Author Topic: Pallando will return in "Never Say Never Again" (Read 806821 times)

Reb · « **Reply #3240 on:** March 19, 2013, 04:27:26 AM »

I dunno guys, sounds like he deserves it.

G The Resurrected · « **Reply #3241 on:** March 19, 2013, 04:34:05 AM »

I must state this is not normal behavior, but has progressed over the past few weeks.

We've been dealing with a lot of stressful things in our lives. Between her dad (gulfwar vet with PTSD) going crazy and being put into the hospital. And them putting him into our care since they don't have room for inpatient treatment. Then my work situation since I lost my job back in January, and her schooling which is not going anywhere due to her classes not being available. And top that off with her resentment towards me cause I won't have a wedding with her till we get our lives in order. And last but not least our continued issues with infertility which is due to her body not producing the natural enzymes that the sperm need to survive. We don't have the money to afford IVF.

I have loved this girl for a long time and was committed from the get go. Through a 5 year long distance relationship, and now 6 years living together.

Shadow Mod · « **Reply #3242 on:** March 19, 2013, 04:40:00 AM »

Quote from: G The Resurrected on March 19, 2013, 04:34:05 AM

I must state this is not normal behavior, but has progressed over the past few weeks.

We've been dealing with a lot of stressful things in our lives. Between her dad (gulfwar vet with PTSD) going crazy and being put into the hospital. And them putting him into our care since they don't have room for inpatient treatment. Then my work situation since I lost my job back in January, and her schooling which is not going anywhere due to her classes not being available. And top that off with her resentment towards me cause I won't have a wedding with her till we get our lives in order. And last but not least our continued issues with infertility which is due to her body not producing the natural enzymes that the sperm need to survive. We don't have the money to afford IVF.

I have loved this girl for a long time and was committed from the get go. Through a 5 year long distance relationship, and now 6 years living together.

Okay given the time and circumstances I understand a bit better but violence is something that strikes me as a "get the hell out now" situation. All of the violent relationships I've come across it never stops unless someone dies or the couple breaks up. =/.

Rufus · « **Reply #3243 on:** March 19, 2013, 04:52:00 AM »

Wow. I'm just gonna echo what Cormacaroni said:

Quote from: Cormacaroni on March 19, 2013, 03:55:55 AM

You could have died and she could be in jail - you need to make sure that it doesn't happen again 'cause being lonely beats being dead

chronovore · « **Reply #3244 on:** March 19, 2013, 06:52:23 AM »

Yeah, I'm with Cormacaroni and the rest of the common-sense speakers here: you can't help her if she doesn't want help, there is NOTHING you have done which can legitimately lead to violence from her, despite your own problematic past, you don't owe it to anyone to suffer through the same yourself. This isn't penance.

If she isn't willing to immediately commit to nonviolence and seeking help for this, you need to GTFO and get on with life.

I'll go a step further and say you can't get married with her unless this is solved and, for god's sake, don't bring a child into this picture.

Mupepe · « **Reply #3245 on:** March 19, 2013, 08:26:11 AM »

what the fuck, G? I don't give a shit. You should have been gone when it turned to violence. I would have been gone when she turned passive agressive psycho like you says she did a few weeks ago. Quit enabling this shit by still being there.

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #3246 on:** March 19, 2013, 08:46:57 AM »

You should leave and tell her she needs to seek help or else you're done with her. There's no excuse for her hitting you, especially not multiple times over nothing. She has tried to stab you and has hit you with items that could kill you...dude, remove yourself before it's too late.

If she cannot recognize this is a problem it's time to move on.

hampster · « **Reply #3247 on:** March 19, 2013, 09:10:08 AM »

Wow G, that’s terrible. I hope things turn out okay (either through therapy or someone leaving).

My step mom did similar things to my dad. She would hit him and throw shit at him while arguing. Then she would dare him to hit her so she could call the cops. That shit went on for years. They should have split long ago but never did

I've barely spoken to them in 10 years. Hopefully it’s better now. Just not dealing with kids probably helps. I never had anger issues until my kid came along. I never hit anyone or anything, but I do have two broken MP3 players to my name, one broken electric spongebob toothbrush and countless bottles of water that were thrown (not at people). Shit is stressful (Jeff Green talked about this a bit on the recent Tested Dadcast and he was spot on).

