Author Topic: LGBTQIAHP thread for LGBTQIAHP people. Cis scum now allowed! (Read 137072 times)

Himu · « **Reply #360 on:** February 19, 2014, 09:58:19 PM »

I don't agree with Janet at all on either of these things. Children shouldn't be lumped into some giant gender pool but I don't see the harm in calling a child he or she. If they don't identify with that gender, and they tell you, respect that. But trying to apply this to all children is utopian and unrealistic. As for the first point, most of the general population clearly look a specific gender, and again, it is not realistic to not label people as specific genders. They are words used for description for a reason.

Have no idea why you would assume you're a bigot because you disagree with these things, not all transsexuals agree on every issue.

Himu · « **Reply #361 on:** February 19, 2014, 10:19:00 PM »

Some people have the idea that you choose what gender you are. Janet is one of these people. I don't think this is true for the general population. Most of them don't think about their gender or if they're in the right gender. So asking that from the general public is silly. At least to me. So I reserve that strictly for trans individuals. However, some people are the opposite and feel that people aren't born specific genders, but they choose a gender. I disagree with it completely. I was born a boy. The reason I am taking hormones is because I dislike being a man and it makes me unhappy; I prefer estrogen in my body. Me being trans does not erase past history. It happened. Janet comes from the mindset that she was not born a boy, she was born a baby. It is a position I simply do not agree with, though I respect and understand it.

Himu · « **Reply #362 on:** February 20, 2014, 07:57:20 AM »

Agreed. You will meet a lot of naivete and idealism in regards to certain trans individuals. This isn't an insult per se. Because transsexuals are always stuck in their head, for obvious reasons. Honestly, I think she did the movement a disservice in this case, because she is expousing really radical ideas - that tend to be exclusive to the trans community alone - far too fast, too soon. I agree with Janet and her realness campaign, but the whole I was born a baby, not a boy isn't exactly the best way to communicate trans issues. It just isn't that important.

Himu · « **Reply #363 on:** March 03, 2014, 02:03:08 PM »

Guys, I think we're hitting a turning point. I see something transgender related on the news or on tv or on the web (non-trans sites btw) on a weekly basis now. A lot of famous trans people are really getting the word out and representing us. And people who aren't trans are doing the same thing.

Case in point:

http://ideas.time.com/2014/02/28/dont-applaud-jared-letos-transgender-mammy/

Raban · « **Reply #364 on:** March 03, 2014, 03:34:32 PM »

for a while now I've felt like media portrayals of transgender people have been demeaning and insensitive. I saw Dallas Buyers Club in theatres hoping Leto would bring something new to the character, but instead he's simply acting his ass off in yet another cookie-cutter queer.

EDIT: tl;dr Hollywood is out of touch with reality, news@11

Himu · « **Reply #365 on:** March 03, 2014, 03:40:37 PM »

I wouldn't say that. I like the portrayals of trans people in things like Transparent and Orange is the New Black.

Raban · « **Reply #366 on:** March 03, 2014, 03:43:52 PM »

Neither of which come from Hollywood. Both are spawned by the most progressive, technologically forward-thinking producers in the business. Dallas Buyers Club was funded by NBCUniversal which makes me think executives like this were probably involved

Himu · « **Reply #367 on:** March 03, 2014, 03:44:44 PM »

Isn't Hollywood a blanket term for anything in the film industry and not a blanket statement for products actually made in Hollywood?

Himu · « **Reply #368 on:** March 03, 2014, 03:47:26 PM »

Yeah, I'm pretty sure Netflix IS Hollywood. Especially if it uses actresses/actors like Laura Prepon, Taryn Manning, and Jason Biggs.

Raban · « **Reply #369 on:** March 03, 2014, 03:51:56 PM »

Quote from: Formerly Known As Himuro on March 03, 2014, 03:44:44 PM

Isn't Hollywood a blanket term for anything in the film industry and not a blanket statement for products actually made in Hollywood?

wouldn't the latter make more sense? it'd be idiotic to claim "Hollywood" is equivalent to "anything in the film industry". Does that make Antichrist Hollywood? What about Baraka? These are "in the film industry" and couldn't be further from Hollywood bullshit.

Just because Netflix has money doesn't make them Hollywood. It's pretty clear businesses like it and Amazon are more in touch with the modern world than something like FOX. I'm not saying they're innocent and put consumers before themselves, just that they're far more progressive when you compare them to other media companies. However I'll admit that's not saying much.

