I got there wayyyyyyy late (her show was almost over) due to laundry, haircut and key crises, she was thronged by other friends and admirers most of the time (when she wasn't performing), she had some other errands to run fairly soon after I showed up, the end. She did seem genuinely happy to see me though, and invested in the conversations we were having (like if the conversation was foundering a bit, it seemed like she was thinking "oh shit this isn't going so well, what can I say to save it" rather than "this is sucking, can't I find someone else to talk to?") At the end she told me to send her stuff I'd recorded so she could "get a feel for what I'm about". So we'll see, but I dunno that I wanna spend my time and emotional energy chasing her around.
but what I can say pretty confidently is that none of this has anything to do with my skin, my hairstyle, the way I dress or whether my apartment is furnished.