 2016, 09:47:08 AM

*shrug*

Well, that girl I'm going to bone Friday even said that she would like to be my friend even if this whole thing doesn't work out. Her words, not mine. :doge

She likes that I'm very easygoing and non-judgemental (on the surface at least :doge).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rufus on December 19, 2016, 09:58:41 AM

Could be with benefits. Hope dies last.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 19, 2016, 10:00:29 AM

Quote from: Dufus on December 19, 2016, 09:57:27 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 19, 2016, 09:47:08 AM
she would like to be my friend even if this whole thing doesn't work out. Her words, not mine. :doge

(http://i.imgur.com/mBwRHC7.gif)

:ohyou :dice :playa

So... it looks like I'm going to be the undisputed winner of the Virgin Wars this year. :snob

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 19, 2016, 10:00:55 AM

So are you in this to get sex experience or dating experience or both?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on December 19, 2016, 10:01:23 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 19, 2016, 09:47:08 AM

*shrug*

Well, that girl I'm going to bone Friday even said that she would like to be my friend even if this whole thing doesn't work out. Her words, not mine. :doge

She likes that I'm very easygoing and non-judgemental (on the surface at least :doge).

It's a good thing other people can't see how we treat ourselves.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 19, 2016, 10:05:41 AM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 19, 2016, 10:00:55 AM

So are you in this to get sex experience or dating experience or both?

I'd like to keep things open because I do legitimately like this girl. So, sex primarily but having both would be nice.

edit: also, after some more pondering, I've decided I'm not going to tell this girl I'm a virgin unless she blatantly asks me about it. Telling her right before we have sex would throw off my mojo big time. If she mentions anything about me being a bit awkward I'll just say "it's been a while".

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on December 19, 2016, 10:21:30 AM

There's a difference between withholding the truth and flat out lying. "It's been a while" is the second one. I'm not saying tell her because it's Tinder—they don't even know your last name. But don't be a liar (to anyone, right?)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 19, 2016, 10:21:56 AM

I absolutely would not listen to a thing Ruzbeh says. There is a reason why he gets ridiculed and burned off of every board he posts in. He thinks he's found someone as low as him on the social totem pole and is jealous and mad that someone is making strides in their social life. Sad!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: demi on December 19, 2016, 10:22:58 AM

Pretend she's the next door neighbor and she needs her PC fixed. Then go from there

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 19, 2016, 10:25:41 AM

No don't call Geek Squad for her, Pall. He means bang her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 19, 2016, 10:47:47 AM

MTW is not trolling, though. He just straight up ethered you. :ufup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: demi on December 19, 2016, 10:53:31 AM

We did the same naming and shaming with fistful and he came back like "yo sex is pretty awesome" and now look at him.

Wasting his life away with his significant other having adorable co-op lets plays of Gears of War

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: demi on December 19, 2016, 10:55:07 AM

Can you imagine playing Gears of War with your chubby latina ~~girlfriend~~ fuck buddy? :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 19, 2016, 11:12:53 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 19, 2016, 10:05:41 AM

edit: also, after some more pondering, I've decided I'm not going to tell this girl I'm a virgin unless she blatantly asks me about it. Telling her right before we have sex would throw off my mojo big time. If she mentions anything about me being a bit awkward I'll just say "it's been a while".

Dude, come on now. Don't lie about it. If it doesn't come up then fine, keep it to yourself. But if it outright comes up, be honest about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Joe Molotov on December 19, 2016, 11:22:11 AM

Whatever you do, don't tell her you're a virgin and fuck this up. Also, don't not tell her that you're a virgin and fuck this up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: demi on December 19, 2016, 11:23:17 AM

I'd totally tell her. Letting a chubby latina have her way with you and teach you things :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 19, 2016, 11:27:55 AM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on December 19, 2016, 10:21:30 AM

There's a difference between withholding the truth and flat out lying. "It's been a while" is the second one. I'm not saying tell her because it's Tinder—they don't even know your last name. But don't be a liar (to anyone, right?)

Technically wouldn't "it's been awhile since I was inside some pussy" be an accurate statement for Pallando?
(http://i.imgur.com/T0XCJT3.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 19, 2016, 12:24:45 PM

When the time comes... I'll say what needs to be said. I'll leave it at that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 19, 2016, 12:29:01 PM

I'm of the opinion that you don't need to bring it up unless she asks. The first time is never good but that doesn't mean you will be a premature ejaculator or are unable to get it up. Even if your stroke game is weak, there are people who have fucked hundreds of times and are still bad at it. Also sex will never be great off the bat until you each know what the other likes.

I also advocate fingering her to get off and when in doubt, she can get on top. Easy for a beginner to get a girl off.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 19, 2016, 01:05:04 PM

Okay then. Tell her the truth if she asks but don't tell her willingly. Seems pretty fair. Just don't lie about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on December 19, 2016, 01:22:16 PM

I just wanna be clear that the whole point of being upfront is that you're comfortable enough in your skin for her to know she can use you, teach you, like you, and hate you. All of which help you not just have sex, but good sex.

Or you just plop it in whenever the moons align with the girl being available and you not overthinking things. In the first scenario, I give you a 45%/2.2^(x-1 mm of pubes). In the second scenario I'm afraid your chances of success are below 10%.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 19, 2016, 01:39:09 PM

Well. I'm going to have a lot of alcohol at my house.

So, after we get back from dinner, her and I are probably going to drink a bunch. And after we both have a good buzz going I'll be more honest and she'll probably be more receptive.

That's my hope at least. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 19, 2016, 01:48:50 PM

Also be careful about not being able to get hard if you drink too much. Buy a set of cock rings beforehand just in case.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 19, 2016, 01:53:28 PM

I'll be drinking wine.

I have no problem getting hard when I drink wine. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: demi on December 19, 2016, 01:54:37 PM

Dude you're gonna get so nervous you'll want to throw up. How exciting!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Purrp Skirrp on December 19, 2016, 03:46:14 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on December 19, 2016, 01:54:48 PM

Pallando avoid this thread like the plague, go chill and put it in your head that you're banging this friday. Think of it in a positive way.

Co-signing this.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8wXl2TDHmOs

Pallando, hear me out, you NEED to stop approaching life like there's a formula for everything--that it's all a matter of doing A, B, & C with specific outcomes in mind. I get wanting to feel better informed about unfamiliar situations that'll likely feel uncomfortable. I get thinking that coming here for advice will help, sort of--all good to an extent bouncing some ideas off people that actually KNOW you. But you keep crossing that fine line where you think you're helping yourself by asking for advice, but IMO this insatiable need for reassurance is doing more harm than good and just reinforcing your anxieties. Stop treating life like there's a manual for everything. Most of the answers you seek along with that inner confidence comes from doing: by putting yourself out there and inevitably making mistakes, but being okay with that and learning through your actions. You've been puttin in work lately which is great and all, but...

You need to chill the fuck out and be in the moment with these chicks, calm yourself down, and trust in yourself knowing that you can adapt to whatever the situation is. You're going to feel uncomfortable at times being out of your element, it's a given for most people, so just learn to accept this and please stop fucking yourself over by overthinking everything. Stop propping up everybody but yourself. There's no expert opinion out there specifically tailored to you with the sure fire methodology on getting you laid--that's on YOU to figure out through some classic trial and error.

Your anxiety issues and more importantly HOW you choose to deal with them are the reason you're a virgin, period. A lot of that anxiety is natural to feel and yeah it sucks, but where you go wrong is in how you handle it and you tend to want to internalize it or overanalyze everything which is probably the worst thing to do with anxiety. Seeking reassurance as much as you do just tells your brain, "yeah dude, this IS worth worrying about!" That's how anxiety works and all this incessant reassurance seeking to me just reeks of bad neural reinforcement. So again, my point, chill the fuck out; maybe devote that mental energy into learning better ways to accomplish this--CBT, meditation & mindfulness, exercise, diet, good sleep, exposure therapy, medications. There's a lot you can do that'll be more helpful for your anxiety than the shit I'm seeing everytime I click on this thread.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on December 19, 2016, 04:41:54 PM

(https://media.giphy.com/media/osQDEjU2ftAWs/giphy.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Purrp Skirrp on December 19, 2016, 04:53:13 PM

I did it for Pallando (http://i.imgur.com/HrQLdI6.png?1)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on December 19, 2016, 07:32:39 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on December 19, 2016, 10:56:37 AM

It's like hatefucking Dom while you're hating the shit out of Dom.

God damnit, Dom. I hate that guy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 19, 2016, 08:36:06 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 19, 2016, 10:05:41 AM

edit: also, after some more pondering, I've decided I'm not going to tell this girl I'm a virgin unless she blatantly asks me about it. Telling her right before we have sex would throw off my mojo big time. If she mentions anything about me being a bit awkward I'll just say "it's been a while".

Catching up, this is the right move. Don't give your sexual history unless she asks and even then she probably won't.

Quote from: Dufus on December 17, 2016, 04:46:45 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 17, 2016, 02:24:17 PM
but I was tired from waking up early that day, was kinda out of it & feeling skittish, and had a bunch of other shit Saturday that had to do with my family.

http://www.reactiongifs.com/r/2012/02/ice_cube_wtf_gqvqs30u.gif

Because you're a virgin, I'll let this slide. But sometimes you are so tired after work and don't want to do shit that fucking plans fall by the wayside.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 19, 2016, 09:09:58 PM

One other suggestion: take your time on foreplay. It should calm your nerves, especially if she is responsive to you. If she is responsive to you, you'll feel more confident and be less nervous. It will seem more like you are going with the flow.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: eleuin on December 20, 2016, 12:41:22 AM

I'm not saying eat her ass

but eat her ass

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 20, 2016, 04:20:07 PM

The girl that I'm going to bang Friday just shot me a text asking me how many people I've slept with. :brazilcry

Edit: time to face the music, I guess. :snoop

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 20, 2016, 04:28:47 PM

*pallando opens text*
(http://i.imgur.com/3uD12cD.gif)
Juana Doe has the upper hand now

:tocry

Roll the dice. Tell the truth.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 20, 2016, 04:31:28 PM

SMH

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 20, 2016, 04:31:57 PM

Say 100 hookers. Don't look weak.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 20, 2016, 04:37:25 PM

*sigh* Okay. I'll tell the truth. :(

(Unless someone can convince me otherwise.)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on December 20, 2016, 04:43:00 PM

Cue funeral march music please

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 20, 2016, 04:46:09 PM

"Let's just say less than three."

Maybe? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 20, 2016, 04:47:17 PM

OMG NO

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 20, 2016, 04:48:13 PM

I'm so fucked. And not in the good way. :-\

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 20, 2016, 04:49:47 PM

Just say you're a virgin, and you didn't want to tell her because you thought she'd lose interest. She knows what it's like to be rejected, maybe this will convince her to give you a respite.

Hell maybe it turns her on. If it does, tell her you're a fast learner. No seriously :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: El Babua on December 20, 2016, 04:54:39 PM

Tell her the truth.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Joe Molotov on December 20, 2016, 04:55:44 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 20, 2016, 04:46:09 PM

"Let's just say less than three."

Maybe? :doge

:salute

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 20, 2016, 05:00:47 PM

Bu is on the dot.

Damn you've let social pressure make you feel ashamed of being a virgin that much? Not a good look. I am telling you. She will respect you more if you just tell her you've never been with anybody before. She's most likely to not really care. She says she likes you. A woman with good moral character will not throw you away because you're a virgin if she likes you and is willing to pull down the panties. If you lie, you're :dead

Now is the time to use those balls you've got and it ain't for fucking.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 20, 2016, 05:02:33 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 20, 2016, 05:00:47 PM

Bu is on the dot.

Damn you've let social pressure make you feel ashamed of being a virgin that much? Not a good look. I am telling you. She will respect you more if you just tell her you've never been with anybody before. She's most likely to not really care. She says she likes you. A woman with good moral character will not throw you away because you're a virgin. If you lie, you're :dead

Now is the time to use those balls you've got and it ain't for fucking.

(http://i.imgur.com/pertzmx.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 20, 2016, 05:02:35 PM

This will go well.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 20, 2016, 05:03:07 PM

Quote from: 213372bu on December 20, 2016, 04:54:01 PM

Just copy and paste this text:

"I've actually never slept with someone before."

Simple.

Just sent this. *deep breaths*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 20, 2016, 05:04:54 PM

Good. You now have not only her respect but the entire forum. :rejoice

Watch it not amount to much. She probably won't care.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 20, 2016, 05:05:11 PM

Hold your hand with your other hand and pretend its me. It will all be OK.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 20, 2016, 05:10:47 PM

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: D3RANG3D on December 20, 2016, 05:11:47 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 20, 2016, 04:48:13 PM

I'm so fucked. And not in the good way. :-\

(http://i.imgur.com/10YzYQi.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Joe Molotov on December 20, 2016, 05:12:16 PM

bless up

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Raist on December 20, 2016, 05:13:53 PM

I'm gonna need some context here.

She just randomly texted you to ask that? You were just chatting about stuff and that came up? Sexting?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 20, 2016, 05:17:36 PM

Quote from: Raist on December 20, 2016, 05:13:53 PM

I'm gonna need some context here.

She just randomly texted you to ask that? You were just chatting about stuff and that came up? Sexting?

We were being flirty with one another and then she brought it up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Tasty on December 20, 2016, 05:19:11 PM

Can we get a livestream of your phone going?

This is great.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 20, 2016, 05:25:58 PM

Quote from: 213372bu on December 20, 2016, 04:54:01 PM

Just copy and paste this text:

"I've actually never slept with someone before."

Simple.

This is literally verbatim how I answered the same question. I didn't answer it like I was admitting something terrible. I answered like I was revealing an interesting detail about myself that would open the door to a line of conversation.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 20, 2016, 05:27:35 PM

Also: I'm gonna throw this out there. She already knows. You may think you are good at hiding it but I bet it's super fucking obvious. She asked as an out for you to just come out and say it. So it's good that you told the truth.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 20, 2016, 05:29:30 PM

yeah she probably already knows and was testing you

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Raist on December 20, 2016, 05:30:39 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 20, 2016, 05:17:36 PM

Quote from: Raist on December 20, 2016, 05:13:53 PM
I'm gonna need some context here.

She just randomly texted you to ask that? You were just chatting about stuff and that came up? Sexting?
We were being flirty with one another and then she brought it up.

Well, I guess the question is whether it was just one of these questions, or she suspected it.

You didn't mention bags of sand, did you?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 20, 2016, 05:31:07 PM

Omg will suck dicks for screenshots of this convo

Good work being honest

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 20, 2016, 05:31:27 PM

I demand that you come back and post what you get back from her as soon as you find out!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on December 20, 2016, 05:32:13 PM

Honestly, there's a good chance she is either a virgin or extremely inexperienced. Girls don't ask that unless they think you're like them or if they think you have a disease.

