Author Topic: an OKCupid IM chat (Read 4550 times)

recursivelyenumerable · « **on:** April 13, 2009, 04:11:59 AM »

(11:11:58 PM) me: i just messaged someone i think i've met or quasi-met in real life
(11:12:02 PM) me: mentioning that
(11:12:23 PM) interlocutor: oh, weird!
(11:13:10 PM) me: and now i'm afraid i've made a horrible mistake, and if i ever run into her again wherever i may or may not have met her before, the air will be thick with awkwardness
(11:13:32 PM) me: i've actually seen quite a few of my matches around town
(11:14:19 PM) me: in fact, someone who I'd already IM'd before I moved back here turned out to just happen to live three blocks away from me
(11:14:42 PM) interlocutor: nothing like that has happened to me!
(11:15:11 PM) me: it's probably a Portland thing
(11:20:31 PM) me: she (woman I just mentioned) hasn't responded
(11:21:05 PM) me: shit, I think I "know" her just because we're both regulars at the coffeeshop a block down the street
(11:21:20 PM) me: which makes my claiming I'd actually met her somewhere sort of creepy
(11:21:32 PM) me: and increases the chance I'll run into her again there as well
(11:21:51 PM) me: I'm not sure I've ever actually exchanged any words with her
(11:26:40 PM) me: now I want to send her a message saying that my sending her a message before doesn't necessarily indicate any expectation, or even hope, of the possibility of a relationship or whatever between us, and my claim that I'd met her before was not intended to suggest or insinuate any claim of connection or social kinship, and that I didn't and don't necessarily expect her to reply and etc. etc. and please please please please don't make it awkward for me to go to the coffeeshop

(11:26:56 PM) interlocutor: gosh
(11:27:14 PM) interlocutor: It's too late on this coast
(11:27:24 PM) me: bars are closing
(11:27:37 PM) interlocutor: but I wish I could get involved in all that anxiety
(11:27:57 PM) me: yeah, it's pretty romantic
(11:28:09 PM) me: it has that frisson about it
(11:28:16 PM) interlocutor: I just can't do it right before bed
(11:28:20 PM) interlocutor: but I agree
(11:28:49 PM) me: could inspire a great opera
(11:28:51 PM) me: goodnight
(4/13/2009 12:00:51 AM) me: i think i probably used "frisson" incorrectly there

P.S. rather than writing up a separate disclaimer message, I just copy-pasted this log into a message sent to the woman it discusses as well

Mandark · « **Reply #1 on:** April 13, 2009, 04:21:07 AM »

You should write a story about a man who avoids a place every time he thinks he's created an awkward situation with someone he's likely to meet there. He's so neurotic that eventually he considers the entire community off-limits and he becomes a hermit.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #2 on:** April 13, 2009, 04:25:12 AM »

Quote

Where does one even begin with a post like this?

you could start by acknowledging how fuckin' awesome it is

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #3 on:** April 13, 2009, 04:35:29 AM »

even "frisson"?

Kara · « **Reply #4 on:** April 13, 2009, 04:39:59 AM »

the stench of failure

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #5 on:** April 13, 2009, 04:46:17 AM »

she was just one of a bunch of people I messaged and I'm not necessarily attracted to her in particular. I just want to avoid awkwardness.

my interlocutor was one of the other female OKC users I messaged today, btw.

Mandark · « **Reply #6 on:** April 13, 2009, 04:47:20 AM »

Quote from: Green Shinobi on April 13, 2009, 04:44:31 AM

inculocutor sounds like a pretty swell guy.

Father Mike, that you?

drohne · « **Reply #7 on:** April 13, 2009, 05:01:50 AM »

'frisson' was one of those words i serially misused in my heedless youth when i thought i knew what a word meant if i'd seen it in context

i think i thought it was somehow culinary

fistfulofmetal · « **Reply #8 on:** April 13, 2009, 06:50:03 AM »

this is like looking into a mirror of my future self. you'd think with this information i could actually better my self but oh ho ho you'd be surprised

Barry Egan · « **Reply #9 on:** April 13, 2009, 08:25:55 AM »

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on April 13, 2009, 04:11:59 AM

P.S. rather than writing up a separate disclaimer message, I just copy-pasted this log into a message sent to the woman it discusses as well

Eric P · « **Reply #10 on:** April 13, 2009, 11:02:57 AM »

Quote from: Mandark on April 13, 2009, 04:21:07 AM

You should write a story about a man who avoids a place every time he thinks he's created an awkward situation with someone he's likely to meet there. He's so neurotic that eventually he considers the entire community off-limits and he becomes a hermit.

except throw in a zap gun and sell it to astounding stories!

