Perfect on Paper
Anime Girl seemed just my type on paper. Private, keeps to herself, few selfies, focuses on her hobbies, religious. But the more I get to know her the less I'm attracted to her personality. She's very negative. She complains a lot. She's insecure. I don't need that in a wife. I want a forward thinking wife. A woman secure with herself. A woman that has healed.
By contrast, Travel Girl was vulnerable enough to tell me she has a health condition yet this is the first she's mentioned it and she works her ass off despite it. She has strength of character. She has lots of skills to help me build a strong family unit. She's just as religious, has more positive male relationships in her life, and never complains. She also reciprocates better and is more supportive towards and excited regarding my vision for a family. She is more compliant and cooperative. Anime Girl has trauma and hasn't healed. Travel Girl reciprocates in a way I prefer more which helps create a more healthy bond.
Dating to Date versus Dating for Marriage
All of this shows the benefits of dating for marriage. Women hold the keys to dating but men hold the keys to marriage. I get lots of power and lots of say because I know what I want. Because my standards are high (reasonable, but high) I refuse nothing less. Telling a woman out the gate,"Hey, I'm looking for a wife" is also a fantastic filter. If she's not ready because she realizes you're 100% serious she will back away. She will respect the hell out of you but won't waste your time. The result is I attract higher and higher quality women that are actually wife material. You are what you seek.
The Wisdom of the Ancients
Not having sex before marriage is great. Not only does it protect the woman it creates an environment of desire. One of the worst parts of pre-marital sex is that the man gets what he wants without commitment but this also means that he can fall in love with pussy rather than a woman's character. By deliberately holding sex off before marriage, I as a man can create desire in a woman and make it build and build and build and BUILD and then deny her. It shows true strength of character, separates yourself from the sex obsessed modern male. Not that I don't want sex. I really do. But by saying no to a woman, she wants me even more. A man should ideally want a situation where the woman asks him for sex, not the opposite. Men have more power than we think. Only a fool would have sex with a woman he wouldn't marry.
Cats Cats Cats
Women really are like cats. Try to pet, she runs away. Sit there and just wait, and she'll come and sit in your lap. Attracting a woman is a matter of sparking attraction and desire. The woman will pull back to make sense of her emotions. Don't pursue but allow her some space. She'll come back for more. This will repeat as you get to know each other and until she fully trusts you. Patience wins the prize. Let's go fishing.
Guardians
Travel Girl insists that I talk to her with her Wali (guardian) on the line. In Muslim terms this is when things get serious. No woman introduces a man she's not serious about to her Wali.
