Am I an alt-right monster for reading the Kotaku article and come away thinking that maybe lore is maybe kinda innocent here?
Like he gets into the shower with her, being the awkward weirdo he is, but backs off when she tells him to fuck off. Then a few months later, they’re in a relationship together until E3 2015?
I can't relate to thinking it's not a big deal.
Have a girlfriend/wife/sister/daughter?
What would your reaction be if you found out a dude decided to jump into a shower naked with her uninvited when she was so drunk she was puking?
Or likewise, what if you had a male friend you knew did that shit, would you stay freinds with them?
I've unfriended dudes for less creepy shit personally, and in my opinion, people thinknig this shit isn't a big deal is a fucked up part of society.
Honestly, the whole situation feels odd. The information that we have only allows us to speculate. That being said, the story, how it was told and the information we have doesn't particularly fit. EvilLore is a creep, he's a hypocrite, and in many ways he was hoisted on his own petard, but let's look at the whole situation:
1. Tyler and the victim go on a trip by themselves to New Orleans, party together and share a hotel room. The general context from something like that is at LEAST a date of some sort. Yeah, she had a BF, but that didn't stop her from going off for some drunken debauchery in a town known for drunken hookups sends a signal. Now it's quite possible that it as made perfectly clear that she wasn't interested in him at all, and they were just going as friends. But the fact that she ended up dating him later throws doubt on that fact.
2. In her post, she mentions that she was drunk off of her ass. From what I know of EvilLore, talking to people who have met him, and partied with him. There is a good chance that he was drunk off his ass too. This wouldn't excuse his actions, but it adds some pretty valuable context.
3. The victim also states she didn't think she gave any signals that she wanted this. I'll take her at her word, but many times signals or things that can be interpreted as signals are given without intending to. And again, the whole situation if you look at it on its surface looks like a hook-up trip. Now she may not have intended it as such, but again, you're being treated to a trip to New Orleans and sharing a hotel room with a guy and only that guy. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but that seems like something someone could take as a signal.
4. As for the event itself. It's creepy, and dumb. But the easiest reading of it seems to be one in which a drunk idiot misreads a situation and fucks up big time. It's not assault. It doesn't make him a predator, it makes him fairly pathetic, and again, as soon as he was asked to leave, he left. Was it a leap? Assuming no real hanky panky was going on that night, and we have no reason to assume that there was, then yes. It is something that in days past would have been dealt with between the parties involved, and apparently was in this case as well.
5. This story comes 2 years later, after a sexual relationship and a lot of bad blood. Memory is malleable, things that seemed fine at one point can become awful on later reflection. Vice versa as well.
6. The very end of her post sets off warning signals. Street harassed 4 times in two blocks? That is exceptionally improbable. And it falls in line with people who I have known who inflate problems to make themselves more sympathetic. I could be wrong, may be called an ass for this, but I've seen it very often. It's a signal that automatically makes me look askance at the previous story. Again, seen it too often. From, men and women both.
7. The more context the story has, the less damning it becomes. It turned from "walked in on the shower" with no context, to "we were on a trip together and drinking", to "oh yeah, we dated later and he was a piece of shit."
Again, it nearly physically pains me to defend this asshole, and I do feel that if he wasn't such a dickbag to people, a groping shitstain, and a massive hypocrite, he'd actually have people defending him a bit.