Quote from: Formerly Known As Himuro on March 03, 2014, 03:47:26 PM

Yeah, I'm pretty sure Netflix IS Hollywood. Especially if it uses actresses/actors like Laura Prepon, Taryn Manning, and Jason Biggs.

a bunch of b-list TV actors are Hollywood now?

Himu · « **Reply #370 on:** March 03, 2014, 03:54:25 PM »

Do you consider Pixar Hollywood? They're based in San Francisco. Labeling Hollywood films as only movies made in Hollywood isn't realistic nor true.

You used a picture from 30 Rock. 30 Rock is made in New York.

Raban · « **Reply #371 on:** March 03, 2014, 03:57:10 PM »

Do you really wanna keep having a semantics argument about "Hollywood" in this thread?

Steve Contra · « **Reply #372 on:** March 03, 2014, 03:57:54 PM »

Himu

Himu · « **Reply #373 on:** March 03, 2014, 03:58:35 PM »

I'm not really the person who brought up Hollywood or the idea that certain shows aren't Hollywood just because they're progressive and not made in LA.

Himu · « **Reply #374 on:** March 03, 2014, 03:59:38 PM »

Quote from: Esch on March 03, 2014, 03:58:57 PM

Like I said, distro brehs. Thats what separates the big and the small in entertainment truly. Netflix is still fairly big distro, just more streamlined and efficient. Forgetting the source of where these things are coming from for a minute, I think we can all agree that something like Orange Is the New Black is relatively popular and definitely acclaimed critically?

Orange is the new Black is clearly Hollywood. The amount of hype, pr and marketing coverage, and popularity have it firmly etched as a mainstream product. If our idea of Hollywood is mainstream film, how is it not Hollywood?

Raban · « **Reply #375 on:** March 03, 2014, 04:11:24 PM »

I'm not sure why I even bothered replying, anymore. idgaf about this news.

Himu · « **Reply #376 on:** March 31, 2014, 06:13:41 PM »

blahblah

Himu · « **Reply #377 on:** March 31, 2014, 06:28:02 PM »

yes. fuck.

CatsCatsCats · « **Reply #378 on:** March 31, 2014, 06:42:21 PM »

Very powerfully written. Thanks for sharing that with us, I hope all the best for you and your family, that they will be supportive and there for you.

Steve Contra · « **Reply #379 on:** March 31, 2014, 06:55:30 PM »

All these years when you asked how I was doing and I answered “Good” or “Okay” the reality of it is that. I was not okay, I was just a very accomplished liar.

Would read better without the "I was just a very accomplished liar."

Otherwise

Van Cruncheon · « **Reply #380 on:** March 31, 2014, 07:06:21 PM »

agreed with contra. other than that, also

Mupepe · « **Reply #381 on:** March 31, 2014, 07:57:46 PM »

Great letter, himu.

Joe Molotov · « **Reply #382 on:** March 31, 2014, 08:21:55 PM »

I just saw this pop up on Netflix, and uh......

Quote

K-11 follows Raymond Saxx Jr. (Goran Visnjic), a powerful record producer who wakes from a drug-induced blackout to find himself locked up and classified "K-11." Plunged into a nightmarish world ruled by a transsexual diva named Mousey (Kate del Castillo), Raymond is truly a fish out of water. Complicating matters are a troubled young transgender named Butterfly (Portia Doubleday), a predatory child molester (Tommy 'Tiny' Lister) and the ruthless Sheriff's Deputy, Lt. Johnson (D.B. Sweeney). Ray's struggle to contact the outside world and regain his freedom seems impossible, but he must learn to navigate this new power structure if he is ever going survive and be in control of his life again.

I noticed all the transwomen are played by ciswomen.

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #383 on:** March 31, 2014, 08:22:39 PM »

nice letter Himu

but we all know the first thing your parents will ask is "...Mupepe banged you didn't he"

Himu · « **Reply #384 on:** March 31, 2014, 08:26:56 PM »

Quote from: Joe Molotov on March 31, 2014, 08:21:55 PM

I just saw this pop up on Netflix, and uh......

Quote
K-11 follows Raymond Saxx Jr. (Goran Visnjic), a powerful record producer who wakes from a drug-induced blackout to find himself locked up and classified "K-11." Plunged into a nightmarish world ruled by a transsexual diva named Mousey (Kate del Castillo), Raymond is truly a fish out of water. Complicating matters are a troubled young transgender named Butterfly (Portia Doubleday), a predatory child molester (Tommy 'Tiny' Lister) and the ruthless Sheriff's Deputy, Lt. Johnson (D.B. Sweeney). Ray's struggle to contact the outside world and regain his freedom seems impossible, but he must learn to navigate this new power structure if he is ever going survive and be in control of his life again.

