Does anyone else (married-bore) have them?
I'm specifically talking about my father in-law. Ever since I've known the man, he's not liked me. He's never came right out and said it, and in fact he's lied to my wife and said he doesn't not like me (which is just a way of saying "I don't hate you, but it's close..."). But the man hasn't had a kind word to say to me since the day he drove me to our wedding rehearsal.
That was the day he told me my son would be an abomination. The son he was referring to was the one we had just found out we were going to have, not two months before the wedding. We had already planned to get married, had a date and a place picked out and were going through all the steps to the big day when we found out. We just had to move the wedding date up a bit to accommodate for the baby.
My soon-to-be father in-law hadn't spoken to me much since Amber had told him the news, but she had always said it was nothing major and he would soon forgive us. I found out the day before my wedding just how wrong she could be.
"You know you all are living in sin, don't you?"
"Excuse me?"
"You're a sinner, for sleeping with my daughter, and getting her knocked up like that."
"Memory serves me, we slept together."
"That boy won't be right. He'll be born into sin. He'll be born an abomination."
That was where the conversation ended. I told him I wasn't going to listen to anymore of his crap about my kid. It was never brought up again. But since that day, he's always looked for ways to insult me. In the man's eyes, I never seem to do anything right. He tells people that I'm the "odd" one. My wife has always told me to ignore him and just say as little as possible so as not to provoke him. That strategy was working well until today.
We had a birthday party for my son, Madix. He turned three yesterday. It was a small group that got together, and my father in-law was there. He got Madix a power wheels riding lawnmower for his birthday. Since we live just across the street from the church where we had the party at, he suggested that Madix be allowed to ride the toy home while we watched him. I pointed out that I thought it would be a bad idea because I didn't want Madix to think it was okay to ride his new toy anywhere he wanted to at anytime. He's three for Christ's sake. He doesn't always stop to think if his mommy or daddy are watching him.
"What are you? A fucking idiot? Aren't you going to stop and carry him across the damn road in front of your house?"
"I didn't mean it like that. I don't want him to get the wrong idea about going anytime or anywhere he pleases on that thing."
"I've never heard such a load of bullshit in my life. You're a dumbass. This is a bunch of damned non-sense."
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To summarize: I've told my wife that I'm done with the man. I don't owe him a fucking thing in life. I don't want him around my son if he's going to talk and act like that. Besides, why would he want to be around his abomination of a grand child in the first place? My wife is upset at me for it. I don't quite get that. But then again, I guess if my parents abandoned me until I was 17 and then my father shows up in my life and says he's done with his crazier days and wants to be the all-American dad now, but still treat me like shit in real life; I'd do anything to defend that too.
This turned into a vent/rant. I apologize for that. If you made it this far, thanks.