If things are bad now I'd hate to see what would happen when you add sleep deprivation into the mix

G The Resurrected · « **Reply #3248 on:** March 19, 2013, 10:29:58 AM »

I ended up sleeping in the car last night. Can't really sleep when it's cold. I couldn't sleep much since I was all screwed up with a bad headache. So I decided to feed our cats since they were hungry and I forgot to feed them last night. I mistakengly awoke the sleeping dragon. She threw my ass out of the house. I am gonna wait a while, but I'm gonna get some clothing and go somewhere away from this shit.

Rufus · « **Reply #3249 on:** March 19, 2013, 11:07:14 AM »

Welp, good luck. Might want to get that headache checked out as well.

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #3250 on:** March 19, 2013, 11:42:53 AM »

Do you feel dizzy or disorientated?

ToxicAdam · « **Reply #3251 on:** March 19, 2013, 11:52:25 AM »

When things calm down a bit, I would approach her and tell her that you want to make things work out, but if it ever comes to violence like that again you will be calling the police.

Then make sure you call the police when it happens again. Not just for yourself, but for the next guy that might get involved with her.

Most guys let too many women get away with this shit, because we are too proud to get other people involved. The women never learn their lesson and keep using violence when they get frustrated with life.

G The Resurrected · « **Reply #3252 on:** March 19, 2013, 02:38:36 PM »

Well this day is just fucked. I went to get my head checked out only to come find the police waiting for me. She said that I couldn't take the car and so what I did was theft. Wtf seriously so I'm waiting for her to come pick up the car with the police waiting by my side. I've explained as much as I can in hopes they don't try and let her charge me.

Barry Egan · « **Reply #3253 on:** March 19, 2013, 02:42:59 PM »

it's over dude. the relationship is dead.

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #3254 on:** March 19, 2013, 02:57:31 PM »

There's no reconciling now, dude. You have to move on, you deserve way better.

BlackMage · « **Reply #3255 on:** March 19, 2013, 03:03:58 PM »

This isn't another lie to get attention is it?

Huff · « **Reply #3256 on:** March 19, 2013, 03:07:51 PM »

G, you gotta bail unless she checks herself into some kind of rehab.

chronovore · « **Reply #3257 on:** March 21, 2013, 07:44:31 AM »

G, it seems like you want to help her, but she's the only one who can initiate change in herself. You need to protect yourself. Bail and check in after a year or two have passed. See if she's straightened out.

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #3258 on:** March 21, 2013, 11:43:01 AM »

messaging this girl on OKC and she gets back to me like right away but she adds nothing to the conversation and i have to do all the work

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #3259 on:** March 21, 2013, 11:55:01 AM »

:leo red dot?

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #3260 on:** March 21, 2013, 12:16:10 PM »

dis girl im talking to is p cute and nice but she converts like a dead snail. wondering when I should just ask her out for a date but she gives such nonansewrs i bet she would non answer that

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #3261 on:** March 21, 2013, 12:43:53 PM »

ty Eschaton friend

BlackMage · « **Reply #3262 on:** March 21, 2013, 01:20:28 PM »

Met a girl last night for a drink! She was very cool and talkative and cute.

We aren't going out on a 2nd date until Tuesday. We will see how this one plays out.

Bebpo · « **Reply #3263 on:** March 21, 2013, 06:08:32 PM »

Birthday Power!

Congrats man

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #3264 on:** March 21, 2013, 06:42:31 PM »

i blew it like a puss

i was too scared to ask her

bring on the next chubby white girl

G The Resurrected · « **Reply #3265 on:** March 22, 2013, 08:55:01 PM »

Quote from: chronovore on March 21, 2013, 07:44:31 AM

G, it seems like you want to help her, but she's the only one who can initiate change in herself. You need to protect yourself. Bail and check in after a year or two have passed. See if she's straightened out.