I noticed all the transwomen are played by ciswomen.

This is a great thing. Usually the mainstream movies just have a man play the part, which is much, much worse depending on the story they're tryin to tell. On the other hand, if a transwoman plays a transwoman I fear that she will then get typecasted. I hope that doesn't happen to Laverne.

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #385 on:** March 31, 2014, 08:30:01 PM »

Good letter. Hope it goes ok for you.

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #386 on:** March 31, 2014, 09:02:12 PM »

Buffalo Bill is not transgendered, but he thinks he is.

brob · « **Reply #387 on:** March 31, 2014, 09:05:59 PM »

Very affecting letter himu.

Himu · « **Reply #388 on:** April 01, 2014, 12:39:52 AM »

I just handed my mom and dad their letters. I'm going for a walk. My heart is beating fast. I'm really scared. Giving him that letter was the bravest thing I've ever done.

Mr. Gundam · « **Reply #389 on:** April 01, 2014, 12:49:55 AM »

Good luck, himu. I seriously hope your family doesn't think this is an April Fools joke based on the date. I can't imagine how hard it was actually give them those letters.

Himu · « **Reply #390 on:** April 01, 2014, 12:58:54 AM »

I'm going to tweet or email that visibility day being on march 31 is a bad idea.

Stoney Mason · « **Reply #391 on:** April 01, 2014, 01:06:09 AM »

Good luck Himuro.

I fully admit there is no way I would have the balls (guts) to do what you've done if I was in your situation. It's simply something I couldn't do. So you are already way more mature and evolved than I could ever be. Hopefully you get the acceptance you are looking for. If not, then use the strength you've developed to deal with situations you can't change.

benjipwns · « **Reply #392 on:** April 01, 2014, 01:08:21 AM »

Now that you wrote the easy letter, it's time to write the one telling them you're a Shenmue fan.

Himu · « **Reply #393 on:** April 01, 2014, 01:32:26 AM »

I could really use a shenmue session right now. That and some weed. I'm finishing up my walk. Shenmue 1 and 2 always cheers me up no matter how shitty my mood so I think I will fire up nulldc when I get home assuming I'm not kicked out.

G The Resurrected · « **Reply #394 on:** April 01, 2014, 01:54:03 AM »

Man thats a horrible april fools joke.. I'm kidding

I really do hope this helps you. And know if your family here loves you already for who you are!

Himu · « **Reply #395 on:** April 01, 2014, 01:58:14 AM »

I got home. Bad feeling about this. Neither have texted or called. When I got home my dad's light was off, and he's sleep I guess? Nothing was said when I walked by his room. The silence tells me everything. I wrote a very personal and open letter and so far I received complete avoidance. I don't how to feel. I always knew this was a possibility, but I kept telling myself that when i walked into the house my dad would there to hug me and tell me it'd be alright.

G The Resurrected · « **Reply #396 on:** April 01, 2014, 02:06:57 AM »

I don't think anything could ever prepare for rejection like this. But don't automatically assume the worst. It might take them time to digest this change. You didn't make this change overnight, give them time. We're here for you.

I know this is very emotional for you, but give it time.

benjipwns · « **Reply #397 on:** April 01, 2014, 02:22:45 AM »

"Sleep on it" really can help people sometimes.

And there's an uncomfortableness to having an important subject lingering whenever you might have come back if he was still up and around. Especially if you're really thinking about it a lot while waiting.

You needed a little space with your walk, he might just need a little more until the morning.

Himu · « **Reply #398 on:** April 01, 2014, 02:26:45 AM »

True. I'm just freaking out.

I got my first gaming headset for free today through gamestop points. My friend said she wants to cheer me up so we are going to kill people in gta online with ACTUAL MEANS OF COMMUNICATION. I'm excited I've never had a headset. I can even hear the game! Great for late nights.

Himu · « **Reply #399 on:** April 01, 2014, 02:30:18 AM »

Just got my first "taco"

G The Resurrected · « **Reply #400 on:** April 01, 2014, 02:56:27 AM »

$:-\$ I'm sorry

We are here for you

Himu · « **Reply #401 on:** April 01, 2014, 03:02:54 AM »

Naw. At least I have a place to stay.