In which case, this went EXACTLY how I thought it would. God bless ya Pally.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 20, 2016, 05:33:31 PM

I think... I think I'm good. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 20, 2016, 05:34:55 PM

Sounds like you're in. Just take it nice and easy and you should lose your v-card :omg

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 20, 2016, 05:35:41 PM

Told you. GIRLS DO NOT CARE. REPEAT AFTER ME. WOMEN DO NOT CARE IF YOU'RE A VIRGIN. THIS IS A SELF DELUSION YOU HAVE BUILT UP FROM MEN SHAMING YOU.

No.

One.

CARES.

but YOU.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 20, 2016, 05:36:03 PM

I wouldn't have used the emoticon cuz it made you seem like you were ashamed of it. But whatever. Didn't matter in the end.

Bruh, you're Luke and Solo just cleared the trench for your approach. You got this.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 20, 2016, 05:36:34 PM

and good luck, you made it :tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 20, 2016, 05:38:21 PM

O she wants it. Better start filing your finger nails now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 20, 2016, 05:38:47 PM

Damn, what is Ruzbeh going to do now that he will soon be the resident Bore virgin?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Raist on December 20, 2016, 05:41:21 PM

Well, that seems fine.

Now you gotta ask back tho.

edit: yeah, that smiley sucked. Oh well. Seems like she will too soon :-*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on December 20, 2016, 05:41:43 PM

Also, if she is a virgin that's totally okay. Just tell her you really want to be gentle the first time and she'll guide you.

I have A LOT of deja vu reading that text, where I was totally upfront with her only to find out when laying in bed that she was also one. The sex was really good actually tho. Girls are naturally afraid to tell guys this stuff since it might be a turn off for them.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 20, 2016, 05:41:48 PM

I've reassured her that I'm ready. We good. 👌

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 20, 2016, 05:41:58 PM

We need some young bloods to take up the v-mantle. Anyone know of any 24 year olds on GAF?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on December 20, 2016, 05:42:04 PM

Quote from: Raist on December 20, 2016, 05:41:21 PM

Well, that seems fine.

Now you gotta ask back tho.

NONONPNONONO

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Raist on December 20, 2016, 05:44:04 PM

Quote from: brawndolicious on December 20, 2016, 05:42:04 PM

Quote from: Raist on December 20, 2016, 05:41:21 PM
Well, that seems fine.

Now you gotta ask back tho.

NONONPNONONO

YESYESYESYESYESYESYES

Quote from: TheInfelicitousDandy on December 20, 2016, 05:41:58 PM

We need some young bloods to take up the v-mantle. Anyone know of any 24 year olds on GAF?

Just pick a user at random. 99% chance you'll find one.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 20, 2016, 05:46:30 PM

Quote from: 213372bu on December 20, 2016, 05:43:52 PM

NONONONONONONOONO

She's dtf Pallo and she just basically admitted it.

Goddamn it, what did you send her?

Sorry. Misread that last post.

I didn't ask her if she was a virgin. She's definitely not.

I just reassured her that I was ready to have sex Friday.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Raist on December 20, 2016, 05:48:59 PM

She flat out asked him how many partners he had. I don't see anything wrong in asking the same question.

What is this, the 40's?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on December 20, 2016, 05:50:53 PM

Quote from: Raist on December 20, 2016, 05:48:59 PM

She flat out asked him how many partners he had. I don't see anything wrong in asking the same question.

What is this, the 40's?

She would tell him if she felt totally comfortable saying. Either she's worried about having too many or too few partners and that scaring a dude.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 20, 2016, 05:51:50 PM

What rubber you going with?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 20, 2016, 05:52:31 PM

We good. We so good. Chubby girls are the best. :itagaki

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 20, 2016, 05:54:11 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 20, 2016, 05:51:50 PM

What rubber you going with?

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00GUFUW1G/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o00_s01?ie=UTF8&th=1

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 20, 2016, 05:55:17 PM

i need to get some of those for my bae

seems no

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 20, 2016, 05:58:22 PM

I've used those. They're pretty good. I had trouble climaxing until I did it with those since they're very thin. Compared to the regular ass Trojan Ribbed things, they feel like there's nothing at all There's also the Trojan Bare Skin which are very similar.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 20, 2016, 05:59:06 PM

nvm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rufus on December 20, 2016, 06:02:36 PM

OMG, it's happening :tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 20, 2016, 06:11:10 PM

Friday the 23rd. It shall be a Festivus miracle. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 20, 2016, 06:12:46 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 20, 2016, 05:52:31 PM

We good. We so good. Chubby girls are the best. :itagaki

We told you this months ago, you dork.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=quckbuNK_YE

Also, Durex: :scust sis.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 20, 2016, 06:14:51 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 20, 2016, 05:58:22 PM

I've used those. They're pretty good. I had trouble climaxing until I did it with those since they're very thin. Compared to the regular ass Trojan Ribbed things, they feel like there's nothing at all There's also the Trojan Bare Skin which are very similar.

We use kimono microthins. Do you know what the lube for those durex ultra thins is?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 20, 2016, 06:16:45 PM

Flashback a little over two years ago

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=36858.6975

I tackle THE EXACT SAME SITUATION.

then a few pages later I made it happen

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=36858.7110

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 20, 2016, 06:17:14 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 20, 2016, 06:14:51 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 20, 2016, 05:58:22 PM
I've used those. They're pretty good. I had trouble climaxing until I did it with those since they're very thin. Compared to the regular ass Trojan Ribbed things, they feel like there's nothing at all There's also the Trojan Bare Skin which are very similar.

We use kimono microthins. Do you know what the lube for those durex ultra thins is?

lmao no idea.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 20, 2016, 06:17:27 PM

Username, do you have any new condom suggestions

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a neat knot with the 'other'
Post by: Huff on December 20, 2016, 06:18:11 PM

Quote from: Huff on September 11, 2016, 01:30:21 PM

Just start going on dates to bars with chubby chicks. It will at least take care of your virginity in no time

Hmmmmmmmmmm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 20, 2016, 06:19:41 PM

then a month later i contemplated moving away to be with this girl

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=36858.msg1865246#msg1865246

HAHA WHAT KIND OF LAMER WOULD DO THAT

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 20, 2016, 06:20:59 PM

Quote from: Dufus on December 20, 2016, 04:55:42 PM

A friend once told me she had some really good looking female friends that were in their 20s and they were virgin. It's uncommon but not THAT uncommon, like if you're a virgin in your twenties you're some kind of monster or some shit.

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 20, 2016, 05:35:41 PM

Told you. GIRLS DO NOT CARE. REPEAT AFTER ME. WOMEN DO NOT CARE IF YOU'RE A VIRGIN. THIS IS A SELF DELUSION YOU HAVE BUILT UP FROM MEN SHAMING YOU.

No.

One.

CARES.

but YOU.

This is true.

Real confession time: Sorry, only registered users can see this content. Please Login or Register.. Before that? Oral at 14. It's totally not uncommon to be a "late bloomer," dude.

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 20, 2016, 06:17:27 PM

Username, do you have any new condom suggestions

I'm a Trojan-brand man, but that's mostly in the "mainstream." I haven't looked into condoms too deeply. Just Durex around here is "poor"/ghetto brand.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 20, 2016, 06:22:19 PM

Pallando bruh, whatever you do. Don't get virgin attached.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 20, 2016, 06:24:34 PM

RIP your wizard powers

He gon make it :preach

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 20, 2016, 06:25:15 PM

Quote from: thisismyusername on December 20, 2016, 06:20:59 PM

This is true.

Real confession time: Sorry, only registered users can see this content. Please Login or Register.. Before that? Oral at 14. It's totally not uncommon to be a "late bloomer," dude.

You're gay. LGBT are late bloomers for the most part. I lost my virginity with a woman at 19 but I didn't lose my anal virginity until 25. Didn't give a bj until then either. AFAIC any time with a woman didn't count so I just say 25.

Quote

I'm a Trojan-brand man, but that's mostly in the "mainstream." I haven't looked into condoms too deeply. Just Durex around here is "poor"/ghetto brand.

That's Lifestyles over here.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 20, 2016, 06:26:33 PM

I've got Trojan condoms as well. They're latex tho.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 20, 2016, 06:28:25 PM

Most condoms are fine -- as long as they fit. Took me awhile to figure that part out

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 20, 2016, 06:30:03 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 20, 2016, 06:22:19 PM

Pallando bruh, whatever you do. Don't get virgin attached.

Gotcha. I don't think I will because I'm not really head over heels in total infatuation with this girl (I'm more concerned about her being attached to me because apparently I'm her type or something. :doge)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 20, 2016, 06:32:28 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 20, 2016, 06:25:15 PM

That's Lifestyles over here.

True. I'd put it as:

Trojan
Durex
Lifestyles

for me in the mainstream brands.

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 20, 2016, 06:25:15 PM

Quote from: thisismyusername on December 20, 2016, 06:20:59 PM
This is true.

Real confession time: Sorry, only registered users can see this content. Please Login or Register.. Before that? Oral at 14. It's totally not uncommon to be a "late bloomer," dude.

You're gay. LGBT are late bloomers for the most part. I lost my virginity with a woman at 19 but I didn't lose my anal virginity until 25. Didn't give a bj until then either. AFAIC any time with a woman didn't count so I just say 25.

True. And I don't know the actual numbers for hetero men. But my point is: A lot of folks past like 20 start to make virginity a huge huge huge mind-game/complex for themselves. Atra being a key example. Once it happens, it's like "oh, well I don't know why I made such a big deal about it."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on December 20, 2016, 06:36:13 PM

Pallo is finally going to get laid!
All that had to happen was:
Prince, Alan Rickman, David Bowie had to die. A white nationalist had to get elected to the white house.
A heavy price. Make it worth it Pallo.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Bebpo on December 20, 2016, 06:37:14 PM

Pallando, you're doing great! Things are gonna be fine, don't overthink stuff.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 20, 2016, 06:38:07 PM

Username I was at my fave drag bar the other week and talked to this guy at the bar. He was in his 30's and said he was a virgin because he couldn't get over his sexuality until recently and now is going to different clubs every weekend to get a feel for the scene/culture/community before his first time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 20, 2016, 06:39:15 PM

I don't know in that persons case, but for me I started to really have a "social-life goalpost" complex about it. "Everyone loses their virginity by 18, you're such a failure!" was my mental state about it.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 20, 2016, 06:40:36 PM

Quote from: thisismyusername on December 20, 2016, 06:32:28 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 20, 2016, 06:25:15 PM
That's Lifestyles over here.

True. I'd put it as:

Trojan
Durex
Lifestyles

for me in the mainstream brands.

Same. We're satisfied with the Kimono's but hoping for something a bit stronger but with some silicone. Since condom companies don't generally advertise what lube they use might as well stick with these.

Quote from: thisismyusername on December 20, 2016, 06:39:15 PM

I don't know in that persons case, but for me I started to really have a "social-life goalpost" complex about it. "Everyone loses their virginity by 18, you're such a failure!" was my mental state about it.

Did you talk to any other gay people about it? That's the straight cis culture talking.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 20, 2016, 06:47:19 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 20, 2016, 06:40:36 PM

Did you talk to any other gay people about it? That's the straight cis culture talking.

Nah. I knew gay men were late bloomers, I just felt that way due to like you said: Straight culture. Point is, once I got over the hump (pause) it became no big deal to me to have sexual dry-spells.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 20, 2016, 06:48:16 PM

Btw she probably asked because she was wondering why you didn't fuck her before, you've now given her an exciting reason

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 20, 2016, 07:46:51 PM

She's offering to do whatever I want. I'm such a lucky boy. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Beezy on December 20, 2016, 07:54:12 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 20, 2016, 05:58:22 PM

I've used those. They're pretty good. I had trouble climaxing until I did it with those since they're very thin. Compared to the regular ass Trojan Ribbed things, they feel like there's nothing at all There's also the Trojan Bare Skin which are very similar.

Really? I haven't met a condom I've liked, so I don't use them at all. Pull out method requires too much mental strength though and I don't want any kids anytime soon. I think I'll try these out.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Joe Molotov on December 20, 2016, 07:54:14 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 20, 2016, 07:46:51 PM

She's offering to do whatever I want. I'm such lucky boy. :doge

Christian Sidehug :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Tasty on December 20, 2016, 08:01:17 PM

Making them eat your ass :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 20, 2016, 08:06:36 PM

Quote from: Beezy on December 20, 2016, 07:54:12 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 20, 2016, 05:58:22 PM
I've used those. They're pretty good. I had trouble climaxing until I did it with those since they're very thin. Compared to the regular ass Trojan Ribbed things, they feel like there's nothing at all There's also the Trojan Bare Skin which are very similar.
Really? I haven't met a condom I've liked, so I don't use them at all. Pull out method requires too much mental strength though and I don't want any kids anytime soon. I think I'll try these out.

Make sure you're getting ones big enough. I thought I couldn't cum with a condom on, turns out I just couldn't cum with a condom that was too small on

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on December 20, 2016, 08:17:02 PM

Quote from: El Babua on December 20, 2016, 04:54:39 PM

Tell her the truth.

spoiler (click to show/hide)
You can still call an escort before you answer the text!
[close]

Just send her a link to this thread.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 20, 2016, 08:19:34 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 20, 2016, 07:46:51 PM

She's offering to do whatever I want. I'm such lucky boy. :doge

In my experience, girls appreciate if you have real leather in your handcuffs and if you start with the smallest butt plug.

Also taste your condoms first so that you don't get any complaints about gross condom lube when you are trying to shoot in her mouth.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Raist on December 20, 2016, 08:23:03 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 20, 2016, 07:46:51 PM

She's offering to do whatever I want. I'm such lucky boy. :doge

Just start with easy stuff.

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How about a threesome

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 20, 2016, 08:25:10 PM

Quote from: chronovore on December 20, 2016, 08:17:02 PM

Quote from: El Babua on December 20, 2016, 04:54:39 PM
Tell her the truth.

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You can still call an escort before you answer the text!
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Just send her a link to this thread.

Think you'd have to pay the escort to read this thread.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on December 20, 2016, 08:43:10 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on December 20, 2016, 08:06:36 PM

Quote from: Beezy on December 20, 2016, 07:54:12 PM
Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 20, 2016, 05:58:22 PM
I've used those. They're pretty good. I had trouble climaxing until I did it with those since they're very thin. Compared to the regular ass Trojan Ribbed things, they feel like there's nothing at all There's also the Trojan Bare Skin which are very similar.
Really? I haven't met a condom I've liked, so I don't use them at all. Pull out method requires too much mental strength though and I don't want any kids anytime soon. I think I'll try these out.

