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Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #9660 on: January 16, 2019, 10:11:51 PM »
late night thought: it's kinda weird how I'm facebook friends with all the women I've slept with so far  :doge

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« Reply #9661 on: January 16, 2019, 10:43:01 PM »
mupepe da gawd  8)


atra, that's like 3 people  ::)
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« Reply #9662 on: January 17, 2019, 04:01:56 AM »
Got the number of a girl I've known casually for a while.  We started talking and maybe its been a while since I've dealt with crazy, but jesus fucking christ she's crazy.  Not even the hot kind of crazy.   Like insane hot/cold shit going on.  For example, out of nowhere yesterday right after we met up she sends a text saying thank you for seeing her and blah blah, real nice.  Then within a few minutes turns into a huge nutter and ends with shit like "oh you think just because I talk to you I like you?  I talk to lots of people I don't like" like with no hint of a joke.  So I said whatevs and left it with something like "well okay then".  Then she texts me this morning with a "so you're not talking to me anymore?" and doing the same shit.  yeahhhhhhhh.  fuck this.  She's not young either.  Just fucking crazy.  I don't know if she thinks it's hot or what, but fuck that.
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« Reply #9663 on: January 17, 2019, 09:27:36 AM »
Atra, show us a pic of your special flower :bolo
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« Reply #9664 on: January 17, 2019, 10:04:14 AM »
4 if you count [redacted].  :doge

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« Reply #9665 on: January 17, 2019, 10:05:26 AM »
4 if you count [redacted].  :doge
I thought you meant women you had sex with :hitler
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« Reply #9666 on: January 17, 2019, 10:34:34 AM »
You'd think getting his dick to play possum would be endearing to her. What a cunt.

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« Reply #9667 on: January 17, 2019, 11:01:22 AM »
In the end you forget the actual number so yolo
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« Reply #9668 on: January 17, 2019, 11:10:46 AM »
I'm seeing the 22 y/o I just recently slept with again sometime this weekend.

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« Reply #9669 on: January 17, 2019, 11:42:35 AM »
I'm seeing the 22 y/o I just recently slept with again sometime this weekend.

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« Reply #9670 on: January 17, 2019, 12:01:02 PM »
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« Reply #9671 on: January 17, 2019, 12:01:07 PM »
I mean I'm not going to force anything but...

Sometimes a couple subtle nudges can get the ball rolling.  :hitler

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« Reply #9672 on: January 17, 2019, 12:10:45 PM »
She was toxic before, but I'm sure bringing someone else into the mix will fix that.
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« Reply #9673 on: January 17, 2019, 12:11:09 PM »
You couldn't get it up with possum girl and now you're thinking threesome?

Well, good luck.

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« Reply #9674 on: January 17, 2019, 12:14:16 PM »
I have xanax now to help with performance anxiety.  :doge

edit: Also, this will 99% not happen. I'm just being a pervert. That's all.  :doge

edit2: I'm more or less IRL "shipping" as they say.

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« Reply #9675 on: January 17, 2019, 12:15:56 PM »
Obviously it’s a bad idea

Obviously


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« Reply #9676 on: January 17, 2019, 01:11:19 PM »
xanax is the wrong pill if you can't get your dick up :lol

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« Reply #9677 on: January 17, 2019, 01:13:19 PM »
Anxiety kills my boners though.

And when I don't have anxiety I can bone just fine.  :doge

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« Reply #9678 on: January 17, 2019, 01:15:49 PM »
good luck and all but i'd have gone with a bluechew or something

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« Reply #9679 on: January 17, 2019, 01:26:39 PM »
I can't get bluechew shipped to my state.