Oblivion · « **Reply #402 on:** April 01, 2014, 03:50:07 AM »

A little help here people. Does this look a genuine woman?

Vizzys · « **Reply #403 on:** April 01, 2014, 04:04:40 AM »

does it matter

Oblivion · « **Reply #404 on:** April 01, 2014, 04:10:17 AM »

Normally no, but in this case, yes.

Human Snorenado · « **Reply #405 on:** April 01, 2014, 10:34:49 AM »

So, what was their reaction? Doing this at all was incredibly brave; doing it while still living with them and in a position to be suddenly homeless if they reacted poorly was something I could never have done.

Mupepe · « **Reply #406 on:** April 01, 2014, 10:36:07 AM »

Psh. Himu would be my couch snuggle bunny if push came to shove. *snuggle*

Himu · « **Reply #407 on:** April 01, 2014, 10:44:47 AM »

This morning my dad reminded he didn't feed the dog before leaving for work. He sounded perfectly normal and I checked to see if his letter was open. It is.

Yeti · « **Reply #408 on:** April 01, 2014, 12:16:38 PM »

It sounds like he has chosen the path of "Don't ask, don't tell". At least for now.

StealthFan · « **Reply #409 on:** April 01, 2014, 01:32:48 PM »

Sometimes parent know, or suspect. Maybe he isn't surprised?

Himu · « **Reply #410 on:** April 01, 2014, 08:56:23 PM »

My dad confronted me. He asked if I wrote that letter and handed it back to me and that we would discuss it when my mom is back home later this week. Just what the fuck. Am I wrong for reacting badly to that?

Stoney Mason · « **Reply #411 on:** April 01, 2014, 09:12:52 PM »

Quote from: Formerly Known As Himuro on April 01, 2014, 08:56:23 PM

My dad confronted me. He asked if I wrote that letter and handed it back to me and that we would discuss it when my mom is back home later this week. Just what the fuck. Am I wrong for reacting badly to that?

My parents would not react very well to such a thing. I think you are going to have to balance your expectations of what you want from their reactions to what their reactions really are. Which is probably confused and very confused at best.

Not saying its right. Just being honest.

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #412 on:** April 01, 2014, 09:14:05 PM »

N your not. It sucks that you didn't get a positive reaction for a parent for something that was so hard for you to do and something that you feel no one should have a negative reaction too. That's got to be painful. But you have to remember that he has certain expectations of you that were just destroyed and that's got to be hard for him. About the only thing you can do is wait and try to e understanding*

Hang in there dude.

*coming from some one who has never had a face anything like this

Yeti · « **Reply #413 on:** April 01, 2014, 09:15:25 PM »

Quote from: Formerly Known As Himuro on April 01, 2014, 08:56:23 PM

My dad confronted me. He asked if I wrote that letter and handed it back to me and that we would discuss it when my mom is back home later this week. Just what the fuck. Am I wrong for reacting badly to that?

well...at least it wasn't outright hostility. Maybe it's just a delaying tactic, giving himself more time to process? $:-\$

FatalT · « **Reply #414 on:** April 01, 2014, 09:18:08 PM »

I feel like he's afraid and is using the "wait for your mom to get home" excuse as a way to delay having to talk to you about it. It's almost like he can't form an opinion about it himself and instead has to see what your mom thinks and go off of that. Lame.

I'm sorry Himumu.

I really want to print that letter out and give it to my parents though. I'd change the date to April 1st and the name to Trisha, then say "April Fools" after they ask me about it.

Positive Touch · « **Reply #415 on:** April 01, 2014, 09:34:47 PM »

isnt that dadspeak for "im mad and dont know how to deal with my emotions so i'll wait for your mom to show up with some empathy"

Himu · « **Reply #416 on:** April 01, 2014, 11:31:38 PM »

He bought me ice cream.

Otosan~

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #417 on:** April 01, 2014, 11:34:03 PM »

Neapolitan?

Himu · « **Reply #418 on:** April 01, 2014, 11:34:53 PM »

Eating ice cream, I'm feeling more positive. Maybe things will be okay until I move to California next year. Maybe, maybe not. But I need to move on anyways.

Himu · « **Reply #419 on:** April 01, 2014, 11:35:08 PM »

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on April 01, 2014, 11:34:03 PM

Neapolitan?

Rainbow sherbert, I shit you not.

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Author Topic: LGBTQIAHP thread for LGBTQIAHP people. Cis scum now allowed! (Read 137072 times)