Make sure you're getting ones big enough. I thought I couldn't cum with a condom on, turns out I just couldn't cum with a condom that was too small on

Yeah I had this problem with the first few girls I slept with. The way the dice fell a lot of those girls were virgins. But when I slept with someone with more experience I then learned that I was 'gifted' and then just went ahead with buying Magnums.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: eleuin on December 20, 2016, 09:02:32 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 20, 2016, 07:46:51 PM

She's offering to do whatever I want. I'm such lucky boy. :doge

record her saying thebore

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 20, 2016, 09:31:58 PM

Anal

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on December 20, 2016, 09:39:33 PM

Choke sex. But dont actually kill her

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 20, 2016, 09:42:59 PM

Skyn condoms are very nice btw.

Proud of you Pallando. You're almost home
(http://i.imgur.com/FQLu8D2.gif)
bless up

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 20, 2016, 09:44:07 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on December 20, 2016, 06:36:13 PM

Pallo is finally going to get laid!
All that had to happen was:
Prince, Alan Rickman, David Bowie had to die. A white nationalist had to get elected to the white house.
A heavy price. Make it worth it Pallo.

Tbf I'd be ok with all of that just to get a regular everyday type of nut :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 20, 2016, 09:44:50 PM

Quote from: Huff on December 20, 2016, 09:39:33 PM

Choke sex. But dont actually kill her

She says she's into rough sex.

Likes getting spanked, likes getting fucked hard, wants me to call her a slut, and wants to call me daddy.

How did I get so lucky? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 20, 2016, 09:52:20 PM

This girl clearly likes you a lot. Once you get naked you should be like "can I just like, look at you for a second." And then just compliment how beautiful she is, maybe kiss her neck or shoulders before going down to the boobs. Make her feel as special as possible.

body worship :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on December 20, 2016, 10:21:27 PM

Is that before or after he chokes her, spits in her mouth and calls her a whore?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 20, 2016, 10:29:26 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 20, 2016, 09:52:20 PM

This girl clearly likes you a lot. Once you get naked you should be like "can I just like, look at you for a second." And then just compliment how beautiful she is, maybe kiss her neck or shoulders before going down to the boobs. Make her feel as special as possible.

body worship :lawd

pd got me blushing because my man does this. then he touches my hair and touches my skin :drool :heartbeat

who knew pd was so romantic? :heartbeat

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 20, 2016, 10:31:04 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on December 20, 2016, 10:21:27 PM

Is that before or after he chokes her, spits in her mouth and calls her a whore?

Its called aftercare for a reason.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 20, 2016, 10:37:29 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 20, 2016, 09:44:50 PM

Quote from: Huff on December 20, 2016, 09:39:33 PM
Choke sex. But dont actually kill her
She says she's into rough sex.

Likes getting spanked, likes getting fucked hard, wants me to call her a slut, and wants to call me daddy.

How did I get so lucky? :doge

Let's be honest, you're not going to do that your first time. :doge But if she's into the dirty talk, you might want to brush up on that. Not this time, but if you go out with her again (and it seems like you sort-of like her despite her "heavy" weight?) it's good to get that practice in.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 20, 2016, 10:59:09 PM

Yeah, I told her we'll start slow and work our way up to the more kinky stuff. :doge

Going to get my first blowjob for sure tho. :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 20, 2016, 11:25:51 PM

Also, I'll have one hell of a story to write come Christmas Eve or Christmas Day. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: toku on December 20, 2016, 11:29:34 PM

Just worry about getting your nut. Learning to please her will come later. Bless up.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 20, 2016, 11:39:31 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 20, 2016, 10:29:26 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 20, 2016, 09:52:20 PM
This girl clearly likes you a lot. Once you get naked you should be like "can I just like, look at you for a second." And then just compliment how beautiful she is, maybe kiss her neck or shoulders before going down to the boobs. Make her feel as special as possible.

body worship :lawd

pd got me blushing because my man does this. then he touches my hair and touches my skin :drool :heartbeat

who knew pd was so romantic? :heartbeat

I really like the sub role of body worship and pleasing a chick. Dunno I'm just more interested in making sure she's having a great time. My pleasure is gonna come, but if I can get her off first and then many more times before I finish then I'm happy.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 21, 2016, 12:17:38 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 20, 2016, 11:39:31 PM

I really like the sub role.

Newsfeed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 21, 2016, 02:27:22 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 20, 2016, 11:39:31 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 20, 2016, 10:29:26 PM
Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 20, 2016, 09:52:20 PM
This girl clearly likes you a lot. Once you get naked you should be like "can I just like, look at you for a second." And then just compliment how beautiful she is, maybe kiss her neck or shoulders before going down to the boobs. Make her feel as special as possible.

body worship :lawd

pd got me blushing because my man does this. then he touches my hair and touches my skin :drool :heartbeat

who knew pd was so romantic? :heartbeat

I really like the sub role of body worship and pleasing a chick. Dunno I'm just more interested in making sure she's having a great time. My pleasure is gonna come, but if I can get her off first and then many more times before I finish then I'm happy.

I don't see how this is a sub role. It's a mutual thing. I'll admire his body and muscles while he admires mine.

A healthy, fit, male body is the work of the gawds. The Greeks were right. :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 21, 2016, 02:59:17 AM

Or you can find yourself a sexually aggressive chubby gal. :rash

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: king of the internet on December 21, 2016, 03:15:59 AM

Don't be gloating until till you've made it. Still a virgin. And you better not lie this time :ufup

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Reb on December 21, 2016, 04:45:01 AM

This feels like one of those episodes of a TV show where an inmate has the date of release set a week in the future and you are just waiting for him to get shanked or set up for more jail time.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 21, 2016, 04:54:51 AM

My god. I will curse 2016 until the day I die if something cock blocks me.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 21, 2016, 05:33:16 AM

Why do you keep referring to her as chubby like it's a personality attribute

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 21, 2016, 05:38:33 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on December 21, 2016, 05:33:16 AM

Why do you keep referring to her as chubby like it's a personality attribute

Would shy sub girl be better?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on December 21, 2016, 08:40:20 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 20, 2016, 09:44:50 PM

Quote from: Huff on December 20, 2016, 09:39:33 PM
Choke sex. But dont actually kill her
She says she's into rough sex.

Likes getting spanked, likes getting fucked hard, wants me to call her a slut, and wants to call me daddy.

How did I get so lucky? :doge

There's nothing inherently wrong with these things in a healthy sexual relationship, but the fact that you don't have one—that she's telling you this before the second date—is a giant red flag indicating untreated mental health issues. Do what you gotta do but do not get attached to her. You will never fill the hole her father figure left in her. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 21, 2016, 08:51:35 AM

I mean, we were talking about our own personal kinks but okay. :doge

edit: just for reference, I'm pretty sure her biological parents had a divorce.

edit2: Now I'm beginning to wonder how many bone sessions I can get in before she wants me to be the main male in her life. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 21, 2016, 09:19:26 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 20, 2016, 11:25:51 PM

Also, I'll have one hell of a story to write come Christmas Eve or Christmas Day. :doge

Dear Penthouse,

I never thought (I'd get laid)...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 21, 2016, 10:42:22 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 21, 2016, 08:51:35 AM

I mean, we were talking about our own personal kinks but okay. :doge

edit: just for reference, I'm pretty sure her biological parents had a divorce.

edit2: Now I'm beginning to wonder how many bone sessions I can get in before she wants me to be the main male in her life. :doge

Yeah don't let the warnings make you over think this, you just chill ya ass out until you get this done

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 21, 2016, 10:52:19 AM

Just ride the wave man. Seems like you can do a lot with her. Dates, fuck, chill/cuddle, etc etc etc. When it ends it ends, but not before you have some fun and get experience.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 21, 2016, 01:06:11 PM

🌊 🏄

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 21, 2016, 01:59:26 PM

Don't listen to him, this is America, you don't have to keep it!

Fake edit: Oh sorry, saw JDub and kinda defaulted there

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: ToxicAdam on December 21, 2016, 03:08:32 PM

The only advice I have to Pallando is to not be afraid to ask her to help you guide it in.

You're probably going to be nervous and you don't want those awkward 10-15 seconds where you are frantically jabbing and missing the hole. You can lose confidence or she can dry up.

Or just have her start out on top. You'll last longer that way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on December 21, 2016, 03:25:44 PM

I recommend going bareback your first time. Ask her if you can cream pie in her.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Brehvolution on December 21, 2016, 04:22:22 PM

Quote from: JayDubya on December 21, 2016, 03:01:24 PM

Tittyfucking

:aah

Another thing pallando can ask for.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 21, 2016, 06:18:41 PM

you guys are dogs

(http://i.imgur.com/wAG5UHJ.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 21, 2016, 06:57:50 PM

Sorry, only registered users can see this content. Please Login or Register. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 21, 2016, 07:28:20 PM

Not sure I approve of this order of operations but seems like the momentum is right

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 21, 2016, 07:33:16 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 21, 2016, 06:57:50 PM

Sorry, only registered users can see this content. Please Login or Register. :doge

I see how it is.

(http://i.imgur.com/wAG5UHJ.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 21, 2016, 07:33:56 PM

I mean, I asked her if it was cool and she said yeah. :doge

And shortly after that she said she was now really horny. lol. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 21, 2016, 07:37:37 PM

I'm glad you have manners. When I was first dating again had lots of men send me random pics of their dick that I didn't ask to see and they didn't ask permission to show me. Asking her if you could send it is actually a cut above most how most men act, unfortunately. Doing the bare minimum in terms of politeness will make you go far.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 21, 2016, 07:40:28 PM

Did you at least dress it up?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 21, 2016, 07:40:45 PM

were you hard in the pic?

nobody wants limp dick pics
(http://i.imgur.com/Wi92v5A.png)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 21, 2016, 07:42:13 PM

It was rock hard. So hard it was basically purple. :doge

edit: Also, I'm a grower. Not a shower.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 21, 2016, 07:42:14 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 21, 2016, 07:40:45 PM

were you hard in the pic?

nobody wants limp dick pics
(http://i.imgur.com/Wi92v5A.png)

Speak for yourself. Limp can be attractive depending on the pic.

But the act of a man sending you a pic of his hard penis because you've attracted him is never not hot. This doesn't mean limp is bad tho. Just hot in its own way.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on December 21, 2016, 07:45:56 PM

I send unsolicited dick pics all the time

spoiler (click to show/hide)

to my wife :doge

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Joe Molotov on December 21, 2016, 07:48:08 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 21, 2016, 07:42:13 PM

It was rock hard. So hard it was basically purple. :doge

edit: Also, I'm a grower. Not a shower.

pics or gtfo

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 21, 2016, 07:51:31 PM

Quote from: Joe Molotov on December 21, 2016, 07:48:08 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 21, 2016, 07:42:13 PM
It was rock hard. So hard it was basically purple. :doge

edit: Also, I'm a grower. Not a shower.

pics or gtfo

:nsfw

spoiler (click to show/hide)

(http://i.imgur.com/wp7kyM3.jpg?1)

[close]

:doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 21, 2016, 07:56:24 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/GzTOmG8.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: etiolate on December 21, 2016, 08:28:36 PM

I'm starting to see that the sequel to this teen movie will be a lot funnier.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 21, 2016, 09:10:14 PM

Quote from: 213372bu on December 21, 2016, 08:57:05 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 21, 2016, 07:42:14 PM
Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 21, 2016, 07:40:45 PM
were you hard in the pic?

nobody wants limp dick pics
(http://i.imgur.com/Wi92v5A.png)

Speak for yourself. Limp can be attractive depending on the pic.
When you got Goku's Power Pole in-between your legs you can't send dick pics limp.

I mean you can pump but :donot

when you have a big dick, limp or hard doesn't matter. even average sized penises look pretty hot limp. it's all about size that makes whether a limp shot is ok.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 21, 2016, 09:11:44 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 21, 2016, 07:33:56 PM

I mean, I asked her if it was cool and she said yeah. :doge

And shortly after that she said she was now really horny. lol. :doge

You misunderstand... You should be sending me those dick pics. :doge

Quote from: 213372bu on December 21, 2016, 08:57:05 PM

When you got Goku's Power Pole in-between your legs you can't send dick pics limp.

You, too. :phil

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 21, 2016, 09:24:05 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 11, 2016, 01:04:31 AM

I'm not gay and this creeps me out. I wish it would stop being mentioned.

Going back ten pages because Jack mentioned it, I just remembered my outburst.

(http://s8.postimg.org/lyq8uc4fp/whoosh_U18chan.jpg)

Remove the gay context: "Someone desires to be with you," being the keyword here. "But your shitty-ass attitude is what prevents them from being with you" is the point.

Thankfully, I haven't seen you posting around here in the past two weeks so hopefully you've taken my advice and promptly killed yourself (or went to TrueCel's and bitch about how women are all bitches and whores for not throwing themselves are you). Good riddance, taco.

Now back to Atra--Oh, wait:

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 21, 2016, 07:40:45 PM

nobody wants limp dick pics

:gurl Someone hasn't seen some decent limp

spoiler (click to show/hide)

most of the time uncut

[close]

dicks. :gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 21, 2016, 09:55:37 PM

Please do not even hint, joke, or suggest rah kill himself. Suicide is a serious thing and I saw him lurking the gun thread.

Quote from: thisismyusername on December 21, 2016, 09:24:05 PM

:gurl Someone hasn't seen some decent limp
spoiler (click to show/hide)
most of the time uncut
[close]
dicks. :gurl

(http://i.imgur.com/hCstU0O.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 21, 2016, 10:33:07 PM

It might be a shitty thing to say and I agree about not saying it, but goddamn am I tired of Rah's attitude. Flipping out when half the board doesn't agree with him and taking it as a personal attack on his psyche. Blaming women for his failures when someone (that he isn't sexually attracted to, granted) said he's good looking. In all honestly, he'd be better off getting off this board because clearly he doesn't seem to be able to chill out and reflect on why folks "clown" him when he's taking things super seriously.

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 21, 2016, 09:55:37 PM

http://i.imgur.com/hCstU0O.gif

But more seriously: I'm into full-body shots, personally. :yeshrug

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 21, 2016, 10:36:41 PM

Quote from: thisismyusername on December 21, 2016, 10:33:07 PM

But more seriously: I'm into full-body shots, personally. :yeshrug

Me too. Just a pick of a dick would do anything for me. But if he was fit and had showed some of thights/abs/chest/biceps on top of his thing, that was always hot. Thankfully, I can get that any time now. :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Joe Molotov on December 21, 2016, 11:18:13 PM

Posting in a legendary thread if Pallando gets laid.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

Posting in a legendary thread if Pallando doesn't get laid.