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« Reply #9680 on: January 17, 2019, 01:28:35 PM »
Certain drugs give me an unobtainable orgasm but I guess that could be considered a good thing since stamina would be the limiting factor. In which case, fuck until her pussy bursts into flames
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« Reply #9681 on: January 17, 2019, 03:14:39 PM »
I can't get bluechew shipped to my state.
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« Reply #9682 on: January 17, 2019, 09:41:24 PM »
Maybe your dick knows toxic when it sees it, even if your brain can't. Maybe you should listen to it? :trumps
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« Reply #9683 on: January 17, 2019, 09:56:37 PM »
It didn’t taste toxic tho.  :doge

Also, we’re purely platonic friends now because she’s a fun and interesting person so long as you’re not romantically/sexually involved with her.  :doge

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« Reply #9684 on: January 18, 2019, 01:24:49 AM »
I think Cialis is for guys who can't leave the launch pad, not ones who fail to achieve escape velocity.

You should generally avoid pills and narcissists, they turn your junk into a junkie and then you'll need to do an emotional Marie Kondo deep dive with a disinterested therapist years from now to get back to normal.

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« Reply #9685 on: January 18, 2019, 04:42:00 AM »
Well she texted me again to play video games again. Albeit with her friend. Though she stayed online a bit afterword to talk for a few.

Maybe things are going ok. Maybe she like to take things slow. I think I do to as I’m a reserved person who doesn’t like to rush into things and finds it more natural to slowly get to know people. I don’t know, but the flip side of my brain also gets nervous and wants to simply know but even if she said she liked me or whatever I’d probably find something else to worry about.

Everyone’s advice is to just not overthink things. And it’s something I really need to do.
So I want to come back t this. I'm sure everyone here will say "just ask her again" and whatnot, but I want to to crowd source this. I kind of want to see what people here think because usually people here are more harsh about these things. So despite my whining here I do actually take people's advice here.

So with that said I kind of want to come back to this a bring it up again, because well I don't know it's odd. This girl is basically Daria and well very weird. So as far as I'm aware I made it clear I was interested in her. I mean I asked her out basically twice.  So what happen after that is she did'nt really bring it up again and I haven't brought it up again.

But see since then well we've talked a lot.

I mean a lot of texting. Good texting. Texting that hasn't gotten weird on my end or whatever yet. Because I'm socially awkward I've read those dumb "How to tell she likes you through texting articles". The ones were you read in whatever you want. Well I mean looking at them it kind of comes off positive and I'm not sure I have to add my own bias to it.

https://www.lovepanky.com/men/understanding-women/signs-that-a-girl-likes-you-over-text

1. Quite honestly she texts me more then I text her and I haven't really initiated the conversations. It's 90% of the time been her texting me first.

2. She texts frequently. To the point I kind of have a feel and expectation when I'm going to get texts. It will be on her breaks, when she gets of work, and so on. Some days like clockwork.

3. And she'll respond immediately when it's clear she's not busy.

4. She texts me updates on whats shes doing and she's usually detailed. Yesterday she sent me a story of what happen to her at the store.

5. Though if she's working she dosen't text.

6. These aren't one word texts.

7. Haven't done that.

8. No she doesn't.

9. Lots of emoji use and lmao. Almost after every joke.

10. Sometimes.

11. Lots

12. Nope. Beyond saying I'm funny, but an ass. But she's said that during our Battlefield time.

13.  No.

14. I mean she has asked me questions about my life. Not a lot though.

15. No

16. She's sent me pictures of her older looks.

17. Kind of.

18. Nope and it hasn't come up.


So yeah I know that was super lame, but the thing is we've texted a lot. I mean a lot. Everyday and its fun. It's not just meme shit like I've experienced with tinder girls and it dosen't feel forced. Most of the time it feels like two sarcastic people just vibing and talking about thier day. Though IRL it's a bit harder to vibe with her, she's very dry and sarcastic and I'm awkward. Most of the time though it's her talking about her stuff, so she must be comfortable with me. I mean one day at 3am I guess she had night terrors and felt the desire to text me.

But we've also been playing Battlefield together often until like 3 am.

So I already know what the answer to my problem is. I just want to see if the bore, people who know how shitty I am about these things, thinks what I'm saying is positive. But I also I want to say it's not like she's asked to hang out or implied that she wants to, but I don't know why she wants to play video games and is constantly texting a person who asked her out if she is'nt slightly interested. And except for one instance(that happen today) I've played this chill and sane with her. Maybe this girl just wants to take it slow.

