I wouldn't use or discuss toxic femininity. It's a ridiculous concept.
The way these terms are invented and then misused are not unrelated. They are designed to be misused. They have some weak, safe version of themselves while being designed to go far beyond that and into dangerous territory. They are created with rubber banding interpretation.
You could talk about anything worthwhile within the concept of "toxic masculinity" without using that term. Hell, people have for many, many years in far better ways. We're discussing failures of individuals.