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on December 22, 2016, 12:36:38 AM

Everything sounds fine but are you sure she's not a virgin? I get the feeling that she is and that's fine, I did it with one once and there was no issue. Just don't be shocked if she is and be all gentle and shit, she's obviously a girl with fantasies so it's important to learn slowly and understand and yadda yadda.

Quote from: Jack Remington on December 21, 2016, 08:50:53 PM

The last 10 pages or so have been a fantastic read. Reminds me a lot of The 40 Year Old Virgin.

Pallando is obviously Steve Carrell. PD is definitely Paul Rudd, clothedmac is the black dude, and username is a gay version of Seth Rogen. Mupepe is the Arabic guy from the electronics store, Queen of Ice is the boss from the electronics store, and fistful is the MILF's daughter.

None of that is right actually. I'd say I'm the old black neighbor dude tho who says he should just learn how to drive and then he does and wins the girl.

I really wanted to be a magical black dude when I grew up. :-[

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 22, 2016, 12:43:25 AM

Who is the boss on 40 year old Virgin this important. I've seen that movie only once.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 22, 2016, 01:17:31 AM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 22, 2016, 12:43:25 AM

Who is the boss on 40 year old Virgin this important. I've seen that movie only once.

Jane Lynch

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 22, 2016, 03:04:42 AM

Quote from: thisismyusername on December 21, 2016, 10:33:07 PM

It might be a shitty thing to say and I agree about not saying it, but goddamn am I tired of Rah's attitude. Flipping out when half the board doesn't agree with him and taking it as a personal attack on his psyche. Blaming women for his failures when someone (that he isn't sexually attracted to, granted) said he's good looking. In all honestly, he'd be better off getting off this board because clearly he doesn't seem to be able to chill out and reflect on why folks "clown" him when he's taking things super seriously.

Seems like a bit of a over the top reaction? You want me to stop taking stuff so seriously(again people keep saying this, and I don't know what it means.) and then seriously tell me to go kill myself. Outside of here, I like to argue about games and shit. If you think I take it seriously then I'm sorry. I would like to be back on GAF were at least their default reply to a long post about a game "isn't you're taking this too seriously). but gee a woman banned me because I disagreed with her.

All I said was I don't like the constant references to a certain gay member here wanted to have sex with me. It disgusts me. I'm not gay, it doesn't flatter me, and I don't like it. Simple as that.

And no the advice here doesn't help me because it amounts to either simply be lucky or change yourself into a completely new and different person for women to like you. And women are worth blaming. Even if I have a toxic attitude towards them I only have one because they helped foster it. They passed me over and continue to do so now before they even know me. Maybe I would'nt have been so fucked up if I had positive interactions with them as a teenager and not only ones that would reinforce negatives. But oh well. VR and money are good tools.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on December 22, 2016, 05:11:30 AM

Dude, you seriously come off in a very unflattering way. You really aren't getting anything out of this thread, and you should seriously look into counseling.

I have a few thoughts for our man P but I think it's probably best to let go and let him ride now that the training wheels are off. Godspeed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 22, 2016, 06:38:13 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 21, 2016, 05:38:33 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on December 21, 2016, 05:33:16 AM
Why do you keep referring to her as chubby like it's a personality attribute
Would shy sub girl be better?

It's just weird that's all. Prob due to your lack of relationship experience. Just don't become one of those guys who chases specific types (chubby, Asian, nerdy, etc) on a set of assumptions for how they will act toward you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 22, 2016, 07:06:18 AM

Quote from: thisismyusername on December 21, 2016, 10:33:07 PM

It might be a shitty thing to say and I agree about not saying it, but goddamn am I tired of Rah's attitude. Flipping out when half the board doesn't agree with him and taking it as a personal attack on his psyche. Blaming women for his failures when someone (that he isn't sexually attracted to, granted) said he's good looking. In all honestly, he'd be better off getting off this board because clearly he doesn't seem to be able to chill out and reflect on why folks "clown" him when he's taking things super seriously.

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 21, 2016, 09:55:37 PM
http://i.imgur.com/hCstU0O.gif

But more seriously: I'm into full-body shots, personally. :yeshrug

The best way to describe it is "tired". His shit is tiring to read and he obviously doesn't want to improve his situation. I mean billions of people are able to do what he apparently can't or won't do. He's well enough into his 20s now to where if he doesn't want to make the change himself, he probably never will. Although that long post where he listed off a bunch of pornstars when talking about what type of women he likes should have been his moment of clarity but nope.

I mean, it's his choice about what he wants to of course but he shouldn't waste his time and ours by writing essays about why he's unable to do the thing that 98% of the population is able to do seamlessly.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on December 22, 2016, 08:15:25 AM

I think he is taking offense to the fact that we suggest he makes changes, or in his words "change myself completely". We all have to change ourselves, Rahx. The key to success is self awareness. As human beings we can observe our deficiencies, adjust fire, and see if outcomes change. If not, try again until it does. I'm not the same person I was when I was in my early 20s and thank Allah for that.

To be honest, I had little success with women and hated them and myself too. Now everywhere I go I hear the muted symphony of panties dropping. You can do it too, but only if you want to.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on December 22, 2016, 10:06:35 AM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on December 22, 2016, 08:15:25 AM

Now everywhere I go I hear the muted symphony of panties dropping.

Newsfeed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on December 22, 2016, 10:07:59 AM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on December 22, 2016, 10:02:59 AM

What Samson says is true. While I'm not crushing puss so to speak, I'm a lot better off now than I was when I was 20. Very, very few people actually get laid numerous times without having to improve themselves(women are included in this, believe it or not, Rahx). You just keep trying and guess what? No matter who you are or what you look like it always gets better.

Hating women is a thing that happens to all of us, you just learn not to let it consume you and not let it apply to all women(#NotAllFemales). But knowing you you won't try, so not sure why I'm wasting my breath.

Wait, what? Do you mean women in general, or some women specifically who wrong you?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 22, 2016, 10:42:53 AM

I totally get what you mean, I hated myself instead of women tho

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Mupepe on December 22, 2016, 10:47:37 AM

There are posts somewhere on here from me ten years ago saying marriage was bullshit, women are whores and I won't ever love anyone again. Yeesh.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 22, 2016, 10:49:40 AM

Quote from: Jack Remington on December 22, 2016, 05:40:25 AM

Quote from: seagrams hotsauce on December 19, 2016, 05:45:07 AM

^Let the man get his dick wet and stop being a crab in a bucket, ho

I'm with Wrath on this one. The whole point of this mission has been "get Pallando laid," not "get Pallando a girlfriend." If she's putting out signals that she's DTF I doubt she's expecting a relationship, so it's not like she's being misled. If you want to mention it, cool, if not, don't sweat it.

Feels like the end of an 80 hour RPG campaign.

:lol :lol :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on December 22, 2016, 11:47:27 AM

Quote from: Jack Remington on December 22, 2016, 05:40:25 AM

Quote from: seagrams hotsauce on December 19, 2016, 05:45:07 AM

^Let the man get his dick wet and stop being a crab in a bucket, ho

I'm with Wrath on this one. The whole point of this mission has been "get Pallando laid," not "get Pallando a girlfriend." If she's putting out signals that she's DTF I doubt she's expecting a relationship, so it's not like she's being misled. If you want to mention it, cool, if not, don't sweat it.

This is one of my favorite posts ever. "This mission" :lol

Feels like the end of an 80 hour RPG campaign.

Hopefully he'll be doing the postgame 'grind', if ya know what I mean.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on December 22, 2016, 12:22:10 PM

Every girl after this he's going to call "New Game+"

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 22, 2016, 01:29:55 PM

Quote from: tiesto on December 22, 2016, 11:47:27 AM

Quote from: Jack Remington on December 22, 2016, 05:40:25 AM
Quote from: seagrams hotsauce on December 19, 2016, 05:45:07 AM

^Let the man get his dick wet and stop being a crab in a bucket, ho

I'm with Wrath on this one. The whole point of this mission has been "get Pallando laid," not "get Pallando a girlfriend." If she's putting out signals that she's DTF I doubt she's expecting a relationship, so it's not like she's being misled. If you want to mention it, cool, if not, don't sweat it.

This is one of my favorite posts ever. "This mission" :lol

Feels like the end of an 80 hour RPG campaign.

Hopefully he'll be doing the postgame 'grind', if ya know what I mean.

(http://i1207.photobucket.com/albums/bb474/kenshod/ezgif.com-video-to-gif%201.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 22, 2016, 01:43:11 PM

Why does rah think we aren't speaking from experience? re: changing

Pretty much most of us are in our mid-late 20's, early 30's, or late 30's. We know what we're talking about because we have lived it. It isn't advice given out of the fact we hate your or anything, it's advice given because some of us have been in the same (or similar) situation. People change all the time, often for the better.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on December 22, 2016, 06:07:31 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on December 22, 2016, 10:11:03 AM

not saying hating them and seeing them as a subspecies, more like a "why don't women want me" type of hate. Be it because of a break up, being wronged, or not getting laid in the first place. It's something you usually shake off in your late teens/early twenties.

But I am speaking from experience here, sorry to imply that it applies to all men or whatever.

Oh, that. Yeah, I had that, too. Boys get over "girl cooties" by 11 or 12, and then get over their own indignant sexual entitlement in their early 20s.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 22, 2016, 06:35:50 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 22, 2016, 03:04:42 AM

And no the advice here doesn't help me because it amounts to either simply be lucky or change yourself into a completely new and different person for women to like you. And women are worth blaming. Even if I have a toxic attitude towards them I only have one because they helped foster it. They passed me over and continue to do so now before they even know me. Maybe I would'nt have been so fucked up if I had positive interactions with them as a teenager and not only ones that would reinforce negatives. But oh well. VR and money are good tools.

Given your thoughts on women can you blame them for not wanting to get to know you? I don't think anyone is saying that you need to change yourself into a completely new person just that you need to grow as a person. That is unless your entire identity is based on your hatred of women in which case I dunno.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 22, 2016, 06:47:26 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 22, 2016, 01:43:11 PM

Pretty much most of us are in our mid-late 20's, early 30's, or late 30's.

some are even older :kobeyuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 22, 2016, 07:55:39 PM

in age or number of dicks sucked? :letsfukk

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: chronovore on December 22, 2016, 08:12:26 PM

Quote from: Jack Remington on December 22, 2016, 07:27:23 PM

Yeah, aren't Drinky and Chronovore in their early 50s?

I'm 49. I thought I was 47 when I was 46, so I'm also senile.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 22, 2016, 08:14:33 PM

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:rash

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 22, 2016, 08:15:42 PM

:gladbron

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Valkyrie on December 22, 2016, 08:17:04 PM

Quote from: chronovore on December 22, 2016, 08:12:26 PM

Quote from: Jack Remington on December 22, 2016, 07:27:23 PM
Yeah, aren't Drinky and Chronovore in their early 50s?

I'm 49. I thought I was 47 when I was 46, so I'm also senile.

You could actually be my dad. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on December 22, 2016, 08:55:24 PM

Quote from: Jack Remington on December 22, 2016, 05:40:25 AM

Quote from: seagrams hotsauce on December 19, 2016, 05:45:07 AM

^Let the man get his dick wet and stop being a crab in a bucket, ho

I'm with Wrath on this one. The whole point of this mission has been "get Pallando laid," not "get Pallando a girlfriend." If she's putting out signals that she's DTF I doubt she's expecting a relationship, so it's not like she's being misled. If you want to mention it, cool, if not, don't sweat it.

This is one of my favorite posts ever. "This mission" :lol

Feels like the end of an 80 hour RPG campaign.

Usually you can finish one of those in less than three months though. I like to think this is like the New Game+ where he's got all the skills from previous runs and is too OP to lose

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 22, 2016, 08:55:44 PM

Quote from: Jack Remington on December 22, 2016, 08:47:01 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 22, 2016, 08:14:33 PM
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:rash

Post her reply to you right after you sent the cock pic.

Make sure you unlock the dick pic. :phil

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 22, 2016, 08:56:21 PM

Quote from: Jack Remington on December 22, 2016, 08:47:01 PM

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Post her reply to you right after you sent the cock pic.

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For context, I was asking her if she was by herself in the text that's above her first one.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 22, 2016, 08:56:29 PM

Quote from: Jack Remington on December 22, 2016, 08:47:01 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 22, 2016, 08:14:33 PM
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:rash

Post her reply to you right after you sent the cock pic.

Jack Remington: and then scroll up a bit

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 22, 2016, 08:57:01 PM

(https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2016-10/26/8/asset/buzzfeed-prod-fastlane01/anigif_sub-buzz-15673-1477486457-5.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 22, 2016, 09:20:46 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 22, 2016, 08:56:21 PM

Quote from: Jack Remington on December 22, 2016, 08:47:01 PM
Quote from: Pallando on December 22, 2016, 08:14:33 PM
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Post her reply to you right after you sent the cock pic.
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For context, I was asking her if she was by herself in the text that's above her first one.

I don't see dick here. >:(

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cdEQmpVIE4A

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 22, 2016, 09:53:04 PM

TBH I'm way more excited for Friday than I am for Christmas.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 22, 2016, 10:12:33 PM

This man hung in there, went on weird dates, drove to distant lands, KEPT GOING WITH A GOOD ATTITUDE and now he's been rewarded by the universe with golden opportunity -- and he documented it all for us! Truly the Bore's best content creator in 2016.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on December 22, 2016, 10:35:20 PM

Went to dinner/bowling with the teacher girl from last week. Had a nice time, and gave her a quick peck on the lips goodnight. Also awkwardly gave her a small box of chocolates as a Christmas gift, since a few of my coworkers (middle aged women) told me I really should, even if it's only a second date. Toward the end of the night, she seemed in a slight hurry to finish up with bowling, and didn't really seem to reciprocate much with the light touching/hugging stuff I did, but that could also be because it was late and she gets up at the crack of dawn for work. I texted her tonight and she said how she's been running around trying to finish stuff and she came home and just crashed, so hopefully I'm not working myself up into a frenzy and it's just that she's tired. Will try to talk with her tomorrow and hopefully she's more receptive, because she's got an awesome personality, intelligent, and physically is my type.

Started emailing with a dentist who lives nearby, and a special ed teacher from Flushing. The teacher hinted about meeting up after Christmas, but Queens is pretty far. And speaking about special ed teachers who live far, an Asian girl from the Bronx gave me her # but that's just too far for me. I can't do the long drives like my boy Pallando. I'm not super attracted to any of these girls though, but I'm more than willing to give a chance in case we 'click', they look better in person (this happens sometimes), etc.

