This will be my final Care Post (tm) on The Bore.
Any criticisms or thoughts on method?
IRL womenFor in real life I just tell them straight out. I told one woman I know in person the following:
Me: I've been wanting to get some ramen at [redacted] Ramen. Let's get a bowl together next week. Friday at 7.
Her: Sure I’m ready
Me: Great. I'll pick you. Dress nice.
Online appsA lot of men complain that we have to make the most effort but I've now fallen in my role as a man and relish it because it gives me the most power and most control over the outcome. If I succeed, it's on me. If I fail, it's on me. Not on her. Never on her. With this level of control it allows me to filter women. If she doesn't show reciprocity we are not right for each other. I am not begging for a woman's time or attention. I am not begging a woman because she's pretty. I state my intentions and she can accept them or get out.
For online apps I always look for three things I like about a woman and as a test, I ask her to list three things she likes about me.
This allows:
A. Me to lead the conversation out the gate.
B. See just how interested she is.
C. See if she's a selfish bitch.
D. Every single time I do it's specially curated just for her so it shows it's not a line, it's not "game", it's me being myself.
So for example.
Good day [redacted]. I messaged you on BLK app but you said this works better for you.
Let's play a game. list three reasons swiped right on you.
1. You're cute.
2. You have a Godly emphasis and dating with purpose. This is what am here for. Let's pursue this with God on our tongues.
3. You seem like you know how to have fun while also balancing the spiritual and mental.
It's your turn. List three reasons why you swiped right on me, [redacted].
Women either:
1. Love this
2. Hate this
The women that love it love it because I am genuine. I am looking for a wife, not a fuck toy, so I look for values and character. A woman with tattoos? She's out. A woman that shows too much skin? She's out. She doesn't respect herself and I am not associating with a half naked woman publicly. By looking at things that I like about the woman besides looks by just observing the psychology of her photos and profile, I can ascertain if we are clickable. Women also love it because I'm leading immediately. Women at the end of the day, want to be told what to do. They want to be directed by a man that knows what he wants. Not a boy that just wants sex and maybe, maybe somewhere down the line maybe will consider marriage.
Women that hate it hate it because they're on the apps for attention. She swiped because she likes attention. I tell a woman that doesn't like it that she's free to go and this will not go forward if she can't do the same and list three things she likes about me.
How did the woman above respond to this?
Omg! You did!
Ok first thank you for reach out to me on here. I finally got a chance to sit down and answer your questions.
1. I really like your gentle eyes. You cute. 🥰
2. I love how you express how you want hold hands, kiss forehead and have fun. That mean I can be myself around you.
3. Honestly, love your pictures the only thing you are missing is…. That beautiful white smile lol 😆
Jackpot. Instant attraction. I am forcing her, with my masculinity to be feminine by taking the lead. A lot of dudes complain (she's not submissive) but it's up to a man to make a woman submissive - by which, I mean cooperation - with his behavior.
This woman has hearted every single one of my messages and I have sent 5-6 texts total. We talk on the phone and we use text to plan.
Let's see other examples and how women respond:
Assalamu alaikum, [redacted]!
Let's play a game: I'll list three reasons I swiped right on you.
1. You're cute.
2. You have an energy that's infectious. I admit I'm a stoic, silent type so you are a ying to my yang.
3. You're a former engineer. I like a woman that builds things.
It's your turn. List three reasons you swiped on me, [redacted].
Her: Oh wow. I don't want to play. lol Ok. Let's see.
Me: If you don't play we don't go forward. It's a way for both of us to give reciprocation at my lead while having fun and appreciating the others positives.
Someone failed the test!!!
Being absolutely fine losing women is great because at the end of the day she's just some bitch. Who cares.
Let's look at some more.
Assalamu alaikum, [redacted]. Thought you were getting off the apps!
Let's play a game. I'll list three reasons I swiped right on you.
1. You're faithful to Allah and here for marriage.
2. You seem kind and earnest.
3. You're cute.
It's your turn. List three reasons you swiped right on me.
Her: I wrote that last week. You right in time for my reappearance lol
And your bio is def what I'd loveee
Oh 3 reasons.
1. Muslim is keyyyy
2. A man with intentions speaks volumes
3. You're handsome and seem genuine
This woman sends heart messages, sent me her work schedule in its entirety when I told her to tell me her schedule. She is completely compliant and ready to be led by a man.
Asking things is for chumpsI used to ask women things, now I don't. I command, very respectfully. Asking is for lames. Please ma'am, w-w-w-w-will you go out with me? Fuck outta here.
Example with the last woman:
Her: This is my schedule these two weeks only because of Memorial Day. Usually I work 8-5 M-F.
Me: Thank you very much for the openness! Let's have a phone call this Wednesday at 7. Get yourself some time to relax from the weariness of the day, talk to a few girlfriends on the phone, get a nice bath and then have a fun call with yours truly. Have a wonderful day and may Allah give you strength. Ameen ya Rabbi.
Me on a text after that: 7:30 rather so you have time to get home.
Her: Wednesday I'll probably work from home. Good morning. I really appreciate the consideration of time. You have a great day as well! 💓
Men complain that women don't know where to eat but here's the thing: who gives a fuck what she wants to eat? She wants you to be a man, remember you have some balls, and lead her! Tell her what to do and bam.
Texting a woman is the most pointless thing possible I used to text women. No longer. It's such a vapid way to communicate and so much can be misunderstood. I treat texting, unless you're a close friend or a family member, like business. I'm direct and tell them we're doing this at x place at y time.
Remember that women are far more sexist than men. Despite their claims they want equality they still want men to fall into a traditional role. Men, in our empathy, have tried to treat them more equally, to bad results. Biology reigns and a woman can only respect a man that in a world of men that kiss her ass, has the balls to tell her what to do in a respectful way.
Respect a woman's time If you're a dude messing with women and you have like, no plans to get married, unless you communicate that you don't want to get married or have kids, you're a sorry coward of a mother fucker. Women have a biological clock and don't have time to mess around with little boys that don't know what they want. If you want to eventually marry you should be looking for a woman that's marriageable
now and state you're looking for a wife, not a fuck toy, not a girlfriend. Watch this up your standards both in their behavior, but also in how they treat you and how you treat them.
I've struggled with women a long time but I'm really happy I've gotten over the hump and I know that if it's not one of these ladies, I'll eventually find a woman that's good for me. Stay on your grind, remember you have balls, fuck this feminism shit - that's for them, but always be respectful and always be kind.
Because of everything listed here I no longer find dating stressful at all. Shit is fun AF, challenges you, and helps you grow.
