Japan-Bore, Explain please: "Japanese people can't be bothered with sex."

[Shaka Khan]

Via Hyoushi:

http://www.theguardian.com/world/2013/oct/20/young-people-japan-stopped-having-sex

Japan's under-40s appear to be losing interest in conventional relationships. Millions aren't even dating, and increasing numbers can't be bothered with sex. For their government, "celibacy syndrome" is part of a looming national catastrophe. Japan already has one of the world's lowest birth rates. Its population of 126 million, which has been shrinking for the past decade, is projected to plunge a further one-third by 2060.

Marriage has become a minefield of unattractive choices. Japanese men have become less career-driven, and less solvent, as lifetime job security has waned. Japanese women have become more independent and ambitious. Yet conservative attitudes in the home and workplace persist. Japan's punishing corporate world makes it almost impossible for women to combine a career and family, while children are unaffordable unless both parents work. Cohabiting or unmarried parenthood is still unusual, dogged by bureaucratic disapproval.

Aoyama says the sexes, especially in Japan's giant cities, are "spiralling away from each other". Lacking long-term shared goals, many are turning to what she terms "Pot Noodle love" – easy or instant gratification, in the form of casual sex, short-term trysts and the usual technological suspects: online porn, virtual-reality "girlfriends", anime cartoons. Or else they're opting out altogether and replacing love and sex with other urban pastimes.

Aoyama cites one man in his early 30s, a virgin, who can't get sexually aroused unless he watches female robots on a game similar to Power Rangers.

Aversion to marriage and intimacy in modern life is not unique to Japan. Nor is growing preoccupation with digital technology. But what endless Japanese committees have failed to grasp when they stew over the country's procreation-shy youth is that, thanks to official shortsightedness, the decision to stay single often makes perfect sense. This is true for both sexes, but it's especially true for women. "Marriage is a woman's grave," goes an old Japanese saying that refers to wives being ignored in favour of mistresses. For Japanese women today, marriage is the grave of their hard-won careers.

Around 70% of Japanese women leave their jobs after their first child. The World Economic Forum consistently ranks Japan as one of the world's worst nations for gender equality at work. Social attitudes don't help. Married working women are sometimes demonised as oniyome, or "devil wives". In a telling Japanese ballet production of Bizet's Carmen a few years ago, Carmen was portrayed as a career woman who stole company secrets to get ahead and then framed her lowly security-guard lover José. Her end was not pretty.

Mendokusai translates loosely as "Too troublesome" or "I can't be bothered". It's the word I hear both sexes use most often when they talk about their relationship phobia. Romantic commitment seems to represent burden and drudgery, from the exorbitant costs of buying property in Japan to the uncertain expectations of a spouse and in-laws. And the centuries-old belief that the purpose of marriage is to produce children endures. Japan's Institute of Population and Social Security reports an astonishing 90% of young women believe that staying single is "preferable to what they imagine marriage to be like".

The phenomenon emerged a few years ago with the airing of a Japanese manga-turned-TV show. The lead character in Otomen ("Girly Men") was a tall martial arts champion, the king of tough-guy cool. Secretly, he loved baking cakes, collecting "pink sparkly things" and knitting clothes for his stuffed animals. To the tooth-sucking horror of Japan's corporate elders, the show struck a powerful chord with the generation they spawned

Is Japan providing a glimpse of all our futures? Many of the shifts there are occurring in other advanced nations, too. Across urban Asia, Europe and America, people are marrying later or not at all, birth rates are falling, single-occupant households are on the rise and, in countries where economic recession is worst, young people are living at home. But demographer Nicholas Eberstadt argues that a distinctive set of factors is accelerating these trends in Japan. These factors include the lack of a religious authority that ordains marriage and family, the country's precarious earthquake-prone ecology that engenders feelings of futility, and the high cost of living and raising children.

Japan's 20-somethings are the age group to watch. Most are still too young to have concrete future plans, but projections for them are already laid out. According to the government's population institute, women in their early 20s today have a one-in-four chance of never marrying. Their chances of remaining childless are even higher: almost 40%.

There are many other gems, but I just can't be bothered with quoting all of them.

[Yulwei]

They should import foreigners to have sex with their women since no one else will.

[demi]

no stinky in my pinky

[MCD]

[Trent Dole]

Im reading a coli topic about this now and some dude from Japan is blaming it on how easy it is to pay for pussy

I don't doubt it http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prostitution_in_Japan#Prostitution_today

[Joe Molotov]

2D >>> 3D

[Madrun Badrun]

I think I turned Japanese. 