Some curvy Jewish girl I was talking to emailed me back saying "What's with the 3 day response time?". I guess because I took too long to write back to her :P Uhh, I mean it's not like it's the week before Christmas or anything and I'm busy as fuck (busy as fuck playing XV and reading Pallando's posts on here) :P

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 22, 2016, 10:39:36 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 22, 2016, 09:53:04 PM

TBH I'm way more excited for Friday than I am for Christmas.

I got so excited I forgot today was Thursday.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: El Babua on December 22, 2016, 11:07:53 PM

That's my Atra :tocry

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 22, 2016, 11:10:31 PM

Quote from: tiesto on December 22, 2016, 10:35:20 PM

Some curvy Jewish girl I was talking to emailed me back saying "What's with the 3 day response time?". I guess because I took too long to write back to her :P Uhh, I mean it's not like it's the week before Christmas or anything and I'm busy as fuck (busy as fuck playing XV and reading Pallando's posts on here) :P

Just let her know that: "It's the holidays, I've been busy with preparations. Sorry?" If she gets offended again, sounds like it's probably the best to ignore her (or just do that anyway? Depends on how attracted you are to her, I guess).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 23, 2016, 02:16:19 AM

Mad props to KissVibes/Shark, Y'all.

Dude was basically my cheat sheet/coach for all of these weeks. :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 23, 2016, 02:23:15 AM

Quote from: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 22, 2016, 06:35:50 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 22, 2016, 03:04:42 AM

And no the advice here doesn't help me because it amounts to either simply be lucky or change yourself into a completely new and different person for women to like you. And women are worth blaming. Even if I have a toxic attitude towards them I only have one because they helped foster it. They passed me over and continue to do so now before they even know me. Maybe I would'nt have been so fucked up if I had positive interactions with them as a teenager and not only ones that would reinforce negatives. But oh well. VR and money are good tools.

Given your thoughts on women can you blame them for not wanting to get to know you? I don't think anyone is saying that you need to change yourself into a completely new person just that you need to grow as a person. That is unless your entire identity is based on your hatred of women in which case I dunno.

Well I've for sure regressed. I only half believe the things I say here. Yes, I'm bitter and a bit angry, but I don't think if you met me in real life you could tell. Which I guess sounds like all psychopaths. But what I mean is I feel allowed on here to say crazy things because it won't effect me in real life. Internet ect.

But of course I've grown a lot. I'm far more outgoing, less narrow minded, and more free in my interactions with people. I've realized what my strengths in interacting with people(not-romantically) anyway are and I've had a lot more success making friends. I'm a far more social person then I've ever been. I'm way more positive about things then I've ever been. Trying to shed my cynical attitude.

But I guess recently I've fallen back into just general negative feelings towards women because many of my outles haven't been fruitful and I guess haven't gotten the results I want and reality and time are starting to seemingly set in.

Also my female friend who I've mentioned before who I did have a strong connection with has basicly shat on me for no reason. Deleting me off social media, ignoring me at work completely, and making sure I know she's ignoring me. And it's hurting me on 2 levels. Sure the more sexual level, but also the friend level. This is someone I thought I had a connection for and she's basically tried to write me out of existence and honestly it's not because of anything I did.

So thats really hurt me big time and well I guess I'm angry about that.

But other then that, I just have my typical complaints.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 23, 2016, 05:59:20 AM

Yeah I'm having a very hard time believing she just did that out of the blue.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 23, 2016, 07:31:30 AM

Is anyone interested in a collective Bore jerk off session around 6pm today? Just to send positive vibes through the universe for our man down south.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 23, 2016, 08:57:59 AM

We'll probably be eating dinner at that time. I'd say set your clocks to 8 or 9pm EST. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 23, 2016, 09:02:55 AM

Quote from: Dufus on December 23, 2016, 06:36:45 AM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on December 22, 2016, 10:12:33 PM
This man hung in there, went on weird dates, drove to distant lands, KEPT GOING WITH A GOOD ATTITUDE and now he's been rewarded by the universe with golden opportunity -- and he documented it all for us! Truly the Bore's best content creator in 2016.

If Panaldo's the bore's best content creator then what am I :doge

You know

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 23, 2016, 09:04:38 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 23, 2016, 08:57:59 AM

We'll probably be eating dinner at that time. I'd say set your clocks to 8 or 9pm EST. :doge

What are you eating for dinner?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 23, 2016, 09:07:11 AM

Quote from: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 23, 2016, 09:04:38 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 23, 2016, 08:57:59 AM
We'll probably be eating dinner at that time. I'd say set your clocks to 8 or 9pm EST. :doge

What are you eating for dinner?

She's vegetarian so I decided to take her to one of my favorite Indian restaurants in town. Also, she's never had Indian food before and I always like it when I can introduce people to new stuff.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 23, 2016, 09:08:44 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 23, 2016, 09:07:11 AM

Quote from: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 23, 2016, 09:04:38 AM
Quote from: Pallando on December 23, 2016, 08:57:59 AM
We'll probably be eating dinner at that time. I'd say set your clocks to 8 or 9pm EST. :doge

What are you eating for dinner?
She's vegetarian so I decided to take her to one of my favorite Indian restaurants in town. Also, she's never had Indian food before and I always like it when I can introduce people to new stuff.

Nothing makes me want to fuck like a good curry.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 23, 2016, 09:09:14 AM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on December 23, 2016, 09:06:38 AM

Pallando, care to make the announcement a plug exclusive? We'll play some Sam Cooke there till you show up.

Maybe. I'm not entirely sure how I would coordinate that with you and the Plug regulars.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 23, 2016, 09:15:12 AM

That post masala nut :whew

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 23, 2016, 09:16:05 AM

Quote from: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 23, 2016, 05:59:20 AM

Yeah I'm having a very hard time believing she just did that out of the blue.

If I had done something, I could at least make sense of it. I haven't done anything to this person. I'm also not the only one she did this too.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 23, 2016, 09:19:00 AM

Quote from: JayDubya on December 23, 2016, 09:14:53 AM

Quick warning / suggestion: First time eating Indian food? Indian food gives a lot of folks indigestion / GI upset.

I'll try to steer her away from anything too crazy.

Also, she's half Mexican. She might be able handle it all just fine. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 23, 2016, 09:21:00 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 23, 2016, 09:19:00 AM

Quote from: JayDubya on December 23, 2016, 09:14:53 AM
Quick warning / suggestion: First time eating Indian food? Indian food gives a lot of folks indigestion / GI upset.
I'll try to steer her away from anything too crazy.

Also, she's half Mexican. She might be able handle it all just fine. :doge

This could be the most hilarious way of fucking up an attempt at losing your virginity.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 23, 2016, 09:30:21 AM

Take her to Cheesecake Factory for dinner and dessert and follow with a stop at a pub drinking nothing but porters. Treat her after by licking all that foodsweat off her punani :drool

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 23, 2016, 09:35:01 AM

I mean, the place I'm going to is pretty good at not overwhelming us CACs with curry so I think I'm safe.

edit: Maybe I'll do Cheesecake Factory for date #3. I've never been there before.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 23, 2016, 09:43:17 AM

Lol no shits wack come on brah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 23, 2016, 09:45:45 AM

Quote from: nudemacusers on December 23, 2016, 09:43:17 AM

Lol no shits wack come on brah

:idont

edit: Anyways, sex or no sex, I'm just happy I found a girl that thinks I'm amazing despite being kinda "eh" on paper. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on December 23, 2016, 09:51:53 AM

Quote from: Jack Remington on December 23, 2016, 01:49:27 AM

What part of NYC are you in? And how far are the Bronx and Queens, respectively?

I've gone up to the Bronx a couple times from Manhattan, and I remember it took awhile.

I'm from central Long Island, so Queens is nearly an hour from me with average traffic, Bronx well it depends where, but it could be 1.5 hours.

The girl I like the most lives a few min away and works literally next door from the condo complex I live in.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 23, 2016, 09:59:46 AM

Bring her out for seafood and play with some oysters using your tongue.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 23, 2016, 10:08:35 AM

No need. I'll be doing that tonight to her clam. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 23, 2016, 10:12:02 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 23, 2016, 10:08:35 AM

No need. I'll be doing that tonight to her clam. :doge

Don't forget the butthole.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 23, 2016, 10:13:19 AM

(http://i.imgur.com/wAG5UHJ.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 23, 2016, 10:17:03 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 23, 2016, 10:13:19 AM

(http://i.imgur.com/wAG5UHJ.gif)

Good luck getting that third date then.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 23, 2016, 10:18:24 AM

It's 2017. Eat the booty.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 23, 2016, 10:22:11 AM

I'd have to be spectacularly drunk to do something like that. Also, I just met this girl last week.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 23, 2016, 10:24:19 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 23, 2016, 10:22:11 AM

I'd have to be spectacularly drunk to do something like that. Also, I just met this girl last week.

Perfect time to get a taste of the butthole then. Don't want to wait until you're too far into the relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 23, 2016, 10:27:39 AM

Booty eating is the best.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 23, 2016, 10:27:56 AM

*grumbles* :dunno

I feel like I need a woman's perspective on this instead of a bunch guys who are known for trolling.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 23, 2016, 10:30:44 AM

You would be hard pressed NOT finding a girl who would at least think "oh wow, that felt better than I thought."

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 23, 2016, 10:36:20 AM

It may be impossible but don't get too clingy with the chick you lose your virginity to.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 23, 2016, 10:37:28 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 23, 2016, 07:31:30 AM

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:what

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 23, 2016, 10:39:36 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 23, 2016, 09:07:11 AM

Quote from: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 23, 2016, 09:04:38 AM
Quote from: Pallando on December 23, 2016, 08:57:59 AM
We'll probably be eating dinner at that time. I'd say set your clocks to 8 or 9pm EST. :doge

What are you eating for dinner?
She's vegetarian so I decided to take her to one of my favorite Indian restaurants in town. Also, she's never had Indian food before and I always like it when I can introduce people to new stuff.

Did you make sure it was vegetarian or had those options? Indian (like others) will generally have meat because that's the "default" for most peoples diets. They may not have meat in the curry but it's a possibility. And there will be (boned, generally) chicken if it's a buffet.

Quote from: Pallando on December 23, 2016, 10:27:56 AM

*grumbles* :dunno

I feel like I need a woman's perspective on this instead of a bunch guys who are known for trolling.

Seriously and honestly: Eat the booty. Have her eat your booty if you want (but make sure it's clean obviously) to get the feeling. Then you'll know the booty eating movement.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on December 23, 2016, 10:45:04 AM

Quote from: thisismyusername on December 23, 2016, 10:39:36 AM

Did you make sure it was vegetarian or had those options? Indian (like others) will generally have meat because that's the "default" for most peoples diets. They may not have meat in the curry but it's a possibility. And there will be (boned, generally) chicken if it's a buffet.

Have you never been to an Indian restaurant?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 23, 2016, 10:47:23 AM

@username: I've been to this place several times. They have about 18+ legitimate vegetarian dishes.

Quote from: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 23, 2016, 10:36:20 AM

It may be impossible but don't get too clingy with the chick you lose your virginity to.

I'm more concerned about her clinging to me, tbh. I've never had a girl (openly) fall this hard for me so fast.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 23, 2016, 11:03:48 AM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on December 23, 2016, 10:45:04 AM

Have you never been to an Indian restaurant?

I have. But dietary concerns are still an issue. But I'm coming from having to find Vegan places (so even more strict than Vegetarians) for friends that is a total pain because the options for them is minor compared to a meat/Veggie diet. It really depends on the place/area. :yeshrug For me, a place that has like 50 options only have like 5-10 max for a Vegetarian or a Vegan person. Sucks. You also have to throw in making sure the stuff isn't cooked next to meat depending on how hardcore they are. Sucks.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 23, 2016, 12:21:44 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 23, 2016, 10:47:23 AM

Quote from: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 23, 2016, 10:36:20 AM
It may be impossible but don't get too clingy with the chick you lose your virginity to.
I'm more concerned about her clinging to me, tbh. I've never had a girl (openly) fall this hard for me so fast.

Uh huh, get back to me after you have sex.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 23, 2016, 12:23:54 PM

losing your virginity and you want her to INDIAN?

(http://i.imgur.com/wAG5UHJ.gif)

Good luck!

IMO you should replan and google for local vegetarian restaurants.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on December 23, 2016, 12:27:24 PM

Get palak paneer, and just enjoy your time together. You're interested, she's interested. No rush no fuss. And yes, being inexperienced is okay (for both of you).

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: eleuin on December 23, 2016, 12:34:04 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on December 23, 2016, 10:30:45 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 23, 2016, 09:45:45 AM
Quote from: nudemacusers on December 23, 2016, 09:43:17 AM
Lol no shits wack come on brah
:idont

edit: Anyways, sex or no sex, I'm just happy I found a girl that thinks I'm amazing despite being kinda "eh" on paper. :doge

Word of advice: Even if you feel that way try not to say it to people too often. It'll bleed out into your interactions with her and it's very uncouth of you in general. You're just having fun for now, keep it that and keep thinking of it as that..

I was confused if he meant him or her

because the first is very true :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on December 23, 2016, 12:35:23 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 23, 2016, 12:23:54 PM

losing your virginity and you want her to INDIAN?

(http://i.imgur.com/wAG5UHJ.gif)

Good luck!

IMO you should replan and google for local vegetarian restaurants.

Shooting from your cock AND anus at the same time :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 23, 2016, 12:44:17 PM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on December 23, 2016, 12:35:23 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 23, 2016, 12:23:54 PM
losing your virginity and you want her to INDIAN?

(http://i.imgur.com/wAG5UHJ.gif)

Good luck!

IMO you should replan and google for local vegetarian restaurants.
Shooting from your cock AND anus at the same time :rejoice

:lol :lol :lol :lol :lol :lol

Atra, make sure you have a plastic sheet on your bed. Because you'll be going to Germany possibly. But more seriously: I'd follow Himu's advice and look for local Vegetarian (or Vegan, Vegan can be good IMO) places. There has to be a few near you given the recent trend of folks going Vegetarian.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: VomKriege on December 23, 2016, 12:47:42 PM

Indian food :lawd

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 23, 2016, 01:11:16 PM

Buy her some pineapple juice
:hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 23, 2016, 01:12:28 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 23, 2016, 01:11:16 PM

Buy her some pineapple juice
:hitler

Doesn't that only work for men?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 23, 2016, 01:22:35 PM

PD only gives advice from experience

spoiler (click to show/hide)

with men

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 23, 2016, 01:24:44 PM

I never had any serious bodily function issues with Indian food. So anecdotally I don't know why it gets a bad rap. :doge

Also, on our first date all she ate was chips and salsa. Makes me wonder if she's going to do something similar again.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 23, 2016, 01:38:47 PM

GOOD LUCK HAVE FUN!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 23, 2016, 02:12:07 PM

Quote from: thisismyusername on December 23, 2016, 01:12:28 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 23, 2016, 01:11:16 PM
Buy her some pineapple juice
:hitler

Doesn't that only work for men?

