Bruh come the fuck on, you asked for her perspective
No I did'nt. I asked why that phrase(which again is not excactly what I said) why that would trigger her. I did'nt ask for her perspective.
You expect too much, too soon. You seem to have very little respect for the female gender, like not taking her feelings (or possible the lack of) into consideration before deciding to make things extremely awkward.
I mean what is this? How am I expecting too much? I've been in constant communication for two months and it's "escalated". I already asked her out on a date and we've hung out alone multiple times after already saying I was interested. Even then I said I did'nt expect anything. And if I was how is that too soon? Plenty of people start dating or having sex a a few weeks after knowing each other. Valkyrie had sex with someone a few hours after meeting someone. How did I have little respect for her gender or feelings? It was stupid to ask, but I did it because I did'nt want to over step my bounds towards her. I wanted to know what she was thinking. Nowhere was I trying to declare anything. I wanted to know where the girl was. I only realized how that was a problem after talking about on here and even in real life people have said it wasn't a huge deal to want to know. But apparently wanting to know whats going on is disrespecting the girl.
You literally said you thought she was interested because she wore her hair down one day, and sat next to you when you two were gaming together. Like what??? Where was she supposed to sit then, across the room from you?
No that was an example of how different she came to the end hangout. The one where she brought alcohol, the one that was her idea, the one where she specifically made herself "hotter". Yes having her hair straitened and down was a bit different then the very casual hangout last time where she just came over basically not caring that much about her appearance. Overthinking details and reading into them? Yes, I am, but thats why I mentioned them so people can call check on me or not. The point was that she came more prepared for this hangout and maybe that was signalling something. But I guess you couldn't grasp that point or I'm just reading into things.
And yes, in our set up, there are two couches. You don't have to sit next to me to play or watch the tv. Which she did'nt the first time. But I guess I shouldn't think about these possible body language cues at all.
You come off as those Gaf dudes who are like “Omg this girl on the bus looked at me today, does she like me? Should I ask her out?”.
Yeah except for the fact that I'm not coming here based on looks. I came here based on the fact that the girl talks to me a lot, texts a lot, initiates the texts, wants to hang out, wants to play video games a lot, tells me personal stuff, and so on. All after I already asked her out and told her I was romantically interested in her. So how do I come off as one of those people that goes "a girl smiled at me, she must like me" people. Plenty of girls simile at me, I don't give a fuck. Few girls are texting me well into the AM, right after they get off work, wondering what I'm doing, and drinking with me alone. Maybe if you read what was actually posted. But no I guess it's just like those GAF guys.
What on earth made you think you were dating? Did she kiss you? Did you fuck? Have you been ACTUALLY flirting together? Not from what we’ve seen on here. At all. It’s been 100% platonic from what you’ve told us.
I wasn't aware you had to be physical with someone before it's considered dating. I thought maybe some girls would want to take it slow and make sure it's not all about that first. Espically girls that maybe have a problematic history with sex. I guess I was wrong, just like I guess I was wrong about the way to start dating women is not starting out as just thier friend.
Why did I think maybe we were heading into that direction? Because I asked her out on a date, she did'nt say no. Later said she was hesitant about a relationship, and then proceeded to hang out a lot and be open to hanging out more. All while being in constant communication. With honestly just me, she dosen't seem to talk to any other dudes.
Was it the wrong take? Absolutely, but I don't think it was a crazy thought. But I guess people don't show interests by seemingly being interested in a person.
I’d be real worried if I was hanging out with a friend and he thought I was interested in more than being friends only based off of how I wore my hair that day. She clearly hasn’t indicated wanting anything more, you’ve just been wishfully seeing things.
Would you also hang out alone and drink alone with that "friend" who already asked you out and said they wanted to go out on a date with you?
Your approach to relationships, girls and dating seems very elementary school-like.
I kind of agree somewhat. Hence my problem with almost being 30 and being like this. Maybe if I had more experince I would understand these things.
You act like girls owe you. They don’t owe you shit, just because you’re being polite to them.
This is bullshit though. Nowhere did I espouse this. This is you just digging into me with your own bias.
You look for things that really aren’t there, then blame females when they didn’t see things the same way as you did.
Yeah none of these things happen at all..
For the 100th time, you need to work on yourself before anything. You don’t seem fit to be in a relationship at all until you can realize that dating someone won’t magically make you happy if you hate yourself, and honestly, until you stop hating women for not being interested. Work on your aggression too, please. It’s worrying how unstable you come off as sometimes.
Quite frankly I'm tired of reading this. If you actually read what I said, you'd have seen that I even agreed with that.
But nowhere did I say I hate myself. I hate that I'm having such a hard time. Which actually you know having some success would yknow help..But I don't hate myslef.
And nowhere did I say I hate or blame women. Here I've blamed everything on myself for not being able to assess the situation.
