Exactly what I linked, the fallacy of composition. You're making lots of declarative statements of women this, women that in a presentation that makes it seem less like a change in self than it is a change in strategy/tactics/methods/etc.
To reluctantly use myself to illustrate the point, you're posting things about men not having friends and ways men should treat women in these rigid traditional roles. I have as many women friends as men, including ones I've had sex with, and an outsized number of those men friends are gay, all while I've never given much if any value to any kinds of traditional roles. Yet by the descriptions of others I have the strong sense of self and a non-serious version of stoicism you're advocating for, I take interest in the interests of others over more superficial areas. How can your model explain my proper methods resulting in improper results?
You've abandoned an absolutist one-size-fits-all model for another rather than simply operating within the natural nuances and I think that's why you get the harsh reactions from others, it's changing the strictures not abandoning them or making them more flexible. And always lecturing those who don't see the light of the current ones. Maybe you're happy and things are working, I certainly hope so, but I imagine others are skeptical about your boisterous claims and the wisdom of the expertise because it seems more like the latest thing rather than a true paradigm shift.
Disagree.
You think it's about women. It's not about women. It's about a complete change in lifestyle of being more assertive. I apply the same standards for acquaintances and other relationships as I do women: if you are unable to reciprocate, there's the door. We are not compatible. You think me being more assertive, after living in New York City, is
fake? You think the confidence I have in being willing to move across the country in my 30's without knowing a single person is
fake? Nope. It's all real. For much of my life I was a people pleaser. People have to show their value to be in my life at this point. This isn't an extreme and is the very definition of growth. There's a reason I haven't signed up to the new Bore: no one likes me there anyways and I've invested too much in to this Bore to kicked off by a bunch of shitposters. Go where you're appreciated. If I'm not appreciated, it's no skin off my nose. This is the very definition of growth and mental strength. It's not about women, it's about me and my own happiness.
How is my mindset extreme? In what way? A big problem here is you are being too academic. Academia has no place in real life or shared life experience. Academics live in bubbles, not in the real world. Another problem is you are a libertarian so you naturally think everyone is garnered some free will. My argument is one of sociological and biological phenomena. How is it extreme? There's far more evidence pointing in my direction.
Women are more likely to view far more hardcore porn than men.
[source] [Source 2]Conclusion: women want to be dominated. Anyone that has had sex knows that. Are some women different and more dominant? Sure. But at the heart of it, most women want to be dominated.
And if they want to be dominated in the bedroom, they want to also be dominated in a relationship. Women like to be checked, corrected, and are not attracted long term to men they can control or walk over. You have to stand your ground and show what your boundaries are. This is why I now dominate a woman immediately when dealing with a woman I know is attracted to me and I'm attracted to her, because it shows if I can mentally dominate her, I can sure as shit dominate her in the bedroom. Sex doesn't even have to be brought up. She knows it. She can hear my voice and hear it. Since women usually lack physicality, their main battle arena is the mental. Women are more dangerous psychologically. It's why things like Mean Girls is a thing. Women will get under your skin mentally and are fucking fierce. Therefore, when dealing with a woman you must demonstrate mental strength. A good way to show that is to show she's just any ordinary woman and is easily replaceable, at least at the outset, and that her looks aren't enough to captivate you and lock you down.
More reading:
Psychology Today: Why are emotionally unavailable men so damn desirable? Women should be educated. Women should have a right to work in nice careers. But when it comes to a relationship they want to be dominated. If a woman gets above her man in terms of career, the role reverses and is more likely to divorce.
[Source]Choice quote:
It is ‘still seen as quite unusual for men to be the main supportive spouse in someone else’s career’ – Johanna Rickne
Here's the facts:
- Women want someone better than them. Either financially, morally, spiritually, physically, mentally. They want to look up to their man.
- Women want men to be able to provide for them. This is biological because women obviously get pregnant. Women are more weak than men and need taking care of.
- Being assertive and dominant goes beyond women and is a general life style. Articulating what you want carries over from work to friendships to relationships. This should be obvious and it is not something that can be faked.
Absolutely nothing i said here is extreme and unfortunately the burden of proof is on you to prove me wrong. You are coming from a normalized modern American mindset that posits that men and women are more equal, or similar, than what tradition says and that relationships should just be more equal. I reject it. The divorce rate, which is mostly initiated by women (again, most things fall on the man) proves this to be wrong especially since many divorces are made by women that make more than their husband.
Here's what's happening, Benji. My mindset is traditional. And the modern America eschews traditional roles so what I'm expressing is utterly foreign to you. People rail against gender roles but I feel more happy as I fall into my gender role as a man and embrace it. Funny that.
You say "women this, women that" but I'm directly listening to women.
Please validate with
evidence that a woman needing to proof
to ME that she's worth investing in, is extreme. Please provide
evidence that not pedestalizing a woman because she's pretty is extreme. Please provide
evidence that being confident, asserting what you want, setting boundaries, and leading is extreme. Because it goes against what you were taught?
At the end of the day, I'm a man. What could a woman possibly do to hurt me? The only way I let a woman hurt me is if I let her, legitimate cases like rape aside. It all starts there.
My position is that all of this is dictated by God and God made men and women to be a certain way with our strengths and weaknesses in order to complete one another. If you do not understand this, i find our ability to discuss to be inherently limited.