:beli

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on December 23, 2016, 02:43:28 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 23, 2016, 01:24:44 PM

I never had any serious bodily function issues with Indian food. So anecdotally I don't know why it gets a bad rap. :doge

Also, on our first date all she ate was chips and salsa. Makes me wonder if she's going to do something similar again.

She'll eat nothing but the pappadam...

Good luck, dude. This is it! As much as I absolutely LOVE Indian food, I would NOT recommend it for a first date. Too smelly, the oils get in your skin for a bit till you shower, and with the potential for shits.

Anyways, this morning was another case of me jumping the gun again... girl I like asked me to call her and set something up for next week, we'll be going out next Friday! No concrete ideas yet. Glad to see she still is interested... 8)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 23, 2016, 02:46:29 PM

Regardless of if it'll give you the shits or not it's quite possibly the least sexy food.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 23, 2016, 02:52:20 PM

Quote from: Jack Remington on December 23, 2016, 02:50:36 PM

Indian is also the most delicious food.

It's up there but it definitely wouldn't be my choice for a pre-fuck meal with a new girl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 23, 2016, 02:53:53 PM

Smelly food isn't a problem if you're both having it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 23, 2016, 03:34:48 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on December 23, 2016, 02:53:53 PM

Smelly food isn't a problem if you're both having it

Problem isn't smelly food. Problem is gas. Indian food makes you want to poop. And depending on the time allotted if it's her first time eating Indian, her gas might become painful. I ate Ethiopian food once and by the end of the night I thought my stomach was going to burst from gas. There's a high chance that she might not be feeling well due to gas and put off having sex with him because of it.

If you end up not getting laid because "I'm sorry but I'm not feeling too well, my tummy hurts" don't say I didn't warn you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Beezy on December 23, 2016, 04:32:46 PM

I hope Pallando doesn't seriously try to eat her asshole because of the last page. :lol

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 23, 2016, 04:41:00 PM

I wouldn't mind eating a chick's ass I just barely know but I'm a deviant.

For the normies, definitely wait until after a few dates and especially only after she is freshly showered. You should also shower (maybe with her) so she can return the favor :cody

Edit: Just ignore all the advice you just got in the past couple of pages and just focus on having a good time. You got this so there should be minimal stress on your part.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 23, 2016, 04:44:34 PM

Licking ass. :yuck

Having your ass licked :yuck

This coming from someone who just bought a 7 inch anal toy just the other month.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 23, 2016, 05:33:24 PM

you're streets behind, Queen of Ice.

Eating ass been the wave for a couple years now
:rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 23, 2016, 05:37:46 PM

:gurl

I'd rather just be fingered and fucked there.

Why eat ass? What's the appeal?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 23, 2016, 05:55:12 PM

Anyways, I try to keep it sex positive even if something isn't my thing. If y'all gonna eat ass stop living like savages and buy a bidet. You can get a great one on Amazon or whatever for 50 woolongs. It will keep you and your lady/guy friends booty holes fresh and clean with lack of tearing during to not using harsh things like toilet paper.

A clean diet (limited meat, mostly green veggies) and a bidet will go a long way to proper a clean butt. Helpful for giving or receiving so that for the most part you're ready to get fucked....er...licked anally at any time.

You're welcome.

This is mine.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00A0RHSJO/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1482533900&sr=8-1&pi=SX200_QL40&keywords=bidet&dpPl=1&dpID=41eUnFDC1GL&ref=plSrch

Ring in a new year with anal sex!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 23, 2016, 06:13:03 PM

God I need a bidet but is that heated? I live on the mountain now and I don't think frigid well water would be my fave

Edit: reading, it seems like it pulls from the tank so it would probably at least be room temp :larry or maybe not idk but I might buy it

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 23, 2016, 06:17:46 PM

Nah it has no heat option

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B016NTYQMY/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1482535012&sr=8-1&pi=SX200_QL40&keywords=bidet+heated+water&dpPl=1&dpID=31hJpbxwAeL&ref=plSrch

This has heated option apparently.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 23, 2016, 06:23:20 PM

Come to think of it, I have an outlet basically behind the toilet, maybe I need me an electric version and step it up

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 23, 2016, 07:46:12 PM

Too fancy for their own good? They have bidets that shoot up soapy water to clean your butt with so you can have a fresh and minty asshole each time you go. A hose ain't beating that. Why is fancy bad? Better than using tp. That luxurious high end anal experience. :aah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 23, 2016, 09:10:59 PM

There's been an awakening. Have you felt it?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Tasty on December 23, 2016, 09:13:50 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 23, 2016, 04:44:34 PM

Licking ass. :yuck

Having your ass licked :yuck

This coming from someone who just bought a 7 inch anal toy just the other month.

:gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 23, 2016, 10:01:10 PM

palla bless up :preach

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 23, 2016, 10:13:34 PM

(http://i.imgur.com/KM8z5ON.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 23, 2016, 10:54:30 PM

Quote from: 213372bu on December 23, 2016, 10:47:41 PM

Atra is going to come back as an ass-eating, S&M-loving fiend. Just wait for that Christmas Eve post.

The Bore is the devil, confirmed.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on December 24, 2016, 01:29:26 AM

came home from the bars

no response from pablo. hope that means you are getting your dick wet brother

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: El Babua on December 24, 2016, 01:32:22 AM

He probably already nutted multiple times on her titties :noah

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 24, 2016, 01:51:53 AM

I'm guessing they did nothing but make out and watch Elf.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Boogie on December 24, 2016, 07:02:25 AM

Quote from: Jack Remington on December 24, 2016, 01:53:49 AM

As funny as that would be, there's no way Pablo blew it tonight. He's been training for this his whole life.

It's 2016, bro. Can't fake anything for granted.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 24, 2016, 07:48:32 AM

rip palla

(https://67.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mable8qebl1r5wy3zo1_500.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rufus on December 24, 2016, 08:26:26 AM

She moved to Bahrain?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 24, 2016, 10:19:19 AM

I'm alive.

We fucked twice.

More details to come soon. ;)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Boogie on December 24, 2016, 10:20:30 AM

Edit: nevermind!

Of course your update shows up at the end of a page. :lol

'Atta boy!

2016 loosens its grasp. We're all gonna make it, brehs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: D3RANG3D on December 24, 2016, 10:22:09 AM

:preach :rejoice :lawd :aah :salute :woody :whoo :clap :usacry :cody :delicious :success

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 24, 2016, 10:22:59 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 24, 2016, 10:19:19 AM

I'm alive.

We fucked twice.

More details to come soon. ;)

Quoting for new page. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rufus on December 24, 2016, 10:24:35 AM

(https://media.giphy.com/media/GCLlQnV7wzKLu/giphy.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: demi on December 24, 2016, 10:25:54 AM

Now can you finally shut the fuck up about being a virgin? Thanks

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 24, 2016, 10:42:56 AM

:tocry he's alive brehs, he did it

This thread finale>>>>>>>Lost's finale

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on December 24, 2016, 10:45:23 AM

(https://media4.giphy.com/media/zCME2Cd20Czvy/200w.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 24, 2016, 10:46:15 AM

Congrats. Now you know its not a big deal.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 24, 2016, 10:47:52 AM

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on December 20, 2016, 06:36:13 PM

Pallo is finally going to get laid!
All that had to happen was:
Prince, Alan Rickman, David Bowie had to die. A white nationalist had to get elected to the white house.
A heavy price. Make it worth it Pallo.

two fucks for every day princess leia is in the ICU :preach

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 24, 2016, 11:04:05 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 24, 2016, 10:19:19 AM

I'm alive.

We fucked twice.

More details to come soon. ;)

(http://i.imgur.com/LoVWCS3.gif)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eob7V_WtAVg

(http://i.imgur.com/LHzhCb3.jpg)
(http://i.imgur.com/dyape42.jpg)

This just proves, if Rah changed his shitty attitude, he could probably attract women and get laid more.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 24, 2016, 11:27:20 AM

Good bless america.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on December 24, 2016, 11:38:16 AM

You entered a completely unfamiliar situation and within a week, with a dozen conflicting bits of advice, all your budding powers were released.

Congratulations. Merry Xmas Eve.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on December 24, 2016, 11:44:24 AM

Congrats, Pallando! :D

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 24, 2016, 11:47:48 AM

freenudelylelanley and moblin have yet to make it to home plate.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Beezy on December 24, 2016, 11:52:37 AM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on December 24, 2016, 11:45:26 AM

So how many virgins we got left? Zero?

I was going to say Rahx but he got with an escort and blew a dude before, so.

Dufus?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 24, 2016, 11:54:59 AM

Dunno if a 2017 season focusing on Dufus will have as good of an ending.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: eleuin on December 24, 2016, 01:03:40 PM

(http://38.media.tumblr.com/b224cb399aa61af4e1d0faed403ccf72/tumblr_nbsrxqPt2E1tw8163o1_500.gif)

Only one more time and you can't lie about "less than 3" anymore

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 24, 2016, 01:30:12 PM

IT'S A CHRISTMAS MIRACLE!!!!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 24, 2016, 01:33:13 PM

http://youtu.be/3NuFVQk_CCs

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Tasty on December 24, 2016, 01:51:44 PM

The Bore's seen fistful and Atra get laid. We're virgin killers. :lawd

But can we do it for Rahx? :hitler

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 24, 2016, 02:05:03 PM

Really looking forward to the gorey deets

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 24, 2016, 04:02:21 PM

Congrats! Now you have to face the harsh reality that all of your mental deficiencies had nothing to do with your virginity and you now have to tackle them directly!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 24, 2016, 04:06:57 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 24, 2016, 04:02:21 PM

Congrats! Now you have to face the harsh reality that all of your mental deficiencies had nothing to do with your virginity and you now have to tackle them directly!

Damn that is exactly how I felt :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rufus on December 24, 2016, 04:10:37 PM

Quote from: Dufus on December 24, 2016, 04:07:15 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 24, 2016, 04:02:21 PM
Congrats! Now you have to face the harsh reality that all of your mental deficiencies had nothing to do with your virginity and you now have to tackle them directly!

(http://i.imgur.com/eBa846s.gif)

Is that why you're not doing this quest? :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: D3RANG3D on December 24, 2016, 04:11:01 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 24, 2016, 04:02:21 PM

Congrats! Now you have to face the harsh reality that all of your mental deficiencies had nothing to do with your virginity and you now have to tackle them directly!

:fbm

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rufus on December 24, 2016, 04:27:17 PM

Alright, I didn't account for Fistful's entire statement. I know you're trying to improve in general.

I assume you've considered chasing skirts as additional motivation? Didn't work for me, but hey...

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 24, 2016, 04:30:45 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 24, 2016, 04:02:21 PM

Congrats! Now you have to face the harsh reality that all of your mental deficiencies had nothing to do with your virginity and you now have to tackle them directly!

nah that's what alcohol is for

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on December 24, 2016, 04:56:46 PM

Guys, let's not forget the slog to get here. Let's just chill a bit before undertaking another miracle

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on December 24, 2016, 04:57:46 PM

2016 redeemed :rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Beezy on December 24, 2016, 05:07:19 PM

Quote from: Tasty Meat on December 24, 2016, 01:51:44 PM

The Bore's seen fistful and Atra get laid. We're virgin killers. :lawd

But can we do it for Rahx? :hitler

I was a late bloomer too, but I didn't come here looking for advice from you trolls.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 24, 2016, 05:08:39 PM

It's like I got my dick wet too

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rufus on December 24, 2016, 05:13:10 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on December 24, 2016, 04:43:20 PM

Time to get Rufus laid.

Pussy only temporarily lowers my degeneracy levels. I wouldn't spend Christmas dicking around online otherwise. :shaq2

spoiler (click to show/hide)

I totally would. :doge

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Which is part of my bigger issues. :doge

[close]

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 24, 2016, 08:08:51 PM

Pallando choosing his new girl over his internet friends now
(http://i.imgur.com/WBSSOz8.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 24, 2016, 08:21:05 PM

I'll write about my Festivus and Christmas Eve morning bang sessions soon. Just need to take care of some Christmas/family stuff first.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 24, 2016, 08:24:51 PM

We are your family. Take care of us first.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Boogie on December 24, 2016, 08:51:32 PM

Ya. Priorities, man.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: eleuin on December 24, 2016, 09:09:16 PM

I'm pretty upset he didn't update right after the deed was done

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 24, 2016, 09:26:04 PM

Honestly was hoping for smartphone live blog

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 24, 2016, 09:27:44 PM

Quote from: Dufus on December 24, 2016, 10:24:41 AM

Try not to make it too detailed, that would be gross. :doge

A man has to have a code. :doge

This is doesn't apply now, we're all too invested for that

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 24, 2016, 09:31:54 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on December 24, 2016, 09:26:04 PM

Honestly was hoping for smartphone live blog

That's hard to do when you're grabbing a big ass and being ridden on. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 24, 2016, 09:36:07 PM

:rejoice

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 24, 2016, 11:11:13 PM

If you didn't at least go down on this chick then I consider this whole project a failure.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 24, 2016, 11:15:35 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 24, 2016, 11:11:13 PM

If you didn't at least go down on this chick then I consider this whole project a failure.

I don't think you need to worry about that. :doge :doge :doge :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 24, 2016, 11:23:49 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on December 24, 2016, 11:47:48 AM

freenudelylelanley and moblin have yet to make it to home plate.

If you count living vicariously through Pallando then I have indeed fucked.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: king of the internet on December 24, 2016, 11:36:16 PM

Getting your dangus in is a big first step but now try actually being in a real and healthy relationship with another human being. The true Dark Souls starts here. :)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 25, 2016, 12:04:20 AM

Quote from: king of the internet on December 24, 2016, 11:36:16 PM

in a real and healthy relationship

Healthy... relationship...?

(http://i.imgur.com/ejFDhmt.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 25, 2016, 02:25:07 AM

Okay. Here's more or less how it went down.

Part I:
>Didn't get much sleep the night before. So I was pretty tired when I went to get her.
>I picked her up. We went to the Indian restaurant. Had really great food and wine.
>I thought she would be a bit more talkative this time around but eh... she's still shy/anxious.
>After dinner I decided to go to a bar downtown to loosen myself up a bit since I was getting kinda antsy. She said she didn't need anything drink at the moment (something to do with the wine + her anxiety medication seems to make her more drunk.)
>The bar I wanted to go to was packed to the gills. So we went to a coffee shop next door. I got a pumpkin spice latte to wake myself up a bit. :doge
>After I got my coffee we went outside and sat at table and just admired the beauty of our surroundings. We kissed.
>We got back to my car and headed back to my place.