So a small update of what was going on earlier this week. After waiting for more than two hours with the cops, she finally came to pick up the car. At which time she became belligerent and highly hostile towards me for no reason. They determined that she was a threat to herself and those around her. So they took her in for a 51-50 which got us to get to a doctor for evaluation. Upon getting there and waiting for god know's how long she was seen and they determined she would be more comfortable at home. They sedated her and gave her a few mild psychotropic drugs.

Later on in the week I got her to see a psychiatrist and start up some counseling/anger management sessions. So far things have been much more calmer, but she is very emotional still. Xanax seems to be helping the most by leveling out the rage and emotions. I've been trying my best to keep her focused on doing things that are productive so she gets wore out mentally and doesn't have time to dwell on stuff for too long. It's been working, but its been really hard dealing with a broken human being.

We went on a little day trip up to the mountains and took a awesome little drive through the redwoods and into SF city for a while. We're planning on going back to SF for the Bioshock launch, which she is obsessing over. Heck she's got me cosplaying as Booker, not something I wanted to do but something she wanted me to do. I guess its all about small compromises and communication. I know our relationship isn't perfect, but at least we're both working on it together now. It's a small step in the right direction I hope.

Van Cruncheon · « **Reply #3266 on:** March 22, 2013, 09:05:45 PM »

Quote from: The Business on March 19, 2013, 07:16:06 AM

You ruined her favorite meal and blamed the CAFO chicken first instead of your seasoning, you stupid asshole. Then you went on the Internet and told the world your wife was beating you. If I were her I'd lay low for a while but you'd get it eventually.

i lol'd

Van Cruncheon · « **Reply #3267 on:** March 22, 2013, 09:09:44 PM »

g, in 2 days she's turned around? my bullshit meter is ringin' all four alarms, here

G The Resurrected · « **Reply #3268 on:** March 22, 2013, 09:13:43 PM »

Not major progress I should note, but at least its better than having her be violent all the damn time. It's not been the most perfect of days, but I'll take it over what it could be. Xanax is one hell of a drug man! No wonder why so many people are on it.

Shadow Mod · « **Reply #3269 on:** March 22, 2013, 09:21:11 PM »

Quote from: G The Resurrected on March 22, 2013, 09:13:43 PM

Not major progress I should note, but at least its better than having her be violent all the damn time. It's not been the most perfect of days, but I'll take it over what it could be. Xanax is one hell of a drug man! No wonder why so many people are on it.

So she's only decent while she's on a cocktail of drugs? =/

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #3270 on:** March 22, 2013, 09:23:44 PM »

Dude. Bail out. When the drugs wear off she'll be back to being disrespectful towards you

G The Resurrected · « **Reply #3271 on:** March 22, 2013, 09:33:27 PM »

Until she learn's how to properly deal with things on her own it might be the only way to keep her sanity in check. I used to be on a combination of medications and with the proper therapy I eventually straightened out. I've been off of med's for more than 7 years now and I've been through some serious emotional event's without falling apart. So I know its possible for her to make the same type of turn around and she seems to be highly receptive to making changes. As long as there is a support system in place to get her the help she needs, I'm optimistic that things will get better and she'll get to that same point that I did.

I hear you guys and I know that it would be easier for me to leave in this situation than it is to stay. I do love her and it pains me to see her struggle through whatever it is she's going through. I know it's not my responsibility to make her better. But I do feel I can help her get to that place and maybe then she might realize that I'm not her enemy but someone who loves her through thick and thin. I'm not in denial about the situation, I know damn well what's happened and have payed the price for her actions. No one should have to put themselves through something like that.

But I don't see her getting any better if I left the situation, she's very reliant upon me. I could leave at any point if things get back to what they were like earlier in the week. And I have no intentions of staying around if she goes back to acting out like that. The doctor said that what she was doing was acting out cause she didn't know how to ask for help. Help she didn't know she needed till she got to that point. They've warned me that staying with her is one of the only things keeping her together and if I wasn't around things would be a lot worse. So it's not been without some level of thought that I'm staying of my own free will.