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« Reply #9686 on: January 18, 2019, 05:08:58 AM »
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« Reply #9687 on: January 18, 2019, 06:28:50 AM »

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https://www.lovepanky.com/men/understanding-women/signs-that-a-girl-likes-you-over-text


I love how one of the signs is an unsolicited photo of her from her. That's her grabbing your dick via text

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« Reply #9688 on: January 18, 2019, 09:52:14 AM »
Well she texted me again to play video games again. Albeit with her friend. Though she stayed online a bit afterword to talk for a few.

Maybe things are going ok. Maybe she like to take things slow. I think I do to as I’m a reserved person who doesn’t like to rush into things and finds it more natural to slowly get to know people. I don’t know, but the flip side of my brain also gets nervous and wants to simply know but even if she said she liked me or whatever I’d probably find something else to worry about.

Everyone’s advice is to just not overthink things. And it’s something I really need to do.
So I want to come back t this. I'm sure everyone here will say "just ask her again" and whatnot, but I want to to crowd source this. I kind of want to see what people here think because usually people here are more harsh about these things. So despite my whining here I do actually take people's advice here.

So with that said I kind of want to come back to this a bring it up again, because well I don't know it's odd. This girl is basically Daria and well very weird. So as far as I'm aware I made it clear I was interested in her. I mean I asked her out basically twice.  So what happen after that is she did'nt really bring it up again and I haven't brought it up again.

But see since then well we've talked a lot.

I mean a lot of texting. Good texting. Texting that hasn't gotten weird on my end or whatever yet. Because I'm socially awkward I've read those dumb "How to tell she likes you through texting articles". The ones were you read in whatever you want. Well I mean looking at them it kind of comes off positive and I'm not sure I have to add my own bias to it.

https://www.lovepanky.com/men/understanding-women/signs-that-a-girl-likes-you-over-text

1. Quite honestly she texts me more then I text her and I haven't really initiated the conversations. It's 90% of the time been her texting me first.

2. She texts frequently. To the point I kind of have a feel and expectation when I'm going to get texts. It will be on her breaks, when she gets of work, and so on. Some days like clockwork.

3. And she'll respond immediately when it's clear she's not busy.

4. She texts me updates on whats shes doing and she's usually detailed. Yesterday she sent me a story of what happen to her at the store.

5. Though if she's working she dosen't text.

6. These aren't one word texts.

7. Haven't done that.

8. No she doesn't.

9. Lots of emoji use and lmao. Almost after every joke.

10. Sometimes.

11. Lots

12. Nope. Beyond saying I'm funny, but an ass. But she's said that during our Battlefield time.

13.  No.

14. I mean she has asked me questions about my life. Not a lot though.

15. No

16. She's sent me pictures of her older looks.

17. Kind of.

18. Nope and it hasn't come up.


So yeah I know that was super lame, but the thing is we've texted a lot. I mean a lot. Everyday and its fun. It's not just meme shit like I've experienced with tinder girls and it dosen't feel forced. Most of the time it feels like two sarcastic people just vibing and talking about thier day. Though IRL it's a bit harder to vibe with her, she's very dry and sarcastic and I'm awkward. Most of the time though it's her talking about her stuff, so she must be comfortable with me. I mean one day at 3am I guess she had night terrors and felt the desire to text me.

But we've also been playing Battlefield together often until like 3 am.

So I already know what the answer to my problem is. I just want to see if the bore, people who know how shitty I am about these things, thinks what I'm saying is positive. But I also I want to say it's not like she's asked to hang out or implied that she wants to, but I don't know why she wants to play video games and is constantly texting a person who asked her out if she is'nt slightly interested. And except for one instance(that happen today) I've played this chill and sane with her. Maybe this girl just wants to take it slow.
So I know you've said you've asked her out, I'd be interested in how you ask her.  Are you making it clear that it's your intention to be a date?  There are women who are also terrible at picking up social cues.  So perhaps it's as simple as that.