Part II:
>We get to my place.
>I go to my fridge and down a bottle of cider while she was chilling on my living room couch to calm my nerves.
>I go back to the couch.
>I load up Netflix on my TV, lower the volume, and we just cuddle on the couch and talk for a bit.
>One thing leads to another and we start making out. Then I start kissing her breasts. Then we're essentially dry humping each other.
>She suggests we go ahead and go to my bed. I agree.
>She lays in my bed. I start stripping. I (having a foot fetish) took her socks off and got a footjob from her first to get myself going. That was kinda weird but her soft soles felt good on my dick. :doge
>She strips down. We make out some more in my bed.
>I give her the go ahead to start sucking me off. That felt pretty good except for when her teeth nipped my dick a little bit. :doge
>After that I try to put on a condom but my dick was deflating fast due to nerves (this happened several times). Whenever this happened I just decided to start making out with her some more and just jerk myself off.
>Eventually I get a condom on and I decide to have her ride me first. That was fairly enjoyable and easy for me (seems like it's harder to cum that way).
>We then switch positions and I'm fucking her in the missionary position. About ten or twelve thrusts in I cum. :doge
>I take off my cum filled condom and chuck it the trash. We take a little break and just cuddle to each other for a bit.
>We make out some more and then she suggests that I finger her. I oblige.
>I do that for some time, lick around her clit as well. Vaginas definitely taste... odd. :doge Anyways, she seemed to enjoy that.
>After all of that we decide to go back to my couch and watch some more of The Office on Netflix. She asks if I feel different now after having sex for the first time and I told her "Totally. I feel like a whole new world has opened up for me." or something along those lines.
>After we finish watching an episode of The Office we both decide to go to bed to sleep since it was late and we were both pretty tired.

Part III:
>I really enjoyed having her in my bed. Especially on a cold December night. :aah
>Basically we just cuddled up to one another and fell asleep.
>We eventually both wake up around 7am the next morning, got some water, and washed out our mouths with Scope.
>We start making out again and I ask her if she's down for another round of fucking. She says yes.
>I have her riding on me first. And we switch around and I'm fucking her in the missionary position again. I'm able to last much longer this time.
>I would kinda do a bunch of thrusts. And stop (to prevent myself from cumming). thrust some more. stop. thrust some more again. stop again. :doge
>I have no idea how long I was doing that for but eventually I stopped and didn't cum. TBH, I like the sensation of the thrusting over the sensation of cumming in a condom.
>We decide to take a shower together to wash off our post-sleep & post-sex filth.
>After that we both sit on my bed in nothing but our towels and she asks about my thoughts about us and where we shall go from here. I acknowledge that we're kinda in the dating phase of our relationship right now and I'm totally fine with us not being exclusive yet BUT that I would be definitely open to being exclusive with one another after some more time has passed and we have gotten to know each other a lot better. She seemed okay with that answer.
>Then we put on some clothes, watched a couple of episodes of It's Always Sunny, and ate breakfast at Waffle House.
>On the drive back to her place we talked some more and I talked about how I did like her a lot, how close I was from taking a break from Tinder because of all the nonsense I had to deal with up until this point, and that I was kinda tired of the whole "pursuit" and would likely want to get into some sort of relationship with her. She again reiterated that she definitely thinks I'm cool and fun to hang around with.
>I get to her place, I wish her a Merry Christmas, we kiss each other goodbye.
>I drive back home and take a nap.

I'm most likely going to text her tomorrow to again wish her a merry christmas and ask her when she knows her schedule for next week so we can hang out again.

But yeah. *whew* I'm just glad I finally have this "virginity" monkey off my back.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 25, 2016, 02:36:52 AM

Congrats on the footjob

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 25, 2016, 03:17:26 AM

Story did not disappoint

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 25, 2016, 10:17:38 AM

What did she say or look like when she saw your dick?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 25, 2016, 10:22:32 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 25, 2016, 10:17:38 AM

What did she say or look like when she saw your dick?

She seemed eager for it. When I got a good erection going she basically put it in her mouth with no hesitation. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: demi on December 25, 2016, 10:31:15 AM

She asks if I feel different now after having sex for the first time and I told her "Totally. I feel like a whole new world has opened up for me." or something along those lines.

crying lmao

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 25, 2016, 10:32:53 AM

This thread has peaked. It's time to close and send it to the Hall of Fame.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 25, 2016, 02:39:45 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 25, 2016, 10:22:32 AM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 25, 2016, 10:17:38 AM
What did she say or look like when she saw your dick?
She seemed eager for it. When I got a good erection going she basically put it in her mouth with no hesitation. :doge

Thank you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 25, 2016, 03:11:28 PM

PD right now:

(http://replygif.net/i/1176.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 25, 2016, 03:18:05 PM

Oh yeah, I gotta say her moaning and "cooing" every time I thrusted my dick into her was pretty great. :doge

There's just something super gratifying about getting instant "feedback" for giving pleasure to someone else. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 25, 2016, 03:20:25 PM

Doctors said it was impossible and previous attempts by better men ended in failure, yet one man's determination and perseverance finally did it. The cock colour barrier has been broken. Leading to a new age of exploration for a certain individual.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 25, 2016, 03:38:24 PM

Quote from: demi on December 25, 2016, 10:31:15 AM

She asks if I feel different now after having sex for the first time and I told her "Totally. I feel like a whole new world has opened up for me." or something along those lines.

crying lmao

newsfeed pls :dead

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 25, 2016, 03:39:38 PM

no mention if she experienced any pleasure, however. :gurl

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 25, 2016, 03:50:54 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on December 25, 2016, 03:39:38 PM

no mention if she experienced any pleasure, however. :gurl

I asked her if she got anything out of it and she said yes. :yeshrug

If we have more sex later this week I'll try to put her needs before mine. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 25, 2016, 04:14:57 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 25, 2016, 03:50:54 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on December 25, 2016, 03:39:38 PM
no mention if she experienced any pleasure, however. :gurl
I asked her if she got anything out of it and she said yes. :yeshrug

If we have more sex later this week I'll try to put her needs before mine. :doge

What is she, the queen of England? Make her get her own orgasms.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 25, 2016, 04:29:50 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 25, 2016, 03:50:54 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on December 25, 2016, 03:39:38 PM
no mention if she experienced any pleasure, however. :gurl
I asked her if she got anything out of it and she said yes. :yeshrug

If we have more sex later this week I'll try to put her needs before mine. :doge

Put a big toe in her pooper and ask if she has a foot fetish.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 25, 2016, 05:10:15 PM

:kobeyuck

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 25, 2016, 07:30:25 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on December 25, 2016, 03:59:04 PM

Fuck that, get yours while the getting is good. Keep that shit for wifey.

make a chick cum good and she'll do anything. including indulge further in your creepy ass foot fetish.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 25, 2016, 07:32:56 PM

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on December 25, 2016, 03:59:04 PM

Fuck that, get yours while the getting is good. Keep that shit for wifey.

:beli

You'll never get a wife thinking like that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on December 25, 2016, 07:55:37 PM

My 27 year old virgin friend says "7/10, it's pretty good. Would read as a doujin form. :woody"

But in my opinion, you need to focus more on her needs. Especially going forward it gives you more confidence to know you have good abilities in the bedroom. :snob

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 25, 2016, 08:09:46 PM

Quote from: brawndolicious on December 25, 2016, 07:55:37 PM

My 27 year old virgin friend says "7/10, it's pretty good. Would read as a doujin form. :woody"

Huh? Are you saying your virgin friend read the thread and the story and that's their thoughts on it?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: brawndolicious on December 25, 2016, 08:14:10 PM

Quote from: Queen of Ice on December 25, 2016, 08:09:46 PM

Quote from: brawndolicious on December 25, 2016, 07:55:37 PM
My 27 year old virgin friend says "7/10, it's pretty good. Would read as a doujin form. :woody"

Huh? Are you saying your virgin friend read the thread and the story and that's their thoughts on it?

Nah just his play by play post of what happened.

I gave him the general background of what happened before.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 25, 2016, 08:28:26 PM

Palla just finger her while licking her clit and slurping it up like a bowl of ramen until she turn into a shuddering pile of goo. Don't stop even if it takes an hour. Srs.

Merry Christmas.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 25, 2016, 08:28:37 PM

I read the post out loud to my wife, she has also enjoyed following this story

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 25, 2016, 08:31:33 PM

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on December 25, 2016, 08:28:37 PM

I read the post out loud to my wife, she has also enjoyed following this story

Was her favorite part "Vaginas definitely taste... odd." or "Totally. I feel like a whole new world has opened up for me." 🤔

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 25, 2016, 08:51:56 PM

I probably did/said some other hilarious/cringy shit but my mind is going blank. Probably for my own good.

But hey, I might be getting some more action this week. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 25, 2016, 09:03:37 PM

Oh yeah and while you are executing my instructions she may ask or even beg to be fucked. Do not give into this temptation, is it merely a fight or flight primal response to avoid an uncontrolled orgasmic experience.

"Learn the customer's weaknesses, so that you can better take advantage of him." :quark

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 25, 2016, 10:23:25 PM

Well good for you.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 25, 2016, 10:29:07 PM

Quote from: Jack Remington on December 25, 2016, 09:26:49 PM

PD and I know what's up: a chick's reaction to a cock can be one of the hottest things ever.

::)

This is why we need to lock the Relationship thread.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 25, 2016, 11:00:32 PM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on December 25, 2016, 10:29:07 PM

This is why we need to lock the Relationship thread.

Pallandos work is not done

(http://i.imgur.com/oE1qSy4.jpg)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 25, 2016, 11:05:38 PM

Quote from: nudemacusers on December 25, 2016, 08:28:26 PM

Palla just finger her while licking her clit and slurping it up like a bowl of ramen until she turn into a shuddering pile of goo. Don't stop even if it takes an hour. Srs.

Merry Christmas.

Not all girls enjoy heavy clit penetration, some chicks are super sensitive about it. Just make sure you listen to her, and if she isn't talkative ask her what she wants you to do.

But in general yea, that's my go to move and it almost always works.
:rejoice

Her g-spot is gonna feel like a ridged button. You might not find it in these early sex days but you're going to find that shit one day bro - just remember the "come hither" beckoning finger motion. And when you do
(https://67.media.tumblr.com/3dd6f444780bb83c97a15d1234457456/tumblr_inline_o50kncpMnH1tkl9wr_500.gif)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 26, 2016, 12:31:57 AM

Ya but is your sister worth the 120$ wrath?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 26, 2016, 04:33:40 AM

I don't really know what you did for Atra. It just seems like he kept up on tinder and eventually got lucky. It's not like he went out and romanced a person in person.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: fistfulofmetal on December 26, 2016, 07:53:58 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 26, 2016, 04:33:40 AM

I don't really know what you did for Atra. It just seems like he kept up on tinder and eventually got lucky. It's not like he went out and romanced a person in person.

Dude either you're just a shit heel troll or you're completely wrapped in your own delusion. Dude literally grinded away dating girl after girl using his failures as lessons and building off of them until he finally struck good. So how about you go fuck off for a little while because we're being happy for someone over here and don't really have interest in coddling your fragile little fantasy imagination.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 26, 2016, 07:56:33 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 26, 2016, 04:33:40 AM

I don't really know what you did for Atra.

are you not paying attention? he dressed up as a chubby latina woman and allowed pallando to enter him after only a short round of seduction over tinder, text, and in-person.

or am i not following along correctly ???

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 26, 2016, 08:03:14 AM

It's a lot easier to sulk and wallow in your own bullshit than make changes to your life. The internet's downside is that it can provide echo chambers to just reinforce the attitude that you don't have to make any changes or improvements to your life. Internet should never take the place of real life, real friends, etc.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 26, 2016, 08:22:10 AM

Quote from: Dufus on December 26, 2016, 07:58:58 AM

I'm not so sure. I think ultimately the internet has helped. The "woe is me" mentality has been around for much longer than the internet. :doge

goes both ways; the internet can help but it can also allow for congregation of geographically distant young werthers to stew in their own collective misery.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 26, 2016, 08:58:45 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 26, 2016, 04:33:40 AM

I don't really know what you did for Atra. It just seems like he kept up on tinder and eventually got lucky. It's not like he went out and romanced a person in person.

lmao. You're such an idiot.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Boogie on December 26, 2016, 10:16:29 AM

Quote from: thisismyusername on December 26, 2016, 08:58:45 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 26, 2016, 04:33:40 AM
I don't really know what you did for Atra. It just seems like he kept up on tinder and eventually got lucky. It's not like he went out and romanced a person in person.

lmao. You're such an idiot.

internet dating doesn't count. Nevermind all the people who actually get married after meeting online these days.

Same with getting set up by mutual friends, or by meeting people through mutual activities or hobbies. Unless it comes from cold approaching women at a grocery store, bar, or coffee shop, your sex or relationship doesn't count. Everyone knows that.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Samson Manhug on December 26, 2016, 12:29:27 PM

I lost my virginity in 2002 thanks to AIM. Frankly, people still dating in analog are the weirdos these days.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 26, 2016, 12:34:22 PM

Quote from: fistfulofmetal on December 26, 2016, 07:53:58 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 26, 2016, 04:33:40 AM
I don't really know what you did for Atra. It just seems like he kept up on tinder and eventually got lucky. It's not like he went out and romanced a person in person.

Dude either you're just a shit heel troll or you're completely wrapped in your own delusion. Dude literally grinded away dating girl after girl using his failures as lessons and building off of them until he finally struck good. So how about you go fuck off for a little while because we're being happy for someone over here and don't really have interest in coddling your fragile little fantasy imagination.

?

So where does this explain what Shark did for him? Seems like he did everything on his own which was my point. He kept trying at internet dating and eventually got lucky. That's basicly what you're saying here. Because no where did I say he didn't learn anything or not try. I said as far as I can see it was his own effort. It's not like shark set him up with anyone, coached him into approaching women(Tinder makes that easy), or helped him in anyway beyond "here's how should respond to women already willing to talk to you". This is being delusional how?

Quote from: thisismyusername on December 26, 2016, 08:58:45 AM

lmao. You're such an idiot.

Another pompous asshole reply from this bitch. One without any real explanation or attempt at saying anything. I'm beginning to think you have issues, since you feel the need to be a huge douche in every reply. Maybe you're over compensating for something? I don't know.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Himu on December 26, 2016, 12:35:51 PM

Quote from: Samson Manhug on December 26, 2016, 12:29:27 PM

I lost my virginity in 2002 thanks to AIM. Frankly, people still dating in analog are the weirdos these days.

I called a guy and we had phone sex.

In hindsight, I was 15 and I think he was a legal adult.