Van Cruncheon · « **Reply #3272 on:** March 22, 2013, 11:49:56 PM »

wait until the cc debt comes home to roost

dude, this reads like a textbook codependency case

which, with your penchant for emotional dishonesty, reads like a high school textbook case

Van Cruncheon · « **Reply #3273 on:** March 22, 2013, 11:51:42 PM »

paging dr. miletski all up in this

Van Cruncheon · « **Reply #3274 on:** March 22, 2013, 11:54:02 PM »

my advice is to check YOURSELF back into therapy while you still have a line of credit, is wot i'm sayin

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #3275 on:** March 23, 2013, 12:10:36 AM »

In the wise words of one Rick Ross: bust a nut and vanish.

Shaka Khan · « **Reply #3276 on:** March 23, 2013, 12:17:53 AM »

Holy shit I'm mad jelly. The sexy is probably through the roof!

chronovore · « **Reply #3277 on:** March 24, 2013, 06:12:42 AM »

Quote from: BlackMage on March 21, 2013, 01:20:28 PM

Met a girl last night for a drink! She was very cool and talkative and cute. We aren't going out on a 2nd date until Tuesday. We will see how this one plays out.

Wait, I thought you were seeing that Nisha lady. Who is hawt.

Quote from: G The Resurrected on March 22, 2013, 09:33:27 PM

Until she learn's how to properly deal with things on her own it might be the only way to keep her sanity in check. I used to be on a combination of medications and with the proper therapy I eventually straightened out. I've been off of med's for more than 7 years now and I've been through some serious emotional event's without falling apart. So I know its possible for her to make the same type of turn around and she seems to be highly receptive to making changes. As long as there is a support system in place to get her the help she needs, I'm optimistic that things will get better and she'll get to that same point that I did.

I hear you guys and I know that it would be easier for me to leave in this situation than it is to stay. I do love her and it pains me to see her struggle through whatever it is she's going through. I know it's not my responsibility to make her better. But I do feel I can help her get to that place and maybe then she might realize that I'm not her enemy but someone who loves her through thick and thin. I'm not in denial about the situation, I know damn well what's happened and have payed the price for her actions. No one should have to put themselves through something like that.

But I don't see her getting any better if I left the situation, she's very reliant upon me. I could leave at any point if things get back to what they were like earlier in the week. And I have no intentions of staying around if she goes back to acting out like that. The doctor said that what she was doing was acting out cause she didn't know how to ask for help. Help she didn't know she needed till she got to that point. They've warned me that staying with her is one of the only things keeping her together and if I wasn't around things would be a lot worse. So it's not been without some level of thought that I'm staying of my own free will.

You are in a codependent relationship. She's historically violent and abusive. She doesn't need you, you are using her to fill some role in your mental landscape. She needs to get straight, and you can't help her with that; she has to do it on her own. When we eventually hang out, I'd prefer it's not the frying pan brain-damaged version of G. $:-\$

chronovore · « **Reply #3278 on:** March 24, 2013, 10:01:16 AM »

Ah, thanks; got my mages confused...

Robo · « **Reply #3279 on:** March 24, 2013, 09:35:57 PM »

Girls should come with spreadsheets. I don't understand this shit and I want to see some figures.

Robo · « **Reply #3280 on:** March 24, 2013, 09:55:08 PM »

Getting dumped is fun. Now I don't have to shower for the next couple weeks!

demi · « **Reply #3281 on:** March 24, 2013, 09:56:38 PM »

I missed possible G and Roxy antics?

Robo · « **Reply #3282 on:** March 24, 2013, 10:51:07 PM »

I don't know. Too effete, maybe? Self-reflection in this sort of circumstance is invariably a miserable activity, so I'm not considering dwelling on it very much beyond these few dorky posts.

Robo · « **Reply #3283 on:** March 24, 2013, 11:04:40 PM »

Like this:

TEEEPO · « **Reply #3284 on:** March 25, 2013, 12:41:32 AM »

at least you're not _________.

BlackMage · « **Reply #3285 on:** March 25, 2013, 01:30:44 AM »

I'm starting to get serious with this girl.

she's pretty amazing..

Eric P · « **Reply #3286 on:** March 25, 2013, 03:50:18 PM »

relationship advice from a liquor company

Rufus · « **Reply #3287 on:** March 25, 2013, 04:14:44 PM »

He should get a haircut, too. Seriously, what is that? Looks like a lid.