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« Reply #9689 on: January 18, 2019, 01:18:19 PM »
I don’t want to be friends. I have enough female friends.

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« Reply #9690 on: January 18, 2019, 01:47:06 PM »
wish I had that many friends that I could toss some away :goty
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« Reply #9691 on: January 18, 2019, 02:22:20 PM »
wish I had that many friends that I could toss some away :goty
I find that most women who just want to be friends with you end up not giving a shit about you when they find someone they actually want to fuck and like to talk about other guys they like. Why would that interest me?

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« Reply #9692 on: January 18, 2019, 02:29:50 PM »
I understand being done with gaining another friend when you want love but unless it was a spark from the get you either accept it or move on. I cant blame for not wanting another friend but the thing you dont want to do is to get into that friendship holding onto that hope things will blossom. Stop grasping and release. Amd exploring that friendahip ia realizing a relationahips can start in various shades of grey.

The benefits of being friends with her? Women do hook male friends up. So you have access to her group of friends. Let it be known your looking but exist without trying so hard to find it. Some zen shit, I know.
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« Reply #9693 on: January 18, 2019, 05:20:51 PM »
I know a lot of “friendships” between guys and girls where the guy is longing for her and she doesn’t give a shit about him and will only spend time with him if there isn’t anything better to do.  Those aren’t friendships at all.
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« Reply #9694 on: January 18, 2019, 05:28:14 PM »
I’m going to respond to what you are all saying honestly, but in the mean time because I’m a creep here’s some of our texts messages.

Hey at least I think I learned from that tinder experience where I sounded super gay and desperate.

https://imgur.com/a/RT0qZ8I
https://imgur.com/a/Di8D8xw
https://imgur.com/a/FyrD45x
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« Reply #9695 on: January 18, 2019, 05:38:18 PM »
Jesus christ thats a lot of texts
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« Reply #9696 on: January 18, 2019, 05:38:50 PM »
I know a lot of “friendships” between guys and girls where the guy is longing for her and she doesn’t give a shit about him and will only spend time with him if there isn’t anything better to do.  Those aren’t friendships at all.
And this is what happen with my Mexican friend that I use to talk about here. I never made a move(which in the end is good because she wasn’t really for me and she didn’t like me that way) so we were just friends and that was fine for a time. But it was clear that her friend “level” would rise when she wasn’t involved with some other guy. When she finally got a dude it was basically a few dumb snapchats every couple of weeks and nothing else.

I’d rather avoid that yknow.

I’m not saying guys and girls can’t be friends. I have girls I consider friends and plenty I’m friendly with. I just have no interests in them like that and from the beginning never did. I’m sure that says something about me, but it is what it is.

But unlike the Mexican friend I feel I approached this gurl not as a friend.

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« Reply #9697 on: January 18, 2019, 05:43:57 PM »
Looks like you already asked her out and she said yes, you only needed to give her a time and place. what you need us for, breh  ??? ::)
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« Reply #9699 on: January 18, 2019, 06:07:53 PM »
I think you mean sexy morons  :-*


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« Reply #9700 on: January 18, 2019, 06:36:02 PM »
I’m going to respond to what you are all saying honestly, but in the mean time because I’m a creep here’s some of our texts messages.

Hey at least I think I learned from that tinder experience where I sounded super gay and desperate.

https://imgur.com/a/RT0qZ8I
https://imgur.com/a/Di8D8xw
https://imgur.com/a/FyrD45x

You type like you're dead inside. Throw some cute emotes in there, girls dig that shit.

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« Reply #9701 on: January 18, 2019, 06:51:16 PM »
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« Reply #9702 on: January 18, 2019, 07:10:12 PM »
I’m going to respond to what you are all saying honestly, but in the mean time because I’m a creep here’s some of our texts messages.

Hey at least I think I learned from that tinder experience where I sounded super gay and desperate.

https://imgur.com/a/RT0qZ8I
https://imgur.com/a/Di8D8xw
https://imgur.com/a/FyrD45x

You type like you're dead inside. Throw some cute emotes in there, girls dig that shit.
I hate using emojis in text but ok. I know you’re right. Anything else you can say from this as a woman?