Chris Hanson, please!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 26, 2016, 12:45:58 PM

I gave shark screenshots of my text conversations and had him critique texts of mine before I sent them so I wouldn't unintentionally say anything weird or off putting. I also asked him general dating questions and what not.

edit: also, there were a ton of girls that I would message, only chat with a little bit, and then they would totally vanish. Online dating truly is a numbers game. But shark was able to give me more of a competitive edge with his experience.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 26, 2016, 01:13:08 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 26, 2016, 12:45:58 PM

I gave shark screenshots of my text conversations and had him critique texts of mine before I sent them so I wouldn't unintentionally say anything weird or off putting. I also asked him general dating questions and what not.

edit: also, there were a ton of girls that I would message, only chat with a little bit, and then they would totally vanish. Online dating truly is a numbers game. But shark was able to give me more of a competitive edge with his experience.

Thanks and you also did'nt feel the need to be a bitch about it like the rest of the forum. I didn't say you didn't do anything, but I didn't really see what shark did beyond the obvious. It hardly seems worth $120 when you can find many places on the internet or people that would do that. Which was my point before people like username decided to fly off the handle.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 26, 2016, 01:26:30 PM

You know what I find interesting? How offended you get when any label is applied to you, yet how quick you are to throw around the labels. My unsolicited advice is you should find ways to develop your capacity for empathy. Maybe look into nonviolent communitcation or something

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 26, 2016, 03:02:51 PM

All the help in the world won't benefit someone who doesn't listen or doesn't put themselves out there. Pallando deserves a lot of credit for confronting his weaknesses and improving his life. You don't get to sit on your lonely pedestal and dismiss his accomplishments, Rahx. Yea Shark helped him a lot but ultimately Shark wasn't the guy going on dates, getting rejected, getting ghosted, persevering, and ultimately finding someone who is cool.

Everybody here was more than willing to help you. This forum has had an all-star cast of virgins who eventually figured it out despite dealing with all types of issues. You think Boogie, Malek, myself etc didn't have anxiety or depression issues? You're not going to be happy or accomplish anything relationship-wise until you TRY. And part of trying means, yes, getting experience, which you don't want to do. So excuse us while we carry on dapping Pallando and prepping Dufus for 2017.

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on December 26, 2016, 03:06:59 PM

Essentially all our advice has consistently boiled down to, "Get out there and try new things!" Its easy to shoot down, but if you don't do that you'll never move beyond where you are now.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 26, 2016, 03:15:11 PM

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Pallando deserves a lot of credit for confronting his weaknesses and improving his life. You don't get to sit on your lonely pedestal and dismiss his accomplishments, Rahx. Yea Shark helped him a lot but ultimately Shark wasn't the guy going on dates, getting rejected, getting ghosted, persevering, and ultimately finding someone who is cool.

I believe that's what I said. I'm not sure why reading is hard here. I believe I said I doubted that Shark really did much and that he did most of it on his own. I'm not sure where the "dismissing" is coming from, unless it wasn't done mostly through tinder.

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Everybody here was more than willing to help you.

Yeah I don't consider such advice as "get an escort" or "become a different person" to be such worthwhile advice. Also, Atra did'nt really follow most of you people's advice anyway. So I guess the lesson here is don't listen to the bore? One of the big advice things here was for Atra to get an escort. He did'nt and seems happier for it. Well gee I wonder who advocated against that..

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ou're not going to be happy or accomplish anything relationship-wise until you TRY. And part of trying means, yes, getting experience, which you don't want to do

I also have a tinder. Which seemed to be all Atra needed to begin here. Also experience here requires another party, if I'm not given a chance there's nothing I can really do and well internet dating hasn't helped there.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 26, 2016, 05:42:40 PM

I think the biggest issue that I see with most guys who have a hard time getting with women is that they take themselves WAAAY too seriously (and this was me not too long ago).

The girl that I'm currently dating and lost my virginity to noticed that about me. I don't let shit phase me or at least not for very long. She likes being around me because I don't make a big deal out of things and can keep my cool when shit gets weird. Also, I like to joke around and make jokes about myself so she doesn't feel too weird about her self and thus feels normal/comfortable around me. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 26, 2016, 06:02:25 PM

just remember

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kMIC1LO2PWQ?t=3m55s
(3:55)

;)

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 26, 2016, 07:25:15 PM

Holy shit I've been thinking Kissvibes was Wrath for like a week. Name changes are confusing and should be disallowed.

Also I want to change my name to Madrun Badrun please.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 26, 2016, 07:51:11 PM

I'm stupid? You just reiterated that you'd like those shoes for help. Your implying that it's not completely free in a sentence where your telling me I'm an idiot for thinking it's not free?

How does that work?

Oh no I don't have your help? What will I do without something that hasn't effected me at all!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on December 26, 2016, 07:53:16 PM

Again this is why we need to lock this thread and send it to the Hall of Fame. Pallando losing his virginity was the highlight of this thread, there was no other way this thread could go but down.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: nudemacusers on December 26, 2016, 08:02:43 PM

Quote from: (((Mary Tyler Whore))) on December 26, 2016, 07:53:16 PM

Again this is why we need to lock this thread and send it to the Hall of Fame. Pallando losing his virginity was the highlight of this thread, there was no other way this thread could go but down.

Someone could go gay and start this process all over. :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 26, 2016, 08:18:55 PM

Quote from: KissVibes on December 26, 2016, 08:01:54 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 26, 2016, 07:51:11 PM
I'm stupid? You just reiterated that you'd like those shoes for help. Your implying that it's not completely free in a sentence where your telling me I'm an idiot for thinking it's not free?

How does that work?

Oh no I don't have your help? What will I do without something that hasn't effected me at all!

I was being sarcastic you fucking robot.

If you still live in Chicago please move elsewhere. I don't like you being in such close proximity. I don't want to worry about getting shot one night because you got rejected. Again.

Are you being sarcastic now? How am I supposed to know when you're being sarcastic when this is how you normally post?

I'm kind of offended that you think I'm going to kill someone though. I've never shown any aspirations towards that. Seems like your taking this a bit too seriously..

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 26, 2016, 09:11:15 PM

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 26, 2016, 09:22:59 PM

We can change the topic to me finding a ring for my lady.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 26, 2016, 09:23:47 PM

Oh sure something less dark like the diamond trade

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 26, 2016, 09:24:49 PM

Well fuck you too then :(

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Tasty on December 26, 2016, 09:32:48 PM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 26, 2016, 04:33:40 AM

It's not like he went out and romanced a person in person.

Don't be this guy.

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=374209

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 26, 2016, 10:02:08 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on December 26, 2016, 09:22:59 PM

We can change the topic to me finding a ring for my lady.

Congrats

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Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 26, 2016, 11:13:11 PM

The girl I'm dating snapped me a pic of her cleavage and said she was home alone tonight. :doge

*grabs keys, lube, and condoms*

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 26, 2016, 11:14:39 PM

Needing lube :doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 26, 2016, 11:15:56 PM

Quote from: BrandNew on December 26, 2016, 11:14:39 PM

Needing lube :doge

:doge

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Madrun Badrun on December 26, 2016, 11:15:57 PM

Its a bit weird to reference her as the girl your dating when we all know you've only seen her twice. Its proper to refer to her as your bit of tang at this stage of the relationship.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 26, 2016, 11:24:35 PM

Quote from: Pallando on December 26, 2016, 05:42:40 PM

I think the biggest issue that I see with most guys who have a hard time getting with women is that they take themselves WAAAY too seriously (and this was me not too long ago).

The girl that I'm currently dating and lost my virginity to noticed that about me. I don't let shit phase me or at least not for very long. She likes being around me because I don't make a big deal out of things and can keep my cool when shit gets weird. Also, I like to joke around and make jokes about myself so she doesn't feel too weird about her self and thus feels normal/comfortable around me. :doge

I guess after one Tinder sex date you're a complete expert on relationships? I guess Shark taught you well.

Going to be one of those clingy dudes though.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: tiesto on December 26, 2016, 11:33:17 PM

Don't close the thread! I just jumped back into the dating pool and I promise some silly/ridiculous/entertaining stories in the future!

Plus there's always the slight hope that Rahx will start to confront his issues and work towards being the best Rahx he can be.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 27, 2016, 12:19:12 AM

Quote from: KissVibes on December 26, 2016, 11:40:12 PM

Congrats to Brand New!!

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 26, 2016, 08:18:55 PM
Quote from: KissVibes on December 26, 2016, 08:01:54 PM
Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 26, 2016, 07:51:11 PM
I'm stupid? You just reiterated that you'd like those shoes for help. Your implying that it's not completely free in a sentence where your telling me I'm an idiot for thinking it's not free?

How does that work?

Oh no I don't have your help? What will I do without something that hasn't effected me at all!

I was being sarcastic you fucking robot.

If you still live in Chicago please move elsewhere. I don't like you being in such close proximity. I don't want to worry about getting shot one night because you got rejected. Again.
Are you being sarcastic now? How am I supposed to know when you're being sarcastic when this is how you normally post?

I'm kind of offended that you think I'm going to kill someone though. I've never shown any aspirations towards that. Seems like your taking this a bit too seriously..

I'll make sure to label all my posts going forward just for your stupid ass.

You're insane, extremely fucking bitter and have a warped view of reality/yourself. You also spoke about it being easier to acquire a gun. Of course I worry you're going to kill someone, you fuckin' nutjob.

I'm not being sarcastic.

I mean the gun one was clearly a joke, but I guess sarcasm is a one road street here.

I'm not insane at all, but sure I'm bitter.

I don't know where this "warped view" thing came from. I clearly don't see myself as anything but a loser, so it's not like I'm overstating my worth.

But don't worry, I'm not interested in buying a gun.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 27, 2016, 12:25:25 AM

Pallando's gonna pull the ultimate virgin move and marry this girl.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: TakingBackSunday on December 27, 2016, 12:40:38 AM

Joking about buying a gun for suicidel actions will eventually lead to legitimate suicide attempts. Get help.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 27, 2016, 01:16:20 AM

I doubt he's been in my position. Whatever that is. Even after following this thread I'm not quite sure what he did. He didn't have to work out, get new hobbies, invent new personality traits. Just work on confidence and not being creepy or whatever. He also seemed to luck out with getting plenty of quality Tinder matches with little effort. Sure many may have ghosted him, but they did at least interact with him with little effort on his end. So no I'm not sure what he did.

And I'm calling him out for using lines like the "girl I've been dating" in his expert posts because he's only known this girl for a few days and it still seems like little more then a Tinder sex fling.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 27, 2016, 01:34:00 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 27, 2016, 01:16:20 AM

Just work on confidence and not being creepy or whatever.

If you did just those two things and nothing else I guarantee even you could fuck someone.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Rahxephon91 on December 27, 2016, 01:44:45 AM

Quote from: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 27, 2016, 01:34:00 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 27, 2016, 01:16:20 AM
Just work on confidence and not being creepy or whatever.

If you did just those two things and nothing else I guarantee even you could fuck someone.

Im not creepy in real life and I've already had sex.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 27, 2016, 01:46:26 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 27, 2016, 01:44:45 AM

Quote from: FreeNudeLyleLanley on December 27, 2016, 01:34:00 AM
Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 27, 2016, 01:16:20 AM
Just work on confidence and not being creepy or whatever.

If you did just those two things and nothing else I guarantee even you could fuck someone.
Im not creepy in real life and I've already had sex.

I meant consensual sex.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: CatsCatsCats on December 27, 2016, 01:46:51 AM

So what kinda cut are you looking at, BrandNew?

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Atramental on December 27, 2016, 03:51:33 AM

Quote from: Pallando on December 26, 2016, 11:13:11 PM

The girl I'm dating snapped me a pic of her cleavage and said she was home alone tonight. :doge

*grabs keys, lube, and condoms*

*just got back from round 3* :aah

Sex is pretty great, brehs.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Beezy on December 27, 2016, 04:47:46 AM

:mynicca

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Huff on December 27, 2016, 09:34:50 AM

Real talk rahx, finding someone to like you when you hate yourself is usually not doable.

People here arnt joking when they say you should find someone to talk to.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: thisismyusername on December 27, 2016, 09:47:03 AM

Quote from: tiesto on December 26, 2016, 11:33:17 PM

Plus there's always the slight hope that Rahx will start to confront his issues and work towards being the best Rahx he can be.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I_aEjIfcoUk

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on December 27, 2016, 08:00:35 AM

Jeez at the jealousy dripping out of every Rahx post, liking every joke making fun of Pallando. :lol

Because he knows we're all right and he won't change his shitty attitude, so he's going to die alone.

Says the master of going to die alone. But seriously dudes: Ignore Rah and move on. Maybe he'll get the hint to go to TrueCels and whine about nobody loving him there until he gets hit by a piano, has an epiphany and starts being less a turd.

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on December 27, 2016, 01:46:51 AM

So what kinda cut are you looking at, BrandNew?

Cut di~~ck :kobeyuck~~amonds :kobeyuck

Quote from: 213372bu on December 27, 2016, 12:59:40 AM

Meanwhile it seems like you're actively making a point to do as little as possible and you make sure to only pay attention to posts that you think/are slights against you.

That's Rah's MO though. That's why I've stated to ignore him completely. He's attention seeking.

Quote from: Jack Remington on December 27, 2016, 01:14:45 AM

Quote from: Rahxephon91 on December 26, 2016, 04:33:40 AM
I don't really know what you did for Atra. It just seems like he kept up on tinder and eventually got lucky. It's not like he went out and romanced a person in person.

You still have to romance the person in person after you meet them. It's insanely easy to strike out after someone from Tinder or OKC has agreed to go on a date with you.

:preach

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: Phoenix Dark on December 27, 2016, 10:03:20 AM

Quote from: TheInfelicitousDandy on December 26, 2016, 11:15:57 PM

Its a bit weird to reference her as the girl your dating when we all know you've only seen her twice. Its proper to refer to her as your bit of tang at this stage of the relationship.

Fucking lady friend is the proper nomenclature, please.

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on December 27, 2016, 10:03:29 AM

Quote from: BrandNew on December 26, 2016, 09:22:59 PM

We can change the topic to me finding a ring for my lady.

Congrats!

Title: Re: RELATIONSHIPS: The thread of your life tied into a tangled knot
Post by: bork on December 27, 2016, 10:30:39 AM

I'm late on this, but-

Quote from: Pallando on December 24, 2016, 10:19:19 AM

I'm alive.

We fucked twice.

More details to come soon. ;)

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Title: Re: Pallando will return in "Never Say Never Again"
Post by: Joe Molotov on December 27, 2016, 10:52:28 AM

Pallando can start the new thread since he won this one.

Title: Re: Pallando will return in "Never Say Never Again"
Post by: bork on December 27, 2016, 10:59:20 AM

That new thread title :lol

THE BORE

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