BlueTsunami · « **Reply #11 on:** April 13, 2009, 01:33:48 PM »

If one thing clear, from reading your previously posted IMs, you tend to throw way to many messages before the girl even responds.

I also love when the girl switches topics in the message, that's the verbal equivalent of "Sooooooooo" *changes subject*

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #12 on:** April 13, 2009, 02:14:27 PM »

That's a value deal. Buy 1 message, get 6 free.

(fwiw, the logs I've posted here are kind of a skewed sample because they're usually edited or selected to not reveal much about the woman I'm talking to, because she didn't sign on to having her chat log posted on message boards and I don't want to be creepier than I already am.)

tiesto · « **Reply #13 on:** April 13, 2009, 02:52:30 PM »

I've never used the OKC IM feature... sounds like you can meet some interesting people with it, probably a bit easier and more instantaneous than sending out emails to people who will probably not respond.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #14 on:** April 13, 2009, 02:55:48 PM »

most women there don't like being IM'd out of the blue, though, plus the IM client is a POS. this particular log was actually of a chat via AIM.

CHOW CHOW · « **Reply #15 on:** April 13, 2009, 08:22:52 PM »

how is this guy not an icon?

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #16 on:** April 13, 2009, 08:27:31 PM »

Political bullshit, you know how it goes.

demi · « **Reply #17 on:** April 13, 2009, 08:34:49 PM »

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on April 13, 2009, 08:27:31 PM

Political bullshit, you know how it goes.

Look at you, growing a backbone. Breaking character?

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #18 on:** April 13, 2009, 08:44:57 PM »

My character is too complex for you to grasp, apparently.

demi · « **Reply #19 on:** April 13, 2009, 08:48:18 PM »

That might work if I were a woman

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #20 on:** April 13, 2009, 09:02:21 PM »

I recommend becoming a woman, then.

demi · « **Reply #21 on:** April 13, 2009, 09:06:58 PM »

I don't think I am missing out on much

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #22 on:** April 13, 2009, 09:10:47 PM »

You would if you could, but you can't so you won't.

demi · « **Reply #23 on:** April 13, 2009, 09:18:57 PM »

Are we talking about you or me

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #24 on:** April 13, 2009, 09:21:33 PM »

this is much better than the dumb video gs posted, btw

CHOW CHOW · « **Reply #25 on:** April 13, 2009, 10:21:49 PM »

You two have quite a rapport

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #26 on:** April 13, 2009, 11:02:41 PM »

I liked Anatol Rapoport's introduction to my copy of Clausewitz

Eric P · « **Reply #27 on:** April 14, 2009, 12:01:32 AM »

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on April 13, 2009, 11:02:41 PM

I liked Anatol Rapoport's introduction to my copy of Clausewitz

that's not cool

my grandfather died at clausewitz

he fell out of the guard tower.

Bebpo · « **Reply #28 on:** April 14, 2009, 12:26:56 AM »

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on April 13, 2009, 09:21:33 PM

this is much better than the dumb video gs posted, btw

Bjork is really cute. Too bad she doesn't use OKCupid IM Chat. :'(

This thread makes me want to start using OKCupid again. Maybe next week I'll give it another shot.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #29 on:** April 14, 2009, 01:46:43 AM »

It's pretty good if you like nerds and weirdos and hipsters (and I do). I actually made three non-fail contacts this weekend, but the real problem is that I'm ambivalent about the whole idea of dating or meeting anyone.

drohne · « **Reply #30 on:** April 14, 2009, 03:38:10 AM »

tiesto · « **Reply #31 on:** April 14, 2009, 10:14:55 AM »

Some girl sent me a wink yesterday on OKC, she seems like your typical Irish barhopper girl but she's decent looking. I wish I met some cute nerds, weirdos and hipsters off there, I would probably have a tad more in common with them.

Eric P · « **Reply #32 on:** April 14, 2009, 11:58:59 AM »

you should become a coke dealer.

white girls go crazy on coke

tehjaybo · « **Reply #33 on:** April 14, 2009, 12:24:25 PM »

I have never used this site. Is it free? I have developed an interest.

tiesto · « **Reply #34 on:** April 14, 2009, 12:52:29 PM »

Yeah, it's free...

tehjaybo · « **Reply #35 on:** April 14, 2009, 12:54:13 PM »

Well, time to try new things I guess.

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