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« Reply #9703 on: January 18, 2019, 07:22:47 PM »
Not too many emojis though, that's weird. A few here and there to add some levity. But not any cutesy or girly ones, that's cringey

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« Reply #9704 on: January 18, 2019, 07:32:07 PM »


"I had a miscarriage, daddy"  :lol
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« Reply #9705 on: January 18, 2019, 08:01:50 PM »
I’m going to respond to what you are all saying honestly, but in the mean time because I’m a creep here’s some of our texts messages.

Hey at least I think I learned from that tinder experience where I sounded super gay and desperate.

https://imgur.com/a/RT0qZ8I
https://imgur.com/a/Di8D8xw
https://imgur.com/a/FyrD45x

You type like you're dead inside. Throw some cute emotes in there, girls dig that shit.

I'm fucking dead

This describes my ex

Dudes want cute emotes too
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« Reply #9706 on: January 18, 2019, 08:23:15 PM »
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« Reply #9707 on: January 18, 2019, 08:24:55 PM »
Benji gonna be up in that cooch by dawn
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« Reply #9708 on: January 18, 2019, 08:52:51 PM »
So to answer Bu’s questions honestly, I don’t know what I want. What I think I want is simply to know if there is room for something to happen with this girl. I’m not looking for an intense relationship or just to bang. Though if the later happen then fine. Basically as lame as it is I just want to know if she likes me enough to be interested in seeing if going further is a possibility.  I have no problem going really slow. I kind of see myself as an emotionally valunerable person and I don’t like that. So I don’t want to jump into anything. I want to be as comfortable with someone as can be.

Maybe being friends would be fine, but I doubt we’d ever be actual friends. I like to go out and get drunk with my friends and geek out. I feel like it would be hard to do that with a girl who turned down your advancements. And honestly like I said I don’t think I approached her as a friend I mean early in this I asked her out. So I feel like it’s obvious I’m interested in her that way.

And in the end I don’t want to be an incel bastard where I hate the girl because she didn’t like me. But I don’t know if I would continue to want to text her or play video games with her. And I don’t know if that’s douchy or not.

Would I be devestated if nothing happen. I mean I would be moody. It would probably play into my idea that I can’t be successful with women. I would be hesitant to talk to women because hey here’s a prime example of something I thought was good and then wasn’t....

...until I guess I go through this again.

And to answer your question fuller she did say yes. Twice. But see when I asked in person I got a “Yes, but I’ll get back to you on my availability”. And she never did which kind of put me in a weird spot. Espically as we interacted and texted more. I mean maybe I’m wrong, but I feel if you look at the text which are pretty much just like when we talk on XBL well into the am, then it comes off like she’s into me. But I don’t know Which is probably why I wanted to crowd source this.

But the thing is also when I try to talk to her at work, plenty of times it’s like she doesn’t want to talk. Only to quickly text on her breaks or when she leaves. I mean she’s said it’s because she is focused on her work but still.

I don’t know man, I’m going to have to eventually just say something but I like to discuss these things beforehand.

Rahxephon91

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Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #9709 on: January 19, 2019, 12:37:07 AM »
i don’t even understand if filler likes are bad or good.

BlueTsunami

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Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #9710 on: January 19, 2019, 12:37:53 AM »
filler is a reflection of your inner thoughts
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Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #9711 on: January 19, 2019, 01:03:09 AM »
I'm just want to support you know matter what, rahx breh  :)
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benjipwns

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Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #9712 on: January 19, 2019, 05:14:52 AM »
Benji gonna be up in that cooch by dawn


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Bebpo

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Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #9713 on: January 19, 2019, 01:19:44 PM »
Been dead sick for a week or two and had no interest in social. Finally turning back around today and got energy again and I wanna get back to talking with people.