Robo · « **Reply #3288 on:** March 25, 2013, 08:12:29 PM »

Quote from: TEEEPO on March 25, 2013, 12:41:32 AM

at least you're not _________.

I like this game. On one hand, it puts things in a positive perspective, on the other, it made me realize I'm a terrible person and definitely a racist.

Shaka Khan · « **Reply #3289 on:** March 25, 2013, 10:55:27 PM »

Quote from: BlackMage on March 25, 2013, 01:30:44 AM

I'm starting to get serious with this girl. she's pretty amazing..

I'm in a same situation. I don't guys, I just don't know.

Shaka Khan · « **Reply #3290 on:** March 25, 2013, 10:55:44 PM »

Oh I had no idea Robo was moping. Aca-awkward.

Robo · « **Reply #3291 on:** March 26, 2013, 12:59:07 AM »

Naw, I'm over it. I found solace in your inevitable misery. Good luck!

Shaka Khan · « **Reply #3292 on:** March 26, 2013, 01:27:21 AM »

I love you Robo and I'm truly sorry.

If it makes you feel any better I give my thing one more month. I'm mostly good at making first impressions and my big cock can only take me so far.

Robo · « **Reply #3293 on:** March 26, 2013, 03:31:56 AM »

But your big cock is also useful for making a certain person forgive you. hint hint hint hint

Huff · « **Reply #3294 on:** March 30, 2013, 02:33:25 AM »

Local gurl made me put her number in my phone. Told me to get ready for summer time when the bikinis get brought out. Fuck yeah

Now I'm stalking her facebook looking for pics. Feel kinda lame

tiesto · « **Reply #3295 on:** March 30, 2013, 11:37:13 AM »

Got the # of a Hispanic girl on the plane ride home from SD... caught her giving me the eye initially, then saw she was reading "Call of Cthulu" so I was talking to her about that, found out she lived near my favorite local coffee joint, and asked her to go one day. She's a little young though (on her jr. year of college at Parsons School of Design)

Bacchus7 · « **Reply #3296 on:** March 30, 2013, 06:35:47 PM »

Probably.

Olivia Wilde Homo · « **Reply #3297 on:** March 30, 2013, 07:29:46 PM »

Quote from: The Experiment on March 03, 2013, 01:22:07 AM

I'm about GilloD levels of durnk. Girl I went out with earlier this week had sex with me today as a birthday present (I turn 28 on March 3rd) but she was too bony. I've spent too much time jacking it to thick/chubby chick porn these days. So the slump is over but I think this is the worst yet. Going to have to get out there.

Well, this thing is dead. She started talking about marriage already. I had to end it.

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #3298 on:** April 01, 2013, 09:35:12 AM »

i have the worst fucking luck

a cute awesome girl messaged me on okcupid last night we hit it off moved to texting and she asks me out on a date, except I have a real bad head cold right now so I had to tell her it'll be in a few days, which is why I didn't ask her out

why are you so cruel world

tiesto · « **Reply #3299 on:** April 01, 2013, 10:38:13 AM »

Quote from: Exodust SoulBurn on March 30, 2013, 01:36:37 PM

What's wrong with being young? While I love Call of Cthulu in my experience girls who like that tend to be crazy, so tread lightly.

My thing with the GF has been going great. Just now it dawned me that I actually am leaving. We agreed from the start that the moment I step on that plane we'd break up. She already knows i'm leaving, I already know I'm leaving, and at the end of the day my best option is going back to Bozeman to finish my studies. Problem is she is by far the best girl I've dated. We dated a year ago before I left for Bozeman for the second time, been good friends ever since. Found ourselves back together when we met up again in Bahrain. And now I'll be gone again. While I do know we'll keep in touch and if at the same place and single we'd date again in a heart beat, but that;s not certain, you know?

Man I've had to deal with some big boy stuff lately, I wonder if I'm changed because of it.

She's 10 years younger than me, and not old enough to drink yet

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Author Topic: Pallando will return in "Never Say Never Again" (Read 806821 times)