[Phoenix Dark]

Would you want to deal with women crying a the faintest, 2 inch penetration? And likewise if you were a woman, would you even bother with 2 inch penetration?

[DCharlieJP]

Would you want to deal with women crying a the faintest, 2 inch penetration? And likewise if you were a woman, would you even bother with 2 inch penetration?

I don't think basing your knowledge of sex with japanese people on japanese porn that is clearly serving a male
market that enjoys subservience is a great idea

[CatsCatsCats]

Some of them are really like that though

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

In the scheme of things, given rapidly advancing technology, in 10-15 years, we'll have robots that we can fuck that looks and feels close enough to a real woman (or man, if you're into that kind of thing).  Then we'll start to see the real demographic crisis.

I think Japan is how the future is going to be for the next 50-70 years.

[Yeti]

Would you want to deal with women crying a the faintest, 2 inch penetration? And likewise if you were a woman, would you even bother with 2 inch penetration?

Maybe when the women cry in porn it is because they are realizing that they aren't going to be satisfied. 

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

Would you want to deal with women crying a the faintest, 2 inch penetration? And likewise if you were a woman, would you even bother with 2 inch penetration?

Maybe when the women cry in porn it is because they are realizing that they aren't going to be satisfied. 

Speaking from experience?

[PigSpeakers]

We need to keep japanese people around so we can have beautiful half-asian babies.

[TEEEPO]

goddamn you half-japanese girls
do it to me every time

[Human Snorenado]

We need to keep japanese people around so we can have beautiful half-asian babies.

Blasians

[Shaka Khan]

Half Asians in general.

I don't think I've ever been crazier about anyone in my life more than I was over a Japanese-Italian and a Blasian.

[hampster]

All that sweat and fluids and smells

Japan has the right idea

[DCharlieJP]

have beautiful half-asian babies

we produced only 1/4 Asians

though one of our kids looks way more asian than the other #strokeschin

[nudemacusers]

sex is pretty gross tho on the real

[Yeti]

Would you want to deal with women crying a the faintest, 2 inch penetration? And likewise if you were a woman, would you even bother with 2 inch penetration?

Maybe when the women cry in porn it is because they are realizing that they aren't going to be satisfied. 

Speaking from experience?

How did you know I've been in Japanese pornos? I thought for sure the pixellation of my tiny, tiny penis would be enough to ensure my anonymity.

[Brehvolution]

Sex is amazing. They don't call it 'getting lucky' for nuthin.

[TEEEPO]

non-gross sex is the worst

i'm all about licking buttholes

[Rahxephon91]

All that sweat and fluids and smells

Japan has the right idea

[Rufus]

sex is pretty gross tho on the real

Yeah, clean-up is fun. You turn from a grunting slack-jawed slobbering idiot to a human being again. It's no coincidence the popular imagine of lycanthropy has the afflicted wake up naked somewhere, wondering what the fuck they've been doing.

[Diunx]

Maybe they need a fat brown dick to get shit started over there.

[Diunx]

We need to keep japanese people around so we can have beautiful half-asian babies.

Blasians

I had a class with one a couple of years ago that was , her boyfriend was a full asian to no one's surprise.

[chronovore]

Dunno what the big deal is; I've got two kids, so we're ahead of the average.

Things are definitely difficult though. Another bit which I don't see addressed is that work hours here are egregiously long, and exhausting. That's everywhere. My brother-in-law was working as a school manager; he was putting in 7-day-weeks, 10-11 hours a day for five years or more. Now he's a politician, and can be called on at any hour by his constituency.

In many Japanese companies, women are hired as "Office Ladies" -- basically secretaries, they make tea and do admin stuff, and many of them eventually meet their husband at the company. It's generally expected that they'll quit working and become a housewife after they become pregnant.

At my last company, there weren't many married guys. It was a game company, so there weren't even many women working in the office. There was no-one at the office, and no time outside the office to meet a partner.

It was depressing.

If anyone's wondering why the population is nosediving, I'd look at foolish, needless work-related exhaustion as a cause.

[Himu]

All that sweat and fluids and smells

Japan has the right idea

holy shit.

"He treats it like a hobby. He puts a lot of effort into it, and I have my own hobbies."

Oh my god

What a keeper.

And then, AND THEN, it shows his girlfriends iphone wallpaper and