Here's a question, I actually think Atra may be in the best position to give advice for this because he's the most active and in the groove atm in this thread: So there's the people that you read their profile and see something in common or funny to comment on and your first message is that. But when you're messaging someone who has a basic or mostly empty profile (I like food, hikes, dogs, etc...), I never have any idea how to cold open in a message from that because they're giving me nothing to work with. What do you guys open with in initial message/conversation with someone like that?

Rahxephon91

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Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #9714 on: January 19, 2019, 02:01:57 PM »
Good news. Kind of.

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skullstorm

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Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #9715 on: January 19, 2019, 02:12:06 PM »
Bebpo, open with a classic such as "do you like getting choked?"  8)

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tiesto

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Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #9716 on: January 19, 2019, 02:12:59 PM »
Been dead sick for a week or two and had no interest in social. Finally turning back around today and got energy again and I wanna get back to talking with people.

Here's a question, I actually think Atra may be in the best position to give advice for this because he's the most active and in the groove atm in this thread: So there's the people that you read their profile and see something in common or funny to comment on and your first message is that. But when you're messaging someone who has a basic or mostly empty profile (I like food, hikes, dogs, etc...), I never have any idea how to cold open in a message from that because they're giving me nothing to work with. What do you guys open with in initial message/conversation with someone like that?

Just a simple "hey there, how's it going?" And ask a quick conversation starter about what little you can glean off her profile. My girlfriend's profile was pretty bare bones, as was my first message to her (asked her how she got involved in her job field).
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Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #9717 on: January 19, 2019, 02:17:48 PM »
Good news. Kind of.

https://imgur.com/a/G4z1jun
::) give her the ol' hog  :o, convince her not to move  :pimp :hump

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Rahxephon91

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Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #9718 on: January 19, 2019, 04:22:00 PM »
Well I won't lie that in terms of dating and women it's pretty clear my issues are confidence, overthinking, and a penchant for negativity. And it's all in my own head/own doing. I know that and most of the bore knows that. It's very hard to beat, because obviously it's easier to be negative. Which is odd because when it comes to things that are outside of me I'm not excactly a negative person. Plenty of my friends have said I have a good energy that attracts people, I am just really bad at at actually harnessing it. 

Honestly most of the time my negative outbursts, even I know are shitty, dumb, and wrong. I do them on here and out there so I can I guess feed that negative  view. There's no doubt that I to a degree think it sucks to be 28 and lacking in experince, but even realistically I know it's not the end of the world. Yet I still feel the need to coddle that mindset.

Now it was said way back to me on this forum "that getting a girl or whatever won't save me" and that's true. I feel happy about my success here which I think I gained from learning from that last tinder thing. I actually think I came off as less insecure and negative with this girl. Which was the lesson to learn from before(thank you Assi even) I mean it was still there, but I was way more conscious of it. So with this I know I still have a long way to go still and I guess thats cool. Still, it feels good that I manged this so far.

So I'm not going to say I won't be shittying up this thread again. But I'd like to say I'm better now then I was before. And thanks to everyone here for putting up with me.

Bebpo

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Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #9719 on: January 19, 2019, 05:16:32 PM »
Been dead sick for a week or two and had no interest in social. Finally turning back around today and got energy again and I wanna get back to talking with people.

Here's a question, I actually think Atra may be in the best position to give advice for this because he's the most active and in the groove atm in this thread: So there's the people that you read their profile and see something in common or funny to comment on and your first message is that. But when you're messaging someone who has a basic or mostly empty profile (I like food, hikes, dogs, etc...), I never have any idea how to cold open in a message from that because they're giving me nothing to work with. What do you guys open with in initial message/conversation with someone like that?

Just a simple "hey there, how's it going?" And ask a quick conversation starter about what little you can glean off her profile. My girlfriend's profile was pretty bare bones, as was my first message to her (asked her how she got involved in her job field).

Sure, though lots of profiles for women constantly say stuff like "don't just message me with a hi or how's it going", so I try to never do that. Hmmmm. Yeah, I get what you're saying and that's about all I do. Like if they like hiking, a "what are some of your favorite hikes around here?".